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C Allan and Barbara Pease, 2003 translation Jorgesen Pedro Junior preparation of original Regina da Veiga Pereira Review José Tedin Pinto Sergio Soares Bellinello cover and illustrations Mattievich Silvana graphic design and editing of kernels Marcia Raed photolite RR Donnelley Latin America - Premedia / Dip Print Cromosete Gráfica e Editora Ltda CIP-BRAZIL. CATALOGING-IN-SOURCE. National Union of EDITORS OF BOOKS P375P Pease, Allan Why men lie and women cry? /
Allan and Barbara Pease; translation of Peter Jorgensen Junior. - Rio de Janeiro: Sextante, 2003. Translation: Why men lie and women cry ISBN 85-7542-063-1 1. Man-woman relations. 2. Sex - Differences (Psychology). 3. Sexual role. r. Pease, Barbara. LI. Title. All rights reserved by EDITORA Sextante / GMT EDITORES LTDA. Volunteers of the Nation Address, 45 - Gr 1404 - Botafogo 22270-000 - Rio de Janeiro RJ Te!.: (21) 2286-9944 - Fax: (21) 2286-9244 Customer: 0800-22-6306 E-mail: email@example.com www.esextante.com.br 03-0645. CDD 306.7 CDU 392.6
Contents Introduction Chapter 1 The cantankerousness When a person does not stop complaining Chapter 2 SEVEN THINGS THAT MAKE MEN WOMEN DEIXA IRONING BOARDS Chapter 3 Why women cry? The dangers of emotional blackmail Chapter 4 THE SYSTEM OF ULTRA-SECRET SCORE ruin of women as a man of the week Chapter 5 CLARIFICATION OF THE SEVEN MAJOR MYSTERY MEN Chapter 6 THE OTHER WOMAN His mother Chapter 7 The Mysteries WAYS OF WOMEN LANGUAGE Chapter 8 "You think I am FAT CLOTHES WITH THIS? Why men lie?
Chapter 9 THE TESTING OF WOMEN'S SEXUAL APPEAL How do you make people work? Chapter 10 WHAT DOES THE EYES OF MEN skip the power of female sexual attraction Chapter 11 THE TEST OF MALE SEX APPEAL Chapter 12 WHAT TO ATTRACT WOMEN Chapter 13 When the hunter Hang The ARC The retirement Acknowledgments Bibliography
in addition to our experience. It also seeks to elucidate the problems which the man is beat-to ten in the morning of Sunday. why cry to get what they want? Why insist on a subject to death? Why not take the sexual initiative more often? In the twentieth century and one. that want to get to know all details about the people around you and that rarely take the initiative to do sex. phone calls and emails came from people perplexed by the behavior of the opposite sex. writing books. that hate to go shopping. scientific studies and our current sense.analyzing miles of film and recordings. when out of bed without getting themselves or their partners speak with them. Chinese Proverb Why do men lie? Why they think they must always be the reason? Why avoid it undertakes? And women. that like to "play to pick mature green". The car-tas. surveys.thousands of times we were asked to rate certain behaviors of men and women. The men never worry about the future until they find a wife. In three decades of studies and research on the differences between men and women . "Why do women complain all the time?". even after spending a weekend fishing in the entire company. Women worry about the future to find a husband. giving interviews on TV. Why Men Lie and Women cry? draws attention to things that are beyond obvious to most . From there. Why Men Lie and Women cry? attempts to answer the questions that are hammering the head of women to one in the morning. wet and hungry. for they have habits and mannerisms that make women so angry and they do not know almost nothing of the life of your friends. why not stop the car to ask for guidance. Then things get worse. we developed practical solutions to help you tune the right channel in communication with the opposite sex. So decided to write Why Men Lie and Women cry? Catalog the forty most frequently asked questions from readers around the world demand-and we answer them by using. "Why do I have to collect half of my floor to ten hours of a Sunday morning ".Introduction Born naked. sharing information at conferences . Today. and frustrated by not knowing deal with the situation. Today we know the evolutionary and biological reasons that explain why men can only do one thing at a time. of the genus: "Why men devour the other women with the eyes?" and "Why are they all the time saying what I do and I think". the disagreements and conflicts between the sexes are still so present in our lives as the first time that Adam and Eve falling out. science can explain why women talk so much. research. Of them also look at questions such as: "Why women do not go to the chase".
in the 1960s. as many men feel left behind. bewildered and confused. Still. everyone assumes that it is that is wrong. be a man became an arduous task. as women gain more and more freedoms. Men often do not seem to understand the rules of the game. he was the protector and provider. the roles were clearly defined. the suicide rate among women fell by more than 34%. And as few of them understand the thrill of seeing and reviewing the replay of a move. The rate of suicides among young men and old is now the largest in history. the feminists have been given more say and more successes. You can not deny that this kind of thing that most men perceive as open hostility contributes largely to the depressed state that seems to be slaughtered on a whole generation. The problem is that women seemed to know what and where they were going. Since. Suddenly. The man was the head of the family and the primary responsibility for its upkeep. everything began to change. while a man who did the same was accused of enemy women. Life seemed simple. The men are insecure about their own identity and they . often considering the man as the enemy to be defeated. while among men increased by 16%. See the latest walks that circulated among women and that most men considered extremely demoralizing and threatening: What is the definition of a man? A support for a penis. If a woman slapped a man in public. lady-ofhome. Serials and the TV business started to show the men as incompetent idiots in front of women superior. with the Japanese heading the list. Just thinking of you receiving an e-mail. smarter and more fans of the cause of equality. Women and men were angry. it is unlikely that a man understands that the discovery of a brand of clothing in a counter settlement is one of the most extraordinary things that can happen to a woman. the relationships and the families began to live a great tension. secretary. You may have noticed that many women seem to have a biological need to buy decorative pillows and change the storage of furniture for men stumble when they arrive at home at dawn.people. his word was law and their areas of decision were clear. A woman who protest against inequality was the object of sympathy. During general rations. In the last quarter of the twentieth century. The woman was mother. The man knew what were their responsibilities and the wife knew her. Why are things so difficult for men and women? Today. the focus of the discussion is still the cross that women in this car-water life. teacher or social worker. The number of copy-of disparaging about men grows every day.
its way of thinking and their scale of priorities. one in five households is headed by a woman alone. Consequently. Only men and women assume that one day will appear a perfect relationship. he also has to understand it. . Most marriage counselors and therapists are also women. We call the other sex of "opposite" for good reason . Women often make the mistake of believing that because a man loves. their mistakes and what to do to improve them. providing material and solve problems.lack examples to be followed. heart disease and other diseases related to stress. This book provides a map to help them move through this maze which transformed the relationship and identify the slippery slopes. just as always happened with men. or give the quick relationships because think of how women think and act very complicated. the theme of these books are the men. is often infuriate and are getting increasingly lonely. Women of today are superatarefadas. even know them all. But things are too difficult for women. And it is true in many ways. This we do conclude that women pay more attention to relationships than men.hunting. It is an unnatural situation. As a result. It is estimated that bulimia affects 4 to 5% of the university. men are working or not or a little. father and provider. Except that he usually does. In general. just know a single man to understand all men. against one in fifty men headed by the same situation. only 7 in 300 students. while a man never understand any woman. We are all very confusing. It is estimated that 25% of all women in the western world will be standing in the single year 2020. that the brains of men and women have been programmed for different functions and priorities. these women play the roles of mother. Generally.even when they want. educate and provide love and affection of people's lives. They now suffer from ulcers. without the need for any special preparation or study. Why men and women have so many problems? The woman developed as defender of the dam and offspring. protecting. in complete disagreement with our basic human needs and biological. fighting. For a woman. healthy and rewarding. Today. But the truth is that both men and women want good relationships. the female brain is programmed to nurture. Most books on human relations is written by women and over 80% of its audience is composed of women. Feminism began calling attention to inequalities between genders and promising free women from the shackles that had imprisoned the stove. Studies offered by new techniques of magnetic resonance imaging of the brain confirms this fact. The men have the feeling that women want what they think and behave like them. Man evolved with a completely different program . the treacherous curves and dead ends. therefore.we are really opposites. Sometimes the thing is so difficult that it is best to go right to not be seen as a failure. Take care of relationships is not a natural function of the male psyche. It is. about 50% of women working in the western world . In Britain.
If you write the words "relationship" and "sex" site on a search of the Internet. To write this book. Women say men want sensitive. the ritual of mating and the relationship . much less the differences between male and female. but do not want to be too sensitive. your life must be very happy. however. They do not think about it . but hard and Manly in other situations. get 36. it chooses which one you like more tentacles and gives the green light.714 references. working and loving the opposite sex. The rate of divorces in Britain. and soothsayer. Whose stories are real principles apply to most people most of the time of their relationships with the opposite sex. Humans. To move through this maze.the other species already have everything planned out and is very good. Around the world Why Men Lie and Women cry? is the step that in the relationship ladder. not longing for a sex champion. to help them make things better fluírem. traveled for more than thirty countries. that never discussed sex or how to get there.just do. relationships procedures are guided by the need for direct survival of each species. for example. who kill their partners just after mating. It is a simple animal with a tiny brain. "and deals with aspects of life that most people never think or simply do not understand. We. it is reasonable to assume that the rate of separation among couples is somewhere between 60 and 80%. Men do not understand very well this subtle difference. the female enters estrus. Unfortunately. who also teaches women techniques to identify and meet the desires men. evolved so that today we know the best way to deal with the opposite sex to have any chance to lead a happy life and enjoy a share of pleasure. The black widow. are infinitely complicated. If you get along with most people most of the time. Not realize they need to be sensitive in relation to women's feelings. however. define common problems and finally present practical solutions. At any given time. working. comes after the Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love. if couples who did not get married. The behavior of equipment and scenarios we describe in this book apply to all people all the time. In this work trying to establish universal themes. excitement and enrichment that a good relationship is able to provide. 700% of divorces begin with marriage Why Men Lie and Women cry? this is an opportunity for you to eliminate turnover a little . The octopus is another good example. in English only. There are around or brother in-laws want to advise. now exceed the mark of 50% in the first four years of marriage and. men need to learn some techniques that will find this book. collecting and comparing information and research on the relationship between the sexes. For other animals. female and never considering discover is too fat. be living together. the males approach moving its tentacles.HELEN ROWLAND We are the only species that have permanent problems with the court. She never accused him of not giving him attention and he is not thinking it was good for her as for him. we see that most people still do not understand during a good part of the time. know the rules and follow them faithfully.
The result is that our relationship with those who are coming in has improved significantly and. brothers. The French will not understand anything. In Why Men Lie and Women cry? also rely on our personal experiences." and "Barbara said-10. speak and act like the opposite sex?" In no event. He explains the behavior of "other sex". daughter. Once you understand the evolution of man.the women and men. but taking the average. cousins. Nothing is perfect. The research we did on the various themes of this book and the very act of writing it gave us a more complete understanding of ourselves and our parents.of the suffering. be impartial. profit and fun. Experience first hand We. "Will I have to change sex?" People often ask us: "You are telling me that I should think. some men have to be hampered in their lives. father. but we feel that hit most of the time with most people.. son. Once you learn to do this work and schedule it for the functions you want. The allegation was that the women use the book to pursue them saying "Allan said that . wishing to provide you a balanced view of the relationship between man and woman. relatives. mother. are very well married. it gives you satisfaction. they are companions. How to give this book as a gift After the worldwide success of our latest book Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? (more than six million copies sold in 33 languages to the present). We are also parents of four beautiful children. believes the path where the woman. The man. It is a book full of common sense and scientific facts presented in a well-humored and easy assimilation. When you buy a cell phone.. anguish and confusion of his life. neighbors and colleagues. the woman will be much easier to understand and accept their behavior and mental processes. looking as much as possible. Why Men Lie and Women cry? is an instruction manual to help understand the opposite sex and know what buttons to obtain the best squeezing result. The locals will love and be superprestativos. It may be easier. Learning a second language To be successful with the opposite sex you need to speak two languages . It is a huge gain and relief to both.. it comes with an instruction manual. in general." Why Men Have Sex and Women They Love? obtained a great success among women of all nationalities and we are well aware that some have of the gift to his men saying poignantly: "You must read . faithful love and great friends of each other.. friends or neighbors. in turn. people like us. If you only speak English and is visiting France. going very well. even if you fall a little in the words. the authors. People are impressed when they see that we strive to understand them and communicate with them. can also benefit from their experiences and their views. sisters. But if you buy a book of translated phrases that teach you the basic words and phrases in another language.. in English is no good asking a typical British dish. the problem of communication is resolved. Not always hit.
is perhaps more prudent to ask your man to his opinion on the advice of the book. follow by learning to understand. Perhaps the book refuses saying simply "I do not need any of it". and the taxi stop at your beck. personality and give the wrinkles price of undergarment is absolutely reasonable. one that receives feel honored and grateful to have gained something that will help it to grow. and men have to go once a month in a simulator of TPM. because our book! BARBARA & ALLAN PEAS . The toilet seats to be set. Meanwhile. can be excused by male heads when involved in its mysterious gynecological disorders. Mark the pages you want and let him read the book on the coffee table or the bathroom... They say man is great. You dance with a frog in a blender opinion and is not required to have erection. If you are a woman. congratulations! . leaving her injured and disconcerted. But a man might feel insulted. is man. Maybe one day men and women may be similar.especially the parts that I marked for you read. the women only speak for the business and the men only read Playboy for its literary value. But we doubt . Enjoy.this! read from beginning to end . to shop with absolute objectivity. because men love to give opinions. They say a woman is great because you can talk to a person of the opposite sex without having to imagine them naked. And be rewarded with love and affection. reader. thinking that the woman is trying to show that he is not good the way it is. So if you. And finally .Know that is part of a minority that wants to understand how women think and act. Maybe women would like to see racing of self-mobile. Nobody talks to you looking at their breasts and you do not need to go to beauty salon to prepare for a social meeting.at least with regard to coming millennia. because a slight belly and gray hair to give a certain charm. manage and enjoy our differences. " When a woman gives a gift to another a book on personal development.
Advice as "always check your bank! How many times do I have to say?" and "It gives you a bit more care of their appearance when my friends come to our house?" are repeated with admirable persistence and. selfish. complain and complain. fill the bag. Currish is a term traditionally used by men to describe women. can serve to keep them alive. molest. until one day the plug fall.Chapter 1 The cantankerousness When a person does not stop complaining Fiddle-faddle: annoy. however. bother. tease. however. they see defects. women do not feel morose. take the drugs. show how much they care about them. they criticize. irritate." Like a dripping faucet. fix what is broken. They think they are confined to their men to remember the things they have to do: meet its share of household chores. . a husband who has a hammer head of the wife. Currish: individuals. is something that society sees an entirely different way. the claims it will consume the soul and can generate over time a fierce resentment. In very small doses. dirty clothes and take towrope them wet the ground. The morose man. How they think that their complaints are justified. In most cases. Men from all over the place "to complain mania" at the top of the list of your dislikes individuals. and are natural leaders all the time conveying their knowledge . dominate (the husband). provoke. who calls all the time. They are assertive. Yes. quarrel. which is why their suffering companion deserves all the sympathy. berate. when the woman starts to repeat his orders. above all. She knows that is annoying. The woman alleges the man to leave a trail of chaos is where.for them the man is yob. even if that is annoying. tell when it is delayed. especially women. causing him permanent brain damage. In Hong Kong. the male brain hears only one thing: "There she is complaining again. does not care to continue complaining. but men rarely see it the same way. Where would many men without a woman warning them not to take beer or eat sandwiches too. but think the men can only take things repeating and repeating the same instructions. torment. not abusing the drink.and politely reminding women the way to when they forget. the cantankerousness can even be considered constructive. by wetting the entire bathroom when taking a shower and by spreading the newspaper while you read. get fungus in cangote. but it is always for the good of women. to do regular exercises and tests for cholesterol? Demand in certain situations. Generally. difficult to handle. annoy. roast the patience. Only in the United States are more than two thousand cases per year for men who kill their wives have been arguing that the complaints brought to them. men do not complain. has been enhanced by reducing the penalty of imprisonment by a judge who felt he was led to commit the violence because the woman was too morose. In our culture. Women also think that claim is how they worry about them. The friends also did not think she is morose .
It is true that women are so from birth? Please help me.I should drop by rejoice me to work and come home to see her. she is claiming the whole time without stopping. " Third woman: "So why do men say that women patience to roast them with their complaints? General laughter. women have always appeared as a morose. he is never satisfied. calling me saying that I have some more for others than for him. " Morena: "Stephen is like that. the U. but he insists that both the end I run better than their hearing is whining. The number of times that she was immersed depended on the severity of the offense and / or the number of previous convictions. After reading Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love ". In the literature. it is whine. If the charge was proved. I think his friends more attractive than him. Be listening to the complaints it causes me stress as a violent headache that starts in the car. Can you imagine? I prefer staying at work than go home. Should not be so . My father used to tell me that every woman calls and fills the bag. and I just early for him to shut up. My colleagues say that their women also complain to them all the time. a man who is self" Jeremy Dominated "sent us the following e-mail: "I need help from you. If I do not clean. week. and Europe has allowed the man complained about the implications of the judge or "cantankerousness" of his wife.S. the English laws. It hours that I am not so. If you complain all the time. Until the nineteenth century. If I do not want sex at the time he wants. he claim that I do not care for him why not take care of my appearance. I am married to the Queen of Claims and not stand one more minute and its implications. men give instructions. on the way back. The situation is so bad that I asked the boss to be working after hours. but very short. but I did not believe it until I married. A record of a court in the year 1592. If I go to clean dinner with his friends. Think fault in everything I do. The time that I get at home until the time when I go to sleep.The cantankerousness women vs The whining of men The women complain. " A group of women we had dinner in a restaurant heard the following conversation was about their husbands: Blonde: "Yeah. month and since we got married. she was sentenced to "chair of immersion." The chair of immersion was famous in the United States and Great Britain as a tool for punishment of witches. is a morose adjective which applies mainly to old and women. says: . We have reached the point where the only communication that happens between us is she telling me all that I left to do during the day. The cantankerousness through time Throughout history. Sometimes I think that it is impossible to hit. as people who complain non-stop. its objections and complaints. prostitutes. The woman was tied infringing on a chair hanging on the edge of a mobile arm and plunged into the river or lake close by a predetermined period of time. and crimes committed small catamaran.
A third and fourth time. Because when you throw water on the fire. Learn to govern in the chair your language. but you need to think really make it. published in 1780. How is currish The morose always hopes that his victim. driven by feelings of guilt. Some women were forced to parade through the city as a warning to other women. never. But once is not enough. or would go to fail. And before that to lose patience. You say: stop. Termagant wives. England. Joy and terror of the people of the village. shows how men in past centuries. but simply to end the discussion. of Leominster. without reluctance. You must then bring the peasant A second time to the depths. . do what she wants. therefore. It occupies the infringing his post With a frown on his face printed pompous. with a mask of iron stuck to the head with a metal bar going up in the mouth to hold his tongue. Its goal is to encourage victims to meet him. dives into the tank.". If the wife has the audacity noisy To have the house with tremendous noise. The last woman to go through the chair of immersion after condemned as "morose stubborn" was Jennifer Pipes. And when the chair of immersion was not punishment enough. It decided. " The following poem. that they tell the church to stop the cantankerousness. my dear. But if their husbands and neighbors to complain a second time.. When the fire is burning. the wife of Walter Hycocks of Peter Phillips and his wife are prominent morose. Tied to the chair.. in 1809. Climb even higher the blaze. there were other possibilities. the water breaks. the lake of our Canton The device named chair of immersion Under the cloak of the law that guides the procession. they will be punished with the chair of immersion. The woman is hoisted and vocifera How ever dared no shrew. Women know that claim. took seriously the claims of excess: The Chair of Immersion See there. my friend. Usually they do to achieve a goal. but that does not mean they like to be complaining. If the scold provokes discussion With obscene words or out of the question. written by Benjamin West.
The more demanding the aggressor.". We have identified five basic types of complaint: The Complaint Monotemática: "Kurt. When cantankerousness is out of control.Some women turned to cantankerousness in an art form. deafness apparent and remote controls. just before the summer. is more isolated. which only increases his irritation and sometimes their anger. Everyone avoids the morose. can stop the currish resentful and unhappy.. the door handle of the room is falling and the kitchen window is still stuck. the more captive and isolated she feels. . the censorship. The only concrete result of excessive claims is the destruction of the relationship between the victim and currish therefore believe that the victim needs to defend all the time. indirect and negative of the things he left behind and their defects. The more claims. Feeling alone. amnesia. You can clearly see that women have an ability to speak much more than men. just in time that the man needs more time to be "watching the fire. The tendency of man is to ignore it even more. you said you would hang a towel. the grass of the front garden is a disgusting. relationships with people of currish can be affected. We do not go repeating the humiliation of last year. homework. etc." Five minutes later: "And the towel. the victim is more refuge behind defensive barriers that leave the woman distracted -newspapers. speak little. but believe that there is no alternative. leaving her alone and resentful. They mainly occur at the end of the day. And the least recognized. and men think women talk without stopping. etc. nor to be continuously accused of everything. computers." The cross complaint: "Nigel." The Early Recovery: "Dale. repeated complaints are a reminder continuous. the more the victim is subject to suffering. . They recognize and acknowledge their own words. The speed you go. This explains why women think men in general. Ray? And stop eating the pizza ." The Third Party Complaint by "Moira says Shane already cleaned the grill and they are going to a barbecue tomorrow. face of discouragement. we? Usually women give laughs with these reports. "Kurt. . When the level of complaints is out of control.. I just hope that you control a drink tonight. Kurt? Still on the floor.." as did his predecessors back to the primitive of a full day of hunting. she is able to completely destroy the relationship. When do you replace the lamp in the room e.it is bad for your cholesterol and increase the weight . The Complaint Beneficente: "I took their medicine today. Nobody likes to be subject to the anger contained the ambiguous messages to autopiedade. why do not you hang your towel?" Pause. How is the victim From a man.
he received a response to "multiple tracks" involving eleven people and nine different subjects. It is an image of men and women were chatting and communicating with each other. Instead. This explains why women think men in general. and I thought it was us we were and Len in the guest room could ask Ray to arrive early to. Men only. etc.. and Jodi can not be absent from work . let her be absent from work because his car is in the workshop and she has to .. The illustrations that follow. the owner of the Diana. Can run a computer program while talking on the phone and hear a second conversation behind her in the restaurant when talking with fellow table..". she is watching TV. show (in black) the active areas of the brain used for the functions of speech and language. and men think women talk without stopping. If a woman speaks when it comes to a clover on the . When you open a map in the car. Man Woman The woman has a mental organization that call multiple tracks . Frustrated. so Sue said you could get out early for us to buy the clothes for the wedding of Emma. Institute of Psychiatry. and Fiona perhaps because Andrew does not need to consult a specialist. The multiple tracks can occur even in the same sentence: Bill: "The Sue come for Christmas?" Debbie: "She said it will depending on how things get with the orders for carpets. London. he turns off the radio. Bill thought it had a simple question and would be satisfied with a simple answer of 'yes' or' no '.it is a counterfeit able to keep the air four or five balls at once. made from MRI scans of the fifty men and fifty women. this also depends on Adrian. It is able to speak on various themes without any relationship with each other in the same conversation USA and five tones of voice to change the subject and emphasize issues. The man's mental organization contains a single track.Why women are more morose? The woman has a brain structure that allows you to overcome any man on the planet in terms of falação and cantankerousness.. 2001. You can clearly see that women have an ability to speak much more than men. Areas of the brain used for speech and language. " Bill: "That means' yes' or 'no'?" Debbie: "Well.the boss of it is terrible! -. and Nathan lost his job and seek other... Etc. He can only focus on one thing at a time. can identify three of these tones so often lose the thread of the skein when they hear a woman talking. speak little. which have fallen because of economic crisis.
One of the most difficult situations is when the man is connected to multiple tracks during the complaint.road. causing a rough thread which can even degenerate into physical violence. to USA to protect itself. He just shut up. the pressure increases to the point where the counter-attack victim. he asks for everyone to shut up talking. sometimes placed in positions of power. sometimes physically. have difficulty to walk and chew gum at the same time. When the phone rings. As it is not always possible to leave the scene. Some men. initiating a vicious cycle where the fretful increases the volume of voice and the strength of their objections and claims. The male brain has only one track. There is too much. The man can not make love and explain the same time that did not take the garbage out. That the complaint never gives too much right? the main mistake of cantankerousness is the way to address the problem. he misses the way and it puts the blame for being here. putting the man . and the victim back further behind the barrier.
. You are more concerned with the "greater part" of his life. not to realize that there clothing on the floor and dirty dishes on . In this stage.. so busy arming plans to make mad love and love to be everywhere in the house. unless the morose and the victim have an intimate relationship. The so-called "vampire" also does not usually complain. It may be that it not be given the time to complain of dirty clothes scattered on the floor . she ignores it. After all.. And as you know. because this drip-drip is making me crazy . whining and load of guilt that she wants to impose victim. But when you feel more secure in your position. this is part of their work. is it? . if you have shame in the face would fix the faucet. You can even get to the point that you think is capable of doing the job better than him.." and is there outside. desk.. honors and proposals.her own clothes by the wide ground. The morose plot deals with the problem in small. The goddesses of sex do not complain of clothes dropped by the house -they leave their own clothes scattered on the floor. which receives praise. the goddess of sex may become worse in the morose. However. you refuse to collect their clothes . may see the complaint as a form of continuous wear the head of "bring it to your level" and make it realize how much is missing. petty. the growing cantankerousness can go. "I did not ask him to do almost anything at home. more powerful. "You never take out the garbage. Their "requests" are weak. A clear sign of intimacy between boss and secretary of the things she is claiming that he left behind. For men. Take out the trash is not too much. It operates from a position of strength. the doctor said I can not get passed the order weight . I ask? . killing me from week to work to make this house more or less decent and you spent the whole time sitting watching TV . Where is the worst cantankerousness? The cantankerousness rarely manifests itself in the workplace. pay someone to do it or get a mate to do. Missing you time and energy to it.. is like being bitten by a cloud of mosquitoes: bites takes over the body and can not kill them. In general the groups it in a way that the male brain has limited capacity to decipher. resentment and anger and can easily end up in violent physical reaction. and if your partner does their share of domestic work. the secretary can gently remind him or simply do it. The woman happy and professionally performed rarely calls at home.in a defensive and blocking the absorption of the message.. even essential. and do not have enough force to get it to work. it can start to complain to the boss to make it more efficient in their work. and a very sensual. disharmony. " This type of claim is the most inefficient possible in achieving the objectives and becomes a destructive habit that produces enormous stress. The woman also madly in love tends not to complain. She is so tied to the vision you created for your romantic partner.. trivial.. Has a more objective way to ask things. even unknowingly. To note that the boss has to do something. when the relationship becomes permanent.. Its strength is of another kind: it USA your sexual power to get to your man what you want. The origin of cantankerousness is the balance of forces between two people.
A professional woman radiates strength material and mental." Adam sighs. Mother was not tortured (at least in the common meaning of that term) and went through great suffering. fretful of the comic numbers. Do not write wins literary prize lists of great shopping. daughters and partners who live together. or accepting and performing the ritual with joy monotonous and repetitive domestic work and motherhood are rarely morose. in the heart. Centuries of stereotypes. E is confused and lost by not knowing what to think. however.the prisoners of the household. or do any thing to please her. feel no forces. Of the genus is: ry exudes sexual power. who generally feel no power over their lives and unable to change it in a clear and direct. Acaba I preferred that she not do anything.wives. culture. with a confusing and contained rage. working more than thirty hours per week. independent and free. His partner. That is why the stereotype of morose. sons. which is enhanced by giving their lives for the welfare of his country. It is the anguish of the oppressed majority. "Every time you wash the dishes or vacuum the carpet is the one she makes sarcastic comments to draw attention to itself. is always the wife or mother . Unlike the soldier. . it deserves more. but do not know how to release for you to build a better life. The woman who regularly uses the cantankerousness. Your daily tasks seem too trivial to justify protests and demands for public recognition. mothers. but feel too guilty to admit that does not like his role. precisely because nobody gives value to their tasks. the same for all women. The Perfect Wife. The cantankerousness can be a call for recognition Complaining is a sign that the woman wants more: more recognition of the family for everything they did and more opportunities for something better. The cantankerousness always between people who have an intimate connection . She knows that life can be better. husbands. "My mother has to draw the attention of people to do all that. Adam's mother calls him. predictable and routine. Even if. Sometimes she even realizes that his feelings are normal and healthy. family of journals felt mentally and trading of movies and TV convinced her that the ideal woman to be truly feminine is Perfect Wife and Mother. also be absorbed by the excitement of the new relationship. Your suffering is a kind of invisible. she went through years and years of brainwashing to accept a "truth" that may not serve you anymore. Why is she must be complaining because of any thing ? She is talking about "any thing" because his life has become a collection of small things. silent. suffering. There is no Nobel Prize for the maintenance of domestic peace. a teenage victim of constant complaints. nobody sends write her name on a memorial in marble for dedicating his life to the welfare of the family. Both are strong. It is a difficult person to feel confident and powerful if all you did in the morning to evening is trivial. Nobody feels the need to complain. Our research shows that women who have clear goals.the table . asking for recognition. Do not want in your tú mulo the words "always kept the kitchen clean. frustrated with the only alternative to get your feet tapping. Anyone can pass the vacuum cleaner on the carpet.
The more he resists. selfish and lazy.the quality of your life would be better-ra impressive. The more a man rebels. The complex of mother Many women think they are the only significant adult in the family. The whole restaurant was silent as the voice of the couple stood. and placed last in their feelings and needs. there was silence.Adam is the mother of a little recognition that it begs . is hugely frustrated by the fact he did not use them at home. He wanted pepperoni with capers. produce positive results and. Everything started because of the pizza that they would choose. ultimately. Solutions cantankerousness: say what you want The discussion was ugly. She. As your partner knows he has these skills. It was absurd to say that the ruin the pineapple pizza. He has not lost the calm. the more it acts as if it were his mother. lovers and close friends. they believe their role is to appease. Was it asking too much to let her pick the pizza at least once in their life? After that last sentence." The cantankerousness usually signal that there is a problem of communication between two people. This change of attitude is the first stone in the path of the dangerous erosion of the relationship. earn a salary significantly higher than women in the same position. He reacts. "The problem is not the pizza. The problem is that often the woman is tempted to treat your partner as less capable than a man and a boy taken. who feel that a little boy living with immature. I Hawaiian. the most demanding woman. In the end. This tendency is especially common among women. in their work environment. who hated capers. Here is one of the keys to reduce the cantankerousness: currish give due recognition for the performance of small and routine tasks of his life ends with the most complaints. But some men say that time is that it seems longer. and began to accuse him of never paying attention to their wishes. "They are the last fifteen years. it is the work of the shopping and help her to cook. Many girls still grow up believing they should be nice and sweet. But rather than face it. solve problems. With all this pizza. right?" He said finally. increasingly high. They think that their husbands and boyfriends act like children. there is no safer way to kill the passion that's starting to feel that living with his mother. both come to a point where they are no more as partners. if behaving as such. and for women. Women who went out of control cantankerousness ESPO-ments are generally solitary and disappointed and mothers. it was starting to fatten.and deserves . and finally back to his wife. When they become adults. usually they take in is trivialities and torment each other with cruel words. to circumvent the . For men. The restaurant was in full expectation of what would be the response of man. to the menu. which carry the soul the frustrating feeling of lack of love and recognition. She also did not want to eat pizza all the time: a rather more healthy food. Sip his wine. can communicate. it would not take out so often to eat in the pizzeria. Moreover. looked at the floor. The man. Studies show that married men live longer than singles.
even if you think "My wife does not feel more attraction for me. pass deodorant. boredom.. I want to get away from it all for two weeks. I think that I would do very well and feel that.words actually said. she launches the attack: Sue: "You do not have account? Why is it so late again. I never know where you are! Dinner was cold .the excess claim ineffective. Solutions cantankerousness: say what you feel A man will never tell you who feel diminished when you criticize his behavior. What do you think that I leave the children with my mother for a week.. When you discover that you do not trust their ability to make right decisions. I feel suffocated. Before he had chance to say anything. the man will brush their teeth. and therefore will continue talking until you hear. Even if you talk enough. the woman ends up giving up and falling asleep with a feeling of rejection and disaffection. but that is not enough!" Sue: "You really selfish! How about putting his family first for once in your life? You . he is trying to tell you something that you're not listening. physical or verbal abuse.you just think of you all the time! Daniel: "Do not shout me. Daniel is late in coming home from work and his wife Sue is waiting with a few guy friends. women often address his men in a wrong way. " For many women seem to say that much more difficult than hitting mouth publicly because of the choice of a pizza. in turn. then you take a week at work to stay with them. And you will never feel that you sexually as uninteresting as his mother. he is finding it a failure. using indirect language. in return." never discussed the problem with it. wear something more comfortable. such as infidelity. She thinks that yawn and say "I am so tired. Seated alone in bed. When the two go of it. I am much more happy and enjoyable to live. communication has improved and the need for cantankerousness . I work late for us to have money and comfort to you . but in recognition: "I am not happy with this life. cuddle . in turn. If your wife is always complaining. to the refrigerator will get another beer and put it on the couch to see football on TV. someone who will never meet their expectations. The woman generally expected to intuitively know the man she would like to say different things than they actually want. I turn myself and have a time just for me. the man mutter. Instead. Women have to understand that the functioning of the male brain is comparatively simple and that people rarely can guess what your partner really want wives and beyond . It is the head that his wife is speaking in code. E is silent. One night. that does not mean they are getting properly convey their messages. Complaints in only mask a bigger problem of communication. You're complaining and exaggerating as always. make your gargling with halitol. sleeping with her. I think I'm gonna go to bed" and stay away.problems and be nice and warm. Rarely a woman asks: "Why did he not speak more with me?" The man. depression and cantankerousness are the result of communication problems. does not listen because it does not submit the problem as they should. Neither will it hit him with her complaints concerned the same problems he used to have with the mother when I was a teenager. Almost all the problems of relationships. As we said.in the arms and seek reconfortá it maybe even with a session of sex. the man responded more positively. Many women have difficulties to say. not as a complaint. You. When a woman learns to direct and calmly say what you want.
