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Personality Development Tips

Personality Development Tips

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  • Tips To Be Organized
  • Psychosocial Stages Of Development
  • How To Be Happy Alone
  • Interpersonal Communication Skills
  • How To Improve Posture
  • How to Stay Motivated
  • Importance Of Time
  • Inferiority Complex Symptoms
  • How To Boost Self Esteem
  • Fear Of Talking
  • Positive Self Talk
  • How To Overcome Fear Of Heights
  • Self Motivation Techniques
  • How To Be Calm
  • Causes Of Low Self Esteem
  • How To Develop Habits
  • Characteristics Of A Healthy Personality
  • Easy Ways To Change Your Image
  • Benefits Of Anger Management
  • How To Avoid Bullying
  • How To Improve Working Memory
  • How To Make Powerful First Impression
  • Self Confidence Exercises
  • Confidence Building Exercises
  • How To Develop Self Discipline
  • Problems In Learning A Language
  • How To Grow Old Gracefully
  • The Traits Of Successful Entrepreneurs
  • Characteristics Of A Leader
  • How To Overcome Shyness With Women
  • How To Get Rid Of Regret
  • How To Quit Quitting
  • How To Get Rid Of Fear Of Rejection
  • How To Be Assertive
  • How To Get Rid Of Unwanted Thoughts
  • How To Be A Good Leader
  • Effective Leadership Skills
  • What Your Handshake Says About You
  • How To Use Eye Contact For Conversation Success
  • Public Speaking Skills
  • Ways To Feel Good About Yourself
  • How To Cheer Yourself Up
  • Dealing With Setbacks
  • Personal Goals In Life
  • How To Deal With Cravings
  • How To Utilize The Positive Power Of Thinking
  • How To Have A Witty Conversation
  • Positive Thinking Tips And Tricks
  • Self Esteem Building Activities
  • How To Cure Loneliness
  • How To Get Out Of A Bad Mood
  • How To Overcome Fear Of The Dark
  • How To Be A Natural Leader
  • How To Improve Poise
  • Tips On Organizing Time
  • Utilizing Constructive Criticism
  • How To Be More Thankful
  • The Art Of Public Speaking
  • How To Stay Happy At Home
  • How To Become A Mentally Stronger Person
  • How To Keep From Having A Judgmental Attitude
  • How To Think Like A Millionaire
  • How To Get Someone Off Your Mind
  • How To Stop Procrastination
  • How To Reinvent Yourself
  • How To Increase Word Power
  • How To Give A Great Speech
  • Overcoming Fear Of Abandonment
  • How To Be Gracious
  • Articulation Exercises
  • How To Control Anger Outbursts
  • Why Reading Is Important
  • How To Become A More Reliable Person
  • How To Start A Daily Routine
  • Mastering The Art Of Conversation
  • How To Forgive Your Own Mistakes
  • Active Listening Activities
  • How To Be Respectful Towards Others
  • Overcoming Fear Of Intimacy
  • How To Forgive And Forget When Someone Hurts You
  • How To Impress People
  • How To Overcome Procrastination
  • Positive Thinking Exercises
  • Confidence Building Techniques
  • How To Avoid Being Rushed In The Morning
  • How To Lead A Discussion
  • How To Be Assertive Without Being Arrogant
  • How To Have A Great Conversation
  • How To Win An Argument
  • How To Learn When To Say No
  • How To Take A Compliment
  • How To Improve Listening Skills
  • How To Improve Your Social Skills
  • How To Make A Great First Impression
  • Positive Communication Techniques
  • How To Be A Good Speaker
  • How To Get Rid Of Performance Anxiety
  • How To Stay Mentally Sharp
  • How To Get Rid Of Peer Pressure
  • How To Learn Sign Language
  • How To Convince Others
  • How To Change Your Attitude
  • How To Cope With Shyness
  • How To Know You Are Jealous Of Her
  • How To Accept Yourself
  • How To Handle Difficult People
  • How To Avoid Negative Thinking
  • How To Break Bad Habits
  • How To Get Rid of A Bad Reputation
  • How To Sweet Talk
  • How To Get Respect
  • How To Handle Criticism
  • How To Make People Listen To You
  • Developing Critical Thinking Skills
  • How To Become A Motivational Speaker
  • How To Socialize With People
  • How To Control Your Emotions
  • How To Be Happy
  • How To Start Up A Conversation
  • How To Be Funny
  • Signs Of An Insecure Person
  • How To Be Popular
  • How To Be Charming
  • Tips For Being More Outgoing
  • How To Look Your Best
  • How To Be Beautiful
  • How To Be Cool
  • How To Be Smart
  • Effective Leadership Qualities And Skills
  • How To Control My Feelings When Upset
  • How To Open Up To People
  • How To Gain Confidence

Tips To Be Organized

Getting things organized on time is the key to minimize your stress. If you are the kind of a person who keeps things pending for the last minute and then end up in a mess, then perhaps it is the right time to gear up and get things organized to avoid those last minute scrambling. It can be often challenging to get things organized if you are doing that for the first time. However, if you are ready to take some extra efforts, you can help reduce your stress level to a great extent. But, what is actually meant by getting organized and from where to start are the two obvious questions that come to mind when it comes to getting organized. If you too are contemplating on where to get started and to become more organized in day to day life then here are some tips to help you get started. Getting Organized Time Management Are you always in hurry and rushing for your daily chores? Do you find yourself in a mess and do you find it difficult to remember things? If yes, then perhaps you need to organize your time more efficiently. Maintain a To Do list and schedule all your appointments in a notebook. Stick to only one notebook instead on using multiple calendars to schedule your appointments. Check the notebook regularly so that you don’t miss any appointments. This way you can avoid overtaxing your brain with preoccupying thoughts. Do not overbook yourself with tasks, find some time for relaxation too. Catch up with friends and spend time with families so that you don’t overstress yourself. Organizing Home Do you live in a cluttered home filled with unnecessary things? Does cleaning home sound a herculean task to you? A cluttered home can drain both your time and finances. A nicely organized home not only creates an abode of peace, but also impresses your guests. If you too want your home to look simple and organized, why wait for the springs? Any time is the right time to create a soothing, simple, and organized home to return to. If you are living in a messy home, set a schedule for your home cleaning agenda. Hire help if required. If you have the money to invest, call a gardener, a decorator, or a professional organizer to get things in order. This will also help you save a lot of time so that you can do some productive work. Make

cleaning a fun activity so that you don’t get bored and give up the task. Include your kids and other family members to help you in the job. Take a break at intervals, sit back, and relax. Making things in order is great but maintaining things in place are difficult. Take necessary steps so that your cleaning doesn’t go in vain. Getting Workplace Organized Is your work desk always filled with clutters and old stationeries? If yes, then try getting your workplace more organized. Check your pen holder and get rid of old pens that do not write any more. Don’t feel bad to throw out unnecessary items. The more you dispose out clutters, the more organized will be your workplace. Organize your desk drawers and make room for subtle items. If you don’t have a drawer, use the place below your monitor to give home to your calculator, PDA, wallet, keys, phones, etc. Organize your files and folders and label them appropriately so than you don’t have to hunt for them. Do you grab an envelope to scribble telephone numbers and addresses and then couldn’t find them when needed? Rather maintain a notebook for this purpose so that you don’t have difficulty finding them

Psychosocial Stages Of Development
It is quite fascinating to grasp and understand how a person grows into an individual with a set of responsibilities from infancy to adulthood. This developmental process in a human being is explained and defined by many psychoanalysts and social scientists. One such definition comes from a Danish-German-American developmental psychologist Erik Erikson. Erikson is famous for his theory on the stages of psychosocial development in a person. Erikson’s theory holds and explains eight stages of development through which an individual passes, namely from infancy to late adulthood. These stages defined by Erikson throw new challenges for an individual which he/she hopefully masters towards the next stage of development. Each stage depends on the successful completion of the previous stages, and if a person fails to master a particular stage, then

he/she might experience problems in later stages. Let us discuss in detail Erikson’s psychosocial stages of development here in the sections to follow. Erikson’s Psychosocial Stages Of Development Basic Trust Vs Mistrust This is the stage which starts with the birth of the child when he/she has no knowledge of the world and is completely dependent on his/her parents, especially the mother. The parents become the basis of their existence and it is the type of environment they are brought up in, which influence their behaviour later in life. This is a stage where the child develops the value of hope and learns to love and trust people because of the loving and caring environment the child receives. This stage lasts till two years of age. Autonomy Vs Shame And Doubt The second stage in the psychosocial development of a person is when the dependent infant grows up into a toddler. This is the time when the child learns to move around freely, and with this freedom of movement he/she explores the things around them, make choices of food, toys, games etc. If the parents grant this freedom to their child and encourage their child’s independence, then the child will grow up to become a competent person. However, if parents become overprotective and keep a check on all the movements of the child, then the child will lack in confidence and competence to take risks in life. Initiative Vs Guilt This stage begins when a child turns 3 yrs of age and continues till the age of 5. This is the first social experience of the child where they attend preschool and make friends, interact with them, and explore his/her power and control over peers while playing. This is the time when the child should be encouraged to socialize and stay in the social environment so that they can develop a sense of purpose to achieve something. This stage also develops the leadership quality in the kid, who if discouraged will lack these qualities and will find it guilty to take initiatives. Industry Vs Inferiority The fourth stage of development starts from 5 yrs of age and continues till the child is 13. This is the stage where children start attending school, experiences a greater degree of independence, start understanding and differentiating between people and cultures, learn reading, writing and presenting amidst other skills which they try to master. Children should get full support in this stage not only from their parents, but from their teachers also. They should be encouraged to participate, learn and take failures in a positive way and not get demotivated by them. If the kids don’t get enough

support and guidance in this stage. This is the stage where a person becomes an adult. A person who is scared of commitment and intimacy will stay isolated and depressed. This is the stage where a person learns to care for others and give back to the society what he/she has received from it. This is a stage where a person reflects back on his/her life and analyzes the achievements and failures. This is the stage when the person is in the middle of adulthood and has his/her set career and family. if a person has experienced failures then he/she develops a sense of despair for his/her life. The environment in the previous stages has a great role to play in judging a person’s behaviour in this stage. has his/her own identity and is ready to share their sense of identity with others by forming intimate relationships based on love and commitment. However. If a person has achieved success in all the earlier stages he/she develops a sense of integrity and wisdom. they get stagnated and experience a life without any meaning to it. This is a stage when the teenagers need to cope with his/her physical changes and understand gender roles. especially friendship. The parents in this stage needs to be very careful in handling the behavioural changes of the growing teenagers for them to grow into confident and responsible individuals. society. If people fail to achieve this sense of care. Identity Vs Role Confusion This is the stage of adolescence and is the most crucial stage among all the stages of development. Intimacy Vs Isolation This stage encompasses people between the age group of 20-40. careers etc. This is a stage where teenagers are confused because they are expected to act neither like kids nor like adults. They develop a sense of faithfulness and start attaching importance to relationships. Generativity Vs Stagnation This stage is totally dependent on the success of the other stages of development. it will affect their growth in later stages of development. Ego Integrity Vs Despair This is the last stage in the stages of psychosocial development where a person’s ego identity is fully developed. . The teenagers in this stage try and develop their individuality in relationships.

No external factors to dissuade you. You will soon encounter your new companion that fails to blabber like a fool. So why don’t you drown your entire state of mind into a hobby? Take advantage of your solitude to be productive. Experience the inexperienced as you are now privileged with the liberty whatever your heart desires. death of a partner and isolated job transfers are typical case scenarios that exemplify the birth of loneliness. Ways To Be Happy Alone Get a Hobby Wonder why Einstein loved his solitude? The only logical justification would the fact that he occupied himself with all those creatively stimulating experiments. . Master the art of pottery or photoshop.“I lived in solitude in the country and noticed how the monotony of a quiet life stimulates the creative mind” Who wouldn’t want to follow the footstep of the genius that discovered the Theory of Relativity? No doubt. Fly a kite. a select few would leap out in joy at the mere prospect of solitude while some just have no choice.“Every Cloud has a silver lining”. it is foolish to think that finding happiness alone is impossible. certainly yearn for the warmth of a human being. However. Re-discover the real you! You never know where you really belong. Not everybody is Einstein. Change Is Good Obama said it and was soon after crowned the president of United States. Learn an Instrument and form a garage band. In fact. There are countless remedies to combating loneliness. Accept the change that is your state of aloneness and bask in the novelty of it. Pick a paintbrush and paint the world! The clock will tick its way to the next week and you may not even feel the pinch of loneliness. Of course. Most of us can barely survive an hour without a cell phone. others desperately try to fill the void. And for those that aren’t. mind and soul. by the time you arrive at the bottom of this page you might find yourself whispering. the absence of a separate human entity can land a devastating effect on a lonely soul. A Marriage annulment.How To Be Happy Alone The world’s most popular scientist Albert Einstein once wisely confessed. Silence impregnates their surroundings and threatens to slaughter all scope for joy. While some people choose loneliness. Nevertheless. living alone is no sane person’s fantasy. Explore deep into the confines of your body. let alone live a week in solitary confinement.

Dance or sing to any background music. but if you do not have the right interpersonal skills to complement your credentials. you cannot expect to get ahead without good people skills. Strong interpersonal communication skills are . relinquish all thoughts of discontentment. Nevertheless. Whether you are brimming with energy for an important presentation. Volunteer your time to those less fortunate than yourself. a social service community. your social life and more importantly. Browse the internet or scan the yellow pages and you will stumble upon a group activity that inexorably will grab your attention. Interpersonal Communication Skills You may have the most impressive line-up of degrees and may boast of refined skills. if you know the art to convey your message clearly. Take long silent walks along the beach or jog around the neighborhood. Remember. chairing a conference or simply running for a plum job offer. even a goldfish encircling a tiny circular bowl vanquishes the gloom triggered by lack of companionship. Allow the music to reverberate within you. people can act difficult and can cold shoulder your views and opinion. if you can’t cope with loneliness. You know you will always have somebody to welcome you home! Be Physically Active Learn to be happy and comfortable with your solitude. Now you certainly aren’t bound by family or social obligations. Exercise in your spare time and release the endorphins that reward you with bouts of ecstasy. Register yourself and get to know more people. Joining a gym would benefit your health. cat or rabbit! Irrespective of the breed or size. then even the toughest opposition can become a pushover for you. So. consider buying or adopting a pet of your choice. Get A Pet Do you miss the comfort of having your sibling or roommates breathing heavily before you fall into a slumber? Find solace in the warmth and compassion provided a fuzzy little dog.Join A Community It could be a book club. Absorb yourself in new tasks and get accustomed to news ways of living. yoga classes or a trekking camp. you are pretty much a lost case.

If you cannot respect others and make them feel comfortable. But. it also encourages others to revert to you with concentrated attention and zeal. loud. effective communication begins with effective listening and one of the best ways to make the most of it is to belt up and listen. views. The cue is to pay attention to people and make them feel worthy. Not only does it leave you with a fair idea of others’ feelings. Be On The Ball Handing criticisms is an impressive quality. so you better mind what it says! Body language is one of the crucial parameters of non-verbal communication and an effective instrument of interpersonal communication. but if you cannot connect to your audience and appreciate their views. In case you do not have the required interpersonal skills. you better buck up to make the most of your abilities. Listening is deemed as one of the crucial parameters of all interpersonal dealings. but can be easier said than done! It is easy to bump into people with different opinions and ideas. . Get A Grip! You may possess the daintiest of demeanors and may be the suavest of talkers. Remember. you are definitely on the losing end. rude and snob person. you will be deemed as a schmuck who blows out lots of smoke. posture and gesture to convey the right message. The key objective is to interact with others in a positive way and ultimately get them to know you better and appreciate you. Imagine being turned off a job or a deal just because your body language did not respond convincingly or worse did not back your words! So.a necessary tool to evade workplace conflicts and even stub away personal miscommunications. Mind Your Body Language! Your body blurts out oodles about you. One of the most endearing traits of successful interpersonal skills is deference. Effective Interpersonal Communication Skills Listen Up! You may have a million-dollar look and mouth a million worth words. then your soft skills are pretty much a bummer. Remember. opinions and ideas. nobody fancies an aggressive. but if you do not have ears for your audience. Read on to know more on effective interpersonal communication skills. you better buck up your tone.

How To Improve Posture How often have you romanced the idea of losing your paunch without having to toil hours on the treadmill or guzzling gallons of carrot juice? Nothing underlines an unwanted paunch like a sloppy stance. sit and walk right. Now. but if you cannot stitch a few words to assert your worth and make yourself appear valuable. So. roll your tongue and speak out your worth. criticisms can be constructive too. make sure you do it tactfully. then your deeds and feats are useless. stay calm and preserve your dignity. Asserting is a sign of the winner! So. Remember. The right posture will not only leave you feeling fit. without offending anybody’s sentiments. Here are some ways on how to improve your posture. Also. but you would also get high on confidence. In all cases. Remember. you put undue strain on your spine that not only escalates your chronic back pain. Just take criticisms with a pinch of salt. Stop Being A Pushover While it is good to be perceived as a nice guy. Remember. You will be amazed to see what a slimming effect a tall. you aren’t vying for a robot-like body! So. Do away with that spare tire and flaunt a more silhouetted figure. but also causes your body to stoop over time. right posture doesn’t have to mean that you carry a poker-straight body every time. you might just as well put in some effort to stand. understand that being treated like a pushover at the expense of your career. just by holding your body in the right posture. while handing out criticisms. erect posture can have on you. dump the myth and work towards a more perfectly coordinated posture. Who knows it may be aimed at your betterment! The mantra is to adapt to the situation and learn to toy the dynamics of the conversation. everywhere. Take a heed and get trotting! .that doesn’t really have to bog you down. When you let your body sag. in case you are putting in all that extra effort to eat right and exercise right. you may have the skills and abilities. confidence and interpersonal relationships is not worth it! Stop being a walkover and assert your worth by learning to say ‘no’ and expressing yourself ardently.

if not get you flying! All you have to do is stand straight and imagine a balloon tied to your head. shoulders and hips in complete coordination. Ensure that your chair’s backrest has a natural curve that fits into the hollow of your back. When seated. Kick the bad habit and dump the chair and get moving. Walking once in every thirty minutes will save your muscles from tiring out and also save you from the hump later on in life! • Doesn’t matter if you are hanging out with your friends in the club or reclining in your office cafeteria . heave your chest and draw your head back to the chest. Strenuous hours on your chair can get the better of your spine and get it slouching. Thinking so will get you posing upright naturally. While you inadvertently filed away the flak then. it is never too late to work towards a healthy body. there is indeed no escape from lot of slumping around. getting the right lumbar support can make a big difference.Improving Posture • How often have you slouched in your couch and pinned about your flagging gait? Correct posture is something that doesn’t come easy to most of us and it definitely deserves an all-out effort to stop one from slumping. always make sure that your spine is in sync with the backrest.Standing straight doesn’t have to mean that you tense up your back. which is wrong. • This one is especially for the high-heeled ladies out there! Heels are indeed the worse affliction women can subject themselves too. However. you definitely regret now about not having taken a stand then. If you are caught in a desk job. Nonetheless. Always rest the soles of your feet flat on the floor while seated. without unnecessarily stressing your spine. when expected to stand tall. your nanny and even your teacher for bending over your desk when expected to sit erect. Try this little mind trick every day to do away with the hunch and sport a fitter you! • Do you remember being snubbed by your mom. Always hold your ears. While it is easy to sit erect.always ensure that your posture is correct! It’s important for your body to stand in perfect alignment. trying to heave you upwards. Heels tend to non-align the body posture and alter body’s center of . • The way you sit often makes a difference on the way you stand and how you carry yourself. All you need to do is to make sure that your ears are aligned with your shoulders and you are done. the simple balloon trick can elevate your posture.

If you are a heel freak and can’t do without your high-heeled footwear. • • Imagine a situation wherein you are supposed to hit the court to play an important basketball game and just when you are dressing for the impending match. You will never be able to touch the high points of life. people who are low on confidence are seen to falter in future. what testosterone is to a man. In the following lines. Life without confidence is like a racing car. The more you flex your spine. Not only in scholastic or professional life. • • Significance Of Self Confidence In Life • • Role Of Confidence During Education • In school and college life. if you have to bend at all. • Last but not the least. Just bend your knees. those who are low on confidence will be affected badly and their game will deteriorate further. • • Importance Of Confidence • Confidence is to life. we have provided detailed information about the significance of self confidence in the various stages of life. The cue is to never bend your spine. the more likely you are to be left with a curve posture. if you are unable to find the self-reliance required for it. but in personal life too. instead of leaving us on the mercy of our own grades or teachers. when you bend to lift anything. The common conditions like stage-fright and nervousness also occur due to the lack of confidence. Confidence is related to your mental well-being and determines the actual course taken by your life. Confidence is something that is inculcated in you through your own efforts and unlike physical strength cannot be attained by brutish training. dearth of self-belief can take away all the fun in the roller-coaster ride named life. Sometimes we are . running on a 100 cc engine. someone tells you that your shooting hasn’t been too good recently? Though confident players would just ignore such a comment and move on.gravity. don’t crouch or bend from your waist. In true sense. it’s suggested that you settle for a more modest kitten heels than perch yourself on the stilettos. confidence helps us in going ahead and choosing the subjects and sports that we prefer. if not more.

confidence is your ticket to success. in which we are not good enough. confidence is the key to success. Without confidence. remorse and even wrong decisions taken out of misguidance. Self confidence becomes more important for people who are self employed. everything depends on the amount of confidence you instill in yourself. which keeps you standing through all the whirlwinds in life. friend. partner and protector. Keep in mind that confidence can be yours. then confidence is the first weapon you need to have in your repertoire. Leading a successful life is a bigger challenge in today’s world than ever before. professional and social remains stunted. you are bound to break and fall apart.• • Role Of Confidence In Professional Life • In professional life. Right from getting selected for a better job to winning the coveted promotion. Confidence is also vital for coming out victorious during crucial times such as exams. confidence plays the role of a leader. further increasing our confidence levels. Right from your first baseball game to your marriage. In such situations we need confidence to do things we are not accustomed to and improve in them. A lot of young people suffer emotional stress and mental disorders due to the lack of self believe and eventually get detached from their surroundings. a person’s growth in his life. Just stop worrying about failure and afraid of picking up something. life is going to throw new challenges towards you at every turn and corner. . • • Significance Of Confidence • In personal life. Important decisions regarding your career at a crucial phase can only be made if you have confidence in your self. If you lack confidence. run businesses and corporate houses as each decision of theirs affects multiple people and enterprises. • • Confidence is the growth hormone for an individual’s personality development. personal. if you leave fear. If you wish to become a pioneer of sorts by leading your field of work. Lack of confidence will lead to missed opportunities. This is vital for enabling us to learn new things and becoming better at known things. Remember. Confidence helps us in choosing what we want and not the least that we are eligible for. Achieving pleasing results for newer things gives us a new high. Confidence is like that steel back bone.

you can say that they do the same things with confidence How to Stay Motivated Have you people seen the film “Jerry McGuire”? If you have. working in a better office. This single word can help you overcome insurmountable obstacles and garner your life just the way you want. Remember. Believing in yourself can be the key to success. This article gives an insight as to how can you stay motivated and benefit your life by achieving long cherished goals. broadcast during the Super bowl. in a game that you are winning.2 million! This is nothing but motivation. leading a far more decent life. Staying Motivated • Remember that the grass is not always greener on the other side. while singing your own song in a new commercial starring you. and I will not sleep until that happens. winners do not do anything different from you. it will do you no good but sink you in grave . Whether you wish to be famous or rich. playing a Sega game featuring you. getting more perks and the chain of thoughts in neverending. staying motivated all through is all that is required to achieve success. Quite often we jump down to conclusions thinking that our neighbors are doing better than us. “ Jerry aka Tom Cruise manages to stay afloat through all his miseries and finally secures Rod. If you continue to think the other way. his only client.work towards you goals. a contract worth $11. But how can you be so sure of the fact? You have chosen your own career path and every form of work is pious and satisfying if you believe so. you surely vividly remember the scene where Jerry talks to Rod Tidwell and says “I will not rest until I have you holding a Coke. When a reporter asked Arnold Schwarzenegger how he managed to top the charts in bodybuilding. they just do the same things you do but in a different fashion. can you guess what he replied? “Drive” was the word. In simple words. wearing your own shoe. A chartered accountant thinks that the job of a financial analyst is better while a school teacher might think that a job of a researcher is more fulfilling.

And how exactly do you stimulate yourself for this? Find someone worthy in your class or office to compete with.depression. Keep repeating to yourself that no one else but you can do it. In order to gain things in life and March forward instead of sliding back. negating your own weakness and stay optimistic that you would surely win at the end. conviction and stability and you are sure to gain success. you are liable to your children back home. Do not succumb to them and keep in mind that nothing in this world is impossible to achieve. It is not necessary that your idol should be world figures specifically. while competing with someone. If you become such a weakling and plan to give up easily without striving hard and giving your best shot to achieve what you want. This thought would prevent you from taking any wrong step in life and you would stick to the path carved out for your own well-being Importance Of Time . you need to have a healthy competitive vibe. And once this thought triggers your subconscious. Do not sidetrack yourself as a loser who is fond of giving up. Constantly gear up yourself and see what your competitor’s weak and strong points are. After all. • To surrender is the last thing that should strike your mind. you would always have this thing throbbing in your mind that whatever you do. Your close ones are counting on you and every crucial step you take in life matters to them as well. there would be magic. you have not lived your life fully and in turn cheating yourself and the one who has created you. • Ignite the competitive streak within you. Even someone as close as your mother can be your inspiration. • Always have an inspiration in life. Have enough strength to hit back to the challenges. It is just that the seemingly impossible tasks take a bit more time than the rest. by considering your children to be your inspiration. Also. For instance. Put in your heart and soul into the task or a situation and stay firm and undeterred till your last breath. you surely don’t want to experience the humiliation of defeat. remember that your dreams are not yours alone. Shed your instincts to keep comparing and instead work with diligence. Mould yourself accordingly.

Whether we want to effectively utilize time or lead a haywire life without purpose.for it is the stuff life is made out of". we go on to blame our unachieved goals. do we actually understand the coded meaning of it? It is ultimately a choice we make for ourselves. it all depends on our time management skills. but very little or no time left to do it. you can never get it back again. • No matter what you want in life. With a limited time . we take time for granted and indulge in activities which are simply nothing. If you don’t utilize your time wisely. unpleasant relationships. poor finances and even our inability to get enough exercise to the lack of time. It is a special resource which cannot be stored and saved for later usage. • Time is scarce and you must have had a feeling like there is so much left to do.Benjamin Franklin rightly said "Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time . Like a ticking clock. secondary and tertiary importance can be accomplished within a specific limit. It is something which cannot be replenished again. If one sits and waits for the right time to achieve his set goal or waits for some free time to get his work done. time management can help you utilize your time in a better way so that all your tasks of primary. you need time to get it. we should keep moving. each small task that you do without wasting time counts in achieving your long term bigger goal in life. Quite often. he has lost the game already. Almost always. However. skills. Anything worthwhile in life needs time to be achieved. Just like each minute contributes to an hour and each hour combine to form an entire day. How often do we sit back and ponder upon the importance of time in our life? Though we all are acquainted with the oft repeated affirmations such as “time and tide wait for none”. Time is a scarce and finite resource and the very foundation of proper time management begins with setting up your personal goal and developing your priorities. Every man on earth gets the same amount of time each day and how each person utilizes this given time determines his or her eventual success. Importance Of Time Management • You should keep reminding yourself that time is limited. Time management is a compact set of established principles. This article deals with the importance of time management in our day-to-day living and framing our overall personality. but a serious waste of time. involving ourselves in learning new things every minute. practices and tools which when rightfully applied can help you utilize your precious time and accomplish what you want.

Time management helps you by making conscious choices so that you can spend quality time doing important things that in turn add value to your life Inferiority Complex Symptoms “Gosh. While most of us do comprehend the underlying problem of why we are always dissatisfied with ourselves. Now that you know that time management is in a way a type of self management. While all of us have physical defects. before it amplifies. you hone yourself in such a way so as to reduce the amount of time you usually wasted. • In today’s world. • Once you begin to use the improved time management skills and tools. You need to learn to utilize time in a way so that you find enough time for things that are important to you. you can spend time in a multiple possible ways. an intelligent planning on how to utilize the given time needs to be done. or a sad and unfulfilled life. Since you have a finite amount of time. This leaves you with more productive time throughout the day which you can utilize in some other task. he is so intelligent and successful!” “She is so attractive!” “Why am I not like them?” “I’m not that good enough”. it is advisable to choose activities that are of the highest priority to you first. In order to attain success. The best would be to get rid of inferiority complex as soon as possible. This not only allows you to indulge in a wide range of activities. but makes your life a balanced one. Given here are some symptoms that . you end up accomplishing more with less effort. mental limitations and social differences. Do these questions keep haunting you within? Are you always dissatisfied and constantly blaming yourself? You probably have an inferiority complex. as it can otherwise lead to depression. these things embarrass few of us more than others. time management is all about managing your activities in relation to time and ultimately achieving what you want at the end.span of 24 hours in each day. few of us do not even realize that we have an inferiority complex that should be treated.

you start pouring in questions in order to receive compliments. you do not want to be complimented or appreciated simply because you feel the comments aren’t from the heart. where we pull others down as well. Finding Faults As you cannot keep yourself happy. The Universe is the Cause Any mistake or failure committed on external factors. Different Signs Of Inferiority Complex Love to Hear Compliments You always want others to compliment you for even the smallest of the achievements like how you look. On rare occasions. such as poor luck. If you are not able universe responsible for it. you are complex. chances are that you discourage yourself saying that you can never achieve it even in your wildest dreams. If you lose competitions. and so on. In case you are one . You are so desperate to hear that even if you do not get any comments. your part is simply put on various bad company. such as “Do you think I did great?” or “Do I look good tonight?” Avoiding Compliments While some people love to get complimented. you feel you are not good enough to compete with anyone. the environment in to accept your mistake and hold the definitely suffering from inferiority Lack of Sportsmanship Competitions where you are required to test your abilities against the others are always kept at bay. when you take in that step. how you worked on that article. Rather. some prefer to refrain from receiving any accolades. it is just a way to make you feel better. This is known as crab mentality.can help you identify whether or not you are a victim of inferiority complex. you are constantly finding ways to point out their imperfections and making them feel bad about themselves. what you have or what great work you have done. You do not take any step towards achieving success. Even if you have done well. you cannot accept others feeling happy as well. since you are not worth getting them. general. As such. Read on. You feel that the positive comments are not justified.

The feeling that they are not smart and as interesting as others pulls them to a corner unnoticed by anyone. interaction with people and our experience. all of us have been a victim of low self esteem at some point or another in our life. A good reflection in the mirror will always make you feel good about yourself. be sure not to attach too much importance to your external appearance. If you are also one amongst those. achievements. Boosting Self Esteem Groom Yourself As clichéd as it may sound.of such people. We all mentally construct a self image based on our abilities. This self image contributes to our self esteem. debates and forums. Rather. Read the article to know how you can give a boost to your self esteem and live your life to the fullest. know for sure that you can never feel confident and superior. warmth and social skills are far more influential than looks. Dress up with extra care and make an effort to look nice. How To Boost Self Esteem Self esteem is based on how much a person feels valued and appreciated. Attributes like confidence. unless you stop competing with others. looks. since they think they will make a laughing stock out of themselves. they prefer to stay back alone keeping the world unknown about their flaws. meetings. Avoiding The World People with inferiority complex often avoid social gatherings. Kill Negative Thoughts Most people focus on their shortcomings than their positives. there is no denying the fact that looking good definitely does make you feel good. However. it is high time you start thinking about your positive . Agree or disagree. Low self esteem can affect the way we perceive ourselves and the world around us. All efforts trying to make this person speak fail.

Invest some effort into developing your interests and skills into your strengths. Realize that nobody is perfect. However. everyone has strengths and weaknesses. It will give a sense of purpose to your life. know that with that achievement in your kitty. Putting yourself down as a loser or failure will only hamper your ability to achieve your goals. You may get upset when things don’t go your way. Realize Your Limits You may not become an Olympic medalist or a pop singer. The key to success is not to overcome your weakness. you are one step closer to achieving your goal. Steer clear of negative self talk. but that doesn’t mean that you won’t be successful. Each day is a new beginning. Set Personal Goals Living an aimless life will make you feel empty and confused. Accomplishing these goals will give your self esteem a big boost.aspects. Pat yourself on the back every time you achieve a goal. . A personal goal defines who you truly are and what you intend to accomplish in life. Stand up for what you believe in. because it may be a part of your bigger plans. Tell yourself repeatedly that you have tackled this obstacle in an appropriate way and that you can deal with other bigger and more demanding projects as well. everybody is good at something. just go to bed and wake up next morning with a fresh and focussed mind. don’t let it stop you from achieving your goals. Never allow others to make you feel inferior. Don’t write-off the achievement as minor. Also. Stand Up For Yourself There may be times when other people misjudge you and let their own insecurities get in the way of their reaction. Remember. Don’t distort your. self image based on other person’s negative belief. Experiment with different activities that will help you get in touch with your talents. Voice your opinion and thoughts. If you had a bad day. Decide what you want to achieve at your personal and professional front and slowly work towards these goals. no matter how minor it may be. but to develop your strengths to an extent that they can outweigh your weakness completely. Don’t be too critical of yourself. Celebrate Achievements Give yourself full credit for your achievements and reward yourself.

whether on the phone or in public. it also blocks work and business opportunities. is unhealthy. Take out that list of resolutions you gave up on and start working on them. thereby weakening us emotionally. Appreciate and acknowledge what you do have and be thankful for it Fear Of Talking Fear in any form can be terrifying and paralyzing. The feeling of being appreciated and valued can do wonders for your self esteem. causing anxiety and distress. Hence.learn to dance or take up painting lessons. Does the problem sound . Don’t fret over what you don’t have and what you haven’t accomplished. Being part of a community big or small will give you a sense of belonging and acceptance. Keep yourself busy. Start off by keeping yourself involved in activities that interests you. be it the fear of failure. Keeping yourself active will give you no time for negative self talk. Join a volunteering organization to help the less privileged. Take up new hobbies . The fear of talking. Frequently plan outing with your friends and family members. Volunteering will help you improve your perception of self-worth. in general. Fear. Volunteering will give you a sense of being part of a noble cause. if we are unable to control our fears. has become a common problem seen in most people nowadays. Join clubs or groups of similar interests. Remember that life is governed by factors which aren’t entirely in your control. Socialize People with high self esteem generally have a large social circle and a busy social life. The fear of talking results in delay in picking up important calls and delivering speeches in public. eventually they start taking complete control on us. thereby giving a boost to your self esteem. the best way to overcome our fear is by mastering it and preventing it from controlling us. Be Thankful For What You Have Attributing considerable importance to certain goals and aspirations may also pose a problem. However. There may be period of setbacks when everything will not work out the way you have planned. Not only does it stop the person from contacting loved ones. Volunteer Make a contribution to the society. mentally and physically as well.Get Active Doing something is always better than doing nothing. fear of the unexpected or the fear of losing a loved one.

similar to what you are facing? Looking for ways to overcome this problem? Scroll these lines to find tips on overcoming the fear of talking on the phone as well as in public. Overcoming Fear Of Talking Phone Calls • Make a note of all the conversation that you would be talking on the phone. Most people are scared about forgetting what they intend to say to the other person on the phone. The best way to deal with this is to write down all that you will speak. This would help ease all your worries. Most people panic when they receive a rude phone call, as they do not know how to react to such calls. In such a case, ask your friend to behave like one of those people. He/she might enact the way your boss or the bill collector does. Practice your responses in order to better behave when the actual call rings. If you are into a marketing job where you have to promote various products to strangers, it is natural to get anxious about the questions that the customers would pour in. Hence, gather all the possible knowledge about your product to speak confidently and answer the questions accordingly. While making calls to an unknown person, some people fear that the person on the other end would respond negatively or start cross questioning. To overcome such a situation, prepare for the negative reaction in advance. Always make a call when you feel comfortable rather than talking when the person feels better. Do not worry about the time that you would be calling, simply focus on your comfort level. For example, if you are a morning person, it is best to make calls in the morning rather than when you are dull.

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Public Speaking • Always pick up a topic that you are comfortable with, such as sports, television, fashion or anything that interests you and puts you on the front. Gather all the possible extensive knowledge on that subject. • While speaking, always look at the audience and make eye contact. Though this is the basic rule of public speaking, it takes considerable time for a person to get adjusted. Many new speakers always look over the heads of the audience or at the floor or ceiling. Never ever converse with the first friendly face that you find in a gathering. Try and make efforts to talk to everyone present. Eye contact plays a vital role here in keeping the audience glued to your talk. Practice speaking by recording your speech in a small tape player and listening to it later on. Initially, you will be surprised to hear to your voice but with time, you will love to hear it. While recording your voice, start looking into a mirror reflecting how you project yourself in front of the audience. This will give you an idea of what gestures and expressions you pose to your listeners and how you can work on them so as to improve

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Positive Self Talk
Self talk is nothing but the constant process of thoughts that goes on inside us. Every moment of our lives, we affirm a string of thoughts and these very thoughts create and frame our life experience. They grow with us and end up being our beliefs, our prime source of existence, and our definition of life. Few beliefs that have stayed with us since childhood may work well for us, while others may be working against us and depriving us from achieving what we want. So, we should keep in mind that our thought pattern is not formed from a skewed perspective, but has a solid foundation base. It is thus essential to stress on positive self talk. It is the fuel for your success and good health and can take you to new level of ecstasy altogether. Positive self talk involves positive statements, which when repeated several times trigger your subconscious to indulge in a positive action. If you repeat these statements with a lot of conviction and desire, you are sure to succeed. It is all about challenging and undermining the burgeoning negative thoughts within you and getting them transformed into a positive flow of energy. It helps you to focus on your inner self; constantly reminding you to have control on your thoughts and words, thereby modifying your inner selves all through. So, whether you want to transform your life on a personal level or want to gain a competitive edge by applying this technique professionally, a positive mindset can do the trick. In the following lines, we have discussed why do positive affirmations work. Why Positive Self Talk Works Positive self talk or affirmations do work, but the question is why do they work? Here is an explanation. When you think of a positive affirmation, your subconscious responds to it in two ways—either by avoiding the entire concept or going for a reappraisal. The bigger the issue, the bigger is the gap between the positive affirmation and your own perceived inner truth. In most cases, instead of challenging your inner truth, the subconscious sticks to it. However, there are times when your mind instantly responds to the affirmation and you feel a sense of well-being within. When this happens, know that the positive self affirmation has finally started working. Believe it or not, more than often, we keep repeating negative statements and eventually fall into undesirable situations. Negative thoughts like, “I am too lazy for this task”, “I am surely going to fail in this paper” or “I don’t have enough inner strength to overcome this pain” make our subconscious mind accept them as truth. Consequently, the corresponding events in our life happen just the way we thought they would, i.e. negatively. We should always remember that words and statements work both ways and help in building as well as ruining our life. So, it is the way we use them that matters. Remember, it’s all a mind game. Your mind is what you are.

So, why don’t you choose positive affirmations for yourself instead? These thoughts have the power to wisp away even the strongest resistance. Your subconscious would re-examine the core thought pattern and very soon the troubling dysfunctional thoughts would get replaced by your own reformed inner truth. Positive affirmations reform your thought pattern in totality and completely change the way you think and feel. Now that the stringent dysfunctional beliefs would be replaced by positive ones, there would be a positive vibe all around you. Getting reflected on the exterior, your life would be experiencing seismic changes in all aspects. Here are a few examples of positive affirmations, which you can repeat to yourself to lead a gratifying life. Positive Self Affirmations • • • • • • • • • • • •
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I am healthy and happy. Wealth is pouring into my life. I am sailing on the river of wealth. I am getting wealthier each day. My body is healthy and functioning in a very good way. I have a lot of energy. I study and comprehend fast. My mind is calm. I am calm and relaxed in every situation. My thoughts are under my control. I radiate love and happiness. I am surrounded by love. I have the perfect job for me. I am living in the house of my dreams. I have good and loving relations with my wife/husband. I have a wonderful and satisfying job. I have the means to travel abroad, whenever I want to. I am successful in whatever I do. Everything is getting better every day

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How To Overcome Fear Of Heights

However. they may not be required as the person recovers from them. the fear of heights is the most common of them all. Psychotherapy aims at identifying that single traumatic event and taking steps to heal it. Exposure Therapy Guided by professionals. Also known as acrophobia. this therapeutic treatment has one drawback. hypnosis renders the mind free from the phobia. By following a few weeks of hypnotherapy. there are a number of therapies that can help overcome the fear of heights. Medications. acrophobia successfully gets reduced and replaces the fear with confidence. In extreme cases. fear of heights is an irrational fear. wherein people experience a panic attack at a high place and become too restless to come down immediately. Friends and Family . Since agitation and anxiety follows fear. It is not successful in cases where a person is suffering from extreme cases of acrophobia. this is a problem that most people are facing. which is important for the treatment. Psychotherapy The root cause of the fear of heights is extracted through psychotherapy treatment. However. huh? However. Tips For Overcoming Fear Of Heights Hypnosis Hypnosis is a treatment used at bedtime. the fear can be reduced to a great extent over a period of time. By discarding the deep-rooted fears from the subconscious mind. Your unwanted emotions are transformed into positive thoughts that make you feel relaxed and comfortable. such as tranquilizers and antidepressants are used in the initial stages. While there are many phobias. Indulge yourself into a light massage along with some relaxing music.Do you avoid accepting job offers for the simply reason that the office is located on the 15th floor of the building? Sounds funny. thereby eliminating the unwanted thoughts. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy This therapy alters your way of thinking. Hypnotherapy creates a relaxed atmosphere. Aromatherapy The symptoms of fear of heights can be reduced through aromatherapy as well to a great extent. or acrophobia. nausea and dizziness. This eventually helps in desensitizing the fear and getting comfortable to varied heights. At first. but with time. Nonetheless. it can even induce panic attack. the person is allowed to experience virtual reality views of high places and then graduated towards real heights. as it focuses on complete relaxation of the body. This fear increases with time thereby leading to acrophobia. the person suffering from acrophobia is taken through different stages of height. there are past events which lead to fear of heights in people. Browse through the following lines to get some tips for overcoming the fear of heights. this treatment has a very low success rate. With the right approach and the guidance of professionals. it is significant to overcome stress and comprehension first. At times.

it brings about a change in your personality and character as well. as the patient is likely to hesitate initially. make a note of all the goals that you intend to achieve. people try to divert you from your goal. only a few are highly useful. take those bad feelings as a challenge and make efforts to minimize them. They can come to rescue the victim struggling from acrophobia. health. Given here are some secrets of self motivation that can help you accomplish your goals and tasks in a more effective manner. This is where self motivation techniques come to your rescue. before you sleep in anotepad and place it right in front of you. Hence. work twice hard and prove them wrong. being by the side of the person can be a great help. friends and family form an integral part. Apart from giving you strength to achieve your goals. Whenever you feel someone is trying to pull you back. And anything out of mind turns out to be out of sight. Simply. Often. Every morning when you wake up. social life. do not make excuses to delay them. make realistic goals that can be achieved. Moreover. Secrets Of Self Motivation Set Goals A major mistake made by most people is that they set their goals only in “mind”. spirituality or personality development. they should continue to support even if the symptoms worsen during the treatment Self Motivation Techniques Are you one of those often caught daydreaming at work? Why is it that you have a number of ways to improve. a look at the notepad would remind you of the targets. thereby creating bad feelings that are worthless and rubbish. Stay Focused Another problem with most people is that they get influenced by other people easily. these friends and family should be really patient and ready for setbacks. Unset goal in life is like starting a business without having a capital to invest. Never let procrastination come in your way of . However. at times. relationship. but hesitate to act on? Do you find yourself subject to lack of self motivation at times? Although you are a motivated person in general. Self motivation is the most efficient way of improving your confidence and self-esteem. get even”. be it career. Hence. As the popular saying goes. Nonetheless. “Don’t get mad.While treating any ailment. Though there are numerous ways to improve your self motivation. Do Not Procrastinate Once you have set goals for yourself. Self motivation is required in every aspect of life. else you will never be able to achieve them. you have a hard time working on an important task.

