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C Allan and Barbara Pease, 2003 translation Jorgesen Pedro Junior preparation of original Regina da Veiga Pereira Review José Tedin Pinto Sergio Soares Bellinello cover and illustrations Mattievich Silvana graphic design and editing of kernels Marcia Raed photolite RR Donnelley Latin America - Premedia / Dip Print Cromosete Gráfica e Editora Ltda CIP-BRAZIL. CATALOGING-IN-SOURCE. National Union of EDITORS OF BOOKS P375P Pease, Allan Why men lie and women cry? /
Allan and Barbara Pease; translation of Peter Jorgensen Junior. - Rio de Janeiro: Sextante, 2003. Translation: Why men lie and women cry ISBN 85-7542-063-1 1. Man-woman relations. 2. Sex - Differences (Psychology). 3. Sexual role. r. Pease, Barbara. LI. Title. All rights reserved by EDITORA Sextante / GMT EDITORES LTDA. Volunteers of the Nation Address, 45 - Gr 1404 - Botafogo 22270-000 - Rio de Janeiro RJ Te!.: (21) 2286-9944 - Fax: (21) 2286-9244 Customer: 0800-22-6306 E-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org www.esextante.com.br 03-0645. CDD 306.7 CDU 392.6
Contents Introduction Chapter 1 The cantankerousness When a person does not stop complaining Chapter 2 SEVEN THINGS THAT MAKE MEN WOMEN DEIXA IRONING BOARDS Chapter 3 Why women cry? The dangers of emotional blackmail Chapter 4 THE SYSTEM OF ULTRA-SECRET SCORE ruin of women as a man of the week Chapter 5 CLARIFICATION OF THE SEVEN MAJOR MYSTERY MEN Chapter 6 THE OTHER WOMAN His mother Chapter 7 The Mysteries WAYS OF WOMEN LANGUAGE Chapter 8 "You think I am FAT CLOTHES WITH THIS? Why men lie?
Chapter 9 THE TESTING OF WOMEN'S SEXUAL APPEAL How do you make people work? Chapter 10 WHAT DOES THE EYES OF MEN skip the power of female sexual attraction Chapter 11 THE TEST OF MALE SEX APPEAL Chapter 12 WHAT TO ATTRACT WOMEN Chapter 13 When the hunter Hang The ARC The retirement Acknowledgments Bibliography
that want to get to know all details about the people around you and that rarely take the initiative to do sex. wet and hungry. sharing information at conferences . Today we know the evolutionary and biological reasons that explain why men can only do one thing at a time. that hate to go shopping. research. that like to "play to pick mature green". Chinese Proverb Why do men lie? Why they think they must always be the reason? Why avoid it undertakes? And women. Why Men Lie and Women cry? draws attention to things that are beyond obvious to most . Then things get worse. when out of bed without getting themselves or their partners speak with them. Women worry about the future to find a husband. Of them also look at questions such as: "Why women do not go to the chase". science can explain why women talk so much. we developed practical solutions to help you tune the right channel in communication with the opposite sex. why not stop the car to ask for guidance. "Why do women complain all the time?". and frustrated by not knowing deal with the situation. Today. writing books. So decided to write Why Men Lie and Women cry? Catalog the forty most frequently asked questions from readers around the world demand-and we answer them by using. giving interviews on TV.thousands of times we were asked to rate certain behaviors of men and women. It also seeks to elucidate the problems which the man is beat-to ten in the morning of Sunday.analyzing miles of film and recordings. From there. scientific studies and our current sense. The men never worry about the future until they find a wife. the disagreements and conflicts between the sexes are still so present in our lives as the first time that Adam and Eve falling out.Introduction Born naked. phone calls and emails came from people perplexed by the behavior of the opposite sex. why cry to get what they want? Why insist on a subject to death? Why not take the sexual initiative more often? In the twentieth century and one. In three decades of studies and research on the differences between men and women . in addition to our experience. surveys. for they have habits and mannerisms that make women so angry and they do not know almost nothing of the life of your friends. of the genus: "Why men devour the other women with the eyes?" and "Why are they all the time saying what I do and I think". The car-tas. "Why do I have to collect half of my floor to ten hours of a Sunday morning ". even after spending a weekend fishing in the entire company. Why Men Lie and Women cry? attempts to answer the questions that are hammering the head of women to one in the morning.
teacher or social worker. bewildered and confused. You can not deny that this kind of thing that most men perceive as open hostility contributes largely to the depressed state that seems to be slaughtered on a whole generation. Life seemed simple. Just thinking of you receiving an e-mail. the roles were clearly defined. the relationships and the families began to live a great tension. If a woman slapped a man in public. the focus of the discussion is still the cross that women in this car-water life. The man was the head of the family and the primary responsibility for its upkeep. You may have noticed that many women seem to have a biological need to buy decorative pillows and change the storage of furniture for men stumble when they arrive at home at dawn.people. it is unlikely that a man understands that the discovery of a brand of clothing in a counter settlement is one of the most extraordinary things that can happen to a woman. Since. Men often do not seem to understand the rules of the game. Why are things so difficult for men and women? Today. The rate of suicides among young men and old is now the largest in history. as many men feel left behind. everything began to change. In the last quarter of the twentieth century. secretary. The man knew what were their responsibilities and the wife knew her. During general rations. as women gain more and more freedoms. his word was law and their areas of decision were clear. with the Japanese heading the list. Serials and the TV business started to show the men as incompetent idiots in front of women superior. The men are insecure about their own identity and they . often considering the man as the enemy to be defeated. everyone assumes that it is that is wrong. See the latest walks that circulated among women and that most men considered extremely demoralizing and threatening: What is the definition of a man? A support for a penis. And as few of them understand the thrill of seeing and reviewing the replay of a move. while a man who did the same was accused of enemy women. in the 1960s. The problem is that women seemed to know what and where they were going. A woman who protest against inequality was the object of sympathy. while among men increased by 16%. be a man became an arduous task. he was the protector and provider. the suicide rate among women fell by more than 34%. The woman was mother. Women and men were angry. the feminists have been given more say and more successes. lady-ofhome. The number of copy-of disparaging about men grows every day. Suddenly. smarter and more fans of the cause of equality. Still.
Man evolved with a completely different program . Most marriage counselors and therapists are also women. As a result. The men have the feeling that women want what they think and behave like them. In Britain. father and provider. their mistakes and what to do to improve them. against one in fifty men headed by the same situation.hunting. This we do conclude that women pay more attention to relationships than men. fighting. healthy and rewarding. Today. But things are too difficult for women. the treacherous curves and dead ends. It is estimated that 25% of all women in the western world will be standing in the single year 2020. providing material and solve problems. We are all very confusing. Take care of relationships is not a natural function of the male psyche. in complete disagreement with our basic human needs and biological. It is. Why men and women have so many problems? The woman developed as defender of the dam and offspring. In general.we are really opposites. these women play the roles of mother. educate and provide love and affection of people's lives. the theme of these books are the men. about 50% of women working in the western world . just know a single man to understand all men. Only men and women assume that one day will appear a perfect relationship. he also has to understand it. is often infuriate and are getting increasingly lonely. It is an unnatural situation. one in five households is headed by a woman alone. protecting. Sometimes the thing is so difficult that it is best to go right to not be seen as a failure. even know them all. Studies offered by new techniques of magnetic resonance imaging of the brain confirms this fact. This book provides a map to help them move through this maze which transformed the relationship and identify the slippery slopes. .lack examples to be followed. For a woman. men are working or not or a little. without the need for any special preparation or study. or give the quick relationships because think of how women think and act very complicated. And it is true in many ways. heart disease and other diseases related to stress. only 7 in 300 students. Except that he usually does. its way of thinking and their scale of priorities. that the brains of men and women have been programmed for different functions and priorities. Generally. Consequently. therefore. Women often make the mistake of believing that because a man loves. Most books on human relations is written by women and over 80% of its audience is composed of women.even when they want. Women of today are superatarefadas. while a man never understand any woman. We call the other sex of "opposite" for good reason . But the truth is that both men and women want good relationships. Feminism began calling attention to inequalities between genders and promising free women from the shackles that had imprisoned the stove. the female brain is programmed to nurture. just as always happened with men. They now suffer from ulcers. It is estimated that bulimia affects 4 to 5% of the university.
just do. The behavior of equipment and scenarios we describe in this book apply to all people all the time. know the rules and follow them faithfully. define common problems and finally present practical solutions. In this work trying to establish universal themes. not longing for a sex champion. to help them make things better fluírem. If you write the words "relationship" and "sex" site on a search of the Internet. Whose stories are real principles apply to most people most of the time of their relationships with the opposite sex. collecting and comparing information and research on the relationship between the sexes. To move through this maze. but do not want to be too sensitive. we see that most people still do not understand during a good part of the time. be living together. comes after the Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love. At any given time. Men do not understand very well this subtle difference. if couples who did not get married. are infinitely complicated. who kill their partners just after mating. and soothsayer. get 36. Humans. men need to learn some techniques that will find this book. The rate of divorces in Britain. much less the differences between male and female. They do not think about it . relationships procedures are guided by the need for direct survival of each species. however.HELEN ROWLAND We are the only species that have permanent problems with the court. The octopus is another good example. Women say men want sensitive. that never discussed sex or how to get there. If you get along with most people most of the time. We. The black widow. in English only. She never accused him of not giving him attention and he is not thinking it was good for her as for him. the males approach moving its tentacles. it is reasonable to assume that the rate of separation among couples is somewhere between 60 and 80%. female and never considering discover is too fat. 700% of divorces begin with marriage Why Men Lie and Women cry? this is an opportunity for you to eliminate turnover a little . who also teaches women techniques to identify and meet the desires men. your life must be very happy. but hard and Manly in other situations. however. working and loving the opposite sex. For other animals. "and deals with aspects of life that most people never think or simply do not understand. excitement and enrichment that a good relationship is able to provide. evolved so that today we know the best way to deal with the opposite sex to have any chance to lead a happy life and enjoy a share of pleasure. There are around or brother in-laws want to advise.714 references. it chooses which one you like more tentacles and gives the green light. the ritual of mating and the relationship . To write this book. Around the world Why Men Lie and Women cry? is the step that in the relationship ladder. now exceed the mark of 50% in the first four years of marriage and. It is a simple animal with a tiny brain. traveled for more than thirty countries. working.the other species already have everything planned out and is very good. Not realize they need to be sensitive in relation to women's feelings. the female enters estrus. for example. Unfortunately.
Why Men Lie and Women cry? is an instruction manual to help understand the opposite sex and know what buttons to obtain the best squeezing result. the woman will be much easier to understand and accept their behavior and mental processes. It may be easier. in general. relatives. they are companions. speak and act like the opposite sex?" In no event. the problem of communication is resolved. If you only speak English and is visiting France. It is a huge gain and relief to both. believes the path where the woman. son. profit and fun. Once you learn to do this work and schedule it for the functions you want. going very well. The result is that our relationship with those who are coming in has improved significantly and.of the suffering. it gives you satisfaction. sisters. even if you fall a little in the words. The allegation was that the women use the book to pursue them saying "Allan said that .. brothers. people like us.the women and men. are very well married. it comes with an instruction manual. in turn. cousins.. Nothing is perfect. The research we did on the various themes of this book and the very act of writing it gave us a more complete understanding of ourselves and our parents. It is a book full of common sense and scientific facts presented in a well-humored and easy assimilation. father. Once you understand the evolution of man. looking as much as possible. but we feel that hit most of the time with most people.. faithful love and great friends of each other. anguish and confusion of his life. The man. People are impressed when they see that we strive to understand them and communicate with them." Why Men Have Sex and Women They Love? obtained a great success among women of all nationalities and we are well aware that some have of the gift to his men saying poignantly: "You must read .. friends or neighbors. be impartial. the authors. some men have to be hampered in their lives. Experience first hand We. When you buy a cell phone. neighbors and colleagues. The French will not understand anything. But if you buy a book of translated phrases that teach you the basic words and phrases in another language. We are also parents of four beautiful children. Not always hit. Learning a second language To be successful with the opposite sex you need to speak two languages . mother. The locals will love and be superprestativos. wishing to provide you a balanced view of the relationship between man and woman. In Why Men Lie and Women cry? also rely on our personal experiences.. daughter. "Will I have to change sex?" People often ask us: "You are telling me that I should think." and "Barbara said-10. can also benefit from their experiences and their views. in English is no good asking a typical British dish. How to give this book as a gift After the worldwide success of our latest book Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? (more than six million copies sold in 33 languages to the present). but taking the average. He explains the behavior of "other sex".
But a man might feel insulted. is perhaps more prudent to ask your man to his opinion on the advice of the book.especially the parts that I marked for you read. leaving her injured and disconcerted. If you are a woman. one that receives feel honored and grateful to have gained something that will help it to grow. Maybe women would like to see racing of self-mobile. personality and give the wrinkles price of undergarment is absolutely reasonable. congratulations! . Mark the pages you want and let him read the book on the coffee table or the bathroom. and men have to go once a month in a simulator of TPM. And finally . But we doubt . thinking that the woman is trying to show that he is not good the way it is. Meanwhile. Maybe one day men and women may be similar.this! read from beginning to end .at least with regard to coming millennia. Nobody talks to you looking at their breasts and you do not need to go to beauty salon to prepare for a social meeting. The toilet seats to be set. You dance with a frog in a blender opinion and is not required to have erection. can be excused by male heads when involved in its mysterious gynecological disorders. reader.. Perhaps the book refuses saying simply "I do not need any of it". follow by learning to understand.Know that is part of a minority that wants to understand how women think and act. " When a woman gives a gift to another a book on personal development.. Enjoy. to shop with absolute objectivity. They say man is great. They say a woman is great because you can talk to a person of the opposite sex without having to imagine them naked. is man. and the taxi stop at your beck. because a slight belly and gray hair to give a certain charm. manage and enjoy our differences. And be rewarded with love and affection. because our book! BARBARA & ALLAN PEAS . So if you. because men love to give opinions. the women only speak for the business and the men only read Playboy for its literary value.
not abusing the drink. but men rarely see it the same way. tell when it is delayed. to do regular exercises and tests for cholesterol? Demand in certain situations. the claims it will consume the soul and can generate over time a fierce resentment." Like a dripping faucet. Men from all over the place "to complain mania" at the top of the list of your dislikes individuals. In Hong Kong.and politely reminding women the way to when they forget. The friends also did not think she is morose . In most cases. but think the men can only take things repeating and repeating the same instructions. roast the patience. irritate. has been enhanced by reducing the penalty of imprisonment by a judge who felt he was led to commit the violence because the woman was too morose. show how much they care about them. She knows that is annoying. especially women. Only in the United States are more than two thousand cases per year for men who kill their wives have been arguing that the complaints brought to them. men do not complain. Yes. however. . bother. is something that society sees an entirely different way. by wetting the entire bathroom when taking a shower and by spreading the newspaper while you read. who calls all the time. however. tease.for them the man is yob. the male brain hears only one thing: "There she is complaining again. Currish: individuals. fill the bag.Chapter 1 The cantankerousness When a person does not stop complaining Fiddle-faddle: annoy. the cantankerousness can even be considered constructive. until one day the plug fall. they see defects. take the drugs. annoy. In our culture. molest. Advice as "always check your bank! How many times do I have to say?" and "It gives you a bit more care of their appearance when my friends come to our house?" are repeated with admirable persistence and. women do not feel morose. Generally. does not care to continue complaining. provoke. fix what is broken. quarrel. even if that is annoying. they criticize. above all. The morose man. Women also think that claim is how they worry about them. dominate (the husband). but it is always for the good of women. can serve to keep them alive. Currish is a term traditionally used by men to describe women. difficult to handle. They are assertive. causing him permanent brain damage. complain and complain. get fungus in cangote. selfish. How they think that their complaints are justified. a husband who has a hammer head of the wife. In very small doses. and are natural leaders all the time conveying their knowledge . The woman alleges the man to leave a trail of chaos is where. torment. berate. when the woman starts to repeat his orders. Where would many men without a woman warning them not to take beer or eat sandwiches too. They think they are confined to their men to remember the things they have to do: meet its share of household chores. which is why their suffering companion deserves all the sympathy. dirty clothes and take towrope them wet the ground.
the English laws. Can you imagine? I prefer staying at work than go home. as people who complain non-stop. prostitutes. It is true that women are so from birth? Please help me. calling me saying that I have some more for others than for him. and Europe has allowed the man complained about the implications of the judge or "cantankerousness" of his wife. week. Should not be so . Be listening to the complaints it causes me stress as a violent headache that starts in the car. The time that I get at home until the time when I go to sleep. but very short. A record of a court in the year 1592. its objections and complaints. We have reached the point where the only communication that happens between us is she telling me all that I left to do during the day. says: . but he insists that both the end I run better than their hearing is whining. she was sentenced to "chair of immersion." The chair of immersion was famous in the United States and Great Britain as a tool for punishment of witches. " Third woman: "So why do men say that women patience to roast them with their complaints? General laughter. he is never satisfied. is a morose adjective which applies mainly to old and women. the U. If you complain all the time. The situation is so bad that I asked the boss to be working after hours. men give instructions. a man who is self" Jeremy Dominated "sent us the following e-mail: "I need help from you. In the literature. " Morena: "Stephen is like that.The cantankerousness women vs The whining of men The women complain. Until the nineteenth century. If I go to clean dinner with his friends. Sometimes I think that it is impossible to hit. My colleagues say that their women also complain to them all the time. My father used to tell me that every woman calls and fills the bag. Think fault in everything I do. on the way back. she is claiming the whole time without stopping. The number of times that she was immersed depended on the severity of the offense and / or the number of previous convictions. I think his friends more attractive than him. If I do not clean. he claim that I do not care for him why not take care of my appearance. After reading Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love ". I am married to the Queen of Claims and not stand one more minute and its implications. It hours that I am not so. but I did not believe it until I married. If I do not want sex at the time he wants. The woman was tied infringing on a chair hanging on the edge of a mobile arm and plunged into the river or lake close by a predetermined period of time. women have always appeared as a morose. If the charge was proved. The cantankerousness through time Throughout history. month and since we got married. " A group of women we had dinner in a restaurant heard the following conversation was about their husbands: Blonde: "Yeah. it is whine.I should drop by rejoice me to work and come home to see her. and crimes committed small catamaran.S. and I just early for him to shut up.
". Because when you throw water on the fire. they will be punished with the chair of immersion. but that does not mean they like to be complaining. The last woman to go through the chair of immersion after condemned as "morose stubborn" was Jennifer Pipes. never. Some women were forced to parade through the city as a warning to other women. If the wife has the audacity noisy To have the house with tremendous noise. took seriously the claims of excess: The Chair of Immersion See there. of Leominster. Women know that claim. but you need to think really make it. How is currish The morose always hopes that his victim. do what she wants. written by Benjamin West. dives into the tank. that they tell the church to stop the cantankerousness. And before that to lose patience. A third and fourth time.. but simply to end the discussion. You say: stop. or would go to fail. But if their husbands and neighbors to complain a second time. It occupies the infringing his post With a frown on his face printed pompous. there were other possibilities. therefore. without reluctance. Termagant wives. my dear. driven by feelings of guilt. with a mask of iron stuck to the head with a metal bar going up in the mouth to hold his tongue. the wife of Walter Hycocks of Peter Phillips and his wife are prominent morose. When the fire is burning. But once is not enough. Tied to the chair. Learn to govern in the chair your language. Its goal is to encourage victims to meet him. published in 1780. . in 1809. my friend. Usually they do to achieve a goal. If the scold provokes discussion With obscene words or out of the question. the water breaks. Joy and terror of the people of the village. Climb even higher the blaze. And when the chair of immersion was not punishment enough. shows how men in past centuries. You must then bring the peasant A second time to the depths.. It decided. " The following poem. The woman is hoisted and vocifera How ever dared no shrew. England. the lake of our Canton The device named chair of immersion Under the cloak of the law that guides the procession.
just before the summer." The Early Recovery: "Dale.. And the least recognized. amnesia. which only increases his irritation and sometimes their anger. relationships with people of currish can be affected. When do you replace the lamp in the room e. computers. . leaving her alone and resentful.Some women turned to cantankerousness in an art form. Everyone avoids the morose. the more captive and isolated she feels.". The tendency of man is to ignore it even more. etc. can stop the currish resentful and unhappy. . The speed you go. When the level of complaints is out of control. The more claims. the door handle of the room is falling and the kitchen window is still stuck. I just hope that you control a drink tonight. face of discouragement. nor to be continuously accused of everything." The Third Party Complaint by "Moira says Shane already cleaned the grill and they are going to a barbecue tomorrow. why do not you hang your towel?" Pause.it is bad for your cholesterol and increase the weight . When cantankerousness is out of control. "Kurt. speak little. Ray? And stop eating the pizza . The more demanding the aggressor. We have identified five basic types of complaint: The Complaint Monotemática: "Kurt. etc. she is able to completely destroy the relationship. Nobody likes to be subject to the anger contained the ambiguous messages to autopiedade. homework. we? Usually women give laughs with these reports. deafness apparent and remote controls. the grass of the front garden is a disgusting. the more the victim is subject to suffering. We do not go repeating the humiliation of last year. you said you would hang a towel. but believe that there is no alternative. The only concrete result of excessive claims is the destruction of the relationship between the victim and currish therefore believe that the victim needs to defend all the time. repeated complaints are a reminder continuous.. This explains why women think men in general. They recognize and acknowledge their own words. indirect and negative of the things he left behind and their defects.. Kurt? Still on the floor. is more isolated. the censorship. the victim is more refuge behind defensive barriers that leave the woman distracted -newspapers. They mainly occur at the end of the day." Five minutes later: "And the towel. The Complaint Beneficente: "I took their medicine today. Feeling alone." The cross complaint: "Nigel. just in time that the man needs more time to be "watching the fire. and men think women talk without stopping. How is the victim From a man." as did his predecessors back to the primitive of a full day of hunting. . You can clearly see that women have an ability to speak much more than men.
You can clearly see that women have an ability to speak much more than men. If a woman speaks when it comes to a clover on the . The multiple tracks can occur even in the same sentence: Bill: "The Sue come for Christmas?" Debbie: "She said it will depending on how things get with the orders for carpets. " Bill: "That means' yes' or 'no'?" Debbie: "Well.. When you open a map in the car. Man Woman The woman has a mental organization that call multiple tracks . The man's mental organization contains a single track. he received a response to "multiple tracks" involving eleven people and nine different subjects. she is watching TV. which have fallen because of economic crisis. and men think women talk without stopping. 2001. Etc. It is able to speak on various themes without any relationship with each other in the same conversation USA and five tones of voice to change the subject and emphasize issues.. Can run a computer program while talking on the phone and hear a second conversation behind her in the restaurant when talking with fellow table.. and Jodi can not be absent from work . speak little..". He can only focus on one thing at a time. the owner of the Diana.it is a counterfeit able to keep the air four or five balls at once. Bill thought it had a simple question and would be satisfied with a simple answer of 'yes' or' no '. can identify three of these tones so often lose the thread of the skein when they hear a woman talking. Men only.Why women are more morose? The woman has a brain structure that allows you to overcome any man on the planet in terms of falação and cantankerousness. Frustrated. let her be absent from work because his car is in the workshop and she has to . so Sue said you could get out early for us to buy the clothes for the wedding of Emma. Areas of the brain used for speech and language. Institute of Psychiatry. The illustrations that follow.. show (in black) the active areas of the brain used for the functions of speech and language. he turns off the radio. and Nathan lost his job and seek other. and I thought it was us we were and Len in the guest room could ask Ray to arrive early to. and Fiona perhaps because Andrew does not need to consult a specialist. Instead.. this also depends on Adrian. etc.the boss of it is terrible! -. London. made from MRI scans of the fifty men and fifty women. It is an image of men and women were chatting and communicating with each other. This explains why women think men in general.
The male brain has only one track. One of the most difficult situations is when the man is connected to multiple tracks during the complaint. sometimes placed in positions of power. That the complaint never gives too much right? the main mistake of cantankerousness is the way to address the problem. and the victim back further behind the barrier. initiating a vicious cycle where the fretful increases the volume of voice and the strength of their objections and claims. have difficulty to walk and chew gum at the same time. As it is not always possible to leave the scene. to USA to protect itself.road. He just shut up. sometimes physically. Some men. he asks for everyone to shut up talking. When the phone rings. the pressure increases to the point where the counter-attack victim. causing a rough thread which can even degenerate into physical violence. The man can not make love and explain the same time that did not take the garbage out. There is too much. he misses the way and it puts the blame for being here. putting the man .
However. the secretary can gently remind him or simply do it..her own clothes by the wide ground. The goddesses of sex do not complain of clothes dropped by the house -they leave their own clothes scattered on the floor. In this stage. she ignores it. and if your partner does their share of domestic work. But when you feel more secure in your position. even essential. The morose plot deals with the problem in small. is it? . She is so tied to the vision you created for your romantic partner. " This type of claim is the most inefficient possible in achieving the objectives and becomes a destructive habit that produces enormous stress.. when the relationship becomes permanent.. It operates from a position of strength. honors and proposals. desk. is like being bitten by a cloud of mosquitoes: bites takes over the body and can not kill them. and a very sensual.. the goddess of sex may become worse in the morose. To note that the boss has to do something. if you have shame in the face would fix the faucet. so busy arming plans to make mad love and love to be everywhere in the house. You can even get to the point that you think is capable of doing the job better than him. it can start to complain to the boss to make it more efficient in their work. this is part of their work. And as you know. A clear sign of intimacy between boss and secretary of the things she is claiming that he left behind. Its strength is of another kind: it USA your sexual power to get to your man what you want. The so-called "vampire" also does not usually complain.. whining and load of guilt that she wants to impose victim.. I ask? . In general the groups it in a way that the male brain has limited capacity to decipher. may see the complaint as a form of continuous wear the head of "bring it to your level" and make it realize how much is missing. which receives praise. petty. "You never take out the garbage. It may be that it not be given the time to complain of dirty clothes scattered on the floor . Their "requests" are weak. "I did not ask him to do almost anything at home. disharmony. and do not have enough force to get it to work. You are more concerned with the "greater part" of his life. the growing cantankerousness can go. resentment and anger and can easily end up in violent physical reaction. Take out the trash is not too much. killing me from week to work to make this house more or less decent and you spent the whole time sitting watching TV ..in a defensive and blocking the absorption of the message. unless the morose and the victim have an intimate relationship. Missing you time and energy to it.. For men. Has a more objective way to ask things." and is there outside. The woman also madly in love tends not to complain.. not to realize that there clothing on the floor and dirty dishes on . even unknowingly. you refuse to collect their clothes . the doctor said I can not get passed the order weight . Where is the worst cantankerousness? The cantankerousness rarely manifests itself in the workplace. because this drip-drip is making me crazy . more powerful.. The woman happy and professionally performed rarely calls at home. After all. trivial. pay someone to do it or get a mate to do. The origin of cantankerousness is the balance of forces between two people.
but do not know how to release for you to build a better life. suffering. "My mother has to draw the attention of people to do all that. Unlike the soldier. predictable and routine. There is no Nobel Prize for the maintenance of domestic peace. with a confusing and contained rage. Centuries of stereotypes. is always the wife or mother ." Adam sighs. . Of the genus is: ry exudes sexual power. the same for all women. fretful of the comic numbers. also be absorbed by the excitement of the new relationship. It is the anguish of the oppressed majority. culture. sons. Anyone can pass the vacuum cleaner on the carpet. independent and free. nobody sends write her name on a memorial in marble for dedicating his life to the welfare of the family. daughters and partners who live together. The cantankerousness can be a call for recognition Complaining is a sign that the woman wants more: more recognition of the family for everything they did and more opportunities for something better. family of journals felt mentally and trading of movies and TV convinced her that the ideal woman to be truly feminine is Perfect Wife and Mother. silent. Acaba I preferred that she not do anything. Mother was not tortured (at least in the common meaning of that term) and went through great suffering. That is why the stereotype of morose. or accepting and performing the ritual with joy monotonous and repetitive domestic work and motherhood are rarely morose. in the heart. A professional woman radiates strength material and mental. "Every time you wash the dishes or vacuum the carpet is the one she makes sarcastic comments to draw attention to itself. which is enhanced by giving their lives for the welfare of his country. precisely because nobody gives value to their tasks. a teenage victim of constant complaints. Nobody feels the need to complain. She knows that life can be better. or do any thing to please her. frustrated with the only alternative to get your feet tapping. however. Our research shows that women who have clear goals. feel no forces. Why is she must be complaining because of any thing ? She is talking about "any thing" because his life has become a collection of small things. Your daily tasks seem too trivial to justify protests and demands for public recognition. Do not write wins literary prize lists of great shopping. mothers. Sometimes she even realizes that his feelings are normal and healthy. The woman who regularly uses the cantankerousness. working more than thirty hours per week. it deserves more.the table . asking for recognition. It is a difficult person to feel confident and powerful if all you did in the morning to evening is trivial. but feel too guilty to admit that does not like his role. E is confused and lost by not knowing what to think. who generally feel no power over their lives and unable to change it in a clear and direct. Do not want in your tú mulo the words "always kept the kitchen clean. Adam's mother calls him.wives. The cantankerousness always between people who have an intimate connection .the prisoners of the household. His partner. she went through years and years of brainwashing to accept a "truth" that may not serve you anymore. Your suffering is a kind of invisible. husbands. Even if. The Perfect Wife. Both are strong.
The man. The complex of mother Many women think they are the only significant adult in the family. He wanted pepperoni with capers. it was starting to fatten. "They are the last fifteen years. which carry the soul the frustrating feeling of lack of love and recognition. who feel that a little boy living with immature. it would not take out so often to eat in the pizzeria. they believe their role is to appease. This change of attitude is the first stone in the path of the dangerous erosion of the relationship. both come to a point where they are no more as partners. She also did not want to eat pizza all the time: a rather more healthy food. They think that their husbands and boyfriends act like children. and placed last in their feelings and needs. As your partner knows he has these skills. Women who went out of control cantankerousness ESPO-ments are generally solitary and disappointed and mothers. But some men say that time is that it seems longer. and finally back to his wife. and began to accuse him of never paying attention to their wishes. The more a man rebels. In the end. solve problems. who hated capers. there was silence. I Hawaiian. He reacts. Here is one of the keys to reduce the cantankerousness: currish give due recognition for the performance of small and routine tasks of his life ends with the most complaints. Many girls still grow up believing they should be nice and sweet.and deserves . lovers and close friends. Everything started because of the pizza that they would choose. Solutions cantankerousness: say what you want The discussion was ugly. With all this pizza. can communicate.Adam is the mother of a little recognition that it begs . to circumvent the . "The problem is not the pizza. right?" He said finally. When they become adults. looked at the floor. increasingly high. Studies show that married men live longer than singles. The problem is that often the woman is tempted to treat your partner as less capable than a man and a boy taken. the most demanding woman. in their work environment. earn a salary significantly higher than women in the same position. the more it acts as if it were his mother. and for women. The restaurant was in full expectation of what would be the response of man. It was absurd to say that the ruin the pineapple pizza." The cantankerousness usually signal that there is a problem of communication between two people. Was it asking too much to let her pick the pizza at least once in their life? After that last sentence. But rather than face it. She. For men. The whole restaurant was silent as the voice of the couple stood. Moreover. is hugely frustrated by the fact he did not use them at home. there is no safer way to kill the passion that's starting to feel that living with his mother. Sip his wine. The more he resists. usually they take in is trivialities and torment each other with cruel words. selfish and lazy. to the menu. it is the work of the shopping and help her to cook. He has not lost the calm. This tendency is especially common among women.the quality of your life would be better-ra impressive. ultimately. produce positive results and. if behaving as such.
in the arms and seek reconfortá it maybe even with a session of sex. that does not mean they are getting properly convey their messages. depression and cantankerousness are the result of communication problems. Solutions cantankerousness: say what you feel A man will never tell you who feel diminished when you criticize his behavior. You. wear something more comfortable. Instead. does not listen because it does not submit the problem as they should. When the two go of it. such as infidelity. The woman generally expected to intuitively know the man she would like to say different things than they actually want. the woman ends up giving up and falling asleep with a feeling of rejection and disaffection. but in recognition: "I am not happy with this life.. I am much more happy and enjoyable to live. And you will never feel that you sexually as uninteresting as his mother. someone who will never meet their expectations. She thinks that yawn and say "I am so tired. Neither will it hit him with her complaints concerned the same problems he used to have with the mother when I was a teenager." never discussed the problem with it. " For many women seem to say that much more difficult than hitting mouth publicly because of the choice of a pizza.you just think of you all the time! Daniel: "Do not shout me. using indirect language. It is the head that his wife is speaking in code. Seated alone in bed. E is silent. If your wife is always complaining. Women have to understand that the functioning of the male brain is comparatively simple and that people rarely can guess what your partner really want wives and beyond .. You're complaining and exaggerating as always. boredom. Daniel is late in coming home from work and his wife Sue is waiting with a few guy friends. I want to get away from it all for two weeks. the man mutter. When you discover that you do not trust their ability to make right decisions. in turn.problems and be nice and warm. to the refrigerator will get another beer and put it on the couch to see football on TV. she launches the attack: Sue: "You do not have account? Why is it so late again. I work late for us to have money and comfort to you .the excess claim ineffective. Many women have difficulties to say. Complaints in only mask a bigger problem of communication. sleeping with her. pass deodorant. make your gargling with halitol. in return. I never know where you are! Dinner was cold . but that is not enough!" Sue: "You really selfish! How about putting his family first for once in your life? You . I turn myself and have a time just for me. I think that I would do very well and feel that. Rarely a woman asks: "Why did he not speak more with me?" The man. physical or verbal abuse. One night. What do you think that I leave the children with my mother for a week. Even if you talk enough. the man responded more positively. he is trying to tell you something that you're not listening. in turn. then you take a week at work to stay with them. women often address his men in a wrong way. As we said. he is finding it a failure. cuddle . Almost all the problems of relationships. I feel suffocated.words actually said. When a woman learns to direct and calmly say what you want. Before he had chance to say anything. I think I'm gonna go to bed" and stay away. even if you think "My wife does not feel more attraction for me. and therefore will continue talking until you hear. communication has improved and the need for cantankerousness . not as a complaint. the man will brush their teeth.
