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Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating Course
Course Manual (2007 Beta Version) Marius Panzarella
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Introduction ................................................................................................................ 8 Why Most Guys are DEAD WRONG In The Dating Game ........................................ 8 Learning These “Smart Dating Tactics” Does NOT Make You “Manipulative” Person.................................................................................................................... 9 Don’t Let Your Old Beliefs Limit Your Success..................................................... 12 Chapter 1 ................................................................................................................. 15 The Smart System of Dating .................................................................................... 15 Non Love .......................................................................................................... 15 The Different Kinds Of Love Explained ................................................................ 16 The Smart Dating System Used In This Course................................................... 17 The Three Components Illustrated ....................................................................... 17 The Triangular Components Broken Down .......................................................... 18 Passion ................................................................................................................ 18 Passion Is The Most Important............................................................................. 22 Our Definition Of Attraction .................................................................................. 23 Ex-Force............................................................................................................... 23 My “Love Balance Scale” ..................................................................................... 24 For Love” .............................................................................................................. 24 Attraction Cuts Through Everything...................................................................... 27 Case Studies ........................................................................................................ 28 Chapter Summary ................................................................................................ 29 Chapter 2 ................................................................................................................. 31 Basic Smart Dating Rules ........................................................................................ 31 Smart Dating Rule #1: It’s Not How Much You Like Her, But How Much She Likes You That Counts! ................................................................................................. 34 Smart Dating Rule #2: You Need Permission To Advance .................................. 35 Smart Dating Rule #3: Stay Objective .................................................................. 41 Smart Dating Rule #4: Attraction Cuts Through Everything ................................. 44 Smart Dating Rule #5: Attract, Not Chase............................................................ 45 Smart Dating Rule #6: Be A Challenge To Create Passion.................................. 47 Smart Dating Rule #7: Comfort Level Is Important ............................................... 48 Summary of the Smart Dating Rules .................................................................... 50 Quick Self-Test: Are You Following The Smart Dating Rules?............................. 50 Chapter 3 ............................................................................................................... 53 Chapter 3: Attraction Secrets Exposed .................................................................... 53 Myth #1: “Women Only Like Jerks” ...................................................................... 53 Quick Self-Test: Are You Following The Smart Dating Rules?............................. 54 Myth #2: “Opposites Attract.”................................................................................ 55 Myth #3: “Women Aren’t Sexual By Nature.”........................................................ 55
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Social-Biological Conditioning .............................................................................. 56 Ego, Superego, and Id ......................................................................................... 58 The Smart Dating System’s Attraction Model ....................................................... 59 Emotions, Desire, and Action – The Three-Step Approach Of The Smart Dating System ................................................................................................................. 61 Section Summary................................................................................................... 62 A Quick Summary Of The Smart Dating System ..................................................... 62 Chapter 4 ............................................................................................................... 65 How Women Check You Out................................................................................ 65 Improve Your Looks Overnight............................................................................. 67 Other Things To Watch Out For............................................................................... 69 Hit The Gym ......................................................................................................... 69 Getting A Tan ....................................................................................................... 70 Chapter 5 ............................................................................................................... 71 Bad Attitude #1: The “I’m Afraid Of Rejection” Attitude ........................................ 72 Creative Persistence ............................................................................................ 73 How To Avoid Rejection ....................................................................................... 74 Bad Attitude #2: The “But She’s The Only Girl I’ll Ever Love” Attitude ................. 77 Quick Self-Test: Are You In Love? ....................................................................... 77 Nobody Cares About Your Love Life .................................................................... 78 Bad Attitude #3: The “I Don’t Need Women” Attitude ........................................... 79 Bad Attitude #4: The “She’s Too Beautiful” Attitude ............................................. 82 Bad Attitude #5: The “I Am Not A Player” Attitude................................................ 84 Bad Attitude #6: The “I Don’t Need Women Or Sex” Attitude ............................... 86 Good Attitude #1: The Playful Attitude ................................................................. 87 Good Attitude #2: The “I don’t Care” Attitude ....................................................... 89 Good Attitude #3: The “How Far Can I Go?” Attitude ........................................... 91 Good Attitude #4: The “Truth And Dare” Attitude ................................................. 93 Chapter 6 ............................................................................................................... 95 Insecurity and Neediness ..................................................................................... 95 How To Be More Masculine ............................................................................... 101 Become a leader: ............................................................................................... 101 A Word On “Alpha Reluctance” .......................................................................... 102 Pump Iron........................................................................................................... 103 Hold Eye Contact ............................................................................................... 103 Never Settle For The Second Best..................................................................... 104 Lead, Not Push Or Ask....................................................................................... 104 Learn To Say “No”.............................................................................................. 104 Don’t Take Any Bullshit ...................................................................................... 104
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Be More Adventurous......................................................................................... 104 Walk Tall ............................................................................................................ 105 Be Ambitious ...................................................................................................... 105 Have Charm: ...................................................................................................... 105 Be Sexual: .......................................................................................................... 105 Other Attractive Traits: ....................................................................................... 105 Chapter 7 ............................................................................................................. 107 Body Language Basics....................................................................................... 108 Postures ............................................................................................................. 108 Good Sitting Postures ........................................................................................ 109 Movements......................................................................................................... 110 The Dangers Of Stillness ................................................................................... 113 Voice Tone ......................................................................................................... 114 Chapter 8 ............................................................................................................. 123 What Kind Of Women You Should Date............................................................. 123 Where To Meet Women ..................................................................................... 125 Expand Your Social Circle.................................................................................. 128 Before You Approach ......................................................................................... 131 Direction Of Approach ........................................................................................ 133 Grab Her Attention With The Eye-Contact Test.................................................. 133 What If Nobody Notices You .............................................................................. 135 What If A Woman Makes Eye Contact With YOU .............................................. 139 Don’t Forget To SMILE When You Make Eye Contact....................................... 140 Your Opening Line ............................................................................................. 140 How To Start A Conversation ............................................................................. 141 The Four-Steps To Approaching A Woman ....................................................... 143 Step 1: Eye Contact and Smiling........................................................................ 143 Step 2: Use An Opening Line ............................................................................. 143 The Situation-Opener ......................................................................................... 143 The Compliment-Opener.................................................................................... 144 The Question-Opener......................................................................................... 144 A Quick Side Note .............................................................................................. 145 Step 3: Ask A More Specific Question................................................................ 145 Step 4: Introduce Yourself .................................................................................. 146 Chapter Summary .............................................................................................. 148 Chapter 9 ............................................................................................................. 150 The Point Of Conversation ................................................................................. 150 What To Talk About............................................................................................ 151 Topics To Avoid.................................................................................................. 152
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How To Keep A Conversation ............................................................................ 153 TECHNIQUE #1: Ask Open-Ended Questions ................................................... 154 TECHNIQUE #2: Active Listening ...................................................................... 155 TECHNIQUE #3: Being Empathetic ................................................................... 156 How To Develop A Conversation Through Subject Words................................. 156 How To Establish A Verbal Connection Quickly ................................................. 157 General Conversation Techniques: .................................................................... 158 Always Put The Spotlight On The Girl ................................................................ 159 Do Not Brag........................................................................................................ 159 From Emotions To Desire .................................................................................. 160 Using Her Desires To Your Advantage .............................................................. 162 Adding You To the Picture ................................................................................. 164 And Right When She’s Starting To Desire You…............................................... 165 Eliminate Garbage Words .................................................................................. 166 Other Conversation Tips .................................................................................... 167 How To See If A Woman Is Interested In The Conversation .............................. 167 Chapter 10 ........................................................................................................... 171 How To Stimulate Love With Your Eyes............................................................. 172 How To Get Sexier Eyes .................................................................................... 173 More Eye Contact Tricks .................................................................................... 174 Mirroring ............................................................................................................. 175 How To Induce Mirroring .................................................................................... 176 The Actual Mirroring ........................................................................................... 177 Touching ............................................................................................................ 177 Ways To Touch Her ........................................................................................... 178 Touching Technique #1: The Handshake........................................................... 178 Touching Technique #2: Touch Her Arms When She’s Funny........................... 178 Touching Technique #3: Read Her Palm ........................................................... 178 Touching Technique #4: Massage Her............................................................... 179 Prepare To Be Touched ..................................................................................... 179 Chapter 11 ........................................................................................................... 180 What to Compliment On: .................................................................................... 180 Details, Details, Details! ..................................................................................... 183 When and How Often ......................................................................................... 184 Mean What You Say: ......................................................................................... 185 Complimenting a Stranger: Hit And Run ............................................................ 185 How to Receive Compliments: ........................................................................... 186 Chapter 12 ........................................................................................................... 188 The Dangers Of Just Connecting With A Woman Emotionally ........................... 188
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If You Lack This, You’re Doomed… ................................................................... 188 Flirt For Skirt…Right From The Beginning ......................................................... 189 What Flirting Means ........................................................................................... 189 Your Playful Attitude........................................................................................... 190 Why Some Men Refuse To Flirt…...................................................................... 191 Overcoming Your Flirter’s Resistance ................................................................ 192 Test The Waters By Flirting ................................................................................ 194 Basic Flirting Techniques ................................................................................... 195 Is She Flirting Back…Or Not? ............................................................................ 197 How To Tease Women .......................................................................................... 199 How Little Boys Tease Little Girls....................................................................... 200 Busting Her Balls................................................................................................ 200 How To Be Funny: A Quick Lesson.................................................................... 201 Tip #1: Don’t Laugh At Your Own Jokes ............................................................ 202 Tip #2: Don’t Be Afraid To “Be A Man” ............................................................... 202 Send Mixed Feelings.......................................................................................... 203 Teasing Examples:............................................................................................. 206 Chapter 13 ........................................................................................................... 211 Flirting Over The Phone And Email........................................................................ 211 Flirting Over The Phone ..................................................................................... 211 Flirting Over The Phone ..................................................................................... 212 Chapter 14 ........................................................................................................... 215 Advanced Flirting Tactics....................................................................................... 215 Technique #1 - Romantic Intents Signaling........................................................ 215 Practice Phrases ................................................................................................ 215 Practice Verbs .................................................................................................... 216 Technique #2 – Act Like She’s Hitting On You................................................... 218 Technique #3 – Steal Her Frame ....................................................................... 218 Technique #4 – The Whisper Compliment ......................................................... 219 Technique #5 – Bartering ................................................................................... 219 Chapter 15 ........................................................................................................... 220 From Desire To Physical Action............................................................................. 220 Chapter 16 ........................................................................................................... 222 Golden Rules On Getting Digits ......................................................................... 223 Why Women Do Not Call Back........................................................................... 226 Chapter 17 ........................................................................................................... 229 Your First 10 Dates ................................................................................................ 229 Where To Go For The First Date........................................................................ 229 How To Set Up The Date ................................................................................... 231
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............................................................. 234 Let Her Catch You Checking Her Out .......................................................................... 237 What If A Woman Asks You If You Have A Girlfriend................................................................................................................................................................. 258 Observing Her Character ................................................... 239 What If A Woman Asks You If You’re A Player ..................... 244 What To Do After Dinner (What To Do Once You Have Her On The Couch) .................... 257 Chapter 19 ................... 254 Punisher Technique – The Silent Treatment ................... 241 A Few General Rules ........Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System What If She Flakes Out On You ................................................................................................................................... 271 Going Indoors........... 236 Dinner............................... 250 Why Women Test Men... 267 From Desire To Action: Getting Physical With Women.............All Rights Reserved . 271 How To Satisfy A Woman Physically.................... 267 If You’re Interested In A Long-Term Relationship.................................................................................................................................................. 250 Category 1: Asking You Questions................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................. 267 If You Just Want A One-Night Stand… ..................... 247 The “Blanket Cheat” Technique...................................................................................................................................................... 269 Holding Hands...................................................... 265 Chapter 20 ......... 263 Commitment ............................................ 250 How Women Test You And What You Can Do About It....................................................................Marius Panzarella ............................................................ 233 The First Date.......................... 269 First Kiss ............................................................................... 248 Chapter 18 ................. 252 Category 3: Challenging Or Disrespecting You ......... 264 A Quick Compatibility Test ................................................................................................................... 232 What to Wear On A First Date............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................. 258 5 Kinds Of Women To Avoid ..................................................... 240 How To Get A Second Date ..................................................................................................................................... 273 6 Copyright 2000-2007 ................................................................................................................. 262 Intimacy.............................................................. 264 Other Important Traits .. 255 How To Test Women.................................... 242 How To Invite A Woman To Go To Your Place ................................................................................................................................................................................ 253 Category 4: Trying To Change You / Dominate You ..................................... 260 Remember That You Cannot Change A Woman ....................................................................................................... 250 Category 2: Breaking Agreements .......................... 258 The Most Expensive Mistake In Dating ................................................... 254 Category 5: Sex Withdrawal .............................................................................................................
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How To Kiss ....................................................................................................... 274 Cuddling ............................................................................................................. 276 Touching ............................................................................................................ 277 Smelling and Licking .......................................................................................... 278 Talking Dirty ....................................................................................................... 278 Erogenous Zones - Where To Kiss, Touch, Smell or Lick .................................. 280 The Keys To Arousing Her – Anticipation and Denial......................................... 281 Chapter 21 ........................................................................................................... 283 How To Keep A Beautiful Girlfriend ....................................................................... 283 Stage 1 – The Courtship (First Date To “Will You Be My Girlfriend?”) ............... 283 Stage 2 – The Honeymoon Period (First 1-3 Months Of Being Together).......... 285 Stage 3 – The Getting To Know Each Other TOO well Period (3-12 months).... 285 Stage 4 – The “We’re Married” Period (1 Year And On)..................................... 286 The Key To Keeping A Relationship Healthy – Keep Her Attracted To you ....... 286 How A Woman Breaks Up With A Man .............................................................. 288 Breakups Do NOT Happen Overnight ................................................................ 288 Warning Flags .................................................................................................... 288 How To Play The Love Cop ............................................................................... 290 Surviving A Breakup........................................................................................... 290 Decide Whether You Want Her Back Or Not...................................................... 291 Should You Want Her Back… ............................................................................ 292 Move On............................................................................................................. 292 Chapter 22 ........................................................................................................... 294 Closing................................................................................................................... 294 Appendix A – How To Turn A Friend Into A Girlfriend............................................ 297 What If It Still Doesn’t Work................................................................................ 298 Appendix B – What Women Really Mean .............................................................. 300 Appendix C – Discipline and Self-Control .............................................................. 303 Appendix D – My View on Long Distance Relationships........................................ 306 Appendix E – Relationship Red Flags.................................................................... 308 Appendix F – How To Deal With Your Competition ............................................... 310 Appendix G – Tongue Twisters.............................................................................. 312
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From the desk of: Marius Panzarella, Lead Staff Writer
Why Most Guys are DEAD WRONG In The Dating Game
Dear Fellow Guy, Congratulations on your decision to get this part of your life handled. The purchase of this course may just be one of the smartest moves you’ve ever made for your love life. In fact, I must give you a big pat on the shoulder for taking this important step. I admire people who long to improve themselves for the better! You see, to me there are four kinds of losers in this world: The Macho Fool: The biggest loser in this world is the “macho guy” who cannot admit he has trouble with anything. He sneaks onto my website at three in the morning but never download anything. This is the kind of guy that will never get anywhere in life because of his unwillingness to learn. Remember the old saying, boys: Fools never learn from their own mistakes, smart men learn from their own mistakes, and wise men learn from other people’s mistakes. You are a very wise man. The Cheapskate: The second type of loser is the occasional cheapskate (1-2 a month) who makes a refund before he even tries my techniques in the real world. He just skims through the course, says, “I think I got this all down”,
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and makes up some lame excuse for a refund. I usually give these suckers a refund right away because I don’t want anything more to do with them. (They’re going to die lonely because their women are going to find out they are cheapskates sooner or later!) The “Mr. I Know It All!”: The third type of loser is the guy who reads my materials once, feels enlightened, and then throws everything out the window. This is the type of guy who bumps into the same wall and makes the same mistakes over and over again. Not very smart. The “I Can Stop Now” Guy: The last type of loser is the guy who takes the time to study the materials and practices the techniques until he scores a hot babe. But as time goes on, he gets cocky and begins to let his guard down. Well, guess what? He’s going to find himself single again not before long! Listen, success with women is like success in any other area of life. You must put effort into making it happen – and that means work. This course can give you the potential to become successful with women, but it is ultimately up to you to integrate the knowledge into your life and master the information into your experience. No pain, no gain. Get it?
Learning These “Smart Dating Tactics” Does NOT Make You “Manipulative” Person
Even though I trust you do not belong to the four categories of men listed above, I am sure you must have a few doubts on the tactics taught in this course. According to a survey I conducted not so long ago, the most common objection to learning and applying my “dating tactics” is, “Isn’t this stuff manipulative?”
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No. It’s no more “manipulative” than the things you’re already doing right now!
Think about what the “Average Joe” does when he bumps into a girl he likes: 1) He tries to win her heart by sending her flowers and buying her gifts. 2) He tries to impress her by boasting about his own success and achievements. Do you think Mr. Average Joe is a “manipulative” person? After all, he is using bribery and flattery. He is pushing a girl into sleeping with him by buying her expensive dinners. So is Average Joe really “being himself” when he tries to bribe women with flattery and gifts? By the way, what does “being yourself” mean? We always hear from women that we should just “be ourselves” when we’re around them, but what does “being yourself” mean? For Mr. Average Joe, it means stuttering and sweating his palms and tensing his body because he’s nervous. Not very attractive, is it? So…would you like to “be yourself” around women? Or would you rather be a confidant, masculine man that wins all the women’s hearts? Here’s the thing: you could “be yourself” and still attract women…if you could just follow some simple rules and tactics of dating.
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These rules and tactics by no means make you a “manipulative” person. You’re not going to be any more manipulative than the loser guy trying to “talk his way into a girl’s pants”. You’re not going to be any more manipulative than the Average Joe sending Miss Right flowers and cards. Heck. You’re not going to be any more manipulative than the computer geek putting on a nice shirt and brushing his teeth before he goes out. Here's the bottom line: there are many different ways of doing things. Some work better; some don't work as well. What I teach is another system of attracting women – one that works better. Just because this system is different than what you’re used to doing doesn’t mean it is evil or manipulative. Granted, you’re going to learn dating tactics that might be a bit different than the things you’ve done in the past. But just because these tactics are different does not mean they are ”manipulative”. Here’s your first assignment: I want you to walk down the magazine aisle of any grocery store. Check out all the headlines on the magazines. Note how all of the women’s favorite magazines such as Cosmopolitan and Glamour always have headlines such as “How To Attract Men And Keep Them” or “25 Ways To Get Him To Propose To You”. Does that mean women are manipulative? No. It just means they are smart. Women actually see the power of learning, and that’s why they usually have a HUGE advantage in the dating game. Unlike guys, they are PREPARED for battle. They even get together and girl-talks about how to handle their men. This is exactly why most guys get slaughtered by women in the dating game: Women know what they are doing, men don’t.
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But don’t worry. I’m here to help you. By the time you’re done with this course, you’re going to know all the tactics you’ll ever need to know to have great success with women.
Don’t Let Your Old Beliefs Limit Your Success
Some of these tactics might be common sense; some might be totally new or bizarre to you. But no matter what, I want you to keep an open mind. I’m going to use an example from one of my favorite books, Flatland. Put a penny on your table and look at it. It should appear as a circle. Now, “drawing back to the edge of the table, gradually lower your eye…and you will find the penny becoming more and more oval to your view; and at last when you have placed your eye exactly on the edge of the table… the penny will then have ceased to appear oval at all, and will have become, so far as you can see, a straight line.” (Abbott, 5) Now imagine you’re a 2D little figure living in a 2D, “flat” country. Just like the penny, everything you see should appear as a straight line to you. But does that mean everything you’re seeing is REALLY a straight line? Yes – but only in your reality. What I’m trying to do with this course is to bring you out of Flatland and into the real world. Your beliefs have served you very well in the past, but they’re also blocking you from success. Remember: in order to have the kind of success that you have never had before, you must first do things that you have never done before.
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Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System The best way to learn these new tactics would be to read the whole book from beginning to end. Don’t just read the book once and forget about it. Here’s my guarantee to you: If you spend the next 3 months working hard. As a matter of fact. You won’t even have to think twice before you strike up a conversation with a beautiful woman. I’ll do my best to work everything out with you. and I want to know what you think! Sincerely. you will be very successful in the dating game! Remember to email me with your ideas. everything will come to you naturally. keep it on your bookshelf and come back to it often. and suggestions at mariuspanzarella@datebeautifulwomen. Whenever you hit a wall or feel discouraged…drop me an email and ask for some advice. In time.All Rights Reserved . and if something isn’t working out for you. Remember to practice often.Marius Panzarella . DatingSupportCenter 13 Copyright 2000-2007 . don’t stop reading my book until you feel you are absolutely positively using the techniques! Print it out.com. Remember: your problems won’t go away unless you tackle them. then go back to the book and re-read the related topics again. comments. I am always in the process of updating my works. Try to digest and integrate the information into your own experience. Marius Panzarella Lead Staff Writer.
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psychologist Robert Sternberg developed a triangular theory of love. Intimacy Non Love Liking Infatuated Love Empty Love Romantic Love Companionate Love YES YES YES YES YES YES YES Passion Commitment 15 Copyright 2000-2007 . passion only produces “infatuated love”. true love has to exhibit all three components of his triangle theory: intimacy. these three components form eight different kinds of relationships. different combinations of these three components yield different kinds of love. 1) To Sterberg. passion. and commitment. passion. Together. and commitment. love has three components: intimacy. According to his theory. true love won’t occur. For example.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 1 The Smart System of Dating In 1997.Marius Panzarella . Commitment Intimacy Passion Should any of the three components go missing.All Rights Reserved . while passion and intimacy together produce “romantic love”. To Sternberg. (Sternberg.
Companionate Love: Companionate love is a kind of love that entails both intimacy and commitment.All Rights Reserved . Consummate Love: True love – what you’re going to have if you follow this course.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Fatuous Love Consummate Love YES YES YES YES YES The Different Kinds Of Love Explained Non Love: This is when you feel NOTHING for a person at all. religious. Romantic Love: Think love affairs. Liking: This is when you feel ATTRACTED to a person. Two people have passion and interests in each other. but not enough to act upon it. Infatuated Love: This is when you have a huge crush on someone. You don’t even want to be their friend. but not commitment.Marius Panzarella . They are in the game to play. A good number of marriages in America today consist of only empty love. or family reasons. but no passion. not to commit. Empty Love: Couples that do not love each other but stay together nevertheless due to financial. Fatuous Love: A kind of love marked by complacency in the relationship that entails passion and commitment. 16 Copyright 2000-2007 . but no intimacy. but don’t even know much about other the person at all. Think the married couples that have lost their sex drives.
But don’t worry . any time one or more of the three components go missing. passion. but it does not teach you how to get there.Marius Panzarella . Sternberg’s theory. As you will see. Sure. it characterizes different kinds of love. The purpose of this course is to get you the three components you need for every successful relationship: intimacy. and commitment. the relationship is doomed. The Three Components Illustrated Case 1 – Happily Ever After (Loving Relationship) Commitment Intimacy Passion Case 2 – No Passion (Let’s Just Be Friends) Commitment 17 Copyright 2000-2007 .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System The Smart Dating System Used In This Course The system we use in this dating course is similar to the Stenberg model. is descriptive. of course.All Rights Reserved .this course will get you there.
By the end of the course.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Intimacy ? Case 3 – No Intimacy (“We Don’t Understand Each Other) Commitment ? Passion Case 4 – No Commitment (“This Relationship Can’t Go Anywhere”) ? Intimacy Passion The Triangular Components Broken Down Now we’re going to break down the three components into more specific details. Passion We’re going to focus on passion throughout the course because it is the most important of the three. Don’t worry if things seem to be overwhelming at first. there can be no relationship.All Rights Reserved . Passion basically means sexual attraction. you will have everything down like a pro. 18 Copyright 2000-2007 .Marius Panzarella . and without sexual attraction.
we tend to want what we can’t have.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Passion is what you feel when you’re with someone you’re really attracted to. the more we’ll want them? And the more needy someone is. the less we’ll like them? That’s why it’s ALWAYS important to remain a challenge when it comes to the dating game. When we buy a new Porsche. desire? Desire comes from our subconscious mind. we’re going to die lonely. I like to call it the discomfort zone of a booming relationship. But deep inside. which is an important part of the equation for building passion. If we’re too easy. This discomfort zone is based on two things: Desire and doubt. We also tend to take things for granted.All Rights Reserved . you know you bought it because you wanted to buy it – and you’re now only justifying your feelings by coming up with logical reasons to “backup” your decision. That’s what you tell your parents. From this. As humans. So…we know that being a challenge can cause doubt.Marius Panzarella . It’s like buying a new Porsche. we can derive our first principle of attraction: Behavior Rule #1: People Want What They Can’t Have Have you noticed how the less available someone is. are we buying a new Porsche because of its powerful engine or nice gear? Ha. For example. But what about the other variable. we hope we will get a good job because we WANT a good job. 19 Copyright 2000-2007 . Desire is therefore based on our emotions.
We don’t “choose” to love at a conscious level. The things they say…like “he’s funny” or “he’s a nice guy” are only EXCUSES they’ve come up with to explain the decisions they’ve made based on their feelings. Intimacy relies on: 1) Giving – How much your lover is prepared to give to you. If a girl does not feel attracted to you. in doesn’t matter how logical it may seem that a woman “should” be in love with you. Intimacy: Intimacy is the reciprocal bonds between two people. you should attack their FEELINGS instead of their logic. 20 Copyright 2000-2007 . We only “feel” we’re “falling in love”. not logic. We will learn to do this with the “tease to please” and “flirt for skirt” methods later in the course. 2) Self-Disclosure – How much your lover is willing to open up for you.All Rights Reserved . In short. This is also why you can’t really ask girls to “explain” why they are in love with a certain man.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Behavior Rule #2: People Make Conscious Decisions Based on Subconscious Feelings A good thing to remember is that love is based on feelings. This is exactly why if you would like to be good with the ladies.Marius Panzarella . Think of it as the friendship between a couple. than no amount of convincing her that you’re the “right” one will do. 3) Flexibility – How flexible your lover is going to be around you.
It represents the inside of that person – such as her: Loyalty to a partner (you).All Rights Reserved . different women usually have different levels of character. 2) Integrity – How honest your lover is. Work ethnics. Respect for other people. The character of a woman determines her values.Marius Panzarella . Attitude towards life. 21 Copyright 2000-2007 . 3) Loyalty – How loyal your lover is. One-night-stands are different . More information on how to pick women with good character will be available in later chapters. In my opinion. commitment can also be substituted for another word: character. Honesty. I think you should get to know a woman’s character before you enter a long-term relationship with her. Due to various reasons such as childhood and education.but you should still try to make sure you don’t go home with a psycho. Personally.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Commitment: Commitment is the degree of a person’s willingness to commit to a relationship. It relies on: 1) Respect – How much respect your lover has for you.
she will NOT date you. such as leaders. we tend to pull away from people that are very needy. 22 Copyright 2000-2007 .All Rights Reserved . as it is often the only variable you can control. So what kind of people do we respect? The people that demonstrate emotional and physical independence. If you look at the ingredients of intimacy and commitment. she will NOT stay with you. the less respect we have for them. the only variable that you can control is respect. the more respect we have for them. This goes with Behavior Principle #2: We want what we can’t have. you will notice they’re mostly personality traits that you cannot control. You also cannot control how much integrity they have.Marius Panzarella . We’re naturally drawn to people that exhibit a high level of independence. you can’t control how giving someone is. The less someone needs us. You can’t control how flexible they are either. For example. if a woman does not respect you as a man. the less respect we have for them. At the same time. If a woman does not respect you as a potential boyfriend. The more needy a person is. passion is the most important.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Passion Is The Most Important Of the three components. And the more someone is available to us because they depend on us. Among the ingredients of intimacy and commitment.
However. we cannot control the level of intimacy and commitment in a relationship. Basically. we’re going to focus on just passion throughout the course. Ex-Force The Ex-Force is a term we’ve come up with to represent the negative “external forces” that are influencing your relationship. commitment. etc) 23 Copyright 2000-2007 . Our Definition Of Attraction According to the American Heritage Dictionary.” In this case. abuse.Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Since respect is the only variable under commitment and intimacy that we can control and since it really falls under passion. it is the combined force of intimacy. the definition of attraction is as follows: “A force acting mutually between particles of matter to draw them together and to resist their separation. Here are a few examples: 1) 2) 3) 4) 5) 6) Your age gap A competitor (like another guy) Your height Your bad looks Your skin color Your lover’s childhood trauma’s (Rape. and passion that form our attraction. it represents the forces of the obstacles that have a negative impact on your relationship. as you recall. This is why we’re going to ignore them on our basic formula and just say: Attraction = Passion.All Rights Reserved . We will learn how to use the “C Factor” (The Challenge Factor) and the “D Factor” (The Desire Factor) to attract women by increasing their passion for us.
If it is weaker.” Imagine an old-fashioned balance scale. Take a look at the examples on the next page: 24 Copyright 2000-2007 . If her attraction for you is stronger than the ex-force. she goes.All Rights Reserved .Marius Panzarella . On the other side is your date’s attraction for you. she stays.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 7) Distance 8) Fear of commitment 9) Religion 10) Family My “Love Balance Scale” For Love” Here’s a metaphor we invented a few years ago for our readers: the “love balance scale. On one side is an Ex-force exerting on you.
“Age Gap” – 100 Pounds Attraction – 150 Pounds Example 2: Your girl stays and ignores the age gap because she’s too attracted to you to do anything else.All Rights Reserved .Marius Panzarella . 25 Copyright 2000-2007 .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Examples: Attraction: 100 Pounds “Age Gap” – 150 Pounds Example 1: Your girl stops dating you because the attraction is not great enough for her to work out the age gap.
All Rights Reserved .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Attraction: 100 Pounds “Other Guy” – 150 Pounds Example 3: Your girl leaves because the “other guy” is much hotter than you.Marius Panzarella . “Other Guy” – 100 Pounds Attraction – 150 Pounds Example 4: Your girl stays with you because you’re more attractive than the other guy – even though he has a better job and more money than you. 26 Copyright 2000-2007 . even though you’re the “nicer guy”.
Get it? When they run into problems with women. You can’t change your skin colour. but you CAN change the weight of the attraction. you can’t change the weight of the Ex-Force because it is always constant. Here’s another way to put it: Whatever your “problem” is. it is out of your control.Marius Panzarella . she won’t care about your lack of hair. cajole. most guys tend to go after the WRONG things. Or your age. You can’t become younger. You can’t beat up the “other guy”. But you CAN increase a girl’s attraction for you. whine. and attraction cuts through everything. They try to beg. They try to “convince” that they are much better. You can’t grow taller.All Rights Reserved . You can’t grow more hair. Attraction cuts through everything. Or your height.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Attraction Cuts Through Everything As you can see from the examples above. 27 Copyright 2000-2007 . They try to “convince” the girl that the “other guy” is not reliable. If a girl is attracted to you enough. and plead.
After reading my materials. Case Study #2: Mark.) Case Study #1: John.) Our Smart Dating Method is a VERY powerful system that can solve whatever dating problems you’re having. guys: attraction IS everything. this system covers everything that is related to your love life. Understand this concept will already put you ahead of most guys. he realized that he was missing the one thing that made a relationship a romantic relationship instead of a friendship: passion. Remember. (Note: The names of the individuals have been changed to protect their identities.All Rights Reserved . we’re going to study a few sample cases. he followed the “C Factor” and acted happy about the breakup. To show you some of the things it can do. Unlike most approaches that cover only one-night stands or long-term relationships. But instead of getting upset.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System When they should have been attracting the girl all along. Age 23 Mark had had a secret crush on his best friend since he was 16. 28 Copyright 2000-2007 . Age 20 John was dumped by his girlfriend. His girlfriend broke down and tried to “win him back” over the next few weeks. (It’s easy to READ this information. Case Studies We’ve just gone through an awful lot of information that will probably take a few weeks for you to digest. He followed my flirting advice and got his best friend to ask him out. but much harder to apply these concepts to EVERY aspect of your love life.Marius Panzarella .
“A-ha!” Case Study #4: Bruce. and passion. he realized that his relationship was lacking respect and passion.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved . Age 36 Bruce was feeling miserable because his wife was drifting away. and giving. 29 Copyright 2000-2007 . Age 51 Tim fell in love with a young woman (30) and was worried of the age gap. integrity and loyalty. Passion consists of desire and uncertainty. But since we cannot always control intimacy and commitment. He used the “C Factor” to pull back and his ignited passion in his relationship again. Commitment consists of respect.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Case Study #3: Tim. The word character can be substituted for commitment since a woman’s character often dictates her commitment to a relationship. Together. which leave: Passion = attraction. Chapter Summary So far…we’ve learned the three basic components of love: intimacy. Then he looked at the love balance scale model and emailed back. we can cancel them out. or the magnetic force that pulls two people together. After using the love triangle to diagnose his relationship. commitment. they combine into attraction. Intimacy consists of flexibility and self-disclosure.
we can see the importance of: Attracting women instead of using “logic” to convince them.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System This attraction cuts through everything and overcomes any Ex-force (resistance) such as family and religion. (The “C” Factor) Now…let’s talk more about attraction and debunk a few conventional rules of dating… 30 Copyright 2000-2007 .Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved . Rules To Remember: Behavior Rule #1: People Want What They Can’t Have Behavior Rule #2: People Make Conscious Decisions Based on Subconscious Feelings Based on these two rules. (The “D” Factor) Giving them enough challenge to keep their interests for us.
we >THERE WAS THIS GIRL I MET SOMETIMES BACK. The girl I love is unfortunately someone >else’s girlfriend. Every time I see her I >just can’t resist her. I >AM AFRAID OF TELLING HER I LOVE HER PLZ KINDLY >HELP ME OUT CUZ IF I DONT GET TO HAVE THIS GIRL >I MAY DIE > THANKS! Subject: Something About Love >Hey man. SHE IS >THE MOST BEAUTIFUL GIRL I HAVE EVER SEEN IN MY >LIFE BUT I HAVE NEVER TOLD HER THIS CUZ I DONT >KNOW HOW SHE IS GOING TO FEEL. HONESTLY I >DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL THIS GIRL I LOVE HER. but most are desperate pleas for help with dating.All Rights Reserved .Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 2 Basic Smart Dating Rules Don’t let your feelings blind you! receive dozens of emails every day. Here are a few examples: Subject: PLZ HELP ME OUT A s one of the most popular dating advice sites on the Internet. Is there any way of making her come to me and >dumping her boyfriend? >Hoping to hear from you! 31 Copyright 2000-2007 . Some are thank-you letters or inquiries about the various products and services we offer. I try to forget about her but can’t. There is a problem.
Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Subject: I Need Help With A Woman >Hi there Marius you may have forgotten about me but I have not.). She asked me to give her some time to think about our >relationship. Why?” “Why did she cancel the date?” 32 Copyright 2000-2007 .All Rights Reserved . She said that she had too >much on and that it was not fair on me.I know she loves me because she said it.Marius Panzarella . How do I go about doing so? Do you see a trend among these mails? About 90 percent of these emails contain questions such as: “Why isn’t she answering my calls?” “I love her so much but she’s ignoring me. First time I called her then she said she would >call me. But here is the catch she told me 2 times she was going to >call me but she never did. All that I want to do is get back >together with her. Is she playing with me or >is she serious? My question is: what can I do to make her love me more >or call me? I really love her and she broke my heart went to said that she >should stop seeing each other Subject: Help! >I have recently broke up with my girlfriend. but she didn’t. Second time the same. So I called her later and >she told me that she needed some time off because she just broke up >with her old boyfriend (they were dating for 3 years). well we were kinda dating we >talked on the phone everyday and we were exchanging e-mails (but we >never went out because she is busy on my days off and I am busy on her >days off. >About a week ago I was dating this girl. Ok about 4 days ago I >went to visit her we talked and then when I was leaving she told me to >call her because she had something to tell me. and that we were >going too fast.
” Well. She just can’t trust nice guys like me anymore. it is NOT because of the external forces. there’s only one reason: SHE ISN’T ATTRACTED TO YOU ROMANTICALLY.” “Maybe she said I am ‘too good for her because deep inside. Often.” “Maybe she is ignoring me because she doesn’t know how much I love her.Marius Panzarella . They always fantasize in their heads about all the “possible scenarios” of why a girl isn’t returning their phone calls. but if a girl is ignoring you or breaking up with you. she loves me and wants me to be happy. these guys always try to analyze everything to bits with logic. Remember the love balance scale from the previous chapter? When a girl does not want to go out with you. they come up with creative reasons such as: “Maybe she isn’t answering my calls because her father is in town and she has to spend time with him. I am sorry.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System “Why did she say I am ‘too good for her’?” “Why doesn’t she want to go out with me anymore?” Interestingly enough.” “Maybe she’s just playing hard to get. 33 Copyright 2000-2007 .All Rights Reserved .” “Maybe she cancelled our date because she has to work tomorrow morning.” “Maybe she doesn’t want to go out with me anymore because of childhood trauma. it is because her attraction for you is not strong enough.
But How Much She Likes You That Counts! Most guys let their feelings blind them as soon as they meet a hot chick. she must feel the same way about me!” Uh-huh. Your “love” for her really does not mean anything to her.Marius Panzarella . Here’s the bottom line: SHE HAS TO LIKE YOU FIRST BEFORE YOU CAN START ANYTHING WITH HER. In some cases. Wrong! She does not care about how much you love her.when the girl is not even showing ANY romantic interest in them. It also has nothing to do with how much you like her. give her flowers. You could give her all your love and she would still reject you. most guys do NOT realize this. she’s not going to marry you because she is not attracted to you at all. If a girl does not like you. then you’re just like the fat chick with a beard. are you going to marry her on the spot? No way! The same thing is true for women. Here’s my first dating bombshell for you… Smart Dating Rule #1: It’s Not How Much You Like Her. If a fat chick with a black beard tells you she loves you. No matter how hard you try. and shower her 34 Copyright 2000-2007 . Sadly.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System It has nothing to do with a busy schedule or childhood trauma. the girl doesn’t even NOTICE them.All Rights Reserved . They think: “Since I think she is the most wonderful person in the world. You can buy her a house. They start fantasizing about spending the night with her or even building a future with her . take her to Paris. she only cares about how much SHE likes you! Think about it.
At each step of the dating game. she will try her very darn best to make you feel happy.Marius Panzarella . On the other hand. Every once in awhile. cries for him.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System with tons of other gifts. but women choose. if you have a girl who loves you with all her heart. but how much the girl likes you that counts? Comparison Chart Average Frustrated Chump Smart Dater . There are NO limits to what a girl would do for the man she loves.Thinks that a girl “should” . you hear on the news about a “bad boy” who beats up his wife or girlfriend. Why? Because the girl is super-attracted to him! See what I mean when I say it’s not how much you like the girl. women are the choosers. She could be working a 60-hour job. She may take your gifts.Understands that his own like him back because he feelings have NOTHING to “loves” her. Smart Dating Rule #2: You Need Permission To Advance When it comes to dating. but she’s not going to make you happy at all because she does not like you in the first place. Men pick. a girl has to give you the permission to advance 35 Copyright 2000-2007 . but she’s still going to find time to go out with you – if she likes you enough. and even waits for him to get out of jail. the girl stands up for him in court.All Rights Reserved . but when the police finally take him away. do with the outcome of the situation. The guy hits and abuses the poor girl every day.
she will let you talk. he just snaps and tells the girl that he loves her.Marius Panzarella . Otherwise. it’s called “sexual harassment”. The girl freaks and says. she will let you… Get it? Okay. (Otherwise. He starts following the girl around like a puppy and soon becomes her new best “guy friend”. she will give you a second date. she will give you the phone number. He hides his feelings for a couple of months until he can’t take it anymore.All Rights Reserved . If she likes your approach. But please don’t ever bring this up again!” Why is the girl reacting in such a negative manner? Because she never expected this to happen in the first place.) Let me show you what I mean: If she likes your style or looks. If she likes the first date. “I’m flattered. she will let you kiss her. she will let you approach her. Here’s a classic scenario: A guy meets a hot blonde at work and it’s love at first sight – but only on his end. One day. She never gave you the permission to hit on her. If she likes you holding her hand. If she likes the conversation.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System before you can take things to the next level. would you marry her? I think not! Remember: a girl must give you permission before you can “take things to the next level”. Think about this: if a really ugly friend of yours suddenly told you she loves you all of a sudden. If she likes your French kiss. you’re just invading her personal space and she won’t be too 36 Copyright 2000-2007 .