. Share Your Goals Family and friends are the best motivators to look on. The best way of keeping it at bay is to start working on the goals immediately. This article deals with ways as to how you can lead a healthy life even under stressful conditions. you say. in order to succeed in life. Conquering small battles is the best motivation secret for moving on to the next goal. Confidence and optimism serve as your best friends in your tough and rough times. Breathing deeply can ease your tense muscles and reduce your stress level like nothing else. as they help you to continuously stay inspired and dedicated. Tips For Staying Calm • The first and foremost step to keep your calm is to take a deep breath. at times you tend to simply give up and lose it. the best way is to stay optimistic and positive towards reaching the final line. you need to confront such negative emotions with enough strength. Break down the goals into small bits to make them easily achievable. You need to keep your calm even when your life seems all turbulent. Hence. However. Reward Yourself The best and perfect way to keep motivating yourself is by rewarding yourself on completing a particular task. How long can you save things from falling apart you wonder? How long can you withstand the constant conflict between the mind and heart? Although such emotions are an inevitable part of your life. self motivation gets easier and attainable How To Be Calm You have got up on the wrong side of the bed and everything seems to be going wrong since morning. you are increasing your self-esteem. Stay Positive In case you are finding it hard to stay focused on your goals. Spend adequate time with family and friends who themselves are positive and motivated. Enough. Very soon. People who are discouraging and pessimistic should be kept at distance. Thus.accomplishing the tasks. you will be motivating yourself to achieve the set goals since you would never want to let down these people. Through rewarding and congratulating yourself. By sharing your dreams and aspirations to your near and dear ones. tell and discuss about your goals with these people. This will allow you to respond in a controlled fashion. The situation has worsened further by noon and you are finding it difficult to hold back.

Give your disturbed state of mind some amount of rest. your natural response is to do the same. the other person might switch over to your state of control. • • • • • • • • • . calmness is contagious. It is enough to distract you for the moment and regain your calmness. Avoid thinking of anything in particular and simply catch up with some sleep. Whenever you feel at complete loss and it seems like you had enough of life. How about visiting a beauty salon? Get a nice head massage done. Take a quick nap. Be it the mundane sound of the swirling fan above you or the chirping crickets. Listening to music is another such activity you can choose to indulge in to help you calm down. going out on a shopping spree is a great remedy to shed anger and remain calm. For instance. Easier said than done. Stand under the shower. concentrating on these sounds can keep you calm. Or try viewing things in a positive perspective. A spa-treatment is another option to rejuvenate yourself from the stress and calm down. even if it is a virtual pleasure. So. All that would result out of it is irreversible damage. • Relax for around five long minutes doing simply nothing. Even facials can help soothe your tensed nerves.the waves of epinephrine running through your veins will become manageable and soothe you from within. know for sure that this is the only way to win the war. But this is no solution to win the game or even come down to a solution. Close your eyes and try recalling some happy and amusing memories of the past. Plug in the headphone. Visit your nearest mall and pamper yourself with clothes and accessories. nice shower can also help you regain your peaceful state of mind. This will take you places you’ve always wanted to be. Try planning for your next vacation even if the plan is shelved for months away. Nothing better than this can bring your senses back to normalcy. A long. Moreover. These will help your mind to get distracted from those depressing thoughts. if you got a bashing by your boss in front of your colleagues and you are filled with anger and shame. Try listening to the natural sounds around you. Or think of the day you got a promotion and your boss wholeheartedly appreciated your abilities. close your eyes and drench in your favorite melodies. If the person you are confronting with raises his/her voice. Take a nature walk. be calm thinking you at least have the job when everyone around is losing theirs. Tracing a butterfly’s trail or noticing a woodpecker peeping out of the tree trunk hole can be sheer joy. You can also try eating your favorite dish. Feel the coolness of the water all over your body and relax. Do not yell. Seeing you behave well. For some. remember to keep your voice mellow and modulated under such stressful situations. Let your nerves ease and relax. This would enliven your senses and calm you from within. all that you require is your I-pod.

Causes Of Low Self Esteem
Have you ever met a person who felt that he is worth nothing and could do nothing right? If you have, then you should know that it is possible that the person is suffering from a case of low self esteem. Now, before we get deeper into what causes this, we need to understand what self esteem is. Self esteem is a character trait that psychologists feel is the most enduring of all other traits. Self esteem is an assessment of how you feel about yourself and can also be referred to as self-worth or self-regard. There are theories which associate self esteem to motivation in a person and are a related to the need for respect from others and the need for self respect. However, more modern theories suggest that self esteem is a way to measure our acceptance in our social environments. Some of the most common symptoms of low self esteem are an inability to express ones feelings, lack of personal boundaries, denial and blaming others for everything. Low Self Esteem Causes Now that we know what low self esteem is and how one can recognize the symptoms for it, it’s time to explore the causes of low self esteem. • The most common cause of low self esteem is neglect and it is most prevalent in children. When parents fail to pay attention to their children and help them by providing them with support and affection, it causes them to feel abandoned. This eventually will lead them to find it difficult to assimilate in a society. You must have heard of positive reinforcement? It is the practice of encouraging a person to do better by praising what he or she has done so far. If you were to do the exact opposite of it and try to motivate someone just by pointing out their faults and mistakes then you are bound to be successful in DESTROYING their self esteem. There are times when a person may suffer from low self esteem as a result of ridicule. This ridicule can be based on anything from the person’s weight to his or her features and looks. Being ridiculed over habits or interests can also result in low self esteem. Since most of the times low self esteem is something that develops in childhood, abuse during childhood can also led to low self esteem. This abuse includes verbal, physical and sexual abuse as well.

Since it was mentioned earlier that self esteem can be seen as a measure of acceptance in a society, there can be times when a person will develop a low self esteem as a result of impairment in leading a normal life, like being out of a job or not being able to exercise the same financial freedom as others close to you. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do about all the bullies of the world, but there is something you can do about yourself. Whatever you do, don’t ever let yourself feel like you are lesser than others or not good enough. Do your best at everything and be satisfied with the results of your efforts

How To Develop Habits
Human heart and mind is like a stone slab which was used in ancient times for writing inscriptions. The inscription started to be carved from the day we opened our eyes and since then there were new things written, erased and re-written every day. Human habits are the part of these inscriptions and they need constant changing and re-writing. The quandary situation here is that the positive habits won’t get inscribed on their own unlike the negative one’s which come as a compliment of human experiences. Good habits require a writer, and the writer is the person himself. Now it depends on the writer how he/she goes about carving out the good habits on the slab which will become the input for the body to function. This makes it clear that instilling a good or eradicating a bad habit is a conscious effort that needs to be carried out with great deal of discipline, determination and thoughtfulness. To grab the tips on developing conscious habits read on. Developing Good Habits Self Talk Self talking is the best way in which you can instill any good habit and give up a bad habit. Keep speaking to yourself about the change which you want to see in yourself. Repeat the statements which will help affirm the particular new habit which you want to create a part of your daily life. Directed Imagination Another effective way in which you can incorporate a new habit consciously is by imagining yourself performing the action relating to the new habit. Visualize yourself performing the new activity or a role and see how good you sound and look. This visual imaginative role that you will see yourself in, will help you easily make the habit a part of your daily routine. One Habit For 30 Days It can so happen that you want to bring about a number of changes in your behavior at a time. In such a case take up a single change that you want to see in yourself and start practicing it daily consciously for 30 days at a stretch. After 30 days you will realize that you no more need to practice the change you want to be because it has now become a habit. After 30 days you can take up the next endeavor. Use A Trigger A trigger is a small ritual which you perform before getting used to a habit. A simple habit which you want to inculcate like not watching excess of television, can be

triggered by setting a self-timer in the television. The time you want the television to get switched off, set the timer to that time so that the T.V will get switched off, forcing you to engage yourself in something more productive. You can use such small triggers to consciously develop a habit. Replacement Replacement is the key word to develop a new habit. In order to remove something from the system without damaging the other files it is necessary to fill in the gap which was created due to the removal of a file. Similarly if you are giving up a habit you need to fill up the free space by a habit that fulfill the same requirement as the old habit. For eg. giving up watching television means you need to find some other relaxation medium for yourself. This approach will make it simpler for you to get used to the change you want to be. “But” To Kill Bad Thoughts A prominent habit changing step can be to force out all the negative thoughts from your mind. The moment you think negative about yourself and find yourself incapable of taking a strong stand, use the word ‘but’ and bring in the positive about yourself. This negative positive game will help develop your self-confidence and will make you believe in the change you are going to make. Write It Down You can even write down a particular habit in a piece of paper and stick it to a place where it will be visible to you. This will keep reminding you about the commitment you made to your brain and will help you in working towards living that change you wished for. Get Leverage Catch hold of your sibbling or a friend and hand them over a 100 rupee note. Instruct them to return you the note only if you successfully cross all the hurdles to reach your goal. Make a public commitment in front of everyone you know that you will stick to your plan. The necessity to keep up your words and dignity will force you to consciously work towards developing the new habit. Keep It Simple Changing for the good is beneficial both to your personality and to others as well. But, you should keep in mind that changing is a small process and your body and mind should first get used to the new introduction. Therefore, don’t get too harsh on yourself and keep only one or two rules simple rules and not a dozen rules regarding the new habit. Simple rules will help you create habits, whereas complex rules will just put you in a more complex puzzle. Consistency Is Key The point of a habit is that it doesn’t require thought. Make sure that your habit is consistently being followed everyday without fail. This consistent performance will drill in the habit in you instead of multiple habits loosely conditioned.

A healthy personality is magnetic and attracts other to it. A healthy personality ensures that a person takes great care of his outward appearance and always presents himself with dignity. • • .Characteristics Of A Healthy Personality We often hear people comment that a certain person has a great personality or that he needs to develop one. The healthy personality lets the person be comfortable with whom they are and the way they look. The healthy personality enables a person to see others for who they are to be able to handle them accordingly. Having a healthy personality plays a key role in defining the person who wields it. A personality is a combination of all the small factors that add up to make a person’s mental constitution. When faced with a personal tragedy. a person with a healthy personality is cheerful and does not get stressed easily. The key to having a healthy personality is to strike a balance with all the elements that make up day to day life. It also enables a person to be able to understand others easily. Healthy personalities are also indicative of emotional stability. People with a healthy personality have strength of character and have individuality of their own. A healthy personality allows the person to be a good listener and a better advisor. a healthy personality allows a person to overcome the tragedy without falling prey to depression and contempt. A person with a healthy personality will always display a positive attitude and be cheerful. it indicates that he or she is in good mental health and can be trusted to conduct themselves in a respectable manner and set good examples to follow. A healthy personality will enable a person to think clearly and with reason when everyone else is following a convention. A person with a healthy personality will have a lot of common sense and will display presence of mind when it comes to solving problems (big and small). A person with a healthy personality will not follow convention without due cause. A healthy personality allows a person to function well independently and as part of a team. If a person displays a healthy personality. It also allows people to be able to express themselves without hesitation or offence. On the face of it. Traits Of A Health Personality • • • • • • • A person with a healthy personality has the ability to adapt to his or her social environment. The greatest plus point about having a healthy personality is that it allows for a fulfilling and meaningful life.

or suppressed to make you feel more confident and good about yourself. to be a more compelling personality or to be less imposing are all examples of what you could want to change in yourself. Look for traits that you would like to change in yourself and remind yourself occasionally to change that particular character flaw. You also need to figure out how you would like to feel on the inside before you start thinking about changes you could make on the outside. It is not impossible and never too late to develop a healthy personality. • • • . Here are a few tips to keep in mind when you go about an image makeover: How To Change Your Image • You need to have an image of you in your head and zero in on the traits that make you feel uncomfortable on the inside or the outside. especially when it can help in your personal growth. If the change is sudden and drastic. It is recommended that before emulating be absolutely certain that the particular trait is a desirable one. A healthy personality is also displayed in a person’s desire to stay healthy (physically). An image makeover does not work overnight unless you are only thinking of a fabulous hairdo when you’re talking about an image makeover. You need to look for people with strong traits and whether any of those traits appeal to you. Easy Ways To Change Your Image Ever thought about changing certain undesirable characteristics that have become part of your personality or appearance? Changing an image that has been inculcated over the years requires a certain amount of determination and will power.• • People with health personalities do not feel the need to make everyone conform to their views. it is recommended that you first ascertain what type of a makeover you would prefer. and try to emulate these characteristics into your personality. which need not always work in your favor. Opting for a softer or a tougher outlook on life. added. you will come across as someone who is trying too hard to change the way they are. Therefore. Look for traits in people you admire. Different people in different environments require different changes or makeovers to their images to suit the environment they are in. be it a student’s profile or that of a professional in a work force. The right way to go about would be to look within you and determine what characteristics require to be polished and what needs to be changed.

learn to channelize it in better ways – in ways that are constructive rather than destructive and harmful to the individual. Advantages Of Anger Management Here are some ways in which controlling anger can be advantageous: Judgment We all know that anger makes us incapable of being able to take stock of the situation . If you feel that. can make a person violent and could even cause the person to lose out on his/her relationships. be it your makeup. There are many who keep away from or maintain distance from loved ones. Once you have changed certain characteristics of your old self. After you have followed all the above steps. increasing stress. step out and look for clothes you feel comfortable in and that will boost your self esteem. It impairs judgment. hairdo. the blood pressure. You never know what wonders it might do for your social life. Look for those particular traits that you are particularly dissatisfied with and opt for a change. Sometimes a simple hairdo or a change in wardrobe can make you more confident. it is best to learn to control one’s anger or.• The way you look on the outside can influence the way you feel on the inside. Anger is cited in ancient texts as one of the biggest enemies of a human being’s body and soul – it can have grievous consequences for the way the body functions too. only for the fear of hurting them in anger. and might even change attitudes that others have towards you. at least. Here are some ways in which anger control can prove to be advantageous for us. and causing other forms of damage too. How you look on the outside will almost always mirror the reactions towards you. There are several benefits of learning to give one’s anger a better route than by breaking the vase (literally). make sure you walk with confidence. In a situation like this. always keep in mind that you are a more attractive and sophisticated person than you previously were • • • Benefits Of Anger Management The problem is more rampant than we all imagine – an alarming number of men and women find it extremely hard to deal with their anger and end up blowing situations out of proportions. your clothes don’t do justice to the rest of your personality. There is no point in changing your hairstyle and your wardrobe if you still maintain your old image in your mind. which are the most valued part of a human being’s existence. make sure the eyes of the person in front of you sweep up to your face and stay there. wardrobe or something as complex as the pattern of your conversation. Many of them do not know when to give up the fight and almost none can take a joke on themselves. Choose clothes that flatter your body type. and remember what you are trying to change about yourself.

By doing so. Not only do they frighten you by shaking your confidence levels. which are. impairing our better judgment. Being able to control anger will definitely help avoid silly disputes. Better Communication Anger is often caused by misunderstandings. which are expressed rather aggressively. Bullying has increasingly become a widespread problem haunting people across the globe. in turn. there will be no room for conflict at all. which would decrease chances of further conflicts and disputes. A lot of anger and the stress that it causes can be avoided by opening up communication lines and making oneself available to dialogue. caused by faulty communication between the two parties involved. stay away from their loved ones when they realise that they are hurting people with their anger. Controlling anger and channelizing anger better will make the person concerned more capable of leading a life that is relatively free of ugly scenes or outbursts of anger How To Avoid Bullying Whether on the school playground or at the professional workplace. they are often the first victims when we lose control. which helps one party understand the other better. This can only be done when one is able to treat differences in opinion as just opinions rather than personal attacks on someone’s belief. Fewer Disputes Disputes are conflicts that go out of control and conflicts are differences of opinion. it makes them feel strong and . anger builds up because the party involved refuses to see the situation from the other person’s point of view. Exercises in anger management are often aimed at channelizing the anger better so that you do not lose control when you lose temper. you can often find yourself as the target of bullies. It is important for us to see where it begins and be able to nip a possible dispute in the bud. Bullies look for weak people and prey on them. When you begin to develop empathy for the other person and try to see life from their perspective. help you analyse situations better and make you capable of taking stock of situations.well. Empathy Training in anger management is extremely beneficial for developing empathy for the other party. Closer And More Healthy Relationships Many people who have serious anger related issues. Since the people we love are closest to us. Many a times. Controlling and channelizing one’s anger in a constructive and non stressful way will not only open up lines of communication further but will also turn you into someone who is approachable and easy to talk to. and making us prone to making mistakes in sound reasoning. they also cause you bodily harm and injuries. This would in turn.

taking certain steps can help you avoid situations. You can also have some other people standing by your side to tell the bully to stop teasing or scaring people. Hope these tips come to your rescue! Tips For Avoiding Bullying Ignore The Bully Try your level best to ignore the bully’s threats. Students are likely to stop bullying when teachers come to know about it. stand up and say “No”. If he/she is demanding something. you are likely to face more bullying ahead. Moreover. can stop the bullies from portraying such a behavior. satisfying the bully. it is important to distract yourself and keep your mind occupied. Hence. to avoid thinking about the bully. stay safe and take help from an adult in an out-of-hand situation. in turn. since they are afraid of being punished by their parents. report to the concerned authorities and let them handle accordingly. do not hit. push back or get into a heated argument. Stand Up For Yourself Be brave and confident and stand up for yourself. seek help from teachers. kick. principal. parents or friends. Hence. If you counterattack or retort. While avoiding bullies is not easy. Since bullies are expecting you to react largely to their teasing and meanness. Usually. it is best to stay with others. soft spoken and weak people become the prime targets. simply ignore and walk past them to a place of safety. This. Do Not Show Your Feelings Getting angry or showing that you are upset by the behavior of the bully will only induce him/her to take further steps in bullying you. Keep in mind that the person wants you to react. If you agree to the bully’s terms. Talk To An Adult Let an adult know about you being bullied. Find a person who is trustworthy and can come to your rescue. Raise your voice and speak out to let the bully know that you are not weak. How To Improve Working Memory . you would be solving his/her purpose and thus. such people bully those who do not stand for themselves. There are chances of getting hurt in the fight as well. Acting as though you haven’t noticed or do not care would be like giving out no reaction.powerful. thereby escaping an attack. Keep yourself busy until you are out of the situation or at a safe place where you can show your feelings. Read on further to find tips for avoiding bullying. At school or college. In case you are facing bullying at work. Do Not Bully Back If someone is bullying you or your friends. remember.

just after we have met someone. How often you have landed up in a grocery shop and gone blank wondering at the list of items you wished to buy? This is a common symptom that plagues many. Working memory is something that we use in our every day life to accomplish our daily tasks. next time you fail to remember where you left your keys. This might help you to remember things better. such as memorizing passwords.Do you find it a cinch to remember long pin numbers and passwords. when away at the departmental stores. Experts have found that music. Also. but can’t manage to remember easy things. despite of much brain racking. • • • • . which explains why we fail to recall a certain item while on a grocery shopping. it is important to eat more often to keep the brain from starving out of energy. Just like a car. that feeds on fuel to run. it is important to keep your brain boosted with wholesome diet that is rich in omega-3 fats and antioxidants. However with a little care. but due to poor attention. preps up brainpower and enhances retention abilities. your brain too needs fuel to think and process. Here are some interesting tips on how to improve your day to day working memory. Tips On Improving Working Memory • Eating right to think straight! Surprised! Here’s is how it works. which isn’t very good news for your memory. spinach. However. It’s confirmed that with a little extra care and effort. If you can just manage to cue the things. however. Brain filters information randomly. A little bit of brain exercise can go a long way to save your memory from passing out. So. just dump the stress and relax. If you wish to remember more things at work. which explains why we tend to forget name. Read on for more on this. It is just that of all the things and facts you tend to take in all throughout a day. Even minor stress can impair your cognitive skills and cause brain block. and broccoli for a shot of extra memory. address and more. such as where you left your car keys last night or where you kept your wallet? Most of us counter countless facts daily. • Of all the things that can possibly boost your retention. Most often we tend to skip things not because of frail memory. generously gorge on berries. you can fight away the memory blues. Thus. It is found that higher levels of stress can freeze your brain and cause your mind to go blank. chances are that you might very well recall what those things were. only a part of it gets filtered through the brain box. that does not necessarily imply that you have got a frail memory. tune in to your beat box. A deliberate attempt to remember things. one can boost retention capacities to the hilt. only to remember a handful of things at the end of the day. Listen carefully and try to retain the information in mind. can put you in a better position. don’t despair. So. Just try this simple mental exercise and experience the difference. phone numbers. If you are one of those few people who tend to have a problem remembering day to day things. It will help you sort out your work and life in a better way. music certainly ranks high. names. especially classical music. That possibly explains why you usually miss out on that one or two grocery items.

Sometimes a quick three seconds is all it takes to build or kill credibility and create that first big impression. Dig more on how to make powerful first impression with the following tips. cordial smile that arrests all interest and gives one an edge over any situation. washing or even dressing up with eyes closed. . This is a simple task that is likely to leave you with great memory. Try to recall back all the activities of the day and remember as many things. Keep repeating this exercise. it helps to break the ice. it is important to put your best foot forward to get the game going in your favor. names. not many of us can resist the temptation of overplaying our aptitude and tagging someone as posh. If you don’t have one. So. Nothing makes a more sure-footed statement than a warm. creates an aura of ease and comfort and puts one in a win-win situation. it is important that you put your best self across. Doing so will make your mind more agile. and no matter how much we may deny going with the cliché. hippie. What's more. More blood would mean more oxygen and more energy in your brain. or hottie in the very first look? Good or bad. This simpleaerobic workout can help your brain get rid of the clutter and think and retain more clearly • How To Make Powerful First Impression While it is wrong to judge a person just by his/her dress or demeanor.The trick is to calm down completely while reclining on a couch and start your exercise by paying attention to yourself. events. faces as possible. For this you essentially need to have a pleasant demeanor. When meeting new people. • Another interesting way to improve your memory is to enhance your senses. the next time you head for a quick appointment or an interview. it is true that first impression does count. Read on to get smart. All you have to do is sensitize your senses by doing simple activities like eating. Thus. punk. A brisk walk can leave your brain with more than one reason to thank for! Walking is known to boostblood flow to the brain. set all differences straight. at least you can learn to feign it convincingly to make a compelling impression. we all tend to get swayed by the first impression. Tips To Make Great First Impression • There comes a time when our destiny rides high on the impression we make and little else succeeds in making that power-packed quick impression like a 1000-watt smile. just remember to wear that smile on. This will heighten the sensitivity of your senses and boost retention. unfeigned.

He . you cannot afford to look away when the opportunity strikes. Eye-contact is one of the few things that extend an indelible impression. it’s only wise that you put your best foot forward and get your outfit right. Human beings are one of two colorations: warm or cool. An eye-to-eye interaction not only testifies one’s confidence and reliability. hot pants. a business meeting or just a casual date. to avoid leaving a wrong impression. Paying heed to others can put you up in the ladder and create a good name. be polite at all costs! It’s easy to be a good speaker. People with cool coloring look best in blue-based colors like blues. it is important to underplay your fashion sense at time and be sensible with what you wear for an interview. thus. Wear colors compatible with your basic coloring. Your eye. A strong stare or looking away when interacting with the other person can leave one in a sticky situation. and yes strictly avoid jaded jeans. he dealt with it with extraordinary strength of character at that young age. it is important to choose your words correctly. make sure you never interrupt the person. a gesture that is likely to be appreciated by the speaker. However. The right colors can be flattering to your persona and can make a killer impression. slangs or too much of a colloquial verve. Remember to nod or chime your head in agreement. current F1 World Champion Lewis Hamilton was an exceptionally talented kid at school. Also. Thus. Dress modestly. He was also the smallest kids in his school and was bullied and racially abused by his school mates. when he/she is speaking • • • • Self Confidence Exercises As a gifted five year old. but it takes some skills to be a listener. Pitch your tone properly.• As it is rightly said. enunciate rightly and speak fluently and clearly to make a deep-seated impression. Not to take the circumstances as a victim. A warm pleasantry may not be pleasant if done in the wrong way. wrinkled shirt and worn-out fabrics at all costs. A punch line can make or mar your impression. warm reds. And yes. Dress to impress is the new age adage to that fabulous first impression. greens and winter white. steer clear of mindless babblings. you never get a second chance to make a first impression. remember to ask questions to reveal signs of authentic interest. People with warm coloring look best in yellow-based colors like gold. but also adds to one’s charm and opens channels of communication. hair and skin tone would help you determine whether you are cool or warm. Also. While evolving fashion has left us with plenty of options to dabble with. which would further assist you in determining what colors look best on you! When looking to make that first big impression. golden browns and rich ivory.

Face the situation that you have been avoiding for a long time. make an effort to schedule one interview. you are twice defeated in the race of life. ‘I am improving every day’ or ‘I deserve to be happy and successful’ or ‘I am confident in handling whatever comes up today’. magazines and updating yourself with latest developments. For instance. your mind also requires exercises. you have won even before you have started. if you were contemplating a job change for a long time and not doing it for fear of interviews. In a nutshell you might be struggling to live a life of your own. Avoid writing anything negative about yourself. reflect on your positive things. jot it down on paper. Your work might suffer. Marcus Garve stated that. and perform your work efficiently. Think of the positive things that you have done right be it big or small. remind yourself of the past occasions that you have faced successfully and handled well. I developed self confidence. This helps to develop self confidence and personality.took lessons in martial arts and went on to become a black belt holder by the age of twelve. At least record one positive thing about yourself each day and acquire the habit of praising yourself. while others can definitely develop it. travel to new places and gain experience. Gain knowledge and experience by reading current happenings. With confidence.” Self confidence gives you that freedom to make mistakes and deal with failure without feeling guilty or hopeless about the situation. Imagine yourself as a victorious public speaker. This can have devastating effects in your life and result in lower self esteem. Meditate for at least 10 minutes a day and exercise for 30 minutes daily. People who are uncertain about themselves lack in self confidence. • • • • • • . Later on he reported. “If you have no confidence in self. “It was a horrible time but I told my dad I wanted to start karate so I could learn to protect myself. When you start your day make positive statements about yourself. If your boss appreciates you for your work. social life can become painful. Exercises For Building Self Confidence • Self confidence gets affected when you think too much about your past failures and negative events. develop new skills. Some people have naturally high levels of self confidence. meeting new people can become a struggle and can have terrifying experience facing stressful situations. write down any experience in which you have received positive responses and compliments. The bullying stopped and more importantly. Remove self doubts from your mind. Challenge yourself and take risks. Instead. books. Pen down observations about your advancement. For instance if you have stage fear. Diversify your interest. visualize and imagine yourself as effectively performing a task which you fear doing. At the end of each day. But as you require physical exercises to keep your body healthy. Repeat these positive statements several times in the day. You can say to yourself. if your mother tells you that you are the best child write it down in your diary.

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Make changes to your physical environment. Rearrange and redecorate the furniture of the room. Paste quotes and pictures of successful people and keep reading them again and again. Read autobiographies of successful people. Keep your body language positive, look and feel confident. Always walk straight, with your shoulders straight, chin up and chest out. Have an authentic, warm and friendly smile on your face. A positive body language sends out positive signals. List all the goals that you want to accomplish in life and then take one step at a time. Break these goals into smaller reachable goals. Concentrate on self improvement and self development. Keep your cool and calm in every situation in life. Too much of emotional outburst can spoil the situation and make things difficult to handle. Hence take things in your stride and handle it smoothly. Do not think or worry about what others think about you. Stop imagining and bothering about unreal things and situations and blaming yourself for being wrong so often.

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You can follow this confidence building exercise by writing these things. Fill in the blanks in the following sentences: • • • • • The best thing that I can do is … Something that I have accomplished is … One of my best character traits is… I am proud of myself for…. I am working to improve…

Confidence Building Exercises
“I am not a has-been. I am a will be.”Lauren Bacall. Yes it is the ‘I’ factor that makes that difference. No one can beat a person who strongly believes in himself and has made an identity for himself. Why do you think Mahatma Gandhi had so many followers and why did they follow him blindly to give their lives believing in non-violence! It’s nothing but his confidence and actions that inspired millions to join him. Success is the synonym of confidence. Never will a person with a low confidence can dream to make it big in his life for he loses the battle in the beginning itself. But the one who considers every failure as the stepping stone to success will cut a path for himself. It is always a

pleasure to watch someone speak with his/her head held high, answering questions assuredly. Ratan Tata, Azim Premji or Narayan Murthy are nothing less than living legends only because they have the confidence to face anything and everything that comes their way. They consider every new problem not as an obstacle but as a new objective. Here are a few tips on how you can go about boosting your confidence. Exercises For Boosting Confidence Think Positive Optimism is the word that has to be circled in the dictionary. An extremely positive mind is what you need to gift yourself. ‘I can’ should rule your mind when you are not able to cope up with negative things that come as hurdles on your way. Know how to love yourself and be proud of whatever achievements you have made in life, big or small. You can stick a few posters with quotes on success and confidence on the walls of your room and get inspired by those words each time you read them. Life becomes exciting only with things that you can do and not with the ones you dare not try. Learn to say ‘I Can’ aloud. Find Right Objectives Be sure about the objectives that you set. Set each goal as per your strengths and your abilities. Categorize the objectives as per your skills and talents and at the end of the day you will be able to harvest the fruit of your confidence through these fulfilled objectives. Prioritize each goal, like go for the easier tasks first then slowly raise the challenges. Remember failures can interrupt you but take it as a challenge and march forward. You have to reach the final lap to take the trophy of success securely in your hands. Meditation Listen to yourself. Meditate each day for a new beginning and a fresher day that is in the offering. Consult yourself for taking decisions and persuade your mind to make the best of the decisions. Body Language There are many things that boost confidence in a person from the file that he is holding to the tie that he is wearing. Choose the best outfit that gives you that comfort zone and elevate your confidence. Walk straight with your head held high. This itself exhibits the confidence that is abundant in you. Make the first impression the best one. From a good hand shake to a beautiful smile, everything counts.. Breathe Properly Whenever you feel that you are low in confidence, try taking some deep breaths. This is a great exercise to tackle nervousness and can revitalize you

How To Develop Self Discipline

The term ‘self discipline’ is defined as the behavior which is guided by the ‘mind’, rather than by the ‘heart’. The selfdisciplinarian attitude is very much essential to become successful in life, as it entails foregoing the momentary enjoyments and gratifications in order to achieve something big in the long term. But this sort of self-monitoring attitude has to come from within each person, as it cannot be heaped upon by any external force. That voluntary spirit or will power will help you in setting and accomplishing your goals. Some people think that discipline is linked to liberty. On the contrary, those who are disorderly are deficient in enjoying liberties that accompany those who have the talent and dexterity required to execute certain tasks such as adventure sports or learning new things. Many people know the importance of practicing self discipline but are still unable to do so. This socalled ‘inability’ is nothing else but the lack of will and purpose to achieve the goal. The secret to overcome this hindrance lies in the person’s strong sense of determination, which should be inculcated to really become successful. As they say, “Success does not come easy”, you have got to strive hard to gain what you really want in your lives, and the first step is to cultivate self discipline. Fortunately, for those who desire to build self-discipline, there is a way out. By adopting the tips given in the article below, you can instill self-discipline in yourself. Tips To Develop Self Discipline Getting To Know Yourselves When you act according to what you know is right rather than what you feel like doing is known as discipline. For that, you need to delve deep into yourself, and know yourself better. This can yield optimum results when you put your thoughts in a written format. Doing this, will provide you a thorough perception of what you are and what your mission in life is, and what you have to do to fulfill your ambition. Dedication By,just writing down your resolutions, you cannot hope for miracles to occur and that too overnight. A concerted and sustained effort over a period of time is required to help you gain self-discipline. If you find it tough to stick to your resolutions then you have got to ensure that you abide first by what you have planned, and then follow them one by one; not all at once. In this way, you can surely adhere to your resolution, and implement them dedicatedly. Boldness Usually, disciplining the self is by no means an easy task. It requires you to overcome your desires, temper, temptations, and a host of other stimulations, both internal and external. And, it is easier said than done. But, it can indeed be done through a series of constant auto-suggestions, which are capable of continuously reminding you of your goals, ambitions, and aims. You can never hope to escape from these distractions, but you can steel your guts to confront and tackle them. This can make you stronger mentally.

as he has trained up his mind to overrule his heart. The biggest impediment towards mastering a new language perhaps lies on one’s take on it. before you get down to the learning experience. Add to this. Read on for more.Learning a language isn’t an easy bet. which makes it worth a try. Pronunciation Pronunciation is perhaps one sticky ground where most language learners tend to bungle. and also motivate you to pursue your tasks with renewed vigor. Doing so. there are others for whom picking up a new lingo may be a jaw breaking deal. Today. we can definitely develop selfdiscipline. Not only does it give one an upper hand when travelling to foreign territories. When you find the going tough. you can always fall back on yourselves by reliving certain positive moments. by diligently implementing the above techniques. A person who is self-disciplined can achieve whatever he sets out to. To avert these kinds of hitches. more so when you are new to an alien tongue. the need for learning a new language extends more than just a hobby. However. Remember. . Difficulties In Learning A Language Doing It The Right Way! Learning a new language is not easy and getting to master one often requires more than just will power. Most languages come with irregular rules that may not make much sense to you. This is the foremost reason as to why many of us find it extremely difficult to pick up an alien language and even before we learn to mumble a few new words. which forms an integral part of our lives. we fumble and give up. and developing it requires a little skill and not to forget. fluency is a skill that only comes with the right kind of intonation and accent. associate it with your every day life and practice it more often. While learning a new language can be a cinch for some. you need to be extra attentive in what you learn. acquainting yourself with some of the most common problems which come in the way of mastering a language will help. Problems In Learning A Language The tongue trying a new taste is similar to the brain grasping a new language. The biggest blooper most people tend to commit when trying to learn a new language is that they often fail to take it seriously. Thus. Treading an unfamiliar territory doesn't come easy. the number of professional benefits attached to learning a foreign language.Auto Tutoring Talking to yourself can do wonders to your self confidence. loads of practice. will boost your determination and thereby enhance your focus to accomplish the seemingly difficult jobs with relative ease. The following points are geared to help you identify with some of the most common problems in learning a new language. it is also known to boost one’s cognitive skill highly.

in some languages the verb comes before the subject. Getting a grasp on the words will help you in coming up with a meaningful sentence! Grammar Getting the grammar right can put one in a fix. remember. Patience! Most people. unintentional though. The idea is to connect the words with the objects and establish a basic relation between the two. Try to speak the new language as much as possible. perseverance pays. For instance. more so when you are trying to tame the grammatical rules of a foreign tongue. Nearly all language has its own set of rules that may be befuddling to one’s general grammatical sense.However. it will also give you an edge over the other speakers and help you to evolve as a fluent spokesperson. Nearly every language relies heavily on words to convey the right meaning. as said before. Word Order When mastering a new language. Visual Reinforcement Visualize everything you hear and you are likely to remember it for long. The extra effort that you put in would help you sail out of all the problems and difficulties. Thus. A person is likely to commit major bloopers. At times of failure and disappointment. Voice it! Do not fear to lend your voice to the new language. Not only will this make you into a confident speaker. who struggle to learn a new language. it is important to choose your words carefully. Next would be to clearly fit them into a sentence to make more sense and less confusion. while in some others it is reversed. While it is likely for you to fumble when trying to speak a new language. without the knowledge of the same. How To Grow Old Gracefully . Well. if not rightly arranged. let this thing not be deterrent to your efforts. Thus. Things do not just end with learning the right pronunciation. learning a new language never comes easy to many. it is important to get your words right! Words. it is important to hold your reigns and put in your efforts in mastering a language as diligently as possible. often quit it midway after months of pointless struggle. it is important to rise above your reservations and understand how a word is perfectly pronounced. Visual reinforcement is one tried-and-tested way of effective learning and it stands true for learning new languages too. A good grasp over grammar is perhaps the cornerstone for a successful learning experience. You need to practice it on your own to get a grasp of it. can come across as a puzzling jumble to others and mar communication.

inspite of all the problems that we face. Of course. wrinkles. You could teach your grandchildren to sew. they should be told to your doctor or physician and not to anybody among your friend circle. or teach them a few home remedies. people have so many problems of their own and need not carry the burden of your problems too. Defying age is not as much about the body as it is about the attitude and the outlook towards life. You could also learn to use the computer and keep in touch with family members – grandchildren or even other family members who live abroad and you cannot contact them ever so often over the phone. Learn anything new. You may have all the valid reasons to sulk and complain but you must remember that people like to be around happy and cheerful people and not around wet dishrags who constantly complain that life is being unfair to them. Is Knowledge Learning something new will bring back the life that you think you were losing. What’s New. However. Also. Tips On Ageing Gracefully Here’s what you can do to age gracefully: Thou Shalt Not Sulk Or Complain Sulking or complaining about what you do not have will never let you come out of the past and will prevent you from being happy and your true self. cook. Here are some tips on ageing gracefully. Many of us waste our lives – especially by treating our bodies badly – and end up fearing each day because we know that we have played havoc with ourselves. at 60 you cannot hope to go mountaineering. If you are suffering from physical ailments. deteriorating brains and. there is very little that can stop you from either listening to music or reading or watching your favourite films on DVDs. It will give a purpose to your life and also take away the bitterness that you feel. Women can also take the liberty of knitting. making crochet. finally death. In any case. weakening bones. It is easier said than done to adhere to the ‘why-afraid-of-death-when-it-is-certain’ saying but it is best not to think about it. If your mobility is limited. It will also serve to bring back a purpose into your life. which are often the cause of your complaints with life. you should take care of your body and mind. physical ailments. especially if you haven’t kept in excellent health with regular exercise. However. If you are still alive and do not have any major life-threatening ailment. . from operating the CD player so that you can watch movies or play music CDs. studies say that if you have the will to live. Follow What You Left Behind You must have always had a hobby or interest that you used as a stress buster or to unwind and rejuvenate. you could develop a new interest that could keep you busy and happy. or writing. there are ways by which we can age gracefully.Ageing is something that people fear – it brings with it the natural decay of the human form and mind. especially if it is not too hard on your eyesight. Since you have fewer responsibilities now. this is the right time for you to pursue them once again. you will live.

exceptional passion. However. share experiences together and inspire each other to come out of the sulking modes. Tips To Achieve Entrepreneurial Success Striking it rich on one’s own. History bears ample testimony to several such stories of entrepreneurial success. you. You need to laugh together. why go through the wringer if you can do it right from the start. success eludes most of us because the passion. and the pursuit of prosperity sends most of us into quite a tizzy. with a little help from those who have it down pat from close personal encounters with adversity in the pursuit of their own dream? The characteristics most successful . they say. lies at the core of most entrepreneurial success stories. overcome only by the relentless perseverance of the inspired few. and your friends will only end up spending your quality time complaining rather than being happy. and learn to strike that elusive gold on your own steam in the process. so take heart. Joyce Hall. which sets those successful entrepreneurs apart from the rest of the teeming millions is woefully missing in most of the aspiring entrepreneurs. is often the next best thing in life to inheriting a fortune. and that is that they are all very successful entrepreneurs. Friends should pull you out of your complaining spell instead of only feeding into it. Donald Trump. Characteristics Of Successful Entrepreneurs The road to entrepreneurial success is typically characterized by an incredibly intricate labyrinth of hardships and setbacks. We tend to randomly rush into a mirage of the mythical pot of gold at the end of an illusory rainbow. Bill Gates.Friends Are There… Make friends who share the same interests rather than those who share the same ailments! If latter is the case. extraordinary vision and the irrepressible desire to make it happen. clarity of purpose. Walt Disney and Oprah Winfrey – have more in common than just being names on the ‘Rich and Famous’ list to most of us at first glance. However. Persistence. sincere effort. People of your age may also tell you how best to deal with your problems – physical or otherwise The Traits Of Successful Entrepreneurs Most of us can confess to being quite sold out to the idea of getting rich someday. and help yourself to a sampling of some of the outstanding traits that make an entrepreneur truly successful. And since few successful entrepreneurs are naturally born. Nothing sells like the business of getting rich. Rupert Murdoch.

andThreats. Entrepreneurial success is often determined as much by one’s past achievement patterns as by adherence to a smart blueprint. without altering the original game-plan too much. Make The Economics Work A venture has to not only be financially viable. some learn from trial and error. the traits of successful entrepreneurs may appear rather easy to emulate on the face of it. Reinvest earned revenue back into an appropriate sector of your business for better future returns. It is a quick assessment of your Strengths.entrepreneurs exhibit and which have been briefly explained below. Adapting and adjusting are the mantras to stay in the reckoning. Chalk Out A Realistic Launch Plan Visibility matters most in the launch of a new venture. well-placed launch strategy. are the best known ways to get there. but it should also has a solid and sound economic ground. and identify untapped audiences and buyers. translating lessons from past failures into future successes. Weaknesses. It is a simple but very authentic exercise done quickly by jotting down honest observations under each section. and save up the rest as contingency for unexpected setbacks. and it won’t be long before one can justifiably earn the title of a “self-made” person. Characteristics Of A Leader . Success comes at the end of hard labor and a little bit of luck. but it is in the individual application of these tried and tested formulae wherein the fate of an ingenious venture lies. ideally all year round. even before your plans have gone to the drawing board. Conduct A SWOT Analysis A SWOT analysis is the quickest peep you will get into your entrepreneurial prospects. Opportunities. So make sure that your venture fills a much felt void. To sum it up. Survey The Market There is no magic potion to ensure success. Stick To The Master Plan Do not stray from a well designed venture plan unless it is to keep course with market dynamics. thereby helping one identify the best possible way to approach his/her dream for entrepreneurship. While some get it naturally right from the word go. and drawing up a conclusive overall assessment of one’s plus points and areas of development. Make your venture count with clever promotions and advertising. The spirit of enterprise is what these shining examples from history have made a habit of living up to. The Unique Selling Point (USP) of your venture makes all the difference. Make an impact with a well-timed.

which is the price which all of us must pay to achieve any goal that is worthwhile. should be in a position to think quickly and make the most of a given situation. He is a hope who can bring about change and improve the field to which he belongs. a leader. becoming a good leader is not easy for a person."Leaders are made. Given here are some leadership traits and characteristics that define a leader in today’s world. for communicating. A leader should be a visionary. a leader would not be able to take proper decisions to lead his group. Without confidence. training. one must have a vision to take his team and society further. a leader should be able to motivate people around him effectively. quick action is essential for a great leader. A team of efficient members is ineffective if it does not have an envisioned leader. in the present times. a leader’s plan is useless. a great leader will always work upon the best of these traits to achieve excellence. While most of the characteristics are acquired through learning. It so happens that prompt decisions without knowledge turn out to be erroneous for the future of the organization. Knowledge Quick thinking will not be appropriate if a leader does not have the right knowledge. Markets. possessing good communication skills is important. some people are born with them. They are made by hard effort.Vince Lombardi. Thus. A good leader must have confidence and be able to fulfill the set targets. Quick Thinking Thanks to the stiff economic competition faced by businessmen and professionals alike. they are not born." . which can be done through good communication only. being aware of all the developments taking place and having a proper knowledge of the field in which a person is working is essential for becoming a successful leader. However. Good Communication Skills Without communicating the plan of action to the team members. Confident While having a set vision is quintessential. development and experience. Hence. Additionally. A leader when chosen is expected to accomplish all the tasks and duties as stated and anticipated. He must possess different characteristics to help him show others the way to success. for the betterment of the entire organization. who has set his goals and knows how to achieve them. opportunities and challenges change unpredictably and hence. . accomplishing it with confidence is equally important. Leadership Traits And Characteristics Vision To be a great leader. Whether the characteristics are natural or developed.

no one will. then fret not. This will make communication between a leader and his team better. . which is very essential while approaching a woman. Often. Hence. Let out that side of yourself that you had always been too afraid to examine. Humility The qualities of a leader make him stand apart from the rest. men take a step backward and prefer to admire the girl from miles behind rather than going ahead and talking to them. Remember. A frightened and apprehensive leader takes the team no where. wherein you sit back in the shadows and wait for life to happen to you rather than making a life of your own. Shyness is a way of avoiding conflicts. This increases the chances of a team being successful tremendously. All this is just due to the lack of confidence. If you are also one amongst them. Risk Taking A leader must be courageous enough to take risks as every opportunity comes along with some amount of risk. Talking about shyness. Democratic A leader should not start leading his team in an autocratic style. one of the most popular situations wherein shyness dominates the scenario is when a guy wants to talk to a girl. Thus. a leader should first set an example through his character. Read on further to find some tips to help you overcome your shyness among women and build your confidence. This would also pave the way for the team members to chip in valuable suggestions. Enough democracy should be permitted to allow people to think freely and come up with new and innovative ideas. having a good moral character is one of the most important qualities of a great leader How To Overcome Shyness With Women Shyness is a wasted emotion. who knows you might end up losing your dream girl to some other guy. a leader must be approachable for his people. if you do not take charge of the events that happen in your life. best left to ‘little’ girls. Do you have a constant fear of being rejected by the woman of your dreams? If yes. Have Character To motivate his people. a leader has to be disciplined in order to handle all such situations patiently. allowing the leader to know about the problems faced by his people. He should know what to do and plan out an organized approach to accomplish the tasks.Discipline A leader is one who leads a team of individuals and looks after more than one area. Thus.

