YOUR COMPLETE GUIDE TO MEETING, ATTRACTING AND DATING WOMEN
Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating Course
Course Manual (2007 Beta Version) Marius Panzarella
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Introduction ................................................................................................................ 8 Why Most Guys are DEAD WRONG In The Dating Game ........................................ 8 Learning These “Smart Dating Tactics” Does NOT Make You “Manipulative” Person.................................................................................................................... 9 Don’t Let Your Old Beliefs Limit Your Success..................................................... 12 Chapter 1 ................................................................................................................. 15 The Smart System of Dating .................................................................................... 15 Non Love .......................................................................................................... 15 The Different Kinds Of Love Explained ................................................................ 16 The Smart Dating System Used In This Course................................................... 17 The Three Components Illustrated ....................................................................... 17 The Triangular Components Broken Down .......................................................... 18 Passion ................................................................................................................ 18 Passion Is The Most Important............................................................................. 22 Our Definition Of Attraction .................................................................................. 23 Ex-Force............................................................................................................... 23 My “Love Balance Scale” ..................................................................................... 24 For Love” .............................................................................................................. 24 Attraction Cuts Through Everything...................................................................... 27 Case Studies ........................................................................................................ 28 Chapter Summary ................................................................................................ 29 Chapter 2 ................................................................................................................. 31 Basic Smart Dating Rules ........................................................................................ 31 Smart Dating Rule #1: It’s Not How Much You Like Her, But How Much She Likes You That Counts! ................................................................................................. 34 Smart Dating Rule #2: You Need Permission To Advance .................................. 35 Smart Dating Rule #3: Stay Objective .................................................................. 41 Smart Dating Rule #4: Attraction Cuts Through Everything ................................. 44 Smart Dating Rule #5: Attract, Not Chase............................................................ 45 Smart Dating Rule #6: Be A Challenge To Create Passion.................................. 47 Smart Dating Rule #7: Comfort Level Is Important ............................................... 48 Summary of the Smart Dating Rules .................................................................... 50 Quick Self-Test: Are You Following The Smart Dating Rules?............................. 50 Chapter 3 ............................................................................................................... 53 Chapter 3: Attraction Secrets Exposed .................................................................... 53 Myth #1: “Women Only Like Jerks” ...................................................................... 53 Quick Self-Test: Are You Following The Smart Dating Rules?............................. 54 Myth #2: “Opposites Attract.”................................................................................ 55 Myth #3: “Women Aren’t Sexual By Nature.”........................................................ 55
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Social-Biological Conditioning .............................................................................. 56 Ego, Superego, and Id ......................................................................................... 58 The Smart Dating System’s Attraction Model ....................................................... 59 Emotions, Desire, and Action – The Three-Step Approach Of The Smart Dating System ................................................................................................................. 61 Section Summary................................................................................................... 62 A Quick Summary Of The Smart Dating System ..................................................... 62 Chapter 4 ............................................................................................................... 65 How Women Check You Out................................................................................ 65 Improve Your Looks Overnight............................................................................. 67 Other Things To Watch Out For............................................................................... 69 Hit The Gym ......................................................................................................... 69 Getting A Tan ....................................................................................................... 70 Chapter 5 ............................................................................................................... 71 Bad Attitude #1: The “I’m Afraid Of Rejection” Attitude ........................................ 72 Creative Persistence ............................................................................................ 73 How To Avoid Rejection ....................................................................................... 74 Bad Attitude #2: The “But She’s The Only Girl I’ll Ever Love” Attitude ................. 77 Quick Self-Test: Are You In Love? ....................................................................... 77 Nobody Cares About Your Love Life .................................................................... 78 Bad Attitude #3: The “I Don’t Need Women” Attitude ........................................... 79 Bad Attitude #4: The “She’s Too Beautiful” Attitude ............................................. 82 Bad Attitude #5: The “I Am Not A Player” Attitude................................................ 84 Bad Attitude #6: The “I Don’t Need Women Or Sex” Attitude ............................... 86 Good Attitude #1: The Playful Attitude ................................................................. 87 Good Attitude #2: The “I don’t Care” Attitude ....................................................... 89 Good Attitude #3: The “How Far Can I Go?” Attitude ........................................... 91 Good Attitude #4: The “Truth And Dare” Attitude ................................................. 93 Chapter 6 ............................................................................................................... 95 Insecurity and Neediness ..................................................................................... 95 How To Be More Masculine ............................................................................... 101 Become a leader: ............................................................................................... 101 A Word On “Alpha Reluctance” .......................................................................... 102 Pump Iron........................................................................................................... 103 Hold Eye Contact ............................................................................................... 103 Never Settle For The Second Best..................................................................... 104 Lead, Not Push Or Ask....................................................................................... 104 Learn To Say “No”.............................................................................................. 104 Don’t Take Any Bullshit ...................................................................................... 104
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Be More Adventurous......................................................................................... 104 Walk Tall ............................................................................................................ 105 Be Ambitious ...................................................................................................... 105 Have Charm: ...................................................................................................... 105 Be Sexual: .......................................................................................................... 105 Other Attractive Traits: ....................................................................................... 105 Chapter 7 ............................................................................................................. 107 Body Language Basics....................................................................................... 108 Postures ............................................................................................................. 108 Good Sitting Postures ........................................................................................ 109 Movements......................................................................................................... 110 The Dangers Of Stillness ................................................................................... 113 Voice Tone ......................................................................................................... 114 Chapter 8 ............................................................................................................. 123 What Kind Of Women You Should Date............................................................. 123 Where To Meet Women ..................................................................................... 125 Expand Your Social Circle.................................................................................. 128 Before You Approach ......................................................................................... 131 Direction Of Approach ........................................................................................ 133 Grab Her Attention With The Eye-Contact Test.................................................. 133 What If Nobody Notices You .............................................................................. 135 What If A Woman Makes Eye Contact With YOU .............................................. 139 Don’t Forget To SMILE When You Make Eye Contact....................................... 140 Your Opening Line ............................................................................................. 140 How To Start A Conversation ............................................................................. 141 The Four-Steps To Approaching A Woman ....................................................... 143 Step 1: Eye Contact and Smiling........................................................................ 143 Step 2: Use An Opening Line ............................................................................. 143 The Situation-Opener ......................................................................................... 143 The Compliment-Opener.................................................................................... 144 The Question-Opener......................................................................................... 144 A Quick Side Note .............................................................................................. 145 Step 3: Ask A More Specific Question................................................................ 145 Step 4: Introduce Yourself .................................................................................. 146 Chapter Summary .............................................................................................. 148 Chapter 9 ............................................................................................................. 150 The Point Of Conversation ................................................................................. 150 What To Talk About............................................................................................ 151 Topics To Avoid.................................................................................................. 152
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How To Keep A Conversation ............................................................................ 153 TECHNIQUE #1: Ask Open-Ended Questions ................................................... 154 TECHNIQUE #2: Active Listening ...................................................................... 155 TECHNIQUE #3: Being Empathetic ................................................................... 156 How To Develop A Conversation Through Subject Words................................. 156 How To Establish A Verbal Connection Quickly ................................................. 157 General Conversation Techniques: .................................................................... 158 Always Put The Spotlight On The Girl ................................................................ 159 Do Not Brag........................................................................................................ 159 From Emotions To Desire .................................................................................. 160 Using Her Desires To Your Advantage .............................................................. 162 Adding You To the Picture ................................................................................. 164 And Right When She’s Starting To Desire You…............................................... 165 Eliminate Garbage Words .................................................................................. 166 Other Conversation Tips .................................................................................... 167 How To See If A Woman Is Interested In The Conversation .............................. 167 Chapter 10 ........................................................................................................... 171 How To Stimulate Love With Your Eyes............................................................. 172 How To Get Sexier Eyes .................................................................................... 173 More Eye Contact Tricks .................................................................................... 174 Mirroring ............................................................................................................. 175 How To Induce Mirroring .................................................................................... 176 The Actual Mirroring ........................................................................................... 177 Touching ............................................................................................................ 177 Ways To Touch Her ........................................................................................... 178 Touching Technique #1: The Handshake........................................................... 178 Touching Technique #2: Touch Her Arms When She’s Funny........................... 178 Touching Technique #3: Read Her Palm ........................................................... 178 Touching Technique #4: Massage Her............................................................... 179 Prepare To Be Touched ..................................................................................... 179 Chapter 11 ........................................................................................................... 180 What to Compliment On: .................................................................................... 180 Details, Details, Details! ..................................................................................... 183 When and How Often ......................................................................................... 184 Mean What You Say: ......................................................................................... 185 Complimenting a Stranger: Hit And Run ............................................................ 185 How to Receive Compliments: ........................................................................... 186 Chapter 12 ........................................................................................................... 188 The Dangers Of Just Connecting With A Woman Emotionally ........................... 188
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If You Lack This, You’re Doomed… ................................................................... 188 Flirt For Skirt…Right From The Beginning ......................................................... 189 What Flirting Means ........................................................................................... 189 Your Playful Attitude........................................................................................... 190 Why Some Men Refuse To Flirt…...................................................................... 191 Overcoming Your Flirter’s Resistance ................................................................ 192 Test The Waters By Flirting ................................................................................ 194 Basic Flirting Techniques ................................................................................... 195 Is She Flirting Back…Or Not? ............................................................................ 197 How To Tease Women .......................................................................................... 199 How Little Boys Tease Little Girls....................................................................... 200 Busting Her Balls................................................................................................ 200 How To Be Funny: A Quick Lesson.................................................................... 201 Tip #1: Don’t Laugh At Your Own Jokes ............................................................ 202 Tip #2: Don’t Be Afraid To “Be A Man” ............................................................... 202 Send Mixed Feelings.......................................................................................... 203 Teasing Examples:............................................................................................. 206 Chapter 13 ........................................................................................................... 211 Flirting Over The Phone And Email........................................................................ 211 Flirting Over The Phone ..................................................................................... 211 Flirting Over The Phone ..................................................................................... 212 Chapter 14 ........................................................................................................... 215 Advanced Flirting Tactics....................................................................................... 215 Technique #1 - Romantic Intents Signaling........................................................ 215 Practice Phrases ................................................................................................ 215 Practice Verbs .................................................................................................... 216 Technique #2 – Act Like She’s Hitting On You................................................... 218 Technique #3 – Steal Her Frame ....................................................................... 218 Technique #4 – The Whisper Compliment ......................................................... 219 Technique #5 – Bartering ................................................................................... 219 Chapter 15 ........................................................................................................... 220 From Desire To Physical Action............................................................................. 220 Chapter 16 ........................................................................................................... 222 Golden Rules On Getting Digits ......................................................................... 223 Why Women Do Not Call Back........................................................................... 226 Chapter 17 ........................................................................................................... 229 Your First 10 Dates ................................................................................................ 229 Where To Go For The First Date........................................................................ 229 How To Set Up The Date ................................................................................... 231
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... 250 Why Women Test Men....................... 244 What To Do After Dinner (What To Do Once You Have Her On The Couch) ......................................................................................................................................................Marius Panzarella ... 262 Intimacy......................................... 265 Chapter 20 ................................ 267 If You Just Want A One-Night Stand… ............ 234 Let Her Catch You Checking Her Out ........ 269 First Kiss ....... 250 Category 1: Asking You Questions.................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................. 253 Category 4: Trying To Change You / Dominate You ....................... 258 Observing Her Character ............................................................................................................... 240 How To Get A Second Date ......................... 258 5 Kinds Of Women To Avoid ............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................... 233 The First Date...................... 264 A Quick Compatibility Test ..................................... 250 Category 2: Breaking Agreements ........................................................................................................................All Rights Reserved
................................................................................................................................................ 269 Holding Hands............................................ 247 The “Blanket Cheat” Technique.......................................................................................................................................................................... 242 How To Invite A Woman To Go To Your Place ............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................... 263 Commitment .................. 273
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What If She Flakes Out On You ................................... 241 A Few General Rules ............................................................. 254 Punisher Technique – The Silent Treatment ..... 237 What If A Woman Asks You If You Have A Girlfriend............................. 271 Going Indoors............................................ 250 How Women Test You And What You Can Do About It............................ 254 Category 5: Sex Withdrawal ....................................................................................... 271 How To Satisfy A Woman Physically............................................................... 258 The Most Expensive Mistake In Dating .... 257 Chapter 19 .......................................................................... 232 What to Wear On A First Date.......... 267 From Desire To Action: Getting Physical With Women............................................................................................. 255 How To Test Women............................................................................................ 239 What If A Woman Asks You If You’re A Player ....................................... 252 Category 3: Challenging Or Disrespecting You .............................................................. 264 Other Important Traits ................................................................................... 260 Remember That You Cannot Change A Woman ............... 248 Chapter 18 ................................................................................................................................................................................... 267 If You’re Interested In A Long-Term Relationship........................................................................... 236 Dinner...
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How To Kiss ....................................................................................................... 274 Cuddling ............................................................................................................. 276 Touching ............................................................................................................ 277 Smelling and Licking .......................................................................................... 278 Talking Dirty ....................................................................................................... 278 Erogenous Zones - Where To Kiss, Touch, Smell or Lick .................................. 280 The Keys To Arousing Her – Anticipation and Denial......................................... 281 Chapter 21 ........................................................................................................... 283 How To Keep A Beautiful Girlfriend ....................................................................... 283 Stage 1 – The Courtship (First Date To “Will You Be My Girlfriend?”) ............... 283 Stage 2 – The Honeymoon Period (First 1-3 Months Of Being Together).......... 285 Stage 3 – The Getting To Know Each Other TOO well Period (3-12 months).... 285 Stage 4 – The “We’re Married” Period (1 Year And On)..................................... 286 The Key To Keeping A Relationship Healthy – Keep Her Attracted To you ....... 286 How A Woman Breaks Up With A Man .............................................................. 288 Breakups Do NOT Happen Overnight ................................................................ 288 Warning Flags .................................................................................................... 288 How To Play The Love Cop ............................................................................... 290 Surviving A Breakup........................................................................................... 290 Decide Whether You Want Her Back Or Not...................................................... 291 Should You Want Her Back… ............................................................................ 292 Move On............................................................................................................. 292 Chapter 22 ........................................................................................................... 294 Closing................................................................................................................... 294 Appendix A – How To Turn A Friend Into A Girlfriend............................................ 297 What If It Still Doesn’t Work................................................................................ 298 Appendix B – What Women Really Mean .............................................................. 300 Appendix C – Discipline and Self-Control .............................................................. 303 Appendix D – My View on Long Distance Relationships........................................ 306 Appendix E – Relationship Red Flags.................................................................... 308 Appendix F – How To Deal With Your Competition ............................................... 310 Appendix G – Tongue Twisters.............................................................................. 312
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From the desk of: Marius Panzarella, Lead Staff Writer
Why Most Guys are DEAD WRONG In The Dating Game
Dear Fellow Guy, Congratulations on your decision to get this part of your life handled. The purchase of this course may just be one of the smartest moves you’ve ever made for your love life. In fact, I must give you a big pat on the shoulder for taking this important step. I admire people who long to improve themselves for the better! You see, to me there are four kinds of losers in this world: The Macho Fool: The biggest loser in this world is the “macho guy” who cannot admit he has trouble with anything. He sneaks onto my website at three in the morning but never download anything. This is the kind of guy that will never get anywhere in life because of his unwillingness to learn. Remember the old saying, boys: Fools never learn from their own mistakes, smart men learn from their own mistakes, and wise men learn from other people’s mistakes. You are a very wise man. The Cheapskate: The second type of loser is the occasional cheapskate (1-2 a month) who makes a refund before he even tries my techniques in the real world. He just skims through the course, says, “I think I got this all down”,
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and makes up some lame excuse for a refund. I usually give these suckers a refund right away because I don’t want anything more to do with them. (They’re going to die lonely because their women are going to find out they are cheapskates sooner or later!) The “Mr. I Know It All!”: The third type of loser is the guy who reads my materials once, feels enlightened, and then throws everything out the window. This is the type of guy who bumps into the same wall and makes the same mistakes over and over again. Not very smart. The “I Can Stop Now” Guy: The last type of loser is the guy who takes the time to study the materials and practices the techniques until he scores a hot babe. But as time goes on, he gets cocky and begins to let his guard down. Well, guess what? He’s going to find himself single again not before long! Listen, success with women is like success in any other area of life. You must put effort into making it happen – and that means work. This course can give you the potential to become successful with women, but it is ultimately up to you to integrate the knowledge into your life and master the information into your experience. No pain, no gain. Get it?
Learning These “Smart Dating Tactics” Does NOT Make You “Manipulative” Person
Even though I trust you do not belong to the four categories of men listed above, I am sure you must have a few doubts on the tactics taught in this course. According to a survey I conducted not so long ago, the most common objection to learning and applying my “dating tactics” is, “Isn’t this stuff manipulative?”
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No. It’s no more “manipulative” than the things you’re already doing right now!
Think about what the “Average Joe” does when he bumps into a girl he likes: 1) He tries to win her heart by sending her flowers and buying her gifts. 2) He tries to impress her by boasting about his own success and achievements. Do you think Mr. Average Joe is a “manipulative” person? After all, he is using bribery and flattery. He is pushing a girl into sleeping with him by buying her expensive dinners. So is Average Joe really “being himself” when he tries to bribe women with flattery and gifts? By the way, what does “being yourself” mean? We always hear from women that we should just “be ourselves” when we’re around them, but what does “being yourself” mean? For Mr. Average Joe, it means stuttering and sweating his palms and tensing his body because he’s nervous. Not very attractive, is it? So…would you like to “be yourself” around women? Or would you rather be a confidant, masculine man that wins all the women’s hearts? Here’s the thing: you could “be yourself” and still attract women…if you could just follow some simple rules and tactics of dating.
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These rules and tactics by no means make you a “manipulative” person. You’re not going to be any more manipulative than the loser guy trying to “talk his way into a girl’s pants”. You’re not going to be any more manipulative than the Average Joe sending Miss Right flowers and cards. Heck. You’re not going to be any more manipulative than the computer geek putting on a nice shirt and brushing his teeth before he goes out. Here's the bottom line: there are many different ways of doing things. Some work better; some don't work as well. What I teach is another system of attracting women – one that works better. Just because this system is different than what you’re used to doing doesn’t mean it is evil or manipulative. Granted, you’re going to learn dating tactics that might be a bit different than the things you’ve done in the past. But just because these tactics are different does not mean they are ”manipulative”. Here’s your first assignment: I want you to walk down the magazine aisle of any grocery store. Check out all the headlines on the magazines. Note how all of the women’s favorite magazines such as Cosmopolitan and Glamour always have headlines such as “How To Attract Men And Keep Them” or “25 Ways To Get Him To Propose To You”. Does that mean women are manipulative? No. It just means they are smart. Women actually see the power of learning, and that’s why they usually have a HUGE advantage in the dating game. Unlike guys, they are PREPARED for battle. They even get together and girl-talks about how to handle their men. This is exactly why most guys get slaughtered by women in the dating game: Women know what they are doing, men don’t.
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But don’t worry. I’m here to help you. By the time you’re done with this course, you’re going to know all the tactics you’ll ever need to know to have great success with women.
Don’t Let Your Old Beliefs Limit Your Success
Some of these tactics might be common sense; some might be totally new or bizarre to you. But no matter what, I want you to keep an open mind. I’m going to use an example from one of my favorite books, Flatland. Put a penny on your table and look at it. It should appear as a circle. Now, “drawing back to the edge of the table, gradually lower your eye…and you will find the penny becoming more and more oval to your view; and at last when you have placed your eye exactly on the edge of the table… the penny will then have ceased to appear oval at all, and will have become, so far as you can see, a straight line.” (Abbott, 5) Now imagine you’re a 2D little figure living in a 2D, “flat” country. Just like the penny, everything you see should appear as a straight line to you. But does that mean everything you’re seeing is REALLY a straight line? Yes – but only in your reality. What I’m trying to do with this course is to bring you out of Flatland and into the real world. Your beliefs have served you very well in the past, but they’re also blocking you from success. Remember: in order to have the kind of success that you have never had before, you must first do things that you have never done before.
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Marius Panzarella Lead Staff Writer. I am always in the process of updating my works.Marius Panzarella . everything will come to you naturally. DatingSupportCenter
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. and suggestions at mariuspanzarella@datebeautifulwomen. Whenever you hit a wall or feel discouraged…drop me an email and ask for some advice. you will be very successful in the dating game! Remember to email me with your ideas. Don’t just read the book once and forget about it. and if something isn’t working out for you. comments. As a matter of fact. I’ll do my best to work everything out with you. then go back to the book and re-read the related topics again. In time. Here’s my guarantee to you: If you spend the next 3 months working hard. and I want to know what you think! Sincerely. Try to digest and integrate the information into your own experience. keep it on your bookshelf and come back to it often. You won’t even have to think twice before you strike up a conversation with a beautiful woman. don’t stop reading my book until you feel you are absolutely positively using the techniques! Print it out.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
The best way to learn these new tactics would be to read the whole book from beginning to end. Remember to practice often.
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Part 1: The Smart Dating System Explained
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Chapter 1 The Smart System of Dating
In 1997. passion. To Sternberg. Intimacy Non Love Liking Infatuated Love Empty Love Romantic Love Companionate Love YES YES YES YES YES YES YES Passion Commitment
15 Copyright 2000-2007 .Marius Panzarella . these three components form eight different kinds of relationships. and commitment. love has three components: intimacy. passion only produces “infatuated love”. psychologist Robert Sternberg developed a triangular theory of love. while passion and intimacy together produce “romantic love”. passion. For example. true love won’t occur. 1) To Sterberg. and commitment. different combinations of these three components yield different kinds of love. Together. true love has to exhibit all three components of his triangle theory: intimacy.All Rights Reserved
. (Sternberg. According to his theory.
religious. Liking: This is when you feel ATTRACTED to a person. A good number of marriages in America today consist of only empty love. Empty Love: Couples that do not love each other but stay together nevertheless due to financial. not to commit. Two people have passion and interests in each other.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Fatuous Love Consummate Love
The Different Kinds Of Love Explained
Non Love: This is when you feel NOTHING for a person at all. You don’t even want to be their friend. Think the married couples that have lost their sex drives. Romantic Love: Think love affairs. Fatuous Love: A kind of love marked by complacency in the relationship that entails passion and commitment. Consummate Love: True love – what you’re going to have if you follow this course.
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But don’t worry . is descriptive. it characterizes different kinds of love. Sure.
The Three Components Illustrated
Case 1 – Happily Ever After (Loving Relationship) Commitment
Case 2 – No Passion (Let’s Just Be Friends) Commitment
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. As you will see. passion.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
The Smart Dating System Used In This Course
The system we use in this dating course is similar to the Stenberg model. the relationship is doomed. The purpose of this course is to get you the three components you need for every successful relationship: intimacy. and commitment. any time one or more of the three components go missing. Sternberg’s theory. of course.
Don’t worry if things seem to be overwhelming at first.
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Case 3 – No Intimacy (“We Don’t Understand Each Other)
Case 4 – No Commitment (“This Relationship Can’t Go Anywhere”)
The Triangular Components Broken Down
Now we’re going to break down the three components into more specific details. By the end of the course.
We’re going to focus on passion throughout the course because it is the most important of the three.All Rights Reserved
. you will have everything down like a pro. there can be no relationship.Marius Panzarella . Passion basically means sexual attraction.
we can derive our first principle of attraction: Behavior Rule #1: People Want What They Can’t Have Have you noticed how the less available someone is.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Passion is what you feel when you’re with someone you’re really attracted to. we’re going to die lonely. we hope we will get a good job because we WANT a good job.Marius Panzarella . For example. I like to call it the discomfort zone of a booming relationship. we tend to want what we can’t have. It’s like buying a new Porsche. But what about the other variable. are we buying a new Porsche because of its powerful engine or nice gear? Ha. desire? Desire comes from our subconscious mind. We also tend to take things for granted. the more we’ll want them? And the more needy someone is.All Rights Reserved
. But deep inside. So…we know that being a challenge can cause doubt. When we buy a new Porsche. From this. That’s what you tell your parents.
19 Copyright 2000-2007 . This discomfort zone is based on two things: Desire and doubt. which is an important part of the equation for building passion. Desire is therefore based on our emotions. the less we’ll like them? That’s why it’s ALWAYS important to remain a challenge when it comes to the dating game. If we’re too easy. you know you bought it because you wanted to buy it – and you’re now only justifying your feelings by coming up with logical reasons to “backup” your decision. As humans.
than no amount of convincing her that you’re the “right” one will do. 3) Flexibility – How flexible your lover is going to be around you. in doesn’t matter how logical it may seem that a woman “should” be in love with you.Marius Panzarella . This is also why you can’t really ask girls to “explain” why they are in love with a certain man. you should attack their FEELINGS instead of their logic. 2) Self-Disclosure – How much your lover is willing to open up for you. This is exactly why if you would like to be good with the ladies. If a girl does not feel attracted to you. We don’t “choose” to love at a conscious level. Think of it as the friendship between a couple. We will learn to do this with the “tease to please” and “flirt for skirt” methods later in the course. In short. We only “feel” we’re “falling in love”.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Behavior Rule #2: People Make Conscious Decisions Based on Subconscious Feelings A good thing to remember is that love is based on feelings. Intimacy relies on: 1) Giving – How much your lover is prepared to give to you. The things they say…like “he’s funny” or “he’s a nice guy” are only EXCUSES they’ve come up with to explain the decisions they’ve made based on their feelings. not logic.
Intimacy is the reciprocal bonds between two people.
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2) Integrity – How honest your lover is.
21 Copyright 2000-2007 . I think you should get to know a woman’s character before you enter a long-term relationship with her. 3) Loyalty – How loyal your lover is. Attitude towards life. It represents the inside of that person – such as her: Loyalty to a partner (you). More information on how to pick women with good character will be available in later chapters. commitment can also be substituted for another word: character.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Commitment is the degree of a person’s willingness to commit to a relationship. Respect for other people.Marius Panzarella . Honesty. In my opinion. Work ethnics.
Due to various reasons such as childhood and education. It relies on:
1) Respect – How much respect your lover has for you. The character of a woman determines her values.but you should still try to make sure you don’t go home with a psycho. different women usually have different levels of character. One-night-stands are different .All Rights Reserved
the less respect we have for them. If a woman does not respect you as a potential boyfriend. if a woman does not respect you as a man. For example. The more needy a person is. she will NOT date you. Among the ingredients of intimacy and commitment. We’re naturally drawn to people that exhibit a high level of independence. the less respect we have for them. The less someone needs us. You can’t control how flexible they are either. such as leaders. you can’t control how giving someone is. So what kind of people do we respect? The people that demonstrate emotional and physical independence.Marius Panzarella . This goes with Behavior Principle #2: We want what we can’t have. If you look at the ingredients of intimacy and commitment. passion is the most important. as it is often the only variable you can control.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Passion Is The Most Important
Of the three components. she will NOT stay with you. And the more someone is available to us because they depend on us. the only variable that you can control is respect. At the same time. You also cannot control how much integrity they have.All Rights Reserved
. you will notice they’re mostly personality traits that you cannot control.
22 Copyright 2000-2007 . the more respect we have for them. we tend to pull away from people that are very needy.
However.” In this case. the definition of attraction is as follows: “A force acting mutually between particles of matter to draw them together and to resist their separation. commitment. Basically.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Since respect is the only variable under commitment and intimacy that we can control and since it really falls under passion.All Rights Reserved
Our Definition Of Attraction
According to the American Heritage Dictionary. as you recall. This is why we’re going to ignore them on our basic formula and just say: Attraction = Passion. abuse. we’re going to focus on just passion throughout the course.Marius Panzarella . We will learn how to use the “C Factor” (The Challenge Factor) and the “D Factor” (The Desire Factor) to attract women by increasing their passion for us. it represents the forces of the obstacles that have a negative impact on your relationship. etc)
23 Copyright 2000-2007 . we cannot control the level of intimacy and commitment in a relationship. Here are a few examples: 1) 2) 3) 4) 5) 6) Your age gap A competitor (like another guy) Your height Your bad looks Your skin color Your lover’s childhood trauma’s (Rape. and passion that form our attraction.
The Ex-Force is a term we’ve come up with to represent the negative “external forces” that are influencing your relationship. it is the combined force of intimacy.
she goes. If her attraction for you is stronger than the ex-force.” Imagine an old-fashioned balance scale.Marius Panzarella . she stays.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
7) Distance 8) Fear of commitment 9) Religion 10) Family
My “Love Balance Scale” For Love”
Here’s a metaphor we invented a few years ago for our readers: the “love balance scale.All Rights Reserved
. On the other side is your date’s attraction for you. Take a look at the examples on the next page:
24 Copyright 2000-2007 . If it is weaker. On one side is an Ex-force exerting on you.
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Attraction: 100 Pounds
“Age Gap” – 150 Pounds
Example 1: Your girl stops dating you because the attraction is not great enough for her to work out the age gap.All Rights Reserved
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“Age Gap” – 100 Pounds
Attraction – 150 Pounds
Example 2: Your girl stays and ignores the age gap because she’s too attracted to you to do anything else.
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Attraction: 100 Pounds
“Other Guy” – 150 Pounds
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. even though you’re the “nicer guy”.
“Other Guy” – 100 Pounds
Attraction – 150 Pounds
Example 4: Your girl stays with you because you’re more attractive than the other guy – even though he has a better job and more money than you.
Or your age. she won’t care about your lack of hair. You can’t grow taller. but you CAN change the weight of the attraction. you can’t change the weight of the Ex-Force because it is always constant. and attraction cuts through everything.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved
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Attraction Cuts Through Everything
As you can see from the examples above. If a girl is attracted to you enough. They try to “convince” the girl that the “other guy” is not reliable. Attraction cuts through everything. cajole. and plead. You can’t become younger. You can’t change your skin colour. But you CAN increase a girl’s attraction for you. Get it? When they run into problems with women. whine. They try to “convince” that they are much better. You can’t beat up the “other guy”. it is out of your control.
27 Copyright 2000-2007 . Or your height. They try to beg. Here’s another way to put it: Whatever your “problem” is. most guys tend to go after the WRONG things. You can’t grow more hair.
this system covers everything that is related to your love life.) Our Smart Dating Method is a VERY powerful system that can solve whatever dating problems you’re having. But instead of getting upset. he realized that he was missing the one thing that made a relationship a romantic relationship instead of a friendship: passion. His girlfriend broke down and tried to “win him back” over the next few weeks.All Rights Reserved
. he followed the “C Factor” and acted happy about the breakup. (Note: The names of the individuals have been changed to protect their identities. Age 23 Mark had had a secret crush on his best friend since he was 16. Unlike most approaches that cover only one-night stands or long-term relationships.
