Social Superstar

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SOCIAL SUPERSTAR: Best of TSB Magazine Vol. 1 Table of Contents
Introduction Part 1: The Confidential Social Intelligence Manuscript Part 2: The Best of TSB Magazine Section One: The Dating Articles 5 Keys to Playing the Role of Being Wanted 10 Lessons for Successfully Hooking Up Emulate a Celebrity for Instant Rapport Using an Opinion Opener to Initiate Conversation Being Comfortable Talking Dirty 10 Ways a Girl Can Keep a Guy Like Me Keeping Cool and Plowing On How to Talk to Younger Women Going Caveman on Women Never Show Emotion When She Walks Away 5 Tips for Lasting Longer in Bed How to Get Better in Bed Having Trouble Getting Hard Wimps into Winners Ultimate MySpace Jealousy Tool Aim Lower PUA Openers, Openers, Openers How to Calm Your Sexual Neediness Are You the Man or Just the Fan? 107 109 113 115 118 120 123 125 127 129 131 133 135 140 145 146 147 150 151 9 106

Section Two: The Inner Game Articles The Hero, the Bounty, and the Purpose Driven Life
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Integrity Makes a Man The Great Gatsby Complex Build it, and They Will Come Why You Shouldn’t String Girls Along The Anatomy of the Sickness Living with Passion 7 Secrets for Getting Out of a Slump Can You Control Your Emotions Like Arod Going Down in Flames Bust Through Your Comfort Zone

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Section Three: Alpha Living Articles 10 Ways to Immediately Make Yourself More Attractive 3 Tips for Abs of Steel A Manly Guide to Choosing Your Drink 7 Steps to Naturally Boost Your Testosterone How to Naturally Increase Energy How to Redo Your Wardrobe Winning the Day 1 College Roommate Wars 187 191 194 197 199 203 213

Section Four: The Stories The Buenos Aires Hooker Juice Incident Fortaleza Nights (Part 1) Fortaleza Nights (Part 2) Ten Years After I Took Her Virginity My First Piece of MySpace Pussy The Return of a Pickup Artist (Part 2) 216 222 226 229 233 240
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Snowballed Hotel Room High The Early Days: Experimenting With Speed Seduction The Falling in Love Pattern Don’t Buy the Cheap Sex Toys The Drunken Night in Medellin Story

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Section Five: 31 Days to Better Game Day 1: Designing Your Life Day 2: Developing Inner Game Day 3: Updating Your Look Day 4: Always be Advertising Day 5: Being High Status Day 6: How to be a Good Flirt Day 7: Approaching and Opening Women Day 8: Improving Conversation Skills Day 9: How to Build Comfort Day 10: Being Funnier… Day 11: Push Pull/Cocky Funny Day 12: Body Language 101 Day 13: Building Your Social Circle Day 14: How to Properly Tease a Woman Day 15: Creating a MySpace and Facebook Profile Day 16: Tips for Flirting Online Day 17: Phone Game Strategy Day 18: Text Game for the PUA Day 19: How to Go on First Dates Day 20: How to Get a Day Two
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Day 21: Building Sexual Tension Day 22: Preparing Your Bachelor Pad Day 23: Quick Lesson in Kino Day 24: Body Language 202 Day 25: Being the Badboy Day 26: Friend into Lover (part 1) Day 27: Friend into Lover (part 2) Day 28: Managing a Relationship Day 29: Tips for Getting Better in Bed Day 30: Ending a Fling or Relationship Day 31: Perform a SWOT Analysis on Yourself Index

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Introduction
This book is five years in the making! Who was there for the red and black days? For those that just came on board recently, the red and black days refers to the early days of TSB when it had a blood red header with a black background and white text. And Mike and I thought the site looked hot. Putting this book together brought back many memories. I had to search through over 1,500 articles to choose the very best. The evolution of the site, in a way, represents the evolution of both the life of me, and the life of Michael Stoute. We wanted to make this book a diverse look at the four years leading up to its publication. Instead of focusing solely on dating articles, stories, or self help type articles, we chose to break the book up into six parts. These six parts are a great representation of TSB Magazine, as well as Bobby Rio and Michael Stoute- the men behind the magazine. Another reason we chose to break the book up into four parts is because we think you will get more value of it that way. There are articles in here that will help you with all aspects of your life. For instance, if you bought this book for the pickup advice, you might be pleasantly surprised in six months to read some articles about fitness, fashion, or inner game, you may have missed earlier when you ‘re were concentrating solely on devouring all things pickup. The six parts of this book are as follows: Part 1: The Confidential Social Intelligence Manuscript This is our never before released manuscript for becoming a social superstar. This manuscript was first created over 10 years ago. Over the past 10 years it has been tested and refined. This contains everything you need to know to climb to the top of any social ladder. Part 2: The Best of TSB Magazine

The Essential Dating Articles
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Going through our huge library of dating, pickup, relationship and sex articles, I found it tough to choose “the best” so I decided to choose articles that give you a well rounded approach to improving your dating life. Most of these articles came out Mike’s and my own personal experience of improving our dating life. It wasn’t a quick and easy ride for either one of us… we hope that these articles will make your ride a little less bumpy.

The Inner Game Articles
These are some of the articles that mean the most to me. Through the many phases I’ve gone through as a person during the five years we were creating this magazine… these articles resonate with every period. The topics transcend dating advice, as the entire core principles can be applied to any area of your life, and I am confident you’ll see a marked improvement. This section is also the most timeless… as long after the days you are married with children… I hope that you still pick up this section of the book and reread some of these articles and find inspiration from them.

The Alpha Living Articles
Like the Inner Game articles I chose to include these Alpha Living articles because they too, are timeless. These are articles that you can read when you’re a sixty year old man, and still learn something from. Whether you’re interested in getting in shape, maximizing your energy, or just learning the art of ordering a man’s drink in the bar… you’ll find the information in this section. Alpha Living is a way of life that you’ll hopefully continue throughout your lifetime. It is about fulfilling your dreams… and doing so in style.

Stories, Tales, Lies, and Exaggerations
The fun stuff! Over the past five years, Mike Stoute and I have chronicled our stories on TSB. These are the stories that made Bobby and Mike the men they’ve become. You’ll read some inspiring stories… and other stories that display our humiliation. Some stories will educate you… other stories will entertain you… and other stories will have you asking “why the hell did I ever take advice from these guys?”

31 Days to Better Game
31 Days to Better game was an extremely popular series we ran at TSB Magazine where we presented a different lesson every day that would
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8 . There are 31 lessons that walk you through many different areas of game. I think you’ll enjoy this section a lot. Whether you’re a novice or an experienced PUA.COM help you improve your dating life.The Best of TSBMAG. all giving their unique perspective on improving certain areas of game. bloggers. I believe that you can get something out of following the 31 day plan. and gurus. The lessons were brought to you by some of the best dating coaches.

Social Superstar Confidential Social Intelligence Manuscript Table of Contents Introduction Chapter 1: What defines a superstar? Chapter 2: Image is everything (authority + social proof) Chapter 3: The 10 Second Impression (authority + social proof) Chapter 4: Building Your Social Resume (authority + social Proof) Chapter 5: The Attitude (liking + scarcity) Chapter 6: Be Captivating (liking + scarcity + authority) Chapter 7: Cultivate a fan base (commitment + liking + reciprocation) 9 .

The teachings in this manuscript transformed my friends back at Montclair State University from relative nobodies." I found them to be even more effective. Robert Ciaduini. Pick-up artists are usually defined by their ability to cold approach a random woman and quickly close her.COM Introduction This manuscript has been developed over the past 10 years. It works.The Best of TSBMAG. One of my friends and I attended a private seminar held by social scientist Dr. It was around 2002 and that I found the underground seduction community. Ciaduini. This manuscript is about building an empire of friends and fans. which focused on the psychology of influence. This manuscript was first conceived while I was back in college. This manuscript is not going to teach how to be the world's best pick-up artist. If you follow the guidance of this manuscript. Everything in this manuscript has been tested and refined. At that point I was just coming out of a relationship and began studying the art of seduction. We took the teaching of Dr. The only reason I have not released it up until now is because many of the strategies contained in this manuscript I have personally used within some of my current social circles. And with those friends and fans… women will naturally follow. It was at this point that I took the original manuscript and began altering it to include some more of the hidden techniques of some of the world's best pick-up artists. 10 .into a group of men who threw 400+ people parties. and we applied to the realm of climbing the social ladder. After graduating college I took the principles originally constructed and altered them a bit for "the real world.you will never have the need to cold approach again. and were even featured on prime time news for our antics at the Homecoming day parade.

and vitality that the social superstar produces. charming. Envision the way the carry themselves. Listen to the way they use humor casually. What aspects of them are unique and unlike the many others you come in contact with who don’t possess their charisma? 11 . I would like you to take the time to think about the guys you have met in your personal life who have best exemplified the image of social superstar. focus on specific aspects of them. Other people want to drink in the enthusiasm. Listen to the way they talk. energy. Right now. Now I want you to spend a minute writing down the different characteristics of them that jumped out at you. Listen to the way they construct their conversations. Once you have a clear picture of them in your mind. While simply copying their characteristics will not land you roles in motion pictures. or have you quarterbacking in the Super Bowl -it will have you commanding the power and respect these guys have. or simply enigmatic. hear the way their voice sounds when it comes out of their mouths. Tommy Lee. posture.who come to mind? Maybe you know a few guys personally who have this characteristic? Or maybe you immediately think of a guy like George Clooney. within your specific social scene. These guys will often be referred to as charismatic. No matter how different the external image of these guys may seem. there are certain characteristic that they all share. or Johnny Depp. Spend a minute to get a clear picture of them in your mind. They will want to be associated with them. You should picture their specific body language. and sense of personal style. Tom Brady. First. These characteristics are the blue print for social superstardom. People will naturally want to be around them. When you think of social superstars.Social Superstar Chapter 1: What Defines A Superstar? So you want to be a Social Super star? And live large? Some guys are just born with inane gift to control the energy of any room they enter.

I want you to envision the way other people react to them. is because it is my way of outlining the goal for this manuscript. 12 . by understanding that there is nothing unique inside of these menyou'll know that you too are capable of reaching their level. fundamentally it has nothing to do with them at all.COM After you have jotted down a list of the distinct characteristics I want you to dig a little deeper. It has everything to do with the way that people react to them. This is important for you to fully comprehend this for two main reasons. In fact. First. And second. Imagine the way their entourage would follow one of their commands. and why you want to become it. Imagine the way a woman would react to one of their advances.The Best of TSBMAG. Over the course of this manuscript you will learn to use the principles of persuasion and influence to climb to the highest level of any social ladder. The Reaction They Receive What you must first understand going forward is that what causes these men to rise to the level of social superstar has nothing to do with what is inside of them. Hear the way people speak about them when they were not around. Or the energy that is sucked out of the room when they depart. the envy that other people felt towards them.you can manipulate the reaction you receive by others. If you want to become a Social Superstar. You can't become a superstar if you don't have fans propping you up. you'll realize that by using the principles of persuasion and influence. Try to capture in words. Now spend a minute writing down the different ways in which people react to them. In the following chapters I will delve much deeper into the process you must go through to elevate yourself to Social Superstar status amongst your social scene. I will repeat this phrase for emphasis: It has everything to do with the way that people react to them. Envision the look on people’s faces when they walk into a room. The reason that I have asked you to write down both the specific characteristics of these men and the specific ways in which people reacted to them. and ideally onto a greater stage. Try to describe the energy that these social superstars instilled in others around them. Write down the desire that women had toward them. you must first have a clear goal of what you are trying to become.

In this chapter you just need to recognize that by being trendy and fashionable you are presenting yourself as having a high level of social intelligence. Think like this. or hip. You need to know what the current trends are before most everyone else. These cars are sitting right alongside of hundreds of other cars. what cars catch your attention? The Ford Taurus? The Toyota Corolla? No. Because if you’re waiting for them to dictate what you can wear.you are actively involved with "cooler" social circles. or what music 13 . The Corvette. The image you present to the world should establish you an authority on your scene. their fine details. and their alluring Image. Your image should sub consciously tell the people within your scene that you are the person to look up to for determining what is cool. They don’t yell out for your attention. They don’t flag you down. These cars have a presence and if you want to be a social superstar you need to have just as powerful of a presence. You need to dress fashionably. Your image should also convey social proof. You have to be ahead of them with the trends. The Plan: Image is everything. When you walk into a parking lot.Social Superstar Chapter 2: Image is everything (Authority + Social Proof) Your objective: The objective of creating an image is to establish both authority and social proof. trendy. The SL500 Mercedes convertible. and say “look at me” But these are the cars you look at because of their reputation. It is how you carry yourself. The Porsche. The 745i series. You can’t wait for your peers to tell you what to like. People will automatically assume that since you have the social intelligence to stay fashionable. But you notice these cars.

If you’re going after the “bad ass” look you would want to choose someone like Colin Farrell. When it comes to creating your image. and magazines to know what the trends are. Social Superstars know what the current trends are because they are keenly aware of what is going on. what you see in the gossip magazines. But the sneakers must be the real deal. You want to copy their style from their day to day life. You don’t want to copy their style from a movie. You can by a whole new wardrobe for like $50. Spend $100 if you have to. You can also start putting more of your focus. blogs. If you’re going for a preppy look choose someone like Matt Damon. or they have friends that are keenly aware telling them what is going on. it’s out of style. Another option that I’ve done is go to thrift shops or Salvation Army stores with clip outs of outfits you want to put together. chances are by the time you’re wearing it. But it is also important to pick someone who fits the style you are going after. But what you can do is mimic the clothes by purchasing similar outfits of less expensive brands. Instead of dropping $60 on a new video game… buy a pair of the trendiest sneakers you can find. Celebrities pay fashion consultants thousands of dollars to keep them trendy… there is no reason not to take advantage of the lessons they teach with every outfit they wear. Everything else can be second hand. Choose someone who is well known and followed in the media. money. If you don’t have “cool” friends then you need to be following fashionable websites. And once they’ve run their course and 14 . You are probably thinking that you can’t afford the clothes they are wearing. This is the basis of who you are in the public eye. You’re right. and energy toward you image. You need to be up to date with the trends. You can’t.COM you can listen to. It isn’t called “being trendy” for nothing. If you’re more of the athlete type choose someone like Tom Brady or Tony Romo. A solid pair of kicks is your best investment.The Best of TSBMAG. Generally I recommend picking a celebrity you most resemble. I always suggest modeling yourself after a celebrity that you most resemble or whose style you would like to emulate. The examples I’m giving may be outdated by the time you read this. If you’re the artsy music type choose someone from a popular band. Choose someone in their twenties.

But image is more than just wearing trendy clothes. A sincere. But for remainder of this chapter I want to give you some more hints on how to make your image more appealing.learn to read when it is called for. sit. The 10 Second Impression. It is the total package.and that’s because you feel that there is nobody worthy of your attention. and posture to build immediate social proof. automatically paints you as a person of high self. knowing when not to speak. In the end.Social Superstar gone out of style. In a world where most people lack a high level of self-respect. I am going to go into great detail about how to use things like physiology. it is easy to stand out when you have it and it shows. Your posture should make you appear to be confident and at ease with your surroundings. * What is your mind set? You are in a situation that requires a strong focus on tact and diplomacy. friendly smile at strategic intervals (but don’t overdo it . and when it’s not). you’re not paying too much attention to any one person) .esteem and confidence. No sunshine? Find a nearby tanning salon. A good pair of sneakers or shoes is the cornerstone of a good wardrobe. and stand. * Flaunt a sincere. Even if you’re not at ease. And if you don’t have a high 15 . You may cast a glance. knowing when to speak. In the next chapter. In other words. Buy a new pair. It breaks the ice. but you’re too prestigious to stare. work on maintaining a healthy tan. and what to say when you speak.from The 7 Elements of Charisma. * If you’re white.not even the blonde-bombshell walking by can shake this poise. People around you WILL notice this and subconsciously decide that you ARE a person of prestige. Meaning. tears down people’s walls. you’re never “star-struck” because you are the star. * Pay attention to how you walk. friendly smile is a strong weapon. The Elements of Image and Charisma Here are some other tips to enhance your presence and image . body language. tonality. and knowing how to carry yourself throughout. your goal is to give off the impression that you’re a prestigious person accustomed to ranking high in social circles . * How do your eyes follow the crowd? As if you’re disinterested (meaning. pay attention to your posture so that it seems as though you are.

COM level of self-respect (again. If you look like your gay. You need to always be conscious of how you appear to other people. Charisma opens many doors and will get you into many places otherwise far off limits.the trick to faking it is to fake it with sincerity (this will be repeated further along).” When creating a charismatic image. And because they expect it. you’ll be prejudged as probably being a thug. you ask yourself: How is this person going to interpret my next few words? What kind of effect are they going to have? What effect is it that I’m going for? Will I sound like I know what I’m talking about? Or will I sound like a fool? Will I sound confident? Or will I sound cocky? Will I sound sincere. It is a very influential tool when you want something. And now you’ve created “presence. Here’s an analogy: If you look like a thug. like most). you will be prejudged as a person who is probably charismatic and worthy of respect and even admiration.something that we practice in our daily encounters with others until it is developed over time. You need to give off the impression that you are an important person and are considered an important person by others. then fake it. And if you look like a charismatic person used to respect and even admiration. prestigious selfimage don’t accomplish much. it’s that much easier to create the effect that you’re after. Most people don’t understand the charismatic persona and can only assume that it comes naturally to some people. you’ll be prejudged as probably being gay. but when packaged together they merge for great effect. or will I sound fake? Will I come across as a good conversationalist. Maybe for a very rare and select few. now it’s that much easier to give it to them. someone who listens more than he speaks? Or will I seem as though I talk too much and therefore am not a good conversationalist? 16 . Notice that we used the word “probably” in the above paragraph? We use the word “probably” to represent the other person’s expectations. Many elements make up Image. it is an acquired art . Take note . Once you’ve been prejudged. you’re using this instinct to your advantage (which most people can’t control because they’re unaware that it is something happening in their subconscious). By themselves. For the rest of us.The Best of TSBMAG. This is what he or she expects. these simple details regarding a positive. In the chapter on attitude I will give you tips to help the right attitude to come naturally to you. presence is but one. * Before speaking to a person.

You just want to think for a brief second if what you are saying conveys confidence and coolness. act effortlessly.com about building conversation skills. elusive. * Practice being subtle (”subtle.so when you act. * Always seem patient. 17 . or if it makes you sound like a showboat. These articles should provide a nice foundation for becoming a better conversationalist.” as used here. as if you know that everything will come to you eventually. If you don’t have any clue what makes a good conversationalist read through some of the articles on http://www.tsbmag. but you don’t want to fall into the trap of constantly being inside your head worried about what you are going to say. a coward. Cloak your focus on the elements (which will more than likely seem intense when you first start practicing the art) by being confident on the outside and relaxed on the inside. as if you could do much more. * Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease . This means even when you are not actively engaged in a conversation you need to present you best image. means ‘So slight as to be difficult to detect or analyze. Never let them see you sweat.Social Superstar The above advice is sound. What you say doesn’t have to be perfect. You need to be a good conversationalist.. or hurts your image in any other way. you are being watched at all times.’).hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself. Below are some tricks you need to convey: * Never seem to be in a hurry .. and over time. Remember.

and an expensive watch. the guy just stands there. He keeps timidly putting a finger up to get the bartender's attention. but so has every girl's who was 18 . And it should present you as a man with high social intelligence. You are not only completely comfortable within your scene. avoiding eye contact with the other patrons. In less than a minute your entire perception of him has changed. but those around you appear to respect you and look up to you. trendy jeans. Your Plan: Imagine that you're sitting at a table in a crowded bar. There is a person to his right and left. nervously rubbing his chin. and squished.The Best of TSBMAG. slouched down. The bartender is busy and the man is forced to wait there for his drink a moment. Your non-verbal communication should sub consciously tell the people within your scene that you are used to being treated well. he is of above average looks. The combination of these three attributes you will provide you with the requisite social proof you need. A man walks by. wearing a nice button down shirts. You are observing everything that is going on around you. While the bartender is serving a girl on the other end of the bar. The non-verbal communication you present to the world should establish you an authority on your scene. It should convey that you are comfortable as the leader. a stylish haircut.COM Chapter 3: The 10 Second Impression (authority + social proof) Your Objective: The objective of manipulating your non-verbal communication is to establish both authority and social proof. Not only has your perception of him changed. Your 3 second judgment so far is positive. As you sip your beer you are making 10 second judgments on everyone that passes your table. and neither of them has squeezed over an inch to let him in. The man walks up to the bar.

You need to create the irresistible offer. and the amount of eye contact that they make with other students. But you must be aware that there is more at play then how you are dressed up. He's a good looking guy. your social intelligence. He claims that in today's marketplace. We've already discussed fashion. in a nice outfit. Yes. and which of the students were bound to be eating their lunch alone in the cafeteria. and has a body most guys would kill for… but he just looks uncomfortable and out of place. but you also must take away any last hint of doubt. the benefits. You need to not only present them with the features. their walks. That guy… standing alone waiting for his drink. But that is not enough to be a superstar. in your best outfit. If you walked into any high school in America. grooming. in which he talks about how the best marketers create a short pitch that is so powerful that it is almost impossible not to buy. We've talked about how it is important that you always present your best self. You wouldn't have to speak to a single one of them. It is all prominently on display by the way they carry themselves. Yes. you must present your physical attributes in the best possible light.Social Superstar eying him down as he walked by. "The Irresistible Offer" is the title of a book by Mark Joyner. There is a saying I love "Walk the talk." The Irresistible Offer This means that you need to be completely congruent in all areas of your identity. 19 . within minutes you would be able to tell which of the students were of the popular crowd. you must dress fashionable and cool. Everything we've gone over in the preceding chapters regarding creating the look of a superstar is important. and your sex life. Although all of the physical signs should be pointing to "cool" it is apparent that he is anything but. So has the perception of every guy who was subconsciously sizing himself up against the guy for dominance on the social hierarchy. you have extremely limited time to catch the public's attention. the proof. tan. and physical appearance. There are certain telling cues that allow people to make instant decisions about your level of self esteem. These are the non verbal cues that people look for when making a snapshot judgment on someone else.

The first student says. I am extremely confident. I don't want you to mistakenly interpret this to mean that you must be perfect. that isn't why. These areas in include: body language. posture. "Because you are extremely confident" And Brad says "Yes. and must stand up to the test of scrutiny. you will be identified as a fraud immediately. They can bring you onto MTV's Made. he asked the audience why they believed he is able to continually have women willing to sleep with him after knowing him for less than a half hour. but there are a lot of extremely confident guys who don't pull girls into random bathrooms for spontaneous sex" A second student says "Because of the way you dress. eye contact. One by one members of the audience raised their hands to give their input. personal trainers. and makeup artists in the world… but if you're body's non verbal cues remain the same." Brad. After his powerful stories of success. and has a cult following of men who aspire to be like him. who dresses like a rockstar. Brad is a well known social artist. I was at a seminar listening to the legendary Brad P speaking about how to get a 10 minute lay. In the following sections we are going to go into detail in the different areas that make up your non verbal cues. says "It's true I dress in a sexy way… and if a woman was going to fuck a guy in ten minutes he'd probably look like me… but no.COM The best way to remove any last hint of doubt is to "Walk the talk" and carry yourself like a superstar.The Best of TSBMAG. If you are going to create yourself to be "the irresistible offer" you need to hit them from every one of these angles. The way you carry yourself is the one thing that cannot be faked. In the first few minutes of the speech Brad gave some details about the various 10 minute lays that he has had in his lifetime. and how well you follow the general rules of intrapersonal communication." 20 . and have you done up by the best fashion consultant." A third student says "It's got to be that you know how to talk to a girl in a way that will get them horny enough to fuck you. Everything about you needs to be congruent. As we will discuss later in "Never appear too perfect" you must show some vulnerability and flaws… the flaws just can't come involve any of these cues.

standing awkwardly alone." The students shout out several more answers. made us feel uncomfortable." How to Create Comfortable Body Language Sex is hypnotic. I talk good game. I have sexy body language. His body language makes you forget that you're watching an actor PLAY James Bond. I am confident. We may keep our gaze on the man. Be relaxed 21 .Social Superstar And Brad says. How do you give your appearance that same hypnotic appeal as sex? In the previous section. Sean Connery is highly regarded as the actor that best portrayed the character James Bond. "Oh… I get them so horny they can hardly contain themselves when I talk to them… but a lot of guys can talk a good game. They key to creating hypnotic body language is comfort. "I get ten minute lays because I am all seven of these answers. and I make it impossible for them to not want to fuck me in ten minutes…" Brad presents the women he meets with "the irresistible offer. 4 Ways to Make Your Body Language More Hypnotic 1. but we would be doing so in the same way we that we just can't turn away from a car wreck. While it can be argued that all of the actors nailed the part… it is obvious upon watching a few scenes of Connery as Bond to notice just how comfortable he appears in the role. Finally Brad points to the seven answers on the screen. That's why it's used so blatantly in advertisements. brought to our minds all of our own insecurities. The man. None of these feelings are sexy. So what is the secret to hypnotic body language? It is easier than you think. I am dressed like a rock star. If you want to create a hypnotic presence as a superstar… you need to be so comfortable in the role that your audience accepts your role without reservations. He is so comfortable in the role… that you believe he is James Bond. Meanwhile Brad has been writing each answer down on the teleprompter in front of him. the example we used of the man waiting for his drink. and fears. anxieties. "Everything" Brad says.

We also tend get really tense in the shoulders. so that you can put an end to them. Slow down We are going to show you how to demonstrate these four qualities to further illustrate how to create a compelling presence. If your mind is nervous… it will be harder to control your physiology. If you are nervous and tense when you go out… naturally the physiology you present will be that of a nervous and tense person. The easiest and most productive way to relax your mind is through slow controlled breathing. But if you learn to control your physiology. The interesting thing about physiology is that once you learn how to manipulate it. In order to make physiology work in your favor it is necessary to recognize your nervous habits. When we are nervous we tend to tense up our jaw muscle. There are three main body positions in most social situations which you can use to convey comfort: 1. your heart rate naturally follows. you can use it to your advantage pretty regularly. How you sit Here is an explanation of each. This is especially true of your facial muscles. slowly those around you will tend find themselves falling into a relaxed state. Be powerful 3.COM 2. causing an almost crawled up appearance. If you want to achieve relaxing body language you first must relax all of your muscles.The Best of TSBMAG. How you stand 2. tense gestures… your brain will assume a position of relaxation. and stop the nervous. Once you slow your breathing down. Be Relaxed The easiest way to make people comfortable around you is to be relaxed around them. Subconsciously people tend to mirror the people they are surrounded by. Be confident 4. Along with relaxing your muscles you need to relax your mind. 22 . How you walk/move 3. The more relaxed you appear to be. What you are basically trying to do is put yourself in a sort of hypnotic state of relaxation.

Instead. touching. Fight the urge to start rubbing. but after some practice. Force yourself to relax and let your arms just fall. You don’t know what to do with your hands so you shove them in your pockets. Doing any of these things immediately screams that you are not comfortable in your present situation. At first it may be a constant battle with yourself. The minute that you recognize yourself using your hands to display nervousness… immediately stop and place your hands by your side in a relaxed manner. The beautiful thing as I mentioned earlier is that the discontinuation of performing these nervous ticks will trigger in your brain that you are no longer nervous… and your brain will command you to act in the way you naturally do when you are comfortable. or playing with your drink all tell the set and everyone around you that you are not only nervous around them. or fiddling. moving around too much. you’ll start to automatically relax more in social situations. This behavior communicates that you’re nervous and that you feel awkward. At the beginning you’ll have to force this. you are emotionally reacting to them. but after enough training you will naturally no longer perform these nervous ticks. other people with run their hand through their hair. When people feel insecure or nervous they start to have trouble sitting still. others will juggle the loose change in their pocket. The emotion of nervousness often manifests itself through these nervous behaviors. Some people will rub their chin or neck. 23 . Get in the habit of catching yourself whenever you find that you are performing any of the above habits. Looking relaxed while standing Nervous ticks such as swaying from side to side. let them hang naturally by your sides. Looking relaxed when walking One of the most common ways a man displays nervousness while walking is to keep his hands in his pockets as he walks. It is important to remember to keep control of your hands. Eliminate them. but that they are higher value and thus. Their insecurity eats away at them and they feel forced to constantly be moving their hands.Social Superstar Below are some of the nervous habits that you will need to avoid… and ultimately replace with more positive empowering habits. playing with your hands or fingers. You’ll notice a marked improvement in your interactions.

the objective is to take up space while appearing relaxed and comfortable. keep your hands away from your face and hair.” This is when people hold their drink in front of their chest in a social environment. Feet belong on the floor. security. You are trying to convey abundance. Don't squeeze your hands. but if you find that you are fidgeting too much then cup your right hand face down in your left hand. you will naturally come to feel more powerful. creating a silly looking distraction.COM Another thing to be conscious of when you're standing in a bar or club is the “drink shield. There is nothing good that your fingers can do above your neck. As we spoke about above in relation to "being relaxed" you will find that the more powerful a physiology you present. it is not enough to create that hypnotic captivating presence. In this case it’s the drink. and if you keep one foot on your knee while talking you might have a tendency to shake the free foot. hold your drink down by your hip and don’t cross your arms or take a protective stance. Instead. This helps you maintain control and good body posture.The Best of TSBMAG. The subcommunication behind this body language tick is that you’re nervous and uneasy. alone. It is best to keep your hands apart. A superstar knows how to balance the two. If you are constantly crossing and un-crossing your feet and legs you'll appear uncomfortable. You will need to incorporate several other characteristics into your body language. While you are seated it is best to keep both feet on the floor. and relaxation with your body language. Being Powerful While having a relaxed appearance will surely make others around you feel more comfortable. Don’t overdo ‘taking up space’ lest you come off as tryhard. Looking relaxed while sitting When you sit. One of which is power. which is face up. The reason that you want to display power and dominance is because these qualities communicate value. 24 . A low value person can be relaxed… but very few low value people will be both relaxed and powerful. simply let them lay together on your lap. Once seated. So your instinctive reaction is to cover your midsection (traditionally the most vulnerable spot on most mammals) with some sort of protection.

You move for the other person. The other person moves for you. III. Whenever this happens to you. You both move halfway out of the way. These are not the kind of people other people want to interact with. The Gunslinger Walk is based off of an article originally published by Sebastian Drake. II. People that feel a lack of power tend to offer nothing to the world. Avoid holding your face up with your hand. One of the hallmark traits of this behavior is head straight.. 25 . as they appear to have nothing to offer.these impressions present that of a less than powerful person. You then go on to walk as if this long cape is flowing down your back. This displays the image that you’re too bored or tired to bother holding up your head. After experimenting with the "cape walk" for several weeks I began to naturally feel more powerful as I walked. Looking powerful when walking One of the most efficient ways to walk in a more powerful way is to implement the Gunslinger Walk. It is important to learn some of the ways that people give their power away as to avoid them. It can also give off the impression that you’re uncomfortable with the way you look and are trying to hide your face. people often get into a situation where two people are walking directly at each other. as I think this article is best representation of keeping your power as you walk. It displays a lack of enthusiasm and energy towards life. If you think that you're having trouble being heard then maybe you should work on your tonality and voice projection. Another way to give your power away is to lean in when talking to someone. Throughout society. and make a conscious effort to recondition yourself to avoid the negative habit in the future. one of three things happens typically: I. Many times guys do this because they believe that the other person cannot hear them. Here is the article in its entirety." The "cape walk" is technique in which you imagine you have a Superman cape hanging down your back.Social Superstar I learned this technique years ago while listening to an Anthony Robbins CD in which he describes "the cape walk.. The minute you lean in you have just handed them the power in the conversation.

Roll in the hips: An exaggerated push from the hips with each lift of the leg. The most common and obvious example are beautiful women. You’ll move if you meet someone handicapped. elderly. 26 . or just the way he carries himself. you will move a half-step out of the way.and that’s it.especially a beautiful woman you’re signifying that you see her as better than you. With a solid presence. awe.either the white-hat sheriff. large muscles. This does not bode well for meeting her later. or the black-hat bandit. and then high status men. you will feel people who believe themselves lower social status than you moving out of your way as you move through the world without you even doing anything. Simply observing one of these people can strike wonder. Men who moved with raw electrifying presence. Henceforth. but it can be a hell of a lot of fun. With people who are also high status.COM People move for people that they see as higher status than them subconsciously. Knowing smile: The disarming. The key elements of a Gunslinger’s Walk are: Horizonview: Staring beyond the crowd and expecting it to part. self-assured smile finishes the look.The Best of TSBMAG. and inspiration into the hearts of those around them. Gunslinging isn’t necessary. The Gunslinger’s Walk is a highly exaggerated style of walk based on highly successful men and the caricature and archetype of an 1800’s gunslinger . The man might have status from a style of dress. or young children . When you move out of someone’s way . Roll in the heels: An exaggerated roll of the heels at the end of each step. you NEVER move for another person based on status alone. Thrown back shoulders: The essence of good body language. Slow movement: Moving extremely slowly through crowds. and they will move the other half step. It’s mirrored off people who brim with the utmost confidence.

Roll in the Hips and Heels When your foot lands. it’s crucial to move at a slow pace. Thrown back Shoulders Rise up to your full stature. staring off into the horizon and the adventures that lay beyond. or meek.he never made himself small. and “roll through” into the front of your foot. Picture the cowboy .it gives you a 27 . Every time two people walk directly towards one another in a straight line. pushing off the ball. or falsely humble.Social Superstar The Horizon view The legendary cowboys did not look at a crowd as they moved through it: Their eyes were always looking past. you can mentally imagine a “ka-ching” sound like a cowboy’s spurs every time your foot touches the ground. it becomes a negotiation. and draw a bit more attention to yourself. To take this to its logical extreme. you see the most beautiful women and high status men not looking at people directly in front of them. It’s crucial to keep your view to the horizon if you’re rolling your hips: You look like you’re a larger than life figure that way. you transcend the negotiation and the struggle. as opposed to just trying to court attention. In modern times. and with his full stature. and people are more likely to move out of the way of you as you pass. He moved with purpose. Slow Movement When gunslingin’. Remember to keep your shoulders back and broad at all times. rolling them through so you rock ever so-slightly back and forth each time you move. By taking a long past view at the horizon. but instead staring past them into the distance as they think about what goals they want to achieve. if someone is stopped. To aid you. Ka-ching… ka-ching… ka-ching… Throw your hips into your walk. everyone is forced to go around them. This will add to your stature once again. The lower value person moves from the way of the higher person. So move slower than people around you . land first with your heel. it’s hard to get people to move for you. with your chest out and your stomach in. When you hurry through the world.

The effect becomes more pronounced the more people who do it: So. with a slight knowing smile. Then. The Knowing Smile When gunslinging. moving slowly. How to Part a Crowd Here’s the secret behind my legendary gunslinging performances: Once two people simultaneously break out of your way at the front of a crowd. which creates quite a stir. with your palm facing towards they way you want them to go. makes you look powerful. You don’t look at people in front of you that are oncoming. and means people scurrying will tend to defer to you. there’s a great chance the crowd will break and you can then “part the seas” as you move through it. people’s natural instincts are to follow the people in front of them. self-assured and self-confident smile.don’t try to “look hard”. and tend to break sideways. This “directs 28 . This one’s a bit more advanced and complicated. They assume that someone or something important is coming through. rolling your heels and hips. if you want someone to pass you on your left. Your palm should be facing left. if you choose to try it. with a view on the horizon. It’s a slight. Jackpot. A slight smile goes a long way with gunslinging to keep curiosity mixed in and soften you up slightly. remember to smile . you look at one point off into the distance where you’re walking. with just a dash of cockiness mixed in. you start gunslinging. raise your right arm from your side upwards.then two. and quite an entrance. So. knowing. one person moves . great body language. The key is to lift up the opposite hand of the way you want the person to go. You can “direct traffic” by which hand you hold up as people are walking towards you.COM presence.The Best of TSBMAG. so get the fundamentals down first. quite an impression. Directing Traffic One last tip that’ll help with gunslinging.

Your stance should project confidence. standing up straight. Do not put your hands in your pockets or cross them over your chest. Picture the way a U. 29 . Don’t go overboard with it. it’s invaluable. Looking powerful while sitting What you want to communicate is that you do not make any apologies for your existence and that you are used to always being comfortable. In the example we used earlier about the guy in the bar. squished between two other customers as he waited for his drink. never look down. Keep your head up. Feet and legs can be spread moderately or crossed ankle-to-knee. shoulders pulled back. it’s a sign of weakness and also looks unattractive. especially in nightclubs. Your upper body should ideally be leaning back without hunching over. or get high on the power… Looking powerful when standing If you want to have a powerful presence while standing than the first rule is to take up space. Do not cross your arms over your chest for this reason. Useful tactics to convey this include draping your arms over the backs of chairs or over the seatbacks of booths or couches. If you need to look away. It should not be an uncomfortable stance. Looking down even has been proven to have a bad effect on your mental state. so have fun and use it wisely. When you’re standing. was a clear example of standing in a less than powerful way. you want to stand with your feet shoulder-width apart or slightly wider. though it’s tricky to get. The Gunslinger’s Walk is a potential nuclear reactor in your social toolbox. You can observe this in others. look up. Marine would stand when at ease. Your hands should drape at your sides the way they naturally fall. The main communication here is that you are comfortable and confident. and chest somewhat out.S. In that example the man clearly gave up his power to the other two customers who forced him to stand there uncomfortably. Sliding forward slightly in your seat will allow you to lean back even in a vertically-backed chair. Once you get it though. Your weight should generally be towards the rear of your soles (closer to the heel) so that you always appear to be leaning back.Social Superstar traffic”. but one which clearly does not lend itself to laziness.

Keep going. you will naturally be projection power and confidence as you walk. and a clean one. an exit. Pick a wall and stand up straight against it. It also can change your inner one. this works. In fact. and eventually it won’t feel weird. Women find you more attractive. Seriously.” Practice this in the mirror if you suspect they are moving unnaturally. the bathrooms. and you wind up feeling a certain way just because you are acting that way. Except that you are standing like you are confident. Don’t believe me? Try it. Now walk away from the wall. the object is to convey dominance and purpose. take the shortest route 30 . though. Looking confident while walking If you read and follow the Gunslinger Walk as discussed above. you also change the way you think. It’s going to feel weird for awhile. The Japanese have long held the belief that a cluttered home leads to a cluttered mind. How do you feel? Right. You’ll find yourself with this new confidence that wasn’t there before and doesn’t seem to have much of an explanation. shoulders. and head should all touch the wall. Your hands should swing naturally at your sides while you walk but without looking either stiff or “floppy. a clear one.COM Being Confident As I mentioned earlier…there’s a bonus beyond the initial differences that changing your body language communicates to the outside world. and when you change the way you move.The Best of TSBMAG. like someone stuck a pole up your ass. but hold the pose for 5 minutes. etc). Just what we were going for. butt. Walk at about 50% of your normal speed when in the venue. When you are moving towards something (a set. Your feet. even if they aren’t selfaware enough to know why. Co-workers and those around you often might comment that you seem…different. The outer world touches our inner one. and you project confidence to all comers. it’ll start to feel good. you look better standing straight. Cause and affect get blurred. exerting about the same amount of pressure (no smooshing). because it’s different and new. Either way. When you walk or move.

lack of confidence. you give the impression of having low self esteem. Similarly. simply following the rules for looking relaxed and powerful will make you appear more confident as you stand there. Slowing down and taking deliberate actions Watch a few James Bond films. Instead of circling a set several times like a vulture. when moving through the crowd. how to blink slowly. how to change facial expressions slowly… and how to gesture slowly. He’s just too cool. but for right now it is important to know that standing erect (not "stuck up") gives the impression that the person is confident. walk straight up with confidence. In an upcoming chapter on interpersonal communication rules I will go over the correct ways to interact with others. This will radiate from you. slouching. 31 . you want to project dominance. optimistic. Have you ever noticed that James Bond never looks like he doesn’t know how to act? And that he never fidgets or behaves nervously? Everything James does is a little slower than it should be. Once you have a foundation for the laws of interaction. We will go into more detail regarding posture in the following chapter. or if your head hangs down. This makes a huge impact on how others perceive you.Social Superstar possible—usually a straight line. self-assured. Looking confident while standing If you are slumped over. A relaxed and powerful person tends to appear very confident. or shuffling your feet. and even appearing depressed. alert. Oftentimes women notice you and the way you move or interact with people and they make judgments about you before you’ve even noticed them. you will naturally become more confident in your interactions. and healthy. Try learning how to turn your head slowly. Looking confident while sitting The best way to appear confident while sitting is to follow the advice for both looking relaxed and powerful. Once again.

A smile displays a positive energy that is infectious. This is especially true of your facial muscles. Also walk with direction. In the beginning you will need to constantly be checking yourself. Habit 4: Smile often. While doing the talking you should be holding eye contact for the majority of the time. If you’re talking to a group of people switch eye contact up between the different members of the group… but always be holding it with someone. Habit 5: Push your chest out a bit and pull your shoulders back. but don’t be afraid to get comfortable. This is another habit you will have to check often to avoid falling back into the old habit of slouching. You need to keep your face free of this stress. don’t dart around and jolt your head around like you have been drinking espressos all day long.The Best of TSBMAG. This means your head should be high. Look around slowly and smoothly. If someone else is talking to you. Habit 3: Keep your muscles relaxed. This is especially true when walking through a bar… you never want to give off the vibe that you’re looking for the cool place to 32 . chest puffed out a bit. Habit 7: Take up space when you sit. When we tend to get nervous we tense up in the jaw. neck up. Your new body language habits to implement immediately Habit 1: Make it a practice to hold eye contact with everyone that you meet. and take big slow steps. hold eye contact about 50% of the time. Create a little game with yourself to remind yourself to pay attention to your posture. If you don’t have a naturally attractive smile than you should practice in front of a mirror. The idea is to take up some space. it hurts”. Habit 2: Get in the habit of walking around with your head up and your neck straight. shoulders back. Habit 8: Walk with confidence and power. Don’t slouch and look sloppy.COM This kind of body language transmits the message: “I’m so comfortable in my own skin. Spread yourself out a bit. Tell your friends to point this out to you. Try never to appear to be in a hurry or flustered. Habit 6: You should keep your feet about as far apart as your shoulders.

Social Superstar be. Habit 9: Avoid making sudden hyper gestures. When talking to someone avoid clutching on to your beer or putting your hands in your pocket. You want to give off the vibe that you know where it is and already are heading there. and poise. He is promising chivalry. It's like he is embodying the hypnotic characteristics that make romance novels so popular. grace. Rock Star Posture A signature of any rockstar is their posture. A man becomes more attractive when he exhibits grace and poise. It is also the grace in which they move across the stage. It takes a constant and conscious effort to achieve rockstar posture. you can have the same hypnotizing poise as Jim Morrison. If you’re giving a girl a once over. gestures.” Try learning how to turn your head slowly. These guys knew how to command a stage with their bodies. and are routinely making the necessary adjustments. Think Jim Morrison. and gentleness. The good news is that if you make yourself constantly aware of how your body appears. How to improve your posture 33 . how to change facial expressions slowly… and how to gesture slowly. elegance. Every gesture you make should flow naturally at the same speed as your previous gestures. Most of us have downright horrible posture… let alone rockstar posture. Think Billy Idol. If you’re grabbing a drink off the bar take it at a speed that says “I’m in no hurry. Tommy Lee. how to blink slowly. Habit 10: Use hand gestures when telling a story. The trick to pulling all these habits together is to use slow calculated gestures. do it slowly like it doesn’t embarrass you that she noticed." In the movie Michael Caine's character teaches Steve Martin's character how to be a European style gentleman. They had their audiences hypnotized by their movements. If you want to see an example of a man going through this transformation. David DeAngelo commonly recommends his students to watch "Dirty Rotten Scoundrels. Think Lenny Kravitz.

your knees straight and your back straight. Sure. When standing straight up. You might feel like you are leaning forward. Now follow the above steps: 1. or Brad Pitt. The spine has two natural curves that you need to maintain called the 'double C' or 'S' curves. 3. These points make a straight line.COM Most people don't even know what good posture is. You'll need to constantly be watching yourself. shoulders. Or any movie starring George Clooney. but the spine itself curves in a slight 'S'. Stretching and exercise to improve posture 34 . If you've got a mirror nearby go to it right now and align your ears. Keep your shoulders back. make sure that your weight is evenly distributed on your feet. but you don't. sit and lie in positions where the least strain is placed on supporting muscles and ligaments.The Best of TSBMAG. 2. backward or sideways. these are the curves found from the base of your head to your shoulders and the curve from the upper back to the base of the spine. 5. Make sure your earlobes are in line with the middle of your shoulders. walk. and hips. When you tell someone to work on their posture they automatically start walking around like they are in the Marines. This isn't the posture you should be striving for. These guys are trained by professionals to be the embodiment of a movie star. Good posture involves training the body to stand. Stretch the top of your head toward the ceiling. Tom Cruise. Hold your head up straight with your chin in. It shouldn't hurt at all if you try this. If it does. Tuck your stomach in. you might not have the money to hire their trainer… but that doesn't mean you can't emulate their posture and poise. and pulling your head back in to your chest. Most people think that to "stand up straight" means tensing your back to heave your chest 'in and up'. 6. Do not tilt your pelvis forward. Do not tilt your head forward. If you're serious about working on your posture you better get comfortable standing in front of a mirror. 4. The arches in your feet should be supported. and look stupid. you're probably forcing your back into an unnatural position. If you're unaware of what good posture looks like rent some James Bond movies.

If you have the time I good idea might be to take a yoga class. right). On your hands and knees. as it may cause further strain. counting ten as you lower. do as many as you can. In fact. or the microwave to beep. Raise both arms straight up. Be a penguin. and your ears aligned. raise both elbows (count one. 2. curl your back upwards. two) and lower them back to your waist (count one. and gently massage your neck. Align ears with shoulders. back. Do ten reps. A yoga class is a perfect example of one of these methods. You should at least feel a slight fatigue in the shoulder muscles. two). Do as many reps as your wait allows. When you first make the commitment to improve your posture you should repeat these exercises several times per day. You'll be surprised how much exercise fits into 30 seconds. and then the opposite. Slowly raise arms back to shoulder height. I'd probably start my day off doing them to feel fresh and add some extra energy to my morning. Slowly lower arms to sides. Raise both arms out to sides at shoulder length. you can even do these exercises without hand weights. Remember to keep your ears aligned! Bend forearms toward shoulders to touch your shoulder blades. like a cat. Avoid rolling in a circle. 1. Keeping your hands on your shoulders. toast to pop. As you'll find in later chapters… a social superstar is looking for every excuse he can to find new ways to mingle with people and make new friends. While you wait for a web page to load.Social Superstar You want to do exercises that strengthen the muscles across your back and shoulders. and touch your shoulders with your hands. Think about being able to place a bowl in the hollow of your back. place elbows at your side. When you first begin to improve your posture you might find that you neck or back will tend to get a little sore. This is why it is important to do some of the following stretches: Tilt (stretch) your head in all four directions over your shoulders (forward. constantly checking your alignment! If ten reps are too many to start. Do 10 repetitions with both arms. 3. Align your ears over your shoulders. then alternate 10 reps for each arm singularly. You're not looking to build muscle mass… so you don't need to do the exercises with a large amount of weight. left. Hold for a slow count of ten. alongside your ears. 35 . counting to ten as you raise arms.

Stand against a wall with shoulders and bottom touching wall. a footrest can be used along with the office chair. Keep both feet flat on the floor. back. 36 . You may have to adjust the office chair. Flex your arms at a 75 to 90 degree angle at the elbows.COM As we discussed in the previous section on body language there are 3 general times the superstar needs to be keenly aware of his posture… and constantly working on improving it. and heels are all aligned. standing. especially when tired from sitting in the office chair for long periods. and walking. the back of the head should also touch the wall . If you're following the body language advice laid out in the previous chapter on these three areas you'll have already noticed a significant natural improvement in your posture.if it does not. If there's a problem with feet reaching the floor comfortably.The Best of TSBMAG. Make sure your neck. not pushed out forward Stand straight and tall. Keep your shoulders straight. with shoulders upright. Align your back with the back of the office chair. But we know by now that "Rockstar Posture" is crucial for a superstar… here are some more ways you can improve in these areas. Be sure the head is square on top of the neck and spine. not with weight on the heels. Tuck the chin in a little to keep the head level. Avoid locking your knees. the head is carried too far forward (anterior head carriage). In this position. These 3 areas are sitting. Sitting • • Sit in an office chair. • • • • • Keep feet slightly apart. Avoid slouching or leaning forward. • • • Standing Stand with weight mostly on the balls of the feet. about shoulder-width. Let arms hang naturally down the sides of the body.

37 . Standing in front of a mirror for a couple days practicing won't get you lasting results. Keep shoulders properly aligned with the rest of the body. fear. And we all know how hard habits are to break. Avoid pushing your head forward. The most important thing to realize when working on improving your posture is that bad posture is like a bad habit. It is probably most effective if you find a way to constantly be reminding yourself to be in tune with it. set your phone alarm to go off randomly as a reminder." This statement is powerful because not only does it acknowledge the fact that we can read other people by simply looking into their eyes. Each of these emotions are easily expressed through our eyes. If this is really the case. Our eyes reveal more about us than any other part of our body. then doesn't is make sense to have them hypnotized by your eyes and your understanding of their wants and desires? You can do this by using your eyes to build rapport. The Eyes One of the most important and critical components of displaying powerful and confident body language is the eyes. or keep an index card in your pocket with the words "Rock Star Posture" on it. There is an accepted idea that most people will judge other people within the first five seconds of meeting them. but that other people can read us by looking into ours. Just be glancing into someone's eyes you can often tell what is going on inside their mind.Social Superstar Walking • • Keep the head up and eyes looking straight ahead. disgust. There are six basic emotions in the human race. anger. and create a feeling of arousal in the person you are trying to attract. Tie a string on your finger. A glance into someone's eyes can often reveal if they are experiencing happiness. surprise. This means that for a couple months it is necessary that you are consciously aware of your posture. or sadness. If you want lasting results you need to find a way to engrain this into your mind for a couple months. The eyes are often referred to as "the windows to the soul.

and the various rules and insights that go along with the process. For instance. This acknowledgement could come in the form of a smile. all of the experts will agree that strong eye contact indicates a powerful presence. 38 . and moving past the men they are not. When you intentionally break eye contact. do so by looking down. Keep the focus of attention on the person you are talking to. then chances are you misunderstood her eye contact. you should always give one in return if you are interested. or eye brow raise. will casually scan the room. Women on the other hand. Looking up in response to a question or while telling a story is fine. In this chapter I want to give you some various pointers in regards to the use of eye contact in regards to body language. But eye contact in regards to picking up women is something that I will discuss more later. or to the right. In later chapters we will go into more details about picking up women. But it is important to know how to correctly use that eye power as to not intimidate or scare away the person that you are trying to attract. When you are talking to anyone it is generally accepted that you use the 70% rule in the United States. Caress your partner with your eyes as you gaze into their eyes. If you don't get an acknowledgement back. nod.COM When it comes to presenting confident body language. giving second glances to the men they are interested. 70% of the time you will at the other person in the "eyes triangle. do not break to look at another person. and marketing yourself. This is why it is important that if she gives you an acknowledgement. If you make eye contact with a woman it is a good idea to give an acknowledgement to let them know you have noticed and are interested. but looking up to break eye contact is often thought of as waning interest." This triangle extends from the ends of the eyebrows to the tip of this person's nose. As we will discuss in later chapters. In this chapter I want to discuss ways in which you need to continually be aware of how you can use your eyes to your advantage. to the left.The Best of TSBMAG. When you break eye contact. knowing that you are always being watched… it is important to use eye contact correctly and efficiently. men tend to fix their gaze on one or two particular women in a setting… not paying attention to the many other women that might be watching them. It is important to know that men and women have different comfort levels in regards to the amount of eye contact that they are willing to give and receive.

They often contract when discussing issues that bring them sadness. Others rarely interrupt two people engaged in a conversation if they have consistent eye contact. The longer your eye contact. 39 .Social Superstar Here is some scientific research on eye contacted as found in Kevin Hogan's book Irresistible Attraction: • • • • Generally speaking. the more self esteem you are perceived to have. The more eye contact you can maintain. Women engage in more eye contact them men do. Men can improve though. the longer the eye contact between two people. When eye contact decreases mend tend to disclose more and women tend to disclose less. the greater the intimacy that is felt inside. Many shy people never make eye contact at all. Attraction increases as mutual gazing increases. Women are better non-verbal communicators than men. they tend to be more self-disclosing about personal subjects. • • • • • • • Researchers have discovered that one of the most striking differences between people who are socially confident and those who are shy. Pupils also enlarge when people are talking about things that bring them joy or happiness. instead of looking at their conversation partner’s face. is that confident people have much more frequent eye contact with their conversational partners. tending to look downward or away. the higher self esteem you actually rate yourself on. When women are engaged in a great degree of eye contact. Eye contact has been show to be a significant factor in the persuasion process. One reason men aren't as good in reading body language is hat men often communicate sitting or standing side by side and don't see as much non-verbal communication as women do.

you can look at the person’s face without focusing solely on the eyes.The Best of TSBMAG. In many animals. If you glance around the room too much. except in very rare situations. If it really bothers you to look directly into another person’s eyes. If you gaze generally at the eyebrow area or the bridge of the nose. When a person doesn't make eye contact with them. especially Caucasians. prefer to have a lot of eye contact when they are talking with someone. You may find that it eases your own discomfort if you let your vision go slightly out of focus.COM Most North Americans. You don’t need to use a piercing stare. a friendly gaze will do. Avoid intense. not all people who stare piercingly at others mean it as 40 . Although some people use staring intently as a deliberate tactic to intimidate others. your conversation partner may assume that you are bored. If you have difficulty knowing exactly how to make eye contact. While some people have difficulty maintaining eye contact during conversations. a struggle for dominance over another can often be signaled by a staring contest. often making their conversation partners feel very uncomfortable. this is close enough to the eye region that you will appear to be looking at the person’s eyes. even while you are wondering what to say next. others have the opposite problem. In humans too. They stare too intently into other people’s eyes when they are talking to them. be sure to keep looking at that person frequently while you are talking. Whenever you are in conversation with someone. the use of staring is part of a power struggle to determine which animal is dominant over the other. implying that they are untrustworthy. keep the majority of your focus on the other person. prolonged staring into another person’s eyes. North Americans tend to assume that person is hiding something. or that you are looking around for someone else you would rather talk with. you can benefit from practicing in front of a mirror. or look too frequently at other people. When you are speaking with someone who is from a culture that prefers a lot of eye contact. or with another person. particularly at close range. The very phrase "shifty-eyed" connotes a person whose eyes dart around the room. It can be very unpleasant to be on the receiving end of an intense stare.

They want to see your eyes. In many cultures around the world. you can frequently glance away for brief periods. you may have been making your conversation partners very uncomfortable. people of African American and First Nations origin usually prefer to make far less eye contact than Caucasians do.Social Superstar an act of aggression or dominance. this is not true of all people. there are some cultural groups that prefer not to make very much eye contact. If you are dealing with someone who has different cultural practices than what you are used to. Even within North America. There are many countries in the world where looking someone in the eye is considered to be disrespectful and an invasion of privacy. In addition. get ready to take them off. Some people who stare very intently into the eyes of others are quite unaware of the negative impression they are creating. These tips are from Kevin Hogan's Irresistible Attraction. If you wear sunglasses. • Start with your eyes. make an effort to be sensitive to the expectations of the other person if you want to have a smooth relationship. In North America. and by gazing at the entire face as well as the eyes. 41 • . Key Components of Hypnotic eyes These are some ideas that you can take with you for using your eyes as a tool for marketing yourself better. Are they clear or are they bloodshot? People who look at you will notice and the clearer your eyes the more attractive people will perceive you to be. desirable thing to do. Although most North Americans like to have a lot of eye contact with their conversational partner. You can lighten the impression you are making by smiling more often. averting your eyes and keeping them lowered is considered the polite. If you have grown up in a cultural group that expects eye contact. it can be a shock to find out that eye contact is not always welcomed. but ultimately people want to see what they are getting. Hey can add Mystery. nodding. If it has been your habit to stare intently into the eyes of other people without looking away.

This is the version that puts more social pressure on the girl (to qualify herself or retract a remark). consider contacts or surgery. Make the person feel like they are the only person in the room that could possibly catch your eye. subtle shrug of the eyebrows (sometimes held longer) can also be used to express interest. Eyebrow shrug. you are looking away and to the right when you open your eyes. or is expecting a response . Remember the longer they have eye contact with you the more emotional arousal they are experiencing inside. It’s sufficiently mysterious that it gets girls wondering. Raising both eyebrows can be used to show a number of different moods and expressions. Look at the person you are talking to about 70% of the time when communicating with them. hard blink (two eyes). Wink (one eye). or make a note when she shrugs hers at you. Look at a woman from shoulders up and she will think you have depth and personality. This is an easy and effective way of communicating disbelief. “Did you actually just say that?” Two versions: in one. 42 . In the other. Slow.COM • • • • • • If you wear glasses. A quick. 5 non verbal gestures you should master using your eyes 1. 2. Not everyone can do this. If you want to attract someone. the wink is nonetheless a fantastic means of communication. look at them. An eyebrow shrug can signify that a person is surprised. because she’s interested too. A favorite of television rakes and seducers.you can shrug your eyebrows at her to let her know you’re interested. The wink is a great way to respond to a woman when she asks you a question you don’t feel like answering if she’s giving you a hard time… 3. It is often done subconsciously by both men and women . you are looking straight at the girl when you open your eyes .it can almost be used as a dare or challenge.The Best of TSBMAG. Avoid looking at others for any length of time when you are with someone who may be special. People need to see your eyes.this is the more playful (still with some social pressure) version. but most folks can. as in. and shows a strong degree of social confidence and awareness on your part.

These are the elements that make up an interaction. you pull your lips into a half-smile (with one side of your mouth). Squint. and your eyes are in creating a seductive hypnotic presence. You will see that many men who are good with women squint while they are talking to them. What I mean by this is that there are certain rules that you can follow that will always present you in the best possible light. Intrapersonal Communication Rules One of the hallmarks of a superstar is the way in which he interacts with other people. 43 . The squint is a way of saying that you are thinking about something. As we will discuss in future chapters… the ability to talk well is one of the most important characteristics of a superstar. You hold this look and stare at her until she gives into the social pressure. posture. the simple act of selecting where you sit can display dominant alpha characteristics that will also facilitate the communication process. Ultra-skeptical look. But even the interaction itself plays apart in how you come looking out of it. and simultaneously shrugging your eyebrows. Here are some basic rules about choosing your seat in different circumstances.Social Superstar 4. But in there is more to an interaction than just words. If he is left handed sit to his left. Think Don Draper. When most people think of good conversationalists they automatically think the ability to talk well. For instance. 5. Think James Bond. If you look at a woman and squint. In the previous three sections we discussed how critical body language. Basically. it can seem like you are sizing her up and trying to decide if you like her a lot. while kind-of laughing/huffing in a “I can’t believe she said that” way. or alternatively that you doubt the truth or accuracy of something that is being said. as the most socially conscious in the room. This is when you look at a woman like she just said the most retarded thing you’ve ever heard. These guys don't always say a lot but they have the amazing ability to communicate more in glances and movements than most guys do in entire sentences. If you are meeting a client or friend and you know that they are right handed sit to his right. It helps to place them in the position of being the slightly skeptical selector.

Keep performing them over and over again until it feels natural for your face to contort to those specific expressions.COM If you are attempting to persuade another man you should be sitting across from each other. Intimate space is normally defined as an 18 inch bubble around the entire body of the other person. These are the first thing someone notices about you during conversation. There are two solid ways to work on facial expressions. but if positively changes your internal chemistry. This is more "real" than looking in a mirror as you will have the opportunity to see all of your habits in action. you should be seated across from her at a smaller more intimate table. you also stand the risk of losing the focus of the client. A smile not always changes the way people respond to you. Do you find that people often ask you what's wrong? Even when you're completely content? If so it means that you need to seriously work on your facial expressions. sparkling eyes. Similarly. The first is to stand in front of a mirror and try out different expressions. which is 19 inches to 4 feet. and an attentively tilted head are all looks that gain universal approval. When you are communicating with another person you need to be consciously aware of your facial expressions and hand gestures. if you leave the "casual personal" space of the other person. This doesn't mean you can't lean in to share a secret with him or her. A pleasant. The second way to practice facial expressions is with the aid of a video camera. practice them. And these are "features" that are within your control. relaxed countenance that responds to conversation with a natural smile looks of alertness and interest. 44 . Entering this space is done so at your own risk.The Best of TSBMAG. it just means that when you do enter this space you are doing so strategically and with specific intention. This is the ideal way because by videotaping yourself in a social situation you get to see how your face naturally contorts while in conversations. If you are attempting to communicate well with a female in business or a social setting. Whether seated or standing you should stay out of the other person's intimate space. When you find the ones that look best.

For instance. models. This is why you must be conscious of what your hands are saying. The use of a video camera can also really help you identify the body language. darting. and eye contact habits that you may want to work on. Trust me. posture. and from side to side by the width of your shoulders. We will notice things that will probably make us feel embarrassed or ashamed. People from across the room can observe you and learn a lot about you by the way you use your hands in conversation. unfavorable expressions. then you must find new expressions to replace them with. It is much more graceful and relaxing to cup your hands together. the guy who uses flailing. It is at this point that the use of a mirror will come in handy. and perfect your smile. and musicians go through with their stylists and publicist. There is a lot that can be communicated with the hands. Using your hands Some people talk with their hands. and overcome it. Hand gestures generally take place in a square area defined up and down by the waist to the neck. This is exactly the kind of training movie stars. jerking or broad movements pushes people away be defining large space around off limits. nervous gestures such as tapping your fingers on a table and picking at your face or nails can make you look insecure. But it is imperative that you face this. You can continue this process several times until you get rid of all of your nervous ticks. 45 . You need to be your own publicist. It is incredible how much we don't know about ourselves until we carefully study ourselves on film. and then once again have someone record you in a social situation. Work on it. Now you have specific goals that you want to achieve in regards to your facial expressions. Likewise. this will be an uncomfortable exercise for most of us.Social Superstar Once you've identified the habits that you want to change.

and the appearances they’ve made.The Best of TSBMAG. you would need to belong to several trade organizations.COM Chapter 4: Building Your Social Resume Your Objective: The objective of building your social resume is to create massive social proof for yourself. This is why it is taught in the community that you need to create social proof through being the most social guy in 46 . Building an online social resume allows you influence many more people with much less effort. Your Plan: In The Four Hour Work Week Tim Ferriss points out that in today’s world the definition of an expert is largely created through the affiliations he or she belongs to. so that we know how to approach and deal with them. have a bunch of happy customers .and then put that social proof on auto-pilot. and have performed some speaking engagements or received some media coverage relating to the subject. the real estate world. anyone can become an “expert” on any subject in a short period of time. I believe that you should view your social life in the same way. This means that in order to coin yourself an expert in say. With this definition… in all likelihood. the testimonials they have. It is known that girls use this tactic all of the time in bars and clubs to make their judgments on guys. We want to be able to quickly classify a person into a certain group. Building Your Social Resume If you use the above formula for “becoming an expert” and apply it to “becoming a social superstar” you will quickly see your social status sky rocket! We human beings don’t have the time or energy to really dig deeply to find out the truth about someone… so we look for the clues that will make these judgments easy for us.

How do you do this? You do this the same way a so-called expert builds his resume. A couple months ago Mike Stoute. It is a simple theory really. and I added to our social resume when we attended the party at Playboy Mansion. and you make appearances at the right venues. Pete the Freshman. If you want to be viewed as a Social Rockstar… become one! Elements of the resume 47 . as someone would inevitably ask us about it. Immediately after attending the event. Then why did I trek across the country to go there? Simple. and the stories we are now able to continually tell about the experience. The value came from the pictures we took. twittered the news. Within hours of changing our Facebook status to “Partying at the Playboy Mansion” we each had girls we hadn’t spoken to in years leaving us comments and emails with questions like “How did you guys get in the party?” “I heard that it was a private party. and wrote detailed accounts of the experience that we emailed all of our friends. You affiliate with other rockstars. The value in the trip to the Mansion wasn’t the girls we were going to hit on there. Mike. Sure I had a vague curiosity to party at the Mansion… but I knew it wouldn’t be nearly as fun as some of my rendezvous in Brazil. I was further solidifying my position as a Rockstar. who do you know?” and so on. The results were immediate. you get testimonials. Do you think that created some instant social proof? We never even had to bring it up in a conversation. the news of our adventure in the Mansion had already spread like wildfire… and we’re continually pressed and praised about it.Social Superstar the place and then using routines and stories in your conversations that further exemplify your high social status. or even this past Mansformation Weekend. Last week when we attended a reunion at our former college. Pete. and I plastered our Facebook pages with the pictures. While I completely agree with this theory… I believe that you should take it a step further and position yourself as a Rockstar.

If you’re new to it Race and Kelly give a couple fantastic tips for getting hot girls to leave comments on your page.The Best of TSBMAG.com/profile. To a marketer.COM The number one tool that you have in creating your social resume is your Facebook and Myspace accounts. Once you have a platform for showcasing your “proof” you need to start acquiring it. Associations: The people you are perceived to hang out with. For example. my pictures from the Mansion create the image of a guy who is invited to high profile-hard to get into parties. and a list is what connects a marketer to his customers. Facebook is your list. 48 . If you couple these pictures with another group of pictures from one other exclusive event… you’ll be perceived as the kind of guy who regularly attends these sorts of events. proof comes from your associations. If you're on Facebook simply send me a friend request: http://www. your testimonials. people will naturally be talking about you and leaving comments on your page. You probably noticed that I used the word perceived in the above definitions. This is because it is more important to create the image of… then to be consistently living it. The testimonials are easy to get… if you’re living the life. If you don’t have an account…GET ONE! You have to view these accounts as your publicity machine. I could write an entire post about the specifics of creating your Facebook or Myspace profile.mention this manuscript and I will send you a link to an hour long podcast I did with Race de Preist on effectively using Facebook to meet women. a list is what creates sales… a list is what spreads word of mouth. This is an area you do not want to slack off in. and your appearances. Appearances: The places you are perceived to be spending your time. Testimonials: What other people are saying about you.facebook. Remember.php?id=515434783 When I receive your friend request. You have to view your Facebook friends as a master marketer views his list. but you’re better off learning from an expert. These two accounts (I prefer Facebook) will be constantly marketing your unique selling points.

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Your Plan: Decide exactly what kind of guy you want to be If you really intend on changing your identity and thriving in a social world.The Best of TSBMAG. and being. and commitments that your time is extremely limited. thinking. passions. This must all be completely fleshed out. The attitude and values you possess on the inside will directly relate to the way you are perceived on the outside. Your attitude should convey the fact that you "are going places" and probably won't be around this scene forever. feeling.you must never verbally tell them or act in a way that you feel you are superior to them and will leave them behind. The attitude you present to the world should establish you as a likeable person. Once you create a well-thought out. 50 . Your attitude should sub consciously tell the people within your scene that you are a scarce commodity. you must first be fully aware of how you intend on looking. You must ask yourself the critical questions: What would my "new self" think in this situation? What would he say? How would he act? And at all times you need live and breathe that identity. You need to have a clear vision of your end result if you intend on getting there. acting. but down on paper as well. not only in your mind. Building up your inner game will be make you the kind of person people like to be around. It is important to remember that other people must be lead to believe this on their own.COM Chapter 5: The Attitude (liking + scarcity) Your Objective: The objective of your attitude is to establish both liking and scarcity.description of the person you intend on becoming… you need to keep this vision in your mind as often as possible. It should convey that you are so focused on your own goals.

