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Using Palmistry to Learn Seduction.
Introduction ___________________________________________________________ 4 Palmistry______________________________________________________________ 7 Should I learn to really read palms like it is taught in a palmistry book?__________ 10 Your first palm reading: four lines and a mound. Five readings. ________________ 13 Timing your Transitions ________________________________________________ 28 Troubleshooting your delivery. ___________________________________________ 33 Confidence ___________________________________________________________ 35 When her Personal Questions Come. ______________________________________ 40 Getting her phone number. ______________________________________________ 47 Her Strategies. ________________________________________________________ 50 The Advanced Palm Reading ____________________________________________ 56 Selling-it routines. _____________________________________________________ 67 Girls you have already kissed. ____________________________________________ 70 Changing the direction of a conversation and use of comedy. __________________ 75 Using Language Effectively. _____________________________________________ 81 Female Obstacles (Chaperones) __________________________________________ 84 Male Obstacles without girl listening (a.k.a Befriending Male Obstacles) _________ 90 Male Obstacles with girl listening. (a.k.a Going Head to Head with Competition) __ 96 Your Male Friends. ___________________________________________________ 100 To go depressing or to stay positive. ______________________________________ 102 Closing words ________________________________________________________ 104 Appendix Ia: Filling out the “Selling-It” Routine ___________________________ 105 Appendix 1b: The Simian Line __________________________________________ 110 Appendix Ic: When former child abuse victims blow up in fury mid palm-reading and other tips for dealing with girls who have dark pasts that you uncover. __________ 111 Appendix II: On other methods of fortune telling.___________________________ 113 Appendix IIa: Runes for Romantic Encounters. ____________________________ 115 Appendix IIb: The Cube for Romantic Encounters. _________________________ 120
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Introduction My heart has become capable of every form: A monastery for Christian monks, The pilgrim’s Ka’ba, The tablets of the Torah, And the book of the Qur’an. I follow the religion of Love: Whatever way Love’s camel takes, That is my religion and faith. Ibn ‘Arbani, 1215. Becoming more attractive for a man is a path of self-improvement. For attractiveness in a man rests not in physical appearance so much as in the disposition of the soul and the way he moves and interacts with the world. This book is about winning girls, especially girls you do not know. Thus it is about the first, opening stages of the relationship, not the later ones when trust and mutual responsibilities play dominant roles. The book will take you through a process of change, tweaking the way you interact with women and the world in order to have you take power in social interactions, find a rhythm and peace in the way you act, and put beautiful women into your life. The path to growth you will take is that of Casanova: the action of thoughtful relations with the world, rather than the inaction and isolated meditation of a Buddhist monk. For we all interact with women we have many inner turmoils that manifest themselves in our actions. Your fears, insecurities, vanity, pride, sexual identity, and lust are all exposed by your desire to have her and your interaction with her. This book is really about becoming an attractive man. You are going to go out into the world with a curriculum, some things to say, to build confidence and learn charisma and how to be attractive. When you go out there you will be dealing with women during the early stages of a relationship; that is before the trust, mutual respect and friendship that are the hallmarks of an ongoing relationship are established. The skillset in initiating relationships is quite unrelated to maintaining relationships, meaning that the well meaning advice of people within relationships is often quite misguided. Part of winning girls is empathising and understanding them, part of it is about understanding yourself, part of it believing in yourself as a worthwhile person, and part of it being confident in yourself. These come together in the opening stages of meeting someone new of the opposite sex as it does in few other fields of life. To win girls whom you have only just met requires controlling the interaction, working it to achieve two goals: getting to know her well enough to decide whether you want to further the relationship, and interesting her enough in you to the point where the decision to proceed is mostly yours. A large part of what I am going to teach here is that you are going to learn to read palms. I am also going to ask you to tell some of my stories, and respond in some ways that I
respond. These are examples, and I encourage you to replace the material with your own stories and routines that reflect who you are once you have mine working correctly. Palm reading here is simply a vehicle to something deeper. It will never be the only thing you say to a girl, but I will get you doing it properly so that correct action and intent can flow into all your conversations with women relations and your life once you stop reading palms and return to your own topics of conversations. Palm reading has been chosen as the teaching vehicle because it encapsulates many of the important lessons in transforming yourself to a man in control of his love life. While palm reading is a skill unto itself that is worthwhile for itself and will take some learning, the ability to read palms is not the outcome objective of this curriculum. I will use palm reading to teach the following: • • • Controlling the frame of the interaction so that you are driving the direction of the conversation as a strong man rather than following the conversation to wherever it goes. The appearance of confidence that, with success will drive a change to real sexual confidence and the ability to show yourself for the attractive individual that you are. Understanding what a girl is thinking at any time within an interaction by taking feedback from the structures of the conversation. Understanding what she thinks is a skill that is useless if you do not understand what to do with this information, and this calibration to her internal thoughts and dilemmas will be moderated with building an intuition for what actions you need to take given this information. The use of lyrical language and imagery to fire passion. The tailoring of messages to your audience, and the proper choice of relevant detail to include within your conversations. Changing the tone of the conversation from just-met-you banter to the comfort and intimacy of exploring each other and sharing and understanding how a fledgling relationship moves in its dynamics. Confidently escalating physical intimacy and touch to get the relationship on physical level that involves human touch and sharing. Transitioning relationships towards the sexual. Dealing with her friends as well as your own including her male friends, and negotiating the rocky path of jealousy and possessiveness. Taking her from within her peer group within a social situation so that she can be one-on-one with you in an interaction that is simply about you and her.
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Palm reading is a tool that will teach all these things, and the lessons are designed with the larger objectives in mind. That said palm reading is a valuable skill that I am going to have you invest in learning. Once you have the skill, using it to learn the larger lessons, you will see its value for what it is, and may well decide to keep the skill in your life and continue to read palms even after the larger lessons have been learned. Palm reading as described here is actually very scientific. But instead of drawing on the details of the creases in her palm, it draws on universal experiences of childhood, 5
adolescence and early adulthood – especially the needs to be loved, to be seen as desirable, and to believe in yourself, as well as the joys and fears, achievements and pain that are part of ‘growing up’. These universals are well documented in psychology, philosophy, sociology and religion. In thinking about them systematically, in experiencing them and knowing others, we learn about ourselves as well as the others. Change does not come without hard work and practice. You will never become a good tennis player without the practice of hitting many balls and you will not magically become good with women without going out and flirting with girls. To that end, a large part of what you will learn will happen in the real world. Whilst I can explain the lessons you are to learn, true understanding only comes when you see it working, make your own mistakes and have your own epiphanies that feedback from the real world will reinforce. To that end, I am going to ask you to go out into your world to practice. Into the anonymous social situations around you. When I say anonymous social situations, I mean the places in public where you do not already know the people, and they are anonymous to you. You should go out to the bars and nightclubs, or to the coffee shops, the shopping malls, you should practice on the waitresses that serve you in your restaurants, bars and cafes, and perhaps on the attendants of booths at trade shows or even other attendees of houses that are for sale and are open for inspection. Anywhere that there is a social interaction to be had where what the people think of you is unimportant compared to what your co-workers think of you. Although you will invariably also practice within your social and professional circles, anonymous situations reduce the risks you take to nothing more than an experiment.
It is you and her together in a warm intimate bubble. dreams and philosophies. Nearly every conversation that you have is routine.Palmistry Girls love getting their palms read. Palm reading dives you straight to this level of intimacy when you have only known a girl for a few minutes. you spend your time talking about all sorts of things including your ambitions. In fact most of our conversations that we have when meeting new people are conversations that we have had before. searching for understanding. however it was after reading her palm that she told her friends that she would make her own way home at closing time. and the fact that you and her are together and on the way to intimacy is explicit. I was once at a bar in Nashville. and you can use it to jump to the sort of intimacy that she reserves for her boyfriends and closest female friends. palm reading will become one of those conversations that you will have all the time just like “what do you do?” When you run a conversational thread often and get it polished you become highly familiar with the texture of the conversation and reading where any given girl might be in her mental space at any point in the conversation. or other guys surround her. It does not matter that her best friends. We were in a deep dance of intimacy together. At the end. we were explicitly together. With that information you are in a good position to handle correctly a question like “do you just want to sleep with me” 7 . while you are following this course. Communicating at this level of comfort and intimacy is important in your interactions with women and this book will not just introduce palm reading as a conversation piece. You are touching her. Girls whose religious beliefs are impinged. and talking about her innermost thoughts and beliefs. her blue eyes completely fixed on me. It does not matter if they are scientists or religious fundamentalists they love it. Her eyes are as big as saucers. The interaction that occurs within a well-done palm reading is indicative of a larger interpersonal dynamic that occurs at the beginning of every relationship that is initiated. looking deeply into your eyes. With the girls in your life whom you know well and are comfortable. Palm reading is totally against her religious beliefs. and you know where the conversation goes. Tennessee and started chatting to a beautiful Southern Belle who was there with her Church group of people. When you sit down with a girl and read her palm. She is smiling and blushing. Palm reading is a vehicle to talk about your philosophies on life and draw her into your worldview and how you see the world. After the palm reading. She is riveted. This learning to read palms will be a good exercise in understanding where you can go with general conversation with a girl to increase levels of intimacy. When you are asked “What do you do?” it is a conversation that you have had often before. Even girls who you would not expect to like having their palms read love it. A Southern Baptist fundamentalist who gets in the river for full body baptisms. she blocks the rest of the world out and concentrates on what you are saying. For example. The rest of the world has faded away. but she loved the experience. I had also introduced myself well and interacted well with her group. she kisses you shyly on the cheek.
The outer form is simply a veil that separates us from its inner reality. and enabling you to understand other ways of doing it. right on the cusp of the change. A discussion of palm reading starts in the middle of an interaction with a girl. that you will notice that all the readings start to sound a bit the same. 5) Escalate the physical intimacy to get you and her comfortable touching each other. It will guide you in word choice and you will develop a skill to access past and future thoughts and feelings in your audience that you will be able to take into your general conversations that you have all the time. An inner balance that needs to be achieved where you are relaxed in your world and the world is easy for you. by the time you have finished reading this book. and their underlying meanings so that you know how to deal with situations that are thrown at you.throughout the conversation. This palm reading routine has the correct power relationship with the world as part of it. There is an art to being a single man. When we look at a symbol (from which we get the word ‘symbolise’) we perceive its inner meaning at the same time its outer reality. 3) Have her attracted to you. If you see this. the inner reality of the symbol can speak directly to us. Thus freed from reliance upon outer form. Palm reading is a routine that changes the energy of the encounter from the high energy of interaction that comes with first meeting someone to the personal interrelation that you have with someone that you are becoming more intimate with. common outer patterns with larger underlying meanings. The veil of separation between outer appearance and inner state has been removed. Part of what you will start to recognise with the book is the symbols that the girl is giving you within the interaction. A well-done palm reading should achieve the following: 1) Peel away her pretences and talk about her as a real person 2) Entertain her and get her enraptured and drawn into the conversation. It will allow you to come up with similar material on your own. The advantage of an established vocabulary of symbols is that once we are aware of the symbolic meaning we no longer need to use our analytic mind to work it out. 4) Get her thinking about you sexually. illustrating how the mood moves. They are all somewhat generic and contain what I call symbols. Hopefully. When that happens. and build your intuitions for the best ways forward. then it is good. 8 . Palm reading will also encourage you to develop a vocabulary of the rich inner workings of the mind. the world changes for your presence and finds a new equilibrium with your relationship to it. These things are no different from what you want to do in any interaction with a possible love interest. I will give you ways to handle such situations.
I do. it will be telegraphed. and I hope reading this book and using this routine gives you a lot of pleasure and brings rich relationships to your life. enjoy it. If you keep the equilibrium at the right point. Where you get into a certain rhythm of living where you have both a certain disregard for societal norms. and your life can develop a rhythm of women moving through it. When you have the inner relationship with yourself correct you can enjoy the experience of being single and find a way of living that gives you joy and inner peace. So. When you are there. and exert your presence in the world so that the world modifies itself to accommodate you in the room. You must be relaxed and be enjoying your conversation with the girl. you are able to have meaningful relationships with women that do not come from any sense of neediness or compromise that effects your happiness.and I give you the surrounding routines to allow you to maintain your power even when she is testing it. 9 . when you go out there and read palms. and this in turn enriches your experience of life as well as any girl who is lucky enough to be a part of it. If you are nervous or would prefer to not be in this situation. Important to any interaction with women is that you are enjoying yourself. you will be attractive to the opposite sex. That is the only way that she will enjoy it. Once there. the women come easily to your life.
5 advanced readings. Commit to at least that now. While if you want to learn to truly read palms. I. so your mind can be freed to concentrate on the dynamics of the situation rather than what to say next. 10 . I have forgotten how to because I never use that information. Palm reading is not real. have completely forgotten all of it. Some of you reading may be doing so for the understandings about interacting with women while feeling you need not do my exercises and and have no intention of actually reading a palm. I very strongly encourage you to go out and read them. but learning-by-doing is the best way. Plato I am going to dive you in head first to get you started on the palm reading. myself. This represents a minimum and you will learn much more than twice as much by doubling those numbers. Many men do not have a good feel for what to say after they say “hello”. 2 obstacle readings and 1 reading that goes into sexual themes. despite reading mountains of palm reading material years ago when I first started to read palms. G. That is not a large task.W. I cannot even identify the minor lines or remember the planetary names of the fingers. I present here the palm reading as a teaching aid.Should I learn to really read palms like it is taught in a palmistry book? Whatever deceives men seems to produce a magical enchantment. In a study by G. 1 Dean. I have been reading palms constantly since then. So the first thing I want to do is address some of your objections about actually going out there and reading palms. relying on my content. Learning the entire system that those selling books on palmistry would have you learn does not drive towards this goal. That is not a test of whether it actually works. In G. Therefore.. but rather a test of whether different practitioners confronted with the same palm agree. and Kelly I. This is premature before I have discussed the concepts.. (1996) Astrology. Amhurst. 47 – 99. Dean and colleagues the reliability of different fortune telling was tested1. I once had the skill set to do a genuine reading. Mather A. and in order to learn. A minimal test that any reputable method of diagnosis or divining ought to pass is that of reliability. Encyclopedia of the Paranormal.). You could easily go out to a bar or shopping mall and complete 3 beginners readings tonight. and count them off as you complete each. By the time you are doing advanced readings it will come more slowly because the readings will be yielding success that leaves you speaking to each girl whose palm you read for several hours. I understand however that you may have some objections and feel awkward about the fact that you cannot really read palms like a new-age palmistry book might teach. NY: Prometheus Books. I want you to commit to doing a minimum of 5 beginners readings. Stein (ed. While if you want to discard the palm reading once you have learned the lessons in this book and have mastered the skill set. I give you here just the bare bones of palm reading to get you doing it while discussing interacting with females at length and in that way I am not teaching you to really read palms like a gypsy might. I would encourage you. Here I am going to present you with material to say.
) Against this.0 would represent perfect disagreement. the reliability coefficient for palmistry was only 0. and it is those reactions that you should be concentrating on. I do not read the palms of men (unless I have to get to their women) and I am not interested in what the palm really says. 11 .11. I do not believe there is any fortune to be read in a palm that contains any “truth”. learning does not come from memorising what I have said and repeating the words. I want to give you ideas. options and an understanding of the mechanics of an interaction. This course may seem like there is memory work involved where I am offering readings to memorise. Palm reading does not do well in such a test. I believe that the study does not test the right things however. and how other people see you in the world. In the ‘selling it’ routine chapter. The readings are measured against only one criterion: the reaction they get. I only read palms in a situation where I am initiating a relationship. What the study tells me is that palmists are saying different things.Even if their verdicts are wrong. That is me as a sceptic. For comparison.0 would mean perfect agreement. making decisions as you go and driving the interaction from within. the palmistry or the astrology. 0. Further. the correlation coefficient was greater than 0. only the fact that they are not “truly reading palms”. -1.8 (a correlation coefficient of 1. in the same study.8 is pretty good. It is not a hobby for me. You may feel that you are a rational thinker. The etchings in her hands are not the important things. Skill in palmistry is about entertainment and engendering understanding. (and interestingly for astrology was 0. I will walk you through the philosophy whereby you can come to a position that you are able to read palms and still present yourself as a rational thinker who believes in science and is sceptical of the supernatural. the reliability looks at if the method is systematic enough to produce the same wrong verdicts. Just throw away your belief while you are learning this course. when the test judged psychologists on their assessments in structured psychological interviews. and you can be assured you are one of those palm readers giving the fantastic readings. That you would never believe in such ‘superstitions’. I am going to hook you into this world. and that reading a palm is completely incongruous to how you see yourself as a person. People love palmistry and can see their own lives in it. The beauty is that none of the readings is ‘correct’ or ‘incorrect’. 0. There is nothing there to actually read. They each have their own truisms that are different from each other. fine. But if the question were asked of the subjects: which did you enjoy more and which describes you better. If you want to believe it. it comes from understanding the underlying ideas. In that way. the psychological profile. we would have a very different result.1 … you would think at least they would be able to be consistent). and indicated near total randomness. and you should not end up with a memorised routine at all but rather a unique mind-space where you are driving the interaction by the seat of your pants. That each palmist says different things does not attest to the skill of the palmist.0 would represent complete randomness or lack of association.
Neither taking the other seriously. as part of this course. But enjoying each other enormously and getting to know each other better. or a pool player you will know that there is a sweet spot on the club or cue or pool ball or tennis racket where if you hit it in the right place it makes a beautiful sound and the ball just carries beautifully. substituting lines for things you feel work better. you can run it over and over again as is. Once you are getting success from reading palms.However. It is when you can be yourself and the girl can be herself and you can vibe off each other and really enjoy each other. but I will make that reading as small as possible whilst still making it a foundation for the larger readings. and be yourself in the interaction. my palm reading is a springboard from which to jump. One that you run all the time. once you have that first very small reading together. You will find. You ramp up each other’s feelings and it just feels good and right. you will. you can practice moving towards the sort of language that I have presented while making it your own. Similarly in a seduction there can be a sweet spot. All you need to remember at the beginning is the small cheat sheet on page 15. One that you never forget no matter how long since you last used it. In order to get to this sweet spot you need to find the right mental space complimentary to hers. Where the two of you are really enjoying each other. and you want the palm reading to drive you towards a sweet spot seduction so you know what it feels like and can find it with all your interactions. and you can get yourself together your own that can only be an improvement on mine since my readings are those that you can fall back on should that change not be an improvement. The memory load is very small compared with learning to actually read palms. filling in the language yourself with your own words to begin with. A palm reading is part of the interaction. if you decide you want to retain the ability to read fortunes socially in your life. it will grow organically as you test new things and you will find yourself with a standard palmreading routine of your own probably quite different to mine (that I include in ‘The Advanced Reading’ chapter). in your own world and completely into each other. If you are a golfer. 12 . Something changes within you also when you hit it in the sweet spot and it is a very pleasant sensation for the player. and the readings are always good. One that is adapted to your style of reading palms. After you have done a couple on your own. have to memorise a couple of things to get out there and do your first reading.
is strongly tempted to the woman who best corresponds to his own unconscious femininity – a woman. I give you the drawing so that you know which line you are pointing at as you are talking about the reading and philosophies that you want to talk about. The children lines are the lines on the side of your hand between the bottom of the little finger and where the heart line curls around your palm. A man. this is called a Simian Palm. Carl Jung. and is an exception to the rule. The actual lines are not important. you will not need to take any note of which shape these lines are. I have intentionally made it reasonably 13 . (Note: if your heart and head lines are joined. in his love choice. Examine your own palm and you should be able to identify the lines easily. Five readings. I am suggesting a place to start and a place to end. because this is all you need to know. When you are reading her palm. Traditionally if you count these lines they will tell you how many children you are going to have. You read the palm towards your goals regardless of what the lines say. and this one is just to get you started. in short. but you can start where you want with whatever routine you want once you get confident. or what line crosses what when. who can unhesitatingly receive the projection of his soul. or how deep they are. however. A palm reading routine is a modular routine. Relations between the Ego and the Unconscious. See Appendix I for details).Your first palm reading: four lines and a mound. This is not the reading I give to them. The Mound of Venus is the fleshy “mound” between your life line and your thumb. The advanced routine I present a little later is longer than this. 1900 This is the only drawing that is important in this book. The picture is self-explanatory. I put this routine together through trial and error of starting in different places and inserting different modules.
you were not “caught” and the reaction from the girl was positive. Mound of Venus: tells her that she has a caged heart and she needs to open herself up. The introduction just explains to her the basic lines on her palm. There is an introduction and five readings to remember. The readings are just guides in themselves about how to talk about these issues. It will get you out there speaking to women to practice flirting in a thoughtful and constructive way. It does not contain any overt sexual material. here is the beginners’ routine: A summary of the five readings plus the introduction is below. It also forms the basis of the advanced reading and the first few minutes are identical. Use your own language to describe this. and fill it out yourself in a way that is natural to you. I will include some comments in parentheses and discussions. The comments include the back-story for you to enrich the routine by delving further into each issue with the girl if it really strikes her fancy. What it will do is teach you that even though you completely messed it up. It is a fact. The five readings do not need to be remembered word for word. So don’t over-think it. and ascribing common human conditions to her. Just remember the theme. Read through it. and then at the end I have removed all the comments for easy comprehension of the text of the readings.innocuous with very few risks. It wont be the best palm reading ever. Head line: tells her that she is intuitive and knows when something good is in front of her. Your first palm reading ever will make you nervous. you are actually reading deeply into your own soul. It will get the job done. and even your initial attempts should yield new relationship opportunities into your life. 14 . It is easy. but it does not need to be. Life line: tells her that it is a time of separating paths and the time is here in her life where she has to take action. Go out and run this routine live on a girl you just met or a girl you already know presenting yourself as someone who knows what he is doing tonight! When you are reading a girl’s palm. Heart line: tells her that she always had dreams of a perfect-man. Children lines: tell her she is fertile. Summary (cheat sheet) Intro: explains the major lines Fate line: tells her that she had an experience where she had to grow up before she was ready. Without any risks you can run the routine and understand the structure of the exchange and use it to learn before going onto the other palm reading material in this book. So without further ado.
Fate line reading Where will I start? OK.. Do not be scared to touch her). as much as that was very hard (pause). RELAX . this is your heart line. your Mound of Venus it represents your heart also.. (Twist over the palm to look at the "children lines". And given you like who you are today. It is just an introduction.. and continue to do that every time you point out a feature on her hand. comes up to the head line for example. I know. you will see her relax her shoulders. so let’s start with your fate line because it is a distinguishing feature in that it (does whatever it does . (Pause. Time to change your voice tone and make sure you are in a serious voice here as if you could cry because it is likely that you are talking about a death in the family or divorce of her parents or something).. just examine her palm then look at her and say) Now. it sets the tone for the palm reading. Yeah. this showing of your palm is extremely optional. Just understand the basic palm and point out the lines. it sells her that this is real and that it will have some meat in the reading and not just be 15 . if it is different to yours or she does not have one … in which case the lack of one is the reason for the reading … you can briefly show her yours to show what "normal" is .... I'll come back to it. Don’t say anything... Since everyone was once a child but is now an adult everyone has a defining experience where they were a child asked to act in adult ways.The fully detailed text is below: Introduction Do you know your basic palm? Relax your fingers. Second.. Discussion of above reading: This reading is important. When ordering her to do this. everything that has happened to you makes you who you are today. you will need to use your judgment as to whether she even cares what it is supposed to look like). You are more able to feel deeply and live as an adult because of it.. (Empathy on that line) However. The other thing that is important to your palm is this (run your finger over her Mound of Venus) . That means that as a child or adolescent you had some experience where you were asked to become an adult before you were ready. I have inserted it so that you understand that you just explain the lines on the palm in much the same way that I did in the diagram of the palm. Before doing this you examine her hand closely by stretching it out to have a good look at the lines and roll it over to look at the children lines. This is your head line (run your finger along her head line. Your palm all combines to a single story. First. this is your life line. that is right. important to your palm are some minor lines that I am going to introduce you to also. It achieves a number of objectives. Yeah . This line here is called your fate line. Discussion of the above: There is nothing to memorise at all in what I have written above. relaaax. let it sink in).. Yours is strange because it (does whatever it does . you can therefore thank that event for making you who you are. that was very difficult for you. and can be assured that she is relaxing internally also. There is absolutely nothing special in the way I deliver this part of the routine except for telling her to relax her palm.
They have enriched your life even if they have burdened it. Third. You should allow yourself to come to rest internally. All our difficult experiences both make us spiritually richer and make us spiritually poorer. Now what I have done is asked you to recall the most traumatic thing that ever happened to you in your childhood. sometimes a girl will want to tell you what that time was. It knocks her into herself. This is part of being comfortable with yourself as a man so you can claim your power in this world. and just because she says she cannot come up with such an experience does not mean that she cannot empathise with the feeling. 16 . some people may say that they can not come up with such an experience when asked. that is the time. and not dwell on the past except in a positive way. and you can dwell on the pain harder by describing your own sensations (as opposed to the actual events) to deepen her into it if it feels right. She is not judging the palm reading. she is in her own head. All the girls in your past have made you who you are today also. You let her wallow in that hurt. It could be as simple as finding out that Santa Claus is not real and that the mystical world of children does not exist. You should not expect to see an expression on her face at this time. she is now thinking hard and listening to her own internal dialogue. We are all a product of all the things that have happened to us in our lives. You should be at ease with who you are. You should tell her that you couldn’t see it exactly. Nevertheless. Fourth. you dwell on it. Yep. it is absolutely universal in its nature. it gets her age regressing (going back in her mind to when she was a child). so they know the feeling. I tell you that there was some time in your childhood or adolescence when you were forced to grow up before you were ready. it shocks her deeply. in a reading. So then. and you are sorry to hear that. In this reading. You want the girl to deepen into the pain of that time. In doing so you need to go there in your own mind so that she can understand what you mean. and that was difficult. that is what you are asking the girl to do. she is doing her best to keep her composure and remain unfazed. A person with a unique set of circumstances making you who you are. However. Now that is done you can go onto the light and fluffy reading of her heart line and her Mound of Venus and she will not be judging whether you can actually read palms the same. These things are universal. You are who you are today. Think of that time for you. Wallow in that sadness.fluff. or the time she first went unaccompanied to kindergarten and was left away from the bosom of her mother to fend for herself on the Jungle-Jim. She is impressed even if she doesn’t show it. Now. She is not out here with us any more. Perhaps she is wondering if it is universal. My readings are guides to the themes of the reading. and her attention from her parents diluted. A younger sibling may have been born. Do the exercise yourself. You don’t gloss over it. You need to be comfortable with your past. Perhaps she is marvelling that you could see that.
before we were sexually aware. Discussion of above reading: The reading asks her to recall her ideas of her ideal man and reminds her of it. She was a mental construct and conformed to fit your inner ideal. and men with the ‘perfect 10’ and childhood icons. at some stage. This can leave them in a perpetual cycle of shallow relationships with shallow men. and had dreams of being married and holding hands and being together. having an ideal woman in his mind to which the real flesh and blood women around him do not measure up. When we were little. Carl Jung has a whole set of ideas revolving around this natural human tendency to form a living breathing ideal mate in our minds. (Pause. and you are missing the spice of life. For man the Animus becomes the 17 .. The ability to love is apparent to a woman. as much as your perfect-man could be right in front of you (be careful with the self point here) you may have trouble even recognising him and more trouble meeting him and seizing the opportunity that is right in front of you because if we look over here to your Mound of Venus . Similarly the fear of losing love and being hurt can prevent many girls from entering into a relationship where they are prepared to allow themselves to love. And you always thought that a perfect-man would walk into your life. believe and experience the world. this represents your heart also. Jung thought differently to his predecessors and added a dimension to the philosophy of psychology by admitting inner experience and dreams as valid data from which to understand the way that humans think. You should be a connoisseur of the real world and enjoy its beauty for what it is. as I said. the reading just took a change of pace and she will be thankful for it) However. despite the fact that we hardly knew the little girl. This can prevent her from forming real relationships with real men. Men do the same. For some girls. You can not appreciate the real world or real people if they never meet your ideals. innocent of sexual desire to that stage. The perfect mate. We had invented a whole persona that felt real to us that was in fact not related to the actual person. caught up in their idea of their ‘one true love’ this Animus is out there and she is searching for him. We all have dreams of an ideal partner in our minds.Heart line reading Now your heart line. Girls grew up with Prince Charmings of fairy tales. Swiss psychologist. You should work hard not to allow yourself to fall into this trap. Men tend to do the same thing. then links that ideal man to you. and they find it enormously attractive. Be sure that in your quest for quality women you do not enslave yourself by valuing your freedom so much that it prevents you getting close. In that case the desire to be free becomes shackles that inhabits your choices and movements in fact reducing the things that you allow yourself to do and effectively removing your freedom. we might have desired a certain little girl. it means that as a little girl you always had dreams of a perfect-man. as it can make for an unhappy life. look her in the eye and smile. The inner woman in a man is called the “Anima” and the inner man in a woman is called the “Animus”. Because it curves up to between your index and middle fingers. Jung wrote that we were all psychologically androgynous to a certain extent in that no man is so entirely masculine that he has nothing feminine in him..
you. watching her for when they are helpful. Once he had separated out these two inner personalities. Especially in your dreams and fantasies. If you watch yourself or others communicate you will find we all do self-points and away-points unconsciously. A man who may not necessarily be anything like the Animus. creativity. The pauses should just be heart beats … just allowing the previous phrase to sink in. If you are not standing directly in front of her but reading it from the side so that you can speak in her ear with loud music you can do it blatantly. strength. This is the cocky flirting of a confident man. emotions. a focused attentiveness. romance. courage. intuition. 18 . This is the mechanism of the reading above. she associates the general thing you are talking about (in this case perfect-man) with you. if she is a little naive you can do it blatantly. and a sense of aesthetics. You do this subtly with your right hand while your left cups her hand. There are many girls out there. imagination.dominant personality and the Anima is externalised in our search for a mate. and when they leave her an opportunity to break into your conversation that you do not want.. If it is quiet and she is sitting in front of you and she has been being difficult with you to test your confidence and trying to keep control of the situation by putting you on the back foot. but she wants to believe he is. There is however no problem if she sees you are talking about yourself. specifically. analytical thought. A self-point means that you point to yourself. even though she does not notice it with her conscious mind. then project him onto someone. love and compassion. although we can allow our Anima to become more dominant and communicate using her. Jung felt that the inner male is capable of falling in love with the inner female. commitment and fidelity. Here I am getting you tracking it to take control of this realm of non-verbal communication in all your interactions. vitality. When doing the self point.. gauge her to see if she is sold that you can read palms or if she is still sceptical that it is a trick . gentleness. The self point should be down low so your right hand does not move very much to do it. and a desire for achievement. You smile at her with the reading in case she is pulling out what you are talking about. decisiveness. Encouraging her to remember her Animus. The anima has the following traits: she brings the attributes of feelings. friendship. tenderness. You can play with the lengths of the pauses to get a good feel for how long you should leave them. similarly who are in unfulfilling relationships who continue a relationship with a man in order to externalise the Animus onto someone else and project his personality onto her lovers face. relatedness. I look to within myself and understand that I am capable of falling in love as much with the notion of being in love as any particular girl that happens to be in my life. If she is really sceptical you may even want to point away to relax her that you are not talking about you and she can lose herself in the reading. The Animus on the other hand was more about assertiveness. when not. let the perfect-man be ambiguous. The reason that you do this is that. you will allow yourself to love and have conversations with your Anima.
