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Introduction

Have you ever lied to someone? If you answered “no”, either you’re a saint or a compulsive liar. Everyone lies sometime in their life- whether it’s to protect people’s feelings (“no, your butt doesn’t look big in those jeans”) or to protect ourselves (“I did not have sexual relations with that woman”)

Lies are so widespread in our society that most people can’t tell when they’re being lied to. If you are not sure if someone’s telling you the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth, then continue reading and learn the same secrets thousands of others have used and benefited from in order to spot a liar.

In an ideal society, there would be no need for lies, unfortunately we live in a world of deception, and whether you want to play or not, you’re in the game. The question is, do you want to win?

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What this book will teach you

By using these techniques you will learn in this booklet, you will essentially become a human lie detector. You will be able to detect deceit and gather information in casual conversations.

You will also learn advanced techniques for reading a person’s eye movements in order to determine if they are lying to you. This technique works on the principle that when a person thinks, he accesses different parts of his brain depending on the information that is being accessed.

This process can be observed by watching the eyes and observing which direction they move in. You will learn how to use this technique in any conversation to determine if the person is creating (making up) or recalling (remembering) information.

By simply watching his eyes, you will know whether he’s remembering an event that has already happened or making up a story about something that has never occurred.

Unless you are a mind reader or married to Pinocchio then you are going to need to learn some tricks in order to be able to tell when someone is lying to you. In this booklet you are going to learn different techniques which you can begin using immediately in order to help you catch anyone in a lie with amazing accuracy.

Unfortunately, there is no foolproof way to spot a liar; even lie detectors aren’t 100% accurate. Humans are subtle creatures, when we lie we don’t always do it in an obvious way.

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Ever wonder if a person is telling you a lie? There are clues which can tell you whether a person is being less than truthful to you and there are methods you can use to get at the truth or manipulate the situation in your favor.

The bottom line here is that everyone lies and no one is exempt. Psychologists agree that lying to protect oneself is the most common sort of lie-instinct to survival.

Below, you will find 17 easy techniques you can begin using immediately to help you discover if you are being lied to:

8 Magic Ways To Spot a Liar:

1. No eye contact. His eyes will look away. If the room has a mean of egress or escape, that’s where they’ll look. 2. Crossing of arms and/or legs (a protective instinct). 3. The pupils of the eyes will narrow. Lying is stressful. 4. Hands on the face, especially the mouth. They are “covering” the lie. 5. Talking fast. A liar wants to get it over with. 6. Sometimes the head will nod a “no” when answering a “yes” question or visa versa.. This is a subconscious movement. 7. Mispronouncing the words or mumbling. A liar kinda thinks he is not lying when he pronounces words incorrectly or mumbles. 8. Overstated friendliness/laughing. He wants you to believe and he wants you to like him so you will believe him.

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1. Sit in the higher chair. A subtle form of intimidation. 2. Uncross your legs and open your arms and lean back. Make yourself “open” to the truth. 3. Ask for specific details. This is always a challenge for the liar. 4. Don’t ever tell them what you DO know and don’t point out you know what they are saying is a lie. This is your own ego trip. 5. Invade their personal space. Get close, they’ll get uncomfortable. 6. Mimic their posture and movements…be subtle. This establishes a rapport and they’ll never figure out why. 7. Speak in their style and listen to how they think. If the person says things like “I HEAR ya!” or “that SOUNDS good”, you’ll know he thinks auditorily or with his ears. If he says “I shoulda SEEN it coming” or “I SEE what you mean”, you’ll know he is visually oriented. If he says something like “it HIT me like a ton of bricks” or “I just FROZE in my tracks”, you’ll know he thinks by feelings. Speak to him the same way. A good test is to ask someone to recite the alphabet. Some people will stare as if they are looking at the alphabet above the blackboard in grade school(visual), some people will sing the alphabet (auditory) and some people will tap out the letters (feeling). If you match their thinking method, you’ll have instant rapport. 8. Give ‘em an “out”. You gotta make it easy for them to tell you the truth. Pretend you didn’t hear them correctly the first time or tell them you didn’t understand what they said. Always leave a way out so they can recant their words and tell the truth without losing face. 9. Stay calm. Never show surprise or shock. Treat everything they say with the same importance. The first time you react negatively, you will lose any chance of being told the truth.
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Body Language

Did you know that words are only 7% of your communication with others? Tonality is 38% of your communication. In case you didn’t know exactly what tonality is, say something to yourself out loud. Now, say the same thing with excitement…now drama. That’s the tone of your voice that is changing each time. It’s your voice inflection, your tonality.