" Daniel: "Sue. I have been so busy at work lately. It is as if Sue was a sponsor of the finger in accusation Rist.I expected to do everything!" Daniel (away): "Get off my foot I am dead. you are arriving late all week and I do not call to warn [behavior]. increases and clarifies the sincerity of the sentiments of all. your interpretation of this behavior.Are you always running away! The language of "you" is to attack. and (I) promise that from now on ( I) I will call you every time you have to stay at work until later. " The technique of "I" is powerful because it reduces the attitude of defense. I thought you were not feeling well. leading Daniel to adopt a defensive behavior. Is there a problem. you're seeing someone? [Interpretation]. She can use the technique of "I" instead of using the word all the time you. honey. You know what your problem is? You're always running away from things. It describes the behavior of your partner. When that happens. And (I) am not seeing anyone. Solutions cantankerousness: the technique of "I" To get the attention of Daniel. leaving Daniel deeply angry: . I'm not avoiding you. the first thing you should do is avoid Sue left for him. I'm getting stressed. I never want to talk about them!" Instead of reporting what is really felt through a direct quotation." Sue (furious): "Ah. The technique of "I" has four parts. I like you the truth. preventing the situation is clear. right? Acting that neither child again.You are acting like children again! . It is almost impossible to irritate anyone . It ends with a discussion . I am crazy for concern with what may have happened [consequences].You do not have account? . communication is interrupted. This technique allows you to keep a normal conversation with your partner without fighting. I have worked so much. Sue repeated the same message all the time and Daniel was always silent. You only know me complain all the time.You know very well what is your problem! . Sue expressed hostility of indirect way.never do anything in this house . Once you enter Daniel with defensive position.forever. When I come home. I rest. And their problems only tend to worsen. without judging them. The technique of "I" lets it communicate your feelings about the behavior of Daniel. Here's how Sue could handle Daniel. So I am saddened [feelings]. and always puts the other on the defensive. putting him on the defensive. Here are some of the phrases you type. thinking that it is just a morose unbearable. Neither of them is listening or watching. your feelings and the impact that such behavior has on you.You are a selfish! . then it is well! Go to mosey out soon. I do not want you to feel well. I'm beginning to think that you are not interested and do not like more of me. sorry. They are simply left to say really how they feel. [I] am so tired I need a tempinho for myself. speaking as softly as possible: Sue: "Daniel. used by Sue.
needed to be about thirty minutes looking at the fire. per-sweaty and even require certain behaviors of the children for their safety. want to talk immediately. For you. Statements like "I" work best when they are expressed appropriately at the time. their well-being and success in life. she learns that it is not necessary to answer the first call. the proper way and the tone of voice appropriate. children trained to be responsible for repeating the call and. not only with their children. Solutions cantankerousness: Who trained who? Part of the responsibility of parents is to remember. . insist and ask several times before answering the child. I promise that after you talk to. plus the child resists. the messages of Daniel and Sue have been clearly communicated. Here is how to apply this technique. after a full day of hunting to feed the family.with this technique. When can we talk?" When Daniel agrees with a particular time (and respect) and Sue hold while he "looks at the fire. Parents influence the child's pattern of behavior. the choice is their own. in fact.with yourself. But where in the exercise of that responsibility becomes a cantankerousness? And whose fault is that. The more you repeat and calls. therefore. however. Be firm with yourself. If the pattern is reminiscent of the parents. is more emphatic and angry. Prepare to not give a specific situation for thirty days without faltering. wait until your anger placate the other to be able to hear. no tension and no one feels intimidated. The same happens with a man who arrives late to his work: one needs time to recover. I had a really long days and difficult gives me half an hour for me to build the dust and relax. addressing the problem. responsible. to regain your energy. Thus. Is confused and frustrated. Solutions cantankerousness: Leave the man watching the fire for about thirty minutes When the man returned to the original cave. In the above example." Sue: "Honey. sometimes take a deep breath. Everything that you need is discipline and firm . The more you get frustrated with the contempt it. if one parent at home or a mother complaining all the time: the naughty child or the mother or the father morose? The correct answer is: the father or mother. The parents currish / disobedient children can be easily corrected for. Most women. of course. Tell your children that you will seek the cooperation of them once. Daniel: "Honey. without speaking. What began as a simple request of "Come dinner!" becomes a war. I need to talk to you about what happened today. this is a vicious circle. Then the child begins to suffer because of this breach did not really think anything wrong. Enter then the consequences of disobedience. not with the child. and if they do not meet. think he does not want the requirement is met." there is no discussion.
When the violator is bathing. The first time you apply this tactic will be laughter. The same technique works with dirty socks. Do not complain to them . If you do not put there. which is probably a small price to pay. Say. will discover how unpleasant it is dry with a towel wet and smelly. confusion and protests. which they must be totally responsible. or so leave the bath. However. Tell them that if any dirty or wet towel is left on the floor. you will get it because they do not like to mess in the bathroom and that violates his right to a clean house. I want you to get your clothes dirty on the floor of the room and put in the basket. it will not be washed. the smell of spoiled food in the house would be as if the trash pile. and the person still doing the same things-sa. It may seem cruel.train them If you find that is complaining all the time with a person. The behavior of children is the direct result of train-ing given by parents. Here's how to reverse the situation: take a clean towel . and complaints are no longer needed. that means that they trained you to do what she wants you to do. you become the coach and not ° trained. for example. otherwise you will continue being the person trained. So you just collect the used towels because they do not like to mess in the bathroom and why do you think. that the next time this happens you put a wet towel in the bottom of the broom closet.preferably of different colors each child and / or adult of the house and tell them that this is your personal towel. for better and for worse. Say. nobody will get and no more dry towels to use. Tell them that will put the towel in the yard of the offender. If you have self discipline and strength. underpants and anything that you do not want to see play-of the house. but forgot to do it. With this technique. if you follow collecting things from around the world. The whole family was no longer believing-not endure the complaints and more feel the . Week after week. but you are teaching responsible habits. it is creating the rules and you are obeying. And the future partners of their children will not complain of their bad habits. He used to say that would take the garbage after dinner. received the task of taking out the trash every Wednesday night. So you no longer train for another person. In other words. Two or three times just to be trained to collect it and hang your towel. on top of the wall in the dog house or under his pillow. not to mention it will have a happier home.For example: "Jade. What happens here is that the other person knows that in the end you will end up taking the towel . Solutions cantankerousness: a case study with children Cameron. thirteen years. the laundry will accrue and will not listen to complaints of lack of that dress. The mother stopped asking and started to complain. for example. that a thousand times you ask someone not to leave the wet towel on the floor of the bathroom. Who will give first? If you sell and collect the clothes." It is here that the self and firmness comes into play. if you do not get. Go ahead and take to end its purpose. vol-ta to the point of departure.it simply endure their complaints. or after we finished the movie. has chosen to continue being a person trained and lose the rights to the claim with any person to leave the clothes scattered on the floor.
smell of garbage. But Cameron was not there either - he simply forgot and it mattered little to the complaints. Finally, the mother of Cameron has realized that the son was trained to the claim and decided to react. He said that as he did not meet with their responsibility to take the trash out, the whole family was suffering with the smell of spoiled food. And the consequences stated that he would suffer for their disobedience: the garbage that was not carried out would be placed in your room. Since he is not bothered with the smell of spoiled food, no problem would have to sleep with her. The thing was submitted to a fun, relaxed, nonaggressive. The family could hardly wait for the night of Wednesday. As usual, Cameron forgot to take the trash. The following night, when they pulled the sheet to lie in bed, he found full of rotten garbage. The fourth fedia! The cost of this lesson a few sheets were dirty and smelly that Cameron was forced to wash - he knew the consequences. But never forget to take the trash. Construed as a morose If the victim is honest with itself, assuming that there is any truth in claims of morose and recognizing that cantankerousness is usually a cry for recognition, the problem can be quickly transformed into a situation where everyone wins. To feel more important is the need of human nature. The researches have shown, many times, the people who work all day, have their contribution and their efforts recognized, less demanding than those that spend long periods indoors, isolated from other adults. Similarly, the owners-of-house that they do not really like, they feel proud of keeping a home clean and comfortable, to prepare a good and healthy food and give affection to your family, also do not usually complain - since receive the gratitude and recognition due. The people are generally morose performing repetitive and monotonous work or who suffer from being isolated at home. For some women, to wash clothes, clean the carpets, make the beds, do the shopping and cooking, not seeing more sense in that form, can dull the mind after a year or two. If we add to this cocktail ill-bred children who break in ten minutes the work of a whole day, we have a person who will use the cantankerousness to draw attention and try to make other people feel so unhappy about it. When the foundation of the claim is true, the victim must accept its share of responsibility for cantankerousness. The cantankerousness is the result of lack of communication. The challenge of the victim To achieve a situation where everyone wins, both parties need and want to divide the responsibility for change. The victim of complaints must recognize and accept that it must contribute to the solution of the problem. The tendency of the victim is to develop an aggressive behavior or silent, which makes things more difficult. She ignores the morose, yet tries to scream louder, leaving the room or the house and invents excuses for not answering their requests. The victim does not reflect on its share of responsibility because they are infernizada the claims, and puts all the blame on the morose. The only way out is to stop and make a self-assessment, seeing cantankerousness in an application for relief:
- Do you hear the other person? - You understand the frustration of another person? - You show superiority, making it feel devalued? - You acknowledge the achievements of another person? - You refuse to divide the domestic work because anyone who thinks the money should be in a good home? - You are quite lazy and useless? - There is a deep anger that feeds the poor will understand the problems of another? - You want to be happy? If you really want to be happy, feel able to sit with the other person and talk about the problems of you? The challenge of currish If you are morose, I stopped to think that the other may be unable to meet their demands? You are behaving as if the mother authoritarian one? Requires that it meets their requests and complaints promptly, regardless of his needs at that moment? You repeat all the time their demands? - If your answer to any of these questions is yes, sit down with the other and report them using the language of "I". - Tell him what you're leaving you frustrated. - Make an agreement of the best times for their requests. - Stop being is repeating. - Afirme their needs and feelings and listen carefully the response of her husband. - Try to know his opinion. Maybe he has a better idea. - Avoid accusatory phrases such as "You", which produce resistance in the other. - What is the solution or the consequences in case he does not change their negligent behavior? - What are you doing to improve their self-image? - You always rewards that achieves your goals? - You want to be happy? For many people, demand may become a habit, a means to communicate makes them people who sulk, unhappy and resentful of those who should be a daily source of joy, warmth and support. But things need not be. Following our simple strategies, you can build a future much more happy and loving both.
SEVEN THINGS THE OUE -MEN MAKE DEIXA WOMEN IRONING BOARDS It is not easy to say the number of annoying characteristics that women look for men, but the letters we received from more than five thousand readers, we came to the seven questions that women are more often about men. - Why men offer solutions and give advice all the time? - Why men are walking by the TV channels with the remote control? - Why men do not stop the car to ask for guidance? - Why do men insist on leaving the toilet seat raised? - Why do men create problems for both go shopping? - Why do men have very unpleasant personal habits? - Why men like coarse jokes? These habits of men that women classified as "bad" belong to two categories: those they learned in its creation and those related to programming of the brain But both men are capable of solution. Everyone can re-educate, just how to do it. Why men offer solutions and give advice all the time? "My husband is annoying me immensely with his mania of wanting to find solution for everything. He lives giving me advice on how to deal with all problems of my life - even if I do not want, when I just want to talk about my day and my feelings, it is stopping me to say what I do, think and say. He is the best to solve problems when it comes to "things" - dripping taps, lamps burning, defect in the car and computer and stuff -- but when it comes to hear me, he just does not work. And if I do not follow their "advice", he is bored. Karen 'Almost Crazy. " To find out why the man insists on providing solutions for any situation, it is necessary to know some characteristics of the mode of operation of the male brain. From the most primitive ages, the male has evolved as a hunter. The ability to reach moving targets, essential to all they could to feed, was his great contribution to the survival of the human race. He needed accuracy to achieve the prey and eliminate the enemies that it disputed the-ate of and threatened his family. Consequently, it was developed in his brain an area called "visual-spatial" that allows you to achieve success with all his reason for living: to reach goals and solve problems. The men became directed people to the results and measure success by their own achievements and the ability to solve problems. In short, men are defined and self-assess according to their ability to solve problems.
feels honored with the query. That's why he rarely speaks about the things that concern. When a man seeks advice from another man. she was criticized for an administrative error. He loves providing solutions and advice to others. a lost wallet and a broken fingernail. For men. So when a woman offers a board that no man has. The man whom he calls opinion. are not welcome. It is because he does not pay attention as she is saying and he is angry because she does not accept their solutions. and believes that it is making a smart strategic move. but unsolicited advice. "Why do not you shut up and listen". but he thinks she is asking you a solution. much less asking for solutions. is beginning to offer solutions. "do not ask!" Each thinks the other does not value what you are saying. Here is the problem of the majority of couples: the night. in turn. Case study: Sarah and Andy Sarah had a rough day at work: the head was marked up. she usually wants to talk about the events of the day and share their feelings. but he thinks she is bringing him to solve their problems. "If you do not want my opinion. Why women are annoyed with the solutions male? The woman's brain is structured for communication through speech. he feels as if it considers that the declaration incompetent. He thinks that is caring and loving when seeking to resolve the problems of women. She just wants the man to listen with interest.The man is valued by the results it is capable of achieving or the precision with which it has a zebra on the move. and the main purpose of speech is to talk. incapable of solving their problems. He only ask for help when the other person feels the need for a specialist opinion. seek advice is a demonstration of weakness. it is not looking for answers. that gives the board sees the query as a compliment. Most times. especially if part of a woman. Every man thinks he is the only person able to solve their own problems and therefore did not think to discuss them with anyone. She prepares a nice dinner in the expectation that will have a long and frank conversation . She thinks it is irrelevant or is ignoring your feelings by not listening. because he thinks it should solve its problems alone. She feels that her world is falling apart and want to talk to Andy about it when you get home. she strongly urges while directed to the port." he shouted back as the door knocks.
Sarah. I get another person to listen to me and it will not be telling me what I did wrong. which he said it was urgent. "Sarah:" How was your day. It gives you just hear me? I'm full of men who always know everything. " Andy: "Saraaah! If you do not want my opinion. always fix myself!" Sarah (almost crying) "Oh. But Andy also had a difficult day.. She can open the heart with someone like her. Call telling him that Sarah had a bad day. I will talk about their problems.while eating. It gives a look at the food and says the dinner will be ready in fifteen minutes. I want to go. I am not holding more! Andy (still with one eye on the news) "You are not holding more what?" Sarah: "My boss is me creating the biggest problem. and you get to say everything I have to do. is simple . He thinks: "Great! Fifteen minutes of quiet before eating. Solve them yourself and stop complaining to me.. She wants. It will be nice and friendly. you take care of your dinner. then changed the subject and said that I see the six-afternoon on Friday to examine the problems of last minute. he will need to adjust it or ask someone to help you with the two projects. "Sarah thinks:" Great! Fifteen minutes to go before the dinner conversation. knowing that you will feel much better. I leave and I do not know that hours back! " For men and women around the world. yeah? So Fuck you. Can you believe it? He just does not hear me . he stopped saying that I did not want to hear excuses and I wanted to campaign on his desk before I close the business on Friday. Sarah: "How was your day. When I tried to explain that the campaign does not was ready because I am still working on the project Seinfield. " Sarah (getting emotional) "I can not believe what I hear I am talking to you on the head that is giving me orders and I do not listen. honey?" . Sarah feels abandoned. When I came to work in the morning. injured and disarmament. Tomorrow you go there and He says that this deadline is impossible.. because Sarah rightly criticized its greater ability to troubleshoot. I already have enough problems that.. As Andy could have dealt with the situation Let's rewind the tape and see how Andy could have prevented a very bad night. He comes home. and I would not finish the two projects in this period. by the way. honey? " Andy: "Well" Sarah: "I had the worst day of my life. this is a very common scene.. In the end. tell him you can not finish the two projects at once and ask which of the two he wants first.. Closed the business with several important problems still outstanding. but he really needs a time to solve their own problems... you have to do is defend himself. he said snakes and lizards in my work and wanted to know that I had not finished the new advertising campaign. which will have to address before returning to work the next day. his mind still working on finding solutions. I think not stand this anymore . He listen. (getting danada life) . Andy feels devalued and confused. Then I said I wanted it ready by the end of the week and that he was scheduling a meeting with the client on Monday to see the work. that make you feel loved and understood and to convey the conviction that she will be able to solve their problems. gives a quick "hi" to Sarah goes to the room and watch the news on TV. " Andy: "Look. On the way home.
sometimes in a very personal level to see what kind of person he is. Over dinner I heard her with attention and affection. talk about various subjects. I'm too tired and stressed." Sarah: "Okay . Andy now has time and space "to sit before the fire and think of their problems... Many men have a mistaken understanding of the behavior.. You want a drink now?" Andy: "Thank you. assume . I want you to tell me everything that happened. I have some work to solve problems in the morning. before the end of time! Can you believe it? " Andy (showing interest and resistance to give advice) "Looks like he is really creating a very difficult problem for you . The woman... I'm so stressed that I want to go . before starting to deal with business. baby. " By not offering solutions. I feel much better now . Thanks for listening to me.. but I will get better after that they can think a little. avoided the usual discussions and felt happy with herself and with life. Some come to believe that she is giving you chat for sexual reasons or. Then he told me that she wanted ready at the end of the week and that was scheduled with the customer to come in Monday to see our work. which he said it was urgent. I really would like you to help me find a solution." When asking for fifteen minutes and get them." Sarah: "He just listened . but give me some fifteen minutes for me to solve my problems at work. Sarah feels confident and happy. baby. When you want to do business with the opposite sex Men and women do business on a very different.. giving Andy some time to himself. ." Sarah: "I had the worst day of my life. Here's how the dinner was: Sarah: "My boss is me creating the biggest problem. and when the two parties do not fully understand what that means. But in the middle of my explanation he simply stopped telling me who did not want to hear apology and wanted to campaign in his desk on Friday. but that something terrible! Does he not know that you get a lot of work? You look so stressed . but I was very happy to be able to tell you ." Sarah: "You do not know how I'm stressed! Well... but then I started to explain that the campaign was not completed because the project Seinfield consumes much time. When I came to work this morning. got a drink and not just sleeping on the couch alone in the room. my baby. and is reliable.. he said snakes and lizards in my work and wondered why I had not finished the new advertising campaign. She is going to wreak and feel better about life... at best. What do you mean?" sarah: "I think about it this evening. I changed the subject and said that I see the six-afternoon on Friday to deal with any last-minute change. When I tried to explain that the campaign was not ready because I'm still working on the project Seinfield. because it will give you all the attention during the dinner.. your business relationship can be financially disastrous. I am not holding more! Andy: "Oh. up early in the morning and if you have no good idea. Andy avoided a discussion..Andy: "It was good. I love. " Andy (with an expression of interest) "Honey. And Sarah.." Andy (hugging her) "What a hard day you had. I call you when dinner is ready. you need to establish a relationship with the man. honey .
councils are perceived differently by men and women. just ask: "You want me to listen or want me to help find solutions?" Depending on what she says.that she is asking for advice on how to solve their problems. giving advice is be attentive and show love. the best and simplest is to tell the man: "I need to talk to you about several things. even in business. but a woman can interpret them as evidence that the man is not ready to hear her. In general. In short. Then they feel entitled to offer and say what she should do. this is an efficient way to relieve stress and recharge the batteries for the activities the following day. The companions asked him never to speak or participate. but now using . every man has three remote controls and the toilet seats are always raised. In heaven.that the long-term business relationship leads to a much more consistent. For men. ask. in a state of trance. he will know how to behave. I do not need solutions. leaving him confused and Rally against the bad with the operation of your business relationship. And the woman needs to understand that men feel uncomfortable discussing personal matters and therefore prefers to go straight to business. How to avoid discussions with the opposite sex When a woman is tense and worried. To humans. For thousands of years the man spent the night watching the fire after returning from the hunt. He sat among colleagues. Definition male: Apparatus used to scroll through all 55 channels every two and a half minutes. Defining women: Apparatus used to switch a channel of the TV to another. not recommended. The man needs to understand that. The lesson here is simple and definitive: for men. When both parties to understand. The most likely is that it classifies as a man who does not listen and that it shall give due attention in the business of making Jun-ments. For a woman. the man is satisfied and knowing exactly what she expects of him. The modern man still looks at the bonfire at the end of the day. Solution When the woman speaks and the man does not know if she is asking for solutions or just bubble. listening with empathy. Why men are walking by the TV channels with the remote control? Remote control. Shall treat him with reserve. make it clear what you expect of the man who is wreak. women want to be heard. become more prone to make . it is easier to deal with a woman when she first establishes a personal connection. especially when the woman appears worried. The woman is suffering very much. we need to talk. and if not sure of what she wants. you just want to listen." With this approach. and was long periods without communicating.
look at the problems of others without feeling responsible for them allows you to forget their own worries. is something each time. but with the brain occupied in the task of reading the newspaper. repairing the car. make it talk about a variety . When he speaks. He heard the woman's falação. when we were in the remote Okavango Delta. she likes to relax watching a television program. even after having tried to offer solutions and be rejected. That leaves the confused. he is interested in getting the fastest possible conclusions. Because the brain oriented to solving problems. from multiple tracks. sex. Once. When a woman is concerned about a problem. The woman needs to understand that looking the fire is the way that man has to relieve stress and therefore should not take that attitude in personal terms.the problem remains concerned your mind. each waiting his turn to be walking by the canals. whether he is also emotionally present. The more he resists. more man resists. This basic difference between the sexes is a frequent source of problems. she likes to predict the outcome of situations and also to attend to business. The female brain. For men. which is one of the explanations for the fact that the number of men who watch the TV news to be six times higher than women. It is therefore a way of relieving stress as well as browse the Internet. because he thinks his mere physical presence is enough. dresses like tango. Women around the world have a particular aversion to the male habit is changing the channel. north of the Kalahari desert in South Africa. watering plants. The woman. Just remember the words of it. asking: "What was the last thing I said?" To his frustration. We entered and saw a group of drugs Kalahari. As the mind of man is only able to do one thing at a time. The woman tries to talk to the man just in time when he is reading the newspaper or surfing the channels. After a long day. engage in any of these activities does the smallest difference . She needs to talk about the problem to get some relief. which exists to meet two main impulses. Through channels. They want to know what is going on television. was not really listening and analyzing what she said. She suffers from the man's apparent inattention and disinterest as the person interprets it.newspapers. The woman accused the man tends to be kilometers away when she tries to talk. he is usually able to tell. How he responds to what she speaks. it analyzes the problems of each program and reflects the respect for reasonable solutions. doing gymnastics or the option almost always favorite. in front of the TV with a remote control from hand to hand. watching television is a totally different process. she is more resentful. books and remote controls. capable of dealing with several issues at once. The more the woman insists. the man likes to forget their problems seeing the problems of others. however. The men did not want to know what is going on television. The woman's brain is structured to interpret the words and body language of actors. her face. preferably a novel filled with scenes of emotion and relationships. Secondly. however. noticed an antenna driven by solar energy on top of a hut in the village. the man to forget their problems and feel at peace with himself. Concentrate on one thing. The man suffers from not being able to enjoy a moment of idleness.
He would go to the pillory than admit to a woman who is lost.the sense of direction has never been a need or part of their job description. Solution To solve the problem of remote control. The silence of the man does not mean he does not love her. This is the same ability that men use to find the place where he was sitting in a football stadium. it should consider the possibility of buying its own television set and go see your program in another room. Means that he wants a moment of quiet. Females. present and future-feeling. This is therefore the key to teach man the way a woman. a lake or a mountain. If he says "go to where the street has a huge tree. pointing to the north within a radius of 90 degrees. they feel pennite magnetic north. is sitting in the passenger seat and just go through the same garage for the third time. must understand that women need to talk and unburden relieve stress. Seeing a tree. so they learned to be guided by landmarks . But if he says "take the third exit to west on Highway 23 and walk five kilometers to the north". men have used the space component of your brain to track the prey and hit the target. And if not advance. without worry to reach solutions. then go toward building a pink next to the National Bank. she was able to locate and find the way home. defenders of nests and offspring. For men.000 years. If you are a woman. when entering for the first time in a room without windows. that is lost means that failed in their ability number one . is not alone ventured beyond the horizon. Why men do not stop the car to ask for guidance? For over 100. to locate the car in a large park-ing and to resume a place where it once. especially if it has no intention of getting a . something that only one in five women is capable of. all at the same time. it is likely that it arrived.of things. past.find the path. that the troubles and ask him to please not do so when she is watching your program. calmly. it should tell the man. This explains why more than a third of men. they learned the art of maintaining the sense of direction and recognize the ways to hunt for great distances without losing the direction of home. The most plausible explanation for the sense of direction for men is the highest concentration of iron in the right hemisphere of the male brain. The man. on the other side of the avenue. Men never lose -only discover alternative destinations. in turn. it may disappear forever. During this period. it is important not criticize him or give advice.
When a woman went to the bathroom. Or maybe. but the men just sit in 10-20% of cases. to be politically correct. When God finished creating the universe. I'm going to soak-ro . While you're in the bathroom. that the modern habit inherited from their ancestors. outside. Men never urinate in bathrooms. "I think you can keep it. preferably in a gas station. Then God gave to Adam.foot. is severely criticized. Why are four million sperm needed to find and fertilize one egg? Because no one likes to ask what is the path. the bathroom has moved into the houses and public establishments. are buying something. but men are at a disadvantage because the restrooms accommodate domestic needs especially women. You never hear a man say: "Hey. you can tell who is affectionately distressed to reach the destination and ask him to stop. who immediately was urinating on a tree and draw a picture in the sand. and told God that if Adam wanted to do so. a wall or a tree. smiling: "Multiple . You do not want to come with me?" Men. Today.. for safety. never lead a support group. but be sure to hear it. But the practice of going to the bathroom in groups remains among women. The modern homes are designed and built to accommodate men and women equally. with seats for women and set the wall urinals for men." he said. And God saw that it was good. but in bushes or supported on objects. he still lacked two things to be split between Adam and Eve A. The women always felt." Eva replied "Who are you?" And God replied. Why do men insist on raising the leaving the toilet seat? By the end of the nineteenth century. That is why we rarely see a man urine in the open. when they go to the bathroom. all public restrooms have separate facilities for men and women. Solution Buy a map or a guide and leave it in the car. benevolent. But when you forget to below her back. I took another woman.. Eva smiled. he has time to ask for guidance. depending on the relationship of trust that has been built between the two. The man. At home. which require a stop. leaving many people very angry." "Thank you. The offer was excitadíssimo and begged God to the left for him. Fred. A rapid and safe emergency strategy is to tell you that you need too go to the bathroom. Ask you to information. could stay. but the slope. Why do women never take the trouble to raise the seat to the man? In Sweden there is an article of a law requiring the man to urinate sitting in public restrooms. Then God sent to Eva "Well. had to go alone and defend itself in case of need. he explained. When the download was invented at the end of the nineteenth century. the man has to lift the board not to wet the place where the woman will sit. pretending that. was an instrument that would allow its possessor to urinate standing up. the toilet cubicles were in the back of the house. here is the other thing. however.
His task will be washing the bathroom. it kills me while I'm asleep. He is able to buy Christmas gifts for the whole family in forty minutes. Thus. The man can get a cabin bathroom (where all the urinals are occupied). in the Islamic world that millions of men sit to urinate every day . the book takes him more. It is said that the Prophet urinated standing up once in life. For most men. . The reasons for this are clear to anyone who has studied the evolution of different male and female brains and understand their respective schedules.Orgasms.or reforming the current home to create an extra bathroom. The life of primitive man as a hunter gave him a sort of "tunnel vision" that allows you to move directly from point A to point B in a straight line. and even then the penis to urinate over the roll of toilet paper in the left leg of the pants or on top of the shoe. and still alone on top. The ziguezagues between shops and kiosks that women needed to consider a purchase as a successful man leave extremely anxious. on the contrary. my wife decided I train now. a garden where it was impossible to sit. one can enjoy the standard of cleanliness and hygiene that you like. because of this. For most women. shopping is an activity located in the same plane to take of the prostate with a doctor of cold hands. " Indeed. the ideal solution is to buy a house with two bathrooms . or fall into the pot for that. shopping is one of the favorite ways of relieving stress. It requires that I sit urine. look perfectly in the middle of the toilet. there is not enough to trust him. so calm and firm. perhaps decades.which absolutely does not compromise the masculinity.one for him. If the man refuses. "After 28 years of marriage. And the best is that. I left the seat up. I speak seriously. just for new household rules. one for her ." One of our male readers wrote us to say as he and his wife faced the problem of the toilet seat: "Women need to understand that the penis has its own designs. a suit and two shirts last for years. To a man. may be remembered. a belt. If it is the bathroom at night and sit again in the wet board. Solution Ask the man who sat urine may cause some problems. because any change of direction requires a conscious decision.or below it herself . instead of asking politely . three shirts. I have no permission to urinate as a man on foot. Why do men create problems both for shopping? The great advantage of being human is we can buy two. The British psychologist Dr David Lewis found that the stress that men experience during the Christmas shopping equivalent to a police dealing with an angry crowd disorder. but may be upset with the woman if she require authoritatively that lets you down. the four in the afternoon of day 24. This is clothing to last more than five years. Maybe this can make sitting more attractive? If you are to them. which means spending a day on the floor cloth to clean all the drops lost. three ties and two pairs of shoes in less than eight minutes. a pair of shoes. And I am convinced that this is a small price to pay. If this is not enough to convince you. without having to worry about the other. the man does not give the slightest importance to the fact that the seat be raised or lowered.
feeling and showing all the things that are as speak with each other on a lot of issues with no relation to what they are doing. Leave a full day with a group of peers with no clear destination. maneuvers. They spend their days going from place to place in a nonstructured. due to the stress they cause. Men have evolved as creatures that kill their prey. Ask the man how to get in the shopping cart .the kitchen cabinet of a single man has ten packages of pasta. shopping is not part of the programming of the male brain. but men prefer to go straight. Men like to be in control and therefore to "guide them" using their ability to space curves. the fashion. Today it is exactly so that men like to shop. For men. skin and eyes. Women. but they affect the health of them.The woman. Consequently. defined goal or time limit. How to buy clothes The same principles that apply in the motivational-supermarket's worth of clothes in the shops too .brands.as you zigzag the gondolas. He forgets what she asked and returns home with a couple of "gifts": the product of his "hunting". Give him clear objectives . the supermarket zigzag loading a list. and then go home empty-handed. the color of hair. which means he failed. who is leaving and who will do . colors. just give cheiradinha the clothes you left in the back of the chair. speeds and stuff. they feel satisfied because they had a great day. feeler. zigzag with greater tranquility in a mall crowded with people. How do supermarket Let the man pushing the cart.this causes it to again use their spatial skills to find the answer. when shopping. . buy the memory and examine all the stuff you seem interesting. bread and eggs when returning to work can happen to bring him sardines and light mayonnaise. Even without finding anything worth the penalty to take home. nine cans of tomato sauce and very little thing. the idea is inconceivable. That is why when you ask a man to buy milk. they always go home the same items . But there are ways to help the man to have a positive feeling about it. and the limit of time is not important. The male brain is structured to focus on a single task.give the man sizes. and returned home. no route. so you need the encouragement. with his peripheral vision more broadly. and again at the end of the day with little to show. the place where you are going. At this point the reader may be impatient and was saying: "All this because of some shopping?" Remember. There must be a specific goal or guideline. Polls show that not only the men do not like to shop. Always ask what he likes to eat and buy him his favorite foods. Women shop the way their ancestors catavam food: going the whole day with other women for a place where one is reminded of have seen growing plants tasty. smelling. flavors and sizes . challenge you to find the best prices and praise him when he gets results. She dresses carefully in accordance with the time the season. how you feel that day. however. For a man. fabrics and price ranges and send it to the game.
I always secure her hand. Why men are so unpleasant personal habits? Everywhere. One explanation for the way men shop was developed from studies with chickens. When trying clothes. If I drop it buys. she is accused of suggesting that fat. the woman must provide a magazine to read it. the man feels anxious because he knows that will never have the right answer and is therefore wrong and let the woman boring. it will find that you are fat. wear old underwear and rub the bag.What can be said of a man well dressed? That the wife chooses their clothes well. Although it is a sign of good health and nutrition. reach a maximum of thirty minutes. ALLAN PEAS Even with these strategies. When received male hormones. But number one. Never ask him "You think I am better with the blue dress or the gold". then all yellow. It is less likely. self-expression and male entertainment. The other ate the seeds of all colors without any order. If it takes more. the chickens how to move the food Cisca. noun. by far. So save you the question. If you catch a smaller number. something that has a horrible name: fart. it is important that you remember: the concentration of most men in a shop has. First ate all the red beans until done. At the top of the list of men habits that women can not tolerate are: take meleca nose. The advantage of being a man is not to leave the room to fix the private parts. therefore. If a woman asks the man to buy something for her or to get a particular article. but the studies do not support this thesis. Solution Give the man a single thing to do at a time and not try to convince you that you are saving a lot of money buying a larger quantity. feminine: an embarrassing byproduct of digestion. Flatulence: noun. Men are more tolerant in accepting what they consider bad habits women and provide care in less detail than women. is what is commonly called the drop bang. masculine: a source of entertainment. the chair-thebored-husband. smell. they perceive a female habit offensive. In general. while the man waiting outside the fitting room. women complain that men are much more unacceptable personal habits than them. burp. bang release is an act universally . you must give the exact size of clothing you want.
vegetarians deploy more puns." When you were in a public place. flour. Find an example. The men released about twelve puns and women a day. beer. At home. cabbage. See the example of one of our readers. The main causes of excess gas is too much talk and talk during the meal. While men emit an average of 1. Nigel released huge puns in public places such as department stores. It was washed with more expensive.disapproved by women. As a result. The humpback is ranked second. although most is belch. only 2. Never shall it be the man eat food producers of gas less than two hours before bedtime. Before. drop bang for fun is a practice that begins more or less at ten years old when the prestige of children is measured by the ability to release various kinds of puns. Among the products that reduce the amount of gases produced by the body are the chips of coal. It is important that the woman tell the man with the greatest possible objectivity and ." Sharon decided to establish the room and the kitchen as "prohibited zones of bang. a minute ago. onion. it is always easy to turn and fight for the dog with him to scream. eg diu-to warn you that at least two minutes before the release will feel when a bang.5-2. Food reactions Foods that produce gas are more cauliflower. But if he insists on eating quickly and drop the boom all the time. bread. so nobody knew who was. you may need a more efficient tactics.until the big fights happen. but drinking during a meal dilutes the digestive juices. In addition. why was all red and with an embarrassed air. The air is trapped in the digestive system and. If it does not comply with this standard. seven. but with much less odor. such as carbohydrates and proteins never join in the same meal. Flatulence: the facts While 96. Chew the food well. When the surrounding is tipped for the couple. she benefit from a bag and roll of toilet paper for everyone would hear: "Does this help?" The mascots also solve the problem. fruits and vegetables in general.5 liters of gas. increasing the likelihood of releasing gases later. to prepare "in desgasificantes and products made of mint and ginger. Solution One obvious remedy is to prepare healthy meals with less genera-producing gases and offer the man a cup of mint tea after the meal. Sharon was obviously found guilty. no problem. Food combinations also give good results. broccoli. beans. encourage the man not to drink water during the meal. To hear noise or feel the smell of fart. Nigel thought it very funny .5 liters of gas per day. women emit 1-1. instead of coffee.3% of men acknowledge that drop puns. garlic. eat slowly and do not see TV during the meal. he released puns in bed and called it the "test of true love.1% of women will admit it someday. Among men. is imitating voices or blue flare launching the fourth with the aid the lighter. enough to fill a balloon. the rest goes to the large intestine where it mixes with other gases and is ready to explode in the most unusual. Every time I went with Sharon.
