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Allan & Barbara Pease
C Allan and Barbara Pease, 2003 translation Jorgesen Pedro Junior preparation of original Regina da Veiga Pereira Review José Tedin Pinto Sergio Soares Bellinello cover and illustrations Mattievich Silvana graphic design and editing of kernels Marcia Raed photolite RR Donnelley Latin America - Premedia / Dip Print Cromosete Gráfica e Editora Ltda CIP-BRAZIL. CATALOGING-IN-SOURCE. National Union of EDITORS OF BOOKS P375P Pease, Allan Why men lie and women cry? /
Allan and Barbara Pease; translation of Peter Jorgensen Junior. - Rio de Janeiro: Sextante, 2003. Translation: Why men lie and women cry ISBN 85-7542-063-1 1. Man-woman relations. 2. Sex - Differences (Psychology). 3. Sexual role. r. Pease, Barbara. LI. Title. All rights reserved by EDITORA Sextante / GMT EDITORES LTDA. Volunteers of the Nation Address, 45 - Gr 1404 - Botafogo 22270-000 - Rio de Janeiro RJ Te!.: (21) 2286-9944 - Fax: (21) 2286-9244 Customer: 0800-22-6306 E-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org www.esextante.com.br 03-0645. CDD 306.7 CDU 392.6
Contents Introduction Chapter 1 The cantankerousness When a person does not stop complaining Chapter 2 SEVEN THINGS THAT MAKE MEN WOMEN DEIXA IRONING BOARDS Chapter 3 Why women cry? The dangers of emotional blackmail Chapter 4 THE SYSTEM OF ULTRA-SECRET SCORE ruin of women as a man of the week Chapter 5 CLARIFICATION OF THE SEVEN MAJOR MYSTERY MEN Chapter 6 THE OTHER WOMAN His mother Chapter 7 The Mysteries WAYS OF WOMEN LANGUAGE Chapter 8 "You think I am FAT CLOTHES WITH THIS? Why men lie?
Chapter 9 THE TESTING OF WOMEN'S SEXUAL APPEAL How do you make people work? Chapter 10 WHAT DOES THE EYES OF MEN skip the power of female sexual attraction Chapter 11 THE TEST OF MALE SEX APPEAL Chapter 12 WHAT TO ATTRACT WOMEN Chapter 13 When the hunter Hang The ARC The retirement Acknowledgments Bibliography
and frustrated by not knowing deal with the situation. In three decades of studies and research on the differences between men and women . So decided to write Why Men Lie and Women cry? Catalog the forty most frequently asked questions from readers around the world demand-and we answer them by using. surveys. that like to "play to pick mature green". of the genus: "Why men devour the other women with the eyes?" and "Why are they all the time saying what I do and I think". Then things get worse. From there.analyzing miles of film and recordings. The men never worry about the future until they find a wife. Why Men Lie and Women cry? attempts to answer the questions that are hammering the head of women to one in the morning. "Why do women complain all the time?". we developed practical solutions to help you tune the right channel in communication with the opposite sex. wet and hungry. scientific studies and our current sense. that want to get to know all details about the people around you and that rarely take the initiative to do sex. Of them also look at questions such as: "Why women do not go to the chase". It also seeks to elucidate the problems which the man is beat-to ten in the morning of Sunday. research. the disagreements and conflicts between the sexes are still so present in our lives as the first time that Adam and Eve falling out.thousands of times we were asked to rate certain behaviors of men and women. even after spending a weekend fishing in the entire company. why not stop the car to ask for guidance. "Why do I have to collect half of my floor to ten hours of a Sunday morning ". Chinese Proverb Why do men lie? Why they think they must always be the reason? Why avoid it undertakes? And women. Women worry about the future to find a husband. The car-tas. writing books. Today. phone calls and emails came from people perplexed by the behavior of the opposite sex. in addition to our experience. for they have habits and mannerisms that make women so angry and they do not know almost nothing of the life of your friends. why cry to get what they want? Why insist on a subject to death? Why not take the sexual initiative more often? In the twentieth century and one. science can explain why women talk so much. when out of bed without getting themselves or their partners speak with them. Why Men Lie and Women cry? draws attention to things that are beyond obvious to most . Today we know the evolutionary and biological reasons that explain why men can only do one thing at a time. sharing information at conferences . giving interviews on TV.Introduction Born naked. that hate to go shopping.
the focus of the discussion is still the cross that women in this car-water life.people. You may have noticed that many women seem to have a biological need to buy decorative pillows and change the storage of furniture for men stumble when they arrive at home at dawn. The number of copy-of disparaging about men grows every day. everything began to change. Just thinking of you receiving an e-mail. The man knew what were their responsibilities and the wife knew her. while a man who did the same was accused of enemy women. often considering the man as the enemy to be defeated. the roles were clearly defined. his word was law and their areas of decision were clear. the relationships and the families began to live a great tension. he was the protector and provider. as women gain more and more freedoms. Life seemed simple. Suddenly. Still. the suicide rate among women fell by more than 34%. If a woman slapped a man in public. it is unlikely that a man understands that the discovery of a brand of clothing in a counter settlement is one of the most extraordinary things that can happen to a woman. Why are things so difficult for men and women? Today. The man was the head of the family and the primary responsibility for its upkeep. the feminists have been given more say and more successes. smarter and more fans of the cause of equality. The problem is that women seemed to know what and where they were going. everyone assumes that it is that is wrong. See the latest walks that circulated among women and that most men considered extremely demoralizing and threatening: What is the definition of a man? A support for a penis. You can not deny that this kind of thing that most men perceive as open hostility contributes largely to the depressed state that seems to be slaughtered on a whole generation. with the Japanese heading the list. Serials and the TV business started to show the men as incompetent idiots in front of women superior. During general rations. The men are insecure about their own identity and they . as many men feel left behind. Since. In the last quarter of the twentieth century. lady-ofhome. The rate of suicides among young men and old is now the largest in history. be a man became an arduous task. The woman was mother. in the 1960s. secretary. teacher or social worker. while among men increased by 16%. A woman who protest against inequality was the object of sympathy. Women and men were angry. And as few of them understand the thrill of seeing and reviewing the replay of a move. bewildered and confused. Men often do not seem to understand the rules of the game.
It is an unnatural situation. just as always happened with men. Take care of relationships is not a natural function of the male psyche. the treacherous curves and dead ends. these women play the roles of mother. the female brain is programmed to nurture. or give the quick relationships because think of how women think and act very complicated. Today. The men have the feeling that women want what they think and behave like them. . fighting. Women often make the mistake of believing that because a man loves. the theme of these books are the men. In Britain. men are working or not or a little. Most books on human relations is written by women and over 80% of its audience is composed of women. Except that he usually does. father and provider. They now suffer from ulcers. against one in fifty men headed by the same situation. while a man never understand any woman. Sometimes the thing is so difficult that it is best to go right to not be seen as a failure. But the truth is that both men and women want good relationships. It is. Consequently. Feminism began calling attention to inequalities between genders and promising free women from the shackles that had imprisoned the stove. therefore. its way of thinking and their scale of priorities. only 7 in 300 students.hunting. For a woman. that the brains of men and women have been programmed for different functions and priorities. healthy and rewarding. Generally. he also has to understand it. Studies offered by new techniques of magnetic resonance imaging of the brain confirms this fact.even when they want. Women of today are superatarefadas. We are all very confusing. is often infuriate and are getting increasingly lonely. But things are too difficult for women. As a result. This we do conclude that women pay more attention to relationships than men. It is estimated that 25% of all women in the western world will be standing in the single year 2020.lack examples to be followed. one in five households is headed by a woman alone. And it is true in many ways. providing material and solve problems. Most marriage counselors and therapists are also women. their mistakes and what to do to improve them. heart disease and other diseases related to stress. In general. We call the other sex of "opposite" for good reason . educate and provide love and affection of people's lives. Man evolved with a completely different program . Why men and women have so many problems? The woman developed as defender of the dam and offspring. protecting. This book provides a map to help them move through this maze which transformed the relationship and identify the slippery slopes. even know them all.we are really opposites. just know a single man to understand all men. in complete disagreement with our basic human needs and biological. about 50% of women working in the western world . Only men and women assume that one day will appear a perfect relationship. It is estimated that bulimia affects 4 to 5% of the university. without the need for any special preparation or study.
working. It is a simple animal with a tiny brain. we see that most people still do not understand during a good part of the time. be living together. the ritual of mating and the relationship . The behavior of equipment and scenarios we describe in this book apply to all people all the time. traveled for more than thirty countries. In this work trying to establish universal themes. are infinitely complicated. who kill their partners just after mating. now exceed the mark of 50% in the first four years of marriage and. your life must be very happy. female and never considering discover is too fat. Men do not understand very well this subtle difference. They do not think about it . If you write the words "relationship" and "sex" site on a search of the Internet. know the rules and follow them faithfully. "and deals with aspects of life that most people never think or simply do not understand. She never accused him of not giving him attention and he is not thinking it was good for her as for him.just do. to help them make things better fluírem. Women say men want sensitive. that never discussed sex or how to get there. define common problems and finally present practical solutions. To write this book. To move through this maze. Humans. and soothsayer. collecting and comparing information and research on the relationship between the sexes. but hard and Manly in other situations. the males approach moving its tentacles. however. Unfortunately. it chooses which one you like more tentacles and gives the green light. excitement and enrichment that a good relationship is able to provide. it is reasonable to assume that the rate of separation among couples is somewhere between 60 and 80%. if couples who did not get married. get 36.HELEN ROWLAND We are the only species that have permanent problems with the court. in English only. The black widow. for example.714 references. The octopus is another good example. 700% of divorces begin with marriage Why Men Lie and Women cry? this is an opportunity for you to eliminate turnover a little . but do not want to be too sensitive. not longing for a sex champion. Whose stories are real principles apply to most people most of the time of their relationships with the opposite sex. The rate of divorces in Britain. There are around or brother in-laws want to advise. At any given time.the other species already have everything planned out and is very good. If you get along with most people most of the time. Not realize they need to be sensitive in relation to women's feelings. relationships procedures are guided by the need for direct survival of each species. comes after the Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love. much less the differences between male and female. however. who also teaches women techniques to identify and meet the desires men. Around the world Why Men Lie and Women cry? is the step that in the relationship ladder. men need to learn some techniques that will find this book. working and loving the opposite sex. We. the female enters estrus. evolved so that today we know the best way to deal with the opposite sex to have any chance to lead a happy life and enjoy a share of pleasure. For other animals.
The locals will love and be superprestativos. but taking the average. The research we did on the various themes of this book and the very act of writing it gave us a more complete understanding of ourselves and our parents. the problem of communication is resolved.. How to give this book as a gift After the worldwide success of our latest book Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? (more than six million copies sold in 33 languages to the present). in English is no good asking a typical British dish. faithful love and great friends of each other. brothers. the woman will be much easier to understand and accept their behavior and mental processes. friends or neighbors. It is a huge gain and relief to both. The allegation was that the women use the book to pursue them saying "Allan said that . Learning a second language To be successful with the opposite sex you need to speak two languages . profit and fun. it gives you satisfaction. can also benefit from their experiences and their views. The man. people like us. be impartial. In Why Men Lie and Women cry? also rely on our personal experiences. father.the women and men. in turn.. anguish and confusion of his life. People are impressed when they see that we strive to understand them and communicate with them. in general. When you buy a cell phone. The result is that our relationship with those who are coming in has improved significantly and. He explains the behavior of "other sex". going very well. Experience first hand We. Nothing is perfect. son. are very well married. but we feel that hit most of the time with most people. looking as much as possible. Why Men Lie and Women cry? is an instruction manual to help understand the opposite sex and know what buttons to obtain the best squeezing result. We are also parents of four beautiful children.. mother. the authors. it comes with an instruction manual. relatives.." Why Men Have Sex and Women They Love? obtained a great success among women of all nationalities and we are well aware that some have of the gift to his men saying poignantly: "You must read . wishing to provide you a balanced view of the relationship between man and woman. The French will not understand anything. Once you learn to do this work and schedule it for the functions you want. But if you buy a book of translated phrases that teach you the basic words and phrases in another language. sisters. even if you fall a little in the words. cousins." and "Barbara said-10.. "Will I have to change sex?" People often ask us: "You are telling me that I should think. It is a book full of common sense and scientific facts presented in a well-humored and easy assimilation. neighbors and colleagues. If you only speak English and is visiting France. speak and act like the opposite sex?" In no event. some men have to be hampered in their lives. Not always hit. believes the path where the woman. they are companions.of the suffering. It may be easier. daughter. Once you understand the evolution of man.
the women only speak for the business and the men only read Playboy for its literary value. to shop with absolute objectivity. because a slight belly and gray hair to give a certain charm. " When a woman gives a gift to another a book on personal development. can be excused by male heads when involved in its mysterious gynecological disorders. and the taxi stop at your beck.. follow by learning to understand. and men have to go once a month in a simulator of TPM. Maybe one day men and women may be similar.at least with regard to coming millennia. Meanwhile. thinking that the woman is trying to show that he is not good the way it is. is man.. is perhaps more prudent to ask your man to his opinion on the advice of the book. They say man is great. So if you. leaving her injured and disconcerted.especially the parts that I marked for you read. If you are a woman. congratulations! . one that receives feel honored and grateful to have gained something that will help it to grow. And finally . Perhaps the book refuses saying simply "I do not need any of it". The toilet seats to be set. They say a woman is great because you can talk to a person of the opposite sex without having to imagine them naked. because men love to give opinions. Enjoy.this! read from beginning to end . manage and enjoy our differences. But we doubt .Know that is part of a minority that wants to understand how women think and act. And be rewarded with love and affection. because our book! BARBARA & ALLAN PEAS . Mark the pages you want and let him read the book on the coffee table or the bathroom. But a man might feel insulted. personality and give the wrinkles price of undergarment is absolutely reasonable. You dance with a frog in a blender opinion and is not required to have erection. Maybe women would like to see racing of self-mobile. Nobody talks to you looking at their breasts and you do not need to go to beauty salon to prepare for a social meeting. reader.
does not care to continue complaining. roast the patience. but think the men can only take things repeating and repeating the same instructions. provoke. take the drugs. tell when it is delayed. She knows that is annoying. The morose man. until one day the plug fall. berate. however. to do regular exercises and tests for cholesterol? Demand in certain situations. complain and complain. Where would many men without a woman warning them not to take beer or eat sandwiches too. is something that society sees an entirely different way. they criticize. bother. Yes. Only in the United States are more than two thousand cases per year for men who kill their wives have been arguing that the complaints brought to them. In very small doses. even if that is annoying. not abusing the drink. show how much they care about them. dirty clothes and take towrope them wet the ground. How they think that their complaints are justified. when the woman starts to repeat his orders. molest." Like a dripping faucet. a husband who has a hammer head of the wife. torment. especially women. tease. above all. Women also think that claim is how they worry about them. by wetting the entire bathroom when taking a shower and by spreading the newspaper while you read. . which is why their suffering companion deserves all the sympathy. but it is always for the good of women. the male brain hears only one thing: "There she is complaining again. In most cases.and politely reminding women the way to when they forget. They think they are confined to their men to remember the things they have to do: meet its share of household chores. The friends also did not think she is morose . Men from all over the place "to complain mania" at the top of the list of your dislikes individuals. Advice as "always check your bank! How many times do I have to say?" and "It gives you a bit more care of their appearance when my friends come to our house?" are repeated with admirable persistence and. the claims it will consume the soul and can generate over time a fierce resentment. irritate. the cantankerousness can even be considered constructive. but men rarely see it the same way. has been enhanced by reducing the penalty of imprisonment by a judge who felt he was led to commit the violence because the woman was too morose. get fungus in cangote. Generally. fill the bag. Currish is a term traditionally used by men to describe women. who calls all the time.Chapter 1 The cantankerousness When a person does not stop complaining Fiddle-faddle: annoy. quarrel. men do not complain. dominate (the husband). difficult to handle. In Hong Kong. and are natural leaders all the time conveying their knowledge . causing him permanent brain damage. The woman alleges the man to leave a trail of chaos is where. In our culture. selfish. however.for them the man is yob. women do not feel morose. annoy. they see defects. They are assertive. can serve to keep them alive. fix what is broken. Currish: individuals.
I am married to the Queen of Claims and not stand one more minute and its implications. month and since we got married. men give instructions. If you complain all the time. A record of a court in the year 1592. Can you imagine? I prefer staying at work than go home. We have reached the point where the only communication that happens between us is she telling me all that I left to do during the day. " Morena: "Stephen is like that.S. Think fault in everything I do. says: . the English laws. women have always appeared as a morose. I think his friends more attractive than him. " Third woman: "So why do men say that women patience to roast them with their complaints? General laughter. If I do not clean. he claim that I do not care for him why not take care of my appearance. Sometimes I think that it is impossible to hit. It is true that women are so from birth? Please help me. After reading Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love ". the U. The woman was tied infringing on a chair hanging on the edge of a mobile arm and plunged into the river or lake close by a predetermined period of time. and I just early for him to shut up. but he insists that both the end I run better than their hearing is whining. It hours that I am not so. he is never satisfied. If I do not want sex at the time he wants. In the literature. she was sentenced to "chair of immersion. and crimes committed small catamaran. calling me saying that I have some more for others than for him. The cantankerousness through time Throughout history. My colleagues say that their women also complain to them all the time." The chair of immersion was famous in the United States and Great Britain as a tool for punishment of witches. Until the nineteenth century. My father used to tell me that every woman calls and fills the bag. and Europe has allowed the man complained about the implications of the judge or "cantankerousness" of his wife. The time that I get at home until the time when I go to sleep. prostitutes. The situation is so bad that I asked the boss to be working after hours.The cantankerousness women vs The whining of men The women complain. Should not be so . week. but very short. as people who complain non-stop. is a morose adjective which applies mainly to old and women. but I did not believe it until I married. on the way back. a man who is self" Jeremy Dominated "sent us the following e-mail: "I need help from you. " A group of women we had dinner in a restaurant heard the following conversation was about their husbands: Blonde: "Yeah. its objections and complaints. she is claiming the whole time without stopping. it is whine. The number of times that she was immersed depended on the severity of the offense and / or the number of previous convictions. If I go to clean dinner with his friends.I should drop by rejoice me to work and come home to see her. Be listening to the complaints it causes me stress as a violent headache that starts in the car. If the charge was proved.
And when the chair of immersion was not punishment enough. but you need to think really make it. the water breaks. Women know that claim. If the scold provokes discussion With obscene words or out of the question. The last woman to go through the chair of immersion after condemned as "morose stubborn" was Jennifer Pipes. published in 1780. shows how men in past centuries. the wife of Walter Hycocks of Peter Phillips and his wife are prominent morose. written by Benjamin West. Termagant wives. took seriously the claims of excess: The Chair of Immersion See there. If the wife has the audacity noisy To have the house with tremendous noise. " The following poem. A third and fourth time. never. You say: stop. Tied to the chair. Some women were forced to parade through the city as a warning to other women. or would go to fail. England. And before that to lose patience. my friend. Because when you throw water on the fire. Learn to govern in the chair your language. of Leominster. Joy and terror of the people of the village.". It occupies the infringing his post With a frown on his face printed pompous.. Climb even higher the blaze. How is currish The morose always hopes that his victim. But once is not enough. The woman is hoisted and vocifera How ever dared no shrew. . driven by feelings of guilt. without reluctance. that they tell the church to stop the cantankerousness. When the fire is burning. the lake of our Canton The device named chair of immersion Under the cloak of the law that guides the procession. in 1809.. You must then bring the peasant A second time to the depths. but that does not mean they like to be complaining. Its goal is to encourage victims to meet him. do what she wants. but simply to end the discussion. therefore. But if their husbands and neighbors to complain a second time. they will be punished with the chair of immersion. there were other possibilities. dives into the tank. Usually they do to achieve a goal. It decided. with a mask of iron stuck to the head with a metal bar going up in the mouth to hold his tongue. my dear.
We have identified five basic types of complaint: The Complaint Monotemática: "Kurt. leaving her alone and resentful. why do not you hang your towel?" Pause." The cross complaint: "Nigel. just in time that the man needs more time to be "watching the fire. which only increases his irritation and sometimes their anger. the victim is more refuge behind defensive barriers that leave the woman distracted -newspapers. but believe that there is no alternative. When the level of complaints is out of control. The more demanding the aggressor. How is the victim From a man. The speed you go. The more claims. the more captive and isolated she feels. Nobody likes to be subject to the anger contained the ambiguous messages to autopiedade. When do you replace the lamp in the room e. This explains why women think men in general. indirect and negative of the things he left behind and their defects.. The tendency of man is to ignore it even more. we? Usually women give laughs with these reports. repeated complaints are a reminder continuous. The only concrete result of excessive claims is the destruction of the relationship between the victim and currish therefore believe that the victim needs to defend all the time. They mainly occur at the end of the day. . And the least recognized. face of discouragement.it is bad for your cholesterol and increase the weight .". We do not go repeating the humiliation of last year. . is more isolated. Feeling alone. can stop the currish resentful and unhappy. she is able to completely destroy the relationship. deafness apparent and remote controls. "Kurt. Kurt? Still on the floor. the door handle of the room is falling and the kitchen window is still stuck. the more the victim is subject to suffering.. When cantankerousness is out of control. . etc. nor to be continuously accused of everything. Everyone avoids the morose. They recognize and acknowledge their own words. amnesia." Five minutes later: "And the towel. Ray? And stop eating the pizza .Some women turned to cantankerousness in an art form." The Early Recovery: "Dale. speak little. the grass of the front garden is a disgusting. relationships with people of currish can be affected. the censorship. You can clearly see that women have an ability to speak much more than men. just before the summer. computers." The Third Party Complaint by "Moira says Shane already cleaned the grill and they are going to a barbecue tomorrow." as did his predecessors back to the primitive of a full day of hunting. The Complaint Beneficente: "I took their medicine today. homework. you said you would hang a towel. etc.. and men think women talk without stopping. I just hope that you control a drink tonight.
speak little.. Institute of Psychiatry. This explains why women think men in general. can identify three of these tones so often lose the thread of the skein when they hear a woman talking. You can clearly see that women have an ability to speak much more than men. show (in black) the active areas of the brain used for the functions of speech and language. Man Woman The woman has a mental organization that call multiple tracks . It is able to speak on various themes without any relationship with each other in the same conversation USA and five tones of voice to change the subject and emphasize issues. 2001. The man's mental organization contains a single track. let her be absent from work because his car is in the workshop and she has to . made from MRI scans of the fifty men and fifty women. Etc. he received a response to "multiple tracks" involving eleven people and nine different subjects. London. this also depends on Adrian. and Nathan lost his job and seek other.it is a counterfeit able to keep the air four or five balls at once. When you open a map in the car. and I thought it was us we were and Len in the guest room could ask Ray to arrive early to. she is watching TV. " Bill: "That means' yes' or 'no'?" Debbie: "Well.. which have fallen because of economic crisis. etc. The illustrations that follow. It is an image of men and women were chatting and communicating with each other. Areas of the brain used for speech and language. The multiple tracks can occur even in the same sentence: Bill: "The Sue come for Christmas?" Debbie: "She said it will depending on how things get with the orders for carpets.". Can run a computer program while talking on the phone and hear a second conversation behind her in the restaurant when talking with fellow table. the owner of the Diana. Bill thought it had a simple question and would be satisfied with a simple answer of 'yes' or' no '... and Fiona perhaps because Andrew does not need to consult a specialist. so Sue said you could get out early for us to buy the clothes for the wedding of Emma. He can only focus on one thing at a time. he turns off the radio. Men only.. and Jodi can not be absent from work .Why women are more morose? The woman has a brain structure that allows you to overcome any man on the planet in terms of falação and cantankerousness. Instead..the boss of it is terrible! -. Frustrated. If a woman speaks when it comes to a clover on the . and men think women talk without stopping.
The male brain has only one track. sometimes placed in positions of power.road. and the victim back further behind the barrier. There is too much. Some men. he misses the way and it puts the blame for being here. When the phone rings. have difficulty to walk and chew gum at the same time. sometimes physically. the pressure increases to the point where the counter-attack victim. He just shut up. One of the most difficult situations is when the man is connected to multiple tracks during the complaint. The man can not make love and explain the same time that did not take the garbage out. causing a rough thread which can even degenerate into physical violence. putting the man . initiating a vicious cycle where the fretful increases the volume of voice and the strength of their objections and claims. he asks for everyone to shut up talking. to USA to protect itself. That the complaint never gives too much right? the main mistake of cantankerousness is the way to address the problem. As it is not always possible to leave the scene.
her own clothes by the wide ground. the growing cantankerousness can go. It operates from a position of strength. may see the complaint as a form of continuous wear the head of "bring it to your level" and make it realize how much is missing. she ignores it.. whining and load of guilt that she wants to impose victim. But when you feel more secure in your position. Has a more objective way to ask things. is it? . Take out the trash is not too much. when the relationship becomes permanent. The goddesses of sex do not complain of clothes dropped by the house -they leave their own clothes scattered on the floor. not to realize that there clothing on the floor and dirty dishes on . She is so tied to the vision you created for your romantic partner. pay someone to do it or get a mate to do. petty. even essential. is like being bitten by a cloud of mosquitoes: bites takes over the body and can not kill them.. the doctor said I can not get passed the order weight . And as you know. resentment and anger and can easily end up in violent physical reaction. Their "requests" are weak. The woman also madly in love tends not to complain..in a defensive and blocking the absorption of the message." and is there outside. it can start to complain to the boss to make it more efficient in their work. It may be that it not be given the time to complain of dirty clothes scattered on the floor . Missing you time and energy to it. even unknowingly. and if your partner does their share of domestic work. I ask? . you refuse to collect their clothes . A clear sign of intimacy between boss and secretary of the things she is claiming that he left behind. if you have shame in the face would fix the faucet. and a very sensual. In general the groups it in a way that the male brain has limited capacity to decipher. unless the morose and the victim have an intimate relationship. which receives praise. The so-called "vampire" also does not usually complain.... this is part of their work. Where is the worst cantankerousness? The cantankerousness rarely manifests itself in the workplace. more powerful. desk. honors and proposals. The woman happy and professionally performed rarely calls at home. disharmony. The origin of cantankerousness is the balance of forces between two people.. For men.. killing me from week to work to make this house more or less decent and you spent the whole time sitting watching TV . the secretary can gently remind him or simply do it. You are more concerned with the "greater part" of his life. In this stage. so busy arming plans to make mad love and love to be everywhere in the house. and do not have enough force to get it to work. because this drip-drip is making me crazy . The morose plot deals with the problem in small. the goddess of sex may become worse in the morose. You can even get to the point that you think is capable of doing the job better than him. However. To note that the boss has to do something. After all. trivial. " This type of claim is the most inefficient possible in achieving the objectives and becomes a destructive habit that produces enormous stress. "I did not ask him to do almost anything at home.. Its strength is of another kind: it USA your sexual power to get to your man what you want.. "You never take out the garbage.
the prisoners of the household. which is enhanced by giving their lives for the welfare of his country. but do not know how to release for you to build a better life. the same for all women. E is confused and lost by not knowing what to think. Anyone can pass the vacuum cleaner on the carpet. Your daily tasks seem too trivial to justify protests and demands for public recognition. culture. but feel too guilty to admit that does not like his role. Your suffering is a kind of invisible. daughters and partners who live together. silent. independent and free. Even if. That is why the stereotype of morose. fretful of the comic numbers. Adam's mother calls him. Of the genus is: ry exudes sexual power. husbands. sons. in the heart. or accepting and performing the ritual with joy monotonous and repetitive domestic work and motherhood are rarely morose. Our research shows that women who have clear goals. suffering. frustrated with the only alternative to get your feet tapping. Acaba I preferred that she not do anything. nobody sends write her name on a memorial in marble for dedicating his life to the welfare of the family. however. "My mother has to draw the attention of people to do all that. she went through years and years of brainwashing to accept a "truth" that may not serve you anymore. It is the anguish of the oppressed majority. Do not write wins literary prize lists of great shopping. Mother was not tortured (at least in the common meaning of that term) and went through great suffering. it deserves more. also be absorbed by the excitement of the new relationship. Nobody feels the need to complain. Sometimes she even realizes that his feelings are normal and healthy. Why is she must be complaining because of any thing ? She is talking about "any thing" because his life has become a collection of small things. A professional woman radiates strength material and mental. who generally feel no power over their lives and unable to change it in a clear and direct. with a confusing and contained rage. precisely because nobody gives value to their tasks. Unlike the soldier. The woman who regularly uses the cantankerousness. . The cantankerousness can be a call for recognition Complaining is a sign that the woman wants more: more recognition of the family for everything they did and more opportunities for something better.wives. She knows that life can be better. Both are strong. It is a difficult person to feel confident and powerful if all you did in the morning to evening is trivial. mothers. feel no forces. Do not want in your tú mulo the words "always kept the kitchen clean. asking for recognition. a teenage victim of constant complaints. is always the wife or mother . family of journals felt mentally and trading of movies and TV convinced her that the ideal woman to be truly feminine is Perfect Wife and Mother. working more than thirty hours per week. "Every time you wash the dishes or vacuum the carpet is the one she makes sarcastic comments to draw attention to itself. Centuries of stereotypes. The cantankerousness always between people who have an intimate connection .the table . There is no Nobel Prize for the maintenance of domestic peace. predictable and routine. His partner. The Perfect Wife." Adam sighs. or do any thing to please her.
Adam is the mother of a little recognition that it begs . Many girls still grow up believing they should be nice and sweet. "They are the last fifteen years. The complex of mother Many women think they are the only significant adult in the family. there is no safer way to kill the passion that's starting to feel that living with his mother. This change of attitude is the first stone in the path of the dangerous erosion of the relationship. They think that their husbands and boyfriends act like children. It was absurd to say that the ruin the pineapple pizza. and finally back to his wife. to the menu.the quality of your life would be better-ra impressive. which carry the soul the frustrating feeling of lack of love and recognition. produce positive results and." The cantankerousness usually signal that there is a problem of communication between two people. "The problem is not the pizza.and deserves . Solutions cantankerousness: say what you want The discussion was ugly. increasingly high. The restaurant was in full expectation of what would be the response of man. to circumvent the . usually they take in is trivialities and torment each other with cruel words. and began to accuse him of never paying attention to their wishes. She. ultimately. The whole restaurant was silent as the voice of the couple stood. it would not take out so often to eat in the pizzeria. With all this pizza. in their work environment. In the end. Moreover. As your partner knows he has these skills. The more a man rebels. and for women. looked at the floor. earn a salary significantly higher than women in the same position. the more it acts as if it were his mother. it was starting to fatten. solve problems. right?" He said finally. who feel that a little boy living with immature. The problem is that often the woman is tempted to treat your partner as less capable than a man and a boy taken. if behaving as such. But some men say that time is that it seems longer. She also did not want to eat pizza all the time: a rather more healthy food. He reacts. there was silence. When they become adults. selfish and lazy. He has not lost the calm. they believe their role is to appease. both come to a point where they are no more as partners. I Hawaiian. who hated capers. The more he resists. Sip his wine. Studies show that married men live longer than singles. Was it asking too much to let her pick the pizza at least once in their life? After that last sentence. is hugely frustrated by the fact he did not use them at home. lovers and close friends. The man. Here is one of the keys to reduce the cantankerousness: currish give due recognition for the performance of small and routine tasks of his life ends with the most complaints. This tendency is especially common among women. But rather than face it. the most demanding woman. For men. Women who went out of control cantankerousness ESPO-ments are generally solitary and disappointed and mothers. and placed last in their feelings and needs. Everything started because of the pizza that they would choose. can communicate. it is the work of the shopping and help her to cook. He wanted pepperoni with capers.
to the refrigerator will get another beer and put it on the couch to see football on TV. When a woman learns to direct and calmly say what you want. not as a complaint. wear something more comfortable. The woman generally expected to intuitively know the man she would like to say different things than they actually want. in return. boredom. Solutions cantankerousness: say what you feel A man will never tell you who feel diminished when you criticize his behavior. I work late for us to have money and comfort to you . What do you think that I leave the children with my mother for a week. in turn. I think I'm gonna go to bed" and stay away. As we said. depression and cantankerousness are the result of communication problems. You. " For many women seem to say that much more difficult than hitting mouth publicly because of the choice of a pizza. Complaints in only mask a bigger problem of communication.you just think of you all the time! Daniel: "Do not shout me.. Instead. the woman ends up giving up and falling asleep with a feeling of rejection and disaffection. I am much more happy and enjoyable to live. Neither will it hit him with her complaints concerned the same problems he used to have with the mother when I was a teenager. then you take a week at work to stay with them. I feel suffocated. pass deodorant. does not listen because it does not submit the problem as they should. make your gargling with halitol. Even if you talk enough. physical or verbal abuse. such as infidelity. Daniel is late in coming home from work and his wife Sue is waiting with a few guy friends. using indirect language. When you discover that you do not trust their ability to make right decisions. cuddle . the man responded more positively. but that is not enough!" Sue: "You really selfish! How about putting his family first for once in your life? You . Almost all the problems of relationships. communication has improved and the need for cantankerousness . It is the head that his wife is speaking in code." never discussed the problem with it. Many women have difficulties to say. someone who will never meet their expectations. If your wife is always complaining. women often address his men in a wrong way. he is trying to tell you something that you're not listening. I want to get away from it all for two weeks. When the two go of it. E is silent.words actually said. in turn.in the arms and seek reconfortá it maybe even with a session of sex.the excess claim ineffective. but in recognition: "I am not happy with this life. I never know where you are! Dinner was cold . the man mutter.problems and be nice and warm. she launches the attack: Sue: "You do not have account? Why is it so late again. he is finding it a failure.. Before he had chance to say anything. Rarely a woman asks: "Why did he not speak more with me?" The man. You're complaining and exaggerating as always. And you will never feel that you sexually as uninteresting as his mother. Seated alone in bed. I turn myself and have a time just for me. One night. and therefore will continue talking until you hear. She thinks that yawn and say "I am so tired. that does not mean they are getting properly convey their messages. sleeping with her. even if you think "My wife does not feel more attraction for me. I think that I would do very well and feel that. the man will brush their teeth. Women have to understand that the functioning of the male brain is comparatively simple and that people rarely can guess what your partner really want wives and beyond .