37 Copyright 2000-2007 .Marius Panzarella . A lot of “love experts” tell you a woman must like you if her ankles are positioned in a certain way and her neck is tilted at whatever angle and she’s looking at you from whatever angle…blah blah blah. Guess what? I don’t agree at all.All Rights Reserved . So if you surprise her with a “I love you” when she’s not even remotely interested in you. If a girl wants you to advance. Some these clues are included in their body language: Common Signs That Show A Woman Likes You (Body Language) Smiling Blushing Touching Winking Flipping or playing with hair Playing with button/shirt/accessories Intense Eye Contact While it is useful to recognize these body language signs. That’s called sexual harassment. I find it much easier to keep everything simple. you’re just setting yourself up for rejection.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System happy about it. You can’t just walk up to a woman and kiss her. she will let you know. Women want safety and comfort (see rule number #7). I actually think it is dangerous for these “experts” to mislead their students with these body language signals. Women DO give out subtle clues to guys they are interested in.
if she let’s you stroke her hair. You begin by smiling at her. let’s say you’re meeting a girl at a club. “This girl wants my dick!” This is fatal . she will probably let you hold her hand. Then you can nod and smile again. then she’s NOT interested. After reading about some “body language” tips from a love doctor. See how this little trick can save you a lot of embarrassment? You can use it to screen out all the cold women! The same principle can be applied to the rest of the dating game. she will probably let you kiss her.All Rights Reserved . So how do you tell if she’s interested? Well. If she turns away and stares at the other guys. If she touches you. she’s giving you permission to approach her. If you still approach her without her permission.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Why? Because most guys EXAGGERATE the amount of interest a woman may have in them. you’re only going to embarrass yourself. A lot of women are merely being “nice” when they smile at you. they see a FRIENDLY smile from a woman and immediately think. And the failure to recognize “nice” from “niiice” can cause you a lot of embarrassment. it’s quite simple.Marius Panzarella .especially in a professional environment. get it? But let’s say she smiles back sweetly. Get it? 38 Copyright 2000-2007 . If she’s still receptive. You test the waters and ask yourself the following question: “Is she receptive of my advances? For example.
2) She keeps turning AWAY from you when you try to approach her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System I know how much we guys love real life examples. So let me give you a couple of “real life” examples: Signs A Girl DOESN’T Want You To Advance. She asks you questions.All Rights Reserved . 5) She hesitates when you ask for her number 6) She doesn’t return your calls 7) She backs off when you lean towards her. Signs A Woman Is Giving You The Permission To Advance! 1) She smiles back when you smile at her. Like she makes absolutely NO effort in talking talk to you. (She’s giving you permission to get to know her!) 39 Copyright 2000-2007 . comments on whatever you’re saying.Marius Panzarella . 4) She keeps checking out all the other guys while you make small talk. (She’s giving you permission to approach!) 2) She’s interested in talking to you. 3) She seems to be bored when you talk to her. and answers your questions. 1) She ignores you when you smile at her. Or maybe she just answers your questions “politely” when her mind is clearly elsewhere.
Marius Panzarella . Always TEST THE WATERS and watch the signals she sends you. (She’s giving you permission to kiss her!) . (She’s giving you permission to take things to the next level!) 6) She lets you hold your hand. (She’s giving you permission to show her your prowess!) As a man. (She’s giving you permission to touch her!) 4) She gives you her phone number. your job is to learn to recognize these signals and make good use of them. Dating Tip: Always Test The Waters First! Dating is 50% leading and 50% reacting.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 3) She touches you.All Rights Reserved . (She’s giving you permission to ask her out!) 5) She goes on a date with you. (She’s giving you permission for more physical contact – possibly a kiss!) 7) She lets you stroke her hair. (She TRUSTS you and therefore gives you permission to advance!) 9) She lets you sit on her bed. Decrypt these signals and use them to determine whether you should 40 Copyright 2000-2007 . 8) She lets you into her house. (She MAY be giving you permission to cuddle! 10) She keeps grinding her hips on you.
Smart Dater Tests for signs of attraction before advancing. Here’s a general rule: never try to read a woman’s mind. Does not recognize any rejection signals or buying signals. And when the girl doesn’t.All Rights Reserved . Makes a girl feel comfortable and safe Takes small steps.Marius Panzarella . Most guys tend to project their own feelings onto their dream women. Makes a girl feel. a girl should like them back. they get very upset. Does not invade a girl’s personal space. You will save yourself a lot of embarrassment this way! A lot of times. Gets permission from women before advancing. 41 Copyright 2000-2007 . they think that just because they like a girl. Smart Dating Rule #3: Stay Objective It is extremely important that you stay objective while you’re dating a woman. Moves slowly. Stay objective. Moves too fast. guys are so blinded by their own lusts and emotions that they fail to see any of the signals women are giving them. For example.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System advance or retreat. uncomfortable Skips many steps. Don’t make the same mistake. Comparison Chart Average Frustrated Chump Does not seek permission. That’s why they have no idea when they should advance and when to back off. Invades a girl’s personal space.
you should never believe a woman’s words 100 percent – especially if she’s playing mind games.All Rights Reserved . I call it the “action compass”. Let me show you what I mean: 1) If a girl tells you she loves you verbally but she’s being a bitch to you otherwise. If she 42 Copyright 2000-2007 . Next time you talk to a woman. Similarly. then she’s just lying about her love for you. They play mind games because mind games can usually help them get what they want. never mind her words – just focus on her action. Whenever we try to read a girl’s mind.” Bullshit. For example…we might think “She probably doesn’t want to get into a relationship with me yet because she’s still hurting from her past relationship. I’m going to teach you one simple trick you can use when you’re not sure if a girl likes you or not. I can bet you money that a woman ALWAYS has a certain intention in mind when she throws a tantrum or plays mind games. We’re actually explaining her action in a biased way in order to justify our opinion of what she should be thinking about. we're not actually reading her thoughts. or if you’re getting lost in one of her “mind games”. If you were the guy she REALLY wanted…she would be DYING to have you. And very often their intention will show through their action.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Why? Because you are probably going to be wrong. but she can’t make up her actions. A woman can make up stories to tell you.Marius Panzarella .
Well.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 2) 3) 4) 5) truly loved you. Chances are she is just using the “something stupid” to get something else. Don’t bother to stick 43 Copyright 2000-2007 . who will be VERY happy cause they’re blinded by their feelings and don’t realize that the girl is only going out with them to be polite. she shouldn’t be acting like a bitch. would she? If a girl whines about something stupid. you know you have to work extra hard during the date to impress her.All Rights Reserved . then it doesn’t matter if she calls you the biggest jerk on earth! Her actual action shows she likes you – quite a lot. watch her action closely. Dating Tip: The Action Compass Always use the action compass whenever you get lost in a woman’s mind game or tantrum. her action still shows she’s a bitch! With a little bit of practice. Does her action show she’s trying to get attention from you? Or maybe approval? If a girl hesitates when you ask her out. A girl is calling you names and hitting you on the chest. Unlike most guys. no matter what excuses she makes up after. A girl agrees to go out with you but doesn’t show up at the date.Marius Panzarella . Don’t be annoyed by the “something” she’s telling you about. But is she being playful about it? If so. you can use this “action compass” to navigate your way out every time you get lost in one of her mind games or tantrums. even if she says “yes” you know you’re in trouble because her tone and body language shows she’s just being nice.
Remember: you can’t beat a woman in her own game. Smart Dater Remains objective. Focuses on what women SAY instead of what they DO.All Rights Reserved . attraction cuts through everything. so just get the hell out! Comparison Chart Average Frustrated Chump Projects his own feelings onto a girl. Smart Dating Rule #4: Attraction Cuts Through Everything Remember the love balance scale from the last chapter? Ex-Force (Any Kind Of Problem) – 100 Pounds Attraction – 150 Pounds According to the love balance scale. It doesn’t matter how strong the exforce is . 44 Copyright 2000-2007 .Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System around and get all emotional with her.as long as the attraction is stronger. Focuses on what women DO instead of what they SAY.
job.Marius Panzarella . and just about everything else. So…just stop whining about things you can’t change and work on her attraction for you instead. attraction cuts through everything. or baldness. Heck. Smart Dater Focuses on keeping a woman attracted to him because at the end of the day. She would stop flirting with other guys. Don’t complain about your girl’s shyness. age. She wouldn’t care about your height. Keep your girl attracted to you. looks. attraction cuts through everything. If your girl were more attracted to you.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System So stop whining about your height. She would stop cheating on you. Smart Dating Rule #5: Attract. wealth status. height. or skin color. these problems would be solved automatically. Comparison Chart Average Frustrated Chump Whines about his age. At the end of the day. She wouldn’t care about her family’s opinion. and she will stay with you for life. She might even elope with you if she liked you enough. Don’t cry about your girl cheating on you with another guy.All Rights Reserved . Not Chase 45 Copyright 2000-2007 . skin colour. baldness.
This is what most guys do. it is very important that you attract instead of chase. she might use you for a short while. Attracting a woman means communicating with her sexual feelings and building a connection with her directly. They are the guys that know how to tease to please and how to flirt for skirt. Smart Dater Communicates with women sexually. Showers a woman with gifts. but she’s going to leave you sooner or later for another guy because she wasn’t attracted to you in the first place. 46 Copyright 2000-2007 . not logic. Sure.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Since attraction is based on feelings.All Rights Reserved . They aren’t the guys that beg and push a girl into going out with them. We’ll teach you these techniques later in the course. if a girl is not attracted to you romantically. Attracts women. flowers. you will see that the guys that are really good with women are the guys that communicate with women sexually. Unfortunately. Comparison Chart Average Frustrated Chump Communicates with women “logically”. They aren’t the guys that shower a woman with attention. Chasing a woman means using “logic” to “convince” her that you would make a suitable mate for her. If you look around. Knows to “tease to please” and “flirt for skirt”. and compliments.Marius Panzarella . no amount of “chasing” will make her stay. Tries to chase women.
we might sleep with sluts. You aren’t being Duan Juan when you put a woman above everything else in your life. If you never act like a challenge. but they’re never going to marry or stay with a guy who’s not a challenge. How boring! Furthermore. Everybody enjoys a challenge. She already knows that she has you wrapped around her little fingers. why would a woman have to worry about losing you…ever? She already knows that you will always like her. sane women don’t want you to act like they are the only thing in your life that’s important. Nobody likes a mate who’s too easy. you are just being pathetic. They want you to actually have a life. It will raise the stakes higher on the woman’s part and make her work harder to keep you. 47 Copyright 2000-2007 .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Smart Dating Rule #6: Be A Challenge To Create Passion Here’s something you can do right now to stand out from most guys out there: be a challenge. Remember the formula we learned in chapter 1: Hope + Uncertainty = Passion The quickest and easiest way to stir up someone’s romantic passions is to create some uncertainty by acting like a challenge.All Rights Reserved . Women might exploit them when they are between boyfriends. I can guarantee you one thing. but we never stick around after. She already knows that you will be there for her no matter what. a woman will lose her attraction in you sooner or later and go for somebody else.Marius Panzarella . Jeez. Think about it: As men. Wussy guys are the male equivalent of sluts. If you don’t act like a challenge.
would you like to hang out so I could show you a few more tricks?” What would you say then? 48 Copyright 2000-2007 . Focuses on keeping a woman attracted to him because at the end of the day. would you say “yes”. ”As a thank you for downloading my course…and to help you improve your success with women. Acts really needy. Seeks approval.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Comparison Chart Average Frustrated Chump Gives no challenge. Afraid to leave a relationship. Has a life outside the relationship. knowing that I’m a man? Of course not! (And no. if I were to ask you to go out with me on a date right now. if I ever dropped by your city. Tells a woman that he “loves” her too early. Not afraid to walk out of a relationship any time. Smart Dater Acts like a challenge. attraction cuts through everything. Makes a woman the central part of his life. Independent.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved . Let me give you an example. Smart Dating Rule #7: Comfort Level Is Important One of the biggest mistakes men make is to make women uncomfortable when they ask them out. I wouldn’t go out with you later…) But if I were to ask. Tries to “please” a woman .
They “hide” their feelings until they can’t hold it inside anymore…and then what do they do? They tell the woman that they like her and ask her on a date! If you were a woman. Comparison Chart Average Frustrated Chump Makes a woman feel uncomfortable “Surprises” a woman with words of love Asks a woman out all of a sudden (in her point of view) Scare women away. unless a woman is already very attracted to you.All Rights Reserved . Uses the flirt test to test for attraction. Here’s the lesson: If you’re blunt and direct. but most of my fans and readers would jump at the opportunity. I don’t know about you. she’s going to say “no”. Smart Dater Makes a woman feel comfortable.Marius Panzarella . Why? Because you’re making her uncomfortable with your advances! Look at what most guys do when they have a crush on a woman. We make sure a woman is comfortable with our advances before we advance more. 49 Copyright 2000-2007 . Builds attraction before he asks a woman out. We use techniques such as the “flirt-test” to test for signs of attractions and to increase the attraction before we ask a woman out.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Well. wouldn’t this make you feel very uncomfortable too? This is why the “Smart Dating System” takes a different approach.
) YES____ NO____ 50 Copyright 2000-2007 . Not Chase Smart Dating Rule #6: Be A Challenge To Create Passion Smart Dating Rule #7: Comfort Level Is Important Quick Self-Test: Are You Following The Smart Dating Rules? Do the follow self-test to see where you stand in the dating game: 1) Have you talked to your crush before. “She’s sick”.Marius Panzarella . or does she not even know who you are? YES____ NO____ 2) Do you want to “convince” your crush that you are the right guy for her because you love her? YES____ NO____ 3) Has she rejected you before? YES____ NO____ 4) Do you ever “rationalize” a rejection or a break of date? (“She’s busy”. But How Much She Likes You That Matters! Smart Dating Rule #2: You Need Permission To Advance Smart Dating Rule #3: Stay Objective Smart Dating Rule #4: Attraction Cuts Through Everything Smart Dating Rule #5: Attract.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Summary of the Smart Dating Rules Smart Dating Rule #1: It’s Not How Much You Like Her. etc) YES____ NO____ 5) Do you skip over steps? (Example: Ask a woman out before you flirt with her.All Rights Reserved .
All Rights Reserved . flowers.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 6) Do you invade a girl’s personal space? (As in ignoring her rejection signals. and compliments? YES____ NO____ 14) Have you ever given a woman a gift or flowers on the first five dates? YES____ NO____ 15) Do you do everything she asks you to do? YES____ NO____ 16) Do you tell her your feelings about her? YES____ NO____ 17) Do you wear your heart on your sleeve? YES____ NO____ 18) Do you try to impress her? YES____ NO____ 19) Do you seek her approval? YES____ NO____ 20) Do you try to please her? YES____ NO____ 51 Copyright 2000-2007 .Marius Panzarella .) YES____ NO____ 7) Do you project your own feelings onto a girl? YES____ NO____ 8) Focus on what she says instead of what she does? YES____ NO____ 9) Worry about your height? YES____ NO____ 10) Worry about your age? YES____ NO____ 11) Worry about your race? YES____ NO____ 12) Worry about your _______? YES____ NO____ 13) Do you chase women with gifts.
In that case.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved . with no exceptions. until you have the discipline to follow the rules rigidly. They are rules that you must follow at all times. and you’re going to be out of her life – forever. Make a few more mistakes. whether you know it or not. Remember: every time you break one of these rules.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System If you have answered “yes” to any of the questions. Go out and practice the seven dating rules. Memorize the rules and do the self-quiz every week. you should go back and study this chapter again. it means you have made a mistake with a girl and lowered her attraction for you. 52 Copyright 2000-2007 . you don’t understand your game yet.
Their complaints are out of pure jealousy.Marius Panzarella . Log onto any Internet forum. The only advantage “jerks” have over “nice guys” is that “jerks” usually carry more traditional masculine traits. In the past 5 billion of years of evolution.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 3 Chapter 3: Attraction Secrets Exposed attraction: S o…what DO women want? This is the question we will answer in this chapter.All Rights Reserved . Don’t buy into this propaganda. They just like masculine men. masculine males have always been the men women fight over because they are: more physically fit more self-disciplined more decisive more spontaneous/adventurous 53 Copyright 2000-2007 . asexual guys that have been conditioned by their mothers and sisters to be “nice” to women. Let’s begin by debunking a few common myths about Myth #1: “Women Only Like Jerks” A common misconception about women is that they are only interested in “jerks”. and you will most likely see depressing posts written by computer geeks about how “nice guys always finish last” and how “girls only go for assholes”. Listen: women don’t like “jerks”. These theories are just excuses for the poor love lives of frustrated.
1) Do you work out at the gym at least 3 days a week? YES____ NO____ (Explanation: Although your mama might have taught you that “the pen is mightier than the sword”.All Rights Reserved .Marius Panzarella . and Lord Byron. A girl will never know what surprise his guy has in store for her. Think Alexander the Great.) 2) Are you a leader? YES____ NO____ (Explanation: Most of the world’s greatest lovers have been the greatest leaders as well.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System - more mature more responsible more successful more hardworking more determined more intelligent more interesting more independent more confident more exciting more sexual Quick Self-Test: Are You Following The Smart Dating Rules? Do the following quick self-test to see how masculine you are. Women love them because they are so unpredictable.) 3) Are you an adventurer? YES____ NO____ (Explanation: Adventurous/spontaneous men are the most exciting males on this planet. Kennedy.) 54 Copyright 2000-2007 . going to the gym and having a great body shows that you’re a real man with self-control and dedication who’s determined to succeed.
We will talk more about this in the next couple of chapters.” A second misconception about attraction is that “opposites attract”. Remember this.) Not matter how well or how poorly you scored on the self-test. beliefs. So if you want to spare yourself some trouble. If you can’t stand her lifestyle now. This is the biggest lie since the Nigerian letter scam.” 55 Copyright 2000-2007 . it’s not just her body you’re marrying. This is why it’s very important you find a mate who’s similar to you. and lifestyles. You can pick up all the masculine traits without becoming an abusive jerk.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 4) Are you very sexual? YES____ NO____ (Explanation: Most of the really successful people and greatest lovers in history were very sexual. People always find other people that share similar values and attitudes more attractive. It has been proven over and over by psychologists that like attracts like. I want you to understand that you can become a more masculine man without becoming a jerk. You’re also marrying her values. they are not going to find a connection. He sees it not as something embarrassing. pick the right gal to start off with! Myth #3: “Women Aren’t Sexual By Nature. If two people do not share similar values. guys: When you marry a girl. Your problems are just going to magnify. Myth #2: “Opposites Attract. A real man is not afraid to embrace his own sexuality. but as a great force of motivation that can push him towards success. things are only going to get worse as time goes on.All Rights Reserved . beliefs. and lifestyle.Marius Panzarella .
you will probably notice that most guys have been poisoned by the media and by the own mothers to believe in the “nice guy culture”. and you will see that the bestlooking women always have REGULAR sex. why don’t they admit it? The reason most women SAY they don’t like sex is because they are afraid of being labeled as a “slut”. a lot of women repress their sexuality for fear of being branded as a “slut” or “ho”. why are still they doing it? Social-Biological Conditioning So…if women love sex.Marius Panzarella . Lastly. But you know what? A few decades of talk shows and misinformation aren’t going to change 5 billion years of evolution.All Rights Reserved .V says women want to find a “good man” that they can love. Everywhere. Society has conditioned women into thinking that sex is only for “tramps” and “whores”. As a result. Women go onto talk shows to cry about how they can’t find a non-abusive partner. Talk to any attractive women. guys are supposed to control their sexual urges and pretend they want everything from women except sex. Don’t buy into the garbage that women don’t like sex. 56 Copyright 2000-2007 . and that you should never sleep with a guy until you know him really well. women talk about meeting their “soul mates”. If they hate it so much.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System If you look around you today. Sex is still the key to reproduction – the reason we’re here on earth. What women want today hasn’t changed much from what women wanted millions of years ago. Think about it. according to New-Age feminists. Everybody on T.
As she smiles at you. you can tell she is missing a front tooth.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System In short. and you know NOTHING about her yet – except that she’s one of the most beautiful girls you’ve ever met. No matter what society tells us. a couple hundred years of modern social conditioning cannot undo five billion years of natural evolution. sex nevertheless is sometimes a source of anxiety. & Solomon.All Rights Reserved . Let’s say you’ve just met this girl at a party. She smiles at you as you look into her deep. Ask yourself honestly: Would you feel at least a bit attracted to this girl? Next. blue mini-skirt that just manages to cover her small tight ass. Let me give you a quick example: Imagine a girl standing of you. Her fat legs are sitting on a pair of old. Her white crop top stretches sideways to cover her ample breasts. shame. Pyszczynski. Greenberg. ugly chick in front of you. and disgust for humans. imagine a fat. sex is threatening because it “makes us acutely aware of our sheer physical and animal nature. 2000) But once again. In today’s modern society. we still respond to the same sexual signals as our ancestors did billions of years ago. Would you feel attracted to her at all? 57 Copyright 2000-2007 . as humans. stinky sneakers. Some scientists have suggested that “despite its potential for immense physical pleasure and the crucial role that it plays in propagating the species. Her soft golden hair flows beautifully over her perfect shoulders. Her hair is all messy and gross. There’s fat squeezing out of the old dress she’s wearing. blue eyes.” (Goldenberg. wearing a small. our sexual urges have been repressed by our social conditioning. and is always subject to cultural norms and social regulation.Marius Panzarella .
All Rights Reserved . Every day you get home from work. works like a farmer. dressed in her plus-sized lingerie. but your genital tells you the skinny girl would be better in bed. and Id If you have taken a psychology class before. Why? Because you cannot control your DNA. lie. you will be find your oversized princess lying in bed. She promises to do all your chores for the rest of your life and to never nag. As for the more attractive girl…there are always tons of guys flirting with her …and she can’t cook at all. and sucks like a hoover. the superego and the id: Conscious Mind Ego Unconscious Mind Superego ID 58 Copyright 2000-2007 . cheat. winking at you seductively with her fat knees up over her head. Logic tells you that the fat woman would make a better wife. Superego.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Now…let’s say that this fat. you should know that the human mind is divided into the ego. The girl cooks like a chef. She also gets upset when you don’t give her enough attention and she whines when you don’t call her enough.Marius Panzarella . ugly chick is the BEST wife you could ever have. Which girl are you more attracted to now? Probably still the prettier girl. Ego. She loves sex too.
) We’re now going to put these three theories together to form our Attraction Egg Model: Imagine an egg with a yolk inside… Resistance Sexual State 59 Copyright 2000-2007 . The superego contains the rules and restrictions of society.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System The id is completely unconscious and contains your instincts – including your libido (sex drive). The Smart Dating System’s Attraction Model So far in this chapter. Think of it as your social conditioning. 3) Women are sexual (They all have libidos in their unconscious minds. we’ve covered: 1) The social conditioning of women. It acts as a mediator between the id and the superego. (“Sex is for ho’s”) 2) The “likes attract likes” rule . When it comes to love and romance. The ego is the “logical” self – the part of the mind that controls your behavior.All Rights Reserved . a woman cannot control her attraction for a masculine guy.Marius Panzarella . Just like you can’t control your attraction for a beautiful girl. a woman’s libido tells how she should be feeling.
All Rights Reserved . or how horny she is for you. However. As more feelings build up within the malleable yolk.Marius Panzarella . it does let one thing go through: feelings. it will have no choice but to expand… Sexual State Until it reaches the surface: Sexual State 60 Copyright 2000-2007 . Outside the yolk is her resistance.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System In the middle of the attraction egg is a malleable yolk that represents a woman’s sexual state. what we want to do is to send feelings through her resistance wall and into her sexual state. To attract a woman. This is an impenetrable wall of resistance that you cannot infiltrate with any kind of physical power.
desire. Finally. Desire.Marius Panzarella . We then arouse her curiosity and match our feelings with hers to create a bond between us. we take physical action to advance things to the next level.All Rights Reserved . 61 Copyright 2000-2007 . Using the techniques shown in this course.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System At this point. Emotions. and Action – The Three-Step Approach Of The Smart Dating System The Smart Dating System follows a strict three-step approach to attracting women: “Emotions. We drive her fear away and make her feel comfortable. her attraction for you should overcome whatever social conditioning that has been imposed on her. we calibrate her emotions. When we first meet a woman. we then convert her feelings into desire and anchor onto her desire in order to amplify it. and action”.
Marius Panzarella . Together. or the magnetic force that connects two people together.All Rights Reserved .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Section Summary A Quick Summary Of The Smart Dating System The three basic components of love are intimacy. Attraction cuts through everything and overcomes any Ex-force (resistance) such as family and religion. Commitment consists of respect. integrity and loyalty. Intimacy consists of flexibility. self-disclosure. and passion. But How Much She Likes You That Matters! Smart Dating Rule #2: You Need Permission To Advance Smart Dating Rule #3: Stay Objective 62 Copyright 2000-2007 . But since we cannot always control intimacy and commitment. and giving. they combine into attraction. commitment. Behavior Rules: 1) People Want What They Can’t Have 2) People Make Conscious Decisions Based on Subconscious Feelings Smart Dating Rules: Smart Dating Rule #1: It’s Not How Much You Like Her. Passion consists of desire and uncertainty. we can say: Passion = attraction.
We can do this with the three-step approach. 3) Using physical action to advance things to the next level. But just like a man cannot control his attraction for an attractive girl. Not Chase Smart Dating Rule #6: Be A Challenge To Create Passion Women like masculine men that are sexual in nature.Marius Panzarella . a woman cannot control her attraction for an attractive man. The three-step approach consists of: 1) Calibrating a woman’s emotions. although their social conditioning tells them otherwise.All Rights Reserved . 63 Copyright 2000-2007 . To attract a woman. we send feelings through her resistance in order to arouse her sexual state. 2) Anchoring and amplifying her desire.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Smart Dating Rule #4: Attraction Cuts Through Everything Smart Dating Rule #5: Attract.
All Rights Reserved .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Part 2: Basic Steps Towards Success 64 Copyright 2000-2007 .Marius Panzarella .
or does he hide behind his friends? 2) Whatever “gadget” he has with him.All Rights Reserved .Marius Panzarella . Throughout the course of a week. In this chapter. as well as what parts of the body they look at when they first check the guy out.) 65 Copyright 2000-2007 . Does he have good posture and “stand out” from the crowd. you will learn everything you need to know about how to NOT repel women physically. this chapter is for you. 1) The style of the guy – Style of dress and the way he moves. Remember. Here are the things that seem to catch a girl’s interest the most. first impressions are important: You will never get a date if women are immediately turned off by your looks. This is the first step you must go through before you can attract any women. numerous girls were interviewed on what usually causes them to “notice” a guy initially.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 4 Dressing Towards Success f you're a chick magnet on the wrong polar (meaning you repel women instead of attract them). I How Women Check You Out Let us begin this chapter by looking at the results of a past survey conducted on a college campus. Is he carrying a briefcase (Is he mature)? Or wearing a backpack (Is he adventurous)? Or maybe he’s carrying a cell phone? (Definitely not a loner.
but: 4) The shoes. they begin to check out his… 3) Face The hair – Is it messy or is it “cool”? Pimples – Are there just a few? Or does his face look like a volcano? Eyes – Do they look smart and confident? Glasses .All Rights Reserved . Do you see a pattern in all of this? 66 Copyright 2000-2007 .Is the face dirty? Cuteness .Is the face “cute”? As soon as they are done “checking out” the face. the chest and the butt. Are they clean? Do they fit? And only when they’ve finished examining the above do they turn their gazes to 5) The shoulders. SURPRISE* not the abs or biceps.Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Once a guy catches their attention. the next part they check out is *SURPRISE.ARE THEY CLEAN? Do they fit the guy’s face? Cleanliness .
consider wearing contacts as a lot of girls think big eyes are “cute”. It’s all up to the particular woman’s tastes. The good news is. these are things we can actually control.) Here’s a quick tip for you men out there with the “standard haircut”. However. By the way. note hairstyles that you have seen on TV. While men go right for the tits and arse. there are still women that like chubby faces. If you have big eyes. Remember that a hairstyle may dramatically change the shape of your face.Marius Panzarella . It will create that artfully mussed look that a lot of girls like. (Gentlemen prefer blondes for the opposite reason. then at least make sure your glasses fit your face. If you are totally clueless in this area. For 67 Copyright 2000-2007 . Wet it with water or gel and then run your fingers across the top. 2) Wear Contacts If you’re near-sighted. or just ask your hairdresser to give you something fashionable. In general. girls like longer and leaner faces on guys since the absence of baby-fat signifies maturity. women go for the “accessories” such as the hair and glasses. But if you don’t want to get contacts. Improve Your Looks Overnight Here is how you can improve your looks overnight: 1) Get a cool hairstyle.All Rights Reserved . Don’t brush your hair the same old boring way all the time.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Women look at the opposite of what men look at when men check women out. then either buy yourself contact lenses or wear a pair of glasses that fit. girls generally like darker hair since it is another sense of maturity. making it look longer or rounder.
Use lip balm. By the way. 6) Try to wear a shirt 7) Lips If you’re planning to kiss women. don’t wear a pair of tiny glasses.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System example. you better keep your lips soft. so keep that in mind when you dress! And if you’re absolutely clueless in this area. Girls hate smudged glasses. not dating. 68 Copyright 2000-2007 . make sure your glasses are clean all the time. 5) Dress Nicely Don’t overdress because some girls find that “gay”.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved . watch a soap opera and see what the actors wear. By the way. runners are for running. but a big volcano on your face is just plain scary. 4) Shoes Make The Man Wear clean shoes wherever you go. if you have a big face. but at least pay a tiny bit of attention on what you’re wearing from now on. Women love details. Of course…you will get to enjoy the ladies a lot better if you don’t have to view them from a dirty window! 3) Wash Your Face Wash your face often to keep it pimple free. Make sure your socks match your shoes. A few pimples are fine.
11) Shower often.Marius Panzarella . (You want to look mature!) 13) No sweat stains on your shirt please. There’s nothing worse then being around a smelly pig. 9) Wear a deodorant. spray some in the air and then WALK THROUGH IT. Long nails only look great on girls. it doesn’t hurt to look good. men who can find the time to exercise 69 Copyright 2000-2007 . 10) You can wear a little bit of cologne. While it is true that most girls don’t care if their lovers look like firefighters or not. Just anything without a LCD screen will do. but remember that none is better then too much when it comes to cologne. Other Things To Watch Out For 8) Keep your nails clean and cut them often.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 7) Teeth Go to the dentist at least twice a year. Doesn't have to be a Rolex. There are also many other benefits to working out in the gym: First of all. Do what girls do. Brush your teeth and floss daily. Hit The Gym Should you go to the gym? The answer is a firm yes. 12) Get a nice watch.All Rights Reserved .
Exercise can make you healthier and you will be able to enjoy the ladies longer.All Rights Reserved . Carrying two hundred pounds of excessive fat on your body isn’t going to help you. 70 Copyright 2000-2007 . a tan can do wonders to your body. So get off the couch and get onto a treadmill! Having a lean. healthy body can do wonders to your confidence.Marius Panzarella . Getting A Tan By the way. It can make you much leaner and more attractive. Most important of all.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System generally have more control over their lives. Girls know this too. If you don’t like sunbathing. working out at the gym releases the natural testosterone you need to be a strong. masculine man. It’s just going to send a pretty clear message to the ladies that you’re a lazy slob. Remember: You have to be able to love your own body before girls can love it too. consider purchasing one of those self-tanning lotions on the net.
You can only be a failure if you see yourself as one. Who's the winner and who's the loser in this scenario? The answer is quite obvious. You can think of it as replacing your old.Marius Panzarella . Below is a list of the most common “faulty attitudes”. the first man decides that he isn't fit for the field at all.All Rights Reserved . Here’s an example: 71 Copyright 2000-2007 . Having the wrong one will just panic and confuse you. In order for you to really succeed with women. it’s their loss" and goes off to find another job. The same thing can be said about dating. The second says to himself.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 5 Attitude Towards Success Two men apply for a job at a firm. Devastated by the outcome. you must get rid of all the negative attitudes towards dating and women in your head and replace them with some new positive beliefs. and how you can fix them. but neither gets the job. faulty and “logical” beliefs with a new “sexual state” that you can use to attract women. A person's attitude towards a situation can greatly affect its outcome. Having the right set of attitudes will help you approach and attract them. Your initial state when meeting a woman is very important. "Oh well.
this question would then lead to other questions such as: "What if she embarrasses me?" "What if she never talks to me again?" "What if she tells everyone?" But you know what? Does it really matter? If you aren’t dating her now.” 72 Copyright 2000-2007 . you should realize that every rejection will bring you closer to success. Most guys have a secret crush on a girl and wait for months before he finally gathers enough courage to ask her out. I am not discouraged. the guy who invented the light bulb? He also invented the word’s first alkaline storage battery.All Rights Reserved . he is usually very insecure and confused. he replied. It took him over 10. I have gotten lots of results! If I find 10. I haven’t failed.Marius Panzarella . “Results? Why. what have you got to lose? If you’re smart.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Bad Attitude #1: The “I’m Afraid Of Rejection” Attitude When an “Average Joe” first falls in love with a girl. When other people asked why he did not give up when his experiments weren’t producing any results. because every wrong attempt discarded is just one more step forward.000 combinations of various elements before he finally found the right combination. Remember Thomas Edison. most guys just keep asking themselves the same question over and over: “WHAT IF SHE REJECTS ME?” Of course.000 ways something won’t work. Instead of blurting out the words to get it over with.
Smart Dater Sees rejection as the key to success. It is the ability to make adjustments and corrections before trying again. But if you learn something new every time. Without creative persistence. Let’s face it. You must learn to fail before you can learn to succeed. You’re not going to get everything right the first time. Improves every time. Whimpers and cries silently after a rejection. Learns from his mistakes and never makes the same errors again. only to make the same mistakes again later on with another women. Never gets anywhere. The key here is to have creative persistence. 73 Copyright 2000-2007 .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Dating is the same. Persists creatively. They just make the same mistakes over and over with different women.All Rights Reserved . you won’t ever get better with women.Marius Panzarella . You’re not going to strike a home run on your first try. If you learn from your mistakes with women. Thomas Edison would never have invented the light bulb or the battery. you’re making progress. Without creative persistence. Creative Persistence Creative persistence is more than just staying the course no matter what. Comparison Chart Average Frustrated Chump Is afraid of rejection. you’re going to be ahead of most guys already. Most guys out there never bother to learn from their mistakes.
Most are going to be married. Don't be offended by the last. Remember. There are lots of other fish in the sea.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Furthermore. Every woman has her own ideal image of a guy. What’s the big deal? Move on. (Around 5 percent) Of the 25 percent who are left. just flirt with her 74 Copyright 2000-2007 . Not every woman you come across is going to be on the make. in a few years you will only laugh when you think about it. Instead of telling her that you like her (which you should NEVER do anyway). or simply not interested in meeting anybody at the moment. while you might be devastated by a rejection initially.Marius Panzarella . Think about the first time you were rejected. keep in mind that there are numerous reasons as to why a girl might be turning you down. How devastated were you back then? But do you still feel the same now? How To Avoid Rejection A good way to avoid rejection is to “test the waters” by flirting with a woman first. So she doesn't see you as a potential lover.All Rights Reserved . (70 percent) Some are going to be lesbians. some have just been hurt greatly by other men and will need time to heal. There is no reason to take things personally. Real life isn't like Sex And The City. Some are just cold and antisocial. All right. in a relationship. And some just don't see you as their type.
Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System and see how she reacts. but NOT because you want anything in return. For example. So if you can make sure she’s interested in you before you even ask her out…the bumpy road to love is going to be a lot smoother. there’s a chance she might like you.All Rights Reserved . After all. Only flirt with women because you’re a natural flirts who likes to make all the women around you to feel GREAT. nobody can really reject you. This is an almost foolproof way to avoid rejection. Remember the bombshell from chapter 1: It’s not how much you like a girl that matters. NOT for the purpose of “picking her up”. Is she responding in positively? Or is she giving you the cold “get lost” look? Dating Exercise: Desensitization – Part 1 Psychologists use something called desensitization to help clients overcome phobias. make sure you’re just flirting for the sake of bringing her pleasure. As you flirt with a woman. Always test the waters first before asking a woman out by flirting with her casually. if you are afraid of spiders. if you’re just flirting casually and not trying to pick up anyone. If she flirts back. But if she ignores you. it’s how much she likes you that matters. Examine her response in an objective manner. she probably doesn’t like you at all. right? Dating Technique: Test The Waters First A good way to lower your chance of rejection (and your fear of it) is to “test the waters” first. they show you pictures of spiders and eventually get 75 Copyright 2000-2007 .
The first part is to overcome your fear of asking someone out. Nobody will know what you’re thinking except you! Dating Exercise: Desensitization – Part 2 Once you are more comfortable with the feeling of asking a woman out. The good thing about this exercise is that it is all internal. She may be a girl from work. try to ask a woman out everyday from now on. Who cares? Just ask somebody out. Well. you’re not going to know what to do when your dream girl 76 Copyright 2000-2007 . a total stranger or whatever. Your fear of rejection is going to kick in and you’re going to start feeling that fear in your chest.All Rights Reserved .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System you to touch them until you’re not afraid of them anymore. "But I want to wait for that special someone!" You may argue. a new girl you are going to meet on the bus. Keep pushing yourself closer and closer to actually asking her out verbally. they try to shock your system until you stop responding to these triggers as threats. You will be able to do it eventually. I want you to think about asking her out on a date. We can use the same technique to help you overcome your fear of rejection. Basically. Next time you talk to an attractive woman in a nonromantic situation. Hold yourself in this state for as long as you can bear before you stop.Marius Panzarella . Or at least get her phone number. a girl you’re going to meet at the club. if you just hang around and do nothing now.
“But I LOVE the girl I want. you’re probably going to screw up. I only want HER. We’re soul mates!!!” Get off you high horse. Reality #2: There will always be other women in this world.Marius Panzarella . The point of this exercise is to get rejected as much as possible. I don’t want to flirt with any other women. Who knows? Maybe you will even land yourself a date? Bad Attitude #2: The “But She’s The Only Girl I’ll Ever Love” Attitude By now.All Rights Reserved . you won't have to worry about being turned down or embarrassed! Just go out and have fun. you might be crying. and infatuation is not love. Here are a couple of hard truths for you: Reality #1: If you don’t practice before you approach the girl of your dreams. So do yourself a favor: Start practicing now. Reality #3: She might not like you at all.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System finally shows up on your doorsteps. and it’s not how much you like a girl. She is the only girl I’ll ever need. Reality #4: You’re probably just infatuated with her. but how much a girl likes YOU that matters. Quick Self-Test: Are You In Love? 77 Copyright 2000-2007 . Since this is your objective. She is my world.
sorry. See the billions of stars out there.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Do the follow self-test to see if you’re ready to call it “love”. band. it’s not love. you’re way too obsessed with your love life. Nobody Cares About Your Love Life Go out to your backyard tonight and stare at the night sky. Do you realize that what you’re seeing has taken billions of light years to reach this world? And how old are you? 18? 25? 30? 40? 50? 78 Copyright 2000-2007 . fears. 1) Have you been going out with her for more than 6 months? YES____ NO____ 2) Do you know all of her faults? YES____ NO____ 3) Do you know her favorite food movie. Here’s the bottom line: If you’re centering your whole world on a certain girl. and colour? YES____ NO____ 4) Have you met her family? YES____ NO____ 5) Do you know all of her friends? YES____ NO____ 6) Do you know any of her secrets? YES____ NO____ 7) Do you know her greatest dreams. and ambitions? YES____ NO____ 8) Does she even know who you are personally? YES____ NO____ If you have answered “No” to any of the questions listed above.All Rights Reserved .Marius Panzarella .
