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Once the match is finalized, an engagement function is held on an auspicious day in the groom's house and the two parties mutually agree on the proposal. This agreement is solemnized with exchange of Thaamboolam (banana, coconut and betel leaf). The Bride and Groom are gifted clothes.
This ceremony is held prior to the get the ashirwad of the ancestors. marriage at both bride's place and groom's place. The function is performed to
Any puja done without involving the Family God (Kula Deivam) is futile. So Samaradanai is performed to please the Kula Deivam.
Offering of coconut is made to Lord Ganesha for a safe journey to and from Marriage Hall by both the families.
The day before Marriage
On the day prior to the marriage, the groom's party arrives at the venue. This marks the commencement of the actual marriage rituals. They are received with Nadaswaram (music), and a tray containing offerings of flowers, pan supari, fruits and sugar nuggets. The bridegroom is welcomed by a sprinkle of rose-water, a tilak and a garland by the bride's brother. Elder ladies (married) perform an arti.
A 'Viratham' is performed for a problem free marriage. Traditional Vedic hymns are recited by the parents of both and officiated by a priest for blessings of the family deity and all their ancestors
As a symbol of the souls of the and they are honoured with gifts of ancestors of both sides, 8-10 Brahmins are invited. Their pan-supari, fruits, flowers, coconuts, sweets. blessings are sought
After Viratham, Paalikai thelithal is performed by both the families. According to this ritual clay pots are decorated with sandal paste, kumkum powder and filled with little curd and nine types of grains and watered by 5-7 married ladies from both sides. The day after marriage, these pots with (now) sprouted grains are thrown into a nearby pond by the newly wed couple. It is believed that the fish in the water will eat the sprouted grains and bless the newly wed.
Jaanavasanam (inviting the groom)
One of the most vibrant functions is the Janavasanam. The groom travels in an open car with all other relatives walking along with trays of flowers, fruits etc, and visit the nearby temple where an 'archanai' is performed. The bride's party reaches there carrying 5 varieties of sweets and clothes for the groom. One of the sweets must be the traditional conical sweet Parupputenga. On return to the marriage hall, is the Nischayathartham.
With the parents of the bride, the priest performs Ganesh Pooja. The bride sits in the venue and the groom's party presents her a new sari after applying a tilak. The pallav of her sari is filled with fruits, pan supari, turmeric, kumkum, coconut and flowers and tied around her waist. An arti is performed.
The day of Marriage
Mangalasnanam (Auspicious bath)
Early in the morning of the marriage day, an auspicious hour is chosen for a ceremonial bath for the bride and the groom, called the Mangalasnanam. The bride and groom sit respective parents and are The bride's mother gifts a 9 yard marriage ceremony. separately on low wooden planks placed over rangolis, anointed with turmeric, kumkum and oil. The ladies maroon sari to the bride and a dhoti to the groom to be between their perform arti. worn for the actual
Kashi Yatra (Pilgrimage to Vaaranasi/Banaras)
The Kashi Yatra is a lighthearted ritual with the groom pretending to get angry and threatening to go to Kashi on a pilgrimage. He carries a walking stick, an umbrella, a fan, a coconut, a small packet of rice and dal, and a dhoti. The bride's parents plead symbolically, for his return. The bride's brother woos him back offering his sister's hand in marriage. The groom is then escorted back by the bride's brother shading him with the umbrella. This depicts a symbolic transition Many things restricted to an umbrella, using cosmetics use all the things that are not On his return the groom is seated of the groom from the brahmacharya aasramam into brahamchaaris are allowed in grahasthaasramam, like (like eye liners, fragrances etc.). So, during Kaasi Yaathrai, allowed during brahmacharyam. This is also called and the bride's mother washes his feet with water, grahasthaasramam. wearing footwear, use of the groom is allowed to "Samaavarthanam". chandan and kumkum .
Maalai maatral (Exchange of Garlands)
The bride and groom are hoisted by their maternal uncles on their shoulders and exchange garlands three times. Normally, wearing the garland worn by some one else is not allowed. But, in a wedding, the man and the woman exchange their garlands - symbolic of that they have two bodies with one life from now on. The fragrance associated with the garlands symbolizes the inner fragrance of the groom and bride (vasanas) for which both have to adjust with each other.
The bride and the groom are then made to sit side by side on a swing for the Oonjal ceremony. Small balls of cooked rice coloured yellow and red with turmeric and kumkum are circled around the bride and groom thrice in clockwise and anticlockwise direction and then thrown in all four directions to ward off evil forces. A mixture of milk and banana is given to the bride and the groom 3 times. They then take the remaining rice balls and come around the couple along with older women holding alternately, a lamp and a water urn. The chains that support the swing, coming down from the ceiling, represent symbolically that this human body we have got is due to our Karma in previous births. Similarly, the swing's motion forward and backward tells the couple that they have to be strong together in life at times of both upward and downward movement in life. Oonjal Pattu songs specially worded for this occasion are sung through out.
