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FORGIVENESS LEADS TO ANGER MANAGEMENT FOR HEALTHY LIVING

BS PRESENTATION
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TO ERR IS TO HUMAN …….. ……TO FORGIVE IS TO DIVINE !!!

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• It involves a process of dissolving feelings of anger. • Words can help to point in the right direction. and in particular clarify what forgiveness is not. though. your name . resentment and/or hatred towards an individual who is perceived to have selfishly or maliciously done one deliberate harm. by means of the cultivation of some degree of compassion towards the offender. • We can best know what forgiveness is when we experience forgiving. and/or the acceptance of such positive feelings should they happen to evolve naturally in the victim’s experience.The definition of forgiveness • Forgiveness is a non-verbal concept that cannot be adequately captured in words. Metaphors can also have a helpful function in providing understanding where words fail.

IT CANNOT BE FORCED AND MUST COME ON ITS OWN your name .FORGIVENESS IS NOT… • CONDONING OR EXCUSING AN ACTION • SELF SACRIFICE OR SWALLOWING YOUR TRUE SELF OF PLAYING THE MARTYR • EASY.

Forgiveness as a healing gift to oneself. and as radical acceptance of the human condition. your name . • A PROCESS OF LETTING GO OFF NEGATIVE EMOTIONS THAT HAVE TAKEN OVER YOUR LIFE.FORGIVENESS IS… • GIVING UP THE THOUGHT OF A BITTER PAST AND LOOKING FORWARD TOWARDS A BRIGHTER FUTURE.

unchanging part of the offender’s being. It is a private.. • It is a gift given to the offender that they do not deserve.The power of forgiveness . Forgiveness means making a commitment to ending the feelings of anger.. resentment or hatred that are harboured towards that individual. • The offender need not know it has been given. your name .. • It is given freely by the person who is doing the forgiving. spiritual experience of letting go of anger and resentment and offering loving kindness to the transcendental.

and can let them go. • It is achieved by giving a gift of compassion to the offender. your name . and seeing their actions as bad. • The process of forgiveness can perhaps be helped by a form of metta bhavana meditation where you wish the person who has hurt you transformational experiences in a hypothetical universe. you can get off it yourself. by means of both negative and positive experiences. and live a happier life. but the person the offender has the potential to be as good. • It involves a radical acceptance. where they learn through difficult experiences the negative effects of their behaviour. they learn compassion.• By letting the offender off the ‘anger’ hook. on some level. with all its serious imperfections. of the world as it is. You are no longer attached to the offender by a hook. and where.

PROBLEMS IN THE WAY OF FORGIVENESS your name .

The experience of ‘unforgiveness’ • Imagine we have (or someone else has) suffered an injustice. resentment and hatred are painful emotions. we feel angry and resentful toward the offender(s). your name . It is something that violates our/their rights and dignity. • The more serious the injustice and hurt. • Anger. or may be dead. • As a result. • We may feel anger and resentment for years and years. the more intense and protracted the anger and resentment may be. • The person we feel angry towards may not know or care how we feel.

• Most people would say forgive those who have hurt you and have done you wrong and just let go of the past. • Forgiving is not an easy task. Letting go of the things that have caused us pain or suffering is not at all easy. your name . It is easy to say but much harder to do.

 to follow the hurt back into its roots in the past to all those times and circumstances when you felt the same way.  to avoid the popular response to feelings of hurt and insult. your name .WHAT TO DO THEN? Some suggestive steps which can be followed:  HEALTHY RESPONSE(to the feeling of hurt and insult):  acknowledge that you feel hurt.  forgiveness.

The transcendental self of the person who has harmed you has the potential to act differently if and when they develop moral wisdom and compassion. your name . • We might consider that perhaps there are no bad people – only bad actions. That’s not easy either. But the alternative is to stay stuck right next to them on that hook.• It’s not easy. • Forgiveness is a difficult process – but a great opportunity for personal growth.

• Psychological and physical symptoms such as stress-related backache. insomnia and stomach aches are common. • They are also at a higher risk of cardiovascular disease and cancer. your name .The effects of unforgiveness • Psychiatrists find that people who feel incapable of or unwilling to forgive past hurts experience greater levels of anxiety and depression.

ANGER MANAGEMENT All anger is. at its core. a dark and cruel wish for harm to come upon the person who hurt you. your name .

yet being natural doesn’t make it good for us. your name . There is never such a thing as “justifiable” anger.The truth is. a commonly occurring—social reaction to hurt and insult. anger may be a “natural”— that is.

Organize your mind for six minutes every hour to control anger. your name .

your name . For every 10 minutes you are angry you lose 600 seconds of happiness.Say sorry at the right moment to reduce the anger of others.

your name .A short pencil is better than a long memory. Use it to reduce your anger.

your name .We cannot change others as easily as we can change ourself.

• to the right degree. • for the right purpose.Aristotle’s Challenge Anyone can become angry -.that is easy. • at the right time. your name . But to be angry • with the right person. and • in the right way -- this is not easy.

Learn to FORGIVE & MOVE ON… with SMILE your name .

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