They think they could just meet a special princess (who’ll go to him) one day without “wasting any time” on the stupid rituals of courtship. you’re not even supposed to 79 Copyright 2000-2007 . you are probably going to be clumsy in bed because as a powerful loner. compared to the universe out there? Most important of all. the wizard who hides in the woods because he is smarter than everybody else’s. With that in mind. Lastly. (Or married.) Having this kind of “powerful loner” attitude towards dating is fatal because: You won’t ever want to ask any girl out since the act of asking someone out will show that you’re not so powerful after all.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System No matter how old you are. These guys are never going to get laid.Marius Panzarella . This fear of vulnerability can block you from picking up women. These guys like to see themselves as “above” the conventional practices of dating. And a lot of times you would want to “lose interest” in a girl and leave because you’re afraid of taking things to a more emotional level and becoming addicted to her. one thing is clear: You’re just on this earth for a couple of decades. ) You will also have trouble connecting with women emotionally because you want to keep everything to yourself. compared to the billions of stars out there? Does the universe care about you? Or the fact that you’re crazy about a girl you don’t even know? You’re right – nobody cares. just like the average Joe. how important do you think you are. Bad Attitude #3: The “I Don’t Need Women” Attitude A lot of shy guys like to think of themselves as some sort of a “powerful loner”. Ha. You know. (It shows you DO need love and sex. how important do you think this girl really is.All Rights Reserved .
you DO have feelings – so just accept them. If you do suffer from this mindset. okay? 80 Copyright 2000-2007 .All Rights Reserved . It is something that you must decide for yourself. Listen. Here are some of the exercises you can use to purge this unhealthy “powerful loner” mindset: Dating Exercise: Meditation Over the years.Marius Panzarella . Decide if you want to put away your “powerful loner” façade and admit that you DO need women. I can’t force you to make the change for the better. then you must open yourself to the possibility of getting hurt No pain. it will also stop him from getting women. I’ve realized that while hiding behind a wall may keep a guy from getting hurt by a woman. If you choose to play it. Remember that love is a fair game.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System enjoy sex. When you’re making out with a girl. YOU must make the decision for yourself. you will pretend to be a gentleman and act like you’re not turned on – when deep inside you’re feeling so good you feel paralyzed. Spend some time meditating on this concept. Get it? Dating Exercise: Keep A Journal Keep a journal so you have a place to “spill your guts”. no gain. then maybe you were raised in a family that did not believe in showing affections in public.
No man is an island – so stop acting like a hermit. (I will show you how later in the course. You need to admit you need physical contact too! Hug all your girl friends.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Blogs are good too! Dating Exercise: Reach Out Force yourself to reach out and make new friends. if you do want to get laid.All Rights Reserved . Work on getting a girl to hold your hand on a date. then it’s time to let your horniness control you for once. Dating Exercise: Make More Physical Contact Powerful loners usually keep their hands to themselves. Well. They never want to be horny in front of other people because they think they’re “above” the average guy.Marius Panzarella . It’s time to change that. Make out as often as you can. Share your experiences with your friends.) Dating Exercise: Let Your Horniness Control You For Once Powerful loners usually keep their feelings under control. 81 Copyright 2000-2007 .
it is not because you’re falling in love. They see beautiful people as far more superior to themselves and they are afraid of embarrassing themselves in front of these hot chicks. 82 Copyright 2000-2007 . It is because a hot babe can trigger our most primal defense mechanism: fright. From now on. you must do fine with the ladies until you meet a “hot babe” and get “paralyzed” on the spot.) 2) Stumble for the lamest jokes as they try to impress these women. I’m serious. They are so afraid of being frowned upon by these beautiful women that they: 1) Become paralyzed. the only way you will get off is with a woman. They have their own problems to deal with and their own emotional baggage to whine about. Men stumble and get paralyzed by beautiful women because they are afraid of messing up. They are normal people just like you. okay? Let your animal instincts give you the primal drive to overcome your fear of women! Bad Attitude #4: The “She’s Too Beautiful” Attitude If you’re like the average guy. Buy a cheap calendar and hang it on your wall. Here’s the truth: beautiful women are certainly NOT Goddesses. Have you ever wondered why? No.All Rights Reserved . (Can’t make mistakes if you aren’t doing anything. Every time you “slip” and play with yourself.Marius Panzarella . See how long you can go without getting a new “X”. mark a big “X” on the calendar.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System I want you to stop masturbating until you get laid.
does she? Dating Technique: Focus On Her Flaws Pick out a flaw on her face and focus on it. She doesn’t look so intimidating anymore. Once you get to know a woman.Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System To be honest with you. Dating Technique: The Nose Stare If you have trouble maintaining eye contact with her.All Rights Reserved . Here is what you do: Visualize yourself floating outside your body and watch the 83 Copyright 2000-2007 . just stare at the bridge of her nose. Dating Technique: Dissociation Technique I learned this from an actor friend. Here are a couple of techniques to keep you from wetting your pants every time you meet a beautiful woman: Dating Technique: The Underwear Technique Visualize the girl in her underwear when you see her. Actors love using this trick at auditions! Dating Technique: The Post-Screw Technique Visualize the girl’s face after five MASSIVE orgasms. she won’t be so mysterious and elegant anymore. most beautiful women are over-rated.
I have noticed a common trend with guys who "suck" at the dating game: They usually have what I call the "Anti-Player Syndrome". 84 Copyright 2000-2007 . You’re going to be much more objective with the conversation! Bad Attitude #5: The “I Am Not A Player” Attitude After years of helping men becoming more successful with dating.Marius Panzarella . These guys are guys who try very hard to let women see that they are not players. women will see the "long-term potential" in them and fall in love.All Rights Reserved .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System conversation from a “third person’s” point of view. They do things such as: 1) Complimenting and sucking up to women 2) Buying women drinks. gifts. They do it to PROVE that they are NOT players. 6) Acting like a "nice" guy. 3) Saying "sorry" whenever a woman gets mad. However. They think that by acting the "opposites" of players. and dinners. 4) Criticizing the players and "jerks" whenever they can. 5) Getting jealous of men who are more successful with women than they are. they don't do these things just for the sake of doing them.
but rather. All they care about is what kind of feelings you can give them. All they care about is how you can make them feel both romantically and sexually. Actually. "Yeah. When a woman sees a player she likes.." This is a HUGE mistake. When it comes to attraction. Don't worry about whether you're being too much or too little of a player. So goes this mean that you should become a player? No. I don't want to think that I am like all the jerks she has dated in the past. focus on doing things that excite women. They don't care if you're "nice" or not . they always tell me things such as. The truth is.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Whenever I talk to these guys.. such as flirting. women don't really care if you're a "player" or not.Marius Panzarella . as a man who just happens to be good with women. many women DO enjoy what they think is "harmless flirting". she doesn't see him as a player. and acting like a challenge. teasing. a woman could smell a player in a minute and avoid him if she REALLY wanted to. However.unless they are ALREADY attracted to you. what I want you to do is to stop worrying about what kind of man women think you are. THAT'S what REALLY matters to women. They want to talk to someone who can give them the kind of intense feelings they crave. Someone who excites her.I want women to know that I AM a good guy for them.All Rights Reserved . they are 85 Copyright 2000-2007 . Instead. When you can give women the kind of feelings they WANT.
He doesn't mind his natural desire for women.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System not going to think about whether you're a "player" or a "nice guy". How about you? Can you look into a woman's eyes with desire without getting nervous and looking away in shame? Can you make out with a woman without tensing up? Can you walk around naked in front of a woman without feeling any embarrassment? Can you admit to a woman that you love women who are hot and beautiful? If you want to be good with women. So today I'm going to give you an exercise that will hopefully help you tap into the power of "natural attraction" that is already inside your body. we already "know" how to attract gals instinctually. 86 Copyright 2000-2007 .All Rights Reserved . then you must first become comfortable with the idea with being with a woman! Dating Technique: The Animal Technique It is my belief that as humans. It's just that most of us have lost the ability to tap into our primal sexual energy due to cultural influences. All they'll think about is how GREAT you are and how much they enjoy going out with you! Bad Attitude #6: The “I Don’t Need Women Or Sex” Attitude One of the attractive qualities of the alpha male is that he is comfortable with his sexuality as well as his own body.Marius Panzarella . He understands that he craves physical intimacy.
6) Visualize them standing right in front of you and think about what you would do to them. 7) Feel your body getting warmer as the desire fills your mind. Once you've built a bit of rapport.) 8) Go out and talk to the ladies. let’s look at the attitudes you should pick up." Think about the kind of women that attract you.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Here's what I want you to do: 1) Go workout at the gym. Watch how animals interact with each other automatically without much thinking.Marius Panzarella . 2) Eat a lot of food. 3) Take a short nap. See how "natural" sex is to them. (Do NOT play with yourself. think to yourself "I am a sexy beast!" and tune up the flirting.All Rights Reserved . "I am a sexy beast. Let your instincts take over! Now that we’ve looked at the attitudes you should avoid. Good Attitude #1: The Playful Attitude 87 Copyright 2000-2007 . 5) Close your eyes and repeat to yourself. Workout as hard as you can. 4) Watch the Discovery Channel or borrow some "animal tapes" from the library.
the average guy worries too much about the “what’s” and “how’s” of dating.Marius Panzarella . So don’t ruin the night by being so darn serious! Okay. a guy who is playful and funny. This is the opposite of what a woman looks for in a guy.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System The most common mistake the average guy makes on a first date is being too serious. Your mind can’t be on so many things at once. Women want a guy who is a relaxed flirt. dude.All Rights Reserved . Let’s look at some of the things the average freaks over on a first date: Am I wearing the right shirt? Where should I touch her now? What is she smiling at? How do I impress her? What am I doing wrong? Does she like my car? How do I hold her hand? Can I go for a kiss now? Do I ask for a second date now? As you can see. Here’re a couple of techniques that can help you become more playful with women: 88 Copyright 2000-2007 . you’re going to end up screwing up your own game. Listen. If you start thinking too much on a date.
All Rights Reserved . As you probably know already. And a powerful man never has to worry too much about a particular woman (at least not early in the dating game) because he has TONS of women chasing him. Not Outcome Next time you’re out on a date. guys usually do better in the dating game when they aren’t expecting to fall in love. 89 Copyright 2000-2007 . If a woman thinks going out with you is fun. Women like powerful men. women are going to find you much more attractive. focus on the wonderful experience of being out with a woman. But when you do. Why? Because you’re probably so worried about impressing your date that you’re acting all needy and desperate and losing your natural male charm as a result. they reject you. you will automatically get a second date! Dating Technique: The Playfulness Generator Think about the following questions: 1) How much fun can I have tonight? 2) How far can I make this girl go? 3) How wet can I get her? 4) What do I find interesting about this girl? Good Attitude #2: The “I don’t Care” Attitude Most guys worry too much about getting results. Women swarm all over you when you don’t want to date them. not on getting a second date. get it? So if you pick up the “I don’t care because I am already a player” attitude.Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Dating Technique: Care About Adventure.
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Dating Technique: Act Like a Player!
Whenever you’re around women, walk tall and act like you’re already getting five blowjobs from five supermodels every week! Girls will start seeing you as more attractive.
Furthermore, if you worry too much about results, then you will never have the guts to take any risks – and that’s the worst thing you can ever do because you will be limiting yourself. Failure always comes before success. You MUST learn to fail before you can succeed. If you’re swinging a baseball bat for the first time, you’re probably going to miss. Dating is like baseball. You must try and try before you “get it right”. Some guys think that “failure is not an option” because they are madly in love and cannot stand rejection. This is quite sad, as in many of these cases the girls they are in love with don’t even like them at all. These guys don’t understand the fundamental dating rule…that it’s not how much you love like a girl, but how much a girl likes you that counts. Once again, guys MUST learn to let go before they can experience success with women.
Dating Technique: No Day But Today
From now on, I want you to go out and live like today is your last day on earth. The world is going to end tomorrow so you better be adventurous and do all the things you’ve only dreamt of doing. Go out, flirt with strangers, hit on
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hot chicks and do all the wildest things you’ve never done before. I know you’re probably afraid of what people may think. Well, who cares about what other people think if it’s your life? And to be honest with you, people secretly admire adventurers. You will probably get more attention and respect for doing crazy things than for sitting at home doing absolutely NOTHING. Listen. Players don’t care about consequences. They are in the game for the ADVENTURE, not the outcome. You can’t predict the outcome – so just enjoy the experience, get it? Trust me. Just go out and be crazy and do crazy things – and I guarantee you will get laid like crazy!
Good Attitude #3: The “How Far Can I Go?” Attitude
A good attitude to have when you’re dating a girl is the “How Far Can I Go?” attitude. Basically, the idea behind this attitude is to KEEP ADVANCING. When you are attracting a woman, every move you make should bring you closer to home base. Don’t waste your time idling or depending on “luck”. If you want something, you will have to get it yourself. And if you want to get into a girl’s pants, you will have to strip her defense down bit-by-bit, piece-by-piece, and step-by-step. Be always charging forward. When you meet her, get her phone number. When you have her phone number, get a date. When you go out with
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her, hold her hand. When you’re holding her hand, kiss her. Just keep advancing!!! Here are the basic steps a man has to go through in order to sleep with a woman.
The 10 Steps To The Bedroom
Initial Meeting Phone Number Date Hold Hands Kiss Cuddle Touch With Shirt On Hands under Shirt Foreplay Sex
2) 3) 4) 5) 6) 7) 8) 9) 10)
To go to from step one to ten, you will have to keep advancing. The trick to doing this is to keep working and working to get her ready for the next level. For example, if she isn’t ready for a kiss, keep flirting with her till she wants one. If she doesn’t want to take her bra off, sniff her neck and cuddle with her till she puts your hands on her breasts. She’s worried about sex? Turn her on more with foreplay till she’s begging you for it. Here’s a good one. Tease her by saying, “All you have to say is please.” If she says no, go
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back to cuddling and touching. Eventually she will be screaming YES. Don’t worry if you hit a few obstacles. Every time you bump into a wall, just see it as an opportunity to find out more about the girl. This is all information you can use later. See it as narrowing down a list of what she might like. Eventually you will find her sweet spot. No pun intended.
Dating Tip: Always Keep Advancing!
Always keep advancing! And if you encounter resistance, don’t confront it head on. Go AROUND it instead!
By the way, if you don’t advance when a girl expects you to, she’s going to lose interest in you sooner or later. Like if she’s been expecting you to ask her out but you never do, then in a couple of weeks she’s going to say “screw this guy” and mack with another guy. Or if she keeps grinding her hip on yours but you still do not make sweet love to her, she’s going to think you’re gay. See why you must keep advancing?
Good Attitude #4: The “Truth And Dare” Attitude
Here is one of the most powerful attitudes you can have as a man: the truth and dare attitude.
Dating Technique: The Truth And Dare Attitude
Remember how you used to play truth or dare as a kid and did the craziest things with your friends? Have the same mindset when you're hitting on women. Always be DARING. If you're shy, chances are you aren't daring enough. So take this as a challenge and dare yourself to keep
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pushing the boundaries. DARE yourself to say hi to her. DARE yourself to hold her hand. DARE yourself to kiss her and touch her. As for the "truth" part, always tell yourself at the back of your head that she does like you. And it's up to you to uncover that truth. Your ultimate goal is to make HER tell YOU that she likes you. Even when you can sense she does like you, don't quit until she actually says it and proves it to you!
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Acting Towards Success
ave you ever noticed how "nice guys" never get the girls? They always shower the girls with gifts and expensive dinners. They are never late on a date. They never do anything their dates have told them not to do. They obey their dates’ every wish. So why to they always lose to the jerk down the street? Simple. Because most nice guys carry the two venoms that make them unattractive to women: Insecurity and neediness.
Insecurity and Neediness
These two almost always come together. An insecure man is usually needy because he is insecure about himself. He is always trying to “do” something to please a girl because he believes that if he doesn’t keep on appeasing a girl, she’s going to dump him. Don’t make the same mistake. Keep in mind that more beautiful a woman is, the more spoiled she is. Attractive women are used to men throwing themselves at their feet. So if you do the same, they are not going to like you. As a matter of fact, they are not even going to notice you. After all, girls like special things, and you are not going to be very special if you act insecure or needy like all the other men.
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To a girl. While there are SOME girls that like playing mommy.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System In many ways. The more you try to possess her physically. Well. you’re going to be single again very soon. She almost suffocated from the whole experience. My friend Betty once went out with a needy guy who would phone her like every hour. Some example traits of an insecure and needy guy include: 1) Being over-possessive. most girls see neediness as a big no-no in a guy. After all. Dating Technique: Always Leave Some Breathing Room Hot women break up with their boyfriends all the time because they are too needy.All Rights Reserved . a needy guy is a girl’s worst nightmare. bad. she can’t feel safe in your arms if you’re not even strong enough to be secure about yourself.very unattractive! Most women can detect insecurity from five miles away. As soon as a needy guy ends up dating a hot chick by luck. you control freak. the faster she will break up with you. Just don’t be over-possessive. guess what? You can never really possess a woman physically. Bad. If you do. he’s scared of losing her and starts doing all sorts of stupid things like calling her 10 times a day. the insecure guy is like a “fat chick” to a guy . get it? I don’t care how hot your new girlfriend may be.Marius Panzarella . bad. 96 Copyright 2000-2007 . Always give a woman some breathing space! She can’t like you if she does not feel comfortable around you.
Don’t ever show your “bottom card” to a woman.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 2) Being showy. they are going to find you boring by the second date and dump you by the third. you always hide your bottom card so nobody knows what it is. if everyone knows what your faced-down card is. If you tell them too much about yourself. In dating. you can just tell her you’re in “construction”. Dating is no different. or simply say or do things just to attract attention or compliments. act cool.Marius Panzarella . if a woman knows everything about you already. Wrong. Don’t ruin their fun by offering information about yourself. get it? Women love playing detective and getting information out of you – so let them. For example. you should radiate charm. not tell. You want to remain mysterious! Furthermore. Let me show you what I mean.All Rights Reserved . Remember the golden rule – show. 97 Copyright 2000-2007 . then there isn’t any point to playing since you can’t bluff. if you’re the owner of a construction company. In Poker. hiding your “bottom card” will let you come across as MUCH more powerful and dominant. Don’t tell her you’re an entrepreneur with a Porsche. Lots of men try to show off. Dating Technique: Hide Your “Bottom Card” When you play Poker. You don’t have to bring it up every five minutes. you’re going to appear as a lot less powerful. If you’re truly confident.
Dating Technique: Don’t Act Like A Whiny Bitch Has a beautiful woman ever ruined a date for you because she acted like a whiny bitch – even just for once? Just not so long ago. Politicians never let you know about their backup plans. Who’s the bitch here? Listen. This way. okay? 98 Copyright 2000-2007 . Talking about other people ALWAYS creates a negative atmosphere. Cult leaders never reveal anything about themselves. So just don’t talk about any negative or unhappy stuff. Let her find out things about you. We were having fun until she bumped into some girls. I went out with this beautiful girl.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Powerful people are powerful because nobody knows just how powerful they are. Don’t boast too much.All Rights Reserved . get it? 3) Being negative and speaking badly of others. she has absolutely no idea about how exactly powerful you are. Armies always hide their true strengths until they attack Do the same with women.Marius Panzarella . so she will just think you’re a real powerhouse or guru. And we’re not just talking casual funny remarks. she turned towards me and said “I hate those bitches!” Ouch. and that’s the LAST thing you want on a date. You know how some men ramble on and on about people and events? Don’t do it. After talking her “friends”.
okay? When you walk into a restaurant. If she makes a suggestion about where to sit. I am not asking you to be a control freak. I just want you to start acting more assertive. She can’t feel safe around you if you can’t even make decisions for yourself! Dating Technique: Make Decisions Women love it when their men are in control.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Do not say ANYTHING bad about other people in general… and try to stay cool the whole time. So don’t act like a little wimpy going out with his mother when you go out with a woman. So make their darkest fantasy come true! 99 Copyright 2000-2007 . It seems like a nice spot” and just take her there. The assertive man never loses his temper. I don’t care if someone scratches your car or if the waiter forgets to bring the cheque. Don’t be the wimp who always asks her what to do. It’s their secret fantasy.All Rights Reserved . Women love to “surrender completely” to a guy. 4) Being indecisive. No further questions. Let’s sit over there. Just say “Let’s sit over there” and take her hand. Most guys are too weak in this area. say something like “No. choose where to sit. So neither should you. Make up your own mind. Be in control.Marius Panzarella .
Insecure guys are usually afraid of showing their urges because they are afraid of ruining their “powerful loner” self-images. Confident guys don’t need to push their way into a date or into the bedroom. But if you don’t even budge. dear” attitude every time a girl throws a tantrum. They act like little brats and see if you will let them get their way. It’s easy to tell you’re a needy person if you’re always too over-eager.Marius Panzarella . okay? 2) Speak up and learn to say NO. which means you’re “confidently aggressive”. Some guys tend to get pissed in response to a woman’s questions of negative mood. 9) Asexual. Well. Have the “You don’t have me fooled for a minute. they will see you as a wimp and dump you.All Rights Reserved . 100 Copyright 2000-2007 . Insecure guys are usually boring because they never talk about anything fun. 7) Being defensive. instead of being needy and insecure. If you do.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 5) Being pushy. A major sign of weakness. the more a woman pulls away! 6) Trying too hard. if a woman didn’t want sex. then they will have more respect for you. Always remain calm. Remember: the more you push. even when you total your car. wouldn’t she? In short. Women “tests” guys all the time – even at a subconscious level. you need to be ASSERTIVE. she would be dating a rag doll instead of a man. 8) Boring. Dating Technique: How To Be Assertive 101 1) Do not express anger and annoyance while on a date.
All Rights Reserved . Compliment and thank them whenever you can.Marius Panzarella . Stare at her eyes. Teach other guys one of your strengths. You’re taking the woman out. and the women will notice a difference in you almost immediately. Here are some ways to become a leader: Take on protégées. Learn some effective communication skills. Remember: masculine males attract women naturally. Be approachable. The real man realizes he’s not all-powerful and isn’t afraid of asking for help. How To Be More Masculine Here are some ways to become a more masculine male. 5) Be in charge. Treat everyone good.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 3) Look at people when you talk to them. They are the alpha males of the pack. Let others see that you can be respected. Make other guys feel good. not the other way around! Start acting more assertive. The most successful CEO’s are the ones that treat everybody (including the janitor) good. - - 101 Copyright 2000-2007 . not at her boobs! 4) Ask for help if you need it. and others will come to you. Become a leader: Masculine males are natural leaders. Acknowledge their accomplishments. Take some public speaking classes.
.Marius Panzarella ." Tell you a secret.. Share the credit and shoulder the blame. There used to be a time when I thought I was better than everyone." I'd give him a hard time or not pay him any attention at all. I always try to pick out something GOOD about the person. Most of the time. I would just look at a guy and think. I've come to realize that it's more important to say the GOOD inside every person. Do not wait to be told to do something. (After all.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System - - Take initiative. Contrary to popular belief. It does not mean acting like a total jerk in front of people in order to prove your superiority. and I always try to act in a way that brings the "best" out of every man. Don’t be afraid to step up to a task. being alpha does not mean bullying other guys or giving other men a hard time. Don’t be afraid to be “wrong”. "He's stupid. So now when I meet new friends. I get an email from a guy who'sa bit confused because he has been trying to "act alpha" or act like a leader in front of his guy friends and it has backfired on him. A Word On “Alpha Reluctance” Every once in awhile.All Rights Reserved . simply do it. Instead. why should I? I'm better than the idiot!) But over the years. it turns out that the guy does not even know what being alpha really means. 102 Copyright 2000-2007 . being alpha actually means "taking care of other people.
So many guys mistaken being alpha as stepping over other guys and acting overlycompetitive. Using this technique alone can make you seem like a much more masculine male.All Rights Reserved .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Sure. but power to GUIDE them. when you meet someone initially. It's a tough road. For example. Hold Eye Contact From now on. pumping iron at the gym can help you increase your testosterone and become more of a man. not enemies... they all know I am looking out for them. But if you want to be alpha and enjoy the benefits that come with it (including WOMEN). In other words. Here's the hard truth. Not the power to step over other people. I will pat him on his back and pay him a compliment. hold eye contact until the other person breaks it off.Marius Panzarella . Pump Iron During intense weight training.if you want to be alpha. you want POWER.. I may bust a guy about being too chicken to do something. Yes. But then I will encourage him to do it. your body further stimulates the release of testosterone. you need FOLLOWERS. and when he finally does. when it's REALLY about getting people to FOLLOW you.I may tease them a little. Just to let him know I am proud of him.. But at the same time. 103 Copyright 2000-2007 . I may even make fun of them casually for a small laugh. then it's worth a try.
Learn a new sport. Drive home a different route every day for a week and shop at a completely new grocery store every month. Be more selective about everything around you. including women.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Never Settle For The Second Best Real men are picky and don’t like settling for the second best. Learn a new language. your clothes. He’s always ready to walk away if a woman throws a tantrum or misbehaves. and learn how to say “no” to a woman. Travel more. and even your women. Be a man. Here are a few ideas on how you can expand your comfort zone and be more adventurous: Break out of your daily routines. Learn a new hobby. your car. and women will follow you. Lead like a man. He’s never afraid of trying new things.Marius Panzarella . Lead. Be More Adventurous The masculine male is always adventurous. saying NO can be very difficult for wussy guys with low self-esteem because they think they have to meet the expectations of everyone. he simply leads the way. Instead of pushing a girl. Learn to be more selective in life. Learn To Say “No” The masculine man knows how to say “no”. Don’t Take Any Bullshit A real masculine man never takes any bullshit from anyone. 104 Copyright 2000-2007 . be it your career. Go sky-diving. Not Push Or Ask The masculine man never pushes a woman into anything.All Rights Reserved . In contrary.
I mean being attentive in a smooth way.All Rights Reserved . rent a James Bond movie and watch him closely. Kennedy had charm. He knows he has a great sex drive and when he sees a girl he wants. Lift your chest up whenever you walk! Be Ambitious Real men are ambitious guys that “shoot for the moon”. This is a big turn on for women because they can just lay back and savor the moment. If you still don’t know what I mean. Keep her laughing. Other Attractive Traits: Humorous: This is a big. Be Sexual: The real masculine male is a sexual beast. Always stay positive and be happy! 105 Copyright 2000-2007 .Marius Panzarella . Have Charm: Casanova had charm. People who are charming always know where they are going. big one. Women love humor. then you have to walk like a real man. By charm. boys! Optimistic: This is another big one. A girl doesn’t want to go out with a man associated with negative feelings. Then he works hard until his dream becomes reality. James Bond had charm. So don’t start whining like a little girl. he knows he will have her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Walk Tall If you want to be a real man. (That’s if they set any goals at all.) The masculine male likes to aim high and sets goals that are seemingly impossible to achieve. Insecure men set goals that are really small because they are afraid of not reaching them.
She wants to know you’re thinking of her. Stay mysterious! Intelligent/Educated/Cultured: Intelligence is always a bonus. lots of women nowadays think “brains are more important then looks”. and she will be yours. Romantic: This involves appealing to a woman’s five senses and making her feel as if she’s in paradise. This is due to the fact that resource gathering in the modern world is more associated with intelligence then mere strength. Thoughtful: Remember that a girl wants to feel special. who would want to go out with a “barbarian”? 106 Copyright 2000-2007 . not tell. A gift is just a symbol that you’ve been thinking of her. Just make her feel special. The truth is.All Rights Reserved . Romantic men always know what a woman wants and how they can give it to her. Of course.Marius Panzarella . Mysterious: Women love trying to “figure” a man out. So be sensual and attentive. Remember the golden rule: Show.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Sensual: Women love details.
Recent research has shown that language (as in the words you say) is only a secondary way of communication.Marius Panzarella . But you know he’s very angry. Notice how in neither case. Or take this: You hear a person shouting next door. 107 Copyright 2000-2007 .All Rights Reserved C . Why? Because of his voice tone.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 7 Communicating Towards Success an you remember a certain time when you came home and your family or friends immediately knew how you were feeling or what you were thinking about? Or can you remember a time when you could tell your best friend was happy or sad. You can’t make out a word he is saying. without him even saying a word to you? So how did you do it? By observing his body language. That is exactly why you should make sure you utilize your body language and voice before you worry about what lines you should be saying. Over 70 percent of communication is actually based on the body language and voice of the parties involved. words are not needed to understand the message.
So how do you use your body to telegraph confidence instead? Work on telegraphing your postures and movements. 5) Bend forward while exhaling. They are like cats – they can sense what’s going on or describe what’s going on with a person by just looking at them. 4) Inhale deeply. Dating Exercise: Good Standing Posture Stretch 1) Stand straight with feet together. with your fingers interlocked and your palms facing upwards.All Rights Reserved . Don’t hunch. At the same time raising the arms until they are stretched out. Postures When you walk. neediness or low self-esteem from five miles away. 108 Copyright 2000-2007 . 2) Put your hands behind your back. They can pick put all kind of subtle things from body language. always walk upright with your head held up and your shoulders back.Marius Panzarella . 3) Turn the palms down and notice the twisting movement at your elbows. Be proud.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Body Language Basics You may have noticed that women are much more sensitive then men. This is why they can sense insecurity.
As for your arms. Guys love putting their hands behind their neck. try to open your body up by taking up more space.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Note: Do not bend your elbows. 109 Copyright 2000-2007 . You will learn how to use them later.All Rights Reserved . without unlocking your fingers.Marius Panzarella . Back is the keyword here. Keep your head down and keep stretching your arms a bit higher and higher. 2) Crossing arms across chest: If you cross your arms across your chest. Good Sitting Postures When you sit. 6) Remain a moment in this position. Dating Technique: Stay Open! It is very important to stay in an open position while you’re sitting during a date. 8) Repeat this exercise a couple of times. They should remain straight throughout. But guess what? It’s quite disrespectful on a date because it shows you think you’re superior. Don’t lean forward. just keep them uncrossed for now. Always keep them apart and your shoulders back. lean back. Never let your legs cross. holding your breath. 7) Return to the standing position slowly. you’re closing yourself and not listening very well. Avoid the following positions: 1) Hands behind neck.
So don’t do it…just slow down.All Rights Reserved . Really observe the way Bond moves. See 110 Copyright 2000-2007 . It basically means you think you know much more than the girl you’re talking to. Why? Because slowing down will make you come off as a much more confident and mysterious person. move slowly. When you move. People who are in control do not have a need to hurry. A lot of women find this disgusting. When you talk. You know what I mean. hands rubbing nose. They are always relaxed because they know they are in charge of the situation. I would like you to try the following: slow down as much as possible. Don’t start waving all over with them! Dating Technique: Slow Down! Next time you meet a woman or go on a date. Remember that you can create mystery and intrigue by simply slowing down. which has long been associated with homosexual men. simply leave them relaxed and uncrossed. talk slowly. Every movement a confident man makes is slow and almost calculated.Marius Panzarella . The opposite of this is “flaming”. Movements Try to slow down your movements as much as possible.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 3) Elbows on table. This is the most offensive position you can ever use. If you don’t know what to do with your arms. He just knows when to pick up his cup and when to making a tasking motion with his hand. Don’t believe me? Here’s your assignment for this week: rent any old James Bond movie.
He’s not exactly what I would call the most articulate person in the world. (Hiding behind jokes and body gestures. but don’t start acting all goofy because it shows a sense of insecurity. The strong. they almost never get the girls. silent type. Women know this. and that’s why they go for the “strong. Want more examples? Okay. but all the ladies (including my own mother) dig him because of his body language. Just watch any episode of “Blind Date” or the “5th Wheel”. Every movement a confident man makes is slow and almost “calculated”.” Want proof? Okay. Now. They are always relaxed because they just KNOW they are in charge of the situation.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System if he’s ever in a rush when there aren’t any bombs exploding around him. is he? But women find him dead sexy.Marius Panzarella . he just knows when to pick up his cup and when to raise an eyebrow.) But smiling slightly is good. 111 Copyright 2000-2007 . There is no need to laugh out loud. If you observe the way Evan moves on TV. Always keep your facial expressions serious and “mature”. silent and slow type ALWAYS win and get picked at the end. Remember. a man who is in control has no reason to be in a hurry. Women love men who are happy and positive. here’s a more “recent” example.All Rights Reserved . who would YOU rather be? The stud or the goofball? You can also do wonders with your facial expressions. Just like James Bond. As for the hyperactive goofballs. Remember Joe Millionaire on TV? Not the smartest guy. you will find that he’s just about the slowest guy on earth. You may have a nice “mature” smile.
5) Stopping to turn and make eye contact. go for 5. And so forth.All Rights Reserved . 6) Make eye contact and then start walking towards the object. Like if you find 4 counts too fast.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Try to keep your head a bit tilted horizontally. You may do small things with your brows such as squinting them a bit and then raising an eyebrow to show some interest. (Chin towards neck. Dating Exercise: How To Slow Down 1) Stand up and walk slowly.) This always makes you seem more mysterious and mature yet down to earth. 2) Practice turning your head slowly in this direction. Here’s a quick exercise for you to practice your body posture and movement. Count how many counts it takes you to fully turn to the side and then try out other speeds. 3) Make “eye contact” with various objects in your room as you walk and turn your head. Remember to walk tall with your head up and shoulders back. You will be able to make wonderful eye contact in this position too. Try out various patterns such as: 4) Turning your head to make eye contact without stopping. 112 Copyright 2000-2007 . But try to keep things simple as less is always more. See what speed works with you the best.Marius Panzarella .
Next time you go to a mall.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 7) Walk over to a chair slowly and sit down. nervous and insecure people is that they tend to still very still. walk slower and turn your head slowly as you check out the window displays. But when you’re trying to be sociable. Remember to open up and keep your body back. Something I like to do is to watch the television with the sound muted. You will become a far more accurate interpreter of what other people are thinking and feeling. and appear as a much more sensitive person then most men.All Rights Reserved . I also love to mirror their movements for practice. So if you’re the type of guy who tend to stand still or sit still whenever you’re in a public situation (such as a nightclub or party). a whole new world of communication will open up for you. I love to study actors and analyze their body language. 113 Copyright 2000-2007 . remaining in the background is the last thing you need. I highly suggest you practice moving around and practicing your body language. Who knows? You may catch a glimpse of the reflection of a girl checking you out! Remember that if you master the art of body language. The reason shy guys don’t like to move is because they want to remain in the background. 8) Go out and practice. On the other side. men who are outgoing and confident seem to move around confidently and naturally.Marius Panzarella . The Dangers Of Stillness Someone I’ve noticed about a lot of shy.
Any movement is better than no movement! Voice Tone If you want to turn a woman on right away. no matter how whiny or high-pitched you may sound: By talking slower and deeper. Or do you just babble a lot? Here is how you can improve your voice. Break off your sentences with pauses often.All Rights Reserved .Marius Panzarella . Women will find you much more mature because you are “thinking” before you speak. I can’t emphasize this enough. sexy voice. Is it all flat and boring.” Your voice always creates a first impression with every girl you meet. Then work on getting up and moving to places as you met new friends. remember that slow means confidence and power. Draw in a deep breath before you say something. or does it sound rich? Articulation – How well your articulate your words. Most players have a FABULOUS voice and very good communication skills. They can talk their way into anything – especially into a girl’s pants! Here is what marks a “deep.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Start by adopting more than one sitting or standing position when you’re with people. Musicality – How musical the tone is. Also. And talk SLOWLY. sexy” voice: Resonance – How well your mouth resonates your voice. you better have a “deep. It will definitely help your articulation a lot. The women will be holding their breath 114 Copyright 2000-2007 .
For example: “Have you ever met someone who’s just…(pause) as (serious look) venerable as you are deep inside?” Dating Technique: Pause When You Talk Great speakers know how to build anticipation in their speech. You will find he speaks VERY slowly – almost as if he’s searching for his words. it may be very freaky to hear yourself on tape. This way you can hear yourself speaking natural. By the way. The voice you hear is probably going to sound VERY different than the voice you hear in your head! You can also use a tape recorder to tape yourself speaking with your friends. They know when to pause – such as right before important words and ideas. unstructured dialogue. 115 Copyright 2000-2007 . anticipation is the key! You may combine this with serious looks for even better results. Remember. And guess what? Women find him sexy! Now let’s work on your voice a bit: Dating Exercise: Tape Recorder Get a tape recorder and record yourself speaking.Marius Panzarella . Film actor Harrison Ford is a great speaker. Watch his interviews. if you haven’t done this before.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System and dying to see what you have to say next.All Rights Reserved . This way you can hear yourself as women hear you.
round tone that women find sexy? How clear are your consonants? Is your voice pleasant to hear? Here are a couple of simple exercises you can try to improve your speech. If you have trouble finding your optimal pitch. You can discover your optimal pitch by saying the word “he” fast and hard. Kinda like when you’re coughing. For example. this is a note that is lower than the note we usually speak during the day. 116 Copyright 2000-2007 . However. We tend to lose our optimal pitch because the voice has a tendency to drive itself up. when we’re excited and use more energy to project our voice our pitches goes up…and gets stuck up there.Marius Panzarella . Dating Exercise: Discover Your Optimal Pitch Your optimal pitch is your “natural speaking pitch” and the pitch you should use with a woman because it’s deep and sexy. Another way to find it is to say an exaggerated “uh-uh” as if you mean “no way”.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System What do you think of your voice? Do you have a deep.All Rights Reserved . Your voice should become “rounder” and more pleasant near the bottom. That’s your optimal pitch. That’s your optimal pitch. try this one last method: Take a big yawn and let your voice slide down. Just repeat it and attack it as if you’re coughing.
try 117 Copyright 2000-2007 . But reacquainting your voice with it should be no problem because this is a very easy exercise.Marius Panzarella .). You will feel an area lifting up at the back of your mouth. and as you go “down”. To find your soft palate. mmmoooo. you need to learn to lift your soft palate when you speak. then your soft palate is probably being lazy. mmmaaaa.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Once you’re reacquainted yourself with your optimal pitch. remaining dropped and therefore blocking air from reaching your mouth. aaah. In that case. Inhale and take a big yawn.All Rights Reserved . practice speaking down there.g. try to feel your chest resonate when you speak. That’s your soft palate. baaa. You will find yourself with a much rounder tone. mmuuu. If you have heard yourself on a tape recorder and think your voice is too nasal. You may need to find your optimal pitch over and over because we all tend to “lose” it throughout the day. let out on a long vowel or a consonant-vowel sequence (e. oooh. eeeee. beeee. You can even do this in the car! Dating Exercise: How to Stop Sounding Nasal Some of you may have a very nasal voice. Don’t actually sing it. imagine you’re singing the highest sound you can sing. Dating Exercise: Resonance Exercise For a start. Now. Just IMAGINE it with your mouth closed.
Verbs. 118 Copyright 2000-2007 . you WILL be able to sound less nasal. there are a few things you can do to develop musicality in your voice. Dating Exercise: How To Work On Your Tone Try putting a slight emphasize on “important words”. adverbs and nouns that are associated with color and imageries such as “love.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System this again in front of a mirror. beautiful. However. I must say that it is a shame that most of us live in North America. Really emphasize on the “ah” and open fully when you say it. King Kong becomes King-Ah-Kong-Ah Ding Dong becomes Ding-Ah-Dong-Ah Bing Bong becomes Being-Ah-Bong-Ah Ling Long becomes Ling-Ah-Long-Ah Now record yourself saying these sounds. red”. As for the musicality of your voice. with your mouth open.Marius Panzarella . Standard American English is simply not as “musical” as more romantic languages such as French. including 1) The name of the person you’re talking to 2) . Pretty cool huh? Now add an “ah” behind every word as you read the following phrases. Do you sound less nasal? Incorporate the same technique to your everybody speech and with practice. to see your soft palate lifting up.All Rights Reserved .
Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System A word of warning though. Dating Exercise: Avoid The Fading Tone A lot of guys sound boring because of their fading tone. Sometime too hot the eye of heaven shines. And every fair from fair sometime declines.All Rights Reserved .Marius Panzarella . Rough winds do shake the darling buds of May. substitute words for numbers. Dating Exercise: Practice Sonnet – Shakespeare’s Sonnet 18 Shall I compare thee to a summer's day? Thou art more lovely and more temperate. 119 Copyright 2000-2007 . This way you will know when to pause to take breaths Next. As you get more comfortable. By chance or nature's changing course untrimm'd. Read out simple sonnets and nursery rhymes. And summer's lease hath all too short a date. How beeeeeaaaautiful!” You know what I mean. “Daaar-liiiinng. And often is his gold complexion dimm'd. The last thing you want to do is to sound too feminine. work with other materials such as newspaper articles. remember to keep your voice DEEP as you do this. Repeat this until you know just how much breath you have in your body. They run out of breath before they finish their sentences! Practice counting 1 to 10 while gradually increasing your volume as you speak.
Practice really makes perfect when it comes to speaking. You can improve your articulation (and stop stuttering in front of girls) by doing tongue twisters. Bodega.Marius Panzarella . For my favorite tongue twisters. and this gives life to thee. Red leather. Nor shall Death brag thou wander'st in his shade. The sixth sick sheik’s sixth sheep’s sick. yellow leather. please see Appendix A at the back of the book. When in eternal lines to time thou grow'st: So long as men can breathe or eyes can see. So long lives this. Topeka. 120 Copyright 2000-2007 .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System But thy eternal summer shall not fade Nor lose possession of that fair thou ow'st. Dating Exercise: Sample Tongue Twisters You need unique New York. Rubber baby buggy bumper. Articulation means clarity of speech. the tip of the tongue.All Rights Reserved . the teeth. you should go look for some speech training tapes or CDs. irresistible voice. The lips. If you are serious about developing a sexy. Sushi chef.
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Marius Panzarella . For a start… Dating Exercise: What Kind Of Women Do You Like? Write Down: 1) 5 things about the physical attributes you’re attracted to. then you will be able to “spot” the girls you want easier. it is time to step aside from the theories and learn to apply the three-step approach to attracting women: emotions. 123 Copyright 2000-2007 .All Rights Reserved . 2) 5 things about the personality of your dream girl 3) 5 hobbies she may be interested in. N What Kind Of Women You Should Date Before you go out to meet women. you should have an idea of what type of girl you would like to meet. desire and action. If you know what you’re looking for. You should also figure out what “type” of women you’re attracted to.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 8 Meeting And Approaching Women ow that you have the proper mindset to enter the dating game. Do you like sporty chicks? Or do you like classy.
always a liar. Once a liar. Here are a few qualities you should look for in a woman if you're interested in a long-term relationship. a woman who has cheated once will usually cheat again. A good girlfriend should be: 1) Honest Never date a liar. If a woman "hates the world" or people in general.Marius Panzarella . always a cheater. 3) Socially Skilled Find a woman who can get along with anyone.All Rights Reserved .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System professional workers? Or maybe you want a teacher who loves working with children? This is quite essential to the next part: where to meet women. You can count on it. Whenever you hear I say "good character" in a woman. 4) Fun to be with Date women with a fun personality. that's usually a sign there're deeper problems within her. Just like a woman who has lied to you once will often lie again. A boring woman will drive you crazy as soon as the initial hormone-driven honeymoon period is over. 5) Adventurous and open-minded 124 Copyright 2000-2007 . A woman who has lied to you over and over will lie to you again in the future. I am referring to these qualities. 2) Loyal Once a cheater.
8) "Clean" Your girlfriend should be currently clean of any drug or alcohol problems. classy and sophisticated Cultured women often make a better companion if you live in a big city. A spoiled princess will drive you nuts eventually.All Rights Reserved .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Find a woman you can travel and explore the world with. Pessimistic people will drain all your energy out of you. This is why you see a lot of men marrying women in their own fields or professions. it doesn't really matter. Where To Meet Women Research shows that a couple is more likely to stay together in a long-term relationship if they have common interests. Teachers usually marry 125 Copyright 2000-2007 . (If you don't. Narrow-minded women usually have limited foresight and get boring after awhile. They will drain your bank account empty and then leave without looking back. 6) Cultured.Marius Panzarella . 9) Flexible Try to find someone who's willing to compromise. 10) A positive thinker This one is very important.) 7) Frugal Beware of big spenders and golddiggers.
go to a university campus.Marius Panzarella . If you like college girls. anywhere. For real smart women. if you like sporty women in their cute tank tops. actors usually marry actresses. always be trying out new locations and times. They are just interested in getting into a woman’s pants (Aren’t we all?) and personally I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. However. This is why some dating coaches believe it is better to meet women at work or through friends rather then in single bars. For example. there are single-bar experts who simply concentrate on one-night stands. And at the other end of the spectrum. hang around a gym or sports field. My personal favorite is the dance class. you should go to places where they hang out. Simply think about where the kind of women you’d like to meet would most likely hang out. if you like a specific kind of women.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System other teachers. You should be able to meet women anytime. you will put yourself in a higher probability if you go to places where women outnumber you like 10-1. Be it jazz or ballet or 126 Copyright 2000-2007 . Really…just go out and have fun…be it the shopping mall or at a party… Generally. If you like tough women. go take a self-defense class. Dating Technique: Where To Meet Women If you like a specific kind of women. Do NOT limit yourself to just one location. The point is. scientists usually marry other scientists. then go to places where they may hang out! Generally. go to a library or a bookstore. and so on.All Rights Reserved . you shouldn’t limit yourself to any of these grounds.
This means they are going to be young and cute! These girls should also make nice girlfriends because no cold. try to find a volunteering job you actually enjoy.All Rights Reserved . This happens a LOT in dance classes. cheating. today most volunteers are younger college students. etc who are there to pick up work experience. Do you like art? Work at the art museum. Dating Technique: Let Women Outnumber You! To increase your chances.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System ballroom. 127 Copyright 2000-2007 . Also. bad girl who enjoys playing guys would waste time volunteering! They would rather spend all their time cheating on guys instead! When you volunteer. go to places where women outnumber you 10 to 1. Dating Technique: Volunteer Your Way Into Paradise! Most volunteer jobs have females outnumbering guys 10 to 1. lying. What a great basis for a relationship! The same goes for the city you live in.Marius Panzarella . where every waitress looks like a future Oscar winner. Always be looking out for more opportunities. Keep in mind that the volunteers who work at your destination will probably share the same interests as you. If you are from a small town. And guess what? All the women will be hitting on you. you may want to move to a big city. you will probably be the only guy in the whole class. An excellent location is LA.
. (Had my own hunts to do as well. you suddenly find yourself without any friends left.and started inviting me to his parties and to go on his "hunts" for women at the clubs the day after. He knows that the more friends he has. Remember that girls love the idea of meeting their soul mates “accidentally” and being swept away by the moment.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Be creative as you search for your hunting grounds. So if you're the type of guy who doesn't get invited to a lot of events because you haven't been socially active in 128 Copyright 2000-2007 . I chatted up a guy at the gym last year who turned out to be a major player. And when you break up with your girlfriend 2. You MUST have a social life before you have a love life! Why? Because when you start dating seriously. He got my number and email. It happens at the beginning of every relationship. You start to see your girlfriend more and your drinking buddies less. This is why you must have a close circle of friends before you get into a relationship.5 years later. Expand Your Social Circle You should also expand your social circle as much as possible. the more power social status he will have.All Rights Reserved . You’re not going to have much time to make new friends once you start dating someone exclusively. A strong leader does NOT mind adding new recruits to his circle of influence.) But he was persistent.Marius Panzarella . Here's the truth: lots of men who are good at women are just natural alpha males with strong social and leader skills. your relationship will probably take you AWAY from your social circle.. I was pretty busy at the time and so I couldn't hang out much. Don’t be afraid to pick up women in ordinary places such as the supermarket.
Spend the next 6 months building up your social circle. you REALLY need to start taking the time and effort to invite other people to hang out with YOU. No more than 30 minutes a day.but once you have your own "stable" of boys and guys. you can just keep on rolling it bigger and bigger . one common trait is that they are all strong leaders with huge social circles. Dating Exercise: A Short Guide To Getting A Social Life Here is a short guide to expanding your social circle and getting a social life. 2) Cut down on computer games.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System the past. and I promise you that you'll be surrounded by women very shortly. it's too much. It'll be hard at first. and other retail stores for awhile. It's good practice . 129 Copyright 2000-2007 . 3) Stop shopping on Amazon. If you look at all the successful people in pretty much every single field (including dating).they have been trained to be nice to you..and eventually meeting even MORE people just through your own friends.All Rights Reserved . Ebay. NO MORE. I promise you that if you follow it to the bone. If you watch more than one hour a day.Marius Panzarella . Do "window-shopping" at malls and just interact with the sales people.. you will encounter MANY women on the way: 1) Stop watching so much television. Cancel your full cable TV subscription and use the money to go out instead.
9) Invite your co-workers or college classmates to hang out with you for food or for drinks. 11) Volunteer. Learn to cook and go to potlucks. classical or pop concerts.Marius Panzarella . Eat out with friends. 5) Find new hobbies and join various hobbie groups. (Or not even working out at all. I know a guy who has met dozens of people over just one summer by acting in a play. 12) Most important of all. 8) Get a gym membership instead of working out in the basement.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 4) Stop getting take out or deliveries. 6) Take a night class outside work or college. 7) Take dancing and yoga classes. Learn as much about arts as you can because it can really make you look smart in front of people. 10) Scour your city or community’s social calendar for interesting plays.All Rights Reserved .) It's not about hitting on girls or meeting people at the gym .it's about having people around you and breaking out of your shell. art exhibition. 130 Copyright 2000-2007 . Great way to meet people (and women). Comparison Chart Average Frustrated Chump Tries to hunt for women at just one Smart Dater Meets women anywhere. musicals. don't be afraid of meeting people in general and getting numbers and emails/Instant Messenger nicknames from both men and women.
Doesn’t have a social life. and action? It is VERY important that you pay attention to the following emotions when you first approach a woman: fear and annoyance. Goes out with his friends all the time. 131 Copyright 2000-2007 . desires. But if one of these horny guys come up to her and asks for her number right away. Before You Approach Remember the three steps to attracting women – emotions. Safety is the biggest concern to every women.Marius Panzarella . Remember: no girl likes to have her personal space invaded by a stranger. Never goes out. Think about what an average hot blonde girl has to go through when she goes to a bar. you can’t just walk up to a woman on the streets and surprise her by hitting on her. Similarly. what do you think is going to happen? She’s going to have to reject him. You have to take small.All Rights Reserved . you can’t just walk up to a woman and start macking. She’ll probably smile back and enjoy the attention. even if she’s a little bit interested. The fear of rape is the biggest concern a woman has when she meets a guy initially. measurable steps and make sure she feels safe and comfortable. Unless you’re Tom Cruise. Meets new girls through his friends. She’s going to think you’re a freak.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System location. She will probably see a dozen men stop talking and stare at her like they are dogs.
They are in their own little bubbles.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Let’s say you’re walking down the streets on a bright. approach girls that are sitting down or waiting in line with you. there are some rare occasions when a guy can succeed. In this case. Hi. then it makes MUCH more sense for one of them to start chatting with the other person. Yes. there’s no way for them to build a connection with each other. sunny day. my name is…. So…if you’re a college kid hoping to get a girl. at the bus stop. They’re not part of each other’s world.) So…how can you meet women “anywhere” if you can’t interrupt a stranger? By becoming part of their world. 132 Copyright 2000-2007 . A man suddenly pulls up besides you and says.Marius Panzarella . but it’s probably not going to happen for most people. (I may write a more advanced textbook on “street pickups” in the future. What a weirdo!” This is exactly why you can’t just approach a girl and hit on her on the street. Instead. or on a bench. “I really like the shirt you’re wearing. Approach girls after class. But if the two people are sitting together…say…like at a bus stop.” What are you going to think? How are you going to feel? Probably something like.All Rights Reserved . If a girl is walking. it means she’s trying to get somewhere and does not have time to chat. Let’s say there are two people walking on the streets. minding your own business. don’t go drooling around campus and approaching every girl you see. Always wait till a girl has stopped before you approach her. “This guy is creeping me out. But don’t just walk up to a girl randomly to ask for her phone number.
it means you can approach her. If she does. If she looks down or blushes lightly. always stand or sit down in her direct view. Remember the first time a stranger called you or tapped you on the shoulder from behind you? Did you get more cautious usual? You don’t want this reaction from a woman when you approach her. you don’t want to surprise or interrupt a woman abruptly. wait for about forty seconds and see if she steals another glance at you. But if she avoids your eye contact and looks away. you should make yourself presence known to her AND signal your interest right away. Women do NOT like surprises from strangers. Direction Of Approach When you approach a woman.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System By the way. if one of your friends know the girl you want. Grab Her Attention With The Eye-Contact Test As soon as you’ve decided to approach a woman.Marius Panzarella . it means she does NOT want you to approach her at all. you won’t be a stranger and she will feel much more comfortable already. attractive lady you would like to meet at a bar or club. If she smiles back. always get your buddy to introduce you to her whenever possible. Let her see you first. This simple eye contact test works fabulously because unlike using a pick-up line. This is VERY important because once again. Then make direct eye contact with her and smile slightly. you know she acknowledges your presence.All Rights Reserved . always approach her from the front. This way. You want her to feel safe and comfortable with you. Whenever you see a young. it does not put anyone on the 133 Copyright 2000-2007 .
Research has shown that if she looks up again within 45 seconds. at least meet her eyes and catch her attention. MAKE YOUR move. smiles at her slightly and give her a friendly nod.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System spot. she may think you’re a stalker when you suddenly appear out of nowhere later. If she smiles back you’re halfway there.” Dating Technique: Make Your Move NOW As soon as you meet a girl you’re interested in.All Rights Reserved . They love to feel like a romance has just happened out of nowhere. Furthermore. So make your first move now – even if it’s just a smile and a nod. if you don’t let your presence known a. Dating Technique: The Silent Pick Up Line Simply look at her and hold your eye contact for at least five seconds. Women LOVE spontaneity. By respecting the girl’s personal space and being subtle about your pick up attempt.a. she’s onto you! If she does look at you again. 134 Copyright 2000-2007 . you can now approach women without the fear of getting rejected. A woman usually lowers her eyes when a man looks at her because she’s shy. But this does not mean she is not interested in you. Some out-going women may even strike up a conversation with you or at least say. Don’t look away until she does. If you’re too afraid to approach her. or feigns interest in something else in the room because she is so darn coy.Marius Panzarella .s.p. “Hello.
you’re setting yourself up for embarrassment! What If Nobody Notices You If no woman ever pays any attention to you when you try the eye-contact test. Let her see you as you approach her. Do not ever approach her from the back. Remember the golden rule: It’s not how much you like her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Dating Technique: ALWAYS Approach A Woman From The Front Whenever you approach a woman.All Rights Reserved .Marius Panzarella . You don’t want to surprise her and make her think you’re creepy! Dating Technique: ALWAYS Test A Women First! It’s VERY important that you test a woman with eye contact before you attempt to pick her up. he’s still wondering why all 135 Copyright 2000-2007 . Here’s an example: Two guys walk into a house party. In this case. it can only mean two things: 1) You’re trying to approach girls that are busy. The first guy rushes his butt to the corner to sit down and sits down alone. The smart dater knows there are tons of other opportunities out there. Half an hour later. Once again. she is not going to notice you. If you try to pick up an ice queen. but how much SHE likes you that counts. 2) You aren’t demanding enough attention. if a girl is busy doing something or walking somewhere. just wait for a better situation. approach her FROM THE FRONT.
How are you doing. “Hello. He looks at the guy in the eyes and approaches him slowly. If you want attention from women. while keeping his eye contact until the other man looks away. you will make your entrance more dramatic. Here are a couple of tips on how you can get more attention from women at a house party or at a club: 1) Stop at the door when you enter: Stage actors do this when they get onstage. Having fun?” Then he checks out the room quickly and makes quick eye contact with everybody in the room with one clean sweep.Marius Panzarella . If you act timid. A second guy shows up at the door. walking tall and moving with confidence. “Who’s this guy?” Listen. then you should start demanding attention. everybody. women are whispering to each other. buddy?” He smiles as he shakes hands. he pauses and says. By stopping at the entrance. His gaze finally stops at a guy talking to two beautiful women in the center of the room. “Long time no see.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System the girls he’s trying to make eye contact with are not responding to him. 2) Do a quick scan-around: Make eye-contact with the women in the room 3) Walk straight to a destination in the middle of the room: If you have buddies with you. All around him. There. of course you’re going to get ignored. 136 Copyright 2000-2007 . Be the guy that women talk about.All Rights Reserved . lead them and let them follow you.
So make it a habit to do something to expand your social circle every weekend. Don’t look away until he does. Smart Dater Demands attention. Lift your chest when you walk. Tests for permission before the approach. 137 Copyright 2000-2007 . “Gathers enough courage” to approach women. 2) START CONVERSATIONS Going to a party is useless if you're just going to be a wallflower. the more likely people will invite you next time.Marius Panzarella . 6) Stay in the center of the room: Don’t go off to the sides until you can isolate a woman into coming with you.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 4) Approach the hottest guy: Approach the hottest guy in the room if you know him. Makes eye-contact with a woman instantly.All Rights Reserved . “Surprises” a woman. Give him a firm handshake and eye contact. Dating Technique: How To Meet Women At Parties 1) SEARCH OUT PARTIES ACTIVELY The more you party. 5) Walk tall: Walk with confidence. the more likely you'll know where the parties are. And the more parties you go to.including guys AND girls. You can never make too many friends. Comparison Chart Average Frustrated Chump Is afraid of attention. Make sure you go out of your way to talk to everyone and ANYONE .
5) NEVER SIT WITH SOMEONE YOU KNOW Avoid hanging out with your own buddies. 6) LOOK FOR WALLFLOWERS If you see a woman sitting by herself. 8) USE THE FOOD AS AN EXCUSE TO MOVE 138 Copyright 2000-2007 . How can you know if a woman is a good candidate for a date if you don't talk to her first? 4) BE A GOOD LISTENER Remember what I've taught you about holding good conversations. Listen plenty. and then make a comment. Then use it as a launching pad to start a conversation. She may just be waiting for someone to come up to talk to her. That's the whole point of going to these parties .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 3) MAKE CONTACT.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved . Take a bite. 7) USE THE FOOD TO BEGIN CONVERSATION This one is my favorite. nod your head like it's the most delicious piece of food you've ever had. and ask the right questions.to meet people. NOT "CONTACTS" Don't just try to meet as many people as you can. Go out and meet new people. Try to actually GET TO KNOW these people as much as you can. go introduce yourself to her.
This is VERY important.if you're in a nightclub setting. "whaaaat?" just flash her another smile and say. direct. and then approach 139 Copyright 2000-2007 . This way you can keep getting up and moving around. 10) TAKE WOMEN OUTSIDE / INTO ANOTHER ROOM What If A Woman Makes Eye Contact With YOU I'm going to tell you what to do when you check a woman checking you out.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Don't have too much food on your plate. If she goes like.Marius Panzarella . What's your name?" Or. you can flash her a big smile or even toast her a drink from across the room. 9) FLIRT. just approach her and say "Hi" with a big smile. Wait 10 to 15 minutes. FLIRT Remember to be PLAYFUL and flirt with all the ladies.. FLIRT. Then turn around casually and resume your conversation with your buddies. "Nothing.All Rights Reserved . and confident... The answer is really quite simple: Approach her!!! Remember that women are naturally attracted to men who are bold. So if you find a woman checking you out.. Just thought you might be a interesting person and so I came up to say 'Hi'.
I don't want you to just look at her eyes.Marius Panzarella . Forget about the dating coaches that say you have to “look serious”. guys are always looking for some secret guaranteed-to-work-scripted-chat-up-lines that can seduce 140 Copyright 2000-2007 . don’t forget to SMILE. (Obviously. (Even if they are really dying of stage fright inside.) It helps them focus and give off an illusion of SUPREME CONFIDENCE. "Damn.) Don't squint your eyes or tense your eyes physically.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System her table. Smiling gets you attention and that’s why you need to smile! And when you smile. you'll be able to send out a mysterious force of sexual energy that can literally disarm a woman and make her think. I want you to actually look PAST her eyes. I want you to imagine you're gazing THROUGH her eyes and into her soul. If you’re going to a nightclub.) If you do this correctly. He's sexy!" Your Opening Line You know. As you make eye contact with her. The whole process should take place inside your head.All Rights Reserved . (They look PAST the camera and the person interviewing them.) Don’t Forget To SMILE When You Make Eye Contact Next time you make eye contact with a woman. (This is called a 2-stage approach and it works like a charm. I want you to SMILE as soon as you enter the club. This is the same technique actors use during interviews as they look at the camera. you can't actually look "through" a woman physically unless you're superman with x-ray vision. Just keep everything relaxed and imagine gazing THROUGH her eyes as you smile at her.
your ass is on fire. So here’s the bottom line: CHEESY PICK-UP LINES DO NOT WORK! Use them. Yes. How To Start A Conversation The true purpose of an opening line is NOT to “pick up” a girl. 5) Haven’t I seen you somewhere before? You get the idea. you must work on her emotions. and you will end up like most guys: Lonely and sexually frustrated! Examples of bad pick up lines: 1) Are you accepting applications for your fan club? 2) Can I flirt with you? 3) Want to taste my dick? (What!?!) I said.All Rights Reserved . They think a player can just say some "secret" pick up line that can arouse a woman instantly and take her home. it would be cool if there were "seven magic words" (or any of that junk) that you could use to instantly attract women. Remember that the first step of our three-step approach system is “emotion”.Marius Panzarella . "do you want to taste my drink?" 4) You know…you're so hot. but here's the truth: there aren't.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System every single woman on this planet. 141 Copyright 2000-2007 . The whole point of an opening line is to help you calibrate her emotional state with yours. That is NOT true. Most guys think pick up lines are for "picking up women for sex". She must feel connected to you emotionally before she can feel attracted to you. Before you can increase a woman’s desire for you. etc.
if you introduce yourself or ask for her phone number right away. If you walk up to her and say something negative like. If you approach a woman while you’re very nervous and tense.All Rights Reserved . “I hate this transit system.Marius Panzarella . That’s what the opening line is for: to get her to open up to you. but the opening line can help you to… 1) Test the waters: If she doesn’t even want to answer back. 142 Copyright 2000-2007 . She will associate you as a whiner and a negative person to be around. For example. 3) Establish a mutual emotional state: Whatever you say can greatly affect a woman’s mood. On the other hand. 2) Break the ice: A woman must let you into her personal space before you can calibrate her emotional state with yours. she’s going to feel the “awkward energy” in the air too. if you approach a woman in a cheerful manner. you know it’s a waste of time to talk to her. But if you say something nice that makes her laugh first. then she’s not going to mind talking to you. 4) Make her feel comfortable: A woman must be in a “relaxed” or “slightly curious” state in order for her to open up to you. Another example is nervousness.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Great emotional bonding will probably take a whole conversation to develop. she’s going to be scared. I’ve been waiting here for an hour!” she’s going to quickly switch from a neutral mood into a negative one. Let’s say a woman is feeling neutral and relaxed at the bus stop. she will probably feel a little bit more cheerful as well.
there are three kinds of opening lines: 1) Situation openers. The Four-Steps To Approaching A Woman Step 1: Eye Contact and Smiling Always do the eye contact test to test for her “buying signals” before you approach her. Most guys just suddenly appear out of nowhere and throw out some cheesy pickup line that the girl has probably heard a dozen times already. Step 2: Use An Opening Line Since every woman and situation is different.All Rights Reserved . Generally. The more women you approach. You want to let her know you're interested BEFORE you surprise her with an approach.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 5) Open up conversation: A good opener can help you to lead a woman into further conversation. whatever you say should be "made up" on the spot with lighting speed.Marius Panzarella . the easier this will become. Of course these suckers are going to get rejected! Always use the "silent pickup line" (eye contact) before you try a verbal one. 2) Compliments 3) Question The Situation-Opener The situation-opener is a great place to start for beginners. Simply pick something out of your environment and comment on it: 143 Copyright 2000-2007 . Basically. it’s making small talk with women. where true emotional bonding will take place.
All Rights Reserved .Marius Panzarella . Give a woman a compliment and then leave to do “something else” before she can react. Stay away from her beauty and looks. She will probably pay more attention to you from that point on.”) The best way to pull the compliment off is by doing a hit and run.” Example #2: “Nice shirt you’re wearing.” (If it’s a shirt with lettering…like “Diva.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Example #1: “Nice day. Here are a few examples: 1) Enjoying the concert? 2) What did you think about the show? 144 Copyright 2000-2007 . I read it last month.” Example #7: “Great concert. Example #1: “That’s a nice book you’re reading. The Question-Opener The last kind of opening line is the question. I think it suits you.” The Compliment-Opener This one is harder to pull off for the beginner. Compliment her on something tiny. eh?” Example #2: “I love this song” Example #3: “Great party!” Example #4: “Pretty busy here tonight isn’t it?” Example #5: “Quite a crowd.” Example #6: “It’s nice to see the sun.
All Rights Reserved . but also HOW you say it that is important. Step 3: Ask A More Specific Question The next step is to ask a more specific question. You should also have GOOD POSTURE when you approach a woman. eh?” Example #3: “Have you seen their last concert?” Example #4: “You go to school here?” 145 Copyright 2000-2007 .) Lastly. only to stutter or sound like horny perverts when they actually say them. Keep your grieves and sorrows to yourself.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 3) Been waiting long? 4) Cabbage for tonight. eh? A Quick Side Note Before you open your mouth. such as: Example #1: “Are you from around here?” Example #2: “So you like <genre>. funny. you want to speak slowly and clearly when you first say something on a girl. Do NOT whine about ANYTHING. A lot of guys try to memorize or think of dozens of "cool" pick up lines to use on women. you should ALWAYS have a good. and HAPPY guys. remember to keep your opening lines positive. and grounded posture if you wanna become good around the ladies. (Actually. For a start. confident.Marius Panzarella . remember that it's not just what you say. Women like confident.
then you should always be asking yourself the following question: 146 Copyright 2000-2007 . it should be easy to start a conversation with the girl. Offer your hand and say. Step 4: Introduce Yourself Finally. Dating Technique: How To Get Women To Choose YOU Over OtherMen In business. This way. then you’re offering it as a sign of friendship AFTER she has already got to talk to you.All Rights Reserved . We have something in common!” Once you’ve found something in common. people always ask.Marius Panzarella . This will be the step to bonding with her emotionally. “Cool.” But if you talk to her BEFORE you give her your name. Another guy hitting on me. “Oh dear. You can start a conversation with her at this point. “I’m <name>”. She’ll probably just think. The reason why you should talk to her BEFORE you tell her your name is because telling her your name at the beginning won’t do you any good. She should shake your hand and tell you her name. "What are you doing that your competitors are not doing?" I think the same principle applies to dating and women as well. As a Smart Dater. You want to let her think. if you would like to have an advantage over other guys.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System The key to this part is to find something that you have common with. you want to introduce yourself. exchanging names will actually bring you closer to her because it’s a mutual exchange between you two.
Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System "What am I doing that other guys are not doing to attract the ladies?" With that said. But as a Smart Dater. 1) Be BOLDER than other men Being bolder than other men will give you an edge over the average man. period.All Rights Reserved . 5) Be MORE relaxed and spontaneous than other men 147 Copyright 2000-2007 . Don't be the guy who waits a long time before making a move on a woman. Remember my philosophy: It is better to crash and burn than to not do anything! 2) Flirt MORE than other men Many guys think it is "wrong" to flirt with women. you should know that flirting is just a way of being friendly with women! (And the key to raising attraction!) 3) Be MORE sociable than other men This is an obvious fact. The more sociable you are and the more women you meet. the greater your chances of getting a girlfriend that you'll really like.Marius Panzarella . here are some practical tips on how you can "outdo" your competition. "Shy" men who don't have many friends tend to fall for the women closest to them because they don't have any friends. 4) Be MORE creative than other men Don't use canned lines and don't do anything stupid like passing a woman a note. It's not grade school anymore. as most guys are afraid to take chances.
2) Expand your social circle. you should already be doing better than a lot of guys when it comes to dating and women. You must use my techniques naturally! 6) Tease women MORE than other men Many men are afraid of "offending" women. Chapter Summary Where To Meet Women: 1) Hang out at places where women out-number you. Use this to your advantage and tease women more than them. 8) Be MORE knowledgeable than other men Your greatest advantage in dating is that there are MANY guys out there who are CLUELESS about dating. if you're tense you will fail with ANY technique that I teach you. 7) Be MORE of a challenge than other men Everybody enjoys a good challenge. 148 Copyright 2000-2007 . If you have following my tips already. as I told a reader the other day. Be more of a challenge than other guys and the ladies will come to you. Besides.All Rights Reserved .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Being more relaxed and spontaneous can automatically make you appear more confident than other men.Marius Panzarella . 3) Let your friends introduce you to a girl if they know her.
Marius Panzarella . 7) Stay in the center of the room. 5) Always demand attention.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 4) Do not hit on women that are busy or walking. 3) Walk straight to a destination in the middle of the room. 4) Approach the hottest guy. When you go to a party… 1) Stop at the door when you enter. 5) Don’t break eye-contact until the other person looks away 6) Walk tall. 2) Do a quick scan-around. The 3 Kinds of Opening Lines: 1) The situation opener 2) The compliment-opener 3) The question-opener The 4 Steps To Approaching Women: Step 1: Eye Contact and Smiling Step 2: Use An Opening Line Step 3: Ask A More Specific Question Step 4: Introduce Yourself 149 Copyright 2000-2007 .All Rights Reserved .
This is a necessary step we need to take before we can start building desires for us within their minds.Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 9 How To Talk To Women: The Basics personality. interesting and most important of all. Remember that you want to come across as unique. we want to match their emotional states with us. desirable. This is the time you want to radiate her with your Remember the personality traits we’ve learned earlier? It is time to use them! As you talk to her. In other words. You should also try to make her laugh whenever you can. Y our first conversation must be electrifying if you want to ignite a relationship with a woman. Talking to a woman will also let us know if she is intelligent or would make a good candidate for a girlfriend. original. 150 Copyright 2000-2007 . The Point Of Conversation The whole purpose behind talking to women is to build rapport with them. It is very important that you appear as a confident man. inject your special personality traits into the conversation to make you seem different then the rest of the men out there. We will talk more about flirting with women in the next chapter. you will need to tease her like there is no tomorrow. Of course.All Rights Reserved .
Marius Panzarella . every woman is different. 6) Make a list of what’s important to you 7) Make a list of what you enjoy ding with friends. Dating Technique: Topic Generator 1) Make a list of your hobbies. you can talk about: 1) People you both know 2) Your favorite television shows 151 Copyright 2000-2007 . they may want to chat about their dog or psychology. 4) Make a list of your favorite food.All Rights Reserved .) After awhile. 3) Make a list of your favorite T. 2) Make a list of your favorite movies. To start off with. they may enjoy talking about the ballet or the theatre. shows.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System What To Talk About What should you talk about during the first time you talk to a woman? For some women. It is very important to discover what kind of topics can engage your girl in a conversation. (Think of this as an extension of step 3 in the 4 steps to approaching women. 5) Make a list of your favorite CD’s. but for some others. you should always discuss your environment.V. So to sum it up.
Marius Panzarella . Here are some examples of the lines you can use: Example #1: “So what’s your favorite band?” Example #2: What do you like to do in your spare time? Example #3: Are you a big “Sex In The City” fan? The key is to find common ground in these trivia topics.All Rights Reserved .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 3) Your favorite movies 4) Your favorite music 5) Your favorite hobbies And so on. Topics To Avoid Here is a list of things you should avoid talking about with a woman: 1) Sex 2) Politics 3) Gore 4) Computers 5) Sports 6) Her past relationships / other men 7) Anything negative 152 Copyright 2000-2007 .
(Awkward silence) You: Umm.. Cool. (Awkward silence) These awkward silent moments during a conversation are called "dead-air beats". Like Mozart. you will probably find a lot of “awkward pauses” throughout the conversation. These beats are extremely dangerous. you can say goodbye to the girl you're talking to. You: Oh. (Awkward silence) You: What kind of music do you like? Hot Woman: Classical music.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 8) Money How To Keep A Conversation If you have trouble connecting with a woman. Here are a few techniques you can use to keep a conversation flowing smoothly: 153 Copyright 2000-2007 .All Rights Reserved .Marius Panzarella . Take a look at the following dialogue: You: So do you like coming here? Hot Woman: Yes.. If they happen too often.So do you want a Martini? Hot Woman: Sure.
Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System TECHNIQUE #1: Ask Open-Ended Questions The first technique is to ask "open questions" instead of "closed questions". Open-ended questions are questions beginning with "who".All Rights Reserved .Marius Panzarella . you will be able to have "never-ending conversations" with the women you meet. 154 Copyright 2000-2007 . But if you ask her "What kind of ice cream do you like?". it helps the conversation develop. an open-ended question makes women talk and go into more details. And most important of all. she will have to answer something like "Vanilla". Here are some examples of open-ended questions: Example #1: "What do you think about the movie?" Example #2: "Who was your favorite actor?" Example #3: "What do you like about the food?" With a little bit of practice. "why". It also shows a woman you CARE about what she thinks. Unlike closed-questions. And guess what happens after? DEAD AIR. and "how". such as a question beginning with "do". "when". which will give you something else to talk about. Closed-questions are questions that request a "yes" or "no" answer. "What". If you ask a woman a closed-ended question such as "Do you like ice-cream?" you will simply get a "yes/no" answer. "where".
Here are some sample phrases you can use to show your interest: "Wow. you won't have to worry as much about what you should talk about..Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System TECHNIQUE #2: Active Listening Another good technique is to let the woman talk while you listen actively... Furthermore." "No way!" "What happened after?" 155 Copyright 2000-2007 . It's MUCH easier to let a woman talk than to do all the talking yourself. not yourself. you will do better than most guys already. You don't want to just sit there and listen. You want to show you're actually interested in what the woman is saying by participating in the conversation." "How interesting" "Yes" "Go on" "Tell me more.. First of all. So if you learn how to pay close attention to what the WOMAN says. But unlike what most shy guys think. active listening does NOT equal "just listening".All Rights Reserved .Marius Panzarella . most guys out there only know how to brag about themselves." "I totally understand.
Marius Panzarella . because very few guys are good listeners. Nod slowly in approval when you agree. NEVER criticize her. When you're talking to a girl. give her a hug and a shoulder to cry on. "Great!") When she is sad. you're showing you UNDERSTAND how she is feeling. You’re the host who is interviewing a girl…to see if she’s good enough to become your girlfriend. When a woman feels you understand her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Dating Technique: Listen! Most women like men who actually LISTEN. Think of it as an interview. pay attention to what she is saying. buddy!) TECHNIQUE #3: Being Empathetic One last important technique is to be empathetic to women. a strong bond will be created between you and her. How To Develop A Conversation Through Subject Words 156 Copyright 2000-2007 . and she will never run out of things to say to you. (Yeah…that’s the right attitude. be happy and proud too.All Rights Reserved . (Example: "That's cool!". By being empathetic. Become her emotional fountain. If a woman seems happy or proud. Stay away from comments that begin with "you should" and "you shouldn't". Show your agreement by reflecting her emotion in your response.
This is going to build a good foundation for the next step – transiting from emotions into desire. And that’s why you ask about the beach. This method is quite powerful because it can turn any normal opener into a stimulating conversation. How To Establish A Verbal Connection Quickly 1) Use a lot of “we’s”: A good way to build connection is by using a lot of “we’s” when you talk. In the next sentence. you could start out by talking about some trivial events and then lead a girl into a deeper conversation with you. Here is an example: Girl: Yeah. It’s such a sunny day. You: Oh? So do I! I love walking by the water and… In the first sentence. With this method.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Almost every sentence has a subject word that can be led to the next sentence. I like walking by the water.All Rights Reserved . the subject word is water. the subject is the beach. 157 Copyright 2000-2007 . You: Oh? Do you go to the beach often? Girl: Sometimes.Marius Panzarella . I know. Just look for any interesting subject matters that come up when she talks. which is why you make a comment about it. I wish I could be out on the beach instead of being stuck indoors.
such as the smell. and the texture. you phrase a question in such a way that it will be impossible for the girl to say no. Give her all the sensory details.All Rights Reserved . make sure you let her know you feel the same way. Women LOVE little details. Basically. Paint a pretty picture in her mind! 2) False Choice Questions: This is a technique that a lot of salespeople use. the sound. elaborate on all the interesting details. Examples: “Would you like me to kiss you softly or kiss you passionately?” “Would you like to go out Thursday night or Wednesday night?” Come up with your own examples! 158 Copyright 2000-2007 . Combine this with a little bit of teasing.Marius Panzarella . Whatever she tells you. This will make her think you’re the most sensitive man on earth. and she will think you’re a masculine man who’s really sensitive on the inside! General Conversation Techniques: 1) Use A Lot of Details: When you talk to a woman.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 2) 3) Repeat her name: Try to say her name whenever you get the chance. Ask them how they feel: Girls LOVE to talk about feelings.
Do Not Brag No matter how successful you are. you will appear MUCH more powerful if you “let a woman figure you out”. Women LOVE to play the detective and find out more things about you . ask.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Always Put The Spotlight On The Girl A good way to build rapport with a girl is to focus on HER when you talk. Talking to a woman is a lot like playing cards. ask. Besides. “I really like football”. Real successful men are confident without telling everybody about their fancy sports car. “I go to this school”.so do not volunteer information up front. if you brag in front of women. “Do you like sports?” Instead of saying.Marius Panzarella . she will see you as a little man because the real successful men have no reason to brag. She has found out everything about you.All Rights Reserved . You DO NOT want to show your hand because once you do. so she has no reason to stay! Dating Technique: Don’t Show Your Bottom Card Don’t brag or reveal too much about yourself so: 1) She will think you're even more powerful because you're 159 Copyright 2000-2007 . the game is over. Instead of saying. “Do you go to school here?” The logic behind is that charismatic guys are always the guys that make other people feel important and cared about.
As you talk to her. if she doesn't know what your bottom/face-down card is. she doesn't know the "limits" to your power.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System so mysterious. hot) From Emotions To Desire Once you have created rapport with a woman and matched her emotions with yours. What you should do is to talk casually and swindle from one topic to the next. Just remember. The key 160 Copyright 2000-2007 .All Rights Reserved . You will have to do it smoothly and subtly. Women love playing detective . you can’t just bombard her with all these questions as if you’re interrogating her.Marius Panzarella . Simply be sensitive as you invade deeper and deeper into her territory. 2) She will enjoy digging information out of you. (In other words. try to get at least some of the following information from her: 1) What does she like and doesn’t like? 2) What are her dreams/ambitions? 3) What makes her happy or sad? 4) What makes her scared / feel safe? 5) What makes her feel good 6) Her childhood. it’s time to turn her emotions into desires.and if you keep your mouth shut she's going to find you really intriguing. Of course.
