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Interview with Carolyn A. Brent:
A Caregiver’s Story
By LanaBandoim | Posted June 11, 2013
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I had the opportunity to interview Carolyn A. Brent who is the founder of the
nonprofit organization A Caregiver’s Story and Grandpa’s Dream. She is an
activist and advocate for caregivers. Brent has proposed a bill in the California
state legislature and hopes to see it on the 2013 ballot.
Carolyn A. Brent gave a presentation to the California State Assembly in
February about raising the penalties for vexatious litigation. She recently
shared how her own battles as a caregiver have pushed her to help others in
the same role.
“For 12 years, I took care of my father, a veteran who earned a Purple Heart,
as he suffered from dementia, and my siblings refused to help,” stated Brent.
She was the sole caregiver for her father and moved him into her home. After
his dementia became more serious, and he was found wandering the streets
170 miles away from her house, she was forced to move him into a care
home. Brent paid an additional $6,500 a month out of her own pocket for his
private assisting living facility because the $1,500 he received in benefits from
the government was not enough. She worked full-time in the sales division of
the pharmaceutical industry to support him.
Carolyn A. Brent stated her nightmare began after her father had an
emergency and ended up in the hospital. “My siblings thought my father was
going to die. They took me to probate court and accused me of neglecting
him. One of my family members filed a restraining order, and I was
investigated by both the state and federal government. They wrongly believed
my father had money, but I had been paying for all of his expenses,”
Brent became the victim of vexatious litigation as her family dragged her
through different jurisdictions just to drop the charges as soon as she made a
court appearance. Her sister actually forced Carolyn’s niece to give her one of
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the restraining orders outside of the courtroom. Brent was wrongly accused of
abuse and neglect. The restraining order prevented her from seeing her father
as his condition deteriorated. “To this day, I still don’t know where he is buried.
I only know he died because someone called me. My sister ended up putting
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him in a state institution because she couldn’t afford the private facilities,” said
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Carolyn A. Brent is advocating for a change that would make vexatious
litigation less appealing to family members and others. Currently, it is a
misdemeanor, but she would like it to become a felony. Since 2008, she has
been pushing for this change while helping caregivers. She has supported her
nonprofit organization with her own money and has spent $100,000. She
hopes she can partner with others in the future and find more funding to
advocate for this important cause. Brent would like to prevent other caregivers
from becoming victims of this type of abuse.
TAGS: litigation, caregivers, nonprofit, law, news
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June 17, 2013
June 13, 2013
June 13, 2013
Thank you Mary for your continued support. Sincerely, Carolyn
This story is essential to families and Carolyn Brent has done outstanding
work in this area. I hope everyone reads her book and pays attention to
such occurences. The issue of vexatious litigation is one that hurts everyone
involved in the situation.
Thank you for your comment jruka. The aim is to educate the world about
this well known problem.
This has been a growing trend amongst innocent caregivers who care for a
parent and are faced with elder abuse by greedy siblings and family
members who know, in most cases, nothing about the health or welfare of
their aging parent. If it was not for a caring daughter or son of the family
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