This technique allows you to keep a normal conversation with your partner without fighting. I'm beginning to think that you are not interested and do not like more of me. " The technique of "I" is powerful because it reduces the attitude of defense. I thought you were not feeling well. I have been so busy at work lately. When I come home. I rest. And (I) am not seeing anyone. Is there a problem. right? Acting that neither child again. You only know me complain all the time.You know very well what is your problem! . and (I) promise that from now on ( I) I will call you every time you have to stay at work until later. Here are some of the phrases you type. I never want to talk about them!" Instead of reporting what is really felt through a direct quotation. I do not want you to feel well. Once you enter Daniel with defensive position. When that happens. And their problems only tend to worsen. used by Sue. Solutions cantankerousness: the technique of "I" To get the attention of Daniel. Sue repeated the same message all the time and Daniel was always silent. you're seeing someone? [Interpretation]. Sue expressed hostility of indirect way. She can use the technique of "I" instead of using the word all the time you. Here's how Sue could handle Daniel. The technique of "I" lets it communicate your feelings about the behavior of Daniel. your interpretation of this behavior.You are a selfish! .forever. They are simply left to say really how they feel.Are you always running away! The language of "you" is to attack. You know what your problem is? You're always running away from things." Sue (furious): "Ah. speaking as softly as possible: Sue: "Daniel. It ends with a discussion . " Daniel: "Sue. you are arriving late all week and I do not call to warn [behavior]. your feelings and the impact that such behavior has on you. The technique of "I" has four parts. honey. sorry. without judging them.I expected to do everything!" Daniel (away): "Get off my foot I am dead. thinking that it is just a morose unbearable. leading Daniel to adopt a defensive behavior. I'm not avoiding you.You are acting like children again! .You do not have account? . increases and clarifies the sincerity of the sentiments of all. Neither of them is listening or watching. It describes the behavior of your partner. leaving Daniel deeply angry: . the first thing you should do is avoid Sue left for him. I have worked so much. putting him on the defensive. preventing the situation is clear. I'm getting stressed. [I] am so tired I need a tempinho for myself.never do anything in this house . then it is well! Go to mosey out soon. I like you the truth. So I am saddened [feelings]. communication is interrupted. and always puts the other on the defensive. I am crazy for concern with what may have happened [consequences]. It is almost impossible to irritate anyone . It is as if Sue was a sponsor of the finger in accusation Rist.
But where in the exercise of that responsibility becomes a cantankerousness? And whose fault is that. and if they do not meet. per-sweaty and even require certain behaviors of the children for their safety. responsible. I promise that after you talk to. however. the choice is their own. The more you repeat and calls. Here is how to apply this technique. When can we talk?" When Daniel agrees with a particular time (and respect) and Sue hold while he "looks at the fire. addressing the problem. Statements like "I" work best when they are expressed appropriately at the time. without speaking. want to talk immediately. in fact. Then the child begins to suffer because of this breach did not really think anything wrong. of course." Sue: "Honey. Parents influence the child's pattern of behavior. no tension and no one feels intimidated. Is confused and frustrated. Thus. I had a really long days and difficult gives me half an hour for me to build the dust and relax. insist and ask several times before answering the child. not only with their children. . The more you get frustrated with the contempt it. What began as a simple request of "Come dinner!" becomes a war. Be firm with yourself. wait until your anger placate the other to be able to hear. if one parent at home or a mother complaining all the time: the naughty child or the mother or the father morose? The correct answer is: the father or mother. therefore. this is a vicious circle. to regain your energy. I need to talk to you about what happened today.with yourself. after a full day of hunting to feed the family. The same happens with a man who arrives late to his work: one needs time to recover. In the above example. is more emphatic and angry. think he does not want the requirement is met. sometimes take a deep breath. their well-being and success in life. she learns that it is not necessary to answer the first call. plus the child resists.with this technique. Solutions cantankerousness: Leave the man watching the fire for about thirty minutes When the man returned to the original cave. Enter then the consequences of disobedience. Most women. the proper way and the tone of voice appropriate. Tell your children that you will seek the cooperation of them once. If the pattern is reminiscent of the parents." there is no discussion. Everything that you need is discipline and firm . the messages of Daniel and Sue have been clearly communicated. Solutions cantankerousness: Who trained who? Part of the responsibility of parents is to remember. children trained to be responsible for repeating the call and. The parents currish / disobedient children can be easily corrected for. Prepare to not give a specific situation for thirty days without faltering. needed to be about thirty minutes looking at the fire. not with the child. Daniel: "Honey. For you.
which is probably a small price to pay.train them If you find that is complaining all the time with a person. for example. received the task of taking out the trash every Wednesday night. The first time you apply this tactic will be laughter. underpants and anything that you do not want to see play-of the house. What happens here is that the other person knows that in the end you will end up taking the towel . The behavior of children is the direct result of train-ing given by parents. Two or three times just to be trained to collect it and hang your towel. that the next time this happens you put a wet towel in the bottom of the broom closet. Do not complain to them . if you do not get. So you just collect the used towels because they do not like to mess in the bathroom and why do you think. the laundry will accrue and will not listen to complaints of lack of that dress. thirteen years. or after we finished the movie. you will get it because they do not like to mess in the bathroom and that violates his right to a clean house. for example. Tell them that will put the towel in the yard of the offender.For example: "Jade. I want you to get your clothes dirty on the floor of the room and put in the basket. you become the coach and not ° trained. it is creating the rules and you are obeying. that a thousand times you ask someone not to leave the wet towel on the floor of the bathroom. Solutions cantankerousness: a case study with children Cameron. And the future partners of their children will not complain of their bad habits. but you are teaching responsible habits. The mother stopped asking and started to complain. and complaints are no longer needed.it simply endure their complaints. not to mention it will have a happier home. which they must be totally responsible. otherwise you will continue being the person trained. If you do not put there. it will not be washed." It is here that the self and firmness comes into play. The same technique works with dirty socks. It may seem cruel. will discover how unpleasant it is dry with a towel wet and smelly. Say. Tell them that if any dirty or wet towel is left on the floor. Week after week. nobody will get and no more dry towels to use. If you have self discipline and strength. He used to say that would take the garbage after dinner. Who will give first? If you sell and collect the clothes. but forgot to do it. Here's how to reverse the situation: take a clean towel . the smell of spoiled food in the house would be as if the trash pile. if you follow collecting things from around the world. and the person still doing the same things-sa. Say. confusion and protests. The whole family was no longer believing-not endure the complaints and more feel the . has chosen to continue being a person trained and lose the rights to the claim with any person to leave the clothes scattered on the floor.preferably of different colors each child and / or adult of the house and tell them that this is your personal towel. that means that they trained you to do what she wants you to do. However. In other words. So you no longer train for another person. for better and for worse. When the violator is bathing. Go ahead and take to end its purpose. With this technique. on top of the wall in the dog house or under his pillow. vol-ta to the point of departure. or so leave the bath.
smell of garbage. But Cameron was not there either - he simply forgot and it mattered little to the complaints. Finally, the mother of Cameron has realized that the son was trained to the claim and decided to react. He said that as he did not meet with their responsibility to take the trash out, the whole family was suffering with the smell of spoiled food. And the consequences stated that he would suffer for their disobedience: the garbage that was not carried out would be placed in your room. Since he is not bothered with the smell of spoiled food, no problem would have to sleep with her. The thing was submitted to a fun, relaxed, nonaggressive. The family could hardly wait for the night of Wednesday. As usual, Cameron forgot to take the trash. The following night, when they pulled the sheet to lie in bed, he found full of rotten garbage. The fourth fedia! The cost of this lesson a few sheets were dirty and smelly that Cameron was forced to wash - he knew the consequences. But never forget to take the trash. Construed as a morose If the victim is honest with itself, assuming that there is any truth in claims of morose and recognizing that cantankerousness is usually a cry for recognition, the problem can be quickly transformed into a situation where everyone wins. To feel more important is the need of human nature. The researches have shown, many times, the people who work all day, have their contribution and their efforts recognized, less demanding than those that spend long periods indoors, isolated from other adults. Similarly, the owners-of-house that they do not really like, they feel proud of keeping a home clean and comfortable, to prepare a good and healthy food and give affection to your family, also do not usually complain - since receive the gratitude and recognition due. The people are generally morose performing repetitive and monotonous work or who suffer from being isolated at home. For some women, to wash clothes, clean the carpets, make the beds, do the shopping and cooking, not seeing more sense in that form, can dull the mind after a year or two. If we add to this cocktail ill-bred children who break in ten minutes the work of a whole day, we have a person who will use the cantankerousness to draw attention and try to make other people feel so unhappy about it. When the foundation of the claim is true, the victim must accept its share of responsibility for cantankerousness. The cantankerousness is the result of lack of communication. The challenge of the victim To achieve a situation where everyone wins, both parties need and want to divide the responsibility for change. The victim of complaints must recognize and accept that it must contribute to the solution of the problem. The tendency of the victim is to develop an aggressive behavior or silent, which makes things more difficult. She ignores the morose, yet tries to scream louder, leaving the room or the house and invents excuses for not answering their requests. The victim does not reflect on its share of responsibility because they are infernizada the claims, and puts all the blame on the morose. The only way out is to stop and make a self-assessment, seeing cantankerousness in an application for relief:
- Do you hear the other person? - You understand the frustration of another person? - You show superiority, making it feel devalued? - You acknowledge the achievements of another person? - You refuse to divide the domestic work because anyone who thinks the money should be in a good home? - You are quite lazy and useless? - There is a deep anger that feeds the poor will understand the problems of another? - You want to be happy? If you really want to be happy, feel able to sit with the other person and talk about the problems of you? The challenge of currish If you are morose, I stopped to think that the other may be unable to meet their demands? You are behaving as if the mother authoritarian one? Requires that it meets their requests and complaints promptly, regardless of his needs at that moment? You repeat all the time their demands? - If your answer to any of these questions is yes, sit down with the other and report them using the language of "I". - Tell him what you're leaving you frustrated. - Make an agreement of the best times for their requests. - Stop being is repeating. - Afirme their needs and feelings and listen carefully the response of her husband. - Try to know his opinion. Maybe he has a better idea. - Avoid accusatory phrases such as "You", which produce resistance in the other. - What is the solution or the consequences in case he does not change their negligent behavior? - What are you doing to improve their self-image? - You always rewards that achieves your goals? - You want to be happy? For many people, demand may become a habit, a means to communicate makes them people who sulk, unhappy and resentful of those who should be a daily source of joy, warmth and support. But things need not be. Following our simple strategies, you can build a future much more happy and loving both.
SEVEN THINGS THE OUE -MEN MAKE DEIXA WOMEN IRONING BOARDS It is not easy to say the number of annoying characteristics that women look for men, but the letters we received from more than five thousand readers, we came to the seven questions that women are more often about men. - Why men offer solutions and give advice all the time? - Why men are walking by the TV channels with the remote control? - Why men do not stop the car to ask for guidance? - Why do men insist on leaving the toilet seat raised? - Why do men create problems for both go shopping? - Why do men have very unpleasant personal habits? - Why men like coarse jokes? These habits of men that women classified as "bad" belong to two categories: those they learned in its creation and those related to programming of the brain But both men are capable of solution. Everyone can re-educate, just how to do it. Why men offer solutions and give advice all the time? "My husband is annoying me immensely with his mania of wanting to find solution for everything. He lives giving me advice on how to deal with all problems of my life - even if I do not want, when I just want to talk about my day and my feelings, it is stopping me to say what I do, think and say. He is the best to solve problems when it comes to "things" - dripping taps, lamps burning, defect in the car and computer and stuff -- but when it comes to hear me, he just does not work. And if I do not follow their "advice", he is bored. Karen 'Almost Crazy. " To find out why the man insists on providing solutions for any situation, it is necessary to know some characteristics of the mode of operation of the male brain. From the most primitive ages, the male has evolved as a hunter. The ability to reach moving targets, essential to all they could to feed, was his great contribution to the survival of the human race. He needed accuracy to achieve the prey and eliminate the enemies that it disputed the-ate of and threatened his family. Consequently, it was developed in his brain an area called "visual-spatial" that allows you to achieve success with all his reason for living: to reach goals and solve problems. The men became directed people to the results and measure success by their own achievements and the ability to solve problems. In short, men are defined and self-assess according to their ability to solve problems.
So when a woman offers a board that no man has. but he thinks she is bringing him to solve their problems. Why women are annoyed with the solutions male? The woman's brain is structured for communication through speech. feels honored with the query. He loves providing solutions and advice to others. it is not looking for answers. Here is the problem of the majority of couples: the night. she was criticized for an administrative error. but he thinks she is asking you a solution. He thinks that is caring and loving when seeking to resolve the problems of women. The man whom he calls opinion. It is because he does not pay attention as she is saying and he is angry because she does not accept their solutions. is beginning to offer solutions.The man is valued by the results it is capable of achieving or the precision with which it has a zebra on the move. "do not ask!" Each thinks the other does not value what you are saying. Every man thinks he is the only person able to solve their own problems and therefore did not think to discuss them with anyone. When a man seeks advice from another man. in turn. She just wants the man to listen with interest. she usually wants to talk about the events of the day and share their feelings. For men. especially if part of a woman. and the main purpose of speech is to talk. "Why do not you shut up and listen". are not welcome. much less asking for solutions. She prepares a nice dinner in the expectation that will have a long and frank conversation . She feels that her world is falling apart and want to talk to Andy about it when you get home. because he thinks it should solve its problems alone. seek advice is a demonstration of weakness. that gives the board sees the query as a compliment. Case study: Sarah and Andy Sarah had a rough day at work: the head was marked up. incapable of solving their problems." he shouted back as the door knocks. he feels as if it considers that the declaration incompetent. "If you do not want my opinion. a lost wallet and a broken fingernail. but unsolicited advice. she strongly urges while directed to the port. Most times. He only ask for help when the other person feels the need for a specialist opinion. That's why he rarely speaks about the things that concern. She thinks it is irrelevant or is ignoring your feelings by not listening. and believes that it is making a smart strategic move.
I want to go. Then I said I wanted it ready by the end of the week and that he was scheduling a meeting with the client on Monday to see the work. Closed the business with several important problems still outstanding.. tell him you can not finish the two projects at once and ask which of the two he wants first.. honey? " Andy: "Well" Sarah: "I had the worst day of my life. " Sarah (getting emotional) "I can not believe what I hear I am talking to you on the head that is giving me orders and I do not listen. by the way. Sarah: "How was your day. He listen. She can open the heart with someone like her. " Andy: "Saraaah! If you do not want my opinion. honey?" . He thinks: "Great! Fifteen minutes of quiet before eating.. I think not stand this anymore . and I would not finish the two projects in this period. I will talk about their problems. Call telling him that Sarah had a bad day. It will be nice and friendly. I am not holding more! Andy (still with one eye on the news) "You are not holding more what?" Sarah: "My boss is me creating the biggest problem. (getting danada life) . gives a quick "hi" to Sarah goes to the room and watch the news on TV. Sarah feels abandoned. and you get to say everything I have to do. As Andy could have dealt with the situation Let's rewind the tape and see how Andy could have prevented a very bad night. Solve them yourself and stop complaining to me.. She wants.. is simple . Sarah. yeah? So Fuck you.. On the way home. he will need to adjust it or ask someone to help you with the two projects.. When I tried to explain that the campaign does not was ready because I am still working on the project Seinfield. his mind still working on finding solutions. Can you believe it? He just does not hear me . but he really needs a time to solve their own problems. this is a very common scene. But Andy also had a difficult day. It gives a look at the food and says the dinner will be ready in fifteen minutes. Tomorrow you go there and He says that this deadline is impossible. I already have enough problems that. which he said it was urgent. "Sarah:" How was your day. In the end. knowing that you will feel much better. Andy feels devalued and confused. which will have to address before returning to work the next day. he stopped saying that I did not want to hear excuses and I wanted to campaign on his desk before I close the business on Friday. you take care of your dinner. I get another person to listen to me and it will not be telling me what I did wrong.. It gives you just hear me? I'm full of men who always know everything. that make you feel loved and understood and to convey the conviction that she will be able to solve their problems. I leave and I do not know that hours back! " For men and women around the world. " Andy: "Look. always fix myself!" Sarah (almost crying) "Oh. you have to do is defend himself. He comes home. injured and disarmament. "Sarah thinks:" Great! Fifteen minutes to go before the dinner conversation. then changed the subject and said that I see the six-afternoon on Friday to examine the problems of last minute. When I came to work in the morning. because Sarah rightly criticized its greater ability to troubleshoot.while eating. he said snakes and lizards in my work and wanted to know that I had not finished the new advertising campaign.
And Sarah. got a drink and not just sleeping on the couch alone in the room. Andy avoided a discussion. Sarah feels confident and happy.. at best. . Some come to believe that she is giving you chat for sexual reasons or.. which he said it was urgent. Over dinner I heard her with attention and affection. baby. I call you when dinner is ready... When I came to work this morning.Andy: "It was good. I really would like you to help me find a solution. Then he told me that she wanted ready at the end of the week and that was scheduled with the customer to come in Monday to see our work." Sarah: "He just listened . assume ..." Sarah: "You do not know how I'm stressed! Well. Here's how the dinner was: Sarah: "My boss is me creating the biggest problem. but I will get better after that they can think a little. I'm too tired and stressed.. I love. I want you to tell me everything that happened. but I was very happy to be able to tell you . Andy now has time and space "to sit before the fire and think of their problems.. and when the two parties do not fully understand what that means. baby..." When asking for fifteen minutes and get them. When you want to do business with the opposite sex Men and women do business on a very different. he said snakes and lizards in my work and wondered why I had not finished the new advertising campaign." Sarah: "I had the worst day of my life. my baby. She is going to wreak and feel better about life.. before starting to deal with business. The woman. you need to establish a relationship with the man. " Andy (with an expression of interest) "Honey. sometimes in a very personal level to see what kind of person he is. talk about various subjects. and is reliable. up early in the morning and if you have no good idea. " By not offering solutions.. but then I started to explain that the campaign was not completed because the project Seinfield consumes much time. your business relationship can be financially disastrous. honey . because it will give you all the attention during the dinner. I am not holding more! Andy: "Oh. avoided the usual discussions and felt happy with herself and with life. I'm so stressed that I want to go . When I tried to explain that the campaign was not ready because I'm still working on the project Seinfield.. I feel much better now . but that something terrible! Does he not know that you get a lot of work? You look so stressed . But in the middle of my explanation he simply stopped telling me who did not want to hear apology and wanted to campaign in his desk on Friday. Thanks for listening to me. You want a drink now?" Andy: "Thank you. Many men have a mistaken understanding of the behavior." Sarah: "Okay . before the end of time! Can you believe it? " Andy (showing interest and resistance to give advice) "Looks like he is really creating a very difficult problem for you ." Andy (hugging her) "What a hard day you had. giving Andy some time to himself. but give me some fifteen minutes for me to solve my problems at work. I have some work to solve problems in the morning. I changed the subject and said that I see the six-afternoon on Friday to deal with any last-minute change... What do you mean?" sarah: "I think about it this evening.
that the long-term business relationship leads to a much more consistent. women want to be heard. In short. giving advice is be attentive and show love. the man is satisfied and knowing exactly what she expects of him. For a woman.that she is asking for advice on how to solve their problems. Then they feel entitled to offer and say what she should do. And the woman needs to understand that men feel uncomfortable discussing personal matters and therefore prefers to go straight to business. not recommended. become more prone to make . The man needs to understand that. he will know how to behave. and if not sure of what she wants. The lesson here is simple and definitive: for men. For men. every man has three remote controls and the toilet seats are always raised. this is an efficient way to relieve stress and recharge the batteries for the activities the following day. just ask: "You want me to listen or want me to help find solutions?" Depending on what she says. councils are perceived differently by men and women. The companions asked him never to speak or participate. but now using . To humans. and was long periods without communicating. He sat among colleagues. Why men are walking by the TV channels with the remote control? Remote control. In general. ask. The woman is suffering very much. make it clear what you expect of the man who is wreak. it is easier to deal with a woman when she first establishes a personal connection. The modern man still looks at the bonfire at the end of the day. Definition male: Apparatus used to scroll through all 55 channels every two and a half minutes. in a state of trance. The most likely is that it classifies as a man who does not listen and that it shall give due attention in the business of making Jun-ments. For thousands of years the man spent the night watching the fire after returning from the hunt. How to avoid discussions with the opposite sex When a woman is tense and worried. you just want to listen. but a woman can interpret them as evidence that the man is not ready to hear her. In heaven. even in business." With this approach. Solution When the woman speaks and the man does not know if she is asking for solutions or just bubble. Defining women: Apparatus used to switch a channel of the TV to another. listening with empathy. we need to talk. Shall treat him with reserve. the best and simplest is to tell the man: "I need to talk to you about several things. I do not need solutions. especially when the woman appears worried. leaving him confused and Rally against the bad with the operation of your business relationship. When both parties to understand.
she likes to predict the outcome of situations and also to attend to business. which is one of the explanations for the fact that the number of men who watch the TV news to be six times higher than women. whether he is also emotionally present. more man resists. repairing the car. capable of dealing with several issues at once. in front of the TV with a remote control from hand to hand. The men did not want to know what is going on television. books and remote controls. asking: "What was the last thing I said?" To his frustration. because he thinks his mere physical presence is enough. doing gymnastics or the option almost always favorite. her face. dresses like tango. preferably a novel filled with scenes of emotion and relationships. noticed an antenna driven by solar energy on top of a hut in the village. the man likes to forget their problems seeing the problems of others. For men. Once. The woman accused the man tends to be kilometers away when she tries to talk. but with the brain occupied in the task of reading the newspaper. Women around the world have a particular aversion to the male habit is changing the channel. Concentrate on one thing. engage in any of these activities does the smallest difference . After a long day. The man suffers from not being able to enjoy a moment of idleness. He heard the woman's falação. sex. Secondly. Through channels. That leaves the confused. it analyzes the problems of each program and reflects the respect for reasonable solutions. The more the woman insists. It is therefore a way of relieving stress as well as browse the Internet. How he responds to what she speaks. They want to know what is going on television. however. when we were in the remote Okavango Delta. he is interested in getting the fastest possible conclusions. The woman needs to understand that looking the fire is the way that man has to relieve stress and therefore should not take that attitude in personal terms. Because the brain oriented to solving problems. was not really listening and analyzing what she said. watering plants. look at the problems of others without feeling responsible for them allows you to forget their own worries. Just remember the words of it. from multiple tracks. When he speaks. The female brain. is something each time. She suffers from the man's apparent inattention and disinterest as the person interprets it. the man to forget their problems and feel at peace with himself. she likes to relax watching a television program.the problem remains concerned your mind. which exists to meet two main impulses. watching television is a totally different process. The more he resists. As the mind of man is only able to do one thing at a time. The woman tries to talk to the man just in time when he is reading the newspaper or surfing the channels. he is usually able to tell. north of the Kalahari desert in South Africa. even after having tried to offer solutions and be rejected. When a woman is concerned about a problem. This basic difference between the sexes is a frequent source of problems. each waiting his turn to be walking by the canals. We entered and saw a group of drugs Kalahari. however. The woman.newspapers. The woman's brain is structured to interpret the words and body language of actors. She needs to talk about the problem to get some relief. she is more resentful. make it talk about a variety .
of things. The man. The most plausible explanation for the sense of direction for men is the highest concentration of iron in the right hemisphere of the male brain. without worry to reach solutions. For men. Females. This is therefore the key to teach man the way a woman. must understand that women need to talk and unburden relieve stress.find the path. Means that he wants a moment of quiet. she was able to locate and find the way home. it should consider the possibility of buying its own television set and go see your program in another room. they learned the art of maintaining the sense of direction and recognize the ways to hunt for great distances without losing the direction of home. If you are a woman. is not alone ventured beyond the horizon. a lake or a mountain. is sitting in the passenger seat and just go through the same garage for the third time. past. on the other side of the avenue. something that only one in five women is capable of. men have used the space component of your brain to track the prey and hit the target. pointing to the north within a radius of 90 degrees. it should tell the man. when entering for the first time in a room without windows. they feel pennite magnetic north. He would go to the pillory than admit to a woman who is lost. This explains why more than a third of men. defenders of nests and offspring. so they learned to be guided by landmarks . it is likely that it arrived.the sense of direction has never been a need or part of their job description. And if not advance. Seeing a tree. to locate the car in a large park-ing and to resume a place where it once. The silence of the man does not mean he does not love her. it may disappear forever. Solution To solve the problem of remote control. calmly. that the troubles and ask him to please not do so when she is watching your program. This is the same ability that men use to find the place where he was sitting in a football stadium. If he says "go to where the street has a huge tree. that is lost means that failed in their ability number one . it is important not criticize him or give advice. then go toward building a pink next to the National Bank.000 years. Why men do not stop the car to ask for guidance? For over 100. During this period. But if he says "take the third exit to west on Highway 23 and walk five kilometers to the north". in turn. present and future-feeling. all at the same time. Men never lose -only discover alternative destinations. especially if it has no intention of getting a .
never lead a support group. could stay. Fred. You never hear a man say: "Hey. had to go alone and defend itself in case of need. The man. however. Men never urinate in bathrooms. smiling: "Multiple . The modern homes are designed and built to accommodate men and women equally." "Thank you. when they go to the bathroom. pretending that. for safety. he explained. he still lacked two things to be split between Adam and Eve A. with seats for women and set the wall urinals for men. And God saw that it was good. here is the other thing. which require a stop. that the modern habit inherited from their ancestors. all public restrooms have separate facilities for men and women. The offer was excitadíssimo and begged God to the left for him." Eva replied "Who are you?" And God replied. to be politically correct. Today. I took another woman. leaving many people very angry. the bathroom has moved into the houses and public establishments. but men are at a disadvantage because the restrooms accommodate domestic needs especially women. But the practice of going to the bathroom in groups remains among women. A rapid and safe emergency strategy is to tell you that you need too go to the bathroom. Then God gave to Adam. When God finished creating the universe. was an instrument that would allow its possessor to urinate standing up. the toilet cubicles were in the back of the house. is severely criticized. Or maybe." he said.foot. preferably in a gas station. I'm going to soak-ro . a wall or a tree. are buying something. Why are four million sperm needed to find and fertilize one egg? Because no one likes to ask what is the path. he has time to ask for guidance. "I think you can keep it. While you're in the bathroom. The women always felt. but in bushes or supported on objects. but be sure to hear it. At home. but the slope. the man has to lift the board not to wet the place where the woman will sit.. but the men just sit in 10-20% of cases. Eva smiled. When the download was invented at the end of the nineteenth century. You do not want to come with me?" Men. Solution Buy a map or a guide and leave it in the car. who immediately was urinating on a tree and draw a picture in the sand. That is why we rarely see a man urine in the open.. and told God that if Adam wanted to do so. outside. benevolent. But when you forget to below her back. Why do men insist on raising the leaving the toilet seat? By the end of the nineteenth century. Then God sent to Eva "Well. Ask you to information. Why do women never take the trouble to raise the seat to the man? In Sweden there is an article of a law requiring the man to urinate sitting in public restrooms. When a woman went to the bathroom. you can tell who is affectionately distressed to reach the destination and ask him to stop. depending on the relationship of trust that has been built between the two.
It requires that I sit urine.Orgasms. three ties and two pairs of shoes in less than eight minutes. Solution Ask the man who sat urine may cause some problems. it kills me while I'm asleep.one for him. . in the Islamic world that millions of men sit to urinate every day . The British psychologist Dr David Lewis found that the stress that men experience during the Christmas shopping equivalent to a police dealing with an angry crowd disorder. and even then the penis to urinate over the roll of toilet paper in the left leg of the pants or on top of the shoe. To a man. shopping is an activity located in the same plane to take of the prostate with a doctor of cold hands. Thus. one can enjoy the standard of cleanliness and hygiene that you like.which absolutely does not compromise the masculinity. the man does not give the slightest importance to the fact that the seat be raised or lowered." One of our male readers wrote us to say as he and his wife faced the problem of the toilet seat: "Women need to understand that the penis has its own designs. If it is the bathroom at night and sit again in the wet board. the book takes him more. His task will be washing the bathroom. without having to worry about the other. the ideal solution is to buy a house with two bathrooms . If this is not enough to convince you. a pair of shoes. "After 28 years of marriage. and still alone on top. there is not enough to trust him. The life of primitive man as a hunter gave him a sort of "tunnel vision" that allows you to move directly from point A to point B in a straight line. because of this.or reforming the current home to create an extra bathroom. And the best is that. or fall into the pot for that. so calm and firm. Why do men create problems both for shopping? The great advantage of being human is we can buy two. He is able to buy Christmas gifts for the whole family in forty minutes. The reasons for this are clear to anyone who has studied the evolution of different male and female brains and understand their respective schedules. a suit and two shirts last for years. the four in the afternoon of day 24. a belt. I left the seat up. The man can get a cabin bathroom (where all the urinals are occupied). For most women. For most men. perhaps decades. The ziguezagues between shops and kiosks that women needed to consider a purchase as a successful man leave extremely anxious. but may be upset with the woman if she require authoritatively that lets you down. Maybe this can make sitting more attractive? If you are to them. " Indeed. instead of asking politely . my wife decided I train now. which means spending a day on the floor cloth to clean all the drops lost. And I am convinced that this is a small price to pay. look perfectly in the middle of the toilet. I speak seriously. one for her .or below it herself . may be remembered. on the contrary. shopping is one of the favorite ways of relieving stress. just for new household rules. If the man refuses. This is clothing to last more than five years. I have no permission to urinate as a man on foot. because any change of direction requires a conscious decision. It is said that the Prophet urinated standing up once in life. three shirts. a garden where it was impossible to sit.
the idea is inconceivable. For men.this causes it to again use their spatial skills to find the answer. feeling and showing all the things that are as speak with each other on a lot of issues with no relation to what they are doing. the fashion. Always ask what he likes to eat and buy him his favorite foods. Leave a full day with a group of peers with no clear destination. Even without finding anything worth the penalty to take home. they always go home the same items . and returned home. the color of hair. Polls show that not only the men do not like to shop. buy the memory and examine all the stuff you seem interesting. The male brain is structured to focus on a single task. At this point the reader may be impatient and was saying: "All this because of some shopping?" Remember. fabrics and price ranges and send it to the game. They spend their days going from place to place in a nonstructured. Ask the man how to get in the shopping cart . nine cans of tomato sauce and very little thing. Give him clear objectives . Consequently. smelling. but men prefer to go straight. skin and eyes. who is leaving and who will do . maneuvers. Today it is exactly so that men like to shop. defined goal or time limit. with his peripheral vision more broadly. when shopping. so you need the encouragement. How to buy clothes The same principles that apply in the motivational-supermarket's worth of clothes in the shops too . But there are ways to help the man to have a positive feeling about it. He forgets what she asked and returns home with a couple of "gifts": the product of his "hunting". flavors and sizes . however. they feel satisfied because they had a great day. and again at the end of the day with little to show. speeds and stuff. bread and eggs when returning to work can happen to bring him sardines and light mayonnaise.the kitchen cabinet of a single man has ten packages of pasta. feeler. challenge you to find the best prices and praise him when he gets results. That is why when you ask a man to buy milk. and the limit of time is not important. the place where you are going. How do supermarket Let the man pushing the cart. Women shop the way their ancestors catavam food: going the whole day with other women for a place where one is reminded of have seen growing plants tasty.The woman. no route. but they affect the health of them. and then go home empty-handed. . the supermarket zigzag loading a list. She dresses carefully in accordance with the time the season. due to the stress they cause. Men have evolved as creatures that kill their prey. zigzag with greater tranquility in a mall crowded with people. For a man. There must be a specific goal or guideline. colors.brands. Women.as you zigzag the gondolas. how you feel that day.give the man sizes. just give cheiradinha the clothes you left in the back of the chair. Men like to be in control and therefore to "guide them" using their ability to space curves. which means he failed. shopping is not part of the programming of the male brain.
I always secure her hand. If it takes more. reach a maximum of thirty minutes. she is accused of suggesting that fat. is what is commonly called the drop bang. So save you the question. When received male hormones. ALLAN PEAS Even with these strategies. If I drop it buys. It is less likely. At the top of the list of men habits that women can not tolerate are: take meleca nose.What can be said of a man well dressed? That the wife chooses their clothes well. The advantage of being a man is not to leave the room to fix the private parts. they perceive a female habit offensive. while the man waiting outside the fitting room. it will find that you are fat. the man feels anxious because he knows that will never have the right answer and is therefore wrong and let the woman boring. the woman must provide a magazine to read it. The other ate the seeds of all colors without any order. First ate all the red beans until done. Although it is a sign of good health and nutrition. the chair-thebored-husband. smell. self-expression and male entertainment. In general. women complain that men are much more unacceptable personal habits than them. If a woman asks the man to buy something for her or to get a particular article. something that has a horrible name: fart. Solution Give the man a single thing to do at a time and not try to convince you that you are saving a lot of money buying a larger quantity. it is important that you remember: the concentration of most men in a shop has. wear old underwear and rub the bag. by far. When trying clothes. you must give the exact size of clothing you want. but the studies do not support this thesis. One explanation for the way men shop was developed from studies with chickens. Flatulence: noun. Men are more tolerant in accepting what they consider bad habits women and provide care in less detail than women. then all yellow. noun. the chickens how to move the food Cisca. bang release is an act universally . masculine: a source of entertainment. Why men are so unpleasant personal habits? Everywhere. feminine: an embarrassing byproduct of digestion. But number one. therefore. Never ask him "You think I am better with the blue dress or the gold". If you catch a smaller number. burp.
garlic. It is important that the woman tell the man with the greatest possible objectivity and . seven. although most is belch.disapproved by women. but with much less odor. The men released about twelve puns and women a day. fruits and vegetables in general. Among the products that reduce the amount of gases produced by the body are the chips of coal. you may need a more efficient tactics. The humpback is ranked second. eat slowly and do not see TV during the meal. When the surrounding is tipped for the couple. As a result.5 liters of gas per day.1% of women will admit it someday. See the example of one of our readers. it is always easy to turn and fight for the dog with him to scream. bread. Solution One obvious remedy is to prepare healthy meals with less genera-producing gases and offer the man a cup of mint tea after the meal. encourage the man not to drink water during the meal.until the big fights happen. onion. Food combinations also give good results. increasing the likelihood of releasing gases later. women emit 1-1. Among men.3% of men acknowledge that drop puns. The main causes of excess gas is too much talk and talk during the meal. she benefit from a bag and roll of toilet paper for everyone would hear: "Does this help?" The mascots also solve the problem. enough to fill a balloon.5-2. If it does not comply with this standard. so nobody knew who was. While men emit an average of 1. beer. cabbage. Every time I went with Sharon. Nigel thought it very funny . a minute ago. The air is trapped in the digestive system and." Sharon decided to establish the room and the kitchen as "prohibited zones of bang. flour. Sharon was obviously found guilty. drop bang for fun is a practice that begins more or less at ten years old when the prestige of children is measured by the ability to release various kinds of puns. Before. such as carbohydrates and proteins never join in the same meal. Nigel released huge puns in public places such as department stores. to prepare "in desgasificantes and products made of mint and ginger. Flatulence: the facts While 96. is imitating voices or blue flare launching the fourth with the aid the lighter. To hear noise or feel the smell of fart. only 2. It was washed with more expensive. instead of coffee. broccoli. the rest goes to the large intestine where it mixes with other gases and is ready to explode in the most unusual. but drinking during a meal dilutes the digestive juices. why was all red and with an embarrassed air. Find an example." When you were in a public place. In addition. beans. eg diu-to warn you that at least two minutes before the release will feel when a bang. no problem. At home. he released puns in bed and called it the "test of true love. Never shall it be the man eat food producers of gas less than two hours before bedtime. Chew the food well. vegetarians deploy more puns. Food reactions Foods that produce gas are more cauliflower. But if he insists on eating quickly and drop the boom all the time.5 liters of gas.
