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Allan & Barbara Pease - Why Man Lie and Women Cry

Allan & Barbara Pease - Why Man Lie and Women Cry


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  • Chapter 1
  • Chapter 2
  • Chapter 3
  • Chapter 4
  • Chapter 5
  • Chapter 6
  • Chapter 7
  • Chapter 8
  • Chapter 9
  • Chapter 10
  • Chapter 11
  • Chapter 12
  • Chapter 13

Why men lie And the women cry?

Allan & Barbara Pease

C Allan and Barbara Pease, 2003 translation Jorgesen Pedro Junior preparation of original Regina da Veiga Pereira Review José Tedin Pinto Sergio Soares Bellinello cover and illustrations Mattievich Silvana graphic design and editing of kernels Marcia Raed photolite RR Donnelley Latin America - Premedia / Dip Print Cromosete Gráfica e Editora Ltda CIP-BRAZIL. CATALOGING-IN-SOURCE. National Union of EDITORS OF BOOKS P375P Pease, Allan Why men lie and women cry? /

Allan and Barbara Pease; translation of Peter Jorgensen Junior. - Rio de Janeiro: Sextante, 2003. Translation: Why men lie and women cry ISBN 85-7542-063-1 1. Man-woman relations. 2. Sex - Differences (Psychology). 3. Sexual role. r. Pease, Barbara. LI. Title. All rights reserved by EDITORA Sextante / GMT EDITORES LTDA. Volunteers of the Nation Address, 45 - Gr 1404 - Botafogo 22270-000 - Rio de Janeiro RJ Te!.: (21) 2286-9944 - Fax: (21) 2286-9244 Customer: 0800-22-6306 E-mail: atendimento@esextante.com.br www.esextante.com.br 03-0645. CDD 306.7 CDU 392.6

Contents Introduction Chapter 1 The cantankerousness When a person does not stop complaining Chapter 2 SEVEN THINGS THAT MAKE MEN WOMEN DEIXA IRONING BOARDS Chapter 3 Why women cry? The dangers of emotional blackmail Chapter 4 THE SYSTEM OF ULTRA-SECRET SCORE ruin of women as a man of the week Chapter 5 CLARIFICATION OF THE SEVEN MAJOR MYSTERY MEN Chapter 6 THE OTHER WOMAN His mother Chapter 7 The Mysteries WAYS OF WOMEN LANGUAGE Chapter 8 "You think I am FAT CLOTHES WITH THIS? Why men lie?

Chapter 9 THE TESTING OF WOMEN'S SEXUAL APPEAL How do you make people work? Chapter 10 WHAT DOES THE EYES OF MEN skip the power of female sexual attraction Chapter 11 THE TEST OF MALE SEX APPEAL Chapter 12 WHAT TO ATTRACT WOMEN Chapter 13 When the hunter Hang The ARC The retirement Acknowledgments Bibliography

Introduction Born naked. Why Men Lie and Women cry? attempts to answer the questions that are hammering the head of women to one in the morning. surveys. Chinese Proverb Why do men lie? Why they think they must always be the reason? Why avoid it undertakes? And women. The men never worry about the future until they find a wife. scientific studies and our current sense. that want to get to know all details about the people around you and that rarely take the initiative to do sex. sharing information at conferences . wet and hungry. that like to "play to pick mature green". Today we know the evolutionary and biological reasons that explain why men can only do one thing at a time.analyzing miles of film and recordings. giving interviews on TV. why cry to get what they want? Why insist on a subject to death? Why not take the sexual initiative more often? In the twentieth century and one. that hate to go shopping. in addition to our experience. "Why do I have to collect half of my floor to ten hours of a Sunday morning ". science can explain why women talk so much. The car-tas. Women worry about the future to find a husband. and frustrated by not knowing deal with the situation. writing books. Of them also look at questions such as: "Why women do not go to the chase". for they have habits and mannerisms that make women so angry and they do not know almost nothing of the life of your friends.thousands of times we were asked to rate certain behaviors of men and women. why not stop the car to ask for guidance. In three decades of studies and research on the differences between men and women . It also seeks to elucidate the problems which the man is beat-to ten in the morning of Sunday. we developed practical solutions to help you tune the right channel in communication with the opposite sex. phone calls and emails came from people perplexed by the behavior of the opposite sex. of the genus: "Why men devour the other women with the eyes?" and "Why are they all the time saying what I do and I think". research. Why Men Lie and Women cry? draws attention to things that are beyond obvious to most . Then things get worse. even after spending a weekend fishing in the entire company. Today. the disagreements and conflicts between the sexes are still so present in our lives as the first time that Adam and Eve falling out. "Why do women complain all the time?". when out of bed without getting themselves or their partners speak with them. From there. So decided to write Why Men Lie and Women cry? Catalog the forty most frequently asked questions from readers around the world demand-and we answer them by using.

Life seemed simple. he was the protector and provider. be a man became an arduous task. If a woman slapped a man in public. the focus of the discussion is still the cross that women in this car-water life. everything began to change. Still. During general rations. as women gain more and more freedoms. The problem is that women seemed to know what and where they were going. The rate of suicides among young men and old is now the largest in history. lady-ofhome. The man knew what were their responsibilities and the wife knew her. The woman was mother. secretary. the suicide rate among women fell by more than 34%. You can not deny that this kind of thing that most men perceive as open hostility contributes largely to the depressed state that seems to be slaughtered on a whole generation. with the Japanese heading the list.people. Men often do not seem to understand the rules of the game. See the latest walks that circulated among women and that most men considered extremely demoralizing and threatening: What is the definition of a man? A support for a penis. his word was law and their areas of decision were clear. Women and men were angry. while among men increased by 16%. Suddenly. The man was the head of the family and the primary responsibility for its upkeep. as many men feel left behind. A woman who protest against inequality was the object of sympathy. In the last quarter of the twentieth century. everyone assumes that it is that is wrong. the feminists have been given more say and more successes. Since. the roles were clearly defined. often considering the man as the enemy to be defeated. The men are insecure about their own identity and they . bewildered and confused. The number of copy-of disparaging about men grows every day. Just thinking of you receiving an e-mail. And as few of them understand the thrill of seeing and reviewing the replay of a move. smarter and more fans of the cause of equality. it is unlikely that a man understands that the discovery of a brand of clothing in a counter settlement is one of the most extraordinary things that can happen to a woman. Serials and the TV business started to show the men as incompetent idiots in front of women superior. Why are things so difficult for men and women? Today. in the 1960s. the relationships and the families began to live a great tension. You may have noticed that many women seem to have a biological need to buy decorative pillows and change the storage of furniture for men stumble when they arrive at home at dawn. teacher or social worker. while a man who did the same was accused of enemy women.

It is. In general. Feminism began calling attention to inequalities between genders and promising free women from the shackles that had imprisoned the stove. In Britain. therefore. he also has to understand it. It is estimated that bulimia affects 4 to 5% of the university. They now suffer from ulcers. Only men and women assume that one day will appear a perfect relationship. It is estimated that 25% of all women in the western world will be standing in the single year 2020. father and provider. or give the quick relationships because think of how women think and act very complicated. one in five households is headed by a woman alone. the treacherous curves and dead ends.hunting. fighting. its way of thinking and their scale of priorities. This we do conclude that women pay more attention to relationships than men. just as always happened with men. without the need for any special preparation or study. But the truth is that both men and women want good relationships. But things are too difficult for women. Man evolved with a completely different program . the female brain is programmed to nurture. It is an unnatural situation. Generally. . This book provides a map to help them move through this maze which transformed the relationship and identify the slippery slopes. protecting. against one in fifty men headed by the same situation. these women play the roles of mother. And it is true in many ways. Consequently. Studies offered by new techniques of magnetic resonance imaging of the brain confirms this fact. Take care of relationships is not a natural function of the male psyche. Except that he usually does. Most marriage counselors and therapists are also women. We call the other sex of "opposite" for good reason . Today. only 7 in 300 students. As a result. The men have the feeling that women want what they think and behave like them. heart disease and other diseases related to stress. For a woman. healthy and rewarding. that the brains of men and women have been programmed for different functions and priorities. in complete disagreement with our basic human needs and biological. is often infuriate and are getting increasingly lonely. the theme of these books are the men.we are really opposites. men are working or not or a little. about 50% of women working in the western world . Why men and women have so many problems? The woman developed as defender of the dam and offspring.lack examples to be followed.even when they want. just know a single man to understand all men. providing material and solve problems. Most books on human relations is written by women and over 80% of its audience is composed of women. We are all very confusing. while a man never understand any woman. Women of today are superatarefadas. their mistakes and what to do to improve them. even know them all. Women often make the mistake of believing that because a man loves. Sometimes the thing is so difficult that it is best to go right to not be seen as a failure. educate and provide love and affection of people's lives.

working and loving the opposite sex. know the rules and follow them faithfully. Around the world Why Men Lie and Women cry? is the step that in the relationship ladder. She never accused him of not giving him attention and he is not thinking it was good for her as for him. it chooses which one you like more tentacles and gives the green light. to help them make things better fluírem. be living together. If you write the words "relationship" and "sex" site on a search of the Internet. Not realize they need to be sensitive in relation to women's feelings. comes after the Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love. excitement and enrichment that a good relationship is able to provide. who kill their partners just after mating. your life must be very happy. the males approach moving its tentacles. however. now exceed the mark of 50% in the first four years of marriage and. we see that most people still do not understand during a good part of the time. They do not think about it . define common problems and finally present practical solutions. not longing for a sex champion. much less the differences between male and female. Women say men want sensitive.714 references. relationships procedures are guided by the need for direct survival of each species. men need to learn some techniques that will find this book. but do not want to be too sensitive. for example.the other species already have everything planned out and is very good. At any given time. "and deals with aspects of life that most people never think or simply do not understand. 700% of divorces begin with marriage Why Men Lie and Women cry? this is an opportunity for you to eliminate turnover a little . Unfortunately. We. however. Humans. Men do not understand very well this subtle difference. the female enters estrus. evolved so that today we know the best way to deal with the opposite sex to have any chance to lead a happy life and enjoy a share of pleasure. and soothsayer. who also teaches women techniques to identify and meet the desires men. The black widow. The rate of divorces in Britain. To write this book.HELEN ROWLAND We are the only species that have permanent problems with the court. traveled for more than thirty countries. It is a simple animal with a tiny brain. it is reasonable to assume that the rate of separation among couples is somewhere between 60 and 80%. For other animals. get 36. female and never considering discover is too fat. Whose stories are real principles apply to most people most of the time of their relationships with the opposite sex. working. The octopus is another good example. if couples who did not get married. The behavior of equipment and scenarios we describe in this book apply to all people all the time. There are around or brother in-laws want to advise. To move through this maze.just do. If you get along with most people most of the time. collecting and comparing information and research on the relationship between the sexes. In this work trying to establish universal themes. the ritual of mating and the relationship . that never discussed sex or how to get there. in English only. but hard and Manly in other situations. are infinitely complicated.

In Why Men Lie and Women cry? also rely on our personal experiences. the problem of communication is resolved. We are also parents of four beautiful children. People are impressed when they see that we strive to understand them and communicate with them.. sisters.of the suffering. faithful love and great friends of each other. but taking the average.. How to give this book as a gift After the worldwide success of our latest book Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? (more than six million copies sold in 33 languages to the present). some men have to be hampered in their lives. Experience first hand We. The French will not understand anything. father. It is a huge gain and relief to both." Why Men Have Sex and Women They Love? obtained a great success among women of all nationalities and we are well aware that some have of the gift to his men saying poignantly: "You must read . Nothing is perfect. If you only speak English and is visiting France. relatives. son. profit and fun. The result is that our relationship with those who are coming in has improved significantly and. it comes with an instruction manual. it gives you satisfaction. mother.the women and men. But if you buy a book of translated phrases that teach you the basic words and phrases in another language. It may be easier. but we feel that hit most of the time with most people. in general. anguish and confusion of his life.. The allegation was that the women use the book to pursue them saying "Allan said that . going very well. brothers. can also benefit from their experiences and their views. Learning a second language To be successful with the opposite sex you need to speak two languages . Once you learn to do this work and schedule it for the functions you want. people like us. in turn. daughter. The man. believes the path where the woman. When you buy a cell phone. The research we did on the various themes of this book and the very act of writing it gave us a more complete understanding of ourselves and our parents. even if you fall a little in the words. Once you understand the evolution of man. be impartial. in English is no good asking a typical British dish. are very well married. neighbors and colleagues. "Will I have to change sex?" People often ask us: "You are telling me that I should think.. It is a book full of common sense and scientific facts presented in a well-humored and easy assimilation. the authors." and "Barbara said-10. looking as much as possible. friends or neighbors. Not always hit. The locals will love and be superprestativos. Why Men Lie and Women cry? is an instruction manual to help understand the opposite sex and know what buttons to obtain the best squeezing result. wishing to provide you a balanced view of the relationship between man and woman. the woman will be much easier to understand and accept their behavior and mental processes. speak and act like the opposite sex?" In no event. cousins.. He explains the behavior of "other sex". they are companions.

congratulations! . is perhaps more prudent to ask your man to his opinion on the advice of the book. Enjoy. Maybe one day men and women may be similar.. can be excused by male heads when involved in its mysterious gynecological disorders. to shop with absolute objectivity.especially the parts that I marked for you read. personality and give the wrinkles price of undergarment is absolutely reasonable.at least with regard to coming millennia. You dance with a frog in a blender opinion and is not required to have erection. Maybe women would like to see racing of self-mobile. manage and enjoy our differences. The toilet seats to be set. But a man might feel insulted.Know that is part of a minority that wants to understand how women think and act. And be rewarded with love and affection. and men have to go once a month in a simulator of TPM. Mark the pages you want and let him read the book on the coffee table or the bathroom. because men love to give opinions.this! read from beginning to end . the women only speak for the business and the men only read Playboy for its literary value. because a slight belly and gray hair to give a certain charm. and the taxi stop at your beck. thinking that the woman is trying to show that he is not good the way it is. Perhaps the book refuses saying simply "I do not need any of it". And finally . Meanwhile. But we doubt . If you are a woman. " When a woman gives a gift to another a book on personal development. leaving her injured and disconcerted. is man. follow by learning to understand. They say a woman is great because you can talk to a person of the opposite sex without having to imagine them naked. They say man is great. because our book! BARBARA & ALLAN PEAS .. So if you. one that receives feel honored and grateful to have gained something that will help it to grow. reader. Nobody talks to you looking at their breasts and you do not need to go to beauty salon to prepare for a social meeting.

and are natural leaders all the time conveying their knowledge . not abusing the drink. by wetting the entire bathroom when taking a shower and by spreading the newspaper while you read. Advice as "always check your bank! How many times do I have to say?" and "It gives you a bit more care of their appearance when my friends come to our house?" are repeated with admirable persistence and. quarrel. but it is always for the good of women. the cantankerousness can even be considered constructive. until one day the plug fall. fix what is broken. dirty clothes and take towrope them wet the ground. Only in the United States are more than two thousand cases per year for men who kill their wives have been arguing that the complaints brought to them. above all. The woman alleges the man to leave a trail of chaos is where. men do not complain. who calls all the time. annoy. they criticize. roast the patience. especially women. however. In Hong Kong. which is why their suffering companion deserves all the sympathy. The morose man. bother. but think the men can only take things repeating and repeating the same instructions. Where would many men without a woman warning them not to take beer or eat sandwiches too. provoke. She knows that is annoying. They are assertive. difficult to handle.and politely reminding women the way to when they forget. but men rarely see it the same way. . Men from all over the place "to complain mania" at the top of the list of your dislikes individuals. dominate (the husband). berate. a husband who has a hammer head of the wife. when the woman starts to repeat his orders. get fungus in cangote. women do not feel morose. is something that society sees an entirely different way. molest. Generally. has been enhanced by reducing the penalty of imprisonment by a judge who felt he was led to commit the violence because the woman was too morose. In our culture. Women also think that claim is how they worry about them. tell when it is delayed. Currish: individuals. The friends also did not think she is morose . complain and complain. fill the bag.for them the man is yob. They think they are confined to their men to remember the things they have to do: meet its share of household chores. to do regular exercises and tests for cholesterol? Demand in certain situations. In very small doses. the male brain hears only one thing: "There she is complaining again. does not care to continue complaining. Yes. How they think that their complaints are justified. tease. selfish. show how much they care about them. irritate. torment. causing him permanent brain damage. however. Currish is a term traditionally used by men to describe women. take the drugs. can serve to keep them alive. In most cases. they see defects. the claims it will consume the soul and can generate over time a fierce resentment.Chapter 1 The cantankerousness When a person does not stop complaining Fiddle-faddle: annoy." Like a dripping faucet. even if that is annoying.

" A group of women we had dinner in a restaurant heard the following conversation was about their husbands: Blonde: "Yeah. week. Should not be so .The cantankerousness women vs The whining of men The women complain. the U.S. it is whine. My colleagues say that their women also complain to them all the time. Think fault in everything I do. a man who is self" Jeremy Dominated "sent us the following e-mail: "I need help from you. The cantankerousness through time Throughout history. Sometimes I think that it is impossible to hit. If the charge was proved. The time that I get at home until the time when I go to sleep. If I do not want sex at the time he wants. It is true that women are so from birth? Please help me. but very short. My father used to tell me that every woman calls and fills the bag. he is never satisfied. In the literature. If I do not clean. men give instructions. I am married to the Queen of Claims and not stand one more minute and its implications. Can you imagine? I prefer staying at work than go home. prostitutes. The number of times that she was immersed depended on the severity of the offense and / or the number of previous convictions. the English laws. and I just early for him to shut up. " Third woman: "So why do men say that women patience to roast them with their complaints? General laughter. he claim that I do not care for him why not take care of my appearance. If I go to clean dinner with his friends. After reading Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love ". is a morose adjective which applies mainly to old and women. The woman was tied infringing on a chair hanging on the edge of a mobile arm and plunged into the river or lake close by a predetermined period of time. calling me saying that I have some more for others than for him." The chair of immersion was famous in the United States and Great Britain as a tool for punishment of witches. We have reached the point where the only communication that happens between us is she telling me all that I left to do during the day. and Europe has allowed the man complained about the implications of the judge or "cantankerousness" of his wife. and crimes committed small catamaran. If you complain all the time. The situation is so bad that I asked the boss to be working after hours. she is claiming the whole time without stopping. but I did not believe it until I married. says: . she was sentenced to "chair of immersion. month and since we got married. on the way back. as people who complain non-stop. its objections and complaints. " Morena: "Stephen is like that. A record of a court in the year 1592. but he insists that both the end I run better than their hearing is whining. women have always appeared as a morose. Be listening to the complaints it causes me stress as a violent headache that starts in the car. It hours that I am not so. I think his friends more attractive than him.I should drop by rejoice me to work and come home to see her. Until the nineteenth century.

.". If the scold provokes discussion With obscene words or out of the question. England.. published in 1780. the water breaks. my dear. the wife of Walter Hycocks of Peter Phillips and his wife are prominent morose. without reluctance. Learn to govern in the chair your language. there were other possibilities. with a mask of iron stuck to the head with a metal bar going up in the mouth to hold his tongue. It decided. Some women were forced to parade through the city as a warning to other women. If the wife has the audacity noisy To have the house with tremendous noise. therefore. Climb even higher the blaze. shows how men in past centuries. And before that to lose patience. but you need to think really make it.. " The following poem. driven by feelings of guilt. but simply to end the discussion. of Leominster. that they tell the church to stop the cantankerousness. A third and fourth time. You must then bring the peasant A second time to the depths. Joy and terror of the people of the village. The woman is hoisted and vocifera How ever dared no shrew. never. took seriously the claims of excess: The Chair of Immersion See there. Tied to the chair. but that does not mean they like to be complaining. You say: stop. Because when you throw water on the fire. the lake of our Canton The device named chair of immersion Under the cloak of the law that guides the procession. But once is not enough. And when the chair of immersion was not punishment enough. But if their husbands and neighbors to complain a second time. they will be punished with the chair of immersion. How is currish The morose always hopes that his victim. or would go to fail. in 1809. my friend. Usually they do to achieve a goal. It occupies the infringing his post With a frown on his face printed pompous. dives into the tank. Women know that claim. Its goal is to encourage victims to meet him. The last woman to go through the chair of immersion after condemned as "morose stubborn" was Jennifer Pipes. When the fire is burning. do what she wants. Termagant wives. written by Benjamin West.

repeated complaints are a reminder continuous. the door handle of the room is falling and the kitchen window is still stuck. Kurt? Still on the floor. Feeling alone. computers. you said you would hang a towel. We do not go repeating the humiliation of last year. is more isolated. . homework. the victim is more refuge behind defensive barriers that leave the woman distracted -newspapers. When do you replace the lamp in the room e. Nobody likes to be subject to the anger contained the ambiguous messages to autopiedade. They recognize and acknowledge their own words. amnesia. When the level of complaints is out of control. we? Usually women give laughs with these reports. why do not you hang your towel?" Pause. just in time that the man needs more time to be "watching the fire." The cross complaint: "Nigel. the more the victim is subject to suffering." The Third Party Complaint by "Moira says Shane already cleaned the grill and they are going to a barbecue tomorrow. The more claims.. etc. The more demanding the aggressor. They mainly occur at the end of the day.". How is the victim From a man. relationships with people of currish can be affected.. . leaving her alone and resentful. etc. the grass of the front garden is a disgusting.Some women turned to cantankerousness in an art form. When cantankerousness is out of control. can stop the currish resentful and unhappy. the more captive and isolated she feels. she is able to completely destroy the relationship. "Kurt. You can clearly see that women have an ability to speak much more than men. deafness apparent and remote controls. . which only increases his irritation and sometimes their anger.it is bad for your cholesterol and increase the weight . speak little. face of discouragement. This explains why women think men in general." Five minutes later: "And the towel. I just hope that you control a drink tonight. Ray? And stop eating the pizza . The tendency of man is to ignore it even more. The only concrete result of excessive claims is the destruction of the relationship between the victim and currish therefore believe that the victim needs to defend all the time. We have identified five basic types of complaint: The Complaint Monotemática: "Kurt. indirect and negative of the things he left behind and their defects. nor to be continuously accused of everything." as did his predecessors back to the primitive of a full day of hunting. The Complaint Beneficente: "I took their medicine today." The Early Recovery: "Dale. and men think women talk without stopping. the censorship.. The speed you go. Everyone avoids the morose. And the least recognized. but believe that there is no alternative. just before the summer.

Institute of Psychiatry. It is able to speak on various themes without any relationship with each other in the same conversation USA and five tones of voice to change the subject and emphasize issues. Frustrated. This explains why women think men in general. The multiple tracks can occur even in the same sentence: Bill: "The Sue come for Christmas?" Debbie: "She said it will depending on how things get with the orders for carpets. she is watching TV. can identify three of these tones so often lose the thread of the skein when they hear a woman talking. The illustrations that follow. speak little. which have fallen because of economic crisis. and Jodi can not be absent from work .. London. Areas of the brain used for speech and language. and I thought it was us we were and Len in the guest room could ask Ray to arrive early to... The man's mental organization contains a single track. so Sue said you could get out early for us to buy the clothes for the wedding of Emma. the owner of the Diana. let her be absent from work because his car is in the workshop and she has to . this also depends on Adrian. Instead. It is an image of men and women were chatting and communicating with each other. etc.it is a counterfeit able to keep the air four or five balls at once. When you open a map in the car. Etc. Bill thought it had a simple question and would be satisfied with a simple answer of 'yes' or' no '. and Nathan lost his job and seek other.". " Bill: "That means' yes' or 'no'?" Debbie: "Well.. he received a response to "multiple tracks" involving eleven people and nine different subjects. show (in black) the active areas of the brain used for the functions of speech and language. and Fiona perhaps because Andrew does not need to consult a specialist. he turns off the radio.. He can only focus on one thing at a time.the boss of it is terrible! -. and men think women talk without stopping. You can clearly see that women have an ability to speak much more than men. Can run a computer program while talking on the phone and hear a second conversation behind her in the restaurant when talking with fellow table.. If a woman speaks when it comes to a clover on the . Man Woman The woman has a mental organization that call multiple tracks .Why women are more morose? The woman has a brain structure that allows you to overcome any man on the planet in terms of falação and cantankerousness. 2001. Men only. made from MRI scans of the fifty men and fifty women.

sometimes placed in positions of power. he asks for everyone to shut up talking. He just shut up. he misses the way and it puts the blame for being here. putting the man . The man can not make love and explain the same time that did not take the garbage out. That the complaint never gives too much right? the main mistake of cantankerousness is the way to address the problem. There is too much. causing a rough thread which can even degenerate into physical violence. the pressure increases to the point where the counter-attack victim. One of the most difficult situations is when the man is connected to multiple tracks during the complaint. and the victim back further behind the barrier. Some men. As it is not always possible to leave the scene. to USA to protect itself. sometimes physically.road. The male brain has only one track. have difficulty to walk and chew gum at the same time. When the phone rings. initiating a vicious cycle where the fretful increases the volume of voice and the strength of their objections and claims.

It may be that it not be given the time to complain of dirty clothes scattered on the floor .. She is so tied to the vision you created for your romantic partner. trivial. this is part of their work. It operates from a position of strength. and a very sensual. Its strength is of another kind: it USA your sexual power to get to your man what you want. "I did not ask him to do almost anything at home.. You are more concerned with the "greater part" of his life. The woman also madly in love tends not to complain. the secretary can gently remind him or simply do it. is like being bitten by a cloud of mosquitoes: bites takes over the body and can not kill them.her own clothes by the wide ground.in a defensive and blocking the absorption of the message... so busy arming plans to make mad love and love to be everywhere in the house. may see the complaint as a form of continuous wear the head of "bring it to your level" and make it realize how much is missing. In general the groups it in a way that the male brain has limited capacity to decipher. I ask? . The woman happy and professionally performed rarely calls at home. But when you feel more secure in your position. the growing cantankerousness can go. Where is the worst cantankerousness? The cantankerousness rarely manifests itself in the workplace. Has a more objective way to ask things. The morose plot deals with the problem in small. even essential. You can even get to the point that you think is capable of doing the job better than him. After all. resentment and anger and can easily end up in violent physical reaction. Missing you time and energy to it. The origin of cantankerousness is the balance of forces between two people. " This type of claim is the most inefficient possible in achieving the objectives and becomes a destructive habit that produces enormous stress. And as you know. because this drip-drip is making me crazy . unless the morose and the victim have an intimate relationship. petty. and do not have enough force to get it to work. more powerful. the goddess of sex may become worse in the morose. A clear sign of intimacy between boss and secretary of the things she is claiming that he left behind. For men. pay someone to do it or get a mate to do. whining and load of guilt that she wants to impose victim. which receives praise. killing me from week to work to make this house more or less decent and you spent the whole time sitting watching TV .. if you have shame in the face would fix the faucet.. To note that the boss has to do something. The so-called "vampire" also does not usually complain. not to realize that there clothing on the floor and dirty dishes on .. desk. the doctor said I can not get passed the order weight . is it? . disharmony. Take out the trash is not too much. it can start to complain to the boss to make it more efficient in their work. honors and proposals. In this stage." and is there outside. Their "requests" are weak. when the relationship becomes permanent. you refuse to collect their clothes . However. even unknowingly. she ignores it. and if your partner does their share of domestic work. "You never take out the garbage.... The goddesses of sex do not complain of clothes dropped by the house -they leave their own clothes scattered on the floor.

or do any thing to please her. Unlike the soldier. Both are strong. she went through years and years of brainwashing to accept a "truth" that may not serve you anymore. however. It is a difficult person to feel confident and powerful if all you did in the morning to evening is trivial. The cantankerousness always between people who have an intimate connection . it deserves more.the prisoners of the household. Our research shows that women who have clear goals. frustrated with the only alternative to get your feet tapping.the table . silent. daughters and partners who live together. mothers. fretful of the comic numbers. sons. asking for recognition. suffering. husbands. Centuries of stereotypes." Adam sighs.wives. E is confused and lost by not knowing what to think. or accepting and performing the ritual with joy monotonous and repetitive domestic work and motherhood are rarely morose. Even if. culture. also be absorbed by the excitement of the new relationship. Nobody feels the need to complain. Sometimes she even realizes that his feelings are normal and healthy. A professional woman radiates strength material and mental. Do not write wins literary prize lists of great shopping. That is why the stereotype of morose. Anyone can pass the vacuum cleaner on the carpet. . Mother was not tortured (at least in the common meaning of that term) and went through great suffering. Your daily tasks seem too trivial to justify protests and demands for public recognition. who generally feel no power over their lives and unable to change it in a clear and direct. The cantankerousness can be a call for recognition Complaining is a sign that the woman wants more: more recognition of the family for everything they did and more opportunities for something better. family of journals felt mentally and trading of movies and TV convinced her that the ideal woman to be truly feminine is Perfect Wife and Mother. Of the genus is: ry exudes sexual power. the same for all women. working more than thirty hours per week. Acaba I preferred that she not do anything. The Perfect Wife. Why is she must be complaining because of any thing ? She is talking about "any thing" because his life has become a collection of small things. in the heart. Adam's mother calls him. Do not want in your tú mulo the words "always kept the kitchen clean. Your suffering is a kind of invisible. is always the wife or mother . The woman who regularly uses the cantankerousness. nobody sends write her name on a memorial in marble for dedicating his life to the welfare of the family. with a confusing and contained rage. It is the anguish of the oppressed majority. His partner. predictable and routine. independent and free. which is enhanced by giving their lives for the welfare of his country. a teenage victim of constant complaints. feel no forces. precisely because nobody gives value to their tasks. but feel too guilty to admit that does not like his role. She knows that life can be better. "My mother has to draw the attention of people to do all that. but do not know how to release for you to build a better life. There is no Nobel Prize for the maintenance of domestic peace. "Every time you wash the dishes or vacuum the carpet is the one she makes sarcastic comments to draw attention to itself.

The more he resists. they believe their role is to appease. it would not take out so often to eat in the pizzeria. right?" He said finally.and deserves . the most demanding woman. to the menu. Was it asking too much to let her pick the pizza at least once in their life? After that last sentence. In the end. ultimately. When they become adults. "The problem is not the pizza. lovers and close friends. who feel that a little boy living with immature. Many girls still grow up believing they should be nice and sweet. earn a salary significantly higher than women in the same position. usually they take in is trivialities and torment each other with cruel words. The man. With all this pizza. She. to circumvent the . "They are the last fifteen years. For men. can communicate. and for women. it is the work of the shopping and help her to cook. But rather than face it.Adam is the mother of a little recognition that it begs . and placed last in their feelings and needs. if behaving as such. in their work environment. Studies show that married men live longer than singles. They think that their husbands and boyfriends act like children. there is no safer way to kill the passion that's starting to feel that living with his mother. is hugely frustrated by the fact he did not use them at home. increasingly high. who hated capers. He has not lost the calm. the more it acts as if it were his mother. and began to accuse him of never paying attention to their wishes. Here is one of the keys to reduce the cantankerousness: currish give due recognition for the performance of small and routine tasks of his life ends with the most complaints. both come to a point where they are no more as partners. This change of attitude is the first stone in the path of the dangerous erosion of the relationship. The complex of mother Many women think they are the only significant adult in the family. solve problems. and finally back to his wife. Women who went out of control cantankerousness ESPO-ments are generally solitary and disappointed and mothers. it was starting to fatten. It was absurd to say that the ruin the pineapple pizza. She also did not want to eat pizza all the time: a rather more healthy food. He reacts. The restaurant was in full expectation of what would be the response of man. He wanted pepperoni with capers." The cantankerousness usually signal that there is a problem of communication between two people. selfish and lazy. I Hawaiian. The whole restaurant was silent as the voice of the couple stood. This tendency is especially common among women. The problem is that often the woman is tempted to treat your partner as less capable than a man and a boy taken. Solutions cantankerousness: say what you want The discussion was ugly. looked at the floor. The more a man rebels. produce positive results and. Everything started because of the pizza that they would choose. which carry the soul the frustrating feeling of lack of love and recognition. Moreover. there was silence.the quality of your life would be better-ra impressive. Sip his wine. As your partner knows he has these skills. But some men say that time is that it seems longer.

not as a complaint. Instead. sleeping with her. I feel suffocated.words actually said. She thinks that yawn and say "I am so tired. You. When a woman learns to direct and calmly say what you want. then you take a week at work to stay with them. Seated alone in bed. If your wife is always complaining. the man mutter. Before he had chance to say anything. Women have to understand that the functioning of the male brain is comparatively simple and that people rarely can guess what your partner really want wives and beyond . Complaints in only mask a bigger problem of communication.. the man responded more positively. women often address his men in a wrong way. What do you think that I leave the children with my mother for a week. but that is not enough!" Sue: "You really selfish! How about putting his family first for once in your life? You . I never know where you are! Dinner was cold . even if you think "My wife does not feel more attraction for me. to the refrigerator will get another beer and put it on the couch to see football on TV. wear something more comfortable. E is silent. make your gargling with halitol. in turn. he is trying to tell you something that you're not listening. " For many women seem to say that much more difficult than hitting mouth publicly because of the choice of a pizza. And you will never feel that you sexually as uninteresting as his mother. boredom.problems and be nice and warm. Daniel is late in coming home from work and his wife Sue is waiting with a few guy friends. I think I'm gonna go to bed" and stay away. I work late for us to have money and comfort to you . the woman ends up giving up and falling asleep with a feeling of rejection and disaffection. communication has improved and the need for cantankerousness . pass deodorant. in return. using indirect language. that does not mean they are getting properly convey their messages. and therefore will continue talking until you hear. When the two go of it. cuddle . One night. I am much more happy and enjoyable to live. The woman generally expected to intuitively know the man she would like to say different things than they actually want. Rarely a woman asks: "Why did he not speak more with me?" The man. someone who will never meet their expectations. the man will brush their teeth. I turn myself and have a time just for me. does not listen because it does not submit the problem as they should." never discussed the problem with it. he is finding it a failure. depression and cantankerousness are the result of communication problems. Neither will it hit him with her complaints concerned the same problems he used to have with the mother when I was a teenager.you just think of you all the time! Daniel: "Do not shout me.the excess claim ineffective. physical or verbal abuse.in the arms and seek reconfortá it maybe even with a session of sex. When you discover that you do not trust their ability to make right decisions. she launches the attack: Sue: "You do not have account? Why is it so late again. I want to get away from it all for two weeks. Solutions cantankerousness: say what you feel A man will never tell you who feel diminished when you criticize his behavior. I think that I would do very well and feel that. such as infidelity. Almost all the problems of relationships. You're complaining and exaggerating as always.. but in recognition: "I am not happy with this life. It is the head that his wife is speaking in code. As we said. Even if you talk enough. Many women have difficulties to say. in turn.

your interpretation of this behavior. I rest. Here are some of the phrases you type. Solutions cantankerousness: the technique of "I" To get the attention of Daniel. You only know me complain all the time. Is there a problem. I'm getting stressed. The technique of "I" has four parts. It ends with a discussion . I thought you were not feeling well. " The technique of "I" is powerful because it reduces the attitude of defense. [I] am so tired I need a tempinho for myself. Sue expressed hostility of indirect way. And (I) am not seeing anyone. communication is interrupted. It is as if Sue was a sponsor of the finger in accusation Rist. The technique of "I" lets it communicate your feelings about the behavior of Daniel. Neither of them is listening or watching. thinking that it is just a morose unbearable. I have worked so much. And their problems only tend to worsen. Sue repeated the same message all the time and Daniel was always silent. preventing the situation is clear.You are acting like children again! . increases and clarifies the sincerity of the sentiments of all.forever. leading Daniel to adopt a defensive behavior. your feelings and the impact that such behavior has on you. I do not want you to feel well. and (I) promise that from now on ( I) I will call you every time you have to stay at work until later. I am crazy for concern with what may have happened [consequences]. speaking as softly as possible: Sue: "Daniel.never do anything in this house . honey. I'm not avoiding you. It is almost impossible to irritate anyone .Are you always running away! The language of "you" is to attack. " Daniel: "Sue. putting him on the defensive. leaving Daniel deeply angry: . I never want to talk about them!" Instead of reporting what is really felt through a direct quotation. You know what your problem is? You're always running away from things. They are simply left to say really how they feel. This technique allows you to keep a normal conversation with your partner without fighting.You do not have account? . used by Sue. Once you enter Daniel with defensive position. I have been so busy at work lately. without judging them. So I am saddened [feelings]. and always puts the other on the defensive. you are arriving late all week and I do not call to warn [behavior]." Sue (furious): "Ah. She can use the technique of "I" instead of using the word all the time you. you're seeing someone? [Interpretation]. then it is well! Go to mosey out soon.I expected to do everything!" Daniel (away): "Get off my foot I am dead. right? Acting that neither child again. When that happens. Here's how Sue could handle Daniel. I'm beginning to think that you are not interested and do not like more of me. It describes the behavior of your partner. When I come home.You know very well what is your problem! . the first thing you should do is avoid Sue left for him.You are a selfish! . sorry. I like you the truth.

