Advice

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Advice 2014, All Rights Reserved.
Advice
Relationships, Business, and Motivation
By Rhay
The disclaimer: This should go without saying, but its a fact: This book is copyright, 2013 -2014, all rights reserved. It is illegal to copy, steal, distribute, or create derivative work from this book in its entirety or in part. It is also illegal to contribute to this crime. The information in this book is an opinion. You and only you are responsible for any use of the ideas, concepts, and content and I disclaim any responsibility for how you choose to use this material. Its your responsibility to make sure your actions with women are legal and consensual.
Contents
Introduction
Advice?
Part One; Motivation

Get started Pursuing your individuality How to take action
Part Two; Relationships

How to approach women Getting yourself out negative mind frames What is going to cause you to succeed
Part Three; Business

How to save money How to create a successful business How to sustain success
Introduction
I didnt get my stuff together until I was already a grown man. Im probably the same age you are-the person reading this. I didnt have anything in high school. It wasnt that I didnt have a job; I was working and going to class. It was just that I was saving my money up, and looking toward the future. I believe there are three sides of people. First being the way people see us and their perception/assumptions
Second being the way we are in reality..
And last is how we envision ourselves in our own minds, and how we want people to see who we can ultimately become.
Or what most people call; potential. I think every guy who wasnt popular in high school did the same thing before they went to sleep as I did.And that was to stare up at the ceiling and imagine how life would be if they gained everything they wished for. Fantasies of having the best clothes, the best carBeing able to have the girl they always had a crush on, but was too afraid to speak to.
Its always the lack of confidence that holds men back, not their circumstances.
You can say it was me being deprived of things when I was younger, that fueled me to want to have everything. I didnt even pray back thenWhat was the point? Prayer is useless if youre not ready to work for what you ask for. My mentality is simple now, either I have itOr another man outworks me and gets it. It was the thought of the next man making love to the girls that I used to lust over, and wearing the shoes and clothes that I used to spend my time on the internet looking at. That forced me to stop feeling sorry for myself and got busyFuck that. If you feel the same way
5 I do then you must learn to channel that hatred, and turn it into motivation to better yourself. We only have one chance to get it right, so take your time and make sure youre the one on top in the end. It isnt about who wins in the past or even the present, its about who conquers in the future. There are way too many of us, for everyone to obtain their dreams. Only the strongest make their dreams reality, because theyre up giving everything they have chasing them. We live in an elitist world. The only thing youre missing out on is who you can become if you believe in yourself. This book is a collection of answers I have given over the past four years. I dont want to make myself a sage on a stage, I had to overcome drastic obstacles in order to become the man I am now. I read something the other day that said, If you want to truly learn something, then you have to teach it. In helping other people I have learned more about myself.
None of this coming from a professional.
The truth is that there are still areas in my life that I need to re-organize. I still have a long way until I reach my potential, but that is the beauty of these answers.. I have had many of the same problems that you do, and I have spent months working through themOne answer didnt work solely, there were many. That is the point.
There isnt a solid answer to all of your problems.

There isnt one right way to do anything. If you want to get bett er then you must experiment. Before you get good at anything you must be willing to learn through trial and error. You will failThere is no doubt about that. I have failed. Everyone who is successful now has failed at some point in their lives.
Which is comforting. Its because they failed that they were able to succeed.
All of this is just an perception, its not real or fake, Its not necessarily true or false, its just another point of view. -Rhay, Blogger
Part One
Motivation.
The only thing thats Capital-T True is that you get to decide how you see things. - David Foster Wallace, Writer
All Questions are in Red. Followed by answers in Black.

