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CapturingKidsHearts

June9112015

Highperformingteams:
knoweveryone'sname
connected
share
keepeachotherinline
stepupandbeexcel

Supportchairswithpresenting:
twochairswithtwostudents
chairsareinfrontofpresenter
eachtimeapresenterfinishesapersonfromthechairreplacesthe
presenter
thepurposeisthatthespeakerisnotalone
thesupportchairshavetimetoprepthemselvesfortheirtime
speaking
shareaboutthemselves
snapattheendforaffirmation
olderstudentsarelesslikelytogiveaffirmationstoeachother
what'scaughtistaught
modelthebehavioryouwanttosee

SocialAnxietyTheorypg6:
toptwofears:rejectionandfailure
Fear+motivation=socialanxiety
whenfearandanxietyincreasesthenperformancedecreases
ouranxietydoesnotneedtobetruetobereal
behindmostinappropriatebehaviorthereisfearandanxiety
minimalvsexcelleader

howdoyoureduceanxietyinyourroom:embraceimperfections,
laughbeforeyouleave,

SocialContractpg7
1. Howdoyouwanttobetreatedbyme(leader)?
2. Howdoyouwanttobetreatedbyeachother?
3. HowdoyouthinkI(leader)wanttobetreated?
4. Howdoyouwanttotreateachotherwhenthereisconflict?

anagreementofbehavior
notalistofdemands
It'sthefoundationofahighperformingteam
donotbullet,usedifferentcolors,number
highlightonewordtoexpandon
readthequestionsbutdon'tseparatewordsbythequestion
continuouslist
Ifwordsarerepeatedaddacheckmarknexttotheword
nosarcasm(cantearstudentsdownnotasafeenvironment)
noputdowns
effortandlisteningmustbeincluded
ifthereisaputdownatanytime,theremustbeafoulcalled.Twoput
upsmustbesaid
don'tshhothers.Makeacheckmarkwithyourthumbtohelpothers
getbackontrack(selfmanaging)
Contractmustbecreatedwitheachspecificgroupinorderforthe
populationtotakeownershipofit
Leaveforsubstituteandaskthemtosignitinfrontoftheclass
Contractcontactstudent
Typeupthecontractandhavethestudentssignitandthengiveitto
theprincipalasaresourceforher

SocialContractforConference:

supportive(2), compassionate,flexible, good listener(2),needed,included,


professional (late), cordial, attentive, funloving, respectful, trustworthy,
participatory,calm,compromise,validate,focused,polite

Leadershippg9
Excelleaders:
liveinthefuture
asktheducks:Sowhat'syourplan?
haveaplan,purpose,passion
stepup
Averageleaders:
liveinthepresentanddon'ttaketheinitiative
Minimumleaders:
liveinthepastandarenegative"we'vedonethatbefore"
DependentUponCriticismKillingSuccess(ducks)

FirstImpressionsaremadein30seconds
Imaginewhatitwouldbelikeifwetreatedeveryonelikewedidwhen
wefirstmetthemallthetime

TheExcelModel

isinleadership,teaching,andrelationships.

Engage
:meetingandgreeting
Greetwithahandshake(givethemachoice,nohighfive)
Eyecontact
Speakclearly
Firstimpressioniskey
Response
Nameused
Facialexpression
Toneofvoice
Dressandgrooming
Postureandconfidence

Levelofrelaxation
Energy
Personalspace
Explainthatschoolcultureishandshakeandeyecontact
Xplore
:discoveringindividualneeds
Goodthings
35minutes
Teachermodelsgoodthingsbeforecontractiscreated
Excelleadersarepositive
Excelleaderscelebrateeveryone'smoment
Prepthestudentswhoneedtohaveatimetosharebutarereluctant
bymentioningitatthedoorastheycomeinfortheday
Communicate
:showthatyoucareandthenmakemessagerelevant
55%ofeverymessageiscommunicatedthroughbodylanguage
38%ofeverymessageiscommunicatedthroughyourtoneofvoice
7%ofeverymessageiscommunicatedbyyourvoice
Multitasking,sarcasm,nonexpression,rapidwalking
Listeningwithmorethanourears:(
SOLER
)squaringup,open
posture,leaningin,eyecontact,respond(paraphraseoraskopen
endedquestions)
Empower
:myteachingbecomestheirdoing
Givingthemtheskills
Launch
:meaningfulendingandsending
Empowerotherstoleadthelaunch
"Returnwithhonor"signstudentslaunchwiththatreminder
"Leadersreproducethemselves"

GrouporClassroomStages:
Allgroupsaredifferent
Stagesaresequential
Goslowtogofast
Whennewstudentsjoin,youmustgobackoverthesocialcontract
andworkonmythesecuritystage

Threefacilitatorbehaviorsthatpreventthegroup:avoidingconflict,
moodiness,sarcasm.

