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The tools, strategies, and resources you will discover and put to use in this program are designed "-to empower you to not only discover what it is you want most in your life, but also how 10

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Listen to Dayl of Get the Edge and start immediately to make Your Hour of Power a part of your daily experience.

Listen to all 7 days of Personal Power Classic, These sessions are shorter than Gel the Edge and will give you the foundational principles for identifying what you want, breaking through the barriers to achieving it, and most importantly, starting the process of conditioning your mind and body for maximum results.

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'-- Your Hour of Power: The Secret to Creating an Extraordinary Qual ity of Life , .. 5

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Results Workshop: 7 Keys to Changing Anything in Your Life-Today!

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Pure Energy Live! The Key to a Strong, Healthy, and Vital Life '""'-

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L Power of Emotions: Your Call to Action . , , , ' , 31

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Your Way to Financial Freedom: Creating the Foundation for Lasting Wealth, , .... 37

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T11e Purpose of Life: Finding Your Real Inner Drive,

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THREE Srrrs TO LASTING CHANGE: THE SCIENCE OF NWRO-AssOCIATIVE CONDITIONING"

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L The Secret to Creating an Extraordinary Quality of Life

Every journey begins with a single step, and the journey to changing your life is no exception. If you're health)", if you're growing, if you're dreaming new dreams and setting new goals, there is always a gap between where you are and where you want to be. Bridging the gap requires just two th ings: consistent focus and consistent action.

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"To ACHIEVE HAPPINESS WE SHOULD MAKE CERTAIN THAT WE ARE NEVER WITHOUT AN IMPORTANT GOAL." -EARL NIGHTE GAL.E

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Whatever we focus on we tend to attract. Focusing on unimportant things is a recipe for stress,

but focusing on things that matter is the secret to an extraordinary quality of life.

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SUCCESS WITHOUT F L.FILL.ME T Is FAILURE.

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__ An extraordinary life requires mastering two skills: the science of achievement and the art of fulfillmen t.

Achievement-goiog from where you are to where you want to be-requires a plan, a specific strategy. You can achieve anything you desire simply by following certain laws. Whether you want to improve your financial outlook, enhance your relationships, or run 1,'000 miles in eleven days like Stu Mittleman, following a set of scientific principles will guarantee results.

Fulfillment means experiencing tremendous joy in-the process-so you feel not only the excitement of the pursuit but the enthusiasm and gratitude for the little things in life along the way.

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AN EX'rRAORDINARY LIFE

COMES FROM AN EX1'RAORDINARY PSYCHOLOGY

You can't control the outside world but you can control your inner one. You can't control the events of your life but you can control what they mean to you. Develop a vision, a compelling future that excites and inspires you, and focus on it daily.

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Day 1-Your Hour of Power Take Stock of Your E,motions

The quality of your life is the quality of the emotions you consistently experience. TIle more you move, the more you feel.

Whichemotions do you feci 011 a regular basis? Make a list of all the emotions you consistently experience in a given week.

EIV!POW£ RJ/Wj/POSITIVE EMOTIONS

DISEMPOWERINGIPAfNFUL EMOTJOlVS

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'-- The Three Patterns That Create Any Emotion, The Triad

'-- Anything in life you think you want, you only wan! because of the feeling you think obtaining it

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1. YOUR PHYSIOLOGY (WllAT VOU DO WTTll YO n BODY)

Emotion is created by motion. Whatever you're feeling right now is related to how you're using your body.

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YOUR Focus AND Bl:LIEFS

Whatever you focus 011 you're going 10 believe. Focus equals reality to the individual, even though it's not reality in actuality.

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Questions: Thinking is nothing more than mentally asking and answering a series of questions, Eliminate any habitual questions that do not serve you,

Word.I': If you want to change your life. pay attention to the words you repeal 10 yo ursc If'. Certain words can change the way you feel: I think you're mistaken;

J think you're wrong; I think you're lying.

jncaI1lGliOIl.~:W'hen you repeat a phrase with enough emotional intensity, you start to believe it. Utilize the power of incantations by using the ones that nippon you the most.

SA~lPLli bCi\NTAT10NS

• Every ~'Y and in evorv w'Y' I'm gellin9 ,trong.r and ,t"nger,

• All I need j. Within me now,

• Nothing tastes" good" Ihin f •• I"

• At I"t, ,I 1.,1, the p .. 1 is p as I; I've broken I". and Won, And noW it', time to lov, mY1e1 f and re.lly h,ve ,ome fun,

• With e.ch ,nd every breath I take; with .ach ,nd 8V",Y stride; I f •• 1 abondant o,Plered joy and love from deep i n,id s.

• Day by d,V I live mv Ii r. with jov and harmony. I ,h,re my ~ift" my dr •• ms, my heart. ,nd love h" se t 01" f" •.

TAP INTO YOUR A"'''RE:';F.S~

GeT into the huhit or evaluating your triad and conditioning yourself to experience the great emotions you want. Whut (Ire YOII doing with your body? What (Ire yo II focusing 011 or believing? Whm are )'011 saying TO yoursetfr .

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Your Habit for Extraordinary Health and Happiness

Train yourself to jump out orbed immediately, with no hesitation, and stan your day with movement.

PHASE 1: MOVE AND BnEATHE (S M IKUTES)

Keep your shoes beside the bed and hit the ground runningl Get up each day and physics lIy move, going outside your house and starting with a walk to warm up your body and wake up your metabolism. Take several diaphragmatic breaths in the ratio: inhale for 1 COUnt, hold for 4 COW].t5, exhale for 2 counts,

Then, for the fir$t five minutes of your walk, practice the pattern of "breathwalking." Inhale four times through your nose, exhale lour limes through your mouth, and repeat continuously.

(For more in/ormation on breathwalking, visit www.breathwalk.corn}

PHASE 2: GET G!\Altt'UJ.. -"NO VISU\I..IZE (1 0 ~llNUWS)

Think about everything you're grateful for Start with yourself and include your family, friends, business associates, and special moments in your life.

Visualize everything you want in your li fe as if you had already achieved it and you were grateful for it. Your brain can't tell the difference between something you vividly imagine and something you actually experience; whatever you focus on, you'll move toward.

Focus on what you want to create today. What do you want to make happen'! What do you want to do, achieve, Of accomplish') See it happening the way you want it.

PHASE 3: USE INCANTATIONS Al'iD EXERCISE (15-30 ~UNUTES 011 MORE)

Do your incantations Oil/loud, Speaking engages your physiology and conditions the ideas into your mind,

Exercise, then celebrate I

Your Assignment

STEP I: Today, keep your eyes open for Magic Moments and be sure you live with passion'

STEP 2: Tomorrow, first thing in the morning, start your day by doing your Hour of Power, 30 Minutes to Thrive, or 15 Minutes to Fulfillment. Grab your Daily Magic audio and go for a walk, Hill, or whatever form of movement feels right to yOll.

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Seven Keys to Changing Anything in Your Life Today

Happy, vibranrcsuccessful people think and behave in certain ways. So do miserable and unfulfilled people. In other words, there are patterns of success and patterns of failure. The good news is, success leaves clues!

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I. They're out of practice.

2. They rationalize, tell themselves stories, lise softeners, all d lie to themselves,

3. They've had an ineffective strategy.

Raise your slCIni/ards- The difference in people's lives is the difference in their standards.

Tum your "shoulds " into "musts "-\Vhen something is a must, you follow through.

Get unreasonable-Unreasonable people (like Nelson Mandala, Mother Teresa, and Oprah Winfrey) rule the world. They do things others believe arc impossible.

Develop selj:honesly-Drop the story and tell yourself the truth. General Schwarzkopf teaches that nothing gets better until YOLl admit something is wrong.

Understand the power oj 110"'- Tap into the power of momentum and do something immediately. Develop the habit of chuI1king-Start by tackling one manageable piece of a project: write one paragraph, make one phone call, walk for 10 minutes. Slop using s~fieners-Making yourself feel better without actually changing anything trains you to accept mediocrity. Coach John Wooden taught his players ihat winning comes from telling yourself the truth and doing your own personal best.

Develop ([ strategy that works-You won't produce an extraordinary body by changing your diet alone. Oprah Winfrey tried several strategies before she found the one til at worked for- her.

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There's one more reason people don't change-they get into a "pressure cooker."

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People climb into the pressure cooker again and again! How can you avoid it?

/\ pc:.r'!ion hits a. rheeshcld: the problem causes such u significillH ~lmUllnt of pain th::'u they feel prcs.sLl'r~ tel take action 10 change it

2. DRI\"F. TURNS '1'0 At'Tlo~

A.1l; a person takes action they make- progress lTI"V.'l.fd c! lmlnming some [iSPL.":GL of the prr.Jble-m (e.g .. {hey lose: 10 of their 4()-pound weight-los ... goal}. which lessens lh~ jlU¢IlSilY of the pain .