Here's how Sue could handle Daniel.You are acting like children again! . And their problems only tend to worsen.You do not have account? . " Daniel: "Sue. When that happens. without judging them. I do not want you to feel well. and always puts the other on the defensive. you are arriving late all week and I do not call to warn [behavior]. then it is well! Go to mosey out soon. You know what your problem is? You're always running away from things. I rest. honey. I'm beginning to think that you are not interested and do not like more of me." Sue (furious): "Ah.You are a selfish! . They are simply left to say really how they feel. Neither of them is listening or watching. I'm not avoiding you. you're seeing someone? [Interpretation]. putting him on the defensive. right? Acting that neither child again. So I am saddened [feelings]. speaking as softly as possible: Sue: "Daniel. communication is interrupted. the first thing you should do is avoid Sue left for him. Is there a problem. I like you the truth. It ends with a discussion . Sue expressed hostility of indirect way.You know very well what is your problem! . and (I) promise that from now on ( I) I will call you every time you have to stay at work until later. This technique allows you to keep a normal conversation with your partner without fighting. It is almost impossible to irritate anyone .never do anything in this house . sorry. your feelings and the impact that such behavior has on you.forever. When I come home. Once you enter Daniel with defensive position. leading Daniel to adopt a defensive behavior. The technique of "I" lets it communicate your feelings about the behavior of Daniel. I have worked so much. It is as if Sue was a sponsor of the finger in accusation Rist.I expected to do everything!" Daniel (away): "Get off my foot I am dead. Sue repeated the same message all the time and Daniel was always silent. I thought you were not feeling well. Solutions cantankerousness: the technique of "I" To get the attention of Daniel. It describes the behavior of your partner. leaving Daniel deeply angry: . I'm getting stressed. I am crazy for concern with what may have happened [consequences]. increases and clarifies the sincerity of the sentiments of all. preventing the situation is clear. thinking that it is just a morose unbearable. She can use the technique of "I" instead of using the word all the time you. your interpretation of this behavior. Here are some of the phrases you type. The technique of "I" has four parts. I never want to talk about them!" Instead of reporting what is really felt through a direct quotation. " The technique of "I" is powerful because it reduces the attitude of defense. [I] am so tired I need a tempinho for myself. I have been so busy at work lately. You only know me complain all the time. And (I) am not seeing anyone. used by Sue.Are you always running away! The language of "you" is to attack.
after a full day of hunting to feed the family. the choice is their own. insist and ask several times before answering the child. The same happens with a man who arrives late to his work: one needs time to recover. think he does not want the requirement is met. to regain your energy. Everything that you need is discipline and firm . the proper way and the tone of voice appropriate. wait until your anger placate the other to be able to hear. Solutions cantankerousness: Who trained who? Part of the responsibility of parents is to remember. In the above example. Prepare to not give a specific situation for thirty days without faltering. Is confused and frustrated. in fact. I promise that after you talk to. not only with their children.with this technique. If the pattern is reminiscent of the parents." there is no discussion. without speaking. . is more emphatic and angry. The more you repeat and calls. however. responsible. For you. not with the child. and if they do not meet. Enter then the consequences of disobedience. I need to talk to you about what happened today. per-sweaty and even require certain behaviors of the children for their safety. the messages of Daniel and Sue have been clearly communicated. I had a really long days and difficult gives me half an hour for me to build the dust and relax. plus the child resists." Sue: "Honey. sometimes take a deep breath. she learns that it is not necessary to answer the first call. Solutions cantankerousness: Leave the man watching the fire for about thirty minutes When the man returned to the original cave. Be firm with yourself. Most women. What began as a simple request of "Come dinner!" becomes a war. The parents currish / disobedient children can be easily corrected for. Parents influence the child's pattern of behavior. therefore. The more you get frustrated with the contempt it. Tell your children that you will seek the cooperation of them once. children trained to be responsible for repeating the call and. no tension and no one feels intimidated. of course. Thus. their well-being and success in life. want to talk immediately. But where in the exercise of that responsibility becomes a cantankerousness? And whose fault is that. Daniel: "Honey. if one parent at home or a mother complaining all the time: the naughty child or the mother or the father morose? The correct answer is: the father or mother.with yourself. When can we talk?" When Daniel agrees with a particular time (and respect) and Sue hold while he "looks at the fire. addressing the problem. Here is how to apply this technique. Then the child begins to suffer because of this breach did not really think anything wrong. needed to be about thirty minutes looking at the fire. this is a vicious circle. Statements like "I" work best when they are expressed appropriately at the time.
It may seem cruel. Say. will discover how unpleasant it is dry with a towel wet and smelly. The whole family was no longer believing-not endure the complaints and more feel the . has chosen to continue being a person trained and lose the rights to the claim with any person to leave the clothes scattered on the floor. for example. it is creating the rules and you are obeying. which they must be totally responsible. Go ahead and take to end its purpose. If you do not put there. Tell them that if any dirty or wet towel is left on the floor. which is probably a small price to pay. Solutions cantankerousness: a case study with children Cameron. When the violator is bathing. not to mention it will have a happier home. What happens here is that the other person knows that in the end you will end up taking the towel . and the person still doing the same things-sa. The mother stopped asking and started to complain. the smell of spoiled food in the house would be as if the trash pile. underpants and anything that you do not want to see play-of the house. if you follow collecting things from around the world. In other words. the laundry will accrue and will not listen to complaints of lack of that dress. that the next time this happens you put a wet towel in the bottom of the broom closet. on top of the wall in the dog house or under his pillow. Two or three times just to be trained to collect it and hang your towel. Here's how to reverse the situation: take a clean towel . or after we finished the movie." It is here that the self and firmness comes into play. vol-ta to the point of departure. thirteen years. Tell them that will put the towel in the yard of the offender. Week after week. And the future partners of their children will not complain of their bad habits. Who will give first? If you sell and collect the clothes. you will get it because they do not like to mess in the bathroom and that violates his right to a clean house.preferably of different colors each child and / or adult of the house and tell them that this is your personal towel. or so leave the bath. The behavior of children is the direct result of train-ing given by parents.For example: "Jade. The first time you apply this tactic will be laughter. otherwise you will continue being the person trained. Do not complain to them . nobody will get and no more dry towels to use. but you are teaching responsible habits. If you have self discipline and strength. So you just collect the used towels because they do not like to mess in the bathroom and why do you think. that means that they trained you to do what she wants you to do. for example. confusion and protests. it will not be washed.train them If you find that is complaining all the time with a person.it simply endure their complaints. Say. I want you to get your clothes dirty on the floor of the room and put in the basket. for better and for worse. With this technique. He used to say that would take the garbage after dinner. So you no longer train for another person. However. that a thousand times you ask someone not to leave the wet towel on the floor of the bathroom. received the task of taking out the trash every Wednesday night. and complaints are no longer needed. but forgot to do it. you become the coach and not ° trained. if you do not get. The same technique works with dirty socks.
smell of garbage. But Cameron was not there either - he simply forgot and it mattered little to the complaints. Finally, the mother of Cameron has realized that the son was trained to the claim and decided to react. He said that as he did not meet with their responsibility to take the trash out, the whole family was suffering with the smell of spoiled food. And the consequences stated that he would suffer for their disobedience: the garbage that was not carried out would be placed in your room. Since he is not bothered with the smell of spoiled food, no problem would have to sleep with her. The thing was submitted to a fun, relaxed, nonaggressive. The family could hardly wait for the night of Wednesday. As usual, Cameron forgot to take the trash. The following night, when they pulled the sheet to lie in bed, he found full of rotten garbage. The fourth fedia! The cost of this lesson a few sheets were dirty and smelly that Cameron was forced to wash - he knew the consequences. But never forget to take the trash. Construed as a morose If the victim is honest with itself, assuming that there is any truth in claims of morose and recognizing that cantankerousness is usually a cry for recognition, the problem can be quickly transformed into a situation where everyone wins. To feel more important is the need of human nature. The researches have shown, many times, the people who work all day, have their contribution and their efforts recognized, less demanding than those that spend long periods indoors, isolated from other adults. Similarly, the owners-of-house that they do not really like, they feel proud of keeping a home clean and comfortable, to prepare a good and healthy food and give affection to your family, also do not usually complain - since receive the gratitude and recognition due. The people are generally morose performing repetitive and monotonous work or who suffer from being isolated at home. For some women, to wash clothes, clean the carpets, make the beds, do the shopping and cooking, not seeing more sense in that form, can dull the mind after a year or two. If we add to this cocktail ill-bred children who break in ten minutes the work of a whole day, we have a person who will use the cantankerousness to draw attention and try to make other people feel so unhappy about it. When the foundation of the claim is true, the victim must accept its share of responsibility for cantankerousness. The cantankerousness is the result of lack of communication. The challenge of the victim To achieve a situation where everyone wins, both parties need and want to divide the responsibility for change. The victim of complaints must recognize and accept that it must contribute to the solution of the problem. The tendency of the victim is to develop an aggressive behavior or silent, which makes things more difficult. She ignores the morose, yet tries to scream louder, leaving the room or the house and invents excuses for not answering their requests. The victim does not reflect on its share of responsibility because they are infernizada the claims, and puts all the blame on the morose. The only way out is to stop and make a self-assessment, seeing cantankerousness in an application for relief:
- Do you hear the other person? - You understand the frustration of another person? - You show superiority, making it feel devalued? - You acknowledge the achievements of another person? - You refuse to divide the domestic work because anyone who thinks the money should be in a good home? - You are quite lazy and useless? - There is a deep anger that feeds the poor will understand the problems of another? - You want to be happy? If you really want to be happy, feel able to sit with the other person and talk about the problems of you? The challenge of currish If you are morose, I stopped to think that the other may be unable to meet their demands? You are behaving as if the mother authoritarian one? Requires that it meets their requests and complaints promptly, regardless of his needs at that moment? You repeat all the time their demands? - If your answer to any of these questions is yes, sit down with the other and report them using the language of "I". - Tell him what you're leaving you frustrated. - Make an agreement of the best times for their requests. - Stop being is repeating. - Afirme their needs and feelings and listen carefully the response of her husband. - Try to know his opinion. Maybe he has a better idea. - Avoid accusatory phrases such as "You", which produce resistance in the other. - What is the solution or the consequences in case he does not change their negligent behavior? - What are you doing to improve their self-image? - You always rewards that achieves your goals? - You want to be happy? For many people, demand may become a habit, a means to communicate makes them people who sulk, unhappy and resentful of those who should be a daily source of joy, warmth and support. But things need not be. Following our simple strategies, you can build a future much more happy and loving both.
SEVEN THINGS THE OUE -MEN MAKE DEIXA WOMEN IRONING BOARDS It is not easy to say the number of annoying characteristics that women look for men, but the letters we received from more than five thousand readers, we came to the seven questions that women are more often about men. - Why men offer solutions and give advice all the time? - Why men are walking by the TV channels with the remote control? - Why men do not stop the car to ask for guidance? - Why do men insist on leaving the toilet seat raised? - Why do men create problems for both go shopping? - Why do men have very unpleasant personal habits? - Why men like coarse jokes? These habits of men that women classified as "bad" belong to two categories: those they learned in its creation and those related to programming of the brain But both men are capable of solution. Everyone can re-educate, just how to do it. Why men offer solutions and give advice all the time? "My husband is annoying me immensely with his mania of wanting to find solution for everything. He lives giving me advice on how to deal with all problems of my life - even if I do not want, when I just want to talk about my day and my feelings, it is stopping me to say what I do, think and say. He is the best to solve problems when it comes to "things" - dripping taps, lamps burning, defect in the car and computer and stuff -- but when it comes to hear me, he just does not work. And if I do not follow their "advice", he is bored. Karen 'Almost Crazy. " To find out why the man insists on providing solutions for any situation, it is necessary to know some characteristics of the mode of operation of the male brain. From the most primitive ages, the male has evolved as a hunter. The ability to reach moving targets, essential to all they could to feed, was his great contribution to the survival of the human race. He needed accuracy to achieve the prey and eliminate the enemies that it disputed the-ate of and threatened his family. Consequently, it was developed in his brain an area called "visual-spatial" that allows you to achieve success with all his reason for living: to reach goals and solve problems. The men became directed people to the results and measure success by their own achievements and the ability to solve problems. In short, men are defined and self-assess according to their ability to solve problems.
That's why he rarely speaks about the things that concern. in turn. She prepares a nice dinner in the expectation that will have a long and frank conversation . He loves providing solutions and advice to others. especially if part of a woman. incapable of solving their problems. but he thinks she is bringing him to solve their problems.The man is valued by the results it is capable of achieving or the precision with which it has a zebra on the move. is beginning to offer solutions. Every man thinks he is the only person able to solve their own problems and therefore did not think to discuss them with anyone. a lost wallet and a broken fingernail. Case study: Sarah and Andy Sarah had a rough day at work: the head was marked up. seek advice is a demonstration of weakness. it is not looking for answers. she strongly urges while directed to the port. she usually wants to talk about the events of the day and share their feelings. Why women are annoyed with the solutions male? The woman's brain is structured for communication through speech. She feels that her world is falling apart and want to talk to Andy about it when you get home. Most times." he shouted back as the door knocks. and the main purpose of speech is to talk. much less asking for solutions. "Why do not you shut up and listen". For men. "do not ask!" Each thinks the other does not value what you are saying. When a man seeks advice from another man. He thinks that is caring and loving when seeking to resolve the problems of women. are not welcome. Here is the problem of the majority of couples: the night. "If you do not want my opinion. She thinks it is irrelevant or is ignoring your feelings by not listening. feels honored with the query. He only ask for help when the other person feels the need for a specialist opinion. because he thinks it should solve its problems alone. She just wants the man to listen with interest. he feels as if it considers that the declaration incompetent. So when a woman offers a board that no man has. but he thinks she is asking you a solution. that gives the board sees the query as a compliment. she was criticized for an administrative error. but unsolicited advice. and believes that it is making a smart strategic move. The man whom he calls opinion. It is because he does not pay attention as she is saying and he is angry because she does not accept their solutions.
he stopped saying that I did not want to hear excuses and I wanted to campaign on his desk before I close the business on Friday. "Sarah:" How was your day. Can you believe it? He just does not hear me . but he really needs a time to solve their own problems. " Andy: "Saraaah! If you do not want my opinion. by the way. He comes home. On the way home. Solve them yourself and stop complaining to me. because Sarah rightly criticized its greater ability to troubleshoot.. I am not holding more! Andy (still with one eye on the news) "You are not holding more what?" Sarah: "My boss is me creating the biggest problem. gives a quick "hi" to Sarah goes to the room and watch the news on TV.. When I tried to explain that the campaign does not was ready because I am still working on the project Seinfield. In the end. which he said it was urgent. I get another person to listen to me and it will not be telling me what I did wrong. Closed the business with several important problems still outstanding. She can open the heart with someone like her.while eating. which will have to address before returning to work the next day. "Sarah thinks:" Great! Fifteen minutes to go before the dinner conversation. and you get to say everything I have to do. is simple . he said snakes and lizards in my work and wanted to know that I had not finished the new advertising campaign. It gives you just hear me? I'm full of men who always know everything. Call telling him that Sarah had a bad day.. I will talk about their problems. yeah? So Fuck you. Sarah feels abandoned. honey?" .. his mind still working on finding solutions. He listen. He thinks: "Great! Fifteen minutes of quiet before eating. It will be nice and friendly. that make you feel loved and understood and to convey the conviction that she will be able to solve their problems. When I came to work in the morning. It gives a look at the food and says the dinner will be ready in fifteen minutes. Andy feels devalued and confused. I leave and I do not know that hours back! " For men and women around the world.. " Andy: "Look. honey? " Andy: "Well" Sarah: "I had the worst day of my life. But Andy also had a difficult day. injured and disarmament. Tomorrow you go there and He says that this deadline is impossible. I think not stand this anymore . this is a very common scene.. (getting danada life) . I already have enough problems that. he will need to adjust it or ask someone to help you with the two projects. you have to do is defend himself.. She wants.. and I would not finish the two projects in this period. always fix myself!" Sarah (almost crying) "Oh. you take care of your dinner. I want to go. " Sarah (getting emotional) "I can not believe what I hear I am talking to you on the head that is giving me orders and I do not listen. tell him you can not finish the two projects at once and ask which of the two he wants first. As Andy could have dealt with the situation Let's rewind the tape and see how Andy could have prevented a very bad night. knowing that you will feel much better. Sarah: "How was your day. Sarah. then changed the subject and said that I see the six-afternoon on Friday to examine the problems of last minute. Then I said I wanted it ready by the end of the week and that he was scheduling a meeting with the client on Monday to see the work.
assume . before starting to deal with business.." When asking for fifteen minutes and get them.. talk about various subjects. I call you when dinner is ready. I am not holding more! Andy: "Oh. and is reliable." Andy (hugging her) "What a hard day you had. I changed the subject and said that I see the six-afternoon on Friday to deal with any last-minute change." Sarah: "He just listened ... Here's how the dinner was: Sarah: "My boss is me creating the biggest problem. but that something terrible! Does he not know that you get a lot of work? You look so stressed . honey . The woman. before the end of time! Can you believe it? " Andy (showing interest and resistance to give advice) "Looks like he is really creating a very difficult problem for you . She is going to wreak and feel better about life. you need to establish a relationship with the man. And Sarah.Andy: "It was good. . but give me some fifteen minutes for me to solve my problems at work. When you want to do business with the opposite sex Men and women do business on a very different. " By not offering solutions. Sarah feels confident and happy. giving Andy some time to himself. up early in the morning and if you have no good idea. your business relationship can be financially disastrous. I'm too tired and stressed. I really would like you to help me find a solution. " Andy (with an expression of interest) "Honey.. but I will get better after that they can think a little. Many men have a mistaken understanding of the behavior. but then I started to explain that the campaign was not completed because the project Seinfield consumes much time.. I'm so stressed that I want to go .. Andy avoided a discussion.. avoided the usual discussions and felt happy with herself and with life. I have some work to solve problems in the morning. baby. my baby. When I tried to explain that the campaign was not ready because I'm still working on the project Seinfield. he said snakes and lizards in my work and wondered why I had not finished the new advertising campaign.. I love.." Sarah: "You do not know how I'm stressed! Well.. at best. baby. Some come to believe that she is giving you chat for sexual reasons or. You want a drink now?" Andy: "Thank you.. What do you mean?" sarah: "I think about it this evening. Andy now has time and space "to sit before the fire and think of their problems. which he said it was urgent. but I was very happy to be able to tell you . Thanks for listening to me.. I feel much better now ." Sarah: "I had the worst day of my life." Sarah: "Okay . But in the middle of my explanation he simply stopped telling me who did not want to hear apology and wanted to campaign in his desk on Friday. I want you to tell me everything that happened.. because it will give you all the attention during the dinner. When I came to work this morning. Over dinner I heard her with attention and affection. sometimes in a very personal level to see what kind of person he is. Then he told me that she wanted ready at the end of the week and that was scheduled with the customer to come in Monday to see our work.. and when the two parties do not fully understand what that means. got a drink and not just sleeping on the couch alone in the room.
not recommended. ask. it is easier to deal with a woman when she first establishes a personal connection. even in business. To humans. listening with empathy. How to avoid discussions with the opposite sex When a woman is tense and worried. the best and simplest is to tell the man: "I need to talk to you about several things. leaving him confused and Rally against the bad with the operation of your business relationship. become more prone to make . When both parties to understand. the man is satisfied and knowing exactly what she expects of him. And the woman needs to understand that men feel uncomfortable discussing personal matters and therefore prefers to go straight to business. Then they feel entitled to offer and say what she should do. The man needs to understand that. councils are perceived differently by men and women. and was long periods without communicating. The lesson here is simple and definitive: for men. Solution When the woman speaks and the man does not know if she is asking for solutions or just bubble. but a woman can interpret them as evidence that the man is not ready to hear her. in a state of trance.that she is asking for advice on how to solve their problems. The woman is suffering very much. Shall treat him with reserve. he will know how to behave. this is an efficient way to relieve stress and recharge the batteries for the activities the following day. For a woman. Defining women: Apparatus used to switch a channel of the TV to another. make it clear what you expect of the man who is wreak. but now using . For thousands of years the man spent the night watching the fire after returning from the hunt. In general. we need to talk. The most likely is that it classifies as a man who does not listen and that it shall give due attention in the business of making Jun-ments. women want to be heard. Why men are walking by the TV channels with the remote control? Remote control. every man has three remote controls and the toilet seats are always raised. For men. He sat among colleagues. especially when the woman appears worried. In heaven. giving advice is be attentive and show love. just ask: "You want me to listen or want me to help find solutions?" Depending on what she says. and if not sure of what she wants." With this approach. In short. The companions asked him never to speak or participate. Definition male: Apparatus used to scroll through all 55 channels every two and a half minutes. I do not need solutions. The modern man still looks at the bonfire at the end of the day.that the long-term business relationship leads to a much more consistent. you just want to listen.
This basic difference between the sexes is a frequent source of problems.newspapers. They want to know what is going on television. books and remote controls. she likes to relax watching a television program. more man resists. The woman accused the man tends to be kilometers away when she tries to talk. She needs to talk about the problem to get some relief. he is usually able to tell. She suffers from the man's apparent inattention and disinterest as the person interprets it. doing gymnastics or the option almost always favorite. look at the problems of others without feeling responsible for them allows you to forget their own worries. When a woman is concerned about a problem. The woman. sex. each waiting his turn to be walking by the canals. How he responds to what she speaks.the problem remains concerned your mind. she likes to predict the outcome of situations and also to attend to business. the man likes to forget their problems seeing the problems of others. which exists to meet two main impulses. The more he resists. in front of the TV with a remote control from hand to hand. The woman needs to understand that looking the fire is the way that man has to relieve stress and therefore should not take that attitude in personal terms. engage in any of these activities does the smallest difference . whether he is also emotionally present. That leaves the confused. The more the woman insists. Concentrate on one thing. was not really listening and analyzing what she said. her face. is something each time. it analyzes the problems of each program and reflects the respect for reasonable solutions. the man to forget their problems and feel at peace with himself. but with the brain occupied in the task of reading the newspaper. however. even after having tried to offer solutions and be rejected. The men did not want to know what is going on television. from multiple tracks. watering plants. he is interested in getting the fastest possible conclusions. north of the Kalahari desert in South Africa. which is one of the explanations for the fact that the number of men who watch the TV news to be six times higher than women. noticed an antenna driven by solar energy on top of a hut in the village. because he thinks his mere physical presence is enough. preferably a novel filled with scenes of emotion and relationships. Secondly. We entered and saw a group of drugs Kalahari. however. Because the brain oriented to solving problems. when we were in the remote Okavango Delta. Through channels. asking: "What was the last thing I said?" To his frustration. repairing the car. When he speaks. make it talk about a variety . The female brain. For men. she is more resentful. After a long day. As the mind of man is only able to do one thing at a time. Just remember the words of it. It is therefore a way of relieving stress as well as browse the Internet. The woman's brain is structured to interpret the words and body language of actors. The woman tries to talk to the man just in time when he is reading the newspaper or surfing the channels. He heard the woman's falação. The man suffers from not being able to enjoy a moment of idleness. Women around the world have a particular aversion to the male habit is changing the channel. dresses like tango. watching television is a totally different process. Once. capable of dealing with several issues at once.
so they learned to be guided by landmarks . must understand that women need to talk and unburden relieve stress. past. This is the same ability that men use to find the place where he was sitting in a football stadium.000 years.the sense of direction has never been a need or part of their job description. Means that he wants a moment of quiet. it should consider the possibility of buying its own television set and go see your program in another room. The man. that the troubles and ask him to please not do so when she is watching your program. she was able to locate and find the way home. is not alone ventured beyond the horizon. Why men do not stop the car to ask for guidance? For over 100. Solution To solve the problem of remote control. it is important not criticize him or give advice.find the path. During this period. men have used the space component of your brain to track the prey and hit the target. This is therefore the key to teach man the way a woman. it should tell the man.of things. especially if it has no intention of getting a . present and future-feeling. they feel pennite magnetic north. defenders of nests and offspring. it may disappear forever. on the other side of the avenue. Men never lose -only discover alternative destinations. a lake or a mountain. is sitting in the passenger seat and just go through the same garage for the third time. then go toward building a pink next to the National Bank. If you are a woman. Females. all at the same time. when entering for the first time in a room without windows. But if he says "take the third exit to west on Highway 23 and walk five kilometers to the north". calmly. This explains why more than a third of men. And if not advance. He would go to the pillory than admit to a woman who is lost. The most plausible explanation for the sense of direction for men is the highest concentration of iron in the right hemisphere of the male brain. it is likely that it arrived. without worry to reach solutions. they learned the art of maintaining the sense of direction and recognize the ways to hunt for great distances without losing the direction of home. that is lost means that failed in their ability number one . something that only one in five women is capable of. If he says "go to where the street has a huge tree. in turn. For men. The silence of the man does not mean he does not love her. to locate the car in a large park-ing and to resume a place where it once. Seeing a tree. pointing to the north within a radius of 90 degrees.
he still lacked two things to be split between Adam and Eve A. You do not want to come with me?" Men. The man. the man has to lift the board not to wet the place where the woman will sit. Why do women never take the trouble to raise the seat to the man? In Sweden there is an article of a law requiring the man to urinate sitting in public restrooms. with seats for women and set the wall urinals for men. but the slope. Fred. benevolent. the toilet cubicles were in the back of the house. "I think you can keep it. preferably in a gas station." Eva replied "Who are you?" And God replied. he explained. is severely criticized. A rapid and safe emergency strategy is to tell you that you need too go to the bathroom. however. leaving many people very angry. You never hear a man say: "Hey. are buying something. The modern homes are designed and built to accommodate men and women equally. But when you forget to below her back. but men are at a disadvantage because the restrooms accommodate domestic needs especially women. the bathroom has moved into the houses and public establishments. Then God gave to Adam. a wall or a tree. here is the other thing. who immediately was urinating on a tree and draw a picture in the sand. for safety. Why are four million sperm needed to find and fertilize one egg? Because no one likes to ask what is the path. when they go to the bathroom. Why do men insist on raising the leaving the toilet seat? By the end of the nineteenth century. And God saw that it was good. all public restrooms have separate facilities for men and women. smiling: "Multiple . Or maybe. Ask you to information." he said. Then God sent to Eva "Well. While you're in the bathroom. Men never urinate in bathrooms. pretending that. that the modern habit inherited from their ancestors. was an instrument that would allow its possessor to urinate standing up. and told God that if Adam wanted to do so.foot. but in bushes or supported on objects. he has time to ask for guidance. had to go alone and defend itself in case of need. The offer was excitadíssimo and begged God to the left for him.. Eva smiled. to be politically correct. When God finished creating the universe. Today. The women always felt. outside. Solution Buy a map or a guide and leave it in the car. which require a stop. you can tell who is affectionately distressed to reach the destination and ask him to stop. could stay." "Thank you. but be sure to hear it. But the practice of going to the bathroom in groups remains among women. When the download was invented at the end of the nineteenth century. but the men just sit in 10-20% of cases. depending on the relationship of trust that has been built between the two. That is why we rarely see a man urine in the open.. never lead a support group. At home. I took another woman. I'm going to soak-ro . When a woman went to the bathroom.
shopping is an activity located in the same plane to take of the prostate with a doctor of cold hands. "After 28 years of marriage. one for her . a suit and two shirts last for years. I speak seriously. Maybe this can make sitting more attractive? If you are to them. This is clothing to last more than five years. For most men. in the Islamic world that millions of men sit to urinate every day . a pair of shoes. and even then the penis to urinate over the roll of toilet paper in the left leg of the pants or on top of the shoe. shopping is one of the favorite ways of relieving stress. a garden where it was impossible to sit. His task will be washing the bathroom. three shirts.which absolutely does not compromise the masculinity. one can enjoy the standard of cleanliness and hygiene that you like. but may be upset with the woman if she require authoritatively that lets you down. The British psychologist Dr David Lewis found that the stress that men experience during the Christmas shopping equivalent to a police dealing with an angry crowd disorder. my wife decided I train now.Orgasms. because of this. To a man. If the man refuses. a belt. If this is not enough to convince you." One of our male readers wrote us to say as he and his wife faced the problem of the toilet seat: "Women need to understand that the penis has its own designs. the four in the afternoon of day 24. If it is the bathroom at night and sit again in the wet board. and still alone on top. It requires that I sit urine. instead of asking politely . the man does not give the slightest importance to the fact that the seat be raised or lowered. perhaps decades. Thus.or below it herself .or reforming the current home to create an extra bathroom. look perfectly in the middle of the toilet. may be remembered. because any change of direction requires a conscious decision. just for new household rules. so calm and firm. without having to worry about the other. which means spending a day on the floor cloth to clean all the drops lost. The man can get a cabin bathroom (where all the urinals are occupied). He is able to buy Christmas gifts for the whole family in forty minutes. For most women. And the best is that. the book takes him more. The reasons for this are clear to anyone who has studied the evolution of different male and female brains and understand their respective schedules. on the contrary. three ties and two pairs of shoes in less than eight minutes. " Indeed. there is not enough to trust him. Solution Ask the man who sat urine may cause some problems. The ziguezagues between shops and kiosks that women needed to consider a purchase as a successful man leave extremely anxious. The life of primitive man as a hunter gave him a sort of "tunnel vision" that allows you to move directly from point A to point B in a straight line. I have no permission to urinate as a man on foot. or fall into the pot for that. Why do men create problems both for shopping? The great advantage of being human is we can buy two.one for him. the ideal solution is to buy a house with two bathrooms . And I am convinced that this is a small price to pay. It is said that the Prophet urinated standing up once in life. . it kills me while I'm asleep. I left the seat up.
Even without finding anything worth the penalty to take home. flavors and sizes . and then go home empty-handed. but they affect the health of them. There must be a specific goal or guideline. The male brain is structured to focus on a single task. colors.as you zigzag the gondolas. Today it is exactly so that men like to shop. who is leaving and who will do .give the man sizes. Polls show that not only the men do not like to shop. just give cheiradinha the clothes you left in the back of the chair. smelling. For men. buy the memory and examine all the stuff you seem interesting. how you feel that day. At this point the reader may be impatient and was saying: "All this because of some shopping?" Remember. but men prefer to go straight. Ask the man how to get in the shopping cart . Consequently. feeling and showing all the things that are as speak with each other on a lot of issues with no relation to what they are doing. the idea is inconceivable. defined goal or time limit. and returned home. feeler. Men have evolved as creatures that kill their prey.brands. they feel satisfied because they had a great day. Women. They spend their days going from place to place in a nonstructured. Leave a full day with a group of peers with no clear destination. shopping is not part of the programming of the male brain. with his peripheral vision more broadly. however.the kitchen cabinet of a single man has ten packages of pasta. maneuvers. bread and eggs when returning to work can happen to bring him sardines and light mayonnaise. That is why when you ask a man to buy milk. no route. He forgets what she asked and returns home with a couple of "gifts": the product of his "hunting". fabrics and price ranges and send it to the game. so you need the encouragement. Men like to be in control and therefore to "guide them" using their ability to space curves. . challenge you to find the best prices and praise him when he gets results. the place where you are going. due to the stress they cause. the color of hair. and the limit of time is not important.The woman. How do supermarket Let the man pushing the cart. For a man. But there are ways to help the man to have a positive feeling about it.this causes it to again use their spatial skills to find the answer. How to buy clothes The same principles that apply in the motivational-supermarket's worth of clothes in the shops too . when shopping. which means he failed. She dresses carefully in accordance with the time the season. and again at the end of the day with little to show. zigzag with greater tranquility in a mall crowded with people. the supermarket zigzag loading a list. Always ask what he likes to eat and buy him his favorite foods. they always go home the same items . nine cans of tomato sauce and very little thing. Give him clear objectives . Women shop the way their ancestors catavam food: going the whole day with other women for a place where one is reminded of have seen growing plants tasty. the fashion. skin and eyes. speeds and stuff.
but the studies do not support this thesis. by far. women complain that men are much more unacceptable personal habits than them. But number one. The other ate the seeds of all colors without any order. then all yellow. the man feels anxious because he knows that will never have the right answer and is therefore wrong and let the woman boring. If a woman asks the man to buy something for her or to get a particular article. self-expression and male entertainment. It is less likely. Solution Give the man a single thing to do at a time and not try to convince you that you are saving a lot of money buying a larger quantity. is what is commonly called the drop bang. At the top of the list of men habits that women can not tolerate are: take meleca nose. it is important that you remember: the concentration of most men in a shop has. you must give the exact size of clothing you want. Although it is a sign of good health and nutrition. something that has a horrible name: fart. they perceive a female habit offensive. If it takes more.What can be said of a man well dressed? That the wife chooses their clothes well. bang release is an act universally . wear old underwear and rub the bag. If you catch a smaller number. If I drop it buys. When trying clothes. So save you the question. burp. the chickens how to move the food Cisca. therefore. ALLAN PEAS Even with these strategies. while the man waiting outside the fitting room. Why men are so unpleasant personal habits? Everywhere. it will find that you are fat. I always secure her hand. she is accused of suggesting that fat. the chair-thebored-husband. Flatulence: noun. Never ask him "You think I am better with the blue dress or the gold". When received male hormones. Men are more tolerant in accepting what they consider bad habits women and provide care in less detail than women. reach a maximum of thirty minutes. In general. noun. The advantage of being a man is not to leave the room to fix the private parts. the woman must provide a magazine to read it. masculine: a source of entertainment. First ate all the red beans until done. feminine: an embarrassing byproduct of digestion. smell. One explanation for the way men shop was developed from studies with chickens.
flour. Nigel released huge puns in public places such as department stores. why was all red and with an embarrassed air. fruits and vegetables in general. onion. is imitating voices or blue flare launching the fourth with the aid the lighter. she benefit from a bag and roll of toilet paper for everyone would hear: "Does this help?" The mascots also solve the problem.5 liters of gas per day. drop bang for fun is a practice that begins more or less at ten years old when the prestige of children is measured by the ability to release various kinds of puns. Among the products that reduce the amount of gases produced by the body are the chips of coal. Food combinations also give good results. to prepare "in desgasificantes and products made of mint and ginger. Before. It was washed with more expensive. so nobody knew who was. The main causes of excess gas is too much talk and talk during the meal. The humpback is ranked second. although most is belch. women emit 1-1. Sharon was obviously found guilty. vegetarians deploy more puns. As a result. Never shall it be the man eat food producers of gas less than two hours before bedtime. no problem.5 liters of gas. but drinking during a meal dilutes the digestive juices.until the big fights happen. Food reactions Foods that produce gas are more cauliflower. broccoli. When the surrounding is tipped for the couple. increasing the likelihood of releasing gases later. Chew the food well. At home. Find an example. In addition. If it does not comply with this standard. seven. eg diu-to warn you that at least two minutes before the release will feel when a bang. beer. To hear noise or feel the smell of fart." Sharon decided to establish the room and the kitchen as "prohibited zones of bang. But if he insists on eating quickly and drop the boom all the time. but with much less odor. Flatulence: the facts While 96.5-2. Nigel thought it very funny . While men emit an average of 1. Among men. only 2.disapproved by women. it is always easy to turn and fight for the dog with him to scream. eat slowly and do not see TV during the meal. The men released about twelve puns and women a day. you may need a more efficient tactics. the rest goes to the large intestine where it mixes with other gases and is ready to explode in the most unusual. See the example of one of our readers. garlic." When you were in a public place. a minute ago. encourage the man not to drink water during the meal. The air is trapped in the digestive system and. It is important that the woman tell the man with the greatest possible objectivity and . enough to fill a balloon. instead of coffee. Every time I went with Sharon. Solution One obvious remedy is to prepare healthy meals with less genera-producing gases and offer the man a cup of mint tea after the meal. bread. beans. such as carbohydrates and proteins never join in the same meal.3% of men acknowledge that drop puns.1% of women will admit it someday. cabbage. he released puns in bed and called it the "test of true love.
