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the important thing is that problems make us grow!!! I loved your heresy. thank you for all your Heresies. my blunders and problems because it is thanks to them that I can grow and move forward day after day. but when you're immerse in a problem. May God bless you. I feel proud of what my life has been. Thank you.. “Excellent Anita. “Hi Ana María. as you say." – Edna Milena Jaramillo Romero.Bibiana Herman 6 http://herejia.typepad........ I like your heresies because I can relate to them sometimes... we have to live for better or worse... cool reflections. THANK YOU" ..com/heresy . as your friend says: "What a powerful connection".. I have always looked up to you because of those qualities that have made you a great leader." Yissel Linero. Only you can reach deep into the hearts of each of your friends. “You're right. and a huge hug to you.. but I have made a serious determination to leave them all behind me as something that is not even worth remembering....and." Luisa Fernanda Castillo.breathing.Thank you” – Ángela Gil “The words you write when you take off the glasses that make you see things in black and white everyday ARE supportive of the idea of thinking out the box to create and innovate in our everyday activities. you're definitely a genious! You write so beautifully! . you have made me realize that all my successes and mistakes in life are an essential part of my being." – Nancy Rodríguez “I loved it!!!” – Erika Giraldo “Ana María. your heresies are extraordinary and.María Isabel Montesdeoca “Ana Maria."– Jaime Martínez “There are times when our old broken bones become tender again. watching the sun and the moon every day. everything is hazy and agonizing.
“…You hit my nail right on the head. I will always love my great FRIEND...my dear friend unconditionally" - Claudia Lucia López Cadena “Ana,! I love what you write! About this heresy I love the analogy to the song!” – Pilar Solano “This heresy reaches directly into your heart and hurts, but falling down does not mean to lose at all... we need to learn from our falls, to rise, and head for a new direction.. here's a humongous hug to you!! - Diana Bejarano “Hi Ana María, maybe you don't remember me well. I was fortunate to be your student in a course on Finance at Javeriana University. Everytime I check my Facebook, I enjoy reading your wonderful writings. This book in particular came to me when I needed it the most. Sometimes our roads grow so narrow that we don't know what choices to make. I only hope things work out like you say: you pull in your sails and sail again with better winds. Thank you for sharing your great experiences." – Luis Eddy López. “: )I'm really glad to learn that your heresies are going to keep making us fall in love with life!!! I love you so much!” – Ximena Toro Walden. “You're totally right, Anita. Behind each disappointment lies a great opportunity..." – Yoko López Nishi “Ana, what a lovely heresy!....I believe I've been wrong for a long time!!! A big hug” – Catherine Hurtado “Anita, I love your heresies, they really make me soar, ponder, and think… Congratulations on your contributions to our lives, a strong hug.” – María Fernanda Calvo W. “Congratulations, may God continue to fill you with blessings for these beautiful heresies and messages you
convey to each one of us who read them. A hug.” – Vicky Coral “I agree.....richness is inside each one of us and in our ability to contribute to transforming the world...". Yenni Adriana Villamar. “Congratulations, my beloved friend! Thank you for continuing to share your learnings, thoughts, and feelings with us...Big hug! – Libia Vélez Latorre. “Congratulations.....I couldn't agree more....you're such a bright woman.....” – María del Pilar Rua
Reflections of a heretic
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................. How to answer the questions about death .................... Poetic heresy ......................... X..................................... 35 The absurd that stops us .......... We have to celebrate!................................................ 38 XI......... Poetic heresy v......... VI........................................ then it is not worth it ...... 57 XX... The butterfly effect ..................................... 61 XXIII................typepad........... Why should we continue on if we're already there? 59 XXII....... 23 Communism doesn't work because it's boring ...com/heresy 11 ......... 40 XII................. 29 VII..... 62 http://herejia. 27 How to make a dent to the universe ................ Enthropy.............. If it doesn't have a dip................................. III.............. II............................................. 33 IX................... Crying at a movie or acting now to avoid more tears? ....................... 19 The moment of truth ..... 46 XIV. The magic of simplicity .......2............................................................... 58 XXI......... V....................... 25 Leadership in action. IV......... Become a butterfly this holiday season... Courage: taking action despite your fear ...................................... 21 Love grows in times of crisis ......................... 52 XVIII........ 47 XV............................. the truth we ignore .................. Creating a vacuum . 50 XVII......................................................................................................................... The difference between being a professional and being a "professionist" ............. Do you want a lie? ............... A butterfly flapping its wings ........................... Stretching our rubber band ...TABLE OF CONTENTS I....... 31 VIII.............. 43 XIII... 48 XVI................................ 54 XIX....
..................... The power of the pyramids ......................................... Thoughts of actions against anxiety.....................XXIV.................... 75 XXXII..................... 80 XXXVII.......................... XLIII....... 96 Bending the future .................................................................com/heresy .......................................typepad. 79 XXXVI........ 88 Pain and ego . XLV...................................................... 72 XXX.... XLII................. XLIV...................................... Conformism and happiness ........................................................................... 71 XXIX................... 90 XLVII.................... Cyclic perfection ..... 68 XXVII........... XLI... 92 XLVIII.......3 .................. Microcharity ... 64 XXV...... L...... 74 XXXI... A magic wand called self-esteem.. 76 XXXIII............. XLVI....... 87 What we create in our lives............... 89 Who created "Jiminy Cricket"? ............................... 97 http://herejia... Where does hope come from? ...................... One minute at a time ............................ Are we human or are we dancers? ................................................................ 85 When we build from love ....... 66 XXVI............................................................ 12 Me and I...................... The opportunity to explore ........................ Poetic Heresy v.. Making love out of nothing at all.............. Poetic heresy v.4...... 86 To be insignificant ......... 83 XL........................................ Dying every day ................................ 77 XXXIV........... Where would kisses go? .................... The formula to overcome stress ............................ 70 XXVIII......... 82 XXXIX.. 94 XLIX............. 84 When our skin becomes uncomfortable .................Warmth in the soul .................... When silence is the best word ............ Love grows when you share it ............ 78 XXXV.......................................... 81 XXXVIII............................
.. 133 LXXV............. LV........................................ LXIII............... 131 LXXIII Heresies from the road ..................... 123 LXIX............................ 132 LXXIV........................ 119 LXVII......... When we stop shining ............... 110 The face you can't see ........... 100 Oh!................... 103 The inexisting time and space ............... LX........... Heresies from the road 2...............typepad.............................................................................................. Campaign for unreasonableness .......... 129 LXXII.................... LXX... ...................LI........... LXV. 134 LXXVI........... LIV.................................... LXI. LIII...................................... LIX....... LVIII....................... 127 Saudade ............................................ LXVI...................... The art of knowing when to get disconnect ............. To be light ................ What does Pablo want? .............................................. 125 The power of choice ..0 .................... LXXI........... 114 The passion fruit effect ...................................... 109 Our souls in the air......................... 108 How far should my dreams go? ................. 105 When nobody is watching me................... LXII............ 111 The freedom that never comes .... charming perfection.....................com/heresy 13 .............................. 107 Old aching........................... 101 Letting go.... 118 Today I am alive .................... 113 Drivers wanted .............................. LVII............................ Fascination ........................................................................ 98 Aristotle and Buddha.................................... 115 Niagara on a bike ........................................................... 117 I am afraid ......... LII................... 136 http://herejia..... LXIV...... LVI................................... Today I am grateful ................. 121 LXVIII.
........ 148 LXXXVI... XCI....... Heresies from the road 4.............................................. Heresis from the road 3.......... 141 LXXXI................................... 139 LXXX.... 143 LXXXIII........... 164 The ostrich effect ........................... XCV................................................................................ 137 LXXVIII................ 138 LXXIX................................... 167 14 http://herejia... 155 When our soul itches . 165 The right ones . Creating happiness ............... Everything is perfect ..... Creating greatness ...... XCVII....................... 162 The goat and the butterfly .............0 ............ XCVI.......................... XCIII.......... Heresies from the road 6....................typepad................. Into the flame with love ............................................... 157 The black hole of doubt ...................... 152 LXXXIX....... 163 The generosity of forgiveness ....................... The privilege of loving .....0 ................................. XCII......................LXXVII................0......... C................. Flowing ............................ 159 The strength of the heart ................ 149 LXXXVII.com/heresy ... 150 LXXXVIII....... 147 LXXXV.............................. XCIX.................... 153 XC.......... It's not so bad ........ 144 LXXXIV.......... 160 The miracle of resurrection ..0 ..They're not responding to me.............................. 142 LXXXII......................... XCIV............................. 166 When you turn 100 ..........0 ........ XCVIII.......................... Heresies from the road 5................................Creating opportunities to fail ...................... 154 The cost of being right ..................................... Heresies from the road 7....................................
http://herejia. To each moment of my life and the life I gave in every instant.com/heresy 15 . to Universe. To each one of the heretics who read these lines and find their own expression in them. to love.To Life.typepad.
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With this. Having completed these first hundred heresies.com/heresy 17 .this somehow makes me smile. I have rather been a heretic than an individual who silently and unquestioning accepts the established order which wilts the hearty smiles that we came to this world for. the itching of my soul was stronger than any reason I could ever have for not writing. I decided to compile them in a book.000 visitors.typepad. Heresy is also a book originally written in Spanish and launched in Amazon on June 2009. I am a very happy heretic. almost a year after its release on the web. in one of those seemingly critical times. as well as a Facebook application that delivers daily messages to more than 300 loyal heretics that use the tool constantly.had the sufficient strength and structure. Since then a love-filled conversation has been constantly flowing day after day. Heresy will continue to plant transformation as it moves forward. in other words.. The dictionary defines it as: "an opinion or doctrine opposed to orthodox dogmas". This means that I have been a heretic all my life. and if the inquisition which is very much still alive . There is a Heresy fan page in Facebook as well and constant Twitter updates for Heresy. and finally. What started out as a concern in my sould has gradually turned into a wave of love.About the origin of Heresy Heresy is a burst which was waiting to explode out of my soul for many sunsets now. it has received almost 14. then I would certainly be at the head of the line waiting to be burned at the stake. and today. People often ask me about the meaning of the word heresy. so it was more than about time that the book and the blog got http://herejia. Nowadays Heresy is read in more than 33 countries worldwide every day.. the proceeds of which will be directly donated to the causes supported by Heresy..
my perfectionism and my fear of failing that made me stop everytime I thought that the translation would not be good enough or would have gramatical errors.typepad. With all my love. Translating the book to English was more an art and a labour of love than what you would normally imagine a “normal” translation process would be at a big publishing house. 2009 18 http://herejia. beyond every reason.com/heresy . for believing in this dream and pushing me towards completing it. thank you for making me great. this book exists in English thanks to her love and support. I love you.translated into English and continues growing in the world. and thank each and everyone of those people and situations I have come across in life which have made me grow and become the heretic I am now. November. Here I want to give the most special thanks to Juli. AnaMaria Rivera Miramar. Juli. The only words that I have left to say are: thank you for your love and support. in the midst of my resistance.
. And we become surprised. Enthropy. then then problem is going to be resolved by itself. in plain words "the law of chaos"." I was completely confused for several years until my mind somehow figured out the strange concept of laws.. some years later when I was in college. Here goes my heresy then: we have to be grateful to the http://herejia.of course. Well. the truth we ignore I clearly remember asking this question when I was standing on the balcony of my mother's friend at the age of 8: "If I toss something from up here. yet unavoidable. how we go on thinking that if we don't do anything. in our business relationships or even with our best childhood friends that we meet again and we feel "odd" around because "it's different" now.typepad. why does it fall onto the street?. many laws which helplessly have an impact on our lives.com/heresy 19 . but here things disarrange themselves. The concept is simple. things tend to chaos.I. these are going to be better. or how we are completely convinced that if we don't work on our personal and professional relationships. if we ignore a problem. between the initial and the actual strategic plan of our companies. it's going to be different! There is clearly going to be an abyss because we have failed to take action against the quiet.. I learned about another law named "enthropy" or the second law of thermodynamics. when we realize that years went by and now there is an unfillable gap between us and our partners. Obviously the answer I got was: "Because of the law of gravity. then in some strange magical way. Since then I can't stop watching in awe how all of us human beings continue to ignore this law. And then we suddenly think of enthropy as hideous. things are going to be resolved in some miraculous way. it is actually as simple as the law of gravity (things fall down). how we think that if we don't talk. law of chaos.
and even because of the simple beauty of keeping our desks and. I don't want to picture a world without the divine enthropy which makes us deliver our souls to see our projects and relationships grow. We have to keep track of our strategic plan and see to the implementation of our strategies because we're fortunate to have an unavoidable law which calls for us to do so! 20 http://herejia. In the same manner. I wouldn't like to imagine the furniture in my living room floating up in the air and myself flying in the Universe without control. It is due to the effect of enthropy that we need to work. learning. we have to give that hug we are afraid to give.Universe for enthropy because it is thanks to it that we must be alive in our own lives. and constantly "stretch our rubber band".typepad.com/heresy . and contributing. of course. we have to jump into the challenge of working. We must say that word we don't want to say. in our own relationships. build. our hearts in order. by growing.
how much they believed in their dreams and how committed they were. individuals who know when they have to "take off their shirts" and jump into the vacuum or into freezing water (whatever metaphor makes your bones chill more) That is the moment of truth when entrepreneurs are made or. It is not my intention to debate any of these arguments because they are all valid. The moment of truth There is a lot of talk about entrepreneurship. and felt a common pattern: true entrepreneurs are individuals who after completing a thorough analysis. conduct analyses. and evidently. and consultant. I have observed. "crazy". risks. the year in which you are born. or an opportunity cost). the circumstances. and visions. and only a few jump and embrace the vacuum of uncertainties. they refer to those.com/heresy 21 . who want to go on with their jobs and bring their http://herejia. from these three different perspectives which enable me to take different stands on entrepreneurs. but not as comprehensive as they wish it was (it is always the case). for them to walk away from their comfort zone (be it a good salary. or whether the environment. when entrepreneurs demonstrate themselves. lived. an investment. Malcolm Gladwell’s latest book-. who knew it was the right time to demonstrate. whether entrepreneurs are born or made. in most cases. I have had clients who. dreams. with their own lives. better yet. know when the right time has come for them to start taking action. Those who stay in their "solid. stable" comfort zones issue judgments. Nevertheless. or even -according to “Outliers”.typepad. in my experience as an entrepreneur. That is the time when many are standing at the edge. clients. even after receiving a business plan. do not want to let go of the safety they feel at the time in order to give themselves in to a project.II. looking at the abyss. professor.
they do not want to let go of their comfortable salaries. 22 http://herejia.com/heresy . that decision we make in a brief moment is what proves who truly is an entrepreneur. It is clear that the likelihood of success of their new projects is more than slim. I myself have felt a rush of adrenaline in my blood every time I face one of these moments of truth.companies forward in the evenings. yet.typepad. I have seen lots of students beat around the bushes year after year about their desire to become entrepreneurs. and I know that no matter how much people talk about entrepreneurship.
III. Love grows in times of crisis I am thinking about the managers of hundreds.com/heresy 23 . A crisis. the most precious short-term and long-term assets of any company. there is psychological abuse at work on the part of the managers.typepad. understimated. or even abused will not have any feelings of loyalty and will jump out of the boat. which show true full-proof commitment to people. and if this is not possible. What if we don't do this? Human’s short-term orientation makes you feel that you have the power and that you can abuse it. It is the right time to give more to our team. however. to make up for what needs to be cut down with intangibles which improve loyalty to the company. I am not going to object to it. The heresy here is that it is precisely at these difficult times when people are tempted to reduce salaries. to encourage everyone to "give more" in return for "less". taking away with them their knowledge and experience and a big chunk http://herejia. does not last forever. and lead our team by setting example. in many cases. Economies go through cycles. This piece of advice was the result of the review by several gurus after observing the primary trend among business owners of reducing marketing expenses at difficult times. maybe thousands of small companies that go through difficult (inevitable) macroeconomic environments wondering what they need to do in order to survive. In the business world there is an old tip which says that the budget for marketing should NOT be cut down at times of crisis. Since there is wisdom in this old piece of advice. Times of crisis give rise to stress and. Compensation is not only monetary. to give more of ourselves. to try and keep the best salary conditions to the extent possible. and when there is a sign of economic recovery. or even to make drastic personnel changes at a time when we must actually invest in people. those who were beaten.
com/heresy .of the company which will have to be rebuilt. What attitude will you have at times of crisis? 24 http://herejia. Microsoft was a small or medium-sized company. not too different from a million other companies. so he implemented a company policy of having cash available equal to two years worth of payroll at all times. When he established this policy. he promised himself that he would never let this happen again. having experienced a tough economic crisis at Microsoft where he had no other choice but to lay off many of his employees. Maybe one of Bill Gates' most famous stories is that.typepad. It might have been this what made them big! The time to show greatness and truly win the hearts of the members of your team is precisely that difficult time when you have to face the wind and demonstrate with facts how important people are to our companies.
fun to rise every morning in order to gradually gain more rights in life! If today I am entitled to the same rights as yesterday. we all have the same fundamental rights (e. then everything will have the same price (or no price at all). a herd of small characters dressed in the same solid blue suits. tomorrow. but again.IV. All of a sudden. One of the fundamental pillars of Communist doctrine is the claim that we are all equal. Nobody is equal. I believe what was intended was that. I am grateful because they are an expression of our differences! http://herejia.typepad. and based on these fundamental rights. but it is precisely at that moment when we learn and enrich ourselves the most. Communism doesn't work because it's boring This blog should be as short as its title because the heresy is that simple: Communism doesn't work because it's boring.). and enrich our lives. with their eyes wearing the same gloomy blue. the universe becomes exactly how Mao conceived it. and the year after that. respect. we have to "stretch our rubber band" until it hurts. and I believe it is precisely this cracked pillar which leads to the boredom and inoperability of the system. good treatment.com/heresy 25 . grow. we are all different. etc. it's a perception of ideal justice that mother nature (the wisest of all mothers) rebutts second after second. we gradually gain a set of rights as we work for them (to private property. to love. as human beings. love. the day after. dignity. the day before yesterday. I also thank the Universe for prices.). etc. Diversity results into a pricing system that makes everything more fun. to have certain opinions. Because of diversity. to life. and I'm glad it is so! I don't know where that little statement that "we're all equal" came from. I thank the Universe for diversity! Diversity in the we way learn.g. fun to work.
