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Destined For Success Dream Bigger
By J. Success
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ISBN: 1438208669 EAN-139781438208664 IamSuccess Books ©2008 IamSuccess LLC Written by J. Success Arranged by Demetra Caston Edited by Ericka Andrews This publication is designed to provide motivational and inspirational information. All scriptures are from the New International Version of the Bible. Printed in the United States of America. All rights reserved under International Copyright Law. Contents and/or cover may not be reproduced in whole or part in any form without the express written consent of the Publisher.
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Ty. Justen. Mom. Jasmine. Johnny. Nick.This book is dedicated to the people who made such an impact in my life that I had to write about them. Jerry. Jaylynn. Barry. Shara. Chelle. Rob. Pierre. Cliff. Darryl. Greg. Demetra. Will. Darryn. Jordyn. Shaun. Let’s Get It! Destined For Success . Anton. Tony.4 . Carla.
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do you have it? Victors versus victims Awakening/Revelation I will not lose Dream Bigger When opportunity knocks IamSuccess 6 12 16 19 22 24 27 29 32 39 41 44 50 53 54 56 60 64 64 70 73 78 Destined For Success . success Attitude is everything Confidence.6 . faith. vision.Table of Contents Introduction Misconception Tombstone Mentality Dissatisfaction Where are you going in life? What motivates your life? Why me? God I love you but I'm not comfortable 3 reasons God lets us go through hard times Seeking Perspective The stages of a man You control your destiny Destiny. purpose.
R. Destined For Success .A. what would they say 80 80 84 86 89 91 96 99 10 0 10 4 10 5 10 9 10 9 Bonus P. write it down Develop a "whatever it takes" attitude Everyday make progress Truthfully Speaking Be Accountable Manifestation You the Brand Each One Teach One If you died.Application Self Development Develop a plan.7 .Y.
The Successful Thinker. I felt like this was a good time to put all the articles I had into a book and let even more people in on how I handled successes. they were more of a running diary of my mindset. These articles captured my thoughts at that particular time and helped me relive some great and not so great moments in my past. As I read through my previous articles I started to reflect on the decisions I had made in the past and the emotions I had at those times. In my newsletter. As I continued to read through the articles I started to realize they were telling my story very accurately. these articles became more than just monthly thoughts. With that being said. situations and circumstances at that particular time.8 . welcome to Destined for Success. When I looked at the articles as a whole I started to see a timeline coming together. As you read through this book you will see my previous articles written in Verdana font size 11. failures and starting from scratch in the pursuit of success.Introduction One day I was looking back through some of the articles and newsletter that I had published because I was trying to find articles to submit to a particular magazine. with the rest of the book written in Times New Roman size 12. Destined For Success .
I played high school sports (basketball) and excelled and I went to college and excelled. I never felt like a failure. I did believe I was unique in the sense that I was created to do something great in life but for the most part I thought I was a regular guy. try to get your life back to normal or change your life for good. finances. I felt that my life was very similar to any typical middle class kid making his way in life. The problem that arises when you choose to be successful is where do you start. and what happens if it doesn't work? Have you ever wondered what was going through the minds of successful people prior to them making it big? Have you ever wondered what it was like for successful people to fail and not have things go their way and how they responded to that failure before they were prosperous? I know I have wondered many times if people Destined For Success . my career. When you are living a normal life and the unexpected happens you are faced with two decisions. By the time I sat down to write this book I had been laid off 13 jobs in 6 years and had 2 businesses fail but for some reason.I never thought I was that much different from most people. I realized that in order to be successful I had to take control of the things around me that mattered most. I could have made my life normal again and went back to doing the same things I was doing before but for some reason I didn't like being powerless with regards to my career and financial capabilities. I went to high school and excelled. I pretty much excelled at everything I put my mind to and when I stepped into the corporate world I excelled there as well and was making good money until I was laid off in 2002. spirituality and relationships. I played little league sports (football and basketball) and excelled.9 . I admit I had a few pity parties for myself but they were the exception not the norm.
or the like. Destined For Success . Likewise the definition of success is: • The favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors. • To appoint or ordain beforehand. If that were the case then success would be the grave because that is where we all will be eventually. purpose. predetermine. the people we help and the progress we make towards walking in the purpose that we were created to do. • The attainment of wealth. honors. as by divine decree. foreordain. etc. Success is not measured by where you end up. Success is measured by the obstacles we overcome. • A person or thing that is successful.such as Donald Trump or Bill Gates ever questioned what they were doing or if they would ever make it. position.. There are 7 steps that many people go through in their pursuit of success in life. intend.10 . I know I have wondered many times if Michael Jordan ever wanted to give up basketball prior to making it in the NBA and did he cry when he didn’t make the basketball team his freshman year in high school? I basically want to know what they were thinking at the moment they decided to believe that they could make it and that nothing would stop them. According to the dictionary the definition of destined: • To set apart for a particular use. when they realized they were destined for success. • A successful performance or achievement. design. the lessons we learn.
This phase is where people start to seek answers to their questions in life as well as solutions to their dissatisfaction. Many people get to this point in life and find that they can either dictate life or let life dictate them. motivational media. Awakening/Revelation . We start to realize that things don't just go the way we want. that people take in finding their purpose in life. 3. Unfortunately.This phase is the "normal" life that many people live. that life isn't easy and that our life doesn't resemble the dreams we had growing up. Dissatisfaction . Therefore we hope from the couch. we won't get up and grab the remote and turn the channel of our lives. They not only have sought out their path but also realized that by walking this path they are essentially stepping in a destiny that is greater than us. this is also the time where most people get lost because there are many different options.1.11 . good and bad.This phase is where people start to believe and see who they really are in life. Misconception .This phase is where we start to become dissatisfied with the life we have. Destined For Success . They see they were created for greatness and can make a unique impact on the world. We hope that something great will happen to change our lives. we hope we will win the lottery. This is usually the time in life when we start to try different solutions such as religion. 4. This is when "just good enough" is what we live in our daily lives and since we believe it is the norm. life/business coaching and other methods that we feel will help us find what our life lacks. We live on the hope factor. we don't strive for anything more. self-help books. we hope that God will drop down blessings from heaven but we do nothing to make it happen. 2. The problem with this phase is that most people are comfortable here so therefore they don't see a reason to change. Seeking .
A business that may have been started actually makes some money. this is where we start to apply the things we have learned (or are learning) such as religious beliefs. if you have great wealth then financially help others. A person who tithes sees an actual financial increase or an author sees someone actually buy a book he wrote. talents and abilities are tied into their purpose and how to apply what they have to impact this world. Here is where dreams start to come true. 5. Manifestation . Each one teach one . and other skills that will help the individual walk in his or her purpose. This is the time where we see people taking the initial steps of greatness.12 . leadership principles. 6. If you have great knowledge then teach others. Destined For Success . then they have truly reached a level of greatness where they can leave a lasting legacy for all to admire. 7.This phase is where people realize that in order to have a great legacy.This phase is where people start to talk the talk and walk the walk. business principles. read their words and somehow interact with them on a more personal or business level. businesses get started. When a person realizes that their gifts. Application . plans get written and numerous ideas start to flow. the ultimate goal is to give back what you have acquired.This phase is where people start to see their application reap benefits. talents and abilities were given to them not only for their benefit but also for the benefit of others. The masses start to take notice of an individual's new skills and therefore want to hear him speak.They start to understand how their gifts. Also. We start to talk differently and do things that are geared towards a destiny and not for self fulfillment. This is where people close to us such as family and friends start to notice a change.
the small changes that you make now will provide huge benefits in the great future that awaits you. decisions. I will ask and answer many of the questions that people want to know during their pursuit of a better life (When you think about your future.Many people have many different stories about their pursuit of success and what they had to go through in order to rise above the rest and attain their goals. I will provide insight into what I was thinking while on the journey and how it has impacted my current lifestyle. Destined For Success . Let's take a walk. actions. what do you see? Do you see yourself becoming someone great in life or do you see nothing at all?). but also help you take steps in your journey towards success. Therefore.13 . I would like to invite you on a journey that will not only fill you in on my thoughts as I was pursuing success. The lives that we lead today are a culmination of yesterday's thoughts. accomplishments and consequences. words.
My college life was the shelter that most college kids have. Versatility.14 . when you are young. I did have a skill that would last me a lifetime and that was versatility. I didn't have the vision to see a bigger future for myself because no one around me had achieved greater things. I forged friendships that have lasted a lifetime and I learned relationship lessons that gave me a whole different perspective in life. I saw myself working my way up someone else's corporate ladder. in my case. my mom always made the situation appear easier than it was. I knew both sides of the school social class growing up. I just had a knack for being versatile enough to walk in and out of many circles. meant that I was able to be a geek as well as cool. I saw myself as doing something great but it was all within the parameters of what I saw other people doing. I was friends with geeks who would study all the time and I was friends with athletes who could care less about grades. For example. I always knew I would have a good future. have fun and learn all the social skills needed to interact with people different from yourself. Therefore.Misconception Growing up I always felt that my life was as good as I needed it to be. I was on the chess team and the basketball team. I didn't see myself owning a corporation because no one I knew owned their own business. I always had good things going on in my life and when the few bad things occurred (like my dad leaving or money being tight). I didn't see myself writing books because no one I knew had written a book. maybe become a top VP in a company making lots of money or something like that. I got straight A's and I hung with the cool crowd. I saw myself Destined For Success . you don't plan for a great future you just hope it happens. I wasn’t concerned about the future because where I’m from. The lifestyle where you pay a few bills but for the most part you go to class.
Anyhow. but then again how would I know that. Times were great. I worked at this company for about 6 months before I was laid off for no apparent reason. This job was what I considered the best job I had ever had. I was on a team of web geeks like myself who were just out of school and liked to work hard and play hard. I was hired to be a Java developer and still to this day have no idea how I convinced the person interviewing me that I was qualified for that position. Now I know that when you sign up for a job you are supposed to get your work done and meet your job requirements but I didn't know that you could be fired due to the company not being able to find work for you to do. I felt this was the best job of my life because I enjoyed what I did and I was paid more money than I had ever had. Not that working in the computer field was a bad thing because when I got my first job out of school in 2000 I received a salary of $50.15 . When I started my career the dotcom craze was still going wild and people were hiring at a break neck pace. I didn't understand why I had to lose my job based on their budgets.000 which was more than anyone I knew made. I was the best person Destined For Success . It would be the first of many jobs that I would talk my way into without any prior experience. I believe the reason given was lack of work. I wasn't saving much money because I always figured I would start saving later when I was done spending.limited to doing what I went to school for. Everything was going fine and I was living what I considered the "American Dream" until about December 2001 when the boss called me into his office. I was told that I was going to be laid off (again) for no reason except budget cuts. After a short search I obtained a better job in November 2000 that paid more and was located in downtown Chicago.
That wasn't part of the plan. I took a month just to get myself together before I started looking for another job. Destined For Success . I lost myself. If I went to school. I just didn't understand why I was laid off. I followed the rules that I was given and it seemed to work to perfection. What I didn't know at the time was that I was still dependent on a job. no one hired me. It took me a few years to actually realize that businesses are only concerned with one P and that's profit. I was laid off for the second time in May 2002 and when I walked out for the last time. I was the first to get laid off. I not only lost my job. I would have a job. no one told me that I could be fired for no reason. I was the highest producer and I got the most work done but for some reason. All I kept thinking to myself was just stay positive and keep putting your resume out. I would interview with many companies and talk to numerous hiring managers and they would tell me that I was a good candidate but for some reason. This dependency on the system as well as the lack of knowledge of any alternative ways to bring in income made me feel almost worthless because after months of looking. If I had the skills someone would hire me. was no longer there.on the team. I still had no job and no income. My great paying job. not people. I was now dissatisfied with my life and looking for answers. Many interviews would look promising but none would turn into jobs. I realized that something was greatly wrong with my life. dependent on a system that I was taught would take care of me as long as I did what I was supposed to do. got the great job and made good money. I went to school.16 . which defined my whole existence at that time. someone will recognize your talent and hire you.
I didn't blend in and become unnoticeable.Questions I was asking myself at this time: Why was I fired when I was the best person on the team? Answer: Even though I was doing the most work. I refused to continue living like that. My financial ignorance was exposed when I made a substantial amount of money and had nothing to show for it after a few years of working. Money was the main issue here and I made too much. What am I supposed to do now that I don't have a job? Answer: Most people say get another job but I had a problem with being fired. I made a lot of money and spent a lot of money.17 . I also worked the most hours therefore I had to go because I cost the most to the budget. I stood out based on my hours and production. I gave control of my future to my employer and it was unacceptable to continue living like that. When I had extra I came up with ways to spend it because I thought that I would always be employed. Many people depend on a job to make ends meet and still feel like they are in control of their lives. Why hadn't I saved any money? Answer: I was taught what the education system and my mother thought I needed to know. I was conditioned to live check to check because that's how my family lived. I was taught how to get a job but not how to deal with money. Destined For Success . In reality. The worst part of it was that I didn't even know where to look for financial answers because I was trying to solve a problem that no one had ever addressed in my life. Many employees think this is a good thing but when layoffs come this is a bad thing. their job controls their lives because if you are fired then your whole life changes.
18 . the budget fell through or we're just not hiring right now. let me explain what "Tombstone Mentality" means and then I will show you ways to point it out in people's lives. Those answers just didn't make sense to me at that time. When I was looking for a job I found out that these things played a role in my ability to find a job. why won't anyone hire me? Answer: I was looking for a job while the economy was in recession. Since on a tombstone your whole life is represented by a dash. things I have accomplished and the overall inner peace that I have. they wonder how I got to this point as well as how they can get there also. When they see the confidence I exhibit. Did I have what was referred to as a “Tombstone Mentality?” Answer: The article I authored titled “Tombstone Mentality. I never had to learn about things such as economic recessions. the way I speak. Their life started with their date of birth and ends with the day they stop breathing.Why can't I get another job. they don't believe Destined For Success . I continued to interview and show potential employers that I had the technical expertise to do what they needed but I continued to hear things like. First. what I call "Tombstone Mentality?" I am addressing this question because I come into contact with many people at different stages of their lives. Why do so many people have. employment markets and financial indicators. The person with a tombstone mentality believes that his/her life is only defined by what appears on a tombstone.” Tombstone Mentality I would like to address a topic that plagues the majority of people we meet these days.
Many people continually complain about what's wrong with their lives and why they are not satisfied with where they are.19 . talkers and doers. Now let's look at the examples of "Tombstone Mentality" 1. See there are two types of people in the world. Complaining seems to have become the norm in our. See complainers like to complain but they won't make any changes because that would take them out of their comfort zone. Instead of thinking that shooting for the stars will only lead to rejection. “I didn’t make the stars but at least I landed on the moon. Doers don't have time to complain. they will just complain and go back to the comfort of living beneath their means and Destined For Success . Complaining about life instead of taking steps to change it. Many people who don't achieve anything in life are comfortable with a certain amount of failure. That narrow minded thinking right there is the downfall of many people because it leads to a life of lack. they are too busy making things happen. Doers only talk about what they are going to do. then realize they are just announcing what they are about to do in a way that a complainer can understand. If you ever hear a doer taking time to complain.” Rejection is a characteristic of fear. their thoughts should be. which in turn inhibits progress. non fulfillment and misdirected guidance. Until complainers are fed up with their situation. changing their lives and enhancing their situations. Now talkers complain much and even offer solutions but do not have the ability to make them come to pass.that life is more than a dash. Very seldom will you find a person complaining and then doing something about it.