Hence. Accept this situation of being rejected as a learning experience. a hobby club. Concentrate on your conversation and overcome your shyness with them initially.Tips For Overcoming Shyness With Girls Emphasize Your Positives Most shy guys focus on things that they do not possess. to get them involved in the conversation. you will meet a number of people where you can interact with them. This would give a boost to your confidence and self-esteem. improve your learning skills and figure out different topics to talk with them. thereby overcoming shyness. etc. Make the most of this opportunity and talk to them. try to figure out what incorrect actions of yours made them take such a step. You can look up to women from different age groups at different places. Note. Try your hand at learning new things. Gradually. so you are no exception. Since women have their personal reasons for rejecting men. . etc. interests. Instead. Socialize Socializing can be another way of improving your self esteem and confidence. Be Prepared To Be Rejected On the road to overcoming shyness. You will also find girls that share similar interests as yours. New hobbies add a new dimension to your personality thereby enhancing your overall being. Proceed Steadily Take small steps to approach girls to overcome your shyness. Even the jaw-dropping. do not expect to get their personal contacts or convince them to come on a date at the very first meeting. while approaching women. Join a gym. Learn To Listen Since shy men do not know what to talk about with women. You have just spotted a cute girl in your college and are dying to talk to her. grocery shop. This will help you in getting rid of your shyness and will increase your confidence level. friends. participate in team activities or become a part of large groups. At such places. remember that you are likely to be rejected many a times. but do not have the courage to do so! Pass a simple smile and say a “hi”. this is simply not acceptable by women folks and they are likely to find it boring. get hold of some topics to talk with girls and begin your conversation with her. thereby ignoring their positive qualities. handsome guys have experienced failure. such as a foreign language or a new sport. You can question them on their family. like library. Practice Talking to Women The best way to overcome shyness with women is to practice talking to them. Also. they often end up talking about themselves most of the times. do not get depressed. You can start off with questioning her something that will trigger some response from her side. A simple way to overcome shyness would be by concentrating on your positive attributes. Have small conversations without focusing on whether they will talk to you or ignore you. which you should accept with honor.

In fact. you may not have a job that pays you well. you must snap out of it as quickly as possible. It is pointless to blame oneself for what is beyond our control. it is all the more important to get rid of such feelings of regret. Wake Up. and would not hesitate to take up any job that others would consider ‘menial’. Also. all those who are trying to enter the show business in our country often end up working as waiters at popular restaurants. no amount of regretting will change that fact. Many of us who have gone through a failed relationship tend to forget how many men and women go through life without ever experiencing love at all and have to lie to themselves to say that it is unimportant. the same regretful feelings – of having lost money. there are thousands who cannot afford a decent meal in a day. It is for this reason that we have to train our minds to get rid of such feelings of guilt and self-pity. only in that case there is a lesson that can be learnt out of it. for there is no lesson to be learnt out of it. but also stops one from moving ahead with life. Forget the Poison Ivy Another major problem with regret and regretful feelings is the fact that they do not let one enjoy and appreciate what is good. what went wrong with you was something you could have helped. but how you judiciously you spend the money is completely up to you. what we can do with what is available to us. jobs or friends – make us incapable of appreciating what we do have and can do. in a country like India. People who do not have satisfying jobs often forget that.How To Get Rid Of Regret Someone rightly said “’If Only’ are the two saddest words in the world. just to make a living. Thus. many a times. If. if you find out that what you are regretting was beyond your control. Also.” Those two words signal one of the biggest enemies residing within one’s psyche. is definitely under our control. For instance. Regret not only lets a person wallow in the complacent mud-pool of self-pity. So. A serious reality check will throw . Here are ways in which you can get rid of regretful feelings Ways To Rid Yourself Of Regret Here are some ways in which you can get rid of regretful feelings: Is It In My Control? You must never forget that not everything is in our control – many a times not even how many years we shall get to live. Smell The Tulips. the better it is. Take Charge It would really serve you best if you realise that what you seem to think “went wrong with you” was really your own choice and the sooner you accept that. However. that man has ever known – regret.

the journey towards success is not an easy one. What you do with the time that lies in front of you is what you must focus on How To Quit Quitting “Fire is the test of gold. Since many of us nowadays are in a position to make the choices that we want instead of what we have to do or what is available to us. Hence. Inculcate a habit of writing down your goals. it will only leave you back with a feeling of guilt. In case you are unable to observe yourself. Never Give Up To continue working towards your ambition and prevent from falling down on the numerous bumps on the road. but you need to realize that quitting will not make your task any easier. Tips To Quit Quitting Keep Yourself Aware Do not let your laziness or fear urge you to quit or procrastinate.some light over the fact that you were the cause of what has happened to you. However. the end fruit would surely be a sweet one. No task can be mastered at one go. where a person steps onto it and undergoes a lot of hard work to finally reach the top. Observe the situations when you are looking for excuses. as you are likely to face a number of pitfalls and obstructions. of strong men” . It is seen as an act of cowardice to not accept one’s mistake. Bear in mind that perseverance is what distinguishes the average person from a genius. Go through the lines. instead of telling the truth. you have to regularly motivate yourself. it is important to stick to those choices or accept one’s fault and make amends. ask your friends to observe the same and help you out. Analyze The Cost & Benefit . Perseverance forms the most significant key to achieving success in any field. A lot of heartache will vanish once one has learnt to accept one’s fate and mistake too. to find tips on how to quit quitting and achieve the success you had long been aspiring for. remember. Instead. Nonetheless. doing daily affirmations and finding out new ways of keeping you on your toes and dealing with approaching problems. you would be tempted with the thought of quitting the task. being perseverant is essential to achieve the keys to the door of success. On the road to success. adversity. Success is just like a ladder.Martha Graham. It requires absolute will power and determination to be successful. one must also remember that the time that is lost will not come back and that it is worthless to think about it. Close friends are more likely to know you better and will definitely come to your rescue.

So. you need to first overcome stress in order to achieve your goals in a better way How To Get Rid Of Fear Of Rejection The fear of rejection most commonly has its roots in childhood incidences. . Tips On Getting Rid Of The Fear Of Rejection • The fear of rejection leaves a very depressing mood. Concentrate on a single bad habit at one time so that you can deal with the problems in a much better way. thinking that their advance will be rejected. to achieve success and quit the habit of quitting. Comparisons and competition is fairly common among children and this result in one or other form of rejection. taking all the factors into consideration. cannot flourish in a negative environment. They tend to focus more and more on other people’s reaction to their actions that they tend to become paranoid and miserable. Stay Away from Bad Habits Do everything possible to put a complete stop to all your bad habits. This state of mind can harm the relationship that he or she has with other people. clouding his/her current thinking and forcing the person to think negatively. Think practically and make an honest and positive decision.Observe and calculate the cost and benefit of what you are planning to achieve. Happy thoughts build up the self-esteem. That is why it is very necessary that in order to maintain a stress free life the fear of rejection should be overcome. which in turn helps you to overcome the fear of rejection. When you create your own happiness. even if it is for help. There is no use to move ahead and try to accomplish an ambition that is likely to cost you and your family the entire life. To know more read the article below for the various tips on getting rid of the fear of rejection. They also tend to develop a reluctance to ask anything. Perseverance. Try to get rid of any behavior that is stopping you from achieving your goals. on the other hand. One way to counter it is to create happy thoughts. Most of the time the pain the person feels due to rejection conditions his or her mind where the person tends to withdraw into a shell fearing future rejection. Most people have felt rejection and the way they tackle it after being snubbed determines if they would develop a fear of rejection. Stress overwhelms a person. The person can become over dependent and may always look for loyalty signs in others. you will be less dependent on others and also develop a confident outlook. These bad habits could be either simple negative thinking or fighting procrastination. Stress Management Stress management and level of perseverance are highly related.

you be yourself rather than what others wish you to be. When you know your mistakes. Set goals that you can reach. Almost everyone feels anxious or wrong footed in some situations or the other. Often. Assertive people. Also. Indulging in hobbies will take your mind away from the problem. Depending on people will enhance your rejection phobia. when and where it all went wrong and then address the issue. people confuse between being assertive and being aggressive. Learning from mistakes will also teach you to be more careful later. Being independent will also teach you to address your needs on your own. . While expectation is good. The main fear of rejection stems from feeling of helplessness that stems from being unable to control the external outcomes. the fear of rejection won’t be so profound. • • • • • • How To Be Assertive Most people who consider being assertive to be a difficult task often assume that others who are assertive find it easy to be one. While you are in the relationship it is better that. However. get influenced by the aggressiveness of the people. Find out how. Learn to appreciate things even if you are not interested in it. reality has another story to narrate. you will be better able to rectify them. you can appear confident and speak assertively as well. Don’t rely on your friends and family. If you do not expect anything. You will have to go slow and adopt a systematic approach. on the other hand. This is the best way to do things that you truly enjoy. The fear of rejection can only be conquered steadily. If you are in a shaky relationship then it is better to end it before you start developing the symptoms of rejection phobia. In fact there is a thin line between being assertive. Set an attitude where you give unconditionally. Cultivate hobbies. Self-sufficiency will ensure that you do not get helpless when you experience the signs of separation. While aggressive people do not respect others’ perspective and can hurt others when influencing them. Your focus should be on your actions rather than how people will react. With a little bit of practice.• • Be optimistic. Try to be as independent as possible. people who are docile are unable to defend their own state of being and hence. so much that it hampers your growth and productivity. aggressive and docile. Acting confidently is what makes the difference. A cheerful disposition and positive outlook will help you create happy thoughts and a cheerful atmosphere that will uplift your spirits. when you are independent you will also develop a better ability to take care of yourself. Let your mistakes be your teacher. don’t expect too much.

Articulate exactly what you expect from others and the reason behind your expectations. Also. Sustain your voice by taking a deep breath and think about the message that you would be conveying. This way. Creating a good rapport would ensure effective communication. A sense of gratitude and a smile on the face can do wonders for you. Tips For Being Assertive Expectation Prepare yourself mentally and set your expectations clear to others. Remember To Thank If people have done as expected by you. make sure that you do not intimidate others. Never ask people to do you a favor else they will consider doing a favor as part of their job. friendly. . whining. For a positive impact on the person or group. respect the other individual’s views and opinions. Be Prepared When you are prepared. Create Rapport Connect with the group that you are speaking to during the introduction itself. Use the “I” language. Use Of Voice The tone of voice has a major impact on whether you will be heard or not. you will speak with more authority and be better able to deal with things coming up. Always use a voice that can be heard and should be interesting in pitch and delivery. you will be better able to take control of the situation and achieve your expectations. Do not raise your voice in manner of shouting. Physical Presence Your body language plays a major role in determining what others feel about you. Instead. acknowledge their efforts by thanking them. others too would be nervous andanxious. Always hold your head up high to show that you are a force to be reckoned with. smile and feel in control of the situation. Given here are some tips on being assertive and confident. nagging. If you look intimidated. and so on. plan in advance your speech. Do not expect others to read what is on your mind. such as “I want” or “I feel”. to acknowledge the other person’s feelings or situation and stand up for your rights. be open. Start off with a positive statement to set the tone for the conversation.are balanced individuals who though pour out their mind at the time of influencing others. Create positive boundaries to know what you are most comfortable at. This would give a boost to your confidence levels and make you feel positive and secured. simply state your message in a matter of fact voice. When speaking to a group of people. Think Of The Language You Use The language that you use while conversing is extremely important. This will incline the people to put themselves out again in the future.

Remember. Sleep It Away Sleep is a great doctor.If You Do Not Get What You Want If you are not able to achieve success. Basically. persistent and stay in control. cook. an enemy. Indulge In An Activity A sure shot way to deal with unnecessary thoughts is to sail away from them. bully or shout. Getting Rid Of Unwanted Thoughts Shoot At Sight You’ve got to be quick here. watch a good movie. the thoughts that nag. as soon as you realize that you’ve been thinking those ‘unwanted thoughts’ – Open fire! Get rid of your unwanted thoughts. Remember the timeless adage – “where there’s a will. the thoughts that are derogatory to you and your life. you don’t want to be caught in a web of derogatory thoughts. Distract yourself. there’s a way”. a distasteful relationship. Make up your mind and read on ways to get rid of your unwanted thoughts. play a game. do not threaten. something that makes you feel good as this will help do away with your unwanted thoughts. It’s not really easy to stop these thoughts from popping in your head. or simply go on a walk. a healer. Be calm. learn to destroy it. your work and maybe even your life. but it’s also not impossible to eliminate them from your mental space. Unwanted thoughts can orbit around anything. A nap or a good night’s rest can help you get . You can eliminate your unwanted thoughts by indulging in an activity that keeps you away from thinking them. Meditate Meditation is a discipline through which the patron can exercise control over the mind and dwell in a state of relaxation and heightened awareness. Start thinking of something else. They are such an issue because they tend to have a negative influence on your personality and psyche and at times can even take a toll on your health. maybe a bad experience. you’ve got to be quick. read a book. in fact. Repeat yourself again and ask your audience to consider the implications of not doing as requested by you. exercise. Your thoughts play a big role here and regular meditation can help you get rid of your unwanted thoughts. and do not complement your overall sense of well-being can safely be considered as unwanted and unhealthy. Binge on an activity that does not see you thinking the thoughts you shouldn’t be thinking. annoy. How To Get Rid Of Unwanted Thoughts What are unwanted thoughts and why are they such an issue? Unwanted thoughts are the thoughts that shouldn’t be a part of your thinking process. before the thought envelops your mind.

How To Be A Good Leader With people and organizations changing drastically. you think better and healthier. Consult A Psychiatrist If you’ve tried the above remedies and have still failed to get rid of your unwanted thoughts. This change has lead to an alteration in the required qualities of a good leader as well. The interest that he takes in realizing the goals motivates his followers to work effectively. and when you feel refreshed. dreaming and devoting oneself towards the fulfillment of the dreams. but developed. A leader’s keenness. The best way to lead subordinates or juniors is by setting an example through his/her life and actions. but there is nothing to be ashamed of. and can vary from a temperate to a serious psychological disorder. you need to get a few things straight. making sure of the completion of the work and meeting the deadlines and targets. If you’re troubled by something and if someone’s getting to you and you’re feeling a bit obsessed. Only then will the words be effective. However. This comprises of delegating work to others. a good leader should also be concerned for his people. Most people may not be too proud about a visit to a psychiatrist. The unwanted thoughts syndrome is a common disorder and a fair amount of people have been plagued with the same. as they would be accompanied by action. You need a psychiatrist who can help you deal with your unwanted thoughts. should have an undying and enduring . Apart from being committed towards his/her work. Bear in mind that leadershipskills are not inherited. When you’ve had your eight hours of sleep. enthusiasm and openmindedness assists in encouraging his/her followers to take more efforts towards the goals and achieve them. you need help. you can sleep over it. A leader. Leadership is all about daring.rid of your superfluous thoughts. in order to be a good leader. Be Enthusiastic A good leader should be enthusiastic. What Makes A Good Leader Set An Example A person has to be trustworthy and possess a good character. maybe the issue is a lot more serious than you think it is. before going down to the qualities. Sleep is a great weapon against pestering thoughts. go ahead. hence. Read on further to know the traits and qualities which make a good leader. This is when you need to be going in for some expert advice. The thoughts on these issues may lose themselves while you sleep. you feel better and refreshed. Some unwanted thoughts may be an issue. So. get yourself some. An effective leader is one who guides his followers in the right direction and helps them attain the desired goal. if you think. effective leadership styles too has undergone immense change.

at the right time. Effective leadership skills cannot just be stumbled upon. Hence. While calmness and composure helps in taking the right decision. delegate them responsibilities and choose people who will implement your decisions successfully. without which he would not be able to earn the trust and respect from his followers. By effectively executing the tasks. A leader should not lose his control in such situations. All the circumstances should be handled with a cool mind. In fact leadership skills are much more than speaking confidently and carrying a serious demeanor. the leader achieves excellence which is a key determinant for a good leader. A leader should be self-confident. A good leader is judged by fair and right choices that he makes. And remember. A confident leader is in a better position to take the right decisions and effective actions. understand the potential of your people and allocate duties accordingly. Know Thy People Know and understand your people to become a good leader. The right leadership style is required in every walk of professional life. Therefore. Be Reasonable & Understanding A leader is mostly chosen as a result of unanimous decision by the people or the group. Make good selections. it is rightly . whether you own a business. a leader can take the subordinates and juniors to the path of success. To be an effective leader. Hence. leader should not overlook the expectations and problems of his people. manage it or are an employee looking to make your way up to the corporate ladder. especially in case of critical situations. Be Confident A true leader is undoubtedly confident. hasty decisions are often the result of stress and anxiety.enthusiasm about the work or specified goal in order to give the subordinates a boost to attain or meet the targets. which would otherwise result in incorrect decisions. which leads to repentance. one must possess an exclusive set of human relations and interpersonal skills. For proper execution of your work. Keep Your Cool An important characteristic of a good leader is the ability to keep cool in all kinds of situations. it can be safely assumed that it is the people who make a person a leader. they requireinvestment of time and energy to perfect and craft your skills. By sorting out the weaknesses and lauding the strengths. it is the success of subordinates and juniors that makes a leader successful Effective Leadership Skills The secret to great leadership is about having the leadership skills to be able to deal with people in a delicate yet powerful manner.

Traits Of An Effective Leader Emotional Stability A good leader should be capable of tolerating frustration and stress.said. while dealing with other people. A leader should possess a never-say-die-spirit and should always to ready for challenges. Conscientiousness Since leaders are dominated by a sense of duty. Read to know the different traits of an effective leader. A leader should be secure. Tough-mindedness A good leader should be practical. logical and to-the-point. Since he/she has to face lots of risks and criticism. Hence. free of guilt and unaffected by prior mistakes or failures. Dominance An effective leader must be assertive in his thinking style and have a confident attitude. One must be mature enough to recognize that more can be accomplished by empowering others. However. they tend to be demanding in character. Team Orientation These days. a leader must be low in sentimental attachments and insensitive to hardship. A good leader establishes an adult-adult relationship with his employees to encourage and motivate . High Energy A leader should be highly energetic since he would have to invest in long hours of work to raise the company. Enthusiasm Leaders are assumed to be active and expressive. He should be competitive and capable of taking decisions on behalf of his entire team. He/she should have an undying spirit and enduring enthusiasm about the work and should be capable of inducing the same attitude into his team. The person must be able to adjust well and have the psychological maturity to deal with anything that he/she is likely to face. he should also be quick and alert while doing so. a successful leader should be very self-disciplined and have a need for order and a high standard of excellence. An effective leader must be optimistic and open to changes coming across him. while being a leader. Self-assurance Other common characteristics of an effective leader are self-confidence and resiliency. rather than ruling them. more emphasis is laid upon team work by business leaders. well-honed leadership skill is the most important component for being successful in the businessworld. Maturity Personal power and recognition should be put aside to focus on the development of the employees in order to be a good leader.

Charisma Since leaders are perceived larger than life by most people. Robot Handshake A robot handshake is one that is offered automatically without any noticeable thought or feeling. The way we shake hands shows the kind of a person we are. What Does Your Handshake Mean Flabby Handshake A flabby handshake is made by a person who is a pessimist. thereby unifying and captivating them. This simply shows that the person is simply not interested and is indifferent towards you. rather than an adult-child relationship. What Your Handshake Says About You Body language is one of the forms of communication that makes use of various body areas or parts to convey a message. Through this vision. character and professionalism. Also known as a limp-fish handshake. a hand pointing upwards is a weak handshake thereby indicating that you are shy. uncomfortable or nervous. Jackhammer Handshake .them. Did you know that a lot can be deduced about a person from a single handshake? While a firm handshake with the hand facing downwards and arm extended shows that you are confident. not willing to give it back to you. charisma plays an integral role in gaining the trust of the employees. A handshake is one such gesture that is used to greet others. this is considered as the most unimpressive handshakes among all. Prison Handshake A person making a prison handshake will offer a firm hand keeping your hand in his for a long duration. resulting in personal rewards and values. Read on further to know what our handshake says about us. a leader better motivates employees to achieve their future goals. It conveys power. meet new people or close a deal or agreement. Charismatic leaders are better capable of arousing strong emotions among the employees by defining a vision. People making such a handshake seem to be expecting something from your side. confidence. wherein the former orders and the latter obeys.

Queen’s Handshake A person who offers his fingers. it is difficult to lie while looking directly into a person’s eyes. This handshake indicates a sense of superiority. Next-to-the-body Handshake People who are not willing to take risks. For most people. Also. with an exception of very few people mastering this technique. Using eye contact effectively proves to be boon for establishing close relationships with people. Some people assume this handshake to be a sexual connotation. Do not look into the person’s eyes • . Read on further to find tips for using eye contact for successful conversation. They will make a dynamic and forceful handshake indicating their power and determination. looking elsewhere while in a conversation with someone is actually considered to be an insult. make a next-to-the-body handshake. this is what you can do. This is made by keeping the arm close to the body and bending it only at the elbow to perform a handshake. instead of his palm for making a handshake is said to be making a Queen’s handshake. While avoiding eye contact during the conversation can indicate that you are nervous or trustworthy. To convey confidence and professionalism. This is done to cover up their feelings of diffidence.People who are a little inflexible tend to make a jackhammer handshake as they think that their way is the right one. In case you are one of those who feel uncomfortable at looking directly into a person’s eyes. Normal Handshake A normal handshake is one that is made briefly and firmly. communicates your confidence and translates your sincerity. A lot can be conveyed from a person’s eyes. It is also advisable not to stare directly into the eyes of a person. How To Use Eye Contact Properly In Conversations • Make a good balance between making eye contact and looking away. At some places across the world. Squeezing Handshake People who tend to show their strength and power make a squeezing handshake. Making an eye contact while conversing signals your presence. maintaining too much eye contact can make the other person uncomfortable. Also. come what may. How To Use Eye Contact For Conversation Success Eyes have been the windows to the soul. such as politicians. making eye contact with another person provides a feeling of intimacy and openness. this is the best handshake to execute. it might reflect over-confidence and impudence.

Hence. to let the person know that you are interested in the conversation. which will help you understand and acquire the skills needed for public speaking. make sure that you bring back your attention to the person’s face with whom you are conversing. instead. • Some people stare too intently into the eyes of the person without looking away. It’s the ability to inform and keep the audience interested. While you are conversing with a person. Show keen interest by gazing at his/her face every now and then. This would help you remain in your comfort zone without showing that you are nervous. others can develop it by acquiring certain skills. which marks the success of speech. a woman making eye contact is considered to be sign of an unrespectable woman • • • • Public Speaking Skills King of bollywood. by saying. thereby making the other person uncomfortable. While Caucasian people living in North America prefer making a lot of eye contact. Shahrukh Khan gave tips on public speaking to all. do you have to rack your brains to remember one? Sadly. However. So. Just the knowledge of the subject is not enough to make your speech a success. “My first rule of public speaking…if you don’t strike oil in 3 minutes…stop boring!” The ability to deliver a great speech in public is the skill. Mastering the art of public speaking is easy for some. while conversing with such people. Include facial expressions. making contact is not allowed for a woman towards a man who is not related to her.directly. nodding and gazing. A great public speaker has the power to spellbind the audience. and even trigger reactions from them. soften the stare by glancing away from the person at a gap of few seconds. Glancing too much towards the room or looking at other people around makes the person feel dejected or ignored. In some cultures. In case you are one of them. necessary for making it memorable for audience. This makes you look friendly. look gently at the eye area. with the change of the conversation. while it’s a challenge for others. There are many more ingredients to it. which is highly regarded. Essential Public Speaking Skills . let him/her know that you are listening intently. allowing your eyes go a little bit out of focus. While some are born with this trait. In other cultures. invoke emotions. such as the eyebrows or bridge of the nose. Here are some pointers. make sure that you make only the required eye contact. most talks are easy to forget because they lack the impact. like smiling. Think of the last memorable talk or presentation you attended. Keep your facial muscles relaxed and change your facial expressions. people from Oriental countries avoid doing so. Every culture has its own rules with regard to eye contact.

you need to know why they should listen to you. Why? In order to convert your audience into dedicated listeners. What kind of audience you are addressing to? By answering this question.Understand What You Want To Achieve Before you start working on your speech or presentation. Vital Public Speaking Skills • Before beginning on a topic on which you have to give a speech. Add facts. You should follow a logical pattern. and remedies of air pollution. the kind of language you will use will play an important role. How? – How here stands for understanding the best way you can communicate your message. your priority should be to keep the content of your speech simple and interesting so that your audience can grasp it well. like causes. For your audience to grasp the idea easily. • • . you will determine the objective of your talk keeping in perspective the audience. What? – What here stands for what you wish to communicate via your talk or speech? If you are giving a talk on air pollution then you should mark down the topics you would like to cover under this. it’s important to keep in mind the following: Who? . quotations. why you are speaking on the topic. when delivering a speech. You should communicate to your audience. take effective pauses to make sure. They should effectively complement your ideas. Good speakers always research before conveying their message. While giving a speech. Stories are easy to understand and are loved by all. that what you are speaking is something valuable and will be useful for them. If your audience consists of school students. middle. whenever you are speaking on a topic. There might be a variety of aspects to the topic you are dealing with but you can’t cover all in your short speech so give main points or highlights of the topic to your audience. Use language. stories. which is simple and easy to grasp by your audience. less is always more. When? It is important for you to develop a sense of timing. However. that what you are speaking is being heard and absorbed by the audience. The next important step. just don’t include them for the sake of using. If you are speaking about air pollution then it’s important to make audience aware about its causes before jumping to effects.Your audience should understand. which connect well to your core idea. it’s a good idea to add humor. it is important to research the topic well. to your speech. and the end of the content. and statistics. In this. If you are using slides in your presentation then limit the content of each slide to a few bullet points. you need to do is to plan a beginning. and why it’s important for them to listen. effects. • When it comes to wording your message.Who here stands for audience. Or convey your idea wrapped in the form of story.

when we look at ourselves in the mirror. Be precise and concise. tone. Don't stay stuck behind a podium. If your opening words are unable to bind the audience then you lose half the battle. While making a speech or presentation. Here’s how to bring in the ‘feel good’ factor about yourself. and volume.• Always remember that your opening words and closing words make the most of the impact on the audience. Same is the case with the closing words. Easy Ways To Feel Good About Yourself Here’s what you must do to feel good about yourself: Life’s No Enemy . it’s very important to connect with the audience. So. Pauses play an effective role. the society carelessly throws us into. Your first step is to maintain an eye contact with the audience while delivering the speech. Ask questions to your audience. Many of us do not like to see ourselves in the mirror at all. However. They should make an impact on the audience and force them to think on the topic you have just spoken about. It’s essential to keep your body up-beat. Don't talk too fast. when given the opportunity to do the same. when delivering the speech. this will open the channel of discussion and your audience will get involved. there are some simple rules that you can follow if you wish to feel good about yourself. No wonder most of us never feel good about ourselves. We long to break free from all such pretentions. afraid of what we might see ourselves as – since we tend to define ‘successes and ‘failure’ in extremely conventional ways. • Unforgettable Delivery You can make your speech or presentation unforgettable. but by the straitjacket. voice. Your second step should be to interact with the audience. while making a presentation. This will make your speech effective. yet. we see ourselves not for what we are. the decision of ‘what we ought to be’ is not decided by the standards we set for ourselves. fall right back into the very trap. Use a variety of vocal pace. but what we ought to be. Use examples to bring key points of your speech to life. Nevertheless. Ways To Feel Good About Yourself Most of the times. if you follow these useful tips: • • • • • • Understand the purpose of presentation. pay as much attention to opening and closing words as you pay to the body of the speech.

For the person who's trapped in his or her own shell of negativity. which they consider to be not worth taking the pain. the result is that they make any excuse to not go out in the world with a positive outlook. Green Isn’t Good Though most of us might believe that life will improve once we've bought a bigger house. humor has the potential to last far longer than physical traits. you'll keep people at arm's length and never make new friends or improve the friendships you already have. is not a compliment that people give anyone. or at the very least. Also. The problem with the desire to have what others have. No matter how much you may try to match up to the lifestyle of someone else. Therefore. it is best if you try to feel out the people around you before you start joking around. if the step you contemplate is going to be of any use to him [her]. “Whenever you are in doubt. The only problem with being too humorous is that not everyone will have the same sense of humor as you and can get offended. or when the self becomes too much with you. there may be situation where making light of the situation could actually prove to be rather inappropriate. “Your sense of humour is wonderful”. and ask yourself. then good for you . Will he [she] gain anything by it? Will it restore him [her] to a control over his [her] own life and destiny? In other words. Recall the face of the poorest and the weakest man [woman] whom you may have seen. apply the following test. Remember the talisman Gandhi ji gave. much to our chagrin. there will always be something else that would fall short. Having a sense of humor can make it easier to be friendly even with strangers and makes tough situations less stressful. there are people not far from you who are far worse off than you are! . had a baby. To inculcate a more positive outlook on life you need to understand that most people are way too busy managing their own lives to take the pains to hurt you. Look around you and appreciate the things you do have instead of focusing on those you don't.” No matter how little you think you have. you'd like to have. we find that it hasn’t. What we refuse to acknowledge is that there is always something that will make you feel better than you are right now. Being friends is far more pleasant than being enemies so why would they want to put so much energy into something they'd have nothing to gain from? The ‘Ha! Ha!’ Is On Me A good sense of humor is more important than being what most people consider "beautiful" in the conventional sense. while “You are pretty or good looking” is a compliment that is as carelessly thrown around as any pleasantry. will it lead to swaraj [freedom] for the hungry and spiritually starving millions? Then you will find your doubts and your self melt away. If you are constantly suspicious of others' motives and keep believing that they have some hidden agenda that involves hurting you. some people are out to get us. for this reason. which you believe you too have a right to possess is that those wishes never diminish. Don't fall for it! If you get the things. Meeting people would require them to be friendly. Most people appreciate a sense of humor more anyway. been on a foreign holiday or re-decorated the living room. Likewise.just don't let them hinder your chance of happiness along the way.Most of us often feel that everyone on this earth.

Determine whether you want to learn the language just for day to day use or for a specific purpose. Try and avoid any form of grammatical errors when speaking. Having a person who knows English to speak to will help you improvise your usage of words and formation of sentences. It becomes easier to express and communicate with others. Grammar is the basic of any language which need to be mastered in order to speak the language accurately. Depending on your need of the language choose the version or level you will have to master. and slangs depending on the situation. as you cannot learn everything. Try and learn even the antonyms and the synonyms of each word and the correct structure in which you can use the word. Choose a friend or a partner with whom you can practice speaking the language. People who know the language well modify their language by using idioms. The trick here will be to use simple recognized version of English by keeping the usage correct. If the person you choose is your good friend. if the conversation is in common language. which you as a beginner cannot expect to do. Practice is the only key here. English is quiet easy to follow as it has aspects of several languages in it. Tips To Speak English Fluently • The first and foremost step towards speaking English fluently is to decide the purpose of learning the language. good command over English has become a necessity. It is only through enough • • • • • . therefore only little bit of hard work and dedication will make you fluent in the language. decide and put aside the vocabulary and the sentence construction which is ideal for you to learn. Do not try and use any such phrases or idioms till the time you are confident of their correct usage. then learning becomes easier. Depending on your use of the language. Knowledge of English will help a person develop his/her self confidence by giving them the power to take part in conversations. It takes years of exposure to the language for someone to modify the language according to the situation. Language helps in communicating and conversing with one another. Practice using new words in real situations by integrating them into conversations. as you have your own comfort zone with them. Pick up around ten words and sentences from the particular area everyday and practice them thoroughly. English has become the most common language and widely spoken language in the world today. It is just a matter of your dedication and sincere efforts. Learning English and speaking it fluently is an easy task. phrases. In fact in the present era.How To Speak English Flu ently Language is the tool used for conveying and expressing feelings and emotions. even if English is not someone’s mother tongue.

It is an undeniable fact that clearing out what you no longer want makes life easier. in our life. leaving them with moments of gloominess. which you hate to do. Some unaccomplished project or a simple household work. leaving us with no time to smile and relax. They will make you love your life. This article will provide you with a few tips on how to get away from worries and cheer yourself up. In fact. you will start feeling happy and be able to get rid of any worries. Push back all your worries by forcing a smile. This will help in getting rid of the negative energy from your work place as well as your home and give space for some positive energy to flow in. Turn the music loud and dance to the beats. forget about family and friends. Finish any such pending work. Sing at the top of your voice instead and continue to enjoy yourself. • There are many institutions that provide both classes and online education for oral and written English. everyone is so busy and preoccupied with living life that they hardly take out time for even his/her own self. Put aside or clear out all the clutter around you. instead of putting it off. Once you are done with the task. it will surely make you feel good. which will help you become fluent in its usage. even if you don’t feel like smiling. This lifestyle is but natural to bring along with it lots of worries and tensions for people. might be continuously nagging you. If you think that you cannot dance. Spend some time with children. in the present world. A spontaneous hug or a chubby little hand in yours will bring joy and add life to that moment. One can make use of any such facility and get professionally trained in the language How To Cheer Yourself Up Almost all of us have faced a bleak moment or some kind of depression at one point of time or the other. do not let that stop you having fun. Getting rid of your past and all your worries will give you an immense sense of freedom and will give you the confidence that the future holds only happiness for you. This is a proven fact that if you think and act as if you are happy. This will trick your brain into thinking that you are happy. At such times. it becomes very necessary to them to make efforts to perk up and have some fun. There might be some worries bothering us every now and then. Best Ways Of Cheering Yourself Up • Put on your favorite music and dance out your worries. reward yourself with something that you love. say an aromatic bath or a bunch of flowers and • • • • . Their natural zest for life is infectious and will cheer you up as well.practice that you will be able to get the grammar correct.

Learn a language.just to find that your colleague has got that much awaited promotion! Do such scenarios sound familiar to you? If they do. trace your family history. It will help you release the “feel good chemicals” called endorphins. This will help you come out of your worries.chocolate. you put your heart and soul into your work . rather visualize it with some new excitement waiting for you. • Think positive and keep repeating to yourself whenever you leave the house that ‘today. The peace of mind that comes from having got the job done will be the greatest relief and reward of all. Or. Plan out a day with him/her and have a blast. put on the daily jokes option on your mailbox or simply throw a party. The reality is often less stressful than sitting alone worrying about it. there is no need to despair and think that someone has jinxed you. my day is going to be great. sketch a portrait. in your body. get rid of it. it is going to be a lot of fun’. This will not only occupy your mind. Try and talk out your problem to one of your friends. Endorphins induce a feeling of euphoria and change your mood from sad and dark to happy and bright. Indulge in exercise or perform yoga whenever you feel you are down with a worry. learn a new game. Spending some time with your old friend will bring back the young and cheerful person in you. but will help develop high self-confidence and self-esteem. watch comedies. redecorate your room. and go in for a drink. however. Let your feelings flow out in a painting or a drawing. • • • • • • Dealing With Setbacks You have worked long and hard towards that right moment to propose to the girl of your dreams. Have fun when you are down. Visit an old friend. this will help reduce your burden and give you space to think logically. If there is a situation that is worrying you the whole day long. Visualize yourself successfully completing the new project and the benefits it will bring to your life. Play games. especially when everything else seems to be so right and perfect! Just taking life with a pinch of salt. might get the ball back in your court! . Needless to say. take music lessons or do something you always wanted to do. Take up something new. Never think that your day is going to be boring and lethargic. plan a garden. Make something! Be a bit creative and bake a cake. narrate your experiences. or paint a landscape. Almost all of us have faced setbacks at some or the other point of time in our life. Having fun and getting involved with friends will help cheer you up. rather than thinking negatively about it. setbacks are not something we like to put up with. only to find out that she is engaged to someone else. Share jokes.

Think before taking the escape route. The low would soon disappear. try to think of all the right things you have done. we conjure up impressions of things that are far beyond the reality. rather your unwillingness to accept it and refuse to give things a try is.says Maxwell. At such times. a street-brawl. and strong enough to correct them’. a misunderstanding with your spouse. Here are some boosters for you to take heed of.” • • • • Personal Goals In Life The moment we are born. setback is just a phase of life that is likely to get over soon. How To Deal With Setbacks • ‘A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes. assess. evaluate. Look for opportunities to come out of it and work your way to success. Read on and know all about dealing with the setbacks that have been plaguing for life for sometime now. By the . Once you have done so. Doing this can go a long way in helping you dissipate your anxiety. It will give you a chance to start over once again and do things in the right way. The only thing that overcomes hard luck is hard work. at times. The next step is to understand the cause behind the setback. there is hardly any reason to despair. your own fault anything that might have caused the setback needs to be figured out. better person.Remember. look towards tomorrow. distress and dejection in yourself. An objective consideration of the situation may help you to assess it better and take the right corrective measures. including ourselves. Stay positive. Often. we join a competition and end up competing with everyone around. in order to gain an accurate perspective. Just let go off all feelings. Holding yourself in the midst of adversity and fighting out of it will just make you a wiser. Remember. accept them and then take steps to rid your system of these feelings. hold your ground. If you have suffered a slowdown in life. Failures can make our reasons go for a toss. Keep a tab over your feelings and look out for possible signs of despair. Don’t sit and cry over your failures. Instead. it is better to distance yourself from them. Once you have a smile back on your face and are feeling good about yourself. consider and act. you can start making lemonade. smart enough to profit from them. Instead of concentrating on wrongs. Don’t be harsh on yourself. When the situations seem drab. A bad day at work. when suffering from setback. Remember. failure is not a setback. Running away from your problems is no way to deal with them! Acknowledging your problems is the first big step towards solving them. “when life gives you lemon. things may not be as bad as they seem. It is likely to get you nowhere.

You may want to keep track of your daily expenditure to know how much money is going in which direction. Some people might decide to get a certain degree or attend classes after many years of having worked just to keep themselves updated about what is happening in the industry. That is because we reach stagnation after that. So many of us set goals at a time when we should be enjoying. You should know when it is time for you to enhance your knowledge or acquire some new skills. you could set your goals with first priority on something else – you must remember that these are not in the order of importance or significance. you must have thought of the amount of money you will need to build a home of your own. You could device your own priority list. you may have to plan ahead as to how much money you will have to save for it. It is one goal that you cannot afford to lose track of. Many of us do not know that goals are to be changed and ‘updated’ from time to time. Goals are supposed provide a definite direction to our lives and help us identify our final destinations. which will decide the way we live our lives. we are asked to set our goals. It is like asking yourself the very typical interview question – where do you see yourself after a stipulated amount of time. goals are all-encompassing and are also include the personal and familial life of a person. what all you will need for it and so on. they might want to get a six pack abs! Here are a few personal goals that will make your lives worthwhile. contrary to that notion. You might also want to know what you do with that money. Education This refers to any kind of knowledge that you may want to acquire. support many causes that may touch a chord with them – some of them may want to associate themselves with AIDS . Even as a person aims to reach to a certain level in their career. If you plan to buy or build a house or acquire other assets. and by the time we think we have achieved all our goals. Others may want to start with the profession only after they have acquired that knowledge. Employers also invest more in people who know where they are headed. You should have a clear idea about where you wish to reach in your life. when you can do it or when you can devote time to it and how long would it take you to do so. Career You must have set goals about the profession that you are following. even as they work and earn. most of us might think that goals are only associated with career. Community Service Many youngsters. we feel that something is missing. How To Set Personal Goals In Life Here are some ways to decide upon various personal goals that you may want to set for yourself. Also. Financial When you set out to work and began to work. so that you can cut down on wasteful expenditure. There is no point in reaching stagnation in your career and studies prove that people cannot be satisfied with their jobs or professions until it offers them challenges and more responsibilities at regular intervals. Though education features first on the list.time we are old enough to boast of surging hormones.

