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Lessons from my 20s

LIFE
Part I:
Lessons from my 20s

GOALs
PART I, Section 1
THE IMPORTANCE OF GOALS
VERY FEW PEOPLE
ACTUALLY WRITE DOWN

THEIR GOALS
THE IMPORTANCE OF GOALS
FEWER STILL
PRINT THEM OUT &

FRAME THEM
THE IMPORTANCE OF GOALS
In my experience
Those who write down
& FRAME THEIR GOALS

ARE THE MOST EFFECTIVE
HUMAN BEINGS AT CREATING
A BETTER WORLD

THE IMPORTANCE OF GOALS
WHEN YOU WRITE a goal DOWN your
subconcious BRAIN BEGINS TO MORE actively
think about bringing into your life

THE PEOPLE, RESOURCES & KNOWLEDGE
YOU NEED TO ACHIEVE your GOALS
THE IMPORTANCE OF GOALS
WHEN YOU know what youre up to
In the world your mind can naturally
Filter opportunities to find those that

Match your goals
I STARTED WRITING DOWN MY GOALS AT 16
I STARTED WRITING DOWN MY GOALS
AT AGE 16 in the year 2000
AFTER MY MOM GAVE ME THE BOOK
THINK AND GROW RICH




I STARTED WRITING DOWN MY GOALS AT 16
THE FIRST EVER GOAL
I wrote down at age 16 was

BUILD A COMPANY TO $1M IN SALES BY 21





I MISSED MY FIRST BIG GOAL
I MISSED THIS GOAL
By 18 days





I TURNED 21 on August 14, 2005
iContact reached $1M in sales on
September 1, 2005
I STARTED WRITING DOWN MY GOALS AT 16
I wouldnt have even come close
To achieving this goal had I not
Written it down





WRITTEN GOALS ARE INDEED POWERFUL
FOR FOCUSING THE MIND
REFLECTING ON GOALS
Ive been AMAZED AT WHAT IVE BEEN
ABLE TO SEE, and EXPERIENCE and
HOW LIFE HAS BEEN ENRICHED SINCE
I BEGAN WRITING DOWN GOALS
AND THEN PURSUING




THE HECK OUT OF THEM
REFLECTING ON GOALS
HERE ARE JUST A FEW
OF THE THINGS in life
Ive been able to achieve
In my twenties due to
writing down my goals




And then pursuing them
Age Goal Achieved
21 GREW icontact to $1M in sales
23 Raised $5M in venture capital Series A round for iContact
25 Raised $40M in venture capital Series B for icontact
26 icontact reached 300 employees and $50M in annual sales
Joined united nations foundation Global entrepreneur council
Got to Meetworld leaders like ban ki moon, kofi annan, bill clinton, barack obama
27 Sold icontact for $170M to a public company
Started impact investing firm Connect VENTURES
Visited kenya, Uganda, rwanda, egypt, ghana, Invested in off-grid electric in tanzania
Got into harvard business school
28 Invested in spacex, change.org, lendingclub in Silicon Valley
Completed year one of HBS MBA in boston
Started Connect in san francisco
29 FINISHED Losing 50 pounds (205 ! 155)
Started meditating daily
Connect passed 1 million users
Whats happened in my 20s due to writing my down GOALS
Building icontact
Leading an amazing executive team
JOINING THE UN FOUNDATION GLOBAL ENTREPRENEUR COUNCIL
Co-chairing Tech for obama in 2012
ATTENDING HARVARD BUSINESS SCHOOL
ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE
NEARLY ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE
THAT YOU SET YOUR MIND TO
AND WORK HARD AT




FOR 10 years
An EXAMPLE
AS AN ExAMPLE HERE ARE




MY current GOALS
1 Year goals
GET CONNECT TO 2M MONTHLY ACTIVE USERS
RAISE SERIES A FOR CONNECT
GROW HIVE FROM 80 TO 300 GLOBAL MEMBERS
PUBLISH EVERYTHING IVE LEARNED BY 30
MEDITATE OVER 300 TIMES (6X/WEEK)
VISIT ARGENTINA & ENGLAND
10 Year goals by 2025
100m people use connect to stay connected
built hive into a global community of people working to
create a better world with 10 Profitable locations
traveled to over 50 countries exploring perpsectives on
Human potential and spirituality
Published a book on creating a better Life, Company, & world
Built a relationship with an amazing life partner
Become an extraordinary father


LIFETIME GOALS
Live a joyous, happy, and fully alive life
Be an extraordinary partner and father
Create a profitable hive in 1000 cities
BUILD a global community of extraordinary people
working on creating a better world
Never limit your dreams
My friends.

Do not limit your dreams.
A quote
Dream no small dreams
for they have no power to
move the hearts of men.

- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, German writer
Write down your goals
Here is a 12 step process
YOU Can use FOR WRITING DOWN





YOUR GOALs
Writing down your goals
You can do this 30 minute exercise
right Now Or put a time on your
calendar to





Come back to it
GOALS
EXERCISE
GOAL SETTING PROCESS
OPEN UP GOOGLE DOCS
CREATE HEADINGS For 1 YRs, 10 YRs, AND LIFETIME
THEN WRITE DOWN 5 TO 7 GOALS IN EACH CATEGORY


MAKE EVERYTHING FIT ON ONE PAGE
MAKE SURE ALL GOALS ARE MEASURABLE SO YOULL KNOW IF YOU GOT THERE OR NOT
1
2
3
PRINT OUT TWO COPIES
SIGN THEM
FRAME THEM

4
5
6
GOAL SETTING PROCESS
PUT ONE FRAME IN YOUR BEDRO0M
PUT ONE FRAME AT WORK
SHARE YOUR ONE-PAGER WITH A CLOSE FRIEND

7
8
9
GOAL SETTING PROCESS
10
11
12
DEC 26-31 CALCULATE RESULTS
GREEN = MADE IT
YELLOW = 50%+ there
RED = <50% there
UPDATE GOAL SHEET FOR THE NEXT YEAR
& REPRINT/RESIGN/PUT IN FRAME
GOAL SETTING PROCESS
MAKING YOUR GOALS AMBITIOUS ENOUGH

OF YOUR GOALS

IF HIGHER, THEN
YOUR GOALS ARE NOT
AMBITIOUS ENOUGh

66%
YOU SHOULD BE HITTING AROUND
GOALS
Reflection
GOALS REFLECTION
WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME
YOU WROTE DOWN YOUR
GOALS?

CAN YOU FIND THEM?
GOALS REFLECTION
DO YOU THINK THE GOALS YOU SET
ARE USUALLY TOO AMBITIOUS?
OR NOT AMBITIOUS ENOUGH?
GOALS REFLECTION
WHAT IS THE MOST
AMBITIOUS GOAL
YouVE EVER SET?

DID you achieve it?
Why or why not?
Lessons from my 20s

PURPOSE
PART I, Section 2
A quote
When you grow up you tend to get told the
world is the way it is and your life is just to
live your life inside the world. Try not to
bash into the walls too much. Try to have a
nice family, have fun, save a little money

That's a very limited life. Life can be much
broader once you discover one simple fact

Everything around you that you call life was
made up by people that were no smarter
than you and you can change it, you can
inuence it. Once you learn that, you'll never
be the same again.


- Steve Jobs
How to FIND YOUR PURPOSE
MOST PEOPLE NEVER create THEIR

LIFE PURPOSE
Instead they get sucked into the
Dreaded vortex of passionless mediocrity
(Dont let this happen to you)
AVOIDING THE VORTEX OF MEDIOCRITY
CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
THERE ARE TWO TYPES OF PEOPLE

1. THOSE WHO LIVE WITH PURPOSE
2. THOSE WHO DO NOT
creating YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
THOSE WHO TAKE THE TIME TO CREATE
THEIR LIFE PURPOSE OFTEN ARE ABLE To
LIVE WITH EXTRAORDINARY ENERGY
AND MOTIVATION & OVERCOME CHALLENGES
Most could not dream of

A QUOTE
- HOWARD THURMAN
Dont ask what the world needs.
Ask what makes you come alive.
Because what the world needs is
People who have come alive.



LIFE HAS NO MEANING
UNLESS YOU CREATE THE MEANING

FOR YOURSELF
LIFE HAS NO MEANING UNLESS
CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
SO lets talk about Your

LIFE PURPOSE
DISCOVERING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
IF YOU CAN GO THROUGH A PROCESS
TO CREATE YOUR PURPOSE
THEN YOU CAN ADD GREAT MEANING
AND MOTIVATIOn TO YOUR LIFE
Your purpose is not

Something you HAVE
Your purpose is
Something you CREATE
Creating YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
Once you have a clear purpose
and goals for your life you can direct
your life rather than letting outside
factors determine your direction
TO0 MANY PEOPLE ARE WAITING to
FIND THEIR PURPOSE
WHEN IN FACT purpose is something
you CREATE
DISCOVERING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
Standing strong with a clear purpose
You will be able to much more easily
withstand criticism and challenges
when you are internally clear on your
Specific purpose on this planet
LIVING A PURPOSe-DRIVEN LIFE
THE COMMON DENOMINATOR AMONG EVERY
SINGLE HIGHLY DRIVEN AND SUCCESSFUL
PERSON I HAVE EVER MET, REGARDLESS OF FIELD,
IS THAT THEY HAVE COMMITED THEIR GOALS TO
WRITING AND CREATED FOR THEMSELVES A



PURPOSE-DRIVEN LIFE
Your LIFE IS YOUR MESSAGE
YOUR LIFE IS YOUR
MESSAGE TO THE WORLD
MAKE SURE IT IS
INSPIRING
Living a Purpose-driven life
Living a purpose-driven
Life is important to me
Heres what Ive created
As My purpose
MY life purpose
Help CREATe An ABUNDANT, SUSTAINABle, and joyOUS WORLD FOR ALL PEOPLE
All people can live
peaceful, mindful, and
joyous lives
All people can live on a
sustainable planet with
clean energy
All people have access to
the six basic human needs
1 2 3
Creating a Purpose-driven life
Everything I do is
Driven by this
Sense of purpose
MY LIFE PURPOSE
someday
ALL PEOPLE will
HAVE ACCESS TO the
SIX BASIC HUMAN NEEDS of
Food, water, shelter, medicine
Education and electricity
MY LIFE PURPOSE
Someday we will
LIVE IN A
SUSTAINABLE WORLD
POWERED BY RENEWABLE ENERGY
MY LIFE PURPOSE
Someday all
PEOPLE will be able
To LIVE PEACEFUl, MINDFUl
AND JOYOUS LIVES
your LIFE PURPOSE
The exercise on the following
Slides can help you
Create & refine
Your life purpose
your LIFE PURPOSE
You can do this 90 minute
Exercise right now or put a time
On your calendar to do it
Creating your
LIFE PURPOSE
How to FIND YOUR PURPOSE
EXERCISE: CREATE YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
LIFE PURPOSE EXERCISE Instructions:

1. Print out this section so you can write in it with pen
2. Use a timer to give yourself exactly 4 mins per question
3. Write out the answers in the ovals
4. At the end, youll bring it all together in a final one-page
worksheet that you can frame if you choose
5. This exercise should take 90 minutes to complete
What do you really love doing?
When am I most in ow/in the zone? What excites me? What makes me come alive and be joyous?
4 min

What does THE WORLD need?
What does humanity and the world need to thrive? List as many things as you can think of.
4 min

HOW CAN I CREATE WHAT THE WORLD NEEDS WHILE DOING WHAT I LOVE?
What are all the things you could do in life that would serve humanity in a big way
and allow you to do what you love? Brainstorm below.
4 min

WHAT ARE MY PERSONAL FINANCIAL GOALS?
What do you want your annual income to be in 10 years? In 20?
What do you want to have saved up in investments and savings by age 65?
4 min