When you deliberately frighten a child playing hide-andseek in the first reaction is her cry of fear. Why men do not simulate the orgasm? . to help deal with tragic events. admit the truth about a matter in question. Caring for food with the aim of releasing less gas. Why men like coarse jokes? The humor has to man three main purposes: first. What is the perfect lover? . with some unpredictable conclusion. Why do not want strangers to take their key decisions. when can escape from a lion. relationships and men. claims to have discovered where is the male sense of humor . USA. What is the difference between a woman in the TPM and a terrorist? . but do not know the names of the children of your best friends. Other chimpanzees that warns of the danger. as among monkeys. throws her head down and produces a sequence of sounds very similar to human laughter. rushed away to a tree. how much this habit to bother. which means that if for a moment she experienced a reaction of fear. With the terrorist you can negotiate. she laughs. third. The female humor involves people. in turn. The laughter is an extension of crying. When the child realizes that the situation is not threatening.it takes all the desire to have sex. The male brain has an amazing ability to store and remember jokes. Make love to the two in the morning. The female sexual organs are capable of astonishing feats of human reproduction. evident in children from birth. But women never make jokes with them. extending over four kilometers. Men find very funny show in the ass for unsuspected group of older women. none of these things is not remotely funny. A woman can make it clear that the boom in the bedroom . Examination of magnetic resonance imaging show that men laugh most of the things that stimulate the right side of the brain and that it gives to women the exact opposite. mostly nuns. enjoy a much more enjoyable sex life.serenity. The chimpanzee. and terrible events male genitalia. gaining prestige with men to have a good repertoire. to make the championships enchain bang and grooms in the light poles. Because no man would do such a face on purpose. Some men are able to tell jokes that you heard in the fourth grade. are certainly protected and. The University of Rochester. Men love humor and jokes that have a logical. second. or the deal as a reason to laugh.he is sleeping. The laughter has its roots in our remote past when it was used to warn other people of an imminent danger. 2. step by step. What can you say to a man who has sex? . Here are some jokes that stimulate domestic relation Cère male-ber: 1.it is located in the frontal lobe of the brain above the right eye. if progress. and crying is a reaction of surprise and fear. Why the name men give to their own penis? . it can. A major difference between the sexes is the male obsession with jokes about tragedies. . then turns chocolate. For most women. For example: 1. not give them names of estimation. The male sexual organs are hanging right in front of a vulnerable and weak (additional proof that God is female) and are a source of fun and free for men. 3.especially in the double bed . What you want . the laughter indicates that she knows it was only joke. 2.
They tell jokes as a way to "talk about the event. But he says he hates the Americans because of the excessive way of life they lead. the male brain enter immediately into action. The laughter anesthesia the body. This explains why people rarely get sick and happy that the unfortunate people who are complaining live. And that is why. Women deal with disasters and tragedies openly expressing their emotions to other people. As the jokes and humor relieve the pain The laughter and crying instruct the brain to release endorphins into the bloodstream. in general people cry. começaríamos to cry immediately and the body released encefalina too. "I cried from laughing so much!" The tears contain encefalina. At the end of a meeting of great laughs. seem ill more frequently. The more difficult it is for a man talk . 73 wives. without showing any emotional blow that can be seen as weakness. releasing endorphins. you usually cry. but someone who can not accept it may start to laugh. that when a tragedy happens global. enhances learning and extends life. when faced with a serious emotional crisis such as death. alcohol or sex. while promoting the immune system. But knowing that it is not a real event. research has shown that the positive effects of laughter. After the laughter. Here lies the difference between men and women with regard to dealing with serious emotional problems. and even violent when they drink vodka or gin drinks. protects against diseases. The basis of many jokes is a disastrous event or painful experience for someone.The jokes are as important as a means of communication among men. The laughter and crying are closely related from a psychological and physiological. Whether the death of Princess Diana. Cry when we have a painful experience. but men account. the breathing is deeper. laughed and released endorphins to the selfanesthetize. In all parts of the world. The laughter is a predominantly male to deal with emotional pain. releasing anesthetic produced by the body. activates the immune system. Endorphin is a substance whose chemical composition is similar to morphine and heroin and has a soothing effect on the body. Alcohol loosen the inhibitions and makes a person laugh. the arteries dilate and the muscles relax. the laughter turns into crying. networks of e-mails from around the world are literally flooded jokes sent by men. the September 11 or the hunt for Osama bin Laden. How did you feel then? That feeling of tingling was from the release of endorphins to the blood system. 28 children and more than 300 million dollars. When the person know it's reality. That is why the cry is often the extent of access of laughter. and the endorphins and encefalina help in self-anesthetize. another Body natural tranquilizer that relieves the pain. Many people get the similar effect of laughter with drugs. Osama bin Laden has 53 brothers and sisters. assists the memory. strengthen the immune system. a kind of "cheap" natural. which explains why the general well-adjusted people laugh and most unfortunate that people become even more unfortunate. Think the last time that someone told you a joke that made you slip in uncontrollable laughter. If it were a real event. The mood cure. stabilizes the wrist.
using the knowledge acquired in this book to check if all are in agreement with the differences between men and women! Learned behavior . If he persists. We are Australian author living in England and the English are all the time telling us jokes about Australians. acting as a mother all the time. The man who asked you to stop improper wisecrack may feel publicly humiliated and be challenged from the other even more offensive. this observation may be more difficult. . Despite the jokes. Women. As a result. but when he realizes that may become permanent. especially if you are the host. boys grow up with few skills and domestic skills and a low degree of understanding of how to relate to a woman. however. If it's a good joke. And where there is a tragedy. eventually playing the mother figure and man react with screams. Women live behind the things that the children leave the house. If a man insist wisecrack unfit at or in the wrong place. analytical. If you are capable of taking a calm. things go sour. A social occasion. It is important to understand that women. Portuguese and feminist.if you choose offense. And no man who finds the mother sexually attractive. we laugh along with the British. will nourish you and serve you. What about Asian.about an emotional event. At the beginning of a new relationship. They feel attracted to women. as the mother. but your anger will not make the traffic flow. Do not be offended While there are Irish there are jokes about Irish.to do what you want to do it is always the same. Do know any more light?" Or you can ably deflect the subject. As the men rarely talk about his sex life with men. on the grounds that the traffic being stopped. are able to discuss details of their sex lives with friends without the help of any joke. just go do something else. Other people may not offend you . You can choose to feel the rage of traffic jam.child or adult . they tell jokes as a way to discuss her. your clothes are. as cruel and insensitive as it may seem to women. maybe find a solution to the problem. we chose not to hurt. give them money and protect the bitterness of life. How to re-educate the man The training of any person . And choose to offend the world says you are unable to deal with the problem addressed by the joke. In any event.blame his mother The female brain is programmed to create and nurture the children mainly. You can choose to feel offended because someone told a joke that says that everyone in your country is stupid. most women assume this role. preparing their favorite dishes. the more he rirá if you tell a joke on the subject. You want the behavior that rewards and punishes as either. As already suggested. That does not mean they are really stupid. cease to be victims of traffic on both of rabies. Maybe we should use the following tactics: "You are a great counter jokes. Miff is a choice. and the counter attack of the joke does not become more intelligent. conniption and leakage. tell him so firm and gentle you are not enjoying it and want it to stop. it will invariably create their own collection of jokes.
you have chosen to accept that the role of substitute mother's will and to comply with this role. When he need them. a caress or a "thank you". If they ignore your request. explain that you will put them in a plastic bag in a closet or under the bed. Thus. because that will only reinforce the behavior you do not want. will you train it. And when he put the things in the right place. therefore. If the mother of a man not trained to do these things. not yours. you know where to find. but it is important to understand that men have not changed as guardians of nests and. the care is not a behavior "natural" for them. reward their contribution with a smile. When you understand how the male brain. Who knows. The secret is to administer the men of his life. culture or religion. if large tools or unfinished projects for the house. the next time you ask women to the seven things that men do leave them mad. shirts or towels washed. Some women are horrified at the idea of thanking a man for him to do something as simple as collecting their own clothes. Do not place them in the shop or anywhere that is convenient for him. . Maybe. But if you continue to collect and save his stuff. judgmentalism or aggressive. Similarly.you can change the skin color. but their brains work the same. tell him I will put them in a de-finished cabinet. explain politely that you would like the clothes were put in the basket to be washed. or were born in Trieste or in Timbuktu. the problem is his. Men are always the same . resisting the temptation to save his stuff. the sexes will be able to live happily ever after. The key problem is to announce its intentions in advance and avoid being sarcastic. because it generally produces a negative effect on men. If you intend to re-educate your man.is the man to drop the clothes or wet towel on the floor rather than put it in the basket of laundry. When he needs pants. collect the clothes and the towel. instead of discussing. you will discover that it can be fun to have a man around. How they interfere with their right to live in a clean house. miff or frustrate yourself with them. they may fail to mention or three.
only the names have been changed to protect the guilty.. wail.to act in a different way than would like. We now examine how the emotions can be used to manipulate people and make them sell. women are more likely to use the tears as a weapon of emotional blackmail. sick and then. the excess of tears that can not be drained by the lacrimal channels rolls by side. The daughter: "If you really like me. excrete chemicals generated by stress. even if they are not aware of it. leak. spill or blubber. shed some serious and humorous on the differences between the sexes and what you can do about it. All stories are true . Although men occasionally do this. you do not love me more! "The old mother:" No need to worry about me . For humans. trapped between three women who mourn. The tears are secreted by a gland located above the eye and removed by two channels in the internal corner. whimper. whine (the dog). Crying is a behavior that we have in common with other animals and that starts at birth. .husband. child.rotina. howl. gave me a new bike! The mother of salt / and gave her one! ! The woman: "You forgot the anniversary of our marriage! Our relationship fell na. Sometimes the cry comes as direct response of the heart. The goal is to force the other person . It is a mechanism of control that can be deliberate or unconscious. Emo-tional circumstances or afflicted. I am old. " So far. reaching for his time in the nasal cavity. parent or friend . She also cries to look sorry and receive more lenient a punishment for a wrong action. distress signal in emotionally charged situations. whine. but humans are the only ones who cry with emotion. each with their particular complaint. but there are times when people cry to manipulate the emotions of others. This chapter will help you identify the people who use such tactics to manipulate you or trick you in order to obtain what they want.. the channel is the lacrimal drain. the tears serve three purposes: to help clean the surface of the eye. once I die. Why cry? Cry: yell. The lacrimal gland is the tap. wail. lover.Chapter 3 WHY Women cry? The dangers of emotional blackmail Poor man. whine.
for some women. he encourages other men to attack him.Why women cry more than men? Cry since born.Flag emotions: Seals and sea otters cry when emotionally shaken by the loss of their young. those who roll the sides. The tears contain an enzyme called lysozyme. which kills bacteria and prevents infections in the eye. The human being is the only land animal that cries of excitement and. a natural body of anesthetics that act as shock of emotional pain. The crying and the emotional blackmail How to blackmail Now you know the purpose of crying. The prime purpose of crying in adults. Reduce stress: chemical analysis show that the tears of stress. because the whole process rolling. For women. is placed at risk. by which it assesses their needs. where someone tries to extract advantage . display their emotions. and encourage the production of the hormone oxytocin. The eyes glow when a person feels an intense emotion. even seem to be no reason to do so. however. behavior perpetuated among adults. Cry used to remove salt and other impurities from the eye. Humans. The seals and sea otters do not use tears as a tool of manipulation. The tears also contain endorphins. Most women can identify seven different meanings in the crying baby. That would explain why women they feel better after "a good cry". Crying is a way to achieve what the child wants. By transmitting weakness. 2. but the amount of tears is not enough to roll the face.usually money . Let's talk about criminal blackmail.from another person by threatening to reveal something that . containing the different proteins that serve to clean the eye. Wash the eye: The lacrimal gland discharges fluid inside the eye and lacrimal channels act as drains to drain it to the nasal cavity. The lacrimal glands of women are more active than those of man. Familiar cry has three purposes: 1. to manipulate emotion. is a sign of confidence: the crying is the baby. This is what happens when the light reflects the tears of parents proud and passionate lovers. which is consistent with the emotional reactions of the brain most powerful women. which makes people want to be touched by other people and acaricides. Rarely you see a man cry in public. is stimulating feelings of affection and protection. and friend plays the role of parent helpers. especially for other women. 3 . The tears act as a signal to the other emotional embrace and comfort those who cry. The body seems to use this function to eliminate the toxins of stress. a process known to us all. the man who shows emotion. especially in the presence of other men. yes. we examine the mechanism of manipulation.
carefully chose the moment to present it. and her mother did not like each other. she shook her head. Greg was starting to become distressed. "Rosie. "No." "But Rosie. went hand in the eyes and deep breath. That night. Rosemary prying eyes at him. Concerned.will harm the victim's life." she replied." Greg held the hands of women. After dessert. She is very patient and I am worried. . When he came home. "No. acceptance of the demands of the blackmailer. The mother thought that Greg was not good enough for his daughter and was always trying to create problems for the couple. the mother of Rosemary and daughter became seriously ill understood.Resistance: the victim's initial refusal to cooperate.Continuity: the inevitable continuation of exigêncÚs. Frankly. Took her to the bar to present it to the owner. Rosemary shake. One day. It is I" And off to cry. . "We are not owners of each other. but I know what you think of the idea of her live with us. that would invite the parent to live with them. Greg asked what was wrong. I tried all possible solutions. When we sat at the table. Greg.The requirement: the payment in exchange for silence or cooperation. . I am afraid of you getting angry with me and not stand that. but not . "It's Mommy. Excuse me. This person knows their innermost secrets and vulnerabilities and USA that knowledge to make you comply. you did nothing. "tell me what happened. From that day. who was combining a party-surprise for the anniversary of Rosemary. . I give a way. .The blackmailer: a person who knows the weak point of the victim. all is well. what? Something I did?" Rosemary shook her head with a sad air." he begged. made a special deal in appearance and prepared the favorite of Greg. pleading. I take care of her. the husband of Rosemary." Greg was furious when his wife told him that story.." suggested Rosemary. she knew he was calm and relaxed." Greg began to think the worst. Case study: Rosemary Greg. served him a glass of wine and asked how was your day. she told Rosemary that one of her friends had seen Greg with another woman in a bar. the relationship with the parents of Greg finally turned sour.The threat: exposure. "No. Between tears.The agreement. But how could imagine what the reaction from Greg. . Rosemary should be having an affair. Is it something so bad?" Between tears. "I do not know how to say. "I feel terrible. "It probably is a co-worker.. That is therefore the main ingredients of blackmail and criminal actors: . Greg hugged her and she begged him to say what was the problem. . Greg." she said with soft voice and hacking. Do not worry. I will try to understand.The victim: someone who has a sense of guilt or obligation. with heavy heart. no. The emotional blackmail The emotional blackmail happens when a person threatens you emotionally close to any punishment or subtly insinuated that you will suffer if you do not agree with what she wants. Greg. punishment and loss of something of great value material or emotional. Two years later. she put her head between his hands. "Tell me. please.
I do not know what to do . And Greg knew that every time he protests. relatives and friends. To obtain your agreement.and their brains are structured to make them work. Greg. began to feel guilty. But after two days of tears of Rosemary.they always end up manipulating to achieve their final goal.exactly as Rosemary thought he would stay. In general. Everybody knows at least one person who has used tactics of emotional blackmail to force them to do something that they initially refused. Women.. they have a incontomável need to be loved. maybe that person who never seems to say exactly what you want .. rather than say it directly at the risk of a refusal to listen. The agreement: Greg yields to the demands of Rosemary. Use because. should not be prepared to make that sacrifice for it? Is this not true love? Marriage is compromise? And started to feel selfish and petty . the emotional blackmail to get what they want. The blackmailer: Rosemary . the blackmailer makes you feel bad with yourself and guilty of resisting.realized the weakness of Greg. The people who are emotional blackmail. Both Rosemary as her mother knew that once she enters the door. Greg agreed to a trial period of a month. The threat: the implicit refusal of love where Rosemary not get what they want. It is inevitable that you will be felt by being placed in this situation. it was your mother I know. You end up agreeing to something not wanted to do. children and other family and social groups . It is important that you identify the people in their relations that use these tactics of manipulation to get what they want. by far. it would be virtually impossible to go back. often. Men and emotional blackmail Men are. Perhaps a situation similar to that of Greg. . Continuation: the inevitable discussions and in tears. more commonly. " And started to sob. The story of Greg and Rosemary has the typical ingredients of blackmail in which a person tries to emotionally manipulate the other to obtain a personal gain: The victim: Greg . most frequently the victims of that the villains of emotional blackmail. and he would feel sick.found. who developed the role of peace keepers tend to say exactly what they want when they want something. Initially. and this is killing me . but . The pattern was established.he felt weakness and feeling of guilt when his wife was emotionally distressed.with partners.. Whether you realize it or not. Oh. They prefer to ask directly what they want. Its function has always been to nurture relationships . without anyone to care for her. In the end. If he really loved Rosemary. The many lack the self-esteem necessary to consider worthy of the object of their desires. The requirement: the mother of Rosemary go live with them. Defenders of the nest. But the consequences of emotional blackmail is always destructive. The strength of the initial refusal to cooperate Greg. your relationship with the blackmailer will never be the same.. people do not believe that their relatives and friends use this type of strategy on a conscious and deliberate.thinking about Mom alone. there would be tears and accusations. Greg was flatly refused to consider the possibility of bringing the parents to live with them.
"Erika. The male brain functions are much simpler with regard to emotions." Damian whispered in his ear: "Come on. After five minutes. We only went three times. If a man wished that his mother would live with him. I just want to know you better. after a dinner theater and much more expensive than Damian wanted to pay. sweetheart. For me. but I do not want. The trend would come right in the matter and discuss it frankly. thought it natural that she wanted to make love as much as him. Turned to Erika and began kissing her and rummage in his shirt. taking into account the pros and cons. moved away. you know you want. men require. men always occupied positions were always more powerful and more open master-mind of women. I do not feel ready. When the time comes.The blackmail seems to be the easiest way because it allows the person to avoid the confrontation. for centuries. spend the weekends away and so on. So it is not contained and asked what was wrong. please. But it is too early. I like you the truth. I like you the truth. In the third meeting. I know. Men are also emotional blackmail. And a third. I love you. May propose to build an annex in the house. "No. "Sorry. He could not understand why. I never felt this for someone else. Without enough force to impose their will. and usually women consent. and this would be the maximum of their manipulation. this is the time. to buy your partner a bouquet of flowers before you ask. for example. but was rejected. hire an escort to take care of mother. the men preferred the direct approach. he stopped the car park in a poorly lit and turned off the engine.. However. In general. or subtly asking that everyone agree with what they want. Be patient with me. Damian . there are some situations in which men often resort to emotional blackmail. meanwhile. Case study: Damian Damian came out twice with Erika. And twice in the match led a long and deep kiss before she desvencilhar of his arms and leave the car running for home. He liked to Erika and I have sex with her but the girl resisting. As Erika said that he liked it. immediately. in his stratagems and his cunning to get what they wanted." Erika. women had to rely. And their brains continue to evolve that way. but in much smaller scale.." But Erika did not seem convinced. Damian. Women prefer to emotional blackmail. Damian was getting impatient. I really like . When hunting.. sorry . he tried to take the shirt of Erika. She has helped to unbutton it and started to caress. The same happened a second time. I only make love with you. We give it so well that I want to show you how much I love you.. In the course of history. The men use the direct approach and well structured to achieve what they want. the use to convince girlfriends to make sex with them. The boys.
Common tactics of blackmail emotional The practice of emotional blackmail may be lovers.you. it is clear that you do not feel for me what I feel for you. Erika was the victim and sex. Sometimes employers can be. Here. husbands or wives.. Damian." It seemed so upset that Erika could not avoid a sense of shame." "When we fuck. women are deeply shaken when they see a man collapse. but I am not prepared. "No." Damian was crestfallen." "I will disinherit you." "If you love me. I love you. If I had said so directly." Damian shook his head." "I will leave you without a penny. do it for me. she stopped resisting and was blackmailing left to do something not wanted. Women hate men see emotionally disturbed. You will never see the children." Children: . it would not have reacted as reacted. then it is better to give people a longer time while I'm not too concerned .. But if you do not feel the same. I think you're a great guy and I spend more time with you.. This leaves the way open for Damian to want sex all the time you see... The emotional blackmail rife in families and is a practice that is transmitted from generation to generation. But I see that I am completely wrong . I always hated. Damian." But Erika. It is better if we separate. Damian was the blackmailer. I thought that you feel for me what I feel for you. Erika began to feel that perhaps the only way to convince you were agreeing to have sex. children. I like you.. though no longer absolutely clear that he liked her. Erika. Damian left implicit threat "that was ready to end the relationship if you do not get what they want... "No. What's wrong with you?" "This is what people who love to do some the other. A relationship that starts well is doomed to failure. Erika was increasingly upset. When Damian subtly accused it of not liking him. and it is natural for a man wanting to express love physically.. I thought that things were going well between us." And got the key to the car to start the engine." Lovers: "Everybody does. look. He knew exactly what were the weaknesses of the Erika and struck without mercy. the requirement. I was a complete idiot. I'm sorry. We forget that this happened. but that is how I feel." "Why are you doing this to me? You are blood of my blood!" Husbands / wives: "I can not believe you're so selfish!" "You do not love me. parents or friends. sad. I regret." Ex-partners: "I will lead you to stick to family. As expected that two people build a relationship of respect and mutual trust based on the manipulation? The emotional blackmail is not destroyed immediately combated. "No. I have hurt before . "Because ." "Of course you do not love me. Finally... " Erika Damian just having sex with that night. parents. Used to see men as strong and infallible creatures. But when he said that does not support the idea of being hurt again. I just need a little more time . And their relationship lasted two weeks. that awakens their maternal instincts and desire to help them get rid of pain. Here are some of the threats or punishment typical of the emotional blackmail that it may sound familiar: Parents: "After everything I did for you.
" argued Bemard of fifteen years. It is not fair. "But mother." "Do not you have to me and a little company loyalty?" Employees: "If you say goodbye." Employers: "You are only making things more difficult for their coworkers." Friends: "If the need were you. Case study: Julia The more grown less if the children of Julia had to go visit Uncle John. "He is alone and wants to see you." "I though . who was sick." "I always did everything for you. the children of Julia also blackmail. Do not I deserve a little fun? You do not want me to be sad. " The children can master the art of manipulation. you should not be doing your heart with us." "I'm sure the press will like to know that. mother. But look how you treat me when I need. I would have done it for you. she used the emotional blackmail." "If you do not take care of me. or in any particular activity that kept distant. or simply instruct them to do what felt right. or busy with their tasks from home. Children learn early that the emo-tional blackmail are a way to get what they want particularmen when you live in a family where parents use blackmail. If I do not do well. We do not want to go. because they had already learned the game. This is the guy they like most of the children you love me. but spent everything I had with you. I get sick and end up in hospital" "Do not worry about me . I can never go out with my friends. They must take the consequences. Julia felt powerless and trying to exercise a moral and emotional pressure on children. indifferent to the arguments of the mother. "Look. was also a specialist in blackmail. How children feel relatively powerless because of their age and size. blackmail seems to be the most effective and easy to get what they want." she said. but I have this great work of geography to . End of story. saying they were on a tour of the school. Parents who routinely try to blackmail your children must be prepared to see the spell turned against the magician.I am old and will die soon. .I have been adopted." "I never thought I would disappoint me so much. do you?" Katie. my situation may be difficult. you will need a good lawyer. he is completely deaf. will suffer the consequences. of sixteen years. In this scenario. he does not listen to what people say." But." "You've heard of sexual harassment?" What the blackmailer is saying is: "If you do not behave the way I want. I never had money. he asked the children and she felt obliged to lie."All the other parents do this for their children. he is getting old and I do not know how long it will live. Note that I have ne-le vai from the final average. The children then did exactly the same. "Oh. Instead of arguing with them calmly and coolly. You do not remember what he did for you when you were small? Mimava account and would take you two." "Make sure your name is never a list of deals. I would go with you today. In addition. "And there is very flat in his house. It has nothing to do. "you know that we have a lot of home for duty to do." In-laws: "I leave everything to a charity." she told them." "You like more of my sister than me. You want us to be disapproved. Julia felt guilty for that. Every time I visited the uncle.
The closer the relationship. but said he felt very. crying and saying that his life had been finished without him. She simply believed that after one or two weeks alone. you do not like you!" Did eighteen pounds. the greater the sense of guilt.. Camila was mad with rage. . But Stephen had changed. but nobody gives it much importance. Chrissie was able to understand the emotional blackmail of Camila and I knew that Stephen was the innocent victim. he begged to go home. Stephen began to call for more problems in the hours. Camila still regularly visiting his mother and talking about the "good times" of his relationship with Stephen. Camila was well-humored. he may return to Camila therefore been very frightened with the threat of suicide. saying it had made a big mistake and would like to meet with him to talk. but would like it to be ahead and build for themselves a new life. the more it will take a standard in the future of their relationships. Stephen did not know which direction to take. Phone begging for him to come visit her. Chrissie is not involved. kids! If your parents did not give a pound to put on my hat. The quick action of Chrissie prevented that Stephen was caught in the trap of a relationship that he wanted more. Case study: Stephen Stephen was five years ago married Camila when they separated amicably.just like when they met. But when Stephen's mother began to talk about his new wife. Then Stephen encouraged to write a letter to Camila saying you felt very strongly that. Camila secretly believed that he could never hit the step and sooner or later would see how his life was empty without her. day and night.Adults who use emotional blackmail create children who are even better in practice. which had met someone else and that I would be happy Camila too. He heard about the lack that he did. "Hey. asking for news. Tried in vain to comfort her. Stephen simply had not noticed that Camila was deliberately using the emotional blackmail to have him back and had no real intention to kill. but had agreed to the separation at the time. The more a person is allowed to emotional blackmail. saw what was happening and was in charge of the problem. But there appeared another woman. Luckily. agreed to is Stephen. Everyone felt sorry for her. Chrissie. One day we were watching a street artist in London. but had no more emotional ties. But Camila is not complied. Camila is angry. There was no chance of him returning to it. Well . At the end of their number. He felt powerless in the face of her tears. never really believed he would remain firm in that position. She knew his mother liked her as a daughter and had been razed to the separation. Camila. Chrissie and Stephen were married the following year. Stephen did not. Then she called saying that he would be killed. Began to call his mother. bewitched. Camila still enjoyed and felt affection for her. Like most women. Stephen thought it was an amicable separation. Reluctant. attractive and loving . he turned to the group of children that applauded. thinking that would be responsible. but everything was finished. Convince the mother of Stephen's family to seek Camila to tell them he was concerned about the state of it and ask them to give him attention. and guilt is the most powerful weapon of blackmail. and shouted. his new girlfriend.
" he said. In a year the boat will be more expensive and also is a good idea to buy a boat this summer. Nobody likes a cynical take on another person. we can not buy the boat now. never putting their needs above the needs of others. but this tactic works better when their women are kind of sensitive and quiet. used. but it is important to remain firm in what you want. "I do not believe what I hear. " Bob does not move: "No. Bob. " Bob made a bad pass Irene piece in the three following days. you only think of you. I never imagined that one day you would deprive them of spending the weekends with us." he said with a voice increasingly angry. She knew that Bob could drag it forever and the boys were increasingly distressed with the tension in the house. was concerned with people. Finally. Irene has supported more than one situation. When other people . There are many things we do at home. which political party is the best policy to govern the country. I was thinking about the boat. He knows it will.mostly women faced with the emotions. "Here you come again thinking only in yourself. Men like to direct discussions and arguments about which is the best time. We spend more time with the kids. the majority simply does not support. Return to work full-time and everything would be fine. Been researching and said he could buy exactly the boat I wanted at a reasonable price. "Do not you think the children? It is you who always cares to know where they are and what they are doing. Stephen was convinced from the outset that no-that would return to Camila. When Irene knew the price. me." Bob remained insensitive.The fault places the victim under great pressure. Bob bought his boat . figures and concrete realities." Bob was naughty. and you postpone the purchase of new boat for a year. . I am stressed all the time and my fishing to Saturday is the only opportunity I have to relax. but they will end up having problems. all together as a family . because they will be able to do water skiing. Exhausted. we could have both. me. which produces a beer hangover less angry. Irene was the victim of blackmail. Men deal with facts. it will use the same tactic again. "But Bob. It was a happy and loyal person. The men are not accustomed to dealing with their emotions and do not much idea of how women deal with emotion. as anyone who receives a demand for ransom or a direct threat. I work hard the entire month to earn money to support this family. Will never passes through your head that I have my needs. because the old was exceeded. Bob announced the desire to buy a new boat. and I m always done that on your own. "We can not buy it now. The essential ingredients of the criminal and emotional blackmail are exactly the same. One day.and now he wants to a berth in the marina. "I. Women know this and use for their own benefit. We must give a fun for the kids on weekends. Irene discovered a solution. It was quiet and generous. We just pay the enrollment of children and you promised I could buy a new car at the end of the month mine is a broad-old who lives breach. Men can be tyrants too emotional to get what they want. is used to refer to male rulers. her husband was very demanding and jealous. and should have left it clear. and who knows if I bought a smaller car. Case study: Irene Irene was a wonderful character. she decided to try a line: "Bob. but used to refer to the demands of others and left to state their wishes only to keep the peace. They also need that boat! " After two days of tension. " Irene was crazy. almost fainted. Irene.
Never forget . the blackmailer feel powerless. In many ways. Whenever father and mother give to an attack of anger of the children are planting the seeds of an emotional blackmailer. The emotional blackmail destroys the self-image of victim. in reality it is you who has the mastery of the situation. and offer an alternative. But while giving the impression of knowing exactly what they want and are prepared to do what is necessary to get him. This change of behavior requires persistence. The requirement: that Irene agreed to purchase a new boat. that is. it will gradually lose the self and will be forever deprived of the ability to assert itself. they knew it would work. Usually accuse their victims of being selfish. because it enabled. If you think you are a victim of emotional blackmail. His self-image is poor and does not support the rejection. to allow the children fell into bad company because of the husband was being selfish. Be ravaged by insecurity.The victim: The sense of obligation to his family. Blackmailer usually nothing more than false Roughnecks. have an attack of anger. you have to prepare for a battle long and hard. But the behavior of the blackmailer. The resistance: the attempts to Irene to demonstrate that the requirement of Bob was not practical. People always treat us the way we allow them to handle. can be modified over time. Therefore. which was built in the course of time. Without their agreement. increasingly unfair How to deal with an emotional blackmailer People who practice emotional blackmail often strong opinion and resolution u s. If you are a victim. and extending the tension in the house. Continuation: the recurrence of the tactics of blackmail on the part of Bob for the anchorage and the marina in other situations. Make its demand and. this is rarely true. Why can not argue with the objective to discuss the situation and negotiate their options. in any way accepted any portion of blame for the situation.are like emotional blackmail fanfarrões children and rude and should be treated as such. The threat: the guilt of contributing to the deteriorating health of her husband. the fear and guilt. patience and a firm purpose. which allows the blackmailer making new demands. Do not ask the blackmailer to reduce its demand and. The submission: Irene just giving. The blackmailer: Bob knew all the secrets and feelings of Irene and know their weak points. they look like rude children. imme-diately. it is important to consider in deciding whether to agree with it or will do something about it. The only way you lose that power is showing weakness. if she is not satisfied. Do not try to understand how you feel the blackmailer.all of them character-specific. . his love for children and their desire to maintain a happy home were the vulnerabilities of Irene. egocentric and without feelings . and have a desperate fear of losing what they already have. The first thing to bear in mind is that the blackmailer need your agreement to something. If they give in to blackmail.