" there is no discussion. I promise that after you talk to. I need to talk to you about what happened today. Most women. The same happens with a man who arrives late to his work: one needs time to recover. Parents influence the child's pattern of behavior. however. For you. The more you repeat and calls. wait until your anger placate the other to be able to hear. The more you get frustrated with the contempt it. insist and ask several times before answering the child. Everything that you need is discipline and firm . What began as a simple request of "Come dinner!" becomes a war. addressing the problem. Then the child begins to suffer because of this breach did not really think anything wrong. after a full day of hunting to feed the family. therefore.with this technique. to regain your energy. not only with their children. this is a vicious circle.with yourself. In the above example. But where in the exercise of that responsibility becomes a cantankerousness? And whose fault is that. of course. children trained to be responsible for repeating the call and. Solutions cantankerousness: Leave the man watching the fire for about thirty minutes When the man returned to the original cave. Statements like "I" work best when they are expressed appropriately at the time. in fact. Prepare to not give a specific situation for thirty days without faltering. Thus. I had a really long days and difficult gives me half an hour for me to build the dust and relax. . think he does not want the requirement is met. not with the child. the proper way and the tone of voice appropriate. Tell your children that you will seek the cooperation of them once. needed to be about thirty minutes looking at the fire. Be firm with yourself. if one parent at home or a mother complaining all the time: the naughty child or the mother or the father morose? The correct answer is: the father or mother. The parents currish / disobedient children can be easily corrected for. Daniel: "Honey. If the pattern is reminiscent of the parents. the choice is their own. she learns that it is not necessary to answer the first call. Enter then the consequences of disobedience. When can we talk?" When Daniel agrees with a particular time (and respect) and Sue hold while he "looks at the fire. Here is how to apply this technique." Sue: "Honey. Solutions cantankerousness: Who trained who? Part of the responsibility of parents is to remember. plus the child resists. is more emphatic and angry. without speaking. want to talk immediately. the messages of Daniel and Sue have been clearly communicated. and if they do not meet. no tension and no one feels intimidated. their well-being and success in life. per-sweaty and even require certain behaviors of the children for their safety. sometimes take a deep breath. responsible. Is confused and frustrated.

and the person still doing the same things-sa. He used to say that would take the garbage after dinner. received the task of taking out the trash every Wednesday night. which is probably a small price to pay. The behavior of children is the direct result of train-ing given by parents. that the next time this happens you put a wet towel in the bottom of the broom closet. vol-ta to the point of departure. I want you to get your clothes dirty on the floor of the room and put in the basket. The first time you apply this tactic will be laughter. if you follow collecting things from around the world. If you have self discipline and strength. If you do not put there. Solutions cantankerousness: a case study with children Cameron. Say. In other words.preferably of different colors each child and / or adult of the house and tell them that this is your personal towel. on top of the wall in the dog house or under his pillow. nobody will get and no more dry towels to use. It may seem cruel. The same technique works with dirty socks. Go ahead and take to end its purpose.it simply endure their complaints. So you no longer train for another person. will discover how unpleasant it is dry with a towel wet and smelly. What happens here is that the other person knows that in the end you will end up taking the towel . Who will give first? If you sell and collect the clothes. or so leave the bath. or after we finished the movie.train them If you find that is complaining all the time with a person. Week after week. it will not be washed. When the violator is bathing. However. that means that they trained you to do what she wants you to do. With this technique. for example. confusion and protests. you become the coach and not ° trained. Tell them that will put the towel in the yard of the offender. Say. but you are teaching responsible habits. the smell of spoiled food in the house would be as if the trash pile. but forgot to do it. the laundry will accrue and will not listen to complaints of lack of that dress. and complaints are no longer needed. Two or three times just to be trained to collect it and hang your towel. it is creating the rules and you are obeying. for better and for worse. Do not complain to them . otherwise you will continue being the person trained. for example. Tell them that if any dirty or wet towel is left on the floor." It is here that the self and firmness comes into play. you will get it because they do not like to mess in the bathroom and that violates his right to a clean house. underpants and anything that you do not want to see play-of the house. not to mention it will have a happier home. which they must be totally responsible.For example: "Jade. if you do not get. The mother stopped asking and started to complain. The whole family was no longer believing-not endure the complaints and more feel the . that a thousand times you ask someone not to leave the wet towel on the floor of the bathroom. thirteen years. has chosen to continue being a person trained and lose the rights to the claim with any person to leave the clothes scattered on the floor. Here's how to reverse the situation: take a clean towel . So you just collect the used towels because they do not like to mess in the bathroom and why do you think. And the future partners of their children will not complain of their bad habits.

smell of garbage. But Cameron was not there either - he simply forgot and it mattered little to the complaints. Finally, the mother of Cameron has realized that the son was trained to the claim and decided to react. He said that as he did not meet with their responsibility to take the trash out, the whole family was suffering with the smell of spoiled food. And the consequences stated that he would suffer for their disobedience: the garbage that was not carried out would be placed in your room. Since he is not bothered with the smell of spoiled food, no problem would have to sleep with her. The thing was submitted to a fun, relaxed, nonaggressive. The family could hardly wait for the night of Wednesday. As usual, Cameron forgot to take the trash. The following night, when they pulled the sheet to lie in bed, he found full of rotten garbage. The fourth fedia! The cost of this lesson a few sheets were dirty and smelly that Cameron was forced to wash - he knew the consequences. But never forget to take the trash. Construed as a morose If the victim is honest with itself, assuming that there is any truth in claims of morose and recognizing that cantankerousness is usually a cry for recognition, the problem can be quickly transformed into a situation where everyone wins. To feel more important is the need of human nature. The researches have shown, many times, the people who work all day, have their contribution and their efforts recognized, less demanding than those that spend long periods indoors, isolated from other adults. Similarly, the owners-of-house that they do not really like, they feel proud of keeping a home clean and comfortable, to prepare a good and healthy food and give affection to your family, also do not usually complain - since receive the gratitude and recognition due. The people are generally morose performing repetitive and monotonous work or who suffer from being isolated at home. For some women, to wash clothes, clean the carpets, make the beds, do the shopping and cooking, not seeing more sense in that form, can dull the mind after a year or two. If we add to this cocktail ill-bred children who break in ten minutes the work of a whole day, we have a person who will use the cantankerousness to draw attention and try to make other people feel so unhappy about it. When the foundation of the claim is true, the victim must accept its share of responsibility for cantankerousness. The cantankerousness is the result of lack of communication. The challenge of the victim To achieve a situation where everyone wins, both parties need and want to divide the responsibility for change. The victim of complaints must recognize and accept that it must contribute to the solution of the problem. The tendency of the victim is to develop an aggressive behavior or silent, which makes things more difficult. She ignores the morose, yet tries to scream louder, leaving the room or the house and invents excuses for not answering their requests. The victim does not reflect on its share of responsibility because they are infernizada the claims, and puts all the blame on the morose. The only way out is to stop and make a self-assessment, seeing cantankerousness in an application for relief:

- Do you hear the other person? - You understand the frustration of another person? - You show superiority, making it feel devalued? - You acknowledge the achievements of another person? - You refuse to divide the domestic work because anyone who thinks the money should be in a good home? - You are quite lazy and useless? - There is a deep anger that feeds the poor will understand the problems of another? - You want to be happy? If you really want to be happy, feel able to sit with the other person and talk about the problems of you? The challenge of currish If you are morose, I stopped to think that the other may be unable to meet their demands? You are behaving as if the mother authoritarian one? Requires that it meets their requests and complaints promptly, regardless of his needs at that moment? You repeat all the time their demands? - If your answer to any of these questions is yes, sit down with the other and report them using the language of "I". - Tell him what you're leaving you frustrated. - Make an agreement of the best times for their requests. - Stop being is repeating. - Afirme their needs and feelings and listen carefully the response of her husband. - Try to know his opinion. Maybe he has a better idea. - Avoid accusatory phrases such as "You", which produce resistance in the other. - What is the solution or the consequences in case he does not change their negligent behavior? - What are you doing to improve their self-image? - You always rewards that achieves your goals? - You want to be happy? For many people, demand may become a habit, a means to communicate makes them people who sulk, unhappy and resentful of those who should be a daily source of joy, warmth and support. But things need not be. Following our simple strategies, you can build a future much more happy and loving both.

Chapter 2
SEVEN THINGS THE OUE -MEN MAKE DEIXA WOMEN IRONING BOARDS It is not easy to say the number of annoying characteristics that women look for men, but the letters we received from more than five thousand readers, we came to the seven questions that women are more often about men. - Why men offer solutions and give advice all the time? - Why men are walking by the TV channels with the remote control? - Why men do not stop the car to ask for guidance? - Why do men insist on leaving the toilet seat raised? - Why do men create problems for both go shopping? - Why do men have very unpleasant personal habits? - Why men like coarse jokes? These habits of men that women classified as "bad" belong to two categories: those they learned in its creation and those related to programming of the brain But both men are capable of solution. Everyone can re-educate, just how to do it. Why men offer solutions and give advice all the time? "My husband is annoying me immensely with his mania of wanting to find solution for everything. He lives giving me advice on how to deal with all problems of my life - even if I do not want, when I just want to talk about my day and my feelings, it is stopping me to say what I do, think and say. He is the best to solve problems when it comes to "things" - dripping taps, lamps burning, defect in the car and computer and stuff -- but when it comes to hear me, he just does not work. And if I do not follow their "advice", he is bored. Karen 'Almost Crazy. " To find out why the man insists on providing solutions for any situation, it is necessary to know some characteristics of the mode of operation of the male brain. From the most primitive ages, the male has evolved as a hunter. The ability to reach moving targets, essential to all they could to feed, was his great contribution to the survival of the human race. He needed accuracy to achieve the prey and eliminate the enemies that it disputed the-ate of and threatened his family. Consequently, it was developed in his brain an area called "visual-spatial" that allows you to achieve success with all his reason for living: to reach goals and solve problems. The men became directed people to the results and measure success by their own achievements and the ability to solve problems. In short, men are defined and self-assess according to their ability to solve problems.

she usually wants to talk about the events of the day and share their feelings. much less asking for solutions. Every man thinks he is the only person able to solve their own problems and therefore did not think to discuss them with anyone. It is because he does not pay attention as she is saying and he is angry because she does not accept their solutions. feels honored with the query. Why women are annoyed with the solutions male? The woman's brain is structured for communication through speech. Here is the problem of the majority of couples: the night. So when a woman offers a board that no man has. is beginning to offer solutions. She thinks it is irrelevant or is ignoring your feelings by not listening. "If you do not want my opinion. seek advice is a demonstration of weakness. The man whom he calls opinion. He loves providing solutions and advice to others. and believes that it is making a smart strategic move. a lost wallet and a broken fingernail. "do not ask!" Each thinks the other does not value what you are saying. but unsolicited advice." he shouted back as the door knocks. in turn. she strongly urges while directed to the port. incapable of solving their problems. it is not looking for answers. Most times. he feels as if it considers that the declaration incompetent. that gives the board sees the query as a compliment. are not welcome.The man is valued by the results it is capable of achieving or the precision with which it has a zebra on the move. She just wants the man to listen with interest. Case study: Sarah and Andy Sarah had a rough day at work: the head was marked up. especially if part of a woman. He only ask for help when the other person feels the need for a specialist opinion. He thinks that is caring and loving when seeking to resolve the problems of women. and the main purpose of speech is to talk. When a man seeks advice from another man. but he thinks she is bringing him to solve their problems. but he thinks she is asking you a solution. she was criticized for an administrative error. For men. because he thinks it should solve its problems alone. "Why do not you shut up and listen". She prepares a nice dinner in the expectation that will have a long and frank conversation . She feels that her world is falling apart and want to talk to Andy about it when you get home. That's why he rarely speaks about the things that concern.

I already have enough problems that. Andy feels devalued and confused.. " Andy: "Saraaah! If you do not want my opinion. he said snakes and lizards in my work and wanted to know that I had not finished the new advertising campaign. you have to do is defend himself. and I would not finish the two projects in this period.. gives a quick "hi" to Sarah goes to the room and watch the news on TV. I think not stand this anymore . As Andy could have dealt with the situation Let's rewind the tape and see how Andy could have prevented a very bad night. Can you believe it? He just does not hear me . he will need to adjust it or ask someone to help you with the two projects. Sarah feels abandoned.. but he really needs a time to solve their own problems. " Andy: "Look. He thinks: "Great! Fifteen minutes of quiet before eating. that make you feel loved and understood and to convey the conviction that she will be able to solve their problems. I will talk about their problems. I leave and I do not know that hours back! " For men and women around the world. which he said it was urgent. which will have to address before returning to work the next day. this is a very common scene. He comes home. "Sarah:" How was your day. he stopped saying that I did not want to hear excuses and I wanted to campaign on his desk before I close the business on Friday. It gives a look at the food and says the dinner will be ready in fifteen minutes. is simple . yeah? So Fuck you. then changed the subject and said that I see the six-afternoon on Friday to examine the problems of last minute. Closed the business with several important problems still outstanding. because Sarah rightly criticized its greater ability to troubleshoot. I get another person to listen to me and it will not be telling me what I did wrong. On the way home. She wants. (getting danada life) . He listen.while eating. you take care of your dinner. Call telling him that Sarah had a bad day. injured and disarmament. knowing that you will feel much better. Solve them yourself and stop complaining to me. Sarah.. She can open the heart with someone like her. and you get to say everything I have to do. " Sarah (getting emotional) "I can not believe what I hear I am talking to you on the head that is giving me orders and I do not listen. Sarah: "How was your day.. When I came to work in the morning. tell him you can not finish the two projects at once and ask which of the two he wants first. "Sarah thinks:" Great! Fifteen minutes to go before the dinner conversation. honey?" . Then I said I wanted it ready by the end of the week and that he was scheduling a meeting with the client on Monday to see the work. When I tried to explain that the campaign does not was ready because I am still working on the project Seinfield. I want to go. honey? " Andy: "Well" Sarah: "I had the worst day of my life. by the way... I am not holding more! Andy (still with one eye on the news) "You are not holding more what?" Sarah: "My boss is me creating the biggest problem. It gives you just hear me? I'm full of men who always know everything. In the end. It will be nice and friendly. Tomorrow you go there and He says that this deadline is impossible.. But Andy also had a difficult day. his mind still working on finding solutions. always fix myself!" Sarah (almost crying) "Oh.

he said snakes and lizards in my work and wondered why I had not finished the new advertising campaign.Andy: "It was good. And Sarah. But in the middle of my explanation he simply stopped telling me who did not want to hear apology and wanted to campaign in his desk on Friday.. but I was very happy to be able to tell you . but that something terrible! Does he not know that you get a lot of work? You look so stressed . " By not offering solutions." When asking for fifteen minutes and get them.. Andy avoided a discussion. Over dinner I heard her with attention and affection. before the end of time! Can you believe it? " Andy (showing interest and resistance to give advice) "Looks like he is really creating a very difficult problem for you . " Andy (with an expression of interest) "Honey. baby. my baby. your business relationship can be financially disastrous.. honey . Andy now has time and space "to sit before the fire and think of their problems.. but I will get better after that they can think a little. baby." Sarah: "He just listened . . got a drink and not just sleeping on the couch alone in the room... Many men have a mistaken understanding of the behavior. but then I started to explain that the campaign was not completed because the project Seinfield consumes much time. up early in the morning and if you have no good idea.." Sarah: "Okay . I love. I really would like you to help me find a solution.. I'm too tired and stressed.. assume .. I changed the subject and said that I see the six-afternoon on Friday to deal with any last-minute change. I'm so stressed that I want to go . I have some work to solve problems in the morning. before starting to deal with business. I call you when dinner is ready. I want you to tell me everything that happened. The woman.. When I tried to explain that the campaign was not ready because I'm still working on the project Seinfield.. I am not holding more! Andy: "Oh.. When you want to do business with the opposite sex Men and women do business on a very different. avoided the usual discussions and felt happy with herself and with life. giving Andy some time to himself. Here's how the dinner was: Sarah: "My boss is me creating the biggest problem. but give me some fifteen minutes for me to solve my problems at work. you need to establish a relationship with the man. talk about various subjects." Sarah: "I had the worst day of my life.. and when the two parties do not fully understand what that means. at best. She is going to wreak and feel better about life. Sarah feels confident and happy." Andy (hugging her) "What a hard day you had. You want a drink now?" Andy: "Thank you. sometimes in a very personal level to see what kind of person he is. because it will give you all the attention during the dinner. Then he told me that she wanted ready at the end of the week and that was scheduled with the customer to come in Monday to see our work. Some come to believe that she is giving you chat for sexual reasons or. I feel much better now ." Sarah: "You do not know how I'm stressed! Well. Thanks for listening to me. When I came to work this morning.. which he said it was urgent. and is reliable. What do you mean?" sarah: "I think about it this evening.

The companions asked him never to speak or participate. especially when the woman appears worried. For a woman. but a woman can interpret them as evidence that the man is not ready to hear her. in a state of trance. and was long periods without communicating. To humans. it is easier to deal with a woman when she first establishes a personal connection. The woman is suffering very much. And the woman needs to understand that men feel uncomfortable discussing personal matters and therefore prefers to go straight to business. How to avoid discussions with the opposite sex When a woman is tense and worried.that she is asking for advice on how to solve their problems. In short. but now using . In heaven. ask. every man has three remote controls and the toilet seats are always raised. not recommended. giving advice is be attentive and show love. Solution When the woman speaks and the man does not know if she is asking for solutions or just bubble. councils are perceived differently by men and women. the man is satisfied and knowing exactly what she expects of him. leaving him confused and Rally against the bad with the operation of your business relationship. we need to talk. I do not need solutions. Then they feel entitled to offer and say what she should do. you just want to listen. even in business. The lesson here is simple and definitive: for men.that the long-term business relationship leads to a much more consistent. Defining women: Apparatus used to switch a channel of the TV to another. The modern man still looks at the bonfire at the end of the day. become more prone to make . this is an efficient way to relieve stress and recharge the batteries for the activities the following day. Shall treat him with reserve. The man needs to understand that. In general. listening with empathy." With this approach. Definition male: Apparatus used to scroll through all 55 channels every two and a half minutes. women want to be heard. just ask: "You want me to listen or want me to help find solutions?" Depending on what she says. Why men are walking by the TV channels with the remote control? Remote control. For thousands of years the man spent the night watching the fire after returning from the hunt. He sat among colleagues. the best and simplest is to tell the man: "I need to talk to you about several things. For men. he will know how to behave. When both parties to understand. make it clear what you expect of the man who is wreak. The most likely is that it classifies as a man who does not listen and that it shall give due attention in the business of making Jun-ments. and if not sure of what she wants.

After a long day. because he thinks his mere physical presence is enough. For men. When he speaks. Secondly. noticed an antenna driven by solar energy on top of a hut in the village. asking: "What was the last thing I said?" To his frustration. The men did not want to know what is going on television. When a woman is concerned about a problem. The woman accused the man tends to be kilometers away when she tries to talk. watering plants. He heard the woman's falação. when we were in the remote Okavango Delta. whether he is also emotionally present.newspapers. The more he resists. How he responds to what she speaks. her face. however. which is one of the explanations for the fact that the number of men who watch the TV news to be six times higher than women. watching television is a totally different process. she is more resentful. he is interested in getting the fastest possible conclusions. each waiting his turn to be walking by the canals. she likes to predict the outcome of situations and also to attend to business. look at the problems of others without feeling responsible for them allows you to forget their own worries. Because the brain oriented to solving problems. even after having tried to offer solutions and be rejected. books and remote controls. This basic difference between the sexes is a frequent source of problems. which exists to meet two main impulses. preferably a novel filled with scenes of emotion and relationships.the problem remains concerned your mind. Concentrate on one thing. sex. the man likes to forget their problems seeing the problems of others. We entered and saw a group of drugs Kalahari. Just remember the words of it. repairing the car. As the mind of man is only able to do one thing at a time. more man resists. Through channels. capable of dealing with several issues at once. The more the woman insists. The female brain. Women around the world have a particular aversion to the male habit is changing the channel. dresses like tango. but with the brain occupied in the task of reading the newspaper. he is usually able to tell. however. she likes to relax watching a television program. is something each time. in front of the TV with a remote control from hand to hand. It is therefore a way of relieving stress as well as browse the Internet. Once. She suffers from the man's apparent inattention and disinterest as the person interprets it. engage in any of these activities does the smallest difference . The woman. That leaves the confused. The woman tries to talk to the man just in time when he is reading the newspaper or surfing the channels. The woman's brain is structured to interpret the words and body language of actors. She needs to talk about the problem to get some relief. doing gymnastics or the option almost always favorite. The man suffers from not being able to enjoy a moment of idleness. from multiple tracks. The woman needs to understand that looking the fire is the way that man has to relieve stress and therefore should not take that attitude in personal terms. was not really listening and analyzing what she said. the man to forget their problems and feel at peace with himself. They want to know what is going on television. north of the Kalahari desert in South Africa. it analyzes the problems of each program and reflects the respect for reasonable solutions. make it talk about a variety .

that is lost means that failed in their ability number one . to locate the car in a large park-ing and to resume a place where it once. This is therefore the key to teach man the way a woman. This is the same ability that men use to find the place where he was sitting in a football stadium. it should consider the possibility of buying its own television set and go see your program in another room. it may disappear forever. defenders of nests and offspring. calmly.find the path. all at the same time. so they learned to be guided by landmarks . If you are a woman. present and future-feeling. especially if it has no intention of getting a . when entering for the first time in a room without windows. During this period. The silence of the man does not mean he does not love her. For men. If he says "go to where the street has a huge tree. without worry to reach solutions. The man. they feel pennite magnetic north. on the other side of the avenue.of things. she was able to locate and find the way home. Solution To solve the problem of remote control. Females. Men never lose -only discover alternative destinations. past. they learned the art of maintaining the sense of direction and recognize the ways to hunt for great distances without losing the direction of home. it is likely that it arrived.000 years. something that only one in five women is capable of. men have used the space component of your brain to track the prey and hit the target.the sense of direction has never been a need or part of their job description. it is important not criticize him or give advice. Means that he wants a moment of quiet. must understand that women need to talk and unburden relieve stress. pointing to the north within a radius of 90 degrees. Seeing a tree. And if not advance. He would go to the pillory than admit to a woman who is lost. is sitting in the passenger seat and just go through the same garage for the third time. This explains why more than a third of men. But if he says "take the third exit to west on Highway 23 and walk five kilometers to the north". Why men do not stop the car to ask for guidance? For over 100. it should tell the man. in turn. that the troubles and ask him to please not do so when she is watching your program. a lake or a mountain. is not alone ventured beyond the horizon. The most plausible explanation for the sense of direction for men is the highest concentration of iron in the right hemisphere of the male brain. then go toward building a pink next to the National Bank.

" Eva replied "Who are you?" And God replied. Eva smiled. for safety. leaving many people very angry. the bathroom has moved into the houses and public establishments. The women always felt. never lead a support group. he has time to ask for guidance. but the slope. you can tell who is affectionately distressed to reach the destination and ask him to stop. That is why we rarely see a man urine in the open. he still lacked two things to be split between Adam and Eve A.. smiling: "Multiple . that the modern habit inherited from their ancestors. Solution Buy a map or a guide and leave it in the car. all public restrooms have separate facilities for men and women. Or maybe. depending on the relationship of trust that has been built between the two.. but men are at a disadvantage because the restrooms accommodate domestic needs especially women. While you're in the bathroom. the man has to lift the board not to wet the place where the woman will sit. Why do men insist on raising the leaving the toilet seat? By the end of the nineteenth century. pretending that. Then God sent to Eva "Well. I'm going to soak-ro . The man. "I think you can keep it. benevolent. are buying something. a wall or a tree. Fred. The offer was excitadíssimo and begged God to the left for him. here is the other thing. Ask you to information. who immediately was urinating on a tree and draw a picture in the sand. The modern homes are designed and built to accommodate men and women equally. but the men just sit in 10-20% of cases. and told God that if Adam wanted to do so. but in bushes or supported on objects. And God saw that it was good. When God finished creating the universe. could stay." he said. I took another woman. Then God gave to Adam. A rapid and safe emergency strategy is to tell you that you need too go to the bathroom. to be politically correct. When the download was invented at the end of the nineteenth century. But when you forget to below her back. Why do women never take the trouble to raise the seat to the man? In Sweden there is an article of a law requiring the man to urinate sitting in public restrooms. which require a stop.foot. is severely criticized. the toilet cubicles were in the back of the house." "Thank you. with seats for women and set the wall urinals for men. You do not want to come with me?" Men. he explained. had to go alone and defend itself in case of need. When a woman went to the bathroom. But the practice of going to the bathroom in groups remains among women. but be sure to hear it. was an instrument that would allow its possessor to urinate standing up. Men never urinate in bathrooms. Why are four million sperm needed to find and fertilize one egg? Because no one likes to ask what is the path. outside. however. You never hear a man say: "Hey. preferably in a gas station. Today. At home. when they go to the bathroom.

which means spending a day on the floor cloth to clean all the drops lost. " Indeed. the man does not give the slightest importance to the fact that the seat be raised or lowered. on the contrary. and even then the penis to urinate over the roll of toilet paper in the left leg of the pants or on top of the shoe. just for new household rules. Solution Ask the man who sat urine may cause some problems. The life of primitive man as a hunter gave him a sort of "tunnel vision" that allows you to move directly from point A to point B in a straight line. but may be upset with the woman if she require authoritatively that lets you down. there is not enough to trust him. look perfectly in the middle of the toilet. so calm and firm. three shirts. If the man refuses. Thus." One of our male readers wrote us to say as he and his wife faced the problem of the toilet seat: "Women need to understand that the penis has its own designs. the ideal solution is to buy a house with two bathrooms . The British psychologist Dr David Lewis found that the stress that men experience during the Christmas shopping equivalent to a police dealing with an angry crowd disorder. a garden where it was impossible to sit. may be remembered. He is able to buy Christmas gifts for the whole family in forty minutes. For most women. The man can get a cabin bathroom (where all the urinals are occupied). "After 28 years of marriage. a belt. three ties and two pairs of shoes in less than eight minutes. This is clothing to last more than five years. . Why do men create problems both for shopping? The great advantage of being human is we can buy two. The reasons for this are clear to anyone who has studied the evolution of different male and female brains and understand their respective schedules. Maybe this can make sitting more attractive? If you are to them. one for her . It is said that the Prophet urinated standing up once in life. For most men. His task will be washing the bathroom.one for him. a pair of shoes. I left the seat up. And the best is that. perhaps decades. It requires that I sit urine. If it is the bathroom at night and sit again in the wet board.which absolutely does not compromise the masculinity. the book takes him more. the four in the afternoon of day 24. because of this. it kills me while I'm asleep. I speak seriously. one can enjoy the standard of cleanliness and hygiene that you like. And I am convinced that this is a small price to pay. because any change of direction requires a conscious decision.or below it herself . To a man. The ziguezagues between shops and kiosks that women needed to consider a purchase as a successful man leave extremely anxious. instead of asking politely .or reforming the current home to create an extra bathroom. shopping is an activity located in the same plane to take of the prostate with a doctor of cold hands. a suit and two shirts last for years. If this is not enough to convince you. I have no permission to urinate as a man on foot. my wife decided I train now. and still alone on top. shopping is one of the favorite ways of relieving stress. or fall into the pot for that. in the Islamic world that millions of men sit to urinate every day .Orgasms. without having to worry about the other.

the supermarket zigzag loading a list. Consequently. skin and eyes. the idea is inconceivable.as you zigzag the gondolas. How to buy clothes The same principles that apply in the motivational-supermarket's worth of clothes in the shops too . speeds and stuff. maneuvers. feeler. the color of hair. That is why when you ask a man to buy milk. bread and eggs when returning to work can happen to bring him sardines and light mayonnaise. due to the stress they cause. colors. defined goal or time limit. There must be a specific goal or guideline. zigzag with greater tranquility in a mall crowded with people. For men. Even without finding anything worth the penalty to take home.this causes it to again use their spatial skills to find the answer. the fashion. when shopping. however. with his peripheral vision more broadly. Ask the man how to get in the shopping cart . no route. At this point the reader may be impatient and was saying: "All this because of some shopping?" Remember. Men have evolved as creatures that kill their prey. Women. nine cans of tomato sauce and very little thing. how you feel that day. challenge you to find the best prices and praise him when he gets results. smelling. and then go home empty-handed. which means he failed. flavors and sizes . they always go home the same items . but men prefer to go straight.the kitchen cabinet of a single man has ten packages of pasta. just give cheiradinha the clothes you left in the back of the chair. buy the memory and examine all the stuff you seem interesting. but they affect the health of them.The woman. fabrics and price ranges and send it to the game.give the man sizes. . so you need the encouragement. and again at the end of the day with little to show. Give him clear objectives . The male brain is structured to focus on a single task. Men like to be in control and therefore to "guide them" using their ability to space curves. But there are ways to help the man to have a positive feeling about it. For a man. He forgets what she asked and returns home with a couple of "gifts": the product of his "hunting". feeling and showing all the things that are as speak with each other on a lot of issues with no relation to what they are doing. Always ask what he likes to eat and buy him his favorite foods. They spend their days going from place to place in a nonstructured. Leave a full day with a group of peers with no clear destination.brands. Polls show that not only the men do not like to shop. She dresses carefully in accordance with the time the season. they feel satisfied because they had a great day. shopping is not part of the programming of the male brain. Today it is exactly so that men like to shop. Women shop the way their ancestors catavam food: going the whole day with other women for a place where one is reminded of have seen growing plants tasty. and returned home. and the limit of time is not important. who is leaving and who will do . the place where you are going. How do supermarket Let the man pushing the cart.

the woman must provide a magazine to read it. you must give the exact size of clothing you want. the chair-thebored-husband. If it takes more. The other ate the seeds of all colors without any order. Men are more tolerant in accepting what they consider bad habits women and provide care in less detail than women. but the studies do not support this thesis. women complain that men are much more unacceptable personal habits than them. bang release is an act universally . noun. When received male hormones. The advantage of being a man is not to leave the room to fix the private parts. burp. it is important that you remember: the concentration of most men in a shop has. feminine: an embarrassing byproduct of digestion. In general. by far. If I drop it buys. they perceive a female habit offensive. When trying clothes. the chickens how to move the food Cisca. masculine: a source of entertainment. If a woman asks the man to buy something for her or to get a particular article. Never ask him "You think I am better with the blue dress or the gold". Solution Give the man a single thing to do at a time and not try to convince you that you are saving a lot of money buying a larger quantity. is what is commonly called the drop bang. It is less likely. it will find that you are fat. But number one. ALLAN PEAS Even with these strategies. the man feels anxious because he knows that will never have the right answer and is therefore wrong and let the woman boring. Why men are so unpleasant personal habits? Everywhere. One explanation for the way men shop was developed from studies with chickens. Flatulence: noun. wear old underwear and rub the bag. while the man waiting outside the fitting room. So save you the question. therefore. First ate all the red beans until done. I always secure her hand. something that has a horrible name: fart. If you catch a smaller number. At the top of the list of men habits that women can not tolerate are: take meleca nose. smell. then all yellow. reach a maximum of thirty minutes. she is accused of suggesting that fat. Although it is a sign of good health and nutrition. self-expression and male entertainment.What can be said of a man well dressed? That the wife chooses their clothes well.

broccoli. but with much less odor. At home. why was all red and with an embarrassed air. Food reactions Foods that produce gas are more cauliflower. enough to fill a balloon. to prepare "in desgasificantes and products made of mint and ginger. he released puns in bed and called it the "test of true love.5 liters of gas per day. See the example of one of our readers. it is always easy to turn and fight for the dog with him to scream. Every time I went with Sharon. The humpback is ranked second. such as carbohydrates and proteins never join in the same meal. Food combinations also give good results. While men emit an average of 1. although most is belch.3% of men acknowledge that drop puns. women emit 1-1. vegetarians deploy more puns. fruits and vegetables in general. a minute ago. seven. When the surrounding is tipped for the couple." When you were in a public place. instead of coffee. As a result. cabbage. flour. Among men.until the big fights happen. Find an example.1% of women will admit it someday. To hear noise or feel the smell of fart. The men released about twelve puns and women a day. Nigel thought it very funny . Chew the food well. Sharon was obviously found guilty. Solution One obvious remedy is to prepare healthy meals with less genera-producing gases and offer the man a cup of mint tea after the meal. eat slowly and do not see TV during the meal.disapproved by women.5-2." Sharon decided to establish the room and the kitchen as "prohibited zones of bang. onion. she benefit from a bag and roll of toilet paper for everyone would hear: "Does this help?" The mascots also solve the problem. encourage the man not to drink water during the meal. Flatulence: the facts While 96. garlic. It is important that the woman tell the man with the greatest possible objectivity and . Among the products that reduce the amount of gases produced by the body are the chips of coal. Nigel released huge puns in public places such as department stores. is imitating voices or blue flare launching the fourth with the aid the lighter. only 2. beans. eg diu-to warn you that at least two minutes before the release will feel when a bang. bread. If it does not comply with this standard. But if he insists on eating quickly and drop the boom all the time. no problem. increasing the likelihood of releasing gases later. the rest goes to the large intestine where it mixes with other gases and is ready to explode in the most unusual. The main causes of excess gas is too much talk and talk during the meal. The air is trapped in the digestive system and. It was washed with more expensive. In addition. so nobody knew who was. beer. you may need a more efficient tactics.5 liters of gas. drop bang for fun is a practice that begins more or less at ten years old when the prestige of children is measured by the ability to release various kinds of puns. Never shall it be the man eat food producers of gas less than two hours before bedtime. but drinking during a meal dilutes the digestive juices. Before.