HOW CAN I GET PAID TO DO WHAT I LOVE?
What could you do in life that would serve humanity in a big way, allow you to do what you love, and create economic
value that allows you to reach and surpass your personal nancial goals?
4 min

DESCRIBE HOW THE WORLD WILL BE DIFFERENT IN 2050 because of you
Close your eyes for 5 minutes and imagine all the little details of how our world will be different in 2050 because of you.
Then write what you see.
4 min

WHAT IS THE CHANGE YOU ARE COMMITED TO?
What is so compelling to you that you might be willing to dedicate your life to making it happen?
In other words, what might be your life purpose. Use the space to brainstorm.
4 min

WHAT IS THE CHANGE YOU ARE COMMITED TO?
See if you answer the above question as simply as possible so that a 10 year old would understand it.
Try to do it in fewer than 15 words (no pressure, this is just a draft). This could be considered your life purpose.
4 min

POSSIBLE METRICS OF SUCCESS
What are some metrics to track whether your life purpose is being realized in the world over the next 35 years? Make these metrics
specic and quantitative so it will be clear when youve achieved the impact you want to make in your life.
Examples: Global infant mortality < 1%; Global energy from renewables >95%; Carbon dioxide under 350
PPM; Homelessness in Oakland, CA down by 80%
4 min

HOW MIGHT YOU MAKE THIS HAPPEN?
What can you create/build/do during your life to help make this world that you dream of real? Its okay
if you arent completely sure yet. Brainstorm ideas.
4 min

LIFETIME GOALS
Brainstorm some goals for the rest of your life that align with the impact you want to make. Think about areas of life like
health, travel, experiences, adventures, work, nances, relationships, and impact.
4 min

10 YEAR GOALS
Brainstorm some goals for the next ten years that align with the impact you want to make. Think about areas of life like
health, travel, experiences, adventures, work, nances, relationships, and impact.
4 min

ONE YEAR GOALS
Brainstorm some goals for the next year that align with the impact you want to make. Think about areas of life like health,
travel, experiences, adventures, work, nances, relationships, and impact.
4 min

90 DAY Action plan
What are the very rst action steps you can take over the next 90 days to start realizing your vision? Who should
you reach out to? What should you look into? What habits do want to start and stop?
4 min

YOUR DESIRED WAY OF BEING
Examples: Joyous, mindful, alive, focused, driven, ambitious, kind, compassionate, loving

As you go about your journey in life, how do you want to be inside and come across to others?
What words do you want to dene you?
4 min

HOW OTHERS WILL REMEMBER YOU
Examples: I will be known in the world as the sustainable energy person
I will be known in the world as the womens rights advocate
I will be known in the world as the global leaders convener
People will help you reach your goals if they can remember what youre all about. If often hard to discern what the people you meet are up to
and who they need to be connected to. Make it simple for others you meet to remember what youre up to by nishing the below sentence
and making sure those you meet know what youre up to in the world.

I will be known in my community as the

_______________________ ____________________

person.
4 min

NOW BRING IT ALL TOGETHER
On the next page is a blank life plan form.

Give yourself some time to review and reect on all your answers from the brainstorming
session. Then print out and ll in the life plan form with a pen or pencil. Feel free to adjust
your answers as you go, but dont worry too much about getting it perfect.

Consider this form as just a draft. You can print out another one anytime.

There are no right answers and you can re-do your life plan as often as you want. I nd just
having something written down helps people a lot. I actually recommend re-doing this
exercise at the end of each year.

I suggest framing the page after youre done and putting it up in your ofce or bedroom.
"#$%&'(() *+&)$,-.#+&
15 min

Life purpose
1 year goals
90 day action plan
Signed on _______________, _______ 20___ X______________________________________
Metrics of success by 2050
My desired way of being
How Ill make It happen
Lifetime goals
I will be known in my community as the ______________________________ ______________________________ person.
10 year goals
Life Plan of ___________________________________
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
As an example
Here is my current life plan
In the 1 page format
I update it about 1x per year
Life purpose
Example: Life Plan of Ryan Allis
Signed on _______________, _______ 20___ X______________________________________
Metrics of success by 2050:
Desired way of being:
How Ill make It happen:
I will be known in my community as the global leadership person.
Building a movement that creates an abundant, sustainable, and joyous world for all people
1) All people have access to the 6 BHNs 2) 95% energy from renewable sources 3) 0 major conicts globally as dened by the UCDP

1) Build Connect into a global platform for connecting communities
2) Build Hive into a global community of extraordinary leaders who are creating a better world.
Joyous, happy, fully alive
90 Day Action Plan
10 year goals
Lifetime goals
1. 1 million people us Connect each day to stay connected
2. Publish a book about making a difference in the world for initial feedback
3. Hold 4 Hive Global Leaders Programs in San Francisco
4. Visit South America for the rst time
5. Build habit of meditating 6x per week
6. Deepen relationship with Nadia
1. 10 million people use Connect each day to stay connected
2. Grow Hive to 10 protable global locations
3. Train others to hold Hive gatherings
4. Build a relationship with an amazing life partner
5. Travel widely to explore perspectives on human society, spirituality, and human
potential
6. Publish a book on creating an extraordinary life, world, and company
1. Be an extraordinary partner and father
2. Catalyze a movement that creates an abundant, sustainable, and joyous world
3. Create a Hive in 1000 cities around the world
4. Create the worlds most impactful network of global leaders
5. Explore widely and be a lifelong learner
6. Live a joyous, happy, and fully alive life
1 Year Goals
1. Hold September 2014 Hive Global Leaders Program
2. Get Connect to 1,000,000 users
3. Prepare Connect for Series A
4. Meditate daily
5. Travel with Nadia to England
6. Publish Everything I Learned By 30 Presentation
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
Once you have it Share your life plan
With five friends & mentors
In the next 14 days
AND GET THEIR FEEDBACK AND INPUT
THEY MAY BE ABLE TO CONNECT YOU TO
PEOPLE WHO CAN HELP
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
When you meet people you should
be able to CLEARLY express
Your life purpose
in 15 WORDS or less WITH
AUTHENTIC EXCITEMENT IN A WAY THAT
moves people WHEN YOU TELL THEM
A quote
Each of us must make the personal choice to be a hero or

not, to be committed to something bigger than ourselves or

not, to go beyond the way we wound up being and have

the purpose of our lives and our careers be about something

that makes a difference or not, in other words, to be a leader

or not.
Werner Erhard
Lessons from my 20s

VISION
PART I, Section 3
A POEM on life
Short this life is, just one Ive got, nite in tenure, whether I like it or not. Dead
is embracing fear, replacing dreams with I cannot. Alive is taking a new step,
having a shot. I will do the impossible, I will change the world, I will give hope to
a despairing nation, Ill give bread to a starving girl. Ill break all the records, Ill
do whats never been done, Ill give and know love, Ill be a billionaire of fun.

What will you do with today, this hour, this minute? Will you ll with dull and
fear or will you live it? I will not tolerate any foe no matter weapon or munition,
especially if that foe is within me in the form of fear or lack of ambition. Short
this life is, just one Ive got. Finite in tenure whether I like it or not. As sure as
the eagle I will y, cos I choose, I choose to live until I die.
- A.E. BALLAKISTEN
VISION
Great leaders
Have a clear purpose
And a clear vision of
the world they are
Working to create
VISION BOARds
lets start by talking about
VISION Boards
VISION BOARds
When GOALs & DREAMS
BECOME VISUALIZED
THEY BECOME ONE BIG LEAP

CLOSER TO BECOMING
REAL
Vision board
exercise
VISION BOARDS
VISION BOARDS
ARE WHITE POSTER BOARDS
COVERED WITH CUT OUT IMAGES

OF WHAT YOU WANT TO
SEE IN YOUR FUTURE
AND THE WORLDS FUTURE

MY 2009 VISION BOARD
A Friends 2014 Vision board
VISION BOARD CREATING PROCESS
SEARCH FOR & PRINT OUT AT LEAST 5 IMAGES IN EACH OF THE BELOW CATEGORIES
FAMILY
HEALTH
EDUCATION
TRAVEL
Adventure







CAREER
FINANCIAL
QUOTES
VALUES
ART








VISION BOARD CREATION PROCESS
ONCE PRINTED & TORN OUT
CUT tO SIZE
THEN PASTE OR TAPE

ONTO YOUR VISION BOARD
THEN SHARE IT WITH A FRIEND
AND HANG IT IN YOUR BEDROOM

VISION BOARD REFLECTION
HOW LONG HAS IT BEEN
SINCE Youve created a vision board?

DO YOU STILL HAVE IT?
VISION BOARD REFLECTION
WHAT ARE THE INSTANCES
IN YOUR LIFE IN WHICH
YouVE SEEN INTENTION

TURN INTO REALITY?
BUCKET LISTS
BUCKET LISTs
ALLOW YOU TO CAPTURE
YOUR DREAMS
THEY ARE another way to
CREATE YOUR FUTURE

BUCKET LISTS
YOU CAN CREATE THEM AS A LIST
OR EVEN BETTER
PUT THEM UP ON YOUR WALL WITH

POST-IT NOTES
BUCKET LISTS
YOU SHOULD UPDATE YOUR BUCKET LIST
ONCE PER YEAR
NEAR YOUR BIRTHDAY
OR THE LAST 5 DAYS OF THE YEAR

BUCKET LISTS
HERES MY LIFETIME
BUCKET LIST
MY BUCKET LIST
" HELP create a JOYOUS, SUSTAINABlE, and ABUNDANT WORLD
" Take CONNECT PUBLIC ON NASDAQ
" BUILD AN INVESTMENT FUND THAT INVESTS in SOLVING MAJOR HUMAN
CHALLENGES
" CREATE A GLOBAL COMMUNITY OF EXTRAORDINARY PEOPLE WORKING
TOWARD CREATING A BETTER WORLD
MY BUCKET LIST
" FINISH MY MBA FROM HBS
" WRITE A BOOK ON HOW TO LIVE A PASSIONATE, MINDFUl,
HEALTHY LIFE
" SOMEDAY WORK IN PUBLIC SERVICE
" SOMEDAY LIVE ON ANOTHER CONTINENT
MY BUCKET LIST
# BUILD A COMPANY TO MORE THAN $1 Billion in SALES
# CREATE OVER 1 million jobs
# Visit 100 countries by age 50
# CLIMB MT. KILIMANJARO AND REACH UHURU PEAK
MY BUCKET LIST
" DRIVE on NEW ZEALANDS HIGHWAY 6
" DRIVE on THE CARRETERA AUSTRAL IN CHILE
" HANG GILDE IN RIO DE JANEIRO
" Attend The Clinton Global Initiative
MY BUCKET LIST
" TRAVEL TO SPACE on VIRGIN GALACTIC
" MEDITATE WITH DEEPAK CHOPRA
" BE A GUEST ON THE DAILY SHOW
" SEE A CIRQUE DU SOLEIL SHOW
MY BUCKET LIST
" SPEAK IN FRONT OF 100,000 people
" GIVE A TED TALK
" ATTEND THE WORLD ECONOMIC FORUM
" JOIN THE UN FOUNDATION BOARD OF DIRECTORS
MY BUCKET LIST
" BE A HUSBAND WHO EMPOWERS MY WIFE TO ACHIEVE
HER WILDEST AND BOLDEST DREAMS
" BE A FATHER WHO INSPIRES HIS CHILDREN
" WATCH EVERY DISNEY AND PIXAr MOVIE WITH MY KIDS
RELATIONSHIP BUCKET LISTS
IF YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP
TRY CREATING A BUCKET LIST
OF THINGS YOU WANT TO