3. ACTIf);".,> LEAD TO RF.$LlXS

When Inc:' intensity of the problem is reduced, LhL::: drive to complete the change ts. lessened and mot i \,,"[1 len I o c('ml pi": be ty resolve rh e J'!It(1 blcm L~ lost. Witl1;} 1 ac '" Q [ pni n to drive the pI.,; r:sun allY longer. ~raclually (My return HJ the old behavior and .

4. Rr:S.t!I"T~ 1.1': .... u T'Q Loss or. DR1'- ~:: RF.TI."!~~'\i TO ,JAftT (-rru,..,sfRETl"R:\" -rn "I HI;; Pl'~OBLEi\t Tbe prohtem remains,

THE 7 Sn:ps OF CQNSClO S CHANGE

STEP 1: GJ:T DISTURBED

Be honest with yourself Don't use softeners or rationalizations, don'! compare yourself with others 10 make yourself feel better.

Get associated /0 the problem. If necessary, make it worse than it is to get yourself to take action If you 're not disturbed, you're nor going 10 change.

Surround yourself with people who have what YOII want. Seeing them will disturb you and you'll either run back III your old friends to make yourself feel better, or you'll join" new peer group. If you want to be good at tennis, play with somebody better than yourse I r.

EXERCISE: How DO YOU I~"TIOX-\LIZE'.'

What arc the most common reasons you lai I to do things? What stories do YOLI tell yoursel f? List at least rive rationalizations you use for not following through:

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I don't h,ve lim. I'll do it tomorrow I'm tired

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Day 2-Results Workshop The Power of an RPM Plan

STEP 2; MAKE" REAL DECISION

What do successful people have in common? Successful people have an RPM plan for their lives.

Those who succeed in life have the answers to 3 questions:

1. What is the specific result I am committed to achieving?

This is the R-the result they are after.

2, Why do I wan! to do this? What is my purpose?

This is the P-the plll'j)o s e. Once you decide, knowing your purpose-the "why" -will get you to follow through. Reasons come first, answers come second.

3. What specific actions must 1 take to make this happen?

This is the ,"I-the Massive Action Plan!

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What are you unhappy about in your career, your business, yourself. your ratioualizations? Write down some things that disturb you right now.

1'/11 disturbed about:

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EXJ;RCISE: LET'S GET HONEST (CONTI:-iIJlW)

What are you committed to doing instead? Decide what [lew result you want, then write why (your purpose) you are committed to obtaining this result.

Result: r am now committed 10 doing:

Purpose: I am committed 10 this because:

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'- SUI' 3: CREATE A MASSIVE ACTION PLAN

It's time to "draw the MAP." To make sure you follow through, come lip with a list of actions that will absolutely produce results.

EXERCISE: BRAINSTORM ACTIOI"' ITEMS

Choose one nell' result you are committed to achieving and list all the things you could do to achieve it. Don't worry about making your list "perfect." Just brainstorm whatever comes to mind, Include little things that you can do immediately, and do them 11011'. Never leave the site of setting a goal without doing something toward its achievement. Send an e-mail. make a phone call, book a meeting, buy a book, etc.

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EXERCISE: BRAll'STOIUl ACT!O:> ITE.'lCIS (CO!'TlNUEI.l)

Using language that excites YOIl, refine the wording of your result. list II few reasons why you want to take this action (your purpose), and then cornmi 1 10 the actions by giving each one a deadline.

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"IT IS NOT ENOUGH TO BE BUSY. II-IE QUESTION IS, WHAT ARE WE BUSY ABOUT."

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Beliefs: The Power to DestroyfThe Power to Create

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A belief is nothing more than a feeling of absolute certainty about what something means. Beliefs control our behavior. They can be unconscious or conscious, and they often stern from things we've heard or seen, felt a lot of emotion about. and (hen repeated to ourselves again and again until we felt certain.

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John McCormack's empowering belief in himself turned him from a policeman risking his life to "save someone else's $27" into a millionaire and Entrepreneur of the Year. After losing it all, his limiting belief nearly caused him to give up ... until a new empowering belief turned him around again.

The young I ad)' who be lieved exerc i se was pa i nfu I, ex pensive, and not really necessary adopted empowering new beliefs that exercise allows her to give more, thai she's worth it, and it's fun.

Josh's old beliefs caused him to gain 110 pounds: his new beliefs helped him lose the weight and rnak e exercise and eating well part of hi ~ daily routine,

EXf.RCISE: OLD BELIEFS, NEW BICLlEFS

Write down all the old beliefs that have kept you from following through on your goal in the past.

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"THE REASONAI3LE MAN ADAPTS HIMSELF TO THE WORLD.

THE UNREASONABLE ONE PERSISTS IN TRYING TO ADAPT TIlE WORLD TO HIMSELF. THEREFORE ALL PRO(iRESS DEPENDS ON THE UNREASONABLE MAN."

-GEORGE BERNARD SHAW

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Day 2-Results Workshop Scoring Your Life

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Reward yourself. When learning something new, 1110st people don't do it perfectly the first time, To win the game of life, you've gor to reward yourself for doing things approximately right in the beginning.

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Score the experience. Do things that add emotional intensity and make the process more enjoyable along the way, If you're working out, you can listen to music, work out with a buddy, pray while you exercise, etc. Choose things that meet all or your Six Human Needs.

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Take advantage of NET lime. Increase the value of your time by doing several things at once. II takes NET ... No Extra Time!

STX HU.~IAN 'Elms All human beings are driven by six needs, No mailer what task is at hand, you'Il enjoy the process and accelerate your results by making your actions meet your needs for;

I. Certainty

2. Uncertainty/variety

3. Love/Connection

4. Significance

5. Growth

6, Contribution

Measure your progress. You'll be excited about your

results if you measure your progress, Set yourself up 10 win by measuring in more than one way. For example, if you only measure the pounds you lose, there may be days when you don't see resu Its. Measure anyt h ing that can gi ve you growth.

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Come up \V ith two or three ideas that can help you look forward to do ing the things that will gel your result. What can you focus on, pay attention to, notice, appreciate, or enjoy that will enhance the experience?

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Day 2-Results Workshop The Power of Action

Sn;p 6: TAKE MA SIVl ACTION

There is no lime like the present: Never leave the site of setting u goal without doing sorneth ing toward its attainment. Do something while you're inspired, whi Ie you're "in state:' The more massive the action, the more committed you will be to achieving the result.

The power of incantations- You can't just gel rid of a negative belief. you have [0 replace it. Try incanting your new beliefs, saying them again and again, changing the emphasis and changing your state. By changing the emotion, you change the impact you feel and you begin to condition yourself for even more action.

Massive action creates momentum. You don't have to do a thousand things, you just have to do something.

EXIRCISE: BIG ACTIO-'-. LnTL~ AC["ION

What are two actions you can take immediately 10 gel yourself going?

Little action (e.g., make 3 phone call, send an e-mail)

Big action (something that takes time, energy, money, or effort)

Sn:r 1: THI': SEVE1\TII POWER

When you care how people feel about you, you make them your peers and you give them powe I' to i nfluerice the way you th ink. Tap into the Seventh Power-the power of environment. Choose a peer group with a high standard, utilize a coach, and immerse yourself in an environment (hal reinforces YOlI for your Ivins and challenges yOll 10 greater heights.

REMEMBE.R THE l\1ARINE CORPS GE.'1ERAL •..

Most people's I ives are a direct reflection of the expectations of their peer group.

Your Assignment

Do the little action and big action you wrote down. Do them right away, and be sure to acknowledge yourself when you get them done'

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'- Extraordinary relationships-c-not merely good or excellent, but truly legendary ones- are those in which rhe participants coneinually grow and contribute to themselves, the relationship, and '-- each other.

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IDENTIFY Til E GxP BETWEF:;\' \VHERE You ARE AND \VHERE Yo \\'.'\:--T TO BE

f{ you're not iii a relationship

, you want onc but don't have one: you fear being hurt , you don'r want one; you've been hurt before

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If'you 're ill II relationship yO!! either , want more from it

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2. Wilue do yllll want to be?

Visualize your ideal relationship. What would it look like? What would you talk about, laugh about, share, learn together? How would you make love, surprise, and contribute to each other?

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'-- Reta tionshi ps ex i st to III agni fy the human experience. Which emotions are you magn i fying: '- neguti vc ones or pos itive ones?

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When we associate pain to a relationship, we're responding to the past. These are independent events. Remember. "this is not that."

lnstcad of assurn ing the worst, become a master of meaning. What else could be happening in this situation? What else could this mean'! Most or the time, it's nnt about you.

