The Tao of Relationships by Gabe Wollenburg
This is not a suicide letter; this is how I have come to understand relationships. People, as they travel life’s path, make choices and go through changes. There are an infinite number of ways that two people can experience the same event. As a lady whom I respect but don’t really trust once told me, “I guess there’s no accounting for taste.” But, here’s the thing about taste. Tastes change and evolve. Feelings grow and change, even-- perhaps especially-- the feelings human beings have toward each other. A person cannot take for granted that what brought them pleasure once will continue to do so forever. Things, people, places, events, activities, interactions, scheudules all change. The only thing that is constant is time. Time marches on.
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Perhaps there comes a point where a relationship becomes something less than it once was. Perhaps there comes a point where a relationshipe becomes more than it once was. Perhaps the best course of action in these situations is to have the good sense to know when not to push it to the forefront. The trick to this is trusting that what existed between two people will forever, within its time frame, be something that is and was wonderful. Let memories of happy times and places forever linger our memories. Those times are gone now and can’t be experienced again. All things change and evolve. All things grow and mutate. Take umbrage at the poet who suggests “everybody dies frustrated and sad, and that is beautiful.” It’s not beautiful, it fucking sucks. But, as the other poet, once wrote, “that’s the way the world ends. Not with a bang, but with a whimper.” This is a much more realistic. It’s not a thing of beauty. It’s simply the way things is. Suggesting there is some poignant meaning behind it all only leads to disappointment. Instead of looking for answers, trust that things is as they are.
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