How to Build RelationshipsSome useful tips-

1. Praising Appropriately
2. Praising to a third person
3. Smiling
4. Being honest
5. Caring
6. Touching/ hugging/ kissing (as appropriate)
7. Encouraging
8. Trusting
9. Showing/ Expressing love
10. Giving something to eat
11. Enquiring- How are you? Did you have your meals? Did you
12. sleep well? Etc.
13. Energetic salutations like- Good morning, etc.
14. Thank you, please, I am sorry.
15. Helping others
16. Praying for other
17. Listening Empathically
18. Talk about weather
19. Strike a discussion about cricket/ politics etc.
20. Talk about other persons interests
21. Inquire about family and children
22. Talk about their dress
23. Talk about their possessions (carefully)
24. Never cut them while they speak
25. Sympathizing
26. Saying/ using other persons words, expressions, gestures
27. Using soft & sweet language patterns
28. Sharing a joke / story
29. Finding something agreeable to both
30. Confiding
31. Sharing a secret
32. Clapping (give me five)
33. Noticing new, special or good things in others
34. Giving / donating / lending money (when appropriate)
35. Having common interest
36. Respecting/ honouring
37. Forgiving
38. Showing patience
39. Showing self-restrain when somebody expects you to get angry
40. etc.
41. Being gentle
42. Win win attitude
43. Communicating without emotional overcharge
44. Preserving dignity
45. Allowing others to save face

46. Enthusiasm/ zest

47. Protecting others
48. Doing justice
49. Being punctual
50. Working in team
51. Talking about others native place
52. Talking about her/his family
53. Talking about her/his young age experience/s
54. Remembering previous happy occasions

Synergy Affirmations1)
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There is a high level of understanding among family members.

Each one is making a solid progress in career, self-improvement and self-discipline.
All members feel peacefulness.
There is mutual trust.
Whole family is neat and tidy. We have place for everything, and keep everything in its
place.
6) Parents can and do inspire children to achieve great things.
7) Each one has learned to listen empathically.
8) Each one is very efficient and effective- achieving more in career, financial matters,
education and general knowledge, with least input of physical effort, time, money, and
mental effort.
9) Each one is capable and empowered to do a large variety of activities.
10) Each one has peace of mind and feels wise and guided.
11) Each one understands financial matters.
12) Each one is enthusiastic.
13) Each one regularly exercises.
14) Each member puts others interest ahead of self-interest.
15) There is a high degree of co-operation among members.
16) Each one has learned to maintain relationships, enhance love and learned skills of
conflict management, so that the relationship is reinforced and becomes stronger after the
conflict.
17) All members experience GESTALT- feel that together we are greater than sum of individuals.
18) Each one has learned to make new relationships and maintain them at appropriate level.
19) Each one has learned correct moral principles and helps others to learn and follow them.
20) All are using KAIZEN and improve everything in a highly creative manner.
21) All of us understand value of time and use it efficiently.
22) Each one is capable of giving and receiving love.
23) We dwell in Quadrant II. i. e. do all work ahead of deadlines.
24) We are effective in whatever we do.
25) Each one feels internally secure, is a self-referred person and has internal synergy- has
access to intuitive, creative and visual aspects as well as logical, analytical and verbal aspects of
our personality.
26) Each one has learned to use skills in relationships, health, money matters, script and
parenting and love life (where appropriate) adjusting and changing paradigms to more
positive ones, and learned to achieve balance in all six areas.
27) Each one has learned to accept inevitable contradictions in reality and in individual
paradigms.
28) Each has learned emotional intelligence- has learned to postpone enjoyment, to discipline
ourselves in the present to enhance enjoyment in the future.
29) We heartily praise good things in others.
30) We are all autonomous. Our love does not bind others, but liberates them and helps them
achieve autonomy.
31) We have learned skills of interdependence We think win win.
We first try to understand and then try to be understood.
We synergize.
32) All of us have found purpose in our lives/ trying to find it.