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Day 3- Power of Relationships The Ultimate Love of Your Life

The quality of your relationships is in direct proportion to the amount of yourself you are able to -share. Sharing produces a synergy where one plus one equals more than two.

Go to a relationship 10 give. not to gel.

Measuring and remembering who gives more is a surefire way to kill a relationship, When driven by rules instead of Jove. relationships begin to die.

Keep your rules to a minimum.

Too many rules can destroy a relationship. Upsets occur easily when you have too mallY ways to feel bad.

Help your partner meet his or her needs.

Although we go about meeting them in different ways, we all have the same six needs. Legendary relationships occur when both partners feel that their needs are met.

Understand the importance ofawareness and acceptance.

Be aware that all human beings share the same two primary fears: that they arc not en ough and they wort't be loved. Pri mary fears arc triggered any time you feel like you're not being seen as significant enough or you fear the loss of love. If you're starting [0 react, ask yourself. "What's really triggering this fear? Am 1 responding to the present or the past? What else could this mean'!"

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How TO CREATE AN EXTRAORDINARY RlCLATlONSHIP

1. Learn to Love Yourself

You can't give to other people what you haven't learned to give yourself. Write at least J 0 things you can do to show how much you love yourself (Do my Hour of Power, 30 [mutes to Thrive, or 15 Minutes to fulfillment; acknowledge myself for being great; write myself 11 love letter; go 10 places T love).

Take two minutes every rnormng for the next seven days to look 111 the mirror and repeat, "1 love you [your name], I love you [your name] .. "

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2_ Select the Qualifies You Need ill a Relatiol1ship Relationships last when both people have the same 01'

cornp lementary natures. FOllow the example set by business leaders and consider three things in evaluating a potential relationship (business or personal);

, Can they do the job? Can they be your partner?

, Will they do the j ob? The answer will he yes i r the job or relationship meets their persona) goals and reinforces their nature.

, Are they the right fit in terms of values? In a personal relationship, is there a match in terms of sensual ity or sexuality?

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Describe rou,.. Ideal Parmer

[f yOll have a hurd time coming up with your wish list, start by defining "the mate from hell." Write about the person you couldn 't stand to be with. What qualities would they have? What things would they do? Then describe your ideal mate '5 traits, habits, qualities, appearance-everything you can think of that would be important to you.

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Day 3- Power of Relationships Attracting Your Ideal Mate

DEFIN~: YOlJR ULTlMATt: RELATlO. SIIII' (CO!\"TlNUm)

What Kind ofPerson Would},(w HaF€ 10 Be 10 Auract Such a Male?

You need to become the kind of person you would like to find. Describe the values, characteristics, conduct, and habits you would need in order to deserve the mate you just described.

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J need to be:

Kind

Loving flexible

An open communicator Driven by values Intelligent Nurturing

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Day 3- Power of Relationships Dealing with Challenges

3. Learn /0 Close the Gap

To close the gap between where you are and where you want to be, you've got 10 know where you rca lly are. If you're already in a relat iorish ip, go bac k to the "must" items on your lists frorn Steps I and 2. On a 0- \0 scale, first rate your partner, then rate yoursel f Oil how well those musts are being met.

If you're no! in. a relationship, score yourself alone. Go back to your must items from

Step 2 and rate yourself on a 0-10 scale, How close arc you to being the person who will ' attract the kind of person you want?

How TO DEAL \VITH THE I 'EVITABLE CHALLENGES THAT WILL AR[SE

Challenges show lip in every relationship. If the slime ones seem to keep popping up, and if they seem overwhelming, it may be that your natures are completely different and not complementary or you don't share the same va lues.

Running from" relationship is not the answer. Anywhere YOIl gn, you take yourself with ycul Honesty and clear communication arc the only solutions.

Have an honest conversation with your partner about ways to meet both your needs and theirs.

Make yoursel r stronger and better: give more; focus on their need s.

Sometimes you have to make the hardest decision of all and the relationship. Gel clear on what's best for you and the other person.

THE FOUR ns 01' RlIINE[) RELATIONSHtPS

I. Resistance

2. Resentment

3. Rejection

4. Repression

"THERE IS NO REMEDY FOR LOVE BUT TO LOVE MORE." -HENRY DAVID TIIORFAU

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Day 3- Power of Relationships Take Your Relationship to the Next Level

Your Assignment

STEP 1: FillSI' L.E"'RI\ TO LOVE YOURSELF

For the next seven days, take two minutes each morning to look in the mirror and

repeat, "1 love you [your name], 1 love you (your name) "Tell yourself the spccif'ic

reasons you love yourself.

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If YOU'Rt: IN ... REl .A TIONSHIP. ~'lAKE A1' ACTION PLAN FOR TAKING IT 1'0 1'HE NEXT I.EVJ,:L.

'Make a lis! of things you can do to enhance your relationship. Or, if you truly are not matched in your natures, your values, and your goals, get really clear about Ih,\I, have an honest conversation, and make some decisions, Make a game plan for what you are going; [0 do.

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Day 3- Power of Relationships Take Your Relationship to the Next Level

STEP 3: If YOU'RE 81 'G1.F., MAKE A MARKETING PLAN · ... ou ATTRACTING YOUR TD(.AL MATE.

Where do you need 10 spend your time? Who do you need to talk to') Create a plan for the 11 ex t 30 days.

"WE ARE ALL BORN FOR LOVE. IT IS THE PRINCIPLE OF EXISTENCE, AND] rs ON] Y REAL END." -BENJAMIN DISRAELl

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Day 4-Pure Energy Live!

The Key to a Strong, Healthy, and Vital Life

Relationships, finances, emotions, your career. . none of these matter if you don 't have your health. To avoid ending up as "the richest person in the graveyard," make your health 1111 absolute pri ori ty,

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Ten people can be exposed (0 the same germ, bUI not all of them become ill. Why? Because germs arc not the source of disease. Contact with a specific germ is not an absolute guarantee of contracting disease. Several other factors are involved:

The amount of stress or emotion in your life Your genetic tendencies

The things you do 10 keep your body in balance

The pullution Ievel or your environment (your body) Your phi Iosophies about health

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Day 4-Pure Energy Live! The Cycle of IlTlbalance

ALKALIZE AND ENERGIZE

SUBST..\:'\~CE MHz
Big Mac 5
Chocolate Cake 1-3
Vitamins 10-30
Raw Almonds 40-50
Green Vegetables 70-90
Wheat Grass 70-90
A Rose 70-90
Green Drink 250-350
Your Liver 55·60
Your Colon 58-63
Your Stomach 5~-65
Top of Your Head 60-70
Your Brain 72-78
A Tumor 30 The key to maintaining balance is found in two simple steps:

STEP 1: ALKALIZE

Alkalizing breaks the cycle of excess acid. It's the difference between life and death, between losing weight or keeping it on.

STIiI' 2: ENERGtZ"

Your body operates on a subtle electro-magnetic current. Your brain. your heart, and all of your organs emit fields of electrical impulses. Foods provide value only when they can be converted into the elements necessary for this chemistry to take place. Energizing means avoiding foods that take away more energy than they provide.

1. YOUR ENVIRO\Mt:!'OT IS DISTURH£n BY SOMETHING

Emotions-negative emotions, thoughts, words, and actions have a tremendous impact on your bloodstream.

Polluted environment-smog in the air makes you acidic.

Acid diet-an imal proteins, cooked oils, sugar, and refined carbohydrates are all sources of acid. Sugar equals acid and acid equals glue,

Radiation-s-no one really knows what impact constant exposure to things like computer screens may have, but excess radiation could easily disturb the delicate balance.

How You GET OUT OF BALANCE

2. CELLS BECOME DlSORGA.-YIZE.D

t . When ce lis are disturbed, they become disorganized in an a trcmpt to deal with or adapt to the new (disturbed) environment. They weaken, die, or mutate.

3. As CELLS ATTEMPT TO ADAI'1', THE ENVIRONMENT IS COMPRQl,IJSJ;'O

t - Ruptured or dead cells give off exec" ac.-id. The new environment becomes a breeding ground for bacteria, yeast fungus, and molds.

4. Tttn l'NVlRO.'<ME!\T BECOMES POLLUTED

~ . Bacre.ria, yeast, fungus, and other ere a tures feed on your en erg)' stores and excrete acid waste, causing even more pollution, more disturbance, more disorganization, and more acids.

5. You DI1VELOP WHA'T' MOST PEOPLE THINK OF AS DEBILITATING DISEASE OR AGl1VG . The truth is, it's an acid problem that begins with disturbance.

