Why men lie And the women cry?

Allan & Barbara Pease

C Allan and Barbara Pease, 2003 translation Jorgesen Pedro Junior preparation of original Regina da Veiga Pereira Review José Tedin Pinto Sergio Soares Bellinello cover and illustrations Mattievich Silvana graphic design and editing of kernels Marcia Raed photolite RR Donnelley Latin America - Premedia / Dip Print Cromosete Gráfica e Editora Ltda CIP-BRAZIL. CATALOGING-IN-SOURCE. National Union of EDITORS OF BOOKS P375P Pease, Allan Why men lie and women cry? /

Allan and Barbara Pease; translation of Peter Jorgensen Junior. - Rio de Janeiro: Sextante, 2003. Translation: Why men lie and women cry ISBN 85-7542-063-1 1. Man-woman relations. 2. Sex - Differences (Psychology). 3. Sexual role. r. Pease, Barbara. LI. Title. All rights reserved by EDITORA Sextante / GMT EDITORES LTDA. Volunteers of the Nation Address, 45 - Gr 1404 - Botafogo 22270-000 - Rio de Janeiro RJ Te!.: (21) 2286-9944 - Fax: (21) 2286-9244 Customer: 0800-22-6306 E-mail: atendimento@esextante.com.br www.esextante.com.br 03-0645. CDD 306.7 CDU 392.6

Contents Introduction Chapter 1 The cantankerousness When a person does not stop complaining Chapter 2 SEVEN THINGS THAT MAKE MEN WOMEN DEIXA IRONING BOARDS Chapter 3 Why women cry? The dangers of emotional blackmail Chapter 4 THE SYSTEM OF ULTRA-SECRET SCORE ruin of women as a man of the week Chapter 5 CLARIFICATION OF THE SEVEN MAJOR MYSTERY MEN Chapter 6 THE OTHER WOMAN His mother Chapter 7 The Mysteries WAYS OF WOMEN LANGUAGE Chapter 8 "You think I am FAT CLOTHES WITH THIS? Why men lie?

Chapter 9 THE TESTING OF WOMEN'S SEXUAL APPEAL How do you make people work? Chapter 10 WHAT DOES THE EYES OF MEN skip the power of female sexual attraction Chapter 11 THE TEST OF MALE SEX APPEAL Chapter 12 WHAT TO ATTRACT WOMEN Chapter 13 When the hunter Hang The ARC The retirement Acknowledgments Bibliography

wet and hungry. when out of bed without getting themselves or their partners speak with them. It also seeks to elucidate the problems which the man is beat-to ten in the morning of Sunday. Why Men Lie and Women cry? attempts to answer the questions that are hammering the head of women to one in the morning. So decided to write Why Men Lie and Women cry? Catalog the forty most frequently asked questions from readers around the world demand-and we answer them by using. Chinese Proverb Why do men lie? Why they think they must always be the reason? Why avoid it undertakes? And women. Today we know the evolutionary and biological reasons that explain why men can only do one thing at a time. In three decades of studies and research on the differences between men and women .thousands of times we were asked to rate certain behaviors of men and women. that want to get to know all details about the people around you and that rarely take the initiative to do sex. "Why do I have to collect half of my floor to ten hours of a Sunday morning ". why cry to get what they want? Why insist on a subject to death? Why not take the sexual initiative more often? In the twentieth century and one. The men never worry about the future until they find a wife. surveys. why not stop the car to ask for guidance. The car-tas. sharing information at conferences . the disagreements and conflicts between the sexes are still so present in our lives as the first time that Adam and Eve falling out. phone calls and emails came from people perplexed by the behavior of the opposite sex. we developed practical solutions to help you tune the right channel in communication with the opposite sex. even after spending a weekend fishing in the entire company. in addition to our experience.analyzing miles of film and recordings. Women worry about the future to find a husband. science can explain why women talk so much. Then things get worse. giving interviews on TV. writing books. Why Men Lie and Women cry? draws attention to things that are beyond obvious to most . of the genus: "Why men devour the other women with the eyes?" and "Why are they all the time saying what I do and I think". Of them also look at questions such as: "Why women do not go to the chase". From there. Today. research. that hate to go shopping. "Why do women complain all the time?".Introduction Born naked. scientific studies and our current sense. that like to "play to pick mature green". and frustrated by not knowing deal with the situation. for they have habits and mannerisms that make women so angry and they do not know almost nothing of the life of your friends.

the suicide rate among women fell by more than 34%. he was the protector and provider. in the 1960s. Since. be a man became an arduous task. See the latest walks that circulated among women and that most men considered extremely demoralizing and threatening: What is the definition of a man? A support for a penis. You may have noticed that many women seem to have a biological need to buy decorative pillows and change the storage of furniture for men stumble when they arrive at home at dawn. the relationships and the families began to live a great tension. it is unlikely that a man understands that the discovery of a brand of clothing in a counter settlement is one of the most extraordinary things that can happen to a woman. Women and men were angry. often considering the man as the enemy to be defeated. Still. The problem is that women seemed to know what and where they were going. Serials and the TV business started to show the men as incompetent idiots in front of women superior. secretary. the feminists have been given more say and more successes. bewildered and confused. Life seemed simple. the focus of the discussion is still the cross that women in this car-water life. smarter and more fans of the cause of equality. while among men increased by 16%. everything began to change. The man was the head of the family and the primary responsibility for its upkeep. Suddenly. Why are things so difficult for men and women? Today. The number of copy-of disparaging about men grows every day.people. Just thinking of you receiving an e-mail. his word was law and their areas of decision were clear. The woman was mother. as many men feel left behind. Men often do not seem to understand the rules of the game. If a woman slapped a man in public. And as few of them understand the thrill of seeing and reviewing the replay of a move. with the Japanese heading the list. while a man who did the same was accused of enemy women. In the last quarter of the twentieth century. The men are insecure about their own identity and they . During general rations. as women gain more and more freedoms. the roles were clearly defined. You can not deny that this kind of thing that most men perceive as open hostility contributes largely to the depressed state that seems to be slaughtered on a whole generation. everyone assumes that it is that is wrong. teacher or social worker. A woman who protest against inequality was the object of sympathy. The rate of suicides among young men and old is now the largest in history. The man knew what were their responsibilities and the wife knew her. lady-ofhome.

while a man never understand any woman. Most books on human relations is written by women and over 80% of its audience is composed of women. about 50% of women working in the western world . Generally. In Britain. or give the quick relationships because think of how women think and act very complicated. only 7 in 300 students. But the truth is that both men and women want good relationships. It is an unnatural situation. even know them all. Women of today are superatarefadas. just as always happened with men. educate and provide love and affection of people's lives. against one in fifty men headed by the same situation. Sometimes the thing is so difficult that it is best to go right to not be seen as a failure. Except that he usually does. For a woman. Studies offered by new techniques of magnetic resonance imaging of the brain confirms this fact. The men have the feeling that women want what they think and behave like them. he also has to understand it. Man evolved with a completely different program . We call the other sex of "opposite" for good reason . Women often make the mistake of believing that because a man loves. the theme of these books are the men. In general. We are all very confusing. As a result. Feminism began calling attention to inequalities between genders and promising free women from the shackles that had imprisoned the stove. in complete disagreement with our basic human needs and biological. But things are too difficult for women. And it is true in many ways. Only men and women assume that one day will appear a perfect relationship. providing material and solve problems. heart disease and other diseases related to stress.even when they want.we are really opposites. protecting. their mistakes and what to do to improve them. without the need for any special preparation or study.hunting. Today.lack examples to be followed. its way of thinking and their scale of priorities. It is estimated that 25% of all women in the western world will be standing in the single year 2020. fighting. therefore. the female brain is programmed to nurture. that the brains of men and women have been programmed for different functions and priorities. Take care of relationships is not a natural function of the male psyche. healthy and rewarding. is often infuriate and are getting increasingly lonely. the treacherous curves and dead ends. They now suffer from ulcers. Consequently. . just know a single man to understand all men. one in five households is headed by a woman alone. It is. men are working or not or a little. It is estimated that bulimia affects 4 to 5% of the university. father and provider. Why men and women have so many problems? The woman developed as defender of the dam and offspring. Most marriage counselors and therapists are also women. This book provides a map to help them move through this maze which transformed the relationship and identify the slippery slopes. these women play the roles of mother. This we do conclude that women pay more attention to relationships than men.

the ritual of mating and the relationship . She never accused him of not giving him attention and he is not thinking it was good for her as for him. excitement and enrichment that a good relationship is able to provide. To write this book. Around the world Why Men Lie and Women cry? is the step that in the relationship ladder. much less the differences between male and female.just do. The black widow.HELEN ROWLAND We are the only species that have permanent problems with the court. however. The octopus is another good example. To move through this maze. The behavior of equipment and scenarios we describe in this book apply to all people all the time. the female enters estrus. define common problems and finally present practical solutions. be living together. it is reasonable to assume that the rate of separation among couples is somewhere between 60 and 80%. working. working and loving the opposite sex. men need to learn some techniques that will find this book. They do not think about it . who kill their partners just after mating. In this work trying to establish universal themes.the other species already have everything planned out and is very good. the males approach moving its tentacles. and soothsayer. know the rules and follow them faithfully.714 references. now exceed the mark of 50% in the first four years of marriage and. It is a simple animal with a tiny brain. female and never considering discover is too fat. The rate of divorces in Britain. if couples who did not get married. Not realize they need to be sensitive in relation to women's feelings. for example. but do not want to be too sensitive. in English only. There are around or brother in-laws want to advise. collecting and comparing information and research on the relationship between the sexes. not longing for a sex champion. it chooses which one you like more tentacles and gives the green light. If you get along with most people most of the time. Men do not understand very well this subtle difference. get 36. but hard and Manly in other situations. We. evolved so that today we know the best way to deal with the opposite sex to have any chance to lead a happy life and enjoy a share of pleasure. are infinitely complicated. to help them make things better fluírem. comes after the Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love. your life must be very happy. we see that most people still do not understand during a good part of the time. traveled for more than thirty countries. that never discussed sex or how to get there. At any given time. 700% of divorces begin with marriage Why Men Lie and Women cry? this is an opportunity for you to eliminate turnover a little . "and deals with aspects of life that most people never think or simply do not understand. relationships procedures are guided by the need for direct survival of each species. Unfortunately. If you write the words "relationship" and "sex" site on a search of the Internet. Women say men want sensitive. Whose stories are real principles apply to most people most of the time of their relationships with the opposite sex. however. who also teaches women techniques to identify and meet the desires men. Humans. For other animals.

faithful love and great friends of each other.the women and men. speak and act like the opposite sex?" In no event. it gives you satisfaction. Once you understand the evolution of man. in general. In Why Men Lie and Women cry? also rely on our personal experiences. some men have to be hampered in their lives. Nothing is perfect. in English is no good asking a typical British dish. If you only speak English and is visiting France. in turn. father. son. it comes with an instruction manual. sisters. When you buy a cell phone.of the suffering.. daughter. the problem of communication is resolved. mother. It is a huge gain and relief to both. but we feel that hit most of the time with most people. cousins. are very well married. Experience first hand We.. even if you fall a little in the words. but taking the average. Learning a second language To be successful with the opposite sex you need to speak two languages . people like us. anguish and confusion of his life. He explains the behavior of "other sex". can also benefit from their experiences and their views." Why Men Have Sex and Women They Love? obtained a great success among women of all nationalities and we are well aware that some have of the gift to his men saying poignantly: "You must read ." and "Barbara said-10. going very well. neighbors and colleagues. looking as much as possible. Why Men Lie and Women cry? is an instruction manual to help understand the opposite sex and know what buttons to obtain the best squeezing result. The locals will love and be superprestativos.. relatives. The allegation was that the women use the book to pursue them saying "Allan said that . People are impressed when they see that we strive to understand them and communicate with them. But if you buy a book of translated phrases that teach you the basic words and phrases in another language. friends or neighbors. It may be easier. The man. The French will not understand anything. the authors. they are companions. Once you learn to do this work and schedule it for the functions you want. wishing to provide you a balanced view of the relationship between man and woman. It is a book full of common sense and scientific facts presented in a well-humored and easy assimilation. We are also parents of four beautiful children. believes the path where the woman. "Will I have to change sex?" People often ask us: "You are telling me that I should think.. brothers. Not always hit.. The research we did on the various themes of this book and the very act of writing it gave us a more complete understanding of ourselves and our parents. profit and fun. How to give this book as a gift After the worldwide success of our latest book Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? (more than six million copies sold in 33 languages to the present). the woman will be much easier to understand and accept their behavior and mental processes. be impartial. The result is that our relationship with those who are coming in has improved significantly and.

the women only speak for the business and the men only read Playboy for its literary value. follow by learning to understand. Enjoy. because our book! BARBARA & ALLAN PEAS . Maybe one day men and women may be similar. Meanwhile.Know that is part of a minority that wants to understand how women think and act. and the taxi stop at your beck. So if you. And be rewarded with love and affection. manage and enjoy our differences. " When a woman gives a gift to another a book on personal development..at least with regard to coming millennia. Maybe women would like to see racing of self-mobile. because men love to give opinions. and men have to go once a month in a simulator of TPM.especially the parts that I marked for you read. thinking that the woman is trying to show that he is not good the way it is. The toilet seats to be set. They say man is great. personality and give the wrinkles price of undergarment is absolutely reasonable. You dance with a frog in a blender opinion and is not required to have erection. But a man might feel insulted. Perhaps the book refuses saying simply "I do not need any of it". is man.this! read from beginning to end . reader. one that receives feel honored and grateful to have gained something that will help it to grow. is perhaps more prudent to ask your man to his opinion on the advice of the book. And finally .. can be excused by male heads when involved in its mysterious gynecological disorders. They say a woman is great because you can talk to a person of the opposite sex without having to imagine them naked. leaving her injured and disconcerted. Nobody talks to you looking at their breasts and you do not need to go to beauty salon to prepare for a social meeting. because a slight belly and gray hair to give a certain charm. If you are a woman. to shop with absolute objectivity. congratulations! . But we doubt . Mark the pages you want and let him read the book on the coffee table or the bathroom.

which is why their suffering companion deserves all the sympathy. can serve to keep them alive. take the drugs. torment. but it is always for the good of women. Generally. bother. above all. They think they are confined to their men to remember the things they have to do: meet its share of household chores. Currish is a term traditionally used by men to describe women. Yes. however. Currish: individuals. quarrel. get fungus in cangote. and are natural leaders all the time conveying their knowledge . Only in the United States are more than two thousand cases per year for men who kill their wives have been arguing that the complaints brought to them. men do not complain. roast the patience. . molest. Advice as "always check your bank! How many times do I have to say?" and "It gives you a bit more care of their appearance when my friends come to our house?" are repeated with admirable persistence and.for them the man is yob. a husband who has a hammer head of the wife. selfish. fill the bag. The friends also did not think she is morose .Chapter 1 The cantankerousness When a person does not stop complaining Fiddle-faddle: annoy. they criticize. has been enhanced by reducing the penalty of imprisonment by a judge who felt he was led to commit the violence because the woman was too morose. especially women. who calls all the time. dirty clothes and take towrope them wet the ground. the male brain hears only one thing: "There she is complaining again. complain and complain. The morose man. the cantankerousness can even be considered constructive. In very small doses. not abusing the drink. Where would many men without a woman warning them not to take beer or eat sandwiches too. but think the men can only take things repeating and repeating the same instructions. women do not feel morose. until one day the plug fall. In most cases. annoy. to do regular exercises and tests for cholesterol? Demand in certain situations. when the woman starts to repeat his orders." Like a dripping faucet. Women also think that claim is how they worry about them. even if that is annoying. In our culture. causing him permanent brain damage. The woman alleges the man to leave a trail of chaos is where. In Hong Kong. They are assertive. they see defects. berate. provoke. Men from all over the place "to complain mania" at the top of the list of your dislikes individuals. She knows that is annoying. tell when it is delayed. show how much they care about them. is something that society sees an entirely different way. by wetting the entire bathroom when taking a shower and by spreading the newspaper while you read. fix what is broken. dominate (the husband).and politely reminding women the way to when they forget. the claims it will consume the soul and can generate over time a fierce resentment. difficult to handle. irritate. tease. does not care to continue complaining. but men rarely see it the same way. however. How they think that their complaints are justified.

week. " A group of women we had dinner in a restaurant heard the following conversation was about their husbands: Blonde: "Yeah. men give instructions.The cantankerousness women vs The whining of men The women complain. The time that I get at home until the time when I go to sleep. If I do not want sex at the time he wants. I am married to the Queen of Claims and not stand one more minute and its implications. and crimes committed small catamaran. and Europe has allowed the man complained about the implications of the judge or "cantankerousness" of his wife. as people who complain non-stop. If I do not clean. The woman was tied infringing on a chair hanging on the edge of a mobile arm and plunged into the river or lake close by a predetermined period of time. calling me saying that I have some more for others than for him." The chair of immersion was famous in the United States and Great Britain as a tool for punishment of witches. After reading Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love ". its objections and complaints. I think his friends more attractive than him. The number of times that she was immersed depended on the severity of the offense and / or the number of previous convictions. she is claiming the whole time without stopping. If the charge was proved. on the way back. Until the nineteenth century. " Third woman: "So why do men say that women patience to roast them with their complaints? General laughter. A record of a court in the year 1592. Sometimes I think that it is impossible to hit. says: . The situation is so bad that I asked the boss to be working after hours. the U. In the literature. If you complain all the time. he claim that I do not care for him why not take care of my appearance.I should drop by rejoice me to work and come home to see her. the English laws. he is never satisfied. My father used to tell me that every woman calls and fills the bag. but I did not believe it until I married. Should not be so . Can you imagine? I prefer staying at work than go home.S. month and since we got married. it is whine. but very short. If I go to clean dinner with his friends. women have always appeared as a morose. The cantankerousness through time Throughout history. Think fault in everything I do. she was sentenced to "chair of immersion. a man who is self" Jeremy Dominated "sent us the following e-mail: "I need help from you. We have reached the point where the only communication that happens between us is she telling me all that I left to do during the day. is a morose adjective which applies mainly to old and women. It hours that I am not so. " Morena: "Stephen is like that. prostitutes. but he insists that both the end I run better than their hearing is whining. My colleagues say that their women also complain to them all the time. It is true that women are so from birth? Please help me. and I just early for him to shut up. Be listening to the complaints it causes me stress as a violent headache that starts in the car.

took seriously the claims of excess: The Chair of Immersion See there. therefore. But once is not enough. the lake of our Canton The device named chair of immersion Under the cloak of the law that guides the procession. It occupies the infringing his post With a frown on his face printed pompous. Learn to govern in the chair your language. It decided. but you need to think really make it. in 1809. that they tell the church to stop the cantankerousness. " The following poem. they will be punished with the chair of immersion. with a mask of iron stuck to the head with a metal bar going up in the mouth to hold his tongue. If the wife has the audacity noisy To have the house with tremendous noise. Some women were forced to parade through the city as a warning to other women. England. do what she wants. You must then bring the peasant A second time to the depths. The last woman to go through the chair of immersion after condemned as "morose stubborn" was Jennifer Pipes. but simply to end the discussion. without reluctance. Women know that claim. my dear. never. the wife of Walter Hycocks of Peter Phillips and his wife are prominent morose. When the fire is burning. If the scold provokes discussion With obscene words or out of the question. And when the chair of immersion was not punishment enough. How is currish The morose always hopes that his victim. but that does not mean they like to be complaining. of Leominster. Joy and terror of the people of the village. Its goal is to encourage victims to meet him. A third and fourth time.". Because when you throw water on the fire. Climb even higher the blaze. Tied to the chair. driven by feelings of guilt. Usually they do to achieve a goal. shows how men in past centuries. written by Benjamin West. my friend. But if their husbands and neighbors to complain a second time.. published in 1780. And before that to lose patience. Termagant wives. . there were other possibilities. You say: stop. The woman is hoisted and vocifera How ever dared no shrew. dives into the tank. or would go to fail.. the water breaks.

we? Usually women give laughs with these reports. just before the summer. The speed you go. The tendency of man is to ignore it even more.. computers. We do not go repeating the humiliation of last year. which only increases his irritation and sometimes their anger. And the least recognized. The more demanding the aggressor. indirect and negative of the things he left behind and their defects. This explains why women think men in general. relationships with people of currish can be affected.. They recognize and acknowledge their own words. you said you would hang a towel.it is bad for your cholesterol and increase the weight . and men think women talk without stopping. the more captive and isolated she feels. I just hope that you control a drink tonight.. homework. How is the victim From a man. etc. just in time that the man needs more time to be "watching the fire. the more the victim is subject to suffering. You can clearly see that women have an ability to speak much more than men." as did his predecessors back to the primitive of a full day of hunting. deafness apparent and remote controls. When cantankerousness is out of control. amnesia. The Complaint Beneficente: "I took their medicine today. When do you replace the lamp in the room e. repeated complaints are a reminder continuous. she is able to completely destroy the relationship. speak little." Five minutes later: "And the towel. We have identified five basic types of complaint: The Complaint Monotemática: "Kurt. They mainly occur at the end of the day.Some women turned to cantankerousness in an art form. can stop the currish resentful and unhappy. etc. the door handle of the room is falling and the kitchen window is still stuck. but believe that there is no alternative. is more isolated. the censorship. the grass of the front garden is a disgusting. Ray? And stop eating the pizza ." The Third Party Complaint by "Moira says Shane already cleaned the grill and they are going to a barbecue tomorrow. . . "Kurt. Kurt? Still on the floor. nor to be continuously accused of everything. why do not you hang your towel?" Pause. When the level of complaints is out of control." The cross complaint: "Nigel. Everyone avoids the morose. . Feeling alone. The only concrete result of excessive claims is the destruction of the relationship between the victim and currish therefore believe that the victim needs to defend all the time. The more claims. the victim is more refuge behind defensive barriers that leave the woman distracted -newspapers. face of discouragement. Nobody likes to be subject to the anger contained the ambiguous messages to autopiedade.". leaving her alone and resentful." The Early Recovery: "Dale.

. 2001. Frustrated. You can clearly see that women have an ability to speak much more than men. and Nathan lost his job and seek other. Bill thought it had a simple question and would be satisfied with a simple answer of 'yes' or' no '.. London. Areas of the brain used for speech and language. made from MRI scans of the fifty men and fifty women. Can run a computer program while talking on the phone and hear a second conversation behind her in the restaurant when talking with fellow table. It is an image of men and women were chatting and communicating with each other.the boss of it is terrible! -. Etc. the owner of the Diana. etc.". and men think women talk without stopping. It is able to speak on various themes without any relationship with each other in the same conversation USA and five tones of voice to change the subject and emphasize issues. can identify three of these tones so often lose the thread of the skein when they hear a woman talking. He can only focus on one thing at a time.it is a counterfeit able to keep the air four or five balls at once. show (in black) the active areas of the brain used for the functions of speech and language. This explains why women think men in general.Why women are more morose? The woman has a brain structure that allows you to overcome any man on the planet in terms of falação and cantankerousness. The man's mental organization contains a single track. let her be absent from work because his car is in the workshop and she has to . and Jodi can not be absent from work . The multiple tracks can occur even in the same sentence: Bill: "The Sue come for Christmas?" Debbie: "She said it will depending on how things get with the orders for carpets. and Fiona perhaps because Andrew does not need to consult a specialist. If a woman speaks when it comes to a clover on the . and I thought it was us we were and Len in the guest room could ask Ray to arrive early to.. " Bill: "That means' yes' or 'no'?" Debbie: "Well... When you open a map in the car. he received a response to "multiple tracks" involving eleven people and nine different subjects. Institute of Psychiatry. he turns off the radio. which have fallen because of economic crisis.. Man Woman The woman has a mental organization that call multiple tracks . The illustrations that follow. Instead. this also depends on Adrian. so Sue said you could get out early for us to buy the clothes for the wedding of Emma. speak little. she is watching TV. Men only.

The man can not make love and explain the same time that did not take the garbage out. he misses the way and it puts the blame for being here. sometimes placed in positions of power. He just shut up. the pressure increases to the point where the counter-attack victim. When the phone rings. There is too much. and the victim back further behind the barrier. sometimes physically. That the complaint never gives too much right? the main mistake of cantankerousness is the way to address the problem. One of the most difficult situations is when the man is connected to multiple tracks during the complaint.road. As it is not always possible to leave the scene. initiating a vicious cycle where the fretful increases the volume of voice and the strength of their objections and claims. he asks for everyone to shut up talking. The male brain has only one track. causing a rough thread which can even degenerate into physical violence. Some men. have difficulty to walk and chew gum at the same time. putting the man . to USA to protect itself.

. After all. Their "requests" are weak. so busy arming plans to make mad love and love to be everywhere in the house. is like being bitten by a cloud of mosquitoes: bites takes over the body and can not kill them. The woman happy and professionally performed rarely calls at home. trivial. which receives praise. the goddess of sex may become worse in the morose.her own clothes by the wide ground. You are more concerned with the "greater part" of his life. But when you feel more secure in your position. and do not have enough force to get it to work. unless the morose and the victim have an intimate relationship. killing me from week to work to make this house more or less decent and you spent the whole time sitting watching TV . To note that the boss has to do something. even essential.in a defensive and blocking the absorption of the message.. It operates from a position of strength. is it? . A clear sign of intimacy between boss and secretary of the things she is claiming that he left behind. pay someone to do it or get a mate to do." and is there outside. She is so tied to the vision you created for your romantic partner. Its strength is of another kind: it USA your sexual power to get to your man what you want. " This type of claim is the most inefficient possible in achieving the objectives and becomes a destructive habit that produces enormous stress.. she ignores it. The goddesses of sex do not complain of clothes dropped by the house -they leave their own clothes scattered on the floor. and a very sensual. when the relationship becomes permanent. "I did not ask him to do almost anything at home.. "You never take out the garbage. even unknowingly. The so-called "vampire" also does not usually complain. You can even get to the point that you think is capable of doing the job better than him. In this stage. the secretary can gently remind him or simply do it. it can start to complain to the boss to make it more efficient in their work. The morose plot deals with the problem in small. I ask? . Missing you time and energy to it. Has a more objective way to ask things. petty.. not to realize that there clothing on the floor and dirty dishes on . more powerful. In general the groups it in a way that the male brain has limited capacity to decipher. because this drip-drip is making me crazy . may see the complaint as a form of continuous wear the head of "bring it to your level" and make it realize how much is missing. and if your partner does their share of domestic work.. desk. Where is the worst cantankerousness? The cantankerousness rarely manifests itself in the workplace.. It may be that it not be given the time to complain of dirty clothes scattered on the floor . honors and proposals.. The woman also madly in love tends not to complain. The origin of cantankerousness is the balance of forces between two people. this is part of their work. you refuse to collect their clothes . whining and load of guilt that she wants to impose victim. For men. resentment and anger and can easily end up in violent physical reaction. Take out the trash is not too much. However. if you have shame in the face would fix the faucet.. disharmony. the doctor said I can not get passed the order weight . And as you know. the growing cantankerousness can go..

Adam's mother calls him. she went through years and years of brainwashing to accept a "truth" that may not serve you anymore. Of the genus is: ry exudes sexual power. The woman who regularly uses the cantankerousness. Acaba I preferred that she not do anything. who generally feel no power over their lives and unable to change it in a clear and direct. The Perfect Wife. E is confused and lost by not knowing what to think. Do not want in your tú mulo the words "always kept the kitchen clean.the table . A professional woman radiates strength material and mental. which is enhanced by giving their lives for the welfare of his country. The cantankerousness always between people who have an intimate connection . predictable and routine. or accepting and performing the ritual with joy monotonous and repetitive domestic work and motherhood are rarely morose. the same for all women. precisely because nobody gives value to their tasks. Our research shows that women who have clear goals. She knows that life can be better. Anyone can pass the vacuum cleaner on the carpet. His partner. also be absorbed by the excitement of the new relationship. daughters and partners who live together. it deserves more. husbands. working more than thirty hours per week. nobody sends write her name on a memorial in marble for dedicating his life to the welfare of the family. fretful of the comic numbers. feel no forces. Unlike the soldier. sons. culture. "Every time you wash the dishes or vacuum the carpet is the one she makes sarcastic comments to draw attention to itself." Adam sighs. There is no Nobel Prize for the maintenance of domestic peace. It is the anguish of the oppressed majority. Your suffering is a kind of invisible. Do not write wins literary prize lists of great shopping. The cantankerousness can be a call for recognition Complaining is a sign that the woman wants more: more recognition of the family for everything they did and more opportunities for something better. Mother was not tortured (at least in the common meaning of that term) and went through great suffering. suffering. but do not know how to release for you to build a better life. frustrated with the only alternative to get your feet tapping. Sometimes she even realizes that his feelings are normal and healthy.wives. "My mother has to draw the attention of people to do all that. family of journals felt mentally and trading of movies and TV convinced her that the ideal woman to be truly feminine is Perfect Wife and Mother. Your daily tasks seem too trivial to justify protests and demands for public recognition. silent. That is why the stereotype of morose. with a confusing and contained rage. Why is she must be complaining because of any thing ? She is talking about "any thing" because his life has become a collection of small things. mothers. is always the wife or mother . however. but feel too guilty to admit that does not like his role. in the heart.the prisoners of the household. . independent and free. or do any thing to please her. Both are strong. Even if. Centuries of stereotypes. asking for recognition. Nobody feels the need to complain. a teenage victim of constant complaints. It is a difficult person to feel confident and powerful if all you did in the morning to evening is trivial.

Many girls still grow up believing they should be nice and sweet. and finally back to his wife. The man. For men. The restaurant was in full expectation of what would be the response of man. I Hawaiian. She also did not want to eat pizza all the time: a rather more healthy food. it is the work of the shopping and help her to cook. who hated capers. He wanted pepperoni with capers. Was it asking too much to let her pick the pizza at least once in their life? After that last sentence. it would not take out so often to eat in the pizzeria. which carry the soul the frustrating feeling of lack of love and recognition. The more he resists. the more it acts as if it were his mother. they believe their role is to appease. there was silence. selfish and lazy. it was starting to fatten. With all this pizza. and began to accuse him of never paying attention to their wishes. both come to a point where they are no more as partners. "The problem is not the pizza. He reacts. there is no safer way to kill the passion that's starting to feel that living with his mother. in their work environment. This tendency is especially common among women. who feel that a little boy living with immature. It was absurd to say that the ruin the pineapple pizza. "They are the last fifteen years. can communicate. Studies show that married men live longer than singles. Women who went out of control cantankerousness ESPO-ments are generally solitary and disappointed and mothers. produce positive results and. is hugely frustrated by the fact he did not use them at home. to circumvent the . solve problems. usually they take in is trivialities and torment each other with cruel words. and for women. and placed last in their feelings and needs.the quality of your life would be better-ra impressive. The problem is that often the woman is tempted to treat your partner as less capable than a man and a boy taken. earn a salary significantly higher than women in the same position. Here is one of the keys to reduce the cantankerousness: currish give due recognition for the performance of small and routine tasks of his life ends with the most complaints. But rather than face it. This change of attitude is the first stone in the path of the dangerous erosion of the relationship. Sip his wine. Moreover. He has not lost the calm.Adam is the mother of a little recognition that it begs . Solutions cantankerousness: say what you want The discussion was ugly. The complex of mother Many women think they are the only significant adult in the family. They think that their husbands and boyfriends act like children. Everything started because of the pizza that they would choose. lovers and close friends. increasingly high. the most demanding woman. In the end. But some men say that time is that it seems longer. if behaving as such. The more a man rebels. ultimately. looked at the floor. As your partner knows he has these skills. to the menu. When they become adults. She. right?" He said finally." The cantankerousness usually signal that there is a problem of communication between two people.and deserves . The whole restaurant was silent as the voice of the couple stood.

pass deodorant. Neither will it hit him with her complaints concerned the same problems he used to have with the mother when I was a teenager. wear something more comfortable. Solutions cantankerousness: say what you feel A man will never tell you who feel diminished when you criticize his behavior. Even if you talk enough. and therefore will continue talking until you hear. You. the man responded more positively. What do you think that I leave the children with my mother for a week. in return. such as infidelity. Women have to understand that the functioning of the male brain is comparatively simple and that people rarely can guess what your partner really want wives and beyond .. sleeping with her. When a woman learns to direct and calmly say what you want. someone who will never meet their expectations. She thinks that yawn and say "I am so tired..words actually said.the excess claim ineffective. Complaints in only mask a bigger problem of communication. does not listen because it does not submit the problem as they should." never discussed the problem with it. the woman ends up giving up and falling asleep with a feeling of rejection and disaffection. E is silent. I work late for us to have money and comfort to you .in the arms and seek reconfortá it maybe even with a session of sex. women often address his men in a wrong way. boredom. not as a complaint. but in recognition: "I am not happy with this life. then you take a week at work to stay with them. I am much more happy and enjoyable to live. I think that I would do very well and feel that. Instead. the man will brush their teeth. I turn myself and have a time just for me. One night. Daniel is late in coming home from work and his wife Sue is waiting with a few guy friends. in turn. Before he had chance to say anything. depression and cantankerousness are the result of communication problems. I feel suffocated. It is the head that his wife is speaking in code. You're complaining and exaggerating as always. As we said. that does not mean they are getting properly convey their messages.problems and be nice and warm. The woman generally expected to intuitively know the man she would like to say different things than they actually want. make your gargling with halitol. Many women have difficulties to say. Rarely a woman asks: "Why did he not speak more with me?" The man. to the refrigerator will get another beer and put it on the couch to see football on TV. And you will never feel that you sexually as uninteresting as his mother. using indirect language. even if you think "My wife does not feel more attraction for me. communication has improved and the need for cantankerousness . cuddle . but that is not enough!" Sue: "You really selfish! How about putting his family first for once in your life? You . she launches the attack: Sue: "You do not have account? Why is it so late again. I want to get away from it all for two weeks.you just think of you all the time! Daniel: "Do not shout me. physical or verbal abuse. the man mutter. in turn. I never know where you are! Dinner was cold . I think I'm gonna go to bed" and stay away. Almost all the problems of relationships. If your wife is always complaining. When the two go of it. " For many women seem to say that much more difficult than hitting mouth publicly because of the choice of a pizza. he is trying to tell you something that you're not listening. When you discover that you do not trust their ability to make right decisions. Seated alone in bed. he is finding it a failure.