26 http://herejia. but that is the divine beauty of my heresy.typepad.I am aware that this is not a political or an economic approach to a subject which actually is political or economic in nature.com/heresy .
typepad. That is the attitude of people who watch life happen and end up becoming viewers and admirers of those who were simply capable of jumping into the vacuum and taking a step further to make a difference. http://herejia. For six years now I have been an international professor at Javeriana University in Cali where I teach several graduate courses on marketing strategy.V. Each class usually takes place in an intensive dynamic of discussions and a share of dark sense of humor on my part. but work has always been a distracting element for me. I love this job because it gives me an opportunity to get to know people who are full of energy. brand strategy. Leadership in action I have been fortunate in life. Since I recall. which enriches me as I make new friends and gain good experiences. I was incredibly fortunate to have an absolutely awesome group of MBA students who enrolled in my course on leadership and. This is the reason that encouraged me to join and participate in causes that touch the strings of my soul.com/heresy 27 . and eagerness to learn. I have had a dream to create something big. and self-reflection exercises. reflection. Also because It forces me to study and keeps me close to my beloved home land: my alma mater. In October 2008. our hearts and souls were completely touched. all my life. and leadership at the School of Business Administration. and at the end. on the day-to-day basis. stole a bit of my heart away. at the same time. Having interacted with them for 10 days and after engaging in intensive questioning. At the time. my home town. and of course. I started to feel like a student in my own course. my sensitive heart filled with love has felt compassion and desire to change the tragic reality of lives of some people and animals. my family. dreams.
you will join this tribe or maybe you could create your own. but this time as friends with the excuse of tasting the best paella I have ever had.though. youths. we should move from watching and feeling compassion towards leadership strengthened by our actions! 28 http://herejia.typepad. however. We carry all these ingredients in our hearts. At this point in time. or any other serious issue in our beloved Cali where we want to generate a positive impact. love. wine. and paella was an initiative to create a project where we would address a social issue or problem in Cali and come up with a high-impact solution. environment. We would. discussing whether we are going to focus on homeless children. I am going to be keeping you posted of our tribe and our project. (November 2008) we are all thinking about alternatives. What came out of that conversation. and of course. but one way or another. by creating tribes of love that lead transformation. accomplish the bliss of generating transformation from the bond of love that we established. or animals. leadership.com/heresy . commitment. and hopefully. If this holds true. and we held deep conversations about the impact that the course had on us. A month later. we got together again. action. We called our project "Leadership in action". unity. displaced children. I didn't now why or for what. then we are all able to change the world. This was intended to be a project that we would put our hearts and souls into. generosity. The ingredients to this recipe are: openness. trust. but would not get any personal economic benefit from.
and the idea of stability that comes with marriage is responsible for hunting many of these happy butterflies.. It may also be the case that our jobs and marriages come to an end and we come to the realization that nobody is absolutely irreplaceble and watch someone else easily take our place. the roller coaster feelings during the first months at a new job fades out with the everyday nature of stability and the gloss of the passion we feel for what we do every day vanishes. that we need to http://herejia. the only way to be truly irreplaceble is to live out each day challenging stability. then I'll let everyone know about my passion for this company so that there is no doubt about it. leaving a gap where there used to be colorful orgasms. Falling in love with someone is a time full of passion and butterflies in your stomach. but deep. That's how you make a dent to the universe.com/heresy 29 . thus. and that's not relevant. At the end of the day. in the understanding that stability is the enemy of great things. Something that I'm certain of is that." Only history will tell whether or not he has accomplished this. The only way to keep those butterflies and passion alive. the mere fact of living his life with the motto of pursuing his purpose will be worthwhile. How to make a dent to the universe If someone still doesn't know that I am a big fan of Apple. Apple is the divine creation of a controversial genius named Steve Jobs whose personal vision is to "make a dent to the universe.. there is a little voice wondering: was this it?.VI. of transcendence. it will only be a judgment. The same thing happens at work. deep down inside.typepad. Sometimes the effect of so much stability is so sad that we have become deaf to our own little voice inside of us. at the end of his existence.our marriages and jobs may go on. My heresy for today is: stability is the biggest enemy of passion and.
and the day after. nothing will be dull. and nothing will be stable anymore. To be extraordinary and to make a dent to the Universe are choices of life. leaving our skin and bones in every project that we bring into life at work as if it involved our own lives. tomorrow. we will make a dent to the universe and then we're inevitably going to have a smile tatoed in our soul.play for keeps to bring new things into our relationships with our husbands and wives even after living together for thirty years. If we do so. regardless of the reward we're getting in return for our love. we will be working for passion itself. and while we're at it. we should ask ourselves this question: how can I be extraordinary today? And at the end of the day. The only way to leave an empty space behind us and to make it extremely difficult for someone to replace us is by devoting ourselves to an extraordinary existence. How are you going to be extraordinary today? 30 http://herejia.com/heresy . nothing will be the same anymore: we will be transforming our lives. then we will be loving for love itself. when we begin our day. our existence. our own existence. every day. Today. the question should be: am I really making a dent to the universe? or am I going unnoticed through life without leaving my mark. our own company.typepad. by giving everything we are regardless of the compensation we're getting at work.
We have what we need in our wings. He entitled his book "Does the flap of a butterfly's wings in Brazil set off a tornado in Texas?. It is then when we get obviously discouraged. We believe that transforming the Universe is a task for non-existing mythological titans. It is not the butterfly alone that sets it off. and inspire other human beings to generate transformation. to give a stroke ot light on a canvass that reflects a different work of art. but the sum of all external conditions set off a tornado." This idea has been the center of multiple philosophical discussions. That is all it takes for a butterfly set off an entire tornado.typepad. Let's calculate the inmense power we have! We have the power to bring more smiles in this world. This phenomenon was described by Edward Lorenz to explain how an error of a few thousandths of a millimeter in data input into his computer resulted in a completely different metereological description than in the original model.com/heresy 31 .VII. The butterfly effect The butterfly effect is a beautiful metaphor about a simple phenomenon that occurs in dynamic (living) systems. and even heresies like this one: it only takes one of these thousands of butterflies living in our souls to flap its wings to transform and begin a new universe. films. which contained properly expressed measurements. move. The key lies in understanding that a butterfly flaps its wings. and this transformation may be of a thousandth of an inch. It contends that a small insignificant variation in the initial conditions can generate a considerably large effect on the evolution of a system. that's where the mirage is. We think that we would have to stop living our everyday lives in order to engage in a utopical crussade where we have no chance of success. to be the source of progress. but if it doesn't flap its wings. everything would be different. overlaps with the theory of chaos. we have the power to touch. http://herejia.
and the day after? How many times in our lives have we flapped our wings? Can you imagine what a total waste it is to have wings and not flap them? Today I am encouraging you to flap your beautiful butterfly wings and to smile as you do it.Hence. move. not knowing for certain what kind of tornado you're going to set off.typepad.com/heresy . What are we waiting for to touch. and inspire someone else today. it is simply because we're lazy. if we don't flap our wings. 32 http://herejia. tomorrow.
then we'll end up in a mental hospital. is the famous art of stretching your rubber band. the term "stretching our rubber band" must now be everyday language and a clear link to my controversial mind. so that's the same kind of pain we should feel to be sure that we're on the right track. Both parts to this recipe are essential (I wish you'd see my original cooking recipes such as my fried sancocho and my French arepa).. yet fabulous feeling. We need to be aware that if we're feeling it. there is no growth. growing is painful. Stretchnig our rubber band For those who have interacted with me before. but it must be just a moment before we go back and stretch our ruber band again without breaking it. we must learn to identify the right time before our band breaks for us to loosen up.typepad.VIII. we have to become familiar with the feeling in order to identify it with excitement. If we don't feel pain. decrease the tension. You should feel uncomfortable. Because of its nature. terrifying.com/heresy 33 . then it means that being alive is worth it. We have to learn to love that pain. you should stretch it to the point that you feel pain. my dear friends. a term I'm now in the process of patenting. If it doesn't hurt. The first part is to stretch your rubber band until it hurts. we'll lose our relationship. we'll lose our rubber band too! Thus. This heresy today is aimed at those and others too: we should live our lives stretching our own rubber band at all times. but not to the point that the band breaks. we'll lose perspective. scary. If our rubber band breaks. relax. we'll lose a piece of our existence. that we're stretching our rubber band! The second part is to not stretch our band to the point of breaking it. http://herejia. nothing that makes us grow. it means that we're in our comfort zone. The recipe to stretch your rubber band is fairly simple. there should be an "nnnnshhhh" feeling from your stomach to your nose. and nothing new is going to come out of that. give ourselves some time..this.. and of course. It is an annoying.
work. we need to give love and passion to life. and our personal development up to the point where we feel pain and just before reaching the irreparable limit of rupture. that feeling running from your stomach through your chest and to your nose must be familiar. In many of my lectures and classes I hand out rubber bands as souvenirs to remind the participants to stretch their own. Again. or lived with me.typepad. Today I am handing out a virtual rubber band wishing that you would begin to stretch out your own band everyday as described in my recipe. to those who have worked.com/heresy .It is this simple: we have to stretch our rubber band. our relationships. studied. 34 http://herejia.
the planning of simple concrete projects. I will now refer you to the "Butterfly Effect" I described in Heresy a few days ago. intervention. Thanks to small donations (averaging USD $50 each). It also conducts workshops and http://herejia. Developing Minds hands out specially edited books to families of peasants living in abandoned lands where there are no books. and assistance to children who are now going through a process of recovery after living in conflict. there are no countries.typepad. the Antioquia mountains. literacy. the townships of La Calera. A butterfly flaping its wings For those who would like to have a bit more of context. and the Medellin districts. His name is Philippe Houdard. a small foundation (as small as a butterfly) which sets off tornadoes of love with every wing flap. long hours invested in marketing and communicating the objective of the foundation. such as the Uraba region in Antioquia. he is an individual with a great commitment to generate transformation through education. magazines or newspapers to read. Last night I was incredibly fortunate to be able to spend a few hours with a butterfly who constantly flaps his wings and whose shocking testimonial touched the depths of my soul. The Developing Minds Foundation has programs in place in fabellas in Brazil and several locations in Colombia. He is a citizen of the universe who understands the wonderful Taoist principle that we're all ONE with the whole. one of those crazy people who transform the world with the firm belief that they generate a deep impact with small amounts of money which are potentiated with love and solid values.IX. not even languages.com/heresy 35 . To him. and local partners who help coordinate operations. founder and chairman of the Developing Minds Foundation. Philippe is a heretic. there are no borders. educated in the United States. Of French roots.
One of the many stories is about a child who was a member of the guerrillas with another child who was his cousin.. cried. These children's stories which were so generously shared by Philippe reach into the deepest corners of the soul of not only any Colombian. In a few words.. Last weekend he participated in one of the retreats arranged by Developing Minds. That is to set off a tornado with a single flap of wings.com/heresy ." It was then that he smiled. Then he said: "I believe the best thing I could do to honor my cousin's life would be to lead a happy life. with the real world. it plants for the future in small shares with a large impact. and taking revenge would not make much sense..it was then that he allowed himself to be happy. His first thought was that going back to the guerrilla. and ran off as if he was a 6-year old. but also of anyone who is ONE with the universe. and a huge fear to live their lives after reincorporating to society. as someone who has taken off the weight of the universe of his shoulders. The center where these children live loaned the 36 http://herejia. Even several months after running away from the guerrilla.organizes retreats for groups of reinserted children who were former guerrilla members. he carried feelings of guilt and sorrow with him because of his death. then he immediately held it back and returned to his "I-don't-deserve-to-be-happy" attitude. victims of violence. and while talking to a psychologist. Another guerrilla front murdered his cousin. children with post-trauma syndromes. and since then.. a bond with his family. finding the person who killed his cousin. For him.typepad. People realized that everytime he relaxed and showed the slightest glimpse of a smile in any of his activities. his cousin represented the emotional bond that suppressed the guerrilla. The retreat at the district in Medellín did not cost anything at all. and not a world of nightmare. she asked him: "What could you do to honor the life of your cousin?". who feel the pain of these little creatures as their own. this child had prohibited himself to be happy.
com/heresy 37 . Anyone of us has more than 60 friends on Facebook. imagine all the impact we could have if we started to flap our wings! Now I'm going to leave you with a video of Philippe in one of his trips to the remote townships on the mountains in Antioquia where he gives out books. you can see some of their pictures and make your contributions at http://www. The last initiative to donate books in the Uraba region in Antioquia cost USD $3.developingmindsfoundation. These USD $3.000. even with very little. I hope this will touch. the love they carried in their hearts. two psychologists and Philippe donated their time and paid for their own travel expenses.typepad. and hopes of a better future.facilities. move.000 dollars were provided by 60 people who donated USD $50 each. These activities were carried out with love. 300 families of peasants received books and attended a reading-andwriting workshop. and inspire you to be aware that. we can be agents of impact and transformation in our world. Thank you Philippe for the love you bring to our hearts and for the impact you leave behind every time you flap your wings! If you wish to learn more about the Developing Minds Foundation. smiles.org http://herejia.
Then how come are we afraid of failure? There is no such thing. after making it through failure. and that is exactly the excuse behind all those long hours spent in reviewing and preparing a business plan: failure is to be avoided.. Even if we're successful (maybe more then). It is clear that out of the ideas that become true only a few ideas are successful. but also who are true friends are..com/heresy . 38 http://herejia. My heresy today is that it is not the fear of failure what stops us. and reinvent ourselves. Failure shows us not only who we are. more than we could ever experience with the greatest success.typepad. and many others for which there is even a business plan. their fear of failure stops them. stronger. and potentiates us. a few hundred thousand ideas with hours spent in reviewing. Failing is a verb which has negative connotations.. The absurd that stops us A million excellent ideas every day. we emerge bigger. puts us to the test. Failure makes our heart beat faster and sheds light on our reasoning. Failure makes us grow. Failing should be mandatory in life. and encourages us to invent. how many of these ideas are materialized? Only a fistful.. but failure is actually one the most valuable and wonderful experiences in the life of any individual (two heresies today?). there is a recurring issue. reinvent. What we're afraid of is criticism! I have to say that this kind of fear is even more irrational and even ridiculous. better.what a wonderful feeling!. In my conversations wih students who are motivated to be entrepreneurs... It teaches us more than we could ever learn in college (including Harvard). but life is so wonderful that failing IS in fact mandatory in life!. stretches out our rubber band to the limit..X. but at the end of the day. it is the fear of criticism. it makes us feel alive.
we will also be criticized, we will always be criticized. We will never be able to get rid of criticism in our lives, and the worst thing is that there are millions of people who would not like to live because they believe that they're going to avoid criticism that way, so they adjust to the rules established by society, and with this, they avoid their biggest fear, the fear of being criticized by someone. The absurd is that they never achieve it and they never will. There will always be criticism simply because we're all different from each other. We all think differently, we hold different truths, and judgment inevitably turns into criticism when we look through the lens of a different truth.... Then it is like living with fear to die, or not living because we're afraid that we will die some day. Like death, criticism is an unrelenting truth in our lives. And is that what is stopping us? The big absurd fear of criticism? Take a look at it this way: what is it that you've long wanted to do, but have not done because you're afraid of criticism? That's exactly what you should be doing right now: you should be faithful to your heart, to your own essence. Don't be afraid that others might talk. They have been talking about you since you were born, and they will probably be talking about you even after you die (hopefully it will be like that)...let their words be worthwhile. In the meantime, you should be living your life how you want to, you should be implementing crazy ideas that fill you with passion. Don't you just sit around watching life go by through a window. There will certainly be someone out there who's saying: "Look at the face on that guy behind that window." Let's live it out then...the absurd that stops us is just that: absurd! What are you going to do then? Who are you going to be when you no longer care about criticism?
XI. Crying at a movie or acting now to avoid more tears? A few years ago when I watched the film "Hotel Rwanda" I couldn't help not only to shed a lot of tears, but also to feel incredibly bewildered, uneasy, and guilty when I learned that I was just living my life while that genocide was perpetrated without knowing about the atrocities that were taking place. We feel that Africa and its reality are far from our everyday life, but the truth is that they aren't. The truth is that we actually make a connection with our own essence the second we learn and feel that we're only one with the universe. Today's heresy is simple and profound: we're one with the universe, we're the ones who are suffering, we're the ones who are needed, and if we can't be, then we're actually nothing. That's the reason that now I don't want to wait for the film to be released on DVD to be able to cry and feel that uneasiness again for not having connected myself and given a part of me. Today the Democratic Republic of Congo is living a situation that is almost impossible to rationalize. As a result of the civil war in Rwanda, where Hutu rebels murdered nearly one million Tutsis, when General Nikunda (Tutsi) came to power, Hutu guerrillas escaped to the neighboring country, the Democratic Republic of Congo, a country as large as Eastern Europe with incredible sources of natural wealth (diamonds, cobalt, timber, copper, tantalite, and others), high corruption leves, and minimal infrastructure. There they settled in on the border with Rwanda in the eastern zone of the Democratic Republic of Congo. What has developed is an infamous war against civil population which has been going on for more than 10 years now, and since August this year, it has exacerbated. The primary weapon of war is the systematic and epidemic rape of women and children, mass rape of helpless children from the age of 10 months
to 70-year old women. Not only thousands of children die as a result of these rapes and, but also many women who are victims of gang rapes have to undergo up to six different surgeries to be able to recover their organs. As if that wasn't enough, these women are rejected by their families, their husbands, and society because rape is perceived as a form of unfaithfulness. They're abandoned by their husbands and, in a large number of cases, they're HIV-infected, completely traumatized, displaced from their land and their homes without a trace of hope in their lives or their future. The only thing that they do keep alive is the fear that their nightmare would occur again in one of the multiple and common attacks of the Hutu guerrillas on the refugee camps. That's the condition in which we're all living in the Democratic Republic of Congo. What can we do about it? I'm going to make two simple proposals, but aside from these proposals, I wish this blog would serve to encourage the readers to generate and exchange many other proposals, and hopefully Heresy will become an instrument of transformation. My first proposal is communication. In this blog I'm going to share some links to videos, testimonials, and websites that describe this situation. I'm going to ask you to forward this blog and these links to your friends and invite them to resend them and communicate them to others. If we help raise awareness worldwide that this is happening to us and that it concerns us, we can all create a critical mass that will lead to taking action. Let's start flapping our little butterfly wings, we'll set off a tornado of transformation. My second proposal is action. The "Women for Women International" organization has an excellent program in place where with a donation of USD $27 a month we can help one of these women, who have been victims of the cruel violence of endemic rapes, to regain their lives through microloans, education, assistance to live, medicines, and other simple yet essential items. By
for the pillow we have to sleep on. we'll be making a new "sister" with whom we will be in touch and from whom we will learn not only about her tragedy.typepad.php .bbc.Women for Women: http://www.thegreatestsilence. http://news. Now that you know about this.The greatest silence.donating USD $27.org/events-supportingwomen/stop-fighting-in-congo-panel.com/why_congo . In return for these $27 dollars. we will be gaining a teacher in our lives. an HBO documentary.stm 42 http://herejia.Women of the Congo: http://www. http://www. but also about how we're contributing to bringing hope to her life. but simple gift of living without the fear of losing our dignity.uk/2/hi/africa/3075537. someone to teach us to be grateful to be universe for every glass of water we can get from our refrigerator.com/heresy . or our lives in an instant of absurd violence. what are you going to do to help stop this? How are you going to start flapping your wings? Links: .org/ .BBC News from London.co.com/stories/2008/01/11/60minutes/ main3701249.cbsnews.womenforwomen. someone who is truly going to teach us the value of all that we have.womenofthecongo. for the unbelievable. our security.shtml .Video on "60 minutes": http://www.
Over and over I bump into some reluctance to the issue of strategy: it seems very complex or. or I'm living in a relationship of which I don't want to be a part. My heresy today is: we should also be strategists in our lives and at work. our tomorrow. on the market.com/heresy 43 . etc. 10 years.) with clear indicators such as our sales level is X USD. and this is a simple and fun task. but clearly and perfectly measurable using the above indicators. very dull. while at it. perhaps. Well.XII. The first stage of strategic creation involves three easy steps: defining today. I've also been developing my own strategic thinking and that of the executives I've worked with. implementing. for example. 5. and keeping track of strategies and. love. it is still very important. or I'm living in a relationship that provides me with peace. 5 years from now I am working at my own company which sells USD $1 million a month. it's neither the first nor the latter. After defining our reality. Defining it is important because the strategy needs to be devised having our feet on the ground. We have to allocate a horizon (1. and defining resistance.) to our tomorrow and describe it using clear indicators such as our sales level is X USD. Although it is a minor point. Creating a vacuum For the last 15 years I've been working on creating. I make this much a month. What is important is for the definition of tomorrow to be written in the "present" tense. etc. we move on to the second step which is defining our dream. deeply aware of our reality. that's our point of departure. at work. Defining today is simple about becoming aware of where we are at this time (in life. defining tomorrow. This definition must be concise. That is today. and calmness or anything else. http://herejia. that is what we have and what we are in the present.typepad. I make this much a month.