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You don 't need a blood test to know you've. bu i I t up some toxicity and acid through your lifestyle until now, The best way to cleanse is to superhydrarc your system with plenty of fluids that are alkaline in nature. Green drinks, such as wheat grass or our INNER BALAKU, green drink product, will provide an instant boost to your alkalinity

THE THREE-STEP CYCLE OF REGAINING BALANCE

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Identify and break your destructive patterns. Stop indulging in negative emotions or eating acidic foods.

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Waler Oxygen/Breathing Vitamins & Minerals Live al kal i ne foods Exercise

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Hypercholesterol study: The National Institutes of Health followed an entire family whose cholesterol levels were over 450. After switching to an alkaline diet, one woman lost 50 pounds and lowered her cholesterol by 190 points in just six weeks. Seeing is Believing: I saw my own blood cells go from torn and leaking to healthy and intact. I fell better than ever, and saw the proof un dcr [he microscope with my own eyes,

Sean '.I' Wish: Remember Sean? Within twelve months, he went from being fragile and breakable to doing pushup, and sporting a "six pack" of abdominal muscles.

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STEf' I: CU:A SE YOUR SYSTf.M

Start cleansing right away by drinking plenty of water. Another way to do it is with high-alkaline green drinks, like wheat grass or ANTHONY ROBSJl\'S' INN~R BALAl\'n'" green drink. l-or more information about this and other INNER BALA'<CE products, all designed by Dr. Alex Guerrero, call: 877-GO-4-GREE (877-464-4733)

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IS ENOUGH?

Drink half your body weight in ounces every day. If you weigh 200 pounds, drink j 00 ounces of water.

STEP 2: I:>iTERRUPT DESTRUCTIVE PATTER S THAT UO '-T SERVE YOU

Write down at least three destructive patterns in which you've been engaging. Come up with one or two ways to interrupt each pattern the next time it arises.

DESTRUCTIVE PATTER?.,; EXAM PLE: I OFTEN GET ANGRY

PATTERN lNTERRI)PTS

WH!~ I 6EGtN TO FfEL ANGRV, I WILL TAn Ft~E D!EP 8RtAmS AND LI~I AT LE~ST THR~~ THINGS I'M GRATE FUL FOR IN MY LIFE

STEP 3: PROVIDE VOUR tWO\, WITI"! ITS vrrvi, NEEDS

Write a paragraph or two describing why you arc now committed to providing your body with the things it needs. What will it give you? What has not doing this up until now caused you to miss out on or lose in your li l'e"

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'-- Frustration, anger, resentment, depression-compare these emotions to joy, passion,

'-- contentment, excitement, and ecstasy! OUf lives are defined by the emotions we feel on a

daily basis. What we do is not based on om ability, our talent, or our skills. it's based upon ,--. how we feel. Most of IlS live our lives ill reaction to our environment. Our emotions are like L... the ocean-some days they're a brewing storm: other days they're as calm as they can be. This session is about laking control of thc most important and powerful part of your life: your

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L... Where do emotions come from') Whether we give ourselves positive, negative, Or neutral

L... feelings is determined by the rules we have and the meanings or interpretations we attach to events in our lives. What we feel is based not on OLLr experience but on our interpretation of

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1. Think about something you'd like to have happen in (he future and hope it will happen. Close your eyes and notice how it feels to hope. Do you see two different possibilities- having it work out and not work our?

L... EXERCISE: HOPE VS. CERTAINTV

2. Open your eyes, shake your body out a little, and get rid of that hoping feeling. ow close your eyes and think about this same thing you'd like to have happen, but this time expect it to happen. Notice how it feels and how this is different than hoping.

3. Open your eyes. What was the difference? You jus/ controlled your emotions!

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Day 5-Power of Emotions The Ten Action Signals

1. Uncomfortable

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2. Fearful

3. HUl"t

4, Al1g1:V

5. Frustrated
6. Disappointed
7. Guilty 0,. Regretful
8. Inadequate
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10, Lonely Change your state, clarify what you want, and take action in that direction,

GCI prepared, get ready to do something.

An expectation is not being met and you have a feeling of loss. Change your behavior Or your way of communicating your needs.

An important rule has been violated. Let the person know your standard may not be the same as theirs but you need their help.

Yo u need to change your approach !O achieve your goal

Your expectation may not be appropriate lor the situation at hand.

You violated one or your Own standards. You must ensure you won't violate it again.

You need to improve what you're doing or change. your criteria; your rules may be too bard to meet

You need to prioritize. List the things you want to accomplish in order of pri OI"i ty, then take act i on with the first item on your list.

• You need connection with people.

"NOTHlNG IN LIfE lIAS ANY MEANING EXCEPT THE MEANING YOU GIVE IT. IF YOU DON'T LIKE THE WAY YOU'RE FEELING, CHANGE THE MEANING."

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1, IO"I\TlFY TUE E.\lOTION !\NI) '\PPRI:CI!\TE THE MESSACE:

It's saying you have to change something.

2. CLARll'V'

• What is this emotion trying to tell me, what message is it offering?

• Do I need to chao ge my percept; on (the meaning) or my procedures (my communication or my behavior)?

J, GEr CURIOUS AND ASK QUf:STIONS:

How do I really want to feci? As soon as you identify what you want 10 feel" you're moving in the direction YOLI want 10 go.

What would I have ro believe ill order 10 feel that way now? What am I willing to do 10 make it the way 1 want it?

· What's great about this or what can I learn from this?

4. GbT CONFmENT:

Recall a specific time when you felt this emotion before lind somehow got over it. Rernem bering a I; me when you were ab le to deal with the emotion w; II reassure you that you call deal with it now.

S. GET CERT,IIN:

Imagine coming up with different ways of hand! ing thisemotion, If one doesn't work, try another, Rehearse until you reel confident.

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6, GET EXCITED ASIl n.KE ACTION~

Do something right away that shows you can handle this emotion, Express YOUI' emotion in a way that reinforces what you've rehearsed in your mind and changes the way you feel.

"WE MUST CULTIVATE OUR GARDEN," -VOLTAIRE

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THE TliN EMono '5 OF POWER

The best way LO get yourself to do something is to put yourself in an emotional Slate where that behavior becomes automatic. For example, the easiest way to have close relationships and do the thing, that make you feel close to other people, is to cultivate the emotion of being loving and warm. Here are 10 quick emotions to plant in your life on a daily basis. If you cultivate these emotions and focus on feeling them every day, you will plant the seeds of greatness in your lire.

l. LOl'C ami fVa/,11Ith
2. Appreciation ami Gratitude
3. Curiosity
4. Excitement and Passion
S. Determin arion
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Let's start using the Six Steps and the Ten Action Signals we've learned in this session.

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Day 5-Power of Emotions Utilize Your Action Signals

STEP 1;

MAKE A LIST OF ALL THE THINGS YOU CAN DO TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL GOOD.

Most people have only a few ways to feel good. Expand yOUT list and include things you can do at any moment inti me. 110 matter where you are, like ..

. Taking a deep refreshing breath Singing your

favor] Ie song Feeling gratefu I for love in you r life

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DISEMPOWERING EMOTTON EXAMN<S: OV~ RWH ~ 1M, PIS.APPOI ~IM,~T

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Day 6-Your Way to Financial Freedom The Power of Compounding

Obtaining the financial freedom and abundance YOLI deserve is easy. The secret to getting beyond scarcity is to start beyond it, by feeling a sense of abundance rigln now and living your life as if you already were financially independent.

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Gi ve yoursel f a compelling future that makes it impossible for you to fail. My must was the birth of my son and wanting 10 give him an extraordinary quality of life.

2. Get hungry

Stop blaming everyone else. Set your goals, make them a must, and commit to making the necessary chan ges now.

3. Add value to other people's lives

Remember, your income is in direct proportion 10 your contribution.

4. Don't be a victim of the "taU poppy syndrome"

Other people may want to chop you down to their size, but dou't let that happen!

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Compounding occurs when you invest money and allow it to continuously reinvest itself. With this strategy, you'll realize explosive growth beyond your wildest imagination.

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In an IS-hole golf game, if you bet just ten cents 00 the first hole and double your bet every hole thereafter, the last hole will be worth $13,107.20. No matter how little y(W start with, yo" must start now! If you wait until rh e third hole to begin, bett ing On fi fteen holes instead of eighteen, the total comes to only S 1 ,600.

Saving $150 per month ($5 a day) at a 15% annual return for 30 years yields $1,051,000. Saving $250 per month in that same period of time produces $7.8 million.

Investing $100 per month at your child's birth at a 15% rate of return results in $110.000 when the child turns nineteen. Leave it alone and it grows to $9.6 million when he or she is HgC 50, $32.9 million at age 60, and idSl:I million at age 70!