And their problems only tend to worsen. used by Sue.You are acting like children again! . you are arriving late all week and I do not call to warn [behavior]. [I] am so tired I need a tempinho for myself. honey.I expected to do everything!" Daniel (away): "Get off my foot I am dead. increases and clarifies the sincerity of the sentiments of all. then it is well! Go to mosey out soon. your interpretation of this behavior. When that happens. She can use the technique of "I" instead of using the word all the time you. " Daniel: "Sue. It describes the behavior of your partner. communication is interrupted. Neither of them is listening or watching. thinking that it is just a morose unbearable. Once you enter Daniel with defensive position. and (I) promise that from now on ( I) I will call you every time you have to stay at work until later. speaking as softly as possible: Sue: "Daniel. I'm beginning to think that you are not interested and do not like more of me. Sue expressed hostility of indirect way. This technique allows you to keep a normal conversation with your partner without fighting. And (I) am not seeing anyone. putting him on the defensive.You do not have account? . I have been so busy at work lately. right? Acting that neither child again. and always puts the other on the defensive. the first thing you should do is avoid Sue left for him. I do not want you to feel well. I like you the truth. It is almost impossible to irritate anyone . Here are some of the phrases you type. your feelings and the impact that such behavior has on you. preventing the situation is clear. leading Daniel to adopt a defensive behavior. I'm not avoiding you. They are simply left to say really how they feel. I'm getting stressed. I never want to talk about them!" Instead of reporting what is really felt through a direct quotation.You know very well what is your problem! . I have worked so much. you're seeing someone? [Interpretation]. I am crazy for concern with what may have happened [consequences]. When I come home. Solutions cantankerousness: the technique of "I" To get the attention of Daniel. You only know me complain all the time.forever. The technique of "I" has four parts. leaving Daniel deeply angry: ." Sue (furious): "Ah. I thought you were not feeling well. So I am saddened [feelings].You are a selfish! . It ends with a discussion . It is as if Sue was a sponsor of the finger in accusation Rist. " The technique of "I" is powerful because it reduces the attitude of defense. You know what your problem is? You're always running away from things. Is there a problem. Here's how Sue could handle Daniel. I rest. The technique of "I" lets it communicate your feelings about the behavior of Daniel. without judging them.Are you always running away! The language of "you" is to attack. Sue repeated the same message all the time and Daniel was always silent. sorry.never do anything in this house .

insist and ask several times before answering the child. Is confused and frustrated. Here is how to apply this technique.with this technique. plus the child resists. if one parent at home or a mother complaining all the time: the naughty child or the mother or the father morose? The correct answer is: the father or mother. I had a really long days and difficult gives me half an hour for me to build the dust and relax. The same happens with a man who arrives late to his work: one needs time to recover. In the above example. sometimes take a deep breath. I promise that after you talk to. the messages of Daniel and Sue have been clearly communicated. however. Tell your children that you will seek the cooperation of them once. she learns that it is not necessary to answer the first call. Solutions cantankerousness: Who trained who? Part of the responsibility of parents is to remember. not with the child. Solutions cantankerousness: Leave the man watching the fire for about thirty minutes When the man returned to the original cave. . Most women. Statements like "I" work best when they are expressed appropriately at the time." there is no discussion." Sue: "Honey. Parents influence the child's pattern of behavior. children trained to be responsible for repeating the call and. But where in the exercise of that responsibility becomes a cantankerousness? And whose fault is that. For you. without speaking. the proper way and the tone of voice appropriate.with yourself. no tension and no one feels intimidated. Thus. think he does not want the requirement is met. Prepare to not give a specific situation for thirty days without faltering. What began as a simple request of "Come dinner!" becomes a war. of course. wait until your anger placate the other to be able to hear. If the pattern is reminiscent of the parents. The more you get frustrated with the contempt it. after a full day of hunting to feed the family. therefore. this is a vicious circle. The more you repeat and calls. The parents currish / disobedient children can be easily corrected for. their well-being and success in life. responsible. When can we talk?" When Daniel agrees with a particular time (and respect) and Sue hold while he "looks at the fire. Then the child begins to suffer because of this breach did not really think anything wrong. Daniel: "Honey. and if they do not meet. in fact. want to talk immediately. the choice is their own. to regain your energy. not only with their children. I need to talk to you about what happened today. addressing the problem. Be firm with yourself. is more emphatic and angry. Everything that you need is discipline and firm . per-sweaty and even require certain behaviors of the children for their safety. Enter then the consequences of disobedience. needed to be about thirty minutes looking at the fire.

Here's how to reverse the situation: take a clean towel . the laundry will accrue and will not listen to complaints of lack of that dress. it is creating the rules and you are obeying. Say. but forgot to do it. otherwise you will continue being the person trained. for example. I want you to get your clothes dirty on the floor of the room and put in the basket. If you have self discipline and strength. The mother stopped asking and started to complain.it simply endure their complaints. that the next time this happens you put a wet towel in the bottom of the broom closet. but you are teaching responsible habits. The same technique works with dirty socks. Who will give first? If you sell and collect the clothes." It is here that the self and firmness comes into play. With this technique. And the future partners of their children will not complain of their bad habits. He used to say that would take the garbage after dinner. nobody will get and no more dry towels to use. which is probably a small price to pay. you will get it because they do not like to mess in the bathroom and that violates his right to a clean house.preferably of different colors each child and / or adult of the house and tell them that this is your personal towel. In other words. vol-ta to the point of departure. and the person still doing the same things-sa. Solutions cantankerousness: a case study with children Cameron. What happens here is that the other person knows that in the end you will end up taking the towel . If you do not put there. which they must be totally responsible. underpants and anything that you do not want to see play-of the house. it will not be washed.train them If you find that is complaining all the time with a person. will discover how unpleasant it is dry with a towel wet and smelly. However. Go ahead and take to end its purpose. you become the coach and not ° trained. Tell them that if any dirty or wet towel is left on the floor. for example. if you follow collecting things from around the world. for better and for worse. Do not complain to them . Say. and complaints are no longer needed. thirteen years. received the task of taking out the trash every Wednesday night. The first time you apply this tactic will be laughter. that means that they trained you to do what she wants you to do. confusion and protests. on top of the wall in the dog house or under his pillow.For example: "Jade. the smell of spoiled food in the house would be as if the trash pile. When the violator is bathing. So you no longer train for another person. or so leave the bath. Week after week. has chosen to continue being a person trained and lose the rights to the claim with any person to leave the clothes scattered on the floor. if you do not get. or after we finished the movie. not to mention it will have a happier home. So you just collect the used towels because they do not like to mess in the bathroom and why do you think. Two or three times just to be trained to collect it and hang your towel. The behavior of children is the direct result of train-ing given by parents. that a thousand times you ask someone not to leave the wet towel on the floor of the bathroom. Tell them that will put the towel in the yard of the offender. The whole family was no longer believing-not endure the complaints and more feel the . It may seem cruel.

smell of garbage. But Cameron was not there either - he simply forgot and it mattered little to the complaints. Finally, the mother of Cameron has realized that the son was trained to the claim and decided to react. He said that as he did not meet with their responsibility to take the trash out, the whole family was suffering with the smell of spoiled food. And the consequences stated that he would suffer for their disobedience: the garbage that was not carried out would be placed in your room. Since he is not bothered with the smell of spoiled food, no problem would have to sleep with her. The thing was submitted to a fun, relaxed, nonaggressive. The family could hardly wait for the night of Wednesday. As usual, Cameron forgot to take the trash. The following night, when they pulled the sheet to lie in bed, he found full of rotten garbage. The fourth fedia! The cost of this lesson a few sheets were dirty and smelly that Cameron was forced to wash - he knew the consequences. But never forget to take the trash. Construed as a morose If the victim is honest with itself, assuming that there is any truth in claims of morose and recognizing that cantankerousness is usually a cry for recognition, the problem can be quickly transformed into a situation where everyone wins. To feel more important is the need of human nature. The researches have shown, many times, the people who work all day, have their contribution and their efforts recognized, less demanding than those that spend long periods indoors, isolated from other adults. Similarly, the owners-of-house that they do not really like, they feel proud of keeping a home clean and comfortable, to prepare a good and healthy food and give affection to your family, also do not usually complain - since receive the gratitude and recognition due. The people are generally morose performing repetitive and monotonous work or who suffer from being isolated at home. For some women, to wash clothes, clean the carpets, make the beds, do the shopping and cooking, not seeing more sense in that form, can dull the mind after a year or two. If we add to this cocktail ill-bred children who break in ten minutes the work of a whole day, we have a person who will use the cantankerousness to draw attention and try to make other people feel so unhappy about it. When the foundation of the claim is true, the victim must accept its share of responsibility for cantankerousness. The cantankerousness is the result of lack of communication. The challenge of the victim To achieve a situation where everyone wins, both parties need and want to divide the responsibility for change. The victim of complaints must recognize and accept that it must contribute to the solution of the problem. The tendency of the victim is to develop an aggressive behavior or silent, which makes things more difficult. She ignores the morose, yet tries to scream louder, leaving the room or the house and invents excuses for not answering their requests. The victim does not reflect on its share of responsibility because they are infernizada the claims, and puts all the blame on the morose. The only way out is to stop and make a self-assessment, seeing cantankerousness in an application for relief:

- Do you hear the other person? - You understand the frustration of another person? - You show superiority, making it feel devalued? - You acknowledge the achievements of another person? - You refuse to divide the domestic work because anyone who thinks the money should be in a good home? - You are quite lazy and useless? - There is a deep anger that feeds the poor will understand the problems of another? - You want to be happy? If you really want to be happy, feel able to sit with the other person and talk about the problems of you? The challenge of currish If you are morose, I stopped to think that the other may be unable to meet their demands? You are behaving as if the mother authoritarian one? Requires that it meets their requests and complaints promptly, regardless of his needs at that moment? You repeat all the time their demands? - If your answer to any of these questions is yes, sit down with the other and report them using the language of "I". - Tell him what you're leaving you frustrated. - Make an agreement of the best times for their requests. - Stop being is repeating. - Afirme their needs and feelings and listen carefully the response of her husband. - Try to know his opinion. Maybe he has a better idea. - Avoid accusatory phrases such as "You", which produce resistance in the other. - What is the solution or the consequences in case he does not change their negligent behavior? - What are you doing to improve their self-image? - You always rewards that achieves your goals? - You want to be happy? For many people, demand may become a habit, a means to communicate makes them people who sulk, unhappy and resentful of those who should be a daily source of joy, warmth and support. But things need not be. Following our simple strategies, you can build a future much more happy and loving both.

Chapter 2
SEVEN THINGS THE OUE -MEN MAKE DEIXA WOMEN IRONING BOARDS It is not easy to say the number of annoying characteristics that women look for men, but the letters we received from more than five thousand readers, we came to the seven questions that women are more often about men. - Why men offer solutions and give advice all the time? - Why men are walking by the TV channels with the remote control? - Why men do not stop the car to ask for guidance? - Why do men insist on leaving the toilet seat raised? - Why do men create problems for both go shopping? - Why do men have very unpleasant personal habits? - Why men like coarse jokes? These habits of men that women classified as "bad" belong to two categories: those they learned in its creation and those related to programming of the brain But both men are capable of solution. Everyone can re-educate, just how to do it. Why men offer solutions and give advice all the time? "My husband is annoying me immensely with his mania of wanting to find solution for everything. He lives giving me advice on how to deal with all problems of my life - even if I do not want, when I just want to talk about my day and my feelings, it is stopping me to say what I do, think and say. He is the best to solve problems when it comes to "things" - dripping taps, lamps burning, defect in the car and computer and stuff -- but when it comes to hear me, he just does not work. And if I do not follow their "advice", he is bored. Karen 'Almost Crazy. " To find out why the man insists on providing solutions for any situation, it is necessary to know some characteristics of the mode of operation of the male brain. From the most primitive ages, the male has evolved as a hunter. The ability to reach moving targets, essential to all they could to feed, was his great contribution to the survival of the human race. He needed accuracy to achieve the prey and eliminate the enemies that it disputed the-ate of and threatened his family. Consequently, it was developed in his brain an area called "visual-spatial" that allows you to achieve success with all his reason for living: to reach goals and solve problems. The men became directed people to the results and measure success by their own achievements and the ability to solve problems. In short, men are defined and self-assess according to their ability to solve problems.

seek advice is a demonstration of weakness. are not welcome. "Why do not you shut up and listen". that gives the board sees the query as a compliment. he feels as if it considers that the declaration incompetent. She just wants the man to listen with interest. Here is the problem of the majority of couples: the night. He thinks that is caring and loving when seeking to resolve the problems of women. Why women are annoyed with the solutions male? The woman's brain is structured for communication through speech. she was criticized for an administrative error. Case study: Sarah and Andy Sarah had a rough day at work: the head was marked up. much less asking for solutions. He only ask for help when the other person feels the need for a specialist opinion. When a man seeks advice from another man. but unsolicited advice." he shouted back as the door knocks. she usually wants to talk about the events of the day and share their feelings. She prepares a nice dinner in the expectation that will have a long and frank conversation . and believes that it is making a smart strategic move. she strongly urges while directed to the port. For men. So when a woman offers a board that no man has. "do not ask!" Each thinks the other does not value what you are saying. in turn. She feels that her world is falling apart and want to talk to Andy about it when you get home. a lost wallet and a broken fingernail. feels honored with the query.The man is valued by the results it is capable of achieving or the precision with which it has a zebra on the move. "If you do not want my opinion. It is because he does not pay attention as she is saying and he is angry because she does not accept their solutions. but he thinks she is asking you a solution. incapable of solving their problems. She thinks it is irrelevant or is ignoring your feelings by not listening. That's why he rarely speaks about the things that concern. but he thinks she is bringing him to solve their problems. because he thinks it should solve its problems alone. it is not looking for answers. especially if part of a woman. and the main purpose of speech is to talk. He loves providing solutions and advice to others. is beginning to offer solutions. Most times. Every man thinks he is the only person able to solve their own problems and therefore did not think to discuss them with anyone. The man whom he calls opinion.

But Andy also had a difficult day. that make you feel loved and understood and to convey the conviction that she will be able to solve their problems. (getting danada life) . "Sarah:" How was your day. Tomorrow you go there and He says that this deadline is impossible. I want to go. injured and disarmament. Closed the business with several important problems still outstanding. It gives a look at the food and says the dinner will be ready in fifteen minutes. It gives you just hear me? I'm full of men who always know everything.. Then I said I wanted it ready by the end of the week and that he was scheduling a meeting with the client on Monday to see the work. I am not holding more! Andy (still with one eye on the news) "You are not holding more what?" Sarah: "My boss is me creating the biggest problem. He listen. She can open the heart with someone like her. Sarah: "How was your day.. Can you believe it? He just does not hear me . and you get to say everything I have to do. you have to do is defend himself. by the way. is simple . always fix myself!" Sarah (almost crying) "Oh. he said snakes and lizards in my work and wanted to know that I had not finished the new advertising campaign. I get another person to listen to me and it will not be telling me what I did wrong.. I already have enough problems that. his mind still working on finding solutions. tell him you can not finish the two projects at once and ask which of the two he wants first. Solve them yourself and stop complaining to me. " Sarah (getting emotional) "I can not believe what I hear I am talking to you on the head that is giving me orders and I do not listen. yeah? So Fuck you. She wants. he will need to adjust it or ask someone to help you with the two projects. gives a quick "hi" to Sarah goes to the room and watch the news on TV. which he said it was urgent. which will have to address before returning to work the next day.. On the way home.. " Andy: "Saraaah! If you do not want my opinion. honey? " Andy: "Well" Sarah: "I had the worst day of my life. Sarah. he stopped saying that I did not want to hear excuses and I wanted to campaign on his desk before I close the business on Friday. " Andy: "Look. I will talk about their problems. Andy feels devalued and confused. As Andy could have dealt with the situation Let's rewind the tape and see how Andy could have prevented a very bad night. When I tried to explain that the campaign does not was ready because I am still working on the project Seinfield. you take care of your dinner. He comes home. then changed the subject and said that I see the six-afternoon on Friday to examine the problems of last minute.while eating. and I would not finish the two projects in this period. I leave and I do not know that hours back! " For men and women around the world. Sarah feels abandoned. but he really needs a time to solve their own problems. I think not stand this anymore . this is a very common scene. It will be nice and friendly. "Sarah thinks:" Great! Fifteen minutes to go before the dinner conversation. When I came to work in the morning.. Call telling him that Sarah had a bad day.. because Sarah rightly criticized its greater ability to troubleshoot.. honey?" . He thinks: "Great! Fifteen minutes of quiet before eating. knowing that you will feel much better. In the end.

Here's how the dinner was: Sarah: "My boss is me creating the biggest problem. I call you when dinner is ready." Sarah: "He just listened . You want a drink now?" Andy: "Thank you. The woman." Sarah: "Okay . Andy now has time and space "to sit before the fire and think of their problems. I am not holding more! Andy: "Oh. talk about various subjects... Thanks for listening to me.." Sarah: "You do not know how I'm stressed! Well. baby. honey . at best.. I have some work to solve problems in the morning. Andy avoided a discussion. Over dinner I heard her with attention and affection. and is reliable. Many men have a mistaken understanding of the behavior. up early in the morning and if you have no good idea. but give me some fifteen minutes for me to solve my problems at work.Andy: "It was good." Sarah: "I had the worst day of my life. I'm so stressed that I want to go ... which he said it was urgent. When you want to do business with the opposite sex Men and women do business on a very different. giving Andy some time to himself. but then I started to explain that the campaign was not completed because the project Seinfield consumes much time. sometimes in a very personal level to see what kind of person he is. he said snakes and lizards in my work and wondered why I had not finished the new advertising campaign. When I came to work this morning. and when the two parties do not fully understand what that means. But in the middle of my explanation he simply stopped telling me who did not want to hear apology and wanted to campaign in his desk on Friday. your business relationship can be financially disastrous. because it will give you all the attention during the dinner." Andy (hugging her) "What a hard day you had..." When asking for fifteen minutes and get them. got a drink and not just sleeping on the couch alone in the room. When I tried to explain that the campaign was not ready because I'm still working on the project Seinfield. but that something terrible! Does he not know that you get a lot of work? You look so stressed . I love. my baby. avoided the usual discussions and felt happy with herself and with life. I really would like you to help me find a solution.... " Andy (with an expression of interest) "Honey. I want you to tell me everything that happened.. before the end of time! Can you believe it? " Andy (showing interest and resistance to give advice) "Looks like he is really creating a very difficult problem for you . She is going to wreak and feel better about life.. Some come to believe that she is giving you chat for sexual reasons or. " By not offering solutions. I changed the subject and said that I see the six-afternoon on Friday to deal with any last-minute change. assume . Then he told me that she wanted ready at the end of the week and that was scheduled with the customer to come in Monday to see our work. . And Sarah. but I was very happy to be able to tell you . baby. before starting to deal with business.. What do you mean?" sarah: "I think about it this evening. but I will get better after that they can think a little. I'm too tired and stressed. I feel much better now . you need to establish a relationship with the man.. Sarah feels confident and happy.

especially when the woman appears worried. even in business. the best and simplest is to tell the man: "I need to talk to you about several things. just ask: "You want me to listen or want me to help find solutions?" Depending on what she says. For thousands of years the man spent the night watching the fire after returning from the hunt. He sat among colleagues. it is easier to deal with a woman when she first establishes a personal connection. When both parties to understand. councils are perceived differently by men and women. To humans. make it clear what you expect of the man who is wreak. listening with empathy. women want to be heard. For men. every man has three remote controls and the toilet seats are always raised. we need to talk. the man is satisfied and knowing exactly what she expects of him. The man needs to understand that. I do not need solutions. Then they feel entitled to offer and say what she should do. you just want to listen. he will know how to behave. Shall treat him with reserve. In heaven. The woman is suffering very much. become more prone to make . The lesson here is simple and definitive: for men. but now using . In general. and if not sure of what she wants.that she is asking for advice on how to solve their problems. giving advice is be attentive and show love." With this approach. Why men are walking by the TV channels with the remote control? Remote control. in a state of trance. The companions asked him never to speak or participate. The most likely is that it classifies as a man who does not listen and that it shall give due attention in the business of making Jun-ments. Solution When the woman speaks and the man does not know if she is asking for solutions or just bubble. Definition male: Apparatus used to scroll through all 55 channels every two and a half minutes. leaving him confused and Rally against the bad with the operation of your business relationship. this is an efficient way to relieve stress and recharge the batteries for the activities the following day. ask. And the woman needs to understand that men feel uncomfortable discussing personal matters and therefore prefers to go straight to business. Defining women: Apparatus used to switch a channel of the TV to another. How to avoid discussions with the opposite sex When a woman is tense and worried. For a woman. and was long periods without communicating. In short. but a woman can interpret them as evidence that the man is not ready to hear her. The modern man still looks at the bonfire at the end of the day.that the long-term business relationship leads to a much more consistent. not recommended.

sex. books and remote controls. more man resists. The woman. watering plants. which is one of the explanations for the fact that the number of men who watch the TV news to be six times higher than women. but with the brain occupied in the task of reading the newspaper. when we were in the remote Okavango Delta. however. was not really listening and analyzing what she said. This basic difference between the sexes is a frequent source of problems. make it talk about a variety . It is therefore a way of relieving stress as well as browse the Internet. The more he resists. They want to know what is going on television. That leaves the confused. he is usually able to tell. Secondly. in front of the TV with a remote control from hand to hand. We entered and saw a group of drugs Kalahari. He heard the woman's falação. from multiple tracks. her face. The female brain. The woman accused the man tends to be kilometers away when she tries to talk. The woman tries to talk to the man just in time when he is reading the newspaper or surfing the channels. For men. How he responds to what she speaks. the man to forget their problems and feel at peace with himself. The more the woman insists. Through channels. she likes to predict the outcome of situations and also to attend to business. is something each time. Women around the world have a particular aversion to the male habit is changing the channel. asking: "What was the last thing I said?" To his frustration. it analyzes the problems of each program and reflects the respect for reasonable solutions. Once. engage in any of these activities does the smallest difference . Because the brain oriented to solving problems. the man likes to forget their problems seeing the problems of others. She suffers from the man's apparent inattention and disinterest as the person interprets it. The man suffers from not being able to enjoy a moment of idleness. The men did not want to know what is going on television. however.the problem remains concerned your mind. look at the problems of others without feeling responsible for them allows you to forget their own worries. watching television is a totally different process.newspapers. she likes to relax watching a television program. When he speaks. capable of dealing with several issues at once. noticed an antenna driven by solar energy on top of a hut in the village. because he thinks his mere physical presence is enough. The woman's brain is structured to interpret the words and body language of actors. whether he is also emotionally present. even after having tried to offer solutions and be rejected. After a long day. When a woman is concerned about a problem. The woman needs to understand that looking the fire is the way that man has to relieve stress and therefore should not take that attitude in personal terms. She needs to talk about the problem to get some relief. north of the Kalahari desert in South Africa. Concentrate on one thing. each waiting his turn to be walking by the canals. which exists to meet two main impulses. she is more resentful. repairing the car. preferably a novel filled with scenes of emotion and relationships. As the mind of man is only able to do one thing at a time. dresses like tango. Just remember the words of it. he is interested in getting the fastest possible conclusions. doing gymnastics or the option almost always favorite.

the sense of direction has never been a need or part of their job description. a lake or a mountain. they learned the art of maintaining the sense of direction and recognize the ways to hunt for great distances without losing the direction of home. all at the same time. that is lost means that failed in their ability number one . For men. defenders of nests and offspring. present and future-feeling. pointing to the north within a radius of 90 degrees. He would go to the pillory than admit to a woman who is lost. This is therefore the key to teach man the way a woman. During this period. something that only one in five women is capable of. she was able to locate and find the way home. Means that he wants a moment of quiet. it is likely that it arrived. calmly. Solution To solve the problem of remote control. But if he says "take the third exit to west on Highway 23 and walk five kilometers to the north".find the path. so they learned to be guided by landmarks . that the troubles and ask him to please not do so when she is watching your program. must understand that women need to talk and unburden relieve stress. Seeing a tree.000 years. The man. The most plausible explanation for the sense of direction for men is the highest concentration of iron in the right hemisphere of the male brain. in turn. without worry to reach solutions. to locate the car in a large park-ing and to resume a place where it once. The silence of the man does not mean he does not love her. is not alone ventured beyond the horizon. men have used the space component of your brain to track the prey and hit the target. past. then go toward building a pink next to the National Bank. is sitting in the passenger seat and just go through the same garage for the third time. it is important not criticize him or give advice.of things. If you are a woman. it should consider the possibility of buying its own television set and go see your program in another room. This explains why more than a third of men. This is the same ability that men use to find the place where he was sitting in a football stadium. on the other side of the avenue. they feel pennite magnetic north. And if not advance. Females. it may disappear forever. when entering for the first time in a room without windows. Why men do not stop the car to ask for guidance? For over 100. If he says "go to where the street has a huge tree. especially if it has no intention of getting a . Men never lose -only discover alternative destinations. it should tell the man.

when they go to the bathroom. all public restrooms have separate facilities for men and women. however. While you're in the bathroom. The modern homes are designed and built to accommodate men and women equally. but men are at a disadvantage because the restrooms accommodate domestic needs especially women. Fred. could stay. I'm going to soak-ro . is severely criticized. benevolent. Then God gave to Adam. who immediately was urinating on a tree and draw a picture in the sand. with seats for women and set the wall urinals for men. and told God that if Adam wanted to do so. had to go alone and defend itself in case of need. Today. leaving many people very angry." he said. Ask you to information. was an instrument that would allow its possessor to urinate standing up. but be sure to hear it.. When God finished creating the universe. but the men just sit in 10-20% of cases. When the download was invented at the end of the nineteenth century. he still lacked two things to be split between Adam and Eve A. But the practice of going to the bathroom in groups remains among women." Eva replied "Who are you?" And God replied. never lead a support group. Why do men insist on raising the leaving the toilet seat? By the end of the nineteenth century. but in bushes or supported on objects. A rapid and safe emergency strategy is to tell you that you need too go to the bathroom. And God saw that it was good. a wall or a tree. which require a stop. That is why we rarely see a man urine in the open. outside. Then God sent to Eva "Well. smiling: "Multiple . You do not want to come with me?" Men. Men never urinate in bathrooms. The women always felt. I took another woman. You never hear a man say: "Hey. But when you forget to below her back. for safety. he has time to ask for guidance. you can tell who is affectionately distressed to reach the destination and ask him to stop. but the slope. the bathroom has moved into the houses and public establishments. "I think you can keep it. depending on the relationship of trust that has been built between the two. the toilet cubicles were in the back of the house. When a woman went to the bathroom. Or maybe. Solution Buy a map or a guide and leave it in the car. Why do women never take the trouble to raise the seat to the man? In Sweden there is an article of a law requiring the man to urinate sitting in public restrooms. the man has to lift the board not to wet the place where the woman will sit. Why are four million sperm needed to find and fertilize one egg? Because no one likes to ask what is the path.. to be politically correct. he explained. Eva smiled. The man.foot. At home." "Thank you. that the modern habit inherited from their ancestors. The offer was excitadíssimo and begged God to the left for him. pretending that. preferably in a gas station. here is the other thing. are buying something.

because of this. it kills me while I'm asleep. The British psychologist Dr David Lewis found that the stress that men experience during the Christmas shopping equivalent to a police dealing with an angry crowd disorder. I have no permission to urinate as a man on foot. the ideal solution is to buy a house with two bathrooms . the book takes him more. my wife decided I train now. If this is not enough to convince you. in the Islamic world that millions of men sit to urinate every day . just for new household rules. If the man refuses. on the contrary.or reforming the current home to create an extra bathroom. I speak seriously. there is not enough to trust him. and still alone on top. Maybe this can make sitting more attractive? If you are to them. three shirts. shopping is one of the favorite ways of relieving stress.Orgasms. three ties and two pairs of shoes in less than eight minutes. And the best is that. The man can get a cabin bathroom (where all the urinals are occupied)." One of our male readers wrote us to say as he and his wife faced the problem of the toilet seat: "Women need to understand that the penis has its own designs. For most women. The life of primitive man as a hunter gave him a sort of "tunnel vision" that allows you to move directly from point A to point B in a straight line. shopping is an activity located in the same plane to take of the prostate with a doctor of cold hands. which means spending a day on the floor cloth to clean all the drops lost. a suit and two shirts last for years. "After 28 years of marriage. It is said that the Prophet urinated standing up once in life. It requires that I sit urine. And I am convinced that this is a small price to pay. He is able to buy Christmas gifts for the whole family in forty minutes. a garden where it was impossible to sit. If it is the bathroom at night and sit again in the wet board. a belt. look perfectly in the middle of the toilet. For most men. but may be upset with the woman if she require authoritatively that lets you down. To a man. Thus.or below it herself . may be remembered. instead of asking politely . The reasons for this are clear to anyone who has studied the evolution of different male and female brains and understand their respective schedules. one can enjoy the standard of cleanliness and hygiene that you like. perhaps decades. . because any change of direction requires a conscious decision. His task will be washing the bathroom. the four in the afternoon of day 24. I left the seat up. The ziguezagues between shops and kiosks that women needed to consider a purchase as a successful man leave extremely anxious.one for him. and even then the penis to urinate over the roll of toilet paper in the left leg of the pants or on top of the shoe. This is clothing to last more than five years. so calm and firm. or fall into the pot for that.which absolutely does not compromise the masculinity. one for her . a pair of shoes. Solution Ask the man who sat urine may cause some problems. without having to worry about the other. Why do men create problems both for shopping? The great advantage of being human is we can buy two. the man does not give the slightest importance to the fact that the seat be raised or lowered. " Indeed.

challenge you to find the best prices and praise him when he gets results. For men. however. and the limit of time is not important. the fashion.as you zigzag the gondolas. buy the memory and examine all the stuff you seem interesting. zigzag with greater tranquility in a mall crowded with people. which means he failed. The male brain is structured to focus on a single task. bread and eggs when returning to work can happen to bring him sardines and light mayonnaise. the place where you are going. Men like to be in control and therefore to "guide them" using their ability to space curves. they always go home the same items . Today it is exactly so that men like to shop. speeds and stuff. how you feel that day. no route. feeling and showing all the things that are as speak with each other on a lot of issues with no relation to what they are doing. they feel satisfied because they had a great day. smelling. and again at the end of the day with little to show. Even without finding anything worth the penalty to take home. but they affect the health of them. There must be a specific goal or guideline. Women shop the way their ancestors catavam food: going the whole day with other women for a place where one is reminded of have seen growing plants tasty. the supermarket zigzag loading a list. just give cheiradinha the clothes you left in the back of the chair. the idea is inconceivable. . and then go home empty-handed. but men prefer to go straight. But there are ways to help the man to have a positive feeling about it.this causes it to again use their spatial skills to find the answer. shopping is not part of the programming of the male brain. who is leaving and who will do . Give him clear objectives . Men have evolved as creatures that kill their prey. Consequently. He forgets what she asked and returns home with a couple of "gifts": the product of his "hunting". At this point the reader may be impatient and was saying: "All this because of some shopping?" Remember. and returned home. flavors and sizes . skin and eyes. defined goal or time limit. Women. fabrics and price ranges and send it to the game. Always ask what he likes to eat and buy him his favorite foods. due to the stress they cause. nine cans of tomato sauce and very little thing. Polls show that not only the men do not like to shop. when shopping. with his peripheral vision more broadly.The woman. Ask the man how to get in the shopping cart . maneuvers. That is why when you ask a man to buy milk. colors. For a man.the kitchen cabinet of a single man has ten packages of pasta. feeler. How to buy clothes The same principles that apply in the motivational-supermarket's worth of clothes in the shops too .give the man sizes. Leave a full day with a group of peers with no clear destination.brands. the color of hair. She dresses carefully in accordance with the time the season. so you need the encouragement. They spend their days going from place to place in a nonstructured. How do supermarket Let the man pushing the cart.

wear old underwear and rub the bag. bang release is an act universally . If I drop it buys. she is accused of suggesting that fat. reach a maximum of thirty minutes. noun. So save you the question. When received male hormones. therefore. something that has a horrible name: fart. Although it is a sign of good health and nutrition. At the top of the list of men habits that women can not tolerate are: take meleca nose. you must give the exact size of clothing you want. is what is commonly called the drop bang. One explanation for the way men shop was developed from studies with chickens. self-expression and male entertainment. Why men are so unpleasant personal habits? Everywhere. If you catch a smaller number. Solution Give the man a single thing to do at a time and not try to convince you that you are saving a lot of money buying a larger quantity. It is less likely. Flatulence: noun. The other ate the seeds of all colors without any order. But number one. the woman must provide a magazine to read it. then all yellow. ALLAN PEAS Even with these strategies. feminine: an embarrassing byproduct of digestion. Never ask him "You think I am better with the blue dress or the gold". smell. it will find that you are fat.What can be said of a man well dressed? That the wife chooses their clothes well. masculine: a source of entertainment. the man feels anxious because he knows that will never have the right answer and is therefore wrong and let the woman boring. it is important that you remember: the concentration of most men in a shop has. If it takes more. I always secure her hand. while the man waiting outside the fitting room. In general. When trying clothes. by far. the chair-thebored-husband. but the studies do not support this thesis. First ate all the red beans until done. burp. Men are more tolerant in accepting what they consider bad habits women and provide care in less detail than women. The advantage of being a man is not to leave the room to fix the private parts. If a woman asks the man to buy something for her or to get a particular article. the chickens how to move the food Cisca. they perceive a female habit offensive. women complain that men are much more unacceptable personal habits than them.

