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INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
± Introduction to Interpersonal Relationships - Types of Relationships± Relationships± Social Psychology ± Locations of Persons in Relationships

A. INTRODUCTION TO INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS & TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS

MEANING AND IMPORTANCE 

Interpersonal relationships skills are ³a set of skills which are essential for establishing and maintaining healthy interpersonal relationships.´ relationships. This definition emphasizes the fact that more than one skill is needed to establish and maintain healthy interpersonal relationships. relationships. 

MEANING AND IMPORTANCE 

Relationships are vitally important in all spheres of life. People create relationships for all life. sorts of reasons. reasons.

Though we think of ourselves as independent and self-reliant, the fact is that each one of us is selfa point in a vast network of interdependent relationships. relationships. 


We create relationships because we are social by nature. nature.

the health club. place of worship. university.MEANING AND IMPORTANCE  We establish relationships at school. at any place or in any activity where common interests bring people together. college. around. place of work.e. together.  . i. travel etc... Interpersonal relationships skills help us to relate in positive ways with our family members and others around. etc. next door.

MEANING AND IMPORTANCE  People who are well versed in interpersonal relationships skills succeed in life. relationships. charismatic. Some people never lose their attractiveness regardless of age because of their ability to build healthy interpersonal relationships. They appear to possess pleasing and magnetic personalities that make them charismatic.   . life.

therefore. poor health and so on. on. the more we can draw from them.MEANING AND IMPORTANCE  Relationships are like bank accounts: the more accounts: we deposit the greater they become. them. lack of communication. The consequences of µpoor depositing¶ in interpersonal relationships leads to stress. conflict. frustration. isolation. become. suspicion. prejudice. lack of sympathy and empathy.  .

some are with friends. Each relationship is different.MEANING AND IMPORTANCE  Some relationships are with family members. and all relationships change over time as people grow and develop.   . some are business relationships and some are love relationships. Most relationships contain a combination of healthy and unhealthy characteristics. relationships. develop. characteristics.

an interpersonal association in which two people consistently and reciprocally influence one another¶s lives. regularly engage in joint activities. focus their thoughts and emotions on one another. Such interdependence occurs across age groups and among individuals representing many quite different relationships. relationships.  .HEALTHY INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS  The common element of all close relationships is interdependence. and if possible. activities.

together. relationships have  Each partner feels comfortable without the other.HEALTHY INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS  Healthy interpersonal certain characteristics. even though the two people enjoy being together. both partners recognize and appreciate changes that occur in their relationships. relationships. characteristics. In healthy relationships.  .

honestly.  . There is. In a healthy relationship. person. are no unrealistic expectations or attempts to control the other person. both partners accept the other as he or she is.HEALTHY INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS  Each partner communicates effectively and honestly.

HEALTHY INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS  Both partners have established healthy. standards. interest. Each trusts the other.  . being dependable. believing that the person will act in his/her best interest. being able to rely upon the other. dependable. comfortable limits based on their own standards.

feelings. thoughts or feelings. . not passing along private information to other. other.   other¶s Each one will be good in keeping secrets or maintaining confidence.HEALTHY INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS Each partner shares the emotions.

HEALTHY INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS Each will be having the best interest of the other at heart. and effective communication characterize healthy interpersonal relationships. empathy.  . the ability to keep secrets. heart. relationships. honesty.  Mutual trust and understanding. loyalty.

relationships. One or both may be jealous of the other having healthy relationships with another person and demand complete devotion.  One or both partners may dominate the other and the relationships. dependency).UNHEALTHY INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS  One person may expect the partner to fullfil all his/her needs (too much dependency).  . Control devotion. is another unhealthy characteristics .

impatience. are etc. pleasure or interests excessively or without regard for the other indicates an unhealthy relationships. relationships. lack of listening. poor communication..  Negative attitude.  . arrogance. relationships.UNHEALTHY INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS Egoism or excessive selfishness or taking care of one¶s own comfort . and insufficient time spent together etc. some of the characteristics of unhealthy interpersonal relationships. conceit .

 .UNHEALTHY INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS One of the characteristics that may exist in unhealthy relationships is emotional or physical abuse or emotional and /or physical mistreatment.   While dealing with other people. sooner or later. Conflict stems from differing view points. mistreatment. we have to deal with conflict.

in other words. it means that there is strong disagreement between two or more individuals. When there is conflict. disagreement is quite normal.UNHEALTHY INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS  Since no two people view the world exactly the same way.  Failure to resolve these conflicts . . unresolved conflicts destroy good interpersonal relationships.  The conflict is usually in relation to interests or ideas that are personally meaningful to either one or both of the parties involved.

which can lead to the development of good Interpersonal relationships. Sympathy: Sympathy: is the ability to feel for others in social situations which can lead to the development of good Interpersonal relationships.  . relationships. relationships.COMPONENTS OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS  Empathy: Empathy: is the ability to feel with others in social situations.

