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Friendship - Paper #2
Task One:
Ive been blessed in life to have multiple guys whom I could call my best friend. All of
them make it hard to pick just one. But if I had to pick a friend who I believe Im closest to and
share the most with, it would be Noah Neike. Like the shoe, but he hates when people say that.
My best friend for about five years now, we went to the same high school and met through our
freshman baseball team. A similar sense of humor and bonding through the team put us in a
clique of about eight guys in total, some of which I would still call my best friends as well. But
Noah was different, he was more mature and had a darker sense of humor that made everyone
around him laugh uncontrollably. He was our peer but we all seemed to look up to him as if he
was older, there was always a natural aura of leadership around him.
Task Two:
I never noticed it when we were just beginning to be friends but Noah has always been a
cross between role model and friend for me. Our similar interests have always put us together,
sometimes working with each other and sometimes working against. I actually hated him in the
beginning of our freshman baseball season because we were both competing for the 1st base
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position. Also along the lines of baseball, hes a Pittsburgh Pirates fan and Im a Chicago Cubs
fan so we tend to get into it whenever we can about it whether they play each other or not. It
tends to be quite entertaining for myself and our friends, as Noah is an adamant arguer. Hes also
the friend I can be open with my nerdiness and we would geek out on video games for hours
together.
Sometimes were Collaborators, but no matter what, I know Noah is always my
Companion for anything. When my parents were having troubles, I stayed at Noahs for a few
nights and away from my own house. Even when we don't get along well, which can be often at
times, I know hes got my back. Unlike a few of my friends I have never outgrown Noah, and
since he goes to Eastern Kentucky University Ive seen him twice throughout the semester. We
stayed up talking until five in the morning just like we used to and it was one of the best nights
Ive had so far in college. Yet being apart and seeing each other after a long period of time I
realized something else about Noah, hes also become my Champion. As soon as he got out of
the car he says to his friends Guys, this is my best friend and gave me a big unexpected hug.
It doesn't seem like much but he continues to praise me throughout every day we spend together
now and I believe during our time apart he genuinely missed me.
I may have missed him more as there are few to none who I know that would stay up late
just talking with me. Its honestly not something I would normally do either, but for Noah Id do
just about anything. A fellow Companion, as well as a Collaborator, but when it comes to
Champion Im just a little more external and reserved with my expressions of endearment. I
don't give Noah the same amount of admiration and love as he does me. Yet one thing I offer in
substitute is motivation and words of encouragement. Throughout high school I was the friend
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who checked up on other friends grades and told them their smart enough to be doing better.
Otherwise known as the Builder, or Motivator. In college, Noah has been failing. I feel as
though I failed him, to check up, or encourage him to do his work and succeed like I know he
can. Hes always been a bit lazy, similar to myself, but I don't sleep and he's like a bear in
constant slumber. There is nothing I want more than him to succeed in school and life in general,
because I know he has the heart and mind to do so. Sometimes he just needs to be reminded to
use them.
Task Three:
Concept One: Internal vs. External
I think what draws me and Noah so close together is our ability to dive into more internal
topics. Unlike most of our friends who remain external, Noah is the one friend who talks most
about topics with depth and meaning, relationships, family, or even feelings. Although he may
seem a tough and stoic, in a personal setting Noah is very open with the inner workings of his
emotions. Yet he has no problem talking about general external topics, especially sports, in a
more socially pressured environment.
Recently Noah and I happened upon our most internal discussion ever, the topic of
Depression. About a week before, Noahs friend and pledge brother died in an accident. Noah
and I talked on the phone a few times before he came to UK to talk in person, and he told me of
all his struggles at school. How he loved the school and pledging but was failing his classes and
planned on moving back home. And then he said he had been depressed for a long time now,
and had even been going to help throughout high school. The emotions I felt are hard to put into
words, a feeling as though I had failed him as a friend engulfed me. I tried to motivate him with
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words of encouragement and relate to his depression with times I felt I had been through it.
Eventually he took the conversation away from the topic and into more superficial, external
things.
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Occasionally Noah and I would argue, always about ridiculous things like sports or girls.
But one time it got a little out of control and we were full blown throwing fists at each other. It
ended up in a little bit of wrestling, jeering and laughter from our friends and about an hour later
we just hugged it out and laughed. It was as if nothing happened.
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express their affirmation of a friend, Noah however, is unique. I on the other hand assume
friendship and that he knows hes my dear friend, therefore sometimes I regret not telling him he
is. The depth and breadth of Noah and Is conversations also defy the researchers findings, I talk
about anything I want to with Noah with key detail. With three of the four findings being
somewhat false for my best friend and Is relationship it is apparent the research on Gender
Differences inaccurately depicts all friendships.
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