19 . And then you can just relax and be comfortable with yourself and everyone in your world. And in that way you are giving up opportunities to love the people around you and be loved. And in that way your heart is caged (touch her again on her heart). She goes internally “however what?” and listens closely to your Mound of Venus reading. Similarly you can lay on what ever cheesy complement you like in regular conversation. You don’t need to hold yourself back and watch your manners and what is "the right thing to say". The “but” gets her chasing you. And it means that you have a caged heart.” It is okay if it is explicit that is what you are doing. palm out like a policeman might say stop. however…” It is the however that gets her. (Here you reach across with a semi-cupped hand. or act lady-line and you don’t just be yourself and just relax even with your best friends. right? And you have certain deep needs that can be satisfied. This makes her both chase and be drawn into the reading to see what it holds. “You always had dreams of a perfect-man. and this especially needs to be watched when you meet your perfect-man (run finger along heart line or else self point). or say the right thing. It means that you hold yourself back and don't give yourself completely to all the people in your life (wave your hand out at the rest of the world). you might say “You know.. your fingers representing the bars around her heart). Now these lines represent bars like in a jail over your heart.. and give yourself to the people around you. And you hold people out of your life (bring your hand up .The reading gives her the perfect-man she has been looking for and then immediately takes him away from her by telling her she is not ready. But you know that. or try to act cool. she almost always misses it. If she pulls you up on it tell her if she gets better light and has a close look she will see them and that you are practiced . Mound of Venus reading Your Mound of Venus is this fleshy area here. or scared or lack some confidence. I mean you are the sort of person who likes to be happy. but it comes off as a reading about her. and touch her chest above the breast. Discussion of above reading: This reading is smooth. You are selling yourself as if you are a product that she needs to buy. and stop people from really getting to know you (gesture back and forth) and relax in a non-judgmental way. If you have a close look. And you have trouble taking the new opportunities right in front of you. you will see these small lines that run up and down and side to side (you say this even if she does not have any. you are a very attractive girl … but …” and she will reply: “But what?” and just be sitting there in silence waiting. push on with the reading). but rather let everyone else in. You know that sometimes you are shy. You can negate any thing you say in regular conversation by using the word “but” or “however”.. but relaxed with your elbow bent in a subtle motion).. And you’d be a lot happier if you could not lock yourself up. For example. Here you are saying. and just insert a “but” to the end and it will get her chasing you. right? I mean you should treat yourself to this thing that is going to make you feel good. right? And you are not the sort of person that would stand in the way of your own happiness. As in “Isn't it nice what you can buy? And all those feelings that you can get from those things.
Women have the same problems. To understand this. and because of that. you might leave beautiful women to whom you are attracted to pass you by. The surface reading is true of human nature. imagine that you had a job where you had no boss. and become the person you always wanted to be. That opportunity is you. so you are telling her that her happiness is directly linked to how she treats you right now. you can just be yourself. to have it understood. Going there in your own head first will allow her to follow. The one where you are completely yourself. you should go to that need within yourself. In doing the reading. you need to think about the way you censor yourself at the beginning of the reading so she understands the sentiment. That is not being yourself. This is a good mood to have her in with you. The reading is to overcome these problems. This comes from your insecurities such as fear of a rebuff or fear of falling in love and getting hurt when she leaves. and being more attractive to women in the process. When you are delivering this reading. telling her to change the way she feels right now so that she is more in the mood where she is not being guarded and she has removed her interpersonal barriers. You could arrive as you please and leave as you please and work or not work as you please. even if we cannot see them. You tell her that she needs to open up more and stop pushing people away. Allowing other people in can be difficult. Part of growing both to be the sort of person you want to be. It means not censoring yourself and allowing yourself to connect with people. You don’t have to worry about what your parents think. and this is exactly what you are asking the girl to do in the reading. or the desire to look cool. For these reasons. All these things are leaving you in inner turmoil and paralysing you into inaction.You are in the reading telling her that she does not let herself enjoy herself and that her relationships suffer as a result. or your teachers think. Then you tell her that she needs to take the new opportunity in front of her. or even what society expects. The first step is working on reducing the inner turmoils within. We all have opportunities to form new relationships in our lives around us. or feeling insecure that you will not know the way forward should you step into it. This means a lot of things. You should go there in your own head as you do it to remove any of your own barriers just as you are asking her to remove hers. simply by not being ready to embrace your opportunities. not allowing them into your life. You need to think of your own awkwardness as you search for the right thing to say. For girls their relationships are all important. Because there you are not self conscious and not dogged by society. You are someone in front of her too. Then as the reading goes on you need to go into a different head space to allow her to follow. the barrier to forming meaningful relationships can be in your own tendency to block people out. You are the person you truly are with your best friends. but especially that you are so confident that you can be yourself and move through the world with ease having removed your insecurities and inner turmoil. is being at ease with yourself in the world. You are also telling her to relax and be herself. 20 .
but never before allowed yourself to enjoy as completely as what you are about to enjoy. You wave your hand in a sweeping motion to everyone in the place. but rather a path to inner peace and selfsatisfaction where you have relationships in your life with the women you desire and can enjoy them unreservedly. All these physical movements.. You reach out and at the same time curl your fingers out like an open cup with the fingers relaxed but spaced. Like it is you and her against the world and you and her are in a bubble together as you point to everyone else. When you are pointing to the rest of the crowd as in “all the people out there”.. managing personal space and gesturing towards and away from yourself will get you forming intuitions so you start doing it naturally in all your interactions. You remove your hand again back to her hand. Life line reading This is your life line. this is the first escalation of physical intimacy beyond simply holding her hand. Old skins need to be shed in order for you to embrace the new things. you can use your judgment. The 21 . It talks about your course of action for a decision that is in your life at the moment. I can let you in. Your hand is rotated to a position so that the backs of the fingers are at the top. I never have a girl reject this physical advance. depending on the girl as to how long to leave it there and how heavy to make the touch. you are closer to the end of your life than you have ever been. or ideas in your life that are outmoded (point at in direction of her friends or boyfriend). From this position . It is a path to being ready to accept yourself and your relationships. There are certain things. Where you can keep the rebellion of independent thought alive. The outer practice of interacting with society conquerors the inner practice of being in the world absolutely without apology and being completely comfortable in your skin. people. This is not to make the path one of wanton lust and gluttony in your sex life. you twist around slightly so that you are looking from her perspective out at the world from the same angle she is. Because technically. it is a journey of self-improvement. This shows a time of separating paths. You can return to do it again every time you tell her that she is locked up. That is the person that you need to be around women. and these things are stopping you from doing all those things that you really want to do. and it is to those feelings that you need to go in your own mind as you explain this reading. As you continue you move back to facing her so you are speaking directly to her again. right now. Regarding touching her chest. You are holding her hand with your left hand and touching gently her chest above her breast where her heart might be with your right fingertips just for a moment.” The journey of learning to interact well with women is more than just some tricks. and express yourself as you choose to whomever you choose. You will like me and accept me for who I am. you are talking as if you are beside her and with her and the rest of the world is "out there". Again. The feeling of “I am who I am. The journey from scattered ineffectiveness as a person to one who can have satisfying relationships with partners that you choose.Living without censor and with all your power in your world intact.
And remember when you were looking at it. and that feeling of just being sure that this is right for you. when actively doing it. given you have gone out with the objective of forming new relationships. Head line reading Your head line tells me that you are highly intuitive and that you follow your intuition when making decisions. and to hell with the rest. the advice to just “do it” is not necessarily good if it hurts her big picture. or disappointing your parents expectations as to how you should act are difficult things for girls to do. So you tell her to do it. All your worries fade away and in place are the pleasures of new experiences that you are about to experience. It is the beauty of ambiguous language. You should encourage her to follow the immediate gratification. So all those things that are holding you back. The message is obvious. you can now just take and throw away. Fear holds people back from doing all the things that they want to do. You have just come off telling her to remember her Animus. you should. But you know that deep inside there is a person in there that wants to make the change.day of your death is closer today than it was yesterday. and talk about philosophies during your interactions with women that value instant gratification highly to get her off the fence of fear about doing something new. And no matter how many times you wear it. then you have told her not to hold herself back. value instant gratification for yourself rather than holding off on your passions. Most people out there are in the need of some bold changes in their worlds. Quitting your job. “You should not stay home from work today [immediate gratification]. Similarly. It continues more and more as you go on with life. you will be fired and you need the job [big picture]”. you will be not be hungry later for dinner time [big picture]”. And you remember looking at 22 . and new relationships that you are about to cultivate. and being the person they would really like to be. or perhaps about her feeling that she is being watched and needs to guard her reputation or any other thing that might be holding her back like her internal hang-ups. It is quite likely that her logic line looks like this “Go home with him and sleep with him [immediate gratification]. and go with the flow of the times. This is a time for you. As you realise that you are about to move forward to places you always wanted to go. or leaving your boyfriend. and you will look to everyone like a slut. Now you are telling her do just “do it”. And as you think of that you should think back to when you were in the shop buying it. You can and allow yourself to enjoy this moment. you always look great in it and you love it to bits. To jump and “do it” is definitely something that she will be able to relate to. [big picture]”. From within this context. You about to drink the wine you always wanted to drink. People will externalise those fears into other reasons. You are told as a child “Do not eat that now [immediate gratification]. projecting him onto your face. She may in her mind be thinking about her boyfriend. We are used to the formula of delayed gratification. but have never been. and experience the things you want to. Discussion of the above reading: This reading is to do an objection strike on anything that might be holding her back from hooking up with you and a call for action. I mean if you can think of a piece of clothing that you have worn lots and lots that you completely love.
Where you are sure that this is the right thing to do. It is amazing how they believe you! People believe what they want to believe. And as you do that you should remember the feeling that you felt in your body. and then you have asked her to unlock herself and ready herself for new relationships and then you have motivated her telling her that she should act on her desires and now you are telling her to trust that decision. because the guy over there who reads palms said so. and if she feels sure. It is how she defines herself in many ways. then bring that feeling into the present so that she feels sure now. You explain. This feeling of sureness. Discussion of the above reading: this reading is to get her sure that you are the one. You can use this to finish the palm reading at any time. But obviously in my palm reading tradition. It is also a good way to terminate a palm reading mid-way if you feel like it. Discussion of the above reading: this terminates the palm reading and completely changes the pace. (HER sometimes: How can you see that? YOU: It is here in these little lines. you can just twist over the palm. You tell her he is wrong. drop the palm and move on to some other topic of conversation. and you forget what to say next. She asks questions because she has been snapped out of the inner lull. “Really. Now some palm readers who come from a different tradition to me will tell you that these lines represent the number of children you will have. So in the entire palm reading you have now asked her to recall her ideal love. Infertile girls might then run around and tell all her friends she is fertile. I discuss how this last “sureness” reading is constructed in the “On using language effectively” chapter Children lines (Now you twist over her palm to look at her "children lines") You are fertile! (Now you drop the palm signalling you are finished. You might be half way through what you want to do. it is written in her palm. And when you feel like this you need to trust your instincts and follow your intuition always. The joy is contagious. She will jump out of the lull of the trance by saying:) HER: What? YOU: You are fertile. She might tell you that her doctor told her she was infertile. You are able to have children. You are asking her to remember a time when she was sure.it and deciding to buy it. Because that is your intuition. I thought I was infertile!” She will then definitely ask how you see that. A girl’s fertility is very important to her. Then you tell her to trust the feeling. You need to trust it above and beyond everything else (point at her friends) and do the thing that you are sure about. read that she is fertile. if there is alcohol involved all start hugging her and congratulating her as if she had just 23 . then she should not hesitate. They can on occasion. You can if you like tell her that this is the thing that all girls are most interested in. or you realise that she is not interested in a continued palm reading. Sometimes you will read the palm of a girl and upon this reading she will say. we cannot read the future).
After the palm reading is an excellent time to do this. 24 . What is she to do? A cheek kiss is harmless. A cheek kiss is very good at changing the dynamic between you and her. no? No! It changes everything. She just kissed you. Also you need not only get one cheek kiss. You just put her in a position where she has to make fast decisions without sufficient time to think about the implications of what she is doing. you have to find a way to get the girl back from her group and pull her away again. you are doing well and can relax into an intimate evening. By congruent. The beauty of it is that it seems so innocuous. I mean that she has to make her beliefs line up with her actions. the routine goes like this: You: Here. Say: “Why did you do that?” and let her mind go searching just long enough to have her think “Because he asked me to. like after you make her laugh. If she kisses you on the cheek. having just spent 5 minutes reading her palm for free. tell her she is wrapped too tight. bringing her inner beliefs in line with her actions and she has explicitly made you the man who is her ‘perfect-man’. give me a kiss! (pointing at your cheek) Her: (comes in a gives you a tender peck on the cheek) You: Good girl … why did you do that? (pause … then answering your own question with a cheeky smile). If she rejects the cheek kiss you need to laugh at her. she is somewhat obligated to give “payment” in the form of a sweet little innocuous kiss if you ask. “Give me a kiss!” and you point to your cheek. I encourage you to do it and build an intuition for when she will accept it in regular conversation.conceived. It is because. She will drop her eyes. The cheek kiss is not just to be used with the palm reading. it is true. The Cheek Kiss. tell her it must be her caged heart and continue to go with higher energy conversations. Once out of the way you can also give her a cheek kiss as a reward for something. right? The cheek kiss is an excellent litmus test also of whether you can phase shift to comfortable and deeply intimate conversation or need to continue more high energy conversations to continue to attract her to you. “Must be because you like me. You: Must be because you like me. and kind of blush because after a reading like that. Tell her that you forgot to mention something in her palm and pull her aside again to give her another mini-reading alone. This is escalating intimacy in a non-threatening manner leading towards a full passionate embrace. but why did I?” and then you put the reason into her mouth. You can ask for a second or third at opportune moments. You say. The next thing to do is to force her to come up with reasons why she did that. Get her mind searching. It almost seems like an innocuous friendly hug where you pat each other on the back but rather it is where you ask her to kiss you on the cheek. right” It is a confident cocky line. Her actions therefore change her beliefs. She has to now become congruent with that fact. When this happens.
Because it curves up to between your index and middle fingers.. And given you like who you are today. as much as that was very hard (pause). This is your head line. that this is a routine that will almost always follow a palm reading in a case that is so closely linked that you consider it part of the routine as well as a stand-alone thing. Your first palm reading ever you should let the victory of having read her palm stand without the need to get the validation in this cheek kiss. relaaax. However. so let’s start with your fate line because it is a distinguishing feature in that it (does whatever it does). Yeah. Life line: tells her that it is a time of separating paths and the time is here in her life where she has to take action. once you are good at reading palms. Your palm all combines to a single story. Again. at some stage. important to your palm are some minor lines that I am going to introduce you to also. Heart Line Now your heart line. Head line: tells her that she is intuitive and knows when something good is in front of her. That means that as a child or adolescent you had some experience where you were asked to become an adult before you were ready.. The other thing that is important to your palm is this (run your finger over her Mound of Venus) .. Now. This line here is called your fate line. The five readings without comments for easy reading. Yeah . Fate Line Where will I start? OK. as much as 25 . everything that has happened to you makes you who you are today. it means that as a little girl you always had dreams of a perfect-man. that is right.. And you always thought that a perfect-man would walk into your life. Mound of Venus: tells her that she has a caged heart and she needs to open herself up. you can therefore thank that event for making you who you are. Summary (cheat sheet) Intro: explains the major lines Fate line: tells her that she had an experience where she had to grow up before she was ready. a summary of the five readings plus the introduction is below. this is your life line. You are more able to feel deeply and live as an adult because of it. I do not want to link in your mind success at reading palms and the cheek kiss that you may or may not get. RELAX . Intro Do you know your basic palm? Relax your fingers. Heart line: tells her that she always had dreams of a perfect-man. However. Use your own language to describe this. this is your heart line. The kiss is optional and you will find. I'll come back to it. Yours is strange because it (does whatever it does). I know... your Mound of Venus it represents your heart also. you should not do the cheek kiss line after your first palm-reading ever.However. that was very difficult for you.
and go with the flow of the times. And in that way your heart is caged. and stop people from really getting to know you and relax in a non-judgmental way. or scared or lack some confidence. Old skins need to be shed in order for you to embrace the new things. and give yourself to the people around you. This shows a time of separating paths.. but never before allowed yourself to enjoy as completely as what you are about to enjoy. you always look great in it and you love it to bits. this represents your heart also. I mean if you can think of a piece of clothing that you have worn lots and lots and that you completely love. and experience the things you want to. This feeling of sureness. All your worries fade away and in place are the pleasures of new experiences that you are about to experience. And no matter how many times you wear it. And remember when you were looking at it. or act lady-line and you don’t just be yourself and just relax even with your best friends. But you know that. and that feeling of just being sure that this is right for you. as I said. And as you think of that you should think back to when you were in the shop buying it. And it means that you have a caged heart. And you’d be a lot happier if you could not lock yourself up. you can now just take and throw away. and this especially needs to be watched when you meet your perfect-man. or ideas in your life that are outmoded (point at in direction of Obstacle or boyfriend). Now these lines represent bars like in a jail over your heart. Because that is your 26 . And remember the feeling that you felt in your body. but have never been. but rather let everyone else in. You want to drink the wine that those things holding you back won’t let you drink. You know that sometimes you are shy. If you have a close look. You don’t need to hold yourself back and watch your manners and what is "the right thing to say". and to hell with the rest. or try to act cool. As you realise that you are about to move forward to places you always wanted to go. Head Line reading Your head line tells me that you are highly intuitive and that you follow your intuition when making decisions. There are certain things. It means that you hold yourself back and don't give yourself completely to all the people in your life. and new relationships that you are about to cultivate. So all those things that are holding you back. you will see these small lines that run up and down and side to side. Mound of Venus Your Mound of Venus is this fleshy area here. Like you threw away an old piece of clothing that you never wear. and these things are stopping you from doing all those things that you really want to do. This is a time for you. And then you can just relax and be comfortable with yourself and everyone in your world. It talks about your course of action for a decision that is in your life at the moment. And you hold people out of your life.your perfect-man could be right in front of you.. You can put those things that are stopping you in the same place. And you have trouble taking the new opportunities right in front of you. people. Life line reading This is your life line. and allow yourself to enjoy this moment. or say the right thing. you may have trouble even recognising him and more trouble meeting him and seizing the opportunity that is right in front of you because if we look over here to your Mound of Venus .
There is no need to practice and get it perfect.intuition. not about being a complete palm reading purist. you will build confidence. It will move you inside her personal space and get you talking much more intimately with her. I remember my first palm reading ever. It is not controversial and it is low risk. don’t overcomplicate things and just do this to begin with. It went well enough in retrospect. My second palm reading ever I do not remember. As much as I am about to introduce a little later the complete advanced palm reading. You are fertile! This reading is enough to get you started and have you understand how good the routine is. There is much less memory load and for your first reading you do not want to overburden yourself by trying to do the complete reading including the 3 shells of your inner love. I did not have a manual like this. Just run the above to learn. After you have done the first reading. I want you to get comfortable with the thing. but had rather read a regular book on palm-reading and said to myself mid-way through my interaction with a particular girl “what the heck … here goes nothing!” and jumped in and did it. and do it more than once. Remember that this is about becoming good at interacting with women. I want to emphasise again that you should run this beginners reading to start. 27 . You need to trust it above and beyond everything else and do the thing that you are sure about. because having run one and seen that nothing bad happened. I want you to run these five readings first. And when you feel like this you need to trust your instincts and follow your intuition always. Keep it short. You wont remember your second either. You will have to do the same thing. There is no reason that you can not do this reading tonight. it will be all down hill.
You need to have her inwardly thrilled by your presence. most men out there have raised the bar too high on what they expect as a signal of this. she is aware she is attracted to you. This. She has inwardly raised an eyebrow while regarding you as a possible interest. However. a practice you should avoid at all costs. Deciding when to use a palm reading in an interaction and testing via trial and error will get you able to calibrate to a girls headspace at any given time in the interaction which is an important skill in all your interactions and the objective of this lesson. waiting too long for a sing and allowing her to get too comfortable in their presence thereby relegating themselves to ‘just friends’. When that has happened. There is. You should not be offering her something for free to get her to talk back to you but rather be in a conversation where the two of you are talking because she wants to speak to you and introduce the palm reading in order to transition the mood. When she is there she is attracted by my definition. a correct time to use it. I am not talking about so attracted that the decision that she wants you is already made. That is all that attraction is. to reduce the investment in your first ever palm reading. 28 . is very easy to do and is hugely overestimated. Kahlil Gibran. I do not want you to get into the habit of this and before you move onto the advanced readings. This means that they are waiting for some explicit signal before making their move and thus loosing opportunities. The Prophet. Perhaps. It is after she is aware that you are there as a man. In my opinion. it should be her that is accommodating you. As you reduce your inner turmoil and build your confidence it will be very easy for you too.Timing your Transitions And to the open-handed the search for one who shall receive is joy greater than the giving. for me at least. I want you to do many beginners readings where you are not using the palm reading as the entire pretext for the conversation. but rather that she is prepared to get to know you in a one-on-one in a palm reading with a possible romantic encounter on the horizon as opposed to free entertainment. If anything is exchanging hands for the benefit of this interaction. She should want to talk to you because you are a desirable man and a worthwhile person. It is a boogy man that guys chase and chase. But it is easy to achieve. not the other way around. For offering her something for free sends a message that you value yourself so little that you need to bribe her with free stuff in exchange for her talking back to you. Palm reading should be used at the time when you want to transition from the section of the interaction where you are meeting her to the part of the relationship where you are getting to know her better. you might want to approach a girl on a park bench or something. telling her that you are taking a palm reading class and ask if you can practice on her. in fact. Palm reading is not the first thing you should say to a girl. and once achieved needs to be acted on. Offering her something for free is similar to buying a girl a drink at the bar at the very beginning of the conversation.
take a book to read that you can be pulled out of for the conversation rather than looking like you are there specifically for the conversation... If you assume she wants it done and act like she wants it done. Girls can. she will want it done. All people who are good at socialising have their own standard stories and favourite topics of conversation. well this is your heart line. so let’s start with the fate line because it is interesting..When you enter any establishment. and can walk away from her interaction at any time to go back to their table. and I will also point out your Mound of Venus because it is important to your palm. An alternative introduction is simply “Show me your palm” 29 . OK. A set of things that you can always fall back on should you not be able to hold together the conversation just by the seat of your pants.. You are then into the palm reading before she even realises what is going on. Or that you are shopping at a shopping centre and have a larger agenda like buying your sister a birthday present. I believe that you should get together about 15 minutes of conversational material to use before palm reading. You should always assume that she wants it done. rather than meet women. and meeting her is just something that happened. You come in strongly on it and it will be accepted. they will smell it. this is your life line and wow! Look at this! This minor line is called your fate line . and you should use your judgment as to when this time is. It is a paradox that if you look like you are trying hard to meet women. you should not scope the room or look like you are being sexually aggressive. now relax (as she relaxes her fingers) . You should create the illusion that you have something better to do than hit on random girls. this is your head line. You should not feel in the least bit guilty about having your own. and then the women will be attracted to you. Or you are in a park to walk your dog.. You will often not need 15 minutes to get to a point where she is ready for a palm reading.. If she refuses your palm reading it is because she smelt your hesitation and you did not come in sure enough that she wants it. Perhaps you are there socialising with friends. With practice you will get a good feeling for it.. and be less attracted to you. Getting it accepted using your confidence is an important skill. My introduction to palm reading goes like this: The Primary palmistry introduction Me: Which hand do you write with? HER: Right. and you are asking her opinion as to what you can buy because you value the opinion.. however smell hesitation. you had your palm read before? OK. It is the look of trying that kills you. etc. making them harder to meet. yours is interesting. Me: Here give me your right hand . You need to be having fun in your environment first. This is not a time to umm and ahh and be bashful and nervous in choosing your words. If you are going alone to a café to talk to the waitresses. Because it comes up to the head line (or whatever it does) it means that at some stage as a child or an adolescent you had some experience . What that means is that the best way to meet women is to go out and not look like you are trying to pick her up.
The more attracted she is to you from the things you have said before the palm reading. etc. Do you know your basic palm? This is your head line.” Alternatively you can start reading the palm with the which hand do you write with introduction above. Me to group: “Mind if I borrow your friend for a second?” Take her by the hand and lead her away. Now. Until you get a 100% response rate on the primary palm reading introduction do not move over to this. They have no real choice even if they do not want her to go. and her nonchalantness may be a manifestation of her own inner turmoil. It is just the nature of the beast.Other introductions can just simply assume the sale such as “Have you ever had your palm read? No? OK. however my most common introduction goes like this: Group Isolation Intro. Part of the problem with the 80% or so that do not beg is that they either think you are joking or they are nervous. Don’t forget that women can be shy in the presence of an attractive man. “I guess. Within a group when you ask a girl what hand she writes with and you look at it and drop it. You are unproven when you tell her you can read 30 . lets go. be careful with this second introduction. you will often get her friends begging and begging to have you do theirs. the whole group will be looking at you at this stage. Me: which hand do you write with? Her: Right Me: (taking hand and examining it including rolling it over to see her “children lines” then giving it back to her. Do not start doing it until you are very confident in your palm reading. What else can they say? Even if a guy in the group does not want her to go. Her: Like what? (If in a group to group before taking her away somewhere private. However. He has been conversationally check-mated. The above introduction is the one that you should use. With a cocky grin:) Now I know everything about you. They say. In that way it is a good litmus test of how well you are doing to this stage. there is no reason that he can come up with that would prevent it if it is OK with her. the more likely it is that you will get the last enthusiastic response. About 70% of them go “why what do you see” of varying degrees of enthusiasm and about 20% go “You can read palms! Please read my palm” or something similar. then tell her that you need more light and lead her to the place that is most conducive to you and her spending time together. If it is OK with her” or something along those lines. They may not believe you can read palms. You ask if they mind if you borrow their friend.) Me: here give me your palm. once you have read one palm. The reason you should hold off on it is you need to breed out any smell of fear in your delivery. Because about 10% of the time she just shrugs her shoulders when you go “Now I know everything about you”.