But women never make jokes with them. and crying is a reaction of surprise and fear. then turns chocolate. The laughter is an extension of crying. Why men like coarse jokes? The humor has to man three main purposes: first. Here are some jokes that stimulate domestic relation Cère male-ber: 1. The female sexual organs are capable of astonishing feats of human reproduction.he is sleeping. rushed away to a tree. Why the name men give to their own penis? . admit the truth about a matter in question. 2. are certainly protected and. not give them names of estimation.it is located in the frontal lobe of the brain above the right eye. Some men are able to tell jokes that you heard in the fourth grade. A woman can make it clear that the boom in the bedroom . Examination of magnetic resonance imaging show that men laugh most of the things that stimulate the right side of the brain and that it gives to women the exact opposite. With the terrorist you can negotiate. none of these things is not remotely funny. and terrible events male genitalia. claims to have discovered where is the male sense of humor . how much this habit to bother. . to help deal with tragic events. When you deliberately frighten a child playing hide-andseek in the first reaction is her cry of fear. Other chimpanzees that warns of the danger. to make the championships enchain bang and grooms in the light poles. she laughs. or the deal as a reason to laugh. step by step. as among monkeys. The male sexual organs are hanging right in front of a vulnerable and weak (additional proof that God is female) and are a source of fun and free for men. When the child realizes that the situation is not threatening. 2. The University of Rochester. throws her head down and produces a sequence of sounds very similar to human laughter. second. Men find very funny show in the ass for unsuspected group of older women. if progress. the laughter indicates that she knows it was only joke. third. What can you say to a man who has sex? . A major difference between the sexes is the male obsession with jokes about tragedies. in turn. Men love humor and jokes that have a logical.especially in the double bed . when can escape from a lion. with some unpredictable conclusion. evident in children from birth. Caring for food with the aim of releasing less gas. For example: 1. Why do not want strangers to take their key decisions. What is the perfect lover? . but do not know the names of the children of your best friends. 3. Make love to the two in the morning. mostly nuns. gaining prestige with men to have a good repertoire.it takes all the desire to have sex. The chimpanzee. USA. For most women. The male brain has an amazing ability to store and remember jokes. extending over four kilometers. enjoy a much more enjoyable sex life. Because no man would do such a face on purpose. it can. which means that if for a moment she experienced a reaction of fear. Why men do not simulate the orgasm? . The laughter has its roots in our remote past when it was used to warn other people of an imminent danger. What you want . What is the difference between a woman in the TPM and a terrorist? . The female humor involves people.serenity. relationships and men.
a kind of "cheap" natural. the laughter turns into crying. Women deal with disasters and tragedies openly expressing their emotions to other people. alcohol or sex. the arteries dilate and the muscles relax. enhances learning and extends life. Think the last time that someone told you a joke that made you slip in uncontrollable laughter. but someone who can not accept it may start to laugh. The laughter is a predominantly male to deal with emotional pain. And that is why. but men account. The more difficult it is for a man talk . while promoting the immune system. The laughter and crying are closely related from a psychological and physiological. Here lies the difference between men and women with regard to dealing with serious emotional problems. The basis of many jokes is a disastrous event or painful experience for someone. começaríamos to cry immediately and the body released encefalina too. seem ill more frequently. networks of e-mails from around the world are literally flooded jokes sent by men. As the jokes and humor relieve the pain The laughter and crying instruct the brain to release endorphins into the bloodstream. Osama bin Laden has 53 brothers and sisters. that when a tragedy happens global. another Body natural tranquilizer that relieves the pain. That is why the cry is often the extent of access of laughter. 28 children and more than 300 million dollars. stabilizes the wrist. The laughter anesthesia the body. research has shown that the positive effects of laughter. which explains why the general well-adjusted people laugh and most unfortunate that people become even more unfortunate. But he says he hates the Americans because of the excessive way of life they lead. They tell jokes as a way to "talk about the event. Whether the death of Princess Diana. In all parts of the world. Cry when we have a painful experience. But knowing that it is not a real event. activates the immune system. the male brain enter immediately into action. This explains why people rarely get sick and happy that the unfortunate people who are complaining live. If it were a real event.The jokes are as important as a means of communication among men. without showing any emotional blow that can be seen as weakness. assists the memory. Endorphin is a substance whose chemical composition is similar to morphine and heroin and has a soothing effect on the body. Many people get the similar effect of laughter with drugs. in general people cry. Alcohol loosen the inhibitions and makes a person laugh. you usually cry. releasing endorphins. How did you feel then? That feeling of tingling was from the release of endorphins to the blood system. and even violent when they drink vodka or gin drinks. releasing anesthetic produced by the body. strengthen the immune system. the September 11 or the hunt for Osama bin Laden. and the endorphins and encefalina help in self-anesthetize. protects against diseases. when faced with a serious emotional crisis such as death. laughed and released endorphins to the selfanesthetize. After the laughter. "I cried from laughing so much!" The tears contain encefalina. When the person know it's reality. At the end of a meeting of great laughs. 73 wives. The mood cure. the breathing is deeper.
to do what you want to do it is always the same. How to re-educate the man The training of any person . And choose to offend the world says you are unable to deal with the problem addressed by the joke. That does not mean they are really stupid. As a result. . And no man who finds the mother sexually attractive. eventually playing the mother figure and man react with screams. If he persists. Other people may not offend you . conniption and leakage. the more he rirá if you tell a joke on the subject. Portuguese and feminist. preparing their favorite dishes. analytical. If a man insist wisecrack unfit at or in the wrong place. They feel attracted to women. and the counter attack of the joke does not become more intelligent. cease to be victims of traffic on both of rabies. as cruel and insensitive as it may seem to women. A social occasion. As already suggested. especially if you are the host. are able to discuss details of their sex lives with friends without the help of any joke. boys grow up with few skills and domestic skills and a low degree of understanding of how to relate to a woman. Women live behind the things that the children leave the house. we laugh along with the British. Miff is a choice. tell him so firm and gentle you are not enjoying it and want it to stop.blame his mother The female brain is programmed to create and nurture the children mainly.child or adult . as the mother. At the beginning of a new relationship. Women. It is important to understand that women. Despite the jokes. they tell jokes as a way to discuss her. If you are capable of taking a calm. We are Australian author living in England and the English are all the time telling us jokes about Australians. acting as a mother all the time. You can choose to feel offended because someone told a joke that says that everyone in your country is stupid. In any event. give them money and protect the bitterness of life. You can choose to feel the rage of traffic jam. As the men rarely talk about his sex life with men. using the knowledge acquired in this book to check if all are in agreement with the differences between men and women! Learned behavior . The man who asked you to stop improper wisecrack may feel publicly humiliated and be challenged from the other even more offensive. If it's a good joke. Maybe we should use the following tactics: "You are a great counter jokes. we chose not to hurt. just go do something else. maybe find a solution to the problem. on the grounds that the traffic being stopped. your clothes are. but your anger will not make the traffic flow. Do not be offended While there are Irish there are jokes about Irish. What about Asian. but when he realizes that may become permanent. You want the behavior that rewards and punishes as either. things go sour. it will invariably create their own collection of jokes. most women assume this role. however. this observation may be more difficult. will nourish you and serve you. Do know any more light?" Or you can ably deflect the subject.about an emotional event. And where there is a tragedy.if you choose offense.
but their brains work the same. Maybe. you know where to find. if large tools or unfinished projects for the house. therefore. If they ignore your request. tell him I will put them in a de-finished cabinet. judgmentalism or aggressive. instead of discussing. Thus. Some women are horrified at the idea of thanking a man for him to do something as simple as collecting their own clothes. not yours. When he needs pants. Men are always the same . But if you continue to collect and save his stuff. because it generally produces a negative effect on men. a caress or a "thank you". explain politely that you would like the clothes were put in the basket to be washed. reward their contribution with a smile. the next time you ask women to the seven things that men do leave them mad. culture or religion. because that will only reinforce the behavior you do not want.you can change the skin color. Similarly. but it is important to understand that men have not changed as guardians of nests and.is the man to drop the clothes or wet towel on the floor rather than put it in the basket of laundry. If you intend to re-educate your man. If the mother of a man not trained to do these things. How they interfere with their right to live in a clean house. you have chosen to accept that the role of substitute mother's will and to comply with this role. you will discover that it can be fun to have a man around. the sexes will be able to live happily ever after. shirts or towels washed. the problem is his. Do not place them in the shop or anywhere that is convenient for him. When you understand how the male brain. miff or frustrate yourself with them. The secret is to administer the men of his life. And when he put the things in the right place. . The key problem is to announce its intentions in advance and avoid being sarcastic. Who knows. When he need them. the care is not a behavior "natural" for them. explain that you will put them in a plastic bag in a closet or under the bed. they may fail to mention or three. collect the clothes and the towel. resisting the temptation to save his stuff. or were born in Trieste or in Timbuktu. will you train it.
whine (the dog). gave me a new bike! The mother of salt / and gave her one! ! The woman: "You forgot the anniversary of our marriage! Our relationship fell na. whimper. the excess of tears that can not be drained by the lacrimal channels rolls by side. whine. The tears are secreted by a gland located above the eye and removed by two channels in the internal corner. wail. sick and then. the tears serve three purposes: to help clean the surface of the eye.Chapter 3 WHY Women cry? The dangers of emotional blackmail Poor man. even if they are not aware of it. We now examine how the emotions can be used to manipulate people and make them sell. reaching for his time in the nasal cavity. excrete chemicals generated by stress. women are more likely to use the tears as a weapon of emotional blackmail. " So far. Emo-tional circumstances or afflicted. For humans. The daughter: "If you really like me.. Why cry? Cry: yell. the channel is the lacrimal drain. Sometimes the cry comes as direct response of the heart. The lacrimal gland is the tap. lover. each with their particular complaint. once I die. Although men occasionally do this. leak. This chapter will help you identify the people who use such tactics to manipulate you or trick you in order to obtain what they want.rotina. wail. She also cries to look sorry and receive more lenient a punishment for a wrong action. spill or blubber. It is a mechanism of control that can be deliberate or unconscious. howl. distress signal in emotionally charged situations. whine. . Crying is a behavior that we have in common with other animals and that starts at birth.. All stories are true . but humans are the only ones who cry with emotion. shed some serious and humorous on the differences between the sexes and what you can do about it. I am old. The goal is to force the other person . you do not love me more! "The old mother:" No need to worry about me .husband.only the names have been changed to protect the guilty. parent or friend .to act in a different way than would like. trapped between three women who mourn. child. but there are times when people cry to manipulate the emotions of others.
That would explain why women they feel better after "a good cry". he encourages other men to attack him. but the amount of tears is not enough to roll the face. where someone tries to extract advantage . Humans. a process known to us all.usually money . and encourage the production of the hormone oxytocin. Most women can identify seven different meanings in the crying baby. behavior perpetuated among adults. the man who shows emotion. and friend plays the role of parent helpers. This is what happens when the light reflects the tears of parents proud and passionate lovers. The seals and sea otters do not use tears as a tool of manipulation. is stimulating feelings of affection and protection. Familiar cry has three purposes: 1. even seem to be no reason to do so. because the whole process rolling.Why women cry more than men? Cry since born. is a sign of confidence: the crying is the baby. The tears act as a signal to the other emotional embrace and comfort those who cry. display their emotions. is placed at risk. Reduce stress: chemical analysis show that the tears of stress. By transmitting weakness. by which it assesses their needs. Wash the eye: The lacrimal gland discharges fluid inside the eye and lacrimal channels act as drains to drain it to the nasal cavity. we examine the mechanism of manipulation. to manipulate emotion. The body seems to use this function to eliminate the toxins of stress. The prime purpose of crying in adults. which is consistent with the emotional reactions of the brain most powerful women.Flag emotions: Seals and sea otters cry when emotionally shaken by the loss of their young. The lacrimal glands of women are more active than those of man. The crying and the emotional blackmail How to blackmail Now you know the purpose of crying. containing the different proteins that serve to clean the eye. which makes people want to be touched by other people and acaricides. a natural body of anesthetics that act as shock of emotional pain.from another person by threatening to reveal something that . The human being is the only land animal that cries of excitement and. Let's talk about criminal blackmail. The tears contain an enzyme called lysozyme. For women. The eyes glow when a person feels an intense emotion. Crying is a way to achieve what the child wants. especially in the presence of other men. The tears also contain endorphins. 2. for some women. Cry used to remove salt and other impurities from the eye. those who roll the sides. which kills bacteria and prevents infections in the eye. however. yes. 3 . Rarely you see a man cry in public. especially for other women.
that would invite the parent to live with them. When we sat at the table. "It probably is a co-worker. "We are not owners of each other.. It is I" And off to cry. From that day. "No. "tell me what happened. "Tell me. Case study: Rosemary Greg. with heavy heart. Is it something so bad?" Between tears. That night.The threat: exposure. Greg.. But how could imagine what the reaction from Greg. Excuse me. She is very patient and I am worried.The requirement: the payment in exchange for silence or cooperation. I give a way. "I feel terrible. Greg was starting to become distressed. . That is therefore the main ingredients of blackmail and criminal actors: .Continuity: the inevitable continuation of exigêncÚs. Took her to the bar to present it to the owner. I am afraid of you getting angry with me and not stand that. Greg. "It's Mommy. she put her head between his hands. no. carefully chose the moment to present it. Do not worry. served him a glass of wine and asked how was your day. and her mother did not like each other." Greg was furious when his wife told him that story. Greg hugged her and she begged him to say what was the problem. . the relationship with the parents of Greg finally turned sour." Greg began to think the worst." she said with soft voice and hacking. Rosemary prying eyes at him. I take care of her. . all is well." he begged. she told Rosemary that one of her friends had seen Greg with another woman in a bar. "No. Rosemary shake. acceptance of the demands of the blackmailer. she knew he was calm and relaxed. the mother of Rosemary and daughter became seriously ill understood. but not ." Greg held the hands of women. . "I do not know how to say.will harm the victim's life. who was combining a party-surprise for the anniversary of Rosemary. please. .The blackmailer: a person who knows the weak point of the victim.Resistance: the victim's initial refusal to cooperate. Greg. I will try to understand. The mother thought that Greg was not good enough for his daughter and was always trying to create problems for the couple. The emotional blackmail The emotional blackmail happens when a person threatens you emotionally close to any punishment or subtly insinuated that you will suffer if you do not agree with what she wants. Between tears. punishment and loss of something of great value material or emotional. what? Something I did?" Rosemary shook her head with a sad air. One day. "Rosie.The victim: someone who has a sense of guilt or obligation. . Frankly. Greg asked what was wrong. she shook her head." she replied. Two years later. the husband of Rosemary. After dessert. went hand in the eyes and deep breath." suggested Rosemary. you did nothing.The agreement. This person knows their innermost secrets and vulnerabilities and USA that knowledge to make you comply. Rosemary should be having an affair. pleading." "But Rosie. made a special deal in appearance and prepared the favorite of Greg. Concerned. When he came home. I tried all possible solutions. but I know what you think of the idea of her live with us. "No. .
it would be virtually impossible to go back. The requirement: the mother of Rosemary go live with them. The people who are emotional blackmail. And Greg knew that every time he protests. it was your mother I know. Initially.. In general. Men and emotional blackmail Men are. children and other family and social groups . The threat: the implicit refusal of love where Rosemary not get what they want. The blackmailer: Rosemary . In the end. Everybody knows at least one person who has used tactics of emotional blackmail to force them to do something that they initially refused. The pattern was established. But after two days of tears of Rosemary. Defenders of the nest. rather than say it directly at the risk of a refusal to listen. there would be tears and accusations.. people do not believe that their relatives and friends use this type of strategy on a conscious and deliberate.found. and this is killing me . often.and their brains are structured to make them work. To obtain your agreement..he felt weakness and feeling of guilt when his wife was emotionally distressed. relatives and friends. without anyone to care for her. your relationship with the blackmailer will never be the same. The strength of the initial refusal to cooperate Greg. It is inevitable that you will be felt by being placed in this situation. the blackmailer makes you feel bad with yourself and guilty of resisting. should not be prepared to make that sacrifice for it? Is this not true love? Marriage is compromise? And started to feel selfish and petty . Greg agreed to a trial period of a month. they have a incontomável need to be loved. The agreement: Greg yields to the demands of Rosemary. Use because..with partners.realized the weakness of Greg. But the consequences of emotional blackmail is always destructive. " And started to sob. but . Perhaps a situation similar to that of Greg. who developed the role of peace keepers tend to say exactly what they want when they want something. most frequently the victims of that the villains of emotional blackmail. Greg was flatly refused to consider the possibility of bringing the parents to live with them. Whether you realize it or not. and he would feel sick. maybe that person who never seems to say exactly what you want . Continuation: the inevitable discussions and in tears. Women. more commonly. The many lack the self-esteem necessary to consider worthy of the object of their desires. They prefer to ask directly what they want. You end up agreeing to something not wanted to do. If he really loved Rosemary. the emotional blackmail to get what they want.they always end up manipulating to achieve their final goal. Its function has always been to nurture relationships . by far. .exactly as Rosemary thought he would stay. Both Rosemary as her mother knew that once she enters the door. It is important that you identify the people in their relations that use these tactics of manipulation to get what they want.thinking about Mom alone. Oh. I do not know what to do . Greg. began to feel guilty. The story of Greg and Rosemary has the typical ingredients of blackmail in which a person tries to emotionally manipulate the other to obtain a personal gain: The victim: Greg .
for centuries. Damian was getting impatient. to buy your partner a bouquet of flowers before you ask." But Erika did not seem convinced. in his stratagems and his cunning to get what they wanted. Turned to Erika and began kissing her and rummage in his shirt.. And their brains continue to evolve that way. this is the time. spend the weekends away and so on.. He could not understand why. For me. If a man wished that his mother would live with him. Women prefer to emotional blackmail. The male brain functions are much simpler with regard to emotions. and this would be the maximum of their manipulation. the men preferred the direct approach. I do not feel ready. We give it so well that I want to show you how much I love you. So it is not contained and asked what was wrong. The trend would come right in the matter and discuss it frankly. "Sorry. After five minutes." Damian whispered in his ear: "Come on. I never felt this for someone else. The men use the direct approach and well structured to achieve what they want. And twice in the match led a long and deep kiss before she desvencilhar of his arms and leave the car running for home. But it is too early. And a third. sorry . moved away. he tried to take the shirt of Erika. there are some situations in which men often resort to emotional blackmail. She has helped to unbutton it and started to caress. Without enough force to impose their will. He liked to Erika and I have sex with her but the girl resisting. men require. In the course of history. I really like . Men are also emotional blackmail. men always occupied positions were always more powerful and more open master-mind of women. May propose to build an annex in the house. However. In general. please. When the time comes. meanwhile. taking into account the pros and cons. the use to convince girlfriends to make sex with them. The same happened a second time. for example. sweetheart. I know. women had to rely. I like you the truth. but was rejected. I love you. Be patient with me." Erika. I only make love with you.. We only went three times. but in much smaller scale. I just want to know you better. Case study: Damian Damian came out twice with Erika. thought it natural that she wanted to make love as much as him. you know you want. after a dinner theater and much more expensive than Damian wanted to pay. Damian . I like you the truth. When hunting. or subtly asking that everyone agree with what they want. "Erika. he stopped the car park in a poorly lit and turned off the engine. immediately. As Erika said that he liked it. "No. Damian.The blackmail seems to be the easiest way because it allows the person to avoid the confrontation. but I do not want.. hire an escort to take care of mother. In the third meeting. and usually women consent. The boys.
husbands or wives. We forget that this happened.. Women hate men see emotionally disturbed." "I will leave you without a penny. I like you. It is better if we separate.. " Erika Damian just having sex with that night. I was a complete idiot. and it is natural for a man wanting to express love physically. Damian.." Children: . When Damian subtly accused it of not liking him. Here. I thought that things were going well between us. If I had said so directly." "I will disinherit you. I love you." But Erika. "Because . A relationship that starts well is doomed to failure. I have hurt before . But when he said that does not support the idea of being hurt again. Common tactics of blackmail emotional The practice of emotional blackmail may be lovers. Used to see men as strong and infallible creatures. Damian.." Lovers: "Everybody does. the requirement. Finally. But I see that I am completely wrong . then it is better to give people a longer time while I'm not too concerned . Erika was the victim and sex." Damian was crestfallen.you.. parents or friends." "If you love me. He knew exactly what were the weaknesses of the Erika and struck without mercy. children. I'm sorry." "Why are you doing this to me? You are blood of my blood!" Husbands / wives: "I can not believe you're so selfish!" "You do not love me. that awakens their maternal instincts and desire to help them get rid of pain. parents. Damian was the blackmailer. What's wrong with you?" "This is what people who love to do some the other. Here are some of the threats or punishment typical of the emotional blackmail that it may sound familiar: Parents: "After everything I did for you. but I am not prepared." And got the key to the car to start the engine.. look. though no longer absolutely clear that he liked her. but that is how I feel. do it for me. women are deeply shaken when they see a man collapse. Erika began to feel that perhaps the only way to convince you were agreeing to have sex." "When we fuck. But if you do not feel the same. Damian left implicit threat "that was ready to end the relationship if you do not get what they want. it would not have reacted as reacted. I always hated." It seemed so upset that Erika could not avoid a sense of shame. Erika was increasingly upset. I think you're a great guy and I spend more time with you." Ex-partners: "I will lead you to stick to family. I just need a little more time .. it is clear that you do not feel for me what I feel for you. "No.. sad. As expected that two people build a relationship of respect and mutual trust based on the manipulation? The emotional blackmail is not destroyed immediately combated. she stopped resisting and was blackmailing left to do something not wanted. "No." Damian shook his head. You will never see the children. Sometimes employers can be. The emotional blackmail rife in families and is a practice that is transmitted from generation to generation. And their relationship lasted two weeks. "No.." "Of course you do not love me. I thought that you feel for me what I feel for you. I regret... Erika. This leaves the way open for Damian to want sex all the time you see.
I never had money. They must take the consequences. This is the guy they like most of the children you love me." Friends: "If the need were you. will suffer the consequences. he asked the children and she felt obliged to lie. The children then did exactly the same. It is not fair. do you?" Katie." "You've heard of sexual harassment?" What the blackmailer is saying is: "If you do not behave the way I want. If I do not do well.I have been adopted. saying they were on a tour of the school. Parents who routinely try to blackmail your children must be prepared to see the spell turned against the magician. "He is alone and wants to see you. How children feel relatively powerless because of their age and size. End of story. Every time I visited the uncle. It has nothing to do. Case study: Julia The more grown less if the children of Julia had to go visit Uncle John. blackmail seems to be the most effective and easy to get what they want."All the other parents do this for their children. Julia felt powerless and trying to exercise a moral and emotional pressure on children. You do not remember what he did for you when you were small? Mimava account and would take you two. I can never go out with my friends. of sixteen years. You want us to be disapproved." "You like more of my sister than me. you should not be doing your heart with us. "But mother. "Oh. he is completely deaf. ." argued Bemard of fifteen years. or in any particular activity that kept distant." "I'm sure the press will like to know that. mother. In this scenario. Instead of arguing with them calmly and coolly. I would go with you today." In-laws: "I leave everything to a charity." "Make sure your name is never a list of deals. or busy with their tasks from home. but spent everything I had with you." she told them. Note that I have ne-le vai from the final average. because they had already learned the game. "And there is very flat in his house." she said. he does not listen to what people say. I get sick and end up in hospital" "Do not worry about me . you will need a good lawyer. indifferent to the arguments of the mother.I am old and will die soon." "I though ." "I always did everything for you." "I never thought I would disappoint me so much. he is getting old and I do not know how long it will live." But. the children of Julia also blackmail. We do not want to go." Employers: "You are only making things more difficult for their coworkers. "Look. But look how you treat me when I need. but I have this great work of geography to ." "If you do not take care of me. " The children can master the art of manipulation. Children learn early that the emo-tional blackmail are a way to get what they want particularmen when you live in a family where parents use blackmail. Julia felt guilty for that. or simply instruct them to do what felt right. I would have done it for you. she used the emotional blackmail. was also a specialist in blackmail. who was sick. "you know that we have a lot of home for duty to do. my situation may be difficult." "Do not you have to me and a little company loyalty?" Employees: "If you say goodbye. In addition. Do not I deserve a little fun? You do not want me to be sad.
Like most women. Well . Then she called saying that he would be killed. but nobody gives it much importance. Camila still enjoyed and felt affection for her. The quick action of Chrissie prevented that Stephen was caught in the trap of a relationship that he wanted more. Began to call his mother. Camila was mad with rage. Chrissie and Stephen were married the following year. Chrissie was able to understand the emotional blackmail of Camila and I knew that Stephen was the innocent victim. the greater the sense of guilt. The closer the relationship. Stephen did not. The more a person is allowed to emotional blackmail. but would like it to be ahead and build for themselves a new life. his new girlfriend.Adults who use emotional blackmail create children who are even better in practice. he begged to go home. Luckily. Tried in vain to comfort her.just like when they met. but had agreed to the separation at the time. Camila was well-humored. Then Stephen encouraged to write a letter to Camila saying you felt very strongly that. Camila. but said he felt very. he turned to the group of children that applauded. day and night. She knew his mother liked her as a daughter and had been razed to the separation. kids! If your parents did not give a pound to put on my hat. agreed to is Stephen. you do not like you!" Did eighteen pounds. saying it had made a big mistake and would like to meet with him to talk. But Stephen had changed. . Phone begging for him to come visit her. saw what was happening and was in charge of the problem. Case study: Stephen Stephen was five years ago married Camila when they separated amicably. Stephen began to call for more problems in the hours. Camila secretly believed that he could never hit the step and sooner or later would see how his life was empty without her. But there appeared another woman. Camila still regularly visiting his mother and talking about the "good times" of his relationship with Stephen. but everything was finished. One day we were watching a street artist in London. But when Stephen's mother began to talk about his new wife. Everyone felt sorry for her. Convince the mother of Stephen's family to seek Camila to tell them he was concerned about the state of it and ask them to give him attention. Reluctant. crying and saying that his life had been finished without him. Stephen simply had not noticed that Camila was deliberately using the emotional blackmail to have him back and had no real intention to kill. "Hey. bewitched. Stephen did not know which direction to take. thinking that would be responsible. There was no chance of him returning to it. At the end of their number. attractive and loving . Camila is angry. Chrissie is not involved. asking for news. and shouted. the more it will take a standard in the future of their relationships. Chrissie. He felt powerless in the face of her tears.. which had met someone else and that I would be happy Camila too. but had no more emotional ties. he may return to Camila therefore been very frightened with the threat of suicide. never really believed he would remain firm in that position. He heard about the lack that he did. She simply believed that after one or two weeks alone. But Camila is not complied. and guilt is the most powerful weapon of blackmail. Stephen thought it was an amicable separation.
she decided to try a line: "Bob. "I. because the old was exceeded. Case study: Irene Irene was a wonderful character. " Bob made a bad pass Irene piece in the three following days. and who knows if I bought a smaller car. used. He knows it will. but it is important to remain firm in what you want. It was a happy and loyal person. Bob bought his boat . We must give a fun for the kids on weekends. almost fainted. " Irene was crazy. Irene has supported more than one situation. I work hard the entire month to earn money to support this family. Men like to direct discussions and arguments about which is the best time. her husband was very demanding and jealous.and now he wants to a berth in the marina. is used to refer to male rulers. figures and concrete realities. "I do not believe what I hear. Men can be tyrants too emotional to get what they want. Bob announced the desire to buy a new boat. Exhausted. It was quiet and generous. and should have left it clear. When other people . They also need that boat! " After two days of tension. and I m always done that on your own." Bob was naughty. it will use the same tactic again. Bob.mostly women faced with the emotions." Bob remained insensitive. but they will end up having problems. but used to refer to the demands of others and left to state their wishes only to keep the peace. "But Bob. I never imagined that one day you would deprive them of spending the weekends with us. as anyone who receives a demand for ransom or a direct threat. I am stressed all the time and my fishing to Saturday is the only opportunity I have to relax. but this tactic works better when their women are kind of sensitive and quiet. because they will be able to do water skiing. We spend more time with the kids. Men deal with facts. Irene was the victim of blackmail. was concerned with people. The essential ingredients of the criminal and emotional blackmail are exactly the same. We just pay the enrollment of children and you promised I could buy a new car at the end of the month mine is a broad-old who lives breach. Stephen was convinced from the outset that no-that would return to Camila. Irene discovered a solution. never putting their needs above the needs of others." he said. The men are not accustomed to dealing with their emotions and do not much idea of how women deal with emotion. In a year the boat will be more expensive and also is a good idea to buy a boat this summer. Women know this and use for their own benefit. I was thinking about the boat. you only think of you. She knew that Bob could drag it forever and the boys were increasingly distressed with the tension in the house. Will never passes through your head that I have my needs. which political party is the best policy to govern the country. There are many things we do at home. Been researching and said he could buy exactly the boat I wanted at a reasonable price. Return to work full-time and everything would be fine. Finally.The fault places the victim under great pressure. "We can not buy it now. . the majority simply does not support. all together as a family . which produces a beer hangover less angry. " Bob does not move: "No. me. and you postpone the purchase of new boat for a year. Irene. Nobody likes a cynical take on another person." he said with a voice increasingly angry. One day. When Irene knew the price. "Do not you think the children? It is you who always cares to know where they are and what they are doing. we could have both. me. "Here you come again thinking only in yourself. we can not buy the boat now.
it is important to consider in deciding whether to agree with it or will do something about it. Never forget . and have a desperate fear of losing what they already have. Be ravaged by insecurity. Whenever father and mother give to an attack of anger of the children are planting the seeds of an emotional blackmailer. . that is. the blackmailer feel powerless. But while giving the impression of knowing exactly what they want and are prepared to do what is necessary to get him. Blackmailer usually nothing more than false Roughnecks. which allows the blackmailer making new demands. Without their agreement. Therefore. Why can not argue with the objective to discuss the situation and negotiate their options. The requirement: that Irene agreed to purchase a new boat. if she is not satisfied. But the behavior of the blackmailer. to allow the children fell into bad company because of the husband was being selfish. this is rarely true. The first thing to bear in mind is that the blackmailer need your agreement to something. His self-image is poor and does not support the rejection. you have to prepare for a battle long and hard. in reality it is you who has the mastery of the situation. The submission: Irene just giving. The only way you lose that power is showing weakness. Do not try to understand how you feel the blackmailer. egocentric and without feelings . in any way accepted any portion of blame for the situation. they knew it would work. his love for children and their desire to maintain a happy home were the vulnerabilities of Irene. If you think you are a victim of emotional blackmail. The threat: the guilt of contributing to the deteriorating health of her husband.are like emotional blackmail fanfarrões children and rude and should be treated as such. have an attack of anger. increasingly unfair How to deal with an emotional blackmailer People who practice emotional blackmail often strong opinion and resolution u s. it will gradually lose the self and will be forever deprived of the ability to assert itself. can be modified over time. People always treat us the way we allow them to handle. because it enabled. The blackmailer: Bob knew all the secrets and feelings of Irene and know their weak points. The emotional blackmail destroys the self-image of victim. they look like rude children. Continuation: the recurrence of the tactics of blackmail on the part of Bob for the anchorage and the marina in other situations. the fear and guilt.all of them character-specific. Usually accuse their victims of being selfish. If they give in to blackmail. The resistance: the attempts to Irene to demonstrate that the requirement of Bob was not practical. Make its demand and.The victim: The sense of obligation to his family. Do not ask the blackmailer to reduce its demand and. and extending the tension in the house. patience and a firm purpose. imme-diately. In many ways. and offer an alternative. which was built in the course of time. This change of behavior requires persistence. If you are a victim.
Never attempt to counter-blackmail. especially 'the victims had the courage to talk about what was happening. We on this later. respond with silence. When the blackmailer is also in the dark Sometimes the blackmailer is not aware of what is doing."I regret that you feel as you prefer. it is essential that you have a stock of ready answers. knowing that the goal is just to give you some relief. A South African journalist Charlene Smith wrote a wonderful book about the night he was raped at home and helped the authorities to prosecute their abusers. how it emerged and strengthened further as it became a reference for many other women who . The blackmailer feel helpless and hopeless before the: USA. quit the conversation civilized and go." . the choice is yours. do not argue. Avoid countered with threats. Beware. speak of 'his good qualities." The refusal to show weakness or immediately negotiate almost always produces a period of silence or the petulance blackmailer. If the blackmailer demand make you feel uncomfortable." . but at this point there is no negotiation."I see things in a different way. because anything you say will not be able to it. At that time."I think we need to think much about it.train him. you can modify the behavior of the blackmailer. Just say: "When you want to talk. but we will discuss the issue when you calm down. Maybe they did not occur naturally. it is usually then that the victim assigns. When the demands."Well. The situation must be resolved ."I see you are not satisfied. insults or attack the vulnerabilities of the blackmailer.Remember: you are being the victim of blackmail and that what matters is how you are feeling. but you still need to save the appearances.but only if the blackmailer is ready to discuss the problem in a civilized and rational. Charlene speaks of the terrible effect that the episode caused it." . Blackmailer meet people who do not retreat."Obviously you are angry. South Africa had the highest rate of rape in the world: one for each 26 seconds."You're obviously disappointed." . Reaching a compromise. I'm available" And stand away. With such a strategy. setting its borders and keep it firmly within them. threats and accusations of a blackmailer to start well. What can you tell a blackmailer . then practice them until they become part of you. Do not fight or argue with the blackmailer . but that is how things are. and few people. During this period of silence the blackmailer." . The rape was the biggest taboo in the country." . In his book.