Hey man. I've just came across your blog in the past week and read through it quite a bit. And well, you seem pretty wise. My question to you is when did you figure everything out? Was there like a turn around point where you thought to yourself "right, I've got to get my shit together now"?
I believe it came when I was just getting out of high school. I was going through a tough time in my life mentally. I didnt know what I wanted to do, and everybody around me wa s trying to push their ambitions on me. My father wanted me to go to the Navy, and my mother wanted me to go to college. Honestly I didnt know what path I wanted to go down. I started to procrastinate and stall. Inexorably I got to a point where I wasnt doing anything. I wasnt moving. I believe the ultimate purpose of life is to constantly evolve. Evolution is the constant movement forward. You can only evolve if youre experiencing new things. I remember one moment in my life vividly. I had a friend who was the exact opposite of me. After high school he went on to graduate from a junior college while working a full time job. He was ambitious and I wasnt. I thought his determination would rub off on me but it only made me jealous of his accomplishments. Eventually he had saved up his money from his job and purchased a new car which I envied. I had a girlfriend at the time who was in school also. A beautiful determined girl who I could not match in ambition. We had a connection physically but not mentally. As the months drew on I could tell that she was getting tired of me, I could tell she was losing interest. I had introduced her to my friend a couple of months back and they became close friends. I thought nothing of it until I saw a picture on her myspace holding hands in his car. I felt my heart sink into my stomach. I felt betrayed. I was bitter and angry. I wanted revenge. How could my friend do this to me, why would he betray me like that. I stop talking to both of them and cut them out of my life. It wasnt until later that I understood the truth. My girl didnt leave me because I didnt have a cool car, or I wasnt good looking. She left me because I wasnt taking care of my business. How could I hate on another man who works harder than I did to a chieve his goals? Today I cant blame her or him, I can only blame myself. I could sit there and point fingers at everybody around me, but by only pointing them at myself will I ever change. I just got sick of it.I got sick of losing everything that was dear to me because I was lazy. In the end I chose to change instead of being bitter. My motivation comes from wanting to be the best I can. I told myself I will never allow myself to sink so low again. The greatest moment in my life came when I went to war against who I am now, and the man I wanted to become. Its an uphill battle, but one worth fighting. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Rhay, I'm about to graduate high school this year, and my family friends, and teachers keep telling to find something I want to do in college. But the thing is I honestly just don't know what I want to do, and at times it gets my mood down. Any advice for me?
You must be ruthless with your mind and emotions. Negative emotions will kill any chance of you being successful. Dont even let negative thoughts form in your mind in the first place. It sounds tough..But being successful in this world is about improving internally. Its not about changing or manipulating other people to get our way. The buttons that we have to push is on ourselves. This is what I did, and now this is what I want you to do I want you to take out a sheet of paper and a pen, for everything you feel insecure about write it down. So for example; 1. Im depressed because I dont know what I want to do with my life. Now, after you wrote that negative thought down Think of three things in your life that ARE going right. 1. Im graduating high school. That is a accomplishment on its own. 2. I have people in my life that support me, and encourage me. Some people dont have ANYONE who cares about what they do with their future. 3. The fact that I am stressed out about my future, means that I have accepted the fact that my life is under my control..and Im willing to do whatever is necessary in order to be successful. Write down five things youre insecure about, and for those five things you must come up with three things that you feel are positive in your life. When you do this, you realize that you have more things going right, than wrong. Once you pull yourself out of that negative mindset then you can focus all your attention on what matters. When youre straight out of high school, you dont need know exactly what you want to do with your life. I say go to college and list that you are undecided. Take a couple of courses that you think sound interesting, and if you love one of them more than another then you can decide to take it a step further and make a career out of it. Never let anyone rush you into making a decision. This is your life, and it is up to you.and you only to decide what you want to do with it. My key to being successful is this. Think of what you love to do, then market it on a massive scale. The fact of the matter is, you can do something for the money that comes with itBut you will only be happy doing something you dont mind not getting paid for. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Hey Rhay so first off I wanna say I really dig your blog but now to the meat of the question, what do you believe is the best way anyone can build up confidence? Thanks a lot
I remember back when I was sixteen, I was extremely shy. I could never really start a conversation, because I was afraid of how the other person may react. This fear deep inside of me was the reason why I never was able to grow. One day I just got tired.Tired of being caught up in trying to get approval. I just went up to everybody that I saw and I said the first thing that came to my mind. When I was driving down a street, and I was at a red light I would just stare at people until they got uncomfortable or laughed. What I learned is that people want more excitement in their lives, they want to talk to people they havent met before. They yearn to go back to childhood. Do you remember when we were kids? How easy it was to go up and talk to another kid our age, and play with them? Children are admired because their innocence. They dont see skin color, they dont see raceThe only thing they see is a potential for fun. As adults we are stripped of this, and we hide under our shells of perception and beliefs. Deep down we still want to find someone exciting, but Its society itself that disproves our impulse. We are told to act a certain way, to surround ourselves with certain friends. Its society that brainwashes us to believing that we can only be happy if we do what is projected on a screen. We are chained by the perception that society forces on us. Apart of confidence is learning how to go outside yourself, and become self-less to your own emotions. If people would learn to stop being so selfish then they would be able to have more fun in their lives. You have to learn how to drop all that seriousness, all that conservative bullshit. Just have funAs you did when you were a child. People will want to be around you because you give them what society denies them. Adventure. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Rhay.I absolutely love your advice. I'm an 18 y/o girl, and I feel that the majority of the time I really believe in myself and my values and who I am. I am confident, I dress up nicely everywhere I go and I know who and what I want to be seen as. However, sometimes around people I feel that I allow them to make me feel lesser. I feel like I talk a lot to get people's approval but I don't want to do that. What makes me most confident is the way I dress,but I think I need to find confidenceWITHIN
Confidence is intrinsic, meaning that it naturally radiates from within first and is propelled outward. You talk to much because you feel insecure, and youre speaking out of nerve to be accepted. Learn to unhook yourself, learn to not need anything/anyone in order for you to feel self-esteem. That way your self-esteem will truly be powerful, and not up to the imaginations of other people. Dont believe anyone that tells you that youre not worthy, or that you dont have what it takes to be attractive. This is why the importance of inner -game is so critical, yet it isnt credited. Even if you have everything going for yourself, it will all go to heck if you dont project the right things from your inner-beliefs. Attraction is an arbitrary thing, just as much as taste is an arbitrary thing. What is attractive to us, is what we BELIEVE is attractive and nothing else. For example; Pepsi Vs. Coke. A few years ago there used to be something called the Pepsi Test Taste Challenge. What Pepsi was saying on the commercials was that with blind test challenges, people would prefer Pepsi over Coke. So they did these challenges, what they did was that they blindfold people and gave them a drink of Coke, and a drink of Pepsi. Apparently with the blindfold on, people preferred Pepsi to the taste of Coke. BUT the reality is people prefer the taste of Coke to Pepsi. So what is going on here? If Pepsi tastes better, and Pepsi commercials are everywhere why is it that people still prefer Coca Cola? Especially since they prefer the taste of Pepsi when blindfolded? The answer is that biology isnt everything. When I say biology, I mean isolating taste itself. That ultimately our mind plays a huge role in our perception of anything, including taste. So what happened was because of all marketing strategies that Coca Cola implements, the FEELING is that coke actually tastes BETTER. When in fact it isnt necessarily true. So biology was overwritten by physiology. By Perception. In the same way a guy/girls looks can be overwritten by other physiological factors, because physiology overrules everything. Perception overrules everything. Attraction is created by more than on fact alone, sometimes more powerful than our taste buds is our perception of what were eating or drinking..and so in the same way our perception of another human being is affected by more than just what we see. State of mind is the most powerful tool that you have. It is more powerful than the clothes you wear, or the car you drive. It will project all the right things about you, about your character. For example they did a study, store brands vs. name brands. They asked people which pack of cookies tasted better, and people responded that the name brand would for sure beat out the store brand. They even ate the name brands cookies and said it tasted better. Ironically when blindfolded/ blindfolded the product so they didnt know which was which They actually couldnt tell the difference. Perception creates reality, perception is reality. You have to train your mind so that you feel superior, so then you will behave that way. Your auditory channels, your body language. They will project all the factors that a person determines their attraction to another. So that a person is not just basing their attraction toward you on something superficial as clothing, but youre attracting people sub-consciously. They feel that you are better, because the stimuli that you are giving off is being filtered through her brain and coming out as attractive. Which is the most powerful form of attraction. You must project excellence. You must believe you are the
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best, and this starts with a powerful self-self concept. You must be aware of negative emotions in your life and obliterate them from your life. All emotions are addictive, even negative emotions. If you are currently feeling negative emotions you feel as if they are important and necessary; and your brain continues to feed off themBecause your perception of an emotion is that is beneficial to your survival.. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Hey Rhay do you have any advice for being lazy? I know what I want to do it just seems like I'm to lazy to do anything. (Big fan of your writing btw)
I believe that success is ultimately postponed defeat. That is how I view any triumph. Once you get too comfortable you lose the passion, the determination that made you great. Its the desperation that is your greatest ally. I once heard of a famous writer who after had they a successful book/article. They would go to vegas and gamble all their money away. They did this for two reasons. 1. The writer understood that success is desperation. Without feeling desperation for greatness, they couldnt achieve it. 2. Money tends to blind you into believing it is the only reward for trying to reach success. What the poor have that the rich tend to lack is creativity. When your back is against the wall, and you have no other choice to perform you reach your maximum potential. You must tell yourself; "There is no easy way out, Im going to do whatever it TAKES"!! That is the mentality that you must have to succeed. Youre lazy, because you made it up in your mind that you dont have what it takes to survi ve. You have given up on yourself mentally, so what does your brain do in response? It shuts down. Your body shuts down. You have less energy, you become lethargic, restless, you fall into depression. Your brain will only put out once you give it no other choice. Our bodies are designed to conserve energy, and since your physical body is ran on impulses it receives from your brainYour physiology affects the very physicality of your strength. What are signs of depression? Fatigue, headaches, joint pain, not moving around much. Your brain has evolved over millions of years to handle all types of problems. Our brain is stronger than the animals, because we were built to survive. So if youre not using your brain, you are going to be feeling really bad. We tend to crave emotion, even negative emotions because we feel they are important. Emotions are stronger than logic, you will continue to feel low self-esteem because emotions even negative make you feel alive. Now lets say something gives you hope, or something makes you laugh. All of a sudden your body springs up and you gain almost superhuman energy. You can learn to harness this energy, but it takes a lot of practice. Not too many people have control of their emotions, and are easily deceived. If youre lazy, and youve decided that feeling horrible is your way of coping with the harshness of reality.. You wont get anywhere and you will be manipulated by anyone that makes you feel good about yourself. The smallest validation from anybody will brighten you up, because you have such low self-esteem. You will live a short, dark, and miserable life. Filled with regrets, hardships, and poverty both mentally, physically, and financially. May God Bless you. -Rhay.
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Yo, Rhay what advice do you have for someone who likes a certain style but people criticize him for dressing too similar to a certain famous person? sorry if this sounds weak minded but i look up to your advice on the blog bruh
Those who criticize you, hold a sense of admiration for you. Never forget that The opposite of attraction isnt hate, its indifference. If they didnt care, they wouldnt go through great lengths to be offended or try to put you down. Those people who are always quick to clown other people, or quick to defend thems elves dont have any self-esteem. To make up for their lack of whatever in their life, for instance; 1. Their small dick. 2. No money. 3. No luck. They tend to gravitate to people who they feel have what they lack. If that person rejects them, then that love turns into hatred. Intense hatred. That is how human beings work, we want what we feel were missing in other people. That is the basis of desire, so in essence attraction is the desire for self-esteem. There is no such thing as looking like a fool, most people are too afraid of being rejected so they try to blend in to avoid animosity. Men like me say fuck all that, we do what we want to dobecause were not looking for approval. Rather someone gets offended or not, that isnt going to stir me away fr om my goal. Were all inspired by each other in someway or another. Tabula Rasa which means blank slate. We are born to mimic other people and use them as inspiration. There is nothing wrong with being influenced, but the point of it all is to move into a new direction of your own. When you idolize another man too much, in a way you disrespect yourself because you let his opinions dictate yours. Never get too caught up, trying too hard to be like another manBecause you have potential yourself to make your own style. I know you do. Use that confidence and be comfortable with yourselfand remember when someone stands out for whatever circumstance, they will be met with resistance from the people that envy them. Be careful. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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RHAAAY how do you be yourself and stop being awkward? It's somewhat of a problem. May God Bless You
First you have to define who you are, to become who you are. What are your goals? Where do you want to be in five years? What are your ambitions? If you could do anything regardless of time, and financial limitationsWhat would you do? The answer that you come up with, is what you should be doing. Even if it takes doing it just a little bit at a time. Creating powerful goals for yourself and accomplishing them will give you confidence because youre doing what you want to do. Just make sure they are within your grasp. Be honest with yourself, and know your limits. Becoming a billionaire isnt a realistic goal, and you will only frustrate yourself when youre unsuccessful. Make your goals powerful, but realistic. Only you know how strong you can becomeBut any doubt in yourself and in your abilities will dampen your success big or small. You must believe that youre the best, to be the best. The only reason youre awkward is because you feel like youre inferior. You feel as if you dont have what it takes to be successful or be accepted. You want to be accepted by the rest of society and it is the reason why youre constantly hard on yourself. Having discipli ne is fine, but beating up on yourself emotionally because you cant have what you want is foolish. Trying to appeal to everybody is foolish. There are people who just wont accept you, and there is nothing you can say or do to change that. You must accept your weaknesses, and compensate for them by having a powerful self-concept. Love what you have, and love who you are. This will create a foundation you can grow from. Some of the greatest men in history had insecurities. Alexander The Great wasnt necessarily a big man or handsome man physically, but it was his mentality that made him great. What Napoleon lacked in height, he compensated for with determination. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Hey Rhay. I am a sophomore in college and I am yet to have a girlfriend. To sum it up: Im not necessarily where I want to be in life yet and I have a lot going on with my family. I dont want to bring someone into my life unless I am genuinely happy and have something to offer emotionally. I have put off girls that have been attracted to me, but Im also yet to get girls that I go after. I really just want to focus on my grades and accomplishing my goals, but the idea of having a girl lingers on.
"Im not necessarily where I want to be in life yet" If you feel that way then you shouldnt be worried about pursing women. Work on yourself first, then worry about relationships. Most men have that concept backwards and then they wonder why they are never successful. Regardless of what women say they want, they are attracted to guys who dont need them. If youre a guy who feels like he needs a woman in his life to feel completeThen chances are youre not very attractive. Not necessarily repulsive physically, but the energy that youre sending out isnt attractive. Youre coming from a place of poverty emotionally, not strength. You have to know what you want out of a woman. How is she going to enhance your life? Do you just want a relationship to feel better about yourself? Or do you want somebody who is going to be beneficial to your success? You have to know what you want. If you dont know what you want then youre going to take whatever you can get. Meaning that youre willing to sleep with random access pussy just because it is available and youre desperatewhich is a problem which can ruin your life financially as well as your health. The guys who get the most stunning women, are men who are engaged in their purpose in life. Find what your purpose in this life is and dedicate yourself to it. What do you want out of life? Because I can tell you this Anything that makes you a better person mentally, makes you a more attractive person in the eyes of women. Have goals, have ambitions and never let a woman come in the way of them. Women are attracted to men they cant influence. If you really want to get the woman of your dreams then you must come to the point where you dont need her to feel good about yourself. The way to get a beautiful, fulfilling relationship is to not need one in the first place. You have to learn how to unhook yourself from everything. Most people think they need A in order to feel B. When it just isnt true. The only thing that you need to feel good about yourself is a belief..That belief that you can be happy regardless of what happens. Beautiful women have turned into the highest form of conspicuous consumption. We want beautiful women because we feel as if we cant have themand other men who do have them are idolized and worshiped as having power. The truth is that guy who has a beautiful girl.Has no advantage over you. He isnt necessarily smarter, or even better looking than you. He isnt a better person than you are. What he does have that you dont is confidence. Confidence is what got him the girl in the first place. Confidence is one of the highest forms of self-esteem. Something magical happens when you mix confidence with faith. You feel as if youre invincible, it gives you charisma to the point that you feel as if you have no weaknesses. It sounds toughBut being successful in this world isnt about manipulating the people around you to get what you want..The buttons that we have to push are on ourselves. If you want to change your reality with women, then you have to improve internally. It all starts with you finding what your purpose is, and dedicating yourself to it.
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May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Hey Rhay, I've read some of your material basically on non-conformity, and I was just wondering how you got into shoes and why you're still collecting. What is the reason behind your love for shoes? I've recently stop collecting because of this insight of the socializaion process, but I keep having the urge to come back. Thank You.
One thing I learned recently in the past three years, that I wish I co uld have realized earlier. Is that you cant fill the void of insecurity with buying things, or with a womans attention. I think a lot of people get into buying sneakers for all the wrong reasons. I do realize that there are true collectors out there who genuinely love shoes, but the majority of people who wear jordans buy them because they love being seen in Jordans. They use their shoes as a way to cover up the fact that they are lacking basic social skills to make people like them. Having nice shoes will get you attention, and if you never had validation in your lifefor anything..Then you get addicted to the feeling of being socially accepted. What they dont realize is that they are creating a void that can never be filled. They live their lives wanting things, and when they finally get them, they no longer want them anymore. Every box in their closet starts to represent a battle in their life where they couldnt overcome their egos need for acceptance. Before I started reading, I felt I was one of those people who needed to be accepted. I loved my shoes because they gave me a higher position in the pecking order. Dont get me wrong, I do enjoy my collection but I do see how superficial the art of worshiping them is. Sneakers were my way for compensating for my lack of individuality. I would go out my way to show off my sneakers, especially women. The ironic thing is the more you try to prove yourself with what you have, the more people tend to drift away from you. So while I was gaining social acceptance from my own peer group of men, I wasnt getting anywhere with women. A lot of guys get into the game, in order to get girls. The problem is that they get a expensive pair of sneakers, and still dont have the confidence to approach a woman. They spe nd every dime of their money on trying to impress women, but only receive attention from other guys. Its counter-productive and pathetic. What is the point of getting all that shit, if youre still insecure? I see a lot of guys on here who have a lot of st uff materially, but have nothing to show for themselves mentally. So what is the point? Say that you do find a girl that you want to talk to, and she likes you, and you start a conversationThen what? What are you going to talk about? Your shoes? I feel that if you have to impress a woman with what youre wearing, your car, or your moneyThen youre admitting to yourself that youre lacking something fundamentally. At that point your hobbies become an excuse for not bettering yourself. I personally dont buy sneakers anymore, I appreciate them because they helped me through dark times in my life..When I really didnt know who I was. Now I no longer need them to feel good about myself. I think that making that change has benefited me greatly. Im trying new things, and Im enriching my personalityWhich is what I should have been doing to begin with. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Hey Rhay, I just got called boring because I don't drink, smoke or party and that shit piss me off. What's your thoughts on people like that?
One thing I learned later in lifeThat I wish I could have figured out earlier on is that people dont have to like you. Its okay for people not to like you. That is completely fine. Not everybody is going to like you and there is nothing you can do about it. The sooner you accept that the sooner you can move on to more important issues. The fact is most people are trying too hard anyway. Trying too hard to be cool, to be liked, to be accepted. What exactly will that get you? A night in jail and a positive pregnancy test? The world is filled with try-hards who live to impress people. Then there are people like me who just dont give a fuck if theyre accepted by society or not. I dont feel that I have to prove anything to anyone but myself. W hat other people think about my character is completely oblivious to mebecause I dont care enough to actually let something small like that stop me. If Im not accepted in the cool club that drinks and smokes their problems away, Ill create my own club that deals with their insecurities instead of trying to cover them up. When someone criticizes my point of view Im not quick to defend myself. I accept that they have their own perspective, but their opinion isnt going to cause me to lose my confidence. That is how I choose to live my life. Im a rebel by nature. Im a leader. I dont need to fit into the little mold that society gives me. I dont drink or smoke because I dont need to, I naturally feel good about myself because Im living life the way I want to. Billions are made off making people feel bad about themselves. Negative emotions are the biggest killer in America than anything else. Negativity kills more people than cancer. Then there is a big corporation that offers you the magic pill that will solve all of your problems. If you get a new pair of Jordans, or a new IPhone every issue with your self-esteem wont seem so bad. So much money is being made off us feeling terribleI figured out some time ago that society doesnt want you to be successful, they just want you to be a unhappy consumer. Hell even most of your friends dont want you to be successful, because it makes them look bad if they dont do shit. It is literally you against the world. Its rare to find anyone who actually listens and understands you anymore, because theyre so caught up in their own opinion. Before you even finish speaking most people already have a rebuttal. Most people dont say whats on their mind in the present moment, they say whats been on their mind but were too afraid to say out loud. Its all apart of social conditioning. So when somebody tells you that your life is boring because you dont drink or smoke..What theyre really saying is that their own life is that way BECAUSE all they do are those things. Dont take any offenseJust move on. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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What is it that people want attention so badly even if they already receive it?
Its because their ego has created a void in their life, that no matter how much attention they receive it wont be enough to overcome the insecurities that live inside of their head. We live in a world that encourages individuality, but stresses conformity. This is our societys biggest contradiction. The price that you pay for not conforming is being ostracized socially. In a digital age social acceptance means everything. All you have to do is go on your facebook, or your instagram (two things I got rid of) to see how conformity is affecting us as generation. Check instagram to see how flexing has become an art of its own. The more followers a person has, the more they are worshiped. Its the Halo effect. ( Halo effect= We believe that people who have more money than us or are physically more attractive, are somehow better people morally than us). Thousands of photos are uploaded daily for the sole purpose of creating an image. Men post pictures of their money to attract women, women post pictures of themselves nude to attract men. Status is traded for sex constantly. Its almost a form of social prostitution. On facebook you have women who take pictures of themselves and upload them to their timeline six times a day. Why? Because they feel as if they are lacking something in their lives, and they feel that if they gain social acceptance that void will be filled. Just like some men feel as if they buy thousands of dollars worth of clothes, they will able to compensate for their flaws. A lot of these women we feel have everything externally, have the biggest insecurities internally. Since they have relied on their beauty for so long, they havent developed a sense of identity of their own. So they start to identity with the attention they receive from men, If they arent constantly getting this validation then they feel something is wrongSomething is missing. By getting a man to crave them sexually, is proof to them that they are worth something. They are trying to prove something to themselves, through the attention of other people. They are destined to succumb to depression, because it doesnt matter how many want themIf a woman doesnt love herself, then she will be hurt and abusedThus becoming a victim. Often you will see status from these same women who constantly get their heart brokenTheir victims of their own vanity. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Rhay, I currently have failing grades and I just don't care enough to get them up. I'm aware this is my future and that this could be the rest of my life. I honestly would just rather show up and dick around for half the time. I have a 1.4 GPA and it isn't gonna fly with the 'rents. I feel like I'm wasting this year by not giving a damn. What can I do to have the drive and need to succeed you have? God Bless.
What do you mean that you dont care? I dont know how old you are, or what level of school but I think its time for you to be let on a little secret. The world that is waiting for you outside of High School isnt pretty. If you dont prepare yourself to survive on your own, you will be crushed then swept underneath the floorboard. Every adult must confront their own morality, and the morality of those they love. One day your parents wont be there to protect you. Your mother and your father have been your buffer against the world since you were born. When your parents can no longer provide for you, then you must be able to be selfsufficient. A large part of becoming an adult is taking responsibility for your life, and everything/everyone in it. If you cant take care of yourself, then youre not a man. Trust me, the world is filled with boys pretending to be men.and its starting to be apparent as women are now becoming more ambitious than us. The average man only lives to be 73-74 years old, which means just over 27 thousand days. By the time you reach 21 you have seven thousand days and change underneath your belt. That means you already spent 1/4th of your life just preparing to survive the second half of it. (This is of course if you even make it to be 74 years old) You dont have much time to get your shit together. You wont live forever, its best to do something while youre here so you can be a man that your wife can be proud to call you her husbandand your children will be proud to call you their fatherIn the end that is all you have, your legacy. At the end of your life you want to be able to say that you lived the best you could. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Yo Rhay, I've got a problem with making decisions. For some reason it's hard for me to decide on things in my everyday life and I'm aware that this is unattractive to women. How can I get rid of my indecisiveness and choose what I want without hesitation?
Im going to be very blunt with you. Nobody feels sorry for you, the sooner you realize that then we can move to a place where we can communicate better. You must be ruthless with the emotions and people that you allow into your life, negative emotions will paralyze you and prevent you from taking action. Whereas positive emotions will put you in a state of vitality, and liveliness. It sounds simple, because it is. Men tend to make it harder on themselves, when the solution is very simple. Youre either a man that is sitting around feeling miserable, or youre a man who is excited about his life and is constantly improving himself. I think the whole picking up girls thing confuses a lot of guys, because they want women for the wrong reasons. They feel as if they have attractive women in their life, then they will feel better about who they are as men. It makes no sense whatsoever, but a lot of men believe this. The point is thisIt doesnt matter what or who you bring into your life, if you dont change the way you feel about yourself then all of it is useless. You shouldnt be improving your life for the sole reason of getting girls, you should be improving y ourself for your own benefit. Fuck getting girls, what do you want to do with your life? Dont you think that is more important? If you have hobbies pursue them, if you have interests pursue them. Even if it means taking a little step at a time. Youre not going to learn all of this overnight, you must look at this process as something that youre constantly going to improve for the rest of your life. I remember when I was first getting into this kind of stuff, I would spend at least two hours every morning reading. Its a small change, but it has made a huge impact on my life. I dont want to get girls, I wanted to improve myself. It just so happens that I noticed that women started to respond differently to me in a positive way. Why? Because I wasnt concerned with trying to impress them, I was only worried about making something out of myself. Dont worry about getting girls for now, worry more about becoming a better man. A lot of guys want beautiful women, but dont want to become men that women are attracted to. Women are attracted to men who is confident, dominant, and above all ambitious. Ambition is the highest quality a man can have that can make him attractive. One trait that all ambitious men have in common, is that they all have something more important going on in their lives besides women. They dont stop what theyre doing to chase women, they chase their dreams and women tag along. They dont have one ounce of neediness, because they are already internally fulfilled. It doesnt matter if a woman likes them or not, because it wont change the way they feel about themselves. They have a plan, and they stick to it. Everything about you must be congruent. If you say that you want to better your life, then you must take actions to bettering it. Just talking about it isnt going to get you any results. I know a lot of guys who I privately mentor who read all the books I give them and learn absolutely nothing. Why? Its because they didnt understand the importance of putting into practice what they read. Dont just read my words, incorporate them into your life. Take responsibility and stop making excuses. Just sitting around feeling sorry for yourself just isnt going to cut it anymore. The thing is.Once you start to venture outside of yourself, you will see how everything is connected. I know all of this sounds tough, and it is.But I promise that it is worth it. Start doing everything for your own benefit, and not social approval and you will gain more respect. Anything that makes you a smarter person, also makes you a more attractive person. May God bless you.
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I just feel really down now a days man.. Whether with all this work from school to just wanting to be alone for no apparent reason.. I just feel so empty. Any advice? Thank you.
About a month ago I discovered something amazing about myself. Its what I like to call Negative Loops. Basically we are people of routine. We go to school, work, then we go home. When were home we go on the computer, listen to music, watch T.V. , eat, shit, and sleep. Its all one big cycle of mediocrity during the week. Then on Friday we go out with our boring friends, to same boring places to meet new people and have a good time.EVERYTHING IS FUCKING BORING. What I found was something so power yet Ive never heard anyone else say it. As if this concept was something that went unspoken in society. What I discovered is that we always have a loop to these routines. For instance when people wake up what do they almost always automatically do? They reach for their phone and look at the time. What else do they do? They check twitter, facebook, tumblr, or whatever. When they see nothing extraordinary is going on in their digital world except the usual; (Crying abused girl, attention whores, vanity slaves, and social network philosophers posting bible verses). After we check these things we become depressed. Why? Its because we know there is nothing extraordinary going on, yet we check these things hoping that something magically will change. We realize that it is another shitty day, and were going to do the same shitty shit, and hang out with the same shitty people. Its all depressing. My negative loop was that I would get on my computer and check my email, check facebook, twitter, GQ,worldstar, and a couple of other sites. I would check these things in a pattern. Even if I absolutely knew that there wasnt anything extraordinary about these websites, I would still click on the bookmarks (sometimes clicking on it multiple times, over and over in the same pattern). To get myself out of this cycle I had to do something drastic. I deleted everything off of my facebook, deleted the tab off my screen along with the other websites. You know what happened? Since I was no longer had a loop to follow, I made a new one. I went outside and started to socialize with people. I had a goal; I would make a conversation with 20 new people a day. Start off with something small and watch how big your results will be. You have nothing to lose deleting your tabs, and walking outside. Go out and meet new people. I can tell you thisYoure not going to get out of your depression by accepting it. The cure to depression is taking action. You cant be depressed if youre not focusing on it. Focus your attention to trying new things. Stop sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. Nothing will change until you want it to. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Not sure if this is the right place to go to but I love your replies. Okay, well I am feeling so discouraged and depressed because of school. I am not doing so well and feel so down all the time. I know it is all my fault. Sometimes I have thoughts of suicide but don't have the balls to do anything. University was a place for me to have a future, but the only thing I got so far was depression. My future is not looking so good and all I wanted to do was find success and make my parents proud.