Try to ask her to explain why she likes something. Here is an example: “What do you like to eat? Ice Cream? Wow. Then you give her a big hug. Say. And then why she likes the something that makes her like something. So you try to inquire more about the subject. Or take this for another example: You learn that she is a great Star Trek fan. What? You like Strawberry eh? Oh. And then you ask her. Remember that human beings all have their own desires. So you ask her why. Try to go deeper and deeper until you’re at her roots. Do you have any siblings too? No? You’re an only child? I guess your parents must like you very much then.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System is to derive your topics from the tenants of the original questions. 161 Copyright 2000-2007 . you learn that she likes science fiction. My sister loved strawberry too.” Remember that you’re going to have to seem very interested in the things she says. So do I. And why does she like science fiction? Because she has always wanted to go into space. She tells you because she feels safe around tall men. Oh I am sorry to hear that. try to focus on her desires. “So you don’t feel safe when you’re alone?” She then admits that sometimes she feels a bit alone. As you talk with her.All Rights Reserved . Pretty soon. What a coincidence! I like chocolate the best. My personal favorite is to try to inquire about her childhood to bring the little child out of her.Marius Panzarella . Let me give you an example: You learn that a woman likes tall men.
Be as descriptive as you can. tone. Flying. Etc.All Rights Reserved . To start off. Musicians usually concern themselves with audio. and sound in general.) But with colors. Using Her Desires To Your Advantage This is the fun part.. Let me show you what I mean by using artists as an example. Don’t forget the colors are the basis of perception.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System And why does she want to go into space? So that she can be free among the stars.Marius Panzarella . And use a lot of colors. you will need to learn how to create the experiences. Painters are usually very visual and like to deal with shapes and colors. As you get to understand her. Once you know what desires a woman has. Sculptors are best with texture and form. you should begin to formulate a list of her deepest desires in your head. Returning to childhood. you can sense the colors immediately. With normal adverbs and adjectives you have to work at a “secondary” level. Desires such as: Seeing the world. If you find out what type your 162 Copyright 2000-2007 . you can attempt to recreate them in her mind with your voice. remember that some women respond to visual images better while some to sound or physical sensations. I would suggest using a lot of imageries and vivid descriptions.. (It takes longer to bring up the pictures in your mind. Also.
then use a lot of visual imageries by using phrases such as “It looks like” and “You see…” If she is a listener. If she is a feeler. Conversation Tip: Confirm What She Has Just Said The most basic technique would be to repeat what she has just said. There is actually a very easy to tell what category your girl belongs to. “Do you feel”.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System woman belongs to. If your girl is visualoriented. Example: “So you would like to get onto a spaceship and travel aimless among the stars…” Conversation Tip: Ask Her A Question This is when you lead her on and talk about a similar experience. listeners tend to look from side to side/ear to ear while touchers like to look down. “I feel”. Once you know what type your girl is. “feeling” and so on. Simply observe her eyes when she talks. Example: “Wouldn’t it feel nice to launch yourself up into the stars in a little spaceship?” 163 Copyright 2000-2007 . You’re bound to hit the “right spots”. sounds or sensations in these techniques. Remember that you can choose to work with visuals. let’s look at several techniques you can use to recreate her desires. Now. use “It sounds like” and “I hear you”. etc. Visual thinkers like to look up when they try to remember or figures things out. you can adjust yourself to her system of operation. use physical contact combined with phrases such as “sensation”.Marius Panzarella . you can then build a mental connection with her.All Rights Reserved .
In this case. describe YOURSELF going through the experience.All Rights Reserved .” 164 Copyright 2000-2007 . Example: “It would be nice to travel across the galaxy and see different worlds. I would be…. This is an excellent way of strengthening the bond between you and the girl of your dream. Conversation Tip: Sharing A Common Desire Let the girl know that you are interested in the same thing as her. (Your creativity?) Example: “I once read a book about a woman who saw a spaceship traveling in the stars and…” Adding You To the Picture If you can successfully recreate pictures in her mind…then Bravo! You’ve come a long way already! However.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Conversation Tip: Make a Suggestion This is when you make a subtle suggestion.Marius Panzarella . Example: “If I could somehow just get off Earth and into the galaxy.” Conversation Tip: Quote Something This is when you repeat something from a third source. in many cases you may want to add yourself to the picture.
Remember that people fall in love AFTER they’ve met someone. Example: “Maybe a few years from now.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Conversation Tip: Play Around With Time Imply to her that you will still be with her 6 weeks or 6 months or even 6 years from now. What do you do now? You pull back and tell her you have to go. So just get her number and leave… Always leave a woman wanting more! 165 Copyright 2000-2007 . We always fall deeper in love with someone when they are NOT with us. you have finally found somebody who can truly understand you and is just as exciting about going off into space as you are?” And Right When She’s Starting To Desire You… So…you’ve been turning her emotions into a desire for you throughout the conversation. After all… ” Conversation Tip: Let Her Know How Special You Are Let her know how lucky she is to have found you! Example: “Isn’t it exciting to learn that after all these years. we will actually get the chance to explore the galaxy together.All Rights Reserved . She’s laughing and flirting with you and having a great time.Marius Panzarella .
166 Copyright 2000-2007 ."Hmm.All Rights Reserved . Then play back the tape and analyze how you talk. here's what I want you to do: Get a tape recorder and record yourself having conversations with friends."Well."To be honest.... Some examples are."...". It will only make you sound weak and unsure ."Honestly. If you're not sure if you're using "garbage words" in your communication right now...." .."So." ...." ..right?" Here's a general rule: If a word or phrase does not have anything to add to a sentence..the last thing you want when you're talking to a woman. .." ." . cut it out! Using "filler" words to fill the gaps in a conversation won't make you get rid of the "dead air spots".eh?" .Marius Panzarella ..Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Eliminate Garbage Words "Garbage words" are words that many guys use as "filler words" in front of or after a sentence.
5) Don’t forget your body language while you talk. don’t forget to flirt! Remember: that’s what creates attraction! How To See If A Woman Is Interested In The Conversation Here are a few signs that a woman is NOT interested in what you're saying. Don’t bitch or compliant in front of a woman.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Other Conversation Tips 1) Talk about topics that you are both passionate about. Let her feel your passion. 167 Copyright 2000-2007 . 1) She keeps looking away. Change topics often to avoid a certain topic from getting old. 2) Stay on the positives rather than the negatives. 7) She "doesn't hear you". 3) Match the speech and diction of the person you’re talking to. 5) She turns her back on you. 3) She won't contribute to the conversation at all.Marius Panzarella . 6) She breaks eye contact. 6) Lastly. 4) She keeps talking on her cell phone or with her friends. 4) Make connections from one subject to another. 2) She focuses REALLY hard on eating her food.All Rights Reserved .
9) She does not put down her book or magazine. by the way. But instead of pulling back and changing topics. I was eavesdropping on a conversation at a coffee shop. he started flaunting his wealth when it was clear the woman was not interested in business or money. He could sense that the conversation was going nowhere. He went on for half an hour about the real estate market. I'll give you an example. 10) She has an uncomfortable or bored look on her face.as if she's trying to get you to shut up. (This is a common mistake guys make. Should you encounter any of these signs. Unfortunately.Marius Panzarella . One by one. Pull back a bit and tease her to see if you can find any "openings" to a new conversation. Change topics and talk about something that is more interesting to the woman. when the woman wasn't interested in the topic at all.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 8) She gives you short "one-liner" answers to you questions .) Even worse. it means you are doing something WRONG.All Rights Reserved . A well-dressed man was talking to a very attractive lady. Here's the assignment for the day: Go to a coffee shop and listen to the conversations happening around you. she started to show the signs I listed above. Listen to the dynamics of the conversation and see if any of the folks you're listening to are getting bored. There's no way he's going to get a second date. Yesterday. 168 Copyright 2000-2007 . the poor guy just kept on talking about houses. he tried to sound even more excited and passionate about real estate.
9) Ask her to describe it. a) "What would you do if you had all the money you need and could do anything you want in this world?" b) "What would you do with your life if you had no chance of failure?" 5) If necessary.. 2) Build rapport.. 8) Ask her to close her eyes and picture herself doing what she wants to do.what would you REALLY do?" 6) Ask her what she likes about <insert dream>. confirm it by smiling while asking.. "Come on. 169 Copyright 2000-2007 .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System You'd be surprised at how many boring conversations there are out there every day! Conversation Tip: A Sample Deepening Routine Here's a sample conversation deepening routine that I use on strangers all the time.All Rights Reserved . now.?"_ 7) Tell her you're going to play a cool game. (Example: "What is it that you like about. 10) Ask her what kind of emotions she's feeling.Marius Panzarella . 3) Share one vulnerability 4) Ask either one of the following questions.. 1) Fluff talk.
When I was a kid. "You must really enjoy <insert dream>.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 11) Say something like.. 12) Say "I guess I can relate to that.Marius Panzarella . I could see you smiling the whole time. 14) Ask her. "How about you? What were you like as a child?" Congratulations! You have just taken the conversation to a whole new level! 170 Copyright 2000-2007 . I've always wanted to do things that make me feel <insert the emotions she has described earlier>.." 13) Tell her a childhood story. Because while you were describing it to me.All Rights Reserved .
as powerful eye contact can immediately stimulate strong feelings. it is a basic animal instinct because strong eye contact calls forth the two basic actions: approach or retreat. verbal communication only account for about 30 percent of total communication. In many ways. there are still many non-verbal techniques that you should use on women.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved . So even though you’ve already learned some pretty powerful verbal techniques on how to transform emotions into desire. A 171 Copyright 2000-2007 . When you make eye contact with a beautiful woman.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 10 Chapter 10: Non-Verbal Ways To Help Spark Her Feelings S we’ve learned in the previous chapter. you either approach her or wimp out. Have you ever experienced the electrifying sensations of having someone you love glance at you? Have you noticed how models and movie stars have this special penetrating power with their eyes? Have you ever looked away when an attractive woman looked at you because you felt electrified as soon as her eyes met yours? Eye contact is certainly one of the most useful tools you can use to seduce women.
Dating Technique: Keep Good Eye Contact In order to fool a girl into thinking she is already in love with you.Marius Panzarella . while we turn away whenever we see something ugly or disgusting. How To Stimulate Love With Your Eyes You can stimulate the senses of being in love in a girl by simply increasing the eye contact as you talk to her. Try to look deeply into her eyes and even through it. and look back at her again as soon as you can. you don’t have to count how many seconds you have to look at her. When we are intrigued or in love with a woman. It is quite common knowledge that people who are deeply in love usually gaze at each other much more when talking and are slower to look away when something disrupts them. drag your eyes away slowly as if you’re feeling quite reluctantly. and when you finally must look away.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Eye contact is directly related to love and attraction. This will shoot the energy level way up to the outer space! 172 Copyright 2000-2007 . The whole ceiling could come crashing on them and they wouldn’t notice a thing because they are so locked up in their own little perfect world. you will need to increase the eye contact with a girl to about eighty percent of the time when you talk to her. Simply let your eyes be glued to hers a little longer. Of course. But when we are bored. we want to gaze at her for all eternity. We enjoy gazing into a cozy fire or an attractive person. we begin to look away to avoid her eye contact. Simply “linger on” with your eye contact for just a bit too long when you talk to her.All Rights Reserved . Go to any bar and you will see couples with their eyes locked onto each other. even during the silences.
just look at the most attractive spot on her face. sadness. and you will see enormous pupils. simply gaze at the most attractive feature on a woman’s face.All Rights Reserved . passion. Now. try making different expressions with just your eyes to see its power. Does she have a very cute nose? If so.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System How To Get Sexier Eyes Remember how girls always look at the eyes and face first when they check out the guy? And how many times have you heard a girl talk about how attractive a certain man is because of his “sexy eyes”? While only a few people are born with charming eyes. joy. Dating Technique: How To Enlarge Your Pupils On The Spot To keep your pupils big and sexy. You may also practice the following exercise to enlarge your pupils at will: The Charming Glance/Passionate Gaze Find a mirror and relax. Try joy. For a start. gaze at it. Your pupils will gradually enlarge as you enjoy the views. shock. 173 Copyright 2000-2007 . The trick is to make our pupils larger. Girls love huge “puppy eyes”! It is true that we cannot consciously control the size of our pupils.Marius Panzarella . just try to explore the power of your eyes. the good news is that most of us can learn to make our eyes more attractive. but we can do it subconsciously by thinking about loving thoughts. love. Just look at any photographs for a movie star. cunning. etc. Basically.
Lastly. If her eyes roll up while she talking.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Now. then she’s definitely flirting with you! More Eye Contact Tricks Here are some additional eye contact tricks for you to try: Get eye contact at dinner table: At the dinner table. without thinking about anyone. making you a very sexy man. pointing towards your eyes. If she keeps breaking off eye contact and shifting her gaze to other parts of the room. open your eyes and try making the charming glance again. close your eyes and think deeply at someone who attracts you. This will cause a woman to look up. 174 Copyright 2000-2007 . Eventually. When she does. (Or she just wants to change topics).All Rights Reserved . If she winks at you. you can look into a woman’s eyes and access how much she likes you. you will be able to project that charming look in your eyes.Marius Panzarella . she’s probably thinking. Imprint the image on your mind. place a thumb underneath your chin while resting your first and index fingers on the side of your face. making you a much more charming person. Close your eyes and relax for a minute. lock eye contact with her. Let the attractive person cross into your mind so your pupils will grow. Wish that person is standing in front of you as you open your eyes to look into a mirror. then she is probably not interested in you. Now.
All Rights Reserved . Once a newly met couple has reached this state of complete synchronization. they tend to stay in synchronicity until the outside world intervenes and force them to stop. Once again. Two lovers reaching for their drinks or lifting their forks at the same time. Think of it as going from emotions (talking and 175 Copyright 2000-2007 . gaze past her eyes. Think and Look: Think about what you want to say and communicate it through your eyes without saying it out loud. While most people would think you could achieve the same results by forcing synchronization (meaning you copy whatever she is doing). it is important to stress that mirroring is mostly the results of sexual chemistry.Marius Panzarella . They frown together. You must have a good conversation with a girl before you can start mirroring with her. You can see it in a single’s bar or restaurant all the time.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Obi-Wan Trick: Another way to induce eye contact is to raise your hand to your forehead to scratch it or to push some hair away if you have long hair. Wink: Wink at the right times…as a silent way of saying “I know” to a woman. If you see a new couple mirroring each other. you can almost be certain there is going to be a second date. They laugh together. this will bring attention to your eyes. Gaze-Past: When you look at a woman in the eyes. While you can induce mirroring somewhat. you must already have a fairly strong bond with a girl before you can do it. Use it as an opportunity to lock eye contact. Mirroring Mirroring is when two lovers move in synchronicity with each other as though they are confirming their newfound affection for each other. as if you’re gazing into her soul.
And each them you turn away. depending on the girl and your experience. A good safe. . you must be facing her. there must be a gradual switch from just heads turned toward each other to whole bodies facing each other. 2) Nod your head in response to whatever the girl is saying and then use the motion to twist your shoulder a bit. This one works like magic! 4) Invade her space. intimacy will increase. 5) Keep strong eye contact. 176 Copyright 2000-2007 . If you two are sitting side by side. Here are several keys that can help you speed up the process: 1) Keep your body relaxed the whole time so any moves you do won’t appear as jerky. intimacy will decrease. It is ESSENTIAL that you keep good eye contact with her as your mirror her. When she talks about something intriguing. This whole sequence can take anywhere from minutes to hours. If she leans forward with you – BINGO.Marius Panzarella . 3) When she talks about something intriguing (or really. then move back as if you were just repositioning yourself to be more comfortable.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System sharing feelings) to desire (building a connection) and to action (the physical action of mirroring each other). How To Induce Mirroring In order to be in a position to synchronize with your partner. just about anything). show interest by turning your body towards her..She’s catching on! If not. Follow up by leaning just a BIT more forward. show interest and turn your body a bit as if you’re just paying more attention. With each increasing turn.All Rights Reserved .
then you still need to do some more work on her! Once you’re in mirroring mode. 177 Copyright 2000-2007 . If she changes her body position right away (sub-consciously) to break away from your match. adopt her body position.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Look deeply into her eyes for as long as possible every time she speaks! The Actual Mirroring Once you’ve accomplished the steps listed above. put a hand on the table as well. It will be just “you and her” – and time will fly. However.Marius Panzarella . bonding is also a very “touchy” subject. Basically. you want to synchronize with the other person. either deliberately or “accidentally”. Reach for the glass at the same time.All Rights Reserved . you may notice hours have gone by already! Touching Lovers often touch each other. The next time you glance at your watch. Dating Technique: The Mirror Test To test if a girl is interested in you. you will be isolated from the rest of the world. There are women who do not like to be touched. For example. if she has one hand on the table. Smile at the same moment. you should be all set to mirror a person – if it is not happening automatically already.
Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System There is why you should always wait for a woman to touch you before you touch her. laugh and touch her lightly on her arm or shoulder. arms. Ways To Touch Her Touching Technique #1: The Handshake Since your handshake with a woman is your first physical contact with a woman. slide your hand off her hand gently. Make sure your hand is firm. shoulders. Do NOT touch her thighs. Touching Technique #2: Touch Her Arms When She’s Funny When she says something funny. It looks like you’re going to be meeting a new friend tonight…” 178 Copyright 2000-2007 . you should only touch her on her hands. (Remember: Don’t touch her until she touches you for the first time! ) Touching Technique #3: Read Her Palm Borrow or buy a cheap book on palmistry and read it thoroughly. you want to make it memorable. Do not do this too often. Look into her eyes and offer your full hand. torso or feet. And if she looks like she feels uncomfortable about it. Never touch a woman more than she touches you. and try to linger on her hand just a bit “too long”. When you pull back. Even if she is touching you all over. then stop. and knee. Then offer palmistry sessions to girls you see.All Rights Reserved . Take her full hand into yours. Interesting.Marius Panzarella . Girls love that stuff! You could even joke around by twitching an eyebrow and then saying in a serious tone. “Hmm.
All Rights Reserved . Prepare To Be Touched Lastly. So be prepared and be relaxed.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Touching Technique #4: Massage Her Take a few massage lessons. Giving a girl a massage is a GREAT way to get some physical contact with her. she may interpret it as a sign of rejection. if women don’t touch you often.Marius Panzarella . 179 Copyright 2000-2007 . How you respond to a woman’s touching is even more important than touching her. then you should prepare yourself mentally to be touched. If you stiffen your muscles while she brushes you lightly across the arm.
E What to Compliment On: Every woman is different. The girl’s ideal self-image of herself will be crucial to what you your compliment should be about. which actually does more harm then good since it will come across as meaningless flattery in the woman’s eyes. everyone wants to be loved. but deep inside. where every girl is taught they are special and unique.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 11 Making Compliments veryone loves compliments. 180 Copyright 2000-2007 .Marius Panzarella . It’s not just a matter of telling her how beautiful she is whenever you see her. Some may be modest or like to play modest. deep inside they are the most fascinating person in the world. This is why if you learn how to make a woman feel good by complimenting her the right way. massaging a woman’s ego requires mastery. there are several keys to making a successful compliment that can make you stand out from the other guys.All Rights Reserved . and that no matter how ordinary they may appear to be. However. This is especially true in the Western culture. Not everyone wants to feel brilliant or beautiful. she is going to be very happy. However. Most guys make the mistake of sucking up to a woman.
181 Copyright 2000-2007 . I can almost bet you money that attractive women are used to compliments on their looks. Your compliment should reflect the ideal self-image of the girl.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Usually it’s what the girl WANTS to be. You may be a tiny bit flattered. If she really is beautiful. Dating Technique: Don’t Compliment A Beautiful Woman On Her Looks Never compliment a beautiful woman on her body. Before you compliment her. think about what she would want you to compliment her for. rather than what they are. it won’t be a surprise to you if a girl calls you cute. if you already know you have a cute face. For example. but not that much.All Rights Reserved . She doesn’t need another ass-kisser to tell her she is hot enough to be a model. She already knows how hot she is. she already knows it.Marius Panzarella . What would she most like you to recognize her for? Her intelligence? Her sense of honesty? Or her humor? Dating Technique: Compliment On Her Ideal Self-Image It works better to compliment someone on what they WANT to be. For example. rather then what she already is. Dating Technique: Always Compliment An Ugly Woman On Her Looks If you compliment an average-looking or ugly woman on her looks. she will be flattered as long as you do it in a “sincere” way. Compliment on her intelligence instead.
darling. Remember that giving a compliment is a way of showing your approval. while less attractive women want to be told how good looking they are. Rather then complimenting her on something she’s born with. Always give it to them. you are not going to know too much about the girl because you have just met her. “Do you like my earrings?” do not put her down or ignore her. Over the years. if a girl compliments on your nice stomach. I love your earrings. so if you approve her or something that has never been approved by any other men before.All Rights Reserved . compliment her on something she has accomplished herself – such as how nicely her blouse matches with her skirt.” It is also vital that your compliment is about something the girl is responsible for. don’t tell her she has a nice body. 182 Copyright 2000-2007 . If you do that. Every woman wants to be loved.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System But if you’ve always wanted to have a nice set of abs but don’t believe that you do. When a girl asks. you are really just complimenting the Creator. Chances are. Dating Technique: Show Your Approval Women are always seeking your approval. she is going to dig you. you’re going to be flattered.Marius Panzarella . if you do compliment on a girl’s looks. For example. No problem. not her. It only takes a moment to say “Yes. I’ve come to realize that most attractive women want to be praised for intelligence and insights.
Marius Panzarella . Details. They match really nicely with the top you’re wearing today. “Your blue eyeliners look really nice with the skirt you’re wearing today. Dating Technique: Be As Detailed As Possible Let me show you show you a couple of examples: “I really like the little inscription on your necklace.” “What nice handwriting you have! I love “the way your write your ‘T’. Details! Always be detailed and clear. You can never be too detailed when it comes to giving a compliment. She will think you’ve noticed her because she is special. you know. I think it reflects your personality…” (Then I go on…) 183 Copyright 2000-2007 . Girls love details. Where did you get it?” “I think I would really enjoy working with you because you seem like the sort of person who would be able to give some intelligent insights on a situation during a crisis while other people wimp out.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Dating Technique: Compliment On What She Has Accomplished Herself Try to compliment on something the girl is responsible for! Details. If she is wearing socks that match with her top.” “I love these shoes.All Rights Reserved . it’s not by coincidence. Let her know you noticed. It will make you seem much more sensitive and sincere.
All Rights Reserved . I also like to mix it with a bit of flirting. after a short while she will become immune to your compliments.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System You get the idea! When and How Often You will have to resist all temptations to overcompliment your girl. And before she can say it anything. if you compliment her every minute. They look so good.Marius Panzarella . I tend to draw little details out of nowhere and compliment her on it. For example. Dating Technique: Compliment Her When She Least Expects It Your compliment will be much more powerful if she never saw it coming! 184 Copyright 2000-2007 .” Women love it. and when she least expects it. Remember. Dating Technique: Do Not Over-Compliment Do not compliment a girl too often. I give her a quick peck on the kiss and say. A compliment is always more powerful when the woman is not expecting it. she may be cutting some vegetables in the kitchen when I walk in and spank her lightly on the butt. “That was for doing such a good job with these mushrooms. Your compliments won’t mean anything to her anymore if you compliment her too much! I personally compliment girls only every once in awhile.
Marius Panzarella . never use false flattery. after repeating something so many times. she will be flattered and try to find out who you are as you walk away! (Strike one!) 185 Copyright 2000-2007 . you will start to believe it! Dating Technique: Mean What You Say Do not use false flattery on a woman. give a girl a “reward” when you compliment her. This always makes a girl warmer to me the next time I see her again. I personally like to compliment a girl and then leave. And when you compliment a girl. If you say something. Trust me. Or at least practice in front of the mirror till you sound like you mean it. and because you want to. Give her a spank here. go all the way.All Rights Reserved . Don’t hold back. Also. Compliment her because she is special. Women are very good at picking out the bullshit! Complimenting a Stranger: Hit And Run Most guys compliment a girl they meet because they want a date. then mean it. a hug there. It works like magic! Mean What You Say: Always remember to really look into her eyes when you compliment her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Dating Technique: “Reward” Her When You Compliment Her Every once in awhile. (Like 5 minutes later in a bar situation!) If you do this right. Don’t be like them. There’s nothing more insulting then a half-ass compliment.
Marius Panzarella . Then give her a very good compliment and then LEAVE. she’s going to be much more open to you.” Sometimes they are just trying to be modest. 186 Copyright 2000-2007 .All Rights Reserved . They usually just mumble a weak “thank-you”. Approach.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Dating Technique: Hit And Run Try this trick. That was just luck”. or “Not really. American men are usually horrible at receiving compliments. And when you revisit her later in the evening. She will try to figure out who you are or even watch you from afar as you go back to your friends. Make eye contact with a woman. then she will never want to do it again! These types of responses are very hurtful or even insulting to a girl in some cases. The “Not really” type of response is especially bad. but most of the times it’s because they don’t know what to say. Smile. How to Receive Compliments: You know. Dating Technique: Reward A Girl When She Compliments You If you make a woman feel good about complimenting you. since the man is actually denouncing the perceptions of the girl. they say something like “Oh. she’s going to want to compliment you again! But if you make her feel bad about compliment you. Or worse.
she will see you as impolite and insecure.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System And guess what she will do if you keep giving her a negative response every time she compliments you? She will see you as a little man who is not worth complimenting at all. she will try to find more excuses to praise you in the future.All Rights Reserved . And guess what? During the process. So what should you do instead? Turn the compliment around! Say something to make her feel good for complimenting you! Some examples are: “That’s very kind of you!” “Thanks.Marius Panzarella . she may suddenly realize she’s in love with you!” 187 Copyright 2000-2007 . Rather then saying you as modest. You remembered!” “Oh! How nice of you to notice!” If you can make her feel really good for complimenting you.
you’re just going to get rejected. If You Lack This. You’re Doomed… What’s the difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship? Sexual chemistry. a relationship is nothing but a friendship. Remember the three-step system? In order for a girl to feel attracted to you. Miss Right will never notice Average Joe as 188 Copyright 2000-2007 .All Rights Reserved . Emotions.desire…and THEN action. Without proper sexual chemistry. The Average Joe always “befriends” a woman and hopes that he will “eventually” get to go out with her eventually? But guess what? Because there is no sexual chemistry. One of the biggest mistakes guys make is to jump into action and ask for a date or phone number too early.Marius Panzarella . If you skip the second step and ask for her number right away.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 12 Transforming Emotions Into Desire: How To Flirt For Skirt The Dangers Of Just Connecting With A Woman Emotionally Just because you bond with a girl emotionally does not mean you’re going to get far with her.. you must first transform her emotions into desire before you take any action..
the definition of flirting is as follows: To make playfully romantic or sexual overtures. When Joe finally breaks down in front of her and tells her that he “loves” her. Flirt For Skirt…Right From The Beginning Here’s the bottom line: If you’re interested in a girl.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System nothing more than her best friend. but of sexual feelings. If you look around the animal kingdom. The things people do when they’re flirting usually do not make any logical sense. It is the sexual communication that happens between men and women. Sure. as flirting is not for the communication of logic. you will see that most animals know how to flirt with members of their own species instinctually. the more you risk becoming her best friend. you must flirt with her to build the sexual chemistry NOW. In other words.Marius Panzarella . What Flirting Means According to the American Heritage Dictionary. Flirting speaks directly to a woman’s sexual psyche. but still a friend nevertheless. flirting is a game that adults play for courtship. Miss Right will simply say something like “I am not ready for a relationship yet” or “let’s just be friends”. It communicates at a level that is completely different than that of social communication. Almost all animals chase each 189 Copyright 2000-2007 . It doesn’t matter if you have already clicked with her emotionally.All Rights Reserved . Without sexual chemistry. She will date every guy around her except Average Joe. The longer you wait. She’ll just see him as the guy she goes to when she is between boyfriends. you will never be anything more than a friend. you could be her “best friend”. as she just does not feel “that way” about him.
not to satisfy your own selfish needs. Your Playful Attitude Your attitude is the most important when it comes to flirting. There is a huge difference between flirting playfully and trying to get into somebody’s pants.All Rights Reserved .Marius Panzarella . squirrels and dogs love to chase their mates around before they mate. As long as you keep it playful. so you can almost guarantee that they always know if you’re flirting or not. But if you’re too serious and try to “seduce” a woman by flirting. 190 Copyright 2000-2007 . Even though these mock-fights might look pretty violent to a third-party like a human. humans know if they are just playing when they flirt. If you’re just being playful. Flirt to be fun and pleasurable to those around you. Like all other animals. the squirrels or dogs always know they are just playing. They also like to wrestle and mock-fight. Flirt because you enjoy bringing pleasure to women. You should be playful and fun when you flirt. This means you should never have to worry about “offending women” or “scaring women away” when you flirt. most women will sense it and play along. women will know you’re just flirting and they will play along. In short. Women understand flirting much more than guys do. not because you’re trying to “pick them up”.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System other around or even wrestle each other playfully before they “suddenly” get down to business and start mating. make it a rule to always flirt with every woman you see. without expecting any results. 99 percent of your success with flirting will come from your playful attitude. For example. most women will be able to see through your bullshit and reject you.
It’s about being sociable and letting people feel good. It’s not even about picking women up.” “I want women to like me for who I am. and warm. Excuse #1) “It’s just not me.com/frog. You define who you are. read my free bonus report at: http://www.” “I don’t like manipulating women. then do not whine about being single and lonely. It’s not cheesy.All Rights Reserved . For more information on how to remove your self-imposed limitations.” “I hate playing games. sleazy.pdf Excuse #2) “I want women to like me for who I am.” I think these are all garbage excuses. A good flirt makes people feel good. As I say all the time. or manipulative. Let’s address the concerns listed above one by one.” That’s only your self-imposed limitation.Marius Panzarella . Here are some “concerns” that I receive from men regularly: “It’s just not me. It’s about being playful.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Why Some Men Refuse To Flirt… A problem I see with a lot of my new readers is that they are afraid to flirt. period. open.” 191 Copyright 2000-2007 . If you’re unwilling to bring a little bit of charm into your personality.datebeautifulwomen. flirting is not about playing games.
If you become more interesting and have a more fun personality. Eliminate expectations: Flirt without expecting anything in return. Flirting it about “being playful”. Focus on process: Focus on the process of flirting and on your own actions instead of the outcome. Think about it: If a woman with a good personality loses 50 pounds. you will STILL be who you are. giving women gifts and flowers.All Rights Reserved . or sucking up to them. will she still be who she is? Of course she will be! The same thing applies to you. Then think about my answers. not “playing games”! Overcoming Your Flirter’s Resistance If you have used any of the four excuses listed above to avoid flirting in the past. then use the following tips to overcome your flirter’s block.Marius Panzarella . flirting is not manipulative – at least not any more than “being nice” (you know why you’re really being nice). 1) Identify and reframe your resistance: Find out which of the four major excuses list above are stopping you from flirting. not to get anything in return. Flirt to be playful. 2) 3) 192 Copyright 2000-2007 . Excuse #4) “I don’t like playing games.” You’ve got it wrong. Excuse #3) “I don’t like manipulating women.” As I have clearly stated already.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System You will STILL be who you are if you flirt.
you will do a Grade-A job. For example. Be playful: Focus on the “playful attitude” that I’ve explained early. It’s not about playing women…it’s about being playful to women and making them feel good! Think about the benefits: Think about the benefits of flirting.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 4) Mentally practice: Mentally practice flirting so that when the opportunity finally arises. flirting can: Help you become more sociable Boost your ego Build your confidence Help you make new friends Make you more attractive Make you more fun Give you good practice with women Help you be more aware of body language Make women feel good Help you be more comfortable with beautiful women Help women be more comfortable with you 5) 6) 193 Copyright 2000-2007 .
Smart Dater Loves to flirt with everyone.All Rights Reserved .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Test The Waters By Flirting Flirting is also a good way to test the waters with a woman. But if she flirts back. Is always playful. one of the following is going to happen: 1) She stops flirting: In this case. Flirts with women from the beginning.Marius Panzarella . Always tests for attraction before going for phone number or date. Is always serious. If you keep up the flirting. If she ignores your flirting. She becomes attracted to you: If you keep on flirting and a girl does not resist. In that case. Tries to “befriend” women. sooner or later she’s going to feel really attracted to you. It doesn’t mean that she likes you for certain – some girls are just big flirts – but it means that she doesn’t hate you. Never tests for attraction before he does something stupid. tune up the flirting to build up the sexual chemistry. 194 Copyright 2000-2007 . Bonds with women emotionally and sexually. Just bonds with emotionally instead of emotionally and sexually. you can take it as a sign that she does not have any romantic interests in you. Comparison Chart 2) Average Frustrated Chump Never flirts. you know that the girl is just a big flirt. then there is a slight possibility that she likes you. It’s better to know it now than later. Always flirt with a woman before you ask for her phone number or for a date.
softly and sensually each time you say it. I am very glad you came here." Flirting Technique #2: Say "Hello" With Energy When you approach a woman.. It will make her think you e sexier than the average geek who walks up to her and gives her a shy "Hi".Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Basic Flirting Techniques Flirting Technique #1: Make Eye Contact: Most of flirting is done with your eyes." Flirting Technique #5: Stir Your Drink Stir your drink with a rhythm as you talk to her.. Keep good eye contact on a woman when you talk to her. De-bbie. Flirting Technique #4: Repeat The Woman’s Name As you talk to her. repeat her name as much as you can. Example: "Hello.Marius Panzarella . Do this while smiling and looking into her eyes sincerely. You don’t want to come off as a pervert. say "Hello" in a flirty way. Just keep your eyes focused on her bit "too long.All Rights Reserved . Flirting Technique #3: Shake Her Hand A Bit Too Long When you shake her hand. Say her name slow. The effect can be "hypnotizing" under the right atmosphere. Flirting Technique #6: Lower Your Volume 195 Copyright 2000-2007 . let your hand stay on hers for a bit too long and then brush against her hand as you pull back.
All Rights Reserved . smile and wave. For example. when the music is so loud you have to talk in each other ears. then touch her on the shoulder or arm when you laugh. This works well in a bar. Flirting Technique #13: Leave Her Wanting More 196 Copyright 2000-2007 . do the same thing but exaggerate it. Flirting Technique #10: Touch Her Back If she starts touching you.Marius Panzarella . Increase the frequency of touching as the night goes on. wink at her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Lower and lower your volume so she has to lean towards you to listen. Flirting Technique #11: Wink and Wave Next you meet a woman. do the same thing but exaggerate it. if she raises one eyebrow. Flirting Technique #7: Whisper When she gets close enough. whisper to her. Flirting Technique #12: Exaggerate Her Movements When a woman does something. Flirting Technique #8: Be Playful Ask yourself the following questions: 1) How much fun can I have tonight? 2) What sorts of interesting things can I find out about this girl? Flirting Technique #9: Use Nicknames When you get closer to a woman. make up a cute nickname for her.
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Do what strippers do the guys. Get a girl all hot and then leave her wanting more! Flirting Technique #14: Laugh At Her Jokes Laugh at her jokes whenever she makes one. Touch her on the arm lightly when you laugh if she’s already touching you. Flirting Technique #15: Listen To Her Stories Pay attention to what she says. Be focused on her, not on the hot waitress. Flirting Technique #16: Drop A Compliment Drop her a compliment every once in awhile. Not too often though! Flirting Technique #17: Tease Her Incorporate teasing into your flirting. Tease her ‘til she's wet! Flirting Technique #18: Get More Personal Ask her more and more personal questions as the evening progresses. Things about her childhood, etc!
Is She Flirting Back…Or Not?
As a dating coach, I often receive questions such as: "How do I know if she's flirting with me?" "How do I know if she REALLY likes me if she flirts with other guys too? She could just be a flirty person..."
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"What if she's just flirting for fun and doesn't really want me?" "How do I know if she's really flirting with me since she's sending mixed signals?" All of these questions can be answered with my "Traffic Light Analogy". Basically, if you're not certain about a woman's feelings towards you, it means you haven't advanced enough. I want you to imagine an intersection with a red light in front of you. If you flirt with a woman and get a green light (as in she flirts back), it means you can go ahead and advance to the next intersection by flirting more or taking things to the next level. If you get a red light, that means she's just not interested in you and you should stop. But if you get a yellow light, then it means you haven't advanced enough. For example, a woman is flirting JUST AS MUCH with other guys as she is with you. So what you do is you ADVANCE and flirt MORE than the other guys and see how she REACTS to that. If she does like you, she will give you another green light - meaning you can advance to the next intersection and take things to the next level. And if she gives you a red light, then it means she was not very serious with her flirting after all. She just wanted to flirt casually with you - nothing more. In this case, even getting a red light is BETTER than getting a yellow light - because now you won't have to waste any more time on her. But you should never, never settle for a yellow light. It really is a time-water. So charge forward and turn it either into a red light or into a green light!
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How To Tease Women
Little girls love to be teased. Big girls also love to be teased. They may not admit it. They may even deny it. They may call you all sorts of names or make nasty comments about you when you tease them. But if you tease them right, they will always laugh and let you tease them again. Why? Because teasing is the magical formula that can: 1) Release the little girl inside every woman.
2) Bring out a woman’s insecurity and desire to be loved. 3) Make women want what they can’t have even more. 4) Tame a spoiled woman by breaking down her barrier. 5) Let women know that their men are in control. 6) Create a sexual tension between a man and a woman. 7) Challenge a woman and demonstrate selfconfidence at the same time. Quite powerful eh? So do you tease women properly? By doing what little boys do to tease little girls on the playground.
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How Little Boys Tease Little Girls
Let us observe how little boys tease girls. They: 1) Call them names and make fun of their insecurities. 2) Give toys to girls and then take them away.
These tricks work when the girls are 8 years old, and guess what? Women love them even more when they’re 28. So how do you tease a woman? You: 1) Bust her balls as much as possible. (Make fun of her) 2) Send mixed feelings by “giving” it to her and then pulling back. (Giving them toys and then taking them away)
Busting Her Balls
Teasing Technique #1: Bust Her Balls This is a wonderful way of messing up a cold woman. Remember that every woman has her own insecurities. Some think their legs are too short. Some think they are so tall. In short, they all see countless flaws in themselves. You should use this to your advantage bust their balls as much as possible. Remember that most men try to kiss their royal asses. They are USED to cheesy compliments about how beautiful their hair looks or what a nice body they have.
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Beautiful women are approached by men all the time. Their whole response system is set on autopilot, meaning if you do the same thing every other guy is doing, you will get the same response: The “Get lost!” look. But if you come across as crass or even uninterested in her, she will look at you differently and BINGO…you have her attention at least. She is very likely to see you as different or special because you are not trying to get into her pants like all the filthy pigs are. And who knows? She may even see you as a challenge and want to seduce you just so she can dump you and boast to her friends later. (But like she’s going to get a chance!) However, notice that there is a HUGE difference between teasing and being plain rude. Telling a girl one of her earlobes is lower than her other is considered teasing, but telling a girl she’s a worthless tramp with an ugly face is just plain RUDE. It will get you blacklisted so fast that it won’t even be funny. So how do you tease a girl without offending her? By using humor. After all, she can’t hate you if you’re laughing with you. Right?
How To Be Funny: A Quick Lesson
In order to be funny, you must first learn to relax. A lot of guys try to “be funny”. But you can’t try to “be funny”. You will only look stupid. Women will just think you’re an idiot if you crack dumb jokes in front of her. The good news for you is that most guys are automatically funny when they are relaxed. Remember the last time you were relaxed with a group of close friends? You
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were probably joking around naturally because you were feeling relaxed. Now remember the last time you were talking to a stunningly beautiful woman. What a difference, eh?
Tip #1: Don’t Laugh At Your Own Jokes
By the way, if you act all serious when you say something funny, the woman will have to figure out if you’re bullshitting her or not. The joke becomes much funnier as a result! Remember: your jokes will lose power if you laugh at your own jokes. Let her wonder if you’re serious or not.