In the end. When contacting Charlene. In these circumstances it is much better for the victims of blackmail out under domestic and seek help. psychologically and financially. as I said. an incompetent who could not stop two weeks in the same job. A well known to our family by the groom was troubled to \ join him in a business transaction. I am asking for both of us." said Charlene in Proud of Me (proud of me). unconsciously. blind with love and afraid to lose him. If you do not trust me to make a simple loan. "I'm not asking just for me. the house was leaving her husband and. He begged her to be his guarantor in a loan to purchase a car to work because. It was easy to fall into the role of blackmail. that's the least I can wait" as a weapon to finally oblige it to accept. But one that tried did not get its support. The fault is usually the most powerful weapon of the arsenal of the blackmailer. do this simple thing for me. It is very likely that this woman had no awareness of emotional blackmail to be doing with your famI1ia." he said. perhaps best finish all at once now! The discussion was dragged for weeks. Sometimes it is necessary to use someone who is outside the sphere of emotional blackmail. especially her husband and children because they felt unable to protest and resist. Later. demanded that her husband bought a house in another place and left to care for three children and the house.went by the same trauma. she resisted. "She was playing the abusive behavior of their abusers ment of another way. And if the husband had stayed at home that night? And if the children had not left? Perhaps the rape had not happened. "The addiction of Mary autopiedade made a slave of his attackers." The victim may be. 'psychologist or psychotherapist. "But why not. as the blows that she applied to his family were much more deadly. After being raped. to help break the vicious circle of self and autopiedade. the blackmailer can ruin the victim emotionally. for our future. . though not visible to the naked eye." he said. I had enough credit. "We are talking about spending the rest of our lives together. the woman left the university. she was amazed with the reaction of the writer. free from emotional. In the limit. she agreed to sign your name on the dotted line. passed the consequences of emotional blackmail to other family members and friends. When your heart becomes a life sentence When you are first subject to threats of emotional blackmail. initiating a vicious cycle that becomes increasingly difficult to hold. "If you really love me. Charlene said bluntly that she was using the emotional blackmail to make the family suffer as she had suffered. stricken by the frustration felt unable to help her to recover. and asked that money in the God-given and everyone was too late. The children cared for themselves. Initially. The attacks of them were obvious. when he discovered that he was an incorrigible liar. They were prisoners of a sense of guilt for rape. It paralyzes the victim. You can request the support of a friend of women's confidence or call a good adviser." He used the phrase "After all we spent together.
Why give the blackmailer. the child will feel forever prisoner and felt with his parents. now she suspects of every man that approaches. wherever it occurs. . is always per-versa. Parents also can inflict lasting scars on their children. With the children. As the groom. Yielding to emotional blackmail. abandoned the happiness of parents to care for elderly and debilitated.are authentic and often subtle emotional blackmail . How many parents pushing their children . And what is more sad. The threat of losing the love of women is easy prey to blackmail. she ended up drowned in debt. with no regard for specific talent or the desire of the child. The emotional blackmail. still paying.that they follow certain careers. service by service. But it is never too late to change the situation. Everyone has heard of women who. the emotional blackmail tends to vary. but was long ago. Anyone who has ever been in the role of victim may be imprisoned the rest of your life and see all the missed chances to find happiness. but firmly resolved to fill them with guilt when they were thinking about leaving them to build their own lives. love and joy of living a life without guilt. So if after reading these stories you recognized the role of victim and cry so that she knows the reason. by sense of duty.
. The number of points that man accumulates with his partner directly affects the quality of your life. I am tired of being mother and father to our children.. Mark had a very good job. but in their hearts they thought things should resolve themselves... What do you mean with 'I do not take care of you or the children? See our wonderful house. Kelly . I work hard. like most men. the clothes and jewelry you USA.Chapter 4 THE ULTRA-SECRET SYSTEM THE WOMEN OF SCORE How to ruin a man of the week For the rest of the world. " Mark (shocked): "Kelly . Here's what they said to the therapist: Kelly: "Mark is hooked on work. I drain the family to work for the week full and you are never satisfied. their relationship was problematic. It is as if not existíssemos. but the place inexorably.. is not Mark? And I think I will never understand. most at least.. " Kelly (angry): "You can not even understand. cook. When a man and a woman decide to live together. and we were at the end of their list of priorities. Both calculate that the other will continue giving what is already giving that behave the same way as their parents. Tell me when was the last time you said you loved me . And all you do is work. or that fits the stereotypes of marriage that everyone knows. " Mark (surprised): "I can not believe what I hear. I need a man I want.. work and work. not understanding what happened. all this I offer to you and them! Yes.. Mark agreed. Es-Kelly was happy to go to a therapist. The men. Women are not aware of this process. lived in a lovely house. The problem was that Mark." Most men absolutely do not realize that women maintain a system for scoring the performance of its general partner. One night when the issue arose of legal separation. Kelly always seemed boring and Mark was perplexed. not know the existence of that system and may be disapproved without ever coming to understand that it is wrong. were confused.. While love.. When was the last time you emptied the machine to wash dishes for me? Do you know a place to wash dishes? Tell me when was the last time you took me out to dinner. Wash. The men see only the general framework Men prefer to be watching the "framework" of . you know I love you . you still complaining . desperate and afflicted with constant fights. and every year spend holidays abroad.. both agreed to consult a therapist for couples. Forget about me and the children and never do anything for us. to take care of me and that part of family life that I need without being charged. their three children were happy and well adjusted. and Mark Kelly led a perfect life. was not the slightest idea that Kelly wore a special female scores to rate their marriage. however. in general do not discuss the last details of the contribution of each of the relationship. Between four walls.. organize your life and take care of our family . I do everything for you. but so that people can live well and have everything you want.. We work. the excellent school for children .. step.
allocate points according to the size of the action or the present. Then the man she accuses of not doing anything. Regularly present shows with a single rose that is always in the forefront in his mind. They are still doing things for the man because they believe in the end. why women take a variety of small decisions about the intricate aspects of a relationship practice. This difference is the cause of many misunderstandings between men and women. When he thought that the score was 3 to 1. A woman can let it get to 30 to 1 before starting to complain. The woman keeps the score and never forget. would find that the more important the larger the share or more points this should be allocated. If the man also had a point system. While unconscious. then won six points. But if he buys a rose every week for six weeks. If a man buys a rose for your partner. regardless of size. He was not the slightest idea of the existence of a problem because it also maintained a system. not by size. men always thought it is paper size. quality or the result of a single action. while a dozen roses can be interpreted as decoration for the house. and he is surprised and upset with their accusations. but when it does. secretly. As most women know.life together and giving a small number of large contributions from that tangle with a number of contributions that appear less and less important. The woman gives a point for this action or. . if the man paints the house. the woman gives points to every thing we do in the partner relationship. for example. If he gives you a bouquet of six roses. They simply do what they do and never think to maintain a system of scoring. working five days a week is worth at least thirty points. the score-draw will do. is structured to fine tune. Women keep lasting memories that accumulate points for years. you will certainly score more. If a man keep a score. the man is not knowing when the relationship is tie the score. the points are allocated by the number of shares held. In other words. it gives you a point. In general. had complained of being too giving and require that the score was tied. For example. that your partner will thank and support them retribuirão. And suppose. men are not the slightest idea that women attribute points in the relationship.one for each day of work. A single rose is clearly intended for her. man can not have the custom to give his partner often. but the point of view it is only five . gets a point collects his laundry or says he loves the woman. in turn. The female brain. It really is that women feel and think. it would reach this point. no matter the size. But 95% of all points awarded in a relationship are the things that happen or stop happening every day. Similarly. also wins a point. If he buys her a new car or a diamond ring of your dreams. she continues giving only one point. For him. it just something great.
because the brain spatially oriented. chocolates and champagne for her.To the woman that matters is not size. "You go to the sink and I am dropping puns on the couch. Like most men. for it was only a joke. She tends to put more points for small tasks. We present below a summary of the partial results after thirty days. when Brian praised by Lorraine she prepared a dinner some night. Our experience with Brian Brian and Lorraine was a financial operator who worked long hours visiting client's building and your business. she thought he care more for work than for her. but working overtime in fact meant he had less time to stay at home doing small things." without realizing that this small action to surrender points. During this period could not discuss among themselves or how or when the points were allocated. and therefore lost points. and when doing a test like this tend to have good behavior. One point was assigned for each of the small-contribution and a maximum of thirty points for a major contribution to the relationship. You may notice that none of them reported many negative points. he is not remembered for having done the praise and not to put it in your list." Brian thought that the more work in the office. He thought he was earning extra money for a better life and that she admired for that.a third of your score staff to work five days a week . If he had called to say that I loved her and miss her. personal and intimate than the big tasks. she gave him three points. despite having . Lorraine. which for Lorraine earned only one point. They had also to record points lost by irritating things that your partner do. She said. and call again when you arrive. For example. Working late worth five points per night in his opinion. and he was proud of what he has done. a car-so score of the contributions that have believed in that relationship and estimate the score that thought should receive the other. but she only gave him four points. He asked. We then ask that they meet every day." Why not try to change position tonight? ".because they cost dearly. When bought flowers. is that it never happened that the head of the woman praising the food could render points. is the frequency. or that the activities had generated. This list indicates several things: first. which required skill. men give more points than women to work physically and spatially linked. For him. thought it would at least ten points . In fact. In see-ment. Both are described as a happy couple. Brian was five points by helping the child to assemble an aircraft. mark at least three points. Brian won important points by small actions such as "give me his coat because I was cold. for thirty days. Brian ignored the fact that small things mean a lot to women. normal. We suspect that this is due to two reasons: couples who live together have a tendency to ignore the negative points or relieve the other. "Good idea!". but only gave him a Lorraine. The woman usually gives to man a single point for each task home run. this was a difficult task. took the house and cared for their two children. the more points scored. His wife. Not that I have forgotten. but he was not aware that there were some marked. He just thought it was "taking care of it. For example.
reading. Lorraine stayed at home feeling aggrieved and resentful. giving the majority of them a low score. Lorraine was granted an average of 78 points.often heard his mother and his grandmother say that. pa-ra them and discipline them worth one point each. the resentment generated is the same on both sides. He felt happy with the fact that scores of the relationship is very balanced. The reactions of Brian and Lorraine The weekly score of 30 points less to Brian explained that ants within a resentment of Lorraine from the previous year. She described every detail their activities. giving the same to you to work fifty hours a week. and twenty times in the two points that took the initiative in sex. cooking and making beds all worth one point each by the time she performed. and Brian was working late. Lorraine won three points for massage the back of Brian one night. so that gave him an overall score for their efforts . Brian was devastated with the result. "I'm not morose.thirty points. To Brian and Lorraine. but Brian has a weekly average of only 48 points. Therefore. Brian never becomes a routine of Lorraine. to bath the children. take care of dogs. that experience was a chance to open eyes. plan family events. pay bills. He acted as if everything was perfect in the relationship and was not the slightest idea of how Lorraine felt. but I get reminded all the time. while Lorraine is re-hurt the performance of Brian in public. for being at work all the time. Aspirate the carpet. What started almost as a diversion to see how men and women attach points revealed a potentially disastrous situation. he began working late. to make more money and give more comfort to the family. Repetitive activities such as collecting the dirty clothes and wet towels on the floor. send birthday cards. a year before. At the end of the experience. for the simple reason that she never said anything about it. Brian had given a weekly average of 62 points given to Lorraine and an average score of 60 points. thinking he was doing what she wanted him to do. watering the plants. wash the laundry. These lists also show that when the man and woman having sex or not. Lorraine He felt a little distant from the birth of last child. . shopping. " Complaints of Brian concerned things that Lorraine did or failed to do for him. but thought perhaps the stress of the many things she had to do. The monthly score of Lorraine The list of personal activities of Lorraine was four times longer than Brian. but he never does what it has to do. go to the bank.
Only the guys that are different for us to distinguish one from another. Remember that a woman gives a point for each activity that executes man and a score more by small things that involve emotional support. That is how things work in the male world .rather than a pure exchange of accusations. unless someone specifically the piece. Giving flowers. put things in place to help in the kitchen and use halitol account both. support or advice. Marilyn Monroe Men are not programmed to offer help. The solution for men The woman not only to the point. If you do not ask. is unlikely to say. But if he is aware of the importance that your partner gives small things and try to do them. happiness. but forget also the positive things you did for them. It should also encourage the man to take small gestures like that. just as did Brian and Lorraine. praise him the look. the partnership is intended to be a source of joy. do they think there is no problem and that the relationship is going well: The men have a short memory.people expect you to play. We offer the test as a tool to encourage dialogue. She is able to refuse to have sex now because you yelled at her two months before. you can use the test as a guide that brings you the happiness . give unsolicited advice is to say that the other person is incompetent. That does not mean that man should work less. Along with his partner. becomes distant and angry and the couple's love life begins to wither.The solution for the woman The woman must accept that the male brain is programmed to take care of the general framework and that the man believes that mark more points doing big things. their quality of life will have a better extra-ordinary. Take the test now The most effective solution is to maintain a permanent communication as sincere as possible. Women always remember. If the communication between partners is always the intention to adjust the relationship and ensure mutual harmony . and reward him for that. After evaluating the results. If the woman you think the score is for the partner. So she will not be resentful if the score is tie for him. if each one is available to hear the honesty of the other reasons. as the salary to bring home or paint the room. to meet you and understand . it accumulates during the long periods and never forget. From a man.it better. They forget the good things that you did the previous week. All men are equal. If this happens. and record scores for ten days all contributions to the relationship. sometimes more. If you think that is against. the man has to ask what she wants him to do.
Lorraine immediately understood what we wanted. he even knew that women had a score. When asked to Brian and Lorraine as part of the experience. and show the things that give you more pleasure. . Above all. A difference of 15-30% shows disagreements sufficient to cause ten-sion. The scoring system used by the opposite sex is not better nor worse than his.you want. financial situation better or worse . Women understand that. Abstract It is understood as the measures the other things. Brian's answer was "Huh? Score? What is this?". A difference in score of less than 15% shows a very balanced relationship. to bring up what he values. use the test to keep the dialogue essential to any relationship that want to grow up happy. Make the test scores from time to time to ensure that the scoring is balanced.a new child. The partner with the score needs to balance the negative contribution. but most men know not. doing things that (a) partner (a) assesses to equal the score and reduce the tension. is just different. and more than 30% means that someone feels unhappy in the relationship.the score can vary and things are irrelevant in a specific context to acquire another value. in which none of them feel resentful or used. purchasing a home. When there is a change of situation . Like most men.
" Hannah: "So . how will his newly married daughter?" Julian: "Well . as they often think. remember the problem in the bunker. Why both men are interested in "toys for boys"? 5. received numerous letters and emails from women that I asked more about the differences between the sexes. Why do men avoid commitment? 3.. When Julian came home at night. About what men talk in the bathroom? The problem of women is that they try to analyze the behavior of men from a female and are quite disconcerted. but knew virtually nothing about the esposes.. but if there was a problem. Julian knew how many strokes each had. the last trip abroad that he had to close a deal. and knew the make and year of car that Ralph was thinking of buying. Why men never know anything about the life of your friends? 2." Hannah: "And how is his wife after a week in hospital?" Julian: "I do not know . The truth is that men are not illogical." Hannah: "He did not say? You mean not asked?" Julian: "Well. Was aware of the struggle of Ralph with the camera site because of its real estate projects... not sure . no. and decided to spend the day there playing golf together. Why men can only do one thing at a time? 6.Chapter 5 CLARIFICATION THE SEVEN MAJOR MEN OF MYSTERY After the success of Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love ". he did not say anything . the children and family of Ralph. Why do men feel the need to always be with right? 4.. Here are the seven most frequently asked questions: 1. But I did not . They just work differently for women. the hole-in-one that he almost succeeds. Why men never know anything about the life of your friends? Julian Ralph did not see a year ago.." Hannah: "How is Ralph?" Julian: "Fine." Hannah: "His mother is still doing chemotherapy?" Julian .he said.. his wife Hannah was eager to learn how it was: Hannah: "So how was your day?" Julian: "It was good.. " And so it was. Why are men so by sports fanatics? 7.. for sure he would have told me..
Men can spend hours together..5%. is because he is watching the fire. The male brain is fully dedicated to the "end-mind". Who was that you found . This is because a drink with friends is just another way to look at the fire. the other to understand intuitively and leave quietly.85%... .9.. the only circumstance in which a man talks to another about personal matters is when you have a problem that can not . Unlike women. or that of his brother Ralph had a diagnosis of Parkinson's disease. When a man is not talking with friends and it does not mean that they fought. not to mention much. The man knows all the jokes that his friend told him. as I said. Nobody says: "Tell me co me was the day . sports.To find women . playing cards or watching football. . Speak one at a time because their brains are organized to or speak or hear. say. playing golf. Rarely talk about people and their emotions. or that his wife was elected Citizen of the Year by the local community. How they were?" When you talk. When the man comes out for drinks with friends after work. fishing. When talk is about facts .know anything more about the girl child who lived in Bangkok.5%. No need to talk if there is no will. cars and women. but does not know that he separated the women.To drink alcohol . Solution The man does not understand why the woman wants to know every detail of the lives of their friends and acquaintances. but.To relieve the stress . A study by the University of Leeds investigated the reasons why men go to the bars after work: Why men go for a drink? . Men relieve stress releasing the brain to think of something else. It is not lack of interest in friends. He had. solutions or answers to questions or to share information about things and processes. and generally does not bind on feelings and emotions. The men did not expect that men talk much and never insist on talking.the results. people talk about work. Imagine that the friends he wanted to know something.5. however. they can not do both at the same time. women are invariably surprised by the fact he go home without knowing anything about the personal life of anyone. When a man is watching the fire with a drink in hand. a brand new repertoire of great jokes.
do not expect that men give the answers. Approached it and presented it to Mary. That is how things work in the male brain. Geoff called and asked for that he would see her that same night. Geoff accepted with joy. rather than be given by Sally gossip. Then. But left the matter there. saying he had really liked Geoff and I know him better. career. The following week.resolve. she was not seeing anyone else. He realized that there was something wrong but had no idea of what could be. Then. whom everyone liked. Jodie seemed a little cold. it was the signal for Sally that it would start a relationship with Geoff. . Sally is cut into tears because he thought that she and Geoff were going very well. When Geoff hung. male: not crush other women when in the street with his wife or girlfriend Case Study: Geoff and Sally Jodie thought Geoff and Sally would make a beautiful couple and arranged a meeting for them to meet. The next day. . They are very fun at the party when he saw Jodie Geoff. so she invited him to go to the beach and then dinner. For Sally. as a last resort. So if you want information about health. That night. Jodie called immediately and told Sally to what Geoff said. because Mary was a fun person. female: I want to marry and form a family. she should immediately tell. They left in the three weeks following the end of the film and were one or two times every week. thought. but Geoff was not the slightest idea that they had a special connection because it had never been spoken. That left him confused.and months that he was not the route. Mary was the lifeblood of any meeting . he asked council to a friend. the time spent together indicated that they now had a connection. and Geoff realized that she did not like Mary. The two had a great night and exchanged phone numbers and is combined again. verb. Then Geoff decided to invite Mary to the birthday party of his best friend. Ask women. Why do men avoid commitment? Commitment: verb. Despite never having talked about a unique relationship.a really fun person . The story of Jodie Jodie was shocked by Geoff not have asked for Sally: party but a "piranha faladeira" called Mary. Sally called for Jodie and thanked for having made them. As was expected. relationships or the whereabouts of family members or people in your social circle. Men do not understand the concept of relationship the same way as women. The story of Geoff A month had happened. Geoff also called for Jodie to say the same as Sally.
From the survival of the species. which also increased the chance they could pass their genes. If you want a faithful man. Was speechless. "How could you do this to me?" She whimper. Sally wanted a compromise with Geoff. but is visibly emotional and passionate when your team plays. that the survivors adopt the widows in their haréns. Only 3% of animal species. Mae West The woman believes that she is "out" with a man for some time and none of them are . wishing that she had prepared his favorite dish. but they are rarely willing to invest the same amount of emotional energy in a relationship with them. seek a hospice. He had never previously aware that they were only a couple . the males are polygamous for the sake of survival. Women often admire that men may have an almost religious feeling with a soccer team.. But we differ from other species in the sense that our brains evolved and developed large frontal lobes that enable us to make decisions about what we want and we do not want to do. They had choice. therefore. But when Sally opened the door. well.. Wanted their freedom. for example. it is something that is programmed into his psyche. ". are monogamous.think Sally went with other guys. But Geoff was not ready to take it.. So they decided to remain friends but that would not further to bed . There was little to offer because many men died in hunting and war. It was the first time spoke about his feelings realized they were going in completely different directions. The man is able to hide their emotions and feelings of the woman he loves. For women. Therefore not argues that unfaithful men claim that they could not avoid. not only with him. fox and geese. The brain of most species. including humans. Was reasonable. saw that she had been crying and I was bored with it. made sense that a male had ten or twenty females. especially when it lost. How can he be so stubbornly loyal and devoted to a bunch of players flustered and not necessarily bright. This is why men delay to the maximum 'commitment to take the woman and are so difficult to maintain a monogamous relationship. and then in front of our friends How long are you going with it? You like it? Sleep with her? Me responds!" Geoff was not believed in listening. He spent the following three hours trying to explain the problem with Sally.Cards on the table Geoff was eager to review Sally. he does not know which are not there with him and not show or a tenth of that devotion to her? During almost the entire time of existence of the human race. it was decided that Sally. maintaining a commitment at least until your child is self-sufficient. Geoff felt she should be in the TPM and the weekend that the crisis had passed.. is not programmed for monogamy. since it could only birth to a child at a time. but had no sense that a female had ten or twenty males.
now they are dating. and not trying to understand them or being sensitive to their emotional needs.otherwise. because there is a special connection. now they are dating. When Sally has complained about "What were you thinking?". do not want to give up anything. she needs to say clearly that the man of her point of view. But for most men.if you want love. instead of just waiting timidly to the man understand the situation. The only way to live life in complete freedom is alone in a desert island. it can play. The answer would be: he was not thinking anything. Having a relationship is to take driver's license. In short." they laugh. sex and someone to take care of you. where there are no rules. because now it is who controls the handcuffs. men have evolved hunting animals and making war on enemies. What women want in return is love. not have to be accountable for their actions or justify their behavior. like Geoff. the more likely it is that the plug does not fall. it is difficult to know what specifically is he talking about freedoms. and how many women want to have. To be frank it is a sign of respect. dedication and loyalty.with other people. Never assume therefore that you are having a special relationship before discussing it with someone else. You can also say how good sex and agree close. not to speak when not to. he wants love. they now have a special relationship. At the same time. exercising its right to clarify the situation for two and choosing the type of relationship you want to establish . A woman should ask what your partner feels it and wants you to go to the relationship. Remember. The man tends to be direct and make a woman know whether or not a special and unique relationship. attention and much sex. however. as happened with Geoff. must learn and respect the rules of the road . When a woman suspects this. saying for example that is happy to prepare a dinner for him. "You can say goodbye to 90% of your sex life!" And also the warning in general welcome the singles: "You have to ask permission even to sneeze. If you have difficulty to speak directly. And respect is what the woman must have by itself. Solution The idea of establishing an ongoing relationship potentially never passed by the head of Geoff. this is a strange concept. you must give something in return. Pressed to explain." In general. There are several ways to do this. Not only is it men do not know read my mind. Repeat: men can not read minds. "When you undertake. men avoid it because they think that compromise the woman will steal them the freedom and they will end up weak and powerless. friendship. he wants everything. Otherwise. is that most of them is not very sensitive to the state of mind of women. If you want to go. A relationship is nothing more than a negotiation with rules . They have not the slightest intention of stealing the freedom of man. he speaks of freedom to come and go as you want. When the man says that commitment means losing freedom. What most men think It is a universal custom among the men playing friends saying that the marriage or the permanent relationship with a woman one of them is a clear sign that the life of the unfortunate end. will always be a pedestrian. it grabs you by the balls. She must learn to be honest and direct.
the heroes of boys rarely make a mistake and never show weakness or emotion. His models are: SuperMan.three months later. Jackie wanted to help Dan. Boys have to be tough. is conditioned to think that not being able to do something or solve a problem means to be a failure as a man. and very rarely a woman. the more likely it is that he is offended. never meet them or say they are wrong. and men usually are defensive or aggressive before the mere suggestion. He might not hesitate to give her a book of recipes for a birthday present. Why do men feel the need to always be the reason? To understand this characteristic of modern man. Some of them had a partner. not cry and be good at everything they do. In-a-Ledger. or a therapist. to resolve what is best for her. Case study: Jackie and Dan Jackie wanted to stop working and have a son. Dan could not believe what was hearing: Jackie wanted someone else to solve their problems! Obviously. when it appeared. I hoped he was happy that it is taking responsibility to look for someone who could work with him. This subject has been a source of major disagreements between the two. usually a man less and less important. James Bond. Batman. Dan thought. rather. Zorro. or call a technician to fix the tap. reducing the pressure on him. Spider-Man. When the child reaches adulthood. but Dan felt that they were not financially prepared. These super-heroes as partners seem to prefer a dog or a horse. reliable. but if the woman gives him a book of this self-help. Married me with Mr. Their eyes. rarely fail to fulfill its task. they separated. The differences grew . Dan saw the thing in a way completely different. are always behind solutions. One day. make it clear that she thought he was wrong about the household finances and seek counsel to prove he was . The man finds hard to say "Sorry" or "sorry" because it is wrong to admit. when a woman asks the man is saying or doing. is what happens when a woman wants to ask the way. amounts to a humiliating admission that he is wrong. Go to a seminar on relationships. she thought he was not able to do their own accounts. because animals are loyal. he reacts defensively. all male loners who never complained of problems but. leaving the relationship under huge stress. To seek a financial adviser. The comics also depict the macho tough guy as a person endowed with huge muscles and possessor of a voice rough and deep (much testosterone). as if she were weakening or denouncing their incompetence. The heroin is usually a Barbie with anatomically impossible breasts. Like most male stereotypes of books and movies. You imagine that she is trying to say that it is not so good way. of course. Jackie announced that Dan had made contact with a financial adviser to have an accurate assessment of their household finances. As we have seen. we need to examine their education. And. That is why. Not only knew his first name was Always.with your partner. was an assistant who had more problems than anything else. If different from his.
Any woman that does not visit a minimum for the stapler. the woman should avoid driving to it in a way that it felt wrong.incompetent or insufficiently reliable. should make clear what she is feeling. . the man thinks that women's council to hear tantamount to hear what is wrong and does not deserve her trust. the stapler is round. instead of blame him. he responds: "You think I am not able to deal with this problem right ? If you are a party and she warns. instead of saying "You never know the way and we always come back!". She can say "You're doing fine. dear. says it will complain and she asks you not to do it. I feel better if we stop to ask someone here what is the right entry. When the visiting friends. the size of a miniature television. He led three batteries that need to be replaced throughout the week. And is so offended that she begins to think that perhaps it is really kind of controller. It seemed something of a space shuttle exit. When he arrives at the destination. Solution Since the man in general have these characteristics. But Gerry was crazy with joy with the aparelhinho and said that sometimes when you wake in the morning and through the stapler on the table. the woman is the problem for you. He complains of being all the time trying to control it. afraid to fight there. If he is angry with the neighbor's dog barking at night. we'll have to present a paper stapler moved the battery. it would be good to say: "Honey. Had a transparent plastic box. Instead of saying what he did wrong. but all that did was put staples into sheets of paper . the answer it is the same: "I was just trying to help!" She thinks is showing love and concern for him. When the man hit the woman should welcome it. saying not to drink too much. Why both men are interested in "toys for boys"? When our friend Gerry made birthday. which left see all the gears and discs moving inside.Like any other staples. only to see and hear the movement of the gears. giving the impression that considers incapable. but he sees trying to say what is wrong and is unable to solve things yourself. but the signs of these streets are very confusing. For example. he protested: "Do not trust me?" In all these situations. " In other words. can not resist putting in four or five clips on a sheet of paper. and all laugh of contentment. you are the best ways to discover! You do not trust me? The most common phrase of men whose actions are challenged by the women is: "You do not trust me?" When you hear that phrase. you can be sure that insulted the manhood of man.
the man who refused the help of a firefighter to repair the defective vessel closes the record and dismantle the facility. On Saturday afternoon (after the game). Boys are boys from the shops. This includes all kinds of video and computer program. Fofinho was so that I could not resist. it is likely that men are interested in to wash the clothes. The hardware store has closed and he could not open the . electric trains. portable GPS devices. space and anything that has the remote control. build or do work. Female Male Call a fireman without first consulting the man of the house can be interpreted as a serious insult. The following images show the areas of the brain . Find out what appears to be a carrapeta spends and goes to the hardware store. At home. Men love the challenge to build models of sailing vessels. Due to the propensity of the brain space men. computer spreadsheets. 2001. It is about 45 minutes walk by the store. but most do not know where you are carrapeta old.. have lights blinking and the battery is moved. The space industry of the brain that is used to estimate speeds. If the washing machines come with remote control. tests one or two mechanical Sanders." It is easy to explain why the sexes react so differently to these things.which are active when a person from USA spatial skills. Institute of Psychiatry in London. shelves and anything that has a set of instructions. engines or movable components that make sounds. cars with panels complicated. men and boys are fanatics for anything that has buttons. rifles with telescopic sights night. but get angry when you call someone suggested to complete the work.. examining all the toys that might have space. back up and operate mechanical. they do not just fix the broken things. motor boats. angles and distances . Projects Do-You-Even The whole bunch of products Make-You-Even faces towards the space area of the brain male. In general. mechanical. drive cars. as they are indecipherable. Men are the agents of cars and stores equipment and products Make-You-Even where they can find things to do. as the concentration of the average man has a range of nine minutes. Areas of the brain used to play football. they leave unfinished projects around the house whole.is the brains of the hunter. and thus meet its space needs. the men's space needs can be frustrating for women because. nuclear.They all admired to see the excitement of men with a aparelhinho so expensive that only runs a task beyond the trivial. Then go home and find that size is not one. just because ". But it is the male equivalent of the tendency that women have to pay exorbitant prices for imported teddy bear.the parts dark . aircraft. try a drill pressure and finally find what appears to be a carrapeta of appropriate size.
There is a lesson here: always give the man a toy of this spatially related. the corpus callosum. Remember: never talk to the man when he is doing a beard.are recorded by men. If you are working with a sharp tool and the phone rings. Ninety-six. is on average 10% thinner than the female and carries about 30% fewer connections between the two hemispheres. it is as if he had salinhas throughout the brain. these things mean much less to him Why men can only do one thing at a time? In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? Presents a thorough study on why the male brain is so singularly focused: what it described as "single track". percent of the technical experts of the world are men . Instead. If he is in clover road and someone directed him to speak. probably miss the exit. She explains that men lower when the radio or read a map when they march to the defendant in the car. nobody will ever be able to bathe or use the private sector. but 99% of all patents . you run the risk of injury. it should tell you what it considers necessary. if he is just calling a fireman. Most women do not understand why men seem able to do only one thing at a time. portamo. The only difference that exists between men and boys is the price of their toys. unless you hurt him! And do not try to resolve any issue while he attends the TV. This concentrated focus allows men to become great experts. because in most cases. ask your opinion and give it a run. why can not the man? Why he always turns off the television when the phone rings? Women around the world complain in unison: "Because he can not hear what I'm saying while reading the newspaper or watching television?" The reason is that the human brain is compartmentalised and specialized. technician or any computer in space qualified man before consulting his own man. The response of readers to this issue was so overwhelming that we will summarize it here it again later. If a woman can read while listening or talking. If the car makes a strange noise. even during the commercials. Their hope is that it is a problem to be absolutely clear. Understand that mentality "one-thing-in-every-time" is one of the most important things a woman can learn about the men. Thus. Today most new companies are founded by women. though not the slightest idea what you are looking for. Seeing the images of the brain of a man who reads.the excellent performance of that natural ability. In simple terms.registration until the issue is resolved. That is what gives the approach "one-thing-of-every-time" to everything he does in life. builder. financial consultant. Never give you flowers and nice cards. A woman should never call a fireman. . you will discover that he is almost deaf.of "toys for boys" . each with at least one primary function operates independently of the rest. he raised the hood and will take a look. will find that solved the problem myself. The cable that connects the right and left hemispheres of your brain.
therefore. is always given to man to do one thing at a time. fantasy that he is giving himself to the mark and kicks goals. Why are men so by sports fanatics? For thousands of years. never ask questions to the man during sex. crawling and using their spatial skills to get food. chasing. The men are so excited when they watch football because they feel as if they were playing the game. man may again be a member of a band of hunters. After that England won the World Cup of 1966 against Germany. Between 1800 and 1900 were invented almost all modern sports with ball. if you want a good result free of stress. As adults. You can turn auto-mobile.The man has two times more likely than women to engage in a car accident while talking on a cell phone. recalled with vivid detail goals in marked departures held for many years and almost come to tears when discussing what the player should have done and the result which should have had the game. but men still kicking balls. the goals they most marked and tactical errors they committed. As we have seen. you better go outside dining. there was one man in the country who do not know the color of escalation of the team. In reality. It is as if the woman was in some way genetically apparently with the octopus. Seeing their heroes in the field. most women can do many things not related to each other at the same time. 'f women swap their dolls for children. even while it is active sleep. and then pass to the next question. She is able to talk on the phone. makeup and to listen to radio as a live-voice speech. The best strategy. His brain calculates the speed. the angles and directions of the ball. nothing much has changed in thousands and thousands of years . . In business. the modern replacement of the activities of hunting. The girls use dolls as a practice of caring for children and the boys kicked and pursue balls as practice for hunting. The sports to which man is part of a group of hunters. But if a man is following a recipe to prepare a dish and you want to chat with him. The men ran. following a new recipe and watching television at the same time. and they urram of pleasure when the striker is the goal. And most important. men caught in groups while women receive food and care of children.even the men hunt and women also care for children. The woman's brain is configured to perform multiple tasks. This is the main reason why 96% of personal assistants of the world are women. As a devoted fan of your soccer team. They verbally insult the referee (although the referee can not listen to the l) when disagree with a mark: "You think this is missing? Your asshole You need glasses!" Can remember the scores. The brain images show that the woman's brain never shuts off. discuss an issue at a time and adhere to it until all these men are satisfied with the solution.
who they like and dislike. About what men talk in the bathroom? We answer the first question male universal: "What women talk together when they go to a public bathroom?" The answer is: about everything and about everyone. Do not fight the sport or hobby of your man. "My wife told me that if I drop the obsession with my soccer team. who are friendly and attractive men. you have two options. she leaves. The men no longer have any clear model to follow and clear specifications of what is expected of them. nephews. Learn what it can about the interest and become understood. it does not happen in your work. It is also why men prefer to buy a new set of golf clubs than a dining table is very necessary. which rarely occurs in their affective relationship. those who consider their work exciting and rewarding are less interested. When watching the struggles of boxing. and he feels victorious when your team wins. conversely. The second option is to use his obsession for sports as a positive opportunity to be with their friends. neighbors and the door or the date on which commemorates the Mother's Day. get involved. shop or start your own hobby. Add to it or use the time to do something positive for yourself. The place where they are compared with others which have been. come to bend and give the impression of feeling the pain of fighter hit by a low blow.their primary brain skills started to be largely superfluous and the women are attacking from all sides. Sport is an activity in which man can feel again a member of a group: there no one criticizes or tries to modify it. with family. Solution If your partner is a sports maniac or a hobby. This explains why men engaged in activities which are repetitive or just those who give more importance to sports. discuss the clothes they are wearing and the other. They are so obsessive with the steering wheel. Drive car is almost entirely a spatial ability. but they still do not know the names of his nieces. moves. I will miss her a lot. Men may be taken by intense emotion when watching sports. If you still do not find interesting but want to follow it is always possible to find other women in the same situation and make new friends.This is a formidable skill. and . changes in motion and stationary are in motion to reverse the sky of every man. Go with him to an event and you will be surprised to see the amount of other "widows of the sport" that also attend and enjoy the social aspects. too. which can spend hours on end in front of the TV watching other men guide car race. First. Speeds. " The world has now become a confusing place for men . angles.
