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I made these notes for myself, some parts of the ebook might be misunderstood or left out, however I tried to pack as much useful information in this document as possbile. I am not entirely happy with the layout right now, an update might follow once I have more time to work on this document. I would love to hear some feedback. By badabum 3 fundamental elements to classic JM 1. Make her interesting - She has to be interesting enough to deserve your attention - You are gentleman enough to help her to show herself to you in the best possible way - there are no boring people in the world - proper structure for an elegant conersation: OEQ -> her answer -> your statement - each statement consists of two parts: reward and relate; "I perspective"; vacuum -> use vacuum more at beginning of convo and less at the end of conversation 2. Reward/ Relate - Reward - make her feel liked - You are the man who gives approval wihtout seeking approval from others - three things to reward - what she says - how she says it - what she does while saying it - reward as - push/ pull - verbal reward - nonverbal rewards - a smile - touching - Relate - Relate to a topic - good if same opinion, bad if different opinion - Relate to an emotion - she likes cats -> „i like motorcycles...“ - if what she says is negative first relate to negative emotion and then switch from the negative emotion to the opposite positive one 3. Escalate - probably the most important element! - escalation is the continuous, conscious, deliberate act of deepening the rapport with a woman - counterintuitively the best way to deepen rapport is to break it and make your partner in the converation invest her effort to building it - it's rude not to escalate, she feels as if he keeps her at a disctance by being cold, stuck-up and snobbish - she wants him to become closer to her, she creates opportunities to do so - by escalating you give a woman what she seeks - you confirm her desirability, you validate her status as a female - among the number of actions creating the escalation one is particularly important ->
kino comes before the words (and will continue throughout the entire interaction) . on the small of her back and so on .kino is not a problem. begin with the back of her hand.difference night and daygame -> women in clubs and bars are open to meeting and interacting with strangers.here the structure of the conversation is usually the least important consideration .the touch "kino" . it's a solution .solution: remove unnecessary obstructions by giving a full commitment to one task only_ the physical act of approach as such.touch is a reward.women are used to men trying to show themselves in the best possible way .Opening .) -> gradually proceed to her shoulder. . less obvious opening .pre. health food markets and coffee shops are more reserved.clear your mind completely and approach a woman and then say the very first thing that comes to your mind .also a form of escalation .she will invest her efforts in building the rapport that you would deliberately undermine again and again by push/ pull . touch her after she says/does something cute or when she opens up to you . squeeze it and see if she squeezes back.blank mind opening works best ."nightgame" -> open with kino.don't confuse yourself by thinking of what you are going to say.bragging does not work too well -> JM alternative: Disqualification (DQ) . . later hold her hand. on the back of the neck.escalation phase: approach .Approach Anxiety -> confusion of a man whose mind and body have to deal with too many tasks at a time .by revealing your vulnerabilities to a woman you demonstrate that you are perfectly comfortable with who you are .common that for a few moments you get to answer the questions from the set. daygame requires a smoother. toherwise the pot grows cold" several phases of escalation in JM .critical phase .kino and verbal opening begin this phase .Demonstrating high value . deal with that after the approach.touch a woman on the outside of the arm (or leg if seated) and hold the contact for a few moments .Neutral phase (often wrongly called "platonic") . kiss her wrist softly.reveal your vulnerabilities to a woman you are speaking with . put your fingers between hers. etc. .hand kino escalation: only touch a woman's hand and nothing else.verbal part .you make her want more of the same and make her work harder to deserve your rewards .e. .touching must escalate -> start small (forearm p. women in bookstores. on the back.you don't want to be compared to the "perfect man" Escalation: "there must be a flame under the pot all the time.verbal reward/ relate .