Can you guess what the other 55% of our communication is? That’s right, your physiology or your BODY LANGUAGE. Words can lie, but the body can’t therefore liars are very careful with their choice of words.

They are aware that any slip of the tongue can easily blow their cover. Good signs to look for are long pauses or frequent pauses in speech. This means that the liar is not sure where he’s going with the story or maybe he can’t follow through with his lie.

When liars are hesitant at the start of a sentence, especially when responding to a question, it means that he hasn’t worked out the story yet, or he didn’t anticipate that question.

The reason body language is such a good indicator to use to spot a liar is because liars can get so caught up with their verbal message and trying to sound truthful, that they forget about non-verbal cues.

Our faces display all kinds of emotions. Liars are especially prone to the tensing of muscles around the mouth and cheek area. The mouth narrows and a lot of the time liars bite their lip.

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A split second frown or look of disbelief can quickly be replaced by a fake smile to cover up any sign that a lie is being told. A wrinkled forehead, clasped hands (they’re probably praying that you believe them) or raised brows are common among liars.

Shrugs can be translated as helplessness. The liar can’t really think of anything else to say except maybe “I don’t know.” Shrugs are usually used when the liar is caught without a good explanation or is at a loss for words.

When a liar covers his eyes or doesn’t make eye contact with you, he’s trying to hide his emotions (or hide the guilt). Scratching of the arms, fake coughs, swallowing, red cheeks, the twisting of rings, or fidgeting around are all signs of discomfort.

If you’ve ever told a lie you know how uncomfortable you feel when you are lying about something while trying to make it reality.

Another thing to pay attention to is someone’s voice. When someone is upset or in fear, their pitch gets higher and they speak faster than usual. Liars like to change the subject (which is what they’re lying about) quickly. They don’t like to talk about what they’re lying about for too long because there’s a higher risk of getting caught.

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More Body Language Clues

There are some gestures and mannerisms to look out for in order to catch a liar, so long as they differ from the person’s regular actions. For example, if a person always rubs their nose, even when telling the truth, then it is obvious you can’t use this as a clue to tell if they are lying. • • • • • • • • • • • • •

rapid eye movement or rapid blinking crossed arms constant fidgeting eyes focused to the right(indicates use of the creative side of the brain) eyes focused firmly on an object rubbing eyes eyes either wide open or partly shut legs crossed when seated legs not planted firmly on the ground when seated holding an object or gripping an ankle, knee, or skin of a crossed leg when seated touching face, such as lips, cheeks, chin, nose, etc. playing with hair tugging ear

Although we’ve always been taught that lack of eye contact is a dead giveaway of a liar, it’s not necessarily hard evidence that someone is lying to you.

This is because ever since we were little, most kids were taught that you should always look another person in the eyes.

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Research has shown that in a single day, most people lie a minimum of 25 times. It’s very hard to tell when someone is lying because sometime the clues we may use to determine if someone is lying to us, like facial and body language, could merely be signs of anxiety or nervousness that have nothing to do with lying.

Below you will find some additional clues that you can use to aid you in determining if someone is lying to you:

Look for discrepancies between speech and facial or body movements. A liar’s pupils may dilate. This happens because when we’re under stress (e.g. telling a lie), adrenaline is released causing the pupils to dilate. But be careful…because enlarged pupils can also indicate attraction! When someone is lying, you will notice they smile less or when they do smile, it appears fake and not genuine. Too little eye contact as well as too much eye contact are both fishy. Keep an eye out for speech hesitations, whether it’s pausing, using “ums”, throat clearing or other familiar stalling techniques. Liars tend to mispronounce more words, mumble, and take longer pauses between a question and a response than honest people. This happens because the liar is not sure where they are going with the lie or maybe is having trouble following through with it.