UPS deli veryman Ted Johnson never made more than 530,000 a year, but left 3 legacy of more than S 70 million I

Statistics show you're going to live a long time .. What are you going 10 do when you get there'! Handling your finances is critical, and compounding is the ticket, so start investing 11011'. If you're not willing to take a dime out of a dollar today, you won't be any more Ii kcly to rake a hundred tho usand out of a rni II i on later.

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Oay 6- Your Way to Financial Freedom

The Most Important Investment Decision You Will Ever Make

THF; v.~!'\JF. OF STOCI(S Long-term dependability

Since World War Tl, the best investment through time bas been the stock market, delivering a 12% rate of compounded return for nearly 50 years.

Sh ur't-tc rm flexi billty

Buying and sell ing stock, is fast and easy. It's much faster, for example than selling a piece of real estate.

SIR JOHN TEN£PLETON'S STHAT£(;V: "TtIREE BUCKET" ;\551':T AI.1.0CATIOl'i

Decide what percentage of your income to invest and allocate it into each of the following areas in a proportion that meets your needs and satisfies your risk tolerance. Hy determining your asset allocation in advance and sticking to your plan, you'll avoid the temptation of spur-of-themoment decisions.

1. Securrry Bucket

This bucket is for low-risk investments such as fixed-income (treasury bills, corporate bonds, motley market accounts) and equity (insurance policies, your home). The growth rate Oll these investments seems slow at first but compounds over time. What goes into this bucket should stay here-allow the profits to be reinvested,

2, Growth Bucket

This bucket is for higher-risk investments with more potential for growth, such as mutual funds, collectibles, real estate, and stocks. Reinvest onethird of the profits in yOlIT security bucket, one-third in your growth bucket, and one-third in your dream bucket.

Dream Bucket

',. This is the p lace to have some fun and save for the things you want in life, 1\ Whether it be u carl a yacht, a vacation horne, or a sports team, this bucket

lets you stan building toward YOl,r dreams and making them come true.

PAY YOURSELF FIRST!

Here's the best-kept secret to painless investing: lever see the money' Decide how much you wan! to invest, and have it deducted directly from your paycheck.

"GOLD AVOIDS TIIOSE UNWISE IN ITS USE:' -GEORGE S. CLASON

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Day 6-Your Way to Financial Freedom Twelve Strategies for Achieving Wealth

WHY PEOI'LE FAIL TO BECO:\fE WE,\LTliV: TWELVE FII"ANCUL TRAPS TO AVQ.lD I. They never define what wealth means to them.

2. They make wealth a moving target.

3. They define wealth in ways thai make il impossible to achieve.

4. They never even start.

5. They never make wealth an absolute must.

6. They don't have a realistic plan

7. They fail to follow through.

B. They make "experts" responsible for their decisions. 9. When faced with major challenges, (hey give up.

lO. They fail to conduct life as if it were a business.

11. They allow other people's emotions to affect the implementation oftheir plan.

12. They never get quality coaching.

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This pari is CHSy! JUSt do the exact opposite or the twelve financial traps:

I. Defi nc what wea Ith means to you-r-exactly what , v i 11 it take for you to fee I wealthy, 2" Lock that definition firmly in place. Don't keep raising the bar.

3. Make sure your definition is achievable.

4. Create a plan that is achieva b I e.

5. Make it 11 must for you by listing the reasons you must be wealthy.

6. Finalize your plan and work out the details.

7. Follow through 011 your pi HIl by laking i mmcdiate acti on toward its attai nrnent.

8. Make yourself responsible. Let experts coach you, bur don't abdicate your responsibility.

9. Don't give up when the going gels tough.

10. Make your life a business and expect a year-end profit.

I 1. Don't let other people's emotions control or cause you to deviate from your asset allocati on. 12. Get good coaching.

Finally, remember that real wealth comes from an abundance in. all areas: mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual. The real key [0 unlocking wealth is Just one thing .. gratitude. The '- moment you feel grateful is the moment you feel rich.

"THE WAY TO ACHIEVE SUCCESS IS fiRST TO HAVE A DEfiNITE, CLEAR PRACTICAL lDEAL-A GOAL, AN OBJECTIVE. SECOND, HAVE THE NECESSARY MEANS TO ACHIEVE YOUR ENDS-WISDOM, MONEY, MATERIALS, AND METHODS. THIRD, ADJUST YOUR MEANS TO THAT END." -ARISTOTLE

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Day 6-Your Way to Financial Freedom Decide, Deduct, and Dare to Dream

Your Assignment

8TE P 1: DECIDE HOW YOU' lIE GOING TO ALLOCATE YO UR ASSETS,

I'm going to invest % of my income,

I'm going to split my investments in this ratio (for example, 50150 or 60/40)

Security Bucket: %

Growth Buckel:

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STEP 2: MAKE IT A MUST FOR YOU, \VRITE A PARAGRAPH OR TWO ABOUT WHY YOU MUST BE WEALTHY AND WII,\T IT WILL DO FOR vou, YOUR FAMILY, YOLJR LIFE. WHAT WILL IT GIVE you? WHO WILL YOU BE'? \VHAT WILl. YOU DO WITH YOUR Wt;AI.TH'?

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'-- Everything on earth has a purpose-,and that includes you! Your purpose in life provides you

'-- with an inner drive that, once you tap inro it, can give you immense fulfillment and

'-- unlimited joy,

'-- YOUR P RPOSR II\" LIFE

does not change is eternal

is available to you each and every moment

THREE DECJSIO~S SHAPE YOUR LIFE

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'-- Everything you do has a consequence. What ultimately shapes your life, though, are the decisions you make, You call have (he life you deserve, where all your consequences arc '-- positive ones. How? By making these three decisions:

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1. Decide what tu focus 011

What you focus on determines how you think, feel, contribute. Choose an empowering focus in every situation.

2. Decide what things mean

Meaning is something you determine. You cannot control events but you can control what event's mean to you_

J. Decide what you will do when something happens

Remember, God's delays are not God's denials _ unless you give lip.

DrSCOVER rrrt SOl!RCr:S OF PAll\'

Whatever drives you shapes your life. Human beings are primarily driven by two things: the need to avoid pain and the need to gain pleasure. Pain can be useful, like when a child learns to stay away from 8 hal stove, or pain can be destructive. as it was for the woman who believed marriage equaled death.

\VHY AM I FUlLING THIS PA 1'1"

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1. What unique thing is happening when I feel this pain'!

2. What recent thing happens about the same time T feel the pain?

3. What COnSiSll!11I factor is present when I experience the pain?

If you're experiencing pain in any area of your life, these three questions can help you discover the source, decide whether it's helping or hurting you, and give you the information you need to create a deeper meaning.

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Day 7- The Purpose of Life The Power of B Compelling Future

How WILL You KNOW Yo R LIFE'S PURPOSE'? WHE Yo DECIDE WliAT IT IS!

According to the Massachusetts Department of Health, Education. and Welfare, the most important risk factor in dying of your first heart auack is job dissatisfaction. Make sure you have a deeper meaning for your Ii fe than "J 'rn on that grindstone again!"

Victor Frankl, a azi concentration camp survivor and author of Mall S Search for Meaning, found his purpose in his future. He vowed that somehow he would survive, share his story, and make sure that nothing like the Holocaust could ever happen again.

ear the end of his life, actor Michael Landon discovered a profound truth. In reminding people to live life to the fullest every minute of every day, he developed a compelling purpose for his final days.

Yo R P RPOSE I LIfE IS UP TO YoU

Are you being efficient or effective? Being efficient means doing things right. Being effective means doing the right things.

WHY OME PEOl'LE DON'T WIN THE GAME Of LIFE

So many people feel like they can't win the game of life. Why? For these seven reasons I . They don't know the purpose of the game.

2. ven though they don 't know the purpose. they have rules for themselves and everyone

else about how the game must be played.

3. Their rules are in conflict.

4. Even when they play by the rules, they don't always win. S. Sometimes they get rewarded for breaking the rules.

6. They have to work with other people who all have the wrong rules.

7. They think irs a Ii fe-and-death game. putting so much fear and pressure on themselves that they never truly live.

"Tius IS Till' TRUI' JOy I\" LIFE. TilL BU\"(j USED FOR A PURPOSI:

RECO(j:\17ED In' YOLRSELI· AS A MI(j][TY OSF: THE 131'I\"(j i\ H)RCE OF :\ATt:RF. INSTb\[) 01' A lTV ERI SH, SF.LFISII LITTLE QL:i\D OF A I 1.\1 F.1\TS A1\D GRIE\';\:'\(TS CO"lPLAI:-JI:-JU THAT THE WORl.D WILL :\OT DEVOTl' ITSEl.F TO "lAKING YOL' HAPPY."

-GEORGi: BERNARD SHAW

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They have fewer rules about how to be happy. Their rules arc consistent.