The men released about twelve puns and women a day. While men emit an average of 1. instead of coffee. beans. vegetarians deploy more puns. Among men. beer. cabbage. But if he insists on eating quickly and drop the boom all the time. Among the products that reduce the amount of gases produced by the body are the chips of coal. garlic. encourage the man not to drink water during the meal. she benefit from a bag and roll of toilet paper for everyone would hear: "Does this help?" The mascots also solve the problem. To hear noise or feel the smell of fart. no problem. If it does not comply with this standard. drop bang for fun is a practice that begins more or less at ten years old when the prestige of children is measured by the ability to release various kinds of puns.5 liters of gas. Nigel released huge puns in public places such as department stores. See the example of one of our readers. Before. although most is belch. a minute ago. It was washed with more expensive. eg diu-to warn you that at least two minutes before the release will feel when a bang. fruits and vegetables in general." Sharon decided to establish the room and the kitchen as "prohibited zones of bang. As a result.until the big fights happen. increasing the likelihood of releasing gases later. you may need a more efficient tactics. Chew the food well. so nobody knew who was. It is important that the woman tell the man with the greatest possible objectivity and . When the surrounding is tipped for the couple. The humpback is ranked second. is imitating voices or blue flare launching the fourth with the aid the lighter. The air is trapped in the digestive system and. bread.disapproved by women.3% of men acknowledge that drop puns. such as carbohydrates and proteins never join in the same meal.5 liters of gas per day. enough to fill a balloon. he released puns in bed and called it the "test of true love. why was all red and with an embarrassed air. The main causes of excess gas is too much talk and talk during the meal." When you were in a public place. In addition. only 2. onion. Flatulence: the facts While 96. to prepare "in desgasificantes and products made of mint and ginger. it is always easy to turn and fight for the dog with him to scream. seven. Sharon was obviously found guilty. eat slowly and do not see TV during the meal.1% of women will admit it someday. Food combinations also give good results. broccoli. the rest goes to the large intestine where it mixes with other gases and is ready to explode in the most unusual. Find an example.5-2. women emit 1-1. Nigel thought it very funny . but drinking during a meal dilutes the digestive juices. Food reactions Foods that produce gas are more cauliflower. but with much less odor. Every time I went with Sharon. flour. Never shall it be the man eat food producers of gas less than two hours before bedtime. Solution One obvious remedy is to prepare healthy meals with less genera-producing gases and offer the man a cup of mint tea after the meal. At home.

step by step. The laughter has its roots in our remote past when it was used to warn other people of an imminent danger. as among monkeys. mostly nuns. Why men like coarse jokes? The humor has to man three main purposes: first. relationships and men. but do not know the names of the children of your best friends. evident in children from birth. The chimpanzee. The female sexual organs are capable of astonishing feats of human reproduction. when can escape from a lion. which means that if for a moment she experienced a reaction of fear. Why men do not simulate the orgasm? . For example: 1. Because no man would do such a face on purpose. What can you say to a man who has sex? . The female humor involves people. 2. to help deal with tragic events.it is located in the frontal lobe of the brain above the right eye. Some men are able to tell jokes that you heard in the fourth grade. then turns chocolate. second. What is the difference between a woman in the TPM and a terrorist? . For most women. When you deliberately frighten a child playing hide-andseek in the first reaction is her cry of fear. But women never make jokes with them.he is sleeping. Why do not want strangers to take their key decisions. 2. The University of Rochester. What you want . A major difference between the sexes is the male obsession with jokes about tragedies. she laughs. and crying is a reaction of surprise and fear. Here are some jokes that stimulate domestic relation Cère male-ber: 1. When the child realizes that the situation is not threatening. admit the truth about a matter in question.serenity. if progress. with some unpredictable conclusion. none of these things is not remotely funny.especially in the double bed . USA. or the deal as a reason to laugh.it takes all the desire to have sex. not give them names of estimation. Make love to the two in the morning. rushed away to a tree. Men find very funny show in the ass for unsuspected group of older women. claims to have discovered where is the male sense of humor . With the terrorist you can negotiate. and terrible events male genitalia. it can. . the laughter indicates that she knows it was only joke. 3. throws her head down and produces a sequence of sounds very similar to human laughter. The male sexual organs are hanging right in front of a vulnerable and weak (additional proof that God is female) and are a source of fun and free for men. enjoy a much more enjoyable sex life. how much this habit to bother. are certainly protected and. in turn. The laughter is an extension of crying. third. Caring for food with the aim of releasing less gas. A woman can make it clear that the boom in the bedroom . to make the championships enchain bang and grooms in the light poles. Why the name men give to their own penis? . The male brain has an amazing ability to store and remember jokes. gaining prestige with men to have a good repertoire. Men love humor and jokes that have a logical. What is the perfect lover? . Examination of magnetic resonance imaging show that men laugh most of the things that stimulate the right side of the brain and that it gives to women the exact opposite. Other chimpanzees that warns of the danger. extending over four kilometers.

releasing anesthetic produced by the body. The more difficult it is for a man talk . 73 wives. And that is why. The laughter anesthesia the body. Here lies the difference between men and women with regard to dealing with serious emotional problems. networks of e-mails from around the world are literally flooded jokes sent by men. another Body natural tranquilizer that relieves the pain. in general people cry. the September 11 or the hunt for Osama bin Laden. The mood cure. that when a tragedy happens global. a kind of "cheap" natural. stabilizes the wrist. 28 children and more than 300 million dollars. When the person know it's reality. After the laughter. começaríamos to cry immediately and the body released encefalina too. Think the last time that someone told you a joke that made you slip in uncontrollable laughter. That is why the cry is often the extent of access of laughter. Alcohol loosen the inhibitions and makes a person laugh. The laughter is a predominantly male to deal with emotional pain. This explains why people rarely get sick and happy that the unfortunate people who are complaining live. Many people get the similar effect of laughter with drugs. They tell jokes as a way to "talk about the event. But he says he hates the Americans because of the excessive way of life they lead. Osama bin Laden has 53 brothers and sisters.The jokes are as important as a means of communication among men. seem ill more frequently. But knowing that it is not a real event. which explains why the general well-adjusted people laugh and most unfortunate that people become even more unfortunate. Cry when we have a painful experience. enhances learning and extends life. you usually cry. As the jokes and humor relieve the pain The laughter and crying instruct the brain to release endorphins into the bloodstream. but men account. activates the immune system. the laughter turns into crying. Women deal with disasters and tragedies openly expressing their emotions to other people. without showing any emotional blow that can be seen as weakness. If it were a real event. the breathing is deeper. strengthen the immune system. while promoting the immune system. the male brain enter immediately into action. At the end of a meeting of great laughs. protects against diseases. the arteries dilate and the muscles relax. research has shown that the positive effects of laughter. and even violent when they drink vodka or gin drinks. and the endorphins and encefalina help in self-anesthetize. releasing endorphins. The laughter and crying are closely related from a psychological and physiological. alcohol or sex. but someone who can not accept it may start to laugh. Endorphin is a substance whose chemical composition is similar to morphine and heroin and has a soothing effect on the body. when faced with a serious emotional crisis such as death. The basis of many jokes is a disastrous event or painful experience for someone. "I cried from laughing so much!" The tears contain encefalina. Whether the death of Princess Diana. How did you feel then? That feeling of tingling was from the release of endorphins to the blood system. laughed and released endorphins to the selfanesthetize. In all parts of the world. assists the memory.

conniption and leakage. And no man who finds the mother sexually attractive. however. are able to discuss details of their sex lives with friends without the help of any joke. Despite the jokes. as cruel and insensitive as it may seem to women. Maybe we should use the following tactics: "You are a great counter jokes. As already suggested. Do not be offended While there are Irish there are jokes about Irish. as the mother.to do what you want to do it is always the same. the more he rirá if you tell a joke on the subject. And where there is a tragedy. we laugh along with the British. What about Asian. A social occasion. we chose not to hurt. most women assume this role. How to re-educate the man The training of any person . will nourish you and serve you. on the grounds that the traffic being stopped. In any event. using the knowledge acquired in this book to check if all are in agreement with the differences between men and women! Learned behavior . You want the behavior that rewards and punishes as either. just go do something else. your clothes are. eventually playing the mother figure and man react with screams. acting as a mother all the time. this observation may be more difficult. tell him so firm and gentle you are not enjoying it and want it to stop. but your anger will not make the traffic flow. If you are capable of taking a calm. maybe find a solution to the problem. boys grow up with few skills and domestic skills and a low degree of understanding of how to relate to a woman. Women live behind the things that the children leave the house. analytical. As the men rarely talk about his sex life with men.if you choose offense. Other people may not offend you . As a result. And choose to offend the world says you are unable to deal with the problem addressed by the joke.child or adult . they tell jokes as a way to discuss her. things go sour. It is important to understand that women. preparing their favorite dishes. If it's a good joke.about an emotional event. Do know any more light?" Or you can ably deflect the subject. give them money and protect the bitterness of life. and the counter attack of the joke does not become more intelligent. We are Australian author living in England and the English are all the time telling us jokes about Australians. but when he realizes that may become permanent. At the beginning of a new relationship. That does not mean they are really stupid. especially if you are the host. . Women. You can choose to feel offended because someone told a joke that says that everyone in your country is stupid. cease to be victims of traffic on both of rabies. Portuguese and feminist. You can choose to feel the rage of traffic jam.blame his mother The female brain is programmed to create and nurture the children mainly. it will invariably create their own collection of jokes. If a man insist wisecrack unfit at or in the wrong place. Miff is a choice. They feel attracted to women. If he persists. The man who asked you to stop improper wisecrack may feel publicly humiliated and be challenged from the other even more offensive.

.is the man to drop the clothes or wet towel on the floor rather than put it in the basket of laundry. Do not place them in the shop or anywhere that is convenient for him. If the mother of a man not trained to do these things. culture or religion. the next time you ask women to the seven things that men do leave them mad. miff or frustrate yourself with them. instead of discussing. When he needs pants. shirts or towels washed. Men are always the same . therefore. because it generally produces a negative effect on men.you can change the skin color. Some women are horrified at the idea of thanking a man for him to do something as simple as collecting their own clothes. Thus. reward their contribution with a smile. tell him I will put them in a de-finished cabinet. you will discover that it can be fun to have a man around. Similarly. but it is important to understand that men have not changed as guardians of nests and. But if you continue to collect and save his stuff. Maybe. will you train it. explain that you will put them in a plastic bag in a closet or under the bed. When you understand how the male brain. if large tools or unfinished projects for the house. collect the clothes and the towel. you know where to find. the sexes will be able to live happily ever after. a caress or a "thank you". When he need them. the problem is his. If you intend to re-educate your man. Who knows. resisting the temptation to save his stuff. they may fail to mention or three. because that will only reinforce the behavior you do not want. How they interfere with their right to live in a clean house. The key problem is to announce its intentions in advance and avoid being sarcastic. judgmentalism or aggressive. And when he put the things in the right place. but their brains work the same. The secret is to administer the men of his life. or were born in Trieste or in Timbuktu. you have chosen to accept that the role of substitute mother's will and to comply with this role. explain politely that you would like the clothes were put in the basket to be washed. not yours. the care is not a behavior "natural" for them. If they ignore your request.

you do not love me more! "The old mother:" No need to worry about me . whine. sick and then.to act in a different way than would like. trapped between three women who mourn. The lacrimal gland is the tap..husband. wail. reaching for his time in the nasal cavity.only the names have been changed to protect the guilty. We now examine how the emotions can be used to manipulate people and make them sell. All stories are true . The goal is to force the other person . Although men occasionally do this. whine (the dog). The daughter: "If you really like me. the excess of tears that can not be drained by the lacrimal channels rolls by side. but there are times when people cry to manipulate the emotions of others. child. For humans. shed some serious and humorous on the differences between the sexes and what you can do about it. wail. I am old. women are more likely to use the tears as a weapon of emotional blackmail..rotina. the channel is the lacrimal drain. Why cry? Cry: yell. She also cries to look sorry and receive more lenient a punishment for a wrong action. " So far. whimper. Sometimes the cry comes as direct response of the heart. each with their particular complaint. spill or blubber. leak. The tears are secreted by a gland located above the eye and removed by two channels in the internal corner. excrete chemicals generated by stress. even if they are not aware of it. This chapter will help you identify the people who use such tactics to manipulate you or trick you in order to obtain what they want. lover. distress signal in emotionally charged situations. gave me a new bike! The mother of salt / and gave her one! ! The woman: "You forgot the anniversary of our marriage! Our relationship fell na. . once I die. parent or friend . whine. Emo-tional circumstances or afflicted. but humans are the only ones who cry with emotion. the tears serve three purposes: to help clean the surface of the eye. Crying is a behavior that we have in common with other animals and that starts at birth.Chapter 3 WHY Women cry? The dangers of emotional blackmail Poor man. howl. It is a mechanism of control that can be deliberate or unconscious.

behavior perpetuated among adults. to manipulate emotion. 3 . The prime purpose of crying in adults. Cry used to remove salt and other impurities from the eye. because the whole process rolling. is a sign of confidence: the crying is the baby. by which it assesses their needs. Humans. Wash the eye: The lacrimal gland discharges fluid inside the eye and lacrimal channels act as drains to drain it to the nasal cavity. Most women can identify seven different meanings in the crying baby. a process known to us all. even seem to be no reason to do so. he encourages other men to attack him.from another person by threatening to reveal something that . however. yes. which is consistent with the emotional reactions of the brain most powerful women. the man who shows emotion. especially for other women. those who roll the sides. The seals and sea otters do not use tears as a tool of manipulation. but the amount of tears is not enough to roll the face. The crying and the emotional blackmail How to blackmail Now you know the purpose of crying. This is what happens when the light reflects the tears of parents proud and passionate lovers. Rarely you see a man cry in public. By transmitting weakness. The tears also contain endorphins. is placed at risk. The human being is the only land animal that cries of excitement and.Why women cry more than men? Cry since born. The eyes glow when a person feels an intense emotion. The body seems to use this function to eliminate the toxins of stress. a natural body of anesthetics that act as shock of emotional pain. 2. That would explain why women they feel better after "a good cry".Flag emotions: Seals and sea otters cry when emotionally shaken by the loss of their young. Reduce stress: chemical analysis show that the tears of stress. Let's talk about criminal blackmail.usually money . For women. and encourage the production of the hormone oxytocin. especially in the presence of other men. and friend plays the role of parent helpers. containing the different proteins that serve to clean the eye. display their emotions. Crying is a way to achieve what the child wants. for some women. which makes people want to be touched by other people and acaricides. The tears act as a signal to the other emotional embrace and comfort those who cry. The lacrimal glands of women are more active than those of man. which kills bacteria and prevents infections in the eye. The tears contain an enzyme called lysozyme. Familiar cry has three purposes: 1. we examine the mechanism of manipulation. where someone tries to extract advantage . is stimulating feelings of affection and protection.

what? Something I did?" Rosemary shook her head with a sad air. Rosemary shake. . the husband of Rosemary.The blackmailer: a person who knows the weak point of the victim. please. "I do not know how to say. Is it something so bad?" Between tears. the relationship with the parents of Greg finally turned sour. . . served him a glass of wine and asked how was your day. After dessert. . who was combining a party-surprise for the anniversary of Rosemary. "Tell me. Between tears. all is well. that would invite the parent to live with them. she knew he was calm and relaxed. . I give a way.will harm the victim's life.The victim: someone who has a sense of guilt or obligation. she shook her head. with heavy heart. The mother thought that Greg was not good enough for his daughter and was always trying to create problems for the couple. carefully chose the moment to present it. "It probably is a co-worker. and her mother did not like each other. Greg was starting to become distressed. made a special deal in appearance and prepared the favorite of Greg. . she put her head between his hands. Do not worry. She is very patient and I am worried. "We are not owners of each other. I take care of her. Greg. "No. "It's Mommy. you did nothing. "No." "But Rosie. . Two years later.Resistance: the victim's initial refusal to cooperate. This person knows their innermost secrets and vulnerabilities and USA that knowledge to make you comply. Rosemary should be having an affair. Case study: Rosemary Greg. but not . but I know what you think of the idea of her live with us.The agreement." Greg was furious when his wife told him that story. acceptance of the demands of the blackmailer. no. Greg hugged her and she begged him to say what was the problem. From that day. "tell me what happened. Frankly.The threat: exposure. I will try to understand. "Rosie. Greg. Greg." Greg began to think the worst. The emotional blackmail The emotional blackmail happens when a person threatens you emotionally close to any punishment or subtly insinuated that you will suffer if you do not agree with what she wants. Excuse me. punishment and loss of something of great value material or emotional.The requirement: the payment in exchange for silence or cooperation." suggested Rosemary. she told Rosemary that one of her friends had seen Greg with another woman in a bar. Concerned. pleading. "I feel terrible.. the mother of Rosemary and daughter became seriously ill understood.Continuity: the inevitable continuation of exigêncÚs. went hand in the eyes and deep breath. I tried all possible solutions." she replied. But how could imagine what the reaction from Greg." he begged. When he came home. "No. Rosemary prying eyes at him. It is I" And off to cry." she said with soft voice and hacking. Greg asked what was wrong. That night. That is therefore the main ingredients of blackmail and criminal actors: ." Greg held the hands of women. One day. Took her to the bar to present it to the owner. When we sat at the table.. I am afraid of you getting angry with me and not stand that.

In the end. It is important that you identify the people in their relations that use these tactics of manipulation to get what they want. Women. the emotional blackmail to get what they want. and he would feel sick. The story of Greg and Rosemary has the typical ingredients of blackmail in which a person tries to emotionally manipulate the other to obtain a personal gain: The victim: Greg . who developed the role of peace keepers tend to say exactly what they want when they want something. But after two days of tears of Rosemary. but . and this is killing me . It is inevitable that you will be felt by being placed in this situation. The pattern was established. Oh. Defenders of the nest. maybe that person who never seems to say exactly what you want .. " And started to sob. most frequently the victims of that the villains of emotional blackmail. They prefer to ask directly what they want. . The blackmailer: Rosemary .exactly as Rosemary thought he would stay. If he really loved Rosemary. The agreement: Greg yields to the demands of Rosemary. more commonly. Greg was flatly refused to consider the possibility of bringing the parents to live with them. should not be prepared to make that sacrifice for it? Is this not true love? Marriage is compromise? And started to feel selfish and petty . Its function has always been to nurture relationships .realized the weakness of Greg. Initially. Everybody knows at least one person who has used tactics of emotional blackmail to force them to do something that they initially refused. And Greg knew that every time he protests. people do not believe that their relatives and friends use this type of strategy on a conscious and deliberate. there would be tears and accusations. I do not know what to do . The people who are emotional blackmail.and their brains are structured to make them work. Continuation: the inevitable discussions and in tears. often.thinking about Mom alone. the blackmailer makes you feel bad with yourself and guilty of resisting.found. it was your mother I know. The many lack the self-esteem necessary to consider worthy of the object of their desires. Whether you realize it or not.. without anyone to care for her. Men and emotional blackmail Men are. Greg. The requirement: the mother of Rosemary go live with them. began to feel guilty. Perhaps a situation similar to that of Greg. relatives and friends. they have a incontomável need to be loved. Greg agreed to a trial period of a month. But the consequences of emotional blackmail is always destructive. The strength of the initial refusal to cooperate Greg. To obtain your agreement.with partners. by far..they always end up manipulating to achieve their final goal. Both Rosemary as her mother knew that once she enters the door. rather than say it directly at the risk of a refusal to listen. it would be virtually impossible to go back. You end up agreeing to something not wanted to do. children and other family and social groups . In general.he felt weakness and feeling of guilt when his wife was emotionally distressed. Use because. The threat: the implicit refusal of love where Rosemary not get what they want. your relationship with the blackmailer will never be the same..

thought it natural that she wanted to make love as much as him. When the time comes. I like you the truth.The blackmail seems to be the easiest way because it allows the person to avoid the confrontation. As Erika said that he liked it. The same happened a second time. I know. sweetheart. If a man wished that his mother would live with him. I really like . the men preferred the direct approach. I only make love with you. for centuries. Men are also emotional blackmail. after a dinner theater and much more expensive than Damian wanted to pay. Damian was getting impatient. he tried to take the shirt of Erika. For me." But Erika did not seem convinced. I just want to know you better. hire an escort to take care of mother. in his stratagems and his cunning to get what they wanted. Turned to Erika and began kissing her and rummage in his shirt. I love you. Damian .. "Sorry. "No. but in much smaller scale. The trend would come right in the matter and discuss it frankly. Women prefer to emotional blackmail. In the third meeting. In general. immediately. She has helped to unbutton it and started to caress.. he stopped the car park in a poorly lit and turned off the engine. this is the time. meanwhile. We only went three times. But it is too early. So it is not contained and asked what was wrong. but was rejected. He liked to Erika and I have sex with her but the girl resisting." Damian whispered in his ear: "Come on. The men use the direct approach and well structured to achieve what they want. men require. to buy your partner a bouquet of flowers before you ask. men always occupied positions were always more powerful and more open master-mind of women. please." Erika. Be patient with me. The boys. spend the weekends away and so on.. and usually women consent. Damian. you know you want. or subtly asking that everyone agree with what they want. He could not understand why. I like you the truth. However. "Erika. In the course of history. and this would be the maximum of their manipulation. the use to convince girlfriends to make sex with them. taking into account the pros and cons. there are some situations in which men often resort to emotional blackmail. We give it so well that I want to show you how much I love you. Case study: Damian Damian came out twice with Erika. After five minutes. women had to rely.. And twice in the match led a long and deep kiss before she desvencilhar of his arms and leave the car running for home. And a third. moved away. May propose to build an annex in the house. When hunting. sorry . The male brain functions are much simpler with regard to emotions. I never felt this for someone else. for example. And their brains continue to evolve that way. I do not feel ready. Without enough force to impose their will. but I do not want.

Finally. she stopped resisting and was blackmailing left to do something not wanted. I thought that you feel for me what I feel for you. I like you." Children: . We forget that this happened. though no longer absolutely clear that he liked her. women are deeply shaken when they see a man collapse." "When we fuck. Erika. I always hated.." "I will disinherit you. What's wrong with you?" "This is what people who love to do some the other. Here are some of the threats or punishment typical of the emotional blackmail that it may sound familiar: Parents: "After everything I did for you.. sad. I love you. Erika was increasingly upset. but I am not prepared." "Why are you doing this to me? You are blood of my blood!" Husbands / wives: "I can not believe you're so selfish!" "You do not love me. But if you do not feel the same.. but that is how I feel.. It is better if we separate. parents or friends. This leaves the way open for Damian to want sex all the time you see. "No. Sometimes employers can be. Common tactics of blackmail emotional The practice of emotional blackmail may be lovers." Lovers: "Everybody does. The emotional blackmail rife in families and is a practice that is transmitted from generation to generation. "Because . Used to see men as strong and infallible creatures. If I had said so directly. husbands or wives. A relationship that starts well is doomed to failure..." Damian shook his head. "No. " Erika Damian just having sex with that night. I was a complete idiot.. it would not have reacted as reacted. I'm sorry. I regret..you." It seemed so upset that Erika could not avoid a sense of shame. do it for me. Erika began to feel that perhaps the only way to convince you were agreeing to have sex." But Erika. But I see that I am completely wrong . I thought that things were going well between us. Erika was the victim and sex. Damian. I just need a little more time . I have hurt before . He knew exactly what were the weaknesses of the Erika and struck without mercy. look. As expected that two people build a relationship of respect and mutual trust based on the manipulation? The emotional blackmail is not destroyed immediately combated. When Damian subtly accused it of not liking him. You will never see the children. Damian." And got the key to the car to start the engine.. "No. Women hate men see emotionally disturbed. it is clear that you do not feel for me what I feel for you." "Of course you do not love me. parents. But when he said that does not support the idea of being hurt again. then it is better to give people a longer time while I'm not too concerned . the requirement. I think you're a great guy and I spend more time with you.. children. Damian left implicit threat "that was ready to end the relationship if you do not get what they want. And their relationship lasted two weeks." Ex-partners: "I will lead you to stick to family. and it is natural for a man wanting to express love physically. that awakens their maternal instincts and desire to help them get rid of pain." Damian was crestfallen. Here.." "If you love me." "I will leave you without a penny. Damian was the blackmailer.

I get sick and end up in hospital" "Do not worry about me . he is completely deaf. he asked the children and she felt obliged to lie." Friends: "If the need were you. It has nothing to do. This is the guy they like most of the children you love me. I would go with you today. he is getting old and I do not know how long it will live. . It is not fair.I am old and will die soon. she used the emotional blackmail. We do not want to go. The children then did exactly the same. "Oh." "You like more of my sister than me. I would have done it for you. You do not remember what he did for you when you were small? Mimava account and would take you two. In addition." In-laws: "I leave everything to a charity. who was sick. But look how you treat me when I need. or in any particular activity that kept distant." "You've heard of sexual harassment?" What the blackmailer is saying is: "If you do not behave the way I want. Note that I have ne-le vai from the final average. do you?" Katie." she told them." "If you do not take care of me. In this scenario. you should not be doing your heart with us. because they had already learned the game." "I always did everything for you. "Look. "And there is very flat in his house. " The children can master the art of manipulation." argued Bemard of fifteen years. my situation may be difficult. Every time I visited the uncle." Employers: "You are only making things more difficult for their coworkers. of sixteen years." "I'm sure the press will like to know that. Julia felt guilty for that. saying they were on a tour of the school. he does not listen to what people say."All the other parents do this for their children. Do not I deserve a little fun? You do not want me to be sad. was also a specialist in blackmail. I never had money." "Do not you have to me and a little company loyalty?" Employees: "If you say goodbye. You want us to be disapproved. but spent everything I had with you. Children learn early that the emo-tional blackmail are a way to get what they want particularmen when you live in a family where parents use blackmail. I can never go out with my friends." But. or simply instruct them to do what felt right. "you know that we have a lot of home for duty to do. mother." she said. the children of Julia also blackmail." "I never thought I would disappoint me so much. If I do not do well. How children feel relatively powerless because of their age and size. Julia felt powerless and trying to exercise a moral and emotional pressure on children. blackmail seems to be the most effective and easy to get what they want. Parents who routinely try to blackmail your children must be prepared to see the spell turned against the magician. Case study: Julia The more grown less if the children of Julia had to go visit Uncle John. End of story. "But mother.I have been adopted. or busy with their tasks from home. Instead of arguing with them calmly and coolly. will suffer the consequences." "I though . They must take the consequences. you will need a good lawyer. but I have this great work of geography to . indifferent to the arguments of the mother." "Make sure your name is never a list of deals. "He is alone and wants to see you.

Convince the mother of Stephen's family to seek Camila to tell them he was concerned about the state of it and ask them to give him attention. the greater the sense of guilt. Chrissie. Stephen thought it was an amicable separation. but everything was finished. crying and saying that his life had been finished without him. the more it will take a standard in the future of their relationships. Stephen did not know which direction to take. "Hey. But Camila is not complied. One day we were watching a street artist in London. his new girlfriend. Stephen did not. saying it had made a big mistake and would like to meet with him to talk. At the end of their number. Stephen simply had not noticed that Camila was deliberately using the emotional blackmail to have him back and had no real intention to kill. The closer the relationship. you do not like you!" Did eighteen pounds. Case study: Stephen Stephen was five years ago married Camila when they separated amicably. Reluctant. There was no chance of him returning to it. and guilt is the most powerful weapon of blackmail. but had no more emotional ties. he may return to Camila therefore been very frightened with the threat of suicide. She knew his mother liked her as a daughter and had been razed to the separation. Camila still regularly visiting his mother and talking about the "good times" of his relationship with Stephen. he turned to the group of children that applauded. Then she called saying that he would be killed. Camila was mad with rage. Chrissie is not involved. agreed to is Stephen. bewitched. But there appeared another woman. Began to call his mother. She simply believed that after one or two weeks alone. Tried in vain to comfort her. Luckily. kids! If your parents did not give a pound to put on my hat. Everyone felt sorry for her. he begged to go home.Adults who use emotional blackmail create children who are even better in practice. Like most women. never really believed he would remain firm in that position. Chrissie was able to understand the emotional blackmail of Camila and I knew that Stephen was the innocent victim. but nobody gives it much importance. But when Stephen's mother began to talk about his new wife. which had met someone else and that I would be happy Camila too. but would like it to be ahead and build for themselves a new life. But Stephen had changed. Camila is angry. asking for news. Camila still enjoyed and felt affection for her. but said he felt very. Then Stephen encouraged to write a letter to Camila saying you felt very strongly that. Camila. day and night. The more a person is allowed to emotional blackmail. The quick action of Chrissie prevented that Stephen was caught in the trap of a relationship that he wanted more.just like when they met. thinking that would be responsible. attractive and loving . Stephen began to call for more problems in the hours. but had agreed to the separation at the time. and shouted. He heard about the lack that he did. Chrissie and Stephen were married the following year. . Camila was well-humored. Well . saw what was happening and was in charge of the problem. Camila secretly believed that he could never hit the step and sooner or later would see how his life was empty without her. Phone begging for him to come visit her. He felt powerless in the face of her tears..

Irene was the victim of blackmail. never putting their needs above the needs of others. The men are not accustomed to dealing with their emotions and do not much idea of how women deal with emotion." he said with a voice increasingly angry. "But Bob. She knew that Bob could drag it forever and the boys were increasingly distressed with the tension in the house. Return to work full-time and everything would be fine. Men like to direct discussions and arguments about which is the best time. Exhausted. Women know this and use for their own benefit. Irene has supported more than one situation. There are many things we do at home. is used to refer to male rulers. . figures and concrete realities. and should have left it clear. He knows it will. we could have both. me. but this tactic works better when their women are kind of sensitive and quiet. which produces a beer hangover less angry. I am stressed all the time and my fishing to Saturday is the only opportunity I have to relax. " Bob made a bad pass Irene piece in the three following days. Nobody likes a cynical take on another person. We just pay the enrollment of children and you promised I could buy a new car at the end of the month mine is a broad-old who lives breach. the majority simply does not support. " Bob does not move: "No. I never imagined that one day you would deprive them of spending the weekends with us.and now he wants to a berth in the marina. Stephen was convinced from the outset that no-that would return to Camila. and I m always done that on your own. you only think of you. We must give a fun for the kids on weekends. It was quiet and generous." he said. but they will end up having problems. but used to refer to the demands of others and left to state their wishes only to keep the peace. Bob. I work hard the entire month to earn money to support this family.mostly women faced with the emotions. Men deal with facts. When Irene knew the price. "I. used. They also need that boat! " After two days of tension. was concerned with people." Bob remained insensitive. One day. Been researching and said he could buy exactly the boat I wanted at a reasonable price. "I do not believe what I hear. It was a happy and loyal person. I was thinking about the boat. "We can not buy it now. In a year the boat will be more expensive and also is a good idea to buy a boat this summer. almost fainted. " Irene was crazy. Bob bought his boat .The fault places the victim under great pressure. because they will be able to do water skiing. which political party is the best policy to govern the country. and who knows if I bought a smaller car. as anyone who receives a demand for ransom or a direct threat. we can not buy the boat now. Finally. Irene discovered a solution. We spend more time with the kids. but it is important to remain firm in what you want. The essential ingredients of the criminal and emotional blackmail are exactly the same." Bob was naughty. Bob announced the desire to buy a new boat. she decided to try a line: "Bob. because the old was exceeded. Irene. When other people . Case study: Irene Irene was a wonderful character. her husband was very demanding and jealous. Men can be tyrants too emotional to get what they want. all together as a family . it will use the same tactic again. me. Will never passes through your head that I have my needs. and you postpone the purchase of new boat for a year. "Do not you think the children? It is you who always cares to know where they are and what they are doing. "Here you come again thinking only in yourself.

The threat: the guilt of contributing to the deteriorating health of her husband. Do not ask the blackmailer to reduce its demand and.all of them character-specific. his love for children and their desire to maintain a happy home were the vulnerabilities of Irene. Whenever father and mother give to an attack of anger of the children are planting the seeds of an emotional blackmailer. they look like rude children. If they give in to blackmail. . and offer an alternative. the blackmailer feel powerless. Make its demand and. patience and a firm purpose. which was built in the course of time. The submission: Irene just giving. Usually accuse their victims of being selfish. that is. this is rarely true. have an attack of anger. The resistance: the attempts to Irene to demonstrate that the requirement of Bob was not practical. in any way accepted any portion of blame for the situation. Blackmailer usually nothing more than false Roughnecks. the fear and guilt. can be modified over time. This change of behavior requires persistence. Be ravaged by insecurity. which allows the blackmailer making new demands. it is important to consider in deciding whether to agree with it or will do something about it. The blackmailer: Bob knew all the secrets and feelings of Irene and know their weak points. it will gradually lose the self and will be forever deprived of the ability to assert itself. egocentric and without feelings . Continuation: the recurrence of the tactics of blackmail on the part of Bob for the anchorage and the marina in other situations. they knew it would work. Why can not argue with the objective to discuss the situation and negotiate their options. But the behavior of the blackmailer.The victim: The sense of obligation to his family. Therefore. In many ways. Do not try to understand how you feel the blackmailer. But while giving the impression of knowing exactly what they want and are prepared to do what is necessary to get him. Without their agreement. People always treat us the way we allow them to handle. His self-image is poor and does not support the rejection. The only way you lose that power is showing weakness. and extending the tension in the house. you have to prepare for a battle long and hard. in reality it is you who has the mastery of the situation. increasingly unfair How to deal with an emotional blackmailer People who practice emotional blackmail often strong opinion and resolution u s. If you are a victim.are like emotional blackmail fanfarrões children and rude and should be treated as such. if she is not satisfied. and have a desperate fear of losing what they already have. The requirement: that Irene agreed to purchase a new boat. because it enabled. If you think you are a victim of emotional blackmail. imme-diately. The emotional blackmail destroys the self-image of victim. Never forget . to allow the children fell into bad company because of the husband was being selfish. The first thing to bear in mind is that the blackmailer need your agreement to something.

