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Allan & Barbara Pease
C Allan and Barbara Pease, 2003 translation Jorgesen Pedro Junior preparation of original Regina da Veiga Pereira Review José Tedin Pinto Sergio Soares Bellinello cover and illustrations Mattievich Silvana graphic design and editing of kernels Marcia Raed photolite RR Donnelley Latin America - Premedia / Dip Print Cromosete Gráfica e Editora Ltda CIP-BRAZIL. CATALOGING-IN-SOURCE. National Union of EDITORS OF BOOKS P375P Pease, Allan Why men lie and women cry? /
Allan and Barbara Pease; translation of Peter Jorgensen Junior. - Rio de Janeiro: Sextante, 2003. Translation: Why men lie and women cry ISBN 85-7542-063-1 1. Man-woman relations. 2. Sex - Differences (Psychology). 3. Sexual role. r. Pease, Barbara. LI. Title. All rights reserved by EDITORA Sextante / GMT EDITORES LTDA. Volunteers of the Nation Address, 45 - Gr 1404 - Botafogo 22270-000 - Rio de Janeiro RJ Te!.: (21) 2286-9944 - Fax: (21) 2286-9244 Customer: 0800-22-6306 E-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org www.esextante.com.br 03-0645. CDD 306.7 CDU 392.6
Contents Introduction Chapter 1 The cantankerousness When a person does not stop complaining Chapter 2 SEVEN THINGS THAT MAKE MEN WOMEN DEIXA IRONING BOARDS Chapter 3 Why women cry? The dangers of emotional blackmail Chapter 4 THE SYSTEM OF ULTRA-SECRET SCORE ruin of women as a man of the week Chapter 5 CLARIFICATION OF THE SEVEN MAJOR MYSTERY MEN Chapter 6 THE OTHER WOMAN His mother Chapter 7 The Mysteries WAYS OF WOMEN LANGUAGE Chapter 8 "You think I am FAT CLOTHES WITH THIS? Why men lie?
Chapter 9 THE TESTING OF WOMEN'S SEXUAL APPEAL How do you make people work? Chapter 10 WHAT DOES THE EYES OF MEN skip the power of female sexual attraction Chapter 11 THE TEST OF MALE SEX APPEAL Chapter 12 WHAT TO ATTRACT WOMEN Chapter 13 When the hunter Hang The ARC The retirement Acknowledgments Bibliography
why not stop the car to ask for guidance. that want to get to know all details about the people around you and that rarely take the initiative to do sex. In three decades of studies and research on the differences between men and women . It also seeks to elucidate the problems which the man is beat-to ten in the morning of Sunday. even after spending a weekend fishing in the entire company. for they have habits and mannerisms that make women so angry and they do not know almost nothing of the life of your friends. surveys.analyzing miles of film and recordings.thousands of times we were asked to rate certain behaviors of men and women. why cry to get what they want? Why insist on a subject to death? Why not take the sexual initiative more often? In the twentieth century and one. the disagreements and conflicts between the sexes are still so present in our lives as the first time that Adam and Eve falling out. Why Men Lie and Women cry? attempts to answer the questions that are hammering the head of women to one in the morning. Women worry about the future to find a husband. and frustrated by not knowing deal with the situation. Then things get worse. From there. research. Today we know the evolutionary and biological reasons that explain why men can only do one thing at a time. giving interviews on TV. The car-tas. Today. wet and hungry. "Why do I have to collect half of my floor to ten hours of a Sunday morning ". that hate to go shopping. in addition to our experience. science can explain why women talk so much. when out of bed without getting themselves or their partners speak with them. Of them also look at questions such as: "Why women do not go to the chase". writing books. that like to "play to pick mature green". scientific studies and our current sense. The men never worry about the future until they find a wife. Chinese Proverb Why do men lie? Why they think they must always be the reason? Why avoid it undertakes? And women. phone calls and emails came from people perplexed by the behavior of the opposite sex.Introduction Born naked. of the genus: "Why men devour the other women with the eyes?" and "Why are they all the time saying what I do and I think". So decided to write Why Men Lie and Women cry? Catalog the forty most frequently asked questions from readers around the world demand-and we answer them by using. sharing information at conferences . "Why do women complain all the time?". Why Men Lie and Women cry? draws attention to things that are beyond obvious to most . we developed practical solutions to help you tune the right channel in communication with the opposite sex.
people. Life seemed simple. A woman who protest against inequality was the object of sympathy. as women gain more and more freedoms. See the latest walks that circulated among women and that most men considered extremely demoralizing and threatening: What is the definition of a man? A support for a penis. the relationships and the families began to live a great tension. Suddenly. while among men increased by 16%. In the last quarter of the twentieth century. The man knew what were their responsibilities and the wife knew her. the suicide rate among women fell by more than 34%. everyone assumes that it is that is wrong. Just thinking of you receiving an e-mail. be a man became an arduous task. everything began to change. bewildered and confused. while a man who did the same was accused of enemy women. Serials and the TV business started to show the men as incompetent idiots in front of women superior. as many men feel left behind. And as few of them understand the thrill of seeing and reviewing the replay of a move. with the Japanese heading the list. The problem is that women seemed to know what and where they were going. secretary. the roles were clearly defined. the feminists have been given more say and more successes. The number of copy-of disparaging about men grows every day. lady-ofhome. The man was the head of the family and the primary responsibility for its upkeep. in the 1960s. Men often do not seem to understand the rules of the game. teacher or social worker. The men are insecure about their own identity and they . The rate of suicides among young men and old is now the largest in history. Since. If a woman slapped a man in public. During general rations. Why are things so difficult for men and women? Today. Women and men were angry. smarter and more fans of the cause of equality. it is unlikely that a man understands that the discovery of a brand of clothing in a counter settlement is one of the most extraordinary things that can happen to a woman. his word was law and their areas of decision were clear. The woman was mother. Still. You may have noticed that many women seem to have a biological need to buy decorative pillows and change the storage of furniture for men stumble when they arrive at home at dawn. the focus of the discussion is still the cross that women in this car-water life. You can not deny that this kind of thing that most men perceive as open hostility contributes largely to the depressed state that seems to be slaughtered on a whole generation. often considering the man as the enemy to be defeated. he was the protector and provider.
just as always happened with men. their mistakes and what to do to improve them. just know a single man to understand all men. But things are too difficult for women. against one in fifty men headed by the same situation. They now suffer from ulcers. This book provides a map to help them move through this maze which transformed the relationship and identify the slippery slopes. while a man never understand any woman. Most marriage counselors and therapists are also women.hunting. Sometimes the thing is so difficult that it is best to go right to not be seen as a failure. fighting. even know them all. It is. Take care of relationships is not a natural function of the male psyche. Feminism began calling attention to inequalities between genders and promising free women from the shackles that had imprisoned the stove. We call the other sex of "opposite" for good reason . Why men and women have so many problems? The woman developed as defender of the dam and offspring. that the brains of men and women have been programmed for different functions and priorities. In Britain. But the truth is that both men and women want good relationships. men are working or not or a little. Women often make the mistake of believing that because a man loves. father and provider. providing material and solve problems. Only men and women assume that one day will appear a perfect relationship. It is estimated that 25% of all women in the western world will be standing in the single year 2020. Today. therefore. its way of thinking and their scale of priorities. protecting. It is estimated that bulimia affects 4 to 5% of the university. about 50% of women working in the western world . these women play the roles of mother. In general. Consequently. the treacherous curves and dead ends. This we do conclude that women pay more attention to relationships than men. Women of today are superatarefadas. It is an unnatural situation. only 7 in 300 students. one in five households is headed by a woman alone. is often infuriate and are getting increasingly lonely.we are really opposites. educate and provide love and affection of people's lives. The men have the feeling that women want what they think and behave like them.even when they want. And it is true in many ways. We are all very confusing. in complete disagreement with our basic human needs and biological. As a result. he also has to understand it.lack examples to be followed. Generally. Man evolved with a completely different program . Except that he usually does. For a woman. healthy and rewarding. heart disease and other diseases related to stress. . the theme of these books are the men. without the need for any special preparation or study. or give the quick relationships because think of how women think and act very complicated. Most books on human relations is written by women and over 80% of its audience is composed of women. Studies offered by new techniques of magnetic resonance imaging of the brain confirms this fact. the female brain is programmed to nurture.
the female enters estrus. not longing for a sex champion. the ritual of mating and the relationship . in English only. working. The black widow. It is a simple animal with a tiny brain. 700% of divorces begin with marriage Why Men Lie and Women cry? this is an opportunity for you to eliminate turnover a little . There are around or brother in-laws want to advise.HELEN ROWLAND We are the only species that have permanent problems with the court. who kill their partners just after mating. it chooses which one you like more tentacles and gives the green light. The behavior of equipment and scenarios we describe in this book apply to all people all the time. get 36. In this work trying to establish universal themes.just do.the other species already have everything planned out and is very good. the males approach moving its tentacles. If you write the words "relationship" and "sex" site on a search of the Internet. men need to learn some techniques that will find this book. Humans. know the rules and follow them faithfully. now exceed the mark of 50% in the first four years of marriage and. The octopus is another good example. To write this book. relationships procedures are guided by the need for direct survival of each species. For other animals. Whose stories are real principles apply to most people most of the time of their relationships with the opposite sex. be living together. we see that most people still do not understand during a good part of the time. if couples who did not get married. female and never considering discover is too fat. are infinitely complicated. Women say men want sensitive. comes after the Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love. your life must be very happy. who also teaches women techniques to identify and meet the desires men. excitement and enrichment that a good relationship is able to provide. Men do not understand very well this subtle difference. working and loving the opposite sex. for example. but do not want to be too sensitive. that never discussed sex or how to get there. define common problems and finally present practical solutions. Unfortunately. "and deals with aspects of life that most people never think or simply do not understand. If you get along with most people most of the time. The rate of divorces in Britain. They do not think about it . collecting and comparing information and research on the relationship between the sexes. Around the world Why Men Lie and Women cry? is the step that in the relationship ladder. but hard and Manly in other situations. however. At any given time. Not realize they need to be sensitive in relation to women's feelings. and soothsayer.714 references. traveled for more than thirty countries. to help them make things better fluírem. To move through this maze. much less the differences between male and female. She never accused him of not giving him attention and he is not thinking it was good for her as for him. evolved so that today we know the best way to deal with the opposite sex to have any chance to lead a happy life and enjoy a share of pleasure. however. We. it is reasonable to assume that the rate of separation among couples is somewhere between 60 and 80%.
in English is no good asking a typical British dish. mother. The locals will love and be superprestativos. believes the path where the woman. the authors. faithful love and great friends of each other.. The French will not understand anything. But if you buy a book of translated phrases that teach you the basic words and phrases in another language. Why Men Lie and Women cry? is an instruction manual to help understand the opposite sex and know what buttons to obtain the best squeezing result. anguish and confusion of his life. In Why Men Lie and Women cry? also rely on our personal experiences. looking as much as possible.. going very well. People are impressed when they see that we strive to understand them and communicate with them. Experience first hand We. "Will I have to change sex?" People often ask us: "You are telling me that I should think. sisters. The research we did on the various themes of this book and the very act of writing it gave us a more complete understanding of ourselves and our parents. be impartial. daughter. Once you understand the evolution of man. It is a book full of common sense and scientific facts presented in a well-humored and easy assimilation. in general." Why Men Have Sex and Women They Love? obtained a great success among women of all nationalities and we are well aware that some have of the gift to his men saying poignantly: "You must read . wishing to provide you a balanced view of the relationship between man and woman. profit and fun. It may be easier. neighbors and colleagues. The result is that our relationship with those who are coming in has improved significantly and. even if you fall a little in the words.. Learning a second language To be successful with the opposite sex you need to speak two languages . it gives you satisfaction. speak and act like the opposite sex?" In no event. Not always hit. can also benefit from their experiences and their views. When you buy a cell phone. it comes with an instruction manual. He explains the behavior of "other sex"..of the suffering. It is a huge gain and relief to both. Once you learn to do this work and schedule it for the functions you want. relatives. some men have to be hampered in their lives. Nothing is perfect. son. but taking the average. How to give this book as a gift After the worldwide success of our latest book Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? (more than six million copies sold in 33 languages to the present). The allegation was that the women use the book to pursue them saying "Allan said that .the women and men." and "Barbara said-10. the problem of communication is resolved. brothers. the woman will be much easier to understand and accept their behavior and mental processes. people like us. father. but we feel that hit most of the time with most people. The man.. they are companions. cousins. are very well married. If you only speak English and is visiting France. friends or neighbors. We are also parents of four beautiful children. in turn.
is perhaps more prudent to ask your man to his opinion on the advice of the book. the women only speak for the business and the men only read Playboy for its literary value. one that receives feel honored and grateful to have gained something that will help it to grow. Perhaps the book refuses saying simply "I do not need any of it". You dance with a frog in a blender opinion and is not required to have erection. Meanwhile. because our book! BARBARA & ALLAN PEAS . They say a woman is great because you can talk to a person of the opposite sex without having to imagine them naked. and the taxi stop at your beck.. can be excused by male heads when involved in its mysterious gynecological disorders. personality and give the wrinkles price of undergarment is absolutely reasonable.especially the parts that I marked for you read. And finally . to shop with absolute objectivity. Maybe women would like to see racing of self-mobile. because a slight belly and gray hair to give a certain charm. Maybe one day men and women may be similar.Know that is part of a minority that wants to understand how women think and act.. Mark the pages you want and let him read the book on the coffee table or the bathroom.at least with regard to coming millennia.this! read from beginning to end . But a man might feel insulted. because men love to give opinions. So if you. manage and enjoy our differences. follow by learning to understand. And be rewarded with love and affection. leaving her injured and disconcerted. and men have to go once a month in a simulator of TPM. They say man is great. " When a woman gives a gift to another a book on personal development. reader. is man. Nobody talks to you looking at their breasts and you do not need to go to beauty salon to prepare for a social meeting. Enjoy. thinking that the woman is trying to show that he is not good the way it is. The toilet seats to be set. If you are a woman. But we doubt . congratulations! .
until one day the plug fall. tell when it is delayed. a husband who has a hammer head of the wife. the male brain hears only one thing: "There she is complaining again. fill the bag. bother. difficult to handle. The morose man. dominate (the husband). fix what is broken. but think the men can only take things repeating and repeating the same instructions. but it is always for the good of women. the claims it will consume the soul and can generate over time a fierce resentment. In our culture. however. show how much they care about them. In most cases. causing him permanent brain damage. torment. when the woman starts to repeat his orders. Men from all over the place "to complain mania" at the top of the list of your dislikes individuals. Yes. is something that society sees an entirely different way. irritate. In very small doses. however. they see defects. How they think that their complaints are justified. men do not complain. the cantankerousness can even be considered constructive.for them the man is yob. does not care to continue complaining. . They are assertive. take the drugs. The woman alleges the man to leave a trail of chaos is where. tease. women do not feel morose.and politely reminding women the way to when they forget. Currish: individuals. by wetting the entire bathroom when taking a shower and by spreading the newspaper while you read." Like a dripping faucet. but men rarely see it the same way. Women also think that claim is how they worry about them. Generally. molest. and are natural leaders all the time conveying their knowledge . roast the patience. quarrel. above all. She knows that is annoying. who calls all the time.Chapter 1 The cantankerousness When a person does not stop complaining Fiddle-faddle: annoy. They think they are confined to their men to remember the things they have to do: meet its share of household chores. they criticize. not abusing the drink. annoy. Currish is a term traditionally used by men to describe women. complain and complain. especially women. Where would many men without a woman warning them not to take beer or eat sandwiches too. provoke. In Hong Kong. even if that is annoying. get fungus in cangote. berate. Only in the United States are more than two thousand cases per year for men who kill their wives have been arguing that the complaints brought to them. to do regular exercises and tests for cholesterol? Demand in certain situations. selfish. has been enhanced by reducing the penalty of imprisonment by a judge who felt he was led to commit the violence because the woman was too morose. The friends also did not think she is morose . Advice as "always check your bank! How many times do I have to say?" and "It gives you a bit more care of their appearance when my friends come to our house?" are repeated with admirable persistence and. which is why their suffering companion deserves all the sympathy. dirty clothes and take towrope them wet the ground. can serve to keep them alive.
but he insists that both the end I run better than their hearing is whining. The number of times that she was immersed depended on the severity of the offense and / or the number of previous convictions. week. and I just early for him to shut up. Until the nineteenth century. " Morena: "Stephen is like that. a man who is self" Jeremy Dominated "sent us the following e-mail: "I need help from you. If I go to clean dinner with his friends.The cantankerousness women vs The whining of men The women complain. The situation is so bad that I asked the boss to be working after hours. but very short. on the way back. Sometimes I think that it is impossible to hit. Can you imagine? I prefer staying at work than go home. In the literature. he claim that I do not care for him why not take care of my appearance. she is claiming the whole time without stopping. After reading Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love ". We have reached the point where the only communication that happens between us is she telling me all that I left to do during the day. A record of a court in the year 1592. men give instructions. she was sentenced to "chair of immersion. " Third woman: "So why do men say that women patience to roast them with their complaints? General laughter. " A group of women we had dinner in a restaurant heard the following conversation was about their husbands: Blonde: "Yeah. the English laws. My colleagues say that their women also complain to them all the time. The cantankerousness through time Throughout history. If I do not want sex at the time he wants. Be listening to the complaints it causes me stress as a violent headache that starts in the car.S. month and since we got married. It is true that women are so from birth? Please help me. If I do not clean.I should drop by rejoice me to work and come home to see her. it is whine. The time that I get at home until the time when I go to sleep. but I did not believe it until I married. as people who complain non-stop. women have always appeared as a morose. he is never satisfied. It hours that I am not so. and crimes committed small catamaran." The chair of immersion was famous in the United States and Great Britain as a tool for punishment of witches. calling me saying that I have some more for others than for him. If you complain all the time. Think fault in everything I do. I think his friends more attractive than him. says: . If the charge was proved. is a morose adjective which applies mainly to old and women. its objections and complaints. and Europe has allowed the man complained about the implications of the judge or "cantankerousness" of his wife. I am married to the Queen of Claims and not stand one more minute and its implications. prostitutes. the U. Should not be so . My father used to tell me that every woman calls and fills the bag. The woman was tied infringing on a chair hanging on the edge of a mobile arm and plunged into the river or lake close by a predetermined period of time.
England. It decided. And when the chair of immersion was not punishment enough. of Leominster. If the wife has the audacity noisy To have the house with tremendous noise. Its goal is to encourage victims to meet him. but you need to think really make it. You must then bring the peasant A second time to the depths. How is currish The morose always hopes that his victim. A third and fourth time. It occupies the infringing his post With a frown on his face printed pompous. but simply to end the discussion. When the fire is burning. Climb even higher the blaze. shows how men in past centuries. took seriously the claims of excess: The Chair of Immersion See there. " The following poem. my dear. Some women were forced to parade through the city as a warning to other women. . never. Joy and terror of the people of the village. The last woman to go through the chair of immersion after condemned as "morose stubborn" was Jennifer Pipes. dives into the tank. but that does not mean they like to be complaining.". written by Benjamin West. that they tell the church to stop the cantankerousness. they will be punished with the chair of immersion. Tied to the chair. my friend. But if their husbands and neighbors to complain a second time. Women know that claim. without reluctance. driven by feelings of guilt. the lake of our Canton The device named chair of immersion Under the cloak of the law that guides the procession. published in 1780. in 1809. And before that to lose patience. the wife of Walter Hycocks of Peter Phillips and his wife are prominent morose. The woman is hoisted and vocifera How ever dared no shrew. Learn to govern in the chair your language. do what she wants. or would go to fail. with a mask of iron stuck to the head with a metal bar going up in the mouth to hold his tongue. You say: stop. there were other possibilities. Usually they do to achieve a goal. therefore. If the scold provokes discussion With obscene words or out of the question. Termagant wives. But once is not enough. the water breaks.. Because when you throw water on the fire..
. you said you would hang a towel. How is the victim From a man. Ray? And stop eating the pizza ." The Third Party Complaint by "Moira says Shane already cleaned the grill and they are going to a barbecue tomorrow. I just hope that you control a drink tonight. You can clearly see that women have an ability to speak much more than men. we? Usually women give laughs with these reports. We have identified five basic types of complaint: The Complaint Monotemática: "Kurt. The more claims." as did his predecessors back to the primitive of a full day of hunting. When cantankerousness is out of control. . deafness apparent and remote controls. . repeated complaints are a reminder continuous. Kurt? Still on the floor. is more isolated.. Feeling alone. and men think women talk without stopping." The cross complaint: "Nigel. And the least recognized. They recognize and acknowledge their own words.. "Kurt. why do not you hang your towel?" Pause. the more captive and isolated she feels. This explains why women think men in general. computers. When do you replace the lamp in the room e. etc. nor to be continuously accused of everything. They mainly occur at the end of the day. The more demanding the aggressor. the censorship. The tendency of man is to ignore it even more." The Early Recovery: "Dale. When the level of complaints is out of control. The only concrete result of excessive claims is the destruction of the relationship between the victim and currish therefore believe that the victim needs to defend all the time. which only increases his irritation and sometimes their anger. just in time that the man needs more time to be "watching the fire. Everyone avoids the morose. relationships with people of currish can be affected. face of discouragement. amnesia. Nobody likes to be subject to the anger contained the ambiguous messages to autopiedade..Some women turned to cantankerousness in an art form. but believe that there is no alternative. the door handle of the room is falling and the kitchen window is still stuck." Five minutes later: "And the towel. indirect and negative of the things he left behind and their defects. The speed you go.it is bad for your cholesterol and increase the weight . homework. she is able to completely destroy the relationship.". the more the victim is subject to suffering. speak little. the victim is more refuge behind defensive barriers that leave the woman distracted -newspapers. can stop the currish resentful and unhappy. The Complaint Beneficente: "I took their medicine today. leaving her alone and resentful. just before the summer. the grass of the front garden is a disgusting. etc. We do not go repeating the humiliation of last year.
It is able to speak on various themes without any relationship with each other in the same conversation USA and five tones of voice to change the subject and emphasize issues. the owner of the Diana. London.. Men only. this also depends on Adrian. she is watching TV. and Nathan lost his job and seek other. Can run a computer program while talking on the phone and hear a second conversation behind her in the restaurant when talking with fellow table. He can only focus on one thing at a time. and I thought it was us we were and Len in the guest room could ask Ray to arrive early to. he received a response to "multiple tracks" involving eleven people and nine different subjects. Frustrated. etc. When you open a map in the car. The illustrations that follow. and Jodi can not be absent from work .Why women are more morose? The woman has a brain structure that allows you to overcome any man on the planet in terms of falação and cantankerousness.. show (in black) the active areas of the brain used for the functions of speech and language. 2001. let her be absent from work because his car is in the workshop and she has to . so Sue said you could get out early for us to buy the clothes for the wedding of Emma. Areas of the brain used for speech and language. and men think women talk without stopping... Institute of Psychiatry.the boss of it is terrible! -. The multiple tracks can occur even in the same sentence: Bill: "The Sue come for Christmas?" Debbie: "She said it will depending on how things get with the orders for carpets.. This explains why women think men in general. and Fiona perhaps because Andrew does not need to consult a specialist.it is a counterfeit able to keep the air four or five balls at once. Etc. You can clearly see that women have an ability to speak much more than men. The man's mental organization contains a single track. can identify three of these tones so often lose the thread of the skein when they hear a woman talking. made from MRI scans of the fifty men and fifty women.. It is an image of men and women were chatting and communicating with each other. which have fallen because of economic crisis. " Bill: "That means' yes' or 'no'?" Debbie: "Well. Man Woman The woman has a mental organization that call multiple tracks . Instead. Bill thought it had a simple question and would be satisfied with a simple answer of 'yes' or' no '.". speak little. If a woman speaks when it comes to a clover on the . he turns off the radio.
sometimes placed in positions of power. As it is not always possible to leave the scene. He just shut up. The man can not make love and explain the same time that did not take the garbage out. causing a rough thread which can even degenerate into physical violence. have difficulty to walk and chew gum at the same time. putting the man . initiating a vicious cycle where the fretful increases the volume of voice and the strength of their objections and claims. The male brain has only one track. When the phone rings. One of the most difficult situations is when the man is connected to multiple tracks during the complaint. to USA to protect itself. sometimes physically. That the complaint never gives too much right? the main mistake of cantankerousness is the way to address the problem. There is too much. Some men. he asks for everyone to shut up talking. he misses the way and it puts the blame for being here.road. and the victim back further behind the barrier. the pressure increases to the point where the counter-attack victim.
" This type of claim is the most inefficient possible in achieving the objectives and becomes a destructive habit that produces enormous stress. it can start to complain to the boss to make it more efficient in their work. It operates from a position of strength. the goddess of sex may become worse in the morose.. You are more concerned with the "greater part" of his life... However. Take out the trash is not too much. whining and load of guilt that she wants to impose victim.in a defensive and blocking the absorption of the message. is it? . To note that the boss has to do something. She is so tied to the vision you created for your romantic partner. and if your partner does their share of domestic work. petty. the secretary can gently remind him or simply do it. Their "requests" are weak. And as you know. I ask? . resentment and anger and can easily end up in violent physical reaction.. this is part of their work. In general the groups it in a way that the male brain has limited capacity to decipher. even essential.. A clear sign of intimacy between boss and secretary of the things she is claiming that he left behind. You can even get to the point that you think is capable of doing the job better than him.. The woman also madly in love tends not to complain. Its strength is of another kind: it USA your sexual power to get to your man what you want. "You never take out the garbage. For men. pay someone to do it or get a mate to do. After all. which receives praise.her own clothes by the wide ground. more powerful. killing me from week to work to make this house more or less decent and you spent the whole time sitting watching TV . she ignores it.. you refuse to collect their clothes . the doctor said I can not get passed the order weight . when the relationship becomes permanent.. and a very sensual. The goddesses of sex do not complain of clothes dropped by the house -they leave their own clothes scattered on the floor." and is there outside. so busy arming plans to make mad love and love to be everywhere in the house. Missing you time and energy to it. "I did not ask him to do almost anything at home. not to realize that there clothing on the floor and dirty dishes on . In this stage. Has a more objective way to ask things. trivial. is like being bitten by a cloud of mosquitoes: bites takes over the body and can not kill them. desk. But when you feel more secure in your position.. It may be that it not be given the time to complain of dirty clothes scattered on the floor . The morose plot deals with the problem in small. may see the complaint as a form of continuous wear the head of "bring it to your level" and make it realize how much is missing. disharmony. the growing cantankerousness can go. if you have shame in the face would fix the faucet.. because this drip-drip is making me crazy . unless the morose and the victim have an intimate relationship. Where is the worst cantankerousness? The cantankerousness rarely manifests itself in the workplace. honors and proposals. The so-called "vampire" also does not usually complain. The woman happy and professionally performed rarely calls at home. even unknowingly. The origin of cantankerousness is the balance of forces between two people. and do not have enough force to get it to work.
but feel too guilty to admit that does not like his role. Of the genus is: ry exudes sexual power. A professional woman radiates strength material and mental. There is no Nobel Prize for the maintenance of domestic peace. or accepting and performing the ritual with joy monotonous and repetitive domestic work and motherhood are rarely morose. suffering. a teenage victim of constant complaints. The woman who regularly uses the cantankerousness. but do not know how to release for you to build a better life. Do not write wins literary prize lists of great shopping. also be absorbed by the excitement of the new relationship. daughters and partners who live together. Mother was not tortured (at least in the common meaning of that term) and went through great suffering. family of journals felt mentally and trading of movies and TV convinced her that the ideal woman to be truly feminine is Perfect Wife and Mother. the same for all women. frustrated with the only alternative to get your feet tapping. nobody sends write her name on a memorial in marble for dedicating his life to the welfare of the family. asking for recognition. It is a difficult person to feel confident and powerful if all you did in the morning to evening is trivial. Both are strong. however. with a confusing and contained rage. mothers. it deserves more. sons. which is enhanced by giving their lives for the welfare of his country. His partner. Even if. She knows that life can be better. husbands. Acaba I preferred that she not do anything. E is confused and lost by not knowing what to think.the table .wives. It is the anguish of the oppressed majority. . The cantankerousness always between people who have an intimate connection . who generally feel no power over their lives and unable to change it in a clear and direct. Anyone can pass the vacuum cleaner on the carpet. she went through years and years of brainwashing to accept a "truth" that may not serve you anymore. Unlike the soldier. That is why the stereotype of morose." Adam sighs. Nobody feels the need to complain. is always the wife or mother . The cantankerousness can be a call for recognition Complaining is a sign that the woman wants more: more recognition of the family for everything they did and more opportunities for something better. Your suffering is a kind of invisible. "Every time you wash the dishes or vacuum the carpet is the one she makes sarcastic comments to draw attention to itself. or do any thing to please her. Why is she must be complaining because of any thing ? She is talking about "any thing" because his life has become a collection of small things.the prisoners of the household. "My mother has to draw the attention of people to do all that. The Perfect Wife. fretful of the comic numbers. Sometimes she even realizes that his feelings are normal and healthy. in the heart. Your daily tasks seem too trivial to justify protests and demands for public recognition. Adam's mother calls him. culture. Do not want in your tú mulo the words "always kept the kitchen clean. Our research shows that women who have clear goals. feel no forces. Centuries of stereotypes. silent. independent and free. working more than thirty hours per week. precisely because nobody gives value to their tasks. predictable and routine.
selfish and lazy. The complex of mother Many women think they are the only significant adult in the family. When they become adults. it was starting to fatten. to circumvent the .and deserves . The problem is that often the woman is tempted to treat your partner as less capable than a man and a boy taken. But some men say that time is that it seems longer. Sip his wine. who hated capers. in their work environment. He reacts. Studies show that married men live longer than singles." The cantankerousness usually signal that there is a problem of communication between two people. the more it acts as if it were his mother. increasingly high. The whole restaurant was silent as the voice of the couple stood. With all this pizza.Adam is the mother of a little recognition that it begs . As your partner knows he has these skills. is hugely frustrated by the fact he did not use them at home. and placed last in their feelings and needs. and began to accuse him of never paying attention to their wishes. there is no safer way to kill the passion that's starting to feel that living with his mother. who feel that a little boy living with immature. which carry the soul the frustrating feeling of lack of love and recognition. right?" He said finally. Was it asking too much to let her pick the pizza at least once in their life? After that last sentence. Solutions cantankerousness: say what you want The discussion was ugly. can communicate. She also did not want to eat pizza all the time: a rather more healthy food. In the end. He has not lost the calm. the most demanding woman. to the menu. But rather than face it. It was absurd to say that the ruin the pineapple pizza. Many girls still grow up believing they should be nice and sweet. I Hawaiian. they believe their role is to appease. and for women. both come to a point where they are no more as partners. The restaurant was in full expectation of what would be the response of man. there was silence. They think that their husbands and boyfriends act like children. She. This tendency is especially common among women.the quality of your life would be better-ra impressive. The more a man rebels. Moreover. it would not take out so often to eat in the pizzeria. This change of attitude is the first stone in the path of the dangerous erosion of the relationship. He wanted pepperoni with capers. earn a salary significantly higher than women in the same position. solve problems. "The problem is not the pizza. looked at the floor. Everything started because of the pizza that they would choose. and finally back to his wife. Women who went out of control cantankerousness ESPO-ments are generally solitary and disappointed and mothers. it is the work of the shopping and help her to cook. usually they take in is trivialities and torment each other with cruel words. lovers and close friends. The man. The more he resists. ultimately. produce positive results and. Here is one of the keys to reduce the cantankerousness: currish give due recognition for the performance of small and routine tasks of his life ends with the most complaints. if behaving as such. For men. "They are the last fifteen years.
not as a complaint.words actually said. someone who will never meet their expectations. Neither will it hit him with her complaints concerned the same problems he used to have with the mother when I was a teenager. boredom. but that is not enough!" Sue: "You really selfish! How about putting his family first for once in your life? You . in turn. women often address his men in a wrong way. I never know where you are! Dinner was cold . and therefore will continue talking until you hear. wear something more comfortable. in turn. Before he had chance to say anything. Instead. he is finding it a failure. If your wife is always complaining. The woman generally expected to intuitively know the man she would like to say different things than they actually want. make your gargling with halitol. I am much more happy and enjoyable to live. Solutions cantankerousness: say what you feel A man will never tell you who feel diminished when you criticize his behavior. You're complaining and exaggerating as always. When a woman learns to direct and calmly say what you want. in return. I think I'm gonna go to bed" and stay away. but in recognition: "I am not happy with this life. does not listen because it does not submit the problem as they should. What do you think that I leave the children with my mother for a week. to the refrigerator will get another beer and put it on the couch to see football on TV. then you take a week at work to stay with them. One night. cuddle . Rarely a woman asks: "Why did he not speak more with me?" The man. she launches the attack: Sue: "You do not have account? Why is it so late again. " For many women seem to say that much more difficult than hitting mouth publicly because of the choice of a pizza. I want to get away from it all for two weeks. that does not mean they are getting properly convey their messages.you just think of you all the time! Daniel: "Do not shout me. physical or verbal abuse. You. E is silent. Seated alone in bed. Even if you talk enough.in the arms and seek reconfortá it maybe even with a session of sex. the man mutter. When you discover that you do not trust their ability to make right decisions. the man responded more positively. communication has improved and the need for cantankerousness .the excess claim ineffective. using indirect language. even if you think "My wife does not feel more attraction for me. Daniel is late in coming home from work and his wife Sue is waiting with a few guy friends. such as infidelity. he is trying to tell you something that you're not listening." never discussed the problem with it. Complaints in only mask a bigger problem of communication. She thinks that yawn and say "I am so tired. sleeping with her. Almost all the problems of relationships. I think that I would do very well and feel that. I turn myself and have a time just for me.. When the two go of it.problems and be nice and warm. I feel suffocated. pass deodorant. It is the head that his wife is speaking in code. the woman ends up giving up and falling asleep with a feeling of rejection and disaffection. And you will never feel that you sexually as uninteresting as his mother. depression and cantankerousness are the result of communication problems. As we said. the man will brush their teeth.. I work late for us to have money and comfort to you . Women have to understand that the functioning of the male brain is comparatively simple and that people rarely can guess what your partner really want wives and beyond . Many women have difficulties to say.