We’ve just gone through an awful lot of information that will probably take a few weeks for you to digest. (It’s easy to READ this information. Understand this concept will already put you ahead of most guys.Marius Panzarella . Case Study #2: Mark. guys: attraction IS everything. To show you some of the things it can do. He followed my flirting advice and got his best friend to ask him out. Remember.
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When they should have been attracting the girl all along.
But since we cannot always control intimacy and commitment.Marius Panzarella . The word character can be substituted for commitment since a woman’s character often dictates her commitment to a relationship. Passion consists of desire and uncertainty. He used the “C Factor” to pull back and his ignited passion in his relationship again. which leave: Passion = attraction.
So far…we’ve learned the three basic components of love: intimacy. Together. Commitment consists of respect. integrity and loyalty. Intimacy consists of flexibility and self-disclosure.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Case Study #3: Tim. commitment. they combine into attraction. Then he looked at the love balance scale model and emailed back. or the magnetic force that pulls two people together. we can cancel them out. Age 36 Bruce was feeling miserable because his wife was drifting away.
29 Copyright 2000-2007 . and passion. After using the love triangle to diagnose his relationship. “A-ha!” Case Study #4: Bruce. he realized that his relationship was lacking respect and passion. and giving.All Rights Reserved
. Age 51 Tim fell in love with a young woman (30) and was worried of the age gap.
(The “C” Factor) Now…let’s talk more about attraction and debunk a few conventional rules of dating…
30 Copyright 2000-2007 . we can see the importance of: Attracting women instead of using “logic” to convince them. Rules To Remember: Behavior Rule #1: People Want What They Can’t Have Behavior Rule #2: People Make Conscious Decisions Based on Subconscious Feelings Based on these two rules. (The “D” Factor) Giving them enough challenge to keep their interests for us.All Rights Reserved
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This attraction cuts through everything and overcomes any Ex-force (resistance) such as family and religion.Marius Panzarella .
Here are a few examples:
Subject: PLZ HELP ME OUT
s one of the most popular dating advice sites on the Internet.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
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Don’t let your feelings blind you!
receive dozens of emails every day. SHE IS >THE MOST BEAUTIFUL GIRL I HAVE EVER SEEN IN MY >LIFE BUT I HAVE NEVER TOLD HER THIS CUZ I DONT >KNOW HOW SHE IS GOING TO FEEL. The girl I love is unfortunately someone >else’s girlfriend.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved
. I try to forget about her but can’t. I >AM AFRAID OF TELLING HER I LOVE HER PLZ KINDLY >HELP ME OUT CUZ IF I DONT GET TO HAVE THIS GIRL >I MAY DIE > THANKS!
Subject: Something About Love
>Hey man. There is a problem. but most are desperate pleas for help with dating. Every time I see her I >just can’t resist her. we
>THERE WAS THIS GIRL I MET SOMETIMES BACK. Some are thank-you letters or inquiries about the various products and services we offer. Is there any way of making her come to me and >dumping her boyfriend? >Hoping to hear from you!
31 Copyright 2000-2007 . HONESTLY I >DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL THIS GIRL I LOVE HER.
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Subject: I Need Help With A Woman
>Hi there Marius you may have forgotten about me but I have not. But here is the catch she told me 2 times she was going to >call me but she never did. First time I called her then she said she would >call me. Second time the same. and that we were >going too fast. So I called her later and >she told me that she needed some time off because she just broke up >with her old boyfriend (they were dating for 3 years). She said that she had too >much on and that it was not fair on me. All that I want to do is get back >together with her.). How do I go about doing so?
Do you see a trend among these mails? About 90 percent of these emails contain questions such as: “Why isn’t she answering my calls?” “I love her so much but she’s ignoring me. Ok about 4 days ago I >went to visit her we talked and then when I was leaving she told me to >call her because she had something to tell me. >About a week ago I was dating this girl.I know she loves me because she said it. well we were kinda dating we >talked on the phone everyday and we were exchanging e-mails (but we >never went out because she is busy on my days off and I am busy on her >days off. Why?” “Why did she cancel the date?”
32 Copyright 2000-2007 . She asked me to give her some time to think about our >relationship. Is she playing with me or >is she serious? My question is: what can I do to make her love me more >or call me? I really love her and she broke my heart went to said that she >should stop seeing each other
>I have recently broke up with my girlfriend. but she didn’t.
these guys always try to analyze everything to bits with logic. they come up with creative reasons such as: “Maybe she isn’t answering my calls because her father is in town and she has to spend time with him.” “Maybe she cancelled our date because she has to work tomorrow morning. she loves me and wants me to be happy. it is because her attraction for you is not strong enough.” “Maybe she said I am ‘too good for her because deep inside.
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“Why did she say I am ‘too good for her’?” “Why doesn’t she want to go out with me anymore?” Interestingly enough. They always fantasize in their heads about all the “possible scenarios” of why a girl isn’t returning their phone calls. I am sorry.” Well.All Rights Reserved
. it is NOT because of the external forces. Remember the love balance scale from the previous chapter? When a girl does not want to go out with you. there’s only one reason: SHE ISN’T ATTRACTED TO YOU ROMANTICALLY. Often. She just can’t trust nice guys like me anymore. but if a girl is ignoring you or breaking up with you.” “Maybe she’s just playing hard to get.Marius Panzarella .” “Maybe she doesn’t want to go out with me anymore because of childhood trauma.” “Maybe she is ignoring me because she doesn’t know how much I love her.
They think: “Since I think she is the most wonderful person in the world. most guys do NOT realize this. If a fat chick with a black beard tells you she loves you. You could give her all your love and she would still reject you. she only cares about how much SHE likes you! Think about it. give her flowers.All Rights Reserved
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It has nothing to do with a busy schedule or childhood trauma. Your “love” for her really does not mean anything to her. It also has nothing to do with how much you like her. then you’re just like the fat chick with a beard. the girl doesn’t even NOTICE them. If a girl does not like you. In some cases. are you going to marry her on the spot? No way! The same thing is true for women.Marius Panzarella . take her to Paris. You can buy her a house. she must feel the same way about me!” Uh-huh. No matter how hard you try. Here’s my first dating bombshell for you…
Smart Dating Rule #1: It’s Not How Much You Like Her. But How Much She Likes You That Counts!
Most guys let their feelings blind them as soon as they meet a hot chick. Wrong! She does not care about how much you love her.when the girl is not even showing ANY romantic interest in them. and shower her
34 Copyright 2000-2007 . Sadly. she’s not going to marry you because she is not attracted to you at all. Here’s the bottom line: SHE HAS TO LIKE YOU FIRST BEFORE YOU CAN START ANYTHING WITH HER. They start fantasizing about spending the night with her or even building a future with her .
if you have a girl who loves you with all her heart. There are NO limits to what a girl would do for the man she loves. Why? Because the girl is super-attracted to him! See what I mean when I say it’s not how much you like the girl.All Rights Reserved
. she will try her very darn best to make you feel happy. cries for him.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
with tons of other gifts. and even waits for him to get out of jail. At each step of the dating game.Thinks that a girl “should” . but women choose. The guy hits and abuses the poor girl every day. Every once in awhile. but how much the girl likes you that counts?
Average Frustrated Chump Smart Dater . women are the choosers. Men pick. but she’s not going to make you happy at all because she does not like you in the first place. On the other hand. a girl has to give you the permission to advance
35 Copyright 2000-2007 . She could be working a 60-hour job. do with the outcome of the situation.Marius Panzarella .Understands that his own like him back because he feelings have NOTHING to “loves” her. the girl stands up for him in court. but when the police finally take him away. but she’s still going to find time to go out with you – if she likes you enough. you hear on the news about a “bad boy” who beats up his wife or girlfriend. She may take your gifts.
Smart Dating Rule #2: You Need Permission To Advance
When it comes to dating.
you’re just invading her personal space and she won’t be too
36 Copyright 2000-2007 .) Let me show you what I mean: If she likes your style or looks. she will give you a second date. Otherwise. it’s called “sexual harassment”. Think about this: if a really ugly friend of yours suddenly told you she loves you all of a sudden. One day.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
before you can take things to the next level. He hides his feelings for a couple of months until he can’t take it anymore. If she likes your French kiss. he just snaps and tells the girl that he loves her. (Otherwise. she will let you talk. she will let you approach her. If she likes the first date. she will let you…
Get it? Okay. The girl freaks and says.Marius Panzarella . He starts following the girl around like a puppy and soon becomes her new best “guy friend”. she will give you the phone number. she will let you kiss her. But please don’t ever bring this up again!” Why is the girl reacting in such a negative manner? Because she never expected this to happen in the first place. If she likes your approach. Here’s a classic scenario: A guy meets a hot blonde at work and it’s love at first sight – but only on his end. She never gave you the permission to hit on her. If she likes you holding her hand. would you marry her? I think not! Remember: a girl must give you permission before you can “take things to the next level”. If she likes the conversation.All Rights Reserved
. “I’m flattered.
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. So if you surprise her with a “I love you” when she’s not even remotely interested in you. I actually think it is dangerous for these “experts” to mislead their students with these body language signals. You can’t just walk up to a woman and kiss her. I find it much easier to keep everything simple. Guess what? I don’t agree at all. Some these clues are included in their body language:
Common Signs That Show A Woman Likes You (Body Language)
Smiling Blushing Touching Winking Flipping or playing with hair Playing with button/shirt/accessories Intense Eye Contact
While it is useful to recognize these body language signs. Women want safety and comfort (see rule number #7). she will let you know. A lot of “love experts” tell you a woman must like you if her ankles are positioned in a certain way and her neck is tilted at whatever angle and she’s looking at you from whatever angle…blah blah blah.Marius Panzarella .
37 Copyright 2000-2007 . That’s called sexual harassment. you’re just setting yourself up for rejection. Women DO give out subtle clues to guys they are interested in. If a girl wants you to advance.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
happy about it.
it’s quite simple. And the failure to recognize “nice” from “niiice” can cause you a lot of embarrassment. let’s say you’re meeting a girl at a club. You test the waters and ask yourself the following question: “Is she receptive of my advances? For example. she’s giving you permission to approach her. So how do you tell if she’s interested? Well. A lot of women are merely being “nice” when they smile at you. If she’s still receptive.especially in a professional environment. If she touches you. After reading about some “body language” tips from a love doctor. If she turns away and stares at the other guys. if she let’s you stroke her hair.Marius Panzarella . If you still approach her without her permission. You begin by smiling at her. Then you can nod and smile again.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Why? Because most guys EXAGGERATE the amount of interest a woman may have in them. See how this little trick can save you a lot of embarrassment? You can use it to screen out all the cold women! The same principle can be applied to the rest of the dating game. then she’s NOT interested. she will probably let you kiss her.All Rights Reserved
. get it? But let’s say she smiles back sweetly. “This girl wants my dick!” This is fatal . you’re only going to embarrass yourself. Get it?
38 Copyright 2000-2007 . she will probably let you hold her hand. they see a FRIENDLY smile from a woman and immediately think.
1) She ignores you when you smile at her.Marius Panzarella . 4) She keeps checking out all the other guys while you make small talk. and answers your questions. (She’s giving you permission to get to know her!)
39 Copyright 2000-2007 . 5) She hesitates when you ask for her number 6) She doesn’t return your calls
She backs off when you lean towards her. 3) She seems to be bored when you talk to her. So let me give you a couple of “real life” examples:
Signs A Girl DOESN’T Want You To Advance.
Signs A Woman Is Giving You The Permission To Advance!
1) She smiles back when you smile at her. 2) She keeps turning AWAY from you when you try to approach her. Like she makes absolutely NO effort in talking talk to you. comments on whatever you’re saying. (She’s giving you permission to approach!) 2) She’s interested in talking to you. Or maybe she just answers your questions “politely” when her mind is clearly elsewhere.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
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. She asks you questions.
your job is to learn to recognize these signals and make good use of them.All Rights Reserved
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3) She touches you. 8) She lets you into her house. (She’s giving you permission to kiss her!) . Decrypt these signals and use them to determine whether you should
40 Copyright 2000-2007 . (She TRUSTS you and therefore gives you permission to advance!) 9) She lets you sit on her bed. (She’s giving you permission to show her your prowess!)
As a man. (She’s giving you permission to take things to the next level!) 6) She lets you hold your hand. (She’s giving you permission to ask her out!) 5) She goes on a date with you. (She’s giving you permission to touch her!) 4) She gives you her phone number.
Dating Tip: Always Test The Waters First!
Dating is 50% leading and 50% reacting.Marius Panzarella . (She’s giving you permission for more physical contact – possibly a kiss!) 7) She lets you stroke her hair. Always TEST THE WATERS and watch the signals she sends you. (She MAY be giving you permission to cuddle! 10) She keeps grinding her hips on you.
That’s why they have no idea when they should advance and when to back off. a girl should like them back. Makes a girl feel comfortable and safe Takes small steps. Don’t make the same mistake. Moves slowly. Gets permission from women before advancing.
Smart Dater Tests for signs of attraction before advancing. Makes a girl feel. And when the girl doesn’t. they think that just because they like a girl. Invades a girl’s personal space.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
advance or retreat. Here’s a general rule: never try to read a woman’s mind.
Smart Dating Rule #3: Stay Objective
It is extremely important that you stay objective while you’re dating a woman. they get very upset.Marius Panzarella .
Average Frustrated Chump Does not seek permission. For example. Moves too fast.
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. Does not invade a girl’s personal space. Most guys tend to project their own feelings onto their dream women. Does not recognize any rejection signals or buying signals. You will save yourself a lot of embarrassment this way!
A lot of times. Stay objective. uncomfortable Skips many steps. guys are so blinded by their own lusts and emotions that they fail to see any of the signals women are giving them.
I can bet you money that a woman ALWAYS has a certain intention in mind when she throws a tantrum or plays mind games. They play mind games because mind games can usually help them get what they want. Similarly. And very often their intention will show through their action.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Why? Because you are probably going to be wrong. we're not actually reading her thoughts. We’re actually explaining her action in a biased way in order to justify our opinion of what she should be thinking about.All Rights Reserved
. never mind her words – just focus on her action.Marius Panzarella . For example…we might think “She probably doesn’t want to get into a relationship with me yet because she’s still hurting from her past relationship. I call it the “action compass”. but she can’t make up her actions. then she’s just lying about her love for you. you should never believe a woman’s words 100 percent – especially if she’s playing mind games. Next time you talk to a woman.” Bullshit. A woman can make up stories to tell you. If she
42 Copyright 2000-2007 . Let me show you what I mean: 1) If a girl tells you she loves you verbally but she’s being a bitch to you otherwise. I’m going to teach you one simple trick you can use when you’re not sure if a girl likes you or not. or if you’re getting lost in one of her “mind games”. Whenever we try to read a girl’s mind. If you were the guy she REALLY wanted…she would be DYING to have you.
Don’t bother to stick
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Dating Tip: The Action Compass
Always use the action compass whenever you get lost in a woman’s mind game or tantrum. then it doesn’t matter if she calls you the biggest jerk on earth! Her actual action shows she likes you – quite a lot. who will be VERY happy cause they’re blinded by their feelings and don’t realize that the girl is only going out with them to be polite. you can use this “action compass” to navigate your way out every time you get lost in one of her mind games or tantrums. her action still shows she’s a bitch!
With a little bit of practice. even if she says “yes” you know you’re in trouble because her tone and body language shows she’s just being nice. Unlike most guys. no matter what excuses she makes up after. Don’t be annoyed by the “something” she’s telling you about. you know you have to work extra hard during the date to impress her. would she? If a girl whines about something stupid. Chances are she is just using the “something stupid” to get something else. she shouldn’t be acting like a bitch. A girl is calling you names and hitting you on the chest.Marius Panzarella . But is she being playful about it? If so. Well. Does her action show she’s trying to get attention from you? Or maybe approval? If a girl hesitates when you ask her out. A girl agrees to go out with you but doesn’t show up at the date.All Rights Reserved
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truly loved you. watch her action closely.
44 Copyright 2000-2007 . so just get the hell out!
Average Frustrated Chump Projects his own feelings onto a girl. Focuses on what women SAY instead of what they DO. Focuses on what women DO instead of what they SAY.
Smart Dater Remains objective.
Smart Dating Rule #4: Attraction Cuts Through Everything
Remember the love balance scale from the last chapter?
Ex-Force (Any Kind Of Problem) – 100 Pounds
Attraction – 150 Pounds
According to the love balance scale.All Rights Reserved
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around and get all emotional with her. It doesn’t matter how strong the exforce is .as long as the attraction is stronger.
looks. She would stop cheating on you. or baldness. and just about everything else. age. So…just stop whining about things you can’t change and work on her attraction for you instead. She wouldn’t care about her family’s opinion. At the end of the day. Heck. height.Marius Panzarella . attraction cuts through everything. skin colour. Don’t complain about your girl’s shyness. Keep your girl attracted to you. She would stop flirting with other guys. She might even elope with you if she liked you enough. baldness.All Rights Reserved
Smart Dating Rule #5: Attract. or skin color. Not Chase
45 Copyright 2000-2007 . and she will stay with you for life. If your girl were more attracted to you. Don’t cry about your girl cheating on you with another guy. these problems would be solved automatically.
Smart Dater Focuses on keeping a woman attracted to him because at the end of the day. She wouldn’t care about your height. attraction cuts through everything.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
So stop whining about your height. wealth status.
Average Frustrated Chump Whines about his age.
46 Copyright 2000-2007 . it is very important that you attract instead of chase. If you look around. They aren’t the guys that beg and push a girl into going out with them.
Smart Dater Communicates with women sexually. Chasing a woman means using “logic” to “convince” her that you would make a suitable mate for her. Attracts women. Showers a woman with gifts. Tries to chase women. They are the guys that know how to tease to please and how to flirt for skirt.Marius Panzarella . not logic. but she’s going to leave you sooner or later for another guy because she wasn’t attracted to you in the first place. she might use you for a short while. Knows to “tease to please” and “flirt for skirt”. Attracting a woman means communicating with her sexual feelings and building a connection with her directly. flowers. Sure.All Rights Reserved
. you will see that the guys that are really good with women are the guys that communicate with women sexually. if a girl is not attracted to you romantically. Unfortunately. no amount of “chasing” will make her stay. They aren’t the guys that shower a woman with attention. This is what most guys do. and compliments.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Since attraction is based on feelings. We’ll teach you these techniques later in the course.
Average Frustrated Chump Communicates with women “logically”.
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Smart Dating Rule #6: Be A Challenge To Create Passion
Here’s something you can do right now to stand out from most guys out there: be a challenge. Wussy guys are the male equivalent of sluts. Women might exploit them when they are between boyfriends. sane women don’t want you to act like they are the only thing in your life that’s important. They want you to actually have a life. why would a woman have to worry about losing you…ever? She already knows that you will always like her. How boring! Furthermore. It will raise the stakes higher on the woman’s part and make her work harder to keep you. a woman will lose her attraction in you sooner or later and go for somebody else. If you never act like a challenge. I can guarantee you one thing.Marius Panzarella . Think about it: As men.
47 Copyright 2000-2007 . She already knows that you will be there for her no matter what. we might sleep with sluts. but we never stick around after. Nobody likes a mate who’s too easy. Jeez. Remember the formula we learned in chapter 1: Hope + Uncertainty = Passion The quickest and easiest way to stir up someone’s romantic passions is to create some uncertainty by acting like a challenge. but they’re never going to marry or stay with a guy who’s not a challenge. She already knows that she has you wrapped around her little fingers. you are just being pathetic. You aren’t being Duan Juan when you put a woman above everything else in your life.All Rights Reserved
. Everybody enjoys a challenge.
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. Makes a woman the central part of his life. Focuses on keeping a woman attracted to him because at the end of the day. knowing that I’m a man? Of course not! (And no. attraction cuts through everything.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Average Frustrated Chump Gives no challenge. Seeks approval. Tries to “please” a woman . would you like to hang out so I could show you a few more tricks?” What would you say then?
48 Copyright 2000-2007 . Has a life outside the relationship. Independent. if I ever dropped by your city. Afraid to leave a relationship. Tells a woman that he “loves” her too early.Marius Panzarella . Not afraid to walk out of a relationship any time. if I were to ask you to go out with me on a date right now. Let me give you an example.
Smart Dating Rule #7: Comfort Level Is Important
One of the biggest mistakes men make is to make women uncomfortable when they ask them out. would you say “yes”. ”As a thank you for downloading my course…and to help you improve your success with women. I wouldn’t go out with you later…) But if I were to ask. Acts really needy.
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49 Copyright 2000-2007 . We make sure a woman is comfortable with our advances before we advance more. Builds attraction before he asks a woman out. she’s going to say “no”. Here’s the lesson: If you’re blunt and direct. I don’t know about you.
Smart Dater Makes a woman feel comfortable.All Rights Reserved
. They “hide” their feelings until they can’t hold it inside anymore…and then what do they do? They tell the woman that they like her and ask her on a date! If you were a woman. wouldn’t this make you feel very uncomfortable too? This is why the “Smart Dating System” takes a different approach. Why? Because you’re making her uncomfortable with your advances! Look at what most guys do when they have a crush on a woman.
Average Frustrated Chump Makes a woman feel uncomfortable “Surprises” a woman with words of love Asks a woman out all of a sudden (in her point of view) Scare women away. but most of my fans and readers would jump at the opportunity. Uses the flirt test to test for attraction. We use techniques such as the “flirt-test” to test for signs of attractions and to increase the attraction before we ask a woman out.Marius Panzarella .
But How Much She Likes You That Matters! Smart Dating Rule #2: You Need Permission To Advance Smart Dating Rule #3: Stay Objective Smart Dating Rule #4: Attraction Cuts Through Everything Smart Dating Rule #5: Attract.Marius Panzarella . etc) YES____ NO____ 5) Do you skip over steps? (Example: Ask a woman out before you flirt with her. Not Chase Smart Dating Rule #6: Be A Challenge To Create Passion Smart Dating Rule #7: Comfort Level Is Important
Quick Self-Test: Are You Following The Smart Dating Rules?
Do the follow self-test to see where you stand in the dating game: 1) Have you talked to your crush before.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Summary of the Smart Dating Rules
Smart Dating Rule #1: It’s Not How Much You Like Her. or does she not even know who you are? YES____ NO____ 2) Do you want to “convince” your crush that you are the right guy for her because you love her? YES____ NO____ 3) Has she rejected you before? YES____ NO____ 4) Do you ever “rationalize” a rejection or a break of date? (“She’s busy”. “She’s sick”.All Rights Reserved
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) YES____ NO____ 7) Do you project your own feelings onto a girl? YES____ NO____ 8) Focus on what she says instead of what she does? YES____ NO____ 9) Worry about your height? YES____ NO____ 10) Worry about your age? YES____ NO____ 11) Worry about your race? YES____ NO____ 12) Worry about your _______? YES____ NO____ 13) Do you chase women with gifts.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
6) Do you invade a girl’s personal space? (As in ignoring her rejection signals.All Rights Reserved
.Marius Panzarella . and compliments? YES____ NO____ 14) Have you ever given a woman a gift or flowers on the first five dates? YES____ NO____ 15) Do you do everything she asks you to do? YES____ NO____ 16) Do you tell her your feelings about her? YES____ NO____ 17) Do you wear your heart on your sleeve? YES____ NO____ 18) Do you try to impress her? YES____ NO____ 19) Do you seek her approval? YES____ NO____ 20) Do you try to please her? YES____ NO____
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you don’t understand your game yet. with no exceptions. whether you know it or not. it means you have made a mistake with a girl and lowered her attraction for you. They are rules that you must follow at all times. until you have the discipline to follow the rules rigidly. and you’re going to be out of her life – forever.
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If you have answered “yes” to any of the questions. you should go back and study this chapter again. Make a few more mistakes. Go out and practice the seven dating rules.Marius Panzarella . Remember: every time you break one of these rules. In that case.All Rights Reserved
. Memorize the rules and do the self-quiz every week.
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Chapter 3 Chapter 3: Attraction Secrets Exposed
o…what DO women want? This is the question
we will answer in this chapter. and you will most likely see depressing posts written by computer geeks about how “nice guys always finish last” and how “girls only go for assholes”. Listen: women don’t like “jerks”. In the past 5 billion of years of evolution. The only advantage “jerks” have over “nice guys” is that “jerks” usually carry more traditional masculine traits. masculine males have always been the men women fight over because they are: more physically fit more self-disciplined more decisive more spontaneous/adventurous
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. Let’s begin by debunking a few common myths about
Myth #1: “Women Only Like Jerks”
A common misconception about women is that they are only interested in “jerks”. Their complaints are out of pure jealousy. Don’t buy into this propaganda. They just like masculine men. Log onto any Internet forum.Marius Panzarella . These theories are just excuses for the poor love lives of frustrated.
Think Alexander the Great. Kennedy.) 2) Are you a leader? YES____ NO____ (Explanation: Most of the world’s greatest lovers have been the greatest leaders as well. and Lord Byron.)
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. Women love them because they are so unpredictable.) 3) Are you an adventurer? YES____ NO____ (Explanation: Adventurous/spontaneous men are the most exciting males on this planet. 1) Do you work out at the gym at least 3 days a week? YES____ NO____ (Explanation: Although your mama might have taught you that “the pen is mightier than the sword”. going to the gym and having a great body shows that you’re a real man with self-control and dedication who’s determined to succeed. A girl will never know what surprise his guy has in store for her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
more mature more responsible more successful more hardworking more determined more intelligent more interesting more independent more confident more exciting more sexual
Quick Self-Test: Are You Following The Smart Dating Rules?
Do the following quick self-test to see how masculine you are.Marius Panzarella .
So if you want to spare yourself some trouble. beliefs. You’re also marrying her values.Marius Panzarella .) Not matter how well or how poorly you scored on the self-test. It has been proven over and over by psychologists that like attracts like. If two people do not share similar values. I want you to understand that you can become a more masculine man without becoming a jerk. and lifestyles. pick the right gal to start off with!
Myth #3: “Women Aren’t Sexual By Nature. You can pick up all the masculine traits without becoming an abusive jerk. This is why it’s very important you find a mate who’s similar to you.
Myth #2: “Opposites Attract. If you can’t stand her lifestyle now.All Rights Reserved
. This is the biggest lie since the Nigerian letter scam. He sees it not as something embarrassing. things are only going to get worse as time goes on.”
A second misconception about attraction is that “opposites attract”. they are not going to find a connection. We will talk more about this in the next couple of chapters. Remember this. it’s not just her body you’re marrying. A real man is not afraid to embrace his own sexuality. but as a great force of motivation that can push him towards success. beliefs.”
55 Copyright 2000-2007 . People always find other people that share similar values and attitudes more attractive.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
4) Are you very sexual? YES____ NO____ (Explanation: Most of the really successful people and greatest lovers in history were very sexual. guys: When you marry a girl. Your problems are just going to magnify. and lifestyle.
and that you should never sleep with a guy until you know him really well. guys are supposed to control their sexual urges and pretend they want everything from women except sex. why don’t they admit it? The reason most women SAY they don’t like sex is because they are afraid of being labeled as a “slut”. If they hate it so much. Don’t buy into the garbage that women don’t like sex. Women go onto talk shows to cry about how they can’t find a non-abusive partner. and you will see that the bestlooking women always have REGULAR sex. why are still they doing it?
So…if women love sex. Everybody on T. As a result.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
If you look around you today. What women want today hasn’t changed much from what women wanted millions of years ago. Think about it.All Rights Reserved
. But you know what? A few decades of talk shows and misinformation aren’t going to change 5 billion years of evolution. a lot of women repress their sexuality for fear of being branded as a “slut” or “ho”. Everywhere.V says women want to find a “good man” that they can love. women talk about meeting their “soul mates”. Society has conditioned women into thinking that sex is only for “tramps” and “whores”. Talk to any attractive women. according to New-Age feminists.
56 Copyright 2000-2007 . you will probably notice that most guys have been poisoned by the media and by the own mothers to believe in the “nice guy culture”. Sex is still the key to reproduction – the reason we’re here on earth. Lastly.Marius Panzarella .
and disgust for humans. As she smiles at you. stinky sneakers. Pyszczynski. wearing a small. Would you feel attracted to her at all?
57 Copyright 2000-2007 . Let me give you a quick example: Imagine a girl standing of you. shame.Marius Panzarella . No matter what society tells us. blue mini-skirt that just manages to cover her small tight ass. we still respond to the same sexual signals as our ancestors did billions of years ago. In today’s modern society. Her soft golden hair flows beautifully over her perfect shoulders. a couple hundred years of modern social conditioning cannot undo five billion years of natural evolution.” (Goldenberg. Some scientists have suggested that “despite its potential for immense physical pleasure and the crucial role that it plays in propagating the species.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
In short. sex is threatening because it “makes us acutely aware of our sheer physical and animal nature. imagine a fat. Greenberg. our sexual urges have been repressed by our social conditioning. Her hair is all messy and gross. as humans. Ask yourself honestly: Would you feel at least a bit attracted to this girl? Next. sex nevertheless is sometimes a source of anxiety. 2000) But once again. She smiles at you as you look into her deep. and you know NOTHING about her yet – except that she’s one of the most beautiful girls you’ve ever met. Her white crop top stretches sideways to cover her ample breasts. and is always subject to cultural norms and social regulation. you can tell she is missing a front tooth.All Rights Reserved
. ugly chick in front of you. blue eyes. There’s fat squeezing out of the old dress she’s wearing. & Solomon. Let’s say you’ve just met this girl at a party. Her fat legs are sitting on a pair of old.
dressed in her plus-sized lingerie. and sucks like a hoover.Marius Panzarella . Every day you get home from work. Superego. the superego and the id:
Conscious Mind Ego Unconscious Mind Superego
58 Copyright 2000-2007 . but your genital tells you the skinny girl would be better in bed. Which girl are you more attracted to now? Probably still the prettier girl. She also gets upset when you don’t give her enough attention and she whines when you don’t call her enough. cheat.All Rights Reserved
. ugly chick is the BEST wife you could ever have. and Id
If you have taken a psychology class before. As for the more attractive girl…there are always tons of guys flirting with her …and she can’t cook at all. you will be find your oversized princess lying in bed. The girl cooks like a chef. winking at you seductively with her fat knees up over her head. She promises to do all your chores for the rest of your life and to never nag. Logic tells you that the fat woman would make a better wife. you should know that the human mind is divided into the ego. She loves sex too. lie. Why? Because you cannot control your DNA.