DO TOGETHER
Nadia and my bucket List
Bucket list
exercise
CREATING YOUR BUCKET LIST
NOW, GO AHEAD
GRAB SOME POST-iT NOTES OR
OPEN A GOOGLE DOC
AND START MAKING

YOUR BUCKET LIST
CREATING YOUR BUCKET LIST
WRITE DOWN ALL THE
AMAZING EXPERIENCES
YOU WANT TO HAVE OVER
THE REST OF YOUR LIFE

AND DREAM BIG
BUCKET LISTS REFLECTION
WHAT IS THE MOST EXCITING THING
YouVE DONE IN THE

LAST YEAR?
BUCKET LISTS REFLECTION
WHAT IS THE MOST EXCITING THING
YouVE DONE IN THE

LAST 10 YEARs?
BUCKET LISTS REFLECTION
WHAT IS THE MOST MEANINGFUL THING
YouVE DONE IN THE

LAST YEAR?
BUCKET LISTS REFLECTION
WHAT IS THE MOST MEANINGFUL THING
YouVE DONE IN THE

LAST 10 YEARs?
BUCKET LISTS REFLECTION
WHAT ONE THING, iF YOU DID IT in your life
WOULD BE EXTREMELY MEANINGFUL

TO YOU?
Lessons from my 20s

NETWORKS
PART I, Section 4
PEOPLE
WHO YOU SURROUND
YOURSELF WITH

IS WHO YOU BECOME
PEOPLE
SURROUND YOURSELF ONLY
WITH SMART, COMPETENT

& POSITIVE PEOPLE
(Life is too short not to)
SELECTING YOUR FRIENDS CONCIOUSLY
YOUR FRIENDS
DETERMINE WHO

YOU BECOME
SELECTING YOUR FRIENDS CONCIOUSLY
YOU SHOULD
ONLY SPEND TIME WITH

FRIENDS WHO INSPIRE YOU
SELECTING YOUR FRIENDS CONCIOUSLY
IF YOUR FRIENDS Dont
INSPIRE YOU THEN

FIND FRIENDS WHO DO!
BE INTENTIONAL ABOUT THE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE
DONT LET CHANCE
DETERMINE WHOS
IN YOUR LIFE
What carnegie knew
ANDREW CARNEGIEs EPITAPH SAYS
Here lies one who knew how to get around him men who

WERE CLEVERER THAN HIMSELF
BE INTENTIONAL ABOUT THE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE
IT MIGHT TAKE 5 years
to completely change up
THE PEOPLE SURROUNDING YOU
BUT IT IS ABSOLUTELY
WORTH IT
What I LOOK FOR IN MY FRIENDS
Joy
Compassion
Intelligence
Passion
Purpose
Intentionally SEEK OUT AMAZING FRIENDS
Random Friends
Chosen Friends
vs.
A high impact life An ordinary life
BE INTENTIONAL ABOUT THE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE
IF YOU DonT LIVE IN An
INTELLECTUAL CENTER

CONSIDER A MOVE
TO AVOID MEDIOCRITY
TO AVOID BEING MEDIOCRE
YOU MUST SEEK OUT PEOPLE
WHO ARE NOT MEDIOCRE
AND HANG OUT WITH THEM
Your EDUCATIONAL NETWORK
YOUR UNDERGRAD & GRADUATE SCHOOLS
ARE CRITICALLY IMPORTANT NETWORKS
SO PREPARE WELL AND GO TO THE

ABSOLUTE BEST SCHOOLS YOU CAN GET INTO
WHILE AVOIDING GETTING INTO MOUNTAINS OF DEBT
Your EDUCATIONAL NETWORK
Harvard
Stanford
MIT
PRINCETON
THESE schools have some
Of the best networks

So if you can, attend for undergrad,
Grad school, or take an exec program at
Penn
Columbia
Yale
BROWN
OXFORD
CAMBRIDGE
LSE
uchicago

Your EDUCATIONAL NETWORK
KNOWLEDGE IS CRITICAL SO IF YOU CANNOT
GET INTO OR AFFORD THE BEST SCHOOLS
THEN STILL TAKE THE BEST COURSES FREE
On edx or COURSERA
Your WORK NETWORK
YOUR COMPANY IS
YOUR MOST IMPORTANT NETWORK

SO CHOOSE YOUR COMPANY
VERY CAREFULLY
OR BUILD YOUR OWN
Your WORK NETWORK
WHY DO PEOPLE SPEND
832 WEEKS IN SCHOOL

THEN SPEND <4 WeEKs
ATTEMPTING TO GET A JOB
BY BLIND RESUME BLASTING?
WHAT CHANGE WILL YOU WORK TOWARD?
IF YOU DONT LIKE YOUR JOB
FIND AN ORGANIZATION WHose MISSION
YOUrE PASSIONATE ABOUT
AND DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET IN THERE
YOUR WORK NETWORK
ONLY GO TO WORK FOR A COMPANY
IF YOU DEEPLY BELIEVE IN THE

CHANGE THEY ARE TRYING TO
MAKE IN THE WORLD
YOUR WORK NETWORK
Dont TAKE A JOB UNLESS
YOUll BE WORKING FOR SOMEONE

YOU WILL LEARN LOTS FROM
OF HIGH INTEGRITY WHO
THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
HERE ARE SOME NETWORKS
PASSIONATE YOUNG PEOPLE
SHOULD GET INVOLVED WITH


THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
ASPEN INSTITUTE FELLOWS
EMPACT 100
ENTREPRENEURS ORGANIZATION



THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
FORTUNE BRAINSTORM
HIVE
KAIROS



THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
NEXUS YOUTH SUMMIT
RENAISSANCE WEEKEND
SANDBOX
SINGULARITY UNIVERSITY



THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
SKOLL WORLD FORUM
SOCIAL CAPITAL MARKETS
SOCIAL VENTURE NETWORK



THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
STARTINGBLOC
SUMMIT SERIES
TECH STARS



THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
TED
UNREASONABLE INSTITUTE
WEF YounG GLOBAL LEADERS


THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
WHITE HOUSE FELLOWS
Y COMBINATOR
YOUNG ENTREPRENEUR COUNCIL
YOUNG PRESIDENTs ORGANIZATION

Your weekly roundtable
TO BUILD A STRONG SUPPORT NETWORK
CREATE A WEEKLY
DINNER ROUNDTABLE OF YOUR
CLOSEST 8 FRIENDS
Try EVERY WEDNESDAY AT 8pm
Programs I highly recommend for building relationships
Summit holds an annual large event for top entrepreneurs, social entrepreneurs, and artists.
Holds frequent gatherings at Powder Mountain in Eden, Utah.
StartingBloc holds ve-day Institutes in New York, Los Angeles, D.C., Boston, and Boulder for
individuals who want to make a difference in the world
I highly recommend both the Summer Graduate Studies Program (GSP) or the week-long Executive
Program (EP). Focuses on using science and technology to solve major human challenges.
The Hive Global Leaders Program is a weekend program in San Francisco that brings together a
community of extraordinary leaders and entrepreneurs focused on creating a better world.
Nexus holds an annual Global Youth Summit in New York City that brings together some of the top
entrepreneurs, social entrepreneurs, and philanthropists
Social Innovation Summit is a two-day conference held annually in New York and California that brings
together the leading minds of the social, government, and business sectors
SOCAP (short for Social Capital Markets) is one of the best conferences for bringing together people
Passionate about creating positive change in the world
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
You can do the following
20 minute Exercise now
Or put a time on your calendar
To return to it

INNER CIRCLE
EXERCISE
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
ON A SHEET OF PAPER LIST
YOUR TOP 20 FRIENDS

EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
NEXT, circle the names of THE 10
people WHO inspire you MOST
BASED ON WHAT THEY ARE DOING
WITH THEIR LIVES
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
Now, create a new list of 10 people
You arent very close with
who inspire you
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
Finally, combine the lists of 10 to create your
NEW INNER CIRCLE
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
SPEND YOUR TIME
WITH inspiring PEOPLE WHO ARE
UP TO SOMETHING BIG
IN THE WORLD
that will help others
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
IF YOU dont know enough inspiring people
Who are up to something big in the world
Join the networks
Listed in the networks section
Of this presentation
Lessons from my 20s

MENTORS
PART I, Section 5
TWO OPTIONS: Choose Carefully
Random Friends
No Mentors
Jedi Mentors
Chosen Friends
vs.
You
You
A high impact life An ordinary life
FINDING AMAZING Mentors
VERY VERY FEW PEOPLE
ACTUALLY HAVE

MENTORS
AND YET MENTORSHIP
IS CRUCIAL TO LIVING THE

LIFE YOU WANT
FINDING AMAZING Mentors
WHO MENTORS YOU
DETERMINES WHO

YOU BECOME
FINDING Mentors
FINDING Mentors
WHO MENTORS YOU
DETERMINES WHICH

NETWORKS YOU ACCESS
FINDING Mentors
WHO MENTORS YOU
DETERMINES WHERE IN LIFE

YOU WILL GO
FINDING Mentors
WHY DO PEOPLE SPEND
832 WEEKS IN SCHOOL

And 0 WEEKS SEEKING
AMAZING mentors?
FINDING Mentors
No really, WHY DO PEOPLE SPEND
16 years IN SCHOOL

And No time looking
For mentors?
FINDING Mentors
SO, HOW DO YOU FIND

MENTORS?
AMAZING HIGH-INTEGRITY
FINDING MENTORS WITHIN NETWORKS
ONE OF THE BEST WAYs
IS BY JOINING THE ORGANIZATIONS
LISTED IN THE NETWORKS SECTION
OF THIS PRESENTATION
TO MEET AMAZING MENTORS
KEEP EMAILS to potential mentors SHORT
The higher the chance
Of a reply
the shorter your emails to very busy people are
TRY EMAILS WITH JUST 1-2 sentences and youll be amazed at the reply rates
EXAMPLE EMAIL TO A potential MENTOR
WHAT MOST PEOPLE SEND: WHAT YOU SHOULD ACTUALLY SEND:
Sally--Im also really passionate about [ex:
solar panel efficiency]. What do you [insert
short relevant question]?
Best,
Your Name
What a busy professional thinks who gets this:

Dont have enough time to reply to this. Maybe
Ill get back to this later.
What a busy professional thinks who gets this:

Im glad they respect my time. Will only take 30
seconds to reply so might as well do it now.
RESEARCH AMAZING PEOPLE
ANOTHER WAY IS TO USE THE INTERNET
TO FIND PEOPLE WHO
ARE BRILLIANT & CARING
ARE 10-20 YRS AHEAD OF YOU
SHARE SIMILAR PASSION
RESEARCH AMAZING PEOPLE
FIND 20 POTENTIAL MENTORS
WHO ARE YOU

IN 15 YEARS
CONVINCING SOMEONE TO MENTOR YOU
AND CONVINCE 2 of THEM
THAT youRE WORTH

INVESTING TIME INTO
CONVINCING SOMEONE TO MENTOR YOU
IDEALLY GET INTRODUCED TO THEM
BY ONE OF THEIR
TRUSTED CONNECTIONS
GET IN TOUCH VIA TWITTER
EMAIL, LINKEDIn, or fedex
OR BY SHOWING UP AT THEIR
OFFICE IF NEEDED AND ASKING
TO SPEAK WITH THEM
GETTING IN TOUCH WITH MENTORS
GETTING IN TOUCH WITH MENTORS
SEND THEM A
BULKY FEDEX PACKAGE
IF YOU MUST
GETTING IN TOUCH WITH MENTORS
IMPORTANT PEOPLE
LIKE OPENING
FEDEX PACKAGES
MESsAGES BUSY PEOPLE RECEIVE MONTHLY
EMAILS: 5,000
TEXTS: 1,000
LETTERS: 500
Linkedin: 50
Twitter: 30

