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with all rights reserved. coerce. it’s just like how you would actually lend a friend a paperback book. If you feel that you have a friend who could use the advice given in this book. A Note To My Customers Now. However. If you are going to send it to someone. I’m encouraging you to pass around the book to people who really need it. keeping this book in electronic format allows me to keep my costs down enough to keep my little one-man operation running and continue to help guys just like you to turn a friend into a girlfriend and get out of the friend zone. Is it too much to ask you to please not put up my book for open download to everybody on the Internet? You see. force. It is illegal to copy. feel free to send him a copy of it. there are some nasty people out there with ill-intentions. I have faith that you’re an honest person who has no intention of stealing this book and putting it up on file sharing sites. By purchasing this book. you acknowledge that the ideas included in this book are solely the opinions of the author and are for entertainment purposes only..“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 4 BEFORE WE BEGIN. I would *REALLY* appreciate it if you encourage (push. That’s right. so this probably won’t apply to you.. distribution or creating of derivative works of this book. Legal Jargon This book is copyright 2008. whatever floats your boat) them to buy the book if they like it. The way I see it.com . or contribute to the copying. The characters in this book are composites and names have been changed to protect their identities. distribute or create derivative works from this book in whole or in part. OutOfTheFriendZone. You are responsible for your personal decisions and none of this book should be considered legal or professional advice.

shall we? -Gavin OutOfTheFriendZone. With that out of the way. you’re putting me out of business and in turn. That’s it -. let’s get to blasting away that damned friend zone business.my one request to you.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 5 If you pirate my book and distribute it to everybody on the Internet. won’t be able to help well-meaning guys get the woman of their dreams.com .

The idea of me standing in front of them. frustrated and heartbroken over a woman who put me in the friend zone. But the funny thing about it is. Sometimes. Or the image of me sitting at home alone.” Whenever I would share this story of my life with women. I used to be a bumbling idiot who froze up whenever a girl that I liked engaged me in some friendly conversation.com . tongue-tied and stumbling over what words to say next. really?!” as a response back. “No f#$@!#%cking way. I am saying “Congratulations” because I want to congratulate you on taking the first step... How I Went From “Let’s Just Be Friends” To “I Want Him” “I used to be a shy guy who knew NOTHING about how to talk to women and couldn’t get girls to see me as someone more than a friend. but it will also teach you critical steps towards being a man and improving your relationships with women. This book will not only show you how you can get out of the friends zone and stay out of it forever. I ALMOST ALWAYS get. until the day she finds out that I OutOfTheFriendZone. it’s almost an absurd image to them. Well.. I was able to gather up the courage to talk to her. it’s a true story.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 6 INTRODUCTION Congratulations on your purchase of the “Get Out Of The Friends Zone” program.. Things would go well.

I just remember admitting to her one time that I liked her. I remember having everything planned out. she’d tell me all sorts of stuff. but always thought that she was out of my league. I gave a speech that was supposed to melt her heart and sweep her off her feet. We were really close -. and she delivers the five words dreaded by every guy in this world. the girl was smart enough to pre-empt anything by delivering an even more killer blow: “You’re like the brother I never had. During the party. she tried to keep things the same. I became close with a girl named Andrea. It came as a shock to her.we’d talk to each other on the phone almost everyday. but we got to talking in class. There was going to be a big party that weekend. it’s been so long ago that I don’t even remember half of what went down. but I never did get that makeout that I wanted to happen. To be honest with you. and shortly after we’d be talking on the phone. It was about ten years ago.”) My Story There has been one instance in my life that I keep thinking back as to when I decided to dedicate time to studying the art and science of getting girls to like me. I even typed out bullet points of what I was going to say. OutOfTheFriendZone. I don’t remember how. We would sit together sometimes.” (On several occasions. I’ve had a crush on her for a couple of years.com . and I’d tell her all sorts of stuff. “I just wanna be friends.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 7 have feelings for her. things would go well during the actual party and I’d probably be making out with her. but after she regained composure she gently let me down by simply saying that she doesn’t see me in that way. After a couple of back-to-back heartbreaks. and I thought that if I told her that I liked her a couple of days before.

Even though it was a long-distance relationship. I wasn’t devastated. I felt something special with her. But as with almost all long-distance relationships. I told myself that I was never going to suffer the same type of heartbreak with a woman ever again. My sex life jumped from sporadic to I-can-have-itwhenever-I-want. So I started going to bars and clubs and developing my game. Part of this was because I read the book. I sensed that she had a thing for me. OutOfTheFriendZone. It took me just about two or three months when I’d be able to consistently meet a girl and be making out with her 45-60 minutes later. I’m a pretty quick study and I developed pretty quickly. I was determined to learn how to make women like me and not put me in the friend zone.com . I got together with a girl that I genuinely liked. “The Game” by Neil Strauss at around this time. She has now been my girlfriend for almost two years. I’m in university. I was tired of one-nightstands and never really having a solid connection with the women I hooked up with. At the end of this story. I quickly became bored of this lifestyle.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 8 What makes this story so painful is that the first time that we got to talking. have a healthy network of female friends. After the breakup. but I was saddened. I’ve gone through about 6 or 7 girlfriends at this time. I became determined to REALLY get good with women. we broke up. and had my fair share of naughty stories with women. Fast forward about seven years and I was no longer the bumbling idiot with women that I once was. Then I had a girlfriend that lasted for about two months. During the summer after that school year. both physically and emotionally. and every weekend was an adventure in my quest to learn how to be amazing with women. I got together with a group of like-minded guys. She decided to get back with the ex-boyfriend who she left for me in the first place (hehe). However.

but I am damn confident that I have a pretty damn good hit rate when it comes to women. Lately. the temptation! OutOfTheFriendZone.com . Oh. even women who I initially thought I had no chance with (because we’ve been friends for so damn long) feel attraction towards me.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 9 I guess the takeaway for this whole “rags to riches” story is that I haven’t been put in the friend zone for a shit long time now. I won’t lie to you and tell you that I can get any woman I want.

I can assure you it’s 100% true.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 10 What You Can Expect From This Program Hard as it is to believe the story above.com . etc. If this is you. One thing is for sure: I’ve spent years of my life learning this stuff. However. dumping girls. if you’re simply looking for general advice on how you can stop getting Friend Zone’d (ie. This program was written to be used as a reference to your interactions with women you know now. On several instances. and the ones you’ll meet in the future. I want to help you become more attractive to women and be a man that females see as sexy. This chapter *may* not apply to you. This program comes in four phases: Phase 1 is called Destroy and Rebuild. been cheated on. one thing remains consistent: I’m almost always able to get with any girl that I set my sights on. I’ve been dumped.I went through my fair share of heartbreaks. I wrote this program with the goal of helping you blast through the friend zone and get the woman that you’re after. I cringed while typing it -. This phase is for the guys who fucked up with a particular woman by confessing how he feels for her. cheated on girls. etc. you need to start here. you know deep down in your heart that your situation with the girl who put you in the friend zone is far from even being salvageable) then promptly move on to Phase 2. saying or making a sexual gesture which she didn’t accept. I will share with you everything I’ve learned ever since that day that I vowed to myself to never get heartbroken again because a woman decided that she just wants to be friends with me. It most certainly hasn’t been an easy journey -. OutOfTheFriendZone.the memory of me being that clueless with women is quite appalling to me. But for many years now.

just that you have a long and arduous journey ahed of you. and you still don’t get the girl? Sorry about that man. This is a shorter section than the first three. Some guys will be in situations can be rectified with just a few quick fixes. this phase is designed to make her want to get with you. If you fall in the latter group. Phase 3 sets up barriers from it and shields you with a giant metal fence. doing things as I instructed. This phase deals with going from a casual acquaintance to someone who she’s thinking of getting involved with. Phase 3 is called Amplifying Attraction. Not saying that it can’t be done. Lastly. That’s because if you want to recover from a friend zone situation. If Phase 2 is learning how you can maneuver away from the friend zone. Phase 4 is called Closing The Deal. while some guys will be in situations that have been so damaged that it will take YEARS to fix and recover from. Even if OutOfTheFriendZone. I can’t promise you results -. you can’t ever say that you didn’t try. This is equally true in social situations and relationships.com . you will be engineered to reinventing your first impression with a woman -. You will still find value in this section even if you’re already in the friend zone with a girl. because if you’ve completed Phase 1. They say that the mark of a great poker player is knowing when to hold or fold his cards.mainly because each situation is unique and different.which is a critical factor in getting women attracted to you and avoiding the friend zone. you have a lot of work in front of you. This section teaches you how to do just that.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 11 Phase 2 is called The First 15 Minutes. While the techniques in Phase 2 are carefully designed to intrigue her and make her want to see more of what you have. After reading this book. your goal is to reconstruct a woman’s perception of you. 2 and 3 effectively then this should be a piece of cake. If you follow the techniques listed here. It takes a man of grace to know when he’s defeated and concede. At the very least.