Tip #2: Don’t Be Afraid To “Be A Man”
It is okay to be a little cocky, crass or even arrogant in your teasing, as long as you are funny enough to make her laugh with you. Sometimes women actually find men who are arrogant or cocky in a funny way to be very interesting. If you listen to women in conversations, you will see that a lot of times they explain a guy’s action by saying “Well. He’s a guy…” and then laugh. They know that you’re different than them. They know that men are “stupid” at times. And they like it. So just be yourself, and make her smile. Here are some ways you can bust a woman’s balls. Teasing Technique #2: Give Her A Hard Time Give a hard time about something TRIVIAL and small – like dropping a spoon or a necklace she is wearing. If you keep the thing you’re making fun of TRIVIAL and also do it in a flirty way, she will probably play along. Teasing Technique #3: Fake Disappointment In Her. Fake disappointment at something she’s doing. Shake your head and wave your finger. Be dramatic about it.
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” Send Mixed Feelings The second part of teasing women involves sending mixed feelings. you can give her total attention one moment and then completely ignore her the next. Always surprise her with little things. And when she’s wondering whether you love her or not. You know how women like to go like “He loves me. But then later you suddenly embrace her with your arms. Teasing Technique #4: Use Reversed Compliments Compliment her about something. and then tease her about it. For example: “I really like this shirt you’re wearing…too bad you didn’t iron it this morning.All Rights Reserved . Keep your relationship fresh! Teasing Technique #6: Take It Away 203 Copyright 2000-2007 . he loves me not…”? They just love to play guessing games.” and shake your head some more. But the next time you give her a little spank on her ass. Or you can say no when a girl asks for a hug. Like one time she does something and you hug her. For example. So what should you do? Two words: Be unpredictable. Teasing Technique #5: Be Unpredictable Don’t be too predictable when you’re with a woman. “You aren’t my favorite person anymore….Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Then say. suddenly make her feel like a princess again.Marius Panzarella .
Ignore her for a few minutes and then start making out with her today – but only this time. You suddenly stop and then look away. Your girl looks up and sees you staring out the window. STOP and pull back. Teasing Technique #7: Stop And Go Let’s say you’re making out with a girl and she’s clearly enjoying what you’re doing to her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Another good way to tease a woman is to give her special feelings one moment and then take them away the next. she will let you go further because she doesn’t want you to stop again. The best thing about this trick is you can do it over and over! Remember that with a woman.All Rights Reserved . remember? 204 Copyright 2000-2007 . Knowing that you have something in your mind she sits back and wonders if you like her as much as she likes you. Women love foreplay. Then go again. She’s going to want you to continue and start touching you. She pulls your face towards hers. you have to keep moving. go “further” than you were going earlier. Besides. etc. Then without any warning. but you just pull away and continue to stare at the night sky.Marius Panzarella . Women like to have their goodies taken away from them every once in awhile. For example. She just wants more foreplay first. And just because she won’t kiss you and let you touch her boobs doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to. If you do this right. and then stop. And so on. It will drive them wild. you turn around and pin her to the coach. you are making out on the couch with a girl. they can’t appreciate how great something truly is until they’ve lost it! So make them horny.
Or simply say one thing but do another thing instead. And by the time you actually kiss her. Use this to anchor onto her desire before you finally transform it into physical action. Never say “I love you” to a woman. she’s going to feel MUCH hotter when you finally play with them. simply tease her some more until she’s hot enough to advance to the next level. It’s illegal and plain stupid. You do this in old time movies a lot. if you touch her AROUND her boobs but not on them. Simply keep smelling her neck and smelling her neck. okay?) If you want a safe shortcut. then cuddle with her.Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System If she says stop. This will always make them wonder. Teasing Technique #8: Build Anticipation A good way to tease a woman is by building anticipation and by giving her what she wants. And try to refrain from anything too sexual. 205 Copyright 2000-2007 . Teasing Technique #9: Send Mixed Verbal Signals Another good way to tease a woman is by sending mixed signals verbally. So stop and go while you cuddle. Just keep teasing her until she’s begging you to take her. Women love to be cuddled. Always imply it through something else.All Rights Reserved . when the characters say something but really mean something else. Just take things slowly. but don’t kiss her or anything – even if she’s begging you to. For example. it will send complete pleasure throughout her whole body. Remember that women love to have feelings taken away from there. (Remember: NEVER force a woman.
She will be delighted to see that there is “an inner battle” within you as you try to make out your feelings for her. Teasing Technique #11: Make Her Say “Pretty Please” Every once in awhile. Make her beg you a bit (playfully) before you give anything to her.” But then you take it again. you say "you really like me" in a teasing manner. The woman will be too busy to figure out what’s happening to put up any defense. For example. Let her know that you won’t spoil her like all the other men because you’re special and unique. No holding hands this early. Teasing Examples: Example #1: Instead of telling her you like her. This is called DELAYED gratification.Marius Panzarella . But kiss her when you feel like to. tease a woman by making her say “pretty please” when she wants a favor from you. make sure she knows that you’re sensitive and thoughtful enough to remember she wanted so-and-so.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System For example. It may even turn her on to think that she’s seducing a real man like you into falling for her. when she asks for a kiss – don’t give it to her. If you say "I really like you". Teasing Technique #10: Delayed Gratification Another method used to send mixed feelings is to never give her anything she wants until you feel like giving it. you may hold her hands and then drop it as you say “Nah. And when you finally give something to her.All Rights Reserved . You can also do this when you’re making out. she may reject you on the spot because it's direct and 206 Copyright 2000-2007 .
you're still pretty. (Being PLAYFUL is the key) She will probably go like "No it's not!" Then you look into her eyes and say. She's going to be all hot and bothered and ask you what's wrong. You may also accuse her of hugging you or kissing you a lot. When a woman touches you on the leg. say "Well. etc but then SUDDENLY STOP.All Rights Reserved . And then you give her a hug or kiss back. then you can get away with it because you're just joking. try to smell her neck. if you want to touch me. "He loves me. They love to pick petals off a rose and say. use it to your advantage. This will leave her wondering if you're really attracted to her or not." Example #3: Give her a personal nickname or tease her about something that is special to both of you.Marius Panzarella . he loves me not" Example #2: You can make fun of something small about her (don't overdo it though). etc. She may even put her arms around you to try 207 Copyright 2000-2007 .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System blatant. say in a serious tone. Example #4: Some women like to touch a guy while they talk. I would enjoy it even more if you would touch me a little bit closer. "May you stop touching my leg?" Then when she seems thrown off. say one of her earlobes is lower than the other PLAYFULLY." Example #5: Let's say you're cuddling or making out with her. For example. Like if something funny or interesting happens while on a date... "It's all right. kiss her. But if you say "You really like me" PLAYFULLY. Women love MINDGAMES.
After a few seconds.. Find an excuse to leave her for a bit and then get out onto the dance floor. then go back to her and say playfully. say "Cause I felt like it" playfully or "I wanted to see if you'd feel good to hug. then continue." Example #7: Give her your arm French style. Example #6: Be unpredictable. I think I need a second try first. If she seems to enjoy it. Then walk with her for a while. See how see reacts. (This will REALLY make her wonder if you do like her or if its all "in her head") Example #8: Ask her about her love life. start making out with her again. Then ask. just say "Well. act like you think she's your best friend.Marius Panzarella . This is a VERY good way to advance through her boundaries." If she asks you why. Then you say "I just wanted to hug you. Then when you walk again hold her hand.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System you to get back to it. Dance for awhile. If she likes it. See how she reacts.All Rights Reserved .... “What you are still doing here. While sitting on a bench on a date. rub it a little bit. then say. wallflower?” Lead her onto the dance floor. "Do you let it go into your head?" Example #9: Let’s say you’ve been talking to a woman for a while at a club. But while you're doing this. 208 Copyright 2000-2007 . make sure she sees you dancing with your friends. "Do guys find you so beautiful that they are afraid to approach you?" If she says "yes".but more fiercely this time." If she asks you if you think she's good. Then stop and look at a window or something. suddenly pull her up and then give her a hug.
“Do you like it when I nibble on your neck?” If she says “no…” stop. “You’ll have to make up for the food you wasted. make up a funny excuse. Pull back. Example #11: Let’s say you are making out with a woman and you’re kissing her neck and kissing her neck. She seems to be loving it. Example #13: While on a first date. but do not anymore. Repeat until she gives in. ask. tell her to say “pretty please”. just smile say “pretty please” playfully.Marius Panzarella . joke about hooking her up with a guy if she needs any help with men. Finally. “Do you want some more?” If she says “yes”.” When she asks you how. Shake your head and shake your finger and feign disappointment. and ask. like “Because you are too mean to me” or “Because I’ve just 209 Copyright 2000-2007 . if it’s not “pretty please”. If she asks you why. But if she says “yes”. stroke her hair.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Example #10: A woman needs you to do a minor favor. Then start talking about all the starving children in Ethiopia. Example #12: Let’s say a woman drops a piece of food onto the table by accident.” Whatever she says after. if a woman is clearly interested in you.All Rights Reserved . say “fine” playfully and don’t neck with her again as a punishment. tell her to give a piece of something to this poor Ethiopian child (while pointing at yourself) from her plate. You smile a smug smile and say. “Only if you say pretty please. say. Example #14: If a girl is clearly interested in you. you can tell her playfully that you have liked her in the past.
Be creative with your teasing rather than having the same response every time.” One last thing: Remember that a big part of teasing is to be unpredictable. So don’t get too comfortable by getting into any “set patterns”. say something like “If you’re any taller.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System come out of the closet.Marius Panzarella . 210 Copyright 2000-2007 . Example #15: If a girl is wearing high heels.” Don’t forget to be PLAYFUL when you say the line. Just put yourself in the proper “playful” mindset so that you can react to your environment and do the "right" thing at the "right" time. you could be an Amazon.All Rights Reserved .
as according to scientists more than 93 percent of our communication is based on non-verbal communication. Start using it RIGHT AWAY. Don't start using it in the middle of the conversation. 211 Copyright 2000-2007 . then you really need to open up and be more playful. I can promise you that if you never flirt or be playful with women. playful voice.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved . You tease a woman and be playful. So here's the secret to flirting on the phone: USE YOUR FLIRTY VOICE! From the moment you say "hello" on the phone with a woman. But what's different about flirting on the phone is that you're mostly relying on your voice instead of your body language.. What this means is that you should pay EXTRA ATTENTION to your voice tone whenever you talk to a woman you're interested in.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 13 Flirting Over The Phone And Email Flirting Over The Phone Flirting on the phone is a lot like flirting in person. I want you to use your flirty. you can't use any body language when you are on the phone. (For the same reason you want to make physical contact with a woman as soon as possible while on a first date. Unlike talking to a woman in person.so that it won't become awkward when you finally touch her later.) If you're uncomfortable with using your flirty voice. This creates a big problem..
and there's some intense eye contact going on. Chances are. In fact.especially on the vowels.Marius Panzarella .. Here is a good exercise for developing a flirty voice: Imagine the person you're talking to is in the same room with you and you're flirting with her on the couch. Guess what? It doesn't work that way. you will probably scare her away.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System you're not going to have much success in dating.All Rights Reserved .. You *cannot* expect to attract a woman just be writing sheets and sheets of "romantic language" to her. Her face is just inches away from yours.she's going to "see" you through your voice! Flirting Over The Phone Many guys have asked me how they can attract a woman they have just met by sending them emails with "hypnotic words". They want to know things such as how they can "describe the sensations" of all the naughty things they would like to do to these women so that the women will fall in love with them by just reading their emails. Now adopt the same expression on your face and body language with your body. Women are just going to talk to you because they think you're a good "friend". project all of this to the woman you're talking to by slowing down your speech just a bit . The trouble with flirting over email is that there're 212 Copyright 2000-2007 . Finally.
and keep on going on in the wrong direction after. you can see her reactions adjust your flirting accordingly. If you absolutely must flirt with a woman over email. There is NO way to judge her by her body language if she's interested in what you're saying at all. 213 Copyright 2000-2007 . Or you could think you're teasing her and joking around with her.. there's no way for you to get any kind of feedback. But in an email.. For example. You could start going in the wrong direction at ANY time. The women may take your teasing "literally" because you're not there to express yourself. In real life. For example. BE A MAN and don't try to attract women by writing emails. you could talk all about how much you would enjoy rock-climbing or going star-gazing with her – when the woman is not even interested in these things.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System NO "romantic calibration" at all. then make sure you keep your emails SHORT..Marius Panzarella . a lot of your flirting and teasing may become "lame".All Rights Reserved .. As a result.it's pretty simple. you could be going down the wrong path without knowing. ATTRACT HER IN REAL LIFE. Or better yet. Because without body language and voice language. So what's the solution? Well. Pick up the phone and call the woman. when she thinks you're actually insulting her. This way you can use your voice tone to show your playfulness and also get feedback in real time.
Marius Panzarella . and if a woman responds positively. This way. then you can send a few more short messages and finally ask if she has Instant Messenger. you can interact with her in real time! 214 Copyright 2000-2007 .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System when I email a woman the first time.All Rights Reserved . is <insert name> there?" Try this. I usually say nothing except "Knock knock.
Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 14 Advanced Flirting Tactics Technique #1 .Romantic Intents Signaling In order for you to become a true master at flirting. you’re being funny. just stick an action verb into each phrase and use it to change the meaning of your phrase. Your voice tone will dictate most of your meanings when you flirt with a woman. For example. “I hate you” could mean “I like you” when said playfully. For example.) To practice this. (In this case. Or ask “How you’re doing” while you’re trying to “beckon” or “blame” your imaginary partner. you must first master the skill of using your VOICE tone to communicate.Marius Panzarella . Practice Phrases 1) “Hi” 2) “How are you doing?” 3) “What’s the story behind that?” 215 Copyright 2000-2007 . repeat the following phrases using the verbs list below.All Rights Reserved . In other words. say “Hi” while trying to “amaze” or “challenge” an imaginary woman in front of you.“I hate you” to you. Or you could be imitating a girl who’s saying .
All Rights Reserved .Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Practice Verbs aid allure amaze amuse anticipate approach arouse assess assist bait beckon beguile bewitch blame bless bluff boost bribe cajole call catch challenge chastise cheer clarify command conceal condemn confirm confuse consider contest convince correct corroborate court criticize crush dare defy delight direct displease divert dominate dramatize draw duck ease educate elevate elicit enchant endear endure enlighten entangle entertain entreat eschew estimate evade evaluate excuse execute feed force free frighten frustrate 216 Copyright 2000-2007 .
Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System gag help jumble humiliate humor hurt hypnotize imitate induce indulge inspire insult interview intrigue invite judge lead lecture liberate lure magnetize manipulate mend mimic motivate mystify oppose orient panic patronize please pose propose purify reject release satisfy scold sedate seduce settle shake shame sicken soothe spoil still stretch suggest summon support suppress surprise tease tempt tickle tolerate understand warn worry worship Once you have mastered using your voice tone to communicate.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved . 217 Copyright 2000-2007 . For example. you can say something perfectly normal and innocent and have it mean something else. This is a more advanced form of “sending mixed signals”. you can flirt with women by adding another layer of subtext to your verbal communication.
For example. I should go home for bed.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System With practice. No way I am going to bed with you. you could rub her ass with yours. “No…” you follow up by saying. Technique #2 – Act Like She’s Hitting On You Once you’re certain that a girl is quite interested in you.Marius Panzarella .” Technique #3 – Steal Her Frame Another good way to tease a woman is to steal her frame.” you could say. I don’t know you well enough yet. if she touches you.” You could also accuse her of “touching you a lot”. But next time. You could even initiate the contact yourself and then ACCUSE her or doing it. “I don’t like being treated like a sex object. “No way. you can tease her by claiming she’s interested in you. you can tell her. I forgive you. Basically. steal every line and trick women uses. “It’s okay.” 218 Copyright 2000-2007 . I would prefer it if you would rub me a little bit higher. you know. if she says “It’s getting late. and ask. pull away with a surprised look on your face.All Rights Reserved . tell her “It’s okay” and grab her hand. For example. when you’re out dancing on the dance floor and you’re wiggling around with a girl. Why do women always treat me like I am just a piece of meat? I have feelings too. you will be able to project your sexual thoughts WITHOUT talking about them verbally at all. When she gets angry and defensive. tell her that SHE likes you. “Did you just rub my ass?” Then when she says. For example. Instead of telling her that you like her.
you could ask.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Or. I am one of those high-maintenance very shallow men that only care only about that what they can get from a woman. are you? Oh. too bad.Marius Panzarella . don't just take it from her like a little puppy. Make her say "pretty please".All Rights Reserved . You'll truly become a challenge! 219 Copyright 2000-2007 . ask for a small peck on your cheek. We could have gone shopping together. I want you to act like a challenge by bartering with her. But by utilizing the law of negative reciprocity every once in awhile. you don't want to do this every single time a woman asks you for help. For example.” Technique #5 – Bartering When a woman asks you for a small favor. you'll become a prize she wants to get in her eyes. “So…where do you work and how much money do you make a year? In case you haven’t noticed. When a woman asks you for a pen. such as "Your hair smells really good. Of course. when a woman asks you to hold her bag. *pause* You’re not like me. then lean in to her ear and whisper a killer compliment.” Technique #4 – The Whisper Compliment When you're in a conversation with a girl. ask her if you can tell her a secret.
Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 15 From Desire To Physical Action Once you have created a desire in a woman and anchored onto it through flirting and teasing. Don’t jump from talking to her to suddenly kissing her. If you’re just interested in sex. 220 Copyright 2000-2007 . These things all need time to build up. you should NOT have a one-night stand with the women you’re interested in dating. But if you would like to develop a long-term relationship with a woman. Remember: a successful relationship needs to have passion.Marius Panzarella . you can attempt to pick her up for a one-night stand. The mottos these “seduction experts” use. But no matter which path you choose. Despite what all the “seduction experts” say. like “dating is only for women you’re already sleeping with” and “I always sleep on a first date” are just plain wrong. or from “being her friend” to suddenly asking her out. you can then take physical action. then you should get her phone number.All Rights Reserved . it’s probably going to end prematurely as well. So if you start a relationship prematurely. measurable steps. and commitment. Here’s the bottom line: The faster you get together. the faster you break up. intimacy. you should follow the following rules: Take small steps: Remember to take small.
Lead. Remember: If a girl becomes uncomfortable at any point.Marius Panzarella . not push: The more you push a girl into doing something. Remain in control: Always keep your backbone and remain in control. Let your girl feel comfortable with each step before you lead her to the next one. 221 Copyright 2000-2007 . That’s why you lead a woman instead of push her. Be a challenge: Continue to be a challenge and be unpredictable.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Don’t move too fast: Don’t rush. If you are too slow. she’s going to lose all respect and attraction for you. Use anticipation: Don’t forget to “stop and go” every once in awhile to create anticipation. the more she will pull away. you’re going to lose your “window of opportunity”. The moment you let a woman whip you around. don’t be too passive. Continue to surprise your girl.All Rights Reserved . she will pull away and you will lose all your chances. Don’t move too slowly: At the same time.
then she may not be interested. she will give you tons of lame excuses. If she freaks out for a second and then smiles. (Or maybe they just want your gratitude!) So don’t be too happy if a girl gives you her number – she may just be being polite! Dating Technique: How To See If A Girl Is Interested In You By Asking For Her Number A Next time you ask for a girl’s number. This is ESPECIALLY true when you’re hitting on cashiers and waitresses. If she hesitates. If you ask a typical girl for her number and she’s not interested.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 16 Getting Her Digits lot of times my readers ask me for help because they’ve had trouble getting phone numbers from women. Instead.All Rights Reserved . They are not interested in you but they don’t want to be rude to you because they don’t want to be chewed out by their bosses. she’s not going to say “no”. Others mail me because they don’t know how to deal with women who appear to be cold or rude on the phone.Marius Panzarella . then she’s just being polite 222 Copyright 2000-2007 . Now. something I’ve noticed over the years is that women can never give you a direct “no”. I want you to examine her reaction.
Marius Panzarella . “Oh come on. don’t leave your phone number and ask her to call you. If a chick asks you for your number instead when you ask for hers.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System If she seems really happy and blushes. And that’s why if you can see through this and joke about it. 223 Copyright 2000-2007 . There is a dating manual out there that teaches men to hand out business cards to as many women as they can because a few of them are bound to call. She’s going to throw it away. Golden Rules On Getting Digits First of all. As soon you turn your back. It’s only fair. Some guys think that makes them special because the women have to call them blah. Stupid.” Most women don’t want to give out phone numbers because it’s a big invasion of their privacy. your business card is going to get trashed. etc. Digits Rule #1: Never offer your phone number instead of asking for hers. You can even do it jokingly.All Rights Reserved . do not fall for it. Digits Rule #2: Do not let a girl take your phone number instead of giving you hers. I’m only going to call ten times a day. Here are some counters for women who want to take your number: Counter Technique #1: Just smile and get her to trade. then she probably likes you. you will break down some of her barriers. blah but seriously…this is stupid. blah.
Also. there’s no point in getting her digits anyhow. As soon as you get her number or email. And if you don’t click with her. (And got along) If she sees you as an interesting person. she will probably want to give you her number. You’re almost guaranteed to see her again.” In theory. That’s no point in hanging around since you have her contact info. Remember: it’s always easier to give a number to an interesting new “friend” than a stranger you’ve met for 30 seconds. remember getting the digits is not your only option nowadays. Don’t forget email and instant messenger nicknames. Hanging around more could mean messing up and losing your chance with her.All Rights Reserved . get lost. Digits Rule #5: Leave as soon as you get her number. But if she clearly does not like you and you still keep on asking for her digits. There. Women give out emails much easier because…if you turn out to be a freak.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Counter Technique #2: Bust her and say “Oh come on. You’re just going to show it to all your girlfriends and then toss it away. you should ask for her number AFTER you’ve talked to her for a while. tell her you have to leave but would like to continue talking to her at another time. they can just block your address or get another hotmail account. I mean it. As soon as the conversation get REALLY interesting. get it? Digits Rule #3: Only ask for a girl’s number after you’ve talked to her for a while AND got along.Marius Panzarella . 224 Copyright 2000-2007 . you’re just setting yourself up for rejection. Digits Rule #4: Try to get her email and IM nicknames.
Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System How long should you wait before you call? At least five to six days. She will think you’re the biggest wimp on earth. she was very annoyed. My friend Jenny once told me how she got home after a short trip one weekend and found 5 messages from the same guy on her machine.All Rights Reserved . Why? So she’ll be wondering why you haven’t called yet and be even more eager when you finally do. What day is better for you?” This way it will be less likely for her to run into time conflicts and you will still be in control. It will make you seem desperate. In fact. Digits Rule #8: Only call her to ask her out! THINK about what you’re going to say BEFORE calling her. have two times ready.Marius Panzarella . and women know it. Digits Rule #7: Do NOT leave any messages on her machine or send her any text messages. Needless to say. Call her from a pay phone if you don’t want your name to show up on her Caller ID. Have the time and location ready before you ask her out. don’t call her to talk. Say “Let’s have dinner Wednesday night or Friday night at eight. young Jedi! Digits Rule #6: Wait at least 5-6 days before you call her! When you call her…please do not leave any messages on her machine. DO NOT call her right away. DON’T call her too often! Also. so have patience. Only call her to ASK FOR A DATE. 225 Copyright 2000-2007 . So do not call her just to “talk”. Good thing only comes to those who wait. Guys only get phone numbers so they can ask for dates.
shut your mouth and hang up as soon as she agrees to go out. 226 Copyright 2000-2007 .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Digits Rule #9: THINK before your call. like “Sorry I am busy on both days. Save everything you want to say for the big date. Another trick women may use to fool you is the “Can you call me the night to confirm. The first reason is due to a lack of attraction.Marius Panzarella . Digits Rule #10: She either counteroffers or she doesn’t go.All Rights Reserved . But if she says something like “I’m busy. Finally. really listen to what she says. Digits Rule #12: Shut your mouth and hang up as soon as the date is set! Why Women Do Not Call Back According to the "Smart Dating System". there are only two reasons why a woman would not call back. You can forget about her and toss her number away. but how about some other time”. THEN she will go out with you so you can pay for dinner. If she turns you down. Digits Rule #11: Don’t fall for the “Call me later to confirm” trick.” Ha! She’s just using you! She’s either not interested at all or just using you as a back-up plan. that’s a rejection. You don’t want to mess up. How about we go out on Saturday instead?” then everything is still all right. If she can’t find a REAL date that night. Have at least two times ready for the date in case she can’t make one of them. If she makes a counter-offer.
and she's not interested in getting any more. if you makeout with a woman but do not build enough comfort before you call her. her initial impression of you will have ALREADY been formed. teased her more. it means she's just not attracted to you "enough". Solution? Make sure you leave a woman emotionally connected to you BEFORE you leave with her phone number. she still does not return your calls the day after. Don't just makeout and get physical with her. she's going to feel a bit like a slut when she hears from you.Marius Panzarella . For example.there are times when a woman seems to be attracted to you enough to MAKEOUT with you. then you should have attracted her MORE before you asked for her phone number using the techniques you have learned from this book.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Remember that by the time you CALL a woman for a date. She knows why you're calling. Yet. and acted more of a challenge in front of her. and any chance to "talk" her into hanging out will only make her even MORE uncomfortable. Keep calling. You should have flirted with her more.. This is mostly due to a "lack of intimacy". and she will block your number. So if she doesn't answer. Stand out from all the other strangers she has made out with in the past by creating a bond she has never felt with any other man. This problem usually occurs when you advance too far with a woman physically without first creating an emotional bond with her.All Rights Reserved . But of course. 227 Copyright 2000-2007 . She already knows whether she wants to go out with you or not. In that case. She's no longer in a sexually aroused state..
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This could be a deep conversation about her dreams, OR it could be something REALLY simple...such as giving her a little bit of recognition for acting different than other women. (Hint: Most people like to believe that they are somehow "better" than other people.) For example, bust her balls and tell her you won't treat her special just because she's beautiful because there are beautiful women all around the world. Then tell her she does look like she's a bit smarter than all the other girls at the club. When she thanks you, tell her you have to go but would love to hang out with her some time. Let HER offer her phone number to you. Then talk to her some more (if you need to build any more rapport or build up the chemistry more) and GET OUT OF THERE!
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Chapter 17 Your First 10 Dates
Where To Go For The First Date
The location of your first date really depends on what you want to do and how well you know the women already. If you would like to get to know her a bit better or maybe connect with her a bit, then you should go see her in a coffee shop or somewhere that is not too distracting. Somewhere quiet where you can bond with her. But if you feel you have known her enough already or you just want to have fun, then by all means, go somewhere fun. You should always take her somewhere stimulating. If she is an outdoor person, rock climbing or hiking should be good – as long as there’s good scenery. My personal favorite is the amusement park. The last time I went there with a girl her eyes were basically lit up the entire time. All the rides had really stimulated her excitement and brought the little girl out of her. You may also consider putting dancing on the top of your list. A lot of girls complain that guys don’t like to dance enough. So be the special guy who loves to dance. Take dance lessons, or simply just move around. I don’t care. Just go dancing. And remember that fast dances are the best. It can really work up a woman before you slow dance with her later.
Dating Technique: How To Fast Dance
"Club dancing" is 10 percent skills and 90 percent attitude. Most people who look great on the dance floor do not have
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training in ballet/jazz or anything. A lot of them can't even count, actually! But these guys are still admired because they always look like they are enjoying themselves. They are the people who can just get up to the dance floor and "go crazy". Dancing is a form of expression, so as long as you learn to EXPRESS YOURSELF through dancing, you'll look like you can dance well! Lastly, keep in mind that most guys are ridiculous dancers. Actually, I take that back. Most guys do not dance at all - so going onto that floor will already score you A LOT of brownie points, no matter how bad you are!
You should try to stay away from “normal” dating locations such as “going to the movies” at all costs. Movies are a waste of time. You should be talking to her instead. If the movie is bad, she will blame it on you. And if the movie is great, then she forgets about you. Also, it is much more interesting to do something together than going out on a “date”. Sometimes “going on a date” sounds stupid. Know what I mean? Make it something else. Like “hiking” or “dancing”. Just don’t call it a “date”.
Dating Technique: You’re Just “Hanging Out”
Do not take a girl out on a “traditional date”. Instead, hang out with her as friends while flirting like crazy and having a good time. In fact, when you ask girls out, ask them to come “hang out”, not “go out”!
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In short, when choosing a location for a date, consider the following rules: Dating Rule: How To Pick A Date Location
1) It must be fun and something you can do
2) It must be physically, emotionally or mentally
If you follow these rules, then the environment will be working in your favors! Don’t forget to make “creative” suggestions. If she absolutely hates an idea, she will let you know.
How To Set Up The Date
Call the women and ask directly for a date. Again, if you don’t know a woman enough yet you should definitely ask for a “coffee” type of date and then ask her out on a SECOND date (to somewhere more exciting) if the first date goes well. When you phone the woman, let her know how you had fun hanging out with her the other night and ask her if she’s interesting in joining you for a cup of coffee and another wonderful conversation. You get the idea.
Dating Technique: When She Hesitates…
If the girl hesitates or doesn’t want to answer, then joke and tease her about it. A nice “Am I that scary eh?” should do the trick.
Dating Technique: When To Go Out
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When you first meet a woman, only go out with her on weekdays. This will set you up as an important person who has a social life on weekends. If she asks you about what you’re doing on the weekends, always tell her you’re “busy” – even if you’re actually just sitting at home!
Lastly, make it clear to a woman that you just want to “make friends”. This lets her know that you’re not a needy, insecure kind of guy. You perfectly understand that the world will still revolve without her! It lets her know YOU are picking her, not the other way around!
What If She Flakes Out On You
In my experience, there are only a few reasons why a woman would flake out on a date: 1) Low Attraction: If Tom Cruise had asked her out on a date, would she have flaked out? Probably not. She would probably have prepared for it HOURS in advance, got a new hairdo at the salon, and showed up 30 minutes EARLY instead of being half an hour late. 2) She's Disorganized: A lot of flaky girls are flaky because they are disorganized. They don't just flake out on guys. They flake out on their own girlfriends too. 3) She's A Natural Flaker: This is worse than having time management skills. Some girls are just natural flakes because of the way they
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see the world. So many people have let them flake out without any consequences that they don't even see anything wrong with it. Getting a natural flaker to stop flaking on you is as hard as getting a bad driver to stop tail-gating you. She may stop flaking for a few weeks when the attraction is high. But as soon as she settles down with you, she will start flaking again. So, basically... No matter which category she is in, if a woman flakes out on you, it means she either... 1) Doesn't like you "that" much. 2) Has weak character. Here's my general rule on flaking: If a woman flakes out on you once, you should call her on her b.s. If she flakes out on you a second time, don't ask her out AGAIN until she is begging for you to come out. If she flakes out on you a third time, you should cut her out of your life - FOREVER! Here's one last little hint: If women flake out on you all the time, you need to work on ATTRACTING women BEFORE you ask them out. Don't just talk to a girl for 2 minutes and get her number. TALK to her and FLIRT with her first. If you skip these steps and skip to asking her out right away, you'll just be setting yourself up for failure. You MUST create chemistry and rapport BEFORE you ask for a date.
What to Wear On A First Date
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You don’t have to wear a 3-piece suit. By talking to her over coffee. or even seventh date! (Or until she is your girlfriend!) Don’t scare her off by making her feel she has to give something back (like love) in return! After I’ve talked to her over coffee and we’re now good friends. I can then take the girl somewhere else as the 234 Copyright 2000-2007 . Dating Technique: NO Gifts Please! Do not give a woman any gifts on a first. fourth fifth. but just make sure whatever you’re wearing doesn’t look too cheap. third. a first date usually starts with going for a cup of coffee together. This is very important. This doesn’t mean you have to be overdressed. sixth. this gives me time to talk to her and create a little bond before we even go somewhere. Also. but do not knock on her door until you’re right on time.Marius Panzarella . then arrive there a bit early in case her apartment is hard to find or there are no parking spots. second. The First Date For me. You won’t have to go through the trouble of knocking on her door. If you DO go pick her up for whatever reason (like for a second. as it will make the date seem much less awkward.All Rights Reserved . third or forth) date.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Make sure you are very careful about what you wear on a first date. make sure it’s the best thing a guy can wear to whatever place you’re heading to. giving her flowers. and then trying to decide if you should hold her hand or not. but no matter what you wear. This gives me enough time to get to know the girl a bit more and see if she is still worthy of my attention. you can skip all this “official date” crap and make the whole date seem so much smoother.
This is extremely important…as the whole point of going on a date is to have fun! (aside from getting laid…) Dating Technique: Send Mixed Signals When you’re hanging out with a woman. This includes things such as opening doors for her and walking on the roadside of the pavement. act like you just want to be friends WHILE you’re flirting with her. If she doesn’t know about this you can tell her. This is to protect her from being hit by a car.” I also try to have as much fun as I can with her. it’s true that there are crazy women out there who feel insulted when you open a door for them.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System second part of the date. I start to tease her more and more while “being her friend. Stay away from these crazy feminazi’s! Dating Technique: Chivalry Code 101 Here’s how to be a classy gentleman: 1) Offer her your arm.Marius Panzarella . 2) Open doors. The location will really depend on the girl. She will probably find it very cute. “Does he like me?” While I am always being funny. This will make her wonder. 3) Always walk on the outside of the pavement 4) Select the table at a restaurant and pull out her chair. I also always make sure I act chivalrous throughout the date.All Rights Reserved . Yes. At this point. 235 Copyright 2000-2007 .
Just remember that this MUST be done in a confident way. (Example: "What if she thinks I am a pervert???") I think this is garbage. it's going to ruin everything. she'll probably blush or give you a "what?" Respond by teasing her casually. The least you could do is to pay her a little bit of attention! Next time you go out with a woman. Instead of 236 Copyright 2000-2007 . linger your eyes on her for JUST a little bit too long . (Such as her hair or skirt.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Don’t ask her for permission to do any of this stuff.) Why tease her instead of giving her a compliment? Because she has already SEEN you checking her out. YOU’RE taking her out! Be in control! I also make compliments and tease my date like crazy to drive her mad for me. Let Her Catch You Checking Her Out Many guys are AFRAID of letting their dates catch them checking them out because they are afraid of what their dates will think of them.until she "catches" you looking. There's really NO reason to state it again verbally.All Rights Reserved . Listen.which is really a non-verbal compliment itself. If you show ANY hesitation or nervousness.Marius Panzarella .. I think you should let her notice it on purpose! Listen: Your date has spent a lot of time getting ready to go out with you.. In fact. At this point.
(So I don’t have to waste any money on a bad date.All Rights Reserved . Dating Technique: Cruise The Restaurant First Cruise the restaurant before the date. etc. just use this as an opportunity to tease her! Dinner I usually take my date to dinner only “after” a first date. Basically. Pay attention to the atmosphere. (Too loud or too quiet?) See if there are any particular tables you want. I always put on my best manners. I always try to find a place where the atmosphere is great. It just means it has to be special somehow. make sure my teeth are clean. This doesn’t mean it has to be an expensive restaurant. 237 Copyright 2000-2007 . tiny seafood restaurant near the ocean – with just the two of us. One of my best dinner-dates happened in a tiny.Marius Panzarella . the things your grandma would make you do.) There are several rules I go by when I take a woman out for dinner: Choose the right restaurant: I always make sure I can go to a place where I can pay for the most expensive item on the menu. we had a nice time at the beach after. Take a look at the manual and make sure your face won’t cringe when you order. Needless to say. No talking with my mouth open.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System repeating yourself with words. Dating Technique: Table Manners 101 1) Do not play with the table utensils or crumble the bread.
All Rights Reserved . 10) Don’t scramble or mix food on the plate. or at any other time. 9) Do not open the mouth while chewing. Dating Technique: Be A Good Listener 238 Copyright 2000-2007 . Here are a few more rules for a first date: Dating Technique: Do Not Tell Her Your “Love” Never tell a woman on a first date that you like her. or lounge 3) Do not talk loud or boisterously 4) Be cheerful in conduct or conversation 5) Never cough or sneeze at the table. By the way. or sit too far back.Marius Panzarella . without noise. 7) Do not talk when the mouth is full.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 2) Do not put your elbows on the table. It’s sick. 6) Never tilt back your chair while at the table. 8) Never make a noise while eating. I always tip the waiter handsomely. 11) Eat soup with the side of the spoon. It ruins everything.
you don't want to "lie" to her and tell her that you have "many" girlfriends when you don't.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Listen to what the lady has to say. 239 Copyright 2000-2007 . Losing your temper will only make you look stupid. she’s not asking. she’s implying she wants it. Do not scare her on the road! Dating Technique: Keep Your Cool Keep your cool no matter what happens.All Rights Reserved . She will think you’re a sincere person – even if you’re not! Dating Technique: Look For Subtle Clues When a girl asks you “Would you like to” do whatever.. What If A Woman Asks You If You Have A Girlfriend A question that I always get from my readers is: "Marius. Dating Technique: Don’t Drive Too Fast Keep the crazy driving in the arcade.. what if a woman asks me about my love life or if I have a girlfriend while I'm on a first date. Never get angry in front of a woman until you’re married.when I haven't even had a girlfriend for a long time?" Obviously.Marius Panzarella .
240 Copyright 2000-2007 . "How about you? How's your love life? You even have one?" It works like a charm! What If A Woman Asks You If You’re A Player Another “test” a woman may throw at you on a first date is to ask you if you’re a player. Then IMMEDIATELY throw the ball back into HER court by asking.All Rights Reserved .. "How about you? How's your love life?" Or. Tell her "I don't have a girlfriend right now. Or she may make a comment such as “You must get a lot of girls…” Don't "freak out" and deny if when this happens . and smile at her.... then ask.it's a trap! Here's the secret.if you wanna tease her." When you get to the "couple of prospects" part. she is probably already interested in you and just wants to throw this question at you as a little test. When a woman asks you this question or makes you the comment. look into her eyes. If you get all defensive like the average Joe.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Nor do you want to tell her that you're a loser who hasn't been on a date for years. she's going to see you as weak or even manipulative..Marius Panzarella . tilt your head a bit. (Remember: You need to remain a challenge!) So here's what you tell her. but I do have a couple of prospects..
This way.. you will seem even less desperate and she will wonder if she will get to see you again. As soon as a woman pops this question. shrug and react with your body language as if to say. then say.” But then I change topics.All Rights Reserved . But I’ve found it usually works better if you wait. if she tells you that she likes ice-skating.there are always women around. society has taught women that they "shouldn't" date or fall in love with players. Sometimes I like to get the idea for the second date from the first date itself. but brush the issue aside casually with your words. duh!" while you actually say. not repel it. you can then set her up for a second date..Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Remember that women are *very* competitive and want what other women want." Remember: Women like men who are not afraid of their sexuality. Dating Technique: Do Not Ask For A Second Date 241 Copyright 2000-2007 . So here is what you should do: Admit it with your body language. So the fact that you're good women will actually ATTRACT her. For example. "Well. But of course. "Well. “We should do it together sometime.Marius Panzarella . I used to ask a woman out on a second date while on the first date. You'll get much more respect and attraction from women this way! How To Get A Second Date If you decide that you like the woman on your first date. Never act apologetic for your desires as a man.
of course. Leave that waitress alone! FOCUS YOUR ATTENTION ON YOUR GIRL! 3) Don’t talk about your past relationships. don’t talk about yourself too much at all. the faster you breakup. they always tell you.Marius Panzarella . “Dating is for a woman you’ve already slept with”.All Rights Reserved . But I sincerely believe that if you want to have a long-term relationship with someone. go in! =) Otherwise. I have to wake up early tomorrow”! I know this goes against what most “pick-up gurus” out there may teach you. The faster you get together. (Unless you’re just looking for a one-night stand. 2) Don’t check out ANY other females. In fact. be the first guy to say “Sorry. get it? Good things only come to those who wait. In that case. then it is important to take things slowly.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Never ask for a second date while on a first date! You may want to take this concept further by denying her when she asks you to come into her home. She may not share the same view. so work on your self-control! A Few General Rules Here are a few “Do’s” and “Don’ts” to end this chapter: 10 “Don’ts” on a first date 1) Don’t talk about politics or religion. Remember the golden rule: keep the focus on HER! 242 Copyright 2000-2007 .