. put a stop to go to the bathroom.. and chooses the next which is midway between the two. how are you?" Like any man... the first in choose in the bathroom farthest from the door. ever under any circumstances. England. nervous.. and God help the man that the plague! Women sit in the pot and talk with other women through the wall. because it has an idiot in the booth next to answer my questions! " Men also have a territorial ritual to choose the urinal. Absolutely nothing. and still do not know what got into me when I decided to respond with a constrained 'All right! " The other guy said. Bathrooms are a network of women in waiting rooms and counseling centers where you can meet new people and interesting. Any woman who seems distressed receive group therapy . The motto of the men is: "Better death than a visual contact. Here is a letter from one of our readers shows the reason that men of silence that reigns in the bathroom of men: "During a trip. I went to the second.. 'Hey. If there is a row of five urinals. I have to call you later. and two women is not uncommon-they share the same cubicle in order to continue the conversation. I never talk to strange men in bathrooms of post road. Do not talk to other men when they are sitting in the pot. While retouch. A nightclub in Birmingham. but. the culprit is hiding in the cabin to check out. discuss techniques and different types of makeup products. As the first booth was busy.. like an idiot. They do not talk. and when urinate. 'Listen . and when it happens. said:' The same as you .. your eyes will never cross. The fourth man generally feels better to use the booth to be standing next to a stranger who can look at it." . Scarcely had I sat when I heard a voice coming from the booth next to saying.any personal problem that they or friends are living. Men never talk to strangers in public restrooms. traveling to the North! " Oh I heard the guy say. what are you doing? " I thought: 'How strange . Let us return now to the original question: what men talk in public restrooms? The answer is: nothing. In cabins. Are rarely hear a fart in a female bathroom. In the men's room if no one bothers with it. came to install booths in the bathroom wider female. asking the odd passing toilet paper under the door. while women prefer large vain to talk and move objects from one booth to another.. and never talk to strangers. Never. the conversation is minimal. looking at the front. What comes then choose which is further away from the first man. Never. men prefer walls of floor to the ceiling to limit the interaction with neighbors. Even among close friends. Men urinate in silence. to get away from those who arrive. to more important and profound conversations. 'So . with two vessels in each of health. cosmetics divided up among themselves and even with strangers. Never.'..
many times. taking the blame for more than a third of the separations. the king decided that the couple was cut in half so that each stay with their part." said Solomon. or simple megeras nosy. But almost no jokes with in-laws ." "But she wanted to see it cut in two. But if on the one hand the parents is a problem in the marriage of many people. but the second said: "No." Most men know that. It is worth recalling that Lenin." warned the king's advisers.Chapter 6 THE OTHER WOMAN His mother Two women were presented before the r ~ i Solomon dragging a young man proposed marriage to her two daughters." What is the difference between a mother-in-law and a vulture? The vulture waiting for you dying to devour your liver. do not run blood! Let him to marry the daughter of another woman. "this shows that it is the real parents. The first woman agreed. Our research found. is to see her daughter happy. the most likely cause is the refusal of the father in giving of their precious "princesinha. it is unlikely that parents cause problems. a founder of modern Russia. even irritating. I answered: "Sure . and are always characterized witches co-mo. when asked what should be the maximum penalty for bigamy. "Today I received an email warning that my parents had died and asking if I would have to bury. . "Yes.they are not cause for laughter.provide all three." Difficult in-laws are not a problem for most men. And when the man has problems with in-law. De-because of the stories they hear. the mother of the man is the real danger. it is usually the mother of women the major cause of problems. but most men do not come to disappoint them. irritated him." The wise king did not hesitate: "The man must marry the daughter of first wife. Problems with parents not dominate the lives of men. said: "Staying with the two parents. cremate or embalm. The parents of a man can claim him." The dragon enter the scene Probably the mother-in-law jokes inspire more than any other category of the planet. What most of the mothers of the wives want more than that any thing. And if the man makes a woman happy. An old Polish proverb says: "The path to the heart of the parents is the child.
yes. My mother never complained to me or anything that I did! " Anita: "So okay. Anita. After examining each one carefully." They are not all bad Clearly. You are so thorough that it is me crazy! In my home was never like this. you have no respect for women. which shows that about 50% of parents are seen as the creators of the case also shows. Actually. But came together with three women . not all parents deserve the reputation of evil. The mother asked why he brought three. generous and." "How did you guess so quickly?": He asked. Polls conducted by the University of Utah shows that more than 50% of marriages are real problems between the husband and mother nora. Your . you can be absolutely disastrous. And she replied: "Because I was not with her face. Anita: "Tom. Arranged a dinner. I believe it cost to the teacher. The crisis involving the parents of women often seem impossible to manage and insoluble. Anita This led to the point of collapse. Can cause unhappiness. ultimately. the problem is you. in the worst cases. affectionate. A man met a wonderful woman and her boyfriend was. Although not all parents are given by the fame. anguish and. Anita thought it was becoming impossible to live with Tom. the parents of the wife. move. You think the woman has to wash. I can not live with you more!" Tom: "No.the burden it The real tragedy of most families are caused by the mother of the man.a blonde. the mother replied: "It's a redhead. invasive and possessive. let's talk about your mother. A search of the University of the State of Utah. that the other 50% are seen as helpful. He said he wanted to know if she was able to guess which of the three women was his future daughter-in-law. clean and working all the time.His mother . a brunette and a redhead. rather than just one. you are a pig. which refuses to cut the umbilical cord with your child. she mimou you. neutral. Case study: Anita and Tom They had been married only six months when cracks began to appear in your happiness. Transformed all the rooms. cook. He left his clothes and playing space-lhadas the towels on the floor. for many parents Norasia a nosy. The parents are often responsible for defects and emotional problems of their children and Norasia. After living six months with you. in home pen. that same night to his mother to know. divorce.
especially when he is single and her life is dull. possessive. not the parents. unless he has developed a strong relationship with Nora. The girl almost always strives for the love to build a good relationship with the mother of the boy. about every little detail. Suddenly.. mother of Mark. it is as if two women disputing one man. Due to a disagreement. two or even three people can be jealous. But instead of criticizing and blaming his mother. The parents are always connected to the child. She felt used and offense. It is normal for a girl seeks the support of the mother. Case study: Mark and Julie Mark and Julie decided to marry. Just be willing to resolve it. This is a really complicated problem for the partner. one. Life today is increasingly . cooking and go for them. to help her choose the wedding dress. immature. dependent. France was no longer needed and was put aside.. believing they are showing them your love. But for every problem there is a solution. When the marriage makes the situation more. The mother wants to be involved in their children's lives. to protect them. This can create jealousy in the mother's partner. How is the mother around the nora usually forget that the mother of your husband is so important to the family unit as its own. when in fact they are creating a serious problem in the future relationship with their wives. Shortly before the wedding. The parents are often put aside after the marriage. It is now an adult who should be responsible for their actions. etc. independent. or at the other extreme. because the Norasia usually maintain close ties with their mother and talk with them regularly. Receiving little information. But the children rarely talk to their mothers about what it is. selfish and emotionally unstable. the menu of a wedding party and all arrangements of practice . The complexity of the situation lies in the fact that there are three people involved in this relationship. The son and daughter-in-law must face the situation in a mature and open. In addition to washing. Is he eating right? Is that his house is well cared for? Etc.everything we have done with his own mother if things were different. Why be parents is sometimes difficult? It is important to be aware that parents occupy a difficult position. the parents begin to feel excluded from the new family and the child may find that the only way to participate is forcing way and is doing this.mother and I created a monster I'm no longer tolerate this. because having her along as it is a good strategy. the most effective in this case is training him to do what she wants him to do. Julie and her mother Sarah was not talking about three years ago. detached and friendly. " Tom: "What my mother has to do with it? Why did you change the subject? Why not stop blaming everyone except yourself?" Many mothers spoil the future at a very early marriage of their children. All three people can be emotionally balanced. So Julie is highly supported in France. but Julie found her mother with the help of Mark and they resumed their relationship.
Diana tried to be friendly. Diana has realized that it had inherited from a mother-in-law Hell. accusing it of trying to create problems between her and her son. Bernadette thought Richard was not interested in girls. Parents need attention and the children need time for their own family. Diana liked that Richard knew him. The madcap who sometimes left him were. Bernadette denied. Richard. She is holding waiting for the world turn around. Richard was now fully at its disposal. "I was late!" She said to friends. Bernadette was not particularly receptive. Logo Bernadette began openly insulting Diana when Richard was not around. now was the time to take account of it.over-charged. to be clear. She asked when he would come "in house" to paint it. Diana began then to avoid the parents. . as he liked the tidiness of the house. because neither of them had parents. The problems began when she and Richard returned from honeymoon. How many parents are required to change a light bulb? A. Case study: Bernadette. Richard knew that as she created. cities or different countries. Only presented to his mother after the announcement of the engagement. I used to laugh when the future mother-in-law commented that perhaps they are not ready for non-marriage and could change your mind at any time. and when the big wheel is complaining with her husband. without any consideration for the needs of Diana. Perhaps it is difficult for the next generation deal with their parents.she thought . to repair the tap to talk about a problem or to take her shopping. He drank more and did not de-link the minimum for the family. But the last generation only knows the phone and personal meetings to communicate. He was a good boy of 22 years and watch it. to take care of the garden. Their demands seemed to have no end. with less time for human contact. When the ceremony was. Soon after.would be difficult to find a woman equal. When family members live in distant neighborhoods. but Bernadette phone every night to stay talking long together with Richard. But she still had her son. and even in daily life. But thought it strange that her boyfriend not to take his place. we use the mail to meet the need of communication. Bernadette appeared almost every day. but Diana found that it simply needed time to adapt. and put the fault in almost everything she did. nourished and loved since birth. For Bernadette. She created with all the care. so completely unexpected. it takes some effort to maintain unity in family life . The view of Diana Adam and Eve were the happiest and luckiest couple in the world. but the two sides need to understand and find solutions to ensure the happiness of all. Bernadette became a problem. In business. comfort and emotional support for this . only for sex. telling everyone what you thought would not last. for example. but eventually grew tired of listening Bernadette tell you how to prepare the favorite dish of Richard. Richard and Diana Bernadette had just over forty years when the left-of Mari.
What is the difference between a pit-bull and a mother-in-law? The pit-bull just dropping you. The views of Richard Richard lost his father to divorce. It became possessive for Travis. helping with the baby. More than once Diana tried to discuss the problem with Richard. Bernadette was him taking his own son. Once Richard and Diana got married. The last thing that a woman needs is a complaint that her parents with the son. helping in something. to have a life free of stress. as it feeds his ego. Bernadette took account of the situation. But there was one problem: every night his mother call him a lengthy conversation. He loved the woman. and that his mother was only trying to help. collected and washed their clothes and not criticized because it felt just wonderful what he did. constantly criticizing Diana. but things were definitely more calm at home. And started to think that life would be less complicated if I went back to single. preparing their favorite dishes. only. Richard thought he was just working hard all day and still have to resolve disputes between your wife and your mother when you get home. Bernadette was the first to offer to help by washing the clothes and taking care of the baby. and continue to need in the modern world. Bernadette was soon back to life nora physically every day. immature and ciumenta. Create a child was a novelty for Diana. When this is true. but she was crazy with their explosions.Two years later. But Diana did not seem prone to a little or ask advice. Bernadette was always around. . just at the time he began to relax. everyone wins. Women do this naturally. and Diana felt prisoner and unfortunate. and so Richard thought that the advice of his mother would be fundamental. to overlive in caves. Diana and tired of discussing it in a anger deaf closed. selfish. but he thought the mother should be feeling alone and that he had a responsibility towards her. Instead. it is that would see her on weekends and helped with the house. Solution Nora and parents need to build a loop to run their lives. The mother always told him that his father does not provide for anything and now he was the man of the house. The wife must have sufficient wisdom to take control of the situation and ensure that problems are dealt with between it and the parents. In the end. It became obsessive with Travis. made his bed. but he said that Diana was being possessive. Diana began to feel excluded. When Travis was born. It was a burden. With male your brain programmed to problem solving. putting it in the neck all the time they were together. but Diana seemed so enciumada of the husband's relationship with the mother that no longer appear. Nora and parents need to adjust their relationship without involving the son and husband. Travis was the first son of Diana. Bernadette lived with and was discussing it with Richard complaining. The man may feel happy to have two women disputing its possession. Filled it with care and affection.
the problem must be resolved by the parties most affected . just in time for this-we enjoy our moments of family living. is the big wheel that as a matter of survival. later is very difficult to establish a productive discussion between the three parties. wanting to dictate the rules in our house and the creation of our son. she combines sympathy and firmness. . husband and wife. staged in families around the world. When it leaves the problems of marriage take root. husband and wife should sit down and put on paper what they think is the problem. . The problem therefore is Diana and Richard. a person be more girl. It is important that she spend some time just for parents. leaving the part of parents. for this to see how a person with life itself. .the son and daughter-in-law. .Both recognize the existence of problems? . Richard. will pay a high price later. must take the initiative to build the bridge.Bernadette does not respect my ability and hope that it meets Richard as a child. could write: .I do not understand why my wife and my mother is angry all the time.Bernadette call every night.Bernadette requires too much attention to Richard.They want to solve the problem? If the answer to any of these questions is "No". . in turn. first questions they need answered are: . but also not wanting to impose their views.Bernadette arrives without warning.You have a long life together. through whom she controls Diana and Travis. In this stage. for example. it is advisable to couple therapy. that because it is not enough time with the family. but Diana did not care about that. take our privacy and in-progress plans are constantly perplexed. . The best time to cut the umbilical cord is birth. is my responsibility to help her. but Diana refuses to divide Travis and receive useful advice on motherhood. generally immature and unprepared for the problems that inevitably arise. not matured. when all I want is to be with them. What is important is that in that relationship. leaving not intimidate. . Richard never cut the umbilical cord that connects to your mother. . If the answer is "Yes". Hardly one of them will accept what he seems to be an alliance between the other two. happy and loving? . Diana could write: . . and Diana does not understand that as a child.My mother is alone and it is up to us supports it.My mother tries to help Diana. He actually "still" have not left the house.My mother is not a man at home to do small services. If during the time of her dating book all their attention to the fiance. not simply as the wife of the child.Bernadette interfere too much. When problems appear since the beginning of the relationship. In the case study above.My mother makes me feel guilty when I do not answer your requests. when you know the future mother-in-law. The difficulty is in fact a big wheel. She had permission to continue controlling Richard.This is a common tragedy. As. Bernadette apparently has no problem.
Know where to go. must limit the duration of phone calls from their 'mother to. How to set limits Establish rules and set limits means tracing lines that should not be exceeded. Set limits and be firm are two key lessons that the newly married couples need to learn. This is a trap in which young people often fall very easily. then why not put limits on Bernadette too? Diana says Bernadette arrives without being asked and without warning. by her . people know that their transgression will bring problems. Diana should explain that she and Richard need a time of privacy to relax and take care of common projects and unannounced visits that may interfere. If Richard and Diana have limits in their marriage. but said that she and Richard receive guidance of pediatricians to the development of Travis. Bernadette did not exceed a limit set. as Christmas gift or birthday. but this is a problem that it must overcome. are not firm in setting its rules. By not putting limits on Bernadette when the problems started to appear. on the border of privacy. doing courses and voluntary work in hospitals or welfare organizations. We need to know that she should call before they appear. Bernadette feel rejected and hurt. Bernadette must be trained. Inexperienced. The problem will diminish significantly if the visits are only permitted where previously combined. have a group of reading. Richard and Diana might even offer to pay for services for an entire year. When set limits.Diana is also responsible. is important to Richard and Diana show a real interest in "new" life of Bernadette. such as joining a club of retired. Quite understandably. as the visitor is a person dear. and generally believe that the family members are only trying to help with his advice. Maybe the solution would get a "factotum" and give him the phone Bernadette. therefore. but here is a question of limits. it actually allowed the parents invade your marriage and your family. but in agreement with Diana. to excursions. after which he must tell Bernadette that has things to do and say goodbye. is that it needs to encourage the mother to develop activities outside the family. and they intend to follow it. albeit unintentionally. ten minutes. Richard really has responsibility to help the mother. lines that they can not overcome. With regard to Travis. Me and my parents were happy for twenty years. Diana has to be firm. It is natural that Bernadette would Richard take care of the problems of her house. say. The three should discuss the matter in a time when emotions are low. they do not understand the risks. Until we know it. Richard and Diana do not have of it and left to set limits when they married. in agreement with Diana. however. Richard. Must thank Bernadette for attention. the most important of all. having lived always within limits set by other people.
There will be tempting to abandon it. They have to explain or justify their decisions. make it clear. We need to keep it abreast of the family. only reaffirm that the path that is decided then. Reactions are predictable. Just as the couple set limits and make the meet. None of this is easy and requires a lot of the couple's determination and persistence. which are emotional blackmail." . after a single week she would be 105 kilometers away." Such tactics. but Richard and Diana have to say."Who else can I use?" . The next stage of the reaction of Bernadette is probably refuse to help. If you could convince your parents to walk fifteen kilometers a day.own gain momentum. Maybe even threatens disinherit them. It is not easy. the two problems can be solved. I examined all the possible reactions and are prepared to deal with it. It is important that they continue taking care of Bernadette and supporting it during this phase. mature and happy. I discussed the matter several times."I feel so alone now. A person can only make you feel guilty if you agree to accept the blame." . You've seen flying snake? Then try playing your parents through the window. It is vital that during all the conversations. ie taking care of Travis. especially if the reaction is stronger than expected." .just like your father. whether to live an independent life. ."When I die you will be sorry. but they should not do it. encouraging it. Richard is resolved to maintain her marriage and awareness of evil that causes the interference of the mother. it is only to ensure the happiness of the three."Do you not care more for me. there is no aggression. while building a life. only work if you allow. But you know what is right to do what you're doing. If sympathy and love to face the task of setting limits to Bernadette. if we are committed to maintaining a harmonious relationship and happy."After everything I did for you!" . through words and attitudes."You are selfish . a solid and enjoyable adult relationship can develop. that the affection is preserved. however strange it may seem to Bernadette . Bernadette will be boring at first and probably react with emotional blackmail and statements such as: .
Searched men of different nationalities and races. so as to remain united. Meanwhile. avoided talking to not scare the prey. Why women never go to the chase? 5. appeared a genius. I'm tired ground. Women do not need a reason to talk. "I will grant you one wish.Chapter 7 The Mysteries WAYS OF WOMEN LANGUAGE An archaeologist excavated a ruin when topou to an old lamp. To most men. Why women want to know the smallest detail? 'Why do women talk so much? The huge capacity that women have to talk is something that most men are extremely difficult to understand. and when caçavam fishing. Why do women always want to talk about problems? 3. To rub it to remove the dust. The following is the brain images of men and women talking. But it is very likely to feel skeptical about some of the things that will read. Why women talk so much? 2. man. You idea of the distance that exists between England and France? Is an engineering impossible! Make another request! The man reflected for a moment and asked: "I wish I could I communicate with women. we are able to reveal the intriguing logic that lies behind the five men most frequent questions about the way women are communicating. we collect and record answers to research on how men and women to communicate and use the science of human behavior to explain their differences. The ability to build and strengthen intimate relationships was crucial to the survival of each. The dark areas are the parts . "You freed me!" Said the genie. when to collect leaves (shopping) and still talk all the time. therefore. these secrets are both a source of amusement and confusion. They speak to be connected. The modern man also. For over a decade. not speaking much. or a specific purpose. we present here only a brief summary. In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? we treat this issue in detail. When you engage in any activity." The genius pale and asked: "One or two tracks?" If you are a man. Consequently. women did all the time. And the modern woman. But for those who can meet them. a new level of relationship with the opposite sex comes up. I just leave the lamp. Men evolved chasing moving targets. men." The archaeologist thought for a moment and replied: "I want a bridge with a Autopista connecting England to France!" The genius goggle and mutter: "Hey. These are the questions: 1. Why women exaggerate? 4. this is one of the most important chapters of this book. when you leave to hunt or fish. Women evolved together with other women and children in and near the caves. we check each item with a woman next to you.
six thousand to eight thousand words spoken per day.of the brain into activity. not to ask for solutions. For the women. when either communicate facts. Most men "only speak if you have something to say. if she feels attracted to you if she likes you or saying you want to feel accepted and important. the man tends to think that a woman discuss their problems because they do not know how to deal with them and "all the time is interrupted with solutions. The brain of man is set to the solution of continuous problems. . Man Woman The brain of man is oriented solutions. Institute of Psychiatry in London. the man gives the impression that always wants to be right and it is always wrong. the man only speaks to other men about personal problems if you think that the other has a solution. Areas of the brain related to speech and language. it speaks to you. however. As already explained. the man who was asking opinion feels honored and offers its solutions. data and solutions.two to four thousand and you understand that the ability to speak of women cause so many problems between couples. Put simply. The men use the speech and language to communicate facts and data. When a woman speaks. The reaction of the man before it is asked "Why do not you say it to her when they were together?". Have a brain that is not strong in the skills of speech and language responds to the remarkable extent of gender differences in rates of problems in speech: the stuttering is a disorder three to four times more frequent among men than among women. The images show how the brains of women is widely used for the functions of speech and language. If not. it does basically to create a bond with another person. to offer all the time. 2001. without effort." that is. Compare it with the average daily production of words of a man . From a woman. because the "conversation" of women is completely different. share their emotions and problems with someone is a demonstration of confidence in the person. No wonder that women always complain that the man to break inter-and not to let express their views. A worker exhausts its production of words in the middle of the afternoon and go home to find a woman who still has four to five thousand words to say! Two women can spend the whole day together and then still speak for a full hour on the phone. about ten times. In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? show that the brain of the woman can produce. it simply does not speak. This creates serious problems of communication with women. The women's to processes. Unfortunately. a form of retribution and a way to connect to another person. As I said. dyslexia and serious.
ask them explicitly to reserve a time for that and tell him that he only wants to listen. want to talk to your partner. without interrupting to offer solutions. Why do women always want to talk about problems? Women on average live seven years longer than men. browse the Internet or mount an aircraft to turn off the problems. It is never too often: when two people are aware that they want to invest in the relationship. The problem is that men love silence. on TV. the man thinks or does something else.the men usually see the "peace and tranquility" obtained with the silence of women as a prize. The best way to punish the woman the man is talking to him without stopping and changing the subject is. The purpose of it is if you feel better about your day and connect to you . Your brain allows you to track only concentrate on the news. Without any aggressiveness. constipation. Focusing on other things. especially when used with other women. Women use silence to punish men. if she does not agree with what this person is saying.in almost all of the time is not to seek solutions. but never too often.fortunately not .if she does not like or do not love a person. When either forget a stressful day. The opposite is also true . she stops talking. one at a time. mainly due to their greater ability to deal with stress. mutual remarks to lose the character of criticism and complaint and will be key ele-ments in the construction of mutual happiness. Only thus creates intimacy and complicity. The danger is that the internalized stress can cause diseases such as diarrhea. With men in general it does not work . stomach ulcers and heart attack . It is important to understand the man that the main objective of the "conversation" of the woman is talking about. If you have an issue to deal with it.When you make personal confidences. one could say to each other how you feel and go learn about the differences between genders and the specific characteristics of your partner. it is the participation that counts. When not occupied with another activity.it's showing that you trust. he apparently can forget their problems. The content of conversation with people is not important. is direct and clear. or when either punish them. Already suggested before. stress man stops talking and will sit alone "in front of the fire" to find a solution to your problem. she is not complaining . water the garden. When you. woman. The silence as a form of punishment is an effective tactic. The solution for men and women Ideally.
Prefer to discuss the issue and resolve it quickly. The problem was that Lisa had been created believing that the couple should never let anyone waiting for the next day. Women like to thoroughly discuss all aspects of their actions and feelings. It was common for discussion is to drag well after midnight. Case study: Lisa. and yes-go by making a possible solution. Rodney Dangerfield Women believe that everyone is talking about feeling better.until it lead to another thread. Women deal with stress talking plenty about their problems. addressing them in various ways.. My husband and I decided never to sleep before resolving our disputes. None of them works. Not . Joe could not handle it. especially late at night. the easier it becomes the relationship. There are two theories about arguing with a woman. So when the woman started to teased a problem that seems not to sense. talked and talked about the issue at stake . go to sleep and forget it. Men tend to retreat before that approach. The problem is that the female brain is programmed to enhance processes. Joe and discussion of midnight Lisa and Joe discussed much when they went to live together. Solution We to assume that the more men and women are aware of their differences. A man who did so would give other men the impression that they feel incapable and are looking for solutions . Lisa wanted to reduce their level of stress and was anxious to reach a satisfactory decision for both. One night we were agreed for six months. PHYLLlS DILLER For men. while] and thought they always came back to the same issues. he had already discussed everything that had to discuss and was happy to leave the rest divergence. He would prefer a thousand times and have a fight. The men believe that talking will only make things worse. They always kiss and make up before going to sleep. Talking about your problems is your way of relieving stress. is a mystery. Listen to it with the greatest possible solidarity and tell him you are there to accept them as needed. it would be readily available. Ask her if she wants some help and put themselves available to advise her when she wants. In the evening. remember that she needs to talk to feel better. So she talked. Enjoy going to rock your thinking about something else.all at the same time.. the reason why women love to discuss all the details.
The woman's brain is focused on people. saying that it does not always defend himself and giving examples: "This is not true. Why women exaggerate? Both men and women exaggerate.minimize the impact that certain events can cause it. because as your brain thinks things from facts and data. it interprets the words literally. Examples of female exaggeration: "I asked you a million times to collect their wet towels. but does not give us a little talk about this later?" This way of addressing the problem is more respectful and has much more chance of working than say nothing and simply wait for the woman to say end all you have to talk. Moreover. you always do this to me!" He probably will take that complaint to the foot of the letter." "You always hope that I do all the work of the house and take care of children at the same time. the performance of your car and the amount of beautiful women who left. One of one hundred things that women wish men knew: what it said six or eight months is unacceptable in the current discussion. ask to be sensitive if it can leave the matter for another time. the size of your income or that of fish caught. At that moment. Exaggerated words and emotions is a normal behavior to be perfect for women who talk among themselves. women like to dream that a leading man of TV to ask for a memorable night." "Do not talk to you anymore!" For men. She exaggerates his feelings and the other when it comes to some personal matter or what someone said. these fantasies and exaggeration that makes the conversations more interesting. but this issue is too big for my head today. The exaggeration makes it more exciting to talk about relationships. I thought it was going to die!" "You always do this to me. For example. it only needs your love and genuine care. In general. for example: "Sorry. Say." "When I saw her with that dress. even that invariably end up falling by the timid and puny boy he met at the homes of friends. sweetheart. The difference is that men exaggerate the facts and women exaggerate the emotions and feelings. He exaggerates the importance of their work. if he disagrees with the woman in front of friends. so fancy it much more than the man on the lives and relationships. I did not no time last night and not do for months!" She replied recalling . But also meets its limits. she will say later: "You always reduces me and never let me have my own opinion. the excesses of women can be frustrating. If the problem that the wife brings concerns the relationship of you and you in fact does not feel able to discuss the l-on time. I want to discuss it with you.
said he had an excellent day out with friends and show what was purchased. I knew it would be a romantic dinner and was excited. How a woman can fool yourself When the woman recall a scene in your head. but men are able to identify only three. The trip back was silent. During the dinner. He is hurt and angry. Despite his ability to speak. turned and was watching the TV. Decided to have coffee at home. because it does not consider that issue with the woman is decreased her. I started to think that something suspicious was that I had some time .. For women. but decided to wait to get home to talk. We spent the whole morning shopping. Now I knew we had a serious problem. The language of the body reveals the emotional state of women and is responsible for 60 to 80% of the impact of their conversation. your offense. so that the time and I lost a little late. All that she wants is that he values in front of friends. but one at a time.a beautiful pair of gold cufflinks. challenging in terms of facts and data..the days. She sends much of what I mean by tone of voice. He mumble "Thank you". When we arrived. I gave him a special gift . put them in the pocket and was sitting there without saying anything. around eight hours. Luke went straight in the room. Sorry for the delay. I had some suspicions but did not mean anything yet. including the phone. Mae West on men. it may appear that the memory is real. then lunch and take coffee and we talk about a million things. the woman also uses the body language to send and receive information. Most messages are not verbal. When I arrived. But for her the most important is not the offense committed. I was giving treatment to the ball to imagine what could be. The humor of it was so strange that I thought he was punishing me for having arrived late. She communicates with a scale of five tones. The letter from Jessica shows as: "Me and Luke agreed to meet for dinner at our favorite restaurant. That day Luke was football with friends and I have fun with some friends to assert that I did not see since we have decided to live together. mad to see Luke. women always seem to be moving his arms and using a variety of gestures and facial expressions when speaking. Saturday night. he was sitting. the conversation was really difficult and not a little interesting. looking out the window. His eyes seemed to say that everything was over between us. She was exaggerating his emotions and he. the emotions and feelings are what counts and tone of voice and body language are the main channels to communicate them. I want a million . It was as if it were a hundred kilometers away. without giving me the slightest attention. In the eyes of men. times and places where he eats the same.
Then. she should try to be objective and limit the exaggeration. All your friends seem to follow his reasoning. " 'What?' I was surprised. This letter from a reader and shows a woman can feel the man: "My wife goes on whim indirect speech. even if internally you give some discount. women seem to prefer to be making rounds to go right to the point.. not noticed how he looks at her with that stupid smile. help her to relativise without saying what she should think or say. Luke came to bed and also surprised me want to snuggle. Not resist to my caresses. telling me what your supervisor told you. I promised myself that the next day would face the situation and demand that he tell me the truth. women understand the need to exaggerate the emotions and feelings and not take the literal meaning. but to me and my two children that causes tremendous brain damage. How can a woman be so smart as avoada when talking? Today. and made love..' replied my wife. And he thinks I'm an idiot. This apparently vague manner of speaking is known as indirect language. that bitch of his work beyond the mini-skirt! I saw the way she moves the chair every time he passes by it.Debbie. Then cried to sleep.was true . with a tone mad. It took the largest iron if continue. while I turn to follow. Never call your partner in "queen of the drama" not a correction in front of others.. Sometimes a man feels as if I had to guess what the woman wants. Who is the other woman? He loves you or is just an adventure? Why men do not tell the truth? All I know is that it can no longer live like this . I was sitting there in the room with him about fifteen minutes until no more endure. while carrying a basket of laundry to the garage.. " I stopped with the stupid guy. Why women never go to the chase? For men. It is able to develop four or five different lines of thought simultaneously with ease. and this time I put the clothes in the washing . not eat the salami. . for example. 'I do not want you to eat the salami. is thinking it and not want to tell me not to hurt me. The woman. I will use it later. trying to find the sequence of the conversation. must realize that. my supervisor said . while she continued to where he had stopped. " I was working in the garage half hour. Yesterday. But then he just turned and was sleeping. will eventually disqualified!" Solution If you are a man. This step is especially important when it comes to business. as the man takes things at the foot of the letter. where the exaggeration may be cause for much confusion and damage. 'she said not to eat the salami? " 'She's not you. She does this constantly. And I was also becoming clear who she was .. I thought the end was near. I said: 'Later I need to go to the hardware store. Listen to the truth of it.. I was so upset and stressed that hours spent awake.he should have another woman. or be able to read her mind. as tenderly as possible. it was in the kitchen and told me: 'In the team meeting today. I went to bed. " What Luke was really thinking that night: "My team lost. They must think I'm blind! Well. Ten minutes later. moreover.
machine, in one move boxes, cleaned a shelf and made a list of arrangements for next week. When she went in the house said, without stopping what I was doing: 'Why? " 'Huh? Why what? "I asked. 'What do you need? " 'I do not need anything! What are you talking about? " 'If you do not need anything, that is going to the hardware store? "She asked, crossing his arms with that guy sulk in'0 - that-is-what-you-are-arming' that most men married knows. However, this matter was already closed for me for a long time, but for my wife is absolutely natural to resume a conversation for over an hour, if it finds that the matter was not resolved. I think she is convinced that I did not hear, and I'm half convinced that she is right. I try to understand later, after I finish my salami sandwich. Frustrated Raymond. "When a woman speaks, the language generally indirect USA. That means what it implies or infers that the things. When women use indirect language to each other, rarely there are problems - they have to understand the sensitivity real meaning of what is said. But this language can be disastrous when speaking with men, who use the direct language and interpret the words literally. As I said, the male brain evolved as a mechanism to focus single requirement of the hunt. The men find disconcerting the apparent lack of structure and purpose of female conversation and accuse women of not knowing what they are talking about. They respond saying things like: "After all, what are you talking about?", "What is the conclusion ", or the interrupt saying," We already talked about this a dozen times, "" How long it will last yet? "and" This conversation is very complicated and will not lead to nowhere. " The language in indirect business The use of indirect language and multiple tracks in business can be problematic for women because men have difficulty to follow the conversation. The men, in order to take decisions, must be submitted to ideas and information that is clear, logical and organized. Women may see their ideas and rejected the requests simply because your boss is not the slightest idea what she wants. Marie was a classic victim. After six months of negotiations, Marie had the chance to present the new advertising program for your company to a major customer of the financial industry. The audience was composed of eight men and four women. The account to be won worth two hundred thousand dollars and she only had thirty minutes to sell her story. It was the only chance of winning the title. On the day of presentation, so well tested that could sleep up to, Marie came properly dressed, with a number sober, hair done and makeup light and natural. But soon after starting, she noticed that the men looked as if they were not understood. Given the impression that they were judging negatively and losing interest in the presentation, she began to come by several shortcuts, adding unnecessary details and returning the slides already passed to show how they are related to each other. Encouraged the women with smiles, faces and vocal expressions like "Uh, uh," "Right!" and showing an interest. Encouraged by the female reaction, Marie began to turn his speech to them, unintentionally ignoring the men. The entire presentation has become an exercise in juggling. She finished and left, convinced that he had done a good job. and was eagerly awaiting the answer of the company.