The things we do today.settling for a settled for existence. They cannot see outside of their current life problems and their own selfish agenda for today. Problems occur when people are not willing to open their minds to see beyond their current situation. But when it comes to our lives. We don't drive our cars on water because they were not created for that purpose. they say they don't want to hear that church stuff. We don't use an airplane to go jet skiing because you cannot jet ski with an airplane. Everyone is trying to find their purpose in life. That closed minded answer automatically lets you know that person does not want to find their purpose because they reject their creator.20 . Not knowing your purpose or even where to look to find it. we use our lives for whatever we feel will satisfy our desires as opposed to what we were created to do. 2. Many people understand they were created for a purpose but have no idea what it is or where to look. I ask the creator. Once you reach a certain level of maturity. determine what we will have tomorrow. Destined For Success . you start to realize that you were created to achieve something in life. When you tell someone who is trying to find their purpose in life to ask their creator. For example. Therefore they choose to continue to be lost as well as live a life beneath their means and settling for a settled for existence. When I want to learn what something was created for. Therefore when tomorrow comes they are left behind. Living for the short term. Many people live for today as if tomorrow is not an option. everything that we use today was created for a purpose. 3.
let me tell you the story that lead up to me becoming totally self sufficient. The major event that changed my life was a chance conversation with two friends. I also tried a few different things that people normally do when they are trying to find themselves. He mentioned that he knew someone that could help me complete all the paperwork. In an instant my life changed. I had never considered starting my own company. After Nick mentioned that I start my own company. many limits I had on my life started to fall off. I started to write down the skills that I had (web development) on which I could build a company. Then she told me that she would charge $400 to setup the business and it would take about six weeks for the state to process it and once completed I would be incorporated. Destined For Success . First. I didn't know any better and was totally ignorant to the business formation process so I setup an appointment to see this woman. legally.Dissatisfaction At this point in my life I was looking at everything that I had learned and wondering why it wasn't working. I went to church. I sat down and decided to just think about where my life was going. I then asked Nick how I would actually start the company. What I had learned about life was all coming unraveled and I was beyond confused. When I met with Donna she asked me about my business idea and she listened to me explain my goals and dreams and how I would accomplish them. Nick mentioned that I should start my own company. let's call her Donna. talked to family and I even started reading what many would call self help books.21 . Nick and Justen. Upon hearing it. While talking about my job issues and what I was to do with my life. Now this person wasn't a lawyer (red flag number one) but she was familiar with the process and she called herself a business consultant. nor did I think it was a possibility.
had recommended her though. Destined For Success . I then contacted my friend Nick who was able to locate her and he gave me her number but for some reason she would not answer.22 . Each day I read the book I found confirmation of what I had previously thought. With that revelation I decided to learn everything about starting my own business as well as all the things that I needed to know in order to change my current position in life. Now $400 was a lot to me at the time because remember. Nick. I started reading everything I could get my hands on. it also opened my mind to accept a line of thinking that went against the norm. I didn't have a job and I was living at this point on state unemployment compensation. After a few weeks of chasing. I came to a crossroads and realized that I had fallen victim to the same circumstance that I was trying to get away from. unfortunately she was no longer located at the office I had initially went to. My mindset was literally changing day by day. This book helped me look at my life in a different manner and start seeing the bigger picture. then I must be on the right path toward something great. are similar to thoughts that I have everyday regarding life. a major book selling worldwide. Since my friend. One book that really got my attention was Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren. Not only did the book provide answers. I had depended on this business consultant to do something that I could have done myself and she let me down.whatever that meant. If the concepts in the "Purpose Driven Life". Well time went on and I started looking into how I would run my business and what else I was to do with my life. The topics and questions that were addressed in the book provided the answers to numerous questions that I often would ask. Eight weeks later I reached out to Donna to check on the progress. I felt the risk was minimal and I had everything to gain.
This book answered questions such as: I know I was created for a great purpose but who am I to do something great when everyone else around me seems to be content with ordinary? Answer: I was reserved and felt that if I was to be great then I had to walk the path alone. I didn't know who to talk to or where to look for people that were like minded. I always felt that I could do anything, I believed that I had unlimited capability but if I told people that then it would appear as bragging, therefore I stayed to myself and just kept pushing towards greatness. What I realized later, was that the more I shine, the more it liberates people around me to shine. The more I accomplish, the more people around me can accomplish. They realize that I am no different than them and my desire and faith brought my dreams into reality not luck or being born into a rich family. How does God see me even though I am imperfect? Answer: This was the time that I came to the realization that God saw me as His child and not just another person on earth. I began to understand that God saw me as a son, a friend and a servant that He wanted to bless and not someone that just kept asking Him for things. I realized that God gave me the power and authority to do great things and as long as I realized how great He was and how great He saw me, I would continually do great things. I have often wondered if it was a lack of relationship with my father that made me unable to understand how much God loved me. What is my purpose, why am I here? Answer: I started to look at my gifts, desires, talents and abilities to see where they all intersect. As I looked at this intersection I started to see a few things that revealed my purpose to me. One, I saw that I could communicate very well, I was able
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to talk with the youth, educated, uneducated, street, formal, corporate, technical, nontechnical, spiritual and secular. Another thing I saw was that I was able to explain things easily. I could break down complex topics and teach them to many. With that realization I started to see that my purpose was to teach. Once I had that confirmed I wondered, what was I supposed to teach? Indeed, that was the question. Ok, I know my purpose, now what? Answer: Even though I didn't know what I was supposed to teach, I started taking my purpose and looking to build my life around it. Most people take their career and build their life around it. They confuse career with purpose and make their job their calling. I decided to make my purpose my focus and within my purpose would be my career, so I created a computer training business because I knew how to teach computers. The lesson in all this was to make sure I made my purpose my focus and not my job. Then again, not focusing on my job was easy because I didn't have a job to begin with. After pondering these questions I came up with the following article.
Where are you going in life? Now let's talk about purpose and where you are going in life. Everyday you take steps towards a goal, whether that goal be positive or negative, you take steps towards a goal. Every thought that you have, word you speak, action you do, habit you form, character you develop and lifestyle you lead takes you closer to your ultimate goal, your destiny. The book, Purpose Driven Life, helps people to find
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their purpose by helping people find their creator. When you find your creator then your creator can reveal your purpose. When you purchase a toy, you read the directions to find out what that item was created to do, the problem with people who do not know their purpose is that they are trying to do things without reading the directions. When you open the bible and start to read the directions of this life, your creator starts to reveal to you what you were sent to do. Now to people who don't read the bible, I'm sure this sounds crazy and they cannot understand how a book written two thousand years ago could reveal their purpose for today. The bible says in Hosea 4:6, “My people perish for lack of knowledge.” So people who try to live a life without reading the directions are destined to perish. So remember, it all starts with how you think. Many people don't believe that something as small as a thought can change your life but here is the significance that a thought can have...Thoughts Lead to Words Lead to Actions Lead to Habits Lead to Character Lead to Lifestyle.
I had no idea where I was going in life but I knew that it was a process. That's what many people have a hard time realizing. Success is not a goal but a journey and it's not an overnight change but a development process. As I started to think about where my life was going, all I could see was the next step instead of the entire journey. Many people look at their lives and hope that something major will happen to change it for the better. They know that they are created to do something great but when their life doesn't match their vision they panic and start to deviate from the path. As they deviate they lose control of their lives and start to live a settled for existence. The truth is, when we
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As I started to focus on the next steps in my pursuit of purpose in life. character and lifestyle. I then realized I had another question that I needed to answer. I increased my focus on changing my daily thoughts to help me achieve my goals in life. everything else would fall into place. thus we need to focus on just the next step. Therefore.26 . habit. I started to break down the process and how my life would take shape on a daily basis. If you asked this question to a wide range of people the Destined For Success . It all started with my thoughts and once I had a thought that I wanted to develop then it became a word.approach life’s circumstances. As I made more progress with my thought life and had an idea of where I was going with my life. we might not know the outcome. What motivates your life? Why do you get up everyday? What makes you go out and face the world everyday? What is your focus from the time you get up until the time you lay back down? What is the reason that you have not given up on life yet? What motivates your life and pushes you to continue to look forward to another day? Many times in life we find that our motivation comes from a variety of different places. What? What makes me so motivated to make it? What keeps me going when no one else sees the greatness I see? What keeps me going when everything around me looks bad? Then I wrote this article. As long as I focused on controlling my thoughts. As long as our steps are guided by God then we will continue to make progress in the right direction. action.
you see that they are motivated from within. they don’t aspire to do anything in life and if possible. more possessions. more of this and more of that. Nothing going on externally affects their happiness. They have what’s called joy or inner peace. There are also people who are unmotivated. I found that this inner peace came from finding and walking in the purpose that God has for my life. They are motivated to provide for their family or meet the expectations of their friends. the more I became motivated to walk that path. Since Jesus dwells within me. Now most people might not come right out and say money but they will say things such as bills.27 . As a Christian man. Now I’m Destined For Success . When I decided to develop a relationship with Jesus and learn more about who He really is. more can be acquired if more money is made so therefore money motivates their life. There might be situations where they are frustrated or upset for a period of time but their overall happiness is never affected. Therefore. If you look at the people that are happiest in life. These people basically are a product of their surroundings and react accordingly. The more I learned about my purpose and the destiny that God has for me. I found the missing link to my life and why I never felt complete. they want people to join in their misery because we know that misery loves company. In their mind.most consistent answer would be money. I started to find out who I really was. There are people that are motivated by their family and friends. more luxuries. I was really getting to know myself as I learned about Christ. situations and environments. There are also people that are motivated by their circumstances.
I felt that was the best place to find out what I was created to do. If He knew me before I was in the womb then He took the time to get to know me before my parents even knew me. Here's what I didn't understand. See. Now that I am more mature and have endured. if I am this great creation of God and I am destined to become great. I started to actually believe them. I started to be tested. then why do I have to struggle? Why can't God just give me what He has for me and let me go out and make my impact? Why do I Destined For Success . I would hear phrases like "God knows your name" and "God knew you before you were born" and those would impact me most. In order to find out more about God I spent a lot of time listening to and watching a variety of preachers on television. I found the more my relationship with God developed. the more I started to see who I was. The more I learned about God's purpose for me the more I realized that I was indeed special.28 . places being church and representatives being preachers. I wasn't ready for my life taking turns for the worst.motivated everyday to get up and make progress in the purpose that God has for my life and each day I go to sleep thankful that I’m closer than I was the day before. When I started to believe the words and purpose that God had for me. Those statements started to become more than just words. As you can see. I welcome tests because I know they are necessary for improvement but back during this time. I chose to seek my Creator. Many people search a variety of places to answer the "why" in their life. if God knows my name then I must be special to Him. Remember. even though I understood that in order to find my purpose I had to seek God. I didn't know how to go about it. My best guess on how to find God was to seek his representatives in places that He frequents.
have to go through all this stuff like everyone else. things. Things would be so much easier if we just knew the reason for our season. you only seem to want to see the final steps of the journey. Reasons and explanations seem to elude us most. a sudden change of fortune or any other unfavorable outcome that has befallen our lives. there is still a reason. When you look at the successful future that you know you are going to walk in.29 . No one wants the Destined For Success . when we wonder why our lives are not where we want it to be. Everything in life happens for a reason. We all are guilty of wondering "why me?" Of course we wonder why me prior to blaming numerous people. aren't I special and unique? Then I wrote this article? Why me? Why me is one of the many questions that has plagued man for ages. a missed opportunity. then please keep reading. then go tell someone how you accomplished it. Whether it be a drastic event. we only desire the end of the road blessings. if this doesn't apply to you and you have it all together. But if you have “why me” moments. When many people take a look at their life or their current situation they usually have a sense of non-accomplishment. When many people look at their current situation the question that runs through their mind is "why me". When many people look at their lives they feel a lack of purpose and direction. luck or God for our current situation. When we look at the successful people. whether the reason is caused by you or someone/something else. a tragedy.
God will allow you to go through a situation that you cannot get out of by your own power. learn and progress. it's the Lords.” Everyone wants the glory of crossing the finish line but no one wants to run the race. When God is leading all your steps then no matter what comes your way. Therefore instead of saying “Here we go again” or “Why me” when hard times come upon Destined For Success . He wants to bring you out but He wants you to depend on Him and realize that it was Him that brought you out. Reason one. Success doesn't come to the wishful. We have to realize that we go through hard times for three reasons. Success doesn't come to the lucky. crying profusely only to realize that you have to wipe your own wounds and dry your own tears. so that we can help someone get through their situation. talents and abilities. Reason two. We seem to forget that every successful person endured their hardest times right before their breakthrough. you will not worry nor fret because you know that the battle is not yours. it comes to the determined. scraping their knees. so that we can grow. For example.journey lessons that make you into the successful person that you are to become. No one wants to endure falling during the race. gifts. No one looks at Writer/Producer/Actor Tyler Perry and say “I know he's rich now but I wish I could have my first few plays tank and then get evicted and lose everything so that I can be rich like him. Reason three is so that God gets the glory.30 . focused and faithful people who change hard times into great lessons. it comes to the persistent. no one looks at comedian Steve Harvey and says “I know he's rich but I wish I could live in my car for two years so that I can be rich like him”.