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When a person does a lot of swallowing, there’s a good chance you are not hearing the truth. Studies have shown that a liar is often drawn to touch his/her nose. When people lie, nasal tissue becomes engorged with blood and expands slightly.

Note: Signs may change from one individual liar to the next, so sometimes they can be misinterpreted. But if a person is showing more than one of these signs, chances are you have spotted a liar. (cheating boyfriends beware!)

Eye believe you may be lying to me

Did you know that the way in which we move our eyes when communicating, either with ourselves or others, can give away huge clues? It can even betray whether or not we are lying.

The direction in which our eyes look can convey which area of our brain we are accessing, whether it be, for example, recalling genuine memories, constructing scenarios or remembering sounds.

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Constructed Images: The eyes look up to the top right-hand corner (top left if you are observing someone else) when constructing visual images. If you ask someone a question about an event that happened and their eyes move in this direction, it could be a sign that they are lying because they are visually constructing, rather than remembering, a particular scenario.

Remembered Images: The eyes look up to the top left-hand corner (top right if you are observing someone else) when accessing visual memories. When questioning someone about an incident, if their eyes move in this direction, they are probably telling the truth because they are recalling actual memories.

Constructed Sounds: The eyes look horizontally to the right (or horizontally to the left if you are observing someone else) when you are constructing new sounds. If, for example, someone asks you what a set of bagpipes would sound like under water, your eyes would move in this direction, if this was a sound that you had never actually heard before.

This is the direction in which your eyes would move if you were asked to recall a conversation with someone and you were constructing it (i.e. lying), rather than recalling a true account.

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Remembered Sounds: The eyes look horizontally to the left (or horizontally to the right if you are observing someone else) when you are recalling sounds from memory. If you were asked to recall what a piano sounds like, this is the direction in which your eyes would move because it is a sound that you have actually heard before.

Likewise, if you were asked to recall a conversation, your eyes would move in the same direction if you were to give an accurate account of a discussion that had actually taken place.

Internal Dialogue: The eyes look downwards to the left (or downwards to the right if you are observing someone else) when you are listening to your internal voice (sometimes known as “that little voice inside your head”). You would look in this direction if you were, for example, asked a hypothetical question such as, “What would you do if…”

Feelings: The eyes look downwards to the right (or downwards to the left if you are observing someone else) when you are accessing the “feelings” sector of your brain. If someone, for example, asks you how you feel about a particular person or issue, this is the direction in which your eyes would move. This sector includes emotions and all “feeling” sensations such as pain, pleasure, taste, temperature, etc.

The best way for you to put your knowledge into practice is by asking a friend specific-questions and then noting which direction their eyes move. You probably don’t want to start practicing this on your spouse or partner, if every time you ask them a question you have to keep referring to the chart. You might begin to make them a little suspicious.

Keep in mind that most right-handed people move their eyes in the directions shown in the diagram above while some left-handed people may move their eyes in the opposite directions to the chart above.
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How To Lie Persuasively

Ok, so you now are armed with the knowledge to help you stop a liar dead in their tracks, but I felt this booklet wouldn’t be complete without teaching you the fine art of being able to lie persuasively. Before I divulge any secrets, I’m going to go out on a limb and assume that you will only be using this knowledge for good and not evil. With that said, here we go…

STEP ONE:

Avoid lying to people who know your “baseline” behavior

It is incredibly difficult to know if someone is lying unless you have prior exposure to his or her baseline behavior. So what exactly is baseline behavior? It is how you act when you’re not lying. You know, the way you normally act, the way you talk and behave when you’re having a casual conversation in which no attempt at deception is taking place.

The greater the number of interactions that the target of the lie (we’ll use a “he” in this example) has had with you, the more familiar he will be with your baseline behavior. Because he knows how you usually act, he’ll press you on the veracity of your statements, and be more likely to ultimately figure out that you lied.

In other words, if you normally look away from someone during normal conversation and all of the sudden are looking at them, well then you are just begging to get caught or raise suspicion.