At that time. knowing that the goal is just to give you some relief. We on this later. The situation must be resolved . setting its borders and keep it firmly within them. insults or attack the vulnerabilities of the blackmailer." ." The refusal to show weakness or immediately negotiate almost always produces a period of silence or the petulance blackmailer. how it emerged and strengthened further as it became a reference for many other women who .Remember: you are being the victim of blackmail and that what matters is how you are feeling. because anything you say will not be able to it. it is usually then that the victim assigns. When the demands. Blackmailer meet people who do not retreat. If the blackmailer demand make you feel uncomfortable.but only if the blackmailer is ready to discuss the problem in a civilized and rational."I see you are not satisfied. respond with silence." . What can you tell a blackmailer . especially 'the victims had the courage to talk about what was happening. but we will discuss the issue when you calm down." ."You're obviously disappointed."Obviously you are angry. you can modify the behavior of the blackmailer."I regret that you feel as you prefer. I'm available" And stand away. then practice them until they become part of you. South Africa had the highest rate of rape in the world: one for each 26 seconds. the choice is yours. Reaching a compromise. Maybe they did not occur naturally. quit the conversation civilized and go." ."Well."I see things in a different way. During this period of silence the blackmailer. it is essential that you have a stock of ready answers. Just say: "When you want to talk. The rape was the biggest taboo in the country. With such a strategy. do not argue. The blackmailer feel helpless and hopeless before the: USA. Charlene speaks of the terrible effect that the episode caused it. In his book. speak of 'his good qualities. Never attempt to counter-blackmail. When the blackmailer is also in the dark Sometimes the blackmailer is not aware of what is doing. but at this point there is no negotiation. Beware. but you still need to save the appearances. Avoid countered with threats. but that is how things are." ." . threats and accusations of a blackmailer to start well. Do not fight or argue with the blackmailer ."I think we need to think much about it.train him. and few people. A South African journalist Charlene Smith wrote a wonderful book about the night he was raped at home and helped the authorities to prosecute their abusers.

when he discovered that he was an incorrigible liar. It paralyzes the victim. You can request the support of a friend of women's confidence or call a good adviser. do this simple thing for me. When contacting Charlene." he said. though not visible to the naked eye. When your heart becomes a life sentence When you are first subject to threats of emotional blackmail. as the blows that she applied to his family were much more deadly. demanded that her husband bought a house in another place and left to care for three children and the house. "She was playing the abusive behavior of their abusers ment of another way. initiating a vicious cycle that becomes increasingly difficult to hold. she agreed to sign your name on the dotted line. unconsciously. . she was amazed with the reaction of the writer. psychologically and financially." he said.went by the same trauma. that's the least I can wait" as a weapon to finally oblige it to accept." He used the phrase "After all we spent together. "We are talking about spending the rest of our lives together. The fault is usually the most powerful weapon of the arsenal of the blackmailer. an incompetent who could not stop two weeks in the same job. the woman left the university. Charlene said bluntly that she was using the emotional blackmail to make the family suffer as she had suffered. especially her husband and children because they felt unable to protest and resist. I had enough credit. "The addiction of Mary autopiedade made a slave of his attackers. blind with love and afraid to lose him. After being raped. the house was leaving her husband and. And if the husband had stayed at home that night? And if the children had not left? Perhaps the rape had not happened. In the end. "But why not. stricken by the frustration felt unable to help her to recover. It is very likely that this woman had no awareness of emotional blackmail to be doing with your famI1ia." The victim may be. and asked that money in the God-given and everyone was too late. "If you really love me. Initially. The attacks of them were obvious. He begged her to be his guarantor in a loan to purchase a car to work because. The children cared for themselves. 'psychologist or psychotherapist. In the limit. to help break the vicious circle of self and autopiedade. But one that tried did not get its support. I am asking for both of us. "I'm not asking just for me. perhaps best finish all at once now! The discussion was dragged for weeks. Later. for our future. In these circumstances it is much better for the victims of blackmail out under domestic and seek help. It was easy to fall into the role of blackmail. as I said. the blackmailer can ruin the victim emotionally." said Charlene in Proud of Me (proud of me). she resisted. A well known to our family by the groom was troubled to \ join him in a business transaction. free from emotional. passed the consequences of emotional blackmail to other family members and friends. Sometimes it is necessary to use someone who is outside the sphere of emotional blackmail. If you do not trust me to make a simple loan. They were prisoners of a sense of guilt for rape.

the emotional blackmail tends to vary. but was long ago. she ended up drowned in debt.that they follow certain careers. Anyone who has ever been in the role of victim may be imprisoned the rest of your life and see all the missed chances to find happiness. by sense of duty.are authentic and often subtle emotional blackmail . service by service. As the groom. . with no regard for specific talent or the desire of the child. So if after reading these stories you recognized the role of victim and cry so that she knows the reason. love and joy of living a life without guilt. abandoned the happiness of parents to care for elderly and debilitated. wherever it occurs. Yielding to emotional blackmail. The emotional blackmail. still paying.Why give the blackmailer. the child will feel forever prisoner and felt with his parents. The threat of losing the love of women is easy prey to blackmail. With the children. Everyone has heard of women who. but firmly resolved to fill them with guilt when they were thinking about leaving them to build their own lives. How many parents pushing their children . now she suspects of every man that approaches. And what is more sad. Parents also can inflict lasting scars on their children. is always per-versa. But it is never too late to change the situation.

What do you mean with 'I do not take care of you or the children? See our wonderful house.. Mark had a very good job. Here's what they said to the therapist: Kelly: "Mark is hooked on work. While love. and we were at the end of their list of priorities.... The men.. not know the existence of that system and may be disapproved without ever coming to understand that it is wrong. but in their hearts they thought things should resolve themselves. " Mark (surprised): "I can not believe what I hear. And all you do is work. Tell me when was the last time you said you loved me . or that fits the stereotypes of marriage that everyone knows. The problem was that Mark. I am tired of being mother and father to our children. work and work.. " Mark (shocked): "Kelly .. both agreed to consult a therapist for couples. Mark agreed. but the place inexorably. Both calculate that the other will continue giving what is already giving that behave the same way as their parents. their three children were happy and well adjusted. their relationship was problematic.. and Mark Kelly led a perfect life. It is as if not existíssemos. We work. organize your life and take care of our family . was not the slightest idea that Kelly wore a special female scores to rate their marriage. I work hard. I do everything for you. The men see only the general framework Men prefer to be watching the "framework" of . like most men. Kelly . all this I offer to you and them! Yes. the clothes and jewelry you USA. When a man and a woman decide to live together. Kelly always seemed boring and Mark was perplexed. cook. most at least." Most men absolutely do not realize that women maintain a system for scoring the performance of its general partner. lived in a lovely house. I drain the family to work for the week full and you are never satisfied.Chapter 4 THE ULTRA-SECRET SYSTEM THE WOMEN OF SCORE How to ruin a man of the week For the rest of the world.. The number of points that man accumulates with his partner directly affects the quality of your life.. When was the last time you emptied the machine to wash dishes for me? Do you know a place to wash dishes? Tell me when was the last time you took me out to dinner. Es-Kelly was happy to go to a therapist.. not understanding what happened. in general do not discuss the last details of the contribution of each of the relationship. desperate and afflicted with constant fights. to take care of me and that part of family life that I need without being charged. I need a man I want. Forget about me and the children and never do anything for us. you know I love you .. " Kelly (angry): "You can not even understand. the excellent school for children . is not Mark? And I think I will never understand. Between four walls. One night when the issue arose of legal separation.. and every year spend holidays abroad. step. Women are not aware of this process. you still complaining . were confused. Wash. however.. but so that people can live well and have everything you want.

They simply do what they do and never think to maintain a system of scoring. then won six points. it just something great. while a dozen roses can be interpreted as decoration for the house. also wins a point. Similarly. it gives you a point.life together and giving a small number of large contributions from that tangle with a number of contributions that appear less and less important. Regularly present shows with a single rose that is always in the forefront in his mind. and he is surprised and upset with their accusations. gets a point collects his laundry or says he loves the woman. The female brain. The woman keeps the score and never forget. in turn. While unconscious. They are still doing things for the man because they believe in the end. if the man paints the house.one for each day of work. but when it does. But if he buys a rose every week for six weeks. He was not the slightest idea of the existence of a problem because it also maintained a system. For him. . the woman gives points to every thing we do in the partner relationship. not by size. If he gives you a bouquet of six roses. It really is that women feel and think. This difference is the cause of many misunderstandings between men and women. it would reach this point. If a man keep a score. you will certainly score more. she continues giving only one point. the man is not knowing when the relationship is tie the score. no matter the size. But 95% of all points awarded in a relationship are the things that happen or stop happening every day. In other words. If a man buys a rose for your partner. quality or the result of a single action. would find that the more important the larger the share or more points this should be allocated. the points are allocated by the number of shares held. man can not have the custom to give his partner often. For example. And suppose. If the man also had a point system. men are not the slightest idea that women attribute points in the relationship. Women keep lasting memories that accumulate points for years. If he buys her a new car or a diamond ring of your dreams. for example. secretly. A single rose is clearly intended for her. why women take a variety of small decisions about the intricate aspects of a relationship practice. A woman can let it get to 30 to 1 before starting to complain. had complained of being too giving and require that the score was tied. regardless of size. In general. The woman gives a point for this action or. but the point of view it is only five . allocate points according to the size of the action or the present. men always thought it is paper size. the score-draw will do. is structured to fine tune. As most women know. When he thought that the score was 3 to 1. working five days a week is worth at least thirty points. Then the man she accuses of not doing anything. that your partner will thank and support them retribuirão.

chocolates and champagne for her. He asked. For example. when Brian praised by Lorraine she prepared a dinner some night. is that it never happened that the head of the woman praising the food could render points. normal. despite having . His wife.because they cost dearly. The woman usually gives to man a single point for each task home run. personal and intimate than the big tasks. "You go to the sink and I am dropping puns on the couch." Why not try to change position tonight? ". Like most men. and call again when you arrive. They had also to record points lost by irritating things that your partner do. Working late worth five points per night in his opinion. and he was proud of what he has done. or that the activities had generated. This list indicates several things: first. but he was not aware that there were some marked. a car-so score of the contributions that have believed in that relationship and estimate the score that thought should receive the other. and when doing a test like this tend to have good behavior. Lorraine. "Good idea!". took the house and cared for their two children. We present below a summary of the partial results after thirty days. In fact. You may notice that none of them reported many negative points. Brian was five points by helping the child to assemble an aircraft. because the brain spatially oriented.To the woman that matters is not size." without realizing that this small action to surrender points. mark at least three points. We then ask that they meet every day. but she only gave him four points. which required skill. Brian ignored the fact that small things mean a lot to women. We suspect that this is due to two reasons: couples who live together have a tendency to ignore the negative points or relieve the other. the more points scored. but working overtime in fact meant he had less time to stay at home doing small things. She tends to put more points for small tasks. If he had called to say that I loved her and miss her. is the frequency. In see-ment. she thought he care more for work than for her. which for Lorraine earned only one point. for thirty days. but only gave him a Lorraine. She said. For him. thought it would at least ten points . One point was assigned for each of the small-contribution and a maximum of thirty points for a major contribution to the relationship.a third of your score staff to work five days a week . For example. Both are described as a happy couple. Our experience with Brian Brian and Lorraine was a financial operator who worked long hours visiting client's building and your business." Brian thought that the more work in the office. He just thought it was "taking care of it. men give more points than women to work physically and spatially linked. During this period could not discuss among themselves or how or when the points were allocated. Not that I have forgotten. for it was only a joke. Brian won important points by small actions such as "give me his coat because I was cold. this was a difficult task. When bought flowers. he is not remembered for having done the praise and not to put it in your list. He thought he was earning extra money for a better life and that she admired for that. and therefore lost points. she gave him three points.

to bath the children. shopping. . take care of dogs. Lorraine was granted an average of 78 points. " Complaints of Brian concerned things that Lorraine did or failed to do for him. These lists also show that when the man and woman having sex or not. She described every detail their activities. and twenty times in the two points that took the initiative in sex. plan family events. watering the plants. giving the same to you to work fifty hours a week. Lorraine stayed at home feeling aggrieved and resentful. Aspirate the carpet. wash the laundry. that experience was a chance to open eyes. What started almost as a diversion to see how men and women attach points revealed a potentially disastrous situation. a year before. reading. Brian was devastated with the result. The reactions of Brian and Lorraine The weekly score of 30 points less to Brian explained that ants within a resentment of Lorraine from the previous year. pa-ra them and discipline them worth one point each. send birthday cards. Brian never becomes a routine of Lorraine. for being at work all the time. Lorraine He felt a little distant from the birth of last child. pay bills. "I'm not morose. but he never does what it has to do. At the end of the experience. for the simple reason that she never said anything about it. he began working late.thirty points.often heard his mother and his grandmother say that. Lorraine won three points for massage the back of Brian one night. and Brian was working late. but I get reminded all the time. cooking and making beds all worth one point each by the time she performed. Therefore. the resentment generated is the same on both sides. He felt happy with the fact that scores of the relationship is very balanced. so that gave him an overall score for their efforts . Repetitive activities such as collecting the dirty clothes and wet towels on the floor. go to the bank. but thought perhaps the stress of the many things she had to do. while Lorraine is re-hurt the performance of Brian in public. thinking he was doing what she wanted him to do. to make more money and give more comfort to the family. Brian had given a weekly average of 62 points given to Lorraine and an average score of 60 points. The monthly score of Lorraine The list of personal activities of Lorraine was four times longer than Brian. but Brian has a weekly average of only 48 points. giving the majority of them a low score. He acted as if everything was perfect in the relationship and was not the slightest idea of how Lorraine felt. To Brian and Lorraine.

Along with his partner. do they think there is no problem and that the relationship is going well: The men have a short memory. if each one is available to hear the honesty of the other reasons. and record scores for ten days all contributions to the relationship. put things in place to help in the kitchen and use halitol account both. sometimes more. as the salary to bring home or paint the room. to meet you and understand . We offer the test as a tool to encourage dialogue.The solution for the woman The woman must accept that the male brain is programmed to take care of the general framework and that the man believes that mark more points doing big things. All men are equal. Only the guys that are different for us to distinguish one from another. happiness. unless someone specifically the piece. you can use the test as a guide that brings you the happiness . Remember that a woman gives a point for each activity that executes man and a score more by small things that involve emotional support. and reward him for that. That is how things work in the male world . the partnership is intended to be a source of joy. She is able to refuse to have sex now because you yelled at her two months before.people expect you to play. Women always remember. If you do not ask. Take the test now The most effective solution is to maintain a permanent communication as sincere as possible. That does not mean that man should work less. it accumulates during the long periods and never forget. Marilyn Monroe Men are not programmed to offer help. praise him the look. give unsolicited advice is to say that the other person is incompetent. They forget the good things that you did the previous week. So she will not be resentful if the score is tie for him. the man has to ask what she wants him to do. If the woman you think the score is for the partner. but forget also the positive things you did for them. From a man. If you think that is against. After evaluating the results. is unlikely to say. If this happens. support or advice.it better.rather than a pure exchange of accusations. If the communication between partners is always the intention to adjust the relationship and ensure mutual harmony . Giving flowers. The solution for men The woman not only to the point. It should also encourage the man to take small gestures like that. their quality of life will have a better extra-ordinary. But if he is aware of the importance that your partner gives small things and try to do them. becomes distant and angry and the couple's love life begins to wither. just as did Brian and Lorraine.

is just different. doing things that (a) partner (a) assesses to equal the score and reduce the tension. Make the test scores from time to time to ensure that the scoring is balanced. and show the things that give you more pleasure. and more than 30% means that someone feels unhappy in the relationship.a new child. Brian's answer was "Huh? Score? What is this?". A difference in score of less than 15% shows a very balanced relationship.the score can vary and things are irrelevant in a specific context to acquire another value. When asked to Brian and Lorraine as part of the experience. use the test to keep the dialogue essential to any relationship that want to grow up happy. Women understand that. but most men know not. Like most men. in which none of them feel resentful or used. financial situation better or worse . he even knew that women had a score. A difference of 15-30% shows disagreements sufficient to cause ten-sion. When there is a change of situation . Abstract It is understood as the measures the other things. . The scoring system used by the opposite sex is not better nor worse than his. Above all. to bring up what he values. The partner with the score needs to balance the negative contribution. Lorraine immediately understood what we wanted. purchasing a home.you want.

" Hannah: "And how is his wife after a week in hospital?" Julian: "I do not know ." Hannah: "His mother is still doing chemotherapy?" Julian .. They just work differently for women." Hannah: "So . The truth is that men are not illogical. as they often think. About what men talk in the bathroom? The problem of women is that they try to analyze the behavior of men from a female and are quite disconcerted. Was aware of the struggle of Ralph with the camera site because of its real estate projects. Why men can only do one thing at a time? 6..Chapter 5 CLARIFICATION THE SEVEN MAJOR MEN OF MYSTERY After the success of Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love ".. the children and family of Ralph. he did not say anything . Why are men so by sports fanatics? 7. but knew virtually nothing about the esposes.. for sure he would have told me.. received numerous letters and emails from women that I asked more about the differences between the sexes. no.. Here are the seven most frequently asked questions: 1. but if there was a problem. his wife Hannah was eager to learn how it was: Hannah: "So how was your day?" Julian: "It was good. Why men never know anything about the life of your friends? 2. the hole-in-one that he almost succeeds. Why do men feel the need to always be with right? 4. Why men never know anything about the life of your friends? Julian Ralph did not see a year ago. " And so it was.. how will his newly married daughter?" Julian: "Well .. But I did not . When Julian came home at night." Hannah: "He did not say? You mean not asked?" Julian: "Well. the last trip abroad that he had to close a deal. and decided to spend the day there playing golf together. Why both men are interested in "toys for boys"? 5. Julian knew how many strokes each had. Why do men avoid commitment? 3." Hannah: "How is Ralph?" Julian: "Fine. remember the problem in the bunker. and knew the make and year of car that Ralph was thinking of buying. not sure ...he said.

It is not lack of interest in friends. When the man comes out for drinks with friends after work. say.5%. When a man is not talking with friends and it does not mean that they fought. people talk about work. playing golf. When talk is about facts . . Speak one at a time because their brains are organized to or speak or hear..9. and generally does not bind on feelings and emotions.To find women . This is because a drink with friends is just another way to look at the fire.. Unlike women. playing cards or watching football. The men did not expect that men talk much and never insist on talking. No need to talk if there is no will. The man knows all the jokes that his friend told him. The male brain is fully dedicated to the "end-mind". is because he is watching the fire. the other to understand intuitively and leave quietly. He had. A study by the University of Leeds investigated the reasons why men go to the bars after work: Why men go for a drink? . Men can spend hours together.To drink alcohol . cars and women. but. sports.85%. fishing. . however.the results.5%. solutions or answers to questions or to share information about things and processes. Solution The man does not understand why the woman wants to know every detail of the lives of their friends and acquaintances. or that of his brother Ralph had a diagnosis of Parkinson's disease.know anything more about the girl child who lived in Bangkok. a brand new repertoire of great jokes. How they were?" When you talk.. women are invariably surprised by the fact he go home without knowing anything about the personal life of anyone. the only circumstance in which a man talks to another about personal matters is when you have a problem that can not . Who was that you found . Men relieve stress releasing the brain to think of something else. When a man is watching the fire with a drink in hand. not to mention much. they can not do both at the same time.5. Imagine that the friends he wanted to know something. or that his wife was elected Citizen of the Year by the local community.To relieve the stress . Nobody says: "Tell me co me was the day .. Rarely talk about people and their emotions. as I said. but does not know that he separated the women.

. she was not seeing anyone else. Then Geoff decided to invite Mary to the birthday party of his best friend. The story of Geoff A month had happened.resolve. As was expected. career. it was the signal for Sally that it would start a relationship with Geoff. . but Geoff was not the slightest idea that they had a special connection because it had never been spoken. That night. Ask women. Sally called for Jodie and thanked for having made them.and months that he was not the route. because Mary was a fun person. so she invited him to go to the beach and then dinner. Jodie seemed a little cold. That is how things work in the male brain. They left in the three weeks following the end of the film and were one or two times every week. Geoff called and asked for that he would see her that same night. she should immediately tell. Geoff accepted with joy. The following week. That left him confused. Men do not understand the concept of relationship the same way as women. For Sally. Why do men avoid commitment? Commitment: verb. He realized that there was something wrong but had no idea of what could be. as a last resort. Despite never having talked about a unique relationship. do not expect that men give the answers. Approached it and presented it to Mary. They are very fun at the party when he saw Jodie Geoff. The next day. relationships or the whereabouts of family members or people in your social circle. female: I want to marry and form a family. and Geoff realized that she did not like Mary. When Geoff hung. saying he had really liked Geoff and I know him better. rather than be given by Sally gossip. The two had a great night and exchanged phone numbers and is combined again. But left the matter there. verb. So if you want information about health. he asked council to a friend. the time spent together indicated that they now had a connection. Mary was the lifeblood of any meeting .a really fun person . Sally is cut into tears because he thought that she and Geoff were going very well. Then. The story of Jodie Jodie was shocked by Geoff not have asked for Sally: party but a "piranha faladeira" called Mary. Geoff also called for Jodie to say the same as Sally. thought. male: not crush other women when in the street with his wife or girlfriend Case Study: Geoff and Sally Jodie thought Geoff and Sally would make a beautiful couple and arranged a meeting for them to meet. Jodie called immediately and told Sally to what Geoff said. Then. whom everyone liked.

wishing that she had prepared his favorite dish. How can he be so stubbornly loyal and devoted to a bunch of players flustered and not necessarily bright. But we differ from other species in the sense that our brains evolved and developed large frontal lobes that enable us to make decisions about what we want and we do not want to do. not only with him. Women often admire that men may have an almost religious feeling with a soccer team. "How could you do this to me?" She whimper. saw that she had been crying and I was bored with it. So they decided to remain friends but that would not further to bed . He spent the following three hours trying to explain the problem with Sally. From the survival of the species. Only 3% of animal species. The brain of most species. Was speechless. well.. The man is able to hide their emotions and feelings of the woman he loves. for example. fox and geese. which also increased the chance they could pass their genes..Cards on the table Geoff was eager to review Sally. since it could only birth to a child at a time. especially when it lost. is not programmed for monogamy. Mae West The woman believes that she is "out" with a man for some time and none of them are . the males are polygamous for the sake of survival. He had never previously aware that they were only a couple . Wanted their freedom. but had no sense that a female had ten or twenty males. but is visibly emotional and passionate when your team plays. Therefore not argues that unfaithful men claim that they could not avoid. But Geoff was not ready to take it.. it was decided that Sally. seek a hospice. This is why men delay to the maximum 'commitment to take the woman and are so difficult to maintain a monogamous relationship. There was little to offer because many men died in hunting and war.think Sally went with other guys. and then in front of our friends How long are you going with it? You like it? Sleep with her? Me responds!" Geoff was not believed in listening. Geoff felt she should be in the TPM and the weekend that the crisis had passed. he does not know which are not there with him and not show or a tenth of that devotion to her? During almost the entire time of existence of the human race. maintaining a commitment at least until your child is self-sufficient. made sense that a male had ten or twenty females. If you want a faithful man. but they are rarely willing to invest the same amount of emotional energy in a relationship with them. But when Sally opened the door.. that the survivors adopt the widows in their haréns. Was reasonable. It was the first time spoke about his feelings realized they were going in completely different directions. For women. are monogamous. ". including humans. They had choice. Sally wanted a compromise with Geoff. therefore. it is something that is programmed into his psyche.

And respect is what the woman must have by itself. attention and much sex. must learn and respect the rules of the road . The answer would be: he was not thinking anything. he wants everything. To be frank it is a sign of respect. she needs to say clearly that the man of her point of view. now they are dating. There are several ways to do this. When Sally has complained about "What were you thinking?". But for most men. men avoid it because they think that compromise the woman will steal them the freedom and they will end up weak and powerless. the more likely it is that the plug does not fall. The only way to live life in complete freedom is alone in a desert island." they laugh. She must learn to be honest and direct. as happened with Geoff. not have to be accountable for their actions or justify their behavior. Never assume therefore that you are having a special relationship before discussing it with someone else. They have not the slightest intention of stealing the freedom of man. and not trying to understand them or being sensitive to their emotional needs. Otherwise. instead of just waiting timidly to the man understand the situation.with other people. "When you undertake. not to speak when not to. he speaks of freedom to come and go as you want. like Geoff. dedication and loyalty. What most men think It is a universal custom among the men playing friends saying that the marriage or the permanent relationship with a woman one of them is a clear sign that the life of the unfortunate end. do not want to give up anything. You can also say how good sex and agree close. because there is a special connection. men have evolved hunting animals and making war on enemies. where there are no rules. Not only is it men do not know read my mind. Pressed to explain. When the man says that commitment means losing freedom. sex and someone to take care of you. Repeat: men can not read minds. he wants love. saying for example that is happy to prepare a dinner for him. is that most of them is not very sensitive to the state of mind of women. The man tends to be direct and make a woman know whether or not a special and unique relationship. you must give something in return. Remember. will always be a pedestrian. When a woman suspects this. exercising its right to clarify the situation for two and choosing the type of relationship you want to establish . "You can say goodbye to 90% of your sex life!" And also the warning in general welcome the singles: "You have to ask permission even to sneeze. Solution The idea of establishing an ongoing relationship potentially never passed by the head of Geoff. friendship. and how many women want to have. A woman should ask what your partner feels it and wants you to go to the relationship. because now it is who controls the handcuffs. In short. now they are dating. they now have a special relationship. If you have difficulty to speak directly. If you want to go. it can play." In general. What women want in return is love. it is difficult to know what specifically is he talking about freedoms. this is a strange concept.otherwise.if you want love. however. At the same time. it grabs you by the balls. A relationship is nothing more than a negotiation with rules . Having a relationship is to take driver's license.

As we have seen. Their eyes. and men usually are defensive or aggressive before the mere suggestion. This subject has been a source of major disagreements between the two. as if she were weakening or denouncing their incompetence. but if the woman gives him a book of this self-help. And. Spider-Man. Married me with Mr. These super-heroes as partners seem to prefer a dog or a horse. leaving the relationship under huge stress. Dan thought. they separated. rather. To seek a financial adviser. I hoped he was happy that it is taking responsibility to look for someone who could work with him. Not only knew his first name was Always. One day.three months later. If different from his. Case study: Jackie and Dan Jackie wanted to stop working and have a son. The comics also depict the macho tough guy as a person endowed with huge muscles and possessor of a voice rough and deep (much testosterone). The heroin is usually a Barbie with anatomically impossible breasts. when a woman asks the man is saying or doing. Dan could not believe what was hearing: Jackie wanted someone else to solve their problems! Obviously. reducing the pressure on him. amounts to a humiliating admission that he is wrong. Dan saw the thing in a way completely different.with your partner. because animals are loyal. are always behind solutions. she thought he was not able to do their own accounts. all male loners who never complained of problems but. when it appeared. When the child reaches adulthood. Why do men feel the need to always be the reason? To understand this characteristic of modern man. is what happens when a woman wants to ask the way. Jackie wanted to help Dan. He might not hesitate to give her a book of recipes for a birthday present. Batman. to resolve what is best for her. and very rarely a woman. was an assistant who had more problems than anything else. usually a man less and less important. the heroes of boys rarely make a mistake and never show weakness or emotion. or call a technician to fix the tap. The differences grew . is conditioned to think that not being able to do something or solve a problem means to be a failure as a man. Some of them had a partner. Zorro. You imagine that she is trying to say that it is not so good way. Jackie announced that Dan had made contact with a financial adviser to have an accurate assessment of their household finances. not cry and be good at everything they do. Boys have to be tough. we need to examine their education. the more likely it is that he is offended. but Dan felt that they were not financially prepared. of course. never meet them or say they are wrong. Like most male stereotypes of books and movies. he reacts defensively. reliable. The man finds hard to say "Sorry" or "sorry" because it is wrong to admit. make it clear that she thought he was wrong about the household finances and seek counsel to prove he was . James Bond. In-a-Ledger. His models are: SuperMan. rarely fail to fulfill its task. That is why. or a therapist. Go to a seminar on relationships.

you are the best ways to discover! You do not trust me? The most common phrase of men whose actions are challenged by the women is: "You do not trust me?" When you hear that phrase. When the man hit the woman should welcome it. the size of a miniature television. should make clear what she is feeling. the stapler is round.incompetent or insufficiently reliable. When the visiting friends. we'll have to present a paper stapler moved the battery. can not resist putting in four or five clips on a sheet of paper. and all laugh of contentment. Any woman that does not visit a minimum for the stapler. giving the impression that considers incapable. the woman should avoid driving to it in a way that it felt wrong. but he sees trying to say what is wrong and is unable to solve things yourself. only to see and hear the movement of the gears. it would be good to say: "Honey. says it will complain and she asks you not to do it. the woman is the problem for you. instead of saying "You never know the way and we always come back!". It seemed something of a space shuttle exit. afraid to fight there. the man thinks that women's council to hear tantamount to hear what is wrong and does not deserve her trust. but all that did was put staples into sheets of paper . Instead of saying what he did wrong.Like any other staples. . He led three batteries that need to be replaced throughout the week. I feel better if we stop to ask someone here what is the right entry. When he arrives at the destination. dear. He complains of being all the time trying to control it. She can say "You're doing fine. " In other words. he protested: "Do not trust me?" In all these situations. If he is angry with the neighbor's dog barking at night. you can be sure that insulted the manhood of man. But Gerry was crazy with joy with the aparelhinho and said that sometimes when you wake in the morning and through the stapler on the table. Solution Since the man in general have these characteristics. For example. instead of blame him. but the signs of these streets are very confusing. And is so offended that she begins to think that perhaps it is really kind of controller. he responds: "You think I am not able to deal with this problem right ? If you are a party and she warns. Why both men are interested in "toys for boys"? When our friend Gerry made birthday. which left see all the gears and discs moving inside. saying not to drink too much. the answer it is the same: "I was just trying to help!" She thinks is showing love and concern for him. Had a transparent plastic box.

Projects Do-You-Even The whole bunch of products Make-You-Even faces towards the space area of the brain male. but get angry when you call someone suggested to complete the work. portable GPS devices.They all admired to see the excitement of men with a aparelhinho so expensive that only runs a task beyond the trivial. electric trains. The space industry of the brain that is used to estimate speeds. motor boats. build or do work.is the brains of the hunter. Find out what appears to be a carrapeta spends and goes to the hardware store. It is about 45 minutes walk by the store. Men are the agents of cars and stores equipment and products Make-You-Even where they can find things to do. Areas of the brain used to play football. nuclear. they do not just fix the broken things.the parts dark . On Saturday afternoon (after the game). In general. This includes all kinds of video and computer program. but most do not know where you are carrapeta old. as the concentration of the average man has a range of nine minutes. Then go home and find that size is not one. space and anything that has the remote control. angles and distances .which are active when a person from USA spatial skills. tests one or two mechanical Sanders. aircraft. rifles with telescopic sights night. Boys are boys from the shops. At home. But it is the male equivalent of the tendency that women have to pay exorbitant prices for imported teddy bear. just because ". as they are indecipherable. the men's space needs can be frustrating for women because. 2001. shelves and anything that has a set of instructions. back up and operate mechanical. Men love the challenge to build models of sailing vessels.. Fofinho was so that I could not resist. Female Male Call a fireman without first consulting the man of the house can be interpreted as a serious insult. men and boys are fanatics for anything that has buttons. have lights blinking and the battery is moved. cars with panels complicated. The following images show the areas of the brain .. drive cars. mechanical. Institute of Psychiatry in London." It is easy to explain why the sexes react so differently to these things. try a drill pressure and finally find what appears to be a carrapeta of appropriate size. examining all the toys that might have space. they leave unfinished projects around the house whole. computer spreadsheets. If the washing machines come with remote control. engines or movable components that make sounds. the man who refused the help of a firefighter to repair the defective vessel closes the record and dismantle the facility. Due to the propensity of the brain space men. it is likely that men are interested in to wash the clothes. and thus meet its space needs. The hardware store has closed and he could not open the .

That is what gives the approach "one-thing-of-every-time" to everything he does in life. portamo. you will discover that he is almost deaf. probably miss the exit. unless you hurt him! And do not try to resolve any issue while he attends the TV. If he is in clover road and someone directed him to speak. why can not the man? Why he always turns off the television when the phone rings? Women around the world complain in unison: "Because he can not hear what I'm saying while reading the newspaper or watching television?" The reason is that the human brain is compartmentalised and specialized. technician or any computer in space qualified man before consulting his own man.registration until the issue is resolved. will find that solved the problem myself. these things mean much less to him Why men can only do one thing at a time? In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? Presents a thorough study on why the male brain is so singularly focused: what it described as "single track". A woman should never call a fireman. financial consultant.the excellent performance of that natural ability. Understand that mentality "one-thing-in-every-time" is one of the most important things a woman can learn about the men. percent of the technical experts of the world are men . She explains that men lower when the radio or read a map when they march to the defendant in the car. but 99% of all patents . If a woman can read while listening or talking. each with at least one primary function operates independently of the rest. the corpus callosum. Thus. This concentrated focus allows men to become great experts.of "toys for boys" . The response of readers to this issue was so overwhelming that we will summarize it here it again later. you run the risk of injury.are recorded by men. it is as if he had salinhas throughout the brain. ask your opinion and give it a run. In simple terms. Most women do not understand why men seem able to do only one thing at a time. even during the commercials. . The only difference that exists between men and boys is the price of their toys. Their hope is that it is a problem to be absolutely clear. though not the slightest idea what you are looking for. Instead. if he is just calling a fireman. because in most cases. There is a lesson here: always give the man a toy of this spatially related. Seeing the images of the brain of a man who reads. If you are working with a sharp tool and the phone rings. Never give you flowers and nice cards. nobody will ever be able to bathe or use the private sector. builder. Today most new companies are founded by women. is on average 10% thinner than the female and carries about 30% fewer connections between the two hemispheres. he raised the hood and will take a look. The cable that connects the right and left hemispheres of your brain. Ninety-six. it should tell you what it considers necessary. Remember: never talk to the man when he is doing a beard. If the car makes a strange noise.

It is as if the woman was in some way genetically apparently with the octopus. crawling and using their spatial skills to get food. is always given to man to do one thing at a time. Why are men so by sports fanatics? For thousands of years. even while it is active sleep. but men still kicking balls. You can turn auto-mobile. His brain calculates the speed. fantasy that he is giving himself to the mark and kicks goals. most women can do many things not related to each other at the same time. following a new recipe and watching television at the same time. They verbally insult the referee (although the referee can not listen to the l) when disagree with a mark: "You think this is missing? Your asshole You need glasses!" Can remember the scores. Between 1800 and 1900 were invented almost all modern sports with ball. you better go outside dining. discuss an issue at a time and adhere to it until all these men are satisfied with the solution.The man has two times more likely than women to engage in a car accident while talking on a cell phone. makeup and to listen to radio as a live-voice speech. chasing. therefore. 'f women swap their dolls for children. The girls use dolls as a practice of caring for children and the boys kicked and pursue balls as practice for hunting. As we have seen. This is the main reason why 96% of personal assistants of the world are women.even the men hunt and women also care for children. As adults. never ask questions to the man during sex. if you want a good result free of stress. The woman's brain is configured to perform multiple tasks. there was one man in the country who do not know the color of escalation of the team. man may again be a member of a band of hunters. The best strategy. As a devoted fan of your soccer team. the goals they most marked and tactical errors they committed. The men ran. . the modern replacement of the activities of hunting. nothing much has changed in thousands and thousands of years . and then pass to the next question. In business. recalled with vivid detail goals in marked departures held for many years and almost come to tears when discussing what the player should have done and the result which should have had the game. the angles and directions of the ball. After that England won the World Cup of 1966 against Germany. The brain images show that the woman's brain never shuts off. The sports to which man is part of a group of hunters. And most important. The men are so excited when they watch football because they feel as if they were playing the game. In reality. But if a man is following a recipe to prepare a dish and you want to chat with him. She is able to talk on the phone. men caught in groups while women receive food and care of children. and they urram of pleasure when the striker is the goal. Seeing their heroes in the field.

discuss the clothes they are wearing and the other. They are so obsessive with the steering wheel. which rarely occurs in their affective relationship.their primary brain skills started to be largely superfluous and the women are attacking from all sides. About what men talk in the bathroom? We answer the first question male universal: "What women talk together when they go to a public bathroom?" The answer is: about everything and about everyone. which can spend hours on end in front of the TV watching other men guide car race. Drive car is almost entirely a spatial ability. who are friendly and attractive men. come to bend and give the impression of feeling the pain of fighter hit by a low blow. Speeds. Men may be taken by intense emotion when watching sports. shop or start your own hobby. changes in motion and stationary are in motion to reverse the sky of every man. you have two options. "My wife told me that if I drop the obsession with my soccer team. When watching the struggles of boxing. Solution If your partner is a sports maniac or a hobby. who they like and dislike. moves. Add to it or use the time to do something positive for yourself. and . This explains why men engaged in activities which are repetitive or just those who give more importance to sports. too. with family. it does not happen in your work. " The world has now become a confusing place for men . The place where they are compared with others which have been. Go with him to an event and you will be surprised to see the amount of other "widows of the sport" that also attend and enjoy the social aspects. nephews. The men no longer have any clear model to follow and clear specifications of what is expected of them. Learn what it can about the interest and become understood. conversely. those who consider their work exciting and rewarding are less interested.This is a formidable skill. get involved. Sport is an activity in which man can feel again a member of a group: there no one criticizes or tries to modify it. Do not fight the sport or hobby of your man. angles. It is also why men prefer to buy a new set of golf clubs than a dining table is very necessary. If you still do not find interesting but want to follow it is always possible to find other women in the same situation and make new friends. I will miss her a lot. and he feels victorious when your team wins. The second option is to use his obsession for sports as a positive opportunity to be with their friends. she leaves. neighbors and the door or the date on which commemorates the Mother's Day. but they still do not know the names of his nieces. First.