He sure was getting close to my threshold because I really was starting to crack under the pressure. “Let me” is God's answer…you are not alone…so don't try to be. So one day. I really didn't have anyone to vent to. I was beyond broke at this time in my life. I had financial hardships. I would put on that mask daily and since I was on a journey that had never been traveled before. my relationships and businesses were failing and my life was not meeting my expectations. I remember starting a business that had one great year and then failed the following year. AMEN The reason I wrote Why Me was because I was going through problems. I started to see the life around me fail miserably yet I still had the faith that I would be great. you should say “Here's another situation for you to show up and show out God. I vented to God and this is what I said. I'll let you lead me out of this once again. If God said that He wouldn't allow me to deal with more then I could bear. I knew all the phrases to say and all the things that people would say when they were having a hard time but wanted to make it seem like they were fine.you.” Why me” is the question. I had to wake up everyday believing that I was created for a great purpose and then look at my bills and wonder how they would get paid.. It was confusing to me because I would read my bible and wonder why I was struggling but I was living right. so have your way..” How many times have you said that to yourself to help you get through hard times? You know that you are different and that life has so much more in store Destined For Success .31 . God I love you but I’m not comfortable “I'm destined for greatness and I know it.
situations cannot always go wrong. project and essays. When we got saved we didn’t want to sign up for Advance Christianity. and we only wanted discomfort 100. tests. You start to wonder does God have ears because no matter how much you pray. If things don’t change then I might as well get back into the world. I just don't understand what's going on. homework. we only wanted sacrifice 101.” I would often ask God what He is trying to tell me. I am trying to depend on Jesus but with my life the way it is. Basic Jesus 101 was alright for us. we want Jesus but on our conditions. Destined For Success . Of course we wanted Walking in Authority 400. You start to think. and the faith to move mountains 1000. handouts. Even though we wanted advanced blessings.32 . quizzes. Jesus doesn’t seem that dependable right now. nothing changes. we only wanted hard-times 100. I know too many of God’s promises for life to be this difficult. What is He trying to teach me? What am I missing because I am not a failure therefore why am I not comfortable in life.” Well how long is always because my troubles seem to be on the extended plan. But how does the faith to move mountains get developed. See we want that PHD in Jesus with that Kindergarten effort. Life cannot be this difficult. Quoting scripture 500. “Why is this happening? I’m a good Christian. You start to wonder how long life will be like this because according to what the pastor said in church last week “trouble don't last always.for you but you can't seem to figure out why you are at this point in your life. it’s developed the same way as we develop our academic skills in school.
our comfort zone has more control of us than we have over ourselves. focused and faith-filled children of God that we are. You also realize that when that situation approaches again. you will be able to give your testimony to help them through. Your testimony is the best ministry tool you have. --Peter McWilliams Author We act as though comfort and luxury are the chief requirements of life. To the degree we're not living our dreams. you would have given up a long time ago. --Dr.In order for us to walk in our purpose and become all that God has for us. When you go through a hard time and come through unscathed you realize that only Jesus brought you through because if it was up to you. when all that we need to make us happy is something to be enthusiastic about.33 . when someone comes to you with the same uncomfortable life that you are currently living. we have to go through the trials and tribulations that will make us into the persevering. Your testimony is your gospel (gospel means good news) and your gospel really is the best book of the Bible anyone will ever hear. Also. Martin Luther King Jr. persistent. determined. The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience. but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy. you will have the faith to know that it's only a temporary hurdle as well as the knowledge to overcome and get through it. Destined For Success .
"Why am I going through this or why is this happening to me?" Most people you come across will look at difficult times Destined For Success . When I see how my faith brought me through the most difficult of times. Around this time I was behind on my rent and my wife was pregnant. When I got done preaching many people came up to me and let me know they were feeling the same. One thing that God said that I didn't understand at the time was "without faith. I wasn't happy about it but I told God that I would trust Him to bring me through. you have a hungry pregnant wife and you were laid off the day before Christmas. I always believe that I will come out on top.--Charles Kingsley Ok. I now see why no matter what is going on around me. so I kept on believing and I kept on living as though He would come through. so we kept our faith. it is impossible to please Me". It's a difficult time in life when you can't buy groceries. He decided to give me this article: Three reasons God lets us go through hard times Hard times and difficult situations happen to everyone in life. But I chose to believe that God had something great for me. See we all were going through times of discomfort and confusion but we still believed that we were created to do something great. Now I don't know what you consider hard times but going without food and not knowing how you are going to pay your rent is considered hard times in my book. You may wonder. The sermon was the most heartfelt message I have ever given.34 . Before He brought me out of my situation. no matter who you are and where you are in life. At this current time I was just starting to really get into preaching and I did a sermon on "God I love you but I'm not comfortable".
breakdown and let the situation take control of their lives instead of taking control of the situation. then you know that any situation you go through. the more God will shower us with his comfort through Christ.and let it get the best of them. They don't have the vision to see why they are going through the situation and what's to come when they make it through. They get angry. If you know that according to Hebrews 13:5. 5 You can be sure that the more we suffer for Christ. cry. II Corinthians 1:4-6 4 He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others . Let's look at what the Bible says about our hard times and see things from God's perspective. When people go through hard times they think that maybe the adversary is attacking them or God wants them to suffe. That's the perspective of someone who is what I call nearsighted. how can I take control of a situation when everything is falling apart around me. Now I know what you are thinking. well the answer lies in one word. When others are troubled. When you take a look at your situation from another perspective you start to see things in a different manner. we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us. all they can see is the situation near them. Destined For Success . the issues near them and what's going on around them. God says that He will never leave you nor forsake you. God is with you and will bring you out. perspective. People who vision to see beyond their situation are taking the perspective that God takes on our situations.35 .
God is looking for distribution centers.6 So when we are weighed down with troubles. So God can get the glory. not warehouses. As we look into these verses we see all the reasons for suffering. can be an encouragement to you. let me elaborate: So you can tell others (so that we can comfort others) The most powerful tool you have in witnessing and bringing people to Christ is your testimony . If every situation in your life and every problem in your life was not difficult or outside your ability to resolve. solutions and blessings to someone else. advance the kingdom (the more God will shower us with his comfort) When God takes you through things. Why would you need God to do something that you can do yourself? That is the attitude that many people Destined For Success . He wants you to see a situation that He can only bring you out . since we all have different experiences we can reach different people who are just reaching the hard times that we have already been through. then you would not need God. The way that we glorify God is that we show them the love of Christ and help them through the time that God helped us through earlier. in turn. it is for your benefit and salvation ! For when God comforts us. so when you go through hard times its so that you can bless someone else. He allows you to go through things to get the experiences.36 . it is so that we. information. People are looking for someone that can help them understand their situations and get through them. Then you can patiently endure the same things we suffer. .
Here is an example. Growth helps advance the kingdom. learn. situations. God wants us to continue to our spiritual growth and when people start to get comfortable they start to get a sense of complacency and in essence become lazy. progress (for our benefit and salvation) God is more concerned with our growth then our comfort. When someone planted a seed into you. desires. brought into the family when you accepted Jesus as your Lord and savior. hard-times. Therefore Jesus wants you to progress to the point where you depend on Him for all your needs. develop. so why would you question how much God loves you. But the purpose of the orange is not to keep the covering. an orange has a protective covering to keep it from harm and to grow and mature. It's not that we don't trust God's ability. solutions. Don't think that God has too much going on to help you or that you are not worthy of His love. you doubt His love.37 . That is a trick of the adversary. the covering has to be stripped away so that the seed that is inside can come out and grow into an orange tree and make more seeds. answers. Destined For Success . we don't trust that He loves us enough to do it. Remember that you are His child. When you fear or doubt Him or situations. you are both His children. circumstances. decisions. tribulations and hindrances. you do not doubt His ability. You have to remember that God loves you just as much as He asks you to love Him. trials.would have. wants. comfort leads to complacency. You would never question how much God loves Jesus. So we grow.
it was planted so that it could grow and then you could go and plant more seeds that come from the fruit within you. Why do the lessons have to be this hard and take this long? Answer: The lessons are as long and as hard as it takes for me to get to where I need to be for the future.they did not plant it so that you could keep it inside your covering. Another example is the process of coal turning to diamonds. Diamonds come from coal that has been pressurized and heated. Overall. was that the more I learned and the more I grew. I was not to give people fish so they can eat for a day. seems like it has to go through hell and back and then you can see the true diamond in the rough. no. Everyone wants the diamond but no one wants the coal. Destined For Success .38 . In order for coal to become a diamond. the more of an asset I became to God. but to become great in order to teach others the same. Questions: If it's not about me then why choose me? Answer: The gifts that I had were given to me to help others reach their potential. we see that the reasons that we go through hard times lead us to a very famous line from a great book called Purpose Driven Life. "Its not about you". Natural diamonds come from deep within the earth where the pressure and heat and fire occur naturally. What I didn't realize. I was learning the valuable lesson of not just becoming great for my own benefit. I was to teach them to fish so they could eat for a lifetime.
What is taking so long for me to become who God wants me to be? Answer: If God told you who you were to become and what all you would do. If we tried to walk into our greatness prior to the correct time.39 .Why does God seem so distant at times? Answer: Because we have to learn that sometimes we have to make moves on our own before God will help us take that next step. He never leaves us nor forsakes but sometimes He does sit back and watch. My moving from Chicago to LA was never even a thought in my mind because instead of focusing on how I "could" do it. After numerous attempts and after numerous falls. skills. The business that I lost was not necessary because I needed to move onto the better business that I was to create. Why did I have to lose everything? Answer: The things that I had were no longer necessary for where I was going in life. I was able to possess what was deemed impossible. We start to learn that we can do anything and the more we believe it. So when we are learning our lessons. When we are kids. When I was able to disconnect with the temporary possessions. the more we achieve it. He comes back. Now we never see babies crying for their parents to keep holding their hand after they have learned to walk. I focused on what I was leaving. When we are being developed into our greatness it takes time for us to understand all the gifts. it would blow our mind. The apartment that I was losing had to happen because not until I let go mentally of the attachment to my apartment could God take me to a better home in a better area (hence the move from Chicago to LA). then we would not be prepared for the challenges that Destined For Success . talents and abilities that we have. sometimes God lets go and we have to take a few steps on our own and then out of nowhere. our parents let go of our hands and we walk on our own. our parents help us learn to walk.
When we are adequately prepared and our confidence has been established.we would face and therefore run from our destiny. Destined For Success .40 . we always win. then we truly understand that no matter what obstacle we face.
Well all was going fine until five weeks into the position I was laid off (another of many layoffs I would Destined For Success . this is also the time where most people get lost because there are many different options. motivational media. Unfortunately. Finally. Now how many people do you know have ever gone into an interview and gotten a job that they have never done before? Once I accepted the job. I was on a constant roller coaster mentally because there would be times where I was up and would think that I was set to takeoff and become something great in life. I felt this job was a blessing because I initially interviewed for one position but since I interviewed so well. they gave me another position that I had never heard of. self-help books. good and bad.41 . I and my wife felt that we were at a turning point in our lives. that people take in search of their purpose in life.Seeking This phase is where people start to seek answers to their questions in life as well as solutions to their dissatisfaction. We were taking steps towards security. I had just lost my first business. At this point in my life I was at the point where I started to do constant self evaluation to see what was in store for me. my wife was working and we were able to afford daycare for our daughter. I was behind on many bills and my marriage was having many issues. I remember when I had just accepted a new job at a local online education company and I felt that I was going to start making major advancements for my family. This is usually the time in life when we start to try different solutions such as religion. Then there were times where things would take a turn for the worst and I would wonder why God would want me to go through this situation. I was working. life/business coaching and other methods that we feel will help us find what our life lacks.
experience). Upon being laid off, I began to question my way of existence. How could I have been put in a position to be laid off again, was the question that continually ran through my mind. I already understood the idea that in order to be truly wealthy you had to create your own business but I had fallen back into the idea that my job would provide for me and my family. I thought I had turned a corner in my life and was starting to make progress but it seemed that I just wasn't quite there. I couldn't understand why things were going the way they were. I felt that I was looking to make my life better but it seemed to be taking turns for the worst or staying the same as before. I felt that if things were going to stay bad then why seek out a better way of life; it would seem that a better life wasn't attainable. According to the way I saw it, if I changed my life then I should see better results right? Questions: How could I make the same mistake again of depending on a job? Answer: Once my first business collapsed I had to generate income for my family. The issue wasn't with me getting a job because there is nothing wrong with employment. The issue was that I was depending on a job to sustain my entire life. My job should be a source of income to get me to the next level. When I decide to work for someone now, it's a means to get income for a new venture or something else. The dependency on a job puts my family and my future under the control of someone else. Therefore, if my boss decides that he/she doesn't like my work one day and terminates me, my income is reduced to nothing.
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I made some changes in my life and wasn't doing all the things that I did before, so why aren't things getting better? Answer: When I decided to change my life and live for a greater purpose and not just for myself, I expected everything to just automatically be nice and life would just turn out grand. What I didn't realize would occur is that if you ask for patience, then you are put in a situation that requires patience. If you ask for understanding then you are given situations that require understanding. So instead of me getting the millions that I said I wanted out of life, I was being given the tens and hundreds that would add up to millions in time. I didn't know that my development would be a time consuming process and instead of me getting the riches at the end of the journey, I would have to walk the path so that I could inform others how to overcome the obstacles that are along the journey. I came to realize that the true issue wasn't the "results", it was the "way I saw it", my "perspective". I then wrote this article.
Perspective Perspective is the ability to perceive things in their actual interrelations or comparative importance. By that I mean your perspective changes what you deem as important and what moves you to action. Many people have different perspectives on life and when you find your purpose, you start to realize that no matter what life throws at you, your purpose is what you were sent to do and progress towards that is the only goal for the day. Life is full of ups and downs. The problem is that many people's perspectives are so negative that when life throws a problem at them, their initial response is that this problem is insurmountable or this problem was sent to keep them down. People who know
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their purpose and have a foundation in life know that problems are not problems, they are learning experiences and successful people use problems to get ahead. They also use failures, setbacks, downtimes and hard times as learning experiences and fuel to accomplish more in life. How you see things determines your whole existence. Two people can look at a picture and see two different images. One can see just the picture and the faults of it and the other can see the whole image and even notice the frame. Once you discover your purpose in life then no matter what you see, the bigger picture and small mishaps (or short comings) cannot deter you because you know that you are destined for something greater. We were not put on this earth to live beneath our means, we were put here to have dominion and authority therefore our perspective on things should be from the same perspective that our creator has. Since we were made in the image of our creator, we should see problems as just learning opportunities and see obstacles as ways to learn how to overcome what we previously did not know because Success is Inevitable...So get Ready.
From this point on I chose to see things in a manner where I always won. No matter what was going on I would view things as if I was winning. Therefore, when times got rough, instead of saying I'm down or I am without, I would see it as a time of development and learning. This optimism was viewed two ways, some people believed that I was the happiest person on earth and that nothing got to me and others said I was in total denial of what was going on around me. I would then respond, "Another person's opinion is not my reality". I started to understand that my
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At that time I could have given up and said "Oh well. I was approved for a new SUV. Many people who are familiar with my life and where I have been and where I am going will not hesitate to say either I am extremely lucky or I am destined for success.perspective was the key to where I was in life. after getting denied 17 times for a car (I have the credit inquiries as proof). I decided that if I don't get the car I want then God has something better in store for me. I would notice how my situations started to change based on my new outlook and new reactions. If I am who God says I am then I am going to always come out on top. No matter what happens to me. When I made the choice to accept that no matter what happens. I believe that I will come out on top and you know what. I started to see many things differently. I also started to see why other people’s situations were not Destined For Success . Even when things would go wrong. when my wife and I were trying to get a car. Many people refer to this as a mindset but in reality it's just a change in perception. As for the car situation. then I started to view all situations as such. we were declined numerous times because of bad credit. I changed my thought process to one where I actually accepted and believed who I was created to be and therefore started to see things in a different manner. just our luck". Therefore. With a new perception. Situations remain the same but reactions and outcomes change based on perception.45 . Questions: How did I change my perception when I had always seen things a certain way? Answer: It was a choice I made that was confirmed decision by decision. Instead. For example. it actually started to work out that way. I will win. even when it looks like I'm losing. I would look for the positive in that.