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Now…let’s say that this fat. works like a farmer.
3) Women are sexual (They all have libidos in their unconscious minds.) We’re now going to put these three theories together to form our Attraction Egg Model: Imagine an egg with a yolk inside…
Resistance Sexual State
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The Smart Dating System’s Attraction Model
So far in this chapter. a woman’s libido tells how she should be feeling. Think of it as your social conditioning.Marius Panzarella . When it comes to love and romance. The superego contains the rules and restrictions of society.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
The id is completely unconscious and contains your instincts – including your libido (sex drive). Just like you can’t control your attraction for a beautiful girl. It acts as a mediator between the id and the superego. a woman cannot control her attraction for a masculine guy. (“Sex is for ho’s”) 2) The “likes attract likes” rule . The ego is the “logical” self – the part of the mind that controls your behavior. we’ve covered: 1) The social conditioning of women.
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. it does let one thing go through: feelings. This is an impenetrable wall of resistance that you cannot infiltrate with any kind of physical power. To attract a woman. However. or how horny she is for you. Outside the yolk is her resistance. it will have no choice but to expand…
Until it reaches the surface:
60 Copyright 2000-2007 . what we want to do is to send feelings through her resistance wall and into her sexual state.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
In the middle of the attraction egg is a malleable yolk that represents a woman’s sexual state. As more feelings build up within the malleable yolk.Marius Panzarella .
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. Finally. and action”. Using the techniques shown in this course. Desire.
Emotions. we calibrate her emotions. desire.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
At this point. We then arouse her curiosity and match our feelings with hers to create a bond between us. we then convert her feelings into desire and anchor onto her desire in order to amplify it. we take physical action to advance things to the next level. When we first meet a woman. We drive her fear away and make her feel comfortable. and Action – The Three-Step Approach Of The Smart Dating System
The Smart Dating System follows a strict three-step approach to attracting women: “Emotions. her attraction for you should overcome whatever social conditioning that has been imposed on her.
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Marius Panzarella . commitment. Intimacy consists of flexibility.All Rights Reserved
. Together. or the magnetic force that connects two people together. and giving. we can say: Passion = attraction. Passion consists of desire and uncertainty. they combine into attraction. self-disclosure. Attraction cuts through everything and overcomes any Ex-force (resistance) such as family and religion. But since we cannot always control intimacy and commitment.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Section Summary A Quick Summary Of The Smart Dating System
The three basic components of love are intimacy. Behavior Rules: 1) People Want What They Can’t Have 2) People Make Conscious Decisions Based on Subconscious Feelings Smart Dating Rules: Smart Dating Rule #1: It’s Not How Much You Like Her. But How Much She Likes You That Matters! Smart Dating Rule #2: You Need Permission To Advance Smart Dating Rule #3: Stay Objective
62 Copyright 2000-2007 . and passion. Commitment consists of respect. integrity and loyalty.
To attract a woman. we send feelings through her resistance in order to arouse her sexual state. 2) Anchoring and amplifying her desire.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Smart Dating Rule #4: Attraction Cuts Through Everything Smart Dating Rule #5: Attract. although their social conditioning tells them otherwise. 3) Using physical action to advance things to the next level.All Rights Reserved
. a woman cannot control her attraction for an attractive man.
63 Copyright 2000-2007 . We can do this with the three-step approach. But just like a man cannot control his attraction for an attractive girl.Marius Panzarella . Not Chase Smart Dating Rule #6: Be A Challenge To Create Passion Women like masculine men that are sexual in nature. The three-step approach consists of: 1) Calibrating a woman’s emotions.
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Part 2: Basic Steps Towards Success
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Throughout the course of a week.
How Women Check You Out
Let us begin this chapter by looking at the results of a past survey conducted on a college campus. Does he have good posture and “stand out” from the crowd. In this chapter.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Dressing Towards Success
f you're a chick magnet on the wrong polar (meaning you repel women instead of attract them).All Rights Reserved
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65 Copyright 2000-2007 . this chapter is for you. Here are the things that seem to catch a girl’s interest the most. 1) The style of the guy – Style of dress and the way he moves. Is he carrying a briefcase (Is he mature)? Or wearing a backpack (Is he adventurous)? Or maybe he’s carrying a cell phone? (Definitely not a loner. you will learn everything you need to know about how to NOT repel women physically. This is the first step you must go through before you can attract any women. or does he hide behind his friends? 2) Whatever “gadget” he has with him. as well as what parts of the body they look at when they first check the guy out. numerous girls were interviewed on what usually causes them to “notice” a guy initially. Remember. first impressions are important: You will never get a date if women are immediately turned off by your looks.
the next part they check out is *SURPRISE.All Rights Reserved
.Is the face dirty? Cuteness . SURPRISE* not the abs or biceps. they begin to check out his… 3) Face The hair – Is it messy or is it “cool”? Pimples – Are there just a few? Or does his face look like a volcano? Eyes – Do they look smart and confident? Glasses . but: 4) The shoes.Is the face “cute”? As soon as they are done “checking out” the face.Marius Panzarella . the chest and the butt. Are they clean? Do they fit? And only when they’ve finished examining the above do they turn their gazes to 5) The shoulders.ARE THEY CLEAN? Do they fit the guy’s face? Cleanliness . Do you see a pattern in all of this?
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Once a guy catches their attention.
or just ask your hairdresser to give you something fashionable. then either buy yourself contact lenses or wear a pair of glasses that fit. note hairstyles that you have seen on TV. It will create that artfully mussed look that a lot of girls like. If you are totally clueless in this area. Wet it with water or gel and then run your fingers across the top. The good news is. But if you don’t want to get contacts.
Improve Your Looks Overnight
Here is how you can improve your looks overnight: 1) Get a cool hairstyle. However. While men go right for the tits and arse.Marius Panzarella . For
67 Copyright 2000-2007 . there are still women that like chubby faces. then at least make sure your glasses fit your face. these are things we can actually control. girls generally like darker hair since it is another sense of maturity. By the way. It’s all up to the particular woman’s tastes. In general. Don’t brush your hair the same old boring way all the time. (Gentlemen prefer blondes for the opposite reason. women go for the “accessories” such as the hair and glasses.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Women look at the opposite of what men look at when men check women out.) Here’s a quick tip for you men out there with the “standard haircut”. 2) Wear Contacts If you’re near-sighted.All Rights Reserved
. Remember that a hairstyle may dramatically change the shape of your face. girls like longer and leaner faces on guys since the absence of baby-fat signifies maturity. consider wearing contacts as a lot of girls think big eyes are “cute”. If you have big eyes. making it look longer or rounder.
don’t wear a pair of tiny glasses. Use lip balm. By the way. Make sure your socks match your shoes. not dating. 6) Try to wear a shirt 7) Lips If you’re planning to kiss women. make sure your glasses are clean all the time. 5) Dress Nicely Don’t overdress because some girls find that “gay”. so keep that in mind when you dress! And if you’re absolutely clueless in this area. 4) Shoes Make The Man Wear clean shoes wherever you go. if you have a big face.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
example. runners are for running. but at least pay a tiny bit of attention on what you’re wearing from now on. watch a soap opera and see what the actors wear. you better keep your lips soft.
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. Women love details. Girls hate smudged glasses.
Do what girls do. (You want to look mature!) 13) No sweat stains on your shirt please. 11) Shower often. Doesn't have to be a Rolex.
Other Things To Watch Out For
8) Keep your nails clean and cut them often. There’s nothing worse then being around a smelly pig. There are also many other benefits to working out in the gym: First of all. 9) Wear a deodorant. but remember that none is better then too much when it comes to cologne. Brush your teeth and floss daily. it doesn’t hurt to look good.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
7) Teeth Go to the dentist at least twice a year.
Hit The Gym
Should you go to the gym? The answer is a firm yes. Long nails only look great on girls. spray some in the air and then WALK THROUGH IT.Marius Panzarella . While it is true that most girls don’t care if their lovers look like firefighters or not. 10) You can wear a little bit of cologne. Just anything without a LCD screen will do. 12) Get a nice watch.All Rights Reserved
. men who can find the time to exercise
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consider purchasing one of those self-tanning lotions on the net. Carrying two hundred pounds of excessive fat on your body isn’t going to help you. So get off the couch and get onto a treadmill! Having a lean.All Rights Reserved
Getting A Tan
By the way.Marius Panzarella . a tan can do wonders to your body. healthy body can do wonders to your confidence. Exercise can make you healthier and you will be able to enjoy the ladies longer. Most important of all. It’s just going to send a pretty clear message to the ladies that you’re a lazy slob. If you don’t like sunbathing. Remember: You have to be able to love your own body before girls can love it too.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
generally have more control over their lives. working out at the gym releases the natural testosterone you need to be a strong. masculine man. It can make you much leaner and more attractive.
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Attitude Towards Success
Two men apply for a job at a firm. faulty and “logical” beliefs with a new “sexual state” that you can use to attract women. Below is a list of the most common “faulty attitudes”. you must get rid of all the negative attitudes towards dating and women in your head and replace them with some new positive beliefs. Having the right set of attitudes will help you approach and attract them. The second says to himself. The same thing can be said about dating. Devastated by the outcome. and how you can fix them. You can only be a failure if you see yourself as one. In order for you to really succeed with women. Having the wrong one will just panic and confuse you. "Oh well. You can think of it as replacing your old.All Rights Reserved
. but neither gets the job.
person's attitude towards a situation can greatly affect its outcome. Who's the winner and who's the loser in this scenario? The answer is quite obvious. the first man decides that he isn't fit for the field at all. Here’s an example:
71 Copyright 2000-2007 . it’s their loss" and goes off to find another job. Your initial state when meeting a woman is very important.
what have you got to lose? If you’re smart. “Results? Why. I have gotten lots of results! If I find 10. the guy who invented the light bulb? He also invented the word’s first alkaline storage battery. because every wrong attempt discarded is just one more step forward. you should realize that every rejection will bring you closer to success. Instead of blurting out the words to get it over with. he replied.000 ways something won’t work. It took him over 10.”
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Bad Attitude #1: The “I’m Afraid Of Rejection” Attitude
When an “Average Joe” first falls in love with a girl.All Rights Reserved
. this question would then lead to other questions such as: "What if she embarrasses me?" "What if she never talks to me again?" "What if she tells everyone?" But you know what? Does it really matter? If you aren’t dating her now.000 combinations of various elements before he finally found the right combination. Remember Thomas Edison. he is usually very insecure and confused. When other people asked why he did not give up when his experiments weren’t producing any results. most guys just keep asking themselves the same question over and over: “WHAT IF SHE REJECTS ME?” Of course. I am not discouraged. Most guys have a secret crush on a girl and wait for months before he finally gathers enough courage to ask her out.
Let’s face it. It is the ability to make adjustments and corrections before trying again. But if you learn something new every time. you’re making progress. You must learn to fail before you can learn to succeed. Whimpers and cries silently after a rejection. Never gets anywhere.
Smart Dater Sees rejection as the key to success.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Dating is the same.
Average Frustrated Chump Is afraid of rejection. The key here is to have creative persistence. Without creative persistence. You’re not going to strike a home run on your first try. Improves every time. Most guys out there never bother to learn from their mistakes.All Rights Reserved
Creative persistence is more than just staying the course no matter what. Persists creatively.Marius Panzarella . you won’t ever get better with women. You’re not going to get everything right the first time. Learns from his mistakes and never makes the same errors again.
73 Copyright 2000-2007 . Without creative persistence. They just make the same mistakes over and over with different women. you’re going to be ahead of most guys already. If you learn from your mistakes with women. only to make the same mistakes again later on with another women. Thomas Edison would never have invented the light bulb or the battery.
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. Not every woman you come across is going to be on the make. some have just been hurt greatly by other men and will need time to heal. Don't be offended by the last. or simply not interested in meeting anybody at the moment. in a few years you will only laugh when you think about it. keep in mind that there are numerous reasons as to why a girl might be turning you down. All right. Some are just cold and antisocial. just flirt with her
74 Copyright 2000-2007 . How devastated were you back then? But do you still feel the same now?
How To Avoid Rejection
A good way to avoid rejection is to “test the waters” by flirting with a woman first. There are lots of other fish in the sea. in a relationship. So she doesn't see you as a potential lover. Remember. (70 percent) Some are going to be lesbians.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Furthermore. while you might be devastated by a rejection initially. Instead of telling her that you like her (which you should NEVER do anyway). (Around 5 percent) Of the 25 percent who are left. And some just don't see you as their type. Every woman has her own ideal image of a guy. Think about the first time you were rejected.Marius Panzarella . There is no reason to take things personally. What’s the big deal? Move on. Most are going to be married.
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and see how she reacts. but NOT because you want anything in return. there’s a chance she might like you. Only flirt with women because you’re a natural flirts who likes to make all the women around you to feel GREAT. Is she responding in positively? Or is she giving you the cold “get lost” look?
Dating Exercise: Desensitization – Part 1
Psychologists use something called desensitization to help clients overcome phobias. Remember the bombshell from chapter 1: It’s not how much you like a girl that matters. So if you can make sure she’s interested in you before you even ask her out…the bumpy road to love is going to be a lot smoother. But if she ignores you. right?
Dating Technique: Test The Waters First
A good way to lower your chance of rejection (and your fear of it) is to “test the waters” first.Marius Panzarella . make sure you’re just flirting for the sake of bringing her pleasure. After all. she probably doesn’t like you at all. nobody can really reject you. As you flirt with a woman.All Rights Reserved
. Examine her response in an objective manner. This is an almost foolproof way to avoid rejection. if you are afraid of spiders. if you’re just flirting casually and not trying to pick up anyone. it’s how much she likes you that matters. Always test the waters first before asking a woman out by flirting with her casually. For example. NOT for the purpose of “picking her up”. If she flirts back. they show you pictures of spiders and eventually get
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You will be able to do it eventually. a new girl you are going to meet on the bus. Keep pushing yourself closer and closer to actually asking her out verbally. a girl you’re going to meet at the club. Your fear of rejection is going to kick in and you’re going to start feeling that fear in your chest. if you just hang around and do nothing now. Who cares? Just ask somebody out.Marius Panzarella . try to ask a woman out everyday from now on. Next time you talk to an attractive woman in a nonromantic situation. She may be a girl from work. I want you to think about asking her out on a date. a total stranger or whatever.All Rights Reserved
. The first part is to overcome your fear of asking someone out. "But I want to wait for that special someone!" You may argue. Nobody will know what you’re thinking except you!
Dating Exercise: Desensitization – Part 2
Once you are more comfortable with the feeling of asking a woman out. Or at least get her phone number. Well.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
you to touch them until you’re not afraid of them anymore. We can use the same technique to help you overcome your fear of rejection. you’re not going to know what to do when your dream girl
76 Copyright 2000-2007 . The good thing about this exercise is that it is all internal. Basically. Hold yourself in this state for as long as you can bear before you stop. they try to shock your system until you stop responding to these triggers as threats.
and it’s not how much you like a girl. I don’t want to flirt with any other women. Who knows? Maybe you will even land yourself a date?
Bad Attitude #2: The “But She’s The Only Girl I’ll Ever Love” Attitude
By now. She is my world. Reality #4: You’re probably just infatuated with her. but how much a girl likes YOU that matters. The point of this exercise is to get rejected as much as possible. So do yourself a favor: Start practicing now. you’re probably going to screw up.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
finally shows up on your doorsteps. Reality #2: There will always be other women in this world. Since this is your objective. She is the only girl I’ll ever need.All Rights Reserved
. “But I LOVE the girl I want. I only want HER. you might be crying. We’re soul mates!!!” Get off you high horse.
Quick Self-Test: Are You In Love?
77 Copyright 2000-2007 . and infatuation is not love. Reality #3: She might not like you at all. Here are a couple of hard truths for you: Reality #1: If you don’t practice before you approach the girl of your dreams. you won't have to worry about being turned down or embarrassed! Just go out and have fun.Marius Panzarella .
and ambitions? YES____ NO____ 8) Does she even know who you are personally? YES____ NO____ If you have answered “No” to any of the questions listed above. and colour? YES____ NO____ 4) Have you met her family? YES____ NO____ 5) Do you know all of her friends? YES____ NO____ 6) Do you know any of her secrets? YES____ NO____ 7) Do you know her greatest dreams. it’s not love. band.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Do the follow self-test to see if you’re ready to call it “love”. sorry. 1) Have you been going out with her for more than 6 months? YES____ NO____ 2) Do you know all of her faults? YES____ NO____ 3) Do you know her favorite food movie.Marius Panzarella . Do you realize that what you’re seeing has taken billions of light years to reach this world? And how old are you? 18? 25? 30? 40? 50?
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Nobody Cares About Your Love Life
Go out to your backyard tonight and stare at the night sky. you’re way too obsessed with your love life. See the billions of stars out there. fears.All Rights Reserved
. Here’s the bottom line: If you’re centering your whole world on a certain girl.
They think they could just meet a special princess (who’ll go to him) one day without “wasting any time” on the stupid rituals of courtship. With that in mind. (It shows you DO need love and sex. These guys like to see themselves as “above” the conventional practices of dating. Lastly. how important do you think you are. you’re not even supposed to
79 Copyright 2000-2007 . how important do you think this girl really is.Marius Panzarella . You know. you are probably going to be clumsy in bed because as a powerful loner. These guys are never going to get laid. (Or married. just like the average Joe. Ha. the wizard who hides in the woods because he is smarter than everybody else’s. And a lot of times you would want to “lose interest” in a girl and leave because you’re afraid of taking things to a more emotional level and becoming addicted to her.All Rights Reserved
.) Having this kind of “powerful loner” attitude towards dating is fatal because: You won’t ever want to ask any girl out since the act of asking someone out will show that you’re not so powerful after all. one thing is clear: You’re just on this earth for a couple of decades. compared to the billions of stars out there? Does the universe care about you? Or the fact that you’re crazy about a girl you don’t even know? You’re right – nobody cares. compared to the universe out there? Most important of all.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
No matter how old you are.
Bad Attitude #3: The “I Don’t Need Women” Attitude
A lot of shy guys like to think of themselves as some sort of a “powerful loner”. ) You will also have trouble connecting with women emotionally because you want to keep everything to yourself. This fear of vulnerability can block you from picking up women.
If you do suffer from this mindset. Remember that love is a fair game. Spend some time meditating on this concept. It is something that you must decide for yourself. it will also stop him from getting women. okay?
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. then maybe you were raised in a family that did not believe in showing affections in public.Marius Panzarella . Here are some of the exercises you can use to purge this unhealthy “powerful loner” mindset:
Dating Exercise: Meditation
Over the years. then you must open yourself to the possibility of getting hurt No pain. Get it?
Dating Exercise: Keep A Journal
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enjoy sex. no gain. you DO have feelings – so just accept them. YOU must make the decision for yourself. I can’t force you to make the change for the better. Listen. you will pretend to be a gentleman and act like you’re not turned on – when deep inside you’re feeling so good you feel paralyzed. When you’re making out with a girl. Decide if you want to put away your “powerful loner” façade and admit that you DO need women. I’ve realized that while hiding behind a wall may keep a guy from getting hurt by a woman.
Make out as often as you can.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Blogs are good too!
Dating Exercise: Reach Out
Force yourself to reach out and make new friends.)
Dating Exercise: Let Your Horniness Control You For Once
Powerful loners usually keep their feelings under control. They never want to be horny in front of other people because they think they’re “above” the average guy. Work on getting a girl to hold your hand on a date. if you do want to get laid. Well.
Dating Exercise: Make More Physical Contact
Powerful loners usually keep their hands to themselves. It’s time to change that. You need to admit you need physical contact too! Hug all your girl friends. (I will show you how later in the course.
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. No man is an island – so stop acting like a hermit.Marius Panzarella . then it’s time to let your horniness control you for once. Share your experiences with your friends.
They have their own problems to deal with and their own emotional baggage to whine about.Marius Panzarella . Buy a cheap calendar and hang it on your wall. Men stumble and get paralyzed by beautiful women because they are afraid of messing up. Have you ever wondered why? No.
82 Copyright 2000-2007 . (Can’t make mistakes if you aren’t doing anything. They see beautiful people as far more superior to themselves and they are afraid of embarrassing themselves in front of these hot chicks. you must do fine with the ladies until you meet a “hot babe” and get “paralyzed” on the spot. They are so afraid of being frowned upon by these beautiful women that they: 1) Become paralyzed. From now on. Every time you “slip” and play with yourself.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
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. it is not because you’re falling in love. I’m serious.) 2) Stumble for the lamest jokes as they try to impress these women. the only way you will get off is with a woman. Here’s the truth: beautiful women are certainly NOT Goddesses. okay? Let your animal instincts give you the primal drive to overcome your fear of women!
Bad Attitude #4: The “She’s Too Beautiful” Attitude
If you’re like the average guy.
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To be honest with you. Once you get to know a woman.
Dating Technique: Dissociation Technique
I learned this from an actor friend. Here are a couple of techniques to keep you from wetting your pants every time you meet a beautiful woman:
Dating Technique: The Underwear Technique
Visualize the girl in her underwear when you see her. just stare at the bridge of her nose.Marius Panzarella . Here is what you do: Visualize yourself floating outside your body and watch the
83 Copyright 2000-2007 . she won’t be so mysterious and elegant anymore. most beautiful women are over-rated. does she?
Dating Technique: Focus On Her Flaws
Pick out a flaw on her face and focus on it.
Dating Technique: The Nose Stare
If you have trouble maintaining eye contact with her. Actors love using this trick at auditions!
Dating Technique: The Post-Screw Technique
Visualize the girl’s face after five MASSIVE orgasms.
However.Marius Panzarella . 4) Criticizing the players and "jerks" whenever they can. and dinners.All Rights Reserved
. These guys are guys who try very hard to let women see that they are not players.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
conversation from a “third person’s” point of view. They think that by acting the "opposites" of players. 5) Getting jealous of men who are more successful with women than they are. women will see the "long-term potential" in them and fall in love. They do things such as: 1) Complimenting and sucking up to women 2) Buying women drinks. You’re going to be much more objective with the conversation!
Bad Attitude #5: The “I Am Not A Player” Attitude
After years of helping men becoming more successful with dating.
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. Someone who excites her. They want to talk to someone who can give them the kind of intense feelings they crave. The truth is. However. Actually. many women DO enjoy what they think is "harmless flirting".Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Whenever I talk to these guys. When it comes to attraction. THAT'S what REALLY matters to women. a woman could smell a player in a minute and avoid him if she REALLY wanted to. what I want you to do is to stop worrying about what kind of man women think you are. Instead. but rather. and acting like a challenge.I want women to know that I AM a good guy for them. All they care about is what kind of feelings you can give them. When a woman sees a player she likes. All they care about is how you can make them feel both romantically and sexually. as a man who just happens to be good with women.unless they are ALREADY attracted to you. they are
85 Copyright 2000-2007 . Don't worry about whether you're being too much or too little of a player. They don't care if you're "nice" or not . she doesn't see him as a player. I don't want to think that I am like all the jerks she has dated in the past. women don't really care if you're a "player" or not.. "Yeah.Marius Panzarella . such as flirting. focus on doing things that excite women. they always tell me things such as. teasing. So goes this mean that you should become a player? No.
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.Marius Panzarella . So today I'm going to give you an exercise that will hopefully help you tap into the power of "natural attraction" that is already inside your body.
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Bad Attitude #6: The “I Don’t Need Women Or Sex” Attitude
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not going to think about whether you're a "player" or a "nice guy". then you must first become comfortable with the idea with being with a woman!
Dating Technique: The Animal Technique
It is my belief that as humans. How about you? Can you look into a woman's eyes with desire without getting nervous and looking away in shame? Can you make out with a woman without tensing up? Can you walk around naked in front of a woman without feeling any embarrassment? Can you admit to a woman that you love women who are hot and beautiful? If you want to be good with women.
5) Close your eyes and repeat to yourself. 6) Visualize them standing right in front of you and think about what you would do to them. 4) Watch the Discovery Channel or borrow some "animal tapes" from the library. Workout as hard as you can. Watch how animals interact with each other automatically without much thinking. 2) Eat a lot of food. 7) Feel your body getting warmer as the desire fills your mind." Think about the kind of women that attract you. (Do NOT play with yourself. "I am a sexy beast. Let your instincts take over!
Now that we’ve looked at the attitudes you should avoid.
Good Attitude #1: The Playful Attitude
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Here's what I want you to do: 1) Go workout at the gym. let’s look at the attitudes you should pick up. See how "natural" sex is to them.) 8) Go out and talk to the ladies. Once you've built a bit of rapport.
Let’s look at some of the things the average freaks over on a first date: Am I wearing the right shirt? Where should I touch her now? What is she smiling at? How do I impress her? What am I doing wrong? Does she like my car? How do I hold her hand? Can I go for a kiss now? Do I ask for a second date now? As you can see.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
The most common mistake the average guy makes on a first date is being too serious. So don’t ruin the night by being so darn serious! Okay. Listen. dude. Women want a guy who is a relaxed flirt. This is the opposite of what a woman looks for in a guy. the average guy worries too much about the “what’s” and “how’s” of dating. a guy who is playful and funny.Marius Panzarella . Here’re a couple of techniques that can help you become more playful with women:
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. Your mind can’t be on so many things at once. you’re going to end up screwing up your own game.
not on getting a second date. they reject you.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Dating Technique: Care About Adventure. Not Outcome
Next time you’re out on a date. you will automatically get a second date!
Dating Technique: The Playfulness Generator
Think about the following questions: 1) How much fun can I have tonight? 2) How far can I make this girl go? 3) How wet can I get her? 4) What do I find interesting about this girl?
Good Attitude #2: The “I don’t Care” Attitude
Most guys worry too much about getting results. women are going to find you much more attractive. guys usually do better in the dating game when they aren’t expecting to fall in love. But when you do.
89 Copyright 2000-2007 . And a powerful man never has to worry too much about a particular woman (at least not early in the dating game) because he has TONS of women chasing him. Women swarm all over you when you don’t want to date them. As you probably know already. Women like powerful men.Marius Panzarella . get it? So if you pick up the “I don’t care because I am already a player” attitude.All Rights Reserved
. If a woman thinks going out with you is fun. Why? Because you’re probably so worried about impressing your date that you’re acting all needy and desperate and losing your natural male charm as a result. focus on the wonderful experience of being out with a woman.
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Dating Technique: Act Like a Player!
Whenever you’re around women, walk tall and act like you’re already getting five blowjobs from five supermodels every week! Girls will start seeing you as more attractive.
Furthermore, if you worry too much about results, then you will never have the guts to take any risks – and that’s the worst thing you can ever do because you will be limiting yourself. Failure always comes before success. You MUST learn to fail before you can succeed. If you’re swinging a baseball bat for the first time, you’re probably going to miss. Dating is like baseball. You must try and try before you “get it right”. Some guys think that “failure is not an option” because they are madly in love and cannot stand rejection. This is quite sad, as in many of these cases the girls they are in love with don’t even like them at all. These guys don’t understand the fundamental dating rule…that it’s not how much you love like a girl, but how much a girl likes you that counts. Once again, guys MUST learn to let go before they can experience success with women.
Dating Technique: No Day But Today
From now on, I want you to go out and live like today is your last day on earth. The world is going to end tomorrow so you better be adventurous and do all the things you’ve only dreamt of doing. Go out, flirt with strangers, hit on
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hot chicks and do all the wildest things you’ve never done before. I know you’re probably afraid of what people may think. Well, who cares about what other people think if it’s your life? And to be honest with you, people secretly admire adventurers. You will probably get more attention and respect for doing crazy things than for sitting at home doing absolutely NOTHING. Listen. Players don’t care about consequences. They are in the game for the ADVENTURE, not the outcome. You can’t predict the outcome – so just enjoy the experience, get it? Trust me. Just go out and be crazy and do crazy things – and I guarantee you will get laid like crazy!
Good Attitude #3: The “How Far Can I Go?” Attitude
A good attitude to have when you’re dating a girl is the “How Far Can I Go?” attitude. Basically, the idea behind this attitude is to KEEP ADVANCING. When you are attracting a woman, every move you make should bring you closer to home base. Don’t waste your time idling or depending on “luck”. If you want something, you will have to get it yourself. And if you want to get into a girl’s pants, you will have to strip her defense down bit-by-bit, piece-by-piece, and step-by-step. Be always charging forward. When you meet her, get her phone number. When you have her phone number, get a date. When you go out with
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her, hold her hand. When you’re holding her hand, kiss her. Just keep advancing!!! Here are the basic steps a man has to go through in order to sleep with a woman.
The 10 Steps To The Bedroom
Initial Meeting Phone Number Date Hold Hands Kiss Cuddle Touch With Shirt On Hands under Shirt Foreplay Sex
2) 3) 4) 5) 6) 7) 8) 9) 10)
To go to from step one to ten, you will have to keep advancing. The trick to doing this is to keep working and working to get her ready for the next level. For example, if she isn’t ready for a kiss, keep flirting with her till she wants one. If she doesn’t want to take her bra off, sniff her neck and cuddle with her till she puts your hands on her breasts. She’s worried about sex? Turn her on more with foreplay till she’s begging you for it. Here’s a good one. Tease her by saying, “All you have to say is please.” If she says no, go
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back to cuddling and touching. Eventually she will be screaming YES. Don’t worry if you hit a few obstacles. Every time you bump into a wall, just see it as an opportunity to find out more about the girl. This is all information you can use later. See it as narrowing down a list of what she might like. Eventually you will find her sweet spot. No pun intended.
Dating Tip: Always Keep Advancing!
Always keep advancing! And if you encounter resistance, don’t confront it head on. Go AROUND it instead!
By the way, if you don’t advance when a girl expects you to, she’s going to lose interest in you sooner or later. Like if she’s been expecting you to ask her out but you never do, then in a couple of weeks she’s going to say “screw this guy” and mack with another guy. Or if she keeps grinding her hip on yours but you still do not make sweet love to her, she’s going to think you’re gay. See why you must keep advancing?
Good Attitude #4: The “Truth And Dare” Attitude
Here is one of the most powerful attitudes you can have as a man: the truth and dare attitude.