It is something that your heart longs for and as long as the longing remains unfulfilled. It could be in ways like helping your child with his physics lessons or helping your wife cook lunch every day because she is going through a painful menopause! It could also be in the form of taking care of ageing parents or. which is your prime reason for earning a living How To Deal With Cravings Do you.awareness or may spend some time taking care of differently abled children or some others may want to lend a hand at the Helpage India Foundation. no matter what the craving is for.” This quip might strike a responsive chord in you. make sure you stick to it. remember that there is a big difference between desire to fight the craving and actually taking steps to fight it. Family Men and women have responsibilities towards their families. it is better to chalk out an action plan as well. such as drugs and tobacco. the families that they build. be painful and even exhausting. parents-in-law too. have a strong desire to do or to get something. and face frequent relapses. following some simple tips to control it will help you win the fight against your inner drives and desires. You will need to ask yourself what kind of responsibilities you have towards your family members. Trying to curb these cravings could. your spouse. When you have decided to take active steps. such as smoking. you tend to go through emotional turmoil. How To Control Your Cravings • No matter what you are craving for. a desire that you feel you just can’t control? This desire is called a craving. Whatever be the cause that you want to associate yourself with. Mark Twain once said: “Giving up smoking is the easiest thing in the world. I know because I’ve done it thousands of times. at times. You should also know why you are associating yourself with the cause and how much time you can devote to the cause as a volunteer and in which way you can contribute to the cause that is close to your heart – whether it is spending some time with homeless veterans at Helpage homes. This is especially true when you are trying to fight a bad habit. but to no avail. as well as. Read on to explore how to deal with cravings. your siblings. the ones they were a part of. preparing to lend services as a volunteer for various activities or so on. You have to know how much time and energy to devote for the family. These cravings could range from something as simple as food to bigger things. because there might be something that you might be trying to resist for quite sometime. . However. sometimes even parents-in-law. your parents. These responsibilities are not only in the material sense and go beyond the monetary duties. your children. at times.

in time. which are associated with earlier memories. They can be included among the triggers and you can try your best to avoid those circumstances. Positive thinking has worked miracles in the life of terminally ill people. Monitor your progress. if you concentrate to control your thought process. You will find that. at fighting off the craving. self esteem and sound health while your bad thoughts can ruin you gradually. you will be able to have better control over them and fight them completely • • • • • How To Utilize The Positive Power Of Thinking Norman Vincent Peal may be the first person who comes to your mind when somebody talks about ‘the power of positive thinking’. There might be triggers that set them off. even unwittingly. you will find that the intensity of cravings has reduced. For example. Get the help of others. so that you do not come across these triggers. reading recipes of burgers. He is one author who wrote many books about the power of positive thinking. analyze situations that you can avoid. write down the circumstances led to them. pizzas and foods with high caloric content will get you craving for them. You can achieve the whole world if your mind is in your control and if you feed it with . high confidence. Be realistic and balanced. Take a few minutes everyday to reflect on how successful you have been. Good thoughts are called as positive thoughts and bad ones as negative thoughts. they will give you peace of mind. You may have heard that there are two kinds of thoughts. In time. Write down the triggers besides each individual craving. Each of your thoughts have immense energy that can empower you to achieve whatever you want to.• Write down the cravings that tend to overtake you most frequently. if you are on a diet. Expect relapses and do not be too hard on yourself. If there were relapses. until you have better control over yourself. Some of them might stem from habits that have been developed over years. when you gave in to cravings. Thoughts are tiny packets of energy. Remember that you will not be able to overcome your cravings overnight. if you feel that you cannot handle your cravings on your own. If you feed your mind with good thoughts. you will need to give yourself time to get over them completely. as you keep yourself busy. being the cause of aggravating or triggering off your cravings. This will help them avoid. if you give in to cravings periodically. habits or desires. Keep yourself busy. Inform your family and friends about how you are trying to deal with them. Once you have identified the triggers. the chances of your mind relapsing into an idle state are less. You will find that. Therefore. The mind takes time to heal and so do the cravings.

On other hand. This will make you feel better about yourself and that will reflect in every activity you do in life. You should think of yourself as the best person ever born on the face of earth. You should walk like a king. a witty conversation is best when your audience too is an intellectual match. It is the lack of control on your mind which makes the weed of negative thought grown in your mind.good and beautiful thoughts. It takes high stress to convince yourself that you are doing well but you should take burden for being a person with positive thinking. • One effective exercise that can help one to develop a good attitude is giving more compliments to people. Tips To Build & Use Power Of Positive Thinking • You should feed your mind with positive thoughts and good things will happen in your life. This limitless thinking will provide you more richness in material and spiritual sense. It can prove to be an impressive tool for flirting as well. it would lead you to high guilty conscious which can burn your inner peace forever. . have a good time and feel comfortable at parties. Basically a compliment is a chicken soup for a human soul. If done rightly. There is a mentality in majority of the human beings that they think themselves as very bad people which in fact they are not. compliment them for it from heart. it is an effective way to impress. network and ease the tension. Never think of the negative things which you happened to commit in your life. It helps you make friends. Read on the article to know more about how to utilize the positive power of thinking. When you shower people with compliments. Nonetheless. If your listener isn’t able to grasp your wittiness. You should think borderless and limitless. Never keep a bad image about yourself in your mind. which you never dreamt of. you might end up being a snob. According to ancient sages. Think of the good things you commit in your life. they would grow in your mind’s soil. People will start listening to you when you talk things with an air of confidence and authenticity. mind is almost like a garden. humor and knowledge to your listeners. Think of the good things your neighbor or your friend did in life. If you think of those things. if you put the seeds of negative thoughts in your mind. Your new confident personality can achieve you more friends in your work place or in college. they can affect you adversely. This will give you more confidence and will reflect in your body language. Never wear a posture of a tired and inferior person in your life. You will gradually become darling of the masses • • • How To Have A Witty Conversation Being witty in your conversation is a significant way to showcase your intelligence. It can be a reason for failure in life. They will feel better and they will treat you better. If you put seeds of virtue and peace. Compliment yourself as much as possible. you will also feel good about yourself. This image will help you to gain more confidence and it will reflect when you talk things.

Study and notice your audience. Dress yourself to enhance your wit. Be careful on jokes. Be sure to match your speech with the person who is conversing with you. Be quick as well as creative in your replies. A beret or another hat will also help in. Do not hesitate to make comments that may not be typical to you. In case you are talking to someone from another country. be sure that the other person too understands your reference. Use relevant quotations from various books. wherever applicable. Use of the right body language will be an added advantage. as you have spoken other people's mind. This will also show that you have been listening to the person. A commonly known. the better you look. movies or significant and famous personalities. You would be respected. Maintain a straight face. Be careful on your witty gestures. • • • • • Tips • Do not make the same references over and over again. to make it look like saying them comes naturally to you. by comparing his/her statement to something else. since every person has a different sense of humor. but also how quick you are.or just plain weird. Familiarize yourself with words and sharpen your vocabulary. Do not laugh unless the opposite participant makes an equal witty or funny comment. Be a good listener. The wittiness not only demands creativeness on how you link ideas and draw comparisons. it would do good to use phrases from his/her language. Observe the speakers and pick up humorous comments that other people would probably not notice. Although this will make the statement wittier. How To Be Witty While Conversing • • • • • • • • • Do not laugh at yourself. Read on further to know how you can be witty. Keep your witty remarks in a casual tone. Use puns wherever required. Be attentive. physical humor such as props can also be appropriate. The more trendy and up-to-date you are. while in a conversation. intelligent people are often stereotyped as wearing glasses. A playful smile and a raised eyebrow could add on a nice touch. Reflect the words of the other person in a different way. . In some situations. in responding. Your witnesses will start doubting your wittiness and intelligence.

instead of fretting about what you do not have. we must explore some of the traits and tricks that such people possess to get over all negativity. If you start by taking these little things less seriously. be thankful he did not hurt you. No matter how big the tragedy is. Gratitude It is important to be thankful to God for everything that you have. try to think about and concentrate on what you could have lost and did not. Do not try too hard to be witty. Not all people would like wittiness in their everyday conversations about work and other nuances Positive Thinking Tips And Tricks “Be Positive”. . however. many of whom do not know what it really means. In any circumstance that may elicit a negative response from you. Now that we all accept that tragedy can affect the most happy-go-lucky people and it is only in the perspective wherein the difference lies.• • Do not use your wittiness to put people down. the relief is. If a chain snatcher snatched your gold chain. This way. It makes you feel like you are perpetually the victim and never lets you think about what you could do to improve the situation. Tips To Maintain A Positive Outlook Here are some things that will help you develop and maintain a positive outlook: Humour It isn’t necessary to take life too seriously all the time – you can let go and laugh away life’s little miseries like missing a bus or train or spilling coffee on your dress. It may give you temporary relief to think of yourself as a victim. you may also take the bigger challenges that life throws at you with minimum negativity or anger. temporary and self destructive. we are often told by our friends and loved ones. Getting Rid Of Self Pity Wallowing too much in self pity and feelings that hold you back from progressing in the right direction are detrimental to your development as a person. This is considered low and insensitive. try to be thankful for what you did not lose. What are the character traits of those who think positive or maintain a positive outlook? Do they just go around saying “Aall Izzz Well” like the refrain from the runway hit 3 Idiots? What makes them so chirpy all the time? Why does negativity not affect them like it does to others? How would they handle a news or situation that normally invokes feelings of negativity from others? These are some of the questions that people ask themselves when they think about those who always seem to find something positive about everything. you will appreciate what you do have and will value it better. Here are some tricks that could lead us straight to positive outlook. not to mention to your natural state of happiness.

Your feeling of low esteem may be triggered by a critical remark or being treated badly by others. You follow it too. who are simply too judgmental about themselves. Ways To Build Self Esteem Create Affirming Lists Making a list about your strengths and positive aspects and rereading them often will make you feel better and positive about yourself. However. delusional thinking may also accompany them as all these issues are interrelated. Never lose the faith with which you began your life with – a child does not know mistrust. by far the most powerful positive feeling that has the capacity to heal any emotional wound. psychosis. Some such positive affirmations can be: • • I feel god about myself. I am a good person. try and reach out to someone who may need you and try to help them see the better side of their situation. don’t let it become a reason for your arrogance as everyone is unique in some way. malice. read the article to find some activities to help you on the same. find all their negativity melting away when they reach out and help someone and make that person feel better about themselves. Develop Positive Affirmations Make positive affirmations and statements about yourself that make you feel good and better about yourself. belief in your abilities and in the fact that everything will be alright in the end will heal you of all the negativity and self destructive behaviour. That it happens to majority of us doesn’t imply that it need not be worked upon. phobias. It is very important to find something in you that you can be proud of. . negativity. Self Esteem Building Activities Most people think bad about themselves from time to time. In case you wish to know how to build self esteem and thwart negative thoughts about yourself. Find inexpensive and simple ways to reward yourself for all your achievements and accomplishments. Make sure to leave all your own negativity behind when you reach out to the other person or else your negativity might transfer to them too. Be childlike in your belief in yourself but at the same time be realistic about your goals and achievements. Depression. Belief is. disbelief or cynicism. You can also add your achievements in life and your simple accomplishments. belief in yourself. anxiety. Think of ways you would like to feel about yourself and make such statements to yourself. Low self-esteem is a constant companion for some. List some of your strengths and a few things that you admire about yourself. Belief No matter what the situation is.Reaching Out Many people who were often plagued by negative thoughts and self destructive behaviour and thoughts.

One of the main reasons for people staying lonely is that they don’t have the strength or the inclination to move away from it. you should focus on your positives. This is all fine when loneliness is voluntary and there are options from breaking away from it. you will definitely find something adorable about yourself. I am taking good care of myself. Though there might be many things that you don’t like about yourself. I spend time with people who make me feel good about myself and are nice to me. There is a whole range of inspirational books that thrust upon the fact that being judgmental about oneself brings down the self-esteem of a person. This can make you feel under-confident. Loneliness is a state of mind. loneliness is the path to oneself. Books can be great source of motivation and inspirational books can serve to foster positive thinking and encourage one to think and feel better about oneself. You might as well find some solution to help yourself through these books How To Cure Loneliness A thin line separates the distance between being lonely and being alone. You may find many such books in stores. You can also share the points mentioned in the list with others whenever you feel like it.• • • There are many people who like me. Some people fall into a depression because of loneliness while some nurture their creativity through it. Remember that n body is perfect and people can just strive to achieve perfection. To look at it constructively. you can feel lonely in a crowd and at other times you busy with yourself even while you are alone. Sometimes. . Read Inspirational Books Read books that inspire and motivate you to look at yourself in a positive light. so that whenever you chance upon reading it your selfesteem gets a high. which will help you to cultivate self belief and selfesteem. a means of self discovery. Make copies of the list and keep them at several places. do exercise and do other things that I enjoy doing. Most people tend to be someone else and their self identity becomes the first casualty in the process. talents and achievements are the reasons you should be confident and selfassured. I eat right and healthy. Try To Reinforce A Positive Self-Image Instead of feeling low and demeaning yourself over some of your drawbacks. Loneliness mean different for different people. However when people are forced to loneliness they experience extreme emptiness and unworthiness. Your special attributes. You can also create a list of positive affirmations and keep it handy and read it whenever you feel low on confidence or indulge in self-pity.

Indulge in sports or go gyming. Even if you are unacquainted with any of the people. like a cramped house or an unhealthy neighborhood. To constantly dwell on the fact that you are lonely won’t help you in curing it. Try P. In order for you to get involved it would require some time and a lot more attention from your part. Just go out and do something. Read books and watch movies that lighten up your mood • • • • • • • • How To Get Out Of A Bad Mood . if you are one of those people who consider loneliness a burden then read the article below to know how to cure loneliness. Boredom breeds loneliness. In this way you can be more active and also get to meet other people. There are many people who are lonely and trying to cope with it.It becomes a part of their lives. So. Don’t withdraw yourself when you can go out and have fun. Being happy and cheerful is the sure shot way of driving away loneliness. Cultivate a hobby. Remember that loneliness is a choice and you always have the option of choosing otherwise. being near them will lift your spirits up. Go for a peaceful neighborhood where you will have more chance of making friends. If you can. Don’t fall into the drug or alcohol trap. Sometimes the environment around you can drive you to loneliness.G Wodehouse and you will see time flying by. These are no solution for loneliness. Try to stay near people as much as possible. Take a house that is airy and full of light. Don’t do things that make you feel lonely like reading depressing books and watching sad movies. • Get involved in your neighborhood activities. If you are working then lose yourself in the work. strike a friendship with them . Try to organize neighborhood get together and charity events. Help people who feel lonely and you would cure yourself of loneliness. Your work will be the best antidote to medicine. Find something that interests you so that it keeps your mind away from your loneliness. How To Handle Loneliness • The best way to cure loneliness is to keep yourself busy. If your house is bright your mood will be light. Cultivate the habit of reading as it is the best solution against boredom. instead they make you even lonelier. You can join a club or volunteer for some nonprofit organization.

it is best to divert your thoughts. towards positive thoughts and actions. Ways To Snap Out Of A Bad Mood Quickly • When you are in a bad mood. Playing your favorite tune is relaxing and tends to calm nerves as well. Music is known to be one of the best ways to relax. When Phelps was asked about this comment. you could also vent out your frustration. you feel that talking to someone about your personal thoughts is not possible. as the competitive spirit would be too intense. It is bad to bottle up your negative feelings and speaking them loud in front of a loved one will surely help you feel better. they write blogs. not all of us have such a strong personality. but would not be able to win eight gold medals at the Beijing Olympics. Comments from strangers on your thoughts. he said there are three things that make him mad and put him in a bad mood. through blogs. Phelps did not let Thorpe get the better of him . It helps you be positive. diverted them to positive actions of achievement. We have to inculcate in ourselves the ability to redirect our negative feelings. Any activity that is mechanical or mundane will help in getting you immersed into thinking of nothing in particular. which is very much required to get out of a bad mood. you could write them down. In case. doing paperwork or watching a movie will divert your thoughts for a while. ‘fatigue. In the 2008 Olympics in Beijing. This negative reaction is harmful for us as well as our loved ones and a conscious effort has to be made to change the mindset. While some people maintain diaries. However. muscle soreness and taunts from Ian Thorpe’. until your mood improves. a whole mental paradigm shift has to take place. But. This will not only help us become more relaxed. he participated in eight events and won gold medals in each one of them! It is great to see the sportsmanship with which Phelps dealt with his negative feelings and constructively. He had commented that the upcoming champion. When you are in a bad mood. In order to deal with a bad mood. Michael Phelps did have incredible ability. Take a walk or change the scene. but will also provide a less stressful environment for the people around. Being in the place or in front of the person who put you in a bad mood will only rekindle the negative feelings that you are • • • • .Ian Thorpe. It is a known fact that a person’s true personality comes out during bad moments. we tend to lash out at others (through blatant or passive aggression) or become self destructive. when we are in a bad mood. also known as ‘Thorpedo’. was a world champion swimmer who won eight gold medals in the 2000 Olympics. If you have close family members or friends. In most situations. as you get to travel through the melody that pleases your ears as well as your mind. give that non-judgmental third person point of view. someone who is neutral and will listen to you without giving judgment. what you need is a ‘sounding board’. in today’s Internet age. Discussed ahead are a few ways on how to get out of bad mood. Cleaning.he performed. Occupy yourself with something else.

overdoing physical activities when you are down may not be advisable. the unknown. That’s the power the dark has over us. You are confronted with unknown terrors that cannot be banished through rational thought. but when the fear starts leading towards the irrational then it is classed as a phobia called nyctophobia. The fear that something indescribable “is always near” is forever in the mind. like a pillow. The problem is that fear numbs the mind so much that the person cannot exercise his or her logical faculties. In this way you can counter your fear with facts. Instead of sitting. • It is also good to exercise. switch on the lights and see what the shadow is. when you are in a bad mood. You are alone in a room and suddenly the lights go out. So. its very necessary to get rid of this fear. And say . If you can’t switch on the lights then throw something at it. Try activities like dance. In case you cannot find any. Tips For Overcoming Fear Of Dark Logic Fear may be emotional but in most cases it is not logical. the mind conjures up images that reflect our greatest fear. start picturing to yourself the various object near you. naturally. It affects both children and adults alike. but after sometime a sinking feeling sets in. creative outlets like pottery.trying to divert. More often than not you will manage to drive out a cat or your sibling. Investigate You see a shadow in the corner and curl up on the bed not daring to go to the next room. Since you cannot see anything in the dark. It is a tendency inherent in man to fear that which is not known. Fair enough. Children. In that case some other person must take the responsibility of explaining that the fear is illogical. painting or anything that interests you and lets you retain your peace of mind How To Overcome Fear Of The Dark Everyone has faced this. When we are in fear we tend to see images and the best way to drive these is to counter it. Shadows hold the darkest secrets. However. See In The Dark Since darkness is the best friend of fear it is always better to locate a source of light. Read the article below to know how you can overcome the fear of the dark. Gradually the victim must be taught to apply logic to the situation. fear the dark and it shouldn’t be any cause for worry. Suddenly some stories and incidents come to mind that shouldn’t be thought in the dark. Getting some fresh air or maybe a cup of coffee will give you space to distract yourself and clear your head. In situations like this investigation can drive away your fears.

Thrillers and mystery novels are great as they engage your complete attention. It is truly a great responsibility to lead and direct people in life and in any situation. How To Be A Natural Leader One very often comes across this phrase from the popular movie ‘The Spiderman’ – With great power comes great responsibility. you won’t have fear. Sing Or Talk Sounds funny but when you are alone and fear grips you. One will be able to perform better only when one is aware of one’s drawbacks and shortcomings. Tips To Develop Natural Leadership Qualities • Constant or periodic evaluation of one’s strength and weaknesses is very essential to set the foundations of leadership. Psychotherapy If the fear is extreme then psychotherapy is advised. act as if you are not alone. Relax Learn to relax. At the same time. either in singing or in talking. In this way when you are faced with fear you can relax your selves and think about these things. Also remember that silence heightens the fear and so hearing your own voice.them aloud. Better still sing as you can make yourself oblivious to the fear. The therapy goes on or an extended period of time and varies from individual to individual. “on my left is the cupboard” and so on and so forth till you can visualize everything. For most of us this is just a popular phrase and often we tend to overlook the inner meaning of these words. Talk to yourself like you would talk to a friend. In addition to that. You need to be focused and completely dedicated to frame yourself as a leader. it is equally important to be aware of one’s potential as this acts like the motivation or the driving force to keep one going. goes a long way in driving it. You also need to keep yourself inspired and motivated . From afar it might look like a privilege to lead the masses but reality is something else. you also need to get yourself acquainted with different situations and conditions. To know more about how to develop leadership skills go through the info given below. In therapy the root cause of the fear is analyzed and the patient is slowly brought to terms with it. It requires a combination of a number of qualities and skills. Like you can say that “on my right is the TV”. Read inspirational books or anything that warms the heart. The trick is not to remind yourself of the fear. . As long as you don’t realize fear.

It requires frequent appraisals and refurbishing. for beautiful lips. It is only when you truly assess a situation can you think of leading others in a particular situation. It is not mandatory that you agree to and follow each and every instruction jotted on paper. speak only words of kindness. You may . every failure as a stepping stone which will lead you closer to your goal as a leader. It is extremely vital that you understand how such people think and act in order to inculcate their ways. it is not necessary that you actually mimic their actions. Being human. where the mind and body is in perfect coordination. It is only through such constructive criticism that one can aim to inculcate and adopt the inherent characteristics of a natural leader. pursue mentors to help you in the process. The ability to make quick and sensible decisions is very important for a leader. It is only through a better understanding of your surrounding environment can you aspire to influence them with your words and actions. Knowledge is the key to all answers and one can only gain information through regular and constant reading. both mental and physical poise more beautifully. Books are a great way to come across different kinds of opinions and ideas and get different types of outlooks about a particular issue. In our day to day life we come across people. Learn to gain control over your fears. Consider every obstacle. • • • • • How To Improve Poise “For beautiful eyes. However. it is but natural that you will come across qualms. It should be kept in mind that a leader never dilly-dallies or puts off issues. Yes. You can also critically evaluate these issues either personally or with a group. It totally depends on you how you gain control over your anxieties and lead a life that is inspiring for others. poise is the control that the mind has over the body and reversely the body over the mind. buckling under stress and anxiety. Leadership is not a quality that is absolute and complete.” This line was said by Audrey Hepburn. All you need to do is establish a fine connection between your own ideas and the already established ones of proven natural leaders. and physical poise through health andfitness of the body. Learn to judge a situation in terms of both pros and cons and act accordingly. suspicions and worries. walk with the knowledge that you are never alone. look for the good in others. This synchronization leads towards a faultless balance that is called poise. Rather. they try to come to a conclusion in a timely manner. Mental poise is achieved through calmness and the strength of will power of the mind. losing complete control over their body and mind. and nothing sums. Try to follow the example of other leaders and if possible.• Natural leaders take in-depth information about their surroundings and assess people around them. You can either seek the direct help of the mentors or try to figure out their line of thoughts and actions. and for poise.

Bring your right foot to the front and bend it at the knee. Mental Poise Improvement Concentration • • Be comfortable with what you are doing and give your hundred percent attention. Focus on a place in the ground and hold the breath for some time. Tips For Improving Poise Physical Poise Improvement • To improve the physical poise the bird yoga poses are especially good for creating a lightness of the body. with the palms facing backward spread the arms out. Stay calm and composed. • This is known as the swan pose (hamsasana). one at a time. This will help you to utilize all your mental faculties. This is known as the crane pose (bakasana). Now straighten the right leg. At the shoulder level. Have a clear purpose and a strong desire. and rise on your toes and then inhale and exhale. Release and repeat for the left leg. Then lend a little more and breathe evenly. Sit on your knees with the heels spread apart. and lift the left leg and straighten it. in solving the problem. This makes the life calm and composed. Don’t take undue panic. This results in a balance against gravity creating a state of extreme lightness. So. Now point the palm backwards. Think of the benefits and interest yourself in your work. Don’t see your flaws through the magnifying glass and criticize yourself constantly. Now bend and place the hands on either side of the right leg.ask why poise is so necessary. Poise is necessary so that we can eliminate negative and destructive thoughts and focus on the positive and constructive ones. • This is known as the flying bird pose (panshee). Lead forward. Slowly stretch the legs behind. towards the ground and bend the elbows. This will help you to make peace with yourself and be more confident. Put your palms on the ground and placing the stomach on the elbows lean forward slowly till your forehead touches the ground. Keep your feet together and stand straight. Above all show your commitment and belief. Repeat a few times relaxing in between. • • • • Don’t Judge Yourself Relax • Hold Your Head High . read the article below so that you can know how you can improve your poise. If you constantly get freaked out your poise is going to suffer. Spread the legs while standing up straight.

in order to successfully implement propertime management. Compare this with the time you have in hand and try to organize the tasks properly.• Show your confidence by standing tall and head held high. How To Organize Your Time Plan Ahead Plan your tasks for the day and know the time frame within which you have to complete them. else. On accomplishing the tasks. That is why timid people have such a bad poise as they do not make eye contact Tips On Organizing Time Time cannot be managed per se. as you will know where you have kept everything. It is important to use the right resources and stay focused on what you have to do. you can experience failure. Read on further to explore tips on organizing your time. it will help you know how to get back on the task. Always Have a Plan . organizing time is essential for success. If something unexpected happens or some sort of interruptions take place. you will feel that you have done a good job of managing your time. This will help you see what you have to do and how much time you will need to do it. time is required to accomplish goals. One of the most precious things. This will help you save time that you would have otherwise spent on looking out for items you will require. You can use this time to do other imortant tasks. This will keep you organized and it will be easier to manage time each day. Know Your Priorities Place the most important things at the top of your list and give yourself time to get these things done. you haven’t completed them. The only thing you can do is manage the way your spend your time. In case. Thus. be it in terms of your career or your family. You will have a far more effective influence if you hold your gaze strong and make eye contact. you will realize that the things did not have the right deadline or they weren’t really important. as you cannot speed it up or slow it down. Stay Organized Stay organized by managing files on your computer as well as organizing household or office itmes. Have a Routine Trying sticking to a certain time frame everyday. You need to organize yourself to achieve your goals and do the things that you want and need to do. Follow these simple guidelines to easily and efficiently manage time and reach your goals successfully.

Utilizing Constructive Criticism Criticism is one of the most overlooked. For example. it is not possible for a writer to be both author and editor to his or her own work. Have Extra Personal Time Whenever you plan out the day. Track Your Time Keep a track of how much time you are spending doing certain tasks. friends and extended conversations can end you off schedule. it is significant to receive advice for improvement and follow it without losing the soul of his or her writing. without constructive feedback to guide us. ask for help from someone. For an author. yet vital requirements for any person. You will find plenty of people around you who are willing to support you in your tasks. as our work is incomplete beyond a certain limit. Read on further to know how to utilize constructive criticism. Do not spend too much time searching for something new. Don’t Waste Time It is possible that procrastination and low motivation can come in the way of your accomplishing the goals internally. Stay focused and do not let these interruptions influence you. since you will be wasting time in accomplishing your goals. this will help you prevent problems and even the complaint that you didn’t have enough time to complete the task. Save time by setting goals and how much time you will need to accomplish these goals.Always know what your need to do and outline the time you need to do the task in. to accomplish your goals. keep time for yourself as well. Externally. which you can use to relax or have a meal. It often happens that you are not spending enough time doing something or the goals are requiring more time than you had estimated. Such a criticism is an integral part of our lives. This will help you focus and find more energy for the rest of the day. Ask For Help In case you have lots of goals to accomplish and you are unable to find a way out to get them done. Constructive criticism is important as the feedback and support of others helps us to fully develop our talents. Use Right Resources Find and stick to one type of system or process that works best for you. Eventually. How To Use Constructive Criticism . refocus your goals and tasks for the next time.

If you interrupt your friends or reviewers while they are giving their honest thoughts. Keep Quiet Often. Try to keep an open mind and do not respond to comments instantly. Perhaps. when you get responses to a particular aspect of your life. However. Undue comparisons. Read the article to find some useful tips on how to be more thankful and enjoy your life. To be a good critic taker. Make notes of all the reviews as they will help you summarize the feedback and rectify yourself accordingly. Receiving constructive criticism is often difficult for any person at all levels of experience. then only go ahead. you want to jump in and defend yourself. First is. to listen openly to everything that is being said about your work and second is to ask for clarification on anything that you may have not understood. explaining the way you have set up a particular point. without compromising on your original being. If you can utilize your critic’s advice in your life without losing your own perception. If you can do so. remember that you are the ultimate authority on yourself. note down scrupulous notes on everything they point out and jot down your own reactions.Receiving constructive criticism includes two parts. in order to learn to be more thankful. the idea behind constructive criticism is to let your reviewer tell you what they think of that aspect. this will sabotage the chances of your improving. personality. The following approaches will help you to receive and utilize criticism in an easier and productive manner. but to know how you can improve the clarity and impact of your work. or anything else. but it should be noted that the discussion is not to convince him/her of your point of view. Stay True To Yourself & Your Character Although constructive criticism is important. Stay Open Avoid behaving like most other people. Learning to be thankful about the simple joys of life will make your life better and more fruitful. Avoid interrupting or challenging until they have completed airing their views. behavior. you would be able to make the best possible use of constructive criticism How To Be More Thankful Life may seem unfair to most of us and the feeling of discontentment can raise its ugly head at the slightest provocation. Listen to your critics carefully. . However. you have to craft a compromise between your intent and your criticizer’s views. a bad day at the workplace or a petty fight with your spouse can make you feel distressed and dejected. a great deal of it is triggered by our tendency to not to be thankful enough for the good things we posses in life. you have to fight such negative vibes and look at the brighter side of life. who reject criticism at the first instance. Question your reviewer on why he disliked your stated views or work and how he would suggest you to improve your views/work found undesirable. Your criticizer’s remarks may often be helpful to you.

” It is a powerful tool used for motivating. What you have in life may not be in proportion to your expectations. food to eat and other necessities.Tips To Be More Thankful Appreciate Your Good Health No matter what your physical or mental health is like. You may be suffering from a dozen ailments. whenever so happened. persuading. Consider yourself lucky to have things going your way. The very thought of forgetting the lines or saying something entirely wrong boils down to the fear of being publicly ridiculed. Be Grateful For The Opportunities You Got Appreciate the opportunities that you have had in life. but too much of the . for there are many who continue to struggle all their lives. even as you feel disheartened for some of your dreams not being fulfilled The Art Of Public Speaking One can define public speaking as “the process of speaking to a group of people in a structured. We realize the value of certain things when we know that we can’t have them forever. translating to. feeling nervous before giving a speech is natural. but don’t disown the fact that you have a safe roof over your head. but it should not stop you from being pleased with whatever you have got. or entertain the listeners. This is not to say that always draw such comparisons that make you feel better. Don’t forget to be thankful to your friends and family just because they are always there. deliberate manner intended to inform. Be grateful for what you have than cribbing over that it could have been better. you should always appreciate the fact that it could have been worse. for whom a meal per day is a luxury they can’t afford. Value Your Family & Friends The tendency to take people for granted equates to devaluing them. influence. Value The Material Benefits You Enjoy You may dream about owning a palatial home one day. or simply entertaining the audience. Public speaking is also one of the human race’s greatest fears. Be grateful for the numerous exciting opportunities that might have come your way and helped you to become what you are today. To a certain extent. There are millions of people around. Look at people who have a poorer health than yours and you will realize how you are better off than a lot of people. but it is always better than the worst. rejected and humiliated. You just have to realize that you have so much to thank for. You should be thankful for the current status of your health. informing. When was the last time when you thanked your family and friends for their constant support? They have always been around and have been your pillar of strength standing by your side in the toughest of problems. influencing.

so let it go off. Tips For Speaking In Public Know Your Material The first step towards mastering public speaking is choosing a topic of your interest. Relax Begin your speech by addressing the audience. the audience always wants its speakers to be interesting. smile and count to three before saying anything. Set atimer and allow time for the unexpected. stimulating. Practice many times. Ease yourself by speaking to a group of friends. Visualize Yourself Imagine yourself speaking loud. by your own doing. Do Not Apologize In case you have committed a mistake. It is important to know about the group you would be talking to.same can prove to be detrimental. Practice using the microphone and other visual aids. Visualize the audience clapping and agreeing to what you are saying. Include humor and personal stories in your speech and use a conversational language. You can start with greeting some of the members when they enter. as this will give you time to calm your nerves. Practice Arrange all the equipment that you would be using and rehearse out loud. It might be possible that the audience hasn’t even noticed it. to attain the right flow and comfort level. as it can help you tailor what you will be speaking. Pause. do not apologize for any nervousness or problem. This will help you remember what to say. Practice while taking breaks. Concentrate On The Message . You can get a family member or friend to observe your rehearsal and give a constructive feedback. rather than strangers. Given below are some tips to control your butterflies and help you give better presentations. Do not make people criticize you. arrive at the location early and walk around the speaking area. These tips will help make the art of public speaking less stressful and create a more relaxed and confident you. Gather more information about the topic than what you are including in the speech. informative and entertaining. clear and confident. Explore The Audience Most people overlook this strategy. Get Acquainted With The Venue The day you have to indulge in public speaking. This will make you feel more confident. Remember. This will surely give a boost to your confidence. Transform your nervous energy into enthusiasm.

as these were the things that gave you peace of mind. giving you the false notion that everyone else is responsible for your condition. which is the key to effective public speaking as well. It will turn you against the whole world. imperative for a woman to stay happy. In any case. they may even enter into the destructive habit of self-pity. Ways To Stay Happy At Home No Pity The first thing to do is to come out of this apparently comfortable habit of pitying oneself. Or. and not according to terms defined by their man. you must pursue your interests. How To Stay Happy At Home Women. or perhaps. even as she is at home. during a lay-off. Read on to learn how to stay happy even at home. it is well said that a happy man is just one happy person. This will help make you successful. Stay focused on your material and consider the audience as your friend. Do not ever forget just how happy you felt singing. but also gives back a lot in terms of independent thought process and the ability to define themselves in their own terms. painting. they often feel wasted and purposeless. Now is the time. you have all the time in the world to pursue your interests. the modern refrain is to replace the word “diamonds” with the word “internet” (!). It is thus. you may have loved to paint but never found time to.Divert your attention from your own anxieties to your message and audience. Gain Experience Your speech should characterize you as an authority as well as an individual. often get addicted to the newfound independence that comes with pursuing a career. It is not only vulgar but also destructive. taking pictures. experience will help you build confidence. It teaches them a lot about life. Hobbies You may have been a good singer but never found time to practice music all the while you worked. while it is only you. when they take a hiatus or after retirement. Since you need to be at peace now more than at any other time. whereas a happy woman equals a happy family. If such women are to be made to sit at home. you cannot expect others to love you. Diamonds cannot teach you . This emotional downturn affects their daily interactions with people within and outside the family circle. just the circumstances that are responsible for you having to stay at home. Learn Something New Though the old saying was “Diamonds are a girl’s best friend”. especially those who are professionally inclined. If you do not love yourself. in fact. or cooking. In this context. when they turn mothers. after getting married into a different state. Many of them begin to sink into depression and blame their husbands or grown up children for their mood swings.

. detect the source of your stress. You need to have a positive attitude towards people and life. “laughter is the best medicine” . Study ahead and gain a few more qualifications. You will feel more worthy and will have something to do through the day. such as using your less dominant hand. Apply for an MBA or some other qualification. or even reading a book on a new subject.because if you can laugh at yourself.how to use Adobe Photoshop so that you can design birthday cards and other such things. Rightly said. it is essential to make efforts to improve our mental and emotional health too. you can find humor even when some things go awry. solving puzzles and riddles. and then discover healthy coping mechanisms to overcome the same. Develop and implement relaxation techniques that will work for you. Remember. Read on further to know how you can become a mentally stronger person and stay mentally fit. How To Become A Mentally Stronger Person Just as we exercise our physical body. if you feel the need to pamper yourself. or learn a new language that would help you better your prospects when looking for a job. Reduce Stress Firstly. than what is required to remain optimistic and hopeful. Thus. Study Contrary to what you might have thought. it was not your money but your knowledge that gave you all that power. all that matters is the choice you make. View all challenging situations coming your way as opportunities. you need more energy to worry and fret. Choose to talk about your progress and not your troubles and set boundaries for yourself wherever necessary. Ways To Stay Mentally Sharp & Strong Exercise Your Mind Sharpen up your brain by doing simple tricks. Staying mentally strong is not difficult. bypass the diamonds and give yourself an internet connection. Increase Self-esteem Think wisely and speak more positively about yourself. writing a short story. Diamonds cannot teach you how to make pepper rasam that you love but could never make. be proactive and decisive about your life and engage in active listening. Eliminate unnecessary stressors and accept situations that you have no control over. This strengthens our resiliency to bounce back when we are confronted by hefty problems and issues.

by scheduling out time from your routine. do a life review and determine what’s out of balance and what can be done to correct it. Tap Into Your Creative Genius Start thinking out of the box and view situations from different perspectives. Appeal To All Your Senses When dealing with new material in your life. writing. Be Resilient Make it a habit to bounce back from negative situations and throw out thoughts that no longer serve your purpose or are of no use to you. Develop a network of people that help you remain motivated and aligned with passion and purpose. use your abilities. researching. Use your imagination and instincts to examine problems and solutions. Try strengthening the relationship you have with yourself. believe in yourself and create your life well.Improve Coping Skills Have a positive attitude. knitting or woodworking. of taste. drawing. Frequently compare yourself with your own progress in the past and not with someone else’s. and renting funny movies. passion and abilities by indulging into writing. not loneliness. Honor your natural talents. going to the library. Build Strong Support System Engage with or choose people who have a positive attitude and keep away from the ones who drain your energy. How To Keep From Having A Judgmental Attitude It is in human nature to be judgmental. sight and hearing. such as bike-riding. You can try downtime activities that are inexpensive. smell. touch. Analyze yourself. before narrowing down to a decision. Spend Some Time Alone Spend some positive time in solitude. Many people often look down on others as if they are much better than everyone around and this starts the creation of division . Enjoy Leisure Activities Engage yourself in fun activities that bring you joy. and so on. dancing. Just because you do not want to deal with something. Analyze and work on a challenge by drawing pictures. do not avoid it. Maintain a sense of humor and work on your productivity. instead face it and feel the importance of what you are doing.

Learn To Love . etc. they find it difficult to keep from having a judgmental attitude. we step back from expressing something different. Close Your Eyes To Judgment We think of what other people are doing and judge them on that basis. Close your eyes to all the unnecessary stuff and try to notice only what concerns you. Open Your Eyes To Truth When you find yourself looking at something that you don’t agree with. This will help you in being critical of other people’s actions. class. let others too enjoy their right of being free. Hence. this is not at all something that affects us in one way or the other. This only tends to increase differences between two human beings. their way of life on others. No effort is made to know the person or understand them either.between people. it will save us from being critical. To top it all. Live your life to the fullest and let others find own peace in their life. Know Judging Is Not Healthy Stressing yourself by thinking what you cannot change is simply risking your health. assuming that we might end up losing our loved one’s respect. if we keep in mind that even we don’t feel good about being judged. as this will only cause a lot of stress to you. While judging other. but we shrink thinking what someone else would think or feel about us. People who have a judgmental nature often wish their beliefs. Remember and celebrate the fact that everyone is unique and not the same. Put yourself in their shoes and try to imagine their background. They see people and pass judgment based on their looks or actions and often the opinion is not completely objective. sexual orientations. Avoid having a judgmental attitude of what others think and do in their private time. Consider yourself being in that situation and then narrow down to a conclusion. faith. it is essential to avoid being judgmental and build a bridge instead. People come from different cultures. remember that not everyone would agree with you either. Often. Just as you would want to feel free. And most of the time. A combination of these factors make the world seems alive. their habits. Avoid spending days and nights worrying about others. but you should learn to respect their right to feel and speak. Read on further to know how you can keep from having a judgmental attitude. Try To Be In Other’s Shoes We often have our own ideas that make us happy. Free Yourself It is not necessary to agree with the decision of other people. Tips To Avoid Being Judgmental Remember Everyone Is Unique You need to remember that not every person you meet will be like you. as in what they do or think. Reserve your energy for your own future use.

Unless you really learn what millionaires think and how they strategize. If you have hated him/her in the past. their different thinking. try loving and understanding him/her. You have to think of the long term consequences of the decision that you are taking at the moment and then take a final call. Once a long term goal or objective has been visualized. While you should not lose yourself in the quest of success or money. If your goal is to retire as a millionaire. Always remember that there are miles to go before you sleep! Discipline Your Thought-Process Thinking like a millionaire involves disciplining your mind and thought process. you will have trouble making heaps of money. This is where . This article brings you some valuable tips on how to think like a millionaire. Train your mind to ask for more.Once you have accepted a person for what he/she is. male or female. change your hatred to love. Read on to know what it takes to have a millionaire’s mind. Be a positive thinker and plan you strategies while calculating the risks. There are many people who think big. Don’t allow yourself to gloat on the initial gains and feel gratified. The biggest difference between successful and normal people is a positive thinking mind and a confident personality. you need to adjust your daily behavior accordingly to ensure that those goals are achieved well in time. Delay Gratification The feeling of fulfillment doesn’t come easy to millionaires or they would have never made millions in the first place. Smart minds know when to hit the nail right on the head. but very few who actually make it big. Millionaires make millions not by some sheer stroke of good fortune. Thinking Like A Millionaire Think Long Term Successful people have a tendency to think long term and invest in the future. Think Positive & Be Confident Have you ever tried to find out how many skeptics have become millionaires? Just a handful! People who believe in themselves know how to take calculated risks and failures do not thwart their way. Express your love to old or young. you will have to train your mind to think like the big shots. People who have made astronomical sums of money have worked hard to climb the monetary ladder. light skinned or dark. but by their superior thinking and strategic planning. it is important that you don’t feel satiated with what you have achieved so far. rich or poor and find the world becoming a much better place to live in How To Think Like A Millionaire What separates extremely successful people from the unsuccessful ones is nothing but.