I noticed similarities and patterns in behaviors. video games. and no it's not a new form of voyeurism. affiliations and every other group involvement. I started to notice that certain groups spoke in similar manners while other groups exhibited similar behaviors. For example. race.46 . age superseded religion. From birth to age 30. I then wrote this article. or play chess as my hobbies but now I have one that I believe will be my favorite past time.changing. The stages of a man I have a new hobby these days and it is by far one of the most fulfilling activities that I have ever had the chance to experience. What I realized was that people develop differently and are at different stages of life. if we look back to our high school and college years. our main focus in life was based on physical desires. sex. it's actually a past time where you watch how people live their lives. gossip and cliques came Destined For Success . Now many people would think that certain ethnic groups or certain religious groups were the ones exhibiting similarities and that was true but even more evident were the age groups. The physical stage is demonstrated by the constant need to satisfy physical urges. social events. most people are in what I call the physical stage. their choice of words. their reactions to situations. While out last weekend indulging in my new hobby. I wondered why everyone didn’t have the same enlightened moment I had and start to see things differently. their actions and their reasons for how they are. things such as sports. This new hobby is called “People watching”. In my younger days I used to play basketball.
At that point. like people draw like people. Purpose Driven Life. Something happens in the lives of young people where they start to realize that there is more to life than satisfying their urges and they start to think about the future. They continue to party. spend money without any thoughts of saving for the future. From age 30 – 50. most people are in what I call the mental stage. The most popular students in school were usually the captain of the athletic team (based on physical ability) and the captain of the cheerleading team or the most attractive girl (based on physical development). They start to see the bigger picture and realize it's not about them. The mental stage is when people start to reflect on life.from physical urges. the first line says “It's not about you”. and usually sleep around until they find the mate that they want to stay with for an extended amount of time (or marry). that statement is the first thought that should be considered when stepping into the mental stage of Destined For Success . go out. The mental stage is the first step people usually take in getting their lives together and getting focused. The change comes between the ages of 25 and 30. In Rick Warren's book. think about ways to make things happen and start to plan for the future. When young adults first enter the real world around age 22. they might start a new career or job hop trying to find themselves but their main focus in life at that moment is themselves and how they can satisfy what they want to do.47 . The students that were having sex always had much to gossip about because of their physical engagements and cliques were based on who had the most in common with your physical urges. they begin to step in to the mental level of development.
They start to make career moves that will provide for their families and begin to settle into their routine that will become their life until they retire. in their seeking of knowledge and purpose. Many people stop their development in the mental stage. Many times in the mental stage many people. Death is the great unknown and the only way to overcome it is to seek spiritual guidance…which leads to the spiritual level. Mental stage people start to open up and read numerous books because the pursuit of a meaning in life and a purpose in life starts to consume them. just like myself. The problem with this scenario is that many people. because they believe they know it all. But the next stage of development comes when “death” becomes a reality for people.development. Being satisfied with a less than fulfilling existence is not an option so they start to seek out their purpose in life. From age 50 – death.48 . The spiritual stage is demonstrated by people who realize they were created for a purpose and the only way to find that purpose is to seek their creator. The mental stage also is the first step for many people who start to realize that life is more then what they initially thought. they stop right there and live their life in that same spot till death. Once they find a particular belief or mindset that suits their level of comfort. most people are in what I call the spiritual stage. People in the mental stage of development. start to discover that there is so much more to life then what you initially thought. grasp onto false teachings which lead them down the wrong paths. often speak about the new things they have read and researched and start to make moves in life that will secure their future. The spiritual stage is also demonstrated by people who accept death Destined For Success .
Their gifts. praising Jesus. Usually you will have a pastor that is in his 50's and the elders of the church are usually within the same age range. Now don't get me wrong. They understand that it is not about them. it means nothing without the spiritual guidance on how to use it. When you go to a church. “I am the way and the truth and the life. learn and speak my truths (open your mind and heart to my teachings). then you will accept my gift and live an everlasting life (spiritually live forever). No one comes to the Father except through me…”. But you must first overcome your physical nature. You also notice that the older generation realizes that they have a responsibility to reach back and teach the younger generations.as a reality but know that there is a way to have everlasting life and therefore they seek spiritual guidance on how to overcome the great unknown. He is saying if you follow my ways (physically live a holy life). talents and abilities were given to them in order to teach others. you really have to pay attention to not only what He is saying but how He says it. In the spiritual stage we see that people start to line up their lives with the word of God and their actions reflect their beliefs. but I am speaking on the leadership of the church. overcome your mental nature and reach your spiritual plateau Destined For Success . They understand that even with all the worldly knowledge gained in the mental stage. you will see younger people in church.49 . When Jesus said in John 14:6. The reason for this age range in leadership is that the older population understand that death is a part of life and they want to seek spiritual guidance. the ones who have stepped into the roles of responsibility. you usually see older people in leadership.
When I was laid off and started my own company. During the physical phase I was very selfish and most of my decisions were about me. I don’t know what happens in the minds of most 25 year olds but something starts to click and they start to see life in a slightly different manner.50 . I found myself being proactive in my thought process instead of just focusing on the moment only. I was trying to figure out myself and life so much that I was watching people just as much as I pondered my own actions. When I got married and started to pursue my purpose. Every physical act you do. Amen. This article captures this moment in time perfectly. When I left college I was still in the physical stage. Fortunately for Destined For Success . that’s when I entered the spiritual stage. every mental thought you think and word you speak and every spiritual encounter should be for God's glory and remember if you fall short or make a mistake. repent and get back into your righteousness and get back on the path for the Lord.where all three are being used to glorify God. I spent a great deal of time in the mental stage. The thing that separated me from the average person was that I would often have thoughts about the next phase of my life and what I needed to do to make that happen. The transition period to the mental stage begins. Now something happened when I hit the age of 25 (besides being laid off). Questions: What was it like to go through the three stages in such a short time? Answer: The initial phase (physical) lasted until I was 25 so that was normal for most young adults. I had been through all three by the age of 30. I believed I was in the spiritual phase of my life and the more I sought out spiritual guidance the more I realized what life was all about.
Normally at that time I didn’t get into spiritual discussions with people but he seemed to ask all the questions that I wanted to know answers to. I started the mental phase at 25 and was in full mindset renewal by 26. since I had been laid off from my job and began to question everything in life. From these books I not only started to become what I read but I started to see a clear path to my goals.myself. By that I mean that I read numerous self development books. I would read 1 book per week which ranged from Rich Dad Poor Dad to 21 Laws of Leadership. he offered his mentoring services and after two weeks of wrestling with my pride. Well to make a long story short. He asked me what I was doing there and I told him that I was giving out paychecks to my employees for my computer training business. He then asked me a few additional questions and asked me about my spiritual walk (I wasn’t aware at the time that he was a Christian minister). My experience in the mental phase was one of basically much reading and much reassurance. By the age of 27 I was attending church but never really felt connected. business books and basically any progressive books that I could get my hands on. leadership books. I called him and from there I started into my spiritual phase. I started to develop a vision.51 . Destined For Success . I was at Borders one day with my girlfriend and daughter and a gentleman by the name of Henry Abraham walked up to me. These books helped me see things in a new light and also gave me the confirmation that I had the ability to do great things.
Successful people know that no matter what cards are played they will win. This is how we all look at life and the experiences of life. we start with different cards but we all have cards. bluff or play the hand we are dealt.52 . They also consider bluffing or folding if their cards are not what they feel they can win with. Next the players bid on the cards they are dealt. get nervous. calculating the risks and rewards of the cards they are dealt. bluff. as well as pray that the cards that are laid out will help with the cards they already have. think long and hard. panic. If the cards played don't make for a great hand then they will either learn from the experience or make their hand work. As the dealer lays out the next three cards. you start to see people fold. The average person will look at the cards that were dealt to Destined For Success . When I watch championship poker on ESPN I notice that every player gets two cards to start with. and that life will be so much easier? Do you ever just wonder where your success will come from? Well step out of that world where life dictates you instead of you dictating your life.You control your destiny You ever just wish something nice would happen to you? Do you ever wish that things would go your way so that you could get ahead in life? Do you ever hope that someone will think nicely of you and make a way for you to succeed? Do you ever hope that in the future you will make it big. We can either fold. Life for many people is like a game of poker. Even though those cards are different. Now here is where successful people are separated from the masses. somehow. That's how we start life. it's still two cards.
It was the choice of the person doing the drive by that caused the infant to die. Take control of your life and let God work through you to fulfill your purpose. Successful people will make their hand into good hands by learning better ways to play with the cards they are dealt. because Success in Inevitable…So get Ready. According to the Bible. In life many people wonder who is controlling their situations and if you ask many people they will usually say "God controls what does and does not happen to me". Your trust in Him lets Him come in and anoint you to impact this world.53 . God gave dominion of the earth to man. bad things happen to good people.them and what the dealer put out and fold until the dealer gives them a good hand. Things that are God's will occur but there are many things that occur that are not the will of God but because people have free will. The words you speak based on His Word give Him the capability to step into your life and make things happen. if an infant is killed in a drive by. Question: If God controls everything. then you will see how your choices lead you to take control of your destiny and step into success. I hear many people say that if it's God's will then certain things will happen. God is not the one that controls what happens to you…YOU ARE. it wasn't God's will for the infant to die. We can choose to turn our backs on God and walk a path that is destined for failure and we also can Destined For Success . how can I control my own destiny? Answer: The same free will that you had when you chose to follow God is the same free will that gives you control of your destiny. therefore many things occur on earth that are not what God wants but what man desires. For example. There will be consequences for our actions when we all stand before God. Your faith lets God come into your life and make things happen.
the more I started to see how my actions determined my outcomes. The Bible says that faith without works is dead. Let’s jump back for a second now and let me explain something that I previously stated that might appear slightly vague. the more my actions had to increase. I still had to apply the new concepts that I was learning to some type of venture in order to see my success manifested. I was still early in the faith stage. Destined For Success . I didn’t say what those concepts were. As my belief started to turn into faith then my actions and words became consistent (belief becomes faith when actions backup what you say you believe). there wasn’t any manifestation yet of success. Many times people believe that once you believe in something. When I stated that I was learning new concepts that were needed to be successful. we are still in control.54 . the more I developed my faith. The more I believed that I was destined for success. Now I had some new concepts that applied to my pursuit of success and they were as follows. Well I already had learned numerous business concepts that are highlighted in my book Business 101. Even though my mindset was starting to understand what it took to be successful.choose to walk in the purpose that we were created for and make the will of God our will. when I started speaking about my situations. but we have chosen to do what God asks of our lives. Therefore. then that’s all you have to do. I started to speak on where I was going and how good it would be when I got there. The more I believed the more I spoke words that were success filled. instead of speaking on how bad things had been. For example. Now let’s not get ahead of ourselves.
vision.The inevitable or necessary fate to which a particular person or thing is destined. That’s an example of wisdom. Purpose is destiny known – When you find your purpose in life. By applying the knowledge that Bishop Long taught. The thing that you have a desire to do no matter what anyone says or if you are compensated or not. The day dreams you have where you see yourself becoming all that you can be and helping change the world. nothing will stop you from achieving that. you know what you were created to do. You also know that your Father will meet all your needs to help you achieve what He has sent you to do. purpose. Faith is destiny believed – When you believe that you have a great purpose in this life then you know that no matter what. The calling that God puts on your life. it became wisdom in Destined For Success . Once I heard them I made them relevant to my current situation and immediately accepted them. knowledge with no application is just information. Vision is destiny shown – The dreams that you have where you see yourself doing what you feel you were called to do. faith. Success is destiny achieved – True success is completing your purpose for when you stand in front of the Father you will hear “Well done my good and faithful servant. Wisdom is the application of knowledge.” These concepts were initially presented to me while watching a sermon by Bishop Eddie Long. success Destiny .55 .Destiny.
further confirming my belief that I was destined for success. We are not taught that failures can be used as learning experiences. We are not taught that no matter how many times you miss the mark.. Of course. The common mindset that people have now is "in order to have what you've never had.. We are not taught that just because you fall short a few times. Many people throughout life are given numerous reasons why they will fail ranging from "no one in our family has ever done that" to "you don’t know how to do that so what makes you believe it will work". Therefore people believe that failure is inevitable because only a few people are capable of getting things right the first time as well as all the time.my life and that wisdom helped me understand how to walk in my destiny. The problem is that many people don’t understand that to have what you've never had you must do what you've never done.56 . That is one of the many motivational sayings that I often quote in my workshops. It's understood that everyone desires to be successful in life but the problem that is most often experienced in people is the belief that success can happen. the more I believed the more I wrote articles confirming that belief." Starting in school we are taught that failure is a negative thing and that you must learn and get it right on the first try or you will not make it in life. do what you are doing now. the hardest thing about success was believing it could happen to me.just over do it until something happens. as long Destined For Success . such as… Attitude is everything The hardest thing about success was not making it happen. you can still be all that you want to be.
if I want to be in your position then I will have that Destined For Success . positive things into our lives and help us believe that we can be all that we desire to be. I took a few seconds to ponder the question and I then stated “I see myself doing whatever I want to do. I remember one time I was in an interview for a company and they asked me where I see myself in five years. In the Bible. so get ready.. if I want to go to the moon then I will be on the moon.57 . Therefore instead of people focusing on "success".as you believe that you are successful then you are. our mind is referred to as our soul and there is a spiritual battle for your soul/mind everyday between God and Satan. Most people believe that it's "who you know". we are taught that no matter what happens in life. All they are trying to do is change our mindset to that of someone who really understands who they truly are in life and the great things they can accomplish. As a matter of fact. pastors. according to statistics." Joyce Meyer's best selling book. a certain amount will pass and a certain amount will fail. Usually that answer is supposed to be something along the lines of team lead. "how much money you have" and "how many degrees you have" that will show how successful you will be in life but in reality it's simply DO YOU BELIEVE. Motivational speakers. sums up our entire existence. Battlefield of the Mind.because success is inevitable.. they are focusing on "not failing. Our mindset gives a snapshot of where we actually think we are in life and what we actually believe we can achieve in life. project manager or some management position within the company. life coaches. That's why we have to continually meditate on the Word and speak life into ourselves as well as others. and counselors speak such profound.
I will not stop until I achieve success. so is he. My answer was just a verbal example of what I was becoming. I then wrote this article: Confidence. no matter what happens. as a man thinketh. therefore my words were just my spoken thoughts. You see. As my attitude started to reflect my faith. In every successful person you see the confidence and courage to make a change. and I will not settle for a life that is less then what I deserve. You see the confidence and courage that says. My confidence gave me the ability to put actions behind my words. This glue is what we know as confidence. actually I felt that was a great answer. Previously. One time I heard the two types were “people that do or doers” and there Destined For Success . Needless to say I didn’t get the position and matter of fact.58 .” I didn’t see anything wrong with that answer. Many times before. I stated thoughts lead to words lead to actions and now I was able to use my confidence to put actions behind my words. do you have it? If you look at the stories of many of the successful people that we see today. I never heard from that company again after that interview.position but in five years I will be wherever I want to be in life. When you listen to how they overcame great obstacles to achieve their overwhelming success you start to see similarities that set them apart from the masses. you start to see an overwhelming quality that resonates in each of their stories. I began to see something swelling up inside of me that became the glue of everything that I was learning. Confidence is defined as belief in oneself and one's powers or abilities. we have heard that there were two types of people in life. words and actions.