I have been so busy at work lately. Solutions cantankerousness: the technique of "I" To get the attention of Daniel. without judging them.You know very well what is your problem! . When that happens.You are a selfish! . So I am saddened [feelings]. your feelings and the impact that such behavior has on you. I'm not avoiding you. [I] am so tired I need a tempinho for myself. It is almost impossible to irritate anyone . Sue expressed hostility of indirect way. sorry. The technique of "I" has four parts. I thought you were not feeling well. I do not want you to feel well. Neither of them is listening or watching. They are simply left to say really how they feel.You are acting like children again! . leading Daniel to adopt a defensive behavior. increases and clarifies the sincerity of the sentiments of all. speaking as softly as possible: Sue: "Daniel. Here's how Sue could handle Daniel.never do anything in this house .I expected to do everything!" Daniel (away): "Get off my foot I am dead. and (I) promise that from now on ( I) I will call you every time you have to stay at work until later.Are you always running away! The language of "you" is to attack. Once you enter Daniel with defensive position. thinking that it is just a morose unbearable. putting him on the defensive. and always puts the other on the defensive. preventing the situation is clear. I'm beginning to think that you are not interested and do not like more of me. And their problems only tend to worsen.forever. I'm getting stressed. you are arriving late all week and I do not call to warn [behavior]. She can use the technique of "I" instead of using the word all the time you. leaving Daniel deeply angry: . When I come home.You do not have account? . Sue repeated the same message all the time and Daniel was always silent. It describes the behavior of your partner. I am crazy for concern with what may have happened [consequences]. I rest. This technique allows you to keep a normal conversation with your partner without fighting. It ends with a discussion . your interpretation of this behavior. You only know me complain all the time. I never want to talk about them!" Instead of reporting what is really felt through a direct quotation. The technique of "I" lets it communicate your feelings about the behavior of Daniel. communication is interrupted. right? Acting that neither child again. the first thing you should do is avoid Sue left for him. then it is well! Go to mosey out soon. " Daniel: "Sue. " The technique of "I" is powerful because it reduces the attitude of defense. Here are some of the phrases you type. It is as if Sue was a sponsor of the finger in accusation Rist. used by Sue. And (I) am not seeing anyone. I like you the truth. honey. you're seeing someone? [Interpretation]. Is there a problem. I have worked so much." Sue (furious): "Ah. You know what your problem is? You're always running away from things.
Solutions cantankerousness: Leave the man watching the fire for about thirty minutes When the man returned to the original cave. needed to be about thirty minutes looking at the fire. Everything that you need is discipline and firm .with this technique. . Solutions cantankerousness: Who trained who? Part of the responsibility of parents is to remember." Sue: "Honey. Prepare to not give a specific situation for thirty days without faltering. Is confused and frustrated. their well-being and success in life. per-sweaty and even require certain behaviors of the children for their safety. to regain your energy. insist and ask several times before answering the child. If the pattern is reminiscent of the parents. wait until your anger placate the other to be able to hear. sometimes take a deep breath. The more you get frustrated with the contempt it. the choice is their own. The same happens with a man who arrives late to his work: one needs time to recover. no tension and no one feels intimidated. responsible. Statements like "I" work best when they are expressed appropriately at the time. The parents currish / disobedient children can be easily corrected for. For you. Most women. What began as a simple request of "Come dinner!" becomes a war. however. therefore. want to talk immediately. But where in the exercise of that responsibility becomes a cantankerousness? And whose fault is that. Be firm with yourself. the messages of Daniel and Sue have been clearly communicated. after a full day of hunting to feed the family." there is no discussion. Enter then the consequences of disobedience. addressing the problem. When can we talk?" When Daniel agrees with a particular time (and respect) and Sue hold while he "looks at the fire. not with the child. I had a really long days and difficult gives me half an hour for me to build the dust and relax. Then the child begins to suffer because of this breach did not really think anything wrong. she learns that it is not necessary to answer the first call. Thus.with yourself. if one parent at home or a mother complaining all the time: the naughty child or the mother or the father morose? The correct answer is: the father or mother. without speaking. Parents influence the child's pattern of behavior. not only with their children. the proper way and the tone of voice appropriate. The more you repeat and calls. Here is how to apply this technique. think he does not want the requirement is met. Tell your children that you will seek the cooperation of them once. and if they do not meet. this is a vicious circle. I promise that after you talk to. children trained to be responsible for repeating the call and. is more emphatic and angry. plus the child resists. In the above example. of course. in fact. I need to talk to you about what happened today. Daniel: "Honey.
the smell of spoiled food in the house would be as if the trash pile. So you no longer train for another person. on top of the wall in the dog house or under his pillow. The mother stopped asking and started to complain. The behavior of children is the direct result of train-ing given by parents. The first time you apply this tactic will be laughter. The whole family was no longer believing-not endure the complaints and more feel the . for better and for worse. Who will give first? If you sell and collect the clothes. Solutions cantankerousness: a case study with children Cameron. nobody will get and no more dry towels to use. When the violator is bathing. Do not complain to them . has chosen to continue being a person trained and lose the rights to the claim with any person to leave the clothes scattered on the floor. you will get it because they do not like to mess in the bathroom and that violates his right to a clean house. So you just collect the used towels because they do not like to mess in the bathroom and why do you think. and the person still doing the same things-sa. I want you to get your clothes dirty on the floor of the room and put in the basket. underpants and anything that you do not want to see play-of the house. However. The same technique works with dirty socks. Say. Tell them that will put the towel in the yard of the offender. for example. vol-ta to the point of departure. Week after week. And the future partners of their children will not complain of their bad habits. What happens here is that the other person knows that in the end you will end up taking the towel . With this technique. Here's how to reverse the situation: take a clean towel . If you have self discipline and strength.preferably of different colors each child and / or adult of the house and tell them that this is your personal towel. Say. It may seem cruel. Two or three times just to be trained to collect it and hang your towel. Go ahead and take to end its purpose. if you follow collecting things from around the world.For example: "Jade.it simply endure their complaints. it is creating the rules and you are obeying. that means that they trained you to do what she wants you to do. not to mention it will have a happier home. but forgot to do it. He used to say that would take the garbage after dinner. or so leave the bath. Tell them that if any dirty or wet towel is left on the floor. If you do not put there. received the task of taking out the trash every Wednesday night. that a thousand times you ask someone not to leave the wet towel on the floor of the bathroom. will discover how unpleasant it is dry with a towel wet and smelly.train them If you find that is complaining all the time with a person. for example. you become the coach and not ° trained. and complaints are no longer needed. the laundry will accrue and will not listen to complaints of lack of that dress. which is probably a small price to pay. confusion and protests. that the next time this happens you put a wet towel in the bottom of the broom closet. which they must be totally responsible. it will not be washed. thirteen years." It is here that the self and firmness comes into play. but you are teaching responsible habits. or after we finished the movie. otherwise you will continue being the person trained. In other words. if you do not get.
smell of garbage. But Cameron was not there either - he simply forgot and it mattered little to the complaints. Finally, the mother of Cameron has realized that the son was trained to the claim and decided to react. He said that as he did not meet with their responsibility to take the trash out, the whole family was suffering with the smell of spoiled food. And the consequences stated that he would suffer for their disobedience: the garbage that was not carried out would be placed in your room. Since he is not bothered with the smell of spoiled food, no problem would have to sleep with her. The thing was submitted to a fun, relaxed, nonaggressive. The family could hardly wait for the night of Wednesday. As usual, Cameron forgot to take the trash. The following night, when they pulled the sheet to lie in bed, he found full of rotten garbage. The fourth fedia! The cost of this lesson a few sheets were dirty and smelly that Cameron was forced to wash - he knew the consequences. But never forget to take the trash. Construed as a morose If the victim is honest with itself, assuming that there is any truth in claims of morose and recognizing that cantankerousness is usually a cry for recognition, the problem can be quickly transformed into a situation where everyone wins. To feel more important is the need of human nature. The researches have shown, many times, the people who work all day, have their contribution and their efforts recognized, less demanding than those that spend long periods indoors, isolated from other adults. Similarly, the owners-of-house that they do not really like, they feel proud of keeping a home clean and comfortable, to prepare a good and healthy food and give affection to your family, also do not usually complain - since receive the gratitude and recognition due. The people are generally morose performing repetitive and monotonous work or who suffer from being isolated at home. For some women, to wash clothes, clean the carpets, make the beds, do the shopping and cooking, not seeing more sense in that form, can dull the mind after a year or two. If we add to this cocktail ill-bred children who break in ten minutes the work of a whole day, we have a person who will use the cantankerousness to draw attention and try to make other people feel so unhappy about it. When the foundation of the claim is true, the victim must accept its share of responsibility for cantankerousness. The cantankerousness is the result of lack of communication. The challenge of the victim To achieve a situation where everyone wins, both parties need and want to divide the responsibility for change. The victim of complaints must recognize and accept that it must contribute to the solution of the problem. The tendency of the victim is to develop an aggressive behavior or silent, which makes things more difficult. She ignores the morose, yet tries to scream louder, leaving the room or the house and invents excuses for not answering their requests. The victim does not reflect on its share of responsibility because they are infernizada the claims, and puts all the blame on the morose. The only way out is to stop and make a self-assessment, seeing cantankerousness in an application for relief:
- Do you hear the other person? - You understand the frustration of another person? - You show superiority, making it feel devalued? - You acknowledge the achievements of another person? - You refuse to divide the domestic work because anyone who thinks the money should be in a good home? - You are quite lazy and useless? - There is a deep anger that feeds the poor will understand the problems of another? - You want to be happy? If you really want to be happy, feel able to sit with the other person and talk about the problems of you? The challenge of currish If you are morose, I stopped to think that the other may be unable to meet their demands? You are behaving as if the mother authoritarian one? Requires that it meets their requests and complaints promptly, regardless of his needs at that moment? You repeat all the time their demands? - If your answer to any of these questions is yes, sit down with the other and report them using the language of "I". - Tell him what you're leaving you frustrated. - Make an agreement of the best times for their requests. - Stop being is repeating. - Afirme their needs and feelings and listen carefully the response of her husband. - Try to know his opinion. Maybe he has a better idea. - Avoid accusatory phrases such as "You", which produce resistance in the other. - What is the solution or the consequences in case he does not change their negligent behavior? - What are you doing to improve their self-image? - You always rewards that achieves your goals? - You want to be happy? For many people, demand may become a habit, a means to communicate makes them people who sulk, unhappy and resentful of those who should be a daily source of joy, warmth and support. But things need not be. Following our simple strategies, you can build a future much more happy and loving both.
SEVEN THINGS THE OUE -MEN MAKE DEIXA WOMEN IRONING BOARDS It is not easy to say the number of annoying characteristics that women look for men, but the letters we received from more than five thousand readers, we came to the seven questions that women are more often about men. - Why men offer solutions and give advice all the time? - Why men are walking by the TV channels with the remote control? - Why men do not stop the car to ask for guidance? - Why do men insist on leaving the toilet seat raised? - Why do men create problems for both go shopping? - Why do men have very unpleasant personal habits? - Why men like coarse jokes? These habits of men that women classified as "bad" belong to two categories: those they learned in its creation and those related to programming of the brain But both men are capable of solution. Everyone can re-educate, just how to do it. Why men offer solutions and give advice all the time? "My husband is annoying me immensely with his mania of wanting to find solution for everything. He lives giving me advice on how to deal with all problems of my life - even if I do not want, when I just want to talk about my day and my feelings, it is stopping me to say what I do, think and say. He is the best to solve problems when it comes to "things" - dripping taps, lamps burning, defect in the car and computer and stuff -- but when it comes to hear me, he just does not work. And if I do not follow their "advice", he is bored. Karen 'Almost Crazy. " To find out why the man insists on providing solutions for any situation, it is necessary to know some characteristics of the mode of operation of the male brain. From the most primitive ages, the male has evolved as a hunter. The ability to reach moving targets, essential to all they could to feed, was his great contribution to the survival of the human race. He needed accuracy to achieve the prey and eliminate the enemies that it disputed the-ate of and threatened his family. Consequently, it was developed in his brain an area called "visual-spatial" that allows you to achieve success with all his reason for living: to reach goals and solve problems. The men became directed people to the results and measure success by their own achievements and the ability to solve problems. In short, men are defined and self-assess according to their ability to solve problems.
much less asking for solutions. "Why do not you shut up and listen". it is not looking for answers. She thinks it is irrelevant or is ignoring your feelings by not listening. Why women are annoyed with the solutions male? The woman's brain is structured for communication through speech. especially if part of a woman. So when a woman offers a board that no man has. that gives the board sees the query as a compliment. She just wants the man to listen with interest." he shouted back as the door knocks. He loves providing solutions and advice to others. she usually wants to talk about the events of the day and share their feelings. That's why he rarely speaks about the things that concern. incapable of solving their problems.The man is valued by the results it is capable of achieving or the precision with which it has a zebra on the move. because he thinks it should solve its problems alone. she was criticized for an administrative error. "If you do not want my opinion. Most times. and the main purpose of speech is to talk. Here is the problem of the majority of couples: the night. are not welcome. seek advice is a demonstration of weakness. "do not ask!" Each thinks the other does not value what you are saying. It is because he does not pay attention as she is saying and he is angry because she does not accept their solutions. Every man thinks he is the only person able to solve their own problems and therefore did not think to discuss them with anyone. but unsolicited advice. he feels as if it considers that the declaration incompetent. The man whom he calls opinion. and believes that it is making a smart strategic move. For men. but he thinks she is bringing him to solve their problems. When a man seeks advice from another man. is beginning to offer solutions. but he thinks she is asking you a solution. in turn. He only ask for help when the other person feels the need for a specialist opinion. she strongly urges while directed to the port. feels honored with the query. Case study: Sarah and Andy Sarah had a rough day at work: the head was marked up. a lost wallet and a broken fingernail. She feels that her world is falling apart and want to talk to Andy about it when you get home. She prepares a nice dinner in the expectation that will have a long and frank conversation . He thinks that is caring and loving when seeking to resolve the problems of women.
you take care of your dinner.while eating. and I would not finish the two projects in this period. I am not holding more! Andy (still with one eye on the news) "You are not holding more what?" Sarah: "My boss is me creating the biggest problem. this is a very common scene. Sarah feels abandoned. but he really needs a time to solve their own problems. gives a quick "hi" to Sarah goes to the room and watch the news on TV.. It gives you just hear me? I'm full of men who always know everything. Call telling him that Sarah had a bad day. because Sarah rightly criticized its greater ability to troubleshoot. is simple .. When I tried to explain that the campaign does not was ready because I am still working on the project Seinfield. injured and disarmament. he said snakes and lizards in my work and wanted to know that I had not finished the new advertising campaign. Sarah: "How was your day. When I came to work in the morning. " Andy: "Look. yeah? So Fuck you. In the end. But Andy also had a difficult day. It will be nice and friendly. She wants. Andy feels devalued and confused. It gives a look at the food and says the dinner will be ready in fifteen minutes. He thinks: "Great! Fifteen minutes of quiet before eating. and you get to say everything I have to do. As Andy could have dealt with the situation Let's rewind the tape and see how Andy could have prevented a very bad night. I will talk about their problems.. "Sarah thinks:" Great! Fifteen minutes to go before the dinner conversation. I leave and I do not know that hours back! " For men and women around the world. " Andy: "Saraaah! If you do not want my opinion. then changed the subject and said that I see the six-afternoon on Friday to examine the problems of last minute. Sarah.. "Sarah:" How was your day. I already have enough problems that. always fix myself!" Sarah (almost crying) "Oh. Solve them yourself and stop complaining to me. He comes home. which will have to address before returning to work the next day. which he said it was urgent. knowing that you will feel much better. honey?" . I want to go. She can open the heart with someone like her. " Sarah (getting emotional) "I can not believe what I hear I am talking to you on the head that is giving me orders and I do not listen. On the way home. you have to do is defend himself. (getting danada life) . I think not stand this anymore . tell him you can not finish the two projects at once and ask which of the two he wants first. I get another person to listen to me and it will not be telling me what I did wrong. he will need to adjust it or ask someone to help you with the two projects. Then I said I wanted it ready by the end of the week and that he was scheduling a meeting with the client on Monday to see the work. Tomorrow you go there and He says that this deadline is impossible. by the way. he stopped saying that I did not want to hear excuses and I wanted to campaign on his desk before I close the business on Friday. He listen. his mind still working on finding solutions.... honey? " Andy: "Well" Sarah: "I had the worst day of my life. Closed the business with several important problems still outstanding. that make you feel loved and understood and to convey the conviction that she will be able to solve their problems.. Can you believe it? He just does not hear me .
... I really would like you to help me find a solution. but then I started to explain that the campaign was not completed because the project Seinfield consumes much time. baby. I am not holding more! Andy: "Oh. When you want to do business with the opposite sex Men and women do business on a very different. Sarah feels confident and happy. Andy avoided a discussion. but give me some fifteen minutes for me to solve my problems at work. giving Andy some time to himself. baby. and when the two parties do not fully understand what that means." Sarah: "I had the worst day of my life.. Some come to believe that she is giving you chat for sexual reasons or... I feel much better now . I'm too tired and stressed. The woman. She is going to wreak and feel better about life.. assume .." Andy (hugging her) "What a hard day you had. before starting to deal with business. Over dinner I heard her with attention and affection. When I came to work this morning. I want you to tell me everything that happened. honey ." Sarah: "Okay . avoided the usual discussions and felt happy with herself and with life. Andy now has time and space "to sit before the fire and think of their problems. my baby." Sarah: "You do not know how I'm stressed! Well. And Sarah. " By not offering solutions. your business relationship can be financially disastrous.. I love. I call you when dinner is ready. You want a drink now?" Andy: "Thank you. talk about various subjects.. you need to establish a relationship with the man. but that something terrible! Does he not know that you get a lot of work? You look so stressed .. which he said it was urgent. and is reliable. ." When asking for fifteen minutes and get them. Then he told me that she wanted ready at the end of the week and that was scheduled with the customer to come in Monday to see our work.. because it will give you all the attention during the dinner.. before the end of time! Can you believe it? " Andy (showing interest and resistance to give advice) "Looks like he is really creating a very difficult problem for you ." Sarah: "He just listened . When I tried to explain that the campaign was not ready because I'm still working on the project Seinfield. sometimes in a very personal level to see what kind of person he is. What do you mean?" sarah: "I think about it this evening. at best. up early in the morning and if you have no good idea. I changed the subject and said that I see the six-afternoon on Friday to deal with any last-minute change. Many men have a mistaken understanding of the behavior. But in the middle of my explanation he simply stopped telling me who did not want to hear apology and wanted to campaign in his desk on Friday.Andy: "It was good.. he said snakes and lizards in my work and wondered why I had not finished the new advertising campaign. " Andy (with an expression of interest) "Honey. Thanks for listening to me. Here's how the dinner was: Sarah: "My boss is me creating the biggest problem. got a drink and not just sleeping on the couch alone in the room. but I was very happy to be able to tell you . but I will get better after that they can think a little. I'm so stressed that I want to go .. I have some work to solve problems in the morning.
The companions asked him never to speak or participate. I do not need solutions. even in business. To humans. it is easier to deal with a woman when she first establishes a personal connection. make it clear what you expect of the man who is wreak. And the woman needs to understand that men feel uncomfortable discussing personal matters and therefore prefers to go straight to business. Defining women: Apparatus used to switch a channel of the TV to another. he will know how to behave. this is an efficient way to relieve stress and recharge the batteries for the activities the following day. He sat among colleagues." With this approach. we need to talk. and if not sure of what she wants. giving advice is be attentive and show love. but now using . When both parties to understand.that the long-term business relationship leads to a much more consistent. you just want to listen. The modern man still looks at the bonfire at the end of the day. How to avoid discussions with the opposite sex When a woman is tense and worried. but a woman can interpret them as evidence that the man is not ready to hear her. In general. listening with empathy. For thousands of years the man spent the night watching the fire after returning from the hunt. The man needs to understand that. leaving him confused and Rally against the bad with the operation of your business relationship. councils are perceived differently by men and women.that she is asking for advice on how to solve their problems. every man has three remote controls and the toilet seats are always raised. ask. Solution When the woman speaks and the man does not know if she is asking for solutions or just bubble. especially when the woman appears worried. Shall treat him with reserve. For men. the best and simplest is to tell the man: "I need to talk to you about several things. the man is satisfied and knowing exactly what she expects of him. In short. The lesson here is simple and definitive: for men. in a state of trance. women want to be heard. For a woman. just ask: "You want me to listen or want me to help find solutions?" Depending on what she says. The woman is suffering very much. become more prone to make . In heaven. Definition male: Apparatus used to scroll through all 55 channels every two and a half minutes. not recommended. The most likely is that it classifies as a man who does not listen and that it shall give due attention in the business of making Jun-ments. and was long periods without communicating. Why men are walking by the TV channels with the remote control? Remote control. Then they feel entitled to offer and say what she should do.
when we were in the remote Okavango Delta. The woman tries to talk to the man just in time when he is reading the newspaper or surfing the channels. The more he resists. from multiple tracks. because he thinks his mere physical presence is enough. We entered and saw a group of drugs Kalahari. but with the brain occupied in the task of reading the newspaper. more man resists. the man likes to forget their problems seeing the problems of others. it analyzes the problems of each program and reflects the respect for reasonable solutions. The men did not want to know what is going on television. When he speaks. was not really listening and analyzing what she said. make it talk about a variety . After a long day.newspapers. This basic difference between the sexes is a frequent source of problems. Because the brain oriented to solving problems. noticed an antenna driven by solar energy on top of a hut in the village. asking: "What was the last thing I said?" To his frustration. doing gymnastics or the option almost always favorite. Through channels. however. It is therefore a way of relieving stress as well as browse the Internet. She suffers from the man's apparent inattention and disinterest as the person interprets it. watching television is a totally different process. The female brain. the man to forget their problems and feel at peace with himself. That leaves the confused. each waiting his turn to be walking by the canals. her face. Secondly. she is more resentful. The woman. she likes to predict the outcome of situations and also to attend to business. he is usually able to tell. Just remember the words of it. books and remote controls. The man suffers from not being able to enjoy a moment of idleness. capable of dealing with several issues at once. even after having tried to offer solutions and be rejected. For men. dresses like tango. The woman needs to understand that looking the fire is the way that man has to relieve stress and therefore should not take that attitude in personal terms. He heard the woman's falação. How he responds to what she speaks. watering plants. in front of the TV with a remote control from hand to hand. repairing the car.the problem remains concerned your mind. As the mind of man is only able to do one thing at a time. which exists to meet two main impulses. engage in any of these activities does the smallest difference . Concentrate on one thing. he is interested in getting the fastest possible conclusions. whether he is also emotionally present. The more the woman insists. The woman accused the man tends to be kilometers away when she tries to talk. north of the Kalahari desert in South Africa. which is one of the explanations for the fact that the number of men who watch the TV news to be six times higher than women. The woman's brain is structured to interpret the words and body language of actors. however. They want to know what is going on television. is something each time. She needs to talk about the problem to get some relief. preferably a novel filled with scenes of emotion and relationships. Once. look at the problems of others without feeling responsible for them allows you to forget their own worries. Women around the world have a particular aversion to the male habit is changing the channel. When a woman is concerned about a problem. she likes to relax watching a television program. sex.
And if not advance. all at the same time. The man. then go toward building a pink next to the National Bank. that is lost means that failed in their ability number one . For men. on the other side of the avenue. it should consider the possibility of buying its own television set and go see your program in another room. This is the same ability that men use to find the place where he was sitting in a football stadium. Means that he wants a moment of quiet. it may disappear forever. If you are a woman. Solution To solve the problem of remote control. past. a lake or a mountain.of things. Seeing a tree. without worry to reach solutions. she was able to locate and find the way home. He would go to the pillory than admit to a woman who is lost.find the path. is not alone ventured beyond the horizon. The most plausible explanation for the sense of direction for men is the highest concentration of iron in the right hemisphere of the male brain. it is important not criticize him or give advice. especially if it has no intention of getting a . in turn. to locate the car in a large park-ing and to resume a place where it once. they feel pennite magnetic north. they learned the art of maintaining the sense of direction and recognize the ways to hunt for great distances without losing the direction of home. it is likely that it arrived. present and future-feeling. pointing to the north within a radius of 90 degrees. that the troubles and ask him to please not do so when she is watching your program. calmly. But if he says "take the third exit to west on Highway 23 and walk five kilometers to the north". The silence of the man does not mean he does not love her. Females. This explains why more than a third of men. it should tell the man. During this period. something that only one in five women is capable of. Why men do not stop the car to ask for guidance? For over 100. must understand that women need to talk and unburden relieve stress.the sense of direction has never been a need or part of their job description. Men never lose -only discover alternative destinations. is sitting in the passenger seat and just go through the same garage for the third time. men have used the space component of your brain to track the prey and hit the target. This is therefore the key to teach man the way a woman.000 years. defenders of nests and offspring. so they learned to be guided by landmarks . If he says "go to where the street has a huge tree. when entering for the first time in a room without windows.
but be sure to hear it. but men are at a disadvantage because the restrooms accommodate domestic needs especially women. but the slope. you can tell who is affectionately distressed to reach the destination and ask him to stop. however. I took another woman. smiling: "Multiple . Why do women never take the trouble to raise the seat to the man? In Sweden there is an article of a law requiring the man to urinate sitting in public restrooms. When the download was invented at the end of the nineteenth century. that the modern habit inherited from their ancestors. never lead a support group. he still lacked two things to be split between Adam and Eve A. You never hear a man say: "Hey. with seats for women and set the wall urinals for men. "I think you can keep it. all public restrooms have separate facilities for men and women. When a woman went to the bathroom. Solution Buy a map or a guide and leave it in the car. But the practice of going to the bathroom in groups remains among women. When God finished creating the universe." "Thank you. Why are four million sperm needed to find and fertilize one egg? Because no one likes to ask what is the path. The offer was excitadíssimo and begged God to the left for him. That is why we rarely see a man urine in the open. who immediately was urinating on a tree and draw a picture in the sand. Ask you to information. is severely criticized. A rapid and safe emergency strategy is to tell you that you need too go to the bathroom. could stay." Eva replied "Who are you?" And God replied. was an instrument that would allow its possessor to urinate standing up. are buying something. benevolent. The man. Eva smiled. At home. the toilet cubicles were in the back of the house. Fred. he explained.foot. Men never urinate in bathrooms. Why do men insist on raising the leaving the toilet seat? By the end of the nineteenth century. which require a stop. to be politically correct. but in bushes or supported on objects. outside. The modern homes are designed and built to accommodate men and women equally. But when you forget to below her back. leaving many people very angry. While you're in the bathroom. and told God that if Adam wanted to do so. depending on the relationship of trust that has been built between the two. pretending that. he has time to ask for guidance. but the men just sit in 10-20% of cases. when they go to the bathroom. You do not want to come with me?" Men. a wall or a tree. for safety. Then God gave to Adam. the man has to lift the board not to wet the place where the woman will sit. Today. preferably in a gas station. here is the other thing. had to go alone and defend itself in case of need. And God saw that it was good.. Or maybe. I'm going to soak-ro .. Then God sent to Eva "Well. The women always felt. the bathroom has moved into the houses and public establishments." he said.
one can enjoy the standard of cleanliness and hygiene that you like. It requires that I sit urine. The ziguezagues between shops and kiosks that women needed to consider a purchase as a successful man leave extremely anxious. and even then the penis to urinate over the roll of toilet paper in the left leg of the pants or on top of the shoe. If this is not enough to convince you. I have no permission to urinate as a man on foot. The life of primitive man as a hunter gave him a sort of "tunnel vision" that allows you to move directly from point A to point B in a straight line. the four in the afternoon of day 24. To a man. And I am convinced that this is a small price to pay. the ideal solution is to buy a house with two bathrooms . "After 28 years of marriage. my wife decided I train now. just for new household rules. a suit and two shirts last for years.which absolutely does not compromise the masculinity. Maybe this can make sitting more attractive? If you are to them. which means spending a day on the floor cloth to clean all the drops lost. a pair of shoes. the man does not give the slightest importance to the fact that the seat be raised or lowered. so calm and firm. He is able to buy Christmas gifts for the whole family in forty minutes. there is not enough to trust him.Orgasms.or reforming the current home to create an extra bathroom. on the contrary. I left the seat up. If the man refuses. the book takes him more.one for him. His task will be washing the bathroom. three shirts.or below it herself . I speak seriously. The man can get a cabin bathroom (where all the urinals are occupied). And the best is that. a garden where it was impossible to sit. Thus. because of this. one for her . or fall into the pot for that. The reasons for this are clear to anyone who has studied the evolution of different male and female brains and understand their respective schedules. but may be upset with the woman if she require authoritatively that lets you down. It is said that the Prophet urinated standing up once in life. shopping is one of the favorite ways of relieving stress. If it is the bathroom at night and sit again in the wet board. perhaps decades. Why do men create problems both for shopping? The great advantage of being human is we can buy two. look perfectly in the middle of the toilet. without having to worry about the other. For most men. This is clothing to last more than five years. it kills me while I'm asleep. may be remembered. a belt. and still alone on top. because any change of direction requires a conscious decision. in the Islamic world that millions of men sit to urinate every day . For most women." One of our male readers wrote us to say as he and his wife faced the problem of the toilet seat: "Women need to understand that the penis has its own designs. The British psychologist Dr David Lewis found that the stress that men experience during the Christmas shopping equivalent to a police dealing with an angry crowd disorder. shopping is an activity located in the same plane to take of the prostate with a doctor of cold hands. three ties and two pairs of shoes in less than eight minutes. Solution Ask the man who sat urine may cause some problems. " Indeed. instead of asking politely . .
Women shop the way their ancestors catavam food: going the whole day with other women for a place where one is reminded of have seen growing plants tasty. skin and eyes. the fashion. Polls show that not only the men do not like to shop. Today it is exactly so that men like to shop. shopping is not part of the programming of the male brain. feeling and showing all the things that are as speak with each other on a lot of issues with no relation to what they are doing. and then go home empty-handed.the kitchen cabinet of a single man has ten packages of pasta. Always ask what he likes to eat and buy him his favorite foods. the supermarket zigzag loading a list. the idea is inconceivable. and the limit of time is not important. and returned home. but they affect the health of them. How to buy clothes The same principles that apply in the motivational-supermarket's worth of clothes in the shops too . bread and eggs when returning to work can happen to bring him sardines and light mayonnaise. Consequently. Leave a full day with a group of peers with no clear destination. Even without finding anything worth the penalty to take home. Give him clear objectives . no route. Women.this causes it to again use their spatial skills to find the answer. For men. Men have evolved as creatures that kill their prey. just give cheiradinha the clothes you left in the back of the chair. due to the stress they cause. buy the memory and examine all the stuff you seem interesting. nine cans of tomato sauce and very little thing. how you feel that day.brands. who is leaving and who will do . They spend their days going from place to place in a nonstructured. maneuvers. they feel satisfied because they had a great day. when shopping. Men like to be in control and therefore to "guide them" using their ability to space curves. defined goal or time limit. they always go home the same items . which means he failed. . so you need the encouragement. She dresses carefully in accordance with the time the season. But there are ways to help the man to have a positive feeling about it. For a man. The male brain is structured to focus on a single task. Ask the man how to get in the shopping cart . the place where you are going. and again at the end of the day with little to show. flavors and sizes .give the man sizes.as you zigzag the gondolas. the color of hair. He forgets what she asked and returns home with a couple of "gifts": the product of his "hunting". How do supermarket Let the man pushing the cart. fabrics and price ranges and send it to the game. challenge you to find the best prices and praise him when he gets results. zigzag with greater tranquility in a mall crowded with people. feeler. but men prefer to go straight. That is why when you ask a man to buy milk. At this point the reader may be impatient and was saying: "All this because of some shopping?" Remember. colors. smelling. with his peripheral vision more broadly. speeds and stuff. however. There must be a specific goal or guideline.The woman.
Never ask him "You think I am better with the blue dress or the gold". ALLAN PEAS Even with these strategies. First ate all the red beans until done. self-expression and male entertainment. the woman must provide a magazine to read it. If a woman asks the man to buy something for her or to get a particular article. If you catch a smaller number. masculine: a source of entertainment. Flatulence: noun. feminine: an embarrassing byproduct of digestion. wear old underwear and rub the bag. bang release is an act universally . but the studies do not support this thesis. Men are more tolerant in accepting what they consider bad habits women and provide care in less detail than women. burp. If I drop it buys. you must give the exact size of clothing you want. When trying clothes. So save you the question. it is important that you remember: the concentration of most men in a shop has. I always secure her hand. noun. At the top of the list of men habits that women can not tolerate are: take meleca nose. Why men are so unpleasant personal habits? Everywhere. they perceive a female habit offensive. In general. the chickens how to move the food Cisca. smell. the man feels anxious because he knows that will never have the right answer and is therefore wrong and let the woman boring. is what is commonly called the drop bang. The other ate the seeds of all colors without any order. Solution Give the man a single thing to do at a time and not try to convince you that you are saving a lot of money buying a larger quantity. But number one. If it takes more. the chair-thebored-husband. while the man waiting outside the fitting room. One explanation for the way men shop was developed from studies with chickens. she is accused of suggesting that fat. When received male hormones.What can be said of a man well dressed? That the wife chooses their clothes well. therefore. The advantage of being a man is not to leave the room to fix the private parts. then all yellow. by far. it will find that you are fat. something that has a horrible name: fart. It is less likely. Although it is a sign of good health and nutrition. reach a maximum of thirty minutes. women complain that men are much more unacceptable personal habits than them.
encourage the man not to drink water during the meal. Before.until the big fights happen. drop bang for fun is a practice that begins more or less at ten years old when the prestige of children is measured by the ability to release various kinds of puns. the rest goes to the large intestine where it mixes with other gases and is ready to explode in the most unusual.1% of women will admit it someday. While men emit an average of 1. vegetarians deploy more puns. The main causes of excess gas is too much talk and talk during the meal. beans. Flatulence: the facts While 96. It is important that the woman tell the man with the greatest possible objectivity and . to prepare "in desgasificantes and products made of mint and ginger. enough to fill a balloon. only 2. Food reactions Foods that produce gas are more cauliflower. Sharon was obviously found guilty. Find an example. women emit 1-1. It was washed with more expensive. such as carbohydrates and proteins never join in the same meal. is imitating voices or blue flare launching the fourth with the aid the lighter. a minute ago.3% of men acknowledge that drop puns. why was all red and with an embarrassed air. garlic.5-2. But if he insists on eating quickly and drop the boom all the time. you may need a more efficient tactics. bread.5 liters of gas per day." Sharon decided to establish the room and the kitchen as "prohibited zones of bang. eat slowly and do not see TV during the meal. cabbage. Never shall it be the man eat food producers of gas less than two hours before bedtime. no problem. Among men. she benefit from a bag and roll of toilet paper for everyone would hear: "Does this help?" The mascots also solve the problem. Food combinations also give good results. Every time I went with Sharon. In addition. The humpback is ranked second. increasing the likelihood of releasing gases later. flour. beer. Nigel thought it very funny . Solution One obvious remedy is to prepare healthy meals with less genera-producing gases and offer the man a cup of mint tea after the meal.disapproved by women.5 liters of gas. At home. The air is trapped in the digestive system and. although most is belch. The men released about twelve puns and women a day. If it does not comply with this standard. so nobody knew who was. but drinking during a meal dilutes the digestive juices. onion. broccoli. As a result. he released puns in bed and called it the "test of true love. instead of coffee. When the surrounding is tipped for the couple. Chew the food well. Nigel released huge puns in public places such as department stores. it is always easy to turn and fight for the dog with him to scream." When you were in a public place. but with much less odor. seven. eg diu-to warn you that at least two minutes before the release will feel when a bang. See the example of one of our readers. To hear noise or feel the smell of fart. fruits and vegetables in general. Among the products that reduce the amount of gases produced by the body are the chips of coal.
then turns chocolate. Why men do not simulate the orgasm? . gaining prestige with men to have a good repertoire.especially in the double bed . step by step. When the child realizes that the situation is not threatening. Here are some jokes that stimulate domestic relation Cère male-ber: 1.it is located in the frontal lobe of the brain above the right eye. or the deal as a reason to laugh. What you want . to make the championships enchain bang and grooms in the light poles. A major difference between the sexes is the male obsession with jokes about tragedies. enjoy a much more enjoyable sex life. Why men like coarse jokes? The humor has to man three main purposes: first. if progress. Examination of magnetic resonance imaging show that men laugh most of the things that stimulate the right side of the brain and that it gives to women the exact opposite.he is sleeping. 2. What can you say to a man who has sex? . which means that if for a moment she experienced a reaction of fear. Some men are able to tell jokes that you heard in the fourth grade. it can. The male brain has an amazing ability to store and remember jokes. to help deal with tragic events. The female sexual organs are capable of astonishing feats of human reproduction. Because no man would do such a face on purpose. 3. she laughs. What is the perfect lover? . third. . Why do not want strangers to take their key decisions.it takes all the desire to have sex. What is the difference between a woman in the TPM and a terrorist? . The laughter is an extension of crying. second. mostly nuns. But women never make jokes with them. with some unpredictable conclusion. the laughter indicates that she knows it was only joke. how much this habit to bother. The laughter has its roots in our remote past when it was used to warn other people of an imminent danger. For most women. The chimpanzee. claims to have discovered where is the male sense of humor . For example: 1. Men love humor and jokes that have a logical. USA. The University of Rochester. and crying is a reaction of surprise and fear. 2. Why the name men give to their own penis? . extending over four kilometers. With the terrorist you can negotiate. Other chimpanzees that warns of the danger. not give them names of estimation. rushed away to a tree. and terrible events male genitalia. as among monkeys.serenity. A woman can make it clear that the boom in the bedroom . The male sexual organs are hanging right in front of a vulnerable and weak (additional proof that God is female) and are a source of fun and free for men. when can escape from a lion. Men find very funny show in the ass for unsuspected group of older women. throws her head down and produces a sequence of sounds very similar to human laughter. Make love to the two in the morning. evident in children from birth. When you deliberately frighten a child playing hide-andseek in the first reaction is her cry of fear. Caring for food with the aim of releasing less gas. none of these things is not remotely funny. but do not know the names of the children of your best friends. The female humor involves people. in turn. admit the truth about a matter in question. are certainly protected and. relationships and men.
