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and has purified her soul. To every teacher who strives by means of her words to convey knowledge and values. a great reward and expiation of sins. who carried the message of sincerity. To every mother who brings her children up to fear Allaah and to follow the Sunnah. the care of Allaah. and makes virtue dear to them. To every woman who is burdened with worried and sadness. To every Muslim woman who is content with Allaah as her Lord. Rejoice and receive the glad tidings of a way-out at hand. . To every girl who follows the path of truth. Islam as her religion and Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him) as her Prophet.

Yes to the friendship of good women who fear Allaah. and repenting and seeking forgiveness. pondering its meanings and acting upon them. love Islam and respect high values. Yes to raising your children in Islam. teaching them the Sunnah and guiding them to that which will benefit them. reciting it. Yes to modesty and hijaab as enjoined by Allaah. Yes to sitting with the Qur'an. which is the means of self- protection. . Yes to honouring one's parents. upholding the ties of kinship. Yes to remembering Allaah a great deal and praying for forgiveness. persisting in dua'a and offering sincere repentance. Yes to your kind words that establish friendship as permitted in Islam and dispel rancour. interesting and beneficial books. honouring one's neighbours and caring for orphans. Yes to reading useful. Yes to acceptable charity that brings happiness to the poor and feeds the hungry.Yes! Yes to your beautiful smile that sends a message of warmth and friendliness to others.

happiness. No to wasting money on haraam things. narghile ("hookah pipes"). and falling short in acts of worship. No to haraam drinks. and love of revenge and futile arguments. and all foul things. No to wasting time with shallow people and spending hours in idle pursuits. No to neglecting physical hygiene and cleanliness in the house. whilst forgetting one's own faults. No to indulging in physical pleasure and giving in to every whim and desire. being extravagant with regard to permissible things. No to forgetting the Hereafter and neglecting to strive for it. No to seeking out other people's faults and backbitting about them.No! No to wasting time in trivial pursuits. No to thinking of past calamities and dwelling on past mistakes. and being disorganized at home. cigarettes. . No to giving priority to money and accumulation of wealth over one's health. and to being careless of what will happen in the Hereafter. sleep and peace of mind.

She freed herself from the control of the kaafir (disbeliever) tyrant Pharoah and refused to live in this palace with his servants and courtiers.Asiyah. She sought a better home that was more lasting and more beautiful. A Woman who challenged tyranny "And Allaah has set forth an example for those who believe: the wife of Fir'awn (Pharoah). and with all its luxuries.a living example for believing men and women. in a seat of truth (i. amidst gardens and rivers. .e Paradise). when she said: "My Lord! Build for me a home with You in Paradise." 66:11 Think about how Allaah made this woman . when she sought a home with the Lord and put that above her worldly interests. How wise this woman was. and save me from the people who are Zalimun (polytheists. a clear symbol for everyone who wants to be guided and follow the ways of Allaah in life. the All-Blessed. wrongdoers and disbelievers in Allaah). with the Lord of the Worlds. the One. near the Omnipotent King (Allaah. 1. the Owner of Majesty and Honour) (54:55). may Allaah be pleased with her . the Most High.

and calamities will come to an end. modesty. The clouds of worry will be blown away. A woman may achieve. They will make dua'a for you when they prostrate and at the end of the night. by Allaah's leave. verily with every difficulty there is ease (94:6). Remember that you will be rewarded. It is a great blessing if you are a comppasionate and a kind mother. You have a huge wealth of blessings My sister. hijaab and good attitude. 2. It is sufficient honour and pride for you to remember that the mother of Muhammad (Blessings and Peace be upon him) gave mankind a great leader. that was spoken of by all. the noble Messenger. You have the potential to be a da'iyah (caller to Islam) calling other women to the path of Allaah with kind words. so she became a good example to others. her kindness to her neighbours and her obedience to her husband. by means of her conduct and righteous deeds. the darkness of distress will be dispelled. just before dawn. How often has a woman gone to live in a neighbourhood. arguing in a manner that is better. your children will be a great support and help for Islam. debating and guiding others by means of your good behaviour and setting an example. and if you are a mother. and people started to talk about her religious commitment. lectures and lessons. if you bring them up properly. after night comes the day. good exhortation and wisdom. things that cannot be achieved by means of khutbahs (religious sermons). .