Thus. implement. It consists of defining the resistance we'll find down the road. then there will actually be no strategy. also using clear indicators such as: I have to raise a certain amount of money to start my own business. like the jackrabbit told Alice: "if you don't know where you want to go. without a map. dream. yet not impossible. If we do this. I will call this gap a VACUUM. the magical vacuum that "stretches out our rubber band" (see blog on "stretching our rubber band"). or I need to influence my partner for us to create the relationship we want. It is that vacuum that makes living our lives worthwhile day after day. defining a dream. not exaggerating in this stage of defining resistance is critical. this definition of dream follows the same recipe as that of stretching our rubber band. and defining resistance. If the definition and creation of vacuum does not happen. we'll realize that there's a gap between one and the other.Having defined our dream and taken another look at the reality we described in the first step. but it must be achievable because impossible goals will not keep us motivated for a long time. Thus. I need to convince my boss to give me a salary raise. Hence it is a simple exercise: defining reality. Now.com/heresy . The third step is also simple. It's not a definition of something impossible because we already defined an ambitious. grow. the resistance that will make stretching our rubber band more exciting. and what we do is to live day after day without knowing for certain where we want to go.typepad. we'll create 44 http://herejia. It must be ambitious enough as to encourage you and your team. Each definition of resistance involves some work that we need to do. There's something missing to be able to take today's reality and turn it into what we want tomorrow to be. we must create our own vacuum. it doesn't matter which direction you choose." We must define that vacuum. and learn. We're going to be living in that magical vacuum for a few years. There we're going to create.
This is then the end of our first lesson! http://herejia.typepad.com/heresy 45 . Creating a strategy is simple and fun.an awesome vacuum where we can stretch out or elastic to the limit.
Our hands may come together again But today is over now I don't know about the night that will bring another morning.XIII. Poetic heresy My heresies come in different shapes...com/heresy . And that not knowing comes from the bottom of your soul! 46 http://herejia.. I know nothing.. Today's heresy shares a deep timeless feeling in the form of a poem I wrote 18 years ago when my heart was overflowing with heresy and passion. There may be another dawn of another day promissing a thousand different skies.typepad.
typepad. http://herejia. Today I love them and respect them more than ever. especially after watching a video of a dog that completely risks his life on a highway in Chile to save another dog that had been run over by a car and was dying on the road. Today my heresy is so big that it has no words. Today I'm going to let this heresy be taught by this dog. This time it's about the meaning of the word COURAGE: to be afraid and take action anyway. I'm crazy about dogs. Courage: taking action despite your fear I love animals and of all animals.XIV.com/heresy 47 .
XV. nothing happens there. it doesn't have steep stretches or potholes. "Total flatness". Despite this. You engage in a relationship. It's a road that starts super-well. the customers. If it doesn't have a dip. his short book illustrates the three possible shapes of our paths: a. It's not very difficult. we'll stand out from the crowd. as one of my girlfriends would describe her first marriage. In a simple way. This is the typical road of a smoking addiction where every cigarette you smoke is satisfying until you're diagnosed with lung cancer and everything is over. you have to work on your relationship. b. with the energy of a new company. in a project or a job where today is the same as tomorrow. could not or did not want to 48 http://herejia. you have everything to win. because the rest. The dip. the road that comes after that is full of incredible rewards: We'll become leaders of the market or we definitely gain the heart of the person of our dreams. The road is flat. everything is positive. All the road is uphill. There aren't many challenges. a fall. an abyss where there's no point of retun. our competitors. but all of a sudden. but all of a sudden the road has a dip. gaining new customers is much more difficult. things get rough. if we're able to make it through it. if we're able to overcome the dip stage. It goes downhill.typepad. from mediocrity.com/heresy . In any case. uphill. one from his book titled "The dip". but there are also not many rewards or overflowing bliss. The dead-end alley. growing becomes painful. the road comes to an end and the only thing that's left is a terrible void. then it's not worth it Today I've brought Seth Godin for him to share with us one of his many heresies. c. and the butterflies in your stomach because you're in love. the happiness of a new project is uncontrollable. the excitement. A dip is incredibly exciting. The abyss.
drive. our reward is true leadership. otherwise. And you. Only the roads with dips are worthwhile.continue working to go past the dip because they ran out of money. think about this: is this the dip that makes it worthwhile to struggle and give everything to achieve leadership? or could I as well get out of there and find myself a road (with a dip of course) that makes it worthwhile to give my life in return for the top of the mountain? At times it seems as if being in a dip is awful when it actually is all the contrary. the sublime taste of success! Therefore. It's spectacular. today's heresy is: if your road does not have a dip. what kind of path are you on? http://herejia.typepad.com/heresy 49 . Thus. then it's not worth it. Get out of there fast because. or motivation. you'll be approaching an abyss or you're in a dead-end alley! And if you are in a dip.
and we're satisfied. no hypocresy. Thus. sometimes something completely different happens: we celebrate just because. What we should do is receive that acknowledgement with open arms. but we were also expecting it. if we have struggled for it. Now. it can lead us to think that we deserve everything even when we don't do much: balance is. A meaningful celebration from the bottom of our hearts. and celebrate. my heresy today is that modesty has nothing to do with the acknowledgement we deserve. then let us gladly embrace the reward. When deep down we know that gave our best to bring something forward.typepad. Let's welcome recognition with a smile and a 50 http://herejia.com/heresy . again. and that not only do we deserve recognition. thank the person who is offering it to us. a celebration full of life and happiness which helps us envision what our next goal should be after reaching this height of the road. no.XVI. that we made an effort. and that the way to do so is by denying our own value: "no. it wasn't so hard". we have reached a goal. but rather with happiness in the realization that we have accomplished something positive. This excess of self-contemplation can lead us to mediocrity. it's not that big a deal" or "come on. It is this simple: if we deserve it. the key to the recipe. this misinterpretation has led to what I'll call "false modesty". We have to celebrate! I believe that modesty is usually a misinterpreted value and. and not because there's actually something that is worth celebrating. And this celebration must be with no false modesty. somehow. We believe that we should be "modest" when we face recognition. we have generated impact. if we have worked for us.
com/heresy 51 . how do you receive recognition? How do you celebrate in life? http://herejia.word of gratitude on our lips. Celebrating is not only necessary.typepad. And you. but is also a fundamental part of new triumph. let's take the celebration time as if we were recharging our batteries to move on to our next goal.
typepad.com/heresy . at some point we're inevitably drawn to a religious ceremony because we're completely confused and we need to put all our love and the questions we have in the hands of the mystic. we pretended we didn't notice. Death confuses us because it leaves a million questions behind which only religions have dared to answer or. In order to answer the questions about death. there is no need to look outside. They're dead because we don't have any feelings for them. hoping that the esoteric will help us find the way to our loved ones. and I've come to understand that death is simply something that confuses us because its reality cannot be seen with our earthly eyes.XVII. people whose name or appearance we don't even remember. Thus. They didn't leave a trace. There are people who passed through our lives. we have to look into our own hearts. religion. they leave their mark. Death only reaches its fullness in oblivion. they were born dead to us. There are. which are our only tool. we detached ourselves. these people are also dead to us. we don't remember anything about them. the ones who 52 http://herejia. someone who lives in me. For one reason or another. But then there are also our loved ones. they didn't transcend. at least. we even forget that they passed through our lives. they didn't touch us. Her early death occurred eight years ago. with death. other people who pass through our lives. we forgot. science or anything. and then they stop passing. My heresy: death only reaches its fullness in oblivion. to proclaim that those answers "are" the right ones. How to answer the questions about death Today's the birthday of someone who made profound impact in my life. We can't remember what we did with them. however.
have touched our souls, the ones who transformed us. About them we can say for certain that we wouldn't be who we are today, if we had not shared one day or a lifetime together. They will never die; seriously, it's no poetry, it's an absolute truth. We have incorporated phrases they coined in our lives, and these conversations will be passed on to those we love. We have changed behaviors because of experiences we lived together, and thanks to these new behaviors, our actions will transform the world forever. It's simple, they don't die, they'll never die. The questions about death can be simply answered with the certainty that as long as we love deeply, as long as we remember our loved ones, and a smile shows on our lips and our souls, as long as we feel that in some magical way that loved one lives with us, in us, inside our hearts, the questions about death have no meaning for there is actually no death. Death only reaches its fullness in oblivion. Thus, what's left is an endless celebration of someone who, thanks to a physical transition, will no longer leave us. The celebration of his/her life and the love we create together, living our lives to the fullest to honor our loved ones: what someone who loves us wants is for us to be happy, that's the best way to honor them and love them, by giving our happiness to the Universe. If there's love, there's no oblivion, and without oblivion, there's no death. This is my religion. Happy birthday, Patry.
XVIII. Become a butterfly this holiday season It's inevitable, holidays are the season to exchange presents, with or without religion in the background. And we always ask ourselves what we can give to someone we care about, someone who's special. We wonder what we can give to our customers for them to remember us for the rest of the following year and help our business grow. What should we give away that's original, that set us apart, that's awesome. I have an idea. I propose that we become butterflies this holiday season (see the blog titled "The butterfly effect"). I propose that the present we give is a wing flap that generates transformation in the world all year round: a present that makes us feel special will, in turn, make feel the one who receives it special and has an impact on the world....awesome, isn't it? There's no simpler heresy than this: dare to give a present that's actually awesome and not something that nobody really needs. Dare to start transforming the world this holiday season! Here I have a few suggestions for you to give away (the links will take you to the corresponding websites where you can make your donations): 1. Adopt a polar bear. Cute, aren't they? well, fifty years from now, they may no longer exist because of global warming and a lack of legislative and political interest in their protection. Their habitat is changing, it's melting. Their small cubs now don't have much food to survive. For USD $20 you can give a polar bear and help it survive by supporting Defenders of Wildlife. 2. Help a former guerrilla child in Colombia.
Thousands of children who are victims of absurd violence are dragged into a war forced by poverty, a lack of a family,
or violence itself. Yet they make the most courageous decisions they've ever made in their lives and decide to escape the guerrillas of which they are victims. Now, they're facing the huge challenges of reincorporating themselves to society and overcoming their inimaginable traumas. By donating $20 US dollars or more, you can help the Developing Minds Foundation generate transformation on the mountains in Colombia (see blog titled: A butterfly flapping its wings). 3. Adopt a sister, victim of violence and rape in the Congo. Hutu guerrilla members in the Democratic Republic of Congo have created an epidemic of rape against women, including from 10-month old babies to 80-year old women. These women are not only raped, tortured, and abused, but also in most cases infected with sexually transmitted diseases such as HIV and abandoned by their families. There is a large number of cases of pregnancies which result from these rapes and, with them, there is an increasingly higher number of boys and girls who are victims of violence. By donating USD $25 you can adopt a "sister" in the Congo. You can communicate with her, learn about her struggle and how her life is transformed thanks to your small contribution. This cause is promoted by Women for Women International (see blog titled: Crying at a movie or pretending to avoid more tears) 4. Help prevent animal abuse. Every day thousands of animals are physically abused by their owners. Helpless, trapped, and abused, these poor creatures have no way to defend themselves and need us to lend them a hand. There are a lot of causes that help prevent abuse and help these animals recover after being victims of abuse. By donating USD $20 or more you can save an animal and receive all the positive karma that this generous deed will generate in your life. My favorite organizations are: American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals, The Humane Society of the United
typepad. their likes. Honduras.States. and People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals 5. Well.. their development. Education is the only door that actually allows people to get out of poverty. India. and their environment. you will be able to communicate with him/her on a regular basis. You'll be transforming someone's life in association with Children International. Guatemala. which becomes a curse generation after generation. You'll be able to accompany these children on their way to college. exchange letters and find out about their progress in school. El Salvador. By adopting a child who lives in extreme conditions of poverty in countries such as Colombia. etc.com/heresy . You will generate true transformation in return for USD $20 a month. then go ahead and start flapping your wings by giving a present of transformation this holiday season! 56 http://herejia. Give education to a child in a third-world country.
without safe pretensions of being something that we are not.. My heresy today is an invitation to make what is simple our waterproof mark. we go straight to the essential points and communicate what it's actually important. is there anything more important than this?. To be simple means to create projects of perfect minimalistic beauty which allows appreciating the quality and functionality of a product in all its glory. http://herejia. we simply are what we are.typepad. we give from who we are. or a night of celebration with the ones we love. which creates the magic of actually bringing our hearts close to each other. The magic of simplicity We have such a human tendency to make everything complicated! We believe that. To be simple means to live the present being who we are. giving our essence. and the ones most rapidly forgotten. When we are simple. not from what we have. but the truth is that these bells and whistles are ones least note. When we create a simple Power-point presentation. To be simple does not mean to be "tasteless" as my mother would say. To be simple means to invite our loved ones to an evening for a nice conversation in our place.com/heresy 57 . to differentiate ourselves from the rest. thus generating a real differentiation in the market (see Apple's secret marketing formula). Only what is simple opens a path to profoundness and exposes what is truly beautiful of us and our projects. our Power-point presentations. we have to add bells and whistles to our products. That is the reason that today's heresy is this simple.XIX. of being "more" than we are. which tarnish the most beautiful thing we have: our own identity. When we give a simple present. the most expensive ones.
i. This means that it makes no sense to try to achieve more than 100%. Meanwhile. The same principle is applicable to our lives: let us dedicate 20% of our efforts to things that will generate 80% of the results. The difference between being a Professional and being a "Professionist" According to Pareto's principle.e. time.com/heresy . 80% of the remaining actions only result in 20% of the effects. isn't it? This is as simple as important things that have multiple applications. Professionism is an absurd of inefficiency. including today's heresy: Perfectionism mediocrity. The remaining 80% we spend looking for more information is only going to contribute an additional 20% of value. in the right direction. as Heidegger said: "wasting time is wasting life. The problem is that many of our companies operate based on professionism instead of on professionalism.XX. Incredible. 20% of an action is responsible for 80% of its effects. is antagonical to efficiency. not to Information that will enable us to achieve an 80% response. only takes 20% of our investment in effort.typepad. Everything else is a waste of time and." 58 http://herejia. and information.
I believe a leader's role is to help his/her tribe establish partial goals.XXI. the visionary and owner. I'm speaking for myself. and I thought I'd feel completely discouraged if the architect and creator of the company that I work at. Why should we continue if we're already there? Yesterday I coincidentally came across a sentence by Bill Gates to officially say good-bye to his role as Chairman at Microsoft which made my heart wrinkle. I have served Microsoft on several occasions in different continents." I immediately imagined myself working at Microsoft. His words were: "We have actually accomplished the goal of I wanted Microsoft to become. help them envision the next goal on the road. If we're already there. Something I know for sure is that my heresy remains the same: if we're http://herejia. Of course you have to stop for a while and celebrate the accomplishments you recently achieved (see blog: "We have to celebrate"). Perhaps they have a different interpretation of his message. I'm not speaking on their behalf in this heresy. there will already be a new reason to continue. and that's probably the reason that Bill's words have touched my soul. but there is already a vision of and inspiration for a new future. I have learned from and grown with them.typepad. to provide support to accomplish them. in such a way that when the initial goal is accomplished. our elastic continues to stretch. I have a lot of friends at Microsoft that I keep close to my heart. why should we move forward? My heresy today is that we should design our road so that we actually "never get there" completely because getting there means dying. the "white feather" came to me and said that we'd come to the point where he'd wanted to come. listening to these words come out of Bill's mouth. facilitate the process and.com/heresy 59 . a new inspiration.
com/heresy .typepad.already there. why should we continue? 60 http://herejia.
your comments too. no pencil. To speak with that voice I don't even understand for which I need the ears that I sometimes don't have. To feel that you listened to me.XXII. no words. I found a piece of my soul I'd left on a piece of paper several years ago. I'll turn to a poetic heresy.2 There are two or three issues running on my mind.typepad. To ease the animosity galloping inside me. my heart. which I hope will awaken your feelings and. and my hands.com/heresy 61 . perhaps. without even knowing what I said http://herejia. and now it's come back to life again: Today I wanted to write no paper. no ink. Poetic Heresy v. but I can't make up my mind to choose one of them.
sadness.com/heresy . We know it. and somehow it sets our internal demons at ease. don't want to hear any "bad news".XXIII. When there are intensive feelings involved in a relationship or in a project. then we'll know that is what we received.typepad. My heresy is: you'll know that you have built a real solid relationship when you're willing to tell and listen to the truth. we may react with feelings of anger. In the course of his investigation as a professor at the Harvard Business School. and people feel that have invested so much that they don't want to lose. I have seen how many couples whose marriages do not work decide to stay together because of the "sunk cost effect. time. for example. It's a bit absurd. dreams. Do you want a lie? It seems unbelievable. If what we hear is the lie that we long to hear. but the truth is you will lose more money. pain. no matter how much it hurts or devastates our souls. and excitement if you decide to continue. everything else is just an illusion and a fallacy.. are part of their 62 http://herejia. but it's true. He explained how the team members and those who make critical decisions in projects where there's a lot of time. despite being aware. so we prefer to hear a lie. disappointment. There are circumstances in which the truth would lead to failure to launch a new product or kill off a project. or a similar feeling.. we feel "bad news" coming or something we don't want to hear. The same thing happens with our personal relations. and projects. there are times when we don't want to hear the raw truth.. money. but it's human." Their children. Michael Roberto (who know teaches at Bryant University) called this the "sunk cost effect". and feelings involved often lose their objectivity and. What usually happens is that if the person we are talking to is mature and courageous enough to tell us the truth (and he/she knows we want to hear a lie).
Everything else is like building our house in a swamp. We have to confront it with courage and build a successful project based on that truth. lie to me and tell me that it is just a little bit” http://herejia. Nothing.typepad. we don't want to hear the truth. even if it's comng from our own heart.S. It is only based on that truth that it is worth building something. It's painful. we will never want to tell another lie again. Thank you for sharing them. but rather solidifies. We have to stand firm and face the truth and feel it down to our bones.com/heresy 63 .investment so they prefer to continue to lie to each other and to keep investing more (who hasn't heard of couples that have a had a child at times when their relationship was going through a crisis?). How many times have you wanted to hear a lie even though you knew what the truth was? Your comments will enhance this heresy. We refuse. and onces we understand that the truth does not destroy. A present: Miguel and Bimba Bose "lie to me and tell me that I'm not crazy. but from my own experience I can tell that the truth is addictive. P.
though. As everybody said. They also fell victim to this fraud. I was rather shocked to learn that some of the investors on Madoff's scheme included the largest international hedge funds. it was also evident that the primary cause was collective ignorance. which is of course a scandal of astronomic proportions. which are managed by such brilliant financial geniuses as John Steffens.com/heresy . Despite this. former brokerage manager at Merrill Lynch. a Ponzi scheme. it was clear that the only pyramids that have not collapsed are those built by the Egyptians. Rapid. the Mayans. The scheme has operated in the same way in every country where it has been implemented worldwide. That means there was no such ignorance in this case. It was one of the notorious pyramids that crashed in the second half that year.typepad. It was not the USD $50 billion that most caught my attention. thus affecting millions of low-income and middle-income investors. There was an endless number of conversations with regards to this issue. To me. "It's a scam where the profit earned by the first investors derives from new investors who fall victims to deception based on promises of large profit. In Latin America the word "pyramid" is used to depict a mass fraud or. and the general conclusion was basically the same. Only a combination of ignorance and ambition would have led these naive victims to believe in an absurd enrichment scheme. let alone financial ignorance. last month the presumably largest pyramid ever built (it is yet to be determined on trial) fell apart in the United States where Bernie Madoff generated losses for USD $50 billion. as known in English.XXIV. or the Aztecs. and Effective Money) collapsed. The power of the pyramids I must begin by making a clarification that is sort of semantic." In 2008 pyramids made the headlines of a thousand news reports in Colombia when DFRE (Spanish acronym for Easy. sort of cultural. 64 http://herejia.