Now since the last one speaks about success. If you can achieve them in the current state you are in. It takes courage to step out of the norm and write a newsletter every month to Destined For Success . The last one that I heard was more recent and it was that there were people that “hope success happens” and then there are people that “make success happen”. The confidence that comes from people who make success happen comes from them having an understanding of who they really are and what they really can achieve in life. It takes courage to step out of the norm and open your own business. When you start to understand who you are and what you have the capability to accomplish. then you are not thinking big enough. that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need. because we all know success is inevitable. Another time I heard there were people that “talk about it” and people that “make it happen”. It takes courage to step out of the norm and minister to your friends who don’t want to hear it because they can remember when you were acting a fool yourself. I'm sure you know why it caught my attention.” That verse says to come before God boldly with confidence knowing who you truly are.59 . The problem is that so many people lack confidence in themselves and therefore lack confidence in what they can accomplish in life.were “people that watch or watchers”. According to the Bible in Hebrews 4:16 it says “Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace. It takes courage to step out of the norm and accept your calling. you start to operate on a level of existence that is higher than most people who let life dictate them. It takes courage to step out of the norm and set goals so high that you have to become a totally different person to achieve them.
Your confidence is what sets you apart. therefore let's exhibit the confidence and courage of royalty because success is inevitable…so get ready. Destined For Success . the more comfort I gained in expressing the confidence I had inside me. children of the Lord. which has great reward (Hebrews 10:35). I started to believe that my purpose in life was one that needed a level of confidence that exceeded any doubter’s doubts. I would choose situations and circumstances that were appropriate for me to let it be known that I am sure in who I am and what I am saying. Instructional designers’ layout courses for training and teaching and make sure the course is structured properly for learning. Many people confuse confidence with arrogance or conceit but usually those people are intimidated by a confident person so they try to attack what they can't have. I started to believe that my confidence wasn't to be restrained to the point where it was only shown if the people around me were comfortable with it.60 . I totally read the job description wrong and I ended up at an interview for what was called instructional designer. As the level of confidence grew. Now I didn't just arbitrarily go around showcasing confidence. Jesus says that once we accept Him into our hearts we are His brothers and sisters. I went to another interview and I thought I was interviewing for a web designer position. The more comfort I gained in who I was created to be. Therefore do not cast away your confidence.thousands of people you don’t know but if you don’t write it you feel like you are not walking in the purpose God has for you. You can see by the theme of the last few articles that I was continuing in my development of a level of confidence that exceeded any level I had ever reached before.
I found that quite interesting because every IT related position I have had normally had more men then women. they immediately started asking me questions about instructional design and how I would setup training courses. some like to read and some like to watch interaction such as video. Two days after I was laid off I sat back and tried to figure out where I would Destined For Success . if any women at all. I couldn't understand how God was showing me so many gifts that I had and how I could use them to progress in life but then let a situation like me being fired occur. if I spoke with confidence. This answer was right along the lines of what they were looking for and two weeks later I was hired as an instructional designer when I had never designed a course in my life. I had never setup a training course before in my life but for some reason every question they asked me I had a clear concise answer and even if I didn't know what I was talking about.Since the instructional designer position was for an online university. I then realized that no matter what I say. this job yielded the same results as the many others before it and I was fired 5 weeks later. once I saw designer and online. I played on these three approaches and said I would base all my courses on reaching people on their level and customizing the course to meet these needs. some people like to listen. Therefore. Once we got the formalities out the way of my name and why I was there. I had to go tell my wife that I was fired once again. I had designed web sites all my life but when I was asked about how to design training courses I used the basic common ways that I knew people learned.61 . I spoke with the confidence of an expert. When I got there I sat down at a table of about 6 women. I immediately thought web designer. I could get people to believe it. Unfortunately. I was familiar with three ways to reach people.
I mean really. by the dishonesty of others. Victim . Victors and victims define not only where people are in life but where they are going. It's much easier to look at their actions. I was frustrated that I had lost yet another job but I couldn't help feeling that I was destined to do something great. a winner in any struggle or contest. listen to their words and analyze where they are trying to go in life. or by some impersonal agency. winners and losers. lets look at the definition of victor and victim. How can I be destined for success when my present looks so hopeless. swindled. Destined For Success . A person who is tricked. I can't even keep a job? Then I wrote this article: Victors versus victims Many times in life we hear there are two types of people.a person who has overcome or defeated an adversary. givers and takers. starters and finishers. or death as a result of a voluntary undertaking. I believe there are many types. I also believe that of those many types. First. a conqueror. Now of course there aren't many people that will say they live their life like a victim. therefore we won't ask the question of whether you are a victor or victim. A person who suffers injury. as by his or her own emotions or ignorance. loss.go from there. watchers and doers and the variety of other categories of two types. Victor . Now I don't believe there are only two types of people in the world. victor or victim is a type that can be added to the list. or taken advantage of.62 .a person who is deceived or cheated.
victims are always being taken advantage of. Victors are always in control even when the situation appears out of control. How many times have you heard people say. How many times have you seen people mock. Many people desire to live a life of victory but their situations and words are those of victims.Based on the definitions we see that victors always overcome. victims let life control them. they have tapped into that inner peace and inner joy that surpasses all understanding. Victors control their life. deride or pull someone down who wants to better themselves. it's an excuse not to have to change. victims hope they win. Victors conquer any situation or obstacle that gets in their way and victors are winners no matter what. progress or overcome a situation so they would rather be a victim of the situation or their ignorance of the benefits of change.63 . Victors have found a source of victory that seems to convince them that they will win no matter the situation. victims deal with consequences. continually lose and are unable to even overcome their emotions or ignorance. On the other hand. Victors have potential. victims are pitiful. Have you ever wondered why some people are able to keep their cool no matter what's going on around them? Have you ever wondered why some people don't let anything get to them and even when it appears they are about to crack they seem to still hold it together? Victors receive their victory from within. Destined For Success . Victors always win. well that’s just how I am? That's just how I am is a victim statement. Victors are conquerors. Victims don't want to see others who were like them become victors because victors expose the weaknesses of victims and their desire to complain but do nothing to change.
Question: How can someone appear in control when their situation around them is out of control. if you know that this is what's necessary for you to become a better person then you will maintain control while going through. The key to maintaining your peace when all is going crazy around you is focusing on the bigger picture. When we get to a certain place in life we become so comfortable that if the winds of change start to blow us around we start to grab tightly onto all the things Destined For Success . The only thing that kept me sane was that I wasn't attached to my material possessions. we are still here and still on track towards success. See the source of this victory that I am speaking of. well that source goes by the name of Jesus. People have their definition of control and their opinions of how situations should be handled.circumstance or odds. When I was about to be evicted from my home and have my car repossessed. Even when your whole world is falling apart. There are many situations that we have made it through that other people would have gone crazy but guess what. wouldn't they just be in denial or out of touch with reality? Answer: Control is a matter of perception and many people will not believe that you are in control when your situation appears out of control. Now that's a hard lesson to learn for many people. I felt that my whole world was caving in.64 . what really matters is what you are learning from your situation and how you are handling it. Victors realize that no matter what they will win because for some reason they have accepted victory as the only option. so even when it looks like they are going to lose. they still win. There are many situations in our lives that we have made it through that should have killed us. that gives joy to the victor before the battle is done or the obstacle is overcome.
I was able to let go of what I thought was so important. a faster newer car and build greater wealth.65 . Destined For Success . talents and abilities to get an even bigger home. Once I realized that I had the gifts. it's about how you handle the situation and how you maintain your sanity and come out a better person than when you went in.that we have instead of standing firm on what's inside. It's not about how you appear to other people while you are in the midst of a storm.
sickness. I was starting to see more of who I was to become. financial despair. courage. loss of a business. victory and determination. I was filled with confidence. I will not lose As I reflected on the last few years and the ups and downs that have befallen myself and my family. so that our true colors can never shine. I was getting the revelation on who I actually was and not who I had been. People on the outside watching my development said I was changing or that I had changed. I Will Not Lose!!! Now I am not saying that I didn’t have hard times or go through tribulations that ranged from almost being evicted. I spoke with the conviction of a person who had it all and therefore people started to see the potential in me. I felt that something major would occur this year whether it be by fate. Most people have to rediscover who they originally were. I came to one conclusion when I look at my life and what I am to become.66 . instead I was just being revealed to them for the first time. Many times we go through life trying to conform to what's considered the norm when we were all born unique. I not only started to get a grasp of the extent of my purpose but also how my gifts. marriage issues. Destined For Success . loss of hope. It's a shame that when we are young most of us will try to blend in with the crowds. talents and abilities would make a way for me to get there. See in this awakening stage. I believed that I had the talents and now was the time for the manifestation of the success that I was to walk in. It wasn’t that I had changed. despair.Awakening/Revelation As I started 2007. back sliding. I came in with a determined attitude. luck or my own creation. loss of my spiritual covering.
I meant the mindset of one who is more than a conqueror (Romans 8:37 . enough of just making it. I say “Come on God. I often wonder how many apply to me today and how many were for the people at those times. more answered prayer. I have decided that my life has had enough mediocrity. more healing. just believe”. The interesting thing I keep noticing is that no matter what comes into my path. When I ask God why I go through things that the promises are supposed to keep me out of. no. When I started to believe everything and change my mindset to one of a conqueror. I take that back. As I read through the Bible and look at all the promises that God has made for us. enough of I’m just alright. enough of just getting by.Yet in all these things Destined For Success . “You already have the victory. here’s another opportunity to show up and show out”. more anointing and overall more POWER.unanswered prayers and many other shortcomings that came and went. my faith never wavers and instead of saying “here we go again”. Well as of late. more wisdom. more prosperity. I have decided that I will believe no matter what and have the faith to let Him come in my life and teach me how to win in every situation…even the ones that look like I have lost. I have decided to believe every promise that is in the Bible.67 . Now we all know how hard it is to believe those promises when we are going through tough times. When times are rough we sometimes feel those promises are basically just words on paper instead of answers to our problems. I wanted to experience more success. more faith. He always tells me. Although I’m not perfect and I do get upset with God and ask Him why.
wrote a book on how to setup your own business in one day. what you were sent to do and most of all. then no one can take advantage of me again. When you approach a situation. I started to see how even when it looked like I was losing. She took my $400 and I never heard from her again. You have to believe that you are more then a conqueror and understand that conquerors never lose. You have to have the confidence in who you are.we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us). you have to believe that no matter what happens you are going to win. Well that infuriated me because I was unemployed at the time and $400 was a lot of money to donate to her purse. to them who are the called according to [His] purpose (Romans 8:28). That one incident helped start my information empire that I am currently building because I felt that if I know what’s going on. The outcome of that was a blessing because I was so motivated to not let anyone take my money again that I setup my own business. The cost of ignorance (not knowing how to setup my own business) was $400 and now I will make 4 billion dollars teaching others how to start their own business.68 . then created a workshop and DVD to go with the book. Even when people thought He Destined For Success . the power you have. I started to see how all things work together for good to them that love God. You have to understand that Jesus said we will do greater things then He did (John 14:12) and Jesus never lost. who lives in you (Hebrews 10:35). Have you ever noticed how even your worst situations turn into blessings when God is in control? I’ll give you an example. when I was putting together my first business I paid a woman $400 to setup my business for me. I still had the victory.
When you are in a situation where you "fail" or do something that doesn't have the results intended. for even in defeat there is a lesson learned so we still win…we always win and the thanks be to God. In favorable outcomes its easy to see yourself winning because you get the outcome that you want.). you have to change you perception of the outcomes. problems. The challenge comes in seeing yourself as a winner when the outcome is viewed as unfavorable. Who in Christ always leads us in triumph [as trophies of Christ's victory] and through us spreads and makes evident the fragrance of the knowledge of God everywhere.” Well from here on out we will let them know that we will not lose anymore battles.was dead.. "What did I learn?" See. how can you believe that you will always win? Answer: When you come across any situation you normally have outcomes that will be favorable and outcomes that will be unfavorable. (2 Corinthians 2:14). etc. In your mistakes you learn the wrong Destined For Success . When you learn from your mistakes then that's just as favorable as learning from your accomplishments. We fight enemies that have their hands under their shirts talking about “stick ‘em up. Question: When approaching things (situations. circumstances. In order to see yourself coming out on top no matter what occurs. The battlefield is the mind and as a man thinketh so is he (Proverbs 23:7).69 . He rose and defeated all strongholds and gave us the power to win each and every time. it's about acquiring knowledge and gaining experience. opportunities. you have to look at the situation as a whole and ask yourself the most important question. So if you don’t know that you are fighting a defeated enemy then you will give them the power to overcome you.
then whatever comes across my path that is contrary to my purpose will have to move because I am focused on a greater goal.way to do things. since I decided that my purpose is based on the revelation and information I received from the Bible. When I decided that I was going to walk by faith and not by sight. I opened 2007 with the attitude of perseverance and I wanted to explain that to everyone. This training comes from our school system where failing grades are viewed as signs of inferiority therefore we avoid mistakes at all costs. back to I Will Not Lose. it is impossible to please God without faith. Also. Therefore.70 . I am going to believe everything that the Bible says I am to have in order to fulfill this purpose. I expected faith based results that superseded expectations and imaginations. Therefore. Many of us can easily attest to the fact that are greatest lessons in life came from our biggest mistakes. when I decided that I was going to actually tithe. Many people feel that mistakes are signs of failure and in turn give up on their goals. Therefore. Destined For Success . I expected a return on my investment into the kingdom. I decided that no matter what happened I would believe in my purpose and the reason that I thought I was here on earth. Now. according to the Bible. I set myself on this path of faith based living because. this article here speaks for itself. you know that you need to try another way to reach the goal because your previous way was not correct. so when you come across it again. if I believe in my purpose and that it will come to pass. I was going to walk in continued faith and believe that the things that I had planned to accomplish in 2007 would pale in comparison to what actually would occur in 2007. if we learn no matter the outcome. Therefore. we truly do not lose in any situation. I was establishing myself as a winner no matter the situation or circumstance.
