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Lessons from my 20s

exercises
From the presentation
Appendix:
ABOUT THIS PRESENTATION
THIS presentation can be found
Online at
Thirteen exercises inside
1. Goals exercise
2. Vision board exercise
3. Bucket List exercise
4. Inner circle exercise
5. Mindset exercise


6. Meditation exercise
7. Habits exercise
10. Financial plan exercise
11. Values exercise
12. Team retreat exercise
13. Human rights exercise


GOALS
EXERCISE
GOAL SETTING PROCESS
OPEN UP GOOGLE DOCS
CREATE HEADINGS For 1 YRs, 10 YRs, AND LIFETIME
THEN WRITE DOWN 5 TO 7 GOALS IN EACH CATEGORY


MAKE EVERYTHING FIT ON ONE PAGE
MAKE SURE ALL GOALS ARE MEASURABLE SO YOULL KNOW IF YOU GOT THERE OR NOT
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PRINT OUT TWO COPIES
SIGN THEM
FRAME THEM

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GOAL SETTING PROCESS
PUT ONE FRAME IN YOUR BEDRO0M
PUT ONE FRAME AT WORK
SHARE YOUR ONE-PAGER WITH A CLOSE FRIEND

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GOAL SETTING PROCESS
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DEC 26-31 CALCULATE RESULTS
GREEN = MADE IT
YELLOW = 50%+ there
RED = <50% there
UPDATE GOAL SHEET FOR THE NEXT YEAR
& REPRINT/RESIGN/PUT IN FRAME
GOAL SETTING PROCESS
MAKING YOUR GOALS AMBITIOUS ENOUGH

OF YOUR GOALS

IF HIGHER, THEN
YOUR GOALS ARE NOT
AMBITIOUS ENOUGh

66%
YOU SHOULD BE HITTING AROUND
LIFE PURPOSE
exercise
How to FIND YOUR PURPOSE
EXERCISE: CREATE YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
LIFE PURPOSE EXERCISE Instructions:

1. Print out this section so you can write in it with pen
2. Use a timer to give yourself exactly 4 mins per question
3. Write out the answers in the ovals
4. At the end, youll bring it all together in a final one-page
worksheet that you can frame if you choose
5. This exercise should take 90 minutes to complete
What do you really love doing?
When am I most in ow/in the zone? What excites me? What makes me come alive and be joyous?
4 min

What does THE WORLD need?
What does humanity and the world need to thrive? List as many things as you can think of.
4 min

HOW CAN I CREATE WHAT THE WORLD NEEDS WHILE DOING WHAT I LOVE?
What are all the things you could do in life that would serve humanity in a big way
and allow you to do what you love? Brainstorm below.
4 min

WHAT ARE MY PERSONAL FINANCIAL GOALS?
What do you want your annual income to be in 10 years? In 20?
What do you want to have saved up in investments and savings by age 65?
4 min

HOW CAN I GET PAID TO DO WHAT I LOVE?
What could you do in life that would serve humanity in a big way, allow you to do what you love, and create economic
value that allows you to reach and surpass your personal nancial goals?
4 min

DESCRIBE HOW THE WORLD WILL BE DIFFERENT IN 2050 because of you
Close your eyes for 5 minutes and imagine all the little details of how our world will be different in 2050 because of you.
Then write what you see.
4 min

WHAT IS THE CHANGE YOU ARE COMMITED TO?
What is so compelling to you that you might be willing to dedicate your life to making it happen?
In other words, what might be your life purpose. Use the space to brainstorm.
4 min

WHAT IS THE CHANGE YOU ARE COMMITED TO?
See if you answer the above question as simply as possible so that a 10 year old would understand it.
Try to do it in fewer than 15 words (no pressure, this is just a draft). This could be considered your life purpose.
4 min

POSSIBLE METRICS OF SUCCESS
What are some metrics to track whether your life purpose is being realized in the world over the next 35 years? Make these metrics
specic and quantitative so it will be clear when youve achieved the impact you want to make in your life.
Examples: Global infant mortality < 1%; Global energy from renewables >95%; Carbon dioxide under 350
PPM; Homelessness in Oakland, CA down by 80%
4 min

