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Content Foreword ……………………………………………………………………………….… 5 Introduction ……………………………………………………………………….……. 9 Chapter 1: Awaken Your Inner Power …….….…………………….….……. 10
Building Your Reality …………………………………………………………………………..……. 11 The World is what you make of it ……………………………………………………………..… 12 The Story of Huh Saeng ………………………………………………………………………….…. 14
Chapter 2: The Meaningless Reality …………………………………………... 16
Awaken from the Collective Conditioning …………………………………………………… 18 Life has the Meaning you have given it! ……………………………………………………… 19 The Empty Reality of Dating ……………………………………………………………………… 21 Peace Flows through a Meaningless World …………………………………………………. 22 A World of Endless Possibilities ………………………………………………….…………….. 23 The Illusion of Self …………………………………………………………………………………… 24
Chapter 3: Creating your Ideal Reality ………………………………………. 26
Having Higher Value ………………………………………………………………………………… 27 The Most Important Relationship ……………………………………………………………… 28 Your Negatives into Positives ……………………………………………………………………. 30
Chapter 4: The Law of Attraction ……..………………………………..……… 32
Being Successful ………………………………… …………………………………………………... 33 Non-Resistance …………………………………………………………………………………….…. 34 Affirmations and Visualizations ………………………………………………………………… 35 How to use Affirmations …………………………………………………………………………… 37 How to use Visualizations …………………………………………………………………………. 39
Lifestyle ……..…………………………………………………………………………………………… 40 Consistently get what you want …………………………………………………………………. 41 Daily Practice ………………………………………………………………………………………….. 43
Chapter 5: Detachment ……………………………………..……………………… 45
The Paradox with the Law of Attraction and Detachment ………………………….… 46 Wanting it or having it …………………….…………………………………………………….…. 47 Feeling is Having …………………………………………………………………………………….. 49 Indifference ……………………………………………………………………………………………. 50 Indifference and Absolute Power ………………………………………………………….…… 52
Chapter 6: Happiness ……………………………………..……………………….. 54
The Decision to be Happy Now ………………….…………………………………………….… 54 The Illusion in the Pursuit of Happiness …………………………………………….…….… 55 The Origin of Peace and Happiness ……………………………………………………….…… 56 The Power of Self-Awareness ………………………………………………………………..…… 58 Be Happy with Less ………………………………………………………………………………….. 59 Gratitude …………………………………………………………………………………………….….. 60
Appreciation: The Antidote to Discontent …………………………………………….. 62 Chapter 7: Daily Rituals ……………………………………………………………. 64 Changing Habits Internally …………………………………………………………………… 65 How to Establish Habits ……………………………………………………………………….. 66 Chapter 8: Being Carefree ………………………………………………………… 68
Be Tolerant ..………………………………………………………………………………………….… 71 Act without an Agenda …………………………………………………………..…………….…… 72 Story of Master Hakuin: A Lesson in Acceptance ………………………………………… 73
….…… 81 Make every place your home ……………………………………………………………………... 83 The Bubble ……………………………………………………. 78 Spread the Good Energy! ………………………………………………………………………. 81 Mastermind Group …………………………………………………….social-buddha...www...… 75 Chapter 9: Giving is Living …………………………………………………….. 86 After Enlightenment …………………………………………………….………………….…… 87 “Seeing is believing” …………………………………………………………………………………..….com Accepting your Emotions …………………………………………………………………………...………….……………………. 74 Practicing Non-Action ……………………………………………………….………………………..…………………………... 88 “What now?” ……………………………………………………………………………………………. 90 4 ... 79 Chapter 10: Constant Never Ending Improvement ……………………….……………………. 84 Chapter 11: Enlightenment ……………………………………………………….…. 77 Giving and Karma ………………………………………………………..
besides my family what was hurting the most was my recent heartbreak. Our family was in a lot financial debt which created further tension in our family’s relationships. The pain got so bad that one day I decided to get this area of my life handled. My relationship with my brother was good yet I would rarely see him. many books on the subject. We were caught up in family problems and financial problems.www.com Foreword First of all. my brother’s life and mine were in total chaos. However. I remember during this time telling my best friend as I felt the loneliest I ever felt “I know that if I approached a woman and would get rejected it would tear me down for months”. they all focused on techniques to become more attractive. I read many. My name is Felix and about six years ago. I was living with my sister at the time and it was not a pleasant time. The books I read ranged from body language books to books on charisma. My selfesteem was through the floor and my family’s morale was even worst due to all the problems. Our personal relationships with everyone were quickly deteriorating. He was very supportive and encouraging. I was heartbroken. However. thank you for your interest in our book. My only support was my friends and parents. To 5 .social-buddha. To add more to our already problematic life I had just broken up with my girlfriend due to her being unfaithful. Her husband’s family did not like me so it was very stressful.
com tell you the truth it helped a bit but in the end it was a waste of time.social-buddha. These were my dreams jobs that allowed me to travel and paid well. a journey that would lead me to much peace. I had become the man who was pursued by women. They did not offer lasting change. being lonely with a few friends. I began to attract one great job after another. went to school and visited I had at least one woman I was “dating”.www. It was not until I stumbled upon some of the greatest secrets in life that I was able to permanently change my life. I had begun my journey of self-awareness. I began attracting one great woman after another. This was the area of my life that I had felt the most scarcity and had now become one of the best aspects of my life. The relationship with my family became far more loving and my social circle expanded tremendously. To my surprise they not only changed my romantic life but it also created great positive changes in other areas. The dating department also changed drastically. this lifestyle gave me a lot of happiness the principles that allowed this kind of control over my life were truly the reason for my true fulfillment. to a far more abundant life in every sense of the word. Every place I worked. I had created the lifestyle I had always wanted. Although. joy and 6 . All in all. I went from having nothing. I quickly shared what I had discovered with my older brother and so our journey began. Pretty much all women who I met were attracted to me something I would have never conceived possible in the past.
This is the story of how I got here. It was a holistic transformation not only with women but overall lives. Coming from a conservative culture my idea of sex was that it only happens when you are married.www. My dating life consisted only of holding hands with women and kissing them. Personally. My name is Angelo. It hasn’t been easy as you have probably experienced. Just like you. I had always been good with women in sense of dating them yet it never led anywhere and sex was non-existent. I took part of this book with the purpose of sharing what my brother and I have learned. but things get better as you apply what we are about to teach you in this book. We will teach you what we have learned through 7 . During the time we had different problems in our family my brother and I started a journey in which we have transformed our lives. I was a late bloomer in having sex.com fulfillment. We are not here to tell you what to do or tell you how to live your life but rather to share our life with you and where we come from. It was very frustrating to be so close to sex and yet not being able to obtain it. And even now we keep growing because there is always something new to learn.social-buddha. I was at the same spot you are now. Now I would like for my brother to tell you a bit about himself. You might say that you are looking for better results in your social and dating life but the truth is that in order to have a change in your external world you must first take control of your internal one. we were looking for personal growth through self-awareness. who are reading this book.
com our journey of self-improvement. 8 . As you read this book enjoy it and apply the concepts in your life.www. Seek to enrich your life but most of all have fun.social-buddha.
the book has many theories and concepts we emphasize application rather than theory. Some of the ideas may seem hard to believe or even startling. Keep an open mind to all the concepts and teachings in this book to fully benefit from them. wish you all the happiness. It is our most hopeful wish that you practice what you are about to learn and you too can enjoy the freedom that comes from knowing the truth about life and yourself. The book takes the perspective of dating from a man’s point of view however it can be applied to every area of a person’s life. We sincerely.social-buddha. Leave your analytical mind behind to gain the most out of this book. It is crucial for your self-improvement that you experience these teachings rather than just theorize about them.com Introduction The format of this book covers various subjects at both the practical and theoretical levels. 9 . man or woman.www. love and peace in your life’s journey. Although.
” ~ Marianne Williamson Awakening your power within means realizing the control you truly have over your life. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.com Chapter 1 . as children do.Awakening Your Inner Power “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. We ask ourselves. who am I to be brilliant. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.www. We are all meant to shine. And as we let our own light shine. As we are liberated from our own fear. It also means building an awareness of your true self and internal 10 .social-buddha. not our darkness that most frightens us. It is our light. talented. who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. and fabulous? Actually. our presence automatically liberates others. we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. It's not just in some of us. gorgeous. it's in everyone. Your playing small does not serve the world.
it is not easy to accept this and much less to decide to change it once you do decide your life becomes extraordinary. by the end of this book you’ll realize that life is 11 . They may have been few in number. church and past experiences. but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms -. Even though. giving away their last piece of bread. Although.to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances.social-buddha. The freedom to choose how we view things and the freedom to choose the meaning you give to each event and situation. This awareness is the underlying power that will unlock all the happiness and fulfillment you have always dreamed of.” ~Viktor E. we can get everything taken away even our freedom there is still one freedom that no one can ever take away. However. parents. Frakl A reality is nothing more than a perspective and a perspective can always be changed.com reality.www. Building your Reality “We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others. It is crucial to pay close attention on how you view things because the way you see things now is the way you’ve been taught by society. to choose one's own way. It only takes a decision from you.