They give themselves pleasure whenever they win.

They give themselves short bursts of pain if they violate their sense of purpose in life. They know that everybody has different rules. Their relationships succeed because they try to understand the orh el" person's rules.

They don't take Ii Ie too seriously.

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I....... Don't wait for that glorious moment when you save sorneonc's life. Start saving a lire today by '-- enjoying the one you have. Find your purpose in something simple, like Cecil did, love people, ~ love animals, love beings, and make the world a little bit better just by being nice.

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SOMT.TT rES NOT CErn G YOlJR DREA,\-l GIVES You YOUR DESTJ};"

Doc Graham, in the film Field of Dreams, got to play baseball rOT only five minutes.

To him it wasn't a disaster . . but being a doctor for only five minutes would have been.

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Day 7- The Purpose of Life Discover- Your- Ufe's Pur-pose

Your Assignment

Life is about two things: being and doing. Ultimately, your destiny is about who you become and-what you do. To discover a greater sense or meaning I"OT your li Fe, follow these three steps and

start discovering your life's purpose.

STIeP 1: RJ::M£MllI!R WHAT YOtT WANTED TO BE. WUEN YOU "GRCW UP,," AND R£M~Mlllia THE TIMES WHEN YOU FELT LIKE Y01T WERE REALLV "ox A ROLL"

1. WHh your eyes closed, remember when you were five, six, seven years old. What did you want 1.0 be when you grew up? Why did you want to be that? What feeling did you hope it would give you"

2. Think of sorneth i ng el sc you wanted to be when you were growing up. Why did you want to be that? What feeling did you hope it would give you'!

WHE'l YOU WERE

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Wilat did you want 10 do?

Why did you want 10 do that?

What feelings were you hoping 1.0 get from that?

\1/110 were your role models?

I. w",ted t. b. '" m'Mo 109 ist, • pol i •• "Ii 'I, • ,.ok star, T.d.y I dig for the truth ,n' ""9 '"t with band!

I ike A.ro,m itO!

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J. Think of a third thing you wanted to be. Again, why did you want to be that') What feeling did you hope it would give you?

4. Now, with your eyes closed again, think about a time when you were really on a roll, where things flowed effortlessly, What were you doing, feeling, experiencing?

5. Think of another time you were on a roll, where you felt, "This is what life'> about."

What was happening" What were you doing, how were you feeling? Were other people involved? How were you being and what were yOll doing? Capture not only the idea, but the feeling a, well.

6. Think of a third time when you felt incredible, Notice what you were doing, creating, sharing, feeling,

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Day 7- The Purpose of Life Discover Your Life's Purpose

STEP 2: WRITE YOUR PURPOSE

Write a simple phrase, a sentence or two. It doesn't have to be perfect the first time. Keep brainstorming, writing several until you find the one that feels right.

YOUR PURPOSI1 STATEMENT MUST:

I. Be staled in the positive 2 Be brief

3. Include "emotionally charged" words

4. Tell how you're going to be, what you're going to do

5. Include yourself and others

6. Be achievable in your lifetime

7. Be a ble to be experienced every day

8. Make you happy ... really happy:

The purpose of my life is h

EXAMPLE:

The purpo •• or my I if. i. 10 b. fun, h.pVVo and grolef.l; 10 enjDI my [if. and share my love with other s.

STEP 3: Fon TflE NJ-:XT MONTH, KEEl' YOUR PURPOSE STAn:II-H: 'T Iii FRONT (W vou,

Put a copy in the system you use for managing your life, and hang another copy on 11 nearby wall. As you look at it each day, think about how you can Jive your purpose even more.

I ••• live my purpose eve. more by

"NCr! lIJNG CAN RESIST THE HUMAN WILL THAT WILL STAKE EVEN ITS EXISTENCE ON 1 rs STATFD PURPOSE." -BENJAMIN DISRAEL!

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Your Ritual for Lasting Energy, Happiness, and Success

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'-- Power each day. Every day you will build and strengthen your mental, emotional, and

physical muscles so that you become the conqueror of the challenges in life and achieve '-- the ulti mate rewards.

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Move and Breathe (5 Minutes)

Get grateful and visual i ze (10 minutes)

Use lncantauons and exercise (15, 30, or 45 Minutes)

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E very day and in every way, I'm getting stronger and stronger. Every day and in every way, f 'rn feeling better and better.

All I need is within me now.

1 love my life and 1 am so blessed.

Each day 1 live with more and more love, faith, and positive expectations. I am so young and I have my whole Ii le ahead of me.

I love myself-my mind, body, spirit, and soul.

1 am so happy and J can't stop smiling.

Nothing ra res as good as fit feels.

I am a lean, mean work out machine.

,,-, Or make up your own incantation:

Remember, listening to your Daily Magic CD will support you ill this process.

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DAY 1- THE KE Y TOP E RS 0 N ALP 0 W E R HARNESSING THE POWER OF DECISION

Making decisions and using your Personal Power, which is your ability to take consistent action, changes your life. This power is already within you and just needs to be awakened by first, igniting your desire and second, by showing yourself some simple, systematic strategies on how to get greater resu Its on a daily bus; s.

If you're dissatisfied with some area ofyour life right now, instead of getting frustrated, get exited. Because, until you get dissatisfied, you won't do anything to really take your life \0 another level.

No matter what's happened in your past, or how many times you've tried and failed. none of that matters because each moment is a fresh new opportun i ty.

1£ you want to create success ill your life, there are four steps:

1. Know your outcome.

2. Get yourself to take action by deciding to do so.

3" Notice what you're getting from your actions.

4_ Tf what you're doing is not working, change your approach.

THE ULTIMATE S CCESS FORM1JLA

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The biggest trap that keeps people frOI11 laking action is fear' fear 01" fa ilure, fear 0 f success, fear of rejection, fear of pain, fear of the unknown. The only way to deal with fear is to face it. Look it in the eye and take action in spite of it.

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It's not what we can do in life that makes the difference. It'5 what we will do. Often, we don't follow through because we don" know what we want, and when we do know, we're afraid to take action"

Why wouldn't you apply the same formula to yourself?

How long would vall give the (/vel"age baby 10 learn how 10 walk before YOII didn '( let him try IIny more?

"THE PAST DOES NOT EQUAL THE FUTURE." -ANTHONY ROBBINS

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DAY l-THE KEY TO PERSONAL POWER THE POWER OF MODEL1NG

SUCCESS LEAVES CLUES

To save lime and energy, use role models to accelerate the pace of your success:

I . Find someone who's already getting the resu Its you want.

2. Find cut what that person is doing.

3. Do the same things, and you'll gel the same results .

It's impossible to fail as long as you learn something from what you do!

Your Assignment

Never leave the site of setting a goal or making a decision without taking some action towards its attainment. That's how you create momentum and star! to tap into the real driving force within you.

Complete the two steps on the following pages to take action and create momentum now.

"I KNOW OF NO MORE ENCOURAGING FACT THAN TilE UNQlIESTIONABI E ABILITY OF

~I/IAN TO ELEVATE IllS LIFE BY A CONSCIOUS ENDEAVOR." -HENRY DAVID THOREAU

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DAY 1-THE KEY TO PERSONAL POWER TAKING ACTTON TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE

STEP I: MAJ<E TWO DECISIONS

What arc two decisions you've been putting off which, when you make them now, will change your life?

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What are three simple things you can do immediately that will be consistent with your two new decisions? Who could you call? What could you commit ro? What letter could you write? What could YOll do instead of your old behavior?

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"THERE'S ALWAYS A WAY-IF YOU'RE COMMII [ED." -ANTHONY ROBBINS

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'- \Ve will do far more to avoid pain than we will to gain pleasure. Pain is the greater motivator '- in the short term.

'-- To get what you want in your life, you have to figure out what stops you. Whenever you

'--- procrastinate, it's because you think that taking action would be more painful than doing nothing or not taking action. Conversely, sometimes if YOLI procrastinate for too long, it reverses on you: \ ..... " For example, if YOLI keep putting something off (like a term paper, or your taxes). you may get to '- a point the night before its due where you start to think that not doing it will be more painful than doing it. And then all night long, you experience the pain of getting the job done,

'-- You MUST LL,\RN TO CONTROL THE MOTIVATI~G FORCE,S OF PAl AND PLEf\SlJRE.

How can you use this understanding? At any moment in time, you mUST realize thai your rea lity is based upon whatever you fucus OIL In other words, whatever you focus your attention on is what. is most real to you.

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Therefore, if yo" wa.1II to change your behavior, yOll must /01:11.,· your attention 011:

I. How not changing your behavior wi II be more painful than changing it. 2. How changing it will bring you measurable and immediate pleasure,

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DAY 2-PAIN AND PLEASURE

UTlllZING PAIN AND PlEASUI{[ TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE

Your Assignment

USE PAIN AND PLEASURE INSTEAD OF ['[CTTlNG PM:" .""'D PLE.~Sl'RE USE: you!