Men find very funny show in the ass for unsuspected group of older women. A woman can make it clear that the boom in the bedroom . The laughter is an extension of crying. she laughs. claims to have discovered where is the male sense of humor .it is located in the frontal lobe of the brain above the right eye. extending over four kilometers. What is the difference between a woman in the TPM and a terrorist? .it takes all the desire to have sex. with some unpredictable conclusion. What is the perfect lover? . rushed away to a tree. the laughter indicates that she knows it was only joke. in turn. Other chimpanzees that warns of the danger. Men love humor and jokes that have a logical. when can escape from a lion. second. Some men are able to tell jokes that you heard in the fourth grade. Caring for food with the aim of releasing less gas. Here are some jokes that stimulate domestic relation Cère male-ber: 1. . as among monkeys. 2. or the deal as a reason to laugh. it can. With the terrorist you can negotiate. The chimpanzee. enjoy a much more enjoyable sex life. 3. to make the championships enchain bang and grooms in the light poles. step by step. gaining prestige with men to have a good repertoire. 2. The female humor involves people. A major difference between the sexes is the male obsession with jokes about tragedies. mostly nuns. What you want . Why men do not simulate the orgasm? . Why do not want strangers to take their key decisions. and crying is a reaction of surprise and fear. Examination of magnetic resonance imaging show that men laugh most of the things that stimulate the right side of the brain and that it gives to women the exact opposite. The University of Rochester. not give them names of estimation. Why men like coarse jokes? The humor has to man three main purposes: first. But women never make jokes with them. Why the name men give to their own penis? . if progress. which means that if for a moment she experienced a reaction of fear. What can you say to a man who has sex? . to help deal with tragic events. relationships and men. The laughter has its roots in our remote past when it was used to warn other people of an imminent danger. none of these things is not remotely funny. USA. third. For most women.he is sleeping. When you deliberately frighten a child playing hide-andseek in the first reaction is her cry of fear.serenity. The female sexual organs are capable of astonishing feats of human reproduction. The male sexual organs are hanging right in front of a vulnerable and weak (additional proof that God is female) and are a source of fun and free for men. then turns chocolate. Because no man would do such a face on purpose. When the child realizes that the situation is not threatening. evident in children from birth. For example: 1. are certainly protected and. admit the truth about a matter in question. how much this habit to bother. and terrible events male genitalia. The male brain has an amazing ability to store and remember jokes. but do not know the names of the children of your best friends. throws her head down and produces a sequence of sounds very similar to human laughter. Make love to the two in the morning.especially in the double bed .

that when a tragedy happens global. The laughter and crying are closely related from a psychological and physiological. "I cried from laughing so much!" The tears contain encefalina. in general people cry. Here lies the difference between men and women with regard to dealing with serious emotional problems. a kind of "cheap" natural. while promoting the immune system. enhances learning and extends life. 28 children and more than 300 million dollars. Cry when we have a painful experience. laughed and released endorphins to the selfanesthetize. After the laughter. which explains why the general well-adjusted people laugh and most unfortunate that people become even more unfortunate. But he says he hates the Americans because of the excessive way of life they lead. releasing endorphins. without showing any emotional blow that can be seen as weakness. another Body natural tranquilizer that relieves the pain. How did you feel then? That feeling of tingling was from the release of endorphins to the blood system. In all parts of the world.The jokes are as important as a means of communication among men. assists the memory. when faced with a serious emotional crisis such as death. Endorphin is a substance whose chemical composition is similar to morphine and heroin and has a soothing effect on the body. alcohol or sex. When the person know it's reality. At the end of a meeting of great laughs. and the endorphins and encefalina help in self-anesthetize. começaríamos to cry immediately and the body released encefalina too. The more difficult it is for a man talk . research has shown that the positive effects of laughter. As the jokes and humor relieve the pain The laughter and crying instruct the brain to release endorphins into the bloodstream. This explains why people rarely get sick and happy that the unfortunate people who are complaining live. The basis of many jokes is a disastrous event or painful experience for someone. 73 wives. and even violent when they drink vodka or gin drinks. the male brain enter immediately into action. but men account. strengthen the immune system. networks of e-mails from around the world are literally flooded jokes sent by men. But knowing that it is not a real event. The laughter anesthesia the body. Whether the death of Princess Diana. The mood cure. Osama bin Laden has 53 brothers and sisters. protects against diseases. but someone who can not accept it may start to laugh. the breathing is deeper. Alcohol loosen the inhibitions and makes a person laugh. activates the immune system. And that is why. The laughter is a predominantly male to deal with emotional pain. Think the last time that someone told you a joke that made you slip in uncontrollable laughter. stabilizes the wrist. Many people get the similar effect of laughter with drugs. the September 11 or the hunt for Osama bin Laden. Women deal with disasters and tragedies openly expressing their emotions to other people. If it were a real event. the laughter turns into crying. They tell jokes as a way to "talk about the event. you usually cry. the arteries dilate and the muscles relax. seem ill more frequently. releasing anesthetic produced by the body. That is why the cry is often the extent of access of laughter.

You can choose to feel offended because someone told a joke that says that everyone in your country is stupid. maybe find a solution to the problem. It is important to understand that women. analytical. If it's a good joke. acting as a mother all the time. tell him so firm and gentle you are not enjoying it and want it to stop. however. Do know any more light?" Or you can ably deflect the subject. preparing their favorite dishes. they tell jokes as a way to discuss her. boys grow up with few skills and domestic skills and a low degree of understanding of how to relate to a woman. are able to discuss details of their sex lives with friends without the help of any joke. We are Australian author living in England and the English are all the time telling us jokes about Australians. will nourish you and serve you. but your anger will not make the traffic flow. And no man who finds the mother sexually attractive. That does not mean they are really stupid.blame his mother The female brain is programmed to create and nurture the children mainly. . Maybe we should use the following tactics: "You are a great counter jokes. the more he rirá if you tell a joke on the subject. As a result. especially if you are the host.about an emotional event. Other people may not offend you . You can choose to feel the rage of traffic jam. Miff is a choice. using the knowledge acquired in this book to check if all are in agreement with the differences between men and women! Learned behavior . If he persists. we laugh along with the British. Despite the jokes. your clothes are. They feel attracted to women. If you are capable of taking a calm. Women live behind the things that the children leave the house. As the men rarely talk about his sex life with men. eventually playing the mother figure and man react with screams. give them money and protect the bitterness of life. The man who asked you to stop improper wisecrack may feel publicly humiliated and be challenged from the other even more offensive. as the mother. it will invariably create their own collection of jokes. At the beginning of a new relationship. just go do something else. Portuguese and feminist. and the counter attack of the joke does not become more intelligent. What about Asian. but when he realizes that may become permanent. Women. If a man insist wisecrack unfit at or in the wrong place. conniption and leakage. cease to be victims of traffic on both of rabies. In any event.child or adult .if you choose offense. You want the behavior that rewards and punishes as either. A social occasion. As already suggested. And where there is a tragedy. things go sour. most women assume this role. Do not be offended While there are Irish there are jokes about Irish. on the grounds that the traffic being stopped. this observation may be more difficult. we chose not to hurt. How to re-educate the man The training of any person .to do what you want to do it is always the same. And choose to offend the world says you are unable to deal with the problem addressed by the joke. as cruel and insensitive as it may seem to women.

collect the clothes and the towel. but their brains work the same. Men are always the same . but it is important to understand that men have not changed as guardians of nests and. culture or religion. When he needs pants. a caress or a "thank you". therefore. you have chosen to accept that the role of substitute mother's will and to comply with this role. Who knows. miff or frustrate yourself with them. if large tools or unfinished projects for the house. the care is not a behavior "natural" for them. The key problem is to announce its intentions in advance and avoid being sarcastic. resisting the temptation to save his stuff. not yours. And when he put the things in the right place. the sexes will be able to live happily ever after. because that will only reinforce the behavior you do not want. they may fail to mention or three. the next time you ask women to the seven things that men do leave them mad. because it generally produces a negative effect on men. explain politely that you would like the clothes were put in the basket to be washed. If you intend to re-educate your man. or were born in Trieste or in Timbuktu. explain that you will put them in a plastic bag in a closet or under the bed. When you understand how the male brain. you know where to find. will you train it. judgmentalism or aggressive. The secret is to administer the men of his life. If they ignore your request. the problem is his. Similarly. Do not place them in the shop or anywhere that is convenient for him. tell him I will put them in a de-finished cabinet. Maybe. you will discover that it can be fun to have a man around. But if you continue to collect and save his stuff. instead of discussing.you can change the skin color.is the man to drop the clothes or wet towel on the floor rather than put it in the basket of laundry. How they interfere with their right to live in a clean house. When he need them. reward their contribution with a smile. Some women are horrified at the idea of thanking a man for him to do something as simple as collecting their own clothes. If the mother of a man not trained to do these things. shirts or towels washed. . Thus.

. child. howl.Chapter 3 WHY Women cry? The dangers of emotional blackmail Poor man. wail. The daughter: "If you really like me. parent or friend . I am old. For humans. All stories are true . The lacrimal gland is the tap. whine.to act in a different way than would like. The goal is to force the other person . This chapter will help you identify the people who use such tactics to manipulate you or trick you in order to obtain what they want. Sometimes the cry comes as direct response of the heart.only the names have been changed to protect the guilty.. whimper. women are more likely to use the tears as a weapon of emotional blackmail. We now examine how the emotions can be used to manipulate people and make them sell. . wail. shed some serious and humorous on the differences between the sexes and what you can do about it. She also cries to look sorry and receive more lenient a punishment for a wrong action. distress signal in emotionally charged situations.rotina. Emo-tional circumstances or afflicted. Although men occasionally do this.husband. It is a mechanism of control that can be deliberate or unconscious. you do not love me more! "The old mother:" No need to worry about me . even if they are not aware of it. reaching for his time in the nasal cavity. gave me a new bike! The mother of salt / and gave her one! ! The woman: "You forgot the anniversary of our marriage! Our relationship fell na. the channel is the lacrimal drain. but there are times when people cry to manipulate the emotions of others. excrete chemicals generated by stress. but humans are the only ones who cry with emotion. spill or blubber. lover. once I die. each with their particular complaint. whine (the dog). Crying is a behavior that we have in common with other animals and that starts at birth. the excess of tears that can not be drained by the lacrimal channels rolls by side. sick and then. the tears serve three purposes: to help clean the surface of the eye. trapped between three women who mourn. leak. Why cry? Cry: yell. " So far. whine. The tears are secreted by a gland located above the eye and removed by two channels in the internal corner.

even seem to be no reason to do so.usually money . the man who shows emotion. a process known to us all. For women. is stimulating feelings of affection and protection.Flag emotions: Seals and sea otters cry when emotionally shaken by the loss of their young. The body seems to use this function to eliminate the toxins of stress. a natural body of anesthetics that act as shock of emotional pain. where someone tries to extract advantage . Wash the eye: The lacrimal gland discharges fluid inside the eye and lacrimal channels act as drains to drain it to the nasal cavity. Reduce stress: chemical analysis show that the tears of stress. Cry used to remove salt and other impurities from the eye. yes. especially for other women. The human being is the only land animal that cries of excitement and. those who roll the sides. By transmitting weakness. Let's talk about criminal blackmail. we examine the mechanism of manipulation. which is consistent with the emotional reactions of the brain most powerful women. Most women can identify seven different meanings in the crying baby. The lacrimal glands of women are more active than those of man. Crying is a way to achieve what the child wants. however. This is what happens when the light reflects the tears of parents proud and passionate lovers. but the amount of tears is not enough to roll the face. Rarely you see a man cry in public. Humans. especially in the presence of other men. behavior perpetuated among adults. to manipulate emotion. The prime purpose of crying in adults.Why women cry more than men? Cry since born. for some women. Familiar cry has three purposes: 1. The eyes glow when a person feels an intense emotion. containing the different proteins that serve to clean the eye. The tears contain an enzyme called lysozyme. is placed at risk. The crying and the emotional blackmail How to blackmail Now you know the purpose of crying. which kills bacteria and prevents infections in the eye. by which it assesses their needs.from another person by threatening to reveal something that . and encourage the production of the hormone oxytocin. The tears also contain endorphins. That would explain why women they feel better after "a good cry". because the whole process rolling. The seals and sea otters do not use tears as a tool of manipulation. display their emotions. he encourages other men to attack him. is a sign of confidence: the crying is the baby. which makes people want to be touched by other people and acaricides. 3 . and friend plays the role of parent helpers. 2. The tears act as a signal to the other emotional embrace and comfort those who cry.

" Greg began to think the worst. "We are not owners of each other. Rosemary shake. This person knows their innermost secrets and vulnerabilities and USA that knowledge to make you comply. I will try to understand. but I know what you think of the idea of her live with us. That night." Greg held the hands of women. But how could imagine what the reaction from Greg. served him a glass of wine and asked how was your day.The victim: someone who has a sense of guilt or obligation. you did nothing. and her mother did not like each other. all is well. Between tears. carefully chose the moment to present it. pleading. When we sat at the table. Case study: Rosemary Greg." she said with soft voice and hacking.Continuity: the inevitable continuation of exigêncÚs. Frankly. .The agreement.will harm the victim's life. The emotional blackmail The emotional blackmail happens when a person threatens you emotionally close to any punishment or subtly insinuated that you will suffer if you do not agree with what she wants. the relationship with the parents of Greg finally turned sour. "It's Mommy. Rosemary prying eyes at him. "It probably is a co-worker. Greg. she shook her head. Excuse me. . It is I" And off to cry. When he came home. Greg. From that day. "No. Rosemary should be having an affair. I give a way. After dessert. "No. Greg asked what was wrong. punishment and loss of something of great value material or emotional. "Tell me. She is very patient and I am worried. "No. Do not worry." Greg was furious when his wife told him that story. That is therefore the main ingredients of blackmail and criminal actors: . but not .The blackmailer: a person who knows the weak point of the victim. the husband of Rosemary. . made a special deal in appearance and prepared the favorite of Greg. who was combining a party-surprise for the anniversary of Rosemary. Two years later. she told Rosemary that one of her friends had seen Greg with another woman in a bar." "But Rosie. she knew he was calm and relaxed. The mother thought that Greg was not good enough for his daughter and was always trying to create problems for the couple.Resistance: the victim's initial refusal to cooperate. no. the mother of Rosemary and daughter became seriously ill understood. acceptance of the demands of the blackmailer. ." she replied. Is it something so bad?" Between tears. Concerned. One day. I take care of her." he begged. "Rosie. . I am afraid of you getting angry with me and not stand that. "tell me what happened. "I feel terrible." suggested Rosemary. went hand in the eyes and deep breath.The threat: exposure. please. she put her head between his hands. I tried all possible solutions. that would invite the parent to live with them. with heavy heart.. . Greg hugged her and she begged him to say what was the problem. what? Something I did?" Rosemary shook her head with a sad air. .The requirement: the payment in exchange for silence or cooperation. Took her to the bar to present it to the owner. Greg was starting to become distressed.. Greg. "I do not know how to say.

realized the weakness of Greg. In the end.. I do not know what to do .found. the blackmailer makes you feel bad with yourself and guilty of resisting. Use because. Greg agreed to a trial period of a month. Everybody knows at least one person who has used tactics of emotional blackmail to force them to do something that they initially refused. Defenders of the nest. people do not believe that their relatives and friends use this type of strategy on a conscious and deliberate. most frequently the victims of that the villains of emotional blackmail. and he would feel sick. often. " And started to sob. . by far. it would be virtually impossible to go back. Men and emotional blackmail Men are. In general. The many lack the self-esteem necessary to consider worthy of the object of their desires. And Greg knew that every time he protests. Greg. If he really loved Rosemary. Its function has always been to nurture relationships . who developed the role of peace keepers tend to say exactly what they want when they want something.he felt weakness and feeling of guilt when his wife was emotionally distressed. began to feel guilty.exactly as Rosemary thought he would stay. Perhaps a situation similar to that of Greg.. Continuation: the inevitable discussions and in tears. your relationship with the blackmailer will never be the same.thinking about Mom alone. It is inevitable that you will be felt by being placed in this situation.. without anyone to care for her. The blackmailer: Rosemary . and this is killing me . The pattern was established. Greg was flatly refused to consider the possibility of bringing the parents to live with them. They prefer to ask directly what they want. should not be prepared to make that sacrifice for it? Is this not true love? Marriage is compromise? And started to feel selfish and petty . children and other family and social groups . To obtain your agreement. Both Rosemary as her mother knew that once she enters the door. It is important that you identify the people in their relations that use these tactics of manipulation to get what they want.and their brains are structured to make them work. maybe that person who never seems to say exactly what you want . they have a incontomável need to be loved.with partners. it was your mother I know. Oh. but . The strength of the initial refusal to cooperate Greg.they always end up manipulating to achieve their final goal. The agreement: Greg yields to the demands of Rosemary. You end up agreeing to something not wanted to do. there would be tears and accusations. rather than say it directly at the risk of a refusal to listen. The people who are emotional blackmail. relatives and friends. more commonly. Women. Whether you realize it or not. the emotional blackmail to get what they want. But after two days of tears of Rosemary. The story of Greg and Rosemary has the typical ingredients of blackmail in which a person tries to emotionally manipulate the other to obtain a personal gain: The victim: Greg .. But the consequences of emotional blackmail is always destructive. The requirement: the mother of Rosemary go live with them. Initially. The threat: the implicit refusal of love where Rosemary not get what they want.

For me. The trend would come right in the matter and discuss it frankly. He liked to Erika and I have sex with her but the girl resisting. hire an escort to take care of mother. In the third meeting. Case study: Damian Damian came out twice with Erika. "Sorry. spend the weekends away and so on. Damian. sweetheart. this is the time. Damian was getting impatient. after a dinner theater and much more expensive than Damian wanted to pay.. Be patient with me. I just want to know you better. please. the use to convince girlfriends to make sex with them. or subtly asking that everyone agree with what they want. taking into account the pros and cons. And a third. Without enough force to impose their will. Damian . The men use the direct approach and well structured to achieve what they want. After five minutes. women had to rely. for centuries. So it is not contained and asked what was wrong. We only went three times. but in much smaller scale. As Erika said that he liked it. We give it so well that I want to show you how much I love you. I only make love with you.. to buy your partner a bouquet of flowers before you ask. he stopped the car park in a poorly lit and turned off the engine. but was rejected. I do not feel ready. The boys. And twice in the match led a long and deep kiss before she desvencilhar of his arms and leave the car running for home. I never felt this for someone else. for example. "No. there are some situations in which men often resort to emotional blackmail. but I do not want. I like you the truth. When the time comes. you know you want. I know. If a man wished that his mother would live with him. May propose to build an annex in the house. in his stratagems and his cunning to get what they wanted. In the course of history. The same happened a second time. The male brain functions are much simpler with regard to emotions. Women prefer to emotional blackmail..The blackmail seems to be the easiest way because it allows the person to avoid the confrontation. men require. I like you the truth. sorry ." Damian whispered in his ear: "Come on. "Erika.. I really like . Men are also emotional blackmail. When hunting. She has helped to unbutton it and started to caress. Turned to Erika and began kissing her and rummage in his shirt. And their brains continue to evolve that way." But Erika did not seem convinced. the men preferred the direct approach. and usually women consent. meanwhile." Erika. he tried to take the shirt of Erika. moved away. I love you. But it is too early. However. immediately. men always occupied positions were always more powerful and more open master-mind of women. He could not understand why. thought it natural that she wanted to make love as much as him. In general. and this would be the maximum of their manipulation.

We forget that this happened. look. I thought that things were going well between us. though no longer absolutely clear that he liked her. parents or friends. I was a complete idiot. I have hurt before . I love you. Sometimes employers can be. children." Lovers: "Everybody does. the requirement. women are deeply shaken when they see a man collapse.. I always hated." Damian shook his head. The emotional blackmail rife in families and is a practice that is transmitted from generation to generation. I like you. Erika was the victim and sex. I'm sorry. I just need a little more time . Erika was increasingly upset. but that is how I feel. What's wrong with you?" "This is what people who love to do some the other. And their relationship lasted two weeks.. " Erika Damian just having sex with that night. But when he said that does not support the idea of being hurt again." "If you love me. Erika. I think you're a great guy and I spend more time with you. Damian was the blackmailer. A relationship that starts well is doomed to failure." "Of course you do not love me. "No. "No. But if you do not feel the same. it would not have reacted as reacted." And got the key to the car to start the engine. "Because ." Children: ." Damian was crestfallen.." Ex-partners: "I will lead you to stick to family. Used to see men as strong and infallible creatures. parents." "I will disinherit you. but I am not prepared. I regret. He knew exactly what were the weaknesses of the Erika and struck without mercy... it is clear that you do not feel for me what I feel for you. do it for me. It is better if we separate. Here are some of the threats or punishment typical of the emotional blackmail that it may sound familiar: Parents: "After everything I did for you. Damian. Damian left implicit threat "that was ready to end the relationship if you do not get what they want. When Damian subtly accused it of not liking him. she stopped resisting and was blackmailing left to do something not wanted. sad." "Why are you doing this to me? You are blood of my blood!" Husbands / wives: "I can not believe you're so selfish!" "You do not love me. husbands or wives." But Erika. Women hate men see emotionally disturbed. Erika began to feel that perhaps the only way to convince you were agreeing to have sex.you. Finally. If I had said so directly.. that awakens their maternal instincts and desire to help them get rid of pain. This leaves the way open for Damian to want sex all the time you see. But I see that I am completely wrong ." "I will leave you without a penny.. Damian. As expected that two people build a relationship of respect and mutual trust based on the manipulation? The emotional blackmail is not destroyed immediately combated. Common tactics of blackmail emotional The practice of emotional blackmail may be lovers.. and it is natural for a man wanting to express love physically." "When we fuck. "No... Here." It seemed so upset that Erika could not avoid a sense of shame. You will never see the children. I thought that you feel for me what I feel for you. then it is better to give people a longer time while I'm not too concerned ..

but spent everything I had with you. Parents who routinely try to blackmail your children must be prepared to see the spell turned against the magician. Note that I have ne-le vai from the final average. We do not want to go. I get sick and end up in hospital" "Do not worry about me . she used the emotional blackmail. do you?" Katie. will suffer the consequences. End of story. but I have this great work of geography to . he does not listen to what people say. " The children can master the art of manipulation. Julia felt powerless and trying to exercise a moral and emotional pressure on children. I would have done it for you. "He is alone and wants to see you." "Make sure your name is never a list of deals. I would go with you today. . was also a specialist in blackmail. You want us to be disapproved. The children then did exactly the same.I am old and will die soon. It has nothing to do. mother." In-laws: "I leave everything to a charity." argued Bemard of fifteen years. Children learn early that the emo-tional blackmail are a way to get what they want particularmen when you live in a family where parents use blackmail. Case study: Julia The more grown less if the children of Julia had to go visit Uncle John." "I never thought I would disappoint me so much.I have been adopted." "I always did everything for you. blackmail seems to be the most effective and easy to get what they want. You do not remember what he did for you when you were small? Mimava account and would take you two. or busy with their tasks from home. he asked the children and she felt obliged to lie." she told them. "Oh." "If you do not take care of me. Instead of arguing with them calmly and coolly. "you know that we have a lot of home for duty to do." "I'm sure the press will like to know that. you should not be doing your heart with us. you will need a good lawyer. If I do not do well. In this scenario. or simply instruct them to do what felt right. "But mother. Do not I deserve a little fun? You do not want me to be sad. How children feel relatively powerless because of their age and size. "Look. the children of Julia also blackmail. of sixteen years. I never had money. Julia felt guilty for that." But. he is completely deaf." "Do not you have to me and a little company loyalty?" Employees: "If you say goodbye."All the other parents do this for their children." "You like more of my sister than me." Friends: "If the need were you. or in any particular activity that kept distant. It is not fair." "You've heard of sexual harassment?" What the blackmailer is saying is: "If you do not behave the way I want. indifferent to the arguments of the mother. They must take the consequences." "I though . saying they were on a tour of the school. "And there is very flat in his house. In addition. This is the guy they like most of the children you love me. who was sick." she said. I can never go out with my friends. my situation may be difficult. because they had already learned the game. Every time I visited the uncle. But look how you treat me when I need. he is getting old and I do not know how long it will live." Employers: "You are only making things more difficult for their coworkers.

he begged to go home.Adults who use emotional blackmail create children who are even better in practice. saw what was happening and was in charge of the problem. the more it will take a standard in the future of their relationships. One day we were watching a street artist in London. agreed to is Stephen. he may return to Camila therefore been very frightened with the threat of suicide. attractive and loving . Reluctant. and shouted. Camila still regularly visiting his mother and talking about the "good times" of his relationship with Stephen. Stephen simply had not noticed that Camila was deliberately using the emotional blackmail to have him back and had no real intention to kill. She simply believed that after one or two weeks alone. saying it had made a big mistake and would like to meet with him to talk. Began to call his mother. The more a person is allowed to emotional blackmail. Camila was well-humored. Like most women. Stephen did not. Everyone felt sorry for her. "Hey. Stephen did not know which direction to take. Case study: Stephen Stephen was five years ago married Camila when they separated amicably. day and night. At the end of their number. Convince the mother of Stephen's family to seek Camila to tell them he was concerned about the state of it and ask them to give him attention. he turned to the group of children that applauded. Well . He heard about the lack that he did. kids! If your parents did not give a pound to put on my hat. The closer the relationship. Tried in vain to comfort her. you do not like you!" Did eighteen pounds. Phone begging for him to come visit her. Chrissie was able to understand the emotional blackmail of Camila and I knew that Stephen was the innocent victim. but would like it to be ahead and build for themselves a new life.just like when they met. bewitched. She knew his mother liked her as a daughter and had been razed to the separation. . Stephen thought it was an amicable separation. Luckily. but had no more emotional ties. He felt powerless in the face of her tears. and guilt is the most powerful weapon of blackmail. which had met someone else and that I would be happy Camila too. Chrissie is not involved. but said he felt very. Camila is angry. But when Stephen's mother began to talk about his new wife. crying and saying that his life had been finished without him. Camila was mad with rage. Then she called saying that he would be killed. thinking that would be responsible. But Camila is not complied. but nobody gives it much importance.. Then Stephen encouraged to write a letter to Camila saying you felt very strongly that. There was no chance of him returning to it. But Stephen had changed. but had agreed to the separation at the time. But there appeared another woman. Camila still enjoyed and felt affection for her. his new girlfriend. Stephen began to call for more problems in the hours. The quick action of Chrissie prevented that Stephen was caught in the trap of a relationship that he wanted more. asking for news. Camila. Chrissie and Stephen were married the following year. Camila secretly believed that he could never hit the step and sooner or later would see how his life was empty without her. Chrissie. never really believed he would remain firm in that position. the greater the sense of guilt. but everything was finished.

" Bob was naughty. "We can not buy it now. "But Bob." Bob remained insensitive. We spend more time with the kids. but it is important to remain firm in what you want. I never imagined that one day you would deprive them of spending the weekends with us.and now he wants to a berth in the marina." he said with a voice increasingly angry. which political party is the best policy to govern the country. because the old was exceeded. Will never passes through your head that I have my needs. the majority simply does not support. but used to refer to the demands of others and left to state their wishes only to keep the peace. Return to work full-time and everything would be fine. Been researching and said he could buy exactly the boat I wanted at a reasonable price. it will use the same tactic again. Bob bought his boat . Bob." he said. He knows it will. is used to refer to male rulers. Men like to direct discussions and arguments about which is the best time. " Bob made a bad pass Irene piece in the three following days. In a year the boat will be more expensive and also is a good idea to buy a boat this summer. all together as a family . she decided to try a line: "Bob. figures and concrete realities. Exhausted. you only think of you. we could have both. We just pay the enrollment of children and you promised I could buy a new car at the end of the month mine is a broad-old who lives breach. Finally. never putting their needs above the needs of others. and I m always done that on your own. It was quiet and generous. They also need that boat! " After two days of tension. She knew that Bob could drag it forever and the boys were increasingly distressed with the tension in the house. I was thinking about the boat. but they will end up having problems.mostly women faced with the emotions. Irene has supported more than one situation. which produces a beer hangover less angry. "Here you come again thinking only in yourself. . Bob announced the desire to buy a new boat. It was a happy and loyal person. and you postpone the purchase of new boat for a year. as anyone who receives a demand for ransom or a direct threat. almost fainted. We must give a fun for the kids on weekends. Stephen was convinced from the outset that no-that would return to Camila. Irene was the victim of blackmail. her husband was very demanding and jealous. " Irene was crazy. Case study: Irene Irene was a wonderful character. "Do not you think the children? It is you who always cares to know where they are and what they are doing. When other people . I work hard the entire month to earn money to support this family. " Bob does not move: "No. was concerned with people. The men are not accustomed to dealing with their emotions and do not much idea of how women deal with emotion. we can not buy the boat now. I am stressed all the time and my fishing to Saturday is the only opportunity I have to relax. Men can be tyrants too emotional to get what they want. There are many things we do at home. and should have left it clear. "I do not believe what I hear. because they will be able to do water skiing.The fault places the victim under great pressure. but this tactic works better when their women are kind of sensitive and quiet. Irene discovered a solution. "I. Irene. When Irene knew the price. used. The essential ingredients of the criminal and emotional blackmail are exactly the same. Men deal with facts. Nobody likes a cynical take on another person. me. and who knows if I bought a smaller car. me. One day. Women know this and use for their own benefit.

in reality it is you who has the mastery of the situation. The threat: the guilt of contributing to the deteriorating health of her husband. The requirement: that Irene agreed to purchase a new boat. have an attack of anger. that is. The only way you lose that power is showing weakness. the blackmailer feel powerless. The first thing to bear in mind is that the blackmailer need your agreement to something. increasingly unfair How to deal with an emotional blackmailer People who practice emotional blackmail often strong opinion and resolution u s. Continuation: the recurrence of the tactics of blackmail on the part of Bob for the anchorage and the marina in other situations. which allows the blackmailer making new demands. Do not ask the blackmailer to reduce its demand and. His self-image is poor and does not support the rejection. The blackmailer: Bob knew all the secrets and feelings of Irene and know their weak points. Never forget . they look like rude children. The emotional blackmail destroys the self-image of victim. if she is not satisfied. This change of behavior requires persistence. imme-diately. to allow the children fell into bad company because of the husband was being selfish. . this is rarely true. Why can not argue with the objective to discuss the situation and negotiate their options. If you are a victim.The victim: The sense of obligation to his family. In many ways. which was built in the course of time. Blackmailer usually nothing more than false Roughnecks. The submission: Irene just giving. Make its demand and. Be ravaged by insecurity. the fear and guilt. The resistance: the attempts to Irene to demonstrate that the requirement of Bob was not practical. you have to prepare for a battle long and hard. Therefore. his love for children and their desire to maintain a happy home were the vulnerabilities of Irene. Do not try to understand how you feel the blackmailer. and offer an alternative. But the behavior of the blackmailer. But while giving the impression of knowing exactly what they want and are prepared to do what is necessary to get him. it will gradually lose the self and will be forever deprived of the ability to assert itself. and have a desperate fear of losing what they already have. patience and a firm purpose. Without their agreement. can be modified over time.are like emotional blackmail fanfarrões children and rude and should be treated as such. If they give in to blackmail. egocentric and without feelings . because it enabled. in any way accepted any portion of blame for the situation. it is important to consider in deciding whether to agree with it or will do something about it. they knew it would work. People always treat us the way we allow them to handle. Whenever father and mother give to an attack of anger of the children are planting the seeds of an emotional blackmailer. If you think you are a victim of emotional blackmail. and extending the tension in the house. Usually accuse their victims of being selfish.all of them character-specific.