All of the negative memories we are going to leave behind. It is your job to not only be concentrating your mind on being this person…. There is no use re-living them. You've already learned everything you need to learn from them. Focus on your past successes instead of failures In the quest to reinvent your identity you'll need to leave behind the failures. no matter how big or small. Anchor vibrant energetic states Personally I find most aspects of NLP unhelpful and annoying… but I have found a great use for the idea of anchoring vibrant energetic states. Every accomplishment you achieve. when asking yourself how "the new you" would act… you can factor in the quality of perseverance. You'll notice that as the list grows. and second guessing. but actively acting in the way you'd imagine this person to act. And in the future.Social Superstar Many books will tell you to merely think it enough… and you're subconscious will magically turn you into him. 51 . You need to collect as many of these memories and write them down as vividly and descriptively as possible. As much as people say "repeat I'm confident over and over" that will not work unless you have some cold hard facts to back it up. ask yourself "what did I learn" and write down your answer in as a positive statement. doubts. If you quit something before finishing it… instead of saying "I'm a failure" simply say. But in order to maintain the qualities that uniquely make you… you. As for your mistakes and failures… as they come along. Then forget the failure and move on. The positive memories create the foundation of your confidence. By creating this list. you in essence backing up your claim that you are confident and allowing yourself to act that way without feeling like a fraud. "I learned that success comes from perseverance" And then add that to the quality of the kind of guy you want to be if it isn't already listed. This will be a never ending habit. you'll need to take with you your previous successes and accomplishments. will be added to this list. Were you the spelling bee champion in the 2nd great? Did you hit the winning home run in a little league game? Score a hot chick? Tell a funny joke? These are going to form your new identity. so will your confidences.

For some strange reason the universe loves the concept of momentum… and slumps. runny nose. Whenever you have a success. while standing or moving around. but I haven’t been able to do that… so I wouldn't want to give you advice that I cannot personally verify as being true. making it that much easier to have another success. I tended to bring back that exercise high I used to only experience at the gym. and creating a success journal… but you also need take advantage of the momentum that each success brings. then it would go without saying that the one of the most important aspects of self confidence is peak physical health. run down. You need to keep the success momentum going. cough. There are people who claim to be able to anchor specific feelings to a certain touch. your confidence is increased. stomach ache. We've already talked about focusing on past success. and I used to listen to the same songs over and over while I ran on the treadmill at the gym. You should continually be building on every success you have.The Best of TSBMAG. the more likely we are to radiate these traits outward. the core attribute your looking to build upon is your sense of self worth and confidence. The more vibrant and energetic we feel inside. or soreness. Because certain songs tended to pump me up. before leaving the bar instigate a few more conversations. If you are interested in learning more about anchoring check out a book on the subject. My Ipod only had a few songs on it at the time. I was unconsciously anchoring these songs to a feeling of an adrenaline rush. Experience Peak Health If self confidence and esteem really come from the inside out. Without knowing it.COM I came across this idea by accident. Never be content with just one success. This is the foundation for everything. If you have a good conversation with a girl at bar. 52 . I later found that if I listened to these songs. It is extremely hard to get into state when you're tired. have a headache. During that period of raised confidence it is important to attempt to achieve another form of success. Build on little successes In the beginning of your identity make over. I played them more often during the point of the work out where my adrenaline was peaked.

get in the habit of eating oatmeal and Green tea. If your body is run down from eating badly and not exercising.. greasy. Don't look at it like you're on a diet. Eating healthy Exercise is critical. This means there are no excuses. Look at is simply as the way you eat. you still go. gassy. your mind will often follow right behind it." This saying has a lot of truth to it. If you are consistently filling up on McDonalds. The trick to starting an exercise and healthful eating habit is to make it a must. If you're hung over… you still go. You'll often feel bloated. You must force yourself to change your diet permanently. There is a saying "you are what you eat.. Instead of having a Taylor ham and cheese bagel and coffee for breakfast. If you're on vacation… you still go. and your 53 . Exercise 2. If you find yourself consistently making excuses as to why you missed a workout. Also. Eating healthy. and Chinese food… your body will respond accordingly. your level of motivation. Once you break your old pattern you will find that the oatmeal fills you up just as much as the bagel and the Green Tea energizes you more than the coffee. like exercise has to be a must. the easier it will become. Taco Bell. You will find that once you get into a consistent exercise habit your confidence will begin to sky rocket. Even without the long term health benefits of changing your diet and exercise you will feel an immediate benefit in the amount of energy you possess. the clarity of your mind. The more discipline you prove you have to yourself. tired. you will begin to accept this behavior from yourself. exercise provides you with an opportunity to anchor vibrant states to yourself as we spoke of earlier. If its snowing out. The two keys to peak health: 1.Social Superstar This is why it is important to treat your body like a temple. every day you find time to get to the gym. pizza. Think about the last time you finished off a Big Mac or a big dish of General Tso's… did you feel like you could conquer the world? Did you feel attractive? Many people don't realize that a big source of their depression stems from their lack of physical health. and unmotivated.

in nice clothes. Then once they got to work. Later in the day when it was time to leave. This is how they separated themselves from their job. But then I came to understand that this was how they kept their dignity. At first I never understood why they bothered. in dirty clothes.COM increased pride in yourself discipline. Stay Well Groomed. I soon discovered that I was often depressed and felt very discouraged with myself. These benefits carry over into all areas of your life. and change back into their nice clothes before heading home. In the chapter on making yourself more attractive I gave many hints on how you can increase your physical attractiveness. trimming my nose hairs. Say yes to yourself As children we so often hear the word "no" or "you can't" that we grow up inflicting ourselves with these words." 54 . they would wash up. tanning. they would change into their work clothes. You need to look in the mirror and be proud of how you come across. what is the point of shaving. Because the one and only person you really need to impress is yourself. unkempt guy. I used to have the mentality that if I'm not going to see anyone.The Best of TSBMAG. and would feel like that was all I was. But this was a horrible mentality to have. When we want to buy something we want a voice appears in our head saying "no you can't afford that" or "shouldn't you buy something more useful?" When we want to talk to a girl or apply for a job a voice in our head says "don't. What I want you to get out of this section is that it is always important to look and feel your best. What I noticed though was that a couple of my Spanish employees would come to work every day looking sharp. I would look in the mirror and see a scruffy. or keeping up my appearance the day's I was working. plucking my eyebrows. Because my job entailed me to where old painter's clothes and often find myself covered in paint… I would often decide that it wasn't worth shaving. Well Dressed I discovered this principle when I was working as a paint contractor. This will keep you motivated and inspired. doing my hair. or wearing nice clothes. fixing my hair nice. even when no one is watching.

Do you really enjoy playing World of Warcraft 7 hours a day… or is it easier than admitting to yourself that you're scared to talk to girls. This means that quitting a dead end part time job and focusing 100% on your dream. It means cutting off your "booty call" and finding a girl that inspires you. Whatever it is that we want we are often the first person to talk ourselves out of it.. some guys its porn. or one professor to see your hidden brilliance in a subject. We tell ourselves all of the same excuses that our parents told us." "You can get it next year" How can you ever get what you really want if you are your own biggest obstacle in achieving it? The step to reversing this is to practice saying yes to yourself. It also means eliminating your crutches…. for some guys it fantasy football.Social Superstar We are unconsciously embedding the word no into our minds. Get in the habit of allowing yourself to have the things you want. how much would this have improved your life? It only takes one great employer to give you a chance despite your shoddy resume. or our teachers or relatives told us. It means going for broke. 55 . Crutches are things that we use to avoid reality. For some guys their crutch is video games. While there is nothing wrong with having a hobby… the problem arises when you hide yourself in your hobby. It will reshape the way you live your life. or one beautiful women to fall in love with you. Apply for a job that you have no qualifications for. If you didn't have yourself in your ear telling you "no" how many more girls would you have approached? How many more classes would you have taken? Jobs applied for? Friends made? Even if you only achieved a fraction of the extra dreams you went for. or apply yourself. This will set precedence. and bam your life is changed. Order whatever it is you want on the menu regardless of price. "You're too young" "You only wind up breaking it" "You'll hurt yourself" "You'll lose it" "You have to be fair" "You can't afford it. Eliminate Your Crutch/Burn Your Ships To fully develop unstoppable inner game and the winning attitude it is necessary to burn our ships and get rid of our crutches. They are the place that we crawl back to avoid facing defeat in other areas.

The Best of TSBMAG. Embrace Your Passions 56 . I would head over to the restaurant and drink with my buddies. Say something that surprises you. Push yourself past your comfort zone daily Look at yourself like a rubber band. You won't feel trapped. friends. and unlimited females to interact with and date. close friends. At the time. whenever I experienced a set back at the real estate agency I was working at. think outside the box. then say something unexpected in one of the conversations you are involved in. Yet. Try something zany even if it doesn't work this time it will train your mind to look for new ways of doing things. it is just important that you push yourself past it daily. Not only does this help you grow as a person. or got frustrated with the screenplay I was writing. You have to find out what your ships and crutches are. The job provided me with a solid wad of cash every week. How do you achieve this? This push yourself one step further every day. I knew deep inside that if I kept working there I would stay comfortable and never achieve my goals of running a successful business or publishing a book.COM The hardest thing I ever had to do a few years back was quit the restaurant I was working in. You'll begin to look forward to each day as you'll find yourself continually surprising yourself. It doesn't matter what your comfort zone is any area. run an extra minute.. make an effort to initiate one more conversation every day. crank out an extra rep or two. All was always good there. Things won't get boring. If you're going to the gym. and dates) but it also meant eliminating my crutch. If you are trying to conquer shyness. If you're working on a project. It is important that you push yourself past at least one comfort zone daily. If you don't have the opportunity to initiate an extra conversation. Quitting the job not only meant burning my ships (as the job provided me with money. and then burn them. Life will no longer seem repetitive. but it makes your life exciting. add a bit more resistance. The objective is to stretch yourself into the largest and greatest rubber band of all time.

or paint. If you want to travel the world… pick one place right now and set a goal to visit it. you might not be able to do it in the same capacity now. If you would write children's books… start writing one now. this freedom. or volunteer for worthy causes.Social Superstar I will go more into detail about embracing your passions in the section on being an interesting person. What sparks you? Most people think if they won that kind of money that they would want to retire on a beach somewhere… but often when they really think of it. or travel the world. they'll decide something completely different. energizing reason to get out of bed every morning does amazing things for your self esteem. Sure. In a later chapter I have reproduced that exercise for you. In Tim Ferriss's book The Four Hour Work Week he gives an exercise called Dreamlining which allows you to see approximately how much money you will need to make to finance your dreams. then you're letting yourself down. or train for the Olympics. How do you find your passion? Think to yourself "what would I be doing if I suddenly won $150 million in the lottery. and then envision yourself in different scenarios. or write music. This is not the case. the more it shows on the outside. Let it power you. Once you visit that place. 57 . When you find something that drives you… go with it. withdrawn. You'll often find that achieving life goals and dreams doesn't cost nearly as much as you think. unproductive life. or open a bar where they know everyone. Having a solid. set a goal to visit another place. Really get inside your mind. You might find that hour becomes your most cherished of the day. Maybe they decide they want to write children's books. Really dwell on it. imagine you have this money. but plant the seed of passion in your mind. Let it drive you. But in this section I just want to remind you that the more inspired you are on the inside. If you don't live up to your own standards. You are the only judge of what is important for you. Only Seek Approval from Yourself Many people misinterpret the advice to "not care what people think" to be advice recommending living a slovenly. The trick is to find whatever you would do if time and money were not an object and do it now. Spend an hour every night writing. Don't jump at the first thought that comes into your mind.

COM You can't please everyone. the more you wind up pleasing no one. And the more you try to please everyone. The first and foremost person you need to please is yourself. 58 . This is not advice to be selfish. It is simply advice to live life on your terms and not let the whims of the masses affect your ability to make decisions.The Best of TSBMAG.

which ultimately you must do to demonstrate that you are cool.you must convey three weapons of influence. And how do you demonstrate that you are cool? Be interesting! 59 . These weapons are liking. captivating or cool. They want to be told what to do. above all you must be likeable. your influence over them will run thin… and you will also not enjoy yourself around them nearly as much.the kind of person that people want to be around. But looking cool doesn’t make you cool. And most importantly they want someone to look up to. They want to be led.but decided that cool is subjective and people might not understand it as a standalone definition. People are like sheep. If they don't like you.Be Cool. What makes someone cool? Well everything we talked about in the previous chapter “Look the Part” definitely plays a huge part in appearing cool. You must get other people to like you. The final ingredient to being captivating is possessing a sense of authority. and authority. scarcity. Looking cool is a good way to get people to take notice. They are most fascinated and attached to what they can't have.Social Superstar Chapter 5: Be Captivating (liking + scarcity + authority) Your Objective: In order to be interesting. If you want to be captivating. The second weapon of influence you must use is that of scarcity. People get bored and uninterested in what is always around. Your Plan: I was originally going to call this chapter.

There just doesn’t seem to be anything deeper than the pretty exterior. fantasy football. this is the easiest to immediately implement. collecting comic books. rock climbing. We can choose anything. Some people will take this the wrong way and think they have to load up on useless facts and knowledge… ala Mystery’s “Did you know fish cough?” routine. If you want to be a Social Superstar it is crucial that you become the most interesting person in the room. hacking into highly secured computer networks. Why? Because as pretty as they can be… they’re usually like talking to a wall. So how do you “be interesting” you ask? Here are some traits of interesting people that we will explore further: Interesting hobbies Interesting profession Contradictory character traits The dirty little secret Fearless Says less than necessary No where you’re going Never appear too perfect Have interesting hobbies Out of all of the traits. While they all can be fun and rewarding… how interesting do these hobbies make you appear to other people? What if your hobbies included: Playing in a cover band. Some people choose playing Halo 3.The Best of TSBMAG. World of Warcraft. or golf as a hobby. What we choose to make our hobbies is our choice.COM Wallflowers are rarely cool. surfing. or race car driving? Do you think other people would take a tad bit more interest in you? 60 . tango dancing. world travel. While devouring interesting facts and storing them away for appropriate times can make you sound interesting and does play a small part in a Social Superstar repertoire…it is more important that you be interesting. volunteer relief aid work. snowboarding.

It is actually pretty boring to watch. A guy who chooses to learn and compete in tango dancing competitions is an oddity. Are you starting to get the idea? What you choose to make your hobby tells other people a lot about your personality. It is your choice to pursue that hobby which makes you interesting. or struggling to surf. This is where the value of this lesson comes in.Social Superstar Your immediate reaction might be to say that simply faking an interest in a hobby is enough. or flying around the world is not enough. Your hobbies give other people the ability to make a snapshot judgment of your personality traits. It’s not. How many girls admire your dedication to World of Warcraft? How many of those same girls would admire your dedication to volunteering to perform relief work after various catastrophes? What you choose to do with your free time says more about you then anything that comes out of your mouth. Merely going through the motions of rock climbing. You may ask what is more interesting about surfing than golf. or traveling the world? Maybe words like: Adventurous Passionate 61 . what personality traits do you associate with someone who spends their free time surfing. You need to develop a passion for them that radiates from within your core being. The hobby itself is not what makes you interesting. This is a guy who marches to the beat of a different drummer. There is nothing fundamentally fascinating about rock climbing. You need to develop passion for these things. What would personality traits would most people attach to someone whose hobby was following major league sports or playing video games or golf? Now. And most people are compelled to know why? How many people are genuinely curious as to why you spend your free time shuffling around your fantasy football roster? Not many I would assume. But there is something unique and interesting about the type of guy who chooses to spend his free time rock climbing while his friends are sitting in front of a computer playing video games. playing in a cover band. This is a guy who goes against the grain.

You can run a general Google search and see what comes up. determination. These new acquaintances might open your eyes to entirely new horizons. and ability to live life outside the comfort zone that is so fascinating to us. The wonderful thing about entering one of these groups is that it presents you with an opportunity to meet new and exciting people that you normally would not have come in contact with. rock star? Who says you can’t be? In our times it is possible to make a hobby out of any possible thing you may have an interest in. Take some time for a moment and think about the kind of words people would use to describe you. and interesting hobbies is not as hard as it may seem. My first recommendation is to choose a few things that you have a genuine interest in. Are you a sheep? 62 . Most people are confined to the day to day activities that make up their comfort zone. What were some of your childhood dreams you gave up on? Did you want to be an archeologist like Indiana Jones. And even better. you can run a Yahoo Groups or Google Groups search and see if there is already a group of people discussing it. They are a rare commodity in a world where most people act like mindless sheep following along with the herd.The Best of TSBMAG. you’re likely to find a group of people that have made a hobby out of the same exact thing to share experiences with. It is amazing what you find when you begin to step outside of your comfort zone. In the late Randy Pausch’s Last Lecture he talks about rediscovering your childhood dreams as a way to bringing fulfillment to your life.COM Free spirited Thrill seeking Interesting people are often associated with these sorts of words. a space explorer. exciting. It is their drive.com for groups in your area. This is what makes these “interesting” people so extraordinary. cave dweller. or you can visit specialized travel sites to see what kind of adventure travel they offer. computer hacker. The best way to find out the potential of turning one of your childhood dreams into a current hobby is to begin by searching around the internet. Finding new. you can search meetup.

and doing (visiting Thailand. material wants: house. Some people call this “developing character. but it will also help you understand the means it will take to achieve your dreams.” Others will call it “maturity.). don't put down solving world hunger out of guilt. for others fortune or prestige. If you pick a hobby that continually challenges you and forces you to continually dig deep inside to persist… you will grow as a person. etc.6 months and 12 months.Social Superstar There are more benefits to exploring a new and exciting hobby other than being perceived as interesting. You will be looked as sort of an authoritative figure. and do not concern yourself with how these things will be accomplished. as most will. This is an exercise in reversing repression. be fluent in Chinese. the dream will be fame. but not limited to. Be sure not to judge or fool yourself. If you really want a Ferrari. For some. You will seem to possess a wisdom normally reserved for wise old men. clothing.). If you have difficulty identifying what you want in some categories. For now. What would you do if there was no way you could fail? If you were 10 times smarter than the rest of the world Create two timelines.let alone climb to the top of Mount Everest. The sad truth is that most people don’t even finish a book that they startlet alone persist long enough to make it to the finals of a surf competition in Hawaii. All people have their vices and 63 . consider what you hate or fear in each and write down the opposite.) in that order. I am going to take the next section directly from Tim Ferriss's book and urge you follow this advice and create your dreamlines. racing ostriches. etc. Do not limit yourself. being (be a great cook. And most people don’t travel out of their state – let alone backpack across South East Asia. Dreamlining In Tim Ferriss's brilliant book "The Four Hour Work Week" he gives a phenomenal exercise that will not only help you develop your passion.” No matter what name you give it the results are the same. car.and list up to five things you dream of having (including. Most people quit a fitness routine a few weeks after beginning. its unimportant. tracing your roots overseas. etc. There is a certain amount of unsaid respect and admiration for the man or woman who does these things.

day to day.COM insecurities. If still blocked. fill in the five "doing" spots with the following: • • • • • One place to visit One thing to do before you die (memory of a lifetime One thing to do daily One thing to do weekly One thing you've always wanted to learn What does "being" entail doing? Convert each "being" into a "doing" to make it actionable. People find it easier brainstorm "being" first. If something will improve your feeling of self worth. Repeat the process with the 12 month timeline if desired. put it down.think about if for a few minutes. if you had $100 million in the bank? b) What would make you excited to wake up in the morning to another day? Don't rush. 64 . consider these questions: a) What would you do. most people have a lot of trouble coming up with the defined dreams they're being held from. Identify an action that would characterize this state of being or task that would mean you have achieved it. Drawing a blank? For all their bitching about what's holding them back. Here are a few examples: Great cook = make Christmas dinner without help Fluent in Chinese = have a five minute conversation with a Chinese coworker What are the four dreams that would change it all? Using the six month timeline. star or otherwise highlight the four most exciting and/or important dreams from all the columns. In that case.The Best of TSBMAG. This is particularly true with the "doing" category. but this column is just a temporary spot for "doing" actions.

This is a good introduction to dreamlining and illustrates how it can create the needed momentum to set you on the right direction towards achieving your life goals. The variable change too much and in-the future distance becomes an excuse for postponing action. The objective of this exercise isn't. and living like a superstar. I generally set 3-month and six month dreamlines. You are much more than your occupation. Define three steps for each dream that will get you closer to its actualization. Far too many people let their jobs define who they are as a person.” or “I’m a real estate agent. In fact. Each should be simple enough to do in five minutes or less. we are cutting ourselves short. but to define the end goal. And very few jobs are glamorous.com Have an Interesting Profession This one is a lot more difficult to control than finding an interesting hobby. let's focus on those critical first steps. CEO of a fortune 500 company. the required vehicle to achieve them and build momentum with critical first steps.” or “I’m tech support.Social Superstar Determine three steps for each of the four dreams in just the six month timeline and take the first steps now. But for the rest of us. Once you have three steps for each of the four goals. But why not choose a profession that genuinely interests you? Chances are if it genuinely interests you… it probably is interesting to other people as well. I would never recommend choosing a profession simply because it sounds glamorous. Set actions-simple. This happens after years of naming your current profession when asked “what do you do?” If you say “I’m a painter. 65 . The truth is we all have to earn a living. actor. Do it now. CIA agent.” or name any other job too many times you begin to identify yourself with your job. Identifying yourself with your job is fine if you’re a rock star. tomorrow and the day after. or astronaut. I'm not a believer in long-term planning and far-off goals. well-defined actions-for now. For the continuation of this exercise pick up a copy of "The Four Hour Work Week" or visit fourhourworkweek. If you fall into the unglamorous and mundane… do not be defined by your work. If not rachet it down. to outline every step from start to finish. complete the three actions in the "now" column. First. therefore.

Passion is not only contagious. I simply want to point out the fact that if you’re in a boring. I would concentrate more on finding a job that you’re passionate about rather than choosing a job strictly for conversation pieces. In the pickup/seduction community there is a lot of talk about demonstrating higher value. death trap of job… you have options. Do not kid yourself into believing that you don’t. mundane. street artist… and so on. I would spend more energy on finding interesting hobbies. I’ve made a short list of examples below: • • • • • • • FBI Agent Firefighter Archeologist Any job in film. There are countless examples of interesting lower paying jobs out there like tour guide. if you are truly passionate about it. but it is a vehicle for putting your charisma and enthusiasm on display. Even if the job sounds like the most boring job on the planet. I would recommend at the very least finding a job that you’re passionate about. Hobbies tell more about you anyway… because they are what you choose to do on your free time. or television Airline pilot Reporter (for legitimate magazine or newspaper) Public Speaker These are just few of the better paying jobs. If you've follow the advice laid out above in regards to discovering your passions and creating hobbies 66 .COM I could spend fifty pages trying to talk you into following your dream profession and why it is completely possible that you attain it… but that is beyond the scope of this book. skydiving instructor. If you’re starting from scratch and a curious about some examples of interesting jobs. So while the job itself might not be glamorous… you will appear glamorous performing it. music.The Best of TSBMAG. that will shine through. Interesting Skills A social superstar has the keen ability to keep everyone in the room focused on him.

and eventually choose the right card. bars.Social Superstar around them. continue his performance for a bit. I am going to list this trick along with several other types of skills and routines you can learn to captivate an audience. While everyone's attention was on Daryl. He would then lay out 7 cards on a table or floor. He would sell the trick well by really smelling the cards and acting as if he was looking for a clue on the card. there must be a place for them in this book. He would then invite someone to take part in the trick. For these guys. It was a trick that they worked together on. I suggest taking the advice of some of the most popular dating coaches and gurus and learn some routines that you can bust out at parties. I'm not 67 . show it to everyone in the room and then put it back in the row of 7 cards. you will most likely already be developing some interesting traits and skills that are all your own. realize that was the card. it is important to pick skills that are congruent with your personality. Daryl would leave the room while the person chose the card. The Sniffing Card Trick This trick requires a silent partner. Kevin would subtly scratch his nose when Daryl sniffed the right card. Basically Daryl would pull out a deck of cards and shuffle them around for a bit. When Daryl came back to the room he would begin sniffing each card. and gathering that will make you stand out from the crowd. Other Magic Tricks I have never been big on magic tricks. As with all of the different skills I will list. Daryl would notice Kevin scratching his nose. In my college days I had two good friends Daryl and Kevin who mastered one simple card trick that had audiences captivated every time they performed it. Magic tricks worked for Mystery because he was genuinely passionate about magic. and never revealed the secret of how they accomplished it until years later. For some guys it takes awhile to fully integrate themselves into a new hobby or passion to the point that they feel it will benefit them in social gatherings. My two friends Daryl and Kevin pulled this off for years in college without anyone ever catching onto it. Daryl would tell the person to pick out one of the cards. but with the popularity behind them do to legendary pick up artist Mystery. I saw Daryl perform the trick countless times and no one ever figured it out.

Learn to Play or Sing one song You're at a bar.penguinmagic. all swooning over the shitty cover band up on stage. If the band doesn't seem to be biting. During one of the set breaks you start bullshitting with the band. You're a fun social guy though. Most cover bands are just looking to build a following.com http://www.The Best of TSBMAG. and men want to be friends with.COM saying that you have to have a desire to be a magician to perform magic tricks. they will try to appease you. make up some bullshit about "leaving town. maybe a round of shots. and boat loads of hotties. buy them all a drink.. The kind of guy women want to fuck. The trick to this is to learn one song that most cover bands will know… and love to play. Play to their egos. www.com/2006/10/29/demonstrate-higher-value-withlevitation-trick/ You can also view more magic trick videos by going to Youtube and searching "magic tricks. but you must have some real interest in the subject matter. They 68 .tsbmag.. and how much you miss being up on stage. your birthday. Think Jessie's Girl.com and purchase some of the tricks that the pros use on stage. John Bon Jovi wanna be seems to have his pick of the litter tonight. co-workers.tsbmag. just getting over a really bad break up…" and 5 out of 10 times the band will invite you on stage to sing the song. If they sense that you're the kind of guy who rolls with a large entourage.com/2006/10/31/demonstrate-higher-value-withtorn-card-trick/ http://www. introduce them to some of your hot female friends." If you are serious about learning magic and want to try your skills with some more professional tricks you can go to www. If you believe that magic tricks are something that you would like to add to your repertoire of skills you can find some videos of a few good ones on our companion site. which will allow them to charge more money for their appearances. There is also a wonderful resource for guys looking to use magic to improve their game called PUMA Skills.tsbmag. in hopes that you will encourage your crew to be their new groupies. The long haired. You casually mention how you sing "insert song you've practiced a million times" really well. its jampacked with friends.

It is important to master the one that comes most naturally to you. Video tape yourself and fine tune your body language and how you carry yourself on stage. 69 . Sometimes parties will have stray guitars or pianos. Which really comes down to mastering a few chords. Just find one of your more talented friends or family members to teach you the song. with your audience wanting more! The Superstar's Guide to Being Funny There are many different types of humor. Best of all… you leave the social encounter on a high note. There is no reason you both can't share the stage for a moment. and make you seem just that much more naturally cool. Practice in front of a mirror. Sure. Make it the staple of your karaoke choices. some people will scream for you to play another song. and some party goer will wow everyone with his rendition of chop sticks from Big. which is a pleasant characteristic of a super star. When you get on stage to kick ass with the band… it is should come as total shock… which will amplify the effect. and record it so that you can listen and fine tune." You'll come off as modest. You also need to have a good stage presence. This same idea can be applied to musical instruments as well. Even throw in a line like "I'd play all night… but that wouldn't be fun for anyone else. The first criterion for this is that you have a decent voice and a good sense of rhythm. You are not to tell anyone about your ability to sing. When the party rolls around feel free to strum away. you best rock the house. This means that you have to spend a fair amount of time perfecting this one song. But you don't have to get really good.Social Superstar want to be social superstars too. Practice it often. You just have to get really good at playing one song. Why not blow them away with something really good? Most people study for years to get really good at the guitar. Just simply refuse… tell them you don't want to steal the thunder from the party. Anybody with a little patience can spend a few days perfecting one song on the guitar or piano. If you get up on stage.

The Best of TSBMAG. you can learn to recognize it. When he's responding to a question. If you sense that the people around you don't respond to your jokes.) The funnier you are. Because Vince Vaughn has really mastered this character. You begin to expect a certain reaction.COM Being funny is not a prerequisite for a social superstar (Being fun to be around is though. Humor cannot be forced or it's uncomfortable. you can get laughs simply be being yourself. He has developed the character of "smart ass. and put it out at appropriate times. or there tends to be a lot of uncomfortable silences after you deliver your lines… stop! You'll have an easier time just being the cool serious guy… then the unfunny jokester. Develop a character "Humor doesn't go into a character is comes out of him. The humor actually flows more from the 70 . or making an observation on something he's witnessing." If you think about the funniest performers most of them have at least one memorable character who makes you laugh before he even says anything… because you already know what his reaction will be. humor comes much more easily for him. I do think that if you learn a little bit about humor. Let's use Vince Vaughn as an example. Everyone and I mean everyone loves being around someone that consistently makes them laugh. Think about the people you most enjoy spending time with… more than likely they will be the people that you laugh the most around. Laughing feels good. he just has to ask himself what would "a smart ass" say? It is important if you want to be funny that you have a character and that you stick with the character. And often times you'll find yourself laughing before he's said anything. While I don't think that spur of the moment jokes can be taught to someone who doesn't naturally think that way. you can almost feel what his reaction will be before he makes it. With it. Without a character." When you're watching one of his movies or listening to him speak in an interview. the easier it will be to infiltrate new social circles. That being said. A character needs a trademark or point of view that does not change. there is a lot of arguments over whether or not comedy can be taught. People hate bad comedy. Humor is a polarizing thing… while being funny can make you extremely popular… trying to be funny when you're not can crush your social dreams. you're simply a recite of jokes.

the humor will come with how the character is interacting with the world. The character is where 90% of the humor flows from.jerk. The humor comes from your characters interaction with the world. And they're not seeking approval. Most funny people are not trying to be funny. Because once you "nail" the character. If you keep trying to see if your audience likes it will probably backfire on you. They are actually "being" the character. especially if they can tell you're trying to use it to get their approval. My whole character was the arrogant-what's in it for me. the interactions. In order to make this concept work you must believe it and act congruently." I based the humor off of Vince Vaughn.humor will naturally flow out of it. No 71 .Social Superstar character. You will probably find that they have a standard character that they have become. For many years I developed the character of "daddy. The ones David DeAngelo mentioned above are particularly good for dealing with women. Or your character's interaction with your thoughts. Here are some roles that David DeAngelo recommends trying out or testing… The I'm superior to you character An assumed or fake position of authority The character of the victim of her seduction The cold guy. the straight man The guy who only wants to know what's in it for him A high maintenance chick The ultimate authority and commentator on wussy guys Imitating the women you're with Becoming devil's advocate and promoting bad behavior She needs adult supervision As you can see that by merely immersing yourself in any of these characters. Think about the funniest people you know. You can't go into character. It won't work if you approach it tentatively and try it… it will actually backfire. do it for a little while. If you can get the character down. then all of the funny stuff starts taking care of itself. Or your characters interaction with another person. I was able to make that character work really well. get a laugh… then leave it. and responses than from the jokes.

I'm not a firm believer that books can teach you how to be funny. Also pay attention to the connections he makes. But your best bet is to head out often to the local theatre or club and watch some standup comedy live. This 6 CD set will leave you with more material than you can begin to use. It lets you observe the power of delivery and timing. Watching Movies. allowing funny sarcastic lines to flow out of you. This allows you to observe the reactions of those around you. Louie CK. If you're one of those guys pick up the book "Comedy Writing Secrets.The Best of TSBMAG.COM matter what character you choose. For instance." Cocky Comedy Course: David DeAngelo's cocky comedy course is a brilliant way to learn the art of cocky comedy. exhibiting only one facet: the alpha jock. you have to know fundamental people skills so that you are "liked. And they’ll likely try to push you along into one. the brainiac. but a social superstar needs to transcend a type. the tortured musician. or playing in a blues band on weekends. But they can teach you the underlying principles of what makes people laugh. Read Books. because people love to classify people into types.are you picturing formal suits and furrowed forehead? Long hours. lots of technical gadgets like a Blackberry. Have Contradictory Character Traits No one is less compelling than a person in life who acts like a million other characters you’ve encountered. Learn to see the world through his eyes. Pay attention to his delivery. and a whole lot of excess cash? Well. and you'll begin thinking like him. Some of the comedians you might want to study are Bill Burr. Cocky comedy is the best type of humor for attracting women. and how people react to them. Some guys need to understand things at a greater level before implementing something. I've found that watching Vince Vaughn movies really helped me develop my sarcastic sense of humor. It is easy to fall into this trap when building an image. 72 ." Best recourses to learn humor Watching standup comedy. the well situated power investment banker. If this is your type… maybe you can make yourself interesting by doing volunteer work with the humane society. that’s a good start for a character.

73 . ADVANCED: use with caution The Dirty Little Secret People love surprises. It is a completely refreshing change of pace. To understand more. each of our bundles distinctively different from anyone else’s. and then the seducer blind sides the target with an action. We all carry with us histories. television. Your observer should experience the tension. The responsible teacher has fucked a hooker. The best contrasts are so seamlessly sewn with your characterization that they’re not easy to spot. The alpha male fucked a guy. The most interesting characters in movies. not be spotting contrasts like stop signs along the road. other times greatly conflicting. or books are those who possess depth.Social Superstar These sorts of distinctions make you different from any other person that might fall into this type. When you build an image. our experiences. The dedicated business man had a thousand dollar a week coke habit. And that feeling is invigorating. A fascinating element of human nature is that we all possess contrasting traits. People love being swerved when they least expect it. These are all contradictions of character. not a type but a real person. explore the specific and unique details that will make you more complex. sometimes subtle. This means the nice guy admits he got rough with his last girlfriend. These contrasts provide endless opportunity to make yourself more complex. They make us feel as if we’ve missed something all along. And there is nothing in life that peaks interest more than a swerve just when we thought we had something or someone all figured out. They make us want to know more. And they fascinate us. letting the target feel like they have him all figured out. The ones that intrigue us most don’t come off as stereotypes or clichés. and our memories. He does this by leading his target in one direction. The three dimensional ones. story. There is nothing in life that kills interest more than predictability. A great seducer does the same thing. The innocent girl had sex with a stranger. They slowly reveal things about themselves that keep us wondering what we will find out next. they seep into your being. or fact about themselves that is completely contradictory to the image they have put forward thus far.

friend’s girlfriends. I had a job in a restaurant once. I am not saying to go out and hit your girlfriend. But in their mind they were captivated by him. you could ever meet. it had just begun. And they will surrender to you for it. virtuous characteristics.COM By nature we want what we are not supposed to have. I was friendly with many of the girls there and talked open and honestly about my sexual experiences. My friend. and have her end the relationship. You have to build rapport with your target. They are dangerous. He was now taboo. He says of all the girls he told not one stopped seeing him. I’m sure if you did deep enough into your past you can find something you’ve done that is a little taboo. or fuck a minor. It makes us feel alive. cousins. But the girls didn’t care. What I am saying though is don’t hide what is there. He also happened to have a fuse that would occasionally go off. and then you drop the bomb. Not many people knew this side of him. He was dangerous. easy going guys. So by the time the story had come out. How many of our fantasies involve our teachers. The fact that they shouldn’t do it only made them want to do it more. I had a friend back in college. continues years later to tell the story of that relationship to girls he meets. Little did he know. But it was enough to bruise her eye. But danger is seductive. prostitutes. Now at the right moment you have to disclose this information. They got into a fight and he hit her just once. lesbians. My friend thought is social life was over on campus. where he would lose his temper completely. Sure when they talked about him to their friends they acted as if they disapproved of him. My friend didn’t have to do all of this because all of these girls knew him previously. And in the end desire always wins out over reason. They had known him for years as a nice. He literally had girls throwing themselves at him. although not proud of the indecent. His ex girlfriend learned it a year into the relationship. laid back guy. By introducing danger to your target you will make them feel alive. But suddenly he was a little more complex. and minors? These people are taboo.The Best of TSBMAG. He was one of the most laid back. He was socially unacceptable. You have to allow them to see all of your positive. they all though they had him figured out. She proceeded to tell everyone in arm’s length about what happened. And you wait until that point where you sense they feel they have you figured out. They are frowned upon. single moms. I told 74 . nor do anything other socially unacceptable behavior.

In the average guy. then do it anyway. Did it stop me from fucking half the waitresses there? Hell no. our fear of making a mistake. Creating a little bit of an edge for yourself will work wonders for your sex appeal. This is 75 . our fear of rejection. How ridiculous does that sound when you really think about it? 90% of the decisions that you make are influenced by your need for approval. most of our major fears are solely based on what thoughts someone else will have about us. Most of us are working a job we hate. Most fear stems from our need for approval. We are held back by our fear of losing our job.my friend still found it morally necessary to tell every girl he was with afterwards about the charge right before he would sleep with them for the first time. Although the charge was bullshit. our fear of being laughed at. our fear of going broke. lonely or in a shitty relationship. none. The dirty little secret is a great way to make you more desirable to a girl. because bad boys provide an adrenaline rush that the average guy does not. have given up our dreams… because we are afraid of making the wrong decision. What would your personality be like if you weren’t governed by all of these fears? If you take a look at the short list of our major fears… you’ll find that not one of them is life threatening. a woman sees a reflection of most of her fears and insecurities. Most people are insecure. You guessed it. I have a friend with an assault charge on his record. Most people are held back by various forms of fear. Live a fearless existence. our fear of ruining our reputation. Most of our fears are completely unwarranted. Feel the fear. Most people suffer some form of anxiety disorder. How many stopped him. If you want to stand out in a crowd. How refreshing is it when we meet someone who isn’t controlled by these fears? Women are attracted to bad boys.Social Superstar them about my love of Asian massage parlors. This is especially true if you are a naturally nice wholesome guy. And not one of them ever even made me where a condom. and we’re not even afraid of the consequences of the wrong decision… We are afraid of what people will say about us… what people will think about us. In fact. Appear Fearless You’re fearless.

Whether the president was fending off missile crisis. confrontation. depriving themselves of true happiness. 76 . heights. What is a fearless existence? A fearless existence is one that is not governed by the illogical fears that most people hang onto their entire life. the heroes. If you do. I am going to repeat a challenge that I laid out to you during our 31 Days to Better Game series last July. and collective. fighting for civil rights. A Superstar does not confine himself to these fears. and do it anyway.9% of the situations you enter into. terrorism. cold calling. The difference is that the bad boys. Because they can sit and talk and wallow in their fears and insecurities together. relationships. cold approaching. some people are scared of social gatherings. the ocean. Most human beings go through their daily existence terrified. or bedding Marilyn Monroe. and the superstars of this world… overcome their fears in the face of the public.COM why the average guy becomes her friend. But the fact is. no one is inherently fearless. What was so iconic about a person like John F Kennedy was that he always appeared so cool.The Best of TSBMAG. he never showed eve one ounce of fear. Some people are terrified of death. While it may seem difficult to "be fearless" it is not nearly as difficult to appear fearless. poverty. no matter what the situation was. public speaking. The bad boy makes her forget all about her fears and insecurities. They find these characters exhilarating because they can't figure out how they can be so fearless. natural disasters. this might just be the hardest advice you will ever receive: You need to feel the fear. He realizes that short of death or serious injury… life goes on after 99. airplanes… and the list goes on. People like their heroes and superstars to possess the traits and characteristics they most wish they had themselves. Chances are you probably suffer from quite a few of those fears yourself. He takes her into his fearless existence. calm. Appearing fearless is really the objective.

the more common you appear. An extremely effective way to break through your fears is to tackle a really big one immediately. They find it necessary to know what you are thinking. 77 . the more likely you are to say something foolish. Say Less Than Necessary The 4th Law of Power states: When you are trying to impress people with words. You get my point. say what you feel like saying.” do exactly what you want to do. Human beings are curious creatures. The more you say. trivial reason is holding you back. the more interesting you will appear. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. After the two days you can go back to worrying about what people think.Social Superstar Live the next two days of your life completely fearless. As long as you put up a guard by carefully controlling what you reveal. Do you want to call out of work and go the beach? Do it! Do you want to tell the counter girl at the bank that she’s sexy as hell? Do it! Do you want to finally change the style of your haircut? Jump out a plane? Get a tattoo? Have sex with a stranger? Do whatever the fuck you want! Whenever the fuck you want! Do this for just 2 days and experience the thrill of being fearless. open-ended. Just for the next two days. and sphinxlike. they will continue to try to interpret and explain you. If you have a fear of public speaking… go to a Toastmaster's meeting and give a five minute speech to a group of strangers. Even if you are saying something banal. and the less in control. tell someone who has pissed you off to “fuck off. and the more time they spend pondering. They'll go home trying to figure out what happened in the conversation. the more you say. it will seem original if you make it vague. If you have a fear of flying… parachute out of an airplane. and they'll quickly try to fill the silence by nervously jumping in with comments that reveal valuable information about them and their weaknesses. or whatever other insignificant. or how you appear. You can often gain the control in a conversation by merely giving short answers and long pauses…simply because it will put the other person on the defensive. approach who you feel like approaching.

" but you've just given away your greatest bargaining tool. They can't believe that he actually has it all figured out. you may be tempted to blurt out "I love you. and carefully choosing your words. be sure to watch your consumption. there is a difference from being shy. or not out for love… but the truth is. I know because I used to be one. Once words are out. I've been accused of being heartless. This means you also must learn to handle your temper under pressure or when angry. Do not take this as an excuse to be shy or introverted. Not the social superstar.The Best of TSBMAG. Shyness is not interesting. the more value she's invested in you. This simple concept intrigues people. In fact. As much satisfaction you might get from an uncontrolled outburst. Know Where You're Going Most people wander through life aimlessly. Shy people like to think of themselves as noble… but in fact they are the most self indulgent people there are. The more time she spends trying to figure you out. In the heat of the moment. the more interesting you appear to her. This is not noble… it is vain and reeks of self centeredness. as everything you've worked for could be ruined by one night of diarrhea of the mouth. The social superstar lives on his own terms and knows exactly what he wants out of life. If you want to be a social superstar you must not let others goad you into saying something that you will come to regret. you will wind up with a habit of letting your mouth write checks you can't cash. They look for other people to guide them and show them direction. Once she knows how deeply you feel… the interest begins to diminish. I've long figured out that the less you say to a girl. And far from interesting. Revealing too much not only serves to diminish the interest people have in you. but it can also be dangerous for placing yourself into a corner later on. If you don't make it a habit of controlling the words that come out of your mouth. Yes. This also relates to a lot of the advice I give out regarding expressing your feelings toward a girl. or something that could be used against you. I used to spend way too much time thinking about what other people were thinking about me. you cannot take them back. If you have a low tolerance for alcohol. I always recommend saying the bare minimum. This is especially important when you are out drinking.COM Saying less in a conversation also helps you avoid saying something that will make you look foolish. 78 . shyness is a sign of insecurity. the consequences will linger on long after the pleasure has subsided.

"I don't know. Instead of complaining that no one is there. Don't be like the masses seeking approval before they do anything. most people will reply. If you're at a bar and its pretty empty. you're there right? And you're the most interesting person these people know. right? Even if the place is completely dead… he must know something special about if that the rest of us don't if he is hanging out there. Maybe this quiet hole. Once you decide where you're headed… do not second guess yourself. they need you to point it out. If you've chosen join the fire department. a nice quiet place to chill with some cool peeps. They're just not cool enough to notice. Think about it. Always seem one hundred percent confident in your choice of what you're doing with you leisure time. If he is there. or suggesting other places… try saying something like "This is exactly what I needed tonight. where you want to go?" This typical answer must not ever slip out the social superstar's mouth.. This idea of "knowing where you're going" doesn't just apply to choosing a major in college. is must be cool. After all.in -the -wall bar does have some special quality.. or picking a career. That is the mentality you need to have. It is difficult for the common person to comprehend that a human being as dedicated his whole life to a sport. and is always confident in his decision. This is one of the reasons we are fascinated by athletes. appear to have an inner knowing guiding your actions. People are amazed by people who live with a sense of purpose. The social superstar always knows where he wants to go. If you walked into a bar and Brad Pitt was chilling there you would automatically assume that you found the happening spot. If you're convincing enough they'll begin to feel that you're right. Could you ask for anything better?" People like to have other people make up their mind for them. Each and every one of your actions should appear to be done completely by your own accord. If you claim that it is going to be a great time… make it a great time. be completely confident with your decision and act as if that was the ONLY logical decision you could have made based on your belief system. or movie they want to go to.Social Superstar If you want to capture people's attention. restaurant. When asked what bar. 79 . It applies to everyday situations. If he is there… then IT IS the coolest place you could possibly be.

If you begin to inspire too much envy in people they will subconsciously want to ruin you. motivated. Even if you and him just sat in a bar drinking alone… when asked the next day he would be like "me and Bobby just had this really cool night bullshitting for hours in this hole in the wall bar… we got hammered and shared some hilarious stories. You can avoid being this guy by not talking too much about your accomplishments. While you want to be interesting. When someone gets an unexpected promotion. and other people absolutely adored him." It is also important as you make your climb to social superstar that you don't make a sudden improvement in fortune. and persistent… you don't want to inspire too much envy from people.COM I had a friend in college who was the master of this. But you want to avoid being the guy who creates those feelings in people. And he would always talk up his experiences to other people later on. 80 .The Best of TSBMAG. Sometimes that is not enough though. You were human. Do not be that person. Your rise to the top must seem gradual and expected. passionate. we talk about the time and the place to "be excellent. we absolutely hate feeling inferior to someone. Although on the outside we praised him." Do you see where I'm going? Never appear too perfect As humans. success. or victory… it tends to create immense envy amongst your former peers. Even if you are great at something… it is not always necessary to display your talents. They will try to create situations in which you falter. Sometimes you have to hide some of your skills in certain situations. He just couldn't seem to do wrong. After awhile we even found our self "accidently" saying things that might get him in trouble. He would talk up the occasion and make you truly feel that he was genuinely pleased to be hanging with you no matter where you were or what you were doing. secretly we were jealous and almost wanted him to slip up. We've all had that friend who was almost too perfect. Don' hate yourself for it. Certain people have a way of making you feel small through their brilliance. No matter what situation you were in with him you couldn't help but enjoy yourself. In a later chapter. You don't want to make the people around you feel mediocre.

Vinnie Chase wants to do everything in his power to make his friends successful too? 4. People can only suppress jealousy and envy for so long before it explodes. Don’t ever talk about how many girls you can pull… just pull them. Don’t Avoid the Risk Why was Braveheart so fucking cool? Because even though his legend would have been sealed had he never stepped foot on another battlefield… he went out there with his men each and every time. If you’re going to be the leader of a group… it should be a group that wins. 2. When you’ve been assigned the role of leader… it’s easy to take advantage of the people below you… but that will ultimately lead to them losing respect for you. Lead by Example It’s easy for anyone to tell someone how cool they are… You need to show them. Have you noticed how in the show Entourage. Don’t lecture… LEAD. If you’re planning out Prom Weekend. Create a Winning Group Culture Why is Derek Jeter adored… and Arod hated? Because Jeter is seen as a leader who looks out for his team’s best interest… and Arod is seen as a self serving asshole. EVER. Pump up everyone in the group… get everyone to succeed. not Responsibility No one wants to be told what to do… but everyone loves to tell other people what to do. You’ve got to pinpoint who that guy is as quickly as possible and be prepared for the moment he turns against you. Delegate Authority. Someone always will. If you’re on the football team and everyone else on the team is too hungover for Saturday’s game… be the guy still scoring the touchdowns… because you switched to water midway through the night. instead of telling Joe he’s in charge of renting out the hotel and buying the beer… Tell him you trust him to find the right guy to rent the hotel and buy the beer. If you and your buddies find yourself at a college party… be the guy who immediately fits in. 3. Joe will never let you down.Social Superstar Other tips for being cool 1. 5. It is crucial that you’re 81 . Know Your Competition Someone is always aiming for your top spot.

Soon this tame crowd was openly discussing the use of vibrators. and openness to admit explicit details of my life without blinking an eye. This leads to a population of people who hunger for their fix of sexuality through pornography. orgies (yes I will tell this story one day) and countless one night stands. 82 . When it happens… sit back and smile. I had been working in a restaurant for about a year. For this reason. and better yet. the individual who his comfortable. I became almost a guru to them. Most people. I found myself spending more time with these people. I've never viewed sex as something dirty or to be ashamed of. so I tended to naturally talk about it. I didn't socialize much with this group as I had a huge scene at college. soon they are opening up to me with their explicit thoughts. politicians like Bill Clinton and John F Kennedy. and we begin to crave this person's presence. The Taboo and getting people comfortable talking about sex The biggest social superstars.COM ready for that explosion. threesomes. Very few people give them this opportunity so it automatically puts you in an advantageous position. Which gave me an unbelievable amount of power. and a girlfriend that was already occupying most of my time. random games of truth or dare. I brought my frank sex talk with me. after graduating college. For the first year working there. explicit chat rooms. Well. hidden affairs. They looked to me to tell them was alright to discuss and admit to. makes us feel comfortable with our sexuality is a refreshing change of pace. try to suppress their sexual needs and desires.The Best of TSBMAG. I remember a few years back. know how to use their sexuality as a key ingredient to their rise in stardom. knowing that you’ve already covered all your bases. At my command I would have girls hooking up with each other. and romance novels. and simultaneously getting dumped by my girlfriend. and an entire other lot of topics that had previously been unheard of to discuss. While people are usually taken back at first. This is something that I've always been extremely good at. I also found these people incredible tame for my taste. by nature.

You have to be comfortable talking about it because it is such a natural part of your life that you would not be able to understand otherwise. you will wind up looking like a sex crazed pervert. There were no games behind it anymore. sex became just another every day activity. If done wrongly. You don't want to come off as the horny college guy who can't stop talking about sex. You need to come off as having a maturity towards sex beyond your years. On many occasions I would sleep with more than one girl in a night… with both of them well aware of what was going on. This is similar to the movement that went on in the 1960's with the hippies.Social Superstar By creating an environment where everyone was able to let their guard down and feel confident expressing their desires. Almost as if you're more evolved towards it then others. as that will only label you a dirty hippie. And not something that you should assume you have the skills to do right off the bat. By creating an environment where sex is not a taboo subject. This is an art form. Although I don't suggest taking the "free love" approach. you create an environment where everyone feels free to indulge in it. 83 .

The following section will teach you exactly how to get people to like you. This is perhaps the most powerful of all the weapons. Once someone decides that they like you it will be much easier to use the other weapons of persuasion and influence on them. But a crucial element to becoming a social superstar is to be liked and adored. People's attention's spans often waiver. and reciprocation. This is why it is necessary to use specific psychological techniques that will mentally bind them to sticking with you. In the following section I am going to show you how use the power of reciprocation to get legions of people looking for ways to help you achieve superstardom. They quickly get sucked back into their own day to day existence.The Best of TSBMAG. If you want to have people following you it is important that you first get them to like you. The previous chapters have given you the tools necessary to be the type of guy who people want to be around. Your communication skills need to be honed to near perfection. Your Plan: 84 .COM Chapter 7: Cultivate a fan base (commitment + liking + reciprocation) Your Objective: The objective of the following chapter is to teach you how to develop a legion of people who worship you. The three most important weapons of persuasion and influence for building a fan base are commitment. liking. This weapon simply states that human beings feel a mental obligation to repay favors done for them. The second step in building a fan base is to get them to commit to the idea of following your lead. The third weapon of influence you must use to build your fan base is the weapon of reciprocation.

But I also understand that there are some people reading this who will need some guidance into how to go about finding the groups of people that they want to hang out with. How to Get Involved in Scenes Most of this book was written with the presumption that you already have a social scene that you can climb to the top of and command. date more women. Even if you currently have a social scene that you are active in I believe it is important that you know how to find new scenes when the time comes. and commitment) are so powerful that if you can master them the world will be handed to you on a silver spoon. The majority of romances occur in the workplace. And b y dividing your time between several scenes the "scarcity" effect will multiply." In the previous section on "hobbies" I gave you some tips for finding way to immerse yourself into new hobbies. If you follow the communication techniques laid out throughout the rest of this section you will make more friends.Social Superstar This next section will get you further in life than any of the previous sections. Part Time Jobs Most romances don’t occur between two people who meet at a bar or club. It is also important to be a member of several social scenes because it allows you to play them against each other for jealousy effect. reciprocation. It makes sense. When you’re spending 4 to 8 hours a day with the same group of people you tend to get close to them. These three weapons of influence (liking. You also tend to start picturing them naked. In this short section I want to list some more ways find people with common interests. as will your "social proof. 85 . It’s a fact of life. and live a more exciting and rewarding life than 98% of the population. earn more money.

Young girls. The girls that will work there will more than likely be the hipster intelligent type. If you’re in high school I would probably recommend a job in a supermarket for meeting women.If you are going to get a job in a tanning salon you want to make sure it is one of the bigger chains with lots of beds. This means you will have a chance to build rapport over time. There won’t be as many co-workers to choose from. Chances are they will all be girls. I've put together a list of some of the best jobs to meet women at.The Best of TSBMAG. But once you graduate high school the quality of girls your age working in a supermarket will greatly diminish. those of you still waiting to find your life calling. A tanning salon is best for someone with a fairly good level of game. managers. and you will only have a minute or two to interact with customers each time they come in. I wasn’t working there for more than two weeks before I realized that the employees looked at the place like it was a giant night club. Barnes and Noble. These girls may seem kind of nerdy… but they are wild in bed. These are jobs for those of you still in college. And I mean everyone… from the 16 year old cashiers to the 55 year old Seafood Dept. The 5 Best Part Time Jobs for Meeting Women Tanning Salon. The benefit is that most likely it will be a small staff of 2 or 3 people working. There will be many female customers 86 . This means you will have up. All the customers will be girls as well. And most of the customers will be repeat customers coming in weekly. Remember these jobs not only open you up to meeting co-workers and customers… but you also get introduced into the social scenes of all the friends you make at your new job.COM I learned this lesson my junior year of high school when I took a job at Shop Right. or those of you just looking to supplement your income with a second job.close and personal time with any cute chick working there. Everyone was hooking up. You want to work in a salon that has at least 5-10 other people working there.Barnes and Noble is best for the guy who genuinely likes to read and discuss books.

to enjoy the fruits of your labor. The cafe will offer the best opportunity for flirting with customers. 87 . It’s an instant social scene. You’re game doesn’t have to be good to work the restaurant scene. And it is perfect for you. single moms. If you’re half way social and present your best self… you’ll get laid. What makes waiting tables better than the other three jobs on this list? Alcohol. The customer base will largely be young girls.Can you say social scene in a box? That is what waiting tables is. If you get a job in a store like The Gap you are bound to be working with adorable little 19 year old hotties. The best part of waiting tables is that it is almost customary to have a drink with your co-workers when your shift ends… and we all know… one drinks turns into three or four. get drunk. and the barely legal high school hostesses. and get laid.This job is for those of you under twenty one. Get a job at chain restaurant like Fridays or Houlihans and you will instantly be engulfed in a social scene of 10-20 other likeminded college students looking to get paid. Barnes and Noble won’t offer as many hotties working there… but you will have a great opportunity to interact with those who do. And I ask… Is there a better age group to be adored by? I think not. If you establish yourself as the fun party guy you’ll soon be adored by all the Just Graduated High School Hotts. The only drawback of a watering job is that there is very little chance of scoring with customers. Retail Store in a Mall. You’ll work with a mix of college hotties. Not only will your store have hotties employed in it… but so will every other store in the mall. Your game needs to be good… but not great. The mall is a Mecca of female talent.Social Superstar roaming the store… but it will be hard to spend a good amount of time hitting on them without pissing off your manager. If you’re working there for awhile you’ll become aware of the girls that work in Hollister a few stores down… the girls who work the counters in the food court… and the girls selling bra and panties in Victoria Secret. Hotties with a lot of 19 year old friends. A lot. If at all possible go for a position in the cafe. Waiting Tables in a Restaurant.

Working as a bartender in a hip place says “I know important people. 5. 6. You will have your pick of the customers. 3. You get the best of all worlds.COM Bartending in a Hip Bar. Don’t start with the intention of making new friends or finding a girlfriend… just make friendly conversation. You will be banging your co-workers. 8.com Join the Toastmasters Take dancing lessons Join a volunteer organization . 4. The longer you wait to break the ice… the harder it will get. 2.This is the Pinnacle of part time jobs. 21 Ways to Expand Your Social Scene 1. The trick to making friends at these kinds of things is to start right away. What makes bartending so great is that your co-workers and clientele are likely to be just the kind of girls you’re looking for… hot. and they drink! It’s not easy to land a good bartending job at a cool place. Of course everything on this list requires you to be social and open to meeting people.meetup. The first day you show up at any of these events start talking to people. 88 Join a young professionals organization Take a yoga or meditation class Get a part time job waiting tables Join a bowling league Join a volley ball league Attend alumni events at your previous college Attend a weekly class at your gym Check out the various clubs at www. 9. easy.The Best of TSBMAG.” Other Ways to Expand Your Social Scene I just wanted to give you a quick list of ways you can immediately expand you social scene. 10. But that’s part of the power in achieving it. 11. Don’t ask me why… but bartenders rank up there with cops for scoring the most ass. 7. Point blank… bartending is a power job. You will be raking in the cash.

How to be liked I want to start this section off with a basic list. computers. GET OUT OF YOUR HOUSE Those are just some of the many ways you can immediately begin to meet new people and expand your social scene. guitar) 14. Revive the old band and start looking for gigs at local bars 15. that you should copy on a piece of paper and keep this list in your wallet along with your list of the six weapons of influence. Attend any networking event your job puts on (and network) 18. get a part time internship in a field you love (even if it's for free) 20. Use Myspace and Facebook to network (as opposed to hit on girls) 13. Teach a class on a subject you love (art. seminars 21. Help with a political campaign (perfect timing) 19. Scour the computer for local events. Being around people that share your interests will not only make new friends available to you… new potential girlfriends… but it will also help you grow as a person and get you closer to achieving your dreams. When you combine these 13 characteristics with the specific techniques I am going to lay out in the rest of the section you will have the blueprint for building a fan base. In addition to this list. I highly recommend that you read Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People. Join a softball league 17. Whatever your passion is find a way to immerse yourself with people who share your interest 16. photography. 89 .Social Superstar 12. The key to this is to find activities that truly interest you and inspire you. If you implement all 13 of these characteristics to your daily life you will find that people will instantly want to be around you more. written by Sebastian Drake. classes. This list contains 13 characteristics of a likeable person.

It shows a calm confidence in what they are saying and it makes them even more engaging. what they are doing. Likable people and high status people do not talk too much.Closely related to the above point.People who are at ease. Touching shows emotion and affection and brings you closer to other people. Smiling .what about you?" 90 . Not talking too much . a playful punch on the arm or a big hug. an easy way to adjust is to say. People love to talk about their experiences and cool things they've done . confident. If you catch yourself rambling for a while. Not talking about yourself .Likable people typically are more curious to get to know other people and don't talk about themselves as much. give them a high five. 5. and more emotion and affection can be expressed through touch than any number of words ever could.You'll consistently see magnetic people reach out and touch others. Instead they encourage others to talk and to open up. 4. smile a big smile. and encourage others to talk about what they really enjoy. and that smile puts people at ease. 3. Look from your right eye to the right eye of the person you're talking to. if you choose to smile anyway you'll still get the great results.when you become more curious and encourage them to speak more. and happy tend to smile. Sometimes you will not feel in the mood to smile -however. 2. they'll actually like you more. some "pound". A quick tip: Right eye to right eye. Humans crave physical contact with others. Touch .Maintaining eye contact when you talk to someone draws them deep into conversation with you .likable people know this. If you want to change one thing to come across more social.The Best of TSBMAG. and you both become quite important to each other.the rest of the world slows down. Smiling shows that you're pleased to see someone which can be really flattering. This strikes a great balance between good eye contact and not staring. and what interests them the most. Likable people are always looking to find out more about the other person.COM 13 Characteristics of likeable People 1. Next time someone does or says something you really like. almost hypnotic. Eye contact . "But that's enough about me . Most people don't feel heard .

and you're with them. Everyone wants to be understood. They want to feel understood. Once you've established that you're constantly on the lookout for great things in others. 8. People universally hate criticism. instead try saying just "I understand." 9. Likable people always start off with genuine praise and appreciation before trying to give constructive feedback. No big deal." You'll be amazed at how uplifting it can make other people feel. Showing praise and appreciation . no long talk. people get used to feeling empowered around you. and empowered.When someone tells you they have a problem. 10.Whenever you see anything you like in another person. you'll instantly form a great connection with them. people know the solutions to their own problems. If people aren't used to you opening up. People want to know that they are not alone in the world.Social Superstar 6. When you do mention something you really like. The most impressive people never actively try to impress people.Likable people never criticize others. and appreciating constantly. praising. and will only give this feedback rarely (because likable people understand that praise is a much better way to help people change than even constructive feedback." "I thought that was really cool how you did that. Not trying to impress . Tell them you believe in them and you think they'll sort it out. that means they do not want you to tell them how to solve it. and striving to truly understand them is powerful. for any reason . ever. Empathy . letting them know you understand. Never criticizing. "Hey. The result is that a man trying to impress communicates that he's not impressive. maybe make a quick suggestion but don't drive the point really hard. Really amazing people are much more humble and low key about what they've done. let them know. If you can reach out to understand another person. 7. Not trying to fix other peoples' problems . Over 90% of the time. I really appreciate that you did that. and criticizing is almost always useless). If they ask what you'd do. If someone brings a minor problem to you. nodding. As crazy as it sounds. you might get a funny reaction at first. and hate people that criticize them.Somewhat accomplished people want everyone to know about the accomplishments they've made. keep it casual. but doesn't explicitly ask for your help. most people do not tell others about their problems in order to get 91 . Just. try listening. Next time someone tells you something heavy that you could have a long discussion on. cared about.Making people feel understood.

others feel slightly less inclined to be around them. When you realize that.Everyone feels down from time to time. Never complain . fashions you think are silly. or accept that it's there. you have two choices: Take action to fix it. and they feel they can rely on you. People are very strong and quite good at solving their own problems when believed in. 12. and reassurance. not complaining about the government. Eliminate negativity . 92 . they're a fort of strength for people around them.Never mentioning anything you don't like.for a bonus. 11. they want understanding. activist groups you disagree with. You'll see quick improvements right away. Never impose weakness on others . Not talking about things you dislike is even more important. and long term improvements down the line. Making Friends In the section below I am going to outline some steps for acquiring female friends. It brings people down.The Best of TSBMAG. You probably already do a lot of those . the more you gain control over your life. People start to respect you more.COM solutions. empathy. pop culture. The more you stay composed. I've also recommended reading How to Win Friends and Influence People. The steps outlined can be used just as effective for making friends with other men who will make suitable wingman. The most important thing that you will find is that once you implement everything you've learned in the previous section you will find it very easy to make friends. The most charismatic people never "impose" that down feeling on others. or just good buddies. there's no reason to complain.When people complain. instead. 13. and refrain from showing being fazed or flustered. and so on. Being positive is really good. pick a couple more and start implementing. If you don't like something. Especially never being down on culture-wide things outside of your direct control: So.

you should make an effort to befriend the hottest. actors. But by this point I was a social superstar so it was acceptable. When you get put in the friend zone your intention wasn't to be friends. The girl will always hold a subconscious power over you. The social superstar knows that the easiest way to climb to the top of the food chain is by having female cheerleaders cheering on your every move. we can't have them all. Because they were likely aware of your true intention. we are trained to want every pretty girl we come across. simply because I could. as my skills progressed. For a long time I made the mistake of sleeping with cool girls. and getting put in the friend zone. This is because the man who controls the women… is the man everyone wants to be around. And you will more than likely forever pine for your opportunity to finally bust through the barrier of friendship. Your intention was to date or sleep with them. I burned a lot of good bridges doing this. I instead made friends with these girls. But there is an important distinction between making friends with girls. Later. Women often make the man. you friendship is never at an even playing field. Think about it. most adored woman in that scene. Whatever social scene you are currently involved in. knowing full well that I had no interest in taking the relationship any further. Guys new to studying dating and pick up will probably find this advice contradictory to the never ending battle against getting placed in the friend zone. bartenders seem to always have power? It is because these guys are always surrounded by women. Men know that hanging around these guys will lead to more girls in their lives. But the fact is. Why do club owners. Women know that hanging around these guys equals excitement and privilege. 93 . In order to do this you must eliminate all desire you have to sleep with her. As guys. This is why it makes much more sense for you to put girls in the friend zone. Sure.Social Superstar The Art of Acquiring Female Friends The importance acquiring female friends has been stressed many times on TSB and throughout the dating advice industry by nearly every coach. I would occasionally sleep with them too. DJs.

Remember details of her life. The most important thing to do if you want to win someone over is to give them something." She won't have expected you to remember that minute detail of a previous conversation… and when you do she'll really appreciate you. Instead of waiting for your chance to talk. The easiest way to make someone feel important is to really pay attention when they are talking to you. compliments. Don't be obnoxious or creepy about it. No one can resist these things." By doing this you're demonstrating that you see her as having an expertise in something other 94 ."Well. but by paying attention you'll be able to ask her things later.if she's complaining about her current job. interesting.say something like. These things devalue you.The Best of TSBMAG. did you see (insert movie) cause I always trust your opinion on what's good. if you can tell that she believes she is very knowledgeable about movies… say something like "hey. in a conversation down the road. She is merely a pawn in your chess game. Once you've acquired this information. and special. The social proof she provides you with gives you the ability to become a superstar. 2. or favors. Appreciation simply means recognizes the unique qualities in her. Instead you will be giving her appreciation. This social proof gives you the ability to befriend her. Your goal is not to flatter her. Once you've completely eliminated your desire to sleep with this woman. understood. they always need fireman. Once you figure out how she views herself. and adventurous guy. If you've followed the guidelines throughout this manuscript than you've already established yourself as a funny. if during a conversation she makes a joke about having wanted to be a fireman when she was little. making friends with her should be relatively easy. but to make her feel important. You've already developed a strong degree of social proof. For instance. play to that. Appreciation mixed with adventure and excitement. Confidential tricks for winning her over 1. For instance.you can use it to win her over. You aren't going to give them gifts.COM You must accept right now that you will never sleep with her. take mental notes of what she is telling you. This way you can discover what her true interests and passions are.

Don't stress your faults or blunders. For more information on acquiring female friends listen to our podcast on the subject at: http://www. make inside references to that little piece of knowledge. Don't hesitate to say anything you would around your male friends.but tell her she can't tell anyone. 4. Make it ridiculously unbelievable.she'll become addicted to the thrill you provide.to head over to a strip bar with me. For instance.and soon the mere sight of this person will make her wish you were around to share in the humor. The communication skills you are learning in this chapter do not work nearly as well if you are looked at as having lesser status. began to make yourself more interesting. Develop an inside joke with her. or beta qualities. and give off a 10 second impression of a superstar. Most guys put on such a front around her. This means that the communication skills you are learning in this section are dependent on you having already created your image. Be 100% completely yourself. and associate the rewarding and exciting feeling with you. that the realness you display around her will be refreshing.Social Superstar than looking pretty. but play it up very well. It is important that you've already completed the above listed steps so that you will be accepted by your peers as being a "higher status" male. She'll always be questioning you about whether or not it's true. 5. If the two of you are involved in a social scene together you can pick another person in that scene and share a bit of information with her about that person. And make her have a good time doing it.com/2006/12/04/podcast-1/ Communication The way in which you communicate with them men and women in your social group will go along way toward building your fan base. Most girls want to believe deep down inside that they're more than their looks. Now whenever this person is around. 95 . taken on the attitude of the winner. Get her to experience something completely outside her comfort zone. after a work Christmas party one year. If you can get her to do something outside of her comfort zone. 3. Completely drop your guard around her. Everything you have learned in this manuscript will work in synergy.but don't go out of your way to hide them.greatseducer. I got the entire staff.women included.