When you meet a girl. If she bounces the reading with a shrug of the shoulders or something similar. and some of it about the surroundings. Nevertheless. Often. She owes you no conversation and she is not interested in asking you about yourself. with increasing proficiency at interacting with women. In fact when she does ask you your name it means that she is now interested enough in you that she cares for your name. and it will be visible. It makes it seem like some of the talk is about you. This is so that I am not some cheap entertainment. and I am so confident in it that I can sell it. despite its flaws. and the girls will sense this. because my palm readings are all a bit the 31 . and you will then get a line up of girls wanting their palms read. As much as I cannot prevent you from doing this. you should order her to see her palm and start reading it like in the original introduction. like the beauty seated at a table with a bottle of champagne and two other people. some of it about her. this is not what the palm reading is for. but I think I probably also do it also because I want to only read the palm after she has asked me to do so. You should not be scared of speaking to groups of people that include a girl in whom you are interested. Choosing to have the girls in your life that can bring you happiness. You are a stranger like any other stranger she has met. You should start the conversation with something else. This can be a good thing and a bad thing. Using the palm reading at the wrong time is a manifestation of your inner turmoil and lack of ease in the situation. not the other way around. Before that she will not necessarily volunteer information about herself. and as your proficiency with women grows and the lessons from reading palms seep into your persona and the rest of your conversations. I personally. Although it is not the best time to use the routine. and even had I not mentioned it you would have seen it for yourself. She is passive in the situation and will not just volunteer stuff about herself.palms. That means I have to deal with varying degrees of warmness and coldness in getting that happening. Her friends will all wish it were them that were getting their palm read by this attractive stranger. fulfilment and love is the goal of what you are learning here. especially at a party where everyone knows each other or that sort of thing. I want her to look back and remember that she asked me to do it. Girls with a lot going for them are seldom alone in social environments and this means that you are going to have to learn to interact with her peer group. I always use the second introduction these days perhaps out of habit because I mostly do palm readings as an excuse to isolate her out of her group of friends. you will read your girl’s palm. In fact. You should not use palm reading as an introduction. and part of that is that you are doing the choosing of the women you want. Once speaking to her group. you should be increasingly walking past the women you can have … the lesser beauty alone at the bar … to the girls you want. you should relegate the palm reading to the correct place in the interaction. will never do seven or eight readings in a row. palm reading is the ultimate excuse to pull a girl away from her friends. it can be used very early in an interaction. often you are required to take on the conversational burden. Palm reading is a way to extract information about her without her volunteering.
and I will read it in what ever seating situation I have available. this might be a good strategy for you.same. tell her that your eyes are accustomed and you can see. Now the only reading that requires a close look is the bars on her heart in the Mound of Venus reading. If the light is too low for you to actually see them. forcing your eyes to continually have to re-adjust to levels. if I am in a place with wooden chairs that have arm rests. never put the candle between you and her. Tell her to trust you that they are and continue the reading. Regarding lighting levels: Since you are barely even looking at what her palm looks like. I will pull our chairs around so that my knees are touching hers and read the palm facing her directly. you do not really need good light. I have better ways of meeting girls than that. shining the light on her palm to show her that they are there. If she wants proof. In some venues they do not have sofa’s to sit in where you can sit next to her. You should always put the candle on the far side of her palm even though it does not illuminate as well there. In a lounge bar. Nevertheless it is a good way to meet many girls in the situation if you want to get together enough material (like perhaps genuine readings) to do the lot. Other times. Similarly. I will read a waitresses palm over the bar with the bar between us. If forced to use candles. you can light a cigarette lighter. we will need light. Regarding seating situations: I will read a palm in almost any situation. but if you do not. so I will pull my seat around so that we are side by side with her hand on the table in front of us next to the candle in the centre of the table. I will read them standing up. Remember you have already read her fate line with the hard reading so she is not sceptical of your abilities at this point. 32 . I will read them sitting down. That way her eyes can move around within the space easily without refocussing and working hard and she does not have to look past a well lit area into a poorly lit area that are your eyes. The candle should not be between you. I will pull the candle in a glass that they put in the centre of the table over to the side so that we can see and that is plenty of light.
This is because you lack confidence in your readings and your inner turmoil is manifesting itself. She can then think deeply and allow herself to loose herself in the experience because you are not asking her to answer any questions. Be confident that every single reading is spot on. one must use the same words from the same genus of inward experience. Beyond Good and Evil. she expects you to be right. She will take the emotional cue and the seriousness and the need to cry from you. You are nervous and rabbiting through it. But the immediate things you need to concentrate on are: a) Looking her in the eye throughout the reading. Go to your own hurt and remember it.Troubleshooting your delivery. Remember your own experiences of a similar vein. Go to your own sense of shyness that holds you back in social situations. Don’t worry too much for your first reading ever. It should be a monologue flowing from your lips. ultimately one must have one's experiences in common. You are asking her to confirm that she did in fact have a time in her childhood or adolescence where she was asked to become an adult before she was ready. Slow down and explain how she feels. You are reading her palm. and do not let it turn into a dialogue. and you should not be fishing for the reinforcement. b) Slow down the delivery. She will not comment on it. I mean you look down at the palm as you point out a feature “This is your head line” for example. To use the same words is not a sufficient guarantee of understanding. Go to your own dreams of a perfect woman. 1886 Now you are doing the palm reading. Friedrich Nietzsche. Make long pauses. but then you look up and look her in the eye with your left hand cupping her hand from underneath and your right index finger on the line you are talking about. If you are struggling for words just stay silent as you think about it even if you are mid sentence. d) You need to go there in your mind as you deliver it. Do not um and ahh. But it is important to be looking her straight in the eye. we can continue to play with it to get you building the interpersonal skills that are the reason you are doing this. You want her to say “Oh my God! You are right! How can you see that?” Stop it. c) You are concentrating too hard on whether she believes you or not and whether you are accurate. Your looking for her feedback that you are correct is coming across as lacking in confidence. The nature of the reading should not be something where you are looking for validation about being “correct”. but rather using the opportunity to tell her how to feel and act. and you have all the answers as to what it means to be her. 33 . Do it in a way that is relaxed and does not feel slimy or as if you are trying to stimulate her. just get through it. You are therefore looking at her all the time to make sure that it is correct. etc.
e) Get it fluid with your own words rather than memorizing mine word for word. Important to a palm reading is that you become an authority figure. You have to be very strong, but gentle at the same time. When you read her palm, you are telling her what to think and what to remember. It will only be effective if she does what you tell her to do inside her mind like her recalling the things you want her to recall, etc. You need to deliver it so that she knows that if she does all the recalling of experiences and feelings there will be a point to the activity and she will understand something or learn something about herself. Confident. This is important and should flow into your demeanour in all your conversations. Implicit is that it is the truth, and if she does not understand, she is not doing as you say. She is not behaving. This is an opportunity to display the strength of your character and personality. Be strong. All this is communicated as sub-text to the conversation and is not out in the open. Women find a strong man sexy, so this is a mechanism built into palm readings that will assist in attracting her to you, and find out what the sweet spot feels like. Remember that part of what a palm reading does is change the dynamic of the interaction. To that end, it is important that you are moving inside her personal emotional space and changing the relationship into the sort where you are getting to know each other better. What that means is that you really want to slow down your speech and drop your voice tone from the excitable high-pitched “rabbiting around” that can come with up-beat conversation to the tone of deep relaxation. You have to become interested in the girl and interact with her in a way where you are completely comfortable. This is an experience of getting to know each other and you should soften and feel empathy for this beautiful individual in front of you. She will follow you to where you are in your mental space. The only way that she is going to become comfortable with you is if you are comfortable with yourself and with her.
Confidence The outer law (shari’ah) is my word, the spiritual path (tariquah) is my actions, and the inner reality (haqiqah) my inner states. Whoever has the outer law without the inner reality has left the right way; Whoever has the inner reality without the outer law is a heretic; Whoever unites the two of them has realization. Sufi proverb. Confidence is not only important for selling the palm reading. It is important in the delivery, and in all your dealings with women. In fact it is important in all your dealings with the world. Confidence is built by undertaking things you are not sure you are capable of and finding you get success. Just going out and interacting with women and getting success with them will therefore build your confidence. It is notoriously hard to fake, and often can be fleeting but a reduction of your inner turmoils assists greatly. When you were just hitting puberty and your body was changing shape and you started interacting with girls, in all likelihood you were not very good at it. You were awkward in your body, and awkward in your interactions. There was this vibrating nervousness in your persona that left you acting in strange ways. Perhaps you used to speak too loudly, become too excitable, or brag outrageously and make a spectacle of yourself. Or alternatively, you might have been shy to speak to them, acting as if you were not attracted to girls, and tried to act cool by ignoring them or making fun of them or treating them like boys. All this is just your nervousness and lack of confidence. But as you have gotten older, you have become more balanced internally, you are now are able to interact around women without all your inner turmoils manifesting themselves as strange behaviour. As you go forward in learning this, you need to concentrate on removing any further inner turmoil … your internal mental chatter, your stresses, your nervousness and things that betray your insecurities excess baggage and ideas that tax your thinking. In going out and practicing this, you will be working towards becoming unflappable in any situation with women, a man who is at peace with himself, and no matter what situation is thrown at you in the conversation. A man that retains your composure with good humour, and understands the lightness of the situation for the triviality that it is. You will then no longer take yourself or the situations too seriously and can relax and enjoy the interaction and your world. The first step is in reducing your inner turmoil. There are two kinds of confidence. The first kind of confidence is the one that most people think about. At a shallow level of understanding it is kind of confidence where you have your shoulders back and are relaxed in the situation. It is one where you mask your inner turmoil and act as if they are not there. That is one sort of confidence. But there is another confidence that is a different thing. It is true deep down, "I am a prince of a man" type confidence. It is the first type of confidence that comes from proficiency at
meeting new people and understanding how to come at social situations. The second kind comes from your life and your development as a balanced and happy person who is comfortable with himself and the world. This second kind of confidence is true sexual confidence. I am not just talking about just knowing you are good in bed. Or knowing you will impress her with your body when you are naked. I mean it is knowing you are good in bed and knowing your body is in fantastic shape and knowing you are as smart or smarter than everyone else and knowing you are stimulating as a conversationalist and knowing you will be a success in your career because you know you are talented. That is because the inner turmoil that these things produce in you have been completely eradicated by being at one with yourself and who you are. I mean the sort of confidence you have when even though you are in a place with the most elite girls in town, you still know that not a single one of them is above you. They are all equals or at a lower level of self understanding, their own inner turmoils causing them to trip over their own feet and be unhappy. This sort of confidence can yield a natural real womaniser. The sort of guy who can go out with a stunning beauty but still not value her so much that he is afraid of loosing her or the relationship become inwards focussed and possessive. She is just one of any number of girls that he can relate to and love deeply. The sort of guy who doesn't care because this ‘perfect 10’ who all the other guys desire, this near perfect girl, this 4 language speaking, intelligent, creative, exciting, fluid moving, pleasurable girl who leaves a track of men running into lamp-posts as she walks down the street ... this angel of a woman created in heaven is still just a person. He can have a relationship with her, but not have her on a pedestal. Girls are not attracted to guys who act as if she is better than him. She wants a guy at least at her level, and wants to even feel she is out of her depth, like she is punching above her weight with this guy. You need that sort of confidence to have fulfilling relationships with beautiful women, and it makes you very hard for a beautiful woman to replace because most men put her on a pedestal and confess their undying love. And the two types of confidence are not really related. The second kind of confidence is the one that is lacking when you excuse yourself from a conversation with the girl too early with a “nice meeting you”. It is the one that is lacking when you do not just sit down with the beautiful girl you have spoken to before and done well with because you are kind of shy and not really in the mood to introduce yourself to all her friends since it is 3pm on a Tuesday and you are not shaven and dressed up. The one that is lacking when you say "my bedroom is untidy ... I cant take this girl home tonight". It is the one that is lacking when you say, "I wont ask for her phone number, because I will see her here again". It is the one that wonders what she will think once she sees the bad shape your body is in or the pimples on your ass. It is actually this second kind of confidence that prevents you from having the really desirable girls and leaves you with the lesser beauties. Particularly stunning girls are not well hit on often ... there are not many men with the courage to actually take her by the hand and lead her away because they are worried
Given that we need to work on the first 30 minutes as a priority. 37 . thinking to yourself "if only she knew who she just blew off . In a space where you can share your ideas. I see people that get nervous and censor themselves. on the pillow in the bedroom. although you can act as if you are confident in the first type of way. That is where you need to be. And conversely. great hobbies. you don’t just hang in there and take it because you don’t have the second kind of confidence. You can be the ultimate in people: Interesting. ambitions and dreams with each other. and be able to get her away from her friends and in a one-on-one conversation with you..about their sexual experience and prowess or their apartments or whatever. You are able to talk and just be yourself. Or perhaps you can act in a confident way and do very well on a first meeting.. not the first. my name is Bob and I work in Advertising”. Many men will flatter her. but then find that the desirable women are not interested in getting to know you better beyond that first meeting because they sensed your inner turmoil. The true skill is to be able to be yourself when you are with other people who like you are in your own lounge room. That is because you are confident with people that you know well. You are being yourself and just hanging out. When you are trying to say the right thing or searching for something to say. you can be confident enough to say all those things that come to your mind when you were on the pillow with your ex-girlfriend with people you just met. did you struggle for what you wanted to say? Or did you just say the first thing that came to mind? The thing that was on your tongue? Like you are with your friends and family. intelligent and all that. They try to say the right thing all the time. selfassured. the first type of confidence is being able to be the same person with people that you don’t know as people that you know well. generous. you can have plenty of the second type of confidence. you are not confident like you are when you are around people you know already like you. When you were with your ex-girlfriend and she loved you. When you have true confidence. but she is not really approached properly with a proposition she is likely to take seriously. but walk up to whatever girl you like (since you are so sure that they are beneath you) and say “Hi. But when it starts going not exactly to plan and she deviates from the response you would like to get. It is a pity that it is the way of the world that you will be judged by a potential mate with the interaction (and relationship) continued based on the impression you give in the first 30 minutes especially. and having been rejected. You need to be able to approach the situation well with the first type of confidence and have the second type behind it. you will never demonstrate these things to any potential mate. honest. It is possible that this second type of confidence is the thing holding you up. she has no idea who I am". At a deeper level of understanding. But if you are not good at managing that first half hour of a meeting. be able to get them all laughing and into you. There are very few men with enough of that second kind of confidence to be up to the challenge. You may have phenomenal social skills.
Remember. There is nothing wrong with you." And when you are with a girl. Similarly. You know with such a sense of sureness inside that you are good as you are that you don’t need to change yourself for anyone. Relax Mom. I want you to be in the frame of mind when you are running the routine. The world is your oyster. Would you be shy to speak to your best friend at a party? Whenever you 38 . The last thing that means is that you bend over and give her whatever she wants. After all. You should speak to her as if this that is coming out of your mouth is the first thing that is on the top of your head even if it is a standard story you always tell. "Wait until I finish this level in the video game. You can stop trying to say the right thing. And they like that. the message wants to be "I am who I am. They understand your sense of confidence and charm and power in relation to the world around you. We should get together". Then. You can give her a light ribbing like you would your best friend. because it is my routine. As if you are so confident in the world that you live in that you can be yourself wherever you go. it is out in the open that is what you are doing. You can immediately laugh and have a good time like you are with your best friend. before you run the routine. That is where you want to be in all your dealings with the world. This needs to be done within a healthy diet of approaching many women. It is then that girl’s eyebrows are raised. you are fine. and after you run the routine. of course you would approach and start talking. When you are speaking to your friends and speaking to your family. If this does not feel like you are being yourself. What is more. Then you are starting to live in the correct way. mostly. you did not say to her "of course. and your mother asked you to tidy your room. you are so confident that you can be exactly the person you are deep inside when you are around people who you know like you when you meet someone new. You know I am the sort of person who will do what ever you want!" You said. I mean you watch your swearing like you might with your grandmother if it is in a formal setting. Part of that is that you don’t censor your opinions. and find that inner balance that both makes you at peace with the world and makes the girls like you. Doing what she says because she said it is trying to impress her by modifying your personality to someone that censors yourself in order to accommodate her. but you do not censor your opinions or try to say the right thing. Your friends and your family like you. I do not feel like that when I run the routine. I guess. You are so confident that she will like you that you can treat her like she is already your best friend. If you can be yourself like you are with your friends around strangers. you should continue to be yourself.The palm reading gives you a structure of things to say so that you can relax and be that person. The challenge is to be that same "you" from the moment you start speaking to a girl. I want you to be yourself with women. that you are being yourself. and everything is easy for you. and you are a cute chick. then you need to change it so that you are. That is the person that I want you to be. you should not do what she says just because she said it. The last thing I want to give you here is a greater feeling of needing to "say the right thing" or "say it the way Steve Celeste said". It is your perhaps confidence that may be lacking. When you were at home as a kid. And the world becomes easy for you. similarly. and you may be censoring the real underlying you and not understanding ability to influence the world you live in.
Take back your respect. Get good interests. the lack of confidence. that you don't need to change who you are in any type of radical way such as presenting yourself as an astronaut. You have to be sure. Go to the gym. The way to do that is to use my palm reading and material for a period. It is the confidence that drives your success with women. But make them who you are. Bottom line is. you have to be absolutely sure in your mind that this is going to work. If your approaches are not really working at the moment and you are bouncing off girls when you try to speak to them it is because you do not truly believe in your mind that she wants to speak back to you. You are not treating the world like you are comfortable in it. fine for who we are. The best of the skills will stay. Learn socialisation skills.approach a girl. each and every one of us. If you are not fine for who you are. and the conversation goes nowhere. when you strike up a conversation that she wants to speak back. or start a palm reading or any other thing of that sort. I am not talking about maintaining a status quo. and go back to being you. 39 . She can sense the hesitation. then decide that you can do far better. you need to make the changes so that you are fine for who you are. all that. improve your comedy skills. We are. Make the career change. I mean change your wardrobe. Reform your relationships.
‘The time has come’ the Walrus said. The “How did you learn this?” conversation that is usually the first question after a palm reading falls into this category. Or at least that is as far back as I am aware since our family history gets foggy further back than that. You should learn to recognise these questions as a desire to change gears in your interrelation when you are speaking to someone new even when not using a palm reading.and kings – Of why the sea is boiling hot – And whether pigs have wings. During the beginning you should work to make your conversations not strained. (Here is an opportunity to talk about your roots and descent if she is interested including gold-rush stories. hardy men. At the beginning of a conversation it is reasonably high energy. Girls find your family important. and I am not as good as them. you will find men eating alone. you are sharing with her something of yourself so she feels that she knows something about you also. When she asks me why I read palms. That is not because there are more men than 40 . 1871 The immediate questions that follow the palm reading signal that she is now ready to move to a different phase of your relationship. but rather relaxed things were you are happy to just talk and she is an audience and someone to share with. and natural. ‘To talk of many things: Of shoes . At some stage however. with both of you working at the interaction. She might simply ask you your name. and my grandmother did it. If you go out to eat on Christmas day. never falling back on tired conversations like the weather or the sorts of conversations that she might have with her dentist (“What do you do for a living?” for example). the palm reading illustrates it beautifully. proud histories. but not women.and sealing-wax – Of cabbages . and not relating personally. the initial part of attraction is done and you can fall into becoming comfortable with her.When her Personal Questions Come.and ships . and sharing who you are with each other.’ Lewis Carroll. The mechanism behind the above is to redress the dissymmetry of information that you have about each other. She is close to hers. I am going to make you work a little here to come up with your own since mine is distinctly for me: I am a fifth generation palm-reader. but rather just talking to one another. However. etc). When this happens. and start to fill in the details in her mind of who this man in front of her is. she will take an interest in who you are. migration to the new world. but can hold my own. Now talking about this stuff. and my mother did it. Through the Looking Glass. spending Christmas alone. You know all about her deep things on the inside from the palm reading. I tell her that it has been in my family for generations.
Mountains are good too. It illustrates the sort of story that is very seductive for a girl you just met and the level of personal sharing that is good to increase intimacy. she takes me to this old women house. Tell this story often as if it is your own. It is not because there are more single men. Talk about it in a positive way. I got this blood nose. You can use it alone as an answer to “why can you read palms”. So the old woman takes me and puts me in this chest and locks me in it. I want to say the island is called Dauphin Island. And this woman is sitting on a rickety bed with a cat in her arms stroking it. Like she has a crown on her head. sharing something about your family.women in the world. I could hear outside laughter. the name will come to me in a minute. Grandmother routine My grandmother used to not only read palms. Islands are good including river islands. You may think of some other location where such an old woman might live in an urban location if you are from a long line of city dwellers and cannot talk about real memories of the location you are talking about). and she would do readings based on spiders and cats and all sorts of things. She is barefoot and she comes in and sits on the edge of my bed. (I have inserted that geography just as an example. Polygamy is illegal and largely socially frowned upon. and keeping the conversation intimate. It was a different one. but also tealeaves. So I am lying in bed. I cant remember how I got it now. It is nice for coming out of the post palm-reading glow. and a thin nightshirt on that you can see the silhouette of her body through. So my grandmother lived in southern Alabama on the Gulf of Mexico coast in a little town about 60 miles east of Mobile. and my nose had stopped bleeding. keeps you on the topic. and like five or six more cats purring around her. And I am just lying there wallowing in her 41 . I remember when I was down at my grandmothers place as little boy. It displays you as sexual and sensual even as a little child. but I remember standing next to a wall with my head against the wall and watching the blood dripping off the end of my nose. puts me back on the boat and takes me home to bed. and deepens her into your world and your family increasing her idea of her knowing something about you. So she comes to me and puts me in this boat and takes me to this populated island just off the mainland in the Gulf of Mexico. I remember it being dark and me being very frightened. but that was not it … that is the one with a road to it. My grandmother pays the old lady. screams. and you should change it around to better reflect the real location of your extended family. Families look after their girls and girls value their families enough that they will travel long distances so that they don’t have to spend Christmas alone. My nose is still bleeding and I am holding a handkerchief to it. So anyway. singing and knocking on the box. like about 7 or 8. It just bled and bled. And in a dream this beautiful girl of about 15 comes into my room. as are far away exotic locales. Then I am taken out of the trunk. I am now going to give you the Grandmother routine. And she is just breathtakingly beautiful. she feels like she is getting to know you. So I watch the old woman and my grandmother have this conversation that was obviously about me. Babies are born at about a 50/50 ratio.
So I continue to sleep. and move onto the sort of conversation you have with people that you are intimate with in 42 . saying something that I don’t understand. Now. The repeated retelling will build your intuitions for the storytelling skill-set. that to say that my nose stopped bleeding because of the spells and incantations would be wrong. told me not to ever tell anyone about what I saw last night. She sprinkles some gold coloured dust over me. Consider the game won.beauty and she is speaking. I was sure my nose would open and I would bleed to death. where the laughs came. but nothing happened. I think. so if you develop your own rather than going with the tried and true one above. and you can continue after a palm reading in the sort of intimate mode as if you have already slept with her and you are having a discussion on the pillow. You do not need to take yourself too seriously in this period of learning. However. The first time I told it. we are concentrating on form over substance. I was genuinely scared and never told anyone until after she died. do not throw it away after a single bad reception. what was redundant and what was valuable. testing it once is not enough. When trying a new story for the first time. at this stage of my life. You should therefore feel free to run the above to understand why it is an entertaining piece and develop good intuitions before creating your own. and telling a story that is not yours is not going to hurt you. and kisses me on the forehead and then she leaves. And in the morning my grandmother came into my room and before I could say anything. It slows the energy down. including the cheek kiss. Delivery and confidence also improves with repeated retelling. All the same. and using human interactions in social environments as laboratories and testing grounds to learn a new skill set. But I think to say that the spells and incantations had nothing to do with it would be wrong also. a major mechanism of the palm reading routine is to change the style of the interaction from just-met-each-other-banter to we-like-each-other-and-are-becomingcomfortable-in-each-others-presence. The repeated retelling will build your intuitions for the story-telling skill set that will flow into all the stories you tell. You improve these things with the re-telling as you get feedback from your first audience as to what was good. After a palm reading has been done and accepted. If you want to do your own story instead you can try your own entertaining little piece that is true of a similar vein if you are confident you know why the above is good. What that means is that you are sure that she is attracted to you and you now need to spend some time getting emotionally intimate with her before physical intimacy. What do you think? Do you believe in superstitions? Truth is better than fiction and my story is an illustration. you should refrain from doing any more high-energy routines and conversations that you used earlier in the interaction when you were just meeting each other. for teaching purposes.
your life. It is a good time to talk about your worldviews and philosophies. These should be congruent with the sort of person you were portraying yourself as when you first met her. Once you stop having conversations that is built around attracting her and move more into personal stuff, you may want talk about old relationships so that you can get inside your philosophies about relationships and sex. When you do this you should tell her that you are still friends with all your old girlfriends. Tell her that you are still in love with them. You should espouse philosophies that let her know that you are a non-judgmental lover and respect women, never having had acrimony in your past. Even if you are divorced and in a bitter custody battle, when meeting someone new, your love life should be presented as rosy and you should never show any misogyny towards any of your ex’s. When you tell a girl that you are still friends with an ex girlfriend, it is a message straight from the ex-girlfriend to the girl that says, “This is a good man. He is so good, that even though we are not dating anymore, I am still friends with him”. That is the sort of message you want to send. You might want to escalate the sexual end of it. You can lay off the jokes and comedy now. Do not run any high-energy conversations where you might for example bang your fist on the table in the middle of it to indicate that you were surprised or someone surprised you. That will make her jump and throw off your energy. You want to slow down, and get intimate. Attract is over. It is time to get relaxed and comfortable. Touch her often. There are times where a girl will ask you to read your own palm to her to "get to know you like you know her". While this might seem a good chance to "sell yourself" in a subtle way, there is no good way to do that because you have too much information about yourself. It will sound like you are qualifying yourself to her and trying to get her to like you. This is something you should never do with a girl. Interacting with her is based on illusions. You want the illusion to be that she is the one trying to measure up to you, her hitting on you, even though it is you who initiated the interaction. She should like you without you trying. Or at least it should seem like you are not trying. Always come off like you are who you are, and are confident that she will like you. So if she asks, run the “Exchange life stories” routine. No, it is too hard for me to read my own palm because I know too much about myself and thus focus on certain features that I know to be good or bad about my personality. Instead, to get to know each other, I’ll tell you about my childhood. An alternative version goes like this: You: Tell me about yourself Her: What do you want to know. You: Where did you grow up. Give me a quick run-down on your life. At the end you then give her yours. Note that often to get the ball rolling you will need to offer yours first.
Alternatively again you can go into a more formal game: Tell me your entire life story in 5 minutes. C’mon, I grew up here and went to school there. Then I’ll tell you mine. Again, you will often have to tell yours first. Her run-down is extremely valuable information about the girl, her insecurities and her hot buttons and you should listen very closely and well so that you know how to deal with her in the future. Now, when you tell her about your childhood, you need to tell the truth and still do it in a way that presents you attractively and demonstrates the sort of person that you are. You want to tell the stories that you always tell and it should be fresh and interesting. But keep in mind that you are now in comfort building mode and you want to let her inside your world. while you want to tell the truth, you also want to make it clear in a subtle way that you were always cool and continue to be. You were not the geek at school, you never had pimples and you were always popular, and from within that context you can talk about events that were difficult in your life or rites of passage. A display of vulnerability is genuine sharing and will bring her closer. You want to talk about your first girlfriends as part of this. Never mention any heartbreak, however. Make out that you are still friends with them all, allowing the love to come out in your voice. This demonstrates you in a real way and she will increase her trust levels and the amount she is willing to share. I will leave what specifically to say to your good judgment. If you follow the philosophy that truth somehow sits outside the girls mind, and she has to construct the world inside her mind, we need to concentrate on this when we represent ourselves. When you tell your story you are presenting to the girl in front of you data that will have her constructing theories in her mind as to who you are. You have control of the theories that she will come up with in her own mental construction only to the extent that you can control the data going to her five senses as to who you are. There is in fact no true “Steve Celeste”. She will never know the “true me”, only construct theories about me based on what she has seen of me before, and what she has seen of men before, and what she has seen of the world before, and what she has seen of men that look like me before. This serves to allow her to predict in some way what I am thinking, who I believe myself to be, and how I will act in the future. These constructs, however are just models and in no way are related to who I actually am, what I am thinking now or how I might act in the future. This is not the truth, just a construction based on her experience. I can split myself into 4 parts as shown in the below chart.
Fig: On the left shows the entire self split four ways equally according to who can see each section. She can see the upper half of the circle. You can see the left half of the circle. The one on the right shows someone
with better self-understanding (and thus a smaller blind self) who has chosen to communicate more of himself (and moved items from the hidden self into the Shared Self). The challenge is to put the right things into the shared self and keep the right things in the hidden self.
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The shared self is all the things I know about myself and all the things the person I am communicating with knows about me too. These are the things about me that I talk about and consciously communicate with her. The hidden self is all the secrets I have about myself that I do not share. The blind self are the things my listener knows about me, that I am blind to myself. Certain habits I have or the way I come across that I am not aware of. The unknown self are things that I do not know about myself and the girl does not know either. There is no way of knowing what this is, but you can probably assume that it is there to make a complete model.
From the 4 areas I am only aware of my shared self and my hidden self. From the 4 areas, I am only presenting to my listener 2 parts: the shared self and the hidden self. It is from these two things that she constructs her theories about who I am, and many of these theories will be wrong. All you are able to control is what you communicate from the shared self. When you select things to communicate you are bringing things from the hidden self to the shared self to allow her to form opinions of who you are. When we select these things we both want to intrigue the listener and present things that she finds attractive. The blind self you can control on a larger scale by finding an inner calm and presenting yourself in a confident way. If you get to the right equilibrium in your life and body, the blind self will sort itself out to present an attractive picture even if you are unaware of it. Those two things are the point of what you are trying to do here. Further, you will be continually interesting to her if her theories about who you are prove to be wrong. In that way, women like guys who are “spontaneous” or “unpredictable”. The reason they like this is because it continually challenges their theories in their mind as to who you are, and she has to continually work to refine her mental model of who you are. This causes intellectual stimulation and keeps you on her mind in a positive way. It leaves her constantly constructing new views of your character in her mind. If you have ever read a women’s romance novel, you will have seen that there is a very brief description of the romantic leads physical appearance, but then hundreds of pages describing his character. Romance novels are women’s sexual fantasies. It is written by women for women and gives us a good idea of what is important to them. Keeping them analysing your character keeps their interest. Now, a large part of what shows up in your blind self can be controlled to the extent that you grow as a person. The insecurities that you throw out into the world in your deliveries, and how you betray your underlying beliefs and inner turmoils. Perhaps it is simply in your self-serving belief system where you betray that you believe that the men that are rich or good-looking are those that get all the girls. If you are neither rich nor good-looking, this simply betrays insecurity and an inner turmoil, that you wish you were one of those things. The insecurity is unattractive for itself, and although it will be 45
invisible to you. 46 . for she will be able to see it. your inner turmoil will be moving into your blind self.