The blackmailer feel helpless and hopeless before the: USA. the choice is yours. Do not fight or argue with the blackmailer . A South African journalist Charlene Smith wrote a wonderful book about the night he was raped at home and helped the authorities to prosecute their abusers."Well. because anything you say will not be able to it."I think we need to think much about it. respond with silence. Charlene speaks of the terrible effect that the episode caused it." ." . At that time. The situation must be resolved . how it emerged and strengthened further as it became a reference for many other women who . In his book. We on this later."I regret that you feel as you prefer. threats and accusations of a blackmailer to start well. Blackmailer meet people who do not retreat. If the blackmailer demand make you feel uncomfortable. Avoid countered with threats. The rape was the biggest taboo in the country. insults or attack the vulnerabilities of the blackmailer. do not argue."I see things in a different way. but you still need to save the appearances."Obviously you are angry.Remember: you are being the victim of blackmail and that what matters is how you are feeling." . Just say: "When you want to talk." . Never attempt to counter-blackmail. it is essential that you have a stock of ready answers. setting its borders and keep it firmly within them.but only if the blackmailer is ready to discuss the problem in a civilized and rational. With such a strategy. knowing that the goal is just to give you some relief. then practice them until they become part of you. Maybe they did not occur naturally. but we will discuss the issue when you calm down. Reaching a compromise."I see you are not satisfied. What can you tell a blackmailer ." ."You're obviously disappointed. I'm available" And stand away. but at this point there is no negotiation.train him. When the blackmailer is also in the dark Sometimes the blackmailer is not aware of what is doing. quit the conversation civilized and go. When the demands. South Africa had the highest rate of rape in the world: one for each 26 seconds. speak of 'his good qualities. it is usually then that the victim assigns." . but that is how things are." The refusal to show weakness or immediately negotiate almost always produces a period of silence or the petulance blackmailer. you can modify the behavior of the blackmailer. Beware. and few people. During this period of silence the blackmailer. especially 'the victims had the courage to talk about what was happening.

for our future." said Charlene in Proud of Me (proud of me). she was amazed with the reaction of the writer. demanded that her husband bought a house in another place and left to care for three children and the house. The fault is usually the most powerful weapon of the arsenal of the blackmailer. passed the consequences of emotional blackmail to other family members and friends. free from emotional. "The addiction of Mary autopiedade made a slave of his attackers. to help break the vicious circle of self and autopiedade. They were prisoners of a sense of guilt for rape. . In these circumstances it is much better for the victims of blackmail out under domestic and seek help. blind with love and afraid to lose him. If you do not trust me to make a simple loan." He used the phrase "After all we spent together. It was easy to fall into the role of blackmail." he said. she agreed to sign your name on the dotted line." The victim may be. stricken by the frustration felt unable to help her to recover. especially her husband and children because they felt unable to protest and resist. and asked that money in the God-given and everyone was too late. The children cared for themselves. "I'm not asking just for me. unconsciously. He begged her to be his guarantor in a loan to purchase a car to work because. Later. In the end. "But why not. "If you really love me. It paralyzes the victim. Initially. when he discovered that he was an incorrigible liar. I am asking for both of us. psychologically and financially. perhaps best finish all at once now! The discussion was dragged for weeks. Sometimes it is necessary to use someone who is outside the sphere of emotional blackmail." he said. When contacting Charlene. The attacks of them were obvious. initiating a vicious cycle that becomes increasingly difficult to hold. But one that tried did not get its support. "We are talking about spending the rest of our lives together. I had enough credit. do this simple thing for me. the house was leaving her husband and. the woman left the university. When your heart becomes a life sentence When you are first subject to threats of emotional blackmail. "She was playing the abusive behavior of their abusers ment of another way. In the limit. Charlene said bluntly that she was using the emotional blackmail to make the family suffer as she had suffered. as I said. that's the least I can wait" as a weapon to finally oblige it to accept. And if the husband had stayed at home that night? And if the children had not left? Perhaps the rape had not happened. After being raped. You can request the support of a friend of women's confidence or call a good adviser.went by the same trauma. the blackmailer can ruin the victim emotionally. an incompetent who could not stop two weeks in the same job. 'psychologist or psychotherapist. A well known to our family by the groom was troubled to \ join him in a business transaction. It is very likely that this woman had no awareness of emotional blackmail to be doing with your famI1ia. as the blows that she applied to his family were much more deadly. she resisted. though not visible to the naked eye.

Parents also can inflict lasting scars on their children. So if after reading these stories you recognized the role of victim and cry so that she knows the reason. now she suspects of every man that approaches. but was long ago. Yielding to emotional blackmail.are authentic and often subtle emotional blackmail . she ended up drowned in debt.Why give the blackmailer. the child will feel forever prisoner and felt with his parents. Everyone has heard of women who. but firmly resolved to fill them with guilt when they were thinking about leaving them to build their own lives. abandoned the happiness of parents to care for elderly and debilitated. But it is never too late to change the situation. And what is more sad. Anyone who has ever been in the role of victim may be imprisoned the rest of your life and see all the missed chances to find happiness. the emotional blackmail tends to vary. service by service. love and joy of living a life without guilt. The threat of losing the love of women is easy prey to blackmail. .that they follow certain careers. How many parents pushing their children . by sense of duty. still paying. with no regard for specific talent or the desire of the child. As the groom. The emotional blackmail. is always per-versa. With the children. wherever it occurs.

. It is as if not existíssemos. but the place inexorably. not understanding what happened. the clothes and jewelry you USA.. lived in a lovely house.. in general do not discuss the last details of the contribution of each of the relationship. the excellent school for children . to take care of me and that part of family life that I need without being charged.. their relationship was problematic. And all you do is work..Chapter 4 THE ULTRA-SECRET SYSTEM THE WOMEN OF SCORE How to ruin a man of the week For the rest of the world. but so that people can live well and have everything you want. Here's what they said to the therapist: Kelly: "Mark is hooked on work. One night when the issue arose of legal separation. Mark agreed. you know I love you . The men see only the general framework Men prefer to be watching the "framework" of . is not Mark? And I think I will never understand. I do everything for you. " Mark (surprised): "I can not believe what I hear. and Mark Kelly led a perfect life. all this I offer to you and them! Yes. organize your life and take care of our family . or that fits the stereotypes of marriage that everyone knows. What do you mean with 'I do not take care of you or the children? See our wonderful house. most at least.. Wash. Forget about me and the children and never do anything for us. When a man and a woman decide to live together.." Most men absolutely do not realize that women maintain a system for scoring the performance of its general partner. I am tired of being mother and father to our children.. While love. The number of points that man accumulates with his partner directly affects the quality of your life. I need a man I want. desperate and afflicted with constant fights.. When was the last time you emptied the machine to wash dishes for me? Do you know a place to wash dishes? Tell me when was the last time you took me out to dinner. were confused. Es-Kelly was happy to go to a therapist. Kelly always seemed boring and Mark was perplexed. Women are not aware of this process. I work hard. not know the existence of that system and may be disapproved without ever coming to understand that it is wrong. Kelly . The problem was that Mark. Tell me when was the last time you said you loved me . step. their three children were happy and well adjusted. was not the slightest idea that Kelly wore a special female scores to rate their marriage... like most men. but in their hearts they thought things should resolve themselves. and every year spend holidays abroad. I drain the family to work for the week full and you are never satisfied.. Mark had a very good job. We work.. " Kelly (angry): "You can not even understand. you still complaining . Both calculate that the other will continue giving what is already giving that behave the same way as their parents. however.. The men. work and work. both agreed to consult a therapist for couples. and we were at the end of their list of priorities. cook. Between four walls. " Mark (shocked): "Kelly .

would find that the more important the larger the share or more points this should be allocated. Then the man she accuses of not doing anything. then won six points. that your partner will thank and support them retribuirão. When he thought that the score was 3 to 1. gets a point collects his laundry or says he loves the woman. is structured to fine tune. They are still doing things for the man because they believe in the end. If a man keep a score. for example. The female brain. the man is not knowing when the relationship is tie the score. but the point of view it is only five . Regularly present shows with a single rose that is always in the forefront in his mind. The woman gives a point for this action or. He was not the slightest idea of the existence of a problem because it also maintained a system. If he gives you a bouquet of six roses. you will certainly score more. men always thought it is paper size. A single rose is clearly intended for her. secretly. If the man also had a point system. . the points are allocated by the number of shares held. man can not have the custom to give his partner often. it just something great. allocate points according to the size of the action or the present. and he is surprised and upset with their accusations. As most women know. in turn. if the man paints the house. had complained of being too giving and require that the score was tied. Women keep lasting memories that accumulate points for years. They simply do what they do and never think to maintain a system of scoring. The woman keeps the score and never forget. it would reach this point. it gives you a point. why women take a variety of small decisions about the intricate aspects of a relationship practice. While unconscious. In other words. but when it does. If he buys her a new car or a diamond ring of your dreams. But 95% of all points awarded in a relationship are the things that happen or stop happening every day. Similarly. And suppose. But if he buys a rose every week for six weeks. regardless of size. the woman gives points to every thing we do in the partner relationship. also wins a point. For him.one for each day of work. It really is that women feel and think. men are not the slightest idea that women attribute points in the relationship. This difference is the cause of many misunderstandings between men and women. quality or the result of a single action.life together and giving a small number of large contributions from that tangle with a number of contributions that appear less and less important. not by size. no matter the size. For example. A woman can let it get to 30 to 1 before starting to complain. If a man buys a rose for your partner. the score-draw will do. she continues giving only one point. In general. while a dozen roses can be interpreted as decoration for the house. working five days a week is worth at least thirty points.

despite having . "You go to the sink and I am dropping puns on the couch. and he was proud of what he has done. because the brain spatially oriented. We present below a summary of the partial results after thirty days. Both are described as a happy couple. and call again when you arrive.To the woman that matters is not size. or that the activities had generated. when Brian praised by Lorraine she prepared a dinner some night. she gave him three points. Not that I have forgotten. but only gave him a Lorraine. thought it would at least ten points . She tends to put more points for small tasks. One point was assigned for each of the small-contribution and a maximum of thirty points for a major contribution to the relationship." without realizing that this small action to surrender points. which required skill. Brian ignored the fact that small things mean a lot to women. mark at least three points. He thought he was earning extra money for a better life and that she admired for that. which for Lorraine earned only one point. We then ask that they meet every day. for thirty days. When bought flowers. Brian won important points by small actions such as "give me his coat because I was cold. He asked. took the house and cared for their two children. men give more points than women to work physically and spatially linked. Like most men. They had also to record points lost by irritating things that your partner do. normal. Working late worth five points per night in his opinion. Our experience with Brian Brian and Lorraine was a financial operator who worked long hours visiting client's building and your business. His wife. During this period could not discuss among themselves or how or when the points were allocated. In fact." Why not try to change position tonight? ". You may notice that none of them reported many negative points. For example. For example. but he was not aware that there were some marked. We suspect that this is due to two reasons: couples who live together have a tendency to ignore the negative points or relieve the other. personal and intimate than the big tasks. is the frequency. Brian was five points by helping the child to assemble an aircraft." Brian thought that the more work in the office. This list indicates several things: first. he is not remembered for having done the praise and not to put it in your list. this was a difficult task. is that it never happened that the head of the woman praising the food could render points. If he had called to say that I loved her and miss her. He just thought it was "taking care of it. For him. and therefore lost points.a third of your score staff to work five days a week . but working overtime in fact meant he had less time to stay at home doing small things. chocolates and champagne for her.because they cost dearly. The woman usually gives to man a single point for each task home run. but she only gave him four points. She said. she thought he care more for work than for her. Lorraine. "Good idea!". a car-so score of the contributions that have believed in that relationship and estimate the score that thought should receive the other. and when doing a test like this tend to have good behavior. the more points scored. In see-ment. for it was only a joke.

that experience was a chance to open eyes. to make more money and give more comfort to the family. for the simple reason that she never said anything about it. " Complaints of Brian concerned things that Lorraine did or failed to do for him. Lorraine stayed at home feeling aggrieved and resentful. cooking and making beds all worth one point each by the time she performed. What started almost as a diversion to see how men and women attach points revealed a potentially disastrous situation. Lorraine won three points for massage the back of Brian one night. he began working late. Brian never becomes a routine of Lorraine. wash the laundry. giving the majority of them a low score. go to the bank. send birthday cards. but Brian has a weekly average of only 48 points.often heard his mother and his grandmother say that. and twenty times in the two points that took the initiative in sex. . The monthly score of Lorraine The list of personal activities of Lorraine was four times longer than Brian. Aspirate the carpet. At the end of the experience. These lists also show that when the man and woman having sex or not. To Brian and Lorraine. "I'm not morose. for being at work all the time. take care of dogs. Brian had given a weekly average of 62 points given to Lorraine and an average score of 60 points. shopping. while Lorraine is re-hurt the performance of Brian in public. He felt happy with the fact that scores of the relationship is very balanced. thinking he was doing what she wanted him to do. He acted as if everything was perfect in the relationship and was not the slightest idea of how Lorraine felt. Therefore. pay bills. so that gave him an overall score for their efforts . and Brian was working late. watering the plants. She described every detail their activities. pa-ra them and discipline them worth one point each. to bath the children. Repetitive activities such as collecting the dirty clothes and wet towels on the floor. but thought perhaps the stress of the many things she had to do. The reactions of Brian and Lorraine The weekly score of 30 points less to Brian explained that ants within a resentment of Lorraine from the previous year. but I get reminded all the time. Lorraine was granted an average of 78 points.thirty points. giving the same to you to work fifty hours a week. reading. Brian was devastated with the result. a year before. Lorraine He felt a little distant from the birth of last child. the resentment generated is the same on both sides. plan family events. but he never does what it has to do.

If you think that is against. It should also encourage the man to take small gestures like that. put things in place to help in the kitchen and use halitol account both. That does not mean that man should work less. support or advice. the partnership is intended to be a source of joy. do they think there is no problem and that the relationship is going well: The men have a short memory. and reward him for that. If you do not ask. Only the guys that are different for us to distinguish one from another. We offer the test as a tool to encourage dialogue. give unsolicited advice is to say that the other person is incompetent. praise him the look. the man has to ask what she wants him to do. That is how things work in the male world . Along with his partner. and record scores for ten days all contributions to the relationship. you can use the test as a guide that brings you the happiness .it better. Giving flowers. From a man.The solution for the woman The woman must accept that the male brain is programmed to take care of the general framework and that the man believes that mark more points doing big things. But if he is aware of the importance that your partner gives small things and try to do them. The solution for men The woman not only to the point. She is able to refuse to have sex now because you yelled at her two months before. but forget also the positive things you did for them. if each one is available to hear the honesty of the other reasons. is unlikely to say. All men are equal. Marilyn Monroe Men are not programmed to offer help. They forget the good things that you did the previous week. happiness. sometimes more. to meet you and understand . as the salary to bring home or paint the room. If the woman you think the score is for the partner. unless someone specifically the piece. Women always remember. If the communication between partners is always the intention to adjust the relationship and ensure mutual harmony . So she will not be resentful if the score is tie for him.rather than a pure exchange of accusations.people expect you to play. it accumulates during the long periods and never forget. their quality of life will have a better extra-ordinary. just as did Brian and Lorraine. After evaluating the results. Remember that a woman gives a point for each activity that executes man and a score more by small things that involve emotional support. If this happens. becomes distant and angry and the couple's love life begins to wither. Take the test now The most effective solution is to maintain a permanent communication as sincere as possible.

The partner with the score needs to balance the negative contribution. Brian's answer was "Huh? Score? What is this?". financial situation better or worse . in which none of them feel resentful or used.a new child. The scoring system used by the opposite sex is not better nor worse than his. Like most men. A difference of 15-30% shows disagreements sufficient to cause ten-sion. . is just different. Women understand that.you want. Above all. Abstract It is understood as the measures the other things. and show the things that give you more pleasure. A difference in score of less than 15% shows a very balanced relationship. Lorraine immediately understood what we wanted. he even knew that women had a score. purchasing a home. doing things that (a) partner (a) assesses to equal the score and reduce the tension. When asked to Brian and Lorraine as part of the experience.the score can vary and things are irrelevant in a specific context to acquire another value. but most men know not. and more than 30% means that someone feels unhappy in the relationship. Make the test scores from time to time to ensure that the scoring is balanced. When there is a change of situation . to bring up what he values. use the test to keep the dialogue essential to any relationship that want to grow up happy.

no. Why men never know anything about the life of your friends? Julian Ralph did not see a year ago. and decided to spend the day there playing golf together. the last trip abroad that he had to close a deal. but knew virtually nothing about the esposes.Chapter 5 CLARIFICATION THE SEVEN MAJOR MEN OF MYSTERY After the success of Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love ".. his wife Hannah was eager to learn how it was: Hannah: "So how was your day?" Julian: "It was good. Why do men avoid commitment? 3." Hannah: "He did not say? You mean not asked?" Julian: "Well. remember the problem in the bunker.. Here are the seven most frequently asked questions: 1. the children and family of Ralph. The truth is that men are not illogical. They just work differently for women.. Why men can only do one thing at a time? 6. Why are men so by sports fanatics? 7..." Hannah: "And how is his wife after a week in hospital?" Julian: "I do not know . received numerous letters and emails from women that I asked more about the differences between the sexes.he said. But I did not . About what men talk in the bathroom? The problem of women is that they try to analyze the behavior of men from a female and are quite disconcerted. the hole-in-one that he almost succeeds... Was aware of the struggle of Ralph with the camera site because of its real estate projects. Why do men feel the need to always be with right? 4. he did not say anything ." Hannah: "How is Ralph?" Julian: "Fine. Julian knew how many strokes each had.. When Julian came home at night." Hannah: "So . Why both men are interested in "toys for boys"? 5. Why men never know anything about the life of your friends? 2.. and knew the make and year of car that Ralph was thinking of buying. as they often think.." Hannah: "His mother is still doing chemotherapy?" Julian . for sure he would have told me. but if there was a problem. how will his newly married daughter?" Julian: "Well . not sure . " And so it was.

. but. Men can spend hours together. When a man is not talking with friends and it does not mean that they fought. or that his wife was elected Citizen of the Year by the local community. say.To find women . Speak one at a time because their brains are organized to or speak or hear.know anything more about the girl child who lived in Bangkok. The men did not expect that men talk much and never insist on talking.. The male brain is fully dedicated to the "end-mind". the only circumstance in which a man talks to another about personal matters is when you have a problem that can not .To drink alcohol . not to mention much. however. is because he is watching the fire.9. He had. playing golf. women are invariably surprised by the fact he go home without knowing anything about the personal life of anyone.5%.85%.. Solution The man does not understand why the woman wants to know every detail of the lives of their friends and acquaintances. . cars and women. fishing. or that of his brother Ralph had a diagnosis of Parkinson's disease. Rarely talk about people and their emotions. Unlike women. Nobody says: "Tell me co me was the day .5%. people talk about work. It is not lack of interest in friends. The man knows all the jokes that his friend told him. a brand new repertoire of great jokes. . solutions or answers to questions or to share information about things and processes. How they were?" When you talk..5. This is because a drink with friends is just another way to look at the fire. When the man comes out for drinks with friends after work. sports.To relieve the stress . When talk is about facts . No need to talk if there is no will. Imagine that the friends he wanted to know something. Who was that you found . but does not know that he separated the women. A study by the University of Leeds investigated the reasons why men go to the bars after work: Why men go for a drink? . playing cards or watching football. the other to understand intuitively and leave quietly. and generally does not bind on feelings and emotions. they can not do both at the same time. When a man is watching the fire with a drink in hand. as I said. Men relieve stress releasing the brain to think of something else.the results.

Approached it and presented it to Mary.and months that he was not the route. female: I want to marry and form a family. and Geoff realized that she did not like Mary. Sally called for Jodie and thanked for having made them. Then. For Sally. Geoff also called for Jodie to say the same as Sally. relationships or the whereabouts of family members or people in your social circle. The two had a great night and exchanged phone numbers and is combined again. The next day. career. . but Geoff was not the slightest idea that they had a special connection because it had never been spoken. He realized that there was something wrong but had no idea of what could be. The story of Jodie Jodie was shocked by Geoff not have asked for Sally: party but a "piranha faladeira" called Mary. rather than be given by Sally gossip. do not expect that men give the answers. whom everyone liked. male: not crush other women when in the street with his wife or girlfriend Case Study: Geoff and Sally Jodie thought Geoff and Sally would make a beautiful couple and arranged a meeting for them to meet. Despite never having talked about a unique relationship. Men do not understand the concept of relationship the same way as women. Why do men avoid commitment? Commitment: verb. Mary was the lifeblood of any meeting . Jodie seemed a little cold. she was not seeing anyone else. so she invited him to go to the beach and then dinner. verb. Jodie called immediately and told Sally to what Geoff said. thought. The story of Geoff A month had happened. because Mary was a fun person. That is how things work in the male brain. Sally is cut into tears because he thought that she and Geoff were going very well. They are very fun at the party when he saw Jodie Geoff. The following week. .a really fun person . she should immediately tell.resolve. But left the matter there. Ask women. Geoff called and asked for that he would see her that same night. as a last resort. he asked council to a friend. That left him confused. So if you want information about health. As was expected. Then. Geoff accepted with joy. Then Geoff decided to invite Mary to the birthday party of his best friend. saying he had really liked Geoff and I know him better. They left in the three weeks following the end of the film and were one or two times every week. When Geoff hung. it was the signal for Sally that it would start a relationship with Geoff. the time spent together indicated that they now had a connection. That night.

Was reasonable.. made sense that a male had ten or twenty females. it was decided that Sally. From the survival of the species. but is visibly emotional and passionate when your team plays. but they are rarely willing to invest the same amount of emotional energy in a relationship with them. saw that she had been crying and I was bored with it. including humans. Therefore not argues that unfaithful men claim that they could not avoid. since it could only birth to a child at a time. The brain of most species. How can he be so stubbornly loyal and devoted to a bunch of players flustered and not necessarily bright. Wanted their freedom. Sally wanted a compromise with Geoff. Women often admire that men may have an almost religious feeling with a soccer team. well. Geoff felt she should be in the TPM and the weekend that the crisis had passed.. ". but had no sense that a female had ten or twenty males. that the survivors adopt the widows in their haréns. he does not know which are not there with him and not show or a tenth of that devotion to her? During almost the entire time of existence of the human race. But Geoff was not ready to take it. So they decided to remain friends but that would not further to bed . it is something that is programmed into his psyche. They had choice. But when Sally opened the door. But we differ from other species in the sense that our brains evolved and developed large frontal lobes that enable us to make decisions about what we want and we do not want to do. therefore.. the males are polygamous for the sake of survival. "How could you do this to me?" She whimper.Cards on the table Geoff was eager to review Sally. This is why men delay to the maximum 'commitment to take the woman and are so difficult to maintain a monogamous relationship. seek a hospice. not only with him. Was speechless. maintaining a commitment at least until your child is self-sufficient. There was little to offer because many men died in hunting and war. and then in front of our friends How long are you going with it? You like it? Sleep with her? Me responds!" Geoff was not believed in listening. If you want a faithful man. especially when it lost.think Sally went with other guys. are monogamous. fox and geese. Mae West The woman believes that she is "out" with a man for some time and none of them are . For women. is not programmed for monogamy. The man is able to hide their emotions and feelings of the woman he loves. Only 3% of animal species. He spent the following three hours trying to explain the problem with Sally. He had never previously aware that they were only a couple . wishing that she had prepared his favorite dish. which also increased the chance they could pass their genes.. It was the first time spoke about his feelings realized they were going in completely different directions. for example.

if you want love. To be frank it is a sign of respect. because now it is who controls the handcuffs. When Sally has complained about "What were you thinking?". he wants everything. Solution The idea of establishing an ongoing relationship potentially never passed by the head of Geoff. But for most men. men have evolved hunting animals and making war on enemies. it grabs you by the balls. In short. The man tends to be direct and make a woman know whether or not a special and unique relationship.otherwise. not have to be accountable for their actions or justify their behavior. he speaks of freedom to come and go as you want. because there is a special connection. however. and how many women want to have. not to speak when not to. you must give something in return. she needs to say clearly that the man of her point of view. "When you undertake. do not want to give up anything. You can also say how good sex and agree close. A woman should ask what your partner feels it and wants you to go to the relationship. now they are dating. There are several ways to do this. and not trying to understand them or being sensitive to their emotional needs. The answer would be: he was not thinking anything. they now have a special relationship. sex and someone to take care of you. it is difficult to know what specifically is he talking about freedoms. like Geoff. What most men think It is a universal custom among the men playing friends saying that the marriage or the permanent relationship with a woman one of them is a clear sign that the life of the unfortunate end. he wants love. If you have difficulty to speak directly. as happened with Geoff. What women want in return is love. She must learn to be honest and direct. Having a relationship is to take driver's license. Remember. exercising its right to clarify the situation for two and choosing the type of relationship you want to establish . is that most of them is not very sensitive to the state of mind of women. it can play. Never assume therefore that you are having a special relationship before discussing it with someone else. instead of just waiting timidly to the man understand the situation. now they are dating. The only way to live life in complete freedom is alone in a desert island. At the same time. Pressed to explain." In general. where there are no rules. Not only is it men do not know read my mind. Repeat: men can not read minds. If you want to go. When a woman suspects this. attention and much sex. men avoid it because they think that compromise the woman will steal them the freedom and they will end up weak and powerless. will always be a pedestrian.with other people. And respect is what the woman must have by itself. When the man says that commitment means losing freedom. friendship. dedication and loyalty. must learn and respect the rules of the road . Otherwise. A relationship is nothing more than a negotiation with rules . They have not the slightest intention of stealing the freedom of man. the more likely it is that the plug does not fall. saying for example that is happy to prepare a dinner for him. this is a strange concept." they laugh. "You can say goodbye to 90% of your sex life!" And also the warning in general welcome the singles: "You have to ask permission even to sneeze.

As we have seen. is what happens when a woman wants to ask the way. because animals are loyal. as if she were weakening or denouncing their incompetence. Spider-Man. when it appeared. we need to examine their education. and very rarely a woman. the more likely it is that he is offended. when a woman asks the man is saying or doing. Married me with Mr. rather. of course. Like most male stereotypes of books and movies. is conditioned to think that not being able to do something or solve a problem means to be a failure as a man. Not only knew his first name was Always. Jackie announced that Dan had made contact with a financial adviser to have an accurate assessment of their household finances. When the child reaches adulthood. not cry and be good at everything they do. Their eyes. leaving the relationship under huge stress. Case study: Jackie and Dan Jackie wanted to stop working and have a son. Zorro. James Bond. You imagine that she is trying to say that it is not so good way. He might not hesitate to give her a book of recipes for a birthday present. If different from his. Jackie wanted to help Dan. reducing the pressure on him. The heroin is usually a Barbie with anatomically impossible breasts. she thought he was not able to do their own accounts. but if the woman gives him a book of this self-help. usually a man less and less important. Boys have to be tough. to resolve what is best for her. the heroes of boys rarely make a mistake and never show weakness or emotion. they separated. These super-heroes as partners seem to prefer a dog or a horse. amounts to a humiliating admission that he is wrong. was an assistant who had more problems than anything else. One day. Why do men feel the need to always be the reason? To understand this characteristic of modern man. reliable. The man finds hard to say "Sorry" or "sorry" because it is wrong to admit. Dan thought. Batman. Go to a seminar on relationships. To seek a financial adviser.with your partner. are always behind solutions. Dan could not believe what was hearing: Jackie wanted someone else to solve their problems! Obviously. he reacts defensively.three months later. I hoped he was happy that it is taking responsibility to look for someone who could work with him. Dan saw the thing in a way completely different. That is why. rarely fail to fulfill its task. Some of them had a partner. This subject has been a source of major disagreements between the two. And. but Dan felt that they were not financially prepared. The differences grew . make it clear that she thought he was wrong about the household finances and seek counsel to prove he was . or call a technician to fix the tap. and men usually are defensive or aggressive before the mere suggestion. In-a-Ledger. or a therapist. His models are: SuperMan. The comics also depict the macho tough guy as a person endowed with huge muscles and possessor of a voice rough and deep (much testosterone). never meet them or say they are wrong. all male loners who never complained of problems but.

dear. only to see and hear the movement of the gears. you can be sure that insulted the manhood of man. Solution Since the man in general have these characteristics. Instead of saying what he did wrong.incompetent or insufficiently reliable. When the visiting friends. but the signs of these streets are very confusing. should make clear what she is feeling. the man thinks that women's council to hear tantamount to hear what is wrong and does not deserve her trust. When the man hit the woman should welcome it. And is so offended that she begins to think that perhaps it is really kind of controller. If he is angry with the neighbor's dog barking at night. He complains of being all the time trying to control it. but all that did was put staples into sheets of paper . it would be good to say: "Honey. Any woman that does not visit a minimum for the stapler. giving the impression that considers incapable. It seemed something of a space shuttle exit. She can say "You're doing fine. you are the best ways to discover! You do not trust me? The most common phrase of men whose actions are challenged by the women is: "You do not trust me?" When you hear that phrase. When he arrives at the destination.Like any other staples. the answer it is the same: "I was just trying to help!" She thinks is showing love and concern for him. " In other words. he protested: "Do not trust me?" In all these situations. the woman is the problem for you. Had a transparent plastic box. which left see all the gears and discs moving inside. he responds: "You think I am not able to deal with this problem right ? If you are a party and she warns. Why both men are interested in "toys for boys"? When our friend Gerry made birthday. the size of a miniature television. He led three batteries that need to be replaced throughout the week. and all laugh of contentment. But Gerry was crazy with joy with the aparelhinho and said that sometimes when you wake in the morning and through the stapler on the table. the woman should avoid driving to it in a way that it felt wrong. the stapler is round. but he sees trying to say what is wrong and is unable to solve things yourself. can not resist putting in four or five clips on a sheet of paper. instead of blame him. I feel better if we stop to ask someone here what is the right entry. says it will complain and she asks you not to do it. afraid to fight there. For example. saying not to drink too much. instead of saying "You never know the way and we always come back!". . we'll have to present a paper stapler moved the battery.

On Saturday afternoon (after the game). as they are indecipherable. Fofinho was so that I could not resist. drive cars. motor boats. Due to the propensity of the brain space men. computer spreadsheets. engines or movable components that make sounds.. But it is the male equivalent of the tendency that women have to pay exorbitant prices for imported teddy bear. Female Male Call a fireman without first consulting the man of the house can be interpreted as a serious insult. they do not just fix the broken things. This includes all kinds of video and computer program. If the washing machines come with remote control. it is likely that men are interested in to wash the clothes. At home. as the concentration of the average man has a range of nine minutes. space and anything that has the remote control. cars with panels complicated. aircraft. Projects Do-You-Even The whole bunch of products Make-You-Even faces towards the space area of the brain male. Areas of the brain used to play football. Men love the challenge to build models of sailing vessels. and thus meet its space needs. back up and operate mechanical.. The hardware store has closed and he could not open the . It is about 45 minutes walk by the store. The following images show the areas of the brain . but get angry when you call someone suggested to complete the work. Men are the agents of cars and stores equipment and products Make-You-Even where they can find things to do. rifles with telescopic sights night. the men's space needs can be frustrating for women because. but most do not know where you are carrapeta old. mechanical. examining all the toys that might have space. electric trains. have lights blinking and the battery is moved. In general.They all admired to see the excitement of men with a aparelhinho so expensive that only runs a task beyond the trivial. try a drill pressure and finally find what appears to be a carrapeta of appropriate size. The space industry of the brain that is used to estimate speeds. Boys are boys from the shops." It is easy to explain why the sexes react so differently to these things. Then go home and find that size is not one. 2001.which are active when a person from USA spatial skills. they leave unfinished projects around the house whole. build or do work. shelves and anything that has a set of instructions.the parts dark .is the brains of the hunter. Find out what appears to be a carrapeta spends and goes to the hardware store. men and boys are fanatics for anything that has buttons. angles and distances . the man who refused the help of a firefighter to repair the defective vessel closes the record and dismantle the facility. Institute of Psychiatry in London. portable GPS devices. tests one or two mechanical Sanders. nuclear. just because ".

each with at least one primary function operates independently of the rest. The only difference that exists between men and boys is the price of their toys. She explains that men lower when the radio or read a map when they march to the defendant in the car. Most women do not understand why men seem able to do only one thing at a time. he raised the hood and will take a look. is on average 10% thinner than the female and carries about 30% fewer connections between the two hemispheres.registration until the issue is resolved. If you are working with a sharp tool and the phone rings. though not the slightest idea what you are looking for. ask your opinion and give it a run. Thus. The cable that connects the right and left hemispheres of your brain. . if he is just calling a fireman. Ninety-six. builder. Seeing the images of the brain of a man who reads. If he is in clover road and someone directed him to speak. because in most cases. technician or any computer in space qualified man before consulting his own man. the corpus callosum. nobody will ever be able to bathe or use the private sector.the excellent performance of that natural ability. Today most new companies are founded by women. it should tell you what it considers necessary. Instead. it is as if he had salinhas throughout the brain. If a woman can read while listening or talking. Understand that mentality "one-thing-in-every-time" is one of the most important things a woman can learn about the men. There is a lesson here: always give the man a toy of this spatially related. you will discover that he is almost deaf. This concentrated focus allows men to become great experts. The response of readers to this issue was so overwhelming that we will summarize it here it again later. Remember: never talk to the man when he is doing a beard. will find that solved the problem myself. even during the commercials. Their hope is that it is a problem to be absolutely clear.are recorded by men. you run the risk of injury. Never give you flowers and nice cards. probably miss the exit. but 99% of all patents . these things mean much less to him Why men can only do one thing at a time? In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? Presents a thorough study on why the male brain is so singularly focused: what it described as "single track". A woman should never call a fireman. In simple terms. financial consultant. portamo.of "toys for boys" . If the car makes a strange noise. why can not the man? Why he always turns off the television when the phone rings? Women around the world complain in unison: "Because he can not hear what I'm saying while reading the newspaper or watching television?" The reason is that the human brain is compartmentalised and specialized. That is what gives the approach "one-thing-of-every-time" to everything he does in life. percent of the technical experts of the world are men . unless you hurt him! And do not try to resolve any issue while he attends the TV.