This was the conversation of men executives during the coffee, after which Marie left: Director of Marketing: "You have some idea of what she was talking about?" Executive Director: "No. .. it confused me. Tell him to send the proposal in writing." Marie "multitrilhou" submission using indirect language with a group of men who wanted to hear a presentation objective, and lean in his logic. The executive met and became involved with questions, but no man wanted to raise their hand and admit that there was not understood. The woman needs to understand that man, when you can not follow what she says, prefer to pretend it means to go through stupid. Only it is not convinced. When a man can not keep up the discourse of business of a woman, he pretends to understand. The woman must use a direct language, with timetables, schedules, deadlines and conclusive answers. Should be direct with men in business by addressing an issue each time, with beginning, middle and end, without getting lost in shortcuts. Marie is still waiting for a response ...
Case study: Barbara and Adam Barbara went to shop with friends and wanted his son Adam, aged 16, clean the kitchen. "Adam, you can do to please clean the kitchen for me?" She asked. "Hum .. s ...", he growl in response. When she resumed the tour, the kitchen remained the same. Barbara was angry with her son. "But I would clean up before leaving at night", he whine. The problem was caused by the Barbara. She used the language indirect assumption that Adam would understand that when she returned home with her friends, the kitchen should be clean. She asked: "You want to clean the kitchen?" No boy "or" clean the kitchen. Adam can not. A direct request with a deadline, as "Adam, please clean the kitchen before I get back from shopping at noon, would have guaranteed a better result.
Children do not "want" to do household chores, they need to be directly instructed to do them.
That night, Barbara said to Adam: "I would like you to look for an hour before going to bed." Indirect dis-course that works with girls but with boys it is useless. The brain of the boy heard that his mother that he would do such a thing, but it really was not instructed to do it, does. Direct instruction with a time limit is the only realistic way of dealing with men. "Adam, I want you to go to your room and study for one hour. I will give you good-night before you pain-mir." Direct instructions leave little room for communication problems. Moreover, men enjoy clear instructions. Women fear that the direct language is too aggressive. You can even be, when used with another woman. With men, however, the direct speech is perfectly normal, because that is how they communicate. Solution For a woman: With men, seek to use only the direct discourse. This does not mean being aggressive. You may well say, calmly and affection: "Let's make an appointment to talk? Feel that we need solve some problems." And remember what we said before: when speaking of problems, makes clear that it is as you see them and feel, which does not mean they are exactly that. Do not extend to others and gives space to listen to what your partner has to say. Listen to the truth, not defend themselves or challenge immediately. In the beginning may seem difficult, but over time this practice will bring you the desired results. You'll have fewer misunderstandings with men of his life. For men: If a woman is talking and you have difficulty to follow your line of thinking, start listening, without offering solutions. If anything, give it a time limit: "I watch the news of seven, my good, but until then I'm all yours." Again: try to show you their own limits and their way of being. Once you have the precious chance to go is knowing better and respecting their differences. One of our readers sent us the Dictionary of Women Indirect terms that appear during their regular discussions. "Good" - The USA women at the end of this word in any discussion that you believe to be the reason but want the man shut up. "Five minutes - I mean, about half an hour. Equivalent to five minutes when the man is watching a soccer game and the woman asked for a favor. "Nothing" - means "something." "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling of the woman when she is willing to strangle the man. "Nothing" usually means the beginning
Why women want to know the smallest detail? Josh was reading the newspaper a night when the phone rang. wanting to know every detail. shows a basic brain differences between men and women.. He answered. We were talking .means "I quit" or "Do what you want because I'm not there. Means that you put the hurt and the next step will be an "audible sigh. She will tell you that is" good "while playing their clothes through the window. The woman is giving you the chance to invent an excuse or reason you have done what they have done. when it has plot is planned. For example. "Robert.. "raised eyebrows" and an "audible gasp" final. is simply saying it does not believe a single word of what you say. you will be a big trouble.. "Aah? I talked to his brother about what you walked by last night "and" Aah? You expect me to believe "." You should receive a "Go ahead" (raised eyebrows) in a few minutes. she insisted. "All right" . details are irrelevant." "Go ahead" (with normal eyebrows) . which has dealt before." "Aah?" . the split detail each point of the conversation." "So .At the beginning of a sentence. "Really?" ... "Thank you" . after the woman said "nothing.It is said in a tone of challenge.. For men." The next time it will allow you to make sex with her will "one day". The woman thinks when a man does not speak ." Josh replied that defeated tone that men have when trying to read the newspaper. a former schoolmate." Do not ask what's wrong after the "audible sigh. "Aah" generally means that you have been caught in a lie." The more you apologize.means that she wants to think before you return whatever you have. This situation. what he said?" She asked. "Go ahead" (with raised eyebrows) . is great.of a discussion that will last "five minutes" and have undermined with the word "great". "Who was that?" He asked his wife Debbie." He hung up and continued reading." he said. And he was asked him as an advocate of it. You offering to explain and receive a "Please. listened for about ten minutes making occasional grunt and said: "Yes. "Robert? You do not see from the side! How is he?" "Good. seasoned with a lot of "Aahs". -Audible sigh means she thinks you an idiot and wonders why it is wasting time by discussing with you "Nothing. If you do not speak the truth will win in a final "OK". when a cool head.She is not questioning the validity.. and the highest is the sarcastic "Really?" it. "Nothing important . "Please" .. At some point in the near future. followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she says she will explain the reason in "five minutes". "That is what he said after ten years? What is great ". He is nice . okay. "Okay" is often used with "Fine" and in conjunction with "Go ahead" (raised eyebrows).is not an application is an offer for you to talk.The woman says that when you're really upset with you. And do not try to lie more to get an escape because" Go ahead "(raised eyebrows)." because it will say "Nothing.
Things that seem important to you may be irrelevant to him. try to avoid the excess of detail. Invite her for a long walk and let her talk. or family. At home. especially in a business meeting. The group of friends was his insurance company. Thus.. have already decided how to defeat terrorism and how England can win of Germany in football .. when you talk to the woman. and the latest jokes. feel that he is uninterested. But you know very little about the personal life of any person in the group . It is not that women are curious ... you will be a great year.much because he is not interested in it. . ah. they want to know how each person in your group and how they can help. do not feel offended. being precise and succinct. ask if it is available. After a social activity. which means knowing all the details and is actively interested by the situation of each group member and their families.just listen to it with genuine interest. I discussed what are good places to fish. Remember once again: you need not worry about giving answers or provide solutions .. is that with the long-term survival in their minds. yes .their wives saying all the way home. Tell us what you feel and hear what he feels. knowing that men and women are structurally different. they do not cease to be . His survival depended on their ability to connect to other women. Solution If you are a man. Women are programmed to know all the details Defender of nests and offspring.. And if you are female. Men know what new "toys for boys" bought the other men. already see the new red sports car from Bob. their dreams and goals for the year.. you should 'go to the chase. The man thinks the woman speaks and other torments so many questions. in reporting events from the others. look you give more details than usually and do not fidget with their pe1fun-tas. because for women the words are used to unite. their health and status of their relationships. meets its limits. need to understand that the woman needs to know details and personal information is programmed into your psyche and aims for the survival of relationships Therefore. And if. You also know where the friends go on leave and the children are doing in school. well. women know everything that each member of the group. are doing. tell your partner that is willing to tell her what happened. the woman involved to secure for itself a narrow circle of friends who take care of it if your man does not resume the hunt or the war..
you did not mention that the neighbor cat up and sometimes the smell is unbearable. Maybe you have not told her husband that found a former boyfriend and that his heart shot. Mary. no one notices it or he has a size suitable for your face. may have ceased to mention that leakage of engine oil to speak of the excellent conditions under which he was. how people react? One thing is certain: you would be an insufferable person.then quit running. Most lies are the first meetings. but you know he has a picture of it in the drawer of the office. Most of the lies that we are soft Lies. do not want to hear the truth about him . as often prefer the subtle distortion of the true facts and stark naked. There is no one interesting beer is hot. His girlfriend called in last minute canceling the meeting with you and an excuse that it seemed in tatters. Proverb If you had told the strict truth to all those who interacted in the last week. Because their sinuses are fallen. If you have a nose too large. but you do not know what it is. those that exist for us to live jun-ments without violence or aggression. His female instinct tells you that something is wrong. Why not put a bra or seeking a new plastic surgeon?" "Hi. Or that . Always tell the truth . When you sold the car. You would be wrong? Lie: noun. probably would not have any friends and possibly more would be unemployed. what would have happened? If you tell the exact words that go through your head. but left to say or tell something that would have caused suffering to the person.Chapter 8 "You think I am OUE -FAT CLOTHES WITH THIS? Why men lie? The new man in your life that really is all over with the former. action by which a person is to deliberately deceive another person. Adam. Imagine the following situations: "Hi. When announced to sell the house. You may have exaggerated a bit to complete a loan application form or request for jobs to provide the best. What mind? Everybody lies.he prefers to hear him personality. as you may not have lied." When was the last time you lied? Well. when all want to make the best. You must see the reason for your bad breath and why not cut the hair of the nose?" "This meeting is organized chatíssima you. You distrust.
half-light and soft music were not part of the normal lifestyle of Dennis and the usual topic of conversation was his sport. They were talking a little about her work and the events of the day. lit with candles. When he arrived. Did you not concealed from the other lipo or prosthesis that did that to put the body shape? Ever not lied about your weight and your age? The list of large and small lies is endless. makeup is carefully chose a sexy dress. But if faced with this basic fact. With a little practice is to recognize the behavioral signs we learn to lie and decodes them. making it possible for a person know if the other is telling the truth. Give the name you want .were excited in the highest degree. Case study: Sheelagh and Dennis Sheelagh was asked by Dennis for dinner at his house and decided whim to impress you. put a pair of long earrings and a bit of French perfume behind the ears. But we can say that everything you said and did that night was in search of personal gain. he presented with a beautiful bouquet of flowers and led it to the table. in turn. a soft background music and fire burning. this scenario is called a romantic dinner with candlelight. Free sex with no inhibitions. This whole assembly was a fine trick. and it is not easy to hide. And I was experienced enough to know that building the scenario the way they mount. hearing. not to lie. Everyone constantly lied to each other. All night. Only enemies tell the truth. where it served a glass of champagne. touch and smell . the chance to get to Sheelagh what I would be much greater. or is lying.sight. and strongly. looking at the eyes and encourage her to talk. It was the lights on the hair do hair. most people feel guilt. And assumed that he felt exactly the same for her. both would deny. is decorate.are all lies. was based on lies and deceptions. smiling. Dennis listened attentively. But in reality it is a complete fabrication of lies half on both sides to try to gain personal advantage. is armed and behaved is thinking only in stimulating the sexual part of the brain of Dennis.the group of friends who would just be reducing the lunch spicy brunette who works in the next office. Fortunately. Sheelagh. Friends and lovers. in short. To sit. pants high heels.so different from others she met. of course. On entering the dining room. obtaining a gain or avoid pain. Champagne. was impressed with the way Dennis get the scenario for the night: half-light. Stephen King We lied for two reasons. Sheelagh felt completely overwhelmed by the caring and sensitive man . caught in the web of obligation. All your senses . you raise the level of testosterone. remorse or discomfort when you lie. Research shows that 30-40% of patients get relief with placebos . glorious. she realized that he was using to shave lotion that she said that he liked. Parents lie to their children about sex and teenagers lie to their parents about sex. In polite language. Dennis wanted sex.
he misappropriate information. A known God. sorry. left little. who. not an accident.technically lying. can spread the false information that its main competitor is in financial difficulties. because the intention of the liar in this case is hurt or take advantage of victims in their own benefit.embraced with a smile-tooth Margie. to get him out of the rival. she gives him in the face of the neighborhood shopping center . the lying does not count as a lie. Lie beneficial to the malicious lies and malicious lie. and when he met a man who seemed loving. Margie War gave false information on the character of a man. Malicious lies are motivated by revenge or to gain advantages. or as safe prescription drugs .Types of lies There are four basic types of lies . a person who could not trust. The Lie benefit is used by people with the intention of helping. that a man cheating ex-girlfriend. with results to be devastated and durable. A month later. business and politics. Types of liars "Natural liars" are people who are fully aware and confident in their ability to deceive. A couple had their school and its reputation destroyed because they spread the rumor that sexually hurt the students. for example. it is not an uncommon political rumors spread that an opponent has his inappropriate sexual behavior. Similarly.placebos . cold and painful. was delighted. ra late because the damage was enormous. through another friend. sensitive. heard. In forging a inverídica information is presented as true. intelligent. Nobody could blame for not warning Gerris Margie because Margie may not believe. In general. was single mother. The malicious lie is the most dangerous. War. fun and is interested in her. This is the case of the German farmer who hid Jews from Nazis and denied to the authorities. To tell her friend Margie who was seeing this man. politicians and richies are the main targets of malicious lies. The lies and malicious misconduct tend to be used as weapons in competitive situations. He was lying heroically. this time by an act of concealment. C mo already said. discovering that War was over. but if War took the decision not to warn it would also be guilty of lying. Invent the people intend to destroy the character and reputation of their victims. When the truth was restored. War then moved to avoid it. The malicious lie has two main forms: concealment and falsification. in fact. The fireman who rescues a child from a house on fire and mind to it saying that their parents are and is protecting it for some time to suffer an even greater trauma. One company. The medical mind that the patient in the bed of death to raise her mood. making it the guarantor of a loan and giving it the default. People in evidence as actors. for example. The journalists who offer the stories to newspapers and magazines sensational. This type of lie is an intentional act. In the blind. even if they are inverídicas also benefit as the rivals of those affected in the world art.the Branda Lie. and do as little. he was a notorious playboy. parents who were themselves taught them to lie to prevent the . the Lie Branda is part of our social fabric and prevents us from ferirmos and insult each other with the truth hard. Say.
offending and creating problems for everyone they know. they can cause enormous damage to women's emotional. the woman usually does not the slightest idea of what is happening. and sexual interest. Consequently. Who minds the most? Most of the women has to say categorically that men lie more frequently than between them. that men and women lie in equal Others . but what they want to believe that it is like the truth. pretending to give in return love and emotion. If you lead the department of personnel of a large company would want to know as much as possible about a person applying for a position of trust. politicians and spies. When a Romantic Liar enter into action. Studies and experiments show. Romantic Some liars are specialists in hiding who are married. even when they are evident to friends and family. repeating that "I never lie. sex and other benefits of women. where most people mind and anything. The emotional damage and loss of self-esteem often far beyond the material losses in these cases and may leave a woman emotionally marked: it will hardly believe any man. It can be painful discover its faults. Even smart women be fooled by a Romantic Liar. doctors and businessmen to raise the successful. but first it will screw you. Romantic liars can appear anywhere and go in and chat on the Internet. but will save you a far greater suffering in the long term. psychological and financial. Many natural liars take advantage of that ability in adulthood become criminal lawyers. the only limit is the imagination. however. because it would inevitably discovered.terrible punishment that would apply if told the truth. For those liars. She is blind to the lies or deny. The most common objective of Romantic Liar is starting money. was persuaded by the parents that it was impossible to lie. seems to learn nothing suffered. People say love of truth. while others are masters in pose of lawyers. MAL Pancoast One of the most dangerous lie that a woman can find the way is the romantic. The "liar non-natural" is the person who as a child. vendors." annoying. These poor creatures spend their lives indiscriminately telling the truth about everything. The truth will free him. actors. Some returned in this type of experience. as the biggest talent is his ability to live a lie plausible enough time to its victim fall in love. The offices of the therapists are full of intelligent women and full of resources Romantic victims of a Liar. merchants. right? Why not do the same with a prospective partner? The advice here is: always check the history of any product you want to keep for long.
and men for doing good. The woman mind to make the man feel good. And in those cases where the man mind. I never trance with that woman. The human mind to do good. Due to heightening awareness for women's body language and vocal signs." The man who betrayed a lie until well beyond any evidence because. They just continue to get caught." tell a lie as indirect "I do not know what to say. "Once and for all. Women of the m general. If a man says that sex with the ex was a drug. and only will if forced to give their opinion. The main question of the men who do women lie is: "What it was good?" The most common form of lie is self-deception. "She is my friend. And they say that sex with ex was better than with you. even thinking that the person was like a sack of potatoes. no matter where or when. to defend themselves from charges of women. such as smoking two packs of cigarettes a day repeating that it is not biased and can stop whenever you want." or simply saying that lie loved. the man moves away to not have to lie. This is the main difference lies between male and female. lying also likely to leave you angry.except for being really drunk.women lie as much as men." Sex is one of the constants of life of man . tend to lie to make others feel better. They do not lie anymore. Women lie to keep the relationship safe and have great difficulty in lying about their feelings.it is always good. a man is able to say it is vice-director of a multinational distribution of food when it has a business of supply of pizza at home. The woman said that a mind was wonderful clothes for someone. The evidence is clear . What 's wrong with that?" He says she is a friend from childhood and . "The sex with my ex was a drug.propose What varies is the content of the lie. which leaves the impression that lie more. Even become aggressive. it is highly likely that he is lying. The men lie to avoid discussion and to say. especially because it usually sounds "Eooo a xtô bêbadu. Common lies that men tell women "I'm not drunk" a lie is easy to get. men are caught much more frequently. but lie differently. in his head. There is no reason to say that a person is not drunk . as if you were deeply offended. most women know very well that he is lying. or convince themselves that a calorie dessert not affect the system. In an extreme case. Under the same circumstances. has nothing to gain by telling the truth. He will say that the clothes are "interesting.
She knows I tell if a dog is happy. The man has on average 4 to 7 of those points. " Why not stick the lies? Most lies can be detected because. advise him or try to understand it. As I said. Here is the key to duck-logical liar: he has no emotional connection with anyone. For the same reasons. because your brain is more developed for spatial tasks than for communication. fear. involve emotions that flashing red lights as verbal or visual. hunger. Most women have less difficulty to lie in the face of the man . in danger. in general. The purpose of man hunter was always reach its target accurately and not talk to him. she is vulnerable.whether friendly or aggressive. These points are used to decode words. Try to disguise these tracks creates an emotional issue for the majority of us. so that it can handle more . A husband has difficulty to lie to his wife if he really loves. If the man wants to lie to a woman. the woman's brain is organized into multiple tracks. The closer a person. she is going through a difficult situation and I want to help. The "hypersensitive" female has two goals: defend its territory against foreign and communicate with the children. signs and changes in body tone. Must be able to rapidly assess the attitude of people who are close to their nest . disease. On May the lie and the more emotions involved. it is best to do so by telephone. more tracks will be left by the liar.in general if they can get along. Most men do not think that guy has a dog required. Without these techniques of survival. so do not want you to go eat with us. MRI scans of brain show that a woman has from 14 to 16 key points in the two hemispheres when communicating face to face. she does not feel anything for me. sad. lie is easy. angry or embarrassed. The man needs to reach its target accurately and not having a conversation with him deeper and full of meaning. therefore. she is just needing a friend to talk. she needs to tell me something very secret. Why women are so good at catching lies? Most men know how difficult it is to run even a small lie to a woman face to face. the more difficult it is to lie because of the emotions involved. The woman must have ability to look at their offspring and immediately identify the pain. without being caught. But keep away from you and not to let her know. she is sick and wants me to go visit her. sorrow and joy. Other variants include: "She is lesbian.who have no other interest in it. but will not have the slightest difficulty in lying to the enemy if captured in war. and respond to a large extent by what is known as "female intuition". If you see or not these tracks. is another problem. the woman is able to read the emotions of animals.
assistant professor of psychology from East Carolina University.information at the same time. making them better able to understand the state of mind of people.630 students and 2.the part of the brain used in language and the storage and retrieval of memory . Advice for men Do not waste time telling a lie to a woman face to face. A third of students in each group was told to put lies prone in the curriculum vitae. Sixty-one percent of secundaristas and 32% of students admitted to have circumvented the tests at least once in the previous year. In the United States. fleeting. a survey of 2002. people who are lying. plus the left.is full of receptors for estrogen and grows more rapidly in girls than in boys. Why do women always remember? Erik Everhart. The hippocampus . If it needs. call her or send her an email. stealing The younger the person. but also that they are often negotiating more perceptive than men. It is very difficult. you are informed at once and let go. The FBI agents learn to analyze the "micro-expressions" . The woman's brain is programmed to read the signs when they happen. For that use the slow motion. swindling. Found that this difference helps the girl to detect subtle changes of facial expressions. more prone to cheat. This gives you the added advantage of knowing how to read the physical signs and hear what is being said while speaking. . while the men often forget their lies. which explains not only why they are much more difficult to deceive.the subtle expressions. fraud and stealing. Young people are more prone to lying. Women are very good at remembering what was the lie that those who counted and counted. There was. about nine thousand adolescents and adults from all over the country. and 16% of secundaristas said that it had done at least once. in the forms and job interviews to get what they want. and the girls. Women not only have a greater ability to detect lies as they have greater ability to save them as ammunition for future discussions. lasting from a fraction of a second. for example. that Bill Clinton lour for a split second before answering any question about Monica Lewinsky. 3. found that boys and girls from 8 to 11 years of age using different parts of their brains to identify faces and expressions Boys most use the right side. The man with the brain of single track. Read the mouth and eyes of someone requires a more refined analysis than judging the emotions of the face piece. We search for 3243 students from secondary school.092 adults. About 33% of secundaristas and 16% of students admitted having stolen goods from a shop on the previous year. so many physical signs. giving women greater ability to recover memories of things loaded with emotion. showed that a significant number of people in the range 15 to 30 years is prone to lying. and colleagues from the State University of New York in Buffalo.
'No'."I can trouble for something I did?". because they will distort the truth to avoid reaction. too hurt or vengeful when he hears the truth. for example. but the bribe the guard to watch traffic. Unfortunately. is that the behavior of these people makes the others lie to them. The children hear from parents that honesty is the best result. the teaching is lying to protect themselves. "We're doing a competition. Most parents do not realize. it is a duty of kindness and just education. When someone reacts to what is said so aggressive and emotional." "That ugly thing!". these are symptoms of great moral crisis that rages in all societies. why did not the duty of the house." Based on this study." replied the boys. The second reason. If people know that you are angry. we could say that Americans are a bunch of liars and fraudsters. The father is approaching heatedly discuss that next to a puppy. I avoid at all costs. Many of the behavioral patterns are liars down during childhood and youth. you got it!" Ambiguous messages about the lie that children receive has a major impact on their behavior when they grow up. If you are a person who offends easily. Why the lies of friends and family hurt more . symptoms that reflect a real change of values in these societies. never know what the other is really thinking or feeling about them. When all the known lie to you Some believe that we should not trust anyone and that the world is full of liars. "Great. almost forcing the others to lie. but similar studies conducted across the West showed the same trend. people flatter you do not like to give excuses to justify a lack liars or cancel an appointment." The survey found that 83% of secundaristas and 61% of university lied to the parents during the previous year. Asked the student. If you ask the children to tell you the truth. will say. that the severity of punishment is a major stimulus to lie and one of the main reasons that children grow as stubborn liars. The most disturbing was that 73% of those surveyed in the range 15 to 30 years said to believe that "most people cheat and lie when necessary to achieve what they want. "What is the reason for the fight?" Asks the father. "Who gains from the biggest lie the dog. "I never lied!" The boys were put to cry. replied the director. People find this for two reasons: first. assume that all other people are. In such cases. as they themselves are liars usual. The father responds. then the sanctions because the truth is not in line with its expectations. It is different than being instructed to pretend to like the gifts that have won or give a kiss on the annoying aunt who will visit them. apologize: "Dad. and adulthood are triggered by figures of authority. more likely. The researchers found that the dishonesty and other unethical behaviors were less common among people over 30 years and lied that the two sexes in equal proportion.
A lie told by a brother. Clues to unmask a liar How people feel uncomfortable with the lie. wife. at least for a time." The liars also avoid using the name of the person involved in the lie. Furthermore.. the used car salesman will lie to us. we surprised him with it and can choose to not see him ever again. The lie of a close friend also hurt. in principle. generally the third response is not accurate and the story seems a little different. mother. the liar's voice becomes more acute. How to read between the what is said . His script is perfectly decorated and rarely does it wrong. I saw my brother after lunch. In the end she will betray an excess of confidence in the performance. " To recall the events of the day. Consider the example of a person who combines is with you and not displayed. because the closer the person. people usually stop and change direction to try to put things in order. no. A malicious lie told by her husband. then ask them to repeat a third time. Ask liar to repeat what you think is a lie. for that before-I had to go get my car in the workshop . they instinctively seek to distance itself from them.. the more we trust it. If later the demand and it says "My car broke down and had no cell battery. due to the stress associated with the lie. He tested his mind many times in the head and is generally able to perform without error.. Good liars are able to make a second version identical. They prefer to say "I do not trance with that woman" than "I do not trance with Monica. brother or sister hurts deeper. but that person can be eliminated from our lives. As he does not expect this repeteco and is more relaxed. just leaving to find her. but tends to be forgiven. sister or child hurts more than told by an acquaintance.. I i in my brother's house after breakfast and then . Who does one turn is two If you think a person is lying. analyzing the words of suspects who had alibis false. the more open to it. The FBI recently discovered this valuable clue." Liars do not hesitate Ask a person what she did last weekend and she will probably think a bit before saying something like: "Ah . The liars leave the lies out of its references to themselves and avoided using the word "I". cause more suffering to a lie..The more intimate the relationship. we know that. But the habitual liar not hesitate or forget. because the person will be our brother.. because the feeling of betrayal is more pro-fund and you do not want to remove this person from your life. Then give a break to the suspect to let him think that made it." you instinctively distrust most of what she said "My car broke and I could not call you because the phone's battery was weak. sister or child. if I act like every word.. father. aah . At the other extreme.
" The force with which the person who says "Trust me" try to convince the other is proportional to the size of the bait. however.S. but should pay attention when you hear "just" and "only". because they give the impression that the listener is unable. not mean that it will not believe what is being narrated. A friend was my ex-beats the classroom at the college to respond with "Bullshit!" the statement of professor of religious sciences that had more than a thousand shrines where the Virgin Mary operated miracles. "You understand?" or "Do you understand?" at the end of the sentence are irritating mannerisms. that phrase alone is not evidence of dishonesty: it must be interpreted in its context. Who is being honest. but who knows you believe?".95" and "Only U. . saying that was just expressing surprise." When you hear someone say "only" and "only" should think about why the person tries to minimize the importance of what you're saying. when in reality they want to force you to believe what they are saying. which will sound false. or what he is saying is not worthy of credit. indicating that the person may be trying to hide the truth or convince you of an emotion that she does not feel. and oblige him to answer "I" to every request. $ 40.You already talked with someone who seems less convincing as this? Examine some common words and phrases. who will hire you for a full hour. trustworthy and decent credit need not convince anyone of it. he makes his observation with a "Trust me. try not to eliminate them is liable to generate mistrust. Here is a list of terms commonly used by people who want to convince them that speak the truth. some honest people have the habit of using those words repeatedly. Unconsciously do this by introducing a true statement. you will do what I want.S.00 for entry" is used to convince the consumer that the price is insignificant." "I'm not kidding" and "I would lie to you?" are other versions. "I just wanted to say I love you" mask the need for love is shy to say "I love you." "Without doubt" gives reason to doubt and "Without a doubt" is definitely a warning sign. There are people who exclaim "Bullshit!" when they hear a fact which seems extraordinary. I love you. Pay attention to your speech to see if you USA often these words and. "I am just a human being" is the motto of those who do not want to take responsibility for their mistakes. The words "honesty". For example: "Frankly. "I love you" is easier to believe than "Honestly. $ 9. "Only" and "only" The words "only" just "are used to minimize the meaning of words" which are then to relieve the guilt of the speaker or p ra blaming the other for any unpleasant consequence." And no woman believes the man who says "Just a friend. "Believe in what I am telling you" can mean "If I can make you believe me. Remember. However. But who has not always meant well. this is the best I can offer you" is sometimes translated as "might not be the best that I have to offer. but in the end thought that it was untrue. not a rule. She argued. it is more clear that a contract gives you the possibility to interrupt the conversation past the time stipulated. honest. To feel that you are not believing it. "Only U. if so. honest and sincere than states and can be sign that he is lying. Do you lack the confidence to say you feel? Are you trying to fool? Or are you wanting to escape from their responsibilities? Of course. "I only take five minutes of your time" is the USA. "sincere" and "frankly" indicate that the speaker should be considerably less. If the person says "You give me five minutes?" and you agree.
"I do not belong to this type of people." . speed and volume."To be absolutely frank / honest / honest with you. When a person is caught distorting the truth."I'm telling you the truth." . but the fact is that people of character do not need live testing its virtues." . breathing and perspiration. while honest people may be intimidated and lied to eventually classified as roses. Recent studies show that the accuracy of the new computerized polygraph is close to 100%. speaking more slowly and reduces the volume of voice. blood pressure. These machines can now be seen in programs of the TV interviews in which the American guests also tend to prove the guilt.."I never I would be such a thing. This is most noticeable in men than in women."As a member of .."You think I would be able to do such a thing?" Some people try to use the organization to which they belong. AHS. no change occurs in these indicators." It can also be a matter of uncertainty. Answers like these are given when the person is calling and not to respond directly to a question. The polygraph. innocence or the fidelity of their partners. You may recognize some of these phrases: . ERS. their speech tends to be dotted with uhms. Getting lie with the computer The progress of technology of computer generated three interesting ways to detect liars. When the person is wanting to cheat. except when determined by the judge. a lie is detected by the physiological effects that are manifested as the increase or decrease in heart rate. When the person is in a situation of stress. and hem breaks because there was not enough time to test the lie." . because they have the brain less . They live their values in a way that is visible and that gives them credibility. The polygraph is not accepted as evidence in court." ."I have no reason to lie."Frankly Speaking."Why would I lie?" . Conversely. When a person speaks the truth. Liars experienced less anxiety show that beginners and are sometimes able to pass the test of the polygraph. Studies show that 70% of the amount of voice crotch when lying. the liar that calculates the lie to ensure their effectiveness. the pulse and the relative volume of blood is the most famous of lie detector."Trust me. tension causes a tightening in the vocal chords that makes screechy voice and can increase its speed and volume. have received or honor the traditions of his family to convince you of their honesty.. There are also physiological differences between people that may be source of errors in the polygraph test. Paying attention to vocal tracks There are three characteristics of voice capable of delivering a liar ." .height. which measures the breathing apparatus." .
The male gestures are easier to understand because they are more extensive and frequent: rubbing eyes and nose. When someone rub the eye. pulling the ear and bring the hand to the neck. This is true for children educated in Western culture and European. If someone rub your eyes. it does not show signs of fraud. discussing the matter extensively. The smile that accompanies a true statement. Is in the eye You probably learned to believe the liar never looks in the eyes. like politicians and religious fanatics who. take your fingers to rub the nose or mouth. nothing guarantees that lying. your facial expressions are asymmetric. There was. may be itching. most of the time. Keep in mind that they are not satisfied that the person is lying. When it comes to lie in general at least three signs. irritation or fatigue. exaggerate or lie. without displaying too many signs of the stress. however. "to be honest. but there is something she is not saying. feel insecure. but there are some signs you can see when someone is lying. When the person mumble a reply to a question directly. Both men and women take much to hand to the face when in doubt. they show that it is experiencing some kind of stress. Interpreting body language In our book The Language of the Body body showed signs that represent more than 60% of the messages exchanged between people. Mothers them said "I know you're lying . Smile Men and women smile the same way as when they lie and the truth. scratches his neck.the left side of the face mirrors the right side. There are people who lie comfortably. your smile is crooked means. and others. for example. that Bill Clinton touched his nose and face 26 times when answered questions about Monica Lewinsky before the grand jury. In the book. When people try to show that they do not feel emotions. they believe their lies.equipped to control the language. pull the ear. But most of the liars give many signs. and it is likely to be hiding something. is usually rapid and symmetrical . If it touches the face several times and at the same time says "trust me". Interpret the whole Never interpret a gesture alone. The fake smile is generally slow and asymmetric. In other words. "believe me". suspicious. it is reasonable to assume that you are listening to a lie.
because you can not look in my eyes. It is an instinct for defense. 9. The brain tries to prevent the face of information. Stay calm. 8. A liar think doing so is not lying. because it shows which part of the brain they are using. 3." In cultures where maintaining prolonged eye contact is considered an ill-educated attitude and aggressive. Do not accuse. Smile with the lips closed. Try making it easy to tell the truth. Aggressive questions as "Why do not you call me?" and "Are you seeing anyone?" may cause the liar is to secure its position and not improve anything in your relationship with him. Signs that denounce the lie in men 1. Give it an "exit". Pretend not to hear or say that law did not understand what he said. trigger the right side of the brain and look to the left. Deepening the pupils 6. Do not show surprise or amazement. "Open up" to the truth. It is important to note if s eyes blink more often . is where it will look. trigger the left side of the brain and generally look to the right. Use the technique of self: "I felt a lack of your call. Mispronounce or mumble the words. but is a strong evidence of cheating. and a signal is almost impossible to disguise. Hide your hands. resulting in forced eye contact. 7. Always leave an exit for him to go back and tell the truth. It is a subtle form of intimidation." "I am sad when I think you're seeing another woman. His eyes fitam the void. 2. this does not apply. he will feel uncomfortable. He wants to make you like it to believe it. recalled when a real event. 4. The invading his personal space. The direction where to move the eye of the person when it is a question you can also help you identify a liar. it is possible to continue denying it. Sit in the chair higher. This observation is not without errors. 4. Crossing your arms or legs. 5. you lose the chance to be knowing the truth. open your arms and tilt it back. 10. Mimic the posture and his movement to establish a communication and make it more difficult for him to lie to you. If you react negatively or with much emphasis. but record the suffering that their attitude question to you. As not being a victim of lies 1.a sign of growing tension and dryness of the eyeball. The deft. In simple terms. 7. look liars left to right. Men find it easier to lie with your hands in your pockets. experienced liars can maintain eye contact when they lie." In the latter case. Shake your head indicating "no" when they answered "yes" and vice versa. 8. and when invented a story. 2. It is the forced smile used by both sexes for fake sincerity. Not maintain eye contact. Demonstrate warmth and laughter too. If you get close. Talk soon. Liars just want to finish with the conversation. Descruze legs. If the room has a door. Never say what you really know . In addition. . Add involuntary facial movements. skillful liars look to the left. 5. 9.does not show that you know they're lying. 6. without further difficulty. 3.
the more likely it is to confess everything and. And that is something that men and women will never understand. at worst. . Finally. If he thinks you miss the hook. to find a solution to not having to resort to lying again. we asked our readers to send us the 9 phrases that men hear when they hide what they really want: dictionary of language patterns of male The men never understand women and women will never understand men.10. Give him one last chance. Ignore the lie and say "What can we do that does not happen more?".