FEDEX: 10
USE TWITTER TO GET IN TOUCH WITH WELL KNOWN PEOPLE
IMPORTANT PEOPLE
ALSO LIKE
@Messages on Twitter
BE KINDLY PERSISTENT
MOST PEOPLE GIVE UP
AFTER SENDING 1 EMAIL
DonT GIVE UP
This is your life were talking about here
BE KINDLY PERSISTENT
PURSUE THEM REPEATEDLY IN A KIND WAY
They will almost always respect your persistence
EXPLAIN YOUR PASSION FOR THE SAME THING
Explain the why behind what you do
Explain how you MAY BE ABLE TO HELP THEM
Be 100% authentic
BE KINDLY PERSISTENT
STAY AT IT FOR
6 Months
IF THATs
WHAT IT TAKES
BE KINDLY PERSISTENT
THESE ARE PEOPLE
WHO CAN CHANGE
CHANGE YOUR WHOLE LIFE
DO WHAT IT TAKES
START SLOW if needed with potential mentors
Most people will eventually
Agree to a coffee or lunch
But if not, ask to start with
1-2 quick Questions via email
Then stay in touch every 8 weeks with quick emails
AT YOUR FIRST MEETING WITH A MENTOR
BE AUTHENTIC
BE SUPER INFORMED about them

BUILD TRUST
BUILDING THE RELATIONSHIP WITH A MENTOR
GO TO THE SAME EVENTS
DEVELOP THE RELATIONSHIP
SEND VERY BRIEF QUESTIONS ON EMAIL EVERY COUPLE MONTHS
BUILDING THE RELATIONSHIP WITH A MENTOR
GO TO THE SAME EVENTS
DEVELOP THE RELATIONSHIP
SEND VERY BRIEF QUESTIONS ON EMAIL EVERY COUPLE MONTHS
Three keys to achieving your dreams
1. SURROUNd YOURSELF WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE
2. INVEST IN YOUR formal and informal
EDUCATION
3. WORK FOR A COMPANY whose mission you are
deeply passionate about
Three keys to achieving your dreams
DO THESE THINGS
AND Youll BE ON TRACK
TO ACHIEVE YOUR MOST

AMBITIOUS GOALS
Learning to be a jedi
JOIN NETWORKS of other inspiring people
LIVE A PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH

AMAZINGLY SMART & CARING
PEOPLE And YOU WILL BE ON
THE PATH TO BECOMING A JEDI
BE A PADAWAN like in star wars
Padawan (n.)
An individual on a CONSCIOUS journey to become a jedi
PADAWAN IS
SANSKRIT FOR learner
What IS A JEDI?
Jedi (n.)
A highly competent, super-connected, and deeply
compassionate SOUL & SYSTEMS THINKER, working at the highest
levels of societal structuring, whose passion has been fully
unleashed toward achieving an identified deeply meaningful
mission that awakens them with extraordinary focus and
immense energy daily.
The jedi checklist
# Highly competent
# Super-connected
# Deeply compassionate
# SYSTEMS THINKER
# Working to IMPROVE THE WORLD
# Identified meaningful mission
# Passion unleashed on achieving mission
# Extraordinary focus
# Immense vibrant energy
FINDING A JEDI MENTOR
NOW YOU KNOW THE
TRUE MEANING OF
FINDING YOURSELF a

JEDI MASTER MENTOR
FINDING A JEDI MENTOR
WhoS YOUR JEDI MENTOR
YOUNG PADAWAN?
Dont let this be the CASE
6 months from now
Wait, YOU DonT hAVE ONE?
STAND ON THE SHOULDERS OF GIANTS
ONE CAN SEE MUCH FURTHER BY STANDING
ON THE SHOULDERS OF GIANTS


SO FIND MENTORS WHO Are
GIANTS iN THEIR FIELD
And stand on their shoulders

Lessons from my 20s

HAPPINESS
PART I, Section 6
THE GREAT ENGIMA OF LIFE
TO KNOW HAPPINESS
ONE MUST KNOW
SUFFERING
THE IMPORTANCE OF CRUCIBLE MOMENNTS
IN ORDER TO TRULY FEEL THE HEIGHTS OF


ONE MUST HAVE FELT the DEPTHS OF
SUFFERING
HAPPINESS
CHOOSING TO BE HAPPY
A PERSON CAN MAKE HIMSELF HAPPY
OR MISERABLE regardless of what
IS HAPPENING OUTSIDE just by changing


THE CONTENTS OF CONCIOUSNESS

- MIHALI Csikszentmihali
OVERCOMING OBSTACLES
- MIHALI Csikszentmihali
THE ABILITY TO PERSERVERE
DESPITE OBSTACLES & SETBACKS
IS THE MOST IMPORTANT TRAIT


FOR SUCCEEDING IN LIFE.

FORGING YOUR CHARACTER
THE MORE DIFFICULTIES
& CRUCIBLE MOMENTS
YOU HAVE FACED


THE STRONGER
YOUR RESOLVE WILL BE
FORGING YOUR CHARACTER

THE HOTTER THE TEMPERATURE
THE IRON IS FORGED IN


THE STRONGer THE STEEL
The element of struggle in life
SO DONT
BE AFRAID


OF STRUGGLE
Dont be afraid of struggle
OFTEN THE GREATEST INDIVIDUALS
ARE THOSE WHO HAVE


BEEN THROUGH THE MOST
My struggles
MY MOMs death FROM BRAIN CANCER in 2012
CHRONIC NECK PAIN FROM A 2001 CAR CRASH
HELpING MY DAD THROUGH PROSTATE CANCER
Dealing with a 65 person layoff following the sale of icontact
We all go through really hard times.
It is our response to the crucible moments that can make us great.
FORGING YOUR CHARACTER
HAPPINESS in many
Cases is A CHOICE
FORGING YOUR CHARACTER
LEARN TO CONTROL
WHAT is IN YOUR THOUGHTS &
CONSCIOUSNESS
HAPPINESS
TRUE HAPPINESS
OCCURS WHEN

YOUR INHIBITIONS OF
REVEALING YOUR TRUE SELF


ARE EXTINCT
HAPPINESS
TRUE HAPPINESS
OCCURS WHEN YOU CAN

FULLY EXPRESS YOURSELF
& BRING YOUR FULL PASSION
INTO YOUR DAILY WORK


HAPPINESS
TRUE HAPPINESS
OCCURS WHEN YOur

Daily work IS ACTUALLY THE
the greatest CONTRIBUTION
you can make TO HUMANITY
WITH THE GIFTS YOU HAVE

HAPPINESS
TRUE HAPPINESS
OCCURS WHEN

YOU ARE MAKING A
DIFFERENCE IN THE LIVES


OF OTHERS
HAPPINESS
TRUE HAPPINESS
OCCURS WHEN

YOU ARE MAKING A
DIFFERENCE IN THE LIVES


OF OTHERS
HAPPINESS
HAPPINESS
Comes from being

Completely present
And in flow in a


moment
HAPPINESS
THERE IS NEVER ANYTHING
ELSE OTHER THAN THIS



moment
THE PAST & THE FUTURE


Past PRESENT
FUTURE
Most people spend
their mental energy
thinking about either
the past
Or thinking about
the future
FOCUS ON THE PRESENT


Past PRESENT
FUTURE
Happiness comes when you focus
on enjoying the present moment
and dont worry about what
happened in the past and whatever
may come in the future.
Your mindset affects your happiness
your mindset is your
how you interpret
What happens in your life

Your mindset affects your happiness
You can decide whether you want to
Live in an ordinary world
Full of stress & Suffering
Or an extraordinary world
Full of wonder and possibility

THE ORDINARY DEFAULT WORLD
The
Ordinary
World
anxiety
fear
scarcity
danger
anger
mistrust
reason
disappointment
resignation
manipulation
victimization
desperation
frustration
upset
defensive
limitation
cynicism
greed
insecure
inaction
THE EXTRAORDINARY WORLD is created by a mindset shift
happiness
fun
caring
inventive
adventurous
acceptance
laughter
self-expressed
generous
possibility
unreasonable
compassionate
empathy
authenticity
openness
unstoppable
creativity
fearless
kindness
caring
The
Extraordinary
World
LIVING WITH JOY
LIVING WITH JOYFULLNESS and ease
is a choice That you can make
Programs I highly recommend for personal growth
Includes the Landmark Forum, Advanced Course, and Self-Expression and Leadership Program
Available now in 24 countries.
Includes the Happiness Program and the Art of Silence Program. Now operating in 152 countries.
I highly recommend taking Inner Engineering program, available in both India and the USA. Also
available online at www.innerengineering.com though in-person is best.
A three-day summer camp 2 hours north of San Francisco in which you lock your phones/laptops
away and play joyfully like youre a child again.
The Hive Global Leaders Program brings together a community of extraordinary leaders and
entrepreneurs focused on creating a better world. Help every few months in SF. I am the Chairman of Hive.
Burning Man is an annual event in the Nevada desert the week before Labor Day in late-August.
Ive now been twice and I highly recommend everyone go.
Meditation exercise
You can do the following
10 minute Mindset exercise now
Or put a time on your calendar
To return to it
EXERCISE On
mindset
Exercise: Mindset shift
On a sheet of paper
Write down for 5 minutes
how your life would be
Different if you never worried
And were never anxious

Exercise: Mindset shift
On a sheet of paper
Write down for 5 minutes
All the things that are holding you
Back that you can just give up
And choose to put in the past

Lessons from my 20s

health
PART I, Section 7
HEALTH
At age 25
I WAS A STRESSED OUT
208 pound
East coast CEO


HEALTH
My mind often raced
I even had two anxiety
Attacks from the stress
HEALTH
Now At age 30
I AM A much calmer
158 pound
west coast CEO


HEALTH LEARNINGS
Between age 24 and 30 I



Heres EXACTLY WHAT I DID


- Lost 50 pounds
- Fixed BAD neck pain
- Went from Anxious to calm
THE TWO THINGS I DID
1. Changed what I ate

2. STARTED doing a 30 minute per
morning yoga and Breathing
home practice
WHAT YOU EAT IS WHO YOU BECOME
THE FOOD WE EAT
LITERALLY BECOMES US
As nutrients are
absorbed and used

CHANGING MY DIET MADE A HUGE IMPACT
What Id OFTEN Eat in 2008 What I OFTEN Eat Today
Bread
Hot pockets
Subs
Pasta
Pretzels
Fries
Mayonnaise
Beer/Wine/Soda
Coffee

(I was eating way too many carbs) (I cut out 80% of the carbs)
Chicken / Steak / Fish
Quinoa / Lentils / Beans / Tofu / Tempeh
Eggs
Almonds
Kale / Brussels Sprouts / Broccoli / Avocado
Sweet potatoes / carrots / CHIA Seeds
BANANas / Berries
Protein shakes
Water / Tea / Almond milk

Cut most of this stuff out!
DIET MAKES THE DIFFERENCE
A COMBINATION OF
HIGH CALORIE & HIGH-SALT DIET

WITH LITTLE PHYSICAL ACTIVITY AND INCREASED OBESITY

GREATLY DECREASEs THE ABILITY OF THE BODY

TO CURE ITSELF FROM CANCEROUS CELLS
REDUCING YOUR RISK OF CANCER
78% of CANCER IS CAUSED BY

TOBACCO, DIET, SUNLight, and alcohol
30%
35%
10%
10%
7%
4%
3%
Tobacco Diet
Sunlight Other
Viruses Occupational
Alcohol
Dont smoke
TOBACCO CAUSES
30% of CANCER CASES