When you do that. So then when you continue building comfort it is within the framework of an ongoing relationship. It'll have to wait for another occasion. Overselling is something I do all the time to get her to make a decision by overselling what you have in your apartment. it will tell you all the things that you need to do in order to achieve that picture in 5 years. This is a good thing for a number of reasons. and her grandmother taught her. I mean if you can imagine yourself in 5 years in exactly the situation that you would love. Specifically her friend may come 47 . With all those things accomplished that you would like so your life is perfect. This is a very good way to get her phone number without ending the interaction. Make life easier on yourself and give people excuses to do the things that they want to do.. Usually you get her phone number at the end of the interaction as you and her go your separate ways. and not mentioned The Cube. Most of the places that you meet girls. OK? All right. etc. The other reason that it is good is because some unforeseen circumstance may occur that prevents you getting a good opportunity to get her number later. But I can't do it here. you can get her number and can continue the interaction. We are not fortune-tellers.. but it tells us who you are today. even if the pretence is not the important motivator. the Cube. Above I have oversold it. The disappointment she may feel for the oversold object is not important. However with the opportunity to get her number here. Even when you have already read her palm. It takes 15 minutes of concentration on your part and requires silence. Cannot divine the future from it. First it solidifies in her mind that you do in fact plan on seeing her again. it is not that good. there are constraints on the situation either in terms of time or social constraints that require that you will have to retire and continue the interaction on another day. My mother taught me. I have this other thing . okay? “The Cube” is a visualization personality test in a book by Annie Gottleib. Generation’s excuse & Cube number close It has been in the family for generations. that of how you learned it. If I do the cube on you. It is much better. and I will usually run it during the Day 2 (first date). It is however a good routine to run. That is the obvious time to do it.Getting her phone number. Here is a segue to get her number for her first question after the palm reading. and this is not just a chance encounter with a guy she will never see again. There is a discussion of the book in the Appendix. I will oversell the Cube or oversell what I have in my house to convince her it is worth seeing or doing. it does not seem like too much fortune telling. They were just pretences to get her in a position where you want her anyway. This changes how the rest of the interaction is on that night. People prefer to do things for a reason. you are going to need her number. so give me your number and we will organise to catch up.
or a boyfriend or someone may arrive ruling out the chance to exchange numbers discretely. a solid number close is to pull out a pen and paper. If she wants to step up and be more insolent than you.. and just continue with regular string along based conversation.) Have her responding to your stimulus so she is the female and you are the male in the conversation... or a pet name you gave her or something that takes her straight back to the interaction in her mind. You are saying it as if you could have had her number at any time and you have only just decided that you are going to see 48 . still presenting it as if it happened yesterday. Take out the fluff and keep the call tight (tight does not necessarily mean short . and say confidently: I like you. touch her on the shoulder. Just because you used it as the pretence to get the number does not mean that you need to stick with it. If you choose immediately after the palm reading not to use the above routine and go onto other routines (such as the Grandmother routine). They are better because you leave them at your place. Give me your number. The routine does not have to be that strong>" Let her get comfortable with the fact that you are on the phone without her having to talk much. Now. all the better . do not get her number there and then. like “Hi Jody! Steve here! How’s it going? Cool. This is a good pretext for getting her home alone with you. you should then go into a story of sorts to let her mind get comfortable with the fact that you are on the phone and this conversation is going to be easy. I am going to see you again. when you call her.. So you should come onto the phone upbeat. She just sits there and listens for a minute or 2 while she gets her brain around the fact that you called and she is speaking to you and let her get over the trembles involved with that coming out of the blue. just keep control of the agenda and the conversation. Hey. In fact changing pretences for getting together solidifies what this is really about. If you have nothing like that. check this out: <immediately into funny story or routine about what apparently happened this morning or yesterday and the story can be re-used on multiple girls even if it is months since it happened. you should not do so with the Cube as a pretext on the actual call.up and drag her away. You should pitch the get-together that you come up with. if you used the above. You will notice that this is worded as if you choose her. now you have that banter of sexual electricity going. You should call her and open the conversation with something that reminds her of the conversation you had together … perhaps something you accused her of being. or some other joke that you made up together. The Cube and the runes are discussed in Appendix 1. You do not have to … just because you used it as an excuse to get her number does not mean you have to use it. Better than the Cube is the Runes. Take control on the phone. so if she wants them done she has to come to your place and inside with you. preferably as low-key as possible rather than a formal date. Once you are where ever you are going you can use the cube where you are in a by-the-way style thing if you want.
You will not follow up on your phone numbers that you get properly. with practice that you do not attach any real outcome to whether you get the phone number or not.her again as if that is what she was trying to achieve all along and her charms have got her what she wanted. but keep in mind that you need to look as if you are entering into this relationship with good intentions. and their details. and can drop immediately into comfort building type conversation. This is in fact a good thing. "I like you. It is strong and forceful. Slap the pen and paper down in front of her gently. You will find. look her in the face and say. removing the pressure you put on yourself and the interaction. Her eyes will move to it too. reach out and put your hand into the middle of her back behind her shoulder blades. It is all a social experiment. Even with a girl who you really like and value highly. but rather have these conversations so normal to you that you are accustomed to it and not trying hard. It is hard for her to play coy games. With girls that you will see again. the continuing interaction is not based on getting the phone number and following up over the telephone. you don’t necessarily need her phone number. If you put too much pressure on yourself because you value the girl. As she is filling it out. In that case you can just speak to her again. This is because you will trivialise your interactions as "just practice". every girl will seem almost disposable to you. In such circumstances it is especially important that you remember her name and the details of your last conversation. looking at it. and coming back for a second conversation with her. It is flattering to remember someone. You need to not change the way you are acting. You must. If she is a girl that works somewhere you will see her again. Your having your hand on her back means you and her are both looking at the paper side by side and it is filling her vision up close. If this is a good way forward in a situation such as this. and you will allow otherwise perfectly good interactions die midway just because you are distracted by something else. She goes onto autopilot and fills out her number without thinking. understand that you should not put pressure on yourself to be successful. 49 . Once you are starting to get good and have many women. by remembering the first you create intimacy and the illusion that you know each other well. You should treat it all as a fun experiment. it is a good rule for all continued interactions with girls. It works. when you see a girl you really like. it is time to give her your phone rules or discuss the exact circumstances of when you call so that she can imagine picking up the phone and having you on the other end. The way I do this is you pull out pen and paper. you will loose many of the lessons in being relaxed that you have been building by practicing on the women around you. Give me your number" and at the same time with your other hand slap lightly the pen and paper on the table. I am going to see you again.
and puts the fact that this in fact is a romantic encounter back on the table so that you have not rebuffed her. It is not difficult. Stay above it. I will therefore spend some time talking about remaining centred and at one with yourself while understanding this agenda. The roles can change. girls will have their own agenda: she wants you to validate that she is desirable. reinforcing in her mind all the options that she has in men. and then her pursuing you. 50 . and you are a big person. but rather as a symbol of the underlying need for validation. after a palm reading will sometimes accuse you of being a player. so long as you do not fall down into nastiness or a tit-for-tat conversational structure.” W. You can follow up. you still have some work to do yet. When you are in a flirty conversation. “maybe” or “not yet”. attempting to claim the validation before you have given it by assuming the victory and giving you a rebuff. If her accusation of you being a player is strident and a put down. supremely confident that you are having an effect on her or you can let it be known that you are hitting on her. envies my successes with the fair sex. cute … you thought I wanted to be your boyfriend”. if you like with a smile “I am not that easy. You should be the big one within the interaction: the sun around which she is a planet orbiting. Somerset Maugham. and gives a clear course of action to correct the relationship to one of openness and sharing. but that should only happen once you are sure she will say either “yes”. you can move between the two modes. or a womaniser. so you want to keep the interaction positive and a thing of growth for both of you. and does not degrade you at all. This means that you are immovable in the centre and are not thrown off your balance as she fishes for her validation. III. the Colonel.Her Strategies. “Our good friend. she need not continue with the interaction. You can accuse her of liking you. Understanding the situation allows you to flow within it. Once she has been validated. The reason the first phrase is good is that she was not thinking that you want to be her boyfriend. It means that she is looking for you to tell her that she is beautiful and extremely sexually attractive. I tell him he can have just as many as I if he will only listen to me. It is fine to proposition a girl. There is no reason that you have to stick with one or the other throughout the conversation. or it can be all left ambiguous. To address the scenario where you want it to be ambiguous as to whether she is capable of having you or not: putting agendas on the table can in certain situations kill the flirtation and turn it into a proposition. It means that you take nothing as a rebuff. A girl. Remember that this is fun. The follow up line about you not being that easy then breaks the tension of the put down and gets her chasing. If you never fear a rebuff you will never have one. 1951 Within a flirtation situation. you pursuing her. there is a dance of the pursued and the pursuer. she was thinking you want to sleep with her. you should laugh and come back with a strong line like (delivered with a smile as if you are mocking a four year old): “Oh. “The Hairless Mexican” from Collected Short Stories Vol. Confidence. because it was all she was looking for.” The second phrase moderates the first. that is all you need.
a couple of seconds sends the message. and therefore changes the dynamics of the interaction. You don’t want to be that mere mortal nor feed her vanity. Do not take these things as rebuffs. what makes you think that I have any interest in you?" or something along those lines. She is the one in inner turmoil within herself. I can stand close to her. And those guys had so little control of themselves they could not even control their own bodies.. This is punishment for her behaviour. I am this beautiful creature that all the guys want. I am such a fantastically beautiful creature that I turn mere mortal men to jelly as soon as they lay eyes on me”. I hardly even had to open my mouth and he was fawning all over me like the boys at high school with pimples on their faces and semen stains on their pants. but neither become wounded by it or vindictive. Remember that she used this line as a strident put down. and that is her loss of face. that inner turmoil manifesting itself as gambits to feed her vanity at your expense. I just hold the threat by not giving her the validation that she wants. Further. and not reward the behaviour you want to discourage. but she understands that I might. her insecurities have manifested themselves and she has played a gambit so she can say to herself “see. I can touch her. sometimes a validation gambit will come in the form of "I am not sleeping with you".A good principal in life is that you should reward the behaviour of other people that you want to encourage. because she understands that I can always laugh at her and say "Look who has tickets on herself . You should. When I say that. I am above it. You are the big one in the relationship. In fact. you are then going to have to have more high energy conversations such as comedy. I find there is a mechanism that I use to bring me closer to girls. I would never say that. You should not reward that. as long as I make no blatant statement of my intentions. nevertheless. and she is just another. You are the prize that all the women want. and watch carefully the messages you are sending as to whether she can have you or not. I mean that I can escalate the flirtation and act and speak as I want. and never actually act on the threat it in a cruel way. Because you are the cool one. but rather that she is not at the same level of personal development as you. I am not interested in you". or anything like that. She still needs to perform well to win your heart. By not making the chase explicit. When you reengage. Do not draw it out. Women are not scarce in your life. I can escalate the relationship. attempting in one blow to gain her validation at your expense and kill the fun of the interaction. my charms won the day. Part of growth is being confident in who you are and enjoying such situations. I have 3 rules that a girl has to meet before she gets access to my 51 . I am doing it for her own good. or something like that. I can talk in roundabout ways about sex. The centred guy who is at one with himself. or "Back off there Charlie". Look at this guy. Given that is her gambit you need to continue for some time having her guessing as to whether she can have you. This is not to say she has a deep character flaw. it is always an option.. and there is no way she can take her validation at my expense and say: "Sorry. step back for a second taking away any warm feeling she might have had so that she almost feels as if the room got a couple of degrees colder. when I can smile and say "Who ever said anything about sleeping together. at least in her mind.
For example she might say “You want to sleep with me. kind of dumbfounded in the way where she does not know what to say. A good thing to say at this stage is. Expect it. so intimate and such a call to action that often you will be accused of being a player. In order to turn the tables and get the pursuer and pursued reversed for a time. to which she answered "good". Some girls who guys might label a "tease" string guys along. and it is part of the beauty of women and the reason I love them. yet we have the flirtation on the table rather than an unspoken sub-text. I don’t want to overemphasise this validation grab gambit or demonise it. This is bringing out into the open the subtle communication often behind flirting that drives the behaviour and she has just elevated herself at his expense and killed any fun in the interaction. So she thinks she almost has you admitting that you are really into her. This is part of the fun game of flirting. continuing the conversation and just letting that sit out there. Sorry to let you down like that". no? She wants to know the 3 rules. ignored. you are doing it wrong and she was not powerfully moved by it. First because. and leading her along like the pied piper. I would like it if you could push the envelope more until you get it. I need to get to know you first. The palm reading routine is so good. Now the thing is reframed. In order to keep the girl coming. but as a method to get him to tell her she is desirable. and may blush. blah. If you are not getting it. Second because learning to handle the validation gambits is part of what you need to learn here. with a smile. then you continue with what ever you were saying “… so anyway. But I don't tell her until we are in a place where we are alone because “I don’t know her well enough yet”. you can misinterpret one of her validation gambits and tell her to "slow down" or make another statement that makes out that she is the one chasing. There is nothing wrong with it. and you don't meet them. I was watching a sitcom once where a woman looked at her male co-worker and said "Do you want to sleep with me?" phrased in a way where it looked like an invitation. blah…”. And that is very cool …” let it breathe for a second. she will not answer. you do not know where the cornering limit is before you spin it around if you never actually take it to that limit (and is why in advanced driving courses the instructor will get you to go until you spin in a controlled environment so you know what the slippage in the seat of your pants feels like). not out of cruelty. you can withhold that validation so that she is not sure if her charms have won the day yet. “You are attracted to me.bedroom. blah. alright".” You can also run a reverse validation gambit by realising that she is aroused from her non-verbal communication like when she is flicking her hair and giggling at you. aren’t you? I can tell. Girls are attuned to the energy of who is chasing whom and will try to turn it around so that you tell her that you want her. Girls are very much into the whole flirting thing in order to get the validation that she is attractive and desirable. The conversation will continue as if it never happened. Whilst you should not be actively courting this objection. don’t you?” and you can reply “Ha! Look at you! Thinking about sex already! Slow down a bit. A girl that chases the validation can be stringed along by withholding the validation just out of her grasp. and the “you are a player” objection is a good one that is very different from (and needs 52 . to which he stepped forward and said "yeah. turned on her heels and walked away. like driving a car. but you don't give it to her.
just naturally from having got into the same headspace as her) and you say quietly and modestly. I hope my reality can meet up with your expectations”. her attraction to you at that moment increases dramatically. you need to reject the entire frame as a triviality and pull her back into your conversational threads. honest approach is the best comeback. When rejecting her frame entirely. You need not buy into her frames. and thus she is looking for your approval now on a much deeper level than the superficial level of flirting centred around physical beauty. a standard formula you can use while learning the skill is by laughing at her objection and talking about her behaviour in putting it out there. You are the biggest player I have ever met. “Thank-you … you just said I am like James Bond. girls like me” and just continue with whatever you were saying anyway. Many of these validation gambits present you with a bad multiple choice. like when someone poses a bad multiple-choice question where none of the answers are what you want to choose such as “if you believe that you are either a) an idiot or b) a nazi” to which you want to scream that you reject his false framing of the question. this may be counter-intuitive. “That was incredible. Here use your judgment. Sometimes immediately after a palm reading she may make the pseudo-rebuff in the form of a “the girls must really like that” at which time you agree. You are like the distrustful little sceptic. The person posing the question has framed it in a way that you need not accept. It will start giving you skills that will serve you deep into your relationships. look at you. “Yes. drop your eyes (as if you are searching inwards and thinking) and let a smile crawl across your face. and a brutal rejection of her would not be to reject the 53 . “Is she always like this?” Now you have not even accepted her frame or treated what she has said as anything more than a triviality.to be handled better than) “I would go out with you tonight. She says for example “You are making that up. but if you lean in and gently kiss her on the cheek it is excellent if it will not be rejected. Another thing that I get sometimes is “do you just do that to pick-up women?” or variation at which point I just laugh. Although to some of you. She is all yours. You have talked about all her inner beliefs and desires and now she is exposed. You go quiet. You look her in the eyes (hers should be big like saucers … trust me. Such a player!” You will need to judge from where this objection is coming. Now during the palm reading. Like “Ha. but I need to wash my hair”. you are reading her much more deeply. don’t even dignify it with a response and run the Grandmother routine or any other “where did you learn it routine”. aren’t you?” Now there is no need to dignify that with a serious response that plays into her frame. and rather than try to answer “correctly”. yours will be too. aren’t you?” And turning to her friends. In that case then a thoughtful. If she was powerfully moved and is now completely in love with you she will be kind of smiling and in awe. I want you to get this objection on at least one occasion while doing this course and relish it. and “no” is playing onto the back foot in a defensive mode that is uncomfortable for you and degrading to your inner self. “Yes” is a bad answer. and it is game over. Other times it is of the style. Instead you laugh and move out of the frame. This is rejecting the frame that she has put on the conversation.
Important to realise is that many of these things are tests. The subtext in her objection is “I am attracted to you. I’ve stepped out of your dreams. and if you find a conversation banal. rather than tell her that her charms have not yet won the day. Always smile. you need to be firm with her and let her know that the game is not over yet. you are not scared to change the subject. Now come here and give me a kiss on the cheek. but rather to reject the inner girl who thinks and feels deeply. this is keeping the pursuer-and-pursued roles ambiguous is not a hard and fast rule. That does not mean that you are less talkative. You: C’mon. Her: But I hardly know you. But as a general rule. who are you trying to kid? I’m no stranger to you. let her try to impress you. It means that you avoid banal conversations. You met me in your first hot dream. you are there because you are bringing her into your world. In this case you can. I am flattered that you think that I am so observant that I could see that without looking at your palm. I will often tell her that I like her. Some girls react very well to being chased. That we are getting together is now on the table. you misinterpret the test and go honest with: Thank-you. That gets the validation flowing in both directions. You lucky girl. When you don’t go onto the back foot you are maintaining your power and acting in a cool way. I’m alive and real and right in front of you. move onto aggressive footing. You waited and wished. She has kissed you on the cheek after the reading. Part of being cool and maintaining your pride and power in the situation is that you always should have your own thing going on. She is bouncing it off you to see whether you are for real or not. Never go onto the back foot. Ever. You have to be cooler than a girl you are picking up. When you are with a girl.outer girl on her beauty or superficiality. you will increase that attraction dramatically even if she refuses the kiss to try to knock you off your high horse to tell you that you 54 . to give you an example of how far you can go this style of thing without with-holding validation. not the other way around. This should be delivered as cocky humour. and in running something so arrogant and cocky. if she is trying to put you on the back foot with a rejection. remember? You know the good-looking joker in your little girl dreams that always faded when you woke up wet between the legs. and kiss her on the cheek. If she says “You just worked all that out by speaking to me before you started”. That style of response is for a girl who already has a high level of attraction for you. However. but there are certain hurdles that need to be jumped before I am comfortable with this”. I am going to give you an example at the extreme end of continuing with her frame and at the same time directly telling her that you and her are getting together. and you have kissed her. or rather perhaps a bigger person than her. I wish I could. Being courted. Here give me a kiss (point to cheek). You should not look as if you are trying hard to impress anyone.
). and you will use them down the line in a relationship. and that the fact we are getting together as a possible boyfriend-girlfriend and go after rapport and comfort in a getting to know you style exchange. it is not her fault. Perhaps she might try to impose an exclusive relationship upon you by pretending that she thinks that you are seeing some-one else. and having you defend yourself that you were not with another girl. Once you go direct like this. or perhaps she might throw a tantrum because you went out without her last night. but be warned it can get old quickly if she is not ready to hook up with you immediately. or she might try a crying act to persuade you (no problem there. Her parents taught her that one. specifically for palm reading. baby. and you can do the same “Ha! Look at the spoilt little girl. 55 . These skills are important. falling back to your autopilot that you will be learning here “Ha. I have a discount coupon for a place here in this book …”. It is important here. look at you! You are all angry”. They might try to see if they can get a response by acting angry about something. Now. On that sort of thing you need to understand why they are crying first.haven’t won yet. you might get to the end of your bit and she will say “Those things are applicable for anyone”. You can persist with this style of chasing game. and got it. In that case you laugh and run the selling it routine and include the retard line reading. and the gambit has worked ever since. Now is not the time for the waterworks. she cried when she wanted the bottle as a baby. you will want to either take back the validation to get her chasing again. and you can reply. or assume the sale. Because within a relationship your partner will try gambits to feel out the boundaries of the relationship. We are not going to stay in this hotel because you are crying. setting a new precedent that all your movements need to be tracked by her.
that is right. and we are intimate together … basically agreeing that we are together.. This is your head line (run your finger along her head line. and then move onto other conversations so we can get to know each other. and continue to do that every time you point out a feature on her hand. just examine her palm then say) Now... Hopefully he will walk away and find something else to do. leaving him just sitting there and staring into his beer. and if I identify such a thing (like English is not her native language for example). Because I have a lot of conversations that I like to have in a comfort building situation. and get you taking some more risks. The three shells reading is sufficient to get her completely. and I do not include a life line reading here both because I will seldom do more than this when I read palms and also because I want you to understand that she cares nothing about what is in the actual palm and whether the reading is “complete” or not. Obvious additions are the two readings from the beginners reading (Head and Life lines) that you have learned but are not in this routine. Do not be scared to touch her). relax.. I make the reading long enough that it serves its purpose in that it gets me in with her on a different level. this is your heart line. You can read any combination of material and she is not even looking at her palm. For that reason what follows is my advanced reading and is long enough to do all the things I want to do. You should have started to incorporate the previous lessons on handling the situations surrounding the reading and getting your delivery and persona right in the interaction. I am now going to add some complexity to what you have been doing. Yeah . If you want to lengthen the routine. that his spirit on picking up this girl is broken. she is attracted to me. Alternatively. but not so long that I am continuing after the job is done. let’s say we are at the bar on bar stools with me beside her and some other guy on the other side of her who either knows me or her and wants to break into our world and talk to her. Only use them if you feel that is what is needed to take the seduction forward. rather than the more disjointed reading that you have been doing. to equate to a single theme and a complete picture. Don’t say anything. I don’t usually read her life line. There are certain girls that are just hard to talk to. this is your life line. The major change over the reading you have learned and been using is that you are going to be running the “3 shells over your inner love reading” for the head line. (twist over the palm to look at the "children lines".The Advanced Palm Reading Now you have should been out reading girls palms and having success. relaaax. change orders and add any additional material that you might see fit. Introduction: Do you know your basic palm? Relax your fingers. It is not necessary to read the life line if you don’t want. feel free to run this as it is then. I will continue the palm reading for so long. important to your palm are some minor 56 . The improvement to the routine is to make it more complete. I will just continue with a longer reading to keep the intimate thing going with her.
It means that you hold yourself back and don't give yourself completely to all the people in your life (wave your hand out at the rest of the world)... as much as that was very hard (pause). or act lady-line and you don’t just be yourself and just relax even with your best friends. your Mound of Venus it represents your heart also. you will see these small lines that run up and down and side to side (you say this even if she does not have any.. Now these lines represent bars like in a jail over your heart. your fingers representing the bars around her heart). let it sink in). but relaxed with your elbow bent in a subtle motion). as I said. I'll come back to it. push on with the reading). as much as your perfect-man could be right in front of you (be careful with the self point here) you may have trouble even recognising him and more trouble meeting him and seizing the opportunity that is right in front of you because if we look over here to your Mound of Venus . That means that as a child or adolescent you had some experience where you were asked to become an adult before you were ready. palm out like a policeman might say stop. and stop people from really getting to know you (gesture back and forth) and relax in a non-judgmental way. Because it curves up to between your index and middle fingers.. And you’d be a lot happier if you could not lock yourself up... This line here is called your fate line. (Pause. so let’s start with your fate line because it is a distinguishing feature in that it (does whatever it does . And given you like who you are today. And you always thought that a perfect-man would walk into your life. it means that as a little girl you always had dreams of a perfect-man. (Pause. I know. or try to act cool. And it means that you have a caged heart. Heart line reading Now your heart line.. but rather let everyone else in. you can therefore thank that event for making you who you are.lines that I am going to introduce you to also.. Yours is strange because it (does whatever it does). And you hold people out of your life (bring your hand up .. look her in the eye and smile. or scared or lack some confidence. Time to change your voice tone and make sure you are in a serious voice here as if you could cry because it is likely that you are talking about a death in the family or divorce of her parents or something). at some stage.. comes up to the head line for example. the reading just took a change of pace and she will be thankful for it) However. Yeah. You know that sometimes you are shy. or say the right thing. and give yourself to the people around you. this represents your heart also. (Empathy on that line) However. And then you can just relax and be comfortable with yourself and everyone in your world. If she pulls you up on it tell her if she gets better light and has a close look she will see them and that you are practiced . You are more able to feel deeply and live as an adult because of it. You don’t need to hold yourself back and watch 57 . But you know that. and touch her chest above the breast. The other thing that is important to your palm is this (run your finger over her Mound of Venus) . Fate line reading Where will I start? OK. If you have a close look. Mound of Venus reading Your Mound of Venus is this fleshy area here. that was very difficult for you. everything that has happened to you makes you who you are today. (Here you reach across with a semi-cupped hand. Your palm all combines to a single story.
but sometimes I add a bit around “the schoolwork or sport or music” part where I say “perhaps your sister was prettier” and get that competitive thing going there too. “You can’t see me. So now you are hard on the outside like hard candy (and you knock on her shoulder gently like you would knock on a door). And you were hurt. I have never had a girl consciously notice this gesture. You had just this shining light inside of you (clench fist loosely and place with the back of your hand into the centre of her chest). there was a sense somewhere that they did not get the attention that they needed. (change your voice back to the sad tone of voice) But you just wanted to be this little girl that loves. or for music or for sport or for art or for your popularity. So you built a shell around yourself. Do not make this an obvious move that is too close to her lap. and this especially needs to be watched when you meet your perfect-man (run finger along heart line or else self point). but you have a soft inside like soft fudge (and drop your hand towards her lap take stick out your index and middle fingers. Because you have this capability to love so deeply. and she has this experience inside of ‘oh my god. her unconscious takes it in. So you decided to navigate your own way in the world because you this inner love was overlooked and your heart was burned. But at some stage this inner love was over looked. And you just wanted to love everybody and be loved for the inner love. I am hiding” and then takes them off and says “Boo!” he is telling you that he still sees himself as the centre of the world. you need to use your judgment as to how close you can get. Discussion of the above reading: This reading is about the common experience of loosing the unconditional love of childhood. however). You want it to be as close as possible without it being consciously noticed. And you tried to be recognised for something else. So you dwell here on her ability to love. And you said to yourself "Well if they don’t recognise my love. your head line. We are all born believing that we are the centre of the world. Important here is that you dwell on her ability to love. relaxed and curling upwards and push them forward down low to simulate you putting your fingers into her. This guy sees me for who I really am!’ You can judge what you do. When a child puts his hands over his eyes and says. What this means is that as a little girl you were born just this bundle of love. Or rather the unconditional love of childhood was found to have conditions. And you have trouble taking the new opportunities right in front of you. I don't know if it was for your schoolwork. Being in love for humans is an important motivator.your manners and what is "the right thing to say". Three Shells over your inner love reading Shell of Childhood Now. Some people love the feeling of being in love more than the actual person that they love. You just were this loving little girl who wanted nothing more than to love everyone and be loved. He has not separated out his experience-of-the-world internally 58 . Everyone even if they were spoiled as a child. (Here you run your hand along her shoulder representing the shell she has built) Your first shell. And in that way your heart is caged (touch her again on her heart). I'll make my own way in the world".
and withheld their affection until it was done with negative reinforcement. And it hurt you again that you had to make yourself look as good as possible. she definitely used to look at her ass in the mirror and ask herself this question. The world goes on without him or her. The same was for everything our parents encouraged us to do. But your beautiful loving inner radiance was hidden under that first shell. you were still this little ball of love inside (fist on chest again). The dream is unrealistic. And perhaps you used to look at yourself in the mirror and wonder if your ass was fat. Every time you say inner love you suddenly change vocal inflection back to the one where you are almost going to cry). the world is not there anymore because he cannot see it. but don’t let it break up the reading either. allow the laughter to breathe. and you should not deliver it as a joke. And you did yourself up like a Christmas tree with clothes and jewellery (this line is optional depending on how beautiful she is. She probably still does even if she has a perfect ass. but idealism. But our parents needed to motivate us. You were still this girl who wanted to love and be loved. There then comes a day. You can expand the theme into something separate later to the fact that her parents often encouraged her for the wrong things. They may have encouraged her in maths when she regrets now that she never learned a musical instrument for example.from the external world itself. Shell of Superficial Female Expression Then as a teenager. So you started to look at yourself in the mirror. Put window dressing on your beautiful inner love (fist again to chest. However sometimes they do laugh. Encouraged her to be things that the parents valued rather than looking at the child. The more beautiful the better). don’t you?” Let her laugh and laugh yourself without letting go of her palm. and if he closes his eyes. Don’t rush getting back to the reading. independent person. So they told us we had to tidy our rooms. Don’t get caught up in other conversations. The reading taps directly into this mechanism. And you wanted the boys to be interested in you. (they do not laugh at this. and makes it an undesirable thing as compared to being appreciated just for her ability to love and love her back unconditionally. by definition is not based in reality. It is unfortunate that we have to lose our innocence of the unconditional love. and gave us praise when we did what they wanted with positive reinforcement. They needed to prepare us for a world as a freestanding. So on top of this first shell (run hand over 59 . you still do that to this very day. he might realise that he has to compete for his parent’s affection and respect. don’t smother it. It is a nice break in tension of the reading and you can become warm in the glow of each other. If they do you lean back and laugh too and point at her and say “I can tell. just back in) But you were still this loving little girl. but rather as the truth because when her body changed and her hips got wider from little girl hips to women hips. seeing with perfect information what she was good at and what she enjoyed and encouraged her to do those things to allow her to become the sort of person she really wanted to be. And you started to try things with your hair and dress yourself up in the clothes that the cool girls were wearing. And as the child realises that he is not the centre of the world. where perhaps he stays home from school for the day and he suddenly realises that “The Simpson’s” is on television every day at 2pm whether he watches it or not. perhaps when the child is about 4 or 5.