Keep practicing until you have it down. and complaints. I truly applaud you. I want you to do me a favor. Don’t read the program and be content with telling yourself that you already know the stuff. The videos show you the proper way to do your bench presses and bicep curls. I want to know what you think. In the same way. How To Use This Program Being successful with women is a constant. I’m giving you a lot of techniques. In my opinion. Let’s get this party started. I want to hear what your favorite section of the book was. My email address is gavinferenzo@gmail. Email me your comments. what you hated the most. this program will teach you techniques to crush the friend zone barrier that’s always been stopping you from getting the woman that you want. Send me a question about your situation and I’ll try my best to answer it. you came out as a true winner -. spending all day watching the videos won’t get you that sixpack. and if anything was unclear to you. questions.going out and actually doing it is a whole other beast.com . Master the information through experience. evolving process.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 12 you didn’t get her.a true man who is willing to face adversity in the face and aim for triumph. you can’t say that you lost. that’s my personal one).com (yes. When you finish reading. OutOfTheFriendZone. But you need to actually go out and use them if you want to get any value out of this program. Don’t be satisfied with knowing how to do it. Let’s say you want to lose weight so you get your hands on a weight-loss DVD. It even gives you a 90-day program on how to get the sixpack abs that everybody wants to have. I want to hear them all. However. It’s one thing to know how to do it right -.

obviously. WHAT NOW?? How Attraction Works For Women I read somewhere that the opposite of love isn’t hate.. being put in the friends zone is simply a matter of a woman being indifferent towards you. but I find it hilarious because it’s so true. Here’s a funky image that I found around the Internet. Men who are in the friends zone know this fact very well.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 13 SO YOU FOUND YOURSELF IN THE FRIEND ZONE. OutOfTheFriendZone. It’s meant as a joke.com . As a matter of fact. it’s indifference.

“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 14 So what can you do to avoid indifference? First of all. or can’t-be-bothered. “Oh. Or she could be someone from class.” So what am I trying to prove here? When men first meet a woman. what you must understand is that attraction works differently for men as they do for women.com . Except instead of the Fuckable Factor. she’s nice. I can hang with her. “Wow. Think about the last time you met a new woman. Maybe a mutual friend introduced the two of you. or Just-Friends. Maybe you thought to yourself. She’s pretty hot. you didn’t think much of the interaction. OutOfTheFriendZone. you probably had some sort of image inside your mind about the two of you getting physical and intimate. we put them in two categories: fuckable. they have different categories: Potentials. Men and women aren’t as different as you think. Maybe you met at the coffee shop. just women we haven’t fucked yet. But if you don’t find her attractive. I would bet money that you thought. Even Chris Rock had a routine about this -.” Depending on the type of male you are (read: are you a regular guy or not). If she’s an attractive girl. This isn’t anything that you don’t know. or maybe the office. Women actually go through a similar process in their minds.that there is no such thing as platonic friends for men. I better not fuck this one up if I want to have any sort of chance with her. Maybe you were able to appreciate her sense of humor. Just picture that moment when you first met and ponder it for a while. Doesn’t matter. You could’ve possibly talked to her like she was a regular person. I call this the Fuckable Factor.

In other words. and chances are that’s all they’re going to be. The critical difference is the way she looks at guys from the two categories. Defining friends as two people who enjoy each other’s company. On the contrary. our advantage is that it takes them longer to determine which category they should put us in. and our group of friends decided to grab a few beers on a Friday evening. doesn’t it? Doesn’t exactly sound like the advice that you want to hear at the beginning of a brand new book you just bought. We have time to shape and develop our first impressions with women. The First-Impression Advantage Men Have Over Women While we judge them strictly based on their looks. and you still have a foot in the door. Here’s why. Just-Friends friends have reached the peak of the ladder -that’s all they are.com .“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 15 This doesn’t mean that you can’t be friends with her if you’re placed in the Potentials category. But at the end of the night. Don’t dismay. we were flirting OutOfTheFriendZone. She was quite indifferent to me for the first couple of hours. She hasn’t closed the doors on you just yet. My current girlfriend likes to tell me the story of the first time the two of us met. women can be friends with guys of either type. Things aren’t that bleak for us. Sounds tough. You could be friends but still be in the Potentials are just the beginning -those guys are moving their way up the relationship ladder. We were introduced by a common friend. women have a lot of other subliminal factors that they consider before putting us in our respective categories.

OutOfTheFriendZone. I was able to break out and avoid the friend zone within a couple of hours. I ended up taking her home that night.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 16 heavy and our faces were inches away from each other. because to her I was simply a friend of a friend that hung out with her social circle. To get out of the friends zone and stay out of it forever. And that is what this program is going to be all about. because I understand the fundamental principles and applied them. It was a potentially dangerous scenario.com .Yet. making a great first impression is the most critical skill that you can learn.

I distinctly remember a movie trailer that managed to linger in my mind in what seemed like forever. and a bat. the voice changes into a very sinister one -.com . A joker card emerges from the middle of the screen. you never get the whole enchilada -. Why do I use the metaphor of the movie trailer? With movie trailers.Your first impression works in a similar way. The trailers that followed that were longer and actually had footage for the movie. OutOfTheFriendZone. Why am I talking about The Dark Knight trailers here? Because this is a key principle in making a first impression that will make you avoid the friend zone forever.the trailers. and left me and 22. So you better make damn sure that she’s going to want to see what you have to offer. and it fades to black. As you can probably tell by now. Her first impression of you should leave her with the desire to see more.37 million others wanting to see it on the weekend that it debuted. The screen showed nothing but light beams from the background.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 17 The Movie Trailer Principle I remember being in the theater watching some movie in middle of 2007. Near the end.concluded with a maniacal laugh.just a 1-3 minute preview of what you can expect. I’m talking about the teaser trailer for Batman: The Dark Knight. I was munching on popcorn while watching the one part of the movie that I always look forward to -. She’s not getting to know the entirety of you (nor does she want to.just a preview of what she can expect. It was a simple 1 minute clip that had audio of what appeared to be two people talking. at this point) -.

com .“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 18 Why do I emphasize this so much? As I will explain in a later chapter. fucking up then recovering is a better option than making a horrible first impression and doing everything perfect afterwards. OutOfTheFriendZone. I would rather make an okay first impression then build up on it as time goes on. recovering from a bad first impression is very tough. I can even say making a great first impression.

Overall. Do you sense the importance of this yet? Just always remember the Axe slogan: “Because first impressions last. She’s only going with what she knows of you so far. she’s going to picture it as a night full of laughs and sensual intimacy. Later in the day. What’s going to happen is that she doesn’t know you well at all. and she thinks your touch is nice and gentle yet manly. In other words.com . you are letting her seduce herself for you! Example: You were able to crack a couple of jokes that made her laugh.” OutOfTheFriendZone. you will learn how to leave a very memorable and lasting impression that will linger in her mind long after you’re gone. she can’t get you out of her mind and she’s wondering if there’s something there that she wants to see. so when she imagines the two of you going on a romantic date. but she can’t get you out of her mind. So she’ll keep thinking about you and fill in the blanks herself based on the impression that you left her with. you made a terrific first impression.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 19 The Perfect First Impression If you follow the techniques I teach you in this program.

If you can relate to 3 out of the 5 points. A woman’s charm can be oh-so-deadly. it could be a comment she drops casually. chances are she looks at you as a slave. grew up accustomed to people doing shit for them just because they’re pretty.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 20 5 Sure-Fire Ways To Tell If You’re In The Friend Zone Sometimes. It could be our male egos refusing to accept the reality of the situation. 2. especially the pretty ones. People work for things they want.) She explicitly tells you. this is a big one. Listed below are 5 sure-fire ways to tell if she’s put you in the friend zone. Guys almost always fall for this. not as a potential partner. not the other way around -. a little cleavage there.in some cases. OutOfTheFriendZone.and that goes for both men and women. If she’s constantly asking you to do favors for her. Think of this as a scoreboard.com . It could be after you’ve made a grand confession of your feelings to her. this is enough to truly determine that she looks at the two of you as just friends. Either way.) She always asks you for favors and doesn’t do anything for you in return... it’s tough to determine whether or not you’re in the friend zone. A little smile here. 1. there’s a 60% chance that she doesn’t see you as anything more than a friend. a little eye-batting everywhere. Ooh. if she tells you that she considers you “just as a friend” or “the brother I’ve never had” (ouch) you can be pretty sure you’re in the friend zone. but many guys are unaware and/or refuse to look at their situations with a woman in an objective manner. She’s got you doing her bidding. Women. I would put a lot of weight in this first point -. and I don’t blame them.

It’s a body language thing that indicates she’s hugging you to be polite. She tells you about guys she’s interested in but has no idea if he’s interested in her or not. But if you’re flirting with her and she doesn’t flirt back. She tells you how excited she is that she’s going on a date on Saturday night. I can assure you that 98% of the time they are not. much less bring her own crotch near it.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 21 3. Of course. formal. OutOfTheFriendZone. While it’s tempting to think that these are carefully designed moves to make you jealous. 5. Read through these five points and score yourself objectively with a particular woman. buddy.you’re in the friend zone.. You’re in the friend zone. Some of them surprise me with how sharp they are. then there’s no question about it -.) She’s touch-averse to you. you could be in the friend zone.com . If you come across as a sleazebag.) She doesn’t flirt back. She has no problems giving other guys hugs. What she’s subcommunicating is that she wouldn’t dare touch your crotch area with a ten-foot pole. but everytime the two of you touch it feels. Most women (especially the hot ones) are trained in the fine art of flirting.. You’re the guy she calls at 3 AM to cry about a fight with this one guy she’s seeing. even. then she’s probably not going to respond positively to your overt sexual verbal advances (don’t worry. there’s a right way and a wrong way to flirt.) She’s always talking to you about other guys she’s romantically interested in. If all five apply. for instance. I’ll teach you how to flirt the right way in this program). her ass is sticking out if/when she does give you a hug. buddy. You sense these things. and you have a lot of work on your hands to be able to recover from it. and very deep in it. 4.