Casual. not too flashy. how you dress for the man trying to impress? a. Tiny shoes. Heavy. It is a guide to the impact that you cause or ceases to cause a man when he sees for the first time.Chapter 9 THE TESTING OF WOMEN'S SEXUAL APPEAL How do you make people work? Take the test When the eyes of a man found the trellis in a room. A short clothes. What type of shoe predominates in your wardrobe? a. or jump down. This is a test to see how a man to evaluate the primeiva finding the time or were looking at his picture. less than 65%. 6. When you are chatting with an attractive man that stops leg bigwig. c. b. Skinny / straight. c. At the first meeting. c. but elegant. c. Terninho a stylish and well cut. High heels. 4. Athletic / strong. more than 80%. b. what is your attitude? . Measure your waist and hips and calculate the proportion waist / hip dividing the waist by the hip. with comfortable shoes. colors. proportions. textures and female body language signals. b. b. 1. The influence of personality traits on their attraction to men will be discussed later. which would you prefer? a. A long and undulating clothes that cover all problem areas. Created then this test to give you an idea of how they look. Their ratio is: a. 2. With trousers or a long skirt. c. with and without straps. 5. based on responses from the male brain to certain forms. fair and low-necked to let that show their physical gifts. b. If you could buy a new clothes regardless of price. the proportion is 75%. 65 to 80%. Fashion shoes with medium heel. if your waist measures 75cm and 100cm his hip. The test relates only to their physical shape. 3. how he reacts to you? This is something that every woman thinks: what is the first impression of a man when he says the first time? Most women want to know to what extent are attractive to men. Modern in short skirts and high heels to show the legs. Which of the following attributes best describe your body? a. appearance and presentation. sizes. For example. but with elegance.
Full. thick and strong. 10. c. Describe your makeup: a. Try to make it sit so that it can not see his body. Elegant / powerful features. With loose clothes that do not give any idea of the body that is underneath. Move the hair. c. but sincere. Short. Looking over the shoulder. 14. 13 . If your friends would describe her face. c. 12. 7. which he say? a. hands on hips and lips exposed. 11. b. c. say: a. thin or thin. c. b. You're going to a dinner in the light of candles and want to be sexy. Curvilinear. b. With a bra to lift the breasts and let the shows the neckline. c. Round / in the form of a peach. b. b. as he seems? a. Stay near him with the legs unfolded. 15. Average length and thickness. Soft / smooth. b. b. If Picasso was painting you would like? a. If you ask a stranger to describe your ass. c. Heavy load. Inclined to the front. Long. with hair pulled to the top of the head. 8. thin or athletic. If you were invited to pose for Vogue. 9. Lean / angulosa / muscular. I use much makeup. regardless of day or hour to get the best appearance possible. hips recline. Protuberans / round. c. b. When you pass your hand in the stomach. How you dress for the evening out with friends? a.a. What use . Infant / big eyes. Plump. With an outfit just to highlight the silhouette. c. which would pose? a. the rear tilt and throwing a kiss to the camera. b. Smooth.How would you describe the your neck? a. is the language on the lips. lean hips and the caress your body to draw attention to it. Back arched. Colors and styles are in fashion. Compact / muscular. Natural. My face is my blade.
And you can improve your appearance. The color of fashion. c. c. b. You can use the earrings you want. As a man describe his eyes? a. they are immediately gaff. in the medium term. Carefree b. Medium. Neutral / natural color. b. b. b. Long before diamonds. modify that image. 17.lipstick? a. Earrings with stones of medium size and pretty. Elegant Your Score Now calculate your score and see where you are classified in terms of its appearance shows that of their sexuality. How would you describe your appearance a. Small / tight. Bright red. Sexy c. Pedestrians stop to work to work and . Large / child. Look at his nose in the mirror. c. Greater. Short 20. You're getting dressed to go to the Oscar party. 16.Comprido b. Middle c. Your Hair is a. Almonds. Earrings of pearls and small diamonds. 18. Small as a button. 19. c. You choose: a. As a cartoonist designer? a. 100 points or more: The goddess of sex When the men see. Always remember to two things: their personality traits may.
. Men like to see it and deal. just needs some work areas to achieve what men want. The next chapter will show you the reason for their success and how to further improve its score. Less than 65 points: Let's whim? You probably believe that personality is more important than appearance. But why not invest in their physical as well as invest in the intellect? Both of them are its aspects. If you got 78 to 99 points.whatever you dislike . The attraction that you will hold on men is just one extra! You can also disguise their physical imperfections dressed up in a way that emphasized their strengths. become more attractive to men. Sign in to an academy to improve the form. 66 to 99 points: Miss Elegance Most women are in this squad. If received 66 to 78. is that even the most sensitive men and intelectualizados are at the mercy of biology. however. You are really an expert in the game of her sexuality and never missing program. Why not work with it . Means that you are reasonably successful in making men feel attracted to you at first. and it is being right. You might say that is not interested in men who are no longer hypnotize by physical appearance. will have even more spectacular results. The problem.to improve their appearance. will make you feel more beautiful and healthy and give you a great pleasure to live.whistles when you pass. for example. know that if we really invest in their physical appearance. knowing that so attract a greater number of men and have more chance to choose? The next chapter will show you how to become more attractive and why most men babam by women with lower QLS and not look twice at you. You can improve your presentation without compromising their beliefs. at least in principle. Men feel women inevitably attracted by clear signs.
But understanding how the process of attracting and employing some simple strategies in your favor. there are patterns of behavior constructed by the waste needs of our ancestors. Four years after the marriage. But began to irritate the fact that she is working to produce. do not deserve any effort on her part. began to show cracks in the marriage and he started to notice other women. Kim felt that now was as a married woman need not impress anyone and most especially if store was loss of time. Like it or not. you can easily become more captivating. where all were well stowed and makeup and flirting with him. Kim left like her mother. in addition to raising their self-esteem. do not shave and wore clothes that for Daniel. There seemed more care with the look inside. The ancestral biological signs of gender that we explain the working of the subconscious level. She was angry. Left to makeup. the physical appearance affects our ability to attract and keep a partner. therefore: beauty and physical attraction and personality or . In his office. What is more powerful. contrasted with the appearance of Kim. which. This behavior he said he and his friends were not important. Daniel thought that maybe she was going through a difficult period at work and once again take care. she always was in slippers and bathrobe. It boiled inside. did not understand why he could not love her the way she was. This is a line of evolutionary psychology that says that in the brain of each of us. She said they liked to wear for him and especially how he looked when she arrived. and Daniel was leaving to look for her to do sex. Six months later. while at home was a tragedy. Kim changed. At home after work. money and energy. Kim now is related to a group of women who think men are all us idiots. and when left with friends. Daniel could not explain his feelings and was blaming it for having touched on the subject. People who know are up to 90% of their opinion about us in the first four minutes and assess whether we are desirable in less than ten seconds. no makeup and the hair drained. But Kim soon began to neglect when left with friends. In this chapter we will examine the ingredients that make men and women desirable and attractive to each other. Daniel liked to see Kim always went out together when stowed and thought that her appearance was a clear signal that he had made the right choice. who met at work. That does not mean you can not succeed with the opposite sex because it is not equal to Cameron Diaz or Brad Pitt.Chapter 10 OR AND MAKES THE EYES OF MEN JUMP The power of female sexual attraction Case Study: Kim and Daniel Kim and Daniel were already leaving a year and had decided to marry. As men are visual creatures stimulated by the appearance of Kim was a discouragement. Daniel decided to confront the situation and told Kim how she felt. Daniel has been living with Kim and Jade. Both loved the relationship and thought that the other was the ideal partner. And found that the husband was much more frivolous than she imagined. which is why we have to react to them. For the first time.
and Longo Makhija) show that we automatically assign positive traits such as honesty. change things. kindness and talent. Perhaps it is politically correct deny the impact of attractiveness in our decisions. without being aware of it. the people of good appearance. In both sexes. the answers to these early signs of attraction are programmed in the brain. put aside the theories of romantic love.intelligence? They will be examined in this chapter. Bill CIinton is proof. the evidence still saying that our brains are programmed to respond to the physical appearance of the other. Subsequent research revealed that 73% of voters denied categorically that may have been influenced by the appearance of the candidate and only one in eight voters are willing to at least consider this. What the science says Polls (Eagly. Ashmore. The theory of beauty Every person emits signals. that make it desirable to the potential partner. you want to have sex with her. the attraction occurs in the biological. Messages are encoded and sent to tell others whether we are or not suitable for their purposes. in turn. This means that they decided their vote on a subconscious level. Analyzing the results of Canadian federal elections of 1976. For men. Tell a person that she is beautiful or attractive is to say. have more credibility and even more permission to break the rules than their less attractive correlative. but like it or not. Women like older men because they have more experience and more access to resources. The biological purpose of beauty is attracting for breeding purposes. For a woman. And to be as objective as possible. when the woman displays the skills that allow you to pass their genes to the next generation. the subtext biological basics. without even know it. the ideas about what is politically correct and personal subtleties. intelligence. Attractive to people better jobs. is an attractive man who is presented as biologically able to provide you with food and safety during the creation of children. the University of Toronto found that attractive candidates received a number of votes in two and a half times larger than the non attractive. The good news is that we have control over many of the determinants of our appearance and we can if we want. You can choose to become attractive. . Beauty and sexual attraction is essentially the same thing: the original meaning of the paplowing "beautiful" is "sexually stimulating". The evolution shaped our brains so that the good appearance is a sign of healthy person and relatively free of diseases. tangible and intangible. higher wages. This explains why many women tend to feel attracted by older men.
Speaks to the things we pursue in attracting someone before you hear the person talk or even to know who is. developed to attract the attention of man. It is understood that the body of women has evolved as a permanent sexual signaling system. researchers from Massachusetts General Hospital found that these images activate the same parts of the brain that cocaine and cash.which encourages more men The "point" considered the most appropriate for the western woman in the nineteenth century was a pale complexion. At the end of this chapter. classify each part of the body in a ranking of attractiveness and explain the reason for his influence. Chinese Proverb What makes a man attractive to a woman. The wife is chosen for his virtue. Based on these results. In the next two chapters you will know the results of 23 studies and experiments showing what men consider attractive in the body of the woman and vice versa. Today the look emphasizes youth and vigor: the competition of beauty were created exclusively to promote an image that reflects the attractiveness of women's health. a concubine for her beauty. Sick sinus . poets and writers in the last six thousand years: the body and appearance of women have more attractive on men than their intelligence and capacities.The woman's body . Keep in mind that we are considering only the physical and geographical characteristics of the body. we discuss the non-physical factors related to the choice of our partners. Factors that drive men in order of priority 1. however. almost all studies on the attraction reached the same conclusions that came painters. as if assessing a potential partner through a photograph. In the last sixty years. but as you see. Athletic silhouette 2. To display photographs of women "beautiful" to heterosexual men. the criteria for male choice of a long term partner are not the same. is something very different. We will examine it further. even politically correct in the twentieth century. The man of the twenty-first century or the same immediate things a woman as their ancestors. his face lightly colored and an air of delicacy and fragility. Sexy mouth 3.
however. Dresses sutiãs cleavages and raise the breasts emphasize the signal to create a groove that mimics the buttocks of women vis-tas behind. and the mothers. Lack of tummy 11. Arched back 12. Long legs 5. the breasts become larger. giving you a rounded form and has no relationship to milk production. All research shows that men like breasts of all types and sizes. Most men prefer a woman more fleshy than the lean. Others.are the favorite of men. . to escape the danger and to defend the nest if necessary. Since humans began walking upright.4. Small nose 10. Are those that appear in the center pages of men's magazines and in ads that exploit the fri-appeal. females that covered the back. A strong and well formed body is a sign of health and ability to tip in-breed. Eyes attractive 8.from eighteen to twenty-five years of age . Why men have difficulty maintaining eye contact? Because the breasts are not eyes. Round hips / waist fine 6. one of the biggest sex symbols of the world. Long hair 9. Elongated neck Men prefer to look the brain because most of them see better than thought. The nipples of women without children are pink. Stimulant 3: Seios tired The breasts of women at the peak of their sexual and reproductive capacity . Buttocks hemispheric 7.sexual signaling. because fat is an extra helping of breastfeeding successful. Most of the time the breasts of human females are the one clear purpose .most men are passionately interested in them and are crazy for a groove. dark-brown. use it to extend its advantage. were round and fleshy buttocks that played the leading role in the attraction of males. was 44 and had dummy and thick legs. Whether they are the size of watermelons appear limõezinhos or . Most of the breast consists of fat. Few women know that Marilyn Monroe. have to attract the male that approached the front. Some women are horrified when they are submitted to the meaning of that groove. Vulva arqueada 13. Stimulating 1: athletic silhouette the first item in the list of men is the women's athletic silhouette. When people went to four.
because the attention is attracted to the area where the right leg and left it encountered tram. a stairway to heaven.Stimulating 4: Long Legs The vision of a woman with legs that seem to end in the axillae in men leaves a lasting impression. pies. When ovulado. by far. For men. tilt the buttocks. came to suffer deformities of the chest wall. The form that was chosen to round. But when the girl reaches puberty and the hormones begin to flow on his body and transforming her into women. For a woman. reports. a step to stardom. the arched back. and this proportion does not change much in small children. Most women unconsciously understand the dynamics behind the legs extralongas and since teenagers. Perhaps this is an important lesson for parents: lock their daughters the fourteenth to eighteenth day after the menstruation! Stimulating 5: Round Tables / Cintura fina For centuries women have used every kind of contraption to tighten the belt with the aim of obtaining a per-made for hourglass. abortions and surgical extraction of ribs. the legs grow rapidly. the article by fri-appeal more efficient market. Babies born with legs cur-ing for body size. compression of organs. In search of femininity irresistible. women unconsciously choose more revealing dresses and high heels. wear high heels and short dresses to give the impression that they have longer legs. I decided to get in shape. reducing their feet and pushing the pelvis forward. Men like women who wear high heels: they enhance the sexual profile of women stretching them to the legs. The high heels are. thus demonstrating their readiness for pregnancy and procreation. women increased the size of the hips and buttocks with pannier to flag potential getter. Later adopted the corset to accentuate the hips and flatten the belly. That is why long legs have always been associated with a powerful sexuality. Never heard a man tell a woman she has beautiful long arms. The principle behind the legs of women as sexual sign is yes. In the nineteenth century. Even in the cold days. The more legs you can see the man and the more long-gas they are the sexiest woman you think. breathing problems. Legs extralongas become powerful non-verbal signs to tell the men that she is sexually maturing and is already able to procreate. learn quickly how the thing works. Studies have shown that the length of dresses and height of jumps varies with the menstrual cycle. Roseanne Stimulating 6: Buttocks hemispheric .
masculinity.The men believe the buttocks round. Throughout the story. Women who already have a hysterectomy. usually accumulate as men. to show accumulation of fat around the uterus and ovaries. Hindquarters protruding is an ancient sign of female sexuality so revered in Greece that a temple was built in honor of Aphrodite Calipígia. a formation known as esteatopigia. The most remarkable discovery was that experience that men have to share waist / hip 70% the highest score. The jeans also became popular because it accentuated the buttocks and give them a look round and firm. deposits of fat around the belly. went out of fashion in the second half of the twentieth century. even when the weight of women was very large. like to women curvilinear. buttocks cram the quaver and the floor. 'why there is no fat around the heart. "the goddess of beautiful buttocks. so similar to the hump of the camel. and lumbar spine more arched. protruding rear." Stimulants 11 and 12: back arched and vulva Curves and arches indicate femininity and fertility. Ask any woman to assume a vertical posture and sexy you'll find is the preferred . the more attractive. therefore. women with waist thinner were the favorite. which can still be seen in some tribes of southern Africa. Men around the world. The mother-nature usually deposit the excess fat away from vital organs. The greater part than the back of the woman is closer to that of man. wider. have not most of the reproductive organs. ie your waist measured 70% of your hip. led a test that used images of women beneath the weight above the weight and normal weight. and no belly is a clear sign of non-pregnancyboth for and willingness to male suitors. High heels were with the woman hunch. women had to keep the whole body covered in public. evolutionary psychologist at the University of Texas. this pro-portion always showed a great ability to catch the attention of men. Women whose ratio exceeds 100% arouse little interest. associated with neglect and poor health. Stimulating 10: Absence of belly Women have a more rounded belly as men. which invariably attracted the attention of men. The women of normal weight with pro-hip-waist portion around 70% were the most attractive. Sculptures and paintings of the Stone Age abound in images of women with large. The buttocks of women store large quantities of fat to use in feeding and food reserves in difficult times. The additional bending of the buttocks and back tilt pushes the breasts forward. That is why the academies and salons of yoga around the world is full of women doing abdominal exercises to get the perfect stomach type "table of my house. peach-shaped. geo-metric shapes and angles." In the nineteenth century. a non-verbal indicator of low fertility. A woman with healthy and fully capable of giving birth has a waist-hip ratio of 70%. Marilyn Monroe cut two centimeters of the left heel of his shoe to accentuate your grinder. showing them to groups of men asked to classify them in terms of attractiveness. Professor Devendra Singh. the lower. young women began to make plastics and liposuction to reduce the size of the buttocks. Young people who wanted to capture the attention of men recreate the appearance of a large back-ro wearing pannier. In the groups below and above the weight. When the excessive fat. brain and testicles. They start to lose interest when the proportion exceeds 80% or is less than 70%.
Flesh lips and big eyes on the size of the face. this often cause great anxiety with regard to aging. Above all. The woman's face is a screen on which a daily basis it paints a picture of me before her. For women. The lipstick. protruding apples. That made the neck longer and thin women a powerful sign of differentiation between the sexes that men like to kiss and see adorned in jewels and cartoonists exaggerate to emphasize the femininity. It is always the favorite color of every woman who poses for sexual symbol. that bond still . because they have the same size and thickness. good health and good genes. Men like their women to wear lipstick and makeup by artificially give the signal that they are interested or feel excited for them. was used by Egyptians as an eco genital permanent. men like a grin and an air vulnerable. As the face attracts Our interest in human faces attractive is something that seems to be part of our psychology and does not depend on cultural backgrounds. The bright red lipstick is one of the main signs that a sexual woman can use. The women's favorite features are the small faces with short jaws. thick and strong to protect them from breaks during the hunts and battles. embrace and protect. the formula is clear . with both arms supported them to occupy more space and increase the chance to draw attention. The zoologists believe that the woman's lips moved as mirror of his genitals. ask any woman to be on foot and make a sexy pose. And to the face of a woman is generally classified as "beautiful". delicate jaws. The blush is to recreate that effect.position of the hook-up back and quaver of the hips. and state of sexual arousal.red. a reaction that sends powerful signals to men and that observers began to develop when we began to walk upright. Exciting 2: Boca sensual Humans are the only press that these are the lips on the outside of the mouth.children should have a touch. Stimulating 13: Neck elongated the neck structures evolved in males as short. For thousands of years. All races prefer faces that emerged ability to play healthy. Look at how many these days use plastic surgery to try to conserve or restore the youthful look. These signals cause reactions in parental brains of men and a powerful desire to touch. This is known as "eco genital". The base gives the skin a uniform appearance and no stains that signals youth. And always had a single color . is also expanding and is filled with blood. PICASSO The excitement of women's sexuality can cause a flushing in the capillarity of its sides. the size of the ear it was the indicator of sensuality. If you do not believe. invented the first beauty salon in six thousand years ago.
We did a survey with 5. The modern woman gets the same effect using long pending. Will never see a female model with a large nose.214 British men. Over you-do. When a woman finds a man attractive. among the tribes Kelabit and Kenyah. most men give their sensuality. in 1920. a woman who wants to be taken seriously in the workplace should use less eye makeup and lipsticks colors more subtle. large eyes are considered attractive. The cartoonists exploit this feature to a large extent. Barbie and Minnie Mouse have small nose. Stimulating 9: Nose Small Small nose is another reminiscence of childhood in men that produces feelings of security. The plastic surgeons usually modify the nostrils to form an angle of 35-40 degrees to the face. joined in greater numbers in the workforce. he would reach about one meter long. They interpret as a sign of fertility. creating characters of large eyes and small nose to win the hearts of your audience. asking them what kind of hair seemed more . Today. which explains why men find "strangely attractive" women who wear contact lenses. Contact lenses give the illusion that the woman's eyes are shining and the dilated pupils.all with the purpose of creating the illusion of sexual facial signs. Blond-haired women have a higher level of estrogen that cute. The men feel more attracted to women who use natural rnaquiagem than by women who seem to have been molded to reap the bricklayer. Unfortunately. giving them that look childish. and the blondes are the genuine public also laurels. we have become so unaccustomed to see faces clean. even the actors are doing operations for the reduction of nose in line with the new image of the androgynous man of twenty-first century. Eyes that look great on the lower face in men inspire feelings of security. as some women believe to be ugly without makeup and use it as a mask to hide and not as an aid to make their faces more seductive and mysterious. Stimulating 7: Eyes attractive In almost all countries. The makeup enhances your eyes and look the child rearing. The feminists might say that these are good reasons not to use cosmetics or earrings. Excesses may send a wrong impression to customers and cause of male rivalry in female clients. the men show a preference for women of color and clear eyes. the industry of perfumery and cosmetics reached a total value of more than 50 trillion dollars a year . Since then. but it is important that women understand the effects that these signs have in exploiting the men and romantic meetings. if their pupils dilate and mascara. The blondes are also in front of other things. Bambi. something that only men seem to understand. Women began to use modern cosmetic when. eye liner and shadow to artificially create the impression that she is interested.is this the real reason for the greater success of blondes? The blond hair is also a powerful visual indicator of women's youth: it darkens after she gives birth. Similarly. which immediately attracts the . Our tests with computer images show that the longer the earrings of women. Stimulating 8: long hair If the person never cut his hair. The blondes have 140 thousand yarn hair. the cute 110 thousand and 90 thousand redheads.exists in parts of Africa and in Borneo.
The men of past generations would also like to feast your eyes with erotic images of women. it allows women to overcome further demonstrate the success. use the black lipstick and nail until the display dark olheiras as if they were doped. her hair and clothing to ensure an image of credibility. and the vast majority of images of naked men to be homosexuals. The lessons to be learned here is clear: the woman must use when long hair and want to attract men hair short or pulled back in working meetings. Styles as punk and grunge came as opposition to the use of clothing to attract men and to show the world that men and women could be equal in regard to appearance. The artists who carved. secondly. emaciated-looking. the clothes of women emphasized their physical skills in order to attract the attention of potential suitors. In the case of the Miss Universe. The key to a successful clothing business is simple. Considered that the long hair gave the woman a sensual delight and the short hair indicated a more serious approach to life. Until the beginning of the feminist movement in the 1960s. who rarely attend the fashion show. How does the person you want to influence you waiting for? How should your makeup. This code antiatração of clothing has evolved to the point that in 1990. the other has no choice. The modern woman has two basic codes of dress: clothes and work clothes of non-work. The link between attraction and pornography See pornography is an activity almost entirely male. He is attracted by the shapes and curves and the virtual suggestion that she is able to transmit their genes. the importance and attractiveness of what the dresses. a sexy appearance may be disadvantageous for women in a position of power or in a branch where men predominate. In business. but through paintings. power. The feminism that said women dress to attract men is not more important . A man. In remote times. This appearance has little success with the heterosexual men.sexually attractive women. play piano or fight for world peace. her jewelry. an idea that attracted millions of women everywhere. Women must understand that the men crawl the Internet in search of shapes and curves that appeal to your brain. women wore it for the reason of all: to attract men and other women overcome. The result was predictable: 74% think the long hair of women more sexually attractive. The impact of women's clothing on men The discussion of the effects of women's appearance requires some understanding of the history of clothing. reliability and integrity in business? If you are a branch . For centuries. painted or drew pictures of naked women were almost all men. however. The costume gives it a professional position of equality with men and women of business and. They believed then that could be free of oppressive obligation of having to always be beautiful for men. long hair and bright and showed a healthy body well nourished and have a history of health of its carrier and its potential for procreation. the models begin to have no female bodies. never knows if she does cook. when you see a pornographic image of a woman.the inner beauty now had more than the appearance. 12% of women prefer short hair. It never occurs if it has a nice personality. Ninety-nine percent of pornographic sites on the Internet are addressed to men. over 70% of the audience are formed by men who want to see women showing signs able to stimulate the reactions of their ancestral brain.
in it is necessary to men sell their expertise and management, most signs of attraction that we discussed are inappropriate. However, if your business is selling the very picture female - cosmetics or clothes for example - many of the signs we discuss can be used successfully. If you have marks or scars, a birth defect or a feature that really does not like, is perhaps the case to a plastic surgery. Most people who have expressed satisfaction with the outcome. In a typical week, the average person is exposed to more than five hundred images of human beings "perfect" in magazines, newspapers, billboards and television. Most of these images is the product of technology, such as airbrush, highlight of makeup, computer graphics and effects of light. They rarely show the real person. Do not compare with the images of women's magazines. They only make you feel ugly. Plastic Surgery Today, an increasing number of people are opting for plastic correction (correction sounds better than surgery) to improve the appearance. In the United States alone, more than a million people are treated under the knife every year the main reason that people choose this path is to improve self-image and self-confidence, increasing capacity to deliver the signals discussed here. The celebrities are the most common patients. The fix plastic is not new. Centuries before the liposuction and breast implants, had padded mesh for men with calves too thin, iron corsets for women and pudgy pannier for them to increase the buttocks and hips. King Henry VIII wore a padded zipper to increase their virility and small Syphilitic and compete with the French royal. The it was decorated with jewels and emblems. But it is important to understand that plastic surgery does not make you a better person or more beloved, nor solve the problems of life. The only person who thinks you look for is probably a problem with their self-image. It is not the type of person with whom you should want to connect. The other side of attraction Why Men Have Sex and Women They Love? records the results of a survey of fifteen thousand men and women about what they seek in a partner. The relationship is: What men look for in a partner A. At first sight: 1. Good appearance. 2. Well-turned body.
3. Breasts. 4. Buttocks. B. In the long term: 1. Personality. 2. Good appearance. 3. Intellectual capacity. 4. Mood. The A shows what we already know - men are visually stimulated beings who enjoy looking at attractive women. Most women understand the science and research has proven many times, but not "politically correct" recognize it. The feminists in general abhors the idea of a woman be judged by their physical appearance and classified the men of superficial and frivolous. But that does not change the fact that the first reaction of these women is overwhelmingly visual. A list of the items are visual, so you must remember that it is making its debut presentation of. But this is not the case with the B list: a "good appearance" is the only visual item that men seeking a partner for the long term. As the visual signs are so important to man, he unconsciously USA the appearance of women as a measure of respect and love she has for him. He thinks that if she spends time with the appearance, it is because they feel attracted. One of the major complaints of men in actions of divorce is that the wives after the marriage, left the appearance disposed down the drain. They say they used the appearance to attract them and then thought it was no longer necessary. Most men are disappointed with the only woman who dresses for work colleagues. Women, however, have difficulty to understand them here, for not bind with the same intensity to their love appearance. For a woman, have sense of humor does not mean tell jokes. I mean laugh of his jokes. Solution It is inevitable: their appearance influences the response to treatment and the other given. Also influences their self-image and behavior. Most components of their appearance depends to a greater or lesser degree, of their actions. There are courses of clothing and etiquette to learn to walk, sit, talk, dress, makeup on and so on. The bookshops are full of publications on the subject. Department stores often offer free makeup they teach the customers to choose and apply cosmetics. A good hairdresser can you recommend the best way to get the hair, the beautician, from skin care, and dentists, to fix their teeth. The weight is also subject to control, because a competent nutritionist teaches you good eating habits and exercises in a gym will give you the way you want. If you absolutely must, have to make a new nose, increase the breasts, remove the signs of aging. In the XXI century there are few legitimate reasons for you not get the look you want.
The sexual attraction is 50% what you have and 50% what people think you have. Zsa Zsa Gabor This research shows two things. First, men focus on visual images in his first encounter with a woman, and overall appearance is more important than the body beautiful. This means that the way a woman dresses, the makeup and style are worth more points than quilinhos the most, some small bones and sinuses. Secondly, the long-term man is more interested in personality, intelligence and sense of humor of the woman, but a "good appearance" is still high on their list price. The good news is that you have a broad control over most of their appearance and can change things to fit.
"You will still love me when I become old and white hair?", She asked. "I not only I love her ', he replied," I like to write. We are not suggesting that women should have the obsession with appearance as often occurs, but it is important that it strives to have the best appearance possible. There is no ugly woman, woman is lazy. HELENA RUBINSTEIN Above all, you can become more attractive is developing intellectually and emotionally. There are women who, although they are not physically beautiful, become so interesting for its human quality, his gift for communication and intelligence, leaving behind many of the sex goddesses. Men may rave bold with breasts and women with biceps of steel, but the polls show that in the end, the related-ments have more to do with spirit than with the matter. The key ingredient is the flame inside that comes from self - sexual, emotional and professional. In other words, make it an interesting person and they will not realize their physical imperfections. Abstract It is fact that the woman's appearance can attract or repel the man in the relationship. Many women are angry with this. You think this is an unjust man in gray and wrinkle-be distinct and mature, and the woman in the same situation, just an old. But this is the case. No additional tapir is bored with it and look if the complaining that you can not change. So the men - and women - think. Do not fight it. Manage its consequences. If you are dissatisfied with some aspect of their appearance, change. You have the resources to do so. And if not to attract a man, do it by yourself.
Heavy load. 4. but think occasional flirtations contributing to the ongoing relationship. Neutral or down.the open relationship is the way of the future. b. You asked women to describe their mouths. For example. In the next chapter you will learn all the secrets about what women seek to be a real man. c. .8%. What do they respond? a. After doing the test. Their ratio is: a. c.If you ask women to describe their ass. 3 . Less than 85%. divide it by the hip measurement and then multiply by 100. 5. Rectangular. Redondo. 100% or more. Below average. You think the man should be: a. Your income is: a. Small and compact. Significantly above average. The test records the points you receive . if your chest measures 91 cm and 106 cm their hip. Lean or without ass. b. c. In the form of "V". b. b.or are you indifferent? You are attractive or repulsive? Take the test now to see your score with women. b. You go to the TV show "Meeting the dark" and a candidate asks you to describe your body type. c. 85-95%. Take the measure of your chest. 6. What is your response? a. c. Gentle / kind. their proportion is 85. c. they say: a. Reasonable for my age and experience. b. but I prefer to work part time. Take the test 1.in physical and non-physical every time a woman knows. 2. Freedom of compromise . 100% monogamist. Happy. Compromised.Chapter 11 THE TEST OF MALE SEX APPEAL How is your concept to women in terms of attractiveness? They feel the irresistible . ask their friends to take notes for your answers and compare the result.
for example). You probably notice. 13. A well defined abdomen. b.Size is paper? You think for women the size of the penis is: a. Jogging and tennis. Social pants and shirt. Shirt and jeans with tennis shoes. Can be the joy of the party. shoe leather. 15. b. Almost the whole. Kind / gentle. Solid nose. As you have hair? a. sad or anxious: a. You have been invited to a party and heard that there are many women that you are to impress. 10. Muscle / angles. Relevant. As a woman describe your eyes? a. seem appropriate to my face. A barrel. Look in the mirror. More or less half (large entries. a. 9. c. c. . c. How to dress? a. A smooth surface. Bald head or scraped. c. b. 8. How is your sense of humor? a. Small nose and chin. which will feel? a. c. if a little talk with her. If a woman is distressed. Average. Describe your chin and your nose. Fun / malicious. If a woman passes his hand over her belly. I am a goner. You will know immediately. b. 12. You probably will not notice. Not important. I need to improve on that. 14. b. Plump. Long / thin. Very important. c. His thighs are: a. c. b. c. b. c. 11 .7. b. b. protruding jaw. Distant / cold.