The fact is that you have been giving complete control and responsibility for your life to outside forces. This is not a negative statement but a liberating one.” ~W. I dare you to take responsibility for your life and live your dreams! The World is what you make of it! “There is little difference in people. but that little difference makes a big difference. As you take total responsibility you will also gain the power to change everything. Clement Stone I truly believe that everything that happens in life we have created no matter how far fetched it may sound. you have a set of automatic decisions you make through your beliefs and habits that you do unconsciously thinking that you have no control. It is as if your life is a white piece of paper where you can erase your current life situation and beliefs and create whatever you wish. Furthermore. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.www. 12 . The little difference is attitude. Decisions on how to view things and how to react to things have also been modeled after your parents and social conditioning. A simple example of how these unconscious processes play a role in your life is by being analyzing a negative situation and seeing what part you play in it. You will realize that you have been sleep on the wheel of your life.social-buddha. You might have negative beliefs about that situation that cause you to react in a certain way or cause that situation to keep repeating itself.com empty and meaningless.
social-buddha. life is a reflection of the meaning you give to each situation. This goes also for your insecurities you can actually change the insecurities and make them the reason why women find you attractive. this means you can actually take the time to see it in a different way. The subject of turning your negatives into positives will be covered more in-depth later in this book. If you want to take it step further. It might help if you really see how a strong person or someone you admire might perceive the situation. change the beliefs or even make everything that might be negative into a positive by choosing to see them in a different way. Take a look around you and you will see that the same situations you encounter might mean something totally different to someone else. you may use whatever excuse you have for failing and make it into the reason why you will succeed.www. For example. 13 . A great exercise is to think of things you don’t like about your life and write down how you are looking at it currently and on the other side of the paper find positive ways that you can look at your “problems”. Choose the best way possible that will make your life better and keep it.com A reality is nothing more than a reflection of how you perceive life in your head. Let’s say one of your insecurities is that you are too quiet you can say to yourself “the reason why women love me or love to sleep with me is because I let them talk and I actually listen”. More importantly. Thus.
social-buddha. all in tears. sir. “To the Ansông Market in care of a commission merchant. Arriving in the heart of the city.000 yang of capital for my commercial business and I want you to lend me the money. I can stand it no more!” Hearing these words.” “Alright. the middle-aged scholar closed his book. “Hello. my friend! Who is the richest man in town?” “Poor countryman! Don't you know Byôn-ssi. Mr. The husband confined himself for seven years and only read books in his cold room. he stopped a passing gentleman. You'll get the money there.www. Having entered the big gate. who does the biggest commission business in the Ansông Market.com The Story of Huh Saeng: Have a Strong Belief in Yourself In a poor cottage in the Namsan Valley in Korea lived a poor couple. and Mrs.” Huh Saeng climbed the steps to the rich man's house. Saeng. rose to his feet. I am hungry and cold. said to him: “Look here. sir. I will draw on Kim. my good man! What is the use of all your book reading? I have spent my youth in washing and sewing for other people and yet I have no spare jacket or skirt to wear and I have had very little food to eat during the past three days.” Very well. One day his wife. and without saying another word. he went outdoors. he opened the guest-room door and addressed the host: “I need 10. the millionaire? His glittering tile-roofed house pierced by twelve gates is just over there. Where shall I send the money?” Said Byon-ssi.” 14 .
www. Such a man as him is either mad or self-confident in doing business. I know money and I know men. but a man like him makes big money. A person who believes in himself will in turn be trusted yet a person who is full of doubt will not be taken seriously. Money often makes a man small. a stranger whose family name was unknown to him. he spoke clearly to the point without betraying shame or inferiority. 15 .” This story of Huh Saeng depicts how confidence can overcome everything. unlike common people who want to borrow money for a bad debt.social-buddha. sir.com “Good-bye. The rich man replied with a triumphant face: “Even though he was in ragged clothes. he is an uncommon man with a superhuman brain.” When Huh Saeng was gone. Even while having nothing to speak of you can create abundance if you believe you can. In the tale Huh Saeng instead of doubting himself for even a second because of his “limitations” he is confident of himself and his knowledge and proceeds with confidence to attain his goal. all the other guests in the room asked Byônssi why he gave so much money to a beggar. I am only glad to have helped a big man do big business. But judging from his dauntless eyes and booming voice. worthy of my trust.
social-buddha. Life is meaningless which is wonderful news. The people come to believe that these shadows are reality. They hear the voices of the puppeteers and believe that they are the voices of the shadows. and which one will come next. Their captors move dolls back and forth through the light of the fire. because it’s up to me to create the meaning in my life and I can’t think of anything more exciting.com Chapter 2: The Meaningless Reality “There is no meaning to life. This beliefs causes great suffering for these people. They sit facing a wall and behind them is a raised platform that covers a portion of a fire behind it.” ~ Werner Erhard There's a profound story that portrays people as prisoners being held in a dark cave since childhood. They only see the shadows that the dolls cast on the wall in front of them. The dolls cast shadows on the wall in front of the people.www. 16 . Unfortunately. They believe the shadows are reality because they know NOTHING but shadows and they assume there is nothing BUT shadows. They name the shadows and start competing for who can name them the fastest and how many they can name. the people don't see the fire and they never look at the dolls or people next to them because their bodies and heads are chained preventing movement in any way.
His biggest challenge is how to tell them. We do not realize that are thoughts are actually meaningless and have nothing to do with reality. As he turns his head he sees the dolls going back and forth in front of the fire. just like the people in the story mistake the shadows to be reality we as people also mistake our thoughts to be reality. it will push him until he finally walks out into the sunlight. He goes back briefly to watching the shadows and suffering.social-buddha. In other words. he'll either end up imprisoned in the shadow world or maybe even crucified because his words about sunlight are meaningless to the people who have only seen cave shadows. In having seen the truth. they won't believe him. And.com One day. at least he knows and he's had this extraordinary moment of consciousness in which he realized that the shadows were shadows. The main idea in this story is the comparison between the shadows and a person’s thinking. 17 . If he goes back into the cave and he tries to tell the truth. In that moment he realizes that the shadows are only shadows and that their suffering is caused by ignorance. by luck or by accident one individual is able to turn his head around." They will feel that he's insane and a troublemaker. He'd like to stay out in the sunlight for the rest of his life but he feels an obligation to the people who are still suffering and still believe in the shadows. They've never heard the word "sunlight. Even though the experience doesn't last.www. they won't understand him.
As I came to find this truth about the world I understood that I no longer needed to suffer over things that I had given negative meaning to. value or significance. We experience reality 18 . I regained my freedom and power. Awaken from the Collective Conditioning “Stop thinking and end your problems. avoid what others avoid?” ~Lao-Tzu As you realize that your thoughts are meaningless you also find that everything in life is meaningless. If you’ve watched the movie “The Matrix” this concept of meaningless reality is similar to the movie in which reality is an illusion. It liberated me from the profound dream I was in.social-buddha. Not until later that I realized that it was one of the greatest things I would ever hear. That is why self-awareness is key to awakening to freedom. The first time I heard that everything was meaningless I perceived it as very cynical and pessimistic.com A person’s main obstruction to their awakening is their belief that they're already awake. It is not until a person is aware of their thoughts or “shadows” that one can truly perceive reality for what it is. The ultimate truth about life is that everything has no meaning. That I could choose what meaning I gave to things and thus choose how I felt about everything. What difference between yes and no? What difference between success and failure? Must you value what others value.www.
success with women. As you realize that everything is meaningless it liberates you from your limitations of a life built on rules. success with women for you might mean kissing a woman. The meaning you give to things is nothing more than a concept you’ve been taught which is not real. a lot of sex or a great marriage. It gives you the power to attribute whatever 19 .www. Through this realization you open yourself up to peace. having multiple relationships. In fact.social-buddha. or having a relationship. financial success and other concepts that people have made up do not exist nor does failure. It is all a definition and a perspective. It also liberates your mind to feel and think as it wishes. Life has the Meaning you have given it “Nothing I see means anything. The most important step in this awakening is the realization that you are caught up in an illusion. For example. I have given everything I see the meaning that it has for me.” ~ A course in Miracles You and others have given everything in the world the meaning that it has. and compassion.com not for what it is but through the filters of the meaning that we give it. However. other people might have different definitions for it. concepts and meanings. Once you stop giving everything meaning you literally free your mind from the illusion that most people live in. love.
The way a concept or idea becomes reality is through the conversations you and others have about it and the agreement between people of what things in life mean. definitions.social-buddha. if a random person was to tell you I own that one hundred million dollar building in the city. Plus. For example. we cannot take anything after we die so essentially everything we have is just borrowed. and concepts that try to give a meaning to a meaningless world. if that person was to tell you the same thing and a hundred more people were to agree upon his or her statement then you would take that to be the truth. The truth is that everything we know to be reality is in actuality just a bundle of thought. You can choose to give positive meanings even to negative situations.com meaning you wish to anything in life. you would think they are crazy or at least doubt them. but it becomes the “truth” and reality as more people accept it as reality. You become more lighthearted. Think about it. itis yet another concept invented by humans. However. We are all operating under an illusion or a matrix that prevents us from seeing the truth.www. Validation from other people will no longer be a need either because the only reason you seek validation is to strengthen your view of reality and your identity which is essentially meaningless. 20 . the realization that life is meaningless gives way to a care free life where nothing is taken too seriously. In reality a person doesn’t really “own” the building.
It simply means nothing. The reason why a woman might turn you down varies and it is not important. The fact that you give so much meaning to having sex with a woman is something you’ve learned from others. In fact. This is where 21 . For instance. This is the reason why people love bragging so much because it strengthens both their meaning of reality and self image. The reason they can never loose is because even if another person beats them since they give no meaning to the situation then they will not care.com The Empty Reality of Dating “I am upset because I see something that is not there. you are never really rejected or loose anything when a woman “turns you down”. It’s the same for the concept of rejection. It is as if it never happened.www. A person who knows everything to be meaningless and is indifferent can never loose. You are truly no more or less because of it and she isn’t either. Going deeper into the idea of rejection you could even attribute the meaning that you want once you realize it means nothing.” Everything is meaningless and this applies to everything including with dating. let’s say you are talking about a success you recently had in your dating or professional life to another person yet this person doesn’t really care and doesn’t even acknowledge it. It feels as if he or she has diminished your success because they did not validate your meaning of success.social-buddha. success with women is another illusion it only exists in the conversation you have about it in your head and with other people. it could be because she is in a bad mood.
empty and meaningless is not to feel bad that you have worked hard for something that might be insignificant. In fact. 22 . you have the choice of giving a rejection a negative meaning such as “I’m not good enough” or a positive one such as “She was intimidated by my great looks”.www. This truth also liberates you from the suffering from the negative meaning you give to things specifically the negative meaning you give to many situations in your life. Peace Flows through a Meaningless World “My meaningless thoughts are showing me a meaningless world. The interesting thing about changing the meaning of situations is that when you change the way you look at the world the world changes tool.com you give it a meaning. it is the opposite. This insight liberates you to appreciate and feel great about the smallest things in life and make them more “meaningful”. The purpose is to experience the peace and happiness that comes from this realization. Which one do you think would be more powerful? The positive meaning of course.social-buddha.” The intent behind knowing reality for what it is.