When someone gives us something of value. People will assume that he is being nice because he wants something from you.COM A lower status man who follows the principles laid out in a book like "How to Win Friends and Influence People" will come across as insincere or "try hard". This is because a lower status male will be viewed as having an agenda.and more importantly. or a gift… we do not feel a sense of completion until we reciprocate the gesture. I love the shirt you're wearing. But when a man who you view as being "higher" up the social ladder than you does you a favor or compliments you there an unconscious bond that you feel toward him. This is why you will so often hear two people complimenting each other within seconds. whether it is a compliment. And you secretly resent the fat girl for thinking that she has a chance with you simply by complimenting you. That bond is the feeling of the need to reciprocate. If a fat girl tells you that she likes your new haircut you immediately assume that she has an agenda behind it.and her choosing to compliment you makes you feel special. A woman will say to another woman "I really like you earrings" and immediately the other woman will say "Thank you. 96 . But this theory holds just as true when applied to men who you view as having different social value. People do not appreciate or respect praise or admiration that comes from someone they view as being "lower" than them. the need to unburden one's self of it is so powerful that a person often acts immediately to restore the balance." People can't have the weight of reciprocation hanging over them. Even though it is an unconscious feeling. The law of reciprocation is the most powerful of all the weapons of influence. Now that was an extreme example because of the examples of the two different classes of women. But if a woman of exceptional beauty tells you that she likes your new haircut you begin to feel proud of the haircut. a favor. When a man "lower" than you on the social ladder compliments you or does you a favor you feel no special bond toward him. A beautiful woman can pick and choose who she compliments. people are greatly moved by admiration that comes to them from someone they view as being "higher status" then them. On the other hand.The Best of TSBMAG. You don't accept the praise as genuine. You remember that compliment. It is a simple concept.you feel a sense of "liking" toward that beautiful woman.

websites. we are above thousands of other websites and blogs. Here is the kicker…. or Men's Health. The Law of Reciprocation and Higher Status This is the fundamental concept that you need to build your fan base: When a higher status person gives something away to a lower status person. However. But the level in which we reciprocate back is tenfold when we feel the person who gave us something is of higher value to us. The same rule applies just as strongly to role reciprocation plays in the social hierarchy. number of visitors. The hierarchy in our world is based on reputation. When TSB is mentioned or receives a link from a site like Maxim or Playboy we recognize that a genuine favor was produced. As editor of TSB Magazine I recognize the "world" in which we reside in.we will go out of our way to mention them four or five times.they will get back what they gave exponentially. This world includes all of the other men's online magazines. We recognize that as being fairly new TSB is below sites magazines like Maxim. The weight of reciprocation will be so strong on their back that they will feel the need to not only return the favor. Before I explain the ways in which to apply this in the social world.we will get back what we've given exponentially. compliment. and influence. and authors. We are also greatly aware of the hierarchy and where we fit in within in. We also feel a strong sense of the need to reciprocate. If we (the higher status) person give something to anyone that is lower status then us. If a site like Maxim mentions us just once and provides one link to us. We feel an immediate sense of liking toward that site for recognizing our unique talent. or gift. blogs. prestige. The sense of reciprocation is felt in any situation in which one person provides another with a favor.Social Superstar While it is only possible to gain the feeling of "liking" when a higher status person compliments you or does you a favor.but to return it in a much greater magnitude than we originally gave it in. Playboy. 97 . providing four or five links to their site.because we recognize that imbalance between our two spheres of influence. I want to briefly show an example of how this works in the business or marketing world.

are along for the ride.you want them to feel like they are a part of it. http://www.The Best of TSBMAG. humor. Well. This is what will make them commit to seeing you achieve social superstardom. We did a podcast called "Being the badboy with women" awhile back. Some of the key ideas include: be funny." Remember: Everything we give we will get back exponentially. This is what will cause them to put some investment into it. You don't want the people around you to feel like an idle spectator in your show. and therefore. This means help those around you develop the confidence to explore their sense of humor. As you read through the next few sections keep this in mind as it will allow you to see the true power in what I am telling you. The easiest way to be fun to be around is to follow the principles laid out in chapter six. based on the law of reciprocation.greatseducer. This podcast includes many ways in which you can add excitement to the lives of those around you. and have some skills that entertain people. Be Fun to Be Around The entire reason you should even want to become a social superstar is for the fun and excitement it will provide you.com/2008/07/13/being-the-bad-boy-withwomen/ The secret to being fun to be around The biggest thing you can do yourself be fun to be around is to make the people you're with feel like they are fun to be around. Once you have established a little bit of social currency. to indulge in the taboo. Encourage them to take risks. 98 .COM This is the reason that some people seem to rapidly ascend to the top of the social ladder. you are able to multiply that currency. They will feel that they are a part of it. taboo subjects… ultimately your goal is to bring these qualities and characteristics out from those around you. fearless. This is very similar to the saying "the rich get richer.the easiest way for you to acquire fun and excitement is to provide it to others. Although you should be introducing things like adventure. and to demonstrate the skills that they have. talk about the taboo. and adventurous.

Here is a list of things that you should try to organize: 1. 10. 15. You being the high status male must initiate these sorts of things and get people to follow along with you. 8. 12. Winning the higher status people over requires the skill of becoming the go-to guy for a good time. 5. Or a lower status person tries to set them up. ugly sweater. 80's) Softball games and BBQs S & M clubs Salsa clubs Concerts w/tailgating Bowling nights Road trips Ski trips Beach houses Happy hours (particularly a weekly event like Taco Tuesdays) Paintballing Sky diving excursions Hookah bars Volleyball night (some bars have courts) Strip clubs (bringing women with you) Fairs 99 . paint ball expeditions. 9. Although most high status people are fun to be around.often they are not creative.but no one follows along. These sorts of events are what will make you unique and separate you from the other higher status males in the group who are content to spend another night at the local pub. themed parties. 2. 3. 14.Social Superstar Be Someone Who Makes Things Happen Lower status people will always be won over much more easily than the higher status people in your social circle. 6. 4. Themed parties (toga. 16. 7. 13. concerts. The problem is that no one takes the initiative to set them up. nights out at unique places like S& M clubs. long road trips. This means organizing things like ski trips. The social superstar makes things happen. tailgating… The events I just listed are things that pretty much everyone enjoys doing. salsa dancing. This means that they will most likely hang out at the same couple of bars or clubs every weekend. 11. He is a leader who organizes the fun adventures that everyone craves.

Most people wind up at the same bars or clubs every weekend. The secret is to really listen when they talk to you. but you should be remembering the details of the conversation. Here is a trick for remembering details: 100 . Show genuine interest in other people's lives. If you are the guy introducing other people to this whole new world… they will repay you with loyalty and admiration.and be their biggest fan.The Best of TSBMAG. asking a lot of questions of someone may even annoy them. Most people barely listen to the people that they are in conversation with. You need to use the information wisely and subtly down the road. Remember the example I gave earlier of the woman who casually told you that she wanted to be a fireman when she grew up…. but actually remembered obscure details of a conversation.COM 17. And the person who supplies them with "drug" of recognition holds a very strong power over them. Anybody can ask a lot of questions to fill up the dead air. You need to store specific details away for later use. And days or months later. you said "I'm sure there are fires you could be putting out. Because of this very few people actually pay attention to the people around them. when she was complaining about her current job. You should not only be listening. In fact. There is nothing more flattering to a person than the realization that someone not only listened to them. Get Interested in Other People I am about to tell you the secret to acquiring and keeping massive amounts of friends. Everyone is the most important person in their own life. This does not mean simply ask them a lot of questions. and are just silently waiting for their chance to speak. The sad truth is. Monster truck derbies These are just some fun things that most people would enjoy. but never take the initiative to set up. The secret is to continually be curious about other's lives." On the surface she probably laughed… but inside she will be flattered that you remembered such a small detail of something she told you. everyone craves attention and recognition so much it hurts them.

You can also use this when getting a girl's phone number. She'll wonder why you didn't write it down and assume you will forget it. Only stalkers know every little detail about someone. but she always had a boyfriend so I never talked much to her during college. After making brief small talk. Be careful not to seem too creepy by remembering too much. Later when you call. While I am ordering a beer this girl from a sorority I used to part with frequently. she says "Do you even know my name?" I looked her straight in the eyes and said "Of course I know your name Kimberly. She went on to confess that she had a huge crush on me throughout college. We spent the rest of the night talking and I arranged a date to hang out. They are useful for so many activities. When having conversations with important people you just press record. you can use it to demonstrate a photographic memory. These people will be impressed that you were able to remember things that most people forget. you can just tell her you have a photographic memory. You carry the voice recorder along with you in your pocket. Ask for her number.) These folders should be reviewed before you go out to interact with these people again. Other than using one as a self improvement tool when it comes to perfecting tonality and conversation skills. 101 . but many of my old friends and classmates show up for what is basically a yearly reunion." Her jaw dropped. She is a girl that I always thought was pretty cute. Remember Names I went back for homecoming weekend at my old college last October. She was absolutely astonished I knew her name. then repeat it loud enough for the recorder to pick it up.Social Superstar Photographic Memory If you don't already own a digital voice recorder. Later when you go home transfer that file to your computer in a folder with their name (or better yet a code name. says "hello" to me. I had been out of school for seven years. you need to go out and get one immediately. You can play the previous conversation and pick out important details. The night before the homecoming game everyone from the Greek system usually meets at this bar called Alexis right down the street from campus. and then tell her you'll call her. But it is a pleasant surprise and a great conversation hook when you ask them about something they probably assumed you forgot.

Human beings love the sound of their own name. Let's say that there is a guy in your social scene that is slightly below you on the social ladder. You always want your team to be as strong as possible.The Best of TSBMAG. and fun people you have around you. Use the photographic memory trick if you have to. as badly as you want to become a social superstar. And if the people you are giving value to are lower on the social ladder than you. Just think. But then I realized that I too get happy when a girl I view as having higher status knows my name. It is obvious to you that he is proud of 102 .the secret to building your fan base is to become the fan of others. One night you go out with this guy and he hooks up with an attractive woman. You see yourself as such a blip in their reality that they probably don't even know your name. compliment them. When you view someone as having higher status than you. Making other people feel like superstars is really a culmination of everything we've learned in this chapter. I actually get tingly upon hearing a beautiful woman say it.is to openly praise them. more interesting.most of these people will have the same desire. It is not a competition or a race. And they feel flattered when people remember it. And when you see anyone.COM I realized something that night. So the next step is to make these people feel like Superstars.they will feel the need to give back to you twice as much as you gave to them. And more importantly – the more enjoyable your life becomes. You need to look at them as members of your team. Make Other People Feel Like Superstars As you can see by everything leading up to this section. Remember that everything you give to others will be reciprocated back to you. Never worry that someone else will steal your spot light. The cooler. and give value to them.the higher your value becomes. They never get tired of hearing it. This must be done in public. At first I was shocked that she would have thought I didn't know her name. entertaining. The lesson to be learned: Remember everyone's name the first time you hear it.you subconsciously believe that they are too important for you.no matter how low down the social ladder the may beaddress them by their name. But the most important part.

Up until now. You are a high value person. Talk about how "the girl was definitely into you. Before I knew. And later build him up. The praise must be specific. It took him like five minutes." This sounds phony.make him seem even cooler than he is. Tell the story for him. Not only is there a sense of 103 . If you know that Joe is shy around woman. Think about it. So you do it for him. and turning them into superstars.they will feel an uncontrollable sense of obligation to reciprocate the value. and he's making out with this cute brunette. This guy is the coolest guy I know. It should be said like this: "Joe is the man. There were two girls we both wanted to talk to. Bring him into situation where he will be forced to talk to women. This is your chance to boost him up even further. Last week the two of us were at this bar. I say this because we all know that guy who is always seems incredibly fake while boosting up his friends. The flattery must be sincere.he's macking both of them. Not only should you acknowledge to him that you were impressed by what he did… you should brag about it for him to the other people in your social circle. You should also make it a habit to pull people out of their comfort zone. help him to get over it. Help him by giving him practice." If you can get him out of his comfort zone. But he can't.Social Superstar himself. He says something like "Joe is the man. and contribute to him building his self esteem. You've taken interest in them and have openly praised them. He will love you for it. You know that Joe is proud of what he did.exponentially. Don't lecture him or try to impose "strategies" on him. showing interest in them. This is because he doesn't use concrete examples for his praise. You know that he wants to brag about it. And you've done a nice thing for him. By doing things like remembering people's name." Do you see how much more sincere and real it sounds when you back up praise with specific examples. Let Other People Sell You This is the culmination of all of everything you've been doing. praising them. Well. Get in the habit of being the fan of those around you. now is the time in which that value is paid back to you.he will forever be in gratitude toward you. the entire focus of what I have been talking about is how you should be giving value to others. making them feel important. He is the coolest guy I know.

Because these people already know who you are they will be more likely to talk to you. wash. View it like this. If you're showing them a good time." Your entire life.they will want to be associated with you.but it is in their best interest to do so.is ruled by the butterfly effect. It will eventually get to the point where your reputation will precede you.the higher that they will be able to rise along with you. When you show up for a party random people will already know who you are.especially your social life. causing a tornado or some such weather event to occur in another remote area of the world. Can you see how quickly you can become a social superstar? Can you see how quickly invitations will start pouring your way from various social circles? Can you see how many opportunities will be thrown at you? The Butterfly Effect "The "Butterfly Effect" is the propensity of a system to be sensitive to initial conditions. and repeat on this new group of people. tonight you walk into a restaurant and have dinner. This means that every tiny. seemingly insignificant action will have a later effect on your life. You 104 . they will be constantly talking about how much fun they had with you. For instance. The waiter is there. You are now on "their side. These men and women will become an army of publicity agents for you. A month later you are at a bar. they will go out of their way to praise you and talk you up to everyone who will listen.The Best of TSBMAG. You leave your waiter a larger than normal tip. The more people talk about you the higher your value becomes. Such systems over time become unpredictable. Rinse. If you praised them.COM obligation to return the favor. How many people do you think you would be telling that story to? Everyone you possibly could. Now imagine that Brad Pitt turned out to be a really cool guy who showed genuine interest in you. this idea gave rise to the notion of a butterfly flapping it's wings in one area of the world. remembering the large tip you gave him he recognizes you and introduces you to his friends. It turns out that one of his friends has the same interest in rock climbing that you do. Your name will travel through many social circles. If you are higher value. They will look for every excuse to talk about "the awesome time" you had together." This means that the stronger and more powerful you become. Imagine that you spent a night partying with Brad Pitt.

you meet and fall in love with another girl.Social Superstar befriend the guy on Facebook and set a date to go rock climbing. While at the party. 105 . The day before you're about to go rock climbing you leave a comment on his Facebook page telling him "Get ready for some heavy duty climbing tomorrow!" It turns out that a girl you dated several years ago is friends with him on Facebook. She sees your comment. All because you left a waiter an above average tip. She invites you to come to a party with some of her friends. and befriends you.

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Tell a story about you and a hot chick. Through Pictures. Never say.” You see you never said she was hot… But the girl will assume it. I don’t care if these girls are friends. Girls are strange creatures. 2. Through Storytelling. co-workers. So I’m going to give you a quick list of things you can do to achieve the perception to a girl you are interested in that you “get laid” and are in demand. I wasn’t jealous. “One of the things me and my ex would fight about was the way she responded to the attention she got from men. If you want to fool a girl into believing any one thing about you it should be.Social Superstar 5 Keys to Playing the Role of Being Wanted Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 09/09/2007 If you could make a girl believe one thing about you. That example is a little over the top. and intelligent? That you’re the energizer bunny in bed? If you guessed any of these things you’d be wrong for ninety nine percent of the women out there. what do you think would most make her want to date you? That you’re rich? That you’re packing nine inches? That you’re insanely confident? That you’re talented. They are so unsure of their own opinion that they need to confirm it with the opinion of other women. that you are wanted by other women. The point is to have these pictures 107 . If they like him “I should like him too” is the thought that goes through their minds. In some of the gambits Mystery uses this plays a huge part. The story has to indirectly reference that she was hot. prostitutes. But she was like a ham when she noticed guys gawking at her. To me that's just obnoxious. or your cousins. but you get the point. I’m not a jealous person. passionate. Instead say. who was really hot…” That sounds like you’re trying to impress her. “Me and my ex. Take as many pictures of yourself with hot chicks as possible. 1. ex girl friends.

The rich get richer my friends… 108 . If you’re already scoring hot babes this will just be things you do naturally and in turn will make you score even more babes. The key to this is don’t mention the texts and don’t respond to the texts. and then quietly put your phone back in your pocket without mentioning it. Through Unavailability. and be not at all phased by having to wait to see her. Just read the texts and put the phone away. She won’t ask. If she asks you if you think Jessica Alba is good looking.” or “How about early next week” Either way she’ll assume that if you can hold off meeting her then you must be used to meeting attractive women. just say “a friend” 4. If she says “You want to get together Friday?” Say “Fridays no good?” Don’t say why.The Best of TSBMAG. Texting is even better. Girls by nature love to look at pictures.” The girl will wonder what your type is.COM lying around your house or even in your car. “I better keep this one before he runs off with one of these girls” 3. don’t say “she’s hot” it sort of puts you in that category of college guys who read Maxim magazine. Or how “hot” she is. When you’re out with a girl. Instead say. When she flips through these pictures and sees you with all these girls a message will be delivered to her brain. try to set it up to have many of your friends call your cell phone or text you. These are just five things you can begin immediately to present the image to women that you are in demand. You can then say “Saturday would work better. read the text. but she’s not my type. Never talk about how “hot” another girl is. Don’t always be available to hang out. If she asks who keeps texting. 5. Girls will always assume its other girl’s texting you. Through Text Messages. You can pull your phone out. “She’s got sexiness. And when you can’t hang out don’t give a reason. Through Taking Hot Girls off a Pedestal. and if she fits it.

Because the more time you spend reading this shit. The minute you feel your gut saying its time. If you feel a vibe. Go with it. If you start looking for proof you’ll start finding the opposite. 2. Not tomorrow. IT IS TIME. Delay for a second. now what?’ If you don’t think it is the 109 . A way to procrastinate. and watch the used condom wrappers pile up. not next week. or after you have time to plan out some advanced strategy. thought is the cheapest commodity on earth. or a new job. Do not give yourself time to second guess. If you want pussy you better be ready to act on a minutes' notice. Don’t waste another second with a dead end lead. the less fucking you’ll be doing. 1. Re-read it if you fuck up. Act on it quickly. Learn it. Take action quickly.Social Superstar 10 Lessons for Successfully Hooking Up with Girls Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 11/07/2007 Fuck an intro! Let’s get right down to it. if you don’t feel it. Those are all excuses to delay. With that being said. Lead the conversation in the direction you want it to go in. I’d say on average your gut feeling is right more that 80%of the time. while the guy who took action has his dick between her legs. You know when talking to a girl if you are getting a vibe or not. In grain it. That is your way of justifying the fact that you haven’t got the balls to act on a good lead. The first ten lessons apply in situations where you have yet to kiss the girl. principles immediately in your life. not after you get a haircut. Apply these rules. Read it. and you’ll be home again masturbating. Understand it. You are probably saying. Trust your gut. That leaves 20% for error. lessons. 3. No later. flee. And remember. The sad truth is there are a hundred guys lined up behind you to fuck this one girl. Unless you are a completely delusional person. That is your fear of failure. Because second guessing comes from thought. chances are she does too. ‘okay I feel it. Intuition is priceless. I’d say that is a chance worth taking. The biggest mistake you can make is letting a good one slip by because you hesitated or wanted more proof that your gut feeling was right.

it creates a certain amount of intimacy. There are times that you really can’t kiss her right then and there. but if you are not at that point then you risk a potentially awkward moment. The hand is the first step. Her current boyfriend. Tell her. Let her know. You tell a girl she is beautiful and there will be silence. you are more than half way there. yet. A nice trick is to grab her hand when leading her through a crowded place. If at all possible keep holding it. Before we can kiss a girl we must make use of our hands. once you get her through the crowd. or how pretty she is. 110 . Chances are you won’t have another opportunity as perfect as you just blew. It will seem completely appropriate. Let her know your intentions if you must leave without kissing her. I know it happens. damn it. she will be more than willing to follow. If your gut was right. If she has on a nice smelling perfume let her know that you’ve noticed. Until your lips have touched hers you have shit. Her dead aunt. If you can get her hand in yours. If this is the case it is vital that you set the terms of your next encounter immediately. You may have had the greatest conversation in the world. Compliment things that she can reply to. That way it is not a complete shock when we lean in for the kiss. I’m not talking about molester type shit. Lead her to a better spot. If you are in a crowded place tell her to come with you some where more intimate. a little longer than necessary. Find a genuinely nice characteristic of hers and let her know you notice it. If you let her start rambling on she may wind up talking about something that kills the mood. but if you leave without kissing her you are no closer to her pussy then you were yesterday. Brushing hair away from her eyes. Don’t try to flatter her with remarks about her eyes. Rubbing her back. Yea.The Best of TSBMAG. I’m talking about making an initial contact. lead her to that place. Don’t ask. Silence is good if you are at the point where you want to move in for the kiss. 4. in not so many words. Shit. 6. Holding her hand is the key. Planting seeds is for farmers my friend.COM appropriate place or moment to kiss her. Kiss her already. Nothing. Throw compliments out there. Remember: THE MORE TIME THE TWO OF YOU SPEND TALKING THE HARDER IT WILL BE TO KISS HER. I stressed this point in lesson #3 but it is well worth repeating. This is our way of warning her that it is coming. Now make sure the conversation stays where you want it. Holding her hand. but DO NOT OVER DUE IT. Make sure you keep the conversation light and flirtatious. YOU WILL TALK YOURSELF RIGHT PAST THE MOMENT. 5. Shit. Those are clichés and hardly ever get you anywhere. Her last relationship.

Always leave with the upper hand. 111 . Now I’m not saying you can’t talk to other girls and use them as jealousy tools. Use your hand. It will kill your chances for next time. Most of the time the girl is just weeding out the weak. Follow lesson #6 while saying goodbye. There is no perfect moment. you also don’t want to appear desperate. 7. Decide who the lucky lady is for the night and go for her. and a time up. When obstacles appear. 9. 8. Hold her hand for a second or two longer than normal while saying goodbye. but I am sick and tired of stroking myself to sleep. Don’t act hungry. DO NOT BEG FOR IT. a loser gives up that much sooner. That way if you fail with her. Set a date. Don’t be weak. A winner figures out a way to win. If she has to leave. WAITING FOR THE PERFECT MOMENT = ANOTHER NIGHT JERKING OFF. deal with them. and I’m sure most of you do to.she’s off the list. hold the hand. The perfect moment does not exist. CONFIDENCE IS THE MOST ATTRACTIVE QUALITY YOU CAN DISPLAY TO HER. Be decisive. Those who look hungry never get fed. That is why once you have decided on the girl. There are a million girls in the world. a place. and overcome them. Girls do not like the weak.Social Superstar that when you see her again you intend on kissing her. You will spread yourself to thin if you go for more than one girl at a time. Don’t settle for less. or go for the kiss. This is kind of a rehash of the other nine lessons. Overcome small obstacles. I hate making that call. Do not wait for the perfect moment to strike up a conversation. The difference between a winner and a loser is. ask for the number. 10. let it go. If a girl shoots one of your attempts down and you continue on it shows vast amounts of confidence. let her leave. Once you have decided. (Hopefully fucking her) Do this by stressing those warning signals I told you about. Unfortunately you can’t fuck them all. you don’t give up until you have gotten in her pants or there is a painfully clear rejection. Make up your mind quickly and stick to that decision firmly. While you don’t want to lose her to the competition. Make plans to see her right then and there. But do not try to talk her into staying around. but know who the bitch of the bunch is and go for her 100%. Tell her that you really want to see her again. Once you realize that nothing is going to happen tonight. And I don’t know about you. Even if you are. push the other ones out of your mind for the time being. Don’t leave it up to a phone call.

with half the sense of humor. If I knew I could have her I was okay. When I say rough I mean I went months in between fucks. I was the king of content. get more pussy in a week then I did in a year. NO MORE! I will say it again loudly. So fucking what? It is all shit. Bad. UNTIL YOUR DICK PENETRATES HER PUSSY YOU HAVE JACK SHIT. Try and tell me how you can have any girl you want on any given day. 112 . cheap and meaningless. And dreams are like thoughts. Why? Because they require a certain amount of balls that we all have but tend to suppress. Months! I watched guys not half as good looking. Until you have that girl naked in your bed begging for your cock to dig inside of her. I took comfort in the knowledge that I knew more than they did. SHOW ME THE PUSSY. And it hurt. It is easier to delay. As with anything in life. I learned these lessons the rough way. you have not proven anything to anyone.The Best of TSBMAG. Because without it you’re a dreamer. I will laugh in your face. half the knowledge I had.COM These are the toughest lessons to master.

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Emulate a Celebrity for Instant Rapport
Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 11/19/2007

This is simple advice. I’ve done it. And I’ve seen other people do it. And it works. It works like a charm. This is best for guys who haven’t yet developed their own personal style and unleashed their own personal inner charisma. People naturally feel most comfortable around people they know. They are also most attracted to people that they see often. This is the reason people often date someone they work with, go to school with, or share mutual friends with. You see these people all the time and they are part of your consciousness. When you see these people out you are drawn to them out of their familiarity. Because they are familiar you feel rapport with them and are attracted to them easier then someone you are seeing for the first time. Follow me so far? This all came much clearer recently in Brazil. I was in a city where I knew no one. The place is filled with beautiful women. It is relatively easy to initiate a conversation with any of the girls down there, as I am a young decent looking foreigner. What I noticed about myself is that I was drawn to the girls that reminded me of girls I knew back home. I was consistently going after the girls that resembled girls from my social circle, not just in appearance but in manner. It wasn’t a conscious decision. But in a land of unfamiliarity these girls were comfortable. They put me at ease. I felt a rapport with them which made me more attracted to them. This got me to thinking. When you’re out and you see someone who looks like someone that you know, don’t you pay a little more attention to them then the other less familiar looking faces? Most people do. It’s natural. We like familiarity. Women are the same way. I’ve found that when a woman I just met tells me that I remind her of someone she knows, she is usually more responsive to me, lets things accelerate quicker, and generally less flaky in future meetings. So the question I had was how I could create this rapport more often. And the answer was to remind women of someone they know more
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often. Since we don’t know anything about most women and the men in their lives, how can we remind them of someone they know? We have to remind them of someone that everyone knows. And who does everyone know? Celebrities! I know a few guys who naturally resemble celebrities (not necessarily traditionally good looking celebrities) and these guys have always had an easy time opening women. Most of the time the women don’t even realize that the guy looks like so and so, but they feel an instant rapport with them. This is because these guys are familiar to women. The women feel like they’ve known them for a long time. They put their guards down. So a quick way to gain instant rapport with women is to emulate a celebrity. Most of us have a celebrity that we resemble in some way. It doesn’t have to be a great looking guy. It can be Tony Soprano for all it matters. It just has to be someone that is part of national consciousness. Once you decide on someone that you physically resemble (it helps if it’s someone that other people have told you) then next step is emulate their mannerisms, their tone of voice, their gestures, facial expressions, and style of dress. I’m not talking about stalker type obsessive shit… I’m just talking about emulating someone. You can rent a few videos of the person you’ve chosen and really watch them. And practice. Practice their walk, their talk, and their mannerisms. You don’t want to make it obvious that you’re trying to look like someone. And the people that know you closely will notice the change and most likely rip on you for it... But when you go out you’ll notice a huge difference in the way you are reacted to. Girls will open up to you much easier. This doesn’t mean you don’t need the game to back it up. But it will open doors that might have otherwise been shut. Try it. See for yourself and let me know the results.

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Using an Opinion Opener to Initiate a Conversation
Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 03/01/20089

Last night after the radio show Mike Stoute and I headed over to a local pub for a couple beers. The radio show was quite stressful as there was a shit load of technical difficulties with the transmitter… which messed the phone lines up, and hence, instead of talking to our planned guest we were forced to improvise. It left us feeling drained and just looking to unwind. The both of us already had girls we were going to be meeting later on, so our intentions were solely to chat a little and throw a few beers back. As some of you know, both Mike and I are recently single, and once again experiencing some of the things that make dating such a pain in the ass. Our conversation at the bar turned towards the girls we were going to be meeting later on in the night. Both of us had been dating these girls for a brief period of time and already beginning to experience the “what is this?” or “where is this going?” or “what should I tell my friends we are?” talk. The talk that takes the fun out of casual relationships. Mike and I were telling each other various stories of time’s we’ve been in the situation and how the different girls reacted. We were trying to come up with the “right” way to answer the dreaded “what is this?” question. Although the topic was somewhat serious, we began making a goof of it by coming up with over the top comebacks to the question. “Well, Sally now that you’ve asked… I thought we would spend a few weeks fucking, you know, to keep my dick occupied until something better comes along.” The goofing put us in a better mood and got us laughing a bit. Keen to the fact that there were two fairly attractive girls standing next to us sipping drinks, Mike casually turns to them and says “What's the best way to respond to a girl when she asks ‘what is this’ and you’re not really into her?” The girls were all too eager to jump in with their opinions. The four of us quickly became immersed in conversation. Soon the question became “what do you say when someone tells you ‘I love you’ during sex, and you don’t feel the same way? This got the conversations even livelier and more provocative. Soon the two girls were met by another female
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friend and instantly dragged her into the conversations, introducing us to her as if we were long time acquaintances. After getting a handful of text messages from the girls we were supposed to be meeting later on, we decided to call it an evening and head home. Although both of the girls we were talking to at the bar were attractive, neither of them struck enough interest in Mike or me to ask for numbers. So we said goodbye and left. On the way home I got to thinking how smoothly the whole conversation transpired. It reminded me of another time a few months back when I used an opinion opener that lead to a one night stand. What the two nights had in common, and what I believe made the openers work so smoothly, was the fact that they were legitimate questions that we wanted the answer to. In the Houlihan’s story, Eddy and I were already engrossed in a conversation that was entertaining us, so it was perfectly natural to invite a couple girls into it- to share their opinions. Our energy was real and the girl’s sensed it… which opened them up to take interest in our opinion opener. The same thing happened last night with Mike. Mike and I were legitimately curious to know what a girl wanted to hear from a guy when she asks “what is this?” so the girls we asked were more than willing to commit to the conversation. I think that the biggest mistake guys make when it comes to fully understand how to use an opinion opener is that they don’t realize that they need to have some emotional involvement in the answer. If you’re using canned openers, chances are you are using an opener that someone else had emotional involvement in, and that is why it worked for them, and not for you. When I use the phrase “emotional involvement” it doesn’t mean you need to feel deeply and passionately about the topic, but it does mean that you have to have some level of curiosity and interest. For instance, most people have heard of Neil Strauss’s “80’s pop duo” opener. Neil Strauss found humor in naming dogs after an 80’s pop duo, so when he asked that opener at the very least he was entertained by the idea. Some people are out there using this same opener and weren’t even born in the 80’s and could care less about 80’s pop duos. These people have no emotional involvement in the opener and it will rarely work for
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them. If the notion of naming a couple pugs “Hall and Oates” doesn’t make you laugh, how is it supposed to be entertaining to a girl you’re imposing it on? Joseph Mathews wrote one of my favorite books on opening called “The Art of Approaching” but I think the biggest mistake others who buy that book make is that they skip all the great theory and skill building and flip right to the long collection of openers. There is nothing magic in an opener that Mathews created, or Mystery created, or Style or Tyler Durden or Mehow. Those are just openers that happened to work for them. Just like I wrote about Mike’s “what's the best answer” opener, and I’m sure I’ll read in some field report in a few weeks how someone used that as their opener. I think instead of focusing on what Mike said to initiate the conversation last night you should focus on the way the night took place. Mike and I went out to have some good conversation. We were discussing a topic that interested and entertained us. When the point in the conversation called for another opinion we casually turned to the girl’s next to us and asked them a question. Our energy was good, our topic interesting, and everything flowed from there. Now you may not always be in the middle of a great conversation when you want to approach a girl. If that’s the case, instead of using an opener from someone else’s past great conversation, use one from your own. If a couple nights ago you and a few friends were in a heated debate over whether or not American Idol is rigged… then draw upon that conversation for an opener. If you were talking about “who turns out more successful the high school nerds or jocks” then use that as opener. At least you had some emotional involvement in them at one point. And I think if you’re genuinely curious about the answer than you won’t hear that little nagging voice in the back of your head calling you a fraud when you say “Do floss before brushing?”

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Being Comfortable Talking Dirty
Written by Michael Stoute Original Published: 02/25/2008

Talking dirty to girls is something that I have struggled with for a long time. It is only now that I feel “pretty” comfortable doing it, still with some hesitancy. I am sure that this comes to some men pretty easily, but it just didn’t to me. There I was, enjoying some great sex when I hear “Tell me how you like fu*king my pus*y” Now don’t get me wrong, I did like fu*king her pus*y, yet I didn’t feel compelled to actually say it to her? Then when I would say it, I felt like I didn’t use a strong enough tone of voice and sounded weird. With all this going on I actually start to lose wood…Great! I couldn’t really understand why I was having this problem. I was confident in all other areas of my game, yet when it came to this I was on new ground. What I realized is that most of the problem had to do with me dating a different breed of woman. A woman who may not be so confident in life, but has ultimate confidence in the bedroom. Girls with more sexual experience than me in some cases… MAN UP These women want someone to take control; hair pulling seems to be as common a missionary these days. Spanking makes me think of booty’s, not babies and giving girls mild titty twister’s (purple nurple) is coming back. The sexual culture is changing and you may be missing it. Women like this don’t just tell you to pull their hair and spank them, you have to know! So how do you know?

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You have to build rapport and maintain Kino escalation to test the waters. (Build comfort and get her comfortable with you touching her and vice versa) Then move this forward veeeeerrrrrrryyy slowly. Maybe start while you are talking and touch her arm, and leave it there for like 5-10 seconds. NEVER GROPE! Keep it real calm and relaxed. Later on lean in to talk to her and use touching her leg as an effect in something you are saying. Example: You're telling some story about something and you say. “Then he grabs me and …..” When you say grabs me, grab her leg for a sec, at most until you finish your sentence, then pull away and continue with your story. Later on (if you are still being your cool guy self and are not being creepy) you need to start looking for opportunities to make a comment about her anatomy, I would go for the ass, one because it is the least confrontational and two, because I love ass! With confidence say something like, “You have a really nice looking ass, would you mind if I gave it a little smack?” MAKE SURE YOU HAVE GREAT KINO AND RAPPORT BEFORE ATTEMPTING A BOLD APPROACH LIKE THIS; IT WORKS FOR ME...THAT’S ALL I CAN SAY. Most girls just laugh, some let me smack it on the spot and others make me work for it a little. Either way, it’s a great SOI (statement of intent) that will for sure keep you out of the friend zone. If it does work, you may have just found you next sex tigress!

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In the beginning you need to create sexual tension. Too many girls. I want to sit around and wonder why you’re not answering the phone. nor am I impressed with how smart you are with your political views. Confuse me. I want inside jokes. Big mistake. Once you tell me I lose interest. 2. Be unpredictable. teasing. We are all simply humans. I don’t want to talk about your job. You have to do this through a mix of playful banter and gradually increasing the amount of time your hands spend touching parts of my body. but then call me late night and tell me how much you miss me.COM 10 Ways a Girl Can Keep a Guy Like Me Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 03/09/2008 This is a list of what it takes for a girl to keep me interested. The point of a good date is the continuing escalation of sexual tension. I think that you'll find doing these same things will keep the girl interested as well. I want to wonder if you’re going to return my call in a few hours. and then use the term “friend” to describe me. Tell me you want your space. 1. And I want my buddies talking about 120 . your daddy issues. Play with my head. Spend three nights having wild passionate sex with me. After I spend a week waiting for our Friday night date… I want you to call and say “something came up can we do it another night?” Of course I don’t want you do this all the time. Like my friends and get them to like you. I want to know that I will easily be able to commingle you and my buddies. 3. compliments.The Best of TSBMAG. Nothing keeps me more interested than a girl I can’t figure out. Tell me you want a relationship. especially the hot ones. but then never be available to hang out. because then it would become predictable. or a few days. Do it just enough that I never know what I’m in store for. googly eyes. and at least one of your hands in close proximity to my body. Flirt damn it. I’m shallow and need the complete approval of my friends before I would seriously consider making you my girlfriend. In the beginning I need to wonder what's going on. don’t find it necessary to flirt. 4.

your job is to make me feel like I just fucked your brains out harder than any guy you’ve had before. Seem excited by the prospect of all of us doing something cool together like a camping trip or ski weekend. It was my magic dick that unleashed your hidden whore. 6. But don’t be afraid to let me know I can’t get one over on you. so now I’ve set higher long term goals involving my career. Do not belittle me. Sure. In college my goal was to fuck as many girls as possible. And I’m a horrible liar so you’ll probably see right through it. Laugh at my failed attempts at show boating.Social Superstar “how lucky Bobby is” behind my back. I won’t let you. and bust my balls from time to time. Make me feel like I’m the best you’ve ever had in bed. Point out my short comings if I’m oblivious to them. I’ve achieved that goal. 5. So will most other guys. Do not try to make me feel small. But I want to believe that I’ve opened up this new sexual side of you that never existed for your other boyfriends. No. but damn it. 121 . Call me out on my bullshit. Other than the playful banter I spoke about earlier. and my hobbies. And make me believe that you’ll have no problem with me continuing to hang out with them in the future. I’m going to feed you a lot of bullshit. Challenge me. don’t act like it's my obligation to always pick up the check. Be genuinely interested in my goals. Call me out on it. So you better make an attempt to become vaguely interested in them too. I want you to crack a few jokes on me. 8. but if you don’t chances are I’ll be bitching to my friends about you. Make an honest attempt at getting along with them. I’m not cheap and would never accept your money in the beginning. Way too many girls do this and don’t realize it is a real turn off to guys. my travel. 7. You’re job in the beginning isn’t to show me how experienced and adventurous in bed you are… there is plenty of time to discover that later. I know I’m not your first. And don’t just say “do you need some money?” Make a sincere effort to pay. Offer to pay occasionally. I’ll humor you and discuss your friend Sally’s relationship with her boyfriend or your brother’s drug problem… but what I really want to be talking about is my interests. these are really the only things I truly enjoy talking about.

I can be a downright mess at times. I’ll fix it…When you need someone to move a heavy piece of furniture. I’m a busy guy. When you get a flat tire. when you notice that it's been a long time since I’ve changed my sheets… throw them in a basket and head to the laundry mat. Hint at threesome.COM 9. 122 . my car is a wreck. Hint at an attraction to other girls. I’ll hold onto that hope long past the point where there seems to be any realistic chance of it happening. It's not your job to harass me about these things. 10.The Best of TSBMAG. My house is sloppy. I’ll fall for it every time. Just pick up a broom and give me a hand. and my sink is overflowing with dishes… I know this. I’m there. Care about my well being more than I do. So. or maybe an “incident in college” early in our relationship… just enough to give me a glimmer of hope that one day I’ll find myself in bed with you and one of your friends.

I slack during the winter and then panic come spring when the scale starts tipping in the wrong direction. You can’t lose on the opener. buying the supplements. “I read that it's a proven fact that the better we perceive ourselves to look while we’re working out.” I tell her. I’m naturally lazy. But I am usually able to motivate myself in small bursts. so with confidence sky high I turn to the girl on the elliptical trainer next to me and say “that is a really nice color on you. the more motivated we become and the harder we push ourselves.” I point at the mirror in front of us. Still giving me nothing to work with. Tonight at the gym I’m all amped up after downing a super sized Red Bull.. “See that mirror.. and working out again. So I’ve began one of those small bursts of motivation. The second after I say it I immediately have that twang of self doubt… like ‘what the fuck did I just say?’ That feeling of doubt is only amplified when she looks at me like I have three heads. I’m reading the bodybuilding forums. Plow on. that allow me to keep decently fit..” My mind is telling me it was a stupid inappropriate moronic way to start a conversation. I want to crawl away. “Never underestimate the power of a gym outfit.” “Oh yea?” she says. Instead I take a deep breath and compose myself. “It's just my gym outfit. That adrenaline rush usually puts me in a talkative mood.Social Superstar Keeping Cool and Plowing On Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 03/11/2008 Every so often I hit that point where the time comes I need to get my ass back in shape.” She was wearing this pale blue shirt that really brought out her eyes.. 123 . She says.

The best approach is to mingle with a bunch of them. Really really good! And I’m having a great workout!” I over exaggerate my motions on the machine. I don’t go for a number or even a name.The Best of TSBMAG. I look like I just rolled out of bed. That's the way I look at gym game. 124 . you’re going to see the same girls. I’m looking really good tonight. The interaction ends on a positive note. and gym pants with paint stains on them. and casually build attraction. It is everything afterward that counts.COM I’m in the worst shape I’ve been in a couple years. And the next time I do will be one step closer to rapport. If you go to the gym the same time every day. Even naturals struggle with initiating conversations. But they’re confident enough to keep going knowing that girls forgets your “opener” a minute after you say it. This finally gets the girl laughing and smiling. wearing an old beat up t-shirt. The point of this post is that many times you’ll initiate a conversation and get dead air. “For instance. I’ll see her again. It's easy to get nervous and go into deer in headlights mode… instead compose yourself. take a deep breath and plow on.

In the tight nit college environment girls tend to be attention whores. I realized it was the way I was hitting on these girls that was fucking it up for me. plowing through women (until I met the ex) but after college my skills trailed off in the same environment. “How do you like living in the dorms?” and then I would go on and tell them a story about my dorm life experience. In Mark Redman’s excellent e-book Conquer Your Campus he talks about how college girls crave the college experience. My topics of conversation usually involved questions like. a line I’ve been using successfully when hanging around college girls is to turn to one of them and say “You’re trouble… There’s always one of you in the group…” and then smile. My game on girls out of college was solid… but back in the old stomping ground I came across very AFC. 125 . You need to keep them in the moment if you want to score with them.Social Superstar How to Talk to Younger Women Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 03/14/2008 Tonight I’m heading to hang out with a few college guys that I know. These guys usually tend to be surrounded by hot college tail… so it got me thinking about gaming these younger girls. What I failed to realize is how self obsessed younger girls tend to be. The best way to keep them in the moment is to talk about them. I was talking to them in a way that was taking them out of the moment. I would head to a college bar or college party and get no response from the girls I was trying to talk to... None of this worked. Or I would try too hard to fit in with the younger college guys to try to conceal my age. Not ask them questions that make them dig for answers that take them into their head… but instead to make declarative statements about them… For instance. When I was in college I was a machine. I realized a little later that what I was doing wrong was trying to approach these girls in a rational way to spark interest.

Make a declarative statement about her.” If that dies down a bit I’ll keep the conversation ‘in the moment’ by pointing at other people standing around us and begin making random statements about them. or how much money you make. Very playful and fun… The trick is to keep the interaction fun. Use a little cold reading to keep interest. Use the environment directly around you as a source of humor 126 . Chances are she’s fucking some guy that lives in a dirty frat house eating Ramen noodles every night. Not me… why do you think that?” I’ll then usually go into some cold reading “You just have that energy about you. Then you can give her a nickname. 3. Assign her a nickname to establish rapport 4.COM She’ll usually say “No. A little mischievous.. I’ve even used something as simple as “Trouble.” This gets the conversation centered in the moment… Me and her talking about how she appears to me right now. My four step plan: 1. 2. I’ll say something like “That guy over there is upset because he misses his dog” and then I’ll go off the cuff with some humorous reason I observe that.. Avoid talking about “what is your major?”Or “Back when I was in college…” and don’t try to impress them with the things that tend to impress older girls.The Best of TSBMAG. A college girl doesn’t care how good your job is.

predicated on the idea that early human beings did not use intelligence and words but instinct and strength to mate. Girl after girl in college I lost because of diarrhea of the mouth. She was blown away. I can safely say that putting this idea into action took my game to the next level. I don’t know what provoked me to do that. It was like a disease for me. Strauss defines caveman as: To directly and aggressively escalate psychical contact. In the past I was one of those guys who always waited for the right moment. At the end of the night I kissed her mid sentence. have “make up my mind for me” syndrome.Social Superstar Going Caveman on Women Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 04/02/2008 Neil Strauss brought the term “caveman” into popularity in his book The Game. The first time I did it was on a blind date. in turn you’re saying “it's okay to act a little irrational. with a consenting woman. but then lose her by talking myself past the moment. Then one day things got completely easier. She started to finish her sentence. This means they look for others to lead the way and let them know what they are doing is alright. I put my finger to her lips to shut her up and then kissed her again. I would rope the girl in with witty banter and create the attraction. When you “go caveman” on a girl your bringing her into your level of animal like attraction. When you eliminate words and rational behavior. Like life changing easier. especially girls. We all have that side of us that wants to get buck naked and lick each other’s privates… most of us are just 127 . And that was when I began going caveman on women. Why going caveman works People. You’re letting her feel comfortable expressing her sexual side. That night I created it. And since then I’ve done it that way. A friend and his girl set me up with one of her friends. I used to be very guilty of talking myself past a hookup. and progress toward sex.” We are all horny fucking creatures.

(This does not mean take advantage of her or intrude if she says stop) It means get her on your level. and then I pin her down and kiss her. That is cave manning!!! 128 .The Best of TSBMAG. Unleash her hidden cavewomen. Later that night. There was a girl Nancy that was with us who I had been flirting with on and off for a month. When I kissed that girl mid sentence… she says “what was that” slightly snotty. Next thing I know we’re wrestling on my living room floor.COM trained not to act that way. If you’re looking to further escalate the encounter you need to ask yourself ‘what would a caveman do?’ Would he smell her hair? Would he bite her neck? Run his hands down her spine? Once you go caveman you can’t go back When you go into caveman mode it has to be for real. When we meet someone that allows us to act that way it is really liberating. No words were said. If I had apologized or went back to talking things would have been weird… instead I put my finger to her mouth… shut her up and then kissed her again… After that she spent the night. What would a caveman do? When things are going well and you’re in a private place with a girl… things can go one of two ways. her and her friends came back to my house for the after party. You can’t test it and then back peddle. At this point she is already attracted to you so you can either further emotionally or intellectually stimulate her… or you can sexually stimulate her. She was testing me. Instead of going into conversation about some stupid topic I started teasing her by gently pushing her away from me on the couch. Going caveman means you stop talking and get physical. She would push me back. She pins me down. This was our first night hanging out though. Another night I went out with a group of friends.

but it negatively affects you to every other girl in the place. Now. the way he carried himself after she left sealed his fate for the worse. AFC stood there alone with a sour puss on his face repeatedly glancing at her across the bar waiting for her to return. But luck had it that she chose him to do body shots with. whiny bitch…. and even if she had originally wanted to return back to him. and stick her tongue down his throat. She was drunk and kept getting side tracked chatting with everyone in the place. do you think he’s making it tempting for her to return to him? Hell no. but right now I wanted to talk about how you should compose yourself when a girl you’re hitting on in a bar walks away. he looked like a needy. She was pretty drunk and was really anyone’s game. At this Irish Pub I was at last night in Cabarete some standard AFC scooped up a drunken blonde. dance against. Not only does it negatively affect you with the girl you’ve been working. Here is where AFC blew it hard… and what I’m warning you against. I will have more about the trip when I come back in a couple days. and noticed something last night at a bar that I wanted to address. finally settling on some other guy across the bar. blonde California Hot never made it back to AFC. If I noticed 129 . he had a right to be scared because a few minutes later the Irish guitar player called a couple of the girls from her group up to the stage to sing along with the chorus of “American Pie. You could tell by the way he had his arm wrapped tightly around her in a “mine” sort of way that he was scared shitless of letting go in fear that his miracle score would disappear.Social Superstar ever Show Emotion When She Walks Away Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 06/01/2008 I’m currently down in the DR scouting out villas for our upcoming Mansformation Retreat. Well.” Well. He basically stopped talking to anyone around him and just sipped his drink looking miserable. depressed.

or fuck another dude in the bathroom… you best play it extremely cool.The Best of TSBMAG. flirting with other girls standing next to you. You also want to keep her curiosity hooked on whether or not she has you.COM how miserable he looked. AFC last night blew his whole night after losing one Hot. and she leaves. Forget about her until she comes back… and if she doesn’t come back. and just genuinely having a good time. say hi to a friend. how many other people noticed the same thing? When a girl you’ve been hitting on leaves. On the same note. You’re safest bet is to engage yourself in conversation with the friends you came with. don’t make it obvious to everyone in the bar how happy you are to be talking to her… I’ve seen guys giving each other hi fives like a bunch of middle schoolers after scoring a number. at least now you’ll be in a position to tackle other girls. 130 . Because you can be sure that the girl will peak over at you and you want to give her a reason to come back. if you’re talking to a hottie. or other people around you. whether it be to take a piss. By acting like a sad little puppy when she leaves you’re killing your chance she’ll be back. Go back to talking with your friends.

it will help your cause if you close your eyes and daydream for a couple minutes. I’d say pretty much everyone reading this (who’s had sex) has had the misfortune of blowing their load a tad bit too early. Find out what position you tend to have trouble finishing with and switch to that position whenever you feel like you’re going to finish too early. For me. a project at work. 3. Use breathing patterns to prolong ejaculation. The slow breaths will calm you down and let the urge to climax pass. 131 .Social Superstar 5 Tips for Lasting Longer in Bed Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 06/24/2008 Raise your hand if you’ve ever been a three pump chump. 5. 2. Switch positions to one your less likely to climax with. And it definitely won’t increase your chances of sticking your wilie in the girl again…but there are ways to prevent it. Don’t wait too long to make the squeeze or you’ll wind up splurging in your hand. The most common way of trying to delay orgasm is to take your mind out of the moment and focus on something completely non sexual… like doing your laundry. It's best to take slow long breaths if you feel yourself getting too turned on. I know that I have trouble finishing when I’m doing a girl doggy style. If you feel yourself about to orgasm early you and your partner can squeeze the smooth. pull out for a couple minutes and switch to some foreplay. big head at the top of the penis to delay it. Squeeze it firmly until the urge to orgasm passes. Squeeze the glands at the top of the penis. If you feel yourself building up for an orgasm too quickly. Use this time to let the blood rush away from the head of your dick. It’s frustrating and embarrassing no doubt. This one can work wonders. I’ve never met a girl who bitched that you suddenly had the urge to eat her out. 4. Relax for a few minutes and when you feel its safe… go back to work. 1. but it also has the disadvantage of taking you out of the moment… As much as you want to stare down at her watching yourself go inside and out. or your grandmother.

Remember. you only get one chance to make a first impression.COM I hope that these tips will help you from prematurely ejaculating.The Best of TSBMAG. 132 .

she would tense up tremendously and push her pelvis out to make the pressure of my nose greater. The reason this is so important is because every woman enjoys being pleased differently. Recently I was quite frustrated with a girl I was dating because I couldn’t get her off with oral sex. Needless to say she went from being indifferent to oral… to begging me for it. The key line to this statement is that you have to pay attention to what works on each and every particular woman you’re with. The first few times with this girl it was driving me crazy. I’ve never had that problem before. Other people say that improving your stamina. I’ve found there is only one secret for becoming a better lover. The secret is to simply pay better attention to what is working and what isn’t on a particular woman. Practice will get your sexual confidence up… but it won’t necessarily get you better in bed. The best lover is attentive and knows how to read the clues she’s giving you. The woman that you’re sleeping with will give you all the clues you need… you just have to be ready to read them. Some girls only cum on top… other girls get off doggie. I searched my repertoire for all the things that worked on the previous girls… and she wasn’t responding to any of them. All of those things definitely won’t hurt you… But they still won’t necessarily make you better in bed.Social Superstar How to Get Better in Bed Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 06/30/2008 Some people will tell you that the secret to getting better in bed is practice. lasting longer. Sometimes she’ll verbally tell you what she likes… but most of the time you’ll have to watch how her body reacts. Finally about a month in. Sure. others slow and soft… some girls like massive foreplay… Others like their clothes ripped right off. or adding more foreplay will make you a better lover. The minute I realized what she was reacting to I went right along with it. and be willing to make the adjustments. 133 . the basics don’t change… but some girls like it hard and fast. I noticed that every time my nose would press against her clit while going down on her.

push herself toward you. and spreading my legs over my head…” doesn’t mean they won’t be trying to telling you in every other conceivable way. But they won’t tell you out of fear of hurting your feelings.) The fact is. But if you want that first kiss to be memorable you’ll quickly note the actions of her lips and tongue. The most common things to look out for are the intensity of the grunts and moans she is making. What you have to realize is that just because they’re not going to open up their mouth and say “Bobby I really like when you stick a pinky in my ass. or fear of killing the mood. When she particularly fancies something you can be sure she’ll let out an extra special moan in hopes you catch on. blinds up. you can try to change her style to match yours. while groping my right tit. When she is enjoying something she’ll usually tense up.COM I’ve had many girls tell me that I’m the most amazing kisser they’ve ever experienced. and mimic them. fear of embarrassment. She’ll do everything possible to prevent you from suddenly stopping or changing positions. 134 . or I begin the foreplay in any room but the bedroom. You also want to be paying attention to the psychological factors influencing how turned on she is getting. Some girls are wildly turned on by the idea of being caught. You should also watch out for her body language. This is not because I have some special technique… it’s because I adjust to their particular style of kissing. This goes for all areas of foreplay and sex.The Best of TSBMAG. Everyone kisses differently. When I sense a girl has this fetish… I’ll make sure I leave a door open. If you notice that a girl gets super wet and turned on when you whisper dirty commands in her ears… keep on doing it (but don’t overdo it and let it loose its affect. The key is to be extremely observant and act upon the giving stimulus. or pull you closer. Sure. most girls want to tell you what is working and what isn’t.

I knew that physically there was nothing wrong with me… I mean.Social Superstar Having Trouble Getting Hard? Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 08/04/2008 This is a post I’ve been meaning to write for awhile. I sure have. I was jerking off twice a day… hard as a rock. She fumbled around for a minute before I embarrassingly brought her hand back up to my chest and continued kissing her like nothing happened. and unhooked her bra with the skill of a pro… but something was noticeably wrong. We took it slow in the bedroom and soon I was functioning full strength during make out sessions. this paralyzing fear of inadequacy. things are escalating towards intimacy… and absolutely nothing is going on down there? Or you manage to finally get an erection… only to quickly lose it as you attempt to slide the condom on? If you haven’t already experienced these situations… chances are you will at some point in your life. There was this exhilarating sense of accomplishment. I was completely limp. I was surprisingly competent at making out. She was a virgin too. and I have to thank my blogger friend Evil Woobie for pushing me to finally write it. But the minute I had a girl willing to come back to my place… I would lose all feeling down there. I didn’t realize exactly how wrong until she reached her hand down my pants. I wound up in a relationship with a girl from my math class. I didn’t lose my virginity until my freshman year at college. That night was the beginning of my journey on a long and bumpy road to sexual competency. We were having marathon foreplay sessions where I would expand so big I felt I could burst… 135 . Because of this I felt apprehensive about hooking up with girls as I imagined them all to be much more experienced than me. and at the same time. I still remember the first night I brought a girl back to my dorm room. Have you ever found yourself with a girl.

And the more anxiety I felt… the less chance I would get or maintain an erection. girls I didn’t want to sleep. My girlfriend went on the pill… so all was well. The less comfortable I was with the girl… the less chance of success in the bedroom.e. After we broke up I entered the hell of erectile dysfunction all over again. girls I wasn’t supposed to sleep with. 4. The more time I had to prepare for the sexual encounter… the more anxiety I felt. and then a movie. 5. When we finally got to my place I was a nervous wreck. My next few attempts ended the same way.) fat girls. 136 . Mainly because I feared going for the homerun… only to fail.COM But then the night came when she decided she was ready to give me her virginity. 2. For the rest of our relationship I never wore a condom because I saw it as Kryptonite to my erection. It most often happened in experiences where there was a built up pressure involved. By this time I was tearing it up with the girls on my campus. This meant that if I could make it past the first few mishaps with a girl… it would be smooth sailing from there on out. 3. But I was very rarely closing the deal with them. It wasn’t until one morning when she climbed on top of me… slid me inside her and starting bouncing up and down… that I finally was able to maintain an erection. The entire time my mind was racing with anxiety over how well I would perform at something I’ve waited 18 years to attempt. We went out to dinner. Alcohol in large doses made me lose all sensitivity down there. What I learned about my experience with limp dick 1. Of course.The Best of TSBMAG. I found it almost impossible to put on a condom without losing or at least greatly diminishing my erection. The girls I had the best sex with were the ones I felt no pressure to perform well… i. I managed to fondle myself in the bathroom enough to get it up… but when she handed me a condom to place on my boss… I fizzled away. I never got around to putting a condom on. Alcohol in small doses helped the problem.

I realized that much of the cause of the problem was me visualizing the worst possible outcome. For the first time I felt there wasn’t just something fundamentally wrong with me.” What I did know was that my sexual confidence was completely down the toilet for awhile there. to let anyone going through this know… it isn’t just you. If there was still nothing going on down there… I would eat her pussy and call it a night. How I Handled the Problem when it occurred If I didn’t avoid sex completely with a girl… I would prolong it as long as possible with massive amounts of foreplay. I would pull her hand away and just pretend that I was teasing her to build anticipation. Man Power.” Other times I would blame it on being “stressed out over finals”. Herbal supplements don’t work. I was amazed to find that pretty much all of them had experienced the problem before. overcoming erectile dysfunction was where I saw the most distinct result. Once I was armed with the knowledge that other guys have gone through this too… I became a lot less nervous about the situation. The next biggest breakthrough came with using visualizations. Horny Goat Weed. Road to Recovery The biggest break through that I had was one day opening up to my friends about my problem. I took Yohimbe. That is my biggest inspiration for writing the article. 137 . Other times I would blame it on “just getting out of a relationship. If a girl started to reach down there and I wasn’t hard.Social Superstar 6. and just about every other over the counter supplement… and none of them made a damn difference. Ginseng. Sometimes I would blame it on being “too drunk. Visualizations are a powerful tool that can be used for achieving any goal… but for me. Whenever I was on a date with a girl I would start letting the anxiety take over and imagining the pain and embarrassment I would feel if I couldn’t get it up. Some of them were even experiencing it as regularly as me.

I fucked her all over her house. 138 . Soon I found that I was actually going home and having the sex I was imagining. If for some reason I still lost my hard on I stopped beating myself up over it. but if I felt myself shrinking… I would chuck it aside. I made her come multiple times.” And I believed her. I would tell myself “it happens” and then begin looking forward to my next opportunity to sleep with the girl. The mind naturally attracts what we focus on the most. I’ve worn them consistently since her and never once lost my erection putting one on. An odd thing happened the next time we had sex. but could not cum. A few years after college I began dating this girl who refused to sleep with me raw dog. Whenever I started to feel anxiety creep in… I would start imaging having the wildest hottest sex imaginable with the girl. fucked for like four hours straight. Instead change your focus to the mind blowing sex you intend to have. I don’t kid myself to believe it will never happen again. I began viewing them as a tool to last longer in bed.The Best of TSBMAG. It’s part of being a man. The hardest obstacle to overcome was my aversion to condoms. We honest to god. We had the most mind blowing sex of my life. Repeat the image of yourself performing competently over and over in your mind. but my performance was less than stellar as my penis was only barely hard. I would imagine myself hard as a rock jamming her to the point of pain. Conclusion It’s been many years since I’ve faced the embarrassment of an episode. Oddly enough… with all the girls I slept with I never once had a girl force me to wear a condom. My first time using a condom with her I managed. If you’re going through the problem right now the best advice I can give you is to stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. I would hold the vision of this unbelievable sex in mind and it was like a fortress blocking out the anxiety. I would attempt to wear them on occasion. because it was the best sex of my life too. Since then my mind did a 180 degree turn in regards to condoms. When we finally finished she said “that was by far the best sex of my life. I was hard as a rock.COM I changed my internal visualizations.

and get back on the horse. Do any of you have any tips for guys who might be facing this problem? 139 . Look at it like a stumbling block.Social Superstar If the problem still arises don’t put too much emphasis on it.

You thought you would get points for being “co-operative” a “helpful”. when you set rules and boundaries for her to follow. and how to do some testing of your own. If you’ve ever been dumped for being “too nice”. The other factor is ambivalence. I’d like to go out with you Friday. Maybe you aren’t exactly the physical type she goes for. “let’s just be friends”. the sad reality is that often a woman just isn’t that interested in you one way or another. it’s because you haven’t learned to recognize when you’re being tested or just haven’t yet learned how to respond properly. but why don’t you call me late Friday afternoon and I’ll let you know for sure?” 140 . Could that really be true? Frankly. I’d like to talk about how you can pass those tests. to see: 1. it lets her know she can relax around you and feel comfortable and secure. never get fed) 3.COM Wimps into Winners Written by Ross Jeffries Original Reprinted: 03/07/2007 Originally newsletter from: http://speedseduction. If you’ll take her bullshit. 2. When you put a woman in her place. or sooner. But I will say this: 95% of the time. Why She Tests You: The Search for Strength and Certainty Look: one of the primary things that women are looking for from a man is security. Just how much control she can exert over you and/or the relationship. or have been told.biz There’s a common saying in street fighting that 95% of all real fights wind up in a clinch and go to the ground.The Best of TSBMAG. you can tell this is happening when you hear something like “Uh…well. Believe me. the feeling that someone is stronger than they are. this is important. and instead you just got the fuzzy end of the lollipop. maybe she just got burned in a bad relationship. In this issue. a woman will test you by the second date. time and again. or there’s some unseen competitor who she’s waiting to hear from. or what I call the “make up my mind for me” syndrome. This search for strength is the single most important reason why she tests you. I don’t know. How hungry you are for her attention (remember: those who look hungry. You see. Whatever her reasons.

Whining stuff like. Just don’t go nuts with a stream of obscenities. good buddy. “How could you do this to me?” or. an attack. “Oh no… why is she doing this? What did I do wrong?” from now on will be…. (Streams of obscenities are for afterwards. and intensify her desire to please you. when you are in bed with her. rather than something to be feared. increase her interest. Notice I’m not saying you can’t or shouldn’t get a little pissed. How to Handle It…Dealing from a Position of Strength To get back to street fighting analogies. before we go on to some specific scenarios. they flake on commitments that occur during the peak of the overwhelm. since you know it’s your chance to get her really hot for you!!!! Now. great Bruce Lee that basically says that any weapon thrust your way. “But you promised!” won’t cut it. No. let me add one other thing: when you do put her in her place.) The other thing that doesn’t work is acting like a hurt little boy. there’s a concept from Jeet Kun Do. there is the fact that sometimes. AH. and may even find yourself actually looking forward to her trying to pull shit. your response to these tests. but firm 141 . You have to come from the calm. when overwhelmed. instead of being. Coming from this perspective. … IT’S GOT TO COME FROM THE RIGHT PLACE IN YOU!!! In other words. you’ll be mentally prepared. as part of an attack is just a convenient target to be destroyed. is just an unprecedented opportunity to… KICK THE OTHER GUY’S ASS!!!! Just so. the macho idiot who loses control and trashes the place when his girlfriend comes home ten minutes late is definitely not the example to follow. the fighting style of the late. HAH! A RESPECT OPPORTUNITY!!! Look: your attitude has to be that every rude piece of behavior.Social Superstar Finally. modern women just get overwhelmed with eighty billion things they are trying to do at once. All he’s doing is showing he can’t control himself and he just earns the woman’s contempt. every silly test of hers is just an unprecedented opportunity for you to establish respect. a woman’s bullshit and tests are great opportunities to establish respect and dramatically increase her interest in you. In other words. And. Taken from this perspective.

in any area of your life. and they had better take advantage of the opportunity. if you show a non-stop. On to some scenarios. something like. forever and ever devotion to her. You have my number. I’d like to but.” Here’s your response: “Let me ask you a question. Is going out with me something you can take or leave or is it something that you’re smart enough that you really want to do that?” Then shut the hell up and listen for her answer. say this one: You: Look. It’s not what she’s expecting. and put up with her crap and ambivalence. Her response is ambivalent. if you don’t call it’s going to be a loss 142 . Just be as matter of fact and non-hostile as you can. why don’t you call me later in the week and…. I’ve come to the conclusion that a woman can only experience real passion for you if on some level she believes she could do something to lose you! Understand that when you show this willingness to walk away.COM “take it or leave it” position. Now. Will this work? Very often it does. what are you doing here? You’re calling her on her ambivalence and letting her know you don’t have time to be put on hold. This is all part of displaying the critically important… WILLINGNESS TO WALK AWAY FROM HER!!! You see. “Well. By way of contrast. And you know. after years of experience and study. you’re embedding a command that she really does want to go out with you. that you are the person of value. this is one big reason!!! Ok.The Best of TSBMAG. This is an attitude that will move you forward in any area that’s challenging you. and I’m going to leave it up to you. and that always gets attention. it conveys the message that you are the prize to be pursued. Finally. And you’re also suggesting she’s stupid if she doesn’t grab this opportunity. then where is that tension of knowing she could lose you? Answer: Nowhere! And that’s why you get nowhere when you put up with this kind of stuff! If you’ve seen an initially hot relationship grow ice-cold. What if she still hesitates? Well. Scenario one: You call to ask her out for the first time. Understatement works best with this one. point blank.

she’ll probably call back with five minutes and apologize and ask you out!!! I’m not kidding here. Seriously) Her: I can’t make it. from “My parakeet is sick” to “I’ve got to shampoo the rug”. if someone makes a commitment to me. I am NOT talking about or in any way suggesting or condoning physical violence with a woman. (I’ve heard every excuse in the book. You’re disrespecting me and disrespecting my time and I’m NOT going to put up with it. I am against the use or threat of the use of violence or force against ANY human being. that it’ll be a loss for you as well. but maybe what you won’t realize until after you hang up is. I can’t make this too clear. Just say NOTHING!!!) Her: Hello? Are you there? What’s wrong? You: What’s wrong is I can’t believe the bullshit I’m hearing.Social Superstar for me. My rule is. I need to know at least a day in advance so I can make other plans. It throws some kind of switch in their heads. my friend. but man does it work well!!! In fact. You: (dead silence for as long as it takes for her to talk again. Got it? If you can live with that rule. sayonara! Then. Her: What????? You: Look…you made a commitment to spend time with me and now you’re blowing me off. great…if not. I’ve got a rare tropical disease that’s causing me to shrink by the hour. I guess with some people. Ok? Bye. you don’t really get their attention until… You Give Them A Swift Kick In The Ass!! Please note I’m speaking of an attitude. I’m talking about using your mind. Scenario Two: She calls and cancels at the last minute without offering to do it again at some specific time. this may sound extreme. In fact. I expect them to keep it. HANG UP!! Now. If they can’t keep it. 143 . eager to please me when I’ve done this. jaded bitches go to giggly little girls. unless there is an imminent threat of violence against yourself or a loved one. I’ve seen the hardest. NOT your fists.

doesn’t it? ‘Til next time. unable to say anything!) YOU: Don’t ever keep me waiting like this again. self-control AND self-respect. Do you understand me? HER: Uh…uh…yes. Ross 144 . you want to do the unexpected. Walk a middle ground of strength. Don’t put up with it. Piece and peace.COM Scenario Three: You go to pick her up at her place and she either keeps you waiting outside for more than ten minutes. like a “nice guy” and don’t lose your temper like a jerk. The point is this: when women throw this stuff your way. ok? I’ll always treat you respectfully. and as soon as she does say something like this: YOU: Can I ask you a question? HER: Sure. Wait for her to finish. or lets you in and then proceeds to talk on the phone for at least that long while totally ignoring you. And that certainly beats a poke in the eye.The Best of TSBMAG. or are you just accidentally acting clueless? HER: (mouth dropping open in shock. but I expect the same. and these tests will become opportunities to power her straight into your bed. YOU: Are you being intentionally rude to test me.

We got to talking and we were talking about my Halloween party last year that she missed. So if you want to create a good jealousy trap. as they teach in the Art of Seduction. that honor would go to one of my friends who’ll remain nameless. what a great host I was. Just like you read the comments of a girl you’re interested in. and a little joke about a photo in my room. they pay attention and remember shit like that. A recon profile is a fake female profile you create to attract men… the point of the profile is basically to see what your competition is writing to women online. But it wasn’t my fake profile girl. Take advantage of this tip. I'm going to put a patented “sleazy” on this post. Comments like “what a great time last night…” “Your party rocked…” “I was so surprised how well endowed you are. the girl I was bummed missed the party actually mentioned something like “I know you had fun that night!” She said this because she read the comment and assumed I went home with the girl… Actually I went home with a girl that night. Then what we did was leave comments from them on our real profiles. Anyway. But the point is. Just don’t tell too many people what you’re doing. I was pretty bummed she missed it. I actually forgot about my fake comments until a girl I used to have a thing for came back into my life. Don’t think girls don’t read your comments. This is a great way to create a triangle.Social Superstar Ultimate MySpace Jealousy Tool Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 12/23/2007 Ok. They do. You’ll look like a real ass if you get caught. So I left a comment from a fake chic telling me how great of a time she had. Anything that would add some value to our profile page.” no just kidding about that last one. I’m glad I didn’t invent this. and it's still paying off… What we did was create a couple fake female profiles on MySpace. I know that Dave M teaches about creating recon profiles in his Insider Internet Dating course. 145 .. My friend's tactic goes one step further. I and my nameless friend took this tactic a little further about a year ago.. But you get the point. Even for Bobby Rio this is sleazy.