Madoff's scheme will go down in history as the largest scheme of this kind in the world. If you have ever invested in and fallen victim to a Ponzi scheme. and we all know that the only pyramids that do not collapse are those built by Egyptians. to want others to lie to us. But they're seeking inexisting formulas: a pyramid is a pyramid. and Aztecs. Mayans. what is your opinion of this heresy? http://herejia.com/heresy 65 .typepad. When we have to face the collapse of the pyramids of the social security systems implemented in most countries. we will be dealing with the crash of an absurd financial instrument designed and managed by governments which are still seeking "formulas" to fix the system.The resulting heresy is that it is not our ignorance that leads us to fall into these traps. but rather our ambition. It is our own ego which leads us to believe what we want to believe. but only for a few years.
com/heresy .typepad. I'm honored to be called either way. he/she would decide to continue working until he/she received his/her long awaited retirement pension? What if stopping to asking ourselves would be the key to the success of a happy. But. of course. besides being a heretic. Maybe this heresy is just one single question: how much longer should we keep asking ourselves questions about happiness? When should we stop and simply accept that nothing is perfect and that it's about time that we "settled ourselves for reality? To what extent can we find happiness in conformism alone? or is conformism actually a threat to our true happiness? I have lived my whole life with the absolute conviction that conformism is what actually threats our own happiness. not my last one either). it is the magic of enthropy which leads us to continue to stir our soul. There is no question that. and stir. Conformism and happiness I may have more questions than answers in this heresy. then enthropy will lead us to chaos to such an 66 http://herejia. What if it was only in conformism that we were able to find the balance we need to be happy. I have also earned myself a well-deserved reputation as a rebel. What if it was all right for an employee to come to a time in life when he/she stopped wondering what his life would be like if he/she decided to put up his/he own company. question. what if it's me who is mistaken? (it wouldn't be my first mistake and. and instead. "peaceful" marriage? What if all this unconformism never leads to happiness? Or what if neither of these formulars is the road to that nirvana? All I know is that enthropy is a law that we all have to follow. As I previously shared in another heresy. I also know that if we don't work. questioning and working. stable. because death will come the day we stop. grow. This has been my ceaseless heresy. to stop seeking. and take a break. to make a halt. and truth be told.XXV.
I will keep exploring and asking myself. On my part. is whether death is a state of absolute happiness. Maybe one day I will run out questions.com/heresy 67 . not needing. If that is the case.. I ignore whether not loving...extent that the system will reach death. not wanting is actually the need. Something I don't know. http://herejia. however.typepad. but we'll see what happens when that day comes. then Buddhists would be entirely right. whether death is the only road to that nirvana.
or passion from coldness. even when everything around us encourages us 68 http://herejia.in one word: hope. waiting for anything. waiting for the situation to change. and so forth. then we're able to create whatever we want to create such as creating love from lovelessness. Hope is a magical feeling that we're all able to bring to our hearts when we face a difficult. or almost impossible situation.. we often hear conversations about the difficult situation and the expectations about the future. Hope is an expression of our power. There are thousands of feelings that do not generate from their opposites.com/heresy . Hope is what we feel when we do not see the road clearly. passion is not born from coldness. hope emerges from hopelessness. Waiting for a problem to be resolved. Where does hope come from? In an environment of generalized economic crisis such as the one in which we're living. I also regularly read on Facebook about my friends' "mood" and phrases such as "taking a deep breath with the certainty that everything will be all right" or "I know that God has a plan" or "waiting to see the light at the end of the tunnel". waiting for a crisis to be over.. but we need faith. And it draws my attention because love does not arise from lovelessness. but from similar feelings. and yet. It's a response of positive rebelliousness in the face of uncertainty when we decide to believe that. If we're able to create such a great feeling as hope amidst an impossible desperate situation. our "evil" will go away.typepad. happiness does not come from sadness. humility does not derive from arrogance.XXVI. in some unknown and unexpected manner. unlikely. We're able to bring any feeling that we want into our lives and into our hearts. What has caught my attention is that hope inevitably arises from a situation that leads to hopelessness. My heresy today is more like an invitation.
. We're capable of turning a desert into an ocean.com/heresy 69 . We're magicians of hope. So what are you going to create for you and your life? http://herejia.to generate something completely opposite..typepad.
In his comment. Dying every day This heresy arises from a comment I received about yesterday's heresy titled "Where does hope come from?". Another argument to support the heresy from a few days ago in "How to answer the questions about death" is death does not exist. What we call death is simply renewal that will lead us to awaken on another road. Death is simply more life. and we live every day to seek our growth and renewal in death." This comment is closely linked with a conversation I had with a friend of mine last week when he told me that living is dying every day in the same way nature dies at night while we sleep in order to renew itself and begin another day. Thus.XXVII... you have to die.typepad.. your passions.love. today. to renew and reinvent ourselves. and your selfishness every day to let the most important feeling be reborn. We die every day to be born again.you have to let go of your attachments.com/heresy . your pride. the a day when half the world is celebrating Christmas. to generate life in our lives. to die to grow. 70 http://herejia. is a good occasion to embrace the choice of death. He mentioned that the only difference between dying every day and what we call "real death" is simply that we wake up somewhere else. Ernesto says that "in order to live. to die on everything that we want to leave behind..
The impact? It's as big as your power to "pass on" your passion and bring transformation into the world. Microcharity has all the power to generate so much transformation on a short-term basis that a micro Nobel peace prize could be established to be awarded to those of us who are committed to generating transformation in every step we take. You select a cause and donate a small amount of money (USD $1 or $2). Microcharity It was with great interest that I read a blog published by John Borthwick and Keneth Lerer in the Huffington Post about microcharity. leveraged on socialization platforms such as Facebook and Twitter.typepad. It took Muhammad Yunus 26 years to implement his microcredit model in Bangladesh. The new trend to resolve serious global issues continues to be that of microcredits (small loans granted to low-income individuals who have no access to financing from the banks). http://herejia. if we're able to do this so strongly that our energy will multiply itself in an unstoppable miraculous way. Then you publish your cause on your Facebook profile and invite your friends and your friends' friends to contribute too. but giving many times. The great potential we have to leave our mark in this world is based on our power to enroll. It is an extremely easy idea. We can turn the impossible into possible if we're able to recruit one person to join us in our dream and then recruit someone else. to build sufficient confidence based on his results.XXVIII.com/heresy 71 . My heresy: transformation doesn't necessarily imply giving a lot. and to earn the Nobel Peace Prize in 2006. with small doses of love.
Identifying the qualities that we love about ourselves when we're with the person with love and experience huge happiness. success depends on planting a healthy solid level of self-esteem in our hearts. Therefore. This exercise consists of three steps: 1. A magic wand called self-esteem For several years now. work. effort. but rather for what we are when we're with him/her. Today I want to propose an exercise intended to accomplish this objective. we engage in self-destructive vicious circles and further deplete our own love. that it's not something or someone external. There are many things that we can and should do to cultivate our self-esteem. which should not be mistaken with feeding our ego. we gradually lose the faith in ourselves. Understanding that we're spectacular individuals who are able to generate happiness. I've been exploring and working on the subject of self-esteem. and I've come to the conclusion that self-love is the basis of everything that we're capable of doing in life. but the magic that we can do. 3.XXIX. from our own essence. Experiencing that we're that person we know that we can be when we're with other people too. not only with 72 http://herejia. thus falling in a spiral effect which doesn't seem to come to an end. It is based on the following heresy: We fall in love with someone not so much because of what that person is. or circumstances. Without the right dose of self-esteem.typepad. Exploring to learn who we are when we are in that moment of love. Acknowledging that what we love comes from ourselves. 2.com/heresy . talent. That is the main driver in our lives. Rather than depending on luck. we end up giving our power to elements that are external to us and.
typepad. http://herejia. the profound happiness that is inseperable from good self-esteem. the magic of sincere happiness that emerges from knowing that we're spectacular human beings.com/heresy 73 . Reproducing that individual we love so much in diverse circumstances until we become masters in the art of being the ones who love when we're with anyone anytime.our loved ones. we will have developed the immense power of creating magic around us. Once we have gained expertise in reproducing the experience of love.
. but yet perfectly applies to Heresy. by friends of a lifetime whom I've only known because of the link established through Heresy. question.3 I'll continue this poetic heresy with another piece that came from my soul many years ago. This poem is dedicated to all of you: Take as much as you want from me.typepad. It will return to me. give it all your love.. Then. Poetic Heresy v. and question themselves every day...com/heresy . and you will come too. and turn it into a part of you.XXX. this magic space created by those who read. Pull your best deed. 74 http://herejia.
Love grows when you share it It is general knowdge that one of the key formulas to professional success is "networking". e-mails. better friends. It allows our links to be strengthened. to give our philosophy. You have to come up with excuses for sharing new moments. to the hastle.typepad. had we not been part of that conversation. If you want your relations to grow.XXXI.e..com/heresy 75 . That is how we take away some time to create love from our day-to-day lives. closer to our lovers. we'll become better professionals. it creates times of inflection in our professional life when events happen which would not have occurred. to give ourselves. Otherwise enthropy takes over and destroys any progress that we can make. For a sort of hermitage soul like mine it has been difficult to come to this heresy. If you want to strengthen a friendship. we'll create love from moments and smiles.. That is the simple formula of love: sharing it. to disconnection. which is going to bring us closer to our friends. being in contact with our contacts.by doing so. Love only grows when you share it. and smiles. http://herejia. then you need to share more conversations. give from what we have. In other words. i. debates. generate and regenerate. and in those moments you have to open your souls. For love to be stronger. closer to our colleagues. Being visible to our customers. or attending industry meetings allows us to stay on the radar of opportunities. you have to foster them. speaking to our colleagues on a regular basis. better lovers. there need to be spaces that entice you to share hugs.
It is a proven fact that thinking only takes place after children acquire their language. We even structure our own thoughts based on language. There are times when all the words in the world would not be enough to describe our feelings. 76 http://herejia. It is then that I start thiking about those monasteries from magical tales. I believe we should cultivate the art of communicating without words.com/heresy . of course. Words provide us with access to the universe. endless significance. to a million universes through communication. But there are times when words get in our way. We should let our souls connect and understand with each other in situations where energy would flow better without the contaminant we traditionally call communication.XXXII. It's something magical.typepad. silence. huge pain. limit us. embedded in the rocky mountains of Bhutan. where you arrive with your body falling apart and your soul soft from the sacrifice in order to continue to hone your spirit based on meditation and. The heresy is that at these times of great depth in our soul. and we actually can't find the way to communicate what we feel. When silence is the best word Our traditional communication approaches instinctively refer us to spoken or written words. or unlimited extasis when words are really superfluous and the best way to communicate ourselves is through silence. or are not enough.
Well. It is empathy which emerges from altruistic transparent love.typepad. The formula to overcome stress My heresies arise from life and the fantastic people that I share it with. hits us. and wishing from the bottom of our heart that things for that person would change and be resolved. understand his/her problems. I was enjoying myself with my awesome cousins. http://herejia. From this perspective. The formula to heal stress is compassion.XXXIII. including stress. Thus. beats us. we immediately acquire a new perspective of life and understand not only that there are millions of people with much worse problems than our own. Compassion is a feeling of infinite love which allows us to put ourselves into somebody else's shoes and look at the world through his/her eyes. and tears us down. we should seek a bigger problem and experience the grace of compassion. and how it affects. but also that we can be bigger than all our problems. when we face our problems. when we experience this kind of compassion. stress loses its raison d'être. We talked about a lot of things.com/heresy 77 . Compassion does not mean pitty. Then we'll find the magic formula to heal stress. A few days ago. We were daring to come up with solutions to deal with this evil of this century. when one of my cousins brought up what has become my heresy today.
The beauty of cycles becomes evident in every living creature in nature. learnings. We have the human need to create cycles which resemble our cyclic nature and essence. is the end of another year. transformations. growth. I wish all the friends of "Heresy" a happy new year. and hands over to the majestic moon that lullabies every night with the hope of a new dawn. May you have a Happy New Year all these coming years. Cycles are perfectly harmonious. These times are only symbols. my heresy is that every day we have an opportunity to generate a new beginning. to rethink our goals. and sowing and harvesting that enable them to perpetuate themselves. They're filled with changes.typepad. A year does not begin on January 1.com/heresy . Cyclic perfection According to the Gregorian calendar . December 31. In fact. and to analyze what has worked and where we haven't had good results. 78 http://herejia. Thus. Every day we can begin a new cycle. to change life. work.today. the sun that rises every morning.XXXIV.one of many calendars that establish the end of a cycle and the beginning of another . cycles which help us to remember that we have a new beginning every day and help us to make a halt on the road to evaluate and rethink our goals. May you remember that we have an opportunity to begin a new cycle whenever we decide to do so. we actually do it every 24 hours. We should actually give our New Year's hugs every day with the hope that the cycle we begin will lead us to the success that we wish. dwindles as the hours go by to turn into a sunset of reflection. but on the day we decide to start a new cycle to transform our present into the vision that we yearn for. I am making you an invitation to daily reflection and renewal.
It will go away right away. Thoughts that lead us to feel panic and anxiety are usually self-victimizing. If we enter the road with these thoughts of paralysis and inaction. but immediately effective treatment. "the economy is terrible. etc. It can even help us prepare better to face any event that could occur. Let's focus on thoughts of actions. on the things that we can do such as "I'm going to start sending my résumé to other companies". This is the reason that we must focus on thoughts of action. not on thoughts of paralysis and inaction. "I'm going to prepare better for the contest".typepad. http://herejia. Repeat this procedure as many times as the symptoms arise. it will leads us to more paralysis. We do not visualize how we can have control and we continue to think in the same way. "I'm going to lose the contest". and it won't get better". having peace of mind in our heads and our hearts without letting anxiety disturb us. We will strengthen ourselves when we face crisis and the questions of life from this perspective. Anxiety is the sister of panic and the direct mother of heartburn and bad decisions. This means that we must concentrate on the things over which we have immediate control. There are many kinds of psychological. and so forth. pharmacologic. "I'm going to think of new products that will be successful in this economy". For example. "I'm going to reinvent myself and cultivate myself". Today I'd like to propose a simple.com/heresy 79 . we think "I'm going to lose my job". "my partner has a lover". to a total block.XXXV. Thoughts of actions against anxiety The feeling is familiar: chest tightness that results in hyperventilation together with a feeling of frustration and losing control of the situation. and methodological treatments to cope with anxiety.
And as time elapses.typepad. We have to force ourselves to question our own paradigms constantly. they lead us not only to make inappropriate (perhaps incomplete) decisions. What paradigm are you going to question today? 80 http://herejia. The problem of clinging to paradigms is that they may probably work for us in "most cases".com/heresy . but they don't necessarily contribute ideal answers to situations out of the ordinary. As years go by we adopt certain likes. Thus. rules. Hopefully we could do this every day in such a way that we give ourselves an opportunity to look into alternatives that could bring new things into our lives. our credo which guides us and allows us to make decisions more easily. these become paradigms.XXXVI. methods and forms that work for us in "most" situations. My heresy is a proposal to turn the questioning of our paradigms into our basic paradigm. so that we give ourselves an opportunity to explore each day in such a manner that considering new alternatives becomes the color that lights up our lives. based on patterns we have established throughout our lives. The opportunity to explore It is inevitable. They bring the comfort and safety that comes with what we know. but also to miss out on opportunities to discover superior alternatives which go beyond the approaches and forms we master.
Poetic Heresy v.XXXVII.... BUT HOW CAN I PARALYZE THIS HEART OF MINE.com/heresy 81 ..4 WHAT WOULD IT BE LIKE NOT TO FEEL? NOT TO DELVE. IT WOULD NOT HURT. I WOULD SIMPLY NOT KNOW HOW! http://herejia.typepad.
It is this simple: thank you for bringing your warmth to my heart! 82 http://herejia. Warmth in the soul Today I want to dedicate this space to be grateful to those friends who keep our souls warm. Today my heresy is a deep hug to my true friends. those who simply love us regardless of time. These friends make our lives have all the meaning of the smiles and the love you share without measure.XXXVIII. to the friends who love me how I am. to the friends who accompany me. These friends live inside of us. They know who they are. and make me "stretch my rubber band". those who passionately listen and debate because they care about our lives. despite being who I am on occasions.typepad. space.com/heresy . or conditions. My heresy today is simply a hug of gratitude to all those who bring their warmth to my soul. question me. To them there are no barriers. those who live and vibrate with our stories as if they were their own.
At each station there is an obligatory stop to explore and dance for a while before continuing our journey carrying a suitcase full of questions and our soul enriched with experiences. Today my Heresy is an invitation to be less "humans" and more "dancers". the doors we open. and yet drives me to dance. is someone whose heart beats with its individuality. http://herejia. questions. Some interpret dancers as someone who must be part of a well orchestrated choreography and moves like everybody else. and learnings. A song that slowly takes me to unexpected roads filled with challenges. and expected responses? or are we dancers and take a risk and look for our own pace and even dare to make our own music? Today my Heresy is based on the premise that life does not evolve around the destination we have set ourselves. I present this heresy for your reflection and comments. proper. Despite this.XXXIX. on the contrary. are you human or are you dancer? P. A dancer is a puppet and is encouraged to "cut off the strings". And you?. I have a different interpretation. but around completing our journey towards that destination.typepad. Are we human or are we dancers? "The Killers" raise an interesting question in their song titled "Human": are we human or are we dancers? What do we do after our umbilical cord is cut? What do we do when we're in front of an open door? Are we human and do we have normal. I must admit that there's been a lot of controversy and different opinions about this song.com/heresy 83 . I love imagining that the universe is playing the tune of a song that I do not get to hear. Human. and the music in which we believe.S. around the experiences we live.
However. so we should simply live our lives one minute at a time. We live our lives only to learn and circumstances leave marks and scars on us which come with the price of learning." It took me some time to understand his words. pain sometimes is so strong that we can't even see the light at the end of a day. But when this journey is not clear at all. one day at a time. Today. this learning is the only reward we will get.typepad.XL. I propose that whenever our soul is burning and our reasoning is uncertain we live not just one day at a time but even one minute at a time. but especially to be able to live through those times of darkness when you feel that you're far from the "light at the end of the tunnel" and you should simply concentrate on the incredible journey of overcoming the pain one step at a time. when destiny is completely uncertain. Pain shapes us to be capable of withstanding stronger pain. At the end of the road. One minute at a time A few years ago as I faced one of the most painful situations I ever faced in my life. which will lead us to superior learning. one of my professors came to me and said that the only piece of advice he could give me was to "live one day at a time. as a heresy. the formula is simply to "live one minute at a time. and pain completely tears your soul apart." 84 http://herejia.com/heresy . There's nothing else you should ask the Universe for: we'll find our destiny in our own journey.
a horrifying practice that is becoming more and more common. not only the pain that devastates their soul. as painful as it may be. My heresy is that. the infinite pain of someone who must continue with a life they do not want. there are moments in which this self-immolation is necessary.com/heresy 85 . the pain of social rejection. but as I read about the lives of these women I began to feel compassion and to understand how the reality of the Taliban regime. which affects every aspect of their lives.XLI. In raw flesh we experience the bitterness of each one of our wounds. My first reaction was close to horror. http://herejia. When our skin becomes uncomfortable I read with astonishment a few days ago one of Stephanie Sinclair’s excellent graphic reports about the self-immolation of women in Afghanistan. Today in my heresy I can feel how in some moments the pain touches every fiber of our being in such a way that we wrench away the skin in order to be left in raw flesh and only in that way can we sacrifice in some way our heart. in the majority of the cases these women are found before dying and then they face. the scars will remain there to remind us of this pain that marked our soul and our very life. destroyed by the thorns of life. but also the pain of a body without skin. we feel the sharpness of the pain in the midst of the curative process and when some day we have skin again. in which the heartrending pain which these women are living every day leads them to seek the sacrificial fire to burn their skin in search of death. As this method is too slow. drives them to a determination which goes beyond any reasoning about the pain.typepad.
which are magically generated if. of building from love.XLII. we stand up from the love that is in our hearts. and infinitely magical: there is no obstacle that cannot be overcome when we stand from love. if you always rise up from the love which fills your heart? 86 http://herejia. when faced with obstacles and insurmountable challenges.com/heresy . So today. and generate transformation in our lives.typepad. short on words and swollen with pride toward those whom I love and who have been capable of creating transformation and new bridges in their lives by building on love. Today my heresy is profound and simple. bridges. I leave you with one simple question: what miracles can you create today in your life. dumbfounded before the evidence of the miracles of love. Today I have witnessed miracles created. When we build from love This theme serves for a million heresies and today words fail me when confronted with the evidence of the infinite power of love.
