Avoid or Manage It

Criticisms
By S.Sulianah
Grapholistic International - www.grapholistic.com

Criticisms. The expression of others' perspectives of that might hurt your feelings,
offensively haunt you and miffed you everyday. You weep at night thinking about
it. Agitate you at any second of distractions. Bitterly vengeful.

Those words that hurt your feelings and
haunt every corner of your thoughts.
You will keep thinking whether you are
actually that person he/she had said.
Questions that kept clouding your
thoughts. "Is he blind to criticize me that
way? He thinks he is good enough that he
could say I am like that? Who do you think
he is? I know better than him!"
Criticizing someone seems to be much
easier than to endure the effects of being
criticize. Normally, we will not realise that
we had criticize or bring down a person.
However, if you are the victim, you will
notice it.
If you are the person who is providing the
feedbacks or the person who criticize,
how can you detect the reaction of the
person you were talking to? Normally, you
can observe by the change in his facial
expression instantly. His smile will fade.
He might start fidgeting and started to be
uncomfortable in his position, or could be
tapping his finger on the table.
As a criticizer, you have to be sensitive on
the receiver's response. Stop the
conversation if you find that it could lead
to an argument or violence. Most of the
time, you could sense it. On the other
hand, if the person seems to be able to
accept it, maintain your tone and
momentum of respect. Speak with
diplomacy to avoid appearing as though
you are pinpointing the negative aspects
of his personality. Speak with respect and
you will receive more positive response
out of it. If you are in a position to
instruct, you can show a mild and subtle
leadership firm appraisal or suggestions.
Raise your voice only if you need to. Be
patience when you deal with people.
If you feel that you are not able to speak
with diplomacy, learn and find out on how
to communicate effectively. You can be
blunt, but be blunt charismatically. Check
out books such as 'How to Win Friends
and Influence People' by Dale Carnegie
and 'Making Friends' by Andrew Matthew.
The writers had highlighted areas which
we might not notice our weak points in
communication. Dale Carnegie mentioned
about how we can handle people. People
want us to be interested in them. To avoid
hatred, we have to be tactful and
communicate what you have in mind and
feelings with diplomacy.
Check whether you are diplomacy or not
through your handwriting. Check your
letter 'm'. The second hump should be
written lower than the first hump.
Sample here

In a scenario as the person who is being
criticized.
How to handle it? Firstly, we should learn
how to appreciate ourselves. Learn from
experiences when we communicate with
people. It will build up our self-confidence
and strength to handle issues and others'
attitude.
When someone criticizes us, if we think it
is not right, just hold on to your thoughts
and angst. Instantly analyze ourselves. If
he is telling you in a nice way with respect
and you disagree, respond intelligently.
You can keep it to yourself first and reflect
it back later. Some feedbacks are
constructive which might be good for you.
However, if you think that person was
merely exaggerating and accusing,you can
approach him the next day and clear it
with him. Do not ever lose your temper
unnecessarily.
On the other situation, what if the other
person is criticizing us like Simon Cowell
did in national TV? First of all, why do you
have to join that kind of competitions if
you are not prepared to be criticized in
public? This explains in reality, why do you
have to say something that open the door
for someone to comment negatively
about you if you are not prepared.
If you have large loop stem for your lower
case 'd' or 't', please mind what you say
when you socialize. If you cannot accept
feedbacks or jokes that might hurt you,
avoid saying something that leads to
someone hurting you with their vicious
words. Mind what you speak.
Sample of handwriting here:
t-loop

What you can do to your 'd' and 't'? The d-
loop relates to our sensitivity in accepting
criticism related to appearance. While't'
loop signifies our sensitivity related to
ideas or philosophies.
With the application of Grahotherapy, this
is what you can do. Flatten and close the
loops the next time you write your 't' and
'd'. Consistently practice that.
Sample of handwriting here:
d-loop

When you apply this technique, set it in
your mind that you are doing this to
improve yourself and accept positively
any criticisms that come along. Tell
yourself that you will manage and handle
it well without negatively affecting you
and lose your confidence.
Practice this.
On the other hand to complement with
this, improve on self-esteem. Do not
degrade yourself. Apply Graphotherapy -
Place your t-bar above the middle zone,
do not exceed over the stem. You will be
more assure of your own capabilities and
strengths. On the highlights you will be
able to manage any negative external
influence with confidence.
When you are able to accept criticisms
and feedbacks from people, you will learn
a lot. Sometimes is not about what they
said about you, it is about how you learn
to strengthen your character, be firm and
bullet-proof.
It does not mean that you will not feel
hurt after you change those traits in your
handwriting. However, you will be less
sensitive when someone said something
about you that you disagree. At a certain
point of time, you will know what to
ignore and what to accept for
improvement.
These changes will gradually inhibit in you
subtly. Observe and you will see the
improvements.

Wish you all the best, and root in your mind that you can own what you wish for
as long as you believe you can!!
Category: Self-Improvement -- Positive Attitudes
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
S.Sulianah (B.A Psych & Mktg Mgmt, DHMS,DSB,DBM,DHA)
S.Sulianah had graduated from her studies in Bachelor of Arts in
Psychology and Marketing Management from Murdoch
University. She holds a Diploma in Business Management,
specialised in E-Commerce from Nanyang Polytechnic,
Singapore.
Applying her studies in psychology with experience in
handwriting analysis had appealed her presence in practicing
this remarkable science. She was awarded a Diploma in
Handwriting Analysis from International Correspondence
Schools-USA. She had attended a lecture on Personnel and
Children's Handwriting with The London College of Graphology.
She is also a member of International Grapho-Analysis
Society,Inc (IGAS).
Its application has been an interesting and helpful tool to
understand her clients better. The Science of Handwriting
Analysis, on the other hand, had assisted her in human resource
management practice to communicate with people more
effectively and selecting employees for organizations.
Apart from that, she had undertaken studies in Schussler
Biochemistry and a Homeopathic Practitioner, certified with
Diploma in Homeopathic Medical Science by The Homeopathic
Academy Council of Malaysia, and Diploma in Schussler
Biochemistry by Institute of Homeopathy America.
S.Sulianah had been exposed to various experiences with a
favorable number of clients during the course of study and for
the past few years. She had conducted detailed researches and
from the vast assistance from her helpful and knowledgeable
professors, experienced homeopaths and even dedicated
course mates, she managed her first fibroid case with success. It
took a number of months to achieve the positive results. Positive
changes occurred, and that had motivated her to keep learning
about it.
She had published articles mainly on handwriting
analysis/graphology,psychology, Biochemistry and Homeopathy.
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