What is success? There is a difference between how society defines it, and your definition of it. Society tells that we should go to school, graduate, work a job that we despise, get married, and pop out a few kids so they can end up in the same cycle of mediocrity. That isnt the American Dream, that is the American Reality. Were in a state of stagnation. I read a statistic the other day that said that only 50% of college students actually work jobs that require a four year degree. Ill go a step further and say that only 10% of those students are actually doing something that they love to do. Most people are settling in life, because they want what society says is best for them. So sitting in a cubicle for 25 years is what the average person is going to settle for, why? Because its safe. There is a low chance of failure in a desk job. Youre told what to do, how to do it, and when to turn it in. Even if you miraculously mess up, youre replaceable right? Because some 24 year old kid who has the same degree you have and all the credentials can replace you. This is your reality unless you do something about it. Youre either doing something you love, or youre sitting around feeling miserable. Stop feeling sorry for yourself! No one is going to help you until you help yourself. Youre depressed because youre living somebody elses dream and not your own. You are turning into a statistic and not an individual. Fuck what you parents want, fuck what the world wants What do you want? Your parents cant live your life for you, eventually youre going to have to be a man and take responsibility for your future. This depression that youre feeling is just another form of lazinessYoure waiting around for something to happen to you. Instead of facing your problems youre sitting around moping around like baby. Listen man, Im going to be extremely blunt with you The world doesnt owe you shit. Whatever you want youre going to have to work to get itPeriod. You can sit around depressed all you want, but that isnt going to change the fact that your life isnt going the way you want it. Do you really think hating yourself is going to make any difference? It doesnt matter if you hate yourself or notIf your life is in shambles, your life is in shambles. Do you think killing yourself is going to make a difference? That is only taking the easy way out..Are you that lazy that you would rather end the greatest gift that you ever received just so you dont have to work? Youre better than thatThat is what a coward would do. Thinking positively is just as easy as thinking negatively once you take responsibility of your emotions. You have to find that little bitch inside of you that is keeping you back, and slay him. You have to abolish any insecurity or negative thought that you have, because its not helping you. If an emotion isnt serving your purposes, get rid of it.. I know i t sounds tough, but being successful in this world isnt about manipulating other people to get what you want. The buttons that we have to push is on ourselves. You will always be your worst enemy If you conquer yourself, then you conquer the world. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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As I'm reading, I tend to forget the information that I just read. Any tips on how to remember and/or apply what you read, to your life?
That is because youre thinking of reading as punishment, and not enlightenment. Youre not thi nking about reading in the present moment, your mind is projecting an imaginary future when you can stop reading and go do something else. For example has your mother ever asked you to do something you didnt want to do; Like wash the dishes or take out the trash? The first thing that you feel is resistance. This is the first barrier that your mind puts up, and resistance is internal suffering. So when youre finally forced to wash the dishes, your mind is no longer focused on the action itself because its warped in anger.Your mind exists in an imaginary realm where the task is already completed and you can go back to looking at facebook. This is what adults call doing things half-assed. This is why youre forgetting the materialIts because youre only reading half-assed. Youre not fully present, youre in the future somewhere. The ironic thing iswhat we tend to resist the most is usually what we need to take care of immediately. So welcome resistance, when it comes its your body letting you know that youre doing something that you should be. Thinking about something you dont want to do is suffering. Your mind is causing you to suffer. If you dont end this suffering it will spreadWhat may started out as hating the process of taking out the trash, may turn into hating your life because you have to take out trash. Dont hate reading. You must learn to have discipline. Your mind is your worst enemy when it comes to readingIt doesnt want to read because it wants to play Xbox. You must shut off your mind, and connect to the present moment. While youre reading focus on reading, and nothing else. This is why its important that you go somewhere quiet and without distraction so your mind isnt tempted to head toward pleasure. You must FORCE yourself to sit there until you understand. Take notes if necessary. Read passages over and over until you can tell someone else what is happening. It sounds difficult and tedious but it is worth it. If youve been sitting on your ass not doing anything for a long time Then you can expect some resistance.. It is normal. You must barrel through until reading becomes a new habit. May God bless. -Rhay.
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What are you hobbies ? What are some hobbies that girls might find attractive ?
Think right now, if you could do anything you wanted to do in this worldRegardless of any issue. Regardless of financial considerations. Regardless of time considerations. Imagine you had no limits, what would you love to do? Just answer that question. Right now. What do you love to do? What are the things youve always dreamed about doing if there was no limits on it? Those are the things you should be pursuing right now, even if it means only spending a few minutes on it everyday to get the ball rolling. It isnt about creating hobbies that you might think women will find attractive, its about discovering who you are as a man. If you have hobbies pursue them, if you have interests pursue them. Dont be a loser That should be obvious. The thing is once you feel good about yourself, you will naturally gravitate toward this type of lifestyle anyway. Why? Because you want to better yourself. You want to be the type of guy who doesnt sit around waiting for a woman to notice him. The best way to attract women, is to have something important going on in your life besides women. That is the mindset of a superior man. Just think about how most guy are. They sit around all day playing Xbox or whatever, masturbate four or five times a day, and at night they sit around depressed. They think about the one thing they dont have in their lives and theyre depressed. Not Im not saying that having a ultra cool lifestyle is going to change everything. If you only got that out of my messages, then youre going about the whole thing the wrong way. I know plenty of guys who are secure with themselves and dont do anything positive to better themselvesand stillstill women find them attractive. Why? Because even if all you want to do is sit around on the toilet all day, and you made that decision not beca use you cant do anything else, but because that is what want to do. Women will still find that more attractive than a guy who uses his job and his money to try to impress everybody. Because if youre comfortable with it, the woman usually is as well. She will only think something is your weakness if you believe it is. BUT, you shouldnt WANT to aspire to be that guy. You should want to be successful, you should want to live up to your potential. I think the worst mistake men make is that they try to imitate the success of another man. What works for me, wont necessarily work for you. I can tell you that I love to read, travel, and occasionally I go to wine tasting conventions. Yet, those things may not resonate with you because were two different men. This isnt about me, its about you. What do you like? If you dont know then I believe that you need to sit down and have an intervention with yourself. Go to your room, lock the door, and take out a piece of paper. Dont leave your room until you write dow n thirty things that youre good at, and thirty things you want to accomplish during your life. If you cant get past ten, then there is a problem because youre worried about what actually matters in life. Youre too busy trying to look cool, and get girlsThe thing is you probably dont have those aspects of your life handled, because youre too busy with when rather than how. Youre worried about when you will accomplish these things, rather than your plan on how to bring it in fruition . All those things can wait until you have a firm direction of where you want to go in life. Women dont want carbon cut outs of everybody else..They want men who are interesting, fun, cultured, and above all different. The more gorgeous the woman is, the more this becomes an issue for her. Beautiful women arent worried about attracting the best looking guy, because they can have any man with the snap of their fingers. What they want is a man who is comfortable with himself, and the path that he has chosen to live his life. That is attractive. Whatever makes you a smarter more experienced man, will make you attractive more charismatic man. Dont do it for women, do it for yourselfand women will come to you.
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Hey Rhay. I've been dealing with a huge problem for almost 2 years now. Girls simply just don't want me. I dress nice but my insecurities make me an ugly person. I feel like I must be physically built or drive a nice car to actually pull in women. It's got to a point where every girl I encounter I try to get with. This bad habit is definitley ruining my reputation & I feel horrible. I know you don't answer all of your questions but can you please give me advice and guidance, I truly need this.
You thought that these things defined you. A lot of men gauge their success in life by what they possess materially. If they dont have a nice car, nice clothes, or absurd amounts of money; they feel incomplete. The problem is that these guys work their ass off and get that dr eam car, but their dream girl still isnt in the passenger seat next them. So they ride around with a ghost that will always haunt them no matter what they do. It watches them in the corner of every room they enter, it lingers in every piece of clothing they put on their backs. It is the ghost of insecurity. It is a void that can never be filled, a black hole of negative energy that drains anything that comes in its proximity. The only way to cure it, is with love.but the right kind of love. The right woman will make you feel like a king that can conquer any land, and the wrong woman will only help to make that void you feel inside your chest bigger. Sex isnt going to heal your insecurity, because it only reaches you physically. Having nice things isnt going to heal your insecurity, because it only reaches you materially. Confidence is a process. Youre going to have to rid yourself of everything that you feel is having an negative impact on you. Stop listening to depressing songs. Stop looking for someone to feel sorry for you, stop feeling sorry for yourself. The first step to change is taking responsibility. This is a problem of your creation, and the answer that youre looking for was always inside of you waiting for you to find it. Inside of you is the man that you always wanted to be, underneath all the social conditioning bullshit. Dont think of this time in your life as horrible because you dont have a girlfriend. Think of this period of your life as rebuilding. You are working on yourself so at the end of this journey you have prepared yourself for an awesome girl, one that is worth your time and energy. You have to redefine what you believe is sexy and what isnt. I see some of the prettiest girls with guys who I believe arent the stereotypical hot guy all the timeBut what do these guys have going for themselves? Theyre cool, laid back, funnyTheyre not trying to impress anyone. They also have cool lifestyles, and their into hobbies that no one else is. They dress in weird ways that make them stand out. The very things I thought were ugly, were actually strengths when used correctly. A hot girl can have whatever man she wants, even the hot insecure guy. So to her it really doesnt make a difference. She constantly have guys calling her, even that good looking guy who tries desperately to please her and kiss her ass. What matters the most is individuality, which is what she is looking for in the first place. The hotter she is, the more important this issue becomes for her. We as men have been lead to believe that what we have is what we are, when it just isnt true. Who you are is the person who stares at you when you look in the mirror. You must use that mirror and recreate yourself. You must see yourself how other people see you. Are you the person who walks with their head low, and shoulders scrunched over? Or you the type of person who walks with their head high, and their chest out? One shows the
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posture of a person with confidence, the other is a person who is needy and repressed. I put it like this man, if you dont feel comfortable hanging out with yourselfThen who else will? Start with yourself first, become cool in your own mind. Create a lifestyle that youre proud about. Are you the type of guy who sits on the toilet all day feeling depressed, or are you the type of guy who is passionate about his life? To be honest if youre not insecure with yourself and youre comfortable with sitting on the toilet all dayWomen will still find that more attractive than the guy who is ambitious but uses that ambition to show off for his lack of selfesteem. But it is just the principle. You want to better yourself, because you have goals and youre a man with value who doesnt sit around waiting for things. Youre not looking for a good time, you create a good time. This is attractive, this is self-fulfillment. I think the worst advice I received in my journey to becoming a better person was Just be yourself . What does that even mean, if you really dont know who you are? Were all products of social conditioning. Were told by the media that if we buy what is marketed then we would feel better about ourselves. We spend our whole lives chasing something that we really didnt want. I remember taking this advice and things only got worse. . I went out of my way to attract negative attention just to prove to people that I was the MAN. I was arrogant, cheesy, and plain rude. The worst three characteristics you could have when dealing with women. I was very insecure. The only way I overcame this issue was retreating inside of myself and rebuilding from square one. Sometimes you have to be selfish in order to give. So be selfish for the time being. Youre not just creating a lifestyle, youre creating yourself over again. So dont just be yourself, because that means that youre not willing to change. You must be your best self, and put your best foot forward. Women arent concerned with what you have, theyre primarily concerned with the way you behave. A man who has his inner-game together can smoke any man with good looks, a nice car, a nice jobWho only has these things in his life out of insecurity and not ambition. Men who brag every chance they get and use their power and abuse it. Now there are women who are concerned with those things alone and will not date you if you dont fit some type of archetype. But trust me..You dont want that type of person in your life anyway because they have a void they cant fill either. They dont deserve good menThey deserve whatever is coming to them. loneliness. If you ask what type of man they want, they will describe a man that really doesnt exist.and never will. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Part Two
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We are not held back by the love we did not receive in the past ; but by the love we do not extend in the present. - Marianne Williamson, Writer and Activist
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Any advice with women?
Women *well girls with high self-esteem* are more considered with the way you behave. Its not just about looksIf you believe that its your looks alone that determine a womans attraction to you, you will be limited in lifeBecause Im here to tell you that it isnt true. Which is why its not necessarily uncommon to see pretty girls with guys who arent stereotypically good looking and they may be even dress weird, but if you ever talked to him you would understand why he has the pretty girlIts his mentality. He didnt pull a beautiful girl DESPITE his flaws, he pulled the beautiful girl BECAUSE he isnt insecure and isnt afraid to be different.. As a man you have a lot of control over how attractive you are. You see a man with just looks and uses it as a crutch will get smoked by a man with game, because that man has spent more time on the way he comes across to women. A confident man is dominant with his peers, relaxed, courageous ambitious, and secure emotionally. He doesnt necessarily need to be stylish, but he is individual and it shows in the way he dresses which is unique to his personality. A confident man doesnt get mad nor does he get jealous, because he knows he has worthHe knows he has value. He doesnt start fights, or argue.that is a sign of weakness. He doesnt get distracted or scared away from obtaining his goals, he faces his fear and gets over it. Women pick up on these traits and are attracted to them. So work on them. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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what is the best way to talk to a girl/ act towards a girl without making her feel like the more dominant one in the relationship?
Try this. Compliment her ONLY on her values alone, not the way she looks. You must not spoil a girl.You MUSTNT. When a woman feels that she has control over a man, she will use that to her advantage. Just think about social roles.. A man takes a woman out, a man pays for everything..He wines and dines her.. and what is a woman doing during all of this? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. Its almost as if the man is qualifying himself, or that he has to prove himself to women. A man in control of his li fe, doesnt have to prove himselfTo anyone. A man with power doesnt need approval. Women want sex, just as BAD as men do..But most guys think of a girl giving them sex, as a favor. Nobody likes doing favors for anybody. Women view men as inferior creatures who buy them things, these days. They dont even necessarily have to give them ANYTHING in return to get their way. You must be dominant from the moment you meet a girl that you like, until she is out of your life. Being a man means YOU make decisions, and you dont rely on her. You dont need her, or any woman for you to have high self-esteem. That in itself is attractive. Most guys ask this when they first meet an attractive girl and take her out for the first date; What would you like to do? Dont be that wayI know it sounds nice to ask her what she likes to doBut as a man you must take responsibility because if you dont she will get irritated. Tell her; I have plans at _______ < Fill in the blank with the outlines of your date Lets go to ________ Be dominant. Dont give her all your time, and dont kiss her ass with complimentsAnd if she isnt compatible with your standards..Get rid of her..Just like women dispose of men so often after they lose attraction. When a woman complains about not finding a nice guyWhat they really mean is that they keep finding guys that theyre attracted to but arent nice. Either he doesnt give her attention, or he is too busy. The irony is once that guy would become too available she wouldnt like him anymore. Women complain because theyre not used to having a man who stays congruent with the idea that HE is in control. Once they give him sex a man starts to suck up..and then a woman loses attraction to himand you hear the familiar line; Youre not the same person, I met..or fell in love with. God bless you. -Rhay.
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Hey Rhay, I have a question. What are some good questions and ice breakers when dealing with a girl you're attracted to and want to get to know better? Thanks in advance.
Youre approaching the game from the wrong perspective. You dont want to start asking a woman all the same boring ass questions that every other guy does, until AFTER she is attracted to you. Only after she is attracted to you, can you screen her to see if she is a woman you want to get to know or not. It should be a rule; you cant hit on a woman until after she has shown interest in you. Some guys go up and approach women from logical frame of mind, and get blown out in the first two minutes. Why? Its b ecause she doesnt know you, why should she answer your questions? Why should she even talk to you? Who ARE you? These are a few questions that go through a womans head when a man approaches her. The only answer that she can come up with is that you only want to talk to her because you want to have sex with her. Once a woman determines that you only want her for what she can offer you physically, she completely shuts down and becomes cold to you. Its not because she doesnt respect you because you like her for her body, its because she thinks you a desperate loser who just doesnt get it and you dont know the proper steps of courtship. The biggest reason why its a turn off is because it shows your lack of experience with women. If you had plenty of women you would know how to communicate with them. So the first thing you need to learn is that whatever you believe is original isntAnything you can ask a woman, she has heard it before from another guy especially if she is attractive. Beautiful women get approached everyday. From the time an attractive woman wakes up, until she goes to sleep she is constantly getting hit on by men who dont get it. Who go up asking her questions, that really dont matterShe knows that youre only asking her for her name because you want to fuck. Your job in the first couple of minutes is display your personality, avoid interview questions, and not hit on her. If after a period of time you notice that she is sending you signs that she is attracted, then you can move forward. Learning how to approach women correctly is like learning how to dance. You dont make your move, until she does, then you move forward and lead her with your body. If you move against her natural movements then you ruin all of it, because youre not i n sync together. You need something called chemistry, ever heard of that? Now you know what it means in our terms. Now for the perfect line? Or lce breaker? Youre thinking too much about it. It doesnt matter what you say, but how you say it. 93% of your communication doesnt come from what you say but from your body language. Most men dont even know what Body language is, so they dont know how to read it correctly or communicate with it. Proper body language means standing up straight, not leaning into her, and making and never breaking eye contact. I can approach a girl, an just from her eyes I can tell she if she is interested or not. Just in that split second where we make eye contact and hold it, means she wants me to approach her. A womans eyes will tell you everything you need to know. Her body is important as well. Is she crossing her arms? Is she tapping her foot? Is she looking away? ALL bad signs. The opposite is true. Is she leaning into you? Is touching you and playfully hitting you? Is she laughing at everything you say, even when its not funny? Good signs. In this game, your mind and ego are your worst enemy. Your ego will prevent you from making any progress with a woman, because youre afraid that she doesnt like you. Your ego doesnt want you to get your feelings hurt. While your mind is trying to come up with excuses why you shouldnt talk to her. As men were quite good at coming up with reasons why things wont work. Were logical beings. While women are emotional beings. In a mans mind he is just coming up with reasons why a woman shouldnt be approached. *she looks mean. She looks busy. She wouldnt like me anyway.* The physical reaction that your body receives from your ego and your mind, is called hesitation.
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While youre busy coming up with reasons why you shouldnt approach her, she is getting away from you. The more you think to yourself, the father she is walking away from you. Until she gets out of your grasp completely. This is the sad reality of all men all over the planet. Just having the balls to get rejected and move on, puts you into a whole other league of men. There is no such thing as looking like an idiot, when talking to womenMost men cant talk to women period, theyre too afraid. But there is a such thing as looki ng like a coward. A coward lets what he wants go past him, without taking action. Just by approaching you will have more success, than standing around doing nothing. Sounds obvious right? Because it is. The more doors you knock on, the more will open for you. But first, you need to get out of your head and into the world. In the real world, you only have a split second to get what you want before it gets away from you. Stop thinking, and just do it.What is the worst that can happen, she doesnt like you? So what. Its not a big deal. You have to learn somehow, and lucky for you the next girl knows nothing about you. That means you have a blank slate, and show her why youre awesome. When I was first starting off, I learned very quickly that to address women in a logical manner is automatically failure. If you want to get anywhere you have to address her emotionally. Make her laugh, give her a good time, be playful. I realized that all the immature games that you used to play in elementary school, are a perfect way to get her into the mood that you want her in. Play thumb war with her, play slaps-you know the game where she puts her hands on top of yours and you slap them. NO other guy does this to women, theyre too busy thinking about what to say. Just being that friendly guy who just wants to play with her and tease her, then find about what makes her special..Is a magical combination. There isnt a perfect line, or perfect ice-breaker. Just show her a good time, without coming off like you want something from her. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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How do I get a girl to engage in better conversation than just like the "hi, how are you" and get her interested in me
Youre thinking too much about it. Its funny because guys are able to talk to their friends, and even less attractive women without a problemBut when they get around beautiful women they freeze up. If you run out of things to say it means that you are too invested in what she may think of you. Youre too busy trying to not get rejected, that you forget that that the woman that youre talking to is just as nervous as you are. I think a breakthrough for me was realizing that women are just as self-conscious as men are. Women and men get nervous equally the same. When you approach a woman she may be as shy as you areBut she is rooting for you to be successful. Women dont like rejecting people, especially if they have high self-esteem. Women want you to winThey want you to sweep them off their feet. Women want you to save them from all the boring, stale men in their lives. When you walk up to her she is secretly praying that youre going to take control. So be that guy.. You MUST take control of the interaction because a woman isnt. As a man you must develop the balls to go after what you want. Dont worry about getting rejected, looking like a fool, or creeping her out. Approaching women is absolutely a natural process. A lot of guys have this built up guilt in themselves that they believe that showing their sexuality is somehow a bad thing. Society teaches us that we should all be good little boys who behave ourselves and maybe then a woman will find her way into our lives. Listen, Ive been in the game for a while now.and I can ensure you that if you dont get this area of your life handled it will ruin a lot of good opportunities for you. Now I can teach you a bunch of clever lines and techniques-and I will. But ultimately you have to understand that it isnt the line or the technique that is going to get you the girl. Why? because when you say something that isnt coming from a genuine place then its going to come off as unauthentic. Women are pros at judging rather a man has his game together, and a man that is faking in order to impress her. You know, some of the advice I give is nt just to be better at womenI give advice that is going to help you in life. Some of the principles are going to help you be successful at whatever you do. So there are two principles that I want to give you that will help you get started.
1. Stop thinking.Just go off instinct. A large problem I see in guys when I take them out is that they think too much. As men were logical creatures who like to rationalize our actions. That may help you in other areas of your life but it wont help you with women. Shut off your logical thinking mind and log into your emotional mind. Women,men, everybody is addicted to emotions. Feeling good is a high, just like smoking weed or any other drug. Women are emotional beings. Women connect to other people through their emotions not logic. So trying to approach her from a logical standpoint is a waste of time. You cant convince a woman to like you. Attraction is an emotional response. The women you do have to convince to like you, are women you dont wantTrust me. Youre trying to convince her to have sex with you, and normally she is trying to get something from you Usually your money. So understand that every approach must be charged with emotion. You have to make women feel good.This sounds obvious but sometimes these obvious things get overlooked by men who think about it too much. Your only goal when you meet women is to have fun. Period. Girls want to have fun, this is a cliche that is true. If you come across as a conservative person who takes everything seri ously, youre not going to get
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anywhere with women. What I like to do is play little games to make the interaction playful when I first approach. Silly thingsThumb war, slaps -you know when you place your hand on top of hers and she slaps them. It sounds sillyBut youre accomplishing two things First youre separating yourself from 99% of men who come up to her and approach her logically. Most men are boring as fuck.Trust me. You dont even have to few them as competition. Second, youre showing her that youre not going to take anything personally.Youre just a fun personEven a little immature..But it is cute. Its a boyish-like charm that is going to attract her. Now Im not saying to act like a complete goof, Im only saying that youre using playfulness to disarm her from thinkingIf you allow a women to think, she is only going to come up with reasons why she isnt attracted to youeven though in fact she is. Once you start down a logical path with women you pretty much blown yourself out. If you engage her emotionally she wont have any reason to come up with any objections because she is having too much fun. Just like a roller coasterYou may not enjoy all the dips and curves on the track, but if its going too fastYou wont have time to react anyway. Now this is only a startBut I cover how to create attraction in my book The Lyceum.. Which comes out in February, 2014.
2. When you talk to a woman your objective is to find out something interesting about her Stop viewing women as sexual objectsTheyre people. The guys who approach girls with sex on their mind almost always get rejected. Why? Because theyre coming from a frame where they are trying to get something from women. sex. This is very different from coming off playful and having sexual undertones. You should show women that you are a sexual being, but you must also show them that you have other sides to you as well. This is where most guys get caught up and fail. You should approach women with playfulness mixed with curiosity, and that is it. Women want to know that theyre good enough for you. Yeah, she may be pretty.But what else does she have to offer you? What makes her special? More importantly how is this woman going to enhance your life? Dont compliment her on her looks or somet hing superficial, only compliment her on who she is.not what she looks like. This is another cliche that is true, you know that you have to get to know each other. You can only reach this level after you have created attraction, because if you go up asking her boring interview questions youre going to turn her off, right? After you get her to invest in you then you can qualify her to see if she is a girl that you want to get to know. If she isnt then you can tell her that it was a pleasure to meet her, and move on.Even having the ability to walk away from a woman is attractive because it sub-communicates to her that you have other women in your life and you have value. If she isnt compatible with you then its okay to walk away because she doesnt have what youre looking for. It doesnt matter if she is pretty or notThis is what it means to have standards. Most people confuse what actually having standards actually isSince we live in a society that is ran based solely on insecurities, we tend to view standards as something physical..Which is fair. You should only approach women who turn you on..That is absolutely fine. But it isnt a self-esteem boost to her if she knows that the only reason you like her is because you think she is prettyIts selfishJust like a woman being into a guy just because he has money or whatever. Theyre both two sides of the same coin. Both views are superficial and unfulfilled. Having standards is more than just preferring women who look a certain way, its about preferring women who act a certain way as well. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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What's going on Rhay. You said that one of that best advice you ever had is " you are enough" every time I try to apply that especially when I try to a girl my insecurity always take over. What I'm trying to ask is there a way to control your insecurity or fear when talking to a girl?
The fear is always going to be there, there is nothing you can do about it. Were genetically wired to fear what we feel is uncertain, its called the flight or fight response. You will always feel uncertainty with women initially, because you dont know where the interaction is going to go. It can be positive or it can be negative. The one thing that makes a guy good with women is that he doesnt let that feeling of uncertainty prevent him from taking action. If you let uncertainty prevent you from going after what you want, then you will not only be terrible with womenBut you will never get anything quality out of life. Anything of quality is going to give you the feeling of uncertainty when you go after it. No matter if its a beautiful woman that youre attracted to, or a job that youre applying for. All of it is going to require a high level of courage to obtain. You have to be willing to put yourself out there and be vulnerable. The reason why your interactions arent going the way you want to is because youre unable to be vulnerable. Youre unwilling to risk being rejected to protect your ego. Your ego will naturally cause you to fail because it is highly in vested in other peoples opinion of it. If youre about to put yourself into a situation that may cause you to be rejected, your ego will naturally put your guard up so that you avoid being hurt. Your ego will come up rationalizations as to why you shouldnt approach a girl it will tell you that; "Maybe she is busy..Dont bother her" or this is classic Your ego tells you She looks like a bitch..Dont talk to her How can a woman you dont even know be a bitch? Its silly. Your ego is good at coming up with rationalizations for why you shouldnt do something And it will come up with ways to comfort you when you do fail. It will be that little I told you so voice in the back of your mind when you get blown out by a girl. Your ego will NEVER take responsibility for anything, if something bad happens to you then you naturally dont want to admit to yourself that it may be your fault that it happened. Your ego is never happy with anythingand since it isnt happy it will seek self-esteem from everything that is outside it. The reason why most guys fail with women is because they make the girl responsible for their happiness. Instead of going up to women and just enjoying the interaction, they go up to women trying to get something from them. They want to get laid..They want to get a number Theyre not even focused on finding out who the woman theyre talking to is Theyre just focused on themselves, and getting what the ego needs in order to feel good about itself. The woman doesnt even matter to them. An insecure guy can go up to 100 girls and get blown out by all 100 of them, why? Because he is using women for happinessHe needs a woman to make him happy-which is unattractive and needy. He wont be happy with himself until he gets a woman, which is why he doesnt get any women. Its a never ending cycle of insecurity. Even if that guy does get into a relationship, what type of woman do you think he is going to attract? .Women who are just as needy and clingy as he is And he will hate her, and will settle for herAnd she will settle for him. Welcome to the american nightmare. This is why most marriages end up in divorce, and most relationships dont last a month Theyre filled with needy people who need a relationship or the attention from the opposite sex to feel validated. They will never be happy because they believe happiness comes from something outside of themselves.
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So my advice Tell your ego to shut the fuck up, and even if do get rejected that doesnt mean there is something wrong with you. You will get rejected and you will get rejected a lot But dont let your ego get involved because you will start to actively hate yourself Then you will start to make up all kinds of excuses as to why you fail, rather than taking responsibility. You will start to blame the car you drive, how much money you have, and most commonly the way you look Your ego will continue to tell you that youre not enough to be successful. This is what I mean by you are enough. You are enough. Allow yourself to be vulnerable, put yourself on the line and go for what you want with everything that you have inside of you.. No matter what it is.. A beautiful woman, a degree, whatever.. and if you fail, pick yourself up and start over. This process is the equation to success. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Hey Rhay, how's it going. Just curious, how do you know if a girl is interested in you or not after awhile knowing each other, like, are you able to tell besides them blatantly telling you?
Its called social intuition. You pick up this skill after youve spent enough time with women. There is something called vibe, and when the chemistry is right you can just feel it. Do you remember back in elementary school-before everything got all weird in middle school-when boys and girls flirted with each other on the playground? Its a natural way of flirting where boys would tease girls and pull their hair. You knew that a girl liked you when she responded playfully as well. Its no different now.except all the social conditioning that we receive makes us self-conscious. Its all a lie Most guys look the game the wrong way.They believe they have to try and impress a woman into liking them. When you were thirteen years old did you try to trick a woman into liking you because of your cash or your car? No-mainly because you old enough- but its deeper than that. When you were younger you couldnt rely on those things to get the girl. You used jokes to make her laugh.and somehow after a process you didnt understand that ended up being the moment you received your first kiss. She liked you because you were fun. What boys lose when they grow up is their ability to have fun. Most guys are so self-conscious that they forget the process that worked for them when they were younger. I can tell you upfront that I may come across as a serious guy-which I can be at times- but Im a naturally playful person. I can be cool and laid back, yet I can be a source of vitality and warmth. You need that type of depth to your character. People want to be around me because they know that theyre going to have a good time. You have to get that child-like energy back. Most men who are naturally good with women are just boys who never grew up completely, so they still retain their boyish charm. Even some of the 21st century seducers carry this duality to their personality. Look at a book like Fifty Shades of Grey. Even a serious character like Christian Grey still has this complex. One moment he can be serious, and the next he can be playful. A conservative attitude by itself will get you absolutely nowhere. When you speak to a girl youre probably so self-conscious that youre not even listening to what she is saying..Youre too worried about doing something wrong and losing her. How can you like her if youre scared of her? Most guys want girlfriends for the wrong reasons. They dont want womenThey want to be seen with women for insecurity issues. See the problem here? Stop worrying about if she likes you or notand just give her a good time. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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"To get the girl, you have to be willing to lose her." Rhay, I follow your twitter religiously. PLEASE ELABORATE.