Bathrooms are a network of women in waiting rooms and counseling centers where you can meet new people and interesting. Men never talk to strangers in public restrooms.. but. Never. Men urinate in silence. put a stop to go to the bathroom. ever under any circumstances. The fourth man generally feels better to use the booth to be standing next to a stranger who can look at it." . how are you?" Like any man. the conversation is minimal. While retouch. They do not talk. your eyes will never cross. In the men's room if no one bothers with it. Absolutely nothing. the culprit is hiding in the cabin to check out. discuss techniques and different types of makeup products. came to install booths in the bathroom wider female. Are rarely hear a fart in a female bathroom. Do not talk to other men when they are sitting in the pot. As the first booth was busy. If there is a row of five urinals. men prefer walls of floor to the ceiling to limit the interaction with neighbors. 'So . to more important and profound conversations. A nightclub in Birmingham.. traveling to the North! " Oh I heard the guy say. I went to the second. Scarcely had I sat when I heard a voice coming from the booth next to saying. the first in choose in the bathroom farthest from the door. said:' The same as you . with two vessels in each of health. to get away from those who arrive.. while women prefer large vain to talk and move objects from one booth to another. In cabins. I never talk to strange men in bathrooms of post road.any personal problem that they or friends are living. like an idiot.. Here is a letter from one of our readers shows the reason that men of silence that reigns in the bathroom of men: "During a trip. looking at the front. and God help the man that the plague! Women sit in the pot and talk with other women through the wall. The motto of the men is: "Better death than a visual contact. because it has an idiot in the booth next to answer my questions! " Men also have a territorial ritual to choose the urinal. and still do not know what got into me when I decided to respond with a constrained 'All right! " The other guy said.. and chooses the next which is midway between the two. cosmetics divided up among themselves and even with strangers. what are you doing? " I thought: 'How strange .. Never.. asking the odd passing toilet paper under the door. Even among close friends. and when it happens. Never.. England. and never talk to strangers.. and when urinate. I have to call you later. Let us return now to the original question: what men talk in public restrooms? The answer is: nothing..'. What comes then choose which is further away from the first man. and two women is not uncommon-they share the same cubicle in order to continue the conversation. Any woman who seems distressed receive group therapy . nervous. 'Hey. 'Listen .

" What is the difference between a mother-in-law and a vulture? The vulture waiting for you dying to devour your liver. do not run blood! Let him to marry the daughter of another woman. when asked what should be the maximum penalty for bigamy. "Today I received an email warning that my parents had died and asking if I would have to bury.provide all three. De-because of the stories they hear. said: "Staying with the two parents." warned the king's advisers. the most likely cause is the refusal of the father in giving of their precious "princesinha." Difficult in-laws are not a problem for most men. it is usually the mother of women the major cause of problems. What most of the mothers of the wives want more than that any thing. but most men do not come to disappoint them. But if on the one hand the parents is a problem in the marriage of many people. cremate or embalm. the king decided that the couple was cut in half so that each stay with their part." Most men know that.Chapter 6 THE OTHER WOMAN His mother Two women were presented before the r ~ i Solomon dragging a young man proposed marriage to her two daughters." The wise king did not hesitate: "The man must marry the daughter of first wife. Our research found. "Yes.they are not cause for laughter. And when the man has problems with in-law. but the second said: "No. The parents of a man can claim him. it is unlikely that parents cause problems. "this shows that it is the real parents. Problems with parents not dominate the lives of men. taking the blame for more than a third of the separations." said Solomon." The dragon enter the scene Probably the mother-in-law jokes inspire more than any other category of the planet. And if the man makes a woman happy. a founder of modern Russia. I answered: "Sure . many times. and are always characterized witches co-mo. the mother of the man is the real danger. is to see her daughter happy. An old Polish proverb says: "The path to the heart of the parents is the child. even irritating. . or simple megeras nosy. irritated him." "But she wanted to see it cut in two. But almost no jokes with in-laws . The first woman agreed. It is worth recalling that Lenin.

in the worst cases. A man met a wonderful woman and her boyfriend was. you can be absolutely disastrous. invasive and possessive. Case study: Anita and Tom They had been married only six months when cracks began to appear in your happiness. cook. in home pen. divorce. neutral. the mother replied: "It's a redhead. But came together with three women . You think the woman has to wash. Can cause unhappiness. ultimately. affectionate. The mother asked why he brought three. The parents are often responsible for defects and emotional problems of their children and Norasia. which refuses to cut the umbilical cord with your child. generous and. anguish and. And she replied: "Because I was not with her face. I believe it cost to the teacher. that same night to his mother to know. she mimou you. Actually. let's talk about your mother. Your . the problem is you.a blonde. Although not all parents are given by the fame. My mother never complained to me or anything that I did! " Anita: "So okay." They are not all bad Clearly. you are a pig. He left his clothes and playing space-lhadas the towels on the floor. The crisis involving the parents of women often seem impossible to manage and insoluble. Polls conducted by the University of Utah shows that more than 50% of marriages are real problems between the husband and mother nora. yes. After examining each one carefully. that the other 50% are seen as helpful. Anita: "Tom. clean and working all the time. not all parents deserve the reputation of evil. for many parents Norasia a nosy. You are so thorough that it is me crazy! In my home was never like this. He said he wanted to know if she was able to guess which of the three women was his future daughter-in-law. Anita thought it was becoming impossible to live with Tom. you have no respect for women. move. rather than just one. A search of the University of the State of Utah." "How did you guess so quickly?": He asked. Transformed all the rooms. Arranged a dinner.the burden it The real tragedy of most families are caused by the mother of the man. the parents of the wife. a brunette and a redhead. I can not live with you more!" Tom: "No. After living six months with you. Anita This led to the point of collapse. Anita. which shows that about 50% of parents are seen as the creators of the case also shows.His mother .

All three people can be emotionally balanced. Shortly before the wedding. mother of Mark. especially when he is single and her life is dull. Case study: Mark and Julie Mark and Julie decided to marry. the menu of a wedding party and all arrangements of practice . detached and friendly. So Julie is highly supported in France. This can create jealousy in the mother's partner. This is a really complicated problem for the partner. Due to a disagreement. believing they are showing them your love. France was no longer needed and was put aside.. selfish and emotionally unstable. She felt used and offense. The complexity of the situation lies in the fact that there are three people involved in this relationship. The parents are always connected to the child. the most effective in this case is training him to do what she wants him to do. but Julie found her mother with the help of Mark and they resumed their relationship. How is the mother around the nora usually forget that the mother of your husband is so important to the family unit as its own. The parents are often put aside after the marriage. to protect them. Suddenly. Just be willing to resolve it. the parents begin to feel excluded from the new family and the child may find that the only way to participate is forcing way and is doing this. two or even three people can be jealous. Receiving little information. etc. Life today is increasingly . possessive. But for every problem there is a solution. In addition to washing. because the Norasia usually maintain close ties with their mother and talk with them regularly. The mother wants to be involved in their children's lives.. It is now an adult who should be responsible for their actions. dependent. unless he has developed a strong relationship with Nora. The girl almost always strives for the love to build a good relationship with the mother of the boy. when in fact they are creating a serious problem in the future relationship with their wives. cooking and go for them. Why be parents is sometimes difficult? It is important to be aware that parents occupy a difficult position. because having her along as it is a good strategy. one. The son and daughter-in-law must face the situation in a mature and open.mother and I created a monster I'm no longer tolerate this. independent. But the children rarely talk to their mothers about what it is.everything we have done with his own mother if things were different. immature. " Tom: "What my mother has to do with it? Why did you change the subject? Why not stop blaming everyone except yourself?" Many mothers spoil the future at a very early marriage of their children. not the parents. Is he eating right? Is that his house is well cared for? Etc. about every little detail. to help her choose the wedding dress. or at the other extreme. When the marriage makes the situation more. But instead of criticizing and blaming his mother. It is normal for a girl seeks the support of the mother. it is as if two women disputing one man. Julie and her mother Sarah was not talking about three years ago.

Bernadette denied. But thought it strange that her boyfriend not to take his place. but the two sides need to understand and find solutions to ensure the happiness of all. but Diana found that it simply needed time to adapt. How many parents are required to change a light bulb? A. but Bernadette phone every night to stay talking long together with Richard. it takes some effort to maintain unity in family life . we use the mail to meet the need of communication. cities or different countries. Only presented to his mother after the announcement of the engagement. He drank more and did not de-link the minimum for the family. and put the fault in almost everything she did. and when the big wheel is complaining with her husband.would be difficult to find a woman equal. and even in daily life. only for sex. to repair the tap to talk about a problem or to take her shopping. Diana liked that Richard knew him. But she still had her son. Richard was now fully at its disposal. For Bernadette. as he liked the tidiness of the house. to take care of the garden. "I was late!" She said to friends. He was a good boy of 22 years and watch it.over-charged. telling everyone what you thought would not last. The view of Diana Adam and Eve were the happiest and luckiest couple in the world. with less time for human contact. accusing it of trying to create problems between her and her son. But the last generation only knows the phone and personal meetings to communicate. Richard knew that as she created. Perhaps it is difficult for the next generation deal with their parents. Parents need attention and the children need time for their own family. Bernadette thought Richard was not interested in girls. Diana began then to avoid the parents. Diana has realized that it had inherited from a mother-in-law Hell. She is holding waiting for the world turn around. Bernadette appeared almost every day. Bernadette was not particularly receptive. comfort and emotional support for this . I used to laugh when the future mother-in-law commented that perhaps they are not ready for non-marriage and could change your mind at any time. Richard and Diana Bernadette had just over forty years when the left-of Mari. When family members live in distant neighborhoods. without any consideration for the needs of Diana. Their demands seemed to have no end. She created with all the care. Soon after. to be clear. Case study: Bernadette. Logo Bernadette began openly insulting Diana when Richard was not around. Bernadette became a problem.she thought . now was the time to take account of it. When the ceremony was. for example. so completely unexpected. because neither of them had parents. but eventually grew tired of listening Bernadette tell you how to prepare the favorite dish of Richard. The madcap who sometimes left him were. nourished and loved since birth. Diana tried to be friendly. . Richard. The problems began when she and Richard returned from honeymoon. She asked when he would come "in house" to paint it. In business.

Bernadette was him taking his own son. The man may feel happy to have two women disputing its possession. Bernadette took account of the situation. The wife must have sufficient wisdom to take control of the situation and ensure that problems are dealt with between it and the parents. but Diana seemed so enciumada of the husband's relationship with the mother that no longer appear. collected and washed their clothes and not criticized because it felt just wonderful what he did. constantly criticizing Diana. And started to think that life would be less complicated if I went back to single. The last thing that a woman needs is a complaint that her parents with the son. as it feeds his ego. Women do this naturally. In the end. Filled it with care and affection. When this is true. helping in something. Instead. Travis was the first son of Diana. selfish. When Travis was born. It became obsessive with Travis. Nora and parents need to adjust their relationship without involving the son and husband. The mother always told him that his father does not provide for anything and now he was the man of the house. He loved the woman. made his bed. to overlive in caves. but he said that Diana was being possessive. But Diana did not seem prone to a little or ask advice. But there was one problem: every night his mother call him a lengthy conversation. and Diana felt prisoner and unfortunate. everyone wins. Bernadette was the first to offer to help by washing the clothes and taking care of the baby. immature and ciumenta. it is that would see her on weekends and helped with the house. . helping with the baby. only. Bernadette was soon back to life nora physically every day. Create a child was a novelty for Diana. Bernadette was always around. More than once Diana tried to discuss the problem with Richard. Solution Nora and parents need to build a loop to run their lives. and so Richard thought that the advice of his mother would be fundamental. Diana and tired of discussing it in a anger deaf closed. and continue to need in the modern world. putting it in the neck all the time they were together.Two years later. What is the difference between a pit-bull and a mother-in-law? The pit-bull just dropping you. It became possessive for Travis. preparing their favorite dishes. but things were definitely more calm at home. Bernadette lived with and was discussing it with Richard complaining. Diana began to feel excluded. to have a life free of stress. just at the time he began to relax. The views of Richard Richard lost his father to divorce. but he thought the mother should be feeling alone and that he had a responsibility towards her. Richard thought he was just working hard all day and still have to resolve disputes between your wife and your mother when you get home. Once Richard and Diana got married. but she was crazy with their explosions. and that his mother was only trying to help. It was a burden. With male your brain programmed to problem solving.

. Bernadette apparently has no problem. not matured. husband and wife. the problem must be resolved by the parties most affected .Bernadette arrives without warning.Bernadette does not respect my ability and hope that it meets Richard as a child.They want to solve the problem? If the answer to any of these questions is "No". she combines sympathy and firmness. As. first questions they need answered are: .Bernadette interfere too much. She had permission to continue controlling Richard. it is advisable to couple therapy. husband and wife should sit down and put on paper what they think is the problem. when all I want is to be with them. through whom she controls Diana and Travis. could write: . leaving not intimidate.I do not understand why my wife and my mother is angry all the time. that because it is not enough time with the family. The best time to cut the umbilical cord is birth. happy and loving? . in turn. . when you know the future mother-in-law. must take the initiative to build the bridge. generally immature and unprepared for the problems that inevitably arise. for this to see how a person with life itself. . . If the answer is "Yes". Richard. for example. take our privacy and in-progress plans are constantly perplexed. In this stage. . but also not wanting to impose their views.Both recognize the existence of problems? . but Diana did not care about that.Bernadette call every night.the son and daughter-in-law.My mother tries to help Diana. The problem therefore is Diana and Richard. He actually "still" have not left the house. In the case study above. later is very difficult to establish a productive discussion between the three parties. staged in families around the world. just in time for this-we enjoy our moments of family living. If during the time of her dating book all their attention to the fiance. Diana could write: . will pay a high price later.My mother makes me feel guilty when I do not answer your requests. but Diana refuses to divide Travis and receive useful advice on motherhood. When problems appear since the beginning of the relationship.Bernadette requires too much attention to Richard. is my responsibility to help her. It is important that she spend some time just for parents. When it leaves the problems of marriage take root.My mother is alone and it is up to us supports it.My mother is not a man at home to do small services. The difficulty is in fact a big wheel. What is important is that in that relationship. . not simply as the wife of the child. . . wanting to dictate the rules in our house and the creation of our son. and Diana does not understand that as a child. Richard never cut the umbilical cord that connects to your mother.This is a common tragedy.You have a long life together. a person be more girl. Hardly one of them will accept what he seems to be an alliance between the other two. . is the big wheel that as a matter of survival. leaving the part of parents.

are not firm in setting its rules. The three should discuss the matter in a time when emotions are low. Set limits and be firm are two key lessons that the newly married couples need to learn. they do not understand the risks. Richard really has responsibility to help the mother. Until we know it. have a group of reading. after which he must tell Bernadette that has things to do and say goodbye. the most important of all. however. We need to know that she should call before they appear. Must thank Bernadette for attention. but said that she and Richard receive guidance of pediatricians to the development of Travis. and generally believe that the family members are only trying to help with his advice. Diana has to be firm. Quite understandably. such as joining a club of retired.Diana is also responsible. it actually allowed the parents invade your marriage and your family. ten minutes. on the border of privacy. Richard and Diana do not have of it and left to set limits when they married. as the visitor is a person dear. How to set limits Establish rules and set limits means tracing lines that should not be exceeded. This is a trap in which young people often fall very easily. albeit unintentionally. say. must limit the duration of phone calls from their 'mother to. lines that they can not overcome. having lived always within limits set by other people. When set limits. By not putting limits on Bernadette when the problems started to appear. Diana should explain that she and Richard need a time of privacy to relax and take care of common projects and unannounced visits that may interfere. The problem will diminish significantly if the visits are only permitted where previously combined. is that it needs to encourage the mother to develop activities outside the family. Richard and Diana might even offer to pay for services for an entire year. to excursions. If Richard and Diana have limits in their marriage. Bernadette did not exceed a limit set. and they intend to follow it. by her . With regard to Travis. Bernadette must be trained. but here is a question of limits. Me and my parents were happy for twenty years. Know where to go. doing courses and voluntary work in hospitals or welfare organizations. Maybe the solution would get a "factotum" and give him the phone Bernadette. It is natural that Bernadette would Richard take care of the problems of her house. therefore. but this is a problem that it must overcome. in agreement with Diana. but in agreement with Diana. then why not put limits on Bernadette too? Diana says Bernadette arrives without being asked and without warning. Bernadette feel rejected and hurt. as Christmas gift or birthday. people know that their transgression will bring problems. Inexperienced. is important to Richard and Diana show a real interest in "new" life of Bernadette. Richard.

" Such tactics. Maybe even threatens disinherit them. There will be tempting to abandon it. there is no aggression. whether to live an independent life. only work if you allow.just like your father. They have to explain or justify their decisions. If sympathy and love to face the task of setting limits to Bernadette." . it is only to ensure the happiness of the three. Reactions are predictable." . while building a life. the two problems can be solved. after a single week she would be 105 kilometers away. Bernadette will be boring at first and probably react with emotional blackmail and statements such as: . a solid and enjoyable adult relationship can develop. You've seen flying snake? Then try playing your parents through the window. . It is not easy. that the affection is preserved. however strange it may seem to Bernadette . only reaffirm that the path that is decided then. ie taking care of Travis. Richard is resolved to maintain her marriage and awareness of evil that causes the interference of the mother. especially if the reaction is stronger than expected."After everything I did for you!" . I discussed the matter several times. through words and attitudes. but Richard and Diana have to say. but they should not do it." ."Who else can I use?" . The next stage of the reaction of Bernadette is probably refuse to help. mature and happy."I feel so alone now.own gain momentum. which are emotional blackmail. Just as the couple set limits and make the meet. It is vital that during all the conversations. It is important that they continue taking care of Bernadette and supporting it during this phase."When I die you will be sorry. If you could convince your parents to walk fifteen kilometers a day. encouraging it. But you know what is right to do what you're doing. make it clear. if we are committed to maintaining a harmonious relationship and happy. A person can only make you feel guilty if you agree to accept the blame. None of this is easy and requires a lot of the couple's determination and persistence."You are selfish . We need to keep it abreast of the family. I examined all the possible reactions and are prepared to deal with it."Do you not care more for me.

But it is very likely to feel skeptical about some of the things that will read. Why women want to know the smallest detail? 'Why do women talk so much? The huge capacity that women have to talk is something that most men are extremely difficult to understand. Why women talk so much? 2. men." The archaeologist thought for a moment and replied: "I want a bridge with a Autopista connecting England to France!" The genius goggle and mutter: "Hey. "You freed me!" Said the genie. The following is the brain images of men and women talking. so as to remain united. Consequently. Meanwhile. or a specific purpose. The dark areas are the parts . we present here only a brief summary. women did all the time.Chapter 7 The Mysteries WAYS OF WOMEN LANGUAGE An archaeologist excavated a ruin when topou to an old lamp. a new level of relationship with the opposite sex comes up. And the modern woman. The modern man also. Why women never go to the chase? 5. In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? we treat this issue in detail. these secrets are both a source of amusement and confusion. we collect and record answers to research on how men and women to communicate and use the science of human behavior to explain their differences. Searched men of different nationalities and races. To rub it to remove the dust. this is one of the most important chapters of this book. we check each item with a woman next to you. appeared a genius. The ability to build and strengthen intimate relationships was crucial to the survival of each. when you leave to hunt or fish. when to collect leaves (shopping) and still talk all the time. Why do women always want to talk about problems? 3. Why women exaggerate? 4. "I will grant you one wish. You idea of the distance that exists between England and France? Is an engineering impossible! Make another request! The man reflected for a moment and asked: "I wish I could I communicate with women. To most men. avoided talking to not scare the prey. we are able to reveal the intriguing logic that lies behind the five men most frequent questions about the way women are communicating. Women evolved together with other women and children in and near the caves. man. For over a decade. and when caçavam fishing. Men evolved chasing moving targets. I just leave the lamp. therefore. I'm tired ground. But for those who can meet them. They speak to be connected. Women do not need a reason to talk. not speaking much. These are the questions: 1. When you engage in any activity." The genius pale and asked: "One or two tracks?" If you are a man.

when either communicate facts. a form of retribution and a way to connect to another person. The reaction of the man before it is asked "Why do not you say it to her when they were together?". This creates serious problems of communication with women. If not." that is. The women's to processes. Compare it with the average daily production of words of a man . The men use the speech and language to communicate facts and data. When a woman speaks. without effort.of the brain into activity. dyslexia and serious. to offer all the time. however. the man gives the impression that always wants to be right and it is always wrong. because the "conversation" of women is completely different. Have a brain that is not strong in the skills of speech and language responds to the remarkable extent of gender differences in rates of problems in speech: the stuttering is a disorder three to four times more frequent among men than among women. In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? show that the brain of the woman can produce. A worker exhausts its production of words in the middle of the afternoon and go home to find a woman who still has four to five thousand words to say! Two women can spend the whole day together and then still speak for a full hour on the phone. For the women. As I said. . data and solutions. Areas of the brain related to speech and language. not to ask for solutions. it speaks to you. 2001. if she feels attracted to you if she likes you or saying you want to feel accepted and important. From a woman. about ten times. it simply does not speak. Most men "only speak if you have something to say. the man who was asking opinion feels honored and offers its solutions. The brain of man is set to the solution of continuous problems. As already explained.two to four thousand and you understand that the ability to speak of women cause so many problems between couples. Unfortunately. Put simply. the man tends to think that a woman discuss their problems because they do not know how to deal with them and "all the time is interrupted with solutions. the man only speaks to other men about personal problems if you think that the other has a solution. six thousand to eight thousand words spoken per day. it does basically to create a bond with another person. share their emotions and problems with someone is a demonstration of confidence in the person. Man Woman The brain of man is oriented solutions. The images show how the brains of women is widely used for the functions of speech and language. No wonder that women always complain that the man to break inter-and not to let express their views. Institute of Psychiatry in London.

stomach ulcers and heart attack . Why do women always want to talk about problems? Women on average live seven years longer than men. The opposite is also true . The solution for men and women Ideally.in almost all of the time is not to seek solutions. The problem is that men love silence. The silence as a form of punishment is an effective tactic. With men in general it does not work . The content of conversation with people is not important. he apparently can forget their problems. It is never too often: when two people are aware that they want to invest in the relationship. if she does not agree with what this person is saying. or when either punish them.fortunately not . When either forget a stressful day. one at a time. water the garden. When not occupied with another activity. It is important to understand the man that the main objective of the "conversation" of the woman is talking about. ask them explicitly to reserve a time for that and tell him that he only wants to listen. Women use silence to punish men. The best way to punish the woman the man is talking to him without stopping and changing the subject is. mainly due to their greater ability to deal with stress. stress man stops talking and will sit alone "in front of the fire" to find a solution to your problem. mutual remarks to lose the character of criticism and complaint and will be key ele-ments in the construction of mutual happiness. the man thinks or does something else.the men usually see the "peace and tranquility" obtained with the silence of women as a prize. The danger is that the internalized stress can cause diseases such as diarrhea. Already suggested before. she stops talking. especially when used with other women.it's showing that you trust. on TV. want to talk to your partner. she is not complaining .if she does not like or do not love a person. Your brain allows you to track only concentrate on the news. without interrupting to offer solutions. The purpose of it is if you feel better about your day and connect to you . Focusing on other things. Only thus creates intimacy and complicity. When you. it is the participation that counts. is direct and clear. browse the Internet or mount an aircraft to turn off the problems. If you have an issue to deal with it. Without any aggressiveness. constipation.When you make personal confidences. one could say to each other how you feel and go learn about the differences between genders and the specific characteristics of your partner. woman. but never too often.

None of them works.. Ask her if she wants some help and put themselves available to advise her when she wants. One night we were agreed for six months. So she talked. Rodney Dangerfield Women believe that everyone is talking about feeling better. The men believe that talking will only make things worse. PHYLLlS DILLER For men. In the evening. There are two theories about arguing with a woman.. A man who did so would give other men the impression that they feel incapable and are looking for solutions . is a mystery. he had already discussed everything that had to discuss and was happy to leave the rest divergence. Men tend to retreat before that approach. Listen to it with the greatest possible solidarity and tell him you are there to accept them as needed. Lisa wanted to reduce their level of stress and was anxious to reach a satisfactory decision for both. the easier it becomes the relationship. The problem was that Lisa had been created believing that the couple should never let anyone waiting for the next day. Talking about your problems is your way of relieving stress. Not .until it lead to another thread. talked and talked about the issue at stake . Solution We to assume that the more men and women are aware of their differences. So when the woman started to teased a problem that seems not to sense. the reason why women love to discuss all the details. Enjoy going to rock your thinking about something else. Women like to thoroughly discuss all aspects of their actions and feelings. My husband and I decided never to sleep before resolving our disputes. It was common for discussion is to drag well after midnight. it would be readily available. He would prefer a thousand times and have a fight. Women deal with stress talking plenty about their problems. remember that she needs to talk to feel better. Joe and discussion of midnight Lisa and Joe discussed much when they went to live together. addressing them in various ways. Case study: Lisa. and yes-go by making a possible solution. while] and thought they always came back to the same issues.all at the same time. Joe could not handle it. They always kiss and make up before going to sleep. go to sleep and forget it. Prefer to discuss the issue and resolve it quickly. especially late at night. The problem is that the female brain is programmed to enhance processes.

women like to dream that a leading man of TV to ask for a memorable night. The difference is that men exaggerate the facts and women exaggerate the emotions and feelings. so fancy it much more than the man on the lives and relationships. The woman's brain is focused on people. because as your brain thinks things from facts and data. Why women exaggerate? Both men and women exaggerate. it interprets the words literally." "Do not talk to you anymore!" For men. But also meets its limits. The exaggeration makes it more exciting to talk about relationships. even that invariably end up falling by the timid and puny boy he met at the homes of friends. I did not no time last night and not do for months!" She replied recalling . ask to be sensitive if it can leave the matter for another time.minimize the impact that certain events can cause it. these fantasies and exaggeration that makes the conversations more interesting. if he disagrees with the woman in front of friends. Say. the size of your income or that of fish caught. One of one hundred things that women wish men knew: what it said six or eight months is unacceptable in the current discussion. saying that it does not always defend himself and giving examples: "This is not true. you always do this to me!" He probably will take that complaint to the foot of the letter. Moreover. I want to discuss it with you. Examples of female exaggeration: "I asked you a million times to collect their wet towels. Exaggerated words and emotions is a normal behavior to be perfect for women who talk among themselves. At that moment. she will say later: "You always reduces me and never let me have my own opinion. for example: "Sorry." "When I saw her with that dress. the performance of your car and the amount of beautiful women who left. but does not give us a little talk about this later?" This way of addressing the problem is more respectful and has much more chance of working than say nothing and simply wait for the woman to say end all you have to talk. I thought it was going to die!" "You always do this to me. In general. He exaggerates the importance of their work. but this issue is too big for my head today. She exaggerates his feelings and the other when it comes to some personal matter or what someone said. sweetheart. For example." "You always hope that I do all the work of the house and take care of children at the same time. the excesses of women can be frustrating. it only needs your love and genuine care. If the problem that the wife brings concerns the relationship of you and you in fact does not feel able to discuss the l-on time.

around eight hours. She sends much of what I mean by tone of voice. The language of the body reveals the emotional state of women and is responsible for 60 to 80% of the impact of their conversation. She was exaggerating his emotions and he. Saturday night.a beautiful pair of gold cufflinks. times and places where he eats the same. turned and was watching the TV. without giving me the slightest attention. I want a million . When we arrived. challenging in terms of facts and data.the days. When I arrived. said he had an excellent day out with friends and show what was purchased. The humor of it was so strange that I thought he was punishing me for having arrived late. For women. I had some suspicions but did not mean anything yet. Sorry for the delay. I was giving treatment to the ball to imagine what could be. because it does not consider that issue with the woman is decreased her. That day Luke was football with friends and I have fun with some friends to assert that I did not see since we have decided to live together. Luke went straight in the room. the emotions and feelings are what counts and tone of voice and body language are the main channels to communicate them. During the dinner. How a woman can fool yourself When the woman recall a scene in your head. it may appear that the memory is real. Mae West on men. then lunch and take coffee and we talk about a million things. All that she wants is that he values in front of friends. Despite his ability to speak.. he was sitting. But for her the most important is not the offense committed.. I gave him a special gift . He mumble "Thank you". It was as if it were a hundred kilometers away. mad to see Luke. women always seem to be moving his arms and using a variety of gestures and facial expressions when speaking. put them in the pocket and was sitting there without saying anything. I knew it would be a romantic dinner and was excited. The letter from Jessica shows as: "Me and Luke agreed to meet for dinner at our favorite restaurant. I started to think that something suspicious was that I had some time . We spent the whole morning shopping. but one at a time. Most messages are not verbal. including the phone. so that the time and I lost a little late. He is hurt and angry. In the eyes of men. Now I knew we had a serious problem. the woman also uses the body language to send and receive information. His eyes seemed to say that everything was over between us. Decided to have coffee at home. but men are able to identify only three. the conversation was really difficult and not a little interesting. looking out the window. your offense. but decided to wait to get home to talk. She communicates with a scale of five tones. The trip back was silent.

trying to find the sequence of the conversation. 'I do not want you to eat the salami. " I was working in the garage half hour.. I will use it later. will eventually disqualified!" Solution If you are a man. " I stopped with the stupid guy. And he thinks I'm an idiot. that bitch of his work beyond the mini-skirt! I saw the way she moves the chair every time he passes by it. I promised myself that the next day would face the situation and demand that he tell me the truth. Then. must realize that. while carrying a basket of laundry to the garage.' replied my wife.was true . This apparently vague manner of speaking is known as indirect language. while she continued to where he had stopped. Sometimes a man feels as if I had to guess what the woman wants. And I was also becoming clear who she was . I thought the end was near. women seem to prefer to be making rounds to go right to the point. Ten minutes later. I said: 'Later I need to go to the hardware store. she should try to be objective and limit the exaggeration. moreover.he should have another woman. " What Luke was really thinking that night: "My team lost. is thinking it and not want to tell me not to hurt me. while I turn to follow. but to me and my two children that causes tremendous brain damage. It took the largest iron if continue. How can a woman be so smart as avoada when talking? Today. and made love. as tenderly as possible. as the man takes things at the foot of the letter. " 'What?' I was surprised. Who is the other woman? He loves you or is just an adventure? Why men do not tell the truth? All I know is that it can no longer live like this . I was sitting there in the room with him about fifteen minutes until no more endure. with a tone mad. my supervisor said . But then he just turned and was sleeping. for example. Never call your partner in "queen of the drama" not a correction in front of others. not noticed how he looks at her with that stupid smile. She does this constantly.. Listen to the truth of it. They must think I'm blind! Well. telling me what your supervisor told you. I went to bed. . All your friends seem to follow his reasoning. Yesterday. not eat the salami. Not resist to my caresses. This letter from a reader and shows a woman can feel the man: "My wife goes on whim indirect speech. It is able to develop four or five different lines of thought simultaneously with ease..Debbie. even if internally you give some discount. it was in the kitchen and told me: 'In the team meeting today... The woman. Why women never go to the chase? For men. women understand the need to exaggerate the emotions and feelings and not take the literal meaning. or be able to read her mind. and this time I put the clothes in the washing . 'she said not to eat the salami? " 'She's not you.. I was so upset and stressed that hours spent awake. Then cried to sleep. Luke came to bed and also surprised me want to snuggle. where the exaggeration may be cause for much confusion and damage. help her to relativise without saying what she should think or say. This step is especially important when it comes to business.

machine, in one move boxes, cleaned a shelf and made a list of arrangements for next week. When she went in the house said, without stopping what I was doing: 'Why? " 'Huh? Why what? "I asked. 'What do you need? " 'I do not need anything! What are you talking about? " 'If you do not need anything, that is going to the hardware store? "She asked, crossing his arms with that guy sulk in'0 - that-is-what-you-are-arming' that most men married knows. However, this matter was already closed for me for a long time, but for my wife is absolutely natural to resume a conversation for over an hour, if it finds that the matter was not resolved. I think she is convinced that I did not hear, and I'm half convinced that she is right. I try to understand later, after I finish my salami sandwich. Frustrated Raymond. "When a woman speaks, the language generally indirect USA. That means what it implies or infers that the things. When women use indirect language to each other, rarely there are problems - they have to understand the sensitivity real meaning of what is said. But this language can be disastrous when speaking with men, who use the direct language and interpret the words literally. As I said, the male brain evolved as a mechanism to focus single requirement of the hunt. The men find disconcerting the apparent lack of structure and purpose of female conversation and accuse women of not knowing what they are talking about. They respond saying things like: "After all, what are you talking about?", "What is the conclusion ", or the interrupt saying," We already talked about this a dozen times, "" How long it will last yet? "and" This conversation is very complicated and will not lead to nowhere. " The language in indirect business The use of indirect language and multiple tracks in business can be problematic for women because men have difficulty to follow the conversation. The men, in order to take decisions, must be submitted to ideas and information that is clear, logical and organized. Women may see their ideas and rejected the requests simply because your boss is not the slightest idea what she wants. Marie was a classic victim. After six months of negotiations, Marie had the chance to present the new advertising program for your company to a major customer of the financial industry. The audience was composed of eight men and four women. The account to be won worth two hundred thousand dollars and she only had thirty minutes to sell her story. It was the only chance of winning the title. On the day of presentation, so well tested that could sleep up to, Marie came properly dressed, with a number sober, hair done and makeup light and natural. But soon after starting, she noticed that the men looked as if they were not understood. Given the impression that they were judging negatively and losing interest in the presentation, she began to come by several shortcuts, adding unnecessary details and returning the slides already passed to show how they are related to each other. Encouraged the women with smiles, faces and vocal expressions like "Uh, uh," "Right!" and showing an interest. Encouraged by the female reaction, Marie began to turn his speech to them, unintentionally ignoring the men. The entire presentation has become an exercise in juggling. She finished and left, convinced that he had done a good job. and was eagerly awaiting the answer of the company.