The moment we stop seeking solace in being a victim. Here are some other ways to get someone off your mind. it is the surest way to get someone off your mind. to forgive divine. Think over where you want to set the limit and to what extent will you stretch yourself to realize your dreams. you will find it easier to rid the memory of the person who caused it too. especially about something or someone who left you with negative feelings. Keeping yourself busy with anything and everything that needs your attention is the best way to keep negative thoughts from plaguing you repeatedly. purposefully or unknowingly. this attitude will bring more ruin as it does you no good and only deepens the feeling of hurt. Ways To Get Someone Off Your Mind Busy Bee The busier you are. In the long run. You don’t need to think like a millionaire to set your limit.” Make sure there are no traces of any memories of the hurt and all negative feelings towards that person have been completely dispelled. A structured and well-organized thought process will help you to develop a futuristic perspective. save you. although you are certainly not bound by them. When you do not carry the negative feeling and have done away with it. Even if it is completely clichéd a sentence to utter. we will accept any positive change in others and ourselves that we may encounter. Forgive And Forget Though this may seem easier said than done. Thinking like a millionaire doesn’t imply that you will have millions in your treasury in just a matter of days. Would it not be better if they found a way to get over the hurt. or at least till their near and dear ones allow them to. all by themselves? Of course. and the person who caused them that hurt. “To err is human. Stop pitying yourself and come out the cycle of self-pity. No one. however. the person who has had to bear the hurt is seen to wallow in self-pity for as long as they can. A disciplined mind will delay gratification and keep you focused on your goals. everyone loves the comfort it provides. the less time you have to think. can turn you into a victim. Success will come hard and you will have to face testing situations.disciplining your mind is factored in. No Pity! It is very convenient to wallow in the sewer called ‘self pity’. In such cases. as there are a few things that your own mind will tell you better How To Get Someone Off Your Mind It is a commonly seen phenomenon – of people who cannot get over someone who has hurt them. just the way millionaires have it! Decide The Limit Your mind knows your limitations. . it would be good. The best way to do it is to stop loving the image of victim that we have created for ourselves.

A procrastinator is someone who puts off the work that he/she is supposed to do. They assume that they cannot manage time well and hence. Less Interaction As far as possible. you can protect yourself from failures. It is. no pain or no difficulties. avoid thinking too much and simply do the task in the way you feel that it will come out the best. say a huge storeroom or your study! Imagine the punching bag to be the person who hurt you and punch it with all your strength. a lot of thinking and planning can result in opposite effects. this way. for a later time. Invest in a punching bag and hang it in a place in your house. Start Doing It is necessary to plan a little bit to achieve want you want. who you cannot avoid for very long. You will feel great and you would not have hurt anybody at all. If the person is your colleague. High procrastinators find it difficult to do even a single task. Some of them are true procrastinators and do not get any work done. Light procrastinators procrastinate. Don’t Blow A Task Out Of Proportion You would not be protecting yourself from pain if you overthink and put off things for later time. It is fine to plan for the future. Tips For Stopping Procrastinating Stop Thinking. The more you get to interact with that person. Do what you feel is right. Take The First Step Any task or project can seem to be impossible if you start looking too far into the future. which is usually not visited much. to come up with the perfect plan.Punch It Out It is always easier to hurl blows on a punching bag than a human being. Read through the following lines to know how you can stop procrastination. as long as you keep working on your plan. the bag will not hit you back like a person would. However. decrease your interaction with the person who hurt you. but not in case of everything. Even if you do not have a plan. thus. but you need to shift your focus to today and the present . There are light procrastinators and heavy procrastinators. There is no plan that is foolproof and will lead to no mistakes. you’ll have to find other ways to get him/her off your mind – the most effective of which is to forgive How To Stop Procrastination One of the biggest problems that people today suffer from is procrastination. Do not try to think a lot. However. You are bound to make mountains out of molehills. end up doing only little work. the more will be the hurt and resentment that will plague you. better to plan a little and take action on it.

just get it out by doing it first. Be affirmative on your decision. Make A Decision It is natural to be decisive and take action. Remember. While procrastinating. Whatever be the task. By taking an action over and over again. effort and patience. Face Your Fear It is hard to face your fear of looking like a fool or making mistakes or take responsibility of your own life. but not finishing what you have started can leave you in a sort of negative funk. but you need to overcome them and work towards success once again. cool”. By doing so. Learn to accept that failures do take place occasionally. You will become more positive and the subsequent steps will follow on their own. Reinvent yourself and discover ways to bring new meaning and joy to your life. answering big piles of emails or completing the last pages of your paper. but only if you are willing to make the needed efforts. you would be building self-confidence and a self-image of you being a confident person. The rest of your day will be a lot lighter and easier to get through. doing so is possible and the rewards will surely be positive and unexpected. I’m doing this. give yourself a new look and a new identity. With a new day. However.moment. it is better to complete the tasks and projects that you are currently involved in. no matter how hard they seem. Go . so that you can start afresh again How To Reinvent Yourself Are you tired of living the same old mundane life? Why not throw off old habits and customs and embrace new ones! Reinventing yourself is never easy. it makes you feel bad. You always wonder what would have been the result had you taken more chances. Though easy choices come with a sense of comfort and a certain level of success. Since sitting idle and not taking action is unnatural. Finish It Not taking the first step towards accomplishing something can only make you feel bad. You are stressed and feel fatigued. you will feel relaxed and relieved for the simpler tasks. Try finishing them as soon as possible. you will be lowering your self esteem and signaling back to yourself that you are a lame and indecisive person. such as making important calls. they also bring along a vague sense of being unfulfilled and pangs of regret for all things you never dared to do. dreams do turn true. So. Start With The Hardest Task Start your day by doing the most important and toughest tasks. with determination. but you do not know the reason behind it. generate confidence within you and take action. as you would be going against patterns that have been established for years. Simply take the first step today and you will notice the change in your mental state from resistant to “hey.

try a new hairstyle or adopt a new wardrobe to give you a fresh outlook on life. Schedule a new routine or change one aspect of your routine. View the world with a new eye and different vision • • • • • • • • How To Increase Word Power To express with clarity and to communicate coherently and logically requires only one thing and that is words. German. take an evening walk. Take a chance to see the other side of the city or your neighborhood. bible study or prayer group. The most important part of reinventing yourself is attitude. Change your career. Spanish. In case you are bored and unsatisfied with your current job. learn how to paint or mold a pot. speed up your walk. could work well. Join a new class to learn something new.ahead. Saturate yourself and learn everything possible about what you want to become. Even a new hair color. Discover a new hobby or an activity. You cannot stop thoughts from entering the mind. or even take up piano or guitar classes. Throw and flush out old behaviors. Choose to volunteer for your favorite charity once every week. Make use of new words. like platinum blonde from a mousy brunette or auburn red. To know more on how you can reinvent yourself and become a completely new person. such as collecting coins. you are a new creature. With a new day. Japanese or Italian. reactions and words. riding a bicycle or tinkering with car parts. set your goals. mindsets. life affirming ones. reading. Change your thinking and transform yourself. why not try a new opportunity and field? There are unlimited opportunities waiting for you in the industry. Ways Of Reinventing Yourself Now • Have a make over and change your appearance. Make sure to find one that matches your interests. read through the following lines. You can opt for learning a new language such as French. You can choose the spiritual path. but you can surely deal with them powerfully. You will have to start thinking the same way as the person you want to be like. Join a church. You can take a new route to your office. take action and enjoy the whole new you. Words are the bricks that build up the foundation of any . knitting. shop at a different store. Discard all negative thoughts and replace them with positive. smile more. have new reactions to different things. Join a health club. Create a new personality. try a new restaurant or a new drink.

Tips For Increasing Your Word Power Read Extensively Reading is the most effective and efficient way to develop excellent word power. shift to reading novels. When you listen. great orators enthrall the audience not only with the content of their speech. . Listen Listening is the key to any good conversation. because you are sure to encounter the words many times. but also with the quality of their language. Increasing the word power is a very interesting journey and the added advantage is the power it gives in our hands. you can realize the exact usage of a particular word. This is also a good way to keep the words in your fingertips and not somewhere in the mind where you cannot find it. Make a note of any unfamiliar words you find and then check the usage and meaning. you will automatically learn the word. read the article below to know more on how to get started on it. Etymology Every word has a history. Words. that word would have been ingrained in your mind. Read widely so that you encounter a variety of words. particularly English classics. No doubt. when you have developed the habit of reading. in many words. Moreover. Reading also keeps the words rotating through your mind. Cultivate a habit of reading regularly. and magazines like the ‘Reader’s Digest’ and ‘The New Yorker’. Because in the English language. which you have forgotten due to non-usage. Every year thousands of new words are added to the human lexicon and hundreds of other words get ‘extinct’. Involve yourself in finding out the origin and history of words and by the time you finish. Listen to the speeches of great orators and learn how various words were used. So. In this way. So. Lack of an efficient vocabulary hinders effective communication and spreads misunderstanding. It gives us the freedom to choose how we express ourselves. You can encounter unfamiliar words every day. Listening carefully will also throw up many words. make a note of the context in which it is used. Note these down so that you can look it up later. Newspapers and magazines are a good way to start but later graduate to more exclusive readings. which you find out by listening are also easy to remember. Newspapers and magazines use a limited vocabulary to facilitate the lay reader. and then commit it to memory. when you see any unfamiliar word. Check Unfamiliar Words Don’t bypass any unfamiliar words. Solve Crosswords Crosswords are word games that stimulate the brain and give you an understanding on how to use them. Try using alternative words and see if the effect is as good. when you know the story of the word. and checking and using them can increase your word power to a great extent. if you want to increase your word power. Studying the etymology of words will also familiarize you with the other words of its family. Thus. it is also important to keep oneself updated. you may come across some words that you don’t know. In addition. and also you can get an idea in which context it was used.language and so a good word power is not only a necessity but also an obligation. the meaning changes according to the context in which it is used.

your audience will not trust what you are saying. then it’s time to make some changes. practice. For example. you can give a great speech that will be remembered by your audience for a long time to come. If you don’t. Overconfidence never helped anyone make a great speech. ensure that depending on the topic and situation. Move toward your goal with a willingness to make adjustment along the way. If you find yourself dropping off to sleep listening to your own voice. Practice your speech. • • • • . Only then. You will only be open to ridicule. Share your mishaps and foibles. Tips For Giving A Great Speech • • Choose a subject for which you have a passion. The mark of a good speaker is not just to do all the right things all the time. When speaking. Get as much support as possible so that you can succeed. You should be open to taking risks and get into a routine of daily action to make your speech come out great. Remember that you will not become a great speaker overnight. Remember that a good speaker is more than a good talker. you will be perceived as a real speaker and not just another stereotype. Speak from your heart and be completely authentic. Abraham Lincoln’s famous Gettysburg Address is very well known speech and has made history.Use The Words You Learn Adopt the words you learn into your daily vocabulary. While you might not be able to give a speech that makes history. don’t throw high flowing words simply for the sake of showing off. Record your speech and play it back. Be truthful. Practice. Using words will also make you take interests in the words. then it’s very easy to forget them. A great speech is the product of hard work and creativity. And make sure that you have a complete understanding of the words you are using. you use your life experiences and research to customize your material. practice. Be persistent. Patience and persistence go hand in hand. Read on to know the tips for giving a great speech. It is better to know the usage of twenty words then to know two hundred words and not know how to use them. You can do a good job of your topic only if you care about it. Persistence is what defines whether you are going to be perceived as a person with expertise in speaking. How To Give A Great Speech There are many famous speeches that are remembered over time and some of these are even included in school curriculums. However. If you try to sound bombastic.

You can also include auditory and kinesthetic aids which will keep your audience’s attention riveted to you and which will get the message across. This is what. is just like any other challenge to be dealt with. and chronic anxiety which is better known as phobia. It can be of two types.• When you are making a speech. This process helps you in getting closer to the fear each time you are around it. A process known as systematic desensitization is often used by most psychologists. Your speech should not be a rhetorical address. . Overcoming the fear of abandonment requires full determination on the part of the person experiencing such things. will help you present the material in a way that will appeal to your audience. Speaking is an art and your idea can best be propounded when you are creative. You could go with a good. How To Overcome Fear Of Abandonment • • Identify your fear in detail and name it. Fear of abandonment can well be described as a psychological disorder wherein the person feels uncontrolled fear and anxiety when he/ she encounters situations that require facing the difficulties of life alone and without any support. Know your audience. once identified. Add in a bit of humor. short quotation or a funny story that is relevant to your speech. View your opportunity to give a speech as a privilege. but don’t include sarcasm. disturbed childhood and some social or personal trauma. Modulate your voice when speaking and speak with warmth and enthusiasm. Some possible causes of fear of abandonment can be loss of a near one. you have just 30 seconds to connect with your audience. Pay attention to your opening statements. Ensure that your introduction arouses interest. Your enemy. wholesome. namely. Consider your fear like a room that is to be painted or some similar task. Include illustrations in your speech. Given below are some ways and tips to overcome the fear of abandonment. and innovative • • • • • • Overcoming Fear Of Abandonment Fear can be termed as a necessary part of life. rational fear that is based on logical premise. Avoid using jokes. Get used to the way the fear makes you feel. Use visual aids when speaking. People learn best from these and tend to respond and retain information better. broken relationships.

jealousy and attachments. Mistakes are part of life and so are bad experiences. Gracious behavior. Gracious behavior depends on the upbringing and the environment. it shows he is a citizen of the world”.• • Do no try to get rid of the fear. As you become rich inside yourself. do not carry the burden and delete them from the memory. Read the article below to know more on how to be gracious. Pen down the reasons why you are paralyzing yourself by those fears. Sometimes. Forget the past and start moving ahead.” You may often think that fear can rage like an inferno. it must be taught and absorbed. if taught from the childhood can lead towards the development of a successful human being. That is the importance that graciousness can have in a person’s life. “Oh. Pleasing and affectionate are the hallmarks of a gracious person. Worrying is a slow poison that eats you up daily. there goes my brain rumbling again. People are not born with gracious behavior. as self-interest is not its characteristic. Prepare yourself well and be committed as fears become more uncontrollable at first when you challenge their hold on you. hence. Although this is challenging but it is very necessary. Through graciousness. Turn off unwanted thoughts in the same impersonal way as you may think of your stomachrumbling. any situation can be resolved. • • • • • • • • • How To Be Gracious Francis bacon said. “If a man be gracious and courteous to strangers. Do not waste your energy fearing too much. so do not be too hard on yourself. so a gracious person is never short of people near him or her. Old fears raise their head from time to time. peace and serenity will manifest your life. Overcoming the fear is a time-consuming process but the reward is worth it. Avoid thinking too much. Examine your fears and see how foolish or crazy they are. Stop over-analyzing any situation. it can be stubborn and determined. You’ll feel free from fear. it can be inculcated into your way of life. Graciousness is all about how you make the people around you feel. Inculcate healthy habits like yoga and meditation. Laugh out your troubles and let life free for sometime. Through constant practice. where as in reality it may be nothing but a little more than a candle flame. Stop being obsessed with anyone and anything. . Do not preoccupy yourself with fearful or troubling thoughts. Be patient and determined and let yourself be exposed to the change. Graciousness is a treasure that people throng to. This can be practiced on a daily basis. Develop a habit of taking every experience positively.

While accepting an invitation. it will automatically teach you to be gracious. the message is lost in pronouncing and accent barriers. and he will consider you a gracious person. The content and the significance are lost in misunderstanding. thank him or her for accepting the invitation. will carry you for a short time. Sounds are shaped by various articulatory organs whose proper coordination makes one speak in a lucid manner. hurting anyone is not graciousness. . empathy. patience. A smile and saying ‘thank you’ will be a good return for the compliment. Similarly. Be forward with your help. Better articulation results in better understanding. Make the other person feel that he or she is acknowledged. In the face of criticism. Offering your help will always make the other person remember your graciousness. which will be ungracious. • • • • • • • • Articulation Exercises Clarity is the hallmark of a good speaker. then it is considered gracious behavior. but when discovered will hurt more than if you had been honest. are all signs of graciousness. be sure to thank the host or convey your reasons for not accepting the invitation. If your being wrong. Sometimes and with some people. Timidity or lack of confidence can embarrass or deter the other person. emotions and other sensibilities. the impulse to ‘shoot off’ is very great. articulation exercises are very necessary as they hone the verbal communication exercises. To help when asked is good. Don’t wait for anyone to ask you for it. Kindness. so. When you understand a person. can do immense good to some people. That is if you keep the interests of others in front of you. from the subconscious and not as a forced entity. if the person is criticizing you for your own good. Remember that graciousness should come unintentionally. Do not fake. when you invite someone. “I think sometimes it’s more important to be gracious than to win” said Dorothy Kilgallen. but to help when not even asked is better. as these are the sign of gracious character. it is better to wait and cool off. etc. make these good qualities a part of you. Practicing these positive traits will make graciousness a part of your character. respect.Learning To Be Gracious • Take compliment with a smile. and also accept the reasons for someone who is unable to come. Waiting allows you to collect your thoughts and makes the other person feel the depth of your maturity. being on the right is not that important. And. you will fill him or her with a good feeling. Therefore. Faking your feelings. More often than not. Small acts of understanding lead to greater acts of graciousness. More often as not.

However. As Moses supposes his toes to be. So Bill sold his billboard And paid his board bill. The board bill bored Bill. Types Of Articulation Exercises Articulation exercises must be spoken slowly and carefully and must be practiced regularly without fail. articulation exercises will make him or her a clear speaker. Bill also had a board bill. Gradually repeat faster till a level of clarity and lucidity is reached. But though he had no board bill. But Moses supposes erroneously. through these articulation exercises. Then the board bill No longer bored Bill. since everyone is not blessed with a coherent speech. which divides a speaker from an orator. as most people. Articulation For ‘B’ Type Words: Bill had a billboard. because of language and cultural differences fail to speak with clarity.Practicing the articulation exercises regularly will make you more understandable to your audience. Good articulation always has an impact on the listeners. The reading should be done aloud. . Articulation For ‘D’ Type Words: Did Doug dig Dick's garden or did Dick dig Doug's garden? Articulation For ‘S’ Type Words: Moses supposes his toes are roses. Read the article below to know more on how you can straighten your voice. Speech imperfection does not only result from speech impediment. For nobody’s toes are posies of roses. Articulation is often the thin line. and speak smoothly. Regular practice will strengthen the articulatory organs by developing the face and body muscles. Neither did he have his billboard! Articulation For ‘F’ Type Words: Four furious friends fought for the phone Articulation For ‘H’ Type Words: How was Harry hastened so hurriedly from the hunt? Articulation For ‘J’ Type Words: Jack the jailbird jacked a jeep.

Articulation For ‘T’ Type Words: Ten tame tadpoles tucked tightly in a thin tall tin. even the calmest of person would agree having faced a situation. Just when you feel that you would be gripped in temper tantrum. Articulation For ‘N’ And ‘U’ Type Words: You know New York. Articulation Of ‘V’ Type Words: Vincent vowed vengeance very vehemently. You need New York. most of you would agree that more than often. it makes us land up in embarrassing position. While some psychologists may claim that anger outburst is a good way to give an outlet to the negative energies. when he/she lost temper and experienced an anger outburst. As such. Quicker kiss. You know you need unique New York. Articulation For ‘R’ Type Words: Round the rugged rocks the ragged rascal ran.Articulation For ‘K’ Type Words: My cutlery cuts keenly and cleanly. Quickest kiss. How To Control Anger Outbursts Life is full of meeting unwelcome people and facing unwanted and annoying circumstances. Where's the peck of pickled peppers that Peter Piper picked? Articulation For ‘L’ Type Words: Larry sent the latter a letter later Articulation For ‘Q’ Type Words: Quick kiss. If Peter piper picked a peck of pickled peppers. Articulation For ‘P’ Type Words: Peter piper picked a peck of pickled peppers. resort to any of the following ways listed below and relieve yourself . Controlling temper is the first step to ensure reduced stress levels and improved relationships.

relax your mind and take a deep breath. Meditation & Yoga Experts have claimed the benefits of meditation and yoga for the mind. thereby cooling both the mind and the body. Energy Conversion Does this sound physics or mathematics to you? Well. Ways For Controlling Anger Outbursts Deep Breathing Though you might have heard it a number a times. ‘Listen’. Music goes a long way in dipping the rising anger levels. The last step would be to ‘Wait’ for the right time. This way you would instantly dip your anger or rage and get back to the normal state of mind.you can either use it negatively or make it as a stepping stone to overcome the stimulus that caused anger in the first place. all you need to do is just close your eyes. However. i. Once this is done. is one of the most beneficial ways to avoid anger outburst. explained in the following lines. Tell yourself that you would not explode your anger. Anger mostly arises due to conflict or disagreement. The techniques. Just when you think that you might get trapped into a pool of bad mood and anger. you might be able to control your anger outbursts as well?Meditation and yoga have positive effect on the mental and physical being of a person.your anger would be heavily subsided!! Tune To Music Did you know that music has healing properties? If no. would help you know how to control anger outbursts. Most people . This way you can curb the anger outburst and at the same time conquer your flaws. go onto the next level. deep breathing. Many people have claimed that anger outbursts are best dealt with this technique. So. Instead. undoubtedly. Also. energy conversion is the phrase given to convert the negative energies produced by anger into positive driving force. then you are definitely in for a revelation. switch on the music system and listen to some of your favorite songs.from the anger outbursts. thereby helping in anger management.e. you need to first ‘Focus’ at your mental state. For this. think objectively as this will help you understand the situation in a mature way. When we are angry. we mostly take things or arguments personally. A sixty second indulgence in this technique and swoosh . No matter what is the intensity of your anger. There are two ways to use the energy created by anger . It helps soothe your negative energies and provides a relaxing and calming feeling. regular indulgence in the two ensures better mind control. do not get scared as herein. did you know that by indulging in regular meditation or yoga. the next step would be to listen to the other’s point of view and try to rationalize it. soul and the body. Believe in FLOW This might seem French to you. Next step would be to act ‘Objectively’. but using the FLOW technique is the best way to deal with anger outbursts. Repeat this for several times until the message has sunk deep into your mind.

Abraham Lincoln. The more you read. the more enlightened you are.would agree that instant reaction is the main problem for angermanagement. The article dwells at length on the importance of reading. Develops One’s Creative Side Reading is one of the best ways to give a creative orientation to one’s mind. The Importance Of Reading Develops The Mind Our mind needs regular exercise to develop and reading is the most effective way to do that. Reading the written word and developing an understanding of it is a skill that is cultivated overtime by the habit of reading. and there is no denying the fact that ‘Knowledge is Power’. which should ideally be the other way round. broadens your horizon. Expands Knowledge-Base Irrespective of how much knowledge your mind can store. expands your knowledge and opens up new avenues for you. you are constantly wondering what will happen next.S president. you are able to make better guesses and determine the course of the stories or fictional novels you read. the scope to feed it with new things. It keeps your mind active and dynamic. Reading books also help to develop one’s listening ability which is very important to succeed in every aspect of life. Most people tend to speak more and listen less. when your power to imagine develops. You should wait and reflect for sometime about the consequences of angry outburst. This often makes you imagine a sequence of events in your mind on how the story will unfold further. Reading enlightens your mind. Gradually. Gaining knowledge empowers you mind and broadens its range. reading also develops your listening ability. When you read a story. Why Reading Is Important “A capacity and taste for reading gives access to whatever has already been discovered by others” is a famous perspective on the importance of reading by the erstwhile U. Read on to know why it is so important. Apart from developing your mind. A well-read person is a reservoir of knowledge as reading helps one to know about new things and analyze them in his/her own inventive way. Activates The Flow Of Ideas . always remain wide. Just as our body needs its daily dose of nutrients. our mind also seeks nourishment that comes through reading. Waiting is the best indicator for anger management. Reading involves creative imaginations thereby promoting ingenious thinking.

as it usually produces opposite results. Read on further to know you can be more reliable and dependable. Also. This will help you organize what is to done on immediate basis and what can wait. Boosts Your Confidence Ever wondered why erudite people are so confident? Since knowledge empowers your mind. Taking up only the required number of tasks will help you deliver great results and people will appreciate your reliability as well. arrogant or disrespectful as a person. Also. It conveys more about your ability of being organized and dependable. no matter how talented they are. which you can use in just about every aspect of your life. Improve At Conveying A ‘No’ We all love to make a good impression on people around us. How To Become A More Reliable Person In today’s world. it is good to be precautionary by not being wrapped up into the belief that you can solve all the problems of everyone. If you are already preoccupied with some commitments. there are great chances of none of the commitments being fulfilled. it is very difficult to juggle out your schedule and personal life.It is rather interesting to note that people who are fond of reading soon transform into a bubbling cauldron of fresh ideas. It is not mandatory to volunteer for everything and also. A well-read person is always oozing with confidence for “he/she knows”. a learned person knows that he maintains a slight edge over other people. reliability means that if you have accepted something. Active reading ignites your mind and arms it with new and creative ideas. You will then realize what it feels like to have gained someone’s trust. A dynamic flow of ideas also makes you an interesting person to be with as your mind is not static and you will always have something vital to contribute to every discussion. Rather. you will stay committed to it. Lack of reliability does not necessarily mean that you are deliberately careless. Prioritize your tasks and plan accordingly. There are different ways through which you can become a more reliable person. Nonetheless. you should not agree to compromise on your precious time and happiness to do such a task. And then. try not to lock yourself into anymore of them. Knowing things makes you feel self-assured and gives you the confidence to voice your opinions and be assertive about them. Ways For Becoming More Dependable Watch Your Promises Never make promises unless you are ready to fulfill them. by making them happy. Overpowering yourself with excessive commitments will only lead to unnecessary stress and tension. the desire of making every single person happy is often misguided. it will enable you to . without letting things overload and backfire on you.

Since. they follow a strict pattern. try to shift the burden a bit. in order to take control of the situation. in view of the other person. It is better to do what you perform best. and live like a recluse. How To Start A Daily Routine A daily routine is a part and parcel of a disciplined life. Tips To Help You Start A Daily Routine • To start a daily routine the first thing to be done is to prepare oneself mentally. but prove to be more helpful than you can think. Many people consider having a daily routine as boring. External factors will contribute a great deal to hinder you. A person knows himself better than anyone else does. but the next time. Try To Bring Out The Best Most people have the tendency to perform all the tasks by themselves. of the serious need for a daily routine. a daily routine should not be a burden. Adopting a daily routine is tedious but once the habit sets in. will enable you to remain focused and motivated towards being your best. whenever he needs a favor or a little leeway. who follow a daily routine. while not compromising on his/ her reliability. Most of the time people ‘jump the bus’ midway due to lack of commitment on their part. he is sure to get it back. This would definitely be hard to do. .arrange time to enjoy with people and the things that are more close and important to you. This is not to say that you leave everything behind. So. This. to show that they can never be wrong. In case you are already besieged by worries and stress. The secret of a daily routine is to lead a balanced life and to have everything in balance. Flexibility A person willing to be flexible with other people will receive the same flexibility from them in return. people willing to start a daily routine must have patience. they generally have all their complexities worked out. After all. They remain untouched by the rush and bustle in life. People. There are times when you have to move forward only by taking a few steps back and reevaluating the situation. the excitement coming from the unpredictability that life throws up. Read the article below to know how you can start a daily routine. it rolls on. so you must be resolute. as it takes a long time. It is likely possible that he may not get it back at the same moment. lead a very balanced life. It is always better to maintain a daily routine from as early as possible in life. in turn.

which would anchor you to the routine. so. . have benefitted from the daily routine. people want less to do with how much you know. If not. Have a daily target. sex or race.• • • • Set a goal. irrespective of age. These are the people. Once you are on your way to a daily routine. emotional. every now and then. while others just stare in awe and envy. keep in mind these tenets – people. you will know what and how to achieve every day. you won’t have any idea or motivation. A goal. or gardening. without turning your routine upside down. in short. people will be drawn to those who take a sincere interest in them. what you need to do every day. to adopt a daily routine. where you can measure your success by the target reached. Setting a goal will also make you stick to your routine. Daily routine is all about leading a disciplined life. and more to do with how much you care. who seem to relate to everyone. they flow from small talk to hard talk. emotion. Unforeseen events may disrupt your daily routine. See if your spiritual. Adopt a vision. and having a clear vision is one of its tenets. and reach your target. writing. be it at a date. In this way. love to talk about themselves. so that in the end. If you can cultivate a habit. rather than those who try hard to gain the interest of others. for reading. Most people. and habitual aspirations. you develop a routine. mastery of the art of conversation is regarded. In this way. in front of whom. • • • Mastering The Art Of Conversation Have you ever found yourself wondering how some people effortlessly strike up conversations. and end up making many more friends in a day. Without a goal. you will have little idea of what and when to do. you don’t have to rush things up. then review your routine to include those aspects that satisfies your spirit. You can have both a long term and a short-term plan. they seem to know exactly what to talk about. will be the lighthouse that will show you the direction. what kind of reaction to give and so on. who have mastered this art. as a sign of success. Most good conversations start with small talk. Flexibility in your daily timetable allows you to indulge in breaks. It will show you the road ahead. then over the years. With these tenets in mind. Have a plan. Read on to know how to effectively make powerful conversations with just about anybody. It encourages you to accomplish. and habit. than others seem to make in a lifetime. as a buffer for accommodating sudden calls. Without a plan. or a social gathering? In fact. it is good to be prepared. Develop a habit that is constructive and stimulating. check your development. Leave an hour or two every day. say. That is the reason daily routine should be flexible. it would develop into a strong habit.

Read on and learn how to move on in life. non-patronising manner is a quality that. The second part will merge all small talk into the main topic or purpose of the conversation. less misunderstanding. all these views. Worse. consequently. inquiring about family members and others. whatever it may be. Benefit Of Doubt Most people don’t really mean to harm anybody new with their words. It will lead to less misinterpretation and. often overlooked. express it freely. Since people don’t come across honesty very often. intended and unintended. acceptable to all parties involved. full of right wing conservative people.How To Master The Art Of Conversation Free Expression Freely express yourself. even if it might seem like they’re trying to be offensive. ending up losing thefriends. opinions and so on will flow into a satisfying end. will you strike up an interesting debate. In the third part. In such a case. what is spoken by others. not being able to forgive our faults can make our life miserable. as most of us have not been taught how to forgive our own mistakes. even if they sound ambivalent. One-Two-Three Keep in mind the flow that a conversation is supposed to follow. by making us forlorn and sad. but if you support the labor party. when they see it. rather than running the risk of opening it to all kinds of meanings. for having had the courage to be different from the crowd. part of making effective conversation. for whom the Communist Revolution was the dance of the Devil. Expressing one’s opinion in a positive. we may also find ourselves being swallowed by the feeling of guilt. nonthreatening. be it business or sharing of personal views. You may be sitting in a room. Follow this flowchart. you will perhaps also be regarded highly. The first part of is the small talks. . most leaders swear by. most of them welcome it. they have instead of making any new ones. So. Holding ourselves culpable only adds to the misery of committing the mistake in the first place. This may be because we have been conditioned to own up for our mistakes and errors in judgment. which includes exchanging pleasantries. How To Forgive Your Own Mistakes Forgiving your own self can prove to be more daunting that pardoning others. The article brings you some valuable tips on how to forgive yourself and stop feeling guilty. All Ears Listening is also an integral and. people who are none the wiser about art of conversation misinterpret. This gesture will prove that you give people respect for who they are and are not unnecessarily judgmental. Many a times. to make effective conversations effortlessly. Not only. give them the benefit of doubt for their words. If you listen to people with sincere interest you will understand the true meaning of what they are saying.

as we have to pay a price for them. To err is human and to learn how to avoid the same mistake in the future is also within human capacity. And. do that in a balanced way. not being overwhelmed by your errors. Languishing in past will not give you an opportunity to time-travel to the bygone times and change things. You can always share your mistakes with others and warn them of the consequence that you suffered from. but repeating it. Remember that committing a mistake is not a crime. whose guidance you trust and value.How To Forgive Yourself & Stop Feeling Guilty Learn From Your Mistakes Trying to learn from your mistakes is a very healthy way of dealing with them. Encourage Yourself To Move On Realize that your life is not going to end or stagnate just because of a mistake of yours. which are generic. Disembark yourself from past mistakes and march ahead! Share your mistakes Holding things to yourself will make it increasingly difficult to forgive yourself and stop feeling guilty. speak up and lift that burden off your heart. rather dismissive of the subject of our judgment. Confess your mistake in front of a close friend. the biggest lesson life teaches us is to move on. Don’t Judge Yourself The worst people can do is to judge themselves by their mistakes. If at all you want to grade yourself. as life is a continuous learning process. Being judgmental equals to being disapproving. Active Listening Activities . You will also get a chance to vent out your frustration in a more constructive way. Remember that your mistakes always add to your experience. A guilt-free existence is only possible when your mistakes are not perpetually weighing on your conscience. but a manifestation of the good things that you do in life. Pardon yourself by pouring your heart out before someone you know will make you feel better. Probably. Unburden Your Heart If you believe that your mistake is too big to be forgiven and keeping it to yourself is killing you. which is always brighter and full of hope. it gets worse when we are disapproving of your own self. You can’t afford to keep wallowing in guilt over your wrongdoings. Forgive yourself completely and look forward to the future. A reflection of what you have learnt from your mistakes would be a perceptible change in your behavior. Always remember that you are not a reflection of your mistakes. surely is! We learn from our mistakes.

all the students become alert as they are supposed to catch the ball as soon as their name is called. The speaker is then given a topic to speak on and the listener has to listen to the speaker actively. Once everyone gets a hang of the activity. The supervisor will make a note of the answers given by each of the participant as their turn comes. For Adults Quiz This activity is to be performed indoors and requires a supervisor. On a simple note. to check whether they listened carefully or not. to the one standing in the front. the teacher will stop the speaker in the middle and ask any other student to continue the discussion from the same point where it has been left by the previous speaker. the supervisor will ask the members to recall which member had given what answer. The teacher can also participate in this game. after calling his/her name. is to listen carefully. the teacher can randomly pick any of the students and ask him/her to continue speaking. In this activity. gradually. Once the discussion ensues. who will pass it to another student. and one of the fundamentals of communicating well. The article brings you some active listening activities that will help improve your listening skills. Group Discussion This activity just requires a common topic that will be given to a group of students. the teacher will call out someone’s name and pass a soft toy/ball to him/her. which can then be followed by more difficult ones. Active Listening Activity Ideas For Students Group Juggle This activity requires a large space as physical activity is involved. After the speaker is through. the listener will have to recall . Active Listening Discussion The group of participants is to be divided into pairs and each pair is to have a listener and a speaker. The element of surprise in the game will make the students listen with attention and carefully watch out for their name. It is a communication skill that facilitates effective communication of your ideas and concepts. The participant group has to arrange itself in a circle. It is no secret that good listeners also make good communicators. and is supposed to be debated upon by them. The toy/ball will continue to be passed till all the students are covered. Then. a communication process actively involves a speaker and a listener. Then. Each member of the group is supposed to go to the front of the room. The first topic could be fun and easy to speak on.Active listening helps one improve his/her ability to understand and grasp verbal information. It is then that the supervisor will reveal it to the participants that they were part of a quiz. The other participants will ask three questions relating to themselves.

cultivate good manners. Respect is the pillar that supports the bridge called relationship. This can also be followed by a swapping of roles among the two. Given below are tips to help you be more respectable towards others. he or she also won’t give any attention to you. This exercise helps improve the business communication skills of the participants and the ability to coordinate with one another How To Be Respectful Towards Others Treat others. A simple act of kindness can show your respect towards others. as people get a sense of respect. give respect and give it to yourself too. no one else will respect you. Then the speaker and listener can critically analyze and review each other’s performance. even taking up an entire lifetime. A person may respect another because of fear but that is not true respect. Showing kindness towards others is the best way to endear you to them. which will make him or her feel respected and so return the favor. not showing attention. you are not taking him or her seriously. Do not stereotype other people. Many a times. Merely saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ doesn’t mean that you are being respectful. So. The listener is supposed to interpret speaker’s content and offer solutions and feedback to the supervisor accordingly. the next time. if you don’t respect yourself. Listen attentively and show interest in whatever is said. To put other peoples need before yours. Respect can never be forced as it comes straight from the heart. Tips To Be Respectful • • Be kind. we have forgotten the moral obligation of respecting others so that we are also respected in turn. So. If you can earn the respect of your peers and fellows. • • . To earn respect you must first. This can be configured as lack of respect as the person may think that you do not consider him or her at par with you.and rephrase the speaker’s content. makes the other person feel that. In the daily grind and stress of everyday life. as. as you want them to treat you. you are stereotyping. Good behavior automatically earns the respect of others. you come across as a narrow-minded person. It also shows your lack of respect for the person. Good manners are the essential quality to show respect. True respect only comes when you empathize with the other person. will convey your respect to others. then it’s a life well lived as it is the hardest thing to get. Stereotyping makes. when they interact with a wellmannered person.

or loss of a loved one. like and dislikes. This shows your commitment to them. The fear of being dominated by the other person also develops. abusive relationship. It is the other side of the fear of rejection. or social status. You cannot respect anyone whom you mock. This does not mean blindly follow whatever they say. When you give priority to someone’s right to choose. rejection. You must show your understanding of his or her opinion. • • • Overcoming Fear Of Intimacy The fear of intimacy is a psychological disorder that hinders a person from forming a relationship with another person. religion. emotional trauma. the more it grows and the harder it becomes.• • • Understand other peoples. Apologizing for your mistake. don’t pressurize anyone to do something which he or she is not willing to do. Once you start respecting the people. to overcome. So. with the question ‘What if’ this or that happens. value other people’s opinion. and then present your reasons for agreement or disagreement. Hiding behind emotional barriers will only weaken you. How To Overcome The Fear Of Intimacy • The more you bottle up your fear of intimacy. you must also respect his choice and free will. The fear of intimacy can also be due to the fear of losing. When you apologize for a mistake or a hurt you caused. He or she is unable to develop a connection with other people and feels lonely and isolated. A person suffering from the fear of intimacy is always faced. is to face the fact that you have a fear of getting intimate with people. you used to back bite or tease. can show how much you respect the other person. Don’t dictate or belittle anyone because of his or her background. Given below are tips to help you overcome your fear of intimacy. . Throw these out and you will feel respect for people. conveys your sincere regret and the person will appreciate your sense of love and respect for him or her. you show him or her respect. This inability to act after the supposed betrayal. the first task in order to get over this fear. As a result. but also signals bad breeding. and steel yourself to come out of it. a fear of getting intimate. To show respect. hurt. It is not only ill mannered. The fear of intimacy stems from the fear of getting hurt from a relationship. and not knowing how to cope later. which leads to emotional stagnation. you will gradually develop the sense of respecting everyone. When you respect someone. gives rise to the fear of intimacy. the person withdraws into a shell. It can be due to a traumatic childhood. tease or backbite. The causes are varied. So.

other than an understanding and honest partner. keeping nothing hidden. By talking. Overcoming the fear of intimacy is a long process. In case you need some help in this regard. The most difficult task is to get it out. So don’t get disheartened and withdraw to your shell. like cooking. This is perhaps the only requirement. step by step. at a time. since it doesn’t come easy. the fear tends to dissolve. Be honest. in between. However. That is why.• • Bare your heart to your partner. Don’t be ashamed of yourself. and have a determination. you can’t afford to let the anger remain within you. Pardoning others and putting a hurtful incident off your mind needs to be worked upon. deep down themselves. Seek out areas. Follow the article to find some tips on how to forgive and forget when someone has hurt you. Be honest to face your fear. Forgiving Someone Who Has Hurt You Forget What Happened Hostility and bitterness survives in people who find it difficult to forget the past. Therefore. which they do not want other people to find out. Value yourself. to overcome this fear a person must value his or her self. This will help you to be transparent. and gradually move on to the difficult. and nurture those. or simply go for a movie. as they are subconsciously ashamed to face others. fear. in overcoming your fear of intimacy. Moving on in life is the key to forgetting the hurt caused to you. Do things. which will give you self-satisfaction and a creative boost. Start from simple ones. we are at your service. Stacking up . by other people. to get over it. so that you get your hidden fear out. where you both are compatible. Share and exchange your thoughts and personal experiences. and experiences. Develop a friendship with your partner. This shame for the self can cause people to develop a fear of intimacy. or to a restaurant. It is more than difficult to forget things and move on. as if nothing has happened. Most people with a fear of intimacy have a feeling of worthlessness. and so they gradually begin to develop a fear of getting intimate. • • • • • • How To Forgive And Forget When Someone Hurts You Dealing with hurt and anger is important and the one who is not able to do so ends up becoming a bitter person. no matter how important it is to do the same. Involve your partner in day-to-day activities. holding feelings of resentment can affect your peace of mind and ruin your happiness. Go one. Share and discuss your pain. gardening. hiding nothing.