Remember, it doesn’t matter what someone does when (s)he lies, it only matters if such behavior is different from how he or she normally acts.
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It’s easier to lie to people you don’t care about

There is another important justification for having as little contact with the target as possible: it is easier to lie to people who you don’t give a damn about. To understand why, consider this: many studies have shown that it is relatively easy to lie to someone over the phone because the sense of personal connection is very small. You can’t see them and they can’t see you.

As a result, you are less likely to feel guilty and, therefore, give visual clues that you may be deviating from your baseline behavior. If you were closer to the person physically, you would have a greater personal connection.

Consequently, you would be more likely to “leak” or reveal in some way that you are engaging in deceptive behavior.

The same reasoning applies to being close to a person psychologically. Think about it. If you try to lie to your mate or spouse, there are numerous psychological pressures (you’ll think about what happens if I get caught, feel guilty about lying to someone you care about, etc.), and it will be more difficult to focus on mimicking your baseline behavior.

Trust me; you’ll probably leak all over the place and give away clues that you are being less than truthful. This phenomenon is often called “liar’s remorse,” and it’s usually what people are talking about when they say a liar “wanted to get caught.”

So how does knowing this aid your ability to lie well?

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------------------------------A Liar’s Secrets Revealed-----------------------------The answer is this: if you’re going to lie, try to lie to someone who doesn’t know you very well. They will be less familiar with your baseline behavior, and you will be less likely to care about them.

In the event that you need to lie to a close friend, family member, or other loved one, try this trick: lie to someone who doesn’t know you as well, and have them pass the message along. If that’s not possible, you must truly master everything you learn from here on in.

STEP TWO:

Practice makes perfect

Actors are better at lying convincingly than non-actors. This is because actors have more experience improvising. For the same reason, practicing your lie will make it more effective. If you have already practiced your story, then when it comes time to lie, you don’t have to worry about what you’re going to say. Instead, you can dedicate more brainpower to maintaining your baseline behavior instead of to thinking up an excuse.

Just think of the proverbial used car salesman. He uses the same canned pitch on every buyer. (e.g., he’s losing money on the deal; he has to talk to his boss; he might get fired for giving a car away so cheap, etc.) He’s practiced so much that he could tell his story in his sleep.

Practice also allows us to distance ourselves psychologically from our lies. We let our brain go on autopilot, and we actually forget that we’re telling a lie. Purposely lying is VERY tough on the brain. Anything that makes the brain’s job less stressful causes less mental anguish, and practice will give your brain less to worry about.
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Lastly, practice gives one confidence, and confidence is a good indicator whether someone is telling the truth. If a person suddenly seems less confident in what they are saying (possibly because they are trying to skirt around the truth), you tend to get suspicious.

STEP THREE:

Use details when telling your story

Studies have supported the claim that the more details a story has, the more likely someone is going to believe it. Why?, because details are not easy to make up on the spur of the moment while still maintaining your baseline behavior. Usually, if you have to worry about making up details, you’ll forget to maintain your baseline behavior.

For the most part, people are usually suspicious of stories light on details. And because we’re all used to hearing lies without details, it’s one of the prime clues we use to figure out if someone is telling the truth or not. So what’s the answer? Say it with me: use details!

I understand the counter-argument: if you don’t give details, then you’re committing yourself to less concrete information and you won’t get caught in your lie.

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Ah, but imagine the following scenario: a woman asks her boyfriend where he’s been for the past four hours. Which answer do you believe? A) Out. With friends. B) I went with David and Robert to see the 7:00 show of The Terminator

The instinctive answer is to believe choice B. It’s less evasive. So if you want to be a good liar, you should use details to make your story credible. Especially throwaway details that aren’t necessarily relevant.

Think of the way you tell a normal story. You weave little details in that don’t necessarily relate, but are interesting. In the same vein, a good lie will use details, some necessary and some not, to make the story appear natural and complete.

Of course, to avoid getting caught in your detailed lie, you must be mindful of four things.

First, your details must be rehearsed and memorized ahead of time (see step two).

Second , you must keep your details in your active memory for a reasonable period after the lie. (Thus, telling your mate the next day, “I cannot wait to see The Terminator. I heard that it was great!”, is not the smartest thing you could do.)