nor be sad. fears her Lord. She has no value. is kind to her neighbours and is compassionate towards her children. "So do not become weak (against your enemy). prays qiyaam al-Layl." (3:139) . 3.the situation of the Muslim woman in the Muslim lands and the situation of the disbelieving woman in the land of disbelief. observes hijaab. So she is to be congratulated for her great reward. a mere fashion model. fasts. tranquility and contenment. The believing woman and the disbelieveing woman are not equal You can be happy if you examine just one issue . the most well off. Compare the two situations and you will see that you are the happiest. The disbelieving woman in the lands of disbelief is a woman who makes a wanton display of herself. a cheap and worthless product on offer in all places. and you will be superior (in victory) if you are indeed (true) believers. she is ignorant and foolish. The Muslim woman in the Muslim land is a believing woman who gives charity. honour or religion. obeys her husband.

or who have lost their minds. You are better off than millions of women Think of the world as a whole. the Exalted. . who cannot find a bite to eat? Are there not women who have been stricken with calamities that took away all their children in a single accident? Or women who have lost their sight or hearing. So give thanks to Allaah. for His Blessings and do not waste your time with things that are not pleasing to Him. 4. living a life of tranquility. sitting for hours in front of satellite TV with its cheap. nasty and follish content that makes the heart sick and causes depression. and the prisons in which thousands of people are held behind bars. or whose arms or legs have been amputated. or who have been stricken with chronic diseases? But you are sound in body and in good health. and makes the body lethargic. and the asylums and hospitals which accommodate people who have lost their minds and have become insane. All-Merciful. Are there not poor people living in tattered tents and havels. their lives and pleasures ruined. security and contenment. of the hospitals filled with patients who have been stricken with disease and calamity for many years.

the Exalted says: "Whoever works righteousness . Build yourself a palace in Paradise Look how many generations have passed away. do not grieve or despair about any worldly comforts. 5. and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do (Paradise in the Hereafter). Did they take their wealth with them? Did they take their palaces and their high status? Were they buried with their gold and silver? Did they take their cars and planes with them to the Hereafter? No! They were stripped even of their clothing and placed in their graves in their shrouds. So prepare yourself for that day. Allaah." (16:97) . Nothing will abide except righteous deeds. for they are cheap and transient. contenment and lawful provision). to him We will give a good life (in this world with respect.while he/she is a true believer (of Islamic monotheism) verily.whether male or female .

from garden to garden. believe in al-qadar (the divine decree) and be optimistic about the future. when it lands on a branch or flower. Be like a butterfly. as if it is heavenly creature that has come down to earth. 6. and produces honey. it takes the nectar and does not sting. it does not break it. They are bad for your health and rob you of your beauty. . A little that makes you happy is better than a lot that makes you miserable The part of your life that really counts is that in which you are happy and contented. As for greed and panic. Remain content with Allaah and with what is decreed for you. Or be like a bee. which is light-hearted and beautiful. reflecting a sense of contenment. not attached to mere things. it flies from flower to flower. which eats good things and produces good things. buzzes with love and glad tidings. from hill to hill. they do not count at all.

As for greed and panic. reflecting a sense of contenment. A little that makes you happy is better than a lot that makes you miserable The part of your life that really counts is that in which you are happy and contented. they do not count at all. which eats good things and produces good things. believe in al-qadar (the divine decree) and be optimistic about the future. when it lands on a branch or flower. Or be like a bee. and produces honey. it takes the nectar and does not sting. as if it is heavenly creature that has come down to earth. from hill to hill. They are bad for your health and rob you of your beauty. Remain content with Allaah and with what is decreed for you. Be like a butterfly. it does not break it. which is light-hearted and beautiful. buzzes with love and glad tidings. . it flies from flower to flower. 6. not attached to mere things. from garden to garden.

perhaps a single verse will penetrate deeply in your heart and stir your conscience. Organize your time so that you can do all you have to do Try reading a good book or listening to a useful tape. your delight in prayer. and will solve all your problems. and your tranquility in dhikir (remembrance of Allaah. the All-Merciful). 9. the beauty of your faace in smiling. You will find the correct remedy and beneficial knowledge which will protect you from slipping or making mistakes.the Qur'an and Sunnah. . and dispelling doubts and despair. bringing guidance and light. Read the books of Sunnah and the words of the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) in Riyad as-Saliheen. the protection of your honour in hijaab. Your medicine is in the Revelation . Listen to a beautiful recitation of the Book of Allaah . your peace of mind in contenment. your comfort is in faith.