The woman's brain is configured to perform multiple tasks. In business. As we have seen. But if a man is following a recipe to prepare a dish and you want to chat with him. As adults. As a devoted fan of your soccer team. discuss an issue at a time and adhere to it until all these men are satisfied with the solution.The man has two times more likely than women to engage in a car accident while talking on a cell phone. Between 1800 and 1900 were invented almost all modern sports with ball. You can turn auto-mobile. The brain images show that the woman's brain never shuts off. After that England won the World Cup of 1966 against Germany. never ask questions to the man during sex. The men are so excited when they watch football because they feel as if they were playing the game. men caught in groups while women receive food and care of children. . Why are men so by sports fanatics? For thousands of years. In reality. the angles and directions of the ball. They verbally insult the referee (although the referee can not listen to the l) when disagree with a mark: "You think this is missing? Your asshole You need glasses!" Can remember the scores. the goals they most marked and tactical errors they committed. and they urram of pleasure when the striker is the goal. fantasy that he is giving himself to the mark and kicks goals. you better go outside dining. even while it is active sleep. therefore. The girls use dolls as a practice of caring for children and the boys kicked and pursue balls as practice for hunting. And most important. crawling and using their spatial skills to get food. makeup and to listen to radio as a live-voice speech. there was one man in the country who do not know the color of escalation of the team. the modern replacement of the activities of hunting. The men ran. but men still kicking balls. The sports to which man is part of a group of hunters. is always given to man to do one thing at a time. This is the main reason why 96% of personal assistants of the world are women. She is able to talk on the phone. His brain calculates the speed.even the men hunt and women also care for children. following a new recipe and watching television at the same time. It is as if the woman was in some way genetically apparently with the octopus. and then pass to the next question. Seeing their heroes in the field. most women can do many things not related to each other at the same time. recalled with vivid detail goals in marked departures held for many years and almost come to tears when discussing what the player should have done and the result which should have had the game. nothing much has changed in thousands and thousands of years . chasing. The best strategy. if you want a good result free of stress. man may again be a member of a band of hunters. 'f women swap their dolls for children.

and . First. The second option is to use his obsession for sports as a positive opportunity to be with their friends. Learn what it can about the interest and become understood. conversely. those who consider their work exciting and rewarding are less interested. come to bend and give the impression of feeling the pain of fighter hit by a low blow. changes in motion and stationary are in motion to reverse the sky of every man. The place where they are compared with others which have been. Add to it or use the time to do something positive for yourself. get involved. It is also why men prefer to buy a new set of golf clubs than a dining table is very necessary. This explains why men engaged in activities which are repetitive or just those who give more importance to sports. If you still do not find interesting but want to follow it is always possible to find other women in the same situation and make new friends.This is a formidable skill. neighbors and the door or the date on which commemorates the Mother's Day.their primary brain skills started to be largely superfluous and the women are attacking from all sides. it does not happen in your work. nephews. They are so obsessive with the steering wheel. Solution If your partner is a sports maniac or a hobby. "My wife told me that if I drop the obsession with my soccer team. When watching the struggles of boxing. Men may be taken by intense emotion when watching sports. and he feels victorious when your team wins. shop or start your own hobby. I will miss her a lot. " The world has now become a confusing place for men . you have two options. About what men talk in the bathroom? We answer the first question male universal: "What women talk together when they go to a public bathroom?" The answer is: about everything and about everyone. too. who they like and dislike. which rarely occurs in their affective relationship. Sport is an activity in which man can feel again a member of a group: there no one criticizes or tries to modify it. The men no longer have any clear model to follow and clear specifications of what is expected of them. Do not fight the sport or hobby of your man. discuss the clothes they are wearing and the other. she leaves. which can spend hours on end in front of the TV watching other men guide car race. angles. Speeds. who are friendly and attractive men. with family. moves. Go with him to an event and you will be surprised to see the amount of other "widows of the sport" that also attend and enjoy the social aspects. Drive car is almost entirely a spatial ability. but they still do not know the names of his nieces.

how are you?" Like any man. and two women is not uncommon-they share the same cubicle in order to continue the conversation." . Let us return now to the original question: what men talk in public restrooms? The answer is: nothing. discuss techniques and different types of makeup products. with two vessels in each of health. said:' The same as you . cosmetics divided up among themselves and even with strangers. while women prefer large vain to talk and move objects from one booth to another. Are rarely hear a fart in a female bathroom. What comes then choose which is further away from the first man.. and when it happens. traveling to the North! " Oh I heard the guy say. ever under any circumstances..'.. I went to the second. In cabins...any personal problem that they or friends are living. In the men's room if no one bothers with it. looking at the front. put a stop to go to the bathroom. and when urinate. The fourth man generally feels better to use the booth to be standing next to a stranger who can look at it. Never. what are you doing? " I thought: 'How strange .. If there is a row of five urinals. and still do not know what got into me when I decided to respond with a constrained 'All right! " The other guy said. A nightclub in Birmingham. They do not talk. Men never talk to strangers in public restrooms. men prefer walls of floor to the ceiling to limit the interaction with neighbors. As the first booth was busy. to more important and profound conversations. and never talk to strangers. I never talk to strange men in bathrooms of post road. came to install booths in the bathroom wider female. Never. the culprit is hiding in the cabin to check out. Men urinate in silence. The motto of the men is: "Better death than a visual contact. Here is a letter from one of our readers shows the reason that men of silence that reigns in the bathroom of men: "During a trip. Even among close friends... Never. I have to call you later. Scarcely had I sat when I heard a voice coming from the booth next to saying. and God help the man that the plague! Women sit in the pot and talk with other women through the wall. but. to get away from those who arrive. While retouch. nervous. Absolutely nothing. 'So .. and chooses the next which is midway between the two. the first in choose in the bathroom farthest from the door. Do not talk to other men when they are sitting in the pot. like an idiot. 'Listen . your eyes will never cross. 'Hey. England. the conversation is minimal. Any woman who seems distressed receive group therapy .. asking the odd passing toilet paper under the door. Bathrooms are a network of women in waiting rooms and counseling centers where you can meet new people and interesting. because it has an idiot in the booth next to answer my questions! " Men also have a territorial ritual to choose the urinal.

do not run blood! Let him to marry the daughter of another woman. But almost no jokes with in-laws . The first woman agreed. "Today I received an email warning that my parents had died and asking if I would have to bury. "Yes. And if the man makes a woman happy. The parents of a man can claim him. a founder of modern Russia." said Solomon.Chapter 6 THE OTHER WOMAN His mother Two women were presented before the r ~ i Solomon dragging a young man proposed marriage to her two daughters. An old Polish proverb says: "The path to the heart of the parents is the child. or simple megeras nosy. Problems with parents not dominate the lives of men. the mother of the man is the real danger." warned the king's advisers. I answered: "Sure . It is worth recalling that Lenin." "But she wanted to see it cut in two. it is unlikely that parents cause problems. and are always characterized witches co-mo." Most men know that. taking the blame for more than a third of the separations.they are not cause for laughter. even irritating. but most men do not come to disappoint them. is to see her daughter happy. irritated him." The wise king did not hesitate: "The man must marry the daughter of first wife." The dragon enter the scene Probably the mother-in-law jokes inspire more than any other category of the planet.provide all three. Our research found. What most of the mothers of the wives want more than that any thing. but the second said: "No. it is usually the mother of women the major cause of problems. many times. said: "Staying with the two parents. But if on the one hand the parents is a problem in the marriage of many people. De-because of the stories they hear. the most likely cause is the refusal of the father in giving of their precious "princesinha. ." What is the difference between a mother-in-law and a vulture? The vulture waiting for you dying to devour your liver. when asked what should be the maximum penalty for bigamy. cremate or embalm." Difficult in-laws are not a problem for most men. the king decided that the couple was cut in half so that each stay with their part. "this shows that it is the real parents. And when the man has problems with in-law.

His mother . rather than just one. Actually. affectionate. Case study: Anita and Tom They had been married only six months when cracks began to appear in your happiness. anguish and. for many parents Norasia a nosy. The mother asked why he brought three. a brunette and a redhead. cook. neutral. that same night to his mother to know. which shows that about 50% of parents are seen as the creators of the case also shows. You think the woman has to wash. the mother replied: "It's a redhead. not all parents deserve the reputation of evil. ultimately. let's talk about your mother. Can cause unhappiness. The crisis involving the parents of women often seem impossible to manage and insoluble. After living six months with you. you can be absolutely disastrous. she mimou you. you have no respect for women." "How did you guess so quickly?": He asked. Your . clean and working all the time. Anita. move. He left his clothes and playing space-lhadas the towels on the floor.a blonde. yes. And she replied: "Because I was not with her face. in the worst cases. you are a pig. Arranged a dinner. generous and. After examining each one carefully. A man met a wonderful woman and her boyfriend was. the parents of the wife." They are not all bad Clearly. You are so thorough that it is me crazy! In my home was never like this. I believe it cost to the teacher. the problem is you. The parents are often responsible for defects and emotional problems of their children and Norasia. He said he wanted to know if she was able to guess which of the three women was his future daughter-in-law. Anita thought it was becoming impossible to live with Tom. Anita This led to the point of collapse. A search of the University of the State of Utah. Polls conducted by the University of Utah shows that more than 50% of marriages are real problems between the husband and mother nora.the burden it The real tragedy of most families are caused by the mother of the man. Although not all parents are given by the fame. Transformed all the rooms. My mother never complained to me or anything that I did! " Anita: "So okay. invasive and possessive. But came together with three women . in home pen. which refuses to cut the umbilical cord with your child. divorce. Anita: "Tom. I can not live with you more!" Tom: "No. that the other 50% are seen as helpful.

the most effective in this case is training him to do what she wants him to do.mother and I created a monster I'm no longer tolerate this. Life today is increasingly . the menu of a wedding party and all arrangements of practice . especially when he is single and her life is dull. But the children rarely talk to their mothers about what it is. Shortly before the wedding. not the parents. France was no longer needed and was put aside. In addition to washing. cooking and go for them. When the marriage makes the situation more. It is now an adult who should be responsible for their actions. The complexity of the situation lies in the fact that there are three people involved in this relationship. because having her along as it is a good strategy. But for every problem there is a solution. to protect them. Receiving little information. because the Norasia usually maintain close ties with their mother and talk with them regularly. about every little detail. Case study: Mark and Julie Mark and Julie decided to marry. possessive. when in fact they are creating a serious problem in the future relationship with their wives. Suddenly. immature. The parents are always connected to the child. All three people can be emotionally balanced. the parents begin to feel excluded from the new family and the child may find that the only way to participate is forcing way and is doing this. unless he has developed a strong relationship with Nora. The parents are often put aside after the marriage. Is he eating right? Is that his house is well cared for? Etc. The girl almost always strives for the love to build a good relationship with the mother of the boy. This can create jealousy in the mother's partner.. independent. believing they are showing them your love. Due to a disagreement. The mother wants to be involved in their children's lives. two or even three people can be jealous. It is normal for a girl seeks the support of the mother. dependent. This is a really complicated problem for the partner. selfish and emotionally unstable. The son and daughter-in-law must face the situation in a mature and open. She felt used and offense. Just be willing to resolve it. but Julie found her mother with the help of Mark and they resumed their relationship. mother of Mark. How is the mother around the nora usually forget that the mother of your husband is so important to the family unit as its own.everything we have done with his own mother if things were different. one.. etc. it is as if two women disputing one man. detached and friendly. So Julie is highly supported in France. Julie and her mother Sarah was not talking about three years ago. Why be parents is sometimes difficult? It is important to be aware that parents occupy a difficult position. to help her choose the wedding dress. or at the other extreme. But instead of criticizing and blaming his mother. " Tom: "What my mother has to do with it? Why did you change the subject? Why not stop blaming everyone except yourself?" Many mothers spoil the future at a very early marriage of their children.

Diana began then to avoid the parents. Perhaps it is difficult for the next generation deal with their parents. Diana tried to be friendly. it takes some effort to maintain unity in family life . Bernadette was not particularly receptive. Their demands seemed to have no end. "I was late!" She said to friends. Bernadette thought Richard was not interested in girls. telling everyone what you thought would not last. and when the big wheel is complaining with her husband. He drank more and did not de-link the minimum for the family. and put the fault in almost everything she did. with less time for human contact. The problems began when she and Richard returned from honeymoon. and even in daily life. Diana has realized that it had inherited from a mother-in-law Hell. In business. He was a good boy of 22 years and watch it. but the two sides need to understand and find solutions to ensure the happiness of all.over-charged. without any consideration for the needs of Diana. Logo Bernadette began openly insulting Diana when Richard was not around. Only presented to his mother after the announcement of the engagement. but Diana found that it simply needed time to adapt. When family members live in distant neighborhoods. only for sex. Richard was now fully at its disposal. She is holding waiting for the world turn around. Richard knew that as she created. But the last generation only knows the phone and personal meetings to communicate. comfort and emotional support for this . for example. The view of Diana Adam and Eve were the happiest and luckiest couple in the world. to be clear. Bernadette appeared almost every day. to repair the tap to talk about a problem or to take her shopping.would be difficult to find a woman equal. She asked when he would come "in house" to paint it.she thought . How many parents are required to change a light bulb? A. The madcap who sometimes left him were. cities or different countries. now was the time to take account of it. For Bernadette. Diana liked that Richard knew him. to take care of the garden. Bernadette denied. so completely unexpected. we use the mail to meet the need of communication. as he liked the tidiness of the house. I used to laugh when the future mother-in-law commented that perhaps they are not ready for non-marriage and could change your mind at any time. Richard. Parents need attention and the children need time for their own family. She created with all the care. But thought it strange that her boyfriend not to take his place. but eventually grew tired of listening Bernadette tell you how to prepare the favorite dish of Richard. but Bernadette phone every night to stay talking long together with Richard. because neither of them had parents. . But she still had her son. Case study: Bernadette. When the ceremony was. accusing it of trying to create problems between her and her son. Richard and Diana Bernadette had just over forty years when the left-of Mari. Soon after. nourished and loved since birth. Bernadette became a problem.

The man may feel happy to have two women disputing its possession. Bernadette was the first to offer to help by washing the clothes and taking care of the baby. Women do this naturally. but Diana seemed so enciumada of the husband's relationship with the mother that no longer appear. Diana began to feel excluded. It became possessive for Travis. The last thing that a woman needs is a complaint that her parents with the son. Bernadette took account of the situation. It was a burden. everyone wins. preparing their favorite dishes. and so Richard thought that the advice of his mother would be fundamental. . The wife must have sufficient wisdom to take control of the situation and ensure that problems are dealt with between it and the parents. as it feeds his ego. Create a child was a novelty for Diana. Bernadette lived with and was discussing it with Richard complaining. only. And started to think that life would be less complicated if I went back to single. but he thought the mother should be feeling alone and that he had a responsibility towards her. collected and washed their clothes and not criticized because it felt just wonderful what he did. to overlive in caves. to have a life free of stress. putting it in the neck all the time they were together. just at the time he began to relax. The views of Richard Richard lost his father to divorce. Filled it with care and affection. Once Richard and Diana got married. He loved the woman. It became obsessive with Travis. But there was one problem: every night his mother call him a lengthy conversation. Diana and tired of discussing it in a anger deaf closed. Solution Nora and parents need to build a loop to run their lives. Travis was the first son of Diana. When Travis was born. constantly criticizing Diana. But Diana did not seem prone to a little or ask advice. More than once Diana tried to discuss the problem with Richard. but she was crazy with their explosions. The mother always told him that his father does not provide for anything and now he was the man of the house.Two years later. Nora and parents need to adjust their relationship without involving the son and husband. and that his mother was only trying to help. With male your brain programmed to problem solving. helping in something. and continue to need in the modern world. but things were definitely more calm at home. Bernadette was him taking his own son. In the end. Richard thought he was just working hard all day and still have to resolve disputes between your wife and your mother when you get home. When this is true. helping with the baby. Instead. but he said that Diana was being possessive. Bernadette was soon back to life nora physically every day. and Diana felt prisoner and unfortunate. selfish. immature and ciumenta. Bernadette was always around. it is that would see her on weekends and helped with the house. made his bed. What is the difference between a pit-bull and a mother-in-law? The pit-bull just dropping you.

but also not wanting to impose their views. she combines sympathy and firmness. . In the case study above. Richard never cut the umbilical cord that connects to your mother. could write: . What is important is that in that relationship. but Diana refuses to divide Travis and receive useful advice on motherhood. not simply as the wife of the child. Diana could write: . is my responsibility to help her. When problems appear since the beginning of the relationship.My mother makes me feel guilty when I do not answer your requests. If the answer is "Yes". . . . in turn. it is advisable to couple therapy. and Diana does not understand that as a child.They want to solve the problem? If the answer to any of these questions is "No". The problem therefore is Diana and Richard. . for example. the problem must be resolved by the parties most affected . for this to see how a person with life itself. first questions they need answered are: .Bernadette requires too much attention to Richard.Bernadette interfere too much. She had permission to continue controlling Richard. It is important that she spend some time just for parents. Richard. The difficulty is in fact a big wheel. that because it is not enough time with the family. leaving not intimidate. must take the initiative to build the bridge. husband and wife should sit down and put on paper what they think is the problem. When it leaves the problems of marriage take root. but Diana did not care about that. If during the time of her dating book all their attention to the fiance. when all I want is to be with them. not matured. is the big wheel that as a matter of survival.the son and daughter-in-law. when you know the future mother-in-law. The best time to cut the umbilical cord is birth. will pay a high price later.I do not understand why my wife and my mother is angry all the time.My mother is not a man at home to do small services. leaving the part of parents. happy and loving? .Bernadette does not respect my ability and hope that it meets Richard as a child.You have a long life together. generally immature and unprepared for the problems that inevitably arise. .This is a common tragedy. In this stage. take our privacy and in-progress plans are constantly perplexed. As.Bernadette arrives without warning. just in time for this-we enjoy our moments of family living. husband and wife. He actually "still" have not left the house.Bernadette call every night. Bernadette apparently has no problem.My mother tries to help Diana. staged in families around the world. through whom she controls Diana and Travis. . . Hardly one of them will accept what he seems to be an alliance between the other two. . later is very difficult to establish a productive discussion between the three parties. wanting to dictate the rules in our house and the creation of our son.My mother is alone and it is up to us supports it. a person be more girl.Both recognize the existence of problems? .

lines that they can not overcome. Me and my parents were happy for twenty years. people know that their transgression will bring problems. albeit unintentionally. When set limits. If Richard and Diana have limits in their marriage. therefore. as the visitor is a person dear. Bernadette did not exceed a limit set. but here is a question of limits. as Christmas gift or birthday. By not putting limits on Bernadette when the problems started to appear. the most important of all. Maybe the solution would get a "factotum" and give him the phone Bernadette. Diana has to be firm. Richard and Diana do not have of it and left to set limits when they married. then why not put limits on Bernadette too? Diana says Bernadette arrives without being asked and without warning. it actually allowed the parents invade your marriage and your family. in agreement with Diana. and generally believe that the family members are only trying to help with his advice. Set limits and be firm are two key lessons that the newly married couples need to learn. With regard to Travis. say. have a group of reading. We need to know that she should call before they appear. Bernadette feel rejected and hurt. The problem will diminish significantly if the visits are only permitted where previously combined. and they intend to follow it. Know where to go. is important to Richard and Diana show a real interest in "new" life of Bernadette. to excursions. doing courses and voluntary work in hospitals or welfare organizations. Until we know it. however. Quite understandably. are not firm in setting its rules. Richard. on the border of privacy. must limit the duration of phone calls from their 'mother to.Diana is also responsible. by her . after which he must tell Bernadette that has things to do and say goodbye. but in agreement with Diana. Must thank Bernadette for attention. ten minutes. Inexperienced. It is natural that Bernadette would Richard take care of the problems of her house. such as joining a club of retired. Richard and Diana might even offer to pay for services for an entire year. Richard really has responsibility to help the mother. but said that she and Richard receive guidance of pediatricians to the development of Travis. is that it needs to encourage the mother to develop activities outside the family. they do not understand the risks. Bernadette must be trained. having lived always within limits set by other people. This is a trap in which young people often fall very easily. but this is a problem that it must overcome. The three should discuss the matter in a time when emotions are low. Diana should explain that she and Richard need a time of privacy to relax and take care of common projects and unannounced visits that may interfere. How to set limits Establish rules and set limits means tracing lines that should not be exceeded.

that the affection is preserved. A person can only make you feel guilty if you agree to accept the blame. encouraging it. . Reactions are predictable."Who else can I use?" . We need to keep it abreast of the family. The next stage of the reaction of Bernadette is probably refuse to help. There will be tempting to abandon it." . They have to explain or justify their decisions. It is not easy."I feel so alone now."Do you not care more for me. it is only to ensure the happiness of the three. the two problems can be solved. whether to live an independent life. if we are committed to maintaining a harmonious relationship and happy. only reaffirm that the path that is decided then."When I die you will be sorry. but Richard and Diana have to say. which are emotional blackmail. make it clear.own gain momentum. especially if the reaction is stronger than expected. You've seen flying snake? Then try playing your parents through the window.just like your father." Such tactics." . while building a life. only work if you allow." ."You are selfish . Richard is resolved to maintain her marriage and awareness of evil that causes the interference of the mother. I examined all the possible reactions and are prepared to deal with it. but they should not do it. after a single week she would be 105 kilometers away. Maybe even threatens disinherit them. I discussed the matter several times. there is no aggression. None of this is easy and requires a lot of the couple's determination and persistence. If sympathy and love to face the task of setting limits to Bernadette. mature and happy. Bernadette will be boring at first and probably react with emotional blackmail and statements such as: . But you know what is right to do what you're doing. however strange it may seem to Bernadette . Just as the couple set limits and make the meet. If you could convince your parents to walk fifteen kilometers a day. through words and attitudes. ie taking care of Travis. It is important that they continue taking care of Bernadette and supporting it during this phase. a solid and enjoyable adult relationship can develop."After everything I did for you!" . It is vital that during all the conversations.

Men evolved chasing moving targets. When you engage in any activity. These are the questions: 1." The archaeologist thought for a moment and replied: "I want a bridge with a Autopista connecting England to France!" The genius goggle and mutter: "Hey. men. Women do not need a reason to talk. these secrets are both a source of amusement and confusion. so as to remain united. For over a decade. man. this is one of the most important chapters of this book. we present here only a brief summary. Why do women always want to talk about problems? 3." The genius pale and asked: "One or two tracks?" If you are a man. we check each item with a woman next to you. Why women talk so much? 2. we collect and record answers to research on how men and women to communicate and use the science of human behavior to explain their differences. To most men. The ability to build and strengthen intimate relationships was crucial to the survival of each. or a specific purpose. when to collect leaves (shopping) and still talk all the time. I'm tired ground. "You freed me!" Said the genie. And the modern woman. But for those who can meet them. therefore. Why women want to know the smallest detail? 'Why do women talk so much? The huge capacity that women have to talk is something that most men are extremely difficult to understand. Why women exaggerate? 4. when you leave to hunt or fish. The following is the brain images of men and women talking. "I will grant you one wish. In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? we treat this issue in detail. They speak to be connected. Consequently. Searched men of different nationalities and races. women did all the time. avoided talking to not scare the prey. a new level of relationship with the opposite sex comes up. The dark areas are the parts .Chapter 7 The Mysteries WAYS OF WOMEN LANGUAGE An archaeologist excavated a ruin when topou to an old lamp. You idea of the distance that exists between England and France? Is an engineering impossible! Make another request! The man reflected for a moment and asked: "I wish I could I communicate with women. and when caçavam fishing. The modern man also. To rub it to remove the dust. But it is very likely to feel skeptical about some of the things that will read. Women evolved together with other women and children in and near the caves. I just leave the lamp. not speaking much. appeared a genius. Meanwhile. Why women never go to the chase? 5. we are able to reveal the intriguing logic that lies behind the five men most frequent questions about the way women are communicating.

For the women. When a woman speaks. The men use the speech and language to communicate facts and data. Unfortunately. As I said. it speaks to you. The reaction of the man before it is asked "Why do not you say it to her when they were together?". not to ask for solutions. Man Woman The brain of man is oriented solutions.of the brain into activity. If not. because the "conversation" of women is completely different. This creates serious problems of communication with women. without effort. Put simply. share their emotions and problems with someone is a demonstration of confidence in the person. Compare it with the average daily production of words of a man . when either communicate facts. A worker exhausts its production of words in the middle of the afternoon and go home to find a woman who still has four to five thousand words to say! Two women can spend the whole day together and then still speak for a full hour on the phone. however." that is. Most men "only speak if you have something to say. As already explained. the man tends to think that a woman discuss their problems because they do not know how to deal with them and "all the time is interrupted with solutions. a form of retribution and a way to connect to another person. In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? show that the brain of the woman can produce. Areas of the brain related to speech and language. it does basically to create a bond with another person. about ten times. to offer all the time. the man only speaks to other men about personal problems if you think that the other has a solution. The brain of man is set to the solution of continuous problems. the man who was asking opinion feels honored and offers its solutions. The images show how the brains of women is widely used for the functions of speech and language. From a woman. data and solutions.two to four thousand and you understand that the ability to speak of women cause so many problems between couples. Have a brain that is not strong in the skills of speech and language responds to the remarkable extent of gender differences in rates of problems in speech: the stuttering is a disorder three to four times more frequent among men than among women. six thousand to eight thousand words spoken per day. Institute of Psychiatry in London. The women's to processes. the man gives the impression that always wants to be right and it is always wrong. . No wonder that women always complain that the man to break inter-and not to let express their views. dyslexia and serious. if she feels attracted to you if she likes you or saying you want to feel accepted and important. 2001. it simply does not speak.

ask them explicitly to reserve a time for that and tell him that he only wants to listen. it is the participation that counts. Why do women always want to talk about problems? Women on average live seven years longer than men. When you.if she does not like or do not love a person. The danger is that the internalized stress can cause diseases such as diarrhea. mutual remarks to lose the character of criticism and complaint and will be key ele-ments in the construction of mutual happiness. stress man stops talking and will sit alone "in front of the fire" to find a solution to your problem.fortunately not . water the garden. constipation. if she does not agree with what this person is saying.it's showing that you trust. but never too often. browse the Internet or mount an aircraft to turn off the problems. When either forget a stressful day. or when either punish them. mainly due to their greater ability to deal with stress. It is important to understand the man that the main objective of the "conversation" of the woman is talking about. Only thus creates intimacy and complicity. woman. It is never too often: when two people are aware that they want to invest in the relationship. The content of conversation with people is not important. The best way to punish the woman the man is talking to him without stopping and changing the subject is. The silence as a form of punishment is an effective tactic. Without any aggressiveness. one could say to each other how you feel and go learn about the differences between genders and the specific characteristics of your partner. Focusing on other things.in almost all of the time is not to seek solutions. one at a time. he apparently can forget their problems. the man thinks or does something else. she is not complaining . The purpose of it is if you feel better about your day and connect to you . without interrupting to offer solutions. With men in general it does not work . When not occupied with another activity. especially when used with other women. stomach ulcers and heart attack . The solution for men and women Ideally.the men usually see the "peace and tranquility" obtained with the silence of women as a prize. want to talk to your partner. The problem is that men love silence. on TV. If you have an issue to deal with it. Women use silence to punish men. Already suggested before. Your brain allows you to track only concentrate on the news. is direct and clear. The opposite is also true . she stops talking.When you make personal confidences.

Ask her if she wants some help and put themselves available to advise her when she wants. One night we were agreed for six months. None of them works.. addressing them in various ways. Women deal with stress talking plenty about their problems. while] and thought they always came back to the same issues. is a mystery.. Not . The men believe that talking will only make things worse. A man who did so would give other men the impression that they feel incapable and are looking for solutions . Joe could not handle it. He would prefer a thousand times and have a fight. Prefer to discuss the issue and resolve it quickly. Listen to it with the greatest possible solidarity and tell him you are there to accept them as needed. Women like to thoroughly discuss all aspects of their actions and feelings. the reason why women love to discuss all the details. They always kiss and make up before going to sleep.until it lead to another thread. talked and talked about the issue at stake . The problem is that the female brain is programmed to enhance processes. and yes-go by making a possible solution. Men tend to retreat before that approach. Joe and discussion of midnight Lisa and Joe discussed much when they went to live together. he had already discussed everything that had to discuss and was happy to leave the rest divergence. the easier it becomes the relationship. especially late at night. In the evening. remember that she needs to talk to feel better. Lisa wanted to reduce their level of stress and was anxious to reach a satisfactory decision for both. So when the woman started to teased a problem that seems not to sense. There are two theories about arguing with a woman. Enjoy going to rock your thinking about something else. So she talked. Rodney Dangerfield Women believe that everyone is talking about feeling better. PHYLLlS DILLER For men. My husband and I decided never to sleep before resolving our disputes. Case study: Lisa. it would be readily available. Solution We to assume that the more men and women are aware of their differences. Talking about your problems is your way of relieving stress. It was common for discussion is to drag well after midnight.all at the same time. go to sleep and forget it. The problem was that Lisa had been created believing that the couple should never let anyone waiting for the next day.

She exaggerates his feelings and the other when it comes to some personal matter or what someone said. I want to discuss it with you. even that invariably end up falling by the timid and puny boy he met at the homes of friends. but does not give us a little talk about this later?" This way of addressing the problem is more respectful and has much more chance of working than say nothing and simply wait for the woman to say end all you have to talk. but this issue is too big for my head today. Examples of female exaggeration: "I asked you a million times to collect their wet towels. One of one hundred things that women wish men knew: what it said six or eight months is unacceptable in the current discussion. The woman's brain is focused on people. But also meets its limits. The exaggeration makes it more exciting to talk about relationships. the excesses of women can be frustrating. He exaggerates the importance of their work. I thought it was going to die!" "You always do this to me. you always do this to me!" He probably will take that complaint to the foot of the letter. Exaggerated words and emotions is a normal behavior to be perfect for women who talk among themselves. women like to dream that a leading man of TV to ask for a memorable night. In general. Moreover." "When I saw her with that dress. it only needs your love and genuine care. the size of your income or that of fish caught. For example. If the problem that the wife brings concerns the relationship of you and you in fact does not feel able to discuss the l-on time. so fancy it much more than the man on the lives and relationships. saying that it does not always defend himself and giving examples: "This is not true. Why women exaggerate? Both men and women exaggerate. for example: "Sorry. I did not no time last night and not do for months!" She replied recalling . sweetheart.minimize the impact that certain events can cause it." "Do not talk to you anymore!" For men. ask to be sensitive if it can leave the matter for another time. it interprets the words literally. if he disagrees with the woman in front of friends. these fantasies and exaggeration that makes the conversations more interesting. because as your brain thinks things from facts and data. At that moment. she will say later: "You always reduces me and never let me have my own opinion. the performance of your car and the amount of beautiful women who left." "You always hope that I do all the work of the house and take care of children at the same time. Say. The difference is that men exaggerate the facts and women exaggerate the emotions and feelings.

In the eyes of men. How a woman can fool yourself When the woman recall a scene in your head. the emotions and feelings are what counts and tone of voice and body language are the main channels to communicate them. I gave him a special gift . put them in the pocket and was sitting there without saying anything. he was sitting. mad to see Luke. It was as if it were a hundred kilometers away. For women. She sends much of what I mean by tone of voice. Mae West on men. turned and was watching the TV. When I arrived. the conversation was really difficult and not a little interesting. He mumble "Thank you".a beautiful pair of gold cufflinks. I had some suspicions but did not mean anything yet. The language of the body reveals the emotional state of women and is responsible for 60 to 80% of the impact of their conversation. including the phone. but men are able to identify only three. it may appear that the memory is real. But for her the most important is not the offense committed. I was giving treatment to the ball to imagine what could be. The trip back was silent. Most messages are not verbal. challenging in terms of facts and data. The humor of it was so strange that I thought he was punishing me for having arrived late. Saturday night. so that the time and I lost a little late. I started to think that something suspicious was that I had some time . Decided to have coffee at home. When we arrived. Now I knew we had a serious problem. Luke went straight in the room. That day Luke was football with friends and I have fun with some friends to assert that I did not see since we have decided to live together. but one at a time.. Sorry for the delay. women always seem to be moving his arms and using a variety of gestures and facial expressions when speaking. said he had an excellent day out with friends and show what was purchased. around eight hours.the days. We spent the whole morning shopping. She was exaggerating his emotions and he. All that she wants is that he values in front of friends. but decided to wait to get home to talk. your offense. His eyes seemed to say that everything was over between us. looking out the window.. Despite his ability to speak. because it does not consider that issue with the woman is decreased her. She communicates with a scale of five tones. During the dinner. I knew it would be a romantic dinner and was excited. times and places where he eats the same. the woman also uses the body language to send and receive information. I want a million . then lunch and take coffee and we talk about a million things. The letter from Jessica shows as: "Me and Luke agreed to meet for dinner at our favorite restaurant. He is hurt and angry. without giving me the slightest attention.

I thought the end was near.' replied my wife. and made love. not noticed how he looks at her with that stupid smile. telling me what your supervisor told you. help her to relativise without saying what she should think or say. But then he just turned and was sleeping. Then cried to sleep. They must think I'm blind! Well. I was so upset and stressed that hours spent awake. " I was working in the garage half hour. but to me and my two children that causes tremendous brain damage. even if internally you give some discount. . Then. while she continued to where he had stopped. This letter from a reader and shows a woman can feel the man: "My wife goes on whim indirect speech. for example.. I promised myself that the next day would face the situation and demand that he tell me the truth.he should have another woman. will eventually disqualified!" Solution If you are a man. Ten minutes later. This step is especially important when it comes to business.. while carrying a basket of laundry to the garage. It took the largest iron if continue. is thinking it and not want to tell me not to hurt me. The woman. that bitch of his work beyond the mini-skirt! I saw the way she moves the chair every time he passes by it. Who is the other woman? He loves you or is just an adventure? Why men do not tell the truth? All I know is that it can no longer live like this . 'I do not want you to eat the salami. " 'What?' I was surprised. I said: 'Later I need to go to the hardware store. I will use it later.was true . she should try to be objective and limit the exaggeration. She does this constantly. It is able to develop four or five different lines of thought simultaneously with ease. women understand the need to exaggerate the emotions and feelings and not take the literal meaning. while I turn to follow..Debbie. it was in the kitchen and told me: 'In the team meeting today. This apparently vague manner of speaking is known as indirect language. Luke came to bed and also surprised me want to snuggle. with a tone mad. Listen to the truth of it. moreover. not eat the salami. How can a woman be so smart as avoada when talking? Today. Why women never go to the chase? For men. as the man takes things at the foot of the letter. Not resist to my caresses.. Never call your partner in "queen of the drama" not a correction in front of others. 'she said not to eat the salami? " 'She's not you. as tenderly as possible. and this time I put the clothes in the washing . my supervisor said .. All your friends seem to follow his reasoning. or be able to read her mind. " I stopped with the stupid guy. women seem to prefer to be making rounds to go right to the point. And I was also becoming clear who she was . And he thinks I'm an idiot. I was sitting there in the room with him about fifteen minutes until no more endure. where the exaggeration may be cause for much confusion and damage. must realize that. Sometimes a man feels as if I had to guess what the woman wants. Yesterday. " What Luke was really thinking that night: "My team lost. trying to find the sequence of the conversation. I went to bed..

machine, in one move boxes, cleaned a shelf and made a list of arrangements for next week. When she went in the house said, without stopping what I was doing: 'Why? " 'Huh? Why what? "I asked. 'What do you need? " 'I do not need anything! What are you talking about? " 'If you do not need anything, that is going to the hardware store? "She asked, crossing his arms with that guy sulk in'0 - that-is-what-you-are-arming' that most men married knows. However, this matter was already closed for me for a long time, but for my wife is absolutely natural to resume a conversation for over an hour, if it finds that the matter was not resolved. I think she is convinced that I did not hear, and I'm half convinced that she is right. I try to understand later, after I finish my salami sandwich. Frustrated Raymond. "When a woman speaks, the language generally indirect USA. That means what it implies or infers that the things. When women use indirect language to each other, rarely there are problems - they have to understand the sensitivity real meaning of what is said. But this language can be disastrous when speaking with men, who use the direct language and interpret the words literally. As I said, the male brain evolved as a mechanism to focus single requirement of the hunt. The men find disconcerting the apparent lack of structure and purpose of female conversation and accuse women of not knowing what they are talking about. They respond saying things like: "After all, what are you talking about?", "What is the conclusion ", or the interrupt saying," We already talked about this a dozen times, "" How long it will last yet? "and" This conversation is very complicated and will not lead to nowhere. " The language in indirect business The use of indirect language and multiple tracks in business can be problematic for women because men have difficulty to follow the conversation. The men, in order to take decisions, must be submitted to ideas and information that is clear, logical and organized. Women may see their ideas and rejected the requests simply because your boss is not the slightest idea what she wants. Marie was a classic victim. After six months of negotiations, Marie had the chance to present the new advertising program for your company to a major customer of the financial industry. The audience was composed of eight men and four women. The account to be won worth two hundred thousand dollars and she only had thirty minutes to sell her story. It was the only chance of winning the title. On the day of presentation, so well tested that could sleep up to, Marie came properly dressed, with a number sober, hair done and makeup light and natural. But soon after starting, she noticed that the men looked as if they were not understood. Given the impression that they were judging negatively and losing interest in the presentation, she began to come by several shortcuts, adding unnecessary details and returning the slides already passed to show how they are related to each other. Encouraged the women with smiles, faces and vocal expressions like "Uh, uh," "Right!" and showing an interest. Encouraged by the female reaction, Marie began to turn his speech to them, unintentionally ignoring the men. The entire presentation has become an exercise in juggling. She finished and left, convinced that he had done a good job. and was eagerly awaiting the answer of the company.