The basis of many jokes is a disastrous event or painful experience for someone. But he says he hates the Americans because of the excessive way of life they lead. If it were a real event. Alcohol loosen the inhibitions and makes a person laugh. releasing endorphins. in general people cry. releasing anesthetic produced by the body. and even violent when they drink vodka or gin drinks. When the person know it's reality. alcohol or sex. They tell jokes as a way to "talk about the event. Whether the death of Princess Diana. the laughter turns into crying. In all parts of the world. when faced with a serious emotional crisis such as death. and the endorphins and encefalina help in self-anesthetize. without showing any emotional blow that can be seen as weakness. the male brain enter immediately into action. And that is why. enhances learning and extends life. "I cried from laughing so much!" The tears contain encefalina. stabilizes the wrist. Many people get the similar effect of laughter with drugs. the arteries dilate and the muscles relax. which explains why the general well-adjusted people laugh and most unfortunate that people become even more unfortunate. Cry when we have a painful experience. As the jokes and humor relieve the pain The laughter and crying instruct the brain to release endorphins into the bloodstream. começaríamos to cry immediately and the body released encefalina too. research has shown that the positive effects of laughter. The laughter and crying are closely related from a psychological and physiological. but someone who can not accept it may start to laugh. seem ill more frequently. The mood cure. At the end of a meeting of great laughs. The laughter is a predominantly male to deal with emotional pain. strengthen the immune system. The laughter anesthesia the body. you usually cry. Think the last time that someone told you a joke that made you slip in uncontrollable laughter. That is why the cry is often the extent of access of laughter. while promoting the immune system. the breathing is deeper. Women deal with disasters and tragedies openly expressing their emotions to other people. This explains why people rarely get sick and happy that the unfortunate people who are complaining live.The jokes are as important as a means of communication among men. that when a tragedy happens global. 28 children and more than 300 million dollars. a kind of "cheap" natural. protects against diseases. networks of e-mails from around the world are literally flooded jokes sent by men. 73 wives. another Body natural tranquilizer that relieves the pain. activates the immune system. How did you feel then? That feeling of tingling was from the release of endorphins to the blood system. the September 11 or the hunt for Osama bin Laden. After the laughter. laughed and released endorphins to the selfanesthetize. But knowing that it is not a real event. Endorphin is a substance whose chemical composition is similar to morphine and heroin and has a soothing effect on the body. assists the memory. Here lies the difference between men and women with regard to dealing with serious emotional problems. but men account. The more difficult it is for a man talk . Osama bin Laden has 53 brothers and sisters.
How to re-educate the man The training of any person . and the counter attack of the joke does not become more intelligent. In any event. give them money and protect the bitterness of life. You can choose to feel the rage of traffic jam. tell him so firm and gentle you are not enjoying it and want it to stop. cease to be victims of traffic on both of rabies. we chose not to hurt. What about Asian. boys grow up with few skills and domestic skills and a low degree of understanding of how to relate to a woman.child or adult . as cruel and insensitive as it may seem to women. we laugh along with the British. preparing their favorite dishes. most women assume this role. your clothes are. however. If a man insist wisecrack unfit at or in the wrong place. If you are capable of taking a calm. this observation may be more difficult. are able to discuss details of their sex lives with friends without the help of any joke. We are Australian author living in England and the English are all the time telling us jokes about Australians. using the knowledge acquired in this book to check if all are in agreement with the differences between men and women! Learned behavior .if you choose offense. At the beginning of a new relationship. Maybe we should use the following tactics: "You are a great counter jokes. That does not mean they are really stupid. the more he rirá if you tell a joke on the subject. Other people may not offend you . will nourish you and serve you. They feel attracted to women. It is important to understand that women. As the men rarely talk about his sex life with men. Portuguese and feminist. conniption and leakage. If he persists. The man who asked you to stop improper wisecrack may feel publicly humiliated and be challenged from the other even more offensive. they tell jokes as a way to discuss her. As a result. analytical. Women live behind the things that the children leave the house. Miff is a choice. but when he realizes that may become permanent.about an emotional event. as the mother. You want the behavior that rewards and punishes as either.blame his mother The female brain is programmed to create and nurture the children mainly. Women. acting as a mother all the time. just go do something else.to do what you want to do it is always the same. but your anger will not make the traffic flow. on the grounds that the traffic being stopped. Despite the jokes. You can choose to feel offended because someone told a joke that says that everyone in your country is stupid. And choose to offend the world says you are unable to deal with the problem addressed by the joke. Do know any more light?" Or you can ably deflect the subject. eventually playing the mother figure and man react with screams. . it will invariably create their own collection of jokes. A social occasion. especially if you are the host. As already suggested. And no man who finds the mother sexually attractive. Do not be offended While there are Irish there are jokes about Irish. things go sour. And where there is a tragedy. If it's a good joke. maybe find a solution to the problem.
instead of discussing.you can change the skin color. Do not place them in the shop or anywhere that is convenient for him. When you understand how the male brain. the next time you ask women to the seven things that men do leave them mad. When he need them. miff or frustrate yourself with them. the care is not a behavior "natural" for them. not yours. If the mother of a man not trained to do these things. but it is important to understand that men have not changed as guardians of nests and. or were born in Trieste or in Timbuktu. shirts or towels washed. Similarly. How they interfere with their right to live in a clean house. . will you train it. And when he put the things in the right place. collect the clothes and the towel. explain that you will put them in a plastic bag in a closet or under the bed. because it generally produces a negative effect on men. Some women are horrified at the idea of thanking a man for him to do something as simple as collecting their own clothes. therefore. because that will only reinforce the behavior you do not want. judgmentalism or aggressive. tell him I will put them in a de-finished cabinet. resisting the temptation to save his stuff. If you intend to re-educate your man. you know where to find. they may fail to mention or three. If they ignore your request.is the man to drop the clothes or wet towel on the floor rather than put it in the basket of laundry. The key problem is to announce its intentions in advance and avoid being sarcastic. you will discover that it can be fun to have a man around. Thus. culture or religion. Who knows. Maybe. a caress or a "thank you". But if you continue to collect and save his stuff. The secret is to administer the men of his life. reward their contribution with a smile. the problem is his. When he needs pants. the sexes will be able to live happily ever after. if large tools or unfinished projects for the house. you have chosen to accept that the role of substitute mother's will and to comply with this role. explain politely that you would like the clothes were put in the basket to be washed. but their brains work the same. Men are always the same .
whine. The goal is to force the other person . but there are times when people cry to manipulate the emotions of others. trapped between three women who mourn. howl. each with their particular complaint. excrete chemicals generated by stress. The daughter: "If you really like me.only the names have been changed to protect the guilty. but humans are the only ones who cry with emotion. the channel is the lacrimal drain. whine (the dog). spill or blubber. gave me a new bike! The mother of salt / and gave her one! ! The woman: "You forgot the anniversary of our marriage! Our relationship fell na. All stories are true . wail. sick and then. It is a mechanism of control that can be deliberate or unconscious. . parent or friend . lover. Sometimes the cry comes as direct response of the heart. distress signal in emotionally charged situations. whine. you do not love me more! "The old mother:" No need to worry about me . For humans. " So far. The tears are secreted by a gland located above the eye and removed by two channels in the internal corner. Emo-tional circumstances or afflicted.. reaching for his time in the nasal cavity. The lacrimal gland is the tap. shed some serious and humorous on the differences between the sexes and what you can do about it.husband. whimper. Although men occasionally do this.Chapter 3 WHY Women cry? The dangers of emotional blackmail Poor man. She also cries to look sorry and receive more lenient a punishment for a wrong action.to act in a different way than would like. women are more likely to use the tears as a weapon of emotional blackmail. I am old. child.rotina. Crying is a behavior that we have in common with other animals and that starts at birth. This chapter will help you identify the people who use such tactics to manipulate you or trick you in order to obtain what they want. the excess of tears that can not be drained by the lacrimal channels rolls by side. We now examine how the emotions can be used to manipulate people and make them sell. even if they are not aware of it. once I die. leak. wail.. the tears serve three purposes: to help clean the surface of the eye. Why cry? Cry: yell.
Flag emotions: Seals and sea otters cry when emotionally shaken by the loss of their young. containing the different proteins that serve to clean the eye. The human being is the only land animal that cries of excitement and.Why women cry more than men? Cry since born. Cry used to remove salt and other impurities from the eye. he encourages other men to attack him. where someone tries to extract advantage . even seem to be no reason to do so. by which it assesses their needs. a process known to us all. especially in the presence of other men. 3 . and encourage the production of the hormone oxytocin. yes. Most women can identify seven different meanings in the crying baby. because the whole process rolling. the man who shows emotion. The tears act as a signal to the other emotional embrace and comfort those who cry. display their emotions.usually money . Reduce stress: chemical analysis show that the tears of stress. 2. The eyes glow when a person feels an intense emotion. Rarely you see a man cry in public. Wash the eye: The lacrimal gland discharges fluid inside the eye and lacrimal channels act as drains to drain it to the nasal cavity. The lacrimal glands of women are more active than those of man. is a sign of confidence: the crying is the baby. Let's talk about criminal blackmail. Humans. those who roll the sides. is stimulating feelings of affection and protection. for some women. That would explain why women they feel better after "a good cry". and friend plays the role of parent helpers. For women. This is what happens when the light reflects the tears of parents proud and passionate lovers. The body seems to use this function to eliminate the toxins of stress. The tears contain an enzyme called lysozyme. By transmitting weakness. which kills bacteria and prevents infections in the eye. but the amount of tears is not enough to roll the face. behavior perpetuated among adults. which is consistent with the emotional reactions of the brain most powerful women. The seals and sea otters do not use tears as a tool of manipulation.from another person by threatening to reveal something that . is placed at risk. to manipulate emotion. Crying is a way to achieve what the child wants. Familiar cry has three purposes: 1. which makes people want to be touched by other people and acaricides. especially for other women. The crying and the emotional blackmail How to blackmail Now you know the purpose of crying. The tears also contain endorphins. The prime purpose of crying in adults. we examine the mechanism of manipulation. however. a natural body of anesthetics that act as shock of emotional pain.
It is I" And off to cry. you did nothing. "Rosie. that would invite the parent to live with them. Concerned. I tried all possible solutions. One day.The victim: someone who has a sense of guilt or obligation. I give a way. . Frankly. "It probably is a co-worker.Resistance: the victim's initial refusal to cooperate. what? Something I did?" Rosemary shook her head with a sad air. made a special deal in appearance and prepared the favorite of Greg. I am afraid of you getting angry with me and not stand that. Case study: Rosemary Greg.. the husband of Rosemary." Greg held the hands of women. please. Greg was starting to become distressed. Rosemary should be having an affair. but I know what you think of the idea of her live with us.The blackmailer: a person who knows the weak point of the victim. carefully chose the moment to present it. acceptance of the demands of the blackmailer." she said with soft voice and hacking.Continuity: the inevitable continuation of exigêncÚs. she shook her head. Greg. From that day. The mother thought that Greg was not good enough for his daughter and was always trying to create problems for the couple. . "It's Mommy. I take care of her. . After dessert. pleading. but not . That night. "tell me what happened. When he came home. Between tears. But how could imagine what the reaction from Greg. she told Rosemary that one of her friends had seen Greg with another woman in a bar.The threat: exposure. she put her head between his hands. Rosemary shake. . "No. Greg asked what was wrong." "But Rosie. with heavy heart. Is it something so bad?" Between tears. Greg. who was combining a party-surprise for the anniversary of Rosemary. Greg hugged her and she begged him to say what was the problem." Greg began to think the worst. When we sat at the table. and her mother did not like each other. the relationship with the parents of Greg finally turned sour. Greg. "I feel terrible. "We are not owners of each other. Excuse me. She is very patient and I am worried. I will try to understand. she knew he was calm and relaxed. . "No. the mother of Rosemary and daughter became seriously ill understood.will harm the victim's life. Two years later. served him a glass of wine and asked how was your day. all is well.The requirement: the payment in exchange for silence or cooperation." he begged. That is therefore the main ingredients of blackmail and criminal actors: . The emotional blackmail The emotional blackmail happens when a person threatens you emotionally close to any punishment or subtly insinuated that you will suffer if you do not agree with what she wants." Greg was furious when his wife told him that story. "No." she replied. Took her to the bar to present it to the owner.. punishment and loss of something of great value material or emotional. .The agreement. "I do not know how to say. no. "Tell me. ." suggested Rosemary. went hand in the eyes and deep breath. Do not worry. Rosemary prying eyes at him. This person knows their innermost secrets and vulnerabilities and USA that knowledge to make you comply.
Greg agreed to a trial period of a month. often. Everybody knows at least one person who has used tactics of emotional blackmail to force them to do something that they initially refused. but .with partners. The requirement: the mother of Rosemary go live with them. To obtain your agreement. it would be virtually impossible to go back. there would be tears and accusations. more commonly. It is inevitable that you will be felt by being placed in this situation. Women. The strength of the initial refusal to cooperate Greg.thinking about Mom alone. Continuation: the inevitable discussions and in tears. And Greg knew that every time he protests.and their brains are structured to make them work. Oh. Defenders of the nest. children and other family and social groups . I do not know what to do . began to feel guilty. Both Rosemary as her mother knew that once she enters the door. who developed the role of peace keepers tend to say exactly what they want when they want something. The blackmailer: Rosemary . Men and emotional blackmail Men are. should not be prepared to make that sacrifice for it? Is this not true love? Marriage is compromise? And started to feel selfish and petty . The many lack the self-esteem necessary to consider worthy of the object of their desires... Use because. the blackmailer makes you feel bad with yourself and guilty of resisting. rather than say it directly at the risk of a refusal to listen. people do not believe that their relatives and friends use this type of strategy on a conscious and deliberate. " And started to sob. You end up agreeing to something not wanted to do. they have a incontomável need to be loved. and this is killing me .found. The pattern was established. most frequently the victims of that the villains of emotional blackmail. In the end. Perhaps a situation similar to that of Greg. The story of Greg and Rosemary has the typical ingredients of blackmail in which a person tries to emotionally manipulate the other to obtain a personal gain: The victim: Greg .exactly as Rosemary thought he would stay. They prefer to ask directly what they want. . It is important that you identify the people in their relations that use these tactics of manipulation to get what they want. Its function has always been to nurture relationships . it was your mother I know. But after two days of tears of Rosemary. The people who are emotional blackmail. Initially. Greg. and he would feel sick.he felt weakness and feeling of guilt when his wife was emotionally distressed. The threat: the implicit refusal of love where Rosemary not get what they want. Whether you realize it or not. But the consequences of emotional blackmail is always destructive.realized the weakness of Greg. In general. maybe that person who never seems to say exactly what you want . by far. relatives and friends.they always end up manipulating to achieve their final goal. Greg was flatly refused to consider the possibility of bringing the parents to live with them. The agreement: Greg yields to the demands of Rosemary. the emotional blackmail to get what they want. your relationship with the blackmailer will never be the same. without anyone to care for her.. If he really loved Rosemary..
The men use the direct approach and well structured to achieve what they want. spend the weekends away and so on. In the third meeting. I only make love with you. After five minutes. he tried to take the shirt of Erika. women had to rely. immediately. moved away. after a dinner theater and much more expensive than Damian wanted to pay. The male brain functions are much simpler with regard to emotions. "No. I do not feel ready. We only went three times." But Erika did not seem convinced. sweetheart. As Erika said that he liked it. and this would be the maximum of their manipulation. The same happened a second time. But it is too early." Erika. We give it so well that I want to show you how much I love you.. to buy your partner a bouquet of flowers before you ask. May propose to build an annex in the house. or subtly asking that everyone agree with what they want. hire an escort to take care of mother... I just want to know you better. The trend would come right in the matter and discuss it frankly. in his stratagems and his cunning to get what they wanted. "Erika. However. and usually women consent. She has helped to unbutton it and started to caress. If a man wished that his mother would live with him." Damian whispered in his ear: "Come on. sorry . Women prefer to emotional blackmail. but was rejected. I really like . but I do not want. Damian . He liked to Erika and I have sex with her but the girl resisting. the men preferred the direct approach. but in much smaller scale. And their brains continue to evolve that way. So it is not contained and asked what was wrong. there are some situations in which men often resort to emotional blackmail. thought it natural that she wanted to make love as much as him.The blackmail seems to be the easiest way because it allows the person to avoid the confrontation. He could not understand why. Turned to Erika and began kissing her and rummage in his shirt. Damian was getting impatient. In the course of history. For me. men always occupied positions were always more powerful and more open master-mind of women. And a third. The boys. men require. the use to convince girlfriends to make sex with them. "Sorry. I like you the truth. for centuries. I like you the truth. Damian. Case study: Damian Damian came out twice with Erika. taking into account the pros and cons. for example. Men are also emotional blackmail. he stopped the car park in a poorly lit and turned off the engine. please. Without enough force to impose their will. And twice in the match led a long and deep kiss before she desvencilhar of his arms and leave the car running for home. I know. I never felt this for someone else. Be patient with me.. I love you. you know you want. meanwhile. this is the time. In general. When hunting. When the time comes.
though no longer absolutely clear that he liked her. This leaves the way open for Damian to want sex all the time you see." Damian was crestfallen. children. He knew exactly what were the weaknesses of the Erika and struck without mercy. I thought that you feel for me what I feel for you. "Because ." "Why are you doing this to me? You are blood of my blood!" Husbands / wives: "I can not believe you're so selfish!" "You do not love me. " Erika Damian just having sex with that night. that awakens their maternal instincts and desire to help them get rid of pain. parents. Finally. I love you." And got the key to the car to start the engine.. A relationship that starts well is doomed to failure." Damian shook his head. Damian. women are deeply shaken when they see a man collapse. What's wrong with you?" "This is what people who love to do some the other. Erika began to feel that perhaps the only way to convince you were agreeing to have sex. But when he said that does not support the idea of being hurt again. It is better if we separate. do it for me.. But I see that I am completely wrong . We forget that this happened. she stopped resisting and was blackmailing left to do something not wanted. When Damian subtly accused it of not liking him. it would not have reacted as reacted.." "Of course you do not love me. If I had said so directly. I was a complete idiot. I regret." But Erika. Sometimes employers can be." "If you love me.you. parents or friends. then it is better to give people a longer time while I'm not too concerned . The emotional blackmail rife in families and is a practice that is transmitted from generation to generation. I think you're a great guy and I spend more time with you. Damian was the blackmailer. I have hurt before . I thought that things were going well between us." Lovers: "Everybody does. Used to see men as strong and infallible creatures. "No. look." "I will leave you without a penny. it is clear that you do not feel for me what I feel for you. Damian left implicit threat "that was ready to end the relationship if you do not get what they want. Damian." Children: ... As expected that two people build a relationship of respect and mutual trust based on the manipulation? The emotional blackmail is not destroyed immediately combated. I just need a little more time ." It seemed so upset that Erika could not avoid a sense of shame.. I'm sorry.. Erika was increasingly upset. "No.." Ex-partners: "I will lead you to stick to family.. husbands or wives. You will never see the children. and it is natural for a man wanting to express love physically. But if you do not feel the same. I always hated." "When we fuck. sad... "No. Erika. but I am not prepared. And their relationship lasted two weeks." "I will disinherit you. Erika was the victim and sex. Common tactics of blackmail emotional The practice of emotional blackmail may be lovers. I like you. Women hate men see emotionally disturbed. Here. Here are some of the threats or punishment typical of the emotional blackmail that it may sound familiar: Parents: "After everything I did for you. the requirement. but that is how I feel.
he asked the children and she felt obliged to lie." But. How children feel relatively powerless because of their age and size. End of story.I have been adopted. I get sick and end up in hospital" "Do not worry about me . or simply instruct them to do what felt right. In addition. In this scenario. I can never go out with my friends. I never had money. indifferent to the arguments of the mother. "But mother. or busy with their tasks from home. They must take the consequences." argued Bemard of fifteen years. Every time I visited the uncle." "I though . blackmail seems to be the most effective and easy to get what they want. "you know that we have a lot of home for duty to do. But look how you treat me when I need. because they had already learned the game. he is getting old and I do not know how long it will live. he does not listen to what people say. he is completely deaf. It has nothing to do. who was sick. my situation may be difficult." Employers: "You are only making things more difficult for their coworkers." "Make sure your name is never a list of deals. . Note that I have ne-le vai from the final average. This is the guy they like most of the children you love me. "Look. You want us to be disapproved. Do not I deserve a little fun? You do not want me to be sad. but I have this great work of geography to . do you?" Katie. but spent everything I had with you." "You like more of my sister than me.I am old and will die soon. "He is alone and wants to see you. It is not fair. you should not be doing your heart with us. of sixteen years. I would go with you today. If I do not do well. You do not remember what he did for you when you were small? Mimava account and would take you two. "And there is very flat in his house. the children of Julia also blackmail."All the other parents do this for their children. Julia felt powerless and trying to exercise a moral and emotional pressure on children. " The children can master the art of manipulation." she told them. Parents who routinely try to blackmail your children must be prepared to see the spell turned against the magician." In-laws: "I leave everything to a charity." "If you do not take care of me." she said. Case study: Julia The more grown less if the children of Julia had to go visit Uncle John. or in any particular activity that kept distant. Julia felt guilty for that. Children learn early that the emo-tional blackmail are a way to get what they want particularmen when you live in a family where parents use blackmail." "I never thought I would disappoint me so much. was also a specialist in blackmail. will suffer the consequences. mother." Friends: "If the need were you. she used the emotional blackmail. Instead of arguing with them calmly and coolly. you will need a good lawyer. We do not want to go." "I always did everything for you. The children then did exactly the same. saying they were on a tour of the school. I would have done it for you." "I'm sure the press will like to know that." "Do not you have to me and a little company loyalty?" Employees: "If you say goodbye. "Oh." "You've heard of sexual harassment?" What the blackmailer is saying is: "If you do not behave the way I want.
Chrissie and Stephen were married the following year. Luckily. thinking that would be responsible. At the end of their number. Stephen simply had not noticed that Camila was deliberately using the emotional blackmail to have him back and had no real intention to kill. Stephen thought it was an amicable separation. and shouted. day and night. he begged to go home. but said he felt very. and guilt is the most powerful weapon of blackmail. He heard about the lack that he did. Then she called saying that he would be killed. but had agreed to the separation at the time. The closer the relationship. But Camila is not complied. Like most women. which had met someone else and that I would be happy Camila too. Camila. saw what was happening and was in charge of the problem. Everyone felt sorry for her. Chrissie is not involved.just like when they met. Camila was mad with rage. Then Stephen encouraged to write a letter to Camila saying you felt very strongly that. crying and saying that his life had been finished without him. The more a person is allowed to emotional blackmail. Well . Camila is angry. Began to call his mother. But there appeared another woman. but would like it to be ahead and build for themselves a new life.. bewitched. Camila still enjoyed and felt affection for her. But Stephen had changed. There was no chance of him returning to it. his new girlfriend. Stephen did not. never really believed he would remain firm in that position. Convince the mother of Stephen's family to seek Camila to tell them he was concerned about the state of it and ask them to give him attention. the more it will take a standard in the future of their relationships. you do not like you!" Did eighteen pounds. asking for news. He felt powerless in the face of her tears. Reluctant. he turned to the group of children that applauded. Camila still regularly visiting his mother and talking about the "good times" of his relationship with Stephen. but nobody gives it much importance. he may return to Camila therefore been very frightened with the threat of suicide. Chrissie was able to understand the emotional blackmail of Camila and I knew that Stephen was the innocent victim. attractive and loving . saying it had made a big mistake and would like to meet with him to talk. The quick action of Chrissie prevented that Stephen was caught in the trap of a relationship that he wanted more. but everything was finished.Adults who use emotional blackmail create children who are even better in practice. Stephen did not know which direction to take. Tried in vain to comfort her. One day we were watching a street artist in London. "Hey. the greater the sense of guilt. Camila secretly believed that he could never hit the step and sooner or later would see how his life was empty without her. . Camila was well-humored. Case study: Stephen Stephen was five years ago married Camila when they separated amicably. kids! If your parents did not give a pound to put on my hat. But when Stephen's mother began to talk about his new wife. but had no more emotional ties. Chrissie. She knew his mother liked her as a daughter and had been razed to the separation. She simply believed that after one or two weeks alone. agreed to is Stephen. Stephen began to call for more problems in the hours. Phone begging for him to come visit her.
we can not buy the boat now. When Irene knew the price. but used to refer to the demands of others and left to state their wishes only to keep the peace. me. Will never passes through your head that I have my needs. We just pay the enrollment of children and you promised I could buy a new car at the end of the month mine is a broad-old who lives breach. we could have both. Nobody likes a cynical take on another person. I am stressed all the time and my fishing to Saturday is the only opportunity I have to relax. "Here you come again thinking only in yourself. Been researching and said he could buy exactly the boat I wanted at a reasonable price. which produces a beer hangover less angry. Men deal with facts." he said with a voice increasingly angry." he said. which political party is the best policy to govern the country. never putting their needs above the needs of others. I was thinking about the boat. He knows it will. and who knows if I bought a smaller car. but they will end up having problems.mostly women faced with the emotions. Men like to direct discussions and arguments about which is the best time. I never imagined that one day you would deprive them of spending the weekends with us. She knew that Bob could drag it forever and the boys were increasingly distressed with the tension in the house. "But Bob. Irene. When other people . almost fainted. Exhausted. as anyone who receives a demand for ransom or a direct threat. Irene has supported more than one situation. We spend more time with the kids. It was quiet and generous. me. figures and concrete realities. Men can be tyrants too emotional to get what they want.and now he wants to a berth in the marina. her husband was very demanding and jealous. Case study: Irene Irene was a wonderful character. The essential ingredients of the criminal and emotional blackmail are exactly the same. Return to work full-time and everything would be fine. "We can not buy it now. One day. and you postpone the purchase of new boat for a year. all together as a family . you only think of you. In a year the boat will be more expensive and also is a good idea to buy a boat this summer. They also need that boat! " After two days of tension." Bob was naughty. The men are not accustomed to dealing with their emotions and do not much idea of how women deal with emotion. "I do not believe what I hear. "Do not you think the children? It is you who always cares to know where they are and what they are doing. and I m always done that on your own. was concerned with people. . I work hard the entire month to earn money to support this family. Finally. Women know this and use for their own benefit. and should have left it clear." Bob remained insensitive. the majority simply does not support. Irene was the victim of blackmail. it will use the same tactic again. Bob announced the desire to buy a new boat. because they will be able to do water skiing. is used to refer to male rulers. It was a happy and loyal person. We must give a fun for the kids on weekends. but this tactic works better when their women are kind of sensitive and quiet. she decided to try a line: "Bob. " Bob does not move: "No. " Bob made a bad pass Irene piece in the three following days. Stephen was convinced from the outset that no-that would return to Camila. Bob. because the old was exceeded.The fault places the victim under great pressure. There are many things we do at home. but it is important to remain firm in what you want. used. Irene discovered a solution. " Irene was crazy. Bob bought his boat . "I.
His self-image is poor and does not support the rejection. in any way accepted any portion of blame for the situation. Without their agreement. The blackmailer: Bob knew all the secrets and feelings of Irene and know their weak points. Make its demand and. that is. imme-diately. they knew it would work. and have a desperate fear of losing what they already have. it will gradually lose the self and will be forever deprived of the ability to assert itself. If you think you are a victim of emotional blackmail. the blackmailer feel powerless. egocentric and without feelings . they look like rude children. Blackmailer usually nothing more than false Roughnecks. which was built in the course of time. But while giving the impression of knowing exactly what they want and are prepared to do what is necessary to get him. The first thing to bear in mind is that the blackmailer need your agreement to something. can be modified over time. People always treat us the way we allow them to handle. Continuation: the recurrence of the tactics of blackmail on the part of Bob for the anchorage and the marina in other situations. increasingly unfair How to deal with an emotional blackmailer People who practice emotional blackmail often strong opinion and resolution u s. to allow the children fell into bad company because of the husband was being selfish. Why can not argue with the objective to discuss the situation and negotiate their options. Be ravaged by insecurity. because it enabled. Whenever father and mother give to an attack of anger of the children are planting the seeds of an emotional blackmailer. in reality it is you who has the mastery of the situation. Do not ask the blackmailer to reduce its demand and. which allows the blackmailer making new demands. Never forget . The emotional blackmail destroys the self-image of victim. if she is not satisfied. If you are a victim. The submission: Irene just giving. Therefore. But the behavior of the blackmailer. the fear and guilt. The only way you lose that power is showing weakness. have an attack of anger. patience and a firm purpose. The threat: the guilt of contributing to the deteriorating health of her husband. and offer an alternative. Usually accuse their victims of being selfish. his love for children and their desire to maintain a happy home were the vulnerabilities of Irene.The victim: The sense of obligation to his family. The resistance: the attempts to Irene to demonstrate that the requirement of Bob was not practical. this is rarely true. Do not try to understand how you feel the blackmailer.are like emotional blackmail fanfarrões children and rude and should be treated as such. If they give in to blackmail. This change of behavior requires persistence. and extending the tension in the house. The requirement: that Irene agreed to purchase a new boat.all of them character-specific. you have to prepare for a battle long and hard. it is important to consider in deciding whether to agree with it or will do something about it. In many ways. .
Do not fight or argue with the blackmailer . Maybe they did not occur naturally. it is usually then that the victim assigns." . you can modify the behavior of the blackmailer. The situation must be resolved . but at this point there is no negotiation. respond with silence."Well. then practice them until they become part of you. but we will discuss the issue when you calm down. A South African journalist Charlene Smith wrote a wonderful book about the night he was raped at home and helped the authorities to prosecute their abusers. South Africa had the highest rate of rape in the world: one for each 26 seconds. What can you tell a blackmailer . Reaching a compromise. because anything you say will not be able to it. Blackmailer meet people who do not retreat. threats and accusations of a blackmailer to start well. but that is how things are. Beware."I see you are not satisfied. Just say: "When you want to talk. Avoid countered with threats.Remember: you are being the victim of blackmail and that what matters is how you are feeling. If the blackmailer demand make you feel uncomfortable." . We on this later. When the demands."Obviously you are angry. speak of 'his good qualities.train him. how it emerged and strengthened further as it became a reference for many other women who ." . insults or attack the vulnerabilities of the blackmailer." ." The refusal to show weakness or immediately negotiate almost always produces a period of silence or the petulance blackmailer. Never attempt to counter-blackmail." ."I see things in a different way.but only if the blackmailer is ready to discuss the problem in a civilized and rational. it is essential that you have a stock of ready answers. I'm available" And stand away. During this period of silence the blackmailer. especially 'the victims had the courage to talk about what was happening. With such a strategy. quit the conversation civilized and go."I think we need to think much about it. At that time. The rape was the biggest taboo in the country. The blackmailer feel helpless and hopeless before the: USA. setting its borders and keep it firmly within them. but you still need to save the appearances. In his book. the choice is yours. do not argue."You're obviously disappointed. Charlene speaks of the terrible effect that the episode caused it. and few people. knowing that the goal is just to give you some relief."I regret that you feel as you prefer." . When the blackmailer is also in the dark Sometimes the blackmailer is not aware of what is doing.
the house was leaving her husband and. as I said. the woman left the university. demanded that her husband bought a house in another place and left to care for three children and the house. free from emotional. In these circumstances it is much better for the victims of blackmail out under domestic and seek help. . "We are talking about spending the rest of our lives together.went by the same trauma. It is very likely that this woman had no awareness of emotional blackmail to be doing with your famI1ia. He begged her to be his guarantor in a loan to purchase a car to work because. unconsciously. If you do not trust me to make a simple loan. Charlene said bluntly that she was using the emotional blackmail to make the family suffer as she had suffered. And if the husband had stayed at home that night? And if the children had not left? Perhaps the rape had not happened. stricken by the frustration felt unable to help her to recover. when he discovered that he was an incorrigible liar. It paralyzes the victim." The victim may be. and asked that money in the God-given and everyone was too late. You can request the support of a friend of women's confidence or call a good adviser. an incompetent who could not stop two weeks in the same job. When contacting Charlene. After being raped. 'psychologist or psychotherapist. In the limit. though not visible to the naked eye. for our future." said Charlene in Proud of Me (proud of me). The attacks of them were obvious. They were prisoners of a sense of guilt for rape. "She was playing the abusive behavior of their abusers ment of another way. Later. "The addiction of Mary autopiedade made a slave of his attackers." he said. It was easy to fall into the role of blackmail. as the blows that she applied to his family were much more deadly. she resisted. to help break the vicious circle of self and autopiedade. she agreed to sign your name on the dotted line. When your heart becomes a life sentence When you are first subject to threats of emotional blackmail. The children cared for themselves. I had enough credit. psychologically and financially. In the end. especially her husband and children because they felt unable to protest and resist. Sometimes it is necessary to use someone who is outside the sphere of emotional blackmail. initiating a vicious cycle that becomes increasingly difficult to hold. perhaps best finish all at once now! The discussion was dragged for weeks. "If you really love me. passed the consequences of emotional blackmail to other family members and friends. The fault is usually the most powerful weapon of the arsenal of the blackmailer. Initially." He used the phrase "After all we spent together." he said. A well known to our family by the groom was troubled to \ join him in a business transaction. she was amazed with the reaction of the writer. But one that tried did not get its support. "But why not. the blackmailer can ruin the victim emotionally. that's the least I can wait" as a weapon to finally oblige it to accept. "I'm not asking just for me. do this simple thing for me. I am asking for both of us. blind with love and afraid to lose him.