The laughter has its roots in our remote past when it was used to warn other people of an imminent danger. enjoy a much more enjoyable sex life.he is sleeping. with some unpredictable conclusion. the laughter indicates that she knows it was only joke. it can. evident in children from birth. Make love to the two in the morning.it is located in the frontal lobe of the brain above the right eye. second. relationships and men. to make the championships enchain bang and grooms in the light poles. Examination of magnetic resonance imaging show that men laugh most of the things that stimulate the right side of the brain and that it gives to women the exact opposite. .it takes all the desire to have sex. What can you say to a man who has sex? . how much this habit to bother. Men love humor and jokes that have a logical. A woman can make it clear that the boom in the bedroom . Other chimpanzees that warns of the danger.serenity. Caring for food with the aim of releasing less gas. With the terrorist you can negotiate. 3. extending over four kilometers. 2. But women never make jokes with them. The chimpanzee. Why the name men give to their own penis? . gaining prestige with men to have a good repertoire. throws her head down and produces a sequence of sounds very similar to human laughter. The male brain has an amazing ability to store and remember jokes. A major difference between the sexes is the male obsession with jokes about tragedies. rushed away to a tree. USA. Why do not want strangers to take their key decisions. are certainly protected and. The male sexual organs are hanging right in front of a vulnerable and weak (additional proof that God is female) and are a source of fun and free for men. to help deal with tragic events. third.especially in the double bed . What you want . then turns chocolate. Why men do not simulate the orgasm? . admit the truth about a matter in question. The female sexual organs are capable of astonishing feats of human reproduction. or the deal as a reason to laugh. Men find very funny show in the ass for unsuspected group of older women. Some men are able to tell jokes that you heard in the fourth grade. if progress. What is the perfect lover? . 2. which means that if for a moment she experienced a reaction of fear. The female humor involves people. not give them names of estimation. When you deliberately frighten a child playing hide-andseek in the first reaction is her cry of fear. Because no man would do such a face on purpose. as among monkeys. but do not know the names of the children of your best friends. step by step. For example: 1. When the child realizes that the situation is not threatening. Why men like coarse jokes? The humor has to man three main purposes: first. For most women. none of these things is not remotely funny. mostly nuns. in turn. Here are some jokes that stimulate domestic relation Cère male-ber: 1. claims to have discovered where is the male sense of humor . What is the difference between a woman in the TPM and a terrorist? . and crying is a reaction of surprise and fear. and terrible events male genitalia. The University of Rochester. she laughs. when can escape from a lion. The laughter is an extension of crying.
Think the last time that someone told you a joke that made you slip in uncontrollable laughter. As the jokes and humor relieve the pain The laughter and crying instruct the brain to release endorphins into the bloodstream. That is why the cry is often the extent of access of laughter. But knowing that it is not a real event. alcohol or sex. After the laughter. releasing endorphins. a kind of "cheap" natural. Here lies the difference between men and women with regard to dealing with serious emotional problems. The basis of many jokes is a disastrous event or painful experience for someone. and even violent when they drink vodka or gin drinks. And that is why. which explains why the general well-adjusted people laugh and most unfortunate that people become even more unfortunate. research has shown that the positive effects of laughter. strengthen the immune system. The laughter is a predominantly male to deal with emotional pain. the laughter turns into crying. At the end of a meeting of great laughs. that when a tragedy happens global. The laughter and crying are closely related from a psychological and physiological. The mood cure. activates the immune system. Cry when we have a painful experience. Many people get the similar effect of laughter with drugs. but men account. enhances learning and extends life. Osama bin Laden has 53 brothers and sisters. seem ill more frequently. The laughter anesthesia the body. When the person know it's reality. the male brain enter immediately into action. Women deal with disasters and tragedies openly expressing their emotions to other people. But he says he hates the Americans because of the excessive way of life they lead. but someone who can not accept it may start to laugh. without showing any emotional blow that can be seen as weakness. the arteries dilate and the muscles relax. They tell jokes as a way to "talk about the event. 28 children and more than 300 million dollars. another Body natural tranquilizer that relieves the pain. the breathing is deeper. How did you feel then? That feeling of tingling was from the release of endorphins to the blood system. Alcohol loosen the inhibitions and makes a person laugh. laughed and released endorphins to the selfanesthetize. and the endorphins and encefalina help in self-anesthetize. Endorphin is a substance whose chemical composition is similar to morphine and heroin and has a soothing effect on the body. This explains why people rarely get sick and happy that the unfortunate people who are complaining live. começaríamos to cry immediately and the body released encefalina too. while promoting the immune system. protects against diseases. stabilizes the wrist. you usually cry. when faced with a serious emotional crisis such as death.The jokes are as important as a means of communication among men. in general people cry. networks of e-mails from around the world are literally flooded jokes sent by men. If it were a real event. The more difficult it is for a man talk . "I cried from laughing so much!" The tears contain encefalina. releasing anesthetic produced by the body. In all parts of the world. assists the memory. Whether the death of Princess Diana. the September 11 or the hunt for Osama bin Laden. 73 wives.
If you are capable of taking a calm. acting as a mother all the time. As already suggested. Do not be offended While there are Irish there are jokes about Irish. Women live behind the things that the children leave the house. And choose to offend the world says you are unable to deal with the problem addressed by the joke. give them money and protect the bitterness of life. Miff is a choice. conniption and leakage. are able to discuss details of their sex lives with friends without the help of any joke. cease to be victims of traffic on both of rabies. And no man who finds the mother sexually attractive. things go sour. just go do something else. and the counter attack of the joke does not become more intelligent. How to re-educate the man The training of any person . .child or adult . it will invariably create their own collection of jokes. tell him so firm and gentle you are not enjoying it and want it to stop. And where there is a tragedy. maybe find a solution to the problem.to do what you want to do it is always the same. If it's a good joke. You can choose to feel offended because someone told a joke that says that everyone in your country is stupid. they tell jokes as a way to discuss her. A social occasion. using the knowledge acquired in this book to check if all are in agreement with the differences between men and women! Learned behavior . At the beginning of a new relationship. As a result. Women. boys grow up with few skills and domestic skills and a low degree of understanding of how to relate to a woman. If he persists. analytical. we chose not to hurt. Do know any more light?" Or you can ably deflect the subject.about an emotional event. eventually playing the mother figure and man react with screams. Other people may not offend you . we laugh along with the British. but when he realizes that may become permanent. In any event. As the men rarely talk about his sex life with men. will nourish you and serve you. your clothes are. but your anger will not make the traffic flow. however. Maybe we should use the following tactics: "You are a great counter jokes. preparing their favorite dishes.blame his mother The female brain is programmed to create and nurture the children mainly. the more he rirá if you tell a joke on the subject. What about Asian. We are Australian author living in England and the English are all the time telling us jokes about Australians. You can choose to feel the rage of traffic jam.if you choose offense. especially if you are the host. Despite the jokes. You want the behavior that rewards and punishes as either. this observation may be more difficult. on the grounds that the traffic being stopped. If a man insist wisecrack unfit at or in the wrong place. as the mother. It is important to understand that women. The man who asked you to stop improper wisecrack may feel publicly humiliated and be challenged from the other even more offensive. as cruel and insensitive as it may seem to women. Portuguese and feminist. They feel attracted to women. That does not mean they are really stupid. most women assume this role.
The key problem is to announce its intentions in advance and avoid being sarcastic. the care is not a behavior "natural" for them. Maybe. culture or religion. When he need them. they may fail to mention or three. When you understand how the male brain. therefore. The secret is to administer the men of his life. How they interfere with their right to live in a clean house. explain that you will put them in a plastic bag in a closet or under the bed. If you intend to re-educate your man. But if you continue to collect and save his stuff. If the mother of a man not trained to do these things. or were born in Trieste or in Timbuktu. Do not place them in the shop or anywhere that is convenient for him.is the man to drop the clothes or wet towel on the floor rather than put it in the basket of laundry. reward their contribution with a smile. but it is important to understand that men have not changed as guardians of nests and. collect the clothes and the towel. the next time you ask women to the seven things that men do leave them mad. And when he put the things in the right place. because that will only reinforce the behavior you do not want. not yours. you will discover that it can be fun to have a man around. the sexes will be able to live happily ever after. miff or frustrate yourself with them. explain politely that you would like the clothes were put in the basket to be washed. because it generally produces a negative effect on men. Similarly. instead of discussing. When he needs pants. the problem is his. tell him I will put them in a de-finished cabinet. . if large tools or unfinished projects for the house. Thus. a caress or a "thank you". resisting the temptation to save his stuff. but their brains work the same.you can change the skin color. Some women are horrified at the idea of thanking a man for him to do something as simple as collecting their own clothes. If they ignore your request. judgmentalism or aggressive. you know where to find. you have chosen to accept that the role of substitute mother's will and to comply with this role. will you train it. shirts or towels washed. Men are always the same . Who knows.
Sometimes the cry comes as direct response of the heart. Crying is a behavior that we have in common with other animals and that starts at birth. The lacrimal gland is the tap. spill or blubber. distress signal in emotionally charged situations. gave me a new bike! The mother of salt / and gave her one! ! The woman: "You forgot the anniversary of our marriage! Our relationship fell na. whine.. She also cries to look sorry and receive more lenient a punishment for a wrong action. howl. but humans are the only ones who cry with emotion. women are more likely to use the tears as a weapon of emotional blackmail.to act in a different way than would like. child. the excess of tears that can not be drained by the lacrimal channels rolls by side. the channel is the lacrimal drain. wail. shed some serious and humorous on the differences between the sexes and what you can do about it. The goal is to force the other person . you do not love me more! "The old mother:" No need to worry about me . We now examine how the emotions can be used to manipulate people and make them sell. The tears are secreted by a gland located above the eye and removed by two channels in the internal corner. excrete chemicals generated by stress. Although men occasionally do this. All stories are true . wail. lover. .. once I die. Why cry? Cry: yell. This chapter will help you identify the people who use such tactics to manipulate you or trick you in order to obtain what they want. trapped between three women who mourn.Chapter 3 WHY Women cry? The dangers of emotional blackmail Poor man. I am old. the tears serve three purposes: to help clean the surface of the eye. The daughter: "If you really like me.husband. sick and then.only the names have been changed to protect the guilty. whine (the dog). It is a mechanism of control that can be deliberate or unconscious. whine. reaching for his time in the nasal cavity. even if they are not aware of it. " So far. parent or friend . Emo-tional circumstances or afflicted. each with their particular complaint. leak. but there are times when people cry to manipulate the emotions of others. whimper.rotina. For humans.
to manipulate emotion. but the amount of tears is not enough to roll the face. and encourage the production of the hormone oxytocin. The prime purpose of crying in adults. The tears contain an enzyme called lysozyme. The human being is the only land animal that cries of excitement and. The lacrimal glands of women are more active than those of man. Cry used to remove salt and other impurities from the eye. which makes people want to be touched by other people and acaricides.from another person by threatening to reveal something that . the man who shows emotion. Familiar cry has three purposes: 1. The seals and sea otters do not use tears as a tool of manipulation. Let's talk about criminal blackmail. we examine the mechanism of manipulation. which kills bacteria and prevents infections in the eye. Wash the eye: The lacrimal gland discharges fluid inside the eye and lacrimal channels act as drains to drain it to the nasal cavity. because the whole process rolling. is a sign of confidence: the crying is the baby. The tears also contain endorphins. This is what happens when the light reflects the tears of parents proud and passionate lovers. Reduce stress: chemical analysis show that the tears of stress.usually money . The eyes glow when a person feels an intense emotion. The body seems to use this function to eliminate the toxins of stress. and friend plays the role of parent helpers. a process known to us all. for some women. display their emotions. Rarely you see a man cry in public. By transmitting weakness. The crying and the emotional blackmail How to blackmail Now you know the purpose of crying. a natural body of anesthetics that act as shock of emotional pain.Why women cry more than men? Cry since born. 2. For women.Flag emotions: Seals and sea otters cry when emotionally shaken by the loss of their young. Crying is a way to achieve what the child wants. he encourages other men to attack him. Most women can identify seven different meanings in the crying baby. where someone tries to extract advantage . which is consistent with the emotional reactions of the brain most powerful women. by which it assesses their needs. The tears act as a signal to the other emotional embrace and comfort those who cry. especially for other women. behavior perpetuated among adults. yes. is stimulating feelings of affection and protection. even seem to be no reason to do so. especially in the presence of other men. containing the different proteins that serve to clean the eye. is placed at risk. however. those who roll the sides. Humans. That would explain why women they feel better after "a good cry". 3 .
Continuity: the inevitable continuation of exigêncÚs. Greg was starting to become distressed. the mother of Rosemary and daughter became seriously ill understood. . the relationship with the parents of Greg finally turned sour. she put her head between his hands. . I tried all possible solutions. "Tell me. The emotional blackmail The emotional blackmail happens when a person threatens you emotionally close to any punishment or subtly insinuated that you will suffer if you do not agree with what she wants." Greg was furious when his wife told him that story. Concerned.The threat: exposure.. That is therefore the main ingredients of blackmail and criminal actors: . went hand in the eyes and deep breath. all is well." "But Rosie. no. When we sat at the table. made a special deal in appearance and prepared the favorite of Greg. . "tell me what happened.Resistance: the victim's initial refusal to cooperate." Greg began to think the worst. After dessert. Greg. I will try to understand. but not . "No. "It's Mommy. Rosemary shake. please. Case study: Rosemary Greg." she said with soft voice and hacking. Greg. she told Rosemary that one of her friends had seen Greg with another woman in a bar. she shook her head. Greg hugged her and she begged him to say what was the problem. punishment and loss of something of great value material or emotional. "I feel terrible. but I know what you think of the idea of her live with us. Excuse me. who was combining a party-surprise for the anniversary of Rosemary. That night.. "No." she replied. She is very patient and I am worried. . "No. pleading. the husband of Rosemary. and her mother did not like each other.The victim: someone who has a sense of guilt or obligation. When he came home. Between tears. It is I" And off to cry. "We are not owners of each other. Is it something so bad?" Between tears. Greg. The mother thought that Greg was not good enough for his daughter and was always trying to create problems for the couple. served him a glass of wine and asked how was your day. what? Something I did?" Rosemary shook her head with a sad air. that would invite the parent to live with them. This person knows their innermost secrets and vulnerabilities and USA that knowledge to make you comply." he begged. you did nothing. Greg asked what was wrong. "I do not know how to say. I give a way. she knew he was calm and relaxed." suggested Rosemary.The blackmailer: a person who knows the weak point of the victim. Rosemary prying eyes at him. Took her to the bar to present it to the owner. . Do not worry." Greg held the hands of women. . . One day. Two years later. From that day. I am afraid of you getting angry with me and not stand that.The requirement: the payment in exchange for silence or cooperation. carefully chose the moment to present it.The agreement. "Rosie. Frankly. with heavy heart.will harm the victim's life. I take care of her. But how could imagine what the reaction from Greg. Rosemary should be having an affair. acceptance of the demands of the blackmailer. "It probably is a co-worker.
rather than say it directly at the risk of a refusal to listen. Women. I do not know what to do . To obtain your agreement.exactly as Rosemary thought he would stay. it was your mother I know. Perhaps a situation similar to that of Greg. children and other family and social groups . You end up agreeing to something not wanted to do. They prefer to ask directly what they want. And Greg knew that every time he protests.found.realized the weakness of Greg. relatives and friends. The strength of the initial refusal to cooperate Greg. Use because. In the end. Greg.thinking about Mom alone.they always end up manipulating to achieve their final goal. The pattern was established. but . It is important that you identify the people in their relations that use these tactics of manipulation to get what they want. Oh. The many lack the self-esteem necessary to consider worthy of the object of their desires. who developed the role of peace keepers tend to say exactly what they want when they want something. they have a incontomável need to be loved. by far.and their brains are structured to make them work. The requirement: the mother of Rosemary go live with them. without anyone to care for her. Continuation: the inevitable discussions and in tears. began to feel guilty. If he really loved Rosemary. maybe that person who never seems to say exactly what you want . But after two days of tears of Rosemary. often. The agreement: Greg yields to the demands of Rosemary.. Both Rosemary as her mother knew that once she enters the door. Greg was flatly refused to consider the possibility of bringing the parents to live with them. Initially. it would be virtually impossible to go back. there would be tears and accusations. the blackmailer makes you feel bad with yourself and guilty of resisting. Greg agreed to a trial period of a month. and he would feel sick.. It is inevitable that you will be felt by being placed in this situation. " And started to sob. your relationship with the blackmailer will never be the same.he felt weakness and feeling of guilt when his wife was emotionally distressed..with partners. should not be prepared to make that sacrifice for it? Is this not true love? Marriage is compromise? And started to feel selfish and petty . Defenders of the nest. The blackmailer: Rosemary . . The story of Greg and Rosemary has the typical ingredients of blackmail in which a person tries to emotionally manipulate the other to obtain a personal gain: The victim: Greg . most frequently the victims of that the villains of emotional blackmail. In general. Men and emotional blackmail Men are. more commonly. people do not believe that their relatives and friends use this type of strategy on a conscious and deliberate.. But the consequences of emotional blackmail is always destructive. The people who are emotional blackmail. Its function has always been to nurture relationships . and this is killing me . The threat: the implicit refusal of love where Rosemary not get what they want. the emotional blackmail to get what they want. Whether you realize it or not. Everybody knows at least one person who has used tactics of emotional blackmail to force them to do something that they initially refused.
. The male brain functions are much simpler with regard to emotions. I like you the truth. "Sorry. However. you know you want. I really like .. and usually women consent. moved away. taking into account the pros and cons. We give it so well that I want to show you how much I love you. She has helped to unbutton it and started to caress. Without enough force to impose their will. spend the weekends away and so on. and this would be the maximum of their manipulation. "Erika. Men are also emotional blackmail." Damian whispered in his ear: "Come on. but in much smaller scale. sweetheart. After five minutes. As Erika said that he liked it. Damian . Damian was getting impatient. or subtly asking that everyone agree with what they want. meanwhile. he stopped the car park in a poorly lit and turned off the engine. And their brains continue to evolve that way. but I do not want.The blackmail seems to be the easiest way because it allows the person to avoid the confrontation. I do not feel ready. immediately.. And twice in the match led a long and deep kiss before she desvencilhar of his arms and leave the car running for home. When hunting. He liked to Erika and I have sex with her but the girl resisting. Damian. In the third meeting. We only went three times. The men use the direct approach and well structured to achieve what they want. He could not understand why. The boys. Be patient with me. In the course of history. But it is too early. the use to convince girlfriends to make sex with them. The same happened a second time. men require. the men preferred the direct approach. thought it natural that she wanted to make love as much as him." But Erika did not seem convinced. For me. to buy your partner a bouquet of flowers before you ask. If a man wished that his mother would live with him. Turned to Erika and began kissing her and rummage in his shirt. When the time comes. I know. I never felt this for someone else. I like you the truth. men always occupied positions were always more powerful and more open master-mind of women. So it is not contained and asked what was wrong. hire an escort to take care of mother. but was rejected. please. in his stratagems and his cunning to get what they wanted. I only make love with you.. I love you. And a third. May propose to build an annex in the house. for example." Erika. sorry . "No. Women prefer to emotional blackmail. The trend would come right in the matter and discuss it frankly. he tried to take the shirt of Erika. for centuries. after a dinner theater and much more expensive than Damian wanted to pay. this is the time. there are some situations in which men often resort to emotional blackmail. In general. Case study: Damian Damian came out twice with Erika. I just want to know you better. women had to rely.
I have hurt before ." "I will leave you without a penny." It seemed so upset that Erika could not avoid a sense of shame. the requirement. Damian left implicit threat "that was ready to end the relationship if you do not get what they want. As expected that two people build a relationship of respect and mutual trust based on the manipulation? The emotional blackmail is not destroyed immediately combated. He knew exactly what were the weaknesses of the Erika and struck without mercy. Common tactics of blackmail emotional The practice of emotional blackmail may be lovers. then it is better to give people a longer time while I'm not too concerned . I was a complete idiot. I like you. "Because . Damian was the blackmailer. Erika was the victim and sex. "No. but that is how I feel. But if you do not feel the same. The emotional blackmail rife in families and is a practice that is transmitted from generation to generation." "When we fuck." And got the key to the car to start the engine. she stopped resisting and was blackmailing left to do something not wanted.. You will never see the children. I think you're a great guy and I spend more time with you. and it is natural for a man wanting to express love physically. sad. This leaves the way open for Damian to want sex all the time you see. do it for me. Women hate men see emotionally disturbed. women are deeply shaken when they see a man collapse. It is better if we separate." Damian shook his head. " Erika Damian just having sex with that night. I always hated. husbands or wives. Finally. I love you.." "I will disinherit you. Damian." Damian was crestfallen... But I see that I am completely wrong . it is clear that you do not feel for me what I feel for you.. that awakens their maternal instincts and desire to help them get rid of pain. Here." Ex-partners: "I will lead you to stick to family. Erika.. If I had said so directly." "Of course you do not love me. I regret. I'm sorry. look.. Sometimes employers can be." "If you love me. though no longer absolutely clear that he liked her. "No. parents. What's wrong with you?" "This is what people who love to do some the other. but I am not prepared. I thought that things were going well between us. And their relationship lasted two weeks.." Children: ." But Erika.. children.you. I just need a little more time .. Used to see men as strong and infallible creatures. I thought that you feel for me what I feel for you. But when he said that does not support the idea of being hurt again.. "No. it would not have reacted as reacted. Damian. Erika began to feel that perhaps the only way to convince you were agreeing to have sex. Erika was increasingly upset." "Why are you doing this to me? You are blood of my blood!" Husbands / wives: "I can not believe you're so selfish!" "You do not love me. Here are some of the threats or punishment typical of the emotional blackmail that it may sound familiar: Parents: "After everything I did for you. parents or friends." Lovers: "Everybody does. We forget that this happened. When Damian subtly accused it of not liking him. A relationship that starts well is doomed to failure.
How children feel relatively powerless because of their age and size. you should not be doing your heart with us. who was sick. "you know that we have a lot of home for duty to do. but spent everything I had with you.I am old and will die soon. Instead of arguing with them calmly and coolly." "You've heard of sexual harassment?" What the blackmailer is saying is: "If you do not behave the way I want. "Look. or in any particular activity that kept distant. They must take the consequences. Do not I deserve a little fun? You do not want me to be sad. Case study: Julia The more grown less if the children of Julia had to go visit Uncle John. she used the emotional blackmail."All the other parents do this for their children. "But mother. my situation may be difficult. It is not fair. It has nothing to do. " The children can master the art of manipulation. the children of Julia also blackmail." she said." In-laws: "I leave everything to a charity. But look how you treat me when I need. he asked the children and she felt obliged to lie. Julia felt guilty for that." argued Bemard of fifteen years. saying they were on a tour of the school." "I though . You do not remember what he did for you when you were small? Mimava account and would take you two. The children then did exactly the same. . was also a specialist in blackmail. Julia felt powerless and trying to exercise a moral and emotional pressure on children. Parents who routinely try to blackmail your children must be prepared to see the spell turned against the magician. indifferent to the arguments of the mother." "I'm sure the press will like to know that. Children learn early that the emo-tional blackmail are a way to get what they want particularmen when you live in a family where parents use blackmail. or busy with their tasks from home." "Make sure your name is never a list of deals. Every time I visited the uncle. "And there is very flat in his house. he is getting old and I do not know how long it will live. mother.I have been adopted. I get sick and end up in hospital" "Do not worry about me . "He is alone and wants to see you. If I do not do well." "Do not you have to me and a little company loyalty?" Employees: "If you say goodbye. This is the guy they like most of the children you love me." "If you do not take care of me. of sixteen years. We do not want to go." "I always did everything for you." she told them. he does not listen to what people say. but I have this great work of geography to . or simply instruct them to do what felt right. You want us to be disapproved." Employers: "You are only making things more difficult for their coworkers. do you?" Katie. I can never go out with my friends. because they had already learned the game. will suffer the consequences. you will need a good lawyer." But. he is completely deaf. I would go with you today." "I never thought I would disappoint me so much. I would have done it for you." "You like more of my sister than me. "Oh." Friends: "If the need were you. I never had money. End of story. Note that I have ne-le vai from the final average. In addition. In this scenario. blackmail seems to be the most effective and easy to get what they want.
kids! If your parents did not give a pound to put on my hat. Stephen did not know which direction to take. But Camila is not complied. Chrissie. and guilt is the most powerful weapon of blackmail. saw what was happening and was in charge of the problem. Camila was well-humored. but everything was finished. day and night. Chrissie and Stephen were married the following year. agreed to is Stephen. Phone begging for him to come visit her. At the end of their number. he may return to Camila therefore been very frightened with the threat of suicide. but would like it to be ahead and build for themselves a new life. Camila still regularly visiting his mother and talking about the "good times" of his relationship with Stephen. Then Stephen encouraged to write a letter to Camila saying you felt very strongly that. One day we were watching a street artist in London. his new girlfriend. Everyone felt sorry for her. The closer the relationship. Chrissie was able to understand the emotional blackmail of Camila and I knew that Stephen was the innocent victim. He heard about the lack that he did. Tried in vain to comfort her. Camila still enjoyed and felt affection for her. he begged to go home. but had agreed to the separation at the time. Camila secretly believed that he could never hit the step and sooner or later would see how his life was empty without her. But there appeared another woman. Stephen thought it was an amicable separation. the greater the sense of guilt. "Hey. Well . The more a person is allowed to emotional blackmail. Stephen did not. you do not like you!" Did eighteen pounds. Stephen began to call for more problems in the hours. Began to call his mother. There was no chance of him returning to it. Stephen simply had not noticed that Camila was deliberately using the emotional blackmail to have him back and had no real intention to kill. But when Stephen's mother began to talk about his new wife. asking for news. and shouted. saying it had made a big mistake and would like to meet with him to talk. She simply believed that after one or two weeks alone. crying and saying that his life had been finished without him. Like most women. Camila is angry. Convince the mother of Stephen's family to seek Camila to tell them he was concerned about the state of it and ask them to give him attention. He felt powerless in the face of her tears. Luckily. The quick action of Chrissie prevented that Stephen was caught in the trap of a relationship that he wanted more. She knew his mother liked her as a daughter and had been razed to the separation.Adults who use emotional blackmail create children who are even better in practice. Camila. . but had no more emotional ties. Chrissie is not involved. but nobody gives it much importance. he turned to the group of children that applauded. bewitched. Then she called saying that he would be killed. which had met someone else and that I would be happy Camila too. the more it will take a standard in the future of their relationships. Reluctant. attractive and loving . never really believed he would remain firm in that position. But Stephen had changed. Camila was mad with rage. Case study: Stephen Stephen was five years ago married Camila when they separated amicably. but said he felt very. thinking that would be responsible..just like when they met.
"I. " Bob does not move: "No. He knows it will. which produces a beer hangover less angry. There are many things we do at home. I was thinking about the boat. We must give a fun for the kids on weekends. The essential ingredients of the criminal and emotional blackmail are exactly the same. She knew that Bob could drag it forever and the boys were increasingly distressed with the tension in the house. Bob. Irene was the victim of blackmail. I work hard the entire month to earn money to support this family. The men are not accustomed to dealing with their emotions and do not much idea of how women deal with emotion. When Irene knew the price. but used to refer to the demands of others and left to state their wishes only to keep the peace. was concerned with people. never putting their needs above the needs of others. In a year the boat will be more expensive and also is a good idea to buy a boat this summer. One day. Exhausted. which political party is the best policy to govern the country. and you postpone the purchase of new boat for a year. They also need that boat! " After two days of tension. It was a happy and loyal person. used. Men can be tyrants too emotional to get what they want. Case study: Irene Irene was a wonderful character. almost fainted. but this tactic works better when their women are kind of sensitive and quiet. "Do not you think the children? It is you who always cares to know where they are and what they are doing. Men deal with facts. you only think of you. When other people . her husband was very demanding and jealous. Return to work full-time and everything would be fine. Women know this and use for their own benefit. "I do not believe what I hear. but it is important to remain firm in what you want. " Bob made a bad pass Irene piece in the three following days." he said. "But Bob." Bob remained insensitive. Irene has supported more than one situation. I am stressed all the time and my fishing to Saturday is the only opportunity I have to relax. Irene." Bob was naughty. and I m always done that on your own. because they will be able to do water skiing. me. We spend more time with the kids. and should have left it clear. Will never passes through your head that I have my needs." he said with a voice increasingly angry. but they will end up having problems. we can not buy the boat now.mostly women faced with the emotions. figures and concrete realities. Nobody likes a cynical take on another person. and who knows if I bought a smaller car. Been researching and said he could buy exactly the boat I wanted at a reasonable price. Finally.and now he wants to a berth in the marina. I never imagined that one day you would deprive them of spending the weekends with us. is used to refer to male rulers. Irene discovered a solution. Men like to direct discussions and arguments about which is the best time. all together as a family . she decided to try a line: "Bob. Bob announced the desire to buy a new boat. as anyone who receives a demand for ransom or a direct threat. Bob bought his boat . because the old was exceeded. It was quiet and generous.The fault places the victim under great pressure. We just pay the enrollment of children and you promised I could buy a new car at the end of the month mine is a broad-old who lives breach. . "Here you come again thinking only in yourself. we could have both. Stephen was convinced from the outset that no-that would return to Camila. " Irene was crazy. it will use the same tactic again. the majority simply does not support. me. "We can not buy it now.
Why can not argue with the objective to discuss the situation and negotiate their options. The emotional blackmail destroys the self-image of victim. and have a desperate fear of losing what they already have. in any way accepted any portion of blame for the situation. But the behavior of the blackmailer. Therefore. increasingly unfair How to deal with an emotional blackmailer People who practice emotional blackmail often strong opinion and resolution u s. The resistance: the attempts to Irene to demonstrate that the requirement of Bob was not practical. this is rarely true. they knew it would work. in reality it is you who has the mastery of the situation. and offer an alternative. Continuation: the recurrence of the tactics of blackmail on the part of Bob for the anchorage and the marina in other situations. imme-diately. Do not try to understand how you feel the blackmailer. to allow the children fell into bad company because of the husband was being selfish. Blackmailer usually nothing more than false Roughnecks. Make its demand and.all of them character-specific. In many ways. patience and a firm purpose. Whenever father and mother give to an attack of anger of the children are planting the seeds of an emotional blackmailer. you have to prepare for a battle long and hard. have an attack of anger. and extending the tension in the house. because it enabled. which was built in the course of time. But while giving the impression of knowing exactly what they want and are prepared to do what is necessary to get him. his love for children and their desire to maintain a happy home were the vulnerabilities of Irene. His self-image is poor and does not support the rejection.The victim: The sense of obligation to his family. the blackmailer feel powerless. Without their agreement. The submission: Irene just giving. egocentric and without feelings . If you are a victim. if she is not satisfied. The only way you lose that power is showing weakness. it is important to consider in deciding whether to agree with it or will do something about it. The blackmailer: Bob knew all the secrets and feelings of Irene and know their weak points. which allows the blackmailer making new demands. If they give in to blackmail. . The first thing to bear in mind is that the blackmailer need your agreement to something.are like emotional blackmail fanfarrões children and rude and should be treated as such. The requirement: that Irene agreed to purchase a new boat. Usually accuse their victims of being selfish. the fear and guilt. People always treat us the way we allow them to handle. Be ravaged by insecurity. This change of behavior requires persistence. it will gradually lose the self and will be forever deprived of the ability to assert itself. that is. they look like rude children. If you think you are a victim of emotional blackmail. Never forget . can be modified over time. The threat: the guilt of contributing to the deteriorating health of her husband. Do not ask the blackmailer to reduce its demand and.
but that is how things are."I see things in a different way. because anything you say will not be able to it. The situation must be resolved ." ." . When the demands. Just say: "When you want to talk." . especially 'the victims had the courage to talk about what was happening.train him.but only if the blackmailer is ready to discuss the problem in a civilized and rational." . During this period of silence the blackmailer." ." The refusal to show weakness or immediately negotiate almost always produces a period of silence or the petulance blackmailer. how it emerged and strengthened further as it became a reference for many other women who . setting its borders and keep it firmly within them."I think we need to think much about it. With such a strategy."I see you are not satisfied. it is usually then that the victim assigns. When the blackmailer is also in the dark Sometimes the blackmailer is not aware of what is doing. insults or attack the vulnerabilities of the blackmailer. The blackmailer feel helpless and hopeless before the: USA." . I'm available" And stand away."You're obviously disappointed."Obviously you are angry. Beware. Never attempt to counter-blackmail. We on this later. Maybe they did not occur naturally."Well. Avoid countered with threats. A South African journalist Charlene Smith wrote a wonderful book about the night he was raped at home and helped the authorities to prosecute their abusers. What can you tell a blackmailer . South Africa had the highest rate of rape in the world: one for each 26 seconds. respond with silence. In his book. the choice is yours. quit the conversation civilized and go. it is essential that you have a stock of ready answers."I regret that you feel as you prefer. speak of 'his good qualities. but we will discuss the issue when you calm down. Blackmailer meet people who do not retreat. Reaching a compromise. do not argue. knowing that the goal is just to give you some relief. At that time. then practice them until they become part of you. you can modify the behavior of the blackmailer. Do not fight or argue with the blackmailer . but you still need to save the appearances. Charlene speaks of the terrible effect that the episode caused it. but at this point there is no negotiation. If the blackmailer demand make you feel uncomfortable. threats and accusations of a blackmailer to start well. The rape was the biggest taboo in the country. and few people.Remember: you are being the victim of blackmail and that what matters is how you are feeling.