This was the conversation of men executives during the coffee, after which Marie left: Director of Marketing: "You have some idea of what she was talking about?" Executive Director: "No. .. it confused me. Tell him to send the proposal in writing." Marie "multitrilhou" submission using indirect language with a group of men who wanted to hear a presentation objective, and lean in his logic. The executive met and became involved with questions, but no man wanted to raise their hand and admit that there was not understood. The woman needs to understand that man, when you can not follow what she says, prefer to pretend it means to go through stupid. Only it is not convinced. When a man can not keep up the discourse of business of a woman, he pretends to understand. The woman must use a direct language, with timetables, schedules, deadlines and conclusive answers. Should be direct with men in business by addressing an issue each time, with beginning, middle and end, without getting lost in shortcuts. Marie is still waiting for a response ...

Case study: Barbara and Adam Barbara went to shop with friends and wanted his son Adam, aged 16, clean the kitchen. "Adam, you can do to please clean the kitchen for me?" She asked. "Hum .. s ...", he growl in response. When she resumed the tour, the kitchen remained the same. Barbara was angry with her son. "But I would clean up before leaving at night", he whine. The problem was caused by the Barbara. She used the language indirect assumption that Adam would understand that when she returned home with her friends, the kitchen should be clean. She asked: "You want to clean the kitchen?" No boy "or" clean the kitchen. Adam can not. A direct request with a deadline, as "Adam, please clean the kitchen before I get back from shopping at noon, would have guaranteed a better result.

Children do not "want" to do household chores, they need to be directly instructed to do them.

That night, Barbara said to Adam: "I would like you to look for an hour before going to bed." Indirect dis-course that works with girls but with boys it is useless. The brain of the boy heard that his mother that he would do such a thing, but it really was not instructed to do it, does. Direct instruction with a time limit is the only realistic way of dealing with men. "Adam, I want you to go to your room and study for one hour. I will give you good-night before you pain-mir." Direct instructions leave little room for communication problems. Moreover, men enjoy clear instructions. Women fear that the direct language is too aggressive. You can even be, when used with another woman. With men, however, the direct speech is perfectly normal, because that is how they communicate. Solution For a woman: With men, seek to use only the direct discourse. This does not mean being aggressive. You may well say, calmly and affection: "Let's make an appointment to talk? Feel that we need solve some problems." And remember what we said before: when speaking of problems, makes clear that it is as you see them and feel, which does not mean they are exactly that. Do not extend to others and gives space to listen to what your partner has to say. Listen to the truth, not defend themselves or challenge immediately. In the beginning may seem difficult, but over time this practice will bring you the desired results. You'll have fewer misunderstandings with men of his life. For men: If a woman is talking and you have difficulty to follow your line of thinking, start listening, without offering solutions. If anything, give it a time limit: "I watch the news of seven, my good, but until then I'm all yours." Again: try to show you their own limits and their way of being. Once you have the precious chance to go is knowing better and respecting their differences. One of our readers sent us the Dictionary of Women Indirect terms that appear during their regular discussions. "Good" - The USA women at the end of this word in any discussion that you believe to be the reason but want the man shut up. "Five minutes - I mean, about half an hour. Equivalent to five minutes when the man is watching a soccer game and the woman asked for a favor. "Nothing" - means "something." "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling of the woman when she is willing to strangle the man. "Nothing" usually means the beginning

Means that you put the hurt and the next step will be an "audible sigh. what he said?" She asked. wanting to know every detail. The woman is giving you the chance to invent an excuse or reason you have done what they have done. "Robert? You do not see from the side! How is he?" "Good.At the beginning of a sentence... after the woman said "nothing." because it will say "Nothing. This situation. and the highest is the sarcastic "Really?" it... followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she says she will explain the reason in "five minutes". "Go ahead" (with raised eyebrows) . "Okay" is often used with "Fine" and in conjunction with "Go ahead" (raised eyebrows). And he was asked him as an advocate of it. you will be a big trouble. At some point in the near future." Do not ask what's wrong after the "audible sigh.It is said in a tone of challenge. If you do not speak the truth will win in a final "OK". details are irrelevant. He is nice . seasoned with a lot of "Aahs"." You should receive a "Go ahead" (raised eyebrows) in a few minutes.of a discussion that will last "five minutes" and have undermined with the word "great". "Nothing important . "Robert.. "Aah" generally means that you have been caught in a lie. shows a basic brain differences between men and women. "Who was that?" He asked his wife Debbie." he said.is not an application is an offer for you to talk." He hung up and continued reading.The woman says that when you're really upset with you. "Really?" ." The more you apologize. "Aah? I talked to his brother about what you walked by last night "and" Aah? You expect me to believe "." "Go ahead" (with normal eyebrows) . a former schoolmate. listened for about ten minutes making occasional grunt and said: "Yes. "Thank you" . Why women want to know the smallest detail? Josh was reading the newspaper a night when the phone rang. She will tell you that is" good "while playing their clothes through the window. You offering to explain and receive a "Please. okay. And do not try to lie more to get an escape because" Go ahead "(raised eyebrows). when it has plot is planned. We were talking . the split detail each point of the conversation." "Aah?" . "Please" ." "So . she insisted. "raised eyebrows" and an "audible gasp" final. For example. is great." Josh replied that defeated tone that men have when trying to read the newspaper..means that she wants to think before you return whatever you have. "That is what he said after ten years? What is great ".. "All right" . -Audible sigh means she thinks you an idiot and wonders why it is wasting time by discussing with you "Nothing. He answered.She is not questioning the validity.. For men. when a cool head." The next time it will allow you to make sex with her will "one day". The woman thinks when a man does not speak . which has dealt before. is simply saying it does not believe a single word of what you say.means "I quit" or "Do what you want because I'm not there.

feel that he is uninterested. Invite her for a long walk and let her talk. You also know where the friends go on leave and the children are doing in school. Thus. The group of friends was his insurance company. tell your partner that is willing to tell her what happened. their health and status of their relationships.. I discussed what are good places to fish. in reporting events from the others. are doing. which means knowing all the details and is actively interested by the situation of each group member and their families..much because he is not interested in it. especially in a business meeting. The man thinks the woman speaks and other torments so many questions. well. Men know what new "toys for boys" bought the other men. Remember once again: you need not worry about giving answers or provide solutions . . have already decided how to defeat terrorism and how England can win of Germany in football ... look you give more details than usually and do not fidget with their pe1fun-tas.their wives saying all the way home. their dreams and goals for the year.. they do not cease to be . yes . need to understand that the woman needs to know details and personal information is programmed into your psyche and aims for the survival of relationships Therefore. But you know very little about the personal life of any person in the group . It is not that women are curious . because for women the words are used to unite. try to avoid the excess of detail. women know everything that each member of the group. meets its limits. And if you are female. the woman involved to secure for itself a narrow circle of friends who take care of it if your man does not resume the hunt or the war. And if. ask if it is available.. already see the new red sports car from Bob. Women are programmed to know all the details Defender of nests and offspring. when you talk to the woman. knowing that men and women are structurally different. they want to know how each person in your group and how they can help. you should 'go to the chase. being precise and succinct. you will be a great year.just listen to it with genuine interest... After a social activity. At home. ah. do not feel offended. and the latest jokes. is that with the long-term survival in their minds. Tell us what you feel and hear what he feels. Solution If you are a man. or family. Things that seem important to you may be irrelevant to him. His survival depended on their ability to connect to other women.

Maybe you have not told her husband that found a former boyfriend and that his heart shot. when all want to make the best. probably would not have any friends and possibly more would be unemployed. If you have a nose too large. You distrust. You may have exaggerated a bit to complete a loan application form or request for jobs to provide the best. how people react? One thing is certain: you would be an insufferable person. Always tell the truth . His girlfriend called in last minute canceling the meeting with you and an excuse that it seemed in tatters.then quit running. but you do not know what it is. There is no one interesting beer is hot. you did not mention that the neighbor cat up and sometimes the smell is unbearable. Imagine the following situations: "Hi. Proverb If you had told the strict truth to all those who interacted in the last week. what would have happened? If you tell the exact words that go through your head. Most of the lies that we are soft Lies. When you sold the car. When announced to sell the house. Mary. Why not put a bra or seeking a new plastic surgeon?" "Hi.he prefers to hear him personality.Chapter 8 "You think I am OUE -FAT CLOTHES WITH THIS? Why men lie? The new man in your life that really is all over with the former. may have ceased to mention that leakage of engine oil to speak of the excellent conditions under which he was. Most lies are the first meetings. action by which a person is to deliberately deceive another person. those that exist for us to live jun-ments without violence or aggression. What mind? Everybody lies. as often prefer the subtle distortion of the true facts and stark naked. do not want to hear the truth about him . no one notices it or he has a size suitable for your face. His female instinct tells you that something is wrong. Or that . but you know he has a picture of it in the drawer of the office. Because their sinuses are fallen. You must see the reason for your bad breath and why not cut the hair of the nose?" "This meeting is organized chatíssima you. but left to say or tell something that would have caused suffering to the person. You would be wrong? Lie: noun. as you may not have lied." When was the last time you lied? Well. Adam.

a soft background music and fire burning. On entering the dining room. To sit. glorious. obtaining a gain or avoid pain.were excited in the highest degree. Sheelagh felt completely overwhelmed by the caring and sensitive man . This whole assembly was a fine trick. Stephen King We lied for two reasons. smiling. the chance to get to Sheelagh what I would be much greater. Dennis listened attentively. Did you not concealed from the other lipo or prosthesis that did that to put the body shape? Ever not lied about your weight and your age? The list of large and small lies is endless. making it possible for a person know if the other is telling the truth. But in reality it is a complete fabrication of lies half on both sides to try to gain personal advantage. Dennis wanted sex. was impressed with the way Dennis get the scenario for the night: half-light. caught in the web of obligation. he presented with a beautiful bouquet of flowers and led it to the table. When he arrived. put a pair of long earrings and a bit of French perfume behind the ears. Sheelagh. Research shows that 30-40% of patients get relief with placebos . was based on lies and deceptions. this scenario is called a romantic dinner with candlelight. They were talking a little about her work and the events of the day.so different from others she met. Everyone constantly lied to each other. most people feel guilt. It was the lights on the hair do hair. In polite language. of course. where it served a glass of champagne. and strongly. But if faced with this basic fact. Parents lie to their children about sex and teenagers lie to their parents about sex. Only enemies tell the truth. Champagne. With a little practice is to recognize the behavioral signs we learn to lie and decodes them. makeup is carefully chose a sexy dress. is armed and behaved is thinking only in stimulating the sexual part of the brain of Dennis. or is lying. And assumed that he felt exactly the same for her. But we can say that everything you said and did that night was in search of personal gain. Friends and lovers. looking at the eyes and encourage her to talk. remorse or discomfort when you lie. in short. and it is not easy to hide. lit with candles. not to lie. half-light and soft music were not part of the normal lifestyle of Dennis and the usual topic of conversation was his sport. Give the name you want . Case study: Sheelagh and Dennis Sheelagh was asked by Dennis for dinner at his house and decided whim to impress you.the group of friends who would just be reducing the lunch spicy brunette who works in the next office. in turn. All your senses . you raise the level of testosterone.are all lies.sight. is decorate. pants high heels. touch and smell . hearing. both would deny. All night. she realized that he was using to shave lotion that she said that he liked. And I was experienced enough to know that building the scenario the way they mount. Fortunately. Free sex with no inhibitions.

People in evidence as actors. but if War took the decision not to warn it would also be guilty of lying. War. He was lying heroically. The lies and malicious misconduct tend to be used as weapons in competitive situations. This type of lie is an intentional act. in fact. When the truth was restored. it is not an uncommon political rumors spread that an opponent has his inappropriate sexual behavior. The journalists who offer the stories to newspapers and magazines sensational. Say. Lie beneficial to the malicious lies and malicious lie. In forging a inverídica information is presented as true. Malicious lies are motivated by revenge or to gain advantages.Types of lies There are four basic types of lies . this time by an act of concealment. The malicious lie has two main forms: concealment and falsification. to get him out of the rival. can spread the false information that its main competitor is in financial difficulties. heard. business and politics. sensitive. A couple had their school and its reputation destroyed because they spread the rumor that sexually hurt the students. even if they are inverídicas also benefit as the rivals of those affected in the world art. because the intention of the liar in this case is hurt or take advantage of victims in their own benefit. through another friend. making it the guarantor of a loan and giving it the default. the lying does not count as a lie. Nobody could blame for not warning Gerris Margie because Margie may not believe. The medical mind that the patient in the bed of death to raise her mood. C mo already said. with results to be devastated and durable. or as safe prescription drugs . parents who were themselves taught them to lie to prevent the . and when he met a man who seemed loving. ra late because the damage was enormous.technically lying. he was a notorious playboy. A month later. fun and is interested in her. One company.the Branda Lie. she gives him in the face of the neighborhood shopping center . and do as little. To tell her friend Margie who was seeing this man. In the blind. This is the case of the German farmer who hid Jews from Nazis and denied to the authorities. Invent the people intend to destroy the character and reputation of their victims. who. left little. for example. The malicious lie is the most dangerous. was single mother. that a man cheating ex-girlfriend. The fireman who rescues a child from a house on fire and mind to it saying that their parents are and is protecting it for some time to suffer an even greater trauma. sorry. politicians and richies are the main targets of malicious lies. In general. discovering that War was over. intelligent. for example. was delighted. the Lie Branda is part of our social fabric and prevents us from ferirmos and insult each other with the truth hard. Types of liars "Natural liars" are people who are fully aware and confident in their ability to deceive. Similarly.placebos . he misappropriate information. Margie War gave false information on the character of a man. The Lie benefit is used by people with the intention of helping. cold and painful. not an accident. A known God. a person who could not trust.embraced with a smile-tooth Margie. War then moved to avoid it.

Some returned in this type of experience. as the biggest talent is his ability to live a lie plausible enough time to its victim fall in love. For those liars.terrible punishment that would apply if told the truth. vendors. The "liar non-natural" is the person who as a child. the only limit is the imagination. but first it will screw you." annoying. while others are masters in pose of lawyers. actors. because it would inevitably discovered. psychological and financial. Romantic Some liars are specialists in hiding who are married. where most people mind and anything. MAL Pancoast One of the most dangerous lie that a woman can find the way is the romantic. Consequently. merchants. Studies and experiments show. repeating that "I never lie. that men and women lie in equal Others . The most common objective of Romantic Liar is starting money. was persuaded by the parents that it was impossible to lie. When a Romantic Liar enter into action. Many natural liars take advantage of that ability in adulthood become criminal lawyers. The offices of the therapists are full of intelligent women and full of resources Romantic victims of a Liar. These poor creatures spend their lives indiscriminately telling the truth about everything. however. The emotional damage and loss of self-esteem often far beyond the material losses in these cases and may leave a woman emotionally marked: it will hardly believe any man. seems to learn nothing suffered. Romantic liars can appear anywhere and go in and chat on the Internet. but will save you a far greater suffering in the long term. doctors and businessmen to raise the successful. but what they want to believe that it is like the truth. the woman usually does not the slightest idea of what is happening. offending and creating problems for everyone they know. If you lead the department of personnel of a large company would want to know as much as possible about a person applying for a position of trust. right? Why not do the same with a prospective partner? The advice here is: always check the history of any product you want to keep for long. It can be painful discover its faults. The truth will free him. and sexual interest. pretending to give in return love and emotion. Who minds the most? Most of the women has to say categorically that men lie more frequently than between them. Even smart women be fooled by a Romantic Liar. She is blind to the lies or deny. People say love of truth. sex and other benefits of women. politicians and spies. even when they are evident to friends and family. they can cause enormous damage to women's emotional.

" The man who betrayed a lie until well beyond any evidence because. "Once and for all. no matter where or when. And they say that sex with ex was better than with you. lying also likely to leave you angry. Women of the m general. even thinking that the person was like a sack of potatoes. but lie differently. has nothing to gain by telling the truth. the man moves away to not have to lie. Even become aggressive." Sex is one of the constants of life of man .except for being really drunk. In an extreme case.women lie as much as men." or simply saying that lie loved.propose What varies is the content of the lie. most women know very well that he is lying. "She is my friend. The main question of the men who do women lie is: "What it was good?" The most common form of lie is self-deception. Women lie to keep the relationship safe and have great difficulty in lying about their feelings." tell a lie as indirect "I do not know what to say. such as smoking two packs of cigarettes a day repeating that it is not biased and can stop whenever you want. What 's wrong with that?" He says she is a friend from childhood and . Common lies that men tell women "I'm not drunk" a lie is easy to get. This is the main difference lies between male and female. and only will if forced to give their opinion. He will say that the clothes are "interesting.it is always good. or convince themselves that a calorie dessert not affect the system. and men for doing good. And in those cases where the man mind. tend to lie to make others feel better. The men lie to avoid discussion and to say. in his head. to defend themselves from charges of women. There is no reason to say that a person is not drunk . The human mind to do good. The woman mind to make the man feel good. which leaves the impression that lie more. They just continue to get caught. a man is able to say it is vice-director of a multinational distribution of food when it has a business of supply of pizza at home. Under the same circumstances. I never trance with that woman. They do not lie anymore. it is highly likely that he is lying. as if you were deeply offended. Due to heightening awareness for women's body language and vocal signs. men are caught much more frequently. If a man says that sex with the ex was a drug. "The sex with my ex was a drug. The evidence is clear . especially because it usually sounds "Eooo a xtô bêbadu. The woman said that a mind was wonderful clothes for someone.

therefore. But keep away from you and not to let her know. but will not have the slightest difficulty in lying to the enemy if captured in war. Must be able to rapidly assess the attitude of people who are close to their nest . The closer a person.in general if they can get along. Try to disguise these tracks creates an emotional issue for the majority of us. she is sick and wants me to go visit her. Here is the key to duck-logical liar: he has no emotional connection with anyone. hunger. Without these techniques of survival.who have no other interest in it. she is vulnerable. lie is easy. The woman must have ability to look at their offspring and immediately identify the pain. in general. involve emotions that flashing red lights as verbal or visual. signs and changes in body tone. As I said. MRI scans of brain show that a woman has from 14 to 16 key points in the two hemispheres when communicating face to face. the woman is able to read the emotions of animals. she does not feel anything for me. and respond to a large extent by what is known as "female intuition". advise him or try to understand it. The man has on average 4 to 7 of those points. sorrow and joy. she is just needing a friend to talk. Most men do not think that guy has a dog required. sad. If you see or not these tracks. " Why not stick the lies? Most lies can be detected because.whether friendly or aggressive. disease. angry or embarrassed. without being caught. in danger. She knows I tell if a dog is happy. so that it can handle more . Why women are so good at catching lies? Most men know how difficult it is to run even a small lie to a woman face to face. The purpose of man hunter was always reach its target accurately and not talk to him. the woman's brain is organized into multiple tracks. because your brain is more developed for spatial tasks than for communication. These points are used to decode words. more tracks will be left by the liar. it is best to do so by telephone. so do not want you to go eat with us. For the same reasons. fear. she is going through a difficult situation and I want to help. A husband has difficulty to lie to his wife if he really loves. Other variants include: "She is lesbian. she needs to tell me something very secret. the more difficult it is to lie because of the emotions involved. Most women have less difficulty to lie in the face of the man . The "hypersensitive" female has two goals: defend its territory against foreign and communicate with the children. The man needs to reach its target accurately and not having a conversation with him deeper and full of meaning. On May the lie and the more emotions involved. If the man wants to lie to a woman. is another problem.

Why do women always remember? Erik Everhart. a survey of 2002.the part of the brain used in language and the storage and retrieval of memory . that Bill Clinton lour for a split second before answering any question about Monica Lewinsky. and colleagues from the State University of New York in Buffalo.information at the same time. Women are very good at remembering what was the lie that those who counted and counted. If it needs. fraud and stealing. 3. This gives you the added advantage of knowing how to read the physical signs and hear what is being said while speaking. For that use the slow motion. for example. In the United States. assistant professor of psychology from East Carolina University. We search for 3243 students from secondary school. .092 adults. you are informed at once and let go. Women not only have a greater ability to detect lies as they have greater ability to save them as ammunition for future discussions. The FBI agents learn to analyze the "micro-expressions" . swindling. Sixty-one percent of secundaristas and 32% of students admitted to have circumvented the tests at least once in the previous year. about nine thousand adolescents and adults from all over the country. call her or send her an email. lasting from a fraction of a second. people who are lying. The woman's brain is programmed to read the signs when they happen.the subtle expressions.630 students and 2. fleeting. in the forms and job interviews to get what they want. while the men often forget their lies. and 16% of secundaristas said that it had done at least once. plus the left. Read the mouth and eyes of someone requires a more refined analysis than judging the emotions of the face piece. which explains not only why they are much more difficult to deceive. The hippocampus . Advice for men Do not waste time telling a lie to a woman face to face.is full of receptors for estrogen and grows more rapidly in girls than in boys. and the girls. found that boys and girls from 8 to 11 years of age using different parts of their brains to identify faces and expressions Boys most use the right side. giving women greater ability to recover memories of things loaded with emotion. Young people are more prone to lying. There was. so many physical signs. stealing The younger the person. but also that they are often negotiating more perceptive than men. making them better able to understand the state of mind of people. The man with the brain of single track. It is very difficult. About 33% of secundaristas and 16% of students admitted having stolen goods from a shop on the previous year. more prone to cheat. Found that this difference helps the girl to detect subtle changes of facial expressions. A third of students in each group was told to put lies prone in the curriculum vitae. showed that a significant number of people in the range 15 to 30 years is prone to lying.

for example. If people know that you are angry. "What is the reason for the fight?" Asks the father. "We're doing a competition. If you are a person who offends easily. The researchers found that the dishonesty and other unethical behaviors were less common among people over 30 years and lied that the two sexes in equal proportion. almost forcing the others to lie. as they themselves are liars usual. that the severity of punishment is a major stimulus to lie and one of the main reasons that children grow as stubborn liars. but similar studies conducted across the West showed the same trend. Most parents do not realize. I avoid at all costs. In such cases." replied the boys. these are symptoms of great moral crisis that rages in all societies. Asked the student. but the bribe the guard to watch traffic. and adulthood are triggered by figures of authority. When someone reacts to what is said so aggressive and emotional. The children hear from parents that honesty is the best result. apologize: "Dad. When all the known lie to you Some believe that we should not trust anyone and that the world is full of liars. too hurt or vengeful when he hears the truth. The father is approaching heatedly discuss that next to a puppy. Many of the behavioral patterns are liars down during childhood and youth. "Who gains from the biggest lie the dog. replied the director." Based on this study. If you ask the children to tell you the truth."I can trouble for something I did?". never know what the other is really thinking or feeling about them. assume that all other people are. The father responds. "I never lied!" The boys were put to cry." The survey found that 83% of secundaristas and 61% of university lied to the parents during the previous year. The most disturbing was that 73% of those surveyed in the range 15 to 30 years said to believe that "most people cheat and lie when necessary to achieve what they want. it is a duty of kindness and just education. symptoms that reflect a real change of values in these societies. the teaching is lying to protect themselves. we could say that Americans are a bunch of liars and fraudsters. Why the lies of friends and family hurt more . then the sanctions because the truth is not in line with its expectations. is that the behavior of these people makes the others lie to them. you got it!" Ambiguous messages about the lie that children receive has a major impact on their behavior when they grow up. The second reason. because they will distort the truth to avoid reaction." "That ugly thing!". It is different than being instructed to pretend to like the gifts that have won or give a kiss on the annoying aunt who will visit them. 'No'. will say. more likely. why did not the duty of the house. people flatter you do not like to give excuses to justify a lack liars or cancel an appointment. People find this for two reasons: first. Unfortunately. "Great.

generally the third response is not accurate and the story seems a little different. the more we trust it. " To recall the events of the day. Good liars are able to make a second version identical. If later the demand and it says "My car broke down and had no cell battery." The liars also avoid using the name of the person involved in the lie. no. mother. They prefer to say "I do not trance with that woman" than "I do not trance with Monica.. The liars leave the lies out of its references to themselves and avoided using the word "I"." you instinctively distrust most of what she said "My car broke and I could not call you because the phone's battery was weak. analyzing the words of suspects who had alibis false. because the feeling of betrayal is more pro-fund and you do not want to remove this person from your life. because the person will be our brother.The more intimate the relationship. How to read between the what is said . Ask liar to repeat what you think is a lie. aah . brother or sister hurts deeper.. Clues to unmask a liar How people feel uncomfortable with the lie. the more open to it. sister or child. for that before-I had to go get my car in the workshop . The FBI recently discovered this valuable clue. The lie of a close friend also hurt. At the other extreme. In the end she will betray an excess of confidence in the performance.. the used car salesman will lie to us. they instinctively seek to distance itself from them. cause more suffering to a lie. the liar's voice becomes more acute. due to the stress associated with the lie. in principle. people usually stop and change direction to try to put things in order.. As he does not expect this repeteco and is more relaxed.. we know that. A malicious lie told by her husband. we surprised him with it and can choose to not see him ever again. but that person can be eliminated from our lives. But the habitual liar not hesitate or forget. I i in my brother's house after breakfast and then . because the closer the person. Who does one turn is two If you think a person is lying. Consider the example of a person who combines is with you and not displayed.. father." Liars do not hesitate Ask a person what she did last weekend and she will probably think a bit before saying something like: "Ah . if I act like every word. I saw my brother after lunch.. He tested his mind many times in the head and is generally able to perform without error. Then give a break to the suspect to let him think that made it. at least for a time. Furthermore. His script is perfectly decorated and rarely does it wrong. A lie told by a brother. just leaving to find her. wife. but tends to be forgiven. sister or child hurts more than told by an acquaintance. then ask them to repeat a third time.

$ 40. not mean that it will not believe what is being narrated. because they give the impression that the listener is unable. try not to eliminate them is liable to generate mistrust. A friend was my ex-beats the classroom at the college to respond with "Bullshit!" the statement of professor of religious sciences that had more than a thousand shrines where the Virgin Mary operated miracles. "Only" and "only" The words "only" just "are used to minimize the meaning of words" which are then to relieve the guilt of the speaker or p ra blaming the other for any unpleasant consequence. he makes his observation with a "Trust me. not a rule. but should pay attention when you hear "just" and "only". "I love you" is easier to believe than "Honestly.95" and "Only U. Do you lack the confidence to say you feel? Are you trying to fool? Or are you wanting to escape from their responsibilities? Of course. but in the end thought that it was untrue. it is more clear that a contract gives you the possibility to interrupt the conversation past the time stipulated. Pay attention to your speech to see if you USA often these words and. "You understand?" or "Do you understand?" at the end of the sentence are irritating mannerisms. However. trustworthy and decent credit need not convince anyone of it. "sincere" and "frankly" indicate that the speaker should be considerably less. if so. indicating that the person may be trying to hide the truth or convince you of an emotion that she does not feel. Who is being honest." When you hear someone say "only" and "only" should think about why the person tries to minimize the importance of what you're saying. If the person says "You give me five minutes?" and you agree. To feel that you are not believing it. "I only take five minutes of your time" is the USA. Unconsciously do this by introducing a true statement. The words "honesty". you will do what I want. this is the best I can offer you" is sometimes translated as "might not be the best that I have to offer. Here is a list of terms commonly used by people who want to convince them that speak the truth. honest and sincere than states and can be sign that he is lying.S." And no woman believes the man who says "Just a friend. but who knows you believe?". There are people who exclaim "Bullshit!" when they hear a fact which seems extraordinary. which will sound false.You already talked with someone who seems less convincing as this? Examine some common words and phrases. "Believe in what I am telling you" can mean "If I can make you believe me. saying that was just expressing surprise. She argued. ." "I'm not kidding" and "I would lie to you?" are other versions.00 for entry" is used to convince the consumer that the price is insignificant. however. But who has not always meant well. For example: "Frankly. Remember. "I just wanted to say I love you" mask the need for love is shy to say "I love you. who will hire you for a full hour. I love you." The force with which the person who says "Trust me" try to convince the other is proportional to the size of the bait. or what he is saying is not worthy of credit. "Only U. some honest people have the habit of using those words repeatedly. when in reality they want to force you to believe what they are saying. $ 9." "Without doubt" gives reason to doubt and "Without a doubt" is definitely a warning sign. "I am just a human being" is the motto of those who do not want to take responsibility for their mistakes. and oblige him to answer "I" to every request. honest. that phrase alone is not evidence of dishonesty: it must be interpreted in its context.S.

There are also physiological differences between people that may be source of errors in the polygraph test."Frankly Speaking. except when determined by the judge."Why would I lie?" ."I have no reason to lie.height. no change occurs in these indicators.. the pulse and the relative volume of blood is the most famous of lie detector. You may recognize some of these phrases: ." ."I do not belong to this type of people. These machines can now be seen in programs of the TV interviews in which the American guests also tend to prove the guilt. blood pressure. Paying attention to vocal tracks There are three characteristics of voice capable of delivering a liar ."As a member of ." . ERS."Trust me. breathing and perspiration. innocence or the fidelity of their partners. a lie is detected by the physiological effects that are manifested as the increase or decrease in heart rate. AHS. which measures the breathing apparatus."You think I would be able to do such a thing?" Some people try to use the organization to which they belong. Conversely.." . tension causes a tightening in the vocal chords that makes screechy voice and can increase its speed and volume. This is most noticeable in men than in women. speed and volume. because they have the brain less ." . while honest people may be intimidated and lied to eventually classified as roses. Answers like these are given when the person is calling and not to respond directly to a question. When a person is caught distorting the truth. have received or honor the traditions of his family to convince you of their honesty." ." . speaking more slowly and reduces the volume of voice. When a person speaks the truth. and hem breaks because there was not enough time to test the lie. When the person is wanting to cheat. The polygraph."I'm telling you the truth. but the fact is that people of character do not need live testing its virtues. Studies show that 70% of the amount of voice crotch when lying. When the person is in a situation of stress." It can also be a matter of uncertainty. their speech tends to be dotted with uhms. They live their values in a way that is visible and that gives them credibility. the liar that calculates the lie to ensure their effectiveness." . The polygraph is not accepted as evidence in court."I never I would be such a thing. Liars experienced less anxiety show that beginners and are sometimes able to pass the test of the polygraph."To be absolutely frank / honest / honest with you. Getting lie with the computer The progress of technology of computer generated three interesting ways to detect liars.. Recent studies show that the accuracy of the new computerized polygraph is close to 100%.

they show that it is experiencing some kind of stress. There are people who lie comfortably. it does not show signs of fraud. Both men and women take much to hand to the face when in doubt. take your fingers to rub the nose or mouth. may be itching. The fake smile is generally slow and asymmetric. feel insecure. however. that Bill Clinton touched his nose and face 26 times when answered questions about Monica Lewinsky before the grand jury. your facial expressions are asymmetric. is usually rapid and symmetrical .equipped to control the language. Interpreting body language In our book The Language of the Body body showed signs that represent more than 60% of the messages exchanged between people. and others. Keep in mind that they are not satisfied that the person is lying. Smile Men and women smile the same way as when they lie and the truth. This is true for children educated in Western culture and European. In other words. If someone rub your eyes. your smile is crooked means. If it touches the face several times and at the same time says "trust me". Mothers them said "I know you're lying . without displaying too many signs of the stress. pull the ear. nothing guarantees that lying. When someone rub the eye. it is reasonable to assume that you are listening to a lie. When it comes to lie in general at least three signs. When people try to show that they do not feel emotions. like politicians and religious fanatics who. "believe me". The smile that accompanies a true statement. suspicious. When the person mumble a reply to a question directly. There was. scratches his neck. exaggerate or lie. "to be honest. Interpret the whole Never interpret a gesture alone. and it is likely to be hiding something. But most of the liars give many signs. pulling the ear and bring the hand to the neck. Is in the eye You probably learned to believe the liar never looks in the eyes. for example. they believe their lies. most of the time. but there is something she is not saying. but there are some signs you can see when someone is lying. discussing the matter extensively. The male gestures are easier to understand because they are more extensive and frequent: rubbing eyes and nose.the left side of the face mirrors the right side. In the book. irritation or fatigue.

. Aggressive questions as "Why do not you call me?" and "Are you seeing anyone?" may cause the liar is to secure its position and not improve anything in your relationship with him. It is important to note if s eyes blink more often . Stay calm. he will feel uncomfortable. 10. 2.a sign of growing tension and dryness of the eyeball. trigger the left side of the brain and generally look to the right. Mimic the posture and his movement to establish a communication and make it more difficult for him to lie to you. As not being a victim of lies 1. but is a strong evidence of cheating. Pretend not to hear or say that law did not understand what he said. 5. Descruze legs. Talk soon. Add involuntary facial movements. Smile with the lips closed. and when invented a story. trigger the right side of the brain and look to the left. Liars just want to finish with the conversation. 8. His eyes fitam the void. 9. 4." In cultures where maintaining prolonged eye contact is considered an ill-educated attitude and aggressive. but record the suffering that their attitude question to you. open your arms and tilt it back. If you react negatively or with much emphasis. Crossing your arms or legs. Mispronounce or mumble the words. 4. If you get close. skillful liars look to the left. it is possible to continue denying it. resulting in forced eye contact. It is the forced smile used by both sexes for fake sincerity. It is an instinct for defense. Hide your hands. 5. and a signal is almost impossible to disguise." In the latter case. The deft." "I am sad when I think you're seeing another woman. this does not apply. Sit in the chair higher. Demonstrate warmth and laughter too. If the room has a door. 2. Never say what you really know . Do not show surprise or amazement. recalled when a real event. because it shows which part of the brain they are using. experienced liars can maintain eye contact when they lie. Not maintain eye contact.does not show that you know they're lying. Give it an "exit". you lose the chance to be knowing the truth. Deepening the pupils 6. is where it will look. The brain tries to prevent the face of information. In addition. This observation is not without errors. 7. Shake your head indicating "no" when they answered "yes" and vice versa. without further difficulty. Try making it easy to tell the truth. Do not accuse. A liar think doing so is not lying.because you can not look in my eyes. Always leave an exit for him to go back and tell the truth. 3. look liars left to right. Signs that denounce the lie in men 1. 8. The direction where to move the eye of the person when it is a question you can also help you identify a liar. In simple terms. 9. It is a subtle form of intimidation. "Open up" to the truth. The invading his personal space. Use the technique of self: "I felt a lack of your call. 3. 7. Men find it easier to lie with your hands in your pockets. 6. He wants to make you like it to believe it.