You were still this loving girl with a boundless ability to love and be loved. and gym.shoulder again). And now your inner loving radiance was covered with two shells. You met a guy. He expects the woman to have some deep intuition that means she will see the sensitive loving guy inside. This makes her beauty look like a bad thing. But still underneath those shells is this loving girl who can love and be loved. The more beautiful you are and the more time you spend on hair. However this time you downgrade the things that most men find her desirable for (her beauty). You were still this loving girl. Shell of failed love Then you formed a third shell. This makes you a very different kind of man to what she is used to. She feels even more that you see her for what she truly is. and you can see that. The beauty that she values so highly is only window dressing on her soul. It is a common experience for us all. A symptom of a deeper evil. This she would never have heard before. Your lack of superficiality is not lost. you built a second shell. It is exactly that emotion that you want to go to in your mind as you deliver this reading. and not judge him on his looks or his job or his friends or his car and she will just accept him and love him for who he is. It is twisting her beauty from a thing that makes her more attractive to a thing that makes her less attractive to a man of integrity who can recognise the true inner beauty of the girl. Who can see the inner love. and having told her that you can see beyond her beauty. That any woman who is attracted by these bad-boy players is not the sort of woman that he wants anyway. and you were spurned in love. Discussion of above reading: This again dwells on her ability to love. The shell of superficial female expression. you built a shell of superficial female expression and deception with make-up and bracelets and rings and on top of that you built another shell of self reliance as you told yourself you would never be reliant on another man. and that you are not impressed by the effort she puts into making herself look good. Many people who do not do well with women and reject outside help have the objection that she should see him for the deep sensitive person that he really is. and make-up the more you are attempting to deceive and divert attention from the fact that you are unable to have your inner love recognised". and penetrate all three shells and touch you deeply 60 . you have told her that you see her inner love and you find that very appealing. And you told yourself that you would never be reliant on a man again. Further you kind of insult her by both telling her that her ass is fat (although this is a common experience at puberty and takes her mind back to when her body was changing). So on top of the shell you built because your inner love was not noticed as a child or your sister was prettier or whatever. The subtext is: "the depth at which you were ignored for your true inner beauty (love) as a child is manifested in the amount of time and energy that you spend on dressing up that hardened shell like a Christmas tree now. And your perfect-man (running your finger along the heart line again but looking her straight in the eyes) is the man who can recognise the inner love inside you (blatant self point).
She is now an independent woman who stands on her own two feet in the world. and put your hand over her heart again in the caged gesture with the fingers representing the bars). But she wants that unconditional love. Because you are the only man here that sees the inner love that she has. but that was found to have positive and negative reinforcement strings attached to it. She needs it. She will loop on that one and contemplate it only half listening to the rest. You are 61 .(here you bring your hand up from her lap to where you were putting your fist for the inner love stuff but this time you have your index and middle fingers outstretched. Her childhood. her adolescence and her adulthood. She used to have an unconditional love. You are overselling yourself. This is really a reading about her third period as an adult. She still does not have the unconditional love that you have talked about. then she tried to make herself beautiful to be accepted and get that unconditional love. the problem is with these three shells. Discussion of the above reading: This concludes the readings and rounds it out tying the entire palm reading together. saying that you are capable of doing so. she has to agree that no man has ever really appreciated her for it. That is a good thing. And you need to work to seize the opportunity in front of you to allow the inner love to be expressed and to receive love from a man who can see the inner you when he is in front of you. You are saying her independence as an adult woman is just a manifestation of having ventured a long way from her original life position of having unconditional love and care during early childhood. Here you are blaming those lines on the fact that she does not have the right man and are offering a solution to her aging and mortality. The line that really bites is “putting lines on your face”. And then your shells can disappear and you can allow yourself to be reliant and have the unconditional love you have always yearned for but never received. Now you explicitly make yourself her ideal man. and the men in her life have valued her for other things. you are making your body tense and the tension is putting lines in on your face. By 24 those lines are becoming endemic. as valuable as you are saying in your readings. You need to peel away the three shells and make sure you do not block your heart and hide yourself and your desires and tensions (point again to her Mound of Venus. you want her in a kind of stupor. However. You lean on the word penetrate). you will be able to relax and understand that your capacity to love is what you are appreciated for. you are running down both her ex-boyfriends and any current love interests in her life. Girls as young as 19 will start to notice little lines around her eyes and start buying expensive skin care cream. The entire 3 shells over your inner love reading splits her into the 3 separate periods in her life. bringing your hand up her body without literally touching her until you get to her chest then you touch her there with your index and middle fingers. If you look at your hand she will watch it come up also. Further. It didn’t work. If she believes the inner love is valuable. and you will be able to give from that deep well of love and receive his love. We have come a long way now from the first reading where she was a little girl at the centre of her world who could put her hands over her eyes to stop the world from seeing her. and give her criteria by which she should think about these things and measure you. And with this ideal man.
. Yeah . The other thing that is important to your palm is this (run your finger over her Mound of Venus) . you can therefore thank that event for making you who you are. This is your head line. everything that has happened to you makes you who you are today. The routine without comments for easy reading: Do you know your basic palm? Relax your fingers. I know. You are offering something that she has not been able to achieve on her own with years and years of trying new strategies to attain it. Now. that is right. relaaax. that was very difficult for you. RELAX . you can. drop palm). Now some palm readers who come from a different tradition to me will tell you that these lines represent the number of children you will have. so let’s start with your fate line because it is a distinguishing feature in that it (does whatever it does).offering it. Children lines (Now you twist over her palm to look at her "children lines") You are fertile! (Smile. this is your heart line.. From here. Your palm all combines to a single story. But obviously in my palm reading tradition we cannot read the future). HER: What? YOU: You are fertile. Children lines: you are fertile. if you feel the girl will be receptive.. this is your life line. Yours is strange because it (does whatever it does). I'll come back to it. And given you like who you are today. your Mound of Venus it represents your heart also.. You are able to have children. important to your palm are some minor lines that I am going to introduce you to also. Your perfect-man will recognise your inner love.. Yeah. as much as that was very hard (pause). you don’t give yourself over to others Head line: You have a deep love with 3 shells: the shell of having your inner love ignored. Fate Line Where will I start? OK. (HER sometimes: How can you see that? YOU: It is here in these little lines. However. This line here is called your fate line. You: give me a kiss (pointing at cheek). That means that as a child or adolescent you had some experience where you were asked to become an adult before you were ready. move onto the sexual reading that I include in a different chapter and it flows directly. The routine in at a glance (cheat sheet) Fate line: grew up before you were ready Heart line: Dreams of perfect-man Mound of Venus: caged heart.. 62 . You are more able to feel deeply and live as an adult because of it. shell of superficial female expression. shell of spurned love.
You know that sometimes you are shy. and stop people from really getting to know you and relax in a non-judgmental way. or scared or lack some confidence. And you were hurt. And in that way your heart is caged. But you know that. And you wanted the boys to be interested in you. And you hold people out of your life. and give yourself to the people around you. you will see these small lines that run up and down and side to side. Now these lines represent bars like in a jail over your heart.. as much as your perfect-man could be right in front of you. So you started to 63 . this represents your heart also. or act lady-line and you don’t just be yourself and just relax even with your best friends. You just were this loving little girl who wanted nothing more than to love everyone and be loved. If you have a close look. Mound of Venus Your Mound of Venus is this fleshy area here. So now you are hard on the outside like hard candy. Because it curves up to between your index and middle fingers. Because you have this capability to love so deeply. or say the right thing. And you’d be a lot happier if you could not lock yourself up. So you decided to navigate your own way in the world because you this inner love was overlooked and your heart was burned. but rather let everyone else in. You were still this girl who wanted to love and be loved. I'll make my own way in the world". it means that as a little girl you always had dreams of a perfect-man. but you have a soft inside like soft fudge. Shell of Superficial Female Expression Then as a teenager. as I said. And you just wanted to love everybody and be loved for the inner love. But your beautiful loving inner radiance was hidden under that first shell. And you always thought that a perfect-man would walk into your life. at some stage.Heart Line Now your heart line. However. your head line. or for music or for sport or for art or for popularity. You had just this shining light inside of you. or try to act cool. And you tried to be recognised for something else. you may have trouble even recognising him and more trouble meeting him and seizing the opportunity that is right in front of you because if we look over here to your Mound of Venus . And you said to yourself "Well if they don’t recognise my love. It means that you hold yourself back and don't give yourself completely to all the people in your life. And then you can just relax and be comfortable with yourself and everyone in your world. and this especially needs to be watched when you meet your perfect-man. And you have trouble taking the new opportunities right in front of you. But you just wanted to be this little girl that loves. So you built a shell around yourself.. You don’t need to hold yourself back and watch your manners and what is "the right thing to say". But at some stage this inner love was over looked. Three Shells over your inner love reading Shell of Childhood Now. And it means that you have a caged heart. I don't know if it was for your schoolwork. What this means is that as a little girl you were born just this bundle of love. you were still this little ball of love inside. Your first shell.
And now your inner loving radiance was covered with two shells. you built a second shell. Having times in your past when this is the case is absolutely universal. However. Have supreme confidence in it. and you were spurned in love. First it talks about being born a child and turning into an adult. We are still. It might have been the day she was first sent to school and had to leave her mother at home. and can push through all three shells and penetrate you deeply. And it hurt you again that you had to make yourself look as good as possible. Who can see the inner love. you built a shell of superficial female expression and deception with make-up and bracelets and rings and on top of that you built another shell of self reliance as you told yourself you would never be reliant on another man. And you started to try things with your hair and dress yourself up in the clothes that the cool girls were wearing. And your perfect-man is the man who can recognise the inner love inside you. you are making your body tense and the tension is putting lines in on your face. as adults. it might be as simple as finding out that Father Christmas does not exist and that her parents had lied to her for example. You should have absolutely zero fear that any of the readings are off base. You are fertile! Give me a kiss. the girl will try to tell you that it is not the case for her. Perhaps it is true that she cannot put her finger on it immediately. So on top of this first shell. asked to act in adult ways when we would prefer to be children and defer to our parents. It might have been when she first understood that we are mortal and will all die eventually. And you need to work to seize the opportunity in front of you to allow the inner love to be expressed and to receive love from a man who can see the inner you. just to summarise so you can see the entire picture. You met a guy. Put window dressing on your beautiful inner love. But you were still this loving little girl. But still underneath those shells is this loving girl who can love and be loved. but she understands the sentiment. So on top of the shell you built because your inner love was not noticed as a child or your sister was prettier or whatever. You were still this loving girl with a boundless ability to love and be loved. A girl might tell you that she does not have such an experience she can put her finger on. the problem is with these three shells. secure that it will be worked out. And you did yourself up like a Christmas tree with clothes and jewellery. Even if she had a clean childhood. The shell of superficial female expression. And you told yourself that you would never be reliant on a man again. She might have lost a 64 . Sometimes in a palm reading. You need to peel away the three shells and make sure you do not block your heart and hide yourself and your desires and tensions.look at yourself in the mirror. Every single reading in this advanced palm reading is universally true. So stepping you through from the beginning to illustrate. And perhaps you used to look at yourself in the mirror and wonder if your ass was fat. You say in response “Shh! The palm never lies”. Shell of Failed Love Then you formed a third shell. Now.
Then she found out that the love had conditions. It is universally true. But it is still true that she had dreams of a perfect-man. The third reading … 3 shells over your inner love. blah”. She might be in a relationship that satisfies her to bits. crying. and as a baby someone took care of her. her appearance or how she is perceived by the world. Do not accept any objections. “Shh! The palm does not lie”. This is necessary to turn the dependent organism that is a baby into a functioning adult and is an important part of life. however you ended up married to some woman named Doris. blah. or else she has told herself. She might have been punished for something that she was innocent of. 65 . Imagine you have a fantastic relationship in your life and I tell you “As a child or adolescent you had dreams of a perfect 10.grand-parent. but these are surely not the girls whose palms you are reading). She has definitely been in adult situations where either the world has let her down or she has had to deal with a situation she would rather be able to hide from or not have happened. she thinks about her presentation and knows well that she is valued for her beauty. It is not important about her current relationship. and was toilet trained and she found that the love was withheld and had conditions put on it. Behaviour is modified via feedback. Because you lock yourself up. There is no denying it. But even if your perfect 10 were right in front of you. If she is a beautiful or even decent looking girl. This is universal for all girls that are well groomed. and is validated instead for her beauty as a woman. She was once a child with unconditional love. There is no getting around it or claiming it did not happen to you. The reading speaks to her inner animus. At some stage someone has told her that she needs to be a “big girl”. and she got feedback as to what correct behaviour was. you are unable to just be yourself and blah. This has displaced the unconditional love that she had in the womb onto her appearance. “Shhh! The palm doesn’t lie”. you may not be able to either recognise it or act on the opportunities right in front of you. and a mood that makes her want to dress in an unattractive way. She has concepts of a perfect mate in there and no real living breathing man can actually completely live up to that. In doing that. You get the point. bad hair day. sensitive baby. and that is personified as her perfect-man of childhood fairy tales. And you love Doris to pieces. Let me turn it into male terms for you. However you always believed that the perfect 10 would walk into your life one day. “Shh! The palm does not lie”. or you are shy and so when that perfect 10 might be right in front of you. You try to act cool. She was told to tidy her room. The second reading about perfect-man … we all have dreams of a perfect mate. She was born into the world that way. She knows if she were to suddenly loose her beauty or get a round of pimples. This has nothing to do with her current relationship. she is not being validated for the simple unconditional love she had as a gurgling. She cannot argue with any of it. The reading is absolutely universal regardless of her level of satisfaction with her current relationship. she will get treated differently by the world and the people around her. (It may be untrue for an ugly girl who does not look after herself. There were times when her innocence started being lost and there is no denying it.
However. If he did. and it is not something any man would want to do. She needs to get herself up in the morning. If she expected it. dress herself and move around the world as an adult. she had to tell herself that she can not allow herself to be reliant on a man again. She may not have ever had a rejection from a man in her life if she is young. as she would see him as “beneath her”.Now the spurned in love reading. She understands the feeling. That is true. Now what she really wants on a deep down level that is not considered (and would not actually be wanted in reality) is that unconditional love and support of childhood. the sentiment is universal and you can honestly look her in the eye and say “Shh! The palm never lies”. Has to be an adult. The love and the world are not unconditional. But she realises that she has to be a woman. Now she is an adult. You have to look after yourself as an adult. She has definitely told herself that she would “never be reliant on a man again”. In a similar way no woman can live your life for you. and bills that need to be paid. Even if I did get that response. The reason is simple. because she is an independent adult in the world and has to accept the responsibility for who she is. No man can do those things for her. no matter how much she might like it. It is impossible to do. the feeling is common. She has now ventured an enormous distance from the original premise of the unconditional love. 66 . She was born a dependent baby. She has rent that needs to be paid. she would not be attracted to him in return. but this reading about “never being reliant on a man again” has never got the response of “that never happened to me”. All her needs were looked after. There is no man out there that loved her unconditionally like she was loved as a baby regardless of how she acted. I have had girls try to tell me that the other readings are not true.
Selling-it routines. call her a spoilsport and accuse her of being no fun. Evolution of Physics. There is a field of science called Dermatoglyphics. Calling her Jill is part of the joke). and the word Hieroglyphics: carvings. “Dermatography” is not a real word. Of course. bust her on it. a rational thinker believe in something as obviously false as palm reading? I will here give you a routine that you can use with girls. uniquely determined by the external world. OK. Physical concepts are free creations of the human mind. right? I would struggle with the real word if she were a medical student or something). and it says you are a dork!”) What is more. On a foetus. for some reason the word is really hard to say. if you say the reading that follows. (Optional. Albert Einstein. however it may seem. (to remember this word think of the word Dermatology … the medicine of skin. the lines on the palm are not random or caused by creasing. Dermatoglyphics is a science that studies the hand and fingerprints and finds correlations with diseases. It is not. My own justification has a classical philosophical underpinning and the concepts can be quite conceptually difficult. This routine loses all my vocal inflections and seems like a long meditation. Selling-it palmistry routine Ha! I have you worked out now: You are Jill the science chick. and move onto another topic of conversation. so instead I say “Dermatography” because it is easier to pronounce. See. treat her like she is a little bit stupid and you are explaining this to a child. But the hand doesn’t develop 67 . Nevertheless. I made it up. If she is a hard sceptic. cease reading her palm because she is listening on a different level and will not enjoy it. or if they do manual labour for example. I thought so: this is the retard line. and are not. it is important when a girl asks that you believe in it. 1938 Palmistry is not real. give me your palm. and expand the scope of the sorts of places you can go with it. the lifeline forms at 7 weeks after conception. you can tell some things from looking at someone’s hand. The lines on the hand have a 100% correlation with all sorts of diseases and syndromes. for fun with a smile: “Here. Just laugh. For me. aren’t you? (You call her Jill even though her name is not Jill. Little Miss Science. How can someone like you. but understanding my ideas on this will enrich your experience of using the routine. symbols with meanings. This is based on the philosophies whereby I justify it to myself philosophically. and the heart and head lines at 9 weeks. But the lines mean nothing. If they are a smoker. Also you should not justify yourself in any way. There are 4 simple ideas that I will summarise afterwards to get you performing it right. drop her hand. but what does she know anyway. Understanding my philosophical underpinning is not necessary to running the routine properly. There is a clear mark on the lifeline of every single child with downs syndrome for example.
the attraction gets stronger by that distance squared. I will summarise the routine: • First you accuse her of being a science chick. Unsupported objects fall down. and you can be the sort of person that can do it without having to re-define your concept of 68 . In my example I talk about the complex theory of gravity as opposed to the simplification of “unsupported objects fall down”. I can’t see the specifics of your history from it. This in fact forms my philosophical underpinning of all fortune telling routines. Because gravity says that the force of attraction of 2 bodies (gesture back between you and her) is inversely proportional to the square of the distance they are apart. But you could similarly talk about any scientific simplification (the protons. The routine is actually the tip of the iceberg of a whole string of ideas I have about this that I will explain here to give you the back-story on the routine in case you feel like exploring it further. you may have lost her in the above but you want her to understand now). • Then you point out that the lines form before the hand is capable of moving in the womb. • Then you intimidate her with science by talking about how complex science does not impact the simplicity of the world. If two bodies move closer together (step towards her). It is the way that I run it. • You compare palm reading with that as a metaphor. and talk about the real research in this science pointing out the correlation to downs syndrome. Therefore the lines are not from creasing. but I can see general trends. Are you a scientific person completely? I mean do you believe in Ghosts? This routine should not be memorised. To simplify what you talk about. Now.the muscles or tendons needed to move it until 11 weeks. See. Belief in one does not mean that the more simple case is not true also. Therefore the lines are there before the hand can even move to form creases. Or the wave / particle nature of light. I can simplify the world in my everyday life and say: the world is flat. (Slow down here. yet it is easier to think about the bus that is about to run me over being solid. For example I don’t need a weather man to tell me which way the wind is blowing. I want to take you from your current position as a rational thinker. and use rational thought to take you to a logical position where palm reading can exist. And I don’t need to think about the laws of gravity when a glass falls off the table. That does not mean that I believe the world is flat and gravity does not exist. • Then you introduce the science of dermatoglyphics. neutrons and electrons that make up matter being made of energy. Palm reading is similarly a simplification of the world. but it represents my own understandings and the way that I think about the world. Palm reading has a long tradition going all the way back to the oracles of ancient Greece and continues to this day because it contains the truth. But it is not an either / or belief. It is just easier to think of the world in that way in every day situations. up is up and down is down. but despite wavelengths and absorption theories the flower seems red in the simplified world).
you can turn to the Appendix 1a on it and read further. so if you are interested.yourself as a person. It is outside the main ideas of what I am presenting (although important to the philosophy). I must emphasise again that the following is conceptually complex and understanding it is not necessary to either read palms or lean to interact with women and is only included to enrich what I am teaching and increase your enjoyment of what you are doing. or the sort of person that believes in the supernatural. 69 .
In that case. If there is even a tinge of that frame playing out palm reading is the absolute worst thing you can do. However. And you don’t let anyone in there. the fact that you and her are together becomes on the surface and out in the open. on this meeting to segue back to intimacy I offer the following to guide you in your interactions after the kiss so you understand the sort of conversations that are applicable at this stage: Once you have made out a girl. you should use the fact that you are already intimate with her to do more comfort related readings and sexual readings. you know that he will accept that world completely. and knowing for sure that it is him that can be let in. if you must. And you look back on today. and you want to disarm that frame by not playing into it. But there is no need to do that. Anonymous It is not necessary to read the palm of a girl you have kissed. Because you lock yourself up inside with inhibitions. you should be having relaxed get-to-know-you conversation. And as you do that. Because no-one understands you truly. you will need to use your judgment and work out what moods you want her in and run readings that go towards those moods. But he only gets one chance. and all the feelings of satisfaction at having made the decision and done it.Girls you have already kissed. Especially if it is on the table that you are trying to seduce her. You are capable. There is a secret garden inside your mind where you store all your deepest thoughts and fantasies. As you stop and imagine a time in the future having let this person in. In that case. She will see straight through it. As a general rule however. if you must. The interaction you want to avoid is that of you role playing the seducer and her. however. not even your best friends. you cannot do the perfect-man readings because it is obvious what you are doing. Things like the below: Share fantasies. for example you called her for a second meeting to follow up on a phone number you got on the night you kissed her and need. When you let him in and talk about your fantasies openly. the besieged. It will invariably come out in the form of last minute resistance. And 70 . when you have moved the relationship quickly (where she is saying things like “we really shouldn’t be doing this”). But you need to understand that when you see the person who you are able to let into your secret garden. looking at him. If it ain’t broke. my advice is not to do it. don’t fix it. you need to realise that you are able to be the person who you actually are. Each girl is different. of letting a certain guy in. there can be no judgementalism or you will shut them up forever. and now having company in your own secret garden. However.
However these conversations can be had without a palm reading and will serve you well in the continuing relationship. and then the person on the other end wants you to go out and do something. and do the things that you want to do. Here in your life line it says that sometimes you can be a self-saboteur. with a subtext of “it is written in the palm”. Like you might be in the middle of something else when the telephone rings. Stop interrupting your own opportunities and being the self-saboteur that you know you can be. Happiness is right here in front of you. to stop doing that. And you need to let any fear holds you back from embracing your life entirely fade away. What that means is that you get in the way of your own opportunities. “I am going to do it!” These are good conversations to have. Sometimes you will turn down opportunities to go out with friends and have a good time because you. and things to practice. But often you will let that fear get in the way of going out and doing it. Having them within a palm reading to learn takes the pressure off you and gives you an excuse to say these things the first time. and you need to step forward and say. And sometimes you let fear get in the way of action. are afraid to just let yourself go. in your life. 71 . But you need.you can relax completely and just allow yourself to act however you like and be the person you actually are. And understand that success is within your grasp. somewhere deep inside. and you just need to reach out and take it. Fear of Success/ self-saboteur.
Going sexual. or making jokes that have sexual themes (not smutty jokes. A man you can trust. Not 72 . Like a doctor. but a communicating with your deepest heart. here is the one that I want you to do at least once since it is extremely low risk and fills out a continuing theme in the palm reading: Sexual result of the 3 shells over your inner love All these shells have you locked inside your body so your orgasms are shallow and your body and face full of tension and lines. My advanced reading all builds to one thesis. tweaking your understandings of interactions as you do so. Specifically. when she is listening. and all the world can fade away. she nods her head in agreement as if you are like someone giving her a diagnosis. But when you meet that man of integrity (self point) who can see the inner beauty. It makes her feel understood. In the beginner's mind there are many possibilities. I want you to try a sexual reading and see the reaction. Beginners Mind. If she is not visibly excited by you that is where you are doing your learning. This is an extension on the thesis that can either feel sexy or it can feel like a clinical diagnosis depending on the delivery. Zen Mind. Getting a good feel for explicit sexual conversation is a good thing to learn. A man that can penetrate you deeply. There is no spark. And it is no longer about the superficial sexual release that you have been used to. You can make her laugh. It makes her cry. You need to see what moods this creates and work out why and how. 1972 Transitioning the conversation to sexual is a stage in you and her getting together. Through all the shells so that instead of some shallow exercise in sex. This reading works best when she is extremely attracted to you in which case it is an exciting promise of great sex. There is no risk. For example. Shunru Suzuki. Right inside you. Not expressing your true love. understanding that it breaks nothing even if rejected. Not sexy. and your body can open and you can connect so deeply your hearts merge into one. you are able to share your inner love. I love a palm reading. Even when you move onto the sexual thing saying "and your orgasms are shallow”. If I am in a non-performing mood and I am just going through the motions with the routine like it is the 100th time I have done it today. It easiest done where you are talking about sexual themes in general. not just the shell of superficial female expression. Here I am going to have you transition the palm reading sexual to let you get a feel for it. but in the expert's mind there are few. Going sexual within a palm reading is a judgement call just as it is with any conversation within a seduction. It makes her feel good. The man you have dreamed of since you were a little girl who could recognise your loving heart. And your fears can relax. but more like what I have included in the African Store Routine in the next chapter). the energy between us can be almost dead.
Alternatively. You should not judge her kinks at all. and I'll make it ambiguous as in: Kink elicitation reading You are either bi-sexual (pause) . I will usually do it like a pure cold reading. I use the opportunity to fish around for what her "kinks" are. If she jumps on the bi-sexual thing you can follow with a reading that goes (semi-crying voice tonality again): Bi-sexual gambit reading And you hold your preferences deep inside. And you need to understand that you are able to live without hiding who you really are.... Because no-one (point away) understands you. perhaps having being "taken" against your will (You watch her very closely for which gets a little reaction. the most basic of human communication and warmth. perhaps tied up . Therefore. It is a natural expression 73 . A kink elicitation is an important part of partners exploring each other’s sexuality. Because when people know (self point).risky.. Girls will usually try to wriggle out of the question. you can go straight at a fantasy reading.. I use the heart line as proof. You can embrace them. Another milder reading goes like this: Importance of human touch reading. And sexuality is part of that..... Because you are prepared to go without touch for long periods of time. But there is no problem with them. perhaps simply spanked . Because it hurts you to lock yourself up like this. And be at one with them. As you understand that deep touch is critical to just being a healthy living breathing person. or you have fantasies about exhibitionism (pause) . watching her face to see when I hit the mark. And in part there are things holding you back from expressing this. And you can allow your sexuality to blossom. perhaps whipped . So I tell her about the fantasy of an ex girlfriend to give her an example of the sort of thing that is fine to share with me. and you can live it openly without shame and without remorse. People really understand and can love you for it. you are embraced and accepted for who you are... or you have all those dreams and fantasies about being punished . and you need to embrace them. and is best left until after you have already had sex and been satisfied. Your skin texture tells me that you need to understand that human touch is important to you. Not "Shhh! People might see us!" It is the later risk that you want in your interactions. you are not judged.) For the kink elicitation you have to keep your ears open. Your preferences are completely natural. and you should use these sexual readings to understand it. There is no need for you to feel that there is something wrong with you and you need to hide it.. and live them. What that means is that I asked her what she thinks about when she masturbates.
Tell her the readings that you need to tell her to get the situation working. And you don’t get enough of it at the moment. You should not fight that energy.that is unhealthy to go without. Each of the readings can be chopped and changed. You need to be kissed often. Nothing is ever “wrong”. They do not even necessarily need to be attached to the line that I am suggesting. Others still will be interested in their own natures. You could read perfect-man from her lifeline if you wanted. Remember: you are not a palm-reading purist. Some will just have a burning question they want answered and the minute you say you read palms like the destiny of their current relationship. You will find that there are a lot of different “energies” or “vibes” or “chemistries” with the girls you run a palm reading on. You can build your palmreading with blocks of readings that fit together like Lego live in the field giving a unique reading to each girl choosing the way forward by looking at the situation in which you find the girl and the her mood. Others will be looking for someone who can truly understand them. The palm reading routine is a modular routine. All these things call for you to use your judgment and do the palm reading in the delivery and style that is best for the girl. 74 . and kissed well. You should run the routine the way that will suit your purposes best for achieving your goals with the girl. Some girls do not want to get into heavy stuff and want the interaction to be sexually charged. it is just a tool to get you talking on a completely different plane with her.