"I see things in a different way. it is usually then that the victim assigns. Blackmailer meet people who do not retreat. you can modify the behavior of the blackmailer.Remember: you are being the victim of blackmail and that what matters is how you are feeling." ." . Never attempt to counter-blackmail. because anything you say will not be able to it. South Africa had the highest rate of rape in the world: one for each 26 seconds. it is essential that you have a stock of ready answers. Avoid countered with threats. In his book." . the choice is yours."Well. but that is how things are."I see you are not satisfied. I'm available" And stand away."I think we need to think much about it. how it emerged and strengthened further as it became a reference for many other women who . but we will discuss the issue when you calm down." ." The refusal to show weakness or immediately negotiate almost always produces a period of silence or the petulance blackmailer. insults or attack the vulnerabilities of the blackmailer. but at this point there is no negotiation. When the demands. speak of 'his good qualities. Just say: "When you want to talk. Charlene speaks of the terrible effect that the episode caused it. and few people. If the blackmailer demand make you feel uncomfortable. At that time."You're obviously disappointed. The situation must be resolved . When the blackmailer is also in the dark Sometimes the blackmailer is not aware of what is doing. With such a strategy." . but you still need to save the appearances. knowing that the goal is just to give you some relief. The blackmailer feel helpless and hopeless before the: USA. Beware. Maybe they did not occur naturally. Reaching a compromise.but only if the blackmailer is ready to discuss the problem in a civilized and rational."I regret that you feel as you prefer. During this period of silence the blackmailer. What can you tell a blackmailer . quit the conversation civilized and go. then practice them until they become part of you." . do not argue. The rape was the biggest taboo in the country.train him. We on this later. setting its borders and keep it firmly within them. A South African journalist Charlene Smith wrote a wonderful book about the night he was raped at home and helped the authorities to prosecute their abusers. Do not fight or argue with the blackmailer . especially 'the victims had the courage to talk about what was happening."Obviously you are angry. respond with silence. threats and accusations of a blackmailer to start well.
to help break the vicious circle of self and autopiedade. The fault is usually the most powerful weapon of the arsenal of the blackmailer. "We are talking about spending the rest of our lives together. perhaps best finish all at once now! The discussion was dragged for weeks." The victim may be. "She was playing the abusive behavior of their abusers ment of another way. when he discovered that he was an incorrigible liar. The attacks of them were obvious. blind with love and afraid to lose him. I am asking for both of us." he said. If you do not trust me to make a simple loan. the blackmailer can ruin the victim emotionally. the woman left the university. Charlene said bluntly that she was using the emotional blackmail to make the family suffer as she had suffered. The children cared for themselves. for our future. "I'm not asking just for me. In these circumstances it is much better for the victims of blackmail out under domestic and seek help. though not visible to the naked eye. In the end. stricken by the frustration felt unable to help her to recover. When your heart becomes a life sentence When you are first subject to threats of emotional blackmail. especially her husband and children because they felt unable to protest and resist. and asked that money in the God-given and everyone was too late. In the limit. 'psychologist or psychotherapist. But one that tried did not get its support. They were prisoners of a sense of guilt for rape. Sometimes it is necessary to use someone who is outside the sphere of emotional blackmail. . do this simple thing for me. free from emotional. passed the consequences of emotional blackmail to other family members and friends. It is very likely that this woman had no awareness of emotional blackmail to be doing with your famI1ia. the house was leaving her husband and. "But why not. It paralyzes the victim." said Charlene in Proud of Me (proud of me)." he said. as the blows that she applied to his family were much more deadly. A well known to our family by the groom was troubled to \ join him in a business transaction. demanded that her husband bought a house in another place and left to care for three children and the house. Initially. she resisted. And if the husband had stayed at home that night? And if the children had not left? Perhaps the rape had not happened. "If you really love me. as I said. initiating a vicious cycle that becomes increasingly difficult to hold. It was easy to fall into the role of blackmail. an incompetent who could not stop two weeks in the same job. Later. I had enough credit. that's the least I can wait" as a weapon to finally oblige it to accept. she agreed to sign your name on the dotted line.went by the same trauma." He used the phrase "After all we spent together. You can request the support of a friend of women's confidence or call a good adviser. "The addiction of Mary autopiedade made a slave of his attackers. After being raped. she was amazed with the reaction of the writer. unconsciously. He begged her to be his guarantor in a loan to purchase a car to work because. psychologically and financially. When contacting Charlene.
the child will feel forever prisoner and felt with his parents. abandoned the happiness of parents to care for elderly and debilitated. love and joy of living a life without guilt.Why give the blackmailer. by sense of duty. The threat of losing the love of women is easy prey to blackmail. the emotional blackmail tends to vary. she ended up drowned in debt. still paying. wherever it occurs. with no regard for specific talent or the desire of the child.are authentic and often subtle emotional blackmail . now she suspects of every man that approaches. Yielding to emotional blackmail. With the children. is always per-versa. Everyone has heard of women who. Parents also can inflict lasting scars on their children. So if after reading these stories you recognized the role of victim and cry so that she knows the reason. The emotional blackmail. service by service. But it is never too late to change the situation.that they follow certain careers. but firmly resolved to fill them with guilt when they were thinking about leaving them to build their own lives. but was long ago. . How many parents pushing their children . And what is more sad. Anyone who has ever been in the role of victim may be imprisoned the rest of your life and see all the missed chances to find happiness. As the groom.
What do you mean with 'I do not take care of you or the children? See our wonderful house.. We work. Kelly always seemed boring and Mark was perplexed. " Mark (surprised): "I can not believe what I hear. Forget about me and the children and never do anything for us. The men. I drain the family to work for the week full and you are never satisfied. lived in a lovely house. and we were at the end of their list of priorities. most at least. their relationship was problematic.. you know I love you . but in their hearts they thought things should resolve themselves. or that fits the stereotypes of marriage that everyone knows. cook.. were confused. Es-Kelly was happy to go to a therapist. the clothes and jewelry you USA.. their three children were happy and well adjusted. Women are not aware of this process. organize your life and take care of our family . in general do not discuss the last details of the contribution of each of the relationship. to take care of me and that part of family life that I need without being charged. One night when the issue arose of legal separation. and Mark Kelly led a perfect life. all this I offer to you and them! Yes.. I need a man I want. both agreed to consult a therapist for couples.. and every year spend holidays abroad.. Wash. not understanding what happened. It is as if not existíssemos. I do everything for you. I am tired of being mother and father to our children. not know the existence of that system and may be disapproved without ever coming to understand that it is wrong. While love. I work hard.. The men see only the general framework Men prefer to be watching the "framework" of . Tell me when was the last time you said you loved me .. step. work and work.Chapter 4 THE ULTRA-SECRET SYSTEM THE WOMEN OF SCORE How to ruin a man of the week For the rest of the world." Most men absolutely do not realize that women maintain a system for scoring the performance of its general partner. Mark agreed. but so that people can live well and have everything you want. was not the slightest idea that Kelly wore a special female scores to rate their marriage. like most men. The number of points that man accumulates with his partner directly affects the quality of your life. The problem was that Mark. however. you still complaining . Both calculate that the other will continue giving what is already giving that behave the same way as their parents.. desperate and afflicted with constant fights. Here's what they said to the therapist: Kelly: "Mark is hooked on work. Kelly .. When was the last time you emptied the machine to wash dishes for me? Do you know a place to wash dishes? Tell me when was the last time you took me out to dinner. " Kelly (angry): "You can not even understand. is not Mark? And I think I will never understand. Between four walls. Mark had a very good job. the excellent school for children ... When a man and a woman decide to live together. but the place inexorably. And all you do is work. " Mark (shocked): "Kelly ..
gets a point collects his laundry or says he loves the woman. For example. If the man also had a point system. men always thought it is paper size. the score-draw will do. no matter the size. If a man keep a score. He was not the slightest idea of the existence of a problem because it also maintained a system. But 95% of all points awarded in a relationship are the things that happen or stop happening every day. They are still doing things for the man because they believe in the end. Women keep lasting memories that accumulate points for years. It really is that women feel and think.life together and giving a small number of large contributions from that tangle with a number of contributions that appear less and less important. you will certainly score more. If a man buys a rose for your partner. while a dozen roses can be interpreted as decoration for the house. As most women know. The woman gives a point for this action or. But if he buys a rose every week for six weeks. but the point of view it is only five . A single rose is clearly intended for her. it would reach this point. she continues giving only one point. is structured to fine tune. If he buys her a new car or a diamond ring of your dreams. This difference is the cause of many misunderstandings between men and women. Then the man she accuses of not doing anything. working five days a week is worth at least thirty points. but when it does. Similarly. if the man paints the house. men are not the slightest idea that women attribute points in the relationship. would find that the more important the larger the share or more points this should be allocated. If he gives you a bouquet of six roses. not by size. the points are allocated by the number of shares held. In general. man can not have the custom to give his partner often. A woman can let it get to 30 to 1 before starting to complain. why women take a variety of small decisions about the intricate aspects of a relationship practice. The female brain. in turn. They simply do what they do and never think to maintain a system of scoring. secretly. When he thought that the score was 3 to 1. regardless of size. While unconscious. the man is not knowing when the relationship is tie the score. the woman gives points to every thing we do in the partner relationship. quality or the result of a single action. Regularly present shows with a single rose that is always in the forefront in his mind. it just something great. and he is surprised and upset with their accusations. that your partner will thank and support them retribuirão. For him. for example. In other words. had complained of being too giving and require that the score was tied. And suppose. The woman keeps the score and never forget.one for each day of work. also wins a point. allocate points according to the size of the action or the present. . then won six points. it gives you a point.
men give more points than women to work physically and spatially linked. She tends to put more points for small tasks. he is not remembered for having done the praise and not to put it in your list. thought it would at least ten points . We present below a summary of the partial results after thirty days. is that it never happened that the head of the woman praising the food could render points. when Brian praised by Lorraine she prepared a dinner some night. and call again when you arrive. Our experience with Brian Brian and Lorraine was a financial operator who worked long hours visiting client's building and your business. In fact. which for Lorraine earned only one point. For him. which required skill. normal. for it was only a joke. but working overtime in fact meant he had less time to stay at home doing small things. "You go to the sink and I am dropping puns on the couch. Both are described as a happy couple. For example. this was a difficult task. because the brain spatially oriented. If he had called to say that I loved her and miss her. She said. and therefore lost points. Like most men. but she only gave him four points. Brian ignored the fact that small things mean a lot to women. or that the activities had generated. His wife. He asked. despite having . When bought flowers. Not that I have forgotten. a car-so score of the contributions that have believed in that relationship and estimate the score that thought should receive the other. the more points scored. for thirty days.a third of your score staff to work five days a week . One point was assigned for each of the small-contribution and a maximum of thirty points for a major contribution to the relationship. They had also to record points lost by irritating things that your partner do. personal and intimate than the big tasks. "Good idea!". During this period could not discuss among themselves or how or when the points were allocated. For example. but only gave him a Lorraine. chocolates and champagne for her. This list indicates several things: first. and he was proud of what he has done." without realizing that this small action to surrender points." Brian thought that the more work in the office. Brian was five points by helping the child to assemble an aircraft. Lorraine. You may notice that none of them reported many negative points. is the frequency. took the house and cared for their two children. He thought he was earning extra money for a better life and that she admired for that. she thought he care more for work than for her. He just thought it was "taking care of it. We suspect that this is due to two reasons: couples who live together have a tendency to ignore the negative points or relieve the other. and when doing a test like this tend to have good behavior. but he was not aware that there were some marked. The woman usually gives to man a single point for each task home run. she gave him three points. mark at least three points.To the woman that matters is not size. We then ask that they meet every day. Working late worth five points per night in his opinion.because they cost dearly." Why not try to change position tonight? ". In see-ment. Brian won important points by small actions such as "give me his coat because I was cold.
. the resentment generated is the same on both sides. Lorraine won three points for massage the back of Brian one night. to make more money and give more comfort to the family. giving the majority of them a low score. Lorraine He felt a little distant from the birth of last child. Lorraine was granted an average of 78 points. He felt happy with the fact that scores of the relationship is very balanced. pay bills. To Brian and Lorraine. The reactions of Brian and Lorraine The weekly score of 30 points less to Brian explained that ants within a resentment of Lorraine from the previous year. cooking and making beds all worth one point each by the time she performed. What started almost as a diversion to see how men and women attach points revealed a potentially disastrous situation. while Lorraine is re-hurt the performance of Brian in public. take care of dogs. that experience was a chance to open eyes. He acted as if everything was perfect in the relationship and was not the slightest idea of how Lorraine felt. but I get reminded all the time. Brian was devastated with the result. for being at work all the time. shopping. but thought perhaps the stress of the many things she had to do. plan family events. thinking he was doing what she wanted him to do. wash the laundry. and twenty times in the two points that took the initiative in sex. giving the same to you to work fifty hours a week. She described every detail their activities. a year before. for the simple reason that she never said anything about it. so that gave him an overall score for their efforts . Lorraine stayed at home feeling aggrieved and resentful. he began working late.often heard his mother and his grandmother say that. "I'm not morose. pa-ra them and discipline them worth one point each. reading. Repetitive activities such as collecting the dirty clothes and wet towels on the floor. Therefore. The monthly score of Lorraine The list of personal activities of Lorraine was four times longer than Brian. " Complaints of Brian concerned things that Lorraine did or failed to do for him. go to the bank.thirty points. but he never does what it has to do. Brian had given a weekly average of 62 points given to Lorraine and an average score of 60 points. watering the plants. Brian never becomes a routine of Lorraine. but Brian has a weekly average of only 48 points. At the end of the experience. Aspirate the carpet. to bath the children. and Brian was working late. These lists also show that when the man and woman having sex or not. send birthday cards.
She is able to refuse to have sex now because you yelled at her two months before. praise him the look. support or advice. If the woman you think the score is for the partner. you can use the test as a guide that brings you the happiness .it better. their quality of life will have a better extra-ordinary. sometimes more. the partnership is intended to be a source of joy. We offer the test as a tool to encourage dialogue. If this happens. if each one is available to hear the honesty of the other reasons. Along with his partner.people expect you to play.rather than a pure exchange of accusations. becomes distant and angry and the couple's love life begins to wither. Take the test now The most effective solution is to maintain a permanent communication as sincere as possible. It should also encourage the man to take small gestures like that. to meet you and understand . All men are equal. unless someone specifically the piece. If you think that is against. They forget the good things that you did the previous week. and record scores for ten days all contributions to the relationship. give unsolicited advice is to say that the other person is incompetent. Remember that a woman gives a point for each activity that executes man and a score more by small things that involve emotional support. just as did Brian and Lorraine. the man has to ask what she wants him to do. happiness. If you do not ask. Only the guys that are different for us to distinguish one from another. From a man. Marilyn Monroe Men are not programmed to offer help. So she will not be resentful if the score is tie for him. Women always remember. and reward him for that. it accumulates during the long periods and never forget. put things in place to help in the kitchen and use halitol account both. But if he is aware of the importance that your partner gives small things and try to do them.The solution for the woman The woman must accept that the male brain is programmed to take care of the general framework and that the man believes that mark more points doing big things. do they think there is no problem and that the relationship is going well: The men have a short memory. Giving flowers. If the communication between partners is always the intention to adjust the relationship and ensure mutual harmony . is unlikely to say. After evaluating the results. That is how things work in the male world . as the salary to bring home or paint the room. The solution for men The woman not only to the point. That does not mean that man should work less. but forget also the positive things you did for them.
a new child. and more than 30% means that someone feels unhappy in the relationship. A difference of 15-30% shows disagreements sufficient to cause ten-sion. Abstract It is understood as the measures the other things. financial situation better or worse . When asked to Brian and Lorraine as part of the experience. Brian's answer was "Huh? Score? What is this?". he even knew that women had a score. Lorraine immediately understood what we wanted. When there is a change of situation . but most men know not. Above all. and show the things that give you more pleasure. . in which none of them feel resentful or used. A difference in score of less than 15% shows a very balanced relationship. purchasing a home. is just different. Women understand that.the score can vary and things are irrelevant in a specific context to acquire another value. use the test to keep the dialogue essential to any relationship that want to grow up happy. The partner with the score needs to balance the negative contribution. doing things that (a) partner (a) assesses to equal the score and reduce the tension. Make the test scores from time to time to ensure that the scoring is balanced. Like most men. The scoring system used by the opposite sex is not better nor worse than his.you want. to bring up what he values.
They just work differently for women. received numerous letters and emails from women that I asked more about the differences between the sexes." Hannah: "He did not say? You mean not asked?" Julian: "Well.. the children and family of Ralph.he said. the last trip abroad that he had to close a deal..Chapter 5 CLARIFICATION THE SEVEN MAJOR MEN OF MYSTERY After the success of Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love "." Hannah: "His mother is still doing chemotherapy?" Julian ." Hannah: "How is Ralph?" Julian: "Fine. not sure .. his wife Hannah was eager to learn how it was: Hannah: "So how was your day?" Julian: "It was good. Julian knew how many strokes each had. but knew virtually nothing about the esposes. no. But I did not .. and knew the make and year of car that Ralph was thinking of buying. and decided to spend the day there playing golf together.. remember the problem in the bunker.. When Julian came home at night. " And so it was. for sure he would have told me. Why men never know anything about the life of your friends? Julian Ralph did not see a year ago. Why do men avoid commitment? 3.." Hannah: "And how is his wife after a week in hospital?" Julian: "I do not know .. Why men never know anything about the life of your friends? 2. as they often think. Was aware of the struggle of Ralph with the camera site because of its real estate projects. Why do men feel the need to always be with right? 4." Hannah: "So . he did not say anything . About what men talk in the bathroom? The problem of women is that they try to analyze the behavior of men from a female and are quite disconcerted. how will his newly married daughter?" Julian: "Well .. the hole-in-one that he almost succeeds. Why are men so by sports fanatics? 7. Why both men are interested in "toys for boys"? 5. Here are the seven most frequently asked questions: 1.. Why men can only do one thing at a time? 6. The truth is that men are not illogical. but if there was a problem.
women are invariably surprised by the fact he go home without knowing anything about the personal life of anyone.the results. Solution The man does not understand why the woman wants to know every detail of the lives of their friends and acquaintances.85%. It is not lack of interest in friends. When the man comes out for drinks with friends after work. or that of his brother Ralph had a diagnosis of Parkinson's disease. but. When a man is not talking with friends and it does not mean that they fought. Men can spend hours together. The man knows all the jokes that his friend told him. as I said.. fishing. Nobody says: "Tell me co me was the day . but does not know that he separated the women.9. Rarely talk about people and their emotions. they can not do both at the same time. playing cards or watching football. Unlike women. This is because a drink with friends is just another way to look at the fire. Imagine that the friends he wanted to know something.To relieve the stress .. .To drink alcohol .5%.. When a man is watching the fire with a drink in hand.5%.To find women . sports. solutions or answers to questions or to share information about things and processes. No need to talk if there is no will. is because he is watching the fire. people talk about work. playing golf. Who was that you found . the only circumstance in which a man talks to another about personal matters is when you have a problem that can not . . and generally does not bind on feelings and emotions. Speak one at a time because their brains are organized to or speak or hear. a brand new repertoire of great jokes.5. When talk is about facts . The men did not expect that men talk much and never insist on talking.know anything more about the girl child who lived in Bangkok. He had. or that his wife was elected Citizen of the Year by the local community. A study by the University of Leeds investigated the reasons why men go to the bars after work: Why men go for a drink? . How they were?" When you talk. The male brain is fully dedicated to the "end-mind". not to mention much. however. cars and women. the other to understand intuitively and leave quietly. say. Men relieve stress releasing the brain to think of something else..
Men do not understand the concept of relationship the same way as women. female: I want to marry and form a family. Why do men avoid commitment? Commitment: verb. verb. Geoff called and asked for that he would see her that same night. male: not crush other women when in the street with his wife or girlfriend Case Study: Geoff and Sally Jodie thought Geoff and Sally would make a beautiful couple and arranged a meeting for them to meet. Then. as a last resort. it was the signal for Sally that it would start a relationship with Geoff. he asked council to a friend. Then. rather than be given by Sally gossip. Jodie called immediately and told Sally to what Geoff said. The two had a great night and exchanged phone numbers and is combined again. and Geoff realized that she did not like Mary. They left in the three weeks following the end of the film and were one or two times every week. she should immediately tell. so she invited him to go to the beach and then dinner. The story of Geoff A month had happened. Despite never having talked about a unique relationship. So if you want information about health. That left him confused. career. saying he had really liked Geoff and I know him better. do not expect that men give the answers. That is how things work in the male brain. the time spent together indicated that they now had a connection. As was expected. Ask women. When Geoff hung. But left the matter there.resolve. Mary was the lifeblood of any meeting . Geoff also called for Jodie to say the same as Sally. relationships or the whereabouts of family members or people in your social circle.a really fun person . Approached it and presented it to Mary. but Geoff was not the slightest idea that they had a special connection because it had never been spoken. The next day. They are very fun at the party when he saw Jodie Geoff. For Sally. . because Mary was a fun person. Then Geoff decided to invite Mary to the birthday party of his best friend. whom everyone liked. Sally is cut into tears because he thought that she and Geoff were going very well. He realized that there was something wrong but had no idea of what could be. .and months that he was not the route. The story of Jodie Jodie was shocked by Geoff not have asked for Sally: party but a "piranha faladeira" called Mary. That night. Geoff accepted with joy. she was not seeing anyone else. thought. Sally called for Jodie and thanked for having made them. The following week. Jodie seemed a little cold.
Therefore not argues that unfaithful men claim that they could not avoid. Geoff felt she should be in the TPM and the weekend that the crisis had passed. Only 3% of animal species. it was decided that Sally. made sense that a male had ten or twenty females. therefore. maintaining a commitment at least until your child is self-sufficient. It was the first time spoke about his feelings realized they were going in completely different directions. Wanted their freedom. wishing that she had prepared his favorite dish. that the survivors adopt the widows in their haréns. since it could only birth to a child at a time. for example. the males are polygamous for the sake of survival. He had never previously aware that they were only a couple . The brain of most species. and then in front of our friends How long are you going with it? You like it? Sleep with her? Me responds!" Geoff was not believed in listening. But when Sally opened the door. He spent the following three hours trying to explain the problem with Sally. are monogamous. well. seek a hospice. From the survival of the species. he does not know which are not there with him and not show or a tenth of that devotion to her? During almost the entire time of existence of the human race. Sally wanted a compromise with Geoff. not only with him. saw that she had been crying and I was bored with it. Women often admire that men may have an almost religious feeling with a soccer team... especially when it lost. but is visibly emotional and passionate when your team plays. it is something that is programmed into his psyche. If you want a faithful man.. Mae West The woman believes that she is "out" with a man for some time and none of them are . So they decided to remain friends but that would not further to bed . "How could you do this to me?" She whimper. but had no sense that a female had ten or twenty males. This is why men delay to the maximum 'commitment to take the woman and are so difficult to maintain a monogamous relationship.think Sally went with other guys. They had choice. For women. The man is able to hide their emotions and feelings of the woman he loves. which also increased the chance they could pass their genes. but they are rarely willing to invest the same amount of emotional energy in a relationship with them. fox and geese. There was little to offer because many men died in hunting and war. Was speechless. But we differ from other species in the sense that our brains evolved and developed large frontal lobes that enable us to make decisions about what we want and we do not want to do. ". But Geoff was not ready to take it.. Was reasonable. is not programmed for monogamy.Cards on the table Geoff was eager to review Sally. including humans. How can he be so stubbornly loyal and devoted to a bunch of players flustered and not necessarily bright.
dedication and loyalty. If you want to go. men have evolved hunting animals and making war on enemies. But for most men. as happened with Geoff. now they are dating. There are several ways to do this. where there are no rules. When Sally has complained about "What were you thinking?". attention and much sex. must learn and respect the rules of the road . Not only is it men do not know read my mind. The man tends to be direct and make a woman know whether or not a special and unique relationship. A woman should ask what your partner feels it and wants you to go to the relationship. Repeat: men can not read minds. it grabs you by the balls. They have not the slightest intention of stealing the freedom of man. men avoid it because they think that compromise the woman will steal them the freedom and they will end up weak and powerless. you must give something in return. At the same time. "When you undertake. because there is a special connection. because now it is who controls the handcuffs. To be frank it is a sign of respect. instead of just waiting timidly to the man understand the situation. the more likely it is that the plug does not fall. A relationship is nothing more than a negotiation with rules . do not want to give up anything. and not trying to understand them or being sensitive to their emotional needs. Having a relationship is to take driver's license. he speaks of freedom to come and go as you want. Solution The idea of establishing an ongoing relationship potentially never passed by the head of Geoff. The answer would be: he was not thinking anything.with other people.otherwise. Never assume therefore that you are having a special relationship before discussing it with someone else. And respect is what the woman must have by itself. will always be a pedestrian." they laugh. and how many women want to have. it can play. If you have difficulty to speak directly. What women want in return is love. now they are dating. however. not to speak when not to.if you want love. In short. Pressed to explain." In general. he wants everything. is that most of them is not very sensitive to the state of mind of women. When the man says that commitment means losing freedom. Remember. like Geoff. "You can say goodbye to 90% of your sex life!" And also the warning in general welcome the singles: "You have to ask permission even to sneeze. Otherwise. When a woman suspects this. She must learn to be honest and direct. friendship. You can also say how good sex and agree close. this is a strange concept. The only way to live life in complete freedom is alone in a desert island. he wants love. it is difficult to know what specifically is he talking about freedoms. What most men think It is a universal custom among the men playing friends saying that the marriage or the permanent relationship with a woman one of them is a clear sign that the life of the unfortunate end. not have to be accountable for their actions or justify their behavior. sex and someone to take care of you. she needs to say clearly that the man of her point of view. exercising its right to clarify the situation for two and choosing the type of relationship you want to establish . saying for example that is happy to prepare a dinner for him. they now have a special relationship.
the heroes of boys rarely make a mistake and never show weakness or emotion. These super-heroes as partners seem to prefer a dog or a horse. That is why. In-a-Ledger. of course. Their eyes. Batman. rarely fail to fulfill its task. The differences grew . reducing the pressure on him. and men usually are defensive or aggressive before the mere suggestion. they separated. If different from his. As we have seen. Case study: Jackie and Dan Jackie wanted to stop working and have a son. The man finds hard to say "Sorry" or "sorry" because it is wrong to admit. Dan thought. when a woman asks the man is saying or doing. One day.three months later. or call a technician to fix the tap. Dan saw the thing in a way completely different. Jackie wanted to help Dan. leaving the relationship under huge stress. When the child reaches adulthood. James Bond. Go to a seminar on relationships. Some of them had a partner. To seek a financial adviser. because animals are loyal. not cry and be good at everything they do. This subject has been a source of major disagreements between the two. when it appeared. is what happens when a woman wants to ask the way. all male loners who never complained of problems but. Married me with Mr. I hoped he was happy that it is taking responsibility to look for someone who could work with him. Dan could not believe what was hearing: Jackie wanted someone else to solve their problems! Obviously. she thought he was not able to do their own accounts. His models are: SuperMan. make it clear that she thought he was wrong about the household finances and seek counsel to prove he was .with your partner. reliable. was an assistant who had more problems than anything else. is conditioned to think that not being able to do something or solve a problem means to be a failure as a man. as if she were weakening or denouncing their incompetence. Spider-Man. He might not hesitate to give her a book of recipes for a birthday present. rather. the more likely it is that he is offended. and very rarely a woman. Why do men feel the need to always be the reason? To understand this characteristic of modern man. And. You imagine that she is trying to say that it is not so good way. Like most male stereotypes of books and movies. but Dan felt that they were not financially prepared. he reacts defensively. are always behind solutions. or a therapist. Zorro. usually a man less and less important. The heroin is usually a Barbie with anatomically impossible breasts. we need to examine their education. Jackie announced that Dan had made contact with a financial adviser to have an accurate assessment of their household finances. but if the woman gives him a book of this self-help. never meet them or say they are wrong. Boys have to be tough. to resolve what is best for her. Not only knew his first name was Always. The comics also depict the macho tough guy as a person endowed with huge muscles and possessor of a voice rough and deep (much testosterone). amounts to a humiliating admission that he is wrong.
he protested: "Do not trust me?" In all these situations. " In other words. instead of blame him. It seemed something of a space shuttle exit. If he is angry with the neighbor's dog barking at night. the size of a miniature television. you can be sure that insulted the manhood of man. but the signs of these streets are very confusing. He led three batteries that need to be replaced throughout the week. can not resist putting in four or five clips on a sheet of paper. Had a transparent plastic box. Solution Since the man in general have these characteristics. the man thinks that women's council to hear tantamount to hear what is wrong and does not deserve her trust. he responds: "You think I am not able to deal with this problem right ? If you are a party and she warns. and all laugh of contentment. you are the best ways to discover! You do not trust me? The most common phrase of men whose actions are challenged by the women is: "You do not trust me?" When you hear that phrase. He complains of being all the time trying to control it. we'll have to present a paper stapler moved the battery.Like any other staples. And is so offended that she begins to think that perhaps it is really kind of controller. Instead of saying what he did wrong. the woman is the problem for you. When the visiting friends. dear. the answer it is the same: "I was just trying to help!" She thinks is showing love and concern for him. but he sees trying to say what is wrong and is unable to solve things yourself. only to see and hear the movement of the gears. She can say "You're doing fine. the stapler is round. afraid to fight there. which left see all the gears and discs moving inside. it would be good to say: "Honey. giving the impression that considers incapable. . Any woman that does not visit a minimum for the stapler. When the man hit the woman should welcome it. saying not to drink too much. I feel better if we stop to ask someone here what is the right entry. But Gerry was crazy with joy with the aparelhinho and said that sometimes when you wake in the morning and through the stapler on the table. Why both men are interested in "toys for boys"? When our friend Gerry made birthday. should make clear what she is feeling. When he arrives at the destination. says it will complain and she asks you not to do it. instead of saying "You never know the way and we always come back!". For example.incompetent or insufficiently reliable. but all that did was put staples into sheets of paper . the woman should avoid driving to it in a way that it felt wrong.
nuclear. Female Male Call a fireman without first consulting the man of the house can be interpreted as a serious insult. tests one or two mechanical Sanders. the man who refused the help of a firefighter to repair the defective vessel closes the record and dismantle the facility. On Saturday afternoon (after the game). but get angry when you call someone suggested to complete the work. the men's space needs can be frustrating for women because. just because ". portable GPS devices. space and anything that has the remote control. At home. The hardware store has closed and he could not open the . This includes all kinds of video and computer program.. Men love the challenge to build models of sailing vessels. mechanical.is the brains of the hunter. Then go home and find that size is not one. Boys are boys from the shops. Areas of the brain used to play football. examining all the toys that might have space. Find out what appears to be a carrapeta spends and goes to the hardware store. rifles with telescopic sights night. aircraft. If the washing machines come with remote control. In general. it is likely that men are interested in to wash the clothes. Fofinho was so that I could not resist. they leave unfinished projects around the house whole.the parts dark . 2001. Institute of Psychiatry in London. Due to the propensity of the brain space men. Men are the agents of cars and stores equipment and products Make-You-Even where they can find things to do. shelves and anything that has a set of instructions.which are active when a person from USA spatial skills. build or do work. angles and distances .They all admired to see the excitement of men with a aparelhinho so expensive that only runs a task beyond the trivial. drive cars. But it is the male equivalent of the tendency that women have to pay exorbitant prices for imported teddy bear. It is about 45 minutes walk by the store. motor boats. they do not just fix the broken things. engines or movable components that make sounds. cars with panels complicated. computer spreadsheets. and thus meet its space needs. back up and operate mechanical." It is easy to explain why the sexes react so differently to these things. electric trains. but most do not know where you are carrapeta old. as the concentration of the average man has a range of nine minutes. The space industry of the brain that is used to estimate speeds. try a drill pressure and finally find what appears to be a carrapeta of appropriate size. men and boys are fanatics for anything that has buttons. The following images show the areas of the brain .. Projects Do-You-Even The whole bunch of products Make-You-Even faces towards the space area of the brain male. as they are indecipherable. have lights blinking and the battery is moved.
If the car makes a strange noise. The cable that connects the right and left hemispheres of your brain. Today most new companies are founded by women. Never give you flowers and nice cards. .of "toys for boys" . Most women do not understand why men seem able to do only one thing at a time. why can not the man? Why he always turns off the television when the phone rings? Women around the world complain in unison: "Because he can not hear what I'm saying while reading the newspaper or watching television?" The reason is that the human brain is compartmentalised and specialized. the corpus callosum. If you are working with a sharp tool and the phone rings.the excellent performance of that natural ability.registration until the issue is resolved. though not the slightest idea what you are looking for. In simple terms. Remember: never talk to the man when he is doing a beard. Their hope is that it is a problem to be absolutely clear.are recorded by men. Understand that mentality "one-thing-in-every-time" is one of the most important things a woman can learn about the men. Instead. This concentrated focus allows men to become great experts. The only difference that exists between men and boys is the price of their toys. A woman should never call a fireman. unless you hurt him! And do not try to resolve any issue while he attends the TV. if he is just calling a fireman. each with at least one primary function operates independently of the rest. That is what gives the approach "one-thing-of-every-time" to everything he does in life. will find that solved the problem myself. probably miss the exit. because in most cases. Thus. Ninety-six. it should tell you what it considers necessary. percent of the technical experts of the world are men . these things mean much less to him Why men can only do one thing at a time? In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? Presents a thorough study on why the male brain is so singularly focused: what it described as "single track". even during the commercials. ask your opinion and give it a run. but 99% of all patents . you will discover that he is almost deaf. If he is in clover road and someone directed him to speak. Seeing the images of the brain of a man who reads. If a woman can read while listening or talking. he raised the hood and will take a look. portamo. technician or any computer in space qualified man before consulting his own man. There is a lesson here: always give the man a toy of this spatially related. nobody will ever be able to bathe or use the private sector. The response of readers to this issue was so overwhelming that we will summarize it here it again later. She explains that men lower when the radio or read a map when they march to the defendant in the car. you run the risk of injury. financial consultant. builder. it is as if he had salinhas throughout the brain. is on average 10% thinner than the female and carries about 30% fewer connections between the two hemispheres.
even while it is active sleep. This is the main reason why 96% of personal assistants of the world are women. following a new recipe and watching television at the same time. Between 1800 and 1900 were invented almost all modern sports with ball. She is able to talk on the phone. It is as if the woman was in some way genetically apparently with the octopus. As we have seen.even the men hunt and women also care for children. discuss an issue at a time and adhere to it until all these men are satisfied with the solution. Seeing their heroes in the field. And most important.The man has two times more likely than women to engage in a car accident while talking on a cell phone. therefore. the goals they most marked and tactical errors they committed. The girls use dolls as a practice of caring for children and the boys kicked and pursue balls as practice for hunting. fantasy that he is giving himself to the mark and kicks goals. crawling and using their spatial skills to get food. They verbally insult the referee (although the referee can not listen to the l) when disagree with a mark: "You think this is missing? Your asshole You need glasses!" Can remember the scores. you better go outside dining. . After that England won the World Cup of 1966 against Germany. recalled with vivid detail goals in marked departures held for many years and almost come to tears when discussing what the player should have done and the result which should have had the game. In reality. The best strategy. The sports to which man is part of a group of hunters. chasing. men caught in groups while women receive food and care of children. there was one man in the country who do not know the color of escalation of the team. and they urram of pleasure when the striker is the goal. In business. But if a man is following a recipe to prepare a dish and you want to chat with him. His brain calculates the speed. if you want a good result free of stress. the modern replacement of the activities of hunting. and then pass to the next question. the angles and directions of the ball. The brain images show that the woman's brain never shuts off. The men ran. 'f women swap their dolls for children. As a devoted fan of your soccer team. is always given to man to do one thing at a time. man may again be a member of a band of hunters. The woman's brain is configured to perform multiple tasks. As adults. most women can do many things not related to each other at the same time. never ask questions to the man during sex. Why are men so by sports fanatics? For thousands of years. You can turn auto-mobile. but men still kicking balls. nothing much has changed in thousands and thousands of years . The men are so excited when they watch football because they feel as if they were playing the game. makeup and to listen to radio as a live-voice speech.
shop or start your own hobby. discuss the clothes they are wearing and the other. which rarely occurs in their affective relationship. she leaves. but they still do not know the names of his nieces. The second option is to use his obsession for sports as a positive opportunity to be with their friends.This is a formidable skill. with family. it does not happen in your work. They are so obsessive with the steering wheel. The men no longer have any clear model to follow and clear specifications of what is expected of them. conversely. Do not fight the sport or hobby of your man. and he feels victorious when your team wins. Solution If your partner is a sports maniac or a hobby. First. " The world has now become a confusing place for men . When watching the struggles of boxing. It is also why men prefer to buy a new set of golf clubs than a dining table is very necessary. angles. changes in motion and stationary are in motion to reverse the sky of every man. Drive car is almost entirely a spatial ability. and . I will miss her a lot. Men may be taken by intense emotion when watching sports. Learn what it can about the interest and become understood. About what men talk in the bathroom? We answer the first question male universal: "What women talk together when they go to a public bathroom?" The answer is: about everything and about everyone. get involved. This explains why men engaged in activities which are repetitive or just those who give more importance to sports. The place where they are compared with others which have been. too. who they like and dislike. moves.their primary brain skills started to be largely superfluous and the women are attacking from all sides. Speeds. "My wife told me that if I drop the obsession with my soccer team. who are friendly and attractive men. nephews. which can spend hours on end in front of the TV watching other men guide car race. those who consider their work exciting and rewarding are less interested. neighbors and the door or the date on which commemorates the Mother's Day. Add to it or use the time to do something positive for yourself. If you still do not find interesting but want to follow it is always possible to find other women in the same situation and make new friends. you have two options. Sport is an activity in which man can feel again a member of a group: there no one criticizes or tries to modify it. Go with him to an event and you will be surprised to see the amount of other "widows of the sport" that also attend and enjoy the social aspects. come to bend and give the impression of feeling the pain of fighter hit by a low blow.