Fuck that! Even Bobby Rio rolls with the fatties some time. You don’t go from T-ball to the big leagues without some time in the minors. Is it a front you're putting up? Is it easier to say you’ve got really high standards than it is to admit you have no game and are afraid of girls? I say this because I have a few buddies who are perpetually alone. just today's thought. That way when you do meet the perfect 10 you’re experienced enough sexually not to blow your load in three minutes. And when I try to set them up with a “not so hot” chick they act like I’m crazy for suggesting it. Anyway. C’mon guys. Plus its fun… but don’t tell anyone. Aim lower.COM Aim Lower Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 08/15/2007 Just a quick thought… How come all of the virgin.The Best of TSBMAG. at home Friday night masturbating guys always seem to have really high standards? These guys who have absolutely no experience with women are waiting for the perfect 10 to come along. no ass getting. 146 . you best give her the fuck of the century. I’m not saying you shouldn’t strive to fuck hotties. When you get the perfect 10 in bed. Haven’t you notice the guys who fuck the hottest chicks also fuck the ugliest as well. Like they’re way too good for her. I’m just saying that in the meantime get your feet wet with some piggy's. You’ve read the story! It’s all just practice for the big game.

I read about how to deliver them.) but the openers cause flirty type of arguments… not real heated win or lose type arguments. never political. So what makes a good opener? The reason that openers Mystery uses or Style or any of the other canned ones that have become popular over the years. are so good is because they are non threatening.Social Superstar PUA Openers. So are canned openers good? If it takes using a canned opener to get you to have the confidence to open your mouth in front of a girl then by all means use them. These were original openers that better matched my unique personality. Remember the topics at times are supposed to cause arguments (who lies more… floss before or after… is kissing cheating…. So in reality anything that you say to a girl is an opener. I think that is why Neil Strauss's book became so famous. And I want to hear some comments and feedback to see what all of you think about the topic. but I feel that it's time to write on the subject again. that is all an opener is. It seems that people love googling openers looking for the page of perfect ones to use in bars/clubs/banks/hot dog stands/Wall Marts….. I used the outlines he gave and wrote openers that actually interested me.. Essentially. never anything that can be angrily argued about. never racial. the hooks. topical (mainly topics girls might be interested in) and they are sometimes comedic. I took everything I learned in the amazing book and constructed my own “canned” openers. I looked for the reasons that they work. the routines… but I never used them in the field. Openers. A conversation starter. Openers Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 08/29/2007 It seems that the topic of openers is all the rage lately. I memorized the punch lines. What I did when I was first starting out years ago was I bought the book The Art of Approaching and basically took the 50 or so openers he gives you in there and studied them. 147 . (Or hasn’t it always been?) What are good openers? Will Mystery openers still work? Are canned openers good? Mike Stoute and I did a podcast about openers a few months ago. Because it gave a lot of people a handbook of what to say to a girl to start a conversation. always light… meaning the topics are never depressing.

you must not be from New Jersey. I remember once. the impatient tandem jump instructor yelling at me… these things made the story come alive… these things got me LAID that night. I just changed names.The Best of TSBMAG.COM For instance the question “Do you floss before or after brushing” became my opener “That piece of meat in a wonton soup… what the hell is it?” The opener “Is kissing cheating?’ became “Would you let your fiancé go to Thailand for his bachelor party?’ “You have a real confident way about you” became “You have a friendly air about you. As I used them more and more I began to see a pattern of how girls reacted to them. I created a whole shit load of openers that brought up topics I liked and started using them. These thing got one of my friends 148 . By reading books like Magic Bullets I was able to see how to construct a routine. Sometimes I cheated and used a Mystery routine. I told the story… I had them imagining themselves in the plane. sometimes I felt like a liar…(”it's not lying its flirting” lol) Sometimes I would return to a bar a couple weeks later and have to remember some story I made up and roll with it again. they were imagining themselves pulling the cord. disarming obstacles…) they became easy to make up. (back then they weren’t so cliché) but more and more I began making up the routines on the spot. I used my imagination and turned a true story about my backing out of a skydiving trip… into this life or death moment of manhood bullshit that the girls ate up. to fit the mood of the moment. genders." The jealous girl friend opener became “Would you be mad if your boyfriend slept with Jennifer Anniston?” This is how I got by in the beginning. Yes. Tell me I only live once… blah blah… I ran with it. my friends and I had three different sets of girls swarmed around us waiting for me to answer the burning question “will I pussy out or will I go sky diving tomorrow?” My friend opened the set my telling them to talk me out of being a pussy. It's all about how you sell it. To tell me I will regret it. dates. From there I started developing routines to lead into. But usually these stories weren’t lies… they were stories that happened to me. Once you know the purpose of a routine (demonstrating higher value. the wind.

It's easy.Social Superstar LAID that night… the other one (with the least game) got a number and wound up fucking her three dates later. Man. and you’re going with the flow. It actually makes you look forward to going out. Once you know how to construct a good opener. My point isn’t to brag. and it's working…. Things are even truer when you get to the point that you’re not using canned ones. When you go out and the night really becomes an adventure. They are merely conversation starters. It's to tell you that openers aren't some magic mysterious lines that are hidden away for a select few. It's fun. you can’t ask for a better feeling!!!!! 149 . He still thanks me.

” And it works. Women can smell neediness a mile away.” Back in the day me and my friends would call it “practicing for the big game. Your intention should be to give her as much sexual pleasure as possible. They are all over. she won’t ask for those things. You probably work with one of them. And don’t feel bad about it. They are on Match. They can look at you and know if you “get laid. Nothing more. escalating. So what's the best way to do this? If you're less than experienced in the bedroom I recommend going out and getting yourself a fuck buddy. If you're wondering where to find these fuck buddies.” Every time we fucked a girl that was ugly or fat we would blow it off to “practice. do it. I’m talking about a plain Jane. If you're fucking a girl right. The more comfortable and confident you get in your sexual abilities the more natural it will be for you to act sexual around women. maybe a chunker with a cute face. or Adult Friendfinder. This means getting comfortable touching girls.COM How to Calm Your Sexual eediness Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 09/19/2007 Too many guys jump into this seduction/PUA stuff swinging for the fences.” And women want guys who get laid. Use each other. 150 . That's great. but if you’re a guy that's been sitting on the sidelines for years you’re going to need a little experience in the bedroom before you start fucking around with 9 and 10s. someone with a little baggage… your goal here is not to fall in love. They are at bars. As much as your ego must hate the idea of slumming. What's great about a fuck buddy is that because you’re getting laid a couple nights a week you won’t be so needy and hungry when you're out hunting.The Best of TSBMAG. Remember “you only get one chance to make a first impression. You don’t need to promise her flowers and diamonds. Your goal is get comfortable being sexual. talking sexual to girls.

They don’t understand how to tell. put into my own little rhyme sequence.just in case you have not noticed. this incident left Dan confused and filled with self-doubt about his women-reading skills. He was to find out. Many women measure themselves based on how many men hit on them or give them second glances. etc. they had good conversations and she seemed receptive to and appreciative of his frequent compliments.” She had been smiling at him and eagerly said hello to him every time he came into the gym.” Ouch.” Let's get these fact straight fellas: Women love attention. She expressed to him that she saw him as a “cool guy and a friend. that she was not into him. He was sure she was into him and even admitted to me that he started envisioning how jealous his friends would be when he landed this hot babe. though.Social Superstar Are You the Man or Just the Fan? Written by Justin B. had an additional problem that he and many others often need help with: discerning a girl’s interest or lack of interest. Especially to hotter girls that are used to getting the attention. I explained to him that this was a frequent mistake I see in men: They don’t know how to tell the difference between when a girl wants them or their attention. plastic surgery. when he asked her out for coffee. He had recently had a bad blow to his intuitive confidence in this area when he had thought that a beautiful and single girl that went to his health club was interested him. Original Published: 04/24/2008 Recently. I am used to young men coming to me for confidence boosting and for improving their internal and external relationship with the opposite sex. it is very important to keep in mind that when you think that a girl is into you. clothes. though. This young man. this attention becomes like a drug. to beautify themselves. He claimed that “all the signals were there. With this fact in mind. I was doing a telephone Life Coaching session for a 19-year old young man named Dan. if she is looking at him as “the man or a fan. Like many of us. she may be really into the 151 . especially a very hot one. gym memberships. We all have heard some variation of this in our lives and we know it is not an easy thing to hear. They spend exorbitant amounts of money on makeup.

Pay careful attention as you read and do not read this hastily. by now you are probably wondering how you tell if you are “the man or just a fan. I remember a few years back I was not sure if this very attractive girl that I worked with was into me. cool. This does not mean that she does not think that you are attractive or that there is no chance of changing her interest. If a woman seems not to care about the impression that she is making on you then most likely you are “just a fan. Watch particularly if you think you look good one day for her tugging at the bottom of her shirt by her stomach area: This is usually a sign that she thinks you are attractive and wants to measure up. Psychology is not an exact science and a lot of the advice about human behavior is true to the extent that it shows trends. but also from having women as Life Coaching clients and friends. by contrast. Below are 2 general principles and tips for judging a girls interest or lack of it. There was a group of us who ate lunch together in the building cafeteria that talked politics 152 . and collected we were and try to find ways not to feel and appear nervous. Women.” I don’t just mean a physical impression either.COM attention that you are showering her with. So. When we men go on a date we like to take pride in how calm.not only my own experience with women.” It sounds crazy but it is true. often like to feel the “butterflies” in their stomach and like to feel that they are “being kept on their toes. There are many more but these 2 seem reoccurring. This principle will be interwoven in some of the pointers that I address. 1) Most of the time if a woman is truly attracted to you she is going to be self-conscious around you. Watch also for her brushing her hair back nervously. She is going to seem a little nervous and cognizant of her behavior.” Before I go into giving some very good and specific tips let me first issue a disclaimer about anything cookie cutter when it comes to human behavior. but you must learn to tell the difference if you don’t want to waste your time and set yourself up for needless rejection. If you are interested in the exact psychology behind this: in short the stomach area is a part of a woman’s body that she is usually very conscientious about.The Best of TSBMAG. There is an important principle to keep in mind when seeking to understand women: Women actually like being nervous sometimes.

If she wants to know if you have a girlfriend you don’t have to tell her. Right then I knew that I was not just “a fan” and I got her number. if you are wondering and find yourself 153 . Not surprisingly. We usually stop by there after the gym and there was a hot chick working there behind the courtesy desk that goes to our gym. She noticed on his keychain that he had a key tag for PETCO.she probably will find a cute way of asking. A participant asked him about her habit of drinking a large Starbucks coffee every day. she will want to know more about you and will find a way to ask you.” 2) Is she asking you questions about yourself? Bottom line guys: If a girl is not asking you questions about yourself most likely she is not into you.she had never tried them she said. she asked more questions. To close. “I am not sure if it is an addiction…” she stated. A few months ago I was on a teleseminar conference call about addictions with one of America’s best health experts. He bought a 6-pack of soy yogurts and I told him to go ask her if she could ring him up. I walked away. then it probably is an addiction. but did smile at me and listened when I spoke. She confessed in a cute way that she had asked her friend who knew a lot about the war to fill her in because she wanted to appear smart in front of me. On this particular day she had a lot to say and I looked at her quite impressed. You guys get the point by now: If a girl is not trying to overtly impress you. She ate with us but never said much during these conversations. I walked over with him and she saw his yogurts and asked him if they were good. I want to tell a quick story. Then she asked him something that sealed the deal and left no room for doubt. not a group of you. She will find ways to be closer to you and look for excuses to ask you questions. If a girl is interested in you. One day we were alone in the cafeteria and a news story came on television about the war in Iraq.Social Superstar regularly and with a lot of zeal and passion. He cut her off and said “If you are asking about it. Using the same principle. he got her number and was out with her that weekend. They had exchanged pleasantries but the conversations were always short because she was working out with friends. David Simon. nor really look like she really cares what you think and is a little nervous. My friend Scott and I were in A&P a few weeks ago. She asked him if he had a dog and as he answered her questions. Scott said that she had been smiling at him a little in the gym but he was not sure if it was friendly or personalized to him.” She laughed and knew that it was true. most likely you are unfortunately “just a fan.

and you are unfortunately a “fan” and not “the man.” Thank you Justin – 154 . the answer is probably what you do not want to hear: that she is not into you. then.COM asking if a girl is into you. like the caller.The Best of TSBMAG.

Until the main character. success… but more importantly a sense of purpose. She had never seen it either and was into the idea of starting the series from the beginning.. I’ve been hanging with this girl for a couple weeks now and we decided to stay in last night. but being the show is in its fourth season and I’m at the beginning… my post would be old news for most of you. wakes up from his black out and immediately takes on the roll of the leader.. I could write a whole post about the show. Sure it's a television show. money. The show begins with a plane crash.. and has all of the survivors looking up to him within an hour of the plane crash. takes charge. I’d love to tell a story about how 30 minutes into the first episode we were having animal sex on my kitchen table or how her friend showed up and we had a mind blowing three way… but that just wasn’t the case. but to talk about leadership. And just like Jack these guys get life’s bounty. No one has a clue what to do. and I’m sure you guys would wind up spoiling a lot of shit for me. Shit is upside down. Jack. confusion mode. Women. order Chinese. I have resisted watching Lost for years but at the insistence of my brother and a couple friends I decided to give the show a shot. 155 .. But there are people out there just like Jack. down a bottle of Pinot.Social Superstar The Hero the Bounty and the Purpose Driven Life Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 02/24/2008 It was a very tame Saturday night for me. The truth is we watched eight straight episodes of Lost and passed out on the couch halfway through the ninth. Jack selflessly tries to help everyone on the island. We are so fascinated with them because very few of us have the intestinal fortitude to be one. and watch the first season of Lost on DVD. People are fascinated with leaders. Everyone is in panic. The point of this post isn’t to talk about Lost.

Because when it comes down to it. Rooshv.COM Jack didn’t become a leader because he was the best politician on the island. Many books talk about living on purpose. it took watching seven 156 . I’m not sure freedom is as simple as throwing on a backpack. He’s back now and I recently posed a question to him in a comment. my motives for the trip are still entirely selfish. I followed his journey religiously. still won’t be enough.The Best of TSBMAG. I’ve got more friends than I can count. I realize that part of the reason I wanted to take the trip was for some form of escape. and generally lived on the edge and survived to tell about it. waiting for my slice of the cheese. slept with more women than I care to admit. I don’t have any regrets. He did it through purpose and action. I was going to finally live. having three week flings with Chilean beauties. visited more countries than most people could name. I think it is impossible to be free. He didn’t get the girl because he sold her on his ideas through long winded speeches and debates. watching Lost last night I still felt as if I were missing something important. In a world so obsessed with “self help” I think we often neglect the fact that the best form of “self help” is the selfless act of helping others. and waking up in strange places with strange people. To prove to myself that I wasn’t wasting my life away in the rat race. And for the longest time that was my dream. I had been following a blog. Yet. I can’t speak for anyone but myself but there are times in my life that I feel an overwhelming sense of being unfulfilled.com where he detailed his six month trip across the continent of South America. growing a beard. something along the lines of “did you find what you were looking for?” Because I’m starting to believe that even the soul searching trip I felt destined to make…. He obtained the respect of everyone on the island because while they were standing around waiting to be saved… he was saving other people. wishing badly it was me trekking on a bus through the Peruvian Andes. But I’m not so sure escape is that easy. I recently wrote a list of 5 Must Have Self Help Books and that list included two books by Wayne Dyer. Dyer has written many books about living on purpose. And I’ve had more than I ever dreamed I would. But even with all the books that I’ve read on the subject. And when you’re living completely self centered. I was going to take it. Some way to convince myself that I was free.

Maybe it was the deliriousness of staring at a television screen until the wee hours of the night. but does that mean we have no choice but to view ourselves as less significant. or the previous movies such as Gandhi. less “great?” I was at wake this afternoon. A little lost. each speaker recollecting a 157 . or maybe it was me seeing something in Dr. Living on purpose means getting lost in the moment because there is something greater than your personal desire that needs to be achieved. The father of my friend’s girlfriend passed away and as I listened to the various eulogies. to date. I would still be stuck in my mind. And because of that. I felt it was ‘beyond me’ to live selflessly. That is why my South American trip would not have been the escape I was looking for. but I woke up this morning feeling a little different. I figured maybe I was doomed to a world of ego domination. So understanding that I will more than likely never be trapped on deserted island and have to play the role of savior to a group of stranded castaways. none of them have swept me away in inspiration. Jack that she knew she would never see in me. While these are all noble causes. global warming. I would be waiting for something to happen that would make me think “now I’m really living” but more than likely I would spend six months waiting. Most of us will never have the opportunity to deliver a speech like William Wallace gives in Braveheart or liberate a nation through self sacrifice like Gandhi did. worldwide democracy. or national independence. curing cancer. or Braveheart is that I always sort of believed you needed to be inspired by notions like ending world hunger. But I think many of us have been mislead to believe that to “be great” you must do great things. or realizing that the girl sitting next to me was seeing something in Dr. how can I experience a sense of purpose in my life? Take on the role of leader? What kind of higher goal will transcend me to the next level of living? I think that my problem with the Dyer books I’ve read about purpose driven life. analyzing. and then wake up and decide it was time to go home. pursuing. comparing and contrasting. peace in the Middle East. Jack that was inside of me waiting to be released. judging. and rationalizing the trip’s every minute.Social Superstar straight hours of Lost to make me finally understand what living on purpose is all about.

He took days off from work. We can be great friends. 158 . We don’t need our plane to crash in the South Pacific (if that's really where they are) to give us our moments to shine. It's about deciding that every action you take from here on out will serve a greater purpose. leaders.The Best of TSBMAG. are those who ultimately see the most of life’s bounty. A few of the speakers had given heartfelt thank you to my friend who had stepped in to pull the family together as it became more and more certain that his girlfriend’s dad was going to lose his battle with cancer. great role models. It's not about waiting for that moment where you can “look like a hero. Standing there in the funeral parlor I realized we all have the choice on a daily basis to be great. and acted as a sense of strength for his girlfriend and her mother when the two of them would continually break down.” It's about deciding to be great this very minute. how clearly something so elusive can suddenly appear.COM particular time in their life when the deceased impacted their life for the positive. One of the speakers quoted a line from "It’s a Wonderful Life" saying “no man is a failure who has friends. It's been said over and over again that those who live on purpose and relinquish their personal wants and desires. great listeners. Everyday each one of us is presented with situations where we can be a leader and a hero.” It's funny how when you’re running on a few hours sleep. he had long intense conversations with the dying man. and heroes. Everyone in that room viewed my friend as a hero. and you get swept away in the emotion of a wake. your heads a little messed up from too many episodes of Lost.

It is equally important in how you live your life. I religiously followed his career and collected his memorabilia. The set of values they define for themselves gets pushed aside for the opportunity to be with a beautiful woman.Social Superstar Integrity Makes a Man Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 02/14/2008 There is more to life than how much money you can make or how many girls you can sleep with. But integrity goes further than your dealings with the opposite sex. Their lack of integrity stems from the fact that they hold beautiful women to different standards then they hold the rest of the world. and how it relates to the way you interact with women. We addressed integrity in our “The Lost Art of Being a Man” podcast. Most of us are not above striving for them. 159 . We have all most likely been a role where we’ve acted in a way that is not congruent with our core set of values… but watching Roger Clemens at the Congressional hearings yesterday reminded me of the importance of living with integrity. These are the artificial indicators of achievement in our society. Part of my fascination with him was based on childhood nostalgia. I included. The reason women have no respect for “nice guys” is because these nice guys often lack integrity. is living within a set of core values and beliefs that you set for yourself. Roger Clemens was my favorite sports figure since 1986. It was to the point where my friends laughed because I changed favorite teams every time he signed a new contract. the other part of it was that I was completely impressed with the stories of his unparalleled will and determination. Even after I began to lose interest in baseball I still made an attempt to keep track of his career. But the real depth of your character and what ultimately makes you a man. I was envious of the motivation he possessed that got him out of bed at 4:30 am every morning to work his body to peak performance. I’m the only guy in NJ who walked around in an Astros hat. I am by no means a perfect person.

Human beings make mistakes. But when I eventually got caught I laid all of my cards on the table. If you’ve ever told a girl you were going for a friend's luncheon but really had sex with an Argentine prostitute in back alley brothel…. It's not something I’m proud of.COM That being said Roger Clemens choice to have himself injected with steroids is something I could forgive him for. Something at that point of his life (mainly his fierce drive to be the best) made him feel it was necessary to use performance enhancing drugs. But most of us have defined our core set of values to let these sorts of lies slip by. But if a girl claims to have slept with me. If someone casually asks me how many girls I’ve slept with. and I know full well that I did. Because when you deny something you’ve done against 160 . Shit happens. I relate it similarly to mistakes I’ve made where I’ve cheated on girls that I loved. The same can be said for Roger Clemens use of steroids. But life is too short for regrets so I move on. I’ve lied to girls and cheated on them. But watching Clemens blatantly lying over and over again to save his chances for the Hall and his endorsement deals. It wasn’t always easy. I may lie as to not appear a slut in that particular situation. It is his personal business. There is a certain shame in these types of lies. Owning up to a mistake is what separates the men from the boys. My definition of living with integrity means owning up to your mistakes. Something at that point in time (mainly my dick) made me feel it was necessary to sleep with a woman outside of my relationship.The Best of TSBMAG. It is my personal business and I may not feel the need to be completely open. I told them EXACTLY how I felt and why I did it. Once again. you’ve lied. People fuck up. While making a mistake is human nature. I will not deny it. And if someone casually asked Roger Clemens if he’s ever used steroids I would not condemn him for lying in that situation. Period. If you’ve ever used someone else’s canned routine in the field… you’ve lied. I don’t think any of us are above lying. we are human beings. It would have been easier to continue the lies (as OJ showed us deny deny deny) but to me there is a difference between situational lying and lying about something you’ve been accused of. Or doing everything in your power to correct them in the future. has left me with the feeling that the man lacks a sense of integrity.

161 .Social Superstar someone else’s word… you’re. using his wife as a scapegoat. and wasting the time of a whole lot of people who would just like to move on from this shit. This is where Roger Clemens has crossed the line of simply making a “human mistake” and gone on to show an utter lack of integrity. He is calling numerous people liars. In every situation in life you have these same two choices: You make excuses. in fact. take the self serving route. The problem with Clemens choice of action is that the only person he is looking out for is himself. blame everyone else… or you own up your mistakes and BECOME A MAN. In the face of adversity that Clemens is facing you always have two choices: You can lie and manipulate and play the self serving “if I deny long enough they’ll forget about it” card or you can own up to your mistake. calling them a liar. In essence. questioning his best friend’s story. be a man and move forward.

Scott Fitzgerald’s famous novel The Great Gatsby serves to constantly remind me about the art of letting go. That was part 162 . He is full throttle into “the sickness” over an ex lover Daisy Buchanan.COM The Great Gatsby Complex Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 03/23/2008 I’ve always said you can learn more from certain novels about human nature than you can from some of the most celebrated self help books.The Best of TSBMAG. Daisy goes on to marry someone else. The reason that I decided to write about this is because the other night I realized that I still suffer from what I call The Great Gatsby Complex. We all have those girls from our past that still haunt us. For me there are three that pop into my head: Jackie. We clicked on many different levels… and we both were insanely attracted to each other… but Jackie was “on the promiscuous side. and Gatsby spends the next five years building an empire to impress her with his new wealth. And discussed the details with me.The whore. It is the guy who is struggling through law school so that he can show up at his high school reunion and impress a girl he had a crush on ten years ago… it is the guy that is at the gym seven days a week building the perfect body in hope that he runs into an old flame and she’s blown away by his chiseled abs. the main character Jay Gatsby has one of the strongest cases of “oneitis” I’ve ever seen. F. Jackie was a girl I worked with a few years back. The Great Gatsby Complex is an inward hope of meeting someone from your past that drives you to make decisions in your present life. He also throws party after party in his mansion in hopes of her showing up without the realization that it was her old lover throwing the party. They are usually not ex girlfriends.” She fucked just about every guy I knew. The two fall in love and date for awhile before circumstance prevents the two from continuing their love affair. but instead they are usually girls that we have unfinished business with… girls that “slipped away” or circumstance prevented things from going further. In the novel.

Kryptonite... Later I’m so confused over what I did that I never talk to her again..The 17 year old. I don’t consider myself as having oneitis over any one of them… but I do find myself hoping that they’ll show up at the bar I’m at more often that I’d like to. Jaime was the most adorable girl I had ever seen and soon we were laying on the bed making out… she’s telling me how we’re going to get married… how much she likes me… and I’m enjoying it like I haven’t with any girl in a long time… I resist having sex with her for most of the night despite her constant begging. finally I give in.. I mention these girls because they still haunt me. We got down the shore and rented a hotel… her friend quickly disappeared and left us alone in the room. Later that night Jaime came back to a friend's place and we kept talking. but there was one big problem. What is so dangerous about The Great Gatsby Complex is that it can begin to control your present moment. I’ve found myself suggesting certain bars to my friends because of the slight chance one of these three 163 . until we gradually disappeared from each other’s lives.Social Superstar of our friendship… helping each other get laid.The soul mate. Soon I found myself standing on his porch telling her how cute she was… then we kissed. So after that night we went back to being friends.. Jaime. I’ve written about her before.. I had hooked up with her sister in the past and felt a little weird at the party because her sister was there with her boyfriend (who she was with when we had our fun) so to keep myself occupied I flirted with her younger sister Jaime. The chemistry was so unbelievably hot. We were both in relationships at the time with other people. I tried to avoid her after (she wasn’t exactly street legal) but a week later she called me up and asked me to go down the shore with her and her friend. She’s the friend that after five years of unbearable sexual tension we explode during a ski trip and spent a week in a hotel barely ever leaving the bed. I do have fantasies of running into one of them and instantly rekindling the old unfinished feelings. I met Jaime at her older sister’s birthday party.. Jackie was a known slut. We avoided the temptation of hooking up with each other for over a year… until one night we couldn’t take it anymore and dragged each other into a bathroom during a party and made out like our life depended on it. and when the trip ends -so does our brief romance…and our friendship. and there was no way I could be caught dating her..

and connection. And I am thankful for that opportunity. The third step of ridding yourself of the complex is the act of forgiveness. Any of the three girls I mentioned could easily have been the love of my life… but they weren’t. How to Rid Your Self of the Great Gatsby Complex I think the first step in ridding yourself of the complex is the acceptance of all things past for what they were. These feeling never got a chance to mature so they are still burning strong… unlike ex girlfriends who we went full circle with and our feeling had a chance to run their course leaving us with both good and bad memories. You have to forgive yourself for anything you did to contribute to ruining the romance. I know I made mistakes that might have cost me a chance at a great love affair… but what is done is done. Part of the reason we hold onto these ghosts from our past is because we don’t believe that we’ll meet anyone better.COM might show up there. I’ve found myself constantly looking around hoping to spot one of them… Holding onto the past like this ruins the opportunities that are presented to you in the present. Each of the three girls I mentioned added excitement and adventure to my life during the time I knew them. I know some of my actions back then weren’t stemming from my best self. chemistry. You have to have faith that she is out there… 164 . It is time to forgive yourself and move on. The final step of ridding yourself of the complex is the expression of faith. The second step of ridding yourself of the complex is the expression of gratitude. They were brief romances that ended prematurely. Each of these three girls had a quality about them that separated them from the hundreds of other girls I was with during that time frame. AND THAT'S ALL THEY WERE.The Best of TSBMAG. I think that the reason it's the girls that we have unfinished business with that haunt us the most is because we only have the memories of the intense attraction. You have to know that you have all the qualities and characteristics to meet and attract an even more special girl. Each of these experiences made you the person you are today. I don’t deny that they hold a special place in my mind… but holding on the past in this way can prevent you from meeting new girls who may have similar qualities.

165 .Social Superstar Once you develop a sense of faith that you’ve yet to meet your ideal girl… the chains from your past are released and you begin to grow excited for what you may find in your future. If you are being held back by ghosts from your pasts I suggest following the four step plan to rid yourself of the complex.

The Best of TSBMAG. After this. some of the deceased ballplayers from the shamed 1919 Chicago White Sox baseball team show up on his field and now he more deeply understands the message that he chose to have faith in: to “build it” and trust that they “will come. “have your shit together”. What I would like to focus on today. His wife is skeptical but tells him to follow his vision and build the field. For our purposes.” If you have seen this excellent movie you know it teaches many life lessons and has some great underlying messages and themes to it. though for our purposes is this key phrase “Build it and he will come” and how it can be applied to your own life with women. it is rather that they are so fulfilled and 166 . starring Kevin Costner and Ray Liotta. women will pick up on the very confident and responsible vibe you give off. as they say. I think you all intuitively understand that what I am saying is that you have to have a strong basis for your self-esteem outside of your success with women and that. let us translate this phrase into “Build it and they will come.” It is not that they don’t really care. protagonist Ray Kinsella played by Costner is told early in the movie by a mysterious voice “Build it and he will come” as he walks through the cornfield on his large farm. After several months. I often tell them that one of their main problems I see is that they are too focused on getting women and not focused enough on building their own life and their own self-confidence and self-esteem. which will easily translate into attracting women. Original Published: -4/03/2008 Build it and They Will Come by Justin B In the very popular and successful 1989 movie Field of Dreams.” As a motivational Life Coach I often deal with men that tell me that they have a difficult time attracting and dealing with quality women.COM Build it and They will Come Written by Justin B. Many men often note that men that seem to land a quantity of quality women into their beds give off a vibe that they “don’t really care. and you build your life up to a point where you feel good about it and. When you are being fulfilled in multiple areas of your life. this will attract women. Kinsella gets a very clear vision of a baseball field in his cornfield and believes deep inside of himself that there is a connection between the “build it” part of what he heard and the vision of the baseball field. ironically.

for women. Being this way will put your much more in touch with your own masculine energy and will make you very appealing. A woman I was talking with recently told me that it is very sexy for a guy to be very into his job. because she said that it expresses a sense of confidence and fulfillment that he is strong and that he could “be strong for her. the last thing that they want is to be with a man that has the same issue. you will attract attention with your very masculine vibe. his family. Women pick up on their vibe of independence and self-fulfillment and this is very attractiveboth emotionally and sexually. besides women of course. 3) Practice meditation or some form of relaxation You may have never considered meditation or consider it something for New Age weirdoes. will build your self-confidence because you will slowly get in touch with the negative thoughts that are holding back 167 .” So how can you apply this philosophy to your life and “build” your own life up to make room for them to “come”? Here are some starting points although by now I am sure you get the idea. 2) Lift weights. purpose. 1) Find a cause. and become passionate about it. etc. When you lift weights you are going to be getting in touch with and expressing your masculinity even outside of the gym. though. Men find themselves best when they are happy with their work. this is your career but if not find something that interests you. While you release endorphins and build your emotional and physical muscles. You may even consider it something for women. or career that you are passionate about. Hopefully.Social Superstar focused on the other parts of their lives that they don’t have a lot of time to worry about how they are doing with women. sports. If you can identify your core passions and pursue them you will find yourself much more fulfilled in a holistic and overall way.” Remember that a personality trait that women often get frustrated with about themselves is the fact that their self-esteem is too much based on what the opposite sex thinks. I am not just saying this for the reason you might be thinking: that women like muscles. Become charismatic and excited about it. Learning to meditate. The men who have mastered this principle have inadvertently taught themselves and us a valuable lesson about the connection between their own lives and their success with women: “Build it and they will come. his friends.

COM your success with women and other areas of your life.” Find a local meditation class or buy a book or CD on meditation. they will come in droves because you too “will not care. “they” will come. As you become more content and build your self confidence at a deep level. I usually recommend to clients anything by Steven Halpern or Deepak Chopra. Then watch how as you “build” your life.The Best of TSBMAG. See the value in them because you will feel better and therefore will not need women to make you feel good about yourself. 168 . Do not get into the trap of doing these things solely to attract women.

By our ninth month together I desperately wanted to be single again. I criticized everything she did. Soon the resentment grew to anger. I heard from friends that she actually had to go for counseling. I made her feel small by talking about her insecurities. I found myself falling back into this trap. But later in life when I became better with women. I got involved in my first serious relationship my freshman year of college. I hated the person that I became. Like most young couples. As you get better with women.Social Superstar Why You Shouldn’t String Girls Along Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 04/29/2008 It was actually Ross Jeffries who originally coined the phrase “Leave them better then you found them. spending every waking hour together. I was no longer the charming man that won her over. 169 . And finally she did.” He was talking about the women that come in and out of your life. asshole.forever ruining her for other men. After this I avoided relationships altogether for awhile. The more I hinted that I was looking to end the relationship the more she clung closer to me. and was dating more and more women. naive to the reality of relationships. Little by little I was ruining her. I denied most of her attempts at sexual activity. mean. I barely paid attention when she spoke to me. I became a completely different person. I was a naive boy at the time. non-sexual. and had the names of our future babies already picked out. I think my plan was to treat her so badly she would end it with me. So for the next six months I stayed in a relationship I was miserable in. As time went by I became more and more resentful of Jillian. and thought that by ending the relationship with this girl I would break her heart into a million pieces . But the whole ordeal took a giant toll on the both of us. this phrase will hold as much importance as anything you’ve been taught before. my girlfriend Jillian and I rushed in full throttle. I had no idea how to break free from her. I was bitter towards her. She was a mess. The thrill of this relationship lasted about 6 months. I wasn’t much better. I was now this bitter.

Luckily for me. Since Kate I have changed my ways. It was apparent to me that Kate thought things were more serious than they were. and it carried over into the rest of my life. You can’t avoid the pain of a breakup… but by delaying it you can make it much worse. as our relationship was very low maintenance. but was appreciative that I was honest with her. I didn’t have that dark cloud surrounding me that I had a few months earlier with Kate. Kate figured things out on her own and suddenly stopped calling me. The lesson I learned was that I was much better off being honest with a girl about how I felt. I hated the person I was once again becoming. but I never did. I have realized that it is much less cruel to end a relationship than it is to stay involved with a girl you don’t have feelings for. But I was too lazy to end it. I no longer viewed myself as the kind of guy who attracts women. I felt good about the way things ended with Nancy. 170 . The way I felt as a person during those times with Jillian and Kate was less than human. My integrity was all but drained. A couple months into the relationship I sensed Nancy was looking for more.COM I had been dating this girl Kate for like four months. She was a bit upset. I wouldn’t call Kate for days at a time. A few months after Kate I started dating a girl Nancy. We sat down and had the talk. I explained that I didn’t want anything more than what we had. I avoided sex with her. I viewed myself as the kind of guy women should stay away from. She was probably waiting for me to make the apology call. I felt like a soulless monster. and have even fucked from time to time. than I was to string a girl along. Nancy and I are still friends to this day. and my self esteem was shot. I would openly stare at other girls. Nancy was a fun girl who I enjoyed fucking. I was deliberately saying things that I knew would make Kate feel insecure. and knew it wasn’t going to go anywhere.The Best of TSBMAG. Soon I became the same person I was years earlier with Jillian. The repercussions of the way you treat a woman echoes throughout your life.

I wanted to create a fresh persona. Mack Tight referred to it as when “guys become a needy pile of shit after they become obsessed over a woman. I knew in my head that it was now or never time for making my move. depression. Justin. and distance myself from the friend zone that I had previously been regulated to. Although initially she seemed a little taken back. it is still near impossible to battle. weight loss.” We call it “the sickness” because once it infects you’re almost powerless against its control. insomnia. alluded to her attractiveness. The Anatomy of the Sickness After slowly falling for one of my female friends over the course of a year. and once again she wound up on my bed with me making out. We spent the rest of the trip basically locked in my 171 . you may be able to avoid some of the classic mistakes that I made. and got more touchy feely. at the very least. Weeks before the ski trip I began avoiding her before heading up to the mountain. everything came to a boil on a ski trip. slowly she responded to my escalation. It corrupts your mind first. By the end of the night we were lying on my bed making out. vomiting. and I coined the phrase “the sickness” back in college. The “sickness” is like oneitis on steroids. While the only cure for “the sickness” is time… I thought that if I wrote a detailed description of how the sickness infects (using my last battle with it as an example) you guys might be able to keep this as a guide to compare against when you feel it coming on.Social Superstar The Anatomy of the Sickness Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 04/30/2008 Mike. I became more sexual. It happens to the best of us… and even though we most likely know we’ve been infected. But I persisted again that night. Although I won’t pretend that you’ll be able to rid yourself of your obsession. The first night of the ski trip I made a dramatic change in the way I interacted with her. The next day she told me it was a mistake and that she liked me too much as a friend to continue. Even as our closest friends tell us to “move on” “play it cool” “forget about her” their words go in one ear and out the other. but then usually brings about physical symptoms like nausea.

I went against my better instinct and called her. To be completely honest. or just my flat out physical attraction to her. I waited and waited… but the response never came. She knows I’m a player. I fell asleep that night with the phone in my hand. it was like nothing I had experienced before. And when she didn’t answer I left a message. but I wasn’t too worried as she had a habit of flaking throughout our friendship. The girl and I exchanged evening text messages. still waiting for the call. I began asking the opinion of a few of my friends. They all reassured me telling me “it's only been a day. Quite drunk at this point. In fact. and had arranged for them to be delivered to her 172 . and then remember our wonderful week together in the mountains and get stuck in my mind trying to figure out what went wrong. The first couple nights back home went ok. After the bar closed I have an after party back at my house.COM bedroom. I figured that what I needed to do was to prove to her that I was really into her. Somewhere in between Saturday and Sunday I convinced myself the reason that she’s avoiding me is because she doesn’t trust that I’m really into her. I began scanning my brain for reasons why she would be blowing me off. I don’t know if it was the sexual tension that had built up over the last year. I bought the biggest baddest most expensive bouquet of flowers they had. My mind was on the girl a bit. I was fairly confident that she felt the same way. Saturday morning is when I went into panic mode.The Best of TSBMAG. Although I left the week in the mountains feeling quite vulnerable. Bad!” I expected an immediate response with her echoing the sentiment. I was still in “play it cool” mode so I decided to hit the bar with a couple of my friends. I was in “play it cool” mode so I figured I would wait a few days to call her. I was on top of my game. While still at work I sent her a text “I want to see you. It made sense in my mind. The realization that she didn’t call set in. I had just completed my crowning achievement as a player. Friday afternoon I could hardly contain my excitement to possibly spend time with her. So I went against my better instinct and headed to the flower shop on Monday morning. our strong connection as friends.” I would momentarily feel better. I would say my confidence was sky high. but I was in a state that I had never previously experienced.

We make out a little while… I eat her pussy. My “wet friend” tells me not to answer the phone and give her a taste of her own medicine… but “dry friend” intervenes and I wind up talking her into coming over. I am plastered but somehow talk her into heading out for a couple drinks with me. Finally two months later I get really drunk and show up at her work. I’ve finally got her in front of me after two months of playing phone tag… but it's nothing like I imagined. I wait till Friday to call her again. Then later in moments of weakness I send her text messages asking “what's going on with us” and other shit I get nauseous thinking about. I ask her to hang out but she says she’s tired and is just going to sleep.was me completely shit faced handing her a love letter I wrote her… her taking the letter and leaving… never even calling me to acknowledge it. The few times she actually does call or text… I am too weak to play the game.. When she gets to my house she acts nonchalant about not calling… and I forgive her immediately. get extremely drunk… and take home some 18 year old hostess I worked with. She is almost frightened to see me. I proceed to go out with a friend. then she leaves. In my mind… she was going to confess her love to me. Once again… no answer. Monday night she calls me at one in the morning. 173 . As time went by I gave up hope of her calling. For a minute or two I tell myself I’m not going to call her back… but then I give in and call. I decide to still send them. tell me how much she’s missed me… and wind up cuddled next to me on my bed. I try to play it cool and act like I don’t care.” The next two months are a blur. The next morning I debate whether or not to cancel the flowers. But even a fresh young 18 year old couldn’t deter me from the beginning of “the sickness. She keeps avoiding seeing me. They basically consist of me checking my phone every three minutes to see if she called.Social Superstar work Tuesday night… complete with a really embarrassing card basically professing my love.. How the night ended. Later in the night I get a call from her thanking me for the flowers.

I didn’t feel threatened because I knew the guy. I’m going to leave this story without commentary.The Best of TSBMAG.” But I couldn’t leave well enough alone. Then I began noticing that she and one of her co-workers were awfully close.. I began asking her questions alluding to “the weekend we spent together. So once again. I go out get completely shit faced and show up at her work party with one of my friends. Everything was becoming crystal clear… (In my drunken distorted mind) SHE WAS FUCKING THIS GUY. But as I got drunker the cool guy shell I had been putting on was slowly cracking.. I think I may have even bit him. I knew that there would be an annual Christmas party at the place she worked. I was banging chicks left and right. The night started out pleasant enough… I spent time catching up with a handful of old friends… chatting with her whenever the occasion would allow. 174 . and never would imagine her to be into him… but as I got drunker it made more and more sense. He was dating a new girl… finally starting to get over “the sickness. It is simply meant to show how the sickness can take hold of anyone.. I had friends that still worked there.COM The mess that Bobby Rio had become was finally starting to put the pieces of his life back together. Finally the rest of the party breaks up the fight… they put me in a cab and send my sad sick drunk ass home.. So I did the only thing a drunken sick bastard could do… I followed him into the bathroom and punched him square in his jaw.” It was clear she didn’t want to talk about it. always the one with the control and calling the shots… And I fell like a toy soldier. Bobby Rio woke up the next morning at Rock Bottom. The next thing I know we’re ushered out to the parking lot… We’re rolling on the pavement pounding on each other’s skulls… sticking fingers in our eyes. At that point in my life I already knew everything there was too know.

It gives them something fascinating to talk to about. improving these things will create a sense of “passive value” for you… and eventually you might even begin to feel a bit more passionate in your day to day activities. At the time. It gives them something to strive for. for Neil Strauss it's his love of journalism. for Christian Hudson its entrepreneurship. physiology. for Cajun and Mehow its theatre. And as Sebastian Drake talked about in our recent interview with him. It gives them something to get excited about every morning. I used body language. Six years ago I headed down to Buenos Aires. Bobby Rio’s passion in life is traveling the world. That trip ignited a passion in me that burns strongly to this day. At first I tried to artificially create a sense of passion in my life. and is an excellent place to start… ultimately you still won’t be living with passion. While improving areas of your non verbal communication may make you look and feel like a more passionate person. and voice tonality to present a passionate looking man to the world. The greatest pickup artists in the world usually have a passion in their life greater than seducing women. I didn’t truly grasp the concept of living with passion. My desire to see the world is stronger than my desire for any girl or to 175 . For Mystery it is his love of magic and showmanship. everything.Social Superstar Living with Passion Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 05/19/2008 The first time I heard that phrase it was from an Anthony Robbins CD. although I found it motivating. something that gives meaning to their existence. for Tyler Durden its adventure. for Extramask its comedy… What living with a higher passion does for each of these PUAs is it gives them a reason to exist other than picking up women. Argentina for a couple weeks to visit a friend. You may be asking. “what does living with passion have to do with improving my skills at attracting women?” My answer is.

In fact. I live with a willingness to walk away from any girl… And like Life Coach Justin says in his Build it and they will Come article. I think that the first step in cultivating your passion is to ask yourself. what would I be doing with my life?” Really taking time to think about this question will begin to give you a deeper understanding into what internally drives you. I will never work a job that does not give me the flexibility to travel often (2 weeks vacation a year won’t cut it) nor will I date a girl who won’t just get up and go on a wild adventure with me.The Best of TSBMAG. this will attract women. it defines a lot of my criteria for jobs and relationships. “this will help you have a strong basis for your self-esteem outside of your success with women.COM make any amount of money. 176 . How this relates to pickup and seduction Since no one can ever take my love of travel away from me… I never attach excess meaning to winning or losing with a particular girl. My happiness is never defined by how many notches I’ve added to my belt. and that. ironically. “If money wasn’t an issue.” Discovering and cultivating your passion is an area that we are going to discuss in much more detail during our Mansformation Weekend Retreat.

2. Here are 7 Ways to Motivate You Out of a Slump 1. And other times we go through a health slump where we seem to just entirely let ourselves go. Focus on One Goal. The most frustrating thing about slumps is that more you try to get out of one. Many times the reasons we fall into slumps is because we’ve so over whelmed by everything going on in our life that we choose to negate it all. Now that you’ve been talking to two new people a day for a week… challenge yourself a bit and start flirting with those two new people. Once you’ve got in the habit of taking a walk every night. We all go through them.Social Superstar 7 Secrets for Getting out of a Slump Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 06/25/2008 Slumps are a part of human nature.instead commit to taking one long walk around your block every night. One of the biggest obstacles people face in overcoming slumps is they become intimidated by the task at hand. we can’t figure out where to even start. This prevents people from making any effort at all to interact with new people. focus on just talking to a couple new people a day. but with the right motivation you can get right back on track in no time. Use Small Successes to Build Momentum. If you want to get your finances in order don’t dwell on how you’re going to pay off that $15. Sometimes we get in a financial slump where we just can’t get caught up on bills. Once you’re no longer missing the $25 a month… start saving $35. the mere thought of the time and energy involved in starting a relationship can scare the crap out of you. Start Small. if you’ve been single for a long time. And then when we try to get back on track. Other times we go through a dating slump (draught) where it seems like we’ll never kiss a girl again. 3. do a few crunches when you get home from it. the further along you seem to fall into it.000 credit card debt… just focus on paying off $25 a month. The trick is to gradually build momentum based on small accomplishments. If you’re dreading putting seven days a week in at the gym. Instead of focusing on building a relationship. It is impossible to stay energized and 177 . Once you’ve started small you should be able to develop a new routine. Effectively removing yourself from a slump can be a struggle. For instance.

It’s quite possible that you’ll find the mere habit of working out daily will motivate you to meet more people and get your finances in order. In the time where you’re motivation is lacking. 6. Motivation comes and goes. Realize Motivation Comes and Goes. It is pretty hard to accomplish something completely on your own. When you find yourself losing focus or motivation… pull out the index card and reread your goal. and broke… pick the goal that you think will be the best catalyst for improving the other areas later on. If you’re not having luck meeting a significant other. 5. Find some Good Wingmen and Avoid the Negative. You’re not always going to be 100% motivated. If you’re lonely. that goal will be right beside you.The Best of TSBMAG. The trick is that when you’re feeling that gust of motivation to ride it out as long as possible. Stare at it and visualize it for however long it takes to snap you back into the right frame of mind. If you’re goal is to get better talking to women. And ask for advice… Or hang out with guys in the process of changing themselves as well. I find its best to let a few select people in on your planned outcome… and ask for their help in achieving it. There are some people out there who just don’t like seeing other people succeed. out of shape. These are not the kind of people you want to associate yourself with. Get Inspired. Every day. Carry your Goal Around With You. And when that gust dies down… to know that it will arrive again shortly. Find someone who will push you through the rough times. everywhere you go. If you’re piss poor and think it’s impossible to change your situation read blogs and books from people who were in similar financial states and gone on to make millions. When you read over your goal make sure you’re visualizing yourself as having achieved it. 4. read the hundreds of stories of guys who were 30 year old virgins who went on to date some of the most beautiful women in the world. The point is you need to continually inspire yourself and at the same time remind yourself that it is completely possible. hang around guys who have already improved that area. 7.COM focused on improving too many areas at once. You really need to avoid the people in your life who bring about a negative influence. It is much better to just pick one goal that you are committed to achieving right away. Write your goal on an index card and put it in your pocket. If you’re looking to get into better shape find a good workout buddy. its best to spend that time 178 .

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COM Can You Control Your Emotions Like Arod? Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 06/30/2008 Inner game is not about succeeding every time. In fact. and millions of people watching on television. there are times the bases are loaded. and the manager. Once he realizes what action causes the frustration he can move on. Can you imagine any more possible pressure? My point is you’re not good or bad based on one experience. He is as good as he is because he is able to acknowledge the emotion of disappointment or frustration. Alex Rodriguez is as good as he is because he is able to learn to master his emotions. Once he 180 . He does this in front of 50. and fans are going to discuss it. and owners are going to share their opinion on it. or maybe the pitcher was just having a damn good day. teammates.The Best of TSBMAG. Alex Rodriguez does not get a hit every time he goes up to the plate. He can move on because he knows that in the past he’s overcome slumps. I think we would all agree he must have rock solid inner game. He does this knowing that journalists around the country are going to talk about it. maybe he took his eye off the ball for a split second too long. Or even a collection of experiences.000 people live. He then looks for the lesson that was offered from the situation. Maybe he is swinging for fences instead of just trying to make contact. So there is no reason he can’t overcome them in the future. If every time he went up to the plate he reminded himself how much pressure was on him… how would he ever possibly hit the ball? If every time he struck out or grounded into a double play he dwelled in the emotion of frustration or disappointment… how would he ever gather the courage to walk back up to the plate. the game is on the line… and he strikes out. In order to be as good a baseball player as Alex Rodriguez.

If you learn to control them… you’re on your way to inner game. You don’t face the wrath of millions of fans. he goes and works with the hitting coach to fix the flaw in his artillery. The only wraths you face are your emotions. This mean you can play the game and have as much fun with it as possible.Social Superstar knows that he is certain of his ability to overcome it again. Chances are you don’t face anywhere near the kind of pressure Arod does. disappointed teammates. 181 . or scoring home runs. an angry manager. No one is paying attention to whether you’re striking out every night. and pessimistic critics.

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Going Down in Flames
Written by Alex Strandberg Original Published: 07/03/2008

We all care way too much what a complete stranger that knows nothing about us thinks. Fear of rejection is the underlying emotion in most approaches. The thought of a beautiful woman sitting there and calling you a loser in front of the entire club makes most guys stomachs turn in knots. Sort or ironically, being rejected will bring the most success with women into your life. Let me explain Internally most guys think that they are complete lonely losers that no one could love. They greatly fear that women will find this out and have no desire for them. They learn all these cool lines and tricks but that fear of being thought of as a loser by women and confirming their already held beliefs is still strong. It carries so much weight that it cripples them from being comfortable in interactions or EVEN APPROACHING WOMEN. They try their hardest to avoid getting “rejected” in order to avoid facing their own belief system. They try their very best to do everything “right "and LOOK COOL but by the very act of trying they are doing everything wrong. From this they place way too much importance on getting a good re-action from the girl and becoming very outcome dependent and needy. If the interaction goes well they get a false sense of self esteem from the girl and feel good. If it goes badly then that fear of actually being a loser is triggered and they feel terrible. When you are outcome dependent you become very attached to what the girl thinks of you. This just breeds of insecurity and neediness which if you hadn’t guessed is a HUGE TURN OFF for women. Women are attracted to men who could take or leave any woman. Not caring whether the woman comes, stays, lays or prays seems very counter intuitive but it's what will get you the “best” results and lead to a happier and more peaceful life.

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In addition to this fear of being rejected is a fear of the unknown. If you are just starting out in approaching or have done a couple of approaches the fear of the unknown is still lingering in the background. This fear makes your mind race at a hundred miles per hour with a million Questions: “what if she pours a drink on me?” “What if she rejects me and all the people in the club laugh at me and I am humiliated?” “What if this happens?” “What if that happens?” And so on. The only way around fear of the unknown is to go straight through it and become comfortable with ambiguity of approaching and life. When you get rejected badly and the initial sting wears down you will find it hilarious how some girls will treat a complete stranger who was just saying Hi to them and being friendly. Part of the reason why they felt the need to reject you badly is how annoyed they are at being hit on all day by guys who haven’t a clue. Another part of it is the pleasure they get from rejecting guys. They love the feeling of having the power to control another person's state of emotions through their own actions. One of the biggest fears that guys carry around with them is a fear of going back to who they were before they learned of the seduction community or any self help stuff. They remember how they felt before knowing any better, the loneliness, the feeling or being powerless and useless in driving the direction of their own lives. Guy’s develop a debilitating fear of being rejected because they fear that they will go back to who they were in the past. As a result, they avoid rejection at all costs. My suggestion: Go out with the intention of getting rejected HARD. Like any fear, the only way around it is to go through it. Getting rejected, laughed at, drink thrown in face is NOT A BIG DEAL. It’s not a big deal but you need to go through harsh and “embarrassing” rejection in order to realize that it doesn’t matter what some anorexic club ho who has NO IDEA WHO YOU ARE thinks of you. Hypnotica walked around for two months unshowered, unshaven, in a dress with a dildo strapped to his head in order to get over caring about what other people think. This is a great thing to do but it’s not very practical to people with jobs and obligations. Alternatively, you can go out as many times as needed with the intention of getting rejected.
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Here are a couple of things you can do to go down in flames: -Go up to a girl or a group of girls and ask them “hey, do you like salads? I like croutons that come with salads” It’s a very stupid and ridiculous question to ask to girls in a club but it will help you get over trying to look cool and caring what they think of you. -Go up to a girl and in a suave and cheesy way say “Daddy’s home” but try not to crack up laughing before you deliver the line. After you say these two things or make up your own, DON’T try and recover and get the girl-just make the approach as bad as you can possibly make it. You might feel uneasy and dumb saying these things but those feelings will eventually go away. Each time you get rejected badly you will get closer and closer to not giving a shit what other people think about you and you will stop caring about the outcome of the situation. Releasing attachment and concern for other’s opinion of you will GREATLY improve your success with women and all other areas of your life. After a while you will actually begin to enjoy being rejected because of how funny it will become to you. Your skin will be so thick that nothing she does will be any concern of yours. It will no longer send you down a spiral of depression and completely ruin your night. I’m sort of sadistic in nature; I’m not sure what I enjoy more, being rejected badly or getting the girl. I’m leaning towards to former because getting the girl is enjoyable but getting rejected harshly in a hilarious way is damn entertaining. -Alex

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Bust Through Your Comfort Zone
Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 08/08/2008

I´m sitting here at an outdoor internet cafe in Medellin, Colombia staring at the beautiful city surrounded by mountains, and all I can think is ¨just three years ago I used to shit myself at the thought of vacationing to Colombia.¨ I would literally freeze up imagining myself alone in Colombia. I had visions of corrupt police, rampant drug wars, kidnappings, violence, and theft. Although I had visited Brazil and Argentina on several occasions, Colombia was on a short list of places that I was too scared to venture. Well, all it took was the persuasion of one hot Colombian girl, and here I am. It's my third day here and I feel this incredible weight lifted off of my shoulders. I have always prided myself in my sense of adventure... and I cringed at the thought that there were places I was avoiding out of fear. Well, I broke through my fear... only to find that they were completely unwarranted. Yes, completely unwarranted. Like most of our fears. I´ve been giving a lot of thought about what contributes to that stealth inner game that some guys seem to have. I´ve actually been building a list of traits and actions we can make our own to slowly reach that unstoppable confidence we all want. And on that list is: THE DRIVE AND ABILITY TO BREAK THROUGH OUR COMFORT ZONES We all have comfort zones. We are comfortable with a certain group of friends. We are comfortable at certain bars and clubs. We are comfortable dating a certain scale of girls. We are comfortable performing a certain type of job. We are comfortable making a certain income... But what I´ve come to realize is that the truly confident and successful people rarely stay in their comfort zone long. Confident, successful people are always looking to push and challenge themselves. They are
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always on the lookout for new opportunities that will inspire them to be an even better person. The main reason that most of us stay in our comfort zone is fear. Sure, we will claim to really like hooking up with chubby girls. Or really love that townie bar around the corner from our house.... but what we are really saying is ¨We are not willing to take the risk to find out if something better exists.¨ But the fact remains: Something better does exist. But we won´t ever attain it if we aren´t willing to sacrifice comfort for a little while. Here is my advice: Take Action Make a list of people, places, and actions that are a part of your comfort zone. Do you go to the same hair stylist because you love their haircut, or are you afraid to try someone else? Do you find yourself heading to the same bar? Buying the same polo t-shirts? Hitting on the same scale of girls? Going for the same type of job? Make a list of everything that falls within your comfort zone. Once you´ve created a list of things that make up your comfort zone; make another list. This is your Action List. On this list write down one step you can take towards breaking out of your comfort zone. Write the name of a bar you´ve always wanted to check out. Write the image change you´ve been dying to make. Write down the job you´ve always wanted to apply for. Now look at that list. And do everything on it. You want unstoppable inner game? Then do it. Do it.

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10 Ways to Immediately Make Yourself More Attractive
Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 04/06/2008

You want to see immediate results? You want to start getting more phone numbers, more looks, more compliments? Then implement these simple ten steps now and you’ll have more dates than you can handle. Tip #1- Improve your Posture Most people don’t realize the importance of posture. But it says more about you than anything that comes out of your mouth. Bad posture can make you look bored, depressed, or just plain homely. Improving your posture starts with becoming aware of it. Just being aware of excessive slouching will force you to take action right then. Toning your muscles through exercise will also help enhance posture. Place your head squarely on top of your neck, make sure your shoulders are upright and your back is arched forward. This will make you appear taller and more confident. Be sure to leave your arms relaxed and loose. A great way to improve posture is to remain active throughout the day. This will prevent your body from being molded the wrong way. Tip #2- Smile A smile can literally light up a room. A man or woman who walks around flashing a smile will always be perceived to be more attractive. With a healthy smile, we are able to transmit the emotions within our hearts. It is very true that our smile reflects our mood, personality and even our inner health. Smiling makes you seem warmer, more inviting, confident, happy… but the best part is that a great smile can make someone else feel all of these same emotions and attach them to you. The best way to improve your smile is by practicing in front of a mirror. Make sure that what you're intending as a smile isn’t coming off as a smirk. Also pay attention to your teeth. Nice teeth are a cornerstone of a good smile. If you’re teeth are yellow consider getting them whitened. It is also important to stay on top of dentist visits. Tip #3- Tanning
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Don’t misunderstand this tip as a call for you to turn yourself into an orange oompa loompa. Orange skin is not attractive. But some healthy looking color can benefit anyone, especially in the winter time when our complexions tend to get pale. I would generally recommend tanning a few times a month. I usually go just enough to have color, but not so much that people can recognize that I’ve been tanning. Tan skin makes you look thinner, healthier, and tends to make your clothes look better against your skin. It also helps hide imperfections in your complexion. Tip #4- Be Flirtatious Someone who knows how to flirt effectively will always attract more of the opposite sex than someone who solely relies on their looks. Flirting is an art form that if you can master you will be a few steps ahead of the competition. Flirting is essential in creating sexual tension. They key to flirting is achieving a sense of relaxed playfulness. Teasing is a great way to flirt. As is competitive flirting which takes the form of slight sarcasm and dry wit. Cooperative flirting is different. Rather than jabbing her, you pull her into your reality and create an “us against the world” dynamic. Flirting is a mix of pushing away with words and pulling in with actions. In the game of flirting think back to how you acted towards that classmate you had a crush on in the fourth grade… and act the same exact way. Tip #5- Get an Expensive Haircut The haircut needs to be great. It is very easy to go the cheap route when it comes to getting your haircut and head to the local Supercuts. This won’t cut it if your goal is to immediately make yourself more attractive. The key here is going to a salon that has a great reputation. These salons will usually cost you much more than your local barber… but it's worth it. Movie stars look like movie stars because they have the best that money can by making them look that way. Even if it is only a one time deal you deserve to get a “movie star” haircut. Stylists at these salons know how to shape a haircut around your particular face, head size, and personal style. There will be a huge difference. Even if you can’t afford to
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thus increasing their perceived attraction. ear hair. the more attractive the company you keep. And pluck your eye brows. and inappropriate body hair. A good dancer is immediately perceived to be more sexual. or other skin conditions. You can usually find dance lessons locally.Social Superstar continually get your hair cut at these more expensive salons. Tip #8. This includes nose hair. People like to make opinions quickly.Stay Well Kept and Well Groomed There are grooming tips that you can implement immediately that will drastically increase your attractiveness. at least you can take some pictures of yourself and plaster your MySpace profile with them! Tip #6. the more attractive you will be perceived to be. facial hair (especially if you’re a girl). And one of the easiest ways to do this is to lump you in with the company you keep. I would usually recommend taking a few individual lessons before you jump into the 189 . acne. controlling dandruff. We tend to look for reasons that will support our reality.Learn how to Dance If you want to attract the attention of the opposite sex during a night on the town you should consider learning how to dance. It is much easier to let others guide us. So if we see an average looking girl hanging around a bunch of models we will tend to look for her better qualities to justify her being there.Hang Around Attractive People Humans look for short cuts when it comes to forming their own opinions. Therefore. cleaning wax out of your ears. The first is getting rid of all unwanted hair. Eliminating a unibrow alone can change the look of your face. The lessons are usually available in group form and individual form. Tip #7. The same can be said for an average looking guy who walks into a bar with a beautiful woman… everyone in the bar will look for his positive qualities to reason it. If you are not a naturally good dancer I would recommend taking some dance lessons. Others actions that you can take is cutting your nails. On the other end if you’re an above average looking person but you hang out with the local riff raft people will look for your negative qualities to explain why you’re slumming.

Good use of accessories will make you more noticeable in a crowd. Adding these things to an outfit shows that you put thought into the way you look. My recommendation is to sample a few different brands and ask a member of the opposite sex to judge. and that you are confident in your ability to pull off wearing these things. It may cost a few dollars but you will be amazed to see what kind of response you get next time you're asked out onto the dance floor.Add Accessories to your Wardrobe If you take notice of most celebrities the one thing you’ll find in common with all of them is that they all make use of accessories.Smell Good Smell is one of the brain’s strongest senses. And can spark animal like sexual attraction. the more attractive you will be appear to the opposite sex. earrings. Tip #10. the purchase of a good cologne or perfume is a great investment. Ideally you can have several different men or women give you their opinions on which one is the best. Although taste is subjective. There is a term called “peacocking” which means purposely dressing in a way to draw attention to you. watches. It is the sense that provokes the most intense emotions. glasses.The Best of TSBMAG. necklaces. There is a theory that pheromones play a huge part in sexual attraction and I would not argue with that at all. 190 . While you may not choose to go that extreme. hats. Too much of a good thing can be a turn off. and scarves. bracelets. Accessories include belts. you should seriously consider added some flash to your look. the better you smell.COM group classes. One thing is for certain. Once you purchase a fragrance make sure you put just the right amount of it on. Tip #9. Accessories are items you can add to your outfit to give you some added flash.

It will take a minimum of three to four days a week of intense cardio to burn the amount of calories needed to shed fat around your gut. Everyone knows that the trick to getting rid of fat is cardio. running. the elliptical. which in turn bring up the value of anyone who takes off their shirt to display a six pack. Cardio. Nothing beats jogging or running. Swimming. or biking should be enough to get the process in gear.. the periods in my life where I’ve had abs… have always been more about the sense of personal accomplishment then about how they looked…. 20 minutes on the treadmill while reading a magazine and chatting on the phone won’t cut it.. hiking. Here are three tips that I’ve found helpful during the times in my life that I’ve reached my desired outcome. 1. These are no secrets… Because there is no short cut. It is the most intense. jumping rope. Proper Nutrition: I think a problem many people have is that once they start working out and burning calories they look at it as a free pass 191 . For me though. They seem almost elusive at times. But sometimes it's good to remember how basic it can be to get what we want… with the proper discipline. and effective method of burning calories. efficient. Cardio. Three to four sessions a week of intense jogging.Social Superstar 3 Tips for Abs of Steel Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 06/19/2008 Abs are like a prized possession. although they looked SWEET! Unfortunately I let myself go over the last year… and we all know that while abs take awhile to build. What makes abs so desirable is that most people aren’t willing to put in the effort it takes to get them. and Cardio: You can do a million crunches a day… but if you’ve got a solid layer of fat covering your abs you’ll never see them. they disappear in an instant. This makes people fascinated with them. 2. the Stairmaster. What people fail to realize is that the cardio needs to be intense. and taking aerobics classes are beneficial as well.

You should keep protein intake high (approximately 50% of daily calories). you are not using the abs very much if you do. The same goes for abdominals. triceps. Drink at least a gallon of clean water each day as well. and perform regular crunches.The Best of TSBMAG. pecs. Cable Rope Crunches . Working out Your Abs: The biggest mistake that most people make when trying to build abdominal muscle is that they do sets of crunches or sit ups without any resistance. and glutes. kneel on your knees. I seriously know girls who finish their workouts and head to Hagen Daz for a Sundae. Not eating on time or at all is almost as bad as eating too much. forcefully contracting your abs on the way down. Just a slight. but no more. The Five Best Abs Exercises Weighted Crunches . and fats minimal (10%). carbs moderate (40%). It will help in nutrient absorption and digestion and will help flush toxins from the body. or let it lie on your upper chest. 30 degree contraction until you feel the abs contract. Abs are muscles just like biceps. The whole point of spending all that time burning calories is to start burning the excess fat. 192 . Don’t swing with the hips. Stick with a heavy enough weight where you can handle 10-15 reps. If you’re filling yourself up with shitty foods.COM to pig out. You need resistance to properly strengthen and build them. But it is important to get something in you. Would you work your biceps out with no resistance? Or your chest? Here’s an important key. under your chin. you need to create enough resistance where your abs are forced to work. Remember. If you want proper abs development.Grab a dumbbell. only. then back up. It’s basically a crunch. you need to add resistance (weight) to your abs exercises. you are on your knees. and bend downwards. But the contraction is the same. you’ll never get to the point where you’re body starts converting fat into energy. You are now using your abs more to work against the leverage the dumbbell has created.Grab the triceps rope. either hold it in front of your face. hold for a couple seconds.

Stability Ball Crunches . just far enough (30 degrees) to fully contract the abs. and perform leg raises. with your hands tucked under your butt. This is very similar to Cable rope crunches. Wrap your feet around a small dumbbell.Once again. then back up.com has a really great free personal trainer course that will set you in the right direction. Seated Abs Machine .Lie flat on your back.Working on the stability ball will incorporate balance into your abdominal work. If at the same time you’re eating healthy and burning calories you should be seeing results in a couple months. 193 . Start with your feet about 6 inches from the ground.Social Superstar Weighted Leg Raises . hold for a couple seconds. do not swing all the way down. They are effective at strengthening your core region. then raise them about 12-16 inches from the ground and then back down slowly. which is your abs and lower back. As you can see doing these exercises while adding some resistance will build muscle much quicker and in larger gains. A couple months of intense workouts are a small price to pay for abs of steel. These can be done on the end of a bench as well. If you’re unsure of proper nutrition or just need a good plan to follow Bodybuilding.

These plastic cup drinks are usually reserved for the drink special of the night. You know… the $1 Miller Light draft or the $3 Margarita. and slurring your words… but you don’t have as much fun. looking at the girl next to me and thinking. these are all part of the show. and to make you look cool in the process. wobbly. If I drank alone I’d probably be sipping Bay Breezes or some kind of Dairies. No. do you? I mean all of my most memorable nights have involved me waking up.The Best of TSBMAG. You tend to find this atrocity at bars that are near college campuses. The rules bend a little depending on the location… but certain ones are set in stone. Yea… you’re game tends to be a little tighter when you’re not red faced. We can argue semantics… but I’ll just say you’ll never see Bobby Rio clinging to a club soda. “what the hell happened last night?” So the real question isn’t should you or shouldn’t you drink when you hit the bars… the real question is what kind of drink will best serve your purpose.COM A Manly Guide to Choosing Your Drink Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 06/30/2008 There is a dirty rumor in the pick-up community claiming it is better to stay sober when gaming women in bars and clubs. You don’t think I actually enjoy the endless rounds of SoCo and lime shots I guzzle down. maybe a Pina Coloda… but there are certain rules you need to follow in social environments. or bottom shelf tequila drowned in sour mix… but you look cheap drinking 194 . These drinks not only taste like shit as they’re usually stale beer. or the unnecessary twelve packs I always grab for the after party. Shit I hate the taste of booze. Your drink always serves two purposes: to get you hammered. Never order anything they are going to serve you in a plastic cup.