To take control of your life, you must take control of the force of decision. The power to change ._ anything in your life is born the moment you make a real decision-which by definition is something that causes you 1.0 take immediate action. Take the following steps now.

STEP 1: LI T fOUR :-:b:W A£;T10l\S

What are four new action, you know you should take now?

WE ACCOMPLISH THINGS BY DIRECT INO OUR DESIRES, NOT BY [(iNORING THEM. -ANONYMOUS

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UTILIZING PAIN AND PL~ASUIU: TO CHANGE YOUR ljf~

STF.P 2: P,II'i YOU'VI< ASSOCIAn:D WITH FOLLOW(N(; THROU(;H

What is the pa in you've associated with these actions i II the past?

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'-- What is the pleasure you took from not following through in the past'!

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UTILIZING PAIN AND PLEASURE TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE

STEP 4: PAIN IF YOU DON'T fOLLOW HIROUGH

What will it cost you if you don't follow through now?

Sn:I' 5: PLLAS -RE IF vou IJO FOLLOW THROUGII

What are the benefits you'll gain by taking action ill each ofthese areas now? How wi II it en 11 ance your life? H ow wi II it create greater joy, happiness, success, freedom, or pride?

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'--- associate or "I i nk " to a situation in our nervous system is going to determine our behavior.

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L.... I. The science you're learning about in this program is Neuro-Associative Conditioning"

'--- (NAC). This system will allow you to link massive pleasure to tasks you've been putting off, but need 10 take action on today, and link pain to behaviors YOL/'rc currently indulgi n.g in but need to stop-both of which will help you tap into the

natural principles of your nervous system, The use of this program will give you a way to take direct centro 1 of a 11 your beha viers and emotions, but ill a way lha t si mp ly requires the power of reinforcement not discipline.

2. In tb i s sessi on, you I earned to ask yourse If, "What are some or the negative associations 1 'v'e made; II the past that II ave kepi me from /liking 'he actions I need to lake to achieve my ultimate desires?"

3. Your neuro-associations control your level of motivation.

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L Everything we think or do is a cause ser in motion.

2. Every oneof our thoughts and actions is going to have an ('fleel or reSU!1 in cur Jives. 3, Our results begin to "stack up" to take our lives in a particular direction.

4. For every direction, there is an ultimate destination or destiny.

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It's important for you now to begin to answer two questions: What is ym(l" ultimate destiny?

'--- Whm do YOII want your life 10 be about? While few people know precisely how their lives wi II L.... turn om, we can certainly decide in advance the ki nd of person we want to beco me and how we want to live our lives. Having this "bigger pict tire" can pull us through some of the sh ort-terrn '- tough times and keep things in perspective, allowing us to remain happy, fulfilled, and driven to '--- ach i en' our dreams,

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DAY 3-THE POWER OF ASSOCIATIONS EMPOWERING VS DISEMPOWERING NEURO-AsSOCIATIONS

Your Assignment

Decide you will change these today. Simple awareness can be curative. It can break the pattern or allowing our unconscious conditioning to control us,

STEP 1: TIiR!l[ £MPOWElIlNV' '~:URO-ASSOC[AnONS FROM YOUR PAST

What are three neuro-associations that you've made in the pas! that have positively shaped. your destiny?

STEP 2; THRE!; D1SEMI'OWERl.'I'V' NEURO-ASSOCIATIONS FROM vOLIn PAST

What arc three neuro-associations that you've made in the past that have disempowered you until now'!

"THERE IS NOTHING EITHER GOOD OR BAD, BUl THINKING MAKbS rt SO." -WILI.IAM SHAKESPEARl:

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,-DAY 4-THE THREE STEl'S TO LASTING CHANGE THE SCIENCE OF NEURO-ASSOCIATIVE CONDITIONING"

'-- TO change your life you must change your neuro-associarions. Three things must be

'- in place for you to make these changes and count on them to last. They are the three

fundamentals of NAC.

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To do this, three levels of responsibility that are necessary-you must decide the following:

Something must change. .I must change it.

I can change it.

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You must scramble the old pattern of thinking and feeling. This is best done by using something unusual, such as making a radical change in what you say or how you move your body.

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Install a new choice, and reinforce it unt-il it is conditioned. Any thought, emotion or behavior that is consistently reinforced will become a habit (3 conditioned pattern). Link pleasure to yo LIT IlC,V choice. Reward yourself emotionally for even small progress, and find yourself developing new patterns quickly.

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Get a weight-loss buddy and promise him or her and a group of other friends Ihal you will begin a strict regimen of healthy food and enjoyable exercise. Fu riner commit to Hum Hlat if you bras k your prom lse, you wHI eat a who Ie oan of Alpo dog food.

BREAK YOUR PATTERN

Here is a bizarre, outrageous, and effective way to get leverage and break your pattern:

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(From Giant Sfeps ©1994 by Anthony Robbins)

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DAY 4-THE THREE STEPS TO LASTING CHANGE THE SCTENCE OF NEURO-ASSOClIlTIVE CONDlTiONTNG"

Your Assignment

For each of the four actions you listed yesterday, do the following

STEP 1: GET LEVER,\Gti

Ten reasons why r must change now, and why 1 know I can do it:

STr:!' 2: INTERRUPT YOUR OWN PATTERN

Four or fivc ways to gel myself out of the limiting associations;

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Give yourself a sense of accomplishment and exhilaration, pride, or joy each lime you do this. Do it consistently and rapidly until each lime you think of this new pattern you feel good automatically.

"WHAT IS NECESSARY TO CHANGE A PERSON IS TO CHANGE HIS AWARENESS OF HIMSELF." -ABRAHAM H. MASLOW

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C(HIPRLI .. ING GO.US CONTAIN TWO KEY COMPONENTS; Identi fy YOLn goals: What do you walll?

Something magical happen, when you take generalized impulses of desire and start defining them more precisely.

Identify your purpose: Why do yo" want it? What will it give you?

Reasons come first: answers come second. When you get a big enough reason to accomplish something, you can figure out how to do it.

Your Assignment

As you listen to the real-time goal-setting workshop, follow the instructions and use the following pages to record your goals.

At the end of the session, take these three additional steps:

STEP 1; Keep your top nine goals and the reasons you are committed to achieving them in front of you on a consistent basis. Put them inside the cover of your Journal or someplace where you will sec them every day.

STEP 2: Never leave the site of seuing a goal without taking some action toward its attainment. For each of your top nine goals, write down one action you can lake immediately to make initial progress toward achieving it. Take that action today!

STEI' 3: Take the rocking chair test: Imagine yourself much older, sitting in your rocking chair and looking back on your life, first as if you had not achieved your goal, then imagine that you have achieved it. Experience the pain that would come from not doing it, and the pleasure that would come from accomplishing your goal.

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DAY 5-THE GOAL-SETTiNG WORKSHOP How TO CREATE A COMPELLING fUTURE

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT Go,U.S

List your personal development goals. Next to each one, write down the time within which you are committed to accomplishing it (i.e., 1, 3, 5, 10,20 years),

DAY 5-THE GOAL-SETTING WORKSHOP How TO CR.EATE A COMPHLJNG FUTUR.E

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Identify your top three personal development goals. For each one, write a paragraph telling why you arc absolutely committed to achieving this goal now.

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TI'IINGS GOALS

List YOLir things goals. Next to each one, write down the lime within which you arc committed to accomplishing it (i.e., 1, 3, 5, 10, 20 years).

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List your economic or financial goals. Next 10 each one, write down the time within which you are committed to accomplishing it (i.e., 1, 3, 5, 10, 20 years).

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UNLEASHING THE POWER Of YOUR. SIX HUMAN NEEDS

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UNLEASHTNG THE POWER OF YOUR STX HUMAN NEEDS

THE STX HU'VIAN NeeDS

All people h~YC the sarne problems because we all have the same six human needs. These needs are paradoxical-they seem to be in conflict with one another Serious problems can arise when we choose destructive tools 01 vehicles to try to satisfy these needs. Instead, we CAll choose to establ i sh new patterns 0 f fulfill ing our needs tha I wi 11 move us rapi dly toward Ii lc mastery .

I. Certainty/Com fort ~. Signi ficancc

5. Growth

2. Uncertainly/Variety 4. Connection/Love

6. Contribution

. To 610 rur.rn.i.eo, WE ~1UST CONSISTENTLY -"leE I 'IHESE SIX HUMAN NEEDS:

ALL HUMAN BRINGS HAVE THR NICRD FOR:

1. Cer talnty/Comtort

For most people, certainty equals survival. As you heard in this session, when r was faced IV ith the. news of a pituitary tumor, it had a powerful effect on my level of certainty. We all need a sense of certainty that the roof will hold above our heads, the floor will hold beneath our feet, and thar we can avoid pain and gai n plea sure.