Dating Technique: The Truth And Dare Attitude
Remember how you used to play truth or dare as a kid and did the craziest things with your friends? Have the same mindset when you're hitting on women. Always be DARING. If you're shy, chances are you aren't daring enough. So take this as a challenge and dare yourself to keep
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pushing the boundaries. DARE yourself to say hi to her. DARE yourself to hold her hand. DARE yourself to kiss her and touch her. As for the "truth" part, always tell yourself at the back of your head that she does like you. And it's up to you to uncover that truth. Your ultimate goal is to make HER tell YOU that she likes you. Even when you can sense she does like you, don't quit until she actually says it and proves it to you!
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Acting Towards Success
ave you ever noticed how "nice guys" never get the girls? They always shower the girls with gifts and expensive dinners. They are never late on a date. They never do anything their dates have told them not to do. They obey their dates’ every wish. So why to they always lose to the jerk down the street? Simple. Because most nice guys carry the two venoms that make them unattractive to women: Insecurity and neediness.
Insecurity and Neediness
These two almost always come together. An insecure man is usually needy because he is insecure about himself. He is always trying to “do” something to please a girl because he believes that if he doesn’t keep on appeasing a girl, she’s going to dump him. Don’t make the same mistake. Keep in mind that more beautiful a woman is, the more spoiled she is. Attractive women are used to men throwing themselves at their feet. So if you do the same, they are not going to like you. As a matter of fact, they are not even going to notice you. After all, girls like special things, and you are not going to be very special if you act insecure or needy like all the other men.
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the insecure guy is like a “fat chick” to a guy . bad. he’s scared of losing her and starts doing all sorts of stupid things like calling her 10 times a day. Some example traits of an insecure and needy guy include: 1) Being over-possessive. If you do.All Rights Reserved
. She almost suffocated from the whole experience. most girls see neediness as a big no-no in a guy. a needy guy is a girl’s worst nightmare. bad. get it? I don’t care how hot your new girlfriend may be. you control freak.Marius Panzarella . you’re going to be single again very soon. To a girl. While there are SOME girls that like playing mommy.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
In many ways. My friend Betty once went out with a needy guy who would phone her like every hour. the faster she will break up with you. Always give a woman some breathing space! She can’t like you if she does not feel comfortable around you. she can’t feel safe in your arms if you’re not even strong enough to be secure about yourself. Well.
96 Copyright 2000-2007 . Just don’t be over-possessive. guess what? You can never really possess a woman physically. Bad. As soon as a needy guy ends up dating a hot chick by luck. After all. The more you try to possess her physically.
Dating Technique: Always Leave Some Breathing Room
Hot women break up with their boyfriends all the time because they are too needy.very unattractive! Most women can detect insecurity from five miles away.
they are going to find you boring by the second date and dump you by the third. Dating is no different. You want to remain mysterious! Furthermore. you always hide your bottom card so nobody knows what it is.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
2) Being showy. hiding your “bottom card” will let you come across as MUCH more powerful and dominant.
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Dating Technique: Hide Your “Bottom Card”
When you play Poker. For example. get it? Women love playing detective and getting information out of you – so let them. Let me show you what I mean.All Rights Reserved
. Wrong. In Poker. If you’re truly confident. then there isn’t any point to playing since you can’t bluff. Remember the golden rule – show. if everyone knows what your faced-down card is. In dating. Lots of men try to show off.Marius Panzarella . you can just tell her you’re in “construction”. if you’re the owner of a construction company. if a woman knows everything about you already. Don’t tell her you’re an entrepreneur with a Porsche. not tell. or simply say or do things just to attract attention or compliments. you should radiate charm. you’re going to appear as a lot less powerful.
she has absolutely no idea about how exactly powerful you are. Who’s the bitch here? Listen. so she will just think you’re a real powerhouse or guru. And we’re not just talking casual funny remarks. okay?
98 Copyright 2000-2007 . Armies always hide their true strengths until they attack Do the same with women. get it?
3) Being negative and speaking badly of others.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Powerful people are powerful because nobody knows just how powerful they are. Don’t boast too much. Politicians never let you know about their backup plans. We were having fun until she bumped into some girls. Let her find out things about you. and that’s the LAST thing you want on a date.Marius Panzarella . This way. she turned towards me and said “I hate those bitches!” Ouch. After talking her “friends”.
Dating Technique: Don’t Act Like A Whiny Bitch
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. Talking about other people ALWAYS creates a negative atmosphere. So just don’t talk about any negative or unhappy stuff. You know how some men ramble on and on about people and events? Don’t do it. I went out with this beautiful girl. Cult leaders never reveal anything about themselves.
She can’t feel safe around you if you can’t even make decisions for yourself!
Dating Technique: Make Decisions
Women love it when their men are in control. So make their darkest fantasy come true!
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Do not say ANYTHING bad about other people in general… and try to stay cool the whole time.
4) Being indecisive.Marius Panzarella . say something like “No. Make up your own mind.All Rights Reserved
. Be in control. okay? When you walk into a restaurant. Let’s sit over there. Don’t be the wimp who always asks her what to do. I just want you to start acting more assertive. Most guys are too weak in this area. The assertive man never loses his temper. I am not asking you to be a control freak. So neither should you. No further questions. choose where to sit. So don’t act like a little wimpy going out with his mother when you go out with a woman. It’s their secret fantasy. Just say “Let’s sit over there” and take her hand. It seems like a nice spot” and just take her there. I don’t care if someone scratches your car or if the waiter forgets to bring the cheque. Women love to “surrender completely” to a guy.
Remember: the more you push. if a woman didn’t want sex.
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. okay? 2) Speak up and learn to say NO. she would be dating a rag doll instead of a man.
Dating Technique: How To Be Assertive 101
1) Do not express anger and annoyance while on a date. then they will have more respect for you. Well.Marius Panzarella . Some guys tend to get pissed in response to a woman’s questions of negative mood. 7) Being defensive. the more a woman pulls away! 6) Trying too hard. Insecure guys are usually boring because they never talk about anything fun. even when you total your car. dear” attitude every time a girl throws a tantrum. which means you’re “confidently aggressive”. Always remain calm. Insecure guys are usually afraid of showing their urges because they are afraid of ruining their “powerful loner” self-images. 9) Asexual. Have the “You don’t have me fooled for a minute. instead of being needy and insecure. you need to be ASSERTIVE. They act like little brats and see if you will let them get their way. they will see you as a wimp and dump you. But if you don’t even budge. 8) Boring.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
5) Being pushy.
Learn some effective communication skills. Here are some ways to become a leader: Take on protégées.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
3) Look at people when you talk to them. The most successful CEO’s are the ones that treat everybody (including the janitor) good. 5) Be in charge. Stare at her eyes. not the other way around!
Start acting more assertive. Be approachable. and others will come to you. Treat everyone good. Make other guys feel good. They are the alpha males of the pack. Take some public speaking classes. Teach other guys one of your strengths.
How To Be More Masculine
Here are some ways to become a more masculine male. Remember: masculine males attract women naturally. The real man realizes he’s not all-powerful and isn’t afraid of asking for help. not at her boobs! 4) Ask for help if you need it.Marius Panzarella . You’re taking the woman out.
Become a leader:
Masculine males are natural leaders.
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. Let others see that you can be respected. Acknowledge their accomplishments. Compliment and thank them whenever you can.
There used to be a time when I thought I was better than everyone.
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A Word On “Alpha Reluctance”
Every once in awhile.. I get an email from a guy who'sa bit confused because he has been trying to "act alpha" or act like a leader in front of his guy friends and it has backfired on him. why should I? I'm better than the idiot!) But over the years. Instead. and I always try to act in a way that brings the "best" out of every man. It does not mean acting like a total jerk in front of people in order to prove your superiority. Most of the time.All Rights Reserved
. it turns out that the guy does not even know what being alpha really means. Don’t be afraid to be “wrong”. Do not wait to be told to do something. being alpha actually means "taking care of other people. Contrary to popular belief.Marius Panzarella . So now when I meet new friends. (After all. I would just look at a guy and think. simply do it." I'd give him a hard time or not pay him any attention at all." Tell you a secret. Don’t be afraid to step up to a task. I've come to realize that it's more important to say the GOOD inside every person. Share the credit and shoulder the blame. I always try to pick out something GOOD about the person.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
But if you want to be alpha and enjoy the benefits that come with it (including WOMEN).. pumping iron at the gym can help you increase your testosterone and become more of a man. hold eye contact until the other person breaks it off. then it's worth a try. Just to let him know I am proud of him. It's a tough road. But at the same time. when it's REALLY about getting people to FOLLOW you. but power to GUIDE them.
Hold Eye Contact
From now on. Here's the hard truth. not enemies. So many guys mistaken being alpha as stepping over other guys and acting overlycompetitive. you need FOLLOWERS. But then I will encourage him to do it... I may even make fun of them casually for a small laugh.. they all know I am looking out for them.if you want to be alpha.
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. Not the power to step over other people. you want POWER. Using this technique alone can make you seem like a much more masculine male.Marius Panzarella . your body further stimulates the release of testosterone.
During intense weight training.I may tease them a little. Yes. I will pat him on his back and pay him a compliment. and when he finally does. I may bust a guy about being too chicken to do something.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Sure. In other words. when you meet someone initially.
He’s always ready to walk away if a woman throws a tantrum or misbehaves. Instead of pushing a girl. he simply leads the way. He’s never afraid of trying new things. saying NO can be very difficult for wussy guys with low self-esteem because they think they have to meet the expectations of everyone. Learn a new language. Be a man. Learn to be more selective in life. and women will follow you. your clothes. be it your career. Go sky-diving. including women. In contrary. Lead like a man. and learn how to say “no” to a woman. Learn a new sport.
Be More Adventurous
The masculine male is always adventurous.
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Never Settle For The Second Best
Real men are picky and don’t like settling for the second best.All Rights Reserved
. Here are a few ideas on how you can expand your comfort zone and be more adventurous: Break out of your daily routines.
Don’t Take Any Bullshit
A real masculine man never takes any bullshit from anyone.Marius Panzarella . Travel more. Learn a new hobby.
Learn To Say “No”
The masculine man knows how to say “no”. Not Push Or Ask
The masculine man never pushes a woman into anything.
Always stay positive and be happy!
105 Copyright 2000-2007 . big one. rent a James Bond movie and watch him closely. A girl doesn’t want to go out with a man associated with negative feelings. So don’t start whining like a little girl.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
If you want to be a real man. By charm. he knows he will have her. This is a big turn on for women because they can just lay back and savor the moment. He knows he has a great sex drive and when he sees a girl he wants. Kennedy had charm. boys! Optimistic: This is another big one. Then he works hard until his dream becomes reality. If you still don’t know what I mean.
The real masculine male is a sexual beast.) The masculine male likes to aim high and sets goals that are seemingly impossible to achieve. Lift your chest up whenever you walk!
Real men are ambitious guys that “shoot for the moon”. People who are charming always know where they are going. I mean being attentive in a smooth way. Women love humor. James Bond had charm. (That’s if they set any goals at all. Keep her laughing.
Other Attractive Traits:
Humorous: This is a big. then you have to walk like a real man.All Rights Reserved
. Insecure men set goals that are really small because they are afraid of not reaching them.Marius Panzarella .
Casanova had charm.
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Sensual: Women love details. who would want to go out with a “barbarian”?
106 Copyright 2000-2007 . Stay mysterious! Intelligent/Educated/Cultured: Intelligence is always a bonus. and she will be yours. She wants to know you’re thinking of her. lots of women nowadays think “brains are more important then looks”. This is due to the fact that resource gathering in the modern world is more associated with intelligence then mere strength. A gift is just a symbol that you’ve been thinking of her. Just make her feel special. The truth is. Of course.All Rights Reserved
. Remember the golden rule: Show. So be sensual and attentive. Thoughtful: Remember that a girl wants to feel special. Romantic: This involves appealing to a woman’s five senses and making her feel as if she’s in paradise. Mysterious: Women love trying to “figure” a man out.Marius Panzarella .
Over 70 percent of communication is actually based on the body language and voice of the parties involved. Why? Because of his voice tone. without him even saying a word to you? So how did you do it? By observing his body language.All Rights Reserved
. Notice how in neither case. Recent research has shown that language (as in the words you say) is only a secondary way of communication. That is exactly why you should make sure you utilize your body language and voice before you worry about what lines you should be saying.Marius Panzarella . Or take this: You hear a person shouting next door.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Communicating Towards Success
an you remember a certain time when you came home and your family or friends immediately knew how you were feeling or what you were thinking about? Or can you remember a time when you could tell your best friend was happy or sad. You can’t make out a word he is saying. words are not needed to understand the message.
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108 Copyright 2000-2007 . So how do you use your body to telegraph confidence instead? Work on telegraphing your postures and movements.
Dating Exercise: Good Standing Posture Stretch
1) Stand straight with feet together. neediness or low self-esteem from five miles away. with your fingers interlocked and your palms facing upwards. At the same time raising the arms until they are stretched out. This is why they can sense insecurity.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Body Language Basics
You may have noticed that women are much more sensitive then men. Be proud. 5) Bend forward while exhaling. 3) Turn the palms down and notice the twisting movement at your elbows. Don’t hunch.
When you walk.Marius Panzarella . 2) Put your hands behind your back. They can pick put all kind of subtle things from body language. They are like cats – they can sense what’s going on or describe what’s going on with a person by just looking at them.All Rights Reserved
. always walk upright with your head held up and your shoulders back. 4) Inhale deeply.
you’re closing yourself and not listening very well.
109 Copyright 2000-2007 . Avoid the following positions: 1) Hands behind neck. As for your arms. lean back. Keep your head down and keep stretching your arms a bit higher and higher. But guess what? It’s quite disrespectful on a date because it shows you think you’re superior. just keep them uncrossed for now.Marius Panzarella .
Dating Technique: Stay Open!
It is very important to stay in an open position while you’re sitting during a date. 7) Return to the standing position slowly. You will learn how to use them later. They should remain straight throughout. Don’t lean forward.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Note: Do not bend your elbows. without unlocking your fingers. 2) Crossing arms across chest: If you cross your arms across your chest. try to open your body up by taking up more space.
Good Sitting Postures
When you sit. Always keep them apart and your shoulders back. holding your breath. 8) Repeat this exercise a couple of times. Back is the keyword here.All Rights Reserved
. Never let your legs cross. Guys love putting their hands behind their neck.
6) Remain a moment in this position.
People who are in control do not have a need to hurry. So don’t do it…just slow down. move slowly.All Rights Reserved
. simply leave them relaxed and uncrossed.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
3) Elbows on table.
Try to slow down your movements as much as possible. When you move. Why? Because slowing down will make you come off as a much more confident and mysterious person. Don’t believe me? Here’s your assignment for this week: rent any old James Bond movie. A lot of women find this disgusting. Don’t start waving all over with them!
Dating Technique: Slow Down!
Next time you meet a woman or go on a date. I would like you to try the following: slow down as much as possible. Every movement a confident man makes is slow and almost calculated. If you don’t know what to do with your arms. They are always relaxed because they know they are in charge of the situation. See
110 Copyright 2000-2007 . The opposite of this is “flaming”. When you talk. Remember that you can create mystery and intrigue by simply slowing down. It basically means you think you know much more than the girl you’re talking to. which has long been associated with homosexual men. talk slowly. He just knows when to pick up his cup and when to making a tasking motion with his hand. This is the most offensive position you can ever use. Really observe the way Bond moves. hands rubbing nose.Marius Panzarella . You know what I mean.
Every movement a confident man makes is slow and almost “calculated”. they almost never get the girls. Now. You may have a nice “mature” smile. who would YOU rather be? The stud or the goofball?
You can also do wonders with your facial expressions. The strong. Always keep your facial expressions serious and “mature”.Marius Panzarella . There is no need to laugh out loud. Just like James Bond. As for the hyperactive goofballs. silent type. He’s not exactly what I would call the most articulate person in the world. here’s a more “recent” example. Want more examples? Okay. but all the ladies (including my own mother) dig him because of his body language. but don’t start acting all goofy because it shows a sense of insecurity. Women know this. you will find that he’s just about the slowest guy on earth.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
if he’s ever in a rush when there aren’t any bombs exploding around him. They are always relaxed because they just KNOW they are in charge of the situation.) But smiling slightly is good. a man who is in control has no reason to be in a hurry. Remember. and that’s why they go for the “strong. (Hiding behind jokes and body gestures.All Rights Reserved
.” Want proof? Okay. Remember Joe Millionaire on TV? Not the smartest guy. Women love men who are happy and positive. silent and slow type ALWAYS win and get picked at the end.
111 Copyright 2000-2007 . he just knows when to pick up his cup and when to raise an eyebrow. Just watch any episode of “Blind Date” or the “5th Wheel”. If you observe the way Evan moves on TV. is he? But women find him dead sexy.
Marius Panzarella . (Chin towards neck. Remember to walk tall with your head up and shoulders back. 2) Practice turning your head slowly in this direction.
112 Copyright 2000-2007 . Like if you find 4 counts too fast. But try to keep things simple as less is always more.) This always makes you seem more mysterious and mature yet down to earth.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Try to keep your head a bit tilted horizontally.All Rights Reserved
. And so forth. Count how many counts it takes you to fully turn to the side and then try out other speeds. 5) Stopping to turn and make eye contact.
Dating Exercise: How To Slow Down
1) Stand up and walk slowly. You will be able to make wonderful eye contact in this position too. See what speed works with you the best. Try out various patterns such as: 4) Turning your head to make eye contact without stopping. 3) Make “eye contact” with various objects in your room as you walk and turn your head. Here’s a quick exercise for you to practice your body posture and movement. go for 5. 6) Make eye contact and then start walking towards the object. You may do small things with your brows such as squinting them a bit and then raising an eyebrow to show some interest.
The Dangers Of Stillness
Someone I’ve noticed about a lot of shy. nervous and insecure people is that they tend to still very still. Something I like to do is to watch the television with the sound muted. Next time you go to a mall. remaining in the background is the last thing you need. The reason shy guys don’t like to move is because they want to remain in the background. Who knows? You may catch a glimpse of the reflection of a girl checking you out!
Remember that if you master the art of body language. a whole new world of communication will open up for you. On the other side. 8) Go out and practice.All Rights Reserved
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7) Walk over to a chair slowly and sit down.Marius Panzarella .
113 Copyright 2000-2007 . But when you’re trying to be sociable. You will become a far more accurate interpreter of what other people are thinking and feeling. walk slower and turn your head slowly as you check out the window displays. I highly suggest you practice moving around and practicing your body language. I also love to mirror their movements for practice. I love to study actors and analyze their body language. So if you’re the type of guy who tend to stand still or sit still whenever you’re in a public situation (such as a nightclub or party). Remember to open up and keep your body back. men who are outgoing and confident seem to move around confidently and naturally. and appear as a much more sensitive person then most men.
It will definitely help your articulation a lot. Draw in a deep breath before you say something. They can talk their way into anything – especially into a girl’s pants! Here is what marks a “deep. Any movement is better than no movement!
If you want to turn a woman on right away. Or do you just babble a lot? Here is how you can improve your voice. Also.All Rights Reserved
. or does it sound rich? Articulation – How well your articulate your words. Most players have a FABULOUS voice and very good communication skills. remember that slow means confidence and power. no matter how whiny or high-pitched you may sound: By talking slower and deeper. I can’t emphasize this enough.” Your voice always creates a first impression with every girl you meet. And talk SLOWLY.Marius Panzarella . The women will be holding their breath
114 Copyright 2000-2007 . Break off your sentences with pauses often. you better have a “deep. Is it all flat and boring.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Start by adopting more than one sitting or standing position when you’re with people. sexy voice. Then work on getting up and moving to places as you met new friends. Musicality – How musical the tone is. sexy” voice: Resonance – How well your mouth resonates your voice. Women will find you much more mature because you are “thinking” before you speak.
if you haven’t done this before. Film actor Harrison Ford is a great speaker. They know when to pause – such as right before important words and ideas. By the way. Remember.All Rights Reserved
. Watch his interviews. unstructured dialogue.Marius Panzarella .
115 Copyright 2000-2007 . For example: “Have you ever met someone who’s just…(pause) as (serious look) venerable as you are deep inside?”
Dating Technique: Pause When You Talk
Great speakers know how to build anticipation in their speech. This way you can hear yourself speaking natural.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
and dying to see what you have to say next. This way you can hear yourself as women hear you. anticipation is the key! You may combine this with serious looks for even better results. The voice you hear is probably going to sound VERY different than the voice you hear in your head! You can also use a tape recorder to tape yourself speaking with your friends. it may be very freaky to hear yourself on tape. You will find he speaks VERY slowly – almost as if he’s searching for his words. And guess what? Women find him sexy!
Now let’s work on your voice a bit:
Dating Exercise: Tape Recorder
Get a tape recorder and record yourself speaking.
round tone that women find sexy? How clear are your consonants? Is your voice pleasant to hear?
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What do you think of your voice? Do you have a deep. try this one last method: Take a big yawn and let your voice slide down. Kinda like when you’re coughing. when we’re excited and use more energy to project our voice our pitches goes up…and gets stuck up there. You can discover your optimal pitch by saying the word “he” fast and hard. Your voice should become “rounder” and more pleasant near the bottom. We tend to lose our optimal pitch because the voice has a tendency to drive itself up. That’s your optimal pitch. Another way to find it is to say an exaggerated “uh-uh” as if you mean “no way”.
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Dating Exercise: Discover Your Optimal Pitch
Your optimal pitch is your “natural speaking pitch” and the pitch you should use with a woman because it’s deep and sexy. However. this is a note that is lower than the note we usually speak during the day. That’s your optimal pitch. If you have trouble finding your optimal pitch. Just repeat it and attack it as if you’re coughing.
practice speaking down there. let out on a long vowel or a consonant-vowel sequence (e. Inhale and take a big yawn.Marius Panzarella . then your soft palate is probably being lazy.All Rights Reserved
. Now. try to feel your chest resonate when you speak. try
117 Copyright 2000-2007 . baaa. aaah. You can even do this in the car!
Dating Exercise: How to Stop Sounding Nasal
Some of you may have a very nasal voice. remaining dropped and therefore blocking air from reaching your mouth. and as you go “down”. imagine you’re singing the highest sound you can sing.). To find your soft palate. You will feel an area lifting up at the back of your mouth.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Once you’re reacquainted yourself with your optimal pitch. beeee. mmuuu. You will find yourself with a much rounder tone. You may need to find your optimal pitch over and over because we all tend to “lose” it throughout the day. oooh. mmmaaaa. But reacquainting your voice with it should be no problem because this is a very easy exercise. That’s your soft palate. you need to learn to lift your soft palate when you speak. If you have heard yourself on a tape recorder and think your voice is too nasal. In that case. Just IMAGINE it with your mouth closed. Don’t actually sing it. mmmoooo. eeeee.
Dating Exercise: Resonance Exercise
For a start.g.
As for the musicality of your voice. King Kong becomes King-Ah-Kong-Ah Ding Dong becomes Ding-Ah-Dong-Ah Bing Bong becomes Being-Ah-Bong-Ah Ling Long becomes Ling-Ah-Long-Ah Now record yourself saying these sounds. I must say that it is a shame that most of us live in North America. Do you sound less nasal? Incorporate the same technique to your everybody speech and with practice. there are a few things you can do to develop musicality in your voice. adverbs and nouns that are associated with color and imageries such as “love. Pretty cool huh? Now add an “ah” behind every word as you read the following phrases. beautiful. Really emphasize on the “ah” and open fully when you say it. red”. with your mouth open.All Rights Reserved
. However. to see your soft palate lifting up.
Dating Exercise: How To Work On Your Tone
Try putting a slight emphasize on “important words”.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
this again in front of a mirror.
118 Copyright 2000-2007 . Standard American English is simply not as “musical” as more romantic languages such as French. you WILL be able to sound less nasal. including 1) The name of the person you’re talking to 2) .Marius Panzarella .
Dating Exercise: Practice Sonnet – Shakespeare’s Sonnet 18
Shall I compare thee to a summer's day? Thou art more lovely and more temperate. The last thing you want to do is to sound too feminine. remember to keep your voice DEEP as you do this.Marius Panzarella . “Daaar-liiiinng. Rough winds do shake the darling buds of May.
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A word of warning though. substitute words for numbers. And summer's lease hath all too short a date. As you get more comfortable. By chance or nature's changing course untrimm'd. They run out of breath before they finish their sentences! Practice counting 1 to 10 while gradually increasing your volume as you speak.All Rights Reserved
. Read out simple sonnets and nursery rhymes. How beeeeeaaaautiful!” You know what I mean. This way you will know when to pause to take breaths Next. Sometime too hot the eye of heaven shines. And every fair from fair sometime declines. Repeat this until you know just how much breath you have in your body.
Dating Exercise: Avoid The Fading Tone
A lot of guys sound boring because of their fading tone. work with other materials such as newspaper articles. And often is his gold complexion dimm'd.
you should go look for some speech training tapes or CDs. For my favorite tongue twisters. Red leather. Topeka. You can improve your articulation (and stop stuttering in front of girls) by doing tongue twisters. The sixth sick sheik’s sixth sheep’s sick. yellow leather. Bodega. please see Appendix A at the back of the book.Marius Panzarella . irresistible voice. So long lives this.
Articulation means clarity of speech. Nor shall Death brag thou wander'st in his shade. the tip of the tongue. the teeth. Rubber baby buggy bumper. Practice really makes perfect when it comes to speaking.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
But thy eternal summer shall not fade Nor lose possession of that fair thou ow'st. The lips.
Dating Exercise: Sample Tongue Twisters
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120 Copyright 2000-2007 . Sushi chef. When in eternal lines to time thou grow'st: So long as men can breathe or eyes can see. and this gives life to thee.
If you are serious about developing a sexy.
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Part 3: Emotions…Desire…Action!
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Marius Panzarella . desire and action. For a start…
Dating Exercise: What Kind Of Women Do You Like?
Write Down: 1) 5 things about the physical attributes you’re attracted to. Do you like sporty chicks? Or do you like classy.All Rights Reserved
What Kind Of Women You Should Date
Before you go out to meet women. If you know what you’re looking for.
123 Copyright 2000-2007 . 2) 5 things about the personality of your dream girl 3) 5 hobbies she may be interested in. then you will be able to “spot” the girls you want easier. it is time to step aside from the theories and learn to apply the three-step approach to attracting women: emotions. you should have an idea of what type of girl you would like to meet.
You should also figure out what “type” of women you’re attracted to.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Meeting And Approaching Women
ow that you have the proper mindset to enter the dating game.
Fun to be with
Date women with a fun personality. You can count on it. always a liar. that's usually a sign there're deeper problems within her. Whenever you hear I say "good character" in a woman.All Rights Reserved
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professional workers? Or maybe you want a teacher who loves working with children? This is quite essential to the next part: where to meet women. A boring woman will drive you crazy as soon as the initial hormone-driven honeymoon period is over. Just like a woman who has lied to you once will often lie again. 3) Socially Skilled
Find a woman who can get along with anyone. A woman who has lied to you over and over will lie to you again in the future.Marius Panzarella . 5) Adventurous and open-minded
124 Copyright 2000-2007 . a woman who has cheated once will usually cheat again. I am referring to these qualities. always a cheater. If a woman "hates the world" or people in general. 2) Loyal
Once a cheater. Here are a few qualities you should look for in a woman if you're interested in a long-term relationship. A good girlfriend should be:
Never date a liar.
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Where To Meet Women
Research shows that a couple is more likely to stay together in a long-term relationship if they have common interests. (If you don't. classy and sophisticated
Cultured women often make a better companion if you live in a big city.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Find a woman you can travel and explore the world with.) 7) Frugal
Beware of big spenders and golddiggers. 9) Flexible
Try to find someone who's willing to compromise. Narrow-minded women usually have limited foresight and get boring after awhile.
Cultured. 8) "Clean"
Your girlfriend should be currently clean of any drug or alcohol problems.
A positive thinker
This one is very important.Marius Panzarella . This is why you see a lot of men marrying women in their own fields or professions. Pessimistic people will drain all your energy out of you. Teachers usually marry
125 Copyright 2000-2007 . it doesn't really matter. A spoiled princess will drive you nuts eventually. They will drain your bank account empty and then leave without looking back.
Be it jazz or ballet or
126 Copyright 2000-2007 . then go to places where they may hang out!
Generally. Simply think about where the kind of women you’d like to meet would most likely hang out. My personal favorite is the dance class. You should be able to meet women anytime. if you like sporty women in their cute tank tops. Really…just go out and have fun…be it the shopping mall or at a party… Generally. go to a library or a bookstore. always be trying out new locations and times. you will put yourself in a higher probability if you go to places where women outnumber you like 10-1. However. and so on. if you like a specific kind of women.All Rights Reserved
. actors usually marry actresses.
Dating Technique: Where To Meet Women
If you like a specific kind of women. They are just interested in getting into a woman’s pants (Aren’t we all?) and personally I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. go take a self-defense class. anywhere. Do NOT limit yourself to just one location. hang around a gym or sports field. go to a university campus. If you like tough women. If you like college girls.Marius Panzarella . you shouldn’t limit yourself to any of these grounds. This is why some dating coaches believe it is better to meet women at work or through friends rather then in single bars. The point is. scientists usually marry other scientists.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
other teachers. there are single-bar experts who simply concentrate on one-night stands. you should go to places where they hang out. For example. And at the other end of the spectrum. For real smart women.
What a great basis for a relationship!
The same goes for the city you live in. Also.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved
. you will probably be the only guy in the whole class.
127 Copyright 2000-2007 . Always be looking out for more opportunities. try to find a volunteering job you actually enjoy. This means they are going to be young and cute! These girls should also make nice girlfriends because no cold. If you are from a small town. Keep in mind that the volunteers who work at your destination will probably share the same interests as you.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
ballroom. An excellent location is LA.
Dating Technique: Let Women Outnumber You!
To increase your chances.
Dating Technique: Volunteer Your Way Into Paradise!
Most volunteer jobs have females outnumbering guys 10 to 1. This happens a LOT in dance classes. go to places where women outnumber you 10 to 1. today most volunteers are younger college students. And guess what? All the women will be hitting on you. bad girl who enjoys playing guys would waste time volunteering! They would rather spend all their time cheating on guys instead! When you volunteer. etc who are there to pick up work experience. you may want to move to a big city. lying. where every waitress looks like a future Oscar winner. Do you like art? Work at the art museum. cheating.