I know exactly what you mean."what's your relationship situation?" ."who are you here with" ..transition to the topic of relationships and it is easy to transition to the topic of human sexuality .purpose of neutral phase: make people comfortable with the idea of you becoming a part of their group . ask her questions about sex .I know where you are coming from.even more personal with your OEQ and reward/ relate.I'm like that too."I".I can (totally. "You" and "sexy" must be in it . Reward/ Relate (every now and then use push/ pull as an indirect reward) .surmountable obstaces . I have a boyfriend" .during this phase Kino is used to deepen the rapport .statement structure (which will continue throughout the whole interaction) . don't make it special to you the most important principle of JM -> it's all about having fun .if no one in the set asks questions you do .always stay with a woman for some time after you close her and build more rapport (otherwise she might think you just took her to "score") .use every opportunity to disqualify yourself.ask a series of increasingly personal OEQ. running fingers through her hair.. neck rub.she either reacts favorably or she hides her reaction (which is also a sign of acceptance) . to make her feel good. . etc. positively.Yeah.instant date close .build up sexual tension by creating sexual barriers -> impose certain obstacles between you and her .. ."routines" for relating .now the purpose of kino is to give a woman physical pleasure.date close .bring that topic up before she does "you know.Sexual .) relate to that.SOA: begins second phase of escalation: .never hesitate to repeat it if she asks what was it that you just said .Close ... caressing her tenderly anywhere she wants ....third turning point of escalation: statement of intent "I like the way you.at some point she will say something that you genuinely find sexy about her .Finally she makes a commitment by revealing a significant bit of the unique personal information for the first time -> you place the second turning point of escalation: statement of approval .answer .don't get stuck in the neutral phase. I find it sexy about you" .back rub.. keep it short . continue it throughout the interaction .don't make a big deal out of it..#C .move to asking them very light OEQ and initiate the question ....Personal . absolutely.email close . .kc . . ...come up with a convenient reason to move the woman away from the group of her friends ..
direct questions . desperatly craving pleasure.I feel great riding my motorcycle as fast as I can along the empty highway. In fact it has very little to do with friendship. there are two subjects you want to talk about: who she is as a woman and as a person and who you are as a man and as a person . joyful givers. freedom.I feel free every time i breathe fresh air. The notion of a man as a taker is wrong and useless. the person whose body is neglected suffers the pangs of unrequited love. humor.a man gives to a woman the feeling of sexual relief.everything related to giving a woman the feeling of sexual relief makes her feel appreciated as a person . comfort. you must give her the emotions you want her to experience.. curious. .. friendyl.also through words . adventorous.when was the last time you felt perfectly free .If you want a woman to have sex with you. irresponsible.I feel your pain . fun. thrilled.direct statement ... tense. p.I would not recommend to greet a woman with anything too smart or too complicated. in love.when was the last time something was so funny that you couldn't suppress your laughter and didn't care if anyone was listening? . fulfilmment.a man gives to a woman the joy of male companionship. . because it reminds me that I quit smoking and am now free from the addiction! It's a big thin for me! .don't be aggressive/ desperate .If both of you admire each other spiritually.usually the man sees himself as a taker. pleasure. it's like this with me too.everything related to giving a woman the male companionship makes her feel appreciated as a person . because true friendship must always be fair .indirect questions . . tone of your voice or through your body language .it's equally essential that she makes you feel appreciated as a man and as a person. . intoxicated with you. aroused. desire. excitement. do not try to be too creative .e. not caring about anything in the whole world . he want's something that a woman can give him.various channles. which she craves as intensely as the man craves the female companionship from a woman. risky. in a certain sequence . . horny. relaxed. keep it simple. You must feel confident that she likes your body AND your soul .to make a woman feel appreciated as a sexual and spiritual being you must find out who she is as a sexual and spiritual being.a woman craves to be appreciated as a woman and she craves to be appreciated as a person .after opening change subject. sexual tension.safe.indirect statement . It must be eliminated and replaced by the opposite notion: men must see themselves as generous. but only one of you makes the other feel physically appreciated.You should stay with a woman only if she loves and respects you . which she craves from a man much more intensely than a man craves it from her . naughty.Yes.
find out as much as possible about her ."you help a woman to find out who you are" -> she must invest effort in finding out who you are.why does a person believe that a man can be easily motivated by fear? because that person himself is easily motivated by fear.or with someone other than me . If she is happy with me. i know that he is a coward ."you help her to become curious about who you are". If she is truly happy without me .. neither are we curious about things we know nothing about.begin with the most boring things. also known as intimidation or suspense .reveal as little as possible about yourself . . and more often than not is experienced after the event.man made. . The community gives such men the illusory validation and illusory fulfillment. if you simply make the information available to her.the leaders invest a lot of effort into making the courthsip seem very difficult . be concise . gradually progress to reveal increasingly more interesnting ones.when someone tries to intimidate me.three principles of personal storytelling .how you can achieve this: . to trigger fear in me.You take action to achieve what you want . .is an illusion to make courtship appear difficult .when you talk about yourself. by channeling all their efforts into a vain activity that requires bits of fake knowledge those men otherwise would not need.the natural fear is instantaneous. easy to manipulate market for their products and services. my love is fulfilled. keep the facts you find truly fascinating about yourself for as much later as you can . she might not be interested in processing that information .my love is fulfilled the pick-up community is continuously brainwashing the huge army of insecure men for the purpose of creating stable. so I want her to be happy.A MAN DOES NOT NEED TO DO ANYTHING SPECIAL IN ORDER TO HAVE SEX WITH A WOMAN HE FINDS ATTRACTIVE Approach Anxiety .Natural fear . she has the right to choose what she wants .You want something . But she chooses her happiness.the classic "brain washed" PUA does not realize that he would get laid anyway by just going out there and talking to a woman.tell your stories one small bit of a time what is love? I love a woman.Artificial Fear .it is a biological pre-programmed reaction to a dangerous situation . .we can only be curious about things we know a little about.two fundamental types of fear . We are not curious about things that are completely familiar. .Resistance .