How many parents pushing their children . The threat of losing the love of women is easy prey to blackmail. now she suspects of every man that approaches. with no regard for specific talent or the desire of the child.are authentic and often subtle emotional blackmail . . service by service. but was long ago.that they follow certain careers. So if after reading these stories you recognized the role of victim and cry so that she knows the reason. but firmly resolved to fill them with guilt when they were thinking about leaving them to build their own lives.Why give the blackmailer. love and joy of living a life without guilt. by sense of duty. Parents also can inflict lasting scars on their children. the child will feel forever prisoner and felt with his parents. And what is more sad. still paying. Anyone who has ever been in the role of victim may be imprisoned the rest of your life and see all the missed chances to find happiness. As the groom. she ended up drowned in debt. With the children. Everyone has heard of women who. abandoned the happiness of parents to care for elderly and debilitated. the emotional blackmail tends to vary. The emotional blackmail. wherever it occurs. is always per-versa. Yielding to emotional blackmail. But it is never too late to change the situation.
. not know the existence of that system and may be disapproved without ever coming to understand that it is wrong.. both agreed to consult a therapist for couples... Kelly always seemed boring and Mark was perplexed. " Mark (shocked): "Kelly . was not the slightest idea that Kelly wore a special female scores to rate their marriage. cook." Most men absolutely do not realize that women maintain a system for scoring the performance of its general partner..Chapter 4 THE ULTRA-SECRET SYSTEM THE WOMEN OF SCORE How to ruin a man of the week For the rest of the world. in general do not discuss the last details of the contribution of each of the relationship. lived in a lovely house. however.. work and work. desperate and afflicted with constant fights. Women are not aware of this process. organize your life and take care of our family .. all this I offer to you and them! Yes. " Mark (surprised): "I can not believe what I hear. and Mark Kelly led a perfect life. the clothes and jewelry you USA. is not Mark? And I think I will never understand. you know I love you . their three children were happy and well adjusted. Mark agreed. While love. you still complaining . step. One night when the issue arose of legal separation. Forget about me and the children and never do anything for us... the excellent school for children . Tell me when was the last time you said you loved me . like most men. and we were at the end of their list of priorities. I am tired of being mother and father to our children. Both calculate that the other will continue giving what is already giving that behave the same way as their parents. The men. their relationship was problematic. Es-Kelly was happy to go to a therapist. were confused. or that fits the stereotypes of marriage that everyone knows.. Wash. The problem was that Mark. but in their hearts they thought things should resolve themselves. I work hard. I need a man I want. Mark had a very good job. And all you do is work. When a man and a woman decide to live together.. but the place inexorably. and every year spend holidays abroad.. Between four walls. most at least. The men see only the general framework Men prefer to be watching the "framework" of . Kelly . to take care of me and that part of family life that I need without being charged. What do you mean with 'I do not take care of you or the children? See our wonderful house.. but so that people can live well and have everything you want. The number of points that man accumulates with his partner directly affects the quality of your life. " Kelly (angry): "You can not even understand. We work. Here's what they said to the therapist: Kelly: "Mark is hooked on work. When was the last time you emptied the machine to wash dishes for me? Do you know a place to wash dishes? Tell me when was the last time you took me out to dinner. I do everything for you.. It is as if not existíssemos. not understanding what happened. I drain the family to work for the week full and you are never satisfied.
They are still doing things for the man because they believe in the end. It really is that women feel and think. In other words. Then the man she accuses of not doing anything. . In general. for example. If a man buys a rose for your partner. A single rose is clearly intended for her. allocate points according to the size of the action or the present. But if he buys a rose every week for six weeks. she continues giving only one point. If he gives you a bouquet of six roses. Regularly present shows with a single rose that is always in the forefront in his mind. The woman keeps the score and never forget. then won six points. And suppose. But 95% of all points awarded in a relationship are the things that happen or stop happening every day. men are not the slightest idea that women attribute points in the relationship. but when it does. If the man also had a point system. working five days a week is worth at least thirty points. the points are allocated by the number of shares held. not by size. while a dozen roses can be interpreted as decoration for the house. If a man keep a score. it gives you a point. secretly. While unconscious. the man is not knowing when the relationship is tie the score. would find that the more important the larger the share or more points this should be allocated. If he buys her a new car or a diamond ring of your dreams. is structured to fine tune. it would reach this point. They simply do what they do and never think to maintain a system of scoring. had complained of being too giving and require that the score was tied. the woman gives points to every thing we do in the partner relationship. regardless of size. Similarly. man can not have the custom to give his partner often. When he thought that the score was 3 to 1. no matter the size. if the man paints the house. the score-draw will do. why women take a variety of small decisions about the intricate aspects of a relationship practice. in turn. For him. men always thought it is paper size. As most women know. Women keep lasting memories that accumulate points for years. and he is surprised and upset with their accusations. For example.life together and giving a small number of large contributions from that tangle with a number of contributions that appear less and less important. it just something great. also wins a point. you will certainly score more. This difference is the cause of many misunderstandings between men and women. that your partner will thank and support them retribuirão. gets a point collects his laundry or says he loves the woman. The woman gives a point for this action or. The female brain. He was not the slightest idea of the existence of a problem because it also maintained a system. but the point of view it is only five .one for each day of work. A woman can let it get to 30 to 1 before starting to complain. quality or the result of a single action.
the more points scored. During this period could not discuss among themselves or how or when the points were allocated." without realizing that this small action to surrender points. normal. She tends to put more points for small tasks. which required skill. for thirty days. His wife. but she only gave him four points. men give more points than women to work physically and spatially linked. Like most men. is that it never happened that the head of the woman praising the food could render points. If he had called to say that I loved her and miss her. took the house and cared for their two children. We then ask that they meet every day. but he was not aware that there were some marked. she gave him three points. He asked. despite having . and call again when you arrive. Brian was five points by helping the child to assemble an aircraft. Our experience with Brian Brian and Lorraine was a financial operator who worked long hours visiting client's building and your business. or that the activities had generated.a third of your score staff to work five days a week . chocolates and champagne for her. she thought he care more for work than for her. We suspect that this is due to two reasons: couples who live together have a tendency to ignore the negative points or relieve the other. He thought he was earning extra money for a better life and that she admired for that." Brian thought that the more work in the office. This list indicates several things: first. Working late worth five points per night in his opinion. We present below a summary of the partial results after thirty days. He just thought it was "taking care of it. when Brian praised by Lorraine she prepared a dinner some night." Why not try to change position tonight? ". For example. For him. but working overtime in fact meant he had less time to stay at home doing small things. Brian ignored the fact that small things mean a lot to women. In see-ment. She said. Brian won important points by small actions such as "give me his coat because I was cold. In fact. For example. mark at least three points. he is not remembered for having done the praise and not to put it in your list. Lorraine. You may notice that none of them reported many negative points. They had also to record points lost by irritating things that your partner do. and he was proud of what he has done. but only gave him a Lorraine.because they cost dearly. because the brain spatially oriented. and therefore lost points. a car-so score of the contributions that have believed in that relationship and estimate the score that thought should receive the other. which for Lorraine earned only one point. personal and intimate than the big tasks.To the woman that matters is not size. "Good idea!". this was a difficult task. The woman usually gives to man a single point for each task home run. thought it would at least ten points . Not that I have forgotten. One point was assigned for each of the small-contribution and a maximum of thirty points for a major contribution to the relationship. "You go to the sink and I am dropping puns on the couch. Both are described as a happy couple. and when doing a test like this tend to have good behavior. is the frequency. for it was only a joke. When bought flowers.
the resentment generated is the same on both sides. Lorraine won three points for massage the back of Brian one night. he began working late. pa-ra them and discipline them worth one point each. reading. while Lorraine is re-hurt the performance of Brian in public. shopping. The reactions of Brian and Lorraine The weekly score of 30 points less to Brian explained that ants within a resentment of Lorraine from the previous year. to make more money and give more comfort to the family. for being at work all the time. cooking and making beds all worth one point each by the time she performed. go to the bank. but Brian has a weekly average of only 48 points. Lorraine stayed at home feeling aggrieved and resentful. Brian was devastated with the result. for the simple reason that she never said anything about it. and Brian was working late. At the end of the experience. but he never does what it has to do. He felt happy with the fact that scores of the relationship is very balanced. . She described every detail their activities. Lorraine was granted an average of 78 points. These lists also show that when the man and woman having sex or not. plan family events. pay bills. so that gave him an overall score for their efforts .often heard his mother and his grandmother say that. What started almost as a diversion to see how men and women attach points revealed a potentially disastrous situation. To Brian and Lorraine. wash the laundry. He acted as if everything was perfect in the relationship and was not the slightest idea of how Lorraine felt. take care of dogs. Repetitive activities such as collecting the dirty clothes and wet towels on the floor. Lorraine He felt a little distant from the birth of last child. thinking he was doing what she wanted him to do. Brian never becomes a routine of Lorraine.thirty points. giving the majority of them a low score. watering the plants. Therefore. that experience was a chance to open eyes. but I get reminded all the time. to bath the children. "I'm not morose. The monthly score of Lorraine The list of personal activities of Lorraine was four times longer than Brian. and twenty times in the two points that took the initiative in sex. Brian had given a weekly average of 62 points given to Lorraine and an average score of 60 points. " Complaints of Brian concerned things that Lorraine did or failed to do for him. but thought perhaps the stress of the many things she had to do. send birthday cards. Aspirate the carpet. giving the same to you to work fifty hours a week. a year before.
If this happens. praise him the look. to meet you and understand . it accumulates during the long periods and never forget. That does not mean that man should work less. All men are equal. give unsolicited advice is to say that the other person is incompetent. the partnership is intended to be a source of joy. support or advice.people expect you to play. Only the guys that are different for us to distinguish one from another. the man has to ask what she wants him to do. but forget also the positive things you did for them. if each one is available to hear the honesty of the other reasons. That is how things work in the male world . as the salary to bring home or paint the room. becomes distant and angry and the couple's love life begins to wither. just as did Brian and Lorraine. If the woman you think the score is for the partner. If you do not ask. and reward him for that. Marilyn Monroe Men are not programmed to offer help. unless someone specifically the piece. their quality of life will have a better extra-ordinary. Remember that a woman gives a point for each activity that executes man and a score more by small things that involve emotional support.it better. and record scores for ten days all contributions to the relationship. Take the test now The most effective solution is to maintain a permanent communication as sincere as possible. But if he is aware of the importance that your partner gives small things and try to do them. If the communication between partners is always the intention to adjust the relationship and ensure mutual harmony . Along with his partner. The solution for men The woman not only to the point. After evaluating the results. sometimes more. you can use the test as a guide that brings you the happiness . Giving flowers. is unlikely to say. She is able to refuse to have sex now because you yelled at her two months before. From a man. put things in place to help in the kitchen and use halitol account both. So she will not be resentful if the score is tie for him. Women always remember. do they think there is no problem and that the relationship is going well: The men have a short memory. happiness.rather than a pure exchange of accusations. We offer the test as a tool to encourage dialogue. It should also encourage the man to take small gestures like that. If you think that is against.The solution for the woman The woman must accept that the male brain is programmed to take care of the general framework and that the man believes that mark more points doing big things. They forget the good things that you did the previous week.
the score can vary and things are irrelevant in a specific context to acquire another value. Above all. use the test to keep the dialogue essential to any relationship that want to grow up happy. A difference of 15-30% shows disagreements sufficient to cause ten-sion. Brian's answer was "Huh? Score? What is this?". The partner with the score needs to balance the negative contribution. Make the test scores from time to time to ensure that the scoring is balanced. doing things that (a) partner (a) assesses to equal the score and reduce the tension. financial situation better or worse . he even knew that women had a score. A difference in score of less than 15% shows a very balanced relationship. The scoring system used by the opposite sex is not better nor worse than his. and show the things that give you more pleasure. When there is a change of situation . and more than 30% means that someone feels unhappy in the relationship. . Abstract It is understood as the measures the other things.you want. but most men know not.a new child. is just different. in which none of them feel resentful or used. Like most men. When asked to Brian and Lorraine as part of the experience. to bring up what he values. Women understand that. Lorraine immediately understood what we wanted. purchasing a home.
.he said." Hannah: "And how is his wife after a week in hospital?" Julian: "I do not know . remember the problem in the bunker. Why do men avoid commitment? 3.. Julian knew how many strokes each had.. the hole-in-one that he almost succeeds." Hannah: "His mother is still doing chemotherapy?" Julian ." Hannah: "He did not say? You mean not asked?" Julian: "Well.. About what men talk in the bathroom? The problem of women is that they try to analyze the behavior of men from a female and are quite disconcerted.. The truth is that men are not illogical." Hannah: "So . Here are the seven most frequently asked questions: 1. but if there was a problem. Why men never know anything about the life of your friends? Julian Ralph did not see a year ago. the last trip abroad that he had to close a deal.Chapter 5 CLARIFICATION THE SEVEN MAJOR MEN OF MYSTERY After the success of Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love ". They just work differently for women. Was aware of the struggle of Ralph with the camera site because of its real estate projects.. no. " And so it was. his wife Hannah was eager to learn how it was: Hannah: "So how was your day?" Julian: "It was good." Hannah: "How is Ralph?" Julian: "Fine. Why are men so by sports fanatics? 7. Why both men are interested in "toys for boys"? 5... Why do men feel the need to always be with right? 4. Why men can only do one thing at a time? 6. how will his newly married daughter?" Julian: "Well . he did not say anything . the children and family of Ralph.. But I did not . and decided to spend the day there playing golf together. Why men never know anything about the life of your friends? 2.. and knew the make and year of car that Ralph was thinking of buying. When Julian came home at night. not sure . for sure he would have told me. but knew virtually nothing about the esposes. as they often think. received numerous letters and emails from women that I asked more about the differences between the sexes.
How they were?" When you talk..5%. the only circumstance in which a man talks to another about personal matters is when you have a problem that can not . When a man is watching the fire with a drink in hand. Unlike women. but. or that his wife was elected Citizen of the Year by the local community. or that of his brother Ralph had a diagnosis of Parkinson's disease. A study by the University of Leeds investigated the reasons why men go to the bars after work: Why men go for a drink? .the results. Rarely talk about people and their emotions. people talk about work. the other to understand intuitively and leave quietly. and generally does not bind on feelings and emotions. not to mention much. Nobody says: "Tell me co me was the day . Imagine that the friends he wanted to know something. playing golf. however. playing cards or watching football. .. . Who was that you found . say. When the man comes out for drinks with friends after work.5. Men can spend hours together.To relieve the stress . a brand new repertoire of great jokes. It is not lack of interest in friends.To find women . The men did not expect that men talk much and never insist on talking. is because he is watching the fire. sports. women are invariably surprised by the fact he go home without knowing anything about the personal life of anyone.9.know anything more about the girl child who lived in Bangkok. No need to talk if there is no will... He had. Speak one at a time because their brains are organized to or speak or hear. The male brain is fully dedicated to the "end-mind". When a man is not talking with friends and it does not mean that they fought. When talk is about facts .85%.5%. but does not know that he separated the women. cars and women. Solution The man does not understand why the woman wants to know every detail of the lives of their friends and acquaintances.To drink alcohol . they can not do both at the same time. Men relieve stress releasing the brain to think of something else. as I said. The man knows all the jokes that his friend told him. solutions or answers to questions or to share information about things and processes. fishing. This is because a drink with friends is just another way to look at the fire.
Geoff accepted with joy. Sally is cut into tears because he thought that she and Geoff were going very well. The story of Geoff A month had happened.a really fun person . Despite never having talked about a unique relationship. That night. Sally called for Jodie and thanked for having made them. rather than be given by Sally gossip. the time spent together indicated that they now had a connection. verb. As was expected. so she invited him to go to the beach and then dinner. The next day. When Geoff hung. he asked council to a friend. Mary was the lifeblood of any meeting . Jodie seemed a little cold. So if you want information about health. do not expect that men give the answers. He realized that there was something wrong but had no idea of what could be. They are very fun at the party when he saw Jodie Geoff. Then. because Mary was a fun person. Why do men avoid commitment? Commitment: verb. male: not crush other women when in the street with his wife or girlfriend Case Study: Geoff and Sally Jodie thought Geoff and Sally would make a beautiful couple and arranged a meeting for them to meet. Jodie called immediately and told Sally to what Geoff said. . as a last resort. That left him confused. female: I want to marry and form a family. saying he had really liked Geoff and I know him better. Then. but Geoff was not the slightest idea that they had a special connection because it had never been spoken. Geoff called and asked for that he would see her that same night. it was the signal for Sally that it would start a relationship with Geoff. relationships or the whereabouts of family members or people in your social circle. But left the matter there. . For Sally. she was not seeing anyone else.and months that he was not the route. thought. Ask women. Men do not understand the concept of relationship the same way as women. whom everyone liked. Approached it and presented it to Mary. The two had a great night and exchanged phone numbers and is combined again. and Geoff realized that she did not like Mary.resolve. They left in the three weeks following the end of the film and were one or two times every week. career. Geoff also called for Jodie to say the same as Sally. she should immediately tell. The following week. The story of Jodie Jodie was shocked by Geoff not have asked for Sally: party but a "piranha faladeira" called Mary. That is how things work in the male brain. Then Geoff decided to invite Mary to the birthday party of his best friend.
. fox and geese. Was reasonable. including humans. therefore. but is visibly emotional and passionate when your team plays. There was little to offer because many men died in hunting and war. but had no sense that a female had ten or twenty males. Women often admire that men may have an almost religious feeling with a soccer team. are monogamous. since it could only birth to a child at a time.think Sally went with other guys. The brain of most species. How can he be so stubbornly loyal and devoted to a bunch of players flustered and not necessarily bright. Wanted their freedom. the males are polygamous for the sake of survival. But we differ from other species in the sense that our brains evolved and developed large frontal lobes that enable us to make decisions about what we want and we do not want to do. that the survivors adopt the widows in their haréns.. maintaining a commitment at least until your child is self-sufficient.. and then in front of our friends How long are you going with it? You like it? Sleep with her? Me responds!" Geoff was not believed in listening. especially when it lost. From the survival of the species. is not programmed for monogamy. Sally wanted a compromise with Geoff. saw that she had been crying and I was bored with it. But Geoff was not ready to take it.. So they decided to remain friends but that would not further to bed . If you want a faithful man. "How could you do this to me?" She whimper.Cards on the table Geoff was eager to review Sally. which also increased the chance they could pass their genes. He had never previously aware that they were only a couple . not only with him. it is something that is programmed into his psyche. for example. Mae West The woman believes that she is "out" with a man for some time and none of them are . well. Therefore not argues that unfaithful men claim that they could not avoid. It was the first time spoke about his feelings realized they were going in completely different directions. made sense that a male had ten or twenty females. wishing that she had prepared his favorite dish. it was decided that Sally. ". The man is able to hide their emotions and feelings of the woman he loves. He spent the following three hours trying to explain the problem with Sally. But when Sally opened the door. he does not know which are not there with him and not show or a tenth of that devotion to her? During almost the entire time of existence of the human race. Was speechless. They had choice. This is why men delay to the maximum 'commitment to take the woman and are so difficult to maintain a monogamous relationship. Geoff felt she should be in the TPM and the weekend that the crisis had passed. seek a hospice. For women. Only 3% of animal species. but they are rarely willing to invest the same amount of emotional energy in a relationship with them.
Pressed to explain. however. it grabs you by the balls. What most men think It is a universal custom among the men playing friends saying that the marriage or the permanent relationship with a woman one of them is a clear sign that the life of the unfortunate end. Not only is it men do not know read my mind. "You can say goodbye to 90% of your sex life!" And also the warning in general welcome the singles: "You have to ask permission even to sneeze. you must give something in return. Repeat: men can not read minds. and not trying to understand them or being sensitive to their emotional needs. the more likely it is that the plug does not fall. And respect is what the woman must have by itself. attention and much sex." they laugh. men have evolved hunting animals and making war on enemies.otherwise. "When you undertake. Having a relationship is to take driver's license. Solution The idea of establishing an ongoing relationship potentially never passed by the head of Geoff. is that most of them is not very sensitive to the state of mind of women. You can also say how good sex and agree close. this is a strange concept. At the same time. he wants everything. now they are dating. like Geoff. When the man says that commitment means losing freedom. Otherwise. and how many women want to have. it can play. There are several ways to do this. The man tends to be direct and make a woman know whether or not a special and unique relationship. saying for example that is happy to prepare a dinner for him. To be frank it is a sign of respect. Remember. What women want in return is love. must learn and respect the rules of the road . When Sally has complained about "What were you thinking?". will always be a pedestrian." In general. If you want to go.if you want love. They have not the slightest intention of stealing the freedom of man. instead of just waiting timidly to the man understand the situation. If you have difficulty to speak directly. The answer would be: he was not thinking anything. But for most men. he speaks of freedom to come and go as you want. sex and someone to take care of you. because now it is who controls the handcuffs. he wants love. Never assume therefore that you are having a special relationship before discussing it with someone else. When a woman suspects this. now they are dating. A relationship is nothing more than a negotiation with rules . as happened with Geoff. In short. men avoid it because they think that compromise the woman will steal them the freedom and they will end up weak and powerless. She must learn to be honest and direct. do not want to give up anything. she needs to say clearly that the man of her point of view. exercising its right to clarify the situation for two and choosing the type of relationship you want to establish . A woman should ask what your partner feels it and wants you to go to the relationship. not have to be accountable for their actions or justify their behavior. friendship. where there are no rules. they now have a special relationship. it is difficult to know what specifically is he talking about freedoms. dedication and loyalty. The only way to live life in complete freedom is alone in a desert island.with other people. not to speak when not to. because there is a special connection.
The heroin is usually a Barbie with anatomically impossible breasts. The differences grew . Go to a seminar on relationships. Not only knew his first name was Always. Why do men feel the need to always be the reason? To understand this characteristic of modern man. not cry and be good at everything they do. amounts to a humiliating admission that he is wrong. Dan saw the thing in a way completely different. to resolve what is best for her. When the child reaches adulthood. Case study: Jackie and Dan Jackie wanted to stop working and have a son. but if the woman gives him a book of this self-help. as if she were weakening or denouncing their incompetence. and men usually are defensive or aggressive before the mere suggestion. Like most male stereotypes of books and movies. is what happens when a woman wants to ask the way. when a woman asks the man is saying or doing. rarely fail to fulfill its task. Their eyes. These super-heroes as partners seem to prefer a dog or a horse. Dan thought. they separated. The comics also depict the macho tough guy as a person endowed with huge muscles and possessor of a voice rough and deep (much testosterone). Batman. we need to examine their education. One day. because animals are loyal. He might not hesitate to give her a book of recipes for a birthday present. are always behind solutions. That is why.with your partner. Zorro. make it clear that she thought he was wrong about the household finances and seek counsel to prove he was . Jackie announced that Dan had made contact with a financial adviser to have an accurate assessment of their household finances. Dan could not believe what was hearing: Jackie wanted someone else to solve their problems! Obviously. or a therapist. As we have seen. never meet them or say they are wrong. he reacts defensively. was an assistant who had more problems than anything else. To seek a financial adviser. leaving the relationship under huge stress. when it appeared. reducing the pressure on him. usually a man less and less important. You imagine that she is trying to say that it is not so good way. is conditioned to think that not being able to do something or solve a problem means to be a failure as a man. Boys have to be tough. Jackie wanted to help Dan. I hoped he was happy that it is taking responsibility to look for someone who could work with him. James Bond. the more likely it is that he is offended. rather. of course. If different from his. the heroes of boys rarely make a mistake and never show weakness or emotion. In-a-Ledger. but Dan felt that they were not financially prepared. she thought he was not able to do their own accounts. all male loners who never complained of problems but. reliable. And. The man finds hard to say "Sorry" or "sorry" because it is wrong to admit. His models are: SuperMan.three months later. Married me with Mr. and very rarely a woman. Some of them had a partner. Spider-Man. This subject has been a source of major disagreements between the two. or call a technician to fix the tap.
we'll have to present a paper stapler moved the battery. and all laugh of contentment. . saying not to drink too much. the woman is the problem for you. the woman should avoid driving to it in a way that it felt wrong. When the visiting friends. It seemed something of a space shuttle exit. Solution Since the man in general have these characteristics. Any woman that does not visit a minimum for the stapler. instead of blame him. I feel better if we stop to ask someone here what is the right entry. Had a transparent plastic box. And is so offended that she begins to think that perhaps it is really kind of controller. you are the best ways to discover! You do not trust me? The most common phrase of men whose actions are challenged by the women is: "You do not trust me?" When you hear that phrase. says it will complain and she asks you not to do it. When the man hit the woman should welcome it. you can be sure that insulted the manhood of man. She can say "You're doing fine. afraid to fight there. He led three batteries that need to be replaced throughout the week. For example. but the signs of these streets are very confusing. instead of saying "You never know the way and we always come back!". the answer it is the same: "I was just trying to help!" She thinks is showing love and concern for him. dear. " In other words. giving the impression that considers incapable. Instead of saying what he did wrong. he responds: "You think I am not able to deal with this problem right ? If you are a party and she warns. But Gerry was crazy with joy with the aparelhinho and said that sometimes when you wake in the morning and through the stapler on the table.incompetent or insufficiently reliable. can not resist putting in four or five clips on a sheet of paper. If he is angry with the neighbor's dog barking at night. should make clear what she is feeling. which left see all the gears and discs moving inside. Why both men are interested in "toys for boys"? When our friend Gerry made birthday. the size of a miniature television. but he sees trying to say what is wrong and is unable to solve things yourself. but all that did was put staples into sheets of paper . the man thinks that women's council to hear tantamount to hear what is wrong and does not deserve her trust. When he arrives at the destination. He complains of being all the time trying to control it.Like any other staples. it would be good to say: "Honey. only to see and hear the movement of the gears. he protested: "Do not trust me?" In all these situations. the stapler is round.
and thus meet its space needs. try a drill pressure and finally find what appears to be a carrapeta of appropriate size. On Saturday afternoon (after the game). have lights blinking and the battery is moved. Female Male Call a fireman without first consulting the man of the house can be interpreted as a serious insult. it is likely that men are interested in to wash the clothes. Projects Do-You-Even The whole bunch of products Make-You-Even faces towards the space area of the brain male. Institute of Psychiatry in London. mechanical. portable GPS devices. they leave unfinished projects around the house whole. they do not just fix the broken things. If the washing machines come with remote control. rifles with telescopic sights night. At home. tests one or two mechanical Sanders.. Men love the challenge to build models of sailing vessels. Then go home and find that size is not one. Find out what appears to be a carrapeta spends and goes to the hardware store. but most do not know where you are carrapeta old.is the brains of the hunter. Areas of the brain used to play football. engines or movable components that make sounds. just because ". back up and operate mechanical. It is about 45 minutes walk by the store. but get angry when you call someone suggested to complete the work. computer spreadsheets. aircraft. shelves and anything that has a set of instructions. angles and distances . Men are the agents of cars and stores equipment and products Make-You-Even where they can find things to do. Due to the propensity of the brain space men. motor boats.the parts dark . The hardware store has closed and he could not open the .which are active when a person from USA spatial skills. 2001. as they are indecipherable. men and boys are fanatics for anything that has buttons. examining all the toys that might have space. the men's space needs can be frustrating for women because. cars with panels complicated. The space industry of the brain that is used to estimate speeds. But it is the male equivalent of the tendency that women have to pay exorbitant prices for imported teddy bear. nuclear. Fofinho was so that I could not resist. Boys are boys from the shops. drive cars.. space and anything that has the remote control. the man who refused the help of a firefighter to repair the defective vessel closes the record and dismantle the facility. The following images show the areas of the brain . electric trains." It is easy to explain why the sexes react so differently to these things. This includes all kinds of video and computer program. as the concentration of the average man has a range of nine minutes. In general.They all admired to see the excitement of men with a aparelhinho so expensive that only runs a task beyond the trivial. build or do work.
Remember: never talk to the man when he is doing a beard. In simple terms. A woman should never call a fireman. financial consultant. Thus. because in most cases.are recorded by men. The cable that connects the right and left hemispheres of your brain. if he is just calling a fireman. will find that solved the problem myself. builder. percent of the technical experts of the world are men . portamo. technician or any computer in space qualified man before consulting his own man.registration until the issue is resolved. it is as if he had salinhas throughout the brain. Understand that mentality "one-thing-in-every-time" is one of the most important things a woman can learn about the men. If the car makes a strange noise. the corpus callosum. unless you hurt him! And do not try to resolve any issue while he attends the TV. Instead. . Most women do not understand why men seem able to do only one thing at a time. The response of readers to this issue was so overwhelming that we will summarize it here it again later. even during the commercials. nobody will ever be able to bathe or use the private sector. you run the risk of injury. but 99% of all patents . Today most new companies are founded by women.of "toys for boys" . is on average 10% thinner than the female and carries about 30% fewer connections between the two hemispheres. If a woman can read while listening or talking. Ninety-six. each with at least one primary function operates independently of the rest. these things mean much less to him Why men can only do one thing at a time? In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? Presents a thorough study on why the male brain is so singularly focused: what it described as "single track". probably miss the exit. ask your opinion and give it a run. he raised the hood and will take a look. why can not the man? Why he always turns off the television when the phone rings? Women around the world complain in unison: "Because he can not hear what I'm saying while reading the newspaper or watching television?" The reason is that the human brain is compartmentalised and specialized. though not the slightest idea what you are looking for.the excellent performance of that natural ability. you will discover that he is almost deaf. The only difference that exists between men and boys is the price of their toys. She explains that men lower when the radio or read a map when they march to the defendant in the car. If you are working with a sharp tool and the phone rings. it should tell you what it considers necessary. Seeing the images of the brain of a man who reads. Never give you flowers and nice cards. That is what gives the approach "one-thing-of-every-time" to everything he does in life. Their hope is that it is a problem to be absolutely clear. If he is in clover road and someone directed him to speak. There is a lesson here: always give the man a toy of this spatially related. This concentrated focus allows men to become great experts.