You have to be willing to walk away. Its not because you dont love her, its to show her that you value yourself and youre just not another boy toy which she can use whenever she wants. You give her the emotion of sadness, loneliness, and fearThe fear of losing you. Hell in her mind must be the thought of never seeing you again. Heaven must be the thought of being able to be with you forever. Both options must be in your hands, and she must know that at any point you can exercise either. This is the dark side of seduction. Love isnt some cute, fuffy thing. Neither is desire. Desire is the feeling that if you had something your life would be better. But the moment between having it, and not having itIs pretty damn painful. Love is pain. Many times if you can make a girl hate you, you can make her love you. There is a thin line between the two emotions. If she fears losing you, she will do whatever it takes to make sure you stick around. The more emotions you can take a woman through, the more she will value your presence. Why? Because emotions are stronger than logic. When we feel emotions we tell ourselves that they are important. Even the negative emotions, especially the negative emotions. The pleasure of succumbing to emotion is stronger than rationally thinking about the consequences. We dont think about the consequences, we just do.We react. We dont think about may happen in the future, that doesnt matter. What matters is now. What is in the present is seen much clearer, than whats in the distant horizon. If you ever take a philosophy class you will learn about the value of appearances vs. reality. Most famously demonstrated by Socrates in his debate against the sophist Protagoras. If you ever take a physiology class, you will also learn about a concept called push-pull. In seduction, if you take a woman through an array of awesome emotions, then take them away without warning. She will pursue you, and do whatever it takes to get them back. If you do this cycle repeatedly she will grow dependent on you emotionally because you are the gate keeper to her happiness. You can either give her happy emotions, or you can take it away. She will love you for giving her strong emotions, but she will hate herself for loving you. Or to put in more perspective, she will hate herself for allowing you to have so much power. The thing is, she will hate and admire you at the same timemaking her love you more until she figures you out. She must never figure you out, or the game will be over. You must be a challenge, always unpredictablebut lovable. This will lead to wilder sex, in which she will try to conquer you physically because she cant affect you mentally. Angry sex is the best sex. In every seduction there must be negative and positive emotions present, or its not a seduction. There is also a term in physiology called fractionation which is similar to push-pull. In which if you take a woman through powerful emotions, and pull backThen take her back through those emotions she will feel them stronger. For our purposes we want the emotion of love and hate. Now Im not telling you all this information in order for you to misuse women, or manipulate them. That is just sick. I know a lot of dudes who are misogynists who use the game of seduction to hurt girls. This shows how weak they are internally, and they use the pleasure of hurting people in order to cover up another void in their lives. This information should be used sparingly. Youre not out to hurt people. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Hey Rhay, I've been following you for like 3 years now and I always see you giving out great advice, hopefully you can guide and give me some advice with my problem, I'm a freshman in college now, I want to find the right woman and I've seen a few women that I'm definitely interested in but the problem is I can't seem to get the confidence to reach out and talk to them and get to know them, its like I have stage fright in the moment and I also have the fear of rejection lingering over me, help?
There is no such thing as failure. If you walk up to a girl and you get rejected, you didnt failIt just means youre learning the tools to be successful in the future. I call it a win-win situation instead of a win-lose situation because you cant failYou can only get better. Even if you get rejected 100 times in a row..It doesnt mean you failed 100 times, it only means you learned how to not do something 100 times in a row. its only trail and error until you get to what does work. Things arent going to get easier for you so stop wishing that they are. If you want anything in this world to go your way then you must be able to barrel through rejection. Matter of fact dont even worry about being rejected. Understand that when you feel fear and proceed anyway, it means that youre growing as a human being. Dont worry about looking like an idiot.What is looking like an idiot? Most guys cant even go up and TALK to a girl period. Theyre too scared. So by just facing your fears puts you in an elite class of men who are ready to accept responsibility of their lives. Most menArent menTheyre just boys pretending to be men. Being a man takes courage. Courage in of itself is attractive because it shows youre not willing to sit and watch opportunities pass you by. Also learn how to take responsibility for everything. Most guys who get rejected always blame the woman. They say Oh she was a bitch.NoShe was just a bitch to you. If you get rejected it is always your fault. Either you didnt make her feel comfortable with you, or you didnt approach her the right way. You will find out very quickly that most women arent cold when you approach initially. They become cold when you start to say something stupid. So it is always your fault, internalize that mentality. If you start to take responsibility then correcting your mistakes is easier because youre accepting them. A man that cant accept that he made a mistake can never expect to correct it. SoJust do it Dont listen to your inner -voice which will ALWAYS give you excuses. Listen to your heart, and be willing to make a few mistakes because they lead to successEventually. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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What's up man. I'm having problem talking to girls . I really get nervous when I see a pretty I get afraid to talk to her because I know I'm gonna start sweating. What should I do? I need help
Here is the thing, we have an imaginary fear that, if we approach a woman, she might freak out and cause a scene, embarrassing and shaming us in front of our friends and social peers in the process. Our ego tries to protect us from being embarrassed, and well decide against approaching a woman to avoid the embarrassment. This fear can be so powerful; it hinders your success not just with women but with every aspect of your life! You begin to see yourself as less of a man, not just in relationships, but in work, school, and every area of your life. And you begin to settle for lower pay, less stature, lesser apartments, and women who arent worthy of you. Some guys would literally rather stay in a toxic relationship than face their fear of approaching new and exciting women. And its not like these guys are chumps. In fact, some of the toughest guys I know have a fear of approaching women. Ive seen guys with the balls to jump out of airplanes, in the Marine Core, play college football, or run with the bulls in Spain literally cower in fear at the thought of being rejected by randomly approaching one hundred and ten pound females. It sounds ridiculous because it is. When you feel any hesitation inside of you then you have to fight it. Even the best men on the planet at picking up girls feel the emotion of fear. The thing is they barrel through it, they feel their fear and they do it anyway. They dont allow it to ruin their lives. You have to understand that this is a critical aspect of your life, and if you dont get it down then you wi ll NEVER be able to get a happy fulfilling relationship with a woman you are proud of having. I want you to get over any anxiety that you have when just talking and approaching women. Its complete nonsense. How are you going to feel looking back ten years from now at women who you didnt approach? You have to distance yourself from all the seriousness that goes along with social situations. Its not serious, its not a big deal. Stop physicing yourself out. Ive never heard of a guy dying from approaching a girl. Just do it. Rejection is a part of life. Matter of fact you have everything to gain from being rejected, and nothing to gain from not trying. Through being rejected the first couple of times you will learn very quickly the skill set of attracting women. You will get better, I promise. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Howdy rhay, I've been reading the segments of your books that you put on Facebook. Great material by the way, very helpful. Additionally, I'm trying to better myself with talking/getting to know girls that I don't know at parties, work, etc. You touch a lot on how to act and things like that, but what about specifics-wise? What specifically are good topics to dive into, say, if a conversation with a girl has died down? My mind goes blank sometimes. God Bless
So your problem is that you approach a girl, and youre able to start a conversation but it eventually burns itself out? The answer is it should NEVER get that serious, to the point that you two are engaging in a debate or anything of that nature. Your job is to show a woman a good time, and to demonstrate to her that youre a man of status. I believe we as men are always looking for the right thing to say, were always searching for the perfect moment to kiss a girlTo take her by the hand without her rejecting us. That moment never comes because were waiting on it. A woman will not keep the conversation going unless she is attracted to you. A woman who is attracted to a man, will help him get throught the first interaction because they want to cure their curiosity about you. Dont be afraid to make mistakes. I make them all the time. The key is knowing how to bounce back and recapture her attention. What you have to understand is that you have unlock a womans emotions, not her l ogic. Her logic will only tell her that youre just like every other guy who has approached her that night and she will blow you off. Dont take rejection personally, it is her way of ridding herself the burden of having ANOTHER boring guy next to her asking her questions all night. If she is a real bitch to you at first, keep on the emotional plan and keep TALKING until you barrel through it. Keep talking until you hit her cord of interest, at that time she will start contributing to the conversation and never before then. Men who are naturally gifted at attracting women know that women dont want to have deep conversations with a guy they just met. If youre at a bar or a club, or any public place your goal isnt to try to spark up an intellectual rapport. You have to keep things fun and light. women love men who can make them laugh, always tease and keep thing interesting. The key to being attractive is being entertaining. The music is blaring and chances are whatever youre trying to say isnt getting across properly anyway. I can tell that youve had some practice already so you already know what Im talking about. Go ahead and pat yourself on the back, for having the balls to go up and TRY. That is the first step of success. You may not know what to say, but naturally it will come just give it time. One method I use is before I go out I stop by 7/11 and get one of those tabloid magazines, and read up on the newest hollywood gossip. Women are VERY interested in celebrity gossip, more than men are. Chances are they will have an opinion on it. It is a great opener. I was out last night I didnt even use any spoken openers, I would go up to a group of girls and ask the prettiest one to hold her hand outAs she did, I would take it and lift her up out of her chair. While she was standing up, and her and her friends would wonder What is next, I would swoop in and steal her seat. The girls would laugh hysterically, and I would leave her standing while I worked on her friends and gaining their approval. Once a girls friends co-sign you, youre in. It is a necessary step or you will get cock blocked every time because theyre not having a good time. I usually engage her friends in the celebrity gossip, and tease them on their opinions. I will give the girl who is standing up my hat, or my drink and tell her to wait her turn and Ill get to her later. If she is really attractive, she isnt used to a guy speaking to her in this tone. She will complain, and Ill tease her as well for being impatient. Her
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friends will laugh, because theyre used to every guy coming up kissing the pretty ones ass. This way you disarm her, and her friendsBecause youre not trying to pick her up. So they dont have to protect her. As I win over her friends, Ill turn and tell them that Ive been ignoring her friend and that I have some interesting things to talk to her about. The friends who love me, will be more than willing to help me. BamIm alone with the girl, and Im able to get personal, and tease her directly. In this position, I have power. Ive conveyed that Im not the stereotypical boring guy, who she has to reject immediately. Youll notice that she will be a lot more warmer, and open to being picked upCompared to me going up directly and asking her boring ass questionsand trying to get into a deep conversation. Stay away from interview questions.TEASE HER, if she tries to ask you questions. Answer her questions with a sarcastically if you have to. If she asks you how old you areTell her to guess..Keep things challenging for her. Girls LOVE men who are challengesBecause most guys come to club with their balls in a plastic bag, and hand them to whatever pretty girl they see. I have HUNDREDS of openers, Ive been doing this for years. If you want more just inbox me. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Hey man I was wondering how would you go about picking up girls on things like spring break or places like Vegas, where everyone is drunk and parting if you weren't the best looking guy how do you make a perception of yourself to make yourself look better
What you have to understand is a woman isnt rejecting you as a person, she is rejecting your approach. Never take one approach too personal. Rejection isnt an attack on your character. A woman barely even knows you, how can she know if you are an awesome guy unless you show her with your personality? Your looks, car, money, or whatever else youre insecure about is irrelevant. If a woman isnt attracted to you, then trust meNo amount of money or material/physical attributes can help you change her mind. A problem that is widespread is that men feel the need to qualify themselves, and prove themselves to women. When in fact attraction derives in this current society from what challenges us. Women want to know that YOU have standards, and in return subconsciously you meet hers. Qualify her, only compliment her on something she has earned not something she is born with. That means only complimenting her on her passions, ambitions, her skills as a woman. Anything about her physical body only puts you into the same category as the rest of the fools who told her that she is sexy and begged to buy her a drink. Its not because she dislikes you for being a man, and appreciating her body. Its the fact that you are coming off as a desperate pervert who lacks any sort of charisma, wit, or personality. You must separate yourself from the rest of the pack. You must be a man of value, and you show her that you are a valuable person by giving to her emotionally without taking. When you give without necessarily wanting anything in return, you open yourself up to receive. Your objective is to give her a good time, not ask her a thousand questions like an interview and create a serious non-entertaining vibe. When you ask her personal questions without her being attracted to you, you only make her defensive walls go up. You arent giving you are taking away from her. Our natural responsive is to become irritated, and annoyed. Why should she answer anything you have to say? Why should she take time our of her day to respond to you, when she doesnt even know you? Its repulsive. Imagine the most repulsive girl mentally you can tugging on your shirt all night at the bar asking you questions. Get my point? Your ability to make her laugh, and tease her and break her defensive wall she puts out to weed out all the losers will help you awesome with women. There is no such thing as failure, only information. How you interpret it is totally up to you. You can either look at failure in a depressing way, and beat yourself up. Or you can pat yourself on the back for actually having the courage to approach women and how can that experience help you in the future. You have everything to lose by not trying, and everything to gain by taking risks. Remember a woman isnt rejecting you, she is rejecting how you are coming across. It is your job to show her how awesome you are. Do it for yourself, it isnt about picking up women and sleeping with them. It is about opening yourself up to new experiences and stepping out your comfort zone. Your own brain can be your greatest ally, or your worst enemy. The longer you think logically about attracting a woman, the higher your chance of failure is. You have to stop thinking about getting results and just focus on giving woman a good time. The problem with most men is that they are too worried about the outcome of an interaction. They let their ego get in the way of their success. Your ego is there to protect you from experiencing pain. If you are constantly worried about being rejected, and the embarrassment that you will feel after rejection you hamper your ability to live for the moment. You will hesitate and your hesitation will cause you to make more mistakes than your boldness will. Trust me women can tell if youre desperate or not. They see you are standing on the wall with your friends preying on women. They see you walking back and forth nervously. They giggle about it with their friends about how lame you are. If you act lame, you are lame. Your
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brain constantly needs congruence. So if you behave physically like a man with low self-esteem then your body will respond and you will feel low-self esteem. And what are the signs of a man with low self-esteem in a club/bar setting? Examples; Standing against the wall with your friends scanning for women like a desperate wolf pack Talking about getting women with your friends, and criticizing and giving him feedback. That will only bring the vibe down. Going to the bathroom, when you really dontBefore you talk to anybody. Or playing with your phone. Getting drunk before you talk to people because you lack confidence. Standing in a corner while everyone else is enjoying themselves. Using corny pickup lines. Dressing sloppy. I want you to think of your environment as if it were a gas leak, and your thoughts and insecurities are the matches to your own destruction. I have the two second rule. If you see a woman you like approach her without hesitation. If you give yourself reasons to be afraid, you will be fearful. Dont worry about being rejected, it isnt the end of the world. Just enjoy yourself man. Good luck. Make sure to read my book, it explains all this in detail. Where to meet women. How to dress. How to approach. Mistakes to avoid. Everything. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Hey Rhay, how do you determine if a girl finds you attractive by her behavior around you and towards you ?
If you have to ask yourself if she likes you or not, then you are going in the wrong direction. An Alpha male doesnt ask himself these questions, only a man who is unsure of himself does. If youre insecure even for a split second, then you already ruined the game before it even started. Women are attracted to men who dont hesitate, if youre afraid for any moment about being rejected you will lose. Period. Women respond to men with confidence because there are so very few men with it.Men who actually believe in themselves. Weve got to a point in society where a pretty girl has the power and influence almost to that of a billionaire. Theyve been placed up on a pedestal so high that men give them halos around their head. We brainwash ourselves into thinking the prettier a girl is, the more innocent and angelic. When this is falseIn fact the more beaut iful a girl is, the more repressed. The problem is we live in a society where women have to repress themselves, and show their sexuality more subtlety out of fear of being labeled a slut. The lowest a woman can go in society socially is being a slut. The lowest. Just think about it, a guy has sex with twenty girls he is considered a stud.If a girl has sex with twenty guys she is considered a slut. That is why women play hard to get, and stuck up. Women love sex just as much as men do. They just believe they have to be seduced in a certain way, but its not the way most guys are doing it. Its funny because most guys dont have a clue about any of this. They take rejection from a woman as a shot to their ego, when in fact it isnt necessarily true. A woman can very well like a guy, and her being cold is a sign of her attraction. The opposite of attraction isnt hate, its indifference. If a woman doesnt care about you, then she wont go through the trouble of getting mad at you. She doesnt care. If a woman is mean to you at first, its only because she doesnt want you think that getting her is easy. Remember the stud-slut factor. Its up to you as a man to see through this and continue. It reminds me of a time I had an interaction with a woman I met, many years after I first known her; and she saw me as a totally different person. She asked me; How do you seem so tough now, why do you seem so different. Oh, I know whyYou must get all the girls now and Im like; No, I get so many girls now.Because Im this way. This smile goes over her face, and she tells me.. that makes sense. I could just tell she loved it, not because she understood itBut I understood it. I understood how the game works. Everything is trial and error with women. Everything you do can either attract a woman, or repulse her. It all depends on your mentality. God bless you. -Rhay
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Hey Rhay, I need some help. I know you cant force someone to like you but how could you get some one that overlooks you to notice you without looking thirsty?
I dont know if this is coming from a perspective of a woman or man. Im just going to assume that its a man, trying to gain the attraction of a woman. The first thing that you have to understand is that how men view the world, and how women view the world is different. Very different. If you think in this perspective then you would understand that for most women, life is pretty boring with most men. If you know how to put that spice in their life, and create excitement then you will get her attention..and only then. Reality is boring and strict..You have to escape to a place that you and only her share. A world, that exists inside of a world. A fantasy. The average guy struggles to get the attention of ANY woman, because they find just talking to girls as something grim.a challenge. They see a pretty girl, and they get a sense of fear.not sexual arousal. You have to find any fear in the pit of your soul and obliterate it. Turn whatever fear you have into adrenaline to push yourself into doing what youre afraid of. Im not going to sugarcoat things for youIf youre afraid of women, then you wont get anywhere with them. period. In a way most men are selfish with their emotions because they only worry about how they feel, instead of how the woman theyre talking to does. It might not sound selfish from a mans perspective but it is, and Ill tell you why. If youre so concerned about being rejected, and you come off as so self-cautious then you will make her feel self-cautious as well and her defensive will go up. That is how humans work, we adsorb the feels of those around us and mirror them. So if youre in a insecure state of mind, then you remind her of her flaws as well. Which is anti-seductive, and lowers her self-esteem. Dont worry about your image or reputation if youre rejectedIll tell you this, most guys cant talk to girls at all, so the fact that you did it means that youre in a higher echelon. A man that isnt afraid to sacrifice in order to gain, is a leader. You have to journey outside yourself, and live only for the moment. Youre not worried about not being liked, you know you have worth and this mentality creates sexual tension between you and the woman youre talking toMainly because it happens so rarely.We live in a society that kisses up to women so much, that women believe its almost IMPOSSIBLE to meet a guy who has this type of confidence. If youre unsure of what I mean by this tension, then I invite you to watch any James Bond movie. Watch how James interacts with women, notice how he is calm and always has composure. Bond relies on his whit to progress a conversation, he knows he is the best in every way possible so he isnt afraid of teasing a woman. To her you must come off as if youre a great asset to have in her life.as if sex with you will be the best she ever had. What works is almost being hellbent on obtaining her, not in a desperate way but in a confident dominant way. You have to drop all your fear of rejection, and If you want to be successful with women, then you have to understand that you have to make them feel good. It sounds obvious but sometimes these obvious things get overlooked. It starts with a simple conversation, then evolvesThe first thing you have to do is actually go TALK to her without being nervous. Good luck, God bless. -Rhay.
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Girls seem to only like guys that are strong w/ cars. I'm frail without a whip, how do I go about this harsh reality?
Women are more concerned by the way you behave. A man who is poor but comfortable with himselfwill get more girls than a guy who has everything, but is insecure and always showing off. The value of a man is interpreted in many ways, but an alpha male has always strong minded. There was a survey in 1903 which asked women what they wanted most in a manand guess what they said? "Strength of character" So what does that mean? Strength of character? Its not about wealth, at all. Its courage, confidence, patience, and ambition. Now wealth can be apart of that, and it can create status but its only one channel of status and if used incorrectly it can even be a weakness. So I dont care what your problem is.You dont have a car, no muscleswhatever. It doesnt matter until you believe it does. Something isnt your weakness until you think it is. Now Im not saying you shouldnt be improving yourself, but never make the mistake of believing what you have materially defines your success in reality.
God Bless. -Rhay.
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How would you get a lady to like you?
By overcoming your fear of talking to women, and just going up and DOING it. Women respond to men with confidence, because there is so few men with itOr believe in themselves. They believe that their insecurities are the reason why they fail with women..They believe the way they look, or what they drive is the reason why they dont have the pretty girl..When its really the way they behave that holds them back the most. What you have to understand isGetting women isnt hard, its just society brainwashed you into believing it is. Weve created a vicious cycle where the harder a guy tries the more pathetic he come across; and the harder a woman plays hard to get. the more a man wants her, which makes her want him even less..Its a terrible cycle of Ls being handed out daily. This is the problem that were living with. Most women are already validated by most guys, they need more than just validation from the man they choose. There is a reason why its not that uncommon to see the most beautiful girls with the guys who arent necessarily the stereotypical hot guy. A man with great game, can smoke a man with great looksOr with money. Mainly because he isnt insecure, and he has worked harder on how he comes across to women. There is no such thing as looking like an idiot approaching women.. What is an idiot? Most guys cant even TALK to women. Theyre too afraid to. They would rather stand on the wall, and talk to their homies about their crushThen go home and jack off to them. That attitude will get you NO WHEREand you will be depressed forever..Until YOU do something about it.
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Hey,I got a girl from my school,we know a little each other but we never be classmates or friends. I can tell I like her and I had nautice that she was looking at me when we were at school. She talked to me via the internet last week but now I lost her like she disappears or something like that. What I'm supposed to do ? (Sorry for my bad English and Thanks for responding)
What you have to understand that there is a such thing as "timing" , in a social interaction. Women feel weird about escalating a situation with a man, because they will feel cheap. As a man you must take over to a large degree, because a woman wont. If men and women were equal in this regard then women would approach men, when we know this isnt socially acceptable. Men approach women. She may give you signs that she is interested in you..But if you believe for one second that she is going to chase you, youre mistaken. That isnt how it works. Nothing will happen between two passive people, who like each other. It will be a stalemate every time. Eventually the attraction will burn itself out, if you dont take advantage of it. That is why she isnt talking to you anymoreBecause you made her feel as if the situation is going nowhere. Or you have made it seem as if she must do all the work, which will turn her off completelyBecause you are taking from her, without giving something to her emotionally. What I want you to do is next time you see her, go up and talk to her in person. Be dominant in your conversation, make her laugh She already likes you, so she will do her best to make it easier for you. She may even laugh at your jokes, even if theyre not funny because she wants you to feel comfortable with her. After teasing her a bit, dont fucking stand there because that will lead no where.Ask to go take her to get some coffeeOr if its after school already you can go get some food if you two arent busy. *Never anything expensive though.That will ruin everything* You must be dominant, in every way. Already have the date planned in your head, so youre not making this up along the way. As you two walk to your car *if you have one* , what I like to do is walk an arms length in front of her and hold my hand out behind me gesturing for her to take it. Nine times out of ten, she will take it. That is what turns women onThat confidence. When a woman knows that you are in control, it makes her feel safe. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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How do you ask out a girl that is 2 years older than you in high school. She can drive and I can't so I can't really ask to take her anywhere with out her driving and asking her then her driving would be kinda weird
Whatever you feel is your problem, doesnt matter. *I put that in quotations because its all just a perception. * What does matter is how you perceive it, not other people. It has everything to do with you, not her. If you believe that something is your flaw, then it will be. If you believe that you dont have weaknesses, then other people will believe that tooBecause perception is stronger than reality. People are extremely gullible emotionally, they will bend and follow whoever projects the strongest perception of reality. That means if you come off as a fun, dominant, confident manIt doesnt matter WHAT you drive or if you dont have a car at all, she will be attracted to you. Attraction isnt what you think it is. Its more malleable than you believe. If you can get a woman addicted to all the awesome emotions that you are giving her on every channel; The Visuals *how you dress, is it unique?* The Kinesthetic *how you touch herare you in control at all times?* The Auditory *The confidence in your voice, do you sound like a man that doesnt get his wayare you low self-esteem?* All these are what creates your vibe..If you have a strong enough vibe, it doesnt matter if you have a small dick, no carNo money She will STILL beattracted to you. Mainly because you have worked on yourself to be that attractive. That is what matters.Work on yourself first, then you will see all the other pieces coming together. Now Im not saying you shouldnt be working to get a car, that all comes with being an ambitious man. *which is important, you shouldnt be a loser*With that said, its not the most important element in your game. What matters most is your attitude and mentality. That is what will push you over the edge, and get you the girl of your dreams. Everything else is highly fragile and subject to stimulus *change* and if you link all your strengths to those things I.E. Your car, your clothes, your money Then when you lose those things you will feel like youre less than nothing. When the truth is your mindset is worth more than all of those things combined. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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How would u feel if someone your in love with tells u they want you still but still giving others attention and not you?
Get rid of that person, and use that jealous energy that youre feeling and find another relationship. People get so caught up in trying to love another person, that they forget that loving themselves is more important first. Plus love is a strong word and emotion, and shouldnt be taken lightly. Nowadays people l ust more than they love but since these emotions are so strong they feel exactly the same. You may lust that person which isnt love, but you trick yourself into believing you do. If theyre flirting with other people then your feelings arent mutual either way and you must move on. I believe the worst mistake a person can make is trying to make something work with a person who really doesnt show them interest. Its like the writing is on the wall, yet people will slip deep into depression over it when they dont realize how easy it is to move on. A man or woman who stays in an abusive relationship, dont realize they can have better in their life. They convince themselves that theyre not worthy, and since that person theyre in love with has done such a good job leading them on.. These people stay in that depressing situation. That is why hope can be such a great thing, but if used incorrectly it can turn out to be very painful. The ironic thing is once you move on, that person that youre chasing now will start to chase you. The fact of the matter is youve made yourself too available. Youve made your validation too easy to get. Youre telling this person you love them, but youre not getting that back from them. From my perspective, how can you be attracted to something that you can have anytime you want? You cant..because once we as human beings feel as if something isnt necessary, we dont think about it anymore..Until we lose it. That is why when you know you have someone wrapped around your finger, you stop being attracted to them because you know you have their attention when you want. You only crave it, when you feel you lost that persons attention. So Ill tell you this..Move on. Watch how fast you get the person you like, back May God bless you. -Rhay.
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What's up Rhay? I'm in sort of a dilemma...I want to make one of my good, close friends my girlfriend. How would you suggest I go about doing that?
One of the biggest mistakes men make, is that they start off the game wrong. When you first meet a girl, you can either enter three positions; 1. Friend *Once you get into that spot, its hard to get out of it. 2. Potential lover *You start as a friend, then quickly escalate* 3. Acquaintance * You exist, only when she wants you to* If youve been her friend for years and never made a move on her, its hard to break that cycle. Its first to start off with friendly rapport, so she drops her defensives and feels comfortable with youBut its up to you to quickly escalate the situation so she knows that isnt all you want out of the relationship. Either its by grabbing her hand, and leading her. Or creating sexual tension between you twoBut YOU have to escalate the situation because she wont. Women have been socially programmed to feel they have to be seduced in a certain way, but it isnt how most guys are doing it. Its best to remain indirect with your approach, and quickly escalate it so she feels that she is with a man that she KNOWS will lead her to what she wants. Women dont lead men..Men lead women. They need you to be this way, I promise you. You must be dominant in every way possible, but that is only after you have established that you arent there to be her best friend, or her sympathetic ear. A woman will string a guy that likes her along for YEARS, without even KISSING himBecause she knows that he is too scared to make a move, but his company has benefits. This guy will sit there for HOURS listening to her problems on the phone, when his only ambition with her is to have sex with her. Sounds like a HORRIBLE plan right? Then dont get caught into that web you cant get out ofNow that doesnt mean that guys who wait around dont get eventually rewardedBut you know how the old saying goes.. Nice guys, finish last If you want her, you must show her indirectly that you want to be with her. Just dont tell her that you want to be more than friends, show her with your actions. That is the only way to get through. Good luck. God Bless. -Rhay.
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hey rhay i know you get so many ask. but i need your help. i was with my ex girlfriend for 2 years and we broke up last summer. she cheated on me because she liked this guy from her school. she barely talk to him now. she's still in love with me and i'm still in love with her. she means everything to me. i can't let go. we still talk on the phone, text, and skyping. should i ask her back out? btw, we have long distance relationship. she lives in ny and i live in nj. i go there once in 2 weeks.
she cheated on me = Final goodbyes.. No questions asked. Go find another girl, that is worth your effort. NEVER let any woman disrespect you, or they will always run over your emotions. Stand up for yourself, you deserve a better woman than that. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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The guy has a girlfriend (distance relationship) but he keeps chasing me. Yesterday, we went out and suddenly, he wanted to kiss me but I refused. He tried 3-4x, still nothing. Then he said loudly "what are you doing to meeee (breathing...)". I had to overslept in his house because I live far away. NOTHING happened, he tried many times and he said he really likes me and that he doesn't like his RS since it makes no sense. I asked him if he loves her and he said not really. Erm???? Help:)
Men just dont get it.But you cant blame them. Blame society for brainwashing them into believing they know what women want, but really dont. Some guys think theyre extra cool by forcing things to happen, but that is the quickest way to turn a woman off. Men who are impatient NEVER get what they want.NEVER. The fact of the matter is youre a woman, and you should be treated with class. If you refused him a first time, he should understand that youre not comfortable and should back off. Men usually cheat out of desperation, and a feeling of low self-esteem. Since weak men usually need a pretty girlfriend out of a need for validation, they feed off any thought of getting girls. The slightest resistance they get from any woman offends themBut lets get into what really matters about this story, because it isnt just about his faults.You knew he had a girlfriend, yet you still decided to go to his house anyway and stay the night. So he isnt totally the blame, you have your hands dirty as well. You cant totally write off a guy that you yourself lead on. His advances would stop if you showed you werent interested. The fact that you knew of his current relationship and still continued to lead him onSays a lot about your character. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Any advice on how I could ask a guy out? I'm female btw
Men love to be in control. If you can boost his ego, and give him awesome emotions he will be hooked on you. *I know this not because I ask men outbut because I am a guy myself and I know what works and what doesnt lol* Anyway, you have to make him feel as if he is conquering you, and he is doing the seduction and youre falling for it. Men cant resit the thought of a girl liking themBecause they view the world differently from women. To a man, he is having a difficult time getting the attention of ANY girl. Unless he is your stereotypical hot guy, and even then if you know how to appeal to his emotions then you will have his attention..Forever. If you can make a guy feel self-esteem, he will fall under your spell. The trick is after you do this, you give him all these awesome emotions first.You want to take them away. You want to play hard to get. I personally love women who play hard to get. It turns me on. When Im presented with a challenge, that makes me want the girl even more. Its the thought of obtaining something hard to get that makes people want things of quality. Its not even the sex per-seBecause lust is only one form of attraction, and its temporary. Which is why most of the time guys will lust after a girl, then lose interest after they have sexso what does that say? That says the desire to gain self-esteem is stronger than the desire for sex. If you can put into his mind that you are interested and that he is presented with a challenge, then hold backHe wont be able to keep away from youbecause youre sending mixed signals. Your looks, your words say one thingBut your body language says another. It is a challenge to figure out. God bless. -Rhay.
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What does it mean when a girl says she needs space?