Once you get a heart-felt apology from the person who has hurt you. Would you want others to hold that against you forever? Allowing others to apologize will save you from becoming bitter to them. While some people believe that revenge is the sweetest joy. it becomes easier to forgive him/her. and it makes them averse to communication. Allow Others To Apologize Sometimes. If forgetting a hurtful incident is impossible for you. is to master the art of making the right impression. we are so infuriated and hurt over an incident that we do not allow the other person to buy time and come up with an apology when things cool down. especially if the person is close to you. While moving on is easier said than done. Realize That Everyone Is Human Realize that it is only human to make mistakes and most of us don’t hurt others intentionally. but cannot acquire . Eventually. Communicate The Hurt Rather than holding a grudge and allowing it to thrive. never forget that time is the biggest healer. you will be able to put it out of your mind. look forward to the future and bury the bad memories of the past. intentionally or unintentionally. for sadistic reasons. forgiving and forgetting will become a lot more easier. leave the healing on time. The choice is yours! Let Time Heal There are times when the hurt is simply impossible to forget. even after you have forgiven the other person. for all the comprehensible reasons. Wonder how? All that you need to do. but the glory of forgiving remains forever”.hard feelings for someone who has hurt you will not allow you to bury the hatchet and you will constantly find yourself dwelling on something that cannot be changed now. Live in the present. It is important to realize that conversation will allow the other person to offer an explanation for his/her hurtful behavior and help you overcome the same. Therefore. make sure that you do not shut down the lines of communication completely. Remind yourself that even you would have hurt others at one point of time. to be the talk of the town. It is a popular myth that people are only born with the gift or ability of impressing others. Many people tend to keep things to themselves. it is important to remember that “the joy of revenge is only for a day. Bitterness and bad memories pertaining to an incident will fade away with the passage of time. If you can accept this premise. you should communicate your feelings to the one who has hurt you. How To Impress People Look around you and you would be surprised to find that even dorky-looking guys and gals can have the crowd eyeing them.

the one who is talked about the most is naturally impressive!! Balance Bad Emotions It is a well-accepted fact that the more you run away from unpleasant situations and people. but with a tinge of humor and wittiness added. your aura can make you the most arresting person in a crowd of hundred as well. . know for sure that he/she is the biggest believer of the same. the best way to do so would be to learn to replace the words ‘I can't’ with ‘I can’. but when they open their mouth to speak. Get that killing look and you would surely have the eyes rolling!! The Right Mix Most of you would agree to meeting a lot of people who look charming. Instead. having striking looks is the task half done. Rather. Get That Killing Look Ask anyone and you would know that looks do matter. In case you are still wondering how to impress people. you need to have the right mix of beauty. One such tip is that you need to groom yourself. you would be the most-talked about person in the society. the tips given below would surely be of help. Remember. For the other half. intelligence and humor. However. the trick is to balance the bad emotions and act as if nothing bothers you at all. However. it is always about your reaction towards what took place and how well you were able to cope with it. the more you find yourself running into them. Each one of us executes certain vibes to the people around. it's never about what happened. Imagine meeting a person who is shabbily dressed. which you can master by following the right tips. you would be amazed to see people talking about you. has unruly hair and scruffy looks! The only expression that comes to your mind is ‘aaghh’! Isn’t it? Remember. Rather. to be impressive. but just an art. Impressing People Around You The Aura Much is said and discussed about the aura that each person has. you need to bear in mind that impressing others is no gift. did you know that it’s your very own aura that can make much of a difference in making you an impressive person? Believe it or not. physically. you need to look striking as well. Dare To Do Did you know that most people are bowled over by people who dare to ‘do’? Confused! Look around you and you would be surprised to find that almost every other person you meet has words like ‘can’t’ and ‘impossible’ in his/her vocabulary. Just being attractive or extremely genius is sure to goof up your persona.the same. if you lack the other parts. Remember. you would have people following you. And if someone denies the fact. This would reflect much about your personality and make you a notable person wherever you go. This would give a tremendous boost to your personality and in no time. prefer to look like a prince/princess and talk like a scholar. emotionally and psychologically and voila. And remember. all you want to do is run away. If you really want to impress someone. The secret is to radiate positive and healthy vibes and within the twinkling of an eye.

relationship. Does it sound like a familiar story and not because you have heard it over a million times but because you find the grasshopper as your alter ego. Work On Achieving The Goals Remove all the tasks. which you have to do. doing it on a regular basis can pose serious problems to your career and personal life. if there are some works which you don’t like to do but are important in order to achieve your goal. to guilt. Take time and clear it out. is to get clear ideas on what you want to do in life. In addition. Believe In Yourself . Don’t make a very huge list as it might get too overwhelming for you. which range from missed opportunities. and even resentment. Procrastination is the habit of putting off any work to the last minute. Set a time for whatever chore you are taking for the day. which would help you reach your goal. Sometimes we procrastinate simply because we don’t have any schedule for the day. like career. With no goals. It will motivate you to do the tasks and to reach your goals and you would be happy to do that afterwards. financial. It will help you stick to your program. when there was no food. Plan Your Day The best way to keep yourself away from procrastination is by planning the day. There are various effects of procrastination. And how in winter. how the grasshopper wasted his time hopping and singing in the summer while the ants toiled and moiled. Make short term and long-term goals. It will clear your mindset and would not even take more than your ten minutes. Keep your eyes on the things. health etc. Tips For Overcoming Procrastination Get A Goal The most important thing. Make goals in various fields of your life. Sometimes it can occur because of laziness.How To Overcome Procrastination You may remember the story of ants and grasshopper. which will keep you alert and away from procrastination. people don’t have the will to move ahead in life. which you can do without and which will not obstruct you in reaching your goals. Read on the article to know some practical tools to overcome it. Although almost every one of us procrastinate one or the other time in our life. the grasshopper found itself at the mercy of ants. link those tasks to your goals. Most people procrastinate because they have no goals. In addition. stress. or because you want to escape something or at times you are too overwhelmed by a task that you put it off. the causes for procrastinating may or may not be same.

This will keep you focused. Positive Thinking Exercises It has been rightly said that ‘when going gets tough. Stick to your time management but allow for little cheats. you won’t be able to do much. You don’t have to be too hard on yourself. will provide better results and will not overwhelm you. And that may put you off from the whole idea itself. Delete the ‘impossible’ word out of your dictionary and remember that you can do it. only positive thinkers know how to overcome the most testing of situations. Follow your inner desires and success would follow you. Respect Your Values Almost every one of us wants to do several things. If in childhood.The most important thing to achieve success is the belief in oneself. First. Even if you do procrastinate. discouraged and feeling negative. . but actually how many of us do it? The problem is that we don’t respect ourselves and we don’t respect our values. frustrated. as it will keep you in for long haul. Challenging situations can leave you harassed. you wouldn’t have been able to walk itself. Read on and know how to become a positive thinker. Break Down Big Tasks Breaking down big tasks in smaller components would help you concentrate on that particular task for the moment. that we don’t even know when we start getting frustrated and take unnecessary stress. and if you are too hard on yourself. have a clear idea about your values and then use them as a navigational compass in all the decisions you make. Don’t Overdo It Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. which will improve your working ability. As the habit of not procrastinating will take time to cultivate. Sometimes we get too involved in a thing. Remember that failure is just a stepping-stone to success. Problems in life are generic and affect everyone in almost the same way. the tough gets going’ and the driving force behind tough souls is a positive thinking mind. Take Breaks Take breaks when you feel less motivated and are tired. you would snap. The article brings you some exercises and activities which will help you to think optimistic. However. Have faith in your abilities and the power to turn things around. you wouldn’t have walked because of the fear of falling. recognize that you are doing it and thrive to change it. Unless you believe in yourself. Break down the big tasks but schedule it in your time limit so that you don’t spend too much time on a smaller task.

The moment you start forgiving yourself. which can occasionally go wrong. Confidence and self-assurance is the cornerstone of positive thinking and you will notice the difference instantly. where you get a chance to read them as often as you can.Activities For Positive Thinking Early Morning Walk An early morning walk can be of immense help in keeping you in a positive frame of mind throughout the day. Holding yourself responsible for everything is not going to alter a situation for the better. Try To Forget Negative reminiscences of something that has passed over and can’t be changed now can take you down the memory lane and hamper a forward-looking positive approach. If you are in a happy state of mind. yet the most powerful techniques to foster positive thinking. to conquer any negativity in your mind. Inspire Yourself It is important to inspire yourself. Listen to inspirational songs when you are driving and lift up your spirits. Meditation Meditation is one of the simplest. you will begin to feel positive. Make sure that you take a walk early in the morning and take time out to appreciate the beauty of nature. . It is also the only thing. once you build faith in yourself. which probably requires the least effort on your part. Write inspirational quotes and place them at your office desk or at home. more so from your successes in the past. Forgetting the negatives of life encourages positive thinking. Be Happy The easiest way to think positive is to be happy. but keeping yourself happy is completely a matter of choice. Always remember that one should remember only the good things of the past and drop the bad memories from the mental landscape. The best part is that you don’t have to necessarily meditate in a static body posture. you will automatically think positive. Believe In Yourself Most negative thinkers are those who suffer from a lack of self belief and continue to nurse doubts about their abilities. Forgive Yourself Remember that you are human too! It is important to realize that you don’t run the world and there are things beyond your control as well. It will work as a great stress buster and ward off any negative emotions trying to overpower your mind. There is no denying the fact that you will keep finding yourself in trying circumstances. Just sit in a comfortable chair and listen to soothing music or perform deep breathing exercises that are good for relaxing your mind.

You imagine yourself as an epitome of talent and virtue. If you feel you lack in confidence. Treat yourself with the same approach. Write them down on a book or in a laptop. imagine yourself as the wise man on earth. you can use confidence-building techniques to increase and enhance your confidence. then you might as well be suffering from lack of self-confidence. When you are feeling very less confident. When you reach a • • • . Gracefully accept the compliments of others. So what are you waiting for? Go on read for yourself the techniques for confidence building. Self-confidence is of utmost importance in every aspect of our lives and unless we are confident. unless he is confident. Never think of yourself as a loser or a joker. Think about how a wise. There is nothing wrong in accepting the compliments from others. which you want to achieve. you will never have confidence in him and better say you are off without him. Nobody is by birth a confident man/woman. Now come to think of it. Focus on the positive things about yourself. Use positive motivational quotes from the good books you have ever read. This is the greatest teaching of Zen. are you like the wobbly doctor? Do you struggle to take decisions? If yes. Be kind to yourself with your words and actions. You already have things. A person without confidence is like a ship without a captain. Your subconscious gets designed in a positive way when you accept the compliments from others. You never want to hurt your best friend. it is cultivated and it is never too late to cultivate it. Would you want him to operate on you? The answer certainly is ‘no’ by all means. Do not hurt yourself by complaining about your weakness and negative traits. Confidence Building Exercises • • • • • Imagine yourself as the perfect person. Treat yourself as if you were your own best friend. we would not be able to achieve anything in our life. Never let you down in any case. Analyze those qualities from roots. you pamper him and convince him that he didn’t commit any. and find out what a beautiful personality you are. Even though the doctor may be very experienced and good. Just refer it again and again when you feel so frustrated. confident person would have handled the situation? Study your favorite personalities and analyze their activities and behavior pattern and act like them. Just make a list of positive traits. Even if he does a mistake.Confidence Building Techniques Imagine a scene where you are on an operation table and the doctor who is doing your surgery is bathed with sweats and is wobbly with apprehensions.

Imagine your life is already fulfilled and full of joy. You will feel more contented and relaxed. Never shut the door to people. you can find in any newspaper are negative. Whenever you achieve a minor goal. Explore this article to know tips on how to avoid being rushed in the morning and route your day to a smooth. Most of news. for a long’s days work. hair accessories. Do some weight training exercises and build yourself a good physique. . It comes with a detailed course of action that is to be followed regularly. • • Praise yourself million times a day if possible. coats. Schedule and start off a routine when the kids are still young. The children are to be fed and dressed. Don’t be too pushy on success. This will prepare your children to assist you in the growing years. or read the news just before bed. it gradually turns into reality. dress and set off to the office. etc. News is polished version of facts. which is designed to shock you. fun.higher level of confidence. and music. in the night. It is better to make your mornings a smooth drive rather than a mad dash. So avoid the habit of reading the newspaper in night before you sleep. listen to. A strong physique is the foundation of good mind. calm and joyful beginning. • • • • • How To Avoid Being Rushed In The Morning The knack of parenting does not come easily. Practice meditation and yoga. Do not watch. you don’t need other’s compliments to feel contented. Always keep a lot of friends. to breeze out the process of getting ready in the morning. Tips To Avoid The Morning Rush • Prepare all the clothes and outfits for yourself and your children before hitting the pillow. The morning alarm signals the start of a race for most of the parents. If you can think of your imagination as the reality. sent to school. It also requires a great deal of planning and scheduling the next day’s routine. Instead of exposing yourself to bad news. There is a saying “look for the silver lining in every cloud” which means see positive traits in whatever happens even if that is a negative thing in a normal sense. Try to help others honestly. • Set out shoes. Then it’s the turn of the parents to eat. praise yourself to the Himalayan heights. gloves. recall the entire positive experiences of the day.

This way. you will not only be able to move ahead in life. early to rise makes a person healthy and wise”. Pack your children’s bags in the night. This statement is true for each and every aspect of life. to clear up your head. particularly during a gathering or discussion. Charge your cell phones the night before. to save time and the frustration of searching for the things in the morning. This will help manage each child’s routine and keep everyone move along and keep the pace. wallet and cell phones and make a habit of keeping them at that place only. Remember “Early to bed. in case one of them has a habit of staggering in the bathroom. then only will you be able to voice out your thoughts and convince people regarding the same. Prepare the office briefcase in the evening. Pen down all the necessary things to do on a sticky note. • • • • • • • • How To Lead A Discussion It is often said that if you want to make yourself heard and your presence felt. fill them up before going to bed and do not leave them for the morning. It is only those people who stand . Set your alarm 15 minutes before the regular time. This will give you more time to do the necessities and make you fell less hurried. papers. It totally depends on you whether you want to be just another face in the crowd or stand out as strong independent character. Be sure that you and your family members are well-rested by calling the night early. Pen down the duties and divide them among the family members. For this. Put in their lunch money. to reminder you of the same in the morning. Discuss the short-cuts to ease the burden of time constraints. you should be focused and extremely determined and should have a strong mind set. but will also be able to bring a change with your thoughts and ideas. Start your morning with some upbeat music to keep you on your toes. In every stream of life there are millions of people struggling to carve a niche for themselves. Lack of sleep will make you sluggish and not help getting up in the morning. to avoid rushing in the morning.• • • Designate one place to keep your keys. This will enable you to start the day with a few peaceful and quiet moments and help you tackle the needs of others. Get up early and before the rest of family members. Have your children get up at different times. it is vital to take the lead. In case any forms are to be filled in. notebooks and other supplies in the night itself. Once you are sure about your opinions.

Make it a point that everybody gives proper reason and backup for his or her opinions. • • • How To Achieve Success . Nobody should give blank statements. They should never be limited to ones that can be answered by a simple “yes” or “no”. • The phrase “practice makes a man perfect” would probably sound like a cliché to some. Judge the pros and cons of every side. based on evidences and verifications provided by the members. the more perfect you get with your presentation. You can even use a recorder to visualize how you present yourself and how much more you have to improve. We have provided some very interesting tips on how you can lead a discussion and progress in life. Particularly emphasize on the quieter participants and try to get them involved as much as the other members. Try to find a balance between the different types of personalities and give every person involved in the discussion a chance to speak out his or her thoughts. to shoot at the participants. • • As a leader. as this is the only way you can come to meaningful conclusions. you should be well prepared with a list of questions. to keep the fire within the discussion burning. Apart from the big questions. give a summary or conclusion for the discussion. do your homework well and explore the topic of discussion in detail. without grounds to explain them.up for their beliefs and rights who bring about a change in the society. In case you want to be one of them. Finally. one after the other. the discussion should also have several smaller ones for each main question. Jot down the important things or make a mental note and find out all the probable questions that you would probably face during the discussion. which allows the listeners to follow up with answers or further questions. you should frame the correct questions for the participants. The main idea is for a constructive solution after a prolonged period of discussion. wherein you make your speech in front of an imaginary crowd. Such people are able to do so only because they can forward their thoughts among millions of others and lead discussions. Try to infuse arguments. Leading Group Discussions • Whether in school or at office. read on. the more confident you will feel. You can even have an imaginary presentation. but history has proved it time and again that the more you practice. while facing the crowd. These questions should always be open-ended in nature. The more you know about the subject matter. To start a discussion and keep it going.

Steadfastness is required here in order that you do not give up once obstacles come your way. Have a list of short-term goals (for the day or for the week) and work towards achieving them. Therefore. you would need to be creative as well as flexible. the words success invokes the idea of dollar signs glinting before their eyes. True success lies in reaching your goals. and to turn them around and use them to create a new path to help you reach your goals. make sure that these are practical. When you approach your goals to success. without wavering. Be positive. The following steps will help you understand what you would need to do in order to be a successful person. the lives of many people have proves that success is more than just materialism and the quest for wealth. Viewing your goals as a chore will not lead to success. it is essential to communicate well and effectively. There will definitely be obstacles in your path to success. Goals and the path to success cannot be trodden upon singlehandedly. Build your long term goals upon the short term ones. good exercise. If you have a negative attitude. Tips To Be Successful • Have goals – long-term goals as well as short-term ones. you will find that the obstacles become more difficult to surmount. Creativity is needed in order to make the best of the changed circumstances. To this end. Trying to aim for the moon will only result in failure. driving the latest cars. This will help you greatly when dealing with others. There might be a lot of things that come in the way of reaching your goals. which might make you stray off course. be like a horse with blinkers and look straight ahead at your goal. you do not need to trample on others in order to reach out to success. defining who you are by what you choose in life. Read on to know how to achieve success. Flexibility is needed in order to allow you to keep yourself open to changes that come along with changed circumstances.What does success really mean to you? To many. When you set goals. Things may not always work out the way you wanted them to. Look after your physical and emotional health. You might have to change your plans or the way that you wanted to work towards a goal. Contrary to a prevalent attitude. However. However. your attitude counts a lot. staying positive will help you be more successful in the end. • • • • • • • How To Be Assertive Without Being Arrogant . Be focused on your goals. Some visualize themselves in huge mansions. Ensure that you get proper food. This might seem to be a strange tip. and adequate sleep. but taking care of your health will ensure that you are in good shape to pursue success. If the road to success gets rough. Be committed towards your goals. and filling their homes with the latest gadgets.

if you don’t want to be written off as an aggressive freak. It is such a fine combination that you would never be associated with elitism and snobbery. benefits more than hoisting your own flag. It doesn’t imply that you are giving others a chance to convince you when you have to be assertive. tend to over do it at times. The dividing line between the two can appear to be very thin. where you have to communicate your needs without bending. read on. Tips To Be Assertive Without Being Aggressive Use Assertive Communication Appropriately Those who are not assertive don’t speak their usual self and those who are. often brand assertiveness as a mere reflection of superciliousness. Conversely. at least in the professional arena. Be humble and civil with others in your dealings. no matter what. Be Modest & Unassuming Modesty and an unassuming demeanor gel very well with assertiveness. sometimes. it also involves listening to the other party patiently. However. Imagine if the other party is as forceful and pushy as assertive are you! Under such circumstances. who do not possess this brazenness. Identify such situations and be willing to work for a compromise when required. Those who don’t listen to what others have to say epitomize arrogance in the most apparent way. in certain circumstances. You will find some valuable tips on how to balance your aggression and be assertive without being arrogant or pushy. The plain dichotomization between assertiveness and arrogance is that assertive people climb the ladder without stepping on other people’s rights and arrogant people simply fail to see that others exist. Your insolence can make you feel alone. but stand solid on your position. Only you can tame your over aggressiveness. In case. rudeness coupled with assertiveness is naturally seen as arrogance. which is very important to succeed. Look For A Middle Path There are certain situations where it becomes imperative to work out a middle path. It’s just that others should not feel that you are self-absorbed and only concerned with yourself. which is deemed appropriate. You have to guard against this tendency. Reaching a compromise. you don’t want this to happen. it makes sense to keep your options open.Being assertive is often equated with being arrogant and bigheaded. There is a bright possibility that you may come across as arrogant. The idea is to strike a fine balance and use your assertive communication skills in a manner. . almost blurred. ‘Being polite yet firm’ is the golden rule and you would do well to remember that. Assertiveness is a remarkably positive trait and selfassured people are sure to succeed. Listen to others. Be An Active Listener Being assertive is not only about conveying your point across in a firm way. rather than incessantly locking horns with others by being too assertive. some insecure people.

These topics often result in limitless conversation and reveal about the character of a person. shake hands and focus on the conversation. Observe people carefully and put in more questions. Ask Questions Prepare some questions in advance. first impression is the last impression. Space out your questions well. once the wrong shot has been fired. give your introduction.as no one will one come to your rescue. It is more concerned about listening as well listing. Having A Good Conversation First Impression As said. Be sure to ask them politely and do not sound like a stalker. Conversations give you an excellent opportunity to learn from the speakers. In other words. It just requires a little knowledge. Following are some tips that could prove beneficial for a good. in advance. speak politely and maintain good eye contact. guard against offending others and try to be modest and gracious. Be friendly. Read on and know how to have a great conversation. more than just a yes or no. Listen well. meaningful and entertaining conversation. Compliments can prove to be ice-breakers. conversation is all about understanding what your partner is trying to say and convey to you. Make the right movements and noises to specify that you are listening and very much involved in the conversation. else. Forget Yourself Get yourself interested in people. Hence. rather than convincing them to get interested in you. they will feel that you are interrogating them and this can result in closed off relationships. Listen Listening to the speaker forms the most significant part of any conversation. Do not hesitate to compliment him/her as it can prove to be beneficial in terms of beginning a talk. smile and ask questions that probe answers. Practice Active Listening Skills . They often lead to personal stories and anecdotes. Do not think too much about yourself and what the person might be thinking about you. How To Have A Great Conversation The art of conversation has very little to do with talking. Simply relax. Other Person’s Interest Study and research on some significant points about the person with whom you would be conversing. practice and patience to converse effectively with anyone.

likes. Ask Clarifying Questions If you find the topic of the conversation is interesting and appealing. who reminds you of a bull in a Spanish bull-fighting arena? He/she seems to be breathing fire down your neck and there’s nothing you can say or do that would stop them from jumping down your throat each time you open your mouth. How To Win An Argument Have you found yourself in a situation where you are confronted by an angry person. you need to build good eye contact and make comments wherever required. calculating. etc to tell them that you are involved in the conversation and are not diverted. to let them know that you had been actually listening. and then trapping them. For this. So how do you win an argument? There are many write-ups available for reading. Judge Your Response Before Disagreeing Do not disagree on a point merely to set apart yourself. the best way to win an argument is to win the person as well and not to out-argue them. and. which suggest that the reader should be rough. This will help you better your understanding and affirm it.When you listen. ‘that’s interesting’. Take interest in knowing about the person and his/ her hobbies. do not end up agreeing on everything as well. Know When The Conversation Is Over Every conversation has an end to it. ‘I see’. to leave a good impression on the other person. Mention that you would be delighted to talk to them over time. At the same time. Do Not Panic Over Lulls When a particular topic has taken exit. Use Your Words To Paraphrase Back What You Have Heard Conversation happens in a process wherein each person is given a chance to listen and then speak up or respond. Remember to smile while leaving and end on a positive note. Use significant points from other people’s talk in your speech. make sure that the person also knows that you are listening. . use the time gap to think over and introduce a new topic or put in a question based on the previous conversation. not completely truthful. By using the following tips. etc. put forward questions to clarify about their thinking and feeling. dislikes. oftentimes. However. You can use phrases like ‘yes’. ruthless. Some even suggest that the best way to win an argument is to irritate the opponent into exaggerating. You find a person interesting only when he/ she is a bit like you and a bit different from you. you would be knocking down their communication blocks to the point where communication can occur – and you have won the argument.

Aim To Reach A Goal Aim to reach a goal. Similarly. but what is even more difficult is to determine when to say ‘No’. Do Not Retaliate No matter what happens. not by means of a frontal attack. This is about getting your opponent to shut up – and then using the facts with logic to win the argument. It’s similar to verbal martial arts. but that you are right. rather than aiming to convince the other person that you are right. The key to succeed in meeting our priorities dot on time and not bother ourselves with other people’s work when we really don’t want to. don’t concentrate on bandying words. He will get tired after a while. Remember that the best battles are won. when you do not accept the verbal attack. you’re right you will most often end up provoking the other person. This will make both of you more deeply fixed on your own views. Imagine a person who is in a boxing ring and swinging his arms around trying to hit out at you – but you are not there fighting him. You cannot win an argument with resistance. Since the goal is to win the arguments. Similarly. This gets them into rough waters quite often. not that he/she is wrong. they will still own the item that they purchased for you. Just repeatedly deflect the person’s arguments back to him/her. but by means of strategy. Use Strategy If you try to prove that. Therefore. no matter who was the more dominant arguer. If you wish to win the argument at any cost. then the price you might have to pay is your relationship with the other person. when to say ‘No’. as they compromise on their own priorities. the sting of the attack wears off. so as to meet the requests made by others to them. Never attack – when they attack you just redirect the attack back to them. Also. The article brings you some very useful tips. never take things personally. if you do not accept the gift. How To Learn When To Say No Saying ‘No’ can be a very difficult thing to do. The other person’s resolve will only be strengthened further and the argument will never end. do not retaliate. If a person gets you a gift and offers it to you. let the arguer run out of steam and then handle the situation. is to know how to say ‘No’ and more importantly. go in for an entirely different goal. There are many people who simply can’t say ‘No’ to anyone’s request. You would also want to convince the other person. which will help you to learn when to say ‘No’ .Ways To Win Arguments Tips And Tricks Start Off With The Right Attitude Do not start off trying to prove yourself right and your opponent wrong. Focus on the other person’s behavior and words.

How To Take A Compliment Since you have landed on this article. you should always go ahead. Factoring in your convenience is not to say that you should abstain from helping or saying ‘Yes’ to others. it is obvious that you are a sweet person who receives compliments.Learning When To Say No See Your Convenience While it may sound a little self-centered. is also the criterion to decide whether its’ time to say ‘No’. unless your intention is to deliberately snap back at the other person. Learning How To Say ‘No’ As much as learning when to say ‘No’ is important. you simply can’t say ‘No’ in a crude manner. it has to be the key if you don’t want to upset the tasks on your agenda. If you can conveniently help others at the expense of some of your time. if they know that you find it difficult to say ‘No’. there is no reason why he/she can’t be refused. In the professional arena. learning how to say it is equally vital. Somewhere down the line. This is a common problem with most of us. for any of your random jobs. you will have to train your mind to learn that. However. get on with your work without a second thought. Do what you possibly can for others. it only pitches in your priorities. but know where the threshold is. You need to ensure that you are not taken advantage of. Don’t Let Others Take Advantage Of You Some people just make it a habit to fall back on others for their tasks and people who are ‘pushovers’ are obviously the softest targets around. When you know that the other person is simply taking advantage of your feebleness in saying ‘NO’. if you think that you are really needed in a particular situation and it just can’t work without you. In fact. People will try hard to convince you to get their job done. you should certainly consider helping the other person. You will also need others once in a while. it is the time to firmly refuse to oblige him/her. Determining whether you are really needed for a particular task or not. but finds it difficult to accept them. If you think that the concerned person is in a capacity to the job that he/she is entrusting upon you. when you react to their compliment. it . A ‘No’ should always be polite. which you can’t compromise on. if you think that you don’t have the required time for others. Be polite and gracious when refusing something and you will never fall in anybody’s bad books. instead of saying ‘No’ right on the face of a senior. you can simply cite some other tasks that you have at hand. You have been observing since long that people always take it other way round. On the contrary. Determine Whether You Are Really Needed If your mind is not conditioned to know when you are indispensable. disallowing you to heed to his/her request.

Even if you feel that the compliment is in a sarcastic tone. Taking A Compliment Gracefully • The first and foremost thing to do when you are complimented is to acknowledge it. it will confuse the admirer and make you come across as a rude person. This is taken as an insult by the person who is giving the compliment and he/ she will definitely re-think before complimenting you in future. after you have taken the compliment. If you are complimented upon the way you are dressed. So quickly brush up with the tips given below and be a dear amongst all. Never give a sarcastic grunt or an eye-roll. if the compliment is from someone you love or admire). Immediately say ‘thank you’ with a kind smile and it will turn into a compliment. Compliments should make you feel special and bring a smile on your face. It should also make the other person feel that you have accepted it whole-heartedly and value it. as it is considered highly rude. don’t let the other person know how bad you have felt about it.always comes across as either you lack confidence or are a proud person. acknowledge it and initiate the conversation by letting them know the place you bought it from or how great the shop was. especially when you are receiving a compliment. This will again reflect you as a negative person and close doors for further compliments. when you receive a compliment. Be confident (you can blush too. Don’t argue with your admirer or compare yourself with another person. practice receiving compliments in mirror and saying thanks with smile. To gain confidence. So. don’t change the topic. else it will depict as if you don’t believe in the compliment or aren’t confident about it. • • • • • • • • • . Avoid the temptation of bragging about yourself. but never focus on how much you shelled out to buy that one. avoid doing it. We are here to help you out on the task of how to take compliments gracefully and bring sunshine in your life. without acknowledging it. Avoid looking here and there. Your body posture should not over shadow your confidence. The two words. egoistic and impolite person. You can also say that the compliment means a lot to you or something along the same lines. When someone compliments you. This will go extremely rude and depict you as proud. This will only show that you are too self-obsessed. ‘Thank You’ come out very genuinely and make the other person feel that you have accepted the compliment. by infusing a negative remark. if you have received a compliment for your good work or the accomplishment of a task. who might not be looking as great as you are. Never do the mistake of underestimating yourself. Make an eye contact and give a smile.

Always remember to maintain eye contact with the speaker. sound of moving vehicles. Make an impression on the speaker that you are interested in his speech. Free your mind from all other things and concentrate only on what he wants to say. Listening is a skill that not many a people are gifted with. etc. You can ask brief questions in between his conversation. Read on and practice the tips consistently. be careful not to use these expressions to start a speech from your end. You can use such verbal expressions like “I understand what you mean”. Remember that your task is to be an • • • • • • . Avoid pseudo-listening and try to actually focus on what the speaker has to say. You need to listen to the speaker. Choose proper solutions for overcoming these barriers and ensure that the messages are well conveyed. In case the speaker looks tired and exhausted. However. We bring you some effective tips how to improve effective listening skills. but after a while he knows something”. Always wear a positive body language towards the speaker. which will make him feel that you are actually listening to him. Avoid your temptation to interrupt in the middle of the conversation. Show appropriate actions that go well with the conversation. Let him vent out his feelings and relax himself. as a listener. The common environmental barriers include TV or music system. be patient and lend a listening ear. to know his mood. These can encourage the speaker to convey his point further to you.How To Improve Listening Skills “A good listener is not only popular everywhere. let the speaker complete and then give your feedback or opinion. Interference will only make the speaker frustrated and lose the track of what he was saying. It is an effective tool in building up a relationship. which will help you in many walks of life. to get this positive trait in you. Look at the vocal tone of the speaker. rather than indulging in finding debatable issues in the conversation. First. Concentrate on the words of the speaker. Improving Your Listening Skills • • Pay proper attention to what the speaker wants to convey. Listening skills can also be developed and nurtured during the life time. conversation among other groups. An effective listener is equally praiseworthy as a powerful speaker. Proper listening enables a person to know and understand the matter efficiently. Smile wherever necessary and show gestures like holding hands or offering a hug. rather than conveying your own view point. you can help him focus on his message. says Wilson Mizner. Make your environment free of barriers that can cause a hindrance in the proper communication system. Suppose the speaker is angry.

you can use expansion statements like “This is very interesting”. but the question is. does everyone possess social skills? Most of the people do not know the art of speaking. Just focus on qualities listed below and who knows. but believe me. it would be worth the wait. remember. you should have a fusion of both the characters. If you also face difficulty in interacting. you cannot be perfect overnight. Just strike a delicate . It would take some time. Remember. trust me. So. • At the end of the conversation. being too loud and outgoing would not do much good either. In the following lines. This will encourage the speaker to further elaborate on the conversation How To Improve Your Social Skills They say.effective listener. Improving Social Skills Be Yourself Only when you are your own self do you feel comfortable. there are others who lack confidence and yet others who do not havep98 mannerism and etiquettes. we have provided tips on how to improve social skills. This will be highly inspiring and encouraging for the speaker. Ideally. you would be lonelier than ever before. you might just turn out to be the ‘apple’ of the social meets. rather than proving yourself to be a winner in a debate competition. However. It is very important for you to know what to do and how to behave in a social gathering. While some are just inept and incompetent. just for you. Be Open & Approachable Imagine talking to a person who is an absolute introvert or extrovert! Extremes of personality often turn off people. While being too shy and withdrawn is enough to repel people immediately. a human being is a social animal. given to the fact that interaction and conversation forms the basis for everything we do. humans have this innate quality of discovering whether a person is real or fake. it is not the end of the world. from being ineffectual. In case you pretend to be someone you are not. And it is when you are in utmost comfort that you indulge in free conversation and interaction. Do not change your inner self for anything in the world. You can improve your social skills by just putting in a little effort. Be Responsible One of the vital components of social interaction is to know that art of carrying yourself. be responsible for your actions and act according to the situation. Find out the points on which you mutually agree with the speaker and present them occasionally in between the conversation. Having sound social skills is extremely important in the present times. A person behaving in an undesirable and unacceptable manner is usually avoided by people.

you will know that everyone wants to talk. “first impression is the last impression”. It would speak miles about your manners. it is also advisable to be diplomatic. For instance. While being honest and forthright definitely pays. has struck a note in the minds of all people alike. Be it a business meeting. do not interrupt or chip in a piece of advice or suggestion just when the other person is in the middle of a subject. which is why most of us long to make a great first impact on people. Be Cautious It is advisable to keep your senses active. So. sugarcoating the truth is very necessary at times. keep reading the article. It sheds off all the apprehensions and nervousness and gives a good impression. Also. As such. close your ears and numb your senses at the time of interacting. Great styling. it is very necessary that you create a great impact. Alas! Not many have it in them. the trick is to be an attentive listener and people would definitely talk to you. but no one is ready to listen. Be Polite Being humble and down-to-earth is an excellent way to break the ice. the first impression would go a long way in establishing and imprinting your position in the mind of the person you are meeting. How To Make A Great First Impression The phrase. Do not shut your eyes.balance between both the personalities and you would be the ‘star’ of the social gathering. the best bet would be to move out of the scene. If you want to arm yourself with all the tips on how to make a great first impression. Making A Strong First Impression Right on Time . the first date or the first day at work. If you would have attended a social gathering. Do not confront everything to someone you have just met. Keep a keen eye on who are your friends and who are your enemies. If he looks uncomfortable or is simply disinterested. watch if the person you are talking to is comfortable with the specific topic. so that the person has positive feelings or thoughts of you. Apart from being polite. In case he/she is not interested in talking to you completely. personality and confidence. Be Attentive The art of listening is a stepping stone for conversation and interaction. oozing confidence and a winning smile are some of the determining factors for making a striking first impression. Be Aware It is very important to be aware and observant of people’s behavior. just move on to the next topic. impressive conduct.

If you are projecting your own personality to the person you are meeting. Dress appropriately before stepping out of the house. Winning Smile George Eliot rightly said “Wear a smile and have friends. (I’m sure the other person does not want to know how many teeth you have or how big your tonsils are!!) Oozing Confidence Did you know that your body language contributes more than 90% of your communication? Thus. Since you are meeting a person for the first time. chances are that the two of you barely know each other. In such a case. Remember. Just be Yourself Most of the people go way beyond their individuality to create a good first impression. Style Yourself Well Believe it or not. the deal is to be yourself. However. a warm smile can shed off all the initial apprehensions and make both of you at ease. going clean shaven is a must. at least 5 to 10 minutes prior to the preset time. Remember. So. Here. Nothing can be more depressing than to meet a person who is dressed up without a smile. do not go overboard and laugh with your mouth open. it is very necessary to project appropriate body language. untidy clothes and messy hair-do is enough to make you look under confident and sheepish! Impressive Introduction While looks would create the 50% of the first impression. However. keep the nervousness locked in your cupboard. Remember. you would be utmost confident and completely at ease. And if you are calm and confident. Make sure that the attire you are wearing gives a boost to your personality. a winning smile and a firm handshake would talk a lot about your personality and the person you are. the first look can go a long way in making an impressive first impression. grooming and styling should be the mantra for you. Make sure your hair-do serves as an add-on to your look. Result . if you want to create an impressive impression. Plan your day in such a way that you reach the assigned location. Small things like eye contact. the rest depends on how impressive is your introduction. . For men. wear a scowl and have wrinkles”. the other person would automatically feel relaxed. making you look all the more stunning and stylish. Remember. Smartly introduce yourself and fill in the other person with all the necessary details that he/she should know about. standing tall with the head held high.Imagine meeting a person for the first time and opening your introduction with a sorry or an excuse for being late? What a loser you would look like! Being on time is the first step towards making a great first impression. so apprehensions and nervousness would be common between the two of you. even he/she is meeting you for the first time. An impressive introduction is one that is short and crisp. it would be best if you start off with a bang.confusion and nervousness!! To avoid such a scenario. do not lengthen it. the trick is to smile and win the heart and mind of the other person. with all the details.

Correct Translation In case you are talking to a person who comes from a different country or follows a different language. men and chivalry should go hand in hand. communication should be carefully conducted. but also formulate the right opinion. Effective communications are those that bring in positive results. Starting On Positive Note Starting your communication on a positive note sets the pace for effective messages later on. such messages make way for easier learning. most of the times. but also make way for better communication. As such. This would not only help you understand the other person’s point of view. people do not engage in healthy communications. it is best to translate the information in a language that the receiver can interpret correctly. thereby disrupting the whole process of communication. reading this article is a great idea.Chivalry at Best Do we need to elucidate on this point? Needless to say. Remember. For those of you who want to arm themselves with all the information about positive communication techniques.first. Good manners and courteous behavior lay the foundation for any relationship. It makes the communicator lose the trail of thoughts. negative or corrective messages are necessary to communicate. try to introduce positive words in your communication and second. Do not interrupt a person while talking. Talking in a common language is best advised. Listening sets the base for any communication and it is when your listen attentively that perfect communication takes place. Positive Communication Skills Proper Attention Being attentive is one of most vital components to engage in positive communication. creating the best first impression. you are here to create a good impression on the person you are meeting and not on the person whom you are talking to!! Positive Communication Techniques Did you know that communication is the key to opening the doors of success and victory? However. Sometimes. However.switch off your mobile while you are with the person. In such circumstances. you not only build a healthy relationship. This can be done if you follow two simple tips . Respect & Kindness . communicate in a way that it leads to positive outcomes. when topped with healthy doses of positive comments. Words that mean good in our language need not necessarily mean the same in other language. This way. A rule of the thumb . the results are far from being positive.

No Blame Game It is very important not to play the blame game. making it extremely unconstructive and pessimistic. In such circumstances. when two individuals communicate. How To Be A Good Speaker It is certainly a great honor to be heard by people and only a good speaker can manage to bring that honor upon him/her. It is not feasible to have important discussion in the middle of a hallway or office corridor or around nosy co-workers. hands and body posture communicate more than you ever thought. It negates chances of positive things in the communication. The article gives some excellent tips on how to become a good speaker and enthrall your audience. imagine you are in an important board meeting and someone suddenly yawns – it’s a perfect give away that he/she is bored to death.S president Barack Obama. not everyone is endowed with these attributes and this is where the tips given below will come handy. Do not compel the other person to agree to your school of thought. Right Body Language Did you know that almost 90% of the communication is done by your body? Sounds unbelievable. The present U. while you are in a conversation. Playing the blame game would take you nowhere. but it is true!! Your eyes. However.Every individual is an entity and has opinions and view of his own. who has continued to win laurels for his tremendous potential as a speaker. which is why it becomes crucial to time the communication well. we mean that the time and the place of communication should be proper. Use tact and good judgment to come to a common solution. Arrange for the time that is favorable for both of you and a place that allows positive communication between the two of you. For instance. Remember. Pose forward a right body language and you would surely have the most positive communication. it is normal to face a situation wherein there is a difference of opinion. Become A Good Speaker Sound Sincere With What You Say . you can only indulge in positive communication when both the speaker and the listener are in a calm mood. Such communications do not result in a positive outcome. is a shining example of phenomenal oration skills. Well Timed Communication By this. it is best advised to respect each other's viewpoints and opinions. The magnetic qualities that a successful speaker possesses draw the masses towards him/her. As such.

People appreciate knowledgeable speakers and delivering substantial and interesting information will hold you in high esteem with your listeners. A lot of people have a tendency to look anywhere. Cultivate Knowledge On The Subject For a good speaker. as you speak. Speak in a way you talk to people in your day. try to cultivate an insight into the subject and expand your knowledge base. but in the eyes of the person or the group they are addressing. Hitting the nail right on the head is all about being able to convey your thoughts and make the audience feel what you are saying. Maintain Eye Contact With The Audience The golden rule to be a successful speaker is to maintain eye contact with the audience all through your speech. Apart from the novices. it can grip even those who own a wealth of experience. Holding the interest of the audience for long is a great art that can be perfected over time. The key to appear sincere is to speak in a conversationalist tone. but it can be easily mastered over time. Excellent speakers are those who are not just good orators. as if you are talking to your audience. to strike a chord with your audience. Add Humor To Your Content No matter how great an orator you are. How To Get Rid Of Performance Anxiety If you begin to sweat profusely and tremble at the very thought of your scheduled performance. Exploit your confidence to the limit and maintain constant eye contact with the audience. You need to make the session interesting by adding a dash of humor in your content. just like a good professor. One of the greatest qualities a good speaker should posses is the ability to modulate his/her voice to for effect. you are suffering from performance anxiety. a drab content will soon wither away the interest of the audience. as far as performing in front of an audience is . will always go prepared for the speech. Performance anxiety is also called ‘choking’ by some people. Voice modulation may call for some practice. Learn To Modulate Your Voice Every word that one says carries a different emotion and these emotions need to be transmitted to the audience in an expressive way. to keep the audience amused.Sincerity in your words tops the order among the attributes of a good speaker. An excellent content laced with humor and an equally witty disposition to carry it off will work as icing on the cake. in all likeliness. This habit can be very off-putting for the audience and the speaker will fail to garner enough attention for himself/herself. People will pay heed to what you are saying. if they feel you are for real. If you already know the subject you have to speak on. A good speaker. for a good speaker. but also come across as genuine.to-day life. content is extremely important to stand out as someone who is intently heard by his/her audience.

Read on to know how to perform your way to glory. This will surely help you cope up with nervousness and make you feel self-assured before your performance. Practice your performance as much as possible. Try to get familiar with the venue of your performance and the stage where you are going to perform. to make it flawless and feel confident about your ability to make it successful. sometimes. The article brings you some valuable tips on how to get rid of performance anxiety. How To Stay Mentally Sharp . While it may not be possible if you have to give an office presentation. it can just be a simple case of stage-fright. The worst thing that can happen is that your performance will get blotched and this is certainly is not going to ruin your life forever. you can try the idea in case you are doing a skit or a play. If you have decided upon taking anti-anxiety drugs before setting on to perform.concerned. clinical anxiety is often treated with the help of drugs. It is important to remember that the more potent drugs can lead you towards a tendency to depend on them every time you have to give a performance. the ‘devil may care attitude’ can help in bringing down your anxiety levels dramatically. The idea is to have fun when you perform and in this context. Get Familiar With Performance Venue This is one of the most successful tricks that work pretty well to bring your anxiety levels down. Keep Anti-Anxiety Drugs As Last Option Anti-anxiety drugs should always be kept as a last option. many of the seasoned performers suffer from anxiety and nervousness as they set on to perform another time. with all the props. However. So. it is advisable that you consult a professional for the right recommendation. Tips For Overcoming Performance Anxiety Practice Your Performance It has been rightly said that practice makes a man perfect. get the worries off your mind and have a blast on stage. Always remember that hard work and practice is the key to success and you can conquer your anxiety very well with mock sessions and rehearsals. Your anxiousness may be the result of your under-preparedness for the performance that you have to deliver. Get Your Mind Off It It is important to keep reminding yourself that it’s just a performance and not the end of your life. when nothing else is working out. In fact. Self-doubt and a lack of confidence are the most common reasons accounting for performance anxiety. In the instances of social phobia. You can simply reach the venue before time and rehearse on the stage once.