. you suddenly find yourself without any friends left. I chatted up a guy at the gym last year who turned out to be a major player.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Be creative as you search for your hunting grounds. I was pretty busy at the time and so I couldn't hang out much. So if you're the type of guy who doesn't get invited to a lot of events because you haven't been socially active in
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Expand Your Social Circle
You should also expand your social circle as much as possible.) But he was persistent. You start to see your girlfriend more and your drinking buddies less. Here's the truth: lots of men who are good at women are just natural alpha males with strong social and leader skills. (Had my own hunts to do as well. It happens at the beginning of every relationship. A strong leader does NOT mind adding new recruits to his circle of influence. And when you break up with your girlfriend 2. the more power social status he will have. You’re not going to have much time to make new friends once you start dating someone exclusively.5 years later. your relationship will probably take you AWAY from your social circle. Remember that girls love the idea of meeting their soul mates “accidentally” and being swept away by the moment. He got my number and email. This is why you must have a close circle of friends before you get into a relationship.and started inviting me to his parties and to go on his "hunts" for women at the clubs the day after. He knows that the more friends he has. Don’t be afraid to pick up women in ordinary places such as the supermarket..Marius Panzarella . You MUST have a social life before you have a love life! Why? Because when you start dating seriously.All Rights Reserved
Dating Exercise: A Short Guide To Getting A Social Life
Here is a short guide to expanding your social circle and getting a social life. you can just keep on rolling it bigger and bigger . It's good practice . No more than 30 minutes a day.Marius Panzarella . and other retail stores for awhile. you REALLY need to start taking the time and effort to invite other people to hang out with YOU. If you look at all the successful people in pretty much every single field (including dating).they have been trained to be nice to you. I promise you that if you follow it to the bone. 2) Cut down on computer games. Ebay. If you watch more than one hour a day. Spend the next 6 months building up your social circle. 3) Stop shopping on Amazon. you will encounter MANY women on the way: 1) Stop watching so much television.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
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.but once you have your own "stable" of boys and guys.. NO MORE. Cancel your full cable TV subscription and use the money to go out instead.and eventually meeting even MORE people just through your own friends. it's too much.
129 Copyright 2000-2007 . and I promise you that you'll be surrounded by women very shortly. one common trait is that they are all strong leaders with huge social circles. Do "window-shopping" at malls and just interact with the sales people. It'll be hard at first..
don't be afraid of meeting people in general and getting numbers and emails/Instant Messenger nicknames from both men and women.
Average Frustrated Chump Tries to hunt for women at just one
Smart Dater Meets women anywhere.All Rights Reserved
.) It's not about hitting on girls or meeting people at the gym . 12) Most important of all. Eat out with friends. 5) Find new hobbies and join various hobbie groups. I know a guy who has met dozens of people over just one summer by acting in a play. musicals. 7) Take dancing and yoga classes. 10) Scour your city or community’s social calendar for interesting plays. 8) Get a gym membership instead of working out in the basement. Learn as much about arts as you can because it can really make you look smart in front of people.
130 Copyright 2000-2007 . (Or not even working out at all.Marius Panzarella . 6) Take a night class outside work or college. Learn to cook and go to potlucks.it's about having people around you and breaking out of your shell. 9) Invite your co-workers or college classmates to hang out with you for food or for drinks. Great way to meet people (and women). 11) Volunteer. art exhibition. classical or pop concerts.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
4) Stop getting take out or deliveries.
Meets new girls through his friends.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
location.Marius Panzarella . what do you think is going to happen? She’s going to have to reject him. you can’t just walk up to a woman and start macking. You have to take small.
131 Copyright 2000-2007 . Doesn’t have a social life. Unless you’re Tom Cruise. even if she’s a little bit interested.
Before You Approach
Remember the three steps to attracting women – emotions. The fear of rape is the biggest concern a woman has when she meets a guy initially. Never goes out. Similarly. She’ll probably smile back and enjoy the attention. desires. Think about what an average hot blonde girl has to go through when she goes to a bar. She will probably see a dozen men stop talking and stare at her like they are dogs.All Rights Reserved
. Safety is the biggest concern to every women. and action? It is VERY important that you pay attention to the following emotions when you first approach a woman: fear and annoyance. But if one of these horny guys come up to her and asks for her number right away.
Goes out with his friends all the time. you can’t just walk up to a woman on the streets and surprise her by hitting on her. measurable steps and make sure she feels safe and comfortable. She’s going to think you’re a freak. Remember: no girl likes to have her personal space invaded by a stranger.
) So…how can you meet women “anywhere” if you can’t interrupt a stranger? By becoming part of their world. “I really like the shirt you’re wearing. there are some rare occasions when a guy can succeed. They’re not part of each other’s world.” What are you going to think? How are you going to feel? Probably something like. But if the two people are sitting together…say…like at a bus stop. Yes. or on a bench. Always wait till a girl has stopped before you approach her. Let’s say there are two people walking on the streets.Marius Panzarella . A man suddenly pulls up besides you and says. it means she’s trying to get somewhere and does not have time to chat. sunny day.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Let’s say you’re walking down the streets on a bright. “This guy is creeping me out. my name is…. They are in their own little bubbles. then it makes MUCH more sense for one of them to start chatting with the other person. Hi. What a weirdo!” This is exactly why you can’t just approach a girl and hit on her on the street. Instead. (I may write a more advanced textbook on “street pickups” in the future. But don’t just walk up to a girl randomly to ask for her phone number. minding your own business. approach girls that are sitting down or waiting in line with you.All Rights Reserved
. In this case. at the bus stop. Approach girls after class. there’s no way for them to build a connection with each other.
132 Copyright 2000-2007 . don’t go drooling around campus and approaching every girl you see. but it’s probably not going to happen for most people. If a girl is walking. So…if you’re a college kid hoping to get a girl.
Women do NOT like surprises from strangers. always approach her from the front. If she smiles back.Marius Panzarella . always stand or sit down in her direct view. Remember the first time a stranger called you or tapped you on the shoulder from behind you? Did you get more cautious usual? You don’t want this reaction from a woman when you approach her. Then make direct eye contact with her and smile slightly. Let her see you first. it means she does NOT want you to approach her at all. If she does. you don’t want to surprise or interrupt a woman abruptly. you know she acknowledges your presence. you should make yourself presence known to her AND signal your interest right away. it means you can approach her. If she looks down or blushes lightly. You want her to feel safe and comfortable with you. This way.
Direction Of Approach
When you approach a woman. attractive lady you would like to meet at a bar or club. you won’t be a stranger and she will feel much more comfortable already.All Rights Reserved
. But if she avoids your eye contact and looks away. if one of your friends know the girl you want. Whenever you see a young. always get your buddy to introduce you to her whenever possible. wait for about forty seconds and see if she steals another glance at you.
Grab Her Attention With The Eye-Contact Test
As soon as you’ve decided to approach a woman. This is VERY important because once again. This simple eye contact test works fabulously because unlike using a pick-up line. it does not put anyone on the
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By the way.
Dating Technique: Make Your Move NOW
As soon as you meet a girl you’re interested in. at least meet her eyes and catch her attention. or feigns interest in something else in the room because she is so darn coy. smiles at her slightly and give her a friendly nod. MAKE YOUR move.a. A woman usually lowers her eyes when a man looks at her because she’s shy. But this does not mean she is not interested in you. If she smiles back you’re halfway there. Don’t look away until she does. Furthermore. she’s onto you! If she does look at you again. So make your first move now – even if it’s just a smile and a nod. They love to feel like a romance has just happened out of nowhere. Research has shown that if she looks up again within 45 seconds.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
spot. if you don’t let your presence known a.
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. “Hello.Marius Panzarella . Some out-going women may even strike up a conversation with you or at least say. If you’re too afraid to approach her. By respecting the girl’s personal space and being subtle about your pick up attempt.s. you can now approach women without the fear of getting rejected. she may think you’re a stalker when you suddenly appear out of nowhere later.
Dating Technique: The Silent Pick Up Line
Simply look at her and hold your eye contact for at least five seconds. Women LOVE spontaneity.
2) You aren’t demanding enough attention. she is not going to notice you. he’s still wondering why all
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. you’re setting yourself up for embarrassment!
What If Nobody Notices You
If no woman ever pays any attention to you when you try the eye-contact test. The first guy rushes his butt to the corner to sit down and sits down alone. Half an hour later.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Dating Technique: ALWAYS Approach A Woman From The Front
Whenever you approach a woman. Let her see you as you approach her. if a girl is busy doing something or walking somewhere.Marius Panzarella . In this case. If you try to pick up an ice queen. Here’s an example: Two guys walk into a house party. just wait for a better situation. You don’t want to surprise her and make her think you’re creepy!
Dating Technique: ALWAYS Test A Women First!
It’s VERY important that you test a woman with eye contact before you attempt to pick her up. Once again. Do not ever approach her from the back. Remember the golden rule: It’s not how much you like her. but how much SHE likes you that counts.
Having fun?” Then he checks out the room quickly and makes quick eye contact with everybody in the room with one clean sweep. Be the guy that women talk about. If you act timid.Marius Panzarella . All around him.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
the girls he’s trying to make eye contact with are not responding to him. Here are a couple of tips on how you can get more attention from women at a house party or at a club: 1) Stop at the door when you enter: Stage actors do this when they get onstage. then you should start demanding attention. of course you’re going to get ignored. women are whispering to each other. There. How are you doing. “Hello. you will make your entrance more dramatic. A second guy shows up at the door. 2) Do a quick scan-around: Make eye-contact with the women in the room
3) Walk straight to a destination in the middle of the room: If you have buddies with you. If you want attention from women. He looks at the guy in the eyes and approaches him slowly. By stopping at the entrance. walking tall and moving with confidence. lead them and let them follow you. “Who’s this guy?” Listen.
136 Copyright 2000-2007 . His gaze finally stops at a guy talking to two beautiful women in the center of the room. everybody.All Rights Reserved
. he pauses and says. “Long time no see. while keeping his eye contact until the other man looks away. buddy?” He smiles as he shakes hands.
6) Stay in the center of the room: Don’t go off to the sides until you can isolate a woman into coming with you. the more likely you'll know where the parties are.All Rights Reserved
Average Frustrated Chump Is afraid of attention. 2) START CONVERSATIONS Going to a party is useless if you're just going to be a wallflower. 5) Walk tall: Walk with confidence. Makes eye-contact with a woman instantly. Give him a firm handshake and eye contact. So make it a habit to do something to expand your social circle every weekend.
137 Copyright 2000-2007 . Lift your chest when you walk. “Surprises” a woman. You can never make too many friends.
Dating Technique: How To Meet Women At Parties
1) SEARCH OUT PARTIES ACTIVELY The more you party. Make sure you go out of your way to talk to everyone and ANYONE . the more likely people will invite you next time. Tests for permission before the approach.Marius Panzarella . “Gathers enough courage” to approach women.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
4) Approach the hottest guy: Approach the hottest guy in the room if you know him.
Smart Dater Demands attention.including guys AND girls. And the more parties you go to. Don’t look away until he does.
How can you know if a woman is a good candidate for a date if you don't talk to her first? 4) BE A GOOD LISTENER Remember what I've taught you about holding good conversations. Listen plenty.to meet people. nod your head like it's the most delicious piece of food you've ever had. and then make a comment. Take a bite. 7) USE THE FOOD TO BEGIN CONVERSATION This one is my favorite.All Rights Reserved
. 6) LOOK FOR WALLFLOWERS If you see a woman sitting by herself. She may just be waiting for someone to come up to talk to her. go introduce yourself to her. Try to actually GET TO KNOW these people as much as you can. 8) USE THE FOOD AS AN EXCUSE TO MOVE
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3) MAKE CONTACT.Marius Panzarella . Go out and meet new people.
Wait 10 to 15 minutes. So if you find a woman checking you out.. 10) TAKE WOMEN OUTSIDE / INTO ANOTHER ROOM
What If A Woman Makes Eye Contact With YOU
I'm going to tell you what to do when you check a woman checking you out.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Don't have too much food on your plate. you can flash her a big smile or even toast her a drink from across the room. FLIRT.Marius Panzarella . "Nothing. This way you can keep getting up and moving around. This is VERY important. and then approach
139 Copyright 2000-2007 . If she goes like. The answer is really quite simple: Approach her!!! Remember that women are naturally attracted to men who are bold. What's your name?" Or. direct.All Rights Reserved
. "whaaaat?" just flash her another smile and say. Then turn around casually and resume your conversation with your buddies.. and confident. 9) FLIRT... just approach her and say "Hi" with a big smile.if you're in a nightclub setting. Just thought you might be a interesting person and so I came up to say 'Hi'. FLIRT Remember to be PLAYFUL and flirt with all the ladies.
Smiling gets you attention and that’s why you need to smile! And when you smile. (Even if they are really dying of stage fright inside.) Don't squint your eyes or tense your eyes physically.All Rights Reserved
. (They look PAST the camera and the person interviewing them. (This is called a 2-stage approach and it works like a charm. I want you to actually look PAST her eyes.) It helps them focus and give off an illusion of SUPREME CONFIDENCE. guys are always looking for some secret guaranteed-to-work-scripted-chat-up-lines that can seduce
140 Copyright 2000-2007 . This is the same technique actors use during interviews as they look at the camera.) If you do this correctly. don’t forget to SMILE. I don't want you to just look at her eyes. I want you to SMILE as soon as you enter the club. "Damn. I want you to imagine you're gazing THROUGH her eyes and into her soul. Forget about the dating coaches that say you have to “look serious”.)
Don’t Forget To SMILE When You Make Eye Contact
Next time you make eye contact with a woman. As you make eye contact with her. Just keep everything relaxed and imagine gazing THROUGH her eyes as you smile at her. He's sexy!"
Your Opening Line
You know.Marius Panzarella . (Obviously. you can't actually look "through" a woman physically unless you're superman with x-ray vision.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
her table. you'll be able to send out a mysterious force of sexual energy that can literally disarm a woman and make her think. The whole process should take place inside your head. If you’re going to a nightclub.
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every single woman on this planet. and you will end up like most guys: Lonely and sexually frustrated! Examples of bad pick up lines: 1) Are you accepting applications for your fan club? 2) Can I flirt with you? 3) Want to taste my dick? (What!?!) I said. etc. Yes. Most guys think pick up lines are for "picking up women for sex". it would be cool if there were "seven magic words" (or any of that junk) that you could use to instantly attract women. but here's the truth: there aren't. "do you want to taste my drink?" 4) You know…you're so hot.
How To Start A Conversation
The true purpose of an opening line is NOT to “pick up” a girl. 5) Haven’t I seen you somewhere before? You get the idea. your ass is on fire.Marius Panzarella . She must feel connected to you emotionally before she can feel attracted to you. The whole point of an opening line is to help you calibrate her emotional state with yours. So here’s the bottom line: CHEESY PICK-UP LINES DO NOT WORK! Use them. They think a player can just say some "secret" pick up line that can arouse a woman instantly and take her home.
I’ve been waiting here for an hour!” she’s going to quickly switch from a neutral mood into a negative one.
142 Copyright 2000-2007 . But if you say something nice that makes her laugh first. If you approach a woman while you’re very nervous and tense. Let’s say a woman is feeling neutral and relaxed at the bus stop. then she’s not going to mind talking to you. she will probably feel a little bit more cheerful as well.Marius Panzarella . If you walk up to her and say something negative like. she’s going to feel the “awkward energy” in the air too. Another example is nervousness.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Great emotional bonding will probably take a whole conversation to develop. if you introduce yourself or ask for her phone number right away. On the other hand. For example. She will associate you as a whiner and a negative person to be around. you know it’s a waste of time to talk to her. “I hate this transit system. she’s going to be scared. 3) Establish a mutual emotional state: Whatever you say can greatly affect a woman’s mood.All Rights Reserved
. if you approach a woman in a cheerful manner. That’s what the opening line is for: to get her to open up to you. 2) Break the ice: A woman must let you into her personal space before you can calibrate her emotional state with yours. 4) Make her feel comfortable: A woman must be in a “relaxed” or “slightly curious” state in order for her to open up to you. but the opening line can help you to… 1) Test the waters: If she doesn’t even want to answer back.
Generally. Simply pick something out of your environment and comment on it:
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The Four-Steps To Approaching A Woman Step 1: Eye Contact and Smiling
Always do the eye contact test to test for her “buying signals” before you approach her.All Rights Reserved
. Most guys just suddenly appear out of nowhere and throw out some cheesy pickup line that the girl has probably heard a dozen times already.
Step 2: Use An Opening Line
Since every woman and situation is different. the easier this will become. Of course these suckers are going to get rejected! Always use the "silent pickup line" (eye contact) before you try a verbal one. 2) Compliments 3) Question
The situation-opener is a great place to start for beginners.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
5) Open up conversation: A good opener can help you to lead a woman into further conversation.Marius Panzarella . there are three kinds of opening lines: 1) Situation openers. it’s making small talk with women. The more women you approach. whatever you say should be "made up" on the spot with lighting speed. where true emotional bonding will take place. You want to let her know you're interested BEFORE you surprise her with an approach. Basically.
Give a woman a compliment and then leave to do “something else” before she can react. Example #1: “That’s a nice book you’re reading. I read it last month. Here are a few examples: 1) Enjoying the concert? 2) What did you think about the show?
144 Copyright 2000-2007 . eh?” Example #2: “I love this song” Example #3: “Great party!” Example #4: “Pretty busy here tonight isn’t it?” Example #5: “Quite a crowd.All Rights Reserved
.” Example #6: “It’s nice to see the sun.”) The best way to pull the compliment off is by doing a hit and run. She will probably pay more attention to you from that point on.” Example #2: “Nice shirt you’re wearing.” (If it’s a shirt with lettering…like “Diva.
The last kind of opening line is the question.”
This one is harder to pull off for the beginner. Stay away from her beauty and looks.” Example #7: “Great concert. Compliment her on something tiny.Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Example #1: “Nice day. I think it suits you.
but also HOW you say it that is important. and grounded posture if you wanna become good around the ladies.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
3) Been waiting long? 4) Cabbage for tonight. Keep your grieves and sorrows to yourself. funny. Women like confident. remember that it's not just what you say. A lot of guys try to memorize or think of dozens of "cool" pick up lines to use on women. and HAPPY guys.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved
Step 3: Ask A More Specific Question
The next step is to ask a more specific question. eh?” Example #3: “Have you seen their last concert?” Example #4: “You go to school here?”
145 Copyright 2000-2007 .) Lastly. (Actually. only to stutter or sound like horny perverts when they actually say them. eh?
A Quick Side Note
Before you open your mouth. such as: Example #1: “Are you from around here?” Example #2: “So you like <genre>. confident. You should also have GOOD POSTURE when you approach a woman. Do NOT whine about ANYTHING. you want to speak slowly and clearly when you first say something on a girl. you should ALWAYS have a good. remember to keep your opening lines positive. For a start.
exchanging names will actually bring you closer to her because it’s a mutual exchange between you two. if you would like to have an advantage over other guys.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
The key to this part is to find something that you have common with.” But if you talk to her BEFORE you give her your name. then you’re offering it as a sign of friendship AFTER she has already got to talk to you. She should shake your hand and tell you her name. We have something in common!” Once you’ve found something in common. This will be the step to bonding with her emotionally. “I’m <name>”. The reason why you should talk to her BEFORE you tell her your name is because telling her your name at the beginning won’t do you any good. You want to let her think. “Oh dear. “Cool.Marius Panzarella . it should be easy to start a conversation with the girl.All Rights Reserved
. She’ll probably just think. Another guy hitting on me. then you should always be asking yourself the following question:
146 Copyright 2000-2007 . This way. You can start a conversation with her at this point. Offer your hand and say. you want to introduce yourself. people always ask. As a Smart Dater.
Dating Technique: How To Get Women To Choose YOU Over OtherMen
In business. "What are you doing that your competitors are not doing?"
I think the same principle applies to dating and women as well.
Step 4: Introduce Yourself
Don't be the guy who waits a long time before making a move on a woman. "Shy" men who don't have many friends tend to fall for the women closest to them because they don't have any friends. period. The more sociable you are and the more women you meet.Marius Panzarella . 1) Be BOLDER than other men Being bolder than other men will give you an edge over the average man. here are some practical tips on how you can "outdo" your competition. the greater your chances of getting a girlfriend that you'll really like. But as a Smart Dater. 4) Be MORE creative than other men Don't use canned lines and don't do anything stupid like passing a woman a note.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
"What am I doing that other guys are not doing to attract the ladies?" With that said. you should know that flirting is just a way of being friendly with women! (And the key to raising attraction!) 3) Be MORE sociable than other men This is an obvious fact. as most guys are afraid to take chances.All Rights Reserved
. Remember my philosophy: It is better to crash and burn than to not do anything! 2) Flirt MORE than other men Many guys think it is "wrong" to flirt with women. 5) Be MORE relaxed and spontaneous than other men
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148 Copyright 2000-2007 .Marius Panzarella . Be more of a challenge than other guys and the ladies will come to you. as I told a reader the other day.
Where To Meet Women: 1) Hang out at places where women out-number you. 2) Expand your social circle. 7) Be MORE of a challenge than other men Everybody enjoys a good challenge. Use this to your advantage and tease women more than them. Besides.All Rights Reserved
. 8) Be MORE knowledgeable than other men Your greatest advantage in dating is that there are MANY guys out there who are CLUELESS about dating. You must use my techniques naturally! 6) Tease women MORE than other men Many men are afraid of "offending" women. If you have following my tips already. 3) Let your friends introduce you to a girl if they know her. you should already be doing better than a lot of guys when it comes to dating and women.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Being more relaxed and spontaneous can automatically make you appear more confident than other men. if you're tense you will fail with ANY technique that I teach you.
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4) Do not hit on women that are busy or walking. 7) Stay in the center of the room. 5) Don’t break eye-contact until the other person looks away 6) Walk tall. 4) Approach the hottest guy. The 3 Kinds of Opening Lines: 1) The situation opener 2) The compliment-opener 3) The question-opener The 4 Steps To Approaching Women: Step 1: Eye Contact and Smiling Step 2: Use An Opening Line Step 3: Ask A More Specific Question Step 4: Introduce Yourself
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. 3) Walk straight to a destination in the middle of the room.
When you go to a party… 1) Stop at the door when you enter. 5) Always demand attention. 2) Do a quick scan-around.Marius Panzarella .
It is very important that you appear as a confident man. Remember that you want to come across as unique. You should also try to make her laugh whenever you can. you will need to tease her like there is no tomorrow.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved
. inject your special personality traits into the conversation to make you seem different then the rest of the men out there.
The Point Of Conversation
The whole purpose behind talking to women is to build rapport with them. In other words. We will talk more about flirting with women in the next chapter.
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How To Talk To Women: The Basics
personality. Of course. Talking to a woman will also let us know if she is intelligent or would make a good candidate for a girlfriend. original.
our first conversation must be electrifying if you want to ignite a relationship with a woman. interesting and most important of all. we want to match their emotional states with us. This is a necessary step we need to take before we can start building desires for us within their minds. This is the time you want to radiate her with your
Remember the personality traits we’ve learned earlier? It is time to use them! As you talk to her. desirable.
6) Make a list of what’s important to you 7) Make a list of what you enjoy ding with friends. you can talk about: 1) People you both know 2) Your favorite television shows
151 Copyright 2000-2007 .V. they may enjoy talking about the ballet or the theatre. they may want to chat about their dog or psychology. 4) Make a list of your favorite food. 5) Make a list of your favorite CD’s.) After awhile.
It is very important to discover what kind of topics can engage your girl in a conversation.
Dating Technique: Topic Generator
1) Make a list of your hobbies. 3) Make a list of your favorite T.Marius Panzarella . but for some others. shows.All Rights Reserved
. every woman is different. So to sum it up. you should always discuss your environment.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
What To Talk About
What should you talk about during the first time you talk to a woman? For some women. 2) Make a list of your favorite movies. (Think of this as an extension of step 3 in the 4 steps to approaching women. To start off with.
Here are some examples of the lines you can use: Example #1: “So what’s your favorite band?” Example #2: What do you like to do in your spare time? Example #3: Are you a big “Sex In The City” fan? The key is to find common ground in these trivia topics.All Rights Reserved
Topics To Avoid
Here is a list of things you should avoid talking about with a woman: 1) Sex 2) Politics 3) Gore 4) Computers 5) Sports 6) Her past relationships / other men 7) Anything negative
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3) Your favorite movies 4) Your favorite music 5) Your favorite hobbies And so on.Marius Panzarella .
. Like Mozart. These beats are extremely dangerous..All Rights Reserved
. If they happen too often. You: Oh. Take a look at the following dialogue: You: So do you like coming here? Hot Woman: Yes. you can say goodbye to the girl you're talking to.Marius Panzarella . you will probably find a lot of “awkward pauses” throughout the conversation.So do you want a Martini? Hot Woman: Sure. Here are a few techniques you can use to keep a conversation flowing smoothly:
153 Copyright 2000-2007 . (Awkward silence) These awkward silent moments during a conversation are called "dead-air beats". (Awkward silence) You: Umm.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
How To Keep A Conversation
If you have trouble connecting with a woman. (Awkward silence) You: What kind of music do you like? Hot Woman: Classical music. Cool.
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TECHNIQUE #1: Ask Open-Ended Questions
The first technique is to ask "open questions" instead of "closed questions".
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. If you ask a woman a closed-ended question such as "Do you like ice-cream?" you will simply get a "yes/no" answer. you will be able to have "never-ending conversations" with the women you meet. "where". Unlike closed-questions. an open-ended question makes women talk and go into more details. Open-ended questions are questions beginning with "who". which will give you something else to talk about. "What".Marius Panzarella . "why". And guess what happens after? DEAD AIR. Here are some examples of open-ended questions: Example #1: "What do you think about the movie?" Example #2: "Who was your favorite actor?" Example #3: "What do you like about the food?" With a little bit of practice. Closed-questions are questions that request a "yes" or "no" answer. she will have to answer something like "Vanilla". "when". It also shows a woman you CARE about what she thinks. such as a question beginning with "do". But if you ask her "What kind of ice cream do you like?". And most important of all. and "how".
Here are some sample phrases you can use to show your interest: "Wow. not yourself.Marius Panzarella . most guys out there only know how to brag about themselves. So if you learn how to pay close attention to what the WOMAN says." "No way!" "What happened after?"
155 Copyright 2000-2007 . you won't have to worry as much about what you should talk about.." "How interesting" "Yes" "Go on" "Tell me more.. It's MUCH easier to let a woman talk than to do all the talking yourself.. First of all. You want to show you're actually interested in what the woman is saying by participating in the conversation. Furthermore.All Rights Reserved
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TECHNIQUE #2: Active Listening
Another good technique is to let the woman talk while you listen actively. You don't want to just sit there and listen.." "I totally understand. But unlike what most shy guys think. you will do better than most guys already. active listening does NOT equal "just listening".
By being empathetic. buddy!)
TECHNIQUE #3: Being Empathetic
One last important technique is to be empathetic to women. a strong bond will be created between you and her. NEVER criticize her. and she will never run out of things to say to you. When a woman feels you understand her. "Great!") When she is sad. If a woman seems happy or proud.
How To Develop A Conversation Through Subject Words
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Dating Technique: Listen!
Most women like men who actually LISTEN. (Yeah…that’s the right attitude.Marius Panzarella . pay attention to what she is saying. You’re the host who is interviewing a girl…to see if she’s good enough to become your girlfriend. Become her emotional fountain. Nod slowly in approval when you agree. Show your agreement by reflecting her emotion in your response. you're showing you UNDERSTAND how she is feeling. Stay away from comments that begin with "you should" and "you shouldn't". When you're talking to a girl. because very few guys are good listeners. be happy and proud too.
How To Establish A Verbal Connection Quickly
Use a lot of “we’s”: A good way to build connection is by using a lot of “we’s” when you talk. Here is an example: Girl: Yeah. which is why you make a comment about it. You: Oh? So do I! I love walking by the water and… In the first sentence. you could start out by talking about some trivial events and then lead a girl into a deeper conversation with you. the subject is the beach. I know.All Rights Reserved
. This is going to build a good foundation for the next step – transiting from emotions into desire. And that’s why you ask about the beach. It’s such a sunny day. I wish I could be out on the beach instead of being stuck indoors. You: Oh? Do you go to the beach often? Girl: Sometimes. In the next sentence. I like walking by the water.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Almost every sentence has a subject word that can be led to the next sentence.Marius Panzarella . Just look for any interesting subject matters that come up when she talks. This method is quite powerful because it can turn any normal opener into a stimulating conversation. With this method.
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make sure you let her know you feel the same way.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Repeat her name: Try to say her name whenever you get the chance. Combine this with a little bit of teasing. you phrase a question in such a way that it will be impossible for the girl to say no. the sound. This will make her think you’re the most sensitive man on earth. Basically. elaborate on all the interesting details.Marius Panzarella . Give her all the sensory details. Paint a pretty picture in her mind! 2) False Choice Questions: This is a technique that a lot of salespeople use.All Rights Reserved
. and she will think you’re a masculine man who’s really sensitive on the inside!
General Conversation Techniques:
1) Use A Lot of Details: When you talk to a woman. Examples: “Would you like me to kiss you softly or kiss you passionately?” “Would you like to go out Thursday night or Wednesday night?” Come up with your own examples!
158 Copyright 2000-2007 . Ask them how they feel: Girls LOVE to talk about feelings. such as the smell. and the texture. Women LOVE little details. Whatever she tells you.
Women LOVE to play the detective and find out more things about you . you will appear MUCH more powerful if you “let a woman figure you out”. Real successful men are confident without telling everybody about their fancy sports car.Marius Panzarella . Besides.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Always Put The Spotlight On The Girl
A good way to build rapport with a girl is to focus on HER when you talk. ask.
Do Not Brag
No matter how successful you are. Talking to a woman is a lot like playing cards. She has found out everything about you. the game is over. “I really like football”.so do not volunteer information up front. so she has no reason to stay!
Dating Technique: Don’t Show Your Bottom Card
Don’t brag or reveal too much about yourself so: 1) She will think you're even more powerful because you're
159 Copyright 2000-2007 . “I go to this school”. she will see you as a little man because the real successful men have no reason to brag. Instead of saying. You DO NOT want to show your hand because once you do. “Do you like sports?” Instead of saying. ask. “Do you go to school here?” The logic behind is that charismatic guys are always the guys that make other people feel important and cared about. if you brag in front of women.All Rights Reserved
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so mysterious.and if you keep your mouth shut she's going to find you really intriguing.All Rights Reserved
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From Emotions To Desire
Once you have created rapport with a woman and matched her emotions with yours. try to get at least some of the following information from her: 1) What does she like and doesn’t like? 2) What are her dreams/ambitions? 3) What makes her happy or sad? 4) What makes her scared / feel safe? 5) What makes her feel good 6) Her childhood.Marius Panzarella . (In other words. Of course. she doesn't know the "limits" to your power. What you should do is to talk casually and swindle from one topic to the next. As you talk to her. if she doesn't know what your bottom/face-down card is. Simply be sensitive as you invade deeper and deeper into her territory. 2) She will enjoy digging information out of you.