To be insignificant We struggle every day not to be insignificant.” it is not a tongue-twister. it is precisely this search for meaning which sometimes carries us to the crisis of meaninglessness. To try desperately each day to be significant is the main cause of stress. and it is empty and meaningless that is empty and meaningless. We are also empty and meaningless. http://herejia.typepad. it is an invitation to understand what I bring in today’s Heresy: we put the meaning there ourselves. since no act in and of itself has meaning. it is one of the greatest challenges of any life: to have meaning. every instant and every act can have a billion meanings. but a particular meaning. Not only do we want to have meaning. Since today’s invitation is to “let go” of so much meaning in our lives. Nevertheless. after all: what does it mean to be significant? As they say in Landmark Education: “Life is empty and meaningless. let us be how we are from the foundation of our being: empty and meaningless—from there our souls can paint millions of colors and can continue being just as transparent as ever. not even ourselves. Letting go of this struggle to be significant is simply giving ourselves over to life as it is.XLIII. to live it from the essence and to understand that we are insignificant and that is precisely the source of our freedom.com/heresy 87 .
in that way. precisely because we create in our life and we attract. or what future will be created. difficult. tools and pretexts for this growth. I came out of this encounter strengthened and in peace. we have in our “right now” the perfection of the magic of life. full of questions and loaded with transcendence. painful or full of satisfaction. in order to evolve ourselves from our own Self. one of those that also make you grow! 88 http://herejia. everything that happens to us are vehicles. We come to our existence to grow. one of those who topple the soul with words that can come only from the heart and strike every one of our fibers. with my burden lightened. and reinvigorated with love. good. If it doesn’t hurt. a life in which we have created all that we need in order to grow and learn. Gladys: a hug for you. in fact. what we need. Pain is part of the cost of growing. As it is always the case with my great friends.XLIV. What we create in our lives Yesterday I shared with a great friend. we come to difficult moments in our lives because we are growing and still do not know for sure what will come afterward. we are not “stretching our rubber band. I owe today’s heresy to that space created with her and to the great conclusion of the night which was that whatever we have in our lives.” Thus.com/heresy . is exactly what we have created because we need to learn from it. pain is part of the growth itself. bad. Even more so.typepad. Whatever it is it will be absolutely perfect.
but to the “attachment. Today I understand that I need to crush this ego even more in order to be able to reach that love which frees us from burdens that generate chains so heavy that make it impossible for the soul to fly. Thank you to these divine heretics that continue to cross my path! http://herejia. which celebrates the individuality and gives no foothold to the least bit of pain. Patricia Botero. multiply them. Where does attachment come from? From love deformed by the ego. Today Patricia makes me think that it is not necessarily proportional to the intensity of the love. absorbing. This reflection about pain was born the day of my most intense and infinite pain. to someone. enrich them.” Thank you. to a love that is infinitely powerful. transforming and orgasmic. possessive.typepad.XLV. when my grandmother – Aya – died. for such a heresy. from egotistical. Pain and ego This space is being filled up little by little with heretics who comment on these heresies and make them grow. which seemed to me to be so profound and sublime as to convert itself into today’s heresy: “The intensity of the pain is proportional to our capacity to cling to something. intense and of course. What hurts us is the ego. Today I received a heresy as a comment on yesterday’s heresy.com/heresy 89 . A love which is very easy for me to feel. I always thought that the intensity of pain was proportional to the intensity of the love. and therefore fills me with attachments which do not necessarily lead to free love. beginning this very instant. life does not hurt. super-passionate love. Today I understand that there is still much work to do.” which in many cases is a deformation of love.
and what’s more. we look for problems because it is in our exercise of getting out of them and creating solutions that we get trained as comprehensive human beings. The comment made me think about a little “Jiminy Cricket After-Party” that according to everything our parents. who have left Jiminy Cricket in the children’s story where he belongs and have dared to live in order to accept afterwards all this packet of errors and problems and. But afterwards I thought about what today’s heresy is: Jiminy Cricket should be asleep. including the problems.XLVI. but the truth is that life puts us on the road that we need to be on. who have erred. So Jiminy is an invention of an external code of values. since anyone who would go take out cash at that hour is probably looking for trouble in his or her life. religion. grow. look for the way out. Those who have strayed are the best teachers in my life. This is why I admire so much those who have fallen. Who created Jiminy Cricket? Today a friend told me that ATM’s should have a psychotherapy service after 2:00 AM. who have been mistaken. because they show me the courage 90 http://herejia. reinvent themselves. we should all carry in our consciousness in order to avoid bringing these problems into our lives. We all bring to our lives everything that we need to bring for our learning. our priests and our ethics professors taught us. with their whole heart.typepad.com/heresy . Rejecting free choice and sticking to this external code is perhaps creating an obstacle for a learning opportunity which we should have. as leaders of our own existence. or whatever name evokes the sacred. come out. emerge. call it morality. especially our problems! There are no good or bad situations— everything that we bring to our lives is perfect because it makes us grow.
typepad.com/heresy 91 .of getting back up again-. http://herejia.these are the best Jiminy Crickets of any story.
The concept that each decision that we make in our lives is a point of inflection that necessarily takes us to two opposite paths: when we decide to do something. or what would we be living. You will always have the freedom to change your mind and choose another future or another past.XLVII. who would we then be as a result of having made completely opposite decisions? And could we by chance have access in a corner of our heart to this parallel self and look at this being. I want to propose what Richard Bach says in his book. before being sure that you have nothing to learn from them. feel. which Albert Einstein already proved that it is not.” My heresy today is impregnated with the power that we have in our lives 92 http://herejia. then necessarily the non-decisions create parallel universes in our lives. I borrow today’s heresy from Víctor Manuel and his song “Adonde irán los besos?” [Where will the kisses go?] What parallel universes do we create with the kisses we do not give? What possibilities do we create when we make each decision and what opposite possibilities do we also create upon not deciding the opposite? What are these parallel-me’s like? What do they live through.com/heresy . Illusions: “Don’t turn your back on future possibilities.typepad. suffer. and learn from what we see? But I want to carry this heresy much farther. Where would kisses go? I have always been fascinated with the idea of parallel universes. but as we know by quantum physics that the Universe is made up of infinite planes and possibilities and that time is the axis which connects these planes. If the Universe were flat and linear. feeling and suffering if our decisions had been completely opposite to those which we made? This heresy is the contemplation that if we are the result of the decisions that we have made. then just one decision would lead to one result and the non-decision would lead to nothing. we are by default not deciding to do the contrary. as we look at ourselves in the mirror.
Today I want to generate a space in our lives in which we look at the kisses we never gave and know that we have all the power to give them and to entirely create the past. from the magic void of nothingness..com/heresy 93 . the song which inspired this heresy.the power to change our reality and to convert our present into the parallel present. http://herejia. as a gift. if that is what calls us more strongly. power to change our minds and choose again.typepad.. power to create at any time. I offer you. power to give those kisses. which we never gave. and the future that we want. the present.
that is our choice.typepad. that will re-create itself for all eternity. the 94 http://herejia. but just now am I beginning to understand its true meaning and I have brought it into this sacred heresy: we are powerful because we come from love. in an instant that will stay alive. the belt falling to one side on top of a long shirt.com/heresy . we can connect to an unknown soul and build a bridge that will take us into infinity. Today. my request and personal exercise is to make love out of nothing. out of nothing. because rather than being in love with someone. the ridiculous pink and light blue eye shadow. with our own light. the leggings with heavy socks on the outside (like a rainbow of colors). In an instant. platonic romance that was even impersonal at the time. Air Supply singing the unintelligible lyrics (because we couldn't speak English) that we loved to death. the Alf hairdo. all the absurdly intense. In an instant. we can turn day into night if we give enough love to our purpose.XLVIII. we can give all our light and create a dream of love that will make us infinitely happy. of course. make love. the long messy hair and. One of the biggest hits of the decade was "Making love out of nothing at all". Making love out of nothing at all I was lucky to live and enjoy the 80s in my 20s (like the Pareto Principle). build love. in an instant. give my unlimited love to the light of my own soul. Today. if that's what we want. In an instant. if that's what we choose to do. In an instant. I think I have sung the song about one thousand. we were in love with love. MTV’s newly invented videos. we were created in a moment of infinite love and our unlimited power consists of the fact that we are capable of creating love in an instant. three hundred and eighty seven times. we can even decide to make love to our own soul and love ourselves in such a way that it will make us ONE with our own essence. particularly to me.
Today. to start from nothing and give the generosity of our love to everyone and to ourselves. my invitation is to make love. Here is MTV’s Air Supply video… I hope you enjoy it as much as we enjoyed it back then! http://herejia.typepad.invitation is to exercise the unlimited power of our love.com/heresy 95 .
in an attempt to disconnect for a moment from the mirror of our soul. which is nothing more than me and I. the perennial truth. Existential loneliness is feared by most of us off-guard pedestrians on this planet.typepad... At any time. Me and I It’s that simple: me and I. we can have the universe inside our heart. The primary. I propose a heresy of celebration for our own individuality. it will be awkward. if we stop to listen to ourselves. perfect and complete. Space. I give to you the timeless wonder of ABBA. all you are doing is repeating. because at times. ultimate reality.XLIX. At any time. nothing and “Me and I”. And just how do you celebrate the blessed experience of existential loneliness? Silence is your best ally in listening to your own thoughts with clarity.com/heresy . we are whole. singing "Me and I". even the muddiest of times. live the "me and I" intensely. but when you find in the nothingness the perfect space for your own communion. you will feel the grandeur of living under your own skin. 96 http://herejia. celebrate ourselves. you are so caught up in getting away from yourself that you mistake the voices of the world with your own and you believe you are thinking when. I say we should celebrate it. we have invented a number of frankly unnecessary stimuli. and to avoid it. at the beginning. in reality. from which we cannot disconnect: our own selves. embrace ourselves.
Re-creating is understanding that we can reinvent all the futures we want. we live most of our lives thinking of the “most probable future”. futures that will never take place. Bending the future A conversation I had yesterday brought into my life a new tool I consider infinitely powerful. We can bend it and. So that is the suggestion for today's heresy. create miracles in our lives. In our lives. I would like to share it with you to learn how to use it better. impossible path. What futures have opened up in your life in view of this invitation to re-create them? http://herejia. we can do it.L. in this new future. thousands of possibilities occurred to me. we have adopted the fundamental premise that there are things that are the way they are. give it back to the universe: bending the future. and since we do. If you take a closer look. and yes.typepad. There is no fixed.com/heresy 97 . given to me by a friend yesterday: we have all the power in the universe to bend the future. towards a future we think we cannot avoid. and now I see that we can bend them and re-create them. which we think we have designed because “that’s the direction we are going”. The simple act of bending the future is a tangible miracle in itself. Based on this conversation. things we cannot change. that’s the way they are. unmovable. recreate it. So here is a heresy I want to share with you. that's the way we think they are. What a sad idea it is to think of a future we cannot avoid. bend the future. I imagined futures that I had established as being unmovable. multiply it. paradigms that are impossible to question. well. Yes.
typepad. to understanding what your reason. Shine. inspire them and. which in Hindi. is 98 http://herejia. by turning out our light. But in an attempt to go beyond this idea. beat to the rhythm of the Universe and all the beings you find on your way. noble yet mistakenly interpreted feeling: compassion. but rather our light”. feeling others’ pain as our own. minimizing pity. into something vile.com/heresy . our light should shine so generously that it will generate light all around it. we have turned the simple yet powerful act of putting ourselves in someone else’s shoes. that is to say. demonized as pity. and thus. as you can be. as they can become. in the search to find what causes this feeling of hypocrisy disguised as humility. when the truth is. We have intrinsically thought that compassion implies pity and sorrow. misleading description of compassion. I came to the words of Maryanne Williamson: “What scares us most is not our darkness. protect them. When we stop shining Today. if we are as great as we can be. by the simple and magical act of beating with someone else’s heart that becomes your own … Our limited. and let the light shine on them. we are really just feeling selfish pity. above all. We think we should be "humble" (another misinterpreted word) and we should belittle ourselves. smelling the possibilities with their sense of smell. we are afraid of our own greatness. so others can shine. maximizing compassion. we are just fleeing from our own light. surround them in an embrace full of compassion. I want to talk about a beautiful. your mind and your ego cannot abstract. seeing the world through their eyes. we are allowing others to be as great as they really are. Be as great as you are. So forget it. when we think we are being compassionate with others. makes us think we are good when we dim our own light. compassion is the elevated feeling that leads you to total empathy.LI. My heresy? Based on compassion. and when we think we are helping.
typepad. Namaste. http://herejia.nothing more than “Namaste”: I love the place in your heart where you and I are ONE.com/heresy 99 .
0000004. in the shades of gray. where things are not necessarily black and white. intrinsically defines what is not.com/heresy . this time through a reading given to me by a friend. which is not zero and certainly isn‘t one. My invitation for today? Get rid of the linear. Aristotelic glasses that require linear thinking and judgment. one of those friends who came to me as a student and wound up being my teacher. and describe it as something that is and is not. such as 0. but it is not. we will be capable of overcoming the pettiness of judgment. Not-being includes being and vice-versa. It sounds complex. based his dissertations on a binary system: what is. We stand up and think we have to choose one: good or bad. a Taoist universe. hot or cold. by simple deduction. The heresy? Well the heresy is in the gray. in short and in my eyes. The heresy is that there is nothing absolute. but rather values of a “Real” system. The heresy is that there is no good OR bad. but rather a series of different shades of gray. black or white. of being AND not being because good/bad come after judgment. 100 http://herejia. Life is not linear. History describes how Aristotle. The reading discusses the new science of "blurred logic”.LII. it is either zero or it is not. which is basically relative logic. Oriental masters such as Lao-Tsu and Buddha defined reality beyond being or not being. That is to say. The truth is in the combination of good AND bad. Then. and embrace Buddha and Taoism to be able to perceive that the truth in life has shades and if we can see the world through these eyes. We judge others based on linearity. Aristotle and Buddha I continue to pick up the petals on the path of life. where values are not necessarily the absolute values of a binary system: 1 or 0. in which case. it is one. not before. the father of logical thought. the perfect description of this magical universe that is not static but flowing and transforming.typepad.
I feel that everything has been said. The truth is we should take off the glasses they sold us in Hollywood to see reality with the naked eye. I am grateful and amazed at how the Universe is perfect and how even things I cannot manage to understand and do not seem (or are not) “good”.typepad. no matter what it is like. All we have to do is accept it. in my heart. we are so used to the glasses that we can’t see how something chaotic. happiness. charming perfection The magic of perfection is not at all like what Hollywood and the western world have been selling us. Perfection is simply a synonym of reality. And that. is perfect. http://herejia.LIII. Reality is and will continue to be perfect even if we don’t understand it. I should stop there. order. What is. loveliness. is my heresy: perfection is not a synonym of goodness. abundance. an Unreal perfection. ecstasy and clouds in the sky. just the way it is… Perfect. The truth is that if we cannot see it. perfection that does not actually exist. of course. symmetry. beauty. not even understand it. it is a dogma of the Universe that is and will continue to be perfect with or without our approval. Regardless of whether we understand it or not.com/heresy 101 . is perfect. good sense. Oh!. it is because our eyes are contaminated with judgment or prejudice of what perfect should be. in what IS. like beauty or other attributes we take as synonyms and conditions sine qua non of perfection. a plastic surgery and Disney perfection. are simply perfect. because when I write the phrase: what is. logic. it is practically a dogma of this new heretic religion. that is. painful and countless other “negative” adjectives can be perfect. I have painfully learned that the magic of perfection lies in reality.
com/heresy . constant perfection in our life.So the invitation today is to contemplate the absolute. simply say to ourselves from the bottom of our heart: all is well. particularly the perfection that requires us to take off our Hollywoodesque glasses to be able to see and.typepad. everything is perfect! 102 http://herejia. although we do not understand.
emotional or spiritual attachments. Well there is the heresy today: Letting go is winning.com/heresy 103 . love. By letting go. Isn’t that what love is anyway? Well. Simple. Complex. trained by a Western-Greek-Roman civilization tie us up. to let go. Letting go Putting these two words together is a good reason to “stretch our rubber band”. from the complete detachment that leads to moments of light and coincidence where you give without expecting anything in exchange.LIV. yet most complex exercises there are. things. tie down. because you already let go. accumulate. because all you have to do is make a choice. you can’t take that away from me because I already gave it up. hold us back. people. my being running free. there are no good-byes… How can you say good-bye to something that was never yours? How can you say good-bye to something that will never http://herejia. Too ironic? The feeling that ties us down most and keeps us from letting go is love. releasing. the peace of living in a state where you just can’t lose. where you are simply in communion with spirits. or what we interpret to be love. to want more. It sounds so simple. is somehow losing and never winning. but is rather possession. at any time. no matter what. where. and we think it is natural to feel that way. Love grows and feeds off of absolute freedom. control. the truth is. no matter what the situation. feel that everything is okay. money. and they make us think that letting go. we gain freedom. I realized how light my own spirit was. not really.typepad. it is one of the simplest. and simply understanding that everything is perfect. We feel that we are in love and all we want to do is have. because our emotions. embracing the Universe in a bliss of enlightenment and gratitude because by letting go. a state where all I have is my limitless essence. set free. as Richard Bach put it. Letting go means releasing any material. make us want to have and accumulate.
leave? Letting go never ends, or it will end when there is nothing left but our essence; so the road guarantees a great deal of growth and learning… here I am, right in the middle of a pilgrimage.
LV. The inexisting time and space I have a feelingt that I am going to write about time and space over and over, because they are infinite and, at the same time, non-existent… and because this is one of those topics that covers everything else. Understanding the idea that they are non-existent is one thing; actually managing to experience the dimension of their nonexistence will enlighten us; something that human beings do not normally achieve until they die. For today’s heresy, I would like to call on Richard Bach and his book “There is no Such Place as Far Away” on his way to celebrate his friend’s birthday, where what he learned becomes the gift to his friend and to all of us: "I cannot go to you because I am already there. You are not small because you have already grown, playing between the moments of your life, like we all do, for the fun of living. It is not your birthday because you have been alive forever; you were never born and you will never die. [...] Fly free and be happy beyond birthdays for all eternity and we will meet now and again, whenever we want, amidst the celebration that can never end" My heresy today is a rebellion against the paradigm that begins when we are born: there is no time, no space. Time-space is just an illusion of the Cartesian plane on which we have been encoded, when in fact, we are three-dimensional beings allowing ourselves to be limited by the illusion of what is non-existent. This is what I think of when I miss my loved ones and I remember there is no space between those who truly love each other. I understand the truth of this heresy when I can feel the words, the smile, the kiss and the hug of those I love, who
are no longer even with me physically, even those who “died” years ago and continue to live within me. In conclusion, I will again allow Richard Bach to raise our awareness regarding living and feeling with Jonathan Livingston Seagull: "Overcome space and all we have left is HERE, Overcome time and all we have left is NOW; And in the middle of HERE and NOW, don’t you think that we might see each other once or twice?" This heresy is for everyone I love who lives inside of me, with no time or space.