A nightclub in Birmingham.any personal problem that they or friends are living. Any woman who seems distressed receive group therapy .. Bathrooms are a network of women in waiting rooms and counseling centers where you can meet new people and interesting. what are you doing? " I thought: 'How strange . ever under any circumstances.." . looking at the front. 'Listen . the first in choose in the bathroom farthest from the door. asking the odd passing toilet paper under the door.. Let us return now to the original question: what men talk in public restrooms? The answer is: nothing. traveling to the North! " Oh I heard the guy say. how are you?" Like any man.. to more important and profound conversations. and still do not know what got into me when I decided to respond with a constrained 'All right! " The other guy said. but. to get away from those who arrive. nervous. Never. and chooses the next which is midway between the two. Even among close friends. men prefer walls of floor to the ceiling to limit the interaction with neighbors. while women prefer large vain to talk and move objects from one booth to another. your eyes will never cross. Never. Are rarely hear a fart in a female bathroom. If there is a row of five urinals. said:' The same as you . the conversation is minimal. Men urinate in silence. In cabins. I went to the second.. Do not talk to other men when they are sitting in the pot. What comes then choose which is further away from the first man. Men never talk to strangers in public restrooms. put a stop to go to the bathroom. England. and when it happens. Absolutely nothing. 'Hey. As the first booth was busy. While retouch.'.. the culprit is hiding in the cabin to check out. 'So . with two vessels in each of health. They do not talk... Scarcely had I sat when I heard a voice coming from the booth next to saying.. and never talk to strangers. Never. The motto of the men is: "Better death than a visual contact. cosmetics divided up among themselves and even with strangers. discuss techniques and different types of makeup products. like an idiot. I have to call you later. I never talk to strange men in bathrooms of post road. In the men's room if no one bothers with it. Here is a letter from one of our readers shows the reason that men of silence that reigns in the bathroom of men: "During a trip.. The fourth man generally feels better to use the booth to be standing next to a stranger who can look at it. and two women is not uncommon-they share the same cubicle in order to continue the conversation. came to install booths in the bathroom wider female. and when urinate. because it has an idiot in the booth next to answer my questions! " Men also have a territorial ritual to choose the urinal. and God help the man that the plague! Women sit in the pot and talk with other women through the wall.
the king decided that the couple was cut in half so that each stay with their part. and are always characterized witches co-mo.Chapter 6 THE OTHER WOMAN His mother Two women were presented before the r ~ i Solomon dragging a young man proposed marriage to her two daughters. What most of the mothers of the wives want more than that any thing. or simple megeras nosy. The first woman agreed. "this shows that it is the real parents. but the second said: "No." warned the king's advisers. the most likely cause is the refusal of the father in giving of their precious "princesinha. but most men do not come to disappoint them. cremate or embalm. even irritating. taking the blame for more than a third of the separations." "But she wanted to see it cut in two. I answered: "Sure . it is unlikely that parents cause problems. An old Polish proverb says: "The path to the heart of the parents is the child. It is worth recalling that Lenin. The parents of a man can claim him. "Yes. Our research found. many times. And if the man makes a woman happy. is to see her daughter happy.provide all three." said Solomon. said: "Staying with the two parents. do not run blood! Let him to marry the daughter of another woman. the mother of the man is the real danger." Most men know that." Difficult in-laws are not a problem for most men.they are not cause for laughter." What is the difference between a mother-in-law and a vulture? The vulture waiting for you dying to devour your liver. a founder of modern Russia. Problems with parents not dominate the lives of men. And when the man has problems with in-law. irritated him. "Today I received an email warning that my parents had died and asking if I would have to bury. But almost no jokes with in-laws . when asked what should be the maximum penalty for bigamy. ." The wise king did not hesitate: "The man must marry the daughter of first wife. it is usually the mother of women the major cause of problems." The dragon enter the scene Probably the mother-in-law jokes inspire more than any other category of the planet. De-because of the stories they hear. But if on the one hand the parents is a problem in the marriage of many people.
clean and working all the time. Anita: "Tom. Can cause unhappiness. which shows that about 50% of parents are seen as the creators of the case also shows. you are a pig. move." "How did you guess so quickly?": He asked. she mimou you.His mother . A search of the University of the State of Utah. affectionate. rather than just one. I believe it cost to the teacher. He said he wanted to know if she was able to guess which of the three women was his future daughter-in-law. in home pen. the mother replied: "It's a redhead. ultimately. Anita This led to the point of collapse. You are so thorough that it is me crazy! In my home was never like this.the burden it The real tragedy of most families are caused by the mother of the man. After examining each one carefully. anguish and. And she replied: "Because I was not with her face. Although not all parents are given by the fame. Case study: Anita and Tom They had been married only six months when cracks began to appear in your happiness. let's talk about your mother. I can not live with you more!" Tom: "No. But came together with three women . After living six months with you. Arranged a dinner. invasive and possessive. that same night to his mother to know. you can be absolutely disastrous. The parents are often responsible for defects and emotional problems of their children and Norasia. in the worst cases. Your ." They are not all bad Clearly. The mother asked why he brought three. you have no respect for women. Anita. neutral. that the other 50% are seen as helpful. A man met a wonderful woman and her boyfriend was. yes. Transformed all the rooms. divorce. for many parents Norasia a nosy. not all parents deserve the reputation of evil. the parents of the wife.a blonde. My mother never complained to me or anything that I did! " Anita: "So okay. generous and. cook. the problem is you. a brunette and a redhead. You think the woman has to wash. Polls conducted by the University of Utah shows that more than 50% of marriages are real problems between the husband and mother nora. Actually. which refuses to cut the umbilical cord with your child. Anita thought it was becoming impossible to live with Tom. The crisis involving the parents of women often seem impossible to manage and insoluble. He left his clothes and playing space-lhadas the towels on the floor.
The parents are often put aside after the marriage. She felt used and offense.. unless he has developed a strong relationship with Nora. Is he eating right? Is that his house is well cared for? Etc. Case study: Mark and Julie Mark and Julie decided to marry. Why be parents is sometimes difficult? It is important to be aware that parents occupy a difficult position. The parents are always connected to the child. detached and friendly.everything we have done with his own mother if things were different. the most effective in this case is training him to do what she wants him to do. It is normal for a girl seeks the support of the mother. mother of Mark. The son and daughter-in-law must face the situation in a mature and open. or at the other extreme. especially when he is single and her life is dull. But for every problem there is a solution. it is as if two women disputing one man. The girl almost always strives for the love to build a good relationship with the mother of the boy. etc. because having her along as it is a good strategy. When the marriage makes the situation more. immature. The complexity of the situation lies in the fact that there are three people involved in this relationship. Suddenly. " Tom: "What my mother has to do with it? Why did you change the subject? Why not stop blaming everyone except yourself?" Many mothers spoil the future at a very early marriage of their children. selfish and emotionally unstable. because the Norasia usually maintain close ties with their mother and talk with them regularly. Shortly before the wedding. when in fact they are creating a serious problem in the future relationship with their wives. Julie and her mother Sarah was not talking about three years ago. Life today is increasingly . Due to a disagreement. In addition to washing. the menu of a wedding party and all arrangements of practice . France was no longer needed and was put aside. This is a really complicated problem for the partner. to help her choose the wedding dress.mother and I created a monster I'm no longer tolerate this. But instead of criticizing and blaming his mother. to protect them. Receiving little information. but Julie found her mother with the help of Mark and they resumed their relationship. not the parents. It is now an adult who should be responsible for their actions. believing they are showing them your love. the parents begin to feel excluded from the new family and the child may find that the only way to participate is forcing way and is doing this. cooking and go for them. about every little detail. The mother wants to be involved in their children's lives. But the children rarely talk to their mothers about what it is. possessive. two or even three people can be jealous. All three people can be emotionally balanced. Just be willing to resolve it. dependent. So Julie is highly supported in France. independent. one.. This can create jealousy in the mother's partner. How is the mother around the nora usually forget that the mother of your husband is so important to the family unit as its own.
In business. But thought it strange that her boyfriend not to take his place. accusing it of trying to create problems between her and her son. He drank more and did not de-link the minimum for the family. Bernadette denied. because neither of them had parents. The problems began when she and Richard returned from honeymoon. Diana tried to be friendly. The view of Diana Adam and Eve were the happiest and luckiest couple in the world. we use the mail to meet the need of communication. Bernadette appeared almost every day. to repair the tap to talk about a problem or to take her shopping. I used to laugh when the future mother-in-law commented that perhaps they are not ready for non-marriage and could change your mind at any time. Only presented to his mother after the announcement of the engagement. Richard and Diana Bernadette had just over forty years when the left-of Mari. now was the time to take account of it. only for sex. Perhaps it is difficult for the next generation deal with their parents. it takes some effort to maintain unity in family life .she thought . Bernadette was not particularly receptive. But she still had her son. Diana began then to avoid the parents. When the ceremony was. to take care of the garden. "I was late!" She said to friends. but eventually grew tired of listening Bernadette tell you how to prepare the favorite dish of Richard. Case study: Bernadette. Logo Bernadette began openly insulting Diana when Richard was not around.would be difficult to find a woman equal. She created with all the care. but Diana found that it simply needed time to adapt. as he liked the tidiness of the house. Bernadette thought Richard was not interested in girls. comfort and emotional support for this . Parents need attention and the children need time for their own family. and put the fault in almost everything she did. and even in daily life. The madcap who sometimes left him were. .over-charged. Soon after. Richard knew that as she created. She asked when he would come "in house" to paint it. to be clear. When family members live in distant neighborhoods. telling everyone what you thought would not last. but the two sides need to understand and find solutions to ensure the happiness of all. Richard. without any consideration for the needs of Diana. but Bernadette phone every night to stay talking long together with Richard. How many parents are required to change a light bulb? A. with less time for human contact. and when the big wheel is complaining with her husband. for example. Diana has realized that it had inherited from a mother-in-law Hell. Their demands seemed to have no end. For Bernadette. Diana liked that Richard knew him. But the last generation only knows the phone and personal meetings to communicate. Bernadette became a problem. Richard was now fully at its disposal. He was a good boy of 22 years and watch it. so completely unexpected. cities or different countries. nourished and loved since birth. She is holding waiting for the world turn around.
Bernadette took account of the situation. It became obsessive with Travis. He loved the woman. With male your brain programmed to problem solving. It became possessive for Travis. But Diana did not seem prone to a little or ask advice. constantly criticizing Diana. The mother always told him that his father does not provide for anything and now he was the man of the house. Bernadette was the first to offer to help by washing the clothes and taking care of the baby. The last thing that a woman needs is a complaint that her parents with the son. It was a burden. But there was one problem: every night his mother call him a lengthy conversation. as it feeds his ego. When this is true. In the end. it is that would see her on weekends and helped with the house. and so Richard thought that the advice of his mother would be fundamental. The man may feel happy to have two women disputing its possession. Create a child was a novelty for Diana. only. Travis was the first son of Diana. The wife must have sufficient wisdom to take control of the situation and ensure that problems are dealt with between it and the parents. Filled it with care and affection. . putting it in the neck all the time they were together. Solution Nora and parents need to build a loop to run their lives. to have a life free of stress. Nora and parents need to adjust their relationship without involving the son and husband. Bernadette lived with and was discussing it with Richard complaining. preparing their favorite dishes. immature and ciumenta. just at the time he began to relax. And started to think that life would be less complicated if I went back to single. The views of Richard Richard lost his father to divorce. but she was crazy with their explosions. More than once Diana tried to discuss the problem with Richard. When Travis was born. made his bed. What is the difference between a pit-bull and a mother-in-law? The pit-bull just dropping you.Two years later. collected and washed their clothes and not criticized because it felt just wonderful what he did. Bernadette was always around. but he said that Diana was being possessive. helping in something. but he thought the mother should be feeling alone and that he had a responsibility towards her. and Diana felt prisoner and unfortunate. helping with the baby. Women do this naturally. Once Richard and Diana got married. Instead. Bernadette was him taking his own son. Diana began to feel excluded. but Diana seemed so enciumada of the husband's relationship with the mother that no longer appear. but things were definitely more calm at home. Diana and tired of discussing it in a anger deaf closed. selfish. to overlive in caves. everyone wins. Richard thought he was just working hard all day and still have to resolve disputes between your wife and your mother when you get home. and that his mother was only trying to help. Bernadette was soon back to life nora physically every day. and continue to need in the modern world.
The problem therefore is Diana and Richard. If during the time of her dating book all their attention to the fiance. In the case study above. later is very difficult to establish a productive discussion between the three parties. not matured. Bernadette apparently has no problem. Richard never cut the umbilical cord that connects to your mother. is the big wheel that as a matter of survival. take our privacy and in-progress plans are constantly perplexed. What is important is that in that relationship. . she combines sympathy and firmness. is my responsibility to help her. If the answer is "Yes". The difficulty is in fact a big wheel.This is a common tragedy. happy and loving? . The best time to cut the umbilical cord is birth. leaving not intimidate. . it is advisable to couple therapy.Bernadette call every night.My mother is alone and it is up to us supports it. . . She had permission to continue controlling Richard.Bernadette arrives without warning. husband and wife. As. a person be more girl. . will pay a high price later.Both recognize the existence of problems? .Bernadette interfere too much. When problems appear since the beginning of the relationship. when you know the future mother-in-law. When it leaves the problems of marriage take root. but also not wanting to impose their views.My mother tries to help Diana. .Bernadette does not respect my ability and hope that it meets Richard as a child.the son and daughter-in-law. for example.I do not understand why my wife and my mother is angry all the time. It is important that she spend some time just for parents. but Diana refuses to divide Travis and receive useful advice on motherhood.You have a long life together. leaving the part of parents. but Diana did not care about that. that because it is not enough time with the family. . when all I want is to be with them.Bernadette requires too much attention to Richard. first questions they need answered are: . . generally immature and unprepared for the problems that inevitably arise. Diana could write: . .They want to solve the problem? If the answer to any of these questions is "No".My mother is not a man at home to do small services. must take the initiative to build the bridge. staged in families around the world. He actually "still" have not left the house. husband and wife should sit down and put on paper what they think is the problem. wanting to dictate the rules in our house and the creation of our son. for this to see how a person with life itself. could write: . the problem must be resolved by the parties most affected . not simply as the wife of the child. Richard. through whom she controls Diana and Travis.My mother makes me feel guilty when I do not answer your requests. In this stage. in turn. just in time for this-we enjoy our moments of family living. Hardly one of them will accept what he seems to be an alliance between the other two. and Diana does not understand that as a child.
Diana has to be firm. such as joining a club of retired. having lived always within limits set by other people. Must thank Bernadette for attention. are not firm in setting its rules. Me and my parents were happy for twenty years. Bernadette must be trained. but said that she and Richard receive guidance of pediatricians to the development of Travis. is that it needs to encourage the mother to develop activities outside the family. and generally believe that the family members are only trying to help with his advice. Bernadette did not exceed a limit set. as Christmas gift or birthday.Diana is also responsible. have a group of reading. With regard to Travis. Richard and Diana might even offer to pay for services for an entire year. Richard really has responsibility to help the mother. The three should discuss the matter in a time when emotions are low. Bernadette feel rejected and hurt. by her . they do not understand the risks. Until we know it. By not putting limits on Bernadette when the problems started to appear. after which he must tell Bernadette that has things to do and say goodbye. albeit unintentionally. then why not put limits on Bernadette too? Diana says Bernadette arrives without being asked and without warning. on the border of privacy. Set limits and be firm are two key lessons that the newly married couples need to learn. Richard and Diana do not have of it and left to set limits when they married. is important to Richard and Diana show a real interest in "new" life of Bernadette. Inexperienced. but in agreement with Diana. Richard. to excursions. doing courses and voluntary work in hospitals or welfare organizations. Diana should explain that she and Richard need a time of privacy to relax and take care of common projects and unannounced visits that may interfere. lines that they can not overcome. Know where to go. Maybe the solution would get a "factotum" and give him the phone Bernadette. as the visitor is a person dear. but here is a question of limits. and they intend to follow it. must limit the duration of phone calls from their 'mother to. in agreement with Diana. the most important of all. say. ten minutes. When set limits. it actually allowed the parents invade your marriage and your family. therefore. but this is a problem that it must overcome. How to set limits Establish rules and set limits means tracing lines that should not be exceeded. The problem will diminish significantly if the visits are only permitted where previously combined. This is a trap in which young people often fall very easily. We need to know that she should call before they appear. It is natural that Bernadette would Richard take care of the problems of her house. If Richard and Diana have limits in their marriage. however. people know that their transgression will bring problems. Quite understandably.
just like your father. It is vital that during all the conversations. None of this is easy and requires a lot of the couple's determination and persistence. There will be tempting to abandon it." Such tactics. They have to explain or justify their decisions. that the affection is preserved. especially if the reaction is stronger than expected. You've seen flying snake? Then try playing your parents through the window. ie taking care of Travis. mature and happy."You are selfish . whether to live an independent life. Maybe even threatens disinherit them. If you could convince your parents to walk fifteen kilometers a day." ."After everything I did for you!" . We need to keep it abreast of the family. It is not easy.own gain momentum." ."When I die you will be sorry. encouraging it. Bernadette will be boring at first and probably react with emotional blackmail and statements such as: . Richard is resolved to maintain her marriage and awareness of evil that causes the interference of the mother. If sympathy and love to face the task of setting limits to Bernadette. the two problems can be solved."I feel so alone now. while building a life. I examined all the possible reactions and are prepared to deal with it. only work if you allow. after a single week she would be 105 kilometers away."Do you not care more for me. make it clear. if we are committed to maintaining a harmonious relationship and happy. . but they should not do it. it is only to ensure the happiness of the three. there is no aggression. A person can only make you feel guilty if you agree to accept the blame. a solid and enjoyable adult relationship can develop. The next stage of the reaction of Bernadette is probably refuse to help."Who else can I use?" . Just as the couple set limits and make the meet. It is important that they continue taking care of Bernadette and supporting it during this phase. only reaffirm that the path that is decided then. I discussed the matter several times. Reactions are predictable. but Richard and Diana have to say. however strange it may seem to Bernadette . But you know what is right to do what you're doing. through words and attitudes." . which are emotional blackmail.
Why do women always want to talk about problems? 3. Women do not need a reason to talk. when to collect leaves (shopping) and still talk all the time. women did all the time. and when caçavam fishing. we collect and record answers to research on how men and women to communicate and use the science of human behavior to explain their differences. I just leave the lamp. so as to remain united. To rub it to remove the dust. "I will grant you one wish. Consequently. when you leave to hunt or fish. Why women want to know the smallest detail? 'Why do women talk so much? The huge capacity that women have to talk is something that most men are extremely difficult to understand. Why women exaggerate? 4. we check each item with a woman next to you. These are the questions: 1. When you engage in any activity. And the modern woman. appeared a genius. avoided talking to not scare the prey." The archaeologist thought for a moment and replied: "I want a bridge with a Autopista connecting England to France!" The genius goggle and mutter: "Hey. a new level of relationship with the opposite sex comes up. Meanwhile. You idea of the distance that exists between England and France? Is an engineering impossible! Make another request! The man reflected for a moment and asked: "I wish I could I communicate with women. men. Why women talk so much? 2. I'm tired ground. we present here only a brief summary. these secrets are both a source of amusement and confusion. The following is the brain images of men and women talking. Men evolved chasing moving targets. The ability to build and strengthen intimate relationships was crucial to the survival of each." The genius pale and asked: "One or two tracks?" If you are a man. this is one of the most important chapters of this book. They speak to be connected. But for those who can meet them. Searched men of different nationalities and races. Women evolved together with other women and children in and near the caves. For over a decade. therefore.Chapter 7 The Mysteries WAYS OF WOMEN LANGUAGE An archaeologist excavated a ruin when topou to an old lamp. To most men. Why women never go to the chase? 5. "You freed me!" Said the genie. we are able to reveal the intriguing logic that lies behind the five men most frequent questions about the way women are communicating. not speaking much. The dark areas are the parts . But it is very likely to feel skeptical about some of the things that will read. In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? we treat this issue in detail. man. The modern man also. or a specific purpose.
it does basically to create a bond with another person. In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? show that the brain of the woman can produce. The images show how the brains of women is widely used for the functions of speech and language. dyslexia and serious. the man only speaks to other men about personal problems if you think that the other has a solution. The women's to processes. This creates serious problems of communication with women. however. when either communicate facts. the man tends to think that a woman discuss their problems because they do not know how to deal with them and "all the time is interrupted with solutions. Most men "only speak if you have something to say. not to ask for solutions. The brain of man is set to the solution of continuous problems. if she feels attracted to you if she likes you or saying you want to feel accepted and important. share their emotions and problems with someone is a demonstration of confidence in the person. the man gives the impression that always wants to be right and it is always wrong. Institute of Psychiatry in London. . Compare it with the average daily production of words of a man . As already explained. six thousand to eight thousand words spoken per day. it speaks to you. about ten times. 2001. Put simply." that is. When a woman speaks. If not. the man who was asking opinion feels honored and offers its solutions. From a woman. because the "conversation" of women is completely different. Areas of the brain related to speech and language. without effort.two to four thousand and you understand that the ability to speak of women cause so many problems between couples.of the brain into activity. As I said. to offer all the time. Have a brain that is not strong in the skills of speech and language responds to the remarkable extent of gender differences in rates of problems in speech: the stuttering is a disorder three to four times more frequent among men than among women. it simply does not speak. data and solutions. Man Woman The brain of man is oriented solutions. Unfortunately. The reaction of the man before it is asked "Why do not you say it to her when they were together?". The men use the speech and language to communicate facts and data. a form of retribution and a way to connect to another person. A worker exhausts its production of words in the middle of the afternoon and go home to find a woman who still has four to five thousand words to say! Two women can spend the whole day together and then still speak for a full hour on the phone. For the women. No wonder that women always complain that the man to break inter-and not to let express their views.
she stops talking. mainly due to their greater ability to deal with stress. Focusing on other things. the man thinks or does something else.if she does not like or do not love a person. When either forget a stressful day. Your brain allows you to track only concentrate on the news. he apparently can forget their problems. on TV. constipation. The danger is that the internalized stress can cause diseases such as diarrhea. It is important to understand the man that the main objective of the "conversation" of the woman is talking about. want to talk to your partner. it is the participation that counts. stress man stops talking and will sit alone "in front of the fire" to find a solution to your problem. one could say to each other how you feel and go learn about the differences between genders and the specific characteristics of your partner.the men usually see the "peace and tranquility" obtained with the silence of women as a prize.it's showing that you trust. mutual remarks to lose the character of criticism and complaint and will be key ele-ments in the construction of mutual happiness. especially when used with other women. but never too often. she is not complaining . If you have an issue to deal with it.in almost all of the time is not to seek solutions. stomach ulcers and heart attack .When you make personal confidences. The purpose of it is if you feel better about your day and connect to you . if she does not agree with what this person is saying. The opposite is also true . Women use silence to punish men. The best way to punish the woman the man is talking to him without stopping and changing the subject is.fortunately not . is direct and clear. water the garden. one at a time. or when either punish them. The solution for men and women Ideally. Why do women always want to talk about problems? Women on average live seven years longer than men. The problem is that men love silence. It is never too often: when two people are aware that they want to invest in the relationship. browse the Internet or mount an aircraft to turn off the problems. Without any aggressiveness. without interrupting to offer solutions. Only thus creates intimacy and complicity. When you. The content of conversation with people is not important. The silence as a form of punishment is an effective tactic. Already suggested before. woman. ask them explicitly to reserve a time for that and tell him that he only wants to listen. When not occupied with another activity. With men in general it does not work .
Men tend to retreat before that approach. The problem was that Lisa had been created believing that the couple should never let anyone waiting for the next day. Joe could not handle it. So she talked. Ask her if she wants some help and put themselves available to advise her when she wants. They always kiss and make up before going to sleep. it would be readily available. is a mystery. So when the woman started to teased a problem that seems not to sense. None of them works. remember that she needs to talk to feel better. addressing them in various ways. In the evening. Women deal with stress talking plenty about their problems. A man who did so would give other men the impression that they feel incapable and are looking for solutions . PHYLLlS DILLER For men. while] and thought they always came back to the same issues.all at the same time. Case study: Lisa. The problem is that the female brain is programmed to enhance processes. One night we were agreed for six months. There are two theories about arguing with a woman. Not . Solution We to assume that the more men and women are aware of their differences. Lisa wanted to reduce their level of stress and was anxious to reach a satisfactory decision for both. The men believe that talking will only make things worse. and yes-go by making a possible solution.. It was common for discussion is to drag well after midnight. especially late at night. He would prefer a thousand times and have a fight. Rodney Dangerfield Women believe that everyone is talking about feeling better. Prefer to discuss the issue and resolve it quickly. he had already discussed everything that had to discuss and was happy to leave the rest divergence. My husband and I decided never to sleep before resolving our disputes.. Enjoy going to rock your thinking about something else. Listen to it with the greatest possible solidarity and tell him you are there to accept them as needed. go to sleep and forget it.until it lead to another thread. talked and talked about the issue at stake . Joe and discussion of midnight Lisa and Joe discussed much when they went to live together. the reason why women love to discuss all the details. the easier it becomes the relationship. Talking about your problems is your way of relieving stress. Women like to thoroughly discuss all aspects of their actions and feelings.
saying that it does not always defend himself and giving examples: "This is not true. But also meets its limits. but does not give us a little talk about this later?" This way of addressing the problem is more respectful and has much more chance of working than say nothing and simply wait for the woman to say end all you have to talk. for example: "Sorry. even that invariably end up falling by the timid and puny boy he met at the homes of friends. At that moment. you always do this to me!" He probably will take that complaint to the foot of the letter.minimize the impact that certain events can cause it. because as your brain thinks things from facts and data. if he disagrees with the woman in front of friends. the size of your income or that of fish caught. If the problem that the wife brings concerns the relationship of you and you in fact does not feel able to discuss the l-on time. so fancy it much more than the man on the lives and relationships. In general. The exaggeration makes it more exciting to talk about relationships. Exaggerated words and emotions is a normal behavior to be perfect for women who talk among themselves. The difference is that men exaggerate the facts and women exaggerate the emotions and feelings. Say. these fantasies and exaggeration that makes the conversations more interesting. women like to dream that a leading man of TV to ask for a memorable night. He exaggerates the importance of their work. it only needs your love and genuine care. For example. but this issue is too big for my head today. I want to discuss it with you. ask to be sensitive if it can leave the matter for another time." "You always hope that I do all the work of the house and take care of children at the same time. Moreover. sweetheart. Examples of female exaggeration: "I asked you a million times to collect their wet towels." "When I saw her with that dress." "Do not talk to you anymore!" For men. Why women exaggerate? Both men and women exaggerate. The woman's brain is focused on people. the excesses of women can be frustrating. it interprets the words literally. she will say later: "You always reduces me and never let me have my own opinion. She exaggerates his feelings and the other when it comes to some personal matter or what someone said. One of one hundred things that women wish men knew: what it said six or eight months is unacceptable in the current discussion. I thought it was going to die!" "You always do this to me. the performance of your car and the amount of beautiful women who left. I did not no time last night and not do for months!" She replied recalling .
looking out the window. the emotions and feelings are what counts and tone of voice and body language are the main channels to communicate them. He mumble "Thank you". All that she wants is that he values in front of friends. but one at a time. The trip back was silent. it may appear that the memory is real. I started to think that something suspicious was that I had some time . your offense. I was giving treatment to the ball to imagine what could be.. mad to see Luke. Decided to have coffee at home. When we arrived. Saturday night.the days. the woman also uses the body language to send and receive information.a beautiful pair of gold cufflinks. The letter from Jessica shows as: "Me and Luke agreed to meet for dinner at our favorite restaurant. because it does not consider that issue with the woman is decreased her. challenging in terms of facts and data. I gave him a special gift . said he had an excellent day out with friends and show what was purchased. It was as if it were a hundred kilometers away. His eyes seemed to say that everything was over between us.. I knew it would be a romantic dinner and was excited. so that the time and I lost a little late. without giving me the slightest attention. She was exaggerating his emotions and he. Most messages are not verbal. I had some suspicions but did not mean anything yet. Sorry for the delay. During the dinner. In the eyes of men. She sends much of what I mean by tone of voice. Now I knew we had a serious problem. times and places where he eats the same. For women. put them in the pocket and was sitting there without saying anything. He is hurt and angry. then lunch and take coffee and we talk about a million things. Mae West on men. We spent the whole morning shopping. women always seem to be moving his arms and using a variety of gestures and facial expressions when speaking. turned and was watching the TV. How a woman can fool yourself When the woman recall a scene in your head. That day Luke was football with friends and I have fun with some friends to assert that I did not see since we have decided to live together. When I arrived. including the phone. but decided to wait to get home to talk. Luke went straight in the room. She communicates with a scale of five tones. I want a million . but men are able to identify only three. around eight hours. The language of the body reveals the emotional state of women and is responsible for 60 to 80% of the impact of their conversation. he was sitting. the conversation was really difficult and not a little interesting. The humor of it was so strange that I thought he was punishing me for having arrived late. But for her the most important is not the offense committed. Despite his ability to speak.
but to me and my two children that causes tremendous brain damage. This letter from a reader and shows a woman can feel the man: "My wife goes on whim indirect speech.. Luke came to bed and also surprised me want to snuggle. And I was also becoming clear who she was . while carrying a basket of laundry to the garage. Ten minutes later. moreover. They must think I'm blind! Well. And he thinks I'm an idiot. All your friends seem to follow his reasoning. Listen to the truth of it. I will use it later. Why women never go to the chase? For men.he should have another woman. must realize that. with a tone mad. as tenderly as possible.. is thinking it and not want to tell me not to hurt me. not eat the salami. it was in the kitchen and told me: 'In the team meeting today. .Debbie. Sometimes a man feels as if I had to guess what the woman wants. " 'What?' I was surprised. women seem to prefer to be making rounds to go right to the point. This step is especially important when it comes to business. This apparently vague manner of speaking is known as indirect language.was true . How can a woman be so smart as avoada when talking? Today. I went to bed. will eventually disqualified!" Solution If you are a man. help her to relativise without saying what she should think or say. or be able to read her mind. I promised myself that the next day would face the situation and demand that he tell me the truth. She does this constantly. I said: 'Later I need to go to the hardware store. for example. that bitch of his work beyond the mini-skirt! I saw the way she moves the chair every time he passes by it. while she continued to where he had stopped. Then cried to sleep. women understand the need to exaggerate the emotions and feelings and not take the literal meaning. Who is the other woman? He loves you or is just an adventure? Why men do not tell the truth? All I know is that it can no longer live like this .. " I was working in the garage half hour. trying to find the sequence of the conversation. Then. Never call your partner in "queen of the drama" not a correction in front of others. 'she said not to eat the salami? " 'She's not you. But then he just turned and was sleeping..' replied my wife. my supervisor said .. I was so upset and stressed that hours spent awake. " What Luke was really thinking that night: "My team lost. where the exaggeration may be cause for much confusion and damage. Not resist to my caresses. I was sitting there in the room with him about fifteen minutes until no more endure. as the man takes things at the foot of the letter. telling me what your supervisor told you. and this time I put the clothes in the washing . not noticed how he looks at her with that stupid smile. It is able to develop four or five different lines of thought simultaneously with ease.. Yesterday. she should try to be objective and limit the exaggeration. while I turn to follow. 'I do not want you to eat the salami. The woman. and made love. I thought the end was near. " I stopped with the stupid guy. even if internally you give some discount. It took the largest iron if continue.
machine, in one move boxes, cleaned a shelf and made a list of arrangements for next week. When she went in the house said, without stopping what I was doing: 'Why? " 'Huh? Why what? "I asked. 'What do you need? " 'I do not need anything! What are you talking about? " 'If you do not need anything, that is going to the hardware store? "She asked, crossing his arms with that guy sulk in'0 - that-is-what-you-are-arming' that most men married knows. However, this matter was already closed for me for a long time, but for my wife is absolutely natural to resume a conversation for over an hour, if it finds that the matter was not resolved. I think she is convinced that I did not hear, and I'm half convinced that she is right. I try to understand later, after I finish my salami sandwich. Frustrated Raymond. "When a woman speaks, the language generally indirect USA. That means what it implies or infers that the things. When women use indirect language to each other, rarely there are problems - they have to understand the sensitivity real meaning of what is said. But this language can be disastrous when speaking with men, who use the direct language and interpret the words literally. As I said, the male brain evolved as a mechanism to focus single requirement of the hunt. The men find disconcerting the apparent lack of structure and purpose of female conversation and accuse women of not knowing what they are talking about. They respond saying things like: "After all, what are you talking about?", "What is the conclusion ", or the interrupt saying," We already talked about this a dozen times, "" How long it will last yet? "and" This conversation is very complicated and will not lead to nowhere. " The language in indirect business The use of indirect language and multiple tracks in business can be problematic for women because men have difficulty to follow the conversation. The men, in order to take decisions, must be submitted to ideas and information that is clear, logical and organized. Women may see their ideas and rejected the requests simply because your boss is not the slightest idea what she wants. Marie was a classic victim. After six months of negotiations, Marie had the chance to present the new advertising program for your company to a major customer of the financial industry. The audience was composed of eight men and four women. The account to be won worth two hundred thousand dollars and she only had thirty minutes to sell her story. It was the only chance of winning the title. On the day of presentation, so well tested that could sleep up to, Marie came properly dressed, with a number sober, hair done and makeup light and natural. But soon after starting, she noticed that the men looked as if they were not understood. Given the impression that they were judging negatively and losing interest in the presentation, she began to come by several shortcuts, adding unnecessary details and returning the slides already passed to show how they are related to each other. Encouraged the women with smiles, faces and vocal expressions like "Uh, uh," "Right!" and showing an interest. Encouraged by the female reaction, Marie began to turn his speech to them, unintentionally ignoring the men. The entire presentation has become an exercise in juggling. She finished and left, convinced that he had done a good job. and was eagerly awaiting the answer of the company.