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. Remember that human beings all have their own desires. Try to go deeper and deeper until you’re at her roots. And then you ask her.
As you talk with her. Then you give her a big hug.
161 Copyright 2000-2007 . And then why she likes the something that makes her like something. Or take this for another example: You learn that she is a great Star Trek fan.Marius Panzarella . And why does she like science fiction? Because she has always wanted to go into space. Do you have any siblings too? No? You’re an only child? I guess your parents must like you very much then. Let me give you an example: You learn that a woman likes tall men. So you ask her why. try to focus on her desires. Oh I am sorry to hear that. What? You like Strawberry eh? Oh. My personal favorite is to try to inquire about her childhood to bring the little child out of her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
is to derive your topics from the tenants of the original questions. Try to ask her to explain why she likes something. So you try to inquire more about the subject. My sister loved strawberry too. So do I. Here is an example: “What do you like to eat? Ice Cream? Wow. What a coincidence! I like chocolate the best. you learn that she likes science fiction.” Remember that you’re going to have to seem very interested in the things she says. Pretty soon. She tells you because she feels safe around tall men. Say. “So you don’t feel safe when you’re alone?” She then admits that sometimes she feels a bit alone.
. and sound in general.) But with colors. you should begin to formulate a list of her deepest desires in your head.. And use a lot of colors. Desires such as: Seeing the world. As you get to understand her. you can attempt to recreate them in her mind with your voice. Etc. you will need to learn how to create the experiences. With normal adverbs and adjectives you have to work at a “secondary” level. Once you know what desires a woman has. remember that some women respond to visual images better while some to sound or physical sensations. Let me show you what I mean by using artists as an example. (It takes longer to bring up the pictures in your mind.
Using Her Desires To Your Advantage
This is the fun part. Don’t forget the colors are the basis of perception. To start off. Be as descriptive as you can.All Rights Reserved
. Painters are usually very visual and like to deal with shapes and colors. Flying. I would suggest using a lot of imageries and vivid descriptions.Marius Panzarella . Returning to childhood. Musicians usually concern themselves with audio.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
And why does she want to go into space? So that she can be free among the stars. If you find out what type your
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you can then build a mental connection with her. Simply observe her eyes when she talks.Marius Panzarella . etc.
Conversation Tip: Confirm What She Has Just Said
The most basic technique would be to repeat what she has just said. Now.All Rights Reserved
. If your girl is visualoriented. use “It sounds like” and “I hear you”. Once you know what type your girl is. Remember that you can choose to work with visuals. If she is a feeler. You’re bound to hit the “right spots”. “Do you feel”. Visual thinkers like to look up when they try to remember or figures things out. let’s look at several techniques you can use to recreate her desires. listeners tend to look from side to side/ear to ear while touchers like to look down. “feeling” and so on. then use a lot of visual imageries by using phrases such as “It looks like” and “You see…” If she is a listener. Example: “So you would like to get onto a spaceship and travel aimless among the stars…”
Conversation Tip: Ask Her A Question
This is when you lead her on and talk about a similar experience. There is actually a very easy to tell what category your girl belongs to. sounds or sensations in these techniques. use physical contact combined with phrases such as “sensation”.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
woman belongs to. “I feel”. you can adjust yourself to her system of operation. Example: “Wouldn’t it feel nice to launch yourself up into the stars in a little spaceship?”
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(Your creativity?) Example: “I once read a book about a woman who saw a spaceship traveling in the stars and…”
Adding You To the Picture
If you can successfully recreate pictures in her mind…then Bravo! You’ve come a long way already! However.”
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Conversation Tip: Sharing A Common Desire
Let the girl know that you are interested in the same thing as her. describe YOURSELF going through the experience. I would be…. In this case.All Rights Reserved
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Conversation Tip: Make a Suggestion
This is when you make a subtle suggestion.Marius Panzarella . in many cases you may want to add yourself to the picture. Example: “If I could somehow just get off Earth and into the galaxy.”
Conversation Tip: Quote Something
This is when you repeat something from a third source. Example: “It would be nice to travel across the galaxy and see different worlds.
we will actually get the chance to explore the galaxy together. Example: “Maybe a few years from now. Remember that people fall in love AFTER they’ve met someone.All Rights Reserved
. you have finally found somebody who can truly understand you and is just as exciting about going off into space as you are?”
And Right When She’s Starting To Desire You…
So…you’ve been turning her emotions into a desire for you throughout the conversation. So just get her number and leave… Always leave a woman wanting more!
165 Copyright 2000-2007 .Marius Panzarella . She’s laughing and flirting with you and having a great time. After all… ”
Conversation Tip: Let Her Know How Special You Are
Let her know how lucky she is to have found you! Example: “Isn’t it exciting to learn that after all these years. We always fall deeper in love with someone when they are NOT with us. What do you do now? You pull back and tell her you have to go.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Conversation Tip: Play Around With Time
Imply to her that you will still be with her 6 weeks or 6 months or even 6 years from now.
eh?" .."....Marius Panzarella .
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."Honestly." ...the last thing you want when you're talking to a woman."Well. ...". It will only make you sound weak and unsure .. cut it out! Using "filler" words to fill the gaps in a conversation won't make you get rid of the "dead air spots"."To be honest.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Eliminate Garbage Words
"Garbage words" are words that many guys use as "filler words" in front of or after a sentence."So." .." .right?" Here's a general rule: If a word or phrase does not have anything to add to a sentence. Some examples are...." .. here's what I want you to do: Get a tape recorder and record yourself having conversations with friends." ."Hmm. Then play back the tape and analyze how you talk..
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Other Conversation Tips
1) Talk about topics that you are both passionate about.All Rights Reserved
. 2) Stay on the positives rather than the negatives. 3) Match the speech and diction of the person you’re talking to. 4) Make connections from one subject to another. Don’t bitch or compliant in front of a woman. Change topics often to avoid a certain topic from getting old. 5) Don’t forget your body language while you talk. 3) She won't contribute to the conversation at all. don’t forget to flirt! Remember: that’s what creates attraction!
How To See If A Woman Is Interested In The Conversation
Here are a few signs that a woman is NOT interested in what you're saying. 5) She turns her back on you. 4) She keeps talking on her cell phone or with her friends. 6) Lastly. 7) She "doesn't hear you". 6) She breaks eye contact. 2) She focuses REALLY hard on eating her food.
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. he started flaunting his wealth when it was clear the woman was not interested in business or money. by the way. A well-dressed man was talking to a very attractive lady. There's no way he's going to get a second date.) Even worse. the poor guy just kept on talking about houses.as if she's trying to get you to shut up. One by one. Here's the assignment for the day: Go to a coffee shop and listen to the conversations happening around you. it means you are doing something WRONG. Pull back a bit and tease her to see if you can find any "openings" to a new conversation. Unfortunately.Marius Panzarella . Yesterday. But instead of pulling back and changing topics. Listen to the dynamics of the conversation and see if any of the folks you're listening to are getting bored.
Should you encounter any of these signs. 9) She does not put down her book or magazine. he tried to sound even more excited and passionate about real estate. 10) She has an uncomfortable or bored look on her face. she started to show the signs I listed above. (This is a common mistake guys make. I was eavesdropping on a conversation at a coffee shop. I'll give you an example. He went on for half an hour about the real estate market. He could sense that the conversation was going nowhere. when the woman wasn't interested in the topic at all.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
8) She gives you short "one-liner" answers to you questions . Change topics and talk about something that is more interesting to the woman.
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.. 10) Ask her what kind of emotions she's feeling. 3) Share one vulnerability 4) Ask either one of the following questions. 8) Ask her to close her eyes and picture herself doing what she wants to do.what would you REALLY do?" 6) Ask her what she likes about <insert dream>. 2) Build rapport.
169 Copyright 2000-2007 . 9) Ask her to describe it.Marius Panzarella . 1) Fluff talk. confirm it by smiling while asking.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
You'd be surprised at how many boring conversations there are out there every day!
Conversation Tip: A Sample Deepening Routine
Here's a sample conversation deepening routine that I use on strangers all the time.. now. a) "What would you do if you had all the money you need and could do anything you want in this world?" b) "What would you do with your life if you had no chance of failure?" 5) If necessary.?"_ 7) Tell her you're going to play a cool game. "Come on.
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. 14) Ask her. I've always wanted to do things that make me feel <insert the emotions she has described earlier>.Marius Panzarella ." 13) Tell her a childhood story. 12) Say "I guess I can relate to that. When I was a kid. "How about you? What were you like as a child?" Congratulations! You have just taken the conversation to a whole new level!
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11) Say something like.
171 Copyright 2000-2007 . Have you ever experienced the electrifying sensations of having someone you love glance at you? Have you noticed how models and movie stars have this special penetrating power with their eyes? Have you ever looked away when an attractive woman looked at you because you felt electrified as soon as her eyes met yours? Eye contact is certainly one of the most useful tools you can use to seduce women.All Rights Reserved
. In many ways. you either approach her or wimp out.Marius Panzarella . it is a basic animal instinct because strong eye contact calls forth the two basic actions: approach or retreat. When you make eye contact with a beautiful woman. verbal communication only account for about 30 percent of total communication.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Chapter 10: Non-Verbal Ways To Help Spark Her Feelings
S we’ve learned in the previous chapter. there are still many non-verbal techniques that you should use on women. as powerful eye contact can immediately stimulate strong feelings. So even though you’ve already learned some pretty powerful verbal techniques on how to transform emotions into desire.
we begin to look away to avoid her eye contact.Marius Panzarella . We enjoy gazing into a cozy fire or an attractive person.
How To Stimulate Love With Your Eyes
You can stimulate the senses of being in love in a girl by simply increasing the eye contact as you talk to her. you don’t have to count how many seconds you have to look at her.All Rights Reserved
. Simply let your eyes be glued to hers a little longer. The whole ceiling could come crashing on them and they wouldn’t notice a thing because they are so locked up in their own little perfect world. Of course. Try to look deeply into her eyes and even through it. you will need to increase the eye contact with a girl to about eighty percent of the time when you talk to her. drag your eyes away slowly as if you’re feeling quite reluctantly. even during the silences. while we turn away whenever we see something ugly or disgusting. But when we are bored. It is quite common knowledge that people who are deeply in love usually gaze at each other much more when talking and are slower to look away when something disrupts them. Simply “linger on” with your eye contact for just a bit too long when you talk to her. and look back at her again as soon as you can. Go to any bar and you will see couples with their eyes locked onto each other. This will shoot the energy level way up to the outer space!
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Dating Technique: Keep Good Eye Contact
In order to fool a girl into thinking she is already in love with you. When we are intrigued or in love with a woman. and when you finally must look away. we want to gaze at her for all eternity.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Eye contact is directly related to love and attraction.
Now. and you will see enormous pupils. For a start. but we can do it subconsciously by thinking about loving thoughts. Try joy. simply gaze at the most attractive feature on a woman’s face. sadness. just look at the most attractive spot on her face. joy. gaze at it. Basically.
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How To Get Sexier Eyes
Remember how girls always look at the eyes and face first when they check out the guy? And how many times have you heard a girl talk about how attractive a certain man is because of his “sexy eyes”? While only a few people are born with charming eyes. Just look at any photographs for a movie star. Does she have a very cute nose? If so.
You may also practice the following exercise to enlarge your pupils at will:
The Charming Glance/Passionate Gaze
Find a mirror and relax. shock. just try to explore the power of your eyes. Girls love huge “puppy eyes”! It is true that we cannot consciously control the size of our pupils. The trick is to make our pupils larger. try making different expressions with just your eyes to see its power. Your pupils will gradually enlarge as you enjoy the views.Marius Panzarella . the good news is that most of us can learn to make our eyes more attractive. passion.
Dating Technique: How To Enlarge Your Pupils On The Spot
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Wish that person is standing in front of you as you open your eyes to look into a mirror. place a thumb underneath your chin while resting your first and index fingers on the side of your face.All Rights Reserved
. open your eyes and try making the charming glance again. making you a much more charming person. close your eyes and think deeply at someone who attracts you. she’s probably thinking. without thinking about anyone. Imprint the image on your mind. This will cause a woman to look up. lock eye contact with her.Marius Panzarella . (Or she just wants to change topics). If she winks at you.
Lastly. Close your eyes and relax for a minute. When she does. If her eyes roll up while she talking. you can look into a woman’s eyes and access how much she likes you. then she is probably not interested in you. pointing towards your eyes. Eventually. you will be able to project that charming look in your eyes. Let the attractive person cross into your mind so your pupils will grow.
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Now. making you a very sexy man. then she’s definitely flirting with you!
More Eye Contact Tricks
Here are some additional eye contact tricks for you to try: Get eye contact at dinner table: At the dinner table. If she keeps breaking off eye contact and shifting her gaze to other parts of the room.
you can almost be certain there is going to be a second date. as if you’re gazing into her soul. Gaze-Past: When you look at a woman in the eyes. Once again. this will bring attention to your eyes. You must have a good conversation with a girl before you can start mirroring with her. you must already have a fairly strong bond with a girl before you can do it. They laugh together. While you can induce mirroring somewhat. it is important to stress that mirroring is mostly the results of sexual chemistry. Two lovers reaching for their drinks or lifting their forks at the same time. they tend to stay in synchronicity until the outside world intervenes and force them to stop.
Mirroring is when two lovers move in synchronicity with each other as though they are confirming their newfound affection for each other. They frown together. Use it as an opportunity to lock eye contact. You can see it in a single’s bar or restaurant all the time. If you see a new couple mirroring each other. Wink: Wink at the right times…as a silent way of saying “I know” to a woman. Once a newly met couple has reached this state of complete synchronization. Think and Look: Think about what you want to say and communicate it through your eyes without saying it out loud. gaze past her eyes.Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Obi-Wan Trick: Another way to induce eye contact is to raise your hand to your forehead to scratch it or to push some hair away if you have long hair.All Rights Reserved
. While most people would think you could achieve the same results by forcing synchronization (meaning you copy whatever she is doing). Think of it as going from emotions (talking and
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This whole sequence can take anywhere from minutes to hours. A good safe. 2) Nod your head in response to whatever the girl is saying and then use the motion to twist your shoulder a bit.
How To Induce Mirroring
In order to be in a position to synchronize with your partner. When she talks about something intriguing. Here are several keys that can help you speed up the process: 1) Keep your body relaxed the whole time so any moves you do won’t appear as jerky.All Rights Reserved
. just about anything). intimacy will decrease. If she leans forward with you – BINGO.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
sharing feelings) to desire (building a connection) and to action (the physical action of mirroring each other). show interest and turn your body a bit as if you’re just paying more attention.
176 Copyright 2000-2007 .She’s catching on! If not. 5) Keep strong eye contact. you must be facing her. there must be a gradual switch from just heads turned toward each other to whole bodies facing each other. show interest by turning your body towards her..Marius Panzarella . 3) When she talks about something intriguing (or really. With each increasing turn. If you two are sitting side by side. And each them you turn away. Follow up by leaning just a BIT more forward. intimacy will increase. then move back as if you were just repositioning yourself to be more comfortable. This one works like magic! 4) Invade her space. depending on the girl and your experience. . It is ESSENTIAL that you keep good eye contact with her as your mirror her.
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Look deeply into her eyes for as long as possible every time she speaks!
The Actual Mirroring
Once you’ve accomplished the steps listed above. then you still need to do some more work on her!
Once you’re in mirroring mode. you will be isolated from the rest of the world. If she changes her body position right away (sub-consciously) to break away from your match.Marius Panzarella . you may notice hours have gone by already!
Lovers often touch each other. Smile at the same moment.All Rights Reserved
. Reach for the glass at the same time. It will be just “you and her” – and time will fly. There are women who do not like to be touched. put a hand on the table as well. you should be all set to mirror a person – if it is not happening automatically already. you want to synchronize with the other person. Basically. However. The next time you glance at your watch. bonding is also a very “touchy” subject. if she has one hand on the table. adopt her body position. For example.
Dating Technique: The Mirror Test
To test if a girl is interested in you. either deliberately or “accidentally”.
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“Hmm. and try to linger on her hand just a bit “too long”. laugh and touch her lightly on her arm or shoulder. and knee. Make sure your hand is firm. you should only touch her on her hands.Marius Panzarella . It looks like you’re going to be meeting a new friend tonight…”
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Touching Technique #2: Touch Her Arms When She’s Funny
When she says something funny. Do not do this too often.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
There is why you should always wait for a woman to touch you before you touch her. slide your hand off her hand gently.All Rights Reserved
. Look into her eyes and offer your full hand. Then offer palmistry sessions to girls you see. arms.
Ways To Touch Her Touching Technique #1: The Handshake
Since your handshake with a woman is your first physical contact with a woman. Girls love that stuff! You could even joke around by twitching an eyebrow and then saying in a serious tone. shoulders. Never touch a woman more than she touches you. And if she looks like she feels uncomfortable about it. Interesting. Take her full hand into yours. When you pull back. Do NOT touch her thighs. torso or feet. you want to make it memorable. then stop. Even if she is touching you all over. (Remember: Don’t touch her until she touches you for the first time! )
Touching Technique #3: Read Her Palm
Borrow or buy a cheap book on palmistry and read it thoroughly.
How you respond to a woman’s touching is even more important than touching her. So be prepared and be relaxed.All Rights Reserved
. if women don’t touch you often.
Prepare To Be Touched
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Touching Technique #4: Massage Her
Take a few massage lessons.Marius Panzarella . she may interpret it as a sign of rejection. If you stiffen your muscles while she brushes you lightly across the arm. Giving a girl a massage is a GREAT way to get some physical contact with her. then you should prepare yourself mentally to be touched.
What to Compliment On:
Every woman is different. It’s not just a matter of telling her how beautiful she is whenever you see her. However. Not everyone wants to feel brilliant or beautiful. This is why if you learn how to make a woman feel good by complimenting her the right way.All Rights Reserved
180 Copyright 2000-2007 . Some may be modest or like to play modest. Most guys make the mistake of sucking up to a woman. deep inside they are the most fascinating person in the world. there are several keys to making a successful compliment that can make you stand out from the other guys. she is going to be very happy. where every girl is taught they are special and unique. but deep inside. massaging a woman’s ego requires mastery. which actually does more harm then good since it will come across as meaningless flattery in the woman’s eyes. The girl’s ideal self-image of herself will be crucial to what you your compliment should be about. This is especially true in the Western culture. everyone wants to be loved. However. and that no matter how ordinary they may appear to be.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
veryone loves compliments.Marius Panzarella .
If she really is beautiful.
Your compliment should reflect the ideal self-image of the girl. What would she most like you to recognize her for? Her intelligence? Her sense of honesty? Or her humor?
Dating Technique: Compliment On Her Ideal Self-Image
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. she already knows it. if you already know you have a cute face.Marius Panzarella . rather then what she already is. I can almost bet you money that attractive women are used to compliments on their looks. Compliment on her intelligence instead. She doesn’t need another ass-kisser to tell her she is hot enough to be a model. it won’t be a surprise to you if a girl calls you cute. Before you compliment her. rather than what they are.
Dating Technique: Always Compliment An Ugly Woman On Her Looks
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Usually it’s what the girl WANTS to be.
Dating Technique: Don’t Compliment A Beautiful Woman On Her Looks
Never compliment a beautiful woman on her body.
181 Copyright 2000-2007 . She already knows how hot she is. think about what she would want you to compliment her for. but not that much. You may be a tiny bit flattered. she will be flattered as long as you do it in a “sincere” way.
For example. If you do that. you are really just complimenting the Creator. compliment her on something she has accomplished herself – such as how nicely her blouse matches with her skirt.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
But if you’ve always wanted to have a nice set of abs but don’t believe that you do. she is going to dig you. Always give it to them. I love your earrings. Over the years.All Rights Reserved
Chances are. you’re going to be flattered. Rather then complimenting her on something she’s born with. don’t tell her she has a nice body. if you do compliment on a girl’s looks. so if you approve her or something that has never been approved by any other men before.
Dating Technique: Show Your Approval
Women are always seeking your approval.Marius Panzarella . No problem. not her. “Do you like my earrings?” do not put her down or ignore her. Every woman wants to be loved. while less attractive women want to be told how good looking they are.
182 Copyright 2000-2007 . if a girl compliments on your nice stomach. When a girl asks. Remember that giving a compliment is a way of showing your approval. darling. you are not going to know too much about the girl because you have just met her. I’ve come to realize that most attractive women want to be praised for intelligence and insights. It only takes a moment to say “Yes.”
It is also vital that your compliment is about something the girl is responsible for.
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. They match really nicely with the top you’re wearing today.” “What nice handwriting you have! I love “the way your write your ‘T’.Marius Panzarella . I think it reflects your personality…” (Then I go on…)
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Dating Technique: Compliment On What She Has Accomplished Herself
Try to compliment on something the girl is responsible for!
Details. you know. It will make you seem much more sensitive and sincere. If she is wearing socks that match with her top. You can never be too detailed when it comes to giving a compliment. Details!
Always be detailed and clear. it’s not by coincidence. Details. She will think you’ve noticed her because she is special. Let her know you noticed.
Dating Technique: Be As Detailed As Possible
Let me show you show you a couple of examples: “I really like the little inscription on your necklace. Girls love details. “Your blue eyeliners look really nice with the skirt you’re wearing today. Where did you get it?” “I think I would really enjoy working with you because you seem like the sort of person who would be able to give some intelligent insights on a situation during a crisis while other people wimp out.
Dating Technique: Do Not Over-Compliment
Do not compliment a girl too often. “That was for doing such a good job with these mushrooms. if you compliment her every minute.” Women love it. And before she can say it anything. A compliment is always more powerful when the woman is not expecting it. Remember. I give her a quick peck on the kiss and say. and when she least expects it. I also like to mix it with a bit of flirting. Your compliments won’t mean anything to her anymore if you compliment her too much!
I personally compliment girls only every once in awhile. after a short while she will become immune to your compliments. For example. They look so good.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
You get the idea!
When and How Often
You will have to resist all temptations to overcompliment your girl. I tend to draw little details out of nowhere and compliment her on it. she may be cutting some vegetables in the kitchen when I walk in and spank her lightly on the butt.
Dating Technique: Compliment Her When She Least Expects It
Your compliment will be much more powerful if she never saw it coming!
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after repeating something so many times. Compliment her because she is special. go all the way. and because you want to. It works like magic!
Mean What You Say:
Always remember to really look into her eyes when you compliment her. (Like 5 minutes later in a bar situation!) If you do this right. This always makes a girl warmer to me the next time I see her again. Also. If you say something. give a girl a “reward” when you compliment her. And when you compliment a girl.All Rights Reserved
.Marius Panzarella . then mean it. never use false flattery. she will be flattered and try to find out who you are as you walk away! (Strike one!)
185 Copyright 2000-2007 . Or at least practice in front of the mirror till you sound like you mean it. There’s nothing more insulting then a half-ass compliment. Don’t be like them. Don’t hold back. Women are very good at picking out the bullshit!
Complimenting a Stranger: Hit And Run
Most guys compliment a girl they meet because they want a date. you will start to believe it!
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Dating Technique: “Reward” Her When You Compliment Her
Every once in awhile. I personally like to compliment a girl and then leave. Trust me. Give her a spank here. a hug there.
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. Make eye contact with a woman. she’s going to be much more open to you. then she will never want to do it again!
These types of responses are very hurtful or even insulting to a girl in some cases.
How to Receive Compliments:
You know. but most of the times it’s because they don’t know what to say. She will try to figure out who you are or even watch you from afar as you go back to your friends.Marius Panzarella .” Sometimes they are just trying to be modest. since the man is actually denouncing the perceptions of the girl. Or worse. The “Not really” type of response is especially bad. Smile. Then give her a very good compliment and then LEAVE. And when you revisit her later in the evening. That was just luck”. They usually just mumble a weak “thank-you”.
Dating Technique: Reward A Girl When She Compliments You
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Try this trick. they say something like “Oh.
186 Copyright 2000-2007 . American men are usually horrible at receiving compliments. she’s going to want to compliment you again! But if you make her feel bad about compliment you. or “Not really.
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. she will see you as impolite and insecure. she may suddenly realize she’s in love with you!”
187 Copyright 2000-2007 .Marius Panzarella . she will try to find more excuses to praise you in the future. Rather then saying you as modest. So what should you do instead? Turn the compliment around! Say something to make her feel good for complimenting you! Some examples are: “That’s very kind of you!” “Thanks. You remembered!” “Oh! How nice of you to notice!” If you can make her feel really good for complimenting you.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
And guess what she will do if you keep giving her a negative response every time she compliments you? She will see you as a little man who is not worth complimenting at all. And guess what? During the process.
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Transforming Emotions Into Desire: How To Flirt For Skirt
The Dangers Of Just Connecting With A Woman Emotionally
Just because you bond with a girl emotionally does not mean you’re going to get far with her. If you skip the second step and ask for her number right away..desire…and THEN action. You’re Doomed…
What’s the difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship? Sexual chemistry.
If You Lack This. a relationship is nothing but a friendship. Without proper sexual chemistry. Miss Right will never notice Average Joe as
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. Remember the three-step system? In order for a girl to feel attracted to you.
It communicates at a level that is completely different than that of social communication.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
nothing more than her best friend. you will never be anything more than a friend. It doesn’t matter if you have already clicked with her emotionally.Marius Panzarella . When Joe finally breaks down in front of her and tells her that he “loves” her. She’ll just see him as the guy she goes to when she is between boyfriends. Almost all animals chase each
189 Copyright 2000-2007 . In other words. If you look around the animal kingdom. The longer you wait. flirting is a game that adults play for courtship. as flirting is not for the communication of logic. She will date every guy around her except Average Joe. the definition of flirting is as follows: To make playfully romantic or sexual overtures. the more you risk becoming her best friend. you could be her “best friend”.
Flirt For Skirt…Right From The Beginning
Here’s the bottom line: If you’re interested in a girl. Miss Right will simply say something like “I am not ready for a relationship yet” or “let’s just be friends”. as she just does not feel “that way” about him. Sure. you must flirt with her to build the sexual chemistry NOW. It is the sexual communication that happens between men and women. but of sexual feelings. Without sexual chemistry.
What Flirting Means
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. but still a friend nevertheless. The things people do when they’re flirting usually do not make any logical sense. Flirting speaks directly to a woman’s sexual psyche. you will see that most animals know how to flirt with members of their own species instinctually.
make it a rule to always flirt with every woman you see. They also like to wrestle and mock-fight. There is a huge difference between flirting playfully and trying to get into somebody’s pants. As long as you keep it playful. You should be playful and fun when you flirt. For example.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
other around or even wrestle each other playfully before they “suddenly” get down to business and start mating. But if you’re too serious and try to “seduce” a woman by flirting. Even though these mock-fights might look pretty violent to a third-party like a human.All Rights Reserved
. humans know if they are just playing when they flirt. so you can almost guarantee that they always know if you’re flirting or not. most women will be able to see through your bullshit and reject you. Flirt to be fun and pleasurable to those around you. most women will sense it and play along. 99 percent of your success with flirting will come from your playful attitude. If you’re just being playful. without expecting any results. women will know you’re just flirting and they will play along.
190 Copyright 2000-2007 . not because you’re trying to “pick them up”.Marius Panzarella . the squirrels or dogs always know they are just playing. Like all other animals. not to satisfy your own selfish needs. This means you should never have to worry about “offending women” or “scaring women away” when you flirt. squirrels and dogs love to chase their mates around before they mate. Women understand flirting much more than guys do. In short. Flirt because you enjoy bringing pleasure to women.
Your Playful Attitude
Your attitude is the most important when it comes to flirting.
” “I want women to like me for who I am.” “I hate playing games.” That’s only your self-imposed limitation. You define who you are.pdf Excuse #2) “I want women to like me for who I am. period.Marius Panzarella . It’s about being playful. It’s not even about picking women up. It’s about being sociable and letting people feel good. It’s not cheesy. then do not whine about being single and lonely.” “I don’t like manipulating women. For more information on how to remove your self-imposed limitations.” I think these are all garbage excuses. sleazy. A good flirt makes people feel good.com/frog. flirting is not about playing games. and warm. open. Excuse #1) “It’s just not me. Here are some “concerns” that I receive from men regularly: “It’s just not me. read my free bonus report at: http://www.”
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Why Some Men Refuse To Flirt…
A problem I see with a lot of my new readers is that they are afraid to flirt.datebeautifulwomen. If you’re unwilling to bring a little bit of charm into your personality.
If you become more interesting and have a more fun personality. Excuse #4) “I don’t like playing games.All Rights Reserved
. will she still be who she is? Of course she will be! The same thing applies to you.” You’ve got it wrong. 1) Identify and reframe your resistance: Find out which of the four major excuses list above are stopping you from flirting.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
You will STILL be who you are if you flirt. flirting is not manipulative – at least not any more than “being nice” (you know why you’re really being nice). not to get anything in return. Flirt to be playful. not “playing games”!
Overcoming Your Flirter’s Resistance
If you have used any of the four excuses listed above to avoid flirting in the past. giving women gifts and flowers. Excuse #3) “I don’t like manipulating women. Think about it: If a woman with a good personality loses 50 pounds. Focus on process: Focus on the process of flirting and on your own actions instead of the outcome. or sucking up to them.” As I have clearly stated already. you will STILL be who you are.
192 Copyright 2000-2007 . Then think about my answers. then use the following tips to overcome your flirter’s block.Marius Panzarella . Flirting it about “being playful”. Eliminate expectations: Flirt without expecting anything in return.
you will do a Grade-A job. flirting can: Help you become more sociable Boost your ego Build your confidence Help you make new friends Make you more attractive Make you more fun Give you good practice with women Help you be more aware of body language Make women feel good Help you be more comfortable with beautiful women Help women be more comfortable with you
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. Be playful: Focus on the “playful attitude” that I’ve explained early.Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Mentally practice: Mentally practice flirting so that when the opportunity finally arises. For example. It’s not about playing women…it’s about being playful to women and making them feel good! Think about the benefits: Think about the benefits of flirting.
