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Vol 37, Issue No. 870
Founder: Vishwa Nath



Dr S. N. Khosla


Gayatri T. Rao Payal Dasgupta


PAP TEST? Dr Amrinder Bajaj
Dr S. S. Fonseca
Dr S. Fonseca Neelkamal Kapoor OF QUACKS
ARTICLES Rajendra Kumar Rai

Shailja Mehta


Praney Deb Jency Samuel
● Asparagus Mini
Spring Rolls FESTIV AL
Brocoli pakoras
oil for frying
salt to taste
For the filling:
3-4 boiled
3-4 tsp of oil
mashed potatoes
1/ tsp of cinnamo

1/ tsp of ajwain
salt to taste
Prepare the

– carom seeds

filling by heating salt to

adding the

1 large brinjal
oil for deep

mashed For the filling:


the oil and ms
with the spices. 200 gm of mushroo

potatoes together and keep 1 cup of sliced onions
2-3 minutes
Stir-fry for
Holi is a time 3 tsp of oil

● Brocoli Pakoras BROCOLI

maida, salt 1/ 2 tsp of haldi powder
aside. the
when guests sauce - or Sift together with your 1 tsp of jeera powder

Deepali Nandwani
of red chilli the ghee
2 tsp and mix in
1/ r powder
breadcrumbs. 1 tbsp of coriande
drop by more as per fingers to resemblewater to knead 1 large tomato – chopped

METHOD Add just enough

throughout the INGREDIENTS: florets
Cut the
the filling: Divide the pieces
To prepare pieces and brocolli into a dough. Roll out each 2 green chillies
– chopped

Jelly with Crunchy

300 gm of

into 3 inch portions.
day. We bring ROLLS
drop these
into boiling
water. Put
pepper powder
oil for deep
into 12-14
portion into
a very thin
chapatti. salt to taste
you recipes
and allow broad strips D
off the heat the water salt to taste Cut 3 inches so as to get 2-3 METHO brinjal into two halves
INGREDIENTS: s to remain in Cut the portion
you roll wrapper asparagus Drain out all
the each chapatti up one strip at a out the centre
For the batter:
which allow 6-8 spring
oil for frying
for 3-4 minutes. asparagus into
2 cups of besan
such strips.
Pick and scoop
brinjals so
as to have

to be prepared

92 A
cut the the can be

and in of which
and keep aside. the 2 tsp of oil
time. of the filling -out brinjal

Varalotti Rengasamy For the filling: powder Place a portion

small pieces of red chilli roll over scooped Sprinkle salt and keep
with snacks,
asparagus oil and add 1 tsp or less the strip and all
3-4 sticks of Heat the for 1 minute. the centre of that the stuffed. 5 minutes. Drain out
cabbage stir-fry salt to taste 3-4 times so ar aside for fry the
main 1 cup grated mushrooms cabbage and of the vegetables the filling for and deep
sweets and
a triangul
1 cup chopped powder Mix in the
rest METHOD into final product is the water one at a
broccol i with various out brinjals
be 1 tsp of oregano Break the discard shaped samosa till both
course and powder and the spices. stir-fry for another
florets and from the scooped
Prepare samosa another time, turning
once or twice

Mini Crispy
1/ tsp of basil Continue to salt and pepper layers. Fry both

water fried well.
Once all the Roll out
popular with the stalk. Sprinkle for 10 minutes. different strips. the sides are
1/ tsp of soya
sauce Remove
2-3 minutes. ted from the cut into strips in this way.

2 aside again
oil keep and the pieces
your guests.
2 tsp of olive onions chopped has
evapora and
the water. portion layered samosas and keep aside.
keep aside. Drain out all for the and prepare the and
2-3 tsp of spring portions vegetables, one of the ingredients Heat oil and a
on Heat the oil
Mix all the For the filling:

- green and
white Carefull y remove cut this half cups in this way. onions and
By Roma Ghosh one and a fry the samosasare fry the mushroo ms,
mini spring wrappers and easily. batter. Add and mix medium heat till most of
Asparagus spring roll a little more that these
can handle

into sizes you make small spring of water or your few at a time so tomatoes together ted. Add the
Mix well with brown.
It is good to these into the besan. a smooth flowing crispy and golden water is evapora fire for 2-3
you can serve into cook on low
rolls so that fingers to obtain for deep spices and the scooped
having to cut enough oil minutes . Fill stuffing and then
whole without batter. Heat florets into samosas

each of the Mini crispy
brinjals with
this just
in frying. Dip fry in oil, a in the oven
pieces. of the filling and deep
Place a portion this batter are place the brinjals before you are

PVV Satyanarayana
and till the pakoras

Stuffed Brinjals
wrapper pieces heating just

each of the both the sides and few at a time for
and crispy.
first wrap from into a mini-siz ed golden brown ready to serve.
then roll over
spring roll. pan-fry the CAPPUCCIN
You can either pan or
on a non-stick Serve MINI CRISPY BADAM MILK

spring rolls

with Mushrooms
in hot oil.
deep fry theseinto small pieces. IENTS:
without cutting milk
You can keep and
INGREDIENTS: 100 ml of hot
Optiona l: 57

to 3-4 inches 200 gm maida
asparagus roll
in every spring us ghee 2010
100 gm of March (First)
use one piece asparag Woman’s Era

cutting the
instead of

Subhra Majumdar and Onions into small pieces.

OUT OF A MILLIONAIRE ● Cappuccino Badam

96 THE MATTER OF J. Shankaranarayanan Milk
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ver the years, work culture has changed hashidhar Mishra of Begusarai, Bihar is the
completely in Indian cities, especially in metros. second person after Satish Shetty of Pune to have
24x7 is the new work funda of the modern lost his life under Right to Information (RTI) Act.
corporate world. Needless to say, service sector has His ‘crime’ was just that he had used this Right in order
grown substantially in terms of providing better services to expose the deeds of corrupt officials. News of
and satisfaction to the customers. threatening such persons, who are using RTI, are
But all this comes at a price – a price that our youth common from all over the country. Often they are forced
have to pay with their time and health. 24x7 work into false legal cases. But Bihar has surpassed all other
culture demands that the work is to be done in shifts. states in this regard. Murder of two RTI activists
As such, working late night and beyond physical indicates that all is not well in Bihar – and in
capacity has become the order of the day. After such a Maharashtra also – which is bragging of achieving
tiring work schedules, it is but natural for the youth to unprecedented growth rate.
be indulged in partying and merry making in order to What is more alarming is the fact that even the
relax their crying nerves. Police department is taking the matter
There is nothing wrong in enjoying the very lightly. They are terming this
goodies of life earned through hard work. murder a consequence of some old
But the problem arises when these same feuds of the activist. Lately, Shashidhar
hard-working youth begin to use narcotic had come to be known as ‘Khabarilal’
drugs in their parties unaware of their because of his using RTI and thus
serious consequences. exposing the bureaucratic scams. As
Recently, Hyderabad Police has such, he had become a bone of
busted a drug racket in the city. The contention for the players indulged in
police action has led to some startling the game of corruption. His murder also
exposures. It reveals that narcotic drugs indicates that all the tall claims made
have spread their tentacles among the by the State Government of providing
youth and are essential feature of youth security to whistle blowers are hollow.
parties called rave parties. And it is just There is also news that the State
the tip of the iceberg. Government is mulling a proposal to
Arrest of Tollywood film producer K.V. Rao in amend the RTI Act in the state. If the Government
possession of a narcotic substance ephedrine shows succeeds in its intention, its move will render the RTI
that even celebrities are being caught in drug nuisance. ineffective. In the context of Bihar, it is a bitter reality
Police raids on pubs and tents, venues of rave parties, that corruption has spread at all levels and in all
have led to recovery of some dangerous narcotics like spheres. RTI has provided a potent tool into the hands
LSD, Speed and even Cocaine. Ravers disclose that of the whistle blowers to challenge the claims of the
they procure these substances from Goa. government, which should have shown the courage to
Such disclosures put a serious question mark on provide all the relevant information under RTI and made
the efficiency of our enforcement agencies, especially it stronger. But exactly opposite is happening and
the Narcotic Bureau, as narcotic substances travel a people are being scared off or harassed in some other
long way within the country without any interruption. ways.
Use of narcotic substances is a crime in the country. Corruption is a serious malady in India. Funds
But the present day youth have an easy access to allocated for developmental works are diverted
these drugs. They are caught for consuming them, but elsewhere. Hardly five to ten percent money reaches to
the big fish always evade interrogation. the target audience. Panchayats and Block
Increasing use of narcotics in rave parties is also an Development Offices are the last rungs, which de facto
indication that drug peddlers are having a good time implement a scheme at ground level. Right to
and a flourishing business in the country. Drugs very Information, in such a scenario, can empower the
soon make a person addict even if tried for once only. masses. But the recent developments prove that one
But youth try these drugs regularly in rave parties. The has to pay with his life if one wishes to use this Right.
addiction will very soon drain out their mental and Otherwise, it is anybody’s guess how much difficult it is
physical capabilities. So the situation warrants strict to fight corruption in this country despite having a potent
vigilance from enforcement agencies. tool in hands. We

Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010 5

o you've been dating a man
for a few months. You have
many things in common, you
love his company and, as
things begin to become
more serious, you might

IS wonder if he is actually “the
one”. Is this him? Is this the
dream man you've been
waiting for all your life. Now,

nobody can tell you if someone is the
person you are to share the rest of
your life with, but here are the signs
that will tell you that he is your dream
Measures of a man in a girl’s future... He respects women: Okay, this
By Praney Deb is a no-brainer, so it's best to get it
out of the way first. If he's respectful,
well mannered, polite and opens
doors for you and stands aside to let
you through first, he’s got class and
comes from a good family. If he talks
nicely to your mom, and speaks with
respect to his mom, chances are he’ll
treat you with respect as well. If he
orders his mother around, shouts at He knows how to dress: Every
his sister, swears at his ex, and woman knows that a man who can
salivates at every passing skirt, give dress is a man who is looking to
him his marching orders. impress. If your man knows how to
dress without you interfering, you
He treats everyone nicely: Let's must keep him. There is nothing
face it; all of us are nice to our worse in the world than having to
superiors. But it takes someone dress your man and yourself for a
special to be nice to a person who is night out. If he can coordinate his
below their station in life and to whom outfit and look great next to you – is
they need not be nice. The guy who that a dream or what?
considers himself above the taxi
driver or doorman may soon act like He loves being with you: Every
he's better than you (or your woman needs a man who actually
profession or your family). Plus, you’ll enjoys her presence. If your man only
always feel mortified about his bad requests you to sit in the same room He really wants to be with you to
manners. with him while he reads or finishes share time and experiences with you,
work just because you brighten his even if that means heading to the
Google him: We don't encourage day, it is a good sign that he's a mall to ponder the sales. He is happy
spying but once you know his name it definite keeper. If he simply lights up to hear your voice, get an e-mail from
is kind of hard not to google him, the moment he sees you or hears you when he’s at work, and his face
admit it. Just typing in his name can your voice, he truly enjoys you as a lights up when he sees you. It’s great
tell you a few things about him – the person and as a mate. This is truly to be wanted and he can’t hide how
school he passed out from, his one of the best things you can ever he feels about you. Lucky you!
facebook friends, and whether he has have in a relationship.
any harassment or stalking charges He has a solid relationship with
against him. Do this early, so there his family: Finding a man who has a
are no surprises later, but use your great relationship with his family is
own judgement and do not believe
everything you read on the Internet.
FINDING A MAN priceless. A man who has a great
relationship with his family is a man
WHO HAS A who has great family values. His
He keeps promises: If he keeps relationship with his family can clue
appointments and keeps promises, GREAT you into what family life would be like
he’s a keeper. If he remembers what
he promised in the heat of the
RELATIONSHIP with him in the future.
Ever heard the saying that if you
moment, then he’s worth considering. WITH HIS FAMILY see how a man treats his mother you
If he goes beyond and above the call will know how he will treat you? Well,
of duty to carry out a promise, then IS PRICELESS. A it’s true. A man who has a sound
book yourself into the nearest mental
hospital if you let him go.
MAN WHO HAS relationship with his family and
friends reveals he has good family
A GREAT values and the potential to be an
He gets along with your friends: excellent husband and father. And
If he enjoys your friends’ company, I RELATIONSHIP while every family has ups and
mean really enjoys their company,
with no pretence, then he’s the real
WITH HIS FAMILY downs, seeing your man stand tall
and be supportive of his family is a
deal. There is nothing worse than IS A MAN WHO good sign he’s one to hang on to,
being with someone who always because he will do the same for you.
finds excuses not to hang out with HAS GREAT
He is not a show-off: He doesn’t
you and your friends. Of course, if he
showers too much attention on your
FAMILY VALUES. mention that his watch is a
hottie friends and ignores your Rolex. Or that he made a
nottie friends, then it’s probably killing in the real-estate
better to let him go. And because market. Or how much his
your friends know you so well Mercedes set him back.
they will gauge him on Guys who talk
their own and pass their about how much
own judgement, whether things cost,
you like it or not. especially to a
manage finances, and basically stay
out of trouble. If your man can do this
without your help, you have found a
great man.
If he’s not the type to blame
others, or circumstances for life
situations, if he accepts
accountability for his actions and is
willing to self-examine, take
responsibility, grow personally and if
you can trust him with your dog for a
weekend while you are out of town
with your girlfriends, girl, he is a
dream not to be woken up from.

He has a life of his own:

Although you would love him to be
available for each of your fancies it
will get boring if all he does is hang
virtual stranger, are basically confident about the strength of your about you all the time. Work he's
insecure. They use money as a hook relationship. Now, that’s a real dream passionate about, hobbies that keep
to catch women. But you’re not man! him engaged, friends and family he
landed that easily, right? Just cares about make him an interesting,
because a guy spends a lot of money He is responsible: While every well-rounded person who will be
on himself, doesn’t mean he’ll lavish man has a bit of the "boy" in him, he more interesting to hang out with. A
it on his girlfriend. In fact, people who is all man when it really counts. Most dream man with a dream personality
have to tell you the price of good men know how to keep a job, – who's complaining?
everything are often cheap. Guys
who price-drop and name-drop are He is a good loser: Of course
shallow, insecure and definitely not you don't want a loser, nobody
dream men. IF YOU HAVE A does. That's not what we mean. But
CONFIDENT MAN, he shouldn't get all grumpy when he
He is confident: If you have a loses a game of caromboard, say.
confident man, there is no reason THERE IS NO C'mon, you want a man with spirit, a
you should give him the boot. If your REASON YOU man who will fight against all odds.
man is confident enough to not get A man who loves winning but
upset if you mention a celebrity is SHOULD GIVE HIM doesn't mind losing sometimes too.
good looking or sexy, he is a good THE BOOT. This shows he has the character and
man. ability to handle emergencies like
If your man can understand that paying the massive shopping bills
you can "see and not touch" another you're about to surprise him with.
man, he is a definite dream. He
knows that you say these things He makes you feel fabulous:
because you are honest and he’s Finally, all said and done, he has to
confident of your love for him. make you feel like a million bucks,
He’s not afraid to tell you exactly like a princess even in your saggy
how he feels. A man who is sweatpants.
confident in his own skin and who If he's still picking you up at the
can express who he is and how he airport after two years, if he is the
feels without worrying about what one who arranges the dreamy
anyone thinks, is a great catch. romantic date and if he is the one
He will be emotionally available to who always makes up, then this is
you because he trusts you and he the dream man you've been waiting
loves you. He won’t get upset if you for all your life.
tell him you think Salman Khan is He is your prince charming, your
sexy (and you shouldn’t when he knight in shining armour. Believe it,
says he thinks Sonam Kapoor is because you are the luckiest girl in
sexy!). He knows you love him and is the world! We
was nine years old when
Sumathi, a teenaged neighbour,
had immolated herself for the
simple reason that her father had

scolded her. The next day I
remember narrating the incident
at school (where our medium of
instruction was Tamil), repeating
the word ‘suicide’ as many times
as I could, sort of showing off that

I had learnt a new word. Young as I
was, I did not realise the seriousness

AND of the situation till we heard of

Sumathi’s death. This happened in
Devakottai, a small town in Tamil

AN URGE TO Nadu in the’70.

Whenever I read about suicides in
the dailies, I think of the suicide
deaths of people whom I know. A
neighbour’s son had hanged himself
It’s a huge internal in a thatched shed on the terrace of
their house. And they had been
conflict of the depressed. searching for him throughout the
locality for three days. Then I learnt
By Jency Samuel of the death of a disabled person
whom I had interviewed for an article.

12 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

He had the spirit to achieve in spite of Words or the lack of them appear kumar, a student of standard ten,
his lack of education and his to be the reason for many a suicide. picking up the acid bottle.
disability. He kept in touch asking for P. V. Sankaranarayanan, former The reasons for suicides are as
advice once in a while. Then I did not Director of SNEHA, a suicide varied as can be: failure in exams,
hear from him. Later, I learnt that he prevention centre in Chennai, angry words from parents, teachers
had taken his life because of a failed attributes most of the problems to or spouse, terminal illnesses,
relationship. There have been lack of communication. "Those with financial difficulties and failed love
countless others. But the most suicidal thoughts want someone to being the most common ones. A
disturbing had been the death of a listen. They are ambivalent during diamond merchant and his family
colleague’s husband. I still remember that critical period of time when they resorted to the extreme step, fearing
the way my colleague and her are depressed. They have the wish to conviction, as they had been booked
husband joked and laughed at my live and also an urge to die. When for driving his parents to suicide. A
wedding reception, a few months there is a conflict, they opt either for newly-married girl committed suicide
after theirs. It was a simple argument life or death, according to whichever because her visa application to join
that resulted in his death. feeling is predominant at that her husband was rejected. There has
Most of us have had to face moment.” also been the strange case of a
suicidal deaths in our families or that When U. Jagadeeswari's mother Chennai astrologer committing
of acquaintances. And thoughts of scolded her because she had suicide after predicting his death for
suicide would have crossed the dropped out of college and also did the following day.
minds of many of us, at some point not want to work, she consumed But, according to experts, it is
while feeling low. Why do people feel acid. The insensitive words (which usually not just a single reason that
suicidal? are too harsh and insensitive to be drives people to suicide. They say
Serotonin is a chemical messen- printed) of his father had Narendra- the thought process is something
ger that transmits signals between like: “My boss finds faults with me.
nerve cells. The level of serotonin is THE REASONS FOR My siblings fare better than me. And
responsible for our mood swings, say SUICIDES ARE AS now even my spouse is angry with
doctors. Lower serotonin levels lead me.” Or, in the case of students, “I
to depression. The doctors give that
VARIED AS CAN BE: can't measure up to the expectations
as the reason why one needs to get FAILURE IN EXAMS, of my teachers. I'm never allowed to
medical attention as soon as one ANGRY WORDS relax. Even my mother calls me
gets depressed. The antidepressants FROM PARENTS, useless.” The reasons pile on one
prescribed by doctors regulate the
serotonin levels.
TEACHERS OR another leading to depression.
"When you feel depressed or
SPOUSE, TERMINAL angry, go out and do something.
SUICIDE ILLNESSES, Read a book. Go to a place of
FINANCIAL meditation and pour out your trouble
PREVENTION DAY DIFFICULTIES AND to a good listener. Talk to friends or
In 2003, the World Health
Organisation declared 10 September
FAILED LOVE BEING family members. Talking will iron out
most of the problems.” Those are not
as Suicide Prevention Day. THE MOST the words of advice of a counseller,
According to WHO and the Inter - COMMON ONES. but that of Jagadeeswari. The 22-
national Association for Suicide year-old has come to this realisation
Prevention (IASP), the suicide rate during her recuperation.
worldwide has increased by 60 per After Sanjay's brother committed
cent in the last 45 years. While the suicide, Sanjay learnt that his brother
worldwide suicide rate is 16, in India had been telling a colleague that
it hovers between 10 and 11. The nothing was worth living for. "Though
rate is the number of suicides that suicide is an impulsive decision taken
take place in a population of 100,000. on the spur of the moment, the
Though the rate in India remains suicidal thought would have persisted
almost the same, the number of for a while. And generally through
suicides is on the rise. There is their words or actions, they indicate
nothing that is common to those who that they are depressed,” says
commit suicide. Encompassing a Sankaranarayanan.
broad spectrum of society, it includes Dr D. S. Somasekar, former
the educated and the uneducated. superintendent of Royapettah
But suicide is a problem that can Government Hospital, says that they
be prevented, emphasise experts. get patients who have survived
poisoning, partial hanging and self- husband took his life after the two widowed young, I was her only
immolation. While those in the lower had an argument. emotional support and she could not
economic strata consume acid or Unlike other survivors who take my angry words. If I'd accepted
immolate themselves, those at the attempted suicide, Jagadeeswari and her, had told her that it was human to
other end of the social spectrum Narendra Kumar would suffer for a err, she might not have resorted to
resort to an overdose of pills or long time. "The acid damages the it. Her confession was a sign that she
hanging, he adds. food pipe badly. Any ulcer leaves a was on the brink and I failed to
And what kind of an effect does scar. Here, when the scarring realise it.”
suicide have on family and friends, process starts, the food pipe gets While there are support groups
especially of those 'completed' constricted and at one point of time abroad to help and counsel survivors,
suicides? The list of survivors are not they are even unable to swallow the idea has not caught on here.
just the ones who attempted to take saliva. This can only be remedied by Though SNEHA played a role in
their lives. It includes the family reconstructive surgery,” says forming three such self-help groups
members who have to grapple with Dr Chandramohan, gastroen - in 2004, it is not known if they still
the death of a loved one. Or the terologist of Royapettah Government function. The reason is that suicide
unconnected ones like an engine Hospital. is perceived as a personal problem;
driver when someone chooses a as an escape route of the cowardly,
railway track to take away his or her hence having a stigma attached to it.
life. CAUSES OF SUICIDES Sankaranarayanan, who presently
Sathish went into depression after Rajan of Zeal, well known for his contributes his time to Befrienders
his neighbour’s suicide. Sathish had personality development training India as well, counters all of them.
been talking to his neighbour till programmes is a survivor in both He says, "Suicide is a multi-
11.30 pm at night. When the senses. He had attempted to take his dimensional problem. Of all suicides,
neighbour suddenly woke up at 3 am life as a student because of a 23 per cent are due to family
and looked out of the window, he relationship which had gone sour. problems and family problems are
could see the same person hanging "Anger spurs you on. 'You made me social problems. Depressed people
from the fan. feel miserable; I'll make you feel the see it as an option and not as a
In most cases the surviving family same through my death,’ was the solution. The most important thing is
is left with a feeling of guilt. Raman, thought at that moment,” he recalls. that it takes a lot of courage to do
always shows those who visit him, "Work towards your purpose and not away with your life. It is neither a
the place where his brother breathed towards your problems, to banish courageous act nor a cowardly act,
his last. "He died just because the suicidal thoughts,” he advises. but an emotional cry for help.”
girl's parents did not agree to the Though he had come to this Jagadeeswari breaks down when
match. Had they found a good match realisation, he could not prevent his she talks of the pain she caused
for her, I'd have been consoled to mother and brother from taking the herself and her parents, but recovers
some extent. That was not to be. The extreme step. "I felt very guilty when quickly. She had shared her story as
girl is not at all happy.” Even after 20 my mother took her life. Once when a sort of 'thank you' to Dr
years, his brother's suicide rankles she confessed that she had made a Chandramohan, who helped her heal
him. Sumathy is still haunted by guilt mistake, I went all out at her instead not only physically but
and at times anger, since her of consoling her. Having been psychologically as well. When he told
her of the purpose of the interview
AND WHAT KIND and asked if her name could be used
OF AN EFFECT she boldly says, "Please use my
DOES SUICIDE HAVE name. Let my story serve as an eye-
ON FAMILY AND opener for at least a few people.”
"Accept people as they are," says
FRIENDS, Rajan as a solution to the problem.
ESPECIALLY OF One can help others by watching for
THOSE the symptoms, say experts. These
'COMPLETED' include the person being withdrawn
SUICIDES? or talking of loneliness,
worthlessness and death. Or if we
undergo the symptoms, we can seek
help. (see box). "If you Care, then
there won't be any need for
organisations like SNEHA,” says
Sankaranarayanan. In other words:
Care, accept, respect and empathise.

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10 ways to keep the Healthy Body Weight without Diet

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maintaining your ideal body ● Eat slowly. It takes about 20 the day with a heart-healthy
weight or you belong to the minutes for the satiety impulse to vegetable soup. In this way the
larger group of women who struggle arrive in the brain. Chewing the food nutrients in the soup will help with
every day to keep the extra weight well will also help digestion. digestion, and the consumed
off. Maybe you have tried many ● Never go grocery shopping amount of liquid will satisfy a part
diets but they didn't work or they hungry. It is the best to go buying of your stomach, so you will feel full
worked to some extent but, when foods after a meal. Then you are sooner with less food eaten.
you went back to your previous more likely to buy exactly what you ● Always start the day with
eating habits, you gained weight need, and make the healthier food breakfast. That will give your brain
back. The following living and choices and buy foods with less and body much-needed energy for
eating practices will help you to sugar and fat content. starting with the day’s activities and
maintain a healthy body weight. ● Drink plenty of water get your metabolism running. Active
● Eat small meals every two to throughout the day, between meals. metabolism means burning more
three hours. In that way you keep That will maintain proper nutrient calories.
your metabolism working and exchange and also a faster cleaning ● Have your last meal of the
prevent overeating at the next meal. of harmful by-products of cell day at least three hours before
● Do some kind of exercise for metabolism out of the body. Go for going to bed.
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could be as simple as walking with ● Don't skip meals as you are cut on your sleep to finish other
moderate pace, preferably shortly about to overeat at the next meal. things. – Alma Letic.

18 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

QA &
I want to get Botox fillers to get a
fuller lip-look. Who will guide me
are good for all skin types. For five
faces, take five tablespoons of fuller’s
about the best results and where to earth (multani mitti). Add five table-
get it done? spoons of honey and five table -
Botox fillers seem to become spoons of mashed papaya. Alter -
more and more popular but two natively, you could even use mashed
things you must know are that it is banana. Apply on the face for 20
not a permanent solution and it would minutes and wash with cool water. If
need to be redone within 4 to 6 there is any leftover you could use it
months time. Secondly, the person on the neck.
doing it must be qualified to do it and

must inform you of the effect you can
expect. You cannot expect Angelina What is the difference between
Jolie mouth if you have very thin lips. glimm er/ shimmer powder and
bronzing powder and how to use it
on the cheeks?
Whatever I do my kajal bleeds and The difference is in the light-
comes onto my cheeks. I love reflecting shine of the products. Also,
My question is about what cream wearing the natural kajal in the eyes bronzing powder is used to give a
producers say about method of using and don’t understand why this is defined sculpted look to the apples
exfoliators. Is there a simple list of happening, I used to do it when I of the cheeks and the shimmer
how to use them for maximum lived in Canada and it was not a powder should only be used on top of
benefit? problem. What should I do? the cheekbones.
When using the ready-made If you have always used the same
variety, do check out the instructions. product which is now bleeding it must
Generally, it is best to wet your face be the weather change. Maybe your I have ugly blackheads on my nose
before exfoliating. Use a loofah or kajal pencil is oil-based. There are and on the side of the nose. I get
exfoliating gloves while using the some lighter formulations available in them steamed in a salon but they
facial exfoliator. With circular motions the market. Try a more dry version. appear in no time. What can I do to
use the facial exfoliator. Avoid the Or opt for surma which is powder- appear better?
eye area. After using the exfoliator, based. Alternatively, you could even Blackheads are largely dirt that
rinse with warm water. Apply a seal it in with eyeliner. accumulates in our pores which is not

moisturiser afterwards. When removed. So regular exfoliation
exfoliating your face, use an should reduce the occurrence and
exfoliator that is specifically designed My lipstick tends to fade in no time. remove the surface grime. Take rice
for the face and not a body scrub, What can I do to make my lipstick and oatmeal powder in equal
and that it is not for a specific skin last longer? quantity, add water and rub over the
type which is not yours. You might benefit from selecting affected area daily.
the longer lasting lipstick – these are Adding buttermilk rather than
often matte and not glossy. Another water should give you better results.
My beautician says she uses trick that works most of the time is Also, you could wipe your nose with
essential oil in anti-wrinkle treatment. powdering and layering – draw the ice-cold water before going out and
Can I do this at home? outline with a liner, fill in with strokes that should minimise your pores.
In principle, yes, most self-made of lip pencil. Apply lipstick, blot gently.
treatments that are not from a known Apply a very light dusting powder and
company can be made at home but apply a final coat of lipstick. Do BEAUTY QUERIES
fine-tuning the ratio might take some remember that when it fades, the
time and practice. Some essential whole thing needs to be reapplied, not Readers are invited to send their
oils that can reduce lines and just touched up in the centre. beauty problems and questions
wrinkles are sandalwood, geranium, regarding face, complexion,
rosewood, rose jasmine, neroli and hair, skin, eyes etc to this column.
frankincense. We are a group of five friends and Address your letters, written
Mix these oils with evening we meet once a week. I want to legibly or typed on white paper, to:
primrose oil or another base to make prepare a suitable face pack. For all
your own natural anti-wrinkle lotion. skin types, so we can all enjoy the
E-3, Jhandewala Estate,
To make a natural anti-wrinkle cream same thing when we meet at my
New Delhi-110055.
for the eyes, use a base of cocoa house.
butter and add neroli. Yes, there are face packs which

20 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010


Sexual Favours for

a Signature
A TV director’s real-life drama. By Varalotti Rengasamy

bout your children, Mr Durai?” a young fast asleep. Why can’t you discuss that tomorrow
reporter asked the celebrity furtively. The morning? Hope you do not have an early morning
celebrity who was answering all the earlier shooting schedule.”
questions with a kind of extreme confidence “I do. But it can wait. I will talk to her first and
bordering on arrogance, now lowered his then go out.”
voice and told her softly, “Only a daughter. Durai punched some numbers on his mobile and
Name, Kunthavai. She is everything to me. started issuing commands to his deputies.
She is doing her doctorate in clinical psychology.” It was just seven in the morning. Durai’s
The celebrity, Durai, was an acclaimed director of impatience was obvious. He had one eye on the
TV serials. His serials enjoyed the highest TRP rating newspaper and another on the door of Kunthavai’s
in the State. room.
He was an expert in making people cry with his

family soaps, a much-wanted man in the industry hen he saw his tall, beautiful daughter
who commanded a reputation and had earnings walking out of the room, he was all smiles.
which were the envy of his counterparts in the cine Kunthavai too reciprocated his smile.
field. “You wanted to talk with your dad, darling? Is it
A private TV channel had organised a felicitation about the Honda car I promised you last month? Or
for Durai and he was attending a press meet shall we go ahead and buy that diamond jewellery
immediately afterwards. which we saw in Prince Jewellery two days back?”
Once thoughts about his only daughter came Kunthavai’s face fell. Durai’s heart skipped a
flowing in, he did not have the mind to continue with beat.
that bland press meet. After answering another “No, dad. This is something serious. Dad...
insipid question, he ended the meet. dad... I am in a ... kind of... a trap. I am being
“Kunthavai... Kunthavai...” threatened... dad...!”
In response to Durai’s frantic call his wife came “What happened, my dear?” Durai tossed the
from the kitchen. newspaper to the floor and stood up.
“What’s she doing?” “Ush!” Kunthavai placed her finger on her
That was his usual question whenever Without lips, with her eyes pointing to the kitchen.
he came home from work every day. waiting for “Not so loud, dad. Mom need not know
There was a marked concern in his her father’s about it. Why don’t we go to the garden and
wife’s voice. consent she talk?”
“Sleeping. She was restlessly waiting walked into Without waiting for her father’s consent
for you till now. Was telling that she had the garden she walked into the garden through the large
to discuss something so badly with you. through the French window in the drawing room. Durai
She tried to reach you in your mobile. large French followed his daughter.
But...” window in the Kunthavai started to talk in a whisper.
“Cut that stuff. Come, let’s go and find drawing “Dad, you have to control yourself. Don’t
out what she wants.” room. Durai get worked up on this. Okay?”
“No, not now. She has been telling me followed his Kunthavai’s prelude served only to get him
that she is damn tired. Did not even eat daughter. worked up faster.
her dinner. Has gone to bed and is now “Dad, in another two months I will finish

22 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

my studies. Then they will examine that, interview away. What the hell is he thinking?
me and award me the doctorate.” “I don’t even need to go. With just one call I can
“Good news. I am very proud of you, my dear. have my men finish him in no time. Kunthavai, this is
What’s the problem?” pretty serious. I am going to make a petition to the
“Please wait, dad. You know the academic DIG of police, the CM’s special cell, the CBCID...”
system. My guide should read my thesis and should

write a few good words about it and sign it. Then urai was picking up bits and pieces from the
only will it be taken up for assessment.” dialogues he wrote for the last episode of his
“So what?” popular serial.
“Cool it, dad, cool it, please. Professor Kunthavai was too shocked to respond. After
Balakrishnan is my guide. His guidance has been what seemed to be an eternity, a shivering
really valuable. He helped me in the choice of the Kunthavai almost whispered to her father.
subject. “Dad, let’s not get into any kind of violence. Then
“He guided me on how I should do the research. you will be caught in a criminal case. Will you just
And whenever I got stuck, he was there to help. listen to me?
But... but... But... now... he... is...” “Please come with me to that rascal’s house. In
“Come on. Make it fast, girl. You drag for one my presence you lift that fellow up by his shirt collar
more minute, I will spit my heart out.” and ask him how dare he talk like that to your
“But now he has named a price for endorsing my daughter.
thesis.” “That’s more than enough for me, dad. Even if I
“Phew! That’s nothing to worry about, my dear. don’t get my PhD, it does not matter.”
When in Rome do as the Romans do! How much “Give me a minute to change my dress.”
does he expect? I will pay him double, why, three Kunthavai also went to change.
times the amount he normally gets from the other The moment Durai was alone he went to his iron
students. Will a hundred thousand be okay, safe hidden inside his wardrobe and pulled out a
darling?” revolver. He opened it to check if it had enough
“Oh, dad! It’s not the money. It is something bullets in it.
else.” He clicked it closed and put it inside his jacket.
Durai froze in his place. He did not tell Kunthavai about his carrying a
“What the hell does he want?” weapon.
“He wants me... wants me... to stay... with him... Both the father and the daughter came out to the
at a hotel in... Mahabalipuram... for a night.” portico at the same time. A driver who was standing
“Bastard! Scoundrel! Loafer! Leave him to me, nearby, came running to them.
dear. I will tear him to pieces. I will kill him right Durai waved him aside and jumped into the
largest of the cars parked in his driveway,
a Honda Accord.
Kunthavai got into the passenger seat
and soon they were on the main road.
“His house is at Velachery,” she said.
Durai was going at breakneck speed.
“What do you think, dad? What that
fellow has done is wrong, isn’t it?”
“Why should you have doubt on that,
Kunthavai? You should be his daughter’s
age. And if he is trying to misbehave with
you... Well, if he had done something
similar in an Arab country, his punishment
would be...”
Durai checked himself mid-sentence.
“If he asks a student like this and if the
student’s parents come to know, what kind
of torture will it be for them? As a
professor, should he not know that?”
Kunthavai was now fanning the fire in
her father’s heart. Durai impulsively felt the
weapon in his jacket.

Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010 23

Kunthavai continued to inflame him even more. demanded sexual favours for an acting role was
“In my view, dad, the correct punishment for that none other than my wonderful father. You know
rascal is, that someone should ask the same question what I did, dad? I fell at her feet and at her parents’
to his daughter. And his daughter should come feet and begged their forgiveness.”
crying to him as I have come to you.” “Dad, that Professor Balakrishnan has a heart of
For the first time, Durai wore a puzzled look. gold. He has been treating me like his daughter. On
“Does he have a daughter?” many nights we have been alone in his room
“Yes, dad. She is exactly my age.” working on my thesis.
“Oh.” “Never has he crossed his limits. He did not see
“And you know the irony of the situation?” she me any different from his daughter Gayathri. I just
paused. lied to make you understand the gravity of your
“This man has got his punishment even before he crime.”
committed the crime.”

“What are you saying, Kunthavai?” urai did not have the heart to lift his head and
“Yes, dad. It’s true. A rogue has asked his see his daughter’s face. He was focussing on
daughter the same question. And that rogue put that a dust particle in the floor mat of the car.
question to his daughter even before he asked me. Is Uncomfortable silence reigned for a while.
it not funny, dad?” Durai started the vehicle and attempted to make a
U-turn to go back to their house.

urai was shocked. The car skidded to a halt. “What are you doing, dad?”
The vehicles in the rear started to sound their “I am sorry, Kunthavai. I won’t let this happen
horns. Durai swerved the car to the left and again.”
looked askance at his daughter. “Dad, this is not the TV serial you are directing,
“What the hell are you talking, Kunthavai?” where the villain gets reformed in a single line of
“Truth, dad, nothing but the bitter, harsh truth. dialogue and some pleasant background music.
Professor Balakrishnan’s daughter wanted to act in This is real life, dad. Listen to me. We are going
TV serials. to Professor Balakrishnan’s house. You
“She went for an audition should apologise to the entire family in my
yesterday. The director shot her presence.
from various angles and finally “And you should promise on your
told her that she was not only daughter that this will not happen
good enough. She was sad again. If you do not agree to this, have a
and was about to leave the good look at me. This will be the last time
place. you will be seeing your only
“One of the director’s daughter. Goodbye.”
assistants came running to her. Kunthavai tried to get down
He told her in so many words that from the car. Durai stopped her.
if she was prepared to sleep with Kunthavai looked at her dad’s
the director that afternoon, she face. The famous TV director
would get a role in the next who used to teach his
serial. She ran away from the actors and actresses
scene in tears.” how to cry, the popular
“But you know, dad, her TV director who had
father did not jump in anger made millions of
like you did. He calmly told viewers cry every
his daughter that she had to week, was now
keep away from those places weeping shamefully.
if she wanted to be good. He was too
“He did not show his emotional to speak. He
emotions, dad. But he should held Kunthavai’s hand
have suffered a real hell inside. tight. He signalled to her
And you know better, because that he would do as
you have been suffering the same bidden.
hell for the past one hour. The Accord resumed its
“Yes, dad. I told my friend journey to the Professor’s
Gayathri that the scoundrel who house at Velachery. We

24 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

h! In these times of stress
what if someone helps you
de-stress by giving
massages? That would be
a perfect day. And you are
rejuvenated at the end of a
session! That’s what you
can expect at a spa. But, it
is not known how and
where the word spa came
about. There are two theories
prevalent. One says that spa is short
for the Latin phrase, “salus per
aquae,” or “health through water”.
The other theory is that the word is
derived from the Belgian town of Spa,
which is famous since Roman times
for its baths. It is said that the town
became so important that the
meaning of the word spa became a
place where you are restored and
Modern spas take off from their
roots in ancient towns famous for the
healing powers of their mineral
waters and hot springs. Travellers
would visit these places to
History has it that Babylonians
and Greeks bathed in hot springs and
mineral waters. 19th century Europe
was a great spa destination for the
wealthy, who went there to “take the
waters”. Water treatments are still a
popular spa experience in Europe.
Today, massages and facials are the
most popular spa treatments in
Traditionally, in India the champi
and other massages have been

famous but done in a crude way.
Today, India among the Asian
countries is becoming a popular
place to get de-stressed, rejuvenated
and beautified with the new
A great, passive way treatments discovered from all over
the globe.
to refresh and rejuvenate. And these traditional treatments
are being rediscovered and brought
By Gayatri T Rao to you in a scientific way.

What are Spa Treatments?

The services provided by a spa
are called spa treatments. The most
popular being massages, other
popular spa treatments are facials
and body treatments like salt glows
and body wraps.

26 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

Many spas include a nail
salon offering spa manicures
and spa pedicures and salons
offering hair cutting and styling
Other than basic spa
treatments, different types of
massages like Thai massage,
hot stone massage or
reflexology are becoming
popular. The aesthetician
reviews your skin type to decide the
appropriate type of facial services or
body treatments.
Spa treatments are refreshing
besides having many health fitness
benefits. Since people are becoming
aware of the health benefits, spa
massages are becoming popular in
India also. When you are being
treated, you are transported to a
fantasy world. The treatment room
boasts of a peaceful atmosphere,
where your mind and body relaxes
completely. Depending on the guests’
requirement the spas are of many MODERN SPAS
types including destination spas,
medical spas, health spas, resort
spas and day spas. THEIR ROOTS IN
Types of spas:
ANCIENT TOWNS Health spa: Health spas basically
Destination spa: Here, you can FAMOUS FOR THE focus on ensuring the overall well-
have something called a holistic being of a person. Usually located at
experience. It helps you to rejuvenate HEALING POWERS very peaceful places, they provide
yourself at all levels. There is mind OF THEIR MINERAL you with expert advice from health
and body fitness while you indulge in practitioners.
healthy eating, ensuring complete WATERS AND HOT
relaxation. It's not a one-day
experience. It gives you a chance to
SPRINGS. Medical spa: A medical spa offers
cosmetic treatments like lippo-suction
lose yourself in a new beautiful world and Botox injections and may give
for two to three nights, where no package deals like bridal packages, spa treatments as well. All the
troubles and tensions are permitted during seasons, which go on for one treatments are supervised by a
to chase you. Some spas give month at least. doctor.

Resort spa: Tourists can enjoy Ayurvedic spas: This is not a

spa treatments in their hotel itself in new concept in India. Kerala already
something called a resort spa. has many such spas, they call it
Usually, the resort may offer spa Kerala Vaidyashala. Today, Kerala
services with fitness classes and Vaidyashala has 30 therapy centres
typical spa cuisine and this is good which are a combination of resorts,
for business travellers and families. clinics and franchisee treatment
centres across India in Kolkata,
Day spa: A day spa offers spa Shirdi, Alibagh, Mumbai, Goa,
treatments on a one-day basis. Nashik, Panchagani, Pondicherry,
People can indulge in it every day. A Fort Kochi, Aluva and Cherai. They
day spa offers manicures and have a holistic approach to treating
pedicures, besides facials and body health conditions. It comprises total
massages. health orientation with a living

28 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

experience of being in harmony with popular treatments in Birla Kerala seem, he says, there are still times
nature. One can just lean back and Vaidyashala include sarvakaya when you should refrain from giving
relax in the ethnic surroundings and abhyangam. Sarvakaya abhyangam one because it may adversely affect
soak in the ambience to get back (therapeutic ayurvedic massage) is a a health condition of the person, who
enthusiasm and vigour. Kerala therapy to ease the muscular pains receives it.
Vaidyashala has its roots in Calicut and cramps of daily life. It consists Contraindication is the medical
district in Kerala. The centres offer of a medicated oil therapy in which term for these conditions. “Contra”
ayurvedic therapies from the ancient therapists gently apply oil in means against, as in contrary, and
texts. synchronised rhythmic strokes. indications are things that tell you
This is a massage that removes what to do one way or the other.
Some spa treatments: Most fatigue from muscle tissues and Therefore, contraindi cations are
popular spa treatments include the eases your body and is considered things that are telling you not to do
hot stone therapy, which sells like hot to be the best treatment to pacify something.
cakes during the rainy season. In big aggravated vata dosha, the causative Radha Shetty, the spa executive
spas, like in Iosis Medispa, a factor, many neurological disorders from Bodyscape Spa, The Resort,
dermatologist is always consulted and neuromuscular disorders. Mumbai, says, “The list of
before this therapy is given. Usually Abhyanga also helps delay ageing, contraindications for massage may
basalt (hot) and marble (cold) stones sharpens eye sight and provides be longer than you expect, and it
are used, but in Iosis hot and cold flexibility of joints and improves includes some conditions that at first
basalt stones are used to massage mental clarity. glance don't seem like massage
the whole body. would affect at all, like: fever, high
VLCC day spa consultant Contraindications and blood pressure, infectious diseases,
introduce fusion therapy. She disadvantages: It is always good to broken bones and skin problems. If
explains that it is a carefully crafted first consult the in-house you're not sure about a particular
blend of traditional Chinese dermatologist or ayurvedic doctor in condition, don't take the massage.
Acupressure, along with more ayurvedic spas before taking the Foreigners may be sensitive to Indian
modern refinements like Japanese service. This is because many oils and herbs, so extra caution is
Shiatsu, Jin Shin Do, Thai-yoga treatments have contraindications or required.”
massage, Indian chakra balancing indications that these treatments are At certain places the interiors may
and breathing techniques. Fusion not suitable for certain people. Dr make the person taking the service
therapy weaves many different Prashanth CP from the Birla uncomfortable. Though Bodyscape
treatment options into a gentle and Ayurvedic Vaidyashala says that has separate areas for men and
effective tapestry of touch, treating people are either eligible or non- women, the changing room and the
many common problems that plague eligible for treatments. Basically the shower room are only covered by a
our everyday lives. health condition is to be considered. curtain. There is no door. Some
On the ayurvedic side, the most As innocuous as a massage may people may feel a lack of privacy

Tips for a good spa experience:

● Arrive at least 15 minutes
before your scheduled appointment
time to become comfortable. You get
time to change into your robe and
relax. If your spa has facilities like a
sauna, steam bath or hot tub, it is
better to arrive even earlier.
● Pregnant women should inform
the doctor about their condition
before going for the massage since
there are special massages for such
conditions and most other massages
are contraindicated for them.
● If at any time during the
treatment you become uncom -
fortable, you can ask your therapist to
stop the treatment.
● You can repeat the treatment
every two weeks to one month. We

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A common-sense
approach to a pleasing
By Payal Dasgupta

hose after-office surprise through its natural process tries to choose from creams having SPF15
parties are a nightmare, protect itself from the ultra violet rays to SPF50 or even more. It is
aren’t they? After all the boss by producing more melanin, a generally advisable to buy products
doesn’t understand that even pigment that determines the colour having at least SPF25 and above if
the concealer fails to of our skin. Women who do not you are frequently exposed to the
camouflage those dark expose themselves to the sun very harsh rays.
circles after a hard day. And often may also get a tan. Another essential element that
that tiny pimple popping up has to be kept in mind is that you
on the right cheek is scary. Remedy: Dermatologists opine must know your skin type before
Actually it’s really difficult to that it is necessary to use a good buying a sunscreen lotion. Water-
be a diva, after nine hours of those quality sunscreen lotion before based or gel-based products are
acrobatic stunts with files, stepping into the sun. There are a always better for oily skin, as they do
presentations and tetchy clients. wide variety of products available in not give a blotchy look whereas
Our busy lifestyles, demanding the market giving you a scope to cream-based products are
schedules, weird working hours and choose the right product to suit your recommended for dry skin types.
stress are taking a toll on our internal pocket and your skin type. But before
health, which is manifested through buying a sunscreen lotion or a cream, How to use: It is said that the
different beauty issues like dark always remember to check the ideal duration for application of
circles, skin tanning, pimples, etc. ingredients and the SPF. You can sunscreen must be at least 20
externally. But you could still be a minutes before going out and should
epitome of grace and gorgeousness be repeated every four hours even
in spite of that busy schedule by though you are mostly inside. You
following some simple steps: must apply the lotion on your face
and other exposed parts of your body
Tanning: A very common problem and even on the eyelids with gentle
with women who are in jobs that strokes as they are among the most
needs one to stay outdoors for long sensitive areas.
hours is the tanning. This is a skin
problem often caused by over- Home remedies: Although there
exposure to the sun which causes are various products that prevent sun
severe damage to the skin. The skin tanning it is really difficult to reverse

32 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

the tanning effect once the damage is their social and economic roles,
done. Certain home remedies really women today find it very difficult to
help a lot in removing the tanning maintain a healthy lifestyle and
effect. One of the age-old remedies is balanced eating habits. They have
milk which works wonders in hectic schedules, demanding working
removing the tan when applied all hours, lack of sleep, night-outs,
over the affected areas. Sandalwood instant fast-foods, etc. which often
paste is another great remedy for result in constipation and pimples.
tanning. This could be mixed with Acne is a skin condition which occurs
rose water for oily skin and with milk due to the blocking of the sebaceous
and honey for dry skin applied on the glands (sweat glands) because of
affected parts. dust or other impurities under the top
layers of our skin. It is also a proof of
Dry skin: This is another skin our faulty lifestyle and imbalanced
condition which is caused when the eating practices. Avoiding fried and
skin loses its natural moisture due to greasy food often helps in minimising
environmental pollution, imbalanced the occurrence of acne. Acne, if not
diet and other such factors. Women treated in time, might lead to more
who work in corporate offices which severe skin infections which are far
have air-conditioned rooms for long numerous options available in the more difficult and expensive to treat.
hours often have a very dry skin and market, from the economic Indian
hair as the overexposure to air products to the expensive imported Remedy: It is always advisable to
conditioners often robs the skin of its ones. If you are using a toner, it’s take an expert opinion or consult a
natural moisture levels. Excessively always better to use one that is dermatologist before planning a
dry skin may lead to the appearance alcohol-free, as alcohol dries the skin regime for treating acne. People with
of wrinkles at a much younger age. It further. such problems generally have an
also makes the skin lifeless and dull. You must go for a nourishing extremely sensitive skin which reacts
facial at least once a month. Regular to most of the cosmetic products and
Remedy: To maintain a healthy facials help in restoring your natural needs to be treated with medicated
and glowing skin in spite of the long glow and make your skin look products. You have to be very strict
exposure to air conditioners it is younger. But choose an experienced about your diet and skin care regime.
important to follow a simple regime beauty expert who understands your It is important to keep the skin clean
involving cleansing, toning and skin and suggests solutions since the pores get blocked in this
moisturising. You must apply an accordingly. skin condition. Once a regime is
effective moisturiser after cleansing decided upon you have to stick to it
your face and neck twice daily. If you How to use: Cleanse your face and don’t change the product without
still get that dry and itchy feel, and neck and wait for five minutes prior consultation, as that might
reapply the moisturiser as frequently before applying the toner followed by aggravate the condition. There are
as required. Choose a moisturiser the moisturiser. Apply it generously several options in the market to
that suits you best – there are over the face and neck before going choose from and more effective
to bed, with gentle upward strokes to products are being launched to give
avoid skin sagging. you that smooth skin that you had
always desired to have. And for those
Home remedy: Honey is a natural special occasions, you can use those
moisturiser which helps in keeping instant acne removal pens that
the skin smooth and supple. But shrivel them up within hours of
applying honey could be a little application to make you feel better
messy, so you can mix equal and more confident to face the world.
quantities of rose water and glycerin
to make your natural moisturiser that How to use: Once you have a
can be applied throughout the year regime to follow, you must clean your
by just altering the ratio depending face with an anti-pimple face wash
on the seasons. followed by the application of an anti-
pimple cream or lotion of your choice.
Acne and pimples: This is People with this problem must keep
probably one of most common and the skin clean, so it is wise to carry
difficult of all skin problems. your face wash in your hand bag to
With the great transition in the workplace as well.

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Home remedy: Fresh mint juice cream must be applied around the tub, for a long-lasting freshness
is very effective in treating acne and eyes in gentle circular motions before throughout the day. You can prepare
other skin infections. Rubbing garlic using a sunscreen or a moisturiser. It a home-made deodorant with the
on and around makes pimples should be applied before going out juice of about two dozen radish and
disappear faster with leaving those and at night. half a teaspoon glycerin stored in the
ugly marks. Raw papaya is another refrigerator for using later. Use
effective remedy for the ailment. Home remedy: Application of alcohol or vinegar to rinse the armpits
cucumber and potato juice helps in and applying baking soda to armpits
Dark circles: A woman’s eyes are soothing the eyes and reducing dark and feet also helps preventing body
the most beautiful part of her face, circles. Apply a mixture of lemon and odour.
but our extensive dependency on the tomato juice to treat dark circles.
computer and television has left us Cold used-tea bags also help Bad breath: This is a serious
with poor vision and dark circles, smoothing the eyes. trouble when you are in a job
undereye puffiness. The eyes are involving frequent social interactions,
one of the most delicate and Body odour: In a hot and humid as prolonged hours of work often
extensively used organs, so utmost country like ours, body odour is real cause bad breath without even our
care is needed to keep them healthy problem for most of us. For most of realising it, especially after the meals.
and bright. Computer professionals the working women who spend eight You should be very particular about
and other women who spend hours and more hours a day in cramped your oral hygiene. With regular
staring at the monitor have sunken chambers of their workplace, body brushing, a dental floss is necessary
eyes, dark circles, crow’s feet and odour could often cause a lot of to remove the plaque and deposits
undereye puffiness that is a difficult discomfiture with people around. But of food that get stuck between the
problem to treat. While we cannot against the age-old myth that teeth causing bacterial growth in the
avoid computers, since they are an perspiration is the primary cause of mouth. It’s always advisable to have
indispensable part of our lives, we the foul smell, the culprit is the a mouth freshener handy; you never
can definitely pamper those two bacteria growing on our skin surface know when you might need it. You
precious gifts to admire the world that causes the odour. Perspiration could also carry an antiseptic or
around. You can start by splashing just allows the bacteria by releasing plaque reducing mouthwash for
cold water into your eyes at frequent an unpleasant smelling chemical to instant help and consult a dentist
intervals during the work hours. You multiply rapidly. While using regularly to rule out other serious
must drink loads of water and have deodorants and perfumes does help problems. Sugar-free chewing gums
adequate sleep to have bright eyes. to some extent, the results are may also help you during those
Eye creams also help to some extent temporary. Sometimes the various sudden presentations post-lunch.
in removing dark circles if applied toxic chemicals in deodorants further
regularly. aggravate the condition. So Home remedy: Drinking
maintaining personal hygiene is the fenugreek tea is great remedy for bad
How to use: Many new only answer. Always try to keep the breath. Chewing a clove after your
revolutionary products are being underarms clean by waxing, major meals helps. Drinking a hot
launched that claim to be quite depilating or any other means cup of unsweetened tea also reduces
effective in treating dark circles. convenient for you. bad breath. Squeeze lemon in a
Some are definitely worth trying, glass of water and gargle frequently
especially the eye roll-on creams. If Home remedy: It’s always better to keep bad breath at bay. Most
nothing else, these will at least to use body talc instead of a importantly, believe in yourself
accelerate the blood circulation deodorant during the summers. Put because that’s the real mantra for
around the eyes. Any undereye a few drops of rose water in the bath being the woman of substance. We

Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010 35

A painless procedure that could detect a woman’s

disease early. By Dr S. S. Fonseca
ost women spend a lot of examined under a microscope by a gynaecological system.
time and money on their pathologist who reports on the Worldwide, Pap smears have
outer appearance but changes of the uterine cervix and played an extremely important and
forget that the well-being vaginal lining cells. The Pap test successful role in minimising the
of the unexposed female results are reported as a grade. incidence of cervical cancer. In a
organs is equally ● Grade I – everything is fine. German study, it was found that 20-
important. The Pap test ● Grade II – something is mildly 25 per cent of the women with no
provides an easy way of wrong. It may be an infection or complaints already had some silent
knowing what’s happening inflammation that also affects the gynaecological disease. It is now a
to the hidden cervix and appearance of the lining cells. universally accepted fact that a
vagina. The test evaluates the ● Grade III – the lining cells are woman may be suffering from
changes in appearance of cells lining definitely disturbed. Patients in grade changes to the lining of the uterine
these female parts. Invented by III must receive more aggressive cervix, with no complaints. It is also a
Greek doctor, Dr Georgios Papani- treatment, so that the changes are recognised fact that the success of
colaou, and his co-workers in 1948, arrested and not allowed to progress cervical cancer therapy depends very
the Pap test is still accepted to the next grade. The Pap test much on the early detection of the
worldwide for being very informative should be repeated after adequate cancer. Since cancer of the cervix
and inexpensive and is routinely used treatment. may take about 10 years to become
as a screening system. The Pap ● Grade IV – rings loud alarm full blown, early detection and
smear is meant especially for women bells. It indicates the great possibility treatment of cervical cancer has a
with no gynaecological symptoms or of malignant changes in the cells. very good outcome.
complaints, after 35 years of age. ● Grade V – confirms the It is therefore recommended that
The collection of a Pap smear is presence of malignant changes in the women without gynaecological
simple, quick and painless. symptoms take the first Pap
It is done in the outpatient test at the age of 35 years.
clinic, commonly after a If no pathology is found
gynaecological examination. (grade I), it should be
A pathologist or gynaecolo- repeated yearly. In case
gist collects it. The qualified there is any cell disturbance
doctor gently rubs a sterile or inflammation, the test
cotton swab or wooden must be repeated following
spatula over the cervix and treatment or after six
vaginal lining. The invisible months. With a regular Pap
cells collected on the swab smear to monitor the status
are spread on a couple of of her gynaecological
clean glass slides. The health, a woman can
slides are then sprayed over protect herself from
with alcohol. When dry, they immense suffering. The Pap
are dropped into an smear test helps a woman
envelope and sent to the live a long and healthy life,
laboratory for examination. thus enabling her to
In the laboratory, the continue showering her love
slides are stained and on her dear ones. We

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can master it
you will have


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thought has gone et there is
hair makeovers. Yerimentation
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A bob cut
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Oriental combing
Throw back combing

What happened behind the boss’ closed doors?
By PVV Satyanarayana

urs was a small marketing branch office with be asked to close the door. He had further added
a strength of 25. Our branch manager, that the boss had followed his advice in a number of
though a good man, was a terror. He was a cases; and to strengthen his contention, he had
taskmaster and would tolerate no nonsense in reeled off several examples too.
the office work. Being a perfectionist, even a With this new revelation, our regard for Ramana
small mistake invited his wrath. He would Rao had soared to new heights, and his image
give a thorough dressing down and spared doubled, I should say. Now that it became apparent
no one. He threatened the staff with dismissal if they that Ramana Rao was very close to the manager,
did not perform well. However, he was never known everyone vied with one another to woo him, hoping
to resorting to this extreme step. All the same, to get into the good books of the boss through him.
everyone at the branch was damn scared of him. They threw drink parties collectively and individually
The only exception, however, was Ramana Rao, to Ramana Rao, on some pretext or other, trying to
the seniormost staff of the branch. The 50- please him. He seemed to enjoy all this
plus man was tall and thin. Sporting the special attention.
French-cut moustache, he looked somewhat All of us at But I was the odd man out, as I had
funny. He had joined the branch at its the branch neither the inclination nor push to follow in
inception 20 years ago. respected him the footsteps of my other colleagues. I was
All of us at the branch respected him for for his the juniormost of all, having joined the
his seniority and long experience. We seniority and branch as a computer operator just a year
addressed him as guruji, as we took his long before. I had every respect and regard for
advice and guidance in our day-to-day experience. my seniors and never crossed my own
work. We held him in high esteem, We addressed limits. I always concentrated on my work
especially for his uncanny ability to emerge him guruji, as and never joined the others in their idle
from the boss’s chamber with a smiling we took his chatter.
face every time! We often gathered advice and Apparently this was the reason for
around Ramana Rao to listen to the stories guidance in Ramana Rao evincing special interest in
of his long experience. He was good at our day-to- me. As I mentioned this casually to a
narrating tales evoking interest in the day work. colleague, he had burst into laughter, and
listeners. said, “It’s not the love for you. You are an
It had been the practice of the manager to keep eligible bachelor and guruji has an Elizabethan
the door of his chamber a little ajar so that he could daughter to marry off. He must be having an eye on
check the staff from gossiping during working hours. you as his prospective son-in-law.”
Whenever Ramana Rao entered the chamber, he

would shut the door a couple of minutes later. This ven as I looked puzzled, he had elaborated,
was puzzling to all of us. So, one day, we had “My dear dude, Ramana Rao’s daughter is as
expressed our curiosity to him. old as Queen Elizabeth. And she is still a
Ramana Rao had smiled and explained thus: The spinster.” Poking fun at the girl, he had let out peal
manager often consulted him on the marketing of derisive laughter again.
strategies to be adopted, as the latter was working I did not like the gibe. I hated others’
there since the beginning. And whenever certain weaknesses or haplessness being a cause for the
confidential matters were to be discussed, he would butt of jokes. I made a grave face, expressing my

40 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

disapproval. hung. He received the banging meekly. After
“Be careful, man, lest guruji thrust his over-aged playing ‘football’ with him non-stop – hitting the ball
daughter on you...” from both sides himself – for quite a time, the boss
Even as he was teasingly delivering the had now got tired, and gulped the water from the
unsolicited advice to me, I had left the place quietly. glass tumbler that was offered by none other than
Ramana Rao himself.

ne day, the manager had assigned me the “I have been admonishing you day in and day
task of locating some old files from the out, even drawing out a time table. Yet, you don’t
cupboards in his anteroom. This was a room seem to mend your ways. Of what use is your long
made of plywood partitions and curtains and used service if you can’t do a thing properly? You are
by the boss for taking his lunch and rest. Even as I only fit for rearing donkeys, I should say. Even
was on the job, I heard the boss summoning though I am fed up with scolding you every day, you
Ramana Rao, and the latter entering a few minutes are hardly moved and ashamed. How I wish I got
later. rid of you... if only the compassion factor was not
I was startled to hear our boss flaring up as soon coming in the way! Do you realise what would
as Ramana Rao entered. Unable to believe it, I happen to your family if you lose the job... that too
peeped through the curtain. Even as the boss was at this advanced age!” He drank another glass of
shouting at him, I could see Ramana Rao excusing water, again handed over by Ramana Rao.
himself, returning to the entrance and shutting the “You are mistaking my leniency for weakness, I
door quietly. suppose,” the boss continued the firing. “Ours is a
As the boss scolded him right and left using all the marketing branch, mind you! If I continue with a
expletives he could recollect, Ramana Rao stood waste fellow like you, I’m sure to be ousted from the
silently before him as would a most obedient student job myself! So, I have decided...”
before the teacher, with his hands folded and head Even before the boss could complete the
sentence, there came to be heard a thudding sound. Ramana Rao was so startled at seeing me that he
I had instantly peeped in to know what had almost fell to the ground but for holding on to the
happened. edge of the table. For he would not have expected
Ramana Rao was lying flat at the feet of the boss. me – or, for that matter, anyone else – there at that
Even as he was trying to hold the latter’s feet, the ‘odd’ moment. I felt quite uneasy at the situation. I
boss hurriedly withdrew them as though he feared did not dare look at him.
being pulled down by his subordinate as revenge. The boss asked me to tell the driver to keep the
“Please, sir. Take pity on me. I have three over- vehicle ready as he wanted to go out on official
aged daughters to marry off,” Ramana Rao was work in a few minutes. That gave me a respite, and
pleading, clutching the feet of the boss. “I promise an excuse to get out of the embarrassing situation. I
you, sir, I shall be more careful in my work. Kindly almost ran out, carefully avoiding meeting the eyes
do not dismiss me from service.” of Ramana Rao.
I found the driver sitting in the shade of the

he boss seemed to be pacified a little.” Okay, banyan tree in the compound smoking and chatting
okay. Now, you leave my feet. You seem to with somebody. I walked up to him and conveyed
have mastered the technique of falling at my the message. As I was returning, I saw Ramana Rao
feet every time, like the leg-break in cricket. If I show emerging from the manager’s room. I hid myself
mercy to you for the sake of your children, my from his view.
children would be on the streets,” he chided him.

“Mind you, this is the last and final warning! Next traightening his tie and sporting a broad smile,
time, you commit a blunder in your work... I shall not as if nothing had happened, Ramana Rao
make my feet accessible to you, any more. Do you nonchalantly walked out of the chamber. One
understand?” of the staff had approached him and asked, “The
“Yes, sir,” Ramana Rao got up happily. “Thank meeting seems to have taken a long time, Guruji. Is
you very much, sir. I shall keep your photo in my there anything special?”
puja room and worship it.” Ramana Rao looked around carefully, apparently
“What? You want me to die, eh?” the boss for me. Not finding me in the vicinity, he seemed to
jumped in his seat. have mustered courage. He replied with a broad
Ramana Rao was quick to add, “No, sir. Not at smile, “Yeah. We were discussing an important task,
all! You are my saviour. What I mean is... I shall not which is very confidential. Now the boss is going
garland your photograph, but worship it with out on that mission.”
flowers daily.” I was flabbergasted at what I had heard, and
“Okay, okay. Take care!” could not help musing, ‘Oh, what a great actor he is!’
“Yes, sir!” Soon after the manager had left, Ramana Rao
I was so stunned and obfuscated by the whole rushed to me even as I continued with my task in the
episode that I could come to my senses only at the anteroom. I could hear him closing the chamber’s
second call of the boss. Shaken a little at the door behind him.
unexpected unfolding of events, I walked slowly into Suddenly he caught hold of both my hands and
the chamber. pleaded with me, “Please, Rambabu. Promise me
not to tell anybody about whatever had happened
here earlier.”
I eyed him silently for a few seconds. He looked
pitiable. I assured him that I would
never reveal it to anyone.
He squatted on the floor as if
he had lost all his energy, and
held his face in his hands sadly. I
did not know what to say.
He had abruptly raised his
head and looked at me.
“Rambabu, I think I should
share my problem with
you, frankly...”
I looked into his
eyes expectantly. I
listened silently and
intently as he spoke with emotion... Ramana He was the A terrible shroud of pity engulfed me
Rao was once an efficient worker and had seniormost on learning the truth.
received appreciation from all his bosses. Of staff member “Sorry, Rambabu. All these days, I
late, however, the situation had changed. He in the branch, have been fooling all of of you
had three over-aged marriageable daughters after all; and if pretending to be close to the boss. If our
now. In spite of his best efforts he could not the others colleagues come to know of the truth, no
marry them off, as he was unable to meet the came to know one would care for me, not even for my
demands for huge dowries. This had invited that he was long experience. I would become a
the ridicule and rebukes from his wife, as also being scolded laughing stock. So please have pity on
taunts from his neighbours. This had severely by the boss, he me and bury the secret within yourself,”
upset his mental peace, and seriously was sure to pleaded Ramana Rao again, with folded
affected his concentration and efficiency in lose their hands.
his office work. As a result, he was inviting respect and I held his hands trying to soothe his
the wrath of the boss quite often... regard. emotions. “Don’t you worry about it,
He was the seniormost staff member in the guruji. I can very well understand your
branch, after all; and if the others came to problem. Even if you suffer from a bad
know that he was being scolded by the boss, he was patch at present, you will surely come out of it soon.
sure to lose their respect and regard. So, whenever You are still our valued senior colleague. Who else
the boss was to scold him, he would close the door has got the kind of long, rich experience as you
so that the shouts of the boss were not heard have, at this branch? You are always a guruji for all
outside. He would tell the colleagues that the boss of us,” said I, wholeheartedly.
was discussing confidential matters with him, only to Light-hearted and ebullient at my reassuring
save his own face. He would sport a smile even words, Ramana Rao embraced me with affection
while weeping inside! and apparent gratitude. We
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attire looks
enthralling from
any angle you look
at the wearer. It is
no surprise that it
has found wide
acceptance in the
west too.

Stunning Sari
This superb and stylish
sari can be your prized
It is the way of wearing the
sari which has enhanced the
wearer’s looks.
The wearer has
worn the sari in
quite a novel
way. It leaves
nothing that can’t
be admired.
There is
imagination and
innovation in the
style of draping
the sari around
the person.