Perhaps we talk to ourselves. Because in the end. it puts a smile on our face.typepad. fun being that we are when nobody is watching.LVI. fears. So let’s live as if our skin was not the limit to our being. walls. This leads me to some words that I love and I believe are anonymous wisdom: "Work like you don’t need the money. chains. with no makeup. masks. like Alejandro Sanz put it. brakes. and the irony of it is why be afraid if the others will never be completely pleased. our authentic self. Love like you’ve never been hurt and Dance like there’s no one watching" http://herejia. I say fun because I also bet that when we think of whom we are when we are ourselves. who we are when. We loose that wonderful. There will always be those who do not like the way we are or who we are pretending to be. and I wonder what keeps you from simply being yourself. as if no one was watching. we loose ourselves. So why not let it show? Why not give the world the most extraordinary being we have inside.com/heresy 107 . but when everyone’s eyes are on us? My heresy today is an invitation to try to be whom we are when no one is watching. When nobody is watching me Who are you when nobody is watching? With whom in your life can you be whom you are when no one is looking? I bet in most cases you are yourself with one or two people. In our yearning for approval. there is sure to be a smile behind the mask. naked self. “our skin is no limit". sing or dance… Whatever we are. what keeps us from being ourselves is actually the fear of what others think of our true.
or at the least. I’m talking about the wounds from our past that we refuse to forget. My heresy is that the "scar" from learning should remain. as if we had never felt any pain. wise and mature. where we have the choice to smile. those fractures from old "falls" that seem they have not healed altogether and start to hurt once more on cold nights or during a full moon as if they were happening all over again. but you have to say good-bye to the old ache. So.typepad.com/heresy . we are constantly bringing the past to present conversation. go through the fracture inventory and see which ones are still hurting. rich in experience. It is so absurd for old aches to condition our present. My heresy is that old aches and fractures make us more interesting. What do you choose to do? 108 http://herejia. when the past does not exist and all we have is today. in the present. Look them over and sincerely understand how senseless it is to keep on experiencing past aches. By doing so. We have to live the rest of our life as if we had never fallen down. It's time to enjoy the present. but that is all they are good for. That is to say.LVII. we are making it worse by living life with old aches. Old aching Today I had an interesting chat about “old aches” in our lives. we have not “let go” to simply allow them to heal. or remember yesterday's fall and cry all over again. especially the sharp pains of the soul.
The sky is the limit. Of course. the true dream is not usually manifested. dream less because we think that perhaps “that much” is “impossible”. How far should my dreams go? I’ve heard it time and again: in the middle of creating a dream.typepad. we feel the power of the divine right to dream and make each of our dreams.com/heresy 109 . cut the flow. come true. Aren’t our dreams the most intimate offspring of our creativity? Therefore. because it somehow feels impossible. In life. And to make each and every one of our aspirations come true. nothing comes easy. the biggest. If we are capable of dreaming it. And why should it be? We somehow think we are not worthy of our best dreams. but we are also entitled to even bigger dreams. but if our dreams are worthy of us. without even doubting whether we deserve them or not. without hesitation. and we are certainly worthy of experiencing it. because it is. When I ask someone what his or her biggest dream is. the cost will always be justified. we have the right to take anything the Universe has put on our path for our consideration. we are capable of making it come true. So I suggest that deep down. It even sounds funny. whether we will manage or not. most beautiful dreams. my heresy is clear: not only are we worthy of our biggest dreams. we stop ourselves. we are certainly worthy of our dreams! http://herejia.LVIII. If our dreams are worthy of us.
My heresy? In the end. truly living “with your feet on the ground” should not mean that we have to please a society that is alien to us. 110 http://herejia. This way we think we are acting like the adults we are supposed to be. My heresy is that the most intense act of personal responsibility. you have to learn to let your soul free. Let’s live life “with our soul exposed”. not like we are “supposed” to live. you have to feel the adrenaline from taking the most heavenly risk: giving your all for your own happiness. I mean. live fully aware of the fact that each smile is the best reward for the risk we take when we simply do not prefer other people’s criteria over our own vibes.com/heresy . Here is Alejandro Sanz and his “Alma al aire” [Soul in the air]. many times choosing “our feet on the ground” (our interpretation of whatever that may mean) over the alternative of what it would be like living in our own freedom. let’s live like we want to live. If you want to have your feet on the ground. but rather that we should take responsibility for our own happiness and simply live "with our soul exposed". without the restrictions of caveman ideas that limit our essence. practically choosing what is accepted because we think that is the right way to do things… I have an idea. Let’s live unprotected. live and gamble our existence because our own happiness is worth it.LIX. Our souls in the air A commonly accepted paradigm is that we have to live “with our feet on the ground”.typepad. fully committed to our essence. maturity and good sense is precisely a life lived without the limits of our skin.
It’s on the back. with a head and a tail.typepad. This heresy is for you. It is in the steps on the way. The face you can't see A coin falls: heads. two sides of the same coin. This time we can’t see the head. full of adventure.. so we do not even consider it. My heresy is the confirmation that pain is proportional to love. “Ithaca When you set out on your journey to Ithaca pray that the road is long.do not http://herejia. My heresy is to live based on the illusion of reality. It somehow seems like two coins. not the destination. it is going to hurt even more. the same one.. It is the same coin. This flow will take us where we are supposed to be and flowing is where life takes place. it is the coin of my soul. fully exposed and unmasked. full of knowledge. happiness and sadness in one. where our existence occurs.LX. it’s just one coin. and when we are sad about something. What better way to conclude this heresy than with one of my favorite poems: Ithaca by Konstantino Kavafis.com/heresy 111 . the source of all emotions. We are so happy over something that can also make us taste the bitterest sadness. This world is perfect. we cannot see that so much sadness exists because the source where it came from is the cause of the deepest happiness. That’s the way happiness and sadness are. if have this coin in my hand and hold it tight. depending on what side you are looking at. confused at times over the intensity of my feelings. We can’t see the tail. Perhaps we think that if we see it. My heresy today is the product of my heart. The Lestrygonians and the Cyclops the angry Poseidon -. Sadness is happiness with no mask on and vice versa. I say it to myself once more. It falls again: tails. Pili. just one.
The Lestrygonians and the Cyclops.” 112 http://herejia. To arrive there is your ultimate goal. with such joy! . and sensual perfumes of all kinds.fear them. you must already have understood what Ithacas mean. visit many Egyptian cities to learn and learn from scholars. rich with all you have gained on the way not expecting that Ithaca will offer you riches.you will enter ports seen for the first time. stop at Phoenician markets and purchase fine merchandise mother-of-pearl and coral. the fierce Poseidon you will never encounter. Ithaca has not deceived you Wise as you have become. She has nothing more to give you. Without her you would have never set out on the road. Pray that the road is long. But do not hurry the voyage at all. You will never find such as these on your path if your thoughts remain lofty. And if you find her poor. amber and ebony.com/heresy . That the summer mornings are many.typepad. if a fine emotion touches your spirit and your body. It is better to let it last for many years and to anchor at the island when you are old. as many sensual perfumes as you can. if your soul does not set them up before you. when with such pleasure. Always keep Ithaca in your mind. Ithaca has given you the beautiful voyage. with so much experience.
freedom is a life choice you make each second. Freedom is an attitude we use to choose to travel the path of our life. All I can do is smile! And the author of this heresy that has enlightened me today is my teacher. my freedom.. the responsibility we have to our soul and the wind is in our hands. the power to choose to be free.LXI. It is so easy to feel that we have no power because we lack freedom in one way or another. a way to go about life. because freedom is not a destination. but no. Freedom is not a final stage. I now understand this instant that freedom is not a state. That is why freedom never comes. after a life devoted to the infinite search for freedom. It is so easy and convenient to think and feel that we are not capable because something outside of us is limiting us. the “struggle” for freedom. we choose to live the adventure of finding our own purpose.com/heresy 113 . And that has changed everything for me. Today I discovered the heresy of my life: freedom is a choice And if freedom is a choice. the power to choose to live based on freedom. every instant. it turns out we have all the power in the Universe. The freedom that never comes I just managed to understand it. but a journey. Richard Bach. because being free is a choice.. Being free means understanding that. Being free depends on nothing and no one outside of us. with his impeccable Jonathan Livingston Seagull.typepad. http://herejia.
We can be spectators of life. my heresy is simply the search for drivers.typepad. My heresy is an invitation to be the drivers of our own life. this campaign has one of my favorite slogans: “On the road of life. I couldn’t pass up the chance to discuss the depth of such a proposal and that is when this heresy was born. these students and all of those who have passed through my life: they have been my teachers and have become my friends.LXII. my students. choose what we want and simply take it. deep souls willing to take the risk and the cost of knowing what we want and take responsibility for our own happiness. there are drivers and there are passengers. Of course.. What about you? Are you a driver or are you a passenger of your own life? Drivers wanted!!! 114 http://herejia. or we can take control and choose to steer it ourselves. Drivers wanted". Drivers wanted I was teaching a class to a spectacular group of students today.com/heresy . and we discussed the divine and human about Volkswagen’s "Drivers Wanted" campaign. and I have dedicated it to them..
I work with it. in colombian slang. My heresy is that the problem lies in the fact that the “passion fruit” effect is a short-term illusion. if what we are selling is just passion fruit and not a product that actually adds value. our partner. which can be translated as an enormous power of influence over others.LXIII. I love it. So although the “passion fruit effect” is tempting and fun. or perhaps they do not even need. This generates empty spaces in our relationships that are eventually impossible to bear. Of course. Over time. The passion fruit effect This heresy came from a joke and a thousand smiles with a story about someone they call “passion fruit” for his incredible ability to “tangle things up”. Our customer. I teach it and I learn about it every day.com/heresy 115 . the “passion fruit effect” is the cornerstone of a consumer society ignited by the effect of modern marketing. it is another way of creating short-term hopes that http://herejia.typepad. understands that you cannot keep a true relationship going based on the “Passion fruit effect” and we eventually lose them – even though in some cases. I have nothing against marketing. but the cost of selling by tangling things up is the reality that people will not continue to be misled for long. with all the hype. in this case. their body is still by our side -. the effect wears off and we stop adding value. So in the end. no one is in for the long haul. In short. Passion fruit is sweet and enjoyable. And the situation gets even more complicated when we apply the passion fruit effect to our relationships and we think that the way to sweep someone off their feet is by “tangling things up”. I took this little term to my class this week and a comment made by one of my students sounded incredibly like “passion fruit”: an application of the art of marketing to lead customers to buy a product that does not necessarily add the most value.
the story will not have a happy ending. 116 http://herejia.eventually have to be backed by a reality that will add value to the other… otherwise.com/heresy .typepad.
the wisest part of the song..com/heresy 117 . today is perfect and so will be tomorrow. When you least expect it.. At the end of the day.. but they tell me. and we will be fully empowered by the experience. At some point in life. “take it easy Bobby. or vice versa. like we are going down the wrong way on a one-way street. like Juan Luis Guerra says: ". simply “knowing” that everything is going to be all right. even the little ones. http://herejia.". like our clothes don’t fit us. we have to keep in mind the words of the “nurse with Ben-Gay hands” and find peace in our soul. we will have the Niagara behind us. take it easy”. perhaps the bicycle will be there too. we feel like what we have at hand is not enough to deal with our current challenges. Then the dominos start to fall. My heresy is that no matter how great the challenge and how absurd the situation we are in. when the only thing we have is a bicycle and we are going over the Niagara Falls.typepad. we feel like we are going over "the Niagara on a bicycle". there is always more bad news.. To fully understand it you should listen to the song and translate the lyrics. The musical heresy for today is meant to find the positive effect that we need in Juan Luis’ cheerful notes.LXIV. one after another. Because it is all right. don’t tell me they drank all the alcohol and the thread was sewn onto a tablecloth. don’t tell me there’s no anesthetic.. and finally. Don’t tell me.. with the tools for the next Niagara that gets in our way! Translation Note: This heresy takes the lyrics of the song “El Niagara en Bicicleta” and interprets them into life. Niagara on a bike It happens to all of us.don’t tell me the doctors left. more difficulties arise.
. the safety of being alive can be threatened and. There’s a simple reason behind it: I have experienced the fragility of life up close so many times. not letting the days go by. energy and connection. no matter what it is. to connect to my soul this Wednesday. My second heresy would be that I believe so much in the power of love.. for my growth and learning. I need it today more than ever because today I am afraid. when I have the MRI. Last but not least. So today. February 18. so many thoughts have gone through this head of mine from the moment in which these possibilities came about.. because I’ve had a few symptoms that were making me worry. that it is my religion. but a happy heretic. The first thing that comes to mind is knowing that everything is perfect. finally.. of course.. With a history of an uncle who died from the same cause and my background with the fragility of life. I am afraid This heresy of mine is the nudist space where I show my soul to the Universe and connect to It. I went to the neurosurgeon today. I have suffered the loss of people that were so important to me that my life has become a chant to the imminence of living based on essence and passion.typepad. very afraid.LXV. I’m afraid. I have lived my life as a heretic and crazy woman. 2009 at 12:30 p. No matter what the result of this new adventure in my life. and I am asking the Universe and you. and that life has me in its hands and will put me wherever I have to be.com/heresy . it has already made me grow. Today is one of those days where I take it all off. 118 http://herejia. understanding that at any time. every event is a learning experience. The problem is that they made him worry enough to have me get an emergency MRI because he thinks I may have a brain aneurysm. Thanks for the love.m. I am not sure about my heresy today.
And with today’s heresy. before coming to the workshop. we tend to forget. including some of my students from the past. In other words. They experienced frustration.typepad. break the routine. that we cannot let ourselves die. and I thank each of my friends http://herejia. the route to class. However.com/heresy 119 . Today I am alive Today I had the pleasure to lead an innovation workshop for Baxter and share time with beautiful people. they also discovered that some of these activities gave them an interesting alternative that they would be happy to experience again and they felt they had discovered something positive that they wanted to make a part of their lives. the daily routine. That something could be as simple as changing their hairstyle. innovate. The exercise consisted of everyone doing something other than what they normally do. The heresy suggests we declare one day each month – whatever day we want – to remind ourselves we are alive. I would like to thank life for reminding me I am alive. By sharing their experiences. I suggest we declare the “being alive day” to experience something new in our lives that will remind us we are not dead. anything. their words were the reflection of how uncomfortable any change in our lives can be. which fills my soul with happiness. changing the radio station. they remembered that they were alive! At what point in our life did we decide that everything had already been invented and let our routine become the only mold that will wind up killing us little by little? At what point did we choose to stop being alive? In today’s heresy. anxiety. with warm hearts. resistance.LXVI. This heresy came from the workshop and an exercise I had assigned as homework. putting their watch on the other hand. because unfortunately.
I am on my way to my MRI. 120 http://herejia.typepad.for all the love you have sent me. thanks for being there for me.com/heresy .
covered me and finally.LXVII. Amidst the gratitude is my vow to all of you. rich in experiences. Today I am grateful Today I’m grateful. stretched the rubber band and made me learn so much in just a few hours. There is no fuller life than the life you live planting love in the hearts of so many beautiful people to harvest it at times like those I have been through over the last few days. Thanks for all the energy that reached me. who thought of me. to share each lesson. who accompanied me. life has given me a million more opportunities and the infinite gift of having valued it.. even more intensely..com/heresy 121 .typepad. healed me. embraced me. to live each instant and smile amidst a million chats. My heresy today is reconfirming that my religion is love. to leave a piece of my skin on every wire fence. rich in life. Today I am grateful because the results of my tests were perfect and the only conclusion the doctor could reach is that the cause of my pain is stress. Today I literally feel like I am born again.. embraces and heresies that have led me to discover what I love most in life: the people I have in my Universe. because there are times when you can't find the dimension of the importance of being alive. to live intensely. but especially since last Monday when I shared my fear with my friends. my commitment to continue valuing life the way I value it now.. Mainly for the love that has filled me up forever. Thanks for a life experience that made me wonder a great deal. Today I wouldn’t change places with anyone I am so happy to imagine the faces and hugs of all the friends who wrote me. who sent all their love. Today I feel infinitely rich. all of you. my friends! http://herejia. rich in love. rich at heart. protected me.
and my signature deep hug! 122 http://herejia.com/heresy .So here are the thanks. the love.typepad.
and that made me create the image of a “witch” toward my students. I thank them for being so patient and for knowing how to discover me once and again. their presence in my life. their comments. I have been a professor at the Universidad Javeriana Graduate School for almost seven years and I am still at awe over everything this experience has brought into my life. the sincerity of my smile and they came to embrace my soul. this has created walls built by the fear and the pain. hiding to avoid more judgment and criticism. http://herejia. with their names written in front of me. their doubts. their questioning eyes.com/heresy 123 . My heresy is that we hurt ourselves even more by protecting ourselves. so many lessons learned that I am breathless every time I think of the faces of my students. I was a TA at college. I was a teacher for my friends through school.typepad. Feeling how they have become a part of me and they are going to live in my heart forever: they became my teachers. until their generosity let them see the twinkle in my eyes. Fascination I have had the calling to be a teacher ever since I can remember and I played teacher more that I played house. true friendship. but above all. Our idea of protection is a layer of selfishness that will not allow us to share the most beautiful thing we have: our own essence. acceptance. My heresy is that we should stand before the Universe with our soul exposed and offer our being with generosity: our brother and sister souls will come to us and we will receive the fascination of infinite love.LXVIII. I have felt the judgment and the urge to “protect” myself. After that. I started out as a college professor even before I graduated from my Bachelors degree. their concerns. my friends… life has been so generous! All my life.
we embraced each others’ souls. I love you from the bottom of my heart and with all my insanity! Here is a video that they. They questioned me like only love can question.typepad. We went out to eat a couple of days ago and I had a conversation I would have never dreamed of with them.I cannot help but smile when I think of them. They embraced my essence and there were no spaces between us. These students. I love them deeply and thank them for each moment shared. others. regardless of the paths our lives may follow. laughed. I am fascinated by this gift from the Universe. will remain a part of our lives. that I might never seen again. will understand … 124 http://herejia. all the beautiful souls. smiled and cried. those who passed through my life many years ago and have never come around again. I will say it again. the ones from the dinner. We were already a cosmic amalgamation that. thank you for making me grow.com/heresy . They spoke to me using words that only true friends use.
yes.com/heresy 125 . well grounded. word. That is the greatest display of irrationality. If you can be totally unreasonable in the name of love. Irrationality is the manifestation of the passion felt by the direction of dreams and even if it cannot find a reason or explanation. we feel more alive than ever. why not declare your irrationality in your own life in the name of the love for yourself? When are we going to stop postponing our dreams for any little reason that crosses our path? When are we going to stop postponing our life in search for a reason http://herejia. And the unreasonable? Immediate judgment is insanity and insanity requires treatment. nothing is impossible. It even requires reclusion. duly documented explanation. When we are in love. This is how we declare the victory of reason and feel good about ourselves. There is simply no reason good enough to quiet our heart. My heresy is that irrationality makes sense. it dares to act.typepad.LXIX. Campaign for unreasonableness It is a commonly accepted paradigm that reason is something good and irrationality is insane. we judge ourselves and we judge others for each reason that is missing and we even have moments of anxiety when our heart offers alternatives that are not based on any reason at all. convince us not to carry on. When we are in love. This is why we think we have to have reasons for everything. by definition. a statement of life. and the more irrational we are. thought. intimidate us. Reasons for each action. a symptom that the heart is pumping. Insanity is a disease. Irrationality is a manifestation of love. it dares to live. Things that are unreasonable must even find a reason strong enough to pacify their violence and become an appropriate. there is nothing that can stop us. action and omission.