HOW MIGHT YOU MAKE THIS HAPPEN?
What can you create/build/do during your life to help make this world that you dream of real? Its okay
if you arent completely sure yet. Brainstorm ideas.
4 min

LIFETIME GOALS
Brainstorm some goals for the rest of your life that align with the impact you want to make. Think about areas of life like
health, travel, experiences, adventures, work, nances, relationships, and impact.
4 min

10 YEAR GOALS
Brainstorm some goals for the next ten years that align with the impact you want to make. Think about areas of life like
health, travel, experiences, adventures, work, nances, relationships, and impact.
4 min

ONE YEAR GOALS
Brainstorm some goals for the next year that align with the impact you want to make. Think about areas of life like health,
travel, experiences, adventures, work, nances, relationships, and impact.
4 min

90 DAY Action plan
What are the very rst action steps you can take over the next 90 days to start realizing your vision? Who should
you reach out to? What should you look into? What habits do want to start and stop?
4 min

YOUR DESIRED WAY OF BEING
Examples: Joyous, mindful, alive, focused, driven, ambitious, kind, compassionate, loving

As you go about your journey in life, how do you want to be inside and come across to others?
What words do you want to dene you?
4 min

HOW OTHERS WILL REMEMBER YOU
Examples: I will be known in the world as the sustainable energy person
I will be known in the world as the womens rights advocate
I will be known in the world as the global leaders convener
People will help you reach your goals if they can remember what youre all about. If often hard to discern what the people you meet are up to
and who they need to be connected to. Make it simple for others you meet to remember what youre up to by nishing the below sentence
and making sure those you meet know what youre up to in the world.

I will be known in my community as the

_______________________ ____________________

person.
4 min

NOW BRING IT ALL TOGETHER
On the next page is a blank life plan form.

Give yourself some time to review and reect on all your answers from the brainstorming
session. Then print out and ll in the life plan form with a pen or pencil. Feel free to adjust
your answers as you go, but dont worry too much about getting it perfect.

Consider this form as just a draft. You can print out another one anytime.

There are no right answers and you can re-do your life plan as often as you want. I nd just
having something written down helps people a lot. I actually recommend re-doing this
exercise at the end of each year.

I suggest framing the page after youre done and putting it up in your ofce or bedroom.
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15 min

Life purpose
1 year goals
90 day action plan
Signed on _______________, _______ 20___ X______________________________________
Metrics of success by 2050
My desired way of being
How Ill make It happen
Lifetime goals
I will be known in my community as the ______________________________ ______________________________ person.
10 year goals
Life Plan of ___________________________________
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
As an example
Here is my current life plan
In the 1 page format
I update it about 1x per year
Life purpose
Example: Life Plan of Ryan Allis
Signed on _______________, _______ 20___ X______________________________________
Metrics of success by 2050:
Desired way of being:
How Ill make It happen:
I will be known in my community as the global leadership person.
Building a movement that creates an abundant, sustainable, and joyous world for all people
1) All people have access to the 6 BHNs 2) 95% energy from renewable sources 3) 0 major conicts globally as dened by the UCDP

1) Build Connect into a global platform for connecting communities
2) Build Hive into a global community of extraordinary leaders who are creating a better world.
Joyous, happy, fully alive
90 Day Action Plan
10 year goals
Lifetime goals
1. 1 million people us Connect each day to stay connected
2. Publish a book about making a difference in the world for initial feedback
3. Hold 4 Hive Global Leaders Programs in San Francisco
4. Visit South America for the rst time
5. Build habit of meditating 6x per week
6. Deepen relationship with Nadia
1. 10 million people use Connect each day to stay connected
2. Grow Hive to 10 protable global locations
3. Train others to hold Hive gatherings
4. Build a relationship with an amazing life partner
5. Travel widely to explore perspectives on human society, spirituality, and human
potential
6. Publish a book on creating an extraordinary life, world, and company
1. Be an extraordinary partner and father
2. Catalyze a movement that creates an abundant, sustainable, and joyous world
3. Create a Hive in 1000 cities around the world
4. Create the worlds most impactful network of global leaders
5. Explore widely and be a lifelong learner
6. Live a joyous, happy, and fully alive life
1 Year Goals
1. Hold September 2014 Hive Global Leaders Program
2. Get Connect to 1,000,000 users
3. Prepare Connect for Series A
4. Meditate daily
5. Travel with Nadia to England
6. Publish Everything I Learned By 30 Presentation
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
Once you have it Share your life plan
With five friends & mentors
In the next 14 days
AND GET THEIR FEEDBACK AND INPUT
THEY MAY BE ABLE TO CONNECT YOU TO
PEOPLE WHO CAN HELP
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
When you meet people you should
be able to CLEARLY express
Your life purpose
in 15 WORDS or less WITH
AUTHENTIC EXCITEMENT IN A WAY THAT
moves people WHEN YOU TELL THEM
Vision board
exercise
VISION BOARDS
VISION BOARDS
ARE WHITE POSTER BOARDS
COVERED WITH CUT OUT IMAGES