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tress in modern living has
become a part of life and
there are a number of
people who fall victims to it.
Stress is one aspect of
human existence which
cannot be dispensed with.
Every person from birth
goes under some or other
form of stress. From a very
young age one comes under form of
stress and strain. It may be in the
form of studies, proper settlement in
life, job satisfaction, ambition to go
higher on the ladder of life, the stress
of family life and as one grows up,
the stress of one’s very existence vis-
a-vis daily chores of life may come
into the picture. In fact, stress is
something which becomes an
integral part of one’s existence.
Those who fail to stand this
normal stress fail to lead a normal life
and fall an easy victim to many ills,
both physical and mental. Stress
involves all the major organs of the
body like the heart, G.I. tract and
nervous system. There is one
important aspect affected by stress
which is generally not taken care of
and that is the sex life of the person.

Methods to
tranquillity to solve a
major modern problem.
By Dr S.N. Khosla
There is a big distinctive common manifestations of stress and
difference between stress and strain. strain. A very important aspect of
Stress is what is going on in our stress which is often ignored is the
environment, the difficulties and deleterious effect of stress upon sex
frustrations of daily life, unwelcome life. The earliest casualty may be a
surroundings, the rat race to go up decrease in the sex urge and both
in the hierarchy and, for some, the men and women may start having
struggle to fight for their very hardly any urge left for normal sexual
existence. In contrast to this, strain activity. Often, this leads to tension
is a reaction inside the victim who is in the minds of people as if some
crying, fighting with his or her normal major catastrophe is going to
body processes and in the bargain happen. A decrease in the sex urge
gets various physical and mental ills. conducive to good health. A small develops because of an imbalance
It is living under this constant state degree of anxiety induces a person to developing in a person’s sympathetic
of tension whether physical or mental react in a way he or she can adjust. system due to heightened tension
which has its own hazards. Those who fail to react, carry an and anxiety. In fact, it is a vicious
The human body has great unnecessary burden of undesirable circle. Stress may be responsible for
capabilities of adapting itself to situations which produce nothing but a decrease in the sex urge (libido)
environmental situations and states poor health and an ill-adjusted while the couple is unaware of it and
of stress. It increases its capacity to individual. But stress for one person may start blaming each other as
withstand various forms of pressures, may not be stress for another. impotent or frigid.
whether external or internal. When There are certain professions
put under stress, certain which mean more stress and these
physiological changes in the form of include high executives and
an increased liberation of hormones professional people like doctors,
takes place and if the body lawyers and people holding senior
withstands the stress, the whole jobs. No wonder such people are
strain is absorbed but in case the always more prone to getting ulcers,
tissues fail to respond to the stressful heart attacks and high blood
stimuli, the damage varying from mild pressure, etc. But let us not get away
to irreparable may occur. with the notion that it is only the
Stress may be a source of anxiety, higher-income group or rich people
tension worry and fear when an who suffer from tension. Poverty has
individual is unable to adjust its own hazards and probably it may
successfully to the unpleasant be the single biggest cause of
situations and it has been rightly said, physical and mental ailments in our
“when this happens, there is anarchy country. The most prominent part of your
in the body and mind, instead of Hardly any system in the body personality is your face. Therefore you
should keep it shinning like the moon. You
forming a coherent and harmonious escapes from the ill-effects of stress. must cleanse it with a nice cleanser. Do it
whole, it is like soldiers in the same Emotions and stress have a great daily. It is a good way to smooth your face.
regiment who set about killing each role to play in the causation of a Take note that good diet means good
health and consequently a soft, smooth
other.” number of ailments. We may respond and shining skin. Eat fresh vegetables and
Most of the time we cope with differently to various stresses fruits. That’s the best way to ensure good
health and silky skin.
stress and strains of everyday living depending on our build and genetic Needless to say, you must be a foundation
but when the pressure mounts too predispositions. There is often user. It is but natural. But select a light-
high or the stress or strain lasts too general irritability, weakening of weight one.
Cosmetics and beauty go together. Now is
long, it takes a heavy toll in its wake. activity, excessive fatigue or often the time to choose the best. There is a lot of
A person under stress may be hyper excitability. cosmetics available. Use good cosmetics
as many times as you wish during the day.
anxious, irritable and tense. The daily Vitamin E oil works wonders to the skin.
chores of life become a constant
effort and rather disagreeable. There
MANIFESTATIONS OF You should get habituated to the oil. Use it
every night before retiring. Keep it on the
is lack of concentration, attention, STRESS skin for half an hour and give it a vigorous
rubbing in.
loss of memory and sleeplessness. Irritability, sleeplessness,
Anxiety and lack of well-being may palpitation, headaches, lack of
be the index of a person’s response concentration, loss of vigour of life,
to external stress. In fact, absolute pain in neck or back, excessive
tranquillity in the face of stressful fatigue, premenstrual tension in
situations is neither desirable nor women — all are some of the

Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010 49

Take here the example of A, a of sexual disorders is very important Thus, in any such person, the
healthy young male. Whenever he since, in such cases, treatment has general principles are:
wanted to have sex with his wife a to be instituted first managing these ● Do not let the tensions and
certain degree of stress would engulf conditions by explanation, strains be bottled up. Work them out.
him and he would suddenly go limp. reassurance, use of antianxiety Find methods to channelise your
The result was that he headed for drugs, explanation of the whole energy in useful physical activity or
divorce soon. Psychiatric help problem, giving psychotherapy, sports. Do not brood over your sex
unravelled the cause and the holding various sessions regarding problems. Take your mind away from
problem was solved. sexual life and habits of the partners. them by physical workouts, yoga, etc.
Similarly, many women are Stress is something which occurs ● Release your mind. This may
worried about having orgasms and overtly. People can adapt stress and be achieved by meditation, prayer
attach too much importance to it. In anxiety-causing irritability, and devoting adequate time to things
fact, so much is being talked about sleeplessness, exhaustion, at work like listening to good music, reading a
orgasm being the end of sexual but will find it hard to believe that it book or even listening to the sounds
fulfilment that couples are always can in any way cause sexual of nature.
under stress about whether they are dysfunction like impotence, premature ● Have adequate sleep. Sleep is
having it. Normal fulfilment in sexual ejaculation, etc. Such people require one bliss which acts as an antidote to
relationships is not easy to define listening to. A sympathetic ear and excessive stress and strain. Six-eight
and unnecessary stress worsens the understanding of their complaints hours of undisturbed sleep at night is
condition. Many couples worry regarding sex problem goes a long a panacea against stress and strain.
whether both of them are having way in alleviating their symptom. All Do not buy sleep with pills.
orgasms at the same time. This may people have sex desire and in a great ● Take part in physical exercises
or may not be possible. It is the percentage this is fulfilled by normal and games. They are very good for
reciprocation of each other’s feelings sexual activity. Some sublimate their relieving pent-up energies and
that makes sex life enjoyable. desires while there are some who tensions. Walking, swimming, cycling
Sex problems like impotence and can neither fulfil their sexual desire and outdoor games like tennis,
premature ejaculation are to a large nor sublimate it and the result is hockey, etc. are really good sports
extent precipitated by acute stress development of frustration, anxiety activities and can be selected
and they often start a chain reaction. and stress. according to one’s age and taste.
The malady produces acute anxiety Management of a healthy sex life ● Develop a system of mental
and stress and these in themselves free from hassle is interrelated to the isometrics. Picture in your mind the
start a cycle. general management of stress. future images of your problems and
One of the important causes of how you can solve it. Do this
impotence is emotional or TAKE HOLIDAY FROM methodically and soon you will
psychological factors. Often, YOUR WORK AT appreciate the value of solving your
psychological factors in the absence LEAST ONCE IN A problems by cool thinking. Biofeed
of organic disease act as trigger back training, transcendental
mechanisms for the cause. There may YEAR. BUT DO NOT meditation, yoga and autosuggestion
be hidden frustration, guilt feelings TAKE YOUR CARES, are helpful aids in relieving mental
and a sense of anxiety. In times of WORRIES AND tension.
great stress like natural calamities, ● Take holiday from your work at
wars, etc. not only does the sex desire
PREOCCUPATIONS least once in a year. But do not take
decrease but some people are also WITH YOU. your cares, worries and preoccupa-
likely to develop temporary impotence. tions with you. Even a short weekend
Premature ejaculation is another outing with one’s family goes a long
red herring which results because of way in relieving tensions.
acute anxiety and stress and the ● Lead a hassle-free sex life. Do
individual often fails to perform the not brood over minor sex problems. It
sex act. In a survey conducted by may not be possible to get free from
Forum it was found that impotence in mental tension and stress but evolve
nearly 80 per cent of the cases was methods by which you can outgrow
due to psychological factors while your problems.
regarding premature ejaculation, 70 Learn to live with tension and
per cent felt that anxiety and stress stress but in a balanced form. It has
was a significant cause of their been rightly said, “There is only one
problem. time when you will be free from
Recognition of stress and anxiety stress and the technical form for that
as important factors in the causation is death.” We

50 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

QA &

I do to become okay? My parents,
both high-ups in the corporate world,
have talks with sympathetic school
counsellors or a kindly understanding

do not even know I exist! I have no relative, friend or psychiatrist who will
siblings. help you unload your emotions, and
Your habit of cutting is a common, take stock of them. Experienced
My boyfriend and I are both 19 years recognised behaviour pattern of persons will help you relax, unwind
old and are planning to get married in disturbed youngsters. Since these and start enjoying life. In fact, when
a couple of years when he starts persons feel impotent rage and you are taught the right attitude,you
earning. My problem is that his frustration against the whole world, will find that no external element can
parents do not approve of me and they direct the attacks on to their own upset you unless you let it do so.
are trying to scuttle our plans. They persons. Some even show excessive
do not want him to marry for at least kicking and I am a 15-year-old girl in a very
10 years more, and preferably to a punching the wall or furniture. It difficult situation. My friends and I
better-suited girl than I am! I know seems evident that you are full of attended a party last week where we
my boyfriend cares a lot for his unexpressed rage and sad with your tried some alcohol for the very first
parents. Do you think I will be happy parents’ neglect. It will be good to time. I felt very dizzy and disoriented
with him, when he will surely take and had to be helped to a bedroom to
their side more than mine, when we I am really at the end of my tether! rest. I fell asleep. When my friends
are married? I am an only child of my parents. came to wake me up, they found me
You have seen the risks of this The two of them do not see eye to naked, covered by a sheet. It was very
relationship quite rationally. If he is eye over any matter and are clear that someone had molested or
still tied to his parents’ apron strings, always quarreling. I think they are even raped me. I remember nothing
you may have to be very tolerant and thinking of divorce too. My problem at all. We decided to keep this a
forgiving in this marriage. Are you is that each fills my ears with secret to protect my character. Please
willing to do this? complaints about the other. All the tell me what to do. Should I just put it
His parents’ reluctance to an early time. I hate this for I do not want to aside like a bad dream?

marriage is understandable. Unless take sides. I love both of them. First of all, you should consult a
a man is fully capable of looking after Help! lady doctor to find out whether you
family and home, he should not think Parents often think only about have been raped, and whether you
of marriage. Does he think both of themselves and do not see how have become pregnant. This is a very
you can stay with his parents? This their children are affected by their real risk. The doctor can also treat
may be difficult considering their quarrels. In your case, you do not you for infection and bruising if any. If
antagonism. It is definitely advisable have siblings either to lessen your pregnant, you should consider an
to wait before taking the plunge. At distress. Your views are indeed abortion.
the present, do not make any mature and considerate. You must, You should confide in your mother
promises or commitment. You are however, talk to your parents and surely you will not be scolded or
both very young by today’s norms to frankly and tell them not to blamed for the incident, although you
enter matrimony. Both of you could badmouth each other to you. Let may have to face the music for
find more suitable partners with the them know how disturbed you are. imbibing drinks. As you are very
passage of time. This could be a wake-up call for young, you need adult help and
them to take up their child-rearing support. This is a very grievous
Whenever I get angry and frustrated responsibility more realistically. crime.
with life, I find that I get relief by In the meanwhile, try not to be Your parents will decide whether
causing hurt to inflicting unhappy with their self-centred to suppress the matter or report it. If
cuts on my arms and thighs. Nobody behaviour. Enjoy your life in the you keep it to yourself, your molester
knows this because the cuts are company of good friends without could blackmail you after some time.
hidden by my clothing. I am a high- being overwhelmed by this All things considered, do not waste
strung, 14-year-old girl who is beset situation. much time, especially in consulting a
with depression and anger. What can doctor.

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Now you can make restaurant like food

Punjabi Chana Masala

at home

Step 1: In a pressure cooker add ¾ cup soaked

chana(soaked for 6-7 hours), 1 ½ cup fresh water, 1 tsp
oil and 1 pack Knorr Ready to Cook Punjabi Chana Masala.
Step 2: Put the cooker on high flame. After 2 whistles,
lower the flame and allow to cook for 30 min.
Serves 2

Hyderabadi Biryani
Step 1: Boil 3 ½ cup rice in 1 litre water with 2 tbsp oil
and 1 tbsp lemon juice till ¾th done. Drain excess
water and keep aside.
Step 2: In a deep pan cook 350g chicken/ 350g
chopped vegetables with 2 tbsp oil, 1 ½ cups water and
1 pack Knorr Ready to Cook Hyderabadi Biryani till the
chicken/vegetables are cooked and gravy is reduced to
Step 3: In the same pan spread the boiled rice and mint
leaves on the chicken/vegetables. Then spread a mix of
hot ghee and ½ tsp turmeric.
Step 4: Seal the pan with heavy lid, place on a hot tawa
and cook further till steam begins to come out from the
sides of the lid.
Serves 4
Paneer Butter Masala

Step 1: In a pan melt 30g butter

Step 2: Add 2 cups water and 1 pack Knorr Ready to
Cook Paneer Butter Masala.
Step 3: Cook for 2 min, add fresh paneer or fried paneer
and 1 tbsp chopped coriander. Cook till gravy is thick.
Serves 4
Holi is a time FESTIVAL
when guests
drop by
throughout the 2 tsp of red chilli sauce - or
more as per taste
To prepare the filling: Cut the
you recipes ROLLS asparagus into 3 inch pieces and
which allow you INGREDIENTS: drop these into boiling water. Put
6-8 spring roll wrappers off the heat and allow the
to be prepared oil for frying asparagus to remain in the water
for 3-4 minutes. Drain out all the
with snacks, For the filling:
water and cut the asparagus into
3-4 sticks of asparagus
sweets and main 1 cup grated cabbage
small pieces and keep aside.
Heat the oil and add the
course and be 1 cup chopped mushrooms
1 tsp of oregano powder
cabbage and stir-fry for 1 minute.
Mix in the rest of the vegetables
popular with 1/ tsp of basil powder
2 and the spices.
1/ tsp of soya sauce
your guests. 2
2 tsp of olive oil
Continue to stir-fry for another
2-3 minutes. Once all the water
By Roma Ghosh 2-3 tsp of spring onions chopped has evaporated from the
- green and white portions vegetables, keep aside.
Asparagus mini spring rolls Carefully remove one of the
spring roll wrappers and cut this
into sizes you can handle easily.
It is good to make small spring
rolls so that you can serve these
whole without having to cut into
Place a portion of the filling in
each of the wrapper pieces and
first wrap from both the sides and
then roll over into a mini-sized
spring roll.
You can either pan-fry the
spring rolls on a non-stick pan or
deep fry these in hot oil. Serve
without cutting into small pieces.
Optional: You can keep the
asparagus to 3-4 inches long and
use one piece in every spring roll
instead of cutting the asparagus
into small pieces.
oil for frying
Brocoli pakoras
salt to taste STUFFED
For the filling:
3-4 boiled mashed potatoes
1/ tsp of cinnamon
3-4 tsp of oil
1/ tsp of ajwain – carom seeds
salt to taste INGREDIENTS:
1 large brinjal
oil for deep frying
Prepare the filling by heating
salt to taste
the oil and adding the mashed
potatoes together with the spices. For the filling:
Stir-fry for 2-3 minutes and keep 200 gm of mushrooms
BROCOLI aside.

PAKORAS Sift together the maida, salt

and mix in the ghee with your
INGREDIENTS: fingers to resemble breadcrumbs.
300 gm of brocolli florets Add just enough water to knead
pepper powder into a dough. Divide the dough
oil for deep frying into 12-14 portions. Roll out each
salt to taste portion into a very thin chapatti.
For the batter: Cut 3 inches broad strips from
2 cups of besan each chapatti so as to get 2-3
2 tsp of oil such strips. Pick up one strip at a
1 tsp or less of red chilli powder time.
salt to taste Place a portion of the filling in
the centre of the strip and roll over
the filling for 3-4 times so that the
Break the broccoli into
final product is a triangular
medium-sized florets and discard
shaped samosa with various
the stalk. Sprinkle salt and pepper
layers. Prepare samosa from the
and keep aside for 10 minutes.
different strips. Roll out another
Drain out all the water.
portion and again cut into strips
Mix all the ingredients for the
and prepare the layered samosas
batter. Add one and a half cups
in this way. Heat oil and on
of water or a little more and mix
medium heat fry the samosas a
into the besan. Mix well with your
few at a time so that these are
fingers to obtain a smooth flowing
crispy and golden brown.
batter. Heat enough oil for deep
frying. Dip each of the florets into
this batter and deep fry in oil, a Mini crispy samosas
few at a time till the pakoras are
golden brown and crispy.

200 gm maida
100 gm of ghee

Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010 57

100 ml of hot water
2 tsp of crushed blanched
1 drop of almond essence –
1 sachet of cappuccino coffee
Mix the water and the milk.
Place the contents of the coffee
pouch into a large glass cup or
Stuffed brinjals with glass. Mix the crushed almonds.
mushrooms and onions Now, add the milk and water Coconut peanut barfi
mixture and stir gently and serve
1 cup of sliced onions contents of the coconut barfi on
at once.
3 tsp of oil the plate and allow to set. Cut into
1/ tsp of haldi powder shapes and serve.
1 tsp of jeera powder
1 tbsp of coriander powder COCONUT
1 large tomato – chopped into
2 green chillies – chopped INGREDIENTS: SPICY POMFRET
salt to taste 200 gm of desiccated coconut
100 gm of coarsely crushed
METHOD 2 medium-sized black pomfret
Cut the brinjal into two halves fish
80-100 gm of sugar as per taste
and scoop out the centre portion oil for pan frying
2-3 tbsp of ghee
of the brinjals so as to have a salt to taste
scooped-out brinjal which can be METHOD
Dry-roast the coconut till it is For the marinade:
stuffed. Sprinkle salt and keep
golden brown in colour. Add the 3 tbsp of tomato puree
aside for 5 minutes. Drain out all
crushed peanuts and on low heat 1 tsp of red chilli powder
the water and deep fry the
mix in the sugar and keep stirring 1 tsp of green chilli paste
scooped out brinjals one at a 1/ tsp of amchur powder
time, turning once or twice till both till the sugar melts. Continue to 2
cook on low heat adding a little 2 tsp of oil
the sides are fried well. Fry both
ghee at a time and cook till the salt to taste
the pieces in this way. Remove
and keep aside. mixture is almost dry. Pour the METHOD
For the filling: Heat the oil and Make deep insertions on the
fry the mushrooms, onions and fish. Sprinkle salt all over the fish
tomatoes together till most of the and keep aside for 30 minutes.
water is evaporated. Add the Mix all the ingredients for the
spices and cook on low fire for 2-3 marinade and rub the fish with
minutes. Fill the scooped-out this marinade and keep aside for
brinjals with this stuffing and then 30 minutes again.
place the brinjals in the oven just Heat oil in a non-stick pan –
for heating just before you are 2 tbsp or so and place the
ready to serve. marinated fish on the hot oil and
cover with a lid. Allow the fish to
cook on medium heat till one side
CAPPUCCINO is cooked, this should take around
4-5 minutes. Turn over gently and
BADAM MILK cook the other side. Serve hot
INGREDIENTS: Cappuccino badam milk with boiled veggies or potato
100 ml of hot milk wedges.

58 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

through, leaving space to add the
Pan fired spicy pomfret
LITCHIE strawberries.
STRAWBERRY Allow the jelly to set in the
glasses and place a strawberry or
SUPREME two with a bit of the syrup on each
of the set jelly and serve chilled.
1 packet of strawberry or litchie
For the topping: MINI
1 box of red strawberries
100 gm of sugar
1 tsp of cinnamon powder UTTAPAM
To prepare the topping: If the
(rice patties with
CHAAT strawberries are small in size than
INGREDIENTS: leave these whole, otherwise cut
into half. Boil 200 ml of water and 2 cups of dosa batter
8-10 dimsums or momos
1/ cup of chopped spring onions add the sugar and the cinnamon 10-12 slices of tomatoes
2 10-12 circles or half circles of
– white and green portion powder and stir till the sugar
melts. mushrooms
1 chopped tomato
Add the strawberries and allow 2 tsp of coarsely crushed red
3-4 tsp chopped coriander
these to cook in the sugar syrup chilli powder
on low fire for 6-7 minutes. Put off 2 tsp of melon seeds
green chillies chopped
the fire and allow the strawberries oil for frying the rice patties
3 tsp of oil
1 tsp of red chilli paste to remain in the syrup. Prepare METHOD
8-10 small pakoras prepared the jelly and pour the jelly into Heat a non-stick pan and ladle
with besan or dal or rice small glasses only half way small portions of the dosa batter
For garnishing: on the non-stick pan.
peanuts and bhujia Sprinkle some red chilli
Place circles or tomatoes and
Heat the oil and fry the spring
mushrooms over each of mini
onions for 1-2 minutes. Add the
uttapam. Cover with a lid and
tomatoes and green chillies and
cook on low fire.
chilli paste. Now, mix in the
Turn over very gently and cook
pakoras and lastly the dimsums
the side with the vegetables.
and toss gently. Garnish with
Serve piping hot once both the
coriander leaves and
sides are cooked.

Dimsum chaat Mini vegetable uttapam


60 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

fish into one inch pieces
TULSI TEA Flavoured Indian bread
with a thickness of almost
AND CHERRY half an inch. Sprinkle salt
and rub the ginger, garlic,
MITHAI chilli paste and keep aside
for 10 minutes. Dip each of
the pieces in beaten egg
3 tulsi tea bags
and roll in the
100 gm of petha
100 gm of cherries
Dip each of the fish
100 gm of broken cashew
pieces in egg and roll each
in breadcrumbs to form
2 tbsp of sugar
1/ tsp of cinnamon powder nuggets. Keep aside.
METHOD FLAVOURED Heat enough oil for deep frying
and fry a few nuggets at a time
Boil 200 ml of water and drop
the tulsi tea bags into the boiling
INDIAN BREAD on medium heat.

(Makki sarso puris)
This is a combination of makki
Allow the tea bags to remain in
the water for 15 minutes and then
and sarso saag and goes good as
a starter.
remove these.
Bring the tea to boil and mix in INGREDIENTS:
the cashew pieces, petha and 2 cups of makki ka atta MITHAI
cherries and cook on medium 1 cup of prepared sarso ka saag
heat, adding sugar. 1 tbsp of ghee or oil
200 gm of freshly grated coconut
Cook and stir till the mixture oil for deep frying
400 ml of milk
begins to thicken. METHOD 150 gm of sugar
Once only a little syrup Mix the sarso saag into the
remains, pour spoonfuls of the METHOD
makki atta and knead into a
prepared mixture into small Grind the freshly grated
dough. Sprinkle and rub in the
glasses. coconut in a mixer so that the end
ghee as well. Divide the dough
Fill only half the glasses and product is really smooth and
into small portions. Roll out each
allow the mixture to cool and set. without any granular pieces.
portion into a small puri and fry in
Serve topped with icecream. You could use a few tbsp of
hot oil till the puris puff up. Serve
milk when you are grinding the
Tulsi tea and cherry mithai hot with green chutney.
Heat the milk and cook the
FISH NUGGETS coconut mixture in the milk and
cook on low fire stirring from time
400 gm of boneless fish Fish nuggets
2 tsp of ginger-
garlic paste
1 tsp of green
chilli paste
2 beaten eggs
3 cups of bread
oil for deep frying
salt to taste
Cut the boneless

62 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

Coconut sugary mithai on the foil in a thin sheet. Allow
the mithai to set.
Once it has set and is hard
cut into pieces and store in
airtight containers.

SALAD Non vegetarian salad

to time. When most of the milk INGREDIENTS: 2 tsp of vinegar

has evaporated, mix in the sugar 12-14 pieces of chicken salami 2 tsp of tomato ketchup
and stir so that the sugar melts. 10-12 olives METHOD
Allow the sugar and coconut 3 tsp of cherries chopped or Lay out the salami, egg pieces,
mixture to cook on low fire till keep these whole cherries and olives on the lettuce
most of the sugar has been 5 boiled eggs leaves.
incorporated into the coconut lettuce leaves Mix the ingredients for the
mixture. For dressing: dressing and pour over only
Oil an aluminium sheet and 4 tsp of olive oil when you are ready to serve the
spread out the prepared mixture 1 tsp of pepper sauce salad. We

Your word is just as good as the Wife: Then where has the business
JOKES apples. gone?

Patient: We like you better than the * * * * * *

last nurse. Candidate: Do you think I came Judge: You have been arrested for
New Nurse: (Flattered). Why is here to be insulted? driving at 70 miles an hour. What have
that? Employer: Oh, where do you you to say?
Patient: You seem more like one of usually go? Convict: It was an emergency, your
us. honour.
* * * Judge: What sort of emergency?
* * * Jyothi: I know an author, who took Convict: It was a stolen car.
Wife: You are extremely impolite. 10 years to write a novel.
All the time I was talking to you, you Latha: That is nothing. I know a * * *
kept yawning. man who was just released from prison Patient: Doctor, You’ve got to do
Hubby: I was not yawning. I was the other day who took 15 years to something to help me. I snore
trying to say something. finish a sentence. so loudly that I keep waking myself
* * * * * * Doctor: In that case, sleep in
“Daddy,” said the son, “Why do The boss called an unproductive another room.
people call the language they speak employee into his cabin and – Ram Babu, Vijayawada.
their mother tongue?” announced: “You have got an Jailor to a prisoner: Tomorrow
“Because,” replied his dad, “Fathers increment.” you will be freed from this jail. What
never get a chance to use.” Employee: “That is good. When will you do?
does it start?” Prisoner: Sir, I will open a jewellery
* * * Boss: “It becomes effective as soon shop.
Customer: (on the phone): The as you begin to work.” Jailor: Jewellery shop? But it
apples I bought from you yesterday requires lakhs of rupees.
have turned out to be rotten. I am * * * Prisoner: Sir, for me it is a question
bringing them back. Wife: You don’t believe in hell? of only to hammer throws.
Shopowner: There is no need to. Husband: No – P. P. Mehta, Anjar.

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Anne Julia
Hagen poses for
after winning the
Miss Germany
competition in the
Southern German

The winner
city of Rust.

Zero yau Man-hong (L) and Rain Siu Wang-Shan (2L)

wearing traditional Chinese costume and Gigi Hui
Sin-Chi (2 R) and Ken Cheng Chi-kin (R) in Western
wedding attire kiss after their wedding ceremonies
outside a shopping centre in Hong Kong’s Causeway
Bay district on 14 February, Valentine Day. For the first
time in 50 years Chinese Lunar New Year, the most
important holiday on the Chinese calendar, coincided
with the Lovers’ Day.
Day of love

Toshiba displayed a
prototype model of a
head set used to Sri Lanka’s legendary
analyse a person’s doorman Kottarapattu
brainwaves which Chattu Kuttan (89) shows
connects to a off his souvenir lapel pins
computer using from different countries,
bluetooth wireless standing outside the
communication at a Island’s historic 146-year-
symosium of old Galle Face Hotel in
Continua health-care Colombo. Hailing from
devices and Kerala, Kuttan turned 90
The phenomen Communication on 15 February. He has
on of electron Alliance in Tokyo. no plans to retire, and is
ics the world’s oldest
employee in the
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Thrust of tech
A man works on a Citrus fruit scu
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Riviera, ahead of the
start of the “Fete du
Citron” (Lemon
carnival). The theme of
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10 February to
3 March, is “Menton
does its cinema”. In the
next picture a man
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The Stad
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13 February. The
Dutch Tall Ship is
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Darwin’s famous
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Thyroid therapy demystified.

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ona put down the receiver, against your voice box in your neck. functions in very tiny quantities. If
thinking pensively, ‘I’m When it doesn’t function properly, they aren’t present in the right
getting lazy and forgetful. I you may get such symptoms as you amounts, the body processes slow
don’t feel like doing have. It can happen at any age but is down or accelerate.”
anything most of the time. more common in middle-aged “Tell me more, doctor. You mean
I’m falling apart. I wonder women.” that if there are less of these
if it’s something to do with “How can we find out if it is not hormones the body slows down. But
my completing 45 years. functioning properly?” Mona asked if they are increased the body will
Aunty was very quickly. work faster? How can this be?”
concerned. Maybe she’s “First, I must check your pulse and “By accelerate, I mean, yes, the
right. I must go to my doctor pressure and see if we can feel any body works faster in that the heart
immediately.’ bumps on the gland.” beats faster and there are symptoms
That evening, while Mona got Having done that, the doctor like palpitations and tremors. In your
herself ready to visit her old family scribbled on his prescription pad, case, the hormones may be less,
doctor, she gazed at the mirror and saying, “Nothing definite on therefore you have such symptoms.”
mused, ‘My hair has thinned and my examination but go for this blood test A couple of days later, Mona was
face looks puffy. In spite of all that in any reputed laboratory and get back at her doctor’s clinic with her
walking exercise, just look at the back to me with the reports.” blood report. “You were absolutely
weight I’ve put on.’ Mona looked at the paper which correct, doctor. The butterfly in my
Later, after his usual greeting, her he handed her, “What’s this, doctor? throat is not working properly. The T3
doctor came straight to the point, T3, T4, TSH? Some doctors’ code?” and T4 are less but the TSH is high.
“How can I help you?” He smiled patiently. “The thyroid What does that mean?”
He watched her silently while she gland is very small but it does very “This condition is called
recounted her woes. important work. T3, T4 are hormones hypothyroidism. It simply means that
“I’m so fuzzy-headed and forget- or substances produced and the thyroid is not able to cope and is
ful. I can feel myself slowing down. I released into the blood by the thyroid not producing enough T3 and T4.
get nervous and irritable easily and gland. These hormones help the The TSH is released by the brain to
haven’t you noticed how fat I’ve body to remain in top form. They’re stimulate or remind the thyroid to
become, doctor? Just look at my essential for practically all the body produce more T3 and T4 to meet the
puffed face. Even my lips and body’s requirement. When the T3
nose are thickening. My legs also and T4 are in sufficient quantity,
pain so much. Now walking as an the TSH will also come to normal.”
exercise is a real challenge. Is it “Oh. How simple you make it
because of my age? Can’t all sound, doctor.”
something be done?” Mona’s doctor handed her a
Her trusted doctor smiled. “It prescription. “These tablets will
must be the butterfly in your replace the T3 and T4. Take the
throat,” he said. Mona’s hand dose once a day and come back
reached for her neck. “Where’s after a month to tell me how you
the butterfly? There’s none here. are feeling.”
Did you see one, doctor?” Mona left her doctor’s clinic
“You can’t see it,” he laughed smiling. It had been all so simple
gently and explained. “There’s a and she had wasted so much time
very important butterfly-shaped unnecessarily struggling with her
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It was the classic choice for Neha – a middle-class
or high-society suitor. By J. Shankaranarayanan
eha Banerjee had just won the May Queen Come now or we will be late to the Sapphire Club.
beauty contest at the elite Army Club in Hurry up, yaar!”
Mumbai for the third year, and it was a hat The voice came from the arrogant mouth of a hep
trick too. It had to be. She was one of the 26-year-old. The dude in the left-hand-drive vehicle
prettiest girls in the city. Countless young was also bespectacled, but with Rs 15,000 Ray-Ban
guys swooned over her, no doubt. But the Aviator goggles, pierced all over the face, donning
two main youths seriously wanting to marry a custom-made French suit, with gelled hair, and
her were, of course, Ashok Chaudhari and Ajitesh weighed down by pure gold jewellery.
Banker of Diamond Colony, a posh locality near the “Yeah, Ajitesh! Coming, handsome! Ashok, that’s
Borivali National Park in the city. why I said no. I’ve got to hurry now. See you later.
One day, as Neha was watering the plants in her Bye!” said Neha hurriedly, jumping into the car. By
garden, a usual visitor arrived. Ashok was the time Ashok’s jaw dropped in
the nerd of the colony, skinny, disappointment the other two were gone.
bespectacled and assumed by all to be Ajitesh Ajitesh easily outgunned Ashok in
having an intelligence quotient of a easily material wealth, though it was the opposite
whopping 179 points. He knew computer outgunned when it came to brainpower. His father
programming like the back of his hand and Ashok in was an engineering-goods manufacturer,
was not far from becoming a civil service material while both Ashok’s parents were civil
officer, having topped the main exams. He servants. This was precisely why the
was peculiar too, being a good friend of
wealth, balance of affection in Neha’s mind was
the local monkeys, even feeding them with though it tilted in Ajitesh’s favour. She had a whale
his own hands, despite those animals was the of a time accompanying him to costly
being considered a nuisance by other opposite nightclubs and high-society parties, eating
colony residents. when it at exotic restaurants, playing video games
“Hi, Neha! Would you like a ticket to came to in his Playstation, hanging out with cool
next month’s annual dance in the locality? friends and above all, proudly cruising the
Everyone nearby is coming. I’m selling the
brainpower. streets in a Bentley or a snazzy Jeep.
tickets. Rs 200 each,” said Ashok, like a Neha’s parents preferred Ashok and his
polite salesman. clean ways, but Neha was not interested in what
“Give me one. Count me in,” replied Neha, they said.
cheerfully, and completed the transaction.