The next chapter will show you how. b. Just take a look at the questions that not many points scored and read the tips of the next chapter. You have a reasonable ability to use their skills to attract women-the women. b. Reasonable coverage. Use beard. places and things. I know a lot about people.16. c. Do you ever: a. Your Score Question Point to Point B Point C 1753 The 2 9 1 3375 4354 5315 6194 7145 8351 9531 10 3 5 9 11 3 7 5 12 1 5 4 13 5 3 1 14 5 1 3 15 1 9 7 16 3 4 5 17 9 7 3 Now total the points and see the ranking of their sexuality 90 points or more: A Gatão Wow! You can consider a magnet for women. 46 points or less: A cat pooch Seu Placar Questão Pontos A Pontos B Pontos C 1 7 5 3 2 9 1 O 3 3 7 5 4 3 5 4 5 3 1 5 6 1 9 4 7 1 4 5 8 3 5 1 9 5 3 1 10 3 5 9 11 3 7 5 12 1 5 4 13 5 3 1 14 5 1 3 15 1 9 7 16 3 4 5 17 9 7 3 . E is close to 47 points. But careful not to make their appearance too perfect. I understood in my area. No woman wants to compete with its partner the mirror. 17. which for most women is a discouraging factor. c. need not improve much. If you are close to 89 points. Be beard of three days. 47 to 89 points: A cat Most men belong to this category. Being with his face and shaved. Send them the right signs and how to enhance their skills to attract them. They do not want selfish men. What is the extent of their conversation? a. you have a base that needs to be quite worked. because they may find that you are superficial and obsessed with itself.
will need help! Women like men who have personality. and console is saying that man prefers women beer is BOIOLI. For you. they are sensitive to their needs and have ambition and talent to move up in life. that are laughing.You might ask why women are fleeing from you. Fortunately. Think about how women will see the fun of your life looking for you in a different way! . If you want to become attractive to women. the friends are more important than women. you can learn most of these things.
resulted in minor penalties and fines lower (Castelloe. the male sex appeal is more basic and direct. 1991 and Downs and Lyons. One way of identifying these characteristics is the symmetry of the human body: the left side of his body should mirror the right hand. the female body has evolved as a signaling device sexual. able to obtain food and protect the family. the attraction for women firm and symmetrical men may vary with the menstrual cycle. In Pennsylvania. If you ovulado. bringing them the chance of survival. As partners in the long term. It seems that the wife chosen by their ability to from the pain. are symmetrical or not. which started before their . Hardness means that the partner is taken. When the probability of conception is highest (more or less in half of the menstrual cycle). The female sex appeal is a complex and sophisticated.Chapter 12 WHAT TO ATTRACT WOMEN The first thing you will notice in this chapter on sexual attraction to men about women is that it is half the size of the chapter that deals with female stimuli on men. just as the symmetrical flowers are more attractive to bees because they have more nectar. therefore. women are more prone to choose a man hard and for a symmetrical relationship of short-term. she feels attracted to men with characteristics Manly and harsh. the symmetry plays a significant role in female choice. What the science says Polls conducted in the United States show that attractive people earn 12-14% more than their fellow non-attractive (and Hammermesh Biddle). however. sending messages to men about women's ability to be a carrier healthy and successful in their genes. In Britain. The concern here is that attractive people receive more favorable treatment in court. women are attracted by strong men and healthy. Very little has changed in that respect. 1990). The symmetry of the human body is more important for women than facial symmetry why the champions of boxing often attract beautiful women Among humans.and no bodies . DNA tests show that 10% of babies born in marriages are not children of the partner. Wuensch and Moore.even unconsciously . and the symmetrical animals tend to live more than non-symmetrical. Judging is attractive only by the appearance (which is what we are doing here). must have virtues that provide the best possible genetic he-rity for their children. But both sexes see . An es-all done in Scotland found that the type of male faces more attractive for women varies according to the phases of the menstrual cycle. They look for faces . This is because. as I said. but was looking good genes elsewhere. Since the beginning of time.symmetrical. This is totally different from how men see women.such symmetries as indicators of youth and health. with members of the same size. but the woman in the XXI century and more than their ancestors: a man who wants also to meet their emotional needs. in search of two basic requirements: hardness and softness. a study of the attractiveness of 74 men accused. Your brain has. women tend to choose men who invest in the relationship and the creation of children.
in the form of "V". the man has angles and strength and it is this difference which is so attractive. 9. This may seem dispirited. To appear wider in the shoulders and occupy more space. showed that attractive defendants received sentences not only lighter. the average compensation was $ 10. Even in our age of supposed gender equality. Broad shoulders are a male character. but had two times more likely to escape the prison of the defendants non-attractive. Here they are. the average compensation was $ 5. where large breasts and biceps topping are of little practical use. The male breast is enlarged to house large lungs. which indicates the potential of man to get food and defeat his enemies. Stimulating 1: Body athletic Topping the list of female attractive male body is athletic-looking. the results would be significantly different. close to the height of the hip. But when the victim was more attractive to the accused. 7. 4.051 (Kulfa and Kessler. 2. Chest and broad shoulders and muscular arms. Kind eyes. Sensual mouth. Narrow hips and muscular legs. Women who use the professional environment Epaulettes are seen as more positive. 8. because it is the opposite: it has the shape of an inverted V. Exciting 2: Chest and shoulders and long muscular arms The upper body of the male hunter is large. The V in also attracting a woman. these signals also stimulate the brain of the woman when she evaluates potential partners. but looking on the bright side. more respect and be a man requires. they put their hands on hips. extending in the hips. 6. A strong and athletic body is a sign of good health. Beard of three days. when he had better look to the victim. 10. Hair tired. Athletic body. The sexual responses of women are caused by certain visual aspects of the male body. Lack of tummy. 3. Small and firm ass. providing a better distribution of oxygen and allow them to breathe more efficiently by running or hunt. 11. This explains why the biggest cheats people are almost always attractive. There is another reason that the shoulder strap give status to men. Large penis. in order of priority. his chest still "full of pride. since no one has the possibility to improve their appearance. if members of the courts had the power not blindfolded to see the accused. just to make it a conscious decision. The main factors stimulating women 1. while the body of the woman is more narrow in the shoulders. The evidence shows that. 1978). Nose and strong chin. The men developed such characteristics to carry heavy weapons and take their prey home. A study of the damages awarded in negligence cases found that. Where she has curves and softness. 5. The bigger the breast. becoming more attractive to other people.623." and the . often copied by women in search of affirmation.trials. When modern man reaches his goal.
and discourages the kind Arnold Schwarzenegger. In the Middle Ages was thought that the hair had magical powers. About 50% of women give high importance to the fact that humans have an abundant mane. Men with flaccid buttocks fat or have difficulties with these movements. Men with small and firm buttocks indicate a greater chance of working more efficiently. tending to throw the whole weight of the body of the woman. The men have forearms longer than women. shave the head was seen as a sign of humility before God. and therefore more ability to the role of provider. to stimulate. The male baldness is inherited and its cause is the overproduction of male hormones. because the weight of the man can cause him discomfort and hamper their breathing. The hairy armpits were always a feature heavily male.boys still associate the upper torso and the masculinity formed. The ass has always been the object of jokes. Women are certainly attracted by a male torso well defined. a part of the body usually treated with humor and disdain. Beat naked buttocks is a practice that attracts long sadistic and masochistic. So that we could stay upright and walk on two feet. so that the attraction has on women. why cut it fuses in camafeus to save and use in religious ceremonies. The armpit hair retains the smell of the sweat glands segregated. Why then the women are interested both in the ass man? Why do you feel desire to move your hand? Why look like photos of a man with beautiful butt? Small and firm buttocks are the favorite of women worldwide. A look athletic. but few are women who understand the reason of his magnetism. which however is a low priority for others. Samson lost his strength when he had his hair cut. but most do not like the genre "muscle-man" because you think that kind of man is probably more interested in their beauty than in her. A head full of hair always represented the strength and power of man. The secret lies in the fact that firm and muscular buttocks provide vigorous forward movement during the sexual act. many of which find attractive calves head or scraped. which give the best shot and shot. hair on his head has always been considered a distinctive male brute force. Stimulating 4: Hair tired Throughout history. In the case of monks. and many men and women to consider a sexual stimulant. In other words. For a woman it is not ideal. Small and firm buttocks indicate greater chance of conception. The redness of the buttocks is similar to the state of women's sexual arousal and stimulation of nerve endings on the buttocks is transmitted to the genitals. healthy. Stimulant 3: Bunda and small firm The male monkeys do not have protruding buttocks and hemispheric-only humans have. the gluteal muscles of the thigh had a tremendous expansion. . which contain a musky pheromone that stimulates the brain of women sexually. The same happens with the breast and pubic hair. it really is encouraging to have an erection. when a woman knocks on the buttocks of the man.
is that the nose of man. Rather than see her as a weakness and something to joke. For some. men tend to use words like "wet. The women use to refer to their perception of the attitude of man. to describe the mouth and eyes of men. the same way as the penis. The tired men with hair on the other hand." "succulent" and "erotic. A head Calva is therefore a powerful showcase of testosterone. and so remain today as powerful symbols of masculinity. Stimulating 7: strong nose and chin the nose. Since the times of Rome. the greater the impression of power and success that it transmits and the lower the resistance potential of people to their authority. generally located at the top of the head. were seen as less powerful and less well-paid. is filled with blood in the state of sexual arousal and its temperature has increased by about six degrees. This is due in part to the solidarity of women with the discomfort that baldness brings men and partly to the fact that baldness is a sign of masculinity. Many men suffer from baldness. it is a sex machine. "sensitive". disabling certain papillae capillaries. What was discovered." But words are not used in the literal sense to describe the physical observed. however. Found that the more bald man. and feel frustrated because they can not do nothing about . We have experience using computer-altered images of male head with varying degrees of baldness.the only safe way to prevent baldness is castration before puberty. one is bald. Push the chin forward is considered a gesture of defiance. we found that only men have the bald jokes. During the search we did for our book Rude and Politically Incorrect jokes (Jokes rude and politically in-correct). many women feel encouraged by it and even like to kiss or fondle the man's shiny dome. which makes the baldness a sign of exaggerated masculinity. The down chin is associated with fear and perplexity. "attentive"." Women." "inviting. Due to higher levels of hormone. which show the volunteers asked to say that the impression caused on the desktop. women rarely do. that myth is not supported by research. using words like "tender"." "delicious. But they must take into account that compensation for baldness is the enhancing of its aura of masculinity and power." "sexy. the size of the nose of the man is associated with the size of the penis. The only thing that the nose has in common with the penis is the way he stresses on the front of the body. The masculinity transmitted by a head Calva accentuates the difference between the sexes and is therefore a stimulus for many women. which is not recommended. Men with high testosterone are more and more protruding jaws. and is not popular among women.They irrigate the hormone system. Stimulants 5 and 6: Boca sensual and gentle eyes To describe the lips and eyes of women. Here is an additional . however. the chin and face strong was formed to protect the man on the face of blows during the fight and hunt. men Calvos are generally more aggressive and more sexually excited than their fellow non-Calvo. real or potential. "protectors" and "loving. For others.
because she was sure that his penis was too small. which allows the person to track the direction of gaze of another. The erect penis measures 14 cm on average and the vaginal canal of most women is 9 cm long. because it showed that its bearer had resources to eat as I wanted. The white of the eye is an auxiliary communication face to face. nose. and the foot size of the penis. Stimulating 8: Hip close and muscular legs The powerful legs and angles of the human male are the longest among all primates. The truth is that a man with an erection of 8 cm is able to do better service than a man with a 18 cm. For thousands of years.proof of the difference between the sexes: men see the characteristics in themselves. but they are sometimes taken to mean that the ex-partners have small penis as a form of revenge. This view was constructed by fitness centers and equipment manufacturers. men who have a ratio waist / hip of 90% are more attractive. In a happy relationship. But how could not postpone forever. where food is abundant. the size of the penis was attached to the power of man and his skill as a lover. the women have more white than those of men because the female brain is configured as a communication tool next. while women look beyond. Stimulating 10: Penis large Among all primates. because the seekers are the bodily signs of other animals over long distances. a woman rarely takes into account the size of the penis. and there is no relationship between the size of the body. Despite the members that can be digitally magnified view web sites in the penis longer officially registered media 36 cm. obtaining information about their attitude. a prominent gut is seen as a sign of neglect and little regard for the health personnel. Singh found that for women. The legs of the man is attractive to women only as symbols of power and resistance men. As the eyes. Stimulating 9: Lack of tummy In remote times. In the separations painful. because the ankles and feet out from the side to balance the weight of the body. In modern society. The great North American neuropsychology Davendra Dr. but that power is more head than in the sexual organ. . a large belly was a symbol of status. The euphoria of some women to see men of large penises seems more a reaction to the male's apparent that what the size of the body can actually accomplish. Most animals have little or no white in the eye. The boy was terrified the first time that would have sex with his girlfriend. in search of excitement. The wide hips mean that many women have difficulty in running. because the shorter penis may reach the right place with more precision. trying to convince us at all costs that can not live without an athletic abdomen. man is the one who has the biggest penis. with the bulk of its sensitivity in the first 5 cm. when food was scarce. Well-defined abdominal muscles have never been the object of special admiration in male anatomy. eventually inviting her to go to their apartment. The narrow hips allow men walk long distances quickly in hunting and persecution.
loyal and understanding. she said. the faster they grow. contrary to what occurs with men. but strong. "No. only have a list. The men have two lists: the first sight and of seeking a long term partner. it does not take a look as an indicator of the feeling he has for her. Intellectual capacity. carefully. If the man has a beautiful body. Consequently. began Despi her and stroking her. Unlike humans. humorous. Stress and illness diminish the level of testosterone. but in general this is not a priority. If the man is wearing badly or starts getting paunchy. This fundamental difference between men and women involved much frustration and misunderstandings on both sides. 2. What women want the long term Here is the result of research on what women expect to find a man. even if the woman does not like." I do not smoke. Nervous. " The change is not programmed women to sexually excite the vision of the male genitals. intelligent. They want men to be attentive. 5. Sensitivity. What women look for in a man: 1. The higher the level of testosterone of men in a day. Women. the beard of three days is a powerful visual sign of masculinity often used by men to compensate for your face kid. Stimulating 11: Barba for three days Man is the only primate that have significantly longer hair on the face than in the rest of the body. Then. Are only successful with the gay audience. which is why the sick man is not stressed or need to shave so often. Men need to learn that the woman measures the depth of the relationship by the attitude they have with it. The majority of women agree. caring and communicative. The woman wants a man who is loving. rarely gives greater importance. The male pornographic magazines show women with their legs fully opened. she sees him as a bonus. Are the male hormones that cause the growth of hair of the face. The hair of monkeys and chimpanzees have the same length throughout the body. thanks'. 4. Personality. Mood. however.Arriving there. wishing she did not notice the size. for example. he lowered the light and began to strip. robust and masculine. standing or lying in front and back. The woman must understand that their appearance is important to humans and can even seriously affect the relationship. Healthy body. while all attempts to sell women pornographic images of men failed. . he finally put the erect member in her hand. 3. But the man who returns to noon a shadow of five in the afternoon gave the impression that he is crazy for action. that Tom Cruise is much more sexy than with beard shaved.
Solution To make a man attractive. if necessary. by Barbara de Angelis. But for the selection of a permanent partner. Are extra. but have plans and goals and be committed to them. there is no school that teaches it. he believes. seek a better job. which brings you more satisfaction and you better realize their potential. you need first of all work their techniques of communication and relationship. because he already has boyfriend. The dance has always been a preliminary demonstration of erotic female. but their physical form and appearance are crucial to his work and social position. And finally Book to a gym and get in shape. The woman begins and ends the selection of the partner with the same list of criteria. Polls and surveys have shown how important it is to man the physical attractiveness of women.except excuses. it is sensitive to your needs. registration is a school of dance as soon as possible. Enter for a course that allows you to expand your knowledge. Do it for yourself and see how it will look more attractive to women. The woman who likes her man is attractive. Even the women self-sufficient and financially independent feel attracted by men who have as good protectors and from the pain.The problem is that it can not have it. you know talk about many issues. This will allow you to talk to women about a variety of subjects. you will never miss program. You need to listen with interest and empathy that women have to say.just do it! . Women are attracted out by men who show be going to the front in search of a better position in life. therefore. Then. has plans to progress continuously and is still on top is straight. he USA a number of different criteria. If man is able to make her laugh. There is some reason why man has not or does not do the things you want in life . Change the cutting of hair at least once every three years and look for wear clothes that promote their appearance. Do not complain . Buy books that speak on how women think and feel. The man need not be a millionaire. this is pure practice. We recommend our Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? and What Women Want Men to Know. in its first meeting in less than ten seconds.
the melancholy of retirement began to weigh. Graham Graham thought retire and go live on the beach as would enjoy permanent vacation. Financial institutions operate in heavy selling of private pension funds. have at least 10 years after they retire doubled in the last 60 years. The shelves of bookstores. swimming. for example.from 46 to 72 years.taking sun. is so full of titles about financial independence and retirement plans-ment. or live in poverty. Who had not achieved financial independence. Japan will have less than two people working for every retiree. the effects of retirement on relationships and how to deal with women partners. eating out. 76. Thanks to advances in medicine. Within each person there is an elderly couple thinking: "What the hell happened?" Developed countries are now obliged to devote an increasing share of their budgets to maintain and care for its population of elderly.51 years and for men. In the United States. a problem compounded by the fact that the Japanese live today more than all the peoples of the world. more than a billion people have at least 60 years of age. Before 1940. the number of people about to retire grows at a speed amazing. And in the first few months was exactly what he did. continued working until death or were sustained by children. Many countries have adopted compulsory contributions to the system of national pensions. how to live long after they retire. difference .25. Between the 1940s and 2020. only a small portion of the population lived beyond the age of 65. the psychological effects of retirement on men and. second. The life expectancy of Japanese women born in 1993 is 82. In the year 2020. Would spend the days in an idyllic paradise . The number of people living. Graham came to understand a. But little by little. the average life expectancy worldwide has increased by more than 50% . Governments around the world face this problem continuously. sleeping late and relaxing. but the problem is the relationship between the number of contributors and the pensioners. the rate fell from 9: 1 to 4: 1 since 1952. In 2010. But there are two problems which do not give due attention: first. not only a larger portion of the population is enough to retire.Chapter 13 OUANDO the hunter Hang The ARC The retirement In developed countries.
Now had to take care of Graham every minute of your day. as we said. As women constitute 40 to 50% of the modern workforce. Every time you hear your name yelled at her husband. the experience of retirement is remarkably different in the two cases. Much has been researched and written about the problems faced by retired men. for the first time. Important . But due to their mental structures and specific priorities. the evolution .between taking a few vacation days. Occupied an important position. but the calls were rareando. Graham suffered a heart attack Fulminans. the stress was of another quality and was mixed with depression. was a kind of stress stimulating.find a target and hit it edible. but little research is done on women retired and not working because they have the task of caring for a pensioner. At work he was known and respected. had less desire to do. eighteen months after the dream retirement. For over 40 years he wakes every day knowing exactly what had to do. but nobody knew him or wanted his opinion for anything. Now. As for most men. Graham began to ask for Ruth. train new employees and solve the problems of the world. he had the feeling of having nothing to do. Felt lack of professional involvement with people and the daily mental stimulation that he provided. On the beach. more and more attention. One day.now was the Invisible Man. Little was. Before he was Dr. Instead of juggling with two or three problems to gain time. work outside the focus of the life of Graham. When I worked. embedded in an intense training schedule. Graham suspected that their health was suffering. For some time he remained in contact with colleagues at work. to get on her and tie her life. Suffering acutely this abrupt loss of identity. Gender and retirement The way men and women deal with the approach of retirement and old age casts light on the difference between their mental structures. And started to worry about the problem of how to fill all this free time. Therefore. he cooked the issues now to fill the time. Lost prestige. Ruth was free to do what he wanted. Graham began to fatten. With a sedentary lifestyle. to attend many meetings. nadava little and rarely was concerned with something in the garden. The call that he expected the company to continue providing its essential services such as special advisor never came. was horrified irritation. The male contribution to the survival of the species was clear and simple . his wife. Suddenly he was aware that jumping from a train at work to express a tram pulled the donkey on the beach. but not talked to anyone about it. When the hunter stops hunting During at least one hundred thousand years men agreed in the morning and went out looking for food for their families. His favorite refrain was: "What is for lunch?" Before retirement. For many men it is an unavoidable disaster and may even contribute to premature death. Now. The relationship began to suffer from pressure. Tired to take sun. and enjoy them for the rest of life. it was assumed that the psychological problems associated with retirement were the same for both sexes.
made from brain examinations of 50 men and 50 women. With it. they not only stopped be required to reach moving targets.work and sport. Female Male The ancient hunter was compulsorily retired At the end of the eighteenth century. The female brain evolved. angles. the two men embraced replacement . the . Both involve the main aspects of the game. And here lies the great problem of modern man retired: your brain of a hunter. Consequently. sitting on a beach far away where nobody knows or gives a minimum. 2000. is obsessed by work and the small sports. show (in black) areas of the brain active space. In simple terms. Plus. We therefore repeat. read maps.their role was to ensure the survival of the next generation. These are the areas used by modern man to work as park running aft. playing sports with ball and reach moving targets. The modern sports are a way to replace the hunt. is the huntress of the brain. 90% of all modern sports with ball rise up between 1800 and 1900 as a substitute for the hunt.track. with areas of strength capable of dealing with these tasks . the advancement of agricultural techniques has meant that hunting for food is no longer be a priority.of male preference brain areas enabling it to perform this task with success: those used to measure speeds. . ride on motorways. women evolved as a defender of the nest and the offspring . programming. distances and spatial co-ordinates.achieve a zebra color-surrender to 30 meters away was never part of their responsibilities. So the century desferiu men on an even greater blow: the retirement. Also. The areas of the brain used for hunting Institute of Psychiatry. that most men. He is all dressed and has no where to go. and aim to achieve the target. unlike women. pursue. London. such as no longer required for anything. The images below. yet clearly set is literally idle. as we have seen. video equipment. This helps explain why the image of the female brain shows a minimum level of activity in the space. To deal with the frustration of no longer be prompted to chase and hit targets. therefore.
Peter and Jennifer Jennifer wanted much to retire with her husband hold. they ask how could give an account of what they worked. women keep their retired social circles constructed over the years and have facility to renew them. Then came for a course in Italian. Worked as a nurse almost all his life. in general. Now. Initially she stayed home with him. Studies on male and female figures show that 70 to 80% of women say they have as the main 'focus on family. It was as if he had not entirely of his life. "You know. It would be almost like a second honeymoon. a stressful and poorly paid job with few opportunities for professional progress. It would be an opportunity to do everything I always had the dream-. Men value the achievements. want to help you. she thought that time would have to meet again. But remember. Spent increasingly less time at home. He had been always working hard. Jennifer knew he was depressed but could not convince him to express his feelings. They just "follow your life. They can spend the extra time doing the things that have always been challenges to take or which never had time to work. "I love to be retired. exhausted when you get home. Consequently. which left little time for herself. The children were finally married. women. we see very little in common. And although they were already married for 25 years. She received her retire with genuine emotion. How women deal with retirement. women tend to move smoothly toward retirement.You realize that you retired when you know all the answers but do not have anyone else to ask you the questions. Nadava with a group three times a week. The only thing I hate is having to go home at the end of the day. with retirement. Today I do not know if I have . and the lives of Jennifer and retain only the two was. But little by little grew into a resentment Jennifer: Peter was making her so unhappy retirement on his own. Unlike men. seemed all the time in a bad mood." she told a close friend. relationships." The men are always defined by their work and their achievements. way-too Janda. Also. learned to play tennis and attend classes in art. I would never do anything. I feel sorry for Peter. but with so much time together for the first time in our life . once you finally retired. Now. the way the company was doing well without him and low frequency with which co-workers to use their experience and their advice. need to combine work with education of children. was inside mope at home if it has been discarded. Jennifer had sometimes the impression that the husband did not know well. It started out more with friends. women. attribute value is the quality of their relationships. We heard from several women retired to their current life is so busy. she felt free.
"But the cost to enter partner?" Asks the man. On the one hand. You can eat as you like which will still be thin and healthy. And it shows a fabulous mansion. When this happens and he notes that the company can move very well without it. It is the loss of something much bigger . Can cause fights. There were a couple of 70 years who always had good health because of the insistence of women with healthy diet and exercises. He seems to always be "getting in the foot" and wanting to take her life. "It's free. full of delicious dishes. "But how will this cost?" Asks the man. "Your bitch!" He Berra with it. indignant. no milk products and low cholesterol. Peter Ihes presents its new life. And often. The woman whose identity was also strongly linked to work performance may experience a similar feeling. the common man is denying that his life is to quit. together with household chores. A step that seems worth it. treating it as if it were one of its former employees. they will still be important parts in the gear. He has so much knowledge and experience that the employer-only benefits and may not pass without his talent. to the wife. "Nothing. And do it with great joy. with a variety of creamy sauce. low salt. come with solutions and advice when she is not interested. "But we only eat food without fat. One day. Some return to school. no long hours of work.the identity. The man likes to think its "hunt group" still needs him. "If you do not wanted to eat healthy food and we exercise. Even those who did not like his job very still want their "group hunting" the call to continue the task. without feeling idle and useless. There are no calories in the sky. some clubs go to the elderly and enjoy the entertainment that they failed during the period in which the job. " Dealing with a retired man is often one of the biggest problems that women face. The identity of women is . The choices of women often involve interaction with others. we could have arrived here ten years ago!" Why men can not cope with retirement? The loss of work is not the main cause of all the stress when the man is retiring. the two die in a car accident. Here is the sky. others spend more time taking care of others. Peter." replied St. Be "available" to return to work and solve problems whose solution depends on their knowledge and experience. "Nothing. "here is the sky. St. "Do not worry." And finally leads to the local restaurant and it shows the menu. Unable to face the situation. It's free. tears and even separation." says St. people cling to the idea that becoming consultants. the shock is very intense. Peter. and will call him to continue working. it seems envy the happiness of women and blame them for their misfortune. Many women retired to join interest groups or develop new habits. When retirement approaches." Then shows them a wonderful golf course behind the mansion. leaving little time for fun. Here is the sky." When I heard it. At the door of heaven. Otherwise.love and no more if I stay with him." says the man. the man turns around.
Barry was always fascinated by the idea of retirement and to spend any time with their children and grandchildren and traveling with Yvonne. the woman retains its identity. he thought the best in the industry. the retiree was disappointed with his new life and starts to retract. especially the way they are made. The new generation has its own ideas and solutions and whether they feel free to implement them and test new ways of solving things. the anger. The retired blame others for their suffering: his partner and family becomes much often the target because "not understand how I feel. The feeling of uselessness and rejection can lead to decreased libido. particularly finance and planning of social activities and family. the direction of the house. It is essential to identify the depressive stage which. Start the denial is complete by the depression. Signs of trouble are usually the first indication that stage of depression is ongoing. In other words. Flu and disease is less frequently. unhappy and. above all. The woman never retires. the routine that meet their days. the woman continues with the other facets of his life. some men think they will be quiet. friends' friend. companion. When its role as provider end. and in some cases. deepening the table. lady-of-home. Depression can get without being noticed. data and figures loved and was very successful in the management of time. by not calling him to provide advice and feel a victim. Always addicted to outside research. being mother. Many often the removal of what they see as an old employee is a relief. Barry and Yvonne Banyo is described as counter to 20 years and 25 have worked on their own. When you decided to retire. and sometimes all at the same time. starts to drink. felt. to 50 years. The sudden loss of friends and colleagues. Master of himself." Blame the ex-boss for not having him ready for retirement. For most. The loss of identity is for the man in many ways similar to the death of a loved one. even drugs. She can spend the money to bring home. Retirees who do not plan their lives are constantly ill. But unless they have been carefully prepared.multifaceted. First. their status and sense of importance can quickly lead to depression. the things not done. and the fights start to happen. things rarely remain at that stage as the honeymoon. this rarely happens. if not overcome or dealt with the help of a professional. These intrusions can be unbearable for your partner. however. Sometimes it is thought. lover and wife at any time. This anger is sometimes discharged as the desire to disappear. He relaxes in food. Why do so many men down the hill so fast? In the period following the shutdown. In most cases there is no drama. But the retirement of Barry . can become permanent. The result is a life apathetic. per-der vitality and become inactive. grandmother. was owner of a successful company. and if everything goes well for the acceptance. It simply gives continuity to their things. to take care of the family. He now wants to be the chief executive of the family. shorter.
" she replied. A woman can get hurt with it seems an intrusion on what for it is a happy and orderly. and that there would be an agenda setting out advance and where would they would buy.the man feels rejected. Not only. I wonder why she spent so much on things he thought unnecessary.quickly turned in the worst nightmares of Yvonne. The anger and resentment began to grow inside her. "One day. Asked the husband.so he is not annoyed with the waiting -. beginning at 8 am. He supervises and gives orders. but decided that Barry would shop together. for lunch and dinner. She loved to shop. "and I want my life back!" A retired couple was sitting on the dinner table talking about old age. "Then yesterday I was sitting in the car asking if I had just come to go somewhere or had just arrived home and was out of the car. "I never had this problem. Barry found that his wife only needed two sutiãs. For Yvonne." E has two batidinhas on the table. "My memory is perfect. I was thinking at the top of the stairs had just arrived or are on top was starting to fall. "Barry needs to get a life of its own. it was great. I never stopped by something. hits the wood. Perhaps the first time in life when she see her husband every day for breakfast. high price.decided to return later. Barry now wants to be the chief executive's home. Then started to leave the house to escape the domain of the husband. That was crazy leaving Yvonne. I control everything the woman did! Offered to take the family's finances and gave Yvonne a budget for food. Sutiãs discovered how each of the search was the ratio of quantity. Barry thought the days of Yvonne would be much more beneficial if they practice an effective management of your time." she said to friends. While Yvonne tried to quickly sutiãs . last week. he wanted to know where every penny went and why. alone. and when they manifest . absolutely curtailed and controlled by a manic husband and authoritarian. leading to .usually in an exasperated . Barry wanted to know the reason . Things can be much worse." The woman smiled with sadness. requesting it to many tasks and too little working in the service of the house. Most of it was wasted money." "How?".she has not had chance shoes and enough clothes? Reached the height of the monitor Yvonne buy a new bra. Yvonne felt in an inter-in a concentration camp. "Now I'm in the middle of something and forget what I was doing. After looking puzzled for the door and asked: "Who is it?" The negative aspects of retirement When the couple starts to fight because of differences of ability and the different roles that each plays. on time and lasted a lot of other statistical data." he insisted. misunderstood and devalued. Barry re-collect information on sutiãs with employees and customers. sitting on the "seat-ofhusband-bored" on the outside of the taster. That day she did not buy any bra . "The worst. there is the danger of starting to feel incompatible. When Yvonne was a store that was not on the agenda. "is forgotten." "Hum!" Said the man." The man grunt: "No. After examining them. Despite not having problems with money." said the woman. why you asked to organize a calendar hourly.
But do not spend it all as a mere obligation or an activity for only the time to fill vacant. need a bit of quality. Are aware that you are investing in their well-being in their self-esteem. which is giving a gift that could not be granted for lack of availability. Studies show that the earlier you plan your retirement. develop a talent that remained unexploited because you were absorbed in his career. have better health and will live longer. Start to develop them as far as possible. which includes study. dance. If you find difficulty. mainly because. therefore. Start thinking now as I have had time available. more will live better and the quality of your life. increased life expectancy and better health. it is good to resort to professional advice to ensure that it perpetuates the negative attitudes. now. Men who survive the first three stages of retirement generally ultimately accept this new stage of life and take on the challenge of planning a new life. swim. walk. the life expectancy of men that the retirement is not an occupation that the interest is on average five years. useful and happy. Health The time of retirement can be used for an investment in your health. read all the books that are accumulated on your bookshelf. take up a hobby. and the man who is not planned for retirement can take many years to overcome them. do the exercise that gives you great pleasure. find pleasure in activities independent of the professional activities. His retirement. In Western society. listening to music. with the increasing trend of early retirement. Men engaged in activities that stress and to do nothing to retire early die. The man is 30 to 40 years of his life in a rigidly structured and oriented goals.separation and even to suicide. The possibilities are endless. it is likely that the period of retirement is longer. To begin. you must be aware that their identity can not be linked predominantly to the industry professional and receiving the approval of others. Make a complete check-up. look for a nutritionist to set a pleasant and healthy diet. develop a circle of friends outside the work environment. . The identification of these stages is crucial. The higher the frequency with which they work. learn a new skill. resulting in loneliness and misery. . The critical difference between these two periods of the life of man is that in retirement he is fully in control and will take the decisions that affect the rest of life. Multiply your interests in the life of work. A plan of action The right time to start planning is many years before retirement. ride a bike. There is a huge range of alternatives for pleasure waiting for you.
Aware of that will mean this new phase of life in terms of living in order to for problems that arise Spirituality It is also time to devote to a field that may have been ignored in the years of professional activity: the spirituality. The retirement offers this space to search more and find a group. children in orphanages will bring you a surprising bonus. He began drinking too much and was depressed.not just the genitals . discover new incentives. Talk about it with the greatest possible openness. it now had time to do things you always wanted and wished to share their happiness with Paul newly discovered. But when he was 57 his company bought and he became expendable in overnight. openness. but once started. She was quite enjoying his retirement. the social work community and gives an immense sense of satisfaction and self. And remember: the whole body . Thus you will discover where your talents can be applied You should see his retirement as you would with any large project. elderly in rest homes. Gender A happy and healthy life also must include a satisfactory sexual life. What is important is that these limits are treated with honesty. because she is the person who will share them with you. despite the limitations that age brings. But Dana was alarmed to see the sadness of Paul with the forced retirement. the places that I would know. The sex in old age will be a continuation of what was in the life of the couple.Social Work and Community We can assure you that few things to remember as much as the dedication they need. because the sex life can not be separated from the rest of the relationship. Explore these possibilities with the knowledge they have of each other and love each deserves it after so many years of companionship. It is important that you find in that field feel better and more useful. He thought to retire at 65. You can not imagine how delicious the experience of returning to college where you will live with younger people and discover how the experience of life taught him. Paul and Dana Paul was account manager and his life was always full of goals. The substantive requirements of day-to-day that differ in size so essential in humans and responds to your deepest desire. and that is linking to an institution where they feel affinity with the people working there.can be a source of pleasure. His wife Dana to retire three years before and wanted by the retirement of her husband. affection. You may need an initial effort to overcome the resistance. which would examine the materials. The consultant helped Paul to understand the reasons for that and he showed you how to . chat with friends. Discuss your plans with your partner. browse the local church. specializes in dealing with the men retired. the activities that could develop. a belief. Whatever has been your path. Dana decided to seek professional advice and then persuaded Paul to seek a consultant. you must have skills that can be used or passed on to others. Start searching now. Start to write down everything that interests you. targets and deadlines. seek help if necessary. or activities that develop their spirituality. The simple act of visiting patients in hospitals. giving new meaning to life.
understanding the strengths and weaknesses of each other and being able to make the relationship a source of joy. Paul and Dana are healthy and happy.decide what to do for the rest of their lives. He and Dana went on holiday with a good state of mind. adjusted and successful. In examining the financial part. They have done a detailed budget and noted that the guarantee fund of Paul. as the couple. Today. Paul play golf sometimes. decided to open a current account that you bring an additional income. This time when the men and women are more together than any other in their lives is very important that they have learned the lessons of Why Men Lie and Women cry? Because only then will live happily in peace and with love. enthusiastically recommended by friends. How was a member of golf club. enjoy life and help others. Use these tools with wisdom and love. because I wanted to write. Paul was always concerned about the welfare of young people and understand the problems they faced when they lack family support-ing. Came to a club of excursionist and began to make trips extended several times a month. Good luck to you! ******* .manage this new phase of his life. Paul accepted the challenges that it presented the consultant. A specialist taught her new diet and prescribed an exercise program. Paul felt a great weight had been removed from their shoulders. decided to try. sensual and rewarding. offered to cooperate in the newspaper association of residents of his neighborhood. The next challenge was great . Enrolled in a class of tai-chi. They needed a plan that took into account both the needs of each. He was also part of a group of craft and came to a course in writing. We firmly believe that the tools presented in Why Men Lie and Women cry? can help all men and women to live lives more intimate. The second was to seek a financial adviser. but not for extravagances. but I would like but never had time to practice regularly to mind. In the group that began to attend prayer. As Paul was an excellent account-pain and liked to teach. the consultant reassured Paul. Then decided to seek a way of advising the youth to become an advisor to young people. After all the advice. Found that its greatest achievement was to have created four children happy. The check-up showed that Paul was well. Dana has played tennis once a week and it was on the board of the club. The finances were sufficient to cover expenses. Dana. which led them to meet new people. Decided to change the eating habits and started walking every day for at least 45 minutes. The retirement is revealing the happiest time of their lives. in turn. because had the start-to plan your journey . aware that they had available to devote to a social work. except for a small excess of weight and pressure and cholesterol slightly above normal.which could take twenty years or more to be completed. The first step was to complete a health check. They are so busy they need a detailed daily schedule. together with some savings and investments. most of his pension and Dana would be sufficient to cover its needs until the end of life. The third was to travel with Dana relax and plan the rest of their lives. happiness and fulfillment.
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