As we have seen. and they urram of pleasure when the striker is the goal. therefore.The man has two times more likely than women to engage in a car accident while talking on a cell phone. As adults. man may again be a member of a band of hunters. The girls use dolls as a practice of caring for children and the boys kicked and pursue balls as practice for hunting. is always given to man to do one thing at a time. This is the main reason why 96% of personal assistants of the world are women. crawling and using their spatial skills to get food. most women can do many things not related to each other at the same time. following a new recipe and watching television at the same time. His brain calculates the speed. After that England won the World Cup of 1966 against Germany. the modern replacement of the activities of hunting. And most important. In reality. fantasy that he is giving himself to the mark and kicks goals. Why are men so by sports fanatics? For thousands of years. But if a man is following a recipe to prepare a dish and you want to chat with him. makeup and to listen to radio as a live-voice speech. discuss an issue at a time and adhere to it until all these men are satisfied with the solution. if you want a good result free of stress. but men still kicking balls.even the men hunt and women also care for children. the angles and directions of the ball. never ask questions to the man during sex. the goals they most marked and tactical errors they committed. The men are so excited when they watch football because they feel as if they were playing the game. . there was one man in the country who do not know the color of escalation of the team. recalled with vivid detail goals in marked departures held for many years and almost come to tears when discussing what the player should have done and the result which should have had the game. She is able to talk on the phone. men caught in groups while women receive food and care of children. As a devoted fan of your soccer team. The woman's brain is configured to perform multiple tasks. Seeing their heroes in the field. 'f women swap their dolls for children. and then pass to the next question. They verbally insult the referee (although the referee can not listen to the l) when disagree with a mark: "You think this is missing? Your asshole You need glasses!" Can remember the scores. you better go outside dining. Between 1800 and 1900 were invented almost all modern sports with ball. In business. The sports to which man is part of a group of hunters. You can turn auto-mobile. chasing. It is as if the woman was in some way genetically apparently with the octopus. The best strategy. even while it is active sleep. The men ran. The brain images show that the woman's brain never shuts off. nothing much has changed in thousands and thousands of years .
moves. Add to it or use the time to do something positive for yourself. Do not fight the sport or hobby of your man. changes in motion and stationary are in motion to reverse the sky of every man. conversely. get involved. too. which can spend hours on end in front of the TV watching other men guide car race. who are friendly and attractive men. First. Learn what it can about the interest and become understood. "My wife told me that if I drop the obsession with my soccer team. If you still do not find interesting but want to follow it is always possible to find other women in the same situation and make new friends. This explains why men engaged in activities which are repetitive or just those who give more importance to sports. The place where they are compared with others which have been. but they still do not know the names of his nieces. angles. shop or start your own hobby. Sport is an activity in which man can feel again a member of a group: there no one criticizes or tries to modify it. those who consider their work exciting and rewarding are less interested. I will miss her a lot. discuss the clothes they are wearing and the other. with family. It is also why men prefer to buy a new set of golf clubs than a dining table is very necessary. Men may be taken by intense emotion when watching sports.their primary brain skills started to be largely superfluous and the women are attacking from all sides. Solution If your partner is a sports maniac or a hobby. nephews. which rarely occurs in their affective relationship. " The world has now become a confusing place for men . come to bend and give the impression of feeling the pain of fighter hit by a low blow. who they like and dislike. About what men talk in the bathroom? We answer the first question male universal: "What women talk together when they go to a public bathroom?" The answer is: about everything and about everyone. The second option is to use his obsession for sports as a positive opportunity to be with their friends. When watching the struggles of boxing. They are so obsessive with the steering wheel. Go with him to an event and you will be surprised to see the amount of other "widows of the sport" that also attend and enjoy the social aspects. it does not happen in your work.This is a formidable skill. and he feels victorious when your team wins. Speeds. neighbors and the door or the date on which commemorates the Mother's Day. Drive car is almost entirely a spatial ability. you have two options. and . The men no longer have any clear model to follow and clear specifications of what is expected of them. she leaves.
to get away from those who arrive. and chooses the next which is midway between the two. ever under any circumstances. asking the odd passing toilet paper under the door.. to more important and profound conversations. They do not talk. I went to the second. nervous. and when it happens.'.. If there is a row of five urinals. Any woman who seems distressed receive group therapy . Are rarely hear a fart in a female bathroom. put a stop to go to the bathroom. Never. While retouch. Never. discuss techniques and different types of makeup products. The fourth man generally feels better to use the booth to be standing next to a stranger who can look at it. men prefer walls of floor to the ceiling to limit the interaction with neighbors. I have to call you later. Absolutely nothing.. 'Listen . and two women is not uncommon-they share the same cubicle in order to continue the conversation. 'So . and when urinate. because it has an idiot in the booth next to answer my questions! " Men also have a territorial ritual to choose the urinal. the conversation is minimal. how are you?" Like any man. said:' The same as you ." . I never talk to strange men in bathrooms of post road. Let us return now to the original question: what men talk in public restrooms? The answer is: nothing. cosmetics divided up among themselves and even with strangers. while women prefer large vain to talk and move objects from one booth to another. 'Hey. traveling to the North! " Oh I heard the guy say. Even among close friends. Here is a letter from one of our readers shows the reason that men of silence that reigns in the bathroom of men: "During a trip.. The motto of the men is: "Better death than a visual contact.. Men never talk to strangers in public restrooms. came to install booths in the bathroom wider female.. and still do not know what got into me when I decided to respond with a constrained 'All right! " The other guy said.. Bathrooms are a network of women in waiting rooms and counseling centers where you can meet new people and interesting. As the first booth was busy. In cabins. what are you doing? " I thought: 'How strange . the first in choose in the bathroom farthest from the door.any personal problem that they or friends are living. and God help the man that the plague! Women sit in the pot and talk with other women through the wall. like an idiot. Do not talk to other men when they are sitting in the pot. looking at the front. and never talk to strangers. Scarcely had I sat when I heard a voice coming from the booth next to saying. What comes then choose which is further away from the first man. the culprit is hiding in the cabin to check out. with two vessels in each of health. Never. A nightclub in Birmingham. England... but. your eyes will never cross. In the men's room if no one bothers with it.. Men urinate in silence.
What most of the mothers of the wives want more than that any thing. De-because of the stories they hear. is to see her daughter happy. even irritating. And when the man has problems with in-law." The wise king did not hesitate: "The man must marry the daughter of first wife. the king decided that the couple was cut in half so that each stay with their part. when asked what should be the maximum penalty for bigamy. An old Polish proverb says: "The path to the heart of the parents is the child. I answered: "Sure . many times. The parents of a man can claim him. or simple megeras nosy. do not run blood! Let him to marry the daughter of another woman." Most men know that. And if the man makes a woman happy." "But she wanted to see it cut in two. Our research found. it is unlikely that parents cause problems. "this shows that it is the real parents. The first woman agreed." warned the king's advisers. "Today I received an email warning that my parents had died and asking if I would have to bury. irritated him. the most likely cause is the refusal of the father in giving of their precious "princesinha. But if on the one hand the parents is a problem in the marriage of many people.provide all three." What is the difference between a mother-in-law and a vulture? The vulture waiting for you dying to devour your liver. but most men do not come to disappoint them." The dragon enter the scene Probably the mother-in-law jokes inspire more than any other category of the planet. It is worth recalling that Lenin. cremate or embalm.they are not cause for laughter. and are always characterized witches co-mo. Problems with parents not dominate the lives of men." said Solomon. "Yes. But almost no jokes with in-laws . the mother of the man is the real danger." Difficult in-laws are not a problem for most men.Chapter 6 THE OTHER WOMAN His mother Two women were presented before the r ~ i Solomon dragging a young man proposed marriage to her two daughters. taking the blame for more than a third of the separations. but the second said: "No. a founder of modern Russia. said: "Staying with the two parents. it is usually the mother of women the major cause of problems. .
Your . cook. rather than just one. A man met a wonderful woman and her boyfriend was. you have no respect for women. Polls conducted by the University of Utah shows that more than 50% of marriages are real problems between the husband and mother nora. invasive and possessive. which refuses to cut the umbilical cord with your child. Anita thought it was becoming impossible to live with Tom. Although not all parents are given by the fame. that the other 50% are seen as helpful. He left his clothes and playing space-lhadas the towels on the floor. the parents of the wife. The parents are often responsible for defects and emotional problems of their children and Norasia.His mother . not all parents deserve the reputation of evil. Case study: Anita and Tom They had been married only six months when cracks began to appear in your happiness. you can be absolutely disastrous. Anita. clean and working all the time. And she replied: "Because I was not with her face.a blonde. in the worst cases. which shows that about 50% of parents are seen as the creators of the case also shows. I believe it cost to the teacher. the mother replied: "It's a redhead. The mother asked why he brought three. Actually. yes.the burden it The real tragedy of most families are caused by the mother of the man. Can cause unhappiness. divorce. You are so thorough that it is me crazy! In my home was never like this. Arranged a dinner. After examining each one carefully. a brunette and a redhead. My mother never complained to me or anything that I did! " Anita: "So okay. anguish and. for many parents Norasia a nosy. you are a pig. Anita This led to the point of collapse. move. affectionate. she mimou you. Transformed all the rooms. the problem is you. ultimately. that same night to his mother to know. But came together with three women . neutral. You think the woman has to wash. I can not live with you more!" Tom: "No. He said he wanted to know if she was able to guess which of the three women was his future daughter-in-law." "How did you guess so quickly?": He asked." They are not all bad Clearly. Anita: "Tom. generous and. let's talk about your mother. After living six months with you. A search of the University of the State of Utah. The crisis involving the parents of women often seem impossible to manage and insoluble. in home pen.
but Julie found her mother with the help of Mark and they resumed their relationship. Case study: Mark and Julie Mark and Julie decided to marry. The complexity of the situation lies in the fact that there are three people involved in this relationship. So Julie is highly supported in France. cooking and go for them. Life today is increasingly . about every little detail. detached and friendly. immature. the menu of a wedding party and all arrangements of practice . How is the mother around the nora usually forget that the mother of your husband is so important to the family unit as its own. the parents begin to feel excluded from the new family and the child may find that the only way to participate is forcing way and is doing this. When the marriage makes the situation more. Julie and her mother Sarah was not talking about three years ago. Shortly before the wedding. believing they are showing them your love. especially when he is single and her life is dull. because having her along as it is a good strategy.. It is now an adult who should be responsible for their actions. Just be willing to resolve it. Why be parents is sometimes difficult? It is important to be aware that parents occupy a difficult position. unless he has developed a strong relationship with Nora. She felt used and offense. one. The parents are always connected to the child. Due to a disagreement. etc. The mother wants to be involved in their children's lives. In addition to washing. dependent. The son and daughter-in-law must face the situation in a mature and open. " Tom: "What my mother has to do with it? Why did you change the subject? Why not stop blaming everyone except yourself?" Many mothers spoil the future at a very early marriage of their children. mother of Mark. selfish and emotionally unstable. to help her choose the wedding dress. This can create jealousy in the mother's partner. to protect them. The parents are often put aside after the marriage. the most effective in this case is training him to do what she wants him to do. Is he eating right? Is that his house is well cared for? Etc. All three people can be emotionally balanced.. it is as if two women disputing one man. But for every problem there is a solution. But instead of criticizing and blaming his mother. It is normal for a girl seeks the support of the mother. France was no longer needed and was put aside. when in fact they are creating a serious problem in the future relationship with their wives. Receiving little information. Suddenly. not the parents. possessive. But the children rarely talk to their mothers about what it is.everything we have done with his own mother if things were different. The girl almost always strives for the love to build a good relationship with the mother of the boy. two or even three people can be jealous. independent. This is a really complicated problem for the partner.mother and I created a monster I'm no longer tolerate this. because the Norasia usually maintain close ties with their mother and talk with them regularly. or at the other extreme.
Logo Bernadette began openly insulting Diana when Richard was not around. and even in daily life. The madcap who sometimes left him were. Richard knew that as she created. Only presented to his mother after the announcement of the engagement. with less time for human contact. He was a good boy of 22 years and watch it. "I was late!" She said to friends. She created with all the care. for example. Bernadette was not particularly receptive. How many parents are required to change a light bulb? A. Bernadette became a problem. When the ceremony was. But thought it strange that her boyfriend not to take his place.would be difficult to find a woman equal. When family members live in distant neighborhoods. The problems began when she and Richard returned from honeymoon. only for sex. She asked when he would come "in house" to paint it. Diana began then to avoid the parents. telling everyone what you thought would not last. Soon after. Diana liked that Richard knew him. and put the fault in almost everything she did. In business. Parents need attention and the children need time for their own family. accusing it of trying to create problems between her and her son. . I used to laugh when the future mother-in-law commented that perhaps they are not ready for non-marriage and could change your mind at any time. Their demands seemed to have no end. cities or different countries. without any consideration for the needs of Diana. because neither of them had parents. Bernadette denied. But she still had her son. She is holding waiting for the world turn around. as he liked the tidiness of the house.she thought . Bernadette thought Richard was not interested in girls. Diana has realized that it had inherited from a mother-in-law Hell. to take care of the garden. The view of Diana Adam and Eve were the happiest and luckiest couple in the world. so completely unexpected.over-charged. but Diana found that it simply needed time to adapt. Richard. nourished and loved since birth. For Bernadette. Richard was now fully at its disposal. and when the big wheel is complaining with her husband. it takes some effort to maintain unity in family life . to be clear. He drank more and did not de-link the minimum for the family. but Bernadette phone every night to stay talking long together with Richard. Case study: Bernadette. to repair the tap to talk about a problem or to take her shopping. But the last generation only knows the phone and personal meetings to communicate. but the two sides need to understand and find solutions to ensure the happiness of all. Perhaps it is difficult for the next generation deal with their parents. Richard and Diana Bernadette had just over forty years when the left-of Mari. but eventually grew tired of listening Bernadette tell you how to prepare the favorite dish of Richard. Diana tried to be friendly. now was the time to take account of it. we use the mail to meet the need of communication. comfort and emotional support for this . Bernadette appeared almost every day.
collected and washed their clothes and not criticized because it felt just wonderful what he did. but he said that Diana was being possessive. When this is true. In the end. With male your brain programmed to problem solving. Bernadette lived with and was discussing it with Richard complaining. Bernadette was the first to offer to help by washing the clothes and taking care of the baby. but Diana seemed so enciumada of the husband's relationship with the mother that no longer appear. Diana began to feel excluded. Richard thought he was just working hard all day and still have to resolve disputes between your wife and your mother when you get home. Diana and tired of discussing it in a anger deaf closed. constantly criticizing Diana. The wife must have sufficient wisdom to take control of the situation and ensure that problems are dealt with between it and the parents. Bernadette took account of the situation. More than once Diana tried to discuss the problem with Richard. The mother always told him that his father does not provide for anything and now he was the man of the house. Bernadette was soon back to life nora physically every day. to overlive in caves. And started to think that life would be less complicated if I went back to single. helping with the baby. immature and ciumenta. Solution Nora and parents need to build a loop to run their lives. just at the time he began to relax. It became obsessive with Travis. and so Richard thought that the advice of his mother would be fundamental. putting it in the neck all the time they were together. Create a child was a novelty for Diana. Instead. When Travis was born. Filled it with care and affection.Two years later. Once Richard and Diana got married. preparing their favorite dishes. and that his mother was only trying to help. as it feeds his ego. everyone wins. It was a burden. Nora and parents need to adjust their relationship without involving the son and husband. only. But Diana did not seem prone to a little or ask advice. It became possessive for Travis. and continue to need in the modern world. but she was crazy with their explosions. The last thing that a woman needs is a complaint that her parents with the son. and Diana felt prisoner and unfortunate. selfish. it is that would see her on weekends and helped with the house. He loved the woman. Travis was the first son of Diana. . to have a life free of stress. The views of Richard Richard lost his father to divorce. helping in something. but he thought the mother should be feeling alone and that he had a responsibility towards her. Women do this naturally. What is the difference between a pit-bull and a mother-in-law? The pit-bull just dropping you. Bernadette was him taking his own son. But there was one problem: every night his mother call him a lengthy conversation. but things were definitely more calm at home. made his bed. The man may feel happy to have two women disputing its possession. Bernadette was always around.
. leaving the part of parents.Bernadette call every night.Bernadette requires too much attention to Richard.Bernadette interfere too much. that because it is not enough time with the family. a person be more girl. The difficulty is in fact a big wheel.This is a common tragedy. Diana could write: . She had permission to continue controlling Richard. In this stage. first questions they need answered are: . husband and wife. but Diana refuses to divide Travis and receive useful advice on motherhood.the son and daughter-in-law. husband and wife should sit down and put on paper what they think is the problem.Both recognize the existence of problems? . not simply as the wife of the child. and Diana does not understand that as a child. could write: . . but also not wanting to impose their views. leaving not intimidate. she combines sympathy and firmness. is the big wheel that as a matter of survival. generally immature and unprepared for the problems that inevitably arise. happy and loving? .My mother is alone and it is up to us supports it. If the answer is "Yes".You have a long life together. The best time to cut the umbilical cord is birth. Richard never cut the umbilical cord that connects to your mother. .My mother makes me feel guilty when I do not answer your requests. . is my responsibility to help her. not matured. later is very difficult to establish a productive discussion between the three parties. When it leaves the problems of marriage take root. When problems appear since the beginning of the relationship. staged in families around the world. Hardly one of them will accept what he seems to be an alliance between the other two. . when all I want is to be with them. Bernadette apparently has no problem. . In the case study above.Bernadette does not respect my ability and hope that it meets Richard as a child. when you know the future mother-in-law. will pay a high price later. the problem must be resolved by the parties most affected . The problem therefore is Diana and Richard. It is important that she spend some time just for parents. wanting to dictate the rules in our house and the creation of our son. through whom she controls Diana and Travis. He actually "still" have not left the house. . Richard. for this to see how a person with life itself.Bernadette arrives without warning. If during the time of her dating book all their attention to the fiance.I do not understand why my wife and my mother is angry all the time. it is advisable to couple therapy. for example. What is important is that in that relationship.My mother tries to help Diana. . just in time for this-we enjoy our moments of family living.My mother is not a man at home to do small services. take our privacy and in-progress plans are constantly perplexed. must take the initiative to build the bridge. . but Diana did not care about that.They want to solve the problem? If the answer to any of these questions is "No". in turn. As.
Maybe the solution would get a "factotum" and give him the phone Bernadette. and they intend to follow it. With regard to Travis. Bernadette feel rejected and hurt. Me and my parents were happy for twenty years. Must thank Bernadette for attention. This is a trap in which young people often fall very easily. When set limits. is important to Richard and Diana show a real interest in "new" life of Bernadette. By not putting limits on Bernadette when the problems started to appear. then why not put limits on Bernadette too? Diana says Bernadette arrives without being asked and without warning. doing courses and voluntary work in hospitals or welfare organizations. to excursions. therefore. however. Richard and Diana do not have of it and left to set limits when they married. lines that they can not overcome. Richard and Diana might even offer to pay for services for an entire year. and generally believe that the family members are only trying to help with his advice. Bernadette must be trained. having lived always within limits set by other people. The three should discuss the matter in a time when emotions are low. have a group of reading. We need to know that she should call before they appear. Richard really has responsibility to help the mother. say. but here is a question of limits. Diana should explain that she and Richard need a time of privacy to relax and take care of common projects and unannounced visits that may interfere. albeit unintentionally. It is natural that Bernadette would Richard take care of the problems of her house. Richard. they do not understand the risks. on the border of privacy. Set limits and be firm are two key lessons that the newly married couples need to learn. the most important of all. it actually allowed the parents invade your marriage and your family. must limit the duration of phone calls from their 'mother to. by her . as the visitor is a person dear. but this is a problem that it must overcome.Diana is also responsible. in agreement with Diana. are not firm in setting its rules. such as joining a club of retired. people know that their transgression will bring problems. but in agreement with Diana. If Richard and Diana have limits in their marriage. ten minutes. Know where to go. but said that she and Richard receive guidance of pediatricians to the development of Travis. Bernadette did not exceed a limit set. Quite understandably. How to set limits Establish rules and set limits means tracing lines that should not be exceeded. Inexperienced. The problem will diminish significantly if the visits are only permitted where previously combined. Until we know it. as Christmas gift or birthday. Diana has to be firm. is that it needs to encourage the mother to develop activities outside the family. after which he must tell Bernadette that has things to do and say goodbye.
whether to live an independent life. Bernadette will be boring at first and probably react with emotional blackmail and statements such as: . We need to keep it abreast of the family. while building a life. Maybe even threatens disinherit them. It is not easy. only work if you allow. but they should not do it. There will be tempting to abandon it." . if we are committed to maintaining a harmonious relationship and happy."When I die you will be sorry.just like your father."I feel so alone now. But you know what is right to do what you're doing. A person can only make you feel guilty if you agree to accept the blame." Such tactics. however strange it may seem to Bernadette ."Who else can I use?" ." . that the affection is preserved. the two problems can be solved."Do you not care more for me. through words and attitudes."After everything I did for you!" . encouraging it. .own gain momentum. None of this is easy and requires a lot of the couple's determination and persistence. it is only to ensure the happiness of the three." . I examined all the possible reactions and are prepared to deal with it. I discussed the matter several times. Reactions are predictable. Just as the couple set limits and make the meet."You are selfish . It is important that they continue taking care of Bernadette and supporting it during this phase. Richard is resolved to maintain her marriage and awareness of evil that causes the interference of the mother. after a single week she would be 105 kilometers away. especially if the reaction is stronger than expected. but Richard and Diana have to say. which are emotional blackmail. They have to explain or justify their decisions. If you could convince your parents to walk fifteen kilometers a day. It is vital that during all the conversations. The next stage of the reaction of Bernadette is probably refuse to help. ie taking care of Travis. mature and happy. If sympathy and love to face the task of setting limits to Bernadette. make it clear. there is no aggression. only reaffirm that the path that is decided then. a solid and enjoyable adult relationship can develop. You've seen flying snake? Then try playing your parents through the window.
or a specific purpose. we present here only a brief summary. and when caçavam fishing. The modern man also. this is one of the most important chapters of this book. When you engage in any activity. I just leave the lamp. man. Consequently. a new level of relationship with the opposite sex comes up. Searched men of different nationalities and races. Women do not need a reason to talk. avoided talking to not scare the prey. Women evolved together with other women and children in and near the caves. Men evolved chasing moving targets. when you leave to hunt or fish. These are the questions: 1. we check each item with a woman next to you. Meanwhile. not speaking much. Why women never go to the chase? 5. appeared a genius. The dark areas are the parts . Why do women always want to talk about problems? 3. But for those who can meet them. we are able to reveal the intriguing logic that lies behind the five men most frequent questions about the way women are communicating." The archaeologist thought for a moment and replied: "I want a bridge with a Autopista connecting England to France!" The genius goggle and mutter: "Hey. The ability to build and strengthen intimate relationships was crucial to the survival of each. we collect and record answers to research on how men and women to communicate and use the science of human behavior to explain their differences. I'm tired ground. when to collect leaves (shopping) and still talk all the time. "I will grant you one wish. They speak to be connected." The genius pale and asked: "One or two tracks?" If you are a man. Why women exaggerate? 4. To most men. "You freed me!" Said the genie. In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? we treat this issue in detail.Chapter 7 The Mysteries WAYS OF WOMEN LANGUAGE An archaeologist excavated a ruin when topou to an old lamp. For over a decade. these secrets are both a source of amusement and confusion. And the modern woman. The following is the brain images of men and women talking. women did all the time. You idea of the distance that exists between England and France? Is an engineering impossible! Make another request! The man reflected for a moment and asked: "I wish I could I communicate with women. Why women talk so much? 2. Why women want to know the smallest detail? 'Why do women talk so much? The huge capacity that women have to talk is something that most men are extremely difficult to understand. But it is very likely to feel skeptical about some of the things that will read. therefore. To rub it to remove the dust. so as to remain united. men.
Institute of Psychiatry in London. six thousand to eight thousand words spoken per day.two to four thousand and you understand that the ability to speak of women cause so many problems between couples. because the "conversation" of women is completely different. a form of retribution and a way to connect to another person. Have a brain that is not strong in the skills of speech and language responds to the remarkable extent of gender differences in rates of problems in speech: the stuttering is a disorder three to four times more frequent among men than among women. the man who was asking opinion feels honored and offers its solutions. the man only speaks to other men about personal problems if you think that the other has a solution. Man Woman The brain of man is oriented solutions. if she feels attracted to you if she likes you or saying you want to feel accepted and important. If not. it does basically to create a bond with another person. without effort. the man gives the impression that always wants to be right and it is always wrong. The brain of man is set to the solution of continuous problems. No wonder that women always complain that the man to break inter-and not to let express their views. it speaks to you. From a woman. Unfortunately. This creates serious problems of communication with women. 2001. to offer all the time. Most men "only speak if you have something to say. The men use the speech and language to communicate facts and data. Compare it with the average daily production of words of a man . Put simply. When a woman speaks. For the women. A worker exhausts its production of words in the middle of the afternoon and go home to find a woman who still has four to five thousand words to say! Two women can spend the whole day together and then still speak for a full hour on the phone. The images show how the brains of women is widely used for the functions of speech and language. Areas of the brain related to speech and language. not to ask for solutions. . share their emotions and problems with someone is a demonstration of confidence in the person. however. data and solutions. The women's to processes. dyslexia and serious. In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? show that the brain of the woman can produce." that is. when either communicate facts. The reaction of the man before it is asked "Why do not you say it to her when they were together?". it simply does not speak. about ten times. As I said. the man tends to think that a woman discuss their problems because they do not know how to deal with them and "all the time is interrupted with solutions. As already explained.of the brain into activity.
without interrupting to offer solutions.if she does not like or do not love a person. If you have an issue to deal with it. she is not complaining . want to talk to your partner. The best way to punish the woman the man is talking to him without stopping and changing the subject is. stomach ulcers and heart attack . on TV.it's showing that you trust. It is never too often: when two people are aware that they want to invest in the relationship. With men in general it does not work . water the garden.in almost all of the time is not to seek solutions. Only thus creates intimacy and complicity. The silence as a form of punishment is an effective tactic. The problem is that men love silence. The content of conversation with people is not important. especially when used with other women. The solution for men and women Ideally. woman. mutual remarks to lose the character of criticism and complaint and will be key ele-ments in the construction of mutual happiness. Why do women always want to talk about problems? Women on average live seven years longer than men. the man thinks or does something else. stress man stops talking and will sit alone "in front of the fire" to find a solution to your problem. constipation. When either forget a stressful day. one at a time.fortunately not . When you. browse the Internet or mount an aircraft to turn off the problems. When not occupied with another activity. she stops talking. he apparently can forget their problems. it is the participation that counts. is direct and clear. Your brain allows you to track only concentrate on the news. mainly due to their greater ability to deal with stress. The opposite is also true . The purpose of it is if you feel better about your day and connect to you . ask them explicitly to reserve a time for that and tell him that he only wants to listen. one could say to each other how you feel and go learn about the differences between genders and the specific characteristics of your partner. but never too often. Without any aggressiveness. if she does not agree with what this person is saying. or when either punish them. Already suggested before. The danger is that the internalized stress can cause diseases such as diarrhea.When you make personal confidences. Women use silence to punish men.the men usually see the "peace and tranquility" obtained with the silence of women as a prize. It is important to understand the man that the main objective of the "conversation" of the woman is talking about. Focusing on other things.
Enjoy going to rock your thinking about something else. go to sleep and forget it. talked and talked about the issue at stake . Solution We to assume that the more men and women are aware of their differences. while] and thought they always came back to the same issues. So when the woman started to teased a problem that seems not to sense. the easier it becomes the relationship. The problem was that Lisa had been created believing that the couple should never let anyone waiting for the next day. Ask her if she wants some help and put themselves available to advise her when she wants. In the evening. Women like to thoroughly discuss all aspects of their actions and feelings. He would prefer a thousand times and have a fight. It was common for discussion is to drag well after midnight. Rodney Dangerfield Women believe that everyone is talking about feeling better.. There are two theories about arguing with a woman.all at the same time. Joe and discussion of midnight Lisa and Joe discussed much when they went to live together. the reason why women love to discuss all the details. They always kiss and make up before going to sleep. One night we were agreed for six months. The men believe that talking will only make things worse. My husband and I decided never to sleep before resolving our disputes. he had already discussed everything that had to discuss and was happy to leave the rest divergence.until it lead to another thread. Joe could not handle it. and yes-go by making a possible solution. The problem is that the female brain is programmed to enhance processes. Not . Women deal with stress talking plenty about their problems. Talking about your problems is your way of relieving stress. PHYLLlS DILLER For men. Case study: Lisa. None of them works. addressing them in various ways.. Prefer to discuss the issue and resolve it quickly. Listen to it with the greatest possible solidarity and tell him you are there to accept them as needed. So she talked. Men tend to retreat before that approach. it would be readily available. remember that she needs to talk to feel better. A man who did so would give other men the impression that they feel incapable and are looking for solutions . is a mystery. Lisa wanted to reduce their level of stress and was anxious to reach a satisfactory decision for both. especially late at night.
But also meets its limits. saying that it does not always defend himself and giving examples: "This is not true. these fantasies and exaggeration that makes the conversations more interesting. but does not give us a little talk about this later?" This way of addressing the problem is more respectful and has much more chance of working than say nothing and simply wait for the woman to say end all you have to talk." "You always hope that I do all the work of the house and take care of children at the same time. but this issue is too big for my head today. the excesses of women can be frustrating. I want to discuss it with you. if he disagrees with the woman in front of friends. Exaggerated words and emotions is a normal behavior to be perfect for women who talk among themselves. For example. She exaggerates his feelings and the other when it comes to some personal matter or what someone said.minimize the impact that certain events can cause it." "When I saw her with that dress. Moreover. The woman's brain is focused on people. Why women exaggerate? Both men and women exaggerate. because as your brain thinks things from facts and data. for example: "Sorry. the performance of your car and the amount of beautiful women who left. it interprets the words literally. Examples of female exaggeration: "I asked you a million times to collect their wet towels. ask to be sensitive if it can leave the matter for another time. The exaggeration makes it more exciting to talk about relationships. so fancy it much more than the man on the lives and relationships. Say. If the problem that the wife brings concerns the relationship of you and you in fact does not feel able to discuss the l-on time. At that moment. I thought it was going to die!" "You always do this to me. In general. He exaggerates the importance of their work. I did not no time last night and not do for months!" She replied recalling . it only needs your love and genuine care. women like to dream that a leading man of TV to ask for a memorable night. sweetheart. she will say later: "You always reduces me and never let me have my own opinion. even that invariably end up falling by the timid and puny boy he met at the homes of friends. the size of your income or that of fish caught. The difference is that men exaggerate the facts and women exaggerate the emotions and feelings. One of one hundred things that women wish men knew: what it said six or eight months is unacceptable in the current discussion. you always do this to me!" He probably will take that complaint to the foot of the letter." "Do not talk to you anymore!" For men.
then lunch and take coffee and we talk about a million things. But for her the most important is not the offense committed. The humor of it was so strange that I thought he was punishing me for having arrived late. Saturday night. challenging in terms of facts and data. The letter from Jessica shows as: "Me and Luke agreed to meet for dinner at our favorite restaurant. How a woman can fool yourself When the woman recall a scene in your head.. put them in the pocket and was sitting there without saying anything. around eight hours. the emotions and feelings are what counts and tone of voice and body language are the main channels to communicate them. your offense.the days. It was as if it were a hundred kilometers away. I want a million . I had some suspicions but did not mean anything yet. When we arrived. Decided to have coffee at home. I started to think that something suspicious was that I had some time . She was exaggerating his emotions and he. When I arrived.a beautiful pair of gold cufflinks. She communicates with a scale of five tones. without giving me the slightest attention.. it may appear that the memory is real. mad to see Luke. Luke went straight in the room. he was sitting. Now I knew we had a serious problem. because it does not consider that issue with the woman is decreased her. The trip back was silent. but decided to wait to get home to talk. That day Luke was football with friends and I have fun with some friends to assert that I did not see since we have decided to live together. including the phone. Sorry for the delay. She sends much of what I mean by tone of voice. Most messages are not verbal. but one at a time. turned and was watching the TV. the conversation was really difficult and not a little interesting. so that the time and I lost a little late. women always seem to be moving his arms and using a variety of gestures and facial expressions when speaking. Mae West on men. I knew it would be a romantic dinner and was excited. I gave him a special gift . He mumble "Thank you". For women. times and places where he eats the same. During the dinner. I was giving treatment to the ball to imagine what could be. In the eyes of men. but men are able to identify only three. Despite his ability to speak. We spent the whole morning shopping. said he had an excellent day out with friends and show what was purchased. The language of the body reveals the emotional state of women and is responsible for 60 to 80% of the impact of their conversation. He is hurt and angry. looking out the window. His eyes seemed to say that everything was over between us. the woman also uses the body language to send and receive information. All that she wants is that he values in front of friends.
It took the largest iron if continue. This apparently vague manner of speaking is known as indirect language. while carrying a basket of laundry to the garage. Then. women understand the need to exaggerate the emotions and feelings and not take the literal meaning. as tenderly as possible. It is able to develop four or five different lines of thought simultaneously with ease. " 'What?' I was surprised. will eventually disqualified!" Solution If you are a man. or be able to read her mind. women seem to prefer to be making rounds to go right to the point. and made love... and this time I put the clothes in the washing . " What Luke was really thinking that night: "My team lost. . where the exaggeration may be cause for much confusion and damage. And he thinks I'm an idiot. 'I do not want you to eat the salami. This letter from a reader and shows a woman can feel the man: "My wife goes on whim indirect speech. as the man takes things at the foot of the letter. But then he just turned and was sleeping. How can a woman be so smart as avoada when talking? Today. I promised myself that the next day would face the situation and demand that he tell me the truth. she should try to be objective and limit the exaggeration.he should have another woman. Never call your partner in "queen of the drama" not a correction in front of others. Listen to the truth of it. while I turn to follow. not eat the salami. I was sitting there in the room with him about fifteen minutes until no more endure. Not resist to my caresses. even if internally you give some discount. Yesterday. I thought the end was near. Who is the other woman? He loves you or is just an adventure? Why men do not tell the truth? All I know is that it can no longer live like this . This step is especially important when it comes to business. it was in the kitchen and told me: 'In the team meeting today. trying to find the sequence of the conversation. All your friends seem to follow his reasoning. moreover. Ten minutes later. Sometimes a man feels as if I had to guess what the woman wants. They must think I'm blind! Well.' replied my wife. Why women never go to the chase? For men. must realize that.Debbie. I will use it later. Then cried to sleep. not noticed how he looks at her with that stupid smile. for example... I was so upset and stressed that hours spent awake. while she continued to where he had stopped. with a tone mad. I said: 'Later I need to go to the hardware store. " I was working in the garage half hour. 'she said not to eat the salami? " 'She's not you. that bitch of his work beyond the mini-skirt! I saw the way she moves the chair every time he passes by it. And I was also becoming clear who she was . I went to bed.. is thinking it and not want to tell me not to hurt me. She does this constantly. help her to relativise without saying what she should think or say. but to me and my two children that causes tremendous brain damage.was true . " I stopped with the stupid guy. my supervisor said . telling me what your supervisor told you. Luke came to bed and also surprised me want to snuggle.. The woman.
machine, in one move boxes, cleaned a shelf and made a list of arrangements for next week. When she went in the house said, without stopping what I was doing: 'Why? " 'Huh? Why what? "I asked. 'What do you need? " 'I do not need anything! What are you talking about? " 'If you do not need anything, that is going to the hardware store? "She asked, crossing his arms with that guy sulk in'0 - that-is-what-you-are-arming' that most men married knows. However, this matter was already closed for me for a long time, but for my wife is absolutely natural to resume a conversation for over an hour, if it finds that the matter was not resolved. I think she is convinced that I did not hear, and I'm half convinced that she is right. I try to understand later, after I finish my salami sandwich. Frustrated Raymond. "When a woman speaks, the language generally indirect USA. That means what it implies or infers that the things. When women use indirect language to each other, rarely there are problems - they have to understand the sensitivity real meaning of what is said. But this language can be disastrous when speaking with men, who use the direct language and interpret the words literally. As I said, the male brain evolved as a mechanism to focus single requirement of the hunt. The men find disconcerting the apparent lack of structure and purpose of female conversation and accuse women of not knowing what they are talking about. They respond saying things like: "After all, what are you talking about?", "What is the conclusion ", or the interrupt saying," We already talked about this a dozen times, "" How long it will last yet? "and" This conversation is very complicated and will not lead to nowhere. " The language in indirect business The use of indirect language and multiple tracks in business can be problematic for women because men have difficulty to follow the conversation. The men, in order to take decisions, must be submitted to ideas and information that is clear, logical and organized. Women may see their ideas and rejected the requests simply because your boss is not the slightest idea what she wants. Marie was a classic victim. After six months of negotiations, Marie had the chance to present the new advertising program for your company to a major customer of the financial industry. The audience was composed of eight men and four women. The account to be won worth two hundred thousand dollars and she only had thirty minutes to sell her story. It was the only chance of winning the title. On the day of presentation, so well tested that could sleep up to, Marie came properly dressed, with a number sober, hair done and makeup light and natural. But soon after starting, she noticed that the men looked as if they were not understood. Given the impression that they were judging negatively and losing interest in the presentation, she began to come by several shortcuts, adding unnecessary details and returning the slides already passed to show how they are related to each other. Encouraged the women with smiles, faces and vocal expressions like "Uh, uh," "Right!" and showing an interest. Encouraged by the female reaction, Marie began to turn his speech to them, unintentionally ignoring the men. The entire presentation has become an exercise in juggling. She finished and left, convinced that he had done a good job. and was eagerly awaiting the answer of the company.