AND CONTAIN 4000
HARMFUL CHEMICALs AND
TOXIC CARCINOGENS
MENTAL HEALTH
IN A FAST-mOVING ORGANIZATION
MENTAL HEALTH IS JUST AS
IMPORTANT AS PHYSICAL HEALTH
MENTAL HEALTH
Be sure youre taking time
To eat well, sleep well
And get into nature
Away from your laptop and phone
MENTAL HEALTH
At least every 3 months
Do a complete digital detox
With no phones/laptops
For at least 72 hours
Lessons from my 20s

MEDITATION
PART I, Section 8
MEDITATION
I USED TO THINK
MEDITATION WAS

Complete bs
MEDITATION
I had no idea how to
Do it right
MEDITATION
I thought meditation
Meant just sitting there
MEDITATION
WHEN I LEARNED HOW TO
BREATHe PROPERLY DURING MEDITATION
EVERYTHING CHANGED
MEDITATION
MY MIND BECAME CLEAR
AND I WAS WAY MORE CALM
& EFFECTIVE AT WORK
MEDITATION
I took two 4 day programs on meditation
Both Id highly HIGHLY recommend
1. Art of living happiness program
2. ISHA Foundation inner engineering course
MEDITATION
I took the 4 day
ISHA FOUNDATION INNER ENGINEERING COURSE
In coimbatore, INDIA IN January 2014
MEDITATION
I also took the 4 day
Art of living happiness program
In palo alto in March 2014

YOGA
THE BASIC YOGA TECHNIQUE SUN SALUTATION greatly reduced my neck pain
See http://bit.ly/sunsalutations
MEDITATION
I now do three sun salutations
Every morning and my neck pain is

85% better
MY CURRENT Morning 30 minute routine
3 sun salutations 5 mins
Alternate nostril breathing 2 mins
Sudarshan kriya Breathing 15 mins
KEEPING EYES CLOSED 5 mins

You can learn these routines through the Art of
Living Happiness Program which is $395 and
available in many countries and cities
MEDITATION
When I meditate with my eyes cLOSED
I am able to see a deeply calming
Purple light
(Strange I know, but true)
MEDITATION
There are many good techniques
And I am only at the beginning
of the learning process
SILENT RETREATS
In June 2014 I did a 3 day
art of living silence course
I found that spending 3 days in silence
Was extremely beneficial to calming the mind
And made me way more productive at work
SILENT RETREATS
After the 3 days in silence
I found myself becoming naturally
More collaborative at work
SILENT RETREATS
Here are some of the most magnificent
Silent & ZEN retreats you can visit
Art of Silence - http://www.artoiving.org/art-silence-program
Vipassana - http://www.dhamma.org/
Green Gulch http://www.sfzc.org/ggf/
Esalen - http://www.esalen.org/
Vendata Society - http://sfvedanta.org/retreat/
MEDITATION
THEse four BREATHING TECHNIQUEs have been very helpful to me
Heres where you can learn a bit more





Bhastrika - http://bit.ly/bhastrikademo
Three stage pranayama - http://bit.ly/3stagebreathing
Alternate nostril breathing - http://bit.ly/alternatenostrils
Rapid nostril breathing - http://bit.ly/rapidnostril
MEDITATION Programs I RECOMMEND
Includes the Happiness
Program and the Art of Silence
Program. Now operating in 152
countries.
Take the Inner Engineering
program, available in both India
and the USA. Also online at
www.innerengineering.com though
in-person is best.
Meditation exercise
You can do the following 10 minute
Meditation exercise now
Or put a time on your calendar
To return to it
Meditation
exercise
EXERCISE: alternate nostril breathing
First watch the video on
Alternate nostril breathing

Now, sit on the ground cross legged
Follow the video instructions for 5 minutes
Afterward, make note of how your brain feels
(bit.Ly/alternatenostrils)
Exercise: Sun salutation
Get on the floor and actually try to do 2 sun salutations
Video at http://bit.ly/sunsalutationvideo
Lessons from my 20s

HABITS
PART I, Section 9
A quote on habits
Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.
Mahatma Gandhi
A QUOTE ON HABITS
ARISTOTLE

We are what we
repeatedly do.
Excellence, then, is not
an act, but a habit.
A QUOTE ON HABITS
Stephen Covey

Our character is basically a
composite of our habits. Because
they are consistent, often
unconscious patterns, they
constantly, daily, express our
character.
HABITS
WHAT YOU DO REPEATEDLY
CREATES YOUR LIFE
And your results
HABITS
THERE IS GREAT POWER in
HACKING YOUR
HABITS
HABITS
IF Youre not getting the
RESULTS YOU WANT IN LIFE
ADJUST YOUR HABITS
HABITS in my life I am cultivating
BE POSITIVE
Always DO WHAT I SAY Ill DO
UNDERCOMMIT / OVERDELIVER
BE TRANSPARENT
GET TRACK OF TASKS
REVIEW GOALS ANNUALLY
PLAN FOR THE FUTURE
SEEK OUT AMAZING PEOPLE
IDENTIFY MENTORS
Give hugs not handshakes
SHARE WHAT I LEARN WITH OTHERS



STAY IN TOUCH WITH my NETWORK
CONTINUALLY LEARN
READ
WATCH EDUCATIONAL VIDEOS
EXERCISE
EAT HEALTHY FOODS
SPEND TIME IN NATURE
DAILY MEDITATION
COMMUNICATE OFTEN
Watch <30min/wk of tv
SEEK TO UNDERSTAND FIRST

HABITS
WHAT ARE some NEW HABITS IN
YOUR LIFE THAT YOU
WANT TO ADD?
habits exercise
You can do the following 10 minute
habits exercise now
Or put a time on your calendar
To return to it
HABITS
Exercise
EXERCISE: HABITS
FIRst, Get a sheet of paper and
And write down all your HABITS
you want to stART
EXERCISE: HABITS
Now write down all
All the habits
you want to stOP
EXERCISE: HABITS
Now write down all
All the habits
you want to CONTINUE
EXERCISE: HABITS
Next, write down bullets of how
Youd be Be better off if you
IMPLEMENTED YOUR new habit system
EXERCISE: HABITS
NOW make a weekly plan to
ACTUALLY Implement the
HABITS IN YOUR LIFE THAT
CREATE THE RESULTS YOU WANT
EXERCISE: HABITS
FINALLY, open up your calendar
And put your new habits
ACTUALLY ON YOUR CALENDAR on REPEAT
Lessons from my 20s

COMMUNICATION
PART I, Section 10
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
WHEN YOU TALK
TO PEOPLE

LOOK THEM IN THE EYE
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
WHEN YOU GREET PEOPLE
BOUND UP TO THEM WITH

ENERGY & EXCITEMENT
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
WHEN YOU TALK
TO PEOPLE

SMILE
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
WHEN YOU TALK
TO PEOPLE

BE JOYOUS NOT STRESSED
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
ALWAYS LET
YOUR

PASSION SHINE THROUGH
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
RESTATE THE OTHER
PERSONS Point

BEFORE YOU ADD

YOUR OWN
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
USE THIS FORMULA
RESTATE THEIR POINT
and ONLY THEN
ADD YOUR OWN POINT



WHEN TALKING WITH PEOPLE..
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
NEVER NEVER NEVER
START A SENTENCE WITH

BUT

HUMAN COMMUNICATION
INSTEAD OF THE WORD
BUT USE THE WORD

AND
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
AVOID SAYING
THE WORDS

UM and UH
(Instead just pause)
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
AVOID THE INFORMAL
uSAGE OF THE WORD

LIKE
(Ex: She was like oh my gosh I cant believe she did that or I walked like 30 miles
DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS
ANYTIME YOU HAVE
SOMETHING DIFFICULT
TO COMMUNICATE
DO IT IN PERSON
(Or at worst, on Google Hangout or Skype)
KEEP EMAILS SHORT
AVOID SENDING
EMAILS WITH MORE THAN
5 sentences
KEEP EMAILS SHORT
AVOID SENDING
EMAILS WITH
EMOTIONAL CONTENT
GIVING PRESENTATIONS
FOR PRESENTATIONS
you will give to others
NEVER HAVE MORE than


15 WORDS ON A SLIDE
GIVING PRESENTATIONS
IDEALLY USE 1 powerful
PICTURE
AND NO MORE THAN


10 WORDS
! "
GIVING PRESENTATIONS
OR SOMETIMES
NO WORDS


AT ALL
! "
Lessons from my 20s

MONEY
PART I, Section 11
The middle class versus the rich
Individuals in the middle class accumulate more debt as they
become more successful. A pay raise qualies them to borrow
more money from the bank so they can buy personal items like
bigger cars, vacation homes, boats, and motor homes. Their
wage income comes in and is spent on current expenses and
only then on paying off their personal debt. So as their income
increases, so does their personal debt. This is what we call the
rat race.
- Robert kiyosaki
The rich have their money work for them
The rich have their assets work for them.
They have gained control over their
expenses (by saving and investing money
each month) and focus on acquiring or
building assets. Their businesses pay more
of their expenses, and they have few, if
any, personal liabilities.

- Robert Kiyosaki
WHICH FINANCIAL PATH WILL YOU TAKE?
THERE ARE TWO SEGMENTS OF PEOPLE IN THE WORLD
WHICH SEGMENT DO YOU WANT TO BE IN?
PEOPLE WHO PAY INTEREST ON LOANS AND WORK FOR COMPANIES
PEOPLE WHO RECEIVE INTEREST ON LOANS and own PARTS Of companies
1
2
THE TOPIC OF MONEY
MONEY IS A REALLY
IMPORTANT TOPIC
TO UNDERSTAND
THE TOPIC OF MONEY
MONEY IS SIMPLY
A STORE OF VALUE
WHICH ENABLES
TWO PARTIES TO EXCHANGE
EVEN IF they cannot barter
YOUR NET WORTH
INCLUDING ALL YOUR SAVINGS, INVESTMENTs
AND DEBT WHAT IS YOUR

NET WORTH RIGHT NOW?
AVERAGE & MEDIAN NET WORTH IN THE USA
THE AVERAGE NET WORTH of AN AMERICAN IS

$301,140
Source: Credit Suiss Global Wealth Report, 2013
AVERAGE & MEDIAN NET WORTH IN USA
BUT THE MEDIAn Net worth of AN AMERICAN IS

$44,911
Source: Credit Suiss Global Wealth Report, 2013
ARE YOU AHEAD OR BEHIND?
Lets say your goal IS TO have a net worth of $1M by Age 60
IF YOU start at age 20 and progress linearly youd need to be at $250k by 30
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Money compounds
Fortunately, money compounds, so you actually only need to
Be at $70,000 in net worth by age 30 to be on track for $1M in net worth by 60
Assumes you save $5,000 per year starting at age 20, and you invest iat a 7% after ination return
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3 Key Lessons about Money
HERE ARE THREE
KEY LESSONS
ABOUT MONEY
3 Lessons about Money
SPEND LESS MONEY
THAN YOU EARN

EVERY MONTH
1
3 Lessons about Money
2
NEVER GO INTO DEBT
FOR SOMETHING THAT

YOU DO NOT NEED
3 Lessons about Money
3
SAVE EARLY IN LIFE
AS the law of compound
INTEREST HELPS A LOT

OVER TIME
EASY IN THEORY
THESE 3 LESSONS may sound extremely basic
YET still so many people
Go into debt for things they dont need
and frequently spend
more than they earn

THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
HERE ARE SIX STEPS
TO BUILDING
WEALTH
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
These 6 steps are easy to
Understand but Most people
Dont do them
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
Calculate how much you
Earn after taxes each month
1
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
2
ENSURE YOUR ARE SPENDING LESS
Than you earn after taxes
Each month
Monthly income after tax
$4000 $3000
Monthly spending

THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
3
PAY OFF all Your DEBT
Starting with the highest
Interest rates first

THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
4
Start Saving
$1,000 each month
(This step, in practice, is often the hardest, yet the most important)
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
5
After building up 3 months
Of salary in your savings
Account, start investing
Start investing $1000 per
month as early as you can in
life
Do this consistently for
30 years and youll have
$1 million
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
6
THEN USE THE CASH FLOW FROM YOUR
INVESTMENTS TO MAKE MORE INVESTMENTS
The six steps to building wealth
1. Calculate your after tax income
2. Be sure youre SPENDING LESS THAN YOU MAKE
3. PAY OFF your DEBT
4. BUILD UP 3 months of SAVINGS
5. Start investing
6. THEN Re-INVEST THE RETURNS

Becoming FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT
THERE ARE TWO MAIN WAYS TO BECOME
A MILLIONAIRE
1) Build a business
2) Or Save & Invest wisely for 30 years
Becoming FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT
If entrepreneurship isnt for you
Heres how to become a millionaire Automatically
1. Save $1000 per month
2. Invest it at a 7% after inflation
return
3. Dont take any out for 30 years
WHAT YouLL HAVE IF YOU SAVE & INVEST
Monthly
SAVINGS
20 Yrs 25 Yrs 30 Yrs 35 Yrs 40 Yrs 45 Yrs 50 Yrs
$1,000 $0.52M $0.81M $1.22M $1.81M $2.64M $3.82M $5.50M
$2,000 $1.05M $1.63M $2.45M $3.63M $5.29M $7.65M $10.99M
$3,000 $1.57M $2.44M $3.68M $5.44M $7.94M $11.47M $16.49M
$4,000 $2.09M $3.26M $4.91M $7.25M $10.58M $15.29M $21.97M
ASSUMES 7% AFTER INFLATION ANNUAL RETURN FROM INVESTING | ADD ADDITIONAL TIME TO PAY OFF ANY CURRENT DEBT
My journey to financial independence
I was born in 1984. I grew up in a middle class
American family. My dad was an epsicopalian
minister from pennsylvania. My mom was a
part-time social worker from England. Our
family earned about $40,000 per year.
I was very fortunate to
Have two parents who
Supported Me and encouraged
me to Follow my dreams
My journey to financial independence
I started my first business at 11
Helping senior citizens in florida
use the internet for $5/hour
My journey to financial independence
I started getting into
Web development
In 1996 when I was 12
My journey to financial independence
At16 (back In 2000)
I was a NORMAL TEENAGER GROWING UP IN
bradenton florida earning AROUND
$3000/yr AS A PART TIME WEB developer
My journey to financial independence
Then I read two books that
changed my life and opened
My eyes to a whole new world


2. Think And Grow Rich
1. Rich Dad Poor Dad
My journey to financial independence
After reading these two books at 16
I set an ambitious goal to build a
Company to $1 Million in sales by
Age 21
My journey to financial independence
From age 16 to 21
I worked extremely hard
To make this goal real
My journey to financial independence
At 18 While in college at unc I
started Icontact and by 2005
We reached $1 Million in sales
When I was 21
My journey to financial independence
We then raised venture capital
And hired a strong
Executive team and grew to
$50M in annual sales
My journey to financial independence
in 2012 we sold icontact for $170 million
to a software company called vocus.
I was 27. I decided to go back to school at
harvard business school for an mba while
working on a new start-up called
connect
My journey to financial independence
Anything is possible
I found that anything was possible if I:
set my mind to it
worked really hard to make it happen
surrounded myself with positive people
who helped me Grow & Learn
Cared about customers & Employees
Creating your financial plan
So that was my story
over the last 18 years
Now lets talk about
You
Creating your financial plan
18 years from now, your financial
Situation will be a function of the plan
you put in place And the actions you take
today
Creating your financial plan
Heres how to create a basic
Financial plan
Financial plan exercise
You can do the following 30 minute
Financial plan exercise now
Or put a time on your calendar
To return to it
FINANCIAL
PLAN EXERCISE
EXERCISE: Creating a basic financial plan
1. Calculate your current monthly income after taxes
2. Calculate your current total monthly expenses
3. Add up your savings, investments, and other assets
4. Calculate the total amount of debt you have
5. Set a goal for your monthly income and expenses 2 years
from now
6. Use these figures to fill out the sheet on the next page

This exercise should take about 30 minutes. You can do it now or come back to it.
Exercise: Creating A BASIC Financial Plan
Assets Debts
Income Expenses
Financial Plan of __________
Signed X__________________________ this ____ day of _____ 20_____
Net Worth
Cashow
Income
Expenses Cashow
Present Monthly
24 Months From Now Monthly Goal
Creating your financial plan
FiLLING out your one-page
Financial plan Will be helpful
As we move into the next section
On investing
Lessons from my 20s

INVESTING
PART I, Section 12
LEARNING HOW TO INVEST
saving MONEY is the first step
Learning how to invest IT is the second

Stocks and bonds
THERE ARE TWO TYPES
OF INVEStMENTS
STOCKs & BONds
BONDS
BONDS are loans
to other organizations
IN WHICH YOU EARN A FIXED
INTEREST RATE RETURN

BONDS
BONDS usally pay annual interest
Between 0.25% and 15%
BONDS
THE RISKIER THE BOND
THE HIGHER THE INTEREST RATE PAID
STOCKS
STOCK is Partial
OWNERSHIP of a company
Which entitles the owner
To part of the profits of a company

STOCKS
WITH STOCKS YOU MAKE
MONEY WHEN THE VALUE
OF THE COMPANY GOES UP

STOCKS
THE VALUE OF A COMPANY
GOES UP WHEN THE
Companys profits go up

(or are expected to go up)
STOCKS
THE VALUE OF A COMPANY
GOES down WHEN THE
Companys profits go Down

(or are expected to go down)
DIFFERENT TYPES OF STOCKS AND BONDS
Mutual Funds
Index Funds/ETFS
Small Cap Stocks
MID CAP STOCKS
LARGE CAP STOCKS
VALUE STOCKS
GROWTH STOCKS
Emerging Market Stocks
options
VENTURE capital FUNDS
PRIVATE COMPANIES

STOCKS

Savings Accounts
Treasury Bonds
Municipal Bonds
Corporate Bonds
P2p LENDING

BONDS

HOW TO BECOME A MILLIONAIRE in 30 years
HERE IS A SIMPLIFIED EXAMPLE
OF HOW YOU CAN HAVE
$1M in 30 years
HOW TO BECOME A MILLIONAIRE in 30 years
To have $1m in 30 years
SAVE $1k every month
AND INVEST IT
Assumes a 7% per year after ination annual return
HOW TO BECOME A MILLIONAIRE in 20 years
To have $1m in 20 years
SAVE $2k every month
AND INVEST IT
Assumes a 7% per year after ination annual return
AVERAGE INVESTMENT RETURNS
HERE IS A TABLE OF
AVERAGE YEARLY RETURNS BY
TYPE OF INVESTMENT
AVERAGE INVESTMENT RETURNS
Investment Type Approx. Avg. Annual Return After Inflation (2.8%)
Savings Accounts 0.10% -2.70%
Certificates of Deposit 1.10% -1.70%
Treasury Bonds 2.50% -0.30%
Municipal Bonds 4.50% 1.70%
Corporate Bonds 6% 3.20%
LendingClub A-d Notes 8.30% 5.50%
Rental Real Estate 8.60% 5.80%
Dow Jones Index Fund 11.10% 8.30%
S&P 500 Index Fund 11.30% 8.50%
LendingClub E-F Notes 11.70% 8.90%
S&P 500 and DJIA is the CAGR for the last 80 years from 1933 until 2013
AVERAGE INVESTMENT RETURNS
PAST RETURNS
Arent ensured in the future


But they are STILL HELPFUL to see
LENDINGCLUB
ONE INTERESTING
INVESTMENT OPTION IS

LENDINGCLUB
LENDINGCLUB
Since 2007 LENDINGCLUB notes HAVE
HAD an annual average return of

5.5%
AFTER INFLATION AND
DEFAULTS
LENDINGCLUB
And Since 2007 LENDINGCLUB E and F notes
HAVE HAD an annual average return of

8.9%
AFTER INFLATION AND
DEFAULTS
Past performance is denitely no guarantee of future performance, yet
8.9% after weathering a big recession in 2008-2009 is pretty good.
MARKET INDEX FUNDS
The DJIA and S&P 500 Index funds
HAVE HAD an annual average return
After inflation of

8.4%
Since 1933
Look up these symbols:
Dow Jones Index Fund DIA
S&P 500 Index Fund - SPY
INVESTING IN STOCKS
As a rule of thumb
Companies are usually worth
BETWEEN 5x and 20x their
ANNUAL NET PROFITS
INVESTING IN STOCKS
Net profits is another word for

Earnings
INVESTING IN STOCKS
The multiple of EARNINGS
A company is worth Is called a

PE Ratio
INVESTING IN STOCKS
P/E RATIO is:
PRICE
EARNINGS
INVESTING IN STOCKS
Heres the July 2014 p/e Ratio of A few well known companies

COMPANY PRICE TO EARNINGS RATIO
IBM
12.30
WELLS FARGO
12.74
APPLE
15.77
MICROSOFT
16.91
BANK OF AMERICA
25.25
GOOGLE
29.86
FACEBOOK
97.52
INVESTING IN STOCKS
THE BEST MEASURE OF
WHETHER A STOCK MARKET
IS OVERVALUED

Is the SHILLER PE RATIO
See multpl.com/shiller-pe/

INVESTING IN STOCKS
THE AVERAGE ALL TIME SHILLER p/E RATIO IS
16.55
INVESTING IN STOCKS
This means that on average since 1890
The average company has been valued at
16.55 times its an annual net profits
INVESTING IN STOCKS
AS OF august 2014
the US STOCK market is getting overvalued
THE CURRENT SHILLER PE RATIO IS
THE STOCK MARKET IS GETTING OVERVALUED AGAIN
Time to Sell
Time to Buy
Time to Get Ready for an Historic Crash
Shiller PE Ratio for the S&P 500 1871-2014, as of August 9, 2014
INVESTING IN STOCKS
WHEN PE RATIOs ARE
over 25
WATCH OUT for a crash
INVESTING IN STOCKS
WHEN PE RATIOs ARE
Under 15
Its time to LOOK AT INVESTING!
ANGEL INVESTING
ANGEL INVESTING
IS PURCHASING OWNERSHIP
In EARLY STAGE
PRIVATE COMPANIES
ANGEL INVESTING
CHECK Out
ANGELLIST & FUNDABLE
TO SEE EARLY STAGE COMPANIES
YOU CAN INVEST IN
ANGEL INVESTING
ANGEL investing
Is highly risky
But if you invest in the right firms
Highly lucrative
MY portfolio
Since 2009 I have invested In THESE PRIVATE COMPANIES
MY portfolio
I focus on investing in companies
Which are solving
Major human challenges
That when solved will
Make the world a better place

What going public means
Going public means selling part of a
company to investors via a public market
like the New York Stock exchange or the
nasdaq
What going public means
Companies go public in order to
1. Raise capital for growth
2. Create a market for their shares
3. Enable employees to gain liquidity for their
options
How to properly value a company
THE BEST WAY TO DETERMINE THE
TRUE VALUE OF A PUBLIC COMPANY IS
TO CREATE A DISCOUNTED CASH FLOW (DCF)
FORECAST

How Buffet invests
BUFFETs investing method
INVOLVES UNDERSTANDING A FIRM WELL
CALCULATING WHAT HE BELIEVEs
THE fiRM IS ACTUALLY WORTH using dcf
THEN PURCHASING SHARES WHEN
Enough of a margin of safety exists

How Buffet works
WARREN BUFFET IN ESSENCE
CREATES DCF MODELS ON EACH COMPANY
HE INVESTS IN AND ENSURES THERES A
BIG MARGIN OF SAFETy BETWEEN WHAT HE
THINKS THE FIRM IS WORTH AND WHAT
THE MARKET THINKS THE FIRM IS WORTH