Before leaving, Ashok asked with a smile, “You hat night, outside Neha’s house, a usual scene
won’t dance with me there, Neha?” occurred inside the Bentley. Ajitesh had his
“Oooh! Please! I consider you a friend and will usual share of pub brawls and was sozzled.
always do so. But I gave you a polite NO last year. “Can’t you ever be normal when we go out?”
The same applies this year too. Sorry,” sighed the complained Neha.
girl in a friendly, exasperated tone. “I will be what I am. It was that guy who tried to
As if to bolster the firmness of her ‘No’, a British- talk to you. I showed him the consequences,”
made Bentley two-seater car screeched to a halt just growled Ajitesh.
eight metres away. “I have my own life, give me some breathing
“Nehaa! Nehaaa...!” called an arrogant voice. space, will you?”
“Wasting your time with this computer geek, eh? Ajitesh replied, first by slapping her and then by

74 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

burning her shoulder with a cigarette butt. may have gone to his study circle.”
“Get out,” barked the brute. She wanted to avoid the geek at all costs.
Neha stood shocked as the car sped away. But “The kids will be disappointed if they don’t see
this was not the first such incident. Ajitesh was out- the animals. Take Ashok along. It will only take two
and-out abusive with most people, and in this case or three hours,” said her father, sounding a bit
with Neha. But Neha was not intellectually irritated, thinking of his promotion all the time.
developed enough to firmly reject such behaviour, Neha finally gave in, and said, “All right kids,
used as she was to living in her boyfriend’s golden come, and we’ll see monkeys.”
cage. “Yaaay! We’ll see the monkeys!” cried Gunnar
Two weeks later, Neha’s father’s Swedish boss triumphantly.
paid a visit to her home with his wife and two “Be careful, all of you.” said Neha’s father as
children. The two kids’ names were Adam, nine, they left.
and Gunnar, seven years old. The family had

arrived in India just two months earlier. The children, he doorbell rang unexpectedly at Ashok’s
being told by friends and relatives that India was an house. Visitors were few for the past several
exotic land of elephant, fakirs and maharajas months as no one wanted to disturb his
wanted to see some local wildlife. But their busy preparations for the grand exams.
parents had no time to visit any wildlife sanctuary. It was Ashok who opened the door. To his
They were quite disappointed as a result. amazement, outside was a smiling Neha with two
European kids.

fter the guests settled down and downed some “Hi! What a surprise! Come in! Come in!” said
coffee and snacks, the kids started pestering Ashok, who could not believe the pleasant surprise.
their parents. But Neha came to the point and said while gesturing
“Papa, I want to see some elephants,” said little to the children, pretending to sound cheerful,
Gunnar. “Ashok, these are my dad’s boss’ children from
“Papa, I want to see a monkey,” pleaded the Sweden, and they want to see monkeys. So, I
older Adam. thought I would take you along to show them the
“We can’t see them now, darlings. Papa has monkeys at Road No. 33, really closely. They would
work,” the boys’ mother replied. like to see you feed them. Please, my dad has to
Neha’s father saw this as a means to get his long impress his boss.”
overdue promotion. For Ashok, this was a situation that had fallen
“Beta, why don’t you take the kids to see the straight from heaven. “Right ho!” he said happily,
monkeys at Road No. 33? There is a large troop of and went into the kitchen, and returned in a jiffy
bonnet macaques there,” he suggested. with a large packet of salted cashew nuts.
Neha got the idea and said, “Adam and Gunnar, “Where to now?” smiled Ashok.
we’ll see some monkeys now, all right?” “Road No. 33,” chirped Neha. And they all
Neha’s mother intervened, “But they have already went, much to the surprise of local residents, who
bitten 11 people over the past several weeks.” had till now only seen Neha with the richie-rich
“That’s not a problem. Ashok is friendly with dude.
them. Take him along,” replied Neha’s father. They walked for half an hour. Ashok tried to chat
Neha immediately retorted, with Neha en route, but she initially replied to his
clearly sounding irritated, questions in monosyllables. However, as Ashok’s
“But he’s preparing for the warm and friendly nature came out, she began
civil services exams most of opening up. After a few minutes she asked Ashok
the time. Who knows? He what his latest essay was about. Ashok replied
that he was writing to a woman’s journal on
wife battering. Neha began listening with rapt
attention. Ashok went on to say how wife-
battering takes various forms, like physical
assault and the burning of the body with
cigarette butts, and verbal abuse. And he
spoke at length about the problem, as how it
was a violation of a woman’s rights and self-
respect. Finally, he concluded by saying
how it sometimes ends up in murder.
Ashok’s enlightening lecture sent
a chill down Neha’s spine, and she wondered a complaint against him in the local police station
whether her own life was going in such a direction. under The Prevention of Cruelty to Animals Act.
She in turn asked Ashok what should be done in Some religious organisations also put pressure for
such circumstances. He replied that it was safest for action as monkeys are considered sacred.
the woman to simply break off such a relationship. Subsequently, Ajitesh was arrested from his home by
Neha was also impressed by his knowledge of the police. But he was bailed out by his father’s
feminism. lawyers after spending three hours in the police lock-
At last, the group reached Road No. 33. The up with other common criminals.
instructor at the local gym, a friend of Ashok, was

standing there with a plastic bag full of bananas, eha was horrified. She had begun to like the
feeding the simians. Ashok greeted him cheerfully, hyperactive monkeys. After all, they gave her
“Guruji, namaste!” He took a dozen bananas from father his promotion. And, following Ajitesh’s
the instructor and proceeded to feed the monkeys arrest, her father asked her what she would do if he
himself. The animals surrounded Ashok and began were arrested for even bigger offences. Neha
to eat from his hands, stuffing their huge cheek- instantly remembered all the assaults and cigarette
pouches in the process. Ashok beckoned Neha and burns she had received from Ajitesh. She then
the two children to join him in feeding the monkeys. remembered Ashok’s talk on abusive relationships
He told the kids not to irritate or tease the animals and the need for women to be assertive. She thought
if they wanted to avoid getting bitten. The children and thought, and changed her mind.
were on cloud nine, not only seeing, but also One evening, Ajitesh’s Bentley screeched to a
playing with and feeding an exotic halt outside the gate of Neha’s house.
animal. Neha wondered how Ashok could Ajitesh told Neha came out.
be on such friendly terms with these her, “Hey, Ajitesh told her, “Hey, Neha! Let’s go to
irritable and unpredictable animals that Neha! Let’s go TGIF for dinner tonight!”
had bitten a dozen people over the last to TGIF for Neha replied quietly, “Go away,
several months. Her mind also began to dinner Ajitesh, it’s all over. I cannot love a monster
wonder who could care for her better, an tonight!” like you any more.”
intelligent and gentle guy with limited Neha replied “What?”
means, or a human monster with all the quietly, “Go “If you could kill those harmless creatures
money in the world. today, you could kill me tomorrow. And,
away, Ajitesh,
besides, there is something called self-

it’s all over. I
fter about half an hour, the kids were respect, which was getting damaged each
cannot love a
joyful and had seen Indian monkeys time you hit me. I could put you behind bars
from close quarters to their heart’s
monster like by this evening for assaulting me repeatedly
content. They were ready to return. The
you any in the past. I now love Ashok who respects
four of them began to return to Neha’s
more.” women.”
home, with Ashok enlightening the girl Ajitesh raised his hand and slapped
further on various current issues. On reaching home, Neha across her face.
the Swedish kids joyfully told their father about their “Stop it, Ajitesh! Get away from here before we
Indian experience, pleasing everyone in the house. call the police,” it was Neha’s father, and next to
A week later, Neha’s father got his long-overdue him was Ashok.
promotion. “But, uncle!” Ajitesh protested.
Neha happened to tell Ajitesh about her “No one wants you here. Don’t return here for
experience and her father’s subsequent promotion. your own good,” said Ashok.
He immediately slapped her and walked away in a Ajitesh conceded defeat. He hung his head in
huff. shame and went back to his car without uttering a
Consumed by jealousy and rage, Ajitesh took an word.
air-rifle and a boxful of metal pellets and drove Neha then turned back to her father and Ashok,
down to Road No. 33. On reaching the ridge there, and said, “I am sorry it took me so long to realise
he immediately began shooting at the monkeys with the love both of you have for me. But it was better
deadly accuracy. By the time the pellets in the box late than never.”
got exhausted, nine monkeys lay dead and dozens Neha’s father watched as he put her hand in Ashok’s.
were injured. “So, when is the engagement?” he asked.
The next day, the news of Ajitesh’s cruel deed “In a week, definitely,” said Neha.
spread throughout Diamond Colony. That evening All three of them smiled and went into Neha’s
the gym instructor and a couple of nature lovers filed home in bliss. We

78 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

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English. Recently when their grand- married for eight
parents visited I realised that they years. I used to surf My husband is like two
can barely converse in Hindi. I feel the porn sites but it men in one body. He is a
guilty, what should I do? meant nothing. When per fect gentleman in
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82 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

Vidya Balan won Best Actress

Award in Paa.
films with Vidya Balan (of Lage Raho
Munabhai fame) in mind, this writer
had wondered if this relative
newcomer was really so talented. But
she has proved that she is. She won
the Best Actress Award for her
performance in Paa at the function
mentioned above. Congrats Vidya.

A believer in taking up challenges,

67-year-old Amitabh Bachchan
has done full justice to the character
of a 13-year-old Auro in Paa. No
wonder, therefore he walked away
with the Best Actor Award of the 16th
Annual Screen awards at a lavish
programme in Mumbai.

A t the same function, several other

awards were also announced.
Three Idiots directed by Raj Kumar
Hirani was adjudged the best film.
Aamir Khan plays one of the key

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fter the grievances of hockey
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T hanks to growing friendly relations
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wonder what’s the connection negative role in a sequal to Krish
between hockey players and Shah planned by Rakesh Roshan. Dipika
Rukh? He had played a hockey Padukone has already been finalised
coach in Chak De India, a super hit for the female lead. It hardly needs
film. Meanwhile hockey players’ any reaffirmation that Krish was a
complaint has been taken care of. super-hit.

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Amitabh Bachchan got Best Actor Award
S hahid Kapoor who took a few
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career with his performance in
for his role in Paa. Kaminey is mentally prepared to tie

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the knot. He gave a hint of this in a well be the brainwave of Gulzar, a
programme given as a reality show good poet himself.
titled Lift Karade.

Z aayed Khan is playing a brief but

important role in Sajid
A bhishek Bachchan’s debut as a
producer with Paa has been well
worth it. Directed by R. Balki, the film
Nadiadwala’s film titled Anjana was completed with a budget of
Anjani. Ranbir Kapoor and Priyanka approximately Rs 15 crore, has got
Chopra are already shooting for the his dad, Amitabh, yet another Best
film in America. It’s Zaayad’s role Actor Award.
which gives the crucial twist in the
climax of the film.

O ne cannot help wondering what

prompted Salman Khan to issue
a statement reaffirming that while he
cannot guarantee that he would be a
good husband, he is sure of being a
good father, and that he considers
marriage an important duty. Good to
know that from Salman himself.

S ome duos (twosomes) like Salim-

Javed (as writers) and Shankar
Jaikishen (as music directors) have
Salman Khan. Producer Abhishek with dad in Paa.

done extremely well in Bombay

filmdom. Now it seems to be the turn
of Gulzar and Vishal Bhardwaj (as a
A bhishek plays a politician in Paa
and politicians generally wear
spotless khadi clothes (never mind if
A n adage says, ‘act in haste and
repent at leisure’. Probably that’s
what Nandita Das (actor-turned
lyricist and music director). Proof? some of them are not spotless director with Firaq) did when she
The songs of Ishqia are becoming themselves). Believe it or not, to plunged into her first marriage, which
very popular. The title of the film may make sure that Abhishek donned turned out to be a sour experience.
spotless white attire, the director, R. She has got married again. We
Balki, ordered as many as ten sets earnestly hope (and pray) that this
of the same costume! time it turns out to be a sweet

P oliticians knocked at the door of

film industry once again asking
for ‘star-power’ to woo voters in the
Ellenabad constituency in Sirsa.
While Sanjay Dutt and Suniel Shetty
canvassed for INLD candidate, Raj
Babbar supported the Congress
candidate. Dutt was heard shouting
Ellenabad niwasion ko Munnabhai ka
salaam. Let’s see who wins?

I n a free and democratic

country like India, everyone is
entitled to express his or her
opinion on anything. While the
jury for the 16th Screen Awards
has selected 3 Idiots as the best
film, an army officer considers it
‘outrageous rubbish’. Of course,
cinegoers are the ultimate judges.
Ranbir Kapoor and Priyanka Chopra
in Anjana Anjani.
W hile former ‘Dream Girl’ Hema
Malini reigned supreme for
almost a decade, her daughter
Esha’s career just refuses to move Abhishek
ahead. What can you say except in ‘Khelein
Naseeb Apna Apna? Remember a Hum Jee
film was also made with this title Jaan Se’!
almost a decade ago.

A jay Devgon is not only a

successful actor today, he has
turned a producer too! Producer
Dinesh Patil told this writer that when
he decided to give a break to Ajay,
some prophets of doom told me that I
was backing the wrong horse, but
going by instinct that he would make
it, I gave him a break and he did
make it. All The Best produced by
Ajay has been well received.
stickers on rickshaws plying on
streets that read: “Capacity: 3 Idiots”! K atrina Kaif’s decision to work
hereafter with heroes on the ‘A’
list only is uncalled for. It can mean

D ame Luck’s darling Deepika

Padukone who started her film
career with a hit film Om Shanti Om
I magine what a wonderful feeling of
joy Shah Rukh Khan must have had
to read that he is one of the most
denial of opportunity to relatively new
but talented young actors. After all,
she was also a new entrant at one
has just started shooting for Ashutosh influential muslim in the world today time and heroes on the ‘A’ list, like
Gowarikar’s film Khelein Hum Jee alongwith music director A. R. Akshay Kumar, agreed to work with
Jaan Se with Abhishek Bachchan. Rehman! her in Namaste London. What do you
say, Kat?

D amn good news for beautiful

young girls, including actresses
who want to get married: two
W hile talking of Aamir Khan and
Shah Rukh Khan, let’s not
forget the first Khan, Yusuf Khan i.e. G ood old memories and nostalgia
marked the recent meeting of
handsome actors – Shahid Kapoor Dilip Kumar. Guess how does the Amitabh Bachchan and Dharmendra
(of Jab We Met and Kaminey fame) thespian spend his time in the at the Lions Gold Awards function in
and Vivek Oberoi have decided to tie evening of life? He reads a good Mumbai. When Sholay was being
the knot. deal, plays tennis and enjoys an planned, Dharmendra was finalised
evening walk with a friend or two. first and reportedly, Amitabh went to

W hile promoting their starrer 3

Idiots, Aamir Khan and
his team used every gimmick
the jat hero to put in a word for him to
Ramesh Sippy for the second male
lead. Both gave an excellent account
to attract cinegoers to cinema Esha’s of themselves in the black buster film.
houses: they pasted unique stagnant

career. here is no exaggeration
Amitabh Bachchan with Dharmendra
at the Lions Gold Awards function. whatsoever if we say that the
Bachchans will always cherish the
moments when Amitabh passed on
the trophy to son Abhishek for
making a splendid debut as a
producer with Paa (as part of 16th
Screen Awards), the film which got
for him yet another Best Actor Award!

D estiny has its own strange ways

of dealing with us mortals. While
Rajendra Kumar was nicknamed
Jubilee Kumar because many of his
starrers turned out to be jubilee hits,
his son Bunty remained one film
wonder. – Deepak Puri
Katrina Kaif’s
decision is
uncalled for not
working with

The festival of colour across India. By Deepali Nandwani
oli, the most spectacular splendid with freshly-blossomed, mention of the boisterous lathmaar
festival celebrated in India, beautifully – coloured flowers, holi that is celebrated with a lot of
makes its grand entry in the spreading a distinctive air of romance cheer and joy at Barsana, the birth
month of Phagun heralding all around. The woman nationwide place of Radharani. Women here are
the entry of the beautiful, show their skills in an attempt to join seen in big groups with large
balmy spring season and an hands with nature, by decorating the ghunghats on their faces carrying big
effective exit of the dry and entrances to their homes with richly sticks, to hit the men as they try and
cold winter season. As this varied patterns of rangoli in bright shield themselves and also throw
colourful festival signifies a colours. colour on them. All this is in a spirit of
triumph of good over evil, Come, let us take a look at some pure fun and joy as side by side they
people of all communities come of the exciting ways in different states sing bhajans in the typical Braj
together to rejoice, trying to leave of India as they celebrate this language and punish the men who
behind all their in-between enmities. colourfully-spirited festival. retaliate by making them wear female
Zealous children and elders are seen clothes and dance around. Then,
roaming around, looking as there is the flower Holi too in which
unrecognisable as ever with UTTAR PRADESH the whole of Vrindavan’s population
unbelievable variety of colours of Mathura aur Vrindavan ki holi: is seen showering everyone around
pink, violet, maybe orange and As one thinks of holi, the first place with flowers. To be seen here other
green, smudged on their faces, arms, that comes to mind is of course the than the Holi of all temples, is the
neck, feet and – surprise surprise, Vraj bhoomi, the place where Krishna gulal kund Holi at Braj where Holi
the teeth too. is believed to have spent his goes on for almost the full year with
Everybody can be seen running childhood. Immediately, one is small children enacting the scenes of
around or trying to hide from the reminded of the divine love between Kanha and his pastimes.
colourful water squirts, in their the playful chitchor Kanha and his
clothes blotched with patches of dry consort Radharani. The story that Saade Punjab di holi: One day
and wet colours that were splashed goes around here is that, Kanaha ahead is celebrated here as the
on to them. The culprits may have always complained to his mother chhoti Holi and days ahead the kids
been our very lovable pichkaris or the Yashoda about his dark complexion are seen roaming around with water
small water balloons available in whereas the gopis and Radha were pistols in their hands wetting the
delightful colours. Ouch! Mind you, fair. She laughed at him and one day place wherever they go, as
they really do hit hard. Shop vendors asked him to colour her face with any sheepishly they call aloud “holi hai”.
have a gala time as they display the colour, just in fun. The houses emit the fragrance of
plenty of colours and gulal and also Since then, this festival has been yummy carrot halwa or kheer or
the pichkaris of various shapes and celebrated here as the symbol of sweetmeats made with mava. Some
sizes. May it be a gun or a huge love. The Holi here goes on for houses make the ghujias too. Big
dolphin or any others, they are seen around two weeks till the day of glasses of lassi are gulped down by
hanging in abundance at the rangpanchami arrives. People go people, sometimes laced with bhang
entrances of the shops to attract around singing Radha-Krishna too.
attention. bhajans in full masti and enthusiasm Sikhs here celebrate the special
As the trees show off their new colouring everyone around. ʻHolla mohallaʼ. Dressed in long,
formed lush, green leaves and look We, of course, cannot miss the deep-blue tunics and turbans they go

88 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

around as a spectacular affair around or scattered on the road in
showing their skills in martial arts, patches as people in multicoloured
wrestling, swords and shields and attire, go around dancing and singing
spears, impressing everyone around. giving performances of the raslila,
reminding one of the immortal love
Holi in Bengal: Lovingly known shared between the Radha and
here as the basant utsav or the Krishna. The royals also come out in
dolyatra, this marks the last festival of the open these days to celebrate the
the Bengali year. One can hear loud lovely spirit of colour.
bhajans dedicated to Radhe and One famous Holi here is dolchi collected dry leaves and the wood of
Krishna. People put abeer (colour) on holi of Bikaner which some the araad and the redi tree and cakes
all around and there is a distribution communities have been celebrating made out of cow dung (pathiyan).
of prasadam in extravagance. for several years by throwing water There are loud sounds of the dhol
Kolkata’s streets are thronged with on each other’s backs from specially vibrating in the air as people sing folk
large numbers of people, seen designed vessels know as dolchi. songs intoxicating themselves with
amidst different colours flying in the bhang and bhang pakoras or
air. thandai, a tasty preparation of milk.
Dol purnima or the swing festival
is celebrated here with great joy as Manipur: The flavour of Holi
the images of Radha and Krishna here is enjoyed with people seen
are seated in decorated swings and toying with gulal and dancing
are made to roam around the around in Lord Krishna’s temples,
streets with people singing the in traditional white and yellow
bhajans aloud. As the women turbans. Cultural programmes take
dance around swings, people the lead, even as huge
surrounding them throw colours on processions are taken out to Lord
them. Dishes, which may spread Krishna’s temple.
their mouthwatering fragrance all
around, may be malpoas, basanti Maharashtra: Burning of Holika
sandesh or the kheer sandesh. is the main custom here and is
Orissa holi: Here also, dol known as the shimga. The dish puran
Holi in Gujarat: Celebrations here purnima is celebrated with Lord poli wins hands down on this day,
start with the lighting of the bonfire Jagannatha’s images being taken in with children screaming in glee Holi
of Holika and offerings of khoya, palanquins and people singing re holi, puranachi Holi. In Mumbai,
sugar toys, coconut and corn. Then bhajans aloud and throwing colour on the Bollywood holi is a different affair
people apply tilak and hug each other each other. Lord Jagannath’s temple altogether with various types of
on this very lively festival. Images of is heavily decorated and looks parties with huge tubs of colour laid
goddess Gauri are made out of the beautiful. out in the lawns and all celebrities
leftover ashes from the bonfire by the roaming around sprawled in a variety
unmarried girls. It is a custom here Bihar ma holi: It is known as of colours and clearly enjoying
to break earthen pots filled with phagwa here and is celebrated with themselves amidst the loud music
buttermilk. Big huge human pyramids great gusto. The bonfire is lit with being played. We
are made to reach the handi even as
people surrounding them throw huge
amounts of coloured water on them Statement of ownership and other particulars about
to hinder their smooth performance. WOMAN’S ERA
The Bhogorian festival here,
celebrated in some tribal-dominated
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Which one
has the
Dresses or
bags? Both.

Your dress colour goes

with dress sense. It
A proper hand bag means you should wear
necessarily enhances your a colour suiting your
personal appeal. personality.
It is the req
uirement o
season to w f the
Another kind of For a curvaceous ear revealin
bag to suit a look you have to dresses. T g
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different colour. wear a top that your assets t
will make others’ as it is now
eyes pop out. the call of s

The two stylishly

crafted bags are
meant to match
equally exquisite

Now, you are

dressed and
have an
attractive bag
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“Mini pots in a heap means that everything on this earth will
return to earth in the cycle of life,” says the artist.

By Subhra Majumdar
he art journey of this shy, moulded for his needs. The
soft-spoken and committed household pot, I felt, held in its centre
artist spans the three cities so many household stories because
of Delhi , Jodhpur and Leh, it has been witness to so many
in the Ladakh district of the generations of life amidst us. I felt
state of Jammu and that this was the ideal way to depict a
Kashmir. Inspired by the symbolic concept and ever since
works of the miniature then, I have been painting pots in
painters of his home state of various forms, settings and ideations.
Rajasthan, Meghwal took to
painting like a devotee to his Lord. What was the reception of the
On that circuit, he met a Dutch galleries and viewers when they
traveller who influenced him to try his first saw your works?
hand at painting the landscape of the It was at Rang Art gallery of Delhi
Ladakh region and thus Meghwal (, Ph No.
included it in his painting journey. 9811078742 that I got the most
When in need of materials and a heartening response. Thereafter, I
gallery to display his art, he came to have painted more than 200 works
Delhi and to Rang Art Gallery , from with this theme and Rang Gallery’s
where the unusual but fascinating brush and paints, I also imbibed the patrons are very satisfied with my art
journey into art began for him. philosophy of Buddhism. I realised hung on their walls. Also, the owner
the tremendous power of Silence, not Kapil, has gone out of his way to
Despite your liking for miniature as an empty space but as a span of promote my artistry and on my part, I
art, you have not been doing work life filled with serenity, peace and the have made sure that I work at the
in that style. Why? higher thoughts. It influenced my
I am by and large a self-taught paintings and instead of going
artist who has picked up skills from outdoors and capturing the beauty of
studying the great masters of Europe. the rocky scenery of Ladakh, my
I have also studied several other mind began to conceive art works
books on Indian art with the aim of depicting the form of Shunya.
acquiring knowledge on art and
painting. I also observed people at How did you depict this concept
work, depended on my memories of through art?
artists and works and began to I was drawn to the idea of the
discover my talents. Finally, I earthen pot. The
received formal training in Tibetan shape of the pot
folk art painting, also known as Druk suggests a circle
art, when I went to Ladakh. or shunya. It is
also made of
How did the Druk style of primeval earth, the
painting affect your own art style? oldest material
Besides the style of using the that mankind

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still unformulated unlike the larger
well-baked pots, that are bursting
to break all bonds, and explode in
that state of shunya or Non-Being.

What kind of colour palette

do you prefer?
Although I paint pots, I do not
always stick to a rigid realistic
colour scheme. My paintings also
have a non-real aspect and so my
colours are made to evoke the
power of energy rather than imitate
nature. The blue surroundings in
the work are positivism and they
appear in all my works because I
like my viewer to vibe with my art.
orders he procures with single-minded They rise above the mundane heap
devotion. I sometimes spend 14 hours at the bottom and symbolise the state Which painter has inspired you
without a break to work on a painting of oblivion achieved through intense the most?
and even forget hunger, thirst and rest meditation, dedication and service. Although I am inspired by the
when I am working on one of the They are the highest state of human Masters of the Renaissance in
works for him. His interaction creates thought and action and their floating Europe , my inspiration is from the
a sense of positivism in me and I in the air is because they have no artist Satish Gujral. I have learnt a lot
thrive on it. pressures to pull them down to basic from him, and followed his works
living and its concerns. through the various stages. I often
Which is the most popular work study his works in books and never
on matkas that you have done? Why are mini pots placed in a tire of seeing the paintings images
The work entitled Kumbh Snaan( heap usually in your paintings? over and over again. For me this
Bathing at the Kumbh) is my best This is to show that artist is the true
work. It depicts a collection of small the miniature pot is what Vishwakarma because
pots in an unbaked bleached mud conceals the central he can paint, sculpt and
colour, as if waiting to go into the fire. point of energy. As yet make installations with
The pots lie in different directions in it is struggling to climb equal ease and each
an untidy heap, as if they signify a out of the everyday exhibition of his art
new life emerging from the earth. existence and climb to means a new phase in
Above this heap are an arrangement higher goals. It also his art career.
of life-size matkas that are reaching means that everything
towards a clear blue sky. The pots on this earth will return What is the next
are perfectly created and are the to earth in the cycle of thing you will paint?
embodiment of the Shunya concept. life. Their character is Perhaps after this
series, I will paint a
series of Buddhist icons in the
Tibetan style. I may also concentrate
on the idea of the release of the
supreme Energy within us and paint
a series of pots set in a dry terrain
where a seed pod will be emerging
from a pot, in that arid landscape.
All this is something that I still
spend nights thinking over and
nothing has yet materialised…in the
meantime I continue to struggle,
making sure that I never paint the
same thing again and strive to come
out with a new feeling from my pots
at every new exhibition I display my
works. We

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I am 35 years old, obese and mother liable to get infected with many
of two kids. I have suffered from sexually transmitted diseases.
diabetes for the last five years. My Even AIDS and HIV infection can
problem is that I get repeated skin also occur. So desist from your
infections. Any injury also takes a wayward ways. Get yourself
long time to recover. Please help. examined by your doctor and if there
Diabetics are notorious for getting is any infection you should get it

repeated infections. Sometimes it treated promptly.
occurs when diabetes is not under
control. You have to be very careful I am 40 years old and mother of two
about getting infections. Any mild kids. Five years ago a swelling
infection must be treated promptly appeared on my left breast which on
under medical guidance. Poor biopsy turned out to be a benign
diabetes control always worsens the growth. Now another swelling

condition. So be careful. has appeared on my breast. On

biopsy it again turned out to be a
I am 35 years old. My breasts are of benign growth. I am worried. Please
average size. I consulted a surgeon help.
who advised me to go in for surgery Appearance of swellings on your
which I do not want. Please help. breasts requires special attention. It
There are many artificial ways by would be better if you go for
which a women’s breasts can be mammography to exclude any other
made to look bigger. Nature helps lesion in your breast. Moreover a
only to some extent. Best for you regular check-up will be required at
would be to take good nutritious food frequent intervals to detect the

(high-class proteins, milk, fish, eggs, appearance of any untoward growth.
I am 28 years old and married. My poultry etc.) and do exercises which
problem is that I get recurrent pelvic strengthen your pectoral muscles on I am 28 years old and had a
infections. I am afraid I may get which the breasts rest. A slight miscarriage last year. I am getting

cancer. Please advise. massage will also be helpful. repeated attacks of acute pain in the
Your fears are well founded. upper part of my abdomen
Repeated infections of the pelvis is I am 25 years and unmarried. Sadly I accompanied by vomiting. Whenever
one of the factors responsible for have to admit that I indulge in sex I get the attack, my limbs become
causing carcinoma of the genitalia in with my boyfriend. Recently I got very cold. Please help.
females. I see no reason why your infected and was diagnosed to be From the description given in
pelvic infection cannot be treated suffering from the papilloma virus your letter it appears that you are
properly. infection. Please help. getting attacks of acute pancreatitis

If you follow the advice of your What you have got is as a result of affecting a small organ situated in
doctor correctly there is no reason sexual contact. I presume it was an the upper part of the abdomen. I
why you should not be cured. unprotected sex act. Best for you presume that you are not fat and
would be to take adequate treatment also not suffering from inflammation
I am 25 years old and suffer from and avoid any future source of of the gall bladder, the two conditions
attacks of allergy. I have tried many infection. Women who repeatedly which predispose a woman to suffer
methods but to no avail. Please suffer from this type of infection are from this disease. What you suffer
help. more liable to suffer from carcinoma from cannot be ignored. I am sure

Allergy is one problem which is of the cervix. your doctor is taking care of your
very difficult to manage. A person problem by proper investigations.
may be allergic to the food he or she I am 22 years old and employed in a — Dr S. N. Khosla, MD.
takes (e.g. egg, fish, bananas) multinational. My problem is that I
Readers are invited to send in any health
perfume, clothes – especially have too many boyfriends. I also and medical queries they would like to be
synthetic) household dust, flowers indulge in sex with them. But answered. Woman’s Era will provide
and hair from pet animals sometimes I get afraid about whether answers to your questions and offer
In fact the list is endless. You can I may get some deadly disease. solutions to your problems. Individual
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(neatly written on white paper) to:
Best would be to maintain a diary in Your are treading on a very
which you record your daily activities dangerous path. Sex with too many WOMAN'S ERA,
and see what is responsible for E-3, Jhandewala Estate,
people at this age is nothing short of
New Delhi-110055.
causing allergy. promiscuous behaviour. You are
“Revelation is not
just for unfolding the
hidden things but to
educate and inform
us,” says the artist.
Our Correspondent


n unorthodox is the most society’s entire life and later the
mum person in this chaotic society gets the healing, poured by
world as he finds no one to those – labelled out of track persons
listen to his words that of that time.
show the mirror of man and A conscious person close to heart
society. Society frames understands meaning and purpose of
rules that become tradition life well. Artist Bijan Paul is too
and puts restrictions – what feeling the heat due to speaking his
to do and what not to do, heart rather than mind. Proving his
although the rules or talent and uniqueness in the field of
restrictions are introduced by the art for more than 30 years hasn’t
same mind of people – unorthodox. been easy. He went through many
They feel the heat of apartness in ups and downs in his work-time but
never compromised on the matters
he wanted to communicate.
Bijan Paul Paul says, “There are many
Birth: 1st January 1958 in Calcutta precious and important matters that
Ph: 09871182009 require to be discussed for settling
Solo shows: down outcomes of
1981: Paris, 1986: London, miscommunication, misunder -
1981: Home Stores (Art Division) standing or non-understanding. But
(Telok Karau, Singapore) we don’t talk about the problem and it
2007: Art in CANAN Road, has become a secret in our lives. So
New Mexico, we ought to reveal this secret and
Group shows: understand how it affects us.”
1980: London, 1982: Canada, Secrecy is like an invisible worm
1983: Japan, 1985: Germany. that grows up inside us and bugs
2000-2008: First International silently, gradually. Truth must not be
Conference South Asian Artist, hidden whether it is with good or bad
focusing on “Capacity Building of face. Bijan utilises canvas as the
Marginalised Women and widows platform to reveal the secrecy of life
in February 2002. which we don’t ponder upon. He
unfolds his experience and
At nature’s doorstep.

