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Mariana Grohowski Bowling Green State University email@example.com
Purpose of presentation
1) To facilitate a discussion 2) To gather the experiences of others
Politeness as etiquette
“The cardinal principle of etiquette is thoughtfulness, and the guiding rule of thoughtfulness is the Golden Rule” (Post, 1997; p. 151).
(Golden Rule: treat others as you would like to be treated.)
The etiquette of sexual harassment
“A straightforward explanation should put a stop to it gracefully: ‘This makes me uncomfortable. I’d prefer to keep our friendship on a business basis.’ This will probably prevent hostility or embarrassment” (Post, 1997; p. 108).
“Younger women, who have grown up in the U.S., overwhelmingly recommend using excuses and postponements, the occasional apology, and no directives. The younger speakers, to Western ears, sound far less direct and more polite than the female elders recommend” (Burt, 2005; p. 234).
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polite (adj) \pə–’līt\
“Using one’s power … is the kernel of what is objectionable about sexual harassment.”
Michael Kimmel (2005; p. 151)
@maregrohowski #consent What are your experiences and opinions about eradicating the continued use of politeness as subtle harassment against women?
Burt, Susan M. (2005). “How to get rid of unwanted suitors: Advice from hmong-american women of two generations. Journal of Politness Research, 1. pp. 219-236. Fraser, Bruce. (1990). “Perspectives on politeness.” Journal of Pragmatics, 14. pp. 219236.
Kimmel, Michael. (2005). Men, masculinity, and the rape culture. In Emilie Buchwald, Pamela R. Fletcher, & Martha Roth (Eds.), Transforming a rape culture. Minneapolis, MN: Milkweed. pp. 139-157. Post, Peggy. (1997). Emily Post’s etiquette. 16th ed. NY: Harper Collins.