Tips To Keep Your Mind Sharp Challenge Your Mind For enhanced mental sharpness. Follow the article and know what it takes to keep your mind functioning proficiently. Water makes up to one-half to four-fifths of your body weight and accounts for 85% of your brain. Meditate The benefits of mediation are known to all and sundry. there are many who struggle to keep their brain active and responsive all the time. You can also couple it with some form of physical exercise. . to keep your body hydrated and your mind energetic. to rejuvenate it. Be An Observer As much as striking intelligent conversations is important for an alert mind. If you are facing concentration problems and forgetting important things on the agenda. once in a while. This will give your mind the much needed invigoration and refresh it to stay as sharp as ever. Our eating habits have a profound impact on our mental abilities. attempting crossword puzzles or doing Sudoku is a good way to give a workout to your brain. Drink 8-10 glasses of water in a day. It helps revitalize our mind and body. keen observation is also one of the best tricks. Mediation helps banish negative energies from your mind. Paucity of water in the body can lead to dehydration. Try to observe the things around you keenly and rest your mind. like yoga. you may do with some helpful tips on how to stay mentally sharp. A healthy and nutritious diet is not just important for our over all well-being. magnesium and essential vitamins. It may not be easily possible to achieve a razor sharp mind. which will help your brain as well.While mental sharpness and alertness is a natural gift for some. which in turn makes it difficult to concentrate well. potassium. An ideal diet should include all the important minerals. To cut the long story short. Observing the nature is also a good way to be in touch with your spiritual side. Intelligent conversations sharpen your thinking and analytical abilities and endow your mind with alertness. to keep our brain working sharp. Playing scrabble. engage in activities that are mentally testing. resides a sound mind. chess. Eat Right It has been very aptly said that in a healthy body. but it’s certainly within your power to sharpen your mental faculties and utilize them in a more competent way. like iron. 30 minutes of yoga and 30 minutes of meditation in a day are enough to keep your mind healthy and increase its sharpness. it is also essential to keep your mind active and sharp. Researches have well established that physical exercise also enhances mental activity and bears a positive effect on our mind. it is important to constantly challenge your mind. it also helps our mind function in a better way. Drink Lots Of Water Drinking lots of water is not only healthy for the body. Interacting with others is also a fitting mental exercise.

but you will have to be assertive to resist their influence on the options you choose in life. just as everyone is different from others. Tips To Combat Peer Pressure Be Confident Of Yourself No matter how clichéd it sounds. As long as you remain a part of the crowd. You are a different individual with a separate identity. Therefore. provided you train yourself the right way. try to set the norm and stop feeling undue pressure to fit in a given group. Be Your Leader Instead of being led by your friends. For instance. this crisis continues throughout one’s life. building self-confidence is the best way to counter peer pressure in a successful way. which may confuse the child as to what he/she really wants to be. You can be what you are and still be an integral part of your friends’ circle. . Only a confident person can make others follow his/her footsteps. to conform to a group norm or act in a certain way. Be Comfortable With Your Choices Peer pressure may force you to alter your original choices and that’s exactly where it becomes problematic. Peer pressure can be understood as the pressure among any age group of children. Read on to know how to best combat peer pressure. Mostly. Hard. This article dwells on peer pressure at length and suggests tips to get rid of it. They can be your inspiration. This is. while others follow them? People look forward to those who are self assured and confident and try to be in their shoes. Always remember that you have to live with the choices that you make in life and you can’t let your peers dictate what you choose. due to their tender age. You need to remind yourself that you have a unique personality.How To Get Rid Of Peer Pressure Every one has to deal with peer pressure at some point in his/her life. Lead yourself and act according to your diktats. you will tend to give into peer pressure. be your own leader. you can avoid it by constantly reminding yourself that you won’t fall into such traps. the key to combat and avoid peer pressure. after all. teens are known to be more vulnerable to peer-pressure. In some cases. though it may seem. if you anticipate a situation which may force you to behave in a particular way. You will have to be very headstrong to resist peer pressure and this is very much possible. in consonance with the friend’s circle. The biggest threat posed by peer-pressure is a burgeoning crisis of identity. Build The Mental Toughness To Resist Not every one is gifted with the kind of mental toughness required to resist the pressure or avoid the temptation to be one of ‘them’. practice is known to make a man perfect. undoubtedly. Have you ever wondered why is it that only some people set the norms.

Flash cards can be of great help and are offer a realistic and effective way to practice sign language. In case you need any help. by choosing some basic books on sign language to start with. before you begin to memorize the signs. it is important to • • • • • • . for learning the sign language. using sign language. A school or organization for the deaf is also the right institution to get in touch with. join it for greater interaction with sign language users. explore this article to find some useful tips on how to learn sign language. it is important for someone trying to learn sign language to understand these differences in the first place. to learn and understand this elegant language. There is also an option to learn sign language from books. Learning sign language involves learning gestures. The grammar system of sign language is unique and it’s better to get a hang of the sign grammar. Along with books. by Juan Pablo de Bonet. when trying to communicate in sign language. which contains not just written words. hand signs and finger spellings and using them effectively to communicate with those who have lost their hearing ability. If you can find a local sign language club near your place. Since then. Although it may be a little difficult to find someone you can communicate with. but sign pictures as well. The first book for teaching sign language was published in 1620. You can arrange for them quite easily as well. However. which consisted of manual alphabets.How To Learn Sign Language Sign language is the means of communication used by deaf people. Sign language flash cards carry pictures of either a hand or a person forming the sign. Private language schools and community college also offers sign language courses and you can choose accordingly. Practice what you have learnt. The range of sign language books may advance from ‘survival’ level to ‘upper intermediate’ level. sign language has gradually grown and evolved to suit the needs of the deaf people. This will help you in improving your hand movements. with the help of arrows depicting hand and arm movements. Finding a good teacher or taking good sign language lessons is the key to learning the language in right way. you will have to be a patient and mature student. Try to interact with the users of sign language. A video or DVD course or an online course with animations may also suit your purpose. You can also watch sign language users on TV. Learning Sign Language • Since the methods of learning sign language are different from those used to learn spoken languages. Instructional videos will be of great help. you can also get yourself a sign language dictionary.

even in the least. when it comes to convincing others. In case you want to learn some more valuable tips on how to convince others. As much as a natural ability ‘convincing’ is. Interviews are known to be grilling and it is always better to improve on your knowledge quotient. . by putting forward strong arguments against the existing notions in their mind. However. give him/her an opportunity to present his/her point of view as well. One should never assume that the person he/she is trying to convince knows nothing on the topic of discussion. so that you two can practice sign language together. This is an excellent idea if you are set to appear for an interview. once they get started. Here. without interrupting them and once they are through. Acquire Knowledge On The Subject Acquiring a profound knowledge on the subject of discussion will make the convincing part a cakewalk for you. be it any sphere of learning. scroll through the article. Many people tend to be over-aggressive and do not let the listener speak. the ball is in your court.practice the language. Your confidence is to be your weapon and it has been witnessed that confident people sail through the roughest waters smoothly. Persuading others is all about succeeding in changing their opinions on a particular issue or being able to induce a change in their belief patterns. it can also be acquired and mastered over time. many times. quick thinking will work. Come up with realistic examples to back your point of view. as it does not leave the listener with much option. you have already won half the battle and you are most likely to convince your subject. Give Examples If you can support your argument with meaningful examples. discussions are impromptu and you may not have the time to gather information to substantiate your claims. How To Convince Others The ability to convince others is a rare talent and not every one is gifted with this valued asset. Remember. Tips For Convincing Others Hear Them Out If you really want to end up convincing your subject. The key to convincing others is to display a positive and assertive body language. the less time it will take you to shake the existing beliefs of your subject. ‘practice makes a man perfect’. to present sensible arguments. You can even try to find someone with similar interests. Listen to other people peacefully. Be Assertive & Confident The more confident and assertive you are in presenting your ideas. Be supremely confident of your opinions and make sure that you don’t doubt what you are saying.

Remember that aim is a fuel of life and unless you have a goal. you may have no idea about how to go about it. many of us are like Sid. It is attitude. How To Change Your Attitude “Our attitude toward life determines life's attitude towards us. our life becomes directionless. Tips For Changing Your Attitude Have An Aim A life without an aim is like a ship in the sea without knowing where it is going. Attitude will follow you. It may be positive. Mitchell May be you have heard this quote and you really want to change your attitude towards life. All the people develop an attitude while growing up. there are many other things to learn from this life. you would roam like the aimless ship. A positive attitude is very important for generating a successful and satisfying life. Actually. You can repeat your point of view for added effect. which distinguishes humans from other animals. if the person on the other side is too smart or skeptical. Actually. as it helps in shaking other person’s beliefs. the more skeptical they will become. how Ranbir Kapoor’s character Sid. Have you seen the movie “Wake up Sid”. It may be done to maintain a standing or sometimes to preserve ourselves from certain outward “harm”. every one of us can learn so many things every day if we keep our senses alert. Listen to your heart and then head towards your goal. didn’t have a goal in life and how his life changed when he found his goal. you don’t have anything to learn from this life then you are living with a wrong attitude. We keep on living without an aim and complain about life. Explore the article to know how to change your attitude. in reality too. but avoid trying to dominate or impose your line of thought. Therefore.other than accepting what you are saying. but the impression of desperation has to be strictly avoided. Don’t Appear Too Desperate Don’t come across as someone who just wants to convince others at any cost.” ~ John N. attitude is kind of one’s expression towards life and others. Without the right attitude. it may take you some time before you succeed in your efforts. The more desperate you sound to convince others. Think of what you want to do with your life. However. attitude is the driving force in our life and without right attitude. indifferent or something else. there remains no difference between us and other animals. Actually. Right attitude can be developed with the help of certain things. Actually. negative. Even if you are brilliant and you have never failed in your life. You have to present your case strongly and firmly. whether you . However. Be Ready To Learn Nobody is perfect and if you think.

Lack of self-respect almost always results in lack of aim. be ready to help others and rather than ignoring any crisis. you are a very shy person. People who are self-respecting generally keep a calm front even in the time of crisis. mentally and psychologically. Therefore. Have Self-Respect Self-respect is deemed as self worth and if you don’t value yourself. be ready to learn and you would feel so much satisfied. inferiority complex and hidden fears. Ways To Combat Shyness Be Proud Of What You Are . Be Positive Positivity is the drive of life. It will not only help you understand yourself properly. It can alter your life for good almost magically. found in many people. then in all likeliness. Unless you are.are at work. Confidence helps us sail through bad times. Confidence will help you change the way you look at things and you would perceive things positively. A positive attitude is a choice of being positive with oneself and others. This article brings you some valuable tips on how to cope with your shyness and bring out your confident side. enthusiasm and sense of purpose. Your shyness and introvert attitude can have varied manifestations and can be rooted in your insecurity. It is about being happy and content. In fact. Develop Confidence Confidence is the key to right attitude and to success. sure of yourself how are you going to chase your dream? A right attitude can come only to confident people. Shyness is a common trait. it will let you understand others too. It doesn’t only affect you psychologically but also helps you mentally and physically. how will you make other people value you? Self-respect is not only necessary for self-development but it is also important for inner peace. face it with positivity. your life will not be in your hand. estimates show that almost three out of every ten people are overtly shy. unless you are self-sufficient. home or anywhere else. However. To cut the long story short. A positive attitude will inspire and will help you deal with anything positively. Try to keep yourself self-sufficient. to change your attitude you need to develop confidence. shyness can just be a by-product of your lack of self-belief and confidence in your personality. confidence and everything else. physically. How To Cope With Shyness Do you always experience an adrenaline rush and feel self-conscious when you have to interact with strangers? If the answer is yes. Be Self-Sufficient You may have all the positive attitude.

so that socializing becomes a habit and he/she doesn’t always end up looking ways to overcome his/her shyness. Ideally. Remember your strengths are your advantage. by developing belief in yourself. it is important to recognize and determine whether you are really . You need to realize that people have different personalities and you are unique in your own way. insecurities or have varied other reasons. seek answers as to why you are shy and try to overcome your coyness. Try To Socialize Shy people tend to avoid socializing and boosting contacts with other people. However. You can ask your friends to help you out and conduct practice sessions on how you will converse with a new person or a group of strangers. to trigger off a jealous explosion and they are known to be very competitive in their own way. but if you bring yourself to succeed. Transform Your Self-Consciousness Into Self-Awareness Just remember that people are too busy looking at themselves and they are not trying to screen you wherever you go. Find things you are good at and focus on grooming that talent. Discover Your Strengths The ability to discover your strengths is probably one of the most crucial abilities a person can posses. Feelings of jealousy can be deep rooted in your hidden fears. Ensure that your mock sessions yield good results. Take inspiration from the people who are proud of what they are and are always brimming with confidence. Meeting new people will make you more confident and the plus point is you get to learn new things as well. You may be feeling that you don’t match up to other people and therefore. Your practice should basically include how to volunteer to talk. the shyer you will become. in most of the women. It seems that feelings of jealousy have been very intricately woven in the behavioral pattern of women. Identifying your talents will help you develop self esteem and conquer your shy attitude positively. try to turn this awareness inwards. your opinions may not be valued. it won't be long before you overcome your shyness. It is a demanding process. Instead of being so aware of people. The more you avoid meeting people. How To Know You Are Jealous Of Her One of the basic traits that are often associated with a woman is her enviousness. but practicing social interactions can work well for you. It takes very little. a shy person should pounce upon every given opportunity to interact with other people.Nothing explains shyness better than a lack of self-confidence. Observe your thoughts. especially if other things are failing to bring the desired results. which is the reason why they struggle in their interactions. your edge over others. Practice Though it may sound a little far-fetched. Nothing works better than self-discovery. in combating shyness.

If she has been weighing on your mind unnecessarily. they are not happy with their job. And. How To Accept Yourself “Love yourself—accept yourself—forgive yourself—and be good to yourself. You find her presence threatening due to your jealousy. This article comes up with some valuable tips that will help you to know if you are jealous of her. If you find yourself scheming on how to establish your self superior to her. in a lot of women. if you don’t want to believe in her positive traits. so that the strife within your mind could be handled well.Leo F. If you have been trying to compete with a woman in almost about every field.jealous of any other woman. Buscaglia. is even visible to others. to say harsh things about their subject of jealousy. even on things that should concern you the least. Your feelings may be continuous. what else can it be. Jealousy always results in unhealthy competition. And to . it is a sure sign of your jealousy. this just proves you are envying her secretly. Determine Whether You Compete With Her Or Not We have heard of healthy competition n-number of times and we also know that it is not fostered by jealousy. Know If She Is Weighing On Your Mind You may be subconsciously thinking about her always. because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things. This is when we may not know that we are actually envious of the person we are trying to compete with. their appearance and their life. Tips to Know You Are Feeling Jealous Of Her Know Your True Feelings Towards Her Do you try to compete with her for no real reason? Do you wish you were in her place? Do you greet her with a fake smile almost always? Your reactions and behavior towards a particular woman are an important determinant of your jealousy. They want to become somebody else and live all their life in misery and anonymity. What they don’t realize is that we become what we think. without even realizing how much time you are devoting to let this green eyed monster prosper. It is actually your covert insecurity that is bothering you and you can't even accept that you really are insecure. which is fierce in nature and many a times. other than plain jealousy? Know If You Are Threatened By Her If you feel threatened by her and keep dreading that she will prove herself to be better than you.” . you are right in determining that what you are feeling is jealousy towards her. If you don’t find favor with this quote then you may be among people who cringe on seeing themselves in mirror. You will say harsh things about her and will try to de-credit her from everything. This is precisely the reason behind the tendency. it is a sign of your jealousy being rooted deep in your insecurities. which haunt you even when your competition is not around.

work towards something. you would soon find change in your outlook towards life. work on eliminating them. Remember that nothing is more important than your opinion. Ways Of Accepting Yourself See Yourself As Success It may be very difficult for you especially if you have grown up disliking everything about you. Explore the following pointers to know the ways for accepting yourself. Work on inculcating self-confidence and you would soon see the opinions of others changing towards you. If you feel that you are not able to focus on your career. Keep in mind that you are a unique person and unless you accept yourself. It may be because of some flaws. and you would soon start to accept yourself. Remember that happiness doesn’t lie in earning millions. . which you want to do. Get Real Remember that you will have to work towards the goal of accepting yourself. For instance. Write all the qualities no matter how trivial they may be and then read them. if you feel you are too emotional and get hurt easily. You can also write all about yourself. Find Happiness In The Basics Happiness or sadness largely depends on oneself. Stand in front of the mirror and focus on all the features you like about yourself. Focus on all the positive qualities you possess and you would soon start to see yourself in good light. Restore Your Self-Confidence Self-confidence is essential element for accepting oneself. Jot It Down Writing all your qualities will help you.become a successful person we need to accept ourselves. happiness lies in one’s mind otherwise all the millionaires in the world would be happy. the world will not accept you. and you would start accepting yourself. After you have gained your self-confidence. are negative. So instead of focusing on the greener grass on the other side. You always find yourself not good enough and by saying that you were not just being humble. because of negative thinking or because of other people’s opinions. It will not happen overnight. work on it to do away with it. which you feel. Develop self-confidence by telling yourself constantly that you are a unique and beautiful person. After you have written. think about the root cause of it and work towards bettering it. focus on what you have achieved and be happy. or possessing all the luxuries. You would soon start to feel important and accept yourself. Take pride in your success and see yourself as successful. Accepting oneself is important to live a happy and content life. It will help you understand your uniqueness. Better Your Life It is important to accept you as you are but it is also important to strive to better yourself.

However. it is only going to weaken your position and allow them to throw their weight around. In case you are amongst the unlucky ones. It is. They have the same freakish behavior with everyone and trouble everyone they know. but defending yourself on everything is certainly not the right way to handle them. It's apparent that people with a hostile attitude will irritate you with their behavior. For instance. be it at work or home. sometimes. rather than paying them undue attention. It's natural for a person to end up meeting difficult people once in a while. Therefore. if someone is trying to ruin your reputation in office by spreading malignant rumors. constantly fretting over someone who is getting under your skin is not going to help. it's not wise to take them personally. If you argue with them on pettiest of things. Do Not Give Up . Don’t Take Them Personally It is important to remember that difficult people do things habitually and you are certainly not their only target.How To Handle Difficult People We often complain that some people are just too difficult to handle. Don’t let their negative attitude weigh constantly on your mind. You will have to devise strategies to deal with hostile people in a successful way. Don’t Be Defensive Let the attacks of a difficult person wash over you. Just keep your mind calm when you deal with them. Stand up to the situation and confront the person confidently. This article provides you some proven tactics to handle difficult people. However. you have to deal with them almost on a regular basis. Some people have a hard time adjusting with others and going easy in life. but you have to deal with them in a positive way. Keep A Positive Frame Of Mind Don’t let difficult people affect your mental peace. you should ask the person straight on if he/she has anything personal against you. There is absolutely no need to be defensive in turn. Read on and know how to deal with the people immune to the usual methods of communication. Do not allow their verbal attacks to shake your confidence. Tips For Handling Difficult People Confront Them Without Fighting It is important to confront difficult people. or they will start taking more liberty with you. You can confront them on important issues. You just need to acknowledge that they have a personality and perception different from that of yours and they need to be handled tactfully. better to just ignore them. you need to remember that you can't let the conflict escalate.

having a control over . feeling one with the god. Best Ways To Stop Negative Thinking Get Creative Whenever you feel that negative thoughts are creeping up on you. you lose even when you make a lot of effort. which can be mastered over a period of time. You may face some difficulties in the beginning. How To Avoid Negative Thinking ‘If you think you will win. Think of a wonderful situation. you are wrong.’ This quote aptly describes the important of our thinking. Rather. If you think you will lose. they just limit their ability to interfere in your life. On the other hand. there are chances you can. Keep practicing your art and don't loose hope.Tackling difficult people is very much an art. you win even without trying and during others.developing their concentration. in the outcome of our efforts. where everything is happening as you planned or as you want. much before the positive? Do you want to get rid of this habit? If yes. the best bet would be to turn your imagination creative. You will get success in your efforts sooner or later. This would go a long way in helping you overcome the pessimism. you definitely will. You need to remember that these strategies don’t change difficult people. Look Back Into The Past Life is never the same. A person who considers himself to be a loser and feels that he is worth nothing will hardly be able to achieve anything in his life. it is full of surprises. Indulge In Meditation In case you are thinking meditation is only for those who want to lead a spiritual life and stay away from the materialistic world. try to think of those situations where success kissed your feet. someone who has oodles of confidence (but not over confidence) and believes that he canachieve something in life will most likely become successful as well. The moment you feel your losses gaining over your mind. Remember the sense of accomplishments and vow to make them happen again. twists and turns! At times. but your tactics will show results with practice. while the losses are something from which you need to learn. See yourself becoming successful in your endeavors. The wins have to be taken seriously. being loved by your near and dear ones or even getting appreciated from all the quarters. People meditate for different reasons . then check out the tips given below and know how to avoid negative thinking. Are you one of those who always end up thinking about the negative side.

Make Yourself Feel Happy One of the best ways to get over negativity is to make yourself feel happy. However. log on to the sites that list jokes. and so on. accepting that psychic abilities exist and can be developed overtime with practice and effort. Keep A Positive Mind frame A positive mindset is the first pre-requisite to develop your psychic ability. If you have internet at home. will be of great help. For instance. all of us mention about our intuitions coming true. ‘I will not let negative thoughts come into my mind and affect me in any way’. If you are fond of comics. Tips To Develop Psychic Abilities Acknowledge That Psychic Abilities Exist Only the one who realizes and rightly acknowledges the importance of a psychic capacity among humans can be able to expand his/her psychic powers. If one aims to achieve his/her full psychic potential. It has been established by psychological researches that a positive state of mind enhances the psychic abilities of an individual. can hamper or block the expansion of one’s psychic potential. because of our intuitive powers which are the result of a developed psychic capacity. It is the last purpose that you have to solve with meditation. Our hunches and premonitions come out to be true not due to some bizarre coincidence but. start telling yourself ‘I do not have to think negatively’. ‘I have to think about the positive things happening in my life’. we never wait to ponder the reason behind such possibilities. buy some from the nearest bookstore and start reading.their thoughts. etc. Most of us never realize our full psychic ability. Occasionally. important . it is very important to become conscious of your drift towards negativity. it is equally possible to develop your psychic potential even further. Negative thinking and skepticism to a certain extent. you can rent the DVD of your favorite comic flick and laugh your heart out. The article explores the subject and comes up with profound insights on how to develop your psychic abilities. funny quotes or even funny SMS and start smiling! How To Develop Psychic A bilities Though we all posses psychic abilities to a certain extent. while it is very much possible to do so. As soon as you feel that negative thoughts are trying to creep into your mind. Read on to benefit from some valuable tips. by indulging in activities that you enjoy or that make your laugh. It will help you remain in a balanced state of mind and keep you away from the negativity. It is therefore. Consciously Block Out Negative Thoughts If you want to stop being pessimistic and think about the brighter side of life.

Mention your strong intuitions to your close ones and keep check on whether they come out to be true or not. Remember. you will definitely be able to get rid of a bad habit. Try to evolve and practice ways through which your psychic potential could be furthered. A calm mind has the potential to act as a fertilizer for the development of an improved sixth sense and psychic abilities when accompanied by some other measures such as developing the faculty of imagination. Involuntary actions. it means you are on the right track. and finally solving it.that one maintains a positive thinking mind and keep feeding it with uplifting doses which could be in any form. Breaking A Bad Habit Self-Evaluation . but with dollops of will power. you would be surprised to know that even the most pious of people would tell you they had a bad habit in the past. it will not be easy to do so. While some habits take the form of physical addictions. Your inquisitiveness will eventually lead you towards surprising results. others have simple social habits that make tick people off. habits are definitely under our control (if we really want them to be). Though automatic behaviors. are what make our habit. for instance inspirational movies or literature. Test yourself with your imaginations and their meanings. Initially. Think about things which generate your curiosity in an unusual way. In the following lines. Breaking a bad habit is like coming out from a tangle or a web. Trust your sixth sense rather than ignoring it Meditation Meditation helps you to attain concentration and peace of mind. Talking about bad habits. Pursue Your Feelings Don’t neglect your feelings and instincts for the fear of being mocked at. it might even embarrass you but gradually. If your assumptions about your imaginations are coming out to be true. How To Break Bad Habits Trapped in a bad habit? Want an escape from it? If yes. which we perform regularly. The power of imaginations assists you in visualizing possibilities and happenings and mediation will help you to nail down the right meaning of your imaginations. then you are at the right place. squirts of discipline and loads of patience. you will realize that your feelings hold a certain meaning in a specific context. we have provided useful tips on how to break bad habits. This will also help you in finding connecting links to a problem. Ignoring your gut feelings can even get you into trouble. Evolve Ways To Utilize Psychic Abilities Remember that regular practice will assist in the development of your psychic abilities.

say you will become a better individual or have enough time to look into important matters. Instead. Just get comfortable and talk to them about your decision. Remember. you would realize that it is not logical and does not make any sense. List the negative impacts and the cost they are charging you.Was it peer pressure? Was it depression? Was it just for a 'try'? Was it to be 'in vogue'? Was it an escape from some life condition? Once you get hold of the reason for the action. There needs to be a replacement of the bad habit. the advantages of leaving the habit. they would be more than happy to help you move out of the bad behavior. you just cannot leave a bad habit and force yourself into doing nothing in its place. Being Disciplined Remember. This would help you keep a record of it and also analyze the cause of the same. it would act as a motivation to modify your behavior and get out of the web. they might be able to provide some advice or encouragement that you normally wouldn't get otherwise. by a good one. If you fall back to the bad habit. Analyze why did you start the bad habit . rise up and get back to your healthy behavior. discipline and patience!! . giving into the impulses or being carried away would be extremely easy. Patience Patience is the key to achieve your resolution. Consider the positive ways of meeting the same needs through a good habit and start practicing. Positives Of Dropping Once you have realized the negative impacts.The first step to get rid of a bad habit would be to be practical and realize the number of times your bad habit wins over your will. Negative Impact While you have determined the cause of the bad habit. All you need is willpower. You have to work hard and bring in a lot of discipline in your being. it is time to look towards the optimistic side i.e. it is the time to figure out how the bad habit initiated in the first place. Who knows. Replacement Remember. or even start becoming sociable. The Cause Now that you have evaluated yourself. changes do not just happen. you can beat the habit. the best bet would be to maintain a journal and note down every time your bad habit gets the better of you. to get over a bad habit. remember. If yours is such as well. do not pity yourself and say that the habit has got the better of you. Believe me. Weigh the negatives against the positives. asking for support. Supporting Role Do not hesitate to call friends or family members. Most of the bad habits provide a person with instant gratification. The moment you realize the cost of a bad habit and what it is depriving you of. For this. it is the time to focus on the negative repercussions of the same.

However. Is there any truth in what the people say about you? Have you really done something to make people form such an opinion about you? If you want to be objective. If they are known for being rogue and outlandish. In case you have been stuck with a notorious reputation. it is very important to dispel the rumors that are working against you. Whether you want to excel in your career or win the affection of the person you are in love with. In case you come across as uncooperative to other people. a bad reputation will only take you closer to failure. be it because of you own faults. people are bound to form a similar opinion about you as well. dressing style. try to bring your anger under control. then it is the time to take some action in the regard. Take Action If you feel that there is some truth in what people think about you. etc. Change Your Company There is an adage that goes 'you are known by the company you keep'. untrue rumors or a bad company. talk amicably. seek a second opinion from close friends or family members as well. you will not be able to trace its very roots and solve it. confront the person and set the record straight. it represents what kind of an image you have. If you are infamous as someone who has a very nasty temper. your reputation is formed. Having a good reputation is very important in each and every sphere of life. take some action. Such a behavior would only cement your bad reputation. it is the time to get rid of the same. through the tips given below. by the type of friends you have. in the eyes of others. in a non-threatening way. Dispel The Rumors If you have to fix your bad reputation. make sure not to get angry at the person or start fighting with him/her. you will first have to look at yourself and seek the reality. If you are a big shot. In other words. to a major extent. but the public opinion about you. Unless and until you acknowledge that a problem exists. and resolve the issue. If you are aware of the source of all the gossip. Rather. try to go out of your way to help them. We can help you know how to get rid of a bad reputation. try to change your habits. it is advisable to seek new company right now.How To Get Rid of A Bad Reputation Your reputation is nothing. So. . in case you feel that your group is largely responsible for your infamy. How To Fix Your Bad Reputation Know The Truth If you want to get rid of a bad reputation. In case people have raised a finger on your character. call a press conference to dispel the rumors. In other words. In other words. whether you are like them or not.

However. as human beings. So. Don’t you love it when your friend sympathizes with your grilling schedule at work? So. Give a bright smile to your colleagues as well as the others around you. Everyone wants sympathy. you are in least danger of hurting him/her and there is the score for you. Moreover. Sweet Talking Tips Give Respect Give respect to everyone. when you respect someone. especially when he/she has gone through a really bad phase in life. a person who talks sweet spends all his/her days in happiness. Now. So. how can we expect to justify our humane side. Integrate humor in your life and try to search the sunnyside up in everything. When you are happy. stick to this motto and see the world changing around you. just keep on making efforts and soon. Humor Mechanism Everyone likes funny people. Sometimes. don’t be a miser for words and let people know that you care. We all know the power of sweet talk. are given the power of understanding and if we don’t integrate it in our life. Tell jokes. or your chauffeur. A sweet talk can get you the window-seat in a plane. It will take time for people to remove your old. the best treatment at a restaurant. how many of us really know how to sweet talk? Our tolerance level has gone so low that even a small provocation is enough for us to start hurling abuses (even at a complete stranger). an acid tongue lasher or a sweet talker. So. Never forget to thank the liftman when he opens the lift for you. poke harmless fun. Do not expect to get rid of it within a few hours or days. The answer is pretty clear. However. So. when he opens the door of your car. Remember 'impossible' itself says 'I m possible'. and see the gloomy mood changing in an instant. if you make yourself consciously aware of the benefits of even little sweet-talking. you need to exercise a lot of patience and stick to your efforts. even a raise or promotion. Be Sympathetic We. Just ask yourself a question . Don’t lose hope midway. pleasant one. but incorporating it in our respective life is a completely different ball game altogether. How To Sweet Talk According to Rig Veda. bad image from their mind and replace it with the new.who you think will get your help first. the latter. lift from a total stranger and sometimes. the world will also be happy for you. You would soon find the ultimate secret of being happy. . help from a colleague. why not incorporate it in your life! Read on to learn the mechanism of sweet talking. a simple smile from you can make the entire day of someone. you would wonder why you didn’t integrate it in your life earlier. You would start feeling the change from the next day itself.Exercise Patience Your bad reputation has built over a period of time. people will get used to the image of the 'new you'.

It should come out in a spontaneous manner. Be a confident and levelheaded person. For instance. Be Confident For sweet talking. while others get sidelined. never ever give a cheap remark or go over the top in flattery. A little flirting with your client can help seal yoursuccess. don’t forget to shower an admiring compliment on him/her. make sure that it doesn't look like a prepared speech or something well thought of (in advance). then read on and find the best way of getting people to respect you. rather it is earned. Don’t let yourself be cast out as too mellow or pushover. who knows what he/she is doing. as respect is directly proportional to reputation. Don't give anyone a chance to take advantage of you or typecasting you a patsy or a softy. The age-old adage of 'reaping what you sow' is true to its core. Be Spontaneous Whenever you say something. Stick to light humor instead. Want to explore them? If yes. How To Get Respect Let’s admit it! We all want to get respect from others. cold words. Congratulate your colleagues on successfully finishing a project. to educe immense respect from the people around you. In case you are among those who cannot understand how some people get all the respect they want. only a few of us are actually able to evoke respect for ourselves. Period! Treat everyone with respect and you will get respect too. You also need confidence. . If you are a serious person. Apply this in your life. Don’t discriminate amongst people and refrain from using harsh.refrain from sarcasm. as only a few of us can really pull it off without hurting someone’s feeling. Flirt A Little A little flattery never hurts! Be the first one to notice the positive change in a person and compliment on it. If you want to know how to gain respect. who doesn’t talk much. Getting Respect From Others Respect Others To get respected. However. However. as the world will start using you then. You can practice with your friends and family members and then employ it elsewhere too. you need to respect others. you have come to the right place. Help others when they need you. However. being sympathetic alone is not enough. you will have to first know that respect cannot be taken. There are many ways to speed up the process of earning respect from others. if your colleague is donning a new shirt. giving a genuine appearance to your words. it’s time for you to open up. Make sure the world knows it too. we need to build up respect to get ahead in life.

it is directly proportional to failure. Have a good body posture. If you smile at anyone and anything. but they won’t respect him. How To Handle Criticism “If you have no critics.” . It’s true too that smiling or not smiling is all the matter of perspective and depends on the environment where you work. The best way to get people to respect you is to respect yourself. Be serious and speak only when it is necessary. only a few of us how know to accept it with grace. and you will extract respect from even an otherwise reserved person. we hardly think of being successful. However. people will think you are mellow. Handling criticism is never easy. take a good look at yourself in the mirror. if asked for. there are and in the following lines. However. while a crumpled tee. It just means that whatever you wear should compliment you and up your position in other people's eye. kindness and be self-effacing. but not so much that you become a tissue paper for people to sniff their snots. clean. as for most of us. . And the best way to respect yourself is to have confidence in you. then you are wrong. and ironed dress shows that you take yourself seriously. A person of respect is a person of caution. failure is nobody’s favorite word. we have listed a few of them. in our life. so stick to this axiom. Powerful people smile only when it is needed. but is not able to do so. Are you a well-dressed person? Do you dress according to occasion? If you dismiss dressing well as an act of showing off. People may like a person who wants to share all his details in the first meeting itself. honesty. especially when at workplace. when we are bombarded with criticism all the time. dressing the part doesn’t mean that you need to wear a Cavalli suit or Prada shoes. Is there some techniques of handling criticism? Indeed. mannerism. you'll likely have no success. Be A Miser Smiler Smiling is good. However. Although almost everyone in this world is criticized. give your opinion or suggestions. Rather. if you have been showing your pearly whites from long and people dismiss you for being childish. a ripped jeans or a dirty shirt is bound to give a bad impression. then it’s your turn to switch off the grin and smile only when it’s needed. However. A well fitting.Dress The Part If you are a person who is trying to get respect. Keep Your Mouth Shut It doesn’t mean that you should play dumb. Read on and know how to handle criticism. but excess smile is bad for repute.Malcolm X This quote aptly describes how important criticism is. speak only when you are spoken to. Silence is gold in true sense. A confident person attracts respect like a moth to a flame. Be Humble But Confident Be humble enough to be a shoulder to cry on. And certainly.

no one can make you feel bad about yourself. Don’t leave something because other people want you to. urging you to stop doing whatever you’re doing now. A justified criticism may urge you to better something. And it’s also not necessary that feedback is always enlightening. If you work in a firm and you’re always criticized of not being able to create rapport with your colleagues. but it . try to focus on points that are common in all the criticisms that you encounter. Similarly. Don’t jump up the gun and starts hurling abuses on him/her. It may be harsh and you may have trouble adjusting to the words. Draw The Points To Help You The most important trait of successful people is that they are able to draw out the points that are useful to them. from almost any conversation. try to be friendly. Take Criticism In Your Stride It’s very important to remain composed in any situation. Don’t let him/ her harm or insult you. A criticism is mostly negative. be calm and listen to the person. you find yourself loser. When you’re criticized. If. Make a mental note of them and mend your ways accordingly. It’s not essential that the feedback comes to you in sweet and encouraging words. Feedback is something given to you to improve your performance. So. try to incorporate it in your life. Let It Go Never let a criticism decide what you want to do next. instead of you. are angry with yourself and your critic has convinced you to leave the thing you are pursuing. If you’re a singer and people say that you cannot sing different kinds of songs. Don’t Let Anyone Insult You Criticism is okay. you are in hands of a bully. It’s Not Always About You It’s the truth. Learn From Criticism Listening to something won’t help you. but getting over the top is not. you need to try to get versatility. but it is eventually true and will help you if you work on those areas. They may be plain jealous of your success or they might full of negativity. criticism is downright negative. if someone criticizes you. There are people who cannot find good in anything or anyone and you should not let such people worry you. if it’s something that will help you be successful.Tips For Handling Criticism Distinguish Between Feedback & Criticism It is very important thing for you to understand the difference between feedback and criticism. but never ever let anyone bully you. then it might be possible that something is wrong with them. If someone is going the dirty road. make sure that you’re not going with them. until you allow them to. If a person is always negative about you. at the end of a conversation. No matter what you’re criticized for. On the other hand. Remember. until you’re ready to perform on it. never let yourself feel down. It is enlightening only when you want it to enlighten you. Getting excited when someone attributes praise to you is natural.

Read on to acquire the quality of a good speaker to whom people listen. You can even get much knowledge just by keenly watching everything around you. tense eyes. and do your work the same way you were doing. frown. you may lose them altogether. If you think. Eat. To be a good speaker you have to be first a good listener. smiling eyes. then you make your audience a part of you after sharing your narrative and that interest them. make sure that you listen to people if you think they have some valid points. and parted legs are all the gestures. unless it’s something you can improve. and be a voracious reader. before the criticism popped your way. Tell A Story When you tell a story preferably. Forget what is being said about you. you are at the right place. you possess the quality of a good listening. and confidence and you are bound to attract audience. Good or bad. How To Make People Listen To You How to make people listen to you is a million dollar question in our society. Be Interesting Most of us are very impatient and if you are not able to attract the audience in few minutes from the start. Watch Your Body Language Shaky hands. sleep. Be authoritative on whatever you are speaking on. Articulate powerfully and clearly and modulate your sound according to your speech. be interesting and discuss it too. Have eye contacts with as many people you can and look pleasant. where everyone just wants to speak and not listen. these things are meant to be forgotten. Also. Therefore. Prepare yourself for your subjects. which give poor impression of a speaker and divert the audience much before you start speaking. Then they don’t remain audiences but become participants. Everyone here thinks that he or she can speak better and sometimes even they speak altogether to make matters worse. you will have to make sure that you know your subject well. be aware of the current situation. Most of the people just want others to listen to them but are themselves not ready to do so. If you wonder how some people have so much influence over others that makes people listen to them and you want to be like them. Acquire proper body language like alert body. That is why it’s important to be a good listener to be a good speaker. A little knowledge and beating around the bush will not attract listeners.will never advocate for you to leave it. . Add in some jokes and ask questions and you will surely attract people’s attention. Speak With Authority When you want someone to listen to you. a personal one. Don’t shout or scream but be audible and confidence. Then this article is for you.

based on the facts that you have compared. So. Analyze Text By analyzing a given text. which unfolds few sequences of a story. After assimilating the information. What is the use if you don’t get anything from all that listening? So. So always. By thinking critically. try to comprehend the key points. The skill will enable you to find every possible way of solving the problem. If you are speaking in a boardroom and people are interested in numbers. Make a point and support it with examples. Now. the best way to learn it and register it in mind is to process it first in your mind. To give shape and support to your idea. to figure out their similarities and dissimilarities. The aim is to derive the best possible solution for a particular problem. it is very essential to know your audience. However. How To Develop Critical Thinking Skills Process The Information While reading something.Dress Appropriately “Clothes maketh a man” and it’s true in any society.dress according to the event and let your clothes reflect your sincerity. the following lines will surely prove to be of help. Assess the arguments. for a casual discussion you need not present charts. If it’s a casual discussion then wearing a power suit will only make you the odder one. evidences and assumptions present in the information. If you do not know much about developing critical thinking skill. you will be able to develop the critical thinking skills. wear powerful clothes according to your society and your audience. then stating statistics will pull you through. wherever you go try to imbibe some of the good qualities of a speaker. Know Your Audience Before speaking. try to form an idea. by weighing the substantial and insubstantial as well as concrete and abstract factors governing a situation. Take a comprehensive passage. Developing Critical Thinking Skills Critical thinking is a process that involves the analytical evaluation of a situation. After reading the . Listen You may be a good listener but being an active listener is very important. you will be able to discriminate the different points of view associated with a situation. Don’t beat around the bush as it’s an audience repellent. Learn from the greatest speakers of the world. from Mahatma Gandhi to Nelson Mandela and from Steeve Jobs to Barack Obama. try to make logical connections between the facts. Compare And Construct An Idea It is very important to analyze the key components first and then compare each of them.

while speaking. try to assign a title for the passage. Study the subject well. It requires special skills. a better speaker 'moves' the audience through his words. which can be acquired only after practice. Even if you fail to answer all the questions. To improve the analyzing skill further. you will be able to analyze the concepts. Moreover. this exercise will help you to think out of the box. you will be able to distinguish between the facts and the assumptions. Motivational Speaking Tips Practise To motivate people with your speech you need to practise a lot. A motivational speech includes all the elements that can create impact on the people listening to it. This could be a simple exercise of connecting a number of dots in a predefined manner. While doing this. Apart from being interesting. because lack of research will be reflected in the speech. Complicated and challenging though. . This will make the session even more interactive. before presenting it in front of the audience. You should exude confidence through your body language. create a logical link between the events of the story. family member or a colleague. to form an image. How To Become A Motivational Speaker While a good speaker 'just' conveys his/her intended message. Make use of gestures to emphasize your point. Maintain an equanimity in your speech. Rehearse your speech with your friend. before formulating the speech. Mind Your Body Language A good speaker is identified with the way he/she presents himself/herself on the stage. Research You must have the thorough knowledge of the subject that you are going to address. Explore the tips given in this article to know how to excel in motivational speaking. Apart from connecting the dots. Maintain good eye-contact with the audience during the speech. it makes the audience 'think' for a positive change. Answer Questions Disciplined questioning also promotes critical thinking.passage carefully. Learning to become a motivational speaker is a systematic process. it is an effective way to gain the skill of critical thinking. Motivating people through speech is not as easy as it seems. One of the most effective ways to develop critical thinking skill is to answer the questions based on a few hypothetical problems. give stress to the voice modulation. Do not hide your hands inside your pocket. Solve Puzzles Solving a puzzle can help you learn how to develop critical thinking skills. Be certain about what you have to say. Being well prepared before the speech reduces the stage fear as well.

because the choice of words depends a lot upon the mental level of the people listening to the speech. If you are one of the people who find it difficult to go out and make friends with people. However. They will smile back. This is perhaps because of the fact that they lack the characteristics required to socialize with the people around them. When you are with a group of people. analogies and anecdotes to make the speech interesting. Generate Interest Apart from being motivating. Socializing With People Smile Your million dollar smile can act as a gesture to show that you wish to socialize with others. which will help you learn how to socialize with people. It will surely be a positive response. your speech should be interesting as well. spending their lives in solitude. Make an eye-contact while smiling. Learn about their age group. They should feel satisfied after listening to your speech. if you want to create the maximum impact on the audience.Know The Audience Know how your audience needs to be motivated. This is due to the fact that our ancestors used to hunt in groups for food and even worked together. Be positive and live in high spirits. their education. with an effective conclusion. cultural background and lifestyle. You may ask questions to them in between the speech. We are here to help you with some tips. A prior knowledge about the people will help you with the purpose. You should have an optimisticoutlook towards life. Develop Positive Attitude An important step towards socializing with people is to develop a positive attitude. Consider the taste of the audience. while preparing the speech. Give A Good Conclusion You should summarize your speech in the most convincing way. we often find loners in the society. Create interest in your audience by making the speech interactive. without mingling with others. Make use of metaphors. A good conclusion will always leave an impact on the audience. How To Socialize With People Socializing with people is a behavior that is innate to human beings. wear a pleasant smile on your face. do not worry. Some of them may even be ready to initiate a conversation with you. See how people respond to this. You should bring about a positive change in them. in today's world. When . Conversing with the audience will also help make the speech an interesting one.

you have to lend your ears first and speak your mind later on. when our emotions had completely taken over our mind. Build Rapport To socialize with people. when it comes to public places. you should share your point of view with others. You should present yourself as an approachable person. You should be able to relate to people. it will be easier for you to proceed further and develop familiarity with them. How To Control Your Emotions How many times have you goofed-up a particular situation or a scene because of your anger? Almost all of us have faced such an incidence in life. leave all your tensions back home and fit into the environment of the place. Result . when you are in a social circle. making them feel neither inferior nor superior to you. as we have provided below some of the effective ways and methods to manage your intense emotions. This brings out another quality needed to socialize with people . is what you do with those feelings. In the process. there are numerous emotional displays that you might need to restrict. You will be able to judge them better. do not worry. The habit of listening to others will also give you an idea about the level of sophistication of the people around you and present yourself according to the situation. do not be aggressive while presenting your viewpoint. who has many things (or at least few things) common with others. Controlling Emotions • The first step would be to identify those emotions. you need to build a rapport with them. Communicate Effectively Share your views.bad behavior.communication skills. try to find a common interest. unhealthy relationships and sometimes even termination letter. Find A Common Point When you are with people at a party or a social get-together. problem occurs when it comes to expression. by listening to their words carefully. listening to their as well. Right from angry flare-ups to disgust.you go out and meet people. This will make you more knowledgeable about the people surrounding you. which you need to control. . When you are with a group of people. Remember. If you have been facing problems in controlling your emotion. what matters. However. it is not what you feel that counts. Controlling emotions is essential when you are in a public place or in your place of work. If you succeed in finding similar taste or interests. One must understand that there is nothing wrong in feeling strongly about something. This will give you a chance to open up yourself to others. Be a good listener.