and come to recitation of the Qur'an with humility. strive hard to catch up and climb aboard the ship of salvation. both living and dead. the believeing men and women. These are just false illusions and wishful thinking. the Exalted. the sincere men and women. stirring khutbahs (sermons). cheap soap operas. useful books. reprehensible plays. as acknowledged by those who have worked in those fields and then repented. is lying! These are things that lead to misery. Our happiness is not like theirs Who told you that distracting music. 11. the men and women who fast. So flee from this miserable life of idlers who deviate from the straight path of Allaah. offensive magazines and dubious movies bring happiness and joy? Whoever told you that. Come to spiritual gatherings and remembrance of Allaah. the mean and women who worship Allaah. the men and women who are humble and devout? Can this short life be wasted on idle matters and trivial pursuits? Do you have another life besides this one? Do you have a promise from Allaah that you will never die? No. depression and distress. moving lessons. immoral songs. singers and others who were involoved in idle pursuits. and I said: What a shame! Where are the Muslim men and women. true friendship and sincere repentance. Climb aboard the ship of salvation I have read the stories of dozens of actors. . 10. may He accept your repentance and fill your heart with tranquility and peace. by Allaah. then draw up a new plan. Take a stock of yourself.

My world turned dark around me. One day in my room. I was spending carefully from the little money that our father had left to us. Only six months later. and has taken away my worry. I complained about my bad luck and fell into despair and depression. I turned on the radio and tuned into the Holy Qur'an radio station. I have become the happiest woman. My son became the first student in his region to memorize the entire Qur'an. from him. and I wept until I feared I would lose my sight. and paid us millions for it. My children were small. and he became a focus of people's care. Allaah will grant him relief from every distress and a way out from every hardship. A great deal of provision comes with seeking forgiveness A woman said: "My husband died when I was in my thirties. boys and girls. and our income was not sufficient. and I have five children. Allaah has kept all my sons and daughters safe and sound. Our house was filled with blessings and we attained the best standard of living. bought some old property of ours. grief and depression. 12." . the developers came.' " So after that I began to pray a great deal for forgiveness and I told my children to do likewise. I heard a Shaykh saying: "The Messenger of Allaah (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said: 'Whoever prays to Allaah a great deal for forgiveness.

Remember the shed tears and broken hearts One of the literati said: If you believe that you have a covenant with time such that things will only be the way you want in all your affairs. because ignorance of Islam leads to darkness and anxiety in the heart. then it makes sense to give yourself free rein to grieve every time you do not get what you want or when obstacles come between you and your goal. 13. As the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) said: "When Allaah intends good for a person. You should have a home library. 14. containing useful books and tapes. sometimes you get what you want and sometimes you miss out. such as Riyaad as-Saliheen. so make the most of your time to please Allaah. Beware of wasting time listening to songs and watching soap operas. . So try to calm your grief and wipe away your tears. and that this is the way life is for all the sons of Adam. and that life never gives you a gift and then forgets about it. easy Tafsirs (Interpretations) and useful essays. for learning about Islam brings contentment and please the Lord. even if it is small. and you will only be given what you want and desire. for you will be called to account for every second of your life. Fiqh as-Sunnah. for you are not the only one stricken with calamities and your problems are nothing new or unjust in the annals of calamity and grief. He grants him understanding of religion. All-Mighty. Remember that the best of your deeds is to know what Allaah meant in His Book and what the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) meant in his Sunnah. whether they live in palaces or hovels. memorize whatever you can of it. But if you are aware that things alternate. for the one whose limit is the sky and the one who sleeps on the bare ground. so study the Qur'an a great deal with your sisters." So read easily-available books of knowledge and understanding of Islam. Enter the garden of knowledge One of the means of finding happiness is understanding Islam. rather it will come back to take it back. Fiqh ad-Dalil. the Exalted. listen to and act upon it.