Marriage is at the auspicious hour (mostly in the mornings) and takes place in a decorated mandapam with a sacred fire. The bride wears a silk saree, flowers on her hair and jewels given to her by her parents and the groom's family. The father of the bride welcomes the groom and washes his feet. The groom's family presents the bride with the 9 yard marriage sari, which symbolizes energy, passion and fertility. The action also signifies "henceforth in this lifetime I (groom) will buy you, your clothes". The girl's father is made to sit on marriage. The girl is seated on symbolizes that just as two will she and her husband remain groom. This is called the a sack of paddy which symbolizes material and spiritual father's lap. Then the yoke of a plough is touched to the bullocks are required to carry the plough and work and side by side to go through life. The bride's father gives Kanyadaanam plentitude in the bride's forehead. This till the fields, so also away the bride to the
Before the practice of Maangalya Dhaaranam, Paanikgrahanam used to be the main event of the wedding. The bride groom holds bride's right hand and recites the marriage vows in four mantras. He prays Agni the God of fire, Saraswathi the Goddess of knowledge and Vayu the Lord of wind for blessings, long life and congruence of mind. By holding the hands in public, they indicate to the world that their hearts are set to live together in harmony.
Maangalyam is called as Thali in Tamil. Thali is made of two syllables. The first syllable Tha and the second syllable Ni represent that Than veru Nee Veru Alla (i.e., you and I are not separate. We are in this together). This Thani in colloquial usage became Thali. When the Thali is tied around the neck of the bride, they normally put three knots. The three knots symbolizes Brahma, Vishnu and Rudhra. The thali (mangalsutra) consists of two pieces, one from traditionally dangling on a yellow thread. It contains Shiva Lingam (in the case of Iyers) or the Namam and the case of Iyengars). Thali is of two types. The first type has saw tooth at the one has a semi-spherical shape. The second one is also call it as Tortoise Thali, since it has a shape of the The elders bless the thali and then the groom ties the mangalsutra around the bride's neck (while she is sitting groom's sister ties the third knot. each family, images of either the Sudarshana Chakra (in
bottom and the second called a "Pottu". They back of a tortoise. first two knots of the on her father's lap). The
Sapthapadhi constitutes the chief element of the marriage. The groom holds the bride's right hand with his right, his shawl is tied to her sari pallav, and they go around the sacred fire seven times. He takes hold of the right foot of the bride and makes her take seven consecutive steps where the bride touches her feet to a grinding stone (ammi). This symbolizes that their union be as stoic, solid and steadfast as stone. While taking each step, groom has to recite a Vedic verse (mantra): 1. We take the first step to provide for a happy and healthy home. 2. We take the second step to develop physical, mental and spiritual powers. 3. We take the third step to increase our wealth by diligence and righteousness. 4. We take the fourth step to acquire knowledge, happiness and harmony by mutual love and trust. 5. We take fifth step so that we are blessed with strong, virtuous and loving children. 6. We take the sixth step to promise to care for each other for a long life together. 7. Finally, we take the seventh step to be true companions and remain partners by this marriage. They further vow that if you are Rig Veda, let me be the Booloka(earth), let me be the heaven. If I am bright, you brilliance. If I am the mind, you are the word. So, please give a very good progeny to this world. This declaration behind Sapthapadhi. Then the bride is taken to the north side of the sacred her right foot on the 'ammi'. The groom holds her right Sama Veda. If you are wear the rays from my come and join me. Let us is the whole theme
fire and is asked to put toe and puts toe rings.
Arundathi Paarthal (Looking at Dhruva and Arundathi Stars)
In the middle of the milky way (Saptha Rishi Mandalam), Arundhathi is a subtle star. At the bottom of the milky way, the brightest star called Dhruva is located. In english, it is called the Pole Star. The Pole Star remains stationary at the same place irrespective of the earth's movement. The saptha rishis representing Gauthamar, 6. Jamathagni and krithika consider Arundhathi as believed that the bride will be as bride. There is an arti and everyone prostrate before their parents the milky way are 1. Kasyapar, 2. Athri, 3. Bharadwaajar, 7.Vasishtar. The wives of saptha rishis are known as the Pathivrathaa Sironmani.thus by seeing the chaste as Arundhathi. So, the groom is supposed to 4. Viswaamitrar, 5. Krithika. The other six Arundhathi star, it is show the Star to the
showers rice and flowers on the couple and blesses and elders for their blessings to have good progeny and
them. The bridal pair long life.
At the conclusion of the marriage function, they take Mangala Arti for the wedded couple. In this they mix lime and turmeric powder in water and take it around the couple three times. This is supposed to ward off any evil cast on the couple.
This concludes the marriage rituals according to Vedas under Braahman system.
Some have a 'Nalangu' ceremony, in which the bride sings a suitable song and invites the groom to the ceremony. She applies green, turmeric and reddish paint to his feet. The groom reciprocates the same. Then she applies sandal paste to his body. He adorns her with flowers, she shows him a mirror. Both of them play a game with a ball of flowers and eat some sweets. For each part of the ceremony, a suitable song is sung. Age does not mar the beauty of involve traditions, spread love and marriages nor do the customs stale their infinite variety! shower happiness among all concerned. Brahman marriages thus
Age does not mar the beauty of marriages nor do the customs stale their infinite variety! Brahman marriages thus involve traditions, spread love and shower happiness among all concerned.