If you want to avoid the friends zone. you must have these seven traits in your personality. Every bag is 99% blue OutOfTheFriendZone. Unless she’s a lesbian. 2. all M&M’s come only in two colors: blue and red. Let’s say that there has been a company change at Mars. Inc. you want her to see you as a regular male. If she can’t see herself having physical intimacy with you. As you read through these Seven S’s. you are headed for the friends zone.) Sexual. you’ll see some overlaps within each point. All you have to do is be physically affectionate towards her. and from now on. baby. Putting your hands on spots like her lower back while you’re letting her pass.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 22 Your Lucky Number 7 Your Lucky Number 7 are the Seven S’s that you MUST have to avoid the friend zone -. gently touch her ear while you’re inspecting it and tell her she seems like a woman with great taste in accessories. To truly be a man and avoid the friend zone forever. Notice her earrings. There are ways you can be sexual and still be smooth. These seven traits intertwine with each other and work together with each other. It isn’t really hard to communicate you’re a sexual being. What do males and females do? They have sex. it is crucial for her to see you as a sexual being and not as some harmless dude. This isn’t to say that you have to be a slobbering sleazebag all over her.com . or gently hugging her after teasing her are a couple things you could do to introduce physical touch and not come across as a sleazeball.) Scarce.FOREVER. This is so powerful in so many ways. 1.

What I do is I casually introduce the topic of sex in our conversation. 3. For example. This relates closely to the Fourth S. I bring up a something about sex and ask her what she thinks. Women are competitive by nature especially with other women. This is exactly the appeal of the jerk/the bad boy.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 23 candies.) Seductive. the Third S deals with sexual verbal communication. While the First S is about physical touch and body language. Often. OutOfTheFriendZone. Cancel a date.You are a man who is going somewhere in life. flirtatious language.I play the stereotype role of the clueless male. This can be very powerful when you use this as an excuse to flake on her every now and then. The Second S is most powerful if you’re scarce because you’re busy with other women. you’re going to want the red candy. telling stories and casually hinting at sexual activities. “Do women get attached to guys they sleep with?” Then I guide the conversation towards her. the more value we attach to it. Then I might ask.com . I tell a story about a friend of mine who hooked up with a girl with no strings attached. which one are you going to pick? If you’re a regular human being. simply communicate that your life does not revolve around girls. When your attention and focus is diverted by other girls. but are not limited to: Subtly implying you’ve been with other girls. And the more scarce something is. you kill off any desperate vibe that you might be projecting towards her. so pursue your interests and your hobbies. even intentionally taking her words out of context and adding a sexual spin to them are all little ways you can communicate to her that you’re a sexual being. That’s because you know it’s scarce. These include. as you’ll see in a minute. then make it up to her by taking her out and showing her the time of her life. Now. I play it off as if I don’t know what women think about it -. if I offer you to choose between a blue or red M&M. except for 1 red one. If you don’t have plenty of options with other women.

It gets you thinking. 4. and is probably one of the main reasons why you bought this program in the first place. You can use this conversational technique with sex or relationship dynamics. Why does it work so well? Honestly. you’re touching me again. I’d swear we were in love. “Let’s say you were in her situation. I can ask a question such as. throw her a little curveball here and there. giving off mixed ones.Luther Vandross Ahh.. Just when you thought you had somebody figured out. say you and I slept together. Just as a hypothetical example. you’re with me all the time. I’d think that you were mine.” This will make her imagine the scenario of the two of you sleeping together.) Standards. Would you get attached if you got to know a guy and slept with him?” Lastly. BAM. “Wait.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 24 and what she likes/does/etc. 5. If I didn’t know better. I pretend I don’t understand the concepts of what she’s saying and bring myself in the mix. It’s driven plenty of men mad. I’d swear we’re more than friends.) Signals. It will plant the seed in her mind that you are someone she can potentially sleep with. I don’t get it. do you wanna tell me something?” . If I had to make a guess. Girl. or rather. If I didn’t know better. the power of mixed signals. It might not be clear right now. I don’t know. “If I didn’t know better. It’s powerful stuff. but I’ll explain this in further detail in a later chapter.. OutOfTheFriendZone. And then blah blah blah. If you really want to amplify her attraction for you. The Fourth S deals with Signals. it’s the element of surprise.com . you’re hit with something you did not expect at all.

” said with a sly smile).“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 25 The Fifth S is stands for Standards. After about 3 or 4 incidents of this.Your time and attention is precious and valuable. the Sixth S. I was on the verge of the friend zone with her. you have successfully reversed the situation and turned the tables. I realized that if the habit continued she would eventually come to expect this behavior from me -. they desire men that they have to work for.. Women desire men of Significance. It is closely related to the Second S.typical supplicating behavior that only guys in the friend zone did. In other words. I don’t know why I wasn’t thinking properly here... 6. While being Scarce and wanted by other women isn’t something you can always control (although to some extent you can). One of the most powerful lines I’ve learned is. If she does comply and say something. She is now working to impress you. I think back to the beginning stages of a girl who eventually became my girlfriend. except this is internal as opposed to external. Which leads us to the Sixth S. having Standards is something that is 100% within your hands. After school our group of friends would go out for drinks. You are attracted only to women of high value. and it takes more than a pretty face to make you heads over heels for a woman.) Significance. which is. I thought I was being nice. we can dress you up but we sure can’t take you anywhere. she must see you as a man with standards and not as someone who will fuck anything that moves. what else is there to [name of woman I’m talking to] besides a pretty face?” If she has nothing intelligent to say. “So.com . But hey. not the other way around. So the next time we went out OutOfTheFriendZone. Meaning to say. tease her about it (“Man. and I got into the habit of driving her home as she lived so near.

I stayed put. My thought process: If she wanted me to do these nice things for her. I tell her. Come the date. This made me feel good inside.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 26 for drinks and it was time for her to go home. “We can go for either Italian or Japanese tonight. Make her earn the nice gestures you do for her. I have had so many female friends bitching to me about their boyfriends. One of the girls I used to have a fling with told me about her current boyfriend. and at the same time value her opinion. “Whatever you wanna do is fine with me” when she asks what’s up for the night. and how frustrated she is that whenever they go out on dates she has to make all the decisions. Try saying “No” every now and then. Taking the lead implies confidence in your abilities to show her a good time. people value things they work for and not just fall on their lap. In other words. I put on my thinking cap on and think logically out of my OutOfTheFriendZone. taking the lead and never losing his cool under pressure. Take the lead. This can be mean so many things. you must be a man. she had to earn it. Which would you prefer?” This little gesture on my part communicates that I take the lead without being bossy. If you’re in the friend zone. so when problems come up I really try my best to never lose my cool. One of my favorite things to do for dinner dates is to book 2 or 3 restaurants in advance.com . “No” is probably one of the most powerful words you can ever tell a woman who said she just wanted to be be friends. She said bye. I’m have a pretty temper. but if you’re complying to her requests she better be complying to yours as well. Man or woman. and ordered another beer.) Strong. because I always made sure that I took the lead and made sure that she was having a good time. I said bye. Don’t keep a tight score. 7. but for our purposes let’s say that it means confident. Don’t respond with.

“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 27 predicament. Think Brad Pitt. Women value this because thinking logically without being emotional is VERY TOUGH for them to do. Be confident.com . Think Barack Obama. Think James Bond. OutOfTheFriendZone. never lose your cool. and take the lead.

you manage to make her feel good about herself. would you marry the woman who was all over you within 10 minutes of meeting each other or the woman who you spent 2 years wooing and fighting other guys for?) But that’s not enough. most men who get stuck in the friend zone stop at this step. Any sane person wants to be around people who make them feel good about themselves.) She must feel sexual tension whenever you’re around.) She must feel that she’s earned the attention you’re giving her. so she’s going to want to keep you around. 3. she must feel sexual urges whenever you’re around. you must make her feel like she’s working for those good feelings.) She must feel good about herself because of you.from kissing all the way OutOfTheFriendZone. The way it works is simple.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 28 The 3 Keys To Get Any Woman You Want So what do you do if you’ve been put in the Just-Friends category? Simple: all you have to do is be able to generate attraction in her. To separate yourself from the rest. It sounds tough. 1. At the very least.com . 2. There are three relatively simple core principles that you must achieve to get a woman attracted to you. When she’s at your presence. You don’t have to make her horny in the same way she gives you a boner when she touches your arm. To really land the plane. but it really isn’t once you understand the fundamental principles. However. (Think about it this way: if you had to marry someone. she must be able to see herself doing intimate acts with you -.

she’s been thinking about it and anticipating it. you will learn specific techniques to implement these in your daily interactions with girls. it isn’t a complete shock to her once you make your move -in fact. OutOfTheFriendZone. These principles sound easy in writing -.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 29 to sex. That way. I will be constantly referring back to these three principles over and over throughout the program. But you would not believe how tough it is for many men to understand and implement these three core principles in their pursuit of a girlfriend.com . In this program. so keep them in mind.so easy that it almost sounds like bullshit.