It means that youve failed at attracting her *or keeping her attention* .and another man that does know how to treat her, has taken your place. Dont get too down on yourself though. Use that jealous energy positively to find another girl. There are plenty out there. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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I need your advice, I havent had sex in 2 years, Im 20 years old, Im not ugly or lame I just have been having problems with my confidence. Ive started talking to several different girls during this 2 years but I havent been able to actually close the deal with any of them. What should I do?
Sex is overratedYou only want it because you believe that its hard to get. Men who do have a lot of women in their life, arent desperate for sex. In fact after a while it tends to get redundant. Pussy is only important to the man who doesnt get enough of it. Women arent the most important thing you should be worrying about. You should be concerned about improving the way you feel about yourself first. You should NEVER get down about yourself because youre not getting girls. Women can sense this neediness and they will automatically be turned off by you. You must display a certain amount of nonchalance about the whole situation to begin with. By not needing a relationship to feel good about yourself, you will attract women. Think of the concept of a magnet. A magnet doesnt have to go outside itself to get what it wants. It has everything it needs in its core, so what it desires *metal* comes to it. Its about improving internally, to get what you want externally. If its sex that is the motivation to better yourself, fine. But sex is only one channel of attractionand tends to be the weakest if it comes out of desperation. You dont need sex.You dont need anything. Getting women doesnt fill the voids in your life..You fill the voids in your life, and women come to you. That is how it works. Do it for yourself, and you will see that is true. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Hey Rhay, I need to ask you a question... Wouldn't you get mad if another man had his arm around your girlfriend? Or even holding hands? My girl says "It doesn't mean anything" but idk. Maybe I am just overreacting.
Dont get angry, calmly tell her that behavior isnt acceptable. If she continues to disregard your wishes, quietly leave her be and never speak or mention her again. Any woman or person who blatantly disrespects you to your face doesnt deserve you. Period. Now this applied to repeated abusers. For a woman who does this once or twice in your presence, it may be a sign of something else. Woman are very clever in the game of seduction. It comes from their social conditioning from an early age. They know how men tick, they know how to play hard to get. Women know how to get men angry, it is often a tactic to weed out all the unworthy options. Many attractive women (Now Im not saying all) will show a man that she does have options besides him to create tension. If you fail this test, she knows that you cannot control your emotions and her. By acting jealous you show her that you are insecure. If you know youre the best, you dont get jealous. You may even think its cute that she is going to extreme lengths to get your attention because she wants you so badly. All jealously is, is a button being pushed in your mind that your worth isnt high. For instance youre dating a girl, and you find out that she is cheating on you. Then all of sudden you feel jealous, what are youREALLY feeling? If you knew she cheated on you with a guy she really didnt like, lets say he is ten times worse than revenge of the nerds.. All of a sudden you wouldnt feel bad. You only feel bad not because she had sex, or she because she hung out, or because she was with another guy. You only feel bad because deep down you think that person has more value than you. If you knew you had the value, you wouldnt feel that way. You only get jealous because you believe she LIKES that other guy. But what does that mean? She likes that guy, and you believe you dont have value. It has NOTHING to do with her, it has everything to do with how you feel about yourself. FEELINGS OF JEALOUSLY HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH WHAT SHE DID. That last sentence is critical. It has nothing to do with who she may have slept with, or hung out with. Nothing at all. So whenever you are feeling that emotion of jealously you must be cautious from now on, so you can avoid it..So you can banish it. You then realize that all tha t is going on here, is that youre feeling that she is giving that other guy power. Since you believe she has value (That is why you like her) if she likes that other guy, HE MUST HAVE WORTH. So therefore she is giving that guy value, over you. It reflects on you, (it isnt true, but this is what some men believe). You must be alert to these emotions and pin point the REAL source of the problem, which isnt her Its within YOU, Its within YOURSELF. This is why guys who have high self-esteem NEVER get jealous. Its like the chicken and the egg, why is it the guy who shows no jealously or feels no jealously gets all the women? Some people say well since he has all the women, that is why he never feels jealous.Yes, but since he never feels jealousTHAT IS WHY HE HAS ALL THE WOMEN. Start viewing things in another perspective, it will be awarded greatly if you can break down problems with more clarity. You may want to read my book as well to gain further insight. May God bless you.
-Rhay.
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Hey Rhay, I get friend zoned often. Why do girls friend zone guys? And how can a guy get out of it?
To be honest, once a woman has put you in a friend category. Its pretty much a task to get out of that position. For example lets say you tried out for pitcher for the New York Yankees, but youve never thrown a baseball outside your backyard. The MLB only takes the best out of the best, now wouldnt you think the Yankees would know if youre wasting their time or not? It would be pretty easy to see if you were the rea l deal or a fake. Matter of fact would it matter if you got ANY audition to ANY pro team? The results would be the same no matter who you try out for. Now is the answer to keep trying and failing, or to go back to practicing and increasing your skill of pitch? Now what if you magically a day later had all the skill in the world? Would the MLB give you another try out, or pass you up for another prospect? Would they take your word that youve changed? Now apply this to the social interaction between men and women on a daily basis. They say that a woman can determine if she is sexually attracted to a man in the first couple of minutes of meeting him. They have a ruthless screening method that rids out the impostors from the men who are the real deal. A woman may very well give you her number and a first date if she believes you have potentialBut like I proved in my example, if you get to the try out and failYou wont get another chance. First impressions mean everything. From the moment a girl that you like enters your life, until the last moment she is in your lifeYou must be dominant with her. Its usually the nice guys who end up being friend-zoned. Its their niceness that repels women away. You must not be nice to a woman that youre trying to attract. I know it sounds unnatural at first, but eventually you will come to see that it is undoubtedly true. Women equate niceness to inferiority. You mustnt kiss her ass with compliments, or with gifts, or telling her that she is beautiful. Every other guy in her life tried that and has ended up in the friend zone. When it comes to attracting women, its like the major leagues. You work your way up from the minor and amateur leagues. Its all a game that is being played, where many men do win.and many men fail. Win or lose, its all up to how you come across..Your skill. It comes down to this question; Do you know the game or not? If not you need to go practice and come back. I say go practice on a couple of girls at the mall,bar, or another social spot. Get in the hang of just talking to women, without making all the normal comments about her physical appearance. Just make a normal conversation as a man who is equal to her or even a little bit superior. Make her laugh, tease her. Take all the seriousness out of the equation. Youre taking the game way too seriously and women pick up on that and are repelled by your desperation. Its all a game, so have fun. Getting girls is fun. Woman WANT men who are confident, dominant, and secure with who they are. Above all they want to have fun, so show them a good time. You must look at it that way or you will fail, and be friend zoned. Feel the pain of that now, so you dont make the same mistake.
May God Bless you. -Rhay.
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hey rhay, so a year ago my girlfriend broke up with me for another man after he got what he wanted out of her he stopped talking to her and now she's back to me saying that she really loves me and it was a mistake. what should I do?
Youre a plan B, since her plan A didnt work out for her. To gain her self-esteem back she must feel as if she still has power over someone. *you*. It is an internal crave to feel superior. She doesnt want you, she wants you to want her. It is a power struggle, a battle which you initially lost. Dont get down on your self, because you still have an opportunity to win the war. The answer is not getting mad at her, or becoming emotional. Your anger will only cloud your judgment, and force your hand into making mistakes. Becoming emotional only proves to her that she in fact still has power over you, and BOOM, she is re-validated emotionally and she no longer wants to speak to you again. What you have to understand is that the war of attraction is fought indirectly. You must NEVER tell a woman that something she did bothers you. A woman will see that weakness as an opportunity to push for power. A woman will push, and push until you wake up one day and she is fully in control of the dynamic of the relationship. You must be assertive and dominant, and show her that isnt going to work with you but in a subtle way. Not with your words, but with your actions. Words have almost zero power when it comes to women. Any logical approach to power with a big speech, is only counterproductive. You only show that youre insecure, rather powerful. You say more by being nonchalant and passive with your actions, than with a huge paragraph text rebuttal. Your emotions dont push you around. You dont get angry. This is automatically attractive, because so few men have this discipline over themselves emotionally. The common reaction to a woman doing something defiant would be to become emotional and brash. To lose control over yourself, and enter her world. A woman will expect you to be this way, and by doing the opposite you catch her off guard. In your situation the right action for you is to tell her politely that you no longer find her attractive, and the mistake she made is something that she must live withWithout you. Which she cannot Its not about being vengeful, or doing something out of spite. It is showing her that you are a man of prestige and worth, and that nothing she can do or say can affect the way you feel about yourself. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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What are your thoughts on long distance relationships? Do you think its possible to find love through a computer screen?
There is a whole other layer of trust that must be established by spending time with the person youre courting. I feel men and women who try to skip this process find themselves in superficial unsatisfying relationships. Seduction is a process, similar to cooking. Trust, communication, and physical connection are ingredients that all go into making a good relationship. Its a three step game that has a beginning, middle, and end. Never be foolish to believe that you can skip any of these steps and be successful. Rushed relationships always die prematurely, because they lack the most important aspect; self-esteem. The only reason two people should be in a relationship together, is because they have a good time with another. That is it. People make things so complicated on themselves by having a type or a set of rules that make somebody attractive. What I found is that attraction is something that we feel unconsciously. We are attracted to what we feel we cant have. Attraction is naturally the desire to gain self-esteem. In a way attraction isnt this cute, nice thing. It is the burning desire to obtain what we feel we lack. So if two low self esteem people get into a relationship together, it is out of desperation. It is the kind of attraction that is counterproductive. Which leads into your question about long distance relationships. Two people who attracted to each other out of the thought of scarcity, will eventually hate each other. Why? Because t heyre only together to satisfy their own needs, not their partners. Long distance relationships almost never work out because there is no trust. If there is no trust then you cant advance into deeper stages of seduction. From my experience a woman will always feel something is going wrong, because there is no way for you to comfort her and reassure that your feelings are genuine. There will always be a greater temptation to cheat to satisfy physical needs, that purely mental stimulation cant quench. The only way a long distance relationship will work is if one person is eventually moving closer to their partner. If that is a possibility, then there is a higher chance of it working out. I dont mean to be pessimistic, I just look at things dispassionately and logically. A guy who settles for a girl he met on a computer, doesnt realize that there a beautiful women all around him that would love his company. Another diagnosis is that maybe a guy feels he has no chance with the girls around him, or maybe they wouldnt like him if they really got to know him. On a computer he can be whoever he wants to be, and he can easily create a persona that he can live through and attract women with. This isnt a seduction, its a form of deception. Why settle for a digital relationship, when you can be happy in reality with an equally awesome person? Then again Im old fashioned. I would rather read than watch T.V. I would rather call than text. I love the process of actually gaining mutual trust and attraction. To me there is nothing better than having a high self-esteem woman at my side who trusts me to lead her to where she wants to go. I enjoy every moment that we spend together. Every kiss, every hug. I like leaning in and smelling a womans neck, then gently kissing it. Im not desperate for sex, if I really wanted that I could have it. What Im looking for is something deeper. Sex means everything to the man who doesnt believe he can get it. What I love better than sex is having a positive presence around me. Words can only do so much, until they lose their meaning. Taking action is by far more pleasurable. Long distance survive on communication alone, and the most superficial form of it at that. I enjoy having my lady standing strong next to me, where she belongs. Not thousands of miles away. That defeats the purpose. You cant miss something you never had. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Well since you're helping everyone with their problem help me out with mine. What's your view on masterbation. I feel like its having a negative affect on me, causing depression and other stuff. I know it's funny but it really isn't. Does the penis needs time to recover after masterbation? I know you're Not a doctor but spread some of your knowledge. Thanks
Masturbation is personal choice, so I dont want to sound too self-righteous or politically correct in my answer. My personal views are against masturbation. I used to do it when I was younger but as I got older It was another habit that I ultimately gave up. Ive recently gave up looking at porn as well and Ill get into that aspect later in this answer. Im not against masturbation in a religious perspective, rather Im against it because of how it negatively affects men. Porn is a backdoor as I like to put it. It is a way for a man to get out of the responsibility of approaching and talking to women. Some guys would actually prefer to sit at home and masturbate to the girl of their dreams, than to actually go out and find her. That is my biggest issue with masturbating because it negatively affects a mans confidence in himself. Approaching girls is scary business at first. If youre not willing to stick your neck out to achieve results then you will never grow. If youre too afraid of being rejected then its your ego that is getting in the way of your success with women. Now there are pros to masturbating. First it can be quite healthy and disease free. Second if you dont manually do it your body will anyway, its called having a wet dream. Third it doesnt hurt anybody around you because it is private and personal. Fourth, men who dont masturbate risk the chance of early erectile dysfunction and even in some studies forms of cancer. Now we move on to controversial topic of cut vs. uncut. Depending if youre circumcised or not plays a huge factor on how much pleasure you get from masturbation. *which is another huge debate on its own, and often tends to get religious.* In some cultures circumcision is used to prevent women and men from having personal pleasure. Now everything with Pros has Cons. I believe that the Cons of masturbating outweigh the pros. 1. It gives you a backdoor. In your mind you give yourself the easy way out of approaching women. While many girls will find it flattering that you go home and think of them. It is in your best interest to go out and just face your fears. Taking action is by far the best way to solving all depression and loneliness. Depression is an emotion. Insecurity only exists in your head, therefore it cant exist if youre not thinking about it. Go out and attract the girls you want. You will be living a rich, fulfilling life in the end. You will be creating a life that you are happy and passionate about. I promise that. 2. When you masturbate excessively you risk the chance of falling in love with it. It becomes your only method of relaxation and bonding. When you masturbate six to seven times a day, you will actually prefer your hand for intimacy than an actual woman. You will only orgasm when you are pleasuring yourself, and find yourself not climaxing during sex because youre not enjoying it. While you may think youre superman at first because its hard for you to orgasm after a while it will start to take a toll on you and your girl emotionally. You will start to wonder if you actually like her..Or even women in general, all because youve trained yourself to only orgasm with yourself. 3. Porn. Now while porn can be very informative and pleasurable. It starts to take a negative perspective in
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most mens lives. Some men start to think that sex in reality occurs how it does in porno which isnt the case by any means. Porn also plays on the biggest fears of menPenis size, masculinity, and sexual taboos. Porn makes men feel insecure about their bodies rather than empowers them. The porn industry also gives men more fantasies than realities. A hot pizza driver isnt going to come to your door in a sports bra and give you a blow job at your door. If you want attractive women, youre going to have to work on your social skills. If you spend your whole day looking at xvideos, how good do you think your social skills will be? The last negative aspect of porn is that men often will feel depressed after watching it. You will start to believe that you dont have the ability to attract beautiful womenWhen in fact you do have the potential, youre just not living up to it. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Hey Rhay, first and foremost let me say that I look up to you. But I wanted to ask you something concerning girls/women. What's the best way to handle when your girl talks about other guys? Either on twitter, or any other social network or just to you in general. How do you show her like it's not cool? Or what I mean is how do you let her know you're superior to those she talks about?
Being jealous is never in your favor. What you have to understand is that women since the beginning of time have been testing men. These tests are conscious and sometimes even unconscious. Jealousy is of the biggest tests that women give men to see if they care. If youre the type of guy who is always getting insecure over the littlest issue then none of your relationships will work. Could you imagine if you actually felt the emotion of jealously and acted on it? It would be proof to her that she made a mistake of thinking that you had potential and she will quickly lose interest and find another man. Any feeling of jealousy has nothing to do with who a girl is talking to, or who that girl may give her number to. It has everything to do with you. You only feel jealous because you believe that whoever she is speaking to you is better than you. Youre jealous because she prefers another mans company than yours. It all comes back to how things affect your self-esteem.If youre a confident man you may just find it cute that she is trying to get your attention by trying to make you feel jealous. Especially if she does it blatantly, because its proof to you that she wants you so badly. The less you feel insecure the more women will be drawn to you. Most guys are needy and take whatever comes their way out of desperation. A man that never gets jealous has options. You wouldnt be jealous if you knew that you can have a beautiful woman in your life by snapping your fingers. You would get jealous no matter what a woman did, because you know that youre better than whatever she can find. Depending on how you pass these tests determines how far you get with girls. Now if a girl is repeatedly disrespecting you by talking to other guys. Then you must calmly tell her in person that her behavior isnt acceptable and show her that youre willing to walk away no matter how attractive she is. Youre willing to walk away because you respect yourself. Its not even about her, its about your principles as a man. I say tell her in person and not over a text message or other forms of communication, because you want to get across a serious point. If youre scared to tell her how you really feel then it means youre afraid of what she will say. Youre not a man, youre a boy who cowards. Grown men dont coward. Women appreciate men who put them into their place, because men who stand up to women in todays society are so rare. Most guys deliver their balls to a woman on a sliver platter. You must stand up for yourself or she will walk all over you. If its a small issue, then its important to ignore it. Give yourself time to clam down, or use that jealous energy to go find another girl. Its best to show a woman that you can be affected negative emotionally. Never act on any emotions of jealously. Matter of fact dont even allow negative emotions to form in your mind. Reach deep into your soul and destroy your fears of rejection. Banish insecurity from your life. You have to believe that youre the best, and you should feel that way. Never allow yourself to sink into depression ever again. It sounds tough but improving with women is about improving mentally. Its not about pushing buttons on her, and manipulating them into getting your way with them. The buttons we have to push is on ourselves. Once you feel good about yourself you dont get jealous. Start viewing things differently and I promise that you will see better responses with womenand ultimately better results in life period.
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Would you say its a bad thing being too blunt? Yeah I don't want to drown somebody in compliments, but I don't want to be blunt all the time
There is nothing wrong with being honest, just as long as you dont telegraph your interest too early on in the interaction. Being too blunt early on will only lead to a woman putting up her defenses and blocking you out. What you have to realize is that highly attractive women get approached constantly. From the moment an attractive woman wakes up and leaves the house she is constantly getting hit on. She is getting looked at, whistled at, and hounded by men who have NO chance of getting anywhere with her. By coming on too strong you automatically put yourself in that category of guys who have no clue on how to respectfully court a woman. Its not because she doesnt respect you for liking her as an attractive woman physically. That is fine. The problem is youre coming off as a desperate loser who is too easily impressed by looks alone. That is why being needy is so devastating. If you had attractive women in your life before, you wouldnt be so emotionally attached. Women can sense a man who doesnt have experience right off the bat because of your posture, vocal tonality, eye contact, and your overall body language. If you dont have yourself together mentally you will NEVER get to the point where you can have an attractive woman physically. I believe that your problem is that youre placing women on too high of a pedestal. You should try and compliment a woman on only what she possesses mentally, not physically. When you approach a woman you should be in the mind frame of; I want to get to know you as a person, Im not impressed by your appearance . You dont even know if you like her as a person yet, and youre already giving her compliments on face value alone. Dont you see the problem with that situation? Youre coming off as an inferior to her, not an equal. Do you remember those old Frankenstein movies where the hunchback slave is always giving his master compliments, and laughing and smiling to please his superior? That is how most men are coming across to women. A woman can only be attracted to a man who is equal or superior to her. By not telegraphing interest right away you are putting an attractive woman into unfamiliar territory. She is used to a man kissing her ass, she is used to being drowned in compliments. If you do the opposite and tease her for taking herself too seriously she will be interested in you. She will wonder why her power isnt working on you. She will want to get that power back because it is unbearable not to get her way, because she is used to being spoiled and getting her way. She will even give you back a compliment, which you should not immediately return. Confidence, humor and being aloof are going to quickly become your greatest assets. I talk about all of this in my books, you should check them out. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Rhay, I have a problem. For some reason idk why but I seem to only attract ugly women. Now I have plenty of attractive women but now it's like some don't want me. It seems that only ugly women like me. I've been told but many women I am attractive dress well, funny, and fun to be around. But I don't understand. I am also too shy to talk to a attractive women that I don't know. Any advice?
I believe that you have to broaden your definition on beauty. If youre basing your attraction on something purely physical, then it means that you are desperate. I constantly see beautiful women with guys who arent good looking or necessarily well dressed by the normal standards. What do those men have what you dont? They have a sense of identity. Theyre unique, unpredictable, and above all their not insecure with the way they look. Theyre not actively seeking validation. These men also are strong ambitious people. They dont need to have women in their life to be happy with themselves. By not needing women in your life, you are in fact gaining the skill set to attract them. Stop being superficial and learn to look past just face value. Your ability to see the beauty in every woman besides just her exterior will determine what quality of women you have in your life. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Hey Rhay I have a problem. There is this girl that I really like but I approached her the wrong way and kind of blew my chances. Now she said not to text her and I'm really bummed because I wanted to be with her. I know there are other fish in the sea and that you get stronger through rejection but is there still any chance. I wasn't being thirsty or blowing up her phone but she was being standoffish. Could you tell me a better way to approach girls. Thanks. I'm a guy by the way. May God bless u
These are the questions that every man should ask himself when he is dealing with a girl who is aloof in nature; 1. Why should she like you? Is it because you like her? Is that the reason why she should drop every other guy in her life (that like her as well) for you?
2. What makes you attractive, and what separates you from other men? Are you a good cook, romantic, adventurous, what do you believe is your strength? 3. What makes her attractive? Is it something superficial like her looks, or something solid like her personality. What makes her so special that youre willing to drop everything in your life for her? Some men get so pissed off at women because they get rejected that they forget that women get approached ALL THE TIME. So it doesnt matter if you like her, other guys do to. Women arent just looking for a guy, they are looking for the best guy. The alpha male, the leader of the pack. The man who is funny, confident, bold, and dominant. What has happened here in your situation is that youve given this girl what I like to call the halo effect. To break that down it means that you put so much interest in this one particular girl that you placed her on a pedestal. As if she can do no wrong, and to obtain her you must place your balls on a platter and offer them up to her as a sacrifice to her beauty. You might as well get a miniature statue of her and worship her like a pagan God in your closet. Do you see how unattractive that is? Its unattractive because if you were a man who had his life together then you would have plenty of women. If you were a man that women desired you would have options, and you wouldnt care if you lost one. Yet it is this sense of desperation and scarcity that most men have when dealing with women. There is nothing that is more repulsive than the feeling that someone is clingy and dependent. You might think that youre doing women a service by being attentive and overly affectionate, but lets look at the reality of things. The girl that you desperately want to please isnt a Goddess. She is very well aware that she isnt perfect, so why do you continue to treat her this way? There is stigma in our society that women are somehow superior morally than men. As if they didnt enjoy sex as much as guys do. This message is subtle but powerful. Think of almost every family sitcom where the man in the relationship is displayed as an idiot, and the woman is portrayed as the innocent, smart, and intelligent one. Women are so used to guys kissing their asses that even if youre a nice guy with no ulterior motives you will be blown out because she feels that she is superior to you. You cant blame women for being this way. Most guys are stale, unoriginal, and above all just plain out boringAll the attributes of inferiority.
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Ask yourself; Im I boring? May God bless you. -Rhay.
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What's up Rhay. There's this girl I thought was cute and I told my friend that's a girl that I liked her. My friend is also friends with the girl I think is cute so she told the girl that I thought she was cute and the girl said I was ugly basically. She said I have pretty eyes which was a plus lol. But if she thinks I'm ugly, why is she looking at me when I pass her in the hallways?
Whats up? I believe the reason why youre receiving mixed messages is simple. It all has to do with your approach. She isnt rejecting you, she doesnt know anything about you except what her friend has told her about you. So, what she is rejecting is your approach because you didnt do it with class. You didnt approach her like a man who has complete control of his life. You allowed your fear to turn into hesitation which was your first mistake. You cant wait until a woman notices you. If you want to get anywhere with women then you must take the initiative and make the first move. One of the biggest mistakes that I see men make is that they wait for a woman to miraculously become aware of their existence and take control of the situation. This is high school boys wet dream of the head cheerleader who NEVER even says a word to himBut he desires her from a distance. Distance will remain an obstacle until you close the gap by taking a step forward and getting over your fear of rejection. In essence men have become feminine in a regard. We have become afraid of showing our aggressive nature because the word control has a negative connotation in our society. We cant deny our aggressive nature, and repressing it is unattractive. Yet through the media and watching movies where people fall in love at first sight we have become brainwashed that there is a girl out there for us. A girl who is willing to accept our flaws and insecurities. The truth is that you will be aloneforever unless you get out there and find the girl of your dreams. She isnt going to come to you, you have to go to her. That is what men do.They take control. The ironic thing is women want a man who isnt afraid to take control, but they just cant admit it out of fear that men will use that against them. Bottom line is this, If youre not taking control of the social interaction between the two of you, then youre not allowing a woman to feel comfortable talking to youOrbeing with you.. That is a huge part. Youre not making her feel comfortable with the interaction. There is no reason why she should be talking with you, until yougive her a reason to. The key word in that sentence is give. If youre not giving then youre taking away. If youre not giving her a reason why she should find you attractive, then you wont be. The second mistake you made is that you had to use a third party to let her know of your interest in her. Youre a man right? Then why would you have to resort to playground tactics to get a womans attention. A woman should NEVER have to hear from a third party that you like her. You might as well leave a note on her desk with two boxes asking her if she likes you or not. It sounds childish because it is. Now the reason why she is sending you mixed signals is because she has some interest in you despite your mistakes. If a girl really likes you, she will help you get itIf you dont have much experience with girls. Dont expect that to last forever. Eventually she will lose interest because youre not comfortable in your own skin. She is waiting on you to make a move on herSo make it Dont wait. Be a man and take control, that is what she wants you to do May God bless you. -Rhay
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how do you hold back validation when a girl is constantly asking if you think is she pretty ? i'm really need help with this
This is why it is critical to find a girl who has high self-esteem. Why? Its because our perception creates the reality that we live in. A woman with low self-esteem is self-cautious to a detrimental level. It all has to do with the social hierarchy of our current society. A mans worth in our society is based on status. It isnt what a man knows that is important, it is what he can dowith what he knows. A mans utility determines his status in society. A man who displays the most superior traits is the most attractive. This means for a man his attractiveness is much under his control. Its not the way he looksthat is important, it is the way he acts which is what determines his place in society. Whereas women are much different. Their status in society is based largely on the way they look. Because they know that looks is what will attract the superior man. That is why women go crazy about looking their best and it becomes a competition between them, and men go crazy trying to become wealthy..It all has to do with survival and the ability to replicate effectively. A woman with low self-esteem believes that she doesnt have what it takes to survive due to the way she looks. Now this all has to do with the way we perceive ourselves, along with the world around us. A woman who may very well be attractive, may seek validation for her physical features. But that is in a rare case where she believes she isnt pretty. Women like that are not typically worth the effort because they will constantly seek your approval because they lack self-esteem. They will drain your life force in order to be reassured that your feelings are genuine, and prove to herself and to the world she is beautiful. You can never please them, so it is best to avoid them. For the most case attractive women are very well aware they are in fact..attractive. They may ask you for your opinion on the way they look because they know that it is their power. It isnt a weakness on their part, it is just a test. By acknowledging that power you are failing her test. She doesnt want you to tell her that she is pretty. She wants you to resist her temptation, because it is whats attractive to her. She wants a challenge, so give it to her. What attractive women want the most is validation on areas that dont get much attention from men. S he will always have guys who will tell her that she is pretty, but seldom do men ever tell her that she is beautiful for reasons outside her physical appearance. Her mind. Love it, and shower it with attention. Dont acknowledge that she is pretty physically. Treat her as if youre not impressed by that. Only compliment her on her personality. She will appreciate you more. There may be times you want to tell her how beautiful she is.But remember that isnt how you got her. You got her by acknowledging her as a personNot an sexual object. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Hey Rhay! I've just met this girl and we're starting to text each other and all that good stuff, but I just don't know how and I don't know where to ask her if she wants to go out with me, like out to a movie or something
"Ive just met this girl" What do you think is wrong here? You just met this girl and youre alreadythinking about settling down with her? Youre sounding like youre desperate and you need her more than she needs you. Men with low selfesteem settle because they cant get anything else except what comes to them. Youve heard of the clingy girlfriend stories right? Whats worse is the clingy boyfriend stories. Why isnt being desperate attractive? Why is showing her your complete attention unattractive? Its because if you had plenty of women in your life you wouldnt settle for the first one who shows you the slightest bit of attention. It wouldnt be a big deal. You would be selective about the women in your life because you know you have value.More importantly women know you have value and therefore they are willing to work to get you. The average guy struggles to get the attention of any woman, so he sees the game as something hard or difficult. But if you place yourself in a girls shoes for just a moment you would see how boring life is with most guys because its too easy. Women are so used to men kissing their ass that they almost expect you to act a certain way. You have to be a challenge. Make her chase you. If you dont you will get blown out by the competition (The guys who know how to play the game right). If you try to trade attention for sex, you will always lose. Just like the guys who try to trade status for sex and always brag about their money like losers. Just because youre nice doesnt mean you will get what you want. Matter of fact it is the opposite. Being nice puts you in the friend zone. Women dont want a nice guyThey want a gentleman yesBut not a man who is a complete pushover. So try thisDate as many women as you can, never settleIf you decide to give a girl a shot at a relationship its because she is AWESOME and she makes you feel good. Not because she is just around and you guys text from time to time. Have standards man! Standards are at tractive! May God bless you. -Rhay.
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How's it going Rhay? There's this girl I sit next to in class. I recently just started engaging into little conversations with her and she seems like a cool person and someone I would be interested in getting to know a little more. One day, I just decided to get her number and see if I could get to know her a little more. She gave and man she was nothing like how she was in real life, like she her responses were so dead even though she replied within a minute or 2. Idk what to do man.
You have to understand the reality that most women live in. It is far different from a mans reality. Life for most women with guys is boring. Men areboring. Its not because she is a bitch, its just that youre boring her. Some guys get so caught up in trying to force conversations on the phone, that they dont stop to ask themselves; "Am I boring the living shit out of this girl? If she is cold to you on the phone then it is your fault. You didnt make her feel comfortable with you or you didnt create enough attraction. Some guys mistake a woman just being nice, with them being attracted. Its not the same thing. Here is a clueAre you talking at her, and she is just responding nicely to get you to shut up? Or is she engaged in a conversation with you because she is truly interested in what you have to say? Never ignore her body language either, because it speaks volumes about the interaction. Is she leaning into you? Is she playfully finding reasons to touch you? Dont be one of those guys who get sucked into misinterpreting mixed signals. If youre certain that she is attracted to you and she is responding coldly over the phone, and she is still warm in personWhat does that tell you? It means that she is waiting on you to get off first base and take control. Some women dont like talking on the phone contrary to popular belief, but they will respond to a guy they are attracted toIF YOU HAVE VALUE. If you have no value then youre just another guy with her number who bores the shit out of her. You have to be better than that. You have to be better than what she can replace you with. If youre easily replaceable then it is only a matter of time until youre replaced. You have to be a man. Take control of the situation. Dont think that just because she is attracted to you that she is going to pursue you. That is a sign of a man who just doesnt get how things work. Women dont pursue men. Men pursue women. Dont call her and expect her to make the conversation. You called herremember? You must take control of the interaction to a large degree if you want to get anywhere with a woman you like. This all comes around the idea that Indecisiveness is the ultimate turnoff. The fact is that most men dont know what they want, so they rely on the woman to fill those blanks for them. They believe that if they get a woman to fall in love with them that she will fill the void in their lives.No it should always be the other way aroundIf you fill the voids in your life first then the women will come to you. May God bless you. -Rhay
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Hey Rhay. I am a sophomore in college and I am yet to have a girlfriend. To sum it up: Im not necessarily where I want to be in life yet and I have a lot going on with my family. I dont want to bring someone into my life unless I am genuinely happy and have something to offer emotionally. I have put off girls that have been attracted to me, but Im also yet to get girls that I go after. I really just want to focus on my grades and accomplishing my goals, but the idea of having a girl lingers on.
"Im not necessarily where I want to be in life yet" If you feel that way then you shouldnt be worried about pursing women. Work on yourself first, then worry about relationships. Most men have that concept backwards and then they wonder why they are never successful. Regardless of what women say they want, they are attracted to guys who dont need them. If youre a guy who feels like he needs a woman in his life to feel completeThen chances are youre not very attractive. Not necessarily repulsive physically, but the energy that youre sending out isnt attractive. Youre coming from a place of poverty emotionally, not strength. You have to know what you want out of a woman. How is she going to enhance your life? Do you just want a relationship to feel better about yourself? Or do you want somebody who is going to be beneficial to your success? You have to know what you want. If you dont know what you want then youre going to take whatever you can get. Meaning that youre willing to sleep with random access pussy just because it is available and youre desperatewhich is a problem which can ruin your life financially as well as your health. The guys who get the most stunning women, are men who are engaged in their purpose in life. Find what your purpose in this life is and dedicate yourself to it. What do you want out of life? Because I can tell you this Anything that makes you a better person mentally, makes you a more attractive person in the eyes of women. Have goals, have ambitions and never let a woman come in the way of them. Women are attracted to men they cant influence. If you really want to get the woman of your dreams then you must come to the point where you dont need her to feel good about yourself. The way to get a beautiful, fulfilling relationship is to not need one in the first place. You have to learn how to unhook yourself from everything. Most people think they need A in order to feel B. When it just isnt true. The only thing that you need to feel good about yourself is a belief..That belief that you can be happy regardless of what happens. Beautiful women have turned into the highest form of conspicuous consumption. We want beautiful women because we feel as if we cant have themand other men who do have them are idolized and worshiped as having power. The truth is that guy who has a beautiful girl.Has no advantage over you. He isnt necessarily smarter, or even better looking than you. He isnt a better person than you are. What he does have that you dont is confidence. Confidence is what got him the girl in the first place. Confidence is one of the highest forms of self-esteem. Something magical happens when you mix confidence with faith. You feel as if youre invincible, it gives you charisma to the point that you feel as if you have no weaknesses. It sounds toughBut being successful in this world isnt about manipulating the people around you to get what you want..The buttons that we have to push are on ourselves. If you want to change your reality with women, then you have to improve internally. It all starts with you finding what your purpose is, and dedicating yourself to it.
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I'm not anti-social, I just figured out early that high school lifestyle is nothing compared to the real world. Who you worked on becoming in high school really has no significance after you graduate (I'm still in 11th grade). I have yet to meet someone my age who has goals and is willing to work for them like I am. Typically girls in my city are just hoes it's so small everyone knows eachother.. I get along more with adults (18-25yrs). Successful people inspire me.
I can tell by your language that you dont get a lot of quality women in your life. Being rude, and disrespectful regarding women shows that you have a level of bitterness that is inside of youBecause if they were fucking you, then they wouldnt be hoes or you wouldnt condemn them so quickly. I dislike how there is a double standard that exists in society. If I guy fucks a bunch of girls, then he is considered a studBut if a girl fucks a bunch of guys then she is considered a whore. I dont think we realize it but were placing women on a higher ground morally, were giving them standards that they can never live up to even if they tried. We want women to be pure angel-like creatures, but we dont place those standards on ourselves. I think the first thing you have to do is rid yourself of almost EVERYTHING you know about women, because it is coming from a place of ignorance. The second thing I want you to do is go out and spend time with women, ask them what they like, ask them what they feel is missing from their lives. Find out what makes a girl special as a personNot from the frame that youre only finding out because you want to fuck, but because you really are interested in what she has to offer you. Its funny because guys want to be successful with women, yet they dont ever want to spend time with them. You have to stud y a subject before you get good at itIt sounds obvious but that concept goes completely over some guys heads. If you want to cool people, successful people to be around you, then you must become a person who isnt quick to judge. If you keep an open mind, you will get better results not only with womenBut life I promise you that. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Hey Rhay, I need some help with something and I think you'll be able to help me. I know this girl that I've been good friends with, she recently found out that I like her and everything is now awkward and she won't even talk/look at me. What should I do to at least be friends like we were before? Thank you!
"she recently found out that I like her" There is your problem right there, and your answer. The problem is you werent being a man who takes responsibility, you allowed your desire for a woman to be spoken verbally, and not even to herIt was to an acquaintance of hers, who had to tell her for you. Dont you see the level of cowardliness in that? If you were a man then you wont have hesitated, you would have overcame your fear and went after her. There is steps to courtship and they never change. First you must approach, then make her attracted to you. Those are the very first levels of the game. If you cant get those two right, then you will always fail. Women arent attracted to men who sit and wait for what they want, theyre attracted to the men who are ambitious and even aggressive to a certain degree. Its funny because I know some guys who play football in college-some of them are over 200 pounds of muscle- and theyre afraid of approaching a 110 pound girl. Were afraid of women.Not only a physical level, but we want to protect ourselves from being rejected. The male ego is ver y fragile. We dont want to be seen being rejected, because we want to look cool to our friends.but you know what is really cool, and what will impress them even more? Being the type of guy who is willing to put himself in the fire, even fail if it means obtaining the experience. That is what makes a man a leader, and you must be a leader because that is what really is attractive to women. You must become a man isnt afraid of rejection.Matter of fact, he doesnt even know what rejection is. He doesnt think about what it would be like if he fails, he just goes out and gets shit done. Regardless if women like him or not, it isnt going to change the way he feels about himself.and not trying to impress women, attracts women. The reason why she isnt talking to you is simple..Youre not a leader. She knows that she has greater value than you, and you want her.more than she wants you. You already failed with this girl, just learn from your mistakes with the next one. Dont put yourself down, just learn how to take responsibility. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Hey Rhay, I am in a confusing situation. My ex and i have been broken up for over a year now and cant seem to get over it. Through the year Id make attempts to talk to her and express my feelings for her. She would push me away because she was seeing someone else but it was until not too long ago, we began talking and she tells me the other guy is not in the picture anymore and wants us to stay friends, but it is because she is not over what they had. Why did she decide to approach me now?
Listen man, I can tell that youre a really nice guy. That is totally fine, and that type of personality will open a lot of doors for you own the road. But one thing it wont open is a girls heart initially. What attracts a woman initially, is different from what keeps them around long term. Im not saying that you should be this major asshole either, but you have to stop taking shit from women. You are taking so much shit from her, and I dont even know why you are doing that to yourself. You do know you have value too, right? Then why are you acting so clingy? Almost everything that comes out of a womans mouth is a test. A woman is constantly testing you to see if youre congruent-do you have what it takes. If you cant take her shit, how you can you handle her and the problems that you both are going to face in a relationship? You cant right? Women are very aware that they are emotional, and if youre going to respond to every emotional outburst that she is g oing to have then she knows you wont be able to put her in check. The reason why she is treating you like shit, is because you are letting her have the right to treat you that way. Women can be very tender loving human beings, but if you come across as a man that doesnt have equal value as them.Then they can be cold and unforgiving. She will make you wait, wait, and wait for her then when she does find a guy that she is attracted to she will blow you off again. Dont believe me? Then why is she coming ba ck to you momentarily until her current boyfriend gets his shit together? This is why bad boys get laid so much, its because they dont take shit from ANYBODYEspecially women. Its alright to be a gentleman, but you have to also let her know that its coming from a sincere place inside of you and not from the frame of kissing her ass to get laid. I still open doors, and hold handsBut I also dont have any ounce of insecurity when I do these things for a woman. Im doing it more for me, than for her. You have to make a choice. Do you want to be the guy that women say is nice, and gets treated like shit. Or do you want to be guy that women might call an asshole, but are secretly attracted toand that is a test too. Women may call you an asshole in order to get you to give your power away. Once you start to apologize for being a man, its usually when women lose respect for you. Most bad boys are just natural men just being themselvesnot some ass kissing, depressed version of themselves. You need to throw awa y that Bruno Mars Ill tell her how I feel about her, and if she doesnt like me Ill blow myself up with a grenade " attitude. Keep those thoughts to yourself. If you like her then you must show her with your actions, not your words.
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hey man, random question. How would you deal with your girl thinking someone looks better than you lol ? Would you get angry, jealous, or not care ?
The best reaction, is always no reaction. Especially when dealing with relationships. Ill break down each of your options that you gave me for example; If you get angry it means that youre insecure and you feel that youre losing her because of something that you lack physically. This is why most men lose with women, its because they start to feel that theyre not handsome or theyre not tall enough or whatever. All of these insecurities lead to depression, and then self- hatred. Youre not getting mad at her for liking another man, youre getting angry at yourself for not being good enough for her. Every time you feel yourself getting mad at a woman, you must stop and think about the real reasons why you feeling the emotion of anger..Usually it has nothing to do with the present moment or what she is doing to you,but it is a manifestation of a deeper insecurity from your past. Now lets say that you get jealous. Jealousy has NOTHING to do with her, or who she may likeIt has everything to do with you and how you value yourself. So lets say that she does like another guy, or she goes out with another guy. The only reason why you feel the emotion of jealously, is because you feel that other guy is somehow superior to you. If you really felt that man didnt have anything on you, then you wouldnt feel jealousYou would just think that it is cute that she is trying so hard to make you feel that way. I personally would tease her, and say that they would make a good couple. Notice how that response has complete self-control. Youre not punishing her for testing you, you are completely ignoring the challenge all together. Why is that sexy? Because it shows that you know your worthand by believing that you have worth, she will believe it too. Now she is thinking to herself; Why would he say that, doe he want to lose me? , Does he really like me..This will go through her mind, until she comes up with the answer that you are okay with losing her because you can replace her as easily as she can replace you. You have other options, and having options is attractive. Some women will deliberately try to make their man feel jealous, just to see how he would respond to it. Its all a test.and if you get angry, or feel jealous then she knows that youre not the type of guy who she wants to invest long-term with. If you were a quality man, then you wouldnt feel anything emotionally. By not reacting to her test, it shows that you are so superior to other men that it doesnt even affect you. If nothing she can do can affect you, her attraction to you will go up. Could you imagine what would happen if you actually felt jealously, and then you got into a big argument over it? Who do you feel has the power in that relationship? The man or the woman? Any respect she had for you just went down the toilet. I put it like this man, the guy who doesnt get jealous gets what he wants. And some guys would say well its because he has all the women, its the reason why he doesnt get jealous YesBut its because he doesnt get jealousIts the reason why he has all the women. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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What do I do if my girlfriend just left me for another man. I'm feeling all sad about it and I don't know what to do about it. She feels no feeling for doing so, but I still have feelings for her.