10. Finally. Give him one last chance. Ignore the lie and say "What can we do that does not happen more?". If he thinks you miss the hook. to find a solution to not having to resort to lying again. the more likely it is to confess everything and. And that is something that men and women will never understand. . at worst. we asked our readers to send us the 9 phrases that men hear when they hide what they really want: dictionary of language patterns of male The men never understand women and women will never understand men.

Measure your waist and hips and calculate the proportion waist / hip dividing the waist by the hip. b. more than 80%. Fashion shoes with medium heel. but with elegance. If you could buy a new clothes regardless of price. When you are chatting with an attractive man that stops leg bigwig. What type of shoe predominates in your wardrobe? a. 4. 6. not too flashy. with comfortable shoes. 65 to 80%. At the first meeting. c. It is a guide to the impact that you cause or ceases to cause a man when he sees for the first time. Their ratio is: a. textures and female body language signals. b. This is a test to see how a man to evaluate the primeiva finding the time or were looking at his picture. or jump down. Which of the following attributes best describe your body? a. 1. With trousers or a long skirt. 5. Tiny shoes. Heavy. Skinny / straight. Athletic / strong. how you dress for the man trying to impress? a. fair and low-necked to let that show their physical gifts. with and without straps. how he reacts to you? This is something that every woman thinks: what is the first impression of a man when he says the first time? Most women want to know to what extent are attractive to men. which would you prefer? a. c. based on responses from the male brain to certain forms. 3. A short clothes. c. colors. A long and undulating clothes that cover all problem areas. if your waist measures 75cm and 100cm his hip. but elegant. c. what is your attitude? . c. 2.Chapter 9 THE TESTING OF WOMEN'S SEXUAL APPEAL How do you make people work? Take the test When the eyes of a man found the trellis in a room. b. Terninho a stylish and well cut. Modern in short skirts and high heels to show the legs. sizes. High heels. appearance and presentation. Created then this test to give you an idea of how they look. proportions. the proportion is 75%. less than 65%. The test relates only to their physical shape. b. For example. b. The influence of personality traits on their attraction to men will be discussed later. Casual.

the rear tilt and throwing a kiss to the camera. c. Short. 14. I use much makeup. Try to make it sit so that it can not see his body. thin or thin. regardless of day or hour to get the best appearance possible. 8. You're going to a dinner in the light of candles and want to be sexy. b. c. 13 . 9. c. which he say? a.a. Move the hair. but sincere. If you ask a stranger to describe your ass. Round / in the form of a peach. is the language on the lips. lean hips and the caress your body to draw attention to it. c. 12. c. thin or athletic. b. Curvilinear. b. Inclined to the front. Soft / smooth. 7. hands on hips and lips exposed. say: a. If you were invited to pose for Vogue. thick and strong. Plump.How would you describe the your neck? a. Back arched. with hair pulled to the top of the head. b. With a bra to lift the breasts and let the shows the neckline. hips recline. Infant / big eyes. which would pose? a. Elegant / powerful features. 15. as he seems? a. b. b. Lean / angulosa / muscular. If your friends would describe her face. b. Average length and thickness. Long. Heavy load. Stay near him with the legs unfolded. Looking over the shoulder. With loose clothes that do not give any idea of the body that is underneath. c. My face is my blade. b. 10. b. If Picasso was painting you would like? a. c. With an outfit just to highlight the silhouette. c. Describe your makeup: a. Compact / muscular. Colors and styles are in fashion. What use . Smooth. How you dress for the evening out with friends? a. When you pass your hand in the stomach. c. Natural. Full. Protuberans / round. 11.

Earrings with stones of medium size and pretty. And you can improve your appearance. Small as a button. c. 16. Earrings of pearls and small diamonds. in the medium term. Almonds. Sexy c. Small / tight. Pedestrians stop to work to work and . Large / child.Comprido b. Neutral / natural color. You're getting dressed to go to the Oscar party. Carefree b. 17. How would you describe your appearance a. Greater. Your Hair is a. Long before diamonds. b. 18. As a man describe his eyes? a. Medium. You can use the earrings you want. Short 20.lipstick? a. b. b. 100 points or more: The goddess of sex When the men see. c. modify that image. c. b. they are immediately gaff. Elegant Your Score Now calculate your score and see where you are classified in terms of its appearance shows that of their sexuality. Bright red. Always remember to two things: their personality traits may. Look at his nose in the mirror. c. The color of fashion. 19. As a cartoonist designer? a. Middle c. You choose: a.

You might say that is not interested in men who are no longer hypnotize by physical appearance. But why not invest in their physical as well as invest in the intellect? Both of them are its aspects. You can improve your presentation without compromising their beliefs. just needs some work areas to achieve what men want. is that even the most sensitive men and intelectualizados are at the mercy of biology. Men like to see it and deal. If you got 78 to 99 points. for example. however. Why not work with it . The next chapter will show you the reason for their success and how to further improve its score. become more attractive to men. Means that you are reasonably successful in making men feel attracted to you at first. Men feel women inevitably attracted by clear signs. will make you feel more beautiful and healthy and give you a great pleasure to live. will have even more spectacular results. Less than 65 points: Let's whim? You probably believe that personality is more important than appearance. knowing that so attract a greater number of men and have more chance to choose? The next chapter will show you how to become more attractive and why most men babam by women with lower QLS and not look twice at you. .whatever you dislike . The attraction that you will hold on men is just one extra! You can also disguise their physical imperfections dressed up in a way that emphasized their strengths. If received 66 to 78. know that if we really invest in their physical appearance. Sign in to an academy to improve the form. You are really an expert in the game of her sexuality and never missing program. and it is being right. at least in principle. 66 to 99 points: Miss Elegance Most women are in this squad.whistles when you pass.to improve their appearance. The problem.

Four years after the marriage. That does not mean you can not succeed with the opposite sex because it is not equal to Cameron Diaz or Brad Pitt. She said they liked to wear for him and especially how he looked when she arrived. Like it or not. And found that the husband was much more frivolous than she imagined. which is why we have to react to them. no makeup and the hair drained. At home after work. People who know are up to 90% of their opinion about us in the first four minutes and assess whether we are desirable in less than ten seconds. contrasted with the appearance of Kim. Kim felt that now was as a married woman need not impress anyone and most especially if store was loss of time. But began to irritate the fact that she is working to produce. in addition to raising their self-esteem. It boiled inside. But Kim soon began to neglect when left with friends. Left to makeup. For the first time. money and energy. She was angry. where all were well stowed and makeup and flirting with him. Kim changed. This is a line of evolutionary psychology that says that in the brain of each of us.Chapter 10 OR AND MAKES THE EYES OF MEN JUMP The power of female sexual attraction Case Study: Kim and Daniel Kim and Daniel were already leaving a year and had decided to marry. As men are visual creatures stimulated by the appearance of Kim was a discouragement. What is more powerful. did not understand why he could not love her the way she was. In his office. you can easily become more captivating. she always was in slippers and bathrobe. Daniel could not explain his feelings and was blaming it for having touched on the subject. Both loved the relationship and thought that the other was the ideal partner. began to show cracks in the marriage and he started to notice other women. and when left with friends. Kim left like her mother. Kim now is related to a group of women who think men are all us idiots. while at home was a tragedy. Daniel thought that maybe she was going through a difficult period at work and once again take care. This behavior he said he and his friends were not important. Daniel liked to see Kim always went out together when stowed and thought that her appearance was a clear signal that he had made the right choice. do not deserve any effort on her part. Daniel has been living with Kim and Jade. There seemed more care with the look inside. Six months later. In this chapter we will examine the ingredients that make men and women desirable and attractive to each other. therefore: beauty and physical attraction and personality or . But understanding how the process of attracting and employing some simple strategies in your favor. Daniel decided to confront the situation and told Kim how she felt. and Daniel was leaving to look for her to do sex. who met at work. which. do not shave and wore clothes that for Daniel. the physical appearance affects our ability to attract and keep a partner. there are patterns of behavior constructed by the waste needs of our ancestors. The ancestral biological signs of gender that we explain the working of the subconscious level.

the attraction occurs in the biological.intelligence? They will be examined in this chapter. What the science says Polls (Eagly. Beauty and sexual attraction is essentially the same thing: the original meaning of the paplowing "beautiful" is "sexually stimulating". The evolution shaped our brains so that the good appearance is a sign of healthy person and relatively free of diseases. Subsequent research revealed that 73% of voters denied categorically that may have been influenced by the appearance of the candidate and only one in eight voters are willing to at least consider this. put aside the theories of romantic love. For a woman. . This means that they decided their vote on a subconscious level. Analyzing the results of Canadian federal elections of 1976. The biological purpose of beauty is attracting for breeding purposes. without even know it. the evidence still saying that our brains are programmed to respond to the physical appearance of the other. the subtext biological basics. And to be as objective as possible. Ashmore. Tell a person that she is beautiful or attractive is to say. and Longo Makhija) show that we automatically assign positive traits such as honesty. that make it desirable to the potential partner. You can choose to become attractive. you want to have sex with her. in turn. The good news is that we have control over many of the determinants of our appearance and we can if we want. intelligence. the people of good appearance. higher wages. the answers to these early signs of attraction are programmed in the brain. This explains why many women tend to feel attracted by older men. The theory of beauty Every person emits signals. In both sexes. Perhaps it is politically correct deny the impact of attractiveness in our decisions. the University of Toronto found that attractive candidates received a number of votes in two and a half times larger than the non attractive. change things. Attractive to people better jobs. Messages are encoded and sent to tell others whether we are or not suitable for their purposes. without being aware of it. For men. is an attractive man who is presented as biologically able to provide you with food and safety during the creation of children. but like it or not. Bill CIinton is proof. when the woman displays the skills that allow you to pass their genes to the next generation. Women like older men because they have more experience and more access to resources. the ideas about what is politically correct and personal subtleties. tangible and intangible. have more credibility and even more permission to break the rules than their less attractive correlative. kindness and talent.

Today the look emphasizes youth and vigor: the competition of beauty were created exclusively to promote an image that reflects the attractiveness of women's health. We will examine it further. poets and writers in the last six thousand years: the body and appearance of women have more attractive on men than their intelligence and capacities. Athletic silhouette 2. is something very different. The wife is chosen for his virtue. Factors that drive men in order of priority 1. Keep in mind that we are considering only the physical and geographical characteristics of the body. almost all studies on the attraction reached the same conclusions that came painters. In the next two chapters you will know the results of 23 studies and experiments showing what men consider attractive in the body of the woman and vice versa. At the end of this chapter. Speaks to the things we pursue in attracting someone before you hear the person talk or even to know who is. but as you see. It is understood that the body of women has evolved as a permanent sexual signaling system.The woman's body . In the last sixty years. researchers from Massachusetts General Hospital found that these images activate the same parts of the brain that cocaine and cash. a concubine for her beauty. however. Sick sinus . developed to attract the attention of man.which encourages more men The "point" considered the most appropriate for the western woman in the nineteenth century was a pale complexion. Based on these results. Sexy mouth 3. the criteria for male choice of a long term partner are not the same. classify each part of the body in a ranking of attractiveness and explain the reason for his influence. we discuss the non-physical factors related to the choice of our partners. Chinese Proverb What makes a man attractive to a woman. even politically correct in the twentieth century. as if assessing a potential partner through a photograph. To display photographs of women "beautiful" to heterosexual men. The man of the twenty-first century or the same immediate things a woman as their ancestors. his face lightly colored and an air of delicacy and fragility.

. and the mothers. Few women know that Marilyn Monroe. Lack of tummy 11. Most of the time the breasts of human females are the one clear purpose . Most men prefer a woman more fleshy than the lean. Long hair 9. giving you a rounded form and has no relationship to milk production. Some women are horrified when they are submitted to the meaning of that groove. was 44 and had dummy and thick legs.most men are passionately interested in them and are crazy for a groove. use it to extend its advantage. Round hips / waist fine 6.4. Whether they are the size of watermelons appear limõezinhos or . the breasts become larger. were round and fleshy buttocks that played the leading role in the attraction of males. to escape the danger and to defend the nest if necessary.are the favorite of men. one of the biggest sex symbols of the world. Why men have difficulty maintaining eye contact? Because the breasts are not eyes. Are those that appear in the center pages of men's magazines and in ads that exploit the fri-appeal. however. A strong and well formed body is a sign of health and ability to tip in-breed. dark-brown. When people went to four. The nipples of women without children are pink. Dresses sutiãs cleavages and raise the breasts emphasize the signal to create a groove that mimics the buttocks of women vis-tas behind. Small nose 10.sexual signaling. Elongated neck Men prefer to look the brain because most of them see better than thought. Since humans began walking upright. Stimulating 1: athletic silhouette the first item in the list of men is the women's athletic silhouette. Arched back 12. Eyes attractive 8. females that covered the back.from eighteen to twenty-five years of age . because fat is an extra helping of breastfeeding successful. Others. Buttocks hemispheric 7. have to attract the male that approached the front. Stimulant 3: Seios tired The breasts of women at the peak of their sexual and reproductive capacity . All research shows that men like breasts of all types and sizes. Vulva arqueada 13. Most of the breast consists of fat. Long legs 5.

because the attention is attracted to the area where the right leg and left it encountered tram. abortions and surgical extraction of ribs. women unconsciously choose more revealing dresses and high heels. and this proportion does not change much in small children. by far. reports. pies. That is why long legs have always been associated with a powerful sexuality. a stairway to heaven. Studies have shown that the length of dresses and height of jumps varies with the menstrual cycle. In the nineteenth century. Perhaps this is an important lesson for parents: lock their daughters the fourteenth to eighteenth day after the menstruation! Stimulating 5: Round Tables / Cintura fina For centuries women have used every kind of contraption to tighten the belt with the aim of obtaining a per-made for hourglass.Stimulating 4: Long Legs The vision of a woman with legs that seem to end in the axillae in men leaves a lasting impression. came to suffer deformities of the chest wall. The form that was chosen to round. tilt the buttocks. For men. wear high heels and short dresses to give the impression that they have longer legs. Babies born with legs cur-ing for body size. For a woman. Later adopted the corset to accentuate the hips and flatten the belly. When ovulado. learn quickly how the thing works. Never heard a man tell a woman she has beautiful long arms. Roseanne Stimulating 6: Buttocks hemispheric . The more legs you can see the man and the more long-gas they are the sexiest woman you think. the legs grow rapidly. In search of femininity irresistible. The high heels are. a step to stardom. Most women unconsciously understand the dynamics behind the legs extralongas and since teenagers. women increased the size of the hips and buttocks with pannier to flag potential getter. reducing their feet and pushing the pelvis forward. the arched back. the article by fri-appeal more efficient market. thus demonstrating their readiness for pregnancy and procreation. The principle behind the legs of women as sexual sign is yes. But when the girl reaches puberty and the hormones begin to flow on his body and transforming her into women. Men like women who wear high heels: they enhance the sexual profile of women stretching them to the legs. compression of organs. Even in the cold days. breathing problems. Legs extralongas become powerful non-verbal signs to tell the men that she is sexually maturing and is already able to procreate. I decided to get in shape.

Professor Devendra Singh. Marilyn Monroe cut two centimeters of the left heel of his shoe to accentuate your grinder. showing them to groups of men asked to classify them in terms of attractiveness. protruding rear. geo-metric shapes and angles. Women whose ratio exceeds 100% arouse little interest. so similar to the hump of the camel. That is why the academies and salons of yoga around the world is full of women doing abdominal exercises to get the perfect stomach type "table of my house. and lumbar spine more arched. In the groups below and above the weight. therefore. this pro-portion always showed a great ability to catch the attention of men. Young people who wanted to capture the attention of men recreate the appearance of a large back-ro wearing pannier. wider. buttocks cram the quaver and the floor. "the goddess of beautiful buttocks. women had to keep the whole body covered in public. masculinity. ie your waist measured 70% of your hip. like to women curvilinear. The greater part than the back of the woman is closer to that of man. Sculptures and paintings of the Stone Age abound in images of women with large. The most remarkable discovery was that experience that men have to share waist / hip 70% the highest score. a non-verbal indicator of low fertility. Hindquarters protruding is an ancient sign of female sexuality so revered in Greece that a temple was built in honor of Aphrodite Calipígia. They start to lose interest when the proportion exceeds 80% or is less than 70%. The jeans also became popular because it accentuated the buttocks and give them a look round and firm. A woman with healthy and fully capable of giving birth has a waist-hip ratio of 70%. usually accumulate as men. Throughout the story. Ask any woman to assume a vertical posture and sexy you'll find is the preferred . brain and testicles. associated with neglect and poor health. deposits of fat around the belly. have not most of the reproductive organs. a formation known as esteatopigia. Stimulating 10: Absence of belly Women have a more rounded belly as men. which invariably attracted the attention of men. The additional bending of the buttocks and back tilt pushes the breasts forward. to show accumulation of fat around the uterus and ovaries. young women began to make plastics and liposuction to reduce the size of the buttocks." Stimulants 11 and 12: back arched and vulva Curves and arches indicate femininity and fertility. The women of normal weight with pro-hip-waist portion around 70% were the most attractive. The mother-nature usually deposit the excess fat away from vital organs. When the excessive fat. led a test that used images of women beneath the weight above the weight and normal weight. even when the weight of women was very large. Women who already have a hysterectomy." In the nineteenth century. Men around the world. the lower. the more attractive. women with waist thinner were the favorite. High heels were with the woman hunch. peach-shaped. evolutionary psychologist at the University of Texas.The men believe the buttocks round. went out of fashion in the second half of the twentieth century. which can still be seen in some tribes of southern Africa. 'why there is no fat around the heart. The buttocks of women store large quantities of fat to use in feeding and food reserves in difficult times. and no belly is a clear sign of non-pregnancyboth for and willingness to male suitors.

the size of the ear it was the indicator of sensuality. was used by Egyptians as an eco genital permanent. The zoologists believe that the woman's lips moved as mirror of his genitals. Men like their women to wear lipstick and makeup by artificially give the signal that they are interested or feel excited for them. that bond still .children should have a touch. because they have the same size and thickness. These signals cause reactions in parental brains of men and a powerful desire to touch. As the face attracts Our interest in human faces attractive is something that seems to be part of our psychology and does not depend on cultural backgrounds.red. Flesh lips and big eyes on the size of the face. is also expanding and is filled with blood. ask any woman to be on foot and make a sexy pose. the formula is clear . Stimulating 13: Neck elongated the neck structures evolved in males as short. The blush is to recreate that effect. men like a grin and an air vulnerable. And to the face of a woman is generally classified as "beautiful". this often cause great anxiety with regard to aging. If you do not believe.position of the hook-up back and quaver of the hips. The base gives the skin a uniform appearance and no stains that signals youth. invented the first beauty salon in six thousand years ago. good health and good genes. Look at how many these days use plastic surgery to try to conserve or restore the youthful look. The lipstick. Above all. The bright red lipstick is one of the main signs that a sexual woman can use. The women's favorite features are the small faces with short jaws. PICASSO The excitement of women's sexuality can cause a flushing in the capillarity of its sides. delicate jaws. with both arms supported them to occupy more space and increase the chance to draw attention. thick and strong to protect them from breaks during the hunts and battles. For thousands of years. For women. Exciting 2: Boca sensual Humans are the only press that these are the lips on the outside of the mouth. All races prefer faces that emerged ability to play healthy. That made the neck longer and thin women a powerful sign of differentiation between the sexes that men like to kiss and see adorned in jewels and cartoonists exaggerate to emphasize the femininity. protruding apples. a reaction that sends powerful signals to men and that observers began to develop when we began to walk upright. And always had a single color . It is always the favorite color of every woman who poses for sexual symbol. embrace and protect. This is known as "eco genital". and state of sexual arousal. The woman's face is a screen on which a daily basis it paints a picture of me before her.

which immediately attracts the . eye liner and shadow to artificially create the impression that she is interested. We did a survey with 5. even the actors are doing operations for the reduction of nose in line with the new image of the androgynous man of twenty-first century. in 1920. The men feel more attracted to women who use natural rnaquiagem than by women who seem to have been molded to reap the bricklayer. Stimulating 9: Nose Small Small nose is another reminiscence of childhood in men that produces feelings of security. Stimulating 7: Eyes attractive In almost all countries. Will never see a female model with a large nose. Our tests with computer images show that the longer the earrings of women. The blondes are also in front of other things. and the blondes are the genuine public also laurels. Stimulating 8: long hair If the person never cut his hair. Today.all with the purpose of creating the illusion of sexual facial signs. Barbie and Minnie Mouse have small nose.exists in parts of Africa and in Borneo. Excesses may send a wrong impression to customers and cause of male rivalry in female clients. the men show a preference for women of color and clear eyes. something that only men seem to understand. giving them that look childish. They interpret as a sign of fertility. the industry of perfumery and cosmetics reached a total value of more than 50 trillion dollars a year . a woman who wants to be taken seriously in the workplace should use less eye makeup and lipsticks colors more subtle. Similarly. joined in greater numbers in the workforce. creating characters of large eyes and small nose to win the hearts of your audience. The cartoonists exploit this feature to a large extent. Eyes that look great on the lower face in men inspire feelings of security. among the tribes Kelabit and Kenyah. The feminists might say that these are good reasons not to use cosmetics or earrings. if their pupils dilate and mascara. but it is important that women understand the effects that these signs have in exploiting the men and romantic meetings. large eyes are considered attractive. Bambi. most men give their sensuality. The plastic surgeons usually modify the nostrils to form an angle of 35-40 degrees to the face. which explains why men find "strangely attractive" women who wear contact lenses. he would reach about one meter long. the cute 110 thousand and 90 thousand redheads. we have become so unaccustomed to see faces clean.is this the real reason for the greater success of blondes? The blond hair is also a powerful visual indicator of women's youth: it darkens after she gives birth. Since then. Unfortunately. as some women believe to be ugly without makeup and use it as a mask to hide and not as an aid to make their faces more seductive and mysterious. The modern woman gets the same effect using long pending. asking them what kind of hair seemed more . Over you-do. When a woman finds a man attractive. Contact lenses give the illusion that the woman's eyes are shining and the dilated pupils. The blondes have 140 thousand yarn hair. Blond-haired women have a higher level of estrogen that cute. Women began to use modern cosmetic when. The makeup enhances your eyes and look the child rearing.214 British men.

In business. A man. Women must understand that the men crawl the Internet in search of shapes and curves that appeal to your brain. In the case of the Miss Universe. Considered that the long hair gave the woman a sensual delight and the short hair indicated a more serious approach to life. but through paintings. the clothes of women emphasized their physical skills in order to attract the attention of potential suitors. over 70% of the audience are formed by men who want to see women showing signs able to stimulate the reactions of their ancestral brain. when you see a pornographic image of a woman. 12% of women prefer short hair. The result was predictable: 74% think the long hair of women more sexually attractive. Styles as punk and grunge came as opposition to the use of clothing to attract men and to show the world that men and women could be equal in regard to appearance. however. The men of past generations would also like to feast your eyes with erotic images of women. The lessons to be learned here is clear: the woman must use when long hair and want to attract men hair short or pulled back in working meetings. In remote times.sexually attractive women. How does the person you want to influence you waiting for? How should your makeup. an idea that attracted millions of women everywhere. The impact of women's clothing on men The discussion of the effects of women's appearance requires some understanding of the history of clothing. her jewelry. play piano or fight for world peace. her hair and clothing to ensure an image of credibility. The costume gives it a professional position of equality with men and women of business and. Until the beginning of the feminist movement in the 1960s.the inner beauty now had more than the appearance. The artists who carved. use the black lipstick and nail until the display dark olheiras as if they were doped. the importance and attractiveness of what the dresses. This code antiatração of clothing has evolved to the point that in 1990. a sexy appearance may be disadvantageous for women in a position of power or in a branch where men predominate. They believed then that could be free of oppressive obligation of having to always be beautiful for men. Ninety-nine percent of pornographic sites on the Internet are addressed to men. the models begin to have no female bodies. He is attracted by the shapes and curves and the virtual suggestion that she is able to transmit their genes. For centuries. The modern woman has two basic codes of dress: clothes and work clothes of non-work. emaciated-looking. It never occurs if it has a nice personality. who rarely attend the fashion show. This appearance has little success with the heterosexual men. never knows if she does cook. power. the other has no choice. and the vast majority of images of naked men to be homosexuals. The key to a successful clothing business is simple. secondly. women wore it for the reason of all: to attract men and other women overcome. The feminism that said women dress to attract men is not more important . The link between attraction and pornography See pornography is an activity almost entirely male. it allows women to overcome further demonstrate the success. painted or drew pictures of naked women were almost all men. reliability and integrity in business? If you are a branch . long hair and bright and showed a healthy body well nourished and have a history of health of its carrier and its potential for procreation.

in it is necessary to men sell their expertise and management, most signs of attraction that we discussed are inappropriate. However, if your business is selling the very picture female - cosmetics or clothes for example - many of the signs we discuss can be used successfully. If you have marks or scars, a birth defect or a feature that really does not like, is perhaps the case to a plastic surgery. Most people who have expressed satisfaction with the outcome. In a typical week, the average person is exposed to more than five hundred images of human beings "perfect" in magazines, newspapers, billboards and television. Most of these images is the product of technology, such as airbrush, highlight of makeup, computer graphics and effects of light. They rarely show the real person. Do not compare with the images of women's magazines. They only make you feel ugly. Plastic Surgery Today, an increasing number of people are opting for plastic correction (correction sounds better than surgery) to improve the appearance. In the United States alone, more than a million people are treated under the knife every year the main reason that people choose this path is to improve self-image and self-confidence, increasing capacity to deliver the signals discussed here. The celebrities are the most common patients. The fix plastic is not new. Centuries before the liposuction and breast implants, had padded mesh for men with calves too thin, iron corsets for women and pudgy pannier for them to increase the buttocks and hips. King Henry VIII wore a padded zipper to increase their virility and small Syphilitic and compete with the French royal. The it was decorated with jewels and emblems. But it is important to understand that plastic surgery does not make you a better person or more beloved, nor solve the problems of life. The only person who thinks you look for is probably a problem with their self-image. It is not the type of person with whom you should want to connect. The other side of attraction Why Men Have Sex and Women They Love? records the results of a survey of fifteen thousand men and women about what they seek in a partner. The relationship is: What men look for in a partner A. At first sight: 1. Good appearance. 2. Well-turned body.

3. Breasts. 4. Buttocks. B. In the long term: 1. Personality. 2. Good appearance. 3. Intellectual capacity. 4. Mood. The A shows what we already know - men are visually stimulated beings who enjoy looking at attractive women. Most women understand the science and research has proven many times, but not "politically correct" recognize it. The feminists in general abhors the idea of a woman be judged by their physical appearance and classified the men of superficial and frivolous. But that does not change the fact that the first reaction of these women is overwhelmingly visual. A list of the items are visual, so you must remember that it is making its debut presentation of. But this is not the case with the B list: a "good appearance" is the only visual item that men seeking a partner for the long term. As the visual signs are so important to man, he unconsciously USA the appearance of women as a measure of respect and love she has for him. He thinks that if she spends time with the appearance, it is because they feel attracted. One of the major complaints of men in actions of divorce is that the wives after the marriage, left the appearance disposed down the drain. They say they used the appearance to attract them and then thought it was no longer necessary. Most men are disappointed with the only woman who dresses for work colleagues. Women, however, have difficulty to understand them here, for not bind with the same intensity to their love appearance. For a woman, have sense of humor does not mean tell jokes. I mean laugh of his jokes. Solution It is inevitable: their appearance influences the response to treatment and the other given. Also influences their self-image and behavior. Most components of their appearance depends to a greater or lesser degree, of their actions. There are courses of clothing and etiquette to learn to walk, sit, talk, dress, makeup on and so on. The bookshops are full of publications on the subject. Department stores often offer free makeup they teach the customers to choose and apply cosmetics. A good hairdresser can you recommend the best way to get the hair, the beautician, from skin care, and dentists, to fix their teeth. The weight is also subject to control, because a competent nutritionist teaches you good eating habits and exercises in a gym will give you the way you want. If you absolutely must, have to make a new nose, increase the breasts, remove the signs of aging. In the XXI century there are few legitimate reasons for you not get the look you want.

The sexual attraction is 50% what you have and 50% what people think you have. Zsa Zsa Gabor This research shows two things. First, men focus on visual images in his first encounter with a woman, and overall appearance is more important than the body beautiful. This means that the way a woman dresses, the makeup and style are worth more points than quilinhos the most, some small bones and sinuses. Secondly, the long-term man is more interested in personality, intelligence and sense of humor of the woman, but a "good appearance" is still high on their list price. The good news is that you have a broad control over most of their appearance and can change things to fit.

"You will still love me when I become old and white hair?", She asked. "I not only I love her ', he replied," I like to write. We are not suggesting that women should have the obsession with appearance as often occurs, but it is important that it strives to have the best appearance possible. There is no ugly woman, woman is lazy. HELENA RUBINSTEIN Above all, you can become more attractive is developing intellectually and emotionally. There are women who, although they are not physically beautiful, become so interesting for its human quality, his gift for communication and intelligence, leaving behind many of the sex goddesses. Men may rave bold with breasts and women with biceps of steel, but the polls show that in the end, the related-ments have more to do with spirit than with the matter. The key ingredient is the flame inside that comes from self - sexual, emotional and professional. In other words, make it an interesting person and they will not realize their physical imperfections. Abstract It is fact that the woman's appearance can attract or repel the man in the relationship. Many women are angry with this. You think this is an unjust man in gray and wrinkle-be distinct and mature, and the woman in the same situation, just an old. But this is the case. No additional tapir is bored with it and look if the complaining that you can not change. So the men - and women - think. Do not fight it. Manage its consequences. If you are dissatisfied with some aspect of their appearance, change. You have the resources to do so. And if not to attract a man, do it by yourself.

Their ratio is: a.or are you indifferent? You are attractive or repulsive? Take the test now to see your score with women. In the next chapter you will learn all the secrets about what women seek to be a real man. b. 5. Small and compact. Reasonable for my age and experience. 6. Take the measure of your chest. b. Less than 85%. . 100% or more. You asked women to describe their mouths. Freedom of compromise . Lean or without ass. Your income is: a. ask their friends to take notes for your answers and compare the result. You go to the TV show "Meeting the dark" and a candidate asks you to describe your body type. c. What do they respond? a. but think occasional flirtations contributing to the ongoing relationship. if your chest measures 91 cm and 106 cm their hip. they say: a. b. Happy. For example. 100% monogamist.8%. Neutral or down. but I prefer to work part time. b. Take the test 1. Below average.in physical and non-physical every time a woman knows. Heavy load. b. c. 3 . divide it by the hip measurement and then multiply by 100. Compromised. After doing the test. c. their proportion is 85. c. Gentle / kind.Chapter 11 THE TEST OF MALE SEX APPEAL How is your concept to women in terms of attractiveness? They feel the irresistible . c. Redondo. The test records the points you receive . You think the man should be: a. 2. Rectangular. What is your response? a.If you ask women to describe their ass. b. Significantly above average.the open relationship is the way of the future. In the form of "V". 4. c. 85-95%.

protruding jaw. Very important. b. Small nose and chin. Jogging and tennis. I need to improve on that. c. b. 14. I am a goner. Muscle / angles. . Kind / gentle. c. 9. c. A barrel. 10. How to dress? a. Shirt and jeans with tennis shoes. Relevant. A smooth surface. Can be the joy of the party. Social pants and shirt. which will feel? a. 8. If a woman passes his hand over her belly. Bald head or scraped. As you have hair? a. More or less half (large entries. You have been invited to a party and heard that there are many women that you are to impress. sad or anxious: a. A well defined abdomen.Size is paper? You think for women the size of the penis is: a. How is your sense of humor? a. b. Fun / malicious. You probably notice. b. b. a. Long / thin. c. c. c. His thighs are: a. Look in the mirror. Distant / cold. c. if a little talk with her. 11 . 12. Solid nose. b. Almost the whole. 15. Plump. You will know immediately. 13. Not important. b. seem appropriate to my face. c. for example). You probably will not notice. As a woman describe your eyes? a. Describe your chin and your nose. Average.7. b. shoe leather. If a woman is distressed. b. c.

But careful not to make their appearance too perfect.16. because they may find that you are superficial and obsessed with itself. need not improve much. places and things. c. b. Use beard. You have a reasonable ability to use their skills to attract women-the women. 47 to 89 points: A cat Most men belong to this category. b. Reasonable coverage. 46 points or less: A cat pooch Seu Placar Questão Pontos A Pontos B Pontos C 1 7 5 3 2 9 1 O 3 3 7 5 4 3 5 4 5 3 1 5 6 1 9 4 7 1 4 5 8 3 5 1 9 5 3 1 10 3 5 9 11 3 7 5 12 1 5 4 13 5 3 1 14 5 1 3 15 1 9 7 16 3 4 5 17 9 7 3 . E is close to 47 points. Be beard of three days. Send them the right signs and how to enhance their skills to attract them. The next chapter will show you how. If you are close to 89 points. c. Being with his face and shaved. Do you ever: a. you have a base that needs to be quite worked. I know a lot about people. 17. Your Score Question Point to Point B Point C 1753 The 2 9 1 3375 4354 5315 6194 7145 8351 9531 10 3 5 9 11 3 7 5 12 1 5 4 13 5 3 1 14 5 1 3 15 1 9 7 16 3 4 5 17 9 7 3 Now total the points and see the ranking of their sexuality 90 points or more: A Gatão Wow! You can consider a magnet for women. Just take a look at the questions that not many points scored and read the tips of the next chapter. which for most women is a discouraging factor. What is the extent of their conversation? a. They do not want selfish men. I understood in my area. No woman wants to compete with its partner the mirror.

Fortunately. that are laughing. If you want to become attractive to women. will need help! Women like men who have personality. Think about how women will see the fun of your life looking for you in a different way! . and console is saying that man prefers women beer is BOIOLI.You might ask why women are fleeing from you. the friends are more important than women. For you. they are sensitive to their needs and have ambition and talent to move up in life. you can learn most of these things.

