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professional settings. These include a variety of related topics, including jealousy, communication, power and control, sexual harassment, and of course description of all types of abuse. English and Spanish speaking advocates can also train teachers, service providers, parent groups, to recognize potential red flags in the child and students. Advocates are available to anyone who is concerned with the problem of teen abusive relationships. For more information or to schedule presentations or workshops call our program coordinator at (805) 564-3300.

Teen Services Advocates from Domestic Violence Solutions are available year-round for presentations on teen

relationship issues. We provide interactive activities, and videos in the high schools, Jr. High schools and any

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professional settings. These include a variety of related topics, including jealousy, communication, power and control, sexual

Relationship violence

happens

to teenagers too…

Over 1 in 4 teens have been assaulted by their dates.

1 out 3 high school students will experience dating violence before they graduate.

Nearly 2 out 4 teenage mothers have experienced abuse in their relationships.

Nationally, homicide is the second leading cause of death among women age 15 to 19 years.

Teens of all ages, boys and girls can both be victims & abusers, rich and poor, gay and straight.

Teen Dating Violence affects everyone equally.

professional settings. These include a variety of related topics, including jealousy, communication, power and control, sexual

Classroom Presentations & DV Awareness Training In Your Communities

A Program of Domestic Violence Solutions for Santa Barbara County

805-564-3300

professional settings. These include a variety of related topics, including jealousy, communication, power and control, sexual

www.dvsolutions.org

Mandy, 17 said “I always thought it was my fault when

my partner was upset. I deserved what I got, because he loved me and only wanted what was best for me. I

didn’t listen until my younger sister got into a similar

situation, and I saw how wrong it was for her and that I

needed to help myself too.”

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Mandy, 17 said “I always thought it was my fault when my partner was upset. I

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Victor, 13 said “When I head to school I have to get

Lisa, 16 y/o said “When you are caught in the cycle of violence, you have this hope that things will eventually

The following are all signs of abuse. Some you may know, some may surprise you:

myself in the mindset to be rough and tough because that’s what boys are expected to be like; I need no

get better. You try the best you can to help the relationship and your partner, but you have to realize

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help, nothing can hurt me and I am in control.”

that they can only change themselves. You need to

Humiliation in front of others, put downs

know when the time has come to put yourself first!”

Jealousy and possessiveness

Juan, 18 said “Relationships at school are hard, I mean

‘real man’ because the moment you are nice to a girl

Controlling where you go, how you dress, who you

how do you know what is expected these days of a

This cycle shows how easy it is to get sucked into the pattern of abuse.

talk to. Intimidation/Posturing: Making you afraid

you are considered a wimp, so you got to play it tough.

with a look

I didn’t learn to be myself until I got away from school:

Blame: Nothing is ever their fault

My advice; be yourself, respect yourself and others and

surprisingly others will respect for it!”

Domestic Violence Solutions and the agencies below offer services and information just for teens. You can call without giving your name!

DVS Teen & Volunteer Programs: 805-564-3300

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Santa Barbara 805-964-5245 Lompoc 805-736-0965 Santa Maria 805-925-2160 SB Rape Crisis Center 805-564-3696 Pacific Pride Foundation 805-963-3636 SB Teen Legal Clinic 805-560-9820 Teen Safety 805-963-8775

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Hitting, slapping, pushing
Smashing things
Driving recklessly to scare you
 Forcing you to do something you don’t want to do
(i.e. sex, drugs, alcohol)
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If you find any of these in your relationship, you may
want to talk to someone to be sure you are not in an
abusive relationship or overstepping your rights in a
relationship!
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Mandy, 17 said “I always thought it was my fault when my partner was upset. I

Education code section 48915, subdivision (a), requires the principal to recommend expulsion for a student causing physical injury to another person, expect in self defense.

It is unlawful for a student to “commit any act that

causes or is likely to cause bodily danger, physical harm or personal degradation resulting in physical or mental

harm to any fellow students”. (Misdemeanor, Ed. Code

32051)

It is unlawful to harass another student. (Misdemeanor

or felony, penal code 6446.9)