This was the conversation of men executives during the coffee, after which Marie left: Director of Marketing: "You have some idea of what she was talking about?" Executive Director: "No. .. it confused me. Tell him to send the proposal in writing." Marie "multitrilhou" submission using indirect language with a group of men who wanted to hear a presentation objective, and lean in his logic. The executive met and became involved with questions, but no man wanted to raise their hand and admit that there was not understood. The woman needs to understand that man, when you can not follow what she says, prefer to pretend it means to go through stupid. Only it is not convinced. When a man can not keep up the discourse of business of a woman, he pretends to understand. The woman must use a direct language, with timetables, schedules, deadlines and conclusive answers. Should be direct with men in business by addressing an issue each time, with beginning, middle and end, without getting lost in shortcuts. Marie is still waiting for a response ...
Case study: Barbara and Adam Barbara went to shop with friends and wanted his son Adam, aged 16, clean the kitchen. "Adam, you can do to please clean the kitchen for me?" She asked. "Hum .. s ...", he growl in response. When she resumed the tour, the kitchen remained the same. Barbara was angry with her son. "But I would clean up before leaving at night", he whine. The problem was caused by the Barbara. She used the language indirect assumption that Adam would understand that when she returned home with her friends, the kitchen should be clean. She asked: "You want to clean the kitchen?" No boy "or" clean the kitchen. Adam can not. A direct request with a deadline, as "Adam, please clean the kitchen before I get back from shopping at noon, would have guaranteed a better result.
Children do not "want" to do household chores, they need to be directly instructed to do them.
That night, Barbara said to Adam: "I would like you to look for an hour before going to bed." Indirect dis-course that works with girls but with boys it is useless. The brain of the boy heard that his mother that he would do such a thing, but it really was not instructed to do it, does. Direct instruction with a time limit is the only realistic way of dealing with men. "Adam, I want you to go to your room and study for one hour. I will give you good-night before you pain-mir." Direct instructions leave little room for communication problems. Moreover, men enjoy clear instructions. Women fear that the direct language is too aggressive. You can even be, when used with another woman. With men, however, the direct speech is perfectly normal, because that is how they communicate. Solution For a woman: With men, seek to use only the direct discourse. This does not mean being aggressive. You may well say, calmly and affection: "Let's make an appointment to talk? Feel that we need solve some problems." And remember what we said before: when speaking of problems, makes clear that it is as you see them and feel, which does not mean they are exactly that. Do not extend to others and gives space to listen to what your partner has to say. Listen to the truth, not defend themselves or challenge immediately. In the beginning may seem difficult, but over time this practice will bring you the desired results. You'll have fewer misunderstandings with men of his life. For men: If a woman is talking and you have difficulty to follow your line of thinking, start listening, without offering solutions. If anything, give it a time limit: "I watch the news of seven, my good, but until then I'm all yours." Again: try to show you their own limits and their way of being. Once you have the precious chance to go is knowing better and respecting their differences. One of our readers sent us the Dictionary of Women Indirect terms that appear during their regular discussions. "Good" - The USA women at the end of this word in any discussion that you believe to be the reason but want the man shut up. "Five minutes - I mean, about half an hour. Equivalent to five minutes when the man is watching a soccer game and the woman asked for a favor. "Nothing" - means "something." "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling of the woman when she is willing to strangle the man. "Nothing" usually means the beginning
She will tell you that is" good "while playing their clothes through the window. "Aah? I talked to his brother about what you walked by last night "and" Aah? You expect me to believe ".. seasoned with a lot of "Aahs". followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she says she will explain the reason in "five minutes". "Who was that?" He asked his wife Debbie. Means that you put the hurt and the next step will be an "audible sigh... "Aah" generally means that you have been caught in a lie." "Go ahead" (with normal eyebrows) . you will be a big trouble. This situation. what he said?" She asked. which has dealt before.. For example. "Really?" ." The next time it will allow you to make sex with her will "one day"." Josh replied that defeated tone that men have when trying to read the newspaper. "Please" . He answered. At some point in the near future. And do not try to lie more to get an escape because" Go ahead "(raised eyebrows)." You should receive a "Go ahead" (raised eyebrows) in a few minutes. "Robert." he said. -Audible sigh means she thinks you an idiot and wonders why it is wasting time by discussing with you "Nothing. He is nice . "raised eyebrows" and an "audible gasp" final." The more you apologize. okay. For men. Why women want to know the smallest detail? Josh was reading the newspaper a night when the phone rang... is simply saying it does not believe a single word of what you say. "That is what he said after ten years? What is great ". listened for about ten minutes making occasional grunt and said: "Yes. The woman is giving you the chance to invent an excuse or reason you have done what they have done." Do not ask what's wrong after the "audible sigh. You offering to explain and receive a "Please. "Thank you" . and the highest is the sarcastic "Really?" it." because it will say "Nothing. "Okay" is often used with "Fine" and in conjunction with "Go ahead" (raised eyebrows). "Robert? You do not see from the side! How is he?" "Good. We were talking .It is said in a tone of challenge.At the beginning of a sentence. shows a basic brain differences between men and women.of a discussion that will last "five minutes" and have undermined with the word "great". "Nothing important . after the woman said "nothing. the split detail each point of the conversation. If you do not speak the truth will win in a final "OK". And he was asked him as an advocate of it." He hung up and continued reading. wanting to know every detail. The woman thinks when a man does not speak . details are irrelevant." "Aah?" ..means "I quit" or "Do what you want because I'm not there. is great. she insisted. when a cool head.is not an application is an offer for you to talk. "Go ahead" (with raised eyebrows) . "All right" . when it has plot is planned." "So .means that she wants to think before you return whatever you have.The woman says that when you're really upset with you.She is not questioning the validity. a former schoolmate..
they want to know how each person in your group and how they can help. knowing that men and women are structurally different. I discussed what are good places to fish. you should 'go to the chase. Invite her for a long walk and let her talk.. look you give more details than usually and do not fidget with their pe1fun-tas. need to understand that the woman needs to know details and personal information is programmed into your psyche and aims for the survival of relationships Therefore. After a social activity. which means knowing all the details and is actively interested by the situation of each group member and their families. tell your partner that is willing to tell her what happened. ask if it is available. Thus. because for women the words are used to unite.just listen to it with genuine interest. The group of friends was his insurance company.their wives saying all the way home. they do not cease to be .. Men know what new "toys for boys" bought the other men. And if you are female.. is that with the long-term survival in their minds. being precise and succinct. . women know everything that each member of the group. And if. have already decided how to defeat terrorism and how England can win of Germany in football . ah.. try to avoid the excess of detail. are doing.. yes . and the latest jokes. their health and status of their relationships.. do not feel offended.much because he is not interested in it. The man thinks the woman speaks and other torments so many questions. Things that seem important to you may be irrelevant to him. feel that he is uninterested. At home.. their dreams and goals for the year. the woman involved to secure for itself a narrow circle of friends who take care of it if your man does not resume the hunt or the war.. when you talk to the woman. in reporting events from the others. well. you will be a great year. Tell us what you feel and hear what he feels. But you know very little about the personal life of any person in the group . Remember once again: you need not worry about giving answers or provide solutions . already see the new red sports car from Bob. Solution If you are a man. His survival depended on their ability to connect to other women. Women are programmed to know all the details Defender of nests and offspring. It is not that women are curious . especially in a business meeting. You also know where the friends go on leave and the children are doing in school. or family. meets its limits.
he prefers to hear him personality. how people react? One thing is certain: you would be an insufferable person. Always tell the truth . as often prefer the subtle distortion of the true facts and stark naked. but left to say or tell something that would have caused suffering to the person. action by which a person is to deliberately deceive another person. no one notices it or he has a size suitable for your face. probably would not have any friends and possibly more would be unemployed. His female instinct tells you that something is wrong." When was the last time you lied? Well. What mind? Everybody lies. those that exist for us to live jun-ments without violence or aggression. Why not put a bra or seeking a new plastic surgeon?" "Hi. but you know he has a picture of it in the drawer of the office. may have ceased to mention that leakage of engine oil to speak of the excellent conditions under which he was. Adam. Maybe you have not told her husband that found a former boyfriend and that his heart shot. do not want to hear the truth about him . as you may not have lied. There is no one interesting beer is hot. Because their sinuses are fallen. You would be wrong? Lie: noun. You distrust. when all want to make the best. what would have happened? If you tell the exact words that go through your head. When you sold the car. Or that . Mary. Proverb If you had told the strict truth to all those who interacted in the last week. but you do not know what it is. You may have exaggerated a bit to complete a loan application form or request for jobs to provide the best. When announced to sell the house.Chapter 8 "You think I am OUE -FAT CLOTHES WITH THIS? Why men lie? The new man in your life that really is all over with the former. Most lies are the first meetings. His girlfriend called in last minute canceling the meeting with you and an excuse that it seemed in tatters. Imagine the following situations: "Hi.then quit running. Most of the lies that we are soft Lies. You must see the reason for your bad breath and why not cut the hair of the nose?" "This meeting is organized chatíssima you. you did not mention that the neighbor cat up and sometimes the smell is unbearable. If you have a nose too large.
or is lying. All night.are all lies. They were talking a little about her work and the events of the day. glorious. Free sex with no inhibitions. is armed and behaved is thinking only in stimulating the sexual part of the brain of Dennis. When he arrived. Only enemies tell the truth. this scenario is called a romantic dinner with candlelight. Champagne. touch and smell . caught in the web of obligation.the group of friends who would just be reducing the lunch spicy brunette who works in the next office. Everyone constantly lied to each other. And assumed that he felt exactly the same for her. the chance to get to Sheelagh what I would be much greater. This whole assembly was a fine trick. To sit. most people feel guilt. On entering the dining room. is decorate. hearing. was impressed with the way Dennis get the scenario for the night: half-light. makeup is carefully chose a sexy dress. All your senses . in turn. It was the lights on the hair do hair. where it served a glass of champagne. looking at the eyes and encourage her to talk. lit with candles. pants high heels. both would deny. smiling. Give the name you want . But in reality it is a complete fabrication of lies half on both sides to try to gain personal advantage. Dennis listened attentively. Sheelagh. Case study: Sheelagh and Dennis Sheelagh was asked by Dennis for dinner at his house and decided whim to impress you. Did you not concealed from the other lipo or prosthesis that did that to put the body shape? Ever not lied about your weight and your age? The list of large and small lies is endless. Fortunately. a soft background music and fire burning. Sheelagh felt completely overwhelmed by the caring and sensitive man . Research shows that 30-40% of patients get relief with placebos . and it is not easy to hide. Stephen King We lied for two reasons. of course. not to lie. she realized that he was using to shave lotion that she said that he liked. obtaining a gain or avoid pain. he presented with a beautiful bouquet of flowers and led it to the table. Dennis wanted sex. in short. half-light and soft music were not part of the normal lifestyle of Dennis and the usual topic of conversation was his sport. and strongly. put a pair of long earrings and a bit of French perfume behind the ears. With a little practice is to recognize the behavioral signs we learn to lie and decodes them. remorse or discomfort when you lie. making it possible for a person know if the other is telling the truth.so different from others she met.were excited in the highest degree. But if faced with this basic fact. In polite language.sight. But we can say that everything you said and did that night was in search of personal gain. was based on lies and deceptions. you raise the level of testosterone. Parents lie to their children about sex and teenagers lie to their parents about sex. Friends and lovers. And I was experienced enough to know that building the scenario the way they mount.
The Lie benefit is used by people with the intention of helping. The malicious lie has two main forms: concealment and falsification. A known God. it is not an uncommon political rumors spread that an opponent has his inappropriate sexual behavior.Types of lies There are four basic types of lies . parents who were themselves taught them to lie to prevent the . business and politics. to get him out of the rival. in fact. ra late because the damage was enormous. can spread the false information that its main competitor is in financial difficulties. even if they are inverídicas also benefit as the rivals of those affected in the world art. This type of lie is an intentional act. because the intention of the liar in this case is hurt or take advantage of victims in their own benefit. This is the case of the German farmer who hid Jews from Nazis and denied to the authorities. The journalists who offer the stories to newspapers and magazines sensational. In general.placebos .technically lying. In the blind. fun and is interested in her. Invent the people intend to destroy the character and reputation of their victims. He was lying heroically. and when he met a man who seemed loving. this time by an act of concealment. a person who could not trust. Types of liars "Natural liars" are people who are fully aware and confident in their ability to deceive. Margie War gave false information on the character of a man. cold and painful. When the truth was restored. the lying does not count as a lie. The lies and malicious misconduct tend to be used as weapons in competitive situations. was single mother. C mo already said. discovering that War was over. War then moved to avoid it. and do as little. War.the Branda Lie. not an accident. the Lie Branda is part of our social fabric and prevents us from ferirmos and insult each other with the truth hard. A month later. he misappropriate information. politicians and richies are the main targets of malicious lies. Lie beneficial to the malicious lies and malicious lie. that a man cheating ex-girlfriend. The malicious lie is the most dangerous. sensitive. Nobody could blame for not warning Gerris Margie because Margie may not believe. for example. The fireman who rescues a child from a house on fire and mind to it saying that their parents are and is protecting it for some time to suffer an even greater trauma. but if War took the decision not to warn it would also be guilty of lying. for example. sorry. was delighted. Similarly. A couple had their school and its reputation destroyed because they spread the rumor that sexually hurt the students. Malicious lies are motivated by revenge or to gain advantages. The medical mind that the patient in the bed of death to raise her mood. In forging a inverídica information is presented as true. intelligent. she gives him in the face of the neighborhood shopping center . or as safe prescription drugs . Say. who. he was a notorious playboy. To tell her friend Margie who was seeing this man. People in evidence as actors. through another friend. with results to be devastated and durable.embraced with a smile-tooth Margie. One company. heard. making it the guarantor of a loan and giving it the default. left little.
Romantic liars can appear anywhere and go in and chat on the Internet. The offices of the therapists are full of intelligent women and full of resources Romantic victims of a Liar. Some returned in this type of experience. doctors and businessmen to raise the successful. Many natural liars take advantage of that ability in adulthood become criminal lawyers. MAL Pancoast One of the most dangerous lie that a woman can find the way is the romantic. they can cause enormous damage to women's emotional. repeating that "I never lie. however. People say love of truth. The truth will free him. When a Romantic Liar enter into action. Consequently. sex and other benefits of women. and sexual interest. These poor creatures spend their lives indiscriminately telling the truth about everything. psychological and financial. where most people mind and anything. If you lead the department of personnel of a large company would want to know as much as possible about a person applying for a position of trust.terrible punishment that would apply if told the truth. Studies and experiments show. because it would inevitably discovered. offending and creating problems for everyone they know. Who minds the most? Most of the women has to say categorically that men lie more frequently than between them. vendors. but will save you a far greater suffering in the long term. that men and women lie in equal Others . as the biggest talent is his ability to live a lie plausible enough time to its victim fall in love. while others are masters in pose of lawyers. The emotional damage and loss of self-esteem often far beyond the material losses in these cases and may leave a woman emotionally marked: it will hardly believe any man." annoying. but first it will screw you. actors. Even smart women be fooled by a Romantic Liar. but what they want to believe that it is like the truth. politicians and spies. The most common objective of Romantic Liar is starting money. She is blind to the lies or deny. right? Why not do the same with a prospective partner? The advice here is: always check the history of any product you want to keep for long. the only limit is the imagination. Romantic Some liars are specialists in hiding who are married. pretending to give in return love and emotion. the woman usually does not the slightest idea of what is happening. It can be painful discover its faults. seems to learn nothing suffered. For those liars. merchants. The "liar non-natural" is the person who as a child. was persuaded by the parents that it was impossible to lie. even when they are evident to friends and family.
Common lies that men tell women "I'm not drunk" a lie is easy to get. Even become aggressive. And in those cases where the man mind. Women lie to keep the relationship safe and have great difficulty in lying about their feelings. especially because it usually sounds "Eooo a xtô bêbadu. most women know very well that he is lying." Sex is one of the constants of life of man . "She is my friend. the man moves away to not have to lie. and men for doing good. The men lie to avoid discussion and to say. as if you were deeply offended. such as smoking two packs of cigarettes a day repeating that it is not biased and can stop whenever you want.propose What varies is the content of the lie. or convince themselves that a calorie dessert not affect the system. He will say that the clothes are "interesting." tell a lie as indirect "I do not know what to say. What 's wrong with that?" He says she is a friend from childhood and . no matter where or when. In an extreme case. They just continue to get caught. it is highly likely that he is lying. but lie differently. a man is able to say it is vice-director of a multinational distribution of food when it has a business of supply of pizza at home.it is always good. Women of the m general. And they say that sex with ex was better than with you. This is the main difference lies between male and female. "Once and for all. Due to heightening awareness for women's body language and vocal signs.women lie as much as men. and only will if forced to give their opinion. even thinking that the person was like a sack of potatoes. men are caught much more frequently. The evidence is clear . If a man says that sex with the ex was a drug. Under the same circumstances. in his head. They do not lie anymore. "The sex with my ex was a drug. The human mind to do good. to defend themselves from charges of women. tend to lie to make others feel better. which leaves the impression that lie more." or simply saying that lie loved.except for being really drunk. The woman mind to make the man feel good. The main question of the men who do women lie is: "What it was good?" The most common form of lie is self-deception. has nothing to gain by telling the truth. The woman said that a mind was wonderful clothes for someone." The man who betrayed a lie until well beyond any evidence because. I never trance with that woman. There is no reason to say that a person is not drunk . lying also likely to leave you angry.
signs and changes in body tone. But keep away from you and not to let her know. On May the lie and the more emotions involved. Try to disguise these tracks creates an emotional issue for the majority of us. she is going through a difficult situation and I want to help. The woman must have ability to look at their offspring and immediately identify the pain. The closer a person. and respond to a large extent by what is known as "female intuition". but will not have the slightest difficulty in lying to the enemy if captured in war. therefore. MRI scans of brain show that a woman has from 14 to 16 key points in the two hemispheres when communicating face to face. Most men do not think that guy has a dog required. it is best to do so by telephone. For the same reasons. disease.whether friendly or aggressive. The man needs to reach its target accurately and not having a conversation with him deeper and full of meaning. in danger. more tracks will be left by the liar. Why women are so good at catching lies? Most men know how difficult it is to run even a small lie to a woman face to face. As I said. in general. Without these techniques of survival. she does not feel anything for me. hunger. sad. she needs to tell me something very secret. " Why not stick the lies? Most lies can be detected because. so that it can handle more . The purpose of man hunter was always reach its target accurately and not talk to him. fear. is another problem. without being caught.in general if they can get along. involve emotions that flashing red lights as verbal or visual. sorrow and joy. The "hypersensitive" female has two goals: defend its territory against foreign and communicate with the children. the more difficult it is to lie because of the emotions involved. Other variants include: "She is lesbian. The man has on average 4 to 7 of those points. angry or embarrassed. so do not want you to go eat with us. she is sick and wants me to go visit her. These points are used to decode words. If you see or not these tracks. the woman's brain is organized into multiple tracks. If the man wants to lie to a woman. because your brain is more developed for spatial tasks than for communication. lie is easy. the woman is able to read the emotions of animals. advise him or try to understand it. she is vulnerable. Most women have less difficulty to lie in the face of the man . Must be able to rapidly assess the attitude of people who are close to their nest .who have no other interest in it. she is just needing a friend to talk. She knows I tell if a dog is happy. Here is the key to duck-logical liar: he has no emotional connection with anyone. A husband has difficulty to lie to his wife if he really loves.
making them better able to understand the state of mind of people. lasting from a fraction of a second. 3. while the men often forget their lies. Women are very good at remembering what was the lie that those who counted and counted. Read the mouth and eyes of someone requires a more refined analysis than judging the emotions of the face piece. and 16% of secundaristas said that it had done at least once. Young people are more prone to lying. which explains not only why they are much more difficult to deceive. . For that use the slow motion. If it needs. in the forms and job interviews to get what they want. It is very difficult. about nine thousand adolescents and adults from all over the country. The hippocampus .information at the same time. fraud and stealing. Found that this difference helps the girl to detect subtle changes of facial expressions. but also that they are often negotiating more perceptive than men. There was. Women not only have a greater ability to detect lies as they have greater ability to save them as ammunition for future discussions. swindling. showed that a significant number of people in the range 15 to 30 years is prone to lying. Why do women always remember? Erik Everhart. A third of students in each group was told to put lies prone in the curriculum vitae.is full of receptors for estrogen and grows more rapidly in girls than in boys. The man with the brain of single track. you are informed at once and let go. About 33% of secundaristas and 16% of students admitted having stolen goods from a shop on the previous year. The FBI agents learn to analyze the "micro-expressions" . Sixty-one percent of secundaristas and 32% of students admitted to have circumvented the tests at least once in the previous year. We search for 3243 students from secondary school. for example. found that boys and girls from 8 to 11 years of age using different parts of their brains to identify faces and expressions Boys most use the right side. In the United States. assistant professor of psychology from East Carolina University.630 students and 2. more prone to cheat. The woman's brain is programmed to read the signs when they happen. stealing The younger the person. plus the left. and colleagues from the State University of New York in Buffalo.092 adults. giving women greater ability to recover memories of things loaded with emotion.the part of the brain used in language and the storage and retrieval of memory . people who are lying. and the girls. Advice for men Do not waste time telling a lie to a woman face to face. that Bill Clinton lour for a split second before answering any question about Monica Lewinsky. fleeting. This gives you the added advantage of knowing how to read the physical signs and hear what is being said while speaking. call her or send her an email.the subtle expressions. so many physical signs. a survey of 2002.
too hurt or vengeful when he hears the truth." replied the boys. almost forcing the others to lie. but similar studies conducted across the West showed the same trend. assume that all other people are. but the bribe the guard to watch traffic. and adulthood are triggered by figures of authority. that the severity of punishment is a major stimulus to lie and one of the main reasons that children grow as stubborn liars. more likely. People find this for two reasons: first." "That ugly thing!". The second reason. apologize: "Dad. "Who gains from the biggest lie the dog." The survey found that 83% of secundaristas and 61% of university lied to the parents during the previous year. people flatter you do not like to give excuses to justify a lack liars or cancel an appointment. "What is the reason for the fight?" Asks the father. replied the director. If you are a person who offends easily. I avoid at all costs. as they themselves are liars usual. The father responds. "I never lied!" The boys were put to cry. why did not the duty of the house. When all the known lie to you Some believe that we should not trust anyone and that the world is full of liars. "Great."I can trouble for something I did?". Asked the student. 'No'. When someone reacts to what is said so aggressive and emotional. The children hear from parents that honesty is the best result. In such cases. Many of the behavioral patterns are liars down during childhood and youth. the teaching is lying to protect themselves. never know what the other is really thinking or feeling about them. Unfortunately. The researchers found that the dishonesty and other unethical behaviors were less common among people over 30 years and lied that the two sexes in equal proportion. for example. The most disturbing was that 73% of those surveyed in the range 15 to 30 years said to believe that "most people cheat and lie when necessary to achieve what they want. It is different than being instructed to pretend to like the gifts that have won or give a kiss on the annoying aunt who will visit them. will say. The father is approaching heatedly discuss that next to a puppy." Based on this study. If people know that you are angry. it is a duty of kindness and just education. these are symptoms of great moral crisis that rages in all societies. Why the lies of friends and family hurt more . is that the behavior of these people makes the others lie to them. If you ask the children to tell you the truth. you got it!" Ambiguous messages about the lie that children receive has a major impact on their behavior when they grow up. Most parents do not realize. because they will distort the truth to avoid reaction. symptoms that reflect a real change of values in these societies. then the sanctions because the truth is not in line with its expectations. we could say that Americans are a bunch of liars and fraudsters. "We're doing a competition.
for that before-I had to go get my car in the workshop . Good liars are able to make a second version identical. then ask them to repeat a third time. The lie of a close friend also hurt. people usually stop and change direction to try to put things in order. father. at least for a time. because the closer the person. " To recall the events of the day. they instinctively seek to distance itself from them. In the end she will betray an excess of confidence in the performance. At the other extreme. the more open to it.. because the feeling of betrayal is more pro-fund and you do not want to remove this person from your life. As he does not expect this repeteco and is more relaxed. Consider the example of a person who combines is with you and not displayed.. in principle. the more we trust it. the liar's voice becomes more acute. They prefer to say "I do not trance with that woman" than "I do not trance with Monica. The liars leave the lies out of its references to themselves and avoided using the word "I". But the habitual liar not hesitate or forget. He tested his mind many times in the head and is generally able to perform without error. wife. I i in my brother's house after breakfast and then .. brother or sister hurts deeper.. sister or child hurts more than told by an acquaintance. we surprised him with it and can choose to not see him ever again. How to read between the what is said . the used car salesman will lie to us. A lie told by a brother. Then give a break to the suspect to let him think that made it. Clues to unmask a liar How people feel uncomfortable with the lie.. cause more suffering to a lie. The FBI recently discovered this valuable clue.The more intimate the relationship. Who does one turn is two If you think a person is lying. Ask liar to repeat what you think is a lie." you instinctively distrust most of what she said "My car broke and I could not call you because the phone's battery was weak. if I act like every word.. mother. If later the demand and it says "My car broke down and had no cell battery. Furthermore. but tends to be forgiven.. A malicious lie told by her husband. but that person can be eliminated from our lives. His script is perfectly decorated and rarely does it wrong." The liars also avoid using the name of the person involved in the lie. no. aah . we know that. just leaving to find her. due to the stress associated with the lie. I saw my brother after lunch. analyzing the words of suspects who had alibis false. generally the third response is not accurate and the story seems a little different. sister or child." Liars do not hesitate Ask a person what she did last weekend and she will probably think a bit before saying something like: "Ah . because the person will be our brother.
A friend was my ex-beats the classroom at the college to respond with "Bullshit!" the statement of professor of religious sciences that had more than a thousand shrines where the Virgin Mary operated miracles. Remember.95" and "Only U. Here is a list of terms commonly used by people who want to convince them that speak the truth. "sincere" and "frankly" indicate that the speaker should be considerably less. that phrase alone is not evidence of dishonesty: it must be interpreted in its context. it is more clear that a contract gives you the possibility to interrupt the conversation past the time stipulated. "You understand?" or "Do you understand?" at the end of the sentence are irritating mannerisms. $ 9. To feel that you are not believing it. this is the best I can offer you" is sometimes translated as "might not be the best that I have to offer. some honest people have the habit of using those words repeatedly. $ 40. She argued.You already talked with someone who seems less convincing as this? Examine some common words and phrases. but should pay attention when you hear "just" and "only". which will sound false. Do you lack the confidence to say you feel? Are you trying to fool? Or are you wanting to escape from their responsibilities? Of course. . saying that was just expressing surprise. not a rule.S." "Without doubt" gives reason to doubt and "Without a doubt" is definitely a warning sign. try not to eliminate them is liable to generate mistrust. "I am just a human being" is the motto of those who do not want to take responsibility for their mistakes. but in the end thought that it was untrue.S." The force with which the person who says "Trust me" try to convince the other is proportional to the size of the bait. honest. or what he is saying is not worthy of credit. "I just wanted to say I love you" mask the need for love is shy to say "I love you. "Only" and "only" The words "only" just "are used to minimize the meaning of words" which are then to relieve the guilt of the speaker or p ra blaming the other for any unpleasant consequence. "I only take five minutes of your time" is the USA. you will do what I want. "I love you" is easier to believe than "Honestly." "I'm not kidding" and "I would lie to you?" are other versions." When you hear someone say "only" and "only" should think about why the person tries to minimize the importance of what you're saying. However. honest and sincere than states and can be sign that he is lying. and oblige him to answer "I" to every request. trustworthy and decent credit need not convince anyone of it. If the person says "You give me five minutes?" and you agree. There are people who exclaim "Bullshit!" when they hear a fact which seems extraordinary. if so. Pay attention to your speech to see if you USA often these words and. I love you.00 for entry" is used to convince the consumer that the price is insignificant. Who is being honest. For example: "Frankly." And no woman believes the man who says "Just a friend. indicating that the person may be trying to hide the truth or convince you of an emotion that she does not feel. "Believe in what I am telling you" can mean "If I can make you believe me. because they give the impression that the listener is unable. Unconsciously do this by introducing a true statement. But who has not always meant well. when in reality they want to force you to believe what they are saying. however. who will hire you for a full hour. not mean that it will not believe what is being narrated. "Only U. The words "honesty". he makes his observation with a "Trust me. but who knows you believe?".
" . but the fact is that people of character do not need live testing its virtues. There are also physiological differences between people that may be source of errors in the polygraph test. tension causes a tightening in the vocal chords that makes screechy voice and can increase its speed and volume. the pulse and the relative volume of blood is the most famous of lie detector. The polygraph is not accepted as evidence in court."I have no reason to lie. the liar that calculates the lie to ensure their effectiveness. except when determined by the judge. breathing and perspiration."You think I would be able to do such a thing?" Some people try to use the organization to which they belong. When a person speaks the truth. and hem breaks because there was not enough time to test the lie. AHS. When the person is wanting to cheat. which measures the breathing apparatus."To be absolutely frank / honest / honest with you. Conversely. Paying attention to vocal tracks There are three characteristics of voice capable of delivering a liar ."I do not belong to this type of people.." . their speech tends to be dotted with uhms. They live their values in a way that is visible and that gives them credibility." It can also be a matter of uncertainty.. while honest people may be intimidated and lied to eventually classified as roses. speaking more slowly and reduces the volume of voice. You may recognize some of these phrases: ." ."Frankly Speaking. blood pressure. When the person is in a situation of stress.. have received or honor the traditions of his family to convince you of their honesty. Recent studies show that the accuracy of the new computerized polygraph is close to 100%."I never I would be such a thing."Why would I lie?" . because they have the brain less . a lie is detected by the physiological effects that are manifested as the increase or decrease in heart rate. ERS." . Liars experienced less anxiety show that beginners and are sometimes able to pass the test of the polygraph. Studies show that 70% of the amount of voice crotch when lying.height. The polygraph. Answers like these are given when the person is calling and not to respond directly to a question. speed and volume. When a person is caught distorting the truth. These machines can now be seen in programs of the TV interviews in which the American guests also tend to prove the guilt. This is most noticeable in men than in women."Trust me." . no change occurs in these indicators."As a member of ." ."I'm telling you the truth. Getting lie with the computer The progress of technology of computer generated three interesting ways to detect liars." . innocence or the fidelity of their partners.
There was. Interpreting body language In our book The Language of the Body body showed signs that represent more than 60% of the messages exchanged between people. they show that it is experiencing some kind of stress. they believe their lies. feel insecure. may be itching. pull the ear.equipped to control the language. "to be honest. Mothers them said "I know you're lying . If it touches the face several times and at the same time says "trust me". If someone rub your eyes. and it is likely to be hiding something. it does not show signs of fraud. Both men and women take much to hand to the face when in doubt. most of the time. pulling the ear and bring the hand to the neck. scratches his neck. Interpret the whole Never interpret a gesture alone. and others. In the book. is usually rapid and symmetrical . The smile that accompanies a true statement. "believe me". your facial expressions are asymmetric. like politicians and religious fanatics who. nothing guarantees that lying. without displaying too many signs of the stress. When the person mumble a reply to a question directly. Keep in mind that they are not satisfied that the person is lying. your smile is crooked means. When people try to show that they do not feel emotions. In other words. exaggerate or lie. When it comes to lie in general at least three signs. But most of the liars give many signs. Smile Men and women smile the same way as when they lie and the truth. The fake smile is generally slow and asymmetric. This is true for children educated in Western culture and European. however. discussing the matter extensively. take your fingers to rub the nose or mouth. suspicious. Is in the eye You probably learned to believe the liar never looks in the eyes. There are people who lie comfortably. but there is something she is not saying. it is reasonable to assume that you are listening to a lie. that Bill Clinton touched his nose and face 26 times when answered questions about Monica Lewinsky before the grand jury. but there are some signs you can see when someone is lying. When someone rub the eye.the left side of the face mirrors the right side. The male gestures are easier to understand because they are more extensive and frequent: rubbing eyes and nose. for example. irritation or fatigue.
9. 2. it is possible to continue denying it. experienced liars can maintain eye contact when they lie. without further difficulty. Mispronounce or mumble the words. 6.a sign of growing tension and dryness of the eyeball. 3. 5. Sit in the chair higher. 4. 7. because it shows which part of the brain they are using. It is the forced smile used by both sexes for fake sincerity. 7. It is an instinct for defense. 8. Smile with the lips closed. The direction where to move the eye of the person when it is a question you can also help you identify a liar.because you can not look in my eyes. and a signal is almost impossible to disguise. 5. The invading his personal space. Always leave an exit for him to go back and tell the truth. Stay calm. 4. Crossing your arms or legs. and when invented a story. Pretend not to hear or say that law did not understand what he said.does not show that you know they're lying. Aggressive questions as "Why do not you call me?" and "Are you seeing anyone?" may cause the liar is to secure its position and not improve anything in your relationship with him. Give it an "exit". Mimic the posture and his movement to establish a communication and make it more difficult for him to lie to you. look liars left to right. this does not apply. skillful liars look to the left. is where it will look. Never say what you really know . 10. If the room has a door. Not maintain eye contact. recalled when a real event. you lose the chance to be knowing the truth. trigger the left side of the brain and generally look to the right. "Open up" to the truth. The deft. open your arms and tilt it back." In cultures where maintaining prolonged eye contact is considered an ill-educated attitude and aggressive. but is a strong evidence of cheating. It is a subtle form of intimidation. Talk soon. 3. Deepening the pupils 6. A liar think doing so is not lying. resulting in forced eye contact. If you react negatively or with much emphasis. Liars just want to finish with the conversation. Signs that denounce the lie in men 1. 9. His eyes fitam the void. In simple terms." In the latter case. In addition. Use the technique of self: "I felt a lack of your call. Men find it easier to lie with your hands in your pockets. Do not show surprise or amazement. He wants to make you like it to believe it. This observation is not without errors. Try making it easy to tell the truth. but record the suffering that their attitude question to you. Do not accuse. If you get close. It is important to note if s eyes blink more often . trigger the right side of the brain and look to the left. 8. . Hide your hands. he will feel uncomfortable. 2. The brain tries to prevent the face of information. Descruze legs. As not being a victim of lies 1. Shake your head indicating "no" when they answered "yes" and vice versa. Demonstrate warmth and laughter too." "I am sad when I think you're seeing another woman. Add involuntary facial movements.