In fact it says that your life sucks so bad that trolling around this shitty bar is actually an “event” for you.” Generally. You think this one would be self explanatory but I never fail to see some schlep slurping on Mudslide wondering why he hasn’t been laid in a year. It doesn’t much matter what’s in the glass so long as it’s clear or brown. rusty nail… they didn’t ruin the integrity of their vodka by splashing cranberry juice in it. anything with a novelty name like Alabama Slammer. Anything ordered on the rocks looks cool. Manhattan. 195 . What does it say to everyone that you will sacrifice the enjoyment of your drink to save a buck? Hell. Back in his day. A safe bet is to order something your grandfather would have drank. Sex on the Beach. Let’s face it. or inevitably some girl will ask you what you’re drinking. and they drank scotch on the rocks.” Your first reaction may be to spit out “Michelob Ultra” but you need to regroup and imagine what your grandfather would have ordered. Drinking one of the “vacation” drinks sends out the vibe that you don’t get out often. rye and coke. and you don’t want to have to respond “Fuzzy Navel.Social Superstar them. I would pay extra to have them pour it in a pint glass. Because someone is going to hear you order it. Malibu Bay Breeze. And I don’t care how good you think it taste… you are never ever to order a Cosmo. men were men. Never order anything frozen or served in a novelty glass with a funny straw… unless you’re sitting on a beach in the Caribbean. Never. Remember clear or brown… I don’t care how much you liked the Big Lebowski it’s never acceptable to order a White Russian. The name of the drink is more important than what is inside it. The only exception to this rule is ordering a Margarita at a Mexican joint. Rocks glasses are cool. Never. even if I planned on drinking Miller anyway. Buttery Nipple. There will be times when you freeze like a deer in headlights when the bartender asks “what you drinking. or Kamikaze is off limits.

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Social Superstar 7 Steps to aturally Boost Testosterone Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 07/09/2008 There seems to be a huge fascination with guys taking steroids lately. I’ve seen many of my friends succumb to the lure of steroids. and even a slight increase in its level will provide many amazing benefits. the side effects can be brutal in the short term… and deadly in the long term. Testosterone is the most important muscle building hormone in your body. Not only are steroids an expensive habit. Benefits of increased testosterone’ * Increase in strength and muscle size * Body fat decrease * Increased sex drive and endurance * More energized and motivated * Decrease in bad cholesterol * Makes you more attractive to women Increasing testosterone can be a huge benefit to you. Obviously the major reason being that the increase in testosterone most anabolic steroids produce causes extraordinary gains in muscle mass. In addition to the gains in muscle mass many guys become addicted to the adrenaline rush of having excess testosterone flowing through their veins. While they would tell themselves it was going to be only one time… soon they became reliant on them and were doing cycle after cycle. Instead of cheating and doing it the artificial way that will drain your wallet and health. To put it bluntly. I’m going to give you tips to naturally increase your testosterone. Taking steroids is a coward’s way out that leads nowhere fast. This is not to say that your body couldn’t benefit from extra testosterone. Here’s the biology behind testosterone: 197 .

Have more sex. 2. cauliflower. and this also raises testosterone. flaxseed. and attractive. Soy has been known to raise estrogen levels which decrease testosterone levels. Exercises that put your muscles under the most amount of stress will force your body to produce more testosterone. radishes. bench presses. 4. You can also reduce estrogen by limiting the amount of soy protein you take in. avocadoes. dips. Limit Cortisol production. Testosterone can now be released into the bloodstream to perform its magic. fish. Eliminate Binge Drinking. 198 . Push yourself 110% at the gym. dead lifts. 6. cabbage. the brain releases a substance called Luteinizing Hormone. True gains in muscle and testosterone come when you push yourself to the limit at the gym. 7. It is also produced during times of lack of sleep. These 7 steps will provide that natural boost in testosterone that will leave you feeling more healthy. and military presses. 1. vibrant. These exercises include squats. Sexual stimulation causes the body to increase the production of oxytocin which increases endorphin production (the “feelgood” chemical). Cortisol is a catabolic hormone that will cause testosterone to plummet. Reduce Estrogen levels. and turnips. LH basically “tells” the body to start producing testosterone. Once this occurs. and canola are a proven natural way to boost testosterone. 5. LH and DHEA then travel together to the testes where testosterone production begins. sexual. or “LH” for short. the adrenal glands release DHEA into the bloodstream. If you follow these 7 steps you can avoid having to resort to sticking needles in your ass a couple days a week. lunges. Reducing the levels of estrogen (the main female hormone) will greatly increase your testosterone. The EFAs found in peanuts. You can reduce estrogen by eating more cruciferous vegetables like broccoli. Increase consumption of Essential Fatty Acids. Fill your work out with compound exercises. It is best to keep your drinking to a minimum and try not to exceed more than three drinks in a night. olives. 3.COM First.The Best of TSBMAG. Excessive alcohol consumption can drastically reduce testosterone levels. Cortisol is produced during times of high stress or anxiety.

Without it we are virtually useless. 5 Ways to Naturally Increase Your Energy As easy as it seems to pop a Stacker 3. but short lived. soda. Examples of simple carbohydrates would be candy. The carbs that you should be taking into your body should be complex carbohydrates such as whole grain bread. Don’t feed your body junk. proteins and complex carbohydrates in your everyday diet. jolt of energy I decided to do some research into how I can naturally increase my energy level. I was exhausted this morning. vegetables. down a Red Bull. You might not get that instant gratification that a Red Bull will give you. Energy is the fuel we all run on. and it took me another hour to wind down enough to sleep. Nutrition. 1. Needless to say. You’ll simply get fat and become lazier than before.Social Superstar How to aturally Increase Energy Levels Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 07/16/2008 Last night I took my girl to the Bon Jovi concert at MSG. Make sure you get enough fruits. or hit Dunkin Donuts for your fourth cup of coffee… these are all temporary fixes that will leave you even more depleted in the long run. Make sure you consume complex carbohydrates and not just simple carbohydrates. After guzzling the Red Bull and feeling that instant. cake and table sugar. After struggling to find the motivation to begin writing … I decided to hit 7-11 for my second Red Bull of the day. 199 . Continuously feed your body small amounts of complex carbohydrates to get the most out of your diet. whole grain rice or even apples. Think about how much more you would accomplish in life if you had an endless supply of energy. but over time you’ll slowly find you no longer need to flood your body with caffeine. We got home extremely late. Simple carbohydrates create a short burst of energy that will simply wear off and leave you depressed. Everything listed below will increase your energy level for the long term.

joining in a game of basketball or ultimate Frisbee. to better transport oxygen throughout the body. you can be taking a jog at the track. Conditioning Conditioning is your efficiency to move oxygen and blood to needed parts of the body. most of us don’t exercise nearly as much as we should be. compounds that unite with a protein component called an apoenzyme to form an active enzyme. * Working the body’s muscles which support healthy circulation and blood pressure. 2. I would advice picking up a decent juicer along with a book on good juicing recipes. If you live an exceptionally active life style you might want to supplement with an additional B complex. 3. What most people fail to realize is that even though you’ve 200 .The Best of TSBMAG. Even if you hate the idea of spending time in the gym. The B vitamins act as coenzymes.COM In addition to proper diet you should be taking a multi vitamin every day. or just taking a morning power walk around the park. It includes: * Strengthening the muscles involved in respiration in order to better move oxygen in and out of the lungs. Modern diets are usually void of many of the key vitamins and minerals our bodies need. Get the right amount of sleep Everyone’s body is different. The enzyme then acts as a catalyst in the chemical reactions that transfer energy from the basic food elements to the body. Another great way to get bursts of nutrients that your body needs is by using a juicer. but on average we need about 7-8 hours of sleep a night. The fact is. By taking a daily multi vitamin you can be sure you’ll be getting the daily recommended amount of all of them. Conditioning takes place through daily exercise. * Increases the number of red blood cells in the body. but it truly works wonders for energy. It gets messy and expensive. I actually went through a period of about six months where I had completely given up caffeine and replaced morning coffee with a homemade juice.

I tossed and turned. I would advise you to avoid sleeping more than the recommended 8 hours. Motivation One of the surest ways to get you pumped full of energy is to get yourself in a completely motivated state. to my bathroom mirror. and then too cold. I said supplements. last night after lying in bed at about 1:00 am. and to my television. Using myself as an example. There is no hiding from them. Knowing what your goals are is not always enough to motivate some of us.Social Superstar been lying in your bed for 8 hours does not mean you got 8 hours of solid sleep. Being forced to look at your goals forces you to think about what you have to do to achieve them. You also want to avoid getting too much sleep. You need to make sure that you are getting 8 hours of restorative sleep. One of the ways that I’ve been doing that lately is by writing all of my goals on index cards. Sometimes we need to be motivated by the promise of extreme pleasure or the fear of extreme pain. not sleeping pills. limit your beverage intake to two hours before bedtime. If you know you have a tendency to toss and turn for an hour before finally falling asleep. found myself too hot. I am forced to stare at my goals. A good way to stay motivated is to create a picture album or collage of your goals. the body you want. adjusting the pillow every 3 minutes… before finally falling asleep at about 2:30. got up several times to use the bathroom. In this photo album or collage paste pictures of things you’re striving for. If you still find that you’re having trouble getting a thorough night sleep you might want to take some supplements that support sleep patterns such as ZMA and Melatonin. 4. If you find you have to continually go to the bathroom throughout the night.lie down an hour earlier. Remember. the girl you 201 . I tend to be lifeless the rest of the day. I find that when I stay in bed an extra hour or two in the morning. I’ve taped the index cards to my computer. These pictures can include pictures of the car you want. Everywhere I look from the minute I wake up.

especially Tony Robbins.The Best of TSBMAG. If you follow these 5 tips you should be able to slowly wean yourself off the Red Bull. If you listen to a certain song continually during times you feel completely motivated… you’ll be able to recreate that feeling just by hearing the song. On the opposite side of that. when I hear these songs I get that burst of motivation I usually feel on the treadmill. 202 . I’ve done this with working out. do a great job of pumping me up. and Jack Canfield. you can post a picture of yourself with your less than ideal body weight. I’ve found that since I’ve gotten used to being pumped up in the morning from the audio… that now. Anchoring This is something that I’ve been using lately to great success. 5. the first thing I do is listen to one hour of one of these speakers on my IPod. take a picture of yourself in a swim suit. I am naturally more energized in the morning. and force yourself to see it daily. Music is another great way to create an anchor. the career you want… Anything that will inspire you and get your mind racing. Every morning. These speakers. I will make sure I play these songs while I’m busting my butt on cardio as they always push me to go the extra mile. If you’re trying to lose weight. even on days I skip listening to the audio. For some people the pain of seeing themselves look less than desirable will motivate them to get off their ass. Jim Rohn. I have been flooding my mind with motivational audio programs like Tony Robbins.COM want. What has been remarkable is that even away from the gym. There are a couple songs I listen to over and over again at the gym.

A common problem is that men put things away because it’s “winter” clothes and then forget about them over time. replace it with more so you can stay style fat! After you have everything organized. • • • They always wear (piece of clothing) because it goes with everything A majority of their wardrobe is the med to their personal interests Most of the stuff is old and anything new was a onetime purchase (event) You Need Some Clarity So you want to dress cool and be hip? It all starts with understanding what you’re working with and getting rid of what you don’t wear. or better yet their closet. Yes. pants. jackets. not season. Go down stairs or in the attic and pull out everything you own for all seasons and events. shoes. is that there is little or no synergy with the entire wardrobe. sport coats. t-shirts. never forget the underwear… 203 .Social Superstar How to Redo Your Wardrobe Written by Michael Stoute Original Published: 07/24/2008 This is a 3 part series I am writing about how to redo your wardrobe. Now organize everything by type. There is a reason that you do this first and you will understand by the next article in the series. Organize by Type Get all your clothes together. One of the biggest problems I see when I look at what guys wear. hats. suits and underwear. shorts. This makes things hard for a number of reasons. You have to manage your wardrobe just like your food supply. I mean all of them. When you’re running out of something. this article is about how to throw away your clothes to get ready to redo your wardrobe. shirts.

The only way this will work is if you get rid of everything you don’t wear so that you can see what you actively have to work with. If you are looking at something and saying “but I have always had this” or “this is my lucky t-shirt”. These are your staple outfits that you currently wear. Homework Study the remaining clothes or pictures of them and get ready for Part 2. Mix and Match I want you to go through all your remaining clothes and see what actually goes together. then print them out on a cheap color printer so that you can just cut them out like photos. If you don’t wear too many colors (like most men) this will not be hard and may not even be necessary. Most people only wear 15-25 different items on a regular basis yet everyone has a closet full of crap. You have also looked at all the remaining items and studied them. Let’s start with colors first.The Best of TSBMAG. either with photos. Now I want you to either write down or take pictures (preferred) of what you currently have and wear on a regular basis. then you have already gone through your entire wardrobe and thrown away what you didn’t need following the process I outlined. If you take digital pictures.COM Throw it Out! Go through each pile and start throwing out everything you don’t wear. What’s’ Left? If you haven’t been clothes shopping too much lately then you are probably left over with a relatively small amount of clothing. pen and paper or in your head Now it’s time to move into the second phase. Part 2 If you read the previous post in this series “The Throw Away”. 204 . dump it or wash it and put it in a box somewhere that you will bury as a time capsule for aliens to find in the future.

The reason this part requires money is simple. The reason I wanted you to make 5 different outfits is because you want to be able to “recycle” what you wear every week so that you are not wearing the same thing every day and for laundry reasons as well. always leaving you with clean clothes! (+ $250) Now that you have thrown away unused clothes and picked out some outfits with the remaining. clothes cost money and you will always have to invest money into your wardrobe to keep it updated. 205 . I rarely buy things full price and I always visit the clearance section of every store I go to first. If you don’t have any decent jeans. You should be able to find 3-4 or more nice things for around $75$100. I suggest going to the GAP and buying 2 nice pairs of boot cut jeans to add to your current wardrobe. Try to make 5 different outfits out of what you have. This way you can wear something different for 10 days and do laundry every 5 days.Social Superstar Look at what you currently have and see what your outfit possibilities are. $250 is a fair amount for a man to spend on his wardrobe in one day. it’s time to put on the finishing touch on your new wardrobe. I would say go to Marshalls or some other “Yesterdays Fashion” outlet and look through the clearance racks. Your initial investment… Take some of your hard earned money and get ready to shop. Think about the weaker points of your wardrobe and what you need most. then this is a clue where the weakest part of your wardrobe lies. The jeans should run you about $50$75… Shirts and Tops To start things off you want to pick up 3-4 new shirts/sweaters or some kind of top. Men can typically wear the same or similar jeans over and over without any problem so my guess is that you probably are going to take a bulk of this money and spend it on tops. but before you go I want you to remember the 5 outfits that you are working with already and/or take pictures of them with you. The ideal set of different outfits is 10 in my opinion. but just think of it as a kick start to your new image. If you used any of the clothing items in more than one outfit.

If you are looking at a cool shirt. Adidas. Take your time and pick out a nice pair of shoes that are not too flashy so that you can wear them with almost anything. Shoes and Sneakers With the reaming money I would like you to buy a new pair of sneakers or shoes. I would recommend something in the Converse. buy the nice button down shirt because is not so flashy and will blend well with your other outfits therefore allowing you to wear it 2-3 times over a 3 weeks period. If you have to buy a new pair I would suggest trying on a lot of different kinds with a pair of jeans on to see which ones look and feel the best. Shoes are a different story. Same thing with clothes shopping except you are constantly looking for things that will add to and extend your existing wardrobe. I like to compare clothes shopping to food shopping because when you go food-shopping you are always thinking of ways to maximize what you currently have in your fridge and cabinets. They tend to stay in style through all of the different fashion cycles. take a step back and think of how many other things you own and how this shirt can be meshed in with your current clothing arsenal. For sneakers.COM Clothes Shopping is like Food Shopping Remember while shopping at the store to keep your current wardrobe inventory in mind. You might find a pair or two of decent leather shoes that you can just take to the shoe shop and get shined and fixed up. So check out what you already have before spending a lot of money. whatever fits your current lifestyle better. Shoes that are made well will last and if they fall apart can usually be fixed. 206 . or Puma family. Don’t buy that crazy shirt because you will wear it once every 3 weeks and feel like a pimp. Before buying a pair of shoes I would look through your closet for any old shoes you may have forgotten about. Comfort is so important with shoes and I urge you to make sure they are comfortable or you will never end up wearing them.The Best of TSBMAG. Stay away from the high end brands for now unless you can afford them of course.

Constantly be buying things that will fit in with what you already have. Systems and Schedules The easiest way to keep a nice wardrobe going is to build it in baby steps. With this $100 I would be looking to buy 3 to 4 new items a month. Most men will go shopping for clothes every once in a while and just buy a few things that look good. Split up the money so you spend around $25 a week on say a new shirt or pair of pants. I will talk about how to constantly increase your wardrobe at a moderate pace so you don’t go broke and how to “peacock” (stand out) with items no matter what your age or profession. In the previous two articles we systematically removed clothes you no longer wear and then preceded with a plan to kick start your new wardrobe with a small amount of money. In this part of the series. keep mental notes of what you already have in your closet. Let’s say you are willing to spend $100 a month to finance your wardrobe (which is not a lot).Social Superstar And always remember to keep in mind what you already have including what you buy during this process. It has to mesh well with what you already have for you to get the most value out if it. but I would still suggest only buying 1-2 items at a time. This means you have to go shopping 3-4 times a month. You can up the monthly allowance if you like. When you are out shopping. You have to keep that food shopping mentality I talked about in the previous article of the series. Part 3 This is the 3rd and final installment of the How to Redo Your Wardrobe series. Just because an item of clothing is nice and looks good in the store isn’t enough to buy it. then they typically go home and realize that these new items don’t fit in to well with their current wardrobe and get frustrated. There is a time and a place to add a “peacock” aspect to it and I will explain how in the final part of the series. “Pea cocking” without looking like an idiot 207 . adding new items one at a time. but in the beginning keep thinks basic using solid colors and common styles. If you follow this method when buying clothes you will have more outfits than you can think of as time goes on. As your wardrobe gets bigger you will be able to throw in more “loud” items.

This is the time where you are going to be experimenting with a lot of things in life so why not your wardrobe too. On the other hand. make sure that they can fit in with what you currently have and aren’t so crazy that when they fade out. If you are constantly buying this trendy crap then soon you will have a wardrobe like a clown.The Best of TSBMAG. but still ugly as sh*t. The problem with this concept is that everyone is different and therefore has to “peacock” in a different way. BUM Equipment was huge when I was in HS and that sh*t is UGLY! Then there were those heat activated fabrics that changed colors when you touched it. 208 . if you don’t already. You don’t want to be the person wearing all the different trends because you will look like you are trying too hard.. Great examples of this were certain brands and t-shits when I was young. you can’t even wear it anymore. great for Kino now that I think of it. Just remember that “staple” items are needed no matter what. I feel most of the problem centers around age difference and profession and I will illustrate how you can “peacock” no matter who or where you are in life. As for the young professionals out there. he he What I am basically saying is that as a young person with no job. I will break this down in 2 separate categories. the playing field is open to almost anything in the style department. you have to go with the trend at times to “peacock” and demonstrate that you know what’s up… When you buy trendy items. Age 17-21 This is the age range where you are probably all over the place with finding yourself and an image. Have plenty of solid shirts and pants that you can use when wearing your “trendy” item(s).COM Pea cocking is a term that has become associated with men adding certain items to their wardrobe to stand out. Styles with young adults change so quickly that I suggest keeping things simple and looking for some trendy items. Having these “staple” items will allow you to evolve with the trends while maintaining a nice foundation for your entire wardrobe. Wherever you are in this phase it doesn’t matter.. stuck in one style because if the people you hang with or just lost altogether and are still wearing the clothes your parents bought you for birthdays. You may be wearing a lot of different styles.

but it looks so sweet when done right. I always go with a Double Windsor and so should you! It is by far the hardest knot to tie. The problem with cufflinks is that you need to have special shirts to wear them with. clean classy and professional. Some guys don’t realize that a sport coat is entirely 209 .Now I know what you may be saying. Stay away from pattern shirts with ties unless you are absolutely sure it looks good. So if you plan to buy some nice cufflinks. plan on buying a few new shirts to go with them. He he… When picking out ties for patterns and colors I tend to stay with solids and thick stripes. you may want to reevaluate your alpha male goals. I have yet to see a better knot that has more girth. which will come with time young Skywalker… Cufflinks . It gives you that full knot that you see in the men’s fashion ads. I tend to stay away from the crazier designs of things and keep to basics. Do the same with your cufflinks. I actually think this is the easiest one to “peacock” out of all the following sections due to the fact you will probably be wearing more clothes in general. If you are a tie freak and own a bunch of wacky designs and stuff then you may want to pick up a few nice silk solids to balance you out. I am also going to assume that you have some cash in your pocket to go out and accessorize with. cufflinks are for when I wear a tux? Wrong! Yes they are formal. If you haven’t noticed yet. but they have been worn for years in regular suits.The tie is one of my favorite items to peacock in the professional look. jacket and tie or at a minimum. shirt and tie. not the cufflink itself. there are 3 or more distinct ways to tie the knot. If you are working a job where you have a dress code like this and make crappy money.Social Superstar Age 21-30 Professional You are the type of guy that has a nice job where you have to dress in a suit. Sport Jackets This is one of my favorite items of clothing and can be done really right or really wrong. Most men don’t realize how versatile the tie can really be…For instance. I want to take a quick moment to mention that when having to wear a tie every day. your shirts for the most part should be solid colors. Ties . The act of wearing the cufflinks is pea cocking.

Being that you won’t likely be wearing a tie or 210 . As far as the style of the shoe. Just go to any store and walk around touching the fabrics in the suits section and then go over to the sport coats and see the difference for yourself. I own slip on shoes and I do like them. but this situation is pretty rare due to the material and look of suits. it will either look cheap or you will only be able to wear it once in a while. Don’t worry. Forget the designs on the back with that “Ed Hardy” type look. Funny thing is that you see guys wearing jackets from their bar mitzvah’s and communion’s with a hoodie and it looks stupid. Shoes Shoes are unique part of any man’s wardrobe and they can say a little or a lot about you. This is almost the same principle that I talked about earlier with the sport coat fabrics. Lately it is big to wear a sport coat with a hoodie under it and I think it looks pretty sharp. Sport coats are items that are meant to stand alone and are made with fabrics that are easier to match up with common pants.The Best of TSBMAG. I would suggest wearing simple styles with nice textures. The simple fact that you don’t have to tie a slip on combined with the laziness factor of men has caused this style to be played out. When dressing professional. but over all I feel they are a little less dressy than the laced styles besides the fact they are getting played out.COM different than the jacket that comes with a suit. Loud shoes often scream cheesy and/or make you look like a fool. Instead look for cool fabrics to peacock. Don’t forget to wear nice socks and a matching belt! No god dam white socks!!!! Age 21-30 Business Casual and Outside of Work Now let’s say that you work in a nice place but its business casual and/or you are outside of work. women will notice the smallest pattern and look…after all they addicted to shoes themselves. It is true that some suit jackets can double as a sport coat. There are a ton of different fabrics for sport coats and the more you shop the more you will discover. Real men “peacock” shoes with class and sedulity. When picking out sport coat styles I would again keep it simple. I prefer laces to slip on types because I feel they just look better.

feel the difference. women will notice and they will probably touch you just because of it. if not grow up! Touch the clothes as you look through them. I mention Ben Sherman because I like their stuff. Take some chances with it. If you are wearing a nice pair of pants that feel great from the material. If you are a magician then you can wear pants with flames and naked girls. When buying these types of shirts I almost always go with a designer and/or stick to a few.Their designs are unique and dressy at the same time. say 1 ½ inches give or take with your height. This big cuff reminds me a 211 . If you are going to go with a cuff in the pants. I am going to focus on pea cocking other items I may have told you to tone down in the above section. Stick with a nice smooth looking nice feeling choice. make it a nice phat one. Pants and Slacks Fabrics. Ben Sherman…. I have plenty of unique “no name” button downs that are probably my strongest items and they were purchased at stores like Marshalls and Kohl’s. you will be surprised. those pants look comfortable!” I would also recommend staying away from pleated designs. My personal favorite. Fabrics. Shirts In the previous section I mentioned to keep you shirts as solids and use the tie and other accessories to accomplish your James Bond “peacock” style. Being able to pick out unique styles is a skill you hone over time and mixing your wardrobe up like this will keep you from being pinpointed as a “BRAND” whore. Fabrics… I can’t say it enough. they are too old man-ish and hard to keep pressed. this allows you another opportunity to add a little “peacock” to it. So let’s talk button downs… There are many different styles and brands of button down shirts but in general I feel most of them look the same and will get you thrown into the mix with the other cookie cutter button down styles. Since most of these pants will need to be tailored.Social Superstar sport coat. When being casual the rules change and the power shifts to other items of your wardrobe. “Wow.

COM little of that gangster look from the days of Tommy Gun.The Best of TSBMAG. I am sure that I may have missed some things or not fully answered your questions so please leave any in the comments below. Game On! 212 . I think its bad ass… In closing: I hope you have really enjoyed this series and especially this last installment which I worked pretty hard on.

computers… You’ll get to campus around two. it may sound cruel… sure. If you walk in and find that there are bunk beds… you have instant decision to make. posters. most closet space.Social Superstar Winning the Day 1 College Roommate War Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 08/28/2008 It’s all fair in war… and that is exactly what move in day at the dorms is. all walking around like clueless tourists… And then you’ll walk into your closet sized dorm room… And your nerdy ass roommate will have already jam packed his stuff into the limited closet space… and even worse… he’ll have claimed the better bed. TV. Yes. Most people will generally jump at the lower bunk… (I was one of the late hung-over fools who got the top bunk) But in reality. covering the walls with your Pink Floyd and Bob Marley posters… just know… he would do the same thing to you in an instant. there should probably be a more fair way of choosing… but the reality is… the early bird gets the worm. Sure. fight the traffic and commotion of another thousand underclassmen pushing shopping carts full of their shit. Son. Mom and dad will wake you up at noon or so… hung over you’ll start loading the cars up with your microwave. there are drawbacks to both: Downsides to the bottom bunk: 213 . when it comes to move in day… You need to beat your roommate to the punch. you’ll probably want to spend your last day in your hometown boozing it up with your high school buddies into the wee hours of the night…. No matter how big of a dick you feel for claiming the best bed.

The Best of TSBMAG. Downsides to the top bunk: • • • • You need to be able to climb in the dark. Even with the downsides of the bottom bunk… always choose it.COM • • • • • You clunk you head on the supports under the top bunk if you sit up too quickly. they’ll crawl into the bottom bunk because the top is too high. Every time you wake up to piss in the middle of the night you’ve got to climb down half asleep. As much as you will both try to pretend everything is equal… the guy who owns it unconsciously has final say over how it’s used. anytime you’re in bed. Basically. For instance. If you’re a raging drunk. If the guy above you is a raging drunk… there is a good chance after a night of hard partying you're likely to get an unwanted golden shower. When your roommate climbs down from the top he’ll probably wind up stepping on your head out of spite. If someone is drunk and lost… and your room is open. he wants to watch the Mets… it’s 214 . you’re liable to roll off the bed in shitfaced confusion. you want to watch the Yankee game. People will always be sitting on your bed when they come in your room. you’ve got to climb your ass down and get it. and computers… As tempting as it sounds to let him haul all his stuff to the dorms. Chances are you’re roommate will have wanted it… This gives you a great bargaining tool later. As for appliances. entertainment. and mooch off his big screen TV and 27 inch computer monitor… Always fill the room with as much of your shit as possible. and want something.

you’re free to decorate the room as you please. and more importantly. chances are you’ll speak on the phone a week or two before move in day to discuss what both of you are bringing. you have all the time in the world to socialize later. It is crucial during this conversation that you bluff. Remember the first week of college is crucial for establishing yourself as the party guy…. Set you alarm clock for 7am and have 2 cans of Red Bull waiting by the bed. you’ll have all your shit packed and ready to go the night before. You tell him that you’ll be getting back late from a trip that afternoon and probably won’t make it to campus until later in the evening. hop in the shower. while you’re watching Jeter and company on your big screen. So the sooner you finish the move in bullshit… the sooner you can begin to conquer your campus. If he doesn’t have any. The minute the alarm clock goes off.Social Superstar your TV… he’ll be checking scores on the internet. If you’ve got a lot of posters… bring them all. He will feel like he’s got all the time in the world to mosey down to campus. taking first crack at the hotties on your floor. This simple line will give him a false sense of security. 215 . These are not things you want to negotiate. The last thing you want is some dweeb hanging pictures his parents brought him back from their last trip to Key West. and to do a formal introduction to each other. In the meantime. and amaze your parents at how energetic and excited you are to get to campus. Getting there early provides several benefits… you’ll get better parking and fight less of a crowd getting to your dorm. you’ll get the better bed. guzzle the Red Bull. How to be sure you beat him to the room First.

Jake. John. John is blindfolded and mouth duck taped. and we are shouting derogatory things at him while harassing him physically. He had lived there the past 4 years. Out of all our friends. was getting married in Buenos Aires. this is an all time low.The Best of TSBMAG. At one point they put duct tape over John’s hairy nipples. but the both of us were in the thick of relationships and our girls jumped at the chance to have a romantic getaway in Buenos Aires. I was still within the first 3 months with Kate. he fell in love with an Argentinean girl. and then rip it 216 . so I didn’t necessarily mind having her tag along on this trip. But what’s done is done…. had no choice but to go along with it. only my friend Jake and I decided to go. I mean.COM The Buenos Aires Hooker Juice Incident Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 07/28/2007 I want to prelude this story by saying that this one of those stories that makes me question my own moral character. even by Bobby Rio standards. Needless to say we were both ecstatic when we get a call from John’s cousin the first night down there informing us that his bachelor party was tonight. my girl. His Spanish friends were downright cruel. although not happy to be spending their first night in Argentina alone. We had both been to South America enough times to know not to bring sand to the beach. We had arrived just in time!! The girls. on the other hand. He invited a bunch of us to the wedding. and whatever bottle of hard liquor that is currently being passed around. but the party isn’t the point of the story so I’ll sum it up quickly. kidnap John from his apartment. and although he had planned to move back to the US. wine. and I. The bachelor party was the one of the craziest experiences I’ve ever seen. had been with his girl close to two years and was miserable that he wouldn’t be able to tag some new Spanish ass. and the rest is history. Two years ago a college friend of mine. A bunch of John’s Spanish friends. I could write an entire post on the bachelor party alone. The entire drive in the van we are guzzling beers. Jake. Argentina. Force him into woman’s clothing and throw him in the back of a van.

Unfortunately most of John’s friends were married and were more excited about the kidnapping part of the night. and I can see how much Jake needs this. involving a lot of sightseeing. then the titty bar. heaven. but “what the hell.” Meeting them at their apartment was a little more than I bargained for. just flirt a little bit.” he says. So I agree to hang out with the strippers. (The beauty of 3rd world laws) This part of the story climaxed when we arrive in a park that was filled with Transsexual prostitutes. on what was supposed to be a romantic getaway with my girlfriend. Our plan is to just meet them for lunch or something. We take the numbers and leave. They say they can’t leave the bar till 4. but give us their numbers and make us promise to call them this week. We let him sweat it out for about a half hour. big dinners. All the while the stripper’s phone numbers are just burning a hole in our pockets. and getting dragged to every clothing store in the city so that our girls can take advantage of 3rd world bargains. wedding preparations. The next couple days of the trip are quite civil. Finally the 4th day into the trip Jake can’t take it anymore… He say’s we have to go meet the strippers. Jake and I had other plans. he turns to me and says “They want us to meet them at their apartment. Jake who speaks some Spanish asks them if they want to hang out tonight. The strip bar was a full frontal festival of beautiful busty Latinas…or as I like to call it. and after some back and forth conversation in Spanish that I couldn’t understand.” 217 . “Just for kicks. But I’m a good friend. leaving him to be ravaged by Planet of the Shemales. and am in no rush to go sneaking around with strippers. let them grope us. Jake calls the stripper. Then they open up the back of the van and make John (still in women’s clothing) run behind the van tied to a leash. and go home.Social Superstar off. We take John out of the car and tie him to a fence and pretend to drive away. then we loaded him into the van and headed to the strip bar. I am honestly pretty content at this point with Kate. They gave me the address. I’ve never seen so many trannies in my life. We are sitting on a couch with two of the strippers listening to them tell us how much they love our blonde hair and blue eyes (I think that's code for “I love your money”) Anyway.

comes out of a room and hand signals me to follow her.. and a night stand.The Best of TSBMAG. We stand outside the building giggling nervously like a couple of giddy teenagers. A cab drops us off in front of a large brick building. After a minute of stern deliberation it is settled. roughly $40. My stripper. who asks us our names when we enter. We are both in shock. I’m slightly embarrassed by the situation and the fact that a language barrier prevents us from communicating.COM We make up some excuse about going to meet John for one last guys only luncheon. My prostitute’s face is a little less pretty than I remember.. Jake looks at me with a “what the fuck” type of look. It is immediately clear upon entering the apartment that we have just entered a classic South American Brothel. confused. and wait for my change. and are trying to gauge the other’s desire to go through with this. The Madame tells us to take a seat. We will fuck the whores!!! My fake name is called first. if by stripper you mean prostitute. I just shrug. Jake pulls out his paper with the phone numbers. disappointed. I walk toward the desk where the Madame asks me for $35. a television set. She asks us who we are here to see. I am quite winded by the time we reach the top and barely notice the 2 two middle aged white men that just exited the apartment we were about to enter. Her body’s alright. The girls look at this as an opportunity to go on a shopping binge without us. She is drenched in hooker perfume (presumably to cover up the smell of her previous appointment) 218 . Jake and I sit and give each other little looks. and reads two names. We muster up the courage and walk in. (Yes $35…And our girlfriends thought they were getting bargains in the malls) I hand her about 100 pesos. except for a really nasty c-section scar. I’m really not sure how I’m supposed to proceed with the scenario. We make up a couple fake names. disgusted. We have to walk up 8 floors of stairs to get to their apartment. who is grinning like a kid in a candy store. I look at Jake. I feel a little… I don’t want to say sleazy… you know… just a little creped out… but she’s wearing only a robe and I keep hearing my dick say “follow her boy… faster…damnit!!!” A minute later I’m in a dingy little room filled with a small bed. and don’t seem to mind our departure. There is a Madame sitting at a desk.

She just keeps trying to tongue me...” “You need to burn those clothes.. She takes my hand and puts it on her breast. I get out of the bed and begin putting my clothes on.. He gives me a nod. Show up smelling like a whore. Deny and play dumb. She is running her hands through my hair and licking my ear. Now that I’ve cum she looks even less pretty and the c-section scar looks even uglier and nastier. I try to gesture that I have a headache. I am probably the first guy under forty she’s fucked all day. I think she is telling me she loves me. 2. She is happy. Call John see if I can go to his place. Jake starts sniffing me. 3. “Dude. But oddly. Jake meets me in the lobby a few minutes later. shower. “ We go through my options: 1. too” Jake is laughing. I feel extremely dirty. After briefing one another on the gory details of the last hour. I can’t show up at our hotel smelling like a whore. And he wins. you fucking reek of hooker perfume” “Fuck! That bitch was drenched in the shit. “I need a shower badly. 219 . Buy some cologne and drench myself in enough of it to override hooker scent.” I attempt to smell myself several times. My performance is adequate. I may throw up. borrow clothes. and hope Kate doesn’t notice I’m wearing a different outfit. Her perfume is giving me a headache so I have my face buried in the pillow. He moves forward and smells me again.. I am no longer turned on. She tries to kiss me on the lips. We both hurry out of there… through the halls. “This ain’t fucking funny man. I want to get the fuck out of there… but I don’t want to sit in the lobby waiting for Jake. my dick is quite hard. My prostitute is whispering something in Spanish.Social Superstar She is smiling and rubbing her titties under the robe. I back away. She wants to cuddle… We lay there with about twenty minutes to kill. if not stellar.. down the staircase… out the door… and smack into the cold light of day.

Once we get in we notice that not only is Mariella. neck… fuck it. I can only imagine the conversation that is taking place outside the door. He shouts “Sure” Jake and I take a cab to John’s apartment. I try to explain my situation but the reception is horrible. We’re buzzed in and quickly rush up three flights of stairs.. his fiancé there… but so is Mariella’s mother and father. I try to hide my stench behind Jake. I am now completely naked scrubbing myself with a sponge that was in his shower. Her mother comes over and kisses me on the cheek. I shout “can I come over for a minute” into the phone. My mind is blank for an excuse as to why I smell like whore. face. They’re going to be a little tight. I lean out the door and call for John.. “You guys went to meet those strippers didn’t you?” “I’ll explain later… can you please get me some clothes to wear?” “Yea… but you’re bigger than me.” “I don’t fucking care… “ 220 . She wants to introduce us to them. We need to take care of this as fast as possible as the girl’s are surely beginning to wonder what's taking us so long. John’s fiancé answers the door. I ask John if I can use the bathroom. I start to put my clothes back on and realize that it would be defeating the purpose of washing if I put the smelly clothes back on. I am stunned. She introduces us as “John’s amigos de Estados Unidos”. Once I get in the bathroom I start washing my hands. She motions for us to come in. She almost chokes. Everyone in the apartment is completely uncomfortable with the situation. I try to wave to avoid a handshaking and kiss. We jump out of the cab and ring John’s bell repeatedly.COM I call John from a pay phone. I point back at Jake. Her father gets a whiff of the smell and starts sniffing suspiciously.The Best of TSBMAG. John comes to the door. I reluctantly enter. She grabs my hand and leads me toward them. I take off my shirt and start washing my chest and stomach. He smells his wife (like she might be the one drenched in whore juice) John then walks out of the bathroom and immediately blurts out “What's that smell?” Jake points at me. but it's too late. No one wants to ask me why I smell like I’ve taken a bath in cheap perfume.

We finally get back to the hotel. I hesitantly enter my room. “Are you wearing perfume?” she asks. and in an effort to avoid any more embarrassing conversation I quickly announce that we have to meet our girlfriends back at the hotel. She starts nibbling my ear. Kate is waiting for me. She gives me the “fuck me eyes” I try to tell her that I’m tired. Not in the mood… but apparently my tight eighties rocker jeans are turning her on. She believes my story. Mariella and her parents are still in total shock and barely acknowledge me when I wave goodbye. She pulls off me for a second. She is lying in bed… relaxing after a hard day shopping. I feel too guilty to speak. Just my luck… she’s horny. I am afraid I might blurt something stupid out. She is happy to see me. They are a quite tight on me.Social Superstar I put on Johns clothes. Then she notices the clothes I am wearing. The shirt is not bad. 221 . But the jeans make me look like an 80’s rocker. I thank John for the clothes and grab Jake and we bounce. I exit the bathroom. So I just go along with it. I make up an excuse about spilling spaghetti sauce all over myself at lunch… had to go to John’s to change.

The Best of TSBMAG. Yet.” so you don’t worry. and a clan of scantily clad Brasileras shaking their stuff on stage to the pulse of the music. You entered to pounding bongo drums. has fruit for breakfast. maybe plays a game of tennis. He curses you out in Portuguese. The kind of guy. Your night began at Amozoa. You hang up the phone and pay the fifteen Reas for the call. You’ve always envisioned yourself as the kind of guy. “Where you from?”A Brazilian guy is shouting in your ear. You don’t know at exactly what point you deviated from your “ideal self. and then hits up a local museum. who on vacation. Your highly acclaimed novels are still buried beneath dirty clothes in your suitcase. you confessed nothing. A street kid puts out his hand for coins as he passes you by. You used phrases like “Nice and relaxing” “Catching up on work” “Plowing through novels” “Good restaurants "and “often lonely” to describe the trip. Now that you’ve made your token phone calls you feel like you have just been to Confession at church. Bits and pieces are forming shapes in your mind as you sip an espresso and watch the girl’s parade down the strip in their short denim skirts. well-reviewed. who wakes up early and takes a jog on the beach. and make your way to the bar to grab a Bohemia and take in the view. a vaguely tribal feel. or was it Europa? You were already pretty tight when you arrived. 222 . and a liver that still has not forgiven you.” This morning when you called your mother you felt ashamed.COM Fortaleza ights Part 1 Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 11/14/2007 You bought three new. reads Hemingway at a table outside a café along the water. No sign of the blonde and her friend that you were supposed to meet. You were here two years ago but that trip was during your “Black Label” phase. hiked up for extra effect. novels for this trip. But Brasileras have no concept of “on time. which left you with very few clear memories. “No tengo nada” you lie. You are still riding the adrenaline rush of last night’s Red Bull and Cialis fueled comet trail of adventure. sipping a glass of Cabernet.

But jerking off in Brazil seemed like an Oxymoron. even when they’re speaking English. You feel a hand graze you butt. You turn to the girl and go Cave Man on her. But your “well raised” childhood taught you to never be rude. A petite light skinned Brasilera giggles. it is certain that they are prostitutes. You twirl her around and do a once over. 223 .” you tell him.Social Superstar You wonder if you have the word “gringo” tattooed on your forehead. As you crack open your second Bohemia you wonder if you have the energy to go through with the night. What you like?” “No necassario. You were quite enjoying your own blurred thoughts and not quite enticed by the idea of engaging conversation with a guy who obviously wants something from you. He calls over probably the only two ugly girls in the club. when you near her breast she grabs your hand and places it back on her ass. It’s not like you don’t have options. “You like Coca. Marijuana?” “Only chicas” you say. They both have penciled in eye brows and slicked back jet black hair. “Estados Unidos. You politely thank their pimp but tell him “I already have a chica. Thinking it might be a pick pocket you swat it away. You decide to do a lap and see if your blonde and friend have arrived.” You check your watch. You run your hand from her ass up the curves of her abdomen. You’re not sure if you welcome company at this time. “You like?” he asks you. The girl/guy things are giving you “fuck me” eyes and while their gender is not clear.” You walk back to the bar and order your first of the night. She shakes her finger “no” but her smile lets you know it okay to continue. “I’ll find you a good one. and visions of “the blonde” naked were like piranhas gnawing on your brain. Maybe a Red Bull will help you “man up. All could have been avoided if you had only jerked off when the desire arose earlier in the day. You grab her ass like you own it. For some reason you always feel compelled to speak your broken Portuguese. You wonder if maybe it wouldn’t be such a bad thing if the blonde doesn’t show up.” you scream back. and you wonder if they could be transvestites. The guy seems genuinely pleased with himself.

You kiss this one on the cheek. the barely clothed “garotas de programma” putting their pussy on display. Throw you off balance a bit. Those far away eyes. There is something fundamentally perfect about being adored. The one that can keep a girl laughing when she has no clue what you’re saying. the skinny. too many girls… too little time.Does it matter? Then you remember staring into her eyes.COM “Eu Gusto” you tell her. She points to your eyes and tells you they’re beautiful. You are a fucking Star. the fucked up X heads. They’ll come. 224 . The Red Bull rush has begun. the Asian looking ones with sinister eyes. It was only yesterday you were busting through language barriers on basis of charm. Sex is all around you. Curious eyes are set upon you from all directions.The Best of TSBMAG. the one with the shaved head. What do you know? Another Bohemia has bit the dust. never do Disney vacations. yesterday at lunch. the beautiful. When you come out of the stall you wish you had given it an extra couple of shakes as you notice a nice wet spot near your crotch. A situation like this might normally unravel your nerves. Presenting your best self. tell her “it was a pleasure” and make your way through the crowd. Back to the bar. The self. that when the friend arrived unexpectedly. the fat. Fucking “gringos” in their Brasilia Soccer jerseys. never raise a family. But first a much need bathroom break. the sixteen year old debutants. The boom. Sit tight my friend. Yes. rolled with the punches… And won her over with impersonations of “stupid Americanos” holding your imaginary map. never have kids. pointing at buildings…works every time.boom shaking mulattas. You’re about to head back into that bathroom to dry off when you spot the blonde and her friend on the dance floor surrounded by guys. you think. Brasileras aren’t shy about pointing that sort of thing out. And if they don’t? You look around. It comes in all forms. the long swanky model types with heartbreaking cheek bones. Your swagger has returned. the black girls with huge hoop earrings commanding the dance floor…the punk rockers. But not now. They always do. you think. the crazy. foreshadowing all of the reasons that you’ll most likely never get married.

No way. And when the two of them. guards finally down.Social Superstar When you started to sense that the friend might be the type to be persuaded… you upped the ante…divvied up your attention…treated them equally special. ran their fingers through your hair and kept repeating “muito lindo” you saw the potential for something truly spectacular. Jose. No. 225 . You’re not willing to wave the white flag quite yet.

ordering the cleaning lady to bring a bottle of Scotch up to your room… Pronto! These sorts of things aren’t acceptable in Hotel Luzieros. You get the gist of it though. You slovenly escort the two girls outside. You get two kisses on the lips. a girl dangling from each arm. The girls could not be happier to see you. Just a few hours ago you were in the mist of the single biggest girl heist of your life. he is telling you. you think. But you blew any chance of that happening with your “American sense of entitlement” and incoherent attack on his character. One voice in your head says “Cut your losses.The Best of TSBMAG. The group is confused. Fortaleza’s most well known and luxurious hotel. Nights early.” A louder voice hails down a cab and says “To the cheapest motel. You take the blonde by the hand and immediately remove her 226 . kicking over a flower pot. Rapido! Por Favor” You would be damned to let the night go up in flames at this point. You’re drunk and go for tongue but both girls resist. Back at the club you had come out of the bathroom to spot your girls sandwiched in the middle of a group of Norwegians. The whole matter could have easily been resolved with a small bribe. Has your Super Americano Power waned? Have your girls been swept away with tales of a booming European economy… You decide to flex your muscles. They reluctantly do the shots… looking around to see who the mysterious stranger is that sent them. No one sent you the memo. You make your Great Gatsby entrance. You have the waitress deliver the shots to your girls and their new Norwegian friends. Apparently strolling in at 4am with a couple of barely legal Brasileras is frowned upon at this establishment. You signal over a cocktail waitress. You want to knock that smug look off his Portuguese face. You felt a little intimidated.there is always tomorrow. You rode in like a rock star. He points at the door. You order 8 shots of the Brazilian equivalent of Yagermeiser.COM Fortaleza ights Part 2 Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 12/02/2007 The night bellman at your hotel is talking loudly at you in a language you don’t understand.

As your cab gets closer you see that she is topless. You look back and feel bad leaving the brunette to the pack of Norwegian wolves. You smile and nod. Manny could probably tell you stories that would break your heart. Raquel. Jackpot! After an hour or two of dry humping the two Brasileras and taking turns kissing them you suggest the bounce. the blonde is twenty. and a girl who turned out to be sixteen. Emelia. Manny doesn’t blink an eye as you pass her. You casually ask the girls to see their documents. You think Manny likes you. Pick up some pieces… From the back seat Emelia lets out a squeal. Brazil is a strange place for sure. Down the road.Social Superstar from the group. Your “gringo sense of rhythm” is usually a game killer but tonight you’re Michael fucking Jackson. Rearrange some priorities. a couple machine guns. And if they don’t we chop you up and feed you to pigs” The girls are too busy to notice. Smile and nod. The long winding road that is Avenida Beira Mar travels the course of the night. You take turns grinding with each girl… you look on in disbelief as the girls grind sexually with each other. You’ll have some contemplating to do when you get home. …Toward dawn you are sitting in the front seat of a cab next to Manny the driver. Maybe even some life decisions to make. a lone hooker trots on heels. the brunette is eighteen. He could just as easily be saying “You parents will pay the ransom. But you aren’t certain. The girls drag you on the dance floor. one hand holding her skirt from riding too far up her ass. Their eyes light up. You signal for her to come over. Manny’s hand is on your knee and he is talking loudly and passionately in Portuguese. They get closer closer closer…They Kiss.from the opulent to the destitute. You reach your hand in the back and one of the girls begins 227 . He is asking you questions. In the back seat Raquel is disappearing inside Emelia’s dress. You flashback to an incident in Brazil two years prior involving a spotlight. You trust that Manny is actually taking you to a motel and not to a guerrilla hide out where you will be kidnapped and tortured. The coast is clear for takeoff. But you don’t want to think about these things right now. but can never be sure of these things. Outside the street is still tinkered with people. Make you run back to the States.

228 .COM sucking your fingers. These guys seemed to know what they were doing. It wasn’t until college. leaving you and the girls in front of the motel. Emelia gently slides your pants down to your ankles. Growing up you always thought the other guys knew some fundamental secret about girls that you didn’t. with the help of alcohol. Even as you began a long string of conquests you always had the feeling you were just learning what came naturally to others. They are giggling in a way that reminds you that this is exactly where they want to be. And when they quickly undress. When Manny pulls away. Their bodies are twisting and turning into one another. you were one of the good guys. you still had that underlying fear that you’ll be discovered as a fraud. You run your hands along the crest of their abdomens. you can only wonder what you did in a previous life to reap these fruits in this one. that you began to feel comfortable around them.The Best of TSBMAG. They both are both kissing your neck. You slide into them. Looking at the girls. you are reminded that this is exactly where you want to be. And even as it finally began to come naturally to you. All your doubts are alleviated when Raquel and Emelia fall onto the bed. Raquel is the first to signal you onto the bed. Sandwiched in between the two warm bodies. that is just about how you feel right now. Maybe you can be again… Just not tonight. you experience a moment of doubt. Yea… once upon a time.

she calls. I sit in it for a second. As I'm checking my email. There goes the quick getaway. what about tonight. I'm going to do everything in my power to convince myself I wasn’t intending to. I call Jake on the way home. Jillian. and totally inappropriate black hooker boots. An outfit I don't usually mind on girls who can pull it off. If I'm going to fuck this girl. Great.) I say. a skirt. She wants me to meet her at her apartment. because she tells me she’ll be right back. I get home and search my drawers for my least appealing outfit. about a year before Beth (love of my life till she broke my heart in a million pieces) came around. I sneer. This means we will be taking one car. you tell her you're going to take a piss. a girl I dated for a little over a year. I think back to waking up with a huge hangover. that way if it's a bomb. Plus she’ll expect less time from me on a week night. I ran into her about a week ago for the first time in years and gave her my number out of courtesy when she gave me hers. 229 . and she was no prize then. she is old pussy. I took her virginity for god sake. wants to know if I want to meet up for drinks one night this weekend. and you take off. and she comes back two minutes later in a different outfit. “Always take two cars. She's 25lbs away from pulling it off. I refuse to waste a Friday or Saturday on her. As much as I hated this girl when I was dating her. She always was an annoying drunk. So I had no intention of calling her. She's been at happy hour. Jake seems to think I'm going to fuck her.Social Superstar 10 Years After I Took Her Virginity Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 07/27/2007 I get the random phone call.” I park my car outside of her apartment. She must have caught it. she’s drunk. I smile because there is a part of me that kind of knows it's true. And everyone loves old pussy. and I realize that the day didn't exactly start out with promise. But I should have figured she would call me. I hear my buddy Phil saying. She answers the door dressed in a tight white shirt. So why should it end with promise. And she took mine (although I don't let too many people know that. She’s ten years older than she was when I dated her.

” I think. and a guy playing pool over hears her. I felt this was a perfect time to apologize for my blunder. She was an old college friend of a friend type girl. “This is New Jersey there are no outside cafes. And so she was kicked out of the club. “that is a problem.” She picks the Town Pub. I tell her. I recognized one of the girls. “Just pick a place and leave the fucking dog in the car. I get out of the bathroom and this bitch has a crowd of derelicts surrounding her. We get to the pub and this bitch won’t leave the thing in the car. This idiot puts this little puppy in her purse.” I say to get her attention. I tell her. I was behind her in line and she told him to verify her name with me.” She insists and I don't feel like arguing. There is this little dog that keeps jumping on my leg. Over the summer she was getting harassed by a bouncer who was claiming her ID was a fake. She tells me the puppy is too scared to stay home alone. have no outdoor places. isn't it?” She says we’ll go to a place outside. Nothing I care about anyway. “This is going to be a long night. I just for the life of me couldn’t remember her name. When the guy asked me. Plus one her friends had made eye contact with me while I was grabbing a drink at the bar on the way back from the bathroom. 230 . I have now been in the car with her for twenty minutes. well. She soon realizes that New Jersey. Luckily her name came back to me right then. because I don't know many people that go there. So I do the next best thing and guzzle gin and tonics. He’s a cop and is interested in her story. Instead of joining the fun I walked over to the pool table where three girls were about to start playing. because she's’ crazy.COM It is awkward in her apartment. which was good. At that precise minute she puts the dog into her purse and tells me she is taking it with us for drinks. Finally I say. Apparently her rambling has put it to sleep.The Best of TSBMAG. “Lauren. I keep nodding my head. Talking loudly and compulsively about nothing. I wish I could tape record this car ride to play to people to demonstrate the torture I was going through listening to this bitch. Amazingly the dog is being good. All egging this stupid cop story on. does in fact. I smile because. Unfortunately I don’t have that option. She is in the middle of some story about how she got pulled over for no good reason. and I have to pet it while she tells me how cute it is. I take this as my cue to excuse myself for a much needed piss break.

Jill stops in the middle of a sentence to point out that Lauren has been giving her dirty looks. She starts scurrying around. As Jill is talking to the girls. I paired with Ivana. She looks under the table. Her face is covered in blood. the puppy wakes up. and proceed to defend myself for ever having dated this idiot. She is absolutely 231 . I offer to buy the girls a round. I explain my ordeal. Something I never do. I'm standing by Lauren’s SUV. I walk back over to Ivana and see if there is any chance of getting her back to my house later. I figure Jill won’t mind. She has an accent. One of the girls grabs the dog and heads for the door. When she leaves. She is screaming that the girls stole her dog. Just then Jill comes barreling out the front door. I will go outside to see if the girls have it. I explain what a dog was doing in her purse. she is preoccupied with the derelicts anyway. I walk her away from the crowd. I call Ivana over to me. It starts freaking out. The three girls are in it with the puppy. I need another drink. I tell her. ‘I didn't see nothing look’. And apparently is scared of pubs. I should have never left because when I come back Jill is by the pool table telling the girls how we were each other's firsts. I just wanted to talk to Ivana some more.Social Superstar She’s a friendly girl and within minutes I'm the fourth player on a two on two pool game. I twirl my finger by my ear to signify she’s crazy. We are hitting it off nicely. Jill comes over to me and explains how Lauren just hates her for fucking her ex boyfriend. I feel queasy. Only she is crazy. I tell them they should probably give it back. Ivana and I say a nice goodbye. She is crying hysterically. She panics. We are all kind of making fun of my obnoxious friend and her and her obnoxious stories. and decide to take it. The cute one who was eying me. I tell Jill to go to the bathroom and cool down for a minute. When we walk back to pool table there is tension between Jill and Lauren. The two remaining girls decide it's a good time to flee. All the girls hover around the dog. They decide that Jill is unfit to raise this dog. Everyone in the place is staring at her like she's crazy. We exchange numbers. Meanwhile Jill has lost it completely. She's from Denmark or France or something. They feel my pain. And a bunch of other shit I could care less about. but I'm feeling sporty. She glances at the bag and realizes that there is no dog in there. The girls all laugh. Jill has made her way back to the booth near the pool table. She realizes that the girls are gone now too. We chat for a few. I give a. I promise to call.

He wants to know if they really have her dog. I push her off and start to walk away. I kind of pat her on the back. I got to get as far away from this psychopath as possible. And so begins another fine morning. I tell her I have work early. He takes it from the truck and hands it to Jill. Her lip is still bleeding pretty badly. I agree. I teach her how to ski and she picks it up quickly and soon she is beating me down the mountain. Finally the bouncer runs over and breaks it up. and tell her. We look over at the car where Jill has pulled Lauren out. My head hits the pillow and I wonder if this is really what my life has come to. Later in the night we make love in the outdoor hot tub with a couple watching. I ask the bouncer if he's going to break it up. They are both punching each other violently. “Not till a titty pops out.The Best of TSBMAG. Looking so cute as she keeps falling into the snow. but I have to go. When our half hour was up we just keep making love until someone from the front desk has to come in and tell us to leave. A bouncer calls me over and asks me what happened. Jill is crying and bleeding and hugging the dog. She's in the emergency room and just wants to tell me what a complete and utter selfish. She was bleeding when she came out of the pub. Her all bundled up. Maybe she ran into a wall in all the confusion.” he says. I shrug. That night I dream of Beth and being up in Killington with her. I ask her how it happened. before the fight. She gets blood on me. She runs over to the SUV and starts screaming at the girls. She doesn't remember. 232 . He then searches the truck for the dog. I can. I give her another little hug. give her a little hug. I really can be a dick. She says she can't believe I'm leaving. I suggest we leave. "it's been a fun night." She says it's really fucked up for me to just leave her like this.COM hysterical. We are outside Jill’s apartment and I'm trying to calm her down. waiting for us to use up the half hour we were allowed to be in there. heartless dick I am. I'm awakened from my dream the next morning with a phone call from Jill. feeling a little guilty for letting it happen.

“I'm telling you. “Bobby's old and kind of sleazy. getting ready for the onslaught of young new pussy that was awaiting us. we go to New York. An outdoor one.” I tell them. Like they're going. we all basically start blowing off the girls we were dating. “Maybe the house isn't as impressive as we think. Probably because we lived in such shit throughout college.Social Superstar My First Piece of MySpace Pussy Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 06/20/2007 We've always had delusions of grandeur in regards to the house we our renting. A common line.” Brian says. It would have been sweet. “We are wasting this house. Sort of like Field of Dreams. “I'm telling you. We were still without couches for our living room and we were hot tub shopping. so I'll fuck him anyway. But he's got a nice house. and his teeth are really yellow. Yep. Still have visions of girls sitting on our shoulders. my roommates and I have over glorified this house. We also always imagined that because we had the house now. guarantee we'd be more appreciated there. girls would just naturally come. naked chicken fighting. We should have it packed right now with girls flipping coins seeing who gets to fuck us next.” Jale again. So we were naturally perplexed when a couple weeks had gone by and none of us were yet to christen our new place with a new girl.” I'm blunt but.” Jake proclaims “Shut up with that. “What the fuck is it?” Brian is asking us after a third Friday in a row sitting on floor in the living room drunk watching Napoleon Dynamite at 3 in the morning. Without women. and shit like that. 233 . I'm in no mood for excuses.” The first month we have the house. Young new pussy is what this house is all about. it's the bars we go to. “Did she see the house?” or “What did she say when she walked in?” Like because we had a house (only slightly nicer than a frat house mind you) girls were going to just fuck us.

” “I'm going to out you on the internet. I try to defend myself. “Bobby Rio having trouble getting laid?” They laugh. Take a quick piss and decided I was getting laid tonight.” Jake says. My first thought was to call Tammy and break the rule a little bit. stop. Of course there was the slight crick in the plan being that it's a completely dead Monday bar night and we don't have any leads to work with from the weekend. I announce my dilemma to my roommates as we were all preparing for work. On one hand she is an old standby. Don't crush my dreams daddy. boys?” That Monday I woke up in the morning. The one thing that keeps me single. “I don't know man. I got pretty excited imagining what she was going to look like. In this house.” Brian threatens me with what he knows it my worst fear. do your magic.I am just fucking horny and have to be realistic. “Get on the phone.COM “Don't do it. I lie in bed. Crack heads and gay men. Recollect on the weekend. No. the pleasure of not knowing what the next girl you'll fuck looks like.” Jake with hands over ears.The Best of TSBMAG. it would be a completely new chick. now clearly enjoying the opportunity to rip. Without calling one of my old stand bys. You know what grown men share a house at thirty? Crack heads. “I don't see condom wrappers in either of your trash cans. Without paying. Having a reputation to live up to can be a pain in the fucking ass sometimes. We're almost thirty. 234 .” “You're crushing it. Are we the neighborhood homos. Tell everyone about your 2 week long drought. and I swore Id fuck something new tonight. “You might be on to something I finally admit. “Give it time.” Me still optimistic. But on the other hand. Apparently they see the irony.” Jake says.

I figured I just start humming one of her favorite songs. I call out of work. “I think I saw her hanging out in front of 7-11 the other night. “You joke now. “Yea. I also quickly found that my off beat sense of humor didn't translate well in emails. and it is full of people cashing in their food stamps. you'll both be thanking Bobby. “That's it. I always hear stories of successful book store pickups. but I have a vague recollection of a past conversation that didn't go so well. but it is the first Monday of the month. and know it is a weak comeback. I headed home to regroup.” “Work you're magic.” Jake inputs. I hang out in Shop Right for a bit. Although I was fairly confident I could have taken home this Mexican women that kept giving me the eye. What time is it again. I looked at it like I was acquiring ammunition in case I ever ran into one of these girls in a bar. I am sitting on my computer. I await the abuse. maybe casually mention how much I love Lost or whatever other stupid show she has 235 . I had put a profile up a month or two ago. And I'm getting you two pricks laid too. But tomorrow morning. if she could stay out past her curfew.” I am saying this wondering how the hell I am going to deal with them tomorrow morning when we all wake up alone. she had two bratty kids that would have posed a problem in closing the deal quickly. I'm getting laid tonight. As the details of conversation become less blurry I decide I better get the hell out of there before she recognizes me.” I say this. These two dicks. I head to Barnes and Noble. I try to think where I can go on a Monday morning to meet some women. Not much talent here this morning though. but still kind of considered it creepy to be contacting girls online. There is a cute girl behind the counter serving coffee. I still managed to waste hours browsing profiles. browsing profiles on MySpace. Bobby.Social Superstar “I could be fucking Tammy any day this week plenty of other girls too. on school nights?” Brian says. I could bring Keira Knightly home and fuck her on the kitchen table and they still wouldn't be impressed.

I very rarely got messages on MySpace. if I'd have to do a newspaper singles ad it word read something like this. I am currently taking applications for Wednesday nights. Adorable face. And write me a brief essay on why you deserve to be Bobby's Miss Wednesday Night. A tad larger than I would prefer. I am the mother fucking man. She'll do. I enlarge them and get set to analyze. but in that sloppy goodness sort of way. I have posted the email in its entirety. and I'd be golden. A lovely word. She is only eighteen. not in fact. I mean it would be fate. spontaneous. and heroes. hung like a -use your imagination. what if she is smart enough to be displaying sarcasm. "Pick me!" And so we have a winner. I read the email. that smart.COM listed under TV. Slightly chubby. I start believing the hype.women. shed have to fuck me right? Fate. For a moment I feel special. But as I'm looking at her picture my dick is getting hard so it's settled. Who I'd like to meet: Adventurous. I am the man. 236 . I'm sure you're reading this and wondering. Brazilian or Asian. I think as my home screen reads new messages. and decide that she is. No clear body shots. Blonde. open minded women. Or better yet. I read her interests. might explain it. how can I be one of those lucky ladies? Well it's your special day. contact me and I'll show you. I click on her profile page to check her out more. a plus! I did not receive many applications. About me: Well. Only three. So send at least four pictures. View more pictures. An exposed left arm kind of scares me. Perfect. My about me and who I'd like to meet. Two of the pictures have to be body shots. So I am a bit surprised when I see that it's a girl called "Everything I thought you know" that has messaged me. I have posted it in its entirety. I am sad to report. Single white. Picture Tara Reid twenty five pounds heavier. about me. I go back to her profile page.The Best of TSBMAG. Then the thought hits me. My spare time consists of trying to find ways to sneak strange women out of my room before they realize that I don't know their name. male. Now. I wrote her back. Or how I met them.

It was an extremely long conversation. and she will have to bring someone else. everything will be explained later. what she's doing tonight Her looking at my roommates MySpace profiles Her telling me how hot they are Us making plans for tonight Now. a deck of cards. She tells me that these two girls are the only ones that would be willing to come tonight. Instead I will break it down into subjects. Now I've heard of online success stories. They are both very happy. 237 . food (so that fat one doesn't drag them out to McDonalds before things get going) condoms. and in an effort to save space. If you would seriously like to be considered for the role. I'm actually trying to get him to write a book on the subject. He pulls 3 or 4 girls a week off MySpace and Match. The beauty of eighteen year olds is that they are extremely easy to impress. IM me at Bobbyrio03 on AOL. I'd say half the time he fucks them the first night. Me telling her that one of her friends was too fat for my roommates. Boring small talk More boring small talk How hot I am What kind of piercing she has What kind of tattoos she has What she's doing tonight Does she have 2 friends Are they hot Me looking at friends MySpace profiles Again. Until now. I just never had a need to bother with it. I have a friend Michael that cleans up online. if you're thinking that sounded too easy. laughing inside at the thought of which of roommates would wind up with the fat one. We will need: Beer. and that's about it. If I hear from you we'll take it further. When my roommates get home I tell them the news.Social Superstar I will be at my computer for the next three hours. music. A bit of information I skipped over in the subject matter. Exactly three hours later she contacts me. We plan the night. I leave out the small detail above. I will not post it in its entirety. So I know it is possible. I hesitantly agree.

The horses are keeping up. Below is straight out of Bobby Rios playbook for banging girls under twenty. It must be done exactly in this order. The horses love us immediately. thinking about which one of my roommates will fuck her tonight. The doors are locked. No one will ever know about this. I assume the role of gracious host. My roommates look at me in shock.The Best of TSBMAG. one bigger than the next. There is nothing gratifying about winning the affection of a horse. They stampede in. There is Katie (horse). gothic horse is downright repulsive. Around 10PM we decide it is time to take this to the next level. we swear to each other while the horses take a piss together. We learn a whole bunch of irrelevant information about these girls. And the drinking begins. Only my girl will not release it. That's what you fucks get for not respecting my authority. I shrug. We turn our cell phones off. Never have I ever Begin sexual talk 238 . the lights are dimmed. She tells me it's cold. I decide the jacket should stay on until I put a few beers down. And Kristen (shit smeller). There is an instant decision to be made. The three of us are communicating solely with eye glances. The speed at which we are putting beers down at 8:45 on a Monday is frightening. Take notes! Casual drinking Speed up the drinking with flip cup Pair off and speed up drinking even more with beer pong When sufficiently drunk suggest the game. While my horse is no prize. We seem like great guys. And so it's on. We do the introductions. We pretend to be interested. ha ha ha ha. The message has been sent. There is Aimee (gothic horse). I take their jackets.COM 8:30 PM The piggies arrive. They are fat. We will fuck them anyway. We are all sitting at the dining room table. We continually check the blinds to make sure no one can see in. We are all thoroughly disappointed. I am breaking a pact that we made that night. By 9:30 we've become restless. I cringe. I once again laugh. I know what that jacket hides. No one will ever know until I tell the world about it boys. It will not be pretty later.

She looks perplexed. “Show me your room. There is no thrill of victory with fat girls. He wins the argument. I throw a pair of boxers at her to clean up with. “You have an amazing smile. We wonder if she is going to swallow him. We pair off. I shrug and mumble something about drinking too much. In the morning we hurry the horses out. Instead I continually point out to him how her nostrils are snared. yea. “You have amazing eyes. I tell her how sexy she is. We both win the battle as we watch Brian make out of with Gothic Horse. I fuck the shit out of her. He continually reminds me that my horse hasn't seen her hooves since the third grade. I do her doggy. lick my dick like it's an ice cream cone. Then I blow my load all over her big fat titties. I am alone in the kitchen with horse now. He seems happy. 239 . But trust me. or that many beers. Jake is with shit smeller. it works on real girls too. Oh. And I had my first of many MySpace escapades. Kids. I eat her pussy. and I roll over and go to sleep. I am a little jealous. We kiss. I brush the hair out of her eyes.” I tell her. she has cuteness to her. I don't admit this. It is all just practice for the big game.” she whispers. the skinniest of the crew. Her hand makes its way down my pants.Social Superstar Top the night off with Truth or Dare Get Laid Yes. I hope you never have to do what I am about to do.” she tells me. we rationalize. And so the house finally got us laid. The kiss is oddly passionate. I let this fat pig ride me. We sit and brag about the poundings we gave them. it is much easier to do the smooth transition with girls over a buck fifty. In this light. I mean if you're going to do it you may as well enjoy it.