Aren't we alive? Do I have to give you another reason? 126 http://herejia.com/heresy .typepad. Let’s be completely unreasonable when it comes to life.that is good enough to live it fully? When are we going to stop living. pretending to be alive? When are we going to stop needing reasons? Let’s be deeply unreasonable when it comes to happiness.
because it is our choice. The truth is that the number of distinctions during the course would give us a whole year full of heresies. Reasons are simply the product of the way you look at things. They 127 .typepad. but they mean nothing. The thing with decisions is like Ruben Blades puts it. We can make choices when we are really in tune with our self. there is a million more reasons.LXX. When we have greased the cable that connects us to our heart. choosing simply because you choose to. http://herejia. That is to say. there is “someone who wins. Choices may not be understood. They will never be enough. choosing does not depend on reason. The power is infinite because that choice comes from the deepest corners of our being. My reasons are my reasons and seen from another standpoint. basically because my reasons will always be incomplete. So here goes one of these heretic distinctions: deciding is opting for an alternative after carefully considering the reasons we have or do not have. When we live knowing that our essence recognizes the alternative to our happiness. The heresy lies in the choice. as an alternative to the decision. someone who loses”. connecting to the core of our being. with our own essence. The power of choice This heresy is another result of my experience from reviewing the Landmark Forum last weekend. choosing is selecting an alternative based on freedom.com/heresy That’s okay. behind each decision. Choosing from on Nothing. or you can even go against all existing reasons. based on Nothing. that is. that is why the result of such questioning is inevitably a judgment based on the perspective of existing reasons. The magic of choosing is that you don’t need a reason. That is why decisions are susceptible to questioning. life is full of reasons. we choose simply because we choose to.
com/heresy . And.. The most important thing is to experience the power of choosing. as Ruben Blades say: when we decide. Hail Mary!" 128 http://herejia. "someone loses. because we are at liberty to do so. someone wins.. because our choices are the reflection of our intimacy with our own heart.typepad.don’t have to be understood.
Saudade Language is the way we bring existence to our lives. describing the meaning. They had discovered in language a door to let out their pain. That is why I think it is magical to discover words that exist in one language and not another. creating feelings that an entire community can or cannot experience.LXXI. they realized that the word sadness did not exist in their language and they created it. without thinking that it is a bad thing that it or he/she is no http://herejia. Even deeper yet. Saudade describes that feeling of emptiness without sadness or without making that someone or the situation wrong. The lives of the widows and children were still covered by an invisible veil of sorrow that would not go away. they could mourn and carry on with their lives without that invisible veil that no one seemed to understand. However. had been the victim of absolute poverty. AIDS. After inquiring. This village. for a reason we know they will not come back. the mourning. More than half of the village was infected and several researchers noticed how mourning never ended in this population in particular.com/heresy 129 . hunger. and here is the heresy for today. Saudade refers to something we would have wanted in our lives and we think will never come. of course. displacement and. In the language spoken there. It is the feeling of desire for something or someone you had but is no longer there. war. the magnitude of the feelings associated with sadness and then. The story of a tiny village in central Africa comes to mind. a feeling that was now possible. but it is even deeper and has a connotation of loss.typepad. Today I learned a new word in Portuguese from a friend. Saudade. the true grief of each of the inhabitants began. by experiencing sadness. like many others in Africa. the word sadness did not exist. It is a word that comes close to a feeling similar to longing.
that we no longer have that job. Saudade is a clean expression of love that understands even the perfection of the absence of our loved one. for what we do not have. That is to say. I will continue to experience this new feeling of Saudade that my friend Joseph brought into my life through language. 130 http://herejia. or does not exist. without thinking that it is bad for a person to have died.longer there. how can I miss what I am bringing into my life? This heresy is an invitation to discover the magical meaning of Saudade: experience based on emptiness infinite appreciation for what we are not. Saudade goes away or ceases to exist when we approach that certain something or someone or we fill the emptiness with their presence. That is to say. Therefore. and that in turn teaches us that we cannot miss what is in our heart. experiencing the emptiness from the perfection of emptiness itself.com/heresy .typepad. understanding that everything is perfect and feeling the emptiness based on love. because we have already brought it into our lives. or to be far away. without associating any judgment with the situation.
My heresy is a simple invitation to search in our hearts and understand the path that gives meaning to our life. After listening to him with all my heart and instead of the answer or opinion he was looking for. I thanked Life for the opportunity to be around such wonderful people. My heresy is an invitation to ask ourselves the question Pablo asked with all honesty: what does Pablo want? What do I want? Let’s give ourselves the chance to explore. I understood that Pablo was willing to live for himself. So today I received an e-mail from Pablo. Pablo now knows what Pablo wants. without reasons. It was as if I had given him a map with directions on where exactly to dig to find the treasure. Through his mail and his words.com/heresy 131 . to put ourselves in contact with our own heart to understand. After some soul searching.typepad. steep. What does Pablo want? I had coffee a couple of weeks ago with Pablo. I embraced his essence. our own truth. Through his words. what does Pablo want? His face lit up! He didn’t know the answer. but which was the right way to go? Pablo wanted to find the answer in me. regardless of how curved. I gave him all my love and just one question: Pablo. but he knew right away that was the question. Pablo found his own answer. to really question. Pablo was going through one of those moments in life where you feel like you are at a crossroad that force you to make a choice. No matter how difficult or how crazy we want it to be. I understood that his soul was alive after finding his dream. or uneven it may be. the truth that is worth giving your life for! http://herejia.LXXII. a former student of mine who became a friend and stayed in my heart. He was willing to make his ideal come true. his treasure. Perhaps he was trying to find a light in my opinion in order to understand.
Mini-heresy: let love guide your destiny and get the strength you need from it to deal with the obstacles imposed by reason.com/heresy . which allows me to launch my heresies into the Universe from my iPhone. Heresies from the road Today I am going to start a new type of heresy: Heresies from the road or “mini-blogs” thanks to technology.LXXIII.typepad. 132 http://herejia.
Heresies from the road 2.com/heresy 133 .0 People are who they are and the way they are because of who we are and the way we are when we interact with them. LXXIV. http://herejia.typepad.
in 134 http://herejia. the closing and the losses. deal with the losses and move on. which we naïvely attribute to our great abilities.com/heresy . I am talking about situations with my companies and my personal life as well. at the time. That was a little book I read a few years back. I knew one of my companies was at a dead end and the right thing was to disconnect it. working a little harder. worst yet. success are just another sign of our good fortune. on many occasions. That is a lesson to the ego.LXXV. in my heart. but I did not do so because I thought if I kept on going a little further. I think Professor Michael Roberto. and the hole I made will be a lot harder to get out of. The question is what went wrong. The problem with our mistakes is the meaning we give them: we immediately interpret that there is something wrong with us. victory would be right around the corner. giving a little more. But my heresy today goes beyond that. The art of knowing when to disconnect Making mistakes is simply a part of life and. PhD has the answer when he says that human beings succumb to “effect of sunken costs”. and I even referenced in Heresy. The only difference is that they are 300% higher today than they were at the time. I am speaking from experience and pain. Today. years later. that we have failed or. I have to deal with the disconnection anyway. something that went wrong. that “we are” a failure. and I also remember how. It does not say anything about who we are. While I move forward and deal with mistakes I have made that lead me to painful situations. with who we are. I remember “The Dip” a great deal. I knew it was time to disconnect. from my own road to learning. I think of the many times in which.typepad. That is the first distinction today: a mistake is a simple event.
At any time. we should feel the certainty of making the right decision with a view to explore futures that will compensate our investments and our life beyond expectation. time and life in a company or a relationship that is not going to give us what we expect.com/heresy 135 . and yet others of financial stability. The heresy? Disconnecting. but maybe the greatest gain in the learning processes that take place due to our mistakes. After all. Closing down to give up and sail with better weather is not a loss. isn’t that the main objective of failing? http://herejia. during a stressful situation. closing and shutting down is not losing. in others of our own happiness. we make decisions based on the weight of what we have invested rather than on the benefit we will receive if we stop sinking deeper into our investment until we make it an irreparable loss: in many cases of life. effort.typepad. we not only have the right. and rather than feeling the failure in this disconnection.which. but the obligation to ourselves to analyze whether we are going to continue investing our money.
feeling that depth and marvel at life for its magic. I will be light today and I will learn from that lightness. experiences. But there are also times to find happiness in lightness. To be light For some reason. which now seems absolutely delightful to me. Lately. do not make me a better person. events. in the end. releasing attachments and the capacity to fly. My heresy today is that there really is no better. at times. that we are already there.LXXVI. 136 http://herejia. in the freedom of feeling that you don’t have to have “more". contrary to our race in life to accumulate things. in the contemplation of a minimum. I have learned to value lightness from the perspective of freedom. My heresy today is the fact that I have discovered that my path to the depth I have yearned for is precisely based on the freedom generated by my own lightness. with no judgment at all. this concept of lightness makes me think of minimizing needs. the same lightness that Kundera called "unbearable". I have associated the concept of “light” with superficiality. Somehow. and blessed are those souls...com/heresy . My entire life. ranging from being able to “be” with another soul in the intimacy of their soul. I have thought and valued the weight of depth to the point that. it has been just that: a weight or burden. There are moments that are so deep that they touch our soul. to stop and breathe and enjoy and simply "be".typepad. Simply enjoying the lightness of being. I will bring more lightness to my life and I will let go of the attachments that. with no judgment of superficiality. because the common paradigm is: “more is better”. in a simple life. Blessed are those moments.
0 The Universe makes everything available to us. we cheat ourselves when we do not take from it everything that belongs to us. http://herejia.com/heresy 137 . Heresies from the road 3.typepad. LXXVII.
getting out little by little until we can eventually look back. that place where all you feel is mud. see the flame that was burning us and give thanks to the Universe for the love that was our strength and influence. the place where you feel the mud makes you slip every time you try to take a step to get out of it. hell doesn’t feel so bad. My heresy? Love is the power that gets us out of the mud. More than work. I’d rather call it “into the flame with love” now. That is the love that enables us to take one step after the other. 138 http://herejia. That is to say. It is a reflection on what it means to be “in a lower place" accompanied by love. Ken plays with us and we create indescribable miracles in each conversation. Self respect is the light that guides us safely to our destination. taking one day at a time. it is a game we play where we discover and learn. the love we get from outside also nourishes our selfrespect and makes it grow. out of that lower place. where “going to hell with God” hand in hand with love. Today.typepad. one of those creations was based on the topic of “going to hell with God”. the light of the Universe that we carry in our heart. selfrespect is God’s light.LXXVIII.com/heresy . Into the flame with love I have continued working with my friend Joseph. from the top of your head to the tips of your toes. Now.
They exist because of us and for us. happy. going through wild violet and sticky pink. Well. we have the "distinction" of perfection associated with "distinctions" and descriptions such as: good. sad. We have to look back with eyes of gratitude for each smile and each tear. Each event. we have to be there for the perfection of our own present and be there for the perfection of each event. abundant. heavenly. We therefore have to change those conditioning glasses and allow our view to fill up with colors. blessed. perfection is all that and much. Every step of the way. mistake. In order to look to the future with the new lens. My heresy today is an invitation to contemplate perfection in each event in our lives and the magical Universe we are a part of.com/heresy 139 .LXXIX. Even if we do not understand the reasons that seem difficult to understand because of our conditioning to believe that perfection is only part of what is "positive ". difficult. much more. the colors of perfection. for each http://herejia. person and circumstance from our past. it is the perfect step we needed for our growth. My heresy today intends to build on that distinction of perfection and even make it of adjectives that are not necessarily “good ones”. from coal black to angel white. whether it is a leap toward greatness or a stumble onto the ground. which include all of them. bad. person. Everything is perfect We are conditioned and trained to feel and understand that perfection is a synonym of happiness. such as pain. That is to say.typepad. wonderful. smile and tear exists because of the perfection that surrounds our lives. excellent. all of them. absolutely all the colors in our life are perfect and they all bring us opportunities to expand our soul and rise to the Nirvana that seems so far away when we see and open up to imperfection. situation.
absolutely everything was perfect. from the bottom of our being that everything. if we are not open to it.leap and each stumble. what good is it if we do not understand it. After all. everything is simply perfect and everything will always be perfect. and we have to really feel. 140 http://herejia. with or without our understanding it. with or without our approval.typepad. and we are not there for perfection in our lives.com/heresy .
typepad.com/heresy 141 . Heresies from the road 4.LXXX.0 Pain makes me present to happiness. http://herejia.
the invitation is to face up to these sevenheaded monsters that only exist in our imagination and to realize nothing is as bad as we had imagined it to be! 142 http://herejia. nothing is as bad as we think it’s going to be. because they will make us grow. I remember them with a smile and I feel that without doubt the next time I will not be as lazy or fearful or face as many obstacles in order to act. As Patry. or simply alternatives that by popular myth cause fright just to consider.LXXXI. All these experiences that we avoid are linked to these feelings precisely because we have a lot to learn from them. because they will leave us stronger.typepad. then. It's not so bad It amazes me to realize that each time I face up to situations that I had avoided because I imagined them to be horrible. things I avoided believing they were complicated or were going to complicate my life. Today. and although they elude me. my beloved teacher. they will liberate us. And so today my heresy is: it’s not so bad. every time that I come up against one of these situations and amazingly survive them. calls I didn’t want to make. always told me: “get it over with” I try and keep her image and words in mind. they are never as bad or as horrible as I had imagined them to be.com/heresy . or at the least. once I “launch myself” to simply do them or live them.
com/heresy 143 .typepad. http://herejia.LXXXII.0 Path and time are relative to your soul and to the soul that you share your destiny with. Heresies from the road 5.
“if we are found to be worthy of such. a drop of water is the most inoffensive thing that can exist. even when your paths are hard and difficult to follow. flowing in order to take from the power of the Universe itself. Flowing is today’s heresy.” So I present to you Gibran so that he can explain to us what his words mean and so that he can talk to us about love and its unlimited flowing. logic fails or doesn’t even apply. even though its voice can destroy your dreams as the North Wind can wipe out your gardens.com/heresy . And when its wings sweep you up and into it. it can also be punishment. rather flowing so that destiny chooses us. because it will make you 144 http://herejia. follow it.typepad. and upon observing the reigning silence. and the heart is tangled up in a mess of feelings. uncontainable and unstoppable and without doubt as weightless and light. give yourself over to it. replied in a thundering voice: When love arrives to you. Flowing When the answers elude you or seem evasive. but when water stops flowing. believe in it.LXXXIII. “An so Alimtra said to him: “Talk to us about Love. the heresy is to simply flow and let flow. flowing in order to try and not direct our destiny. she will search for her path and will always find her way to her destiny.” And he raised his head and patiently contemplated the town. even though the sword that it hides under its wings can hurt you. Because even when love can be redress. And when it speaks to you. The Taoist principle of flowing proceeds from the immense power of water. as Gibran says.
but will then subdue you afterwards. Nothing gives love but that which is love itself. It will toss you around you and pull you to pieces. However many husks of corns as you gather with it. even although it may ascend with you to the highest of heights and caress your most intimate fibers. Love will do all these things with you so that you may learn the secrets of the heart. you must not say. 'God is in my heart. and with this knowledge transform you into a fragment of Life's heart. and you will cry.com/heresy 145 .typepad. not does it want to be possessed. It will grind you down until you turn white. Love does not possess anything.' rather. When you love. But if you are taken prisoner by fear. but never shedding all of your tears. because love is enough in order to love. these that shudder under the touch of the sun. You will enter in a world without seasons where you can laugh. you will find only love's peace and the pleasure of the same. but where your smile will never be whole. it will whip you until you feel your impotence. 'I am in God's heart.believe. Then it will be better that you cover up your nakedness and you escape from the agitation of love. It will knead you until you are flexible. And so it will also descend to your roots and shake them no matter how firmly planted they be in the earth.' And if you http://herejia. And later it will destine you to sacred fire to transform you into blessed bread for God's sacred festival. nor will you ever obtain anything that isn't given from itself.
and to later give yourself over to sleep with a prayer for the beloved heart of yours and a hymn of praise on our lips. if it considers you to be worthy of such. But if you love and you feel the welling up of desires. to rest at mid-day and contemplate the ecstasy of love.don't then believe that you are able to channel the course of love. to learn of the pain of excessive tenderness. then love. Love's only wish is that of fulfilling itself. to return with gratitude at the hour of afternoon's arrival." 146 http://herejia. to be hurt by your own knowledge of love and to bleed voluntarily and delightedly. to wake at sunrise with the heart in ecstasy and to give thanks for another day of love. will be who directs your course. permit that these desires be your own.com/heresy .typepad. that they flow and be the murmuring brook that intones its song at night.
So with this privilege comes the responsibility of love and the responsibility to be loved. of loving those that I love. as if Life owed it to us. The privilege of loving I love the definition: privilege. that I can be who I really am when I am with her. but love and loving are privileges that someone has granted to us. With this song by Mijares and Lucero. http://herejia." we are responsible for taking care of this privilege. all an absolute privilege. as if it were free. we are responsible for sculpting our soul every day to be worthy of love. My heresy is gratitude to Life for the privilege of loving so many magnificent human beings that have given me access to their soul. the permission to enter to its soul. Today the invitation is to explore all the relations in our life where we have been given the privilege of loving and to evaluate if we are being responsible for this love. and of the love of those that love me just as she does: unconditionally. as the fox says to the Little Prince: "we are responsible for that which we have tamed. my heresy today is recognition that with the privilege of loving comes responsibility for the loved being and for this love. the light that illuminates the path to the heart. told me in a few words that she loves me unconditionally.typepad. that I don't have to try and be anything. for being deserving of the biggest right that we grant to another person and that another person grants to us. of loving her. We take love as if it were any old thing. With this song. if we are appreciating all that it means when someone lets us love them.com/heresy 147 . my aunt Rosalba. she opened a new space in my heart for her heart and by her words and her love I understood the magnitude of the privilege of loving. and that above all I never have to regret being who I am. one of the people closest to my heart.LXXXIV.
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http://herejia.LXXXVI. each situation is absolutely perfect and favorable.typepad. Heresies from the road 7.com/heresy 149 . because it would seem that it is.0 Even if we aren't able to understand that everything is perfect.
or criticized by another's opinion. only as such can I then begin to construct a world of real communication. judged.LXXXVII. all that seems to be a response to my acts. though meanwhile we are just autistic beings in the universe. simply: they're not responding to me. I criticize them simply manifesting something about myself that perhaps bothers me or makes me uncomfortable. and is really an "opinion" based in that which each person carries with them." What am I responding to? Rather. it's to say. Our perspective is filled with our stories. I judge them. when I listen.com/heresy . I can't help but feel that we are a universe of autistic beings. points of views. we go about thinking that we are communicating with others when in truth we are only responding to our own fears and insecurities and destroying communication with each act of "generosity with our opinions. and I really try to understand what other beings of light carry inside of their souls. Consider that nobody responds to anybody else and we are all simply responding to how the world occurs from our perspective. 150 http://herejia. isn't really. and it’s a good place for beginning to look at ourselves in the mirror and for beginning to analyze "why am I responding like this?" and "what is there inside me that bothers me?" And when we look at it from this perspective. It's also to say that my heresy runs in both directions: nor am I responding to them. They're not responding to me I still hear in my head the insouciant tapping of the singsong: "they’re not responding to me.typepad. prejudices. Each time that I give my opinion about someone." a tip-tape that I heard in one of my Landmark Education courses and that certainly has been of great help each time we return to this space where we feel bad.