I’m afraid you just got friend zone’d. 4 out of the 5 ways to tell if you’re in the friend zone applies to your situation.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 30 PHASE 1: DESTROY AND REBUILD “Let’s just be friends. start at Phase 2. and rebuild your image as an attractive man that she can see herself being involved with romantically and intimately.. However. So where do we start? OutOfTheFriendZone.com . It hurts to know that the girl you’re head over heels for doesn’t see you as anything more than a friend. if you’re looking to get out of the friend zone with a particular woman. My friend. okay?” Heard those words lately? If so. even though you know in your heart of hearts that you’re the best man for her. then this section is for you. If that’s you.” Sometimes. she doesn’t see that and chooses to “just stay friends. It sucks to know that. and you should begin here. This section of the book might not apply to you if you don’t have a woman you’re specifically after. they don’t even have to explicitly say it. and just want to fix up some qualities to avoid getting friend zone’d in the future. It stings to know that she has feelings for another guy and just wants her relationship with you to stay as it is. Your goal during this phase is to destroy any preconceived notions she has of you that lead you to the friend zone.You can just feel it lingering around the air..

we were back together again.” Seriously.com .) Begging and nagging won’t get you out of the friend zone. I couldn’t touch her. Not easy. The friend zone is a distant cousin of the breakup. I went back to my music. They think that they landed on the friend zone because they didn’t try hard enough. Most guys make this mistake. hung out with the boys and killed time with a PS2. As a result.) Trying to convince her that putting you on the friend zone was a mistake won’t get you out of the friend zone. I want her. Needless to say. “You should pursue her harder. Don’t “try harder. but simple.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 31 What You Should Do After Getting Friend Zone’d This is simple. So I took some time off to get my shit in order. When my girlfriend of one and a half years and I broke up. I know). Three months later. it was just like being in the friend zone. that was the end of that relationship. 2. OutOfTheFriendZone. Here are some basic rules you should tattoo on your forehead: 1. they “try harder” which only drives the woman further away. Trust me on this. Why do I tell you this? Because the second time we broke up.” inadvertently suffocating her in the process and driving her further away. I made the mistake of ignoring what worked before and taking some bad advice on the matter.” or “You should show her that you still care for her. Pursuing her more than you’ve already done immediately after getting friend zone’d is only going to make her want to stick to her guns even more. I started going to clubs and bars again and hooking up with women (I know.

No dice.) Telling her and her friends how much you miss/want/love her won’t get you out of the friend zone.. OutOfTheFriendZone.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 32 3. I did all of these. 4. Oh.. 5.) Showing her how heartbroken you are won’t get you out of the friend zone. in case you’re wondering. yeah.com . Got it? Good.) Pursuing her even harder won’t get you out of the friend zone.

James Bond would have no problems sleeping with a girl he was working with -. send her a casual text like this after getting the. OutOfTheFriendZone.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 33 The Second Thing You Should Do Once You’re In The Friend Zone As soon as you get friend zone’d. Real men don’t let little issues like this ruin anything because they believe it’s better to have tried and failed than to have never tried at all. punk =P” You don’t have to use it word for word.if she rejects him. you’re communicating the fact that you’ve got a cool head on your shoulders and don’t let little things like this bother your swagger.” That’s what she’s most worried about at this point.com .You’re taking the burden on your shoulders without being dramatic about it. but keep the context. It’s only awkward if you make it awkward. Let’s analyze this text message. I don’t care who she is -.every woman wants to be adored. he remains calm and brushes it off. feel free to customize to your own voice. shall we? First. whether or not she reciprocates the feeling. Figured you were worth a shot anyway . let her know that everything’s all right. But you. you’re not worried about “ruining the friendship.. If you haven’t already done so. See ya tomorrow. Don’t worry about it. So why shouldn’t you? Second. We’re cool. This is especially powerful if she keeps saying sorry for rejecting you.. and you’re not about to do that. everything’s all right.) Haha. you’re letting her know that she’s a woman worth taking the risk for. Lastly. “I just wanna be friends” speech: “Hey [name of girl].

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The First Meet-Up
Mess the first meeting up, and any chances you might have of recovery is done. That’s how crucial the first meet-up is. What you want to do is to reassure her that everything’s all right. That all is the same and she doesn’t need to worry about anything. What for, I hear you ask. You’ve said your piece verbally, haven’t you? Unfortunately, that’s not enough. She’s going to want to confirm that you really do mean what you said -- that you’re really cool with everything and you can back your shit up. That’s why we focus on your subcommunications -- women are VERY SHARP in detecting the truth through body language. It’s called women’s intuition, folks. This might be tough to pull off especially if she’s feeling awkward about the situation. There’s nothing you can do about that -- except to destroy any reason for her to feel awkward. And she feels awkward because she just rejected you -- you might be harboring some ill feelings toward her.You might be a ticking timebomb and contact with her might set you off. The suspicious woman might think you’re up to something underhanded. Whatever it is, your goal during the meeting is to destroy any reasons for her to feel awkward with you. And you do that by reassuring her that you’re all right. She really does like you, just not in that way.Yet. Ideally, you two would meet at the same environment you two are usually in. Class, hanging out with friends, whatever. If you two don’t meet regularly unless you plan it, go for a casual non-date. Ask her to go with you to pick up a new shirt, a book, movie tickets, whatever. Grab a quick lunch together. Anything casual will do, and something that she would normally do with you anyway.


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I once asked a girl who I was sort of in the friend zone with to come with me to the bank and pay some bills. To say thanks, we stopped by a coffee shop after and her coffee was on me. That’s exactly the concept of a non-date. It’s kind of sneaky, but it’s very powerful. We’ll cover this further in a later chapter. When you two meet up, be sure to follow these steps: 1.) When you first see her, give her a warm smile. Act like you haven’t seen each other in a long time and you’ve never been happier to see somebody before, even though the thought of being at her presence makes you cringe at yourself right now. 2.) Go for a casual hug. Don’t hug her like a horndog would -- just wrap your arms around her protectively, and be sure it’s a warm one. Like you haven’t seen her in a long time. 3.) Make sure you maintain eye contact the whole time. If you’re having trouble with this, an easy way to fake eye contact is to look between her eyes or at her eyebrows. Nothing says “Shitthisisawkwardwhatthefuckamidoingmeetingupshitfuckballshelpme” more than not being able to hold her gaze. 4.) Maintain your sense of humor. Tell funny stories or make a casual observation about your surroundings and make something funny out of it. Jokes are always good -- laughing releases a lot of tension that’s in the air. There’s no better way to make somebody comfortable than to make them laugh. 5.) If you two meet within a group, don’t ignore her. Act how you would normally act with her as if the “I just wanna be friends” incident didn’t happen. This is actually easier than it sounds like.You don’t actually have to say anything to her within the group. When you’re talking to the group, make eye contact with her about 40-50% of the time that you’re talking. And when everyone goes off to have their individual conversations, make conversation with her.

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It might sound tough to pull off, but you can do it.You’ll probably be feeling all sorts of emotions -- disgust at yourself for being stupid enough to put yourself at risk like that, embarrassed of what she thinks about you, dejected over getting rejected. Get over yourself. Keep in mind that she’s feeling just as awkward about it as you are, and as a man you need to take control of your environment and ensure that others are comfortable in your presence. Remember your goal during this meet-up! It isn’t to get her to like you. It isn’t to pursue her harder. It isn’t to beg or to plead or show her how heartbroken you are over her loss. Your one and only goal is to reassure her that everything is all right. Capeesh?


“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 37 After The Meet-Up After the meet-up. Cut back on the time you two spend together. there is no hard and fast figure. you would probably claw at any chance you might have to spend some time with her. Oh. now you’re going to take some time off to get your head on straight and focus on yourself. what wonders meeting new girls will do for you. The only “rule” is that you should take as much time off as you need to refocus and get your head straight. Obviously. ESPECIALLY if you two spend so much time with each other.just cut it back by at least half. You’ve obviously been pursuing her. The point of this “time off” is for you to start over from scratch and rebuild your image in her eyes. Spend some time with the boys. It’s going to take some time for OutOfTheFriendZone.com . doesn’t matter if it’s a he or a she. I’ve waited as short as 3 days and as long as 3 months. Meet some new people. How long should you keep this up? Sadly. you have other friends too. then that’s exactly how you treat her. Don’t. I really don’t like giving specific figures because each situation is different. Don’t disappear on her completely -. right? If she just wants to be friends. If you’re feeling down. Hey. so your efforts have probably been focused on her for the past couple of weeks (maybe even months). Get reacquainted with your hobbies and interests. distract yourself from feeling any emotions of remorse/ regret/depression/etc. At this point. what you were doing before didn’t work so you’re going to need to change *some* things.

com .“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 38 you to develop good habits and erase the bad ones. OutOfTheFriendZone.You will learn how to do more of that in the next phase.

Since you two are “still friends” she’s probably going to stay in contact with you to keep the “friend” vibe alive. Do NOT be a bitter man.you could just be clocking in for your regular me-time. you can’t rebuild your image with a snap of your fingers. how’s it going buddy?” or “You’re such a brat” said with a sly smile works wonders. If she asks you if you want to go for coffee. Just so nothing changes too much. A powerful technique is to acknowledge and verbalize your friendship. Don’t worry. Cut it back by at least half. OutOfTheFriendZone. “Hey. However. odds are you’ll need to make constant contact and change her opinion of you gradually. Phrases like. You can’t disappear and suddenly show up a new man who she’s going to fall head over heels for. If she just wants to be friends. Depending on how badly you got friend zone’d. gently let her down and tell her you already made plans for the day. then at this point you act like a friend. What you want to do is to create a new relationship with her. you don’t have to lie -. Even if you’re not doing anything in particular. But start saying no once in a while. I didn’t say they were exactly the same. Truth of the matter is.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 39 What To Do When She Gets In Touch I said the friend zone is a distant cousin of the breakup.com . but if intuition serves me right you probably claw at any chance you might have to spend some time with her. Stay warm and friendly during these initial stages. that’s the LAST thing you want to do right now. You don’t have to say no all the time.

Remember: Don’t be a tidal wave. OutOfTheFriendZone. ala Chinese water torture. You are lowering her defenses and eliminating any suspicion on her part. which will allow you to gradually rebuild your image and get her to see you in a light that she never did before.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 40 By doing this. you are immediately distancing yourself from all the other guys she’s put in the friend zone. Be a constant drip.com .