Changing the direction of a conversation and use of comedy. Moving to this level of intimacy is an important stage in you and her getting together. Not hyperactive. but you use your judgment as to when a good time is to move to the next level. and frequently an almost wanton delight in going astray from respectability. disregard of conventionalism. not like a hot potato. then you look down for a moment and look back smiling as if something just occurred to you. in part because it is so good at taking you to the next level. Among the most remarkable features characterizing Zen. This is the right time for a palm reading. In that case just drop the hand. She might tell you straight up “I don’t believe in that superstitious stuff”. but continue to hold it for a bit and go at right angles with your conversation and let it go gently. finding opportunities to make jokes and display how comfortable you are in this situation. following up on conversational threads that she leaves open. This chapter is instructional for the larger picture of the interaction. Daisetz Teitaro Suzuki (1870-1966) Sometimes you open a palm reading. but clearly in ‘meeting new people’ mode. If a palm reading is rejected. However there comes a time where your initial work has been done and she is attracted to you. You smile at her and go “I know! You are the little sceptical scientist. You always reserve the right to come back to the palm reading later when she is in a mood to get a little more intimate with you. This also serves as an example of the sort of high-energy material you can run before a palm reading. you can side track the conversation back into the high-energy routines and come back to it if you wish when the situation is better. At that stage it is time to slow it down and move the topic of conversation onto a deeper level of sentiments and getting to know each other deeply and getting comfortable with each other. I am going to give you a sidetrack routine to use just so that all the options are covered. changing directions of the conversation to keep it going. directness of expression. You should 75 . or not come back to it at all. It is once she is aware that she likes you. Listening closely looking for tangents. There is a correct time for a palm reading routine. When you start speaking to a girl you need to be reasonably high energy. creating open threads for you to follow up on later if you want. we find these: spirituality. It is written right here in your palm. This is a comedy routine and should be delivered as such. The palm reading will transition the mood. After she is attracted and it will be accepted because she is ready. You look at her. So you are reading her palm and it is not going well. When you want to abort an attempt at reading her palm you go at right angles as if you got side tracked. She is all crossed up. and the girl will just obviously simply not be into it. It does not take very long. But check this out: I was out the front earlier and …” and head into another conversational topic. Palm reading is low risk. and thus you will find yourself wanting to jump to this routine.
...... Now I don't know if it's me … probably … but I walked in there and my first reaction was . suuurr ... I mean it is an African store and there is the owner behind the counter looking at me..look like you are trying to keep a straight face.> yesterday (now is a good time to drop the palm and point in the direction of the shops from where you are) .... So I go in to look around just cursing myself for not looking before I walked in. I was out shopping for a gift for my little sister on <whatever street with a large amount of these shops in your city. think ... I ... (delivered with pure amazement opening your eyes wide and pulling your head back slightly as if you just stopped and checked yourself) "Whoa! Africa!" (allow laughter) And it was not the sort of store I wanted to buy furniture or art in because like … I am really white (allow laugh) and it doesn’t go with Ikea.. because you know how sales people can be . I am talking about the sort of store that sells imported African art... you walk in "just looking" (do quotes with fingers) and walk out with a giant wooden cock in your hand . no ...... You should look like a relaxed sophisticate when delivering it. suuurr?" So I say (insecurely) "Yeah ... (allow laugh) I say (insecurely): "Ummmm . and I wasn't even looking when I accidentally . carved wooden penis?" (allow laugh) [optional if telling it in straight style: “or at least that is what the statue looked like to me” (you might get another laugh)] She says: "$1500...do you want to buy it.. I was wondering how much is this . err … big ..... She goes "Can I help you... African Store Routine So check this out .. right. You know which ones I am talking about. walked into an …(pause) African store! (allow it to breathe here for a moment). and if yours is the best I’ll come back. often discounted including beads." (allow laugh) The routine is a good model for the sort of material you are able to run when you are high energy and I use it as an example of the sort of routine you should get together for when 76 . umm … African stores .. I am going to go compare the prices of the penis at .. right? The ones that are all dark with all the carved wooden face masks and like beads hanging from the ceiling and voodoo dolls with a big fat Ugandan woman behind the counter.. not like you enjoy undergraduate humour. other . I was walking around from shop to shop in my own mind thinking about what I might get her . umm…. that .. giant . suuurr?" (allow laugh at how expensive it is) So I am thinking as fast as I can .. etc.. (allow laugh) But I can’t just turn and leave.
It is her signal to herself. rather than tears or anger or some other form. it is unimportant. or conveying personality or any other criteria). In other words. Jerry and the other guy are having a conversation about why people like comedy so much. importantly. Laughter also makes you feel good. ‘I don’t take myself seriously. you should have routines that are purely comedy based with laughter as the objective (as opposed to attraction. If you don’t like my comedy routine. Instead it talks about sex in the third person and I am only talking about sex in order to get to the punch lines. and think about you’re your early interaction with comedy in mind. In the commentary track on the DVD of Jerry Seinfield's "Comedian". In fact. it is not important whether you use the one I present.you are attracting the girl to you. you can use your own. The punch lines give a reason for the sexually graphic language. and get together and test many of these. the one above chosen simply because it is what I am running right at the moment (time of writing). It is an element of flirting that says. She can take off her kid gloves when dealing with you. I do. and she can relax because you are not about to get upset and take something the wrong way if she wants to make a joke. A man meeting a woman makes her heart rush and increases the tension in both of you. and given that laughter is so easy to generate with a joke. have African art hanging on the walls of my apartment in real life. Given that. or bragging about my sexual exploits. You can then also make fun of her. Jerry is talking about the amazing things he saw at the "Cirque de Soleil" . It shows that you do not take yourself too seriously. she knows she is attracted to you when she starts giggling or laughing. Laughter is a response to a large range of things. The routine does not sound at all crass coming out of my mouth because I am someone who is comfortable with my sexuality. and it keeps my interactions fresh. and I don’t take you seriously. and it is clear that it is not intended to shock. The other guy points out that laughter feels better than the gasp of astonishment from 77 . you say things that are actually funny to get the signal happening in her. The sex is a mechanism to laughter. When you make a joke and both of you can laugh. It is a release of tension. Something about what the person just saw or heard or thought made them tense on an emotional or psychological level. and all is forgiven. the tension will just continue with no release. It does not sound anything like a proposition. a release of tension.. so we can play together’. Making fun of her is important. If you continue being serious and try to be James Bond. however this one. but is also. Getting together and testing interesting little sexually oriented comedy bits is part of what I really enjoy in going out and meeting women. and that tension can be released and leave permanently. Comedy is a way to bring up sex without even coming close to proposing sex between you and the girl. then something in her "chose" to release or vent this tension in the form of laughter. in fact. That is why it is important when dealing with a girl. That is why girls giggle in the presence of an attractive man. Like the Grandmother routine.. I know works and you can use it to learn comedic timing until you want to replace it with something you like better. I have hundreds of them. that the acrobats were doing far more difficult things than standing in front of a microphone and making people laugh.
but it really glows as a comedy routine. You are bringing her into your world where you. You can use 5 or 6 sentences (or as many as you like if you want to tell a good straight story that displays your personality in a different way) to set up your thick punch lines before she is aware that this is comedy. You act as if you don’t care whether she stays or leaves because your friends surround you. and in that way the feeling. Get your delivery really polished. have you vibe off each other. 78 . you just need to play with the delivery to get it right. A simple joke. You can see how short the set-ups are in the African Store Routine. and how I have stripped out all the additional things that I could have put in there. Routines designed to get a laugh. So you set the intimate tone of the conversation and send a message that says. I strip out all additional information that I could have chosen to recount to keep the punch lines coming reasonably thick and fast. I am who I am and am and so confident that I am worthwhile that I am prepared to relax completely and have this conversation with you as if we are already best friends. If you are not the sort of person who can pull off this level of sexual routine. She can look at the world out of your eyes and enjoy the experience. In a comedy routine there are set-ups and there are punch lines. you can see it is funny and why it is funny. This routine you will need to run quite a bit to get it working properly. Then you want to get one punch line flowing after another. What you need to do is get together a proven comedy routine like the one above. not her. the euphoria that laughter gives the audience is qualitatively superior to the gasp. Keep running it even if you get groans the first time. This is my sense of humour. The unexpected and funny line is called the punch line. The quality of the feeling of laughter is hard to beat. The secret to good comedy routines for romantic encounters is that you need to keep the set-ups short. and it is why there is a much larger market for comedy and much more money in it. Reading it. and it is extremely accessible to you. In that way I choose to make the introductory set up longer to move any necessary information from between the punch-lines up to the top when she still thinks it is just a straight story.” In that way you have dispensed completely with all formalities and invited her for a ride in your world. Early in the interaction. The routine works as a straight story. “this is what interacting with me is like. It displays my reality and the sort of interaction that she can expect from me in the future. dictate the levels of social etiquette. The “set-up” is the part where you set the stage for the unexpected line that causes a laugh. you need to be super-confident as if you are not looking for her approval. everybody in the place is your friend including her. However it is not the sort of routine I would use as a first routine after breaking the ice. Once I am into the thick of the punch lines. This routine is a few minutes in once the mood has been set to some extent and is why I include it as an example of what I would typically use to break up a palm reading. Humour can be learned. I would warm her up for a few minutes first and will have used a good early interaction comedy bit to set the tone. Let’s say that you do not consider yourself a naturally funny person today.seeing an acrobatic feat. Single sentences if possible. then you will want to get together your own also of a humorous nature so that you have a plan for ejecting from a palm reading. And that quality of feeling will release the tension.
because if she doesn’t laugh you spent all that time looking for her approval and did not get it. and you should exaggerate the emotions as well. This is just your natural wit to her. She is laughing and having a good time. You are just a guy who she has started talking to. It is a good thing. and you are amusing yourself. It was embarrassing”. or anything that looks like it has that standard joke structure. provided the jokes are not at your expense or are self-depreciating. Her attraction to you is escalating. you are just exaggerating it. Not just with your voice. You are empathizing with what she is laughing at and underlining it to make her laugh even more. A comedy routine does not need to be that funny. Getting her laughing is all you need to do and then you can move onto a palm reading. your comedy should look like it is just something coming off the top of your head exactly as in the African Store Routine. You are setting the whole situation up in order to get the laugh. What are you to do now she hasn’t laughed? You look like you are trying hard. facial expressions and body. The girl might take a second to catch on to a certain joke. There is no risk in attempting a joke. “I wondered how long you would take to get it”. you can assume that she is attracted to you. You don’t care if she laughs or not. Rather than telling “jokes”. You need to almost be trying to keep a straight face to signal to the girl that you are not being serious and she is allowed to laugh. The two of you are sharing a joke together that the rest of the world is not privy to. I see people strangle their jokes all the time. In the above routine. And the barman says …”. It is a story that you are telling that you see humour in and you don’t really care if she sees it or not. I know. It is obvious that you are exaggerating. You are laughing too.Never tell a standard joke early in the interaction with a woman. right. Have you ever seen young girls giggle with each other for no reason? It is the same mechanism. and you should not say. but also with your hands. They are bouncing vibes off each other and escalating their enjoyment of each other. you are exaggerating. and setting yourself up so that you are looking for her approval in whether she laughs or not. she is actually bouncing her mood off you. When a girl laughs. We all know that African Art is extremely phallic. So even sick jokes get a good laugh. You do not want something that starts with “So this guy walks into a bar with a duck under his arm. It is almost elitist. that you find amusing just for yourself. That is strangling your own joke by commenting on it. Do not talk over them. Do you see the difference between a tag-line and 79 . Those are obviously constructed so that the laugh is desired. You should never strangle a joke. If you get a girl laughing. You are comfortable with her and with yourself. If you get a laugh. Leave pauses to allow the laughs to breathe. When I say that I mean never tell a knock-knock joke. You are then at her mercy. You are causing her to have good feelings and she is communicating that with laughter. Remember that it looks as if it is coming straight off the top of your head. A tag line is where you empathise with her emotion and you do that spontaneously as in “Yeah. Delivery is how you say what you say. She is not expecting you to be funny. do not comment on it except as a tag line.
That builds confidence in your sense of humour. the other is commenting that you were trying to make a joke and strangling it. Girls do not like to think they have no sense of humour. People who do that are so nervous in the interaction that they put a lot of pressure on themselves and can not just relax and make fun of themselves and the girl. But if it does not get the laughs. you will find that those get good laughs too. and does not endear you to anyone. You can deliver it like that. Once there. it works well as a straight interesting story. If she says “Are you serious?” when you say it was worth $1500. She will drop her eyes because she did not understand that you were joking and work with you on the rest of the routine. you can deliver jokes properly that come to your mind spontaneously. Similarly the use of cutting sarcasm directed at the girl or being insulting is a sign that you are not comfortable in your skin in her presence and trying to judge her harshly before you are judged. Once you have it down. if you do not get the laughs. Even. 80 . just joking” and reach out and touch her on the arm in a gesture of acceptance with a smile. taking yourself too seriously is a sign of insecurity.strangling it? One is empathizing with the emotion and extending the joke. You do not want to take yourself too seriously when you first meet a girl. When you try. This is protecting your insecurity by going on the offence. don’t sweat it. because you learned the comedic delivery from my above routine. You will start looking for funny angles. It is still a good routine for regular conversation. and it is not nice. Get the African Store Routine as well as other comedy routines together so that they really elicit the laughs. on the above routine. you will see that you can be funny. you say “nah. With confidence you will say those jokes that come to your mind more. In fact.
is the point from which fiction begins. Our vocal chords and mouth manipulate the word into a set of air vibrations. we put together one-size-fits-all palm readings to appeal to and trigger those a priori images in a girl’s head. We look at a leaf on a tree. to get the girl to have good feelings and happiness. You want to remove the barriers between you and her and communicate in a way where she can stand in the same place as you and view things from the same angle that you view things. unique images that are much different in her mind to my own when I chose each word and constructed each sentence. but rather the objective of good communication. Language. In doing so. 1991 Word choice and being able to deeply communicate with someone is a skill unto itself.Using Language Effectively. that reality and morality are not givens but imperfect human constructs. From there the receiver takes the vibrations from the hearing sense and turns it back into an image of a leaf in her head. and use the word “leaf” to describe it. We use the imperfect descriptors of our ideas: words. The acceptance that all that is solid has melted into the air. the a priori leaf (as Immanuel Kant would describe it). by its very nature is a one-size-fits-all process. to represent it and communicate it. we get a one-size-fits-all representation for the infinite differences of each of the veins and shapes of the original leaf described. We want her to associate those good feelings with us. is the shape of a maple leaf like on the Canadian flag. This is not some evil trick. With that. the things which are important to her. we can further pull the detail out of the leaf. say the word “leaf”. In fact we are fortunate for the limitations of language in representing the actual world. Imaginary Homelands. When we do that we take a unique object that is different from all other leaves in its shape and veins and colour and we categorise it as an object that has certain things in common to other objects of a similar type. The palm reading will teach you to talk to deep themes and be able to control the images within her mind and the things that she is thinking about. You should allow these language skills to spill out of the palm reading situation into your general interactions. other leaves and decide to call this unique object ‘a leaf’. and we want to motivate her to make a decision. Perhaps her standard-leaf. a string of sounds. and now she has in her mind an image of her standard-leaf to which all other leaves are imperfectly compared and is unique to her. Take a word. Because of the limitations of language. we have lost all the detail of the original leaf that we were using words to describe. or in the case of a palm-reading. Then we take the word and change it to the best representation we have of it. Salman Rushdie. whereas mine is the shape of a Red-Gum leaf coming from a different place with a different childhood and a different original leaf in my past. and have her attempt to 81 . which is then received in the ear of the listener. and the process of even attempting to use language strips out the details and the specifics. From within that framework.
Now as you imagine feeling like that. And you just want to yell and scream and break things. I say to myself. So stating that again to be clear. Like “Yeaah! This feels great”” What I have done in the above is just take two sentiments that do not go together. While when I run the routine. This is a skill you will build by using the palm reading so you can carefully choose works in other conversations. You want to work out want her to feel then put together the sentences to make her feel that. Now there are two ways that you can have her access a feeling. if I want her to feel sure she is making a good decision like in the beginners heart line reading. You are enjoying the rage and happy inside with an inward smile really loving the experience as you go out and break things. Because if she feels sure right now that she is about to make a good decision that will 82 . I construct for her the feeling and sentiment using words. that item of clothing will still have all the positive associations that she got from wearing it. Now that I have her with a feeling of sureness. There are 2 ways to have her access the feeling: a) Remember it from her past.reconstruct our experience in her own mind using her a priori concepts. ideal concepts that make up her as a person and form her world view and philosophies. the reading is in fact free form rapping. And you can let the happiness spread and rejoice as you feel this anger. You might squint your eyes. Once she has that in her mind. b) Construct it from her future (imagination). She will be sure that this purchase decision is a good decision. I want to tell her to trust that feeling. I will ask her to go back and remember when she bought that piece of clothing. perhaps you could also imagine that you are extremely happy while you are doing this. Anger and happiness. One is to ask her to remember how she felt on another occasion and tell her to recall that so that she feels it now. Similarly. for example. life experience. The words drive themselves. “when is a time when she was really sure of something?” Well it was before she bought something she loves. With practice you will be able to do it naturally with any conversation you like. I run it very closely to the advanced reading. and the second is to ask her to construct a feeling in her imagination and imagine she feels it now. flare your nostrils and breathe deeper and can feel your muscles tense with anger. anger and happiness at the same time … I choose these because they are opposites) I might go: “If you could imagine a time when you are extremely angry. So. if I want her to feel a new sensation that she has never felt before. just to explain. I will have her recall a piece of clothes that she loves to wear. and therefore need to construct it (randomly. I just have in my mind where I want to take her and then put it together. Hindsight is 20/20 so when she remembers looking at the thing on the rack. They are the opposite of each other.
For example. not the other complications in her life like the reputation she might get from her friends should she come home with me. and then work on achieving the same things with your own language live with the girl. So you go back in your mind and you think to yourself “When would she have felt extremely safe?” Perhaps you come up with “When she was wrapped in her mothers arms as a child”. And as you remember that time you should remember all the things you heard and the warmth of the feeling that you had deep on the inside. So while she is there in her mental space. I mean. and she is sure that is a good decision then I am in a good position as far as the seduction goes. but rather realise the things I am doing and allow yourself to go free form during the reading. And you could completely relax inside because you knew the whole world was good. with these big arms wrapped around you. Reading palms is just a means to and end. if you can remember a time when you felt really safe. That is the process. and that is how you should think about reading palms. A skill in free-form readings. Perhaps you were in your mothers’ arms sitting on her knee. you should not memorise the readings as I have written them. So if you look at the way that I talk in these palm readings. As you come to understand that you are completely secure. I can take the opportunity to tell her that it is this feeling of sureness that she should trust. Once you understand who to access feelings you should find yourself doing it all the time. and what feeling you need to give her to take your case forward. That is where you go with it.continue to be good into the future that is something she should trust. you need to understand what I am trying to achieve in each of the readings. And as you feel that sense of safety and security. Not a memorization exercise where you just memorise my lines. you will be able to identify where she is emotionally. When I run these readings it is never exactly the same twice. And when you feel like this. and I can relax into the situation”. or any other judgments. you may feel that she is nervous for her safety. In that way. If I have got her to consider hooking up with me. you can say to yourself “This is completely safe. So I put the words together to tell her that. As you do that. 83 . You say “And your head line says that you can really trust your judgment. It is a skill set. you realise that this is a judgment you should trust. You want her to feel this is safe. with practice. With practice you will be able to construct this yourself.
and have you go out and attempt to do a complete fresh reading using the language talked about in the previous chapter. She is the obstacle because girls protect each other. and coming up with readings yourself. They are easy to deal with. They go out together (perhaps even in large groups . The role of the obstacle is to reign back in the good-looking girl. invariably there will be a little power relationship that forms where they both realise that either one is better looking than the other. The first is to develop your skills at using ambiguous language. It is almost as if one of the friends will take on a quasi-male role in the friendship. People take on roles in their lives and in their relationships. There are two objectives in what you should be learning here.Female Obstacles (Chaperones) Now you should have mastered many of the skills.. When they go out they then fall naturally into desirable girl and obstacle roles. sometimes out of a sense of protection. they know their roles. The reason for this is that she has displaced the responsibilities for her actions onto the obstacles. and the other the less responsible. and doing a second reading on her friend completely from your head without the crutch of simply repeating the same thing. usually less attractive to the girl that is your objective. or one is the responsible one. 84 . and should be becoming confident with the palm readings that I have presented. Girls will often have friends with them that act as obstacles (in more polite society called chaperones). In this section I am going to move you off the standard readings. Here is how it works: Good-looking girl gets a friend who is less good looking. just the same as guys. and not rely on the beginners or advanced palm readings. This is to build your skill in doing it free form. A girl’s friend will generally not want to see you be successful with your girl. If you notice. Getting a feeling for how to handle obstacles is an important skill. but rather common interests and how well they get along. sometimes out of jealousy. it is always the best-looking girl that is the most interested in the interaction with you when you are speaking to a group. They like to ensure that their friend does not get into any situations that she cannot control or does not want to be in and will actively work as a saboteur. However. Girls do not necessarily form friendships based on sex.. there can be more than one obstacle). The reason you need a new reading for this is that you do not want them comparing notes and understanding that you just say the same thing all the time. etc. The second is to start to learn to deal with the social situations that you will find girls are often in. Both these things are beyond learning to read palms and are part of the broader skill base that this course aims to teach.. Now what the good-looking girl can do is completely absolve herself from responsibility in this evening. It means that you will read the palm of the girl you like in the way you have now become used to. Nevertheless. The desirable girl may in fact have brought her obstacles along especially to be obstacles. Obstacle is one such role. In doing so she has played out her dominance over the obstacles in a feminine way.
With her larger group of friends. If you can set up the obstacle with a guy. Sometimes you will do a palm reading where there is her friend. But to understand where the obstacles come from is easy. Problem solved. then you will extract to your place easily. At the end. you cannot go into the deep stuff like the 85 . it is her that is Roxanne.. People understand their roles. She will track you down with a vengeance and drag her irresponsible friend away and give her a berating in the car on the way home. It is easy to beat. and they enjoy playing the role. Similarly with women. To have them wishing that it was them that were with you. and give them some attention so that she approves of you as the gatekeeper to her friend. You do not sneak your desirable girl out the back door and give a phone call. The way to deal with obstacles is to talk to them. they are playing a role and what they actually want is to get a man themselves. Now it is rich. If the friend is watching. It is a role. being able to fantasise about the men in the desirable girls life. she has been derelict in her duties as obstacle. They get the additional fun of the free drinks that may come her way. They hang in groups and try to tease you along into not committing to which you will chase. You have your desirable girl speak to her obstacles. this girl psychoanalysing her friend because she plays the obstacle role in that friendship but not with her larger group of friends. As he chases the pack they spread out because he has been focussing on all of them. Call one a your girl. While this might seem childish.I know one girl who is the usually desirable girl in her group. You spend time with them to make them comfortable. You tell her to tell them that she likes this guy and he is good. So understanding that tells you how to deal with obstacles. What they get from the relationship is they get to go out with the Roxanne whom they really like. even if not strictly better looking. Is to acknowledge them as people. even if he is not your wingman. the big old predator is sitting in the middle of where the centre of the pack would be going "where did all those little slow fish go?" But if he had focussed on one he would have got it easily. who represents your obstacle. Her friends complain that she never grows up and is irresponsible and acts like she is 16. Yet this same girl has a friend. This is the obstacles worst nightmare . She goes out and drinks and flirts with guys. listening. That she had no father in her life and therefore flirts outrageously with everyone.. they will not drag her away and they will not suggest they go to the bathroom together. Obstacles are not without their vices. They are not prudes. and it is her more homely friends that ensure that she gets home safely. and the rest obstacles. Women school like fish. She complains that this friend is hard to go out with because she is always getting into situations she needs saving from. Roxanne who is more irresponsible than her. although it is more prevalent among young girls. it is a role that is played with more subtlety by women of all ages. You know why fish school? It is because the big predatory fish comes in and chases the pack without focussing on any one fish. and get to meet guys that are out of their quality range. They will then not come up and pretend they are lesbians. They will then allow their friend to be isolated with this quality guy within the club.
she will ask you to read her friend’s palm. But she needs the validation of her friend to justify how she feels. happens. She wants her friend to understand this interaction that she is having so that she can let herself go and become more attracted to you. In that case. Now your heart line and your Mound of Venus both represent your heart (if your girl is listening you say: “yours is different from hers because yours <does what it does … mention a minor faint line crossing it or point out the exact curvature>”). However I have a reasonably standard obstacle reading. if not impossible. and this is your Mound of Venus. I am going to start with your head line. in fact. if we look to your heart line. you will do this with your girl listening. If you are working with a wingman. You get the idea of some small thing and you go over it and over it in 86 . Whenever you need a new reading you can simply pull 3 readings from the runes readings in the appendix and read the palm as if it was those runes that you pulled. In that case. there are times when you dwell on small things in your relationship. When people can see you for who you are. your heart will completely belongs to him. It is the reading I usually do and goes like this: Quality man Mound of Venus reading. You need an entire new reading. that you read your girl’s palm. It just let’s her feel you are quality so she can be comfortable you are a quality man and are good for her friend and she can understand why her friend likes you. It is better therefore if you make a semi-solid policy that a palm reading is personal and insist that if she wants it done. you cannot do the same reading that you did on your girl. The important part comes later but I start with this optional reading. and can see your inner strength. and if this man is the man that you choose to spend the rest of your life with. to leave the friend there alone while you isolate your girl. he can work the friend while you read the palm. And you like it when people like you. However. Often. it should be done in privacy. This is your life line. I have now given you a lot of material for readings for the your girl. You feel really deeply. You have this capability to love so deeply. this is your heart line. but underneath you are really sensitive. Girls in groups of two are harder because it is difficult. Now. it is a reality that you are on occasion going to have to read more than one palm to get your girl. and she is completely into you now. this is your head line. See because your Mound of Venus has this crossed pattern it means that you are faithful. The three of you in a little triangle. When you go out to the world you square your shoulders up and hold your head up and pretend that you have everything under control. and if there is loud music.three shells over your inner love reading. it causes an isolating buffer so it is you and her in a bubble anyway. It often. Now do you have a boyfriend? Either: (If she says yes) I thought so.
And you have control over your own actions. and you don’t judge those decisions when you are healthy. But you are ready. As you feel that feeling. and just allow the inner beauty that inside you to shine. And you can allow all those feelings of tension and nervousness to just fade away and allow the world to just be. you need to understand that this person in front of you (self point) is worthy. and be confident. And if you could stop and remember a time when you 87 . The important part of the reading is this: Female Obstacle reading This is your head line. And just let the feeling take over you. And when you recognise quality in front of you (self point). Of having things that you feel that you are responsible for. To enjoy what is going on around you. Or: If she does not have a boyfriend: Okay. enjoying it. you can just relax and allow nature to take its course. and remember a time when you felt really good. when you see the man in your life. scared of love because you love so deeply and can become scared that you will get hurt if you let yourself fall in love.your mind and you allow your relationship to make you feel bad when it should be nothing but a source of pleasure to you. So there are two ways out of that for you. and enjoy yourself. You see there are some people who have relationships where every time they see each other they feel really bad. “He didn’t ask me how my day was” and then let that make them feel bad. He is a man of quality. your easygoing beauty that will attract this man into your life. but when you are healthy you are able to let go. So you can be fulfilled deeply by that man of quality that you are on the verge of forming a relationship with. So you need to allow yourself. One is to try to exert your control over more and more things and situations. and just smile. It is your good nature in everything you do. Like some people might say. And when you are in an unhealthy frame of mind you try to control things. And just let the rest of the world swirl around you. You have reached a state of health when you are now ready to embrace a man who can fulfil you deeply. So that you wear it like power. Not allowing. But since you don’t it means that you have been holding yourself back. In order to retain this balance in your life. And you need to embrace that man in your life. those men that are all around you (point around at all the men in the place. if you had a boyfriend your Mound of Venus would mean that your heart completely belongs to him. when you see the man walk through your door say to yourself “Ohh! There he is! I feel really good!” And if you can stop. to feel really good every time you see him. or your wingman if you have one) into your life. Enjoying watching the people around you who are making their own decisions. and allow your inner good nature to come to the outside. and the other is to relax and reduce the things you are responsible for. But instead. but are rather content to just let the world be. but have no control over what happens. you need to ensure that you relax. It means that you don’t like the feeling of being out of control. To recognise that you are responsible for you. and feel really good.
what you are wanting to do is sell to her that the palm reading is real so she can go "wow. Because you don’t have that support anymore. and relax. I am naked with him. These piercings and tattoos are signs of bi-sexuality so you can push that. This is your life line. he can see 88 . One other thing: don’t forget this is a warm reading. Although it is the same theme as the 3 shells reading it sounds sufficiently different and I have never had a girl catch it. You need to do that more often. Finish by telling her that she is fertile too. This means that you will make an excellent mother. And you long for that feeling still even though you are an adult. and understand that the world will actually look after you. But you would love it if you could have a relationship in your life that could give you that unconditional support and love that you used to have. and is thus good for an obstacle. For the remainder of the readings you can use readings from the runes or any other readings that you did not use on your girl (like the beginners readings). You knew your parents would provide your next meal. Obstacles are protective and pull your girl away.. The routine is to tell her to relax about the girl and think about herself. But you need to allow people to make their own choices and not interfere in your friend’s lives. You can be protective of all your friends and family and want the best for them. Just relax into the love and support and knowing that you were looked after. I mean that you have the girl in front of you and can observe some things about her. this guy knows everything about me . An unfulfilled yearning. More material: this is just stuff that is universally true that I run although it does not take a seduction forward. And you need to manage your own affairs to keep yourself afloat. It means that you can be very protective. And that means that there is something missing in your life. completely secure that you would be looked after. Thunderstorms and rain for example. If she is tattooed and self mutilated (piercing. you can assume she had a harder life and can talk about that in ambiguous ways so as not to cause offence. just enjoying watching the way the storm dances. And sitting inside. If you are not from a region where it snows you should change the storm part of the reading to the sorts of storm that the girl can relate to. Your life line tells me that you long for the unconditional support of childhood. If you can stop and remember back to when you were a child. you can talk about how she cares for things and blah blah save the whales style topics. in the warmth. It does that quite forcefully. First and foremost. that the bills would be paid and that you could just be. etc).were watching the swirling snow out the window. And in order to be happy. and let your girl vibe her friend so they are comfortable escalating the intimacy and you have the approval. The obstacles generally follow this advice and keep out of your hair once you have run this routine. When I say that. If she is out of university and 25 or so and working. you can talk about how she is making her own way in the world but would love to have the unconditional support of her childhood years. you need to let it go.. If she is in hippy garb.