After being raped. especially her husband and children because they felt unable to protest and resist. she agreed to sign your name on the dotted line. unconsciously. passed the consequences of emotional blackmail to other family members and friends. the house was leaving her husband and. It is very likely that this woman had no awareness of emotional blackmail to be doing with your famI1ia. . "The addiction of Mary autopiedade made a slave of his attackers. as I said.went by the same trauma. though not visible to the naked eye. When contacting Charlene. I had enough credit. demanded that her husband bought a house in another place and left to care for three children and the house. an incompetent who could not stop two weeks in the same job. "We are talking about spending the rest of our lives together. she was amazed with the reaction of the writer. You can request the support of a friend of women's confidence or call a good adviser. "I'm not asking just for me. In these circumstances it is much better for the victims of blackmail out under domestic and seek help. for our future. free from emotional." he said. "But why not. Charlene said bluntly that she was using the emotional blackmail to make the family suffer as she had suffered." he said. And if the husband had stayed at home that night? And if the children had not left? Perhaps the rape had not happened. "She was playing the abusive behavior of their abusers ment of another way. 'psychologist or psychotherapist. The children cared for themselves. perhaps best finish all at once now! The discussion was dragged for weeks. It paralyzes the victim. If you do not trust me to make a simple loan." said Charlene in Proud of Me (proud of me). They were prisoners of a sense of guilt for rape. Sometimes it is necessary to use someone who is outside the sphere of emotional blackmail." He used the phrase "After all we spent together. she resisted. initiating a vicious cycle that becomes increasingly difficult to hold. Later." The victim may be. blind with love and afraid to lose him. and asked that money in the God-given and everyone was too late. In the limit. In the end. A well known to our family by the groom was troubled to \ join him in a business transaction. It was easy to fall into the role of blackmail. psychologically and financially. as the blows that she applied to his family were much more deadly. When your heart becomes a life sentence When you are first subject to threats of emotional blackmail. But one that tried did not get its support. Initially. stricken by the frustration felt unable to help her to recover. the woman left the university. do this simple thing for me. "If you really love me. the blackmailer can ruin the victim emotionally. The attacks of them were obvious. I am asking for both of us. that's the least I can wait" as a weapon to finally oblige it to accept. The fault is usually the most powerful weapon of the arsenal of the blackmailer. He begged her to be his guarantor in a loan to purchase a car to work because. to help break the vicious circle of self and autopiedade. when he discovered that he was an incorrigible liar.
the child will feel forever prisoner and felt with his parents. So if after reading these stories you recognized the role of victim and cry so that she knows the reason. but was long ago. The threat of losing the love of women is easy prey to blackmail. Everyone has heard of women who.Why give the blackmailer. How many parents pushing their children . love and joy of living a life without guilt. but firmly resolved to fill them with guilt when they were thinking about leaving them to build their own lives. Parents also can inflict lasting scars on their children. . As the groom. Yielding to emotional blackmail.are authentic and often subtle emotional blackmail . service by service. wherever it occurs. And what is more sad. The emotional blackmail. abandoned the happiness of parents to care for elderly and debilitated. With the children. by sense of duty.that they follow certain careers. is always per-versa. now she suspects of every man that approaches. still paying. But it is never too late to change the situation. Anyone who has ever been in the role of victim may be imprisoned the rest of your life and see all the missed chances to find happiness. the emotional blackmail tends to vary. with no regard for specific talent or the desire of the child. she ended up drowned in debt.
. desperate and afflicted with constant fights. their relationship was problematic. Both calculate that the other will continue giving what is already giving that behave the same way as their parents. When was the last time you emptied the machine to wash dishes for me? Do you know a place to wash dishes? Tell me when was the last time you took me out to dinner. and every year spend holidays abroad.. was not the slightest idea that Kelly wore a special female scores to rate their marriage. Kelly .. I drain the family to work for the week full and you are never satisfied. in general do not discuss the last details of the contribution of each of the relationship. One night when the issue arose of legal separation.. work and work. the excellent school for children . Between four walls.. Wash. to take care of me and that part of family life that I need without being charged. I do everything for you. and we were at the end of their list of priorities." Most men absolutely do not realize that women maintain a system for scoring the performance of its general partner. both agreed to consult a therapist for couples. I need a man I want. or that fits the stereotypes of marriage that everyone knows. most at least. you know I love you . Women are not aware of this process. The number of points that man accumulates with his partner directly affects the quality of your life. organize your life and take care of our family . Mark agreed. Forget about me and the children and never do anything for us. but the place inexorably. Tell me when was the last time you said you loved me . I work hard. but so that people can live well and have everything you want. not understanding what happened. Here's what they said to the therapist: Kelly: "Mark is hooked on work. you still complaining .. however.. The men... The problem was that Mark. Mark had a very good job. their three children were happy and well adjusted. " Mark (surprised): "I can not believe what I hear.Chapter 4 THE ULTRA-SECRET SYSTEM THE WOMEN OF SCORE How to ruin a man of the week For the rest of the world. Kelly always seemed boring and Mark was perplexed. The men see only the general framework Men prefer to be watching the "framework" of . is not Mark? And I think I will never understand. like most men. When a man and a woman decide to live together. were confused. While love. cook. lived in a lovely house. Es-Kelly was happy to go to a therapist. " Kelly (angry): "You can not even understand. the clothes and jewelry you USA. And all you do is work. step.... I am tired of being mother and father to our children... We work. all this I offer to you and them! Yes. not know the existence of that system and may be disapproved without ever coming to understand that it is wrong. What do you mean with 'I do not take care of you or the children? See our wonderful house. " Mark (shocked): "Kelly . and Mark Kelly led a perfect life. It is as if not existíssemos. but in their hearts they thought things should resolve themselves.
They are still doing things for the man because they believe in the end. why women take a variety of small decisions about the intricate aspects of a relationship practice. The female brain. Similarly. it would reach this point. If a man buys a rose for your partner. while a dozen roses can be interpreted as decoration for the house. But if he buys a rose every week for six weeks. But 95% of all points awarded in a relationship are the things that happen or stop happening every day. man can not have the custom to give his partner often. Women keep lasting memories that accumulate points for years. in turn. for example. the man is not knowing when the relationship is tie the score. it gives you a point. working five days a week is worth at least thirty points. If a man keep a score. As most women know. . The woman gives a point for this action or. If he gives you a bouquet of six roses. A woman can let it get to 30 to 1 before starting to complain. but when it does. When he thought that the score was 3 to 1. she continues giving only one point. is structured to fine tune.one for each day of work. While unconscious.life together and giving a small number of large contributions from that tangle with a number of contributions that appear less and less important. The woman keeps the score and never forget. but the point of view it is only five . They simply do what they do and never think to maintain a system of scoring. it just something great. that your partner will thank and support them retribuirão. not by size. the points are allocated by the number of shares held. the woman gives points to every thing we do in the partner relationship. if the man paints the house. gets a point collects his laundry or says he loves the woman. A single rose is clearly intended for her. the score-draw will do. For example. allocate points according to the size of the action or the present. quality or the result of a single action. Then the man she accuses of not doing anything. had complained of being too giving and require that the score was tied. regardless of size. This difference is the cause of many misunderstandings between men and women. For him. And suppose. and he is surprised and upset with their accusations. It really is that women feel and think. no matter the size. In other words. Regularly present shows with a single rose that is always in the forefront in his mind. men are not the slightest idea that women attribute points in the relationship. then won six points. He was not the slightest idea of the existence of a problem because it also maintained a system. In general. If he buys her a new car or a diamond ring of your dreams. secretly. If the man also had a point system. would find that the more important the larger the share or more points this should be allocated. also wins a point. you will certainly score more. men always thought it is paper size.
She said. For example. he is not remembered for having done the praise and not to put it in your list. mark at least three points. thought it would at least ten points . Working late worth five points per night in his opinion. and therefore lost points. This list indicates several things: first. she thought he care more for work than for her. She tends to put more points for small tasks. which required skill. The woman usually gives to man a single point for each task home run. is the frequency. for it was only a joke. In fact. His wife. Brian won important points by small actions such as "give me his coat because I was cold. despite having . They had also to record points lost by irritating things that your partner do. We then ask that they meet every day." Why not try to change position tonight? ". "You go to the sink and I am dropping puns on the couch. took the house and cared for their two children. but she only gave him four points.a third of your score staff to work five days a week . For example. For him. Not that I have forgotten. Our experience with Brian Brian and Lorraine was a financial operator who worked long hours visiting client's building and your business. when Brian praised by Lorraine she prepared a dinner some night. is that it never happened that the head of the woman praising the food could render points." Brian thought that the more work in the office. this was a difficult task. He asked. but he was not aware that there were some marked. During this period could not discuss among themselves or how or when the points were allocated. He thought he was earning extra money for a better life and that she admired for that. but only gave him a Lorraine. Lorraine. she gave him three points.because they cost dearly." without realizing that this small action to surrender points. for thirty days. chocolates and champagne for her. We suspect that this is due to two reasons: couples who live together have a tendency to ignore the negative points or relieve the other. If he had called to say that I loved her and miss her. the more points scored. because the brain spatially oriented. One point was assigned for each of the small-contribution and a maximum of thirty points for a major contribution to the relationship. and call again when you arrive.To the woman that matters is not size. and when doing a test like this tend to have good behavior. In see-ment. He just thought it was "taking care of it. "Good idea!". a car-so score of the contributions that have believed in that relationship and estimate the score that thought should receive the other. personal and intimate than the big tasks. and he was proud of what he has done. which for Lorraine earned only one point. Brian ignored the fact that small things mean a lot to women. Like most men. You may notice that none of them reported many negative points. Both are described as a happy couple. When bought flowers. but working overtime in fact meant he had less time to stay at home doing small things. men give more points than women to work physically and spatially linked. normal. Brian was five points by helping the child to assemble an aircraft. We present below a summary of the partial results after thirty days. or that the activities had generated.
pay bills. "I'm not morose. shopping. He felt happy with the fact that scores of the relationship is very balanced. watering the plants. Lorraine He felt a little distant from the birth of last child. and Brian was working late. giving the same to you to work fifty hours a week.often heard his mother and his grandmother say that. Brian was devastated with the result. Repetitive activities such as collecting the dirty clothes and wet towels on the floor. Lorraine stayed at home feeling aggrieved and resentful. but thought perhaps the stress of the many things she had to do. so that gave him an overall score for their efforts . the resentment generated is the same on both sides. and twenty times in the two points that took the initiative in sex. Lorraine won three points for massage the back of Brian one night. giving the majority of them a low score. while Lorraine is re-hurt the performance of Brian in public. Brian never becomes a routine of Lorraine. Aspirate the carpet. that experience was a chance to open eyes. for the simple reason that she never said anything about it. thinking he was doing what she wanted him to do. to make more money and give more comfort to the family. cooking and making beds all worth one point each by the time she performed. To Brian and Lorraine. but he never does what it has to do. . send birthday cards. At the end of the experience. " Complaints of Brian concerned things that Lorraine did or failed to do for him. to bath the children. for being at work all the time.thirty points. but I get reminded all the time. take care of dogs. Brian had given a weekly average of 62 points given to Lorraine and an average score of 60 points. Therefore. She described every detail their activities. He acted as if everything was perfect in the relationship and was not the slightest idea of how Lorraine felt. reading. pa-ra them and discipline them worth one point each. plan family events. These lists also show that when the man and woman having sex or not. a year before. but Brian has a weekly average of only 48 points. wash the laundry. What started almost as a diversion to see how men and women attach points revealed a potentially disastrous situation. go to the bank. he began working late. The monthly score of Lorraine The list of personal activities of Lorraine was four times longer than Brian. Lorraine was granted an average of 78 points. The reactions of Brian and Lorraine The weekly score of 30 points less to Brian explained that ants within a resentment of Lorraine from the previous year.
The solution for men The woman not only to the point. sometimes more. If the communication between partners is always the intention to adjust the relationship and ensure mutual harmony . Take the test now The most effective solution is to maintain a permanent communication as sincere as possible. the man has to ask what she wants him to do.it better. Giving flowers. Marilyn Monroe Men are not programmed to offer help. From a man. We offer the test as a tool to encourage dialogue. is unlikely to say. So she will not be resentful if the score is tie for him. it accumulates during the long periods and never forget. She is able to refuse to have sex now because you yelled at her two months before. as the salary to bring home or paint the room. put things in place to help in the kitchen and use halitol account both. If the woman you think the score is for the partner.The solution for the woman The woman must accept that the male brain is programmed to take care of the general framework and that the man believes that mark more points doing big things. you can use the test as a guide that brings you the happiness . All men are equal. happiness. and record scores for ten days all contributions to the relationship. becomes distant and angry and the couple's love life begins to wither. give unsolicited advice is to say that the other person is incompetent. Women always remember. If you think that is against. It should also encourage the man to take small gestures like that. If you do not ask.rather than a pure exchange of accusations. Along with his partner. just as did Brian and Lorraine. Remember that a woman gives a point for each activity that executes man and a score more by small things that involve emotional support. and reward him for that. but forget also the positive things you did for them. Only the guys that are different for us to distinguish one from another. They forget the good things that you did the previous week. their quality of life will have a better extra-ordinary. After evaluating the results. But if he is aware of the importance that your partner gives small things and try to do them. support or advice. That does not mean that man should work less. do they think there is no problem and that the relationship is going well: The men have a short memory. the partnership is intended to be a source of joy. That is how things work in the male world . if each one is available to hear the honesty of the other reasons.people expect you to play. If this happens. praise him the look. to meet you and understand . unless someone specifically the piece.
Make the test scores from time to time to ensure that the scoring is balanced. financial situation better or worse . Lorraine immediately understood what we wanted. purchasing a home. Abstract It is understood as the measures the other things. in which none of them feel resentful or used. When asked to Brian and Lorraine as part of the experience.a new child. The partner with the score needs to balance the negative contribution.you want.the score can vary and things are irrelevant in a specific context to acquire another value. Brian's answer was "Huh? Score? What is this?". When there is a change of situation . but most men know not. Above all. . A difference in score of less than 15% shows a very balanced relationship. Like most men. The scoring system used by the opposite sex is not better nor worse than his. use the test to keep the dialogue essential to any relationship that want to grow up happy. Women understand that. he even knew that women had a score. A difference of 15-30% shows disagreements sufficient to cause ten-sion. is just different. to bring up what he values. doing things that (a) partner (a) assesses to equal the score and reduce the tension. and more than 30% means that someone feels unhappy in the relationship. and show the things that give you more pleasure.
not sure . and knew the make and year of car that Ralph was thinking of buying." Hannah: "His mother is still doing chemotherapy?" Julian . but knew virtually nothing about the esposes. but if there was a problem." Hannah: "How is Ralph?" Julian: "Fine." Hannah: "So . Why men never know anything about the life of your friends? 2. the hole-in-one that he almost succeeds. and decided to spend the day there playing golf together. received numerous letters and emails from women that I asked more about the differences between the sexes.he said. Why do men feel the need to always be with right? 4. the last trip abroad that he had to close a deal. The truth is that men are not illogical. for sure he would have told me.. When Julian came home at night. his wife Hannah was eager to learn how it was: Hannah: "So how was your day?" Julian: "It was good. Why both men are interested in "toys for boys"? 5. But I did not ..... he did not say anything .. as they often think. Why men can only do one thing at a time? 6. They just work differently for women. Here are the seven most frequently asked questions: 1." Hannah: "He did not say? You mean not asked?" Julian: "Well.. how will his newly married daughter?" Julian: "Well .. " And so it was." Hannah: "And how is his wife after a week in hospital?" Julian: "I do not know . the children and family of Ralph. Why men never know anything about the life of your friends? Julian Ralph did not see a year ago.. Why do men avoid commitment? 3. Julian knew how many strokes each had. Why are men so by sports fanatics? 7. no. remember the problem in the bunker. About what men talk in the bathroom? The problem of women is that they try to analyze the behavior of men from a female and are quite disconcerted.. Was aware of the struggle of Ralph with the camera site because of its real estate projects.Chapter 5 CLARIFICATION THE SEVEN MAJOR MEN OF MYSTERY After the success of Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love ".
. sports. When a man is not talking with friends and it does not mean that they fought. or that his wife was elected Citizen of the Year by the local community. cars and women. is because he is watching the fire. and generally does not bind on feelings and emotions. playing golf. The men did not expect that men talk much and never insist on talking. It is not lack of interest in friends.. as I said. a brand new repertoire of great jokes. . the only circumstance in which a man talks to another about personal matters is when you have a problem that can not . but. fishing.9. they can not do both at the same time. This is because a drink with friends is just another way to look at the fire. He had.To relieve the stress . The male brain is fully dedicated to the "end-mind". people talk about work. .5%. but does not know that he separated the women.5%. No need to talk if there is no will. Rarely talk about people and their emotions. When a man is watching the fire with a drink in hand. A study by the University of Leeds investigated the reasons why men go to the bars after work: Why men go for a drink? .. solutions or answers to questions or to share information about things and processes.the results. The man knows all the jokes that his friend told him. Speak one at a time because their brains are organized to or speak or hear. Men can spend hours together. Who was that you found .5. or that of his brother Ralph had a diagnosis of Parkinson's disease. Unlike women..To drink alcohol . When the man comes out for drinks with friends after work. Imagine that the friends he wanted to know something. the other to understand intuitively and leave quietly.To find women . When talk is about facts . Solution The man does not understand why the woman wants to know every detail of the lives of their friends and acquaintances.know anything more about the girl child who lived in Bangkok.85%. women are invariably surprised by the fact he go home without knowing anything about the personal life of anyone. say. however. Nobody says: "Tell me co me was the day . not to mention much. Men relieve stress releasing the brain to think of something else. How they were?" When you talk. playing cards or watching football.
Why do men avoid commitment? Commitment: verb. Geoff accepted with joy. When Geoff hung. career. she was not seeing anyone else. relationships or the whereabouts of family members or people in your social circle. As was expected. So if you want information about health. Sally called for Jodie and thanked for having made them. he asked council to a friend. and Geoff realized that she did not like Mary. The following week. so she invited him to go to the beach and then dinner. Then Geoff decided to invite Mary to the birthday party of his best friend. rather than be given by Sally gossip.a really fun person . verb. Jodie called immediately and told Sally to what Geoff said. Despite never having talked about a unique relationship. thought. the time spent together indicated that they now had a connection.resolve. The story of Geoff A month had happened. Men do not understand the concept of relationship the same way as women. because Mary was a fun person. The story of Jodie Jodie was shocked by Geoff not have asked for Sally: party but a "piranha faladeira" called Mary. saying he had really liked Geoff and I know him better. male: not crush other women when in the street with his wife or girlfriend Case Study: Geoff and Sally Jodie thought Geoff and Sally would make a beautiful couple and arranged a meeting for them to meet. Geoff called and asked for that he would see her that same night. do not expect that men give the answers. she should immediately tell. But left the matter there. . That night. That left him confused. They are very fun at the party when he saw Jodie Geoff.and months that he was not the route. . female: I want to marry and form a family. Ask women. The next day. Then. it was the signal for Sally that it would start a relationship with Geoff. Sally is cut into tears because he thought that she and Geoff were going very well. as a last resort. The two had a great night and exchanged phone numbers and is combined again. but Geoff was not the slightest idea that they had a special connection because it had never been spoken. They left in the three weeks following the end of the film and were one or two times every week. For Sally. Then. Jodie seemed a little cold. Geoff also called for Jodie to say the same as Sally. Approached it and presented it to Mary. He realized that there was something wrong but had no idea of what could be. whom everyone liked. That is how things work in the male brain. Mary was the lifeblood of any meeting .
Only 3% of animal species. "How could you do this to me?" She whimper. How can he be so stubbornly loyal and devoted to a bunch of players flustered and not necessarily bright. made sense that a male had ten or twenty females. but had no sense that a female had ten or twenty males. Was reasonable. This is why men delay to the maximum 'commitment to take the woman and are so difficult to maintain a monogamous relationship.. Therefore not argues that unfaithful men claim that they could not avoid. the males are polygamous for the sake of survival. If you want a faithful man. for example.. Mae West The woman believes that she is "out" with a man for some time and none of them are . But when Sally opened the door. But Geoff was not ready to take it. it was decided that Sally. is not programmed for monogamy. saw that she had been crying and I was bored with it. seek a hospice. The man is able to hide their emotions and feelings of the woman he loves. So they decided to remain friends but that would not further to bed . He had never previously aware that they were only a couple ..Cards on the table Geoff was eager to review Sally. he does not know which are not there with him and not show or a tenth of that devotion to her? During almost the entire time of existence of the human race. But we differ from other species in the sense that our brains evolved and developed large frontal lobes that enable us to make decisions about what we want and we do not want to do. Was speechless. fox and geese. ".think Sally went with other guys. but is visibly emotional and passionate when your team plays. It was the first time spoke about his feelings realized they were going in completely different directions. The brain of most species. but they are rarely willing to invest the same amount of emotional energy in a relationship with them. They had choice. maintaining a commitment at least until your child is self-sufficient. since it could only birth to a child at a time. which also increased the chance they could pass their genes. Geoff felt she should be in the TPM and the weekend that the crisis had passed. including humans. it is something that is programmed into his psyche. are monogamous. Women often admire that men may have an almost religious feeling with a soccer team. Wanted their freedom. especially when it lost. not only with him. therefore. There was little to offer because many men died in hunting and war. that the survivors adopt the widows in their haréns. For women. and then in front of our friends How long are you going with it? You like it? Sleep with her? Me responds!" Geoff was not believed in listening. He spent the following three hours trying to explain the problem with Sally. From the survival of the species. well. Sally wanted a compromise with Geoff. wishing that she had prepared his favorite dish..
he speaks of freedom to come and go as you want. Solution The idea of establishing an ongoing relationship potentially never passed by the head of Geoff. now they are dating. because there is a special connection. he wants love. now they are dating. you must give something in return. "When you undertake. sex and someone to take care of you. At the same time.if you want love. If you have difficulty to speak directly. where there are no rules.with other people." they laugh. and not trying to understand them or being sensitive to their emotional needs. exercising its right to clarify the situation for two and choosing the type of relationship you want to establish . In short. The man tends to be direct and make a woman know whether or not a special and unique relationship. friendship. Never assume therefore that you are having a special relationship before discussing it with someone else. Repeat: men can not read minds. Otherwise. she needs to say clearly that the man of her point of view. it can play. must learn and respect the rules of the road . There are several ways to do this. instead of just waiting timidly to the man understand the situation. Having a relationship is to take driver's license. When Sally has complained about "What were you thinking?". because now it is who controls the handcuffs. Not only is it men do not know read my mind. men avoid it because they think that compromise the woman will steal them the freedom and they will end up weak and powerless. they now have a special relationship. is that most of them is not very sensitive to the state of mind of women. it is difficult to know what specifically is he talking about freedoms." In general. Pressed to explain. You can also say how good sex and agree close. like Geoff. as happened with Geoff. dedication and loyalty. will always be a pedestrian. however. And respect is what the woman must have by itself. When the man says that commitment means losing freedom. What most men think It is a universal custom among the men playing friends saying that the marriage or the permanent relationship with a woman one of them is a clear sign that the life of the unfortunate end. attention and much sex. it grabs you by the balls. What women want in return is love. If you want to go. "You can say goodbye to 90% of your sex life!" And also the warning in general welcome the singles: "You have to ask permission even to sneeze. the more likely it is that the plug does not fall. A woman should ask what your partner feels it and wants you to go to the relationship. When a woman suspects this. do not want to give up anything. The answer would be: he was not thinking anything. and how many women want to have. She must learn to be honest and direct. he wants everything. this is a strange concept. A relationship is nothing more than a negotiation with rules . To be frank it is a sign of respect.otherwise. saying for example that is happy to prepare a dinner for him. not to speak when not to. They have not the slightest intention of stealing the freedom of man. not have to be accountable for their actions or justify their behavior. But for most men. men have evolved hunting animals and making war on enemies. Remember. The only way to live life in complete freedom is alone in a desert island.
As we have seen. He might not hesitate to give her a book of recipes for a birthday present. or a therapist. Zorro. Not only knew his first name was Always. The man finds hard to say "Sorry" or "sorry" because it is wrong to admit. all male loners who never complained of problems but. These super-heroes as partners seem to prefer a dog or a horse. Jackie announced that Dan had made contact with a financial adviser to have an accurate assessment of their household finances. the more likely it is that he is offended. when a woman asks the man is saying or doing. and very rarely a woman. In-a-Ledger. rarely fail to fulfill its task. as if she were weakening or denouncing their incompetence. Some of them had a partner. To seek a financial adviser. rather. make it clear that she thought he was wrong about the household finances and seek counsel to prove he was . And. Dan saw the thing in a way completely different. but Dan felt that they were not financially prepared. he reacts defensively. The heroin is usually a Barbie with anatomically impossible breasts. Dan could not believe what was hearing: Jackie wanted someone else to solve their problems! Obviously. Dan thought.with your partner. I hoped he was happy that it is taking responsibility to look for someone who could work with him. reducing the pressure on him. is what happens when a woman wants to ask the way. Go to a seminar on relationships. Spider-Man. James Bond. and men usually are defensive or aggressive before the mere suggestion. but if the woman gives him a book of this self-help. This subject has been a source of major disagreements between the two. reliable. never meet them or say they are wrong. His models are: SuperMan. amounts to a humiliating admission that he is wrong. Like most male stereotypes of books and movies. Why do men feel the need to always be the reason? To understand this characteristic of modern man. she thought he was not able to do their own accounts. because animals are loyal. of course. is conditioned to think that not being able to do something or solve a problem means to be a failure as a man. One day. they separated.three months later. usually a man less and less important. If different from his. we need to examine their education. The comics also depict the macho tough guy as a person endowed with huge muscles and possessor of a voice rough and deep (much testosterone). Their eyes. The differences grew . when it appeared. the heroes of boys rarely make a mistake and never show weakness or emotion. Boys have to be tough. to resolve what is best for her. Jackie wanted to help Dan. Married me with Mr. Batman. was an assistant who had more problems than anything else. are always behind solutions. That is why. You imagine that she is trying to say that it is not so good way. When the child reaches adulthood. not cry and be good at everything they do. or call a technician to fix the tap. leaving the relationship under huge stress. Case study: Jackie and Dan Jackie wanted to stop working and have a son.
only to see and hear the movement of the gears. When the visiting friends. and all laugh of contentment. giving the impression that considers incapable. instead of saying "You never know the way and we always come back!". " In other words. he responds: "You think I am not able to deal with this problem right ? If you are a party and she warns. Had a transparent plastic box. He complains of being all the time trying to control it. the woman is the problem for you. but all that did was put staples into sheets of paper . the stapler is round. should make clear what she is feeling. but he sees trying to say what is wrong and is unable to solve things yourself. . he protested: "Do not trust me?" In all these situations. Solution Since the man in general have these characteristics. can not resist putting in four or five clips on a sheet of paper. instead of blame him. But Gerry was crazy with joy with the aparelhinho and said that sometimes when you wake in the morning and through the stapler on the table. He led three batteries that need to be replaced throughout the week. Why both men are interested in "toys for boys"? When our friend Gerry made birthday. I feel better if we stop to ask someone here what is the right entry. dear. the man thinks that women's council to hear tantamount to hear what is wrong and does not deserve her trust. It seemed something of a space shuttle exit. When he arrives at the destination. the size of a miniature television. saying not to drink too much. Instead of saying what he did wrong. For example. She can say "You're doing fine. but the signs of these streets are very confusing. Any woman that does not visit a minimum for the stapler. If he is angry with the neighbor's dog barking at night. which left see all the gears and discs moving inside. And is so offended that she begins to think that perhaps it is really kind of controller. we'll have to present a paper stapler moved the battery.incompetent or insufficiently reliable. it would be good to say: "Honey. When the man hit the woman should welcome it. says it will complain and she asks you not to do it. you are the best ways to discover! You do not trust me? The most common phrase of men whose actions are challenged by the women is: "You do not trust me?" When you hear that phrase. afraid to fight there. the answer it is the same: "I was just trying to help!" She thinks is showing love and concern for him. you can be sure that insulted the manhood of man.Like any other staples. the woman should avoid driving to it in a way that it felt wrong.
In general.. shelves and anything that has a set of instructions. On Saturday afternoon (after the game). rifles with telescopic sights night. Due to the propensity of the brain space men. space and anything that has the remote control. This includes all kinds of video and computer program. Fofinho was so that I could not resist. Boys are boys from the shops. tests one or two mechanical Sanders. angles and distances . back up and operate mechanical.the parts dark .which are active when a person from USA spatial skills.is the brains of the hunter. as the concentration of the average man has a range of nine minutes. aircraft. If the washing machines come with remote control. Institute of Psychiatry in London. drive cars. electric trains. nuclear. Female Male Call a fireman without first consulting the man of the house can be interpreted as a serious insult. examining all the toys that might have space. Areas of the brain used to play football. they leave unfinished projects around the house whole. The hardware store has closed and he could not open the . just because ". motor boats. But it is the male equivalent of the tendency that women have to pay exorbitant prices for imported teddy bear. and thus meet its space needs. build or do work. it is likely that men are interested in to wash the clothes. men and boys are fanatics for anything that has buttons. The space industry of the brain that is used to estimate speeds. engines or movable components that make sounds. but get angry when you call someone suggested to complete the work. Men love the challenge to build models of sailing vessels. portable GPS devices. Then go home and find that size is not one. try a drill pressure and finally find what appears to be a carrapeta of appropriate size. cars with panels complicated." It is easy to explain why the sexes react so differently to these things. mechanical. have lights blinking and the battery is moved. Men are the agents of cars and stores equipment and products Make-You-Even where they can find things to do. but most do not know where you are carrapeta old. computer spreadsheets. At home. It is about 45 minutes walk by the store.They all admired to see the excitement of men with a aparelhinho so expensive that only runs a task beyond the trivial. Find out what appears to be a carrapeta spends and goes to the hardware store. Projects Do-You-Even The whole bunch of products Make-You-Even faces towards the space area of the brain male. 2001. the man who refused the help of a firefighter to repair the defective vessel closes the record and dismantle the facility. the men's space needs can be frustrating for women because. as they are indecipherable. The following images show the areas of the brain .. they do not just fix the broken things.
Most women do not understand why men seem able to do only one thing at a time. percent of the technical experts of the world are men . Instead. probably miss the exit.the excellent performance of that natural ability. though not the slightest idea what you are looking for. If you are working with a sharp tool and the phone rings. The only difference that exists between men and boys is the price of their toys. A woman should never call a fireman. each with at least one primary function operates independently of the rest. is on average 10% thinner than the female and carries about 30% fewer connections between the two hemispheres. it should tell you what it considers necessary. you run the risk of injury.of "toys for boys" . The cable that connects the right and left hemispheres of your brain. Ninety-six. She explains that men lower when the radio or read a map when they march to the defendant in the car. There is a lesson here: always give the man a toy of this spatially related. This concentrated focus allows men to become great experts. portamo. it is as if he had salinhas throughout the brain. Today most new companies are founded by women. If he is in clover road and someone directed him to speak. nobody will ever be able to bathe or use the private sector. will find that solved the problem myself. If a woman can read while listening or talking. . even during the commercials. unless you hurt him! And do not try to resolve any issue while he attends the TV. That is what gives the approach "one-thing-of-every-time" to everything he does in life.are recorded by men. Never give you flowers and nice cards. technician or any computer in space qualified man before consulting his own man. The response of readers to this issue was so overwhelming that we will summarize it here it again later. Understand that mentality "one-thing-in-every-time" is one of the most important things a woman can learn about the men. you will discover that he is almost deaf.registration until the issue is resolved. In simple terms. why can not the man? Why he always turns off the television when the phone rings? Women around the world complain in unison: "Because he can not hear what I'm saying while reading the newspaper or watching television?" The reason is that the human brain is compartmentalised and specialized. Their hope is that it is a problem to be absolutely clear. Thus. ask your opinion and give it a run. if he is just calling a fireman. the corpus callosum. If the car makes a strange noise. these things mean much less to him Why men can only do one thing at a time? In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? Presents a thorough study on why the male brain is so singularly focused: what it described as "single track". financial consultant. builder. he raised the hood and will take a look. because in most cases. Remember: never talk to the man when he is doing a beard. but 99% of all patents . Seeing the images of the brain of a man who reads.
most women can do many things not related to each other at the same time. The best strategy. fantasy that he is giving himself to the mark and kicks goals. The sports to which man is part of a group of hunters. Between 1800 and 1900 were invented almost all modern sports with ball. nothing much has changed in thousands and thousands of years . And most important.The man has two times more likely than women to engage in a car accident while talking on a cell phone. The brain images show that the woman's brain never shuts off. there was one man in the country who do not know the color of escalation of the team. In reality. men caught in groups while women receive food and care of children. As adults. therefore. In business. Seeing their heroes in the field. the goals they most marked and tactical errors they committed. but men still kicking balls. discuss an issue at a time and adhere to it until all these men are satisfied with the solution. They verbally insult the referee (although the referee can not listen to the l) when disagree with a mark: "You think this is missing? Your asshole You need glasses!" Can remember the scores. and they urram of pleasure when the striker is the goal. This is the main reason why 96% of personal assistants of the world are women. if you want a good result free of stress. and then pass to the next question. She is able to talk on the phone. never ask questions to the man during sex. Why are men so by sports fanatics? For thousands of years. the modern replacement of the activities of hunting. crawling and using their spatial skills to get food. 'f women swap their dolls for children. But if a man is following a recipe to prepare a dish and you want to chat with him. The men ran. The girls use dolls as a practice of caring for children and the boys kicked and pursue balls as practice for hunting.even the men hunt and women also care for children. The woman's brain is configured to perform multiple tasks. recalled with vivid detail goals in marked departures held for many years and almost come to tears when discussing what the player should have done and the result which should have had the game. His brain calculates the speed. You can turn auto-mobile. makeup and to listen to radio as a live-voice speech. . It is as if the woman was in some way genetically apparently with the octopus. As a devoted fan of your soccer team. the angles and directions of the ball. The men are so excited when they watch football because they feel as if they were playing the game. following a new recipe and watching television at the same time. man may again be a member of a band of hunters. even while it is active sleep. you better go outside dining. chasing. After that England won the World Cup of 1966 against Germany. is always given to man to do one thing at a time. As we have seen.