Third, you should include many unverifiable details (“I was pissed off because the popcorn at the theatre was stale”).

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------------------------------A Liar’s Secrets Revealed-----------------------------Finally, insofar as the details you provided are falsifiable, you must make sure the people who could potentially expose you (i.e. David and Robert) are aware of the lie and will back you up.

Nothing would be more harmful to you than finding out that one of them called while you were in the shower and for some odd reason had no recollection of ever seeing the movie.

STEP FOUR:

Believe your lie

The human brain is an absolutely amazing organ, capable of incredible amounts of rationalization. If you can somehow convince yourself that you are telling the truth, then as far as your psyche is concerned, you’re not a liar. As a result, there will be no deviation from your baseline behavior, no leaking, no liar’s remorse, and no little clues. Because you think you are telling the truth, you will appear as if you are telling the truth.

“Huh?” you say. I have two responses: (1) stop saying “huh?” while we’re talking, and (2) an example will make all things clear. Let’s say that a prospective employer asks you if you ever smoked marijuana, and for the sake of argument, you smoked pot yesterday. How can you lie persuasively?

What if you told yourself this: “The purpose of pot is to get high. You can only get high if you inhale. So, someone only really ‘smokes’ pot when they inhale. I did not inhale.

Therefore, I am comfortable saying that I did not ‘smoke pot’” When that potential employer asks if you ever “smoked” marijuana, you could with complete ease answer “no,” because you truly believe that you did not. You’re free (and still eligible to be President of our great country!)
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Let’s examine another example from the master liar himself: Bill Clinton’s statement that he “did not have sexual relations with that woman.” According to his testimony, “sexual relations” require a pleasuring by both parties, and since Monica did all the pleasuring, he was comfortable in claiming that he did not have sexual relations with her.

The bottom line is that if you can somehow convince yourself that you’re telling the truth, then all of the psychological and physiological indicia of lying disappear, and you are home free.

To recap: remember what you’ve learned: 1. Have as little contact with the target as possible. If it’s a random person on the phone taking a survey, you would have no problem lying. If the same person was at your doorstep, it would be a little tougher to lie, but you’d probably be able to do it (unless it was a Girl Scout).

If it were your brother at the door, everything would change. You care what your brother thinks; your brother knows your baseline behavior well, and it would be tough for you to tell your story with a straight face without feeling a little bad.

If a policeman were at your door, you also might have trouble lying. True, he doesn’t know your baseline behavior, but you sure do care what he thinks. Because there would be tremendous pressure on your psyche to play it cool, it would be difficult to focus on maintaining your baseline behavior.

2. Practice. When Officer Fife is standing in front of you, analyzing you for nervous behavior, your well practiced story of how you don’t smoke marijuana because it’s against your religion is safely stored in your brain. Now when it’s time to talk, you’ll feel confident, comfortable, and less prone to wild sweating.
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3. Use details. When the mad cop is standing in front of you, asking if you smoke marijuana. Your answer is not, “No. It’s against my religion.” Your answer instead is “No. I’m a member of the Twelfth Day Adventists, and it is strictly forbidden by our God to ingest any plantbased smoke. Would you like to attend a prayer meeting tomorrow at 4:00am?” Okay, this is a little ridiculous, but you get the idea.

And there you have it! You now know all the tricks necessary to be a great liar. Now go out there and become the best darn lawyer you can.

Well now you know how to lie persuasively. What better way to wrap up this section of the booklet than to discuss the facets of exactly how a lie detector works and find out if it’s actually possible to beat one.

First of all, the polygraph test was invented by William Moulton Marston, who was strangely enough, also the creator of the “Wonder Woman” comic strip(under the name Charles Moulton). The standard polygraph records only three distinct vital signs. A blood-pressure cuff on the upper arm measures changes in the blood pressure. Wires attached to the fingers measures changes in electrical resistance of the skin due to sweating. Rubber straps around the torso measure the breathing rate. This information is displayed as four squiggles on a moving strip of graph paper.