You need to go out and make the changes to your life that will allow you to achieve what you want. thought of saying ‘This is mine’ and found people simple enough to believe him was the true founder of civil society. jealousy and a misplaced belief in chivalry. You should keep those dreams lofty. not necessarily in a palm reading but rather in general conversation after a palm reading. defending the damsel in distress. They work from possessiveness. it will crop up even for those not doing groups so learning to deal with other men is an important skill. I don’t need any better than this”. But now you will just settle. 1755 Male Obstacles have a different agenda to female. When you read a male’s palm. And you should do it cleanly. Maybe Claudia Schiffer or Elle McPherson or Angelina Jolie. In that case you tweak the reading to say what you want it to say. Nevertheless. You can deepen him into talking about his Anima if you like and point out that the girl in his group does not measure up as real. I mean remember when you were younger. your dreams of a perfect woman? I mean remember you used to think about pin-up models.a Befriending Male Obstacles) The first man who. A Discourse on Inequality. You want these guys to be your friends. having enclosed a piece of land. The gender can be changed on the above routine and it can be used on a girl. How many crimes.k. how much misery and horror the human race would have been spared if someone had pulled up the stakes and filled in the ditch and cried out to his fellow man: ‘Beware of listening to this impostor. To have this problem often. and you need to re-capture them. You need to reclaim your dreams. Keep in mind. 90 . but at the same time tell him that he is a highly independent rational thinker who is able to make his own way in the world and readings like that. this is still using the palm reading to teach you the proper intuitions and get you acting in the right way. You have said “This will do me. Give the readings a try and you will learn how the dynamic works. And remember you used to have dreams of what you would be when you grew up. murders. That is that her current relationships are breaking the dream. This reading is to get him to change his focus from this girl that we are with to his ideals of a ‘perfect 10’. breathing girls without television make-up and flattering lighting and camera angles never can. living. but you have settled for the job you have. Into that style of routine you insert the following. you want it to be positive. You are lost if you forget that the fruits of the earth belong to everyone and the earth belongs to no one!’ Jean-Jacques Rousseau.Male Obstacles without girl listening (a. you need to be approaching girls within groups. You should not settle for this girl or that girl (point in direction of girl). and you represent what she always dreamed of. being that action hero without any underhanded positioning and scheming. Broken Dreams reading Your dreams are broken. So you run the generic readings from the Runes appendix. You are settling. I mean maybe you thought you would be an action hero and live an exciting life. wars.
You are kind and generous with friends. Nobel Prize winner. He could play NFL. And you were able to become friends immediately without holding yourself back or judging the new people harshly. the kid could be a footballer. and feel like this you can trust it and relax. so that you can be in this state of energy all the time. so that option went. he is a guy. you can tell them whatever you want. no more the man who might invent the cure for cancer. And you need to feel like this all the time. And as you remember that you should remember how you interacted with the world. "Look. or a UN chief or a Hollywood actor. and the harvest rune and the blank rune too (or which ever random combination you pull out of your mind. your father said. And he is settling at the moment. President of the USA. And you might realise that was because you accepted them. Guys are not difficult to befriend if they are not nervous about their women. with whom you develop an unspoken rapport. And when you see that rapport. and respect the new people they meet. And take pride in the fact that you are a big man in personality terms that can accept new people easily. and he is as good as anyone to talk about that with. Read their palms as if it is a rune reading and as if they pulled the warrior rune. Perhaps as a toddler and you kicked the cat. But you could still be a doctor. you have something that you want to talk about. When you were a little kid you could have been anything. See rune-casting appendix for rune readings). Befriending guys is easy because there is no confusion about intentions. After that. On it goes. This reading is then to tell him to accept you as a new person in his group and to get him acting in the right ways. You are speaking to him because he is there. The confidence you had that you were likable and how everybody accepted you easily. You should treat him exactly like that. Because he used to have dreams. You are not speaking to him because you want anything from him. And that is a function of mood. and all good. Because your passionate nature is endowed with a strong sense of loyalty and fidelity. Like he happens to be there and you want to speak to someone. Just make sure you tell them to relax about the chick. But then you start failing math’s and oops .. You have linked his sense of pride to his ability to make you comfortable and to be hospitable. we all did.As you get older your options diminish.. Humour helps greatly with making your conversations with guys worthwhile from his end." But as you got older it was clear that you were not a stand out freak of an athlete. So you have him think about that. no more Nobel Prize winner. and you tell him that he needs to rekindle his dreams. Big Man reading You are capable of being extremely likable and having a lot of friends even if you don’t always manifest yourself that way. no more engineer. You are a guy. anything. His laughter makes the interaction worthwhile from your end. Because if you can stop and remember a time when you were truly gracious and met a new group of people. 91 . Your options continue to diminish as you go on. Astronaut. It is all ambiguous.
but you like what you see and want to continue the interaction. They may be searching for a hidden agenda. you want to start speaking to her and decide that you like her during the interaction so that the agenda was not pre-planned but rather spontaneous. I will come over and we can hang after we are finished here. He would look insecure to the girls if he gets possessive. "Champ. That is how it should come across. that said. but social etiquette dictates that he has to act around you as if there is no problem with you speaking to him. the intentions get a bit more clouded. If the women in his group accept you he will continue to play along through forced smiles. let’s just move over here. befriend him like you are now best friends then steal his girls out from under his nose. But being a sexual being does not mean that you want to sleep with anyone in particular or that you have an agenda. Even if she has been being quiet when you were speaking to her group. I call him "champ" in the most facetious way possible. once you read her palm. you should bring the true emotion to the surface. When you have a guy who is faking he likes you because he is boxed in by the social etiquette. You are always playing with intentions during a interaction. You do not want to be the beggar at her doorstep. and not just play along. So instead you use sarcasm on him to make him look stupid. You speak to them just because they happen to be there like you might speak to a guy you want nothing from. Now the intentions are still a bit mixed. they are next to impossible to truly befriend. but I know there is a hidden agenda and a "do you have any spare change?" is coming. so he has to play along. When you start the conversation with a girl. Because the interaction between you and him has been forced and fake on some level. Instead." and you isolate her further away. If they are nervous about their women. It will be obvious to the girl what he is trying to do. You are a sexual being and should not be ashamed of that. If you are in the middle of a palm reading and he comes up with some comment. By then it is too late and there is nothing he can do about it. When the dishevelled guy walks up to me in the street and asks me for directions. The minute that he starts trying to interject himself between you and her. As in "Good one. That is not the guy you want to be. you should display your sexuality proudly at the same time. but she just happens to be there and you happen to be speaking to her. Your decision has not been made that you want her. you should start it as if it as if you have no intentions. champ! I wish I could be as good as you!" The onus is then on him to try to cut you down. Same with the whole group. Now the trick to that is to genuinely seem like you want nothing from them.When he has girls with him. we are in the middle of something here. So you ask for a kiss. He might know that you are there for the women. he can become a proactive obstacle in trying to ruin your chances with the girl. 92 . This will happen also when he suddenly realises that you are stealing his girls. I give him directions. I promise! Really! C'mon Lisa. because he might genuinely be lost. it is what you see that impresses you. and you see her for the inner girl. Now there is something deeper there. but you are expecting the agenda to surface. Now. I'll give them. you should say. You want to come in.
You need to be at one with yourself and relaxed and confident to keep the girl that you want. Why would you want to set up that sort of game with a girl? Instead. and a paradox. negating it. You establish within your interactions early that there is no ownership. Further. The minute you are there you are already loosing the battle. And the only way you can do that is by letting go and not wanting to keep her and possess her. The insecurity is part of your inner turmoil and it will manifest itself in your blind self. This works in your favour in a number of respects but will truly pay dividends when there truly is no possessiveness on your part and it is not a charade. he must put a picture in his mind of him jumping in the puddle.Never display any possessiveness of women. It is something you should learn by first getting your outward behaviour correct and acting in non-possessive ways. As soon as you want to possess something that other people want to possess. and become better with girls giving yourself more options and making any girl replicable. then she will realize that the other man is better than him and he will loose her. I understand that possessiveness is a male human trait bred into us … the desire to know that any offspring of your girl is yours. Then you can relax into the interaction and relationship without niggling fears and actually enjoy life. and when a man enters the interaction you are having with his girl unthreatened by the situation. and she knows it. then cross it out. if you allow it to corrupt you in a possessive ego way. Love and possessiveness are not linked. and I’ll try to catch you” or worse. A truly secure man is not concerned if his woman is speaking to another man because he is secure in his knowledge that he is the best man that she is likely to meet in her lifetime. and makes jumping in the puddle all the more appealing. be the guy that is able to know that he can hold his women without worry. you are punishing her for something she might as well be guilty of. Possessiveness betrays an underlying insecurity. Further. and accept no possessiveness by her of you. Don’t be that insecure guy. it is quite likely that this girl is not available to you. That is a complex idea. You should work internally with yourself to practice what you preach to actually kill the 93 . it will encourage her to play her side of the game. you will value a lack of possessiveness in the girls with whom you form relationships. you need to have a philosophy that jealousy and possessiveness kill a relationship. Ironically possessiveness encourages infidelity. if you are the insanely jealous sort and punish her with a verbal barrage for “speaking to the waiter” or whatever when she is innocent of any mal-intent. you make yourself the lap dog in the relationship exposing your insecurities. and possessiveness is not an indication of depth of love but rather a depth of insecurity that she will leave you for someone else. The picture you caused him to create makes the idea occur to him where it might not have naturally. you are setting up the rules of a game that goes “You flirt with other men in secret. and increase the likelihood of her cheating on you. Once she understands the rules of the sub game in your relationship. When you say to a child “Do not jump in that puddle”. However the highly possessive are worried that if their woman speaks to any other man. Similarly a display of possessiveness does the same thing to a girl and lets her know that you feel you have something to fear from this guy or that. in order for the child to understand that. But as you fight the external manifestations of possessiveness.
You want to allow her sexuality to grow. and exciting sex you have to set the expectations of what those right things are. Madonna in society for example) as that he wants something that doesn't exist (woman who gives him great sex. if it is expensive restaurants and weekend trips to Paris. your life will be more balanced. and understand how to give pleasure in the bedroom without reservation. she will be sucked into that. your possessiveness is active in stifling the sexuality of the women in your life. Eventually a relationship falls into an equilibrium where the two of you are together. Obviously that is extreme. If your reality is cooking at home and renovating the house on the weekend. that is. exhibitionism. if you want a sexually adventurous girl who is prepared to explore her sexuality into bi-sexuality. I know men who sufferer so greatly from this that they are unable to deal with any single human female who he has slept with. and she will play into it. you will let her fall into a comfort zone and she will not go any further. it may contribute to why women won't be more sexually aggressive and why they think "he won't respect me" if they sleep with you. and sexually reserved. in which a man can want his female partners to be Madonna’s. because has the negative response that. and if it is thrilling excitement and going out all the time and partying. So. and it isn't so much that a man wants a girl with a duality to her persona (whore in the bedroom. To remove the societal restrictions that has her sexuality in a box. she will be sucked into that. and develop her into a sexual being that can actually fulfil her desires." he also hates her because she's no longer being "his Madonna” and is actually repulsed by her sexuality. Part of your inner turmoil as a man is wrestling with your own sexual limitations that can manifest themselves in things like the Madonna whore complex. A woman will act in a way where she is playing into the preconceived notions of the men in her life.possessiveness within you. A girl comes in to any relationship with these ideas about what a relationship should be from her previous experience with other guys and her parents relationship or whatever. In that way. and you can just hang out because this is what the relationship is. but doesn't know anything about sex and never sleeps with anyone). she will be sucked into that. Once possessiveness is dead. pure. Girls act in a way where they are trying to "say the right thing" to keep the relationship moving forward. but you bring her into your reality in such a way that she has to re-think what is proper behaviour. and you will have reduced some of your insecurities that cause you discomfort. like the Virgin Mary: virginal. However the same man can also want his girl to be a whore: extremely attractive who dresses provocatively and reflects well on him in the world. Now if you let it get out of hand and give her too much (meaning that you accommodate what she says and respect what she tries to sell you are her limits). Females tend to understand this duplicity in the head of a man in front of her. and it is all part of the inner turmoil that stops you from finding peace within yourself. although he likes her when she is being "his whore. These two desires can often contradict each other. The girl wants into that 94 . sexually aggressive.
not playing to petty insecurities of either. If it is nothing but a chest beating “look at me. It is the second that is attractive.zone. It is a process of appreciating the nature of women. like you might at a cat for being angry for no reason and say with a laugh “You are all angry. possessiveness or jealousy. you are in a state of pure extroversion where you and her are out here in the real world together. even at the expense of the sexual growth she can do if she is prepared to hold it off a little longer. It is common for people to let their own internal issues. and not display any prudery. When you are inconvenienced by her behaviour. rather than being wounded like an insecure little man. then you are betraying yourself as a self serving little insecure man rather than the lover of women who enjoys life and the company of women. If she is angry. and reduces the turmoil that can hurt your quality of mental well being and enjoyment of life. judgementalism. you cannot fall into that. insecurities and agendas to cloud interactions with subplots that do not take the case forward and subvert friendships and communication to the lesser goals of pettiness. The pursuit of women should not be to serve your own vanity. 95 . I could have her if I wanted” exercise. She wants to be able to sit down together and just chill on a Tuesday night. let your bending in your behaviour come from gladness. but rather laugh. If you can get your inner state correct within the interaction. are you? What are you angry about?” Reducing the gravity of the frames that she sets on the world both establishes you as the steady male that is the rock while she cycles between her feelings. because then she has her "relationship". and explore aspects of your own sexuality and hers. there is no point lamenting it. and it is no point getting upset because they do so. Women think differently than men. But if you want her to grow. but rather for the relationships with the women themselves.
and not the shepherd. You should make sure you meet and talk to more people in your surroundings because networking is important. Jesus. While this is a good thing. seeth the wolf coming.11-13 King James Version. The heirling fleeth. and leaveth the sheep. Nice Guy Reading You are a really nice guy. whose own sheep they are not.k. 10. and fleeth: and the wolf catcheth them. put women’s needs first and women will be nice back. because he is a heirling. (a. You should take note of the below as things that you should definitely not do in an interaction with the opposite sex. You are able to be sensitive to a woman. and scattereth the sheep. You will side with the women around you. and are attracted to the men who already have women with them and are unattainable to them. I can see that you have the fundamentals in your palm to provide you with fortune and success in your future. John. you need to work harder at holding your opinions firm and not changing them to suit the women in your life. You are a big man. when you are being yourself. But he that is an heirling. This can come from competitiveness. There are certain things that men believe are good readings but will disqualify them in the girls’ eyes. You do this from within a veneer of cordiality while hiding underneath a power play that puts you above him in the social situation. you are a straight shooter who does not play games. Because deep down. You will make someone a good husband. They buy into the philosophy of their mothers who told them that they must be nice to women. and many men do not understand this.a Going Head to Head with Competition) The good shepherd giveth his life for the sheep. Girls are unattracted to men that put them on pedestals. but from wherever it comes. and you always ask what she wants and never starts something without consulting her. or it can come from protectiveness and a misguided sense of chivalry. This reading thus sounds like it is a positive thing for you to be saying about him in front of a woman. they will actively insert themselves into your relationships to attempt to prevent anyone hooking up with each other. 96 . However you need to work on being less lazy. or drinks. You put your women on a pedestal and treat them as if they are queens. Men see girls as possessions. and lavish them with attention. What you are doing with these readings is ruining his chances with her and making a joke at his expense that he often does not see. The Gospel according to St. and more outgoing and spontaneous. Girls are sick of weak guys who try to win favour by being nice. and even if they do not have a chance with the girl themselves. You are the sort of thoughtful man who will put himself in a woman’s good graces by buying her flowers. and careth not for the sheep.Male Obstacles with girl listening. you need to learn to deal with it. continually feeding her ego. or they already have a girlfriend who is in the room. but you and the girl both know that it is a damning inditement of his sexual behaviour.
You are scared to be the man you truly can be. and fear is what defines you as a person. Fear can take many forms. we know that we can’t live forever. On another level. This sort of fear manifests itself in restlessness. then do those things you are scared of despite your fear. or from earning more money. It is the same fear as the fear you feel when you believe that you cannot handle the situation you are in and would prefer to be in a lower pressure situation (the way many feel about public speaking for example). To expand on the reading. you can make the bold changes to your life that are required to be the sort of person you really want to be. This fear expresses itself as a feeling of inadequacy. The essence of cowardice is not acknowledging the reality of fear. I will seldom get all the way through the reading. And you should wink at it. And if you can do that. you should insert some other innocuous reading to break it up such as from the previous chapter or from the runes readings in the appendix. We experience fear in our lives and specifically when we want to speak to a girl. not just approaching women. but rather embrace it. Then you can hit him with this one: Wimp reading There are certain fears in your life that stop you from living your dreams: whether it be making a greater contribution to mankind. so we are afraid. You need not pretend you don’t have any. Your life is relatively secure and comfortable. So you pull out of this reading before you break the relationship and have him pull his hand back and follow up with the ‘Big Man Reading” from the previous chapter to finish on a high note. It is normal to have fear and it is a part of life. Not exciting. If you were absolutely fearless. or from having fulfilling relationships or from living life the way you truly want to live it. you are accusing him of cowardice. There are not enough risks. You need to embrace your fear.Before you go onto the next reading which is very harsh. This is another type of fear that is common in many areas of your life. Logically. It can cause panic. Thus in the above reading. You would be doing something different. but dead. speaking too loudly or too quickly and fidgeting. The reading is very harsh and you need to use your judgement as to when to pull out of it and jump to something else. Then there is the more abrupt fear of approaching an unknown woman. Because at the moment you are living in fear. but will decide it is at breaking point and I should move on. we can understand it by looking within ourselves. and will also be good for your skills at meeting women as it will make you comfortable speaking to large 97 . we are afraid that we can’t handle the demands of the world. would you be doing the same job you have now? Imagine if you had no fear. nervous laughter. We know that we are going to die. You cannot wish it away. These behaviours are unattractive to the opposite sex. you should fully acknowledge it. Learning to speak publicly will help you deal with this fear. and living in a different way. They can see the fear in the way you are acting and they will see your ability or lack of ability to deal with it and make judgements about you. We may feel that our own lives are overwhelming.
because the delivery does not come from a place of insecurity and false bravado. You must exercise to recognise this fear. you do not lower yourself to try to win her favour. Then you will find out something about how your fear is manifested. cute. Nervousness is cranking up. But then as you experience the empathy of understanding fear more and more. you find sadness which is calm and gentle. You enjoy extending yourself to others and communicating with them. Going beyond fear begins when you examine your fear: your anxiety. nervousness. you thought I wanted to be your boyfriend” correctly. how you conduct yourself. and to expose it. if you look beneath its veneer. Then you can deal with women in a way that is organic and easy. having approached thousands of women in my life feel fear. True fearlessness is not the reduction of fear. and if you learn to have no anxiety in your new encounters you will be better in relationships. Then you can truly appreciate the world around you. Fear has to be acknowledged. When you slow down and relax with your fear. 98 . but going beyond fear. Acknowledging your fear allows you to move towards fearlessness. right down to the heart of the matter.groups of people that are her friends and having 8 sets of eyes on you as you become their centre of attention. You must find that fear lurking in your life in many things you do and identify it. and an open heart and empathy. how you chew your fingernails. concern. how you talk. that you can deliver a line like “Oh. That openness is the answer to your fears. In fact your softness begins to become more passionate. you realise that human beings should be tender and open. You have to recognise your fear and reconcile yourself with your fear. To experience the fear and act anyway since you are aware that fear is part of your life. However. The ability of acceptance will cause you to have fulfilling relationships and improve your ability to meet new women. Your fears and frustrations are not manifested in a hate or judgement of the girls you are with. being fearless requires me to act anyway. The first approach of any given night. how you sometimes put your hands in your pockets uselessly as you go about your everyday life and as you approach women. It is then. the first thing you might find is a calm sadness beneath the nervousness. in particular can almost paralyse me. is unnerving at first. and that is exactly what I do. and exercise to overcome it. with gentleness. It is what you are going to learn to do also. The girls will sense your centeredness and acceptance of their natures and enjoy it. You should look at how you move. You still retain your pride. If you look into your fear. you can carry that to new encounters. and restlessness. If you have no anxiety in your relationships. vibrating all the time. but rather an acceptance of who they are and an appreciation of the experience of interacting with them. To understand the calmness in the centre. So you no longer need to feel shy or embarrassed about being gentle. I still. You deal with her situation and her tests with the light-hearted non-seriousness that the situation requires. but from a place of gentleness.
In reading his palm and identifying his fear. and no longer have the ugly thorns on your presence that the men around her whose palms you are reading do. and. exposing his need for possessive jealousy of her. I often see beautiful girls that. and selfabsorption. she will understand. greed.From within that. upon closer look of the way she is acting. you are both exposing his lack of ability to deal with his fear. her behaviour betrays the metaphysical thorns of vanity. you no longer become possessive about the women you are speaking to. 99 .
or you are part of a group from work or any other place where you want to be discrete. Should one of your male friends tell a girl whose palm you have read or whose palm you are about to read that you read palms to pick girls up especially to attempt to foil your attempts you say: Yeah. Your male friends love telling the girls this. but he was so closed to it that he would not let me do it.Your Male Friends. A true friend stabs you in the front. Because if you read her palm within a group your friends will all chuckle and laugh as you do it whispering to each other about what you are doing. Take my advice and do your learning in an environment where you do not care for the outcomes like an anonymous social environment. even though they are on your side in life. I advise that you tell them that you could always do it. You should really hold off on the palm reading and have other conversations. John is a sceptic. It is an unfortunate fact. because that would signal to the group that you are hitting on her. will want to see you fail. This is similarly the case for your friends. Your friends. Don’t tell them that you do it only to get girls. Probably the worst situation is where you have your own male friends in the social group and guys out number girls. 100 . There is no point discussing it with him anymore. It is a fact. Even your best friends can on occasion talk to a girl to try to ruin your chances with her. He doesn’t believe that it is real. in a situation where you absolutely cannot isolate her into the corner for a one-on-one reading. it will be just about the fact that you are hooking up and what a player you are. Ignore them. regardless of the conversation. Your male friends may also think you are a bit of a joke for reading palms. the situation needs to be thought about. I have discussed it with him many times and even tried to read his palm. This is the case if she is married. If you do break the rule. You might find yourself. You should make it a semi-firm policy that you do not read palms while the girl is amongst her group of friends. Try it once and you will learn for yourself. and further more sexually attractive than those around them in the world. They too can act like obstacles and pretend to enforce the virtue of women. Oscar Wilde. Men are petty jealous animals. but men define their value as humans. Instead of whispering and making jokes about palm reading. once you become better than them with women. I talk about this in the case of palm reading. He doesn’t have to believe the same things I believe. But that is okay. They will get used to it. but once you are good with women it can occur anytime you sit next to a girl and are in deep rapport. however. often from their ability to be sexually attractive.
you have inoculated your girl against the objection. and thus they would not turn down a seduction palm reading from her. But to the girl it seems like the only reason that they would want it from your sister is that your sister is female. People need to come to want to learn to be better at women for themselves. They will agree. As you can see. Then should your friends want to tell her that you are trying to pick her up in front of you. Similarly here. You should look at them straight in the eye and say “Look at you guys lined up like the 3 wise monkeys. Problem solved. They are actually agreeing to piss you off because you would not like your little sister hitting on them in the way that you are hitting on this girl. and as the body fights off this extremely small amount. What it does is give the patient a very weak dose of a disease (small pox for example). and they believe that the problem for them is that males should not be able to read palms. If you know you are going to get problems from within your group. You should just do them as if they are not techniques that you can tech your friends what to do and why.This is obvious to the girl. you can laugh at them and tell them that if your sister were to read their palms (remember that you learned it within your family so she can do it too) they would be lining up. If you get into that situation you should not ignore it. you are the fearless male that demands respect. It is a general discussion that works and the guys will agree. Understand this: you are not a teacher. In fact you should not talk about pick-up techniques at all. Remember. Once that is done. and telling a man that he needs improvement can be an insult directly to his self-image as a male. and if you try to be you will loose your friends. That they have trouble with a guy doing it. You should tell them that it is in your family and you have just not been doing it for years. 101 . and this is just you as a person. The reason that they will agree is because they want to sleep with your sister. and continue the reading for a minute or two and whisper in her ear that you will finish it later. you can prepare the girl by telling her that ‘guys don’t like palm-reading’ before you even get close to doing it. it builds the defences with in the body to resist a real infection. If you want to talk further about the subject and there are guys in your group you can talk about how guys think only women should be able to read palms.” You should not bow to their pressure to stop even if they claim that you have told them that you use it as a trick to obtain women. you are telling her about your friend’s attempts to sabotage you in a round about way. It is called inoculation because it is similar to the way that inoculation works in medicine. Laugh at them. the firm rule that you should never break is that you should not tell your friends that you learned this to meet women. It is easy to judge from over there.
it means she is sharing herself with you in a touching way. Because you have this tendency to live in today only as if the days will continue to be like this forever. Where events have taken a toll on your life and your body and your face. Low fat foods. 102 . That it is so powerful at attracting her to you is perhaps at first blush. but in fact it illustrates to her that you understand her deeply and can empathise with her struggles as a human being and she does not need to hide herself with you or present herself as a shiny person with all the pretences that come with that. and you don’t imagine a time in the future where the inevitable effects of aging have taken place. cleaning products to protect your babies from disease. all sorts of things. And that leaves you feeling alone. keeping this inside. Because your opportunity for initiating long-term companionship is in the present tense. Crying in a palm reading is a good thing. And you really need someone to understand you deeply. And how else can it be? The deeper that sorrow carves into your being. your outer beauty having fled and you have missed this opportunity that you had in your twenties. but it is completely not recognised. Kahlil Gibran. Your destiny is completely in your hands today. You are sharing yourself more openly if you are fearless to deal with themes that are at the core of existence. the more joy you can contain. We are strongly motivated by our fears. Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. there is a line that we should walk during a palm reading as well as interactions in general to use fear to keep her motivated. And you will be able to reap the harvest of your decisions today into the future. And you are lonely looking back on today as a time of missed opportunity. Given that. You can make a girl cry in a palm reading if you stumble upon something that she is sensitive about (or that she is bi-sexual) with a (and you have to almost cry yourself here … she will follow you to the emotion): Because no one understands you. And you are so beautiful on the inside. and down. and gives her great joy. A call to action for very good-looking girls who are aware of their beauty only: You take yourself for granted. It increases your depth of personality. gives a certain exoticness to you. And you are so lonely. while keeping her feeling good to have her associate that good feeling with you as the palm reader and to be enjoying the experience. If you can get her to cry you are doing very well in the palm reading. You need someone who can reach in and touch you on the inside. You will notice that the entire palm reading is actually negative and not a “feel good” experience.To go depressing or to stay positive. And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with tears. counter intuitive. And make it all seem better. beauty is fleeting. Important to learn here is to take control of the interaction and not shy away from themes that are difficult. The Prophet. In sales it is common to use fear to help sell a product. If a girl cries in your presence. And you need to understand that while you are obviously a very beautiful girl. Whether that harvest is bountiful or a black harvest is completely up to you.