When watching the struggles of boxing. get involved. About what men talk in the bathroom? We answer the first question male universal: "What women talk together when they go to a public bathroom?" The answer is: about everything and about everyone. too. but they still do not know the names of his nieces. The men no longer have any clear model to follow and clear specifications of what is expected of them. conversely. This explains why men engaged in activities which are repetitive or just those who give more importance to sports. Do not fight the sport or hobby of your man. Go with him to an event and you will be surprised to see the amount of other "widows of the sport" that also attend and enjoy the social aspects. First. who they like and dislike. Learn what it can about the interest and become understood. discuss the clothes they are wearing and the other. neighbors and the door or the date on which commemorates the Mother's Day.This is a formidable skill. which rarely occurs in their affective relationship. "My wife told me that if I drop the obsession with my soccer team. with family.their primary brain skills started to be largely superfluous and the women are attacking from all sides. she leaves. which can spend hours on end in front of the TV watching other men guide car race. shop or start your own hobby. Solution If your partner is a sports maniac or a hobby. Speeds. and he feels victorious when your team wins. those who consider their work exciting and rewarding are less interested. moves. If you still do not find interesting but want to follow it is always possible to find other women in the same situation and make new friends. come to bend and give the impression of feeling the pain of fighter hit by a low blow. changes in motion and stationary are in motion to reverse the sky of every man. They are so obsessive with the steering wheel. Add to it or use the time to do something positive for yourself. nephews. The place where they are compared with others which have been. The second option is to use his obsession for sports as a positive opportunity to be with their friends. It is also why men prefer to buy a new set of golf clubs than a dining table is very necessary. you have two options. Drive car is almost entirely a spatial ability. it does not happen in your work. I will miss her a lot. and . who are friendly and attractive men. " The world has now become a confusing place for men . Men may be taken by intense emotion when watching sports. angles. Sport is an activity in which man can feel again a member of a group: there no one criticizes or tries to modify it.
discuss techniques and different types of makeup products. Men urinate in silence. Are rarely hear a fart in a female bathroom.." . Let us return now to the original question: what men talk in public restrooms? The answer is: nothing. men prefer walls of floor to the ceiling to limit the interaction with neighbors. I have to call you later. The fourth man generally feels better to use the booth to be standing next to a stranger who can look at it. looking at the front. Bathrooms are a network of women in waiting rooms and counseling centers where you can meet new people and interesting. 'Listen . Never.any personal problem that they or friends are living.. What comes then choose which is further away from the first man.. said:' The same as you . Even among close friends. to more important and profound conversations. Here is a letter from one of our readers shows the reason that men of silence that reigns in the bathroom of men: "During a trip. nervous. but. and when urinate. Do not talk to other men when they are sitting in the pot. how are you?" Like any man. and when it happens. came to install booths in the bathroom wider female. because it has an idiot in the booth next to answer my questions! " Men also have a territorial ritual to choose the urinal. while women prefer large vain to talk and move objects from one booth to another. If there is a row of five urinals. Scarcely had I sat when I heard a voice coming from the booth next to saying. Men never talk to strangers in public restrooms. and chooses the next which is midway between the two. like an idiot.. cosmetics divided up among themselves and even with strangers. In cabins.'. and two women is not uncommon-they share the same cubicle in order to continue the conversation. As the first booth was busy. The motto of the men is: "Better death than a visual contact. 'So .. They do not talk.. I never talk to strange men in bathrooms of post road. your eyes will never cross. Any woman who seems distressed receive group therapy .. 'Hey. and God help the man that the plague! Women sit in the pot and talk with other women through the wall.. put a stop to go to the bathroom. Absolutely nothing. ever under any circumstances. and never talk to strangers. While retouch. I went to the second. and still do not know what got into me when I decided to respond with a constrained 'All right! " The other guy said. what are you doing? " I thought: 'How strange . with two vessels in each of health. asking the odd passing toilet paper under the door. A nightclub in Birmingham. the culprit is hiding in the cabin to check out. to get away from those who arrive. the conversation is minimal. traveling to the North! " Oh I heard the guy say. Never. England.. Never. In the men's room if no one bothers with it. the first in choose in the bathroom farthest from the door..
it is usually the mother of women the major cause of problems." said Solomon. a founder of modern Russia. but the second said: "No. The first woman agreed. And if the man makes a woman happy." "But she wanted to see it cut in two." warned the king's advisers. It is worth recalling that Lenin. when asked what should be the maximum penalty for bigamy. is to see her daughter happy.they are not cause for laughter. taking the blame for more than a third of the separations.provide all three. The parents of a man can claim him. it is unlikely that parents cause problems. "Today I received an email warning that my parents had died and asking if I would have to bury." What is the difference between a mother-in-law and a vulture? The vulture waiting for you dying to devour your liver. I answered: "Sure . or simple megeras nosy. But if on the one hand the parents is a problem in the marriage of many people.Chapter 6 THE OTHER WOMAN His mother Two women were presented before the r ~ i Solomon dragging a young man proposed marriage to her two daughters. the most likely cause is the refusal of the father in giving of their precious "princesinha. But almost no jokes with in-laws . Our research found. What most of the mothers of the wives want more than that any thing. but most men do not come to disappoint them." Difficult in-laws are not a problem for most men. and are always characterized witches co-mo. An old Polish proverb says: "The path to the heart of the parents is the child. Problems with parents not dominate the lives of men. the mother of the man is the real danger. even irritating. De-because of the stories they hear. cremate or embalm." The dragon enter the scene Probably the mother-in-law jokes inspire more than any other category of the planet. said: "Staying with the two parents." The wise king did not hesitate: "The man must marry the daughter of first wife. And when the man has problems with in-law. the king decided that the couple was cut in half so that each stay with their part." Most men know that. irritated him. "Yes. . many times. do not run blood! Let him to marry the daughter of another woman. "this shows that it is the real parents.
After living six months with you. Polls conducted by the University of Utah shows that more than 50% of marriages are real problems between the husband and mother nora. ultimately. rather than just one. you are a pig. The crisis involving the parents of women often seem impossible to manage and insoluble. But came together with three women . yes." "How did you guess so quickly?": He asked. she mimou you. that the other 50% are seen as helpful. The parents are often responsible for defects and emotional problems of their children and Norasia. And she replied: "Because I was not with her face. Case study: Anita and Tom They had been married only six months when cracks began to appear in your happiness. cook. Can cause unhappiness. A man met a wonderful woman and her boyfriend was. affectionate. in the worst cases. After examining each one carefully. Anita. you have no respect for women. A search of the University of the State of Utah. for many parents Norasia a nosy.His mother . in home pen. I believe it cost to the teacher. the parents of the wife. neutral. let's talk about your mother. Actually.a blonde. not all parents deserve the reputation of evil.the burden it The real tragedy of most families are caused by the mother of the man. generous and. which refuses to cut the umbilical cord with your child. invasive and possessive. Anita: "Tom. that same night to his mother to know. the mother replied: "It's a redhead. anguish and. Your . Anita thought it was becoming impossible to live with Tom. the problem is you. He said he wanted to know if she was able to guess which of the three women was his future daughter-in-law. which shows that about 50% of parents are seen as the creators of the case also shows. you can be absolutely disastrous. Arranged a dinner. He left his clothes and playing space-lhadas the towels on the floor. Although not all parents are given by the fame. You are so thorough that it is me crazy! In my home was never like this. a brunette and a redhead. divorce. I can not live with you more!" Tom: "No. The mother asked why he brought three. Transformed all the rooms. move. My mother never complained to me or anything that I did! " Anita: "So okay." They are not all bad Clearly. Anita This led to the point of collapse. You think the woman has to wash. clean and working all the time.
two or even three people can be jealous. possessive. The girl almost always strives for the love to build a good relationship with the mother of the boy. unless he has developed a strong relationship with Nora. Life today is increasingly . but Julie found her mother with the help of Mark and they resumed their relationship. Shortly before the wedding. How is the mother around the nora usually forget that the mother of your husband is so important to the family unit as its own. It is normal for a girl seeks the support of the mother. etc. In addition to washing. to help her choose the wedding dress. or at the other extreme. immature. the most effective in this case is training him to do what she wants him to do. Case study: Mark and Julie Mark and Julie decided to marry.everything we have done with his own mother if things were different. detached and friendly. because having her along as it is a good strategy. All three people can be emotionally balanced. The son and daughter-in-law must face the situation in a mature and open. the parents begin to feel excluded from the new family and the child may find that the only way to participate is forcing way and is doing this. Due to a disagreement. Julie and her mother Sarah was not talking about three years ago.. independent. She felt used and offense. because the Norasia usually maintain close ties with their mother and talk with them regularly. Receiving little information. Just be willing to resolve it. But for every problem there is a solution. The parents are often put aside after the marriage. But the children rarely talk to their mothers about what it is. mother of Mark. Why be parents is sometimes difficult? It is important to be aware that parents occupy a difficult position. it is as if two women disputing one man.. The parents are always connected to the child. about every little detail. " Tom: "What my mother has to do with it? Why did you change the subject? Why not stop blaming everyone except yourself?" Many mothers spoil the future at a very early marriage of their children. Is he eating right? Is that his house is well cared for? Etc. Suddenly. This is a really complicated problem for the partner. cooking and go for them. the menu of a wedding party and all arrangements of practice . especially when he is single and her life is dull. When the marriage makes the situation more. when in fact they are creating a serious problem in the future relationship with their wives. This can create jealousy in the mother's partner.mother and I created a monster I'm no longer tolerate this. believing they are showing them your love. So Julie is highly supported in France. dependent. selfish and emotionally unstable. The mother wants to be involved in their children's lives. It is now an adult who should be responsible for their actions. one. not the parents. But instead of criticizing and blaming his mother. France was no longer needed and was put aside. to protect them. The complexity of the situation lies in the fact that there are three people involved in this relationship.
Richard. Diana tried to be friendly. but eventually grew tired of listening Bernadette tell you how to prepare the favorite dish of Richard. Logo Bernadette began openly insulting Diana when Richard was not around. Diana liked that Richard knew him. only for sex. She asked when he would come "in house" to paint it. now was the time to take account of it. The madcap who sometimes left him were. and put the fault in almost everything she did. In business. to take care of the garden. When family members live in distant neighborhoods. He was a good boy of 22 years and watch it. as he liked the tidiness of the house. Bernadette became a problem. Only presented to his mother after the announcement of the engagement. The view of Diana Adam and Eve were the happiest and luckiest couple in the world. with less time for human contact.over-charged. because neither of them had parents. For Bernadette. But the last generation only knows the phone and personal meetings to communicate. When the ceremony was. But thought it strange that her boyfriend not to take his place. to repair the tap to talk about a problem or to take her shopping. cities or different countries. Their demands seemed to have no end. without any consideration for the needs of Diana. accusing it of trying to create problems between her and her son. comfort and emotional support for this . but Bernadette phone every night to stay talking long together with Richard. Perhaps it is difficult for the next generation deal with their parents. She is holding waiting for the world turn around. Diana began then to avoid the parents. But she still had her son.she thought . . Bernadette was not particularly receptive. Richard and Diana Bernadette had just over forty years when the left-of Mari. but Diana found that it simply needed time to adapt. so completely unexpected. I used to laugh when the future mother-in-law commented that perhaps they are not ready for non-marriage and could change your mind at any time. Diana has realized that it had inherited from a mother-in-law Hell. Parents need attention and the children need time for their own family. nourished and loved since birth. How many parents are required to change a light bulb? A. Richard knew that as she created. Bernadette appeared almost every day. Case study: Bernadette. "I was late!" She said to friends. Bernadette thought Richard was not interested in girls. and when the big wheel is complaining with her husband. The problems began when she and Richard returned from honeymoon. Soon after. we use the mail to meet the need of communication. but the two sides need to understand and find solutions to ensure the happiness of all. Richard was now fully at its disposal. telling everyone what you thought would not last. and even in daily life. He drank more and did not de-link the minimum for the family. it takes some effort to maintain unity in family life . to be clear.would be difficult to find a woman equal. She created with all the care. Bernadette denied. for example.
Solution Nora and parents need to build a loop to run their lives. but he said that Diana was being possessive. It was a burden. constantly criticizing Diana. Travis was the first son of Diana. helping in something. putting it in the neck all the time they were together. Women do this naturally. made his bed. Filled it with care and affection. In the end. selfish. but he thought the mother should be feeling alone and that he had a responsibility towards her. helping with the baby. just at the time he began to relax. But there was one problem: every night his mother call him a lengthy conversation. and so Richard thought that the advice of his mother would be fundamental. preparing their favorite dishes. Bernadette took account of the situation. More than once Diana tried to discuss the problem with Richard. The views of Richard Richard lost his father to divorce. And started to think that life would be less complicated if I went back to single. immature and ciumenta. and that his mother was only trying to help. and continue to need in the modern world. He loved the woman. to have a life free of stress. The last thing that a woman needs is a complaint that her parents with the son. The wife must have sufficient wisdom to take control of the situation and ensure that problems are dealt with between it and the parents. Once Richard and Diana got married. Diana and tired of discussing it in a anger deaf closed. With male your brain programmed to problem solving. Create a child was a novelty for Diana. But Diana did not seem prone to a little or ask advice. Bernadette lived with and was discussing it with Richard complaining. only. to overlive in caves. What is the difference between a pit-bull and a mother-in-law? The pit-bull just dropping you. When Travis was born. Bernadette was always around. it is that would see her on weekends and helped with the house. When this is true. Nora and parents need to adjust their relationship without involving the son and husband. Diana began to feel excluded. Bernadette was soon back to life nora physically every day. Richard thought he was just working hard all day and still have to resolve disputes between your wife and your mother when you get home. Bernadette was him taking his own son. It became possessive for Travis. collected and washed their clothes and not criticized because it felt just wonderful what he did. but things were definitely more calm at home. everyone wins. Instead. The mother always told him that his father does not provide for anything and now he was the man of the house. The man may feel happy to have two women disputing its possession. It became obsessive with Travis. but Diana seemed so enciumada of the husband's relationship with the mother that no longer appear. as it feeds his ego. . but she was crazy with their explosions. Bernadette was the first to offer to help by washing the clothes and taking care of the baby.Two years later. and Diana felt prisoner and unfortunate.
. not matured. If during the time of her dating book all their attention to the fiance. The best time to cut the umbilical cord is birth.Bernadette requires too much attention to Richard. Richard. leaving the part of parents.They want to solve the problem? If the answer to any of these questions is "No". In the case study above. She had permission to continue controlling Richard.My mother tries to help Diana. is the big wheel that as a matter of survival.My mother is not a man at home to do small services. Richard never cut the umbilical cord that connects to your mother. It is important that she spend some time just for parents. but Diana refuses to divide Travis and receive useful advice on motherhood. When problems appear since the beginning of the relationship. Hardly one of them will accept what he seems to be an alliance between the other two. As. through whom she controls Diana and Travis. it is advisable to couple therapy.You have a long life together. husband and wife. husband and wife should sit down and put on paper what they think is the problem. . just in time for this-we enjoy our moments of family living. He actually "still" have not left the house. . In this stage. when you know the future mother-in-law. .the son and daughter-in-law. for this to see how a person with life itself.My mother makes me feel guilty when I do not answer your requests. but also not wanting to impose their views.Both recognize the existence of problems? . but Diana did not care about that. What is important is that in that relationship. for example. generally immature and unprepared for the problems that inevitably arise.Bernadette arrives without warning. will pay a high price later. Bernadette apparently has no problem. a person be more girl. later is very difficult to establish a productive discussion between the three parties. wanting to dictate the rules in our house and the creation of our son. must take the initiative to build the bridge. When it leaves the problems of marriage take root. happy and loving? . is my responsibility to help her. when all I want is to be with them.Bernadette interfere too much. not simply as the wife of the child. first questions they need answered are: . Diana could write: . that because it is not enough time with the family.This is a common tragedy. she combines sympathy and firmness. . . take our privacy and in-progress plans are constantly perplexed.I do not understand why my wife and my mother is angry all the time. . in turn.My mother is alone and it is up to us supports it.Bernadette does not respect my ability and hope that it meets Richard as a child. and Diana does not understand that as a child. could write: . leaving not intimidate. If the answer is "Yes". . . staged in families around the world. the problem must be resolved by the parties most affected .Bernadette call every night. The problem therefore is Diana and Richard. The difficulty is in fact a big wheel.
therefore. Maybe the solution would get a "factotum" and give him the phone Bernadette. Richard. but here is a question of limits. Quite understandably. by her . on the border of privacy. as the visitor is a person dear. however. The three should discuss the matter in a time when emotions are low. having lived always within limits set by other people. lines that they can not overcome. people know that their transgression will bring problems. have a group of reading. Diana should explain that she and Richard need a time of privacy to relax and take care of common projects and unannounced visits that may interfere.Diana is also responsible. Until we know it. ten minutes. How to set limits Establish rules and set limits means tracing lines that should not be exceeded. Set limits and be firm are two key lessons that the newly married couples need to learn. Diana has to be firm. Richard really has responsibility to help the mother. after which he must tell Bernadette that has things to do and say goodbye. With regard to Travis. such as joining a club of retired. is important to Richard and Diana show a real interest in "new" life of Bernadette. Inexperienced. doing courses and voluntary work in hospitals or welfare organizations. it actually allowed the parents invade your marriage and your family. By not putting limits on Bernadette when the problems started to appear. It is natural that Bernadette would Richard take care of the problems of her house. When set limits. This is a trap in which young people often fall very easily. Know where to go. Must thank Bernadette for attention. We need to know that she should call before they appear. Bernadette feel rejected and hurt. as Christmas gift or birthday. The problem will diminish significantly if the visits are only permitted where previously combined. albeit unintentionally. then why not put limits on Bernadette too? Diana says Bernadette arrives without being asked and without warning. Me and my parents were happy for twenty years. but said that she and Richard receive guidance of pediatricians to the development of Travis. If Richard and Diana have limits in their marriage. and they intend to follow it. in agreement with Diana. Bernadette must be trained. but in agreement with Diana. and generally believe that the family members are only trying to help with his advice. is that it needs to encourage the mother to develop activities outside the family. to excursions. they do not understand the risks. must limit the duration of phone calls from their 'mother to. Richard and Diana might even offer to pay for services for an entire year. say. are not firm in setting its rules. Bernadette did not exceed a limit set. but this is a problem that it must overcome. Richard and Diana do not have of it and left to set limits when they married. the most important of all.
It is vital that during all the conversations." ."Do you not care more for me. it is only to ensure the happiness of the three. but they should not do it. through words and attitudes." . But you know what is right to do what you're doing. You've seen flying snake? Then try playing your parents through the window.just like your father. The next stage of the reaction of Bernadette is probably refuse to help. a solid and enjoyable adult relationship can develop. which are emotional blackmail."After everything I did for you!" . Richard is resolved to maintain her marriage and awareness of evil that causes the interference of the mother. that the affection is preserved. Maybe even threatens disinherit them.own gain momentum. Bernadette will be boring at first and probably react with emotional blackmail and statements such as: . It is important that they continue taking care of Bernadette and supporting it during this phase."When I die you will be sorry. Reactions are predictable. mature and happy. however strange it may seem to Bernadette ."I feel so alone now. A person can only make you feel guilty if you agree to accept the blame." . ie taking care of Travis."Who else can I use?" . but Richard and Diana have to say. after a single week she would be 105 kilometers away. If you could convince your parents to walk fifteen kilometers a day. especially if the reaction is stronger than expected. They have to explain or justify their decisions. there is no aggression. Just as the couple set limits and make the meet. There will be tempting to abandon it. I discussed the matter several times. only work if you allow. . It is not easy." Such tactics. only reaffirm that the path that is decided then. if we are committed to maintaining a harmonious relationship and happy. None of this is easy and requires a lot of the couple's determination and persistence. encouraging it. If sympathy and love to face the task of setting limits to Bernadette. make it clear."You are selfish . I examined all the possible reactions and are prepared to deal with it. the two problems can be solved. whether to live an independent life. while building a life. We need to keep it abreast of the family.
When you engage in any activity. when you leave to hunt or fish. these secrets are both a source of amusement and confusion. But for those who can meet them. In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? we treat this issue in detail." The genius pale and asked: "One or two tracks?" If you are a man. I just leave the lamp.Chapter 7 The Mysteries WAYS OF WOMEN LANGUAGE An archaeologist excavated a ruin when topou to an old lamp. These are the questions: 1. I'm tired ground. man. You idea of the distance that exists between England and France? Is an engineering impossible! Make another request! The man reflected for a moment and asked: "I wish I could I communicate with women. To most men. To rub it to remove the dust. not speaking much. And the modern woman." The archaeologist thought for a moment and replied: "I want a bridge with a Autopista connecting England to France!" The genius goggle and mutter: "Hey. Women do not need a reason to talk. For over a decade. men. Why women exaggerate? 4. They speak to be connected. The dark areas are the parts . But it is very likely to feel skeptical about some of the things that will read. The following is the brain images of men and women talking. Why do women always want to talk about problems? 3. Searched men of different nationalities and races. we present here only a brief summary. Consequently. Meanwhile. avoided talking to not scare the prey. we collect and record answers to research on how men and women to communicate and use the science of human behavior to explain their differences. this is one of the most important chapters of this book. Why women never go to the chase? 5. we check each item with a woman next to you. and when caçavam fishing. appeared a genius. Why women want to know the smallest detail? 'Why do women talk so much? The huge capacity that women have to talk is something that most men are extremely difficult to understand. a new level of relationship with the opposite sex comes up. "I will grant you one wish. Why women talk so much? 2. or a specific purpose. women did all the time. Men evolved chasing moving targets. "You freed me!" Said the genie. The ability to build and strengthen intimate relationships was crucial to the survival of each. when to collect leaves (shopping) and still talk all the time. Women evolved together with other women and children in and near the caves. The modern man also. so as to remain united. therefore. we are able to reveal the intriguing logic that lies behind the five men most frequent questions about the way women are communicating.
the man only speaks to other men about personal problems if you think that the other has a solution. From a woman. the man tends to think that a woman discuss their problems because they do not know how to deal with them and "all the time is interrupted with solutions. six thousand to eight thousand words spoken per day. because the "conversation" of women is completely different. Institute of Psychiatry in London. data and solutions. share their emotions and problems with someone is a demonstration of confidence in the person. The women's to processes. about ten times. A worker exhausts its production of words in the middle of the afternoon and go home to find a woman who still has four to five thousand words to say! Two women can spend the whole day together and then still speak for a full hour on the phone. a form of retribution and a way to connect to another person. when either communicate facts. The brain of man is set to the solution of continuous problems. dyslexia and serious. the man who was asking opinion feels honored and offers its solutions. This creates serious problems of communication with women. The reaction of the man before it is asked "Why do not you say it to her when they were together?".two to four thousand and you understand that the ability to speak of women cause so many problems between couples. If not. The images show how the brains of women is widely used for the functions of speech and language. The men use the speech and language to communicate facts and data. it speaks to you. 2001.of the brain into activity. . Have a brain that is not strong in the skills of speech and language responds to the remarkable extent of gender differences in rates of problems in speech: the stuttering is a disorder three to four times more frequent among men than among women. Unfortunately. it simply does not speak. if she feels attracted to you if she likes you or saying you want to feel accepted and important. No wonder that women always complain that the man to break inter-and not to let express their views. not to ask for solutions. As already explained. Man Woman The brain of man is oriented solutions. Put simply. Compare it with the average daily production of words of a man . to offer all the time. Areas of the brain related to speech and language. When a woman speaks." that is. it does basically to create a bond with another person. For the women. Most men "only speak if you have something to say. the man gives the impression that always wants to be right and it is always wrong. As I said. without effort. In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? show that the brain of the woman can produce. however.
The danger is that the internalized stress can cause diseases such as diarrhea. on TV. is direct and clear. water the garden. he apparently can forget their problems.it's showing that you trust. When you. If you have an issue to deal with it. mutual remarks to lose the character of criticism and complaint and will be key ele-ments in the construction of mutual happiness. constipation. Your brain allows you to track only concentrate on the news. The problem is that men love silence. want to talk to your partner. It is important to understand the man that the main objective of the "conversation" of the woman is talking about. Women use silence to punish men. stomach ulcers and heart attack . or when either punish them. she stops talking. one could say to each other how you feel and go learn about the differences between genders and the specific characteristics of your partner. Focusing on other things. When not occupied with another activity. if she does not agree with what this person is saying.the men usually see the "peace and tranquility" obtained with the silence of women as a prize. When either forget a stressful day. without interrupting to offer solutions. woman. With men in general it does not work . ask them explicitly to reserve a time for that and tell him that he only wants to listen. one at a time. The opposite is also true . stress man stops talking and will sit alone "in front of the fire" to find a solution to your problem. the man thinks or does something else. especially when used with other women.in almost all of the time is not to seek solutions. The silence as a form of punishment is an effective tactic. The content of conversation with people is not important.fortunately not . The best way to punish the woman the man is talking to him without stopping and changing the subject is. browse the Internet or mount an aircraft to turn off the problems. she is not complaining . but never too often. The solution for men and women Ideally. The purpose of it is if you feel better about your day and connect to you . Already suggested before. Why do women always want to talk about problems? Women on average live seven years longer than men. mainly due to their greater ability to deal with stress. Without any aggressiveness. It is never too often: when two people are aware that they want to invest in the relationship.if she does not like or do not love a person. Only thus creates intimacy and complicity.When you make personal confidences. it is the participation that counts.
he had already discussed everything that had to discuss and was happy to leave the rest divergence. Ask her if she wants some help and put themselves available to advise her when she wants. They always kiss and make up before going to sleep. remember that she needs to talk to feel better.. Not . There are two theories about arguing with a woman. Prefer to discuss the issue and resolve it quickly. Joe could not handle it. Listen to it with the greatest possible solidarity and tell him you are there to accept them as needed. especially late at night. One night we were agreed for six months. A man who did so would give other men the impression that they feel incapable and are looking for solutions . talked and talked about the issue at stake . It was common for discussion is to drag well after midnight. Rodney Dangerfield Women believe that everyone is talking about feeling better. Lisa wanted to reduce their level of stress and was anxious to reach a satisfactory decision for both. Solution We to assume that the more men and women are aware of their differences. The problem was that Lisa had been created believing that the couple should never let anyone waiting for the next day. The men believe that talking will only make things worse. So when the woman started to teased a problem that seems not to sense. the reason why women love to discuss all the details. is a mystery. Case study: Lisa. None of them works. Enjoy going to rock your thinking about something else. the easier it becomes the relationship. and yes-go by making a possible solution. it would be readily available. Talking about your problems is your way of relieving stress. In the evening. The problem is that the female brain is programmed to enhance processes.all at the same time.. Joe and discussion of midnight Lisa and Joe discussed much when they went to live together. addressing them in various ways. PHYLLlS DILLER For men. So she talked.until it lead to another thread. while] and thought they always came back to the same issues. My husband and I decided never to sleep before resolving our disputes. Men tend to retreat before that approach. He would prefer a thousand times and have a fight. go to sleep and forget it. Women like to thoroughly discuss all aspects of their actions and feelings. Women deal with stress talking plenty about their problems.
you always do this to me!" He probably will take that complaint to the foot of the letter. Examples of female exaggeration: "I asked you a million times to collect their wet towels. The woman's brain is focused on people. she will say later: "You always reduces me and never let me have my own opinion. For example. If the problem that the wife brings concerns the relationship of you and you in fact does not feel able to discuss the l-on time. it only needs your love and genuine care. these fantasies and exaggeration that makes the conversations more interesting. In general. I want to discuss it with you. ask to be sensitive if it can leave the matter for another time.minimize the impact that certain events can cause it. women like to dream that a leading man of TV to ask for a memorable night. One of one hundred things that women wish men knew: what it said six or eight months is unacceptable in the current discussion." "When I saw her with that dress." "You always hope that I do all the work of the house and take care of children at the same time. the performance of your car and the amount of beautiful women who left. sweetheart." "Do not talk to you anymore!" For men. for example: "Sorry. if he disagrees with the woman in front of friends. so fancy it much more than the man on the lives and relationships. the size of your income or that of fish caught. it interprets the words literally. even that invariably end up falling by the timid and puny boy he met at the homes of friends. He exaggerates the importance of their work. because as your brain thinks things from facts and data. I thought it was going to die!" "You always do this to me. saying that it does not always defend himself and giving examples: "This is not true. At that moment. The difference is that men exaggerate the facts and women exaggerate the emotions and feelings. Say. I did not no time last night and not do for months!" She replied recalling . Moreover. But also meets its limits. the excesses of women can be frustrating. but does not give us a little talk about this later?" This way of addressing the problem is more respectful and has much more chance of working than say nothing and simply wait for the woman to say end all you have to talk. Exaggerated words and emotions is a normal behavior to be perfect for women who talk among themselves. Why women exaggerate? Both men and women exaggerate. but this issue is too big for my head today. She exaggerates his feelings and the other when it comes to some personal matter or what someone said. The exaggeration makes it more exciting to talk about relationships.
When I arrived. the conversation was really difficult and not a little interesting. The trip back was silent. In the eyes of men. He mumble "Thank you". the woman also uses the body language to send and receive information. His eyes seemed to say that everything was over between us. I gave him a special gift . your offense.the days. That day Luke was football with friends and I have fun with some friends to assert that I did not see since we have decided to live together. then lunch and take coffee and we talk about a million things. including the phone. Most messages are not verbal. I was giving treatment to the ball to imagine what could be. Despite his ability to speak. without giving me the slightest attention. put them in the pocket and was sitting there without saying anything. Saturday night. turned and was watching the TV. She was exaggerating his emotions and he. the emotions and feelings are what counts and tone of voice and body language are the main channels to communicate them. times and places where he eats the same. I knew it would be a romantic dinner and was excited. The letter from Jessica shows as: "Me and Luke agreed to meet for dinner at our favorite restaurant. For women. All that she wants is that he values in front of friends. because it does not consider that issue with the woman is decreased her. women always seem to be moving his arms and using a variety of gestures and facial expressions when speaking. She sends much of what I mean by tone of voice. said he had an excellent day out with friends and show what was purchased. The language of the body reveals the emotional state of women and is responsible for 60 to 80% of the impact of their conversation. How a woman can fool yourself When the woman recall a scene in your head. he was sitting. He is hurt and angry. Decided to have coffee at home. The humor of it was so strange that I thought he was punishing me for having arrived late. Sorry for the delay. I had some suspicions but did not mean anything yet. But for her the most important is not the offense committed. around eight hours. challenging in terms of facts and data. During the dinner. She communicates with a scale of five tones. so that the time and I lost a little late. It was as if it were a hundred kilometers away.a beautiful pair of gold cufflinks. it may appear that the memory is real. looking out the window.. Luke went straight in the room. but decided to wait to get home to talk. but one at a time. Now I knew we had a serious problem. I started to think that something suspicious was that I had some time . I want a million . We spent the whole morning shopping.. but men are able to identify only three. When we arrived. Mae West on men. mad to see Luke.
Never call your partner in "queen of the drama" not a correction in front of others.he should have another woman. as tenderly as possible. will eventually disqualified!" Solution If you are a man. Luke came to bed and also surprised me want to snuggle. All your friends seem to follow his reasoning. They must think I'm blind! Well. where the exaggeration may be cause for much confusion and damage. Then. This step is especially important when it comes to business. not eat the salami. And he thinks I'm an idiot. and this time I put the clothes in the washing ... " I was working in the garage half hour. But then he just turned and was sleeping. and made love. This apparently vague manner of speaking is known as indirect language. I thought the end was near. Then cried to sleep.. women seem to prefer to be making rounds to go right to the point. while I turn to follow. 'she said not to eat the salami? " 'She's not you. it was in the kitchen and told me: 'In the team meeting today.. I said: 'Later I need to go to the hardware store.was true . as the man takes things at the foot of the letter. women understand the need to exaggerate the emotions and feelings and not take the literal meaning. How can a woman be so smart as avoada when talking? Today. " I stopped with the stupid guy. Not resist to my caresses. Listen to the truth of it. help her to relativise without saying what she should think or say.. It took the largest iron if continue. Yesterday. I was sitting there in the room with him about fifteen minutes until no more endure. my supervisor said . while she continued to where he had stopped. It is able to develop four or five different lines of thought simultaneously with ease. " What Luke was really thinking that night: "My team lost. for example. that bitch of his work beyond the mini-skirt! I saw the way she moves the chair every time he passes by it. even if internally you give some discount. " 'What?' I was surprised. Why women never go to the chase? For men. telling me what your supervisor told you. moreover. She does this constantly. while carrying a basket of laundry to the garage. I was so upset and stressed that hours spent awake.Debbie. but to me and my two children that causes tremendous brain damage. And I was also becoming clear who she was . must realize that. I promised myself that the next day would face the situation and demand that he tell me the truth. Sometimes a man feels as if I had to guess what the woman wants. I went to bed. I will use it later. she should try to be objective and limit the exaggeration. is thinking it and not want to tell me not to hurt me. Ten minutes later.. not noticed how he looks at her with that stupid smile. trying to find the sequence of the conversation. The woman. Who is the other woman? He loves you or is just an adventure? Why men do not tell the truth? All I know is that it can no longer live like this . . This letter from a reader and shows a woman can feel the man: "My wife goes on whim indirect speech. or be able to read her mind. with a tone mad. 'I do not want you to eat the salami.' replied my wife.
machine, in one move boxes, cleaned a shelf and made a list of arrangements for next week. When she went in the house said, without stopping what I was doing: 'Why? " 'Huh? Why what? "I asked. 'What do you need? " 'I do not need anything! What are you talking about? " 'If you do not need anything, that is going to the hardware store? "She asked, crossing his arms with that guy sulk in'0 - that-is-what-you-are-arming' that most men married knows. However, this matter was already closed for me for a long time, but for my wife is absolutely natural to resume a conversation for over an hour, if it finds that the matter was not resolved. I think she is convinced that I did not hear, and I'm half convinced that she is right. I try to understand later, after I finish my salami sandwich. Frustrated Raymond. "When a woman speaks, the language generally indirect USA. That means what it implies or infers that the things. When women use indirect language to each other, rarely there are problems - they have to understand the sensitivity real meaning of what is said. But this language can be disastrous when speaking with men, who use the direct language and interpret the words literally. As I said, the male brain evolved as a mechanism to focus single requirement of the hunt. The men find disconcerting the apparent lack of structure and purpose of female conversation and accuse women of not knowing what they are talking about. They respond saying things like: "After all, what are you talking about?", "What is the conclusion ", or the interrupt saying," We already talked about this a dozen times, "" How long it will last yet? "and" This conversation is very complicated and will not lead to nowhere. " The language in indirect business The use of indirect language and multiple tracks in business can be problematic for women because men have difficulty to follow the conversation. The men, in order to take decisions, must be submitted to ideas and information that is clear, logical and organized. Women may see their ideas and rejected the requests simply because your boss is not the slightest idea what she wants. Marie was a classic victim. After six months of negotiations, Marie had the chance to present the new advertising program for your company to a major customer of the financial industry. The audience was composed of eight men and four women. The account to be won worth two hundred thousand dollars and she only had thirty minutes to sell her story. It was the only chance of winning the title. On the day of presentation, so well tested that could sleep up to, Marie came properly dressed, with a number sober, hair done and makeup light and natural. But soon after starting, she noticed that the men looked as if they were not understood. Given the impression that they were judging negatively and losing interest in the presentation, she began to come by several shortcuts, adding unnecessary details and returning the slides already passed to show how they are related to each other. Encouraged the women with smiles, faces and vocal expressions like "Uh, uh," "Right!" and showing an interest. Encouraged by the female reaction, Marie began to turn his speech to them, unintentionally ignoring the men. The entire presentation has become an exercise in juggling. She finished and left, convinced that he had done a good job. and was eagerly awaiting the answer of the company.