This was the conversation of men executives during the coffee, after which Marie left: Director of Marketing: "You have some idea of what she was talking about?" Executive Director: "No. .. it confused me. Tell him to send the proposal in writing." Marie "multitrilhou" submission using indirect language with a group of men who wanted to hear a presentation objective, and lean in his logic. The executive met and became involved with questions, but no man wanted to raise their hand and admit that there was not understood. The woman needs to understand that man, when you can not follow what she says, prefer to pretend it means to go through stupid. Only it is not convinced. When a man can not keep up the discourse of business of a woman, he pretends to understand. The woman must use a direct language, with timetables, schedules, deadlines and conclusive answers. Should be direct with men in business by addressing an issue each time, with beginning, middle and end, without getting lost in shortcuts. Marie is still waiting for a response ...

Case study: Barbara and Adam Barbara went to shop with friends and wanted his son Adam, aged 16, clean the kitchen. "Adam, you can do to please clean the kitchen for me?" She asked. "Hum .. s ...", he growl in response. When she resumed the tour, the kitchen remained the same. Barbara was angry with her son. "But I would clean up before leaving at night", he whine. The problem was caused by the Barbara. She used the language indirect assumption that Adam would understand that when she returned home with her friends, the kitchen should be clean. She asked: "You want to clean the kitchen?" No boy "or" clean the kitchen. Adam can not. A direct request with a deadline, as "Adam, please clean the kitchen before I get back from shopping at noon, would have guaranteed a better result.

Children do not "want" to do household chores, they need to be directly instructed to do them.

That night, Barbara said to Adam: "I would like you to look for an hour before going to bed." Indirect dis-course that works with girls but with boys it is useless. The brain of the boy heard that his mother that he would do such a thing, but it really was not instructed to do it, does. Direct instruction with a time limit is the only realistic way of dealing with men. "Adam, I want you to go to your room and study for one hour. I will give you good-night before you pain-mir." Direct instructions leave little room for communication problems. Moreover, men enjoy clear instructions. Women fear that the direct language is too aggressive. You can even be, when used with another woman. With men, however, the direct speech is perfectly normal, because that is how they communicate. Solution For a woman: With men, seek to use only the direct discourse. This does not mean being aggressive. You may well say, calmly and affection: "Let's make an appointment to talk? Feel that we need solve some problems." And remember what we said before: when speaking of problems, makes clear that it is as you see them and feel, which does not mean they are exactly that. Do not extend to others and gives space to listen to what your partner has to say. Listen to the truth, not defend themselves or challenge immediately. In the beginning may seem difficult, but over time this practice will bring you the desired results. You'll have fewer misunderstandings with men of his life. For men: If a woman is talking and you have difficulty to follow your line of thinking, start listening, without offering solutions. If anything, give it a time limit: "I watch the news of seven, my good, but until then I'm all yours." Again: try to show you their own limits and their way of being. Once you have the precious chance to go is knowing better and respecting their differences. One of our readers sent us the Dictionary of Women Indirect terms that appear during their regular discussions. "Good" - The USA women at the end of this word in any discussion that you believe to be the reason but want the man shut up. "Five minutes - I mean, about half an hour. Equivalent to five minutes when the man is watching a soccer game and the woman asked for a favor. "Nothing" - means "something." "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling of the woman when she is willing to strangle the man. "Nothing" usually means the beginning

" Do not ask what's wrong after the "audible sigh. We were talking . "Who was that?" He asked his wife Debbie. If you do not speak the truth will win in a final "OK". For example.." because it will say "Nothing.." The next time it will allow you to make sex with her will "one day". you will be a big trouble. when a cool head. seasoned with a lot of "Aahs"." "So . Why women want to know the smallest detail? Josh was reading the newspaper a night when the phone rang... He is nice ." The more you apologize. He answered. "Robert? You do not see from the side! How is he?" "Good." You should receive a "Go ahead" (raised eyebrows) in a few minutes. "Please" ." "Go ahead" (with normal eyebrows) . And do not try to lie more to get an escape because" Go ahead "(raised eyebrows)." he said. wanting to know every detail. -Audible sigh means she thinks you an idiot and wonders why it is wasting time by discussing with you "Nothing.of a discussion that will last "five minutes" and have undermined with the word "great"." "Aah?" .At the beginning of a sentence. She will tell you that is" good "while playing their clothes through the window. is great.She is not questioning the validity.The woman says that when you're really upset with you. The woman thinks when a man does not speak . This situation. For men. the split detail each point of the conversation. "All right" . "Nothing important . listened for about ten minutes making occasional grunt and said: "Yes. and the highest is the sarcastic "Really?" it... what he said?" She asked." Josh replied that defeated tone that men have when trying to read the newspaper. she insisted. "Go ahead" (with raised eyebrows) ." He hung up and continued reading.. The woman is giving you the chance to invent an excuse or reason you have done what they have done. which has dealt before. "raised eyebrows" and an "audible gasp" final. details are irrelevant.means "I quit" or "Do what you want because I'm not there. "Okay" is often used with "Fine" and in conjunction with "Go ahead" (raised eyebrows). is simply saying it does not believe a single word of what you say. followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she says she will explain the reason in "five minutes". "That is what he said after ten years? What is great ". "Really?" . Means that you put the hurt and the next step will be an "audible sigh. okay.It is said in a tone of challenge. when it has plot is planned. "Aah? I talked to his brother about what you walked by last night "and" Aah? You expect me to believe ". "Robert. "Thank you" .is not an application is an offer for you to talk. after the woman said "nothing. a former schoolmate. At some point in the near future. You offering to explain and receive a "Please. "Aah" generally means that you have been caught in a lie. And he was asked him as an advocate of it.means that she wants to think before you return whatever you have. shows a basic brain differences between men and women..

After a social activity. because for women the words are used to unite.. being precise and succinct. and the latest jokes. The man thinks the woman speaks and other torments so many questions. meets its limits. already see the new red sports car from Bob.. are doing. well.. especially in a business meeting. I discussed what are good places to fish. The group of friends was his insurance company.. And if.. have already decided how to defeat terrorism and how England can win of Germany in football . Tell us what you feel and hear what he feels. At home... But you know very little about the personal life of any person in the group .much because he is not interested in it.. yes . His survival depended on their ability to connect to other women. Things that seem important to you may be irrelevant to him. look you give more details than usually and do not fidget with their pe1fun-tas. It is not that women are curious . or family. You also know where the friends go on leave and the children are doing in school. Men know what new "toys for boys" bought the other men. you will be a great year. you should 'go to the chase. . And if you are female. their health and status of their relationships. tell your partner that is willing to tell her what happened. is that with the long-term survival in their minds. Women are programmed to know all the details Defender of nests and offspring. ah. knowing that men and women are structurally different. the woman involved to secure for itself a narrow circle of friends who take care of it if your man does not resume the hunt or the war. they do not cease to be . their dreams and goals for the year. ask if it is available. in reporting events from the others. try to avoid the excess of detail. which means knowing all the details and is actively interested by the situation of each group member and their families. Thus. do not feel offended. Solution If you are a man.just listen to it with genuine interest. when you talk to the woman. they want to know how each person in your group and how they can help. women know everything that each member of the group. Invite her for a long walk and let her talk. need to understand that the woman needs to know details and personal information is programmed into your psyche and aims for the survival of relationships Therefore. Remember once again: you need not worry about giving answers or provide solutions .their wives saying all the way home. feel that he is uninterested.

but you know he has a picture of it in the drawer of the office. When announced to sell the house. There is no one interesting beer is hot. action by which a person is to deliberately deceive another person. You would be wrong? Lie: noun. as you may not have lied. as often prefer the subtle distortion of the true facts and stark naked. Most lies are the first meetings. His girlfriend called in last minute canceling the meeting with you and an excuse that it seemed in tatters. Because their sinuses are fallen. You must see the reason for your bad breath and why not cut the hair of the nose?" "This meeting is organized chatíssima you. but you do not know what it is. may have ceased to mention that leakage of engine oil to speak of the excellent conditions under which he was. do not want to hear the truth about him . When you sold the car. those that exist for us to live jun-ments without violence or aggression. Mary. how people react? One thing is certain: you would be an insufferable person. Why not put a bra or seeking a new plastic surgeon?" "Hi. but left to say or tell something that would have caused suffering to the person. You may have exaggerated a bit to complete a loan application form or request for jobs to provide the best." When was the last time you lied? Well. what would have happened? If you tell the exact words that go through your head. Maybe you have not told her husband that found a former boyfriend and that his heart shot. If you have a nose too large. Adam. Most of the lies that we are soft Lies. Or that . Imagine the following situations: "Hi. His female instinct tells you that something is wrong. What mind? Everybody lies. probably would not have any friends and possibly more would be unemployed. you did not mention that the neighbor cat up and sometimes the smell is unbearable. Always tell the truth .then quit running.Chapter 8 "You think I am OUE -FAT CLOTHES WITH THIS? Why men lie? The new man in your life that really is all over with the former. You distrust. no one notices it or he has a size suitable for your face.he prefers to hear him personality. when all want to make the best. Proverb If you had told the strict truth to all those who interacted in the last week.

hearing. All night. When he arrived. both would deny. Everyone constantly lied to each other. Case study: Sheelagh and Dennis Sheelagh was asked by Dennis for dinner at his house and decided whim to impress you. she realized that he was using to shave lotion that she said that he liked. remorse or discomfort when you lie. Only enemies tell the truth. But if faced with this basic fact. smiling. This whole assembly was a fine trick. a soft background music and fire burning. or is lying. Parents lie to their children about sex and teenagers lie to their parents about sex. in turn. Stephen King We lied for two reasons. On entering the dining room. It was the lights on the hair do hair. you raise the level of testosterone. put a pair of long earrings and a bit of French perfume behind the ears. he presented with a beautiful bouquet of flowers and led it to the table. But in reality it is a complete fabrication of lies half on both sides to try to gain personal advantage. All your senses . To sit. making it possible for a person know if the other is telling the truth. was impressed with the way Dennis get the scenario for the night: half-light. caught in the web of obligation. touch and smell . looking at the eyes and encourage her to talk. Champagne. not to lie. where it served a glass of champagne. Did you not concealed from the other lipo or prosthesis that did that to put the body shape? Ever not lied about your weight and your age? The list of large and small lies is endless.are all lies. And assumed that he felt exactly the same for her. Friends and lovers. is armed and behaved is thinking only in stimulating the sexual part of the brain of Dennis. Sheelagh. Sheelagh felt completely overwhelmed by the caring and sensitive man . lit with candles. half-light and soft music were not part of the normal lifestyle of Dennis and the usual topic of conversation was his sport. But we can say that everything you said and did that night was in search of personal gain.so different from others she met. Free sex with no inhibitions. and strongly. In polite language.were excited in the highest degree. With a little practice is to recognize the behavioral signs we learn to lie and decodes them. Dennis wanted sex. makeup is carefully chose a sexy dress. glorious. most people feel guilt.the group of friends who would just be reducing the lunch spicy brunette who works in the next office. They were talking a little about her work and the events of the day. and it is not easy to hide. in short. Dennis listened attentively. Fortunately. And I was experienced enough to know that building the scenario the way they mount. was based on lies and deceptions. Research shows that 30-40% of patients get relief with placebos . Give the name you want . is decorate. this scenario is called a romantic dinner with candlelight.sight. pants high heels. the chance to get to Sheelagh what I would be much greater. of course. obtaining a gain or avoid pain.

Types of liars "Natural liars" are people who are fully aware and confident in their ability to deceive. politicians and richies are the main targets of malicious lies. she gives him in the face of the neighborhood shopping center . because the intention of the liar in this case is hurt or take advantage of victims in their own benefit. The Lie benefit is used by people with the intention of helping. This is the case of the German farmer who hid Jews from Nazis and denied to the authorities. business and politics. War. for example. People in evidence as actors. the lying does not count as a lie. In general. for example. Say. or as safe prescription drugs . cold and painful. that a man cheating ex-girlfriend. and do as little. heard. War then moved to avoid it. A known God. One company.the Branda Lie. The lies and malicious misconduct tend to be used as weapons in competitive situations. he misappropriate information. ra late because the damage was enormous. with results to be devastated and durable. Malicious lies are motivated by revenge or to gain advantages. sensitive. the Lie Branda is part of our social fabric and prevents us from ferirmos and insult each other with the truth hard. The journalists who offer the stories to newspapers and magazines sensational. Nobody could blame for not warning Gerris Margie because Margie may not believe. When the truth was restored. Margie War gave false information on the character of a man. parents who were themselves taught them to lie to prevent the . In forging a inverídica information is presented as true. not an accident. but if War took the decision not to warn it would also be guilty of lying. sorry. in fact. The medical mind that the patient in the bed of death to raise her mood. A couple had their school and its reputation destroyed because they spread the rumor that sexually hurt the students.Types of lies There are four basic types of lies . The malicious lie is the most dangerous. it is not an uncommon political rumors spread that an opponent has his inappropriate sexual behavior. The fireman who rescues a child from a house on fire and mind to it saying that their parents are and is protecting it for some time to suffer an even greater trauma. Invent the people intend to destroy the character and reputation of their victims. can spread the false information that its main competitor is in financial difficulties. To tell her friend Margie who was seeing this man. The malicious lie has two main forms: concealment and falsification. A month later. was delighted. and when he met a man who seemed loving. This type of lie is an intentional act. this time by an act of concealment. In the blind. was single mother. he was a notorious playboy. through another friend. He was lying heroically. intelligent.embraced with a smile-tooth Margie.placebos . fun and is interested in her. Similarly. even if they are inverídicas also benefit as the rivals of those affected in the world art. a person who could not trust. left little. C mo already said. making it the guarantor of a loan and giving it the default.technically lying. who. discovering that War was over. to get him out of the rival. Lie beneficial to the malicious lies and malicious lie.

Studies and experiments show. Who minds the most? Most of the women has to say categorically that men lie more frequently than between them. repeating that "I never lie. Romantic Some liars are specialists in hiding who are married. where most people mind and anything. The "liar non-natural" is the person who as a child. actors. right? Why not do the same with a prospective partner? The advice here is: always check the history of any product you want to keep for long. doctors and businessmen to raise the successful. the woman usually does not the slightest idea of what is happening. because it would inevitably discovered. but what they want to believe that it is like the truth. while others are masters in pose of lawyers. The truth will free him. The offices of the therapists are full of intelligent women and full of resources Romantic victims of a Liar. and sexual interest. Consequently. She is blind to the lies or deny. vendors. however. Many natural liars take advantage of that ability in adulthood become criminal lawyers. as the biggest talent is his ability to live a lie plausible enough time to its victim fall in love. pretending to give in return love and emotion. but first it will screw you. psychological and financial." annoying. MAL Pancoast One of the most dangerous lie that a woman can find the way is the romantic. sex and other benefits of women. but will save you a far greater suffering in the long term. was persuaded by the parents that it was impossible to lie. People say love of truth. For those liars. Some returned in this type of experience. even when they are evident to friends and family. seems to learn nothing suffered. The emotional damage and loss of self-esteem often far beyond the material losses in these cases and may leave a woman emotionally marked: it will hardly believe any man. If you lead the department of personnel of a large company would want to know as much as possible about a person applying for a position of trust. The most common objective of Romantic Liar is starting money. politicians and spies. the only limit is the imagination. Even smart women be fooled by a Romantic Liar. offending and creating problems for everyone they know. It can be painful discover its faults. When a Romantic Liar enter into action. These poor creatures spend their lives indiscriminately telling the truth about everything. they can cause enormous damage to women's emotional. Romantic liars can appear anywhere and go in and chat on the Internet.terrible punishment that would apply if told the truth. merchants. that men and women lie in equal Others .

I never trance with that woman.women lie as much as men. as if you were deeply offended. has nothing to gain by telling the truth. They just continue to get caught. They do not lie anymore. In an extreme case.it is always good. The main question of the men who do women lie is: "What it was good?" The most common form of lie is self-deception. such as smoking two packs of cigarettes a day repeating that it is not biased and can stop whenever you want. "She is my friend. And they say that sex with ex was better than with you. He will say that the clothes are "interesting. lying also likely to leave you angry. men are caught much more frequently. The woman said that a mind was wonderful clothes for someone. no matter where or when. tend to lie to make others feel better. Due to heightening awareness for women's body language and vocal signs. which leaves the impression that lie more. in his head." Sex is one of the constants of life of man . Even become aggressive. but lie differently. Women of the m general. What 's wrong with that?" He says she is a friend from childhood and . "Once and for all. and only will if forced to give their opinion. This is the main difference lies between male and female. and men for doing good. The human mind to do good. The evidence is clear . And in those cases where the man mind. Under the same circumstances." or simply saying that lie loved." The man who betrayed a lie until well beyond any evidence because. The woman mind to make the man feel good. There is no reason to say that a person is not drunk . to defend themselves from charges of women. the man moves away to not have to lie.except for being really drunk. "The sex with my ex was a drug. Women lie to keep the relationship safe and have great difficulty in lying about their feelings. If a man says that sex with the ex was a drug. The men lie to avoid discussion and to say. especially because it usually sounds "Eooo a xtô bêbadu. or convince themselves that a calorie dessert not affect the system. even thinking that the person was like a sack of potatoes. a man is able to say it is vice-director of a multinational distribution of food when it has a business of supply of pizza at home. most women know very well that he is lying." tell a lie as indirect "I do not know what to say. Common lies that men tell women "I'm not drunk" a lie is easy to get.propose What varies is the content of the lie. it is highly likely that he is lying.

therefore. If you see or not these tracks. because your brain is more developed for spatial tasks than for communication. she is just needing a friend to talk. she is sick and wants me to go visit her. " Why not stick the lies? Most lies can be detected because.whether friendly or aggressive. so do not want you to go eat with us. Most men do not think that guy has a dog required. signs and changes in body tone. sorrow and joy. For the same reasons. in danger. without being caught. Here is the key to duck-logical liar: he has no emotional connection with anyone. in general. angry or embarrassed. involve emotions that flashing red lights as verbal or visual. The "hypersensitive" female has two goals: defend its territory against foreign and communicate with the children. If the man wants to lie to a woman. As I said. she needs to tell me something very secret. the woman is able to read the emotions of animals. Most women have less difficulty to lie in the face of the man . Try to disguise these tracks creates an emotional issue for the majority of us. But keep away from you and not to let her know. she does not feel anything for me. sad. Why women are so good at catching lies? Most men know how difficult it is to run even a small lie to a woman face to face. The closer a person. she is going through a difficult situation and I want to help. more tracks will be left by the liar. the woman's brain is organized into multiple tracks. She knows I tell if a dog is happy. disease. but will not have the slightest difficulty in lying to the enemy if captured in war. advise him or try to understand it.who have no other interest in it. she is vulnerable. The woman must have ability to look at their offspring and immediately identify the pain. A husband has difficulty to lie to his wife if he really loves. On May the lie and the more emotions involved. lie is easy. Without these techniques of survival. fear.in general if they can get along. Must be able to rapidly assess the attitude of people who are close to their nest . is another problem. so that it can handle more . The man needs to reach its target accurately and not having a conversation with him deeper and full of meaning. The purpose of man hunter was always reach its target accurately and not talk to him. These points are used to decode words. it is best to do so by telephone. hunger. and respond to a large extent by what is known as "female intuition". Other variants include: "She is lesbian. the more difficult it is to lie because of the emotions involved. The man has on average 4 to 7 of those points. MRI scans of brain show that a woman has from 14 to 16 key points in the two hemispheres when communicating face to face.

The FBI agents learn to analyze the "micro-expressions" . A third of students in each group was told to put lies prone in the curriculum vitae.is full of receptors for estrogen and grows more rapidly in girls than in boys.092 adults. Sixty-one percent of secundaristas and 32% of students admitted to have circumvented the tests at least once in the previous year. you are informed at once and let go. swindling. Young people are more prone to lying. Advice for men Do not waste time telling a lie to a woman face to face. assistant professor of psychology from East Carolina University.the part of the brain used in language and the storage and retrieval of memory . Women are very good at remembering what was the lie that those who counted and counted.information at the same time. We search for 3243 students from secondary school. It is very difficult. Read the mouth and eyes of someone requires a more refined analysis than judging the emotions of the face piece. a survey of 2002. lasting from a fraction of a second. while the men often forget their lies. fleeting. about nine thousand adolescents and adults from all over the country. showed that a significant number of people in the range 15 to 30 years is prone to lying. Why do women always remember? Erik Everhart. giving women greater ability to recover memories of things loaded with emotion. but also that they are often negotiating more perceptive than men. which explains not only why they are much more difficult to deceive. and colleagues from the State University of New York in Buffalo. Women not only have a greater ability to detect lies as they have greater ability to save them as ammunition for future discussions. The hippocampus . In the United States. There was. plus the left. This gives you the added advantage of knowing how to read the physical signs and hear what is being said while speaking. more prone to cheat. . people who are lying. and the girls. For that use the slow motion. for example. The man with the brain of single track. call her or send her an email. If it needs. that Bill Clinton lour for a split second before answering any question about Monica Lewinsky. making them better able to understand the state of mind of people. stealing The younger the person. and 16% of secundaristas said that it had done at least once.630 students and 2. The woman's brain is programmed to read the signs when they happen. Found that this difference helps the girl to detect subtle changes of facial expressions. About 33% of secundaristas and 16% of students admitted having stolen goods from a shop on the previous year. so many physical signs. in the forms and job interviews to get what they want. fraud and stealing.the subtle expressions. 3. found that boys and girls from 8 to 11 years of age using different parts of their brains to identify faces and expressions Boys most use the right side.

and adulthood are triggered by figures of authority. The researchers found that the dishonesty and other unethical behaviors were less common among people over 30 years and lied that the two sexes in equal proportion. is that the behavior of these people makes the others lie to them. why did not the duty of the house. then the sanctions because the truth is not in line with its expectations. "We're doing a competition. If you are a person who offends easily. If people know that you are angry." The survey found that 83% of secundaristas and 61% of university lied to the parents during the previous year. "What is the reason for the fight?" Asks the father. because they will distort the truth to avoid reaction. Why the lies of friends and family hurt more . The children hear from parents that honesty is the best result. "Who gains from the biggest lie the dog." replied the boys. When all the known lie to you Some believe that we should not trust anyone and that the world is full of liars. When someone reacts to what is said so aggressive and emotional. these are symptoms of great moral crisis that rages in all societies. Most parents do not realize. the teaching is lying to protect themselves. People find this for two reasons: first. The second reason. The most disturbing was that 73% of those surveyed in the range 15 to 30 years said to believe that "most people cheat and lie when necessary to achieve what they want. "I never lied!" The boys were put to cry. "Great. will say. we could say that Americans are a bunch of liars and fraudsters. If you ask the children to tell you the truth. In such cases. 'No'. symptoms that reflect a real change of values in these societies. too hurt or vengeful when he hears the truth. replied the director. more likely. you got it!" Ambiguous messages about the lie that children receive has a major impact on their behavior when they grow up. people flatter you do not like to give excuses to justify a lack liars or cancel an appointment. but similar studies conducted across the West showed the same trend. never know what the other is really thinking or feeling about them. The father responds. but the bribe the guard to watch traffic." "That ugly thing!". The father is approaching heatedly discuss that next to a puppy. it is a duty of kindness and just education. I avoid at all costs. almost forcing the others to lie. as they themselves are liars usual." Based on this study. It is different than being instructed to pretend to like the gifts that have won or give a kiss on the annoying aunt who will visit them. Unfortunately. that the severity of punishment is a major stimulus to lie and one of the main reasons that children grow as stubborn liars. Many of the behavioral patterns are liars down during childhood and youth. for example. Asked the student."I can trouble for something I did?". apologize: "Dad. assume that all other people are.

the more we trust it. father. I i in my brother's house after breakfast and then . But the habitual liar not hesitate or forget.." you instinctively distrust most of what she said "My car broke and I could not call you because the phone's battery was weak. sister or child. but that person can be eliminated from our lives. At the other extreme. just leaving to find her. in principle. the used car salesman will lie to us. A lie told by a brother. cause more suffering to a lie. wife. He tested his mind many times in the head and is generally able to perform without error. Furthermore. Consider the example of a person who combines is with you and not displayed. at least for a time. Then give a break to the suspect to let him think that made it. I saw my brother after lunch. the liar's voice becomes more acute. generally the third response is not accurate and the story seems a little different. A malicious lie told by her husband. they instinctively seek to distance itself from them. Ask liar to repeat what you think is a lie. " To recall the events of the day." The liars also avoid using the name of the person involved in the lie. no.. Good liars are able to make a second version identical.. for that before-I had to go get my car in the workshop . As he does not expect this repeteco and is more relaxed. The lie of a close friend also hurt.. because the person will be our brother. If later the demand and it says "My car broke down and had no cell battery. aah . if I act like every word. Who does one turn is two If you think a person is lying. analyzing the words of suspects who had alibis false. then ask them to repeat a third time. They prefer to say "I do not trance with that woman" than "I do not trance with Monica. How to read between the what is said ." Liars do not hesitate Ask a person what she did last weekend and she will probably think a bit before saying something like: "Ah .. In the end she will betray an excess of confidence in the performance. Clues to unmask a liar How people feel uncomfortable with the lie. because the closer the person. The FBI recently discovered this valuable clue. brother or sister hurts deeper. we know that. His script is perfectly decorated and rarely does it wrong. we surprised him with it and can choose to not see him ever again. The liars leave the lies out of its references to themselves and avoided using the word "I". sister or child hurts more than told by an acquaintance... the more open to it. due to the stress associated with the lie. people usually stop and change direction to try to put things in order.The more intimate the relationship. mother. because the feeling of betrayal is more pro-fund and you do not want to remove this person from your life. but tends to be forgiven.

The words "honesty". Do you lack the confidence to say you feel? Are you trying to fool? Or are you wanting to escape from their responsibilities? Of course. honest. when in reality they want to force you to believe what they are saying.00 for entry" is used to convince the consumer that the price is insignificant. "I love you" is easier to believe than "Honestly. not mean that it will not believe what is being narrated. Here is a list of terms commonly used by people who want to convince them that speak the truth. "You understand?" or "Do you understand?" at the end of the sentence are irritating mannerisms. this is the best I can offer you" is sometimes translated as "might not be the best that I have to offer. But who has not always meant well.S. $ 40." The force with which the person who says "Trust me" try to convince the other is proportional to the size of the bait. honest and sincere than states and can be sign that he is lying. $ 9. However. "sincere" and "frankly" indicate that the speaker should be considerably less." When you hear someone say "only" and "only" should think about why the person tries to minimize the importance of what you're saying. She argued. it is more clear that a contract gives you the possibility to interrupt the conversation past the time stipulated. trustworthy and decent credit need not convince anyone of it. "I just wanted to say I love you" mask the need for love is shy to say "I love you. if so. try not to eliminate them is liable to generate mistrust. To feel that you are not believing it. indicating that the person may be trying to hide the truth or convince you of an emotion that she does not feel. "I am just a human being" is the motto of those who do not want to take responsibility for their mistakes. he makes his observation with a "Trust me. Who is being honest. but should pay attention when you hear "just" and "only". If the person says "You give me five minutes?" and you agree. but who knows you believe?". "Only" and "only" The words "only" just "are used to minimize the meaning of words" which are then to relieve the guilt of the speaker or p ra blaming the other for any unpleasant consequence. that phrase alone is not evidence of dishonesty: it must be interpreted in its context. "I only take five minutes of your time" is the USA. not a rule." "I'm not kidding" and "I would lie to you?" are other versions. For example: "Frankly. Unconsciously do this by introducing a true statement. Pay attention to your speech to see if you USA often these words and." "Without doubt" gives reason to doubt and "Without a doubt" is definitely a warning sign. There are people who exclaim "Bullshit!" when they hear a fact which seems extraordinary. and oblige him to answer "I" to every request. or what he is saying is not worthy of credit. you will do what I want. which will sound false.You already talked with someone who seems less convincing as this? Examine some common words and phrases. . "Believe in what I am telling you" can mean "If I can make you believe me. who will hire you for a full hour. "Only U. A friend was my ex-beats the classroom at the college to respond with "Bullshit!" the statement of professor of religious sciences that had more than a thousand shrines where the Virgin Mary operated miracles." And no woman believes the man who says "Just a friend. but in the end thought that it was untrue. however. Remember. some honest people have the habit of using those words repeatedly. I love you. saying that was just expressing surprise.95" and "Only U. because they give the impression that the listener is unable.S.

" . AHS.. Liars experienced less anxiety show that beginners and are sometimes able to pass the test of the polygraph." It can also be a matter of uncertainty. speaking more slowly and reduces the volume of voice. tension causes a tightening in the vocal chords that makes screechy voice and can increase its speed and volume. Conversely." ."I have no reason to lie."Trust me.. speed and volume." . a lie is detected by the physiological effects that are manifested as the increase or decrease in heart rate. Paying attention to vocal tracks There are three characteristics of voice capable of delivering a liar . their speech tends to be dotted with uhms. The polygraph is not accepted as evidence in court. ERS. have received or honor the traditions of his family to convince you of their honesty." ."I'm telling you the truth. but the fact is that people of character do not need live testing its virtues. The polygraph. the liar that calculates the lie to ensure their effectiveness."To be absolutely frank / honest / honest with you. because they have the brain less ."Why would I lie?" . When the person is in a situation of stress. These machines can now be seen in programs of the TV interviews in which the American guests also tend to prove the guilt. You may recognize some of these phrases: . When a person is caught distorting the truth.height."I do not belong to this type of people. Recent studies show that the accuracy of the new computerized polygraph is close to 100%."As a member of . innocence or the fidelity of their partners. Answers like these are given when the person is calling and not to respond directly to a question."Frankly Speaking." . Getting lie with the computer The progress of technology of computer generated three interesting ways to detect liars. breathing and perspiration. Studies show that 70% of the amount of voice crotch when lying."I never I would be such a thing. the pulse and the relative volume of blood is the most famous of lie detector. There are also physiological differences between people that may be source of errors in the polygraph test. They live their values in a way that is visible and that gives them credibility. no change occurs in these indicators. This is most noticeable in men than in women. which measures the breathing apparatus. while honest people may be intimidated and lied to eventually classified as roses. When a person speaks the truth."You think I would be able to do such a thing?" Some people try to use the organization to which they belong. except when determined by the judge." . blood pressure.. and hem breaks because there was not enough time to test the lie. When the person is wanting to cheat." .

but there is something she is not saying. scratches his neck. pull the ear. they believe their lies. When someone rub the eye. The fake smile is generally slow and asymmetric. may be itching. "believe me". for example. is usually rapid and symmetrical . exaggerate or lie. This is true for children educated in Western culture and European. There was. If someone rub your eyes. In the book. feel insecure. Mothers them said "I know you're lying . Interpret the whole Never interpret a gesture alone. Both men and women take much to hand to the face when in doubt. but there are some signs you can see when someone is lying. pulling the ear and bring the hand to the neck. your smile is crooked means. Is in the eye You probably learned to believe the liar never looks in the eyes. however. take your fingers to rub the nose or mouth. they show that it is experiencing some kind of stress. When the person mumble a reply to a question directly. The smile that accompanies a true statement. The male gestures are easier to understand because they are more extensive and frequent: rubbing eyes and nose. But most of the liars give many signs. nothing guarantees that lying. There are people who lie comfortably. that Bill Clinton touched his nose and face 26 times when answered questions about Monica Lewinsky before the grand jury. When it comes to lie in general at least three signs. and others.equipped to control the language. discussing the matter extensively. If it touches the face several times and at the same time says "trust me". like politicians and religious fanatics who. suspicious. it is reasonable to assume that you are listening to a lie. irritation or fatigue. it does not show signs of fraud. without displaying too many signs of the stress. most of the time.the left side of the face mirrors the right side. In other words. your facial expressions are asymmetric. and it is likely to be hiding something. Smile Men and women smile the same way as when they lie and the truth. Keep in mind that they are not satisfied that the person is lying. "to be honest. Interpreting body language In our book The Language of the Body body showed signs that represent more than 60% of the messages exchanged between people. When people try to show that they do not feel emotions.