However. With everything in life practice saying the following phrase throughout your day “This means nothing” to remind yourself of this truth. This applies to life and the world. Life its just a blank piece of paper where you write down your life story as many times as you wish.” People wish to get to do and be whatever they want. as well. they don’t realize the power and freedom to be and do whatever they want is in them already.social-buddha. The fact of the matter is as soon as you define yourself as this or that you limit yourself. You posses the ability to change your life at any point you desire but you have to realize that life is meaningless first then you can stop taking it so seriously. When you define something and give it a meaning you limit the possibilities of life. 23 .www. They only need to access it by wakening up from the dream of meaning where everything needs to be defined. if you bring no meaning to life then you can be and do whatever your heart desires. However.com A World of Endless Possibilities “An undefined world is open to endless possibilities.
You have attributed many traits that described yourself to give a meaning to your existence. Just like you’ve defined everything in life you have also defined and given meaning to yourself. The fact of the matter is that your very existence has no meaning.com The Illusion of Self “Give up defining yourself . You are not your past memories. the fact that everything has no meaning except the one you have given it.social-buddha. and more importantly you are not the emotions or the thoughts in your head. As the great spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle has said “you are not the thinker. As soon as you realize what you are not you have uncovered who you are.to yourself or to others. the way you traditionally know yourself is an illusion. Just like you are looking to solidify and validate your meaning of reality by giving meaning to everything you are also looking to strengthen your sense of identity. you are not the name you have. How? You 24 . YOU. However. Currently. The meaning and definition you have given to yourself is no different from that which you’ve given to everything else.” Realize that you are not your thoughts and you shall know yourself. You won't die. In fact.” ~ Eckhart Tolle I have already introduced you to the illusion of reality. there is an even bigger illusion at work in the world. You will come to life. you are operating through ego awareness in which your thoughts and beliefs define you.www.
social-buddha. The best way to free yourself from the ego is to first become aware that you are not your thoughts and you are not your past.com attempt to solidify your identity through the validation of others. How? Be aware of when you are thinking of your past or future which for the majority of people is most of the time. 25 . its only value lies in recognizing that it is an illusion and nothing else. Practice being aware of your thoughts and being in the present moment to move beyond your ego self. “The obstacle is the path. Secondly. separate your identity from your thoughts – stop trying to define yourself. Realize that just like reality your thoughts are also meaningless and give you no insight into your true self. Who else would you be? Realize that the idea that there is a process that you need to go through to awaken is in and of itself a creation of the mind.www. do not get caught up in the process of trying to be your true self. Awareness of this liberates you to truly know yourself. The reality is that you are ALWAYS you. as is the case with all illusions. and thus an illusion. Yet.” ~ Zen Proverb However.
Being attractive has nothing to do with what other people think of you but what you think of yourself. It's your work to dream it and let it happen. how people treat you is a reflection of how you see yourself and how you feel on the inside. In fact.com Chapter 3: Creating your Ideal Reality “It's not your work to make anything happen.www.” ~ Abraham Hicks Your current physical reality is a reflection of your inner reality. The belief that attractiveness comes from how you look or how much money you have is erroneous. Furthermore. And as you start 26 .social-buddha. In other words. Law of Attraction will make it happen. what really makes you attractive its you believing you are attractive. This means that what makes you attractive is not women thinking you are attractive or having a lot of women. people will treat you good or bad depending on your selfimage. As a matter of fact once you begin to see yourself as an attractive man others around you will begin to see that too.
However. You realize that you are self-validated and have no need for women’s approval. People can feel what your self-image is before they even speak to you. Not only is this liberating but also it is incredibly sexy to women." ~ Buddha Many men base their self-worth on how successful they are with women or how much money they have in their bank accounts. It does 27 . I am sure you’ve had the experience when you’ve been having a bad day and you’re not feeling that great and people react to you negatively. as much as anybody in the entire universe deserves your love & affection.social-buddha.com loving yourself women and others will start loving you too. Having Higher Value "You yourself.www. as opposed to how most men feel a man’s value is measured it does not depend on women. You are transmitting energy or projecting body language that communicates nonverbally what you are thinking. You cannot expect to be found attractive or be loved if you do not love yourself or find yourself attractive. The moment you realize this truth you let go of needing women to validate you. Women do not need to find you attractive in order for you to be and feel attractive.
com not depend on how hot the women you are with are or how many you have. it has to do 100% with how you treat yourself not anyone else. You’ve given them all the power to validate you or not validate you and to raise your self-worth or lower it. You alone have the power to bless or curse yourself. The value you have is the value you give to yourself." ~Roderick Thorp The most important relationship you will ever have will be with yourself.www. How powerful do you think you would be? And how likely are you to get the job? Not likely! The Most Important Relationship "We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies. 28 . Notice how when you are in the mindset of getting approval and value from women or people in general you are left with no power. In other words. This is similar to you going to a job interview completely broke and desperate for a job. As I’ve mentioned before people treat you the way you feel you should be treated unconsciously or consciously. sleeping with you or being in a relationship with you. on women being attracted to you.social-buddha. You are completely basing your value on their reaction. you’ve given them the power to make you feel the way they want to.
Stop caring what people think of you and be good to yourself. For example. tall enough etc.com For a long time I did not like myself and had a negative self-image. how mean people were. They do not have to make sense in the conventional way of thinking yet you will be astonished by the results. It was not until I began loving myself and changed the negative image I had of myself that everything magically changed. then you say to yourself “being poor or being short is the hottest thing in the world”. I’m sure you’ve seen ugly guys who end up with great looking women.social-buddha. I did not realize this because it was all unconscious. The truth is that once you fall in love with yourself the world will fall in love with you and this includes women as well. Dedicate some time to yourself and enjoy your own company. my race and many other things. I attributed it all to factors outside of myself like how I dressed. lets say your excuse for not being successful with women is that you are not rich enough. it is of outmost importance to nurture the relationship you have with yourself. I would get negative reactions from people and women. If you are ok with all of your negatives then everyone else will be ok with them too. personal or intimate. As a matter of fact.www. Even though this book is about being successful in relationships whether they are professional. The reason is because they have gone beyond 29 . Sit down and start accepting yourself for who you are with the insecurities and with the hang-ups. Concentrating on your positives and attributes will make a big difference in how people perceive you and treat you. a great practice is to affirm that your negatives are actually your strengths and the reasons why you will succeed.
The worst thing you can do when you make a mistake is to do what everyone else does which is beat yourself up for it.social-buddha. but you will begin to attract 30 . Tell yourself “Its ok I’m proud of my self and of all I have learned from this experience.” The other part of having a great relationship with yourself is to treat yourself with respect and be kind to yourself.www. skinny or fat to attract women.com the whole “I am ugly and no one wants to be with me” to the “hey I am the prize I’m fun and most of all I am very attractive. then you turn it around and say “Women love me because I have the right type of body”. Be ok with your mistakes and be easy on yourself as you keep learning from these mistakes to become a better person.” This will make you more confident and happier in your life. It does not matter if it is “true” or not currently.” ~ David Brinkley One of the greatest ways to become ultra confident is to become comfortable with your weaknesses or insecurities. Remember our first and last love is selflove. Let’s say one of your insecurities is that you are too quiet. You’re Negatives into Positives “A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him.
As you become aware of your limiting beliefs about your self and about the life you can reframe everything to positively change your life. you could say to yourself “You know the reason why women love having sex with me is because I live with my parents and in the rare case that they don’t invite me over we just do it in the car” Get it? In other words.com situations that validate your new beliefs. It is not about being arrogant but comfortable with you.www. This leads to a cool confidence and comfortable vibe.social-buddha. Reframing negative into positives does not only apply to your self-image but also to your life in general. For instance. The way it works is turning whatever reason or “excuse” you have for why you can’t do something into the reason why you can or why things will happen for you. 31 . lets say your excuse or reason why you can’t sleep with women is because you live with your parents. you need to turn everything around and even if it seems like an exaggeration let the things that are stopping you take you to the next level.
At one point of your life or another.social-buddha. consciously or unconsciously you have been thinking a lot about something you want. and you attract what you think about most.” ~ Norman Vincent Peale You become what you think about most.” I would like to introduce you to a very important natural law of the universe that is one of the keys to giving you everything you could ever want.www. it happens. If you have not heard of the law of attraction then this brief overview will be very helpful. deeply believing in it with no doubt and suddenly like straight from a fairytale. Everything seems solid but it is actually energy vibrating at different frequencies. Studies have found that thoughts are actually made out of energy. This is the law of attraction. Its been discovered that you cannot have a universe without mind 32 . Quantum physics has discovered that absolutely everything in the universe is composed of energy.com Chapter 4: The Law of Attraction “The person who sends out positive thoughts activates the world around him positively and draws back to himself positive results.
being part of it. In other words, your thoughts and mind are shaping the world you perceive. You are always in the creating process you are aware of it or not creation is always happening. Everything you are thinking, writing and speaking consciously or unconsciously is creating your life. You are always sending signals out in to the universe of what you are feeling and thinking. The problem is that most of us are thinking and concentrating in what we don’t want so it inevitability shows up in our lives. There are methods with which you can control this creation process and thus direct your life which we will go over later in this book.
“Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value.” ~ Albert Einstein
Here is a thought; people who are successful are not born successful. The question is how do they become successful? It’s simple, by being successful. They do not try to be successful they create self-image of someone who is already successful. At the beginning others may not believe in them, yet it is the brave ones that step up to the plate and take the “risk” of believing in themselves. These people are the ones that rise above the common crowd. The only difference between successful people in any area and not successful ones are their beliefs, perspectives, and habits.
In one of the many jobs I have worked in I was a citizenship teacher. I remember a student who was very scared about taking her citizenship test because of her English. I told her to pretend as if she had mastered the language and was a “great English speaker”. She did that and without any trouble or nervousness passed the test. It is unbelievably powerful how much faster you progress when you stop TRYING to become and instead you just ARE. The image you have of yourself is incredibly important to have everything you could ever want with women and in life. Find out who you want to be, and then live as if you already are by changing your beliefs and attitude. The exact way to change your beliefs will be shown to you later in this book but for now just reflect on what you are learning.
“Peace is non-resistance, complete acceptance, identification with all, everyone, and everything.”
~ Lester Levenson
The law of non-resistance, states that when we resist a condition, person, or thing that we don’t like or want, we are adding power to it. That is why what you resist persists. Hence, as you focus on things you wish to avoid you are actually bringing those things more into your everyday experience.
It is the same as when you focus on what you are lacking. You are only attracting more lack. In fact, when you want something, you are actually focusing on the lack of it hence giving it more power. This is why becoming detached is so powerful and actually attracts more positive things into your life. It draws your focus away from what you lack and allows for abundance to enter. The person who is able to give up everything will experience all. The impossible becomes possible once you release the desire to have it.
Affirmations and Visualizations
“We become, what we think.” ~ Buddha
Affirmations and visualizations are very powerful tools to put the law of attraction into practice. Your mind is like a radio you always have the choice to change the station at any point you want by reframing your thoughts through affirmations and visualizations. The exact way of how to use these tools will be taught to you in a later section in this chapter. Affirmations are simply positive statements and visualizations are a day dreams that you use to envision what you want. As you practice these tools you will realize that the major reward of reaching your goals is not only to achieve it but the person you become as a result of your journey to achieve them. The true
value lies in what you learn as you progress in your journey towards your goals. Life is a school in which you are always learning so pay attention to what you discover through the journey of each of your goals and always strive to be a better human being. Let’s get back to the concept of the law of attracting for a minute. Although, I gave a brief explanation on how the law of attraction works there is absolutely no need for you to understand it in order to use it. In fact, sometimes the less you understand the better you can use. Trying to understand something may lead to over analytic thinking that leads to you not taking action or using what you learn. The only thing you need is to use the law of attraction is to faith that you have the power to create what you wish. In fact, you are already a master of manifesting what you think about since the life you currently have is a result of what you think and say on a daily basis. You can begin right now to feel successful with women, to feel attractive and to feel abundant and you will attract it even if it’s not there now. Affirmations and visualizations are the way to help you change your “radio frequency” to one that will attract positive things into your life. However, the fundamental difference between normal positive thinking and what you are about to learn is that positive thinking is based on having and becoming in the future. On the other hand, affirmations and visualizations’ power lies in already having and being who you want to be rather than trying to get or become in the future.
How to use Affirmations
“It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen.” ~ Claude M. Bristol
As mentioned before affirmations are positive statements that you say out loud to yourself of the things that you would like to manifest or how you would like your life to be. For example, an affirmation could be “I am a great leader” or “I experience abundance in my life on a daily basis”. Now let’s go over the process of creating positive affirmations. I would recommend taking a day or two to be aware of your thoughts as you go throughout your day. Let’s say you are at a bar or at work, as you walk through these venues what thoughts come up? It could be about women or life in general Do you feel any fears or negative feelings about them? If so, look at them from an objective, non judgmental way. Once you start to notice these thoughts write them down. After you have written them down write the opposite on another piece of paper. Let’s say your limiting belief is that you’re afraid to talk to women because you don’t know what to say and don’t know when the right time to approach is. You turn that around and say “All women already like me and want to meet me but I have to end the interaction first because they won’t stop talking”.
when you visualize or affirm make it a habit to release them and let them take their course by themselves. Becoming obsessed with results will actually hinder you and the results. A word of caution is to avoid trying to make your affirmations or visualizations happen. 38 .k.social-buddha. You’ll start seeing results as soon as you really believe in them without a doubt. Be o. I would suggest keeping your focus away from results. In fact. Nevertheless. with them happening or not happening. Finally.com As you are creating your affirmations create them in the present tense as if you were living them right now. Also make them as specific as possible because what ever you affirm and visualize will manifest. The results vary for people but changes can happen in an instant or in a month. It will take practice but the process of creating affirmations will become second nature. once in the morning and once at night. Definitely go out and have fun but do not try to make them happen. once you have created your affirmations say them out loud in front of the mirror at least twice a day.www. After reframing the negative beliefs throw the paper with the negative beliefs away. It depends on how much you believe in them and how committed you are to this process. Instead just enjoy life and if action is needed the action will be inspired action which will be effortless and enjoyable.
” The new story could be changed to “All women are attracted to me and when I approach them I always know what to say but I have to end the interactions first because they won’t stop talking. visualizations are simply day dreams.www. Lets say your current story is the following “I never approach women because I never know what to say and plus they always reject me.” ~ Albert Einstein Another powerful tool that goes hand in hand with affirmations is visualizations. They can consist of a story you build in your head that portrays your ideal life and your ideal self image. In other words. For instance.com How to use Visualizations “Your imagination is your preview of life’s coming attractions.social-buddha.” The difference between just affirmations and visualizations is that visualizations are about getting a clear picture in your head that makes you feel as if you already have what you want. It also involves creating a whole new story to replace the negative ones you have. Visualizations are a way to support your affirmations as well to make them more powerful. the story can include the 39 . They are a way of creating a story behind each affirmation. The reason why visualizations work is because your brain cannot tell the difference between something you experience in physical reality and something you imagine. The process of creating visualizations is very similar to the one for affirmations it is just more detailed.
Life is about resourcefulness. touch etc.com type of woman or women you want. how wealthy you would like to be and basically any other things you would like to include in it. We definitely are not the richest people 40 .social-buddha. you can start with nothing and out of nothing something will be created through your beliefs. to make your visualizations feel more realistic. This means using every sense like hearing. sit down and write out who you want to be and be it. or have any of the conventional things people think they need to live any lifestyle. In life you can actually choose which life style you wish to live and live it. about being able to attract the right circumstances with the least effortlessly. where would you be. Also keep in mind that with visualizations you want to put as much detail in them as possible. good looking. smell.www. Lifestyle “You’ve got to win in your mind before you win in your life. Remember this is your canvass for you to paint a picture of the reality you wish to manifest. how would you act and so on.” ~ John Addison Find out what you want in life and start living it. The best part is that you don't need to be rich. In fact. Try to feel the way you would feel if you were living your ideal life.
Why is this? There are two things that must be mentioned to open your mind to become consistently successful. Thus. it’s just an illusion. when you stop wanting to be 41 . Ask yourself the following questions: What do you want in life? Who do you want to be? How does this person act in every situation? Live your life as if you were this person already it and you will be astonished by the results. been successful with women but rather about waking up to the freedom that comes with detachments and indifference to outcomes.social-buddha.you are right. Many people go from success back to failure and are inconsistent while others seem to go from one success to another. Life is not about being rich. just like control and perfection.com but we have traveled the world and have done amazing things with little money in conditions that most people would believe is impossible. chasing goals.” ~ Henry Ford As you are practicing the law of attraction through affirmations and visualizations you might encounter inconsistent results. Success is not real. Through this you open yourself to all the abundance of the world. where unconditional love and peace takes place.www. Consistently Get what you Want “Whether you think you can or think you can't .
Being consistently successful is a state of mind and simply the belief that you are consistently successful. which may be defined differently from one person to another. It is as simple as believing and acting as if you are already are successful all of the time. On the other hand why do you think that sometimes one bad thing after another happens? The reason why this happens is because it is very hard for people to let go of bad emotions and negative experiences.www. what I did and how the women were reacting. To my surprise the same 42 . I noticed how I felt. This is why they say history repeats itself. This realization opens up many possibilities. For example. They relive these experiences over and over in their head and so the same situation inevitability shows up again. Since wanting success tells your mind that you lack it you will attract a more of a need for success. In an attempt to figure out how to recapture this success I went back to my past successful experiences with women trying to figure out what I did right. if this is true for bad streaks of luck then it should also work for positive ones. Success is just another mental concept. I was doing quite well with women. People are so focused on the bad experiences of the past and how in the past it has gone badly that they keep attracting their undesirable past in the present. A great exercise that I still do is something I discovered by accident a couple years ago. yet at certain points my consistency would drop. It is similar to luck the more you believe that you are lucky the more luck you experience.com successful and you detach from yourself from success you will attain it.social-buddha.
43 . carry yourself and everything about you. There will be no need to change your outside behavior. Thus. Soon I was back on track. or to change your body language or what you say. Daily Practice “I'm a great believer in luck. it became my life all the time.” ~ Thomas Jefferson Affirmations and Visualizations are a way of keeping you focused on the direction you are going in life. I noticed that the more I went over my past successes the more these things happened and the better I felt too. I accumulated stories after stories that I would go over in my head and pretended that this was my life all the time. your story and your limiting beliefs it will automatically change the way you behave. In fact. It can create a consistently successful and abundant lifestyle in every area of life.social-buddha.com day I started to see changes in the effect I had on women. This inner technique is especially effective when you are down on yourself to get you going again. once you change your self-image. I find the harder I work the more I have of it.www. Again even though. I am using women as the example for how to create a consistently this concept as everything else in this book applies to all your life. They are tools to help you change the way you see the world and consequently changing your current reality.
social-buddha.www. However. Nonetheless. They are not to be used once and then forgotten. These are some of the means to have power over your life. 44 . the rewards for your perseverance are priceless. It takes faith in their effectiveness but most of all it is about having fun with them. They are a daily practice that you will love to do for the rest of your life because after all you are always creating this practice only allows you to take control. Instead live and act as if you already have what it is that you want and let go of wanting them to happen. Commitment and perseverance are such essential pieces to master your life.com However. the point of this concept is not to become attach to the affirmations and visualizations results. all these tools will not work unless you do. Create a habit of repeating them and letting them go with the trust that they will happened.