They say that in job interviews. especially during this crucial phase. It is very difficult to recover from a horrible first impression. so you better be putting your best foot forward at all times. get this. the GOutOfTheFriendZone. The G-CASSH Principle: Your Secret Key To Sexy Following this principle is possibly one of the more important principles in making an awesome first impression. Now.com . So don’t constantly look at your watch and think.. Maybe you two get introduced but don’t actually have a conversation.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 41 PHASE 2: THE FIRST 15 MINUTES Remember the first lesson from the last section of the program about how women place men in two categories the first time they meet? In this section. I’ve done it plenty of times. Or maybe she’s so dense that it takes her an hour to really form an opinion of you. I’m going to teach you principles and techniques on how to make sure that women are categorizing you under Potentials and not the JustFriends category. On a rating scale of 1 to 100. To grasp the importance of the first impression. Either way. It is actually just a guideline on how long it takes on average for a person to have an idea of who you are. That is why I don’t advocate meeting new women when you’re shitfaced drunk (even though yes. “Fuck. I don’t know. my 15 minutes is running up!” Let’s get started. the interviewer usually knows if he’s going to hire the interviewee within the first 2 minutes and that the rest of the interview is just for formality’s sake.. what I’m referring to here is 15 minutes of engagement with her. luck was just on my side). despite the title of this section this phase might actually take longer than 15 minutes.

which stands for: Grooming Clothes Accessories Shoes Scent Hair While looks aren’t nearly as important to women as they are to men. and keep it in mind before you go shopping for stuff. I personally subscribed for a year.com . No.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 42 CASSH principle probably accounts for a 40% factor of whether or not a woman will see you in the friends zone. G-CASSH doesn’t mean acting gangsta and flaunting money. G-CASSH is an acronym.just as any woman can slim down. put on makeup. I would be lying to you if I say it doesn’t play an important part. Look at what grabs your eye. any guy can become better looking than they currently are. Women would take a properly groomed but average-dressed man over a well-dressed and fashionable slob with BO any day. or get breast implants to look hotter. Don’t let your looks be an excuse for not being able to attract women -. Let’s examine them one by one. What can you do to improve your grooming? OutOfTheFriendZone. Grooming Proper grooming is key to making a great first impression. I recommend you buy this month’s issue of GQ and take note of what’s hot in the world of men’s fashion.

and all it took was a daily washing with Clearasil for a couple of months to start cleaning up my face. too. Keep those pit stains in check.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 43 -Remove excess hair. Do regular cardiovascular exercise and resistance training to increase muscle mass and burn fat. -Join the gym. You do not want to be a guy with natural french tips. but I am amazed at the amount of people who ignore their breath. you should be working out and keeping yourself in shape. Do this one for yourself.com . in your ears. so I make sure to use whitening toothpaste as well as Crest Whitening Strips to prevent my teeth from going uber yellow. Consider packing Axe bodyspray with you at all times if you sweat excessively. With obesity rising through the roof. but I personally follow The Abs Diet to keep myself in shape. Bad breath is a huge turn off not just for women but people in general. Carry a pack of gum or Tic-Tacs at all times. With the amount of teeth-whitening products available over the counter. Head to a cosmetics store and ask for advice on facial products for men with your type of skin. Consider getting waxed if you have chest hair peeking out of your shirt. -Trim your fingernails. I have a few pounds to shed. nothing is a bigger turn off than someone with bad BO. between your eyebrows. For blue-collar workers. Keep your fingernails trimmed at all times. This one should go without saying. -Get rid of body odor. I smoke heavily. -Get rid of acne. stained teeth shouldn’t be an excuse for anyone. -Freshen your breath. and be sure to take it regularly especially if you smoke or drink coffee (coffee breath is eeewww). get rid of the habit of biting your nails and always be sure your nails don’t have any gunk underneath. but shower everyday and apply underarm deodorant. or the back of your neck. I used to be ridden with acne when I was young. I understand that this might be tough to control. or buy weights for at home workouts. This should go without saying. Join the gym. I personally like the dry Axe anti-perspirants. Get yourself a pair of tweezers or a nose-hair trimmer and remove any excess hair in your nostrils. -Whiten your teeth. OutOfTheFriendZone. Ugh.

com . Something like. “What kind of style are you looking for?” say you’re looking for the GQ look. you might want to ask them to accompany you if they’re up to it. but if you want to push yourself aim to get five recommendations. “Hmm.You seem like you have a fashionista inside you. The first couple of approaches will be tough. If they give you a good solid answer and they look like they’re doing some shopping themselves. not the ones that look like they’re easy to talk to. I’m OutOfTheFriendZone.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 44 Clothes Take that issue of GQ and note the styles of clothing that you like. “Hi.” If they ask. as you probably already know. But when I did this. nothing more. Optional Excercise: Go to a shopping center and commit to approaching five female strangers for a recommendation on where to go shopping. This might seem a little random. I’m here to shop for clothes and I want to know if there are any stores you could think of that carries really cool clothing for men. but the third one will start being a breeze.You’re just asking them for a recommendation. every woman I approached gave me an answer. Why? Women love shopping. TI and Chris Brown as references) and note the clothing they wear. “I don’t know” simply thank them for their help anyway. Watch some videos of musicians that you like (I constantly use Justin Timberlake. and the fifth one you will be beaming with confidence. but you seem like you have a great sense of style and the type to know where men could go for good fashion. Approach the attractive ones. especially if you’re not used to talking to strangers. If they say. It can be as simple as saying.You can stop once you’ve approached five women. The fourth one will be easy. There’s nothing more that they love other than talk shopping with other people.

Congratulations. I own four pairs. maybe you can help me look for stuff if you’re up for a good time. . . you will feel like a thousand bucks afterwards. Some of the essential accessories for a man: .” If she says yes. If you don’t have the budget. This is a great exercise to build your confidence. what more if they’re strangers? If you do choose to perform this exercise. and I don’t take off my earring studs nor my bracelet (mainly because if I do. Treat her to a cup of Starbucks after to thank her for her time. I’ve fallen in love. About 60% of all watch purchases aren’t for practical purposes but rather for fashion. Accessories Spice up your attire with accessories. One look at music videos and you will notice that hardly anybody wears jeans and a t-shirt -. they are accessorizing. I don’t know why. Not many people have the balls to pull this off -. just invest in a nice $100 pair from Sunglass Hut or a store of the like. feel free to buy the $10-$20 pairs on side stalls -however. I’ll forget to wear it back).“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 45 pretty clueless about this stuff.the male ego usually refuses to acknowledge that they need help from other people.A watch: With the widespread use of cellphones these days. you have made yourself a new friend. who REALLY needs a watch? Men who pay attention to style. D&G’s.com . they get flimsy really easy and if you’re lazy on maintenance. Investing in a nice and classy watch will do you loads of good in the future. maybe I felt it was a little too try-hard.more often than not.Sunglasses: I personally didn’t start wearing sunglasses until about 2 years ago. I never leave the house without my necklace. I like them branded (I have Ralph Laurens.Jewelry: I love jewelry. But ever since I started wearing them. that’s who. So far. introduce yourself. and two Ray-Bans) but that’s just me. If you’re going to go the route of never taking off OutOfTheFriendZone.

“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 46 your jewelry. and since I like white Adidas sneakers. Be sure to clean them as frequently as possible to keep them squeaky clean. and formal shoes). For references on formal footwear. Back in university. Even though I’m a typical guy and two or three pairs of shoes do it for me (basketball shoes. I have to clean them every 2-3 weeks. I prefer white sneaks (ala Run-DMC) because my fashion style is a little more on the urban side. OutOfTheFriendZone. Shoes I don’t need to tell you that women LOVE shoes -. I also had a rotation of 2-3 shoes which I switched around depending on the jeans I was wearing.what’s important is that the type of shoe that you wear fits your sense of style and the environment (wearing suede leather shoes in a casual environment screams trying too hard). everyday sneakers. I liked to buy new white sneakers after 4-6 months. again GQ is your best resource.com . Converse Chucks are real nice casual shoes as well. If you already wear shoes that you like but it’s really worn out. I make sure to keep them as clean as possible. But in case that you didn’t know that -. make sure you buy authentic silver that won’t rust or stain even after prolonged water exposure. it might be better to invest in a new pair rather than trying to salvage this one. I still try to pay as much attention as I can to my footwear. Be sure to buy the shoe cleaner that the staff at Foot Locker offers you as an upsell.WOMEN LOVE SHOES!! It always amazes me whenever I realize how keen a woman’s sense of sight is when it comes to shoes. No one type of shoe is best -. It was perfect for people who I saw frequently.that’s Women 101.

