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Man Health and Multiple Orgasms

Sexual exhaustion after ejaculation 2 Male Ejaculation and Orgasm Mastery 7 MMO based on PC muscle relaxation 11 Energy Orgasm 18 Practical Guide for MMO & Man Health Strengthening 20 STUD-MAKER-DRILL – Ending premature ejaculation 26 The Key Sound Technique 31 Mantras 40 Urogenital and PC muscle Exercises 55 The Cool Draw & the Big Draw 62 Ballooning (Power-up) Method 70 Sexual Chi Kong & Tailbone Exercise 86 Ejaculation Control & Seminal Retention 96 On Love Coupling 123 Sexual exhaustion 130 Exercise & Sexual Health 141 Penile Enlargement Exercise 155

 

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Sexual exhaustion after ejaculation

 

Tiredness usually takes some hours after ejaculation, no matter how thrilling, full, or otherwise the sexual experience might be. In that early memory, some hours after masturbation I ran to catch a bus. London buses in those days had an open platform at the end that you could run and  jump onto. As I ran to jump onto the platform I realized it was really difficult to move my limbs because I felt so tired. Subsequent experiences strengthened the connection in my mind between such episodes of tiredness and ejaculation. Another factor adds to my viewpoint of such tiredness being physiological rather than psychological. I have always been a very active person physically and psychologically. I love exercise and being fit. Even in my middle sixties I still have a strong muscular body. But throughout my life I have suffered from lack of energy - tiredness. It has always seemed to me that my premature birth has something to do with that. I have no proof of this, but comparing myself with other people I feel as if my body wasn't quite fully formed, and my metabolism is never quite as efficient as it might be. But that is only a guess. What I have observed as a fact though, is that for most of my life I have had to manage my energy like a bank balance. I had to be careful of my expenditure because my balance is so low I easily tipped over into the red. My observation with other people is that they can expend enormous amounts of energy and not tip over into the red. They can stay up late, eat food that is real junk, drink alcohol and get drunk again and again, depleting the resources of their body to deal with the poison, have sex every night, and so on. If I do a portion of that my immune system crashes and I plunge into an infection. But I guess there are many people like myself who have to nurse their energy levels to live a normal life. This leads me to conclude that ejaculation actually involves a large expenditure of energy. If you have a high 'bank balance' of energy, this is like somebody with a lot of money who can spend easily without going into the red and facing problems climbing back into credit again. But if, like me, you are a low energy person, then orgasm will lead to some level of tiredness. This is physiological, although it might be made worse by psychological elements also. Something that is very strange about this is that the mention of tiredness after sex seems to be almost taboo. Whenever I mention it in conversation, as I do where it is relevant, because it has been such an important factor in my life, people maintain with great energy that it is purely psychological. Looking in many sexual handbooks I cannot even find a mention of tiredness in the index or text. Try it for yourself. Do a search on the Internet. If you search for something like vitamins to enhance sexual performance, you will find a whole list of sites to link with. If you put in the words tiredness after sex, you will be lucky if you get four or five sites listed. Any study of wild animals in relationship to their mating habits, shows that some of them die after the mating season because it has been such an enormous expenditure of their resources. Sometimes I wonder if the great pressure underlying advertising and the sale of books on sexuality, stating that sex is nothing but glory and leads to an enhancement of ones being, arises because there is so much profit to be made in that market. Sex is often problematic. It has social, emotional, economic and health factors that can lead to difficulties. If this were not so relationships would be much easier and less fraught.

Eastern teachings on sexual harmony

If you have been researching this area of tiredness after sex for any length of time, you will probably have encountered ideas arising from esoteric Chinese beliefs, yoga disciplines such as Tantric practices, and other ideas about the subtle energies within human beings. My experience of these teachings is that they can be highly exaggerated, strangely mysterious, or downright misleading. However, within some of them there are pointers of real practical help.

 

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Of course, some of these comments apply to the thousands of straightforward books about sex. Perhaps one of the most misleading approaches to sex is presenting it as the be all and end all of life. Again and again it is suggested that if only you could do it all correctly, or had a large enough penis, you would have a majestic relationship and have achieved spiritual enlightenment. This goal orienting, this dangling of carrots, is a great snare that you may become entangled in. Yes, I do now experience wonderful orgasms without tiredness. But I experience similar wonderful feelings while walking in my garden, seeing wild animals, or achieving something I have been working toward. Looking upon sex as a means toward final life happiness is as much of an illusion as thinking that having a certain amount of money, achieving fame, or getting a good pass in your studies, will resolve all your pains and life difficulties. Like every other aspect of life, sex can be a great pleasure or a great misery. But it is not something to hang your hopes of happiness on. What the eastern teachings do state clearly again and again however, is that sexual activity and especially ejaculation uses energy and can be depleting. They describe sexual activity as one way of expressing the potential that lies at your core. A way of picturing this is to think of your psychobiological energy as building up, rather as it might in a battery. But it is better to think of it as a wave rolling in toward the shore. But in this case it is more like waves depicted when showing sound or radio waves. The wave builds up its crest, and then the wave discharges its power and is flattened. In a sense, the energy is grounded, rather like it is when lightning flashes. With sexual energy the grounding or discharge that happens in ejaculation can become the basis of another physical life form – a baby.

The wave theory of sex

What the eastern teachings suggest is that the energy should not be grounded or discharged. It should be lifted up to its peak, and then, instead of discharge it can be held there and pushed higher. If this can be achieved we burst into a new dimension of experience and expression. In the natural course of life, if your energy is left to do its own thing, it will usually build up its wave height, and then discharge in some way. The natural processes in you attempt this because one of your main drives is reproduction. But just as we have learned to understand natural processes such as electrical discharge, and use them for our own purposes, such as light and heat, so also the natural flow of psychobiological energy can be used in a way to leap beyond its habitual course. Remember that your psychobiological energy expresses in many different ways. It can express as motor energy in muscular movement; it expresses all the time as the self-regulating processes of regeneration and repair in your body. It expresses as the urges you feel, to eat and breathe, to make love and to communicate. It is the energy behind your emotions, you're thinking, speaking, and behind the higher functions of creativity and inspiration. What the eastern teachings say, and I believe rightly so, is that if this psychobiological energy is redirected in the right way, then it can lead to what in the east is called Liberation or Enlightenment. What this means is that you arrive at an enormous synthesizing of your whole life experience, and understanding beyond rationalization, in which you know your essential self. But perhaps the most important thing to recognize here in regard to this energy and the subject of sexual tiredness is that the psychobiological energy is the way that Life itself expresses. It is the energy that forms and maintains your body. Of course you could call it a process rather than energy. But it is still a process that moves, that directs, that effects change. So bear with me if I use the word energy. It is also the energy lying behind emotion, thinking, fantasy, dreaming, and the whole realm of experience we call self. This is important to recognize. The reason being that if your energy is grounded, or discharged time after time, there is less chance of it building up to flow into different forms of mental and emotional activity. As Freud so rightly pointed out, frustrated or repressed sexual energy can