Just in case! 243 Copyright 2000-2007 . Humor is good. 10) Don’t act like this is your first date in your entire life. 5) Don’t talk about your sexy kinks. (Then it’s hilarious…just kidding!) Seriously. it’s going to ruin the whole evening. be FUNNY – but not offensive or rude. Unless you know she’s…hmm…into the same stuff.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 4) Don’t make any offensive jokes. 3) Do buy some fresh condoms AND clean up your room. Dress nice! 2) Do flirt with her and tease her like there is no tomorrow during the date. Seriously. Try to play it cool! 10 “Do’s” On A First Date 1) Do groom yourself properly before you go out.Marius Panzarella . 7) Don’t kiss her ass. Don’t show up an hour early and then wait for her either. (Like unless she tells you first and it happens to be the same thing you like…) 6) Don’t get into ANY sort of argument with her. house or apartment before the date. 8) Don’t tell her you love her. Don’t even tell her you like her! 9) Don’t be late on the first date.All Rights Reserved . until feelings get hurt. BE ON TIME.
I'd say it's EASY. I've discovered that the best temptation to get a woman to come to your place is… FOOD. and so on. Holding her hand? See if you can get a kiss next.All Rights Reserved . (Not too much though!) 9) Do only go to a place where you can afford to order the most expensive item on the manual. Over the years.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 4) Do give her a big hug as soon as you meet her. 244 Copyright 2000-2007 . and she's going to rush over to your place for food and dessert. Let a woman know that you're a GREAT chef. Do compliment her. etc.Marius Panzarella . The key is to TEMPT her with a reason. Why? A little physical touching right off the bat can be a good start! 5) Do advance through her boundaries and limits subtly. In fact. 10) Do relax and have fun! How To Invite A Woman To Go To Your Place How hard is it to convince a woman to come to your place? Not hard at all. Do act like a gentlemen and open doors for her. 6) 7) 8) Do have a stimulating conversation with her.
Then just when the woman is salivating. Talk about classy dishes that you have tried cooking at home.Marius Panzarella . Go to Wiki. or Spanish. so there is no reason for you to be "cheap" and buy domestic wine. she's thinking about how she can impress you by wearing a nice dress. Then divert her attention by telling her that there is one condition: she is going to have to dress up if she's going to come over for a proper dinner. Italian. 2) Drink Imported Wine Imported wine usually only costs a few dollars more than domestic wine. You can probably get them for around $5-10 each when they are on sale at bookstores. Then talk about the special desserts in those cultures. Invest in a few French or Spanish cookbooks that you put on the coffee table.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Here's what you do: Next time you talk to a woman. 10 Tips For A Great Dinner Date 1) Use Foreign Recipes Try to cook something that a woman has probably never tried before. See the subtle psychological trick? Now instead of thinking about whether she should accept your offer or not.All Rights Reserved . Describe the sensations of all the glorious food in detail. tell her you're going to experiment with a new dish the next weekend and invite her to come over and try it. bring up the subject of good food.org and read up on the 245 Copyright 2000-2007 . (A dress that you're going to rip off after dinner anyway). Drop a few names in French.
5) Play Some Soft Music Play some light classical or jazz music in the background to set the mood. There's where half of the romance is. then let her chop the vegetables.. 3) Clean Your Apartment Make sure your apartment is very tidy before you invite a woman over. 7) Let Her Help If she offers to help.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System region of the wine so that you're sound classy and knowledgeable if a woman asks. 8) Use Candles 246 Copyright 2000-2007 . 6) Don't Start Cooking Until She Gets Here Wait for her to arrive BEFORE you start cooking.All Rights Reserved . Flirt with her while you cook. Have the recipe memorized so that you don't have to look at the paper. Let her SEE you preparing a meal for her. However. If a woman needs to make a call and finds out all of your phones have been unplugged. she's going to know you're up to something. do NOT unplug them. Remember to change the sheets and make the bed too! 4) Turn Phones Off Set your phones to silent if you can.Marius Panzarella .
Turn your head back to the TV and keep watching the movie.All Rights Reserved . 10) Skip The Dishes Do NOT wash the dishes after dinner. When she does. lean over. Don't sit too close to her at the beginning unless she sits right next to you.Marius Panzarella . Tease her by saying something like. "Are you ready?" The reason for this move is to establish physical contact so that it won't be weird when you suddenly start touching her later on. look at her and smile. You do NOT want to break the romance! What To Do After Dinner (What To Do Once You Have Her On The Couch) After dinner. she may do three things. Before you start the move. put on a romantic movie and start watching it with her." Reach over and put an arm over her shoulder. Then wait for her to laugh. you know. 247 Copyright 2000-2007 .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Just when dinner is about to begin. and ask. It will be a major distraction. say "Wait! I forgot something!" and bring out the candles. "You're funny when you laugh. nudge her lightly. Play the movie and watch it for 20 minutes. At this point. 9) Have A Few Romantic Movies Ready Have a couple of "chick flicks" ready so that you'll have an excuse to move to the couch after dinner. She may find an opportunity to "escape" from your arm (red light).
And if she doesn't do anything. if she still doesn't move away. At this point. and finally her lips. See how she reacts. it means she's giving you a green light. For more information on how to cuddle. Snuggle with her for another twenty minutes. As always. it means she's either not attracted to you or just not ready. See if she holds onto your hand. her face. Once she does. you can begin to undress her.Marius Panzarella . if you get a yellow light. she may not do anything and just sit there. Pull back for now and try again later. she may lean closer to you or rest her head on your shoulder. Keep going at it until she kisses you back. move your hand up and down her arm. So put your other arm on her arm. Finally.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Or. Once you have snuggled with her for awhile. So put your other arm on her arm anyway.All Rights Reserved . read the chapter on getting physical! The “Blanket Cheat” Technique 248 Copyright 2000-2007 . If the reaction is positive. If she pulls away from you. If she leans closer to you. slip your hand down her arm and interlock fingers with her. start turning up the heat by smelling her neck and stroking her hair. it means you're getting a yellow light. you should advance until you get either a green light or a red light. Then kiss her on the cheek.
consider turning down the heat a little before dinner. I have no idea why this is. start cuddling with her again. I just know from experience that it works.. So when you start removing her clothes.. 249 Copyright 2000-2007 . (Don't do anything that may get you arrested though.. (Unless it's a hot summer night. If she is attracted to you.All Rights Reserved . grab the blanket drape it over you and her. If you don't have a fireplace near the television... But before she can answer. Let the warmth of your bodies warm each other up! You can also use a variation of this technique in a dark theatre..or even in a public place.women often feel safer when they are under a blanket. Now. of course!) Once you are under the blanket with her.Marius Panzarella . she's going to show less resistance because she assumes she's under a blanket anyway. she's not going to say "no" to the blanket.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Here's a killer trick: Have a blanket close-by. and you can do all sorts of things that she wouldn't otherwise do with people around. Once you've used the tips from the last section to cuddle with a girl on the couch.) Simply drape your jacket over the woman. ask her if she's cold.here's the thing.
So prepare to answer the following “scripted questions” from women: 250 Copyright 2000-2007 . Every woman tests the guys she dates. There’s no way around it.All Rights Reserved . you’re going to get tested. If you mess up. most guys get fired by the 5th date. Think of dating as a series of interviews before you get married. she must test them all in a systematic manner and dump the guys that flunk her tests.Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 18 How Women Test You And What You Can Do About It Why Women Test Men If you go out with a woman. If you’re a big wuss. either consciously or unconsciously. women need to screen you out of the game early so they don’t have to waste any time on you. A woman tests men because she has to find out if the guy she’s dating is strong enough for her. and how you can counter them: Category 1: Asking You Questions Women love to interview guys on a first date. Here is some ways women use to test you. the more choices she has – meaning there are plenty of guys she can date any time. In order to go through all these guys and find the one she REALLY wants. Understand that the more beautiful a woman is. you’re going to get fired right away. Unfortunately.
) “Why? Are you hitting on me?” 2) “How much money do you make?” / “So what do you do?” Most guys will start bragging about themselves at this point. Proper Response Examples: “Enough. Don’t be the same. You’re the only girl I like. A lot of guys freak out when a woman asks them this question. Proper Response Examples: “Well.” Stupid.All Rights Reserved . and also a question that most guys screw up on.” So they answer something stupid like. Are you one of the really shallow women that only care about how much a guy makes?” 251 Copyright 2000-2007 .Marius Panzarella . “No. Just reflect the questions.” (Smile smugly at her.” (Then wink at her and smile. Good women don’t care about how much you make.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 1) “Are you seeing anybody else?” / “How’s your love life?” This is a VERY common question that women ask on a first date. she will think I’m a player. Only gold diggers do. They think. “Oh no. I have a couple of prospects right now.) “Why. If I answer ‘yes’.
Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System “I am an exotic dancer. Give her a hard time and don’t ask her out again until SHE asks you out. If she changes plans at the last minute. These spoiled women will keep trying to push back your boundaries to see if you will put up with it.Marius Panzarella . No matter when she asks you out. 252 Copyright 2000-2007 . Here are some examples: 1) Canceling dates at the last minute Solution: This is completely unacceptable. pick another date. But if she pushes this too bad. you know. But I don’t really like it when women treat me like I am a piece of meat. I’m a very shallow man who only likes rich women. you’ll have to be firmer.” “I’m a gigolo. you should play hard to get and don’t be available.All Rights Reserved . just cancel the date and tell her she doesn’t have to come. 3) Changing plans at the last minute Solution: Don’t put up with any of this.) 2) Being late Solution: Women are often late. So how much do you make. Tell her “it’s okay” because you’ll “find somebody else to go with”. *pause* I have feelings too. (Even then. dear?” Category 2: Breaking Agreements Some women love to break rules or act bratty to see how much a guy can take. Be stern.
But if she’s flirting too much." Then reach over and turn her phone off for her.Marius Panzarella . Most of the time. Solution: Look at the woman. And if she STILL throws a tantrum after that... Solution: If she’s only flirting a tiny bit. Don’t argue with her or yell at her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Category 3: Challenging Or Disrespecting You There are also times when women will try to disrespect you by challenging or disrespecting for you. and asked her if she has a very important business meeting tomorrow in a playful but sarcastic tone. "No. 2) Talking on the cell phone while on a date. smile.okay then. give her the silent punishment. the woman should "get it" and turn her cell phone off. But if she turns out to be a clueless woman (or if she's using the opportunity as a chance to test you) and gives you an innocent answer like.It's just my friends" without making an effort to turn her phone off. act cool about it and don’t be jealous. Just give her the silent punishment to let her know she’s in deep shit. She is not the kind of woman you want to date anyway... 253 Copyright 2000-2007 . such as: 1) Blatantly flirting with other men in front of you. If she bitches about it. tell her she's hanging out with you and you'll make sure she has a fun night without talking to her friends for two hours. Don’t act upset.All Rights Reserved . it's time to end the date right there. "Oh. and then simply say.
Repeat until SHE is sexually frustrated. music. You’re the person she fell in love with. Remember the there is really no reason to change. etc. just ignore her. friends. cars. beer. Flirt with her and turn her on – but don’t try to bed her. etc.All Rights Reserved . Don’t let her. Solution: Be like. would she? Here are a few examples: 1) Pouting because of your friends or hobbies Some women will try to get you to choose them over your friends and hobbies because they’re jealous of anything that displaces them. 2) Complaining and finding fault with your clothes.) Don’t let them. If she tries to use sex as leverage. I like it. 254 Copyright 2000-2007 . she wouldn’t have fallen in love with you.Marius Panzarella . or she’s not the right person for you. She will either have to be flexible.” Category 5: Sex Withdrawal Some women like to “pussy-whip” guys by withdrawing sex until they do whatever she says.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Category 4: Trying To Change You / Dominate You Women also love to see if they can “change” you. music. Then make her say “please”. Solution: Try to include her in your activities early on. If there was something horribly wrong with you. (Football. hair. If she doesn’t like them. She must accept the fact that you DO have a life outside of dating women. “Too bad. Don’t let them. too bad.
CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE 180 degrees. This can't be happening! Oh my! I must be doing something wrong!" Well.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Punisher Technique – The Silent Treatment Imagine you're in a car with your girlfriend.Marius Panzarella . Don't look at her. "I'm losing her.. How are you going to feel? Uncomfortable and scared I bet. "Shit. she would probably feel the same.. period. and don't respond to her. 255 Copyright 2000-2007 . this technique works best under the following situations: 1) When you're going out with a "popular" girl who does not seem to be "that" interested in you. "What's wrong?".but now. Application: When you go out with a "diva" that gives you the "This is so boring. etc.she's suddenly not talking to you. She's going to be MUCH friendlier to you and asks you.. Don't talk to her. She's going to think. don't smile at her. pretend you're thinking about ANOTHER girl while you're at it. What did I do wrong?" and subconsciously tries to make it up to you. Keep EVERY moment devoted to HER. You've been out together having a great evening. I can't wait till you get me home" attitude and doesn't seem to be enjoying your first date. So how can YOU use this? Well. guess what? If you were to do the same to her. You see. Stop paying attention to her and be TOTALLY aloof. You're probably going to think. this technique is a VERY powerful technique that attacks a girl's insecurity DIRECTLY and make her want to "work harder" and keeping you. Heck.. just keep your enthusiasm and be really friendly with her.All Rights Reserved . But about 15-20 minutes before dropping her off.
Use it ONLY on girls that are acting like spoiled brats. Humans are always afraid of losing what they have. 3) When your girlfriend is losing her interests in you.. 2) It's important to have SELF-CONTROL and not break the silence yourself. Remember that this is a "punisher" .Marius Panzarella .. YOU have COMPLETE control now! 2) When your girlfriend is turning into a "spoiled brat" Application: Instead of arguing with her. But if you show her you mean business by giving her the silence treatment... See. she's going to freak and try to compromise to make you happy again because she does not want to lose you. The tide has turned around.All Rights Reserved .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System She may even start complimenting you like crazy. she's just going to get all defensive and fight with you.but don't worry. You're probably going to feel VERY uncomfortable with the silence too. If you argue with her or try to ask her to "change".. Don't abuse it.just keep in mind that she's probably feeling even MORE uncomfortable than you are because she does not know the silence is intentional. try to just give her the silence treatment instead. such as acting like a spoiled little diva or flirting with other guys. it will work MUCH better than trying to argue with her. Application: Give her the silence treatment after a date to make HER feel you're losing interest in HER.. JUST HAVE SELF-CONTROL AND 256 Copyright 2000-2007 .meaning it should only be used when a girl is MISBEHAVING. Trust me. Don't give them the silent treatment unless they actually DESERVE it. so she'll probably freak due to her fear of losing you.this is a very powerful technique that can TURN YOUR RELATIONSHIP AROUND! A few warnings about this "silent treatment" technique: 1) It's extremely powerful.
In the next chapter. guess what? They are only going to get worse as time goes on. 257 Copyright 2000-2007 . It doesn’t matter how hot she is. you are not just going out with her body. as well as the kind of women that you should avoid dating…at all costs. we’ll talk about the kind of qualities that your girlfriend should have. you should be testing women when you go out with them too.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System DO NOT ATTEMPT TO RE-START THE CONVERSATION AT ALL! How To Test Women Just like women test you when you go out with them. You want to find out if your date would make a good longterm girlfriend.Marius Panzarella . You’re also going out with her personality and lifestyle. Think of your first nine dates as a series of interviews. Remember that when you go out with a girl. If you can’t stand her nasty habits now.All Rights Reserved .
you’ll have to buy back whatever you’ve lost to your wife!) 258 Copyright 2000-2007 . including your house and car keys! And that’s not it…after the divorce. Prepare to lose up to half of your total assets in court. This chapter won’t be as “sexy” as the previous chapters on flirting and teasing. Here are some trivial facts about divorces in the U. It’s not buying her gifts and flowers.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 19 Observing Her Character If you choose to ignore this chapter.All Rights Reserved . just talk to ANY divorce lawyer and ask him how much an average divorce costs a man. your whole life could be ruined.3.000 men get divorced every day . W The Most Expensive Mistake In Dating Do you know what the most expensive mistake in dating is? It’s not taking out for dinner. and you whole life could be ruined.Marius Panzarella .Average divorce costs: $10. If you disagree with me. But if you choose to ignore this chapter.: .000 (legal fees only.S. e must now take an important digression and talk about the character of the women that you date. (It’s not It’s actually dating…and ultimately staying with the wrong woman.
I can cite AT LEAST a couple dozen of RECENT examples in which one of my readers have been SCREWED OVER by an ex-wife or ex-girlfriend. these guys REALLY regret it. I show you the "reality" of dating: I teach you BOTH the best killer dating techniques AND how to protect yourself in the rough. I get emails EVERY DAY from email that have finally "figured out" the biggest mistake they have EVER made in their lives was marrying the "wrong" woman....60 percent of second marriages end in divorce If you still don't see this as a threat. This is NOT funny stuff.... you should STILL be careful.All Rights Reserved . rough world out there. But when the ground finally hits you. pretend you're Superman. it's going to HURT. I have seen it happen MANY times."But Marius.I am still pretty young.. You can fantasize. in that case. and jump off a 10-story building. 259 Copyright 2000-2007 . Listen.. Any dating coaches may promise you gimmicks and many one-night stands. Trust me.I just want to fool around and I am not going to marry anyone yet. Take this advice to your heart. no matter how young you are." Well.50 percent of first marriages end in divorce . then just remember my "Superman" analogy. Any one-night-stand or internet material DOES have the potential to turn into a quick marriage and eventually a nasty divorce. In fact.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System .you may be thinking. This is honestly more important than any pickup line or flirting technique I could teach you.Marius Panzarella . (Like the guy who got his boat stolen from a girl he met over the net!) Now.
Marius Panzarella . The moment you turn your back on her and a hot stud (or even a not-so-hot guy) walks by. But baggage girls drain you of your energy until you end up feeling depressed like her. Even though attraction has a lot to do with whether a woman cheats on you or not (a woman will be less likely to cheat on you if she's CRAZY about you). Second strike and she's out of your life permanently. 260 Copyright 2000-2007 . here are some types of women for you to avoid dating: 1) Chronic Cheater Never date a chronic cheater. because the fact that she has cheated on you AGAIN proves that you've already made the mistake the first time. she's going to want him. 2) Golddigger Call me a cheapskate. First strike. And if she dares to ask you to buy her expensive things. 3) Baggage Girl Baggage girls are even worse than golddiggers.All Rights Reserved . Remember my rules on dealing with cheaters in a long-term relationship.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 5 Kinds Of Women To Avoid With that said. some women are more prone to cheating. Golddiggers take your money. but never spend more than $40 on a date. you can give her another chance if you're feeling forgiving. which you could always earn back by working hard and working smart. A woman should offer to pay half of the time. it's time to lay the smack down and throw her out. It's just in their DNA/character and they can't help it.
Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Forget about playing the therapist or "saving" the girl you like. She just wants to sit there and be pampered to death. Remember what I always say: Relationships are ALREADY hard enough to sustain with a "healthy" woman. good looks. then it's time to kick her into the air. plenty of suitors to appease her.All Rights Reserved . it's a sign she has a lot of bent-up anger inside her. You can date a princess if she is flexible and WILLING to fit herself into YOUR world. so dating a woman with a lot of emotional baggage is like ASKING FOR TROUBLE. 5) Chronic Bitch Women that are negative about everything in life are deadly. Cooking and doing house chores are out of the question for her. But if she doesn't. Rich parents. not knowing when it will explode. 4) Self-Proclaimed Princess The self-proclaimed princess is a spoiled little brat who is too used to getting everything (and anything) she wants in life. They argue about EVERYTHING and once married. back to the top of the castle tower where she belongs. 261 Copyright 2000-2007 . She breaks a nail and she wants you to drive her to the nail salon immediately. Here's how to test if a woman is a chronic: If you hear ANY negative comment from her about ANYTHING on a first date.Marius Panzarella . not her "therapist" or "vent outlet". It's like carrying a rigged time bomb around your pocket. You're her BOYFRIEND. their favorite hobby is making their men feel guilty.
It also applies to little things such as habits. You could “manipulate” a woman into doing something that you want for a short while…but sooner or later she will slip back into her old self… A woman can only change if SHE wants to. Only internal motivation can stay. I repeat… YOU CANNOT CHANGE A WOMAN! If you want to be in a healthy relationship. Here’s an example…let’s say you always forget to put the toilet seat down… 262 Copyright 2000-2007 .Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Run the other way! Remember That You Cannot Change A Woman An “excuse” that I get all the time from my readers is. this does NOT just apply to “psycho women” with lots to emotional baggage. By the way. and a person’s personality. you could beg or threaten or plea. “I know my girlfriend has problems. dummy? YOU CAN’T! You cannot change a woman. but I am helping her…I am helping her to change…” Guess what. External motivation can never have a lasting impact on a person.All Rights Reserved . Yes. then here’s another one of my golden rules: The only person that you can change is yourself. values.
But once the marriage or relationship is stable and you’re not “afraid” of losing her anymore. If she only wants to do things her way. Self-disclosure: She should be willing to disclose herself to you. do NOT enter it in the first place. you’re not going to find it any easier to accept her in the future! Remember the smart dating model? The perfect women should have: Intimacy Flexibility: She should be flexible and willing to compromise.Marius Panzarella . it is usually because they have just realized something profound (such as reading this Smart Dating Course). And if they do. and even then. you probably will – for a couple of months. find a woman that you DON’T need to change. Don’t fall in love with the “potential” of a woman. sack her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Do you think you’re going to start putting it down if you girlfriend or wife nags at you? Yes. whether the changes will stay permanently is another story. you’ll probably start forgetting. If she doesn’t tell you anything. sack her.All Rights Reserved . Instead. If you cannot accept a woman now…if you have any doubts about a relationship. (Think about your parents…do they have habits that they can’t seem to get rid of – even over the years?) Here’s the honest trust: most people do not change a whole lot once they reach adulthood. So rather than starting a relationship with a woman and then hoping that she will change. Fall in love with who she already is. 263 Copyright 2000-2007 .
She should be emotionally mature and not just dating for the sake of falling in love. then it’s important that your girlfriend is responsible.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Giving: She should be willing to give as much as she takes. Self-discipline is a sign of good character. Loyalty: She should always be loyal to you. Laziness is a disease that rubs on to other 264 Copyright 2000-2007 . Family Oriented: If you’re interested in having a long-term relationship or even starting a family some time. caring. sack her. Commitment Respect: She should be giving you the respect you deserve.Marius Panzarella . During bad times. Hard-Working: Don’t tolerate women who are too lazy. Prudent: Your girlfriend should be frugal and not a gold-digger. If she’s shallow. Integrity: She should have integrity and doesn’t lust after material goods. as you are loyal to her. you don’t want your future wife to be drinking instead of taking care of the kids.All Rights Reserved . If she doesn’t. If she cheats or screws around behind your back. sack her. No Bad Habits: Avoid women with bad habits such as heavy smoking and drinking. sack her. and loving. sack her. Other Important Traits Emotionally Stable / Mature: Make sure your potential girlfriend is comfortable with herself and selfconfident. If she takes all the time but never gives.
Clean and Fit: This one is very politically incorrect to say. 4) Are the two of you flexible enough to resolve differences? 265 Copyright 2000-2007 . Spend enough time with lazy people and you will become lazy too. but I am going to say it anyway. A Quick Compatibility Test Here is a quick compatibility test for you and your new girlfriend: 1) Do the two of you share similar values? Without similar values. 3) Do the two of you share similar sex drives? Sex should never be the center of any relationship. You don’t need a woman who’s shallow and always preoccupied with her looks. don’t date a workaholic either. but you should make sure you have at least similar feelings towards sex. but you should at least find a woman who’s fit and healthy. 2) Do the two of you share similar lifestyles? If you live very different lifestyles (Example: one is a hippie while the other one is an entrepreneur) it’s going to be very tough to work things out. Date someone who at least takes the time to keep herself clean and lean.Marius Panzarella . Find a woman who knows how to balance her life. On the other hand.All Rights Reserved .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System people. you will get into a lot of arguments which may eventually lead to a nasty breakup.
All Rights Reserved . I guarantee you’re going to be in one heck of a roller-coaster ride. Love is a two-way street…and you must both be willing to respect each other and resolve any problem by being flexible and accommodating.Marius Panzarella . 266 Copyright 2000-2007 . will one person feel lonely while the other feel suffocated? 6) Do both of you live in the same city? Silly question – but in my experience. most longdistance relationships fail in the end.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System If both parties are too adamant to be flexible for each other. 5) Do the two of you have compatible needs for closeness or separateness? In other words.
Dating Technique: Hold Off Sex To make a woman lust after you. and then don’t give it to them!” 267 Copyright 2000-2007 . ll right. A If You’re Interested In A Long-Term Relationship If you’re interested in a long-term relationship. You may cuddle with her or give her casual kisses. Trust me. No matter how hot she is getting or how hard she is trying to seduce you. Keep tempting and teasing her.All Rights Reserved . What do you do now? Some people would tell you to take her home or go to her place after the first date and work your magic from there. It will probably be the best sex you have ever had. she will be ready to attack you in her apartment.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 20 From Desire To Action: Getting Physical With Women Anticipation is the key. You have just finished having a dinner with the girl. but don’t go any further then that. And it really depends on the girl too. tease her and tempt her to get intimate with you but do not actually give it to her. By the sixth or seventh date. but I say it’s your own choice. Remember the classic rule strippers go by: “Tease guys about something they want. do not give in.Marius Panzarella . but do not actually let her lead you on. do NOT make any sexual moves on her at all.
For your first few dates. I don’t care about what other “experts” say.Marius Panzarella . Then accelerate until she is your girlfriend. crank the chemistry on by dropping compliments every now and then. the faster you breakup.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System But make sure you give in a little every once in awhile. Remember: The faster you get together. Play it slow to keep her wondering if you like her. go out with her as a casual friend while teasing her and flirting with her. I have NOTHING against having casual sex with women – I just don’t think you should do it with a girl you may “love” because having sex on the first date change the dynamics of the WHOLE relationship. For example. Dating Technique: Delay The Relationship To build a more solid relationship. if she is grinding her hip on your crotch and rubbing you through your pants. They can call me stupid and claim that you should only date a woman after you’ve slept with her. After a month or so. 268 Copyright 2000-2007 . I have a bonus report that teaches you how to sleep with girls. Getting a one-night stand is NOT hard. then you may want to let her have her way! This is the path you should take if you’re interested in a long-term relationship with a girl. I will just laugh when they breakup with a girl or end up dating a slut who blows every guy on the street. In fact. or else she will lose interest. do not “get together” with a woman as soon as you meet her.All Rights Reserved .
this is an essential step you have to go through before you can kiss her. She won’t even let you into her house if she doesn’t feel safe.) Even if you’re just in it for sex. Dating Technique: Always Kiss A Girl Before You Go To Her Place Always kiss a girl before you head to her place to avoid the “awkward moment” when you start making out. it will become awkward when you suddenly start feeling her up when you get into her place.All Rights Reserved . remember that the keyword with women is still trust. I will say it again: you must hold a woman’s hand before you can kiss her! Think of holding hands as a set-up for the big kiss later. And if you don’t have any physical contact now. (Don’t force her into doing anything though. And if she wants you to stop. Just keep turning her on and turning her on until she is ready to advance to the next level. she will feel very comfortable when you kiss her again on the porch. 269 Copyright 2000-2007 . This is better then kissing her at the door or in her house because if you kiss her now. then just keep advancing and advancing. then stay at that level until she is turned on enough to go for more. It’s dumb and illegal.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System If You Just Want A One-Night Stand… If you’re interested in a one-night stand with no longterm commitment.Marius Panzarella . She won’t sleep with you if she doesn’t feel safe. That’s why I usually try to kiss the girl before we head back to her house. Holding Hands No matter if you’re in it for a quick one-night stand or a long-term relationship.
And after that…I just don’t let go. When she does I take it away and say the same thing. Then I use it as a launching pad to give her a palmistry session. Dating Technique: Give Her a Hand Massage Another alternative is to give her a hand massage right there. Then I take it away and tell her that we shouldn’t be holding hands this early. =) Dating Technique: Rub Her Hand If you’re holding a woman’s hand. I simply grab her hand and hold onto it. Good – now you can flirt with her while walking or watching a movie! 270 Copyright 2000-2007 . And when she finally stops reaching for my hand.All Rights Reserved .Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System There are many techniques I use to start holding hands with women. Then awhile later I hold it out as if I am asking her to take it. I keep repeating this in a playful heir. Here are some of my favorites ones: Dating Technique: Hold Her Hand By Teasing Her Sometimes I take the initiative and take her hand and hold it for a few seconds. Dating Technique: Read Her Palm! Sometimes I comment on the shape of a woman’s hand. This can also lead to a neck massage and shoulder and…you know what I mean. If she likes it. Or rub your thumb on her hand. she will reciprocate. try flirting with her by squeezing her hand or her fingers. See how she reacts.
move the hand to the back of her head and reach down to kiss her. never ask a woman for a kiss. it should be much easier to get a kiss. (I am assuming the girl is shorter then you…once I dated a tall. If she smiles and seems receptive. then you will have to tease her and work her up some more before you can try again. look deeply into her eyes again. A real man just goes for it. Going Indoors 271 Copyright 2000-2007 . “Can I kiss you?”. Tell her she has lovely eyes. if she resists. There. they will turn you down just to play hard to get. Or soft hair. Simply do it. You’re one step closer to spreading her legs.All Rights Reserved .Marius Panzarella . Stroke her hair lightly and look into her eyes with the passionate gaze. Or whatever.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System First Kiss Once you’re holding hands with the girl. 9 out of 10 times. However. tall blonde who was 6ft 1 and kissing her was a bit of a challenge!) If she pulls away. stop immediately. Dating Technique: How To See If She Is Ready For A Kiss Here’s a nice trick to see if a girl is receptive to a kiss or not. After the kiss. Dating Technique: Don’t Ask A Women For A Kiss Don’t ever ask. Remember.
Dating Technique: Get Yourself Invited Into Her Place After you take a woman home. you will have to play a bit hard to get. So make her comfortable by giving her an “excuse” to go to your place! To get yourself invited into her house. Dating Technique: Invite Her Home Always invite a girl home by telling her an “excuse”. But then say you can hang around for a drink for 15 minutes or you have to go to the bathroom. she will let you in.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System A good way to invite her into your house would be to “show her something”. My favorite technique is to tell her that I have to go to bed early since I have work the next day. It’s just that no woman want to be thought of as a slut. Do not ever tell her to go back to your place so you can “sex her up”. "Would you like to come in?" say 272 Copyright 2000-2007 . tell her that you have to go to work tomorrow and can’t stay.Marius Panzarella . She already KNOWS why you’re inviting her back to her place. Maybe it is your CD collection or videos or posters. Don’t just “invite her home”. Give a reason. but then I tell her that I could stay for 15 minutes while I lead HER into her own house. blahblahblah. I am not suggesting that you “lie” to women.All Rights Reserved . Dating Technique: How To Get A Woman To Come In Instead of saying. If she’s interested at all.
hers or yours. Repeat till she has all her clothes off and… you get the idea. After 20 minutes or so. do not make any moves at all for the first 20 minutes or so. How To Satisfy A Woman Physically Here are few tricks on the fine art of “making out “ Before we go on. you are also GRANTING HER PERMISSION and presupposing that she has EARNED it. Remember the key to this path is to keep advancing.All Rights Reserved . tasted (licked) and talked to.Marius Panzarella . Then cuddle with her and turn her on. not only are you acting like a challenge by not asking her like a wuss.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System "You can come in for a couple of minutes. who are mostly turned on by visuals. Let us focus on touch (kissing. women get very turned on by their other senses. If she lets you hold her hand then kiss her. This is why they love to be touched (through kissing. let me remind you that unlike men. If she resists then kiss and cuddle some more. Remember that women want to feel safe. If she kisses you back then try to take off something. cuddling and touching) first. stroking and cuddling). you can ask a woman to come back to your place WHILE acting like a challenge! Once you’re inside the house. you may move closer and kiss her on the cheek and then move back away. This way. smelled. 273 Copyright 2000-2007 . so you MUST act like a complete gentleman when you’re inside her place." By using "can" instead of "would you like to".
then on the tip of the nose. tender and open.Marius Panzarella . Remember to vary them to keep things exciting! Kissing Technique: Triumverat Kiss her lightly between the eyes. here are some general tips: Dating Technique: Kissing Rules Keep your breath fresh.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System How To Kiss According to a recent survey. However. You can’t really teach a person how to kiss as it comes from experience. Keep your lips soft. Kissing Technique: Top And Bottom Kiss her on her top lip. Tilt your head the OPPOSITE way the girl is tilting. and finally on the lips. Kissing Technique: Lick Her Lightly Run the tip of your tongue slowly along your girl’s lips. Kissing Technique: Kiss Her Earlobes 274 Copyright 2000-2007 . Here are a couple of kissing techniques you can use. and finally both. Keep your lips moist. more than half of all women consider their men to be lousy kissers. then the bottom lip.All Rights Reserved .
until she pulls you to their lips. Kissing Technique: Front OF Neck Kiss the front of her neck with your lips and tongue. and suck on her earlobe. You can also use this trick on other sensitive spots. Kissing Technique: Cheek Rub 275 Copyright 2000-2007 . Kissing Technique: Kiss Her Neck Trace the sides of her neck with your lips and tongue. you can tease one of her nipples by kissing AROUND it until you finally kiss it. nibble.Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Gently kiss. For example. This trick can drive a woman WILD. caress their lips with yours and give her a passionate kiss. Kissing Technique: Forehead Rub Rub your forehead with your girl gently and kiss her.All Rights Reserved . Press your lips gently to theirs'. Kissing Technique: Tease And Denial Kiss everywhere but her lips. Kissing Technique: The Sensual Kiss Look in her eyes and whisper you want to kiss her.
276 Copyright 2000-2007 . Remember not to limit your lips to her lips. Women love men who would take the time to cuddle with them. There are lots of other places you can kiss. Next time you get a chance to go on a date. You can also smell her neck.Marius Panzarella . Just give her a hug and then cuddle with her like there’s no tomorrow. Lift your lips off a little. Trust me. Just member to drool all over her dedicate body. Remember girls like sensual men. Press your lips against your girl's skin and suck softly. Just don’t stop cuddling. her ears. Don’t believe me? Do some field-testing. Kissing Technique: Nose Rub Gently rub the tips of your noses together and kiss. Kissing Technique: Suck Her Lips Make a small "O" with your lips. Her neck. and repeat over and over.All Rights Reserved . lick her earlobes and whisper sexy things in her ears while you’re at it. move over slightly.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Gently brush cheeks with your partner and kiss her. basically any part of the body can be kissed. Some women can get so turned on from cuddling that they suddenly attack you out of the blue. Cuddling Cuddling is another crowd pleaser. cuddle with the girl.
I said yes and we went out the back to the fire exit. “Heck. For example. 3) Apply different pressure with your hands.All Rights Reserved . Her eyes brightened up and asked me if I would like to cuddle with her. We just sat on the stairs and started cuddling endlessly. not long ago I met this new girl and I told her how much I loved to cuddle. cuddle with her till she rapes you! Touching Women love to be touched and stroked. Do not keep touching her the same way for more than one minute. linger your fingers softly on her chest and then suddenly 277 Copyright 2000-2007 . We were lucky we didn’t get caught! Trust me.” I joked casually. I think I like it even more than sex. cuddling works wonders in getting into a woman’s pants. 2) Constantly change the way you’re touching her. After about 30 minutes.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Let me tell you a real story. she was so turned on that she climbed onto me and basically raped me right there. Here are a few general rules for touching: Make Out Technique: How To Touch Women And Make Them Purr Like Pussy Cats 1) Touch her softly and slowly. You gotta try it sometime! Make Out Technique: Cuddle With Her Next time you get to make out with a chick.Marius Panzarella .
Talking Dirty 278 Copyright 2000-2007 . Smelling and Licking Women love to be smelled. The same thing with licking. 4) Touch her as you would touch a pussy cat.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System rub it hard for a few seconds and then touch her softly again. If you keep smelling her neck and smelling her neck while you cuddle. Slightly run your tongue lightly against her earlobes and other parts for 10 minutes. Simply run your nose and lips over her shoulders and neck smelling her while telling her how great she smells. it will drive her totally wild. Try this: Make Out Technique: Smell Her Neck! Smell her neck and shoulders for 15 minutes. 5) Imagine white light coming from your hands and use this light to heat her body up. 7) Enjoy what you’re doing. See her as an ice-cream cone and tease her with your tongue.Marius Panzarella . Make sure you don’t drool all over her though. Admire her body and caress her sensually.All Rights Reserved . 6) Don’t ever lose contact completely as your change from one hand to another.
you can say “All you have to say is please. Drive her wild with your imagination! You may also describe what you’re going to do to her next. and how great it will make her feel when you’re doing it. The whole point of this is to paint an erotic picture in her mind! Example: “I love the way you smile when I kiss your neck. For example. Here are a couple of good techniques: Make Out Technique: Describe What’s Happening Describe what’s happening as you’re making out or having sex with her.” Keep doing this until she is screaming “PLEASE!” Make Out Technique: Release Her Horny Side 279 Copyright 2000-2007 . and try to stimulate her senses with your words.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System You may choose to talk sexy to her. Make Out Technique: Make Her Beg A good way to tease a woman during sex or a make out session is by getting her to beg for it. aren’t you?”. It will drive her crazy for you. Remember to include lots of details.Marius Panzarella . while you’re making out with her.” Make Out Technique: Tease Her With Questions Tease her with playful questions like “You’re a horny princess. It really gets me hot to see you so happy.All Rights Reserved . Remember to use a lot of details.
” 3) “You know you love the feeling of surrendering to your man.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System There’s a horny little princess inside every girl. Learn to release it by saying things like: 1) “You know you want me to make you feel good.Marius Panzarella . If she gets angry.All Rights Reserved . earlobes. Do not try to talk dirty until she’s very hot and horny. eyelids Back of neck Breasts and nipples 280 Copyright 2000-2007 . nose.” 2) “Kiss my chest. Smell or Lick Below is a list of pleasure zones for women you should try to please! Face: mouth. WATCH HER REACTION.”. Try commanding her in the bedroom by saying things like: 1) “Spread your legs wide. Touch.” 2) “You enjoy being told what to do by a man. cheeks. And most important of all.Where To Kiss.” 4) “Tell your man what you want him to do to make you feel good” Make Out Technique: Command Her Women love to “surrender” to a strong man. then stop! Erogenous Zones .
Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Abs and naval Her spine on her back Inner thighs and back of knees Buttocks. go back to whatever you were doing – but advance a bit further this time. Make Out Technique: Avoid Sensitive Areas 281 Copyright 2000-2007 . anus and perineum (area between vagina and anus…lick it to drive her wild!) Arms. try to slip a hand under her shirt this time. elbows and hands Her vagina The Keys To Arousing Her – Anticipation and Denial Here are a couple of techniques you can use to arouse a woman: Make Out Technique: Stop and Go Whenever a woman seems to be REALLY enjoying what you’re doing to her. This will make her want you to continue. She will probably put her arms around you and try to get you to go back to doing whatever you were doing earlier.Marius Panzarella . You can use this trick over and over until you hit home base. After awhile. For example. STOP.All Rights Reserved . if you were fondling her boobs over her shirt before you stopped. Ignore her.
she will be even more turned on when you finally get to them. This will make her anticipate or even fantasize about what you’re going to do to her next. 282 Copyright 2000-2007 . It will also stimulate her senses tremendously.Marius Panzarella . crotch and anus.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System If you avoid touching her most sensitive parts of her body like the breasts. She will squirm when you finally do! Make Out Technique: Blindfold Her Blindfold your girl with something like a bra. For example. circle her nipple with your tongue for a while before you lick it directly.All Rights Reserved .