These three are highly interconnected with each other. Or maybe you smelled something and an influx of memories just came flushing in your brain.” 4. and this is a perfect technique to try and embarrass the other guy: 1. describe the color and kind of shoe that your partner wearing right now.) Watch the girl erupt out her answer and the guy sit silently in embarrassment.com . If you want to maximize the results of this technique. last point about shoes: the next time you’re out with your friends. emotions and memories are all processed in the same general area of the brain.) If you offered a drink to the winner. LEAD her to the bar (“All right. you can offer a drink to the winner.) Once they’re ready. Scent Has a woman ever walked past you and made your head snap backwards the moment you sniffed their perfume? She might not have been that attractive in the first place. pause. She will have no other choice OutOfTheFriendZone.) Tell them that this game only has one rule.) Take the couple and ask them if they want to play a quick game to test their wits.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 47 Oh. you are conditioning your woman to think of you whenever she smells it. try this experiment for fun. 2. This will work wonderfully if the girl you’re after is with a guy. Basic fact: smells. and that is to answer just one question AS QUICKLY AS POSSIBLE. she will not hesitate to follow your lead and leave the guy behind. By wearing a signature scent that the woman of your choice smells on you consistently. then ask them both: “In one line only. but the sheer fact that she smells so damn good just had to make you take a second look. You can dig his hole even further by rubbing it in (“I can’t believe you didn’t know what she was wearing? Even *I* noticed it!”) 5. let’s go get that drink -.I’m getting thirsty”). If you’re with other friends. 3.

most people laugh when I say I wear Victoria’s Secret cologne.Dolce & Gabbana by Dolce & Gabbana . don’t make the mistake to go to a hairstylist without any idea of what type of haircut you OutOfTheFriendZone. More often than not. that should tell you something about how therapeutic changing your hairstyle can be. all you have to do is switch up your hairstyle and you’ll feel a significant change. Unless you want to live with an ugly hairstyle for at least 3 weeks. and here are some of my favorites: . but that one works for me. Iʼve tried on a lot of scents.Reaction For Men by Kenneth Cole . if women get haircuts whenever they breakup.Obsession Night by Calvin Klein . club night cologne. this is the key element to looking good for us.com . If ever you’re bored with your look. I own several at a time simply because I rotate them appropriately for the time and place. and date time cologne.Very Sexy For Him by Victoria’s Secret (my secret weapon. Hey. With that said.You could have more rotations if you want to. Hair You should know by now that a man’s hairstyle can make or break a man’s entire look.Emporio Armani by Giorgo Armani (try Emporio Armani Diamonds too -haven’t bought it yet. I have a casual daytime cologne. but the effect it has on women is very deadly) Although I have several signature scents. but from my initial sniff it’s a good one) .“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 48 but to think of you whenever the scent comes around. you are priming her emotional responses (no matter how little they may be) and highly increasing the chances of her responding to you in an emotional way. Be sure to choose carefully. It might be a wise idea to take a female friend with you to get a second opinion on your choice. By wearing a great smelling perfume. There is no one cologne that fits everybody (except perhaps Tommy Hilfiger or Davidoffʼs Cool Water) because they all react differently to the chemicals our bodies produce.

I always get a mixed response about this with women. women in general.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 49 want. I have to include facial hair in this section. OutOfTheFriendZone. *** Follow the G-CASSH principle on a daily basis. If you don’t think you can make all these changes in one big go. but if you naturally have a “mean” mug then keeping it clean could add the friendly and sensitive touch to your demeanor. women find it difficult to kiss men with a mustache.com . and even better. From my experience. Look up hairstyles for men on the Internet and bring several sample pictures if you wish in order for him/her to be able to give you the cut you want. try it and see how women react to it. so I keep a goatee and a small soul patch and maintain it every week or so instead. then you know you have a winner. Facial hair can make you look manlier if you have a babyface. Some prefer facial hair while others prefer clean. If you’re getting looks from women you pass on the street. and you will start turning heads before you know it. The important thing is that these things will immediately make you feel sexier and more deserving of the girl you want. If you’re one of the lucky ones who don’t have problems growing facial hair.You can always shave it off if it doesn’t work. it’s okay to take it one step at a time.

Posture Your body posture says a lot about the type of person that you are. Having great body language that induces attraction in women is the key to getting out of the friend zone.com . When you’re walking. then you probably remember the line. relax your shoulders.when sitting down.walk as if you have ten-pound balls between your legs. Only 7% of what you actually say is taken and understood -. and open your arms.this is a real study performed back in the 1970s by a professor at UCLA by the name of Albert Mehrabian. eye contact. This projects comfort in your surroundings.the rest is accounted for by your tone of voice and body language. and touch. Since a man’s genital area is the most sensitive part for us. stand straight and broaden your shoulders. I call it the big dick walk -. we will talk about three main things that you need to add to your repertoire if you want to get out of the friend zone: your posture. One of the general tips that I like to give is to own the space around you. Although it’s not an end-all be-all solution. OutOfTheFriendZone. “Over 90% of what you’re saying ain’t coming out of your mouth. In this section.” This isn’t just a movie euphemism -. having this wide open by spreading your legs projects confidence. Puff your chest out if you must (don’t overdo it though) and avoid walking in small strides. your body posture subcommunicates a lot of messages to her.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 50 Body Language If you’ve seen the movie “Hitch” with Will Smith. If you want to get out of the friend zone. spread your legs open. Act big -. you have to learn how to be “open” and “direct” with your body.

you want to convey a smooth and suave man. but you can take the lessons he teaches there to sub-communicate messages with your posture. Tons and tons of books have been written on this subject. pointing your body’s direction away from the person you’re talking with. But making and holding eye contact sends a very powerful image about your confidence.” Yes. Head to your nearest Barnes & Noble (or Chapters. if you’re in Canada) and buy the two books: “The Definitive Book On Body Language” by Allan and Barbara Pease and “What Every Body Is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide To Speed Reading People” by Joe Navarro and Marvin Karlins If you have some money to spare. both yours and hers.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 51 Avoid “closed” body postures such as crossing your arms. they apply to reading people. go and get a David Lieberman book: either “Get Anyone To Do Anything”. or holding something between you and her such as a drink (some women tightly clench school books cross their body as a way to ward off unwanted attention). not one who cowers under the slightest risk of failure. Don’t close yourself up and play it safe.com . it’s OutOfTheFriendZone. When you’re talking to her. even if it feels like the best thing to do -. Eye contact is essential to building rapport with someone. Eye Contact: Gazing Into The Window Of One’s Soul Many men have problems with holding eye contact for long and start to feel uncomfortable after a while. “You Can Read Anyone” or “Never Be Lied To Again. maybe because very few have the power to look at someone’s eyes for too long. It also boosts physical attraction. so I won’t waste your time repeating stuff that they explain much better than I do.

friendliness and a positive attitude to life. OutOfTheFriendZone.a 70:30 looking:looking away ratio is a healthy balance. here’s a tip: instead of looking them in their eyes. If you have problems holding someone’s gaze. It demonstrates confidence.smiling helps her alleviate this fear of you hurting or violating her. you will neutralize any feelings of fear or embarrassment that comes with making eye contact. Your eye contact must be complimented with a genuine smile. or else you’ll just be staring at her. With this technique. It also gives the impression that you are fun to be with. look at their eyebrows instead. But don’t stare -. and when you hold her eyes as you talk you are showing a lot of selfconfidence. Many women still subconsciously believe that men are the stronger sex -. and are probably not dangerous. It gives off the same impression that you are giving deep eye contact without actually doing so. A nice and warm smile has the power to melt a woman’s heart.com . It conveys interest in what she’s saying.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 52 important that you make solid eye contact.

But in general my Non-Dates OutOfTheFriendZone. Now. I define a Non-Date to be anything other than the normal thing you would ask her out for. in my experience. If she doesn’t. There are three rules you need to follow when it comes to this stage. everyday things. In many people’s minds. any and all gestures and attempts to sweep her off her feet like they do in the movies will only work to your disadvantage. Cardinal Rule #1: Going On The Non-Date If there’s one dating principle that I have found to be the most effective in my life. Non-Dates are casual get-togethers with just the two of you doing regular. it is the principle of taking her out on what I like to call as Non-Dates. Here in phase 3. but not with anything over the top. I use Non-Dates to casually sneak my way in without her even knowing it.but ONLY if she feels some attraction towards you in the first place. dinner at a fancy restaurant. possibly flowers. taking her out on a date means picking her up.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 53 PHASE 3: AMPLIFYING ATTRACTION Recap: The goal of the past two phases were to change her perception of you as harmless and non-threatening and transform it to a man she can potentially see herself having a romantic and sexually intimate relationship with.com . the concept of the traditional date works -. a movie or a casual stroll after eating. As a loose definition. As a matter of fact. our goal is to take those altered perceptions of hers and amplify it to make her SERIOUSLY consider getting with you. So what’s the solution? You do need to go out together for you to be able to amplify her feelings.

shop for a few clothes.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 54 involve asking her to accompany me to do something I was going to do by myself anyway. Once you’re on a Non-Date and managed to escalate. Imagine: no need to bother spending 2 hours to doll herself up! This might seem a little contrary to your thoughts right now -. but you want to do it as if it’s spontaneous and thought of right on the spot. because they are perceived as non-threatening and takes an intense amount of pressure off her shoulders. etc. On the other hand. They are perfect especially if you’ve made a major blunder with her such as confessing your feelings or if she’s explicitly told you that she doesn’t want to be anything more than friends. It is a must to escalate to the next level. finding a gift for a friend’s birthday. ie. OutOfTheFriendZone. then tell her I’m having cravings for dinner at some nice restaurant. go to the bank. drinks with some common friends. no. There will be an instance that she didn’t bring much money with her. any attempt to take her out with the idea of sweeping her off her feet got blown off and rejected. so be prepared to pony up part of the bill in this situation. you have opportunities to execute the following techniques in order to amplify her feelings of attraction towards you. Remember the principle of escalation -. What I do is I would let her know that I’m getting hungry.com . whenever I tell her to come with me to do some mundane activity (look for a book. so don’t you need to do more couple-like activities? In a single word. as small as those feelings may be. ask her if she wants to eat. Fact of the matter is this: everytime I was in the danger of being Friend Zone’d by a girl.you need to get out of the friend zone. pick up some groceries. Taking her out to dinner at a nice place is a lot easier if she’s already out with you somewhere. then you can always escalate to the next level once she’s there.) women would almost always agree to come with. etc.small things first.