For her you are unlike most men she has ever met. She wants to find out more about you. it only means that the resistance is delayed. you experience a powerful surge of energy.You want to meet a woman. This is the way of the rapist . and is already over before you begin to experience the fear . The true man knows that a woman might yet change her mind. On the other hand. and he knows that a woman is responsible for her own choices.most men misinterpret sexual tension as anxiety.contempt and self. ten. the energy of sexual tension. and you will encounter somewhat stronger resistance after a certain time interval elapses . even though she has not changed it. walk away. . knowing very well that you can give her something she craves. But your mind remains calm: You know how to control and direct this energy. You expect her resistance as something perfectly normal. So you wait.When you see a woman you like.If you do not experience resistance right after you take action to achieve what you want.A man can do something to architect a certain set of circumstances and/or influence the mind of a woman in such ways that her will. Then he is gone to pursue another woman.As soon as you take those steps towards a woman.A man can accept her will with respect to her as a human being. You let the energy grow: you wait three.loathing .The tension is never relieved properly. there are three things a man can do when a woman rejects him . . She is disarmed by your kindness.Approach anxiety is sexual tension . the more resourceful.You experience the RESISTANCE . and is curious about you.most people refuse to face the reality of resistance. . the true man knows that he would never do things to make a woman feel inferior. you know that the more energy you accumulate during this ecstatic moment. You know her resistance will not bother you. This is the way of a victim. You take action: you approach a woman. You let this energy build up until it is nearly overwhelming. . is no longer considered valid.Fear cannot last long .and she might even expect you to geht angry. and to hate himself for being unlikable.. and begin to hate the woman for having rejected him. Instead. She resists your approach . .You take action to overcome the resistance and achieve what you want . Then he finds a way to go around what she really wants and she ends up having sex with him. and he knows the importance and power of noble friendship.seconds if necessary until the tension reaches its absolute peak. the more attractive it will make you. and the man turns his own mind against himself. and treat her as a noble friend would.in most situations of natural fear the frightening situation lasts only a split second. the smarter. they have unrealistic expectations. you react to her resistance with KINDNESS. She begins to see you for who you are: the hero. five. This is the way of a true man. the tension is replaced by the intoxicating feeling of relief. .A man can get upset. All the wonderful energy he has built up to approach a woman is now inversed and invested into the feelings of self.
-Open up gradually.. .complimenting a very attractive woman on her looks on the approach has the effect of wearing a T-shirt with a slogan." I do not believe in the Golden Rule: I believe in the Platinum Rule.Girls are socially conditioned to think of themselves as buyers on the meat market. A man who takes himself too seriously appears ridiculous to most women. You want to reverse the role and make her feel she's a seller Inner game . . no woman will make him happy. Confidence comes from acknowledging and respecting your own authority over your life -You cannot be the authority over the life of anyone else. The Golden Rule implies treating others as we want to be treated."I think.Showing early sexual interest in a woman is the main problem with many men.Alpha nice .do not "spill the guts" to someone you have just met. .if a guy is not happy in the first place. -A man needs to check his values and follow the path that leads to true happiness. an idiot with zero social skills . Not by the Hollywood standards or any other social standards. When a woman asks a question you do not want to answer don't answer it.a man who takes himself seriously is very attractive to most women.confidence does not come from success.the goal of JM is to direct both categories of people.rooted in "alpha nice" -> ability to express oneself comes from taking charge of own life and taking absolute responsibility for own choices. therefore I am" – Descartes . Do not try too hard to build rapport. make each of the steps in that process a reward to her for taking a step towards you . simply because in their life they are the true and ultimate authorities. success comes from confidence. this is all much more personal. -the key to developing the healthy self is connecting to own EMOTIONS and bringing those emotions out there .Do not make yourself emotinally available to her before she has deserved it. the Platinum Rule means treating the others as they want to be treated" Fundamental principles . the neurotic nice guy and the neurotic rebel to the path of true self expression. .You are the true and ultimate authority over your life . . .