BECOMING A VALUe-ORIENTED INVESTOR
1. Avoid stocks with pe ratios over 25, unless they have extremely high
REVENUE growth (over 50% year)
2. Learn how to create a dcf valuation
3. Have the discipline to create a DCF valuation for every public
company investment you make
4. invest only when you have a 30% margin of safety between what your
DCF model says the company is worth and what the market sayS
Lessons from my 20s

LOVE
PART I, Section 13
WHAT LOVE MEANS TO ME
Laughter
Optimism
Vibrant
Energy


&
SIX STEPS TO BUILDING A GREAT RELATIONSHIP
TELL THE TRUTH
BUILD TRUST
BE VULNERABLE
GIVE TIME
FOLLOW THROUGH




& SHOW CARE WITH YOUR ACTIONS
SIX STEPS TO BUILDING A GREAT RELATIONSHIP
A GREAT WOMAN CAN
MAKE A HUGE DIFFERENCE

TO A GREAT MAN
SIX STEPS TO BUILDING A GREAT RELATIONSHIP
A GREAT MAN CAN
MAKE A HUGE DIFFERENCE

TO A GREAT WOMAN
SIX STEPS TO BUILDING A GREAT RELATIONSHIP
A GREAT pARTNER CAN
MAKE A HUGE DIFFERENCE

FOR ANYONE
The partner you choose makes a huge impact on your life
THE PARTNER YOU CHOOSE
TO BUILD A LIFE WITH
MAKES A HUGE IMPACT
ON YOUR ABILITY TO REACH YOUR POTENTIAL
LIVE WITH JOY AND POSiTIVITY




AND TRULY CHANGE THE WORLD
LOVING YOURSELF FIRST
BEFORE you CAN FIND
SOMEONE ELSE TO FALL IN LOVE WITH You



YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
BE AMAZING BEFORE YOU LOOK
BECAUSE TO FIND AN AMAZING PARTNER
YOU YOURSELF MUST FIRST BE



AMAZING
FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS FIRST
TO FIND A PARTNER WHO IS
FOLLOWING THEIR DREAMS
You must first be following



YOUR DREAMs
LIVE WITH PASSION FIRST
TO FIND A PARTNER WHO IS
LIVING PASSIONATEly
You Yourself must first be



LIVING PASSIONATELY
TO FIND A JEDI YOU MUST BECOME A JEDI
TO FIND A PARTNER WHO IS
ON THE PATH TO BEING A JEDI
You Yourself must first be



ON THE PATH
Yep, MARRY A JEDI
WHEN TWO JEDIS marry
ALL KINDS OF CRAZY GOOD SHIT
HAPPENS in the universe



HOW TO WIN A HEART
Heres what Ive
LEARNED SO FAR ABOUt
WINNING THE HEART
HOW TO WIN A HEART
Dont lead
Your partner on
(Be open and transparent about your intentions with the relationship)
HOW TO WIN A HEART
FOLLOW THE
GOLDEN RULE
IN ALL RELATIONSHIPS
HOW TO WIN A HEART
BE PLAYFUL
And let the little kid
Inside out!
HOW TO WIN A HEART
PUSH YOUR PARTNER
TO GET BETTER AND
BECOME THE BEST
VERSION OF THEMSELVES
HOW TO WIN Ryans HEART
GIVE LOTS OF

NECK MASSAGES
HOW TO WIN A HEART
NEVER EVER
TAKE THEM

FOR GRANTED
HOW TO WIN A HEART
NEVER STOP
BUYING THEM

FLOWERS
HOW TO WIN A HEART
A LONG PARTNERSHIP
REQUIRES MUTUAL RESPECT

AND SHARED GOALS
Lessons from my 20s

VALUES
PART I, Section 14
GLOBAL VALUES SYSTEMS
Origin Concept Name Description
Judaism Tikkun Olam The concept of repairing the world
Sanskrit Ahimsa A philosophy of do no harm
Confucian Li A set of norms that teaches brotherliness and community
Islamic Ummah A perspective on a supranational community
Christian Golden Rule A practice of treating others as you want to be treated
South Africa Ubuntu A spirit of cooperation between people of all colors and creeds
ACROSS MANY religion or spiritual traditions
a key guideline is to be able to care for others
Lets look at a few global values systems
My CORE VALUE
HERE IS MY CORE VALUE
DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOUD
HAVE DONE UNTO YOURSELF

EXPAND YOUR EMPATHY CIRCLE AND CARE FOR ALL PEOPLE
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What is it to be human?
To be human is to have the ability to transcend
our egocentric preconditioning and care so
DEEPLY FOR OUR CHILDREn, PARTNERS, FRIENDS
or even strangers that we WOULD PUT THEIR
INTEREST ABOVE OUR OWN NO MATTER WHAT IT
MIGHT COST US PERSONALLY

- RAY KURZWEIL
My VALUES
HERE ARE THE 50 VALUES
I HOLD DEARLY AND DO
MY BEST TO
ALWAYS LIVE BY
ACCEPTANCE
I shall recognize the
Uniqueness and humanity
OF THOSE WHO DIFFER

FROM MYSELF
ACTION
THOUGH DELIBERATE &
CAREFUL I SHALL HAVE
A BIAS TOWARD

ACTION
ADAPTATION
I shall MAINTAIN in A STATE
ABLE TO FLOW, LEARN & MODIFY
MYSELF TO FIT NEW

SURROUNDINGS OR OCCURENCES
ANALYSIS
I shall analyze what I do and
DO NOT DO AND ATTEMPT TO DERIVE
INHERENT LAWS, AXIOMS, TENANTS
AND GUIDEPOSTS BASED ON THE EFFECTS
OF MY ACTIONS & INACTIONS
BEST EFFORT
I shall PUT FORTH MY FULL
AND BEST EFFORT WITHIN THE
BOUNDARIES OF PROPER PHYSICAL

& MENTAL HEALTH
CHALLENGE
I shall often challenge MYSELF
& STEP OUTSIDE MY COMFORT ZONE
SO AS TO REACH

WORTHY GOALS
COLLABORATION
I shall WORK COLLABORATIVELY
WITH OTHERS WHO ARE BETTER THAN
I AM AT WHAT THEY DO

COMMITMENT
I shall UPHOLD MY
COMMITMENTS AND
UNDER-PROMISe AND

OVER-DELIVER
COMMUNICATION
I shall MAKE IT A PRIORITY
TO LEARN TO COMMUNICATE
EXTREMELY WELL

WITH OTHERS
CONFIDENCE
I shall ALWAYS BE
CONFIDENT & OPTIMISTIC AND

SET MY GOALS HIGH
CONTENTMENT
I shall BE ONLY
WHERE I AM AND SAVOR
EVERYTHING ABOUT THAT

MOMENT
DETAIl
I shall NOT DALLY
NEEDLESSLY IN DETAIl
BUT EXAMINE TO THE FULL

EXTENT NEEDED
ENVIRONMENTAL CONCIOUSNESS
THOUGH I SHALL PROMOTE THE MASTERY OF NATURE
FOR THE BETTERMENT OF LIVING CONDITIONS OF HUMANS
I SHALL NEVER FORGET THAT THE EARTH SHOULD

BE TREATED AS PRECIOUS AND THAT SUSTAINABILITY
MUST BE REQUIRED IF WE ARE TO SURVIVE AS A SPECIES


FOCUS
I shall RECOGNIZE THAT
WHILE I CAN DO ANYTHING
I CANT DO
EVERYTHING
FORGIVENESS
I shall FORGIVE THOSe
WHO HAVE MENDED WAYS
INCLUDING MYSELF

GENEROSITY
I shall GIVE TO OTHERS
HOWEVER I AM
BEST AND MOST ABLE

HEALTH
I shall maintain my health and EAT
sleep & Exercise IN SUCH A MANNER AS
TO MAINTAIN A HIGH LEVEL OF ENERGY

I SHALL ELIMINATE NEAGATIVE ENERGY AS
MY BODY IS A TEMPLE THAT
HOUSES MY

SPIRIT
HONESTY
I shall BE HONEST AND
FORTHRIGHT IN ALL
REPRESENTATIONS of
And Deliberations with
MYSELF


HUMILITY
I shall NOT BE AFRAID TO
ASK FOR HELP AND NOT
ASSUME MYSELF
ABOVE ANOTHER
INDUSTRY
I shall LOSE NO TIME AND ALWAYS
REFLECTION AND RELAXATION SHALL
BE INCLUDED IN THE DEFINITION OF
USEFUL
INTEGRITY
I SHALL ACT WITH INTEGRITY
AND IN ALIGNMENT WITH

WHAT I SAY I WILL DO
JUSTICE
I shall WRONG

NO oNE
KINDNESS
I SHALL LIVE A LIFE OF
KINDNESS & COMPASSION.

THERES NO REASON NOT TO.
LEARNING
I shall be continously

CONTINOUSLY READ
LISTENING
I SHALL STRIVE TO
LISTEN & UNDERSTAND
BEFORE I SPEAK
MENTORSHIP
I shall GIVE THE
KNOWLEDGE I HAVE AND
WILL GAIN

TO OTHERS
MISTAKES
I shall STRIVE TO LEARN
FROM THE MISTAKES
I MAKE AND TO NOT MAKE

TWICE
NATURE
I shall CONSERVE AND
PROTECT NATURE
AND ENSURE IT REMAINS

FOR MY GRANDCHILDREN
OPTIMISM
I shall ALWAYS

HALF FULL
ORGANIZATION
I shall KEEP MY LIFE
& BELONGINGS IN ORDEr
WHILE KEEPING SPACE FOR

EXHUBERENCE & CREATIVITY
PASSION
I shall ALWAYS
STRIVE FOR THAT
WHICH I BELIEVE

PERSERVERANCE
I shall NOT GIVE UP NOR
GIVE IN TOO SOON AS LONG
AS I FEEL A GOAL IS

WORTHY OF THE EFFORT
PLANNING
I shall PLAN FOR MY LIFE
AND UPComing EVENTS

POSITIVITY
I shall be positive
DURING ALL TIMES AND
BELIEVE IN THE POWER oF A

POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE
PREPARATION
I shall ATTEMPT TO ENTER
EACH SITUATION WITH AN
INTELLECTUAL FRAMEWORK

PRIMED & READY
PRESENCE
I shall FOCUS MY COMPLETE
ATTENTION ON THE SINGLE
INDIVIDUAL I AM

SPEAKING WITH
PUNCTUALITY
I shall be on

TIME
REFLECTION
I shall TAKE MOMENTS TO
REVIEW WHAT HAS BEEN DONE
AND EXAMINE SOCIETY AND MY

BEING, GOALS, and HABITS
RESPECT
I shall RESPECT

ALL OTHERS
SACRIFICE
I shall SAVE & INVEST FOR
TODAY SO AS TO GAIN FOR

TOMORROW
SINCERITY
I SHALL BE SINCERE AND

EMPOWERING WAY
SPIRITUALITY
I shall REALIZE I AM A
VERY SMALL PART OF THE
UNIVERSE AND HAVE GREAT

GRATITUDE FOR LIFE
SOLITITUDE
I SHALL HAVE A PERIOD OF PEACE
AND SOLITUDE AT THE BEGINNING
OF EACH DAY IN WHICH I SHALL
GIVE THANKS AND ENVISION

THE DAY AHEAD
SPONTANEITY
I SHALL PERFORM WEEKLY
EITHER An ACT OF KINDNESS
OR AN ACTIVITY WHICH I HAVE

NEVER DONE BEFORE
SUPERFICIALITY
I SHALL NOT FOCUS
ON THE OUTER
BUT ON THE INNER
TEACHING
I shall TRANSFER BOTH
KNOWLEDGE & ENERGY