"Open up" to the truth. 2." In the latter case. because it shows which part of the brain they are using. A liar think doing so is not lying. Not maintain eye contact. If you get close. it is possible to continue denying it. Sit in the chair higher. without further difficulty. experienced liars can maintain eye contact when they lie. 5. Do not show surprise or amazement. The direction where to move the eye of the person when it is a question you can also help you identify a liar. open your arms and tilt it back.does not show that you know they're lying. Never say what you really know . and a signal is almost impossible to disguise.because you can not look in my eyes. The invading his personal space. It is an instinct for defense. trigger the left side of the brain and generally look to the right. Demonstrate warmth and laughter too. 10. 4. Men find it easier to lie with your hands in your pockets. 5. look liars left to right. 3." "I am sad when I think you're seeing another woman. Mimic the posture and his movement to establish a communication and make it more difficult for him to lie to you. Add involuntary facial movements. Give it an "exit". Always leave an exit for him to go back and tell the truth. Signs that denounce the lie in men 1. Aggressive questions as "Why do not you call me?" and "Are you seeing anyone?" may cause the liar is to secure its position and not improve anything in your relationship with him. 8. Shake your head indicating "no" when they answered "yes" and vice versa. 4. Crossing your arms or legs. He wants to make you like it to believe it. this does not apply. trigger the right side of the brain and look to the left. Descruze legs. In addition. As not being a victim of lies 1." In cultures where maintaining prolonged eye contact is considered an ill-educated attitude and aggressive. you lose the chance to be knowing the truth. His eyes fitam the void. but is a strong evidence of cheating. If you react negatively or with much emphasis. Use the technique of self: "I felt a lack of your call. Do not accuse. It is the forced smile used by both sexes for fake sincerity. 9. 7. . Hide your hands. and when invented a story. Smile with the lips closed. The brain tries to prevent the face of information. It is important to note if s eyes blink more often . This observation is not without errors. Stay calm. The deft. resulting in forced eye contact. In simple terms. recalled when a real event.a sign of growing tension and dryness of the eyeball. 3. Deepening the pupils 6. Pretend not to hear or say that law did not understand what he said. Try making it easy to tell the truth. he will feel uncomfortable. Liars just want to finish with the conversation. 2. Mispronounce or mumble the words. If the room has a door. 6. Talk soon. 9. skillful liars look to the left. is where it will look. 7. but record the suffering that their attitude question to you. 8. It is a subtle form of intimidation.

we asked our readers to send us the 9 phrases that men hear when they hide what they really want: dictionary of language patterns of male The men never understand women and women will never understand men. And that is something that men and women will never understand. . Give him one last chance.10. to find a solution to not having to resort to lying again. If he thinks you miss the hook. Ignore the lie and say "What can we do that does not happen more?". Finally. at worst. the more likely it is to confess everything and.

based on responses from the male brain to certain forms. It is a guide to the impact that you cause or ceases to cause a man when he sees for the first time. c. The influence of personality traits on their attraction to men will be discussed later. What type of shoe predominates in your wardrobe? a. b. with and without straps. 3. Which of the following attributes best describe your body? a. if your waist measures 75cm and 100cm his hip. 2. c. not too flashy. 65 to 80%. Skinny / straight. Measure your waist and hips and calculate the proportion waist / hip dividing the waist by the hip. c. what is your attitude? . Their ratio is: a. Athletic / strong. fair and low-necked to let that show their physical gifts. more than 80%. proportions. For example. Fashion shoes with medium heel. Modern in short skirts and high heels to show the legs. 1. Heavy. sizes. Created then this test to give you an idea of how they look. or jump down. c. At the first meeting. Tiny shoes. b. with comfortable shoes. appearance and presentation. Terninho a stylish and well cut. If you could buy a new clothes regardless of price. which would you prefer? a. 5. how you dress for the man trying to impress? a. how he reacts to you? This is something that every woman thinks: what is the first impression of a man when he says the first time? Most women want to know to what extent are attractive to men. 6. The test relates only to their physical shape. b. textures and female body language signals. but elegant. Casual. 4. With trousers or a long skirt. colors. b. A short clothes. less than 65%. b. c. the proportion is 75%. A long and undulating clothes that cover all problem areas.Chapter 9 THE TESTING OF WOMEN'S SEXUAL APPEAL How do you make people work? Take the test When the eyes of a man found the trellis in a room. This is a test to see how a man to evaluate the primeiva finding the time or were looking at his picture. When you are chatting with an attractive man that stops leg bigwig. but with elegance. High heels.

b. regardless of day or hour to get the best appearance possible. Lean / angulosa / muscular. c. c. c. which would pose? a. Round / in the form of a peach. 9. Describe your makeup: a. If you ask a stranger to describe your ass. c. 11. c. My face is my blade. Heavy load. 10. thick and strong. Try to make it sit so that it can not see his body. c. Curvilinear. b. c. say: a. the rear tilt and throwing a kiss to the camera. What use . Soft / smooth. which he say? a. as he seems? a. With a bra to lift the breasts and let the shows the neckline. 13 . b. Short. Looking over the shoulder. 7. b. You're going to a dinner in the light of candles and want to be sexy. Natural. Smooth. with hair pulled to the top of the head. Compact / muscular. c. Stay near him with the legs unfolded. Plump. hips recline. Full. Back arched. 8. b. thin or thin. lean hips and the caress your body to draw attention to it. c. Protuberans / round. Average length and thickness. 15. Long.a. b.How would you describe the your neck? a. If your friends would describe her face. b. When you pass your hand in the stomach. b. Inclined to the front. If you were invited to pose for Vogue. If Picasso was painting you would like? a. With an outfit just to highlight the silhouette. b. 14. 12. Infant / big eyes. How you dress for the evening out with friends? a. thin or athletic. but sincere. Elegant / powerful features. I use much makeup. is the language on the lips. Colors and styles are in fashion. Move the hair. With loose clothes that do not give any idea of the body that is underneath. hands on hips and lips exposed.

Almonds. b. b. 19. modify that image. Your Hair is a. As a cartoonist designer? a. You choose: a.lipstick? a. The color of fashion. 18. Bright red. 100 points or more: The goddess of sex When the men see.Comprido b. Pedestrians stop to work to work and . Earrings with stones of medium size and pretty. You can use the earrings you want. Small as a button. Middle c. in the medium term. Medium. You're getting dressed to go to the Oscar party. Greater. b. c. Carefree b. 16. And you can improve your appearance. Large / child. Earrings of pearls and small diamonds. c. Long before diamonds. Small / tight. they are immediately gaff. 17. Short 20. c. Look at his nose in the mirror. Neutral / natural color. As a man describe his eyes? a. c. Always remember to two things: their personality traits may. b. Elegant Your Score Now calculate your score and see where you are classified in terms of its appearance shows that of their sexuality. Sexy c. How would you describe your appearance a.

however. will make you feel more beautiful and healthy and give you a great pleasure to live. Men like to see it and deal. You are really an expert in the game of her sexuality and never missing program. just needs some work areas to achieve what men want. Means that you are reasonably successful in making men feel attracted to you at first. and it is being right. Sign in to an academy to improve the form. If received 66 to 78.whistles when you pass.to improve their appearance. at least in principle. But why not invest in their physical as well as invest in the intellect? Both of them are its aspects. is that even the most sensitive men and intelectualizados are at the mercy of biology. The problem. will have even more spectacular results. knowing that so attract a greater number of men and have more chance to choose? The next chapter will show you how to become more attractive and why most men babam by women with lower QLS and not look twice at you. become more attractive to men. for example. know that if we really invest in their physical appearance.whatever you dislike . 66 to 99 points: Miss Elegance Most women are in this squad. Less than 65 points: Let's whim? You probably believe that personality is more important than appearance. If you got 78 to 99 points. Men feel women inevitably attracted by clear signs. You might say that is not interested in men who are no longer hypnotize by physical appearance. You can improve your presentation without compromising their beliefs. The next chapter will show you the reason for their success and how to further improve its score. The attraction that you will hold on men is just one extra! You can also disguise their physical imperfections dressed up in a way that emphasized their strengths. . Why not work with it .

Chapter 10 OR AND MAKES THE EYES OF MEN JUMP The power of female sexual attraction Case Study: Kim and Daniel Kim and Daniel were already leaving a year and had decided to marry. In this chapter we will examine the ingredients that make men and women desirable and attractive to each other. where all were well stowed and makeup and flirting with him. There seemed more care with the look inside. The ancestral biological signs of gender that we explain the working of the subconscious level. Both loved the relationship and thought that the other was the ideal partner. Kim changed. Like it or not. This is a line of evolutionary psychology that says that in the brain of each of us. the physical appearance affects our ability to attract and keep a partner. in addition to raising their self-esteem. while at home was a tragedy. At home after work. Left to makeup. Four years after the marriage. Daniel thought that maybe she was going through a difficult period at work and once again take care. As men are visual creatures stimulated by the appearance of Kim was a discouragement. For the first time. This behavior he said he and his friends were not important. And found that the husband was much more frivolous than she imagined. do not shave and wore clothes that for Daniel. do not deserve any effort on her part. Daniel decided to confront the situation and told Kim how she felt. Six months later. In his office. therefore: beauty and physical attraction and personality or . no makeup and the hair drained. People who know are up to 90% of their opinion about us in the first four minutes and assess whether we are desirable in less than ten seconds. Kim now is related to a group of women who think men are all us idiots. Kim felt that now was as a married woman need not impress anyone and most especially if store was loss of time. did not understand why he could not love her the way she was. there are patterns of behavior constructed by the waste needs of our ancestors. Daniel could not explain his feelings and was blaming it for having touched on the subject. But began to irritate the fact that she is working to produce. contrasted with the appearance of Kim. which. But Kim soon began to neglect when left with friends. Daniel has been living with Kim and Jade. began to show cracks in the marriage and he started to notice other women. which is why we have to react to them. and when left with friends. That does not mean you can not succeed with the opposite sex because it is not equal to Cameron Diaz or Brad Pitt. She said they liked to wear for him and especially how he looked when she arrived. Kim left like her mother. who met at work. money and energy. It boiled inside. Daniel liked to see Kim always went out together when stowed and thought that her appearance was a clear signal that he had made the right choice. she always was in slippers and bathrobe. you can easily become more captivating. What is more powerful. She was angry. and Daniel was leaving to look for her to do sex. But understanding how the process of attracting and employing some simple strategies in your favor.

the University of Toronto found that attractive candidates received a number of votes in two and a half times larger than the non attractive. but like it or not. the evidence still saying that our brains are programmed to respond to the physical appearance of the other. This means that they decided their vote on a subconscious level. change things. . What the science says Polls (Eagly. the ideas about what is politically correct and personal subtleties. The biological purpose of beauty is attracting for breeding purposes. is an attractive man who is presented as biologically able to provide you with food and safety during the creation of children. In both sexes. This explains why many women tend to feel attracted by older men. Tell a person that she is beautiful or attractive is to say. The theory of beauty Every person emits signals. Attractive to people better jobs. the answers to these early signs of attraction are programmed in the brain. the subtext biological basics. Messages are encoded and sent to tell others whether we are or not suitable for their purposes. Subsequent research revealed that 73% of voters denied categorically that may have been influenced by the appearance of the candidate and only one in eight voters are willing to at least consider this. Bill CIinton is proof. that make it desirable to the potential partner. in turn. kindness and talent. Women like older men because they have more experience and more access to resources. you want to have sex with her. and Longo Makhija) show that we automatically assign positive traits such as honesty. the attraction occurs in the biological. the people of good appearance. The evolution shaped our brains so that the good appearance is a sign of healthy person and relatively free of diseases. intelligence. Perhaps it is politically correct deny the impact of attractiveness in our decisions. You can choose to become attractive. higher wages. Beauty and sexual attraction is essentially the same thing: the original meaning of the paplowing "beautiful" is "sexually stimulating". For a woman.intelligence? They will be examined in this chapter. tangible and intangible. when the woman displays the skills that allow you to pass their genes to the next generation. have more credibility and even more permission to break the rules than their less attractive correlative. Ashmore. without even know it. For men. without being aware of it. Analyzing the results of Canadian federal elections of 1976. And to be as objective as possible. The good news is that we have control over many of the determinants of our appearance and we can if we want. put aside the theories of romantic love.

however. almost all studies on the attraction reached the same conclusions that came painters. In the last sixty years.The woman's body . In the next two chapters you will know the results of 23 studies and experiments showing what men consider attractive in the body of the woman and vice versa. Sick sinus . The wife is chosen for his virtue. his face lightly colored and an air of delicacy and fragility. Today the look emphasizes youth and vigor: the competition of beauty were created exclusively to promote an image that reflects the attractiveness of women's health. Speaks to the things we pursue in attracting someone before you hear the person talk or even to know who is. poets and writers in the last six thousand years: the body and appearance of women have more attractive on men than their intelligence and capacities. a concubine for her beauty. as if assessing a potential partner through a photograph. researchers from Massachusetts General Hospital found that these images activate the same parts of the brain that cocaine and cash. We will examine it further. the criteria for male choice of a long term partner are not the same. Keep in mind that we are considering only the physical and geographical characteristics of the body.which encourages more men The "point" considered the most appropriate for the western woman in the nineteenth century was a pale complexion. Chinese Proverb What makes a man attractive to a woman. To display photographs of women "beautiful" to heterosexual men. classify each part of the body in a ranking of attractiveness and explain the reason for his influence. At the end of this chapter. even politically correct in the twentieth century. Based on these results. Sexy mouth 3. is something very different. The man of the twenty-first century or the same immediate things a woman as their ancestors. developed to attract the attention of man. Athletic silhouette 2. but as you see. It is understood that the body of women has evolved as a permanent sexual signaling system. we discuss the non-physical factors related to the choice of our partners. Factors that drive men in order of priority 1.

Most of the time the breasts of human females are the one clear purpose . Dresses sutiãs cleavages and raise the breasts emphasize the signal to create a groove that mimics the buttocks of women vis-tas behind. The nipples of women without children are pink.from eighteen to twenty-five years of age . Long hair 9. was 44 and had dummy and thick legs. were round and fleshy buttocks that played the leading role in the attraction of males. Since humans began walking upright. females that covered the back. Arched back 12. Eyes attractive 8. giving you a rounded form and has no relationship to milk production. Most of the breast consists of fat. Buttocks hemispheric 7.are the favorite of men. Few women know that Marilyn Monroe. Stimulant 3: Seios tired The breasts of women at the peak of their sexual and reproductive capacity . have to attract the male that approached the front.most men are passionately interested in them and are crazy for a groove. dark-brown. Others. All research shows that men like breasts of all types and sizes.4. because fat is an extra helping of breastfeeding successful. When people went to four. Long legs 5. Whether they are the size of watermelons appear limõezinhos or . .sexual signaling. use it to extend its advantage. one of the biggest sex symbols of the world. Stimulating 1: athletic silhouette the first item in the list of men is the women's athletic silhouette. Most men prefer a woman more fleshy than the lean. however. and the mothers. Lack of tummy 11. Small nose 10. Round hips / waist fine 6. Some women are horrified when they are submitted to the meaning of that groove. A strong and well formed body is a sign of health and ability to tip in-breed. to escape the danger and to defend the nest if necessary. Why men have difficulty maintaining eye contact? Because the breasts are not eyes. the breasts become larger. Are those that appear in the center pages of men's magazines and in ads that exploit the fri-appeal. Vulva arqueada 13. Elongated neck Men prefer to look the brain because most of them see better than thought.

a stairway to heaven. the arched back. The principle behind the legs of women as sexual sign is yes. compression of organs. Most women unconsciously understand the dynamics behind the legs extralongas and since teenagers. For a woman. Babies born with legs cur-ing for body size. by far.Stimulating 4: Long Legs The vision of a woman with legs that seem to end in the axillae in men leaves a lasting impression. reports. and this proportion does not change much in small children. The more legs you can see the man and the more long-gas they are the sexiest woman you think. wear high heels and short dresses to give the impression that they have longer legs. thus demonstrating their readiness for pregnancy and procreation. Never heard a man tell a woman she has beautiful long arms. because the attention is attracted to the area where the right leg and left it encountered tram. Legs extralongas become powerful non-verbal signs to tell the men that she is sexually maturing and is already able to procreate. In the nineteenth century. Studies have shown that the length of dresses and height of jumps varies with the menstrual cycle. Perhaps this is an important lesson for parents: lock their daughters the fourteenth to eighteenth day after the menstruation! Stimulating 5: Round Tables / Cintura fina For centuries women have used every kind of contraption to tighten the belt with the aim of obtaining a per-made for hourglass. came to suffer deformities of the chest wall. women unconsciously choose more revealing dresses and high heels. a step to stardom. When ovulado. abortions and surgical extraction of ribs. Men like women who wear high heels: they enhance the sexual profile of women stretching them to the legs. reducing their feet and pushing the pelvis forward. The form that was chosen to round. Later adopted the corset to accentuate the hips and flatten the belly. For men. Roseanne Stimulating 6: Buttocks hemispheric . That is why long legs have always been associated with a powerful sexuality. the article by fri-appeal more efficient market. In search of femininity irresistible. women increased the size of the hips and buttocks with pannier to flag potential getter. I decided to get in shape. the legs grow rapidly. pies. learn quickly how the thing works. Even in the cold days. breathing problems. But when the girl reaches puberty and the hormones begin to flow on his body and transforming her into women. The high heels are. tilt the buttocks.

which invariably attracted the attention of men. Sculptures and paintings of the Stone Age abound in images of women with large. brain and testicles. Ask any woman to assume a vertical posture and sexy you'll find is the preferred . to show accumulation of fat around the uterus and ovaries. Young people who wanted to capture the attention of men recreate the appearance of a large back-ro wearing pannier. Stimulating 10: Absence of belly Women have a more rounded belly as men. A woman with healthy and fully capable of giving birth has a waist-hip ratio of 70%. which can still be seen in some tribes of southern Africa. women with waist thinner were the favorite. The mother-nature usually deposit the excess fat away from vital organs. Men around the world. showing them to groups of men asked to classify them in terms of attractiveness. and no belly is a clear sign of non-pregnancyboth for and willingness to male suitors. High heels were with the woman hunch. the lower. Marilyn Monroe cut two centimeters of the left heel of his shoe to accentuate your grinder. usually accumulate as men. Throughout the story. therefore. went out of fashion in the second half of the twentieth century. the more attractive. associated with neglect and poor health. this pro-portion always showed a great ability to catch the attention of men. "the goddess of beautiful buttocks. Hindquarters protruding is an ancient sign of female sexuality so revered in Greece that a temple was built in honor of Aphrodite Calipígia. and lumbar spine more arched. They start to lose interest when the proportion exceeds 80% or is less than 70%. When the excessive fat. evolutionary psychologist at the University of Texas. The jeans also became popular because it accentuated the buttocks and give them a look round and firm. In the groups below and above the weight. Professor Devendra Singh. have not most of the reproductive organs. The additional bending of the buttocks and back tilt pushes the breasts forward. The most remarkable discovery was that experience that men have to share waist / hip 70% the highest score." In the nineteenth century. 'why there is no fat around the heart. a formation known as esteatopigia. like to women curvilinear. protruding rear. masculinity. led a test that used images of women beneath the weight above the weight and normal weight. deposits of fat around the belly.The men believe the buttocks round. The greater part than the back of the woman is closer to that of man. young women began to make plastics and liposuction to reduce the size of the buttocks. ie your waist measured 70% of your hip. geo-metric shapes and angles. a non-verbal indicator of low fertility. That is why the academies and salons of yoga around the world is full of women doing abdominal exercises to get the perfect stomach type "table of my house. women had to keep the whole body covered in public. Women who already have a hysterectomy." Stimulants 11 and 12: back arched and vulva Curves and arches indicate femininity and fertility. peach-shaped. The buttocks of women store large quantities of fat to use in feeding and food reserves in difficult times. wider. The women of normal weight with pro-hip-waist portion around 70% were the most attractive. so similar to the hump of the camel. Women whose ratio exceeds 100% arouse little interest. buttocks cram the quaver and the floor. even when the weight of women was very large.

ask any woman to be on foot and make a sexy pose. It is always the favorite color of every woman who poses for sexual symbol.position of the hook-up back and quaver of the hips. a reaction that sends powerful signals to men and that observers began to develop when we began to walk upright. The women's favorite features are the small faces with short jaws. thick and strong to protect them from breaks during the hunts and battles. For women. with both arms supported them to occupy more space and increase the chance to draw attention.red. The woman's face is a screen on which a daily basis it paints a picture of me before her. All races prefer faces that emerged ability to play healthy. Men like their women to wear lipstick and makeup by artificially give the signal that they are interested or feel excited for them. As the face attracts Our interest in human faces attractive is something that seems to be part of our psychology and does not depend on cultural backgrounds. If you do not believe. Flesh lips and big eyes on the size of the face. For thousands of years. Stimulating 13: Neck elongated the neck structures evolved in males as short. delicate jaws. The lipstick. These signals cause reactions in parental brains of men and a powerful desire to touch. protruding apples. the formula is clear . This is known as "eco genital". because they have the same size and thickness. was used by Egyptians as an eco genital permanent. That made the neck longer and thin women a powerful sign of differentiation between the sexes that men like to kiss and see adorned in jewels and cartoonists exaggerate to emphasize the femininity. PICASSO The excitement of women's sexuality can cause a flushing in the capillarity of its sides. Exciting 2: Boca sensual Humans are the only press that these are the lips on the outside of the mouth. The base gives the skin a uniform appearance and no stains that signals youth. The blush is to recreate that effect. is also expanding and is filled with blood. And to the face of a woman is generally classified as "beautiful". And always had a single color . embrace and protect. The bright red lipstick is one of the main signs that a sexual woman can use. and state of sexual arousal. the size of the ear it was the indicator of sensuality. invented the first beauty salon in six thousand years ago. Look at how many these days use plastic surgery to try to conserve or restore the youthful look. that bond still . Above all.children should have a touch. men like a grin and an air vulnerable. The zoologists believe that the woman's lips moved as mirror of his genitals. this often cause great anxiety with regard to aging. good health and good genes.

Over you-do. the industry of perfumery and cosmetics reached a total value of more than 50 trillion dollars a year . creating characters of large eyes and small nose to win the hearts of your audience. Since then. but it is important that women understand the effects that these signs have in exploiting the men and romantic meetings. giving them that look childish. Stimulating 8: long hair If the person never cut his hair. Similarly. Stimulating 7: Eyes attractive In almost all countries. we have become so unaccustomed to see faces clean. Bambi. and the blondes are the genuine public also laurels. Blond-haired women have a higher level of estrogen that cute. Will never see a female model with a large nose. The plastic surgeons usually modify the nostrils to form an angle of 35-40 degrees to the face. Women began to use modern cosmetic when. eye liner and shadow to artificially create the impression that she is interested. Today. The blondes have 140 thousand yarn hair. Stimulating 9: Nose Small Small nose is another reminiscence of childhood in men that produces feelings of security. a woman who wants to be taken seriously in the workplace should use less eye makeup and lipsticks colors more subtle.all with the purpose of creating the illusion of sexual facial signs. most men give their sensuality. something that only men seem to understand. the cute 110 thousand and 90 thousand redheads. even the actors are doing operations for the reduction of nose in line with the new image of the androgynous man of twenty-first century.214 British men. he would reach about one meter long. The cartoonists exploit this feature to a large extent. Our tests with computer images show that the longer the earrings of women. which explains why men find "strangely attractive" women who wear contact lenses. among the tribes Kelabit and Kenyah. the men show a preference for women of color and clear eyes. When a woman finds a man attractive. The feminists might say that these are good reasons not to use cosmetics or earrings. Contact lenses give the illusion that the woman's eyes are shining and the dilated pupils. The makeup enhances your eyes and look the child rearing.is this the real reason for the greater success of blondes? The blond hair is also a powerful visual indicator of women's youth: it darkens after she gives birth. large eyes are considered attractive. The modern woman gets the same effect using long pending. in 1920. Unfortunately. They interpret as a sign of fertility. We did a survey with 5. asking them what kind of hair seemed more . Eyes that look great on the lower face in men inspire feelings of security. The blondes are also in front of other things. The men feel more attracted to women who use natural rnaquiagem than by women who seem to have been molded to reap the bricklayer. as some women believe to be ugly without makeup and use it as a mask to hide and not as an aid to make their faces more seductive and mysterious. which immediately attracts the . Excesses may send a wrong impression to customers and cause of male rivalry in female clients. Barbie and Minnie Mouse have small nose.exists in parts of Africa and in Borneo. if their pupils dilate and mascara. joined in greater numbers in the workforce.

it allows women to overcome further demonstrate the success. The lessons to be learned here is clear: the woman must use when long hair and want to attract men hair short or pulled back in working meetings. The impact of women's clothing on men The discussion of the effects of women's appearance requires some understanding of the history of clothing. Styles as punk and grunge came as opposition to the use of clothing to attract men and to show the world that men and women could be equal in regard to appearance. The men of past generations would also like to feast your eyes with erotic images of women. The link between attraction and pornography See pornography is an activity almost entirely male.the inner beauty now had more than the appearance. He is attracted by the shapes and curves and the virtual suggestion that she is able to transmit their genes. The costume gives it a professional position of equality with men and women of business and. play piano or fight for world peace. This code antiatração of clothing has evolved to the point that in 1990. never knows if she does cook. painted or drew pictures of naked women were almost all men. who rarely attend the fashion show. In the case of the Miss Universe. The key to a successful clothing business is simple. The modern woman has two basic codes of dress: clothes and work clothes of non-work. In business. In remote times. the importance and attractiveness of what the dresses. Until the beginning of the feminist movement in the 1960s. Considered that the long hair gave the woman a sensual delight and the short hair indicated a more serious approach to life. a sexy appearance may be disadvantageous for women in a position of power or in a branch where men predominate. use the black lipstick and nail until the display dark olheiras as if they were doped. This appearance has little success with the heterosexual men. but through paintings. It never occurs if it has a nice personality. How does the person you want to influence you waiting for? How should your makeup. long hair and bright and showed a healthy body well nourished and have a history of health of its carrier and its potential for procreation. women wore it for the reason of all: to attract men and other women overcome. The artists who carved. They believed then that could be free of oppressive obligation of having to always be beautiful for men. The feminism that said women dress to attract men is not more important . the other has no choice. Ninety-nine percent of pornographic sites on the Internet are addressed to men. emaciated-looking. secondly. however. when you see a pornographic image of a woman.sexually attractive women. her hair and clothing to ensure an image of credibility. her jewelry. A man. The result was predictable: 74% think the long hair of women more sexually attractive. an idea that attracted millions of women everywhere. the models begin to have no female bodies. For centuries. Women must understand that the men crawl the Internet in search of shapes and curves that appeal to your brain. and the vast majority of images of naked men to be homosexuals. power. over 70% of the audience are formed by men who want to see women showing signs able to stimulate the reactions of their ancestral brain. the clothes of women emphasized their physical skills in order to attract the attention of potential suitors. reliability and integrity in business? If you are a branch . 12% of women prefer short hair.

in it is necessary to men sell their expertise and management, most signs of attraction that we discussed are inappropriate. However, if your business is selling the very picture female - cosmetics or clothes for example - many of the signs we discuss can be used successfully. If you have marks or scars, a birth defect or a feature that really does not like, is perhaps the case to a plastic surgery. Most people who have expressed satisfaction with the outcome. In a typical week, the average person is exposed to more than five hundred images of human beings "perfect" in magazines, newspapers, billboards and television. Most of these images is the product of technology, such as airbrush, highlight of makeup, computer graphics and effects of light. They rarely show the real person. Do not compare with the images of women's magazines. They only make you feel ugly. Plastic Surgery Today, an increasing number of people are opting for plastic correction (correction sounds better than surgery) to improve the appearance. In the United States alone, more than a million people are treated under the knife every year the main reason that people choose this path is to improve self-image and self-confidence, increasing capacity to deliver the signals discussed here. The celebrities are the most common patients. The fix plastic is not new. Centuries before the liposuction and breast implants, had padded mesh for men with calves too thin, iron corsets for women and pudgy pannier for them to increase the buttocks and hips. King Henry VIII wore a padded zipper to increase their virility and small Syphilitic and compete with the French royal. The it was decorated with jewels and emblems. But it is important to understand that plastic surgery does not make you a better person or more beloved, nor solve the problems of life. The only person who thinks you look for is probably a problem with their self-image. It is not the type of person with whom you should want to connect. The other side of attraction Why Men Have Sex and Women They Love? records the results of a survey of fifteen thousand men and women about what they seek in a partner. The relationship is: What men look for in a partner A. At first sight: 1. Good appearance. 2. Well-turned body.

3. Breasts. 4. Buttocks. B. In the long term: 1. Personality. 2. Good appearance. 3. Intellectual capacity. 4. Mood. The A shows what we already know - men are visually stimulated beings who enjoy looking at attractive women. Most women understand the science and research has proven many times, but not "politically correct" recognize it. The feminists in general abhors the idea of a woman be judged by their physical appearance and classified the men of superficial and frivolous. But that does not change the fact that the first reaction of these women is overwhelmingly visual. A list of the items are visual, so you must remember that it is making its debut presentation of. But this is not the case with the B list: a "good appearance" is the only visual item that men seeking a partner for the long term. As the visual signs are so important to man, he unconsciously USA the appearance of women as a measure of respect and love she has for him. He thinks that if she spends time with the appearance, it is because they feel attracted. One of the major complaints of men in actions of divorce is that the wives after the marriage, left the appearance disposed down the drain. They say they used the appearance to attract them and then thought it was no longer necessary. Most men are disappointed with the only woman who dresses for work colleagues. Women, however, have difficulty to understand them here, for not bind with the same intensity to their love appearance. For a woman, have sense of humor does not mean tell jokes. I mean laugh of his jokes. Solution It is inevitable: their appearance influences the response to treatment and the other given. Also influences their self-image and behavior. Most components of their appearance depends to a greater or lesser degree, of their actions. There are courses of clothing and etiquette to learn to walk, sit, talk, dress, makeup on and so on. The bookshops are full of publications on the subject. Department stores often offer free makeup they teach the customers to choose and apply cosmetics. A good hairdresser can you recommend the best way to get the hair, the beautician, from skin care, and dentists, to fix their teeth. The weight is also subject to control, because a competent nutritionist teaches you good eating habits and exercises in a gym will give you the way you want. If you absolutely must, have to make a new nose, increase the breasts, remove the signs of aging. In the XXI century there are few legitimate reasons for you not get the look you want.

The sexual attraction is 50% what you have and 50% what people think you have. Zsa Zsa Gabor This research shows two things. First, men focus on visual images in his first encounter with a woman, and overall appearance is more important than the body beautiful. This means that the way a woman dresses, the makeup and style are worth more points than quilinhos the most, some small bones and sinuses. Secondly, the long-term man is more interested in personality, intelligence and sense of humor of the woman, but a "good appearance" is still high on their list price. The good news is that you have a broad control over most of their appearance and can change things to fit.

"You will still love me when I become old and white hair?", She asked. "I not only I love her ', he replied," I like to write. We are not suggesting that women should have the obsession with appearance as often occurs, but it is important that it strives to have the best appearance possible. There is no ugly woman, woman is lazy. HELENA RUBINSTEIN Above all, you can become more attractive is developing intellectually and emotionally. There are women who, although they are not physically beautiful, become so interesting for its human quality, his gift for communication and intelligence, leaving behind many of the sex goddesses. Men may rave bold with breasts and women with biceps of steel, but the polls show that in the end, the related-ments have more to do with spirit than with the matter. The key ingredient is the flame inside that comes from self - sexual, emotional and professional. In other words, make it an interesting person and they will not realize their physical imperfections. Abstract It is fact that the woman's appearance can attract or repel the man in the relationship. Many women are angry with this. You think this is an unjust man in gray and wrinkle-be distinct and mature, and the woman in the same situation, just an old. But this is the case. No additional tapir is bored with it and look if the complaining that you can not change. So the men - and women - think. Do not fight it. Manage its consequences. If you are dissatisfied with some aspect of their appearance, change. You have the resources to do so. And if not to attract a man, do it by yourself.

You think the man should be: a. Take the test 1. Rectangular. Freedom of compromise . Lean or without ass. c. c. c. You asked women to describe their mouths.Chapter 11 THE TEST OF MALE SEX APPEAL How is your concept to women in terms of attractiveness? They feel the irresistible . After doing the test. b. their proportion is 85. but I prefer to work part time. Your income is: a. In the next chapter you will learn all the secrets about what women seek to be a real man. 3 . Gentle / kind. You go to the TV show "Meeting the dark" and a candidate asks you to describe your body type.or are you indifferent? You are attractive or repulsive? Take the test now to see your score with women. For example. c. Reasonable for my age and experience. Below average. . Their ratio is: a. divide it by the hip measurement and then multiply by 100. Redondo. 2. The test records the points you receive . What do they respond? a. c. 100% or more.the open relationship is the way of the future. In the form of "V". Less than 85%. 5. c. 85-95%. b. ask their friends to take notes for your answers and compare the result. Take the measure of your chest. b. Heavy load. they say: a. Compromised. Significantly above average. but think occasional flirtations contributing to the ongoing relationship. What is your response? a.If you ask women to describe their ass. 4. Small and compact.8%. Happy. 6. b. b. b. 100% monogamist. Neutral or down.in physical and non-physical every time a woman knows. if your chest measures 91 cm and 106 cm their hip.

Muscle / angles. You will know immediately. for example). which will feel? a. c. Can be the joy of the party. b. As a woman describe your eyes? a. 15. c. seem appropriate to my face. Social pants and shirt. Solid nose. As you have hair? a. c. b. A well defined abdomen. Relevant. b. sad or anxious: a. 9. 13. Average. How is your sense of humor? a. Small nose and chin.Size is paper? You think for women the size of the penis is: a. You have been invited to a party and heard that there are many women that you are to impress. Not important. . Very important. b. 8. c. a. 14. Plump. I am a goner. His thighs are: a. 10. A barrel. b. b. You probably notice. c. 11 . b. if a little talk with her. b. c. Distant / cold. b. Long / thin. c. Fun / malicious. 12. Almost the whole. Describe your chin and your nose. Kind / gentle. shoe leather. Look in the mirror. How to dress? a. You probably will not notice. Bald head or scraped.7. A smooth surface. Jogging and tennis. c. If a woman passes his hand over her belly. c. I need to improve on that. protruding jaw. If a woman is distressed. Shirt and jeans with tennis shoes. More or less half (large entries.

I understood in my area. need not improve much. Reasonable coverage. Your Score Question Point to Point B Point C 1753 The 2 9 1 3375 4354 5315 6194 7145 8351 9531 10 3 5 9 11 3 7 5 12 1 5 4 13 5 3 1 14 5 1 3 15 1 9 7 16 3 4 5 17 9 7 3 Now total the points and see the ranking of their sexuality 90 points or more: A Gatão Wow! You can consider a magnet for women. Send them the right signs and how to enhance their skills to attract them. you have a base that needs to be quite worked. No woman wants to compete with its partner the mirror. I know a lot about people. Being with his face and shaved. Do you ever: a. b. What is the extent of their conversation? a. Be beard of three days.16. You have a reasonable ability to use their skills to attract women-the women. They do not want selfish men. b. 17. which for most women is a discouraging factor. Just take a look at the questions that not many points scored and read the tips of the next chapter. because they may find that you are superficial and obsessed with itself. E is close to 47 points. c. But careful not to make their appearance too perfect. If you are close to 89 points. The next chapter will show you how. places and things. 46 points or less: A cat pooch Seu Placar Questão Pontos A Pontos B Pontos C 1 7 5 3 2 9 1 O 3 3 7 5 4 3 5 4 5 3 1 5 6 1 9 4 7 1 4 5 8 3 5 1 9 5 3 1 10 3 5 9 11 3 7 5 12 1 5 4 13 5 3 1 14 5 1 3 15 1 9 7 16 3 4 5 17 9 7 3 . c. Use beard. 47 to 89 points: A cat Most men belong to this category.

If you want to become attractive to women. Think about how women will see the fun of your life looking for you in a different way! .You might ask why women are fleeing from you. you can learn most of these things. they are sensitive to their needs and have ambition and talent to move up in life. that are laughing. Fortunately. will need help! Women like men who have personality. the friends are more important than women. For you. and console is saying that man prefers women beer is BOIOLI.