Bonds with women emotionally and sexually. It doesn’t mean that she likes you for certain – some girls are just big flirts – but it means that she doesn’t hate you. Always flirt with a woman before you ask for her phone number or for a date.
But if she flirts back. If you keep up the flirting.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Test The Waters By Flirting
Flirting is also a good way to test the waters with a woman.Marius Panzarella . Never tests for attraction before he does something stupid. Flirts with women from the beginning.
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. In that case. you can take it as a sign that she does not have any romantic interests in you. Always tests for attraction before going for phone number or date. It’s better to know it now than later.
Copyright 2000-2007 . tune up the flirting to build up the sexual chemistry. Tries to “befriend” women. Just bonds with emotionally instead of emotionally and sexually. then there is a slight possibility that she likes you. Is always playful. She becomes attracted to you: If you keep on flirting and a girl does not resist.
Smart Dater Loves to flirt with everyone. you know that the girl is just a big flirt.
It will make her think you e sexier than the average geek who walks up to her and gives her a shy "Hi". I am very glad you came here. Example: "Hello. Do this while smiling and looking into her eyes sincerely." Flirting Technique #5: Stir Your Drink Stir your drink with a rhythm as you talk to her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Basic Flirting Techniques
Flirting Technique #1: Make Eye Contact: Most of flirting is done with your eyes. softly and sensually each time you say it.. Keep good eye contact on a woman when you talk to her. let your hand stay on hers for a bit too long and then brush against her hand as you pull back. repeat her name as much as you can.. You don’t want to come off as a pervert. De-bbie. Flirting Technique #6: Lower Your Volume
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. The effect can be "hypnotizing" under the right atmosphere. say "Hello" in a flirty way. Flirting Technique #3: Shake Her Hand A Bit Too Long When you shake her hand. Say her name slow.
Increase the frequency of touching as the night goes on. Flirting Technique #13: Leave Her Wanting More
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Lower and lower your volume so she has to lean towards you to listen. Flirting Technique #12: Exaggerate Her Movements When a woman does something. Flirting Technique #8: Be Playful Ask yourself the following questions: 1) How much fun can I have tonight? 2) What sorts of interesting things can I find out about this girl? Flirting Technique #9: Use Nicknames When you get closer to a woman. smile and wave. do the same thing but exaggerate it. Flirting Technique #10: Touch Her Back If she starts touching you. Flirting Technique #7: Whisper When she gets close enough. whisper to her. For example. when the music is so loud you have to talk in each other ears. do the same thing but exaggerate it. if she raises one eyebrow.
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Do what strippers do the guys. Get a girl all hot and then leave her wanting more! Flirting Technique #14: Laugh At Her Jokes Laugh at her jokes whenever she makes one. Touch her on the arm lightly when you laugh if she’s already touching you. Flirting Technique #15: Listen To Her Stories Pay attention to what she says. Be focused on her, not on the hot waitress. Flirting Technique #16: Drop A Compliment Drop her a compliment every once in awhile. Not too often though! Flirting Technique #17: Tease Her Incorporate teasing into your flirting. Tease her ‘til she's wet! Flirting Technique #18: Get More Personal Ask her more and more personal questions as the evening progresses. Things about her childhood, etc!
Is She Flirting Back…Or Not?
As a dating coach, I often receive questions such as: "How do I know if she's flirting with me?" "How do I know if she REALLY likes me if she flirts with other guys too? She could just be a flirty person..."
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"What if she's just flirting for fun and doesn't really want me?" "How do I know if she's really flirting with me since she's sending mixed signals?" All of these questions can be answered with my "Traffic Light Analogy". Basically, if you're not certain about a woman's feelings towards you, it means you haven't advanced enough. I want you to imagine an intersection with a red light in front of you. If you flirt with a woman and get a green light (as in she flirts back), it means you can go ahead and advance to the next intersection by flirting more or taking things to the next level. If you get a red light, that means she's just not interested in you and you should stop. But if you get a yellow light, then it means you haven't advanced enough. For example, a woman is flirting JUST AS MUCH with other guys as she is with you. So what you do is you ADVANCE and flirt MORE than the other guys and see how she REACTS to that. If she does like you, she will give you another green light - meaning you can advance to the next intersection and take things to the next level. And if she gives you a red light, then it means she was not very serious with her flirting after all. She just wanted to flirt casually with you - nothing more. In this case, even getting a red light is BETTER than getting a yellow light - because now you won't have to waste any more time on her. But you should never, never settle for a yellow light. It really is a time-water. So charge forward and turn it either into a red light or into a green light!
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How To Tease Women
Little girls love to be teased. Big girls also love to be teased. They may not admit it. They may even deny it. They may call you all sorts of names or make nasty comments about you when you tease them. But if you tease them right, they will always laugh and let you tease them again. Why? Because teasing is the magical formula that can: 1) Release the little girl inside every woman.
2) Bring out a woman’s insecurity and desire to be loved. 3) Make women want what they can’t have even more. 4) Tame a spoiled woman by breaking down her barrier. 5) Let women know that their men are in control. 6) Create a sexual tension between a man and a woman. 7) Challenge a woman and demonstrate selfconfidence at the same time. Quite powerful eh? So do you tease women properly? By doing what little boys do to tease little girls on the playground.
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How Little Boys Tease Little Girls
Let us observe how little boys tease girls. They: 1) Call them names and make fun of their insecurities. 2) Give toys to girls and then take them away.
These tricks work when the girls are 8 years old, and guess what? Women love them even more when they’re 28. So how do you tease a woman? You: 1) Bust her balls as much as possible. (Make fun of her) 2) Send mixed feelings by “giving” it to her and then pulling back. (Giving them toys and then taking them away)
Busting Her Balls
Teasing Technique #1: Bust Her Balls This is a wonderful way of messing up a cold woman. Remember that every woman has her own insecurities. Some think their legs are too short. Some think they are so tall. In short, they all see countless flaws in themselves. You should use this to your advantage bust their balls as much as possible. Remember that most men try to kiss their royal asses. They are USED to cheesy compliments about how beautiful their hair looks or what a nice body they have.
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Beautiful women are approached by men all the time. Their whole response system is set on autopilot, meaning if you do the same thing every other guy is doing, you will get the same response: The “Get lost!” look. But if you come across as crass or even uninterested in her, she will look at you differently and BINGO…you have her attention at least. She is very likely to see you as different or special because you are not trying to get into her pants like all the filthy pigs are. And who knows? She may even see you as a challenge and want to seduce you just so she can dump you and boast to her friends later. (But like she’s going to get a chance!) However, notice that there is a HUGE difference between teasing and being plain rude. Telling a girl one of her earlobes is lower than her other is considered teasing, but telling a girl she’s a worthless tramp with an ugly face is just plain RUDE. It will get you blacklisted so fast that it won’t even be funny. So how do you tease a girl without offending her? By using humor. After all, she can’t hate you if you’re laughing with you. Right?
How To Be Funny: A Quick Lesson
In order to be funny, you must first learn to relax. A lot of guys try to “be funny”. But you can’t try to “be funny”. You will only look stupid. Women will just think you’re an idiot if you crack dumb jokes in front of her. The good news for you is that most guys are automatically funny when they are relaxed. Remember the last time you were relaxed with a group of close friends? You
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were probably joking around naturally because you were feeling relaxed. Now remember the last time you were talking to a stunningly beautiful woman. What a difference, eh?
Tip #1: Don’t Laugh At Your Own Jokes
By the way, if you act all serious when you say something funny, the woman will have to figure out if you’re bullshitting her or not. The joke becomes much funnier as a result! Remember: your jokes will lose power if you laugh at your own jokes. Let her wonder if you’re serious or not.
Tip #2: Don’t Be Afraid To “Be A Man”
It is okay to be a little cocky, crass or even arrogant in your teasing, as long as you are funny enough to make her laugh with you. Sometimes women actually find men who are arrogant or cocky in a funny way to be very interesting. If you listen to women in conversations, you will see that a lot of times they explain a guy’s action by saying “Well. He’s a guy…” and then laugh. They know that you’re different than them. They know that men are “stupid” at times. And they like it. So just be yourself, and make her smile. Here are some ways you can bust a woman’s balls. Teasing Technique #2: Give Her A Hard Time Give a hard time about something TRIVIAL and small – like dropping a spoon or a necklace she is wearing. If you keep the thing you’re making fun of TRIVIAL and also do it in a flirty way, she will probably play along. Teasing Technique #3: Fake Disappointment In Her. Fake disappointment at something she’s doing. Shake your head and wave your finger. Be dramatic about it.
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and then tease her about it. But the next time you give her a little spank on her ass. Teasing Technique #5: Be Unpredictable Don’t be too predictable when you’re with a woman. Or you can say no when a girl asks for a hug.All Rights Reserved
. Like one time she does something and you hug her. And when she’s wondering whether you love her or not. “You aren’t my favorite person anymore…. For example.Marius Panzarella . For example: “I really like this shirt you’re wearing…too bad you didn’t iron it this morning. Teasing Technique #4: Use Reversed Compliments Compliment her about something.” and shake your head some more. he loves me not…”? They just love to play guessing games. suddenly make her feel like a princess again. So what should you do? Two words: Be unpredictable. Always surprise her with little things. you can give her total attention one moment and then completely ignore her the next. But then later you suddenly embrace her with your arms. Keep your relationship fresh! Teasing Technique #6: Take It Away
203 Copyright 2000-2007 . You know how women like to go like “He loves me.”
Send Mixed Feelings
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If you do this right. Women love foreplay. you have to keep moving. She just wants more foreplay first. and then stop. you turn around and pin her to the coach. STOP and pull back. The best thing about this trick is you can do it over and over! Remember that with a woman. remember?
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Another good way to tease a woman is to give her special feelings one moment and then take them away the next. they can’t appreciate how great something truly is until they’ve lost it! So make them horny. you are making out on the couch with a girl. Then without any warning. Women like to have their goodies taken away from them every once in awhile. It will drive them wild. but you just pull away and continue to stare at the night sky. Teasing Technique #7: Stop And Go Let’s say you’re making out with a girl and she’s clearly enjoying what you’re doing to her. go “further” than you were going earlier. And just because she won’t kiss you and let you touch her boobs doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to. She’s going to want you to continue and start touching you. Knowing that you have something in your mind she sits back and wonders if you like her as much as she likes you. Your girl looks up and sees you staring out the window. She pulls your face towards hers. etc. she will let you go further because she doesn’t want you to stop again. And so on.Marius Panzarella . Ignore her for a few minutes and then start making out with her today – but only this time. Then go again. For example.All Rights Reserved
. You suddenly stop and then look away.
Just keep teasing her until she’s begging you to take her. Use this to anchor onto her desire before you finally transform it into physical action. Or simply say one thing but do another thing instead. For example. she’s going to feel MUCH hotter when you finally play with them. Remember that women love to have feelings taken away from there. This will always make them wonder.All Rights Reserved
. Teasing Technique #8: Build Anticipation A good way to tease a woman is by building anticipation and by giving her what she wants. Simply keep smelling her neck and smelling her neck.
205 Copyright 2000-2007 . Teasing Technique #9: Send Mixed Verbal Signals Another good way to tease a woman is by sending mixed signals verbally. if you touch her AROUND her boobs but not on them. (Remember: NEVER force a woman.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
If she says stop. but don’t kiss her or anything – even if she’s begging you to. simply tease her some more until she’s hot enough to advance to the next level. Never say “I love you” to a woman. Women love to be cuddled. okay?) If you want a safe shortcut. And try to refrain from anything too sexual. it will send complete pleasure throughout her whole body. So stop and go while you cuddle.Marius Panzarella . when the characters say something but really mean something else. You do this in old time movies a lot. then cuddle with her. It’s illegal and plain stupid. Just take things slowly. And by the time you actually kiss her. Always imply it through something else.
For example. make sure she knows that you’re sensitive and thoughtful enough to remember she wanted so-and-so. It may even turn her on to think that she’s seducing a real man like you into falling for her. tease a woman by making her say “pretty please” when she wants a favor from you. you may hold her hands and then drop it as you say “Nah.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved
. Let her know that you won’t spoil her like all the other men because you’re special and unique. Teasing Technique #10: Delayed Gratification Another method used to send mixed feelings is to never give her anything she wants until you feel like giving it. The woman will be too busy to figure out what’s happening to put up any defense. She will be delighted to see that there is “an inner battle” within you as you try to make out your feelings for her. You can also do this when you’re making out. when she asks for a kiss – don’t give it to her. No holding hands this early.
Example #1: Instead of telling her you like her. But kiss her when you feel like to.” But then you take it again. she may reject you on the spot because it's direct and
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For example. Make her beg you a bit (playfully) before you give anything to her. This is called DELAYED gratification. If you say "I really like you". And when you finally give something to her. Teasing Technique #11: Make Her Say “Pretty Please” Every once in awhile. you say "you really like me" in a teasing manner.
you're still pretty. kiss her. use it to your advantage. etc.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
blatant. You may also accuse her of hugging you or kissing you a lot.All Rights Reserved
. I would enjoy it even more if you would touch me a little bit closer." Example #5: Let's say you're cuddling or making out with her. For example. They love to pick petals off a rose and say. (Being PLAYFUL is the key) She will probably go like "No it's not!" Then you look into her eyes and say. if you want to touch me.Marius Panzarella . say one of her earlobes is lower than the other PLAYFULLY. etc but then SUDDENLY STOP.. "It's all right. Women love MINDGAMES. Like if something funny or interesting happens while on a date. She's going to be all hot and bothered and ask you what's wrong. This will leave her wondering if you're really attracted to her or not. "He loves me.. When a woman touches you on the leg. "May you stop touching my leg?" Then when she seems thrown off. But if you say "You really like me" PLAYFULLY.
Example #4: Some women like to touch a guy while they talk. he loves me not" Example #2: You can make fun of something small about her (don't overdo it though). say "Well. She may even put her arms around you to try
207 Copyright 2000-2007 . say in a serious tone. And then you give her a hug or kiss back. then you can get away with it because you're just joking." Example #3: Give her a personal nickname or tease her about something that is special to both of you. try to smell her neck.
See how see reacts. This is a VERY good way to advance through her boundaries. suddenly pull her up and then give her a hug. But while you're doing this.. "Do guys find you so beautiful that they are afraid to approach you?" If she says "yes". wallflower?” Lead her onto the dance floor. If she seems to enjoy it.. I think I need a second try first. “What you are still doing here. Then stop and look at a window or something. say "Cause I felt like it" playfully or "I wanted to see if you'd feel good to hug. Then you say "I just wanted to hug you." Example #7: Give her your arm French style.
208 Copyright 2000-2007 . If she likes it. then go back to her and say playfully. Dance for awhile.. then say. start making out with her again. "Do you let it go into your head?" Example #9: Let’s say you’ve been talking to a woman for a while at a club.. Example #6: Be unpredictable. Then ask. make sure she sees you dancing with your friends. just say "Well. (This will REALLY make her wonder if you do like her or if its all "in her head") Example #8: Ask her about her love life. Then walk with her for a while." If she asks you why. Then when you walk again hold her hand. Find an excuse to leave her for a bit and then get out onto the dance floor. rub it a little bit.All Rights Reserved
. See how she reacts.Marius Panzarella ." If she asks you if you think she's good. After a few seconds. act like you think she's your best friend. then continue.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
you to get back to it.but more fiercely this time. While sitting on a bench on a date.
make up a funny excuse. You smile a smug smile and say. Finally.Marius Panzarella . Pull back. Example #11: Let’s say you are making out with a woman and you’re kissing her neck and kissing her neck. “Only if you say pretty please. stroke her hair. you can tell her playfully that you have liked her in the past. If she asks you why. say “fine” playfully and don’t neck with her again as a punishment. She seems to be loving it. joke about hooking her up with a guy if she needs any help with men. if it’s not “pretty please”. tell her to say “pretty please”. tell her to give a piece of something to this poor Ethiopian child (while pointing at yourself) from her plate. and ask. just smile say “pretty please” playfully.” Whatever she says after. But if she says “yes”. Example #14: If a girl is clearly interested in you. like “Because you are too mean to me” or “Because I’ve just
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. “You’ll have to make up for the food you wasted. ask. Shake your head and shake your finger and feign disappointment. “Do you like it when I nibble on your neck?” If she says “no…” stop. Repeat until she gives in. say. “Do you want some more?” If she says “yes”. Example #13: While on a first date.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Example #10: A woman needs you to do a minor favor. if a woman is clearly interested in you. Then start talking about all the starving children in Ethiopia. but do not anymore.” When she asks you how.
you could be an Amazon.
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come out of the closet.” One last thing: Remember that a big part of teasing is to be unpredictable. say something like “If you’re any taller. Example #15: If a girl is wearing high heels.” Don’t forget to be PLAYFUL when you say the line.All Rights Reserved
. Be creative with your teasing rather than having the same response every time.
Don't start using it in the middle of the conversation.so that it won't become awkward when you finally touch her later.All Rights Reserved
. This creates a big problem.Marius Panzarella . you can't use any body language when you are on the phone. Unlike talking to a woman in person..) If you're uncomfortable with using your flirty voice. playful voice. But what's different about flirting on the phone is that you're mostly relying on your voice instead of your body language. So here's the secret to flirting on the phone: USE YOUR FLIRTY VOICE! From the moment you say "hello" on the phone with a woman. What this means is that you should pay EXTRA ATTENTION to your voice tone whenever you talk to a woman you're interested in. I want you to use your flirty. I can promise you that if you never flirt or be playful with women. (For the same reason you want to make physical contact with a woman as soon as possible while on a first date. then you really need to open up and be more playful.
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Chapter 13 Flirting Over The Phone And Email
Flirting Over The Phone
Flirting on the phone is a lot like flirting in person.. as according to scientists more than 93 percent of our communication is based on non-verbal communication. You tease a woman and be playful. Start using it RIGHT AWAY.
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. Guess what? It doesn't work that way.
Here is a good exercise for developing a flirty voice: Imagine the person you're talking to is in the same room with you and you're flirting with her on the couch.especially on the vowels. You *cannot* expect to attract a woman just be writing sheets and sheets of "romantic language" to her. Now adopt the same expression on your face and body language with your body. Chances are. project all of this to the woman you're talking to by slowing down your speech just a bit . They want to know things such as how they can "describe the sensations" of all the naughty things they would like to do to these women so that the women will fall in love with them by just reading their emails. In fact.. you will probably scare her away.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
you're not going to have much success in dating. Women are just going to talk to you because they think you're a good "friend".she's going to "see" you through your voice!
Flirting Over The Phone
Many guys have asked me how they can attract a woman they have just met by sending them emails with "hypnotic words". Her face is just inches away from yours.. and there's some intense eye contact going on. The trouble with flirting over email is that there're
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The women may take your teasing "literally" because you're not there to express yourself. when she thinks you're actually insulting her. You could start going in the wrong direction at ANY time.
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NO "romantic calibration" at all. For example. a lot of your flirting and teasing may become "lame". you could talk all about how much you would enjoy rock-climbing or going star-gazing with her – when the woman is not even interested in these things. then make sure you keep your emails SHORT.. As a result. So what's the solution? Well. If you absolutely must flirt with a woman over email.Marius Panzarella . Because without body language and voice language. you could be going down the wrong path without knowing.. ATTRACT HER IN REAL LIFE. there's no way for you to get any kind of feedback. In real life.All Rights Reserved
.. BE A MAN and don't try to attract women by writing emails.it's pretty simple.
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when I email a woman the first time. then you can send a few more short messages and finally ask if she has Instant Messenger. and if a woman responds positively. This way. is <insert name> there?" Try this.Marius Panzarella . you can interact with her in real time!
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“I hate you” could mean “I like you” when said playfully. Or ask “How you’re doing” while you’re trying to “beckon” or “blame” your imaginary partner. For example.) To practice this. For example. say “Hi” while trying to “amaze” or “challenge” an imaginary woman in front of you. you must first master the skill of using your VOICE tone to communicate. Your voice tone will dictate most of your meanings when you flirt with a woman.Marius Panzarella . you’re being funny.“I hate you” to you.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Chapter 14 Advanced Flirting Tactics
Technique #1 . (In this case. repeat the following phrases using the verbs list below. just stick an action verb into each phrase and use it to change the meaning of your phrase.
1) “Hi” 2) “How are you doing?” 3) “What’s the story behind that?”
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aid allure amaze amuse anticipate approach arouse assess assist bait beckon beguile bewitch blame bless bluff boost bribe cajole call catch challenge chastise cheer clarify command conceal condemn confirm confuse consider contest convince correct corroborate court criticize crush dare defy delight direct displease divert dominate dramatize draw duck ease educate elevate elicit enchant endear endure enlighten entangle entertain entreat eschew estimate evade evaluate excuse execute feed force free frighten frustrate
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gag help jumble humiliate humor hurt hypnotize imitate induce indulge inspire insult interview intrigue invite judge lead lecture liberate lure magnetize manipulate mend mimic motivate mystify oppose orient panic patronize please
pose propose purify reject release satisfy scold sedate seduce settle shake shame sicken soothe spoil still stretch suggest summon support suppress surprise tease tempt tickle tolerate understand warn worry worship
Once you have mastered using your voice tone to communicate. This is a more advanced form of “sending mixed signals”. For example.Marius Panzarella . you can flirt with women by adding another layer of subtext to your verbal communication. you can say something perfectly normal and innocent and have it mean something else.All Rights Reserved
” you could say. For example. For example. when you’re out dancing on the dance floor and you’re wiggling around with a girl. if she touches you. “Did you just rub my ass?” Then when she says. you could rub her ass with yours. But next time. I forgive you.”
218 Copyright 2000-2007 . “It’s okay. you can tease her by claiming she’s interested in you.”
Technique #3 – Steal Her Frame
Another good way to tease a woman is to steal her frame. When she gets angry and defensive. “I don’t like being treated like a sex object. “No…” you follow up by saying. steal every line and trick women uses. Instead of telling her that you like her. Basically. tell her “It’s okay” and grab her hand. I don’t know you well enough yet. “No way. pull away with a surprised look on your face. you know. I would prefer it if you would rub me a little bit higher.All Rights Reserved
. You could even initiate the contact yourself and then ACCUSE her or doing it. you can tell her. Why do women always treat me like I am just a piece of meat? I have feelings too. and ask.Marius Panzarella . No way I am going to bed with you. tell her that SHE likes you. I should go home for bed. if she says “It’s getting late. you will be able to project your sexual thoughts WITHOUT talking about them verbally at all. For example.
Technique #2 – Act Like She’s Hitting On You
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With practice.” You could also accuse her of “touching you a lot”.
you don't want to do this every single time a woman asks you for help. are you? Oh. When a woman asks you for a pen. *pause* You’re not like me.”
Technique #5 – Bartering
When a woman asks you for a small favor. when a woman asks you to hold her bag. For example. Of course. such as "Your hair smells really good. I want you to act like a challenge by bartering with her. you could ask. Make her say "pretty please".”
Technique #4 – The Whisper Compliment
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. then lean in to her ear and whisper a killer compliment. too bad. don't just take it from her like a little puppy. “So…where do you work and how much money do you make a year? In case you haven’t noticed. You'll truly become a challenge!
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. So if you start a relationship prematurely. you can then take physical action. Here’s the bottom line: The faster you get together. measurable steps. then you should get her phone number. But no matter which path you choose. Don’t jump from talking to her to suddenly kissing her.
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Chapter 15 From Desire To Physical Action
Once you have created a desire in a woman and anchored onto it through flirting and teasing. The mottos these “seduction experts” use. you should follow the following rules: Take small steps: Remember to take small. it’s probably going to end prematurely as well.Marius Panzarella .
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221 Copyright 2000-2007 . Remember: If a girl becomes uncomfortable at any point. she’s going to lose all respect and attraction for you. The moment you let a woman whip you around. not push: The more you push a girl into doing something. Use anticipation: Don’t forget to “stop and go” every once in awhile to create anticipation. Don’t move too slowly: At the same time. That’s why you lead a woman instead of push her. Continue to surprise your girl. Let your girl feel comfortable with each step before you lead her to the next one. Be a challenge: Continue to be a challenge and be unpredictable. the more she will pull away. If you are too slow. Remain in control: Always keep your backbone and remain in control. Lead. she will pull away and you will lose all your chances.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Don’t move too fast: Don’t rush. you’re going to lose your “window of opportunity”.Marius Panzarella .
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. something I’ve noticed over the years is that women can never give you a direct “no”. This is ESPECIALLY true when you’re hitting on cashiers and waitresses. she’s not going to say “no”. If you ask a typical girl for her number and she’s not interested. then she may not be interested. I want you to examine her reaction. then she’s just being polite
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Getting Her Digits
lot of times my readers ask me for help because they’ve had trouble getting phone numbers from women. If she freaks out for a second and then smiles. Others mail me because they don’t know how to deal with women who appear to be cold or rude on the phone. Instead. (Or maybe they just want your gratitude!) So don’t be too happy if a girl gives you her number – she may just be being polite!
Dating Technique: How To See If A Girl Is Interested In You By Asking For Her Number
Next time you ask for a girl’s number.
“Oh come on.Marius Panzarella . And that’s why if you can see through this and joke about it. then she probably likes you. Digits Rule #1: Never offer your phone number instead of asking for hers.
Golden Rules On Getting Digits
First of all. Some guys think that makes them special because the women have to call them blah. Digits Rule #2: Do not let a girl take your phone number instead of giving you hers. you will break down some of her barriers. etc. don’t leave your phone number and ask her to call you. your business card is going to get trashed. blah. Stupid. It’s only fair. Here are some counters for women who want to take your number: Counter Technique #1: Just smile and get her to trade.All Rights Reserved
. There is a dating manual out there that teaches men to hand out business cards to as many women as they can because a few of them are bound to call. I’m only going to call ten times a day. If a chick asks you for your number instead when you ask for hers.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
If she seems really happy and blushes.” Most women don’t want to give out phone numbers because it’s a big invasion of their privacy. blah but seriously…this is stupid. As soon you turn your back.
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Don’t forget email and instant messenger nicknames. Also. Hanging around more could mean messing up and losing your chance with her. they can just block your address or get another hotmail account. there’s no point in getting her digits anyhow. Women give out emails much easier because…if you turn out to be a freak. And if you don’t click with her. As soon as you get her number or email. You’re almost guaranteed to see her again. tell her you have to leave but would like to continue talking to her at another time. I mean it.All Rights Reserved
. get it? Digits Rule #3: Only ask for a girl’s number after you’ve talked to her for a while AND got along. Remember: it’s always easier to give a number to an interesting new “friend” than a stranger you’ve met for 30 seconds.
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Counter Technique #2: Bust her and say “Oh come on.” In theory. Digits Rule #5: Leave as soon as you get her number. You’re just going to show it to all your girlfriends and then toss it away. Digits Rule #4: Try to get her email and IM nicknames. get lost. you should ask for her number AFTER you’ve talked to her for a while. you’re just setting yourself up for rejection. (And got along) If she sees you as an interesting person. she will probably want to give you her number. There.
Say “Let’s have dinner Wednesday night or Friday night at eight. What day is better for you?” This way it will be less likely for her to run into time conflicts and you will still be in control. have two times ready. My friend Jenny once told me how she got home after a short trip one weekend and found 5 messages from the same guy on her machine. Call her from a pay phone if you don’t want your name to show up on her Caller ID.
Digits Rule #8: Only call her to ask her out! THINK about what you’re going to say BEFORE calling her. don’t call her to talk. young Jedi! Digits Rule #6: Wait at least 5-6 days before you call her! When you call her…please do not leave any messages on her machine. DO NOT call her right away.Marius Panzarella . In fact. Guys only get phone numbers so they can ask for dates. Digits Rule #7: Do NOT leave any messages on her machine or send her any text messages. DON’T call her too often! Also.
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How long should you wait before you call? At least five to six days. It will make you seem desperate. Why? So she’ll be wondering why you haven’t called yet and be even more eager when you finally do. so have patience. Good thing only comes to those who wait. So do not call her just to “talk”. she was very annoyed. She will think you’re the biggest wimp on earth. Needless to say. Only call her to ASK FOR A DATE.
like “Sorry I am busy on both days. shut your mouth and hang up as soon as she agrees to go out.” Ha! She’s just using you! She’s either not interested at all or just using you as a back-up plan.All Rights Reserved
. Finally. that’s a rejection. Save everything you want to say for the big date. How about we go out on Saturday instead?” then everything is still all right. If she makes a counter-offer. Digits Rule #11: Don’t fall for the “Call me later to confirm” trick. Digits Rule #12: Shut your mouth and hang up as soon as the date is set!
Why Women Do Not Call Back
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Digits Rule #9: THINK before your call. If she can’t find a REAL date that night. there are only two reasons why a woman would not call back.Marius Panzarella . really listen to what she says. Digits Rule #10: She either counteroffers or she doesn’t go.
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it means she's just not attracted to you "enough". For example. Solution? Make sure you leave a woman emotionally connected to you BEFORE you leave with her phone number. Don't just makeout and get physical with her. In that case.. Keep calling. if you makeout with a woman but do not build enough comfort before you call her.All Rights Reserved
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Remember that by the time you CALL a woman for a date. she's going to feel a bit like a slut when she hears from you. then you should have attracted her MORE before you asked for her phone number using the techniques you have learned from this book. This is mostly due to a "lack of intimacy". and she will block your number. She already knows whether she wants to go out with you or not.Marius Panzarella . her initial impression of you will have ALREADY been formed. You should have flirted with her more. and any chance to "talk" her into hanging out will only make her even MORE uncomfortable.. teased her more. She knows why you're calling. she still does not return your calls the day after. This problem usually occurs when you advance too far with a woman physically without first creating an emotional bond with her.there are times when a woman seems to be attracted to you enough to MAKEOUT with you. But of course. Stand out from all the other strangers she has made out with in the past by creating a bond she has never felt with any other man. Yet. and acted more of a challenge in front of her. and she's not interested in getting any more. She's no longer in a sexually aroused state.
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This could be a deep conversation about her dreams, OR it could be something REALLY simple...such as giving her a little bit of recognition for acting different than other women. (Hint: Most people like to believe that they are somehow "better" than other people.) For example, bust her balls and tell her you won't treat her special just because she's beautiful because there are beautiful women all around the world. Then tell her she does look like she's a bit smarter than all the other girls at the club. When she thanks you, tell her you have to go but would love to hang out with her some time. Let HER offer her phone number to you. Then talk to her some more (if you need to build any more rapport or build up the chemistry more) and GET OUT OF THERE!