IN TEACHING
TRANQULITY
I shall NOT BE DISTURBED
BY TRIFLES OR BY THAT
WHICH IS NOT TRULY

IMPORTANT
TRANSPARENCY
I shall LIVE A PUBLIC
LIFE AND SHARE
THE CONTENTS OF MY

Dreams & PLANS
TRAVEL
I shall MAKE A PRIORITY
TO SEE AND EXPLORE

THE WORLD
WORK ETHIC
I shall WORK BOTH HARD
AND INTELLIGENTLY AND
NOT LEAVE FOR TOMORROW
WHAT CAN BE DONE

TODAY
BEN FRANKLINs 13 Values
1. Temperance: Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.
2. Order: Let all your things have their places; let each part of
your business have its time.
3. Resolution: Resolve to perform what you ought; perform
without fail what you resolve.
4. Frugality: Make no expense but to do good to others or
yourself; i.e., waste nothing.
BEN FRANKLINs 13 Values
6. Moderation: Avoid extremes; forbear resenting injuries so
much as you think they deserve.
7. Industry: Lose no time; be always employed in something
useful; cut off all unnecessary actions.
8. Cleanliness: Tolerate no uncleanliness in body, clothes, or
habitation.
9. Tranquility: Be not disturbed at trifles, or at accidents
common or unavoidable.
BEN FRANKLINs 13 Values
9. Silence: Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling
conversation.
10. Sincerity: Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly, and, if you speak,
speak accordingly.
11. Justice: Wrong none by doing injuries, or omitting the benefits that are your
duty.
12. Chastity: Rarely use venery but for health or offspring, never to dullness,
weakness, or the injury of your own or another's peace or reputation.
13. Humility: Imitate Jesus and Socrates.
IN SUMMARY ON VALUES
YOUR LIFE WILL BE ENRICHED AND
YOU WILL SLEEP SOUNDLY AT NIGHT
KNOWING YOU ARE LIVING WITH A CONsCIOUS
SET OF VALUES



Financial plan exercise
You can do the following 10 minute
Values exercise now
Or put a time on your calendar
To return to it
Values
EXERCISE
Exercise: VALUES
Write down the 10 most important
Values to you?
CONNECT COMPANY VALUES CIRCA 2012
Lessons from my 20s

LIFE LESSoNS
PART I, Section 14
LIFE Lessons from 2005
Ive been KEEPING TRACK OF
THE major LESSONS Ive learned


Each YEAR Since 2005


LIFE Lessons from 2005
LISTEN TO THAT LITTLE VOICE
in the back of your HEAD


Its usually alerting
You to something
Important


LIFE Lessons from 2005
YOU CAN
ACHIEVE ANYTHING


YOU SET YOUR MIND TO
LIFE Lessons from 2005
Dont let
Non-communication
Lead to the


Degeneration of a
Relationship


LIFE Lessons from 2005
Dont AVOID DOING
THINGS JUST BECAUSE
THEY MAY CAUSE CONFLICT
LIFE Lessons from 2005
AT THE END OF THE DAY
Impact & INTEGRITY is
What matters
LIFE Lessons from 2005
NEVER Say BUT
INSTEAD SAY


YES, AND.
LIFE Lessons from 2005
THERE ARE TWO WAYS
TO DETERMINE THE RULES OF LIFE
TALKING TO SMART PEOPLE


and TRIAL AND ERROR
EITHER WAY
START LEARNING EARLY


LIFE Lessons from 2006
IF SOMEBODY SUES YOU
GO TALK TO THEM IN PERSON
IMMEDIATELY


LIFE Lessons from 2006
NETWORKING
IsnT ABOUT BUSINESS CARDS
ITs about building


Meaningful relationships

LIFE Lessons from 2006
2.4 Billion
PEOPLE


LIVE ON LESS THAN
TWO DOLLARS PER DAY


Source: World Bank
LIFE Lessons from 2006
Source: World Bank
EVERY Day 18,000
CHILDREN UNDER 5 DIE

MOST FROM PREVENTABLE
DISEASE AND LOW NUTRITION.
THIS DOESNt HAVE TO HAPPEN.


LIFE Lessons from 2006
Source: World Bank
80% OF HUMAN BEINGS
LIVE oN LESS THAN
$10 PER DAY


So IF YOURE LIVING ON MORE
THAN $10 PER DAY
Count your blessings

LIFE Lessons from 2007
LIFE IS PRECIOUS
AND CAN END ANYTIME


SO EXPRESS GRATITUDE DAILY
AND TELL THOSE YOU LOVE
THAT YOU LOVE THEM


LIFE Lessons from 2007
THE WORLD HAS
MORE OPPORTUNITIES
THAN YOU MIGHT THINK


so DEFINE YOUR PURPOSE
THEN SEEK THEM OUT

LIFE Lessons from 2007
PoSITIVE DEVELOPMENTS
OCCUR WHEN YOU
ASSOCIATE WITH


EXTRAORDINARY PEOPLE
LIFE Lessons from 2007
GRATITUDE
IS AN EXTREMELY POWERFUL
CHARACTER ATTRIBUTE


LIFE Lessons from 2007
HUMANS
HAVE A DEEP DESIRE
In THEIR LIVES FOR


LOVE AND AFFECTIOn
LIFE Lessons from 2007
IF THERES ONE
THING YOU OVERDo
IN LIFE MAKE IT


COMMUNICATIon
LIFE Lessons from 2007
LET YOUR INNER CHILD
COME OUT DAILY

AND SILLY DANCE
LIFE Lessons from 2007
AVOID GETTING
MARRIED
UNTIL YOURE ABLE TO

FULLY FINANCIALLY
SUPPORT YOURSELF


LIFE Lessons from 2007
AVOID HAVING CHILDREN
UNTIL YOU CAN

SAFELY FINANCIALLY
AFFORD CHILDREN


LIFE Lessons from 2007
GOOD HEALTH

IS EVERYTHING

LIFE Lessons from 2008
Dont ever
LET YOUR MIND


LIMIT YOURSELF
LIFE Lessons from 2008
One way to avoid
CRITICISM
IS TO DO NOTHING & STAND FOR NOTHING

THE WORLD WILL THEN
LEAVE YOU ALONE


LIFE Lessons from 2008
IF YOUre up to
something that matters
in the world
CRITICISM is inevitable

It comes with the territory
LIFE Lessons from 2008
ARROGANCE IS NOT
OVER-CONFIDENCE
It is being

DISMISSIVE OF OTHERS


LIFE Lessons from 2008
IT TAKES ten years TO
BECOME GREAT AT SOMETHING


CHOOSE CAREFULLY


Thus You can only
BECOME GREAT
AT 6 or 7 things
LIFE Lessons from 2009
DO SOMETHING WONDERFUL
EACH DAY WITH

INFECTIOUS ENTHUSIASM


LIFE Lessons from 2009
JUST SAY
OK GOOD

TO LIFE
LIFE Lessons from 2009
CANCER
IS HORRIBLE

LIFE Lessons from 2009
WE ALL HAVE
CHALLENGES

Its how you INTERPRET
& RESPOND TO THEM
THAT COUNTS


LIFE Lessons from 2009
PEOPLE GENERALLY
ACT CONSISTENTLY

WITH WHAT IS EXPECTED
OF THEM


LIFE Lessons from 2009
MANY PEOPLE
IN THE UNITED STATES

ARE NOT AUTHENTICALLY


HAPPY

LIFE Lessons from 2009
THERE IS BEAUTY
IN UNDERSTANDING

NUANCE
LIFE Lessons from 2009
ASK FOR
ADVICE

MORE OFTEN
LIFE Lessons from 2009
TO achieve big goals
You need TO
FOCUS
LIFE Lessons from 2009
THERE IS GREAT
POWER IN A
HANDWRITTEN NOTE
LIFE Lessons from 2009
FIND A WAY TO
MAKE ALL NEGOTIATIONS

BENEFIT

BOTH SIDES
LIFE Lessons from 2010
THE BEST MEDICINE
FOR STRESS

IS BREATHING
LIFE Lessons from 2010
THE 2
nd
BEST MEDICINE
FOR STRESS

IS LAUGHTER
LIFE Lessons from 2010
TRAVEL THE
WORLD FOR AT LEAST

3 weeks per year
LIFE Lessons from 2010
EVERY WEEK
WATCH a
TED VIDEO
LIFE Lessons from 2010
SPEND MORE HOURS
READING THAN YOU DO

WATCHING TV
LIFE Lessons from 2010
LIMIT TELEVISION
To 30 minutes

PER WEEK
LIFE Lessons from 2011
INVESTING in AFRICA NOW
IS LIKE INVESTING IN INDIA

In 1985
LIFE Lessons from 2011
NEARLY SUPER-HUMAN
FEATS ARE POSSIBLE
WHEN YOU ARE DEEPLY
PASSIONATE ABOUT




YOUR MISSION
Life lessons exercise
You can do the following 5 minute
Life lessons exercise now
Or put a time on your calendar
To return to it
Life Lessons
EXERCISE
Exercise: life lessons
Write down the 3 most important
Life lessons
You have ever learned
Lessons from my 20s

Sage advice
PART I, Section 15
FAVORITE QUOTES on LIVING
LIFE IS EITHER
DARING ADVENTURE

OR NOTHING
- HELEN KELLER
FAVORITE QUOTES on LIVING
ABOve
ALL

TRY SOMETHING
- FRANKLIN D. ROoSEVELT
FAVORITE QUOTES on LIVING
ONE WHO MAKES
NO MISTAKES

MAKES NOTHING
- GIACOMO CASANOVA
FAVORITE QUOTES on LIVING
DO ONE THING
EVERYDAY

THAT SCARES YOU
- ELEANOR ROOSEVELT
FAVORITE QUOTES on LIVING
NEVER DOUBT THAT
A SMALL GROUP OF
THOUGHFUL, COMMITTED CITIZENS

CAN CHANGE THE WORLD
- MARGARET MEAD
FAVORITE QUOTES on LIVING
Dont chase
THE PAPER

- P DIDDY
CHASE THE DREAM
FAVORITE QUOTES on LIVING
FAR BETTER IT IS TO DARE MIGHTY THINGS
THAN TO RANK WITH TIMID SPIRITS

WHO KNOW NEITHER
VICTORY NOR DEFEAT
- THEODORE ROOSEVELT
FAVORITE QUOTES on LIVING
HERES TO THE CRAZY ONES.
THE MISFITS, REBELS, & TROUBLEMAKERS
THE ONES WHO SEE THINGS DIFFERENTLY


- STEVE JOBS
BECAUSE THE PEOPLE WHO ARE CRAZY ENOUGH
TO THINK THEY CAN CHANGE THE WORLD
ARE THE ONES WHO DO
FAVORITE QUOTES on LIVING
WHETHER YOU THINK YOU CAN
OR YOU CANNOT

YOU ARE RIGHT
- HENRY FORD
FAVORITE QUOTES on LIVING
FOLLOW YOUR
BLISS

- JOSEPH CAMBELL
FAVORITE QUOTES on LIVING
UNTIL ONE IS COMMITTED, THERE IS HESITANCY
THE CHANCE TO DRAW BACK.
WHATEVER YOU CAN DO, BEGIN IN.


BOLDNESS HAS GENIUS, POWER, & MAGIC IN IT.
BEGIN IT NOW.
- W.H. Murray
FAVORITE QUOTES on LIVING
BEAUTY
IS THE ABSENCE


OF THE SUPERFLUOUS
- Greek SCHOLARS
FAVORITE QUOTES on LIVING
- Greek SCHOLARS
SIMPLICITY
IS THE ULTIMATE


SOPHISTICATION
- LEONARDO DE VINCI