This works well if she asks you to go somewhere with her and you initially agree. how you really feel about her. but by having such easy access to you. you need to make her wonder. who you’re with. Send Mixed Messages If you’ve already told her how you feel about her. I like to make dates that I have no intention of keeping. Cut your phone calls short. what you’re thinking about. End your dates early.com . Yes. Hell. I ask her out on a date even if I KNOW that I’ll eventually cancel on her. She needs to wonder what you’re doing. and most importantly. Done properly. STOP DOING SO RIGHT NOW. it’s not making her like you more.two of your best friends when it comes to getting out of the friend zone! OutOfTheFriendZone. Yes. but it works for me. I’m risking pissing her off. She might enjoy the flattery. Some people might not approve of this move.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 55 Cardinal Rule #2: Being A Mystery Now that you’ve sparked up some sexual attraction in her. But by not making it so easy for her to see me. It won’t be increasing her attraction to you! To attract a woman and get out of the friend zone. I am actually creating distance between the two of us. Even if she’s reacted favorably. it’s time to really amplify that. With distance comes mystery and intrigue -. If I’m trying to turn a friend to a girlfriend. break a date every now and then. playing coy and being a bit of a mystery will get her chasing you in no time.

but by denying her the chance to be with you so easily. It also gives me the opportunity to sweep her off her feet.it’s indifference. She knows you want her. We all want what we can’t have. Give her the opportunity to actually look forward to being with you. It’s a weird paradox.You can do this by talking to other girls in front of her without paying much attention towards her. you are negating all your efforts. Be a little distant. then chances are she’s really indifferent towards you. and that’s what women really want. and she’ll come running into your arms in no time.if she knows that you’re intentionally trying to make her jealous.com . Make Her Jealous Remember this fact and tattoo it on your forehead if you have to: the opposite of love isn’t hate -. If you’re in the friend zone. OutOfTheFriendZone.You have to be really subtle about it though -. she will do everything in her power to make sure nobody else gets you. because now I have a legitimate excuse to do something really sweet for her. Let her crave for your attention. you’re actually creating a much stronger desire for her to be with you. that emotion is a lot better than her not caring at all. but she doesn’t want you back -. She doesn’t feel any sparks of attraction towards you. believe it when I say that she will do whatever it takes to keep your attention and stop her from losing to another girl. Send her mixed messages. and even break a Non-Date (or even an actual date) every now and then.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 56 And even if you piss her off a little bit.yet. If she knows that you have feelings for her. It’s one of those things that men will never understand about women.

OutOfTheFriendZone.com . and will make her hate you.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 57 If you know that she has a little bit of an unspoken competition going on with one of her friends. you cannot overtly break a date with her if you choose to go with another girl instead. Flirt with waitresses and bartenders. Let her see you talking to pretty women if you’re out at a bar or a club. not like you more. For instance.and women CANNOT handle rejection. be a little extra friendly to her friend the next time you three are all together. so I’m going to focus all my attention on her instead. Approach it with this frame of mind: “I’m having more fun talking to her than I am talking to you. It gives her a feeling of rejection way before she is even rejected -. That will instantly put you in the jerk category. you are money. If you can get a woman’s green glands going. CAUTION: Be careful to not go overboard and swing into the douchebag category.” If you really believe that. she sees you as her man in some way) from the eyes of a prying woman. Any regular woman will protect her man (and yes. she will sense it.

men or women?” .youtube. You do this by following the touch escalation patterns that we discussed in the previous chapter. As soon as you two are heavily engaged in debate or discussion about that topic. No. you do not have the come across as a horny pervert. and his stuff is always full of clever tidbits and observations about men and women that I pull from all the time. “Who’s the biggest liars. My favorite comedians are Chris Rock. You can start it off easy by asking something related to relationships. you can gently navigate the conversation and introduce the topic of sex.com . What I like to do is to wonder out loud about a certain social dynamic between male and females and asking for her opinion.http://www. One of my favorite ways of finding social dynamics to talk about is watching standup comedy. as well as introducing the topic of sex into your conversations.com/watch? v=sJfFGgzhfhY OutOfTheFriendZone.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 58 Cardinal Rule #3: Being Sexual The number one rule for this stage is to start amplifying sexual tension between the two of you.

this is a rare trait in men today. (You read about this in the Case Study #3. you and I start making out and end up sleeping together. I’m just saying that I don’t necessarily agree with the concept. What then will you. I also like to drop hypothetical situations that are designed to make her imagine the two of us doing sexual activities.com/watch?v=M3IIVHxAtFk Once she’s engaged in the topic. Me: Really? So does that mean you have a problem with me then? *grin* Her: No. and as long as you’re not coming off as a horndog..youtube. this is a very effective (and subtle) technique.. Say we’re both single. it isn’t difficult at all to maneuver the conversation into deeper into the topic of sex. For example. Take this hypothetical situation then. I just had this conversation recently with a sexually conservative friend of mine: Her: I don’t feel comfortable with the notion of having multiple sex partners at the same time. this “friend” of mine ended up making out with me at the end of our beach vacation. I’m interested to know more about that. and somehow manage to squeeze myself in her thoughts. As you know. Done well.com . that’s all.a man who’s not afraid to admit his own sexuality. Believe me. Me: OK.http:// www. you WILL be fine.. I don’t have a problem with people who do it.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 59 “Never ask your woman how many men she’s slept with” . I will pretend that I would need clarification about what she said. This portrays you as a sexual being -. we both know that getting in a relationship isn’t necessarily the best thing for both of us. The idea is to just get her used to talking about sex with you. no. and after one night of drinking.) OutOfTheFriendZone.You know that I don’t have a problem sleeping with other women as long as I’m not in a committed relationship. The problem is that even if you and I are both physically attracted to each other.

Because of this tactic. With this conversation. then you have to MAKE her think of you without being a pervert about it. It is subtle hypnotism in effect. It allowed me to transform her image of me from “just a harmless guy friend” to someone she is constantly imagining having physical intimacy with.) If she’s already attracted to you in the first place. She’s not necessarily going to act out on it (we’ll deal with that in phase 4). more than half of our conversations ended up having a very subtle but noticeable sexual undertone.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 60 Do you see what I did here? It is to get her thinking about situations where the two of you are together. That’s the main advantage of subtle communication. This is VERY EFFECTIVE during the getting to know you stage when she’s still trying to decide what her first impression is of you -. There are only two ways you can get her to do that: 1. the art of subtle communication played A HUGE FACTOR in me getting this girl to make out with me.) If she doesn’t see you in that way. Your conversation will end up having very overt sexual undertones.but it’s just as effective no matter what stage of the game you’re in. In my professional opinion. and 2.but it works.com . One of the main reasons guys stay as “just friends” with a girl is because they don’t allow the girl to see them in a sexual manner. such as how would I react if we slept together for a one night thing. but using this technique you can make sure that she’s definitely thinking about it. then all you have to do is act sexual. then use this tactic. It’s somewhat of a “brute force” tactic -. If you think you have a problem with getting her to see you in a sexual manner. she started asking me other hypothetical questions. OutOfTheFriendZone. and use it mercilessly.

to kissing. What do I mean by escalation? Think of touching as a ladder. they told me that they left him because they felt creeped out because he was too touchy. When I asked them what happened to our acquaintance. I started to get bored.com . If you hold this belief. We seem to feel guilty for touching her in fear of violating her personal space and coming off as a pervert. to sex in two giant leaps. Go figure. Listen: knowing how to touch a woman in such a way that generates sexual attraction is the one advantage average Joes have over muscular jocks and rich models. but there’s no one magic way to touch a girl that induces sexual attraction.You have to take one small step at a time in order for the next step to “feel right. Many of us are touch-averse especially towards women we have feelings for.You can’t make this stuff up. We came across one of our acquaintances from school who was slightly tipsy. The funny thing about it is that they were telling me this with my arms on both of their shoulders. Touching people you meet makes them feel comfortable in your presence almost immediately. so while a few of my buddies were chatting with him I decided to go to the bar and grab some drinks. After a while. then you need to erase this type of thinking RIGHT NOW. two of my female friends found me.You start with small touches and gradually work your way up the steps. right? Here’s the thing: There are tons of ways to touch a woman wrong.You can’t go from no touching at all. Funny story: I was with some friends at a club some time ago. The only thing you need to do is focus your touching on constant escalation. if you do it right.” OutOfTheFriendZone. He was one of those popular guys.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 61 Touch: The 4 Stages of Escalation This is one of the best “techniques” unknown to men everywhere.

for example. Of course. STAGE 3 . or touching the small of her back when opening the door for her. STAGE 1 .Shake her hand and hold it for a tad bit too long .Stand next to her with your arm touching hers.Sit next to her with your legs touching each other . STAGE 2 . even high fives are good at this stage. you can move on to the next step. If you have any questions.com . email me for clarifications. . your fingers will lightly graze her neck when you do so.Admire her necklace by getting close and grabbing it to examine it closely.Casually touch her on the arm to emphasize a point you’re saying. .Hell.don’t turn away her invitations to kiss you if you’re only at the second stage.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 62 Have you ever heard a woman say that holding hands with.Casual Upon the first time you meet her . don’t stick to it RIGIDLY -.You start with casual and nonthreatening and work your way to sexual and intimate.Romantic OutOfTheFriendZone. What you’re doing is getting her used to the idea of you touching her.Protective Once she’s comfortable with you touching her. . and slowly (but surely) increasing the level of touching. even kissing her man just feels right? That’s touch escalation executed properly. The following is a series of steps to follow from beginning until the time she’s ready to be kissed.Give her a friendly hug after you tease her. Use your better judgement. . While you must stick to the regimen.