At that point she will not be as desirable. but they will not always. They understand that if they spend their youths and beauty for example. So the reading gives her a call to action and tells her to grab you now while you are available to her because you will not be always. Today they have options in men. How else could you ever broach such a subject with a girl and how else could you make such prophetic statements that strike the fear of god into her? 103 . It is human communication and essential to your organism. Pretty girls have the above fear.You should evaluate where you sit and the sorts of things that you want and need in your life and do all those things that you need to do today while you have this outer beauty. as a waitress in a flashy restaurant with large tips and lots of attention. Touch is like breathing. And you should take your opportunities for touch today to ensure you have it into the future. Further what the reading does in the ending when talking about human touch is tell her that if she does not get that touch today it will cause a more rapid descent into ugliness because she will atrophy and die. and make the wrong decisions. Because human touch is important to you. once they hit about 30 their skin is going to start coming apart and they will have to move down-market. Without human touch you atrophy and die. This is the beauty of palm reading. She will be an old toothless geriatric that smells of rotting flesh with bladder problems and a colostomy bag in a wheel chair one day.
Introduction to Zen Buddhism. which simultaneously change the nature of the object. I want to increase your ability to apply your art in the true sense of the word. music. 104 . That is why you need piece of mind. dance or drama. For that reason he will be absorbed and attentive to what he is doing even though he does not deliberately contrive it. reading the manufacturers instructions as he fixes the watch and compare his expression on his face as he works with that of a craftsman whose work you know is excellent and you will see the difference. It does not matter if it is sculpture. technical knowledge is not enough. Sometime look at a novice workman or bad workman. The craftsman is not ever following a single line of instruction.Closing words If one really wishes to master an art. the goal is to communicate something beautiful or meaningful. as a Pick-Up Artist. While this is book uses a palm reading routine to teach interaction and part of that is learning to interact with the world the way I do it. The object and his thoughts are changing together in a progression of changes until his mind is at rest and at the same time the material is right. should be inwardly proud of your craft. You. 1976 Managing romantic encounters is an art. He is not following any set of written instruction because the nature of the object at hand determines his thoughts and motions. That is the mind-state of the artist. in order to ply it well you need to be in the right state of mind with an inner equilibrium. there is no one right way to do things or interact with women. Similarly. In his mind also are the underlying pictures and flow-charts that represent his philosophy of the way that watches work as he tightens a spring considering how that action relates to the systems in the whole mechanism. film. say an uncaring 9-5 working watch-maker at a jewellers. Art is quintessentially a quest for communication. So you can express your art beautifully. the Pick-Up Arts are about communicating. Daisetz Teitaro Suzuki. Because the selection from among many choices. painting. and you should not consider it such. One has to transcend technique so that the art becomes "artless art" growing out of the Unconscious. These lessons that I have shared will enhance your ability to communicate with the women you desire. and in that way. Like all art. He is making his decisions as he goes along. the art of the work is just as dependent on your own mind and spirit as upon the material or girl.
to me. I offered an alternative hypothesis that you are in fact just a brain sitting in a jar with 5 sensors plugged into it attached to a central computer to stimulate your 5 senses of sight. no taste -. Descartes started with the difference between knowledge and belief. The line of thinking is impossible to refute. He felt if he could find a concrete foundation on which the logic of ideas could be built. This is also good stuff to explore and talk about with the right girl. no touch. The question is then asked: Does this eighteen-year-old person have a thought in his head? If so. If I were to tell you. Hume and Berkeley’s ideas flowed directly from the arguments of French philosopher René Descartes. hearing. are modern witchcraft. no smell. But we were not always so.Appendix Ia: Filling out the “Selling-It” Routine In the selling it routine. that all the world that you receive is nothing more than an illusion. That idea sounds like madness and to understand the idea properly. taste and physical feeling. where does it come from? Hume would have answered that the eighteen-year-old had no thoughts whatsoever. he has no sight. because if he had a thought where would it have come from? In giving this answer would have defined himself an empiricist. There is no way whatsoever for him to receive any sensations from the outside world. and all science is based on it. These were the ideas from where the film "The Matrix" formed its philosophies and are a re-writing of the ideas of Bishop Berkeley. they would be irrefutable. no hearing. Suppose this child is fed intravenously and otherwise attended to and kept alive for 18 years in this state of existence. there is no way to refute that view with evidence. and other cultures would answer the question differently. we can go back to the post-renaissance philosophy that makes up our view of the world today as modern Westerners. and religious people from other cultures would surely answer it differently. We cannot know for sure what the answer is to the question. one who believes that all knowledge is derived exclusively from the senses. smell. he 105 . The answer to this question is a philosophical construct and has no absolute truth. So he searched around for things he actually knew. In this modern age we are predominantly empiricists. however. Scientific theories.nothing. pointing out that science is nothing more than theories. Hume’s reasoning followed arguments that would result from the answers to this question: Suppose a child is born devoid of all senses. that as opposed from the common-sense view that the world is actually out there. As he did so. I’ll start with Scottish Philosopher David Hume. I compare science to superstitions. It is easy to judge other forms of knowledge based on dogmatic belief in science that is unjustified. not based in reality. Here I want to take some time to fill in the arguments so that you can follow what is contained in the routine. and these words here that you are reading are part of the same program. a program feeding you the data and the computer keeps track of it all to keep some sense of continuity in your world-view.
The difference between knowledge and belief is only a feeling of sureness. There is no reason why each and every one of our current beliefs could not be shattered causing a new "Copernican flip" in our worldviews forever altering what we believe. there are insane people out there who believe that their head is a pumpkin. and question even the existence of the out-there world then all you can possibly know is that you exist and the only way you know that is because you can think. and there is some new truth. within their own heads. God being "The Matrix" rather than machines) was that the common sense world out here was perhaps the dream of God. thou shalt abide in the state of the divine mind of the Buddha. and he was trying to put God back into the philosophy of the day. Say for example that there was a new theory of light that showed us that the round world in the pictures is an optical illusion. Where can you go from there with the edifice of logic? The position of Bishop Berkeley (of which the world of "The Matrix" is just a re-writing . and knowing it at the same time to be thine own consciousness. and that perhaps your whole life has been a dream. Bishop Berkeley’s position. we are left with very little. Do we know. being a churchman. They felt the same about their belief then. The table in front of you is just a dream of God manifested onto your consciousness. 106 . You are thinking now as you read this. would this belief that the world is flat have felt any different for them than for us now that the world is round? Because I feel like I know the world is round.kept writing things off. This was the world Descartes lived in. understanding that the world was in fact round so their world views could accommodate that Columbus had gone over the edge to the new world. even if you pinch yourself. That is Descartes famous line that you will have heard of. but it is just as conceivable as the flat-word with up and down being overthrown with a new theory and a new "truth". and us being a part of God. Although he was not aware since the Eastern texts had not been translated or seriously studied in the west at that time it is not so different from that of the Buddhists: “Recognising the voidness of thine own intellect to be Buddhahood.. They must have felt like they knew that the world was flat.” (Tibetan Book of the Dead). Internally.. That is not a large foundation from which to build the world. was a spiritual one. and further. even our knowledge about the shape of the earth. but the flip in worldview caused a new golden age of thought known as the Renaissance where everything underlying was questioned. So as you shoot down all knowledge one piece at a time. therefore you know that at least you exist. The new understanding did not change anything in their day-to-day lives. God being a part of all of us. How can you be sure you are not one of them? If we reject everything we can not prove due to lack of evidence. So the one thing that you know for sure is that "I think. for example that the world is round? People once thought it was flat. and then had to deal with the Copernican flip where Copernicus stated that the earth goes around the sun as opposed to vice versa. for you can not be sure this is not a dream. It would be hard to get our minds around. you can consider that you may be dreaming now. You can not necessarily trust your common-sense. If we question everything. therefore I am".
But what about unconsciousness? Eastern Philosophies concentrate on dispensing with the ego. though? Mass is not weight. and the foundations upon which “truth” can be built. materialistically scientific view. we can measure acceleration. All right. Force = mass x acceleration. right? Well in order to have the theory of gravity. it is real. Force is a new concept. In that world every body continues in a state of motion or rest unless acted upon by an outside force. But if you admit the unconscious (as Carl Jung attempted to do). So what about acceleration? Acceleration is the rate of change in velocity. it does not punch me back explicitly. we come to look at scientific thought. This is a nice piece of imagination. What is mass. it is real”. therefore I am” puts our own consciousness at the centre of truth and reality. If I punch the wall. enough to say that there are alternative hypotheses that do not support the empiricist scientific philosophical position. We first reduce the world to nothing but our senses. “If I can sense it. says Newton. Descartes’ position of “I think. For inherent within the modern empiricist philosophy is the idea that in the commonsense world. says Newton. The adjective for “of Descartes” is “Cartesian” (we are now discussing Cartesian Philosophy). Why? Because in the real world there is 107 . It is measured in “Newton’s” and it is defined by being the product of mass and acceleration. Newton first defined a world that does not exist: The inertial frame of reference. In mathematics that is illegal. that is straight forward. So what is mass? Mass is what you get if you divide the force applied to a body by the acceleration it produces. The second thing that is the characteristic of this inertial world is every action has an equal and opposite reaction. That is not the world I live in. Now in order to get to this equation. if we are conscious of it. Force = mass x acceleration. I will leave that question open. So the third thing in this world is that the following law is followed: F=ma. Now many people think that Isaac Newton "discovered" the theory of gravity. I am with him on it. Weight is a force due to gravity that acts on a mass. “But wait”. you move towards larger metaphysical questions. Wait on though! We have just defined 2 variables with one equation. he is talking about the acceleration that is only true in the inertial frame of reference. If I throw a tennis ball it does not go on forever in a continuous state of motion. Of course. F=ma. Okay. we need Newton’s laws where forces are defined. To say that before Newton the theory of gravity did not exist seems ridiculous. It was always there. not the world I live in. and then to be able to go on living in this common-sense world say. Newton advances a theory to make it make sense that the wall is pushing back with the same force even though we can not see that. “Bear with me”. He is not talking about the acceleration you measure in the real world. ego being the very name for our consciousness through which we are aware of the outer world. You will have heard the word before and looked at his ideas in high school mathematics. Again. So from within this empiricist.Descartes is often called “the father of modern philosophy” and his ideas brought in the modern scientific age.
like in times of old substitute the word ‘matter’ for other words for ‘principal of existence’ such as ‘spirit’ or ‘God’ or ‘Buddha’ like Bishop Berkeley. one might argue. 108 . The faith we have in this science is formidable. For we have an infinitely rich and complex model of the world: the world itself. Newton’s laws and gravity are theories created by a genius. Incredible from a new fantasy worldview. With Descartes “I think therefore I am”. ‘Matter’ is just another word for ‘the principal of existence’. Newton definitely “invented” gravity. The model he has built had good predictive value in this real world that we live in. But when we come back to the real world. stripping out the commonality of what it means to be human. He creates an inertial frame of reference that does not exist so we can study the dynamics of how the world would work if it did exist. So Newton simplifies the world. Palm-reading. and men on the moon. and nothing can be measured in the real world. It contains no real truth that is built on the foundations of anything we can “know” for sure. we have limited how much we can trust our own internal experience all the way to not trusting anything except that we can know we exist. It is a model of the world. So ultimately. But I do not believe that it contains any absolute truth. As part of what we have done with empirical and scientific thought is to become negatively metaphysical. Once at that place. In doing so we have limited our worlds’ backwards from our subjective experience and also written off all supernatural phenomena and our own experience of the word. The modern-witchcraft of science is truly formidable. All of them describe something that is philosophically unknown. A fantasy world with fantasy concepts. the common-sense world. by making some “simplifying assumptions”. So we cannot trust the measurement. In order for any model to have value it needs to make some simplifying assumptions. which would be far too much for a light palm reading. rather than “discovering” it. puts that commonality back in without pointing to any alternative hypotheses that are unprovable such as higher powers or religious concepts. In other words. So acceleration is the thing we can not measure since we can not isolate an inertial frame of reference. removing some of its complexity. You could as easily. It is the thing that all things are made of. What Western philosophers have done is to separate strongly the subject and the object. we need to remind ourselves that it is a model only. Yet the world itself is so complex that we gain no understanding by looking at it. the basis of all modern mechanics including the laws of gravity is from an invented world where all three of the variables are defined in a single equation. stripping out the gods and spirits from explanations of our world – in other words materialistic – with ‘matter’ (from which the word ‘materialistic’ comes) assumed to be a tangible and recognisable reality. It can put aeroplanes in the sky.energy lost to heat and friction. we return to the common-sense world to live our lives and say “we only trust it if it has ‘matter’ and we can touch it and feel it”. I will get on an aeroplane and trust the predictive value of it. etc.
It has some predictive value. Palm reading predates renaissance philosophy and we choose to admit our inner experience. both a rational thinker. You understand the historical significance of it. you understand what the “Selling it routine” does. in the same way that science has a predictive value. hey presto. while having good predictive value does not necessarily represent any concrete “truth”. It says that science. We value the subjective experience of being human. the practice being so old. So having read that. 109 . and took a philosophical left turn well before Western thought got to Descartes. You are now.You can sell it. and that believing that one thing has predictive value does not mean that something else can not have predictive value too. and someone that believes in palm reading. congruently as a different witchcraft from a different tradition that makes different choices. and the palm reading talks directly to it.
The theory behind this is that your potential at birth is revealed in the left hand while the right hand represents your adult self. you should read their left hand. What this means is that the heart and head lines merge into one so that there is a single line across her palm. but you do get it on occasion. It is very rare. For left handers.Appendix 1b: The Simian Line Some girls will have a palm with what is called a Simian line. and point out how your own heart and head lines are separate. When you get a Simian line palm. and that they feel just a little bit more deeply than everyone else. This is reversed in left-handed people. tell her that her palm is very special. Then do the advanced reading as if the Simian line is proof of all the heart and head line readings. That they are more sensitive than normal people. The left and right hands are very different from one another. and their sensitivity and creativity. The palm will then look like the below. and of course therefore. The hand you write with is your dominant or active hand and reflects the conscious you. that she has a Simian palm. 110 . Tell her that people with Simian palms are special for their unique childhoods. The simian line is a special line. it means she is special. The other hand (the passive hand) is more about the subconscious.
You are a product of your life. A time when you were just the most charming girl ever. 111 . you are allowing the world to stop and the silence needs to breathe for a second. I will move on with the reading by telling her to hear me out. I want you here. If I am attracted to her. The Sufi must act and speak in a manner which takes into consideration the understanding. You do not want to be associated with any man hating that she has associated with her past. And I don’t want a different person. Are you okay? Should we continue? So if we look up here to your heart line … What I am doing in the above is reframing the experience as one that is positive in retrospect. You do not back-pedal or react.Appendix Ic: When former child abuse victims blow up in fury mid palm-reading and other tips for dealing with girls who have dark pasts that you uncover. But that is just me. Without all the things that have happened to you. And. I am sorry to hear that. The pause is important. it is not delivered like a regular reading. You do not want to apologise on the behalf of all men. Most important is that you need to take control of the situation immediately. so as you understand what I mean. and all the things you heard and all the things you felt. I could not see the details of that. Ibn ‘Arabi Girls who were molested as children can get extremely agitated after the first reading where you tell her that something happened that caused her to act as an adult before she was ready. And perhaps you come to understand who is making you feel so self-confident. And as you remember that time you should remember all those things you saw. So you come in strong. Stop thinking and just listen. limitations and dominant concealed prejudices of his audience. perhaps you can stop (pause. Without those you would be a different person. How do you feel? (allow her to answer “good” … if she doesn’t you are going to need to continue the feel good material until she feels better). If the girl is not so good looking and I have not invested much. I will often eject from the interaction because she is “damaged goods” with her sexual self-image tarnished. I like who you are today. But look: Shhh! Shhh! Quiet for just a minute. I would have a different person sitting here in front of me. and telling her to feel good with a positive reading so that I can continue and she has put aside the worst of negative experiences. Now when I deliver the beginning of this. and I understand that it is unfair since it was not her fault. there is no reason that you should not feel like this always. It is you. Now you are going back to a reading)… and remember a time when you felt really self-confident. This is the way that I see it: You are attractive. Part of the thing that makes you who you are is all the things that have happened to you in your past. All the good things that have happened to you as well as all the bad things make you who you are today. then distracting her. And if you can feel like this just when you talk to me. I am looking her straight in the eyes honestly and speaking in my regular speaking voice to placate her. And you are attractive for who you are. It is a dialogue between her and me for a moment before going back to the readings. And you feel deeply. And you should concentrate on that feeling.
and make sure you call her a “girl” when you refer to her rather than a “woman” or anything else. Girls are softer on the inside and contain an idea of naïveté.You are going to need to gauge now how you move forward. You can run the rest of the reading the same. Do not rush pushing ahead if it needs some time to breathe. Leave your sensitive tonality on. Asking her how she feels and asking for her permission to go on is a nice thing to do. 112 .
Appendix II: On other methods of fortune telling. Jumping straight at death and telling her what it means is like the guy who spoils a movie for you and tells you what is in the end.. etc. This is not mysticism.. what .. This is a time of separating paths . Say "there are certain things in your life which make a status quo seem like a good option.. you may realise that there is no reason you need to settle for what you have always had. Read some other stuff and surprise her with the depth of insight and the "truth" of the oracle. So instead of trying to write a complete explanation of these 2 routines as I have above with palm reading. and get the suspense of death even more happening. This is seduction. so you are not constrained by the readings in that book either. You need to allow your girl to stop and breathe in the suspense.. Similarly." In tarot reading (that is related) I love "Death".. Now is not a time to turn down the opportunities right in front of you. For oracle style readings. remember. (Death is actually just the card of re-birth. and say knowingly "Oh.. Holding that suspense is what a well run routine is all about. and you need to throw away those things and people holding you back and embrace the opportunity right in front of you. Make sure you do it! Now with me . But those are all those thoughts and people and things that are holding you back from feeling as much pleasure as you can. To allow all her sensations to be standing on end with what the death card holds for her. I have mentioned in the number close that you should oversell the Cube or the Runes and invite her back to your place with that as a pretext. there are ultimately only 2 answers: “Do it” and “Don’t do it”. And do all the things that you want to do but never before allowed yourself to do. a good card to read obliquely that she should leave her boyfriend. no this can’t be". People freak when you pull death. Go to extremely pleasurable places that you have always wanted to go.. So if you let the past and the future just drop away and live in the true present. If you do a rune spread (or read her horoscope or tarot any other method of fortune telling that you might want to learn) that calls for her maintaining status quo (which is the opposite of the motivational mood I want to create). Suspense is the gap between anticipation and fulfilment. where the girl consults the oracle for an answer to a particular problem facing her in her life at the moment. To get her body quivering with desire to know.. She does not understand what the runes actually mean so you can run the same reading all the time just as you do with palm reading. Since you are doing this from within the framework of seduction. she has not had her cube read before. end of a phase or cycle . I want to learn sleight of hand so that I can always pull death. the 113 . old skins need to be shed. Now I would be remiss to not teach you something about how to run these routines for seduction.. The truth is that all fortune telling techniques are a bit the same. so it is not actually a bad card at all). Comment on it as you pull it when dealing. You are about to drink the wine you have always wanted to drink. The anticipation is killing them. Change it. I offer just the following as an adjunct to a book on the “real readings” that you should buy to run these routines.
which is fair once you write off the divinity. 114 . Therefore “Do it” for the answer is as fair as “Don’t do it” and therefore there is no moral problem with that as a standard answer.answer should be always to “Do it” regardless of the unseen question. When all truth of fortune telling is written off then either answer is completely arbitrary.
a coloured lambs knuckle. Now you can ask her to pull 1 rune and read that. I will give you enough information to get you reading runes but if you really want to get this routine together and tight it might be worth buying not only a set of runes. a smooth piece of glass. Or 10 or the Hindu gods. You could have 15 of Egyptian hieroglyphic symbols if you want and call them the Pheronic oracle. a stone. you should not feel hemmed in by either the Nordic runic symbols or the number of stones. but also the book that will invariably come with them in a bundle. Then you just read them with the meanings that I explain below. or ask her to pull 3 runes and do a 3 rune spread. They are therefore not as flexible and all purpose as palm reading that requires no props. What is more. the way I run it. You will be able to buy a set at a new-age store where they sell crystals and tarot and like tantric meditation shawls. Runes are a set of 25 stones. and the third rune (action) Signals. It is a little bag of stones! That is it. the second rune is the challenges of her situation. But if you are making them. a piece of wood. it is a flashy routine because you are there with runes! You have people coming over to watch. there is a major difference. For the 3 rune spread. The runes are an oracle. or maybe a beached chicken bone. A good standard reading is to call the first rune (overview of her situation) Separation. and the 3rd rune is the action required. so you can choose your favourite 3 readings and read them. (Like consulting her cat about her future or something). the first rune is the overview of her situation. a rabbits foot.Appendix IIa: Runes for Romantic Encounters. each with a runic symbol etched onto them. as well as any other oracle reading you can dream up. She does not know what the symbols mean. or if you have more time than money you could make a set by etching each of the runic symbols (that you should be able to find on the internet) onto a bunch of similar stones. I include my runes readings here because they are good for palm reading. Runes The Self 115 . So you have to have your runes with you to run a rune casting routine. It intrigues the people around you. a crystal and a lump of bronze and call it a Haitian voodoo witchdoctors oracle! The point is she chooses 3 out of a bag. It is a gimmick. the second rune (the challenge) The Self. So you ask your girl to consult the runes with a question in her mind that she need not tell you. However.
As you realise that there is no reason why you can not always feel like this. the self. And as you remember this time. And I mean YOU FEEL REALLY GOOD. because this is the signal that this rune is giving you. And you should allow yourself to give yourself completely to this new person. as you realise where all these feelings are coming from. Signals This is the rune of receiving: People. messages. like with lids down. be it a new love. or any other sort of relationship. gifts. that delight. and go with the flow of the times. Who is causing you to have these feelings. As you realise that you 116 . You can put those things that are stopping you in the same place. Old skins need to be shed in order for you to embrace the new opportunity that is right in front of you. And make sure you do not hold this person out of your own life. All your worries fade away and in place are the pleasures of new experiences that you are about to experience. Nothing else is important for the self other than right now. again and again. like that. But whoever is the new person or opportunity you have just encountered. or ideas in your life that are outmoded. that this gift will give you. you can now just take and throw away. a new and rewarding relationship is just about to begin. Now. and you are the only one that can make yourself feel good. and remember a time when you felt really good. Partnership This rune gives you notice that a new partnership. you need to make sure that you DO all those things that you are able to do. Separation This is a rune of separating paths. You can just feel good just speaking with me. and make sure that you are prepared to accept it. You need to repeat these experiences that make YOU FEEL SO GOOD.A correct relationship with the self is essential in order for relationships to flow. you can remember what you saw. with me. but you allow all those things to become smaller and smaller in your mind as you realise that there is actually nothing holding you back. That you are about to feel that real pleasure. and all those feelings of just feeling really good. Make sure you embrace that person. So all those things that are holding you back. that’s right. Perhaps a new job. and all those sounds that you can hear. and you can act NOW. signals. I mean if you could close your eyes. and remember the last time you felt extreme pleasure. Ready yourself for a very pleasurable gift. And you should just stop for a moment. but never before allowed yourself to enjoy as completely as what you are about to enjoy. This moment that you are living in. Yeah. Live in the true present and do all those things that are right for the self. and these things are stopping you from doing all those things that you really want to do. people. So if you go inside and just work out what it is that is stopping you from feeling really good. There are certain things. This is not a time to turn down your opportunities. as you realise that accepting this new thing inside you life is what will bring you the greatest pleasure. It may seem that there are certain things holding you back. Like you threw away an old piece of clothing that you never wear. Happiness is nothing more than feeling good. You should just let the rest of the world fade away and allow yourself to enjoy this moment and the ones that will follow. I believe it is an important thing to be able to do. and allow yourself to enjoy this moment. and new relationships that you are about to cultivate.
. I am a self sufficient person who would not let anybody stand in the way of my own happiness. Now with me. Constraint This rune represents the constrains we put on ourselves as well as the constraints put on us by the world around us. Strength This is the rune of personal strength. Like mother earth. and new people have just walked into your life. Fertility Fertility represents the birth of new beginnings. loosen yourself from these restraints. You need to be strong to embrace this opportunity right in front of you etc as for separation. This rune tells me that you are the sort of person who is prepared to do all the things that you need to do in order to gain true happiness. and I have no respect for those weak people who will not act on their desires. Now with me. as for signals. You need to allow the harvester to enter that hole to plant the seed of a new beginning. You want to drink the wine that those things holding you back wont let you drink. Protection 117 . You need to be strong and defend what you want to do. and you do so with your own best interests at heart. DO IT. and looking back on today as the time when it all began. You need to seize the moment and act now etc. the fertile hole in the ground is warm and wet. You need to terminate the old way of life and begin a new one. This opportunity at increased happiness.are about to move forward to places you always wanted to go. You need to shed these old skins . You need to make sure you defend yourself from all those forces that do not want you to feel this pleasure you are about to feel. This delight. and be the person you want to be. Defence The new beginnings in your life are going to be resisted by forces that do not want you to embrace this new pleasure. as for separation. but have never been. As you imagine a time in the future. and act regardless of the forces in your life that do not have your immediate pleasure at heart. and experience the things you want to. and you should do those things you need to do in order to enjoy yourself the way that you deserve to be. and do all those things you want to do etc. when this beautifully fertile period has born its fruit. and to hell with the rest. and something new and beautiful is about to grow out of this fertile period. Keep in mind that new ways of life are always better. Initiation This rune indicates the initiation of a new way of living.. You are the sort of person who is capable of making your own decisions. This is a time for you. Perhaps a new relationship that will be extremely rewarding. New relationships. that is how I live. right now.
it is a fantastic feeling that I savour. If you remember a time when you felt Joy. etc. In this time of change you need to protect yourself from those people from your old life. With me. (see joy or opening or whatever) Movement: This is the rune of transition and movement. Warrior: This is the rune of the spiritual warrior. you are completely capable of doing so. You need to ready yourself for something beautiful that is about to occur. or a new life. achievements gained. Perhaps even all of your dreams are about to become true. (see self) Growth: This is the rune of growth of a new period in your life. As you feel this . Joy This is a fruit bearing rune.. etc. The message of this rune is that you need to protect yourself against the old. to new attitudes. When the climax of some venture had been reached and you just felt all those feelings of spent satisfaction. (see separation) Flow: As for movement Disruption: Breaking free from the old. etc. Possessions This is the rune of fulfilment: ambition satisfied. Prepare yourself for the receiving of gifts etc. extremely pleasurable opportunity in your life that will take you forward in ways you can only imagine. Opening: This is the rune that represents a new opening in your life. You need to throw away the old and embrace the new. Harvest: This is the rune of beneficial outcomes.You are about to embrace a new.. If you could just stop and remember the last time that you were completely satisfied. See defence. love fulfilled. Those people who will attempt to hold you back. Etc (as for joy). Overwhelming joy and happiness. You are free to pass through and re-invent who you are. etc. and always the battle of the spiritual warrior is with the self. Journey: As for movement Gateway: As for opening Breakthrough: As for opening 118 . as for signals. You need to make sure that you ACT on this opportunity in front of you. As you realise that you are about to feel those feelings again. The results of a long awaited fulfilment are about to be satisfied in your life.
119 . This is the best rune. you need to reduce these factors so you can act (see defence) Wholeness: This is the rune of making yourself whole. (etc see self) The Unknowable Blank is the end. Like the phoenix who rises from the ashes. Of doing those things to become the person you have always wanted to be. See separation. You need to separate from the things that are holding you back. It can go anywhere you want it to. Dead. This is the rune of ends and beginnings. Blank is the beginning. Part of who you used to be will be over.Standstill: There are some factors in your life that are making you stand still at the moment. you will reinvent yourself. See also Self. It is a rune of completing the self.
blah”. Or that her flat ladder means her friends are lazy. There is enough material around on the Internet to get you running this routine. or ego. You have a need for intimacy in your life. or confidence. and you should do it often. A medium sized cube means you are adventurous. You are not bound by the “true” readings in the book. When in a seduction all readings should similarly take your path forward. As you learn to read it. and like it when people can just embrace you and understand you for who you are. as it says in the book. So lets say she has a small cube the size of a dice. A large cube means that you are self-confident and that you should trust your confidence to handle new situations and do all those things that you want to do. you do it like you have the same level of belief that you have about palm reading. However. That the cube is real and gives you real readings about the person. etc. 120 . you use the same philosophy that you use when running palm-reading. the feeling of being thrilled and standing on a precipice. again with all the readings pointing towards your goals. You say something more along the lines of “Your small cube means that you feel more deeply than other people and can be hurt easily. as you work your reading around how nice it is to feel that. or you should buy the book for a complete account.Appendix IIb: The Cube for Romantic Encounters. You do not want to be her therapist. You are a really sweet girl who blah. blah. You are not a cube-reading purist. and throwing yourself over and how you should do it. So you should read the cube as if it is a palm reading. there is no more “truth” in the cube than there is in the palm reading. You do not tell her that she is low on confidence and low on self-esteem. Now. But there is no need to run it like that. and do a reading about adventures. when you are doing it with girls. which is constructed from a wire frame surrounded by cling-wrap. The cube is a personality game written about in the book by Annie Gottleib called “Secrets of the Cube: The Ancient Visualization Games That Reveals Your True Self” or simply “The Cube”. So for example. perhaps a small cube signifies a need for intimacy. She makes the size of the cube proportional to your self opinion. I know that there are some of you out there that actually believe that there is some truth to the cube.
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