This was the conversation of men executives during the coffee, after which Marie left: Director of Marketing: "You have some idea of what she was talking about?" Executive Director: "No. .. it confused me. Tell him to send the proposal in writing." Marie "multitrilhou" submission using indirect language with a group of men who wanted to hear a presentation objective, and lean in his logic. The executive met and became involved with questions, but no man wanted to raise their hand and admit that there was not understood. The woman needs to understand that man, when you can not follow what she says, prefer to pretend it means to go through stupid. Only it is not convinced. When a man can not keep up the discourse of business of a woman, he pretends to understand. The woman must use a direct language, with timetables, schedules, deadlines and conclusive answers. Should be direct with men in business by addressing an issue each time, with beginning, middle and end, without getting lost in shortcuts. Marie is still waiting for a response ...
Case study: Barbara and Adam Barbara went to shop with friends and wanted his son Adam, aged 16, clean the kitchen. "Adam, you can do to please clean the kitchen for me?" She asked. "Hum .. s ...", he growl in response. When she resumed the tour, the kitchen remained the same. Barbara was angry with her son. "But I would clean up before leaving at night", he whine. The problem was caused by the Barbara. She used the language indirect assumption that Adam would understand that when she returned home with her friends, the kitchen should be clean. She asked: "You want to clean the kitchen?" No boy "or" clean the kitchen. Adam can not. A direct request with a deadline, as "Adam, please clean the kitchen before I get back from shopping at noon, would have guaranteed a better result.
Children do not "want" to do household chores, they need to be directly instructed to do them.
That night, Barbara said to Adam: "I would like you to look for an hour before going to bed." Indirect dis-course that works with girls but with boys it is useless. The brain of the boy heard that his mother that he would do such a thing, but it really was not instructed to do it, does. Direct instruction with a time limit is the only realistic way of dealing with men. "Adam, I want you to go to your room and study for one hour. I will give you good-night before you pain-mir." Direct instructions leave little room for communication problems. Moreover, men enjoy clear instructions. Women fear that the direct language is too aggressive. You can even be, when used with another woman. With men, however, the direct speech is perfectly normal, because that is how they communicate. Solution For a woman: With men, seek to use only the direct discourse. This does not mean being aggressive. You may well say, calmly and affection: "Let's make an appointment to talk? Feel that we need solve some problems." And remember what we said before: when speaking of problems, makes clear that it is as you see them and feel, which does not mean they are exactly that. Do not extend to others and gives space to listen to what your partner has to say. Listen to the truth, not defend themselves or challenge immediately. In the beginning may seem difficult, but over time this practice will bring you the desired results. You'll have fewer misunderstandings with men of his life. For men: If a woman is talking and you have difficulty to follow your line of thinking, start listening, without offering solutions. If anything, give it a time limit: "I watch the news of seven, my good, but until then I'm all yours." Again: try to show you their own limits and their way of being. Once you have the precious chance to go is knowing better and respecting their differences. One of our readers sent us the Dictionary of Women Indirect terms that appear during their regular discussions. "Good" - The USA women at the end of this word in any discussion that you believe to be the reason but want the man shut up. "Five minutes - I mean, about half an hour. Equivalent to five minutes when the man is watching a soccer game and the woman asked for a favor. "Nothing" - means "something." "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling of the woman when she is willing to strangle the man. "Nothing" usually means the beginning
You offering to explain and receive a "Please. He is nice . wanting to know every detail. The woman thinks when a man does not speak . "raised eyebrows" and an "audible gasp" final.means "I quit" or "Do what you want because I'm not there.. "Thank you" . seasoned with a lot of "Aahs"." He hung up and continued reading." The next time it will allow you to make sex with her will "one day". she insisted. "Please" . "Aah? I talked to his brother about what you walked by last night "and" Aah? You expect me to believe "..." because it will say "Nothing.. a former schoolmate.means that she wants to think before you return whatever you have. what he said?" She asked. And do not try to lie more to get an escape because" Go ahead "(raised eyebrows). The woman is giving you the chance to invent an excuse or reason you have done what they have done.The woman says that when you're really upset with you. "That is what he said after ten years? What is great ". and the highest is the sarcastic "Really?" it.At the beginning of a sentence.of a discussion that will last "five minutes" and have undermined with the word "great". when a cool head. -Audible sigh means she thinks you an idiot and wonders why it is wasting time by discussing with you "Nothing. She will tell you that is" good "while playing their clothes through the window. And he was asked him as an advocate of it. details are irrelevant. "Nothing important . At some point in the near future." You should receive a "Go ahead" (raised eyebrows) in a few minutes. "Robert. He answered. the split detail each point of the conversation. For men. "Go ahead" (with raised eyebrows) . is simply saying it does not believe a single word of what you say." Do not ask what's wrong after the "audible sigh. when it has plot is planned. after the woman said "nothing. okay. "Robert? You do not see from the side! How is he?" "Good. This situation.is not an application is an offer for you to talk. followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she says she will explain the reason in "five minutes". "Really?" . is great.It is said in a tone of challenge. Means that you put the hurt and the next step will be an "audible sigh.. We were talking ." he said. you will be a big trouble. "Aah" generally means that you have been caught in a lie." "Go ahead" (with normal eyebrows) . which has dealt before.." "So ." Josh replied that defeated tone that men have when trying to read the newspaper.. For example. "Who was that?" He asked his wife Debbie." "Aah?" . "Okay" is often used with "Fine" and in conjunction with "Go ahead" (raised eyebrows). Why women want to know the smallest detail? Josh was reading the newspaper a night when the phone rang.She is not questioning the validity." The more you apologize. shows a basic brain differences between men and women. listened for about ten minutes making occasional grunt and said: "Yes. "All right" . If you do not speak the truth will win in a final "OK"..
look you give more details than usually and do not fidget with their pe1fun-tas. Invite her for a long walk and let her talk. The group of friends was his insurance company. feel that he is uninterested. But you know very little about the personal life of any person in the group . It is not that women are curious . have already decided how to defeat terrorism and how England can win of Germany in football . which means knowing all the details and is actively interested by the situation of each group member and their families. yes ... their dreams and goals for the year.. especially in a business meeting. already see the new red sports car from Bob. they do not cease to be . need to understand that the woman needs to know details and personal information is programmed into your psyche and aims for the survival of relationships Therefore. ah. Men know what new "toys for boys" bought the other men.. are doing.just listen to it with genuine interest. Things that seem important to you may be irrelevant to him. knowing that men and women are structurally different.. because for women the words are used to unite. women know everything that each member of the group. Women are programmed to know all the details Defender of nests and offspring. is that with the long-term survival in their minds. At home... when you talk to the woman. being precise and succinct. meets its limits. I discussed what are good places to fish. try to avoid the excess of detail. their health and status of their relationships. and the latest jokes. the woman involved to secure for itself a narrow circle of friends who take care of it if your man does not resume the hunt or the war. And if you are female. do not feel offended. Tell us what you feel and hear what he feels. His survival depended on their ability to connect to other women.much because he is not interested in it. ask if it is available. The man thinks the woman speaks and other torments so many questions. Thus. they want to know how each person in your group and how they can help.their wives saying all the way home. well. Solution If you are a man. Remember once again: you need not worry about giving answers or provide solutions . After a social activity. you will be a great year. . tell your partner that is willing to tell her what happened. or family. in reporting events from the others.. And if. You also know where the friends go on leave and the children are doing in school. you should 'go to the chase.
You may have exaggerated a bit to complete a loan application form or request for jobs to provide the best. Always tell the truth . When announced to sell the house. Why not put a bra or seeking a new plastic surgeon?" "Hi.Chapter 8 "You think I am OUE -FAT CLOTHES WITH THIS? Why men lie? The new man in your life that really is all over with the former. no one notices it or he has a size suitable for your face.he prefers to hear him personality. You distrust. may have ceased to mention that leakage of engine oil to speak of the excellent conditions under which he was. Because their sinuses are fallen. but you do not know what it is. Most lies are the first meetings. You must see the reason for your bad breath and why not cut the hair of the nose?" "This meeting is organized chatíssima you. You would be wrong? Lie: noun. His girlfriend called in last minute canceling the meeting with you and an excuse that it seemed in tatters. those that exist for us to live jun-ments without violence or aggression. Proverb If you had told the strict truth to all those who interacted in the last week. When you sold the car. how people react? One thing is certain: you would be an insufferable person. what would have happened? If you tell the exact words that go through your head. probably would not have any friends and possibly more would be unemployed. you did not mention that the neighbor cat up and sometimes the smell is unbearable. as often prefer the subtle distortion of the true facts and stark naked. His female instinct tells you that something is wrong. Imagine the following situations: "Hi. but left to say or tell something that would have caused suffering to the person. What mind? Everybody lies. do not want to hear the truth about him . but you know he has a picture of it in the drawer of the office. If you have a nose too large. There is no one interesting beer is hot. Most of the lies that we are soft Lies. Or that . Adam. Maybe you have not told her husband that found a former boyfriend and that his heart shot." When was the last time you lied? Well. when all want to make the best. action by which a person is to deliberately deceive another person. Mary. as you may not have lied.then quit running.
This whole assembly was a fine trick. It was the lights on the hair do hair. making it possible for a person know if the other is telling the truth. where it served a glass of champagne. this scenario is called a romantic dinner with candlelight. remorse or discomfort when you lie. was impressed with the way Dennis get the scenario for the night: half-light. pants high heels. Everyone constantly lied to each other. half-light and soft music were not part of the normal lifestyle of Dennis and the usual topic of conversation was his sport.the group of friends who would just be reducing the lunch spicy brunette who works in the next office.were excited in the highest degree. And I was experienced enough to know that building the scenario the way they mount. But we can say that everything you said and did that night was in search of personal gain. Give the name you want . glorious. in turn. was based on lies and deceptions. Fortunately. most people feel guilt. and strongly. lit with candles. In polite language. But in reality it is a complete fabrication of lies half on both sides to try to gain personal advantage. is armed and behaved is thinking only in stimulating the sexual part of the brain of Dennis. caught in the web of obligation. All night. With a little practice is to recognize the behavioral signs we learn to lie and decodes them.sight. When he arrived. Parents lie to their children about sex and teenagers lie to their parents about sex. smiling. Research shows that 30-40% of patients get relief with placebos . a soft background music and fire burning. is decorate. All your senses . Sheelagh. Case study: Sheelagh and Dennis Sheelagh was asked by Dennis for dinner at his house and decided whim to impress you. touch and smell . both would deny. you raise the level of testosterone. Free sex with no inhibitions. Friends and lovers. They were talking a little about her work and the events of the day. Stephen King We lied for two reasons. and it is not easy to hide. looking at the eyes and encourage her to talk. Sheelagh felt completely overwhelmed by the caring and sensitive man . And assumed that he felt exactly the same for her. put a pair of long earrings and a bit of French perfume behind the ears. the chance to get to Sheelagh what I would be much greater. he presented with a beautiful bouquet of flowers and led it to the table. Dennis listened attentively. she realized that he was using to shave lotion that she said that he liked. But if faced with this basic fact. Dennis wanted sex. To sit. Only enemies tell the truth.so different from others she met. hearing. makeup is carefully chose a sexy dress. of course. or is lying.are all lies. Champagne. in short. obtaining a gain or avoid pain. Did you not concealed from the other lipo or prosthesis that did that to put the body shape? Ever not lied about your weight and your age? The list of large and small lies is endless. not to lie. On entering the dining room.
left little. and when he met a man who seemed loving. A month later. for example. The journalists who offer the stories to newspapers and magazines sensational. Lie beneficial to the malicious lies and malicious lie. a person who could not trust. the lying does not count as a lie. not an accident. fun and is interested in her. Nobody could blame for not warning Gerris Margie because Margie may not believe. C mo already said. The medical mind that the patient in the bed of death to raise her mood. This is the case of the German farmer who hid Jews from Nazis and denied to the authorities. was single mother.placebos . intelligent. ra late because the damage was enormous. in fact. discovering that War was over. A known God. parents who were themselves taught them to lie to prevent the .technically lying. In general. or as safe prescription drugs . Margie War gave false information on the character of a man. it is not an uncommon political rumors spread that an opponent has his inappropriate sexual behavior. this time by an act of concealment. Similarly. can spread the false information that its main competitor is in financial difficulties. When the truth was restored. was delighted.Types of lies There are four basic types of lies .the Branda Lie. The malicious lie has two main forms: concealment and falsification. heard. for example. In the blind. making it the guarantor of a loan and giving it the default. the Lie Branda is part of our social fabric and prevents us from ferirmos and insult each other with the truth hard. he was a notorious playboy. Types of liars "Natural liars" are people who are fully aware and confident in their ability to deceive. He was lying heroically. because the intention of the liar in this case is hurt or take advantage of victims in their own benefit. sensitive. A couple had their school and its reputation destroyed because they spread the rumor that sexually hurt the students. People in evidence as actors. To tell her friend Margie who was seeing this man. politicians and richies are the main targets of malicious lies. business and politics. War then moved to avoid it. One company.embraced with a smile-tooth Margie. even if they are inverídicas also benefit as the rivals of those affected in the world art. sorry. War. The fireman who rescues a child from a house on fire and mind to it saying that their parents are and is protecting it for some time to suffer an even greater trauma. cold and painful. Malicious lies are motivated by revenge or to gain advantages. The lies and malicious misconduct tend to be used as weapons in competitive situations. but if War took the decision not to warn it would also be guilty of lying. with results to be devastated and durable. Say. In forging a inverídica information is presented as true. The Lie benefit is used by people with the intention of helping. that a man cheating ex-girlfriend. and do as little. This type of lie is an intentional act. who. Invent the people intend to destroy the character and reputation of their victims. to get him out of the rival. he misappropriate information. she gives him in the face of the neighborhood shopping center . The malicious lie is the most dangerous. through another friend.
vendors. sex and other benefits of women. where most people mind and anything. The offices of the therapists are full of intelligent women and full of resources Romantic victims of a Liar. while others are masters in pose of lawyers. The most common objective of Romantic Liar is starting money.terrible punishment that would apply if told the truth. politicians and spies. Some returned in this type of experience. offending and creating problems for everyone they know. When a Romantic Liar enter into action. but first it will screw you. but what they want to believe that it is like the truth. If you lead the department of personnel of a large company would want to know as much as possible about a person applying for a position of trust. The truth will free him. It can be painful discover its faults. was persuaded by the parents that it was impossible to lie. For those liars. Consequently. actors. pretending to give in return love and emotion. Who minds the most? Most of the women has to say categorically that men lie more frequently than between them. The "liar non-natural" is the person who as a child. psychological and financial. that men and women lie in equal Others . as the biggest talent is his ability to live a lie plausible enough time to its victim fall in love. Even smart women be fooled by a Romantic Liar. doctors and businessmen to raise the successful. but will save you a far greater suffering in the long term. Studies and experiments show. seems to learn nothing suffered. however. the woman usually does not the slightest idea of what is happening. because it would inevitably discovered. they can cause enormous damage to women's emotional. Romantic liars can appear anywhere and go in and chat on the Internet. The emotional damage and loss of self-esteem often far beyond the material losses in these cases and may leave a woman emotionally marked: it will hardly believe any man. merchants. These poor creatures spend their lives indiscriminately telling the truth about everything. People say love of truth. right? Why not do the same with a prospective partner? The advice here is: always check the history of any product you want to keep for long. and sexual interest. even when they are evident to friends and family. Many natural liars take advantage of that ability in adulthood become criminal lawyers. Romantic Some liars are specialists in hiding who are married." annoying. MAL Pancoast One of the most dangerous lie that a woman can find the way is the romantic. the only limit is the imagination. She is blind to the lies or deny. repeating that "I never lie.
and only will if forced to give their opinion. The woman mind to make the man feel good. If a man says that sex with the ex was a drug. men are caught much more frequently." Sex is one of the constants of life of man . There is no reason to say that a person is not drunk . The woman said that a mind was wonderful clothes for someone. I never trance with that woman. as if you were deeply offended. or convince themselves that a calorie dessert not affect the system. "The sex with my ex was a drug. a man is able to say it is vice-director of a multinational distribution of food when it has a business of supply of pizza at home. the man moves away to not have to lie. tend to lie to make others feel better. The men lie to avoid discussion and to say. and men for doing good. And they say that sex with ex was better than with you. even thinking that the person was like a sack of potatoes.propose What varies is the content of the lie. What 's wrong with that?" He says she is a friend from childhood and . Women lie to keep the relationship safe and have great difficulty in lying about their feelings.except for being really drunk. They do not lie anymore. such as smoking two packs of cigarettes a day repeating that it is not biased and can stop whenever you want." tell a lie as indirect "I do not know what to say. Common lies that men tell women "I'm not drunk" a lie is easy to get. has nothing to gain by telling the truth. most women know very well that he is lying. to defend themselves from charges of women. Under the same circumstances.it is always good. Women of the m general. in his head. "Once and for all.women lie as much as men. The human mind to do good." or simply saying that lie loved. Even become aggressive. Due to heightening awareness for women's body language and vocal signs. it is highly likely that he is lying. "She is my friend. no matter where or when. He will say that the clothes are "interesting." The man who betrayed a lie until well beyond any evidence because. They just continue to get caught. especially because it usually sounds "Eooo a xtô bêbadu. The main question of the men who do women lie is: "What it was good?" The most common form of lie is self-deception. The evidence is clear . This is the main difference lies between male and female. but lie differently. In an extreme case. lying also likely to leave you angry. which leaves the impression that lie more. And in those cases where the man mind.
She knows I tell if a dog is happy.who have no other interest in it. because your brain is more developed for spatial tasks than for communication. Without these techniques of survival. it is best to do so by telephone. The woman must have ability to look at their offspring and immediately identify the pain. Most men do not think that guy has a dog required. she does not feel anything for me. lie is easy. sad. MRI scans of brain show that a woman has from 14 to 16 key points in the two hemispheres when communicating face to face. the more difficult it is to lie because of the emotions involved. the woman's brain is organized into multiple tracks.whether friendly or aggressive. disease. Here is the key to duck-logical liar: he has no emotional connection with anyone. If you see or not these tracks. A husband has difficulty to lie to his wife if he really loves. As I said. " Why not stick the lies? Most lies can be detected because. but will not have the slightest difficulty in lying to the enemy if captured in war. The man needs to reach its target accurately and not having a conversation with him deeper and full of meaning. The closer a person. The "hypersensitive" female has two goals: defend its territory against foreign and communicate with the children. angry or embarrassed. the woman is able to read the emotions of animals. involve emotions that flashing red lights as verbal or visual. For the same reasons. so that it can handle more . sorrow and joy. hunger. Why women are so good at catching lies? Most men know how difficult it is to run even a small lie to a woman face to face. If the man wants to lie to a woman. signs and changes in body tone. and respond to a large extent by what is known as "female intuition". she is going through a difficult situation and I want to help. Must be able to rapidly assess the attitude of people who are close to their nest .in general if they can get along. in danger. is another problem. Most women have less difficulty to lie in the face of the man . she is vulnerable. more tracks will be left by the liar. she is sick and wants me to go visit her. On May the lie and the more emotions involved. Other variants include: "She is lesbian. The purpose of man hunter was always reach its target accurately and not talk to him. fear. she needs to tell me something very secret. therefore. in general. without being caught. These points are used to decode words. Try to disguise these tracks creates an emotional issue for the majority of us. advise him or try to understand it. she is just needing a friend to talk. But keep away from you and not to let her know. so do not want you to go eat with us. The man has on average 4 to 7 of those points.
630 students and 2. more prone to cheat. call her or send her an email. fleeting. For that use the slow motion. . in the forms and job interviews to get what they want. If it needs. A third of students in each group was told to put lies prone in the curriculum vitae. Women not only have a greater ability to detect lies as they have greater ability to save them as ammunition for future discussions. This gives you the added advantage of knowing how to read the physical signs and hear what is being said while speaking.092 adults.is full of receptors for estrogen and grows more rapidly in girls than in boys. The FBI agents learn to analyze the "micro-expressions" . Advice for men Do not waste time telling a lie to a woman face to face. people who are lying. fraud and stealing.information at the same time. Why do women always remember? Erik Everhart. and 16% of secundaristas said that it had done at least once. Sixty-one percent of secundaristas and 32% of students admitted to have circumvented the tests at least once in the previous year. Read the mouth and eyes of someone requires a more refined analysis than judging the emotions of the face piece. 3. In the United States. which explains not only why they are much more difficult to deceive. lasting from a fraction of a second. The man with the brain of single track. There was. found that boys and girls from 8 to 11 years of age using different parts of their brains to identify faces and expressions Boys most use the right side. giving women greater ability to recover memories of things loaded with emotion. so many physical signs. plus the left. The hippocampus . Found that this difference helps the girl to detect subtle changes of facial expressions. you are informed at once and let go. while the men often forget their lies. and colleagues from the State University of New York in Buffalo. for example.the subtle expressions. assistant professor of psychology from East Carolina University. Women are very good at remembering what was the lie that those who counted and counted.the part of the brain used in language and the storage and retrieval of memory . The woman's brain is programmed to read the signs when they happen. about nine thousand adolescents and adults from all over the country. stealing The younger the person. Young people are more prone to lying. that Bill Clinton lour for a split second before answering any question about Monica Lewinsky. About 33% of secundaristas and 16% of students admitted having stolen goods from a shop on the previous year. swindling. We search for 3243 students from secondary school. It is very difficult. showed that a significant number of people in the range 15 to 30 years is prone to lying. a survey of 2002. but also that they are often negotiating more perceptive than men. making them better able to understand the state of mind of people. and the girls.
The father is approaching heatedly discuss that next to a puppy. too hurt or vengeful when he hears the truth. symptoms that reflect a real change of values in these societies. The children hear from parents that honesty is the best result. why did not the duty of the house. apologize: "Dad. The most disturbing was that 73% of those surveyed in the range 15 to 30 years said to believe that "most people cheat and lie when necessary to achieve what they want. Asked the student. The researchers found that the dishonesty and other unethical behaviors were less common among people over 30 years and lied that the two sexes in equal proportion. The father responds. it is a duty of kindness and just education. If you ask the children to tell you the truth. assume that all other people are. people flatter you do not like to give excuses to justify a lack liars or cancel an appointment. I avoid at all costs. In such cases. because they will distort the truth to avoid reaction. replied the director. Why the lies of friends and family hurt more . but the bribe the guard to watch traffic. we could say that Americans are a bunch of liars and fraudsters. When all the known lie to you Some believe that we should not trust anyone and that the world is full of liars. Unfortunately. The second reason." Based on this study. almost forcing the others to lie. as they themselves are liars usual. If people know that you are angry. "What is the reason for the fight?" Asks the father. If you are a person who offends easily. that the severity of punishment is a major stimulus to lie and one of the main reasons that children grow as stubborn liars. you got it!" Ambiguous messages about the lie that children receive has a major impact on their behavior when they grow up. Most parents do not realize."I can trouble for something I did?". "We're doing a competition. more likely. People find this for two reasons: first. then the sanctions because the truth is not in line with its expectations. Many of the behavioral patterns are liars down during childhood and youth. the teaching is lying to protect themselves. but similar studies conducted across the West showed the same trend." The survey found that 83% of secundaristas and 61% of university lied to the parents during the previous year. 'No'. will say. never know what the other is really thinking or feeling about them. and adulthood are triggered by figures of authority. "I never lied!" The boys were put to cry." "That ugly thing!". "Who gains from the biggest lie the dog. When someone reacts to what is said so aggressive and emotional. "Great." replied the boys. these are symptoms of great moral crisis that rages in all societies. for example. is that the behavior of these people makes the others lie to them. It is different than being instructed to pretend to like the gifts that have won or give a kiss on the annoying aunt who will visit them.
we know that. But the habitual liar not hesitate or forget. I i in my brother's house after breakfast and then . sister or child. mother.. due to the stress associated with the lie. in principle. the liar's voice becomes more acute. Good liars are able to make a second version identical. Consider the example of a person who combines is with you and not displayed. we surprised him with it and can choose to not see him ever again. Then give a break to the suspect to let him think that made it. wife. the used car salesman will lie to us. A malicious lie told by her husband. if I act like every word. cause more suffering to a lie. brother or sister hurts deeper. at least for a time. sister or child hurts more than told by an acquaintance." Liars do not hesitate Ask a person what she did last weekend and she will probably think a bit before saying something like: "Ah . Who does one turn is two If you think a person is lying. The liars leave the lies out of its references to themselves and avoided using the word "I". the more open to it. no. Ask liar to repeat what you think is a lie. In the end she will betray an excess of confidence in the performance. because the person will be our brother. because the feeling of betrayal is more pro-fund and you do not want to remove this person from your life. At the other extreme. the more we trust it. How to read between the what is said ." you instinctively distrust most of what she said "My car broke and I could not call you because the phone's battery was weak. just leaving to find her. analyzing the words of suspects who had alibis false. The FBI recently discovered this valuable clue. They prefer to say "I do not trance with that woman" than "I do not trance with Monica. " To recall the events of the day. but that person can be eliminated from our lives. people usually stop and change direction to try to put things in order. A lie told by a brother. Furthermore. they instinctively seek to distance itself from them. Clues to unmask a liar How people feel uncomfortable with the lie. then ask them to repeat a third time. The lie of a close friend also hurt." The liars also avoid using the name of the person involved in the lie.. His script is perfectly decorated and rarely does it wrong... but tends to be forgiven.The more intimate the relationship... As he does not expect this repeteco and is more relaxed. generally the third response is not accurate and the story seems a little different. for that before-I had to go get my car in the workshop .. aah . father. because the closer the person. If later the demand and it says "My car broke down and had no cell battery. I saw my brother after lunch. He tested his mind many times in the head and is generally able to perform without error.
There are people who exclaim "Bullshit!" when they hear a fact which seems extraordinary. honest and sincere than states and can be sign that he is lying. and oblige him to answer "I" to every request. but in the end thought that it was untrue." "I'm not kidding" and "I would lie to you?" are other versions." And no woman believes the man who says "Just a friend.S. you will do what I want. who will hire you for a full hour. "I only take five minutes of your time" is the USA. because they give the impression that the listener is unable." The force with which the person who says "Trust me" try to convince the other is proportional to the size of the bait. not mean that it will not believe what is being narrated. Unconsciously do this by introducing a true statement. not a rule. it is more clear that a contract gives you the possibility to interrupt the conversation past the time stipulated. "Only" and "only" The words "only" just "are used to minimize the meaning of words" which are then to relieve the guilt of the speaker or p ra blaming the other for any unpleasant consequence. For example: "Frankly. indicating that the person may be trying to hide the truth or convince you of an emotion that she does not feel. if so. $ 9. Here is a list of terms commonly used by people who want to convince them that speak the truth. he makes his observation with a "Trust me. some honest people have the habit of using those words repeatedly. honest. however.00 for entry" is used to convince the consumer that the price is insignificant. or what he is saying is not worthy of credit. Do you lack the confidence to say you feel? Are you trying to fool? Or are you wanting to escape from their responsibilities? Of course." When you hear someone say "only" and "only" should think about why the person tries to minimize the importance of what you're saying. "I am just a human being" is the motto of those who do not want to take responsibility for their mistakes. "You understand?" or "Do you understand?" at the end of the sentence are irritating mannerisms. To feel that you are not believing it. . "I love you" is easier to believe than "Honestly. Pay attention to your speech to see if you USA often these words and. But who has not always meant well.You already talked with someone who seems less convincing as this? Examine some common words and phrases. Who is being honest. trustworthy and decent credit need not convince anyone of it. I love you. If the person says "You give me five minutes?" and you agree. She argued. However. The words "honesty".95" and "Only U." "Without doubt" gives reason to doubt and "Without a doubt" is definitely a warning sign.S. "I just wanted to say I love you" mask the need for love is shy to say "I love you. when in reality they want to force you to believe what they are saying. "Only U. "Believe in what I am telling you" can mean "If I can make you believe me. A friend was my ex-beats the classroom at the college to respond with "Bullshit!" the statement of professor of religious sciences that had more than a thousand shrines where the Virgin Mary operated miracles. but should pay attention when you hear "just" and "only". saying that was just expressing surprise. "sincere" and "frankly" indicate that the speaker should be considerably less. try not to eliminate them is liable to generate mistrust. Remember. but who knows you believe?". that phrase alone is not evidence of dishonesty: it must be interpreted in its context. which will sound false. $ 40. this is the best I can offer you" is sometimes translated as "might not be the best that I have to offer.
Liars experienced less anxiety show that beginners and are sometimes able to pass the test of the polygraph. but the fact is that people of character do not need live testing its virtues. AHS."Why would I lie?" . You may recognize some of these phrases: ."As a member of ." . their speech tends to be dotted with uhms.height." It can also be a matter of uncertainty."To be absolutely frank / honest / honest with you. There are also physiological differences between people that may be source of errors in the polygraph test. ERS. innocence or the fidelity of their partners. Studies show that 70% of the amount of voice crotch when lying. They live their values in a way that is visible and that gives them credibility." ." . breathing and perspiration."Frankly Speaking. tension causes a tightening in the vocal chords that makes screechy voice and can increase its speed and volume. Paying attention to vocal tracks There are three characteristics of voice capable of delivering a liar . This is most noticeable in men than in women." .." . a lie is detected by the physiological effects that are manifested as the increase or decrease in heart rate. When a person is caught distorting the truth. which measures the breathing apparatus. speed and volume."I do not belong to this type of people. and hem breaks because there was not enough time to test the lie."I have no reason to lie. These machines can now be seen in programs of the TV interviews in which the American guests also tend to prove the guilt. the pulse and the relative volume of blood is the most famous of lie detector."I'm telling you the truth. speaking more slowly and reduces the volume of voice. have received or honor the traditions of his family to convince you of their honesty. except when determined by the judge. Conversely."Trust me.."I never I would be such a thing. no change occurs in these indicators. When a person speaks the truth. Recent studies show that the accuracy of the new computerized polygraph is close to 100%." ."You think I would be able to do such a thing?" Some people try to use the organization to which they belong. the liar that calculates the lie to ensure their effectiveness. When the person is in a situation of stress. When the person is wanting to cheat. Answers like these are given when the person is calling and not to respond directly to a question." . The polygraph is not accepted as evidence in court. Getting lie with the computer The progress of technology of computer generated three interesting ways to detect liars.. while honest people may be intimidated and lied to eventually classified as roses. The polygraph. blood pressure. because they have the brain less .
"believe me". "to be honest. In the book. If it touches the face several times and at the same time says "trust me". Keep in mind that they are not satisfied that the person is lying. feel insecure. exaggerate or lie. like politicians and religious fanatics who. your facial expressions are asymmetric. for example. it is reasonable to assume that you are listening to a lie. take your fingers to rub the nose or mouth. scratches his neck.the left side of the face mirrors the right side. suspicious. they believe their lies. This is true for children educated in Western culture and European. When people try to show that they do not feel emotions. that Bill Clinton touched his nose and face 26 times when answered questions about Monica Lewinsky before the grand jury. But most of the liars give many signs. There was. nothing guarantees that lying. however. most of the time. Smile Men and women smile the same way as when they lie and the truth. The smile that accompanies a true statement. pulling the ear and bring the hand to the neck. Mothers them said "I know you're lying . When it comes to lie in general at least three signs. When someone rub the eye. discussing the matter extensively. it does not show signs of fraud. but there is something she is not saying. and others. In other words. There are people who lie comfortably. If someone rub your eyes. and it is likely to be hiding something. is usually rapid and symmetrical . your smile is crooked means. pull the ear. Both men and women take much to hand to the face when in doubt. but there are some signs you can see when someone is lying. The fake smile is generally slow and asymmetric. irritation or fatigue.equipped to control the language. Interpret the whole Never interpret a gesture alone. without displaying too many signs of the stress. Interpreting body language In our book The Language of the Body body showed signs that represent more than 60% of the messages exchanged between people. The male gestures are easier to understand because they are more extensive and frequent: rubbing eyes and nose. may be itching. they show that it is experiencing some kind of stress. Is in the eye You probably learned to believe the liar never looks in the eyes. When the person mumble a reply to a question directly.
but record the suffering that their attitude question to you. open your arms and tilt it back. Men find it easier to lie with your hands in your pockets. 4. 8. It is the forced smile used by both sexes for fake sincerity. Sit in the chair higher. Talk soon. 5. If the room has a door.does not show that you know they're lying. experienced liars can maintain eye contact when they lie. If you get close. because it shows which part of the brain they are using. In addition. Crossing your arms or legs. Do not accuse. Give it an "exit". It is an instinct for defense. 3.because you can not look in my eyes. skillful liars look to the left. This observation is not without errors. and when invented a story. Stay calm. without further difficulty. 4. 9. Pretend not to hear or say that law did not understand what he said. Smile with the lips closed. In simple terms. but is a strong evidence of cheating. "Open up" to the truth. you lose the chance to be knowing the truth. His eyes fitam the void. 7. Deepening the pupils 6. It is important to note if s eyes blink more often . As not being a victim of lies 1. 2. he will feel uncomfortable. He wants to make you like it to believe it. 2. resulting in forced eye contact. Always leave an exit for him to go back and tell the truth. Aggressive questions as "Why do not you call me?" and "Are you seeing anyone?" may cause the liar is to secure its position and not improve anything in your relationship with him. look liars left to right. It is a subtle form of intimidation. 7. this does not apply. it is possible to continue denying it. Do not show surprise or amazement. 10. The brain tries to prevent the face of information. Descruze legs. Mispronounce or mumble the words. Add involuntary facial movements. . is where it will look. 9. The invading his personal space.a sign of growing tension and dryness of the eyeball. recalled when a real event. Try making it easy to tell the truth. and a signal is almost impossible to disguise. Liars just want to finish with the conversation. Shake your head indicating "no" when they answered "yes" and vice versa. 6. trigger the right side of the brain and look to the left. The direction where to move the eye of the person when it is a question you can also help you identify a liar. Hide your hands. Mimic the posture and his movement to establish a communication and make it more difficult for him to lie to you. Signs that denounce the lie in men 1. 5." In cultures where maintaining prolonged eye contact is considered an ill-educated attitude and aggressive. 3. A liar think doing so is not lying. Use the technique of self: "I felt a lack of your call. If you react negatively or with much emphasis." "I am sad when I think you're seeing another woman. trigger the left side of the brain and generally look to the right. 8. The deft." In the latter case. Not maintain eye contact. Never say what you really know . Demonstrate warmth and laughter too.
to find a solution to not having to resort to lying again. . Give him one last chance. And that is something that men and women will never understand. Finally. we asked our readers to send us the 9 phrases that men hear when they hide what they really want: dictionary of language patterns of male The men never understand women and women will never understand men. If he thinks you miss the hook. at worst.10. the more likely it is to confess everything and. Ignore the lie and say "What can we do that does not happen more?".
but with elegance. fair and low-necked to let that show their physical gifts. but elegant. Measure your waist and hips and calculate the proportion waist / hip dividing the waist by the hip. sizes. b. appearance and presentation. if your waist measures 75cm and 100cm his hip. If you could buy a new clothes regardless of price. Skinny / straight. b. The test relates only to their physical shape. With trousers or a long skirt. b. Casual. Which of the following attributes best describe your body? a. c. What type of shoe predominates in your wardrobe? a. 1. 3. The influence of personality traits on their attraction to men will be discussed later. how he reacts to you? This is something that every woman thinks: what is the first impression of a man when he says the first time? Most women want to know to what extent are attractive to men. with and without straps. c. This is a test to see how a man to evaluate the primeiva finding the time or were looking at his picture. A long and undulating clothes that cover all problem areas. Tiny shoes. based on responses from the male brain to certain forms.Chapter 9 THE TESTING OF WOMEN'S SEXUAL APPEAL How do you make people work? Take the test When the eyes of a man found the trellis in a room. 2. Created then this test to give you an idea of how they look. textures and female body language signals. Their ratio is: a. Terninho a stylish and well cut. less than 65%. High heels. c. 65 to 80%. A short clothes. For example. Athletic / strong. more than 80%. At the first meeting. b. with comfortable shoes. or jump down. b. Fashion shoes with medium heel. Modern in short skirts and high heels to show the legs. c. Heavy. how you dress for the man trying to impress? a. c. 6. It is a guide to the impact that you cause or ceases to cause a man when he sees for the first time. colors. not too flashy. what is your attitude? . the proportion is 75%. which would you prefer? a. 5. When you are chatting with an attractive man that stops leg bigwig. 4. proportions.