The first step is to stop punishing yourself. Your mind is cause of your suffer ing. You cant be depressed if youre not thinking about being depressed. Your mind and your body constantly needs congruence. This is known as cognitive dissonance in psychology. Cognitive dissonance basically means that you cant be happy or sad at the same time because it is a contradiction. Your brain cant sustain an emotion if your body is contradicting it. So for example what are the physical symptoms of depression? Fatigue, nausea, and not having the ability to focus and so on. If you are feeling depressed your body must reflect your mindset. Now lets say something exciting happens to you, or makes you laugh. All of a sudden you feel a rush of energy surge inside of you and you are no longer depressed. Why? Because of cognitive dissonance. You cant be depressed if youre excited. Something is missing out of the depression formula. Your body and your mind come together and create a mindset. They both work in equal proportion to one another, they exist on the same axis of being. So lets say that youre sitting around for a long time not doing anything, then your brain responds to that by shutting down. Since youre not using it, then its automatic response is to go to sleep. Your brain has evolved over hundreds of thousands of years to handle any proble m. If youre not using your brain then you are feeling horrible. You have the ability to blast out of any depression anytime you want, but you have to let your brain know that the issue is important to you so it can focus on fixing the issue. But the first step to reaching that realization is understanding that your body has influence over your mind, as well as viceversa. To break out of depression you start by doing something that contradicts the symptoms of it. Get up, go outside, talk to your friends, go out and meet new people. Once you realize that depression is only a thoughtan illusion that only exists because you are thinking about it. Then there is only one solution. Stop thinking about it. It sounds like an impossible feat but its not as hard as you think. Whenever you stop thinking and start taking action physically, youre not giving your brain enough time to come up with excuses for being depressed. Your mind is your greatest asset, but also your deadliest enemy. This is known in psychology as rationalization. Your brain needs to justify what it is doing, even if it is negative. Now in your situation the solution is simple. Stop thinking about your ex-girlfriend and realize that if you walk outside you will find another woman. It isnt hard to meet people, but your brain needs to rationalize why it is feeling depressed. The only excuse that you can come up with is your last girlfriend, so your brain is trying to come up with a solution. Get your girlfriend back and you will be happy. Even if she did something horrible to you, your brain neglects that because getting out of depression is more important than what she did to you. Have you ever noticed how a guy who really isnt into a woman, will all of sudden crave her if she isnt available? Interesting right? Or how a woman that blew you off initially will automatically want you if she can no longer have you whenever she wants. Its the element of scarcity. Youre depressed so youre starting to give your ex-girlfriend more value than she really has. Youre starting to believe that she is the only woman on the planet for you which is absolutely will lead to depression when you lose her. Because through the process of rationalization your brain needs to justify why it is feeling a certain way. Scarcity has emotion tied to it, where as abundance doesnt. For example an exclusive pair of sneakers will have more sentimental value ever heard of that phrase-than a pair that isnt exclusive. Since you cant have it, your brain craves it. If you cant have it immediately then that leads to depression because youre thinking about it. So the key here is to go out and talk to other women and prove to your brain and yourself that other women exist. Go out and approach twenty beautiful women- because trust me if you open your door and go outside the chances of
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meeting new people are risen- and find a new one to pursue. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Rhay, whats my problem? I only like the girls until I sleep with them. I want to change this. I like the girls that I hook up with but dont let me sleep with them.
Most men in our society dont like women, they think they do but they dont. Its not because theyre gay, its because theyre insecure. What most men enjoy is the validation t hat they receive from getting women, because they believe that will give them status. More than anything in our societyNo matter if its a nice car, a huge house, or a fancy clothes nothing gives a man more status than having beautiful women in his life. Why? Because most men who have those things or actively seek them out, only obsess over these objects because they believe it will attract beautiful women. Women have became a way to judge the value of a man, if he has them in his company or more importantl y if he doesnt. But as I pointed out already its not women that an insecure man wants, its statusIts self-esteem..and its an superficial status because it doesnt matter if a beautiful woman wants youor she craves youIf you dont feel good about yourself, then you will never feel that void by bringing women or whatever materially into your life. At this point most guys will say that they enjoy sex, so that is why they want women in their life..But is that really the reason? Its funny because most men who are trapped in this cycle of self-hatred cant get into a relationship they want, because they want women for the wrong reasons. So chances are if youre insecure, youre not getting laid a lot.. Or at least not by quality women. Most men that I know t hat get laid a lot-and by beautiful women- dont make it into such a big issueand its damn sure not the reason why they like women. Theyre not trying to use women to fulfill some kind of ulterior motive. So what am I getting at? Im saying that the desire for self-esteem is stronger than the desire for sex. Its not sex that drives men to become ambitious Because what is sex anyway? Is it a temporary high? Over an hour or so, its over.. Even sex becomes overrated to a man that uses it to restore his self-esteem, because he isnt just fucking girls.He is trying to find himself throughfucking women, the action of sex is just a way toward that pleasure. This is the definition of a womanizer. Just like a addict craves drugs in order to feel good about themselvesThey want the high that drugs represent. A drug addict may use heron on a daily basis, but that doesnt necessarily mean they like it. What they crave is the pleasure of self-esteem, a drug addict is trying to find themselves through the action of getting high. When that high runs its course, then depression takes over because drugs become they only way they can feel good. So you can fuck as many women as you want, but youre still going to be unhappy with yourself. So you want an answer.Here, you can start with this advice Stop looking at women as sexual objects, and start viewing every woman that you come across as human beings. You dont need women, you only think you doBecause society tells you that the only way to be happy with yourself is by getting women. Up to this point you never experienced a real woman, because you never a decent conversation with one before. You never had a conversation with a woman that you werent trying to fuck in order to achieve some kind of social popularity. Havi ng a special woman in your life isnt just about sex-its apart of it but it isnt the overall picture. You want a women in your life because you want to learn about them, find out why theyre special, then love themBut you cant love women, until you love yourself. May God bless you.
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Rhay, I've come to understand a few things but I'm not sure if it's the right things to understand if you get what I mean. The first thing is it has to be the right timing before it can be the right person. Girls like a guy with money or goals, vision, but then how do you find a wholesome girl who not in it for the money. Two I've learned to never take back the person that rejected you. But idk does it make sense?? Can you help clarify this?
Whats up? Its funny that you ask this question because I was just talking to a friend that Im trying to help about the same issue. A lot of new guys who get into the game arent really learning what it takes to become successful, because theyre just memorizing information. Memorizing isnt learning. I know that the educational system taught us otherwise, but if you really want to get good at this then youre going to have to internalize the knowledge. You wont get what Im talking about until you go out and apply what Im saying. The quickest way to gain confidence is to get results in the real world. Success breeds confidence. Just reading what Im saying isnt going to help you. You must be willing to get your hands dirty. I know a lot of guys who think theyre good with women; but there is a difference between getting better in your head and getting better in reality. So now that Ive cleared that up, I think were at a better place where I can help you. Ultimately Im not your teacher, a dating guru, or anything of that nature. Matter of fact Im not teaching you anything.What were doing is practicing regression. You must regress before you progress, especially when youre trying to get better at women and dating. You must do a complete 360 turn from what society says is politically correct. Because being politically correct means that you spend most of your nights alone with no girls. In the movies the shy nice guy who goes out his way not to offend anybody, gets the girl at the end of the filmright? But every man knows the truth. In the movies the nice guy gets the girl, in real life nice guys masturbate. *laughs* Its the nice guy who believes that he needs to wait for the woman of his dreams. Boys wait, men take action. There is no such thing as a wrong or right timing, that is an excuse. Most boys spend their whole lives waitingWaiting until they have enough money, until they have a decent job, until they move out of their moms houseOr whatever on their checklist until they can find and attract beautiful women. Its social conditioning. The problem is they waste so much time waiting, that opportunities pass them by. The greatest advice I received two years ago, was that I was enoughEven without a car, money, or a huge houseI was enough. You are enoughYou dont need anything else as a man to attract women. waiting for the right time to go talk to women on account of how much money you have in your wallet is an excuseYou dont need any of that shit to be good with women. I know plenty of guys who dont have money to eat lunch, but they are successful with women. You have been brainwashed into believing that you werent enough, and that you needed something external in order to reach your potential. You are the fucking manYou dont need anything to feel good about yourself. You are enoughWomen arent into your money, and if you do have girls in your life who are superficial like that then you need to change your company. Only insecure women are into money because they feel like it will give them self-esteem.Theyre not actually attracted to the men in their life, theyre dependent on them.See the difference? So Im reading your last sentence and it doesnt make any sense to meWhat do you mean by rejection? Because what most guys view as rejection is pathetic. Are you rejected when a woman doesnt give you her
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phone number? If that is the caseEven the guys who get phone numbers most of the time are going to get rejected they just dont realize it at the time. Because what if you get a girls number but you crept her out in the process. Some girls give their number out-or a fake number- just so they dont hurt a guys feelings. Even if you do receive a number that doesnt necessarily mean that she likes you. Maybe she just wante d you to get the hell out of her face, so she gave you what she thought would make you happy. You dont know it, but she doesYou are going to get rejectedJust at a later time. That is why the whole number thing is sillyIts a little boys game that they use to prove to their friends that they have balls. Some guys think they won something by getting a phone number. The number is only worth anything if you get to see the girl again, right? Right. So it comes down to, what exactly is rejectionand how do you avoid it? Personally, I dont believe in rejection. I have to reject myself first, in order for a woman to have that authority. Just because a girl is acting like a bitch, it doesnt mean that she is rejecting you. The whole bitch persona is absolutely normal. That isnt rejection, it just means that she doesnt want you to think that she is a slut who just gives her number out to weridos just because they ask for it. You can almost expect some resistance at firstBecause at first youre only what a woman sees visually. But all of that gets transformed over the course of the interactionSo even if a guy is ugly and I hate using the word ugly because no one is truly ugly its just a perception.. Even if a man isnt good looking but he knows how to make women feel good, then his looks dont matter. Some guys think they need to be Abercrombie models in order to get girls, and avoid being rejectedThat is an excuse as well. If you believe you have to be extremely good looking to avoid being rejected by women, then you are rejecting yourself. Youre basically saying that youre not good enough how you are to get resultsand that you need something else to improve you. When it just isnt true. If youre an awesome guy, even something as concrete as your looks get transformed as well to fit your personality. A man is only as attractive as his personality.. Do you see how all of this makes sense? Do you know how many men actually can do this? Its rarebecause most men are waiting to become someone attractive, instead of being someone attractive. The game only works for a select few men, because only a chosen few actually believe in this..But it is real. Go out and see for yourself. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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going off of a few answers back where you were talking about never giving a woman what they ask for, how far do you take that? i understand where rarely telling them that you love them when they ask for it, and denying them sex but what about small things? if she asks you if you can pick her up, do you say no? if she asks if you can do her a favor, do you decline? if she asks you to play with her hair or to get her a drink, are you saying to decline everything?
Well, no.. You dont want to be a straight dick, you just want to be unpredictable. When a woman cant guess what you will do next, she cant categorize you. When a woman puts you into a certain category, or she figures you out completely then the attraction is over. Imagine it like. ummmLets say Christmas presents under the tree since were in December. You must be a present that a woman can never open up completely, she may get a few peeks here and there to who you are..But she must never open you up completely or she will lose interest. Just like when you were younger and received a toy, to eventually stop playing with it because its boring. Most men are BORING. They offer a woman complete clarity to who they areTheir weaknesses and strengths are spread out on the table so a woman can see everything at once. There is no mystery, or surprise there..Its boring..Now being unpredictable doesnt mean you act like a complete asshole. Some guys take it to the extreme where they lower the girls self-esteem too far. Your job as a man is to make things challenging for a woman, not make them feel horrible about themselves. Being an complete asshole will get you absolutely no where with women who already have a strong identity. You may attract her and gain her curiosity initially, but there comes a point where you stop being a douche and genuinely connect with a woman on a deeper level. The teasing, and playful banter will always be there but you have to tone it down. Because if you tease a woman too much, even that becomes predictable. You can still do nice things for women, just as long as they understand that youre doing it because you want toNot because youre a weak needy man who is trying to impress her. You only use banter as a tool to disarm attractive women, because normally men NEVER talk to women like that. Most men are afraid to tease women because theyre afraid of being rejected. Its rare for an attractive woman to meet a man who isnt intimidated by her. Most women view men as inferior little creatures who buy them drinks and take them places for free. That is why this initial interaction is so powerful, because you walk up to a woman and by teasing her youre sub communicating that youre not trying to impress her. If youre not trying to impress her, then that sub communicates that you must have a lot of women in your life and can afford to act in that manner. If you have women in your life, that sub-communicates that you must have value..and if you have value then she will like you as well because youre displaying all the superior traits of the Alpha. It also gives her the plausible deniability of not looking like a slut because youre not actually hitting on her, youre just having a playful interaction..Even if in fact you were hitting on her, she can chalk it all up an say that you were just having fun..Which is what she wants anyway. This is fucking genius.When I figured all this out, everything just snapped together. This is the equation of flirting broken down. Flirting creates attraction but it isnt enough for a woman..or most women.. After you create attraction, you must build a connection because she does decide to sleep with you she wants reinsurance that youre in fact a cool guy. Again, the playful banter is just a way to disarm her initially, its taking the rug up from underneath her feet so that she becomes receptive to you. It isnt a permanent state. Some guys get so caught up with teasing women that they ruin everything.
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This is where a typical bad boy fails.Because a Bad Boy will lower a womans self-esteem so low to a point where she hates himWhich still works in his favor because a woman that hates you, loves to hate you. The opposite of love isnt hate, its indifference. A woman that doesnt like you, doesnt feel anything for you. She doesnt feel the emotion of hate or love. Ultimately, women want to be with the best.The best isnt always nice or attentive. Women will do almost anything for a man with value, and unfortunately most women are horrible at identifying men who are bad for them. This is why some girls will actually stay in a abusive relationship, because that guy has done such a job at making her feel horrible that the abuse is proof to her that she is with superior person. This pain-pleasure dynamic may go all the way back to the relationship that they had with their father. If a woman felt that her father ignored her and didnt love her, then she will love men who have those same exact traits. Its the same thing with men.Our relationship with our mother defines our attraction to the opposite sex. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Hey Rhay, I feel like you have danced around this subject before but how do you get over the way you look or not feeling like youre a good looking man. Im not the best looking guy but my girl loves my looks, but what how do I compare when a much better looking dude comes around, especially if she encounters him daily. If it helps I trust her I just hate that I dont always compare in the looks department.
Listen manIm going to make it as clear as possible. So you dont get out there and get hurt. Youre going to approach a lot of girls, and guess what? NOT ALL OF THEM ARE GOING TO LIKE YOU.
I dont care how good your game is, hell you can be the best. But you will encounter women who wont be into you. One girl will find you creepy, the next girl will think youre hot. Its all apart of demographics, its the how the process works. Not every girl is going to like you, and that is completely fine, do you know why? BECAUSE THERE ARE MILLIONS AND MILLIONS OF WOMEN ON THIS PLANET. Not every girl that you meet is going to be into you, which is absolutely fine. This is a change of perspective and its going from thinking of women in terms of scarcity, to thinking of women in abundance. The reason why rejection is good is because it makes the process qui cker, once you know that a woman isnt into you then you can move on. Just because a girl doesnt like the way you look doesnt mean its the end of the world. Somewhere in the world there is a man that looks JUST like you do, with all the same flaws you think you haveand that guy is getting the results that you want with women.. So your excuse is irrelevant. Is that man better than you? NoThe only difference between you and him is that he accepted his flaws and made the best out of them. He didnt allow his looks to prevent him from getting what he wants. What most men dont understand is that women are just as insecure. Women have to deal with all types of insecurities. Whatever insecurity that you have a woman has ten times has hard, why? Because in our society we tend to judge the value of a woman by the way she looks. If you go outside before you reach the end of the block you will see an image of the standard of beauty for a woman. An airbrushed, photo-shopped, skinny model half-naked on a billboard. How do you think that makes women who dont look like that feel? Shit, theyre told by the media that they have to look like something that doesnt even exist. And here you are complaining like a little bitch about your height or whatever Do you see my point? Its ridiculous. I dont care what you look like or what you haveI dont care if youre a minority, have a small dick, balding, dont have any money. I put all of that in quotations because its all an opinion, its all apart of the matrix. It doesnt exist It only exists because you think it is your weakness. You must frame anything that you feel is negative about you, and re-frame it. So say that a man is balding What does the beta male do? He whines in front of the mirror like a little baby, and he uses all types of ridiculous hair products..even wigsIn order to hide the fact that he is balding to other people. His ego cant get over the fact that he is losing his hair, and since he has identified balding with a weakness he is going to spend his whole life being insecure over it. Now what would an Alpha male do? He would cut all that shit off because he isnt trying to impress anybody. An alpha male knows that it isnt the way he looks that gets girls, its the way he comes across. A man that has worked hard on the way he comes across can smoke any man that has good
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looks alone. I know plenty of good looking guys destroy their chances with women by having an uncool vibe. You can look like one the guys from One Direction or whatever, but if yo u dont know how to communicate with womenThen its USELESS. A lot of good looking guys have game, and its their game is the reason why they win. Whereas from a lesser man point of view, we may just rationalize the only reason why he gets girls is because the way he looks.
As men, we dont necessarily have to be the best looking as long as we have status. That status can come from a number of things, but its primarily determined through the way you behave. Women are only concerned with the way you behave, the way you look like is completely irrelevant. If you look around you can see this; you rarely see two good looking people together. You dont have to be a Brad Pitt type of guy to get an attractive woman, society tells you that bullshit in order for you to buy shit you dont need to better your chances. Have you ever seen a beautiful girl hanging off the arm of a guy who isnt the stereotypical hot guy? This phenomenon happens more than you think, and what is your natural reaction? Oh he must have money, Oh she must be using him. This rationalization comes from your ego out of insecurity. You try to bring down everybody to your level because youre not getting what you want. You rationalize another man having money as the only reason why he is superior to you. But how about this.How about he isnt a little insecure bitch. he spends his time doing what he loves, he lives a life he is passionate about, he is funny, and he doesnt rely on anything in his environment to give him self-esteem. THAT is why he superior to you, not his money Change your definition of what is attractive, and your chances with women will skyrocket. Its much harder for a woman to find a man that has inner-game together, than it is for her to find a cute guy and Im not even kidding. The greatest gift a man can give a woman is statusThe status of being with the best. The best isnt always the best looking, or the nicest. The best man is determined through the way he behaves. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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How do you know if you're pleasing a women sexually? Are there certain signs to figure out if she's faking it?
Chances are if you have to ask yourself if is she liking it or not, she isnt enjoying it.. Were living in a politically correct world, where men are almost becoming feminine in nature which is causing huge problems in relationships. The biggest problem is most guys arent fucking their women right. Theyre too submissive, and just flat out boring in bed.If you cant give a woman passionate, dominant sex then you shouldnt have sex with her at all. Because youre just making things worse in the long-run, especially if youre in a relationship. Youre not happy, she isnt happy, and the relationship overall is going downhill. NO relationship can last long-term without decent consistent sex. In order for a woman to emotionally connect with youeven love you, she has to orgasm with you and vice versa. She wont trust you if you unless you get off as well. A problem I hear from some guys is that they cant even reach their orgasm with a woman theyre attracted to, but have no problem masturbating to her later. If youre reading thisand youre one of those guys then youre watching too much porn. I blame porn for a lot of the problems that men have sexually. If you masturbate more than once a week, then you are killing your sex drive. I suggest not looking at porn at allif you want to see better results in bed. Matter of fact delete any porn on your computer, and block the websites on your browserIts not helping you. Porn is only giving you a back door in your mind. You tell yourself if you dont please a woman sexually, it doesnt matterBecause you can get off later. Try going six weeks without masturbating and see how pleasurable sex becomes then. If that isnt your problem, then youre not dominant.. The plain old vanilla missionary sex is okay when youre 16 years old.But once you hit maturity then that isnt going to cut it anymore. If a woman doesnt feel overwhelmed by you in bed, then youre fucking like a bitch. If she can find her earrings afterward, then youre fucking like a bitch. Be rough with her, it will be okayShe will have so much adrenaline running through her, that she wont feel anything until afterward. Tell her that Tell her while pounding her deep, that she is going to be sore when she tries to stand. I cant tell you how important talking dirty is If youre the silent guy who just pumps then its over Then you suck. Mix dirty talk with emotional connections as wellMake her scream that she loves you, and tell her you love her back if youre at that level. If a woman loves fucking you, then she loves you. Period. If you fuck her right, then she will never leave you I promise. Tease her, pull her hair by the roots, spank her, even bite her *not hard, but hard enough*. When you go down on her, make sure you eat that shit right.Just like you dont enjoy bad head, she doesnt either. What I like to do is spell the letters of the alphabet with my tongue when Im going down, and while she is wet Ill blow on her clitoris. A womans clit is the most sensitive organ on her body, use it. A lot of guys get caught up into the whole Im not going down on any woman mentality which is a sign of their immaturity. They want women to do all these sexually abrasive things in bed, but offer nothing in contribute. Then a lot of guys complain that their girl cheats on them, and her fault. Its simple.Youre not satisfying her. Take your time with foreplay.Heat her up. Eat her out until she begs you to have sex with her. Women arent like men-who when were ready to go, all we need is a boner, women need time to warm up. I would get into bondage, and ect but that is a little too graphic. Last thing Start having sex in different places Have s ex in the car, have sex in the bathroom of public places I can literally go on and on about this.But I think you get the point.
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So I have been dating my girlfriend for half a year and she is pretty much my other half and I fell in love with her. I know this is pretty improbable, but to keep the relationship interesting (even though it is now), and to spice things up, what can I do? Thanks man.
If you want to keep your girl around, and keep her invested int o the relationship.Then youre going to have to fuck her, and fuck her good. None of that boring stale missionary sex. No relationship can last without an emotional connection and youre going to establish that connection not by talking to her.But satisf ying her. Women want moreThey need moreBut more doesnt mean more dinner dates, and more gifts. Keep your money in your pocket and spice things up sexually. If you love herDont tell her over and overShow her that you love her in the bedroom. A lot of guys get caught up in trying to convince women of their love by buying presents, taking them on expensive tripsIts all ridiculous. Trying to convince a girl that you love her is counter-productive. Women arent like menYou cant reach a woman through l ogic. How many times have you tried to do that and failed miserably? This is why nice guys get caught in the friend zone and stay there, because instead of taking control they try convince the girl logically that they should be in a relationship. The only way youre going to prove anything to her is by affecting her emotions. The more positive emotions you can take a woman through the more she is going to invest in the relationship. It all starts and ends with the bedroom. The quickest way to make a girl fall in love with you, and stay in love with you, is to satisfy her sexually. You can buy a woman whatever you want.But the only way youre going to get through to her is fucking her brains out. Now there are three major areas that I want to cover that will help you spice things up. Remember that keeping an open mind is going to help you more than anything else. Never judge your girl for what she might want to do sexuallyWomen have all kinds of interesting fantasies that may weird some less experienced men outBut if youre the type of guy that she can open up with then sex with is going to be more pleasurable than you can imagine. Women are able to reach ecstasies that will make your greatest orgasm look like a joke. Have you ever given your girl multiple orgasms in one session? Does your girl even orgasm with you? These are questions that you need to answer. If youre doing something wrong then you need to re-work your game in the bedroom. Ask her what turns her on, ask her what her fantasies are.Youd be surprised at the answers that you receive. You could have been fucking her wrong for a long time.and if she is passive then she wont tell you anything. Be the man that she can live her fantasy through. Remember to use safe sex unless you and your partner get tested together, and even then you want to use protection to prevent pregnancy. So what are three ways that can help you? Dominance. This is the problem that most guys haveTheyre not rough enough to turn their girl on. If she is dry durin g intercourse it means that youre not doing something right. This is usually solved in dominance. Throw your girl on the bed, ravage her.. Pull her pants down with force. Rip her panties offNow not to confuse this with rapeIf you have been having sex with a woman for a while then you can increase your dominance over time. If she a new partner then you want to take things slow and find out what she likes. I can ensure you that 90% of women love dominant sex. The other 10% need emotional sex first that leads into dominant sex. Dont be one of those guys who fucks missionary and then he is done.Change positions with charge. Dont ask her if she wants to fuck doggy style, tell her to flip overSay it with force. One thing I do is the door slam.when she comes into your room without any warning push her into the door and close it hard while
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kissing her passionately. It gives a woman the sense that you are pouncing on her like a savage beast. You can also mix in dirty talkTell her that you know that she has been waiting all day to get fucked..Tell her that you know how naughty she is and her punishment is that youre going to bend her over and fuck her savagely. If she is really over the edge you can even call her your our own little private slut. Not in a domineering way that youre judging her for her sexualityBut it turns you on. Any hair pulling, spanking, and roughness is permitted. If she isnt sore for the next four days afterward, then youre not fucking her right. You can also increase dominance by fucking her in public places, or even while youre driving in your car. The point is letting her know that she is yoursand she only belongs to you..and you can have her whenever you want. Now you shouldnt be selfish, let her know that youre hers as well. Emotion. There are two different forms of sex..There is physical sex, and physiological sex. Physiological sex is always the most powerful version. Its not that action of sex that turns women on the most, its the emotions associated with sex. The only time you should tell a woman that you love her is after great sex. Now during sex you can make her tell you that she loves you but you dont necessarily have to say it back as long as you reward her by fucking her harder. Now after sex is just as important as the sex itself. Dont be that guy that just loses all interest in a woman right after sex. Hold her, and if youre still hard dont take yourself out of her and just stay inside of her. Ive even went to sleep inside of a girl and we slept like that and woke up and had sex. In the moments after sex you want to comfort your lady because that is when she is the most vulnerable. If you love her look deep into her eyes and tell her. Eye contact is important in creating emotion because that is what is going to create the emotional connection between you two. If a girl orgasms while looking you in the eyes then she is going to link that powerful emotion with youSo every time she thinks about you its going to make her happy She may even get wet just entering your room because she remembers the emotion that was tied to it. This is what keeps women from cheating.If she is having amazing sex with you, and youre giving her multiple orgasmsThen she doesnt have any reason to cheat. Why would she cheat with anoth er guy that doesnt please her? It takes about for great sex sessions to convert a girl to your team. If youre good it may only take two. A woman will drop any guy in her life prior to you if youre satisfying herThe only downside to this is that she will want to become exclusive with you if youre doing it rightBut she will settle for an open relationship if that is the only way she can have you. You can have three to four girlfriends this way, and they will have no problem with each other. Then if you choose to get exclusive with one later then you can, and your relationship will be stronger because she had to work for it. Now this is some cold icy pimp shit Im teaching you and its your duty to not use it to harm women. Foreplay. Most guysNo 99% of men are doing foreplay HORRIBLY> Most foreplay in the average bedroom is some guy jabbing his finger into a pussy roughly, and pathetic head skills for both parties. Dont just jab your finger into a girl like a little kid ringing a doorbell. Take things slowlyWomen are very sensitive, and if youre too rough during foreplay then youre going to ruin her experience. Now there are two different kinds of orgasms. clitoral and vaginal. Giving her a Clitoral orgasm usually means giving her oral and stimulating her clitoris. If you dont know how to give great head, then you need to learn. The biggest mistake that most guys make is that the over stimulate the clitoris..Dont keep licking it, and if youre going to lick it then do it gently. Dont do it roughly. Every woman is different some women like rough head where they push themselves into your mouth, and some women like it more gentle. Ask her what her preference is. Push your tongue deep inside of her and tease her with. Your tongue is your greatest ally, use it. Spell letters of the alphabet with your tongue while youre eating her out. Blow cold air on her clit..There are literally thousands of moves you can
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use to please her. If you want to get good at doing it, then you should watch girl on girl porn..Women know exactly what turns them on. Now for the vaginal orgasm you can use your tongue or you can use your fingers. I personally like using my tongue, but if you want to use your fingers that is fine too..Or you can just fuck her, which is the best option. What youre looking for is her G-spot. *Make sure your hands are clean* and turn your hand palm up and go inside of her with two fingers. Hook your fingers in a hook and what you are looking for is a rough patch that is usually about a inch in. Now you keep fingering her with a hook motion while stimulating her clitoris. I can even show you how to make a girl squirt but that would have to be answered in another question. Getting back to foreplay make sure to massage her gently to warm her up. Just dont go straight to sex and not warm her up. massage her butt-which stimulates her vagina because the skin is connected, massage her shoulders to get all the tension out of her, and massage the inside of her thighs. If youre going to suck on her use sucking with your mouth as a weapon all over her body without remorse. Suck her nipples, suck the inside of her elbows-which is gold if you havent tried it, suck her neck..Suck her toes, her arch step, bite her toes. If youre into bondage-which I am- then you can blindfold her while youre doing all of this stuff and it will increase her pleasure tenfold because she is relying on all of her other senses besides sight. Tie her hands above her head so she doesnt get looseand give her the best head that she has ever gotten in her life. If you havent got into role-playing then I would suggest that as well. Make her wear kinky outfits for youPlay doctor, or the police..There are literally thousands of role plays you can use to spice things up. Ill be talking about sex in my new Book called The Lyceum which comes out in February and Ill over more advice on this subject. If you want to check it out then you can. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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I love my girl to death and want to be with her forever ! how can I do that lol ?
By not changing from the man that she fell in love with in the first place. Most men change completely after they get into a relationship. They stop being dominant and go to completely being attentive-attention craving creatures. Its the neediness that drive most women away. Even when she is yours, you must make it clear to her that she doesnt run your life. A woman may tell you that she wants to be first in your life, but what she believes she needsIsnt exactly what she wants. I had women in my past who complained to me that I didnt have enough time for them. Some being clueless dropped everything I was doing to give them attention. I did what I thought would make them happy, but in the end it cost me the girl and I learned valuable lessons. A woman wants you to be attentive-dont get me wrong- but they also want you to be distant. The greatest thing you can give a woman is the gift of missing you. Make her miss you and you will have her heart forever. You may love herbut make her wonder if you do or not. Never tell her that you love her except on occasion. The less you tell her that you love her, the more she craves for you to.If she asks you to tell her that you love her, NEVER tell her and change the subject. Matter of fact never give a woman what she wants completely. Even if she is begging you to have sex with her. She has to know that you do everything on your terms..even sex. A man that has the willpower to deny a woman sex in the moment, is a man that is in control of his life. To be attractive, you have to be uncontrollable. Nothing a woman can do can break your confidence. If you want to show her that you care for her, show her when you do decide to make love to her. Passionate-aggressive sex will express your feelings toward her better than your words will. So many people give out HORRIBLE relationship advice. A common thing that people with no experience say is communication is everything in the relationship. No relationship can last without sexual compatibility. If you cant satisfy her sexually, she is going to lose attraction toward you. So When you fuck her, fuck her good. Pull her hair, bite her.and eat her like its the last time youre ever going to taste a woman. Eat her out like the world is ending. Then after amazing sex, give the gift of missing you. Dont talk to her for a couple of days. Make her come to you and you can use bait if necessary-which I will explain later. The more you make a woman invest emotionally, the stronger the hold you will have on her. I occasionally leave shirts sprayed with my cologne (Dolce & Gabbana The One) over a womans house that Im seeing. So when Im on her mind she will have something to remember me by. My scent is associated with my presence. So NEVER change colognes until youre with a new girl *smirks*. Ive had cases of women keeping my clothing for years after a relationship. The point is giving her a new experience every time she is with you. If you can keep things fresh and unpredictable you will never lose her. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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What is Love?
The feeling of losing something that you know you will never have again. The emptiness of leaving a message that will never be returned. Its the pain in the back of your knees from bending over picking up broken pieces of glass and trust. Love is the memory of once being happy, and then being lead astray; A fantasy that only existed temporarily in your mind before being crushed by the strict rules of reality. Love is loneliness. Love is also the desire to have what you know you cant keep. The feeling of having a shy letter returned by a person you admire. The adrenaline rush you get after kissing the girl of your dreams for the first time. Love is the memory of the best time of your life. The feeling of being so high that you can barely even think, you become selflessConsumed in the thought of being desired by what you desireA fantasy that never died, because your imagination continued to give it life. Love is happiness. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Part Three
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Life shrinks and expands in proportion to ones courage. - Anais Nin, Writer
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I always tend to have a problem on saving money, especially for something I want in the near future, any tips and advice?!
The easiest way to save money? Delete all of your social networks. Delete your facebook, delete your instagram, and spend less time on here (tumblr). It sounds harsh but it is the cold reality. Most of the money that we spend isnt on us, we spend our hard earned paychecks on other people. Now you may not physically buy other people things, but if you bought something in order to impress other people then it then it technically doesnt belong to youIt belongs to your ego, which identifies itself based on the opinions of other people. My question to whoever reading this; How much money would you spend if you didnt have anyone to impress? Usually we want what other people want. We want what society tells us we should want. The unspoken lie that were told through commercials, that if we buy a certain product or achieve a certain goal then all of our problems would magically go away. Whole economies and civilizations have been destroyed by the same lie. The most extreme example is the Spaniards and the Aztecs/Incas. The Spaniards who were obsessed with rare minerals spent more money on voyages and conquests than they actually profited in gold. It took killing entire civilizations to realize that they would never find the City of Gold. The whole journey was a fools errand to begin with. Even if they did find El Dorado down in south america, that discovery would have been eclipsed by the next conquest for power. Every genocide in history from Caesar and the people of Gual, to Hitler and Jews.were built off the lie of fulfillment. Millions of people have died or were enslaved on the conquest to happiness and freedom..Which is ironic. It is the promise of happiness that people want, its not the actual getting it that is important. Often those people who actively seek happiness outside themselves, never actually obtain it..What they obtain is a superficial form self-esteem. Its a negative form of self-esteem because theyre only happy once they get somethingThey only feel good when they have something that everyone else will envy them for. See definition of Conspicuous consumption. We live in a consumerism based economy which feeds off the negative self-esteem of its citizens. Were slaves to our lifestyle. If you were absolutely happy with yourself then you wouldnt need to buy anything besides the necessitates in order to live. A man or a woman with high self-esteem poses a threat to every corporation in America, why? Its because that person realizes that they dont nee d anything that society has to offer in order to feel good about themselves, And it is trueYou dont need anything in order to be a happy person, you just believe you do. There is no such thing as an happy consumer, there is only a satisfied consumerand satisfaction by definition is temporary, its an illusion. People are only happy with their IPhone 5s until the IPhone 6 comes out. Billions of dollars are made each year by making people feel inferior. Inferiority is another form of insecurity. A man who feels that he is inferior will do everything in his power to be recognized by those he feels are superior- or to be accepted into the cool crowd. An unpopular high school student is a gold mine for many corporations, because they know that kid is going to spend whatever it takes to be noticed. So the answer to saving money is to eject yourself out of the system totally. The longer you spend looking at shit you cant afford, the more unhappy youre going to be with yourself in the long run. You dont need anything in the near future, you only think you do Chances are that whatever you get in the future is going to be eclipsed by something else that you want in order to feel good about yourself. When does that cycle end? May God bless you. -Rhay.
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What should be the first 10 books you would recommend reading for a college student.
Ive read close to 500 novels/books, so narrowing them down is kind of difficult to me, because They all hold their place in my heart. But considering that youre in college I belie ve the first thing you need to learn is social intuition. During my freshman year I read a lot of self-help books that taught me basic social skills; like how to hold a conversation, how to take control of a group, ect. I even read books about how to read body language and convey it, project my voice, ect. A lot of these basic principles go unnoticed in high school until you reach post secondary education. When youre in college what you didnt learn in high school comes back to haunt you. So if you are a shy person and didnt learn to overcome that earlier on, then it becomes a huge issue down the road when you NEED to make an impression. So I just took the basics of how to master myself and social interactions and hopefully these books help you. 1. The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle. Great book on meditation. Just the first couple of chapters are eye opening. I highly suggest it. Tolle teaches you how to stop thinking. I know that sounds crazy but you have to read the first chapter to understand. Basically, Its Tolles argument that thinking is the source of all pain and the only way to truly be free is to live in the present moment outside of your mind. Your mind and what he refers to as the ego are self destructive entities that create a false sense of self (or pain-body) that is always trying to find its identity through what it has, or lacks. Again, I know all of this sounds nuts but you have to read the book to understand. 2. 48 Laws of Power, Robert Greene. This book receives a lot of negative assumptions. Mainly because the word power has a negative connotation to it. Most people think that power often involves less than honorable tactics of achieving itWhich is fair. This book does have tactics of social manipulation. Greene uses historical references to embody his messages, and then explains why the message is important, then gives a reversal perspective of the counter argument. If youre into history, romance, and tragedy I suggest this book. 3. The Way of The Superior Man, David Deida. What can I say, this man is AMAZING. I think this book should be taught as a course that every man should take in high school. If you ignore every book on this list, this one is MANDATORY. Deida has taught me so much over the years, that its hard to put a finger on which lesson influenced me the most. The Way of The Superior Man is a males guide to taking responsibilityOf his life, his woman, and ultimately himself. Deida is also a spiritual teacher like Tolle, and youll receive a lot of methods of meditation throughout the book as well. 4. Think & Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill. Hill is considered one of the greatest self-help authors of all time. Think & Grow Rich was written during The Great Depression, in order to inspire American people to get back to work. Think & Grow Rich gives the reader an outline of how to become wealthy and successful. It was written over 80 years ago, but still holds a lot of weight. I say this one is mandatory as well, Ive made a small fortune off this book. In allI say Ive made around 40 thousand dollars off following the principles listed in Think & Grow RichWhich is a pretty good investment considering it only cost me ten dollars. It is impossible to read this book and NOT get anything from it.
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5. The Game, Neil Strauss. This book is inspirational for any man who is struggling with women. The Game is an autobiography of one of the greatest Pick Up Artists (PUAS) in the industry. I read this book a couple of years ago in three days, and it is what led me down the path I am no wOf studying women, seduction, and relationships. I got pretty good too, since most of the questions I receive now is advice about women. In three years Ive been rejected over 1000 times, but Ive received over 500 numbers in the process. I wont tell yo u how many women Ive seduced because you wont believe me. If you read this book, there is no turning backYou burn the boats as I like to say. In the Iliad by Homer when the Greeks reach the shores of Troy, they burn the boatsWhich symbolizes that they either win, or die..There is no in between, or turning back. There is either glory or death. If you read this book then you are burning the boats. There is only success with women, or no success..There is no in between. The Game will open your eyes, and unlock doors you never thought would open. 6. How to Talk to Anyone 92 little Tricks, Leil Lowndes. Lowndes is a wonderful author. I learned a lot of tips from reading this bookEverything from social intuition, body language, to secrets to sustaining re lationships. If you want an easy book that packs a huge punch then I suggest this one. I love this book. It wont take much of your time, but it will influence you greatly. 7. The Power of Habit, Charles Duhigg, I actually read this book recently and loved it. Duhigg breaks down how habits are born, sustained, and ultimately replaced. If you have a bad habit, you cant get rid of itYou can only compensate for it. In The Power of Habit, Duhigg explains how cues, routines, and rewards-the three levels of a habit- operate. If you have a bad habit, and want to overcome itThen I suggest reading this book. 8. Feel The Fear.And Do It Anyway, Susan Jeffers. This book helped me overcome my shyness. It is a very inspirational book. Like other novels on this list, Feel The FearAnd Do it Anyway is a book about social intuition. It teaches the reader about affirmations, how to use the subconscious mind, and it offers tips on how to overcome fear.Like the title suggests. 9-10. Blink, The Tipping Point- Malcolm Galdwell. I love anything by Gladwell. Blink is such a good book, that I say that it is mandatory as well. Blink teaches the reader how to trust their intuition, and react off impulse-thin-slicing. I really love this book, as well as his first book The Tipping Point. If you have time I suggest checking them both out. Again, I have over 500 books on my reading list. These are the best I can suggest for college students. If you want more, email me at; rhaygarrett91@yahoo.com , Also if you have any questions feel free to email me as well. God bless. -Rhay.
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Different to what you normally get asked but anyway I'm reading think and grow rich and I just read the chapter of sexual transmuting but I'm finding a little difficult to understand and thus put into practice what hill is saying just wondered what your thoughts are regarding this chapter thanks
Have you ever had a rush of adrenaline shoot through your body when a lady that you like is around you? Just her presence alone is enough to make you feel as if you can accomplish anything. Feminine energy is Gods gift to men. Its the closest thing to feeling invincible that this world can offer. That is the reason I love women. Just having their presence around me, or their thought inside of my head is enough to push me to my potential. That is sexual transmutation; harnessing the natural energy that women radiate you with and using it as inspiration. Nothing will motivate you more than a woman will. Its not the actual action of having sex, its the emotions that you feel right before you have sex. From an evolutionary standpoint, these emotions-or chemicals- that are released when you are horny are the strongest in your body. The purpose of life is to survive and replicate. If a man didnt feel the emotion of a ttraction so intensely, then our species would have died off a long time ago. Why? Because men would have stopped doing what is necessary to become attractive to women. I.E. working on themselves to become physically and mentally stronger. Again, its not s ex that inspires menIts the energy that comes from attraction that men crave. For example; say that youre in a gym and youre working out. Youre benching your max rep and the bar gets wobbly because youre reaching your limit. Your eyes drift over to the exit and a woman of beauty walks into the room; suddenly a rush of adrenaline shoots through your body and youre able to lift the weight as if by magic. Any athlete can attest that they play better in front of a person they like. There are men who have accumulated millions of dollars from the desire to please a woman they cant posses physically. The most famous literary example of sexual transmutation is Fitzgeralds Gatsby. I know youve probably saw the latest film adaptation but I highly suggest reading the novel. Gatsby represents the peak of what a man can achieve potentially, and yet his fortune was amassed solely to recapture Daisys affection. The real question isIf he never went to the war, and Daisy never got married to Tom. Would Gatsby sti ll have ended up rich? Probably not. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Advice for sneakerheads in college without a lot of expendable money