12:50 pm I decide that I do not want to spend my Memorial Day weekend with the kind of people who drink alone at the town pub.The Best of TSBMAG. He is approximately the 600th old man in a bar who tells me not to get married. But you only got her number last night Bobby. buddy. I can hear the people out there saying. I tell him he should give it to 240 . Yes. 1:15 pm I call Phil. I hang up the phone and smile. never show even the slightest sign of interest with old people. She knew it was me. I am afraid that these old men have subliminally installed that in my brain. I make a friend with a guy next to me. but if you wait six days to call a girl after you get her number chances are she forgot you. He tells me he thinks one of the hookers out there gave him the clap. Now he wants to tell stories. He is almost 70. I contemplate putting in a few hours at the office. 12:51 pm Gloria answers. He is finally back from Vegas. They will take it as an opportunity to spend the next two hours spilling their guts about a life gone by. Apparently there are other people who use Memorial Day weekend as a way to justify drinking in the afternoon. I wonder how she is going to be in bed later. I throw a pair of jeans on and head to The Saloon for a beer. I quickly scratch that idea. Here is some advice. The truth is when you get good at this shit you start writing your own rules. I call Gloria. We chat for a few minutes. Don't call so soon.COM Return of a Pick-Up Artist (Part 2) Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 01/09/2008 11:45 am The day began with a Powerbar. An indicator that she already put my number in her phone. These people have watched Swingers too many times. It is a great movie. 12:30 pm I am not the only one in the bar. water and a cool shower. vitamins.

Here is another hint. Who knows. friends. Maybe even thirty. I test her out and see if I can elevate it even further. Gloria is taking the ride with me up to Warren to help me assess Phil's uncle's land. For your first date with a girl don’t go the standard coffee. I get directions for some land up in Warren County that he wants me to do an appraisal on. It's sexy though. family. I did not fret. dinner. you’ll have to be a little more creative. The older the girls the more willing she is too elevate the conversation. maybe even fuck her in the woods. the first guy she kissed. But she is actually even hotter than I imagined. if I blew my load this early the rest of the day would be a waste. pop culture gossip and just when the conversation hits a lull I throw out things like: coworkers who fuck. Each time I test her she bites and brings the conversation even racier. Younger girls tend to be more naive when it comes to talking about this kind of 241 . She's got to be in her late twenties. She has been on that date a hundred times with a hundred guys. Unfortunately we were about a minute from the land. Then I steer it back to neutral topics: work. if you want to fuck her the first night. 2:30 pm I pick up Gloria. She's got long wavy brown hair. I had put quite a few down at Bob's party and was a little scared I might get a surprise when she answered the door.Social Superstar Penelope. Tell her you brought her a gift back. Here is a hint. I started seeing this conversation going in a very good direction. Just kind of has that natural no make-up kind of beauty. Every time I bring it back to R. drinks route. Every time I guide the conversation to edgier topics she bites right away. when we lost our virginity. what celebrities we'd like to screw and just when I sense the conversation has gotten too racy I bring it back to PG. There is a slight hint of age twinkling in her eyes. No. Soon she is describing the first time she gave a guy road head. 3:35 pm I have been doing a good job juggling the conversation between PG and R. unless she's a complete slut. 3:00 pm I have been in the car with her for thirty minutes and I have to say it's been a pretty pleasant experience. She had a little bit of the hippy chick thing going on and I thought this would be a good way to get her juices flowing.

I start snapping some pictures of them. but ultimately decided against it. I grabbed her hand and we walked around for awhile. actually. although this is only to make this trip seem a little more important. This early in the day I was not going to take that chance. 4:00 pm Phil's uncle's land is pretty barren. She suggests that we check out the inside of the barn/house. Caveman type shit. suggesting something like that could freak a girl out if the rapport isn’t as strong as you imagined. I told her to pose. I was not shy about touching her but now the touching was turning flirty. Boards are over a door. The older ones eat this shit up. There will be a time for that later. I pulled out the camera. That way all these boring pictures of barren land will have something interesting to look at. They are just as horny as you are.com photo shoot. It took a few times and knocked quite a bit of wind out of me. 242 . I contemplated going for a naturalgirls. I walk around taking pictures. but we got in that house/barn. Displaying raw power. “Oh look how cute and professional you look. All the signs of an adventurous afternoon were there. I wonder if there is an abandoned bed in there. Rising higher lower.The Best of TSBMAG. Like I'm a real professional under my bad boy exterior. She sees through my bullshit and calls me out again. So instead of giving up when I saw the bars over the door. and have very little tolerance for banal talk. The Kino has begun. Some girls just get so damn turned on by nature. The look in Gloria's eyes when we see the sheep let me know that the juices are officially flowing. There is a tiny lake. I jot things down. Hands were getting left places longer. I had her posing all over the place in all kinds of positions. but she said it with the slightest hint of sarcasm. All day hands were always brushing against each other.” Which was actually the look I was going for. Use random opportunities like this to display some alpha male characteristics. I don't mean be a meathead. Fully clothed unfortunately. I made it a point to bust the fucking door in. you just have to do those certain things women like to see men do. I put my clip board down. There was a bed but it was decrepit looking and I'd have preferred the floor. Here is a hint.COM stuff. There are only a handful of trees scattered around. There is a small abandoned barn looking house. 4:15 pm A pack of wild sheep stroll in from the field in the back of the property. As cool as she seems.

She has gone googly eyed on me. I am genuinely enjoying 243 . 4:45 pm We are in the car on our way home. she's not going to sleep with you tonight because she likes you or because you won't respect her in the morning. We finally pushed the door open basically falling into it. I probably wouldn’t have. I ask her if she doesn’t like my hair. She kept getting closer and closer to me until I could feel the warmth from under her jeans. Ignore it. But she would like to cut my hair. as planned. Don't respond with anything. There is less talking then on the way up. I ask her if she left because of the birds. She runs her hand through my hair. She tells me I should let her cut my hair. She left because if the birds hadn’t of come she was about to do something I probably wouldn’t respect her for tomorrow. She is looking at me hard. She grabbed a hold of me. If the rapport is good enough you can enjoy the silence together. when a girl throws out a comment like. The silence is not uncomfortable. I got behind her and guided her toward the door. It was definitely a buzz kill. Let them rid themselves of the guilt. She's right. I joked with her saying that someone was behind the door waiting for us. Then she laughs and says. but don't make the mistake of joining in the conversation because it won't lead anywhere good. Normally this look scares me. I don’t say anything though. She says sort of. Give her time to think about how cool you are and a whole bunch of other reasons to justify fucking you later. She gives thumbs down. She quickly pulled me out of the room and out of the barn. but she just has this confidence about her. I kept nudging her toward the room chatting her up about the crazy ax man behind the door. A lot of times girls are just saying this shit to make themselves feel better about what they are about to do. just kidding. Once you are at this stage use any excuse you can to get her touching you. To our surprise though three hawklike birds came flying at our heads. Don't always feel the need to keep the conversation going. Oh well. 5:30 pm We grab a quick bite to eat at a small Italian cafe near her house. I have a fucking fear of birds. What can I tell you? Luckily she was even more freaked. Another hint. My racing heart and freaked out gestures definitely subtracted from some of that alpha male I had displayed earlier. such a sexy at ease way. Our hands are in the middle of the table intertwined.Social Superstar I saw a room in the back that I decided would be the room. that I found myself a little flattered by the adulation.

and don't adjust. I mean how am I supposed to act if she really fucks it up? My attention is quickly diverted from my haircut to the mirror where I watch as all of her attention is focused on my head. I ask her if she gets turned on by the toe polish scene in Bull Durham. Finally her fingers start running through my hair.COM her company. No joke. I tell her I have a foot fetish. I look up and she is soaping up her hands. She is sexually massaging my scalp. I wonder if I should try to hide this fact or leave it out in the open and see if she catches it. I came from that scalp massage. and is basically manager of the place. Yes. but it did make me pitch a tent with my smock as I got up to walk over the other chair for the haircut. when I was a little kid I used to get so turned on when the shampoo girls breast would brush against me during the wash that I couldn’t resist the idea of sitting in a chair watching her in the mirror. 6:15 pm I am sitting in a chair at her salon. I wonder if it will make things awkward if I hate my hair cut. In the car ride I bring the conversation back into R territory. Bobby is all around pleased with this one and gives her the Bobby Rio seal of approval. I have towel choked around my neck and a restricting smock on. Now Gloria's massage was not going to make me cum. I can't tell if she realized I was kidding. She leans my head back into the sink and I wince when my neck touches the cold stone of the sink. But the bait worked and she telling me about a scene in another movie that turned her on. She runs water over my head. She keeps touching the water and asking me if it's warm enough. Just thought I'd throw that in there so that you don’t think the only thing on my mind is sex. She asks me if I want a pedicure at the salon. 5:50 pm We are in the car on the way to her salon for a haircut. so no one will mind. I decide fuck it. While I'm perfectly happy with my present haircut. This is not as sexual as I imagined it would be. This rates up there with a scalp massage I got from a pro in a termas in Rio a few years back. I am aroused. I appreciate the enthusiasm in which she is doing 244 . The place is closed but she has a key. I want to open my eyes and look up at her. I watch hair falling off my head.The Best of TSBMAG. She leaned into me and a titty brushed against me. 6:17 pm The hair cut has begun.

say it with all the confidence you can muster up. The unbuckling begins. We stare at each other for a second. I sense that she has come from the oral. One good compliment can melt away any defense she might have still had up. If you are uncomfortable reading about my sexual exploits you probably shouldn’t continue. Make her feel like the luckiest girl in the world to hear it. She can't pause for a minute. In the back room there is a recliner chair where they do waxing and stuff. I lay her down on the chair. As soon as I say this she drops the scissors. She says we can't do it here.Social Superstar her job. people can see in. My hands are running up and down her legs. I tell her and really mean it. she suggests we go into the back room. My mouth goes down to her belly button area. I get on top of her and am kind of grinding into her. I tease with crotch rubs. I have no fucking clue what time it is pm I stand up and push Gloria down into the chair. as they are fond memories. I smell her neck for a second and then turn her face toward me and start kissing her. Just enough muff to keep with the natural girl image. No panties!!!! God I love hippie girls. 6:19 pm You are so fucking sexy. Which makes me wonder if I should tip her when she's done? I decide she will get a tip. She goes down on me and I am enjoying it way too much. I spin myself around on the chair so that I'm facing her midsection. At this point I am about to indulge myself in the details. We are making out hard. Another hint: That was only the second time I complimented her all 245 . I watch her wiggle out of them. She is extremely turned on. My mouth goes back in forth from her mouth to her neck. So I eat. I pull her head up and tell her again how fucking sexy she is. She turns me over and is practically ripping my jeans off of me. I am extremely turned on. I help her with her pants. Just when I think I'm going to have to overcome another obstacle. but trimmed up enough to still look edible. I do the lean back please me lean and await my reward. When you say something like that to a girl. She goes crazy. and then I pull her towards me. And then the whole thing. She pulls me into her. She's got the trademark hippie girl patch.

cuddle like you're really into (it helps when you are) and be fucking silent.The Best of TSBMAG. There is a glorious finale with an extremely satisfying cum. Lay there. But we'll see… 246 . If in a week you decide you're not into them it is easier to start blowing them off. Trust me words are not necessary. This is truly some of the best sex I've had in awhile. put your arm around. 8:30 pm I drop Gloria off.COM night. I am inside of her now. We are both breathless. Hint: Guys even if she's the fuck off the century don't get all gushy telling her how good it was or how much you like her. But you really have to wait to see where you want to go with this before you start getting so close. I know some guys would have asked her to spend the night. As much as I am into Gloria she's a little old for daddy and probably won't make the cut. I wiggle my boxer briefs from around my ankles stand up and push her down on the chair. Use compliments sparingly so that when you finally give them they will be regarded higher. I easily could have spent the rest of the night with her. I was really enjoying the time with her.

When she didn’t return. willing to fuck anything. We jokingly sandwiched her and danced a little. The thought of hot young drunk college girls was enough to persuade me and my friend Jake to blow off work the next day and head out on a Tuesday night to relive some former glory. She excused herself to go to the bathroom. I found her upstairs making out with one of the younger frat brothers.. At this point there wasn’t anybody downstairs so I just plopped on the couch and waited for Jake so we could leave. and whispered to each other that “if all else fails we take her upstairs and tag team her..Social Superstar Snowballed Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 01/21/2008 I was in the worst drought of my life at the time. I mean licking my chops. The party was less than spectacular. I did the walk of shame back downstairs. Unfortunately my game was pretty bad at this point and I just kept talking about nonsense and wound up boring her to death. I stalked her out like the hungry wolf that I was. My skills and confidence were at an all time low. What was left of my confidence was officially shattered. Still in a bit of a depression I proceeded to drink myself silly.hungry. As the night started to wind down I got hungry.” A few minutes later I noticed a chick that was cute (in relation to the other pigs at the party) and I went over and started conversing with her. At one point we were standing together sipping keg beer from our red cups when this sloppy fat chick starts trying to dance with us. 247 . In my drunken state I assumed we hit it off pretty well. Although I tried to stay away from frat houses as I was trying to “make it in the real world” the offer was just too tempting. and had just been dumped by the girl I thought I was going to marry. I waited for her about ten minutes. The mixer was with a subpar sorority and the talent pool was slim. I was fresh out of college. Jake was in no better shape than me. But worst of all… I just fucking need to blow a load!!! Some of my old college buddies were having a little get together at their house and invited me.

I was just with her behind the shed outside. 248 . swallowed and everything” Jake tells me. I am not going to lie and say she had any redeeming qualities. She had breath that made me want to puke. Told her she was sexy. But I started dry heaving uncontrollably. She didn’t. I figured all my dignity was gone. These girls happened to be from my ex girlfriends sorority. I don’t know if it was the 12 red cups of Bud Ice.The Best of TSBMAG. As luck would have it… the door opens again and a handful of girls walk into the house. 6 years later Jake is still asking me how his babies taste. and finally went outside and pulled the trigger… blowing junks all over the front porch. or the realization that I just made out with a piglet three minutes after she swallowed my buddies cum…. And a minute later I was lying on a dirty couch making out with her. Once they left. I may as well finish the deal. They looked at me in shock when they saw me lying on the couch with the piglet.COM A couple minutes later the fat girl from earlier walks in the front door. I told the piglet I would be right back and headed out to my car to grab a condom. “Yo. I’ve got the fat girl inside half naked and ready to fuck” I tell him. “If you’re still down we can do her porn style” “Dude. They were kind enough to head upstairs without making conversation with me. I immediately got her on the couch. As I was walking outside Jake was walking back in the house. She gave me a killer blowjob. Stroked her hair. I just put my head down in shame. I looked at this as a gift from god. But I kept kissing her and slowly slipping my hand down her pants. the fact I got caught on the couch with a fatty by my ex girlfriend’s whole sorority.

and my performance was less than stellar.” This only made her want me more. Chris gave me a look.” The restaurant was a close knit group and I had a reputation to uphold… I figured I could get Stoute out of the room for a good hour while I gave Tammy the pounding she craved. Against my better judgment I scanned my phone for some tail to call. The previous attempt at fucking Tammy’s ridiculously tight pussy left me with no alternative than to secure an insurance policy for the next time. Not fall down humiliate yourself drunk. Mike and I were sharing a room on the same floor as the groom’s family.. I had fucked her once before. I actually came before I got inside her… I caught my load in my hand and then pushed her off me and told her it was “too soon. It was a little surprising because our friend Chris had basically been “born again” after dating a very Christian girl for the last couple years. as Chris wanted us in close proximity to prevent any debauchery that would have had us over sleep the morning nuptials. I stopped at Tammy. where I slowly got drunk enough to realize I was wasting a perfectly good hotel room.. Tammy was a hostess at a restaurant where I was bar tending at the time. A handful of us met at the hotel lobby bar. but I was too 249 . The rehearsal after party ended pretty early which left a lot of time to kill at the hotel we were all staying at.Social Superstar Hotel Room High Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 01/27/2008 Somehow me and Mike Stoute were asked to be groomsmen in a college buddy of ours wedding. we didn’t see much of Chris anymore. Nevertheless. we wound up in his wedding party… The night before the wedding we all got pretty drunk after the rehearsals. Since Mike and I didn’t exactly conform to the couple’s moral standards. The insurance policy came in the form of a pill of Viagra I scored off a friend for “extra measure. Tammy was an eighteen year old senior in high school…. and we're not talking about the sweet innocent type. Mike and I were sitting in the lobby when Tammy arrived. She was dressed high school whorish as usual… and got quite a few stares from the families of the bride and groom. just drunk enough to make some bad decisions.

I just sat there waiting for Mike to leave so that I could get my grubby hands on Tammy. and pretend we don’t smell anything. The hotel manager opens the door. so Mike could roll a “cigar” that he and Tammy could smoke. The men are not amused. If you’ve listened to Mike’s incessant coughing during our podcasts you could probably tell that he is quite fond of the green stuff. Mike spots a dime bag on night table. It is our friend Chris. Then as the manager starts looking around the room. but the bald security guard catches him. He is reprimanding us sternly. But now the bald guy is pissed. and I just shrug our shoulders. Mike puts the bag in his right hand. they would have let us go. The three of us just froze. the three of us decided to go up to the room. Just as the two of them were finishing their second “cigar” there was a pounding knock on the door. After getting the evil eye from just about everyone in the lobby. The bald guy darts after him. I let them knock another minute. The bald guy pushed the door open. there is another knock on the door. He is a corrections officer. so when the two of them got together the entire room was a giant cloud. Mike. Just as he gets finished telling us how big scumbags we are. Then switches the bag and shows them his other hand. while the three of just stared at each other in disbelief. Tammy was just as big a fan. They both looked at me to answer it as I was apparently the most sober. They demand to see what's in Mike’s hand.The Best of TSBMAG. The next thing I know Mike is barreling past them headed towards the bathroom.COM drunk to give a shit at that point. They demand to see both hands. 250 . Finally I slightly opened the door and peaked out. The bald guy takes the bag and demands for all three of to sit on the bed. Tammy. The room is a cloud of smoke and the hotel manager starts harassing us about the smell. and the two of them entered the room. Mike makes a running dive toward the toilet. They tell us that if he hadn’t been a wise ass. He casually tries to grab it without them seeing. The hotel manager calls down to the front desk and tells them to secure a police officer. but the bald guy tackles him just as Mike reaches his hand out to flush the bag. sniff around. Mike starts pleading with them to not call the cops. The manager explains the situation and tells him to leave. and shows them his left. Chris. I peeked through the little hole and saw a man in a suit standing next to a bald security guard.

At that precise moment the bald guy pulls my pill of Viagra out of a pill case in my duffel bag. Twenty five minutes later Tammy’s mom and dad show up. He tells us “You’re friend may have just saved your ass. shuts the door and comes back inside. The hotel manager wants to know why a 26 year old has a high school girl in a hotel room that is filled with booze and other goodies. The manager tells Chris to leave for a minute. The manager tells us he’s not going to ruin our friend’s wedding just because we’ve decided to be fuck ups. I have no answer for either one of them.Social Superstar seeing visions of two missing groomsmen and in no mood to explain what jerk offs his friends are to his fiancé. The hotel manager looks at me like I’m the scum of the earth. He asks “Whose duffel bag is this?” I raise my hand.” Even the bald guy is little 251 .” But he wants our names and some identification. he’s going to leave the police out of this. We pass various members of Chris’s family on our long walk to the elevator.” His solution is to call Tammy’s parents and have them come to the hotel to pick her up. as Tammy and I get escorted through the halls by the manager and the security guard. I apologize and promise that I will never ever see Tammy again. He then tells the bald guy to search the room to make sure we don’t have anything else in the room. The only identification Tammy has on her is her high school ID. The hotel manager tells them the whole story with all the gory details. Mike and I hand him are licenses. begs the hotel manager to not call the cops. Tammy’s mom is grabbing her ear and calling her a “little tramp. Lucky Mike gets to stay in the room. He holds the little blue pill in the air and wants to know who has a prescription for an erectile dysfunction medication. But he then says “I can’t leave this girl in the room with you two in good conscious. “And I want you to be there with me when they arrive” he says to me. The bald guy has to hold Tammy’s dad back from striking me. None of us say anything. The bald guy wants to know why a 26 year old guy is carrying around a pill of Viagra. We finally get down stairs where the four of us sit in the lobby waiting for Tammy’s parents to arrive.

252 . The wedding goes smoothly the next day. Everyone in the room officially agrees that I am the scum of the earth. 1st text from co-worker Trish “Old man need Viagra?” 2nd text from co-worker Kelly “Tell me she’s lying Bobby?” 3rd text from co-worker Jackie “Your dick only works for me daddy?” I turn my phone off. I am engaged in a great conversation with one of the bridesmaid. My cell phone goes off with three texts in a row. I sleep soundly that night. I am having a blast. It will not be pretty walking into work on Monday.The Best of TSBMAG.COM uncomfortable with the whole situation. a hot cousin from Texas.

It's hard to believe that it's been 10 years for me. Tracy is too drunk to notice. The Early Years: Experimenting with Speed Seduction 1998 Buff is in the bedroom with Suzanne. “And as that cord glows with the warm of that connection… maybe you can even imagine a time in the future…” I’m lipping along with him. I’m waiting for Suzanne to burst out laughing. I know what he’s going to say next. She flips over a card and tells me I have to drink. I’ve got the nervous giggles. I sip my beer. Here are my adventures.Social Superstar The Early Days Experimenting with Speed Seduction Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 03/12/2008 I’ve wanted to write in detail about some of my experiences in the community for awhile now. I hope you find them informative and entertaining. So I’ve decided to start a new series about the early years. Amazingly when I sat down to write it all came back to me crystal clear. Buff continues on… “…like six months from now… still feeling that sense of connection… and looking back at tonight as having been the start of it.” 253 . I want to repeat it along with him. I know its coming. At that very moment I know Buff is motioning with his hand from his solar plex to hers. “Have you ever felt an instantaneous connection to someone? Like maybe as you’re sitting there looking at him… a cord of light grows from you to them” Buff’s voice is radiating from the bedroom. These were the craziest times because it was all so new and life transforming.

She turns to kiss me. He is on his third date this week. “A little. already drunk. comes over to Mike and I to say hello. It is filled with “weasel phrases” and “embedded commands. “I love him. “Yea… yea” I say. but I lean back and wave. He’s such a sweet guy.” I tell him. It doesn’t matter.The Best of TSBMAG. We are talking and laughing and smiling but we’re not saying much of anything.” “Do I look hungry?” Mike asks. 254 .COM My giggling causes beer to shoot out of my nose. At least not much of anything that makes sense. Mike smiles at me.” Mike busts into laughter. I pat the index card in my pocket. Mike and I are drinking Bud Lights and discussing the past couple of weeks. The Instantaneous Connection Pattern A few weeks later we are at Fatsos. Her face drops. Ross Jeffries says “Those who look hungry never get fed. Its college night and half of Montclair State is there. Buff is notoriously missing. “Is he coming by after work?” she asks. All that matters is that we don’t look hungry. “Pretend I just said something funny.” she says. Ross Jeffries says “A kiss on the cheek is supplication.” Suzanne. She kisses Mike on the cheek. “Are you alright?” Tracy asks me. “So where’s Buff?” “I think he’s working” I tell her.” Straight to the point she says.

I pour the rest of my beer in the pisser. “So I was just talking to Suzanne… and she kept repeating Buff’s name to herself over and over again. “Okay” Suzanne says then walks away. 255 .” I say.” I tell her. then blushes. looks me dead in the eyes. Instead I say.” “What?” Angela asks. who has a cult like following of guys all claiming that he can seduce any women in a matter of minutes. I head to the bathroom to regroup. and says.Social Superstar “Not sure. He pulls me aside and says. The card reads “Use quotes” I walk out of the bathroom and bump into Angela from Sigma Kappa. In the back of the magazine I stumbled across an article by Peter Alson about this ugly middle aged guy named Ross Jeffries. But if it wasn’t for a tad of constipation I would probably not have made it past the pictures in the issue of Playboy I was browsing through. Just then Mike interrupts us.” I smile.” he says. “Yea… It really took me back…I didn’t even know what to say. “Really?” Angela asks. “The girl walks right up to. I pull out my index card and review the notes. “You wouldn’t believe what this girl just came up and said to me. “It was actually kind of scary. A clear head beats a beer buzz for confidence. A life defining moment on the bowl You never imagine that your life is going to change while taking a shit. ‘Imagine…me going down on you… all night long’” I say this staring directly into Angela’s eyes. “Sweet Caroline” is blasting through the speakers and she’s trying to get me to dance with her.

256 . I was immediately sold.COM Alson weaves tales of lowly computer nerds scoring blowjobs from aspiring models and playboy bunnies in coffee shop bathrooms. Super Guru Pickup God Ross Jeffries has defied nature and figured out the secret to the universe.The Best of TSBMAG.

” I say. my five o’clock shadow. my other hand is wrapped around the back of her neck. The seat belt has me trapped and our mouths don’t reach each others. tongues thrashing together. “No… why?” 257 .” is how she described me to her friend. Deanna puts something soft and damp into my hands.Social Superstar The Falling in Love Pattern Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 03/12/2008 “I don’t even know you. I’m free now and our mouths are locked. Another time I called a radio station every hour on the hour until I won tickets to a Tom Petty concert. She climbs on top of me. I look to down and see that it’s a pair of her turquoise colored panties. Sometimes foolish men attribute their success to blind chance. “Are you wearing contacts?” I ask her. and an insurance check paid a trip to Cancun I didn’t think I would be able to afford. She puts her finger to my face and I put it between my lips. I’ve got one hand cupping her bare ass.” Deanna is whispering in my ear. She is unbuckling me. With her other hand she cups the back of my neck and pulls my face toward her. Other equally foolish men mistake coincidence for success. I’m pinned down by my seat belt. There was the time my car got hit by a van full of illegal Mexicans. My baseball hats. For the first five weeks of our Creative Non Fiction class she didn’t know I existed. my bloodshot eyes… “A typical frat boy. Easily assignable to coincidence. I was part of the crowd. Deanna clutches the lever of my seat and pushes me back. “All the better. Tonight is a tossup. She is running her hand down my chest. Easily assignable to success. my Sublime tshirts. She is hiking her yellow sun dress up to her waist.

They had the ‘jump in and learn to swim’ type attitude with the stuff. a death of a father. Success or Coincidence? There was a moment of hesitation when the professor called on me to read my story to the class. She reaches between our legs and wraps her hand around The Boss.” I say. She adjusts herself and guides me into her. winning a spelling bee in the sixth grade. Engines igniting. Horns are beeping. the birth of a child. Success or coincidence? She’s fumbling with the buttons on my jeans. I mainly sat in front of my mirror reciting patterns and practicing tonality.The Best of TSBMAG. “Do you think I’m pretty?” she whispers. Our assignment a week ago in class was to write a short story describing a memorable experience.” she says.COM “Just wondering. 258 . Her eyes roll back into her head. “Beautiful. “Tell me. a Garth Brooks concert. Her tongue is cleaning out my ear. There is a reflection from the street light our car is parked under. as she slides my jeans down. I lift my ass. There were stories about a skiing in Vermont. and her pale blue eyes are glowing like an Alaskan Huskies. a first trip to Yankee stadium. The perfectionist in me always found it wasn’t quite the right time.” I say. Outside cars are passing by. Paris in the spring time… I wrote about the first time I fell in love… She’s straddling me and our pubes are rubbing hard against each other. I’ve got a tit smashed against my face. This was the big go… Mike and Buff had been using Speed Seduction frequently since the cassette tapes arrived in the mail a few weeks back.

First. I see them peak in but continue walking. Deanna collapses on top of me. becoming aware… of the rhythm of your breathing… the beating of your heart… and that sense of growing fascination… such that as you continues to be aware of all this… one particular feature of the their face begins to rivet your attention… so as you just continue to keep looking… it’s like the rest of the environment disappears… and the entire world becomes this face…” I am keenly aware of the eyes of the class on me. that’s when you can make that connection…” The Falling in Love Pattern Deanna is grunting and growling. Her eyes are closed which is good because a couple students are walking past our car. It’s like you’re not even aware until it’s too late. The restriction of fucking in a Jetta is unsettling. “And as you feel that passion growing more and more maybe to a point where you feel yourself just letting go completely as you allow this person to come deep inside releasing all those feelings that have been building and building up inside. you just want to release them in a flood and I find when you do that now with me I find you just feel so enchanted like you are now under a love spell cast upon you such that you can’t control yourself and just find yourself going wild with it” Success or Coincidence? The Boss explodes. I am self conscious and a bit uncomfortable with what I’m reading… but it’s too late to stop. I have to lift her a little so I can bounce her up and down on The Boss. You begin to pay attention in that special way. I put my hand over her mouth to silence her. “You don’t even know why you just have to go deep inside and find all those values that are so important to you but you just naturally link them up with this person such that you find yourself beginning to look through the eyes of attraction … cause I find when you look through the eyes of attraction. You’ve already begun to feel that connection… and grow even more attracted. I’m getting a case of rug burn on my crotch.Social Superstar I am in Creative Non Fiction reading my story from the paper in front of me… “It was my third date with Shari when I realized what was happening. 259 . look through the eyes of desire.

Lucky for me. But nothing was worse than the time I cheeped out on the sex toys. But what I’ve noticed while mulling over my exploits is that often these whims have turned out to end on a sour note. Role playing. There was the time I took a roll of film of my ex in compromising positions… that mysteriously disappeared when we went to the CVS to pick them up. edible panties. I went with the anal beads for the low low price of $4. voyeurism… we did it all. I have a wild imagination.99. With the amount of money in my pocket. I was a kid in the candy store. these are a series of beads attached to each other usually by a string with a handy retrieval ring.. I’ve found girls willing to let me indulge in my whims. The package promised that if I inserted them into her ass… and 260 . The time I jokingly asked my ex to pee on me… and she did! The time I bought the super large dildo to play with on her… and then suddenly felt inadequate. I spotted a discount shelf. For those of you unaware of what anal beads are. For all her flaws… I do say. Only I had very little money. Luckily. This place had everything I ever dreamed about. There were a handful of items marked down for clearance. blindfolds. or anal beads. I wanted everything. One day I ventured off to the holy grail of perverted fun. fruits and vegetables. my choice was narrowed down to a cock ring. The Pleasure Palace.COM Don’t Buy the Cheap Sex Toys Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 07/22/2008 I’ve always been pretty experimental in the bedroom… dare I say… kinky. We were like a couple of perverts trying to see what we could come up with next. sue me. bondage.The Best of TSBMAG.. right from the start. she was gung ho in the bedroom. This was back when I was dating my first girlfriend Jillian. There was the time we lost the key to the handcuffs….

As our session got steamier. I take this as my cue to start sliding the anal beads in.Social Superstar then pulled them out right as she climaxed… she would reach new orgasmic heights. Jillian starts making her "I’m going to cum" face. Just as the two of us reach orgasm I pull the string in one quick flick of the wrist. They were still pretty lubed up from her pussy juice. I was a proud man. I quickly tried to hide the string under the pillow. I started poking my finger around her ass trying to warm her up to it. That was until I looked down at the string in my hand. She did a giant pelvic thrust… but then flashed me a reassuring smile to let me know she enjoyed. so they went in without a fight. She squirmed a bit… but soon enough I’m digging away. Wailing away. so I reach under her ass and grab the ring and get ready to yank. It doesn’t. But I can be pretty persuasive. in and out. 261 . But my face must have given it away. Worth a shot. By this time. I’m doing her pretty hard missionary. We tried them out in her vagina first. "What's wrong?" "One of the balls didn’t come out" I tell her. and she likes it. She only mildly liked it when I did her anal. Jillian starts asking. She jumps up and grabs the string from under the pillow. It is obvious that the bead slipped over the last knot. In and out." Things started out amusing enough with the beads. and usually felt dirty about it afterwards. She reaches her hand around to her ass and starts holding her anus open while jumping up and down. I sold her on the "new orgasmic heights. I’ve got her legs spread over her head. The string which had five beads going in… had come out with four. right? Jillian wasn’t thrilled with my new toy. She starts panicking. I pray the bead will pop out.

The grunts and growls that were coming out the bathroom would have scared small children. She’s making some nauseating faces and I have to leave the room. 262 . "It's right there. "Maybe you should try taking a shit. I sit her naked body on the toilet and tell her to push like she constipated… push like she’s trying to get a baby out. "You better get this fucking thing out of my ass. Look and see if you can see it. I say "Maybe we should go to the Health Center on campus. "I feel it" she screams." I say. I open the door and peak in. She begins pushing. But nothing is falling out. and growling all over again. I calm her down enough to walk her into the bathroom. She starts pushing. See if they have any suggestions." I take from her reaction that wasn’t an option. I get behind her and start prodding around. I want to reach in. I take my two fingers and pry apart her anus. Now she’s crying so loud I can’t concentrate. Jillian has her ass raised above the bowl and is shaking it violently. She’s screaming.The Best of TSBMAG. Miraculously the little purple bead appears… but just as I’m about to grab it her anus closes shut and sucks it back in. I can feel it. she wasn’t the most mentally stable girl. "Push" I tell her." She kneels down over the bowl and lunges her ass into the air. She starts hyperventilating. but I am afraid I’ll just push it back further. After a few minutes they stop.COM If you remember from previous mentions of Jillian." She looks like she’s going claw my face off. grunting.

She’s pushing so hard one of the veins in her forehead seems it's going to burst. I’d have to dump her. I walk in the room and grab the string and flush all the beads down the toilet. is why you don’t buy the cheap sex toys.Social Superstar "Push again. I’m really hoping a turd doesn’t pop out along with the bead. 263 . I pick the thing up and flush it down the toilet. The bead plops onto the floor. harder this time" I demand. "AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH" she screams. my friends. And that.

The Best of TSBMAG. And normally I wouldn’t have cared much. That’s what happens when you cram 9 people into a three bedroom apartment. I finish putting on my shirt. 9:05 My girl gives me a little peck on my lips. I beg one last time… “A goodbye blow job…please?” 9:25 I’m in the backseat of Sofia’s car and I’m trying to calculate just how old she is. I give up. my mind trying to hold a fantasy long enough to rub one out. one of my girlfriend’s cousins… Anna and her big fake titties… then Sofia and her rebellious tomboy attitude… but the noise is just too distracting. c’mon other people need to use the bathroom” my girlfriend shouts in … Everything is fucked. She rolls her eyes and tells me no. But just outside the door there are seven different Spanish voices continually reminding me that my time in the bathroom is limited. Privacy is nonexistent.COM That Drunken ight in Medellin Story Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 08/18/2008 8:40 pm My dick is in my left hand… my right hand is fumbling through the medicine cabinet for some kind of lube… I’m squatting over the toilet. Sofia could be 25 or 40 and I wouldn’t be surprised. The most action I’ve gotten all week in this chastity ward of an apartment. I float different pictures through my mind… first. I pull her close and grind my hard-on into her. My dick goes limp. She tells me not to be so grumpy and that I better have a good time tonight. But I’m thinking now… the older she is… 264 . I start unrolling some toilet paper to finish into… “Bobby. 8:44 I’ve finally got some momentum going.

9:51 Shot number one goes down smoothly. She shakes her finger no again. “You like the Colombian girls?” he asks. you like?” I smile. 9:46 I follow the cousins to a table filled with about eight or nine Colombians. Each room with a different theme. I lift the glass and down the shot myself. “So you can have some fun tonight!” he says. There are three bottles of the stuff on the table. . a nun. 10:00 Jim calls me over to him. “I no like” she says in broken English. And the town bum… 9:45 I walk through smiling… making sure they notice… And they always notice. He hands me a shot. a farmer. His name is Jim. I am doing the obligatory kiss on the check to bunch of chubby Spaniards… the loud alpha male of the group introduces himself in English.. Sofia notices my curiosity and says “Aguardiente. “Muy Bien! Mucho gusto!” He asks me why my girlfriend didn’t come. Because in a brown eyed world… the blue eyed man is king. I try pouring Sofia a shot. “I no care” I say and fill the shot glass. 265 .. and a slight bit creepy..Social Superstar the more likely she’d be up for doing something if something should happen to come up… 9:44 We get into the bar… it’s themed like a typical Colombian town. The waiters are walking around dressed like typical town people… there is a priest. I explain that she had a wedding rehearsal … and has to get up early tomorrow for the wedding. I smell the glass to make sure it wasn’t water. In fact. We knock glasses and shoot them. He puts his arm around me. She shakes her finger no. I am happy that there will be at least one person I can communicate with here tonight. a banker… a cowboy. The room we wind up in is themed like a cathedral. “Si” I say.

Some young girls… that can’t be older than sixteen. I assume he is trying to hook me up with her… I give him the thumbs down. She doesn’t know daddy. but nothing another shot of Aguardiente won’t cure. 10:16 There are a few new faces at our table. 10:13 Pretty soon I’ve made both of us uncomfortable. I start to wish I Googled the age of consent down here. I fumble for the bottle and begin pouring another shot. I fill a few glasses and try to hand the sixteen year olds shots. I’m a little embarrassed by my blunder. I want to make conversation. Things get ugly quick on the dance floor. 10:11 I turn to Sofia. I pour the three of us shots and we gulp them down. 10:14 I get back just in time for another shot. Sofia not wanting to be seen dancing with the gringo… pawns me off on her sister. She doesn’t know how dirty I can get. She takes my hand and leads me to the dance floor. Jim introduces me to the fatty… his wife. It’s too loud to deal with language barriers. Sofia grabs my arm… and tells me in her adorable broken English to “slow down or I get too crazy” She’s probably right… but I’m past the point of reason.The Best of TSBMAG. I push the glasses toward them again. For all intensive purposes I’ll assume it’s sixteen. My constant humping of her leg and staring at her tits has seemingly offended her… I put my tail between my legs and head back to the table. I try… but it’s useless. My lack of rhythm is apparent. They shake their fingers no. 10:18 266 . Her sister wants to play dirty.COM 10:02 Jim calls over an old fatty.

He looks at the group of girls and nods at me. 10:25 I regroup in the bathroom. Yea right!!! This is where things get blurry.. I give him two big thumbs up. She is in the middle of us and I’m grinding lower and lower with her. Because when you can be loyal… that’s meaningful… So you’re going to go out there… drink your drink… be friendly… not too friendly. and then you’re going go home and jerk off. He actually pushes us closer together. 10:22 Time for a piss break.. whether or not you can maintain loyalty. As we are dancing Jim comes up behind his daughter and sandwiches her against me. Jim seemingly pleased… heads back to the table and leaves me and his daughter alone. Here are the definite memories I have: … Gulping down another four or five shots of Aguardiente … Jim’s daughter shaking her finger no as I try to lick her ear …Jim’s fat wife pulling me off her daughter and then scolding her daughter in public Here are the fuzzy memories I have: 267 .Social Superstar Jim sees me trying to make conversation with the girls and comes over to us.it's a moral test of yourself. 10:19 He introduces me to the sixteen year old… his daughter. . Before I have time to explain… he tells me to dance with his daughter. And that’s all you’re going to do. I look back at him over my shoulder… now he gives me the thumbs up.

He wakes up and flips out. I momentarily snap back into consciousness and walk into the hallway. They are staring at me and laughing and pointing for me to go back into the hallway and to my own room. naked. (Most likely explaining that I’m a drunken mess who has no clue what room he is in… or probably even what country he is in) The two of them guide my naked ass back to my room. Only they are not sleeping. I try to wake her up. I head back into our room. Naked. I close my eyes and go back to sleep. but thought of going into the kitchen to face the family is terrifying.COM … Sofia pushing me into a car with a random Spanish guy … Driving through the mountains of Medellin thinking I’m being kidnapped …throwing up in a port-a-potty on the side of the road: Here is where things get ugly: I stumble into the apartment and stalk out my girlfriend. I am completely dehydrated and desperately want water. I take off all of my clothes and demand sex. on my bed. 268 . Hearing his anger the aunt comes into the room and in Spanish intervenes. This time I wonder into my girl’s cousin Adolfo’s room. I decide to piss before going to sleep. I’m standing buck naked in the room where the aunt. 9:20 am I wake up alone. I start to crawl in bed with him. I walk to the bathroom. I have vague flashes of the night before… I panic. I try for a few minutes to jerk off. Naked.The Best of TSBMAG. Sofia and Anna are sleeping. In the other room I hear the Spanish chatter of the entire family having breakfast. I retreat to my bed. I go caveman on her. It’s not going to happen. She is not turned on my aggressive drunken behavior… or my breath which reeks of puke. Only I’m not in our room.

Social Superstar 11:40 My girlfriend wakes me up and tells me that I have to get dressed for her friend’s wedding. She asks me “What the hell happened last night” 11:53 I do the walk of shame to the bathroom. When I expose myself from the room… the entire family starts mocking me in Spanish. 269 . They are nice about it… but are openly amused. All I can think about was how pronounced the “shrinkage” was….

. 270 . Having a clearly defined end result means knowing exactly where you want to be 31 days from now. The title of this series is 31 Days to Better Game… but “better game” has a different meaning for everyone reading this.COM 31 Days to Better Game Day 1 Designing Your Life Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 06/10/2008 The first step you need to take to improve any area of your life is determining your desired outcome. This means that if you consistently think of the lack in your life (of women. In order to fully experience and appreciate the lessons you’ll receive over the next 31 days you need to have a clearly defined end result. building attraction. money. and friendship) the universe will continue to provide you a life of lack.The Best of TSBMAG. If you have had difficulty with talking to women. How will you look after you’ve achieved better game? How will you act? What kind of girls will you be dating? Sleeping with? What will a day in your life look like once you’ve got this area of your life mastered? How will you feel? What kind of thoughts will be running through your mind? These are all questions that you cannot ignore. These three books all explore the ancient principle that your mind will create whatever reality you present it. money) the universe will provide you a life of abundance. Have you read the book The Secret? Or how about Real Magic? Or Think and Grow Rich? These three books (if read and implemented correctly) are worth their weight in gold.. managing a relationship. But if you train your mind to see abundance (of women. This step is more important than any lesson you will learn from here on out. or any other area of your life… until you develop a clearly defined goal for yourself your mind will continue producing the same results you’ve always gotten.

Imagine clearly what you will look like. Next Every morning when you awaken… take out that piece of paper and read it a few times to yourself. You need to close your eyes and spend the next thirty minutes visualizing yourself as your Ideal Self. It needs to be filled with emotions and feelings. You need to read this piece of paper and be instantly transported into that reality. and act like once you’ve mastered this area of your life. For example. the thoughts running through your mind. visualize yourself in the company of the woman you want to be with. As you run this image through your mind. Write everything in the present tense. I want all of you reading this to put aside your personal opinions and judgments and reservations. Now I want you to write the most descriptive. Clearly imagine the women and note the way you interact with them. thought out. feel like. 271 . But I’m going to safely say that it is magic. The idea here is to create a blueprint of the life you want. Then close your eyes imagine this reality.” If during your visualization you saw yourself having unbelievable sex with a perfect 10. clearly defined. the way your voice sounds. write ” I am having sex the girl I’ve desired” and so on. After you’ve spent about thirty minutes just completely immersed in this “new you” stop your visualizations and grab your pen and paper. Take a pen and paper with you. See your ideal self. See your ideal life. It needs to be as detailed as possible. I want you to trust me to give this a chance. suppose in your mind you saw yourself surrounded by a set of beautiful women and they were all laughing and having a good time… you would write “I am confident around large groups of beautiful women and easily create enjoyable conversation while building attraction. pay attention to the way you walk.Social Superstar If this sounds new age and hokey… wait a minute. Your Homework Everyone reading this needs to set aside one hour in a quiet place. I felt the same way years ago when I was presented with this concept. summary of this new you.

COM The entire time you're visualizing this life… let your mind go.” Every night before you go to bed. You will be tempted to let your negativity and doubt creep in and tell you this isn’t possible. and a half an hour in the evening visualizing the life you want. See if so real that it feels like you're dreaming. I’m not asking much. Lay there holding that image (with feeling) firmly in your mind. or remind yourself of your shortcoming or flaws… Clear your mind of the negativity and focus solely on “ideal life. Even if you deviate from your “ideal self” in your current reality. At the end of the 31 days I want feedback on this exercise… I only want feedback from those of you that followed it every day exactly as I’ve stated. I want each and everyone one of you to do this for one month.The Best of TSBMAG.. Those that choose to follow this… I know that I will be hearing miraculous stories! If you want some further reading on this subject I highly recommend reading The Secret 272 . I’m just asking you to spend a half an hour in the morning. Don’t slack. The rest of you can keep your excuses I don’t want to hear them. I’m not asking you to approach 10 sets a night…. repeat the ritual of the morning. “I am always meeting and attracting new interesting girls.” Throughout the day try to remember to keep your self.talk in the positive.. There is no hard work involved. continue to talk to yourself positively.

Every problem you run into with not just women. I can’t convince you how to think or look at life differently. I always answer the same. inner game problems boils down to two things: your experience and your mindset. When you think about what confidence actually is you realize that it's simply doing something that you’ve done enough times to be comfortable with. so hopefully by the end of this article you’ll have a clearer understanding of what exactly it is that you need to work on to fix your own issues. The sad and somewhat ironic reality is that most men are not comfortable talking to women simply because they don’t talk to women! It’s a negative feedback loop that’s perpetuated by a fear of “what might go wrong”. only you can. So what is it? To me. and give some personal insights. “Practice”. Inner game is also a topic that I think can only be discussed from a personal level. but I can tell you how I overcame the very same problems. It’s only when were thrown into situations that are unfamiliar to us that we start to lose confidence in ourselves. since it tends to be rooted in a lifetime’s worth of negative beliefs that are based on things like fear and rejection. It’s a major sticking point for nearly everyone who has trouble talking to women and it’s a problem that can be difficult to fix as well.Social Superstar Day 2 Developing Inner Game Written by Cajun Originally Published: 06/12/2008 Inner game is probably one of the most popular subjects in the community. This is bullshit! To be scared of the possible 273 . I’m going to get into both of these. that is. and hope that you can learn from my experiences. Experience: When people ask me how I developed my “Rock solid confidence”. can be attributed to one of these two areas. but life itself.

our consciousness. even then you realized that the reward was worth the risk. your reality. Who’s to say I’m not a figment of your imagination. just accept that it’s a completely normal. Getting used to rejection isn’t easy. That is. The sooner you realize that rejection is a necessary evil. your own. That is. but the best advice I can give you is to simply accept it. and it’s a game that a lot of people are scared to play. Life is a game. when you were learning to ride a bike. This is how we believed reality worked. It’s possible. don’t get mad at her or yourself. there may only be 1 reality. were you too scared to get on because of a fear that you might fall down? Maybe. don’t go home.The Best of TSBMAG. Mind Set: Most of us grew up in a society that believed in a 2 concentric circle model of reality. Well this is the same thing. and the inner circle being our consciousness. it took me a while before I got used to rejection enough that I could understand where I went wrong. from your subconscious mind. we create our own reality with our thoughts (Or beliefs. Don’t be one of them. the outer circle being reality. 274 .COM negative outcomes is to be scared of the very thing that enables you to get better! Think about it this way. but you got on anyway because you saw how much fun all the other kids were having. that our consciousness was independent of it…but recently this all changed. and that our consciousness is the outer circle. the sooner you can come to terms with it and move past it. reality exists inside our mind. I remember when I first started out with this stuff I used to get drinks thrown in my face. The first few weeks were rough. You can’t make an omelet without breaking some eggs. and necessary part of the learning process. We are now learning through quantum physics that reality is actually the inner circle. The truth is. What does this mean? As far as any of us know. reality. or simply ignored. whether any of us actually exist or not is irrelevant. We experience the outer circle. through our inner circle. or the world around us. writing this entire article out to send a message to YOU. told off. if you’d rather).

let’s say. I can only give advice on inner game from my own personal perspective and this is simply how I believe reality works. The AI is so smart you can’t tell it’s not a real person. The five senses are so accurately programmed that there is no detectable difference to reality. 275 . It has since become my mantra. The trick is you have to actually believe it. you get to play this game. and be anything you want in this program as long as you ask for it using these “beliefs”. and how they work. and I know that if down the road I ever forget everything that I’ve learned in the past few years. So. if you want to be. and then the program takes care of the rest.Social Superstar I recently received an email from a student of mine asking about the power of beliefs. I’ll end this article with something that I’ve never written about before: I remember the very night that I became good at attracting women. a rich Casanova in the game.” Sound a little like the matrix? Well that’s ok. but this “game” already exists and it’s called reality. and you will become one. let’s say. I remember because I had an epiphany that night and it was so mindblowing that I had to write it down as soon as I came home. You become who you believe you are. he says this: “This software is programmed to work intuitively with your brain. What does the paper say? “The secret to becoming amazing at attracting women is…to remember that you already are. 15 years from now programmers invent this computer game that is virtually identical to reality. but the programmer tells you some hints on how to play. In fact you can have. Now. Cajun. like I said. Think of it as your “console hack”" I’m sure you saw this coming.” Your welcome. then all you have to do is believe that you ARE a rich Casanova. I replied with the following: “Think of it this way: what if. all I will have to do is read this piece of paper and it will all come back.

hit the gym.COM Day 3 Updating Your Look Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published:06/13/2008 There is a misused phrase being tossed around in regards to attracting women… “Looks don’t matter. and change his wardrobe. If you look in the mirror and see things jiggling. The list includes simple to improve areas like skin color. What I did not include on that list but is equally important is maintaining a fit body. If you’re unsure of how to lose that extra weight check out this article about shedding unwanted pounds… if you’re looking to gain some muscle read this article on bulking up for the summer. I’m not saying that you have to look like David Beckham… but you know deep inside if you’re body can be improved upon. hair style.The Best of TSBMAG. By just implementing these 10 tips you will begin to not only look more attractive. I highly recommend reading over that list. posture and grooming tips. get a tan. If you want further information on designing a weight loss/muscle gain plan read this free personal trainer program-the site has like five hundred articles on every aspect of weight training and nutrition. If you’ve seen the before and after pictures you know what a drastic improvement these simple steps made. Like Strauss says. But you don’t need to be naturally good looking to make a good first impression. there is no excuse not hit to hit the gym. If you’ve read The Game you know that the first advice Mystery gave Neil Strauss was to improve upon his look. smiling. 276 .” The phrase should have been worded “Looks only matter so much. but you will begin to feel much more attractive.” There is no denying that physical attractiveness makes it easier for attraction to take place. “You’ve got to present your best self.” I wrote a post a couple months ago called 10 Ways to Immediately Make Yourself More Attractive. He had the less-thanhandsome Strauss shave his balding head. grow a goatee.

If you’ve got little or no sense of fashion than read through our men’s fashion articles here at the site. Although the article was geared toward high school students there is advice on creating your image that can be applied to all age groups. More importantly is dressing in a way that promotes your self confidence. No matter what area of your physical appearance (if any) needs an overhaul there is more than enough information contained in this lesson to get you well on your way.Social Superstar After you’ve improved upon the areas of your appearance that need some work… it's time to update your wardrobe. I am not a firm believer in peacocking in the sense that Mystery and Style teach. The article also talks about creating a presence and takes quite a bit from the classic article The 7 Elements of Charisma. Would you be attracted to a girl who isn’t doing her best to present herself to you? 277 . If you still have questions regarding how to go about updating your life you might find an article I wrote for my How to Be Popular in High series helpful. But I do believe in using clothes and accessories as a way to attract positive attention. We’ve had a couple fashion consultants contributing articles to make your choices easier. Remembers just because “Looks only matter so much” you shouldn’t use that as an excuse to be lazy about your appearance. Today’s Homework Today you need to make the necessary changes to present your best self. If you’re still looking for more advice than I would recommend purchasing Brad P’s Fashion Bible.

Every lesson that you learn throughout these 31 days needs to become a new habit in your life. approach anxiety.The Best of TSBMAG. then they expect to miraculously be the life of the party come Saturday night. Always be chatting up strangers. The biggest mistake most guys tend to make while trying to improve their game is they think that it only counts when they are at a bar or club. If I had to name the most inspiring thing I got out of the weekend it was Adam’s ability to always “be on.” And he’s right. It just means that everything you learn needs to be implemented at all times. They read books. He lived. Is it because they are that much better salesman? No. learn to “be alpha” but they sit in their house all week waiting for the weekend to practice game. Always strive to make your conversations memorable. No matter who he was talking to he was projecting the same charismatic personality. and slept game. If you’ve just read an article about flirting. A lot guys wonder how come some nights it is so hard to get “in state. Always be opening sets.” Adam made the comment several times that he “is game. poor tonality. He didn’t wait until heading to the clubs at night to go into game mode. and AFC tendencies…. start 278 .COM Day 4 Always be Advertising Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 06/16/2008 In a common sale’s office 10% of the salesmen make 90% of the money. Always dress to impress. I spent this weekend with AFC Adam Lyons from Pua Training in New York. Always be presenting your best self. boring conversation. study lines. breathed. It’s because a successful salesman is constantly marketing himself while the other 90% do their 9-5 in the office and call it a day. Does that mean all you should care about is game? Hell no.” It is so hard for them because all week they’ve created a pattern of bad posture.

you will find that it becomes a lot easier to get “in state” since you will be spending most of your time in the right frame of mind. you need to always be reinforcing these skills. The counter girl at your local bank will be dropping you IOIs. Because you just don’t know when you will bump into her. If you’re always “on” you’ll find that you’ll naturally be attracting more women into your life. Always leave the house expecting to meet the girl of your dreams. is that you will find. 279 . Once you get in the habit of always reinforcing the skills you’ve been learning. that the best leads come when you least expect it. More importantly though. Your co-workers who used to ignore you will be asking you to come hang out with them. I don’t care if you have to flirt with your sixty year old neighbor…. like the most successful salesmen.Social Superstar flirting immediately.

fame. Not only will landing a guy like that make her life better. social acceptance and notoriety. Because with “high status” comes most of the traits women desire in men like security. women are actually very competitive with each other but in more subtle ways than men… 280 . wealth. power. cars and made them wear a disguise.The Best of TSBMAG. it will make the life of her kids better and even make her friends jealous and envious. In Wisconsin we deer hunt and my Dad always told me to never cough because a deer’s hearing is much better than a human’s… Well a woman’s “status” senses are far superior to a man’s. clothes. Now you might ask why “status” is so important to women.COM Day 5 Being High Status Written by Mack Tight Originally Published: 06/17/2008 I was reading Bobby’s recent post “Never Show Emotion When She Walks Away” and all I could think was “could that dude make it any more obvious that he was low status”? Let me explain… When you think of “high status males” who do you think of? Donald Trump… George Clooney… Kobe Bryant… your favorite politician… Now if any of these guys had an attractive girl make out with them and run off would they set around and pout like a tit baby about it? Fuck no… They are flooded by a large quantity of attractive women in their life… and even if you temporarily took away their money. act and by their body language. any woman would still be able to read that they are high status within minutes of meeting them by the way they talk. …yes.

“Commons” were ummm… common… …don’t be a common! The guy in Bobby’s story showed to everyone in the bar and most importantly to the girl that he was a “common” by gawking at her and pouting. This raises his status to them. Now similarly. the attractive women are going to have a harder time landing this guy’s business. Supply and demand is not unique to women and men either… Why is gas $4 a gallon? Supply and demand! Why are diamonds so expensive? Supply and demand! (Thanks to DeBeers) It is like your status is a publicly traded stock when you go into a club and your every action makes it go up and down in value. If on the other hand you don’t give a shit when dealing with a hot girl you’re showing your supply is low and your demand is high. you always want to give them the impression that there are other dealerships that are in the hunt for your business… 281 . Now if a guy’s supply is high and demand low and attractive women is the commodity. There was a term called a “common” for sports cards of a player no one wanted. It is quite obvious that an attractive girl kissing him was a “big deal” and a rare occurrence in his life… That made it quite obvious to everyone that he was “low status”.Social Superstar So how can women sense your status? They can sense your supply versus your demand… If you are clingy and needy it shows to them that you have a low demand and a high supply. Here’s another analogy from my childhood… When I was a kid I collected sports cards. if you go to a car dealership to deal on a car.

What can I say. I had women cold approaching ME about the shirt and I went to town from there.The Best of TSBMAG. 282 . Always give the impression that you have options in your life even if you don’t. some like dogs and cats but I LOVE MONKEYS! I had guys busting on me about it but I could HANDLE it. I even had some girls who BUSTED on me just like the guys did but I was able to turn the tables and get attraction from them. I bet everyone of those douche bags who were busting on me went out and bought the same shirt the next day… …but I have a feeling they had no luck with it because they could not properly handle the reactions. For example. I recently bought a bright green Paul Frank t-shirt with Julius the monkey on it. I want to fit in and I’m scared to stand out”! That’s what “peacocking” is all about… having the balls to stand out… …and I’m not talking about even wearing goggles and a fuzzy hat. High status men do not care what others think. Negging “Negging” is defined as saying something to an attractive girl that subtly shows her that you are not caught in a hypnotic trance over her beauty. some old carpenter pants and a boring t-shirt of your local major sports team screams “I’m high status”? To me it screams “I don’t care how I look. Now let me switch things up and touch on some community concepts that hit on the “high status” point… Peacocking Do you think wearing a pair of Sketchers.COM If you go to a job interview you want to give the interviewers the impression that there are many companies of courting you… …you are living in a world of opportunities and abundance.

She is accustomed to being put on a pedestal by guys staring at her. Instead he is probably going to vibe with her about cool things. Many people who are new to the community do not understand how to calibrate proper negging. Maybe they’ll talk about music or pop culture. Do you think a rock star that is in town for a tour is going to barrage a girl he just met with a bunch of interview questions? What’s your name? What’s your age? Where are you from? What is your job? HELL NO! For him to ask such personal questions to a girl with them both knowing he will be in a different city the next day would be silly. VERY subtle comments that could be taken as a backhanded compliment. You need to differentiate “negging” from being an obnoxious asshole. Basically you are showing her that in a sea of low value ass-kissing chumps you are the one prized high value man who is accustomed to interacting with girls of her level of beauty on a routine basis. He might bring up some stories about something crazy that happened at his last tour stop in New York City. 283 . For example. endlessly approaching her and showering her with complements… …but you quickly knock her off the pedestal to defuse her defenses.Social Superstar Calling it “negging” was a bad move because people outside of the community assume it is just about putting down women. buying her drinks. some examples involve VERY. It does a good job of differentiating how needy and high status guys communicate with women. take Mystery’s “its funny how your nose twitches when you talk” or Neil Strauss’ routine of picking a piece of lint off a girl’s shirt. Sure. It may sound mean but women WANT to come off their pedestals to meet a high value man like yourself! Giving/Taking Value I made a post a while back by Mehow about giving value by being the value. It is not like you are calling the girl a “bitch” or saying she is “ugly”.

so it is completely worthless! High status men want to test women before they even care about their personal life. The key is that quality women only have limited opportunities to interact with truly high status men. They begin by building comfort and attraction by telling interesting high value stories (such as the rock star’s crazy night at his NYC tour stop). It’s casual. A high status man has many options with quality women just as a quality woman has many options with low status men. Mack Tight 284 . So there you go… I hope I did a good job of explaining high status to you.The Best of TSBMAG. ONLY if the interaction progresses to the point that it EXCEEDS his normal standards does he care to learn the back of baseball card stats of a girl’s personal life. I also hope my examples gave you some ideas on how you can raise your status to women even higher. So show them that you are high status from the start and you will make yourself the exception and not the norm.COM Guys often interact with beautiful women by asking endless personal questions and they usually never end up seeing or talking to the girl EVER AGAIN anyway.

economics and business. pulling. I thought that. well. A flat conversation is one without any spark. I wasn’t exactly a huge hit around the college bars in Ann Arbor. initially. To this day. The inability to be fun and flirtatious is one of the most common problems that men face when they’re learning to get better with women. if you never learned to communicate any other way. MI. it is not necessarily because they are afraid of getting rejected. so much as it is that they are worried the conversation will flatten out and get boring. that’s fine – you’re in the company of many other men. And listen. There’s nothing worse than a girl who. My interests used to lie exclusively in history. Flirting is conversational play. Needless to say.”. But let’s learn how to flirt. emotion. surprise… it is how you might communicate with your lawyer or your professor. she was bound to be attracted to me. If you’ve ever been talking to a woman and thought to yourself. “man. While they may have some approach anxiety.I was completely stilted when you’d throw me into a bar full of people my age. only to see her attention wane as the conversation starts to get. seems to be enjoying her time with you. once a girl sensed how deep and concerned about the real world I was.Social Superstar Day 6 How to be a Good Flirt Written by Christian Hudson Originally Published 06/18/2008 I was a very boring guy until I turned about 22. I’m even boring myself!” then you know exactly what I’m talking about here. and add some much-needed texture to the conversation. Its two people talking about… anything they want (it definitely does not need to be logical)… and pushing. it is issue number one amongst the clients with whom I work. hitting it with a bend. lame. Flirting is YOU and HER – your personality and hers – sharing some basic information and making it more fun. surprising and rewarding each other. somehow. and while this proved an asset in my talks with “adults. 285 . I like to think of it as taking a flat note.

(Note: there are about a million responses she could have here. We’ve made a little game 286 . FUN. Swooosh – instant texture. Now.The Best of TSBMAG. (Now. where are you from? Here. and say) Promise? F: Ok. INTERESTING CONVERSATION F: So where are you from? M: Hmmmm. but we’ve texturized it with some personality. How about you. You get the Silver Star. DULL. so check it out… What have we done here? We’ve conveyed the exact same information. M: Cool.COM and running it through a flanger. But perhaps an example is in order. I’m from… guess where I’m from. ranging from “I don’t know. M: Ohhh! So close. This conversation is as flat as a deflated blimp. ahhh. our man is relaying facts. Nope. step back. it was a good place to grow up. uh… Stains. Key point: the girl is not having FUN sharing this information. F: Ok… how is it there? M: It’s pretty nice. You know.” to “that’s too hard” – we’ll use one of those in a later example). BORING CONVO F: So where are you from? M: Right. Let’s consider a few tweaks. and probably not even as interesting. look her in the eye. building up anticipation. promise. London. saying quietly)… but you can’t tell anyone else. I’m from Stains. (Little reward for playing along). It's just outside London. put your hand on her shoulder and lean into her ear. (Here you’re creating a little game – more fun) F: Ohhh. F: Stains… what’s that like? M: Ok. I’ll tell you what it's like… (here you’re “headlining” what you’re going to say.

I want to add too – you don’t have to be a dancing ape with your delivery on this one.” which is obviously a lie and which. but there’s no algorithm for knowing which – you just need to practice and develop a feel for it. (She’s going to have to work harder than her lame ‘How to Separate the Duds from the Studs in NYC’ guidebook told her she would) F: I don’t know. (I wouldn’t play a “reward/punishment” game here if it's early in the conversation. act gay.subtle frame control. about how to tell if the guy they’re talking to is going to treat them to Per Se dinners and weekends in the Hamptons. Ok. Too often. punished them for asking me about myself. screening and qualifying . after coaching him on how to rock the second one. or have some other presentation style that just smacks of “seduction community. a lot more FUN.but most importantly. I used to answer this question in one of two ways. It could be anything. shuts down the conversation. 287 . These exact conversation fragments happened with a boot camp client not long ago. and as long as your delivery includes some warmth and a smile. I’m a…. That line works with certain girls.” You can be totally chill. The other thing I’d say was something like “I’m a garbage man. he was doing a lot better with the ladies.Social Superstar of getting it out of you. and the process of sharing information. 95% of the time. because I’m not being truthful. tell you what… (thinking)… I’ll give you three options. Think Happy Californian Stoner/Surfer. So what’s a fun way to stand out when a girl asks you this question? F: So what do you do? M: Hmmm. This is literally the first question out of the mouth of every girl you meet here in NYC. One option was to say “Are you qualifying me already?” which girls usually take as offensive and which. so let’s consider another example… a girl asks you what you do. there must be a book that girls receive when they move here. (And she’s not pleased about it!) M: Ok. our models of fun behavior and delivery are guys who are way over the top. There’s a whole mess of other things going on in here . as you’re getting away from the question at that point). guess what I do. you’ll be golden. needless to say. it's made the conversation.

that sounds good. Here’s the flat.e. it's time to ask the girl what she does. but no kiss on the cheek yet. Of course. you’re wicked smart.The Best of TSBMAG. (Give her a little hug) F: Wait what do you mean partial credit? M: Well… I’ve actually done all three. if you play guitar you could say “I’m a musician working to get his first breakthrough demo track laid down). you’re like… kind of right! You get partial credit! That deserves a hug. Now. along with two hobbies. (Lots of detail. right… M: Option 3: I run a software company that builds security software for biotech firms who want to protect sensitive data from being stolen by insiders (sounds legit. too complicated to be a lie) F: Okkkkkk… that’s tough. Damn. M: Wow. M: Ok. boring version: 288 . M: I know.COM F: Ok. described as if they were jobs (i. right? But you’ve got the power of your copious intellect. frequently almost verbatim. And so on. so I’m going to guess option 3. This is a conversation I have. F: So you’re an entrepreneur! M: Yeah. exactly. fun. ok… M: Option 2: I consult with men on their lifestyles and communications skills – kind of like Hitch – to help them meet cooler women and have better social lives (too ridiculous to be true – or is it?) F: hahahaha. and helps me avoid talking about the coaching stuff because I’ll steer it into talking about jello shots or software. option 1… I run a beverage company that produces and markets caffeinated gelatin shots in little one ounce packets. described very interestingly. interesting) F: Ahhh. F: Haha. the way that you present something like this may vary. one way you might want to present it is to throw in your job.

And ultimately. makes a girl feel much better about sharing information with you. this is what flirting is all about. some fun?” then you’ll find yourself flirting pretty effortlessly. Let’s consider another example. I have no idea what a technical designer is (both laugh). Tell me about it. uh… what’s that? I meet girls every day and they tell me they do something that I’ve never heard of. I just don’t have anything good to relate. I’m just messing with ya.? M: Actually. to what a girl does. 289 . So what can you do with that?! Well… M: So what do you do? F: I’m a technical designer for Jill Sanders M: Wait a minute. OutOfHere. no you’re NOT. We’ve barely scratched the surface in terms of all the techniques you can use to flirt.Social Superstar M: So what do you do? F: I’m a technical designer for Jill Sanders. but with a more common job: M: So what do you do? F: I’m a sales representative for [insert big faceless company here] M: Wait a minute. Get. (Smiling as if she just made your day when she told you that) F: Wait. Same information. why (she’s probably smiling now too)…. M: Ok. no you’re NOT. But if the attitude you take with you into your interactions is “what would give this conversation some texture. She has FUN telling it to you because the conversation itself is a little series of surprises. this texture.? M: Ah. More often than not. OutOfHere. more texture. (Smiling as if she just made your day when she told you that) F: Wait. Get. why (she’s probably smiling now too)…. How’d you get into sales? See? Creating this playful tension. But it sounds exciting. immediately. more playfulness.

But the fact is. are you guys friendly?. Personally. Yes. and create conversation that just flows from it. make you look cool. The easiest girls to talk to are the ones you're standing closest to. there is no perfect opener. The best approaches are spontaneous. Most of the times these girls will be expecting you to open 290 . ideally it will make her laugh. Proximity. But that's just my opinion..) and stay away from the classic Mystery or Strauss “who lies more” or “what 80’s pop duo should I name my dog after?” I’ve found that guys who are using these elaborate canned openers are getting stuck in routine mode and not going on to develop natural conversation skills. The reason these approaches are the best is because very little thought is going into the interaction. Don’t hold your breath. I recommend having a couple canned openers ready for different situations… but I would keep them simple (hey. But there are perfect ways to approach and deliver your opening line. An opener is just the first thing you say to start an interaction. You’re mentally in the wrong state.The Best of TSBMAG. Once you start scanning your mind for things to say it's over.COM Day 7 Simple steps for Successfully Approaching and Opening Women Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 06/19/2008 I think most guys are waiting for some new pick. fail proof. BAM! You see a woman you want to talk to an immediately initiate a conversation. guaranteed to work opening line to say to a woman. The less thought out and planned an interaction is the more natural and relaxed you will appear.up artist to come out with an innovative. When it comes to opening girls I’ve found that several things will make all the difference. 1. This is why in the beginning a lot of coaches recommend using canned openers.