California. she never spoke about her family so I assumed that either there was a rift in the family or they were all deceased. I wouldn't want to open old wounds. Now I didn't know how well they would take to me. Destined For Success . IL and winters are brutal in Chicago. I started to see myself living the actual dream of year round summer.71 . We spent a week there and I had one of the best vacations ever. This was the third time I had been to California but it was the first time I was meeting any of my in-laws. they took me in like a son and I immediately had more family members than before. She said to me "Honey. I actually could imagine it. The temperature was about 75 degrees and it was a clear night. Actually. when I married my wife. California. But those dreams would quickly fade into the background when moving costs and the distance from my family would come into play. My family provided so much support for me and my wife that her family's involvement was never an issue. even though I knew I could get along with people easily but I did know that they would love my two daughters who were ages 2 and 7 months. Not only did I get to meet my in-laws but I was basking in 70 degree sunny weather in January. I was born and raised in Chicago. I started to look for opportunities and ways to make it happen. so I would just let it go. Contrary to any reservations I might have had. this could be our lives if you want. One evening my wife and I were on the pier in Huntington Beach. Once I started to actually believe that it was possible something else amazing occurred. It wasn't that I didn't want to know about her family but when the topic was brought up. As we spent more time with my in-laws and I got to know them better I started to really see how much they liked me and our children. can you imagine that?" Then something amazing happened.In January 2007 I took my wife to see her family in Orange County. I started to wonder what it would be like to make Orange County my permanent home.
how I would tell my mother that I was moving her grandchildren away from her and how I could provide for my family in the land of year round summer. talents and abilities that we have been given. if not prosperity. I had left 75 degrees earlier that day and landing in the extreme cold was not a happy experience for me. I then wrote this article: Dream Bigger Where do you see yourself in the future? Many times when we think about the future we see ourselves as accomplished individuals. Destined For Success . I started to question what normal really was.As I got ready to leave California and go back to Chicago I had too many thoughts running through my mind. We see ourselves having a position in life of impact and importance as well as financial stability. I landed in 20 degree weather. In a nutshell. Was normal what the majority of people you know did? Was normal what you wanted your life to be or is normal what you settled for? The more I thought about it the more I questioned my reality and how I could change it. We see ourselves fulfilling every dream and vision that we have now where we change the world with the gifts. The one thing in my mind that made me believe that it was all possible was that I said to myself. we see ourselves fulfilling our purpose. with a great family. I will not lose and therefore if I want to live in California because that would provide a better quality of life for me and my family. living a comfortable life. I was trying to figure out how I could really afford to move to California. well then that's what I should have. Even though cold winters were the norm for my life. When I got home to Chicago. how I could tell my family that I was moving 2500 miles away.72 .
Thus the sky is the limit on my abilities. I see numerous people realizing the importance of Jesus in their lives through my testimony and I also see many lives changed by the words that flow from my mouth.“Most assuredly. That destiny seems to be a great accomplishment and many people would be satisfied with that but for some reason every time I revisit the vision that God has given me.73 .. I still am thinking too small. many products and materials helping people fulfill their purpose. I know I am not the only person who truly believes Jesus when He says in John 14:12 . I know that I am not the only person that is aware of Philippians 4:13 – “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”. and greater works than these he will do. of Crenshaw Christian Center. I know that I am not the only person that has dreams and visions so clear that you know they are from God and that you are destined for greatness. because I go to My Father. When I see myself in the future I see great conferences. he who believes in Me. I say to you. He always ends it with. Well here is an example given to me by Pastor Fred Price Sr. Dr. [Many people look for an example of something they can do that's greater than the miracles Jesus did here on earth. DREAM BIGGER! I know that I am not the only person that wakes up everyday knowing that they are here for a purpose and that God will do something great with their life.What I have recently come to learn is that as great as I see my purpose and the impact I will have in this world.” Therefore I am destined to do things greater than Jesus Himself. Price said that when we lead a person to accepting Jesus Christ as their personal Destined For Success . the works that I do he will do also.
This opportunity floored me. dreaming bigger made no sense. I could not believe that I had the opportunity to change my entire life. Not because I wasn't able to see great things in the future but the present was such a contradiction to what was to come therefore. as soon as I started to really believe it. then we do something greater than all the miracles Jesus did. I just want to make sure that we believe that as great as we think that “better” will be. As my wife and I talked about a better life we got a call from her family in California. I know that many of us know that we are destined for greatness and even though our current situations don’t reflect that we still believe that it will get better. then my current reality started to set in. Jesus did many great things but He could not bring anyone to salvation because no one could be saved while He was still here on earth. They told my wife and I that if we wanted to move to California. Of course.Lord and Savior.] Overall. Dreaming bigger was a concept that I hadn't been able to understand before.74 . Questions such as how would we get out of our current lease since we had just moved into a new Destined For Success . they would provide us with a place to stay. I feel that no matter how our life looks now. I knew that I could do great things from Chicago and make a good life for my family but I knew that California would be a great life. Now. dreaming bigger was something that was an inevitable step in my progress. it can only get better if we believe and have faith that it can get better. I truly believe that her family wanted to have a relationship with their grandchildren so much that they made the proposition of a lifetime. we need to DREAM BIGGER. since I had decided to live at a higher level in life and think at a higher level.
what would you do? If opportunity came and knocked at your door and said.townhome 5 months earlier? How would we get enough money to ship our stuff to California? How would we gain employment and what was the job market like? How long would we need to stay with them prior to finding our own place to live and how would I tell my family that instead of just going to visit California I have decided to move there? I then wrote this article: When opportunity knocks If you had the opportunity to change your life and step into a new existence. Opportunities come to those who have their eyes open to see them and the courage to act upon it. According to the definition. as for advancement or success. • A chance for progress or advancement. or prospect. come with me. • A situation or condition favorable for attainment of a goal. would you pack up and go? If an opportunity to have what you've never had meant that you had to do what you've never done. • A good position. But let's focus on what an opportunity is first. chance.75 . The definition of opportunity is as follows: • An appropriate or favorable time or occasion. would you do it? Most people would say yes to these question because everyone is looking for an opportunity to do better but I believe that many people are comfortable right where they are at. They believe that opportunities come to the lucky or only to those who already have everything going right for themselves. an opportunity has a variety of favorable attributes that lead to a Destined For Success .
Now I don't know about you. However. not our darkness.76 . There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people won't feel Destined For Success . that most frightens us.successful outcome. Many opportunities come across our plates everyday. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. The main attribute of an opportunity is the focus on progress towards a goal. "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Then again maybe the best line from the movie Coach Carter starring Samuel Jackson sums it up. somehow you must realize that the time is right to prosper and therefore understand how favorable the situation is for you. "We all come across a million dollar opportunity once a day". but a million dollar opportunity is definitely progress towards a goal. we all know people that continually speak or complain about missed opportunities. The reality is that many people are scared to leave the comfort zone of their current life because that could possibly propel them to a level of existence that they might not believe they deserve. Many people would love to have the opportunity to better their lives but they live only hoping that opportunity falls in their lap. We all know people that say how much they could achieve if they had the chance. I once heard a rich man say. It is our light. when opportunity knocks they don't want to leave the comfort of their bed so they don't answer. On the other hand. When divine opportunities become available to you. Another important attribute of an opportunity is a favorable time and situation. Your playing small does not serve the world. They become comfortable with a life that's just good enough and let their dreams continue to be put on hold.
We are all meant to shine as children do. we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. And as we let our own lights shine. It would get my wife back near her family which she greatly loves. transportation. I was living a life that was good for the moment but the path to get to the great future I had. lodging and contacts for me to network. As we are liberated from our own fear. talents and abilities. our presence automatically liberates others. Within a week of arriving. Today. Now we all know that in order to walk in greatness we must take advantage of great opportunities and moving to California provided a great opportunity. look at the opportunities in front of you. In Chicago. Question: Destined For Success . I had to take a real good look at myself and figure out if I was really ready to take my life and family to another level. I was very comfortable in my present existence but God always showed me visions of a great future and how I would impact many people with my gifts. was never clear.77 . we had all we needed including income. It's not just in some of us. progress towards success and seizing the day.insecure around you. daycare. See when God gives you an opportunity He makes sure it goes smooth and according to His plan so that He can get the glory when you testify about how it all came to pass. it is in everyone. I had to realize the true meaning of divine timing. attempt to pursue them and live the life that exceeds just settling. it would give me the opportunity to experience year round summer (I really don't like cold weather) and it would give me an opportunity to showcase my abilities to people that could help me gain exposure." When the opportunity came for me to relocate from Chicago to Los Angeles.
How many opportunities do people get to change their lives? Answer: Too many to count, everyday you wake up you have another opportunity to change your life. Many people believe that the greatest opportunities are only when major things occur. Actually, opportunities start when we start making decisions to put on us on track with the opportunity. For example, I often watch a show called MTV's Making the Band. This show goes around the country looking for new singers to join a band that will be put together by Sean "P. Diddy" Combs. Out of thousands of participants the groups are cut down to five members. When those five members are chosen many of them feel that they have received the opportunity of a lifetime. I agree. This is an opportunity to pursue their dreams. The point I am making is that the initial opportunity came when they decided to pursue singing as their craft and they started developing their skills. They all still needed to make a way in life so most of them might have still worked jobs and tended to their families but since their greater dream was to sing, they also pursued that. Another opportunity came when they went to the initial audition for Making the Band. They could have felt that this was an audition for Bad Boy and decided they weren't yet good enough but they pursued that initial opportunity for the show and their skills shined enough to get them to the next level and so on. See, opportunities come all the time, it's just that instead of getting around the bases one at a time, everyone wants that homerun even though either way you score. When my wife and I decided that we were going to pursue the opportunity to move to California, we put the transition in motion. First, we sat down and figured out what all we needed to do prior to getting there. Once we laid out the plan, we started checking off items one by one. We told
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our landlord about our opportunity to move to California and instead of telling us that we couldn't break our lease she said as long as we helped her find a new tenant, she would allow us to leave. We used craigslist.org to give away most of our belongings because we just didn't have enough room to take it with us. For some reason, the more we gave away the happier we got. It wasn't that we were looking for some spiritual release or reward for giving things away, we just stayed focused on the goal and in order to get there we had to shed some of the things we currently were holding onto. We then moved in with my mother for two weeks prior to moving. I will tell you this, when I informed my family that we were moving to California, there were mixed reactions. My mother is the typical mother who had to raise a son on her own and she never wants me too far from her, so she didn't take the news well. My youngest sister wasn't happy with me taking her nieces from her and my older sister was impressed that I was chasing my dream. Sometimes in life you have to leave your comfort zone and step out and make your mark in life. I told my mother that I wasn't trying to leave the family by moving away, I just had to pursue the opportunity put in front of me. She then asked "What if it doesn't work?” I then said, "Well I'll just come back home." However, my next response is what got her attention. I said "What if it does work?” Then we all prosper. And I don't want to die wondering “what if”. When I landed in California, the first thing my father in law said to me was "Welcome Home." After settling in I sat down at my computer and wrote this article:
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IamSuccess With the New Year I have decided to change the name and identity of My Success Academy and the Successful Thinker newsletter. From this point on, this company will be known as IamSuccess.net. The newsletter will be known as the IamSuccess newsletter. As you can tell from the new layout and new logo we are still focusing on success but with the new name we want to focus on the pursuit of inner as well as outer success in life. With a new identity we want to educate, motivate and encourage people in their pursuit of success through purpose, business and technology. With a new identity I want people to understand what it means to say IamSuccess. When people start to understand who they are and who they were created to be, they will have a greater understanding of what successes they are to achieve in life. When you are learning and progressing in life, you are taking steps towards your destiny and you start to understand that success was and is always a part of you, you just have to pull it out of yourself. This journey through life is where your successes and learning opportunities are showcased and experienced. Success is not a destination but a journey. That lesson is hard for people to understand because they don't believe they are successful until they reach a certain point, only to realize that the point is unfulfilling. Therefore they continue to pursue an elusive destiny. One example of "success" is my declaration that inside of me is success and whatever you see me attempt will be successful. Now there will be people
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When I landed in California. But the best part of saying IamSuccess is not based on what is in me. I had written many newsletters but there were no books. mp3s. cds. talents and abilities. That confidence in who I am and what I possess gives me the ability to pursue my purpose and destiny with the vision and faith that never fails. I immediately got to work on product development. ebooks. you realize even in your missed goals there are lessons learned and therefore you are smarter than you were previously. I was now in California so it was time to apply all that I had learned. shirts. it's based on Who is in me. Destined For Success . And attained knowledge is another example of success. The question I often asked myself was did my business prosper because of moving to California or because I pursued my dream. IamSuccess means that I am confident in my gifts.that will point to your failures and say how can those be successes? When you are walking in success. dvds. Anyhow. I changed my business into what it is today. I AM. ecourses or products and services that are offered today.81 . Overall.
Since I decided to strike out on my own and pursue a better life. The wealthy read an average of two a week. I also had to start developing the vehicle that I would use to get me to my purpose and provide me with the guaranteed increase that I am destined to attain. I am talking about a self-help motivating book.82 . Here is a quote from it. It is amazing to me that the wealthy think differently about books and tapes and CDs. My first step in this process was: Self Development The current book I am reading is called “Thinking Like a Billionaire” by Scott Anderson. I had to make sure that all my decisions were based on that premise. I had to take all the lessons learned up till now and start applying them to every situation. Destined For Success . The average American reads one book a year and I am not talking love stories or People Magazine. Every step I took from here on out would be calculated towards the greater purpose for my life.Application At this point in my life I had stepped out of my comfort zone and was now living on purpose and in purpose. I read somewhere that Donald Trump reads two books a week—and he’s got billions of dollars.
They have a burning desire for more information on every area of investing from real estate to stocks to business. I feel changed. They constantly want to know how they can get more information on investing. “That’s an hour a day. I feel different. What is amazing is that I have the exact same amount of time in my life for doing the things I was doing before. 300 hours a year. I don’t even miss that hour. Now when I get out of the car. twenty-five hours a month.The wealthy know that wisdom is a key to abundance. 15.83 . I feel like I have Destined For Success . The rich don’t waste their time listening to mindless radio in their car. five hours a week.” Radio is not doing anything for their lives. Instead they say. but these tapes and CDs are getting them the wisdom that gets them thinking differently.000 hours in a lifetime (equivalent to twentyfour hours a day for two years straight) that I could spend listening to tapes and CDs that could benefit my life. which then gets them producing differently in their lives. I just gave up the one hour of mindless listening to music.
business. In 2002. We think that self-help books are a last resort to fixing the problem. The wealthy see them as the start to not having a problem. self development. I was completely and utterly upset because I had gone to school. The things that I was reading were a Destined For Success . As I read books on leadership. faith. I lost my first job out of college. I had to look for the answers to an existence that made my reality match my potential. I started to realize that “as a man thinks. graduated. I started to repeat what I had read because “from the heart. I was downsized due to budget problems and due to no fault of my own. that is what he becomes” (Proverbs 23:7). power of words and prosperity. the mouth speaks” (Matthew 15:18). power of thoughts. But when I lost my job my reality came crashing down and I decided to step out of that existence and transform myself and my situation. I decided to look to the resources that had gotten me that far in life and see if the answers were there. got the good paying job and my career was supposed to be set because I had “job security”. I started to read numerous books with the first one being Rich Dad Poor Dad. focus. I didn’t have the spiritual foundation yet to understand why these things were truth but I started to see them manifest in my life.done something with my day and it hasn’t even started. I decided that in order to live the life that I saw in my dreams and visions I had to become the person that was in those dreams and visions.84 .