OF WHAT YOU WANT TO
SEE IN YOUR FUTURE
AND THE WORLDS FUTURE

MY 2009 VISION BOARD
A Friends 2014 Vision board
VISION BOARD CREATING PROCESS
SEARCH FOR & PRINT OUT AT LEAST 5 IMAGES IN EACH OF THE BELOW CATEGORIES
FAMILY
HEALTH
EDUCATION
TRAVEL
Adventure







CAREER
FINANCIAL
QUOTES
VALUES
ART








VISION BOARD CREATION PROCESS
ONCE PRINTED & TORN OUT
CUT tO SIZE
THEN PASTE OR TAPE

ONTO YOUR VISION BOARD
THEN SHARE IT WITH A FRIEND
AND HANG IT IN YOUR BEDROOM

Bucket list
exercise
BUCKET LISTS
BUCKET LISTs
ALLOW YOU TO CAPTURE
YOUR DREAMS
THEY ARE another way to
CREATE YOUR FUTURE

BUCKET LISTS
YOU CAN CREATE THEM AS A LIST
OR EVEN BETTER
PUT THEM UP ON YOUR WALL WITH

POST-IT NOTES
BUCKET LISTS
YOU SHOULD UPDATE YOUR BUCKET LIST
ONCE PER YEAR
NEAR YOUR BIRTHDAY
OR THE LAST 5 DAYS OF THE YEAR

CREATING YOUR BUCKET LIST
NOW, GO AHEAD
GRAB SOME POST-iT NOTES OR
OPEN A GOOGLE DOC
AND START MAKING

YOUR BUCKET LIST
CREATING YOUR BUCKET LIST
WRITE DOWN ALL THE
AMAZING EXPERIENCES
YOU WANT TO HAVE OVER
THE REST OF YOUR LIFE

AND DREAM BIG
INNER CIRCLE
EXERCISE
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
ON A SHEET OF PAPER LIST
YOUR TOP 20 FRIENDS

EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
NEXT, circle the names of THE 10
people WHO inspire you MOST
BASED ON WHAT THEY ARE DOING
WITH THEIR LIVES
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
Now, create a new list of 10 people
You arent very close with
who inspire you
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
Finally, combine the lists of 10 to create your
NEW INNER CIRCLE
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
SPEND YOUR TIME
WITH inspiring PEOPLE WHO ARE
UP TO SOMETHING BIG
IN THE WORLD
that will help others
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
IF YOU dont know enough inspiring people
Who are up to something big in the world
Join the networks
Listed in the networks section
Of this presentation
Mindset
exercise
Exercise: Mindset shift
On a sheet of paper
Write down for 5 minutes
how your life would be
Different if you never worried
And were never anxious

Exercise: Mindset shift
On a sheet of paper
Write down for 5 minutes
All the things that are holding you
Back that you can just give up
And choose to put in the past

Meditation
exercise
EXERCISE: alternate nostril breathing
First watch the video on
Alternate nostril breathing