Whether or not you believe a polygraph provides useful information, there is a good chance you’ll be asked to take a polygraph test. The vast majority of liedetector tests are administered for employee screening. At best, all the polygraph can indicate is a heightened emotional reaction to a question. It cannot specify what kind of an emotional reaction. Polygraphists try to design question formats so guilt-induced nervousness will be the only emotion invoked and so the subject’s reaction to relevant questions can be compared to other, “control” questions.

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------------------------------A Liar’s Secrets Revealed-----------------------------The type of test mostly used in employee screenings is labeled “The RelevantControl Test” and is the most common type of examination. The interrogation consists only of irrelevant and relevant questions. The first question you are asked and a few others are irrelevant.

The relevant questions usually test workplace honesty: “Have you ever taken home office supplies for personal use?” “Have you ever clocked in for someone else?”

The premise is that no one will lie about everything. So if a few of the relevant questions produce heightened responses, they are presumed to be the questions on which the subject is lying.

So the million dollar question then is exactly how do people beat a lie detector? To the extent that the polygraph works at all, it works because people believe it does. Many criminals confess during polygraph examinations. Many employees are more honest for fear of periodic screenings. Just by having read this far, you stand a greater chance of beating a polygraph test. You won’t be wowed by any of the tricks of the tester and realize that the polygraph’s powers are limited.

There are two additional tricks for beating the polygraph. The more obvious is to learn how to repress physiologic responses to stressful questions. Some people are good at this one; others are not. Most people can get better by practicing with a polygraph. Of course, this training requires an actual polygraph, and polygraphs are expensive.

The opposite approach is to pick out the control questions in the pretest discussion and exaggerate reactions to these questions during the test. When the control-questions responses are greater than the relevant-question responses, the polygraphist must acquit the subject.

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------------------------------A Liar’s Secrets Revealed-----------------------------Because breathing is one of the parameters measured, taking a deep breath and holding it will record as an abnormal response. Flexing the arm muscles under the cuff distorts the blood-pressure reading. But a suspicious polygraphist may spot either ruse. A more subtle method is to hide a tack in one’s shoe. Stepping on the tack during the control questions produces stress reactions with no outward signs of fidgeting. Biting the tongue forcefully also works. (OUCH!)

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR LOVER IS CHEATING

I wanted to throw this in as a bonus for the readers. I know…I know…the very idea that your lover might be cheating on you is enough to strike terror in your heart. At some point in time almost everybody in a relationship has wondered what their significant other was doing when they are not around.

It’s hard to watch the news or read the paper without coming across some mention of infidelity, either by an elected official or some famous personality. What’s really surprising is that 70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men didn’t even know that their spouses were being unfaithful. Seventeen percent of divorces in America are caused by infidelity. These statistics are in spite of the fact that 90 percent of Americans believe adultery is morally wrong!

Fortunately, there are ways you can tell if your significant other may be cheating on you.

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------------------------------A Liar’s Secrets Revealed-----------------------------Below I’ve included 75 Signs Of A Cheating Spouse or Mate:

1) Your intuition or gut feeling that something is not right is usually your best signal that your mate may be cheating on you. 2) Your mate won’t answer the cell phone or pager when you’re around. 3) They use a public telephone frequently. 4) You begin receiving lots of phone calls that are wrong numbers. 5) Your mate is more attentive to your needs than usual and buys you lots of gifts.

6) Your mate’s taste in music suddenly changes. 7) Your mate picks fights with you and criticizes you. 8) Your mate is easily offended at comments you make. 9) Your mate stops saying “I love you” and stops being affectionate. 10) The car passenger seat is in a different position.

11) You find strange jewelry or clothing in car. 12) Your mate may make unexplained ATM withdrawals. 13) They won’t let you see the credit card bill. 14) Comes home smelling better than when he or she left the house. 15) Will begin to be “working late” when they seldom have in the past.

16) Your mate begins talking about the uncertainty of the future a lot. 17) They may not look you in the eye. 18) They make up excuses for not spending time together. 19) May act unusually guilty whenever you do something nice for them. 20) May start asking if your love is still alive in the relationship.