How do we meet the need for certainty? Some people try to achieve it by reaching for things that make them certain they can be comfortable: food, drugs, alcohol, or cigarettes. Others find it by submersing themselves in their work or by trying to control everything around them-their environment or other people. These are usually Class 3 experiences (they may feel good for the moment but are not good for you, not good for those around you, and do not serve the greater good).

On the other hand, using your internal courage or faith to ach i eve certa inty wo uld be a Class 1 vehicle. When you're feeling courageous, when you're using your faith, you tend also to do those things that serve the greater good.

How do you try 10 get certainty ill your Ii fc? List sOllie ofthe ways you II)' It) he certain y01l call be comfortable, avoid pain. and gail! pleasure.

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Heres the paradox, though. When you become totally certain, when things are completely predictable, you satiate this need and become b-o-r-e-d. And so while we want certainry, we simultaneously want a certain amount of ..

2. Uncer-rain ty/Vaetery

Everyone needs variety, a surprise, a challenge to feel fully alive and experience fulfillment. With too much certainty, we're bored. Likewise, with too much variety, we become extremely fearful and concerned.

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Choosing the wrong vehicle only leads to pain.

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There's a delicate balance between these two needs that. must be struck for us to feel truly fulfilled. We need a degree of certainty in our lives to appreciate the variety. Some people choose negative ways of getting variety. like using drugs or alcohol to change their emotional states or the way they feel. Others choose neutral vehicles, like

watching movies. Still others use positive vehicles, like stimulating conversation and opportunities to learn.

How do you try to get variety in your life'! Li~1 some of the pO.I·' live way., you try 10 create surpri S(', challenges, and diversity in youI' life.

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3. Significance

We all have II need for sign i fi cancc, th c sense that we are uniq tie in some way, tha t our lives have a special purpose or meaning. We can try to meet this need through destructive vehicles-for example, making ourselves unique by rnanulacturing a bel i ef thar we're better than everyone else or by developi ng extreme pro b I ems that set us apart. Medical science now shows that some people have even developed the subconscious ability to rna ke them sci yes i II in order 10 gain the caring artenrion of others. This would clearly be a Class 4 experi ence.

Some people develop uniqueness by earning more money. having marc "toys," going 10 school and achieving more degrees, or dressing in a unique way and having a certain sen se of sty lc. Some choose to live lives of extraordinary service, a positive Class 1 experience that may feel like Class 2 at limes.

How do you try to get significance ill your life? Lis: some DIllie thing.' you do th a! make YOIl feet unique needed, fnlfilled, or significant,

We all need \0 feci unique. But paradoxically, 10 feel unique we have [0 separate ourselves from other people. If we feel [Mally unique, we feel different and separate, wh ich violates our need for.

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All human bei 11 gs 11 ecd to feel connected with oursel ves as well as others with whom we can share our love.

Til meet th i s need, you can join a group OI a club that has a positi ve purpose. Some peep I e joi n gangs, which have negative purposes bur still provide that sense 0 r connection. Some people feci immediate connection by aligning with their Creator and feeling like they're being guided, People will steal, take drugs, or drink excessive amounts of alcohol to be part of a group and feel a sense of connection, Others wi II perform 'a I extraordinary levels in ordei to be accepted, I ovcd, or connected to a

high -per fo rman c e team,

As wi tb a IJ si x human needs, if you give consistently that which you wish to receive, you will tend to get it back from others.

How do you try to get connection and love in your life? List some ofthe ways' you try 10 feel connected to yourself to others, 10 your CI"('O/or

These fi rst four need, are the fundamental needs, The next two are the primary needs that must be met for you to feci totally fulfilled as a person.

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S. GRO\ Til

Growth equals life. On this planet. everything that is alive is either growing or dying. It doesn't mailer how much money you have, how many people acknowledge you, or what you have achieved ... unl css you feel like you're g rowi ng, you wi II be un happy and unfulfi lied. But you must also be able to experience the euphoria of meaningful.

6. CONTRIIJ nON

We all have a deep need 10 go beyond ourselves and to live a life that sen es the greater good. In the moments that we do this. we experience true joy and fulfillment.

ontributing not only to others but to our elves is a meaningful action, for we cannot give to others that which we do not have. A balance of contribution to oneself and to others, especially unselfish contribution, is the ultimate secret 10 the joy that so many people wish to have in their lives.

How do you try 10 get growth and contribution in YOLlr life? Li::>"1 some of tile things YOII do to obtain the feeling thot you ore growing and contributing+to yourself, 10 others, to the world 01 large.

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Your Assignment

lf there is anytbiog you love 10 do (and you could do for hours) that others find difficult, I can promise you it's because this activity meets nil of your need at II high level. Iryeu find a few vehicle. that meet all si: of your needs. you'll find your elf full of drive and YOLl'11 knov what to do to achieve your goals. And it 311 starts with awareness=-you must b 'come aware of why you're doing what you're doing and fillU a new patrern for fulfillment.

I, whars ~omcthing you love to do, something you feel compelled 10 do, somcrhing rhat

feels effortless for you? _

On a 0-10 scale, how much doc. Ihis activity meet your need for:

Certainty Uncertainty aricty

'ignific:mce .onnecrioi Love

Growth 'olltribulion

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On 3 0-10 sea le, how much doc. this act ivity meet your need for:

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3. Write down something you don't like to do but have 10 do (a Class: 2 experience 111~1 doesn't feel good hut is good for you, good for others, and serves the greater good),

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£RT .... I:-;'I'l': IV/WI could I do or believe to make lI,i"A"i"g abolfllhi:i activityfeel not

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THE POWER Of A R£ LTS-FOCU ED LIFE

We live in a world in which there are more demands placed upon us than at any other lime in human history, We try 10 fill so man)' roles: rhc ulrirnare falher, the ultimate mother. II '- greal lover. best friend to the world, community activist, spirirual being, and tOlal athlete. orne of us manage !O em. s off cvcrything on our to-do lists-yet still feel unhappy and unfulfilled, as ~ if we have no freedom, we have no life. we have no lime. Oh, if only we had more lime'

But what is irne? Time is nothing but ;1 feeling. I r you \ am more lime, you simply need to '- manage your feelings. Haven't you had periods in your life when time flew. when you had no stress. when everything seemed \0 !low effortlessly? And haven'! )'OU also had moment when - lime stood still. \ hen c cry second was all eternity"! It isn't time IIl .. t causes rre 'S; it' the

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What you focus on determines how you feel. and the question you ask yoursel f control your focus. The Rapid Planning Method. or RPM. i 3 simple sy tern of rhlnking thai creates exiraordinary results and an amazing level of personal fulfi IImenr. RPM will help you do two things:

Decide in advance what you want to focus on.

Gel yourself 10 focus every single day on what il will lake for you 10 get the results you're rcully after,

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Wha! do I really want? Whal is 1Il)' ourcornc? Whm is rhe pecific result t '11) committed to achieving?

Why do I really want it? What is my purpose'.

What specific actions must J take 10 make this happen? What is Illy 18. ivc Action Plan (MAP),?

Purpose: 'lAP:

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DAY 7-THE RAPID PlA NI 'G METHOD THE POWER. OF CHUNKING

TH POWER 0 ... CHUt"KINC

Tile simplest chunking is ill grQups of three. Mo·t phone numbers are chunked into three parts (area code. prefix, lasl four digits). So are social security numbers. I\"OSI people even

ha e three names=-first. middle. and last. It's much easier to remember three "chunks" thnn to remember ten digits or a Siring of letters.

With the RP 4 system. you can easily chunk your to-do list from twelve items intothree or four resutts or outcomes and create a RPM block: a result, a purpo ·C. and a set of action items.

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hunking (chunk' in!; v .. grouping information together into ideally sized pieces that can be used effectively to produce the result you want without stress or overwhelm,

In this session, you heard about Elvis. who decided [0 solve hi' weiglu problem by adding a IO-mile run 10 his to-do list. Elvis focused on this action item instead of establishing a clear pie urc of what he really wanted=-te lose 20 pounds. There were man other ways ElviS could have achieved his outcome if he'd known what he really warned. He needed III create a RPM block us ins these questions:

What specific result am I committed [0 achieving' What's my purpose?

Wha! actions do I need [{I lake'?

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I. What arc the 6-8 most important areas of your tire that you must make progress in every week','

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What two actions can YOII take'! Who do you needtc call. what do you need 10 schedulerwhat can you do right away in each of these areas'!

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