The longer you wait the more awkward it's going to be. I hope that these tips help next time you’re out. That is the beauty of the three second rule. Body Language. Know when to eject and when not to. 2. 5. Even if you just say “you girls look like you’re ready for a fun night” give them cheers with your glass and then go back to talking to your friend. Because the approach was spontaneous you will be sending off really natural body language. The best approaches feel spontaneous. Now they’re opened. You want to make sure your body language conveys the image that this interaction carries no excess value to you. Remember not all girls are super outgoing… some girls need a little prying before they open up.” Once you’re in interview mode she knows you’re hitting on her. You have to differentiate between a girl who visibly giving you signals of disinterest… and the girls that just take a little more work. 4.The reason spontaneous approaches work the best is because your body language doesn’t have time to get all weird and up tight. I see too many guys open a girl with a funny line… then immediately go into “interview mode. and you’re in the proximity to a couple girls you want to talk to. If you’ve entered a bar. On the other hand. As you walk into a venue scan the room for the best possible spot.open them immediately. Stay Fun. There are entire books on approaching but sometimes it's the simplest advice that is most practical and easy to implement. Spontaneous.Social Superstar them. This will put you in the right frame of mind. Open as many people around you as quickly as you can. Bobby 291 .If you open a girl and the whole time you’re talking to her she’s fumbling with her cell phone and avoiding eye contact… don’t waste your time. and is probably bored. You don’t want to be the guy doing laps all night with the hungry look on his face. don't prematurely eject. You also want to present the image that you could turn and walk away at any time. (And build social value) 3.Once you’ve approached and opened girls keep a really fun vibe. You’re better off staying playful for awhile. if you get a tad resistance.

” “So you imagined yourself in a power suit… doing lunches with the Gordon Gekko types. “So.. After you’ve approached a woman and have broken the ice with an opening line… you need to hook her into the conversation. and I asked her if she lived in the city. I’m a finance geek. She told me she just moved here from Iowa.” “So tell me what your first week in the city was really like” I asked her. Using the material she gave me “the mix of excitement and fear” I was able to transition into another thread. talking about how Intel is down a point?” From there the conversation flowed naturally because I avoided interview mode. You need to get her to invest some interest in talking to you. Here she brought up the emotions she felt of excitement mixed with fear. the other night I was talking to a girl at a bar. swinging your briefcase on your way to your job in advertising…” At this point she stopped me and said… “Ha-ha.. I guided her along. you’re here because as a child you had bright lights big city dreams… you imagined yourself strolling down Fifth Ave.. actually I imagined it was a job on Wall St. How do you get a girl to invest some interest in the conversation? One of the easiest ways to elicit a response is to make assumptions about her and funny guesses. 292 .COM Day 8 Improving Your Conversation Skills Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 06/20/2008 The goal of a conversation is to connect with the other person on some level. The standard question that most guys would have asked next was “how do you like the city?” Instead I said.The Best of TSBMAG. For instance. When that thread died down it was easy to transition into another interesting topic.

(Leaving Iowa. her first month here) Each time she gives you a hook you should relate it back to her establishing a connection. If you’re listening to her you’ll notice a new hook every time she opens her mouth. do tell!” See how the conversation is naturally flowing from one thread to another? After she spoke a bit about her adventure in France I told her about my first time in Brazil. and how it almost brings you back your childhood when things were still new… and you had that desire to explore. so what do you do? her: I’m a stock broker me: where do you usually hangout? 293 . yes… being stuck in France not speaking a word of the language. It was probably one where you challenged yourself a bit…” “Haha.” We were able to smoothly transition from “Do you live in the City?” to having a detailed conversation about our most adventurous vacations.Social Superstar “Well aren’t the most satisfying times in life the times you feel that adrenaline? It's like when you think of your most memorable vacation… it probably wasn’t a vacation you sat in a beach chair sipping Pina Coladas.. The key to being a good conversationalist is to keep your ears open for hooks.. arriving in NY.... and explained the emotion I felt of “being lost on this entirely different continent. When she told me she just moved here from Iowa a month ago she gave me three hooks to work off of. that sounds like a good story.. A hook is something she says that you can use to extend the conversation.... out of money” “Oh. The biggest mistakes guys make is turning the conversation into an interview… take the conversation above and see how easily it could have headed into interview mode: • • • • • me: Do you live in the city? her: I just moved here from Iowa me: Oh yea.

3. 294 .The Best of TSBMAG. What do you do? her: I’m a stockbroker. Who cares that your friend went there on vacation? The proper way to handle a hook is to relate it back to her. didn’t speak the language. That I was genuinely curious to know what one does when they know no one is watching. Here is an example from my conversation of how I took things deeper. me: So you must have felt both the thrill and fear of complete anonymity. You also want to stay away from “try hard” relating. So what does one do when they know no one will find out? • See how I acknowledged the emotion that she must have been feeling. I dabbled with stocks online a little. That I was able to empathize and understand her. • • me: tell me about your most adventurous vacation. This is where everything she says you try to find away to immediately relate to it. This is actually a technique I learned from Richard La Ruina’s book The Natural Art of Seduction where he talks about taking things deeper. • • • • • me: Do you live in the city? her: I just moved here from Iowa me: Really. I was really listening to her. me: Oh yea. What do you do for fun? In the example above you’re wasting valuable hooks by trying to fill the air with pointless banter about yourself. This simple acknowledgement let her know that: 1. and alone for two days wondering around Paris. her: It was this time in France when I was dead broke.. 2. I have a friend who went there on vacation last year.COM See how easily the conversation could have turned into a high pressured interview if I hadn’t used what she gave me and related it back to her.

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The Best of TSBMAG. If your body language. Or to put it another way. Daytime Drills One of the biggest problems men have with building comfort with women is that they put too much emphasis on the moment of truth. physical appearance. which is the moment of interaction at the bar or club. it’s always better to start in the beginning with a little more indirect game and use playful negging and teasing to bring down your target’s status in relation to your status. The more comfortable you get with your game. however. Until you reach that level of game. Eventually though as you get more comfortable with your inner game and alpha role. social proofing and/or manner of speech are strong enough to convey higher value from the moment you walk in the door or open your mouth. Two things I hear guys ask about when it comes to building comfort with women are (1) whether to go indirect versus direct with the game and (2) whether to compliment or playfully insult the woman. If there’s any possible doubt as to your status versus her status. which is even higher. you want to get skilled at knowing how and when to use compliments and direct game as well as using negs and indirect game. however. sure you can compliment a woman upon first meeting her.COM Day 9 How to Build Comfort with a Girl Written by T Originally Published: 06/23/2008 Bobby Rio asked me to shed some light on building comfort with women. the easier it will get to convey that you’re an alpha male and a prize with hardly any effort. My answer is…it depends on your conveyed status. Picture yourself as 296 . treating a woman like a queen is not a sign of weakness as long as it’s crystal clear that you’re the king. This is just a sampler of techniques you can use to build comfort with women and isn’t meant to be an exhaustive list by any means. One of my rules has always been that it’s all right to put a woman on a pedestal so long as it’s made clear that you’re on the throne. you will probably want to lean more toward indirect game and playful teasing and insults. I hope you guys enjoy it and find it helpful.

Imagine how nervous you’d be. For some reason a lot of guys make a joke or tell a story that works brilliantly in a conversation. Then go for a minute. Chat with a cute bank teller while she’s handling business for you. Aim for 30 seconds. Imagine how off your game would be. When you do these daily conversations in the beginning you’re just aiming to get used to the banter and to reduce the anxiety you get from having conversations with women. The whole goal is to get comfortable talking to women you don’t know. You’d do visualization exercises. the more you realize that it won’t kill you and that 297 . If you’re stuck on a long post office line behind an attractive woman. It’s not enough to make a note on what doesn’t work for the sake of avoiding repeating the mistake. The point is to get comfortable starting conversations with women and to get comfortable with the occasional rejection. A woman sitting next to you on a bus reading a book you’ve already read is an opportunity.Social Superstar an athlete. A cramped subway car is an opportunity. that’s an opportunity for conversation. And by the time you hit the big game you’d feel a lot less pressure on yourself because you mentally prepared yourself for this moment. You’d never do that. Don’t fall into that trap. take mental notes on what works and what doesn’t. it’s even more important to make notes on what does work so that you can repeat it and fine-tune it. You’d run drills. go for five minutes. the more you get rejected. When you do this. but you never practice or touch a basketball except during big games in front of a large amount of people. Make small talk with the Starbucks barista when waiting for your coffee. With these drills. In fact. You’d take shot after shot after shot in your spare time. pat themselves on the back for it. You achieve that. Start a conversation every day with a different attractive woman. Women’s defenses tend to be down more in these casual daytime situations than they are in a bar or nightclub where they are more guarded due to being hit on incessantly. you don’t have to get a number or pick a woman up. so you’ll experience less rejection and more responsiveness than you would in a nightspot. The same applies for building comfort with women: practice when it doesn’t count and when no one is watching and you’ll be way more confident and perform much better during game time. Ask a woman for her opinion on a cologne or article of clothing you’re considering buying when you’re shopping at the department store. You’d practice by yourself for hours when nothing is on the line and not a lot of people are watching. say a basketball player. and forget to ever repeat that joke or story again.

muscular physique. Second. Don’t use self-deprecating humor. but never at your own expense. Don’t do it. Apologizing for your actions is the right thing to do under some circumstances. weakling you are. never sound desperate to please. because both those tendencies are obstacles to building comfort. When many guys come across a pretty woman. I’m not going to focus on openers and how to start conversations with women. A woman busts their balls a little bit and they backtrack or apologize immediately. But outside of that exception. A friend of mine. Beethoven. recently approached two women at a bar. avoid self-deprecation or anything that lowers your status. Of course use your discretion. Stick to your guns. Then you’ll want to get used to observing and interpreting body language. Nightlife Comfort Since this article is supposed to be about building comfort. They are so afraid of not getting her approval that they almost beg for it. Avoid it at all costs. I’m going to focus on how to build comfort with a woman once you’re already in conversation with her. There are plenty of other articles out there about that. There is one exception to the self-deprecating humor rule: you can use selfdeprecating humor if it’s blatantly insincere and actually points out one of your strengths: for example. I’ll give an example of this. Then you need to focus on using your body language to convey the alpha male impression you want to convey. then you should apologize. Apologizing for who you are and what you believe however is a no-no. you’ll see your bar or nightclub game improve dramatically. It works great because (a) it’s genuinely funny when done right and (b) it points out one of your strengths yet comes off less obnoxious and approval-seeking than outright bragging. if you step on her foot or spill a drink on her. you can joke about what a 95 lb. Then they start over apologizing. Don’t apologize. Be cocky. Once you get used to doing your daily daytime drills and getting comfortable starting and maintaining conversations with women. Make her laugh. the anxiety kicks in and they start getting flustered easily. And that alone is important. The conversation started out well 298 . be playful. don’t apologize for who you are and don’t be afraid to offend.COM it’s not the end of the world. and tease her like she’s your little sister. if you have an athletic.The Best of TSBMAG. First.

you earn their respect and set the foundation for building more comfort. Women do not respect a man they can easily dominate or make uncomfortable. If he apologized. annoying and dickish. Third. but you do want to dial it down as you build more and more rapport with the girl. even playfully. Sometimes when guys get really good at the negging and teasing and see the initial results it gets them. don’t tease or playfully insult her favorite cause or ideology. and if they do not respect you. If she is passionate about fashion and works in the field.Social Superstar enough. ever want to tease a girl about a topic related to her core values. Beethoven responded “We were just discussing how many fat girls there are here tonight. you risk coming off as a real obnoxious prick. And then it goes from being cute and charming to just smug. which would make her lose respect for him. If she’s passionate about politics and is involved in certain causes. For some reason. instead of making the situation better. move around from place to place. don’t mock her chosen field as frivolous or stupid. often does more harm than good Fourth. it would have just highlighted the awkwardness. By never sounding desperate to please and never apologizing for who you are. chosen careers and religious beliefs. and even worse. Not only did he turn that potential negative into a positive. he ended up hooking up with her.” His target’s jaw dropped and she was absolutely mortified. You should keep playful tone and never stop teasing totally. She said “That’s not very nice” and seemed disgusted. why does it bother you? It’s not like you have anything to worry about looking the way you do” and just kept going with the conversation. And you never. put her in a position of dominance. He just looked her up and down and said “Whatever. If she’s heavily into church. don’t mock religion. they go overboard and do it for too long. which would have made her uncomfortable. as these tend to represent a person’s core values and insulting these. know when to stop negging and teasing so much. they will feel uncomfortable around you. Good rule of thumb is to be careful about negging about political stances. Once you start winning a woman over and she is warming up to you. but at some point one of the girls asked Beethoven what he and his friends were discussing earlier. If you just keep negging and teasing at the same level you were when you first started building comfort with her. even if it’s within the bar or club. But Beethoven stuck to his guns. didn’t backtrack and didn’t apologize. changing locations gives the psychological 299 . she is going to want to start getting to know you and building rapport with you.

Moving around from venue to venue also helps build comfort. make sure to touch her whenever you can. The more locations a woman associates with you. you’ve just guaranteed yourself a place in the friend zone. really. if within a bar. but you can find tons of Kino-related articles by Bobby and Mike right here on the TSB Magazine I’m sure. which are very important when building comfort. such as going from one bar to a second bar to lounge to a diner…bouncing around like that gives the psychological impression to a girl that she’s just spent three or four mini-dates with you and she’ll feel more comfort with you than if you spent that exact same amount of time talking to her rooted to one spot. In the pickup community they call it “Kino. Or on the flip side.The Best of TSBMAG. With ex-es. don’t overdo it. Sixth. Then go to another part of the bar. but it’s not that hard. while it’s cool to playfully bring up sex.” but it’s something my friend and I always made sure to do before we ever knew what it was called. she may have a lot of unresolved anger toward him. do not dwell too deeply into conversation about ex's (hers or yours) and specific approaches toward sex. But there’s also the risk that she may end up talking about him at length and getting nostalgic about him and talking about how much she still loves him. It’s an illusion. These things can backfire too easily if you don’t know what you’re doing. Light. If you build comfort without building attraction at the same time. Fifth. If you know how to dance. the more time she feels like she’s spent with you and the more comfortable she feels. harmless conversation. playful touching conveys sexual interest and builds attraction and sexual tension. For example. and suddenly the attraction mood is dead and you’re on the road to becoming her emotional tampon as she drones on and on about how much feelings she has for him. it can end up being a light. 10 minutes later take her to some couches to sit down. I’m not going to go into the specifics of playful touching here. You don’t want to come off as hyperactive and spastic and moving around every 30 seconds. A conversation will get stale quickly and turn into the foundation for a friend zone relationship if you never touch her during the conversation. but it works. take her to the dance floor later. lead her to a spot at the bar and order drinks. Take her to another end of the bar and introduce her to some your friends. As with anything. may start venting and getting worked up and then start transferring her issues with her ex 300 . Getting the balance of touching just right so that you don’t come off either too timid or too aggressive takes some trial and error.COM impression that you are spending more time together and bonding more.

Unlike men. she’ll be very cognizant about coming off like a slut to a guy she barely knows and may say something like “I don’t have sex with a guy until three or four months of dating. she’s going to feel obligated to stick to her original conservative statement for fear of looking like a hypocrite or liar. Needless to say. And regarding bringing up specific approaches toward sex. to change their minds you must change their emotions. why guys fear commitment. if you never asked about sex at all things could have happened much more spontaneously. As I mentioned before. it’s going to mentally psyche you out and make you behave less aggressively in your comfort building. 301 . you’ll get a totally different answer than you would if you asked her that same question later on when you have her on an emotional high. here’s an example of how that can backfire. With women. thinking that making her talk about her shitty ex would be a great way to sell myself as a positive alternative. With men. I made this mistake with a woman once. Hope it helps some of you out there. By asking her such a specific sexual questions too early before she’s built comfort and rapport with you. who in this case would be you. women’s attitudes change wildly with their emotional states.Social Superstar specifically and men in general toward the next closest male target. You’ll start believing you have no shot of building much comfort anytime soon. Meanwhile. but I think it’s a pretty good foundation. Instead I spent the night fielding angry questions about why guys cheat. If a woman hasn’t built much attraction and comfort with you yet and you ask her what her attitude is about how soon is too soon to have sex. and I have to get to know him very well first. to change their minds you must change their logic. why guys hurt women…I ended up being her convenient target for everything she hated about men. And on her end. it wasn’t a great comfort-building conversation. even if she gets insanely attracted and comfortable with you later in that same conversation. this isn’t an exhaustive list when it comes to building comfort.” Now that you’ve made her explicitly give a sexual timetable. now that she’s verbally committed to that.

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Day 10 Being Funnier – Make it fun!
Written by Barry Kirkey Originally Published: 06/24/2008

Every woman likes a positive man, and often, positivity takes the form of a good sense of humor. The problem with giving anyone advice about how to become funnier, is that humor is universally subjective. Meaning, every culture, sub-culture or individual decides what is funny on their own. Yeah there are exceptions, people can be told by popular media what they think is funny, but you’re not one of those people because you’re reading this article. Here are some things you can do to become funnier, in chronological order: First, find out what you like. A sense of humor is as unique as your own DNA (simile). They are usually a complex combination of joke types, body language, interest in shows/movies, and so forth. This step should normally be a no-brainer, but you’d be surprised at how so many people dislike comedy. Once you find out what you like, expose yourself to it. Watch those shows and movies that you love. Watch them alone or with friends and family. Learn how to laugh out loud when you watch them, even if you’re by yourself. I would caution you, however, not to “force it down,” meaning if you’re not in the mood to watch a comedy show (sitcoms, late night, etc.) then don’t watch it. If you have the problem of never being in the mood then you need to find out why this is the case. Note: If you’re never in the mood to laugh, you may have other issues that are keeping you down. I suggest you speak to a psychologist, doctor or other professional that can determine why your mood is always down. You might be surprised to learn about what prevents you from doing what you love. This can be something as serious as depression or anxiety. However, it can also mean that you’re still, subconsciously, dealing with unresolved matters in your life (such as, a fight with your dad 6 months ago and you haven’t talked to him since). After enough exposure, you’re ready to take it to the field. Try to avoid copying other jokes directly – those Borat impressions are no longer
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funny, so don’t do them. Unless you’re a naturally funny guy – then you can get away with it, but that’s a whole different article. If you must copy, use a variation of what you’ve learned instead. For example, if you want to do a Seinfeld joke, don’t just start quoting the show. Do your worst and most annoying Seinfeld voice and exaggerate a Seinfeld-type joke as much as you can. Make it ridiculous and unexpected. While all this is going, laugh at your own jokes. Laugh as much as you can and absorb the criticism of others by laughing even more. Here’s why: Laughing is infectious. The more you laugh, the more others around you are likely to laugh as well. Not only that, but let’s consider the whole theory of conditioning by association. If you’re consistently around the same people, doing jokes often, and laughing often, people will associate you with laughter. When this happens, you’ve won the game – you’re known as “the funny guy.” “But Mr. fuckface (me)! How do I use this to get girls!?” Just by statistics, most people end up in quality relationships through other people that you already know (i.e., in the office, friend of a friend or family member). So you get the immediate benefit of being “the funny” guy in your own social circle that way. “But Mr. faggittface (me)! What about girls you don’t know?!” Okay, that’s definitely more difficult, but not impossible. With cold approaches, first impressions are the only thing you have, so make it count. Start off with the best jokes you have, make sure you laugh and you smile. If she looks down on you, make a friendly insult, “wow – someone dropped their funny basket in the toilet today!” and walk on to the next person. If you end up forced into a situation with someone who doesn’t respect your humor then this is particularly challenging, because you can potentially make an enemy without knowing it. Similar to what happened with Darth Vador, it’s difficult to turn someone from being your enemy to your friend, but not impossible. I won’t go into this situation now, because that is a discussion for those who are already polished and comfortable with their own sense of humor… Dun dun dun! Anal.
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Day 11 Mastering the Art of Push-Pull and Cocky-Funny
Written by The Asian Rake Originally Published: 06/25/2008

Do You Want Faster and More Powerful Seductions? How the 80/20 Principle applies to Push-Pull and Cocky-Funny? We’ve all heard about the 80/20 principle first developed by Vilfredo Pareto in the context of the distribution of income and wealth. My experience and observations have shown that the 80/20 rule applies just as well to push-pull and cocky-funny. After closely observing naturals who are masters at crazily rapid escalations and seductions, and after a lot of discussions with PUAs who have really tight game, I’ve discovered an important enhancement to the simplistic push-pull and cocky-funny concepts. This small bit of finetuning can shave a lot of time off your seductions and create much stronger, closer emotional connections. Here’s my thesis statement (yes, I’m an academic, lol): If you want to seduce a woman faster and have her more powerfully attracted to you, the optimal mix for a man who already has his fundamentals down (his body language, tonality, and basic inner game) and is interacting with a confident and attractive woman is 80% pull, 20% push. I’m not going to be too strict about the numbers. But more accurately, the optimal combination depends on how good the man’s fundamentals are and how confident the woman is. It’s a continuum with the upper end of the continuum being 80-20 pull-push. My experience has also been that pull-push is best mixed with humor. Plus, the pull and the push are opposite manifestations of cockiness. With push, you are cocky enough to think that you are too good for the girl, so you push her away. With pull, you are cocky enough to think that you are irresistible to her and to women in general, and you want her, so you pull her in. Although there is plenty to say about this combination of push-pull and cocky-funny, I’ll leave that to another article. My focus here is on the
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80/20 principle applied to the push-pull dynamic. I’ll assume here that it’s obvious that push-pull is closely connected to cocky-funny. For the classic book on push-pull, see Swingcat’s ebook, Real World Seduction. For cocky-funny, the best authority is David DeAngelo. Check out his ebook, Double Your Dating, and his DVD series, Cocky Comedy. I assume at least familiarity with push-pull and cocky-funny as described in these resources. Christian Hudson and Nick Sparks over at The Social Man are about to release a product that incorporates all the concepts in Swingcat and David D.’s books and then takes it all to another level. Watch at their site for the release. We’re good friends, so I’m a little biased, but you can go over there and check it out for yourself: What I say here is NOT for absolute newbie's, who don’t yet have their fundamentals down (body language, tonality, and basic inner game). If you still don’t know what good BL&T looks, sounds, and feels like, stop reading this and figure that out first. My point here applies to elite game. It’s for guys who want to know what it’s like to live in the top 10%, or higher, of men in this world. That’s not to say this is advanced. It’s just not for beginners. A quickie definition of push-pull straight from the pen of Swingcat: “Push-Pull is whenever you emotionally push a woman away from you and, then, emotionally pull her back in. Each Push creates an emotional space for each Pull.” We’ll be filling this out as we go along. Now let’s unpack the thesis statement. While you can succeed using almost any combination of push and pull (e.g., 80% push-20% pull, 50% push-50% pull), the combination that will generate the fastest seductions and most powerful connections is 80-20 pull-push or in other words, 80% pull-20% push. This is true only if the following also hold: a. The man has good fundamentals (good body language, tonality, tight inner game and is hence non-needy, etc.). This also applies if he is physically attractive or is perceived by the woman to have high social value. b. The woman is unusually attractive in the man’s eyes, and she is confident about her value and attractiveness. This relates to Believability. She needs to be able to be confident enough in her self-worth to accept your advances.
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If both those elements are in place, then the fastest and most powerful route to sex is a mix of 80% pull-20% push. [CAVEAT: If the man only has average fundamentals and the woman is only of average confidence in her own attractiveness and value, then the optimal mix is further down the continuum and closer to 50-50 pushpull. This is because pulling a woman closer to you emotionally is only effective when you already have a basic level of attraction from the woman. Of course, we all know that this kind of attraction is largely independent of one’s physical appearance. Over 90% of this kind of attraction is attributable to body language and tonality alone. That’s why I call these the fundamentals. Your attitude and outlook are also crucial to pulling off the right BL&T, so I include inner game as a factor for the sake of completeness.] Pushing a woman away is effective when a woman looks at you and doesn’t expect you to be cocky. It throws her off and is hence funny. It’s like when a precocious child talks like an adult, using mature and sophisticated vocabulary, sentence structure, etc. It’s unexpected and incongruent with the kid’s image, and hence, kind of funny, and if done right, it’s admirable. Now imagine a 50 year old, sophisticated-looking man talking the same way. It’s not funny anymore. It’s just normal and expected. Similarly, when a below average looking guy uses a lot of push cockyfunny, talking as if he’s too good for her and using humorous sarcasm, it’s attractive because the woman begins to wonder, “How can this guy be so cocky? He must have something going for him that I can’t see yet. I’m interested.” And because it’s done in a comedic way, she’s not offended, but rather, intrigued. Now if a guy who has his fundamentals down (good BL&T), a goodlooking guy, or a guy perceived to have high value starts to push her away emotionally, she’s not intrigued. Why? Because it’s obvious why this guy is so cocky. He’s good-looking, high-value, or has an attractive personality. It’s not funny anymore because it’s expected and congruent with his image. He just comes across cocky. For a guy like this to use cocky-funny, he has to really emphasize the humor and really cut down on the cocky part.
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Most people overlook the fact that David D. himself acknowledged this in one of his newsletters: "If you’re a pretty good looking guy, you might turn down the cocky, and turn up the funny. Women perceive good-looking guys who act cocky as MAJOR PLAYERS, and too much cocky too soon can backfire on you.” More accurately, this isn’t just true for guys who are good-looking. If your fundamentals are strong, or you’re perceived as high-value, then it applies just as well to you. It’s the push dynamic that makes these high-value or good-looking guys come across as too unattainable. For guys like this, it’s best to use the pull dynamic more often and save the push dynamic for that 20% of dramatic contrast. And obviously, when a guy with good fundamentals, attractive appearance, or high social value is perceived as a “major player,” it is very bad for his Believability. You can do it the opposite way, of course. You can do mainly push and just a little pull, like 80% push and 20% pull. Or you can be very cocky and only a little funny. Sure, you can get success that way, too. But for the most part, if your fundamentals are already strong, then: 1) You can get much faster seductions by pulling her in more often than you can by pushing her away. 2) You can get the girl to feel a deeper emotional bond with you by pulling more often than pushing. Here’s why: 1. If your fundamentals are good, then you will be a relatively DOMINANT, powerful, and confident man. Hence, girls (and most people in general) will naturally feel like following your lead. So when you tell a girl to sit down, she will feel a strong social and emotional pull to sit down. When you’re emotionally pulling a girl in by telling her to kiss you, she will have to work extra hard to resist. Most girls like a strong, dominant, powerful, confident guy, and many girls have the fantasy of “being taken” by such a man. Any resistance they give to such a man is just token.

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Thus, if you already have good fundamentals (BL&T and basic inner game), and you want to shave massive amounts of time off your seductions, you’re better off pulling the girl in more frequently than pushing her away because the chances are good she will give in more often than not. Ah, but Asian Rake, when you push a girl away, doesn’t she want to pull you in? Isn’t that the whole point of pushing her away? So you can get her to chase you? Yes, to a certain extent, this is true. That’s why you SHOULD STILL PUSH. That’s the all-important 20%. In fact, by pulling most of the time, when you do finally push her away, it’ll feel that much more powerful to her. If you’re a dominant guy, girls will feel pressure to follow your orders, and unless she’s very dominant herself, chances are good that she will NOT pull you in return every time you push her away. Chances are good that if you are a dominant man, when you push her further away, she will follow your lead and remain further away. Assuming the pushes and pulls are of about equal emotional intensity (that’s one variable I’m leaving out here), if you PULL more often than not, she might resist you at first, but then because you’re dominant, she’ll follow your lead and move closer to you emotionally and physically. If you PUSH more often than not, she might resist you at first, but then because you’re a dominant guy, she’ll follow your lead and move further away from you emotionally and physically. Sure you can generate attraction with most combinations of push-pull. But what’s faster to sex? When she’s emotionally and physically closer to you, or when she’s emotionally and physically farther from you? It should be obvious. This is how the best naturals I’ve seen get bathroom lays in less than 15 minutes. It’s pull-pull-pull-pull-PUSH-pull-pull-pull-PUSH-pull-pull-pull to the bathroom. 2. By pulling more often than pushing, you can also create the deep emotional connections much faster.
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” And of course. so I’m going to really keep the heat on… and when she starts to show any interest at all on the outside. probably the best way to illustrate what I mean is through examples. A far more efficient way to develop emotional connections is to pull her in emotionally. truly. of course. One very effective kind of pull technique is in conjunction with screening and qualifying. how can she possibly feel an emotional connection? This should be obvious. is a great example of a pull. Btw. Let’s first talk about the internal mindset behind Push Cocky-Funny. When you stack enough of these. I like that.Social Superstar If you’re continually pushing her away emotionally. Now let’s add the COCKY-FUNNY into the mix. this guy really. 309 . What exactly do I mean by Push Cocky-Funny vs. you are really adventurous. she’ll feel like you really appreciate her for her unique qualities. Pull Cocky-Funny? Once again. PUSH COCKY-FUNNY The prime proponent of this is David D. be indifferent towards her. but this is one of the easiest to do. like sharing secrets and using childhood regression. helpfully lays it all out in his Double Your Dating: I’m going to play hard to get. this is also a key technique for creating the kind of emotional connections that will get girls to fall in love with you FAST. If your Believability game is good then every qualification is actually a pull. For instance. she’ll want to open herself up and continue connecting with you. and generally bust her balls as much as possible. I’m going to blow her off and make her prove to me that she wants me… so I can reject her again. however. There are others. sincerely likes me for my special qualities. David D. “Wow. “Wow.” said in response to her little adventure story. make fun of her. She’ll be saying to herself. I know that she loves a guy that is so sarcastic that it makes her nervous.

“Will you PLEASE stop touching me?” And then look them right in the eye. like if I’m standing next to a girl at a bar.COM You notice that with this mindset. I learned from a natural friend that this sort of thing is best done when you’re a bit over the top or dramatically exaggerated in what you say and in your facial expressions. You’re driving me crazy. follows this up with some now classic examples: I do crazy things. 310 .The Best of TSBMAG. and I jump in front of her with my hands slightly extended in front of my chest in a “stopping” motion with my palms out. (Pull #1) HB (shocked): Huh? Are you crazy? Why? Me (with an incredulous look on my face): Why? I mean. just look at you. When most guys think “cocky-funny. I want your number. with a sigh and a love-sick puppy dog look. This took place near the coat check of a huge nightclub. long-haired beauty walks by. Wow.” PULL COCKY-FUNNY This is my default style of cocky-funny. LOL. “Push Cocky-Funny. I say after lowering my hands) I’m in love with you… Give me your number. I could go on forever. Or say. It should be a crime for you to walk in public. First tell me where you’re from. I’ll turn to her and say in a completely serious voice. as if he needs to sell any more. which is just about the only place in the club where you can talk without speaking right into her ear. tonality. David D. Me: OMG! (Then. but you’re better off reading his eBook or watching his DVD series Cocky Comedy. A super cute.’s materials. “What are you doing at a bar for god sakes? Can’t you find a nice normal guy? Or are you desperate?” All with a completely straight face. which is what I call.” they’re thinking this kind of cocky-funny. you’ll be pushing her away a lot more than you’ll be pulling her in. I never thought I’d be plugging David D. (Pull #3) HB (laughing): No way. and body language. so I’ll give you one of my own examples. (Pull #2) HB (breaking out laughing): Where are you from? Me: From? It doesn’t matter.

(Push #1) HB laughed. I take her hand in mine). (Then. My hands are all cold and sweaty. and then I let her go back to her friends. (Pull #4) HB (laughing): You’re not nervous.” and started walking off. China? Me: Pretty close… (Taking a step closer to her so that we’re inches apart. This sort of Pull Cocky-Funny can get you super fast make outs and. For an example of a fast make out. I said nothing and continued looking fake-mad. In fact. Among the community oldtimers. and she texted back. (Pull #5) HB laughed. Me (stepping out in front of her again and knowing that she’s just teasing and wants me to chase her): No. That was 5 pulls to 1 push. There are many other tales to recount about naturals such as him. wait. you’re making me really nervous. give me your number. “enlightened seduction. HB said (with a smile): “Okay. You’ll have to check back for those. I don’t even think that push was necessary. Me (perking up and letting out a sly smile): Okay. The one push came after 4 pulls. If you haven’t read any of his materials yet. see the LR that features my first encounter with NaturalMD:. asking what I was doing tomorrow… But that’s for another LR.” 311 . some of which you can find elsewhere on my site and some of which I might write about in the future.Social Superstar Me: Okay. bye. HB: Um. … guess. check the mASF archives or google. Zan is probably the best representative of this kind of cockyfunny. I say in a quieter tone. Me (throwing off her hand and looking shocked): Are you calling me a liar? I’ve just confessed my deep dark love for you. Here. as my natural friends have shown.) You know. I texted her about an hour later. We talked a little bit more. You can’t go. You can have the dog. I’ll be so sad… I’m going to go home and cry now (and then I slumped my shoulders as if completely sad and depressed). club bathroom sex. We’re getting a divorce… But I’m keeping the DVDs. feel. HB (laughs): Okay. Another great example comes from Zan. and now you’re calling me a liar? That’s it. Notice the push-pull ratio here.

would it? HER (laughing) No. wink) Really? That’s very interesting. As if she had never resisted me in the first place. ever worry about a woman’s resistance to me. and you are interacting with a confident and attractive woman. I understand… let’s make it 8 then. So her objections don’t even register with him. Pull Cocky-Funny. ZAN: One to drink and one to pour all over your body… HER: You never give up. HER: No thanks. Push Cocky-Funny vs. no problem. Tell me your number and I’ll remember it. then you can get faster seductions and make deeper connections by doing more Pull than Push. But if you have good fundamentals (body language.COM There are so many possibilities to choose from. And keep it all funny. I suppose not… I find this whole exchange completely charming and hilarious. He’s cocky because he believes that she’d be crazy to turn him down. Just about everything he says is a pull. ZAN: (big smile) Hello. and pick up right where I left off. So there you have it.The Best of TSBMAG. her boyfriend objections (or whatever) mean nothing to me. If she says she is not interested and leaves. and basic inner game). tonality. HER: I can’t. 312 . or you have high perceived social value. ZAN: (smile. ZAN: I want to see you. ZAN: Oh. or you’re good-looking. sweetie. I have two bottles of champagne at home. I will pick you up at 7. do you? ZAN: Of course not! Wouldn’t be the same if I did. smile and wink. Both can work. This is the ideal kind of frame to be operating from when doing Pull Cocky-Funny. HER: No! I told you last time I have a boyfriend. around 80%-20% is ideal. Did you miss me? HER: Hardly. I never. I immediately go up to her. ZAN: Oh hey. My boyfriend wouldn’t like it. Zan pulls her in about seven times. so you’re still seeing Norman? HER: Uh… his name’s not Norman. but this conversation of his has stuck in my mind for a while now: ZAN: Come out with me for a drink tonight. But if I ever see her again. In other words.

By avoiding eye contact with people not only are you giving off a low status vibe. Subconsciously people slouch because they are timid and don’t want attention on them. Doing any of these things immediately screams that you are not comfortable in your present situation. Body Language mistakes 1. Fiddling with Things. They are afraid that if they catch eye contact with someone they will be forced to talk or smile or do something else beyond their comfort zone. Less confident people tend to look down a lot. It portrays an image that you are socially awkward and unable to properly socialize. but you’re missing out on opportunities to connect with other human beings. Avoiding Eye Contact. 2. They do this because it is a way of avoiding making a connection with someone. and quickly correct them. and taking up as little space as possible. People try to blend in with the crowd by slumping their shoulders. other people with run their hand through their hair. 3.Social Superstar Day 12 Body Language 101 Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published:06/26/2008 The first thing you need to accept about your body language is that right now you’re probably completely unaware of the mistakes that you are making. others will juggle the loose change in their pocket. By taking the time to first break any of these bad habits you may have. 313 . Their insecurity eats away at them and they feel forced to constantly be moving their hands. you will be making it possible to accept the new habits I will talk about later. The first part of this lesson I want to make you aware of the different ways you are conveying low status. For me. Slouching over is a way of keeping a low profile. Touching Your Face. Hopefully by being consciously aware of these mistakes you can catch yourself in the act. bowing their heads. Some people will rub their chin or neck. it took watching myself on video a few times to really appreciate how many mistakes I was actually making. When people feel insecure or nervous they start to have trouble sitting still. Slouching Over.

5. Habit 3: Keep your muscles relaxed.COM 4. Don’t slouch and look sloppy. Habit 1: Make it a practice to hold eye contact with everyone that you meet. and which guys will fail. In the beginning you will need to constantly be checking yourself. hold eye contact about 50% of the time. When we tend to get nervous we tense up in the jaw. The unsuccessful guys are the ones bent over leaning forward. as they appear to have nothing to offer. If you think she can’t hear you… talk louder. Body Language Habits of the Alpha Male This second part of this lesson is designed to improve your body language and replace the negative habits you may have been displaying. Leaning Forward to Talk to Someone. This is especially true of your facial muscles. 314 . It can also give off the impression that you’re uncomfortable with the way you look and are trying to hide your face.. Holding Your Face up with Your Hand. Habit 7: Take up space when you sit. A quick glance around a room can tell you which guys are going to succeed with the women they are talking to. If you’re talking to a group of people switch eye contact up between the different members of the group… but always be holding it with someone. The idea is to take up some space.The Best of TSBMAG. Spread yourself out a bit. Create a little game with yourself to remind yourself to pay attention to your posture. Habit 5: Push your chest out a bit and pull your shoulders back. but don’t be afraid to get comfortable. Habit 6: You should keep your feet about as far apart as your shoulders. This is another habit you will have to check often to avoid falling back into the old habit of slouching. These are not the kind of people other people want to interact with. causing her to move toward him. A smile displays a positive energy that is infectious. Habit 4: Smile often. If you don’t have a naturally attractive smile than you should practice in front of a mirror. It displays a lack of enthusiasm and energy towards life.. If someone else is talking to you. This displays the image that you’re too bored or tired to bother holding up your head straight. You need to keep your face free of this stress. Tell your friends to point this out to you. While doing the talking you should be holding eye contact for the majority of the time. Habit 2: Get in the habit of walking around with your head up and your neck straight. The successful guys are usually relaxed leaning away from the girl.

Learn how to speak with a deeper voice. Don’t do it! Learn to lean back. how to change facial expressions slowly… and how to gesture slowly. Try never to appear to be in a hurry or flustered. When talking to someone avoid clutching on to your beer or putting your hands in your pocket. how to blink slowly. It takes time and determination to break a bad habit and replace it with a new one. The trick to pulling all these habits together is to use slow calculated gestures. Habit 10: Use hand gestures when telling a story. learn how to speak slower… and how to articulate every word better. While technically it isn’t body language. relax. do it slowly like it doesn’t embarrass you that she noticed. Add more bass to your voice. This is especially true when walking through a bar… you never want to give off the vibe that you’re looking for the cool place to be. it hurts”. chest puffed out a bit. Also. neck up. squeaky voices that convey the message: “I’m not confident… I have no self esteem”.” Try learning how to turn your head slowly. Habit 9: Avoid making sudden hyper gestures. and take big slow steps. If you want to attract beautiful women. Most people speak with weak. Learn to speak from down in your chest and stomach. you’re going to need to take a few lessons from Barry White. If you’re giving a girl a once over. Body language and voice tone habits are not easy to change. and become comfortable with the tension that comes from silence. This kind of body language transmits the message: “I’m so comfortable in my own skin. 315 . Also walk with direction.Social Superstar Habit 8: Walk with confidence and power. Become comfortable pausing… it creates anticipation. all the same rules apply to it. Every gesture you make should flow naturally at the same speed as your previous gestures. But if you implement these habits over rest of these 31 days you will find that eventually it will become natural to you. and feel like they need to talk because they’re nervous. This means your head should be high. Most guys talk too much. shoulders back. You want to give off the vibe that you know where it is and already are heading there. If you’re grabbing a drink off the bar take it at a speed that says “I’m in no hurry. On the subject of body language… voice tone is insanely important. too fast.

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and the interactions I’ve have with guys that aren’t having any problems in the “woman” department.) First and foremost. or get them to see that whatever’s going on it their life really isn’t that bad at all. hair) Your Body (best inner game changer… EVER!) If you can get these 4 aspects of your “game” down… you’ll CRUSH most men. They are: The Opinion Opener Teasing Your Look (clothes. let me just say that this article is NOT going to be some PROFOUND. Teasing is also a great way to shake someone out of a funk. In fact. the whole point of teasing is to create a fun environment where women can loosen up and open up to you. This is just a collection of what I KNOW to be true from my personal life. Here’s what I mean: 318 .COM Day 14 How to Properly Tease a Woman Written by Brad Howard Originally Published: 06/30/2008 Before I start. (Note: I DO NOT do this for a living. complicated. I don’t view it as a way to “pull” a woman down to your level. no matter how good looking she is I find that if you’re pulling YOURSELF down to HER level… you’ll find better success. piece of work that I’m trying to make sound more insightful than it probably is… It seems that everyone is doing that nowadays and I think that the message that people are trying to convey is getting lost in the fray. So… with that aside… let's get to it… let's talk a little about my way of teasing women… and how it sparks sexual tension. here are the MOST important “things” that if you get down that will make the most impact in your dating/relationship life… bar none. That being said. I’m not out at bars testing out my latest and greatest “teasing” method… nor do I really expect YOU to be.The Best of TSBMAG.

I’ll throw out some self-depreciating humor as BAIT to get the ball rolling. It’s meant to be fun. She feels uncomfortable now… and the conversation takes a negative tone. Don’t use teasing to “knock” a woman down. you might hear someone tell you to say.Social Superstar I like to use self depreciating humor to set up teasing. everything is working for you tonight EXCEPT those shoes… where did you get those?” Is there a way to say this so that it works? Absolutely. Teasing works BEST with women that you already know… or that you’ve just met through a circle of friends (especially if you have a bit of notoriety amongst the group for being a fun guy). I just picked ‘em up and I always seem to screw this up… ha-ha”. 319 . A woman’s ego is like a glass house and teasing in this way COULD be like throwing a ROCK into it. It might work for some. Would I RECOMMEND that you try it if you’re a rookie at the whole “teasing” game? Um… HELL NO! And here’s why. that I DON’T condone. many times. “Setting up TEASE BAIT” Teasing is no fun if only one person is doing it. If you’re playful. To which you could say something like. and ask a woman “I need your opinion on something… and be BRUTAL… what do you think of these shoes. For instance. Here’s the thing about teasing though. “You know. Where did you get your special talent (smile)?” And that’s just for opening someone up. The WHOLE POINT of teasing is to make the woman FEEL GOOD by being around you. For instance. “Ah ha! I KNEW you were some type of shoe guru. she’s likely to be playful back. So. if you come from a place of strength. but I don’t usually use it.

what you’re up to…You may continue… (smile. Nelly… I know you’re just trying to get me drunk so you can take me home and do dirty things to me. (smile) Her: “Whatever. Her: “(maybe changing subject)” You: (laughing) “You can change the subject if you want. So you say: “Yeah. the reason this works is because people (women) can see how SECURE you are with yourself because MOST men would NEVER tell a story in which THEY were the one being made fun of. yeah. This works REALLY well. On closer look. confident guy… you don’t take yourself so seriously) So maybe I’ll tell a fun story that people can laugh at (like the time I locked myself out of my hotel room NAKED and had to walk down to the desk NAKED to get another key) and then ACCUSE people of having similar stories. You don’t have to keep beating around the bush. Again. wink) This also works well if you want to take it to a sexual level. POWERFUL STUFF here. just say so. Basically.COM (The KEY to self-depreciating humor is that although you’re a strong. yeah I know… ha-ha). if you wanna ask me out. but they are just too scared to tell anyone about them. but just remember that I KNOW (point to head). Who knows. You: “Whoa. really… it won’t make you a lesser person (smile). “The Accusation Tease” This one is FUN. if you get on one knee and smile really pretty… I MIGHT even say yes…” Her: “I AM NOT!” You: “It’s okay.The Best of TSBMAG. all you’re doing is ACCUSING the other person of trying to do something that YOU want to happen. I use this ALL the time. Let’s say that you want to ask a person out on a date (bland. I am not” 320 . I get it… Look.

you’re a guy and that’s what guys want. I couldn’t think of a better term for this but here’s the gist of it. blah. this is what happened)” You: (Smiling) “Wow. You: (Smiling) “Are you going to get in a better mood… huh… are you? Her: “Stop it!” 321 . Start slow at first. Here’s a hint. I’ve had such a shitty day… (blah. keep in mind that these ARE NOT serious conversations. Like a little bit. Using the accusation tease is a SURE way to get her to give you a “love tap”… or punch on the arm… or a light shove. To which you can reply: “Dang. Here’s what you do: Her: “Man.Social Superstar You: “Man. we can go on and on with this but I hope you get my drift. or even a woman that you just met has had a really rotten day… but you want some sex… because. would that mean you wouldn’t hang out any more? I TOTALLY expected more out of you. They are tongue in check and playful. why is it that every woman thinks that she can buy you a drink and then try to get in your pants.) If she doesn’t snap out of her funk with this. we now have to employ our most SECRET WEAPON… “The Tickle Tease” NOTHING changes the tone of a conversation faster than some “good ole” tickling. Missy… (whisper) it’s gonna take more than one (smile) Guys. feeling me up already and we just got here… geez…” “The Frame-Banging Tease” Okay.” (You’re doing this to show her that it’s CRAZINESS for her to feel like she’s feeling… naturally. well. What would you do if I lost my hair all of the sudden. I never expected YOU to let (someone/something) get under your skin like this. Say your woman.

That always works great. For example. When you are teasing a woman. Or… and this is always fun. all while showing your strength as a man. because I could literally go on forever on this topic… physical humor and teasing ROCKS. If you’re walking side by side and there is a physical object on her side… slowly start walking her into it. I can’t help the fact that almost everyone else in life is lame. make sure that it’s fun for HER… but that you are ALSO AMUSING YOURSELF at the SAME TIME. That’s fun too. I like to think of it as “playing with myself” without all the mess. so I stole that from “Stripes”… shoot me) Then you just start kissing and BLAMMO! Bumming Monkeys Time. Wow.The Best of TSBMAG. Fun Stuff. I also like walking up behind my woman and “shanking” her if she has on sweats or loose shorts in the house… and then ACT like I’m going to do it when we’re out in public. by the way) “Physical Teasing” Before I end this. Teasing is a fun way to build attraction and BOOKS have been written on the subject. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had people ask me: “You just trip yourself out don’t you?” Me: “Absolutely.COM You: (tickling) “Are you in a better mood yet? Tell me I’m the greatest ever… who’s your buddy… who’s your pal… (okay. Here’s my final tip on teasing… and pay attention because this is important. you bonk her nose with your finger. I can’t believe I just said BLAMMO… ha-ha (The above statement is a great example of self depreciating humor. 322 . bring back the old school “You’ve Got Something On Your Shirt” gag… where you point at a spot on her shirt and when she looks down. It’s the ULTIMATE way of flirting and getting her to chase you.

323 . with a touch of self depreciation as well) That’s it. laughing… Note: Having fun.Social Superstar You should try it sometime instead of living in “lame-o land”. I’m done. (smiling.

The Best of TSBMAG. You should really view them as an online hang out. clubs. you can use social networking sites to connect with and meet like-minded new friends. It’s not just for young people either.COM Day 15 How to Create a Kick Ass MySpace and Facebook Profile Written by Race de Priest Originally Published: 07/01/2008 WHY ONLINE GAME ROCKS AND HOW YOU CAN GET STARTED RIGHT NOW Now that the internet is such a big part of our lives. So how are you supposed to go about meeting and dating women from online? Is a woman weird for meeting a guy from sites like MySpace and Facebook? Can you actually legitimately meet sane AND hot women from online? Every time there is a new way of doing something it takes time for people to get comfortable with it. a bar. In fact. In many respects the idea of meeting people online is still fairly new. at any given point in time there are more women online than there are in every bar in your city combined. And because it is continually becoming more and more socially acceptable these same girls are open to meeting up with guys they met online. bookstores and coffee shops are on social networking sites. The girl next door. Just as you would go to the mall.000 new users a day. the hot bartender. And guess what???…half of those are women! WHAT TYPES OF GIRLS ARE ON THESE SITES? Social networking sites are different than traditional dating sites. that cute girl standing in line at Starbuck’s today are all online.000 new users joining every day from around the world. but there are also 324 . Obviously these sites are overflowing with women in their early 20’s and 30’s. the coffee shop or a club to hang out and meet new people. The fact of the matter is the same women you meet out at bars. Facebook is close behind with about 250. there are well over 200 million members on MySpace alone with around 300. but thanks to the emergence and popularity of social networking sites like MySpace and Facebook this is all changing.

At the same time you will be corresponding with several different women simultaneously so there is no bother if a particular girl doesn’t respond. there is no “fear of rejection”. or Asian Slender or Athletic body No Children Straight Social Drinker Non smoker Some College or College Graduate Within 5 miles of your zip You can literally search for the exact type of woman you are looking for. Many of the world's best PUA’s and Social 325 . If a girl does not respond you simply move on…no harm no foul. Say you want a girl who is: Between 22 and 26 5′0″-5′7″ Single/divorced Christian White. she is just a picture and some text. She can’t shoot you down or embarrass you in front of her friends or other people. THERE IS NO APPROACH ANXIETY ONLINE There is absolutely no social pressure when messaging women online. In a sense. This is a relief for many guys who have trouble knowing what to say. As you can see. Pacific Islander. the reasons to add online game as a way to meet and date women is quite compelling. Do you really want to miss out on such an easy way to meet all these women? I didn’t think so.Social Superstar tons of women between 34 to 44 as well. It’s like owning a bar where the bouncer only let’s in girls that fit exactly what you want. she gets to see a more accurate picture of who you are while allowing you to learn at your own pace how to successfully interact with women. You have as much time as you need to craft the perfect response. When you are relaxed at your house you are more able to come up with an authentic responses. In addition. But it gets even better… IMAGINE A BAR FULL OF WOMEN HANDPICKED BY YOU When you meet women from sites like MySpace and Facebook you can literally browse and filter so that only the types of women you are looking for show up.

books. what you look like. etc. Hyves. what type of lifestyle you live. what kind of job you have or what you do. There are many elements that go into setting up your profile correctly. Friendster. if other women are attracted to you. your interests (i.COM Artists still maintain their online profiles despite meeting women out in person because it is just too good not too. what kind of friends you have.The Best of TSBMAG. your profile says a lot about you. a girl can figure out if you have any attractive qualities. From your profile alone. you need to create a profile that connects with that type of girl. Match. go to the profiles of the types of girls you want to attract and copy their style or the style of the guy friends they have. your hobbies. If you want a bad girl with tattoos. and somewhat of how popular you are. Simplicity and Readability 326 . After all. HOW TO GET STARTED MEETING ALL THOSE CUTE GIRLS ONLINE The fist crucial step in meeting all those hot girls you see online is setting up your profile correctly. if you are unsure. Orkut. favorite movies. Here are the major things to keep in mind as you design your profile: Keep in mind the type of girl you want to attract. it literally WORKS FOR YOU! It’s like having your own personal PR firm who goes ahead of you and gets all the girls excited about wanting to meet you when you arrive. and music). Think of your profile as the online equivalent of your first impression. This is huge! Once you set your profile up correctly. Once again. But the underlying principles are universal and many of the guys we have successfully coached used them all over the world on sites like Bebo.e. Now the question is… HOW DO I SET UP MY PROFILE SO IT ATTRACTS WOMEN? Note: I will be specifically focusing on MySpace and Facebook because these are by far the largest social networking sites on the planet. Remember to create a profile that is appealing to the type of girl you want to attract. It will form the basis for what a woman thinks about you and how she will interact with you.

etc. I don’t care”. the beautiful women you hang out with every weekend. List movies like The Little Mermaid. Things you DONT WANT to do in your About Me section: • DO NOT try to sell yourself by talking about how cool you are. It is better to be brief yet have variety and keep her guessing. They will most likely see this and say “I don’t know you. And girls who don’t know you have no reason to spend their time reading about you unless you’ve compelled them to. and hobby interests. and music by artists like the Spice Girls. Be goofy. 327 . white text on a black background or any light on dark color scheme). Show her you are not a tool. the beautiful women you hang out with. etc. simplicity and readability is the key. Girls who don’t know you have no reason to spend their time reading about you. you will be perceived as trying too hard to gain approval. You want your profile to be as easy to read as possible. DO NOT write your life story. than to write your whole life story and bore her. Women will abandon your profile quickly if it takes too much effort to get an idea of who you are. When to write and what to write Take careful consideration about what you write about yourself. You will be perceived as trying too hard to gain approval. DO NOT be overly offensive DO NOT have terrible grammar/misspellings • • • Things you WANT to do in your About Me section: • • • Be Diverse List a variety of music. movies. You don’t need to go overboard in this area. the fun things you do. the fun things you do.Social Superstar Your mom was right about making things legible. If you try to write about how cool you are. A good way to start out is to use a solid background with contrasting text colors (i.e.

You know what you want and you have enough options so that if a girl does not match up. Having standards indicates abundance and a strong sense of identity. fun.COM • When writing it is better to be brief yet have variety and keep her guessing. clever rather than cool. • Be Creative In your About Me section.” It doesn’t have to be long. Don’t say “I’m new to this whole MySpace/Facebook thing” or “all my friends are on here so I figured I would create an account. “I love meeting new people” or “I surround myself with positive. You can even leave out your interests. Make her curious to find out more about you. Again. Use Disqualifying Statements Create a small list of disqualifiers. you can let her go.” Talk about things like.The Best of TSBMAG. Here are a few examples of disqualifying statements: Rules for being my MySpace/Facebook friend: • • • • • No liars (unless you are flirting) No flaky people No granny panties! (unless you are actually a grandma ) No psycho stalker chicks! I don’t care how hot you think you are! No BORING PEOPLE … You must be fun Another option is to put up a qualifying statement on your page. Here is one that we have used and has been very effective placed under the Who I’d Like to Meet section on MySpace or the About Me section on Facebook: “If you are cute rather than hot. than to write your whole life story and bore her. giving her more reason to search for a connection with you. you want to be an enigma she wants to figure out. we need just enough to intrigue her. spontaneous. and outrageous people. A disqualifier is any statement that demonstrates you have standards by declaring that the recipient is unqualified or ineligible for you. petite 328 . Going back to the characteristics women screen for. but not so much as to bore her. be creative.

Why not make it as good as possible? The following are some guidelines to follow when choosing what pictures to use: Use a variety You want to have pictures depicting you doing a variety of different activities. Women like men who know what they want. If you do not know what you want. women like a man with some depth to him. put your pictures up on a photo-rating site like www.photobucket.Social Superstar rather than slim. and that is one of the most important first steps to attracting a woman online. Embed pictures into your profile We have found that actually embedding pictures into your profile is the easiest and most effective way to make a great first impression on girls. then the other seven are creating a bad impression. and see which ones receive the highest rating. these will be a woman’s first impression of you. On MySpace. If you upload ten pictures and you only look good in three of them. now is the time to sit down and figure it out. you just need to add an application like Big Photo or Slideshows. then I would like to meet you.com or your own MySpace photo album. This allows a girl to get a snapshot of how exciting and fun you are. your page is your way of demonstrating how cool and how socially desirable you are. It is as if each picture is showing off a different side of your personality. It would be far better to only have those three in which you look your best.” You must show that you have standards. some partying with hot girls. the first step is to upload your pictures to an image hosting site like www. As we have already learned. If in doubt.com. On Facebook.HotorNot. some of you with your niece or your dog. Use a range of pictures showing different aspects of your personality. You don’t want to have twelve pictures of you drinking beer with your buddies. Choose only the best Choose only the pictures in which you look the best. a challenge to figure out. 329 . Your pictures can make her curious. A PICTURE IS WORTH A THOUSAND WORDS The pictures you choose to use on your profile are vitally important. etc. They want a man with a sense of mystery. Remember. Have some action shots. some travel shots. some doing something goofy. In most cases.

projectplaylist.e.e. If you don’t have any. Otherwise make it a group picture with cute girls in it. Using a playlist is even better.com/images/pic.com/images/pic. Interests. make sure you are in good shape and doing an activity where it is appropriate to have it off (i.).jpg” width=”400”> <br /> Where http://www. You can find music on MySpace in the Music section. This technique will ensure that your images are not too large and that they’re easy to view.COM Next.imagehost. This is just one more way for her to connect with you. make it either a really good/professional picture (no wannabe modeling pictures with your shirt off please).The Best of TSBMAG. Girls love to make other girls jealous! Caution: If you are going to put up a picture of you with your shirt off. paste the following HTML code into any section you want the photo to show up (i. which you can get to from the main navigation bar at the top of the page. or one of you doing something exciting like surfing. go out to a club and tell the hottest girl you can find that you need some new MySpace/Facebook pictures to make your ex-girlfriend jealous. don’t put up a picture of you shirtless…EVER! OTHER USEFUL ATTRACTION ELEMENTS AND TIPS Use Music Music is a great way to connect with girls. We have received so many comments on the songs we have chosen. About Me. playing football. Hint: write funny captions to go along with your pictures to demonstrate even more of your personality Just paste the following HTML code above the embed image code shown above: <div><font size=+2>Picture caption</font></div> Main profile picture For your main profile picture. etc. at the beach. if you are going to put up a picture of just yourself. The playlist tool we use is: www. But just to be safe.com. Who I’d like to Meet): <img src=”http://www.imagehost. That way you can have a whole variety of music. posing in front of the Eiffel Tower. rock-climbing. etc. By specifying the width property in the <img> tag you ensure that your photos will have a consistent width (the height of the image will be adjusted automatically to maintain the original aspect ratio).jpg will be re-placed with the URL pointing to your image. dancing. 330 .

text td. it would be counterproductive for them to see that you have messaged other girls with the same or even similar messages For this reason. so why do it online? While the mini-feed makes it convenient to see what your friends are up to online. td.ztext table . By default it lists all kinds of information like who you wrote to. td.text td.} td.text td.} td.text td.text span.} td. td.border:0.orangetext15.btext {display:none.text table table table.text . she will definitely wonder.text table {background-color:transparent.text td. turning off) most if not all of the notifications. which you can get using the technique we’ll cover next. You can modify your privacy settings by clicking on the “privacy” link next to the “logout” link in the top right corner. and I don’t want to put my friends’ lives in peril. Facebook also lists all of your recent actions on the site through a system called Mini-Feed. and even when you add a friend! For the simple fact that you are going to be messaging multiple girls. what you wrote.} </style> We recommend you do this anyway.text td.text table table td {padding:3. If she can’t see your friends and sees a number of comments from gorgeous looking girls.text td.e.text td. they can also see what you are up to. You don’t randomly give your personal contact information to people you don’t know. td. “They all kept getting jealous about who was #1” or “I am a secret agent. 331 . just say something like.text td.Social Superstar Hide your Friends List (MYSPACE ONLY) If you are just starting and have no friends. td.text td.} td. comments you received.text table table br {display:inline. If she ever asks you why your friends are hidden.padding:0. we recommend you configure the privacy settings for News Feed and Mini-Feed by unchecking (i.text table br.” Adjust your Privacy Settings (FACEBOOK ONLY) There is far more of your personal contact information available to the general public on Facebook than on MySpace. We suggest that you remove all of your personal information such as email addresses and cell phone numbers.redlink. comments you made.text table td.text table {height:0. you can place this code in any section to hide your friends list: <style type=”text/css”> td.

Make your profile easy to read. Thanks. demonstrate that there are a variety of different people that enjoy your company and show that you can have fun and laugh at yourself. It’s brilliant! Note: Make sure to use this technique with girls outside your area. show that you have a diverse personality. Having your profile set up correctly will literally supercharge your success with women online and put you light 332 . So when a new girl looks at your page and sees all these other attractive girls writing sexy things about you. . This adds an air of mystique and ensures you don’t tap out potential girls in your area. The dorkiest girl I can find Can you guess which one you are? Haha…so if you could help me out I will name my first born child after you… ha-ha j/k but I would really appreciate it . The hottest girl I can find 2. THINK OF IT AS YOUR OWN PERSONAL COMMERCIAL All in all think about your profile as your own personal commercial. The cutest girl I can find 3. This mystery builds attraction.{your name/screen name/nickname} or Subject: Strange Question Body: My crazy friends are sending me on an online scavenger hunt (I didn’t even know they had those?) for my (put in bday or some event that compels her to want to help you) and I have to get a sassy/fun comment on my page from the following: 1. Could you leave a comment to make her jealous? You know how it is…haha. A girl should be able to look at your profile and very quickly get an idea of what you are all about.COM Create Instant Social Proof To get comments on your MySpace page or Facebook wall from beautiful women just use this message: Subject: I was wondering … Body: My ex is stalking my profile. she will wonder what makes you so sexy.(name) These comments will give you social proof.The Best of TSBMAG.

Race 333 . Remember to have fun with this and if you have any questions feel free to ask. Cheers.Social Superstar years ahead of all those other guys out there leaving your competition in the dust.

or losers-only pastime to a necessary skill. running…). flirting online has gone from a geeks. to scoring a one-night stand. ran. it’s important that you have a great profile. odds are that you have a profile on some kind of social networking site. If you are the one searching. in today’s increasingly technological world. 3. that can be used in almost any situation. Most searches that you will run are “keyword” searches (though many online dating services let you set all types of parameters via advanced search forms). it’s important to understand how search engines work. Pre-emptive flirting: creating a great profile. There are three main types of online flirting: 1. The vast majority of our flirting techniques were developed for situations in which people were connecting face-to-face. To have a great profile. you need to (1) come up in as many searches as possible. 2. to simply being social. Later-stages flirting: keeping the momentum. and (2) deliver the goods once someone clicks on your profile. to run a successful search you are better off putting in a noun: runner. both physical and verbal. We flirt for a variety of purposes–from screening for a long-term partner.COM Day 16 Tips for Flirting Online Written by Honey Originally Published: 07/02/2008 Flirting consists of a variety of tactics. Early-stages flirting: the first few e-mails and/or texts. Because people are becoming increasingly accessible online (you can find out far more about far more people in a day via their profiles than you could in person). However. Creating a Great Profile Whether you have a subscription to an online dating service or not. 334 . As far as coming up in random searches. Verbs don’t usually fare too well in keyword searches because there are so many conjugations (run.The Best of TSBMAG.

Tell stories. While you don’t want to go on and on. to catch people you might have missed. sipping on a Jeremiah Red and talking about how Robert Downey Jr. Well. if you like to run. Ask questions. Man up and give the lady (or fella) some real communication. if you’re into that—I’m not. then how can you come off as a person of value if you don’t have anything to offer beyond clichés? The First Few E-mails Unsurprisingly. these half-ass forms of communication are reviled 335 . and once they have an answer in their head. List specifics. the most important thing is specificity. or “poke” them or any of that gay sh#t. he almost spit his beer out! What a waste of a great porter. However. you might also put jogger or marathon in your profile. And don’t be afraid to ask questions—a nice rhetorical question gets the other person thinking about how they’d answer.Social Superstar When you are creating your own profile. If you’re running a search and come up empty the first time. ever. For example. you can find me at BJ’s brewery with friends. and watch movies. the two big keys to a great profile are making sure your profile is upbeat (no one wants to date a bummer) and saying something of substance. When I told my buddy that I thought The Mummy: Tomb of the Dragon Emperor stood a chance of being decent. one caveat is never.’s performance saved Iron Man. Once someone gets to your profile. Tell stories. you’ll come up. you could try some synonyms as well. for reasons I’ll explain) is pretty similar to my advice about profiles. List specifics. For heaven’s sake. that’s no accident. How about you and I go see it and then tell my friend how wrong he was about Jet Li?” Now the first thing you’ll probably notice is that the second example is much longer. my advice about the first few e-mails (or online chats. For anyone who’s been on these types of sites for any amount of time at all. This is especially important because no matter which of the three terms someone searches for. “wink” at someone. have fun.” “On any given Tuesday. they’re halfway to e-mailing you! There’s a huge difference between the following: • • “I like to hang out with friends. you can easily increase the likelihood of coming up in other people’s searches by using synonyms. if the online world is like a giant bar.

I sent him a one-line e-mail. Now a year later he’s there to greet me when I get home from work!”). When he e-mailed to ask.The Best of TSBMAG. you should definitely respond back with an email. I looked for his owners. and our first couple of interactions followed the pattern above. and also starts to build a non-threatening sexual vibe (”Maybe we should meet up at the dog park Saturday afternoon? I promise. The reason for this is that the other person will then offer their digits without you having to weaken your position at all by asking! I met my BF on MySpace. so half your work is already done for you! You can tease them about using a wink at some point later on. and word it as a compliment ("I couldn’t help but be excited when I noticed that you are an animal lover”).e. I said. i. I don’t add people that I haven’t met in person. if someone winks at you and you at all like their profile. Say something specific that you liked about their profile. and he e-mailed me back to say that we had a favorite author in common.COM and make you seem wussy (which. • • I’m not a believer in asking for the digits but rather proposing the meetup. only one of us bites…”).” He said. “I’m sorry. “How about beer on Friday?” And that was our first date… The reason that I’m going to come out against online chat is that (and I know this is a personal pet peeve) I hate all that misspelling and “textspeak. but never found them. You know they’re interested. As a question that escalates the interaction to the next level. damnit! And since I type about 70 wpm 336 . Now. a phone call or a meeting. in a seemingly contradictory move. if you’re too chicken to make a real first move. you kinda are). After a couple exchanges he tried to add me as a friend and couldn’t because he didn’t know my last name.” Type real words. The formula for a great early e-mail is pretty simple: • • If they e-mailed or winked at you first. but last summer I found an abandoned Jack Russell in the parking lot of my complex. Tell a story from your own experience that relates to what you liked about their profile (”I’ve never been a dog person. thank them for doing so.

make a mild sexual comment. use real words. a flirty e-mail is a great tool to keep in touch. and body language is lost when it’s just a window on someone’s computer screen. Best of luck! 337 .Social Superstar and hardly anyone else does. and make sure you’re not e-mailing a work account. If they suggest chatting. since so many nuances. not to come across as desperate or stalker-ish. and don’t you dare send that second e-mail until you hear back from her first. and keep your interactions light and fun. Tease. Don’t send more than two e-mails per day. and the keys are paying attention to the other person. you should be teasing her with the promise of your presence. Keep it light! You should be making deep connections in person—trying to do so over e-mail just makes you a bummer. Again. or just say how much you’re looking forward to your next meetup. • • Flirting is an art. it’s pretty tough for me to come off as anything except overly chatty. Keeping the Momentum Once you’ve met in person. not overwhelming her with super-long e-mails (which also kind of make you look like a loser who has nothing better to do in your spare time). I like e-mail because you can control the length and content as well as proofread for spelling and other errors before you hit “send. the goal is to sustain momentum. avoiding clichés at all costs. sustain momentum. tone. go for it—just remember the possible cons. • Keep your e-mails brief and stick to one topic. spell everything correctly. The big tips: Again.” It’s just much easier to put your best foot forward when you use e-mail as your medium. and knowing when enough’s enough.

You think to yourself “SWEET!! I’m in”. You see a hot chick at a club. Here is the thing. You end up calling her a couple of days later. So you call again and finally you get an answer. You talk to her expecting that things are going to pick up where you left off and are utterly stunned when she starts making excuses as to why she can’t meet up with you. You still don’t get a response.. She doesn’t pick up. shopping centre or the tennis club. You are left scratching your head. thinking to yourself “where did it go wrong?” So here is the thing. 338 .. She says that she will get back to you and she never does.Don’t Contact Her for At Least 48 Hours I know it sounds hard doesn’t it? But you have to stick by these rules. Because when you can't wait for the 48 hours you appear needy and in need of a life. To some of you it doesn’t make sense. Well I’m going to lay out for you what is REALLY happening and what you really SHOULD be doing. I have been on dates with guys and literally like 2 minutes after the date they are messaging me and telling me what a great time they had on the date and how they would like to see me again.COM Day 17 Phone Game Strategy Written by Hot Alpha Female Originally Published: 07/03/2008 So let me paint the picture. Rule # 1 . You build up the guts to talk to her. to ask her out on a date. Sound good? Let's get started. make her laugh and somehow manage to get her number.The Best of TSBMAG. You think 'hey she is busy' and you try again later that same day. like the rule book suggests. Some of you may be baffled by this whole situation.