S. They're not responding to me! http://herejia. The long absence of Heresy is due precisely to the fact that I thought that "they were responding to me" and it took me almost twenty days to get out of my own autism and to recover communication with you all.com/heresy 151 .Remember then: "they’re not responding to me.typepad." P.
paralyzed because perhaps we might fail. Creating opportunities to fail It seems like madness: creating opportunities to fail? Without doubt. because even what we define as failure is such a great teaching that we emerge strengthened and we will be able to create something even bigger. which doesn't pose risk. which means to say avoiding occasions for failure we are also avoiding occasions for success.. So starting today. Someone who hasn't failed enough hasn't lived enough! 152 http://herejia. But this 'perhaps' is just that: a possibility.com/heresy .. isn't this absolutely incredible? We let ourselves get held up by a ghost that doesn't even exist.. and so we lose all the opportunities for greatness that life offers to us. that we should avoid it at all costs. look to create opportunities to fail in your life. this is the big heresy: hardly if ever do we fail. Thus we get used to what we know. and as such there is never really ever failure. which doesn't scare us..LXXXVIII. they teach us that failure is horrible. that it is a sinister and painful experience.typepad. The other possibility is for success. And what happens if we fail? Well. We train ourselves at all of our lives to avoid the possibility of failing and what we end up doing is watching life pass from the stands. the opportunities for success in our lives. We live avoiding failure. this is today's heresy.
nobody was or stopped being as such. as great as we ‘create’ them.com/heresy 153 . prosperity. Creating greatness It all began with a conversation I had with my best friend. As I write this. all the power to create the opposite? It occurs to me then that we live a big part of our lives creating our own problems and obstacles and it occurs to be that the most absurd happiness is only as distant as our own choice of creating it. we have the ability to stop 'creating' them great or to simply not create them great and instantaneously we have chosen non-love that sometimes can be indifference.' in our way of creating them. it was ourselves.LXXXIX. This heresy then implies that nobody is great or stops being so. and in this context he spoke to me about the power for making great whoever I want to and his words stuck with me until after a couple of months of reflections. people simply are who they are. Nobody changed. wellbeing.typepad. of creating greatness in all those that surround us and thus create love in our lives. happiness. in our way of 'listening to them. choose to let them be created great and then love is the instantaneous consequence of our act of creation. but also love. We talked about love and indifference. I have been able to understand the true heresy: people are as great as we 'listen' them to be. this crazy guy that I’ve adored through all the lives I’ve lived and who knows the feelings I have in my heart before I can even figure them out myself. what if everything that we believe to be is simply a story created by us? What if everything we believe to be real simply isn't? What happens then if we have all the power to not only create greatness. http://herejia. I can't stop thinking about "The Matrix". the entire time. alone. In the same way. and of course. we.
I have this.. that's to say. I did this. Once this consciousness exists what is left is to simply free ourselves from the search for reasons to be happy. it's an invitation to create happiness for no reason whatsoever.. I am happy because I am happy. I am happy because I choose to be. well. that for absurd reasons of the Ego. simply there is no reason. but it's the unlimited power that we all carry within us. the heresy is that we don't need any reason to be happy. I accomplished this. How do I achieve this? The first step is being conscious that happiness is a personal choice which there need not be reasons for. we can be happy at any moment because we choose to be happy. creating happiness is our unlimited power. simply: I am happy because I am happy. because this is our feeling. But what happens when we simply declare: "I am happy" and when asked why. it's as easy as looking for reasons to breathe: I breathe because I breathe. 154 http://herejia.com/heresy ." consequently the question then is: "why?" and we immediately begin to search for the reason: this happened to me. I am happy because I choose to be. because we are entities of light that produce happiness. Creating happiness Continuing in line with the last heresy. Today's heresy is a call to seem crazy. happiness is a state to which we all have access because it lives inside of us. After all.typepad. anything. Logic doesn't work the same way: when I say to someone "I am happy. everything is a heresy. we limit ourselves in creating. it sounds a bit crazy.XC. perhaps thinking that life is difficult or that we don't deserve all that is within our reach...
and each person is right: the truth is in the eye of the beholder. of course we are always right! We consider ourselves to be owners of the truth. it's the relationship. as if our "version of the truth" were the truth itself.XCI. but very much lacking love in many cases. and we could know all of its slightest revelations. it's the other person. we are. We wind up being right but without happiness. and at the end of the day. and with damaged relationships and dead relationships because of so many clashes stemming from reason. always. You are always right.com/heresy 155 ." Each from their own perspective closes themselves off from others. and if our goal in life is to be happy. it's oneself. Very probably we are also creating a situation in which he or she is pigeonholed in "their" logic and in "their truth." that for them would be "logic/the truth. and I repeat. full of their logic and truths. it isn't worth it because you have to pay to get to that point and feel like the winner and owner of "the truth. always. And an immediate question is: "and what's so bad about that?" Nothing. Today. Then our Ego comes to play in the equation: we always want to be right. We act like owners of truth and reason. my heresy is that it isn't worth it to be right. from one's own point of view.typepad. in this line of thinking. but it does carry with it a related cost: the relationship. which isn't any way to "convince" anybody and each goes on in their own way. Reason is a chameleon-like glue that adapts to whoever uses it: from the perspective of each person. there's nothing wrong about being right. each person has their own opinion. is love." we are necessarily judging the other and doing so mistakenly. Whenever we face someone else thinking." when what we lose. The cost of being right I am always right. as if we were the size of the entire Universe itself. what is at play. well then we lose http://herejia. "I am right.
I have chosen to be completely "irrational. It isn't worth it. I have simply chosen to believe that I do not possess and will never possess absolute truth.com/heresy . I don't even ask myself. and so lose ourselves. And so I have begun to practice "non-reason" in my life." without reason. reason is also a heresy! 156 http://herejia.sight of the goal. and after all. I will chose love and happiness over any reason.typepad. If I am right or not. I have lived long enough with reason in my life! After all. and while I live.
while others simply don't do anything at all." this itching is perhaps a sign that we haven't stretched it enough. some clean everything.. And you begin to search for reasons. others go for a walk.com/heresy 157 . they turn the house inside out and they organize it again. maybe gets worse. others sleep. and of course you find them. That is.XCII. recover authenticity. heal communication: there is something that we know we don't want to do but it's exactly what we need to do so that this itching becomes greatness." we will do exactly that which we had avoided doing: reestablish integrity. and eventually the soul stops scratching. it simply scratches because we are alive. When our soul itches There are days when the soul itches.. and then we try and find out how to scratch the soul and here each person has their own method: some go shopping. The strange thing is that even after finding all the reasons. for http://herejia.typepad. until the next time. the heart will always bring us to the precise moment in which the rubber band is not stretched out enough. Today. it's an "I don't know what" sensation that rises from the stomach and compresses air which then gets stuck up in the nose in almost solid chunks of breath that won't seem to get out no matter what. secondly because there are simply always reasons for which the soul itches. then the antidote is precisely that: stretch it! And how do we do this? Well let's go back to step one. before "scratching the soul. Now. the itching continues. We forgive ourselves for being human. others go for a spin in the car. and this itching is simply the manifestation of the fact that we have lived things that have invited us to "stretch the rubber band. And what can we do when it's already too late to do something? Well there is an antidote for this as well: forgiveness. my heresy is that when the soul itches. firstly because the heart is always able to find them.
158 http://herejia.com/heresy . to reestablish integrity with ourselves and with our Universe.not having stretched the rubber band as much as we could have. giving thanks for one more second. giving thanks for a new opportunity. When the soul itches. with the memory that the soul itches when we are unstretched.typepad. one more day of love in our hearts. for having remained short on some occasions. and to look to the future with eyes filled with hope. We forgive ourselves and we continue onwards. And like this we complete the past. to be thankful for opportunities for growth. it is inviting us to recognize what we have lived.
The black hole of doubt The answer to all of life's questions hides behind a question named doubt.com/heresy 159 . dreams. Today the heresy is that the answer to all our questions lies in the fundamental question that comes about from the doubt: "would it be possible that. we have already lost the ability to accomplish our goal.XCIII.. Where there is room for doubt. http://herejia. we have already contaminated our being with the seed of evil that eats away at relations.?" The moment in which we begin to doubt if we'll be successful. from us.typepad. that absorbs our dreams and our ability to make them reality. at this moment we are expelled from Eden. Doubt is a black hole that sucks up all of our energy. and that's why today there isn't another heresy. never again. or begin to doubt a friend. that which separates us from animals.. there's no room for life. In the infinitesimal moment in which we harbor even the slightest doubt in our hearts.. all the power. and by this use of reason that we call doubt. that takes away power. we also separate ourselves from the infinite power that was bestowed upon us for achieving everything that we want in our lives. today the only heresy is that there is no room for doubt. at this moment the cord of light that magic creates is broken. and lives. at this moment we are using reason to its fullest extent.. or our partner.
and as Alejandro Sanz says. what's left is our own power. pushes. to be the happiness that gives all and can receive all and understand that only in love can one look God into the eyes. and we let ourselves be completely taken by it.XCIV.com/heresy . 160 http://herejia. which once completely connected with our essence becomes pure love. without limits. only then will we be able to live by God... without care. how to describe the magnitude of the wave that drags. and the source is nothing other than our own heart. rises. The strength of the heart After leaving aside all doubt and distancing ourselves from the black hole. And always with love give thanks to Life because we are sources of life. which makes all intentions become reality. deliver ourselves to its power. without reserve. and thank the beloved heart /our loved ones for the daily dance of giving and receiving love. thank our hearts for being the seed of the madness of love. This heresy is an invitation to follow our heart. This heresy is rendered weak when it comes up against a heart swollen with love. this is the true power of the heart. brings you closer to God? How to describe this feeling that is the source of all creation? How to be able to explain a heresy of such power? Today my heresy is that only when we completely hand ourselves over to the power of our heart and let this be the force that possesses us will we be able to understand the source of life. only then we will be able to feel that a Supreme Being exists that can do anything and feel that we can do anything when we connect ourselves with the source. My heresy is that we are One with God when we love. to live love from its most infinite and beautiful essence without holding anything back. and raises up. to be this magic that transforms everything. hand ourselves over to love. when we hand ourselves over without limit to this love.typepad.
because your love connects me with my own heart.com/heresy 161 . http://herejia.That's why today. in this heresy. I love you. I want to thank you because with you I live looking at God in the eyes every day.typepad.
Homilies and new liturgy. each in their own way. the newest lines of car. There are tombs with diamonds.typepad. The miracle of resurrection Today is Easter Sunday. how much courage we really have in choosing our lives. the grease that accumulates on us with the stiffening of the days and simply take the step that carries us from the tomb to a new life. The symbol of the resurrection is there to remind us that at any moment that we choose we can be reborn. The heresy is that we don't have be named Jesus to be able to resurrect: if we so choose. Today from this heretic's window I also am going to celebrate the miracle of resurrection with another one of my heresies: we are the ones that have the power to create the miracle of resurrection and we don't have to wait for anything or anyone that does us the transformation that we want to see take place in our lives. white clothing and colored eggs. in a moment of miracle. our shroud. how comfortable our tomb where we are buried is. the white clothing and the colored eggs. and then resurrect. a day in which half of the world celebrates the resurrection. more than the new liturgy. 162 http://herejia. there are tombs with monotony disguised in peace and equilibrium. invent the life that we want. there are tombs where one dies buried alive but has the illusion of continuing to live. create any intent and live it. the call is to check out how alive we are. the layers. shed our skin. So today. just like that. and that's why they are dangerous: because life goes from us while trapped in an illusion. we are the owners of resurrection. air conditioning.com/heresy . from their own point of view. the white candles. the water. The danger is that there are very pleasant and comfortable tombs.XCV.
chicken. not only mentioning it in a chapter in his book "Giving" but also in various public appearances such as the CNN special "The Poverty Trap.XCVI. care for it." The heresy is that it only takes one butterfly to transform the world.without killing the animal. Heifer International is such a well put together organization that it has received the help of Bill Clinton. bees. a principle that Bill Clinton named "passing the gift on" in his book "Giving" which testifies to this heresy: only through small acts are big transformations achieved. The fundamental principle is that we don't need to be millionaires to relieve the hunger and poverty of the world. Heifer finds a family and gives it an animal (goat. Today's heresy is an invitation to be butterflies in this small way that becomes big and unstoppable. the true transformation of our Universe begins with us.typepad. It’s a service easily rendered because we make it easy for others to lend a hand as well and we also enable the gift of giving.) and training to feed it. cow. etc. a non-profit organization that serves as a vehicle between us butterflies and families overwhelmed by poverty. The goat and the butterfly This heresy will be a continuation of "The Butterfly Effect. Once this family establishes a model for sustainable development on their small ranch. the invitation is to begin to flap our wings. with small acts that are easily reproduced. http://herejia. it passes one of its young to another family taking part in the program: it is a chain of giving that never stops. The mechanism is very simple: through a donation as small as ten dollars. which will create a "chain of giving" whose ramifications we will know little of and will return to us in good Karma and with positive energy. sheep. I present to you Heifer International.com/heresy 163 . and feed themselves from its products ." an invitation to transform the world by way of simple acts with profound impacts.
is to clean. restore integrity. you don't have any reason to apologize to me" I was being noble with this person that opened their soul in front of me. Since then I have had the opportunity to feel from a first-person perspective the immense gift of forgiveness when after profound reflection in which I have recognized my insincerities.XCVII. because it isn't just love. Forgiving is having the greatness and generosity to speak with each other about the acts of the other person that caused pain and then choosing to strengthen the relationship.typepad. and to create a space where creation can occur again. and received it. Today I want to invite you to be an instrument of love by way of forgiveness and to be deep and generous when recognizing our own inauthenticities. My heresy is that forgiveness is the biggest gift that I can offer. its the sowing of new life. its proven love. Today's heresy is that only the person who is truly grand and generous forgives as an act of love and as a commitment to the present and future of the relation. asked for forgiveness. I felt that if I simply said to them "don't worry. it is renewed love.com/heresy . While your heart is closed to forgiveness. there really is no path to greatness. its love that creates and re-creates. Today I want to give thanks for forgiveness and I want to commit myself to actively using it. I approached the person. I want to leave any vestiges of pain behind and be someone that generously sows love. opening spaces for hugs in each act of reconciliation. it's bruised love. The generosity of forgiveness All my life I thought that it was an act of humility to feel that I didn't have to forgive someone that offered me their apologies. it’s the permanent eraser of life. 164 http://herejia. leaving behind whatever vestige of feeling that is not love. The moment of forgiveness is simply magic.
changing reality. The only way of getting rid of problems. reality changes only if we change it ourselves. reality doesn't go away or change by avoiding it.. and get stronger with the experience.com/heresy 165 . The ostrich head that we don’t see if we stick it in a hole is attached to a body which is one hundred times bigger. who are we fooling? The heresy today is that as much as we want to hide the truth and even try and hide from ourselves. There isn't any hiding place that is big enough. The ostrich effect This week a friend caused me to reflect on the "ostrich effect": there are moments in life when we feel like we need to stick our heads in a hole in the ground and let happen what will happen. The ostrich looks pretty with its tiny head hidden in the hole. but it's even more beautiful when it raises its head up with its chin and beak held high! What do we have to face up today then? http://herejia. I imagine the ostrich as seen from the outside with its tiny head in the darkness and the rest of its body here in reality. and the body isn't going anywhere the head isn't.. the body always follows the head.. face up to what we need to face up to.XCVIII. restore integrity in our lives.. I think about the ostrich and I smile to myself because I know about one thousand moments in which I have stuck my head in a hole and have pretended that by doing so everything would happen as it should and that my problems would solve themselves on their own. and being able to get on as cool as a cucumber is if we get our head out of the hole.typepad.
but is the evidence at hand. those that stay. The right ones Today I have learned a very important truth: those who truly "are. they are sure of who we are. So these situations in which the shadow of doubt swirls about our head are excellent because our friends have to choose: choose if they believe in us based upon what they know about us and who they know us to be or choose if they believe in what seems to be. and even when you seem to be guilty is the person that is the right one. The heresy is beautiful: the person that chooses to stay at your side without asking for explanations. and are simply at our sides through any type of trial and tribulation. The "right ones" are there even when they don't understand or even when it seems that we are the guilty ones and the ones that have messed things up. without asking them to be. and when they choose we find out if they were really friends or not. of our essence.XCIX. without passing judgment. What a great gift in life to be able to identify them! 166 http://herejia.com/heresy . and even when all evidence points to our guilt.typepad." are at our side regardless of the reason. even though it sounds unbelievable. are the right ones.
problems. When you turn 100 This is the first centennial of heresies and to celebrate it we are publishing the Heresy book. which will be available on Amazon and other online bookstores and whose royalties will be donated in their entirety to the social works that Heresy supports (see "Causes for beating your wings" at the left margin of this blog). it's only the seed of what continues to be and we can't stop to gloat over our own story because right there. we celebrate it because thanks to the generosity of you all. The heresy today is that even when all the rites are so important. in this egotistical-narcisistic act we lose everything that we had gained. it's important to enjoy the small things in life and it's also important to remember that nothing about this means anything at all. celebrate. We celebrate it because Heresy is already read in more than twenty-two countries and in four months has been read more than five thousand times. I celebrate it with my heart full of thanks to all my friends that read it every day. So with this centennial of heresies we will celebrate with hugs and smiles.com/heresy 167 . smile and hug.typepad. It's important to value. to those that write comments. that in the grand plan of the Universe any greatness is just cosmic dust for the continued creation of greatness. nothing means anything. to those that I don't know but with whom I have connected myself through this space and to those whom I am still to meet. and breakdowns in communication are always created from the meaning that we assign to each detail. even when everything is so important and meaningful. to those that inspire more. raise a cup. and so Heresy becomes a butterfly that beats its wings to multiply good Karma.C. Heresy is a http://herejia. stop. Pain. so we will continue creating energy until it transforms the universe.
with each reflection. with each word and each hug that arises from these heresies.com/heresy . with each act of love. and this is nothing more than a heresy.source of transformation. Equally we recognize that the first one hundred are only the first one hundred and facing ourselves we have a life in which to continue being heretics and continue transforming the world.typepad. nothing means anything. Moreover we recognize that at the end of the day. I give you all a big hug for all these first hundred heresies!!! 168 http://herejia.
a leading company in the medical tourism industry. marketing. Ana Maria is the President at Ecologium. There she trained managers of Fortune 500 companies in three different continents. Rio Grande Investment Partners. and The Strategy Learning Center. LLC. a private investment fund with interest ownership in technology companies. She worked as a consultant for McKinsey & Company where she provided guidance in strategic. LLC (an investment and consulting firm). Ana Maria has been Academic Program Vicepresident at the Board of Directors of the Harvard Business Club of South Florida and Chair of the Board of Directors at Rio Grande Investment Partners. Novus. Her research work has been published in the Harvard Business Review and Dinero magazines. a leading company in strategic training for executives. Ana Maria holds a bachelor of science degree in Industrial Engineering from Pontificia Universidad Javeriana and an MBA degree from the Harvard Business School and is a candidate to a Masters in Sustainability and Environmental Management from Harvard University. a strategic and environmental consulting firm. LLC. She has served at top management positions at prestigious companies in different industries in the United States and Latin America.com/heresy 169 . Since 2003 she has been an international professor at Pontificia Universidad Javeriana where she teaches leadership skills to MBA students and courses on Marketing Strategy and Branding Strategy in the Marketing Specialization program. Fl.typepad. Ana Maria is now living in Miami. She has also served at top management positions at companies that she cofounded such as: Strategium.Ana Maria Rivera Ana Maria is an entrepreneur who has more than 15 years experience as a manager and a consultant. and organizational issues to leading companies in a wide range of industries. http://herejia.
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