This was the conversation of men executives during the coffee, after which Marie left: Director of Marketing: "You have some idea of what she was talking about?" Executive Director: "No. .. it confused me. Tell him to send the proposal in writing." Marie "multitrilhou" submission using indirect language with a group of men who wanted to hear a presentation objective, and lean in his logic. The executive met and became involved with questions, but no man wanted to raise their hand and admit that there was not understood. The woman needs to understand that man, when you can not follow what she says, prefer to pretend it means to go through stupid. Only it is not convinced. When a man can not keep up the discourse of business of a woman, he pretends to understand. The woman must use a direct language, with timetables, schedules, deadlines and conclusive answers. Should be direct with men in business by addressing an issue each time, with beginning, middle and end, without getting lost in shortcuts. Marie is still waiting for a response ...
Case study: Barbara and Adam Barbara went to shop with friends and wanted his son Adam, aged 16, clean the kitchen. "Adam, you can do to please clean the kitchen for me?" She asked. "Hum .. s ...", he growl in response. When she resumed the tour, the kitchen remained the same. Barbara was angry with her son. "But I would clean up before leaving at night", he whine. The problem was caused by the Barbara. She used the language indirect assumption that Adam would understand that when she returned home with her friends, the kitchen should be clean. She asked: "You want to clean the kitchen?" No boy "or" clean the kitchen. Adam can not. A direct request with a deadline, as "Adam, please clean the kitchen before I get back from shopping at noon, would have guaranteed a better result.
Children do not "want" to do household chores, they need to be directly instructed to do them.
That night, Barbara said to Adam: "I would like you to look for an hour before going to bed." Indirect dis-course that works with girls but with boys it is useless. The brain of the boy heard that his mother that he would do such a thing, but it really was not instructed to do it, does. Direct instruction with a time limit is the only realistic way of dealing with men. "Adam, I want you to go to your room and study for one hour. I will give you good-night before you pain-mir." Direct instructions leave little room for communication problems. Moreover, men enjoy clear instructions. Women fear that the direct language is too aggressive. You can even be, when used with another woman. With men, however, the direct speech is perfectly normal, because that is how they communicate. Solution For a woman: With men, seek to use only the direct discourse. This does not mean being aggressive. You may well say, calmly and affection: "Let's make an appointment to talk? Feel that we need solve some problems." And remember what we said before: when speaking of problems, makes clear that it is as you see them and feel, which does not mean they are exactly that. Do not extend to others and gives space to listen to what your partner has to say. Listen to the truth, not defend themselves or challenge immediately. In the beginning may seem difficult, but over time this practice will bring you the desired results. You'll have fewer misunderstandings with men of his life. For men: If a woman is talking and you have difficulty to follow your line of thinking, start listening, without offering solutions. If anything, give it a time limit: "I watch the news of seven, my good, but until then I'm all yours." Again: try to show you their own limits and their way of being. Once you have the precious chance to go is knowing better and respecting their differences. One of our readers sent us the Dictionary of Women Indirect terms that appear during their regular discussions. "Good" - The USA women at the end of this word in any discussion that you believe to be the reason but want the man shut up. "Five minutes - I mean, about half an hour. Equivalent to five minutes when the man is watching a soccer game and the woman asked for a favor. "Nothing" - means "something." "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling of the woman when she is willing to strangle the man. "Nothing" usually means the beginning
At the beginning of a sentence. This situation. Why women want to know the smallest detail? Josh was reading the newspaper a night when the phone rang.She is not questioning the validity. a former schoolmate. We were talking . "raised eyebrows" and an "audible gasp" final. followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she says she will explain the reason in "five minutes". The woman is giving you the chance to invent an excuse or reason you have done what they have done. "Thank you" . "All right" . "Go ahead" (with raised eyebrows) . details are irrelevant. is simply saying it does not believe a single word of what you say.of a discussion that will last "five minutes" and have undermined with the word "great". He is nice . "Aah? I talked to his brother about what you walked by last night "and" Aah? You expect me to believe ". Means that you put the hurt and the next step will be an "audible sigh. "Really?" . And do not try to lie more to get an escape because" Go ahead "(raised eyebrows). "Nothing important . "That is what he said after ten years? What is great ". "Okay" is often used with "Fine" and in conjunction with "Go ahead" (raised eyebrows). She will tell you that is" good "while playing their clothes through the window.. is great. listened for about ten minutes making occasional grunt and said: "Yes. "Aah" generally means that you have been caught in a lie." he said. she insisted. seasoned with a lot of "Aahs"...is not an application is an offer for you to talk." The next time it will allow you to make sex with her will "one day". At some point in the near future. wanting to know every detail. "Robert? You do not see from the side! How is he?" "Good. For men." The more you apologize. which has dealt before. "Who was that?" He asked his wife Debbie.The woman says that when you're really upset with you. and the highest is the sarcastic "Really?" it. You offering to explain and receive a "Please. shows a basic brain differences between men and women. If you do not speak the truth will win in a final "OK". "Please" . "Robert.It is said in a tone of challenge. what he said?" She asked.. when it has plot is planned. when a cool head. The woman thinks when a man does not speak . And he was asked him as an advocate of it.means that she wants to think before you return whatever you have. the split detail each point of the conversation." Do not ask what's wrong after the "audible sigh.." He hung up and continued reading.. after the woman said "nothing.means "I quit" or "Do what you want because I'm not there. okay." "Go ahead" (with normal eyebrows) . you will be a big trouble. -Audible sigh means she thinks you an idiot and wonders why it is wasting time by discussing with you "Nothing. He answered. For example." You should receive a "Go ahead" (raised eyebrows) in a few minutes.." because it will say "Nothing." "Aah?" .." Josh replied that defeated tone that men have when trying to read the newspaper." "So .
But you know very little about the personal life of any person in the group . ah. the woman involved to secure for itself a narrow circle of friends who take care of it if your man does not resume the hunt or the war. His survival depended on their ability to connect to other women. I discussed what are good places to fish.. .. their health and status of their relationships. You also know where the friends go on leave and the children are doing in school. being precise and succinct.. do not feel offended. need to understand that the woman needs to know details and personal information is programmed into your psyche and aims for the survival of relationships Therefore.. Women are programmed to know all the details Defender of nests and offspring. try to avoid the excess of detail. meets its limits. they want to know how each person in your group and how they can help. their dreams and goals for the year. when you talk to the woman. you should 'go to the chase. And if.their wives saying all the way home. especially in a business meeting. Things that seem important to you may be irrelevant to him. After a social activity. It is not that women are curious . women know everything that each member of the group.. Thus. At home. ask if it is available. Men know what new "toys for boys" bought the other men. Tell us what you feel and hear what he feels. or family. yes . are doing. tell your partner that is willing to tell her what happened.much because he is not interested in it.. in reporting events from the others. already see the new red sports car from Bob. well. The man thinks the woman speaks and other torments so many questions. which means knowing all the details and is actively interested by the situation of each group member and their families. feel that he is uninterested. Solution If you are a man. Invite her for a long walk and let her talk. The group of friends was his insurance company. you will be a great year. and the latest jokes. because for women the words are used to unite.. have already decided how to defeat terrorism and how England can win of Germany in football . And if you are female. they do not cease to be .. knowing that men and women are structurally different. is that with the long-term survival in their minds. Remember once again: you need not worry about giving answers or provide solutions .just listen to it with genuine interest. look you give more details than usually and do not fidget with their pe1fun-tas.
then quit running.Chapter 8 "You think I am OUE -FAT CLOTHES WITH THIS? Why men lie? The new man in your life that really is all over with the former. Most lies are the first meetings. Mary. you did not mention that the neighbor cat up and sometimes the smell is unbearable. may have ceased to mention that leakage of engine oil to speak of the excellent conditions under which he was. probably would not have any friends and possibly more would be unemployed. Imagine the following situations: "Hi. There is no one interesting beer is hot. His female instinct tells you that something is wrong. You may have exaggerated a bit to complete a loan application form or request for jobs to provide the best. when all want to make the best. What mind? Everybody lies. When you sold the car. how people react? One thing is certain: you would be an insufferable person. His girlfriend called in last minute canceling the meeting with you and an excuse that it seemed in tatters. Always tell the truth . action by which a person is to deliberately deceive another person. When announced to sell the house. Because their sinuses are fallen. do not want to hear the truth about him . Adam. Most of the lies that we are soft Lies. but you do not know what it is. You must see the reason for your bad breath and why not cut the hair of the nose?" "This meeting is organized chatíssima you. You would be wrong? Lie: noun. If you have a nose too large." When was the last time you lied? Well. but left to say or tell something that would have caused suffering to the person. those that exist for us to live jun-ments without violence or aggression. Or that . Proverb If you had told the strict truth to all those who interacted in the last week. Why not put a bra or seeking a new plastic surgeon?" "Hi. as you may not have lied. but you know he has a picture of it in the drawer of the office. as often prefer the subtle distortion of the true facts and stark naked. no one notices it or he has a size suitable for your face. what would have happened? If you tell the exact words that go through your head. You distrust.he prefers to hear him personality. Maybe you have not told her husband that found a former boyfriend and that his heart shot.
Case study: Sheelagh and Dennis Sheelagh was asked by Dennis for dinner at his house and decided whim to impress you. This whole assembly was a fine trick. Friends and lovers. And assumed that he felt exactly the same for her. glorious. Research shows that 30-40% of patients get relief with placebos .were excited in the highest degree. both would deny. Everyone constantly lied to each other. Fortunately. this scenario is called a romantic dinner with candlelight. All your senses . the chance to get to Sheelagh what I would be much greater. caught in the web of obligation. smiling. Only enemies tell the truth. Dennis wanted sex. touch and smell .the group of friends who would just be reducing the lunch spicy brunette who works in the next office. With a little practice is to recognize the behavioral signs we learn to lie and decodes them. All night. Champagne. It was the lights on the hair do hair. When he arrived. But if faced with this basic fact. making it possible for a person know if the other is telling the truth. But in reality it is a complete fabrication of lies half on both sides to try to gain personal advantage. obtaining a gain or avoid pain.so different from others she met. makeup is carefully chose a sexy dress. is decorate.sight. Parents lie to their children about sex and teenagers lie to their parents about sex. Dennis listened attentively. was impressed with the way Dennis get the scenario for the night: half-light. lit with candles. hearing. you raise the level of testosterone. was based on lies and deceptions. in short. and it is not easy to hide. remorse or discomfort when you lie. where it served a glass of champagne. Free sex with no inhibitions. In polite language. a soft background music and fire burning. They were talking a little about her work and the events of the day. he presented with a beautiful bouquet of flowers and led it to the table. pants high heels. put a pair of long earrings and a bit of French perfume behind the ears. On entering the dining room. and strongly. Sheelagh felt completely overwhelmed by the caring and sensitive man . not to lie. Sheelagh. or is lying. But we can say that everything you said and did that night was in search of personal gain. Did you not concealed from the other lipo or prosthesis that did that to put the body shape? Ever not lied about your weight and your age? The list of large and small lies is endless. To sit. half-light and soft music were not part of the normal lifestyle of Dennis and the usual topic of conversation was his sport.are all lies. Stephen King We lied for two reasons. is armed and behaved is thinking only in stimulating the sexual part of the brain of Dennis. she realized that he was using to shave lotion that she said that he liked. And I was experienced enough to know that building the scenario the way they mount. in turn. Give the name you want . most people feel guilt. of course. looking at the eyes and encourage her to talk.
The lies and malicious misconduct tend to be used as weapons in competitive situations. Similarly. to get him out of the rival.the Branda Lie.embraced with a smile-tooth Margie. When the truth was restored. Say. cold and painful. because the intention of the liar in this case is hurt or take advantage of victims in their own benefit. Types of liars "Natural liars" are people who are fully aware and confident in their ability to deceive. that a man cheating ex-girlfriend. for example. and when he met a man who seemed loving. In forging a inverídica information is presented as true. A known God. A couple had their school and its reputation destroyed because they spread the rumor that sexually hurt the students. left little. for example. or as safe prescription drugs . politicians and richies are the main targets of malicious lies. A month later. intelligent.Types of lies There are four basic types of lies .placebos . ra late because the damage was enormous. business and politics. he misappropriate information. War. he was a notorious playboy. The medical mind that the patient in the bed of death to raise her mood. C mo already said. can spread the false information that its main competitor is in financial difficulties. Invent the people intend to destroy the character and reputation of their victims. through another friend. To tell her friend Margie who was seeing this man. fun and is interested in her. she gives him in the face of the neighborhood shopping center . In the blind. The Lie benefit is used by people with the intention of helping. Lie beneficial to the malicious lies and malicious lie. a person who could not trust. but if War took the decision not to warn it would also be guilty of lying. This type of lie is an intentional act. Malicious lies are motivated by revenge or to gain advantages. this time by an act of concealment. even if they are inverídicas also benefit as the rivals of those affected in the world art. sensitive. sorry. The malicious lie is the most dangerous. heard. was delighted. discovering that War was over. making it the guarantor of a loan and giving it the default. and do as little. Margie War gave false information on the character of a man. War then moved to avoid it. One company.technically lying. The malicious lie has two main forms: concealment and falsification. This is the case of the German farmer who hid Jews from Nazis and denied to the authorities. the lying does not count as a lie. In general. He was lying heroically. was single mother. with results to be devastated and durable. in fact. The fireman who rescues a child from a house on fire and mind to it saying that their parents are and is protecting it for some time to suffer an even greater trauma. Nobody could blame for not warning Gerris Margie because Margie may not believe. parents who were themselves taught them to lie to prevent the . The journalists who offer the stories to newspapers and magazines sensational. it is not an uncommon political rumors spread that an opponent has his inappropriate sexual behavior. not an accident. People in evidence as actors. who. the Lie Branda is part of our social fabric and prevents us from ferirmos and insult each other with the truth hard.
If you lead the department of personnel of a large company would want to know as much as possible about a person applying for a position of trust. the woman usually does not the slightest idea of what is happening. actors. offending and creating problems for everyone they know. but what they want to believe that it is like the truth." annoying. pretending to give in return love and emotion. they can cause enormous damage to women's emotional. while others are masters in pose of lawyers. sex and other benefits of women. The "liar non-natural" is the person who as a child. however. Some returned in this type of experience. psychological and financial. The truth will free him. vendors. The most common objective of Romantic Liar is starting money. seems to learn nothing suffered. For those liars. Even smart women be fooled by a Romantic Liar. because it would inevitably discovered. Studies and experiments show. MAL Pancoast One of the most dangerous lie that a woman can find the way is the romantic. When a Romantic Liar enter into action. Consequently. She is blind to the lies or deny. the only limit is the imagination. that men and women lie in equal Others . Romantic Some liars are specialists in hiding who are married. merchants. right? Why not do the same with a prospective partner? The advice here is: always check the history of any product you want to keep for long. The emotional damage and loss of self-esteem often far beyond the material losses in these cases and may leave a woman emotionally marked: it will hardly believe any man. but will save you a far greater suffering in the long term. The offices of the therapists are full of intelligent women and full of resources Romantic victims of a Liar. These poor creatures spend their lives indiscriminately telling the truth about everything. Romantic liars can appear anywhere and go in and chat on the Internet. politicians and spies. and sexual interest. Many natural liars take advantage of that ability in adulthood become criminal lawyers. doctors and businessmen to raise the successful.terrible punishment that would apply if told the truth. repeating that "I never lie. as the biggest talent is his ability to live a lie plausible enough time to its victim fall in love. It can be painful discover its faults. Who minds the most? Most of the women has to say categorically that men lie more frequently than between them. was persuaded by the parents that it was impossible to lie. even when they are evident to friends and family. where most people mind and anything. People say love of truth. but first it will screw you.
The human mind to do good. They do not lie anymore. which leaves the impression that lie more. in his head. The men lie to avoid discussion and to say." or simply saying that lie loved. Under the same circumstances." tell a lie as indirect "I do not know what to say. lying also likely to leave you angry." The man who betrayed a lie until well beyond any evidence because. "She is my friend. a man is able to say it is vice-director of a multinational distribution of food when it has a business of supply of pizza at home. no matter where or when. and men for doing good.it is always good. as if you were deeply offended. to defend themselves from charges of women. In an extreme case. even thinking that the person was like a sack of potatoes. Common lies that men tell women "I'm not drunk" a lie is easy to get.propose What varies is the content of the lie. has nothing to gain by telling the truth. If a man says that sex with the ex was a drug. most women know very well that he is lying. and only will if forced to give their opinion. What 's wrong with that?" He says she is a friend from childhood and . or convince themselves that a calorie dessert not affect the system. but lie differently. especially because it usually sounds "Eooo a xtô bêbadu. Even become aggressive. men are caught much more frequently. The main question of the men who do women lie is: "What it was good?" The most common form of lie is self-deception. This is the main difference lies between male and female. tend to lie to make others feel better. And they say that sex with ex was better than with you.women lie as much as men. They just continue to get caught." Sex is one of the constants of life of man .except for being really drunk. Women lie to keep the relationship safe and have great difficulty in lying about their feelings. He will say that the clothes are "interesting. There is no reason to say that a person is not drunk . "Once and for all. Women of the m general. The woman said that a mind was wonderful clothes for someone. the man moves away to not have to lie. Due to heightening awareness for women's body language and vocal signs. it is highly likely that he is lying. I never trance with that woman. The woman mind to make the man feel good. "The sex with my ex was a drug. such as smoking two packs of cigarettes a day repeating that it is not biased and can stop whenever you want. The evidence is clear . And in those cases where the man mind.
the woman is able to read the emotions of animals. more tracks will be left by the liar. Without these techniques of survival. and respond to a large extent by what is known as "female intuition". is another problem. These points are used to decode words. because your brain is more developed for spatial tasks than for communication. but will not have the slightest difficulty in lying to the enemy if captured in war. The man has on average 4 to 7 of those points. Other variants include: "She is lesbian. If the man wants to lie to a woman. hunger. As I said. sorrow and joy. in general. involve emotions that flashing red lights as verbal or visual. Why women are so good at catching lies? Most men know how difficult it is to run even a small lie to a woman face to face. so do not want you to go eat with us. Must be able to rapidly assess the attitude of people who are close to their nest . Most women have less difficulty to lie in the face of the man . She knows I tell if a dog is happy. fear. Try to disguise these tracks creates an emotional issue for the majority of us. therefore. On May the lie and the more emotions involved. it is best to do so by telephone. she does not feel anything for me. she is sick and wants me to go visit her. she needs to tell me something very secret. disease. The purpose of man hunter was always reach its target accurately and not talk to him. The closer a person. A husband has difficulty to lie to his wife if he really loves. advise him or try to understand it. The man needs to reach its target accurately and not having a conversation with him deeper and full of meaning. The "hypersensitive" female has two goals: defend its territory against foreign and communicate with the children. For the same reasons. If you see or not these tracks. the more difficult it is to lie because of the emotions involved. without being caught.who have no other interest in it. Most men do not think that guy has a dog required. sad. she is just needing a friend to talk. signs and changes in body tone. But keep away from you and not to let her know. " Why not stick the lies? Most lies can be detected because. in danger. lie is easy. MRI scans of brain show that a woman has from 14 to 16 key points in the two hemispheres when communicating face to face. she is going through a difficult situation and I want to help.whether friendly or aggressive. The woman must have ability to look at their offspring and immediately identify the pain. she is vulnerable. so that it can handle more . the woman's brain is organized into multiple tracks.in general if they can get along. Here is the key to duck-logical liar: he has no emotional connection with anyone. angry or embarrassed.
A third of students in each group was told to put lies prone in the curriculum vitae. If it needs. stealing The younger the person. About 33% of secundaristas and 16% of students admitted having stolen goods from a shop on the previous year. Advice for men Do not waste time telling a lie to a woman face to face. about nine thousand adolescents and adults from all over the country. Why do women always remember? Erik Everhart. . so many physical signs. Found that this difference helps the girl to detect subtle changes of facial expressions. fraud and stealing.the subtle expressions.is full of receptors for estrogen and grows more rapidly in girls than in boys. more prone to cheat. 3. found that boys and girls from 8 to 11 years of age using different parts of their brains to identify faces and expressions Boys most use the right side.630 students and 2. lasting from a fraction of a second. a survey of 2002. while the men often forget their lies. plus the left. It is very difficult. and the girls. people who are lying. The woman's brain is programmed to read the signs when they happen. that Bill Clinton lour for a split second before answering any question about Monica Lewinsky. Women are very good at remembering what was the lie that those who counted and counted. for example. For that use the slow motion. and colleagues from the State University of New York in Buffalo. This gives you the added advantage of knowing how to read the physical signs and hear what is being said while speaking. Sixty-one percent of secundaristas and 32% of students admitted to have circumvented the tests at least once in the previous year.information at the same time. call her or send her an email. which explains not only why they are much more difficult to deceive. Read the mouth and eyes of someone requires a more refined analysis than judging the emotions of the face piece. The FBI agents learn to analyze the "micro-expressions" . giving women greater ability to recover memories of things loaded with emotion. making them better able to understand the state of mind of people. showed that a significant number of people in the range 15 to 30 years is prone to lying. assistant professor of psychology from East Carolina University. you are informed at once and let go. The man with the brain of single track. in the forms and job interviews to get what they want.092 adults. and 16% of secundaristas said that it had done at least once.the part of the brain used in language and the storage and retrieval of memory . In the United States. The hippocampus . We search for 3243 students from secondary school. Women not only have a greater ability to detect lies as they have greater ability to save them as ammunition for future discussions. swindling. but also that they are often negotiating more perceptive than men. Young people are more prone to lying. fleeting. There was.
The children hear from parents that honesty is the best result. If you ask the children to tell you the truth. never know what the other is really thinking or feeling about them. more likely. 'No'. "What is the reason for the fight?" Asks the father." The survey found that 83% of secundaristas and 61% of university lied to the parents during the previous year. these are symptoms of great moral crisis that rages in all societies. The second reason. why did not the duty of the house." replied the boys. In such cases. but the bribe the guard to watch traffic. "We're doing a competition. If you are a person who offends easily. because they will distort the truth to avoid reaction. people flatter you do not like to give excuses to justify a lack liars or cancel an appointment. If people know that you are angry. replied the director. It is different than being instructed to pretend to like the gifts that have won or give a kiss on the annoying aunt who will visit them. I avoid at all costs. assume that all other people are. and adulthood are triggered by figures of authority. then the sanctions because the truth is not in line with its expectations. as they themselves are liars usual. the teaching is lying to protect themselves. Why the lies of friends and family hurt more . "I never lied!" The boys were put to cry. The researchers found that the dishonesty and other unethical behaviors were less common among people over 30 years and lied that the two sexes in equal proportion. The father is approaching heatedly discuss that next to a puppy. Many of the behavioral patterns are liars down during childhood and youth. "Who gains from the biggest lie the dog. it is a duty of kindness and just education. People find this for two reasons: first. but similar studies conducted across the West showed the same trend. apologize: "Dad. The father responds. too hurt or vengeful when he hears the truth. that the severity of punishment is a major stimulus to lie and one of the main reasons that children grow as stubborn liars. Most parents do not realize. we could say that Americans are a bunch of liars and fraudsters. When all the known lie to you Some believe that we should not trust anyone and that the world is full of liars." Based on this study. you got it!" Ambiguous messages about the lie that children receive has a major impact on their behavior when they grow up. When someone reacts to what is said so aggressive and emotional. Unfortunately. for example." "That ugly thing!". is that the behavior of these people makes the others lie to them. symptoms that reflect a real change of values in these societies. "Great. Asked the student. will say. The most disturbing was that 73% of those surveyed in the range 15 to 30 years said to believe that "most people cheat and lie when necessary to achieve what they want."I can trouble for something I did?". almost forcing the others to lie.
no. in principle. sister or child hurts more than told by an acquaintance. because the person will be our brother." The liars also avoid using the name of the person involved in the lie. then ask them to repeat a third time. If later the demand and it says "My car broke down and had no cell battery.. Then give a break to the suspect to let him think that made it. He tested his mind many times in the head and is generally able to perform without error. They prefer to say "I do not trance with that woman" than "I do not trance with Monica. " To recall the events of the day.. Good liars are able to make a second version identical. As he does not expect this repeteco and is more relaxed. generally the third response is not accurate and the story seems a little different. I i in my brother's house after breakfast and then . people usually stop and change direction to try to put things in order. but that person can be eliminated from our lives. if I act like every word. cause more suffering to a lie. In the end she will betray an excess of confidence in the performance. Clues to unmask a liar How people feel uncomfortable with the lie.. His script is perfectly decorated and rarely does it wrong. analyzing the words of suspects who had alibis false.. the more open to it. Furthermore. The lie of a close friend also hurt.. How to read between the what is said . they instinctively seek to distance itself from them. but tends to be forgiven. because the feeling of betrayal is more pro-fund and you do not want to remove this person from your life. just leaving to find her. mother. the liar's voice becomes more acute. wife." Liars do not hesitate Ask a person what she did last weekend and she will probably think a bit before saying something like: "Ah . the more we trust it. Consider the example of a person who combines is with you and not displayed.The more intimate the relationship.. at least for a time. father. brother or sister hurts deeper. The liars leave the lies out of its references to themselves and avoided using the word "I". sister or child." you instinctively distrust most of what she said "My car broke and I could not call you because the phone's battery was weak. because the closer the person. But the habitual liar not hesitate or forget. we know that. Who does one turn is two If you think a person is lying. due to the stress associated with the lie. Ask liar to repeat what you think is a lie. The FBI recently discovered this valuable clue. we surprised him with it and can choose to not see him ever again. the used car salesman will lie to us. I saw my brother after lunch. for that before-I had to go get my car in the workshop . A malicious lie told by her husband.. A lie told by a brother. aah . At the other extreme.
this is the best I can offer you" is sometimes translated as "might not be the best that I have to offer. Do you lack the confidence to say you feel? Are you trying to fool? Or are you wanting to escape from their responsibilities? Of course. Who is being honest.95" and "Only U. There are people who exclaim "Bullshit!" when they hear a fact which seems extraordinary. some honest people have the habit of using those words repeatedly. Remember." "I'm not kidding" and "I would lie to you?" are other versions. "Only U.S. If the person says "You give me five minutes?" and you agree. trustworthy and decent credit need not convince anyone of it. and oblige him to answer "I" to every request. or what he is saying is not worthy of credit. "Only" and "only" The words "only" just "are used to minimize the meaning of words" which are then to relieve the guilt of the speaker or p ra blaming the other for any unpleasant consequence. "You understand?" or "Do you understand?" at the end of the sentence are irritating mannerisms. "I love you" is easier to believe than "Honestly. not mean that it will not believe what is being narrated. $ 9. when in reality they want to force you to believe what they are saying. it is more clear that a contract gives you the possibility to interrupt the conversation past the time stipulated. She argued." The force with which the person who says "Trust me" try to convince the other is proportional to the size of the bait. indicating that the person may be trying to hide the truth or convince you of an emotion that she does not feel. A friend was my ex-beats the classroom at the college to respond with "Bullshit!" the statement of professor of religious sciences that had more than a thousand shrines where the Virgin Mary operated miracles. "I am just a human being" is the motto of those who do not want to take responsibility for their mistakes. "sincere" and "frankly" indicate that the speaker should be considerably less.00 for entry" is used to convince the consumer that the price is insignificant. who will hire you for a full hour. Pay attention to your speech to see if you USA often these words and." "Without doubt" gives reason to doubt and "Without a doubt" is definitely a warning sign. try not to eliminate them is liable to generate mistrust. I love you." And no woman believes the man who says "Just a friend. But who has not always meant well. because they give the impression that the listener is unable. For example: "Frankly. but should pay attention when you hear "just" and "only". not a rule. "I just wanted to say I love you" mask the need for love is shy to say "I love you. Unconsciously do this by introducing a true statement. honest and sincere than states and can be sign that he is lying. but who knows you believe?". The words "honesty". which will sound false. saying that was just expressing surprise. but in the end thought that it was untrue. you will do what I want. "I only take five minutes of your time" is the USA. honest. that phrase alone is not evidence of dishonesty: it must be interpreted in its context. "Believe in what I am telling you" can mean "If I can make you believe me.S. Here is a list of terms commonly used by people who want to convince them that speak the truth. he makes his observation with a "Trust me. however." When you hear someone say "only" and "only" should think about why the person tries to minimize the importance of what you're saying.You already talked with someone who seems less convincing as this? Examine some common words and phrases. However. . if so. To feel that you are not believing it. $ 40.
"You think I would be able to do such a thing?" Some people try to use the organization to which they belong. but the fact is that people of character do not need live testing its virtues. which measures the breathing apparatus. the pulse and the relative volume of blood is the most famous of lie detector. have received or honor the traditions of his family to convince you of their honesty. The polygraph. AHS.height."As a member of . The polygraph is not accepted as evidence in court. These machines can now be seen in programs of the TV interviews in which the American guests also tend to prove the guilt. their speech tends to be dotted with uhms."I have no reason to lie. When the person is in a situation of stress." ."I never I would be such a thing. Studies show that 70% of the amount of voice crotch when lying. This is most noticeable in men than in women. They live their values in a way that is visible and that gives them credibility." It can also be a matter of uncertainty." . breathing and perspiration."I'm telling you the truth." . ERS."I do not belong to this type of people. There are also physiological differences between people that may be source of errors in the polygraph test. Paying attention to vocal tracks There are three characteristics of voice capable of delivering a liar . You may recognize some of these phrases: . except when determined by the judge. Conversely.." . speed and volume. and hem breaks because there was not enough time to test the lie."Why would I lie?" . no change occurs in these indicators. a lie is detected by the physiological effects that are manifested as the increase or decrease in heart rate."Frankly Speaking. Answers like these are given when the person is calling and not to respond directly to a question. the liar that calculates the lie to ensure their effectiveness." . Liars experienced less anxiety show that beginners and are sometimes able to pass the test of the polygraph. When a person is caught distorting the truth. innocence or the fidelity of their partners."Trust me. speaking more slowly and reduces the volume of voice. When a person speaks the truth. because they have the brain less ." .." ."To be absolutely frank / honest / honest with you. Getting lie with the computer The progress of technology of computer generated three interesting ways to detect liars.. blood pressure. while honest people may be intimidated and lied to eventually classified as roses. tension causes a tightening in the vocal chords that makes screechy voice and can increase its speed and volume. When the person is wanting to cheat. Recent studies show that the accuracy of the new computerized polygraph is close to 100%.
discussing the matter extensively. irritation or fatigue. When someone rub the eye. The smile that accompanies a true statement. When it comes to lie in general at least three signs. pull the ear. without displaying too many signs of the stress. Interpret the whole Never interpret a gesture alone. When the person mumble a reply to a question directly. it is reasonable to assume that you are listening to a lie. "to be honest. nothing guarantees that lying. they show that it is experiencing some kind of stress. In other words. The fake smile is generally slow and asymmetric.the left side of the face mirrors the right side. but there is something she is not saying. Keep in mind that they are not satisfied that the person is lying. but there are some signs you can see when someone is lying.equipped to control the language. But most of the liars give many signs. Smile Men and women smile the same way as when they lie and the truth. Interpreting body language In our book The Language of the Body body showed signs that represent more than 60% of the messages exchanged between people. that Bill Clinton touched his nose and face 26 times when answered questions about Monica Lewinsky before the grand jury. scratches his neck. If someone rub your eyes. There are people who lie comfortably. most of the time. This is true for children educated in Western culture and European. they believe their lies. feel insecure. exaggerate or lie. If it touches the face several times and at the same time says "trust me". may be itching. Both men and women take much to hand to the face when in doubt. for example. suspicious. however. your facial expressions are asymmetric. is usually rapid and symmetrical . There was. Mothers them said "I know you're lying . take your fingers to rub the nose or mouth. like politicians and religious fanatics who. and it is likely to be hiding something. it does not show signs of fraud. The male gestures are easier to understand because they are more extensive and frequent: rubbing eyes and nose. In the book. pulling the ear and bring the hand to the neck. Is in the eye You probably learned to believe the liar never looks in the eyes. When people try to show that they do not feel emotions. "believe me". your smile is crooked means. and others.
2. Descruze legs. Smile with the lips closed. 10. Mispronounce or mumble the words. 9. trigger the left side of the brain and generally look to the right. A liar think doing so is not lying. The deft. Not maintain eye contact. 8. It is the forced smile used by both sexes for fake sincerity. recalled when a real event. The invading his personal space. Never say what you really know . 5. but is a strong evidence of cheating. Mimic the posture and his movement to establish a communication and make it more difficult for him to lie to you." In the latter case. Liars just want to finish with the conversation. If you get close. In addition. Hide your hands. 4. Demonstrate warmth and laughter too. His eyes fitam the void. 7.a sign of growing tension and dryness of the eyeball. experienced liars can maintain eye contact when they lie. Do not show surprise or amazement. without further difficulty. open your arms and tilt it back.because you can not look in my eyes.does not show that you know they're lying. and a signal is almost impossible to disguise. resulting in forced eye contact. As not being a victim of lies 1." In cultures where maintaining prolonged eye contact is considered an ill-educated attitude and aggressive. Always leave an exit for him to go back and tell the truth. Use the technique of self: "I felt a lack of your call. In simple terms. it is possible to continue denying it. trigger the right side of the brain and look to the left. The direction where to move the eye of the person when it is a question you can also help you identify a liar. you lose the chance to be knowing the truth. 5. Deepening the pupils 6." "I am sad when I think you're seeing another woman. . Sit in the chair higher. If you react negatively or with much emphasis. Do not accuse. because it shows which part of the brain they are using. Pretend not to hear or say that law did not understand what he said. Aggressive questions as "Why do not you call me?" and "Are you seeing anyone?" may cause the liar is to secure its position and not improve anything in your relationship with him. skillful liars look to the left. He wants to make you like it to believe it. 3. 8. 6. is where it will look. It is an instinct for defense. Signs that denounce the lie in men 1. 3. this does not apply. Try making it easy to tell the truth. and when invented a story. Give it an "exit". This observation is not without errors. Stay calm. The brain tries to prevent the face of information. he will feel uncomfortable. 2. 4. Talk soon. Men find it easier to lie with your hands in your pockets. It is important to note if s eyes blink more often . 9. Crossing your arms or legs. but record the suffering that their attitude question to you. look liars left to right. "Open up" to the truth. If the room has a door. It is a subtle form of intimidation. Shake your head indicating "no" when they answered "yes" and vice versa. 7. Add involuntary facial movements.
the more likely it is to confess everything and. we asked our readers to send us the 9 phrases that men hear when they hide what they really want: dictionary of language patterns of male The men never understand women and women will never understand men. Finally. . at worst. Give him one last chance. Ignore the lie and say "What can we do that does not happen more?". to find a solution to not having to resort to lying again. And that is something that men and women will never understand. If he thinks you miss the hook.10.
c. 2. 5. Athletic / strong. 65 to 80%. 4. 6. This is a test to see how a man to evaluate the primeiva finding the time or were looking at his picture. Tiny shoes. or jump down. When you are chatting with an attractive man that stops leg bigwig. With trousers or a long skirt. For example. Created then this test to give you an idea of how they look. proportions. A short clothes. with and without straps. Terninho a stylish and well cut. c. Their ratio is: a. The influence of personality traits on their attraction to men will be discussed later. Skinny / straight. not too flashy. more than 80%. Which of the following attributes best describe your body? a. High heels. based on responses from the male brain to certain forms. The test relates only to their physical shape. c. c. appearance and presentation. less than 65%. but elegant. the proportion is 75%. b. with comfortable shoes. 3. how he reacts to you? This is something that every woman thinks: what is the first impression of a man when he says the first time? Most women want to know to what extent are attractive to men. 1. Fashion shoes with medium heel. Measure your waist and hips and calculate the proportion waist / hip dividing the waist by the hip. how you dress for the man trying to impress? a. b. which would you prefer? a. textures and female body language signals. What type of shoe predominates in your wardrobe? a. sizes. b. what is your attitude? . Casual. It is a guide to the impact that you cause or ceases to cause a man when he sees for the first time. b. Heavy.Chapter 9 THE TESTING OF WOMEN'S SEXUAL APPEAL How do you make people work? Take the test When the eyes of a man found the trellis in a room. c. If you could buy a new clothes regardless of price. fair and low-necked to let that show their physical gifts. b. At the first meeting. but with elegance. colors. A long and undulating clothes that cover all problem areas. if your waist measures 75cm and 100cm his hip. Modern in short skirts and high heels to show the legs.