GrowingGroups:
Activities
: name game with handle and balls, good things, personal
weekly affirmation bags, support chair, introductions,memento with
pictures, hand signals to check, launching (daily quote), group roles
(scribe, time keeper, etc.), social contract, role playing for put ups,
clapsandsnaps
Facilitator skills
: enthusiasm, flexibility, modeling, wait time, walk
the talk,begenuineandsincere,varietyofactivities,videoclips,clear
expectations, positivity, sense of humor, engaging, movement for
connection purposes, signals, share personal things, positive
feedback, connection to real world, sensitive to the group's needs,
confidence,planning,taskmanagement,consistency

AffirmationBags:
Studentsmadeneedtoworkinsmallgroupsorpartnerstogetto
knoweachother
Wholegroupboxsoteachercanproofthemandpassbackthenext
day?

RealityTree
Kidshavenodeepmeaningfulrelationshipwithanappropriateadult
Fearisthemindkiller
Givingkidsthetoolsandprocessestosucceed
Empowerthestudentstobedifferentthantheirpast/present
situationandbecomesuccessful

DisciplineModel
Reframing:takinganegativecommentorsituationandchanging
yourperspectiveonit,soyoucanmoveon

Thenfourquestionsshouldbeusedfirstwiththewholegrouptohold
themaccountabletoselfmanagement
"Notagetchagotcha"check
Askonlythegivenquestions
Nolecturingbeforeduringorafterthequestions

PineCreekImplementation
Schoolcohortwiththeteacherstrained
Sharecontractswithoffice
Newbehaviorplan
Noclipchartjustsocialcontract
Schoolwideaffirmationsfromstafforclasses(bucketsorpockets)
andsharingmementosasagroup
Allofcapturingkidsheartswithstaff
Traineveryone
Schoolwideteambonding
800.316.4311schoolsbydesign
Cafeteriausesthesamesignalsand"ROAR"(responsible,ontask/on
time,attitude,respect)
HowwillShalondahelpsupportthe"BehaveOut"stage?

Asastaff20152016
CohortofCKHteachers
Affirmationbagsforallstaffencouragingstaffandstudentsto
comment
Supportchairs
EducatestaffonEXCEL
Greetstaffatdoorpriortostaffmeetings
Launchthewholebuildinginthepm
Differentbehaviorplansfortrainedstaffsoparentsknowiftheir
childwasaskedthefourquestions
Staffcontractformeetings

OpeningDaySeptember1st

DoorGreeters:AshleyM.andHeather
TableGreeters:AshleyB.,Stephanie,Jenna

GoodThings:wholegroupled

Namegame:AshleyB.
Tennisballs
AdjectivewithName
Fivegroups

Affirmations:Stephanie
giveexamples
Oneputdown=2affirmations
teacherslounge

30secondSupportChairs:Heather
Howdidyougetintoteaching?
Whyareyoupassionateaboutworkingwiththispopulationof
students?
Fivegroups:eachofusstartagroup

SocialContract:AshleyM.andJenna
Musthave:Listening,noputdowns,engagement/participation
Fourquestionstoanswerintablegroups:
Howdoyouwanttobetreatedbyme(teacher)?
Howdoyouwanttobetreatedbyeachother?
HowdoyouthinkIwanttobetreatedbyyou?
Howdowewanttotreateachotherwhenthereisconflict?
Copiesofthesocialcontract

Consequences?

AffirmationsReminder:Jenna
Encourageeveryonetowriteatleastoneaffirmationforeachperson
attheirtablegroup
CharlieBrownbags
Classroomsaffirmingotherclassrooms

Launch:?