Now, sit on the ground cross legged
Follow the video instructions for 5 minutes
Afterward, make note of how your brain feels
(bit.Ly/alternatenostrils)
Exercise: Sun salutation
Get on the floor and actually try to do 2 sun salutations
Video at http://bit.ly/sunsalutationvideo
HABITS
Exercise
EXERCISE: HABITS
FIRst, Get a sheet of paper and
And write down all your HABITS
you want to stART
EXERCISE: HABITS
Now write down all
All the habits
you want to stOP
EXERCISE: HABITS
Now write down all
All the habits
you want to CONTINUE
EXERCISE: HABITS
Next, write down bullets of how
Youd be Be better off if you
IMPLEMENTED YOUR new habit system
EXERCISE: HABITS
NOW make a weekly plan to
ACTUALLY Implement the
HABITS IN YOUR LIFE THAT
CREATE THE RESULTS YOU WANT
EXERCISE: HABITS
FINALLY, open up your calendar
And put your new habits
ACTUALLY ON YOUR CALENDAR on REPEAT
FINANCIAL
PLAN EXERCISE
EXERCISE: Creating a basic financial plan
1. Calculate your current monthly income after taxes
2. Calculate your current total monthly expenses
3. Add up your savings, investments, and other assets
4. Calculate the total amount of debt you have
5. Set a goal for your monthly income and expenses 2 years
from now
6. Use these figures to fill out the sheet on the next page

This exercise should take about 30 minutes. You can do it now or come back to it.
Exercise: Creating A BASIC Financial Plan
Assets Debts
Income Expenses
Financial Plan of __________
Signed X__________________________ this ____ day of _____ 20_____
Net Worth
Cashow
Income
Expenses Cashow
Present Monthly
24 Months From Now Monthly Goal
Values
EXERCISE
Exercise: VALUES
Write down the 10 most important
Values to you?
Life Lessons
EXERCISE
Exercise: life lessons
Write down the 3 most important
Life lessons
You have ever learned
Team Retreat
Exercises
Building connection & Familiarity within your team
HERE ARE 4 retreat
Exercises that are
Worthwhile to do with
Your team
Exercise 1: Inner and outer story
ASK each TEAM member TO share:

1. 120 seconds - ACCOMPLISHMENTS and resume (OUTER STORY)
2. 240 seconds YOUR HIDDEN INNER STORY
Deep down inside what do you worry about?
What are you insecure about?
WHAT HAVE YOU STRUGGLED WITH MOST IN THE LAST 2 years?
What are you afraid of BEHIND THE FAADE?

FOR A SUCCESSFUL EXERCISE, BE SURE TO TAKE THE TIME TO Create a setting of confidentiality and
openness to being vulnerable
1. HAVE EACH team member SPEND 5 minutes to think about and then
WRITE DOWN in NO MORE THAN 10 words THE ANSWER TO: what
change do you want to make in the world WITH YOUR LIFE?
2. Then have each person share their 1 sentence with the group
3. THEN have EACH PERSON ONE AT A TIME STAND UP AND ANSWER THE
QUESTION WHY DO YOU DO WHAT YOU DO? For 4 minutes

For a successful exercise
If the speaker finishes talking before the 4 minutes is up, ask them the question again
and have them answer it again
Dont allow any other question to be asked during the 4 minutes
Exercise 2: the change you wish to make
1. HAVE EACH PERSON WRITE DOWN 4 pivotal moments in
their life
2. HAVE EACH PERSON SHARE THE 4 pivotal moments and
how they handled them and dealt with them with
the group

FOR A SUCCESSFUL EXERCISE
CREATE AN ENVIRONMENT OF CARE AND CONFIDENTIALITY
Exercise 3: Pivotal moments
1. PAIR OFF INTO TWOs IN A QUIET LOCATION
2. HAVE ONE PERSON TAKE 5 minutes to share the story of the
most difficult and vulnerable MOMENT IN THEIR LIFE
3. HAVE THE PARTNER ASK EXACTLY 3 follow-up questions
4. THEN SWITCH ROLES

FOR A SUCCESSFUL EXERCISE
ALLOT AT LEAST 30 minutes for the exercise as the exercise can
bring up difficult emotional situations that require time to
process BEFORE THE SESSION CONTINUES
Exercise 4: Crucible moments
Human rights
EXERCISE
Exercise: human rights
Write down two principles you would
Create for the world if you were a
Pre-birth soul and didnt know where
youd be born, your skin color, your gender,
or your Parents income
Exercise: human rights
Now, write down:
Are you committed to working toward
Creating a world based on those principles?
Why or why not?