If you were invited to pose for Vogue. Soft / smooth. Try to make it sit so that it can not see his body. Looking over the shoulder. as he seems? a. Protuberans / round. b. If you ask a stranger to describe your ass. c. with hair pulled to the top of the head. 11. Heavy load. Smooth. b. b. Curvilinear. Move the hair. How you dress for the evening out with friends? a.How would you describe the your neck? a. Full. b. say: a. hips recline. Lean / angulosa / muscular. Plump. thick and strong. regardless of day or hour to get the best appearance possible. Infant / big eyes. but sincere. 7. b. c. If Picasso was painting you would like? a. b. 15. c. Inclined to the front. 8. Long. c. which he say? a. b. I use much makeup. 13 . Average length and thickness. b. thin or thin. Elegant / powerful features. Compact / muscular. Back arched. hands on hips and lips exposed. Short. With an outfit just to highlight the silhouette.a. 12. c. thin or athletic. With loose clothes that do not give any idea of the body that is underneath. Describe your makeup: a. 10. c. With a bra to lift the breasts and let the shows the neckline. Colors and styles are in fashion. b. which would pose? a. My face is my blade. c. Round / in the form of a peach. lean hips and the caress your body to draw attention to it. 9. If your friends would describe her face. You're going to a dinner in the light of candles and want to be sexy. c. c. When you pass your hand in the stomach. Natural. is the language on the lips. 14. the rear tilt and throwing a kiss to the camera. What use . Stay near him with the legs unfolded.
c. Short 20. Look at his nose in the mirror. The color of fashion. 18. You're getting dressed to go to the Oscar party. How would you describe your appearance a. Small as a button. b. Pedestrians stop to work to work and . 100 points or more: The goddess of sex When the men see. Almonds. c. Greater.lipstick? a. Your Hair is a. b. they are immediately gaff. You can use the earrings you want. You choose: a. Earrings with stones of medium size and pretty. Neutral / natural color. b. 19. 17. Long before diamonds. in the medium term. Sexy c. Middle c. Carefree b.Comprido b. Medium. And you can improve your appearance. b. Always remember to two things: their personality traits may. c. Elegant Your Score Now calculate your score and see where you are classified in terms of its appearance shows that of their sexuality. As a man describe his eyes? a. modify that image. Large / child. Bright red. Earrings of pearls and small diamonds. Small / tight. c. 16. As a cartoonist designer? a.
will make you feel more beautiful and healthy and give you a great pleasure to live. If received 66 to 78. If you got 78 to 99 points. will have even more spectacular results. The next chapter will show you the reason for their success and how to further improve its score. Men like to see it and deal. however.to improve their appearance. just needs some work areas to achieve what men want. Men feel women inevitably attracted by clear signs. know that if we really invest in their physical appearance. The problem. The attraction that you will hold on men is just one extra! You can also disguise their physical imperfections dressed up in a way that emphasized their strengths. is that even the most sensitive men and intelectualizados are at the mercy of biology. Sign in to an academy to improve the form. Why not work with it . and it is being right. 66 to 99 points: Miss Elegance Most women are in this squad. for example. You can improve your presentation without compromising their beliefs. Less than 65 points: Let's whim? You probably believe that personality is more important than appearance. You are really an expert in the game of her sexuality and never missing program. become more attractive to men. Means that you are reasonably successful in making men feel attracted to you at first.whatever you dislike .whistles when you pass. . But why not invest in their physical as well as invest in the intellect? Both of them are its aspects. knowing that so attract a greater number of men and have more chance to choose? The next chapter will show you how to become more attractive and why most men babam by women with lower QLS and not look twice at you. at least in principle. You might say that is not interested in men who are no longer hypnotize by physical appearance.
you can easily become more captivating. do not shave and wore clothes that for Daniel. money and energy. Kim changed. and Daniel was leaving to look for her to do sex. That does not mean you can not succeed with the opposite sex because it is not equal to Cameron Diaz or Brad Pitt. who met at work. therefore: beauty and physical attraction and personality or . She said they liked to wear for him and especially how he looked when she arrived. Like it or not. Kim left like her mother. But understanding how the process of attracting and employing some simple strategies in your favor. which. which is why we have to react to them. began to show cracks in the marriage and he started to notice other women. Daniel decided to confront the situation and told Kim how she felt.Chapter 10 OR AND MAKES THE EYES OF MEN JUMP The power of female sexual attraction Case Study: Kim and Daniel Kim and Daniel were already leaving a year and had decided to marry. where all were well stowed and makeup and flirting with him. Daniel liked to see Kim always went out together when stowed and thought that her appearance was a clear signal that he had made the right choice. It boiled inside. she always was in slippers and bathrobe. in addition to raising their self-esteem. But began to irritate the fact that she is working to produce. Six months later. Four years after the marriage. Daniel has been living with Kim and Jade. She was angry. while at home was a tragedy. Daniel could not explain his feelings and was blaming it for having touched on the subject. did not understand why he could not love her the way she was. This behavior he said he and his friends were not important. In this chapter we will examine the ingredients that make men and women desirable and attractive to each other. And found that the husband was much more frivolous than she imagined. Kim now is related to a group of women who think men are all us idiots. do not deserve any effort on her part. There seemed more care with the look inside. For the first time. contrasted with the appearance of Kim. there are patterns of behavior constructed by the waste needs of our ancestors. and when left with friends. Left to makeup. What is more powerful. Daniel thought that maybe she was going through a difficult period at work and once again take care. Kim felt that now was as a married woman need not impress anyone and most especially if store was loss of time. Both loved the relationship and thought that the other was the ideal partner. the physical appearance affects our ability to attract and keep a partner. As men are visual creatures stimulated by the appearance of Kim was a discouragement. At home after work. In his office. People who know are up to 90% of their opinion about us in the first four minutes and assess whether we are desirable in less than ten seconds. But Kim soon began to neglect when left with friends. no makeup and the hair drained. The ancestral biological signs of gender that we explain the working of the subconscious level. This is a line of evolutionary psychology that says that in the brain of each of us.
The evolution shaped our brains so that the good appearance is a sign of healthy person and relatively free of diseases. the evidence still saying that our brains are programmed to respond to the physical appearance of the other. This means that they decided their vote on a subconscious level. For a woman. when the woman displays the skills that allow you to pass their genes to the next generation. Messages are encoded and sent to tell others whether we are or not suitable for their purposes. without being aware of it. Women like older men because they have more experience and more access to resources. higher wages. change things. is an attractive man who is presented as biologically able to provide you with food and safety during the creation of children. For men. the ideas about what is politically correct and personal subtleties. in turn. tangible and intangible. Tell a person that she is beautiful or attractive is to say. Beauty and sexual attraction is essentially the same thing: the original meaning of the paplowing "beautiful" is "sexually stimulating". but like it or not. Attractive to people better jobs. The biological purpose of beauty is attracting for breeding purposes. This explains why many women tend to feel attracted by older men. intelligence. without even know it. The good news is that we have control over many of the determinants of our appearance and we can if we want.intelligence? They will be examined in this chapter. the University of Toronto found that attractive candidates received a number of votes in two and a half times larger than the non attractive. What the science says Polls (Eagly. In both sexes. you want to have sex with her. have more credibility and even more permission to break the rules than their less attractive correlative. You can choose to become attractive. that make it desirable to the potential partner. the attraction occurs in the biological. the answers to these early signs of attraction are programmed in the brain. And to be as objective as possible. Bill CIinton is proof. Ashmore. and Longo Makhija) show that we automatically assign positive traits such as honesty. Perhaps it is politically correct deny the impact of attractiveness in our decisions. Subsequent research revealed that 73% of voters denied categorically that may have been influenced by the appearance of the candidate and only one in eight voters are willing to at least consider this. the people of good appearance. kindness and talent. The theory of beauty Every person emits signals. Analyzing the results of Canadian federal elections of 1976. . put aside the theories of romantic love. the subtext biological basics.
which encourages more men The "point" considered the most appropriate for the western woman in the nineteenth century was a pale complexion. It is understood that the body of women has evolved as a permanent sexual signaling system. almost all studies on the attraction reached the same conclusions that came painters. The man of the twenty-first century or the same immediate things a woman as their ancestors. as if assessing a potential partner through a photograph. Based on these results. To display photographs of women "beautiful" to heterosexual men. a concubine for her beauty. Keep in mind that we are considering only the physical and geographical characteristics of the body. At the end of this chapter. even politically correct in the twentieth century. however. classify each part of the body in a ranking of attractiveness and explain the reason for his influence. but as you see. poets and writers in the last six thousand years: the body and appearance of women have more attractive on men than their intelligence and capacities. researchers from Massachusetts General Hospital found that these images activate the same parts of the brain that cocaine and cash. is something very different. Athletic silhouette 2. developed to attract the attention of man. the criteria for male choice of a long term partner are not the same. Sexy mouth 3. we discuss the non-physical factors related to the choice of our partners. Today the look emphasizes youth and vigor: the competition of beauty were created exclusively to promote an image that reflects the attractiveness of women's health. We will examine it further. In the last sixty years.The woman's body . Sick sinus . his face lightly colored and an air of delicacy and fragility. Factors that drive men in order of priority 1. In the next two chapters you will know the results of 23 studies and experiments showing what men consider attractive in the body of the woman and vice versa. Chinese Proverb What makes a man attractive to a woman. Speaks to the things we pursue in attracting someone before you hear the person talk or even to know who is. The wife is chosen for his virtue.
one of the biggest sex symbols of the world. Some women are horrified when they are submitted to the meaning of that groove. was 44 and had dummy and thick legs. Long legs 5.are the favorite of men. to escape the danger and to defend the nest if necessary. Long hair 9. and the mothers. Elongated neck Men prefer to look the brain because most of them see better than thought. Lack of tummy 11. Few women know that Marilyn Monroe. Why men have difficulty maintaining eye contact? Because the breasts are not eyes. dark-brown. giving you a rounded form and has no relationship to milk production.from eighteen to twenty-five years of age . the breasts become larger. Stimulating 1: athletic silhouette the first item in the list of men is the women's athletic silhouette. The nipples of women without children are pink.most men are passionately interested in them and are crazy for a groove. Buttocks hemispheric 7. use it to extend its advantage.sexual signaling. Stimulant 3: Seios tired The breasts of women at the peak of their sexual and reproductive capacity . All research shows that men like breasts of all types and sizes. Small nose 10. Round hips / waist fine 6.4. because fat is an extra helping of breastfeeding successful. have to attract the male that approached the front. Are those that appear in the center pages of men's magazines and in ads that exploit the fri-appeal. A strong and well formed body is a sign of health and ability to tip in-breed. Arched back 12. Vulva arqueada 13. Dresses sutiãs cleavages and raise the breasts emphasize the signal to create a groove that mimics the buttocks of women vis-tas behind. Since humans began walking upright. Eyes attractive 8. Whether they are the size of watermelons appear limõezinhos or . Others. were round and fleshy buttocks that played the leading role in the attraction of males. however. . When people went to four. Most men prefer a woman more fleshy than the lean. Most of the time the breasts of human females are the one clear purpose . Most of the breast consists of fat. females that covered the back.
abortions and surgical extraction of ribs. because the attention is attracted to the area where the right leg and left it encountered tram. Studies have shown that the length of dresses and height of jumps varies with the menstrual cycle. learn quickly how the thing works. For a woman. Roseanne Stimulating 6: Buttocks hemispheric . compression of organs. Later adopted the corset to accentuate the hips and flatten the belly. Never heard a man tell a woman she has beautiful long arms. the legs grow rapidly. thus demonstrating their readiness for pregnancy and procreation. In search of femininity irresistible. women increased the size of the hips and buttocks with pannier to flag potential getter. But when the girl reaches puberty and the hormones begin to flow on his body and transforming her into women. Men like women who wear high heels: they enhance the sexual profile of women stretching them to the legs. tilt the buttocks. The more legs you can see the man and the more long-gas they are the sexiest woman you think. the arched back. Legs extralongas become powerful non-verbal signs to tell the men that she is sexually maturing and is already able to procreate. came to suffer deformities of the chest wall. Even in the cold days. For men. I decided to get in shape. The principle behind the legs of women as sexual sign is yes. the article by fri-appeal more efficient market. In the nineteenth century. The form that was chosen to round. a step to stardom. Babies born with legs cur-ing for body size. Perhaps this is an important lesson for parents: lock their daughters the fourteenth to eighteenth day after the menstruation! Stimulating 5: Round Tables / Cintura fina For centuries women have used every kind of contraption to tighten the belt with the aim of obtaining a per-made for hourglass. When ovulado. reports. by far. a stairway to heaven. wear high heels and short dresses to give the impression that they have longer legs. breathing problems. reducing their feet and pushing the pelvis forward. women unconsciously choose more revealing dresses and high heels.Stimulating 4: Long Legs The vision of a woman with legs that seem to end in the axillae in men leaves a lasting impression. That is why long legs have always been associated with a powerful sexuality. Most women unconsciously understand the dynamics behind the legs extralongas and since teenagers. The high heels are. and this proportion does not change much in small children. pies.
went out of fashion in the second half of the twentieth century. Sculptures and paintings of the Stone Age abound in images of women with large. Ask any woman to assume a vertical posture and sexy you'll find is the preferred . a formation known as esteatopigia. That is why the academies and salons of yoga around the world is full of women doing abdominal exercises to get the perfect stomach type "table of my house. Stimulating 10: Absence of belly Women have a more rounded belly as men. this pro-portion always showed a great ability to catch the attention of men. which invariably attracted the attention of men. to show accumulation of fat around the uterus and ovaries. led a test that used images of women beneath the weight above the weight and normal weight. like to women curvilinear. Hindquarters protruding is an ancient sign of female sexuality so revered in Greece that a temple was built in honor of Aphrodite Calipígia." In the nineteenth century.The men believe the buttocks round. Women whose ratio exceeds 100% arouse little interest. protruding rear. Women who already have a hysterectomy. young women began to make plastics and liposuction to reduce the size of the buttocks. The additional bending of the buttocks and back tilt pushes the breasts forward. The women of normal weight with pro-hip-waist portion around 70% were the most attractive. brain and testicles. wider. the more attractive. and no belly is a clear sign of non-pregnancyboth for and willingness to male suitors." Stimulants 11 and 12: back arched and vulva Curves and arches indicate femininity and fertility. Marilyn Monroe cut two centimeters of the left heel of his shoe to accentuate your grinder. Throughout the story. "the goddess of beautiful buttocks. which can still be seen in some tribes of southern Africa. associated with neglect and poor health. women had to keep the whole body covered in public. High heels were with the woman hunch. peach-shaped. Young people who wanted to capture the attention of men recreate the appearance of a large back-ro wearing pannier. the lower. and lumbar spine more arched. usually accumulate as men. In the groups below and above the weight. They start to lose interest when the proportion exceeds 80% or is less than 70%. have not most of the reproductive organs. Professor Devendra Singh. showing them to groups of men asked to classify them in terms of attractiveness. even when the weight of women was very large. evolutionary psychologist at the University of Texas. The greater part than the back of the woman is closer to that of man. When the excessive fat. therefore. Men around the world. The jeans also became popular because it accentuated the buttocks and give them a look round and firm. 'why there is no fat around the heart. The buttocks of women store large quantities of fat to use in feeding and food reserves in difficult times. geo-metric shapes and angles. deposits of fat around the belly. so similar to the hump of the camel. a non-verbal indicator of low fertility. buttocks cram the quaver and the floor. ie your waist measured 70% of your hip. A woman with healthy and fully capable of giving birth has a waist-hip ratio of 70%. masculinity. women with waist thinner were the favorite. The mother-nature usually deposit the excess fat away from vital organs. The most remarkable discovery was that experience that men have to share waist / hip 70% the highest score.
If you do not believe. because they have the same size and thickness. that bond still . The woman's face is a screen on which a daily basis it paints a picture of me before her. this often cause great anxiety with regard to aging. and state of sexual arousal. invented the first beauty salon in six thousand years ago.position of the hook-up back and quaver of the hips. As the face attracts Our interest in human faces attractive is something that seems to be part of our psychology and does not depend on cultural backgrounds. embrace and protect. good health and good genes. protruding apples. Exciting 2: Boca sensual Humans are the only press that these are the lips on the outside of the mouth.children should have a touch. the formula is clear . The bright red lipstick is one of the main signs that a sexual woman can use. And always had a single color . men like a grin and an air vulnerable. The blush is to recreate that effect. Stimulating 13: Neck elongated the neck structures evolved in males as short. For women. All races prefer faces that emerged ability to play healthy. Look at how many these days use plastic surgery to try to conserve or restore the youthful look. Men like their women to wear lipstick and makeup by artificially give the signal that they are interested or feel excited for them. with both arms supported them to occupy more space and increase the chance to draw attention. delicate jaws. It is always the favorite color of every woman who poses for sexual symbol. Flesh lips and big eyes on the size of the face. The lipstick. PICASSO The excitement of women's sexuality can cause a flushing in the capillarity of its sides. ask any woman to be on foot and make a sexy pose. Above all. thick and strong to protect them from breaks during the hunts and battles.red. These signals cause reactions in parental brains of men and a powerful desire to touch. That made the neck longer and thin women a powerful sign of differentiation between the sexes that men like to kiss and see adorned in jewels and cartoonists exaggerate to emphasize the femininity. The women's favorite features are the small faces with short jaws. This is known as "eco genital". And to the face of a woman is generally classified as "beautiful". The base gives the skin a uniform appearance and no stains that signals youth. the size of the ear it was the indicator of sensuality. For thousands of years. a reaction that sends powerful signals to men and that observers began to develop when we began to walk upright. The zoologists believe that the woman's lips moved as mirror of his genitals. is also expanding and is filled with blood. was used by Egyptians as an eco genital permanent.
creating characters of large eyes and small nose to win the hearts of your audience. and the blondes are the genuine public also laurels. which explains why men find "strangely attractive" women who wear contact lenses. we have become so unaccustomed to see faces clean. large eyes are considered attractive. among the tribes Kelabit and Kenyah. Will never see a female model with a large nose.is this the real reason for the greater success of blondes? The blond hair is also a powerful visual indicator of women's youth: it darkens after she gives birth. Since then. They interpret as a sign of fertility.all with the purpose of creating the illusion of sexual facial signs. as some women believe to be ugly without makeup and use it as a mask to hide and not as an aid to make their faces more seductive and mysterious. Excesses may send a wrong impression to customers and cause of male rivalry in female clients. most men give their sensuality. eye liner and shadow to artificially create the impression that she is interested. The feminists might say that these are good reasons not to use cosmetics or earrings. The modern woman gets the same effect using long pending. Eyes that look great on the lower face in men inspire feelings of security. the industry of perfumery and cosmetics reached a total value of more than 50 trillion dollars a year . We did a survey with 5. Unfortunately. The blondes are also in front of other things. The men feel more attracted to women who use natural rnaquiagem than by women who seem to have been molded to reap the bricklayer. The cartoonists exploit this feature to a large extent. Barbie and Minnie Mouse have small nose. Women began to use modern cosmetic when.214 British men. the cute 110 thousand and 90 thousand redheads. Blond-haired women have a higher level of estrogen that cute. Contact lenses give the illusion that the woman's eyes are shining and the dilated pupils. even the actors are doing operations for the reduction of nose in line with the new image of the androgynous man of twenty-first century. Stimulating 8: long hair If the person never cut his hair. but it is important that women understand the effects that these signs have in exploiting the men and romantic meetings. giving them that look childish. Similarly. the men show a preference for women of color and clear eyes. The blondes have 140 thousand yarn hair. asking them what kind of hair seemed more . When a woman finds a man attractive. which immediately attracts the . The makeup enhances your eyes and look the child rearing. Today. Bambi. Over you-do. he would reach about one meter long. if their pupils dilate and mascara. a woman who wants to be taken seriously in the workplace should use less eye makeup and lipsticks colors more subtle. Stimulating 7: Eyes attractive In almost all countries. The plastic surgeons usually modify the nostrils to form an angle of 35-40 degrees to the face. in 1920. Our tests with computer images show that the longer the earrings of women. Stimulating 9: Nose Small Small nose is another reminiscence of childhood in men that produces feelings of security. something that only men seem to understand.exists in parts of Africa and in Borneo. joined in greater numbers in the workforce.
the other has no choice. over 70% of the audience are formed by men who want to see women showing signs able to stimulate the reactions of their ancestral brain. Considered that the long hair gave the woman a sensual delight and the short hair indicated a more serious approach to life. painted or drew pictures of naked women were almost all men. Women must understand that the men crawl the Internet in search of shapes and curves that appeal to your brain. an idea that attracted millions of women everywhere. power. reliability and integrity in business? If you are a branch . Until the beginning of the feminist movement in the 1960s. The link between attraction and pornography See pornography is an activity almost entirely male. the models begin to have no female bodies. who rarely attend the fashion show. This appearance has little success with the heterosexual men. For centuries. long hair and bright and showed a healthy body well nourished and have a history of health of its carrier and its potential for procreation. the clothes of women emphasized their physical skills in order to attract the attention of potential suitors. her hair and clothing to ensure an image of credibility. and the vast majority of images of naked men to be homosexuals. emaciated-looking. The impact of women's clothing on men The discussion of the effects of women's appearance requires some understanding of the history of clothing. The costume gives it a professional position of equality with men and women of business and.sexually attractive women. He is attracted by the shapes and curves and the virtual suggestion that she is able to transmit their genes. but through paintings. women wore it for the reason of all: to attract men and other women overcome. however. The result was predictable: 74% think the long hair of women more sexually attractive. A man. Ninety-nine percent of pornographic sites on the Internet are addressed to men. It never occurs if it has a nice personality. secondly. 12% of women prefer short hair. The feminism that said women dress to attract men is not more important .the inner beauty now had more than the appearance. How does the person you want to influence you waiting for? How should your makeup. The men of past generations would also like to feast your eyes with erotic images of women. The artists who carved. In remote times. They believed then that could be free of oppressive obligation of having to always be beautiful for men. her jewelry. when you see a pornographic image of a woman. never knows if she does cook. use the black lipstick and nail until the display dark olheiras as if they were doped. Styles as punk and grunge came as opposition to the use of clothing to attract men and to show the world that men and women could be equal in regard to appearance. The lessons to be learned here is clear: the woman must use when long hair and want to attract men hair short or pulled back in working meetings. The key to a successful clothing business is simple. play piano or fight for world peace. In the case of the Miss Universe. The modern woman has two basic codes of dress: clothes and work clothes of non-work. it allows women to overcome further demonstrate the success. a sexy appearance may be disadvantageous for women in a position of power or in a branch where men predominate. the importance and attractiveness of what the dresses. This code antiatração of clothing has evolved to the point that in 1990. In business.
in it is necessary to men sell their expertise and management, most signs of attraction that we discussed are inappropriate. However, if your business is selling the very picture female - cosmetics or clothes for example - many of the signs we discuss can be used successfully. If you have marks or scars, a birth defect or a feature that really does not like, is perhaps the case to a plastic surgery. Most people who have expressed satisfaction with the outcome. In a typical week, the average person is exposed to more than five hundred images of human beings "perfect" in magazines, newspapers, billboards and television. Most of these images is the product of technology, such as airbrush, highlight of makeup, computer graphics and effects of light. They rarely show the real person. Do not compare with the images of women's magazines. They only make you feel ugly. Plastic Surgery Today, an increasing number of people are opting for plastic correction (correction sounds better than surgery) to improve the appearance. In the United States alone, more than a million people are treated under the knife every year the main reason that people choose this path is to improve self-image and self-confidence, increasing capacity to deliver the signals discussed here. The celebrities are the most common patients. The fix plastic is not new. Centuries before the liposuction and breast implants, had padded mesh for men with calves too thin, iron corsets for women and pudgy pannier for them to increase the buttocks and hips. King Henry VIII wore a padded zipper to increase their virility and small Syphilitic and compete with the French royal. The it was decorated with jewels and emblems. But it is important to understand that plastic surgery does not make you a better person or more beloved, nor solve the problems of life. The only person who thinks you look for is probably a problem with their self-image. It is not the type of person with whom you should want to connect. The other side of attraction Why Men Have Sex and Women They Love? records the results of a survey of fifteen thousand men and women about what they seek in a partner. The relationship is: What men look for in a partner A. At first sight: 1. Good appearance. 2. Well-turned body.
3. Breasts. 4. Buttocks. B. In the long term: 1. Personality. 2. Good appearance. 3. Intellectual capacity. 4. Mood. The A shows what we already know - men are visually stimulated beings who enjoy looking at attractive women. Most women understand the science and research has proven many times, but not "politically correct" recognize it. The feminists in general abhors the idea of a woman be judged by their physical appearance and classified the men of superficial and frivolous. But that does not change the fact that the first reaction of these women is overwhelmingly visual. A list of the items are visual, so you must remember that it is making its debut presentation of. But this is not the case with the B list: a "good appearance" is the only visual item that men seeking a partner for the long term. As the visual signs are so important to man, he unconsciously USA the appearance of women as a measure of respect and love she has for him. He thinks that if she spends time with the appearance, it is because they feel attracted. One of the major complaints of men in actions of divorce is that the wives after the marriage, left the appearance disposed down the drain. They say they used the appearance to attract them and then thought it was no longer necessary. Most men are disappointed with the only woman who dresses for work colleagues. Women, however, have difficulty to understand them here, for not bind with the same intensity to their love appearance. For a woman, have sense of humor does not mean tell jokes. I mean laugh of his jokes. Solution It is inevitable: their appearance influences the response to treatment and the other given. Also influences their self-image and behavior. Most components of their appearance depends to a greater or lesser degree, of their actions. There are courses of clothing and etiquette to learn to walk, sit, talk, dress, makeup on and so on. The bookshops are full of publications on the subject. Department stores often offer free makeup they teach the customers to choose and apply cosmetics. A good hairdresser can you recommend the best way to get the hair, the beautician, from skin care, and dentists, to fix their teeth. The weight is also subject to control, because a competent nutritionist teaches you good eating habits and exercises in a gym will give you the way you want. If you absolutely must, have to make a new nose, increase the breasts, remove the signs of aging. In the XXI century there are few legitimate reasons for you not get the look you want.
The sexual attraction is 50% what you have and 50% what people think you have. Zsa Zsa Gabor This research shows two things. First, men focus on visual images in his first encounter with a woman, and overall appearance is more important than the body beautiful. This means that the way a woman dresses, the makeup and style are worth more points than quilinhos the most, some small bones and sinuses. Secondly, the long-term man is more interested in personality, intelligence and sense of humor of the woman, but a "good appearance" is still high on their list price. The good news is that you have a broad control over most of their appearance and can change things to fit.
"You will still love me when I become old and white hair?", She asked. "I not only I love her ', he replied," I like to write. We are not suggesting that women should have the obsession with appearance as often occurs, but it is important that it strives to have the best appearance possible. There is no ugly woman, woman is lazy. HELENA RUBINSTEIN Above all, you can become more attractive is developing intellectually and emotionally. There are women who, although they are not physically beautiful, become so interesting for its human quality, his gift for communication and intelligence, leaving behind many of the sex goddesses. Men may rave bold with breasts and women with biceps of steel, but the polls show that in the end, the related-ments have more to do with spirit than with the matter. The key ingredient is the flame inside that comes from self - sexual, emotional and professional. In other words, make it an interesting person and they will not realize their physical imperfections. Abstract It is fact that the woman's appearance can attract or repel the man in the relationship. Many women are angry with this. You think this is an unjust man in gray and wrinkle-be distinct and mature, and the woman in the same situation, just an old. But this is the case. No additional tapir is bored with it and look if the complaining that you can not change. So the men - and women - think. Do not fight it. Manage its consequences. If you are dissatisfied with some aspect of their appearance, change. You have the resources to do so. And if not to attract a man, do it by yourself.
For example. Their ratio is: a. In the next chapter you will learn all the secrets about what women seek to be a real man. Your income is: a.the open relationship is the way of the future.If you ask women to describe their ass.Chapter 11 THE TEST OF MALE SEX APPEAL How is your concept to women in terms of attractiveness? They feel the irresistible . Redondo. Happy. b. In the form of "V". Small and compact. divide it by the hip measurement and then multiply by 100. but I prefer to work part time. You asked women to describe their mouths. b. 85-95%.or are you indifferent? You are attractive or repulsive? Take the test now to see your score with women. Significantly above average. Take the measure of your chest. 4.in physical and non-physical every time a woman knows. 5. Heavy load.8%. but think occasional flirtations contributing to the ongoing relationship. Lean or without ass. You go to the TV show "Meeting the dark" and a candidate asks you to describe your body type. Neutral or down. 100% or more. Rectangular. Compromised. Less than 85%. ask their friends to take notes for your answers and compare the result. 2. b. if your chest measures 91 cm and 106 cm their hip. Freedom of compromise . c. 100% monogamist. What do they respond? a. Below average. c. c. b. b. 3 . What is your response? a. The test records the points you receive . 6. b. c. c. they say: a. After doing the test. c. . Gentle / kind. Reasonable for my age and experience. Take the test 1. their proportion is 85. You think the man should be: a.
Describe your chin and your nose. c. b. 9. More or less half (large entries. Distant / cold. b. Muscle / angles. A barrel. A well defined abdomen. c. sad or anxious: a. You probably notice. Average. . a. which will feel? a. b. Very important. Jogging and tennis. c. If a woman passes his hand over her belly. for example). You will know immediately. b. protruding jaw. Can be the joy of the party. c. Not important. 12. b.7. Bald head or scraped. c. 15. shoe leather. His thighs are: a. 14. You have been invited to a party and heard that there are many women that you are to impress. As you have hair? a. 8. 10. Relevant. Plump. Fun / malicious. I am a goner. If a woman is distressed. c. Small nose and chin. b. How to dress? a. seem appropriate to my face. How is your sense of humor? a.Size is paper? You think for women the size of the penis is: a. Shirt and jeans with tennis shoes. 13. Social pants and shirt. Almost the whole. Kind / gentle. A smooth surface. As a woman describe your eyes? a. You probably will not notice. Long / thin. b. c. I need to improve on that. c. Solid nose. b. if a little talk with her. Look in the mirror. c. b. 11 .
Being with his face and shaved. Your Score Question Point to Point B Point C 1753 The 2 9 1 3375 4354 5315 6194 7145 8351 9531 10 3 5 9 11 3 7 5 12 1 5 4 13 5 3 1 14 5 1 3 15 1 9 7 16 3 4 5 17 9 7 3 Now total the points and see the ranking of their sexuality 90 points or more: A Gatão Wow! You can consider a magnet for women. places and things. What is the extent of their conversation? a. Be beard of three days. c. c. b. 47 to 89 points: A cat Most men belong to this category. If you are close to 89 points. E is close to 47 points. Reasonable coverage. Send them the right signs and how to enhance their skills to attract them. They do not want selfish men. Just take a look at the questions that not many points scored and read the tips of the next chapter. because they may find that you are superficial and obsessed with itself.16. which for most women is a discouraging factor. b. 17. you have a base that needs to be quite worked. Use beard. But careful not to make their appearance too perfect. need not improve much. You have a reasonable ability to use their skills to attract women-the women. 46 points or less: A cat pooch Seu Placar Questão Pontos A Pontos B Pontos C 1 7 5 3 2 9 1 O 3 3 7 5 4 3 5 4 5 3 1 5 6 1 9 4 7 1 4 5 8 3 5 1 9 5 3 1 10 3 5 9 11 3 7 5 12 1 5 4 13 5 3 1 14 5 1 3 15 1 9 7 16 3 4 5 17 9 7 3 . No woman wants to compete with its partner the mirror. I understood in my area. I know a lot about people. Do you ever: a. The next chapter will show you how.
you can learn most of these things. will need help! Women like men who have personality. For you. Fortunately. and console is saying that man prefers women beer is BOIOLI. Think about how women will see the fun of your life looking for you in a different way! . the friends are more important than women. that are laughing.You might ask why women are fleeing from you. they are sensitive to their needs and have ambition and talent to move up in life. If you want to become attractive to women.