Similarly. it gets caught. We rarely choose to let go and break free from the attachments that limit us. open its hand and go free but its rare that a monkey will do that.com Chapter 5: Detachment “Wherever there is attachment. 45 . especially when it comes to food. For instance. They take an object like a coconut with an opening big enough for the monkey to stick its hand in. In countries such as India they use a very interesting technique to catch monkeys. we as humans also get stuck in life by our attachments. Not only are they scientifically similar to us but monkeys also have negative behaviors that are similar ours. but not big enough to withdraw it when it is clenched. monkeys are known to display selfish and greedy behavior. At this point all the monkey needs to do is let go of the food. association with it brings endless misery” ~ Gampopa Biologically one of our closest relatives in terms of species are monkeys. When the monkey is lured by the food and sticks his hand in to grab it.social-buddha. Food is placed in the coconut then the coconut is attached to a tree.www.
a higher power to take over your goals and fulfill them will take over. everything can be changed by our minds. For example. when we speak of detachment we mean detachment from outcomes with the purpose of feeling fulfillment regardless of what happens. a bad reaction you might get from a woman is no longer taken as a personal attack but rather a 46 . As you realize the true power you have to manifest anything. For example.com The Paradox with the Law of Attraction and Detachment “Since everything is a reflection of our minds. However.social-buddha. you also begin taking things far less seriously and personal. Unfortunately from this state of consciousness this does not work. Plus. Practicing the law of attraction actually helps you let go of your attachments if you use it correctly. Thus. Firs of all. as you let go of trying to control the outside world and use the law of attraction it will allow you to stop wanting things and start having them. It has nothing to do with being lazy or useless.www. detachment only empowers the law of attraction. currently most people are trying to attain goals by manipulating the outside world to get what they want.” ~ Buddha The ideas of letting go of attachments and manifesting your desires seem to contradict each other. in actuality there is no contradiction between these ideas when they are understood at a deeper level. You will stop doing so much work and let things simply happen without struggle or strain.
The negative and positive situations that arise on a daily basis are seen as very objective queues of your current state of mind. As long as we live in this manner by wanting things from situations.” ~ Wayne Dyer As I have mentioned before wanting equates lack and therefore you manifest lack. the more it will happen because you will create less of the struggle that comes from the mentality of “trying” to get something. Wanting it or having it “Abundance is not something we acquire. the endless cycle of focusing on what we lack begins. it may be true that some 47 . In order for you to have what you want you must have it first and create a reality in your head where you already have what it is that you want. the less you care if you get it. We learn to live in a constant mentality of wanting and suffering because we are never satisfied.www. As we grow up we have learned to always want what we don’t have.social-buddha. Thus. It is something we tune into. Although. events and people we will always live very unhappy. Thus.com sign that you need to change your “energy” or mindset. taking charge of your inner reality emotionally detaches you from a lot of things. Moreover. They no longer affect you at such a deep emotional level because they have nothing to do with you but with how you are thinking and feeling.
As you get what you want you realize that it was not how you thought it would be. Especially when you speak to girls or anybody you will be able to be yourself as opposed to being someone else to get them to like you. This is an illusion. The less you want from women and people the more genuine and attractive you become. 48 . If you buy into this illusion you will continue to be a slave to your desires and it will never end. what we don’t realize is that the wanting is the problem behind both our suffering and what keeps us from attaining it.social-buddha.www. First to be clear the fact that you want nothing from women doesn't mean you are not going to reject them or avoid them. It just means that you are not going to try to get “somewhere” with them or put them on a pedestal before you even meet them. The illusion is that once we attain what we want we will become happy. It does not solve all your issues and allows you to live happily ever after. popular or some other end result.com things we want might make life easier. how do I practice not wanting? And if we stop wanting things. Now you may ask. You will realize that once you attain your goals your desire and suffering will not seize. how will they happen since I don't want them? I will give you an analogy comparing this want to a want you might have for a certain food you love. On the other hand if you live a life of wanting nothing from people or situations you will live a happier and more centered life. Just be open to meeting women when the time comes without going out of your way to do it.
The new car 49 .” ~ Henry David Thoreau Think of your ideal life including the woman of your dreams or even your dream car.www. money. Feeling is Having “Many men go fishing all of their lives without knowing that it is not fish they are after. However. ideal woman or the feeling that you think you will get from getting these things? The answer is of course you want the feelings that you think will come from getting what it is that you want. Here is the question: do you think that you want the car. There will be far more opportunities and abundance of everything including women as you eliminate your desire. While you are picturing your ideal life with your ideal romantic partner(s). once you get what you desire you will notice you end up enjoying them only for a bit. This applies to women as it applies to your entire life.social-buddha.com The act of letting go of wanting allows you to live a stress free life and enjoy it more. We have learned to attach a feeling to things. As you create a clear picture in your head of what it is that you want can you just feel how it would feel to have it? This a great exercise to practice visualizations however I am using it to point out something else. house. or whatever it is that you want notice that you are actually bringing in the feelings of having this.
Indifference "Indifference is the strongest force in the universe. What’s more surprising is that women will treat you like a confident attractive man.com becomes just a car after a year or even a few months. Love and hate don't stand a chance against it. if you already are and feel like a confident attractive man you will no longer need women to make you feel this way. but rather it means being detached from any outcome or end result. For instance. Indifference does not mean to sit and do nothing and let life pass you by. indifference is doing everything just to do it without caring about an end result. A realization I had as I practiced the law of attraction is that at the end of the day I didn’t really want the things I thought I wanted but rather the feelings I would get from them. It makes everything it touches meaningless. In other words.social-buddha. It is letting go of wanting things from women and people in general as you act for the right reasons. or because it will make you more likable to people would be doing 50 . Realize that you pursue things in life not because you want the actual thing but rather for the feeling you “think” you will get from what you want. You wont appreciate it as much as when you first got it. Thus.www. buying a car because it will get women’s attention. It is an extension of detachment." ~ Joan Vinge Indifference is a very powerful concept to be applied in every area of your life especially with women.
You will find that it will worth it! 51 . indifference is not a technique to get women. Women can tell if you really don’t care about an end result or if you are faking it. If you are using indifference as another way to attract women you will end up in the same spot.k. It is important for you to genuinely change the reason you are mastering indifference. do not use indifference as a stepping-stone to get women because it will not work.social-buddha. Surprisingly. Nevertheless. Stay detached no matter what the cost may be. with that price and take the risk. as you practice indifference towards getting anything from people they will just start giving you everything. Do it to free yourself from the suffering that comes from the unpredictable world of dating and also to empower yourself. There might be a fear of loss as you are becoming indifferent such as the thought of never getting laid again yet you must be o. Women will become incredibly attracted to you and pursue you. Your entire life becomes effortless.www. As mentioned earlier we tend to do things or want things because we think they are going to make us happier or give us some positive emotions that we have connected with these things.com something for the wrong reasons.
having sex with her or on a relationship with her. A word of advice is to not confuse being indifferent with not caring for people. you feel like you will loose her validation. On the other hand there is a place of absolute indifference where none of this matters. 52 . or miss out on seeing her again.” ~ Lao Tzu Indifference frees you from the chains that tie you down to the fear of having something to loose. Being indifferent allows you to let go of the suffering and wanting you experience in your intimate relationships. You’ll be free to be. As a matter of fact the opposite happens when you stop wanting things from people. most of the time you want so much from women and feel like you will loose out on so much with them that you walk on egg shells around them.social-buddha. The sooner you stop fearing loss with women the sooner you’ll have nothing to loose. do and have whatever you want. However. dating her. It is easy to see that this kind of man is cool. Indifference will allow you to be your true self. Picture a man who has nothing to loose. calm and collected. a guy who is so carefree and can get away with anything. Perhaps. It will give you back your personal power. I become what I might be. The secret to this freedom is courage.www. You become more caring. loving and giving.com Indifference and Absolute Power “When I let go of what I am.
All this time that you’ve felt bad because something did not go as you wanted with a woman it was actually you beating yourself up and making yourself a victim.com Indifference comes when you choose to stop giving so much significance to success with women.social-buddha. not by women or situations.www. Realize that success with women or having sex with women means nothing. Your suffering comes from the meaning you attribute to these things. 53 . Understand that all the suffering you’ve experienced in the past has been caused by you.
You have lived without the things you desire for so long and had very happy moments along the way.www.social-buddha. be. as you are falling down. So why can’t this be your permanent state? Well it can be but not until you choose it right now. situations. and people which is what makes us want those things. You choose to bring the positive feelings in a seemingly negative situation or vise or versa. If someone throws you of a cliff into a lake. All the problems you have or had are either in the past or the future but really right now in the present moment you have no problems and you don't need anything. When you are able to let go of these attachments of believing you need these things to feel a certain way then you will realize that to make the decision to be happy is easy.” ~ Leo Tolstoy As mentioned before we tend to connect desirable feeling to things. the 54 . It all has to do with the realization that only you control your emotions and can attribute any emotion to anything.com Chapter 6: Happiness The Decision to be Happy Now “If you want to be happy.