 . views.. emotions and needs of others in social situation. them. relationships. others in Interpersonal interactions irrespective of our agreement or disagreement on them. attitudes etc. Tolerance: Tolerance: is the ability to endure and respect feelings. Sensitivity: Sensitivity: is the ability to be sensitive to the feelings. which can lead to the development of good Interpersonal relationships. of etc.

Accepting Others As They Are: is the ability Are: to accept the others with their strengths and weaknesses. relationships.  . Positive Attitude: is the ability to see the Attitude: positive aspects in others and appreciate them in Interpersonal relationships. without showing any personal bias or prejudice to Interpersonal relationships. relationships.

 Reciprocality: Reciprocality: is the ability to demonstrate a healthy attitude of give and take in social situation with others while interacting. interacting. Etiquette: Etiquette: is the ability to show behaviour that is appropriate to different social situations. which can earn respect and facilitate good Interpersonal relationships. relationships.  .

situation. ways. Lack of Prejudice and Stereotypes: is the Stereotypes: ability to interact with people without being governed by preconceived notions about individuals/ groups in any social situation. situations.   . Effective Communication: is the ability to Communication: express the thoughts and feelings in nonnonthreatening ways. Healthy Distance: is the ability to take only Distance: that much of liberty as the relationship empowers and demands and not misuse the liberty between any two individuals in any social situations.

so comfortable raising issues important to them. they that feel are   .BUILDING EFFECTIVE INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP  At least one party should decide the relationship is important. Learn to listen effectively. them. judging.PROCESS OF DEVELOPING HEALTHY INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS I . Meet people informally. important. and without judging.

BUILDING EFFECTIVE INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP  Develop a culture whereby people can express their feelings.    . feelings. listening. Taking turns to help each other.I . Work towards solutions where both parties win. other. win. Active listening.

 Allow each party to express positions and feelings openly.   . openly.I . respect. directly. feelings.BUILDING RELATIONSHIP  EFFECTIVE INTERPERSONAL Listen to understand others positions and feelings. Treat yourself and others with respect. Face differences with others directly.

. Act like your partners child. Act as if you were your partners parent. Use demeaning words and abusive behaviour. behaviour.II .TWENTY BEHAVIOURS THAT RUIN RELATIONSHIPS     Tell your partner what to do.

   . Reply before you understand what was said.II . Blame your partner. Be hysterical.TWENTY BEHAVIOURS THAT RUIN RELATIONSHIPS  Attach the partner rather than the issue.

talking. Criticize your partner. talking. Interrupt frequently while your partner is talking. public.TWENTY BEHAVIOURS THAT RUIN RELATIONSHIPS     Avoid eye contact while your partner is talking. . Ignore your own personal hygiene.II . hygiene. especially in public.

boundaries. partner about your    . partner.TWENTY BEHAVIOURS THAT RUIN RELATIONSHIPS  Treat your partner as a possession. Be hostile. Don¶t tell your boundaries.II . Take your stress out on your partner.

affair.TWENTY BEHAVIOURS THAT RUIN RELATIONSHIPS   Expect your partner to read your mind. and break promises to your partner.   . Lie. mind. partner. deceive. Have an affair. or friends.II . outside interests. friends. Discourage your partner from having any hobbies.

Attack the issue. not the person.TWENTY BEHAVIORS THAT NURTURE RELATIONSHIPS   Tell your partner what you want. Allow your partner to be responsible for meeting their own needs and wants.   . person. Take responsibility for meeting your own needs and wants. wants.III . wants. want.

respectfully.TWENTY BEHAVIORS THAT NURTURE RELATIONSHIPS  Take responsibility for making negotiating necessary changes.III . or  Ask questions to be certain you understood what your partner has said. said.   . changes. Express anger respectfully. calm. Stay calm.

   . skills. Use active listening skills. Allow your partner to complete his or her thought before replying.TWENTY BEHAVIORS THAT NURTURE RELATIONSHIPS  Avoid abuse. consider counseling if abuse. replying. individuality. relationship. abuse is pervasive in relationship. Respect your partners individuality.III .

