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The development of childrens emotions is related to self-regulation which appears to be related to developing self-control.

The early childhood stage is a developmental period when children need to express themselves and help to cope with their emotions. During the early childhood years children acquire emotional skills. On one hand, two year olds have mood swings and constant tantrums, they might show aggressive behaviors such as biting and hitting, they might be unhappy about any changes in routines, and might develop new fears among others that are challenging for the parents and the teachers. On the other hand, five years old are more adept of controlling their behaviors and outcomes. They are capable of acknowledging and discussing problems with peers, teachers and parents as well as verbally expressing their feelings. As an example, a five year old child will be better able to express his frustrations, whereas a two year old may result in a tantrum because he doesn't yet have the verbal skills to articulate his feelings. Between the ages of two and five years old, self-regulation of emotion develops significantly. Parents can help two year olds develop emotional selfregulation by encouraging them to use their words like I dont like it when you hurt me rather than hitting or biting. For a child who is five developing selfcontrol it can involve more thinking skills such as reflecting on their behavior and helping them realize if they had another choice rather than kicking their friend. In both scenarios children are learning how to manage and express their strong feelings and impulses; to calm themselves, and to make acceptable behavioral choices. Also, parents need to guide their children since they need to be told and taught about social-emotional skills by helping them acknowledge others feeling, control their own feelings and frustrations. Young children are experimenting and trying to find out what appropriate behavior is and what the limits are so they need constant guidance and support. Moreover, parents can support children develop emotional self-regulation by recognizing children emotions such as happy, sad, angry among others. According to Vygotsky, cooperative dialogues between children and adults are essential for children to acquire uniquely management of attention and behavior, reflection on experiences and ideas, and strategies for solving problems (Vygotsky, 1978). It is important to help children deal with their anger and frustrations to better understand them as well as help them shift their attention away from the source of frustration. It is important to keep calm and communicate with children without showing anger to teach them by modelling self-regulation. Helping children plan for & cope with anger is emotionally demanding, especially if child has difficulty regulating emotion.

To help develop self-regulation with this developmental stage parents need to comprehend that aggression comes out of frustration which often reflects children's lack of self-control. They need to focus on working with their

children to show them to collaborate and cooperate, take turns, and calm down and control their bodies after handling a stressful moment. They need to teach them boundaries and consequences. Parents need to take advantage of simple, everyday activities to stimulate self-regulation, especially in moments when we observe the child had a hard time controlling his emotions. Also, it is crucial for parents to be ready to respond to childrens requests and signals promptly and sensitively. To conclude, to help children develop emotional regulation parents need to help children identify feelings, introduce the concept of empathy by acknowledging others feelings, and helping them manage strong emotions. Children need to feel that they are being taught and not judged for their behaviors, they come to this world to use us as support and guidance and we need to be there to help them develop their emotional skills while building selfregulation which is a hard thing to learn at this age. Enhancing self-regulation will increase their social behavior and will then build positive relationships; they will learn to be sensitive by responding to others feelings, and recognize if they are going through distress to be able to manage their behavior. Good emotional selfregulation will children analyze his choices and make thoughtful decisions.