Happiness is the key to success. However. Happiness seems to be so hard to attain and fleeting.www. the future or the past is not existent but rather you are present in that moment. Accepting things as they are does not mean you do not take action towards your goals but rather you choose to stop suffering for the things you wish were different. If you love what you are doing. the more you pursue happiness the more it eludes you. you will be successful. happiness is never in the future or the past but in the present moment. As you bring acceptance into this moment and release your desire for change you will open yourself to peace and happiness. 55 . The Illusion in the Pursuit of Happiness "Success is not the key to happiness. experiencing every single second as it comes. Those who are truly wise do not look for happiness outside of themselves and they are not tempted by the desire for change.com problems. In fact. Happiness is right here in this moment and it is just a matter of choice.social-buddha. The reason for this is because we are always trying to find it in some future event or trying to fix past issues. This moment is an empty piece of paper in which you can write any thought and emotion you wish to feel." ~ Albert Schweitzer The pursuit of happiness is an illusion.
it does not satisfy them for long. The Origin of Peace and Happiness “Peace comes from within. They are either unsatisfied because they cant seem to get exactly what they want or if they get it. 56 . love and happiness.www. as you begin getting the things you “thought” you wanted you realize that the happiness you had been searching for so long was never been on the “outside”. Do not seek it without.social-buddha. The more you pursue happiness the more it eludes you.com Peace and joy comes when you begin to fully accept whatever happens in life without judging it or putting a meaning to it. Everyone has the idea of always trying to “find” happiness whether it be through another person or material things. These great treasures that have eluded us for so long have kept themselves from us by hiding in the place we have never thought to look INSIDE OURSELVES. In fact. you are equipped with everything inside of you to feel the way you wish to feel this very moment. the “pursuit” of happiness is always what comes up in their head. In fact. compassion. The fact is that almost all people have a list of what will make them happy yet as they pursue these things they find happiness to be very fleeting and illusive. It is only through self-exploration that we can discover our own humanity. instead it had always been inside of YOU.” ~ Buddha When people think of happiness most of the time.
I am that stranger who has nothing to give you and who is telling you to look inside.” insisted the stranger.” “Ever look inside?. replied the beggar. "Spare some change?" mumbled the beggar. he saw that the box was filled with gold.www. and elation. With astonishment. peace and fulfillment through other people. as in the story. disbelief. All we have to do is make the decision to be happy. Then he asked: "What's that you're sitting on?” “Nothing”. We have all been beggars at one time or another looking to find happiness. things or situations. there's nothing in there. I've been sitting on it for as long as I can remember." said the stranger.” “Have a look inside. but somewhere even closer: inside yourself.social-buddha. reluctantly. “No. The beggar. The truth is that we are all equipped to feel fulfilled at this moment. Not inside any box. “I have nothing to give you. 57 . One day a stranger walked by. managed to pry open the lid.” said the beggar. “What's the point.com A story that illustrates this very well is one about a beggar who had been sitting by the side of the road for thirty years. “It is just an old box.” asked the stranger.
" Another god suggested hiding our holiness at the bottom of the ocean." Brahma responded.social-buddha. Mastering others requires force. "man will just figure out a way to tunnel miles below the surface. "man will just learn how to dive to the seabed. Brahma. There is a Hindu legend that gives great insight into one’s true nature.www." Brahma said. One god suggested hiding it deep beneath the earth." 58 . "No. decided to punish us by taking away our divinity.” ~ Lao Tzu As you look build a deep awareness of yourself you’ll find that happiness can only be found inside of you." Brahma said. It is as simple as making the decision to be happy by bringing acceptance into this moment and releasing your desire for change. "No. the chief god. Brahma called a meeting of the other gods to figure out where to hide our holiness. mastering the self needs strength. This legend narrates a story about how we were all once gods but eventually we abused our powers." A third god came up with the idea of placing our divinity on top of the tallest towering mountain. knowing yourself is enlightenment. "man will just climb every tall mountain on the planet until he finds it. In the story. "No.com The Power of Self-Awareness “Knowing others is wisdom.
rejoice in the way things are. It does not mean that you do not have “great” goals in your life like having a great relationship or professional success. There is no need for any woman to validate you as an attractive. looking for something that's already within us.com Stumped.social-buddha. the other gods told Brahma they gave up-there didn't seem to be any place to hide our holiness and keep it out of our reach.” ~ Lao Tzu Practice bringing peace and happiness into your life by valuing the simple things in life. Be Happy with Less “Be content with what you have. "Wait. You are just not affected by what happens in your life one way or another. Apply this principle of lowering your expectations to your need for acknowledgement and validation from others. we've spent ages digging below the earth. It sounds backwards but it is very powerful to lower your standards for what makes you happy.www. the whole world belongs to you. lovable or sexy person to be 59 . value a simple smile from a stranger." Brahma said with a smile. For example. and climbing tall mountains. "I've got it. diving to the sea floor." Since then. We'll hide man's holiness in a place he’ll never think to look-deep within himself. your family or even better a smile from YOURSELF. When you realize there is nothing lacking.
As we are attracting the people. and give thanks for everything that happens to you. stop suffering fr what you have. knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation. you don't need anything other than the decision to be happy with what you got. This is habit will open you up to getting everything you want and allow you to appreciate what you already have. On the other 60 . automatically appears in your life. gratitude is the art of “receiving”.” ~ Brian Tracy Build the habit of having an attitude of gratitude.www. Gratitude “Develop an attitude of gratitude. More importantly. Hence. stop looking for what is already here. The attachment will actually create resistance.com happy. Most of us complicate being happy and we believe that we cannot feel fulfilled without the things we desire or feel we are missing. everything you wanted before.social-buddha. The truth is that when you can decide to be happy right now. as you lower your standards for what brings you joy. things or situations that are going to make us happy we realize that they only make us happy for a few moments. As I’ve mentioned before being attached and obsessed in a negative way to your goals can actually hinder them from happening. It could be said that just like the law of attraction is the art of “asking”. Surprisingly.
The law of attraction will correspond to your energy of gratitude and give you more things to appreciate. The whole message of the book is captured in the title.com hand. Remember you get what you think about most so simply practice thinking and feeling abundant. Plus. It is similar to how when you want things and acknowledge lack you get more of it. There is a book by John Gray called "How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have". gratitude allows for life to give you what you want as you appreciate what you already have.social-buddha. It brings you more to be grateful for.www. Wake up every morning thanking for what you have and before going to sleep do the same! 61 . You will eradicate a lot of the neediness for what you currently want because in a way you will feel as if you already have what you want.” Therefore. you will also get everything you wanted (although you wont need it anymore to make you happy) as you practice this “art of receiving. acknowledge the abundance that you already have and life will bless you with more things to be grateful for. Simply start appreciating what you have and be grateful for it.
” ~ Buddha Here is something you’ve probably never heard before but it goes along with what we talked about in the last section. I realized I was never going to be grateful or satisfied unless I chose to be satisfied. family and so on I was not being grateful for my love life and in fact was very unsatisfied. My realization came when I noticed that I was not unsatisfied because my love life was unsatisfying but because I chose to feel that way. at least we didn't get sick. and if we didn't learn a little. at least we didn't die. In fact. You are unsatisfied or unhappy because you chose that as your story. at least we learned a little. and if we got sick. If you look at the areas where you experience the most lack it is likely that these are the areas for which you are the least grateful for. I was too busy trying to get to the next level with women all the time.com Appreciation: The Antidote to Discontent “Let us rise up and be thankful. As I’ve mentioned with happiness the reason why you are unhappy is not for the reasons you think but rather for the mental choice you’ve made. let us all be thankful. The fact of the 62 . so. For a long time in my journey to become a more attractive man and get more success with women I forgot to appreciate the success I was attaining already.www. for if we didn't learn a lot today.social-buddha. I noticed that although I was being grateful for my health. although in this area I had a lot of abundance I was still miserable. It had nothing to do with the women I had or did not have but rather with the mental and emotional choice I made.
A person’s willingness to put it into words is all that is needed.social-buddha.com matter is that from my experience appreciation can make a day better and even change a life.www. 63 .
Thus.com Chapter 7: Daily Rituals "We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then. These people dedicated themselves day in and day out to honing their talents and skills to attain great success. is not an act. It is very easy to overlook their daily practice when we see their great accomplishments but that is the truth. Good habits are the key to all success and bad habits is path to all failure." ~ Aristotle The only difference that separates a successful person from an unsuccessful one is the habits each one has. It is human nature to be slave to one’s habits and that is just a fact.www. but a habit. it is in every person’s best interest to become a slave to positive habits instead of negative ones.social-buddha. 64 . The truth is that very successful people rarely became successful by mere luck.
The definition of insanity is doing something over and over and expecting a different result. make each day the best day of your life. Watch your habits. Watch your words. For example. Watch your actions. they become actions. Either way we can change these habits by changing our negative beliefs and being conscious about what decisions we make in similar situations to act differently to get a better result. Watch your character. they become habits. never let your day end in a failure as you feel like giving up in a particular situation give it another ten percent and persist until you succeed. Therefore.com Changing Habits Internally “Watch your thoughts.” Habits can be actions from unconscious beliefs we have and are automatic in situations or they can be or actions we take consciously accordingly to our best interest in each situation. 65 . try something different. they become words.social-buddha. they become your character. it becomes your destiny. some very powerful habits is to increase your knowledge daily.www. Live each day as if it was your last. Let today be the first day of your new life. and if it is not your last day be grateful for it.
www. habits are the things that keep you going.social-buddha. There is no magic pill. the only way you will have long lasting change is if you make these habits into a lifestyle and way of being. and not to be flung out of the window by any man. make it inevitable for you NOT to do the habit. Third. 66 . For example. make sure you only implement one habit at a time. First. Throughout this book some habits have been mentioned that are worth practicing. In fact. if your new habit is to exercise get your clothes ready and every step that leads to you exercising.com How to Establish Habits “Habit is habit. habits are extremely important they are sometimes hard to implement. Do not try take on too many habits at once because you will overwhelm yourself.” ~ Mark Twain Whether the habit is an internal one like gratitude or an external one such as being friendly with people make sure the habits you are cultivating are positive ones. This is truly the way to transform your life completely. Second. Given the importance of these first 30 days there are several ways to get yourself to take action daily. Even though. The key here is that you are eliminating obstacles that keep you from getting to the action. but coaxed downstairs a step at a time. you might make this new habit public to a close friend or relative to help you commit even more. Use these teachings and make them daily habits. Studies show that it takes about 30 days for the mind to accept a daily action as a habit. Although. motivation is a great way to start any endeavor.
www.com Another “technique” to build habits is placing a “bet” with a friend that if you miss one day you will do something undesirable such as paying him or her money or doing something embarrassing. Your friend or relative must really hold you accountable for this to work and what friend wouldn’t especially since they will get paid if you do not follow through.social-buddha. 67 .