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experiments on canvas and the What about latest of works?
canvas unfolds the same with various Secrecy of life is the theme I am
colours for communicators. working on present time. In more
Revelations inform, educate, and than 50 years of my life many
open doors to look beyond the experiences are stored in my bag of
boundaries of trends and memory. I have seen people ignoring
commonness. Every discovery or not taking the matters that do
throws new outcome but it is we who matter. I have felt too in my life that I
are responsible for the outcome for couldn’t tell the things that can be
good or bad purpose. Revelations of sorted out in communication. But I
secrecy is a discovery that lets us didn’t communicate and now feeling
mull over the hidden matters. If we the absence of that. So I chose
haven’t opened our heart to others in colours, brush, finger and canvas to
true sense yet then it is now a duty of unveil the secrecy what are common
our conscious mind to mull over the in society.
matter and endeavour to see the
hidden soft world of ourselves. The What is the significance of
soft and hard both entities are in revelations of secrecy?
everyone. The need is to look and because it dictates me to Revelation is not just for
open our soft world that has plenty do more and more. Art unfolding the hidden things
of energy and kindness. Through this world is an ocean and a but it is to educate and
vision we can look inwards and open human mind can’t cover inform us. At least if one
for humanity. the stretch of the world. knows what matter haunts
Bijan Paul starts doing the new Since childhood I am in in hidden form the guy will
after the completion of the last. After this world with mind and try to get rid of that.
a long and successful series of soul and will be till the A developed mind
realism works on ‘Banjaras’, Paul end. I don’t know where I requires knowing all things
now began a new journey of abstract would be after five years including bad and good but
art on ‘Secrecy of life’ theme. but one thing is sure that not wrong.
I will be in the same If one’s gratitude
An excerpt from talk with Bijan world because art has given different towards another is taken in wrong
Paul on his long experience in art understandings that let me see the sense then the first must understand
world: surroundings with different it however expressing gratitude
connotations. I am satisfied with my continuously.
How has been your art journey? art passion and profession.
It’s long and will end never What is difference between
What are the changes and Bijan in tender and Bijan in
developments you see in your matured age?
recent works in comparison to 10 Bijan was very happy as he hadn’t
year-old works? known what is around in true sense
It’s you not me to point the but now he tries to get happiness by
changes. But I know on what ignoring the material nature in true
parameters I have developed my sense. However some moments
standard of art. Actually practice were really very unforgettable in my
makes one perfect. I have been life like seeing Picasso in real time
practising and still not perfect. I at the age of seven in London and
worked on Banjaras and made my grandparents’ lulls.
realistic paintings on them depicting
their simple and pure lifestyle. Now, I Your message to budding
am doing abstracts and working on artists?
secrecy of life theme. So by this way Let the things come in your mind
I have been living in different forms of naturally. Don’t try to bend the things
art and technically improving by the that emerge in heart and keep
time. But the senses that see the working; then you will know the
matter with different angles are intact technique well to present your pure
in me. However the pictures I used ideas in pure form. After all,
to realise at tender age was more continuous practice leads towards
clear and pure. perfection. We

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THE moment a man breathes his

R. S. Prakash
last, his body weight is expected to
be less by 21 gm. Hence, the weight
of the athma is said to be only 21 gm!
E. L. Indranath has assumed
responsibility for the story,
screenplay, music and direction
besides appearing in the lead role in
Uriyin Vilai 21 gm. He is a former
student of the Film Institute. Veteran
Malayalam actor Thilagan is playing
a vital role in the film. The theme
sketches the lifestyles of those who
lead an endangered life. Manian
Pradeep is the music scorer. Raj
Selva is the cinematographer.

SOME personalities associated with

the artworld – both the screen and
the stage – have always exhibited a
unique passion for education-related
purposes. The Calibre Academy
Education Foundation started by
Madhuvanthi Arun (who is the
NATIONAL award-winning director daughter of the popular stage and
Bala is currently busy with Avan- screen actor, Y. G. Mahendra) has in
Evan which has Vishal and Arya in its history, forged some dynamic
the lead roles. Newcomer Janani Iyer partnerships, both on the national
is the heroine. Ambika, Jayaprabha and international front. The
and Ananda Vaidyanathan are also forerunner to all these has been its
in the main cast. Yuvan Shankar partnership with Edward Richardson
KALAIGNAR TV has always willingly Raja is the music scorer. Arthur A. Primary School at Lincolnshire in the
come forward to showcase serials Wilson is handling the camera. While U. K. The partnership was first
that have a realistic setting and feel. renowned writer, S. Ramakrishnan encouraged by the British Council
Vaadagai Veedu presented by Sri has penned the dialogue. Bala through the exchange grant and
Kamakshi Vision is the channel’s handles the story, screenplay and support by the council through the
latest offering, the theme of which direction. curriculum grant as a part of the
revolves around the problems of
middle-class people who mostly
dream about happiness but suffer in
reality. This serials speaks about 10
families that live inside a compound
in Chennai. The owner of the house
is living in Singapore. Reddiar who
lives there, make everyone believe
that he is the owner! Afsar, Murali,
Deepa Venkat, Santhoshi and others
have a lot of problems. The story
sketches their plight and their
courage to overcome them. The
serial which is aired between 12 noon
and 12.30 p.m. has music by S.P.
Venkatesh and veteran playback
singer S. P. Balasubramaniyam has
rendered the title song. M.
Venkatesh, who has directed several
serials for several channels, has
handled the screenplay and direction.

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possesses psychic characteristics.
After wooing and marrying a girl who
is a violinist by profession, he makes
her a character in his stories and
turns all his marital experiences into
runaway sellers by getting them

FOLLOWING the success of his

Malai Malai, Arun Vijay commenced
his project Maanja Velu and the actor
is happy about the way it’s shaping
up. Dhanshika of Peraanmai fame is
cast opposite him. A. Venkatesh
directs the film. Veteran actor Karthik
returns to the silver screen after a
gap of five years and he plays Arun’s
daughter and the narration has been brother in the film. Explains Arun,
set in Australia. Says Shriya, “Karthik was everyone’s first choice
“Jaggubhai is a movie that is very for that powerful role. When the
close to my heart as it deals with director narrated the script to him, he
dad-daughter relationships. I have loved the character and gladly
played Monisha in the film, who is a agreed to do the role.” Prabhu who
Global School Project. Thanks to the spoiled brat, a bit too loud bordering teamed up with Arun in Malai Malai is
support and dedication of the on the obnoxious and who is a also also cast in an important role. Two
teachers from both the countries, it onto drugs, etc. As I know nobody songs of the film have been shot in
has reached a rewarding third year around who has these characteristics picturesque locations in Bangkok.
and is ready to set and achieve loftier doing the role was a challenge and it
goals. Says Madhuvanthi, “We have was a journey of exploration with NARAYAN, a former deputy of
been working on forging partnerships destination unknown!” veteran filmmaker Mysskin, is making
in specialised fields and will soon be his debut though Maalai Pozhudin
announcing our partners in the fields JUST like commercial pot boilers, Mayakkathile which is being jointly
of technology and design as well as offbeat flicks too seem to have produced by about 10 assistant
arts and art-education.” caught the fancy of Tamil film-goers. directors, the banner carrying the
Kathai, a recent release is one such name, Team AD Productions (AD -
SAYS director Madhumita who is attempt, written and directed by assistant directors) the entire cast is
back with a comic caper Kola Kolaya Abishek, the television actor-turned- new and the screenplay is set around
Mundhirika, this movie will be on the filmmaker. The story sketches the the happenings on an evening,
lines of Bunty Aur Bubli and Mr and plight of a celebrated writer who justifying the title! Achu is the scorer
Mrs Smith, not adapted from any. and Gopi Amarnath is the
Nariya Nariya Sutti Vaa is a game cameraman.
which we played as children.
When people come to watch my NANDA – Nandhitha has
movie, I want them to remember been produced by the first-
their childhood and have a smile timer banner, Super Team
on their lips. Also, this movie is Cinema Megha. Sundar is
about the hero, heroine and three the heroine. She had played
villains searching for a treasure. the female lead in the
So, Kola Kolaya is an apt title for Kannada remake of the
the comic movie. Dhanush starrer,
Polladhavan. Meghna is the
THOUGH her first film in Tamil this heroine of Kavithalayaa’s
year, Kutty hasn’t exactly set the Krishna Leelai too. Kannada
boxoffice on fire, Shriya Sharan scorer Ezhil has composed
seems to be moving on steadily in the music. Ajay Kumar has
her chosen career path and in penned the story. Ram Shiva
Jaggubhai which has just hit the has handled the screenplay,
screens, she plays Sarath Kumar’s dialogue and direction. We

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R. Prakash

seven films to his credit as a director

has assumed responsibility for the
story, screenplay, dialogue, music

egardless of the language, and direction too. He has also
films that showcase themes on distributed over 350 films in Tamil
intimacy attract and arrest the Nadu, Andhra Pradesh, Kerala and
attention of the viewers instantly. Karnataka.
Stories that sketch the plight of sex- With nearly three decades of
workers, that too with a sizzling experience in the distribution and
screenplay, strike a chord production of films, Rakmangadhan
immediately in the minds of film – is presently the president of the Film
goers. K. town’s latest offering is and Television Producers Guild of
Andharangam which means intimacy South India as well as a committee
that deliberates on the life of an member in the South Indian Film
innocent young girl, who after having Chamber of Commerce. He has
been taken for a royal ride by her already produced and directed two
lover gets embroiled in the flesh films Aval and Avanum Avalum and
trade, owing to the force of the both were dubbed into Telugu, Hindi
circumstances. and Malayalam following their
Kamalika, who has acted in a successful run in Tamil. He is also
couple of Bengali and Hindi flicks, an importer of foreign films and has
plays the protagonist in this, who are also marketed them throughout the
really and literally dared to bare! country.
Reveals a source from the unit, He is making this movie in four
according to whom, the film features languages – Tamil, Telugu,
a couple of semi-nude scenes, in Initially Kamalika was a bit Malayalam and Hindi.
accordance with the demands of the reluctant to do the scene but once “Such themes have a global
script (!) the director explained the necessity appeal and language is no barrier,”
It is understood that the film’s of having such a scene in the film, says Rakmangadhan who struck gold
leading lady did a topless scene she agreed to do it and did it, with one such earlier venture titled
which was canned within the confines remarks the source. Ilamai Thudippugal. He is also
of a posh bungalow in the city, J. V. Rakmangadhan, a well- contemplating on taking this movie
obviously with a skeleton crew! known Tamil film-maker with about overseas with suitable sub-titles!

was getting wasted, so now it has

THE SCRIPT CALLS THE SHOTS! been decided to replace Vikram
Kumar with Bhoopathi Pandian who

wo incidents that took place recent buzz is that as now, Vikram rose to the occasion and came up
recently at Kollywood, clearly Kumar has been replaced by with a good story idea that was liked
proves this point. Film-maker Bhoopathi Pandian, who made by the team, the schedules are to
Vikram Kumar who stunned the Tamil successful films as Devadaiyai start soon.
audience with his sweeping success Kandein Thiruvilayadal Arambam In the second incident the parting
story Yaavarum Nalam was (both with Dhanush) and Malai Kottai of ways between director K. V. Anand
supposed to direct actor Vikram in a (with Vishal). When probed further it (who is credited with 2009’s biggest
project tentatively titled 24, the was learnt that apart from the one- hit Ayan) and actor Simbu, owing to
producer being Mohan Natarajan, line theme which Vikram Kumar creative difference between them
who is an actor too. With great narrated, he is yet to come up with a both regarding the script as well as
difficulty Ileana was roped in, but the proper script and Vikram’s call-sheet the choice of the heroine, has

104 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

created a big flutter in the looking forward to act with
Tamil industry. Tamannaah was
Going by some past disappointed (!) at that. Also,
precedent, Simbu has he was not in favour of
always exhibited a Karthika, despite the fact that
tendency to interfere in the the photo shoot had come up
work of the director, not well! Sources state that Nag
only with reference to the Chaitanya (Nagarjuna’s son)
manner in which the film had an influence on this
has to be made but also in decision of Simbu as his film
matter of casting. Josh in which Karthika played
Bowled over by Anand’s the female lead was a flop.
script for the project that Nag is doing Simbu’s role in
was tentatively titled Ko, the Telugu version of
Simbu had in fact given him Vinnaithaandi Varuvaaya.
bulk dates and the More so, Simbu had also
schedules were to reportedly suggested some
commence in Macau in changes in the script much to
China, the location where Harris her to big stardom!) but as she has the displeasure of Anand, who was
Jayaraj the composer, had gone to reportedly demanded a big salary, so sure of his script that he didn’t
create tunes. Initially Tamannaah she couldn’t be zeroed in and hence welcome it. Now, Jiiva has come in
was the choice to play the female Karthika, the daughter of yesteryear place of Simbu and the shooting is
lead (Tamannaah had acted in Ayan heroine was roped in. expected to start as scheduled in
along with Suriya, which catapulted Simbu, who was reportedly China on the scheduled dates!
been receiving encomiums from
TAKING THINGS IN STRIDE! several quarters for my serial Abirami
aired on Kalaignar TV,” she exclaims.

aving branched off from a “As a matter of fact, I used to get
branch of engineering degree, offers from the small screen even
to be paired opposite superstar when I was busy with the big screen.
Rajnikanth in S P Muthuramna’s But then time has come just now with
Guru Sishyan Gauthami has come factors like the producers of the serial
a long way. One interesting feature being Abirami Ramanathan (of the
that is quite obvious with respect to Abirami group of theatres) and the
her film career is that though she channel making it happen,” she
started it off with Rajnikanth, she elaborates.
soon turned an all-time favourite of What draws her to project – big or
Kamal Hassan after co-starring with source of support not only to Kamal small screen?
him in Aboorva Sahodarargal, Devar Hassan but also to his daughters. The script, my character, and the
Magan, Kurudipunal and Nammavar. Prod her about her best films and crew are the factors I consider before
Her special relationship with Kamal you would find them mostly to be I take up a project.
Hassan before and after, the Sarika Kamal films in which she co-starred When it comes to taking things in
era is only too well known. besides films as Rudra, Nee Pathi stride, Gauthami has always
But then, Gauthami’s inner mental Naan Paathi, Su Krutham remained firmly rooted to the ground.
strength has been truly phenomenal (Malayalam), etc. Recently, she has “I have gone through ups and downs
and not only has she been able to go made a foray into the small screen. and life keeps on changing, presently, I
ahead with her life despite When quizzed about the response, am on workouts regularly as I have
shortcomings on her health side but she gets excited. “It has been a realised what it is like to maintain
has also been able to stand out as a tremendous experience and I have fitness, she turns philosophical.

duets, taking the challenge of the

LEARNING TO LAUGH AT ONESELF! heroine and turning into a versatile
dancer overnight (courtesy a book

amil cinema has certainly come titled Learn dancing in one night!) the
of age – Tamizh Padam (which hero turning into a prince from being a
means a Tamil film) released pauper at the stroke of a finger, all at
recently is truly a trend – setting the instance of his lover’s dad and
movie that has dared to do something eventually becoming a undercover cop
which no film-maker has ventured so (after being suspended!) and standing
far! The film talks elaborately and in out as the commissioner at the
detail about the cliches that are penultimate reel... so on and so forth.
usually associated with the No hero of the contemporary
screenplay of Tamil films. Also, it times has been spared, including
takes a dig at the phenomenon and character artistes and scenes from
process of hero-worship that the their films have been ripped off and
Tamil tinsel town is famous for. recycled! Sources state that even the
Venkat Prabhu’s Goa too, to a legends – MGR and Sivaji were not
reasonable extent, could be spared but the seniors in the family of
categorised in the same genre, as it the makers advised the makers to
also takes a dig at some regular and remove those scenes! (The film has
oft-repeated cliches of Tamil cinema hero being projected as the sole been produced by Dayanidhi
that have been in existence since savior of the masses, the heroine Azhagiri, son of Azhagiri who is the
time immemorial. falling, head in heels in love with him son of Sri M. K. Karunanidhi, the
C. S. Amudhan, the ad man- by virtue of the fact that she was a C. M. of the state!)
turned-film-maker of Tamizh Padam major eyewitness of his noble act of But for this fact, the film would not
can certainly be credited for dishing championing the cause of the needy, have been ever released!
out a creditable screenplay that is the reel-life friends of the heroes, Yet, it is no doubt a daring attempt
nothing but a mirch masala of several who are college-students, whereas in by the first-time film-maker who has
other screenplays that run on real-life they belong to an age-group facilitated Tamil cinema to move on
predicable lines, right from the that would be well beyond that of to the next level. After all, Tamil film-
moment go. retired college professors! goers need to learn to laugh at
To quote a few anecdotes the Conversations suddenly breaking into themselves!

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are Malayalam, Tamil, Telugu and
A MESMERISING MUSICAL ALBUM Kannada apart from Hindi. The
melodies have been meticulously

usic is divine-whether it is universal appeal. Thirty eminent crafted to perfection without losing its
from the east or west. Music singers of India from different charm, feel and emotions in
has always been one form of languages have participated in this translation. Even while sticking to
art that transcends all geographical grand musical fiesta. regional styles, all the songs are
barriers. East Coast Audio As is always the East Coast way, marked by its amazing uniformity of
Entertainers, that is primarily based this mega-project has also offered a composition and rendition. The use
in Trivandrum, Kerala, has been platform to many young talents and of simple yet precise words with
associated with the music industry prodigies, to sing along with profound meanings and insight add
since long and has been responsible accomplished singers of repute. to the sublime effect. The theme
for the release of several soul-stirring Another distinctive feature which Ennennum is envisaged to transcend
albums that have simply stolen the sets these songs apart is its barriers created by regionalism to
hearts of millions! East Coast can wonderful adaptability as caller tunes. reaffirm the universality of music and
boast of a repertorie of songs and Vijayan East Coast, the refined love. The strong sublime and flexible
albums of a evergreen nature such and tasteful mind behind all the lyrics are so ingeniously coined that
as the romantic series. As a part of success stories of the audio they can adapt to any language. The
their series, they have presented the company, is the lyricist of all the five language project is the result of
first ever five languages romantic album mellifluous melodies. Ennennum, a the relentless pursuit of the East
“FOREVER”... Ennennum, Entrentrum, departure from the set of patterns is a Coast crew which has taken more
Endendhu, Ennadiki, Sadaa. multilingual collection of melodies than 15 months for completion.
The project, a fabulous collection tuned by the music director, Vijay No doubt, the five-language
of melodies, sung in five languages is Karun in which each song is sung in romantic album stands out as a
the first of its kind in India. It captures five different languages. The languages special gem as far as music lovers
you by its versatility, style and that feature in this pioneer venture are concerned! We
Got an infant? Take these precautions.

By Mita Banerjee
ight-month old Chandran floor, cut themselves on sharp around with the eyes of a curious
burnt the entire skin of his instruments or even on bric-a-brac baby. The next step would be to
palms when he reached out decorating a coffee table. A baby ‘baby-proof’ your home to guard
to touch a hot iron left on a learning to roll over, may just fall off against all these accidents just
low table by his mother. the bed. waiting to happen.
Apart from the pain, anguish Everything around us can become
and expensive medicines a potential hazard and the little one is
needed to treat him, he still unaware of the danger surrounding IN THE LIVING ROOM
bears the scars even three her or him. To see the world from ● Keep away all heavy bric-a-
years after the accident. their point of view, it is essential that brac, crystal and glass curios. A baby
Accidents involving little children, you get down on all fours and look may not only break them but cause
happen much more often than we cuts and injuries to himself or herself
think. We may consider our home to in the bargain.
be a safe haven. But to a little ● Cover all unused electrical
baby who is just learning to outlets with safety caps or tape.
crawl or walk, who is only 12 to ● Don’t leave electrical cords
24 inches above the floor, and from TVs and lamps hanging. Unplug
who is busy exploring new wherever possible. The baby might
activities every day, it can just give it a tug.
present a 101 accident traps. ● Position the TV or video in
They can fall into a bucket of such a way that baby cannot fiddle
water, splatter themselves with a with the back, which may cause
pan of hot food left at the edge of a electric shocks.
kitchen counter, get an electric ● It is better to remove small
shock when they poke their finger rugs as it may cause you to
into a plug point which is too near the trip while carrying a baby.
● Empty all ashtrays immediately reach up and pull them down.
and never keep burning cigarettes Very dangerous if it is full of hot
lying around. The baby might swallow stuff.
one. ● Keep all hot dishes out of
● Keep all alcoholic drinks safely the reach of the baby.
locked away. ● Keep all knives, forks,
spoons, matches and lighters
out of the reach of the baby.
IN THE BEDROOM ● Don’t allow your baby to
● Don’t keep cosmetics and ever fiddle with the knobs of
perfumes where your toddler can get the stove or oven.
to them. ● Make sure that no
● Remove all medicines from the electrical gadgets or their wires
baby’s reach. are within reach. Keep the
● Never keep coins or any small refrigerator locked or the baby
objects on low dressing tables. If might easily pull it open.
baby swallows anything, they might ● Keep away all
cause choking. Or the baby might detergents, pesticides, etc.
just stick into up his or her nose. ● Keep your dustbin out of
● Disconnect any electrical the reach of the baby.
appliances like hair dryers, shavers ● If anything spills on the
etc. floor, mop it up immediately.
● Never leave a hot iron where a
baby can reach it.
● Ensure that cupboard
doors can be opened from
the inside, in case the baby
gets stuck inside.
● If you have low drawers
ensure that there are no
small objects inside because
the baby can easily open the As far as possible, keep
drawer and fiddle inside. the bathroom door bolted
● Try to do away with a
from the outside, so that the
pillow for the baby, as it can baby cannot get in.
accidentally cause suffo - An immersion rod
cation. plugged into a bucket of
● Be careful while buying
water is a potential hazard
toys and keep a close watch with a baby around.
on them even later. Sharp Keep the lid of the toilet
edges, toxic paints, small seat down. There have been
buttons for eyes or stuffed cases when babies have
sawdust and foam can be leaned and toppled in or
harmful. have splashed and even
drunk that water.
Never keep buckets filled
IN THE KITCHEN with water, unguarded.
A kitchen with its fire, Never leave a baby
many electrical gadgets, and unguarded even for a
umpteen utensils like knives moment when bathing in a
and forks is a danger zone bathtub (to answer the
and one has to be especially doorbell or phone). Babies
careful here. have been known to drown
● Turn saucepan handles
in a few inches of water.
inwards or the baby might We
An absorbing
view of a

unpublicised city abalpur is a beautiful city in
rich in history, Madhya Pradesh, not much
known to many. Many a time
geography and it is confused with Jodhpur in
Rajasthan. Madhya Pradesh
tourist attractions in general is known to all as
the central part of India but
– right at the not many know about its
historical background and the
centre of the tourist spots worth visiting.
Geographically, being the centre of
country. India, tourists covering other places
can have a break-journey and
By Sheela complete their sightseeing and then
Ramakrishnan Mostly a high plateau, Madhya
Pradesh is India's largest state with
very dry and hot summers going up
to a maximum 48oC and cold winters

110 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

touching a low of 4 oC. It has the centuries, the region saw continuing Jabalpur, whether capital city or not,
highest percentage of forest in India, struggles between Hindu and Muslim has a fascinating rustic splendour
sheltering a wide variety of wildlife rulers or invaders. The fortified city and a number of interesting places
including 22 per cent of the world's of Mandu in the southwest was on a platter for you.
tiger population. Historically known frequently the scene for these battles, “A thing of beauty is a joy for
as Malwa, Madhya Pradesh still has but the Mughals finally overcame ever,” said John Keats – so is
many pre-Aryan Gond and Bhil Hindu resistance and controlled the Jabalpur. It is a place with many
Adivasis (tribals) but the state is region. The Mughals, however, met beautiful spots. It gives an out of this
predominantly Indo-Aryan. their doom at the hands of the world experience to tourists, making
The "Heart of India" is famed not Marathas, who in turn fell to the their visit memorable. Many are not
only because of its location in central British. aware of nature’s beauty in India and
India, but also because it portrays the In this central state of the country, spend lots to experience the same
cultural heritage of Hinduism, Jabalpur is exactly the central point abroad. Jabalpur in Madhya Pradesh
Buddhism, Jainism and Islam. of India through which the Tropic of is one such place, packed with
Innumerable monuments, exquisitely Cancer passes. Jabalpur is an nature’s beauty.
carved temples, stupas, forts and important historical and cultural city
palaces are found all over the state. It of Madhya Pradesh. Jabalpur was
is a land of beauty and variety with earlier known as Jabalipuram, Jauli
Bhopal as its capital. Pattala, Jubbulpore. It is 1348 feet
Although signs of habitation date above sea level.
back to some 12,000 years with the Jabalpur, the place crafted in
rock cave paintings at Bhimbetka marble, had been the cherished
near Bhopal, Madhya Pradesh's pleasure resort of the 12th century
history can be traced back to the 3rd Gond rulers. The British enamoured
century BC when the great Buddhist by the scenic beauty, developed it as
Emperor Ashoka controlled the a major cantonment during their rule
Mauryan Empire in Malwa. The over India. The
Mauryans were followed by the central location of
Sungas and then the Guptas before the city of Jabalpur
the Huns swept across the state. was once
Around a thousand years ago the instrumental in it
Paramaras ruled in southwest being considered
Madhya Pradesh. They are chiefly for the capital of the
remembered for Raja Bhoj, who gave Mughals. The place
his name to the city of Bhopal and surrounded by hills
also ruled over Indore and Mandu. grant an inherent
From 950 to 1050 AD, the Chandelas protection from
constructed the fantastic series of being run over by
temples at Khajuraho in the north of marauding armies.
the state. Between the 12th and 16th The city of

Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010 111

was a professor of philosophy at the
University of Jabalpur) and Maharishi
Mahesh Yogi.
Jabalpur is a city of natural
splendour. Its vast plateau is broken
up by the mighty Vindhya and
Satpura ranges and is streaked by
the meandering Narmada, Vanganga
and Hiran rivers, three of the more
prominent ones in this area. These
intersections of plateau, hills and the
rivers have provided spectacular
scenic splendour. Jabalpur is a town
for the pleasure seekers as well as
for those who are looking for solitude
and tranquillity. Jabalpur is packed
with many beautiful spots for outings
and picnics. Some of the prominent
ones are :

Tourists coming to Kanha National might of the great Moghul Emperor

Park and Bandhavgarh National Akbar. This was followed by the
Park, land up in Jabalpur by default. Maratha domination under the
People who proceed on a religious Bhonsles of Nagpur and later in the
pilgrimage to Allahabad and Varanasi British period, the notorious 'thugs'
can also break journey at Jabalpur to and the phenomenon of thugee
have a glimpse of nature’s beauty. and the brave Maj Ge. William
Here are some facts of the place to Henry. Sleeman who vanquished
arouse interest in people who are them. The city also played a
unaware of them. Jabalpur is a prominent role in the freedom
central district of Madhya Pradesh, movement of the country.
nestling in the valley between the (Jabalpur was occupied by the
Vindhyanchal, Satpura and Bhitrigarh British in December 1817 and in Bhedaghat: This is a small town
mountain ranges of central India. course of time, the military rule was and a Nagar Panchayat on the banks
This city is in the process of replaced by civilian officers.) of Narmada and is famous for its
seeking second-capital status of the Jabalpur, also named marble rocks. It is at a distance of
state. The state judiciary operates “Sanskardhani” by Acharya Vinoba about 20 kms from Jabalpur by road.
from this city. Its diversity, history, Bhave, is a land of saints, warriors, The river Narmada, passes through
divinity, wild life, art and architecture political leaders, playwrights, legal the marble rocks.
in combination render a rich and luminaries, educationists, sports One can also have a view of the
fascinating experience to the visitors. personalities and journalists who best spot by doing a mini-trek
One of the best parts about have contributed to the rich legacy of through a narrow but breathtaking
Jabalpur is its accessibility on cultural, educational, political and passage behind the Madhya Pradesh
account of its central location. social life of the state and the Tourism Development Corporation
Whether you are in Delhi, Mumbai, country. guesthouse. There is a rock
Chennai or Kolkata, you're never The city is steeped in divinity and formation that has the face of Shiva
very far. A step into the city takes you has been an eminent centre of and another a crocodile face. But the
several hundred years back, giving learning. Through the ages, there has real beauty is that of the marble rocks
you a sense of great past stories of been a mingling of diverse religions. glowing in multicolour on a full moon
empires and kingdoms, warriors, Vedic sages have blessed the soil, night.
builders, poets, musicians, saints and notably Rishi Jabali from whom the Soaring in glittering splendour, the
philosophers. The city resounds with city is supposed to have got its name. marble rocks at Bhedaghat rise to a
various memories of the city-state of Hindu, Jain, Buddhist and Muslim hundred feet on either side of the
Tripuri, Emperor Ashoka, the saints and their teachings have given Narmada. The serene loveliness of
Satavahanas, the Guptas, the a spiritual aura to the place. In more the scene is one of cool quiet, the
kalchuris, the Gonds, and the recent times, this city has been sunlight sparkling on the marble-
memory of the famous and valiant associated with the activities of the white pinnacles and casting dappled
queen Durgavati who took on the great Osho (Acharya Rajneesh who shadows on the placed waters.

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These white rocks with views of black The Poornima night which falls the river Narmada flowing through
and dark green volcanic seams, are after Dusserra is most sought after the jagged Marble Rocks. Chausat
truly majestic and produce a magical inviting huge crowd. Cultural Yogini is the oldest surviving temple
effect on moonlit nights. The rocks programmes titled Narmada Darshan in the group dating to 900 AD. It is
have recently been floodlit, adding ,are also organised during the season the sole granite temple dedicated to
new dimension to their beauty. giving the city a more festive look. the goddess Kali and the only one
Ropeways, made operational not aligned east to west. Chausath
recently, allow a person to have a Dhuandhar Falls : Dhuandhar, means 64 and the temple once had
glimpse of the beauty aerially. the Narmada making its way through 64 cells for figures of the 64 yoginis
Boating facilities are available the Marble Rocks, narrows down and who attended Kali.
between November and May. A then plunges in a waterfall known as This 10th-century temple has 64
boating trip during the day takes a Dhuandhar the smoke cascade. So exquisitely carved sixty four stone
person through the marble pinnacles powerful is the plunge that its roar is figures of deities belonging to the
on either side of the river in different heard from far away. The falls and Kalchuri period. Some of the idols
colours – pink, blue, black and white. the breaking of the volume of water belong to even the 2nd century.
Boating on a moonlit night, when the at the crest present an awesome Legend says that the Mughals
whole stretch of water is transformed spectacle of Nature's power demolished almost all the idols. In
into a sheet of liquid silver, is unleashed. On a bright sunny day, it almost all the idols, some amount of
absolutely magical. In the narrow is absolutely magical to see the demolition by way of a chopped limb
channel of the mighty river, there is a waterfall change into a rainbow. or defacement is obvious.
place approached so closely from the But for the main deity and few
opposite banks that the local people Rudrakunt: Very close to others in the garbha gruha, all other
have aptly named it the "monkey's Bhedaghat is Rudrakunt where it is deities are in a ravaged shape. The
leap”. (It is said that the gap between said that during Threthayugh, 125 main deity is a very rare sculpture
the marble pinnacles was earlier so lakh Shiv lingas were dropped into where Shiva is seen seated with
narrow that monkeys used to jump the river Narmada. It is believed that Parvathi. There is a naga nagin idol
from one cliff to the other.) any stone picked within one km in the garbha gruha that once was
radius will be a linga so dropped said to be itchadhari naga nagins
during that period. (meaning – they can change to
whatever form they wish – even
Chausat Yogini Temple : human form). The local priests say
Situated atop a hillock and that even today, the naga nagins
approached by a long flight of steps, either come together or alone to offer
the Chausat Yogini Temple prayers to Shiva and Parvathi on
commands a singularly beautiful view specific days. According to a local
of the whole area around and also of legend, this ancient temple is
connected to the Gond queen
Durgavati's palace through an
underground passage.

Bargi Dam: It is a multipurpose

project on the river Narmada and
also a tourist spot. Recently the local
authorities have started a cruise boat
which runs on the reservoir of the

Madan Mahal Fort: This fort was

built in the 11th century by the Gond
king Raja Madan Shah, and hence
the name. The fort dominates the
skyline and provides a panoramic
view of the city and area around it.
The famous balancing rock, a natural
geological wonder, is located slightly
off the path that leads to this palace.
Today, it is a ramshackle structure
with crumbling walls.

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Rani Durgavati Museum : having successfully imple- of the park. The saddest
Dedicated to the memory of the great mented the “Project Tiger”, Kanha Kisli part is that not much
Gond queen Durgavati, who is as tiger conservation publicity is given to this park
revered by the people of Jabalpur for programme in India.
National and no effort is being made
her valour and sacrifice, this is one of The park is also the Park has the to care for and preserving
the more famous museums of birthplace of the Jungle this amazing treasure chest
Madhya Pradesh. A vast collection of Book by Rudyard Kipling. distinction of from our past.
sculptures, inscriptions and other Jabalpur also has Everyone travelling from
artefacts of great historical and 'Bandhavgarh' and Pench
having Bandhavgarh to Kanha
cultural importance are preserved in national reserve forests successfully should take this route. It
this museum. It has section very close by, and well might not be as comfortable
dedicated to artefacts and photos connected by road. implemented a journey as the other
related to Mahatma Gandhi also. alternatives but just seeing
Fossil Park: The fossil
the “Project this park more than makes
Bandhavgarh Fort: This fort is park, less than two hours Tiger”. up for it. It is a place worth
believed to be nearly 2000 years old. drive from Jabalpur is experiencing and also
It lies right in the middle of the ranked second in the world with a worth trying to get someone to
wilderness on the highest point of huge collection of trees, leaf protect.
Bandhavgarh Hill. There are impressions and seeds turned into Jabalpur has an airstrip called
references of this fort in the ancient stones. A visit to this park gives a Dumna Airport capable of landing
books, the Narad Panch-Ratna and different experience to visitors from most of the aircraft. The city is also
the Shiva Puran. their usual visits to wildlife reserves. well connected by road and needless
It is close to the Bandhavgarh to mention that train routes are in
Kanha Kisli National Park: National Park. The entire park could plenty.
Jabalpur is the nearest big city to the be covered on foot in about an hour’s Are these glimpses not arousing
Kanha Kisli national park which is time. an interest in you? So, pack up and
one of the biggest national parks in Fascinating fossils strewn all over start off on your trip to enjoy nature at
India and has the distinction of the place speaks about the richness Jabalpur. We
I am one-and-a-half months pregnant women report that the swelling
and have developed breast soreness. subsides after a good night's rest, or
Is this normal and what should I do after several hours lying down.
about it? There are a couple of things you
Many women experience breast can do to help relieve the symptoms.
tenderness during the first three The first is to drink a lot of water.
months of pregnancy. This usually Though it doesn't seem to make
goes away during the second trime- sense to get rid of fluids by taking in
ster. Till then a properly fitting bra more, the extra fluids will help flush
with good support will help relieve the out your system of waste products,
soreness. which may have increased the
swelling. You need at least eight
When should a glasses of water a day. Regarding
pregnant woman salt intake, people believe that the
visit a doctor? swelling is caused by excessive
As soon as she amounts of salt in the diet though
misses her periods the opposite is also true. Limiting the
and pregnancy is amount of salt you take in can cause
confirmed by a swelling as well. As with all things,
home pregnancy kit. moderation is the key to balance.
Thereafter according The commonest cause of swelling is
to WHO (World the weight of the enlarging uterus
Health Organization) a woman on the blood vessels.
should visit her doctor every month Basic tips to help reduce swelling
for the first seven months, fortnightly are:
between the 7th and 8th months and ● Avoid wearing elastic topped
every week in the last month. socks
● Wear comfortable shoes. Slip-
I am in the 7th month of my first ons work best.
pregnancy. Recently I noticed that ● Put your feet up when possible.
my feet have begun to swell. There is ● If you stand at work, try to
no pain or discomfort. Is this a cause move around slightly or get a stool to
for concern? Please advise. prop a foot up on.
Swelling, or oedema, is common ● Try support stockings
in pregnancy. 75 per cent of women You have reason to worry if the
will experience accumulation of fluid swelling does not subside after a
around the legs and ankles at some rest, if it is sudden or extreme, or has
point during pregnancy. It is extended from the legs and feet to
aggravated by warm weather, the face and hands. Report to your
standing for a while, or at the end of doctor immediately, for you are at risk
your day. In general the swelling is for a complication - PIH (pregnancy
nothing to be alarmed about. Most induced hypertension).