12. is the language on the lips. c. hips recline. 15. Smooth. thin or athletic. 8. Describe your makeup: a. b. Average length and thickness. Heavy load. With loose clothes that do not give any idea of the body that is underneath. c. I use much makeup. c. Plump. say: a. Natural. Compact / muscular. as he seems? a. Short. If you were invited to pose for Vogue. Inclined to the front. Stay near him with the legs unfolded. c. Infant / big eyes. hands on hips and lips exposed. 9. Lean / angulosa / muscular. b. My face is my blade. With an outfit just to highlight the silhouette. Colors and styles are in fashion. thin or thin. with hair pulled to the top of the head. b. b. Elegant / powerful features. c. c.How would you describe the your neck? a. Move the hair. the rear tilt and throwing a kiss to the camera. Protuberans / round. b. Back arched. Looking over the shoulder. lean hips and the caress your body to draw attention to it. thick and strong. If you ask a stranger to describe your ass. If your friends would describe her face. which he say? a. Soft / smooth. Curvilinear. which would pose? a. b. c. Try to make it sit so that it can not see his body. but sincere. When you pass your hand in the stomach. c.a. If Picasso was painting you would like? a. 13 . b. b. b. With a bra to lift the breasts and let the shows the neckline. You're going to a dinner in the light of candles and want to be sexy. c. Long. Round / in the form of a peach. 7. 14. regardless of day or hour to get the best appearance possible. 10. 11. What use . How you dress for the evening out with friends? a. Full.
How would you describe your appearance a. Your Hair is a. b. in the medium term. Neutral / natural color. As a man describe his eyes? a. And you can improve your appearance. Sexy c. Small as a button. You can use the earrings you want. As a cartoonist designer? a. Earrings of pearls and small diamonds. Large / child. Look at his nose in the mirror. 19. You choose: a. 17.Comprido b. Always remember to two things: their personality traits may. c. Medium. The color of fashion. Carefree b. they are immediately gaff. c. 18. c. b. 16. b. c. Elegant Your Score Now calculate your score and see where you are classified in terms of its appearance shows that of their sexuality. Small / tight. Bright red. Long before diamonds. Earrings with stones of medium size and pretty. Middle c. Almonds. Pedestrians stop to work to work and . b. Greater. 100 points or more: The goddess of sex When the men see. modify that image.lipstick? a. You're getting dressed to go to the Oscar party. Short 20.
The problem. Men feel women inevitably attracted by clear signs. You can improve your presentation without compromising their beliefs. Sign in to an academy to improve the form. will make you feel more beautiful and healthy and give you a great pleasure to live. for example. become more attractive to men. will have even more spectacular results. just needs some work areas to achieve what men want.to improve their appearance. But why not invest in their physical as well as invest in the intellect? Both of them are its aspects. and it is being right. You might say that is not interested in men who are no longer hypnotize by physical appearance. The next chapter will show you the reason for their success and how to further improve its score. 66 to 99 points: Miss Elegance Most women are in this squad.whatever you dislike . however. The attraction that you will hold on men is just one extra! You can also disguise their physical imperfections dressed up in a way that emphasized their strengths. Means that you are reasonably successful in making men feel attracted to you at first. Why not work with it . . Less than 65 points: Let's whim? You probably believe that personality is more important than appearance. at least in principle. If received 66 to 78. knowing that so attract a greater number of men and have more chance to choose? The next chapter will show you how to become more attractive and why most men babam by women with lower QLS and not look twice at you. is that even the most sensitive men and intelectualizados are at the mercy of biology. You are really an expert in the game of her sexuality and never missing program. If you got 78 to 99 points.whistles when you pass. Men like to see it and deal. know that if we really invest in their physical appearance.
where all were well stowed and makeup and flirting with him. In his office. in addition to raising their self-esteem. But Kim soon began to neglect when left with friends. and Daniel was leaving to look for her to do sex. As men are visual creatures stimulated by the appearance of Kim was a discouragement. Left to makeup. And found that the husband was much more frivolous than she imagined. At home after work. did not understand why he could not love her the way she was. Kim now is related to a group of women who think men are all us idiots. The ancestral biological signs of gender that we explain the working of the subconscious level. She said they liked to wear for him and especially how he looked when she arrived. Both loved the relationship and thought that the other was the ideal partner. do not deserve any effort on her part. the physical appearance affects our ability to attract and keep a partner. Kim changed. She was angry. But began to irritate the fact that she is working to produce. which is why we have to react to them. do not shave and wore clothes that for Daniel. What is more powerful. This behavior he said he and his friends were not important.Chapter 10 OR AND MAKES THE EYES OF MEN JUMP The power of female sexual attraction Case Study: Kim and Daniel Kim and Daniel were already leaving a year and had decided to marry. But understanding how the process of attracting and employing some simple strategies in your favor. Daniel could not explain his feelings and was blaming it for having touched on the subject. Daniel liked to see Kim always went out together when stowed and thought that her appearance was a clear signal that he had made the right choice. Four years after the marriage. contrasted with the appearance of Kim. money and energy. There seemed more care with the look inside. while at home was a tragedy. For the first time. Kim left like her mother. Like it or not. That does not mean you can not succeed with the opposite sex because it is not equal to Cameron Diaz or Brad Pitt. Daniel has been living with Kim and Jade. who met at work. and when left with friends. began to show cracks in the marriage and he started to notice other women. which. People who know are up to 90% of their opinion about us in the first four minutes and assess whether we are desirable in less than ten seconds. It boiled inside. Daniel thought that maybe she was going through a difficult period at work and once again take care. you can easily become more captivating. This is a line of evolutionary psychology that says that in the brain of each of us. Daniel decided to confront the situation and told Kim how she felt. there are patterns of behavior constructed by the waste needs of our ancestors. In this chapter we will examine the ingredients that make men and women desirable and attractive to each other. Kim felt that now was as a married woman need not impress anyone and most especially if store was loss of time. therefore: beauty and physical attraction and personality or . Six months later. no makeup and the hair drained. she always was in slippers and bathrobe.
This explains why many women tend to feel attracted by older men. the ideas about what is politically correct and personal subtleties. have more credibility and even more permission to break the rules than their less attractive correlative. tangible and intangible. higher wages. Messages are encoded and sent to tell others whether we are or not suitable for their purposes. The good news is that we have control over many of the determinants of our appearance and we can if we want. the University of Toronto found that attractive candidates received a number of votes in two and a half times larger than the non attractive. For men. and Longo Makhija) show that we automatically assign positive traits such as honesty. Tell a person that she is beautiful or attractive is to say. The biological purpose of beauty is attracting for breeding purposes. kindness and talent. the people of good appearance. What the science says Polls (Eagly. The theory of beauty Every person emits signals. put aside the theories of romantic love. change things. For a woman. Women like older men because they have more experience and more access to resources. Perhaps it is politically correct deny the impact of attractiveness in our decisions. without being aware of it. Analyzing the results of Canadian federal elections of 1976. when the woman displays the skills that allow you to pass their genes to the next generation. the subtext biological basics. the evidence still saying that our brains are programmed to respond to the physical appearance of the other. the answers to these early signs of attraction are programmed in the brain. in turn. In both sexes. is an attractive man who is presented as biologically able to provide you with food and safety during the creation of children. but like it or not. Attractive to people better jobs.intelligence? They will be examined in this chapter. without even know it. the attraction occurs in the biological. intelligence. that make it desirable to the potential partner. Ashmore. The evolution shaped our brains so that the good appearance is a sign of healthy person and relatively free of diseases. you want to have sex with her. You can choose to become attractive. Subsequent research revealed that 73% of voters denied categorically that may have been influenced by the appearance of the candidate and only one in eight voters are willing to at least consider this. Beauty and sexual attraction is essentially the same thing: the original meaning of the paplowing "beautiful" is "sexually stimulating". This means that they decided their vote on a subconscious level. Bill CIinton is proof. And to be as objective as possible. .
even politically correct in the twentieth century. It is understood that the body of women has evolved as a permanent sexual signaling system. his face lightly colored and an air of delicacy and fragility. In the last sixty years.The woman's body . a concubine for her beauty. poets and writers in the last six thousand years: the body and appearance of women have more attractive on men than their intelligence and capacities. We will examine it further. Based on these results. is something very different. almost all studies on the attraction reached the same conclusions that came painters. researchers from Massachusetts General Hospital found that these images activate the same parts of the brain that cocaine and cash. Sexy mouth 3. In the next two chapters you will know the results of 23 studies and experiments showing what men consider attractive in the body of the woman and vice versa. The wife is chosen for his virtue. developed to attract the attention of man. Factors that drive men in order of priority 1. as if assessing a potential partner through a photograph. classify each part of the body in a ranking of attractiveness and explain the reason for his influence. the criteria for male choice of a long term partner are not the same. however. Speaks to the things we pursue in attracting someone before you hear the person talk or even to know who is. Today the look emphasizes youth and vigor: the competition of beauty were created exclusively to promote an image that reflects the attractiveness of women's health. Keep in mind that we are considering only the physical and geographical characteristics of the body. we discuss the non-physical factors related to the choice of our partners. Chinese Proverb What makes a man attractive to a woman. The man of the twenty-first century or the same immediate things a woman as their ancestors. Athletic silhouette 2. At the end of this chapter.which encourages more men The "point" considered the most appropriate for the western woman in the nineteenth century was a pale complexion. To display photographs of women "beautiful" to heterosexual men. Sick sinus . but as you see.
giving you a rounded form and has no relationship to milk production. Stimulating 1: athletic silhouette the first item in the list of men is the women's athletic silhouette. however. Some women are horrified when they are submitted to the meaning of that groove. . were round and fleshy buttocks that played the leading role in the attraction of males. dark-brown. to escape the danger and to defend the nest if necessary. Lack of tummy 11. Dresses sutiãs cleavages and raise the breasts emphasize the signal to create a groove that mimics the buttocks of women vis-tas behind.are the favorite of men. Eyes attractive 8. because fat is an extra helping of breastfeeding successful. Most of the breast consists of fat.sexual signaling. A strong and well formed body is a sign of health and ability to tip in-breed. Most men prefer a woman more fleshy than the lean. Elongated neck Men prefer to look the brain because most of them see better than thought. Arched back 12. Others. Long hair 9. Buttocks hemispheric 7. use it to extend its advantage. Long legs 5. Whether they are the size of watermelons appear limõezinhos or . Vulva arqueada 13. Since humans began walking upright. one of the biggest sex symbols of the world. The nipples of women without children are pink. Small nose 10. females that covered the back. Are those that appear in the center pages of men's magazines and in ads that exploit the fri-appeal. have to attract the male that approached the front. All research shows that men like breasts of all types and sizes. the breasts become larger. Stimulant 3: Seios tired The breasts of women at the peak of their sexual and reproductive capacity .4. Why men have difficulty maintaining eye contact? Because the breasts are not eyes. and the mothers. Most of the time the breasts of human females are the one clear purpose .most men are passionately interested in them and are crazy for a groove. Few women know that Marilyn Monroe. When people went to four. was 44 and had dummy and thick legs.from eighteen to twenty-five years of age . Round hips / waist fine 6.
Legs extralongas become powerful non-verbal signs to tell the men that she is sexually maturing and is already able to procreate. reports. compression of organs. For a woman. Most women unconsciously understand the dynamics behind the legs extralongas and since teenagers. learn quickly how the thing works. tilt the buttocks. Later adopted the corset to accentuate the hips and flatten the belly. In search of femininity irresistible. Babies born with legs cur-ing for body size. breathing problems. Roseanne Stimulating 6: Buttocks hemispheric . the legs grow rapidly. Perhaps this is an important lesson for parents: lock their daughters the fourteenth to eighteenth day after the menstruation! Stimulating 5: Round Tables / Cintura fina For centuries women have used every kind of contraption to tighten the belt with the aim of obtaining a per-made for hourglass. a step to stardom. and this proportion does not change much in small children. women unconsciously choose more revealing dresses and high heels. The high heels are. I decided to get in shape. Even in the cold days. When ovulado.Stimulating 4: Long Legs The vision of a woman with legs that seem to end in the axillae in men leaves a lasting impression. That is why long legs have always been associated with a powerful sexuality. pies. But when the girl reaches puberty and the hormones begin to flow on his body and transforming her into women. because the attention is attracted to the area where the right leg and left it encountered tram. thus demonstrating their readiness for pregnancy and procreation. For men. a stairway to heaven. women increased the size of the hips and buttocks with pannier to flag potential getter. wear high heels and short dresses to give the impression that they have longer legs. Studies have shown that the length of dresses and height of jumps varies with the menstrual cycle. came to suffer deformities of the chest wall. the arched back. reducing their feet and pushing the pelvis forward. Men like women who wear high heels: they enhance the sexual profile of women stretching them to the legs. The principle behind the legs of women as sexual sign is yes. The more legs you can see the man and the more long-gas they are the sexiest woman you think. Never heard a man tell a woman she has beautiful long arms. the article by fri-appeal more efficient market. by far. In the nineteenth century. The form that was chosen to round. abortions and surgical extraction of ribs.
deposits of fat around the belly. That is why the academies and salons of yoga around the world is full of women doing abdominal exercises to get the perfect stomach type "table of my house. Professor Devendra Singh. geo-metric shapes and angles. usually accumulate as men. Throughout the story. have not most of the reproductive organs. women with waist thinner were the favorite. therefore. ie your waist measured 70% of your hip. wider. this pro-portion always showed a great ability to catch the attention of men. The additional bending of the buttocks and back tilt pushes the breasts forward. masculinity. showing them to groups of men asked to classify them in terms of attractiveness. led a test that used images of women beneath the weight above the weight and normal weight. evolutionary psychologist at the University of Texas. even when the weight of women was very large. associated with neglect and poor health. Women who already have a hysterectomy. "the goddess of beautiful buttocks. Hindquarters protruding is an ancient sign of female sexuality so revered in Greece that a temple was built in honor of Aphrodite Calipígia. Marilyn Monroe cut two centimeters of the left heel of his shoe to accentuate your grinder. High heels were with the woman hunch. Men around the world. and no belly is a clear sign of non-pregnancyboth for and willingness to male suitors. They start to lose interest when the proportion exceeds 80% or is less than 70%. Young people who wanted to capture the attention of men recreate the appearance of a large back-ro wearing pannier. which can still be seen in some tribes of southern Africa. buttocks cram the quaver and the floor. Ask any woman to assume a vertical posture and sexy you'll find is the preferred . brain and testicles. 'why there is no fat around the heart. which invariably attracted the attention of men. The buttocks of women store large quantities of fat to use in feeding and food reserves in difficult times. the more attractive. Sculptures and paintings of the Stone Age abound in images of women with large. young women began to make plastics and liposuction to reduce the size of the buttocks." Stimulants 11 and 12: back arched and vulva Curves and arches indicate femininity and fertility. In the groups below and above the weight. a formation known as esteatopigia. The most remarkable discovery was that experience that men have to share waist / hip 70% the highest score. the lower.The men believe the buttocks round. Stimulating 10: Absence of belly Women have a more rounded belly as men. A woman with healthy and fully capable of giving birth has a waist-hip ratio of 70%. like to women curvilinear. Women whose ratio exceeds 100% arouse little interest. protruding rear. The women of normal weight with pro-hip-waist portion around 70% were the most attractive. women had to keep the whole body covered in public. The mother-nature usually deposit the excess fat away from vital organs. to show accumulation of fat around the uterus and ovaries. When the excessive fat. so similar to the hump of the camel. peach-shaped. a non-verbal indicator of low fertility." In the nineteenth century. went out of fashion in the second half of the twentieth century. The jeans also became popular because it accentuated the buttocks and give them a look round and firm. and lumbar spine more arched. The greater part than the back of the woman is closer to that of man.
this often cause great anxiety with regard to aging.red. the size of the ear it was the indicator of sensuality. These signals cause reactions in parental brains of men and a powerful desire to touch. It is always the favorite color of every woman who poses for sexual symbol. Flesh lips and big eyes on the size of the face. All races prefer faces that emerged ability to play healthy. And always had a single color . And to the face of a woman is generally classified as "beautiful". invented the first beauty salon in six thousand years ago. protruding apples. delicate jaws. The zoologists believe that the woman's lips moved as mirror of his genitals. Men like their women to wear lipstick and makeup by artificially give the signal that they are interested or feel excited for them. The base gives the skin a uniform appearance and no stains that signals youth. good health and good genes. The women's favorite features are the small faces with short jaws. ask any woman to be on foot and make a sexy pose. was used by Egyptians as an eco genital permanent. The lipstick.children should have a touch. the formula is clear . Stimulating 13: Neck elongated the neck structures evolved in males as short. If you do not believe. with both arms supported them to occupy more space and increase the chance to draw attention. For women.position of the hook-up back and quaver of the hips. because they have the same size and thickness. a reaction that sends powerful signals to men and that observers began to develop when we began to walk upright. and state of sexual arousal. embrace and protect. that bond still . Exciting 2: Boca sensual Humans are the only press that these are the lips on the outside of the mouth. The woman's face is a screen on which a daily basis it paints a picture of me before her. Above all. As the face attracts Our interest in human faces attractive is something that seems to be part of our psychology and does not depend on cultural backgrounds. men like a grin and an air vulnerable. PICASSO The excitement of women's sexuality can cause a flushing in the capillarity of its sides. That made the neck longer and thin women a powerful sign of differentiation between the sexes that men like to kiss and see adorned in jewels and cartoonists exaggerate to emphasize the femininity. is also expanding and is filled with blood. For thousands of years. thick and strong to protect them from breaks during the hunts and battles. Look at how many these days use plastic surgery to try to conserve or restore the youthful look. The bright red lipstick is one of the main signs that a sexual woman can use. This is known as "eco genital". The blush is to recreate that effect.
large eyes are considered attractive. something that only men seem to understand. which immediately attracts the . giving them that look childish. Women began to use modern cosmetic when. The plastic surgeons usually modify the nostrils to form an angle of 35-40 degrees to the face.exists in parts of Africa and in Borneo. but it is important that women understand the effects that these signs have in exploiting the men and romantic meetings. Today. Bambi. Excesses may send a wrong impression to customers and cause of male rivalry in female clients. The cartoonists exploit this feature to a large extent. the cute 110 thousand and 90 thousand redheads. Since then. eye liner and shadow to artificially create the impression that she is interested.all with the purpose of creating the illusion of sexual facial signs. Our tests with computer images show that the longer the earrings of women. Stimulating 9: Nose Small Small nose is another reminiscence of childhood in men that produces feelings of security. the industry of perfumery and cosmetics reached a total value of more than 50 trillion dollars a year . Unfortunately. Will never see a female model with a large nose. most men give their sensuality. if their pupils dilate and mascara. creating characters of large eyes and small nose to win the hearts of your audience. The blondes have 140 thousand yarn hair. The men feel more attracted to women who use natural rnaquiagem than by women who seem to have been molded to reap the bricklayer. even the actors are doing operations for the reduction of nose in line with the new image of the androgynous man of twenty-first century. and the blondes are the genuine public also laurels. The blondes are also in front of other things. Eyes that look great on the lower face in men inspire feelings of security.is this the real reason for the greater success of blondes? The blond hair is also a powerful visual indicator of women's youth: it darkens after she gives birth. we have become so unaccustomed to see faces clean. in 1920. Blond-haired women have a higher level of estrogen that cute. The makeup enhances your eyes and look the child rearing. When a woman finds a man attractive. Stimulating 7: Eyes attractive In almost all countries.214 British men. Stimulating 8: long hair If the person never cut his hair. he would reach about one meter long. The modern woman gets the same effect using long pending. Contact lenses give the illusion that the woman's eyes are shining and the dilated pupils. the men show a preference for women of color and clear eyes. They interpret as a sign of fertility. among the tribes Kelabit and Kenyah. joined in greater numbers in the workforce. Over you-do. The feminists might say that these are good reasons not to use cosmetics or earrings. Similarly. Barbie and Minnie Mouse have small nose. We did a survey with 5. as some women believe to be ugly without makeup and use it as a mask to hide and not as an aid to make their faces more seductive and mysterious. which explains why men find "strangely attractive" women who wear contact lenses. a woman who wants to be taken seriously in the workplace should use less eye makeup and lipsticks colors more subtle. asking them what kind of hair seemed more .
Considered that the long hair gave the woman a sensual delight and the short hair indicated a more serious approach to life. This appearance has little success with the heterosexual men. 12% of women prefer short hair. play piano or fight for world peace. emaciated-looking. In the case of the Miss Universe. however.sexually attractive women. In business. painted or drew pictures of naked women were almost all men. reliability and integrity in business? If you are a branch . The result was predictable: 74% think the long hair of women more sexually attractive. when you see a pornographic image of a woman. He is attracted by the shapes and curves and the virtual suggestion that she is able to transmit their genes. The lessons to be learned here is clear: the woman must use when long hair and want to attract men hair short or pulled back in working meetings. Until the beginning of the feminist movement in the 1960s. the importance and attractiveness of what the dresses. an idea that attracted millions of women everywhere. power. her hair and clothing to ensure an image of credibility. The men of past generations would also like to feast your eyes with erotic images of women. In remote times. The artists who carved. The feminism that said women dress to attract men is not more important . The costume gives it a professional position of equality with men and women of business and. and the vast majority of images of naked men to be homosexuals.the inner beauty now had more than the appearance. The key to a successful clothing business is simple. Styles as punk and grunge came as opposition to the use of clothing to attract men and to show the world that men and women could be equal in regard to appearance. The link between attraction and pornography See pornography is an activity almost entirely male. The modern woman has two basic codes of dress: clothes and work clothes of non-work. over 70% of the audience are formed by men who want to see women showing signs able to stimulate the reactions of their ancestral brain. Ninety-nine percent of pornographic sites on the Internet are addressed to men. use the black lipstick and nail until the display dark olheiras as if they were doped. How does the person you want to influence you waiting for? How should your makeup. This code antiatração of clothing has evolved to the point that in 1990. who rarely attend the fashion show. the models begin to have no female bodies. women wore it for the reason of all: to attract men and other women overcome. the other has no choice. It never occurs if it has a nice personality. Women must understand that the men crawl the Internet in search of shapes and curves that appeal to your brain. They believed then that could be free of oppressive obligation of having to always be beautiful for men. The impact of women's clothing on men The discussion of the effects of women's appearance requires some understanding of the history of clothing. For centuries. but through paintings. never knows if she does cook. long hair and bright and showed a healthy body well nourished and have a history of health of its carrier and its potential for procreation. secondly. a sexy appearance may be disadvantageous for women in a position of power or in a branch where men predominate. A man. her jewelry. it allows women to overcome further demonstrate the success. the clothes of women emphasized their physical skills in order to attract the attention of potential suitors.
in it is necessary to men sell their expertise and management, most signs of attraction that we discussed are inappropriate. However, if your business is selling the very picture female - cosmetics or clothes for example - many of the signs we discuss can be used successfully. If you have marks or scars, a birth defect or a feature that really does not like, is perhaps the case to a plastic surgery. Most people who have expressed satisfaction with the outcome. In a typical week, the average person is exposed to more than five hundred images of human beings "perfect" in magazines, newspapers, billboards and television. Most of these images is the product of technology, such as airbrush, highlight of makeup, computer graphics and effects of light. They rarely show the real person. Do not compare with the images of women's magazines. They only make you feel ugly. Plastic Surgery Today, an increasing number of people are opting for plastic correction (correction sounds better than surgery) to improve the appearance. In the United States alone, more than a million people are treated under the knife every year the main reason that people choose this path is to improve self-image and self-confidence, increasing capacity to deliver the signals discussed here. The celebrities are the most common patients. The fix plastic is not new. Centuries before the liposuction and breast implants, had padded mesh for men with calves too thin, iron corsets for women and pudgy pannier for them to increase the buttocks and hips. King Henry VIII wore a padded zipper to increase their virility and small Syphilitic and compete with the French royal. The it was decorated with jewels and emblems. But it is important to understand that plastic surgery does not make you a better person or more beloved, nor solve the problems of life. The only person who thinks you look for is probably a problem with their self-image. It is not the type of person with whom you should want to connect. The other side of attraction Why Men Have Sex and Women They Love? records the results of a survey of fifteen thousand men and women about what they seek in a partner. The relationship is: What men look for in a partner A. At first sight: 1. Good appearance. 2. Well-turned body.
3. Breasts. 4. Buttocks. B. In the long term: 1. Personality. 2. Good appearance. 3. Intellectual capacity. 4. Mood. The A shows what we already know - men are visually stimulated beings who enjoy looking at attractive women. Most women understand the science and research has proven many times, but not "politically correct" recognize it. The feminists in general abhors the idea of a woman be judged by their physical appearance and classified the men of superficial and frivolous. But that does not change the fact that the first reaction of these women is overwhelmingly visual. A list of the items are visual, so you must remember that it is making its debut presentation of. But this is not the case with the B list: a "good appearance" is the only visual item that men seeking a partner for the long term. As the visual signs are so important to man, he unconsciously USA the appearance of women as a measure of respect and love she has for him. He thinks that if she spends time with the appearance, it is because they feel attracted. One of the major complaints of men in actions of divorce is that the wives after the marriage, left the appearance disposed down the drain. They say they used the appearance to attract them and then thought it was no longer necessary. Most men are disappointed with the only woman who dresses for work colleagues. Women, however, have difficulty to understand them here, for not bind with the same intensity to their love appearance. For a woman, have sense of humor does not mean tell jokes. I mean laugh of his jokes. Solution It is inevitable: their appearance influences the response to treatment and the other given. Also influences their self-image and behavior. Most components of their appearance depends to a greater or lesser degree, of their actions. There are courses of clothing and etiquette to learn to walk, sit, talk, dress, makeup on and so on. The bookshops are full of publications on the subject. Department stores often offer free makeup they teach the customers to choose and apply cosmetics. A good hairdresser can you recommend the best way to get the hair, the beautician, from skin care, and dentists, to fix their teeth. The weight is also subject to control, because a competent nutritionist teaches you good eating habits and exercises in a gym will give you the way you want. If you absolutely must, have to make a new nose, increase the breasts, remove the signs of aging. In the XXI century there are few legitimate reasons for you not get the look you want.
The sexual attraction is 50% what you have and 50% what people think you have. Zsa Zsa Gabor This research shows two things. First, men focus on visual images in his first encounter with a woman, and overall appearance is more important than the body beautiful. This means that the way a woman dresses, the makeup and style are worth more points than quilinhos the most, some small bones and sinuses. Secondly, the long-term man is more interested in personality, intelligence and sense of humor of the woman, but a "good appearance" is still high on their list price. The good news is that you have a broad control over most of their appearance and can change things to fit.
"You will still love me when I become old and white hair?", She asked. "I not only I love her ', he replied," I like to write. We are not suggesting that women should have the obsession with appearance as often occurs, but it is important that it strives to have the best appearance possible. There is no ugly woman, woman is lazy. HELENA RUBINSTEIN Above all, you can become more attractive is developing intellectually and emotionally. There are women who, although they are not physically beautiful, become so interesting for its human quality, his gift for communication and intelligence, leaving behind many of the sex goddesses. Men may rave bold with breasts and women with biceps of steel, but the polls show that in the end, the related-ments have more to do with spirit than with the matter. The key ingredient is the flame inside that comes from self - sexual, emotional and professional. In other words, make it an interesting person and they will not realize their physical imperfections. Abstract It is fact that the woman's appearance can attract or repel the man in the relationship. Many women are angry with this. You think this is an unjust man in gray and wrinkle-be distinct and mature, and the woman in the same situation, just an old. But this is the case. No additional tapir is bored with it and look if the complaining that you can not change. So the men - and women - think. Do not fight it. Manage its consequences. If you are dissatisfied with some aspect of their appearance, change. You have the resources to do so. And if not to attract a man, do it by yourself.
6. For example. Lean or without ass. . What is your response? a. Significantly above average. What do they respond? a. 4. Rectangular. 2. Your income is: a. c. but think occasional flirtations contributing to the ongoing relationship. they say: a.8%. b. c. b. You asked women to describe their mouths. You go to the TV show "Meeting the dark" and a candidate asks you to describe your body type. b. Neutral or down. c. In the form of "V". Small and compact. You think the man should be: a. Their ratio is: a. their proportion is 85. Below average. Take the test 1. Heavy load. After doing the test. b. b. if your chest measures 91 cm and 106 cm their hip. Gentle / kind. Take the measure of your chest. 3 . Happy.the open relationship is the way of the future. b. 85-95%. but I prefer to work part time. 100% or more. c. Redondo.If you ask women to describe their ass. 100% monogamist.Chapter 11 THE TEST OF MALE SEX APPEAL How is your concept to women in terms of attractiveness? They feel the irresistible . The test records the points you receive . divide it by the hip measurement and then multiply by 100. In the next chapter you will learn all the secrets about what women seek to be a real man. Reasonable for my age and experience. 5.in physical and non-physical every time a woman knows. c.or are you indifferent? You are attractive or repulsive? Take the test now to see your score with women. Less than 85%. c. ask their friends to take notes for your answers and compare the result. Freedom of compromise . Compromised.
Jogging and tennis. Kind / gentle. 8. His thighs are: a. Shirt and jeans with tennis shoes. c. b. I need to improve on that. c. b. Bald head or scraped. 11 . b. Long / thin. You probably notice. c. Describe your chin and your nose. c. b. Fun / malicious. protruding jaw. Very important. More or less half (large entries. You probably will not notice. c. As a woman describe your eyes? a. b. Distant / cold. Social pants and shirt. for example). A well defined abdomen. which will feel? a. Not important. sad or anxious: a. c. Average. b. Almost the whole. a. c. Plump. How is your sense of humor? a. As you have hair? a. 15. 14. Look in the mirror. 9. Muscle / angles. b. b. shoe leather. Can be the joy of the party. I am a goner. A barrel. c. You have been invited to a party and heard that there are many women that you are to impress.7. Solid nose. seem appropriate to my face. c. 10. You will know immediately. If a woman passes his hand over her belly. 12. Relevant.Size is paper? You think for women the size of the penis is: a. b. How to dress? a. If a woman is distressed. . 13. Small nose and chin. if a little talk with her. A smooth surface.
47 to 89 points: A cat Most men belong to this category. because they may find that you are superficial and obsessed with itself. Send them the right signs and how to enhance their skills to attract them. b. I know a lot about people. need not improve much. 17. You have a reasonable ability to use their skills to attract women-the women. Use beard. But careful not to make their appearance too perfect. Your Score Question Point to Point B Point C 1753 The 2 9 1 3375 4354 5315 6194 7145 8351 9531 10 3 5 9 11 3 7 5 12 1 5 4 13 5 3 1 14 5 1 3 15 1 9 7 16 3 4 5 17 9 7 3 Now total the points and see the ranking of their sexuality 90 points or more: A Gatão Wow! You can consider a magnet for women.16. 46 points or less: A cat pooch Seu Placar Questão Pontos A Pontos B Pontos C 1 7 5 3 2 9 1 O 3 3 7 5 4 3 5 4 5 3 1 5 6 1 9 4 7 1 4 5 8 3 5 1 9 5 3 1 10 3 5 9 11 3 7 5 12 1 5 4 13 5 3 1 14 5 1 3 15 1 9 7 16 3 4 5 17 9 7 3 . If you are close to 89 points. b. Being with his face and shaved. They do not want selfish men. Be beard of three days. places and things. E is close to 47 points. Do you ever: a. Reasonable coverage. you have a base that needs to be quite worked. Just take a look at the questions that not many points scored and read the tips of the next chapter. No woman wants to compete with its partner the mirror. c. c. I understood in my area. What is the extent of their conversation? a. which for most women is a discouraging factor. The next chapter will show you how.
they are sensitive to their needs and have ambition and talent to move up in life. For you. you can learn most of these things. that are laughing. and console is saying that man prefers women beer is BOIOLI. If you want to become attractive to women. the friends are more important than women. will need help! Women like men who have personality. Think about how women will see the fun of your life looking for you in a different way! . Fortunately.You might ask why women are fleeing from you.