In our society being carefree has a negative connotation. Most people think that wanting and focusing on an end result will make it happen faster or assure it happening.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi The fact is that most of the time we take ourselves and things too seriously. However. They feel useless and stressed because they feel they need to be working on something. Society inculcates us with the belief that everything we do must have a goal or an end result in mind or else you are "wasting time".com Chapter 8: Being Carefree “Each one has to find his peace from within.social-buddha. so much of our energy is wasted on wanting an end result 68 . I have heard countless stories of people who have recently retired yet are so anxious because they have nothing to do. And peace to be real must be unaffected by outside circumstances. we give so much meaning to things that it holds us back from being as “care free” as we would like to be.www. the underlying message in our society is that if you are not busy and stressed then you are not being productive and there is something wrong with you.
These attachments and fears actually prevent people from giving it their very best. Think about it.com that it adversely affects the quality of everything we do. with whatever happens and realize that it doesn’t have to determine your happiness. The meaning that it has is the meaning that you have given it. 69 .k. I got this phrase from one of my mentors and it reminds me every time to focus on the journey not the destination. goals make life more interesting and fun to live.www. Your survival does not depend on the end result yet you are still committed to doing your very best. Realize that the end result is actually meaningless. Now. I often use the phrase “being committed to an outcome but yet not attached to it”. I do not mean to have no motivation to succeed or to not have goals in life. Focus on every step of the race not the finish line. On the contrary. The byproduct of this practice is that everything you do becomes far more enjoyable (instead of stressful) and the results end up being much better than you can imagine! How do you stop being so attached to an outcome? Every time you are trying to get to a goal you must be o. when you are involved in something doesn’t the fear of failure or the desire for success take an enormous amount of your thinking? Notice the last time you screwed up something that was important to you and you’ll find that your internal dialogue was saying something like “I hope I don’t screw this up” or “I have to succeed or else I’ll be disappointed”.social-buddha.
Never boast or show off. I did not live happily ever after. Stay low to create balance and harmony in your life.www. That is the reason why once you get the things you thought you wanted including material things they will only satisfy you for a bit and then you want something “better” or different. The fact of the matter is if you rejoice in success with women you will also suffer for the failures you experience and success does not exist without failure.social-buddha. Emotionally it put me in the same spot I was in the beginning. More often than not they will answer NO. Produce success in every part of your life but do not rejoice in it. In fact. You can never make your life better because it is already perfect since this moment is perfect and this moment is your life. Really! Especially if they sought these things to gain happiness or better themselves. or whatever it is that you want and ask them if that is the source of their happiness. Talk to any person who is wealthy or is very successful with women. many of these people are miserable. In my experience I have gotten so many things that I thought I wanted and sure I’m grateful for them yet ultimately I’m the same person and my problems did not disappear. As you become more and more successful with women remain detached from all outcomes and humble. You must realize that you can never be better than you are now because you are already perfect.com Perhaps you think you will be fulfilled in a relationship with a woman or perhaps you think that sleeping with a lot of women will satisfy you or make you a better man but the truth is that those things are only the meanings you have attached to these things and are not real. Failure is the foundation of success thus if you give no meaning to your 70 .
The test of tolerance comes when we are in the majority. Accept them with their strengths and their weaknesses. “The test of courage comes when we are in the minority. failure will also have no meaning or power over you. We tend to judge people and react either positive or negative.com success with women and in life in general.” ~ Gerald Jampolsky An internal habit that is essential to being effective with women and in life is to accept people as they are. The sword you use to judge others is the same sword that will be used to judge you.www. all we have to know is that people act and do things for their own reasons. I can see them as teachers of forgiveness in my life. Those reasons might be their insecurities or negative beliefs they 71 .social-buddha. Sockman No one is perfect and as we go further we learn that perfection is only an illusion of the mind. This is absolute power to do and be what your heart desires! Be Tolerant “When I am able to resist the temptation to judge others. What we don’t realize is that we are judging ourselves in the same way as well.” ~ Ralph W. reminding me that I can only have peace of mind when I forgive rather than judge. If you pay close attention when you judge someone else for something “bad” when you make the mistake you will not go easy on yourself either.
People especially women can sense from a mile away when you want something from them. The less you want from people the more they will give them 72 . Accept things and people the way they are but most importantly the way they are not.www.social-buddha. This helps you to stop judging them or trying to change them. no disappointments. We live most of our life expecting something from people including our love ones.” When we are kids we do everything to have fun but as we grow up we start expecting things from people and situations. Our only purpose is to inspire them as we are being the best we can be. Go out to enjoy a beer with your friends and chat with people around you. It is a great skill to be able to put yourself in other people’s place. When all these expectations are not met to our standards we become very disappointed and start living very unhappy lives. Thus. they have their own meaning to reality. Part of respecting and accepting yourself is also to accept others. stop going out to pick up girls and just go out to have a good time. As we get involve in the dating world we go out to clubs not to have fun but to pick up girls. In other words. Act without an Agenda “No expectations. This is especially important to apply with very close intimate relationships such as with your family or romantic partners.com might have. Slowly things will work out as you go with the flow and will attract the right situations.
A year later. A beautiful Japanese girl whose parents owned a food store lived near him. her parents discovered that she was pregnant. and enjoyed taking care of the little boy. in present-day Shizuoka Prefecture. One day without warning. Hakuin was praised by his neighbors as a teacher living an exemplary life. When you talk to a woman or any person in general just do it for the doing not to get something out of it. All Hakuin would say was “Is that so?” After the baby boy was born. His disciples have left him. he returned to the Shoin-ji. He obtained milk and other essentials the boy needed from his neighbors. Here he devoted himself to teaching a growing number of disciples. she named Hakuin as the father.com to you.social-buddha. the temple in his home town of Hara.www. When he was 32 years old. By this time he had lost his reputation. the girl-mother couldn't stand it any longer. Story of Master Hakuin: A Lesson in Acceptance The Zen Master Hakuin (1686-1769) traveled extensively to learn from other masters. However Hakuin was not disturbed. it was entrusted to Hakuin's care. This made her parents angry. but after much harassment. In great anger the parents went to the Zen Master and scolded him in front of all his students. She confessed the truth to her parents— that the real father of the boy was not Hakuin but a young 73 . The girl would not confess who the man was.
For instance. When you are accepting your emotions you are allowing yourself to let go of your ego. simply pay complete attention to that emotion and it will dissolve by itself. As you become completely aware of your emotion and how you are feeling without creating a story about it you will be well on your way to taking control of your emotions. Although Hakuin loved the child as his own. They asked his forgiveness and apologized profusely to get the boy back. This also applies to positive emotions. he was willing. pay attention to the emotion and experience it fully them without judgment or trying to resist them. all he said was: “Is that so?” Accepting your Emotions "The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it." ~ Eckhart Tolle Accepting situations is very important but what is sometimes even more important is accepting your emotions. Avoid feeding your negative emotions with your thoughts. When you are feeling great about yourself for an accomplishment you must also let that 74 . Simply.www.com man working in the local fishmarket. if you are feeling bad because you went out and your night did not go as you wanted. All you have to do is accept the emotion as you would accept a rainy day. The father and mother of the girl went to Hakuin at once. In giving up the boy.social-buddha.
practicing non action is about going with the current and doing things that are effortless in that they do not create resistance. Just be aware when your ego is getting bigger from something going well and instead give no importance to your success. Practicing Non-Action "The world can be ruled by letting things run their course. 75 .com go. It means letting results happen naturally and going with the natural flow of life.social-buddha. It is being committed to an outcome yet not attached to it happening. but when you are going with the flow resistance is non-existent. Again this practice is about being at peace not about enlarging your ego. As you have probably experienced when you are “trying” to reach a goal you experience much resistance. Pat yourself on the back and tell your self this always happens to you but do not let it define you or feel better about yourself. it cannot be ruled by interfering" ~ Lao Tzu Non-action is doing just to do without an end result in mind. Also. It is about having fun and forgetting about the end result.www. Why? Because if you accept feeling great about something like succeeding with women or accomplishing something in your life then you must also accept the bad emotions that come when you don’t succeed.
non-action seems like you are going around to attain your goals. Building social habits such as talking to everyone and becoming a more friendly person creates an abundance of not only women but also professional and business opportunities. as you let go of your goals it actually gets you closer to them. doing without doing translates into being social with everyone and building a great social life without an end result in mind. when you are doing just for the sake of doing without an end result. Why? Because they are obsessed with having it. yet they are so obsessed that it prevents them from enjoying it once they get it. many people have so many goals yet they never attain them or worst when they attain them it doesn’t satisfy them. Although.social-buddha. Therefore. This in turn opens the door to many opportunities for intimate relationships with women. 76 .www. Plus.com As we take this idea a step further and apply it to women and dating. This practice of being social creates as a byproduct a very successful life without any effort. positive habits can be built much more easily. Also. this type of obsession can even cause people to avoid taking action because of the fear of failure and not getting what they want. it is actually the short and permanent path to getting everything you could ever want. The impossible becomes possible when you stop wanting it. It allows you to be committed to your goals yet not attached. Think about it.
It is common to make the mistake of gicing in order to get 77 . You begin to do things that are aligned with what you enjoy not what someone else might approve or what society told you should or have to do. not to get something. you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt As explained in the concept of indifference doing things for the right reasons is essential to become incredibly effective and successful in your life. you are giving in order to give without expecting anything. To further clarify.www. Doing something for the right reasons means doing things to give. In fact. after you realize that most things you do is to get other people’s approval you will also notice how everyone has exactly the same mentality.com Chapter 9: Giving is Living “Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others. The right reasons are easy to see once you stop wanting things from people. As you let go of your attachments your vision becomes clear.social-buddha.