Ignore the lie and say "What can we do that does not happen more?". the more likely it is to confess everything and. And that is something that men and women will never understand.10. . If he thinks you miss the hook. Finally. at worst. Give him one last chance. to find a solution to not having to resort to lying again. we asked our readers to send us the 9 phrases that men hear when they hide what they really want: dictionary of language patterns of male The men never understand women and women will never understand men.
b. 4. b. the proportion is 75%. b. b. 1. proportions. sizes. Their ratio is: a. b. c. Which of the following attributes best describe your body? a. 3. but elegant. A long and undulating clothes that cover all problem areas. Tiny shoes. It is a guide to the impact that you cause or ceases to cause a man when he sees for the first time. Modern in short skirts and high heels to show the legs. What type of shoe predominates in your wardrobe? a. more than 80%. which would you prefer? a. Athletic / strong. textures and female body language signals. with and without straps. A short clothes. 2. When you are chatting with an attractive man that stops leg bigwig.Chapter 9 THE TESTING OF WOMEN'S SEXUAL APPEAL How do you make people work? Take the test When the eyes of a man found the trellis in a room. c. appearance and presentation. The influence of personality traits on their attraction to men will be discussed later. Fashion shoes with medium heel. with comfortable shoes. Measure your waist and hips and calculate the proportion waist / hip dividing the waist by the hip. less than 65%. This is a test to see how a man to evaluate the primeiva finding the time or were looking at his picture. not too flashy. Created then this test to give you an idea of how they look. If you could buy a new clothes regardless of price. but with elegance. if your waist measures 75cm and 100cm his hip. High heels. With trousers or a long skirt. c. how he reacts to you? This is something that every woman thinks: what is the first impression of a man when he says the first time? Most women want to know to what extent are attractive to men. Casual. c. c. The test relates only to their physical shape. colors. Terninho a stylish and well cut. Skinny / straight. based on responses from the male brain to certain forms. 65 to 80%. At the first meeting. 6. or jump down. what is your attitude? . fair and low-necked to let that show their physical gifts. For example. how you dress for the man trying to impress? a. Heavy. 5.
c. Lean / angulosa / muscular. b. If your friends would describe her face. Plump. Heavy load. If you ask a stranger to describe your ass. 10. c. Soft / smooth. regardless of day or hour to get the best appearance possible. 13 . Short. c. lean hips and the caress your body to draw attention to it. 15. With an outfit just to highlight the silhouette. c. which would pose? a. c. How you dress for the evening out with friends? a. With a bra to lift the breasts and let the shows the neckline. My face is my blade. as he seems? a. Looking over the shoulder. Natural. Smooth. b. but sincere. thin or thin. Back arched. You're going to a dinner in the light of candles and want to be sexy. b. thin or athletic. b. thick and strong. Round / in the form of a peach. Inclined to the front. Infant / big eyes. b. Curvilinear. b. Protuberans / round. hands on hips and lips exposed. c. Average length and thickness. If Picasso was painting you would like? a. Elegant / powerful features. I use much makeup. 7. Stay near him with the legs unfolded. the rear tilt and throwing a kiss to the camera. If you were invited to pose for Vogue. With loose clothes that do not give any idea of the body that is underneath. Long. b. 8. c. Compact / muscular. 9. which he say? a.a. say: a. c. Colors and styles are in fashion. Describe your makeup: a. b. Full. Move the hair. When you pass your hand in the stomach. with hair pulled to the top of the head. 11.How would you describe the your neck? a. is the language on the lips. 14. hips recline. b. c. What use . Try to make it sit so that it can not see his body. 12.
Almonds. c. You choose: a. b. Always remember to two things: their personality traits may. And you can improve your appearance. 16. Elegant Your Score Now calculate your score and see where you are classified in terms of its appearance shows that of their sexuality. Look at his nose in the mirror. Your Hair is a. Carefree b.Comprido b. 100 points or more: The goddess of sex When the men see. b. Greater. modify that image. b. 18. 17. c. Earrings of pearls and small diamonds. How would you describe your appearance a. Earrings with stones of medium size and pretty. Sexy c. c. Small as a button. Large / child. As a cartoonist designer? a. You're getting dressed to go to the Oscar party. 19. b. Middle c.lipstick? a. Short 20. they are immediately gaff. Medium. Small / tight. in the medium term. c. The color of fashion. You can use the earrings you want. Pedestrians stop to work to work and . Long before diamonds. As a man describe his eyes? a. Neutral / natural color. Bright red.
and it is being right. Why not work with it . however. knowing that so attract a greater number of men and have more chance to choose? The next chapter will show you how to become more attractive and why most men babam by women with lower QLS and not look twice at you.whatever you dislike .to improve their appearance. The problem. 66 to 99 points: Miss Elegance Most women are in this squad. know that if we really invest in their physical appearance. will make you feel more beautiful and healthy and give you a great pleasure to live. . If received 66 to 78. become more attractive to men. But why not invest in their physical as well as invest in the intellect? Both of them are its aspects. The next chapter will show you the reason for their success and how to further improve its score. Men feel women inevitably attracted by clear signs. Less than 65 points: Let's whim? You probably believe that personality is more important than appearance. You are really an expert in the game of her sexuality and never missing program. Means that you are reasonably successful in making men feel attracted to you at first. will have even more spectacular results. You might say that is not interested in men who are no longer hypnotize by physical appearance. Sign in to an academy to improve the form. You can improve your presentation without compromising their beliefs. If you got 78 to 99 points. Men like to see it and deal. for example. at least in principle. is that even the most sensitive men and intelectualizados are at the mercy of biology.whistles when you pass. just needs some work areas to achieve what men want. The attraction that you will hold on men is just one extra! You can also disguise their physical imperfections dressed up in a way that emphasized their strengths.
in addition to raising their self-esteem. It boiled inside. which. She was angry. Kim changed. money and energy. People who know are up to 90% of their opinion about us in the first four minutes and assess whether we are desirable in less than ten seconds. That does not mean you can not succeed with the opposite sex because it is not equal to Cameron Diaz or Brad Pitt. who met at work. In this chapter we will examine the ingredients that make men and women desirable and attractive to each other. do not shave and wore clothes that for Daniel. and Daniel was leaving to look for her to do sex. Both loved the relationship and thought that the other was the ideal partner. she always was in slippers and bathrobe. But understanding how the process of attracting and employing some simple strategies in your favor. She said they liked to wear for him and especially how he looked when she arrived. do not deserve any effort on her part. while at home was a tragedy.Chapter 10 OR AND MAKES THE EYES OF MEN JUMP The power of female sexual attraction Case Study: Kim and Daniel Kim and Daniel were already leaving a year and had decided to marry. Daniel decided to confront the situation and told Kim how she felt. no makeup and the hair drained. Four years after the marriage. At home after work. the physical appearance affects our ability to attract and keep a partner. Daniel has been living with Kim and Jade. As men are visual creatures stimulated by the appearance of Kim was a discouragement. therefore: beauty and physical attraction and personality or . Left to makeup. This is a line of evolutionary psychology that says that in the brain of each of us. contrasted with the appearance of Kim. And found that the husband was much more frivolous than she imagined. began to show cracks in the marriage and he started to notice other women. did not understand why he could not love her the way she was. In his office. which is why we have to react to them. there are patterns of behavior constructed by the waste needs of our ancestors. This behavior he said he and his friends were not important. The ancestral biological signs of gender that we explain the working of the subconscious level. where all were well stowed and makeup and flirting with him. Kim left like her mother. Kim now is related to a group of women who think men are all us idiots. Daniel could not explain his feelings and was blaming it for having touched on the subject. For the first time. There seemed more care with the look inside. Daniel thought that maybe she was going through a difficult period at work and once again take care. Daniel liked to see Kim always went out together when stowed and thought that her appearance was a clear signal that he had made the right choice. Six months later. What is more powerful. Kim felt that now was as a married woman need not impress anyone and most especially if store was loss of time. you can easily become more captivating. But Kim soon began to neglect when left with friends. Like it or not. and when left with friends. But began to irritate the fact that she is working to produce.
but like it or not. For men. is an attractive man who is presented as biologically able to provide you with food and safety during the creation of children. The evolution shaped our brains so that the good appearance is a sign of healthy person and relatively free of diseases. Ashmore. tangible and intangible. put aside the theories of romantic love. the subtext biological basics. the answers to these early signs of attraction are programmed in the brain. Tell a person that she is beautiful or attractive is to say. the evidence still saying that our brains are programmed to respond to the physical appearance of the other. Subsequent research revealed that 73% of voters denied categorically that may have been influenced by the appearance of the candidate and only one in eight voters are willing to at least consider this. kindness and talent. intelligence. This explains why many women tend to feel attracted by older men. In both sexes. And to be as objective as possible. Beauty and sexual attraction is essentially the same thing: the original meaning of the paplowing "beautiful" is "sexually stimulating". What the science says Polls (Eagly. that make it desirable to the potential partner. Messages are encoded and sent to tell others whether we are or not suitable for their purposes. you want to have sex with her. You can choose to become attractive. the attraction occurs in the biological. Women like older men because they have more experience and more access to resources. For a woman.intelligence? They will be examined in this chapter. the people of good appearance. higher wages. have more credibility and even more permission to break the rules than their less attractive correlative. and Longo Makhija) show that we automatically assign positive traits such as honesty. the ideas about what is politically correct and personal subtleties. Analyzing the results of Canadian federal elections of 1976. The theory of beauty Every person emits signals. . The biological purpose of beauty is attracting for breeding purposes. Perhaps it is politically correct deny the impact of attractiveness in our decisions. The good news is that we have control over many of the determinants of our appearance and we can if we want. when the woman displays the skills that allow you to pass their genes to the next generation. without being aware of it. without even know it. Attractive to people better jobs. change things. Bill CIinton is proof. This means that they decided their vote on a subconscious level. in turn. the University of Toronto found that attractive candidates received a number of votes in two and a half times larger than the non attractive.
Athletic silhouette 2. is something very different. almost all studies on the attraction reached the same conclusions that came painters. Keep in mind that we are considering only the physical and geographical characteristics of the body. In the next two chapters you will know the results of 23 studies and experiments showing what men consider attractive in the body of the woman and vice versa. his face lightly colored and an air of delicacy and fragility. developed to attract the attention of man. we discuss the non-physical factors related to the choice of our partners. Sick sinus . Chinese Proverb What makes a man attractive to a woman. Factors that drive men in order of priority 1. We will examine it further. Based on these results. even politically correct in the twentieth century. researchers from Massachusetts General Hospital found that these images activate the same parts of the brain that cocaine and cash. Speaks to the things we pursue in attracting someone before you hear the person talk or even to know who is. Today the look emphasizes youth and vigor: the competition of beauty were created exclusively to promote an image that reflects the attractiveness of women's health.which encourages more men The "point" considered the most appropriate for the western woman in the nineteenth century was a pale complexion. It is understood that the body of women has evolved as a permanent sexual signaling system. as if assessing a potential partner through a photograph. To display photographs of women "beautiful" to heterosexual men. At the end of this chapter. but as you see.The woman's body . however. Sexy mouth 3. The wife is chosen for his virtue. In the last sixty years. a concubine for her beauty. classify each part of the body in a ranking of attractiveness and explain the reason for his influence. the criteria for male choice of a long term partner are not the same. poets and writers in the last six thousand years: the body and appearance of women have more attractive on men than their intelligence and capacities. The man of the twenty-first century or the same immediate things a woman as their ancestors.
4. to escape the danger and to defend the nest if necessary. Eyes attractive 8. females that covered the back. Stimulating 1: athletic silhouette the first item in the list of men is the women's athletic silhouette. Stimulant 3: Seios tired The breasts of women at the peak of their sexual and reproductive capacity .most men are passionately interested in them and are crazy for a groove. use it to extend its advantage. was 44 and had dummy and thick legs. Most men prefer a woman more fleshy than the lean. and the mothers. were round and fleshy buttocks that played the leading role in the attraction of males. All research shows that men like breasts of all types and sizes. The nipples of women without children are pink. Arched back 12. Few women know that Marilyn Monroe. Most of the time the breasts of human females are the one clear purpose . Whether they are the size of watermelons appear limõezinhos or . Elongated neck Men prefer to look the brain because most of them see better than thought. . Dresses sutiãs cleavages and raise the breasts emphasize the signal to create a groove that mimics the buttocks of women vis-tas behind. Are those that appear in the center pages of men's magazines and in ads that exploit the fri-appeal. Long hair 9. Long legs 5. Most of the breast consists of fat. the breasts become larger. Lack of tummy 11. Buttocks hemispheric 7. giving you a rounded form and has no relationship to milk production. because fat is an extra helping of breastfeeding successful. dark-brown.from eighteen to twenty-five years of age . Since humans began walking upright. however.sexual signaling. Others. Round hips / waist fine 6. Vulva arqueada 13. Small nose 10.are the favorite of men. A strong and well formed body is a sign of health and ability to tip in-breed. Some women are horrified when they are submitted to the meaning of that groove. Why men have difficulty maintaining eye contact? Because the breasts are not eyes. have to attract the male that approached the front. When people went to four. one of the biggest sex symbols of the world.
The high heels are. The form that was chosen to round. and this proportion does not change much in small children. tilt the buttocks. because the attention is attracted to the area where the right leg and left it encountered tram. In search of femininity irresistible. When ovulado. Men like women who wear high heels: they enhance the sexual profile of women stretching them to the legs. reports. the article by fri-appeal more efficient market. by far. But when the girl reaches puberty and the hormones begin to flow on his body and transforming her into women. the legs grow rapidly. learn quickly how the thing works. abortions and surgical extraction of ribs. Never heard a man tell a woman she has beautiful long arms. Later adopted the corset to accentuate the hips and flatten the belly. I decided to get in shape. reducing their feet and pushing the pelvis forward. the arched back. Perhaps this is an important lesson for parents: lock their daughters the fourteenth to eighteenth day after the menstruation! Stimulating 5: Round Tables / Cintura fina For centuries women have used every kind of contraption to tighten the belt with the aim of obtaining a per-made for hourglass. pies. Roseanne Stimulating 6: Buttocks hemispheric . came to suffer deformities of the chest wall. That is why long legs have always been associated with a powerful sexuality. a step to stardom. compression of organs. Legs extralongas become powerful non-verbal signs to tell the men that she is sexually maturing and is already able to procreate. Babies born with legs cur-ing for body size. Even in the cold days. In the nineteenth century. Studies have shown that the length of dresses and height of jumps varies with the menstrual cycle. a stairway to heaven. thus demonstrating their readiness for pregnancy and procreation. women increased the size of the hips and buttocks with pannier to flag potential getter. For men. The more legs you can see the man and the more long-gas they are the sexiest woman you think. wear high heels and short dresses to give the impression that they have longer legs. The principle behind the legs of women as sexual sign is yes. women unconsciously choose more revealing dresses and high heels. For a woman. breathing problems.Stimulating 4: Long Legs The vision of a woman with legs that seem to end in the axillae in men leaves a lasting impression. Most women unconsciously understand the dynamics behind the legs extralongas and since teenagers.
" Stimulants 11 and 12: back arched and vulva Curves and arches indicate femininity and fertility. and lumbar spine more arched. led a test that used images of women beneath the weight above the weight and normal weight. showing them to groups of men asked to classify them in terms of attractiveness. Young people who wanted to capture the attention of men recreate the appearance of a large back-ro wearing pannier. The jeans also became popular because it accentuated the buttocks and give them a look round and firm. Women whose ratio exceeds 100% arouse little interest. 'why there is no fat around the heart. Women who already have a hysterectomy. protruding rear. The most remarkable discovery was that experience that men have to share waist / hip 70% the highest score. The greater part than the back of the woman is closer to that of man. have not most of the reproductive organs. the lower. went out of fashion in the second half of the twentieth century. even when the weight of women was very large. The mother-nature usually deposit the excess fat away from vital organs. ie your waist measured 70% of your hip." In the nineteenth century. like to women curvilinear. associated with neglect and poor health. so similar to the hump of the camel. They start to lose interest when the proportion exceeds 80% or is less than 70%. Stimulating 10: Absence of belly Women have a more rounded belly as men. That is why the academies and salons of yoga around the world is full of women doing abdominal exercises to get the perfect stomach type "table of my house. Hindquarters protruding is an ancient sign of female sexuality so revered in Greece that a temple was built in honor of Aphrodite Calipígia. to show accumulation of fat around the uterus and ovaries. young women began to make plastics and liposuction to reduce the size of the buttocks. wider. The women of normal weight with pro-hip-waist portion around 70% were the most attractive. a non-verbal indicator of low fertility. In the groups below and above the weight. Men around the world. A woman with healthy and fully capable of giving birth has a waist-hip ratio of 70%. The buttocks of women store large quantities of fat to use in feeding and food reserves in difficult times. deposits of fat around the belly. Ask any woman to assume a vertical posture and sexy you'll find is the preferred . Marilyn Monroe cut two centimeters of the left heel of his shoe to accentuate your grinder. this pro-portion always showed a great ability to catch the attention of men. which can still be seen in some tribes of southern Africa. the more attractive. "the goddess of beautiful buttocks. When the excessive fat.The men believe the buttocks round. masculinity. therefore. High heels were with the woman hunch. a formation known as esteatopigia. Professor Devendra Singh. which invariably attracted the attention of men. peach-shaped. evolutionary psychologist at the University of Texas. Sculptures and paintings of the Stone Age abound in images of women with large. The additional bending of the buttocks and back tilt pushes the breasts forward. buttocks cram the quaver and the floor. and no belly is a clear sign of non-pregnancyboth for and willingness to male suitors. brain and testicles. Throughout the story. geo-metric shapes and angles. women with waist thinner were the favorite. usually accumulate as men. women had to keep the whole body covered in public.
The blush is to recreate that effect.children should have a touch. ask any woman to be on foot and make a sexy pose. The women's favorite features are the small faces with short jaws. the formula is clear . If you do not believe. because they have the same size and thickness. It is always the favorite color of every woman who poses for sexual symbol. These signals cause reactions in parental brains of men and a powerful desire to touch. is also expanding and is filled with blood. Men like their women to wear lipstick and makeup by artificially give the signal that they are interested or feel excited for them. And always had a single color . For women. For thousands of years. PICASSO The excitement of women's sexuality can cause a flushing in the capillarity of its sides. The zoologists believe that the woman's lips moved as mirror of his genitals. The base gives the skin a uniform appearance and no stains that signals youth. Stimulating 13: Neck elongated the neck structures evolved in males as short. All races prefer faces that emerged ability to play healthy. Exciting 2: Boca sensual Humans are the only press that these are the lips on the outside of the mouth. The bright red lipstick is one of the main signs that a sexual woman can use. As the face attracts Our interest in human faces attractive is something that seems to be part of our psychology and does not depend on cultural backgrounds.position of the hook-up back and quaver of the hips. was used by Egyptians as an eco genital permanent. Look at how many these days use plastic surgery to try to conserve or restore the youthful look. protruding apples. good health and good genes. with both arms supported them to occupy more space and increase the chance to draw attention. embrace and protect. This is known as "eco genital". The woman's face is a screen on which a daily basis it paints a picture of me before her.red. that bond still . That made the neck longer and thin women a powerful sign of differentiation between the sexes that men like to kiss and see adorned in jewels and cartoonists exaggerate to emphasize the femininity. invented the first beauty salon in six thousand years ago. The lipstick. a reaction that sends powerful signals to men and that observers began to develop when we began to walk upright. delicate jaws. And to the face of a woman is generally classified as "beautiful". this often cause great anxiety with regard to aging. the size of the ear it was the indicator of sensuality. men like a grin and an air vulnerable. thick and strong to protect them from breaks during the hunts and battles. and state of sexual arousal. Flesh lips and big eyes on the size of the face. Above all.
The modern woman gets the same effect using long pending. The blondes are also in front of other things. the cute 110 thousand and 90 thousand redheads. but it is important that women understand the effects that these signs have in exploiting the men and romantic meetings. a woman who wants to be taken seriously in the workplace should use less eye makeup and lipsticks colors more subtle. if their pupils dilate and mascara. joined in greater numbers in the workforce. most men give their sensuality. among the tribes Kelabit and Kenyah. Contact lenses give the illusion that the woman's eyes are shining and the dilated pupils. Today. Women began to use modern cosmetic when. Similarly. Since then. giving them that look childish. large eyes are considered attractive. we have become so unaccustomed to see faces clean. When a woman finds a man attractive. Stimulating 8: long hair If the person never cut his hair. Over you-do. Our tests with computer images show that the longer the earrings of women. The blondes have 140 thousand yarn hair. Barbie and Minnie Mouse have small nose. Eyes that look great on the lower face in men inspire feelings of security. which explains why men find "strangely attractive" women who wear contact lenses. We did a survey with 5. Stimulating 7: Eyes attractive In almost all countries. and the blondes are the genuine public also laurels. in 1920. Will never see a female model with a large nose. the men show a preference for women of color and clear eyes. The men feel more attracted to women who use natural rnaquiagem than by women who seem to have been molded to reap the bricklayer. he would reach about one meter long. Bambi. Excesses may send a wrong impression to customers and cause of male rivalry in female clients. as some women believe to be ugly without makeup and use it as a mask to hide and not as an aid to make their faces more seductive and mysterious. which immediately attracts the .all with the purpose of creating the illusion of sexual facial signs. The plastic surgeons usually modify the nostrils to form an angle of 35-40 degrees to the face.exists in parts of Africa and in Borneo. The makeup enhances your eyes and look the child rearing. asking them what kind of hair seemed more .is this the real reason for the greater success of blondes? The blond hair is also a powerful visual indicator of women's youth: it darkens after she gives birth. something that only men seem to understand. The feminists might say that these are good reasons not to use cosmetics or earrings. eye liner and shadow to artificially create the impression that she is interested. creating characters of large eyes and small nose to win the hearts of your audience. the industry of perfumery and cosmetics reached a total value of more than 50 trillion dollars a year . even the actors are doing operations for the reduction of nose in line with the new image of the androgynous man of twenty-first century.214 British men. They interpret as a sign of fertility. Unfortunately. The cartoonists exploit this feature to a large extent. Blond-haired women have a higher level of estrogen that cute. Stimulating 9: Nose Small Small nose is another reminiscence of childhood in men that produces feelings of security.
12% of women prefer short hair. Until the beginning of the feminist movement in the 1960s. her jewelry. the clothes of women emphasized their physical skills in order to attract the attention of potential suitors. The costume gives it a professional position of equality with men and women of business and. when you see a pornographic image of a woman. a sexy appearance may be disadvantageous for women in a position of power or in a branch where men predominate.the inner beauty now had more than the appearance. the other has no choice. The lessons to be learned here is clear: the woman must use when long hair and want to attract men hair short or pulled back in working meetings. and the vast majority of images of naked men to be homosexuals. A man. The modern woman has two basic codes of dress: clothes and work clothes of non-work. use the black lipstick and nail until the display dark olheiras as if they were doped. over 70% of the audience are formed by men who want to see women showing signs able to stimulate the reactions of their ancestral brain. secondly. her hair and clothing to ensure an image of credibility. This appearance has little success with the heterosexual men. How does the person you want to influence you waiting for? How should your makeup. The impact of women's clothing on men The discussion of the effects of women's appearance requires some understanding of the history of clothing. long hair and bright and showed a healthy body well nourished and have a history of health of its carrier and its potential for procreation. The link between attraction and pornography See pornography is an activity almost entirely male. an idea that attracted millions of women everywhere. The key to a successful clothing business is simple.sexually attractive women. In the case of the Miss Universe. but through paintings. The result was predictable: 74% think the long hair of women more sexually attractive. the models begin to have no female bodies. Styles as punk and grunge came as opposition to the use of clothing to attract men and to show the world that men and women could be equal in regard to appearance. it allows women to overcome further demonstrate the success. It never occurs if it has a nice personality. He is attracted by the shapes and curves and the virtual suggestion that she is able to transmit their genes. reliability and integrity in business? If you are a branch . In business. women wore it for the reason of all: to attract men and other women overcome. For centuries. Considered that the long hair gave the woman a sensual delight and the short hair indicated a more serious approach to life. This code antiatração of clothing has evolved to the point that in 1990. painted or drew pictures of naked women were almost all men. They believed then that could be free of oppressive obligation of having to always be beautiful for men. the importance and attractiveness of what the dresses. however. never knows if she does cook. emaciated-looking. The artists who carved. In remote times. power. play piano or fight for world peace. The feminism that said women dress to attract men is not more important . Women must understand that the men crawl the Internet in search of shapes and curves that appeal to your brain. The men of past generations would also like to feast your eyes with erotic images of women. who rarely attend the fashion show. Ninety-nine percent of pornographic sites on the Internet are addressed to men.
in it is necessary to men sell their expertise and management, most signs of attraction that we discussed are inappropriate. However, if your business is selling the very picture female - cosmetics or clothes for example - many of the signs we discuss can be used successfully. If you have marks or scars, a birth defect or a feature that really does not like, is perhaps the case to a plastic surgery. Most people who have expressed satisfaction with the outcome. In a typical week, the average person is exposed to more than five hundred images of human beings "perfect" in magazines, newspapers, billboards and television. Most of these images is the product of technology, such as airbrush, highlight of makeup, computer graphics and effects of light. They rarely show the real person. Do not compare with the images of women's magazines. They only make you feel ugly. Plastic Surgery Today, an increasing number of people are opting for plastic correction (correction sounds better than surgery) to improve the appearance. In the United States alone, more than a million people are treated under the knife every year the main reason that people choose this path is to improve self-image and self-confidence, increasing capacity to deliver the signals discussed here. The celebrities are the most common patients. The fix plastic is not new. Centuries before the liposuction and breast implants, had padded mesh for men with calves too thin, iron corsets for women and pudgy pannier for them to increase the buttocks and hips. King Henry VIII wore a padded zipper to increase their virility and small Syphilitic and compete with the French royal. The it was decorated with jewels and emblems. But it is important to understand that plastic surgery does not make you a better person or more beloved, nor solve the problems of life. The only person who thinks you look for is probably a problem with their self-image. It is not the type of person with whom you should want to connect. The other side of attraction Why Men Have Sex and Women They Love? records the results of a survey of fifteen thousand men and women about what they seek in a partner. The relationship is: What men look for in a partner A. At first sight: 1. Good appearance. 2. Well-turned body.
3. Breasts. 4. Buttocks. B. In the long term: 1. Personality. 2. Good appearance. 3. Intellectual capacity. 4. Mood. The A shows what we already know - men are visually stimulated beings who enjoy looking at attractive women. Most women understand the science and research has proven many times, but not "politically correct" recognize it. The feminists in general abhors the idea of a woman be judged by their physical appearance and classified the men of superficial and frivolous. But that does not change the fact that the first reaction of these women is overwhelmingly visual. A list of the items are visual, so you must remember that it is making its debut presentation of. But this is not the case with the B list: a "good appearance" is the only visual item that men seeking a partner for the long term. As the visual signs are so important to man, he unconsciously USA the appearance of women as a measure of respect and love she has for him. He thinks that if she spends time with the appearance, it is because they feel attracted. One of the major complaints of men in actions of divorce is that the wives after the marriage, left the appearance disposed down the drain. They say they used the appearance to attract them and then thought it was no longer necessary. Most men are disappointed with the only woman who dresses for work colleagues. Women, however, have difficulty to understand them here, for not bind with the same intensity to their love appearance. For a woman, have sense of humor does not mean tell jokes. I mean laugh of his jokes. Solution It is inevitable: their appearance influences the response to treatment and the other given. Also influences their self-image and behavior. Most components of their appearance depends to a greater or lesser degree, of their actions. There are courses of clothing and etiquette to learn to walk, sit, talk, dress, makeup on and so on. The bookshops are full of publications on the subject. Department stores often offer free makeup they teach the customers to choose and apply cosmetics. A good hairdresser can you recommend the best way to get the hair, the beautician, from skin care, and dentists, to fix their teeth. The weight is also subject to control, because a competent nutritionist teaches you good eating habits and exercises in a gym will give you the way you want. If you absolutely must, have to make a new nose, increase the breasts, remove the signs of aging. In the XXI century there are few legitimate reasons for you not get the look you want.
The sexual attraction is 50% what you have and 50% what people think you have. Zsa Zsa Gabor This research shows two things. First, men focus on visual images in his first encounter with a woman, and overall appearance is more important than the body beautiful. This means that the way a woman dresses, the makeup and style are worth more points than quilinhos the most, some small bones and sinuses. Secondly, the long-term man is more interested in personality, intelligence and sense of humor of the woman, but a "good appearance" is still high on their list price. The good news is that you have a broad control over most of their appearance and can change things to fit.
"You will still love me when I become old and white hair?", She asked. "I not only I love her ', he replied," I like to write. We are not suggesting that women should have the obsession with appearance as often occurs, but it is important that it strives to have the best appearance possible. There is no ugly woman, woman is lazy. HELENA RUBINSTEIN Above all, you can become more attractive is developing intellectually and emotionally. There are women who, although they are not physically beautiful, become so interesting for its human quality, his gift for communication and intelligence, leaving behind many of the sex goddesses. Men may rave bold with breasts and women with biceps of steel, but the polls show that in the end, the related-ments have more to do with spirit than with the matter. The key ingredient is the flame inside that comes from self - sexual, emotional and professional. In other words, make it an interesting person and they will not realize their physical imperfections. Abstract It is fact that the woman's appearance can attract or repel the man in the relationship. Many women are angry with this. You think this is an unjust man in gray and wrinkle-be distinct and mature, and the woman in the same situation, just an old. But this is the case. No additional tapir is bored with it and look if the complaining that you can not change. So the men - and women - think. Do not fight it. Manage its consequences. If you are dissatisfied with some aspect of their appearance, change. You have the resources to do so. And if not to attract a man, do it by yourself.
Take the test 1. their proportion is 85. What is your response? a. You asked women to describe their mouths. Gentle / kind.If you ask women to describe their ass. b. b. if your chest measures 91 cm and 106 cm their hip. but I prefer to work part time. Below average. 85-95%. You think the man should be: a. b. b. 2. Small and compact.in physical and non-physical every time a woman knows. Freedom of compromise . 6. 5.Chapter 11 THE TEST OF MALE SEX APPEAL How is your concept to women in terms of attractiveness? They feel the irresistible . 100% monogamist. c. ask their friends to take notes for your answers and compare the result. Redondo. Neutral or down. c.8%. 3 . 4. but think occasional flirtations contributing to the ongoing relationship. b. c. c. Reasonable for my age and experience. Lean or without ass. For example. What do they respond? a. c. Their ratio is: a. . 100% or more. divide it by the hip measurement and then multiply by 100. c. b. In the form of "V". Take the measure of your chest. After doing the test. In the next chapter you will learn all the secrets about what women seek to be a real man. The test records the points you receive . Your income is: a. Happy. Heavy load.the open relationship is the way of the future. Less than 85%. Rectangular. Significantly above average. Compromised. they say: a. You go to the TV show "Meeting the dark" and a candidate asks you to describe your body type.or are you indifferent? You are attractive or repulsive? Take the test now to see your score with women.
b. 14. b. b. c.7. if a little talk with her. As a woman describe your eyes? a. c. 9. Solid nose. sad or anxious: a. If a woman is distressed. . c. A smooth surface. Small nose and chin. Long / thin. c. c. Can be the joy of the party. Jogging and tennis. You probably notice. Shirt and jeans with tennis shoes. Relevant. Kind / gentle. Not important. Almost the whole. Look in the mirror. protruding jaw. As you have hair? a. Plump. Fun / malicious. Distant / cold. b. How is your sense of humor? a. A well defined abdomen. Social pants and shirt. His thighs are: a. 10. 11 . Average. b. 15. Muscle / angles. Describe your chin and your nose. seem appropriate to my face. for example). Bald head or scraped. I am a goner. b. which will feel? a. How to dress? a. I need to improve on that. A barrel. 12.Size is paper? You think for women the size of the penis is: a. c. You will know immediately. You have been invited to a party and heard that there are many women that you are to impress. c. If a woman passes his hand over her belly. You probably will not notice. 8. shoe leather. a. 13. b. b. More or less half (large entries. c. c. Very important. b.
You have a reasonable ability to use their skills to attract women-the women. Being with his face and shaved. E is close to 47 points. places and things. which for most women is a discouraging factor. 47 to 89 points: A cat Most men belong to this category. c. you have a base that needs to be quite worked. Just take a look at the questions that not many points scored and read the tips of the next chapter. They do not want selfish men.16. 46 points or less: A cat pooch Seu Placar Questão Pontos A Pontos B Pontos C 1 7 5 3 2 9 1 O 3 3 7 5 4 3 5 4 5 3 1 5 6 1 9 4 7 1 4 5 8 3 5 1 9 5 3 1 10 3 5 9 11 3 7 5 12 1 5 4 13 5 3 1 14 5 1 3 15 1 9 7 16 3 4 5 17 9 7 3 . Reasonable coverage. b. But careful not to make their appearance too perfect. No woman wants to compete with its partner the mirror. because they may find that you are superficial and obsessed with itself. I know a lot about people. If you are close to 89 points. Send them the right signs and how to enhance their skills to attract them. 17. b. I understood in my area. Use beard. Be beard of three days. What is the extent of their conversation? a. Do you ever: a. The next chapter will show you how. need not improve much. Your Score Question Point to Point B Point C 1753 The 2 9 1 3375 4354 5315 6194 7145 8351 9531 10 3 5 9 11 3 7 5 12 1 5 4 13 5 3 1 14 5 1 3 15 1 9 7 16 3 4 5 17 9 7 3 Now total the points and see the ranking of their sexuality 90 points or more: A Gatão Wow! You can consider a magnet for women. c.
You might ask why women are fleeing from you. If you want to become attractive to women. Think about how women will see the fun of your life looking for you in a different way! . For you. Fortunately. that are laughing. they are sensitive to their needs and have ambition and talent to move up in life. and console is saying that man prefers women beer is BOIOLI. you can learn most of these things. will need help! Women like men who have personality. the friends are more important than women.