) Flirt with her plenty. twice at most. This is why I’ve decided to devote a chapter to the fine art of KEEPING a girlfriend.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 21 How To Keep A Beautiful Girlfriend Most couples breakup within 60 days. your first few dates should be fun and flawless.All Rights Reserved . C Stage 1 – The Courtship (First Date To “Will You Be My Girlfriend?”) Technically. it usually it takes more than 4-5 dates before a girl is certain she is attracted to you. keeping a girl is much harder than getting a girl. as she is already dating you. In fact. Just because you have gone out on a first date does NOT mean you are entitled to keep her for the rest of your life. Unfortunately. most dating manuals out there do not address this issue. Do NOT strangle her with your everlasting love like most guys do. she’s looking for reasons to reject you. (Not for reasons to date you. Ontrary to popular belief. Every time she sees you. Think of the first few dates as a prolonged interview. 283 Copyright 2000-2007 . This is an extended version of the very basic bonus report “Nasty Breakups” I wrote for my ezine readers a while back.Marius Panzarella . but exhibit self-control. You don’t want to see her too often because your dates will become less special if you do. Go out with her only once a week initially.
Relationship Tip: Stall Her! Do not give a woman too much attention at the beginning. I know 5-8 dates may sound like a long wait. don’t go out with her too often. Once a week is enough. start turning up the romantic chemistry until one of you asks or hints the big question naturally: “So are we together?” THEN you can ask her to become your girlfriend. then it is defiantly worth the wait.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Relationship Tip: Don’t Go Out Too Often Initially When you first start dating a woman. Remember: the faster you get together with someone.Marius Panzarella . Some keys to keeping a girlfriend at this stage: 1) Capture her attention 2) Remain a challenge 3) Stay mysterious 4) Make her laugh a lot 5) Send mixed signals 284 Copyright 2000-2007 . Tease her and flirt with her and do all the usual things. but if you are serious about having a long-term relationship with someone. After 5-8 dates. twice at most! Try to stall her as long as you can before you ask her to become your girlfriend. the faster you breakup.All Rights Reserved . but don’t let her know you like her yet.
Go out and do wild things.All Rights Reserved . (Actually. inflexible woman who never compromises. Flexibility is the key to this stage. You may find that some of your fundamental values are different. 2) Stage 3 – The Getting To Know Each Other TOO well Period (3-12 months) After a few months. Create a happy memory that you can both remember for the rest of your lives. as both people are usually trying to please the other all of the time. You MUST keep her attracted to you. If she’s not willing to be good to you too. the relationship will fail. you should consider ending the relationship.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Stage 2 – The Honeymoon Period (First 1-3 Months Of Being Together) The honeymoon stage is usually fun and exciting. This is partly due to the chemicals that get released in your body when you first meet someone. Use this time to REALLY have fun with a woman. Unless both parties are willing to be flexible and compromising. Women want to be protected. then things are not going to work out.Marius Panzarella . end it WAY before – like after a first date!) Love is a two way street. 285 Copyright 2000-2007 . Do not start acting like you’re mama’s boy. But DO NOT let your guard down just because you’re going steady with her. Some keys to keeping a girlfriend at this stage: 1) Remain a challenge. You may also find that the blonde goddess you’re dating may not be so special after all. If you end up dating a selfish. Be romantic and take good care of her. the “Let’s have sex 3 times a day” chemicals become the “Let’s settle down” chemicals – and this is when some serious problems may occur.
Stage 4 – The “We’re Married” Period (1 Year And On) After awhile. Be romantic at least once a month and do something special! Remember that keeping a long-term relationship is not like investing in the stocks market. you feel like you’ve known the person for all eternity.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved . 2) Be flexible. You ONLY get back whatever you put in. she will be flexible because she wants to please you.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Always keep in mind that if a lady TRULY loves you.and that's why they get dumped eventually! It is also important to bring back the “honeymoon moments” every now and then. However. Do not become a little man! A lot of guys get pussywhipped by a girl overtime . Some keys to keeping a girlfriend at this stage: 1) Remain a challenge. (Just like you want to please her!) This is why it is very important to keep a woman ATTRACTED to you. it’s not going to work out! The Key To Keeping A Relationship Healthy – Keep Her Attracted To you 286 Copyright 2000-2007 . You can seduce a woman and make lots of babies. Your relationship could still go down the drain! It is essential that you do not let your girlfriend “pussywhip” you. it does not mean you’re safe. but if you don’t put in the time and commitment required for a long-term relationship. 3) Keep her attracted to you. Compromise.
Don’t be afraid to love her.” from time to time. Maybe when you’re walking in the park. If you can’t even spare an hour on your girlfriend once a week. she’s not going to cheat. They stop paying attention to their women and end up losing her. Talk to her: Have at least one good talk every week. Tease her. flirt with her. Remain in control: Another big thing. Some guys use the techniques I’ve taught them to seduce a sexy girl they’ve always wanted. Maybe before bed. Leave little messages that say “I’ve been thinking about you…. Be attentive: Sorry to say this. Do thoughtful things. then it’s really your fault if the relationship turns sour. I don’t care how busy you’re with work. if you have used my techniques to attract the girl. Remember how I taught you to tease her till she’s blushing in deep red? Or how to drive her crazy with my few moves that’s guaranteed to turn her on? Keep applying the techniques to relive the romance. This will help you solidify the bond with her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System As long as a woman is very attracted to you. first of all. Please don’t make the same mistake. Compliment her when she does something good. but most guys do start to slack off after a while.Marius Panzarella . Notice the details.All Rights Reserved . Here are some ways to keep the interest level up: Fun and Romance: Well. and then after awhile they just give up their control and start kissing the girl’s ass. This is why it is very important to keep her interests level high. you should keep it up. Remember: everything I’ve said about remaining in control of a relationship still applies after the initial courtship! Never lose control! Be a man! 287 Copyright 2000-2007 .
I don’t care how rich and busy you are. never pamper a woman with money.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System IMPORTANT NOTE: Under NO. Money can buy you sex.Marius Panzarella . She may act 288 Copyright 2000-2007 . as the relationship will only become more hollow every time you attempt to bribe her with cash. the women usually intiates the breakup.) But if a woman initiates a breakup. And when she does. when they have been careless watching the "warning signs" for weeks/months. NO circumstances should you be attempting to please her with money and physical gifts.) Why? Because a woman usually tries to bear discomfort with a man before she is finally pushed over the edge and decided to dump the guy. Warning Flags Here are some warnings flags that hint your relationship may be deteriorating: Mood Changes / Irritability: Your girl may be edgy and often in a bad or depressed mood. but it can’t buy you love.All Rights Reserved . (By the way. he usually feels bad after. than the scenario is very different. breakups do NOT happen overnight. It is very important about to stay awake in a relationship and NOT take a woman for granted – unless you're wanting to get dumped. Most men are surprised when a woman leaves them. How A Woman Breaks Up With A Man When a man breaks up with a woman. She has allowed her anger to build up and there is simply no way she will be going back. it is *for real* with no way of turning back because she has made up her mind. The last thing you want is a spoiled girlfriend! It will lead you quicker to a breakup/divorce. Breakups Do NOT Happen Overnight As you can see. Money and wealth is NOT an alternative for love. NO. Never. (Except if he was just using her for cheap sex.
as if she’s hiding something? Routine: Are you falling into a routine with your girlfriend? Have you stopped being adventurous? Separation: Are you more “separate” than before? Do you plan separate activities instead of doing activities together? Communication: Is she avoiding in depth conversations. sensitive. argumentive. especially questions about your relationship? Criticism: Is she suddenly acting like a nagging bitch? Is she over critical of you? Does nothing you do please her? Intuitive: Do you have a “gut-feeling” that tell you something may be wrong? Distance: Does one or both partners seem to be distant. she may not stop nagging about the smallest details on earth. and hypervigilent.Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System like they are irrigative.All Rights Reserved . touchy. or miles away in their thoughts? Is one or both partners daydreaming more than usual? For “specific” red flags. Contact: Is contact between you and your girl trailing off? Is she always too busy to go out with you now? Secretive: Can you sense your girlfriend being more secretive. 289 Copyright 2000-2007 . distracted. please read the Appendix at the end of this course. And worst of all. She may also start fights without any reasons.
a woman may tell you she loves you while sleeping with other guys behind your back. "I hate you" playfully and mean "I love you!" This is why you should ALWAYS look at a girl's actions. They like talking in circles and going through a thousand places before they finally make a point. their words may not necessarily represent their thoughts. it’s usually me who leaves a girl. then it is quite essential that you learn how to play the “love cop” and examine your relationship objectively at all times.Marius Panzarella . And most of us do end up breaking up with a girl or two some time in our lives. not her words. For example. not her words. Here’s the key to "reading" a woman: Look at her actions. sh* happens.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System How To Play The Love Cop If you want to keep a relationship healthy. Or she may say.All Rights Reserved . Watch her attitude/facial expressions/actions. So in short. Women's words cannot be trusted because they are not "direct" speakers like we men are. but I have been ditched a few times too when I was younger. Anyway…this is a couple of steps I’ve gathered from my personal experiences. don’t they? Nowadays. a lot of time they are masking how they REALLY feel. ALWAYS figure out what went wrong: 290 Copyright 2000-2007 . And of course. They do suck. How is your girlfriend treating you? Remember: her actions can’t lie! Surviving A Breakup As a smart philosopher once said. I’ve personally encountered a few painful breakups myself.
but I think it is necessary to know why you were dumped. The scars are going to be there – permanently. 291 Copyright 2000-2007 . Also.All Rights Reserved . But from my own experience. Also. much harder to fix a relationship than to start a new one. always see what he did. This applies to cheating as well.Marius Panzarella . it must be one of your weaknesses. Ask yourself this question: Could there really be a future between you two? A lot of times. if there’s anything not working with the tactics you used this time…you can certainly fix it so you won’t have to make the same mistakes next time around. If she has left you for another guy. Only time can heal them. a couple gets back together – only to break up again shortly after. Is there something the other guy could give her that you couldn’t? If so. is she really worth your time? Remember: If she has lied to you once. If she has cheated on you once. If you’re attentive. she will be very likely to lie to you again. she is probably going to cheat on you again. So how do you fix that up? Remember. it’s much. Decide Whether You Want Her Back Or Not You should really ask yourself the following questions: Is she really worthy of your attention or love? If she’s a cheating whore. Don’t just enter into a jealous rage. you should probably know the answer already. the truth is probably already inside you – you just have to have the courage to search within yourself for an answer.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Do you know why she dumped you? I don't want to stir up any painful memories. keep in that what she tells you is not necessarily the truth.
Flirt with her again. It won’t work. Do NOT beg and beg for her to take you back. And tempt her with new things. For a complete system on getting your ex-girlfriend back. Make HER want to get back together with you. Show her how much you understand her. Remember we humans like to ask ourselves the following question: “What’s in it for me?” You’ve just broken up with her. So you would like to get her back. together with her.com Move On If you’ve decided to move on. whatever she will be getting from this new relationship MUST outweigh the problems of the previous relationship. So what’s in it for her if she gets back together with you? You will have to give her temptations. Remember.reverseyourbreakup. 292 Copyright 2000-2007 . Let her miss the things she lost when she broke up with you. here are a couple of general tips. you will still have to work very hard.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Should You Want Her Back… Okay.All Rights Reserved . Please don’t make the same mistake most guys make. It will only succeed in making you seem whiny and annoying. visit my “Reverse Your Breakup” program at: http://www. And even then.Marius Panzarella . in solving the problems you two had in the past.
If there are many other chicks that like you cause you're cute and nice. now that you’re free of the ball and chains. Use this as an opportunity to get into a NEW lifestyle.. Of course. Again to take her off your mind.seeing all the nice little buns on the treadmills will help too. Meet people. Remember going out is very casual nowadays.Marius Panzarella . Lastly. it works wonders when you do some physical activities to get her off your mind.. So take a cold shower and try to start afresh. think about all the exciting. They are going to introduce you to many new girls! Start dating: other women as soon as you feel ready.. why not hang around with them for a while? Polish your skills: Re-read my eBooks and really polish your skills for the next round. Get involved with some new hobbies:. practice. breakups hurt is because you’re used to a living certain lifestyle and suddenly your whole world has changed.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Workout: Trust me. Remember.All Rights Reserved . practice and practice!!! Remember. beautiful women you’re going to meet! 293 Copyright 2000-2007 . etc. Socialize: with your friends..
Or you can go out now and practice the stuff. and forget everything I’ve taught you. please do me a favor and email your stories. The main reason I wrote this book is because I want to help other men. Please give me both the good and the bad. and date beautiful women. 294 Copyright 2000-2007 . you will see your success. and just like any other skill it needs to be practiced. As a matter of fact. And when you do. attract. everything is up to you.All Rights Reserved . I can be reached at mariuspanzarella@datebeautifulwomen. You can put this book on your bookshelf.Marius Panzarella . So I urge you to please go out and start applying the techniques you have learned from this book. please email me.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Chapter 22 Closing But now. In time. email me now and tell me what you think of the book.com I’ ve done what I can to teach you how to meet. So if there is a particular part of the book that worked or did not work for you. Attracting women is a skill. I sincerely hope you will choose the latter. tell yourself that you’ve become a great womanizer.
It's really quite simple.. then tease a woman. I would rather see you crash and burn by trying your beset than to see you having mediocre results because you're holding back.) 295 Copyright 2000-2007 . you will only get half-assed results. by the way... They don't go "all the way".if I tell you to flirt more. As an opera teacher once told me.All Rights Reserved . then PLEASE give my system 100 percent of your efforts. flirt half-way and then stop because you doubt my techniques. All you need to do is to take any one of my techniques and use them in a half-assed manner. (This applies to other areas of your life. This may sound very obvious... but it's a mistake I dare say MOST of my readers make.. Moral of this little lesson? If you put in half-assed efforts. I am going to teach you one last thing. Or.if I tell you be a challenge and tease women. For example..Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System But before we part. just stop talking to her for 3 days and then call her back as soon as she leaves a message on your answering machine. I am going to teach you how to FAIL at using everything I’ve taught you in this book. he'd rather hear a student sing the wrong note than to be barely audible to the audience. Or.and apologize right after! You get the idea. If you're interesting in becoming a "Smart Dater"..Marius Panzarella . PLEASE give it everything you've got. if I tell you to pull back and stop speaking to a woman because you're in the negative zone.
. you will only get LAME results! So before you get yourself out there and start meeting women... Because most guys on this planet are too lazy to realize their potential! Good luck and never give up! -Marius Panzarella 296 Copyright 2000-2007 .. If you make a LAME attempt at something. Never accept second-best efforts from yourself..Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Remember my latest golden rule: You get what you give. Following this simple rule can give you a LOT of success both in dating and in life..Marius Panzarella .I want you to make a commitment to yourself. ONLY DO YOUR BEST.All Rights Reserved .
Do not become the “doormat” she runs to when she is between boyfriends. but how much she is attracted to YOU that matters. DO NOT tell your friend you like her! I am serious. Now. They only care about how much THEY like a man. only to fail miserably! Remember the key to attraction is. it's hard to get out. to a women. I am sure you like her. You see. If you meet a girl you like.it's not how much you're attracted to a woman. there are 2 guys of men: "potential lovers" and "just friends". Ugh.. It doesn’t work that way. First of all. but does she like you? YOU DON'T KNOW! 297 Copyright 2000-2007 . Most guys spend days or weeks gathering the courage to tell a girl they like her. you may be “stuck” as a friend already (too bad you hadn’t read this earlier eh?) so I am sure you want some tips on how to turn a friend into a girlfriend. DO NOT tell your friend you like her directly.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System A P P E N D I X A Appendix A – How To Turn A Friend Into A Girlfriend A lot of guys seem to have a fantasy about befriending a hottie and sucking up to her until she finally sees what a great guy he is and decides to date him. please…make your move. Women do not care about a man loves them. Once you fall into the "just friends" category..Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved . You are most likely to be stuck for life.
Why? Because when a woman gives you the "let's just be friends" line.All Rights Reserved . instead of putting the focus on your feelings and worrying about how you can tell her you love her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System And that's why you should NOT risk embarrassing yourself! Also. Their NATURAL reaction is to turn you down on the spot ("I have a boyfriend" or "I am not looking for someone right now". not to chase her. I want you to focus on getting HER to tell you she likes you. she may want you! What If It Still Doesn’t Work So what if this doesn’t work with the friend you’re trying to turn into a girlfriend? What if she still gives you the “you’re my best friend” line? The first thing you do is to move on temporarily. it usually means: 298 Copyright 2000-2007 . If she ignores you or doesn't respond well to the flirting. But if she flirts back. Now. then she's not interested in you. like when a girl least expects it. Lastly. and that's why I want you to start flirting with her and drive the chemistry up.even if they regret it later. Your goal is to get HER to fall for you and eventually ask you the "Are we together?" question. It's time to ATTRACT her. flirting with her will allow you to see if she likes you or not. the biggest difference between a friendship and a relationship is that there is sexual/romantic chemistry. men who "gather the courage" to "suddenly tell the girl he loves her" usually do it at the "wrong" time. So. etc) just to be safe .Marius Panzarella . or at least give the impression that you have moved on. Surprises are scary and women don't know how to react.
So. It doesn't matter how much you like the woman.) 2) She doesn't share the same feelings towards you. If she flirts back. you've probably screwed up by telling her directly. you flirt more and advance half a step.All Rights Reserved . Then you start flirting subtly with her again while being a COMPLETE challenge. But if she doesn't flirt back at all. not how much YOU like her that counts. Keep bugging her. Here is what you do: You pull back from her and start dating or flirting with other women in front of her. but it means your chances are dead and you should move on. (Aka she doesn't like you AT ALL. Keep doing this until SHE is clinging all over you. And if she has told you she just wants to be "just friends". it means she doesn't like you romantically at all. and she will ignore you completely and not even be your friend.Marius Panzarella .instead of making more of a fool out of yourself.) 3) She's placing you in the negative zone for now. This will help you get out of the negative zone. it's time to pull back. (Chances are... Remember: it's how much SHE likes you. 299 Copyright 2000-2007 .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 1) She ALREADY knows you like her. sorry.
“We are in a transitional stage.” – No. I don’t have a phone.Marius Panzarella . “Sorry.” – I want a man who can make ME feel sexy.” – I cannot change you. “I am tired.” – I want a guy who’s a real man and won’t be afraid to bust my mind games. “Let’s chill for a little while. “I like you…but” – No.” – I don’t want sex right now.” – So I can never call. So screw off.” – I don’t want to give you my phone number you freak.” – Let’s break up “Let’s see where it goes.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System A P P E N D I X B Appendix B – What Women Really Mean “Let’s be friends…” – I don’t like you romantically. I don’t like you. “Our values have changed.” – It’s over. “I want a guy who’s a good communicator.” – You’re my backup plan.All Rights Reserved . 300 Copyright 2000-2007 . “Call me on Thursday night to confirm the date. I will probably not go out with you. “I want a sexy man.” – It’s not going anywhere. I will never go out with you. so goodbye. “Give me your number instead. “I’ll think about it.
Now shut up. that’s why I brought it up. “I cannot figure you out.You have nothing planned? Loser. “We’re too different.Marius Panzarella . “I don’t like money.” – The door is that way. Ask me to be your girlfriend now. “I want to feel safe.” – Sure.I want… “It's your decision. “I need some space. “Do you like me?” – I like you.” – I want a guy who’s dominant and sensitive. “Fine.” – You know what I want. “Would you like to <whatever>?” – I want to <whatever> NOW. 301 Copyright 2000-2007 . “I don't know.” – Conversation over.” – I want a real man.All Rights Reserved . “I am not looking for a boyfriend” – I am looking.” – You’re a real challenge. “We need…” .No. what do you want to do?” . “So are we together?” – Please.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System “We have chemistry. but I don’t want to date YOU.” – Without you in it. “I want a sensitive guy. I really like you.” .” – I really like him. “Maybe.
“What do you like?” – I want to please you. “What’s wrong?” – Everything.” – You aren’t coming to my bed tonight. “It’s getting late.All Rights Reserved .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System “Nothing” when you ask.Marius Panzarella . 302 Copyright 2000-2007 .
Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System A P P E N D I X C Appendix C – Discipline and Self-Control By now you should know my dozens of dating rules. one thing you're going to find that self-discipline is evident in every winner. such as: . .Never act like a needy wuss.All Rights Reserved . But one of the most popular complaints I get from my readers is. .Never project your own attraction onto a woman. science." Here's my response: And this is exactly why you haven't been having much success with women . . or the arts. be it sports.because you lack the selfdiscipline you need to succeed.Never beg a woman to come back.Never show your heart on your sleeve.. But I simply can't resist. . politics.. entertainment. "Marius.I know your rules and I know the logic behind your rules... It's not who I am. 303 Copyright 2000-2007 . .Never try to "convince" a woman to stay with you.. If you look at any successful person in ANY fields. .Marius Panzarella .Never tell a woman you love her too early.and dozens of other rules sprinkled across my "Smart Dating Course" and my free newsletter..
They also have the self-discipline to prioritize their professional lives over their personal lives. Compared with these "cream-of-the-top" guys from various fields and disciplines. The great Earl Nightingale has once said that if you can't find a good role model to follow. Navy SEALS have the self-discipline to survive "Hell's Week". Straight A's students have the self-discipline to study harder than the average student. when everybody was partying and drinking beer. during which they are only allowed a maximum total of fours hours of sleep during five days and nights of solid training. Athletes have the self-discipline to drill every move to perfection.because most people in this world are lazy guys who lack the self-discipline to be really successful at anything. Professional swimmers rarely go out at night.along with all the "lazy" guys that are frustrated with women. By merely trying HARDER and being more 304 Copyright 2000-2007 . Musicians have the self-discipline to practice every day.All Rights Reserved . you deserve your own failure . Now. then you should just look at what everybody else is doing and do the opposite . he practices 12 hours a day. In fact. how do YOU compare? Here's my insult of the day: If you don't even have the self-discipline to follow a few basic dating rules. then you don't deserve success at all.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Entrepreneurs have the self-discipline to work long hours. I have a friend who is a professional concert pianist and he used to practice for 8 hours a day back in college.Marius Panzarella . and boxers avoid sex the night before a match.
The hard truth is... only "I won't".. and watch your success rate with women boost dramatically. Remember my golden saying: There is nothing such as "I can't". It is a complete education on dating and meeting women. From the initial approach to getting numbers and first dates. you're going to have more success with women than them.. You just won't do it because you "won't". It's a conscious decision you've made in your mind.are you ready to train with the best and become the best? Are you ready to be more disciplined than other guys and have more SUCCESS than other guys in the world of women and dating? If so. Download it now. then you owe it yourself to download a copy of my "Smart Dating Course". So from now on.All Rights Reserved .. Remember: The more power you want with your love life. You really have nobody to blame but yourself. put everything into practice.you CAN. 305 Copyright 2000-2007 ..Marius Panzarella . So.any time you find yourself lacking the discipline to follow a dating a rule or any time you find yourself "chickening out" before an approach. it will teach you everything you need to know about how to attract and date the type of women you have always wanted. don't give anyone an "I can't". the more responsibility you will have to accept for your own actions.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System DISCIPLINE than the other guys.
When your girlfriend is alone across the sea and her very friendly (and wellhung) roommate opens up a bottle of nice wine and invites her to taste it with him. The same goes for her. In my experience. then you won't want to have a relationship with her anymore.) So unless you’ve already been going out with a girl for a LONG time. It means the attraction on BOTH ends has to stay HIGH.All Rights Reserved . I wouldn't count on this one because it's out of your control. It's just very 306 Copyright 2000-2007 . do NOT start a long-distance relationship with her. she won't want to commit to the relationship either. distance almost ALWAYS kills attraction. If your attraction for her falls. Loyalty is also important. HOWEVER. At the end of the day. and most long distance relationships DO fail in the long run. She’ll probably start screwing around with other guys behind your back. It will NOT be worth it. Some girls are more loyal than others. How well she behaves while you’re away will mostly depend on how much she is attracted to you.Marius Panzarella . If her attraction for you falls too low.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System A P P E N D I X D Appendix D – My View on Long Distance Relationships What is my view on long-distance relationships? I don't like them at all. the outcome of your longdistance relationship will depend on your MUTUAL attraction. (Probably around 90 percent. it won't take too long until they are cuddling in front of the fireplace.
You've been warned! 307 Copyright 2000-2007 .All Rights Reserved .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System hard for women to say "no" in this kind of situation. know what you're going into. Lesson of the day: If you're going to enter a longdistance relationship.when there's nobody around to rat on her...Marius Panzarella .
308 Copyright 2000-2007 . 2) She doesn’t seem interested in you. it’s probably true. (If even you think so.) 3) She hesitates to make finite plans until last minute. 9) She doesn’t want her friends to know about you. including holding your hand.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System A P P E N D I X E Appendix E – Relationship Red Flags 1) You have to make all invitations.Marius Panzarella . 13) She doesn’t like getting intimate with you. 6) She hangs out with you only when she has nothing better to do.All Rights Reserved . especially when in public. 8) She seems unresponsive when you hang out with her. 10) She doesn’t care about what you’re doing at all. 11) She’s always too busy to see you. 12) She doesn’t display any affection towards you. 7) She plays mind games all the time. 4) She lies. 5) She cheats. 14) She tells you she needs “space”.
20) She’s inconsistent with her attention to you. 18) She avoids returning your calls.Marius Panzarella . 19) She rarely compliments you or returns your compliments.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System 15) She wants to “cool down” for awhile.All Rights Reserved . 309 Copyright 2000-2007 . 16) She doesn’t make you feel special anymore. 17) She wants to do everything on her terms.
If your ex is attracted to you enough.Marius Panzarella . It does NOT matter that the other person exists. You should put the other person OUT OF YOUR MIND. Just put them completely out of your mind.. It's not about how you feel about your ex. Tease your ex. It's not about how much your ex likes the other person. It does NOT matter that your ex likes them much more than you right now..All Rights Reserved .. The ONLY thing that matters is your ex’s attraction towards YOU..com ) I am often asked…”What should I do if my ex is now having an affair with another person?” My advice is always simple: Never mind the other person.automatically..and they will make more time for you.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System A P P E N D I X F Appendix F – How To Deal With Your Competition (An excerpt from “Reverse Your Breakup” at http://www.they will stop seeing the other person. It all comes back to how your ex feels about YOU.. Build up the sexual chemistry enough and your ex will want to be with you. Make your ex melt in your presence. 310 Copyright 2000-2007 .reverseyourbreakup. Flirt with your ex a lot.
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Marius Panzarella . it would make my batter bitter. yellow lorry. "this butter's bitter. a batch of mixed biscuits A skunk sat on a stump and thunk the stump stunk. Six sick slick slim sycamore saplings. and she baked it in her batter. If I bake this bitter butter. But a bit of better butter-that would make my batter better. Peter Piper picked a peck of pickled peppers. and the batter was not bitter. "But. Betty Botter had some butter. better than her bitter butter. Did Peter Piper pick a peck of pickled peppers? If Peter Piper picked a peck of pickled peppers. red lorry." she said." So she bought a bit of butter.All Rights Reserved . Unique New York. A box of biscuits. yellow lorry. but the stump thunk the skunk stunk. where's the peck of pickled peppers Peter Piper picked? Red lorry. 312 Copyright 2000-2007 .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System A P P E N D I X G Appendix G – Tongue Twisters Here are some tongue twisters for you to practice with should you want to work on your articulation.
Is this your sister's sixth zither. "Is it harder to toot or to tutor two tooters to toot?" 313 Copyright 2000-2007 .All Rights Reserved . Said the two to their tutor. Toy boat. The sixth sick sheik's sixth sheep's sick." A Tudor who tooted a flute tried to tutor two tooters to toot. they all felt smart.Marius Panzarella . surprised. Two smart fellows. I'm sure she sells seashore shells. "Someone should show Sylvia some strokes so she shall not sink.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System So 'twas better Betty Botter bought a bit of better butter. Mrs. he felt smart. and on the slitted sheet I sit. sir? A big black bug bit a big black bear. they felt smart. "Surely Sylvia swims!" shrieked Sammy. One smart fellow. I slit the sheet. the sheet I slit. Toy boat. Toy boat. made the big black bear bleed blood. Three smart fellows. Six thick thistles stick. Pope Sixtus VI's six texts. Smith's Fish Sauce Shop. So if she sells shells on the seashore. She sells sea shells by the sea shore. The shells she sells are surely seashells. Six thick thistle sticks.
Marius Panzarella . 314 Copyright 2000-2007 . alack!" Inchworms itching. A bitter biting bittern Bit a better brother bittern. Which wristwatches are Swiss wristwatches? Lesser leather never weathered wetter weather better. Sam's shop stocks short spotted socks. "Let us flee!" So they flew through a flaw in the flue. And the bitter better bittern Bit the bitter biter back. bitten. "Let us fly!" Said the fly. I am not the pheasant plucker. Knapsack straps. A noisy noise annoys an oyster. By the better bitten bittern. I am only plucking pheasants 'cause the pheasant plucker's running late. Three free throws. See owned a saw. I'm the pheasant plucker's mate. Said the flea.All Rights Reserved . And the bitter bittern. Said: "I'm a bitter biter bit. Mr. The myth of Miss Muffet.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Shy Shelly says she shall sew sheets. A flea and a fly flew up in a flue.
Soar owned a seesaw. 'twere needless. I then should have need of your needles indeed.All Rights Reserved .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System And Mr. Right there I cry. Now See's saw sawed Soar's seesaw Before Soar saw See. 315 Copyright 2000-2007 . See's saw would not have sawed Soar's seesaw. Cheap ship trip. Gertie's great-grandma grew aghast at Gertie's grammar. But it was sad to see Soar so sore Just because See's saw sawed Soar's seesaw! Friendly Frank flips fine flapjacks. "Forbear!" Lovely lemon liniment. But did my neat knickers but need to be kneed. So See's saw sawed Soar's seesaw. the thin twin tinsmith Fat frogs flying past fast. Had Soar seen See's saw Before See sawed Soar's seesaw. When bare of hair he strips the hare.Marius Panzarella . Tim. Which made Soar sore. I need not your needles. they're needless to me. I cannot bear to see a bear Bear down upon a hare. For kneading of noodles. Vincent vowed vengeance very vehemently. you see.
How much wood would a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood? He would chuck. We surely shall see the sun shine soon. he would. The boot black bought the black boot back. My dame hath a lame tame crane. A tree toad loved a she-toad Who lived up in a tree. My dame hath a crane that is lame. Six short slow shepherds. He was a two-toed tree toad But a three-toed toad was she. For the two-toed tree toad loved the ground That the three-toed tree toad trod.All Rights Reserved . The two-toed tree toad tried to win The three-toed she-toad's heart. From her tree toad bower With her three-toed power The she-toad vetoed him. But the two-toed tree toad tried in vain.Marius Panzarella . Moose noshing much mush. He couldn't please her whim.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Flee from fog to fight flu fast! Greek grapes. 316 Copyright 2000-2007 . as much as he could. and chuck as much wood as a woodchuck would if a woodchuck could chuck wood. Sly Sam slurps Sally's soup. Ruby Rugby's brother bought and brought her back some rubber baby-buggy bumpers.
The seven silly sheep Silly Sally shooed shilly-shallied south. You've no need to light a night-light On a light night like tonight. sheep should sleep in a shed. Flash message! Say this sharply. When a night's light. For a night-light's light's a slight light. The two-twenty-two train tore through the tunnel. And tonight's a night that's light.Marius Panzarella . Twelve twins twirled twelve twigs. Say this shortly. 317 Copyright 2000-2007 . Three gray geese in the green grass grazing. say this softly. Nine nice night nurses nursing nicely. Silly Sally swiftly shooed seven silly sheep. Black bug's blood. It is really not quite right To light night-lights with their slight lights On a light night like tonight.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Which witch wished which wicked wish? Old oily Ollie oils old oily autos. like tonight's light.All Rights Reserved . These sheep shouldn't sleep in a shack. Peggy Babcock. say this sweetly. Many an anemone sees an enemy anemone. Gray were the geese and green was the grass.
swim! Swan swam back again Well swum. when first I felt that felt hat's felt. Give papa a cup of proper coffee in a copper coffee cup. I thought a thought. Of all the felt I ever felt.Marius Panzarella . If Stu chews shoes.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Say this sixteen times in succession. Six sticky sucker sticks. Six sharp smart sharks. What a shame such a shapely sash should such shabby stitches show. 318 Copyright 2000-2007 . I never felt a piece of felt which felt as fine as that felt felt. swan. Sure the ship's shipshape. should Stu choose the shoes he chews? Crisp crusts crackle crunchily. Don't pamper damp scamp tramps that camp under ramp lamps. Swim. swan! Six shimmering sharks sharply striking shins. sir.All Rights Reserved . Sixish. Betty better butter Brad's bread. Swan swam over the sea.
Then twice having twisted the twines of the twine. When a twister a-twisting will twist him a twist. with his twister.Marius Panzarella . Strict strong stringy Stephen Stretch slickly snared six sickly silky snakes. Susan shineth shoes and socks. He twirls. Untwirling the twine that untwisteth between. Brad's big black bath brush broke. for shoes and socks shock Susan. The twine that untwisteth untwisteth the twist. But if one of the twines of the twist do untwist. the two in a twine. He twitcheth the twice he had twined in twain. Chop shops stock chops. Betty and Bob brought back blue balloons from the big bazaar. he three twines doth intwist. For the twisting of his twist.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System But the thought I thought wasn't the thought I thought I thought. socks and shoes shines Susan. Sarah saw a shot-silk sash shop full of shot-silk sashes as the sunshine shone on the side of the shot-silk sash shop. She ceased shining shoes and socks.All Rights Reserved . Thieves seize skis. The blue bluebird blinks. Truly rural. 319 Copyright 2000-2007 .
twirling his twister. makes a twist of the twine.All Rights Reserved . Give me the gift of a grip top sock: a drip-drape. 320 Copyright 2000-2007 . While we were walking.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System The twain that in twining before in the twine. Freshly fried fresh flesh. She sifted thistles through her thistle-sifter. Plague-bearing prairie dogs. Twist the twain inter-twisting a twine more between. does the doctor who doctors the doctor doctor the doctor the way the doctor he is doctoring doctors? Or does he doctor the doctor the way the doctor who doctors doctors? Two Truckee truckers truculently truckling to have truck to truck two trucks of truck. If one doctor doctors another doctor. The Leith police dismisseth us. tip-top sock. As twines were intwisted he now doth untwine.Marius Panzarella . ship-shape. The seething seas ceaseth and twiceth the seething seas sufficeth us. Ed had edited it. He. we were watching window washers wash Washington's windows with warm washing water.
Shelter for six sick scenic sightseers. he thrusts his fist against the posts and still insists he sees the ghosts.Marius Panzarella . 321 Copyright 2000-2007 . A pleasant place to place a plaice is a place where a plaice is pleased to be placed. and she saw I saw Esau. I correctly recollect Rebecca MacGregor's reckoning. Quicker kiss. he saw me. I saw Esau. Preshrunk silk shirts A bloke's back bike brake block broke. The crow flew over the river with a lump of raw liver. Give Mr. Cedar shingles should be shaved and saved. Six twin screwed steel steam cruisers.All Rights Reserved . Listen to the local yokel yodel.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Pacific Lithograph. with stoutest wrists and loudest boasts. I saw Esau kissing Kate. bad blood. Lily ladles little Letty's lentil soup. Good blood. Amidst the mists and coldest frosts. Snipa's wife's knife a swipe. Quick kiss.
Kris Kringle carefully crunched on candy canes. 322 Copyright 2000-2007 . blameful blade. and amicably welcoming him home.All Rights Reserved . guy gargoyle. Please pay promptly. She stood on the balcony inexplicably mimicing him hiccupping. Girl gargoyle. The epitome of femininity. We stand behind before we find what those behind be for. On mules we find two legs behind and two we find before. When One-One won one race.Marius Panzarella . too.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Whereat with blade. Pick a partner and practice passing. Two-Two won one. What time does the wristwatch strap shop shut? One-One was a racehorse. he bravely broached his boiling bloody breast. Two-Two was one. for if you pass proficiently. with bloody. too. Are our oars oak? Can you imagine an imaginary menagerie manager imagining managing an imaginary menagerie? A lusty lady loved a lawyer and longed to lure him from his laboratory.
The sawingest saw I ever saw saw was the saw I saw saw in Arkansas. that sphinx has a sphincter that stinks! 323 Copyright 2000-2007 . Ought the tutor get hot If the Hottentot tot Hoot and toot at her Hottentot tutor? Will you. or naught. The bear could not bear the boar.Marius Panzarella . Miss Mix! Who washed Washington's white woolen underwear when Washington's washer woman went west? Two toads. Once upon a barren moor There dwelt a bear. totally tired. William? Mix.All Rights Reserved . Ought the Hottenton tot Be taught to say aught. At last the bear could bear no more Of that boar that bored him on the moor. The boar thought the bear a bore. And so one morn he bored the boar-That boar will bore the bear no more.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System perhaps you'll play professionally. also a boar. Or what ought to be taught her? If to hoot and to toot a Hottentot tot Be taught by her Hottentot tutor. Just think. Freshly-fried flying fish. If a Hottentot taught a Hottentot tot To talk ere the tot could totter.
Hi-Tech Traveling Tractor Trailor Truck Tracker Ned Nott was shot and Sam Shott was not. Now they're fishing the fissure for Fischer. not Nott. 324 Copyright 2000-2007 . If the shot Shott shot shot Nott.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Strange strategic statistics. Some say Nott was not shot. There was a young fisher named Fischer Who fished for a fish in a fissure. or Nott was shot. However.All Rights Reserved . Either the shot Shott shot at Nott was not shot. the shot Shott shot shot not Shott -but Nott. All she does is sits and shifts. But Shott says he shot Nott. then Shott was shot. slid slowly seaward. The fish with a grin.Marius Panzarella . So it is better to be Shott than Nott. Three twigs twined tightly. Sarah sitting in her Chevrolet. Nott was shot. All she does is sits and shifts. Six slippery snails. Pulled the fisherman in. But if the shot Shott shot shot Shott.
Marius Panzarella . If you stick a stock of liquor in your locker. the successful thistle-sifter. thrust not three thousand thistles through the thick of thy thumb. And biting off the button made the cotton batten fly. Now. see that thou. Theophiles Thistle. The ochre ogre ogled the poker. seven small swans Swam silently southward. the successful thistlesifter. 325 Copyright 2000-2007 . in sifting a sieve full of un-sifted thistles. The kitten that was bitten had a button for an eye. in sifting a sieve full of un-sifted thistles. Suddenly swerving. in sifting a sieve full of un-sifted thistles. thrust three thousand thistles through the thick of his thumb. The cotton batten cat was bitten by a rat.. The soldiers shouldered shooters on their shoulders. Seeing six swift sailboats Sailing sedately seaward. It's slick to stick a lock upon your stock.All Rights Reserved .if Theophiles Thistle.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Pretty Kitty Creighton had a cotton batten cat.. Or some stickler who is slicker Will stick you of your liquor If you fail to lock your liquor With a lock! Shredded Swiss chesse.. thrust three thousand thistles through the thick of his thumb..
blunderbusses.balancing them badly. Brisk brave brigadiers brandished broad bright blades. have thirty-three thick thimbles to thaw. They both. Selfish shellfish. Tragedy strategy. though. and lost both their theatre tickets and the volume of valuable licenses and coupons for free theatrical frills and thrills. 326 Copyright 2000-2007 . Irish wristwatch. and bludgeons -. Fred fed Ted bread. Cows graze in groves on grass which grows in grooves in groves. They have left the thriftshop.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System Success to the successful thistle-sifter! Thank the other three brothers of their father's mother's brother's side.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved . and Ted fed Fred bread.
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