III . source. Show respect for yourself and your partner by taking care of your hygiene. negotiate. hygiene.TWENTY BEHAVIORS THAT NURTURE RELATIONSHIPS  Choose a private time to communicate and negotiate.   . Confront and resolve your problems at the source.

Be honest and keep your promises. promises. about your limits and expectations. solutions. from the beginning. and negotiate solutions. Tell you partner what you want .   .III . expectations.TWENTY BEHAVIORS THAT NURTURE RELATIONSHIPS  Teach your partner.

 .III .TWENTY BEHAVIORS THAT NURTURE RELATIONSHIPS  Discuss your wants with your partner. Support and encourage your partner to state and negotiate his or her own needs and wants. partner. wants.

 Remind yourself that you are o.k.IV .  .  Try something new.WHEN A RELATIONSHIP IS ENDING Keep busy.  Talk with someone you trust .  Look after yourself.

TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS TRANSITIONAL AVOIDANCE MATURE EXPERIMENTAL SURVIVAL VALIDATION INDIVIUDUATION-ASSERTION ACCEPTANCE SCRIPTED .

made out of emotional starvation almost anyone available will do. sexuality. Sex and money are attribute. own. or some other attribute. especially common validators. do. intellect. VALIDATION RELATIONSHIPS . The choice of a partner tends to be undiscriminating. SURVIVAL RELATIONSHIPS .A person may seek another's validation of his or her physical attractiveness. wealth. social status. These relationships validators. are always a little insecure: insecure:  .These exist when partners feel like they can't make it on their own.

including many people in the three categories above. ACCEPTANCE RELATIONSHIPS . like. SCRIPTED RELATIONSHIPS ." fitting almost all the external criteria of what an appropriate mate should be like.  .This is what many of us thought we were getting into when we entered a relationship. support and enjoy each other. In an acceptance above. relationship we trust.This common pattern often begins when the partners both are just out of high school or college. They seem to be college. "the perfect pair. other.

emotionally.These are "trying it out" relationships. always chosen partners emotionally. growth.  . A man who has relationships. and on respect for the other person's process of personal growth. EXPERIMENTAL RELATIONSHIPS . INDIVIDUATIONINDIVIDUATION-ASSERTION RELATIONSHIPS These relationships are based on the assertion of each person's wants and needs.

feelings. TRANSITIONAL RELATIONSHIPS . MATURE RELATIONSHIPS . needs have shifted.   . the 40. the relationship is a cross between the old and the new. between patterns that drove you crazy and others that you were changing. changing.In many people over 40.In these.This pattern may involve people who protect themselves against any deep intimacy with others or any full contact with their own deeper feelings. oneself. AVOIDANCE RELATIONSHIPS . and there is no long such a need to use the relationship to make a statement about oneself.

SOCIAL PSYCHOLOGY & LOCATIONS OF PERSONS IN RELATIONSHIPS .B.

. India.SOCIAL PSYCHOLOGY  Social psychology is one of the most important sub field of psychology roughly 10 percent of all psychologists are Social psychologists in India.

habits. etc. feelings. Social Psychology is the study of a person. their interactions with one another and with reference to the effect of this interplay upon the individual¶s thoughts. etc.. . personality.SOCIAL PSYCHOLOGY  According to Kimble Young. Thus Social psychology lays greater stress upon the social aspect of human personality. In person. emotions.

reactions. . Social psychology is the science which studies the behaviour of an individual in so far as his behaviour stimulates other individuals or is itself a reaction to their behaviour and which describes the consciousness of social objects reactions.SOCIAL PSYCHOLOGY  According to Allport.

LOCATIONS OF PERSONS IN RELATIONSHIPS yFormalized relationships. Union. yIntimate relationships. the other person together. . such as Marriage & Civil Union. boyfriend or girlfriend. is often called lover. girlfriend. such as loving relationships or romantic relationships with or without living together.

behavior. especially in cases where one might easily assume otherwise. used. Platonic love is an affectionate relationship into which the sexual element does not enter. otherwise. to emphasize this.   . in the case of sexual intercourse the term fuck buddy is sometimes used. Friendship see also internet friendship. friendship.LOCATIONS OF PERSONS IN RELATIONSHIPS  A sexual relationship in the more literal sense: sense: one that mainly involves sexual behavior.

LOCATIONS OF PERSONS IN RELATIONSHIPS Family tie. biological relationship. kinship. sisterhood. does not connote a timeless relationship. although fundamental to an interpersonal relationship. Brotherhood and sisterhood. Thus. Establishment of common ground between parties. time. and might even disappear over time. endure. in this case. common ground must be maintained. being relatives.    . relationship. for a relationship to endure.