Stroking her face with your fingers while looking deeply into her eyes . these different stages go from platonic to deeply intimate. Time for the next big moves. The more constant your touching. I guarantee you that she will be very comfortable with your touching. she’ll feel comfortable with the next few semiromantic touching moves . Don’t stray too far though as you absolutely cannot mess this step up. What do you do if you’ve OutOfTheFriendZone.Holding hands or walking arm in arm with both of your faces really close to each other’s . As soon as you reach the final stage. which is to: . so use this situation to your advantage. Also. keep in mind that it’s not enough to do these things one time and leave it at that. or just pretend she has something on her cheeks and wipe it gently. There are plenty more of touching moves you can do. .Kissing her on the cheek If you notice. so feel free to improvise a little bit as long as you know what stage you’re in. The ear is a really sensitive area especially when in contact with the lips.Sexual As soon as she’s comfortable with these.Run your fingers through her hair .If the environment is extremely loud.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 63 Once you’ve done those. the better.com . and chances are she’s starting to see you in a romantic and/or sexual light already.You can also brush her hair off her face. going for a kiss on the lips will feel perfectly natural -. feel free to talk to directly to her ear (don’t shout!) and gently brush your lips against her ear. STAGE 4 .no more awkardness.

no need to jump into holding hands right away. (Note: Stage 1 and 2 of the touch escalation pattern should be executed during Phase 2 of the process) OutOfTheFriendZone. my friend.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 64 made the mistake of not establishing touch early on? Better late than never. Start small -.com .

com . Never assume that just because things are normal between the two of you that she’s ready for a relationship with you.always remember to tread the waters carefully. If you execute the steps in Phases 1.) smiles warmly at you. and when you catch her looking she either 1.You’ve successfully maneuvered your way out of the friend zone and got yourself to Phase 4. but you can tell that it’s time to close the deal once you start seeing these signs: .Getting her out on a date was nowhere as difficult as it used to be . generated sexual attraction. 2 and 3 properly.She starts responding well to physical touch .You feel her looking at you while you’re doing something. you’ve done the toughest of the tough. or 2.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 65 PHASE 4: CLOSING THE DEAL Congratulations. and started to exude qualities of a sexy and confident man. “Since when did I become so funny?”) OutOfTheFriendZone. How do you know if you’re already in this phase? You’ll know it when you see it. Tread The Waters Carefully You’ve gone this far in your journey out of the friend zone -. she now starts contacting you first on a regular basis .Whereas you used to start all forms of communication with her.She starts laughing at almost everything you say (making you wonder.You need to look for crystal clear signs that she is definitely attracted to you and no longer sees you as just a friend. It requires a little bit of intuition. You’ve worked on revamping her image of you. it won’t be long until you can feel that it’s time to close the deal.) looks down then away .

by now.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 66 .com . Just be careful and always analyze the situation. In this case.if she’s sending strong messages. Use that as your point of comparison. OutOfTheFriendZone. especially guys she likes.You know more about her than most guys -. just trust your intuition -.She bluntly asks you out on dates (disguised as Non-Dates). or even asks you to come over at night These are just some of the telltale signs that will indicate her growing interest in you and signal that you need to seal the deal and make her yours. you’re probably right. wants to have drinks with just the two of you. you should probably be very well aware of how he is with other guys. and try to match yourself as to where you are on the scale.

there is NO getting out. This is not the time to go back to old habits that got you in the friend zone in the first place! Don’t start chasing her around like she’s the only woman in your life again (even if she is). lost the girl for good. You’ve put in all this work successfully so far -. OutOfTheFriendZone. Not the way you want to go out. and sadly. there are the clearly wrong things that you should never even think about doing. everything will just be a big fat lie and she will feel like she’s been lead on. While there’s no exact rules on the right things to do with a woman.tread the waters carefully. No buying gifts unless it’s a special occasion -.com . you’ve managed to get yourself out of that black hole.and if she’s not buying gifts for you. then you need to uphold to that -. I know several guys who I’ve helped get out of the friend zone. then you probably shouldn’t do the same. They reverted back to their old ways. because you’re actually in a more vulnerable position now than you were in before. trust me -. But because you executed the tactics in this book so perfectly well. my friend. If you’ve successfully revamped your image in her eyes. But if ever you get yourself there again. Never confess your feelings and tell her how you’ve loved her ever since the first day you’ve known each other. but sadly they got too overconfident and started believing they could do no wrong.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 67 Lightning Doesn’t Strike Twice You’ve already landed yourself in the friend zone once.otherwise.

do what I like to call the Kiss Test. I’m going to tell you right now that this moment will just happen. When you realize that it’s your time. When do you know if she’s ready to be kissed? A good guideline is the moment you start asking yourself. There’s something very comforting about this (you ever wonder why women brush their hair so often?) and then look her in the eye. but keep your hands on her hair and start touching the tips. pounce on the opportunity and don’t let it slip away. 3.) Find an excuse to smell her hair. 1.) Keep stroking her hair. this time brushing it with your fingers and gently scratching her scalp. When the two of you are alone and you can feel the sexual tension building.) Pull away. 2.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 68 The Kiss Test: Perfect Is Imperfect. then you’re a go to continue. “Should I kiss her now?” then you probably should. even smiles. Imperfect Is Perfect Whatever happens. But be warned: you have to really trust your instincts if you choose to follow this rule. I usually like saying something to the effect of. just like how everything is perfect and right and the male hero just manages to sweep the female actress off her feet.You know. If she lets you do this. “I smell something good. do NOT wait to set up the perfect moment to make your move. It is tempting to try and do it like they do in the movies. Is that your hair?” and lean over and give it a sniff.com . OutOfTheFriendZone.

) When she looks back. moving on to the next step is easy.com . If she let’s you keep stroking her hair and keeps looking at you in the eye. look down at her lips. OutOfTheFriendZone. then the green light is on. and you should go in for the kiss. but you’re not giving her anything too overt to reject or object to.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 69 4. You’re escalating towards a kiss. By slowly climbing that ladder of escalation. Why does this work so well? Again. then look her in the eyes again. Do this. and you will find out easily whether she’s ready to be kissed -guaranteed. it’s the concept of escalation in effect.

You can hardly believe you’re actually kissing her and making out with her! Just as everything is going as planned. it’s always about how they FEEL. It feels so right” or something to that effect. who. With men. sometimes the how and the why. do not. try to convince her LOGICALLY to continue the physical intimacy with you! This is a crucial point of difference between men and women. when. how angry she feels with this one person at work.it’s what has worked well for me so far.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 70 Last Minute Resistance So you’ve managed to squeeze yourself in. The natural instinct for many would be to convince her otherwise -. we can’t do this. Notice how our stories always involve the what.” Now. and where. Back to the topic at hand: what do you do when you encounter last minute resistance? Say this: OutOfTheFriendZone. Less logic.We’re FRIENDS. more emotions. she pulls away and tells you. But with women. and more about feelings.“No. straight facts and logic is enough.com . etc. When faced with this situation. by any means. this is not me being sexist -. To be able to make a woman relate to you. most guys would not have an idea what to do in this situation. Their stories are laced with feelings. we should be. “No. how they got annoyed when the checkout counter girl was rude to them. No. you need to start talking less in facts.

com . One of the reasons she is resisting is because she is scared of her social reputation. so the trick is to let her body win the conflict.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 71 “You’re right.. and start kissing her. Give it a couple of minutes.” and keep on kissing her. If you can maneuver her to get on top you. The trick is to turn the tables on her and start making her the aggressor. she’s in danger of getting thought of as a slut. Pay attention to your body language.. we can’t do this. and they seem to agree with my explanation of it: By the time that she actually tells you that you two can’t do what you’re doing. but I have an idea. If you have the TV on. Her logical mind and her body is actually conflicting right now. So if she resists. By taking a short break. “Wait. After that time. I’ve also asked women I’ve been with. and keep on kissing her. I don’t exactly know why. what happens right now stays between us. Then turn to her and start escalating again by quickly going through the Touch Escalation pattern. and adjust it so she’s actually doing some of the work. If ever this gets out to your circle of friends. pull away for real. she wonders. If she pulls away again and says. that’s her logical mind speaking. “I can’t. the sexual OutOfTheFriendZone. this is bad. Continue until the third time she resists. watch whatever’s on there for a short while. She will kiss you back. give her ear a quick nibble.You can do this by pulling her towards you as you slowly lay back while the two of you are making out. Hold her hand. When you stop. tell her this: “We’re in our own world right now darling. even better. then sniff her neck. This advice might seem counter-intuitive. which kills off the logical mind in the process.” acknowledge what she says. but it works.” Then start kissing her again. did he really just stop?” She starts wanting the good feelings brought upon by the act of making out with you.

(Notice that she’ll be letting out a heavy breath after the stop-start process -a sign of tension getting released on her end.when you start again.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 72 tension between the two of you exponentially builds -. Note: If she firmly tells you to STOP and starts pulling away -. solid rules for last minute resistance -. OutOfTheFriendZone. Going further would be rape. making out with you is a great release.com .do so right away.) Note: Keep in mind that there are no hard. Don’t do that. It is because of this which is why the perfect time to move to the next base is after a short break.there are only guidelines.

To your success! Gavin Ferenzo PS.com That is my personal email address. you’ve successfully managed to get yourself out of the friend zone! You have everything I could possibly know about women and how you could navigate your way out of the friend zone and turn a friend into a girlfriend. Don’t play with anybody’s feelings -. and you can ensure that I will receive and read any and all emails sent there. Fortune favors the bold. Use it only for good.“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 73 CONCLUSION Congratulations.karma will come around and bite you in the ass if you do. Please don’t abuse this knowledge. I would really love to hear your success story. This is very powerful stuff. Write me at: gavingferenzo@gmail. While I cannot guarantee that EVERYBODY will succeed in their journey out of the friend zone. and has the power to destroy a woman’s heart if done carefully. OutOfTheFriendZone. I really want to hear your thoughts. by following the tactics in this book you are dramatically increasing your chances of doing what many think to be impossible.com .

OutOfTheFriendZone. please don’t hesitate to email us at: support@outofthefriendzone.com We will get back to your query within 24-48 hours.com .“Escaping The Friend Zone” program Page 74 CUSTOMER SUPPORT If you have any queries regarding your purchase.

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