Yes women will chase YOU and not only women but everyone will become magnetized to your carefree. once you are not hitting on them and are just being social it will give them the opportunity to chase you. If you end up doing something for a girl make sure you are not expecting her to like you or have sex with you in return but rather because it is what you do and who you are. More importantly always have fun.com which in turn leads to disappointment. Go out to meet people not only girls.social-buddha. or only to meet women but for something different like to help people have fun and have a drink with your friends. happy and confident attitude. You will see that women will come to you because. Learn to give to the world without expecting anything in return. You are only doing it because you want to give. Giving and Karma "You can be more successful in two months by becoming really interested in other people's success than you can in two years trying to get other people interested in your own success" ~ Dale Carnegie 78 . Not to get laid. When you go out be out for the right reasons. Be the carefree guy that everyone wants to be around and doesn’t want anything from anyone. It is similar to when you buy drinks for your buddies or presents for your family without expecting anything.www.
Essentially you are dissolving the old programming that it is wrong to speak to strangers which you were taught as a child. if you can help someone. I’m sure you have noticed that most people are very reserved and even scared of meeting new people. Practice talking to everyone to give. the more you give the more you will receive.” ~ Dale Carnegie A great habit to build is the habit of talking to everyone and being very friendly. That’s how life works. 79 .com Although.social-buddha. to spread the good energy and inspire people to be more social. Spread the Good Energy! “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. as you are being this type of person you are changing the way people see the world showing them that it’s normal to greet and talk to strangers. I have mentioned to give without any expectations you will discover that when you are giving in this manner life will become very abundant. do it. If you are giving bad attitude and refusing to help people out that is what you will also receive. As a matter of fact. Karma allows for whatever you give to come back to you one way or another.www. Thus. Never look at who you give to.
The idea consists of people doing favors for others and instead of asking them to pay it back they say “pay it forward” to another person then the world could be changed. However.com This idea of being friendly with people as mentioned before inspires others to be social themselves.social-buddha. If you have ever seen the movie Pay it Forward. as you are being this kind of person you will inspire others to be social and more open to meeting and connecting with new people. to the teachers surprise one of the students comes up with a brilliant idea. You will be transforming the world! 80 . It is the same with being social. It would be a viral change that would quickly spread. For instance.www. this phenomenon can be observed when you open the door for a stranger that person opens the door for the next one. in the movie an elementary school class is supposed to find an idea to change the world. Being friendly with everyone and spreading the good energy is a similar idea.
about money or about anything in general.www. Thus.com Chapter 10: Constant Never Ending Improvement Mastermind Group "Connecting is a philosophy of life . when you have a question about women. It’s better to surround yourself life with people who support your reality and are in the same path that you are. do you ask your buddy who is in the same level or sometimes even worst situation than you? Doesn't it make sense to hang out with either someone who has already done it all and knows what he or she is 81 . We are not saying you cannot do it without a support group but I guarantee that it will make your journey much easier if you have one. For example.its guiding principle is that every person you meet is an opportunity to help and be helped. having a support group is essential in your development in every area of your life. No one gets ahead in this world without a lot of help" ~ Keith Ferrazzi It is incredibly important to surround yourself with people who are like the ones you would like to be and that have the mentally you wish to adopt.social-buddha.
www. Times have changed and so it is necessary to evolve your way of thinking and doing things. if you are trying to tap into your current support circle for information it is likely that they will lead you in the wrong direction. If they are not then you might need to do some changes with which people you surround yourself with. As you surround yourself with successful and positive people you will naturally and effortlessly adopt those mentalities. society and even your parents have on you. We are not saying to leave your friends. On the other hand.com doing? Or at least with people who want to grow in the same direction that you are going? Think about the influence your friends. a group of people 82 . Hence. Similar to emotions being contagious. the ways of thinking are also very infectious. Attitudes are contagious. You must figure out if your friends’ attitudes are worth catching. having the right kind of people in your life will create drastic and lasting change in your life. the mastermind group may include our advice. Of course you can ask your parents advice on women but really what are you going to get from that? Don't get us wrong you can learn a lot from your parents but what they might teach you an ideology that may no longer applies. Not on purpose of course they just do not know any better. The influence is enormous. How can you start your “master mind” group right now? As we mentioned before start by looking for people who have achieved what you wish to achieve.social-buddha. For example. all we are saying is that in order to progress to the next level you need surround yourself with people who have that next level mentality.
You will find your self talking to more and more people developing a social life. He's about absolute vulnerability. yes it is the fastest way but the truth is that not all of us work the same way. Mentors are always useful but also people. just relax. who support the state of mind you want to be in. Making Every Place your Home “A warrior is not about perfection or victory or invulnerability. it walks around makes it self-familiar with everything and then begins to act as it usually does. Instead. 83 . enjoy a drink. are also very helpful. As you find people who will make a difference in your life make friends with them and be genuine about your intent to learn from them.com that are going in the same direction as you or someone who is doing great at what you want to learn. Some people tell you to just jump in the cold water and get it over with.” ~ Dan Millman When a cat finds itself in a new place it doesn't usually jump from one place to another like it does in a familiar environment. That is why we developed this concept of making every place your home. At times it was easy for us to just jump in the cold water but other times we would just freeze. When you go to a place don't be looking for targets don't be searching for someone to talk to. look around without fixating on anything specific and turn to your right or left and say cheers. People who are truly wise and have something to offer are always looking to teach others. hi or anything to whoever is there.www.social-buddha.
Even having off the charts success can be a source of anxiety since you are not used to it. It might be the only sunshine they see all day. “oh that girl is hot”. This concept applies to your emotions and anything unfamiliar you experience in life as well.” 84 . Which if you are on the journey of growing and improving yourself you will probably find yourself to be unfamiliar and uncomfortable most of the time.” The bubble is a concept that was developed to be more social and it became a way to make socializing easier.com As you find your self coming back to this venue.social-buddha. or hey all of these people are so attractive. We noticed that as we tried to be social and talk to everyone we would become overwhelmed by looking around the room and seeing so many people. give a stranger one of your smiles. The Bubble “Today. However. We would worry about everyone in the place specially women. As we looked around we would talk to ourselves in our head going like. it will be easier and easier to be social and it will become your home and who are. take into consideration that it may take time to adapt and feel comfortable in unfamiliar situations. “I am going to try to get her attention. It is the only way to grow and evolve.www. It is important to build the habit of always pushing yourself to be uncomfortable and putting yourself outside your comfort zone constantly.
As you walk around. Also. 85 . This concept is very powerful because the frame of mind is people are coming into your reality instead of you looking to talk to people and going into their reality. as they come into your reality you also forget about all the people outside of it.www.com The point is that the bubble concept is a way to concentrate on your personal space and instead of being sucked into the entire room. you focused on a small space at a time. Imagine there is a bubble around you covering your personal space and nothing else exists.social-buddha. it allows you to be present in conversations with people and actually listen to what they’re saying. everyone that touches or comes into this bubble is your guest. In addition. Try this concept by talking to everyone who comes into to your bubble and forget about everything else who might be in the rest of the place.
we still learn something new everyday.” ~ Ludwig Börne The path to enlightenment can be as complicated or as effortless as you wish it to be.social-buddha. One day. he saw an old man walking down the path carrying a heavy sack 86 . No matter how enlightened we become. This path ends with the recognition that you are awake. You have no need to change who you are or your change your life. You simply need to remember who you have always been. An old folk tale tells about a young man who had spent five arduous years searching for truth. These men had supposedly visited the mountain top and gained enlightenment. He had heard of wise men that lived in the foothills of a great mountain range near his village. You have no need to better who you think you are. as he walked up into this great mountain range.com Chapter 11: Enlightenment “Losing an illusion makes you wiser than finding a truth.www. It is a state of mind that recognizes what already is. Simply extend what exists within and rediscover yourself.
Sir. "Tell me the meaning of enlightenment. without uttering a word he slowly swung the heavy burden off his back.social-buddha. fixing his gaze on the youth. carry water. what comes after enlightenment?" The old man took a deep breath. After enlightenment “Before enlightenment .chop wood. you will see more clearly what separates you from that state-your compulsive habits. The young man felt excited that he had finally found one of the wise-ones who could answer his heart's deepest questions.www. outmoded beliefs. After enlightenment . He sensed that this old man had been to the mountaintop. Then. Sir" he asked. "Ah.chop wood. A flash of enlightenment offers a preview of coming attractions. "But.” ~ Zen Buddhist Proverb An excerpt from the story Way of the Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman illustrates life after enlightenment.com on his back. carry water. I understand." the young man replied. then swung the heavy sack over his shoulders and continued on his way. false associations and other mental 87 . and stopped. laid the sack down and stood up straight. "Please. but when it fades." The old man smiled. “Socrates (character in the story) once told me.
" “Seeing is believing. It is easy to doubt something you have never witnessed like the kind of incredible results that these teachings and practices produce. they say it helps them grasp the more profound concepts at a deeper 88 . You see more and resist less. Other friends of mine and clients have also spoken to me about how when it is it helps them to see how I behave to incorporate it in to the way they do things. In fact. it takes faith to embark in this journey a person can benefit from a glimpse of this reality before actually attaining it themselves. Countless people have commented on how seeing how we operate on this level everyday and night has helped open their eyes." Just when our lives are starting to get better. in my case.www. Even though." Socrates continued. what changes is your relationship to them. You gain the capacity to turn your problems into lessons and your lessons into wisdom.” The American proverb “seeing is believing” is famous for the implication that a person should not believe until they see with their own eyes.social-buddha.com structures. we may feel like things are getting worse because for the first time we see clearly what needs to be done. seeing how my brother did many things that seemed impossible at the time had a profound impact on my development in this area. "difficulties continue to arise. It led me to be more committed to this kind of work. Plus. "After illumination.
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