This gave me that motivation and discipline that I have today to continue to read books. To that I say "I believe you". articles. I had all the book knowledge and all the motivational techniques down and I truly believed them. I just didn’t have anything to reference it with. I believe that to the fullest but what I realized once I opened the Bible is that the Jesus inside me. death and change and if you don't change then only death remains. so I didn’t understand the visions. There are two constants in life.85 . A few days after completing this article I received a call Destined For Success . your purpose is in you and once you find out who you are then you will become who you were meant to be. gives me all I need to achieve anything and everything. websites and numerous other resources to find information (knowledge) that will help me get from where I’m at to where I need to be. they always say that the power is in you. The book that put all of these principles and truths together was the Bible. Applying what I already knew was indeed a major step in my journey towards purpose but I wanted to make sure I made a commitment to continue developing myself along the way. I have heard about many people who get to a certain point in their life where they feel they are too smart to learn anything new. I didn't want to get to that point because as soon as you stop learning then you start regressing because the world continue to progress. What I didn’t know is that in the motivational arena.confirmation of what God had already showed me about my future. As I read more books I started to see myself become the man that I always knew I would be but was only a few books away from becoming.
from my friend Nick Hale and he said he had some words on his heart that he wanted to fill me in on. He said "J, I need you to get back to basics, I need you to keep doing what got you there and keep making progress." I didn't know exactly what he meant but when I pondered it along with my devotion to continued self development, it all became clear. My next step in my application of what I had learned was:
Develop a plan, write it down Have you ever started out going somewhere and when someone asked you where you were going or how you would get there you said “I’ll figure it out along the way”. That is the common attitude that many people have today in life. They just live it and figure out their future along the way. They also live by the hope factor. They hope something happens to them that will change their life for the better instead of taking steps to ensure things happen. How can you get anywhere if you do not know where you are going? There is a popular saying that goes like this, “If you fail to plan then you plan to fail.” No matter what you are doing in life, you are planning somehow, whether it be planning to succeed or planning to fail. There was a study done once at Harvard University with a particular class (I believe it was the class of ’75). They polled the graduates on their future plans and only a few of them had plans so detailed that they could write them down. Twenty years later they checked up on the graduates and the most successful individuals were the ones that had clear goals set. Less then 2% of all people have goals so clear that they can write them down. Many times when people are asked what their
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future has in store for them, they give vague answers of hopes and wishes. It is not often enough that you hear someone layout a five year plan of where they are going in life as well as the steps they will take to achieve those goals. Even when they miss the mark, people who are focused realize that there are still lessons that can be learned and that failure is not an option. They use boundaries and obstacles as learning experiences and motivation. Overall, writing down where you plan to be in life in one year, two years or five to ten years is something that everyone should attempt to do. In Habukukk 2:2 God says, “Write the vision and make it clear..” and that is what we are to do with our lives. Once we get the revelation of our purpose, once we know what we were created to do, then write down how you will get from where you are at to where you need to be. Then develop a “Whatever it takes attitude” because to have what you have never had, you must do what you have never done.
Many of us may also have a clear vision of where we are trying to get to in life. There are only a few of us that have a clear plan of how we are going to get from where we are to where we want to be. Since I was on a purposed path I had to have a plan because without one I would not have only stop progressing, but start regressing. Question: How do you write a plan when you don't know the future? Answer: The future isn't set yet, many people say that our future is already set but we can change our future if we put ourselves on a different path. Many people never
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really understand how significant each action, word and thought is. Many times we believe that our insignificant actions, thoughts and words aren't setting us on a particular path, we only tend to focus on major events. Major events do give us major movement down our paths but everyday happenings give us small coordinated movements down our paths as well. Therefore, if you start writing a plan, your actions, words and thoughts will start gravitating towards the goals that you wrote down. As different situations arise you will continue to make decisions that will keep you on the path that you have chosen and therefore will get you to the goals that you are focused on. You may not know the future when you write a plan, but you will learn the future because you wrote a plan. Next, develop a whatever it takes attitude as outlined in this article.
Develop a “whatever it takes” attitude There are two constants in life, death and change. Everyone dies and everything changes. The problem with change is that even though it's constant, it's not always accepted. Change takes people out of their comfort zone and therefore makes people start to realize that what they are used to will not always be. Change makes people have to adapt to what's new, and when you are used to a pattern and used to consistency, change is not welcome. Most people believe that in order to make it they must do more of what they are currently doing instead of stepping out of their comfort zone and doing something they have never done. For example, when people need more money in life, their first thought is to get an additional job. The
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nothing will stop you from Destined For Success . that same daily routine just does not cut it anymore. you start to see that continuing to do the same thing everyday is not what you were created for.89 . Your drive. change becomes an option and they start to realize. will see your effort and hopefully reward you. When you have a purpose in life. When you start your journey to walking in your purpose and step out from the crowd. In order to work your way up the corporate ladder and get that raise you will need to put in extra time so that the real people in control. no matter what gets in your way. you start to see life from a different perspective. goals and vision. they never get ahead. These answers remind me of someone turning the speed up on a treadmill or a person rocking faster in a rocking chair. and determination start to fuel your thoughts. Once you get a glimpse of what you can accomplish in life. outlook. When you realize that you were created to impact the world. attitude. If you get an additional job then you will not only work your initial job but you are now taking more time out of your day to work another job where you can easily become more exhausted and wonder where the time goes. and that is time. dreams. At that moment. The defining moment comes when people start to realize that no matter how hard they continue to do the same things in life.problem with an additional job is that you give up the one thing that is more valuable then extra money. yes you work harder. management. in order to have what they've never had they must do what they've never done. but do not get anywhere.
was able to stop my pursuit of purpose and that is where many people fall short. but believing it could happen to you. living based on your purpose. The change was not from the outside in. Even greater obstacles and difficulties await the person that is pursuing something greater then the average existence. Remember. Obstacles and difficulties are normal in life. When I applied my "whatever it takes" attitude along with my "I will not lose mindset". remember to: Destined For Success . Everyday you wake up with the mindset that no matter what happens I will progress towards my purpose. failure is not an option. Many of us have short bursts of "I will not lose" and "whatever it takes" moments. but when you live this day in and day out you start to see results in every aspect of your life. Here’s another word of advice. Before I go to sleep. it was from the inside out. When you take the responsibility of living your life on purpose. Nothing. Since you know that you will come up against these boundaries. living on purpose is just that. and I mean nothing. When you are walking that path.reaching that goal. Now you are living a life that many people don't normally live. I became a walking. talking example of "living on purpose". you will start to say things that you don't normally say and you will start to get results that you didn't normally get. you have to walk it until it's finished.90 . In time you will start to do things that you don't normally do. make sure you are ready for them and no matter what happens you will prevail. I will be closer than when I woke up. The hardest part about being successful was not doing different things. Once you believed then your "no matter what" attitude took over.
Your dream or goal in life should be so large that it makes you get up everyday and make continuous progress daily so that when you look back in a week. year or years you see that you may not be where you want to be. You don't have to setup the business all in one day but you can at least look up the business process or research your market to see if you can make money with your business. you don't have to make one big step to get there. Finally. but you are not where you used to be. continue to make progress everyday. if you have a dream or goal that does not require you to become a better person than you are now. Destined For Success . so everyday I continue to build a company that showcases different ways to bring out the success in people. Remember. If you see yourself traveling in the future. You may have to wait to get there but you don't have to wait to be prepared. Make continuous little steps and you will get to there just as well.Everyday make progress Everyday make progress toward a goal. then the dream is too small. Whatever you want to do in life and wherever you see yourself in the future. if you have a lofty goal that is too far away presently. month. then begin looking up the places you want to go online. I see myself as a person that teaches people to realize the success that is within them. If you see in your future a business for yourself then everyday make progress towards that goal. The definition of progress is steady movement towards a goal. The keyword there is steady.91 .
. For example if my goal is to write a book. then I first try to write the table of contents in one day.because. she came to the stairs and started going down them... I showed her that no matter what she thinks she can't run from dad. Well. Some of us are capable of that but most of us need to do one step at a time in order to get to our goals. bedtime isn't a time she likes.. That way instead of trying to write a book in one day. so she decided to take off running. Many times in life we all want to make the great jump and try to do six things at once. She was amazed that I didn't have to go down the stairs one by one.Remember. I had to.92 .So Get Ready!!! One day my daughter was playing in her room. Then I might write a page a day of each chapter. Both options got us to the bottom.. My daughter got down by going one stair at a time. Overall. As she was running around. I didn't want to chase her but since it was bedtime. to have what you have never had. Question: How can we make progress towards our goals everyday? Answer: When I set lofty goals I start by breaking the goals down into smaller "steps" so that I can figure out what I can do daily to get closer to the goal. Being that I was slightly tired myself. you must do what you have never done. I end up writing a book in 3 . I took one long jump. We had a small staircase of about six stairs and as she went down one by one she was focused on making it to the bottom so that she could continue running. my lesson was shown in the stairs.4 Destined For Success .. At 8pm I came in and I told her it was bed time. When I got to the stairs I jumped down all of them at once and met her at the bottom of the stairs.Success Is Inevitable.
it should be an attempt to express yourself in the most fluent way possible. Businessmen and other people with popularity and influence either hire media coaches or speech coaches to enhance their ability to speak well in front of the cameras or at public gatherings where people will hang on their every word. it can easily change one's entire perception. but once a person starts to speak. The answer. is not a thought that crosses many people's minds before they speak. The most significant interaction between people is the spoken word.93 . Truthfully speaking Did he just say what I think he said? That was the dumbest thing I have ever heard. Each time you speak. Musicians. It's very similar to a joke I once heard about how to eat an elephant.e. one bite at a time. The realization that each word that comes from your mouth has significant meaning. Think Before you Speak If more people took the time to think before they Destined For Success . The ability to be versatile with vocabulary is not viewed as an essential part of success. they are words that bring about action. i. voting. Are you talking to me? How many times have you heard or said these phrases? First impressions are usually made upon first sight. Politicians use words to get elected (even if those words are often lies). Writers use words to invoke thought and emotion. The importance of words seems to have been lost in the evolution of language. These people have realized the importance of words. Motivational speakers use words to promote action. Athletes.months.
phrases such as "he put his foot in his mouth" would not be so popular. Practice what you plan to say . The benefits you reap from taking extra time to choose your words will always outweigh the drawbacks of rushed words.Supporting arguments and statements show a thorough understanding of your topic and provide credibility to your words. • Define the issues . Only a fool speaks about what he does not know. Start your conversation. Gather the facts . Have supporting arguments . The significance of thinking and choosing the right words to say is of enormous importance. Make sure your voice is audible and you pronounce each word to show the importance of what you have to say.94 .Practice makes perfect.A wise man will take time to choose his words for he knows the value of what he says. Choose your words wisely . or statement with attention getters.this shows that you have confidence in what you are saying as well as • • • • • • Destined For Success . Speak clearly and concisely . speech. Speak positive .Make sure you are addressing something that is of importance to you and to your listeners as well.Make sure you have previous knowledge or have researched your topic thoroughly. make sure you practice what you want to say.Do not fade off at the end of your sentences. If you are preparing to speak. because what you say at the end of your sentences is just as important and what you say in the beginning.spoke.
do not continue to waste your words on closed ears. I have no problem fitting in with diverse crowds.make sure the listeners are paying attention to your words. different dialect. and different life experiences. (see below) Learn to Say Things 3 Different Ways When you are asked to expound on something. Destined For Success . Make sure what you said was understood be clear and concise with what you say and make sure you can clarify what you say in three different ways. different dress codes. Your words are very important. if you are speaking to a small group then do not continue) Maintain eye contact .• • • projects your optimism onto your listeners. Here are a few examples: I interact well with different groups. it should be part of your preparation to have thought about other ways of expressing your point. you will be faced with people who have different personalities. Watch body language . find someone who will listen. Learn to acquire an extensive vocabulary so that you become versatile and able to communicate with any group you encounter. if your listeners are not paying attention then do not continue.this lets the listener know (via your body language) that you are sure and certain of what you speak.95 . When you begin to network and interact with different people in different walks of life. If they are not. (If you are speaking to a large audience then shorten your speech. I'm calm and cool no matter what clique I'm with.
If small conversations and "insignificant" speaking moments were used as vocabulary practice. Let me inform you. and if you don't understand. This is precious practice time that you are wasting daily. every statement you make. I changed little but inward I had discovered a power that I never knew I had. Many people feel that if they are speaking with friends or family. they should not speak as if they were in front of a large audience. you want to make sure that you can relate to anyone and everyone that you may come into contact with. when you are asked to speak to a large audience or make an important presentation. When I actually understood the importance and power of words.I know how to say things three different ways. Practice your Conversation Skills all the time Each conversation you have. we would considerably increase our oratory skills and begin to form valuable speaking habits. It wasn't based on any success Destined For Success . These habits lead to an increased vocabulary. I can tell you something once and still have two other ways to explain it.96 . I will clarify it twice. As I practiced my speaking skills more. and every sentence you utter should help you take a step closer to achieving speaking brilliance. you will easily feel prepared and confident because your natural speaking ability will guarantee your success. I started to see people view me in a totally different manner. When I started to speak with confidence and choose my words carefully. I was seen as an entirely different person. Finally. it helped me elevate to an entirely new level of existence. Outwardly. Overall.
97 . I also was surprised to see so many responses that stated that people connected with me while I was speaking and I seemed comfortable in front of people. It was all based on my choice of words and how I conveyed my thoughts. I was shocked to see many people surprised that this was my first speech.that I had or anything that I acquired. I was able to speak clearly and convey my thoughts easily because I had an extensive vocabulary. I started to see people look at me as some sort of resource of knowledge. Let me give you a great example. Question: How can I practice and improve my words? Answer: Books. They assumed I had been speaking in the group for a while. When I gave my first speech in February 2007. But for the most part I just watched and listened. they started to pay more attention to what I had to say. I gave the introductory speech where I introduce myself to the group and fill them in on my life. I would sometimes participate in small contests such as table topics where we would give small one to two minute responses to a random topic chosen. before I spoke. I joined Toastmasters in October 2006. Many people say they fear public speaking more then death and Toastmasters helps many people overcome this fear. I started to learn that the appearance of deep thought makes people listen. Upon joining. Two good resources are the bookstores (Borders or Barnes and Noble) Destined For Success . When people began to notice that I would stop and think. I sat back and watched people give speeches before I even considered preparing a speech. When I saw the critiques of my speech. books are anywhere and everywhere. Toastmasters is an organization designed to help individuals learn to become better public speakers.
When I was trying to develop myself into a better person I read books that helped lay the path to where I was trying to go. Of course according to the article above being able to say things different ways is a great oratory skill. responsibility and a sheer willingness to come through on what was promised. therefore making those words empty and meaningless. I wanted increase in many areas of my life. the response should be one of satisfaction and comfort because according to what was stated. Books such as Rich dad Poor dad. Therefore misguiding and Destined For Success . One of the most common problems in business is no accountability. See. Usually those words provide accountability. including but not limited to finances. Instead of saying I was going to be rich one day. When you hear or state these phrases. Be accountable I’ll do it. it shall be taken care of. Many times there are many businesses that make promises that they cannot come through on.98 . The problem arises when people state those words and do not come through. 21 Laws of Leadership and The Purpose Driven Life helped me to not only get more focused on my goals in life but provided me with many words that I could use when speaking on where I was going in life. When you start reading many books.and libraries. you start to see similar themes and the different ways they are explained. you can count on me and don’t worry I’ll take care of it. from reading and expanding my mind I realized it wasn't just money that I wanted for my future. How many times have you said or heard those statements. I would say I was living to fulfill my purpose and increase would come on my life in many ways not just financially. I’ll be there.