21) Begins taking a stronger interest in his or her appearance. 22) Becomes obsessed with losing or gaining weight. 23) They may join a health club, begin body building, sun-tanning, etc. 24) Will begin to keep company with a certain person or group of individuals unknown by you. 25) Will often lose sexual interest in you.
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------------------------------A Liar’s Secrets Revealed-----------------------------26) Will become offended and sometimes ask if you are checking up on them. 27) Out of guilt, they may actually accuse you of having an affair. 28) May get a post office box and not allow you to have a key. 29) Will arrive home smelling like cologne or perfume other than their own. 30) Will begin to consume drugs and/or alcohol.

31) Will lose interest in his or her home life and children. 32) Will charge up all credit accounts in preparation of ending the relationship. 33) Will become cold and inconsiderate of your feelings. 34) Will buy a new wardrobe or begin wearing a new cologne/perfume. 35) May find reasons to get away from family gatherings on holidays, etc., to wish holiday greetings to a lover.

36) May begin to take showers as soon as they return home from work or going out., when they never used to do that. 37) Names of strange places will appear on credit card bills. 38) Will do the laundry when they never used to, or at a time they normally wouldn’t in order to hide signs of smoke, lipstick, body fluids, etc. 39) Lingerie is missing from the drawers or found in the dirty clothes. 40) You may begin to receive hang up telephone calls.

41) You may notice the mileage on the car is not adding up to what it should. 42) You may find a different brand of cigarettes in the car’s ashtray, and many times with lipstick on them. 43) When a female is having an affair, she tends to have more of a “glow” about her. 44) They tend to find fault with you in order to justify the affair in their mind. 45) Cheaters may have a change in sex life (i.e. more sex, less sex)

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------------------------------A Liar’s Secrets Revealed-----------------------------46) They may make sudden and unexplained sexual requests. 47) Their spending habits or behaviors may change suddenly. 48) You may find lipstick on their collar. 49) Unexplained receipts, addresses, phone numbers, or condoms left in the car. 50) Your mate may begin whispering when talking on the telephone.

51) You find that every time you enter the room, they are quick to hang up the phone. 52) Your mate spends an excessive amount of time in the on-line chat rooms. 53) They have unaccounted time away from home. 54) The toilet bowl seat is up,(men) and when you left home it was down. 55) You discover the recent opening of another checking account.

56) Hairs of a different color are found on their clothes. 57) Cigarette smoke on their clothing that cannot be explained. 58) An increase in toll and/or long distance calls. 59) Florist or jewelry bills (and you haven’t received either) 60) New hair style.

61) Sudden and unexplained change in clothing style. 62) The buying of sexy underwear or lingerie. 63) There is an unexplained aloofness or indifference in the relationship. 64) She stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you. 65) He or she stops wearing their wedding ring.

66) He carries condoms and you are on the pill. 67) May insist on the child seat, toys, etc. be kept out of the car. 68) You find unexplained scratches or bruises on his neck or back. 69) He or she shows a sudden interest in a different type of music. 70) Your spouse’s co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.

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------------------------------A Liar’s Secrets Revealed-----------------------------71) Begins to delete all incoming calls from the caller ID. 72) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house. 73) When he comes home late, he ignores your sexual advances. 74) Income tax returns revealing unexplained travel expenses. 75) Your wife tells you she’s visiting a friend who’s sick.

A word of caution; These are not definite signs that your mate or spouse may be cheating on you…only clues. The only true way to know for sure is to catch them in the act.

Conclusion

The secrets and techniques you have learned in this book are not science and certainly are not written in stone. They are more of a guide or manual for you to use in order to give you a winning edge in your dealings with other people.

Only by studying the individual with whom you are interacting and noting everything from the terminology they use, to their body language and eye accessing cues, can you really obtain an accurate picture. However, you will find that as you pay more attention to the signals that other people send out, you will soon become aware of the meaning of these signals, enabling you to read and react accordingly. With a little practice, you will notice a dramatic improvement in your ability to successfully manipulate your communication with other people.

The information contained in this booklet was compiled to be used for informational and entertainment purposes only. So be sure to use your new knowledge for good and not for evil ☺

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