The symmetry of the human body is more important for women than facial symmetry why the champions of boxing often attract beautiful women Among humans. the attraction for women firm and symmetrical men may vary with the menstrual cycle. bringing them the chance of survival. DNA tests show that 10% of babies born in marriages are not children of the partner. are symmetrical or not. resulted in minor penalties and fines lower (Castelloe. women are attracted by strong men and healthy.even unconsciously . with members of the same size. But both sexes see . a study of the attractiveness of 74 men accused. the symmetry plays a significant role in female choice. What the science says Polls conducted in the United States show that attractive people earn 12-14% more than their fellow non-attractive (and Hammermesh Biddle). It seems that the wife chosen by their ability to from the pain. but the woman in the XXI century and more than their ancestors: a man who wants also to meet their emotional needs. Judging is attractive only by the appearance (which is what we are doing here). she feels attracted to men with characteristics Manly and harsh. In Pennsylvania. which started before their . They look for faces . The female sex appeal is a complex and sophisticated. 1990). Wuensch and Moore. When the probability of conception is highest (more or less in half of the menstrual cycle). sending messages to men about women's ability to be a carrier healthy and successful in their genes. If you ovulado. Very little has changed in that respect. therefore. An es-all done in Scotland found that the type of male faces more attractive for women varies according to the phases of the menstrual cycle. in search of two basic requirements: hardness and softness. just as the symmetrical flowers are more attractive to bees because they have more nectar. however. as I said. Hardness means that the partner is taken. In Britain. women are more prone to choose a man hard and for a symmetrical relationship of short-term. must have virtues that provide the best possible genetic he-rity for their children. and the symmetrical animals tend to live more than non-symmetrical. This is totally different from how men see women. Your brain has. This is because. Since the beginning of time. but was looking good genes elsewhere.symmetrical.Chapter 12 WHAT TO ATTRACT WOMEN The first thing you will notice in this chapter on sexual attraction to men about women is that it is half the size of the chapter that deals with female stimuli on men.such symmetries as indicators of youth and health. As partners in the long term. the female body has evolved as a signaling device sexual.and no bodies . The concern here is that attractive people receive more favorable treatment in court. able to obtain food and protect the family. the male sex appeal is more basic and direct. women tend to choose men who invest in the relationship and the creation of children. One way of identifying these characteristics is the symmetry of the human body: the left side of his body should mirror the right hand. 1991 and Downs and Lyons.
providing a better distribution of oxygen and allow them to breathe more efficiently by running or hunt. 1978). the man has angles and strength and it is this difference which is so attractive. 6. Sensual mouth. when he had better look to the victim. The men developed such characteristics to carry heavy weapons and take their prey home. 4. but had two times more likely to escape the prison of the defendants non-attractive. But when the victim was more attractive to the accused. Lack of tummy. since no one has the possibility to improve their appearance. 7. This explains why the biggest cheats people are almost always attractive. A strong and athletic body is a sign of good health. the average compensation was $ 10. Even in our age of supposed gender equality. Kind eyes. Narrow hips and muscular legs. they put their hands on hips. Where she has curves and softness. When modern man reaches his goal. Stimulating 1: Body athletic Topping the list of female attractive male body is athletic-looking. extending in the hips. but looking on the bright side. Chest and broad shoulders and muscular arms. Broad shoulders are a male character. 5. The sexual responses of women are caused by certain visual aspects of the male body. in order of priority. The main factors stimulating women 1. where large breasts and biceps topping are of little practical use. Nose and strong chin. The bigger the breast.051 (Kulfa and Kessler. 2. 3. This may seem dispirited. his chest still "full of pride. The male breast is enlarged to house large lungs. 11. 8. just to make it a conscious decision.623. Athletic body. The V in also attracting a woman. There is another reason that the shoulder strap give status to men. the results would be significantly different. The evidence shows that. A study of the damages awarded in negligence cases found that. because it is the opposite: it has the shape of an inverted V.trials. the average compensation was $ 5." and the . more respect and be a man requires. often copied by women in search of affirmation. Exciting 2: Chest and shoulders and long muscular arms The upper body of the male hunter is large. Large penis. in the form of "V". close to the height of the hip. 9. these signals also stimulate the brain of the woman when she evaluates potential partners. if members of the courts had the power not blindfolded to see the accused. Beard of three days. 10. Small and firm ass. Here they are. becoming more attractive to other people. Women who use the professional environment Epaulettes are seen as more positive. while the body of the woman is more narrow in the shoulders. showed that attractive defendants received sentences not only lighter. which indicates the potential of man to get food and defeat his enemies. Hair tired. To appear wider in the shoulders and occupy more space.
The ass has always been the object of jokes. The male baldness is inherited and its cause is the overproduction of male hormones. The men have forearms longer than women. why cut it fuses in camafeus to save and use in religious ceremonies. but few are women who understand the reason of his magnetism. when a woman knocks on the buttocks of the man. healthy. A look athletic. Small and firm buttocks indicate greater chance of conception. The hairy armpits were always a feature heavily male. In other words. About 50% of women give high importance to the fact that humans have an abundant mane. The same happens with the breast and pubic hair. which give the best shot and shot. For a woman it is not ideal. hair on his head has always been considered a distinctive male brute force. In the case of monks. Samson lost his strength when he had his hair cut. so that the attraction has on women. The redness of the buttocks is similar to the state of women's sexual arousal and stimulation of nerve endings on the buttocks is transmitted to the genitals. Men with small and firm buttocks indicate a greater chance of working more efficiently. Men with flaccid buttocks fat or have difficulties with these movements. So that we could stay upright and walk on two feet. to stimulate. and therefore more ability to the role of provider. which contain a musky pheromone that stimulates the brain of women sexually. Stimulant 3: Bunda and small firm The male monkeys do not have protruding buttocks and hemispheric-only humans have.boys still associate the upper torso and the masculinity formed. The armpit hair retains the smell of the sweat glands segregated. Why then the women are interested both in the ass man? Why do you feel desire to move your hand? Why look like photos of a man with beautiful butt? Small and firm buttocks are the favorite of women worldwide. many of which find attractive calves head or scraped. tending to throw the whole weight of the body of the woman. shave the head was seen as a sign of humility before God. which however is a low priority for others. and many men and women to consider a sexual stimulant. the gluteal muscles of the thigh had a tremendous expansion. but most do not like the genre "muscle-man" because you think that kind of man is probably more interested in their beauty than in her. Beat naked buttocks is a practice that attracts long sadistic and masochistic. The secret lies in the fact that firm and muscular buttocks provide vigorous forward movement during the sexual act. A head full of hair always represented the strength and power of man. . Stimulating 4: Hair tired Throughout history. and discourages the kind Arnold Schwarzenegger. Women are certainly attracted by a male torso well defined. a part of the body usually treated with humor and disdain. In the Middle Ages was thought that the hair had magical powers. because the weight of the man can cause him discomfort and hamper their breathing. it really is encouraging to have an erection.
the same way as the penis. The masculinity transmitted by a head Calva accentuates the difference between the sexes and is therefore a stimulus for many women. For others. We have experience using computer-altered images of male head with varying degrees of baldness. men tend to use words like "wet. were seen as less powerful and less well-paid. which show the volunteers asked to say that the impression caused on the desktop. that myth is not supported by research. Push the chin forward is considered a gesture of defiance. and feel frustrated because they can not do nothing about . disabling certain papillae capillaries. real or potential. Here is an additional . Found that the more bald man. we found that only men have the bald jokes. the chin and face strong was formed to protect the man on the face of blows during the fight and hunt. to describe the mouth and eyes of men. But they must take into account that compensation for baldness is the enhancing of its aura of masculinity and power. men Calvos are generally more aggressive and more sexually excited than their fellow non-Calvo. The tired men with hair on the other hand. Men with high testosterone are more and more protruding jaws. it is a sex machine. Rather than see her as a weakness and something to joke. many women feel encouraged by it and even like to kiss or fondle the man's shiny dome." "sexy. Stimulating 7: strong nose and chin the nose. is filled with blood in the state of sexual arousal and its temperature has increased by about six degrees. A head Calva is therefore a powerful showcase of testosterone. generally located at the top of the head. women rarely do. During the search we did for our book Rude and Politically Incorrect jokes (Jokes rude and politically in-correct). Since the times of Rome. Many men suffer from baldness. however. The down chin is associated with fear and perplexity. What was discovered." "succulent" and "erotic." "inviting. however." But words are not used in the literal sense to describe the physical observed. "attentive". Due to higher levels of hormone. and is not popular among women. Stimulants 5 and 6: Boca sensual and gentle eyes To describe the lips and eyes of women. The only thing that the nose has in common with the penis is the way he stresses on the front of the body.They irrigate the hormone system. the size of the nose of the man is associated with the size of the penis. is that the nose of man. which makes the baldness a sign of exaggerated masculinity." Women. This is due in part to the solidarity of women with the discomfort that baldness brings men and partly to the fact that baldness is a sign of masculinity. one is bald. which is not recommended. For some. the greater the impression of power and success that it transmits and the lower the resistance potential of people to their authority.the only safe way to prevent baldness is castration before puberty. The women use to refer to their perception of the attitude of man. using words like "tender"." "delicious. and so remain today as powerful symbols of masculinity. "sensitive". "protectors" and "loving.
while women look beyond. Despite the members that can be digitally magnified view web sites in the penis longer officially registered media 36 cm. eventually inviting her to go to their apartment. man is the one who has the biggest penis. The erect penis measures 14 cm on average and the vaginal canal of most women is 9 cm long. a prominent gut is seen as a sign of neglect and little regard for the health personnel. . In a happy relationship. trying to convince us at all costs that can not live without an athletic abdomen. The great North American neuropsychology Davendra Dr. but that power is more head than in the sexual organ. a woman rarely takes into account the size of the penis. because it showed that its bearer had resources to eat as I wanted. because the ankles and feet out from the side to balance the weight of the body. Well-defined abdominal muscles have never been the object of special admiration in male anatomy. The wide hips mean that many women have difficulty in running. In modern society. because the seekers are the bodily signs of other animals over long distances. because she was sure that his penis was too small.proof of the difference between the sexes: men see the characteristics in themselves. and there is no relationship between the size of the body. obtaining information about their attitude. In the separations painful. The boy was terrified the first time that would have sex with his girlfriend. The narrow hips allow men walk long distances quickly in hunting and persecution. For thousands of years. nose. which allows the person to track the direction of gaze of another. men who have a ratio waist / hip of 90% are more attractive. but they are sometimes taken to mean that the ex-partners have small penis as a form of revenge. where food is abundant. The truth is that a man with an erection of 8 cm is able to do better service than a man with a 18 cm. because the shorter penis may reach the right place with more precision. with the bulk of its sensitivity in the first 5 cm. As the eyes. This view was constructed by fitness centers and equipment manufacturers. Stimulating 9: Lack of tummy In remote times. in search of excitement. the size of the penis was attached to the power of man and his skill as a lover. The white of the eye is an auxiliary communication face to face. the women have more white than those of men because the female brain is configured as a communication tool next. Stimulating 10: Penis large Among all primates. a large belly was a symbol of status. Most animals have little or no white in the eye. Singh found that for women. when food was scarce. and the foot size of the penis. The legs of the man is attractive to women only as symbols of power and resistance men. Stimulating 8: Hip close and muscular legs The powerful legs and angles of the human male are the longest among all primates. The euphoria of some women to see men of large penises seems more a reaction to the male's apparent that what the size of the body can actually accomplish. But how could not postpone forever.
2. rarely gives greater importance. Men need to learn that the woman measures the depth of the relationship by the attitude they have with it. . began Despi her and stroking her. Women. thanks'. she sees him as a bonus. But the man who returns to noon a shadow of five in the afternoon gave the impression that he is crazy for action. 5. standing or lying in front and back. she said. Intellectual capacity. " The change is not programmed women to sexually excite the vision of the male genitals. that Tom Cruise is much more sexy than with beard shaved. What women look for in a man: 1. They want men to be attentive. Are only successful with the gay audience. The woman wants a man who is loving. Sensitivity. caring and communicative. he lowered the light and began to strip. contrary to what occurs with men. it does not take a look as an indicator of the feeling he has for her. wishing she did not notice the size. the beard of three days is a powerful visual sign of masculinity often used by men to compensate for your face kid. Healthy body. Nervous. If the man has a beautiful body. humorous. loyal and understanding. The higher the level of testosterone of men in a day. he finally put the erect member in her hand. Unlike humans. but in general this is not a priority. 3." I do not smoke. Stress and illness diminish the level of testosterone. for example. however. The men have two lists: the first sight and of seeking a long term partner. but strong. What women want the long term Here is the result of research on what women expect to find a man. Consequently. Then. Are the male hormones that cause the growth of hair of the face. If the man is wearing badly or starts getting paunchy. The hair of monkeys and chimpanzees have the same length throughout the body. only have a list. The woman must understand that their appearance is important to humans and can even seriously affect the relationship. The majority of women agree. the faster they grow. The male pornographic magazines show women with their legs fully opened. carefully. Personality. Mood. "No. Stimulating 11: Barba for three days Man is the only primate that have significantly longer hair on the face than in the rest of the body. This fundamental difference between men and women involved much frustration and misunderstandings on both sides. 4. which is why the sick man is not stressed or need to shave so often. intelligent. even if the woman does not like. while all attempts to sell women pornographic images of men failed. robust and masculine.Arriving there.
If man is able to make her laugh.except excuses. he USA a number of different criteria. Women are attracted out by men who show be going to the front in search of a better position in life. seek a better job. The woman begins and ends the selection of the partner with the same list of criteria. Then. this is pure practice. This will allow you to talk to women about a variety of subjects.The problem is that it can not have it. it is sensitive to your needs. But for the selection of a permanent partner. therefore. there is no school that teaches it. but their physical form and appearance are crucial to his work and social position. which brings you more satisfaction and you better realize their potential. Change the cutting of hair at least once every three years and look for wear clothes that promote their appearance. Enter for a course that allows you to expand your knowledge. Polls and surveys have shown how important it is to man the physical attractiveness of women. You need to listen with interest and empathy that women have to say. And finally Book to a gym and get in shape.just do it! . Solution To make a man attractive. Even the women self-sufficient and financially independent feel attracted by men who have as good protectors and from the pain. There is some reason why man has not or does not do the things you want in life . The man need not be a millionaire. you will never miss program. he believes. Do it for yourself and see how it will look more attractive to women. The woman who likes her man is attractive. Do not complain . because he already has boyfriend. you need first of all work their techniques of communication and relationship. has plans to progress continuously and is still on top is straight. The dance has always been a preliminary demonstration of erotic female. Buy books that speak on how women think and feel. but have plans and goals and be committed to them. Are extra. if necessary. you know talk about many issues. registration is a school of dance as soon as possible. We recommend our Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? and What Women Want Men to Know. by Barbara de Angelis. in its first meeting in less than ten seconds.
for example. In the year 2020. But little by little. In the United States. In 2010. Many countries have adopted compulsory contributions to the system of national pensions. how to live long after they retire. Before 1940. the effects of retirement on relationships and how to deal with women partners. Graham Graham thought retire and go live on the beach as would enjoy permanent vacation. And in the first few months was exactly what he did. Thanks to advances in medicine. 76. swimming. not only a larger portion of the population is enough to retire. or live in poverty. the number of people about to retire grows at a speed amazing. the melancholy of retirement began to weigh. eating out. is so full of titles about financial independence and retirement plans-ment. continued working until death or were sustained by children. but the problem is the relationship between the number of contributors and the pensioners. The life expectancy of Japanese women born in 1993 is 82. The shelves of bookstores.from 46 to 72 years. But there are two problems which do not give due attention: first. Japan will have less than two people working for every retiree. the average life expectancy worldwide has increased by more than 50% .Chapter 13 OUANDO the hunter Hang The ARC The retirement In developed countries. a problem compounded by the fact that the Japanese live today more than all the peoples of the world. Within each person there is an elderly couple thinking: "What the hell happened?" Developed countries are now obliged to devote an increasing share of their budgets to maintain and care for its population of elderly.51 years and for men.25. The number of people living. Financial institutions operate in heavy selling of private pension funds. the rate fell from 9: 1 to 4: 1 since 1952. have at least 10 years after they retire doubled in the last 60 years. Would spend the days in an idyllic paradise . sleeping late and relaxing. Between the 1940s and 2020. more than a billion people have at least 60 years of age.taking sun. Who had not achieved financial independence. the psychological effects of retirement on men and. Governments around the world face this problem continuously. difference . second. Graham came to understand a. only a small portion of the population lived beyond the age of 65.
Graham suffered a heart attack Fulminans. Much has been researched and written about the problems faced by retired men. Tired to take sun.between taking a few vacation days. Graham began to ask for Ruth. his wife. but the calls were rareando. had less desire to do. Graham suspected that their health was suffering. Graham began to fatten. but little research is done on women retired and not working because they have the task of caring for a pensioner. But due to their mental structures and specific priorities. On the beach. Important . For some time he remained in contact with colleagues at work. Now. for the first time. Every time you hear your name yelled at her husband. nadava little and rarely was concerned with something in the garden. Gender and retirement The way men and women deal with the approach of retirement and old age casts light on the difference between their mental structures. Now had to take care of Graham every minute of your day. more and more attention. to get on her and tie her life. With a sedentary lifestyle. Instead of juggling with two or three problems to gain time. Felt lack of professional involvement with people and the daily mental stimulation that he provided. train new employees and solve the problems of the world. As women constitute 40 to 50% of the modern workforce. As for most men. When I worked. was horrified irritation. to attend many meetings. Lost prestige. When the hunter stops hunting During at least one hundred thousand years men agreed in the morning and went out looking for food for their families. as we said.find a target and hit it edible. The relationship began to suffer from pressure. was a kind of stress stimulating. For over 40 years he wakes every day knowing exactly what had to do. The male contribution to the survival of the species was clear and simple . eighteen months after the dream retirement. Suddenly he was aware that jumping from a train at work to express a tram pulled the donkey on the beach. but not talked to anyone about it. Suffering acutely this abrupt loss of identity. he cooked the issues now to fill the time. One day. work outside the focus of the life of Graham. he had the feeling of having nothing to do.now was the Invisible Man. it was assumed that the psychological problems associated with retirement were the same for both sexes. embedded in an intense training schedule. Now. The call that he expected the company to continue providing its essential services such as special advisor never came. the stress was of another quality and was mixed with depression. the experience of retirement is remarkably different in the two cases. Little was. His favorite refrain was: "What is for lunch?" Before retirement. And started to worry about the problem of how to fill all this free time. Before he was Dr. At work he was known and respected. Therefore. Ruth was free to do what he wanted. and enjoy them for the rest of life. Occupied an important position. For many men it is an unavoidable disaster and may even contribute to premature death. the evolution . but nobody knew him or wanted his opinion for anything.
The areas of the brain used for hunting Institute of Psychiatry. and aim to achieve the target. programming. the two men embraced replacement . 90% of all modern sports with ball rise up between 1800 and 1900 as a substitute for the hunt. angles.track. sitting on a beach far away where nobody knows or gives a minimum. as we have seen.work and sport. show (in black) areas of the brain active space. With it. Also. is the huntress of the brain. read maps. distances and spatial co-ordinates.of male preference brain areas enabling it to perform this task with success: those used to measure speeds. pursue. the advancement of agricultural techniques has meant that hunting for food is no longer be a priority. He is all dressed and has no where to go. playing sports with ball and reach moving targets. The modern sports are a way to replace the hunt. the .their role was to ensure the survival of the next generation. These are the areas used by modern man to work as park running aft. such as no longer required for anything. So the century desferiu men on an even greater blow: the retirement. In simple terms. London. 2000. made from brain examinations of 50 men and 50 women. they not only stopped be required to reach moving targets. . Plus. unlike women. The images below. with areas of strength capable of dealing with these tasks . The female brain evolved. Female Male The ancient hunter was compulsorily retired At the end of the eighteenth century. video equipment. Both involve the main aspects of the game. This helps explain why the image of the female brain shows a minimum level of activity in the space. therefore. To deal with the frustration of no longer be prompted to chase and hit targets. women evolved as a defender of the nest and the offspring . ride on motorways. We therefore repeat. Consequently. is obsessed by work and the small sports. And here lies the great problem of modern man retired: your brain of a hunter. that most men.achieve a zebra color-surrender to 30 meters away was never part of their responsibilities. yet clearly set is literally idle.
learned to play tennis and attend classes in art. It was as if he had not entirely of his life. Today I do not know if I have . she felt free. Peter and Jennifer Jennifer wanted much to retire with her husband hold. And although they were already married for 25 years. "I love to be retired. Jennifer knew he was depressed but could not convince him to express his feelings. Now. seemed all the time in a bad mood. It started out more with friends." she told a close friend. Jennifer had sometimes the impression that the husband did not know well. She received her retire with genuine emotion. "You know." The men are always defined by their work and their achievements. and the lives of Jennifer and retain only the two was. the way the company was doing well without him and low frequency with which co-workers to use their experience and their advice. a stressful and poorly paid job with few opportunities for professional progress. women. way-too Janda. Now. want to help you. He had been always working hard. Studies on male and female figures show that 70 to 80% of women say they have as the main 'focus on family. attribute value is the quality of their relationships. Consequently.You realize that you retired when you know all the answers but do not have anyone else to ask you the questions. was inside mope at home if it has been discarded. Initially she stayed home with him. Spent increasingly less time at home. exhausted when you get home. but with so much time together for the first time in our life . women keep their retired social circles constructed over the years and have facility to renew them. Men value the achievements. They can spend the extra time doing the things that have always been challenges to take or which never had time to work. Unlike men. need to combine work with education of children. with retirement. I feel sorry for Peter. women. once you finally retired. But remember. in general. It would be an opportunity to do everything I always had the dream-. Worked as a nurse almost all his life. relationships. Then came for a course in Italian. How women deal with retirement. they ask how could give an account of what they worked. we see very little in common. Nadava with a group three times a week. women tend to move smoothly toward retirement. The children were finally married. But little by little grew into a resentment Jennifer: Peter was making her so unhappy retirement on his own. We heard from several women retired to their current life is so busy. she thought that time would have to meet again. They just "follow your life. The only thing I hate is having to go home at the end of the day. which left little time for herself. It would be almost like a second honeymoon. I would never do anything. Also.
At the door of heaven. together with household chores." says the man. indignant. Peter Ihes presents its new life. and will call him to continue working. The identity of women is . others spend more time taking care of others. Many women retired to join interest groups or develop new habits. "It's free. no milk products and low cholesterol. The man likes to think its "hunt group" still needs him. tears and even separation. It's free. with a variety of creamy sauce. Here is the sky. full of delicious dishes. come with solutions and advice when she is not interested." Then shows them a wonderful golf course behind the mansion. "Your bitch!" He Berra with it. treating it as if it were one of its former employees. some clubs go to the elderly and enjoy the entertainment that they failed during the period in which the job. And it shows a fabulous mansion. "Nothing. the shock is very intense. without feeling idle and useless. The woman whose identity was also strongly linked to work performance may experience a similar feeling. it seems envy the happiness of women and blame them for their misfortune. the common man is denying that his life is to quit. Unable to face the situation. people cling to the idea that becoming consultants." says St. Be "available" to return to work and solve problems whose solution depends on their knowledge and experience. When retirement approaches. The choices of women often involve interaction with others. When this happens and he notes that the company can move very well without it. One day. we could have arrived here ten years ago!" Why men can not cope with retirement? The loss of work is not the main cause of all the stress when the man is retiring. the two die in a car accident. "Nothing. On the one hand.the identity. He seems to always be "getting in the foot" and wanting to take her life. St." When I heard it. the man turns around. Even those who did not like his job very still want their "group hunting" the call to continue the task. There were a couple of 70 years who always had good health because of the insistence of women with healthy diet and exercises." replied St. Here is the sky. "But the cost to enter partner?" Asks the man. And often. Peter. Can cause fights. "But how will this cost?" Asks the man. "But we only eat food without fat. no long hours of work. A step that seems worth it. low salt. leaving little time for fun. Peter. You can eat as you like which will still be thin and healthy. He has so much knowledge and experience that the employer-only benefits and may not pass without his talent.love and no more if I stay with him. "here is the sky. to the wife. " Dealing with a retired man is often one of the biggest problems that women face. Otherwise. It is the loss of something much bigger . Some return to school. "If you do not wanted to eat healthy food and we exercise. There are no calories in the sky. they will still be important parts in the gear." And finally leads to the local restaurant and it shows the menu. "Do not worry. And do it with great joy.
Signs of trouble are usually the first indication that stage of depression is ongoing. the anger. Start the denial is complete by the depression. But the retirement of Barry . shorter. The loss of identity is for the man in many ways similar to the death of a loved one. The retired blame others for their suffering: his partner and family becomes much often the target because "not understand how I feel. friends' friend. Many often the removal of what they see as an old employee is a relief. She can spend the money to bring home. their status and sense of importance can quickly lead to depression. even drugs. It is essential to identify the depressive stage which. and the fights start to happen. he thought the best in the industry. can become permanent. to 50 years. lover and wife at any time. Always addicted to outside research. the woman continues with the other facets of his life. When its role as provider end. lady-of-home. The woman never retires. Barry was always fascinated by the idea of retirement and to spend any time with their children and grandchildren and traveling with Yvonne. These intrusions can be unbearable for your partner. by not calling him to provide advice and feel a victim. In other words. particularly finance and planning of social activities and family.multifaceted. But unless they have been carefully prepared. For most. some men think they will be quiet. grandmother. It simply gives continuity to their things. this rarely happens. the retiree was disappointed with his new life and starts to retract. deepening the table. The sudden loss of friends and colleagues. the direction of the house. He relaxes in food. Master of himself. The feeling of uselessness and rejection can lead to decreased libido. and in some cases. Depression can get without being noticed. however. above all. He now wants to be the chief executive of the family. especially the way they are made. was owner of a successful company. the things not done. per-der vitality and become inactive. to take care of the family. the woman retains its identity. In most cases there is no drama." Blame the ex-boss for not having him ready for retirement. unhappy and. The result is a life apathetic. The new generation has its own ideas and solutions and whether they feel free to implement them and test new ways of solving things. First. the routine that meet their days. if not overcome or dealt with the help of a professional. Why do so many men down the hill so fast? In the period following the shutdown. Flu and disease is less frequently. When you decided to retire. and sometimes all at the same time. felt. Sometimes it is thought. being mother. starts to drink. things rarely remain at that stage as the honeymoon. and if everything goes well for the acceptance. This anger is sometimes discharged as the desire to disappear. Barry and Yvonne Banyo is described as counter to 20 years and 25 have worked on their own. Retirees who do not plan their lives are constantly ill. companion. data and figures loved and was very successful in the management of time.
"Now I'm in the middle of something and forget what I was doing. Things can be much worse. For Yvonne." The woman smiled with sadness. "The worst. While Yvonne tried to quickly sutiãs . there is the danger of starting to feel incompatible. When Yvonne was a store that was not on the agenda. requesting it to many tasks and too little working in the service of the house. Barry thought the days of Yvonne would be much more beneficial if they practice an effective management of your time. why you asked to organize a calendar hourly. hits the wood. Asked the husband. for lunch and dinner. misunderstood and devalued. Despite not having problems with money." "How?". Barry re-collect information on sutiãs with employees and customers. sitting on the "seat-ofhusband-bored" on the outside of the taster. "Barry needs to get a life of its own.the man feels rejected.quickly turned in the worst nightmares of Yvonne. high price. and when they manifest . Barry wanted to know the reason . Then started to leave the house to escape the domain of the husband. That day she did not buy any bra . it was great." she replied. After examining them. She loved to shop. After looking puzzled for the door and asked: "Who is it?" The negative aspects of retirement When the couple starts to fight because of differences of ability and the different roles that each plays.usually in an exasperated . Barry now wants to be the chief executive's home." "Hum!" Said the man. beginning at 8 am. Not only. Barry found that his wife only needed two sutiãs. I wonder why she spent so much on things he thought unnecessary. Perhaps the first time in life when she see her husband every day for breakfast. "Then yesterday I was sitting in the car asking if I had just come to go somewhere or had just arrived home and was out of the car. but decided that Barry would shop together." The man grunt: "No." he insisted. Sutiãs discovered how each of the search was the ratio of quantity. last week.she has not had chance shoes and enough clothes? Reached the height of the monitor Yvonne buy a new bra. Most of it was wasted money. he wanted to know where every penny went and why. That was crazy leaving Yvonne. The anger and resentment began to grow inside her.so he is not annoyed with the waiting -. and that there would be an agenda setting out advance and where would they would buy. I control everything the woman did! Offered to take the family's finances and gave Yvonne a budget for food. leading to . absolutely curtailed and controlled by a manic husband and authoritarian. "One day." she said to friends. Yvonne felt in an inter-in a concentration camp." E has two batidinhas on the table. A woman can get hurt with it seems an intrusion on what for it is a happy and orderly. "I never had this problem. on time and lasted a lot of other statistical data. He supervises and gives orders. I never stopped by something. "is forgotten. "My memory is perfect.decided to return later. I was thinking at the top of the stairs had just arrived or are on top was starting to fall. "and I want my life back!" A retired couple was sitting on the dinner table talking about old age." said the woman. alone.
dance. mainly because. have better health and will live longer. resulting in loneliness and misery. . increased life expectancy and better health. . find pleasure in activities independent of the professional activities. To begin. Studies show that the earlier you plan your retirement. Make a complete check-up. therefore. develop a talent that remained unexploited because you were absorbed in his career. The critical difference between these two periods of the life of man is that in retirement he is fully in control and will take the decisions that affect the rest of life. But do not spend it all as a mere obligation or an activity for only the time to fill vacant. The higher the frequency with which they work. ride a bike. learn a new skill. more will live better and the quality of your life. The man is 30 to 40 years of his life in a rigidly structured and oriented goals. In Western society. it is likely that the period of retirement is longer. There is a huge range of alternatives for pleasure waiting for you. take up a hobby. now. do the exercise that gives you great pleasure. you must be aware that their identity can not be linked predominantly to the industry professional and receiving the approval of others. it is good to resort to professional advice to ensure that it perpetuates the negative attitudes. A plan of action The right time to start planning is many years before retirement. Health The time of retirement can be used for an investment in your health. which includes study. look for a nutritionist to set a pleasant and healthy diet. The identification of these stages is crucial. listening to music. with the increasing trend of early retirement. read all the books that are accumulated on your bookshelf. His retirement. need a bit of quality. swim. Start thinking now as I have had time available. If you find difficulty. Start to develop them as far as possible. Multiply your interests in the life of work. which is giving a gift that could not be granted for lack of availability. Are aware that you are investing in their well-being in their self-esteem. and the man who is not planned for retirement can take many years to overcome them. walk.separation and even to suicide. the life expectancy of men that the retirement is not an occupation that the interest is on average five years. Men engaged in activities that stress and to do nothing to retire early die. Men who survive the first three stages of retirement generally ultimately accept this new stage of life and take on the challenge of planning a new life. The possibilities are endless. useful and happy. develop a circle of friends outside the work environment.
giving new meaning to life. targets and deadlines. The sex in old age will be a continuation of what was in the life of the couple. because the sex life can not be separated from the rest of the relationship. Explore these possibilities with the knowledge they have of each other and love each deserves it after so many years of companionship. He began drinking too much and was depressed. Discuss your plans with your partner. Whatever has been your path. affection. discover new incentives.can be a source of pleasure. a belief. She was quite enjoying his retirement. openness. specializes in dealing with the men retired. browse the local church. His wife Dana to retire three years before and wanted by the retirement of her husband. the social work community and gives an immense sense of satisfaction and self. But when he was 57 his company bought and he became expendable in overnight. The simple act of visiting patients in hospitals. because she is the person who will share them with you. but once started. And remember: the whole body . you must have skills that can be used or passed on to others. Start searching now. He thought to retire at 65.Social Work and Community We can assure you that few things to remember as much as the dedication they need. children in orphanages will bring you a surprising bonus. Aware of that will mean this new phase of life in terms of living in order to for problems that arise Spirituality It is also time to devote to a field that may have been ignored in the years of professional activity: the spirituality. The substantive requirements of day-to-day that differ in size so essential in humans and responds to your deepest desire.not just the genitals . It is important that you find in that field feel better and more useful. Gender A happy and healthy life also must include a satisfactory sexual life. You can not imagine how delicious the experience of returning to college where you will live with younger people and discover how the experience of life taught him. The retirement offers this space to search more and find a group. the activities that could develop. You may need an initial effort to overcome the resistance. chat with friends. Thus you will discover where your talents can be applied You should see his retirement as you would with any large project. which would examine the materials. the places that I would know. it now had time to do things you always wanted and wished to share their happiness with Paul newly discovered. Talk about it with the greatest possible openness. The consultant helped Paul to understand the reasons for that and he showed you how to . despite the limitations that age brings. seek help if necessary. Start to write down everything that interests you. and that is linking to an institution where they feel affinity with the people working there. Dana decided to seek professional advice and then persuaded Paul to seek a consultant. Paul and Dana Paul was account manager and his life was always full of goals. or activities that develop their spirituality. elderly in rest homes. But Dana was alarmed to see the sadness of Paul with the forced retirement. What is important is that these limits are treated with honesty.
Decided to change the eating habits and started walking every day for at least 45 minutes.decide what to do for the rest of their lives. in turn. Paul and Dana are healthy and happy. Paul accepted the challenges that it presented the consultant. We firmly believe that the tools presented in Why Men Lie and Women cry? can help all men and women to live lives more intimate. Dana. Paul play golf sometimes. They are so busy they need a detailed daily schedule. A specialist taught her new diet and prescribed an exercise program. which led them to meet new people. enjoy life and help others. The retirement is revealing the happiest time of their lives. but I would like but never had time to practice regularly to mind. sensual and rewarding. Today. He was also part of a group of craft and came to a course in writing. How was a member of golf club. happiness and fulfillment. as the couple. As Paul was an excellent account-pain and liked to teach. decided to open a current account that you bring an additional income. because I wanted to write. Paul was always concerned about the welfare of young people and understand the problems they faced when they lack family support-ing. offered to cooperate in the newspaper association of residents of his neighborhood. aware that they had available to devote to a social work. but not for extravagances. the consultant reassured Paul. except for a small excess of weight and pressure and cholesterol slightly above normal. The finances were sufficient to cover expenses. They needed a plan that took into account both the needs of each. Dana has played tennis once a week and it was on the board of the club. In examining the financial part. The check-up showed that Paul was well. Use these tools with wisdom and love. Found that its greatest achievement was to have created four children happy. understanding the strengths and weaknesses of each other and being able to make the relationship a source of joy. adjusted and successful. The first step was to complete a health check. After all the advice. because had the start-to plan your journey . enthusiastically recommended by friends. Good luck to you! ******* . Enrolled in a class of tai-chi. The second was to seek a financial adviser. They have done a detailed budget and noted that the guarantee fund of Paul. The next challenge was great .manage this new phase of his life. Then decided to seek a way of advising the youth to become an advisor to young people. This time when the men and women are more together than any other in their lives is very important that they have learned the lessons of Why Men Lie and Women cry? Because only then will live happily in peace and with love. Came to a club of excursionist and began to make trips extended several times a month. He and Dana went on holiday with a good state of mind. together with some savings and investments. In the group that began to attend prayer. Paul felt a great weight had been removed from their shoulders. decided to try. most of his pension and Dana would be sufficient to cover its needs until the end of life. The third was to travel with Dana relax and plan the rest of their lives.which could take twenty years or more to be completed.
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