. Therefore when you speak you should know that those words hold the power to impact your life as well as others. lawsuits and negative word of mouth advertising. even if you are just saying what you are going to do or have already done. Back in the old days.misleading the customer leads to dissatisfaction. In the Bible.99 .So Get Ready!!! The last two articles put great emphasis on words. Don’t make people believe that your words hold no weight and that when you speak ears should close. Proverbs also speaks about how a wise man thinks before he speaks. Make sure that when you open your mouth to speak on anything.Death and life are in the power of the tongue. and those who love it will eat its fruit. the first article was about the importance of words and the second Destined For Success . you command and demand attention because what you say will impact any and everyone within ear reach. These principles apply in personal relationships as well. Speak it and let nothing stop you because Success Is Inevitable. Breaking your word was a mortal sin and respect was measured in accountability and dependability and not who has the most possessions. according to Proverbs 18:21 . Therefore we understand that our words hold power and should be spoken in a wise manner.. all that was needed to seal a deal was your word and a handshake. People valued their word so much that there was no way they would not come through on what they said they would do. When you tell someone that you are going to do something. Don’t let your words lose their power amongst the people in your life. make sure you do it.
Keep your word and show that you have integrity.100 . When people decide to do business with you in any way sort or manner. Communication consists of speaking and listening then responding based on what you have heard.article was about the importance of "your" word. if they do not believe that you have any integrity. sometimes there will be things that you say you can do that you might not be able to come through on. Remember. Communication is a lost art that could resolve so many issues if it were a method that more people knew how to use. then they will not believe that your business is based on integrity. Destined For Success . The foundation of our businesses comes from what we as individuals believe and therefore if individually we have no integrity then our businesses will operate in the same manner. The key to not making yourself out to be a liar is to just communicate that to your client and let them know when you will be able to make good on what you said. Many people believe communicating is just waiting to speak.
Destined For Success . Instead of being like everyone else. you were born different and you will stay different.Manifestation As I set out to set myself apart from any other individual I had to really look at what I was trying to accomplish in life. There is nothing like receiving an email from someone who has read something you wrote (book. I wanted to make sure I was still filled with the same integrity that I had when I started. article) to let you know how much it impacted their life. it means unique in your approach and unique in your results. you will start to develop yourself into a brand.101 . As you start to show people that your approach is different but still yields positive results. It's an amazing feeling to see all the time that you put into becoming a person of influence start to manifest itself in people wanting to hear the words that you speak. Different doesn't mean negatively dissimilar. A brand that people will seek out at all costs. read the words that you write and watch the words you say on video. Was I only pursuing money or was I really trying to help others? Was I using my gifts for my benefit or was I really helping others and in turn they helped me? What set me apart from another person with similar gifts as mine trying to the same thing? These are questions that I had to figure out because as I started to see the manifestation of my hard work. It's at that moment that you realize that even though you appear similar to others. newsletter. It's also a great feeling to check your online store and see your products continually selling out because the word of mouth is spreading rapidly. you are unique.
you have to believe that you can provide what it is they Destined For Success . innovative and successful. When you hear people speak about top brands such as Coca Cola. In order for you to show others that you can provide what they are looking for. understand themselves so well that they are in essence their own brand. They sell themselves with the utmost skill. The people that are most successful. if they do much today they will have much in the future and if they do nothing today. then they will have nothing in the future. Confidence is defined as belief in oneself and one's powers or abilities. The general consensus is that whoever is able to find themselves. A key step in developing "You: The Brand" is to develop unwavering confidence in yourself. you have to have quite a few characteristics that are displayed by today's strongest brands. This pursuit of self often translates into success or lack thereof within the workplace. These are qualities that each of us should have in developing ourselves as a brand. they become the person they want to be.102 . Therefore. wishing and searching for the true meaning of the reflection in the mirror. visibility. Microsoft and GE. their purpose and why they are here would experience great success in life.You the brand Who are you? That question has confused and defined many men throughout the ages. you think of things such as dependability. They also understand that future outcomes are based on today's actions. Many people either excel or underachieve based on their view of self and where they see themselves in the future. To develop "You: The Brand". Those that struggle to find themselves and their path would be left hoping.
Communication is another key skill in developing "You: The Brand". Remember. Many times when we watch talk shows. There have been many situations where I had no idea how to reach the solution that someone required of me but because I spoke with confidence people were more than comfortable that I could figure it out within the required time frame. Effective communicators are able to easily and efficiently speak their thoughts. or any talk based media we find that we are drawn in more by hosts who can communicate at the highest levels without filler words such as ah. I Destined For Success . newscasts. intentions and desires. Communication is the key to solving many problems in today's society. people don't know what you are capable of until you let them know. Not only is communication the key to solving problems but communication is a primary key in advancing in career and business aspirations.need. um and so. The issue that most people run into when they approach a problem isn't that there is "no solution". When approaching a problem you have to believe that you can either figure out or find the solution. There can never be a problem without a solution. They are able to communicate so well that their audience is able to see a visual picture based on their oratory explanation. it's that they don't have enough confidence in "their" ability to find the solution. if you are confident that you can do anything then people can either believe you or sit back and watch you achieve it.103 . I am a part of the professional speaking organization known as Toastmasters International and when I give speeches I am critiqued based not only on my presentation but my adequate usage of words.
Within a few presentations I had corrected my word usage and now I speak clearly and more slowly to make sure I pronounce all words to further impact my point.104 . spoke that way so I never noticed that I spoke the same way. many people would listen because I had researched the topics prior to speaking. In my previous article "Reading is fundamental. I wrote that research is critical Destined For Success . I had learned to speak as quickly as possible. When I could add to the conversation. but fools are quick to speak and slow to listen. How can we acquire knowledge if we don't read? I make it a point to read many websites and many books on the topics that I strive to become knowledgeable in. people listen. Therefore I would listen and learn from many people on various topics.always thought I was an effective communicator but I wasn't aware of the filler words that I used in speaking and how fast I spoke. Communication is indeed a lost art but speaking without substance is a quick way to turn people away from "You: The Brand". technology. John Maxwell said that only 1/3 of all adults read a book after high school. I learned in the book of Proverbs that the wise are quick to listen and slow to speak. Daily I read books and websites on leadership. ministry and web design. We have all come across people who talk alot about nothing. You have to have knowledge behind the words you use so that when you speak on topics. if you read 5 books you are well versed in it and if you read 10 books then you are an expert. The people that I was around most. research is critical". I found that when I spoke on topics. Since people have short attention spans. It has been said that if you read 3 books on a topic then you are knowledgeable. I would then speak.
Your approach.to advancement and when you stop learning you stop growing. When you start to look at what you are bringing to the table. The steps you take today get you closer to your goals of tomorrow. you need to make sure that you are unique from your competitors. Destined For Success . you see they are unique in their field. start to walk in who you believe you are and you will become that person. insight and process should be one that shows that you may not be the cheapest. When you look at the major brands. Google searches and organizes online information uniquely. Coca Cola has a secret formula that makes it unique from all other beverages. talents you bring and leadership you exemplify sets you apart from anyone or any company that tries to out perform you. You want to make sure that the solutions you provide. fastest or shortest way to the solution but you are the best and your way is the only way they should use.105 . Right now take steps to become the person you want to be. The final step to developing "You: The Brand" is to become unique.
when you give someone advice you are pouring into their lives and that person will remember you. start small and then get bigger. When we do small things for others we think little of the deed but the recipient might think the world of it. we spoke about the stages of a man. I remember buying a homeless man a sandwich one time and the sandwich costs me three dollars which wasn't much money at all. I am not saying to not give any advice. Many authors know that their books will last far longer then they will on this earth. After giving the gentleman the food he let me know that this was his first meal of the day. I am just saying that when you start to think of ways to help. Earlier in this book. artists. Artists know that their works of art will far outlive their lifespan and of course singers know that their musical creations will last longer then they could ever wish to live. engineers. Let me digress for a moment because I don't want to belittle any of the small things that are done for people. Destined For Success . you reach many more people and that adds to your legacy tenfold.Each One Teach One The greatest men and women that have ever lived have all left their mark on this world in unforgettable ways. They have shown through their works and their lives that they saw past themselves in their desires and had the greater interest of mankind in mind. When we start to create things that will benefit mankind we are adding to our legacy much more then we really are aware of. As we are growing up we go through stages. authors and other people by their works that we have rediscovered. When we all get to that spiritual stage we see that it's not about us and we start to develop ways to leave a lasting legacy on this world. Today we know of great composers. When you write a book on encouragement.106 . For example.
Remember. The facilitator asked each of us. loved to love. I didn't realize this meaningless sandwich would be the only meal of the day for this man.it was 2 pm. educated to educate.what will you say? When I pondered what I would say to my maker.107 . disciplined to discipline. Therefore. hugged to hug and helped to help. taught to teach. There are many more things that we are shown that we can do for others but the underlying meaning is that all we have. trained to train. When you die all that is left for people are memories and assets.. but in reality there is a difference on how you see yourself and how others view you. When we start to walk in our purpose we realize that the more we achieve. what would people say at your funeral? At first I was taken back by this question because you immediately start to say the things you would want to hear. I wrote this article. we can give and I am not talking about financially. when we all are standing before our maker and He asks us what did we do with what He gave us.. what would they say? I was participating in a seminar last month and a great question was posed that took many participants by surprise. There are many things that people find memorable but usually they only Destined For Success . this meal was major to him. We are blessed to bless. if you died tomorrow. the more that is required of us. If you died. Your assets are divided according to your will (unless you don't have one then the government steps in) and the memories of you are kept alive by the people that want to continually remember you. saved to save. empowered to empower. we will have to answer.
sometimes the people who most impacted your life are your greatest memories." answered Jesus. Now think of the people who impacted your life the most. According to the Bible the second greatest commandment is to Love your neighbor as yourself. The Greatest Commandment (Mark 12:28-31) 28 One of the teachers of the law came and heard them debating. 'There is no commandment greater than these. he asked Him. since you are deceased but they could possibly mean lots to people whose lives you have impacted. then not only will people line up to say good things about you but you will have innumerable treasures stored up in heaven. Your accomplishments and achievements mean nothing to you now. which is the most important?" 29 "The most important one. the Lord is one. reached out to others.remember things that impact their lives. the Lord our God. 30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. Think about your greatest memories. They all have to do with something significant that happened to "you" in life. If you go through life only doing things for yourself then when you die there will be nothing to say because the person that you did the most for is now dead. O Israel." Destined For Success .' 31 The second is this: 'Love your neighbor as yourself. If you continually helped people. and decided to "love your brother as you have loved yourself".108 . "is this: 'Hear. "Of all the commandments. Noticing that Jesus had given them a good answer.
There is no reason to keep our talents hidden from the world. Many people believe that if they tell others how to advance in life then those people will become a threat or advance further than themselves. thus if they can do it then I can Destined For Success . talent or ability. Hoarding information.Now let's compare this to business. why can't I do that. I want you all to continue to progress in life and to reach out and help others as much as possible. When we shine we unconsciously give others the permission to do the same. paralyzed that someone will achieve more than them and constantly watching their back instead of looking ahead in life. When you die you want people to tell stories about your life and how you impacted them in numerous ways. When you start to show the world what you are capable of. I didn't know at the time but that rule is based on a biblical principle and it is very true. Your wealth may not come in the form of money but it will come in other ways. people around you will start to think.109 . we think that we will be looked upon as showoffs or braggarts but that is not the case. you helped changed the world. That type of mentality will keep many people right where they are. Each person that you helped in life..So Get Ready!!! If you have a gift. that's my neighbor and I grew up with them. material possessions or your wealth will not get you further in life because when you die you cannot take any of that with you (and it's a guarantee you will die). One of the best rules of business that I learned was "the more people you help the richer you become". Success Is Inevitable. try to get it out for the world to see. When we showcase our talents. Overall..
It's not just in some of us. Destined For Success . our presence automatically liberates others.110 . our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us. We are all meant to shine as children do. it is in everyone and as we let our own lights shine we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Here is a great saying that I found that speaks volumes about us shining.to. That's when your gift has shined so bright that you have released the gift of someone else. As we are liberated from our own fear.
Make sure when you pray you are letting God know that in this moment. are doing and will do in our lives and my words are just not enough to speak on all that I am thankful for. Praise When you start your prayer to God you should always start with praise. so we should take time to let God know that we believe He is awesome still. Ask and Yield.Y Every Sunday I listen to Bayless Conley at Cottonwood Christian Center. I am overjoyed at all that you have done. A few Sundays ago Pastor Conley spoke about praying and the benefits of praying consistently. Destined For Success . I listened intently on the explanation.A. While explaining the importance of prayer.Bonus P. As he broke down each one.R. Repent. It was Praise. He also spoke about the necessity of prayer and how it impacted the life of Jesus and how it impacts (or detracts) from our lives. When we offer our praises up to God we can continue to let Him know that He is first in our lives and that His splendor. These simple four steps helped Pastor Conley develop a structured prayer life and continually get answers when he petitioned God for anything that his heart desired.111 . We all know God is an awesome God. glory and grace give us more than enough reasons to praise Him. We want to let God know that we are not taking Him or His blessings for granted in our lives and each additional breath is better than the one before it. Pastor Conley gave a great acronym for the word Pray.
When you ask God for what it is that you desire. 1 John 1: 9 says "If we confess our sins. make sure you have the faith and confidence that He will do it. it says to come boldly to the throne room to make your petitions of the Lord. when you have unforgiven sin. Everyone believes that God is capable of answering their prayers but not everyone believes that God "will" answer their prayers. You are out of the righteousness of God but not uncovered by the blood of Jesus Christ. if you are saved you will still go to Heaven. In Hebrews. and concerning the work of My hands [would you] command Me?" Many people hope that God answers their prayers Destined For Success . When you ask God for forgiveness. and its Maker: Would you question Me about things to come concerning My children. Remember. the Holy One of Israel. Repentance is heartfelt sorrow for the sins you have committed. It’s a strong desire not continue to commit sins and new outlook that will not dwell on past sins. once we repent we are back walking in our righteousness and able to walk in the authority that God has given us. Therefore. God says that He will remember your sins no more for your own sake.Repent After you praise God to your hearts content. Repentance is a key part of our Christian walk. if God forgets our sins then why would we continue to carry them? Ask When you are done repenting then it is time to ask for what it is your heart desires. "Thus says the Lord." Therefore. Isaiah 45:11 says. He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. ask for forgiveness for the sins that you have committed.112 .
ask in confidence and faith what you desire of the Lord and make sure it is in Jesus name. I hear. It took me a long time to learn to listen and my wife will attest to that but now I have learned to listen when I pray. you will ask nothing of Me [you will need to ask Me no questions]. I was listening to a song by Deitrick Haddon recently and he said. I assure you. "Stand still and know that He is God".interesting isn't it? Remember when you ask to ask in Jesus name.. yield and listen to what God has to say. I make sure that anything and everything God has to tell me. AMEN Destined For Success . God's got a message for each and every one of us. most solemnly I tell you. when you are nearing the end of your prayer. let's all listen to what He has to say. Yield Finally. When you are yielding make sure you stand still and know that God wants to speak to you. It is imperative that we learn to listen." Therefore.. God asks us to command His hands. "And when that time comes.but according to the Bible.113 . Many of us are the world's best speakers but very few of us can listen to anyone. that My Father will grant you whatever you ask in My Name [as presenting all that I AM]. for John 16:23 says.
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