When the probability of conception is highest (more or less in half of the menstrual cycle). In Britain. What the science says Polls conducted in the United States show that attractive people earn 12-14% more than their fellow non-attractive (and Hammermesh Biddle). As partners in the long term.Chapter 12 WHAT TO ATTRACT WOMEN The first thing you will notice in this chapter on sexual attraction to men about women is that it is half the size of the chapter that deals with female stimuli on men. resulted in minor penalties and fines lower (Castelloe.such symmetries as indicators of youth and health. the female body has evolved as a signaling device sexual. and the symmetrical animals tend to live more than non-symmetrical. Your brain has. just as the symmetrical flowers are more attractive to bees because they have more nectar. If you ovulado. Very little has changed in that respect.symmetrical. she feels attracted to men with characteristics Manly and harsh. the symmetry plays a significant role in female choice. however. women are more prone to choose a man hard and for a symmetrical relationship of short-term. Wuensch and Moore. Since the beginning of time. bringing them the chance of survival. but the woman in the XXI century and more than their ancestors: a man who wants also to meet their emotional needs. which started before their . but was looking good genes elsewhere. sending messages to men about women's ability to be a carrier healthy and successful in their genes. women are attracted by strong men and healthy. the male sex appeal is more basic and direct. are symmetrical or not. able to obtain food and protect the family. 1990). One way of identifying these characteristics is the symmetry of the human body: the left side of his body should mirror the right hand. The symmetry of the human body is more important for women than facial symmetry why the champions of boxing often attract beautiful women Among humans. Hardness means that the partner is taken. The female sex appeal is a complex and sophisticated. in search of two basic requirements: hardness and softness.and no bodies . 1991 and Downs and Lyons. with members of the same size. But both sexes see . the attraction for women firm and symmetrical men may vary with the menstrual cycle. It seems that the wife chosen by their ability to from the pain. therefore. DNA tests show that 10% of babies born in marriages are not children of the partner. women tend to choose men who invest in the relationship and the creation of children. as I said. This is totally different from how men see women. a study of the attractiveness of 74 men accused. Judging is attractive only by the appearance (which is what we are doing here). This is because. An es-all done in Scotland found that the type of male faces more attractive for women varies according to the phases of the menstrual cycle. The concern here is that attractive people receive more favorable treatment in court. They look for faces . In Pennsylvania.even unconsciously . must have virtues that provide the best possible genetic he-rity for their children.
This explains why the biggest cheats people are almost always attractive. while the body of the woman is more narrow in the shoulders. 6. since no one has the possibility to improve their appearance. when he had better look to the victim. 4. Where she has curves and softness. these signals also stimulate the brain of the woman when she evaluates potential partners. which indicates the potential of man to get food and defeat his enemies. but had two times more likely to escape the prison of the defendants non-attractive." and the . Large penis. the man has angles and strength and it is this difference which is so attractive. Athletic body. Kind eyes. Small and firm ass. in order of priority. 5. the results would be significantly different. Beard of three days. There is another reason that the shoulder strap give status to men. Nose and strong chin. 11. Lack of tummy. they put their hands on hips. The V in also attracting a woman. if members of the courts had the power not blindfolded to see the accused.623. extending in the hips. Narrow hips and muscular legs. more respect and be a man requires. Stimulating 1: Body athletic Topping the list of female attractive male body is athletic-looking. Chest and broad shoulders and muscular arms. 7. 2. Sensual mouth. because it is the opposite: it has the shape of an inverted V. This may seem dispirited. 1978). Hair tired. A strong and athletic body is a sign of good health. 9. often copied by women in search of affirmation. The bigger the breast. close to the height of the hip. But when the victim was more attractive to the accused. Here they are. but looking on the bright side. The evidence shows that. his chest still "full of pride. 8. Women who use the professional environment Epaulettes are seen as more positive. where large breasts and biceps topping are of little practical use. The main factors stimulating women 1. Even in our age of supposed gender equality. in the form of "V". becoming more attractive to other people. The men developed such characteristics to carry heavy weapons and take their prey home. To appear wider in the shoulders and occupy more space. When modern man reaches his goal. 3. Broad shoulders are a male character. A study of the damages awarded in negligence cases found that. 10. Exciting 2: Chest and shoulders and long muscular arms The upper body of the male hunter is large. showed that attractive defendants received sentences not only lighter.trials. the average compensation was $ 10. just to make it a conscious decision. The sexual responses of women are caused by certain visual aspects of the male body.051 (Kulfa and Kessler. the average compensation was $ 5. The male breast is enlarged to house large lungs. providing a better distribution of oxygen and allow them to breathe more efficiently by running or hunt.
and many men and women to consider a sexual stimulant. healthy.boys still associate the upper torso and the masculinity formed. A look athletic. In other words. Stimulating 4: Hair tired Throughout history. which however is a low priority for others. it really is encouraging to have an erection. The ass has always been the object of jokes. but most do not like the genre "muscle-man" because you think that kind of man is probably more interested in their beauty than in her. In the Middle Ages was thought that the hair had magical powers. why cut it fuses in camafeus to save and use in religious ceremonies. the gluteal muscles of the thigh had a tremendous expansion. In the case of monks. Stimulant 3: Bunda and small firm The male monkeys do not have protruding buttocks and hemispheric-only humans have. For a woman it is not ideal. A head full of hair always represented the strength and power of man. to stimulate. The redness of the buttocks is similar to the state of women's sexual arousal and stimulation of nerve endings on the buttocks is transmitted to the genitals. The hairy armpits were always a feature heavily male. Beat naked buttocks is a practice that attracts long sadistic and masochistic. Men with flaccid buttocks fat or have difficulties with these movements. and therefore more ability to the role of provider. shave the head was seen as a sign of humility before God. So that we could stay upright and walk on two feet. because the weight of the man can cause him discomfort and hamper their breathing. tending to throw the whole weight of the body of the woman. The secret lies in the fact that firm and muscular buttocks provide vigorous forward movement during the sexual act. Why then the women are interested both in the ass man? Why do you feel desire to move your hand? Why look like photos of a man with beautiful butt? Small and firm buttocks are the favorite of women worldwide. Samson lost his strength when he had his hair cut. Women are certainly attracted by a male torso well defined. which contain a musky pheromone that stimulates the brain of women sexually. The men have forearms longer than women. so that the attraction has on women. which give the best shot and shot. Men with small and firm buttocks indicate a greater chance of working more efficiently. and discourages the kind Arnold Schwarzenegger. Small and firm buttocks indicate greater chance of conception. The male baldness is inherited and its cause is the overproduction of male hormones. many of which find attractive calves head or scraped. About 50% of women give high importance to the fact that humans have an abundant mane. . hair on his head has always been considered a distinctive male brute force. The armpit hair retains the smell of the sweat glands segregated. when a woman knocks on the buttocks of the man. The same happens with the breast and pubic hair. but few are women who understand the reason of his magnetism. a part of the body usually treated with humor and disdain.
and feel frustrated because they can not do nothing about . Many men suffer from baldness. and is not popular among women. one is bald. however. men tend to use words like "wet. What was discovered. Rather than see her as a weakness and something to joke. The down chin is associated with fear and perplexity. that myth is not supported by research. the chin and face strong was formed to protect the man on the face of blows during the fight and hunt. "sensitive". is filled with blood in the state of sexual arousal and its temperature has increased by about six degrees. were seen as less powerful and less well-paid. however. Men with high testosterone are more and more protruding jaws. which makes the baldness a sign of exaggerated masculinity. We have experience using computer-altered images of male head with varying degrees of baldness. we found that only men have the bald jokes. the greater the impression of power and success that it transmits and the lower the resistance potential of people to their authority." "sexy. generally located at the top of the head. Since the times of Rome. which is not recommended.They irrigate the hormone system. and so remain today as powerful symbols of masculinity. the same way as the penis. The tired men with hair on the other hand." "delicious. is that the nose of man. to describe the mouth and eyes of men." "succulent" and "erotic. "attentive". many women feel encouraged by it and even like to kiss or fondle the man's shiny dome. Stimulants 5 and 6: Boca sensual and gentle eyes To describe the lips and eyes of women. the size of the nose of the man is associated with the size of the penis. Here is an additional . it is a sex machine.the only safe way to prevent baldness is castration before puberty. The masculinity transmitted by a head Calva accentuates the difference between the sexes and is therefore a stimulus for many women." But words are not used in the literal sense to describe the physical observed. During the search we did for our book Rude and Politically Incorrect jokes (Jokes rude and politically in-correct). A head Calva is therefore a powerful showcase of testosterone." "inviting. women rarely do. "protectors" and "loving. men Calvos are generally more aggressive and more sexually excited than their fellow non-Calvo. For others." Women. Due to higher levels of hormone. This is due in part to the solidarity of women with the discomfort that baldness brings men and partly to the fact that baldness is a sign of masculinity. Stimulating 7: strong nose and chin the nose. The only thing that the nose has in common with the penis is the way he stresses on the front of the body. which show the volunteers asked to say that the impression caused on the desktop. But they must take into account that compensation for baldness is the enhancing of its aura of masculinity and power. The women use to refer to their perception of the attitude of man. using words like "tender". For some. Push the chin forward is considered a gesture of defiance. real or potential. Found that the more bald man. disabling certain papillae capillaries.
The white of the eye is an auxiliary communication face to face. which allows the person to track the direction of gaze of another. The legs of the man is attractive to women only as symbols of power and resistance men. Stimulating 9: Lack of tummy In remote times. man is the one who has the biggest penis. the size of the penis was attached to the power of man and his skill as a lover. Despite the members that can be digitally magnified view web sites in the penis longer officially registered media 36 cm. and the foot size of the penis. a woman rarely takes into account the size of the penis. In the separations painful. but they are sometimes taken to mean that the ex-partners have small penis as a form of revenge. because the ankles and feet out from the side to balance the weight of the body. Stimulating 10: Penis large Among all primates. The erect penis measures 14 cm on average and the vaginal canal of most women is 9 cm long. Most animals have little or no white in the eye. a prominent gut is seen as a sign of neglect and little regard for the health personnel. In modern society. because the shorter penis may reach the right place with more precision. Singh found that for women. The boy was terrified the first time that would have sex with his girlfriend. because the seekers are the bodily signs of other animals over long distances. in search of excitement. But how could not postpone forever. but that power is more head than in the sexual organ. The euphoria of some women to see men of large penises seems more a reaction to the male's apparent that what the size of the body can actually accomplish. when food was scarce. The truth is that a man with an erection of 8 cm is able to do better service than a man with a 18 cm. obtaining information about their attitude. In a happy relationship. nose. The narrow hips allow men walk long distances quickly in hunting and persecution. As the eyes. trying to convince us at all costs that can not live without an athletic abdomen. because it showed that its bearer had resources to eat as I wanted. eventually inviting her to go to their apartment. while women look beyond. Stimulating 8: Hip close and muscular legs The powerful legs and angles of the human male are the longest among all primates. This view was constructed by fitness centers and equipment manufacturers. where food is abundant. because she was sure that his penis was too small. The wide hips mean that many women have difficulty in running. with the bulk of its sensitivity in the first 5 cm. the women have more white than those of men because the female brain is configured as a communication tool next.proof of the difference between the sexes: men see the characteristics in themselves. men who have a ratio waist / hip of 90% are more attractive. a large belly was a symbol of status. Well-defined abdominal muscles have never been the object of special admiration in male anatomy. For thousands of years. The great North American neuropsychology Davendra Dr. and there is no relationship between the size of the body. .
however. for example. she sees him as a bonus. The woman wants a man who is loving. caring and communicative. the faster they grow. she said. They want men to be attentive. Are only successful with the gay audience. Then. which is why the sick man is not stressed or need to shave so often. 3. Women. If the man is wearing badly or starts getting paunchy. while all attempts to sell women pornographic images of men failed. What women want the long term Here is the result of research on what women expect to find a man. but in general this is not a priority. even if the woman does not like. humorous. If the man has a beautiful body. The male pornographic magazines show women with their legs fully opened. Men need to learn that the woman measures the depth of the relationship by the attitude they have with it. contrary to what occurs with men. Healthy body. Mood. This fundamental difference between men and women involved much frustration and misunderstandings on both sides. intelligent. The men have two lists: the first sight and of seeking a long term partner. 4. Stimulating 11: Barba for three days Man is the only primate that have significantly longer hair on the face than in the rest of the body. but strong. Sensitivity. The hair of monkeys and chimpanzees have the same length throughout the body. "No. only have a list." I do not smoke. robust and masculine. Intellectual capacity. loyal and understanding. The higher the level of testosterone of men in a day. 5.Arriving there. he finally put the erect member in her hand. wishing she did not notice the size. carefully. rarely gives greater importance. What women look for in a man: 1. Are the male hormones that cause the growth of hair of the face. The woman must understand that their appearance is important to humans and can even seriously affect the relationship. thanks'. Stress and illness diminish the level of testosterone. 2. . Consequently. The majority of women agree. Nervous. But the man who returns to noon a shadow of five in the afternoon gave the impression that he is crazy for action. he lowered the light and began to strip. the beard of three days is a powerful visual sign of masculinity often used by men to compensate for your face kid. that Tom Cruise is much more sexy than with beard shaved. began Despi her and stroking her. Personality. it does not take a look as an indicator of the feeling he has for her. Unlike humans. standing or lying in front and back. " The change is not programmed women to sexually excite the vision of the male genitals.
Women are attracted out by men who show be going to the front in search of a better position in life. you need first of all work their techniques of communication and relationship. in its first meeting in less than ten seconds. because he already has boyfriend. if necessary. which brings you more satisfaction and you better realize their potential. Enter for a course that allows you to expand your knowledge.just do it! . Polls and surveys have shown how important it is to man the physical attractiveness of women. You need to listen with interest and empathy that women have to say. If man is able to make her laugh. you know talk about many issues. Solution To make a man attractive. there is no school that teaches it. this is pure practice. registration is a school of dance as soon as possible. by Barbara de Angelis. There is some reason why man has not or does not do the things you want in life . The woman who likes her man is attractive. it is sensitive to your needs. therefore. The woman begins and ends the selection of the partner with the same list of criteria. We recommend our Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? and What Women Want Men to Know. This will allow you to talk to women about a variety of subjects. but their physical form and appearance are crucial to his work and social position. Do not complain . The dance has always been a preliminary demonstration of erotic female. Do it for yourself and see how it will look more attractive to women. Change the cutting of hair at least once every three years and look for wear clothes that promote their appearance. And finally Book to a gym and get in shape. you will never miss program.The problem is that it can not have it. The man need not be a millionaire. but have plans and goals and be committed to them. Even the women self-sufficient and financially independent feel attracted by men who have as good protectors and from the pain. Buy books that speak on how women think and feel. has plans to progress continuously and is still on top is straight. he USA a number of different criteria. But for the selection of a permanent partner.except excuses. he believes. seek a better job. Then. Are extra.
Graham Graham thought retire and go live on the beach as would enjoy permanent vacation. more than a billion people have at least 60 years of age.Chapter 13 OUANDO the hunter Hang The ARC The retirement In developed countries. sleeping late and relaxing. But there are two problems which do not give due attention: first. the average life expectancy worldwide has increased by more than 50% . not only a larger portion of the population is enough to retire. Who had not achieved financial independence. eating out. the effects of retirement on relationships and how to deal with women partners. The shelves of bookstores. how to live long after they retire. Would spend the days in an idyllic paradise . And in the first few months was exactly what he did. In 2010. Thanks to advances in medicine. Japan will have less than two people working for every retiree. difference . The life expectancy of Japanese women born in 1993 is 82. for example. Governments around the world face this problem continuously. the psychological effects of retirement on men and. Within each person there is an elderly couple thinking: "What the hell happened?" Developed countries are now obliged to devote an increasing share of their budgets to maintain and care for its population of elderly.25. the rate fell from 9: 1 to 4: 1 since 1952. a problem compounded by the fact that the Japanese live today more than all the peoples of the world. have at least 10 years after they retire doubled in the last 60 years. or live in poverty. the melancholy of retirement began to weigh. But little by little. continued working until death or were sustained by children. second. 76. only a small portion of the population lived beyond the age of 65. The number of people living. Many countries have adopted compulsory contributions to the system of national pensions. Graham came to understand a.51 years and for men. the number of people about to retire grows at a speed amazing. Between the 1940s and 2020. Before 1940. Financial institutions operate in heavy selling of private pension funds.from 46 to 72 years. swimming. but the problem is the relationship between the number of contributors and the pensioners. is so full of titles about financial independence and retirement plans-ment. In the United States.taking sun. In the year 2020.
between taking a few vacation days. Graham suspected that their health was suffering. he cooked the issues now to fill the time. Graham suffered a heart attack Fulminans. it was assumed that the psychological problems associated with retirement were the same for both sexes. Every time you hear your name yelled at her husband. Before he was Dr. For many men it is an unavoidable disaster and may even contribute to premature death. His favorite refrain was: "What is for lunch?" Before retirement. The relationship began to suffer from pressure. The call that he expected the company to continue providing its essential services such as special advisor never came.find a target and hit it edible. to get on her and tie her life. work outside the focus of the life of Graham. Ruth was free to do what he wanted. When the hunter stops hunting During at least one hundred thousand years men agreed in the morning and went out looking for food for their families. Graham began to fatten. Occupied an important position. was horrified irritation. was a kind of stress stimulating. On the beach. But due to their mental structures and specific priorities. had less desire to do. to attend many meetings. Lost prestige. With a sedentary lifestyle. As women constitute 40 to 50% of the modern workforce. for the first time. For some time he remained in contact with colleagues at work. but little research is done on women retired and not working because they have the task of caring for a pensioner. Now. Graham began to ask for Ruth. train new employees and solve the problems of the world. his wife. more and more attention. nadava little and rarely was concerned with something in the garden. The male contribution to the survival of the species was clear and simple . but the calls were rareando. and enjoy them for the rest of life. And started to worry about the problem of how to fill all this free time. the evolution . At work he was known and respected. Gender and retirement The way men and women deal with the approach of retirement and old age casts light on the difference between their mental structures. he had the feeling of having nothing to do. embedded in an intense training schedule.now was the Invisible Man. Therefore. Suddenly he was aware that jumping from a train at work to express a tram pulled the donkey on the beach. the experience of retirement is remarkably different in the two cases. eighteen months after the dream retirement. but not talked to anyone about it. As for most men. Much has been researched and written about the problems faced by retired men. Now. Now had to take care of Graham every minute of your day. Important . Tired to take sun. but nobody knew him or wanted his opinion for anything. Suffering acutely this abrupt loss of identity. When I worked. Instead of juggling with two or three problems to gain time. the stress was of another quality and was mixed with depression. One day. For over 40 years he wakes every day knowing exactly what had to do. Felt lack of professional involvement with people and the daily mental stimulation that he provided. as we said. Little was.
He is all dressed and has no where to go. 2000. read maps. they not only stopped be required to reach moving targets. video equipment. .of male preference brain areas enabling it to perform this task with success: those used to measure speeds. The images below. And here lies the great problem of modern man retired: your brain of a hunter.track. To deal with the frustration of no longer be prompted to chase and hit targets. as we have seen. The areas of the brain used for hunting Institute of Psychiatry. angles. women evolved as a defender of the nest and the offspring . is the huntress of the brain. sitting on a beach far away where nobody knows or gives a minimum. The modern sports are a way to replace the hunt.work and sport. In simple terms. made from brain examinations of 50 men and 50 women. London. the advancement of agricultural techniques has meant that hunting for food is no longer be a priority. distances and spatial co-ordinates.their role was to ensure the survival of the next generation. programming. therefore. playing sports with ball and reach moving targets. is obsessed by work and the small sports. unlike women. With it.achieve a zebra color-surrender to 30 meters away was never part of their responsibilities. The female brain evolved. Female Male The ancient hunter was compulsorily retired At the end of the eighteenth century. the . Consequently. with areas of strength capable of dealing with these tasks . Also. show (in black) areas of the brain active space. Both involve the main aspects of the game. that most men. 90% of all modern sports with ball rise up between 1800 and 1900 as a substitute for the hunt. the two men embraced replacement . We therefore repeat. such as no longer required for anything. and aim to achieve the target. This helps explain why the image of the female brain shows a minimum level of activity in the space. ride on motorways. So the century desferiu men on an even greater blow: the retirement. pursue. These are the areas used by modern man to work as park running aft. Plus. yet clearly set is literally idle.
Studies on male and female figures show that 70 to 80% of women say they have as the main 'focus on family. Initially she stayed home with him. They can spend the extra time doing the things that have always been challenges to take or which never had time to work. Unlike men. and the lives of Jennifer and retain only the two was. with retirement. They just "follow your life. but with so much time together for the first time in our life . seemed all the time in a bad mood. a stressful and poorly paid job with few opportunities for professional progress. Then came for a course in Italian. It was as if he had not entirely of his life. she felt free. they ask how could give an account of what they worked. Nadava with a group three times a week. Now.You realize that you retired when you know all the answers but do not have anyone else to ask you the questions. I would never do anything. He had been always working hard. Consequently." The men are always defined by their work and their achievements. But remember. women. need to combine work with education of children. women. It would be an opportunity to do everything I always had the dream-. relationships. It would be almost like a second honeymoon. The only thing I hate is having to go home at the end of the day. We heard from several women retired to their current life is so busy. Jennifer knew he was depressed but could not convince him to express his feelings. once you finally retired. she thought that time would have to meet again. attribute value is the quality of their relationships. And although they were already married for 25 years. Now. exhausted when you get home. I feel sorry for Peter. Peter and Jennifer Jennifer wanted much to retire with her husband hold. But little by little grew into a resentment Jennifer: Peter was making her so unhappy retirement on his own. "I love to be retired. It started out more with friends." she told a close friend. Today I do not know if I have . learned to play tennis and attend classes in art. Spent increasingly less time at home. want to help you. How women deal with retirement. Worked as a nurse almost all his life. She received her retire with genuine emotion. in general. Jennifer had sometimes the impression that the husband did not know well. way-too Janda. Also. we see very little in common. women keep their retired social circles constructed over the years and have facility to renew them. was inside mope at home if it has been discarded. "You know. Men value the achievements. which left little time for herself. the way the company was doing well without him and low frequency with which co-workers to use their experience and their advice. The children were finally married. women tend to move smoothly toward retirement.
And it shows a fabulous mansion. treating it as if it were one of its former employees. to the wife. The choices of women often involve interaction with others. " Dealing with a retired man is often one of the biggest problems that women face. "Do not worry. together with household chores." says the man. A step that seems worth it. it seems envy the happiness of women and blame them for their misfortune. Here is the sky. It is the loss of something much bigger . come with solutions and advice when she is not interested. leaving little time for fun. indignant. people cling to the idea that becoming consultants. St. Here is the sky. without feeling idle and useless. You can eat as you like which will still be thin and healthy. He seems to always be "getting in the foot" and wanting to take her life. "Your bitch!" He Berra with it. There are no calories in the sky. "But the cost to enter partner?" Asks the man. At the door of heaven. full of delicious dishes. "here is the sky. The man likes to think its "hunt group" still needs him. The woman whose identity was also strongly linked to work performance may experience a similar feeling. they will still be important parts in the gear. "Nothing. the man turns around. the common man is denying that his life is to quit. Some return to school. "It's free. One day. And often. Many women retired to join interest groups or develop new habits. "If you do not wanted to eat healthy food and we exercise. And do it with great joy. "Nothing. Even those who did not like his job very still want their "group hunting" the call to continue the task. It's free." When I heard it. Otherwise. When this happens and he notes that the company can move very well without it." And finally leads to the local restaurant and it shows the menu. and will call him to continue working. Can cause fights. Peter. Be "available" to return to work and solve problems whose solution depends on their knowledge and experience. with a variety of creamy sauce. no long hours of work. we could have arrived here ten years ago!" Why men can not cope with retirement? The loss of work is not the main cause of all the stress when the man is retiring. some clubs go to the elderly and enjoy the entertainment that they failed during the period in which the job. others spend more time taking care of others. There were a couple of 70 years who always had good health because of the insistence of women with healthy diet and exercises. Peter.love and no more if I stay with him. low salt.the identity. Peter Ihes presents its new life. When retirement approaches. "But we only eat food without fat. "But how will this cost?" Asks the man. the shock is very intense." replied St. On the one hand." Then shows them a wonderful golf course behind the mansion. He has so much knowledge and experience that the employer-only benefits and may not pass without his talent. Unable to face the situation. no milk products and low cholesterol. The identity of women is ." says St. tears and even separation. the two die in a car accident.
even drugs. per-der vitality and become inactive. especially the way they are made. This anger is sometimes discharged as the desire to disappear. this rarely happens. The woman never retires. The loss of identity is for the man in many ways similar to the death of a loved one. Depression can get without being noticed. In other words. It is essential to identify the depressive stage which. Why do so many men down the hill so fast? In the period following the shutdown. to 50 years. the woman retains its identity. if not overcome or dealt with the help of a professional. Retirees who do not plan their lives are constantly ill. companion. Master of himself. the woman continues with the other facets of his life. to take care of the family. and if everything goes well for the acceptance. particularly finance and planning of social activities and family. things rarely remain at that stage as the honeymoon. lover and wife at any time. was owner of a successful company. being mother. Flu and disease is less frequently. he thought the best in the industry. For most. Sometimes it is thought. the direction of the house. lady-of-home. But unless they have been carefully prepared. Barry was always fascinated by the idea of retirement and to spend any time with their children and grandchildren and traveling with Yvonne. the anger. Always addicted to outside research. friends' friend. however. But the retirement of Barry . can become permanent. and sometimes all at the same time. The sudden loss of friends and colleagues. He now wants to be the chief executive of the family. unhappy and. It simply gives continuity to their things. by not calling him to provide advice and feel a victim.multifaceted. Many often the removal of what they see as an old employee is a relief. and in some cases. Barry and Yvonne Banyo is described as counter to 20 years and 25 have worked on their own. These intrusions can be unbearable for your partner. Signs of trouble are usually the first indication that stage of depression is ongoing." Blame the ex-boss for not having him ready for retirement. their status and sense of importance can quickly lead to depression. When its role as provider end. the routine that meet their days. data and figures loved and was very successful in the management of time. In most cases there is no drama. The retired blame others for their suffering: his partner and family becomes much often the target because "not understand how I feel. The new generation has its own ideas and solutions and whether they feel free to implement them and test new ways of solving things. and the fights start to happen. He relaxes in food. the retiree was disappointed with his new life and starts to retract. above all. The feeling of uselessness and rejection can lead to decreased libido. the things not done. The result is a life apathetic. Start the denial is complete by the depression. starts to drink. She can spend the money to bring home. shorter. deepening the table. When you decided to retire. First. grandmother. some men think they will be quiet. felt.
Not only. After examining them. hits the wood. Asked the husband. misunderstood and devalued. absolutely curtailed and controlled by a manic husband and authoritarian. it was great. but decided that Barry would shop together. Despite not having problems with money." she replied. Perhaps the first time in life when she see her husband every day for breakfast.quickly turned in the worst nightmares of Yvonne. After looking puzzled for the door and asked: "Who is it?" The negative aspects of retirement When the couple starts to fight because of differences of ability and the different roles that each plays. For Yvonne. Barry now wants to be the chief executive's home. Yvonne felt in an inter-in a concentration camp. last week. "Then yesterday I was sitting in the car asking if I had just come to go somewhere or had just arrived home and was out of the car.the man feels rejected." she said to friends. I wonder why she spent so much on things he thought unnecessary. "One day. Sutiãs discovered how each of the search was the ratio of quantity." E has two batidinhas on the table. When Yvonne was a store that was not on the agenda. He supervises and gives orders. I never stopped by something." said the woman. Things can be much worse. Barry thought the days of Yvonne would be much more beneficial if they practice an effective management of your time. That was crazy leaving Yvonne.so he is not annoyed with the waiting -. Barry found that his wife only needed two sutiãs." "How?". While Yvonne tried to quickly sutiãs . on time and lasted a lot of other statistical data. requesting it to many tasks and too little working in the service of the house.she has not had chance shoes and enough clothes? Reached the height of the monitor Yvonne buy a new bra. A woman can get hurt with it seems an intrusion on what for it is a happy and orderly. "I never had this problem. I was thinking at the top of the stairs had just arrived or are on top was starting to fall." The woman smiled with sadness. sitting on the "seat-ofhusband-bored" on the outside of the taster.usually in an exasperated . why you asked to organize a calendar hourly. Most of it was wasted money. I control everything the woman did! Offered to take the family's finances and gave Yvonne a budget for food. Barry re-collect information on sutiãs with employees and customers. She loved to shop. leading to ." "Hum!" Said the man." The man grunt: "No. Then started to leave the house to escape the domain of the husband. "Barry needs to get a life of its own. there is the danger of starting to feel incompatible. Barry wanted to know the reason . "The worst. The anger and resentment began to grow inside her. "and I want my life back!" A retired couple was sitting on the dinner table talking about old age. he wanted to know where every penny went and why. beginning at 8 am. "My memory is perfect. for lunch and dinner. and when they manifest . That day she did not buy any bra . alone." he insisted. and that there would be an agenda setting out advance and where would they would buy. "is forgotten. "Now I'm in the middle of something and forget what I was doing. high price.decided to return later.
walk. Multiply your interests in the life of work. In Western society. develop a talent that remained unexploited because you were absorbed in his career. with the increasing trend of early retirement. The critical difference between these two periods of the life of man is that in retirement he is fully in control and will take the decisions that affect the rest of life. Make a complete check-up. Health The time of retirement can be used for an investment in your health. The possibilities are endless. mainly because. resulting in loneliness and misery. which includes study. A plan of action The right time to start planning is many years before retirement. Are aware that you are investing in their well-being in their self-esteem. now. But do not spend it all as a mere obligation or an activity for only the time to fill vacant. Men who survive the first three stages of retirement generally ultimately accept this new stage of life and take on the challenge of planning a new life. therefore. The higher the frequency with which they work. listening to music. increased life expectancy and better health. which is giving a gift that could not be granted for lack of availability. . Studies show that the earlier you plan your retirement.separation and even to suicide. His retirement. and the man who is not planned for retirement can take many years to overcome them. have better health and will live longer. Men engaged in activities that stress and to do nothing to retire early die. look for a nutritionist to set a pleasant and healthy diet. find pleasure in activities independent of the professional activities. The man is 30 to 40 years of his life in a rigidly structured and oriented goals. Start to develop them as far as possible. do the exercise that gives you great pleasure. it is likely that the period of retirement is longer. The identification of these stages is crucial. learn a new skill. . dance. swim. read all the books that are accumulated on your bookshelf. develop a circle of friends outside the work environment. If you find difficulty. need a bit of quality. the life expectancy of men that the retirement is not an occupation that the interest is on average five years. To begin. useful and happy. take up a hobby. ride a bike. more will live better and the quality of your life. Start thinking now as I have had time available. There is a huge range of alternatives for pleasure waiting for you. it is good to resort to professional advice to ensure that it perpetuates the negative attitudes. you must be aware that their identity can not be linked predominantly to the industry professional and receiving the approval of others.
The simple act of visiting patients in hospitals. Start searching now. Whatever has been your path. a belief. Paul and Dana Paul was account manager and his life was always full of goals.Social Work and Community We can assure you that few things to remember as much as the dedication they need. but once started. The sex in old age will be a continuation of what was in the life of the couple. The substantive requirements of day-to-day that differ in size so essential in humans and responds to your deepest desire. despite the limitations that age brings. discover new incentives. targets and deadlines. He thought to retire at 65. The retirement offers this space to search more and find a group. Talk about it with the greatest possible openness. seek help if necessary. Thus you will discover where your talents can be applied You should see his retirement as you would with any large project.not just the genitals . But when he was 57 his company bought and he became expendable in overnight. because she is the person who will share them with you. He began drinking too much and was depressed. You can not imagine how delicious the experience of returning to college where you will live with younger people and discover how the experience of life taught him. She was quite enjoying his retirement. children in orphanages will bring you a surprising bonus. What is important is that these limits are treated with honesty. His wife Dana to retire three years before and wanted by the retirement of her husband. Aware of that will mean this new phase of life in terms of living in order to for problems that arise Spirituality It is also time to devote to a field that may have been ignored in the years of professional activity: the spirituality. elderly in rest homes. browse the local church. affection. And remember: the whole body . openness. The consultant helped Paul to understand the reasons for that and he showed you how to . It is important that you find in that field feel better and more useful. the places that I would know. it now had time to do things you always wanted and wished to share their happiness with Paul newly discovered. you must have skills that can be used or passed on to others. because the sex life can not be separated from the rest of the relationship. or activities that develop their spirituality. Explore these possibilities with the knowledge they have of each other and love each deserves it after so many years of companionship. But Dana was alarmed to see the sadness of Paul with the forced retirement. chat with friends. You may need an initial effort to overcome the resistance. which would examine the materials. the activities that could develop. specializes in dealing with the men retired.can be a source of pleasure. and that is linking to an institution where they feel affinity with the people working there. Start to write down everything that interests you. giving new meaning to life. Dana decided to seek professional advice and then persuaded Paul to seek a consultant. the social work community and gives an immense sense of satisfaction and self. Discuss your plans with your partner. Gender A happy and healthy life also must include a satisfactory sexual life.
which could take twenty years or more to be completed. except for a small excess of weight and pressure and cholesterol slightly above normal. Decided to change the eating habits and started walking every day for at least 45 minutes. Paul felt a great weight had been removed from their shoulders.manage this new phase of his life. They have done a detailed budget and noted that the guarantee fund of Paul.decide what to do for the rest of their lives. Then decided to seek a way of advising the youth to become an advisor to young people. Enrolled in a class of tai-chi. They needed a plan that took into account both the needs of each. Paul accepted the challenges that it presented the consultant. the consultant reassured Paul. decided to open a current account that you bring an additional income. Paul and Dana are healthy and happy. sensual and rewarding. which led them to meet new people. The finances were sufficient to cover expenses. They are so busy they need a detailed daily schedule. happiness and fulfillment. most of his pension and Dana would be sufficient to cover its needs until the end of life. This time when the men and women are more together than any other in their lives is very important that they have learned the lessons of Why Men Lie and Women cry? Because only then will live happily in peace and with love. The third was to travel with Dana relax and plan the rest of their lives. In examining the financial part. but not for extravagances. The next challenge was great . adjusted and successful. Today. Paul play golf sometimes. Dana. because I wanted to write. He was also part of a group of craft and came to a course in writing. as the couple. The check-up showed that Paul was well. in turn. We firmly believe that the tools presented in Why Men Lie and Women cry? can help all men and women to live lives more intimate. understanding the strengths and weaknesses of each other and being able to make the relationship a source of joy. Came to a club of excursionist and began to make trips extended several times a month. Dana has played tennis once a week and it was on the board of the club. Use these tools with wisdom and love. How was a member of golf club. enjoy life and help others. He and Dana went on holiday with a good state of mind. Paul was always concerned about the welfare of young people and understand the problems they faced when they lack family support-ing. As Paul was an excellent account-pain and liked to teach. The second was to seek a financial adviser. together with some savings and investments. After all the advice. but I would like but never had time to practice regularly to mind. The first step was to complete a health check. Found that its greatest achievement was to have created four children happy. A specialist taught her new diet and prescribed an exercise program. decided to try. Good luck to you! ******* . The retirement is revealing the happiest time of their lives. offered to cooperate in the newspaper association of residents of his neighborhood. In the group that began to attend prayer. because had the start-to plan your journey . enthusiastically recommended by friends. aware that they had available to devote to a social work.
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