I smoked till I was three who smoke is as bad, for the

months pregnant as I did nicotine is passed on to the baby
not know that I was as carbon monoxide. The risks of
pregnant. Now, I have tried smoking to the baby include
stopping but when I don’t stillbirths, pre maturity, low birth
smoke I become very weight, asthma and sudden infant
irritable and moody which death syndrome. Ideally you should
makes things unpleasant at give up the habit before you get
home. I take a few drugs pregnant but if that has not
now and then but do not occurred, do so now, no matter how
smoke as I used to. Will irritable or moody you have
this affect my baby? become. Take professional help if
Not only is smoking harmful to needed to do so.
your baby, but being around people – Dr A. K. Bajaj, MD.

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SEX PROBLEMS The cause of impotence
is in the body and not the mind.
By Rajendra Kumar Rai

satisfying sex life is the responsible for this unfortunate state “Despite this staggering incidence,
foundation of overall well- of affairs. few cases come to light as ignorant
being of a healthy One, ignorance, superstition, guilt and shy patients tend to consult a
individual. But unlike the and taboo attached to anything quack than a specialist on issues
West, our social set-up sexual in the minds of the people. related to sex,” said Dr Ashok Gupta
does not allow us to openly Two, quacks who serve as the first of Ashok Clinic in Delhi.
debate issues related to point of contact for abysmally ill- “A man’s ego often does not
lovemaking – an art and informed patients who end up permit him to admit that there is
way of style mastered by endangering their lives by falling in something wrong with his manhood.
our ancestors who created their trap. This is unfortunate because most
the centuries-old Kamasutra. Self-styled “sexologists” or quacks cases of impotence are curable as
Myths and stigma have made all tend to thrive on a patient’s ignorance long as they land before a trained
discussions on sex a taboo. Though and compulsion to maintain secrecy and qualified medical practitioner,”
the picture is changing fast in some about his problems like erectile said Dr Gupta, who has personally
urban areas, in large chunks of the dysfunction (ED). helped thousands of patients over the
country sexual ignorance and lack of Impotence or erectile dysfunction last few decades.
knowledge continues to force millions (ED), as andrologists prefer to call it, Talking about myths and
of Indians – both men and women – has always been and continues to ignorance surrounding sex and
into unhappy sex life. remain an extremely common problems related to performance in
Even today, sexual impotence is disorder. It is said to afflict as much bed, the founder of Ashok Clinic said
perhaps the most poorly understood as 10 per cent of the male andrological research over the past
and mismanaged condition among population. Above the age of 40, few years have conclusively
men as compared to other medical nearly 52 per cent of men are established that physical exercise
disorders. Two factors are affected. and aerobics can improve sexual

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prowess of men and can tackle minor survey conducted by IMA showed block in the artery to the penis. The
irritants in enjoying a happy married that the number of quacks in our injury can be major and sudden as
life. However, quacks are the last country exceeds the number of after a vehicular accident causing a
persons to share this information or doctors. Even if one quack causes fracture of the pelvis or pubic bones.
guide patients properly. the death of one patient in one year “In many cases, an old injury or a
An ignorant and shy man who due to wrong diagnosis and childhood accident turns out to be a
seeks remedy for his disturbed sex treatment, nearly 95,000 silent reason for ED later in life,” says Dr
life from a quack is made to believe murders take place across the Rahul Gupta.
that impotence is something that is country,” said an AMC office bearer. For those in whose case
largely psychological in origin. Where Sex therapist Rahul Gupta said impotency is linked to the mind and
as in 80 to 90 per cent of chronic although erectile dysfunction not the body, counselling and sex
impotence cases, the cause is not in (impotence) can afflict anyone from therapy are very effective. Minor
the mind but the body, said Dr 13 to 90 years old and is associated sexual problems, especially when
Chandra Bhushan, a homoeopath. with a wide variety of clinical these are caused by sexual
“Perhaps, it is due to the conditions and disease states – ignorance and psychological factors,
abundance of quacks that consulting including diabetes, hypertension, need a trained counsellor more than
them appears to be the easiest, heart disease, renal failure, a quack, he said.
fastest and the most confidential neurological disorders, sudden and Policy makers are also concerned
option available to most men slow injuries and medication – the about fake sexologists’ popularity
suffering from sex-related problems,” basic mechanisms causing despite government hospitals
he said. impotence are only a few. providing much better service. Mr R
A major cause of ED among S Shukla, in his capacity as Special
young adults and college going- Secretary of West Bengal health
QUACKS AROUND students are injuries which cause a department, had once observed
According to a study conducted by “People are not turning up at
Association of Medical Consultants POLICY MAKERS government clinics in expected
(AMC) in 1998, there are around 1.5
million quacks in India, with Mumbai
ARE ALSO numbers. The vast majority of people
suffering from sexual maladies go to
having as many as 10,000. Over the CONCERNED private doctors, faith healers, quacks
last decade, this figure has crossed ABOUT FAKE or under-qualified practitioners.”
2.5 million mark and it would not be SEXOLOGISTS’ Planners have all along felt a
wrong to say that almost 80 per cent
of these are in the business of selling POPULARITY strong need for gathering more
information about the patients who
wonder drugs for sex-related DESPITE visit such fake and semi-qualified
problems. GOVERNMENT sexologists. West Bengal was among
Interestingly, reports said at that
time there were 95,000 quacks in
HOSPITALS the first few states in the country
which have been trying since 2007
Maharashtra as against 90,000 PROVIDING MUCH to map the patients who visit quacks
registered doctors in the state. “A BETTER SERVICE. and use the data for spreading
awareness on STD and HIV.
The problem is there for everyone
to see but, perhaps, government
machinery is somewhat helpless in
weeding out fake sexologists who are
a creation of the demand for their
But the clock is ticking fast for the
officials to come up with solutions -
like increasing the proliferation of
government clinics – to counter the
huge threat posed by imposters and
quacks who pose a threat to millions
of people looking for cures for sex-
related problems. Like condoms and
HIV messages, ED could also be
brought to the forefront of public
campaigns to remove the stigma
around discussing this issue. We

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If you are infertile,
remember there is a
vast range of
treatment options.
By Dr Amrinder Bajaj

ext to the instinct for into primary and secondary. Couples genitalias comprises two ovaries that
survival, the urge to with primary infertility have never are responsible for the production of
procreate is strongest in all been able to conceive while, those female hormones and eggs (ova).
living beings. Though most with secondary infertility have There is a uterus in a pyriform
people fulfil this desire to difficulty in conceiving after already structure of about 3” x 2” x 1” with a
reproduce and raise having conceived before, irrespective fallopian tube attached on either side.
offspring there are an of whether the previous pregnancy The vagina connects the uterus with
unfortunate few that are had ended in a delivery or a the external genitalia. The vagina is
unable to do so. Such miscarriage. the organ for intercourse, the
couples suffer from great Some people with conditions like receptacle for semen, and forms the
emotional stress, more so because endometrisis, polycystic ovarian birth canal during delivery.
of the social stigma attached to disease are subfertile which means A single egg is released during
infertility. It is important not to lose that they have lower chances of each menstrual cycle usually around
heart, for rapid progress had been conceiving than an average couple. the 14th day before the next period is
made in this branch of science, and due – this works out to be midcycle in
medical aid is available to most of Prevalence: About 15 per cent of women with a normal, 28-day cycle.
infertile couples. all married couples are infertile. Of One must remember to count the first
these about a third are due to female day of the period as day one. The
causes, another third due to male egg is picked up by the fingerlike
DEFINITION causes and in the remaining third processes at the loose end of each
● The couple has not conceived both partners have problems that tube called fimbria and is transported
after 12 months of contraceptive-free make them incapable of having a towards the uterus. If intercourse
regular intercourse if the female is child. Due to various reasons like occurs during this fertile period the
under the age of 34. increasing age of marriage, planned sperms swim up and fertilise the
● The couple has not conceived delay in conception, and ovum in the proximal part of the tube.
after six months of contraceptive-free environmental factors, the number of The fertilised egg is transferred to the
intercourse if the female is over the infertile couples have been uterus where it gets attached to the
age of 35 (declining egg quality of increasing worldwide. uterine wall and remains lodged there
females over the age of 35 account for the nine months of pregnancy.
for the age-based discrepancy). Conception: To understand the
● The female is incapable of causes of infertility it is important to Causes: Infertility may be due to a
carrying a pregnancy to term. understand the process of single cause in either the woman or
Infertility can be further divided conception. The internal female her partner, or a combination of

118 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010


factors that may prevent a pregnancy Other factors contributing to infertility. Lifestyle pattern is taken
from occurring or continuing till term. infertility are: into account since the intake of
Common causes are: ● Advanced maternal age – fertility alcohol, smoking, lack of exercise
● Ovulation problems declines sharply after 35 years of age can affect fertility. Men working in
● Tubal blockage due to decreased quality of eggs high temperatures expose their
● Male-associated infertility ● Weight – over or underweight testicles to heat that can affect
● Hormonal imbalance ● Genital infections fertility. A thorough general physical
● Uterine problems ● Endometriosis examination is followed by a battery
● Previous sterilisation operation ● Environmental toxin-like of tests. Basic investigations include
on the male/female pesticides sperm count, ultrasound, ovulation
● Tuberculosis (TB) of the genital ● Genetic causes studies and testing for tubal patency.
tract – a common cause in India Treatment depends upon the
● Anatomical defects in either Unexplained infertility: In about diagnosis.
partner 15 per cent of cases the infertility
● Medical conditions like thyroid investigation will show no Treatment: If tests do not reveal
disease, diabetes. abnormalities. In these cases abnormalities the couple is asked to
Therefore, it is seen that for a abnormalities are likely to be present make lifestyle changes. Abstinence
woman to conceive, intercourse must but are not detected by current from alcohol, smoking, drug abuse
take place around the time when an available methods. and maintenance of optimal weight
egg is released from her ovary. There for height is required. Those with
should be adequate amounts of Assessment: Once a couple diabetes or thyroid diseases need to
healthy sperms, her tubes must be visits a hospital for infertility a have these issues addressed before
patent, her uterus prepared to detailed general, medical sexual contemplating pregnancy. Hyperpro-
receive the fertilised egg and her history is taken. Obstetric history is lac tinemia is a condition in which
hormones must be balanced. of import in women with secondary there are secretions from breasts
without the presence of a
pregnancy/ delivery. This is due to
Fertilized ovum
Fertilized ovum (5 days) raised levels of a pituitary hormone
(4 days)
called prolactin which interferes with
conception and can be normalised
with drugs. Tuberculosis of the
genital tract if present, need to be
treated with long-term antitubercular
drugs before conception is
Ovulation implanting fertilized Low sperm counts and motility in
ovum (6 days) males can be improved with drugs.
Males with varicocele, hernia,
hydrocele, phimosis, undescend
Endometrium testes, blocked vas (the tube that
carries the sperms from the testes to
the penis) need to have surgical

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treatment to improve their fertility. The ultimate diagnostic tool in the Laparoscopy views the inside of
Sometimes antibodies are produced armoury of an infertility specialist is the abdominal cavity and is a useful
against sperms which may hamper laparoscopy/hysteroscopy. This is a tool in infertility. Adhesions can be
conception. This issue needs to be minimally invasive procedure done broken, ovarian cysts removed and
addressed. under general anaesthesia that can, blocked tubes recanalised.
Couples with sexual dysfunction in the same sitting, diagnose and Endometriosis is a condition wherein
need counselling. Those with a treat conditions that interfere with the endometrium (the internal lining
healthy sex life are taught to time fertility. The inside of the uterus is of the uterus) is disseminated inside
intercourse according to ovulation. viewed with the help of a the abdomen where it bleeds during
Those with ovulation failure are given hysteroscope. Adhesion if present menstruation leading to adhesions,
ovarian stimulation medication. can be broken; polyps and fibroids chocolate cysts of the ovaries and
Patients with polycystic disease may removed; tissue samples can be subfertility. These too can be treated
not respond to the usual oral drugs taken for histopathology and for the by laporoscopic cauterisation of the
for ovulation induction and need diagnosis of genital tuberculosis. endometriotic tissue and removal of
injectable hormones that could have Falloposcopy views the inside of the the chocolate cysts.
side effects. If tubes are blocked they fallopian tubes from the uterine end If the above treatment modalities
can be opened up surgically or and can open up proximal fail there are artificial reproductive
bypassed altogether by resorting to obstruction. techniques (ART) like in vitro
in vitro fertilisation (IVF). fertilisation (IVF) and embryo transfer
Other methods to enhance (ET) that can help a majority of
conception rates include IUI – infertile couples. For the remaining
intrauterine insemination wherein the unfortunate few there is always the
good quality sperms are segregated option of an adoption.
in the laboratory, collected in a Though infertile couples are under
syringe and inserted directly inside immense emotional stress and social
the uterus with the help of a fine pressure they need not lose heart.
plastic tube. This is usually done for There is a vast array of treatment
low sperm count, unexplained options that can help them have their
infertility or a hostile cervix with thick heart’s desire. All they need is
mucous that decreases sperm perseverance and a positive
penetrability. approach to life. We

offered me to take to school in his car. usually afraid, had such a caring
Our school had a very big area, heart. Her affectionate behaviour left
surrounded by a long boundary wall an unforgettable impact on my mind.
and the building was far from the main – M.P.S. Chadha, Chandigarh.
gate, in between being katcha grounds.
For upgrading the ground, a lot of soil,
etc. was being unloaded by trucks,
hence heaps of soil was scattered
everywhere, restricting the car from Every one of us has,
An affectionate disciplinarian sometime or other in
going inside up to the building. one’s life, received help,
The incident relates to the days The classes had already begun guidance, sympathy, understanding
when I was studying in primary when our car stopped near the main and love from some fellow human
school. While a student of Class-II, gate. My class teacher, a strict being. Can you recall any such event
the doctor advised my parents to get disciplinarian lady of around 35, or occasion in your life, when you
received such consideration and for
me operated upon for tonsolitis. The perhaps seeing us from the window of which you are grateful? Each
operation took place successfully and the classroom, came up quickly and published anecdote will be awarded a
I had to abstain from school for few reached us in no time, had a few words prize of Rs 200. Send your
days. My uncle and family, residing with my uncle asking about my contribution to:
in Jalandhar, had visited and stayed operation and well-being. With smiling GRATEFULLY YOURS
with us for help during my hospital face and kissing me on cheeks, she
days and his having a car, a rare picked me up from the car seat and E-3 Jhandewala Estate, New Delhi-110055.
prestigious facility in those days, was took me up to my class, walking
really helpful. through the long stretch of rough Name:
The day I rejoined school post- ground. I wondered how the always- Mobile:
operation, I was thrilled when uncle strict disciplinarian, whom we were E-mail:

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Tips for whitening your skin. By Shailja Mehta
hreya avoids birthday embarrassing problem for me,” says Asians are fonder to get a whiter skin
bashes, college gatherings Shama. I spent countless hours and and do lots of things to get the skin
and for that matter any a good fortune putting myself through whiter and lighter than the natural
social event. She does not torturous hair removal techniques, shade.
want to go in the crowd with only to watch the hair reappear. This The facial bleach packs available
her blemishes. She suffered was frustrating. at chemist shops consist of a cream
acute acne problem as a Whether your issue like mine was and powder. The cream and powder
teenager. Her acne left a few random chin hairs, widespread should be mixed using a plastic
behind small brown spots on body hair or a female “mustache,” it spatula provided. The mixture is then
her face and she hates them was important to hide those excess applied on the hair for ten to fifteen
the most. She wants a beauty hairs. Since most hair removal minutes according to the manu -
product that will hide her blemishes methods are temporary and painful, I facturer’s instruction. The mixture is
by making them lighter. She wants to choose to make my body and facial then washed away. Along with the
feel comfortable among others. She hair less noticeable by bleaching it. hair, the skin will also become lighter.
too desires a good complexioned Everybody in the world is fond of The skin will revert to the original
skin. Will good skin bleach rescue white skin and is ready to do anything colour within a few days. As new dark
her? to get the skin whiter. Even fairer skin hair grows in one or two weeks, it
“Excess or unwanted hair growth people put their best efforts to keep may again need to be bleached.
was irritating and downright their skin tone whiter. Especially The effectiveness of bleaching

122 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

varies from person to person. If a Temaalpatra, Padmakastha, Kamal,
person has coarse hair, the bleached Kosth Kolinjan, Halad, Laakh and
hair will still be noticeable, but it may Daruhalad, which make Kumkumadi
not be obvious for a person with fine Thilam, many ancient Ayurvedic
facial hair. Persons with sensitive formulation for fairness.
skin may experience a burning Natural and Safe, Herbal
sensation and may wash away the Bleaches are a blend of nature's
bleach after a very short time. best. This makes it perfectly safe for
Bleaching helps the skin to remove all skin types, especially sensitive
scars, reduce sun tan and pigmen- skin. Primarily, you need to
tation and clears the skin to make it remember that with fairer skin comes
look lighter in shade. But it should be less resistance to the sun. The sun’s
done carefully as if the ingredients rays are the primary cause of skin
have not mixed in proper proportion damage for all of us and a good
or you put it more than the applicable herbal sunscreen and wearing a hat
time, it might burn your skin. Beauty whenever you are outside, even on
is truth and truth is beauty. Looking overcast day will go a long way in
good and feeling great is the preserving your skin.
enduring ambition worldwide. Once or twice a week, you can
use an oatmeal scrub to remove the
dead skin cells and stimulate the
MANY WAYS skin’s circulation. Over time, the effort
There are many ways to whiten will pay off with a balanced skin tone
the skin. There are plenty of bleaches and healthier clearer skin.
available for skin whitening, which Internally, Vitamin C, Vitamin E
are meant not only for those who and a quality B complex will help to
have darker complexion but also reduce the environmental effects on
even for those who gets darker your skin.
complexion because of sun tan, age Remember that your skin reflects
or pollution. What is important is to your inner health, and a diet that is
choose the right one for your skin. high in fibre, such as brown rice,
Why use chemical to bleach your wholegrain breads and pastas, lean
skin when you can use the power of proteins such as chicken and deep-
herbs to bleach naturally? market now make you naturally fair sea fish, leafy green vege tables,
These days' herbal bleaches are with herbs like keshar, Chandan, including salads and steamed
available in the market for sensitive Lodhra, Patang, Raktachandan, vegetables and fresh fruit will help
skin, so people who have sensitive Agru,Walaa, Manjistha, Jesthmadh, your skin look its best. We
skin should choose them.
A herbal face bleach not only
bleaches the skin but also nourishes LIME AND LEMONY
it with the goodness of nature’s Lemon is a very versatile fruit full is still warm. Stir well and bottle it.
wonders like Haldi (turmeric), of vitamin C. Tasty by itself, it also Wash your face with warm water
Chandan, Nimbu (Lemon) and Aloe enhances the taste of food and in which a few drops of lemon juice
Vera. While Haldi (Turmeric) protects drinks it is added to. So use plenty of are added. Dry up and use lemon-
the skin from inflammation and works lemons in your daily diet. based face masks, which are easy
as an antioxidant, Nimbu (Lemon) You can make lemon-based to make at home.
acts as an effective antiseptic. health drinks. Mix one teaspoon of lemon juice
Aloe Vera adds life to the skin and Squeeze a lemon, add a tsp of with one tsp of milk cream and apply
Chandan (Sandalwood) soothes and honey to a glass of warm water and on your face. It helps to reduce
adds glow to it. drink it first thing in the morning. It pimples, blackheads or other
Herbal bleach is a good option. keeps you fresh and healthy and blemishes.
One can learn applying bleach in a keeps your weight in check. One tsp of lime juice mixed with
right way on the face and body from Use lemons as refreshing face honey leaves your skin glowing
a professional beautician and then masks. brightly.
can do it oneself. There are many Make lemon squash – mix two One tsp of lime juice, one tsp of
herbal preparations that are available cups of sugar in a cup of water and rose water and one tsp of papaya pulp
to balance your skin tone. The herbal boil it to 1/3 consistency syrup. Add makes your skin soft and smooth.
facial bleach now available in the one cup of lemon juice while the water – Urmilla Ramrakhiani, Pune.

Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010 123

The Relationship
It was an exciting new job that took Shelby

to a devastating revelation. By Barnali Saha
helby Watson was a paragon of virtuous magic page for her reading all the problems on
human relationships. She lived a classic life in earth and comparing them to her life – devoid of
her quintessential New York home with her marital clashes, money woes, unhappy in-laws. It
quintessential husband, Robert, a well-known was a measure-your-happiness page for her which
Wall Street figure, in perfect bliss. Life was inevitably lifted her spirits. You know, a great many
devoid of pain and she was more than happy people on earth can seldom say, “We are happy
to the extent that she would cry while watching with our lives” but Shelby knew how to count her
the daily soaps on television. She had been married happy stars. She was not one of the morose New
for three years now and, as expected, she was now York women who had everything and still felt like a
thinking of getting a job. fiasco. After careful consideration Shelby decided to
"I need a job, Robert," Shelby said one night over go for the interview.
dinner. Robert, who was munching on a "Robert, you are perfect. It is just that I
perfect steak, looked up from his plate. He love this idea of being a relationship
sipped a little red wine and put the fork "Why, adviser. I am going for the interview
down. Shelby was waiting for his honey?" he tomorrow," Shelby said.
response. said, looking Robert smiled at her and raised his glass
"Why, honey?" he said, looking quite to toast his wife's decision. "I wish you all
surprised. "Aren't you happy at home? Do
quite the luck, honey, and I hope you get the job.
you want me to spend more time with surprised. Are you nervous?" he asked.
you?" "Aren't you "No, not that," said Shelby as she did
Quite frankly, Shelby herself found no happy at the dishes."You see, I have nothing to lose
reason for getting out of her fabulous glass home? Do if I don’t get the job. Since I am not a
house; she thought she would miss looking you want careerist, it really doesn’t matter."
out of the big window of the living room at me to spend Robert rose from his chair and walked to
the busy Manhattan street filled with more time his wife in the kitchen and put his hand
people, most of them carrying glossy bags around her slender waist and kissed her. At
full of designer stuff. She would miss
with you?" that moment of passion, Shelby felt her
listening to the radio murmur, see the whole being melting like ice and she heard
beautiful sunset, Martha Stewart and Food networks. herself saying, " l love you."
But life to Shelby meant a little more than being a

home-maker. She felt an innate urge that told her he next morning, as Shelby put on her Louis
that it was time for her to get a job and fortunately, Vuitton navy-blue pencil skirt and white blouse
she had already found the dream job that had to be from Christian Dior, she was filled with
hers. confidence. She looked at herself in the mirror and
While lazily turning the pages of Her, Shelby's complimented her features. She had put on minimal
eyes fell on a hiring ad. Her had been Shelby's make-up and accented her dark brown eyes with a
favourite magazine for ages, partly because of the coat of lush black mascara. Her face had a healthy
fabulous coupons and the line of events in the city glow from the tinted moisturiser and the little sweep
that they wrote about in great detail and partly of the blush that made her cheek bones prominent. "I
because of their Personal Woes column and the can do this," she said to herself, then took a deep
unique solutions to the problems they provided. breath and left the apartment.
Shelby read those solutions intently. It was like a The office of the Her magazine in the Twentieth

124 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

Street was buzzing with morning activity. A group of job interview. Laura had liked her tone – calm and
smart young men and women in designer skirts and composed and the fact that she had a degree in
pin-striped suits was working in their cubicles. Her clinical psychology made her a positive candidate.
was a comparatively young magazine that was "Hello, Shelby," Laura said.
started by a New York fashionist, Laura Warren, Shelby replied with a smile as she looked at Laura
who had learnt the definition of prada from her Warren sitting behind the chic table with a flawless
career as a model, which she later gave up after her glass top and fancy wrought-iron legs. Laura
marriage to Tim Smith, a famous billionaire from Warren was simple. Unlike the models that Shelby
London, and then she started her own fashion saw on the covers of the various magazines, Laura
magazine. Her was an instant success among young had a round face and her cheeks were definitely
women aged between 15 and 30 but then, it began chubby, while her hair was cut in layers and fell
including such features as political discussions and loosely on her shoulder. Shelby noticed her fabulous
health to broaden the spectrum of the magazine. Giorgio Armani black striped jacket and her Cartier
watch, glistening in the morning sun. The room was

hey now owned two floors of a building in spacious and airy and Shelby sat comfortably in the
Twentieth Street and were doing pretty well. Of black leather chair and smiled again.
late, they had been looking for a new face to "Well, Shelby," Laura said, "how are you doing
work with them. Becky Snider, who worked as the today?"
relationship adviser in the magazine's Personal "Pretty good, thanks," she replied.
Woes section, had met with an accident and would "I read your resume early this morning and I must
be bedridden for quite some time. Becky didn’t like say I am impressed by your previous experience as
her job and wanted to work in a more scholastic a clinical psychologist," Laura said with a grin.
magazine, thus Her was now looking for a fresh, Shelby felt a burst of confidence inside and she
young face to guide the mortal millions. They had knew there was hope for her.
interviewed a number of women for the job but "So tell me, Shelby," Laura asked as she took out
Laura Warren wasn’t satisfied; she was looking for a Shelby's resume from a file and looked at it. "have
confident woman just like she was, someone who you ever tried a new way of doing things? Did you
was mature and sincere. succeed? And why do you think you are suitable for
Most of the women she had interviewed were this job?”
young college girls or up-and-coming models who

had no idea about real life. One of them had acute helby thought for a minute before saying, "In
OCD and was on medication. On Monday morning my previous job as a clinical psychologist intern
Laura was to meet Shelby Watson, a woman who at St Peter’s Hospital, New Jersey, I
had phoned her on Friday about the details of the encountered a gamut of challenging situations where
I had to think out of the box and combine my
theoretical knowledge with my sagacity and find out
solutions. My job involved dealing with patients who
were on medication due to psychological
problems. I had to be careful in
dealing with them. Since each case
was unique in itself I had to talk
to my patients and, fortunately,
in most cases, my therapy
helped them cater to their
personal development. I
guess my previous
knowledge will help me in
this job as this job
involves dealing with
personal problems and
finding solutions to them."
"Then why did you
give up your job, keeping
in mind that you did so
well?" Laura asked.
"I wanted to get
married and have a family. After my college, I she always compared the happiness in her life with
realised that I wanted a family life more than the unfortunate one.
anything else, thus, I intended to become a home- One night Shelby was working from home when
maker." she got an e-mail. It was pretty late, around 12.30,
"Then, why are you applying for a job now?" and she was about to shut her laptop when the
asked Laura. 'New Message' icon popped up. Unwillingly, she
"Because I think I am suitable for this job. I like opened the page and found an e-mail from one
talking with people and I love reading your Paula Sexton. It was an interesting mail – the woman
magazine and, more than anything else, I now want was thinking of having an extramarital affair with a
to have a new career," replied Shelby. "happily married man" who had lately been
"Well then," Laura said with a smile and rose to showing her enough interest to make her feel
offer her hand in a handshake. "The job is all yours. wanted in a special way. She knew it was unethical
Congratulations, Mrs Watson, you are now part of on her part but she couldn’t forget the man.
our magazine and I wish you all the best. You will

begin your work from next Monday.” helby wanted to laugh but decided to write a
Laura took Shelby to the office and introduced her serious note to solve her dilemma. She looked
to the staff, which included Janice, the co-editor, at Robert, he was fast asleep. Shelby detested
Sheila, the photographer, and the other staff. the e-mail and the way the woman put her questions,
Everyone applauded and Shelby was happy to see but she wanted to write a good answer. Maybe the
her future as a relationship adviser to the Her woman was not happy with her husband, maybe the
magazine. husband wasn’t good in bed, or maybe he was an
Shelby began her journey with the magazine on unfeeling rogue who didn’t give her enough time or
the following Monday morning. Everybody in office attention. If that was the case, then definitely the
congratulated her on her first day and Shelby woman needed a break-up with her husband and go
Watson was confident and cool. She was for the new man, but then, what would
given a line of printed letters and e-mails happen to the wife of the man? She was
and each declared in bold one problem or Shelby innocent. Shelby thought over the issue
another which she had to answer. She felt wanted to and finally decided to help Paula. She
a tad nervousness in her gut as she looked laugh but wrote a note where she asked Paula
at the first e-mail but then she realised that it decided to several questions about her marital life and
was not rocket science and, besides, she write a her job, and why she was interested in
had the brains to debate her own ideas so serious note another man.
she could definitely find out healthy The reply came the following evening
solutions to all private anguishes.
to solve her and Shelby was amazed at what she saw.
dilemma. Paula was evidently a successful

n a month Shelby was a well-recognised She looked businesswoman with a happy family and
figure in the Her magazine. The readers' at Robert, her husband had no idea about her
eyes loved Shelby's solutions and he was fast whereabouts. She had met the new man at
debating techniques; the magazine now asleep. a business meeting and was drawn by his
saw a deluge of e-mails and letters and handsome features and, since then, she
Shelby had a facebook community to her couldn’t concentrate on work. Recently,
name. Laura Warren was happy with her selection she had tried to express her interest and the man
and so was Robert, Shelby's husband, with his had reciprocated to her feelings. They saw each
wife's success. other a couple of times outside office and one such
Shelby enjoyed every moment of her newly meeting was fateful.
acquired job and felt that her happy life was Shelby had received such clueless queries before
happier now. She would receive all kinds of which made her laugh over the psyche of people
questions from people. Apparently, people had a lot she saw around. One such e-mail came from a girl
of problems these days, but Shelby Watson had all who spied on her husband for no reason; another
the solutions – be it personal problems or problems one came from a woman who was a compulsive
with one's boss or difficulty in dealing with one's liar. But Shelby decided not to involve her emotions
colleagues or in-laws, Shelby knew the answers to in this case, as she often did, but wanted to do her
all. She had a unique approach while providing job. So she replied to Paula with a two-lined e-mail
remedies. She would read each problem and place and asked her to follow her heart. Since the woman
herself in the situation of the writer and think how had already developed feelings for the man and the
she would deal with it but, every time she did that, man had also reciprocated, Shelby thought there

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was no point in stopping them. Within a span of a start living together and get to know each other
week, Shelby received a number of e-mails from better. It is time you thought about your happiness
Paula; each of them updated her regarding the and forgot about the spouse who doesn’t evoke any
status of her relation with the "new-man", as she passion in you. I guess you have your answer. Wish
called him. Shelby had shared Paula's story with her you two all the best – Shelby Watson."
colleagues and with Laura, and they had a whole

afternoon's laugh over Paula's crazy love life. helby left her office that evening with a strange
It had been two and a half months now and feeling in her gut. She didn’t know what it was
Shelby was well versed in Paula Sexton's love life. but she wanted to be home. She rushed to the
parking lot. There was heavy traffic on the Fifteenth

helby was thinking about Paula's latest e-mail Street; nonetheless, Shelby reached home in half an
for over an hour now. It was probably the hour. She opened the door and called out to Robert.
strangest e-mail she had got. The e-mail read, There was no answer, he wasn’t home yet. She
"Dear Shelby, I hope you are doing fine. I am in a looked at her watch, it was only 7.15, and so
fix, need your advice ASAP. The man I love Shelby changed and decided to make a good
proposed to me over lunch yesterday and I am dinner for Robert. By 9 o’clock the pasta and the
ecstatic. He said he wants to leave his boring wife garlic bread was ready. Still, there was no sign of
and start a new life with me. You know my story. I Robert. Shelby called him on his mobile but it went
am also thinking of divorcing my husband before we straight to his voicemail. She didn’t know what to
start over. So, do you think it would be a good idea do, so she switched on her computer. There were a
to live together right now? We looked up a good couple of new messages in her folder; Shelby
apartment yesterday evening and he seems to be thought it might be Robert who had the habit of
excited too. His wife doesn’t have any idea, and so leaving quick instant messages. Shelby excitedly
does my husband. Would it look absurd if we opened her AOL account. She had two unread
suddenly vanish from their lives to live with each messages from Paula, the person whom she least
other? I am so excited about my new life. We are wanted to encounter at that moment. Unwillingly,
getting new stuff for the home and we talked with she opened the letter, it said, "Dear Shelby, thanks
each other the whole day today. I am waiting for so much for your advice. We have taken the
your advice. The lost traveller in a new road – decision of living together from today. We are on
Paula." our way to our new apartment now. Thanks so much
Shelby read it over again and clicked on the honey for your support. Love – Paula." Shelby
reply option. She was worried about the people who deleted the e-mail and opened the other unread one,
were still in the dark. For some reasons, she missed this one said, "I am attaching a picture of myself
Robert now and wanted to head back home as soon and my Prince Charming, and I hope you like him."
as possible. She had decided not to receive Paula's Shelby scrolled down and found an attached file,
e-mail any more and so she wanted to compose the which said 'we took your advice.' She opened the
final entry with more thought than usual. "Dear picture. In a moment, she felt like throwing
Paula," Shelby typed, "I really do up. The whole world had stopped
not have an advice to give and Shelby felt like a cold
you, since you two corpse. In the picture with
have decided Paula, a sultry blonde
everything already; woman, was a man.
you have even seen He was somebody
an apartment. Shelby knew for
There is no point ages — it was
in replying to Robert. She
you with any dropped the
negative ideas. laptop and threw
Rather, I wish you away the dinner
all the happiness in plates and began to
future and I want cry. Outside the
you to enjoy your glass window of the
new life. I think, apartment, the
since you two romantic New York
love each other, it City evening was
is a great idea to setting in. We

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Now, advances in medical
science have come to the aid of
childless couples and help find
cure to impotency.
By Dr Neelkamal Kapoor



nfertility has always been an hormone imbalance which prevents vaginal acidity. Sperm loss may be a
issue which has brought forth the normal maturing of eggs. factor when infertility is otherwise
many social and psychological In most cases, by using fertility truly unexplained. Sometimes, the
traumas in the society. A drugs such as clomifen, it can be mucus of the cervix (neck of the
childless woman was considered relatively easy to stimulate eggs to uterus or womb) can be hostile or
a bad omen on happy occasions grow to maturity and to ovulate. very thick and unfavourable. Some
in the family. Advances in Various hormone injections are also men may have problems such as
medical science have come to utilised for ovulation induction. The impotence, premature ejaculation or
the aid of such childless couples maturation of ova and ovulation is an abnormality of penile anatomy
with the development of various monitored by ultrasound and couples which may make it difficult or may be
new assisted-reproduction techni - are encouraged to have sex at an impossible for sperm to be deposited
ques. This was a revelation for appropriate time. These hormones in the vagina. It is quite common to
Sunanda when she took her childless also help in making the cervical find that the seminal fluid containing
daughter-in-law Pooja to doctor for mucus of a better consistency so that the sperms do not liquefy or remain
consultation. Doctor discussed the sperms can pass through with ease. very like glue. This is likely to be a
matter in detail starting from the story significant cause of infertility.
of the initial test tube babies of the Intrauterine insemination: In these situations, successful
world who are now young women Sperms are deposited in the vagina pregnancy can sometimes result if
and men. These medical methods at intercourse, the majority are especially treated sperms are placed
are technically called as assisted normally lost because the sperm into the uterus above the level of
reproduction. Assistance in repro - either trickle out or are destroyed by cervix at the time of ovulation. This
duction could be done in various treatment is called Intra Uterine
ways. Insemination (IUI). Semen contains
many other biological entities besides
Ovulation induction: Ovulation, sperms, hence prior to putting the
which is the release of an egg from sperms into uterus they are prepared
the ovary, is not always a regular and by certain washing and treatment
predictable event. In fact, nearly 30 techniques. IUI is not a very good
per cent of infertility problems are technique when the sperm count or
due to defective or absent ovulation. quality is very poor. For the success
The commonest cause of this is a of this technique the fallopian tubes
condition called polycystic ovary of the woman partner should also be
syndrome where there is a major open and undamaged.