What is more important.Focusing on your education or continuing to buy things you really dont need? Priorities will always outweigh desires. First handle your business and everything else will fall in place for you. Sneakers arent going anywhere, neither are girls they can both wait. Patience will be your greatest virtue that you can learn. At times you will want to indulge yourself into your desires, but you need to have discipline. Many fools these days sacrifice their long term goals in order to achieve short term success. Dont be one of them. If you really want to better yourself you will wait. Save the little money that you do have and learn to not let it burn a hole in your pocket. Stop window shopping on the internet all day and focus on what matters. Stop trying to spend money that you dont have. Common sense will tell you that isnt benefiting you. In ten years none of this will make a differenceNone of it. Who gives a damn about sneakers if you dont have a future? Id much rather be successful in the future than to be fresh in the present. Always think long term. You might think youre missing out initially because youre not fly or youre not out partying all the time with beautiful women, but trust me it will pay off in the end. I promise. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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You said earlier you weren't rich, but what is your job/profession and how do you go about buying expensive things and saving your money?
You answered your own question. If you save your money, you can buy expensive things. You dont have to be rich to get what you want out of life, you just need to have determination and perseverance. I put it like this, if you want what you desire, more than those around you who want the same things. You will have it. Every man wants the lifestyle. The lifestyle of fast cars, pretty girls, exotic locations, beautiful clothes, and endless moneyThe difference between the men who actually obtain this, compared to the men who dont. Is their mentality. If youre determined, no obstacle physical or social can stand in your wayBut if you for one moment start to doubt yourself and your abilities you will fail. You have to rid yourself of all fear and hesitation, and go after what you desire with everything you have inside of you. All of your wit, all of your passion. Failure isnt an option to a man that doesnt make it one. If you believe you cant do something, then you wont be able to do itBecause emotion is stronger than logic. Youre only as strong as you believe you are. If you believe that your race, your appearance, or your social standing is the reason why you fail, then youre mistaken. Its your insecurity that prevents you from making it to where you want to be. You have to get rid of all doubt in yourself. This is the mind frame of a king. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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How does one become successful?