Judging is attractive only by the appearance (which is what we are doing here). but was looking good genes elsewhere. In Pennsylvania. able to obtain food and protect the family. Wuensch and Moore. They look for faces . the symmetry plays a significant role in female choice. are symmetrical or not. What the science says Polls conducted in the United States show that attractive people earn 12-14% more than their fellow non-attractive (and Hammermesh Biddle).symmetrical.Chapter 12 WHAT TO ATTRACT WOMEN The first thing you will notice in this chapter on sexual attraction to men about women is that it is half the size of the chapter that deals with female stimuli on men. Since the beginning of time. DNA tests show that 10% of babies born in marriages are not children of the partner. women tend to choose men who invest in the relationship and the creation of children. resulted in minor penalties and fines lower (Castelloe. It seems that the wife chosen by their ability to from the pain. An es-all done in Scotland found that the type of male faces more attractive for women varies according to the phases of the menstrual cycle. 1991 and Downs and Lyons. the male sex appeal is more basic and direct. women are more prone to choose a man hard and for a symmetrical relationship of short-term. This is totally different from how men see women. Hardness means that the partner is taken. therefore. The concern here is that attractive people receive more favorable treatment in court.such symmetries as indicators of youth and health. the attraction for women firm and symmetrical men may vary with the menstrual cycle. In Britain. One way of identifying these characteristics is the symmetry of the human body: the left side of his body should mirror the right hand. however. but the woman in the XXI century and more than their ancestors: a man who wants also to meet their emotional needs. in search of two basic requirements: hardness and softness. As partners in the long term. sending messages to men about women's ability to be a carrier healthy and successful in their genes. she feels attracted to men with characteristics Manly and harsh. with members of the same size. If you ovulado. just as the symmetrical flowers are more attractive to bees because they have more nectar. But both sexes see . The symmetry of the human body is more important for women than facial symmetry why the champions of boxing often attract beautiful women Among humans.even unconsciously . The female sex appeal is a complex and sophisticated. must have virtues that provide the best possible genetic he-rity for their children. bringing them the chance of survival. Your brain has. 1990). and the symmetrical animals tend to live more than non-symmetrical. When the probability of conception is highest (more or less in half of the menstrual cycle). which started before their . as I said. This is because. the female body has evolved as a signaling device sexual. Very little has changed in that respect. women are attracted by strong men and healthy.and no bodies . a study of the attractiveness of 74 men accused.

Narrow hips and muscular legs. just to make it a conscious decision. Nose and strong chin.051 (Kulfa and Kessler. To appear wider in the shoulders and occupy more space. 6. extending in the hips. 5. The male breast is enlarged to house large lungs. but looking on the bright side. the results would be significantly different. where large breasts and biceps topping are of little practical use. in order of priority. A study of the damages awarded in negligence cases found that. providing a better distribution of oxygen and allow them to breathe more efficiently by running or hunt. Stimulating 1: Body athletic Topping the list of female attractive male body is athletic-looking. Exciting 2: Chest and shoulders and long muscular arms The upper body of the male hunter is large. Beard of three days. showed that attractive defendants received sentences not only lighter. Where she has curves and softness. these signals also stimulate the brain of the woman when she evaluates potential partners. This may seem dispirited. when he had better look to the victim.623.trials. in the form of "V". because it is the opposite: it has the shape of an inverted V. they put their hands on hips. 1978). the man has angles and strength and it is this difference which is so attractive. This explains why the biggest cheats people are almost always attractive. The evidence shows that. The main factors stimulating women 1. Chest and broad shoulders and muscular arms. Even in our age of supposed gender equality. but had two times more likely to escape the prison of the defendants non-attractive. 8. 10. Large penis. while the body of the woman is more narrow in the shoulders. Broad shoulders are a male character. Athletic body. 7. The sexual responses of women are caused by certain visual aspects of the male body. 2. the average compensation was $ 5. Lack of tummy. The bigger the breast. But when the victim was more attractive to the accused. close to the height of the hip. 9. When modern man reaches his goal. Small and firm ass. often copied by women in search of affirmation. The V in also attracting a woman. 3. 11. since no one has the possibility to improve their appearance. the average compensation was $ 10. 4. There is another reason that the shoulder strap give status to men. becoming more attractive to other people. Women who use the professional environment Epaulettes are seen as more positive. Hair tired. A strong and athletic body is a sign of good health. which indicates the potential of man to get food and defeat his enemies. The men developed such characteristics to carry heavy weapons and take their prey home. if members of the courts had the power not blindfolded to see the accused. his chest still "full of pride. more respect and be a man requires. Here they are. Kind eyes." and the . Sensual mouth.

In the Middle Ages was thought that the hair had magical powers. to stimulate.boys still associate the upper torso and the masculinity formed. So that we could stay upright and walk on two feet. which contain a musky pheromone that stimulates the brain of women sexually. but few are women who understand the reason of his magnetism. In other words. Men with small and firm buttocks indicate a greater chance of working more efficiently. hair on his head has always been considered a distinctive male brute force. and many men and women to consider a sexual stimulant. tending to throw the whole weight of the body of the woman. Women are certainly attracted by a male torso well defined. The male baldness is inherited and its cause is the overproduction of male hormones. but most do not like the genre "muscle-man" because you think that kind of man is probably more interested in their beauty than in her. About 50% of women give high importance to the fact that humans have an abundant mane. Why then the women are interested both in the ass man? Why do you feel desire to move your hand? Why look like photos of a man with beautiful butt? Small and firm buttocks are the favorite of women worldwide. A look athletic. it really is encouraging to have an erection. Stimulating 4: Hair tired Throughout history. so that the attraction has on women. The hairy armpits were always a feature heavily male. when a woman knocks on the buttocks of the man. the gluteal muscles of the thigh had a tremendous expansion. In the case of monks. because the weight of the man can cause him discomfort and hamper their breathing. many of which find attractive calves head or scraped. and discourages the kind Arnold Schwarzenegger. and therefore more ability to the role of provider. which give the best shot and shot. shave the head was seen as a sign of humility before God. A head full of hair always represented the strength and power of man. The ass has always been the object of jokes. The men have forearms longer than women. Men with flaccid buttocks fat or have difficulties with these movements. The armpit hair retains the smell of the sweat glands segregated. The redness of the buttocks is similar to the state of women's sexual arousal and stimulation of nerve endings on the buttocks is transmitted to the genitals. Beat naked buttocks is a practice that attracts long sadistic and masochistic. For a woman it is not ideal. why cut it fuses in camafeus to save and use in religious ceremonies. a part of the body usually treated with humor and disdain. Small and firm buttocks indicate greater chance of conception. which however is a low priority for others. healthy. The secret lies in the fact that firm and muscular buttocks provide vigorous forward movement during the sexual act. Stimulant 3: Bunda and small firm The male monkeys do not have protruding buttocks and hemispheric-only humans have. . Samson lost his strength when he had his hair cut. The same happens with the breast and pubic hair.

the only safe way to prevent baldness is castration before puberty. one is bald. What was discovered. "sensitive". many women feel encouraged by it and even like to kiss or fondle the man's shiny dome. A head Calva is therefore a powerful showcase of testosterone. disabling certain papillae capillaries. which makes the baldness a sign of exaggerated masculinity. We have experience using computer-altered images of male head with varying degrees of baldness. and is not popular among women. Due to higher levels of hormone. it is a sex machine. The only thing that the nose has in common with the penis is the way he stresses on the front of the body. we found that only men have the bald jokes. however. women rarely do. Push the chin forward is considered a gesture of defiance. the same way as the penis. which show the volunteers asked to say that the impression caused on the desktop. During the search we did for our book Rude and Politically Incorrect jokes (Jokes rude and politically in-correct). Many men suffer from baldness. Since the times of Rome. The down chin is associated with fear and perplexity. Here is an additional . The masculinity transmitted by a head Calva accentuates the difference between the sexes and is therefore a stimulus for many women. which is not recommended. Stimulating 7: strong nose and chin the nose." "succulent" and "erotic." But words are not used in the literal sense to describe the physical observed. and so remain today as powerful symbols of masculinity. is that the nose of man. Rather than see her as a weakness and something to joke. "protectors" and "loving. real or potential." "sexy. This is due in part to the solidarity of women with the discomfort that baldness brings men and partly to the fact that baldness is a sign of masculinity.They irrigate the hormone system. men Calvos are generally more aggressive and more sexually excited than their fellow non-Calvo. however. generally located at the top of the head. the size of the nose of the man is associated with the size of the penis. The tired men with hair on the other hand. that myth is not supported by research. Stimulants 5 and 6: Boca sensual and gentle eyes To describe the lips and eyes of women. is filled with blood in the state of sexual arousal and its temperature has increased by about six degrees. and feel frustrated because they can not do nothing about . Found that the more bald man. The women use to refer to their perception of the attitude of man." Women." "delicious. But they must take into account that compensation for baldness is the enhancing of its aura of masculinity and power. For others. For some. the chin and face strong was formed to protect the man on the face of blows during the fight and hunt. using words like "tender". "attentive". were seen as less powerful and less well-paid. Men with high testosterone are more and more protruding jaws." "inviting. to describe the mouth and eyes of men. the greater the impression of power and success that it transmits and the lower the resistance potential of people to their authority. men tend to use words like "wet.

obtaining information about their attitude.proof of the difference between the sexes: men see the characteristics in themselves. while women look beyond. In modern society. Despite the members that can be digitally magnified view web sites in the penis longer officially registered media 36 cm. in search of excitement. eventually inviting her to go to their apartment. a large belly was a symbol of status. man is the one who has the biggest penis. But how could not postpone forever. but they are sometimes taken to mean that the ex-partners have small penis as a form of revenge. The erect penis measures 14 cm on average and the vaginal canal of most women is 9 cm long. because the seekers are the bodily signs of other animals over long distances. because the shorter penis may reach the right place with more precision. men who have a ratio waist / hip of 90% are more attractive. because she was sure that his penis was too small. but that power is more head than in the sexual organ. and the foot size of the penis. Stimulating 8: Hip close and muscular legs The powerful legs and angles of the human male are the longest among all primates. The wide hips mean that many women have difficulty in running. . Stimulating 9: Lack of tummy In remote times. The great North American neuropsychology Davendra Dr. The legs of the man is attractive to women only as symbols of power and resistance men. Singh found that for women. because it showed that its bearer had resources to eat as I wanted. a prominent gut is seen as a sign of neglect and little regard for the health personnel. The narrow hips allow men walk long distances quickly in hunting and persecution. Well-defined abdominal muscles have never been the object of special admiration in male anatomy. because the ankles and feet out from the side to balance the weight of the body. The white of the eye is an auxiliary communication face to face. The euphoria of some women to see men of large penises seems more a reaction to the male's apparent that what the size of the body can actually accomplish. which allows the person to track the direction of gaze of another. This view was constructed by fitness centers and equipment manufacturers. For thousands of years. The truth is that a man with an erection of 8 cm is able to do better service than a man with a 18 cm. In a happy relationship. Most animals have little or no white in the eye. when food was scarce. In the separations painful. a woman rarely takes into account the size of the penis. where food is abundant. the size of the penis was attached to the power of man and his skill as a lover. the women have more white than those of men because the female brain is configured as a communication tool next. nose. Stimulating 10: Penis large Among all primates. The boy was terrified the first time that would have sex with his girlfriend. trying to convince us at all costs that can not live without an athletic abdomen. and there is no relationship between the size of the body. As the eyes. with the bulk of its sensitivity in the first 5 cm.

But the man who returns to noon a shadow of five in the afternoon gave the impression that he is crazy for action. Intellectual capacity. Consequently. the beard of three days is a powerful visual sign of masculinity often used by men to compensate for your face kid. "No. which is why the sick man is not stressed or need to shave so often. Personality. only have a list. the faster they grow. Stimulating 11: Barba for three days Man is the only primate that have significantly longer hair on the face than in the rest of the body. 5. but in general this is not a priority. The majority of women agree. humorous. began Despi her and stroking her. The male pornographic magazines show women with their legs fully opened. it does not take a look as an indicator of the feeling he has for her. If the man is wearing badly or starts getting paunchy. wishing she did not notice the size. standing or lying in front and back. even if the woman does not like." I do not smoke. but strong. 2. 4. 3. The woman must understand that their appearance is important to humans and can even seriously affect the relationship. Women. Healthy body. contrary to what occurs with men. that Tom Cruise is much more sexy than with beard shaved. The higher the level of testosterone of men in a day. Sensitivity. . Men need to learn that the woman measures the depth of the relationship by the attitude they have with it. Mood. The men have two lists: the first sight and of seeking a long term partner. What women want the long term Here is the result of research on what women expect to find a man. rarely gives greater importance. he lowered the light and began to strip. " The change is not programmed women to sexually excite the vision of the male genitals.Arriving there. The hair of monkeys and chimpanzees have the same length throughout the body. Stress and illness diminish the level of testosterone. Are the male hormones that cause the growth of hair of the face. for example. however. robust and masculine. This fundamental difference between men and women involved much frustration and misunderstandings on both sides. loyal and understanding. The woman wants a man who is loving. Then. she sees him as a bonus. If the man has a beautiful body. Unlike humans. while all attempts to sell women pornographic images of men failed. What women look for in a man: 1. Are only successful with the gay audience. Nervous. intelligent. caring and communicative. They want men to be attentive. thanks'. he finally put the erect member in her hand. carefully. she said.

Do not complain . The woman begins and ends the selection of the partner with the same list of criteria. he believes. registration is a school of dance as soon as possible. But for the selection of a permanent partner. Are extra. Then. You need to listen with interest and empathy that women have to say. The dance has always been a preliminary demonstration of erotic female. Change the cutting of hair at least once every three years and look for wear clothes that promote their appearance. because he already has boyfriend. seek a better job. Solution To make a man attractive. Enter for a course that allows you to expand your knowledge. If man is able to make her laugh. Buy books that speak on how women think and feel. And finally Book to a gym and get in shape. he USA a number of different criteria. Do it for yourself and see how it will look more attractive to women. Even the women self-sufficient and financially independent feel attracted by men who have as good protectors and from the pain. you will never miss program. it is sensitive to your needs. The man need not be a millionaire.just do it! . by Barbara de Angelis. there is no school that teaches it. This will allow you to talk to women about a variety of subjects. this is pure practice. which brings you more satisfaction and you better realize their potential. but have plans and goals and be committed to them. We recommend our Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? and What Women Want Men to Know.except excuses. you need first of all work their techniques of communication and relationship. Women are attracted out by men who show be going to the front in search of a better position in life. you know talk about many issues. Polls and surveys have shown how important it is to man the physical attractiveness of women. has plans to progress continuously and is still on top is straight. if necessary. There is some reason why man has not or does not do the things you want in life . but their physical form and appearance are crucial to his work and social position. therefore.The problem is that it can not have it. in its first meeting in less than ten seconds. The woman who likes her man is attractive.

Who had not achieved financial independence. Before 1940. the rate fell from 9: 1 to 4: 1 since 1952. continued working until death or were sustained by children.51 years and for men. The number of people living. Graham Graham thought retire and go live on the beach as would enjoy permanent vacation. only a small portion of the population lived beyond the age of 65. a problem compounded by the fact that the Japanese live today more than all the peoples of the world. But little by little. second. or live in poverty. Would spend the days in an idyllic paradise . the number of people about to retire grows at a speed amazing.taking sun. not only a larger portion of the population is enough to retire. for example. The shelves of bookstores. Financial institutions operate in heavy selling of private pension funds. But there are two problems which do not give due attention: first. eating out. is so full of titles about financial independence and retirement plans-ment. Thanks to advances in medicine. In the United States. how to live long after they retire. Many countries have adopted compulsory contributions to the system of national pensions. Within each person there is an elderly couple thinking: "What the hell happened?" Developed countries are now obliged to devote an increasing share of their budgets to maintain and care for its population of elderly. more than a billion people have at least 60 years of age. but the problem is the relationship between the number of contributors and the pensioners. And in the first few months was exactly what he did.Chapter 13 OUANDO the hunter Hang The ARC The retirement In developed countries. Graham came to understand a. In 2010. Japan will have less than two people working for every retiree. the average life expectancy worldwide has increased by more than 50% . the effects of retirement on relationships and how to deal with women partners. Between the 1940s and 2020.from 46 to 72 years. have at least 10 years after they retire doubled in the last 60 years. the psychological effects of retirement on men and. In the year 2020. 76. the melancholy of retirement began to weigh. difference . swimming. sleeping late and relaxing.25. Governments around the world face this problem continuously. The life expectancy of Japanese women born in 1993 is 82.

Graham began to fatten. Felt lack of professional involvement with people and the daily mental stimulation that he provided. it was assumed that the psychological problems associated with retirement were the same for both sexes. Now. as we said. When the hunter stops hunting During at least one hundred thousand years men agreed in the morning and went out looking for food for their families.find a target and hit it edible. The relationship began to suffer from pressure. the evolution . Therefore. Now had to take care of Graham every minute of your day. had less desire to do. Lost prestige. was horrified irritation. For some time he remained in contact with colleagues at work. for the first time. Little was. but not talked to anyone about it. but the calls were rareando. he had the feeling of having nothing to do. Important . When I worked. Before he was Dr. With a sedentary lifestyle. more and more attention. For over 40 years he wakes every day knowing exactly what had to do. but nobody knew him or wanted his opinion for anything. Suffering acutely this abrupt loss of identity. At work he was known and respected. As for most men. Much has been researched and written about the problems faced by retired men. But due to their mental structures and specific priorities.now was the Invisible Man. Tired to take sun. Now. embedded in an intense training schedule. Every time you hear your name yelled at her husband. Graham began to ask for Ruth. The call that he expected the company to continue providing its essential services such as special advisor never came. Graham suspected that their health was suffering. to attend many meetings. Suddenly he was aware that jumping from a train at work to express a tram pulled the donkey on the beach. train new employees and solve the problems of the world. For many men it is an unavoidable disaster and may even contribute to premature death. to get on her and tie her life. His favorite refrain was: "What is for lunch?" Before retirement. was a kind of stress stimulating. One day. his wife. And started to worry about the problem of how to fill all this free time.between taking a few vacation days. work outside the focus of the life of Graham. nadava little and rarely was concerned with something in the garden. On the beach. Graham suffered a heart attack Fulminans. Gender and retirement The way men and women deal with the approach of retirement and old age casts light on the difference between their mental structures. but little research is done on women retired and not working because they have the task of caring for a pensioner. As women constitute 40 to 50% of the modern workforce. Instead of juggling with two or three problems to gain time. The male contribution to the survival of the species was clear and simple . eighteen months after the dream retirement. Occupied an important position. the experience of retirement is remarkably different in the two cases. Ruth was free to do what he wanted. he cooked the issues now to fill the time. the stress was of another quality and was mixed with depression. and enjoy them for the rest of life.

The female brain evolved. programming. 2000. To deal with the frustration of no longer be prompted to chase and hit targets. made from brain examinations of 50 men and 50 women. that most men. the two men embraced replacement . Plus. women evolved as a defender of the nest and the offspring .their role was to ensure the survival of the next generation. show (in black) areas of the brain active space. Also.of male preference brain areas enabling it to perform this task with success: those used to measure speeds. is obsessed by work and the small sports. the . therefore. The areas of the brain used for hunting Institute of Psychiatry. The images below. He is all dressed and has no where to go. read maps. 90% of all modern sports with ball rise up between 1800 and 1900 as a substitute for the hunt. Consequently. We therefore repeat. angles. The modern sports are a way to replace the hunt. So the century desferiu men on an even greater blow: the retirement. These are the areas used by modern man to work as park running aft. yet clearly set is literally idle. This helps explain why the image of the female brain shows a minimum level of activity in the space. And here lies the great problem of modern man retired: your brain of a hunter. video equipment. ride on motorways. London.track. and aim to achieve the target. as we have seen. they not only stopped be required to reach moving targets. the advancement of agricultural techniques has meant that hunting for food is no longer be a priority. . pursue. Both involve the main aspects of the game. unlike women. In simple terms. such as no longer required for anything. Female Male The ancient hunter was compulsorily retired At the end of the eighteenth century. playing sports with ball and reach moving targets. is the huntress of the brain. with areas of strength capable of dealing with these tasks . With it. distances and spatial co-ordinates. sitting on a beach far away where nobody knows or gives a minimum.achieve a zebra color-surrender to 30 meters away was never part of their responsibilities.work and sport.

And although they were already married for 25 years. Now. But remember. Then came for a course in Italian. Also. They can spend the extra time doing the things that have always been challenges to take or which never had time to work. seemed all the time in a bad mood. once you finally retired. "You know. want to help you. Unlike men. women keep their retired social circles constructed over the years and have facility to renew them. But little by little grew into a resentment Jennifer: Peter was making her so unhappy retirement on his own. need to combine work with education of children." she told a close friend. in general. We heard from several women retired to their current life is so busy. The only thing I hate is having to go home at the end of the day. Initially she stayed home with him. women tend to move smoothly toward retirement. was inside mope at home if it has been discarded. women. Men value the achievements. Jennifer had sometimes the impression that the husband did not know well. she thought that time would have to meet again. How women deal with retirement. but with so much time together for the first time in our life . "I love to be retired." The men are always defined by their work and their achievements. Studies on male and female figures show that 70 to 80% of women say they have as the main 'focus on family. She received her retire with genuine emotion. women. the way the company was doing well without him and low frequency with which co-workers to use their experience and their advice. It would be almost like a second honeymoon. Now. They just "follow your life. she felt free. we see very little in common. a stressful and poorly paid job with few opportunities for professional progress. It would be an opportunity to do everything I always had the dream-. I would never do anything. Worked as a nurse almost all his life. relationships. It was as if he had not entirely of his life.You realize that you retired when you know all the answers but do not have anyone else to ask you the questions. He had been always working hard. they ask how could give an account of what they worked. learned to play tennis and attend classes in art. Today I do not know if I have . It started out more with friends. The children were finally married. Consequently. Peter and Jennifer Jennifer wanted much to retire with her husband hold. Spent increasingly less time at home. Nadava with a group three times a week. attribute value is the quality of their relationships. I feel sorry for Peter. exhausted when you get home. way-too Janda. Jennifer knew he was depressed but could not convince him to express his feelings. with retirement. which left little time for herself. and the lives of Jennifer and retain only the two was.

And do it with great joy.the identity. "If you do not wanted to eat healthy food and we exercise. no milk products and low cholesterol. the common man is denying that his life is to quit." When I heard it. Can cause fights. treating it as if it were one of its former employees. It is the loss of something much bigger . Peter. Peter. "Your bitch!" He Berra with it." And finally leads to the local restaurant and it shows the menu. Some return to school." replied St. the man turns around. When retirement approaches. some clubs go to the elderly and enjoy the entertainment that they failed during the period in which the job. and will call him to continue working. together with household chores. Otherwise. There are no calories in the sky. people cling to the idea that becoming consultants. " Dealing with a retired man is often one of the biggest problems that women face. Even those who did not like his job very still want their "group hunting" the call to continue the task. St. "But how will this cost?" Asks the man. There were a couple of 70 years who always had good health because of the insistence of women with healthy diet and exercises. low salt. the shock is very intense. The man likes to think its "hunt group" still needs him. He seems to always be "getting in the foot" and wanting to take her life." says the man. Many women retired to join interest groups or develop new habits. It's free. And often. "Do not worry. The woman whose identity was also strongly linked to work performance may experience a similar feeling. "here is the sky. without feeling idle and useless. The choices of women often involve interaction with others. When this happens and he notes that the company can move very well without it. At the door of heaven. the two die in a car accident. "Nothing. full of delicious dishes. Unable to face the situation. to the wife. The identity of women is .love and no more if I stay with him. Be "available" to return to work and solve problems whose solution depends on their knowledge and experience." Then shows them a wonderful golf course behind the mansion. "It's free. He has so much knowledge and experience that the employer-only benefits and may not pass without his talent. come with solutions and advice when she is not interested. Here is the sky. On the one hand. leaving little time for fun. no long hours of work. One day. Peter Ihes presents its new life. they will still be important parts in the gear. others spend more time taking care of others." says St. You can eat as you like which will still be thin and healthy. with a variety of creamy sauce. "Nothing. And it shows a fabulous mansion. tears and even separation. Here is the sky. we could have arrived here ten years ago!" Why men can not cope with retirement? The loss of work is not the main cause of all the stress when the man is retiring. indignant. it seems envy the happiness of women and blame them for their misfortune. "But the cost to enter partner?" Asks the man. "But we only eat food without fat. A step that seems worth it.

lover and wife at any time. friends' friend. But unless they have been carefully prepared. the direction of the house. if not overcome or dealt with the help of a professional. Always addicted to outside research. grandmother. to 50 years. the things not done. These intrusions can be unbearable for your partner. He relaxes in food. data and figures loved and was very successful in the management of time. the anger. shorter. The feeling of uselessness and rejection can lead to decreased libido. Why do so many men down the hill so fast? In the period following the shutdown. being mother. unhappy and." Blame the ex-boss for not having him ready for retirement. When its role as provider end. companion. however. The sudden loss of friends and colleagues. starts to drink. For most. their status and sense of importance can quickly lead to depression. First. the woman continues with the other facets of his life. things rarely remain at that stage as the honeymoon.multifaceted. The new generation has its own ideas and solutions and whether they feel free to implement them and test new ways of solving things. and in some cases. But the retirement of Barry . he thought the best in the industry. and if everything goes well for the acceptance. The woman never retires. Depression can get without being noticed. The retired blame others for their suffering: his partner and family becomes much often the target because "not understand how I feel. In most cases there is no drama. especially the way they are made. the woman retains its identity. the routine that meet their days. She can spend the money to bring home. Retirees who do not plan their lives are constantly ill. The loss of identity is for the man in many ways similar to the death of a loved one. per-der vitality and become inactive. When you decided to retire. can become permanent. the retiree was disappointed with his new life and starts to retract. He now wants to be the chief executive of the family. was owner of a successful company. Sometimes it is thought. felt. Barry was always fascinated by the idea of retirement and to spend any time with their children and grandchildren and traveling with Yvonne. The result is a life apathetic. It simply gives continuity to their things. Start the denial is complete by the depression. even drugs. It is essential to identify the depressive stage which. and the fights start to happen. Flu and disease is less frequently. and sometimes all at the same time. to take care of the family. above all. In other words. This anger is sometimes discharged as the desire to disappear. lady-of-home. Barry and Yvonne Banyo is described as counter to 20 years and 25 have worked on their own. particularly finance and planning of social activities and family. by not calling him to provide advice and feel a victim. Many often the removal of what they see as an old employee is a relief. Signs of trouble are usually the first indication that stage of depression is ongoing. Master of himself. deepening the table. this rarely happens. some men think they will be quiet.

high price. "Now I'm in the middle of something and forget what I was doing." said the woman. "One day." E has two batidinhas on the table. Most of it was wasted money.so he is not annoyed with the waiting -." he insisted. That day she did not buy any bra . Perhaps the first time in life when she see her husband every day for breakfast. Asked the husband. why you asked to organize a calendar hourly. A woman can get hurt with it seems an intrusion on what for it is a happy and orderly. absolutely curtailed and controlled by a manic husband and authoritarian. Yvonne felt in an inter-in a concentration camp. She loved to shop. sitting on the "seat-ofhusband-bored" on the outside of the taster. I wonder why she spent so much on things he thought unnecessary. Barry found that his wife only needed two sutiãs. Things can be much worse. on time and lasted a lot of other statistical data.she has not had chance shoes and enough clothes? Reached the height of the monitor Yvonne buy a new bra. Barry wanted to know the reason ." she said to friends. "I never had this problem. it was great." "How?". I never stopped by something." she replied. hits the wood. Not only. misunderstood and devalued. Barry re-collect information on sutiãs with employees and customers. leading to . "Barry needs to get a life of its own. After looking puzzled for the door and asked: "Who is it?" The negative aspects of retirement When the couple starts to fight because of differences of ability and the different roles that each plays. there is the danger of starting to feel incompatible. alone. That was crazy leaving Yvonne.quickly turned in the worst nightmares of Yvonne. Then started to leave the house to escape the domain of the husband. For Yvonne. requesting it to many tasks and too little working in the service of the house. for lunch and dinner. Sutiãs discovered how each of the search was the ratio of quantity. When Yvonne was a store that was not on the agenda. Barry now wants to be the chief executive's home.the man feels rejected. I control everything the woman did! Offered to take the family's finances and gave Yvonne a budget for food. After examining them." The woman smiled with sadness." The man grunt: "No. Despite not having problems with money. "and I want my life back!" A retired couple was sitting on the dinner table talking about old age. but decided that Barry would shop together. last week. I was thinking at the top of the stairs had just arrived or are on top was starting to fall. "Then yesterday I was sitting in the car asking if I had just come to go somewhere or had just arrived home and was out of the car." "Hum!" Said the man. "is forgotten. While Yvonne tried to quickly sutiãs . The anger and resentment began to grow inside her. Barry thought the days of Yvonne would be much more beneficial if they practice an effective management of your time. He supervises and gives orders.decided to return later. he wanted to know where every penny went and why. "The worst. and that there would be an agenda setting out advance and where would they would buy. and when they manifest .usually in an exasperated . beginning at 8 am. "My memory is perfect.

swim. ride a bike. . increased life expectancy and better health. and the man who is not planned for retirement can take many years to overcome them. walk. Studies show that the earlier you plan your retirement. The higher the frequency with which they work. There is a huge range of alternatives for pleasure waiting for you. develop a talent that remained unexploited because you were absorbed in his career. it is likely that the period of retirement is longer. dance. The man is 30 to 40 years of his life in a rigidly structured and oriented goals. learn a new skill. In Western society. To begin. . it is good to resort to professional advice to ensure that it perpetuates the negative attitudes. therefore. have better health and will live longer. The identification of these stages is crucial. find pleasure in activities independent of the professional activities. resulting in loneliness and misery. develop a circle of friends outside the work environment. take up a hobby. Are aware that you are investing in their well-being in their self-esteem. look for a nutritionist to set a pleasant and healthy diet. Multiply your interests in the life of work.separation and even to suicide. need a bit of quality. you must be aware that their identity can not be linked predominantly to the industry professional and receiving the approval of others. Make a complete check-up. more will live better and the quality of your life. A plan of action The right time to start planning is many years before retirement. The critical difference between these two periods of the life of man is that in retirement he is fully in control and will take the decisions that affect the rest of life. read all the books that are accumulated on your bookshelf. listening to music. Start to develop them as far as possible. If you find difficulty. mainly because. Health The time of retirement can be used for an investment in your health. with the increasing trend of early retirement. do the exercise that gives you great pleasure. which is giving a gift that could not be granted for lack of availability. The possibilities are endless. Men engaged in activities that stress and to do nothing to retire early die. His retirement. now. But do not spend it all as a mere obligation or an activity for only the time to fill vacant. which includes study. useful and happy. Start thinking now as I have had time available. the life expectancy of men that the retirement is not an occupation that the interest is on average five years. Men who survive the first three stages of retirement generally ultimately accept this new stage of life and take on the challenge of planning a new life.

The consultant helped Paul to understand the reasons for that and he showed you how to . His wife Dana to retire three years before and wanted by the retirement of her husband. affection. browse the local church. He thought to retire at 65. Discuss your plans with your partner. the social work community and gives an immense sense of satisfaction and self. The sex in old age will be a continuation of what was in the life of the couple. specializes in dealing with the men retired. Talk about it with the greatest possible openness. discover new incentives. Aware of that will mean this new phase of life in terms of living in order to for problems that arise Spirituality It is also time to devote to a field that may have been ignored in the years of professional activity: the spirituality. the activities that could develop. or activities that develop their spirituality. You may need an initial effort to overcome the resistance. the places that I would know. But Dana was alarmed to see the sadness of Paul with the forced retirement. Paul and Dana Paul was account manager and his life was always full of goals. seek help if necessary. a belief. because the sex life can not be separated from the rest of the relationship. but once started. Thus you will discover where your talents can be applied You should see his retirement as you would with any large project. targets and deadlines.Social Work and Community We can assure you that few things to remember as much as the dedication they need. and that is linking to an institution where they feel affinity with the people working there. The retirement offers this space to search more and find a group.not just the genitals . giving new meaning to life. which would examine the materials. He began drinking too much and was depressed. Start searching now. Explore these possibilities with the knowledge they have of each other and love each deserves it after so many years of companionship. chat with friends.can be a source of pleasure. it now had time to do things you always wanted and wished to share their happiness with Paul newly discovered. Start to write down everything that interests you. She was quite enjoying his retirement. despite the limitations that age brings. openness. because she is the person who will share them with you. children in orphanages will bring you a surprising bonus. The simple act of visiting patients in hospitals. Whatever has been your path. The substantive requirements of day-to-day that differ in size so essential in humans and responds to your deepest desire. Gender A happy and healthy life also must include a satisfactory sexual life. What is important is that these limits are treated with honesty. But when he was 57 his company bought and he became expendable in overnight. You can not imagine how delicious the experience of returning to college where you will live with younger people and discover how the experience of life taught him. Dana decided to seek professional advice and then persuaded Paul to seek a consultant. elderly in rest homes. It is important that you find in that field feel better and more useful. you must have skills that can be used or passed on to others. And remember: the whole body .

except for a small excess of weight and pressure and cholesterol slightly above normal. The first step was to complete a health check. aware that they had available to devote to a social work. sensual and rewarding.decide what to do for the rest of their lives. The check-up showed that Paul was well. They have done a detailed budget and noted that the guarantee fund of Paul. He was also part of a group of craft and came to a course in writing. most of his pension and Dana would be sufficient to cover its needs until the end of life. understanding the strengths and weaknesses of each other and being able to make the relationship a source of joy. How was a member of golf club. Use these tools with wisdom and love. Enrolled in a class of tai-chi. Good luck to you! ******* . The second was to seek a financial adviser. In examining the financial part. enthusiastically recommended by friends. decided to open a current account that you bring an additional income. happiness and fulfillment. Then decided to seek a way of advising the youth to become an advisor to young people. We firmly believe that the tools presented in Why Men Lie and Women cry? can help all men and women to live lives more intimate. Decided to change the eating habits and started walking every day for at least 45 minutes. The next challenge was great . because had the start-to plan your journey . Dana. but not for extravagances. Paul and Dana are healthy and happy. in turn. The finances were sufficient to cover expenses. Dana has played tennis once a week and it was on the board of the club. offered to cooperate in the newspaper association of residents of his neighborhood. The third was to travel with Dana relax and plan the rest of their lives. This time when the men and women are more together than any other in their lives is very important that they have learned the lessons of Why Men Lie and Women cry? Because only then will live happily in peace and with love. They are so busy they need a detailed daily schedule. They needed a plan that took into account both the needs of each. which led them to meet new people. After all the advice. Today.manage this new phase of his life. decided to try. Paul accepted the challenges that it presented the consultant. He and Dana went on holiday with a good state of mind. the consultant reassured Paul.which could take twenty years or more to be completed. In the group that began to attend prayer. as the couple. A specialist taught her new diet and prescribed an exercise program. Paul felt a great weight had been removed from their shoulders. Came to a club of excursionist and began to make trips extended several times a month. Found that its greatest achievement was to have created four children happy. Paul was always concerned about the welfare of young people and understand the problems they faced when they lack family support-ing. together with some savings and investments. As Paul was an excellent account-pain and liked to teach. The retirement is revealing the happiest time of their lives. but I would like but never had time to practice regularly to mind. because I wanted to write. enjoy life and help others. adjusted and successful. Paul play golf sometimes.

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