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Donor Insemination: Sometimes,
the male partner is completely unable
to produce any sperm and the female
partner is medically problem-free to
conceive and produce a child. In
such a case sperms from some other
anonymous donor male can be used.
This is a simple and safe technique
medically but involves lot of
psychological, legal and ethical
issues. Hence this should be a very
considered activity in consultation
with various experts.

In Vitro Fertilisation (IVF): IVF is

medically a very complex technique
based on a very simple principle, but
its advent has blessed thousands of
childless couples with children.
In vitro means “in glass” and is the
laboratory term used for any
biological process that
occurs outside the body.
It was the media who
popularised the term “test
tube baby”. In fact, test the year 2006 out of all women
tubes are used nowhere undergoing IVF only 31 per cent
in the actual IVF process. women (under the age 35 years)
IVF is used in cases succeeded in having a child and this
where the fallopian tubes success percentage became less
of a woman are blocked and less with advancing age of the
or sperm count in a male mother to the extent that in women
is very low. It is below 44 years of age it was only 4
sometimes used in per cent.
certain cases of infertility
due to unknown cause. Intracytoplasmic Sperm
Before starting the procedure of IVF IVF IS MEDICALLY A Injection (ICSI): In an IVF technique
counselling of the husband and wife
and complete medical examination VERY COMPLEX at least 100000 (specially treated)
sperms are put in contact with one
and pathological examination of both TECHNIQUE BASED ovum. However, some men have so
the partners are done.
For a normal pregnancy the body
ON A VERY SIMPLE low sperm count that it is not possible
to do a successful IVF. In such cases
creates such a hormonal secretion PRINCIPLE, BUT ITS an effort is made to retrieve the
and profile that one ovum finally ADVENT HAS sperm by using various methods like
matures and ovulates. If the
fertilisation occurs by union with a
BLESSED PESA (Per Cutaneous Epidedymal
Sperm Aspiration, TESA (Testicular
sperm then a further set and levels THOUSANDS OF Sperm Aspiration), TESE (Testicular
of hormones help in its transport and
implantation in the uterus. In IVF the
CHILDLESS Sperm Extraction).
In ICSI a prepared ova is held
hormones are utilised in the same COUPLES WITH while a single sperm is injected into
way to produce a large number of CHILDREN. it, thereby placing the genetic
matured ova. These multiple mature material within the sperm inside the
eggs are then taken out of the ovary now put back in the uterus. egg. This does not mean that the egg
and the body through vaginal route This entire procedure requires is fertilised but at least now there is a
and made to mix with the sperms in a very skilled team of doctors and chance for this complex process to
dish outside the body, in the technicians and high-class hospital commence. It is a very time-
laboratory. This union is called facilities, still the success rate is not consuming and skill-intensive
fertilisation and this fertilised ovum is very high. In the United kingdom in procedure.

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Assisted Hatching: Failure of IVF woman is given hormonal treatment
is mostly due to failure of to support this procedure.
implantation. Even if good quality
embryos are replaced back in the Gamete Intra Fallopian Transfer
uterus a pregnancy may still not (GIFT): This is a method which may
occur. In order for implantation to be used for unexplained infertility. It
take place the embryo must first is also used for older age group
hatch through outer covering of the patients in whom several attempts at
embryo known as Zona Pellucida. It IVF have failed. In the GIFT
is thought that a thickened or technique, gametes (egg and sperm)
hardened Zona Pellucida may be a are transferred together into the
factor in preventing implantation and fallopian tube where it is hoped that
pregnancy. fertilisation would occur naturally.
To overcome this Zona Pellucida The embryo that is then formed will
is breached mechanically with the pass along the tubes and enter the
help of needle or other such uterus at the correct phase of the
implements just before the embryo cycle so that it may implant naturally.
transferred to the womb. So GIFT is in a way an attempt to
Assisted hatching is usually assist the nature and is akin to an
needed in those IVF requiring arranged marriage with the doctor
patients who are above 35 years of Frozen Embryo Transfer: Some- playing the matchmaker.
age because it is thought that age times after doing an IVF extra Well, after knowing all the
hardens Zona Pellucida. It is also embryos are frozen. Later the uterine possibilities Pooja has already fixed
done if three previous IVF cycles with endometrium either matures by itself second appointment with the doctor
good quality embryo has failed or at or is hormonally prepared to accept so that she can bring Ranjan, her
the time of egg collection Zona implantation. The embryo is thawed husband, to meet and discuss
appears to be thickened. and implanted in the womb. The everything in detail with the doctor. We

ahead with the marriage arrangements. You may please hand it over to your
Now, for the last 15 years, we are servant.” You could imagine the
also living as a joint family. Though I feelings of the poor sister-in-law.
have asked my son and family to move – Savithri Viswanathan, Chennai.
Joint family upstairs as it is constructed for them
Fifteen years ago, I was on the by taking a bank loan, they are not
look-out for a suitable bride for my inclined to shift and stay with us.
bank-employed son. I never wanted
any dowry or cash from the girl’s A discourtesy If you have had
an encounter with any
party, but wanted a good, accommo- A distant relative of mine lost her of your in-laws, let our
dating girl from a respectable family. husband some years ago. As is the readers know it. Whether it is
An alliance came through. The custom in Brahmin communities, the pleasant or sour, it does not matter
girl belonged to a joint family. Two first 13 days were spent in doing all so long as it is interesting and
brothers, their wives, children — the religious ceremonies, obsequies, illustrates human strengths and
weaknesses. All accepted
each one had two — their old parents etc., etc. contributions will be paid Rs 200
and also an old unmarried uncle were According to the custom, the each. Send you contributions. duly
staying together, all under one roof widow is presented with a sari on the typed or written in neat hand writing
for the last 40 years. 10th day by her brothers. The brother to.
They seemed to be living without of the lady was not well-to-do but he IN-LAWS/OUT-LAWS
any quarrels or misunderstandings. still purchased an ordinary sari and
The proposed girl was the daughter presented it to his sister. E-3 Jhandewala Estate, New Delhi-110055.
of the elder brother. Though the girl Now, after a year or so, the sister
was very, very ordinary, and an returned the sari to her brother’s wife Name:
unemployed graduate, I thought this with the comment, “Babby, I don’t like Mobile:
was the girl for my son and went the sari given to me by my brother. E-mail:

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Freedom from glasses – all you ever wanted to know about

blade free Lasik. By Dr Mahipal Sachdev, Centre for Sight
asik has brought about a Are the procedures painful?
revolution in the field of eye Lasik is almost painless procedure
care. People who hid behind performed under topical drop
thick glasses or had to put up anesthesia. You can walk in and walk
with the discomfort and out of the operation theatre in less
inconvenience of contact than 15 minutes. Few eye drops have
lenses during their entire life to be used for a couple of weeks to
can now gain a new lease of allow a smooth healing.
life with Lasik. People who
underwent Lasik Vision What are the restrictions
Correction felt more confident, following surgery?
reassured and were ready to take on microkeratome blade. This is You can return to your daily
the challenges of life. Professionals followed by customised ablation of routine the very next day. There are
ranging from pilots, military and navy corneal surface to correct the no dietary restrictions. Sun glasses
personnel, sports people e.g. curvature of the eye. This is the most should be worn outdoors. Avoid
athletes, golfers, scuba divers, advanced technology for Lasik and splashing water or rubbing your eyes
models and air hostesses and even has been found to be extremely safe. for a few weeks. You can watch TV
people working in offices and at NASA has recommended the or work on the computer as and
home have benefited from the Intralase with Customised Excimer when you feel comfortable.
various advantages that Lasik has laser correction for its astronauts as
offered them. this can withstand high gravitational Do I need to wear glasses after
forces and has been found to be my eyes have healed from the
What is Lasik? stable and secure even in extreme procedure?
Lasik is a surgical procedure for environmental conditions. No glasses are required for
correcting near sightedness routine daily activities. People over
(myopia), far sightedness (hyperopia) How is blade free Lasik different the age of 40-45 years may need
and cylindrical (astigmatic) refractive from Lasik? reading glasses as that is a normal
errors. LASIK stands for Laser- ● Personalised Lasik Treatment ageing change called presbyopia.
Assisted In Situ Keratomileusis. It for any kind of refractive error
has been available across the world ● 100 per cent Blade Free Can I wear contact lenses after
for nearly 15 years and millions of ● Uses a laser to create the the Lasik?
people have undergone this Laser corneal flap Yes, you can wear glasses or
vision correction procedure. ● Highly advanced computer- contact lenses after Lasik. Even an
controlled technology enhancement for any post-lasik
How is Lasik done? ● Better night vision and contrast residual power is usually possible.
Lasik is a simple procedure which ● Improved quality of vision –
takes less than15 minutes to perform. crisp vision If Iʼm unsuitable for Lasik is
Eye drops are used to numb the eye there any other option available for
and a thin flap of cornea is raised How safe are the Lasik me.
using a fine micro-keratome blade. procedures? People found unfit for Lasik have
The flap is everted and a laser is Millions of people across the world no reasons to lose hope. They have
used to reshape the cornea. The flap have used Lasik for their vision several options at their disposal:
is replaced and the reshaped eye correction and have found it gave Implantable contact lenses (ICLs),
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Tips for whitening your skin. By Shailja Mehta
hreya avoids birthday embarrassing problem for me,” says Asians are fonder to get a whiter skin
bashes, college gatherings Shama. I spent countless hours and and do lots of things to get the skin
and for that matter any a good fortune putting myself through whiter and lighter than the natural
social event. She does not torturous hair removal techniques, shade.
want to go in the crowd with only to watch the hair reappear. This The facial bleach packs available
her blemishes. She suffered was frustrating. at chemist shops consist of a cream
acute acne problem as a Whether your issue like mine was and powder. The cream and powder
teenager. Her acne left a few random chin hairs, widespread should be mixed using a plastic
behind small brown spots on body hair or a female “mustache,” it spatula provided. The mixture is then
her face and she hates them was important to hide those excess applied on the hair for ten to fifteen
the most. She wants a beauty hairs. Since most hair removal minutes according to the manu -
product that will hide her blemishes methods are temporary and painful, I facturer’s instruction. The mixture is
by making them lighter. She wants to choose to make my body and facial then washed away. Along with the
feel comfortable among others. She hair less noticeable by bleaching it. hair, the skin will also become lighter.
too desires a good complexioned Everybody in the world is fond of The skin will revert to the original
skin. Will good skin bleach rescue white skin and is ready to do anything colour within a few days. As new dark
her? to get the skin whiter. Even fairer skin hair grows in one or two weeks, it
“Excess or unwanted hair growth people put their best efforts to keep may again need to be bleached.
was irritating and downright their skin tone whiter. Especially The effectiveness of bleaching

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varies from person to person. If a Temaalpatra, Padmakastha, Kamal,
person has coarse hair, the bleached Kosth Kolinjan, Halad, Laakh and
hair will still be noticeable, but it may Daruhalad, which make Kumkumadi
not be obvious for a person with fine Thilam, many ancient Ayurvedic
facial hair. Persons with sensitive formulation for fairness.
skin may experience a burning Natural and Safe, Herbal
sensation and may wash away the Bleaches are a blend of nature's
bleach after a very short time. best. This makes it perfectly safe for
Bleaching helps the skin to remove all skin types, especially sensitive
scars, reduce sun tan and pigmen- skin. Primarily, you need to
tation and clears the skin to make it remember that with fairer skin comes
look lighter in shade. But it should be less resistance to the sun. The sun’s
done carefully as if the ingredients rays are the primary cause of skin
have not mixed in proper proportion damage for all of us and a good
or you put it more than the applicable herbal sunscreen and wearing a hat
time, it might burn your skin. Beauty whenever you are outside, even on
is truth and truth is beauty. Looking overcast day will go a long way in
good and feeling great is the preserving your skin.
enduring ambition worldwide. Once or twice a week, you can
use an oatmeal scrub to remove the
dead skin cells and stimulate the
MANY WAYS skin’s circulation. Over time, the effort
There are many ways to whiten will pay off with a balanced skin tone
the skin. There are plenty of bleaches and healthier clearer skin.
available for skin whitening, which Internally, Vitamin C, Vitamin E
are meant not only for those who and a quality B complex will help to
have darker complexion but also reduce the environmental effects on
even for those who gets darker your skin.
complexion because of sun tan, age Remember that your skin reflects
or pollution. What is important is to your inner health, and a diet that is
choose the right one for your skin. high in fibre, such as brown rice,
Why use chemical to bleach your wholegrain breads and pastas, lean
skin when you can use the power of proteins such as chicken and deep-
herbs to bleach naturally? market now make you naturally fair sea fish, leafy green vege tables,
These days' herbal bleaches are with herbs like keshar, Chandan, including salads and steamed
available in the market for sensitive Lodhra, Patang, Raktachandan, vegetables and fresh fruit will help
skin, so people who have sensitive Agru,Walaa, Manjistha, Jesthmadh, your skin look its best. We
skin should choose them.
A herbal face bleach not only
bleaches the skin but also nourishes LIME AND LEMONY
it with the goodness of nature’s Lemon is a very versatile fruit full is still warm. Stir well and bottle it.
wonders like Haldi (turmeric), of vitamin C. Tasty by itself, it also Wash your face with warm water
Chandan, Nimbu (Lemon) and Aloe enhances the taste of food and in which a few drops of lemon juice
Vera. While Haldi (Turmeric) protects drinks it is added to. So use plenty of are added. Dry up and use lemon-
the skin from inflammation and works lemons in your daily diet. based face masks, which are easy
as an antioxidant, Nimbu (Lemon) You can make lemon-based to make at home.
acts as an effective antiseptic. health drinks. Mix one teaspoon of lemon juice
Aloe Vera adds life to the skin and Squeeze a lemon, add a tsp of with one tsp of milk cream and apply
Chandan (Sandalwood) soothes and honey to a glass of warm water and on your face. It helps to reduce
adds glow to it. drink it first thing in the morning. It pimples, blackheads or other
Herbal bleach is a good option. keeps you fresh and healthy and blemishes.
One can learn applying bleach in a keeps your weight in check. One tsp of lime juice mixed with
right way on the face and body from Use lemons as refreshing face honey leaves your skin glowing
a professional beautician and then masks. brightly.
can do it oneself. There are many Make lemon squash – mix two One tsp of lime juice, one tsp of
herbal preparations that are available cups of sugar in a cup of water and rose water and one tsp of papaya pulp
to balance your skin tone. The herbal boil it to 1/3 consistency syrup. Add makes your skin soft and smooth.
facial bleach now available in the one cup of lemon juice while the water – Urmilla Ramrakhiani, Pune.

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Once you have decided to join a
gym, the next important step is to
choose the right gym. How will you
tell a good gym from a bad gym?
Also, how will you know that the gym
you have chosen is right?
Here, compatibility is the key
word. You should feel akin with the
gym, and then only will you reap
benefits. So, it is not correct to blindly
go and enrol yourself in any gym just
because your friend or someone else
has recommended it.
Follow the tips below to ensure
that you are on the right fitness track.

Location: The location of the gym

is of prime importance. An ideal gym
will be near your residence or your
workplace. Otherwise you will waste a
lot of precious time in commuting and
undergoing a lot of inconvenience. A
nearby gym at a slightly higher rate
may be worth signing up for rather
than a further away gym at a lower
rate, as you will waste time, money
and energy in commuting.

SELECTING THE RIGHT Decide fitness goals: Amritha,

who was in her late forties, just
wanted to get rid of her excess body

fat. She selected a high-end gym, but
found that she did not use most of
the equipment whereas she was
charged for it!
So first decide your fitness goals.
Do you want to tone or contour your
body? Do you just want exercise to

stay healthy? Do you want to lose
weight? Are you aiming for that eight-
Five basic eing physically fit has pack abdomen? Whatever your aim
become such an integral is, not every gym is going to meet the
gym rules you need part of everyday life that needs of every person.
more and more people are So, select a gym that meets your
to follow. enrolling in gyms to get specific needs. For just using
By Renuka Vishwanathan regular exercise. The weights, you need not choose an
popularity of gyms is on an elaborate gym, which includes
upward rise. This has also charges for sauna, swimming pool,
led to the mushrooming of cardio and high-end equipment that
gyms at every nook and you may not use at all!
It would be wonderful to be able to Check out the Gym Facilities:
afford a home gym, but space and When you go hunting for a gym, you
money constraints will limit that will be offered a tour of the centre.
luxury to a select few. For the Make sure that you check it out
majority, enrolling in a gym is the thoroughly and assess it for yourself,
better alternative to get rid of the flab and not go by word of mouth. In
and to get fit. particular, check out:

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● Whether the equipment is well- end up badly hurt or not realising changing facilities for men and
maintained. You don’t want to work your health goal. Qualified trainers women are a must. If there are
out on poor equipment which may fall will assess you and train you shower facilities also, ensure that
apart and harm you grievously in the according to your needs. So, don’t be they are clean and there is water
bargain. This can include looking for afraid to ask for the qualifications of supply at all times.
frayed cables in machines and also trainers before you enrol in a gym.
loose plates and rust in other Clarify whether the trainer will work The Price: Last but not least,
equipment. with you on a one-to-one basis or in a don’t select a gym because it is
● Check if the gym is clean and group. Choose whatever you are cheap and affordable, or because it is
well maintained. comfortable with. highly priced. High costs do not mean
● Do check out the cardio Also, make sure that the trainers good quality. As pointed out earlier,
machines for wear and tear, and are cheerful and friendly. Working the high costs may include charges
especially for any strange noises. with grouchy and morose trainers is a for things you are not even using!
● Ensure that the gym does not sure put-off, and will make your gym Remember that some of the best
have too much equipment nor too visits painful and dreadful. You may gyms are reasonably priced and
little. Both situations are quite not want to come at all! Check out affordable. Do not fall for the trap of
confusing. But make sure that the the nature of the trainers with other glitz, shine and glamour. Look for
equipment you plan to use is members. utility and what you will be using!
available at the gym. Also, lower rates may mean that
Changing Facilities: Make sure the hours you can work out may be
The Timings: Jayanthi had that the gym you select has spacious less. Satisfy yourself on all these
recently joined a gym and found to and clean changing facilities. You matters, before selecting a gym.
her horror that it was packed when don’t want to dress and undress in a Suresh, a busy sales executive,
she went there. She had to wait to cramped closet! The changing rooms took a 10-year membership on a new
use the equipment, and the noise should also be well ventilated and gym in his neighborhood, under a
and crowd completely put her off lighted. Some gyms offer locker promotional scheme for Rs 40, 000.
exercising. She had other members facilities as well for keeping your Although his intentions were good,
breathing down her neck to use the valuables and other stuff. Separate he found that he never found time to
equipment. The result was that she visit the gym and neither did his
ran out of the gym as fast as she family members. The amount was
could. literally money down the drain, and
It is essential to check how many could have been invested elsewhere.
people will be around in the gym A monthly membership, though a
when you plan to be there. Having to bit costly may be the best choice
wait for equipment and working out initially, especially as you may not be
in a crowded atmosphere is definitely sure whether you can commit
not enjoyable. So, check out the yourself to the gym for a year or
times when the gym is not crowded, more. Test out the waters of the gym
and if it is not suitable, opt for another for a month or so, and then you can
gym. opt for a longer membership if you
Also, check out the timings of the are satisfied with the gym and its
gym. Select one which has timings facilities and find that you have
suitable to you, depending on the time!
whether you want early timings or Before you sign the
late. Most gyms offer separate membership contract, read
timings for ladies, and the rest are carefully for any hidden costs.
unisex timings. Make sure that you Some gyms will slap annual
are comfortable with what timing is maintenance fees whereas the
offered. Otherwise you will be too maintenance may not really be
conscious of the people around to done or satisfactory. Check out
exercise properly. any “liability” clauses too.
Now that you have finally
The Trainers: It is necessary to decided to join a gym, a
check out the credentials of the few lines about gym etiquette.
trainers in the gym. It is easy for Gyms today are the new social
people to wear a T-shirt and track hubs of modern life. They are so
pants and proclaim themselves as popular that they have become
trainers. The result is that you may social gathering places akin to
coffee shops and malls. To make the and ensured there is no crowd in the on yours. The best way to avoid this
gym experience pleasant, the basic gym at the time you come to train. problem is to cover the seats or
rules of group politeness, However, at times there may be more benches with a towel beforehand.
consideration and etiquette should members around, and the equipment This reduces the problem of sweat
apply there as well. So mind your and machines will become limited. Be and grime. In gyms, cleanliness is
gym manners or you may be labelled patient and share equipment. This definitely next to godliness!
as the Bad Gym Guy, who hogs all give-and-take is necessary if you
the gym equipment, who barges in don’t want to waste time at the gym ● Do not drop things: The
out of turn, who talks loudly on his just waiting! dropping of dumbbells or barbells is
cellphone while exercising and Regarding cardio equipment, one of the most jarring, annoying and
leaves the changing room a mess! many gyms have time limits for their disturbing noises in a gym. Also,
usage during peak hours. So, do slamming down the weights or any
Follow these basic rules and remember that others are waiting and equipment is a definite no-no. Apart
contribute to making the gym strictly adhere to the time rules so from the noise it makes, such
experience pleasant for both for you that everyone can benefit from the dropping and slamming of equipment
and other gym members. equipment. is liable to damage them, and you
may end up having to pay for the
● Silence is Golden: Maintain ● Keep Machines Clean: damages! Also, it indicates your
silence in the gym. Using cellphones Always wipe off any machine you use inability to control them, and you may
in a gym is a major infringement of in a gym, like handles, seats, end up with a pulled muscle or
gym etiquette. When everyone is weights, etc. Just as you would not tendon or even more. Handle
working out hard and focused on like to sit on someone’s sweat, equipment carefully and with kid
achieving their fitness goals, they do neither would anyone else like to sit gloves!
not want to be disturbed by loud
conversations. Neither do they want ● Put Things Back: The cardinal
to be subjected to annoying ring IT IS NECESSARY rule in a gym while using weights is
tones. Keep the cellphone on silent always to put them back in their
mode or, better still leave it behind TO CHECK OUT THE places when you have finished with
at home or in the locker! In case you CREDENTIALS OF them. If you leave them lying around,
can’t bear to be parted from your they may cause mishaps and
precious cellphone, it may be better THE TRAINERS IN accidents. So spare a thought and
for you to consider other ways of THE GYM. IT IS EASY place equipment back properly in
getting fit! Also, if working out
together in a group exercise class,

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AND TRACK PANTS sweat is definitely not attractive! Just
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Grow up, please! AND PROCLAIM others after a workout, other do too!

● Donʼt be an Equipment Hog:

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You may have checked the timings TRAINERS. not want to offend people on the way.
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I am one-and-a-half months pregnant women report that the swelling
and have developed breast soreness. subsides after a good night's rest, or
Is this normal and what should I do after several hours lying down.
about it? There are a couple of things you
Many women experience breast can do to help relieve the symptoms.
tenderness during the first three The first is to drink a lot of water.
months of pregnancy. This usually Though it doesn't seem to make
goes away during the second trime- sense to get rid of fluids by taking in
ster. Till then a properly fitting bra more, the extra fluids will help flush
with good support will help relieve the out your system of waste products,
soreness. which may have increased the
swelling. You need at least eight
When should a glasses of water a day. Regarding
pregnant woman salt intake, people believe that the
visit a doctor? swelling is caused by excessive
As soon as she amounts of salt in the diet though
misses her periods the opposite is also true. Limiting the
and pregnancy is amount of salt you take in can cause
confirmed by a swelling as well. As with all things,
home pregnancy kit. moderation is the key to balance.
Thereafter according The commonest cause of swelling is
to WHO (World the weight of the enlarging uterus
Health Organization) a woman on the blood vessels.
should visit her doctor every month Basic tips to help reduce swelling
for the first seven months, fortnightly are:
between the 7th and 8th months and ● Avoid wearing elastic topped
every week in the last month. socks
● Wear comfortable shoes. Slip-
I am in the 7th month of my first ons work best.
pregnancy. Recently I noticed that ● Put your feet up when possible.
my feet have begun to swell. There is ● If you stand at work, try to
no pain or discomfort. Is this a cause move around slightly or get a stool to
for concern? Please advise. prop a foot up on.
Swelling, or oedema, is common ● Try support stockings
in pregnancy. 75 per cent of women You have reason to worry if the
will experience accumulation of fluid swelling does not subside after a
around the legs and ankles at some rest, if it is sudden or extreme, or has
point during pregnancy. It is extended from the legs and feet to
aggravated by warm weather, the face and hands. Report to your
standing for a while, or at the end of doctor immediately, for you are at risk
your day. In general the swelling is for a complication - PIH (pregnancy
nothing to be alarmed about. Most induced hypertension).

I smoked till I was three who smoke is as bad, for the

months pregnant as I did nicotine is passed on to the baby
not know that I was as carbon monoxide. The risks of
pregnant. Now, I have tried smoking to the baby include
stopping but when I don’t stillbirths, pre maturity, low birth
smoke I become very weight, asthma and sudden infant
irritable and moody which death syndrome. Ideally you should
makes things unpleasant at give up the habit before you get
home. I take a few drugs pregnant but if that has not
now and then but do not occurred, do so now, no matter how
smoke as I used to. Will irritable or moody you have
this affect my baby? become. Take professional help if
Not only is smoking harmful to needed to do so.
your baby, but being around people – Dr A. K. Bajaj, MD.

142 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

A typically female problem
all women should be aware of.