If you want to learn how to find your talents. Believe it or not this would be a great way to escape from the stressful or high-anxiety times. So. This is found effective in controlling the heighten emotions. At times. Give vent to your feelings and then return to the scene. You would realize that it is generally the negative feelings that you want to control. Remember. So. You will surely feel relaxed! • • • • • • • • How To Find Your Talents Talent need not to be related only with intellect. ask yourself the reason for the anger. in turn. Try to picture something that would produce a soothing image in your mind. Another effective technique would be to acknowledge or recognize the emotions you were feeling at the time of emotional outbursts. In such a situation. react less. Drinking lots of water is a good way to rule out the negative emotions. This might come as a surprise to you. moonlight and so on. technical and physical as well. if you get easily angered. It needs observation and analysis of one’s own self. Finding the talent that sets us apart from the crowd can be a long process. excuse yourself from the group of people you are with and go to a lonely place. Finding Your Hidden Talent Find Your Interests • • • • . Another popular way would be to count backwards from 20 to 1. be actively attentive of your feelings and emotions. it gets very difficult to suppress your emotion. Breathing in and out a number of times. It can be artistic. mindfulness holds the key for controlling emotions. the mind gets diverted from the emotions and feelings. It would also benefit you in terms of health. often tricky also. reduces heart rate and accentuates the oxygen flow in the brain. but directing all the energies towards a far-off stable object does a lot. In such circumstances. Knowing the reason is likely to help you in future.• • • • For instance. the tips provided in the following lines will surely come handy. Many of us are still in search of the talents that are hidden within us. You would. when you are focusing your attention towards breathing. when you come across similar situations. Remember. it just needs to be useful in a positive way. just pick up a glass of water and slowly gulp it down. you would feel much better. the best bet would be to focus all the energies towards breathing. in terms of relieving a person off his intense emotions. Visualization is yet another great way to control the angry flare-ups or stress. Trust me. a candle. It can be a snapshot of a beach. Not every talent requires being profitable.

What sorts of things do you like to read about. Find Your Passion You may be a person of various interests. Some people have the inherent quality to make others be fond of them. You will then come to know about your talents as well as the areas that you need to work on. Improve Yourself After you come to know about the areas of your interest. The mere feeling of being liked and loved by others fills the heart with warmth and happiness.• • • • The first step towards finding your talents is to know your interests. but there will be only a thing or two. Ways To Make People Like You Be Cheerful • • . Go through the following and know how to get people to like you. Carry out experiments and explore things. Read lots of books and learn from people. teach what you have learnt. Find out the things in which you are not a pro or lag behind. If you are one amongst the latter type of people and are looking for ways to make others like you. Know your limits. which you are passionate about. Know what makes you struggle. One of the best ways to learn something is to teach. What is the one thing that you love to do the most. where you can try out different things without anybody’s interference. • • • • • • • • • • • • How To Get People To Like You • • The world seems to be a wonderful place when every one around you likes you. you should not ignore your weaknesses as well. This will help increase your depth of knowledge. Know Your Limits In the process of finding your strengths or talents. then try them out. Locate a safe environment. with utmost enthusiasm? Get the answer for the question and you will come to know what exactly you are passionate about. However. it is the time to improve yourself. watch or do? What are your favorite shows on television? Which column of the newspaper and magazines do you like to read? Try Out Different Things If you want to find out your dexterity in each of the things that interest you. the guidance given here will come handy. In this process. you will be able to discover all your hidden talents and skills. we should know that not every one is born with this knack. Therefore.

you will feel happy as well and make other feel good with your presence. Listen Listening to others is a great thing to establish a rapport among them.• • • • People would always like to accompany a smiling and cheerful person. This act will show that you care for them. If you are tired of looking plain and simple. Doing good things. who spreads positive energy around him/her. you will surely become a person whom almost everyone likes. It is always nice to show kindness. If you have this quality in you. People will begin to open up to you more. However. be ready to turn heads and have more than expected eyeballs running in your . Being kind means speaking politely. Devote Time A majority of people would like someone in their life who gives time and attention to them. feeling the pain of others is even better. Be Helpful One of the best ways to get people like you is to go out of the way whenever they are in need. rather be the first person who helps them. as they will be sure that you will always be there to lend an ear. Therefore. you are able to engender closeness with them. Moreover. if you act happily. • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • How To Look Gorgeous Every girl wants to be noticed. This kind of behavior will project you as a kind-hearted person and get people to like you. Remember. Empathize Feeling bad for someone who is going through troubled times. although it seems 'easier said than done'. they will treat you much more warmly. It is a quality that very few of us have. then pay attention whenever they are talking to you. You should not be their last resort. such as helping others without being asked to. this will show that you are reliable and a person to depend upon. When you carefully listen to what others say and respond to them appropriately. will help you win their confidence as well. be a person who is always optimistic and upbeat. Be Kind Do not frown at others’ wrong deeds or misbehaviors. in a soft tone and never shouting at people when you are angry. Empathizing is not as easy as showing sympathy. In addition. Devoting time to people will help you a great deal in developing a good relationship with them. is good. If you want others to like you. Every act of yours should show that you care for others and are considerate about their feelings.

Scroll down to find some more tips that can make you look beautiful and gorgeous. Wear a glossy lipstick to that glamorous and gorgeous look. It goes well with every dress and suits all skin complexions. if any. Get a flat iron. making it look natural at the same time. as water will rid the body of impurities. Hairstyle . Highlight your eyes and lips. Now this is what you hear from every second person. Besides this. Shop a lot and watch out for the hottest fashion trends. Always wear a smile and be natural. Looking Beautiful Healthy Skin and Body . but make sure not to wear clothes that are too revealing and leave nothing to imagine. concealer. If you hear it very often.Be super stylish keeping with the latest fashion trends. Keep up with the latest trend and get a hairstyle from a good hairstylist. Apply foundation.Sometimes you will hear that you do not need the blusher or eye shadow. Wear anything that looks cute on you and make you look trendy. Make up is a must and a foremost factor for the attainment of a gorgeous look. Brush regularly and clean you hair clean and conditioned. A proper coat of mascara and black eyeliner will define your eyes. you have to apply some tricky make up that enhances your features and cover-up the flaws. a basic fact that many of us tend to ignore. bronzer and blusher for a smooth looking and radiant skin. Next is choosing right shade for eye shadow. Don’t starve yourself or become anorexic in order to look thinner. Jeans and T-shirts are something that can never go out of fashion.Drink a lot of water. it is something people will remember more than how you look. Correct Make-Up . • • • • • • How To Ignore Rude Comments . one needs to look healthy. make sure that it looks good on you. If you can choose nothing. Dressing Style and Right Attitude . but the extra money is all worth it. it can result in severe consequences. but this is the most effective way to get beautiful skin and great body. you have to know the right styling and make up to enhance what you are blessed with. It can cost you some more. The truth is that a healthy body and proper diet are the primary factor for the attainment of a gorgeous look as it brings radiance and glow on your face.• • • • direction.Whatever hairstyle you wear. go for a shiny pink. To look gorgeous. A multi-layered make up is not what will make you look gorgeous unless you look beautiful and healthy. It does not imply that you have to indulge yourself in heavy exercises or count each calorie you consume. Use right products that are of better quality and work on your hair until you get it right. a curly iron and straightener and make sure you apply mousse and hairspray after styling your hair. but some precautionary steps will do. The way you carry yourself is what you need to add magic to your looks and personality. Just eat proper diet and exercise regularly to keep your body in a good shape.

If he/she resorts to comments. If they don't get that. Almost all the people who say rude things to others are suffering from inferiority complex. nothing you say will make a different. Never ever let the rude comments of others belittle you or make you feel inferior. How To Ignore Rude Comments • • • • • • Believe in yourself. this basic element of life has lost its meaning. Remember this always! When somebody behaves rudely with you. just greet them politely and go your away. Do you want to know the secret of staying happy all the time? Happiness means different things to different people. How To Be Happy Happiness holds the key to lead a successfullife. You first need to figure out what happiness means to you and then. it is much easier to find a frowning face than a smiling one. If you want to get some more tips on being happy in life. while watching someone grimacing acts as dampener on your spirit as well. If it is not possible to avoid them altogether. If things become worst. React as if you didn't even hear his/her comment or it makes no difference to you what he/she thinks. by their rude comments. This would make the person shut up. How To Be Happy . You know what you are and what you are not. People pass rude comments to make you angry and get an agitated response. Today. so don't let other people's opinions affect you. A person who wants to hear your side of the story will come and talk to you. don't reply back.The people who live in this world differ on a number of factors. They are only trying to hide their own insecurity behind the rudeness. Stay away from such people as far as possible. Most of you would agree that it feels good when you see someone smiling. They don't have the slightest idea on how to make polite conversation and often end up hurting the people around. You will hardly find two people who have exactly same personality. though there might be some major similarities. In fact. we will tell you how to handle rude comments. In the following. with busy schedules and the need to get to the top of the ladder. go through the lines below. answer them back politely. not pass rude comments. Amidst the different types of people. the latter two differences are much more enhanced than the former. they will slowly start backing away. race and religion to their nature and temperament. so don't even try. Never ever try to justify yourself. you can work out steps to seek the joy and bliss for yourself. right from their nationality. However. there is one particular category that comprises of discourteous and insensitive people.

If pessimistic thoughts creep easily into your mind. Start small and then. to come up with something to talk about. However. but can be developed by almost everyone. when you were very happy. friends. If you love ice creams. Think of what made you happy . etc. Take 15 minutes off from the routine life and do things that make you smile. indulge in having one. Think positive things about yourself. There are certain things which take a prime concern in your life. It is often noted that people who are of the complaining sorts are mostly unhappy. and bring a smile to your face. It would help you get rid of the pessimism. Given below are tips to help you with the problem. money. like going for a walk. but most of the people face difficulty when they have to start up a conversation. interacting with people is easy. You need to take time out of your busy schedules to do things which are important to you and make you feel elated. your partner and life in general. Make it a habit and soon. music and your hobby. What was the particular thinking or feeling that made you feel happy? Be with the person or visit the place again and experience the same emotions.• To be happy. If you are also one of those who keep looking for ways of starting a conversation. Make happiness your priority in life. If you were once a movie buff. family. friends. Recollect old times. work your way ahead. is extremely stressful. You need to realize what holds the key to your happiness. By smiling yourself. job. In no time. smile always. Lastly. you can make others happy as well. For such people. maintain a diary where you write all the good things. Be optimistic in life and shoo away any negativity. The ability to start a conversation effortlessly and to carry it out is a quality which is inherent only in a few people. etc. like values. you would realize that you are feeling happy all the time. reading a book. family. once you know the right ways to start the discussions. Read it often. How To Start Up A Conversation . you will see the people around you smiling as well. It's easier to put up a smile on your face than to have a frown on. talking to friends. you first need to find what is important in your life. Be appreciative of the main aspects of life. It might not be possible to immediately start doing everything that makes you happy. go through the following lines. love life. such as health.was it the place you were in or the person you were with. it is the time to catch up with old pals on a movie date. • • • • • • How To Start Up A Conversation Starting a conversation is not everyone's cup of tea. It might sound strange. They criticize and grumble about everything which happens in life and fail to see what good things they have in life.

you need to know many things related to humor. if you want make others laugh. the deal is struck . . Practice conversing with people. Use this as a conversation starter. but do not let go of the opportunity. at your presence. you should be aware of what is happening around you. like the situation. Have a smile on your face and look into the eyes of the person while talking. The best way to start a conversation is to be well-rehearsed. It requires a lot of skill to bring that 'million dollar smile' on the face of a person. but are not marked as clown. Crack jokes that make people laugh out loudly and not PJs that might make them stifle a yawn. You should be positive about yourself. Many people think that humor can be dealt with very easily. their ambitions. take it as an opportunity to talk further. Compliment if you like something about the person. Even if you are not confident. In the following lines. timing. Start the conversation with a compliment. play it safe and do not compliment on the looks or body of someone. You can make others cry in just fraction of a minute. Take initiative to talk to people when you are stuck up at different situations. Look around to find something interesting or unusual to talk about. This is not true. we have provided a number of tips that will help you in being funny. This would make you appear relaxed and calm. you are sure to get better at starting conversations. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. but to make them laugh is a hard nut to crack. Put questions to them. Always try to be cool. but make sure that you offer a sincere one. How To Be Funny • Just Relax: The first and foremost requirement of being funny is to have a relaxed mind. Observance is very essential for a communication to take place. You might agree or disagree with it. When you are up-to-date with the current affairs. In both the cases. You also need to make sure that you come across as hilarious. However.conversation has started. It is good to prepare in front of the mirror. their life. With practice. It is noted that people love to talk about themselves their success. or at least smile. act as if you are. Be confident about yourself. • • • • • • • How To Be Funny Being funny is not a joke (pun intended!). in case he/she thinks it as derogatory. If some opinion has been expressed by the other person. Be inquisitive in nature. etc. To be funny. etc.• To start a conversation. taking care not to get too intrusive or personal. you will have a lot of things to talk about and can knowledgeably participate in discussions. You can either ask a question about it or offer an opinion.

keep checking yourself to eliminate any signs of insecurity that might creep in. Just make sure that you crack the jokes with good amount of humor. A secureperson is more likely to achieve success. That is why it is important for all of us to be comfortable with ourselves. For this. Excessive joking is also a mechanism for coping with insecurity.• Take It Easy! Don't get too serious or tensed at tough situations. attitude and the way you project yourself also count. You should know whom you are talking to and what the situation is. A reserve of jokes can come handy. if you want to know what are signs of an insecure person. insecure people find it very difficult to manage things in every aspect of their lives. Signs of Insecurity • • • • • • An insecure person becomes overly selfish. if you can't' make yourself laugh. . • • • • Signs Of An Insecure Person Security is something. which is desired by everyone. He tries to surround himself with possessions. Crack some jokes and humor yourself. but humor is written all over the scenario! Humor Yourself: Put a pause to your dull routine life. However. Falling down on a banana peel is the best example. analyze the situation well before introducing humor into it. Insecure people can't enjoy silence and they try to fill it with unnecessary chatter. isn't it? So. Your mannerism. read on. Try to find humor especially in the situations that do not turn in your favor. accolades and attention. Nobody would like to get witty at a mourning ceremony. That is perhaps the best way to be in 'good humor'! In fact.this can make a dull story funny and interesting. Insecure people are self promoting and constantly talk about themselves. On the contrary. Be animated and alive when you are talking . An insecure person craves for other people's attention. Know Your Audience & Situation: This is another important thing to take into consideration. An insecure person becomes overly accommodating and tries to gain other people's approval. this leads to insensitivity towards others. forget about making other people smile. Insecure people tend to be very defensive and cannot handle criticism. so be always ready. They are not comfortable with their own-self. one should try to be confident of himself. It is about cracking them at the right time. Ease up on life and yourself. have meaningful relationships and be respected by others. Be Ready For All Situations: You never know when a situation calls for humor. They need validation from other people for their actions and qualities. It gives pain. Though it is impossible to be completely free of doubt. which is achieved when other people laugh at their jokes. Learn Timing & Mannerism: Being funny is not just about delivering great jokes.

Also make sure you choose light and safe topics to talk about. you will have to come out of your shell in order to become popular. Over jealousy is yet another sign of insecure people as they lack trust in their partners. who desperately wish to don the spotlight but do not how to become popular.• • • • • • • How To Be Popular Insecure people are even threatened by others and therefore by bullying they try to crush their opinion. one of the basic things to remember here is that it is very necessary to be self confident to become popular. Insecure people tent to be overly authoritative as they tend to compensate for their lack of confidence by taking out their frustrations on their subordinates. Popular people are generally friendly with almost everyone around. friendly conversation with anyone in the room. make sure you just attempt a small talk with people you are not well aware of. make a small conversation. In effect. Keep your attitude casual. Everyone wants to be popular and win the praise and attention of all. This is because if you do not believe in yourself. wondering how others do it. As everybody does not acquire the talent of being popular. mistrust and altercations with the members of the opposite sex. To be precise. However. in case you belong to the category of people. Even if you are a shy and introvert person. just smile and give greetings. So. Try to talk to everyone. Try to decipher people's body language to understand their signals. Insecure people even become abusive if they fail to control their partners. who crosses your path. Be polite and respectful towards people's privacy. don't • • • • . On the contrary. be in good enough terms so that you are able to hold a short. nothing will come easily to you. restraining from any sort of controversy. Over competitiveness is also a sign of insecurity. If you receive a response. Being materialistic also shows that person is insecure because he feels that by acquiring material wealth and showing it off he will be able to gain people's attention and acknowledgement. It is very necessary for you to interact with people to gain their attention. Be friendly and social. here we are with some valuable tips to relive you off your worries. do not be a bugger. This is visible in constant questioning. They are scared of losing and so they always keep themselves at the edge. Make it a habit to know people around you. Tips on How to Be Popular • Be bold enough and step out of your comfort zone. Don't be nosy and clingy. In effect. Overly sexual behavior also portrays insecurity as the person treats his or her sexuality as a crutch to get other's attention. people often remain clueless on the topic.

Try to relate to people around you and be interested in them. remain relaxed and maintain an upright posture. • • How To Be Charming Being charming is the quality of an attractive personality. Though it's not necessary to be attractive and talented to be popular. Maintain eye contact when you interact with other people. You can definitely mould these as per the situation you are in. instilling the above qualities certainly is. Tell them that you wish the best for them. Whenever possible. Try to remember people's names. but at the same time. It may feel awkward or overpowering in the beginning. One of the easiest ways of building rapport is by listening to people. For popular people. it's not only necessary to know everyone but also equally important to be in good terms with them. On the other hand. Though it might sound cliché. • Stop thinking too much about yourself. when they talk and offer to help somehow. Try to make a connection when you meet people.invite yourself anywhere. which will give an impression of self confidence. which reflects in their conduct. To know more on how to be charming. when you meet them for the first time. but soon you will get used to it. exuding a subdued joy. read on. pleasant expression fixed there. but also send signals across that you like them and they would warm up to you. to make things work for you. One of the basic ways to become charming is by putting effort and careful attention to the needs and desires of others. Nod and smile subtly. avoid overdoing it. improve your body posture. but find themselves clueless. Not to forget. Some people have an inherent charm to their personality. Don't be hesitant. It will not only make it easy for you to remember that person. don't be annoying. this characteristic can be achieved over a period of time. to bring them to a point where you have a natural. However. Ways to Be Charming • To start with. don't brag. be yourself. it is the most important prerequisite for being popular. Talk to them on common grounds so that they find you compatible. • • • . through practice and patience. Keep your spine straight. there are others who vie to attain that charm. don't interrupt and most importantly. Empathy is a virtue you cannot do without if you want to be popular. While walking. Relax your facial muscles. try to lend out a helping hand. shoulders thrown back and head at level with the ground.

who will be adored by others around. How to Become More Outgoing . a classmate. Once the truth is reveled. Keep a control on the tone of your voice. they find it difficult to mingle around with other people and do not get to socialize much. read on. In case you want to master the art of socialization. Initiate conversations on topics that would interest the people around you. For instance. enjoying people’s attention almost all the time. in the lines below. Follow restrain and do not talk much about yourself. This will make you a charming personality. Appreciating other people's efforts and helping them in improving upon their skills will increase your importance. • • • • • • Tips For Being More Outgoing There are a number of people in world. The content should be in accordance with the surrounding. especially when you feel there can be evidence floating around in the open. as it will make them feel uncomfortable. while talking to them. talk about a game or a sports team. apart from improving your social relationships. especially in today’s competitive world. Remember that everyone wants to be liked and complimented. who either have a subdued personality or are extremely shy. This will help you move ahead in your career as well. mention something positive that is likeable about him. This way. etc. find out about their immediate family and interests. Be affable in accepting compliments. like a coworker. everybody will find it easy to trust you and confide in you. at don't be too nosy. Praise others. Even when you are meeting a new acquaintance. Focus on being purely interested and impressed by other people. you will be an outgoing person. Try not to lie while talking to someone. We have listed a number of tips for being more outgoing. In case there is something negative that pops up about the other person. Show your feeling of gaiety on receiving the compliment. As a result. It just requires a little effort on your part to change your attitude and soon. Though some people are born with an innate quality of leadership and turning things in their way. Being outgoing is a necessary quality to possess. However. it does not mean that others cannot be the same. Your voice should reflect your sincerity. Be warm and genuine when interacting with people. so that the person finds his effort worthy.• Show interest in people. if you are in a sporty crowd. Try to be interesting and open while conversing. your reputation will be in shatters and people will shun you. Give generous compliments to people and raise their self esteem.

This will reflect in your conversations and interactions as well. as there is not going to be any success. start initiating conversation on your own. Avoiding people’s gaze is taken as a sign of boredom or a lack of attention and might make people pull away from you. who is full of negative views about life. you need to avoid uncomfortable situations as much as you can. With time. Be positive about life and be in the company of people who make you feel positive. until you succeed’. you cannot learn how to be more outgoing. make sure you pursue what you want to do. One fact that almost all of us overlook is that ‘looking best’ factor is more on the inside than on the outside. you look great. When someone approaches you. A pinch of confidence and an ounce of smile would make you look your best even in the most unfavorable conditions. You must feel worthy of yourself and then only you would be able to project this outside. Do not avoid going to parties. • • • • • • How To Look Your Best We have always heard that ‘beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder’. Unless and until you meet people. make new friends as well. Remember. Once there. How to Look Your Best • The first step towards looking good is to feel good about yourself. The more nervous you are. give a pleasant smile and show that you are interested. the more you will tend to avoid mixing up with others! If you feel you are too shy. So. Most of us are unhappy about something or the other in ourselves and wish to have the perfect look and be adored by others. Keep the motto in mind . Give yourself credit for doing things. so that you can be at ease. you will feel charged to meet people and mingle with them.• • To begin with. no one likes to move around a pessimist. the fact remains that all of us make efforts to look best every time we are seen by someone else. . This will make them take interest in you too. you should try to be more social and interact with people. Your friends might also introduce you to some more people. People who love themselves always stand out in the crowd. try. as it will help you build self-confidence. expanding your social circle to quite an extent. for the fear that you would not be able to mix up with people. This will boost your self-esteem and you will feel better about yourself. Read on to find ways and tips on looking your best all the time. as it shows your respect and interest towards them.‘try. Do not be afraid of failure. try again. if you do not try for the fear of failing. Make more friends. try to interact with others and if possible. When you feel happy. However. Maintain eye contact while talking to other people. When you will feel you can do things as per your own wish.

This is because beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. Do not follow the fashion fiesta blindly and look atrocious at the end of it. which cannot be generalized. on the other hand. Do not wear too-tight clothes. Selecting footwear is an important task. better take care. while subduing others is the best mantra to follow. Overconfidence kills. In addition. beauty is something subjective. Most of the times. Select attires that suit you and accentuate your complexion and figure. Look for colors which would enhance the beauty in you. which need to be looked for. by working upon one’s persona. Wear clothes that fit you. look good! • • • • • • How To Be Beautiful Being beautiful is a desire that almost everyone wishes to see getting accomplished. Everyone in this world has at least one unique quality and you must be proud about your own. Moreover. Take notice of the beauty in yourself. it can surely be enhanced to a great extent. as they will make you uncomfortable and you will also end up showing all the bulges that you wanted to hide. So. So. Thus. Do not indulge in insensitive buying. Make sure you take good care of your skin. Wear a warm smile on your face and move out with your chin raised high. it would show on the outside. you can go for make up only if you feel it’s necessary. While natural look is always in. If you are uncomfortable. push ups and skipping. being healthy is also a prime requisite for looking beautiful. which would enhance your best feature. one just needs to pay attention on his or her appearance as well his character. Devote at least 10-15 minutes each day to exercise.• • • Stop cribbing about your height. On your everyday encounters. Though it is believed that beauty is god gifted. Simple exercises include crunches. Tips to Look Beautiful • • In order to look beautiful one should know how to define beauty. Avoid being out in sun for a long period of time and put on a sunscreen whenever you go out during the day. Simple make up. Loose fitting clothes. instead of something really fashionable that would make you look bad. but confidence makes you swiftly sweep past the crowd and look outstanding!! Feel good. for being attractive. notice the people you find beautiful. Given below are some tips on how to be beautiful and attractive. Wear colors that match your skin tone. tummy tucks. pelvic tilts. the prettiest things in life are often subtle and hidden. look for your . will make you fat and clumsy. Wear footwear you are comfortable in and don’t plunge into the fashion race uselessly. Spend time in front of the mirror and search for the beauty in your features. This will help your body look and feel its very best. weight or structure.

Being cool is all about learning how to perceive yourself • . etc. Thus. flawless forehead. it becomes a secret wish for everyone to be termed as cool. For inspiration. It is said that beauty is not skin deep. Avoid applying heavy make up in public places and try to look natural and composed. Tips on Being Cool • Do not care about what people think of you. The next thing to do is to develop your inner beauty. which can be achieved by emphasizing your attractive features. So build your character honestly. rather than bothering about the world. which is very essential in order to look beautiful. It just takes a little effort to look beautiful. you should keep a check on how they perceive you.beauty. Though many people feel it is difficult to achieve the milestone. So. Cool people have a charismatic personality and are popular amongst their social community. If the person is wise. which actually implies that to be beautiful. then people surely want to seek his company and admire him. Just highlighting your features. This might sound contradictory. So. Keep your finger and toe nails trimmed. Follow a regular hygiene routine. Remember that it’s not possible to please everyone. A cool person is generally referred to as someone. Read on for some tips on how to be cool. Make efforts to enhance your physical beauty. Happiness exudes natural beauty. Most of us are always concerned about what other people think of us. Though you should be immune to other people’s opinion about you. it is better if you live your life the way you like. is the best way to look pretty. it should be noted that being cool just requires a bit of attitude change. remember your inner beauty will always radiate and never get faded. thereby making yourself beautiful both on the inside and on the outside. This is what makes the beauty last forever. Wear minimum makeup. but carries significance. one needs to have a beautiful inner self as well. • One you have realized your beauty. so avoid being sad at trivial things and enjoy life. with the help of make up. Wisdom always gives your beauty a boost. which can be in the form of smooth and well-proportioned hands. Brush your teeth daily and floss them when required. giving preference to your innate good looks. rejoice in it. make sure you try to acquire as much knowledge as you can • • • • • How To Be Cool Being stated cool is the hippest statement amongst guys and gals. perfectly-shaped shoulders. Have a positive outlook towards life and stay happy. Another thing that makes someone attractive is his intelligence. Bathe regularly and smell good. Keep experimenting until you feel you have given your best features the representation they deserve. who does things in his own distinct way and does not care much about the world.

defending someone else or taking interest in something that no one else dares to do. you need to look and feel positive. one has to follow some simple tips. Remember being cool essentially states finding humor in moments of clumsiness and discomfort. • • • • • • How To Be Smart Everybody wants to become smart in today’s world as it does not remain that easy to survive any more. etc. smile generously. art and the like and pursue it with excellence. and end up losing your temper. it should not be considered a norm. At times. Being cool is all about staying relaxed and comfortable in any and every situation. it is good to be respected for what you believe in. Do not force yourself on people. but do not be overly excited. being smart is the need of the hour. Everyone can become smart by acquiring the required skills. making you feel positive and happy. but people will like you for being so earthly. make sure to maintain a good posture and look them in the eye. Though some people are born with such qualities. stand/sit up straight. to fight and sustain in the rat race of the contemporary world. It’s good to be outgoing. If at times you do feel vulnerable. whether it means standing up for yourself.better. Being known for your passion is certainly deemed cool. Make sure you say what you mean and vice versa. Don't be disruptive and annoying or have unpredictable mood changes. which will bring about a . Cool people usually speak confidently and clearly. For acquiring the respect of others. Cultivate the habit of laughing at yourself. that too with a good pace. In terms of body language. Speak your mind. Be friendly and social. While interacting with people. body odor. bursting into tears or losing control. music. Find your talent in terms of sports. beware of bad breath. You will not only gain respect for it. one should create his own identity. Don't shy away from being different. People who break against the tide and question the status quo are quite often regarded as the coolest. • • Present yourself in the most comfortable and confident way. look and feel confident. this does not mean chattering uselessly. do not stare. etc. With regard to physical appearance. Smile and be genuine. However. Be confident about what you speak and don't bother if people disagree with your opinion. Another thing to be remembered is that for being cool. From kids in school to adults in corporate world. take a deep breath and mellow down. Your serenity and steadfastness shows your coolness. Find real friends and stay in their company. Real friends respect you for what you are and cherish the time spent with you. For this. but not excessively eager and clingy.

change in his/her lifestyle and personality, eventually making them smart enough. To know how to become smart, read the tips given below. Tips to Become Smart •
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To become smart set important goals for yourself once a week. Make sure you do the important things first. Try to improve your vocabulary by reading good books. This will make your language rich, enhancing your skills. You can even read one word at a time in the dictionary and grow intellectually gradually. Excel in your education by getting good grades. Excellence in your educational field gives you confidence as well as knowledge. Watch news and be aware about the recent events taking place around the world. This will increase your general knowledge and current affairs. Grab more information on subjects like interesting facts, funny and inspiring quotations, good books and movies, scientific studies and interesting inventions. This will give you information to help you in interacting with other people and sound interesting and intelligent. Be organized and plan each day. For remembering your schedule, keep a notebook or small digital planner and maintain a record of the due dates for important events. A weekly planner or a monthly calendar can also be used, wherein you can note down birthdays and big events. Being a good listener is very important, when it comes to being smart. Listen carefully to others' opinions on controversial things or otherwise. It’s not necessary to agree with them but try to extract the maximum knowledge from others. Keep an open mind and socialize freely. Be nice to people around and show genuine care towards their well being. It is a sign of maturity, class and intelligence, which will make people to look up to you. It’s a good way to feel confident. Be friendly with people you find smart and who follow the above practices. It will help you in following the path with determination. Exercise your brain by solving puzzles. This will make you sharp and your reflexes quick. Practice math sums mentally to increase your speed. Learn varied tricks for doing complicated things to keep yourself ahead of others. Try as much as possible to feel in control of your life. Be happy for others on their achievement and encourage them by congratulating.

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Whenever group activities are required, the emergence of a leader becomes imminent. A group always works effectively when there is a leader to guide the members and keep them motivated on their way to success. Without a good leader, a group will not be able to perform to the best of its abilities. However, as much is it necessary to have a leader, it is also essential that he has all the right qualities and skills. Having a bad leader is even worse than having no leader at all. In case you want to be a leader, that too an effective one, you need to cultivate certain skills and qualities in you, some of which have been listed below. Effective Leadership Qualities and Skills • In order to become a leader, a person should be aware of nitty-gritty of the work that his team has to handle. Unless and until he knows about the work, he will not be able to lead the team in the right direction. • • • • An effective leader needs to set example for his team members and become a role model for them. If he is lazy, dishonest and shirks from responsibilities, how can he expect others to be meticulous and sincere! A leader should be totally unbiased. He should not have personal favorites in his team, to whom he gives more authority or less work. All the members in a team should be treated equally. Patience is one of the most essential qualities needed in a leader. Since he has to guide his team, he must have the patience to make them learn what they need to and get the work done from them. Constructive feedback is one of the skills that a leader should possess. He should always praise his team members if they perform well. At the same time, if they do wrong, he should be there to tell them where they went wrong and how can they put things back in order! However, the criticism should always be constructive and not demeaning. A leader needs to motivate his team, so that they happily contribute towards the team work. He should be aware of the stimuli of different members and make judicious use of them. When a person becomes a leader, he needs to delegate his duties as well as responsibilities amongst his team members. For this, he should be aware of their strengths and weaknesses and delegate accordingly. Leader is the one who sets goal for the team and help them achieve it. He should possess the vision to aim right and at the same time, be able to mobilize people towards those goals. A leader should always be receptive to new ideas. Just because he is the leader doesn’t mean that the suggestions made by others will be useless. He must accept the useful ideas of his team members. An effective leader should have loads of understanding and always focus on the betterment of the group, as a whole, and not individual members. At the same time, he should be honest, trustworthy and easily approachable.

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How To Control My Feelings When Upset

Feeling upset is quite natural. It comes to you automatically when things do not favor you or do not turn out to be the way you thought that they would. However, the phase should be temporary and not something that stretches over to a long period of time. It is very essential to learn how to control one’s feeling of being upset over matters or things, because being too depressed could hamper your behavior and thus, affect your regular mode of living. Read on further to find some tips for controlling your disappointment and depression. Tips For Controlling Anger • The best way is control anger to take a deep breath and count the numbers backwards, from 10 to 1. It would make you feel calmer in no time. Now, pick up the phone and talk to the person whom you are upset with and clarify all the issues. Write a list of things that make you upset and irritate you. Now, tear the page and throw it in the dustbin or even go for burning the page up! This might just give you some mental respite, as you are venting out your frustration by tearing or burning the paper. Do things that you enjoy. Indulge in your favorite past time activities, like singing, dancing, cooking, listening to music, reading or going for a walk. Do things that make you happy, as they will help you to take your mind off a particularly upsetting instance. Play a game or a sport you love. It would lighten your heart and would give a boost to your spirit. Exerciseand sports are very rightly considered to be stress busters. They will also help you to distract you mind. Call your friends. Have long chats with them or even plan the day out. Catch up with them and do things that you love doing. Having fun with friends will not give you the time to think over things that make you feel upset. If you have the habit of maintaining a diary, write all that you are feeling in it right now. You might realize that you are feeling 10 times better after doing it. Make a list of things that you are good at and enjoy doing. Try refreshing your mind with your own positive qualities and things which you are best at. This would help you regain your spirit. If you are upset and angry about something, the best you can do is give yourself some space. Get out of the particular situation that you find unbearable and try to soothe your nerves. This will also help you avoid instant reactions to situations that irritate you. Analyze whether the matter is even worth being upset about or not. Many a times, we simply worry too much and waste a lot of time fretting over things that are just not important. Try to dispassionately analyze the situation that is bothering you. Most of the times, you will not be able to figure out any credible reason to be upset!

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Start by talking openly to your family and closest friends. It will help you become an emotionally stable and fun-loving person. Indulge in things that make you happy and feel light. The more places you go. Just stand in front of the mirror and have an impromptu conversation with yourself. Have a attitude in your personality and believe in yourself. they are unable to cope up normally in a situation where talking and speaking out is essential. try talking it out to a counselor. This way. share ideas and experiences. no one else will think the same way. That way. It will be very helpful talking about this to a professional as it will help you gain a good insight into your problems and also find a solution. Start going out and meeting new people. You know yourself more than anyone else. It could be something traumatic or something that may have left a bad impact on your ability to open up. Do whatever it takes to respect yourself and think good of yourself. the more will you be able to talk to new people. you will become confident of yourself in no time. All it needs is a bit of perseverance and dedicated efforts from you. If you think you can’t discuss with anyone. you will know your weak points and you can always strive to work on them in order to open up. • • • • • How To Be More Social • . Talk about what happened during the day. That way. It helps a lot to open up when you are in public. However. Check out how to open up with people. As a result. Practice talking to yourself.How To Open Up To People Many people have a problem with opening up to people or even talking freely in a gang of friends. This finally leads to inferiority complex and that individual cannot help but feel miserable forever. you will be able to gauge your expressions and reactions and have a fair idea as to how would you look while talking in front of people. you will start building a positive image about life and yourself which will ultimately lead to a better personality. Tips for Opening up to People • The first and foremost step is to be confident of yourself. Talk about it to your closest confidante. They feel they can’t talk as others do and often have low confidence due to that. Unless you think you are good. Analyze yourself and see if you have a personal issue that has been bothering you for a while. Ask them to analyze how you speak and tell you which places need improvement. one must realize that there is a solution to every problem and this issue can be tackled too. smile and laugh or get angry if anything unpleasant incident took place.

practice makes a man perfect in this case as well. you will gain confidence and the attention will be on you. Listen . so smile and be happy. you just can't flip a switch and be loving and friendly towards everyone instantly. The world around you is not bad. by asking them about their life. how to talk to others and how to be more assertive. Similar to other skills in life. Smile . their • • • • • • • • • • • • • • . dislikes.Try to be friendlier. Always speak confidently and listen to what people around you have to say. Converse . Watch TV . but for some of us. Be Interested In People . self consciousness is the reason for shyness and loneliness. Be Friendly .Yes. with people who you make you feel comfortable and gradually move on to others.Converse with people.This is perhaps the first step towards being social. by being truly interested in them. It usually vanishes as we mature. say hi to people and make the first move. Mostly. While talking to someone. Initiate conversations.Switch to your favorite show and pretend to be one of the characters. The more you present yourself in front of yourfriends. etc.• • • • • People often wonder how to be more social. interests. the easier it would be for you to open up in front of strangers. The simple act of listening can help you being more social with the people around you. Do not try to imitate the character. as this would improve your social skills. If you are not chatty at that moment or are reserved in general. Perform . but with a small start. It sounds a little strange. likes.People who are great at socializing make other people feel comfortable around them. Mute the button when it is his/ her turn to speak. Start small. show interest in the conversation. it’s really amazing how a simple act like smiling can go a long way in reducing the stress of dealing with people. Smiling relaxes you and makes you more approachable. you can build it into an automatic part of your life. Most of them loveto speak about themselves. and classmates. colleagues. Tips To Become Social & Overcome Shyness Practice .Be a good listener and talk only when it is your time to talk. it just doesn't go away. Just be natural and speak up what comes to your mind. To help you a bit more in this regard. Now. make up your lines and speak loud. but that is the way to build up your conversation skills. This way. we present some tips and techniques to get more social and gain back that confidence. It does take a lot of energy. by being genuinely interested in what he/she has to say.Take a step forward and perform in front of an audience.

etc.Never forget to compliment people on various suitable occasions. Be ready to do your extra bit. See what and how you can incorporate these tips in your daily lifestyle. only you can help yourself. When ever you feel dejected. First that in this case. then try searching for information / reading up on this issue on the internet.• • • preferences. their dreams. Attend Seminars on Self Confidence You can also attend seminars themed on building self-confidence.esteem with the passage of time. Reading famous inspirational books like . etc. Second that it’s okay to feel scared because confidence doesn’t mean not feeling scared. If attending conferences is not possible. While there can be varied reasons behind your lack of confidence. All you need is the willingness and determination to overcome your flaws. for any reason.Who Moved My Cheese and The Alchemist can also help you. Compliment . It’s just that some of us have to take those extra steps. interact with strangers? Do you keep criticizing yourself constantly for doing things the wrong way? All these traits just point one thing – that you majorly lack in self confidence. It is a feeling that will slowly start getting mirrored once you begin appreciating yourself truly.Remember that each one of us has the capability to be the most social person out there. where you can get important tips and guidance in this aspect from experts. Try to draw out common aspects between the two of you and move on with the conversation. just remember that you do not deserve this and don’t have to live like this your whole life! While lacking confidence is one thing. But remember that you can definitely turn around the tables if you so want. being courteous. How To Gain Confidence Do you cringe each time you view yourself in the mirror and sadly wish you were someone else? Do you get tongue-tied and nervous when you have to. Encourage / Motivate yourself . Compliments prove to be great conversation starters. Remember two things on the onset of this mission. Last Tip . So list down all the positive traits you have in yourself. make sure that you are genuine while doing so. confidence means overcoming your fears! Tips on How to Build Confidence Like Yourself The very first key to becoming self confident is by liking yourself. Infact. This could be things like cooking well. this can also lead to one having low self. However. just see this list and remind yourself that you too possess praise-worthy qualities like others. libraries and other such sources.

Whether you have to appear for an interview or make a presentation. but success is bound to come to you sooner or later. Encourage or motivate yourself each and every day and you are bound to find your self confidence blossoming. Another way to motivate yourself is by jotting down three to four things on the paper that you did well each day. Think positive and put your 100 per cent in what ever you do. tell yourself repeatedly that you can do it and do it well. Though maybe in varying degree. Accept Failures Failures teach you more than success does. It is as much a part of life as success is. So failure is not all that bad as many label it. accept it and move on. It is just that you have to take it in a positive way. it makes you crave for success more strongly and it also teaches you to appreciate success in the true way when it finally comes. . Try Overcoming Fears Some people nurture a secret fear that they will not success at anything they do. One should try to do away with such negative thinking first of all. This will make you feel good about yourself and boost confidence. It teaches you to survive when things are not going smooth. It keeps you grounded.

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