They look for faces . In Pennsylvania. must have virtues that provide the best possible genetic he-rity for their children. This is because.symmetrical. just as the symmetrical flowers are more attractive to bees because they have more nectar. the attraction for women firm and symmetrical men may vary with the menstrual cycle. women tend to choose men who invest in the relationship and the creation of children.even unconsciously .such symmetries as indicators of youth and health. resulted in minor penalties and fines lower (Castelloe. but was looking good genes elsewhere.and no bodies . But both sexes see . Since the beginning of time. The female sex appeal is a complex and sophisticated. women are attracted by strong men and healthy. able to obtain food and protect the family. What the science says Polls conducted in the United States show that attractive people earn 12-14% more than their fellow non-attractive (and Hammermesh Biddle). 1991 and Downs and Lyons.Chapter 12 WHAT TO ATTRACT WOMEN The first thing you will notice in this chapter on sexual attraction to men about women is that it is half the size of the chapter that deals with female stimuli on men. as I said. are symmetrical or not. Your brain has. 1990). she feels attracted to men with characteristics Manly and harsh. but the woman in the XXI century and more than their ancestors: a man who wants also to meet their emotional needs. which started before their . One way of identifying these characteristics is the symmetry of the human body: the left side of his body should mirror the right hand. however. The concern here is that attractive people receive more favorable treatment in court. and the symmetrical animals tend to live more than non-symmetrical. DNA tests show that 10% of babies born in marriages are not children of the partner. As partners in the long term. In Britain. sending messages to men about women's ability to be a carrier healthy and successful in their genes. with members of the same size. women are more prone to choose a man hard and for a symmetrical relationship of short-term. Judging is attractive only by the appearance (which is what we are doing here). the female body has evolved as a signaling device sexual. An es-all done in Scotland found that the type of male faces more attractive for women varies according to the phases of the menstrual cycle. the symmetry plays a significant role in female choice. If you ovulado. The symmetry of the human body is more important for women than facial symmetry why the champions of boxing often attract beautiful women Among humans. the male sex appeal is more basic and direct. bringing them the chance of survival. therefore. It seems that the wife chosen by their ability to from the pain. in search of two basic requirements: hardness and softness. Wuensch and Moore. Hardness means that the partner is taken. This is totally different from how men see women. Very little has changed in that respect. When the probability of conception is highest (more or less in half of the menstrual cycle). a study of the attractiveness of 74 men accused.
Chest and broad shoulders and muscular arms. 9. 6. The men developed such characteristics to carry heavy weapons and take their prey home. which indicates the potential of man to get food and defeat his enemies. but had two times more likely to escape the prison of the defendants non-attractive. Even in our age of supposed gender equality. 8. these signals also stimulate the brain of the woman when she evaluates potential partners. Broad shoulders are a male character. in order of priority. Narrow hips and muscular legs. 3.trials. 10.623. just to make it a conscious decision. often copied by women in search of affirmation. the results would be significantly different. Sensual mouth. extending in the hips. Here they are. 11. but looking on the bright side. Large penis. 4. the average compensation was $ 5. Kind eyes. Exciting 2: Chest and shoulders and long muscular arms The upper body of the male hunter is large. A study of the damages awarded in negligence cases found that." and the . becoming more attractive to other people. 5. Lack of tummy. in the form of "V". Beard of three days. When modern man reaches his goal. The bigger the breast. 1978). 7. Athletic body. 2. more respect and be a man requires. since no one has the possibility to improve their appearance. Small and firm ass. This explains why the biggest cheats people are almost always attractive. the average compensation was $ 10. The sexual responses of women are caused by certain visual aspects of the male body. There is another reason that the shoulder strap give status to men. Nose and strong chin. Stimulating 1: Body athletic Topping the list of female attractive male body is athletic-looking. The V in also attracting a woman. Where she has curves and softness. providing a better distribution of oxygen and allow them to breathe more efficiently by running or hunt. because it is the opposite: it has the shape of an inverted V. The main factors stimulating women 1. the man has angles and strength and it is this difference which is so attractive. they put their hands on hips. where large breasts and biceps topping are of little practical use. when he had better look to the victim. his chest still "full of pride.051 (Kulfa and Kessler. To appear wider in the shoulders and occupy more space. The male breast is enlarged to house large lungs. Hair tired. This may seem dispirited. The evidence shows that. showed that attractive defendants received sentences not only lighter. while the body of the woman is more narrow in the shoulders. if members of the courts had the power not blindfolded to see the accused. close to the height of the hip. But when the victim was more attractive to the accused. A strong and athletic body is a sign of good health. Women who use the professional environment Epaulettes are seen as more positive.
healthy. but most do not like the genre "muscle-man" because you think that kind of man is probably more interested in their beauty than in her. a part of the body usually treated with humor and disdain. why cut it fuses in camafeus to save and use in religious ceremonies.boys still associate the upper torso and the masculinity formed. Men with small and firm buttocks indicate a greater chance of working more efficiently. Samson lost his strength when he had his hair cut. The hairy armpits were always a feature heavily male. In other words. the gluteal muscles of the thigh had a tremendous expansion. it really is encouraging to have an erection. The male baldness is inherited and its cause is the overproduction of male hormones. Beat naked buttocks is a practice that attracts long sadistic and masochistic. because the weight of the man can cause him discomfort and hamper their breathing. For a woman it is not ideal. The men have forearms longer than women. Stimulating 4: Hair tired Throughout history. . to stimulate. The same happens with the breast and pubic hair. shave the head was seen as a sign of humility before God. So that we could stay upright and walk on two feet. when a woman knocks on the buttocks of the man. which give the best shot and shot. The ass has always been the object of jokes. In the case of monks. Small and firm buttocks indicate greater chance of conception. Women are certainly attracted by a male torso well defined. and many men and women to consider a sexual stimulant. The redness of the buttocks is similar to the state of women's sexual arousal and stimulation of nerve endings on the buttocks is transmitted to the genitals. and therefore more ability to the role of provider. many of which find attractive calves head or scraped. A head full of hair always represented the strength and power of man. so that the attraction has on women. Stimulant 3: Bunda and small firm The male monkeys do not have protruding buttocks and hemispheric-only humans have. and discourages the kind Arnold Schwarzenegger. In the Middle Ages was thought that the hair had magical powers. hair on his head has always been considered a distinctive male brute force. A look athletic. Men with flaccid buttocks fat or have difficulties with these movements. which contain a musky pheromone that stimulates the brain of women sexually. About 50% of women give high importance to the fact that humans have an abundant mane. tending to throw the whole weight of the body of the woman. Why then the women are interested both in the ass man? Why do you feel desire to move your hand? Why look like photos of a man with beautiful butt? Small and firm buttocks are the favorite of women worldwide. which however is a low priority for others. The secret lies in the fact that firm and muscular buttocks provide vigorous forward movement during the sexual act. but few are women who understand the reason of his magnetism. The armpit hair retains the smell of the sweat glands segregated.
They irrigate the hormone system. But they must take into account that compensation for baldness is the enhancing of its aura of masculinity and power. one is bald. This is due in part to the solidarity of women with the discomfort that baldness brings men and partly to the fact that baldness is a sign of masculinity. During the search we did for our book Rude and Politically Incorrect jokes (Jokes rude and politically in-correct). that myth is not supported by research. which makes the baldness a sign of exaggerated masculinity. is filled with blood in the state of sexual arousal and its temperature has increased by about six degrees. The masculinity transmitted by a head Calva accentuates the difference between the sexes and is therefore a stimulus for many women. the size of the nose of the man is associated with the size of the penis. Rather than see her as a weakness and something to joke. it is a sex machine. were seen as less powerful and less well-paid. and is not popular among women. Found that the more bald man. Push the chin forward is considered a gesture of defiance. Here is an additional . to describe the mouth and eyes of men." "sexy. and feel frustrated because they can not do nothing about . women rarely do. A head Calva is therefore a powerful showcase of testosterone. Stimulants 5 and 6: Boca sensual and gentle eyes To describe the lips and eyes of women. real or potential. and so remain today as powerful symbols of masculinity." Women. the greater the impression of power and success that it transmits and the lower the resistance potential of people to their authority. Due to higher levels of hormone. the same way as the penis. many women feel encouraged by it and even like to kiss or fondle the man's shiny dome. the chin and face strong was formed to protect the man on the face of blows during the fight and hunt. is that the nose of man. We have experience using computer-altered images of male head with varying degrees of baldness. generally located at the top of the head. which show the volunteers asked to say that the impression caused on the desktop. For some. For others. The women use to refer to their perception of the attitude of man. The only thing that the nose has in common with the penis is the way he stresses on the front of the body. we found that only men have the bald jokes." "delicious." "succulent" and "erotic. Since the times of Rome. however. "protectors" and "loving. Men with high testosterone are more and more protruding jaws. men Calvos are generally more aggressive and more sexually excited than their fellow non-Calvo." "inviting. however. "attentive". Many men suffer from baldness. Stimulating 7: strong nose and chin the nose. disabling certain papillae capillaries. men tend to use words like "wet.the only safe way to prevent baldness is castration before puberty. "sensitive"." But words are not used in the literal sense to describe the physical observed. which is not recommended. The tired men with hair on the other hand. using words like "tender". What was discovered. The down chin is associated with fear and perplexity.
which allows the person to track the direction of gaze of another. man is the one who has the biggest penis. because she was sure that his penis was too small. the women have more white than those of men because the female brain is configured as a communication tool next. Singh found that for women. where food is abundant. nose. because the ankles and feet out from the side to balance the weight of the body. . The narrow hips allow men walk long distances quickly in hunting and persecution. This view was constructed by fitness centers and equipment manufacturers. The euphoria of some women to see men of large penises seems more a reaction to the male's apparent that what the size of the body can actually accomplish. because the seekers are the bodily signs of other animals over long distances. The legs of the man is attractive to women only as symbols of power and resistance men. The erect penis measures 14 cm on average and the vaginal canal of most women is 9 cm long. obtaining information about their attitude. because it showed that its bearer had resources to eat as I wanted. a woman rarely takes into account the size of the penis. in search of excitement. but they are sometimes taken to mean that the ex-partners have small penis as a form of revenge. But how could not postpone forever. Stimulating 8: Hip close and muscular legs The powerful legs and angles of the human male are the longest among all primates. The white of the eye is an auxiliary communication face to face. Well-defined abdominal muscles have never been the object of special admiration in male anatomy. Stimulating 10: Penis large Among all primates. eventually inviting her to go to their apartment.proof of the difference between the sexes: men see the characteristics in themselves. Most animals have little or no white in the eye. The wide hips mean that many women have difficulty in running. and there is no relationship between the size of the body. trying to convince us at all costs that can not live without an athletic abdomen. Stimulating 9: Lack of tummy In remote times. The truth is that a man with an erection of 8 cm is able to do better service than a man with a 18 cm. In modern society. For thousands of years. a large belly was a symbol of status. a prominent gut is seen as a sign of neglect and little regard for the health personnel. men who have a ratio waist / hip of 90% are more attractive. Despite the members that can be digitally magnified view web sites in the penis longer officially registered media 36 cm. and the foot size of the penis. As the eyes. The boy was terrified the first time that would have sex with his girlfriend. the size of the penis was attached to the power of man and his skill as a lover. because the shorter penis may reach the right place with more precision. but that power is more head than in the sexual organ. In a happy relationship. In the separations painful. with the bulk of its sensitivity in the first 5 cm. when food was scarce. while women look beyond. The great North American neuropsychology Davendra Dr.
Men need to learn that the woman measures the depth of the relationship by the attitude they have with it. If the man has a beautiful body. wishing she did not notice the size. however. Then. Women. standing or lying in front and back. even if the woman does not like. intelligent. 4. . began Despi her and stroking her. Nervous. Unlike humans. Sensitivity. " The change is not programmed women to sexually excite the vision of the male genitals. caring and communicative. 2. Are the male hormones that cause the growth of hair of the face. he lowered the light and began to strip. that Tom Cruise is much more sexy than with beard shaved. The woman wants a man who is loving. The woman must understand that their appearance is important to humans and can even seriously affect the relationship. What women look for in a man: 1. Intellectual capacity. The higher the level of testosterone of men in a day. humorous. loyal and understanding. Mood. she sees him as a bonus. The men have two lists: the first sight and of seeking a long term partner. 3. for example." I do not smoke. If the man is wearing badly or starts getting paunchy. This fundamental difference between men and women involved much frustration and misunderstandings on both sides. which is why the sick man is not stressed or need to shave so often. the beard of three days is a powerful visual sign of masculinity often used by men to compensate for your face kid. only have a list. while all attempts to sell women pornographic images of men failed. Are only successful with the gay audience. But the man who returns to noon a shadow of five in the afternoon gave the impression that he is crazy for action. robust and masculine. she said. Healthy body. carefully. the faster they grow. Stress and illness diminish the level of testosterone. They want men to be attentive. Stimulating 11: Barba for three days Man is the only primate that have significantly longer hair on the face than in the rest of the body. The majority of women agree. but strong. "No. he finally put the erect member in her hand. it does not take a look as an indicator of the feeling he has for her. Consequently. The hair of monkeys and chimpanzees have the same length throughout the body. contrary to what occurs with men. thanks'. What women want the long term Here is the result of research on what women expect to find a man. but in general this is not a priority. Personality. The male pornographic magazines show women with their legs fully opened. 5.Arriving there. rarely gives greater importance.
seek a better job. Do not complain . The woman begins and ends the selection of the partner with the same list of criteria. Enter for a course that allows you to expand your knowledge. Women are attracted out by men who show be going to the front in search of a better position in life. Then. Change the cutting of hair at least once every three years and look for wear clothes that promote their appearance. This will allow you to talk to women about a variety of subjects. in its first meeting in less than ten seconds. You need to listen with interest and empathy that women have to say. you will never miss program. Even the women self-sufficient and financially independent feel attracted by men who have as good protectors and from the pain. which brings you more satisfaction and you better realize their potential. because he already has boyfriend. The woman who likes her man is attractive. registration is a school of dance as soon as possible. he believes. And finally Book to a gym and get in shape. The man need not be a millionaire. you need first of all work their techniques of communication and relationship. Are extra. Do it for yourself and see how it will look more attractive to women. Buy books that speak on how women think and feel. you know talk about many issues. but their physical form and appearance are crucial to his work and social position. has plans to progress continuously and is still on top is straight.except excuses.just do it! . by Barbara de Angelis. it is sensitive to your needs. The dance has always been a preliminary demonstration of erotic female. he USA a number of different criteria. therefore. But for the selection of a permanent partner. Solution To make a man attractive.The problem is that it can not have it. Polls and surveys have shown how important it is to man the physical attractiveness of women. If man is able to make her laugh. There is some reason why man has not or does not do the things you want in life . this is pure practice. there is no school that teaches it. if necessary. but have plans and goals and be committed to them. We recommend our Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? and What Women Want Men to Know.
the average life expectancy worldwide has increased by more than 50% . Who had not achieved financial independence. In the United States. the number of people about to retire grows at a speed amazing.51 years and for men. Many countries have adopted compulsory contributions to the system of national pensions. Graham came to understand a. how to live long after they retire. Graham Graham thought retire and go live on the beach as would enjoy permanent vacation. have at least 10 years after they retire doubled in the last 60 years. Japan will have less than two people working for every retiree. The number of people living. But there are two problems which do not give due attention: first. Would spend the days in an idyllic paradise . And in the first few months was exactly what he did. a problem compounded by the fact that the Japanese live today more than all the peoples of the world. 76. difference . But little by little. Between the 1940s and 2020. not only a larger portion of the population is enough to retire. Before 1940. eating out.Chapter 13 OUANDO the hunter Hang The ARC The retirement In developed countries. Thanks to advances in medicine. swimming. or live in poverty. the melancholy of retirement began to weigh. In the year 2020. sleeping late and relaxing.taking sun. the psychological effects of retirement on men and. only a small portion of the population lived beyond the age of 65. Within each person there is an elderly couple thinking: "What the hell happened?" Developed countries are now obliged to devote an increasing share of their budgets to maintain and care for its population of elderly.from 46 to 72 years. the rate fell from 9: 1 to 4: 1 since 1952. Financial institutions operate in heavy selling of private pension funds. more than a billion people have at least 60 years of age. the effects of retirement on relationships and how to deal with women partners.25. but the problem is the relationship between the number of contributors and the pensioners. In 2010. The life expectancy of Japanese women born in 1993 is 82. Governments around the world face this problem continuously. The shelves of bookstores. second. is so full of titles about financial independence and retirement plans-ment. continued working until death or were sustained by children. for example.
as we said. eighteen months after the dream retirement. Graham suspected that their health was suffering. As for most men. was a kind of stress stimulating. had less desire to do. Tired to take sun.find a target and hit it edible. On the beach. Now. Every time you hear your name yelled at her husband. he cooked the issues now to fill the time. Suffering acutely this abrupt loss of identity. As women constitute 40 to 50% of the modern workforce.between taking a few vacation days. it was assumed that the psychological problems associated with retirement were the same for both sexes. nadava little and rarely was concerned with something in the garden. embedded in an intense training schedule. Instead of juggling with two or three problems to gain time. to get on her and tie her life. his wife. Now. Graham suffered a heart attack Fulminans. The male contribution to the survival of the species was clear and simple . the evolution . At work he was known and respected. Occupied an important position. With a sedentary lifestyle. But due to their mental structures and specific priorities. the experience of retirement is remarkably different in the two cases. Important . Therefore. he had the feeling of having nothing to do. For many men it is an unavoidable disaster and may even contribute to premature death. When the hunter stops hunting During at least one hundred thousand years men agreed in the morning and went out looking for food for their families. Gender and retirement The way men and women deal with the approach of retirement and old age casts light on the difference between their mental structures. but the calls were rareando. Suddenly he was aware that jumping from a train at work to express a tram pulled the donkey on the beach. His favorite refrain was: "What is for lunch?" Before retirement. train new employees and solve the problems of the world. For over 40 years he wakes every day knowing exactly what had to do. more and more attention. work outside the focus of the life of Graham. Little was. The call that he expected the company to continue providing its essential services such as special advisor never came. but nobody knew him or wanted his opinion for anything. Much has been researched and written about the problems faced by retired men. for the first time.now was the Invisible Man. One day. Ruth was free to do what he wanted. was horrified irritation. Graham began to ask for Ruth. Felt lack of professional involvement with people and the daily mental stimulation that he provided. For some time he remained in contact with colleagues at work. the stress was of another quality and was mixed with depression. Now had to take care of Graham every minute of your day. When I worked. but not talked to anyone about it. but little research is done on women retired and not working because they have the task of caring for a pensioner. and enjoy them for the rest of life. Lost prestige. And started to worry about the problem of how to fill all this free time. The relationship began to suffer from pressure. Graham began to fatten. to attend many meetings. Before he was Dr.
Also. So the century desferiu men on an even greater blow: the retirement. women evolved as a defender of the nest and the offspring . that most men. angles. With it. is the huntress of the brain. This helps explain why the image of the female brain shows a minimum level of activity in the space. The images below. therefore. programming. The female brain evolved. unlike women. is obsessed by work and the small sports. To deal with the frustration of no longer be prompted to chase and hit targets. with areas of strength capable of dealing with these tasks . 2000. the . yet clearly set is literally idle. Consequently. The modern sports are a way to replace the hunt. video equipment. Both involve the main aspects of the game. And here lies the great problem of modern man retired: your brain of a hunter. Female Male The ancient hunter was compulsorily retired At the end of the eighteenth century. sitting on a beach far away where nobody knows or gives a minimum. The areas of the brain used for hunting Institute of Psychiatry. 90% of all modern sports with ball rise up between 1800 and 1900 as a substitute for the hunt. He is all dressed and has no where to go. playing sports with ball and reach moving targets.track. show (in black) areas of the brain active space. We therefore repeat. distances and spatial co-ordinates. the advancement of agricultural techniques has meant that hunting for food is no longer be a priority. made from brain examinations of 50 men and 50 women. Plus.achieve a zebra color-surrender to 30 meters away was never part of their responsibilities.their role was to ensure the survival of the next generation. pursue. ride on motorways. and aim to achieve the target. In simple terms. the two men embraced replacement . read maps. as we have seen.work and sport. . they not only stopped be required to reach moving targets. London.of male preference brain areas enabling it to perform this task with success: those used to measure speeds. such as no longer required for anything. These are the areas used by modern man to work as park running aft.
It would be an opportunity to do everything I always had the dream-. Peter and Jennifer Jennifer wanted much to retire with her husband hold. exhausted when you get home. women tend to move smoothly toward retirement. Consequently. Initially she stayed home with him. Then came for a course in Italian. the way the company was doing well without him and low frequency with which co-workers to use their experience and their advice. They can spend the extra time doing the things that have always been challenges to take or which never had time to work. they ask how could give an account of what they worked. Jennifer knew he was depressed but could not convince him to express his feelings. "You know. Now. attribute value is the quality of their relationships. Today I do not know if I have . We heard from several women retired to their current life is so busy. once you finally retired. but with so much time together for the first time in our life . relationships. way-too Janda. I would never do anything. in general. The children were finally married. It would be almost like a second honeymoon. she thought that time would have to meet again. Studies on male and female figures show that 70 to 80% of women say they have as the main 'focus on family." she told a close friend. a stressful and poorly paid job with few opportunities for professional progress. which left little time for herself. Spent increasingly less time at home. How women deal with retirement. we see very little in common. "I love to be retired. The only thing I hate is having to go home at the end of the day. Unlike men. Worked as a nurse almost all his life. women keep their retired social circles constructed over the years and have facility to renew them. But little by little grew into a resentment Jennifer: Peter was making her so unhappy retirement on his own. But remember." The men are always defined by their work and their achievements. was inside mope at home if it has been discarded. and the lives of Jennifer and retain only the two was.You realize that you retired when you know all the answers but do not have anyone else to ask you the questions. Nadava with a group three times a week. Now. Also. It started out more with friends. women. she felt free. seemed all the time in a bad mood. She received her retire with genuine emotion. want to help you. It was as if he had not entirely of his life. And although they were already married for 25 years. I feel sorry for Peter. need to combine work with education of children. Jennifer had sometimes the impression that the husband did not know well. with retirement. learned to play tennis and attend classes in art. They just "follow your life. He had been always working hard. women. Men value the achievements.
And do it with great joy. Even those who did not like his job very still want their "group hunting" the call to continue the task." Then shows them a wonderful golf course behind the mansion. It is the loss of something much bigger . leaving little time for fun. without feeling idle and useless. people cling to the idea that becoming consultants. "If you do not wanted to eat healthy food and we exercise. full of delicious dishes. to the wife. and will call him to continue working. On the one hand. together with household chores. Many women retired to join interest groups or develop new habits. the shock is very intense. "But how will this cost?" Asks the man. You can eat as you like which will still be thin and healthy. treating it as if it were one of its former employees. the two die in a car accident. the man turns around." replied St. Peter. Can cause fights. " Dealing with a retired man is often one of the biggest problems that women face. Some return to school. It's free. "Your bitch!" He Berra with it. The identity of women is . "But we only eat food without fat. indignant. "Nothing. One day. When this happens and he notes that the company can move very well without it. the common man is denying that his life is to quit. The man likes to think its "hunt group" still needs him." When I heard it. they will still be important parts in the gear. Be "available" to return to work and solve problems whose solution depends on their knowledge and experience. At the door of heaven.the identity. with a variety of creamy sauce." And finally leads to the local restaurant and it shows the menu. we could have arrived here ten years ago!" Why men can not cope with retirement? The loss of work is not the main cause of all the stress when the man is retiring. tears and even separation. no long hours of work. Peter. The woman whose identity was also strongly linked to work performance may experience a similar feeling. And it shows a fabulous mansion. come with solutions and advice when she is not interested. He has so much knowledge and experience that the employer-only benefits and may not pass without his talent. some clubs go to the elderly and enjoy the entertainment that they failed during the period in which the job." says St. "But the cost to enter partner?" Asks the man. "here is the sky. The choices of women often involve interaction with others.love and no more if I stay with him. When retirement approaches. low salt." says the man. it seems envy the happiness of women and blame them for their misfortune. others spend more time taking care of others. Peter Ihes presents its new life. A step that seems worth it. Otherwise. "Do not worry. "Nothing. There were a couple of 70 years who always had good health because of the insistence of women with healthy diet and exercises. There are no calories in the sky. Unable to face the situation. And often. He seems to always be "getting in the foot" and wanting to take her life. Here is the sky. Here is the sky. "It's free. no milk products and low cholesterol. St.
companion. The woman never retires. friends' friend. grandmother. was owner of a successful company. if not overcome or dealt with the help of a professional. This anger is sometimes discharged as the desire to disappear. some men think they will be quiet. He relaxes in food. deepening the table. The result is a life apathetic. the anger. Barry was always fascinated by the idea of retirement and to spend any time with their children and grandchildren and traveling with Yvonne." Blame the ex-boss for not having him ready for retirement. the retiree was disappointed with his new life and starts to retract. She can spend the money to bring home. shorter. First. unhappy and. the things not done. When you decided to retire. the direction of the house. In other words. especially the way they are made. things rarely remain at that stage as the honeymoon. The feeling of uselessness and rejection can lead to decreased libido. even drugs. The loss of identity is for the man in many ways similar to the death of a loved one. being mother. Many often the removal of what they see as an old employee is a relief. and sometimes all at the same time. the routine that meet their days. however. Master of himself. The new generation has its own ideas and solutions and whether they feel free to implement them and test new ways of solving things. above all. this rarely happens. Sometimes it is thought. by not calling him to provide advice and feel a victim. Why do so many men down the hill so fast? In the period following the shutdown. But unless they have been carefully prepared. Flu and disease is less frequently. The retired blame others for their suffering: his partner and family becomes much often the target because "not understand how I feel. their status and sense of importance can quickly lead to depression. In most cases there is no drama. particularly finance and planning of social activities and family. But the retirement of Barry . For most. and the fights start to happen. lady-of-home. and in some cases. It is essential to identify the depressive stage which. the woman retains its identity. Signs of trouble are usually the first indication that stage of depression is ongoing. Retirees who do not plan their lives are constantly ill. felt. Depression can get without being noticed. per-der vitality and become inactive. he thought the best in the industry. Always addicted to outside research. lover and wife at any time.multifaceted. He now wants to be the chief executive of the family. data and figures loved and was very successful in the management of time. and if everything goes well for the acceptance. It simply gives continuity to their things. The sudden loss of friends and colleagues. When its role as provider end. the woman continues with the other facets of his life. These intrusions can be unbearable for your partner. can become permanent. to take care of the family. to 50 years. Start the denial is complete by the depression. Barry and Yvonne Banyo is described as counter to 20 years and 25 have worked on their own. starts to drink.
requesting it to many tasks and too little working in the service of the house. "Barry needs to get a life of its own.the man feels rejected. "One day. Not only. "and I want my life back!" A retired couple was sitting on the dinner table talking about old age. Sutiãs discovered how each of the search was the ratio of quantity. Most of it was wasted money." said the woman. Barry thought the days of Yvonne would be much more beneficial if they practice an effective management of your time. for lunch and dinner. "Now I'm in the middle of something and forget what I was doing. on time and lasted a lot of other statistical data. it was great. Yvonne felt in an inter-in a concentration camp. The anger and resentment began to grow inside her. there is the danger of starting to feel incompatible. "Then yesterday I was sitting in the car asking if I had just come to go somewhere or had just arrived home and was out of the car.quickly turned in the worst nightmares of Yvonne.so he is not annoyed with the waiting -." The man grunt: "No.decided to return later. Perhaps the first time in life when she see her husband every day for breakfast. Things can be much worse. After examining them. I was thinking at the top of the stairs had just arrived or are on top was starting to fall. hits the wood." she replied. When Yvonne was a store that was not on the agenda. and that there would be an agenda setting out advance and where would they would buy. That was crazy leaving Yvonne. While Yvonne tried to quickly sutiãs . She loved to shop. high price. A woman can get hurt with it seems an intrusion on what for it is a happy and orderly. Asked the husband. he wanted to know where every penny went and why. Barry wanted to know the reason . Barry found that his wife only needed two sutiãs. but decided that Barry would shop together. He supervises and gives orders." E has two batidinhas on the table." The woman smiled with sadness. After looking puzzled for the door and asked: "Who is it?" The negative aspects of retirement When the couple starts to fight because of differences of ability and the different roles that each plays." she said to friends. beginning at 8 am. why you asked to organize a calendar hourly." he insisted. alone. "I never had this problem. Then started to leave the house to escape the domain of the husband.she has not had chance shoes and enough clothes? Reached the height of the monitor Yvonne buy a new bra. I wonder why she spent so much on things he thought unnecessary. sitting on the "seat-ofhusband-bored" on the outside of the taster." "Hum!" Said the man. misunderstood and devalued. Barry re-collect information on sutiãs with employees and customers.usually in an exasperated ." "How?". For Yvonne. and when they manifest . That day she did not buy any bra . last week. absolutely curtailed and controlled by a manic husband and authoritarian. I never stopped by something. leading to . "is forgotten. Barry now wants to be the chief executive's home. "My memory is perfect. "The worst. I control everything the woman did! Offered to take the family's finances and gave Yvonne a budget for food. Despite not having problems with money.
it is likely that the period of retirement is longer. Men who survive the first three stages of retirement generally ultimately accept this new stage of life and take on the challenge of planning a new life. The identification of these stages is crucial. with the increasing trend of early retirement. look for a nutritionist to set a pleasant and healthy diet. Are aware that you are investing in their well-being in their self-esteem. mainly because. Health The time of retirement can be used for an investment in your health. develop a talent that remained unexploited because you were absorbed in his career. . Make a complete check-up. read all the books that are accumulated on your bookshelf. A plan of action The right time to start planning is many years before retirement. Multiply your interests in the life of work. In Western society. dance. do the exercise that gives you great pleasure. and the man who is not planned for retirement can take many years to overcome them. His retirement. which includes study. increased life expectancy and better health. Start to develop them as far as possible. resulting in loneliness and misery. The man is 30 to 40 years of his life in a rigidly structured and oriented goals. Start thinking now as I have had time available. Studies show that the earlier you plan your retirement.separation and even to suicide. take up a hobby. To begin. find pleasure in activities independent of the professional activities. therefore. swim. walk. The higher the frequency with which they work. need a bit of quality. more will live better and the quality of your life. learn a new skill. useful and happy. listening to music. Men engaged in activities that stress and to do nothing to retire early die. The possibilities are endless. ride a bike. But do not spend it all as a mere obligation or an activity for only the time to fill vacant. now. If you find difficulty. you must be aware that their identity can not be linked predominantly to the industry professional and receiving the approval of others. it is good to resort to professional advice to ensure that it perpetuates the negative attitudes. have better health and will live longer. The critical difference between these two periods of the life of man is that in retirement he is fully in control and will take the decisions that affect the rest of life. . develop a circle of friends outside the work environment. which is giving a gift that could not be granted for lack of availability. the life expectancy of men that the retirement is not an occupation that the interest is on average five years. There is a huge range of alternatives for pleasure waiting for you.
not just the genitals . Thus you will discover where your talents can be applied You should see his retirement as you would with any large project. You can not imagine how delicious the experience of returning to college where you will live with younger people and discover how the experience of life taught him. and that is linking to an institution where they feel affinity with the people working there.Social Work and Community We can assure you that few things to remember as much as the dedication they need.can be a source of pleasure. because the sex life can not be separated from the rest of the relationship. you must have skills that can be used or passed on to others. but once started. discover new incentives. Explore these possibilities with the knowledge they have of each other and love each deserves it after so many years of companionship. the social work community and gives an immense sense of satisfaction and self. It is important that you find in that field feel better and more useful. seek help if necessary. browse the local church. it now had time to do things you always wanted and wished to share their happiness with Paul newly discovered. What is important is that these limits are treated with honesty. Paul and Dana Paul was account manager and his life was always full of goals. Dana decided to seek professional advice and then persuaded Paul to seek a consultant. Whatever has been your path. a belief. The sex in old age will be a continuation of what was in the life of the couple. And remember: the whole body . because she is the person who will share them with you. affection. His wife Dana to retire three years before and wanted by the retirement of her husband. The retirement offers this space to search more and find a group. giving new meaning to life. You may need an initial effort to overcome the resistance. the activities that could develop. The consultant helped Paul to understand the reasons for that and he showed you how to . Start to write down everything that interests you. He thought to retire at 65. which would examine the materials. She was quite enjoying his retirement. specializes in dealing with the men retired. But when he was 57 his company bought and he became expendable in overnight. Gender A happy and healthy life also must include a satisfactory sexual life. despite the limitations that age brings. Start searching now. targets and deadlines. the places that I would know. children in orphanages will bring you a surprising bonus. The simple act of visiting patients in hospitals. or activities that develop their spirituality. But Dana was alarmed to see the sadness of Paul with the forced retirement. Aware of that will mean this new phase of life in terms of living in order to for problems that arise Spirituality It is also time to devote to a field that may have been ignored in the years of professional activity: the spirituality. Discuss your plans with your partner. He began drinking too much and was depressed. chat with friends. Talk about it with the greatest possible openness. elderly in rest homes. The substantive requirements of day-to-day that differ in size so essential in humans and responds to your deepest desire. openness.
Paul was always concerned about the welfare of young people and understand the problems they faced when they lack family support-ing. Came to a club of excursionist and began to make trips extended several times a month. The check-up showed that Paul was well. The first step was to complete a health check. the consultant reassured Paul. together with some savings and investments. offered to cooperate in the newspaper association of residents of his neighborhood. The finances were sufficient to cover expenses. happiness and fulfillment. decided to try. Found that its greatest achievement was to have created four children happy. aware that they had available to devote to a social work. Dana. They have done a detailed budget and noted that the guarantee fund of Paul. sensual and rewarding. Then decided to seek a way of advising the youth to become an advisor to young people. understanding the strengths and weaknesses of each other and being able to make the relationship a source of joy. In the group that began to attend prayer. Good luck to you! ******* . After all the advice. As Paul was an excellent account-pain and liked to teach. The next challenge was great . The third was to travel with Dana relax and plan the rest of their lives. Paul felt a great weight had been removed from their shoulders. Decided to change the eating habits and started walking every day for at least 45 minutes. which led them to meet new people.which could take twenty years or more to be completed.manage this new phase of his life. A specialist taught her new diet and prescribed an exercise program. The retirement is revealing the happiest time of their lives. Paul and Dana are healthy and happy. because I wanted to write.decide what to do for the rest of their lives. The second was to seek a financial adviser. decided to open a current account that you bring an additional income. He was also part of a group of craft and came to a course in writing. Use these tools with wisdom and love. most of his pension and Dana would be sufficient to cover its needs until the end of life. Today. Paul play golf sometimes. We firmly believe that the tools presented in Why Men Lie and Women cry? can help all men and women to live lives more intimate. They are so busy they need a detailed daily schedule. in turn. because had the start-to plan your journey . They needed a plan that took into account both the needs of each. enjoy life and help others. Enrolled in a class of tai-chi. Dana has played tennis once a week and it was on the board of the club. adjusted and successful. as the couple. This time when the men and women are more together than any other in their lives is very important that they have learned the lessons of Why Men Lie and Women cry? Because only then will live happily in peace and with love. How was a member of golf club. except for a small excess of weight and pressure and cholesterol slightly above normal. but I would like but never had time to practice regularly to mind. but not for extravagances. Paul accepted the challenges that it presented the consultant. enthusiastically recommended by friends. He and Dana went on holiday with a good state of mind. In examining the financial part.
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