By B. L. Nagpal

acterial infection of the surrounding it is contaminated and varying height producing a varying
urinary tract is quite crowded with a variety of a large degree of illness.
common among women; number of micro-organisms which If the infection with subsequent
next only to respiratory are normal harmless inhabitants of inflammation and tissue damage is
infection. The danger of the large intestine and are passed restricted to the urethra, it is called
developing UTI looms large but with faeces/wind through the as urethritis; if the bladder is involved
throughout the life of a anus. it is termed as cystitis and if the
female right from infancy to kidneys are infected, the disease is
old age and it has been
estimated that about 50 per
VULNERABLE TO known as pyelonephritis. This
ascending mode of infection is the
cent of women suffer from symptoms INFECTION most common but the infection may
of UTI sometime during their adult The body area includes the vulva, occasionally start from the kidneys
lives. Whenever given a proper vagina and the whole area of the through the bloodstream and
understanding of this disease and perineum. Even the undergarments descend to the ureters, bladder and
taken adequate preventive measures carry these bacteria, although the urethra along with the urine.
many of its complications and number may vary with the degree of UTI is far more common in
recurrences can be avoided. personal hygiene. The close females as compared to males
The urinary tract consists of the proximity of the external urethral because of certain anatomical,
kidneys, ureters, urinary bladder and meets to the anus which is a source physiological and pathological factors
urethra as shown in Fig. 1. The of infection, makes the urinary tract seen exclusively in females. The
kidneys produce urine drop by drop most vulnerable to infection. short length of female urethra (4 cm
which is propelled through ureters to The organisms, when they enter to 20 cm in males) facilitates the
the urinary bladder which acts as a the body tissue other than the large entry of bacteria from the urethral
reservoir. When filled to its capacity intestines, become harmful and orifice to the urinary bladder. A mild
the bladder contracts; its sphincter is disease producing. Normally, a trauma to the urethra received during
opened and urine is allowed to pass delicate balance is maintained sexual intercourse forces the
out through a slit-like passage called between the defence mechanism of organisms into the urinary bladder
urethra. the urinary tract and the invasiveness resulting in a disease called
The normal structure and of bacteria and if any factor disturbs it “honeymoon cystitis.”
functions of urinary tract are such as in favour of bacteria, UTI will easily The cells lining the female
to discourage and inhibit the entry result. urogenital region are rich in
and multiplication of bacteria from From the urethral opening, the oestrogen receptors, and certain
outside through the external urethral organisms ascend into the urethra bacteria like E. coli have a special
opening. The urethral orifice as well and urinary bladder and are carried affinity for adhering to these
as a wide surface area of the body on to the ureters and kidneys up to a receptors. The micro-organisms

144 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

multiply and colonise the vulva,
vaginal orifice and anterior urethra
where they eagerly wait for a chance
to get entry deep into the urinary
Even the ‘mechanics’ of urine
outflow stream formation in females
differs from that in males. In a healthy
male the urine stream during
micturition is a forceful, forward,
projectile and complete in
circumference whereby throwing out
any bacteria which might have
attempted to enter the urethra.
In contrast, the urine stream in
females is weak and split; partly
forward and partly backward in a
semicircle and the latter portion stage. When symptoms appear, It is important to note that mere
pushing the bacteria into the anterior these are increased frequency of presence of the organisms in urine
urethra from the meatus. micturition, urgency and pain. In does not mean infection.
Enlargement of the uterus during urethritis, the pain or burning UTI is associated with the growth
pregnancy and pelvic masses formed sensation is felt in the urethra during of bacteria in the urinary tract and
by disease of the uterus and ovaries, and immediately after the act of examination of a midstream urine
which are not uncommon, press upon urination. In cystitis, the pain is felt samples should demonstrate more
the ureters causing obstruction and in the lower abdomen and in than a hundred thousand
stagnation of urine which gets easily pyelonephritis, it is felt in the back organisms/ml of urine for diagnosis.
infected because urine acts as a lumber region. Culture and sensitivity tests are done
good culture medium for the growth Along with these there may be to find out the specific causative
of bacteria. fever, chills, muscular pain, nausea organism and the antibiotic to which
and vomiting. Urine may be cloudy infection would respond.
BACTERIOLOGICAL with an unpleasant odour and even
blood. Diagnosis is established on
Sometimes, urine does not show
micro-organisms in an otherwise
EXAMINATION bacteriological examination of urine. obvious case of UTI.
Certain other conditions like a
weak pelvic floor, prolapse of the
uterus, cancer cervix, atrophic
Preventive measures
urethritis and atrophic vaginitis of ● After defecation, clean the after sexual intercourse and again
menopause, greatly enhance the risk anus with paper from front to rear after 10-15 minutes of urination if
of getting UTI. Catheterisation during followed by washing with soap and there is residual urine (double-
childbirth and gynaecological water preferably using some micturition).
operations as well as instrumentation antiseptic soap like Savlon or Dettol. ● Avoid excessive use of
directly carry the bacteria into the ● While bathing, wash the uro- deodorants, disinfectants, toilet
urethra and bladder. genital region, groins, inner side of preparations, vaginal spermicides
The risk factors for UTI common thighs, lower abdomen, back, and diaphragm contraceptives.
to both sexes are diabetes mellitus, gluteal region, anus and perineal ● Boost your body’s immunity
congenital abnormalities in the region with soap and water. by healthy food, regular exercise
urinary tract, stones in the urinary ● Change underwears daily and avoiding drugs, stress,
tract, tumours, paralysis of the twice a day during the summer pollution, smoking, alcohol and
bladder, prolonged bed rest, spinal months. Do not use tight, synthetic over-indulgence in sex.
injury and suppressed immunity. underwears and tight jeans. ● Keep on changing the reaction
Enlargement of the prostate gland is ● Take plenty of fluids, of urine from acidic to alkaline to
the most common predisposing factor particularly during the summer acidic either by diet or by drugs.
in men above the age of 50. months and see that the urine For good health always
UTI may be asymptomatic or passed is always colourless and not remember: keep your genitalia more
symptomatic. During the yellow. clean than your face and keep your
asymptomatic stage, there is no ● Empty the bladder at regular latrine more clean than your
tissue damage and if left uncared for, intervals before retiring, before and kitchen. We
it may progress to the symptomatic

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in India, 62.6% are due to Phaco has come it has implanted and the wound
cataract. The blindness revolutionised cataract was closed by stitches.
caused by cataract can be surgery. The patient can go Such a surgery would put
avoided by timely back to work the very next the patients off their daily
intervention. Once cataract day and one cannot even routine for a month or so.
develops, surgery is the make out if a surgery has Such techniques are now
only treatment. With the been done.” outdated. The quick,
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day is the need of the hour. MICRO- has all the world class patients.
PHACO does just that. Here, an consumables for cataract surgery in
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made and a Phaco needle is The routine Phaco-emulsification (Incision on the eye 1.8 to 2 mm)
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activities after surgery. Micro-Phaco good recovery. cataract and refractive surgeon of
has come as a boon for cataract The earlier techniques of cataract Delhi. He is one of the pioneers of
patients at a cost just 15-20% more removal required a large incision of phaco and Micro-phaco in Delhi. He
than normal Phacoemulsification around 8-12 mm. A hard artificial is also a pioneer of Lasik surgery for
surgery. vision correction. With over 25 years
This technique requires the Dr Sanjay Chaudhary performing of experience in the field of
combination of a highly skilled Micro-Phaco ophthalmology, he has been in the
surgeon and a highly advanced forefront of all latest technologies and
machine. innovations in the field like the use
In India, only 2 companies have of accommodative, multi-focal and
launched these machines, INFINITI toric intra-ocular lenses in cataract
by Alcon and Stellaris by Bausch & surgery and C-Lasik, SBK (Sub
Lomb. The ultra soft intraocular lens Bowman Keratomileusis) and ICL in
which is used in this technique are – the field of refractive surgery.
Acrysof IQ by Alcon and MIL by
Bausch & Lomb.
Dr Sanjay Chaudhary is also Director-
Dr Sanjay Chaudhary who
Eye7 Group of Hospitals
pioneered Micro-Phaco Surgery in
Delhi on the INFINITI system at (
Chaudhary Eye Centre, Darya Ganj

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Will Delhi be free of beggars during the
Commonwealth Games? By K.M. Sharma

he Delhi government has got in different groups leave for their trends and opportunities – e.g.
elaborate plans to rid Delhi allotted begging places for a fixed preparation for the Commonwealth
of beggars before the period. Vijay Babli is the beggar Games. Foreign language tutorials
Commonwealth Games this leader at Lal Quarters who regulates are being arranged not to prepare
year. But the track record of the working hours of the beggars who them for taking any degree or
the government so far casts are constantly rotated at different diploma but enabling the beggar to
a shadow of doubt on its spots where they earn Rs 150 to 200 talk to foreigners, with a tooti phooti
efforts to wipe out beggary per day. knowledge of that language. It has
from the city. The beggar Beggars from Rajasthan belong to been observed that many boys and
population in Delhi at present the Dom and Sansi tribes. Doms are girls amongst the beggars are really
is more than 60,000 which is likely to worshippers of Shani Dev, so collect intelligent enough to pick up the
go up to more than one lakh well Shani dues on Saturdays and act as rudimentary knowledge of the
before the games. Beggars have pujaris at shani temples. The Sansi is language taught to him or her, be it
their own plans. The entire picture a criminal tribe and notorious for English, Spanish, German, French,
seems to be gloomy according to a killing people in cold blood. They etc. in phrases like “I am a destitute”,
report. usually beg through tricks. At a red “No place to go,” “Mother ill,” “No
The beggar problem has over a light, if you happen to see two, three money for treatment,” etc.
period of time assumed menacing women carrying a so-called pregnant
proportions and government has
miserably failed to eradicate this
woman asking for alms, they are
definitely from the Sansi tribe. It is
social evil due to poor they who pick purses, bags and other CHOOSERS
implementation of its laws by its articles from cars if the side glass is In fact, beggar mafias/controllers
corrupt and disloyal authorities. In open. These beggars donate their are expecting huge earnings from
fact, the government itself is begging places in dowry. It is not the foreigners who may be visiting India
confused whether the Bombay prerogative of a beggar to choose a in lakhs during games. To avoid or
Prevention of Begging Act or Juvenile place for begging. Bosses control detect the possibility of cheating
Justice Act should be used to tackle them. foreigners, the beggar trainees are
this chronic problem. The begging business is well made conversant with all the
Two agencies, the Delhi School of organised and proper training for denominations of the currencies of
Social Studies and the Delhi begging is imparted to new entrants. many countries. Their estimate is that
Commission for the Protection of They are taught all possible tricks to each beggar will earn at least Rs 200
Child Rights, are closely connected get the full sympathy of the client who to 300 per day. A conservative
with this problem. If you desire to see is compelled out of compassion to estimate of about 1,500 such
how beggars are preparing for the donate something. But the training beggars will be on the prowl during
Commonwealth Games, we suggest involves torturous methods similar to the games. The responsibility of
that you pay a visit to Katputli Colony those applied to animals such as less eradicating begging depends upon
in the Shadipur Depot area and Lal food to eat only once a day. This multi-agencies. The Department of
Quarters area in Rohini. Beggars live training system can be easily seen in Social Welfare of Delhi Government
in these two colonies. Their activities Lal Quarters. Training courses are is primarily responsible for making
start right from 6 a.m. when beggars designed taking in view the emerging the national capital beggar-free when

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the Commonwealth Games Police to prosecute drivers who offer others are allowed to beg at India
commence. But this department alms or buy anything from vendors Gate. She was grumbling against
always bemoans the shortage of at traffic lights as these actions are police and the boss. The police, she
officials, so its anti-begging campaign punishable with a fine of Rs 100 for says, do not allow them to beg unless
had to be discontinued. Is it not a the first offence and Rs 300 for hafta is regularly given to them.
mockery of such an important subsequent offences under rule 22 Ramesh, a beggar in tattered clothes,
campaign? If shortage of staff is a (a) of the Rules of the Road begs at Mool Chand crossing from 9
real problem then why has the Regulations, 1989, punishable under a.m. to 11 a.m. and earns from Rs
government not made arrangements Sec. 177 of the Motor Vehicle Act, 100 to Rs 200 within this short time.
on a war footing to provide additional 1988. But police hardly prosecute Beggars all over adopt an almost
staff who can be put on the job. motorists under these sections nor identical modus operandi to make
Otherwise how will Delhi government round up beggars found begging at their earning and accumulate wealth.
remove beggars from the streets of such intersections. It is certain that if They are good earners but have also
Delhi and out of the full view of the motorists do not patronise them, learned the art of investment to
foreigners visiting the city? beggars or vendors they won’t multiply their earnings. In fact, the
My survey reveals that most of the survive. world of beggars is a typical
beggars in Delhi belong to that wonderland which provides a very
floating population who migrate to fascinating reading. Gradually they
Delhi from adjoining states as MAFIA are being organised and have formed
begging is comparatively more Of late, a mafia has come to a formidable beggars’ unions.
lucrative in Delhi since Delhiwallas control the beggars and has turned But the irony is that such unions
give alms generously. Another their pursuit into an organised racket are in a majority of cases controlled
problem is that there is no retirement with enormous dimensions. I talked by the mafia of the respective area.
plan in the begging profession. On to many beggars about the presence Their siblings do not necessarily
the contrary, the older the beggar the of the mafia in the begging trade. All follow their parents’ profession but
greater is his or her earning capacity the beggars unhesitatingly confirmed have now been seeking placement in
as he or she can arouse optimum that begging rights + 50 to 60 per diversified portfolios. But a survey
public sympathy. Recently, it was cent of the earnings of each beggar has also revealed that some siblings
found that several dozen graduates are taken by a man called “boss of do follow their parents’ profession.
and postgraduates have resorted to beggars” who comes and collects the Kochi-based NGO Sishu Kshema
begging as it fetches them from Rs percentage of the day’s earnings Council, Mumbai-based Social
200 to Rs 500 per day, which means from the beggars. Some mafia Development Centre, Shyam
Rs 10,000 to Rs 15,000 per month bosses never come on collection Bandopadhyay of Kolkata’s Beggars
and that too in tax-free income. rounds but the beggars have to go Research Bureaus have carried out a
In September 2002, an ordinance and tender their percentages to the deep study and surveys of the
was issued directing Delhi Traffic boss at his place. These bosses are beggar problem and have given very
very brutal and interesting revelations.
normally operate
singly. In case of a Prime haunts of beggars: 1.
default, they beat Temples and other religious places
up beggars very 2. Railway stations and bus stops 3.
cruelly and don’t Tourist spots 4. Busy market areas
allow the beggar to and malls. 5. Red-light signals.
beg at a particular
spot where ear - Beggarsʼ earning profile: 1.
nings are compara- Mother with a rented newborn 2.
tively quite sub - Destitute children 3. Leprosy patients
stantial. and some with mutilated limbs 4.
The ITO red Disabled man/woman made or born
light, where the with infirmities 5. Poverty driven
traffic light stays
red for a longer Beggars earnings and invest -
time, is controlled ments: 1. Some beggars possess
by the mafia. One PAN cards 2. They invest in shares
Ram Parvez is the and mutual funds 3. Beggars
boss of this area. A generally take a Money Plus LIC
woman beggar policy which provides Rs 20 lakh in
Jugni and a dozen 16 years on a deposit of Rs 30,000.

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The surveys conducted by the resident of Kovilpaltti has usually sits near the Jain
aforesaid NGOs covered Kolkata, recently launched his temple and Gauri Shanker
Ludhiana, Varanasi, Indore, Ujjain, seven-year-old daughter temple in Chandni Chowk
Kashmir, Chennai and Kerala. in begging with the same was used by them to
zeal as is shown by the encash cheques with
film personalities while forged signatures and the
BEGGING DYNAMICS launching their sons or ring leader used to stand
Though begging is banned in daughters in acting. and watch him at Red
Kerala, its implementation is Generally, it is seen Fort, and the cash of the
lamentably very poor, so begging is that the minimum earning cheques was to be
going on unabated. In of a beggar is Rs 100 a handed over to him in lieu
Thiruvananthapuram, 60 beggars day. In some places it of some commission. But,
earn Rs two lakh on a daily basis. was also seen that in one day, as luck would
In Mumbai, the beggar population case a beggar fell short of his or her have it, that beggar was caught by
is estimated at three lakh and their earnings he or she would try to steal the alertness of the bank employees
yearly earnings are approximately Rs another beggar’s money, which leads who became suspicious about this
100 crore. to violent scenes. beggar withdrawing a big amount of
In Kolkata there are 35,000 In Kashmir, they say begging is a five figures. In police investigations
beggars and earn approximately Rs traditional profession and residents he revealed the whole game plan of
35 lakh a day. of various villages are engaged in the mafia using beggars for criminal
In Ludhiana 2,000 beggars earn begging to keep ancestral traditions activities and that the mastermind is
Rs 10 crore every year. alive in spite of the fact that their seldom caught.
In Hyderabad a woman beggar economic status is far better than in Now, Delhi High Court and various
earns Rs 300 to 400 a day. Her previous times. sports bodies have persistently asked
children are studying in a convent They, however, earn Rs 200 to Rs Delhi Government to rid the city of
school and her husband owns a 500 daily. It has also been reported beggars before the Commonwealth
scooter and three acres of cultivable that militants snatch beggars’ Games 2010. But the government is
land. He drops her at the begging earnings and from some of the clueless as usual about how to do it.
point and picks her up in the evening beggars they could find 10 gold coins But it is certain that the government
on his scooter. and more than Rs 40,000 in cash. has to perform a balancing act
In Ayodhya, being a religious city, Another very interes ting and between legal and humanitarian
there are 1,000 beggars who earn Rs amusing report has come that a angles of this problem. The complete
200 each daily. One-third of the beggar husband gave his wife FDs eradication of this problem is
beggar population is women and worth Rs one lakh as settlement impossible unless the government
children. amount after divorce. There is a full comes out with a comprehensive
In Bhubaneswar the government communal divide in this begging social security scheme ensuring all
is strictly prohibiting begging near the sphere also. There is absolutely no its citizens the basic minimum social
Jagannath temple but still beggars scope for secularism. Hindus give security especially to the old, sick
earn Rs 30 to 40 per day. alms only to Hindu beggars who and destitutes who have absolutely
In Varanasi beggars earn Rs usually flock at Hindu religious places no source of any assistance. Don’t
3,000 to 4,000 per month. and traffic signals, while Muslims give forget that the beggar problem is a
In Chandigarh they earn Rs 100 alms to Muslims who throng the stigma on the government as it has
to 150 per day. mosques and mazars. failed to provide generous help to
In Tamil Nadu a beggar earns Rs The beggar mafia’s criminal wing genuine citizens. The attitude of the
700 daily during the Sabariwala uses beggars to accomplish their government in such matters
pilgrimage season. Surprisingly, a nefarious designs. One beggar who demonstrates its altitude. We

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Destined to be a Mother
Why was Abhi’s mother shocked to see his sweetheart for
the first time? A stunning revelation. By Renuka Vishwanathan

needed to lie down desperately. The events of “Don’t put on the lights,” I said sharply, as he
the last few hours had completely upset me and went to switch on the lamp. I decided I had to come
I felt as if my head was being pounded by a clean. It was a burden I had carried for many years
hammer from inside. I went to my bedroom, and now providence was giving me a chance to
drew the curtains and lay down in the dark, share it with my son. What I had to tell him needed
trying to calm my agitated mind. But I couldn’t a soothing atmosphere, subdued and calm, not lit up
relax. Things were in such a turmoil. by the harsh light of an electric lamp.
Abhishek had gone to drop Kamna home. He sat down again, this time on a chair, not
Kamna, the girl I had been eagerly waiting to knowing how to broach the topic. I sensed his
welcome as my daughter-in-law. What must she discomfort. I had to take the bull by the horns. I took
have thought of my behaviour and the way I had a deep breath.
reacted to her? “Abhi, you must be wondering why I reacted like
“Mom, what’s wrong with you?” Abhishek had that to Kamna when she mentioned her parents.”
hissed at me, as I had stared open-mouthed at His pained eyes looked at me, and he nodded his
Kamna. I couldn’t reply as I had been numbed by head. He would not question me, our relationship
his words. I just couldn’t believe it. What cruel twist was too deep for that. But I desperately needed him
of fate had brought her back into my life? to understand why I had done such a thing. He had
I knew that I had a lot of explaining to do to to understand the past, as it was linked to the
Abhishek and I began to panic. Would he present.
understand why I had done such a thing? And “I know Kamna’s parents,” I began.
would he understand why I had behaved as I had? “You do?” he asked a bit shocked. “Then how
The most important question was: should I tell him? come you don’t know Kamna? I had told you about
I must have fallen asleep, exhausted by the events her.”
because I woke up with a jerk, when Abhishek

opened the door of the room to enter. “Are you sighed. Abhi had mentioned he had met a girl he
okay, mom?” he asked in a whisper, coming and liked. She was a software engineer, working in
sitting on my bedside. his firm. She was his junior, but they had worked
I sat up and looked at my only son, the only on a project for six months together in the USA and
reason that had kept me going on throughout my had become very close friends. That friendship had
life. I nodded at him. “Open the curtains and slowly blossomed into love.
windows,” I said and he obeyed. “She is wonderful, mom,” he had gushed to me.
The late evening breeze came in through the “She is the only daughter of her parents and they
windows and the dim light duly lit up the room. are very well off. Her father owns a manufacturing
unit in Jabalpur and exports a lot. His mother is a
well-known social worker in that area. They were
very nice to me and they have no objection to my
relationship with Kamna. Now, we need only you to
“Let me meet her first,” I had laughingly told him.
And I had meant to approve. I could never break
the heart of my only son. I was ready to welcome
Kamna into my home and heart, as the daughter I
never had. But the mention of Jabalpur had raised my
I had been lucky to land a job in a government
hospital, a few miles away from the city. There I had “I need anonymity,” I insisted.
been allotted a small room, which Abhi and I had Dr Mathur managed to convince the couple and
called home. The pay had been just enough to the whole operation went through successfully.
manage our food but I was lucky to have a

wonderful boss, Dr Mathur, who was chief of the came back to the present and saw Abhi waiting
hospital. He was an enterprising person and a keen eagerly for me to continue with my explanations
researcher and headed the hospital’s fertility centre. on how I knew Kamna’s parents. Actually, I had
He was investigating some new technique which done a bit of spying. I had been quite curious about
was still in the nascent stage. the couple who had required my services so many
And that is how I was roped in by him into his years ago. I had secretly peeped into a file of Dr
plans. I was talking with him when he had invited Mathur’s and got to know their names and address.
me to join him for a cup of tea. That is what I liked I still remembered it after so many years. And
about Dr Mathur. He was friendly, casual and had Kamna was the right age.
no airs. I opened up and told him about my “What is Kamna’s date of birth?” I asked Abhi
concerns for Abhi. suddenly.
“I want to give him the best education. I want to “12 December 1980,” he replied.
make him an engineer. He is so brilliant, but there is That was proof enough. That was the day it had
just not enough money,” I had sighed. actually happened. That was the day I had sold
That is when Dr Mathur had put forward his myself for Abhi’s future, in a way.
proposition. “Mom, I am waiting for explanations,” he urged me.
I had initially been shocked. I knew I could no longer hide things from him.
“I can’t do such a thing. It’s immoral.” “We used to live in Jabalpur between 1977 and
“There is nothing wrong with it,” he had soothed 1980. You were an infant. Your father was not
me. “It is just that it is not so common in our country, killed in a road accident, as I had told you. He had
but in a few years it is sure to catch on. You are abandoned you and me and left with all my money
young, healthy and you are at no risk at all. And the and jewellery.”
money involved is considerable.” Abhi gaped at me in shock.
“All this money we now have and had is not your

he amount he mentioned took my breath away. father’s legacy to you, but because of me or rather
I could give Abhi whatever his heart desired. what I did. I told you lies because I did not want you
We could buy a small house of our own. Our to feel upset and humiliated on having a good-for-
future would be secure. And that is what set me nothing father and be ashamed of what I did.”
thinking. “What did you do?” he asked horrified.
“You will have to decide soon,” Dr Mathur had “Hear me out patiently,” I said. “And don’t
said gently. “The procedure is quite complicated interrupt. Science was not as advanced as it is
and there may be success immediately or may be today. Fertility techniques now have made it so easy
not. So it takes time.” for infertile men and women to have children. But in
“I agree,” I told Dr Mathur finally. “But there is 1979, it was quite difficult. An infertile couple was
one condition. They should not know my identity.” desperate to have their own child. They had all the
“But how is that possible?” Dr Mathur had asked money in the world, so they approached a doctor
me, annoyed. known to them who was a pioneer in the field of a
“That is my condition. I don’t think I have to come new fertility technique. He in turn approached a
in contact with them, do I?” young, healthy woman, to take part in the project.
“I will talk to them,” said the doctor, a bit Desperate for money and the future of her son, the
stumped by my demand. But I was adamant. young woman agreed.”
“It was you!” exclaimed Abhi, with both and stared at me as if I had gone mad.
astonishment and horror in his voice. I held up my “We pretend that we don’t know about Kamna’s
hand to silence him. origins. Her parents don’t know me. Kamna is their
“Yes, it was me. The project went through child biologically and genetically. She does not
successfully and the couple went home happily with have my blood or genes. I have just been a mother
a child, and the young woman with the promised to her when she was in the womb. And fate has
money. She immediately left the place and made a given me another chance to be a mother to her for
new life for herself and her son,” I paused. I knew the rest of my life. Isn’t it wonderful? She is really my
that the next words would shock Abhi. I bent daughter, isn’t she?”
forward and took his hands firmly in mine. Abhi broke into a huge grin after absorbing my
“Kamna was that child born to the couple. The words and hugged me.
couple are her parents and I was the surrogate “I love you, mom,” he said. “I know you always do right.”
mother who bore Kamna.” But suddenly his face clouded.
“But what about your husband, I mean my

bhi’s face showed no expression on hearing father?” he stammered at the unfamiliar words. “Is
my words. He seemed to be in a sort of he still alive?”
stupour. He shook his hands free from mine “That scoundrel” I exclaimed in scorn. “He was
and went and stood near the window, looking out killed in a drunken brawl about 10 years after he left
into the darkness. I waited quietly as long as I could, us. I met one of his friends by chance after I had left
then I felt I had to say something to break the silence Jabalpur and he gave me the news.”
and to justify myself. A great sense of relief flooded over Abhi’s face.
“Abhi, Kamna’s parents don’t know me at all. It “And remember, Kamna is not to know any of
was my condition that I would maintain my this. If she knows the truth and ever reveals
anonymity. But I got to know their names it to you, act surprised. And I am sure she
and they are embedded in my mind. I also
It would be will not know about me. Her parents
learnt that the child I had given birth to was wrong to anyway would not bother about the poor
a girl. There can be no mistake. That child deny that I woman who helped them have a child.
is Kamna.” had never Besides, today surrogacy, IV fertilisation,
It would be wrong to deny that I had thought babies from donor eggs and donor sperms
never thought about the child. After all, I about the are all so common, it is not such an issue
had nurtured her in my womb for nine that it was years ago.”
months. And wasn’t motherhood about child. After I stretched myself, feeling better than I
nurturing? But I knew that to forget the past all, I had had in the last few hours.
was best for the future and so I had tried not nurtured her “Now go and tell Kamna that I was not
to think of her. Maybe I would never have in my womb feeling well. Call her and I’ll talk to her.
revealed the truth to Abhi if Kamna had not for nine We’ll lunch together tomorrow. It’s the
entered our lives in such a fateful way. months. weekend, so you’ll both be free.”
“What happens now?” demanded Abhi Abhi jumped up and ran out of the
suddenly, facing me with anger and room and I followed him. With the way
anguish writ large on his face. “How could you have science was progressing, it is possible that in the
done such a thing? How can you keep such a thing future, a person would not be sure if a stranger he
hidden from me?” meets is genetically related to him or her or not. But
He collapsed in the chair, burying his face in his hands. now, I had to talk to my daughter, Kamna. We
“We do nothing,” I said as calmly as I could.
Abhi jerked his head abruptly out of his hands

158 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

The wonders of modern surgery.

By Maharaaj K. Koul
team of 16 surgeons and Speaking to reporters, visibly overcome by these dramatic
nurses at the Royal jubilant hospital chief Dr Leo Donnan developments. The twins shared
Children’s Hospital, said, “The teams managed to parts of their skull, brain tissue and
Melbourne, Australia, separate their brains and they are blood flow. Working through the
successfully separated both very well. Now we have the long night, the specialists took occasional
joined-at-the-head, three- task of reconstructive surgery, which food and rest breaks and listened to
year-old Bangladeshi twins will go on for many hours.” Plastic pop music in the operation theatre to
– Krishna and Trishna – surgeons, headed by stay alert as the operation
after more than 50 hours of Dr Tory Holmes ran hours past its
complicated surgery on 17 finished reconstructing scheduled midnight finish.
November 2009. The surgeons the girls’ skulls using “Everyone has known
described the moment as ‘surreal’. a combination of their these girls as one with their
The twins, rescued from certain own skin, bone grafts individual personalities, so
death in a Dhaka orphanage, had and artificial materials to see them as separate
been flown to Australia by the about five hours after human beings is a pretty
Children First Foundation Trust, an the separation surgery amazing moment,” said Dr
aid organisation, in November 2007. ended. Donnan.
With medical experts opining that the Moira Kelly, the But they were nursed
twins had only a 25 per cent chance girls’ legal guardian, back to health developing a
of survival, the doctors, who operated who brought them to unique system of crawling
on the orphans, say such a surgery is Australia from on their backs as they
a ‘once in a lifetime experience’. Bangladesh, was underwent a series of

160 Woman’s Era ● March (First) 2010

preparatory operations. One of the
separated twins, Trishna, woke up on ONE BODY, TWO VOTES!
19 November from the induced coma The voting exercise had just
to cuddle her caretaker Kelly, entered its second hour in May
triggering jubilation among the 2009 in the tiny Keshabpur village
surgeons as she showed signs of in Basirhat, North 24-Parganas,
normalcy. Krishna, the weaker of the West Bengal, when a pair of legs
two, who was close to death when walked into the lone polling station
they arrived in Australia, woke up there and, having right of way, beat
fully from her medically-induced the long queue to cast not one but
coma on 21 November. As her life- two votes. Both presses of the
support tubes were lowered, Krishna button on the EVM were perfectly
started reaching out for Trishna. legal. That’s because Jeheratun
Dr Wirginia Maixner, head of and Akheratun are inseparable –
neurosurgery, said that it was a sign not just for their love for each
of total recovery of the twins. The other, but the physical bond they
separated twins came out of the ICU share.
on 23 November to share a common The 41-year-old sisters became conjoined or the so-called Siamese
room, merrily eating and watching the country’s oldest living twins. Twins are formed by the
television. conjoined twins to vote, a record fertilisation of two ovums or the
made possible by a medical division of a single fertilised ovum.
miracle and a dogged desire to The latter is known as monozygotic
TRICKY SURGERY live. It was a strange picture when, twins, usually the division is complete
Separating conjoined twins is a hunched on a wooden chair on a and each member of the twin is born
notoriously difficult procedure with porch in front of their single-storey separate from the other.
attempts elsewhere failing over the house, the twins held up their voter The biological error causing the
last some years. Head surgeries in IDs for the world to see. While appearance of a conjoined twin is
any case are rare. In 2003, doctors in Jeheratun Necha Tannaccha, as thought to happen during the early
Singapore failed to separate two the name on the ID read, was all stages of development after
adult Iranian twins who died from smiles and more than eager on a conception. The fertilised egg
severe blood loss after a 52-hour- soundbite, the more media-shy somehow fails to divide fully as it
long-operation. Akheratun Necha Tannaccha begins the process of cell
Several different kinds of human preferred to look away and would multiplication, causing two balls of
twins are recognised, among them reply with ‘haan’ and ‘naa’ after cells to develop as separate
the most important are identical much persuation! individuals but permanently joined
twins, non-identical twins and together.

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Why are Siamese twins so called? conjoined twins is about one in conjoined barn swallows, attached at
The term ‘Siamese twins’ probably 200,000 births. the hip by skin and muscle tissue,
dates back to the famous pair of was found by a man in White County,
conjoined twins, Chang and Eng
Bunker born in Siam (now Thailand)
SUCCESSFUL Arakanas, US. The birds first
appeared to have only three legs, but
in 1811. The two were joined SEPARATION further examination found a fourth leg
together at the sternum by a thick, A team of senior doctors, led by tucked up underneath the skin was
muscular ligament and remained paediatric surgeon Dr Yogesh Sarin, connecting the pair!
united throughout their lives. at the Christian Medical College, With advances in medicine,
But that didn’t stop them from Ludhiana, Punjab, separated a set of conjoined twins, who may even be
settling down in the US, earning their Siamese twin girls, joined at the cranially attached to each other, can
living as ‘freaks’ in the famous abdominal region, after surgery now be separated successfully. And
Barnum and Baily Circus, getting lasting over 10 hours in August clinicians are merely marking time to
married to two different women, 1996. This was the second case in the day when they will be able to
fathering 21 children and leading India. The first such operation was disengage even more seriously
otherwise normal lives for 63 long conducted in Kolkata by Dr S. fused Siamese twins without major
years. The reason doctors couldn’t Chatterjee in 1986. He also operated hassle.
use the scalpel on them was because on twin girls, but he performed his However, some medical
a part of Eng’s liver was inside surgery in two phases, over four visionaries are contemplating the
Chang’s body. And, at that time, months. Till then only 12 cases of exact opposite – a day when
surgery wasn’t developed enough to attempted separation had been surgeons might have to artificially
handle it. It was also the reason why recorded in the world, but half of them create Siamese twins in order to save
Chang died minutes after Eng’s hand died soon after the operation. lives. They point out that in Chang
death even though he himself was Nepal-born 11-month-old and Eng’s case two individuals lived
healthy. The actual incidence of conjoined twins, Ganga and Jamuna off one organ for over 60 healthy
Shrestha, who were joined at the years and say that there is no reason
head were separated at the why any person with a damaged
Singapore General Hospital in April organ cannot be temporarily ‘hooked
2001 after a marathon 91-hour up’ to another person instead of a
operation by a team of doctors led by machine while waiting for a donor or
neurosurgeon Dr Keith Yu-Ching. artificial organ.
Their brains had become enmeshed Their answer to objections such
where they shared the same cavity. as who would be willing to go through
In the fourth such surgery in India such a procedure is simple: use
and the first in Chhattisgarh, a team people who have reached a
of surgeons led by Dr Ashok Sharma, permanent vegetative state. These
successfully conducted a rare are the unfortunate few who have
operation to separate 10-month-old suffered irreversible brain damage
conjoined twins Ram and Lakshman, with no hope of recovery – the very
at the government-run Dr Ambedkar cases that frequently end up in ethics
Hospital. The twins shared a courts wrangling over issues of
common liver and pancreas along euthanasia. Relatives of such people
with some other parts of the body. should also have no objections. After
But their hearts and urinary organs all, they could always reckon that
were separate. even in such a condition, their loved
And, believe it or not, a pair of one had helped save a life. We

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1. A situation which cannot be 1. A person appointed to watch people
while they are taking an exam to
avoided (10)
6. A cover over a container that can make sure that they have everything
be removed or opened by turning they need, that they keep to the
it or lifting it (3) rules, etc. (11)
7. A bitter taste made from malt (= a 2. Abbreviation for English Place-Name
type of grain) or wine, used to Society (4)
add flavour to food or to 3. Having a strong, bitter smell or tase
preserve it (7) that is unpleasant (5)
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when examined and used to find sense of style (7) crossword competition. I
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alcohol (6) thought (4)
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starts a process that can cause Name
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public place (6) 12. To confuse somebody completely; to

17. A list of items to be discussed at be too difficult or strange for

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a meeting (6)
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(such as Ann or doctor), a place sound, colour or sb’s feelings that is
(such as Paris or city) or a thing, not usually very obvious (5)
a quality or an activity (4) 18. A star that suddenly becomes much
22. Animals, birds, etc., not afraid of brighter for a short period (4)
people, and used to living with 20. Chemical symbol for the element

them (4) Molybdenum (2)

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Shailaja More, Dombivli. Naresh Sah, Faridabad. Sunder Singh, Champawal.

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8. Beau, 9. Satin, 10. XML,
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The grater will become totally clean which has a very simple solution.
and you can use all your cheese. Grease the measuring cup before
pouring the honey. The honey will
Please tell us a simple way to slice slide out easily without any of the
mushrooms. messy scraping that needs to be
The egg slicer in your kitchen can done.
be used to slice mushrooms and that
too in no time. When we make rice
pudding or what we call
The kitchen dusters reek of oil even ‘kheer’ in a saucepan
after washing them with hot water even a very heavy-
and detergent. Please advise. bottomed one, the milk
Soak soiled dusters in a mixture tends to stick to the
of hot water and gram flour (the old bottom. This imparts a
gram flour comes handy here) for burnt smell to the kheer.
some time before washing. The How can we avoid this?
Can you tell us a simple and practical duster will not have the oily smell. Take a clean and
way in which we can preserve thoroughly dry saucepan for the
potatoes for a longer period. When we have to measure honey or purpose, grease the bottom and
To solve this problem you do not some other sticky liquid for any sides with a little desi ghee, and then
have to go out of your house, or recipe, there is wastage and cleaning proceed in the normal way.
kitchen for that matter for the the measuring cup is also messy.
solution, as the solution lies in the How can we avoid this? How can we whip the white of an egg
neighbourhood – i.e. in the onion and This is a very common problem more quickly?
garlic basket. Just store the potatoes If a teaspoon of cold water is
with garlic. We are always added to the white of an egg, it will
getting to hear that whip more quickly.
Our kitchen scissors and knives tend pistachio nuts are – Savita Bhargava
to get rusted sooner or later however the best among all
careful we are with them. Please nuts. Is it true and
help. why?
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ON BREAST your life, you can save your life their outlook.
CANCER through early detection.” Women in apparel or call centres
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