WHY 'GOOD' WOMEN MARRY 'BAD' MEN / 01

1st Printing 2009

Why 'good' women marry 'bad'men.

Copyright © Olufemi Fasanya (i) Phone No: +234(0)803 725 7479, +234(0)808 390 6405

(ii) E-mail:

relationshipmatters@gmail.c om

(iii) Website:

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si ngles. blogspot.com

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STORY LINE

Interestingly, one should

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expect that as a male writer, I should write on why 'good' men get married to 'bad' women (someday I know I will be tempted to do a write up on that); however, I chose these write up because I really sympathize with women who find themselves in the hands of wrong men. The emotional impact of a failed relationship, tells more on females than their male counterparts.

I heard that in a research done by an individual in one of the

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psychiatric hospital in the western part of Nigeria (not confirmed though) that 70% of the female inmate got there because of a wrong choice of relationship with the opposite sex. They either caught their husband with their sister in bed or with their best friend or with other women, etc. Women are also known to attempt suicide because they got dumped by the men they gave their heart to. So it is out of concern for the female gender that I am doing this. To

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get to my point, I will like to tell a story that I pieced together from different women I have counseled over the years, so it is really not a story of any particular individual but a combination of many people ...

Lara is a lady that you will readily love at first sight; brilliant, loving, caring, and respected in the community she lives in with her parents.

Right from her early years, she

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has always being altruistic in nature. She spent time twice in a week to do community service by taking care of the aged in the home built for them. She took time to cook their lunch, do their laundry and listen to them talk to her about those issues that are pressing in their mind.

In church also, she was involved in every activity that will promote the gospel of Christ. She was actively involved in the children's

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department, loving the children attending her denomination with all of her heart. She was voted many times as one of the people in the church who had affected their lives one way or the other positively.

She finished with a good grade in the university; got a well paying job and all went well for her until she got married to Peter. Then everyone seems to notice that she has become a shadow of herself; she had

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lost that glow she always carried. Now she cries and lives in constant regret of getting married, to a husband whom she never believed will turn out to be a beast. He had physically molested her on many occasions, beating her up until she ended up with bruises all over.

To some single women, the story is a true life picture of the heartlessness of some men, since they may have gone through similar ordeal in

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the hand of the men they loved. To other singles (especially women) these question will pop into their minds; how could such a lovely lady like that have gotten married to such a beast? The answer to this question is the reason for this book. There is a need for women who are not married to be sensitive and to seek knowledge before giving their consent to a marriage proposal.

Some' DI'lE! said, "1'0% of the- femele inmate in one- o~ the psychi'atri;[ hQ!spiiJi:aU in Nige,riia n got there DE!CcU:J.oE of a wrortJ.g cheice of lfei.arlliolll5,'hUp with the· OpPlJlsiiile SE'J![", I n this bClo~ mllJfemi FaSi!l1l'f8 wrote 0111 tha need for sil'1l.glE! ~ad'io2',5 to tread the pa~h of f-elatilJ'nship witJh care bacausa of the emoticnal impact irI: makes in Itheur lives,

This hook C'OliitaifIJ5_._

... A stOll')' tJhat"DUI calli reialJ:iE! with.

.. Re',as,cns wtly ',good' womenl marry ; b\Clldl' men

- Th@'i" a,IUClw th e'ill'E! rn ntlon to rullll

lhaywlilfE!

- Wrong iniTormaho-n

- falLlltv mind set

- Being le.a by the 'Spirit"

- Wrong assumpticn

- How they perc,e ilo'e the-ir parents'

maniages.etc.

.. The missing key

Q.u D'tES: from Pastor Biil:1llJbo .lJdlllkCiya, Re'll'E!lfe:nd 5am .Ade-vemu. Pastl[lT Sam .A.j:aJl1Ia, ate,

W'hat y.c:u d'D'ndt leam bJl' truth, you wiii learn by E!JCjp@rienre: exp.eri'enc,e often l'eav'E!s.llill~niF1g 5U1ir:5 [behind,

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