because that causes anxiety and annoyance. for Allaah did not create us perfect and infallible. and no one can feel this happiness except the one whose mind. simply state your view quietly without getting angry or trying to pressurize others. Moreover. Say what you have to say in a kind and gentle manner. rather. The way to Allaah is the best way What is happiness? Is happiness to be found in money or status or lineage? There are many answers. and he will be content with a piece of bread. for that will make you feel uneasy and give others the wrong impression about you. Once a person finds this way." The wife calmly replied. Avoid refuting or criticizing others too much. pay attention to correcting your own faults and forget about people's faults. . we all have sins and faults. The only way to find happiness is by learning the true religion with which the Messenger of Allaah (Blessings and peace be upon him) was sent." This is true happiness. but it is nothing over which you or any other person has any control. his efforts are loss and his end will be humiliation. his wealth is deprivation. You do not have time for idle talk Avoid arguments and getting involved in futile discussions about things that may never happen. "Why not?" She said: "If happiness were to be found in money or jewellery. the happiness of faith. so seek happiness from Him by worshipping and obeying Him. "I'm going to make your life miserable. brings you a burden of sin and destroy tranquility. worry and distress lead to backbitting about others and putting them down. which takes away reward. rather. and my faith is in my heart. I find my happiness in my faith." He said. you could deprive me of it and take it away from me. So. "You cannot do that. So. Do not always try to convince people about matters that are open to different points of view. but let us look at the happiness of this woman: A man had an argument with his wife and said. heart and soul are filled with the love of Allaah. then you will be able to win people over and inspire them. 15. and no one has any power over it except my Lord. The one who truly has control over happiness is the One true God. But whoever goes astray from this path will find that his whole life is filled with grief. 16. it will not matter if he sleeps in a hut or by the side of the road. and he will be the happiest person in the world. glad tidings are to the one who focuses on dealing with his won faults rather than the faults of others.

17. turn to Allaah Ibn al-Jawzi said: "Something was causing me a great deal of grief and distress. Then I came across this verse: ". Most Merciful." (65:2) I realized that taqwa (piety. He will make a way for him to get out (of every difficulty).. there would be no deprived or grieving person left on earth. or commiting a haraam (forbidden) action.And whosoever fears Allaah and keep his duty to Him. I found the way out. has to pay the price for that shortcoming. taqwa is the way that leads to everything good. Whoever goes against the laws of Allaah." I say: for the wise men. . fearing Allaah) is the way out of every kind of grief and distress. by falling short in your prayers. When things become unbearable. grief and worry are punishments for sins that you have commited. so how can you seek happiness from anyone other than Him? If people had control over happiness. As soon as I followed the path of taqwa. but could not find any way out.. the All-Mighty. and it can only be lifted through repentance. The One Who created happiness is the Most Gracious. for calamity happens only as the result of sin. and I started to think long and hard about how to get out of this situation by any means. Sadness. or backbitting about a Muslimah. or taking the matter of hijaab lightly.

revealed the words: ". The Messenger of Allaah (Blessings and Peace be upon him) praised such women and regarded them as the ideal wives that men should look for. When the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) was asked which woman is the best." The Messenger of Allaah (Blessings and Peace be upon him) stated that a woman's admission to Paradise depends on whether her husband is pleased with her. and who does not oppose him in a manner that he dislikes with regard to herself or his wealth. and of he is away from her. this verse has made your Companions worried. . It was narrated that Umm Salamah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: "The Messenger of Allaah said: 'Any woman who dies when her husband is pleased with her will enter Paradise." When Allaah.. 'Umar came to the Prophet (Blessings and Peace be upon him) and said: "O Prophet of Allaah. when he tells her to do something. she obeys him. the Exalted . Women are like stars in the sky The righteous Muslim woman is the one who treats her husband kindly and obeys him after obeying her Lord." (9:34) 'Umar went out and Thawban (may Allaah be pleased with them) followed him... 18.. she is faithful. the Zakah of which has not been paid).' " So be such woman and you will be happy.And those who hoard up gold and silver (al-Kanz: the money. who obeys him when he tells her to do something." The Prophet said: "Shall I not tell you of something that is a man's treasure? A righteous woman who pleases him when he looks at her. he said: "The one who makes him (her husband) happy when he looks at her.