But it does mean that for the moment you operate within a certain guidelines until you have internalized all this “game stuff” … so bear with me ok? So as part of this. Let her know that you are on her radar and that you will be in contact with her soon.. stick to the rule of messaging her first before you call her. Just make sure that when you follow this rule that you don’t wait too long after 48 hours. The only thing that runs through my mind is. You can mess with a girl and pretend that you are not interested. Every girl is comfortable with texting. stalker. So in other words you are going to have to look like something that she would want to date/buy. Now the main agenda with text is to warm her up. Rule # 2 .Send Her A Text Msg First You know scoring a date is kind of like making a sale. you don’t have to think on the spot. It means that you can actually think about what you want to write. Except the item that you are selling is yourself. Banter a lot. It's like an instant turn off. Now as a general rule with messaging keep it short and sweet. So do it not only as a favor for me. See it's great for us and is great for you too. but for all the other poor girls out there. but don’t get into these messaging conversations. If a guy texts us within 2 days of us handing out our number then that is sufficient enough for us to know that you are interested without appearing really needy and wussy. Anything more than 4 days and the girl (if she is interested in you) starts to get pissed because you didn’t call her within that “calling period” and she assumes that you are not interested. And there is no logical way to explain it. but this is not one of those instances. Now that doesn’t mean being something that you are not. and ewwww. get a life. In fact we like them more to begin with.Social Superstar Then I have also had guys who send me a message straight after a date and then send me another one 30 minutes later wondering why I haven’t sent them a reply yet.. At the absolute 339 .

Maybe refer to a joke that you had previously found funny with her and give her updated content on it. Essentially you want to get her back into the same state as she was in when she gave you that phone number. 340 . This will bring her back to that place and help her feel more comfortable with you. That’s the thing with phone calls. then he would call her within a minute or so. But just because it’s a short amount of time. Some of my friends have trouble with this. Always be the one to end the messaging conversation. because they feel in control by being the ones to have the last say. He found that significantly increased his chance of getting to speak to her. You actually want to keep things fairly casual and most importantly keep it brief. But one of the things that I heard one of the guys does on David D’s cds. because she would have to be close to her phone in order to send the msg right?! Brilliant idea and I suggest that all you guys use it. doesn’t mean that you don’t have your work cut out for you! The first thing that you want to do when you call the girl is to break the ice and get her laughing. You want to be able to establish comfort before you can even consider asking her out. The best way to do this is to refer to something that happened when you last saw her.Msg Her and Then Call Her Ok so I have to admit that this is not something that I came up with.Keep It Light And Keep It Casual Ok so when you call her for the first time after she has given you her phone number then it's not a good time to start going into a deep and meaningful conversation. you are the one that has to stop sending her msgs.The Best of TSBMAG. This means that when the conversation is nearing an end. Rule # 4 . But you have to look at it from the point of view that YOU are the one in control because you have the strength to stop the messaging first =) Rule # 3 .COM maximum make sure that you only send 2-3 msgs in one conversation. If a girl doesn’t think that she will be comfortable with you or will be able to trust you then she will not even consider going on that date with you. He would msg this girl and then when she replied back.

like you and trust you . then you can say something a little ball busting and then get her to give you a call back. be prepared for a voicemail and know what you are going to say as well. But seriously don’t talk too long. If you are constantly trying to impede on her space then she is totally not going to appreciate it. Break the ice and get her to laugh before you even consider asking her out. All you have to get a chick to do.Keep It Short and Sweet This kind of follows on from the other points.Social Superstar So remember the rule. is know you. Like 5 minutes. There is nothing worse than a long winded voicemail msg with a guy who doesn’t know what he is talking about. You don’t have to repeat your number and all that crap. keep it light and keep it casual.. Two or more becomes stalkerish.. I know it sounds silly but its true and this is what goes through a chick's head.Leave one voicemail that’s IT! If you have to leave a voicemail then make sure that its only one. just leave a short msg and then hang up. She doesn’t have to know about all your past relationships before you guys go on a date.and then you can get her to go anywhere and do just about anything with her. When calling a girl. Give her the gift of missing you ok? So with a voice mail you need to remember to keep it short and sweet. As a general rule with this whole gaming and dating thing … Less is always MORE! Seriously… You don’t have to get an update of what this chick has been doing in the past 2 days. Rule # 5 . When courting a girl. you need to remember to give her the space to think about you. Rule # 6 . So in regards to what you should say. who is wasting your time and YOUR credit! Random Tips 341 .

COM Some of you may be wondering how many times you should call before giving up.. Here’s a tip. If you find her being more quiet that usual.The Best of TSBMAG. Persistence is not the only tool you need. Remember to warm a girl up to you. In regards to what you should talk to her about … your main aim is to bust her balls.. make her laugh and have a good time. You can tell that a girl has warmed up to you when she is laughing at your jokes and the conversation is flowing. If you message a girl and she doesn’t message you back. There is no point in doing the wrong things over and over hoping that you will get a positive result in the end. then your chances of getting to talk to her again are much higher. it means that she is comfortable with you. You have to do what works. If the girl messages back. then there is something up and she is not comfortable. then you need to know that you are going to have to do some major work on getting this girl to go on a date with you. When a girl talks with ease. and this message contained some call to action on her behalf. Now with that said … Now I want to see better conversion rates ok? *winks* 342 . Firstly you should message first. Keep it short and sweet and always leave her wanting more. because A) she thinks that you are a freak or B) she hasn’t warmed up to you yet.

and supplement your lines with smiley's and other emoticons. 4. around 30. Obviously. Here’s how it breaks down: Flirting When used in the right ways. WTF is a good one. etc). such as OMG or WTF.3. and the girls I socialize with are high value woman in their mid or late 20’s that are educated. I have a few exceptions here. use it! Don’t use cutesy textspeak (ur instead of your. Quick scheduling or announcements when I’m on the go. To get the high value woman. because you avoid the profanity but still express surprise or shock.Social Superstar Day 18 Text Game for the Pua Written by Lance Originally Published: 07/07/2008 Text game is an integral part of my arsenal. Since item 4 is fairly self-explanatory. and pretty much everyone has it on their 343 . but the quality that sets it apart is immediacy. consider this. language is part and parcel of what pickup is all about. Before I get started. I use a few acronyms. Using textspeak on a 28 year woman with an MBA would totally deattract her. Why the big deal about grammar and spelling? Because if you’re using good English. you’re coming from a position of high value and it shows you have a command of language. Texting has similar properties to flirting over email (or sending messages using facebook or myspace). I’ll focus on 1 . Okay. Also. Maintaining a connection. 2. flirting via text is very effective. This also sets you apart from the legions of dorks who can’t spell worth a crap. 3. Flirting. Good spelling and punctuation. Everyone has a cell phone. I’m a bit older. I want to say a few words about writing style. use punctuation. Escalation. I use texting for the following reasons: 1. keep your language as tight as possible.

I’d love to hear some perspectives. It’ll pump her up and get her thinking about how cool you are. I’ll use this to spur a longer text conversation and then mix in some “normal” text conversation. you’re a great kisser WOW!” “You’re the cutest Leo EVER rawr. There’s nothing wrong with a compliment as long as you’ve established a strong masculine frame during the date. then you’re more popular…at least that seems to be the psychology. just ate lunch at this great Thai place.” “Had a blast.COM person at all times. One way I flirt over text is to send messages that will compel her to write back. 344 . you should banter back and forth for a bit. This gets her thinking about you and this method can be used to maintain a connection or escalate. interesting. conversation was great. Conversely. The key is being playful. I’ll use texts as a direct compliment. If you send a text. and fun. it just depends on the direction you want to go. the other person is going to read it within a few seconds. it’s possible that person won’t read it until the evening or the next day if you’re sending it to a personal account (and you should…don’t send flirty emails to a work or business account). ie basic flirting. either in the same night or the next morning. Once she responds. If you’re a chick and you’re getting dozens more texts than the next girl. but I think some people derive a certain degree of social clout from the number of texts they get. If anyone wants to dive into point.The Best of TSBMAG. Everyone loves to receive text messages! I haven’t delved into this.” All of these messages are intended to come out of the blue and compel her to write back and ask what it is you’re talking about. Not only that. I often do this after a first date. it’s crazy. such as asking how her day went. but getting a text is like a little treat that breaks up the monotony of your day. “You looked totally sexy in that dress.” This creates a strong statement of interest and let’s her know that you’re absolutely interested in going further. It’s like playing a little game. This dialogue establishes that you’re a normal guy and not a player (ha-ha) or merely a flirt. Here are a couple of examples: “Hey. if you send an email. you would love it!” “Guess what I’m doing right now…it’s f’ing awesome!” “Just read your horoscope.

Social Superstar Maintain a Connection If I’ve number closed a chick and I know I can’t see her again until the next weekend. but I think it’s really true. You can use the same lines from above. Your goal should be very simple. but here are another couple of examples that initiate a value giving conversation: “Holy sh*t. if you’re really slick. OR. Keep in mind that pickups are tenuous affairs and flakes can happen at any time…texting helps to cement a future meetup. I like texting during the day when I know she’s at work.com and hit her with one.” What’s great about the horoscope thing is you can look up the quickie horoscopes on astrology.” Escalation Texts are a great way to introduce or maintain a sexual frame. I rarely do fluff talk in these instances because you’ll risk losing the attraction by seeming mundane. Let’s face it. For instance. The key here is to flirt and be a bit mysterious so that she’s compelled to see you when you ask for a first meetup. I’ll mix this in with a couple of emails. just make her smile! Credit Sean Deacon on that one. This can be great fun and it’s an easy way to escalate.” 345 . it’s the hot guy you met an hour ago. Don’t be afraid to cut loose. and hot monkey sex.yahoo. I’ve never met a girl who didn’t like getting her horoscope. such as a laugh. Monday at the office sucks (if you’ve got an office job) and getting flirty texts can be a real pick-me-up. if you did a quick 5′ pickup and number closed a girl with a minimum of sexual framing. you can hit her like this: “Hey. drama. a two line story. the craziest thing just happened to me!” “Your horoscope is insane today. you’ve got that sexy nerdy look RAWR. some MySpace stuff. what are you doing??” “I loved your glasses. you can make one up on the spot and sex it up a little. and a phone call or two to maintain the connection until I see her again. Here’s an example: “The planets are aligned–today is a day for secrets. or a horoscope (astrology is chick crack). Usually what I do when maintaining a connection is to offer a bit of value.” “We should have talked to you longer DAMN you’re cute. I’ll text her just a little bit during the week to remind her who I am. As with everything else you should calibrate.

Hit her with texts that have a sexual tone and just plow forward. but you’re going to have to work extra hard for me.)” Work your basic push-pull and teasing in there. and if you’re calibrated properly and pumping out good lines. sexy texts. All of these lines are examples and you should easily be able to come up with your own. Chicks eat this up. dating or FBs).COM This way you’re either establishing a sexual tone or maintaining one and getting her excited about thinking about you. this shit kills. Let’s say you’ve had sex once and you’re setting a date for next Friday night.” “Three guesses what I’m doing…if you get it wrong. She’ll follow your lead and likely respond back with flirty. you can and should use text as a way to maintain attraction. I’ll meet you for drinks.” “My mom warned me about girls like you. This shows you’re playful and flirty and will get her into a sexual state of mind.e. Try these: “Okay. You can do pretty much the same things if you’ve already had a date with a minimum of Kino or maybe just a kiss close. 346 .” “Happy hour on Friday…Don’t worry.” If you’re deep into a sexual frame with a chick. I won’t let you take advantage of me . you’re getting spanked. OMG I could barely keep my hands off you!!” “I can tell you’re going to be trouble. I’ll still flirt because it’s a hell of a lot of fun and it gets her hot for the Lance cock. I’m a big fan of these: “Had a blast. or if you’ve already had sex with her and plan on doing it again (i.The Best of TSBMAG. Even if I’m dating someone and I know I can nail her whenever I want.

ready to give a “primetime” night to someone you just met. but if your goal is to get into her pants as fast as possible. Since first dates are mostly a talking affair. you must go for drinks. 4. it’s very hard not to get at least a make out if she’s had three drinks in her. 3. Here are a few things to make them more successful. Plus chances are she will be busier on weekends anyway. Even if the date is short of a blockbuster. The more you have your internal game straightened out and 347 .Social Superstar Day 19 How to Go on First Dates Written by Roosh V Originally Published: 07/08/2008 Besides sex. 1. But I guarantee you she is more nervous than you are. Pick the right day. There is no way you can memorize enough routines for a two hour or more date. especially with the pressure of getting laid hanging over your head. Pick the right venue. 2. Preparation. well. real and this is where I hope your vibe is fun and interesting. The worst thing you can do is lounge around at home all day in front of your computer and then go out without talking beforehand. Weekend dates send the wrong message that you value her too much. If not then dates will be a challenge. She’s more nervous than you are. I also remind myself of a handful of innocent touching moves that prime her for the kiss. You have two people who barely know each other alone and isolated with sexual tension and possibility in the air. It’s natural to be nervous. Stick to Monday through Thursday for the first date. The only thing I do before dates is have two fun routines ready. simply because she’s a girl and we all know the ones who can’t even go to the bathroom without a friend. usually the cube and some type of fake palm read. especially if you haven’t kissed her yet. Start the date at a quiet bar well after dinner so you don’t have to worry about getting food. Quick tip: On your way to dates call up a couple friends and shoot the shit for a while. You’re going to have to be. Don’t try to do a first date on a weekend. and even if you can it would be a stupid waste of energy. you want that part of your brain ready. You can get a lot done taking girls to coffee and ice cream dates. first dates are the most fun part of the game.

you can’t make the assumption there will be a second. I cannot stress how important this is. mill around for a while until you are late. Whether this is reality or not doesn’t matter… just believe it. It took me about six years of constant practice but I figured out the “vibe”. Focus on escalation. As you probably noticed. twirling and spinning for your pleasure. I also stumbled on half a dozen touching 348 .The Best of TSBMAG. The farther you get on the first date. it’s still a smart idea to go for it as you drop her home because it makes your job much easier for the second date. Plus even if the date goes well.COM believe a girl should prove her value to you. but even before that I remember my strategy to getting kisses used to be hoping and wishing she’d make the move and do it on her own. I made A LOT of stupid mistakes when first starting out in the game. the less work you have to do on a second. Even if you arrive early. This is especially useful on dates when you're focused less on routines than when you first approach. I sucked it up when I had enough and just started approaching like a machine. Go for the lay. While you don’t want to sound like a total idiot on the date. That’s your number one goal. I have a friend who shows up fifteen minutes late and I’m not sure that is extreme or not but I’m always at least five minutes later. I was too scared I would get rejected and look like an idiot. 7. A little bit of preparation goes a long way in dates and it makes sense to do because you worked hard to meet her and get her out and don’t want to blow it with stupid mistakes. 5. but then the drinks get in your system and it becomes natural. a mindset that keeps your game on without trying to game. 6. The first half hour will have almost no touching probably. The kiss will be a foregone conclusion. You want to stir up some anxiety and fear that she’s being stood up so that her insecurities are driven inward instead of on you. the less you will be nervous. How about if her long lost ex boyfriend calls the next day? You’ll kick yourself if you didn’t push as far as you could get. Think of her on a stage. where she judges you and picks for flaws. then touching her hands and putting your arm behind her in the booth of the lounge you picked. the reason you kiss her will be more because of the touching than the conversation. Show up late. going on dates every week and noting what worked and what didn’t. A touch here or there that gets extended as the night goes on. most of the work in turning out a good first date is done before you even show up. Even if you don’t think you will get the lay on the same night.

and also the idea of the multi-venue date system to increase rapport and trust.Social Superstar moves that help escalate on dates and in the bedroom. 349 . I share all this and a lot more in my book Bang. Of course it’s backed by my Bust out the Condoms Guarantee.

What day this week do you want to play tennis” (we had talked about playing tennis on the date) She didn’t respond to the email for a couple days. it was that the ones I was meeting just weren’t up to my standards. A little while after going on the site I started an online flirtation with this cute Filipino girl. she was even hotter than her online photos portrayed her to be. About that time I went on Match. and teasing one another… it was genuinely the best date I had in months. all she wrote was “I had a good time too. When she arrived at my house.The Best of TSBMAG. she came back to my house for a bit.” She never mentioned the tennis invite. She didn’t answer so I left a message. And although it had only been one day since I saw her. things went even better. It was not so much that I wasn’t meeting any. These girls were falling for me quickly. I sent her an email that night. Although I didn’t get a kiss that night. and the evening ended on a high note. My better judgment told me to wait a day or two before contacting her again… but I couldn’t help it. Within minutes of talking to her I was already feeling like this was going to be different. it felt like an eternity. Mid way through the date I was already imagining our future together. The next day I couldn’t stop thinking about her. You are a really funny guy. When she did respond. When we got to the bar. I was really starting to believe that either there were no quality girls left in the world. The conversation was flowing naturally. doing shots together. Something along the lines of “had a really great time last night. She never called me back.COM Day 20 How to Get a Day Two Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 07/08/2008 A few years ago I was going through a slump with women. and I would soon have to break their hearts. We made arrangements to meet. or that I just couldn’t attract the ones I wanted. She would write me these long rambling emails at four in the morning (that were just the most amusing things to read)… and I soon found myself very attracted to her. I waited a week then emailed her again “Guess we didn’t connect as much 350 .com. we were laughing a lot. It was depressing me. I was sensing a connection I didn’t feel with the other girls. The night I got her email I called her.

I really believed that I had experienced a connection with the Filipino girl. With the Filipino girl. Once I decided that I liked her I started working too hard to impress her. Girls can sense when you’re investing more than they are. I kept telling her how fun she was. I let my guard down. Below I’m going to go over the mistakes I made on that meeting. and it will immediately lower your value and put her in the position of being the prize. We hadn’t even finished our first date and I was already asking her to play tennis together. I dropped all “player” mode and started to open up with her way to soon. Normally I would never show my hand on a date… I would always keep the girl guessing what was going through my mind. This put me in the position to be the prize. I began really analyzing what went wrong… and it became painfully obvious why she had no desire to see me again. The one girl I actually felt a connection with didn’t even have interest in a second date. Resorting to Nice Guy Lines. I would sit back and let them prove their worth to me. Mistakes that will Prevent Day Two Too quickly deciding that you like her.” AGHHH I kept bringing up plans for a second date. She wrote back the next day saying “Sorry I’ve just been busy. 351 . The previous girls that I was dating I was always the one doing the judging. My hope is that by reading through these mistakes I made you might be able to notice a thing or two that you’re doing that might be preventing you from getting a second date. You’re really nice… I’m just not sure what I’m looking for right now in terms of relationships. Because I felt there was this “connection” there. to go see a movie she mentioned. I remember at one point I was smiling. I was way too attached to the outcome of the date.” BAM it was over. Because I felt so comfortable with her I felt at ease to tell her about my recent trouble finding a girl I really liked. and she asked “what?” and I said “You’re just really cute.Social Superstar as I thought” or something AFC like that. I truly believed she was feeling the same way. I was complimenting her way too much. I decided too soon that I liked her. The mistake I made on this date was that I gave too much away.

I threw it all away by contacting her the next night. Although we were having a good time together. I was in “nice guy mode”. But that particular night I felt compelled to try to make plans to immediately see her again. even on dates with girls I didn’t like. and was scared to ruin the evening by “moving too fast. If she really had a good time she would be going crazy waiting for my call. Once we got to the bar. Remember. she quickly took the role of leader. I used the fact that we had such a good time as a reason to call the next day. always be the one who ends it.” I would very rarely make any physical contact. The whole time she’s waiting for my call my value is increasing in her mind by leaps and bounds. Normally. 352 .The Best of TSBMAG.COM Not Escalating Kino. I would be advancing towards sex after an hour into the date. By making immediate plans you don’t give the girl the joy of wondering when she’s going to hear from you again.” Trying to Plan the Next Meeting Before the Date Ended. and have always naturally done since her. The minute I contacted her. The less sure she is in her status with you. In Bang. When the bar got crowded. a large part of attraction occurs when the girl is away from you and thinking about you. It was like I was so scared of making a wrong move that I gave all power to her.’ When you don’t call. Roosh says “always say ’see you soon’ when you end a date.” That was something that I always naturally did before her. About midnight she is the one to say “it's getting late we should get going. and when I did I would quickly pull away as to not scare her. her brain is going “Does he want me?” That is what you want her brain thinking. she was the one who suggested we go on the dance floor. the more time she is going to spend thinking about you. she was the one who suggested that we move to a table in the back. Contacting her too Soon After Day One. Here I was 2 hours into a great date and I was scared to leave my hand on her waist for more than a second. Let her Call the Shots. She was the one suggesting what to drink. The fact that we had such a good time should have been used as a reason to wait a few days to call. I even broke one of my cardinal date rules. when the DJ played a song she liked. her brain went “OK I have this guy… now let me decide if I want him.

Roosh gave you a perfect strategy for day one. 353 . So how do you get a day two? If you want to know how to get a day two… the answer is to not make these mistakes on day one. As many mistakes as I made on the date itself. Whenever she delayed contacted me. I got needy and contacted her right away. I still believe I could have savaged it if I was able to stay cool during our contacts post date.Social Superstar Acting Needy When She Wasn’t Responding Quick Enough. If you follow his strategy and avoid the mistakes listed in this lesson than you should be having no trouble getting second dates. Unfortunately I wasn’t. And when I sensed she was blowing me off… I did the worst possible thing my sending her a message stating my feelings and trying to guilt her into seeing me again.

I dated a guy who I shared a wonderful friendship with before going for the plunge. and the onlooker throws his soda at the screen. we’ve known each other too long to let something like a relationship ruin our friendship.” And so. Friends have several things in common. We both know we are not ready for that. Think Top Gun (Tom Cruise) 354 . Escalating the Sexual Tension Here are some subtle things a guy can do to fan the flames of burning attraction and cross the border between friends and friends-withbenefits: 1. but don’t have sex. if our wholesome scenes were to be made into a movie.Not porn. it’s the ‘chemistry’ that happens between individuals who like each other.The Best of TSBMAG. In simple terms. the devil called ‘friendship conscience’ comes in to ruin everything.COM Day 21 Building Sexual Tension Written by Evil Woobie Originally Published: 07/10/2008 Sexual tension happens when two individuals feel attracted to each other. and could go on and on for a lifetime without the individuals concerned acting on it. We’d see each other constantly and while all the things we did were wholesome. they communicate a lot and spend time together. watch a movie with a story line that involves sexual tension . It doesn’t always lead to sex. At what point does the attraction build so that individuals enjoying a platonic friendship just let go and freely act on the attraction? This happens when sexual tension peaks. At one or the other’s place. nothing happens. though usually it does. there was an undercurrent of attraction that can’t be ignored. mind you. The following words echo through our minds: “Hey. at least not yet. In fact. When Sparks Fly Extreme attraction develops under the safe haven of friendship. the viewer would be most likely banging his head on his popcorn saying “get on with it already!” The main trouble is that whenever we are in alone dates. but one that has a gripping plot and an explosive love scene.

Since you know that she’s also into you. If you must describe making love. Give her the power of seduction. Because you’re friends. Once you overcome the sexual tension that’s been plaguing your relationship. It took all of my self control to prevent myself from just kissing you in a dark corner when we met for lunch” will convey the message that you appreciate her efforts to look her best. Encourage her to talk about her fantasies. while sharing yours. very good friends. 3. Sexy Phone Conversation . This is because you feel protected from an extreme reaction by your monitor and the x-mark on top of your browser. The basis of which is that fear results in the same biological effects as sexual arousal i. casually mention that you’re wearing only boxers because the humidity is killing you (or my favorite. “I just took a shower”). you are now free to continue a stronger friendship that will last for years and years to come. stimulated senses. ditch the romance movies and rent a thriller.Social Superstar and Disclosure (Demi Moore). make her feel that her voice and the theme of your conversation are turning you progressively on. Or better yet. regardless if it developed into a more serious one or not 355 . Sex is not the End. Online chat . being very. this will translate as sincere admiration more than harassment. do NOT mention another girl’s name. She already knows that you like her.While you bore her with the details of your soccer practice. Saying something like “you really looked sexy today during class. particularly if she’s feeling a bit naughty.There are things that you can tell a person you feel attraction for online that you cannot say to her face. rapid heartbeat. this could lead to more prolific things. bit by bit. Some studies have shown that good horror films can be more sexually arousing than romance or even porn. The trick is not to sound too eager. now it’s time to let her know that you think she’s hot. say “when a girl kisses my ear…” or something similar. but the Start of Better Things You are still very. very scared is always an excuse to cuddle up. And for goodness’ sake.e. Besides. 2.

Focus your dusting on everything that can be seen.The Best of TSBMAG. furnishing. A Guideline for keeping your place clean 1. sofa. TV. Second. Your place should serve a couple purposes. Many times you will have someone you barely know back at your place. 2. Stains just reek of low class.COM Day 22 Preparing Your Bachelor Pad Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 07/11/2008 This lesson is going to be a guideline for some general rules when it comes to maintaining your place. What your goal should be is for your place to be a reflection of yourself. Third. the fundamentals will always stay the same. tables. Get rid of stains. your place should provide some interesting conversation pieces for those visiting. Although you want create an “at home feel” for yourself. you don’t want to overwhelm visitors with your personal taste. Your best self that is. or decor for them to comment on. Dust. The most important areas are surfaces that are visible such as corners. or your counter is filled with grease… 356 . If your floor has splashes of spaghetti sauce. One of the most important ways to make your place a comfortable place for both you and the women in your life to spend time at is to keep it clean.000 a year. you should feel comfortable there. your place should provide an environment that makes the women feel insanely comfortable. Obviously if you are in high school or college your place is going to look a little different than someone out of college making $100. The more comfortable they feel at your place the more likely they will be to spend time there. First. While your choice of decor may change. The easiest way to relieve that tension is to have a bunch of interesting pictures. floors.

You should have air fresheners for the kitchen and bathroom. You want to use this for your benefit and not against you. Make sure your computer is dusted off. This is often a spot you will find yourself at with a girl listening to music or watching a video clip. Keep the towels hanging nicely. Keep the place stocked with toilet paper. 357 . or anything that would gross a girl out is gone. If you’ve been living with the smell for awhile chances are you won’t even notice it. what looks clean to us. It is important to get other people’s perspective on the smell of your place. If your couches have stains on them cover them with some kind of soft blanket. It's always safe to constantly be clearing it. mirrors. Your bathroom must be impeccable. Bad smelling homes are immediately associated with dirty people. A Guideline for keeping your place smelling good There is nothing that will turn a woman off quicker than walking into a place that smells like crap. The sense of smell is closely associated with arousal. Make sure the toilet bowl smells good and looks clean. The last thing you want is a girl not coming over because she’s too grossed out to use the bathroom. 3. The same can be said for mirrors and glass tables. I can’t tell you how many guys I know have messed things up with a girl by giving her the opportunity browse through his computer while he was in the shower. 5. If there is one area that girls will judge you the most on it's the way you keep your bathroom. Clean your computer area. and most importantly… CLEAR YOUR BROWSING HISTORY ON YOUR COMPUTER. your desk is in order. Wipe down windows. Windows are an easy thing to clean and will make the room appear much nicer when they don’t have dust and smudges reflecting off of them.Social Superstar get it up. 4. The other rooms I would recommend using candles. Get rid of all hair in tub and sink. Candles smell good and create a nice atmosphere. doesn’t necessarily look clean to them. Make sure all stains and crud. and glass table. Remember. You never know what’s on there.

Lighting is one the most important elements of creating a good ambiance. Decor This is the area where your personal taste sometimes has to be compromised a bit. sneakers lying all over our bedroom. Don’t leave random stuff lying around. Put your clothes away. pants. If there are items laying around that you no longer make use of. This is so simple. they should not be the most prominent items on display. yet so many of us continue to leave shirts. these need to be changed often. 358 . either throw them away or put them in the basement or garage. and sports memorabilia. I would usually recommend purchasing a dimmer that allows you to pull the lights up or down based on the mood. blankets. While all of these items have a place in your home. and pillows. movie posters. Dump ashtrays regularly Take out the garbage daily Put gym gear in the laundry room Food remains should be wiped up immediately • • • • A Guideline for keeping the place neat and tidy • Get rid of all clutter. While you want to reflect your personality you don’t want to look like The 40 Year old Virgin with rooms filled with toys. Especially in the summer time.COM Below are some certain items you want to be aware of that may be contributing to a bad smell in your place. • • A Guideline for making your place more comfortable to women Lighting Lighting makes a huge difference in the appearance of your place.The Best of TSBMAG. • Dirty sheets. It communicates that you are a disorganized person.

Another good habit to get into is making your bed every morning. A fun thing to do is have some frozen cocktails on hand. I found several magazine articles that celebrated the style of Buenos Aires and then I created a look around those. I would buy items as I could afford them. it's always nice to be able to offer for her to join you in a glass a wine. Once you have a good mattress purchase a nice comforter set to go along with it. On that note. I bought 90% of the framed art work.Social Superstar The best idea is to find a style that you like. When a girl comes back to your place. It is a safe bet to always have a couple bottles of wine lying around. and window treatments online. Bedding It goes without saying that you want your bed to be inviting as possible. never knows when he’ll be taking a new girl home. and when I found something I liked. he must always be prepared for an overnight guest. and then slowly decorate the place to match that style. you want to make sure that your glasses and silverware are always clean. I painted the place with Latin colors and then slowly found items that complimented the room. Once I knew what style I was going for I began searching for items on Ebay and Amazon that would fit into the decor. The best way to do this is to not cheap out on a good mattress. pictures. This new strategy of decorating my place over the course of a couple months allowed me to search these sites. wall decorations. and stock a small bar with liquor. purchase it as the money became available. Making her a margarita is always a nice way to break the tension and enjoy a good drink. I also tend to keep a six pack in the fridge. Since a true player. In the past I would try to go out and decorate my new place in a weekend. I find the best way to shop for home decor is online. You always want to keep about four pillows on your bed. I decided I wanted my place to have the feel of Buenos Aires. Beverages You always want to have either bottled or filtered water available. My old strategy caused me to purchase a lot of cheap items all at once. For me. Entertainment and Props 359 .

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I mentioned earlier that your place should provide some interesting conversation pieces. This means that you should frame some “story worthy” photos and have them lying around. These photos will serve to demonstrate your personality as well as offer you a chance to tell some good stories. I mentioned yesterday how a good coffee table book can initiate conversation and break the tension of bringing a girl back your place. It's not a bad idea to keep some props lying around. Props include things like personality tests, interesting quizzes, this lie detector test, or other fun games. It's also not a bad idea to keep a stack of reliable DVDs lying around. These should be a good mix of romantic movies, comedies, and interesting documentaries. You never know what kind of mood the two of you will be in when you arrive at your place, and it's good to have a variety to choose from. Another good idea is to be constantly DVRing interesting things on TV. This allows you to always have something of value to throw on. An absolute great addition to your living room is Nintendo WII. This is a video game system that women finally seem to enjoy as much, if not more, than men. It's great because it can introduce some competitive flirting and offers a dynamic opportunity for Kino. This should all be a great guideline for you to transform your place into an excellent bachelor bad. Remember that the main purpose of your place is to have you and her feel comfortable and to provide some entertainment for the two of you.

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Day 23 Quick Lesson in Kino
Written by The Dicknotist Originally Published: 07/14/2008

If you’re reading this, you’re probably looking for ways to obtain more sex in your life. Perhaps you want something more than just sex …or perhaps not. Either way, what separates true sex from porn is that the former involves touch whereas the latter is viewed through the pixels of a computer screen. Sex cannot happen without contact and neither can seduction. Too many guys make the mistake of focusing all their efforts on conversation and while your words may peak her interest, your touch is what will drive her wild with intense desire. From the moment a woman lays eyes on you, she’s unconsciously wondering how you’ll be in bed. Will you take charge as she surrenders her body to you or will you look to her on what to do? Will you be affectionate and attentive to her needs or will you just slam it in a few times and leave? Do you actually know what you’re doing in the bedroom or will she have to teach you like all the other guys? All of that is conveyed through your eye contact and touch. We’ve all read the now famous DiCarlo Escalation Ladder (DEL), which will give you the nuts and bolts of what to do, but not necessarily the mindset behind it. Guys who aren’t used to touching women will just lay their hands on her as if they’re in a video game. They earn five points for every time they brush her arm or tap her back. When I touch a woman, I don’t play for points; I play for pleasure. When I think of touch, I imagine that my hands are like paintbrushes plastering my emotions onto her body. Call me the Jackson Pollack of seduction: I paint her arms her arms and torso now so that I can sprinkle some more on her face later…with my other special brush. So, when first talking to a girl, I will often just lightly touch her outer arms and torso with my fingers as I’m talking to her. I see it as expressive: you touch her as you talk to emphasize important points. That touch is more subtle and friendly, aimed at just making her comfortable and more trusting. During high points in the interaction, however, your touch should become more appreciative. Touch serves two purposes: to emphasize what you’re saying to her and to appreciate her. An example of appreciation could be that in talking to
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her, she reveals that she works as a nurse. That immediately peaks your interest as your mom was a nurse and you realize the resiliency and compassion necessary for the job. Rather than just telling her how awesome that is, you should also touch her arm and hold it there a few seconds longer than usual and perhaps even stroke it. Expressive touch is like a period: light and quick. Appreciative touch is like an exclamation point, lasting a good 2-3 seconds. Yet the point isn’t for you to have this in your head while talking to a woman but to give you a context for which touch can amplify and supercharge your game. When you touch her, touch her as if you’re already making love to her. Cup your hand as you touch her back and cup the back of her shoulder blades. Don’t forget her sensitive spots, including her inner arms, behind her knees, the skin fold on the other side of her elbow. Later on in the interaction, touching her neck, ears, thighs, breasts will amplify her desire. Don’t be afraid to graze her breasts! Graze them now so you can glaze them later. You can get away with murder in the field as long as you are relaxed and slow down. Calibration is simply the act of doing things much more slowly, which includes walking, talking, and touching. You may be nervous, but if you can slow down your actions, you will be seen as confident and in control. Of course, touch is best demonstrated by viewing and trying it yourself. An excellent resource on touch is The Joy of Erotic Massage, which takes you through more than you’ll ever need to give women incredible pleasure with your touch from the first meet to sex. You can purchase a copy on Amazon, though you’ll probably be able to get it free through other means… I hope that when you read this essay and even see the video above, you will get some fresh ideas on how to use touch to build trust and sexual tension. Yet, to get the most out of any endeavor, you must go out and hit the field. Experiment and develop your own style. Innovation never comes from passively reading and watching. Like any man of character, you must act.

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Day 24 Body Language 202
Written by Dr. Fuji Originally Published: 07/15/2008

Body language is one of the most underrated, overlooked, and powerful elements in your social arsenal. The classic study on the elements of communication by Professor Albert Mehrabian (1971, “Silent Messages” Wadsworth, Belmont, California) found that nonverbal communication accounts for as much as 93% of all communication. Body language itself makes up more than half of that. So it should come as no surprise that what you say isn’t near as important as how and when you say it. In cold approach pick up, the individual who uses body language effectively often has significantly better results than his less-enlightened counterparts. In this article we’ll be delving into the use of body language to convey high value, how to show interest or disinterest non-verbally, and fixing common sticking points and pitfalls. Let’s begin. An interesting thing about body language is that it tends to override your verbal. In other words, people will believe your nonverbal communication more than even what you actually say. So if your verbally sub communicate high value but your non-verbal says the opposite, people will tend to trust the body language over the words. While seemingly counter-intuitive, the fact is most people tend to place more trust in forms of communication that are harder to consciously alter. We can lie with our words quite easily. Lying with our body language is much more difficult. Because your body language is so incredibly consistent, women especially have found that it’s generally a very effective way to evaluate others. And therein lays both the problem and the effectiveness of body language. It’s very difficult to change, but when you are successful, it conveys much more influence than other forms of communication. One of the most effective uses for body language is communicating value. We do this by consciously altering our behaviors and mannerisms from unattractive to attractive. Imagine two men, both of equal confidence, looks, attractiveness, and other factors. But one man makes eye contact when he speaks and the other looks away and fails to make eye contact. Who is more attractive? The objective is to sub363

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communicate through our body language that we are “high-value” (read: attractive) men. By “high-value,” we mean that we have high quantities of the social and evolutionary value to which people respond. A “highvalue” man is one who encompasses all of the qualities and mannerisms that women are hard-wired to find attractive. Think: confidence, leadership ability, power, attractiveness to other women, strength, internally validated, etc. There are three main body positions in most social situations which you can use to convey value: How you stand, how you walk/move, and how you sit. Although full body language overhauls are beyond the scope of this article, the fundamentals are quite simple. When you’re standing, you want to stand with your feet shoulder-width apart or slightly wider, shoulders pulled back, standing up straight, and chest somewhat out. Your weight should generally be towards the rear of your soles (closer to the heel) so that you always appear to be leaning back. It should not be an uncomfortable stance, but one which clearly does not lend itself to laziness. Picture the way a U.S. Marine would stand when at ease. Your stance should project confidence. Your hands should drape at your sides the way they naturally fall. Do not put your hands in your pockets or cross them over your chest. When you walk or move, the object is to convey dominance and purpose. Your hands should swing naturally at your sides while you walk but without looking either stiff or “floppy.” Practice this in the mirror if you suspect they are moving unnaturally. Walk at about 50% of your normal speed when in the venue. When you are moving towards something (a set, an exit, the bathrooms, etc), take the shortest route possible—usually a straight line. Instead of circling a set several times like a vulture, walk straight up with confidence. Similarly, when moving through the crowd, you want to project dominance. Oftentimes women notice you and the way you move or interact with people and they make judgments about you before you’ve even noticed them. Dominance is tough to put in text but it’s something we drill in our live boot camps. The objective is to be verbally polite while “guiding” people out of your way. Don’t be afraid to touch both men and women while you’re walking through a crowd. A hand gently on the triceps or back letting people know you’re coming through is a dominant, yet polite way of moving through the crowd and communicating that you expect people to move out of your way.

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When you sit, the objective is to take up space while appearing relaxed and comfortable. Don’t overdo ‘taking up space’ lest you come off as tryhard. What you want to communicate is that you do not make any apologies for your existence and that you are used to always being comfortable. It’s the same concept as locking in. Useful tactics to convey this include draping your arms over the backs of chairs or over the seatbacks of booths or couches. Your upper body should ideally be leaning back without hunching over. Feet and legs can be spread moderately or crossed ankle-to-knee. Sliding forward slightly in your seat will allow you to lean back even in a vertically-backed chair. The main communication here is that you are comfortable and confident. Do not cross your arms over your chest for this reason. The other thing that body language is extremely useful for is showing interest or disinterest nonverbally. Because women are so much better attuned to body language relative to men, they feel your nonverbal indicators of interest (IOIs) or disinterest (IODs) much more powerfully than we do as men. For example, facing a set or group is one way to nonverbally show interest. Conversely, facing away is a subtle show of disinterest. Other body language-based indicators of interest include: Leaning in, Kino escalation (escalating physical touch), strong eye contact, and cocking your head to the side. Indicators of disinterest include: leaning back, putting barriers between you and the set or group (especially in front of your midsection, e.g. arms crossed, drink in front of the chest, etc), not smiling, “body rocking”, and looking away. Note that some of these things can also be considered demonstrations of lower value so be cognizant of what you are communicating to people. The power in nonverbal IOIs and IODs are that they can be used both subtly and oftentimes with more impact than their verbal counterparts. For example, a nonverbal false time constraint (an IOD) is much more powerful than a verbal-only version. As we’ve discussed earlier, people tend to place more credibility on body language than verbal communication because of the difficulty involved in controlling it. The punishment-reward sub-dynamic is the underlying principle behind Mehow’s Chase Cycling™ model and is most effective when body language is used to both reward good behavior and punish bad behavior. A great example of this is during the first minute of the interaction. Sets generally don’t face you right off the opener. They’re usually facing each
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other. When you begin to hook the set, you can tell by their body language – they start to turn toward you. You can then nonverbally reward by more directly facing them or giving emotional value. If they give you IODs, you can punish by facing away and throwing a false time constraint (a verbal IOD). This psychologically conditions women to invest and to work for you. And as we all know, we value that which we work for. Finally, there are certain body language mistakes that the majority of guys find themselves making during their training. By being aware of these common sticking points, you’ll be better equipped to stop them before they become bad habits. Let’s examine a few of the most common: Leaning In: This is one of the most common sticking points most guys make. Leaning in is an instinctive body language move that you have to consciously change. The lower the set is (seated, lying down, shorter than you, etc.), the more you’ll feel the urge to lean in. Don’t do it. Have a wing observe you in set and let you know when you’re leaning in. Rewarding bad behavior: Directly and continually facing a set which is closed off and giving you IODs is rapport and acceptance-seeking. You are non-verbally rewarding the set for defiance. Instead, mirror a set’s body language IODs with your own. Take advantage of both false time constraints and body rocking to avoid continually facing a set that isn’t hooking. Lacking dominance: Everything you do in field should be done with confidence and dominance. From the initial approach, to Kino escalation, to simply walking through the crowd, your body language is communicating things about you. Dominant body language communicates confidence, pre-selection, and social proof. Fidgeting: Nervous ticks such as swaying from side to side, playing with your hands or fingers, moving around too much, or playing with your drink all tell the set and everyone around you that you are not only nervous around them, but that they are higher value and thus, you are emotionally reacting to them. The emotion of nervousness often manifests itself through these nervous behaviors. Eliminate them. You’ll notice a marked improvement in your interactions. Drink shield: This is another common sticking point the majority of men have. The “drink shield” is when people hold their drink in front of their chest in a social environment. The sub communication behind this body language tick is that you’re nervous and uneasy. So your instinctive reaction is to cover your midsection (traditionally the most vulnerable
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your body too affects the mind.mehow. Hands in pockets: This behavior also communicates that you’re nervous and that you feel awkward. This is why faking a smile for an extended period of time often makes us feel better on the inside as well. we’ve examined some of the most common sticking points and come up with solutions and fixes to remedy them. In this case it’s the drink. hold your drink down by your hip and don’t cross your arms or take a protective stance.com. DJ Fuji Chief Instructor 367 .Social Superstar spot on most mammals) with some sort of protection. Instead. and relaxation with your body language. We’ve learned that not only does it allow us to show value. Your physiology often has a significant effect on your psychology. but these are the absolute most common ones. And it’s the basis behind parents telling their children not to cross their arms or frown. Instead.mehowgetthegirl. We cover body language much more in depth in our live programs and boot camps and also in Mehow’s esteemed Get the Girl!™ Manual available at www. Of course. Fix these behaviors and you’ll see a significant improvement in your game and in your own state. Force yourself to relax and let your arms just fall. you’ll start to automatically relax more in social situations. See you all in the field. let them hang naturally by your sides. Hopefully this article has been able to shed some light on the importance of body language as a whole. At the beginning you’ll have to force this. Information on our live programs can be found at www. but to also convey interest or disinterest without opening our mouths. Just as your mind affects the body. security. there’s dozens more sticking points many guys will experience. but after some practice. One interesting side effect of good body language is that it not only affects your interactions but your psychology as well.tv. and body language is no exception. And of course. You are trying to convey abundance. You don’t know what to do with your hands so you shove them in your pockets. The human brain is constantly reacting to stimuli from the sensory system.

Most fear stems from our need for approval.The Best of TSBMAG. Even if some of their reckless behavior will never suit your personality.COM Day 25 Being the Bad Boy Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 07/16/2008 You probably noticed as far back as grade school. that girls are attracted to guys who possess a bit of that bad boy persona. if you’re like most us. We are held back by our fear of losing our job. live a fearless existence. Live life through their eyes. while we were getting stuck in the friend zone. Most of our fears are completely unwarranted. If you’ve found yourself too often getting stuck in the friend zone. our fear of going 368 .” Well boys. it is simply because that is the vibe that you’ve been sending off. The reason most of us viewed these guys as assholes or jerks is simply because we were jealous and envious that these guys were always dating the girls that we wanted. and create an acceptable excuse for ourselves. it’s time to MAN up! There is plenty that can be learned from these bad boys. put yourself in their mindset. You want to shed your “nice guy” image? It is impossible to try to imitate specific bad boy behavior. Feel the fear. Most people are held back by various forms of fear. It will come across forced and insincere. you’ve probably often asked yourself “why all girls like the assholes?” or “How come the jerks get all the girls?” This is not so say that being a bad boy makes you an asshole or a jerk. you can try adopting some of their character traits to increase your attractiveness. then do it anyway. So instead of trying to learn from these “jerks” whom we weren’t alpha enough to hang with. Most people suffer some form of anxiety disorder. In fact. Instead. The Bad Boy trait you should emulate 1. our fear of being laughed at. Most people are insecure. we found it easier to blame society for our lack of success with women. If you want to stand out in a crowd. “women only like the assholes. You’re fearless.

tell someone who has pissed you off to “fuck off. This is why the average guy becomes her friend. 369 . our fear of ruining our reputation. After the two days you can go back to worrying about what people think. Because they can sit and talk and wallow in their fears and insecurities together.” do exactly what you want to do. How ridiculous does that sound when you really think about it? 90% of the decisions that you make are influenced by your need for approval.Social Superstar broke. Just for the next two days. our fear of rejection. In the average guy. And she gets addicted to it. or how you appear. approach who you feel like approaching. or whatever other insignificant. The bad boy makes her forget all about her fears and insecurities. Most of us are working a job we hate. our fear of making a mistake. because bad boys provide an adrenaline rush that the average guy does not. My challenge to you Live the next two days of your life completely fearless. most of our major fears are solely based on what thoughts someone else will have about us. What would your personality be like if you weren’t governed by all of these fears? If you take a look at the short list of our major fears… you’ll find that not one of them is life threatening. have given up our dreams… because we are afraid of making the wrong decision. a woman sees a reflection of most of her fears and insecurities. In fact. He takes her into his fearless existence. and we’re not even afraid of the consequences of the wrong decision… We are afraid of what people will say about us… what people will think about us. How refreshing is it when we meet someone who isn’t controlled by these fears? Women are attracted to bad boys. lonely or in a shitty relationship. Do you want to call out of work and go the beach? Do it! Do you want to tell the counter girl at the bank that she’s sexy as hell? Do it! Do you want to finally change the style of your haircut? Jump out a plane? Get a tattoo? Have sex with a stranger? Do whatever the fuck you want! Whenever the fuck you want! Do this for just 2 days and experience the thrill of being fearless. trivial reason is holding you back. say what you feel like saying.

The Best of TSBMAG.tsbmag. We even went into specific examples. http://www.com/2008/07/13/how-to-be-the-bad-boy-womenwant/ 370 .COM More information on being the bad boy In our most recent podcast we went over an entire list of ways you can take on more of the bad boy attitude.” If you feel that you need to incorporate more bad boy traits into your persona I highly recommend listening to our How to Be the Bad Boy Women Want podcast. showing how a bad boy would react as opposed to the typical “nice guy.

and communicate often through phone. The whole goal is to make her wonder what is going on in your life that you no longer have time for her. and visits. Although you will be vague. Her simply missing you will not be enough to stir up immense attraction for you. you should always be implying that really great things are going on in your life. I will also assume that you are actually friends with her and not just an acquaintance. When she contacts you… don’t answer the phone call. texts. This means cut off phone calls. emails. What you are doing here is confusing her. First. or MySpace/Facebook. trying to make her jealous. Now you need to amplify the jealousy and confusion. When you do talk to her be pleasant. The better friends you are with this girl. You should spend at least one month apart. Assuming enough time has 371 . Bobby’s Step by Step Plan The first thing that you need to do is effectively disappear from your friend’s life.Social Superstar Day 26 How to Turn a Female Friend into Your Girlfriend (Part 1) Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 07/18/2008 For the sake of this lesson I am going to make a couple assumptions. She can never feel like you’re bragging. text messages. but brief and vague. A great way to do this is to call her and ask her to hang out. I am going to assume that the female friend you’re interested in has firmly placed you in the friend zone. or lying… The whole attitude should be that really great things are going on in your life… but you’re holding back from telling her because you don’t want to make her feel bad. Wait a day or two before getting back to her. the longer this process should go on. While you’re gone you also need to arouse some jealously on her part. text or email immediately. Vagueness is the key to this part. This is a fine line that you have to be careful as you walk. and the confusion will cause her to spend more time thinking about you. This means you spend a reasonable amount of time with her. This is to be done without making her feel like you’re mad at her.

In the meantime. It is important that you change up your profile a bit. challenging. it gives you a chance to see if you really want this girl to be your girlfriend. that when she finally sees you again there is a very noticeable improvement in your appearance. You should be doing everything you can to take your mind off of her.. add some new cool pictures (preferably with some hot girls. You need to be filling your days with the most exciting. Once again. Your 372 . Assuming that the both of you are active on at least one social networking site like MySpace or Facebook. If there are physical areas of you that need improvement. another great way to create jealousy is to take advantage of social networking sites. If you’re scrawny… join a gym and follow a good plan for bulking up. and personally rewarding events imaginable. she will be relieved that you finally called… and her jealousy and confusion will dwindle… Just when she thinks things are going back to the status quo. and building attraction with as many girls as you can.COM gone. During your time away from her you also need to be working on your social skills.) To go even further I would recommend getting a bunch of attractive girls to leave comments on your page. do everything you possibly can to get to your ideal weight. be vague. flirting. If you’re over weight. You should be out talking. you can bet she will be checking out your profile to see what’s going on in your life. now is the time to get serious about change. Improving your social skills serves many purposes. It is crucial that after her long time away from you.. The entire time that you’re away from her you need to be working on yourself. You should not spend all of your time away from her thinking about her and planning your next move. The other benefit of improving your social skills will be that it will naturally make you more attractive to your friend. The confidence you will gain through your improvements will radiate throughout you. cancel the plans with her. You should be hitting on other girls with reckless abandon.The Best of TSBMAG. Basically you want to do everything I outlined in day 3 about updating your look. Above everything else. Many times guys fall for their female friend because she is the only girl in their life. Once these guys go out and meet some new girls they realize that there is an abundance of women and no longer cling to this one girl the way they used to. Race and Kelly give a great way to go about getting these comments. When you cancel don’t schedule a new date.

Hold the vision in your mind and feel all of the feelings associated with it. Every morning upon waking and every evening before you go to bed. 373 . Part two will deal with how you will act when you finally meet up with your friend again.Social Superstar new found confidence will probably impress her more than your new body. how you will break rapport. or wardrobe. my brain resisted out of fear. and then supplemented it with the visualizations… and I truly believe that without the visualizations I would not have been able to succeed with the plan. This final exercise is so important because you have to train your brain to experience the new reality. Experience the feeling of sitting next to her having moved past the friend zone. amplify attraction. The final benefit of improving your social skills immensely while you’re away from your female friend is because you’ll find it so much easier to create the confusion and jealousy that you’re aiming for. The idea of lying in bed with her. I found the biggest factor that used to hold me back from making a move on my friend was that I could not imagine the outcome. The final thing you need to be doing relates strongly to lesson 1 which dealt with designing your life. or just referring to her as my girlfriend was so foreign to me that it scared me senseless. If you’re avoiding her phone calls and breaking plans with her. This will come into play in part two when I discuss finally meeting up with her again. While I’ve stressed that during your time away from your friend you should put her out of your mind as much as possible. as I truly believed it is what finally allowed me to turn a friend of five years into a lover a couple years back. or holding her hand. you need to spend fifteen minutes visualizing yourself with your friend as lovers. it is much more powerful if it's because you really do have better plans and more options. This is the end of today’s lesson. If you want to learn more about visualizations re-read lesson one. there is one exception to that. haircut. I swear by this. I don’t mean visualize the act of sex… I want you to visualize what it will be like after your first kiss. I followed the entire plan outlined above. and go for the kiss. As much as I wanted it. You will also be fine tuning your flirting skills which you will need later on when you start hanging out with your friend again.

I would maintain nothing more than a good buzz throughout the night. party) you need to arrive there early. 374 . Once you get to the location you need to establish yourself as the social charming guy of the evening. club. When you finally decide to hang out with your friend again you need to invite her to an event that is on your terms. It is important that you spend this time building sexual tension through teasing her and using Kino. If not. It is critical that you immediately capitalize on this built up tension. You can easily ruin everything you’ve been working for by losing control of yourself and saying or doing the wrong thing. Let her feel a little awkward and uncomfortable for awhile. Let's talk about how to capitalize on this built up anticipation. Hopefully you’ll have invited some other girls you know as well. When your friend finally arrives you should be talking to some girls. This means inviting her to a party you’re hosting or a night out with you and your friends. you need to begin making new friends immediately.The Best of TSBMAG. The goal of this first meeting is to display the “new” you in action. then you need to be an opening machine. How many times has she done that to you? I just want to add something in: Do not get too drunk. When your female friend arrives it is critical that you’re already engaged in some conversation with attractive women.COM Day 27 How to Get Your Female Friend into Bed Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 07/21/2008 If you are serious and strict about following the plan I laid out in part one of turning a friend into a lover then you will have built up an ample amount of tension and anticipation. but do not immediately run to her side. If you haven’t brought girls with you. Once you’ve established a meeting point (bar. You are to acknowledge her. It is extremely easy to slip back into the status quo if you drop your guard. I don’t care if you have to open every set in the bar… find one that sticks. For the short intervals that you spend with your friend the conversation should only consist of light and flirtatious talk. During this evening you should be bouncing back and forth between your friend and the other girls in the location.

touch her hair (likewise. If she starts talking about some guy she’s dating-change the subject at the first chance you get.. This should go without saying. If you’ve followed everything correctly you should have built up some strong attraction. Remember. If you’re going to go for it all you need to be rapidly escalating Kino. Later in the night. You need to take control of the frame and subtly let her know that you’re calling the shots now. Everything should be happening without mention of the paradigm shift. tell her you going to get a drink and go talk to another girl. You also need to be sure to break rapport. As the night gets later you have to make a decision. Some girls may not be game for making out in the club… in this case you need to find away to get her alone. You have to decide if you’re going to shoot for the fences with your friend. but I’ll say it anyway… never verbally acknowledge any of this. Or better yet. or if you’re going to end the night leaving her wanting more. Personally.. Her emotions are going to be peaked by mid way through the night. and friends don’t. She will most likely try to suck you into talking about the same old status quo topics the two of you always discussed. put your arm around her.Social Superstar The time that you spend with her you need to be quickly escalating the Kino. These things are things that lovers do. use an excuse). You’ll need to use a combination of these touches to shift out of the friend zone. I’ve found it is almost always most effective to swing for the fences the first night. This means tease her with a gentle push. or grab her hand to look at her ring. Once you’re alone with her you have to be sure to keep the sexual tension alive. Sexual escalation is more effective because it is less ambiguous: hold her hand (use an excuse of looking at her rings or bracelets or nails if you need to). the best way to break rapport is with physical contact. She will be feeling attraction towards you. 375 . or touch her ear to comment on her earring. as the tension is mounting. If she starts talking about something that is not cooperating with the mood… break rapport again. Now it's just a matter of letting her know it's alright to embrace this attraction. This is something that you’re going to have to feel out. your goal isn’t to offend your friend or be mean… your goal is to build attraction.

Look at her lips and leave pauses where you just look at each other. flirt. arrange for some friends to send periodic text messages to peak her interest. initiate Kino. Give it one more chance. If you find at the end of this second night that she still isn’t receptive to being kissed… move on. But if possible. smile. You need to prompt these thoughts by: • • • • You need to hold strong eye contact. If you sense you need to build more attraction.The Best of TSBMAG.. This evening you must treat the same way as the previous evening. You need to act in a seductive manner. Go in for the kiss..COM It won’t be enough to just tease her and escalate Kino. Simply look at the texts.. If she’s comfortable with that or looks at you in a seductive fashion it's on. You have to encourage her to have sexual thoughts about you. then close out the evening talking to other girls and part ways with your friend.. The next time you hang out with her it can be alone. tease. If you’ve decided to hold off to another night to go for the kiss… I suggest making a deal with yourself. If you find she is being completely unreceptive to your advances… then let the evening die down with you in control. and build attraction. You need to break rapport. 376 . You should slow down your speech and deepen your voice. You should look at her like you want her. then put your phone back in your pocket.

be it monogamous. One of my good friends got married a while back. We’re all creatures of habit. Here we go… Let’s be blunt here…when women get complacent in a relationship they tend to treat their guy like shit. maybe two months to make things how you want them to be.Social Superstar Day 28 Managing a Relationship Written by M. or just a fuck buddy hopefully you can pick something up from this. Apologies in advance for the long post. these are just guidelines I’ve been taught and implemented that have worked wonders. these are not my ideas. Chase Originally Published: 07/22/2008 I’m guessing since I’m getting married in September (let’s see how that goes) is why I was asked to write about managing a relationship for the 31 days series. If you decide one day you’re going to break the mold with a girl you’ve been seeing the vase cracks…yeah. most of these are Sebastian Drake’s concepts. there it is and good luck changing it. If you think I’m joking head to the mall on a Saturday afternoon. I am not a guru. buy a drink. then sit down and watch couples interact. It’s not that it can’t be fixed. The Vase Concept This is the best analogy I’ve heard…relationships are like a vase…clay and water getting molded together on a wheel. Should put a little perspective on the divorce rate in this country. Guys. but the stuff below is golden. it just takes a hell of a lot of time to do it (and this goes double for friends or ex-girlfriends who already know you). good luck with that. 377 . You only have a set amount of time. everything was normal. Then she quit her job and took over the finances. It’s a mind-blowing experience to watch how some guys get treated in public…and they put up with it. while sad this can be prevented. To give credit so I don’t step on any toes or get a lawsuit thrown at me. Once the vase gets thrown into the oven and hardened. Here’s a true story. I’m not reinventing the wheel here. Honeymoon was great. MLTR. He was GIVEN a $20 allowance per week with the money he earned. If you are interested in a relationship. The marriage lasted six months until he finally flipped.

” You can use a variation of this for any trait you’re looking for. doing the laundry…whatever). Everyone acts differently around different people. You simply have to. If she disagrees on a trait you’re looking for it’s up to you if you want to pursue it. Something in our heads wants to make her happy and seek approval. Never. People tend to live up to what they’ve admitted to. We all get caught up in the moment when we’re with a new girl we like. I’ll drop something like “look at all the women in this place that need a man to hold their hand…please tell me you’re not like that. Getting someone to admit to something you want wins the battle…if they renege on it later you can bust them on it. I’m surprised this isn’t addressed more in the community. This is just psych 101. The moment you get fed up the precedent has been broken and the vase cracks. draw the battlelines. Draw the Battle-Lines Probably the best advice I’ve ever gotten. fancy dinners. This is very powerful in the seduction phase. Set Expectations Guys. but you can nudge them in certain directions. Don’t get the wrong impression that you should never compromise. You can’t exactly change someone’s personality. Frankly. If this will piss you off a couple of months from now don’t start the cycle. For example. even if I have to water the damn things. singing karaoke. The real question is what you’re willing to compromise on. and this can be anything you seriously don’t want to do (going to plays. Do you act the same way around your best friend that you would around your boss? Now what you should ask yourself is why? The same thing goes for relationships. good luck with that. Ashlyn just moved into my place and did some redecorating. This is also very good for compliance. Let me ask a question. if I’m into a woman and looking for a MLTR. If she’s into you she’ll agree with pretty much anything you say unless it’s way out of her personality. Would you drop an f-bomb in front of your grandmother? I know I wouldn’t have.COM Precedence is absolutely key.The Best of TSBMAG. This was so far out of my reality I thought it was a joke…it 378 . Gentleman. people act like they are expected to. Can’t say I’m exactly thrilled with the changes (I’m now a plant owner) but it’s something I can live with. If she asks you to do something. DO NOT do it from day one. Again.

bj every day. Chase II 379 . something along the lines of “can we just have sex tonight instead of you doing me anal on the balcony”…fucking hilarious. When women get pissed they will push you to see what they can get away with.Social Superstar wasn’t. If anything I hope you guys got something out of this. In the seduction context make a list of what will make you happy in a relationship. sex 4 times a week…etc. If you set your expectations farther than what you really need you’ll always be in the clear when problems come up that have to be worked out. Whatever you really want. M. We all do it. I’m trying to remember how this went. A loyal girl. Now push it forward.

simply because you mirrored her style. That is true sexual power. I recently wrote a post about becoming a better lover where I discussed the art of reading the signs that a woman is giving you and continuing to push her in that direction. It doesn’t matter how great of a pick-up artist you are. you need to be good in bed. Even if she knows you’re a player. Explore every area of her body until she is practically begging for it. Above all this is the number one trait of a good lover. if you don’t perform in the bedroom you will never be able to create a life of unlimited options. You need to be able to recognize what a woman is enjoying. Women who still want to sleep with you even after they realize that you’re not boyfriend material. slow your style down so your tongues mesh together.The Best of TSBMAG. She’ll walk away thinking you were the best kisser in the world.COM Day 29 Tips for Getting Better in Bed Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 07/21/2008 If you want to have the ability to call a girl up every night of the week for a late night booty call. If you know you’ve got a habit of finishing quickly than make sure you extend the foreplay. You’ll need to increase your stamina. Increase your stamina and last longer by focusing on 380 . Most girls really enjoy receiving oral sex… learn to read the signs she is giving you and get her pussy gushing from the oral. You need to tailor everything to the girl you’re having sex with at this particular moment... Sexual options with women stems from building up a network of women who love having sex with you. This starts with the kiss. Use your hands and mouth to create intense sexual tension. You need to make her feel like you know her inside and out. she has to feel an intense sexual connection with you. If she is a slow passionate kisser. If she’s an aggressive and dominant kisser… sit back and follow her lead. In this lesson I want to give you guys some tips for improving this area of your life. If you want a mind blowing sexual session it has to last more than ten minutes. But even after some powerful foreplay you need to follow up an even more powerful lay.

Everything listed above are the fundamentals needed to become a better lover. Wearing nice smelling cologne can intensify the sexual desire she feels for you. 2. Watch a video on giving an erotic hand massage or a video on giving a foot massage. using breathing patterns. Having a little knowledge of some sexually erotic zones of a woman’s body will go a long way. Aim for the G-spot. and by practicing. Just a small spray is best… or go for that just out of the shower smell. If you’re clueless about the G-spot read an article about how to find the g-spot 381 . You also want to build up your energy level as well as increasing your testosterone level which will only fuel your fire in the bedroom.Social Superstar pleasing her rather than how good you feel. Give a good massage. Below I’ve listed some general tips to improve the overall experience. 3. Smell Good. Having stubble on your face can irritate her and make things like kissing and oral sex a lot less pleasurable for her. Don’t obsess about the g-spot. Groom Yourself. 5. But having an idea of where it is and how to hit it will increase your likely hood of making her cum. use positions that you’re less likely to finish with. Shave. More tips to be a better lover 1. 4. The more you take care of your body the more likely she’ll be inclined to want to give you oral sex.

The Best of TSBMAG. Eventually you are bound to hear one of these 3 evil questions: 1. This is because while you may view her as “practice” or “fun for the moment” or “somewhere to dump your load” she may have completely other thoughts running through her mind in regards to what the two of you have together. Now that you’re out meeting and dating a variety of girls you’ll quickly find that you won’t be on the same page as most of them. when I finally had the balls to end it. the girl would throw it in my face how I should have just been honest with her back when she asked “where this was going. and pray that things will roll along at the status quo. And what I hated more. I used to fear it. What is this? 3. But there is one constant rule that does not change. Where do we stand? 2. was when months later.” Well. now I’ve learned to love when a girl asks me one those questions… because I’ve learned to just be honest with her. The irony of this is that you will probably find it is more difficult to end it with a girl than it was to get her. It is never easy to end things with a girl… and every situation will be different. I used to hate when a girl asked me one of these questions. 382 . The longer you wait to end it.COM Day 30 Ending a Fling or Relationship Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 07/23/2008 There comes a time in every player’s life where he is forced to end relations with a female he no longer enjoys spending time with. Where is this going? If you’ve been dating a girl that you have no intention of making your girlfriend… than you need to change the way you view these 3 questions. I hated the way I had to lie or change topics or be extremely vague with my answer. the harder it will be.

This is a lot harder than it seems. The right decision may not always be the easiest. But you’ll find that if you continually are honest with yourself and others your life will be a lot less complicated. There is an abundance of women available. But it is a lot meaner to let a girl waste two years hoping that you’ll finally see the light and be what she wanted. Tell her why. The longer you date a girl you have no real feelings for the more resentment will grow inside of you. You will 383 . She can’t have those two years back. it will be a lot harder to make the transition. She will respect you for your honesty. This is not the mentality that a true player should have. If you lead a girl on for six months and then tell her that you don’t have feelings for her other than sexual. I know that sounds mean. The minute you free yourself up from one girl.Social Superstar When a girl doesn’t ask “what is this” and lets thing go along like everything is fine… that is when it is exceptionally hard to end it. I wrote a post awhile back called Why You Shouldn’t String Girls Along where I talked about the negative effect stringing a girl along has on your personality. If you let her know this after a few weeks than it is more likely she will keep you on the side as a booty call. If she doesn’t feel it's for real than she will be filled with hope that you will get back together. In yesterday’s lesson I talked about how if you’re really good in the bedroom you can usually keep sleeping with girls long after they’ve realized that you’re not going to be their boyfriend. this will actually allow her to move on and get over you. That resentment is unhealthy for your soul. Ultimately it is all about living with integrity. This is why you should use the opportunity most girls will present you with and come clean and be honest with them. The more you try to sugar coat a break up the less likely she will feel the break up is for real. and you have to be the one to address the situation. You need to crush that hope. you’ll be amazed at how quickly more will flow into your life. The secret to ending a relationship is honesty. If a girl asks you “where this is headed” and you don’t see it turning into a long term relationship. In that case she doesn’t give you an out. But this needs to be established as soon as possible. As hard as it may seem to tell a girl you don’t love her or don’t want a relationship with her.. tell her.. Many guys will continue dating a girl they have no feelings for simply because they are scared to be single or unable to give up the steady sex.

and your sense of self worth will increase. 384 .The Best of TSBMAG.COM also find that you feel better about yourself.

Opportunities and Threats that that business might have or be facing. A SWOT analysis is a strategic tool that has been used for many years in business (and many other fields) to look at the Strengths. 2.Social Superstar Day 31 Run a SWOT Analysis on Your Self Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 07/25/2008 Today is the last day in the 31 Days to Better Game series and as a result I want to make your last task a little reflective and forward looking. Weaknesses. List Your Strengths What attributes do you have that will help you to achieve your goals? What do you have going for you? What are your strong points with approaching. relationships? What resources and assets do you have at your disposal? What do you do better than anyone else? 3. 1. dating. Much has been written about SWOT analysis and how to carry it out (I’ll let you do some searches on Google for it if you’re not familiar with it) however let me write a brief description of how to apply it to yourself. As a result you’ll want to have done Day 1’s task . Define Your Mission and Goals Before you carry out your SWOT it’s important that you know what your goals are (otherwise the exercise is a little pointless as you’ve got nothing to review yourself based upon). or alpha male? What is ‘broken’ on your game? What could or should you improve about yourself? What should you probably avoid in your gaming? What is distracting you from your goals? 4. pua. List Your Weaknesses What attributes do you have that are holding you back from achieving your goals? What skills do you not have as a successful player. List Your Opportunities Where is opportunity presenting itself? Is there a local club/group that you can join? Is there a girl just dying for you to make your move? Did an old fling show up back in your life? Did a new girl move in the 385 .Designing Your Life. Your task today is to run a SWOT Analysis on yourself.

Think of Strengths and Weaknesses as internal factors while Opportunities and Threats are external factors.COM apartment across the hall? A part time job you should get to meet new people? 5. 6.The Best of TSBMAG. Analyze Your Reflections and Generate Strategies Take some time out to work out what you can do with your findings. Working out how to turn Weaknesses into Strengths and Threats into Opportunities is the key part of a SWOT analyses. this website and on my overarching business also. Have you ever done one on yourself? 386 . Opportunities and Threats is only half the job. How can you utilize your Strengths? How can you bring your Weaknesses to an end? How can you make the most of your Opportunities? How can you fend off the Threats? An old Marketing lecturer used to say . Doing a SWOT analysis is something that I do periodically on myself. 7.‘doing the analysis of Strengths. Weaknesses. Plan to Do Something and Do It Translate your findings into an Action Plan and begin to implement it. List Your Threats What external things could or area is hindering you achieving your goals? Are you working too much and therefore coming home too tired to game? Do you not have enough money to go out to bars or clubs very often? Note .

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