women know guys who try to brag but in most times they are polite and listen and are not really interested.if you make a statement that sticking with your ethical standards is more important to you than having sex with her.high ethical standards work as a aphrodisiac on many attractive women .Ordinary human females need ordinary human males for sex and male companionship.first -> back of your hand on her forearm. You fit in the category and possess the required characteristics..hand on the back below the neck . and much more than any kind of physical appearance. .hold your hand on her neck for some time .Your actual existence means that women want you .You exist in the form of an ordinary human male. . . .your mind and your body are worth much more than any motor vehicle or any piece of real estate. .If you believe that your existence is not an accident . .hand on the middle of her back . do not try to entertain a woman unless she has taken some effort.hand on the small of her back . therefore I am desirable" .Special exercise -> never touch a women more than once on the same spot of her body. much more than any social position.treat yourself with much more respect than you would treat a Ferrari . no matter how high it is.arm around her shoulders . no matter how attractive you find her that might actually serve as a powerful disqualification/ sexual barrier. if seated touch her on the outside of her thigh .hand on her buttock .don't be an entertainer."I am. unless she is not very receptive and you feel you have to pull back a litte.hand on shoulder .Demetrius .be in the moment .arm around her waist .
hold her hand. . if you make longish statements you discover her just nodding and saying yes or no.make sure that your head does not move when you speak most of the time. the ideal conversation is nonverbal .the ultimate mastery in any human craft comes from the opposite of that craft .keep your statements concise.Rattlehead . . . . ..fling your arms slightly around your body while walking. the ultimate mastery in painting comes when the painter rejects his technical skills and paints with his heart .kiss .the art of war is winning without fighting. Men who feel weak act defensively.men who feel guilty for having sexual interest act defensively.Be innocent and act like you are strong.not knowing about a topic is better for having a conversation .don't do it . .Torso lock .Body language . .learn the "fat man walk" .keep in mind that touching needs to be calibrated . listen earnestly. such men cannot be afraid of women.men who accept the fact that there is no guilt in wanting sex are innocent. not saying a word.the ultimate art of conversation lies in silence . Do your best to move your head slow and smooth .straight arms lock .the ideal rapport is when the two people gaze at the eyes of each other.while listening -> do not smile.bent arm lock -train yourself to keep your arms along the sides of your trousers while talking to people when you and they are standing -fists in the pockets .when she asks you a question you can ask her how she would answr it. do not break tension. Men who know that they are stronger and therefore should act from the position of emotional and physical generosity.
frisky fingers . . Simply give yourself a few moments to observe them and it will become clear for you how open they might be to interacting with you.how do you encounter resistance phrases like "i have a boyfriend" "f* off" .. one thing I enjoy the most is a well.prolonged eye contact.once you started a converation you are in partial control of their sociability level.relaxed face. What's your bliss?" . make a conscious effort to be erect.windmill arms -treausure your gesturs. only use them to emphasize the most important points of what you're saying.two possible mindsets a stranger might be in -> sociable and unsociable .stop it . Do it in a smooth. relaxed face. slow fashion.root the heel of your shoe firmly in the floorboards .how to begin a conversation with a woman . proceed with I statements .prolonged eye contact. Now let's talk about you. cold .stand up firmly on your feet. neck and body and of course friendly smile -> vibe. So. warm." I have a boyfriend" " You could sound a little more tnthusiastic. ."fat man's walk" . semi. as if your hands and arms move through water.Vacuum and vibe are the two opposite sides of physical charisma . softly .people in the unsociable mindset are occupied with something else so you need to get there attention without scaring them.the skill of recognizing the sociability level in each particular person before you approach them is incredibly easy to master.bent legs lock .true mastery of physical charisma can be achieved by combining the vibe and the vacuum in a perfect proportion suitable for a specific situation . hard. -legs lock . no smile. frozen but relaxed neck and body. -> Vacuum.done crusty barbecue with lemon and a flask of brandy by the campfire after a long day of flying."fat man's walk" .reframe "i have a boyfriend" as her seeking approval. .leg shake .body rocking . . relaxed.
secondary goal: make that woman re. not over the top high energy .approach soft and low energy.end the conversation on a high note and leave .relate: justify her negative emotional reaction in a plausible way .primary goal: leave gracefully and immediately and feel good about it.agree with her emotion .reward: presume her high value .if a woman you had just approached gives you a negative raction you can do the following . .open you and apologize ..