This is totally different from how men see women.such symmetries as indicators of youth and health. In Pennsylvania. but the woman in the XXI century and more than their ancestors: a man who wants also to meet their emotional needs. the attraction for women firm and symmetrical men may vary with the menstrual cycle. the symmetry plays a significant role in female choice. One way of identifying these characteristics is the symmetry of the human body: the left side of his body should mirror the right hand. but was looking good genes elsewhere. Very little has changed in that respect. 1991 and Downs and Lyons. which started before their . a study of the attractiveness of 74 men accused. however. and the symmetrical animals tend to live more than non-symmetrical. Since the beginning of time. Judging is attractive only by the appearance (which is what we are doing here). An es-all done in Scotland found that the type of male faces more attractive for women varies according to the phases of the menstrual cycle.and no bodies . resulted in minor penalties and fines lower (Castelloe. able to obtain food and protect the family. Your brain has. Hardness means that the partner is taken. But both sexes see . 1990). the female body has evolved as a signaling device sexual. When the probability of conception is highest (more or less in half of the menstrual cycle). women are more prone to choose a man hard and for a symmetrical relationship of short-term. as I said. the male sex appeal is more basic and direct. just as the symmetrical flowers are more attractive to bees because they have more nectar. she feels attracted to men with characteristics Manly and harsh. If you ovulado. Wuensch and Moore. The female sex appeal is a complex and sophisticated. bringing them the chance of survival. women are attracted by strong men and healthy.symmetrical. sending messages to men about women's ability to be a carrier healthy and successful in their genes. This is because. with members of the same size. are symmetrical or not. The symmetry of the human body is more important for women than facial symmetry why the champions of boxing often attract beautiful women Among humans. They look for faces . It seems that the wife chosen by their ability to from the pain.Chapter 12 WHAT TO ATTRACT WOMEN The first thing you will notice in this chapter on sexual attraction to men about women is that it is half the size of the chapter that deals with female stimuli on men. What the science says Polls conducted in the United States show that attractive people earn 12-14% more than their fellow non-attractive (and Hammermesh Biddle). DNA tests show that 10% of babies born in marriages are not children of the partner.even unconsciously . therefore. The concern here is that attractive people receive more favorable treatment in court. in search of two basic requirements: hardness and softness. In Britain. must have virtues that provide the best possible genetic he-rity for their children. As partners in the long term. women tend to choose men who invest in the relationship and the creation of children.

2.trials. Athletic body. if members of the courts had the power not blindfolded to see the accused." and the . the average compensation was $ 5. Women who use the professional environment Epaulettes are seen as more positive. the average compensation was $ 10. 7. 4. Broad shoulders are a male character. Sensual mouth. Where she has curves and softness. The men developed such characteristics to carry heavy weapons and take their prey home. To appear wider in the shoulders and occupy more space. But when the victim was more attractive to the accused. because it is the opposite: it has the shape of an inverted V. 9. 10. since no one has the possibility to improve their appearance. when he had better look to the victim. This explains why the biggest cheats people are almost always attractive. 6. The evidence shows that. Here they are. in the form of "V". but looking on the bright side. Chest and broad shoulders and muscular arms. There is another reason that the shoulder strap give status to men. Narrow hips and muscular legs. Kind eyes. often copied by women in search of affirmation. A strong and athletic body is a sign of good health. This may seem dispirited. extending in the hips. Small and firm ass. A study of the damages awarded in negligence cases found that. these signals also stimulate the brain of the woman when she evaluates potential partners. 3. 5. Nose and strong chin. where large breasts and biceps topping are of little practical use. close to the height of the hip. just to make it a conscious decision. more respect and be a man requires. The male breast is enlarged to house large lungs. Lack of tummy. Stimulating 1: Body athletic Topping the list of female attractive male body is athletic-looking. they put their hands on hips. Beard of three days. which indicates the potential of man to get food and defeat his enemies. When modern man reaches his goal. Exciting 2: Chest and shoulders and long muscular arms The upper body of the male hunter is large. Large penis. becoming more attractive to other people. while the body of the woman is more narrow in the shoulders. The sexual responses of women are caused by certain visual aspects of the male body. The main factors stimulating women 1. 8. showed that attractive defendants received sentences not only lighter. The bigger the breast. 1978).623. but had two times more likely to escape the prison of the defendants non-attractive. his chest still "full of pride. providing a better distribution of oxygen and allow them to breathe more efficiently by running or hunt. in order of priority. Even in our age of supposed gender equality. Hair tired. The V in also attracting a woman. the results would be significantly different.051 (Kulfa and Kessler. 11. the man has angles and strength and it is this difference which is so attractive.

In the Middle Ages was thought that the hair had magical powers. A head full of hair always represented the strength and power of man. The hairy armpits were always a feature heavily male. For a woman it is not ideal. healthy. Beat naked buttocks is a practice that attracts long sadistic and masochistic. to stimulate. when a woman knocks on the buttocks of the man. and discourages the kind Arnold Schwarzenegger. and many men and women to consider a sexual stimulant. Why then the women are interested both in the ass man? Why do you feel desire to move your hand? Why look like photos of a man with beautiful butt? Small and firm buttocks are the favorite of women worldwide. In other words. The redness of the buttocks is similar to the state of women's sexual arousal and stimulation of nerve endings on the buttocks is transmitted to the genitals. but few are women who understand the reason of his magnetism. The armpit hair retains the smell of the sweat glands segregated. which give the best shot and shot. hair on his head has always been considered a distinctive male brute force. Samson lost his strength when he had his hair cut. About 50% of women give high importance to the fact that humans have an abundant mane. which however is a low priority for others. tending to throw the whole weight of the body of the woman. Stimulant 3: Bunda and small firm The male monkeys do not have protruding buttocks and hemispheric-only humans have. A look athletic. The secret lies in the fact that firm and muscular buttocks provide vigorous forward movement during the sexual act. Small and firm buttocks indicate greater chance of conception. The same happens with the breast and pubic hair. . why cut it fuses in camafeus to save and use in religious ceremonies. it really is encouraging to have an erection. Men with small and firm buttocks indicate a greater chance of working more efficiently. In the case of monks. but most do not like the genre "muscle-man" because you think that kind of man is probably more interested in their beauty than in her. shave the head was seen as a sign of humility before God. The men have forearms longer than women. which contain a musky pheromone that stimulates the brain of women sexually. because the weight of the man can cause him discomfort and hamper their breathing. a part of the body usually treated with humor and disdain. Stimulating 4: Hair tired Throughout history. many of which find attractive calves head or scraped. Women are certainly attracted by a male torso well defined. and therefore more ability to the role of provider. The male baldness is inherited and its cause is the overproduction of male hormones. so that the attraction has on women. Men with flaccid buttocks fat or have difficulties with these movements. The ass has always been the object of jokes.boys still associate the upper torso and the masculinity formed. the gluteal muscles of the thigh had a tremendous expansion. So that we could stay upright and walk on two feet.

disabling certain papillae capillaries. We have experience using computer-altered images of male head with varying degrees of baldness. and is not popular among women. we found that only men have the bald jokes. and feel frustrated because they can not do nothing about . Push the chin forward is considered a gesture of defiance. But they must take into account that compensation for baldness is the enhancing of its aura of masculinity and power. Rather than see her as a weakness and something to joke. Stimulating 7: strong nose and chin the nose. The down chin is associated with fear and perplexity. which is not recommended. This is due in part to the solidarity of women with the discomfort that baldness brings men and partly to the fact that baldness is a sign of masculinity. Found that the more bald man. the chin and face strong was formed to protect the man on the face of blows during the fight and hunt. real or potential. Men with high testosterone are more and more protruding jaws. During the search we did for our book Rude and Politically Incorrect jokes (Jokes rude and politically in-correct). "sensitive". is filled with blood in the state of sexual arousal and its temperature has increased by about six degrees. the greater the impression of power and success that it transmits and the lower the resistance potential of people to their authority. "protectors" and "loving. which show the volunteers asked to say that the impression caused on the desktop. Stimulants 5 and 6: Boca sensual and gentle eyes To describe the lips and eyes of women. "attentive". women rarely do. For others. it is a sex machine. Here is an additional . men Calvos are generally more aggressive and more sexually excited than their fellow non-Calvo." But words are not used in the literal sense to describe the physical observed. that myth is not supported by research. Many men suffer from baldness." "delicious. which makes the baldness a sign of exaggerated masculinity. however." "inviting. For some. Since the times of Rome. Due to higher levels of hormone. were seen as less powerful and less well-paid. many women feel encouraged by it and even like to kiss or fondle the man's shiny dome. the size of the nose of the man is associated with the size of the penis. men tend to use words like "wet.They irrigate the hormone system. The only thing that the nose has in common with the penis is the way he stresses on the front of the body. is that the nose of man. using words like "tender". one is bald. The tired men with hair on the other hand. The women use to refer to their perception of the attitude of man.the only safe way to prevent baldness is castration before puberty. A head Calva is therefore a powerful showcase of testosterone." Women. however." "succulent" and "erotic. generally located at the top of the head. and so remain today as powerful symbols of masculinity. What was discovered. the same way as the penis. to describe the mouth and eyes of men. The masculinity transmitted by a head Calva accentuates the difference between the sexes and is therefore a stimulus for many women." "sexy.

In a happy relationship. and the foot size of the penis. because the shorter penis may reach the right place with more precision. because the seekers are the bodily signs of other animals over long distances. Well-defined abdominal muscles have never been the object of special admiration in male anatomy. man is the one who has the biggest penis. Stimulating 10: Penis large Among all primates. when food was scarce. a prominent gut is seen as a sign of neglect and little regard for the health personnel. but that power is more head than in the sexual organ. For thousands of years. obtaining information about their attitude. eventually inviting her to go to their apartment. which allows the person to track the direction of gaze of another. Most animals have little or no white in the eye. where food is abundant. Despite the members that can be digitally magnified view web sites in the penis longer officially registered media 36 cm. a woman rarely takes into account the size of the penis. Stimulating 9: Lack of tummy In remote times. Singh found that for women. because she was sure that his penis was too small. The wide hips mean that many women have difficulty in running. and there is no relationship between the size of the body. nose. because it showed that its bearer had resources to eat as I wanted. men who have a ratio waist / hip of 90% are more attractive. The legs of the man is attractive to women only as symbols of power and resistance men. trying to convince us at all costs that can not live without an athletic abdomen. In modern society. while women look beyond. The boy was terrified the first time that would have sex with his girlfriend. the size of the penis was attached to the power of man and his skill as a lover. In the separations painful. The truth is that a man with an erection of 8 cm is able to do better service than a man with a 18 cm. But how could not postpone forever. because the ankles and feet out from the side to balance the weight of the body. . The erect penis measures 14 cm on average and the vaginal canal of most women is 9 cm long. in search of excitement. but they are sometimes taken to mean that the ex-partners have small penis as a form of revenge. the women have more white than those of men because the female brain is configured as a communication tool next. The euphoria of some women to see men of large penises seems more a reaction to the male's apparent that what the size of the body can actually accomplish. This view was constructed by fitness centers and equipment manufacturers. The great North American neuropsychology Davendra Dr. with the bulk of its sensitivity in the first 5 cm. As the eyes. a large belly was a symbol of status.proof of the difference between the sexes: men see the characteristics in themselves. The white of the eye is an auxiliary communication face to face. Stimulating 8: Hip close and muscular legs The powerful legs and angles of the human male are the longest among all primates. The narrow hips allow men walk long distances quickly in hunting and persecution.

If the man has a beautiful body. loyal and understanding. The majority of women agree. even if the woman does not like. Healthy body. it does not take a look as an indicator of the feeling he has for her. Sensitivity. Are the male hormones that cause the growth of hair of the face. If the man is wearing badly or starts getting paunchy.Arriving there. They want men to be attentive. 2." I do not smoke. 3. he finally put the erect member in her hand. robust and masculine. " The change is not programmed women to sexually excite the vision of the male genitals. Stress and illness diminish the level of testosterone. The hair of monkeys and chimpanzees have the same length throughout the body. Are only successful with the gay audience. What women look for in a man: 1. but in general this is not a priority. What women want the long term Here is the result of research on what women expect to find a man. he lowered the light and began to strip. humorous. standing or lying in front and back. The woman wants a man who is loving. But the man who returns to noon a shadow of five in the afternoon gave the impression that he is crazy for action. Consequently. Mood. she said. intelligent. began Despi her and stroking her. The men have two lists: the first sight and of seeking a long term partner. . Unlike humans. Personality. The higher the level of testosterone of men in a day. while all attempts to sell women pornographic images of men failed. the beard of three days is a powerful visual sign of masculinity often used by men to compensate for your face kid. but strong. This fundamental difference between men and women involved much frustration and misunderstandings on both sides. however. The woman must understand that their appearance is important to humans and can even seriously affect the relationship. Then. thanks'. which is why the sick man is not stressed or need to shave so often. that Tom Cruise is much more sexy than with beard shaved. for example. wishing she did not notice the size. Women. Intellectual capacity. carefully. 5. caring and communicative. Stimulating 11: Barba for three days Man is the only primate that have significantly longer hair on the face than in the rest of the body. The male pornographic magazines show women with their legs fully opened. Nervous. she sees him as a bonus. the faster they grow. "No. only have a list. contrary to what occurs with men. rarely gives greater importance. Men need to learn that the woman measures the depth of the relationship by the attitude they have with it. 4.

you know talk about many issues. because he already has boyfriend. but their physical form and appearance are crucial to his work and social position. Solution To make a man attractive. This will allow you to talk to women about a variety of subjects. you need first of all work their techniques of communication and relationship. The man need not be a millionaire. which brings you more satisfaction and you better realize their potential. Buy books that speak on how women think and feel. Are extra. it is sensitive to your needs. And finally Book to a gym and get in shape. The woman begins and ends the selection of the partner with the same list of criteria. Do not complain . Even the women self-sufficient and financially independent feel attracted by men who have as good protectors and from the pain. Then. The dance has always been a preliminary demonstration of erotic female. Polls and surveys have shown how important it is to man the physical attractiveness of women.The problem is that it can not have it. in its first meeting in less than ten seconds.just do it! . Enter for a course that allows you to expand your knowledge. if necessary. seek a better job. Do it for yourself and see how it will look more attractive to women. he USA a number of different criteria. he believes. Women are attracted out by men who show be going to the front in search of a better position in life. there is no school that teaches it. registration is a school of dance as soon as possible. by Barbara de Angelis. You need to listen with interest and empathy that women have to say. this is pure practice. We recommend our Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? and What Women Want Men to Know. If man is able to make her laugh. but have plans and goals and be committed to them. The woman who likes her man is attractive. you will never miss program.except excuses. has plans to progress continuously and is still on top is straight. There is some reason why man has not or does not do the things you want in life . therefore. Change the cutting of hair at least once every three years and look for wear clothes that promote their appearance. But for the selection of a permanent partner.

The number of people living. In 2010. Between the 1940s and 2020. And in the first few months was exactly what he did. the rate fell from 9: 1 to 4: 1 since 1952. more than a billion people have at least 60 years of age.taking sun. Who had not achieved financial independence.51 years and for men. Governments around the world face this problem continuously. Within each person there is an elderly couple thinking: "What the hell happened?" Developed countries are now obliged to devote an increasing share of their budgets to maintain and care for its population of elderly. is so full of titles about financial independence and retirement plans-ment. Graham came to understand a. But little by little. only a small portion of the population lived beyond the age of 65. But there are two problems which do not give due attention: first. or live in poverty. second. but the problem is the relationship between the number of contributors and the pensioners. the melancholy of retirement began to weigh. the average life expectancy worldwide has increased by more than 50% . not only a larger portion of the population is enough to retire. Thanks to advances in medicine. sleeping late and relaxing. The life expectancy of Japanese women born in 1993 is 82.Chapter 13 OUANDO the hunter Hang The ARC The retirement In developed countries. difference . Would spend the days in an idyllic paradise . Before 1940. continued working until death or were sustained by children. for example. 76. In the year 2020.25. the number of people about to retire grows at a speed amazing. eating out. how to live long after they retire. Japan will have less than two people working for every retiree. have at least 10 years after they retire doubled in the last 60 years. a problem compounded by the fact that the Japanese live today more than all the peoples of the world. Many countries have adopted compulsory contributions to the system of national pensions. Graham Graham thought retire and go live on the beach as would enjoy permanent vacation. swimming. Financial institutions operate in heavy selling of private pension funds. In the United States.from 46 to 72 years. the psychological effects of retirement on men and. The shelves of bookstores. the effects of retirement on relationships and how to deal with women partners.

For many men it is an unavoidable disaster and may even contribute to premature death. And started to worry about the problem of how to fill all this free time. Graham began to ask for Ruth. Ruth was free to do what he wanted. Much has been researched and written about the problems faced by retired men. eighteen months after the dream retirement. but the calls were rareando. Suffering acutely this abrupt loss of identity. Instead of juggling with two or three problems to gain time.find a target and hit it edible. Graham began to fatten.between taking a few vacation days. had less desire to do.now was the Invisible Man. At work he was known and respected. his wife. the experience of retirement is remarkably different in the two cases. embedded in an intense training schedule. On the beach. The relationship began to suffer from pressure. The call that he expected the company to continue providing its essential services such as special advisor never came. the stress was of another quality and was mixed with depression. As for most men. but nobody knew him or wanted his opinion for anything. but little research is done on women retired and not working because they have the task of caring for a pensioner. The male contribution to the survival of the species was clear and simple . Gender and retirement The way men and women deal with the approach of retirement and old age casts light on the difference between their mental structures. Important . Graham suffered a heart attack Fulminans. train new employees and solve the problems of the world. was a kind of stress stimulating. the evolution . was horrified irritation. With a sedentary lifestyle. to attend many meetings. Felt lack of professional involvement with people and the daily mental stimulation that he provided. but not talked to anyone about it. work outside the focus of the life of Graham. For some time he remained in contact with colleagues at work. nadava little and rarely was concerned with something in the garden. it was assumed that the psychological problems associated with retirement were the same for both sexes. Tired to take sun. For over 40 years he wakes every day knowing exactly what had to do. But due to their mental structures and specific priorities. and enjoy them for the rest of life. When I worked. he cooked the issues now to fill the time. Suddenly he was aware that jumping from a train at work to express a tram pulled the donkey on the beach. Lost prestige. His favorite refrain was: "What is for lunch?" Before retirement. he had the feeling of having nothing to do. as we said. Now. Little was. Every time you hear your name yelled at her husband. for the first time. Therefore. Before he was Dr. As women constitute 40 to 50% of the modern workforce. Now. more and more attention. Now had to take care of Graham every minute of your day. When the hunter stops hunting During at least one hundred thousand years men agreed in the morning and went out looking for food for their families. One day. Occupied an important position. Graham suspected that their health was suffering. to get on her and tie her life.

the advancement of agricultural techniques has meant that hunting for food is no longer be a priority. yet clearly set is literally idle. playing sports with ball and reach moving targets. ride on motorways.their role was to ensure the survival of the next generation. as we have seen. distances and spatial co-ordinates. These are the areas used by modern man to work as park running aft. is obsessed by work and the small sports. therefore. is the huntress of the brain. show (in black) areas of the brain active space. . The female brain evolved.track. women evolved as a defender of the nest and the offspring . with areas of strength capable of dealing with these tasks . He is all dressed and has no where to go.work and sport. unlike women. Consequently. Also. 90% of all modern sports with ball rise up between 1800 and 1900 as a substitute for the hunt. Female Male The ancient hunter was compulsorily retired At the end of the eighteenth century. sitting on a beach far away where nobody knows or gives a minimum. To deal with the frustration of no longer be prompted to chase and hit targets.of male preference brain areas enabling it to perform this task with success: those used to measure speeds. 2000. And here lies the great problem of modern man retired: your brain of a hunter. Plus. programming. and aim to achieve the target. In simple terms. read maps. that most men. So the century desferiu men on an even greater blow: the retirement. the two men embraced replacement . The images below. they not only stopped be required to reach moving targets. the . London. Both involve the main aspects of the game. pursue. We therefore repeat. such as no longer required for anything. With it.achieve a zebra color-surrender to 30 meters away was never part of their responsibilities. angles. made from brain examinations of 50 men and 50 women. This helps explain why the image of the female brain shows a minimum level of activity in the space. The modern sports are a way to replace the hunt. video equipment. The areas of the brain used for hunting Institute of Psychiatry.

with retirement. want to help you. seemed all the time in a bad mood. We heard from several women retired to their current life is so busy. It was as if he had not entirely of his life. But remember." she told a close friend. they ask how could give an account of what they worked. relationships. women. Jennifer knew he was depressed but could not convince him to express his feelings. women keep their retired social circles constructed over the years and have facility to renew them. women. a stressful and poorly paid job with few opportunities for professional progress. Nadava with a group three times a week. we see very little in common. Unlike men. It would be almost like a second honeymoon. It started out more with friends. Men value the achievements. exhausted when you get home. They can spend the extra time doing the things that have always been challenges to take or which never had time to work." The men are always defined by their work and their achievements. But little by little grew into a resentment Jennifer: Peter was making her so unhappy retirement on his own. "You know. "I love to be retired. way-too Janda. She received her retire with genuine emotion. Spent increasingly less time at home. I feel sorry for Peter. she felt free. Today I do not know if I have . The children were finally married. Now. need to combine work with education of children. I would never do anything. she thought that time would have to meet again. Now.You realize that you retired when you know all the answers but do not have anyone else to ask you the questions. Consequently. learned to play tennis and attend classes in art. The only thing I hate is having to go home at the end of the day. Peter and Jennifer Jennifer wanted much to retire with her husband hold. but with so much time together for the first time in our life . in general. attribute value is the quality of their relationships. Worked as a nurse almost all his life. They just "follow your life. the way the company was doing well without him and low frequency with which co-workers to use their experience and their advice. and the lives of Jennifer and retain only the two was. Also. Jennifer had sometimes the impression that the husband did not know well. He had been always working hard. which left little time for herself. Studies on male and female figures show that 70 to 80% of women say they have as the main 'focus on family. It would be an opportunity to do everything I always had the dream-. And although they were already married for 25 years. Initially she stayed home with him. once you finally retired. How women deal with retirement. women tend to move smoothly toward retirement. Then came for a course in Italian. was inside mope at home if it has been discarded.

" Dealing with a retired man is often one of the biggest problems that women face. It is the loss of something much bigger . St. And it shows a fabulous mansion. tears and even separation. indignant. some clubs go to the elderly and enjoy the entertainment that they failed during the period in which the job. Be "available" to return to work and solve problems whose solution depends on their knowledge and experience. One day. they will still be important parts in the gear. "It's free. Here is the sky. Can cause fights. it seems envy the happiness of women and blame them for their misfortune." And finally leads to the local restaurant and it shows the menu. the man turns around. And often. treating it as if it were one of its former employees. "If you do not wanted to eat healthy food and we exercise. "But how will this cost?" Asks the man. "But the cost to enter partner?" Asks the man. "Do not worry. Otherwise. The woman whose identity was also strongly linked to work performance may experience a similar feeling. full of delicious dishes. And do it with great joy. together with household chores. low salt. people cling to the idea that becoming consultants. no long hours of work. He seems to always be "getting in the foot" and wanting to take her life." says the man. Peter. When this happens and he notes that the company can move very well without it. He has so much knowledge and experience that the employer-only benefits and may not pass without his talent. Here is the sky. Peter Ihes presents its new life. leaving little time for fun. we could have arrived here ten years ago!" Why men can not cope with retirement? The loss of work is not the main cause of all the stress when the man is retiring.the identity. The identity of women is . Unable to face the situation. "Your bitch!" He Berra with it. There were a couple of 70 years who always had good health because of the insistence of women with healthy diet and exercises." replied St.love and no more if I stay with him. Peter. to the wife. come with solutions and advice when she is not interested. On the one hand. At the door of heaven." When I heard it. It's free. Even those who did not like his job very still want their "group hunting" the call to continue the task. "But we only eat food without fat. There are no calories in the sky. with a variety of creamy sauce. The choices of women often involve interaction with others. A step that seems worth it. without feeling idle and useless. "Nothing. and will call him to continue working. Many women retired to join interest groups or develop new habits. You can eat as you like which will still be thin and healthy. "here is the sky. "Nothing. the common man is denying that his life is to quit. When retirement approaches. the two die in a car accident. no milk products and low cholesterol." Then shows them a wonderful golf course behind the mansion. the shock is very intense. Some return to school. The man likes to think its "hunt group" still needs him." says St. others spend more time taking care of others.

multifaceted. he thought the best in the industry. above all. companion. things rarely remain at that stage as the honeymoon. to take care of the family." Blame the ex-boss for not having him ready for retirement. the things not done. In most cases there is no drama. and if everything goes well for the acceptance. per-der vitality and become inactive. He relaxes in food. felt. however. When you decided to retire. He now wants to be the chief executive of the family. Many often the removal of what they see as an old employee is a relief. the woman continues with the other facets of his life. can become permanent. It is essential to identify the depressive stage which. Start the denial is complete by the depression. Barry and Yvonne Banyo is described as counter to 20 years and 25 have worked on their own. Depression can get without being noticed. The retired blame others for their suffering: his partner and family becomes much often the target because "not understand how I feel. These intrusions can be unbearable for your partner. data and figures loved and was very successful in the management of time. The new generation has its own ideas and solutions and whether they feel free to implement them and test new ways of solving things. the anger. First. if not overcome or dealt with the help of a professional. and in some cases. their status and sense of importance can quickly lead to depression. starts to drink. For most. friends' friend. But unless they have been carefully prepared. The feeling of uselessness and rejection can lead to decreased libido. Signs of trouble are usually the first indication that stage of depression is ongoing. unhappy and. The woman never retires. being mother. grandmother. deepening the table. Barry was always fascinated by the idea of retirement and to spend any time with their children and grandchildren and traveling with Yvonne. and the fights start to happen. The result is a life apathetic. Always addicted to outside research. the woman retains its identity. the direction of the house. The sudden loss of friends and colleagues. the routine that meet their days. lover and wife at any time. Flu and disease is less frequently. to 50 years. and sometimes all at the same time. In other words. She can spend the money to bring home. lady-of-home. some men think they will be quiet. But the retirement of Barry . the retiree was disappointed with his new life and starts to retract. by not calling him to provide advice and feel a victim. It simply gives continuity to their things. was owner of a successful company. particularly finance and planning of social activities and family. Sometimes it is thought. The loss of identity is for the man in many ways similar to the death of a loved one. this rarely happens. especially the way they are made. Master of himself. This anger is sometimes discharged as the desire to disappear. Retirees who do not plan their lives are constantly ill. even drugs. Why do so many men down the hill so fast? In the period following the shutdown. shorter. When its role as provider end.

decided to return later. Not only. sitting on the "seat-ofhusband-bored" on the outside of the taster. Most of it was wasted money. A woman can get hurt with it seems an intrusion on what for it is a happy and orderly. but decided that Barry would shop together. and that there would be an agenda setting out advance and where would they would buy. leading to . it was great. "and I want my life back!" A retired couple was sitting on the dinner table talking about old age. beginning at 8 am.usually in an exasperated . Asked the husband. last week. Sutiãs discovered how each of the search was the ratio of quantity. "is forgotten. why you asked to organize a calendar hourly. Barry thought the days of Yvonne would be much more beneficial if they practice an effective management of your time. he wanted to know where every penny went and why. "I never had this problem. "One day. After examining them." "How?". I never stopped by something. for lunch and dinner." The woman smiled with sadness. While Yvonne tried to quickly sutiãs .so he is not annoyed with the waiting -. "Now I'm in the middle of something and forget what I was doing. Things can be much worse." he insisted. "Barry needs to get a life of its own. I wonder why she spent so much on things he thought unnecessary." she said to friends. I control everything the woman did! Offered to take the family's finances and gave Yvonne a budget for food. For Yvonne. I was thinking at the top of the stairs had just arrived or are on top was starting to fall. absolutely curtailed and controlled by a manic husband and authoritarian. Then started to leave the house to escape the domain of the husband. requesting it to many tasks and too little working in the service of the house. alone." The man grunt: "No. Despite not having problems with money. Perhaps the first time in life when she see her husband every day for breakfast.quickly turned in the worst nightmares of Yvonne. Yvonne felt in an inter-in a concentration camp." E has two batidinhas on the table.she has not had chance shoes and enough clothes? Reached the height of the monitor Yvonne buy a new bra." said the woman. He supervises and gives orders. misunderstood and devalued. on time and lasted a lot of other statistical data. and when they manifest ." "Hum!" Said the man. Barry re-collect information on sutiãs with employees and customers. That day she did not buy any bra ." she replied. When Yvonne was a store that was not on the agenda. That was crazy leaving Yvonne. "The worst.the man feels rejected. Barry wanted to know the reason . "My memory is perfect. there is the danger of starting to feel incompatible. After looking puzzled for the door and asked: "Who is it?" The negative aspects of retirement When the couple starts to fight because of differences of ability and the different roles that each plays. high price. She loved to shop. The anger and resentment began to grow inside her. hits the wood. "Then yesterday I was sitting in the car asking if I had just come to go somewhere or had just arrived home and was out of the car. Barry now wants to be the chief executive's home. Barry found that his wife only needed two sutiãs.

The possibilities are endless. now. you must be aware that their identity can not be linked predominantly to the industry professional and receiving the approval of others. walk. His retirement. and the man who is not planned for retirement can take many years to overcome them. with the increasing trend of early retirement. The higher the frequency with which they work. increased life expectancy and better health. In Western society. listening to music. therefore. find pleasure in activities independent of the professional activities. There is a huge range of alternatives for pleasure waiting for you. need a bit of quality. The critical difference between these two periods of the life of man is that in retirement he is fully in control and will take the decisions that affect the rest of life. . Men who survive the first three stages of retirement generally ultimately accept this new stage of life and take on the challenge of planning a new life. swim. If you find difficulty. Start to develop them as far as possible. But do not spend it all as a mere obligation or an activity for only the time to fill vacant. To begin. it is likely that the period of retirement is longer.separation and even to suicide. Start thinking now as I have had time available. The man is 30 to 40 years of his life in a rigidly structured and oriented goals. read all the books that are accumulated on your bookshelf. The identification of these stages is crucial. . useful and happy. which is giving a gift that could not be granted for lack of availability. Multiply your interests in the life of work. learn a new skill. dance. A plan of action The right time to start planning is many years before retirement. more will live better and the quality of your life. take up a hobby. Make a complete check-up. Men engaged in activities that stress and to do nothing to retire early die. Health The time of retirement can be used for an investment in your health. Studies show that the earlier you plan your retirement. mainly because. have better health and will live longer. do the exercise that gives you great pleasure. develop a circle of friends outside the work environment. it is good to resort to professional advice to ensure that it perpetuates the negative attitudes. look for a nutritionist to set a pleasant and healthy diet. ride a bike. the life expectancy of men that the retirement is not an occupation that the interest is on average five years. develop a talent that remained unexploited because you were absorbed in his career. resulting in loneliness and misery. Are aware that you are investing in their well-being in their self-esteem. which includes study.

Gender A happy and healthy life also must include a satisfactory sexual life. chat with friends. But when he was 57 his company bought and he became expendable in overnight. but once started. Explore these possibilities with the knowledge they have of each other and love each deserves it after so many years of companionship. The retirement offers this space to search more and find a group. browse the local church. discover new incentives. elderly in rest homes. targets and deadlines. children in orphanages will bring you a surprising bonus. you must have skills that can be used or passed on to others. You can not imagine how delicious the experience of returning to college where you will live with younger people and discover how the experience of life taught him. despite the limitations that age brings. affection. You may need an initial effort to overcome the resistance. Talk about it with the greatest possible openness. The substantive requirements of day-to-day that differ in size so essential in humans and responds to your deepest desire. or activities that develop their spirituality.not just the genitals . Whatever has been your path. openness. Aware of that will mean this new phase of life in terms of living in order to for problems that arise Spirituality It is also time to devote to a field that may have been ignored in the years of professional activity: the spirituality.Social Work and Community We can assure you that few things to remember as much as the dedication they need. which would examine the materials. Discuss your plans with your partner. What is important is that these limits are treated with honesty. the places that I would know. But Dana was alarmed to see the sadness of Paul with the forced retirement.can be a source of pleasure. The simple act of visiting patients in hospitals. because the sex life can not be separated from the rest of the relationship. giving new meaning to life. it now had time to do things you always wanted and wished to share their happiness with Paul newly discovered. He thought to retire at 65. seek help if necessary. the activities that could develop. Dana decided to seek professional advice and then persuaded Paul to seek a consultant. a belief. His wife Dana to retire three years before and wanted by the retirement of her husband. Start searching now. The sex in old age will be a continuation of what was in the life of the couple. the social work community and gives an immense sense of satisfaction and self. and that is linking to an institution where they feel affinity with the people working there. Paul and Dana Paul was account manager and his life was always full of goals. He began drinking too much and was depressed. And remember: the whole body . The consultant helped Paul to understand the reasons for that and he showed you how to . It is important that you find in that field feel better and more useful. She was quite enjoying his retirement. specializes in dealing with the men retired. Start to write down everything that interests you. Thus you will discover where your talents can be applied You should see his retirement as you would with any large project. because she is the person who will share them with you.

Paul felt a great weight had been removed from their shoulders. He was also part of a group of craft and came to a course in writing. Found that its greatest achievement was to have created four children happy. In examining the financial part. The third was to travel with Dana relax and plan the rest of their lives. The next challenge was great . Good luck to you! ******* . Dana has played tennis once a week and it was on the board of the club. which led them to meet new people. Paul and Dana are healthy and happy. the consultant reassured Paul. The first step was to complete a health check. He and Dana went on holiday with a good state of mind. as the couple. Enrolled in a class of tai-chi.which could take twenty years or more to be completed. but not for extravagances. We firmly believe that the tools presented in Why Men Lie and Women cry? can help all men and women to live lives more intimate. Paul was always concerned about the welfare of young people and understand the problems they faced when they lack family support-ing. understanding the strengths and weaknesses of each other and being able to make the relationship a source of joy. Decided to change the eating habits and started walking every day for at least 45 minutes. aware that they had available to devote to a social work. offered to cooperate in the newspaper association of residents of his neighborhood. They have done a detailed budget and noted that the guarantee fund of Paul. happiness and fulfillment. Came to a club of excursionist and began to make trips extended several times a month. enthusiastically recommended by friends. in turn. After all the advice. Paul play golf sometimes. As Paul was an excellent account-pain and liked to teach. decided to try. Today. except for a small excess of weight and pressure and cholesterol slightly above normal. decided to open a current account that you bring an additional income. How was a member of golf club. but I would like but never had time to practice regularly to mind. The retirement is revealing the happiest time of their lives. Dana. They needed a plan that took into account both the needs of each. This time when the men and women are more together than any other in their lives is very important that they have learned the lessons of Why Men Lie and Women cry? Because only then will live happily in peace and with love. The finances were sufficient to cover expenses. In the group that began to attend prayer. most of his pension and Dana would be sufficient to cover its needs until the end of life. Paul accepted the challenges that it presented the consultant. The second was to seek a financial adviser. Use these tools with wisdom and love.decide what to do for the rest of their lives. adjusted and successful. enjoy life and help others. The check-up showed that Paul was well.manage this new phase of his life. They are so busy they need a detailed daily schedule. because I wanted to write. together with some savings and investments. sensual and rewarding. A specialist taught her new diet and prescribed an exercise program. because had the start-to plan your journey . Then decided to seek a way of advising the youth to become an advisor to young people.

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