By figuring out what success really means to them, and not gauging themselves by what societys definition of it is..Materially, financially, or physically. May God bless you. -Rhay.
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Further Reading.
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Any individual who wants to be a leader has to be controversial. Otherwise they dont stand for anything. - Richard M. Nixon, 37th President of the United States
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The Way of the Superior Man - David Deida The Fountainhead - Ayn Rand The Power of Now - Eckart Tolle A New Earth - Eckart Tolle Practicing the Power of Now - Eckart Tolle Stillness Speaks - Eckart Tolle Awaken the Giant Within - Anthony Robbins Mastery - George Leonard Personal Development for Smart People - Steve Pavlina 7 Habits of Highly Effective People - Stephen Covey Think and Grow Rich - Napoleon Hill Atlas Shrugged - Ayn Rand The Peaceful Warrior - Dan Millman Sperm Wars - Robin Baker The Mood Cure - Julia Ross Social Intelligence - Daniel Goleman Emotional Intelligence - Daniel Goleman Vital Lies, Simple Truths: The Psychology of Self-Deception - Daniel Goleman Learned Optimism - Martin Seligman Flourish - Martin Seligman The Now Habit - Neil Fiore Laughter Provine Changing For Good - James Prochaska Wishcraft - Barbara Sher Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation Change Anything: The New Science of Personal Change Find Your Focus Zone - Lucy Jo Palladino The Power of Habit - Charles Duhigg
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The Feeling Good handbook - David d. Burns No More Mister Nice Guy - Robert Glover Get Out of Your Mind & Into Your Life right now - Henriette Anne Klauser PhD Self Discipline in 10 days - Theodore Bryant Thinking, Fast and Slow - Daniel Kahneman Outliers - Malcom Gladwell Tipping point - Malcom Gladwell Blink - Malcom Gladwell What the Dog Saw - Malcom Gladwell How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World - Harry Browne Ender's Game - Orson Scott Card The Fire Starter Sessions - Danielle LaPorte Healing Your Emotional Self - Beverly Engel The Confidence Gap: A Guide to Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt - Russ Harris, Steven Hayes PhD The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living - Russ Harris, Steven Hayes The Confidence Gap - Dr Russ Harris The Blank Slate - Steven Pinker Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life Richard Koch - The 80/20 Principle Pitch Anything - Oren Klaff Iceberg Slim PIMP The Alchemist - P Coelho The Talent Code - Daniel Coyle The Little Book of Talent - Daniel Coyle Talent Is Overrated - Geoff Colvin Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time by Keith Ferrazzi and Tahl Raz Frogs Into Princes - Richard Bandler and John Grinder Dangerous Men and Adventurous Women - Jane Ann Krentz
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Change or Die - Alan Deutchman No More Mr. Nice Guy - Robert Glover Psycho-Cybernetics - Dr. Maxwell Maltz 100 Simple Secrets of Happy People - D. Niven Three Laws of Performance - Steve Zaffron, Dave Loga The Book of Secrets: 112 Keys to the Mystery Within by Osho The Power of Full Engagement - Tony Schwartz No Excuses - Brian Tracy Psychology of Selling Manual - Tracy Brian Maximum Achievement - Brian Tracy The Psychology of Achievement: Develop the Top Achiever's Mindset - Brian Tracy Radical Honesty - Brad Blanton Jim Rohn The Challenge to Succeed - A Philosophy for Successful Living Workbook A Philosophy for Successful Living Workbook - Jim Rohn The Challenge to Succeed 50th Law - 50 Cent 48 Laws of Power - Robert Greene Art of Seduction - Robert Greene 33 Strategies of War - Robert Greene 10 Mental Laws Seeds of Light (Elizabeth K. Stratton?) A Path With Heart - Jack Kornfield Our Appointment With Life - Thich Nhat Hanh and Annabel Laity Seekers Guide to Freedom - Guy Finley Fire In The Belly - Sam Keen You Can't Turn Back The Secret - Rhonda Byrne The Millenium Trilogy - Steig Larsson Changing for Good - James Prochaska
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Leadership and Self Deception - Arbinger Institute Paradox of Choice - Barry Schwartz The Alchemist - Paulo Coelho The Road Less Travelled - M. Scott Peck Winning through Enlightenment - Ron Smothermon Believing Bullshit - Stephen Law Les Liaisons Dangereuses - Jean-Pierre Chodlerdos de Laclos The Success Principles - Jack Canfield Waiting - Ha Jin Oscar Wilde - Richard Ellman The Sun Also Rises - Ernest Hemingway Zen in the Art of Archery - Eugen Herrigel Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance - Robert M. Pirsig The How of Happiness - Sonja Lyubomirsky Beyond Positive Thinking - Dr. Robert Anthony Change Your Life in Seven Days - Paul McKenna Thick Face Black Heart - Chin-Ning Chu Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness - Gillian Butler How to think like Leonardo Davinci - Michael Gelb Games People Play - Eric Berne Being and Time - Heidegger Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway - Susan Jeffers Living with Our Genes: Why They Matter More Than You Think - Dean H. Hamer What to Say When you Talk To Yourself - Shad Helmstetter Time Line Therapy and the Basis of Personality - Tad James Phoenix Theraputic Patterns of Milton H. Erickson - David Gordon Virus of the Mind: The New Science of the Meme - Richard Brodie A Theory of Everything: An Integral Vision for Business, Politics, Science and Spirituality - Ken Wilber
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Mind-lines: Lines For Changing Minds - L. Michael Hall How to Argue & Win Every Time: At Home, At Work, In Court, Everywhere, Everyday - Gerry Spence Bad Boys: Why We Love Them, How to Live with Them, and When to Leave Them - Carole Lieberman Thinking About Thinking With Nlp - Joseph Yeager Half Empty, Half Full: Understanding the Psychological Roots of Optimism - Susan C. Vaughan The Age of Manipulation: The Con in Confidence, The Sin in Sincere - Wilson Bryan Key Visual Persuasion: The Role of Images in Advertising - Paul Messaris Phoenix: Therapeutic Patterns of Milton H. Erickson - David Gordon Silent Power - Stuart Wilde Secret of Creating Your Future - James Tad The Origins of Virtue: Human Instincts and the Evolution of Cooperation - Matt Ridley The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy Is as Necessary as Love and Sex - David M. Buss Modern Coin Magic - Jean Bobo Mind Lines - Michael Hall Motivation Success - Shakti Gawain - Creative Visualization The Magic You Can Perform With Reframing Beliefs - Robert Dilts A brief History of time - Stephen Hawkings Who Are you Really - Gary Null Iron John: A Book About Men Robert Bly 177 Mental Toughness Secrets of the World Class As a Man Thinketh James Allen Codependent No More - Melody Beattie Thresholds of the Mind - Bill Harris The Psychology of Self Esteem - Nathaniel Branden The Six Pillars of Self-esteem - Nathaniel Branden Six Pillars of Self-Esteem - Nathaniel Branden The Psychology of Romantic Love - Nathaniel Branden
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Assholes Finish First - Tucker Max John R. Little - Body - Science A Brief History of Everything - Ken Wilber Spontaneous Happiness - Andrew Well How to Read Book - Chalres Van Doren This Will Make You Smart - John Brockman Pitch Anything - Oren Klaff The Pedant's Revolt - Andrea Barham War of the Worldviews - Leonard Mlodin / Deepak Chopra Catch 22 - Kurt Vonnegut The ZigZag Principle - Rich Christiansen Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself - Joe Dispenza Opening the Mind's Eye - Ian Robertson Steve Jobs - Walter Isaacson In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts - Gabor Gate MD The Silent Pulse - George Leonard The Moral Animal - Robert Wright Use Your Brain to Change Your Life - Daniel G. Amen Basic Economics: A Common Sense Guide to the Economy - Thomas Sowell Give Me a Break John Stossel The Theory of Poker: A Professional Poker Player Teaches You How To Think Like One - David Sklansky The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It - Kelly McGonigal Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength - Roy F. Baumeister and John Tierney Using Your Brain for a Change - Richard Bandler Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway - Susan Jeffers The Psychology of Winning - Denis Waitley The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want - Sonja Lyubomirsky
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The Prince - Machiavelli Yoritomo and Clausewitz The Golden Man - Philip K. Dick Choke - Chuck Palahniuk Welcome to the Monkey House - Kurt Vonnegut The Stranger - Albert Camus I am Legend - Richard Matheson Three Stigmata of Palmer Eldrich - Philip K. Dick Guns, Germs, and Steel - Jared Diamond Musashi - Eiji Yoshikawa 2001 Space Odyssey - Arthur C. Clarke I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell - Tucker Max Alphabet of Manliness - Maddox The Art of Speed Reading People - Tieger How to Argue and Win Everytime - Gerry Spence What to Say When You Talk to Your Self - Shad Hemlstetter The Silent Language Of Love - Julius Fast The Power of Your Subconscious Mind - Joseph Murphy Take me to Truth-Undoing the Ego - Sanchez and Vieira James Tad - Secret of Creating Your Future Michael Hall - Mind Lines Michael Hall Ph.D - The Magic You Can Perform With Reframing Robert Dilts - Beliefs Autobiography - Benjamin Franklin Self-Reliance - Ralph Waldo Emerson Walden - Henry David Thoreau Self-Help - Samuel Smiles As a Man Thinketh - James Allen
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The Game of Life and How to Play It - Florence Scovell Shinn How to Win Friends and Influence People - Dale Carnegie The Power of Positive Thinking - Norman Vincent Peale The Phenomenon of Man - Pierre Teilhard de Chardin The Power of Your Subconscious Mind - Joseph Murphy Creative Visualization - Shakti Gawain The Road Less Traveled - M. Scott Peck Transitions: Making Sense of Life's Changes - William Bridges Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy - David D. Burns You Can Heal Your Life - Louise Hay The Hero Within: Six Archetypes We Live By - Carol S. Pearson The Power of Myth - Joseph Campbell with Bill Moyers Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway - Susan Jeffers Mindfulness: Choice and Control in Everyday Life - Ellen J. Langer Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience - Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi Women Who Run with the Wolves - Clarissa Pinkola Ests Men Are from Mars,Women Are from Venus - John Gray Thomas Moore Care of the Soul: A Guide for Cultivating Depth and Sacredness in Everyday Life Steve Andreas & Charles Faulkner (NLP Comprehensive Team) NLP: The New Technology of Achievement Marianne Williamson A Return to Love James Hillman The Soul's Code: In Search of Character and Calling Alain de Botton How Proust Can Change Your Life Richard Carlson Don't Sweat the Small Stuff And It's All Small Stuff Richard Koch The 80/20 Principle: The Secret of Achieving More with Less Philip C. McGraw Life Strategies: Doing What Works, Doin hat Matters Martha Beck Finding Your Own North Star: How to Claim the Life You Were Meant to Live How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World - Harry Browne The Brothers Karamazov - Fyodor Dostoevsky, Richard Pevear and Larissa Volokhonsky
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Richard Branson - Autobiography: Losing my Virginity (not directly game-related) Galapagos - Kurt Vonnegut The Count of Monte Cristo - Alexandre Dumas Tuesdays with Morrie - Mitch Albom Peaceful Warrior - Dan Millman Power of a Positive No - William Ury Getting to Yes - Roger Fisher, William L. Ury Bargaining for Advantage - G. Richard Shell Behavioral Game Theory: Experiments in Strategic Interaction - Colin Camerer Fooled - Randomness - Nassim Nicholas Taleb Why Beautiful People Have More Daughters - Alan S. Miller and Satoshi Kanazawa Freakonomics - Steven D. Levitt and Stephen J. Dubner Superfreakonomics - Steven D. Levitt and Stephen J. Dubner Predictably Irrational - Dan Ariely Dare - Gary Leboff Sex, Ecology, Spirituality - Ken Wilber The Revolt of the Masses - Ortega y Gasset The Iron Flute - Nyogen Senzaki The Gateless Gate - Koun Yamada and Ruben L. F. Habito Thick Face, Black Heart - Chin-Ning Chu In Search of the Miraculous - P. D. Ouspensky The Path of Least Resistance - Robert Fritz Way of the Peaceful Warrior - Dan Millman Tom Butler-Bowdon - 50 Self-Help Classics Tom Butler-Bowdon - 50 Success Classics Sex-Ploytation - Matthew Fitzgerald The Alchemist - Paulo Coelho and Alan R. Clarke The Hagakure: The Code of The Samurai
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Born To Run - Christopher McDougall Body - Science - John Little and Doug McGuff Conditioned Reflex Therapy - Andrew Salter Beyond Success and Failure: Ways to Self-Reliance and Maturity - Willard Beecher and Marguerite Beecher Joseph Heller - Something Happened Michel Houellebecq - Possibility of an Island (and other books as well) Jostein Gaarder - The Orange Girl Fyodor Dostoyevsky - The Brothers Karamazov Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway - Susan Jeffers Bill Harris - Thresholds of the Mind Calvin and Hobbes - Bill Watterson The Black Swan: Second Edition: The Impact of the Highly Improbable: With a new section: "On Robustness and Fragility" - Nassim Nicholas Taleb The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom - Miguel Ruiz The Seat of the Soul - Gary Zukav Awareness: The Perils and Opportunities of Reality Anthony De Mello Beyond Success and Failure: Ways to Self-Reliance and Maturity - Willard Beecher and Marguerite Beecher Your Magic Powers of Persuasion - Vernon Howard The Open Secret - Tony Parsons I hope You'd Die Soon - Richard Sylvester The Telling Stones - Riktam Barry Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation Law of Success - Napolean Hill 177 Mental Toughness Secrets of the World Class: The Thought Processes, Habits and Philosophies of the Great Ones by Steve Siebold I Can Make You Confident - Paul Mcknenna Self-Discipline in 10 days: How To Go From Thinking to Doing by Theodore Bryan Pulling Your Own Strings: Dynamic Techniques for Dealing with Other People and Living Your Life As You Choose - Wayne W. Dyer Manifest Your Destiny: Nine Spiritual Principles for Getting Everything You Want, The - Wayne W. Dyer
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Excuses Begone!: How to Change Lifelong, Self-Defeating Thinking Habits by Wayne W. Dyer Biology of belief - Bruce liton The War of Art - Steven Pressfield Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion (Collins Business Essentials) - Robert B. Cialdini Becoming a Life Change Artist: 7 Creative Skills to Reinvent Yourself at Any Stage of Life - Fred Mandell and Kathleen Jordan Getting Things Done - David Allen First You Have To Row A Little Boat - Richard Bode The Art of War- Sun Tsu Byron Katie - The Work The Ultimate Anti-Career Guide - Rick Jarow The Silent Language: - Edward Twitchell Hall Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting out of the Box - Arbinger Institut Get off your but. - Sean Stephenson Procrastination: Why You Do It, What to Do About It Now - Jane B. Burka and Lenora M. Yuen Self-Discipline in 10 days: How To Go From Thinking to Doing - Theodore Bryant The Mating Mind: How Sexual Choice Shaped the Evolution of Human Nature - Geoffrey F. Miller Dangerous Passion - David M. Buss Bad Boys: Why We Love Them, How to Live with Them, and When to Leave Them - Carole Lieberman and Lisa Collier Cool The Evolution Of Desire - David M. Buss The Moral Animal: Why We Are, the Way We Are: The New Science of Evolutionary Psychology - Robert Wright On Human Nature: Revised Edition - Edward O. Wilson Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway - Susan J. Jeffers Ultimate Secret to Getting Absolutely Everything You Want, The - Mike Hernacki Changing for Good: A Revolutionary Six-Stage Program for Overcoming Bad Habits and Moving Your Life Positively Forward - James O. Prochaska, John Norcross and Carlo DiClemente Hard Goals : The Secret to Getting from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be Change Anything: The New Science of Personal Success - Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, David Maxfield and Ron McMillan
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This Year I Will...: How to Finally Change a Habit, Keep a Resolution, or Make a Dream Come True - M. J. Ryan Find Your Focus Zone: An Effective New Plan to Defeat Distraction and Overload - Lucy Jo Palladino The Inner Game of Tennis: The Classic Guide to the Mental Side of Peak Performance - W. Timothy Gallwey, Zach Kleiman and Pete Carroll American Psycho - Bret Easton Ellis The Great Gatsby - Fitzgerald Lord of the Flies - William Golding A Hero of Our Time - Lermontov 1984 - Orwell Island - Aldous Huxley Flatland - Edwin A. Abbott The Old Man and The Sea - Ernest Hemingway Catch 22 - Joseph Heller The Stand - Stephen King Call of the Wild / White Fang - Jack London The Picture of Dorian Gray - Oscar Wilde The Grapes of Wrath - John Steinbeck Brave New World - Aldous Huxley Catch 22 - Joseph Heller Incarnations of Immortality - Piers Anthony -On a Pale Horse -Bearing an Hourglass -With a Tangled Skein -Wielding a Red Sword -Being a Green Mother -For Love of Evil -And Eternity The Iliad and The Odyssey - Homer Lord of the Flies - William Golding Mark Twain: Four Complete Novels - Mark Twain Jonathan Livingston Seagull - Richard Bach The Real Frank Zappa Book - Frank Zappa
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Status Anxiety - Alain De Botton A Journey - Tony Blair Muscle Gaining secrets - Jason Ferrugia Holosync Way of the Peaceful Warrior - Dan Millman Booky Wook I & II - Russell Brand Peaceful Warrior The Movie Humes Dialogue on Natural Religion - G. Humes The Road Less Traveled - M. Scott Peck One Hundred Years of Solitude - Gabriel Garcia Marquez The Book of Not Knowing by Peter Ralston Courage - The Joy of Living Dangerously by Osho The Crowd by Gustave Le Bon Shape Shifter by Geoff Thompson On the Road-Jack Kerouac The Carl Rogers Reader Toxic Parents by Susan Forward Narcissism by Alexander Lowen The Drama of The Gifted Child by Alice Miller Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw Bad Pharma - Ben Goldacre Homecoming by John Bradshaw For Your Own Good by Alice Miller Real Time Relationships by Stefan Molyneux Self-Therapy by Jay Earley The Psychology of Self-esteem by Nathaniel Branden On Becoming A Person By Carl Rogers Memo by Oddbjorn By
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books by - Matt Ridley books by - Joel Osteen (christian self-help) books by - Paulo Coelho books by - Jim Rohn books by - Douglas Adams books by - Christopher Moore books by - Terry Pratchett books by - Chuck Pahlanuik books by - George Orwell

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Part One; Motivation

Part Two; Relationships

Part Three; Business

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Second being the way we are in reality..

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None of this coming from a professional.

There isnt a solid answer to all of your problems.

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May God bless you. -Rhay.

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May God bless you. -Rhay.

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Any advice with women?

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God Bless. -Rhay.

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How would you get a lady to like you?