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Chapter 17 Your First 10 Dates
Where To Go For The First Date
The location of your first date really depends on what you want to do and how well you know the women already. If you would like to get to know her a bit better or maybe connect with her a bit, then you should go see her in a coffee shop or somewhere that is not too distracting. Somewhere quiet where you can bond with her. But if you feel you have known her enough already or you just want to have fun, then by all means, go somewhere fun. You should always take her somewhere stimulating. If she is an outdoor person, rock climbing or hiking should be good – as long as there’s good scenery. My personal favorite is the amusement park. The last time I went there with a girl her eyes were basically lit up the entire time. All the rides had really stimulated her excitement and brought the little girl out of her. You may also consider putting dancing on the top of your list. A lot of girls complain that guys don’t like to dance enough. So be the special guy who loves to dance. Take dance lessons, or simply just move around. I don’t care. Just go dancing. And remember that fast dances are the best. It can really work up a woman before you slow dance with her later.
Dating Technique: How To Fast Dance
"Club dancing" is 10 percent skills and 90 percent attitude. Most people who look great on the dance floor do not have
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training in ballet/jazz or anything. A lot of them can't even count, actually! But these guys are still admired because they always look like they are enjoying themselves. They are the people who can just get up to the dance floor and "go crazy". Dancing is a form of expression, so as long as you learn to EXPRESS YOURSELF through dancing, you'll look like you can dance well! Lastly, keep in mind that most guys are ridiculous dancers. Actually, I take that back. Most guys do not dance at all - so going onto that floor will already score you A LOT of brownie points, no matter how bad you are!
You should try to stay away from “normal” dating locations such as “going to the movies” at all costs. Movies are a waste of time. You should be talking to her instead. If the movie is bad, she will blame it on you. And if the movie is great, then she forgets about you. Also, it is much more interesting to do something together than going out on a “date”. Sometimes “going on a date” sounds stupid. Know what I mean? Make it something else. Like “hiking” or “dancing”. Just don’t call it a “date”.
Dating Technique: You’re Just “Hanging Out”
Do not take a girl out on a “traditional date”. Instead, hang out with her as friends while flirting like crazy and having a good time. In fact, when you ask girls out, ask them to come “hang out”, not “go out”!
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In short, when choosing a location for a date, consider the following rules: Dating Rule: How To Pick A Date Location
1) It must be fun and something you can do
2) It must be physically, emotionally or mentally
If you follow these rules, then the environment will be working in your favors! Don’t forget to make “creative” suggestions. If she absolutely hates an idea, she will let you know.
How To Set Up The Date
Call the women and ask directly for a date. Again, if you don’t know a woman enough yet you should definitely ask for a “coffee” type of date and then ask her out on a SECOND date (to somewhere more exciting) if the first date goes well. When you phone the woman, let her know how you had fun hanging out with her the other night and ask her if she’s interesting in joining you for a cup of coffee and another wonderful conversation. You get the idea.
Dating Technique: When She Hesitates…
If the girl hesitates or doesn’t want to answer, then joke and tease her about it. A nice “Am I that scary eh?” should do the trick.
Dating Technique: When To Go Out
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When you first meet a woman, only go out with her on weekdays. This will set you up as an important person who has a social life on weekends. If she asks you about what you’re doing on the weekends, always tell her you’re “busy” – even if you’re actually just sitting at home!
Lastly, make it clear to a woman that you just want to “make friends”. This lets her know that you’re not a needy, insecure kind of guy. You perfectly understand that the world will still revolve without her! It lets her know YOU are picking her, not the other way around!
What If She Flakes Out On You
In my experience, there are only a few reasons why a woman would flake out on a date: 1) Low Attraction: If Tom Cruise had asked her out on a date, would she have flaked out? Probably not. She would probably have prepared for it HOURS in advance, got a new hairdo at the salon, and showed up 30 minutes EARLY instead of being half an hour late. 2) She's Disorganized: A lot of flaky girls are flaky because they are disorganized. They don't just flake out on guys. They flake out on their own girlfriends too. 3) She's A Natural Flaker: This is worse than having time management skills. Some girls are just natural flakes because of the way they
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see the world. So many people have let them flake out without any consequences that they don't even see anything wrong with it. Getting a natural flaker to stop flaking on you is as hard as getting a bad driver to stop tail-gating you. She may stop flaking for a few weeks when the attraction is high. But as soon as she settles down with you, she will start flaking again. So, basically... No matter which category she is in, if a woman flakes out on you, it means she either... 1) Doesn't like you "that" much. 2) Has weak character. Here's my general rule on flaking: If a woman flakes out on you once, you should call her on her b.s. If she flakes out on you a second time, don't ask her out AGAIN until she is begging for you to come out. If she flakes out on you a third time, you should cut her out of your life - FOREVER! Here's one last little hint: If women flake out on you all the time, you need to work on ATTRACTING women BEFORE you ask them out. Don't just talk to a girl for 2 minutes and get her number. TALK to her and FLIRT with her first. If you skip these steps and skip to asking her out right away, you'll just be setting yourself up for failure. You MUST create chemistry and rapport BEFORE you ask for a date.
What to Wear On A First Date
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The First Date
For me. make sure it’s the best thing a guy can wear to whatever place you’re heading to. third or forth) date. but do not knock on her door until you’re right on time. This gives me enough time to get to know the girl a bit more and see if she is still worthy of my attention.All Rights Reserved
. but just make sure whatever you’re wearing doesn’t look too cheap.
Dating Technique: NO Gifts Please!
Do not give a woman any gifts on a first. or even seventh date! (Or until she is your girlfriend!) Don’t scare her off by making her feel she has to give something back (like love) in return!
After I’ve talked to her over coffee and we’re now good friends. sixth. and then trying to decide if you should hold her hand or not. but no matter what you wear. I can then take the girl somewhere else as the
234 Copyright 2000-2007 . this gives me time to talk to her and create a little bond before we even go somewhere. This is very important. third. This doesn’t mean you have to be overdressed.Marius Panzarella . then arrive there a bit early in case her apartment is hard to find or there are no parking spots. you can skip all this “official date” crap and make the whole date seem so much smoother. By talking to her over coffee. a first date usually starts with going for a cup of coffee together. Also. giving her flowers. second. fourth fifth. If you DO go pick her up for whatever reason (like for a second.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Make sure you are very careful about what you wear on a first date. You won’t have to go through the trouble of knocking on her door. as it will make the date seem much less awkward. You don’t have to wear a 3-piece suit.
I also always make sure I act chivalrous throughout the date. At this point. She will probably find it very cute.
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Dating Technique: Send Mixed Signals
When you’re hanging out with a woman. Stay away from these crazy feminazi’s!
Dating Technique: Chivalry Code 101
Here’s how to be a classy gentleman: 1) Offer her your arm. “Does he like me?”
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second part of the date. I start to tease her more and more while “being her friend. it’s true that there are crazy women out there who feel insulted when you open a door for them. If she doesn’t know about this you can tell her.Marius Panzarella . This includes things such as opening doors for her and walking on the roadside of the pavement. This is to protect her from being hit by a car. act like you just want to be friends WHILE you’re flirting with her. This will make her wonder. 2) Open doors.
At this point. she'll probably blush or give you a "what?" Respond by teasing her casually. YOU’RE taking her out! Be in control!
I also make compliments and tease my date like crazy to drive her mad for me. it's going to ruin everything.until she "catches" you looking. If you show ANY hesitation or nervousness. I think you should let her notice it on purpose! Listen: Your date has spent a lot of time getting ready to go out with you.) Why tease her instead of giving her a compliment? Because she has already SEEN you checking her out. The least you could do is to pay her a little bit of attention! Next time you go out with a woman. In fact.
Let Her Catch You Checking Her Out
Many guys are AFRAID of letting their dates catch them checking them out because they are afraid of what their dates will think of them..which is really a non-verbal compliment itself.Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
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. Just remember that this MUST be done in a confident way. linger your eyes on her for JUST a little bit too long . Listen. There's really NO reason to state it again verbally. (Example: "What if she thinks I am a pervert???") I think this is garbage. (Such as her hair or skirt. Instead of
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the things your grandma would make you do. (Too loud or too quiet?) See if there are any particular tables you want. (So I don’t have to waste any money on a bad date. tiny seafood restaurant near the ocean – with just the two of us.
Dating Technique: Cruise The Restaurant First
Cruise the restaurant before the date.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
repeating yourself with words. Needless to say. Basically. we had a nice time at the beach after. make sure my teeth are clean. This doesn’t mean it has to be an expensive restaurant. Pay attention to the atmosphere.
Dating Technique: Table Manners 101
1) Do not play with the table utensils or crumble the bread. No talking with my mouth open.Marius Panzarella . One of my best dinner-dates happened in a tiny. just use this as an opportunity to tease her!
I usually take my date to dinner only “after” a first date.
I always put on my best manners.) There are several rules I go by when I take a woman out for dinner: Choose the right restaurant: I always make sure I can go to a place where I can pay for the most expensive item on the menu. etc. Take a look at the manual and make sure your face won’t cringe when you order. It just means it has to be special somehow. I always try to find a place where the atmosphere is great.
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2) Do not put your elbows on the table. 8) Never make a noise while eating. Here are a few more rules for a first date:
Dating Technique: Do Not Tell Her Your “Love”
Never tell a woman on a first date that you like her.
Dating Technique: Be A Good Listener
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. 9) Do not open the mouth while chewing. or lounge 3) Do not talk loud or boisterously 4) Be cheerful in conduct or conversation 5) Never cough or sneeze at the table. I always tip the waiter handsomely.
By the way. It’s sick. 7) Do not talk when the mouth is full. 11) Eat soup with the side of the spoon.
She will think you’re a sincere person – even if you’re not!
Dating Technique: Look For Subtle Clues
When a girl asks you “Would you like to” do whatever.Marius Panzarella . Never get angry in front of a woman until you’re married.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Listen to what the lady has to say. you don't want to "lie" to her and tell her that you have "many" girlfriends when you don't.when I haven't even had a girlfriend for a long time?" Obviously.
Dating Technique: Don’t Drive Too Fast
Keep the crazy driving in the arcade.. what if a woman asks me about my love life or if I have a girlfriend while I'm on a first date.. Do not scare her on the road!
Dating Technique: Keep Your Cool
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. she’s not asking. she’s implying she wants it.
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What If A Woman Asks You If You Have A Girlfriend
A question that I always get from my readers is: "Marius.
Or she may make a comment such as “You must get a lot of girls…” Don't "freak out" and deny if when this happens . she's going to see you as weak or even manipulative..." When you get to the "couple of prospects" part. tilt your head a bit. "How about you? How's your love life?" Or.if you wanna tease her. Tell her "I don't have a girlfriend right now. When a woman asks you this question or makes you the comment.. (Remember: You need to remain a challenge!) So here's what you tell her. she is probably already interested in you and just wants to throw this question at you as a little test. look into her eyes. "How about you? How's your love life? You even have one?" It works like a charm!
What If A Woman Asks You If You’re A Player
Another “test” a woman may throw at you on a first date is to ask you if you’re a player.
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Nor do you want to tell her that you're a loser who hasn't been on a date for years. and smile at her. then ask..
As soon as a woman pops this question. So here is what you should do: Admit it with your body language. “We should do it together sometime. you will seem even less desperate and she will wonder if she will get to see you again. So the fact that you're good women will actually ATTRACT her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Remember that women are *very* competitive and want what other women want. "Well. duh!" while you actually say. For example. "Well. But I’ve found it usually works better if you wait.Marius Panzarella . society has taught women that they "shouldn't" date or fall in love with players..
Dating Technique: Do Not Ask For A Second Date
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How To Get A Second Date
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.there are always women around.” But then I change topics. if she tells you that she likes ice-skating. This way. But of course. shrug and react with your body language as if to say. you can then set her up for a second date." Remember: Women like men who are not afraid of their sexuality. not repel it. but brush the issue aside casually with your words. Sometimes I like to get the idea for the second date from the first date itself.
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.Marius Panzarella . I have to wake up early tomorrow”! I know this goes against what most “pick-up gurus” out there may teach you. go in! =) Otherwise. of course. Remember the golden rule: keep the focus on HER!
242 Copyright 2000-2007 . “Dating is for a woman you’ve already slept with”. the faster you breakup. then it is important to take things slowly. She may not share the same view. be the first guy to say “Sorry. don’t talk about yourself too much at all. Leave that waitress alone! FOCUS YOUR ATTENTION ON YOUR GIRL! 3) Don’t talk about your past relationships. (Unless you’re just looking for a one-night stand. In fact. The faster you get together. But I sincerely believe that if you want to have a long-term relationship with someone. so work on your self-control!
A Few General Rules
Here are a few “Do’s” and “Don’ts” to end this chapter:
10 “Don’ts” on a first date
1) Don’t talk about politics or religion.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Never ask for a second date while on a first date!
You may want to take this concept further by denying her when she asks you to come into her home. they always tell you.
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. BE ON TIME. house or apartment before the date. Try to play it cool!
10 “Do’s” On A First Date
1) Do groom yourself properly before you go out. until feelings get hurt. Seriously. Don’t even tell her you like her! 9) Don’t be late on the first date. Unless you know she’s…hmm…into the same stuff. Humor is good. 10) Don’t act like this is your first date in your entire life. be FUNNY – but not offensive or rude. it’s going to ruin the whole evening.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
4) Don’t make any offensive jokes. Just in case!
243 Copyright 2000-2007 . Don’t show up an hour early and then wait for her either. 3) Do buy some fresh condoms AND clean up your room. 7) Don’t kiss her ass.
8) Don’t tell her you love her. 5) Don’t talk about your sexy kinks.Marius Panzarella . Dress nice! 2) Do flirt with her and tease her like there is no tomorrow during the date. (Like unless she tells you first and it happens to be the same thing you like…) 6) Don’t get into ANY sort of argument with her. (Then it’s hilarious…just kidding!) Seriously.
Holding her hand? See if you can get a kiss next. Do act like a gentlemen and open doors for her.
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4) Do give her a big hug as soon as you meet her. 6) 7) 8) Do have a stimulating conversation with her. (Not too much though!)
9) Do only go to a place where you can afford to order the most expensive item on the manual. Let a woman know that you're a GREAT chef.All Rights Reserved
. 10) Do relax and have fun!
How To Invite A Woman To Go To Your Place
How hard is it to convince a woman to come to your place? Not hard at all. The key is to TEMPT her with a reason. In fact. and so on. Why? A little physical touching right off the bat can be a good start! 5) Do advance through her boundaries and limits subtly. I'd say it's EASY. Do compliment her. Over the years.Marius Panzarella . and she's going to rush over to your place for food and dessert. I've discovered that the best temptation to get a woman to come to your place is… FOOD. etc.
10 Tips For A Great Dinner Date
1) Use Foreign Recipes Try to cook something that a woman has probably never tried before. 2) Drink Imported Wine Imported wine usually only costs a few dollars more than domestic wine. Describe the sensations of all the glorious food in detail.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Here's what you do: Next time you talk to a woman. tell her you're going to experiment with a new dish the next weekend and invite her to come over and try it. Drop a few names in French. See the subtle psychological trick? Now instead of thinking about whether she should accept your offer or not. so there is no reason for you to be "cheap" and buy domestic wine. Then talk about the special desserts in those cultures.All Rights Reserved
. Talk about classy dishes that you have tried cooking at home.org and read up on the
245 Copyright 2000-2007 . (A dress that you're going to rip off after dinner anyway). You can probably get them for around $5-10 each when they are on sale at bookstores. she's thinking about how she can impress you by wearing a nice dress. or Spanish. Italian. Then divert her attention by telling her that there is one condition: she is going to have to dress up if she's going to come over for a proper dinner. Go to Wiki. Invest in a few French or Spanish cookbooks that you put on the coffee table.Marius Panzarella . bring up the subject of good food. Then just when the woman is salivating.
Flirt with her while you cook.. then let her chop the vegetables.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
region of the wine so that you're sound classy and knowledgeable if a woman asks.Marius Panzarella . 5) Play Some Soft Music Play some light classical or jazz music in the background to set the mood. 7) Let Her Help If she offers to help. do NOT unplug them.All Rights Reserved
. Let her SEE you preparing a meal for her. Remember to change the sheets and make the bed too! 4) Turn Phones Off
Set your phones to silent if you can. 3) Clean Your Apartment Make sure your apartment is very tidy before you invite a woman over. However. she's going to know you're up to something. 8) Use Candles
246 Copyright 2000-2007 . 6) Don't Start Cooking Until She Gets Here Wait for her to arrive BEFORE you start cooking. There's where half of the romance is. Have the recipe memorized so that you don't have to look at the paper. If a woman needs to make a call and finds out all of your phones have been unplugged.
look at her and smile. At this point. she may do three things.
247 Copyright 2000-2007 . Tease her by saying something like. say "Wait! I forgot something!" and bring out the candles. You do NOT want to break the romance!
What To Do After Dinner (What To Do Once You Have Her On The Couch)
After dinner. 9) Have A Few Romantic Movies Ready Have a couple of "chick flicks" ready so that you'll have an excuse to move to the couch after dinner. Before you start the move. 10) Skip The Dishes
Do NOT wash the dishes after dinner. put on a romantic movie and start watching it with her." Reach over and put an arm over her shoulder. She may find an opportunity to "escape" from your arm (red light). and ask.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Just when dinner is about to begin.Marius Panzarella . you know.All Rights Reserved
. Turn your head back to the TV and keep watching the movie. lean over. Don't sit too close to her at the beginning unless she sits right next to you. "Are you ready?" The reason for this move is to establish physical contact so that it won't be weird when you suddenly start touching her later on. Play the movie and watch it for 20 minutes. It will be a major distraction. "You're funny when you laugh. Then wait for her to laugh. When she does. nudge her lightly.
and finally her lips. slip your hand down her arm and interlock fingers with her.All Rights Reserved
. you can begin to undress her. if you get a yellow light. Pull back for now and try again later. she may lean closer to you or rest her head on your shoulder. Once she does. And if she doesn't do anything. her face. If she leans closer to you. See if she holds onto your hand. As always. read the chapter on getting physical!
The “Blanket Cheat” Technique
248 Copyright 2000-2007 . you should advance until you get either a green light or a red light. See how she reacts. it means you're getting a yellow light. At this point. she may not do anything and just sit there. Finally. So put your other arm on her arm. Keep going at it until she kisses you back. If the reaction is positive. Snuggle with her for another twenty minutes. it means she's either not attracted to you or just not ready. move your hand up and down her arm.Marius Panzarella . if she still doesn't move away.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Or. So put your other arm on her arm anyway. start turning up the heat by smelling her neck and stroking her hair. Once you have snuggled with her for awhile. it means she's giving you a green light. If she pulls away from you. For more information on how to cuddle. Then kiss her on the cheek.
. and you can do all sorts of things that she wouldn't otherwise do with people around. ask her if she's cold. (Don't do anything that may get you arrested though.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Here's a killer trick: Have a blanket close-by.here's the thing.women often feel safer when they are under a blanket.Marius Panzarella . start cuddling with her again. Now. grab the blanket drape it over you and her. If you don't have a fireplace near the television.All Rights Reserved
.... I have no idea why this is. of course!) Once you are under the blanket with her.) Simply drape your jacket over the woman. Let the warmth of your bodies warm each other up! You can also use a variation of this technique in a dark theatre. she's not going to say "no" to the blanket. But before she can answer.. consider turning down the heat a little before dinner.. I just know from experience that it works. Once you've used the tips from the last section to cuddle with a girl on the couch. she's going to show less resistance because she assumes she's under a blanket anyway.or even in a public place. If she is attracted to you. (Unless it's a hot summer night.
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Here is some ways women use to test you. either consciously or unconsciously. If you mess up. If you’re a big wuss. A woman tests men because she has to find out if the guy she’s dating is strong enough for her. Unfortunately. she must test them all in a systematic manner and dump the guys that flunk her tests.All Rights Reserved
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How Women Test You And What You Can Do About It
Why Women Test Men
If you go out with a woman. most guys get fired by the 5th date. Understand that the more beautiful a woman is. Every woman tests the guys she dates. In order to go through all these guys and find the one she REALLY wants. the more choices she has – meaning there are plenty of guys she can date any time. So prepare to answer the following “scripted questions” from women:
250 Copyright 2000-2007 .Marius Panzarella . you’re going to get fired right away. you’re going to get tested. and how you can counter them:
Category 1: Asking You Questions
Women love to interview guys on a first date. There’s no way around it. Think of dating as a series of interviews before you get married. women need to screen you out of the game early so they don’t have to waste any time on you.
“No.” (Smile smugly at her. Only gold diggers do. I have a couple of prospects right now.” So they answer something stupid like.) “Why. “Oh no. Proper Response Examples: “Enough. You’re the only girl I like.) “Why? Are you hitting on me?”
2) “How much money do you make?” / “So what do you do?” Most guys will start bragging about themselves at this point.” Stupid. They think. Good women don’t care about how much you make. If I answer ‘yes’. and also a question that most guys screw up on.All Rights Reserved
. A lot of guys freak out when a woman asks them this question. Are you one of the really shallow women that only care about how much a guy makes?”
251 Copyright 2000-2007 . Proper Response Examples: “Well. she will think I’m a player.” (Then wink at her and smile. Don’t be the same.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
1) “Are you seeing anybody else?” / “How’s your love life?” This is a VERY common question that women ask on a first date. Just reflect the questions.Marius Panzarella .
Here are some examples: 1) Canceling dates at the last minute Solution: This is completely unacceptable.All Rights Reserved
. *pause* I have feelings too.” “I’m a gigolo. But I don’t really like it when women treat me like I am a piece of meat. These spoiled women will keep trying to push back your boundaries to see if you will put up with it.Marius Panzarella . just cancel the date and tell her she doesn’t have to come. Be stern. you should play hard to get and don’t be available. Give her a hard time and don’t ask her out again until SHE asks you out.
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Category 2: Breaking Agreements
Some women love to break rules or act bratty to see how much a guy can take.) 2) Being late Solution: Women are often late. 3) Changing plans at the last minute Solution: Don’t put up with any of this. (Even then. I’m a very shallow man who only likes rich women. So how much do you make. If she changes plans at the last minute.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
“I am an exotic dancer. But if she pushes this too bad. you’ll have to be firmer. No matter when she asks you out. pick another date. Tell her “it’s okay” because you’ll “find somebody else to go with”. you know.
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. it's time to end the date right there. Just give her the silent punishment to let her know she’s in deep shit.It's just my friends" without making an effort to turn her phone off. and then simply say. Don’t argue with her or yell at her. tell her she's hanging out with you and you'll make sure she has a fun night without talking to her friends for two hours..Marius Panzarella . such as: 1) Blatantly flirting with other men in front of you. Most of the time. "No..Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Category 3: Challenging Or Disrespecting You
There are also times when women will try to disrespect you by challenging or disrespecting for you... act cool about it and don’t be jealous.okay then. She is not the kind of woman you want to date anyway. And if she STILL throws a tantrum after that. But if she’s flirting too much. Don’t act upset. But if she turns out to be a clueless woman (or if she's using the opportunity as a chance to test you) and gives you an innocent answer like. the woman should "get it" and turn her cell phone off. Solution: If she’s only flirting a tiny bit. smile. give her the silent punishment. "Oh.
253 Copyright 2000-2007 . and asked her if she has a very important business meeting tomorrow in a playful but sarcastic tone. If she bitches about it." Then reach over and turn her phone off for her. 2) Talking on the cell phone while on a date.
hair. friends. Solution: Be like. Repeat until SHE is sexually frustrated. 2) Complaining and finding fault with your clothes. Flirt with her and turn her on – but don’t try to bed her. music.) Don’t let them.Marius Panzarella . If there was something horribly wrong with you. (Football. If she tries to use sex as leverage. etc. You’re the person she fell in love with. If she doesn’t like them. she wouldn’t have fallen in love with you.All Rights Reserved
. etc. Solution: Try to include her in your activities early on. Don’t let her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Category 4: Trying To Change You / Dominate You
Women also love to see if they can “change” you. or she’s not the right person for you. beer. too bad. She will either have to be flexible. I like it. cars. Don’t let them. just ignore her.”
Category 5: Sex Withdrawal
Some women like to “pussy-whip” guys by withdrawing sex until they do whatever she says. Then make her say “please”.
254 Copyright 2000-2007 . Remember the there is really no reason to change. She must accept the fact that you DO have a life outside of dating women. “Too bad. would she? Here are a few examples:
1) Pouting because of your friends or hobbies Some women will try to get you to choose them over your friends and hobbies because they’re jealous of anything that displaces them. music.
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. this technique works best under the following situations: 1) When you're going out with a "popular" girl who does not seem to be "that" interested in you. How are you going to feel? Uncomfortable and scared I bet. You're probably going to think. Application: When you go out with a "diva" that gives you the "This is so boring. period. she would probably feel the same.she's suddenly not talking to you. What did I do wrong?" and subconsciously tries to make it up to you. So how can YOU use this? Well... CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE 180 degrees. She's going to think.but now. this technique is a VERY powerful technique that attacks a girl's insecurity DIRECTLY and make her want to "work harder" and keeping you. just keep your enthusiasm and be really friendly with her. You see. She's going to be MUCH friendlier to you and asks you. You've been out together having a great evening. But about 15-20 minutes before dropping her off. I can't wait till you get me home" attitude and doesn't seem to be enjoying your first date. "I'm losing her.. guess what? If you were to do the same to her. Don't talk to her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Punisher Technique – The Silent Treatment
Imagine you're in a car with your girlfriend. pretend you're thinking about ANOTHER girl while you're at it..
255 Copyright 2000-2007 . don't smile at her. "What's wrong?". "Shit. Don't look at her.Marius Panzarella . This can't be happening! Oh my! I must be doing something wrong!" Well. etc. Keep EVERY moment devoted to HER. Stop paying attention to her and be TOTALLY aloof. and don't respond to her. Heck.
she's going to freak and try to compromise to make you happy again because she does not want to lose you. Remember that this is a "punisher" .just keep in mind that she's probably feeling even MORE uncomfortable than you are because she does not know the silence is intentional. Don't give them the silent treatment unless they actually DESERVE it.. Don't abuse it.. 2) It's important to have SELF-CONTROL and not break the silence yourself. she's just going to get all defensive and fight with you.Marius Panzarella .. Application: Give her the silence treatment after a date to make HER feel you're losing interest in HER... it will work MUCH better than trying to argue with her. See. JUST HAVE SELF-CONTROL AND
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She may even start complimenting you like crazy. try to just give her the silence treatment instead. so she'll probably freak due to her fear of losing you. 3) When your girlfriend is losing her interests in you.this is a very powerful technique that can TURN YOUR RELATIONSHIP AROUND! A few warnings about this "silent treatment" technique: 1) It's extremely powerful.but don't worry. If you argue with her or try to ask her to "change". You're probably going to feel VERY uncomfortable with the silence too.All Rights Reserved
. But if you show her you mean business by giving her the silence treatment. Humans are always afraid of losing what they have. Use it ONLY on girls that are acting like spoiled brats. The tide has turned around. YOU have COMPLETE control now! 2) When your girlfriend is turning into a "spoiled brat" Application: Instead of arguing with her.. Trust me.meaning it should only be used when a girl is MISBEHAVING. such as acting like a spoiled little diva or flirting with other guys.
It doesn’t matter how hot she is. guess what? They are only going to get worse as time goes on. we’ll talk about the kind of qualities that your girlfriend should have. You want to find out if your date would make a good longterm girlfriend.Marius Panzarella . You’re also going out with her personality and lifestyle. you should be testing women when you go out with them too. If you can’t stand her nasty habits now.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
DO NOT ATTEMPT TO RE-START THE CONVERSATION AT ALL!
How To Test Women
Just like women test you when you go out with them. you are not just going out with her body.
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The Most Expensive Mistake In Dating
Do you know what the most expensive mistake in dating is? It’s not taking out for dinner. just talk to ANY divorce lawyer and ask him how much an average divorce costs a man.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Chapter 19 Observing Her Character
If you choose to ignore this chapter. you’ll have to buy back whatever you’ve lost to your wife!)
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. It’s not buying her gifts and flowers. Prepare to lose up to half of your total assets in court. and you whole life could be ruined.3. If you disagree with me.S.Average divorce costs: $10. your whole life could be ruined. This chapter won’t be as “sexy” as the previous chapters on flirting and teasing.000 men get divorced every day . (It’s not It’s actually dating…and ultimately staying with the wrong woman. Here are some trivial facts about divorces in the U. But if you choose to ignore this chapter. including your house and car keys! And that’s not it…after the divorce.
e must now take an important digression and talk about the character of the women that you date.
I get emails EVERY DAY from email that have finally "figured out" the biggest mistake they have EVER made in their lives was marrying the "wrong" woman."But Marius. it's going to HURT.
259 Copyright 2000-2007 .Marius Panzarella . no matter how young you are.. Listen.. you should STILL be careful.. in that case. This is NOT funny stuff..you may be thinking. I show you the "reality" of dating: I teach you BOTH the best killer dating techniques AND how to protect yourself in the rough. these guys REALLY regret it.60 percent of second marriages end in divorce If you still don't see this as a threat.." Well. Take this advice to your heart.. Any dating coaches may promise you gimmicks and many one-night stands. (Like the guy who got his boat stolen from a girl he met over the net!) Now.I am still pretty young. I have seen it happen MANY times. then just remember my "Superman" analogy.I just want to fool around and I am not going to marry anyone yet. In fact.. You can fantasize. Trust me.50 percent of first marriages end in divorce . Any one-night-stand or internet material DOES have the potential to turn into a quick marriage and eventually a nasty divorce. pretend you're Superman. But when the ground finally hits you. This is honestly more important than any pickup line or flirting technique I could teach you.All Rights Reserved
. and jump off a 10-story building. I can cite AT LEAST a couple dozen of RECENT examples in which one of my readers have been SCREWED OVER by an ex-wife or ex-girlfriend..Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
. rough world out there.
Even though attraction has a lot to do with whether a woman cheats on you or not (a woman will be less likely to cheat on you if she's CRAZY about you). Remember my rules on dealing with cheaters in a long-term relationship. The moment you turn your back on her and a hot stud (or even a not-so-hot guy) walks by.
260 Copyright 2000-2007 . But baggage girls drain you of your energy until you end up feeling depressed like her. It's just in their DNA/character and they can't help it. some women are more prone to cheating.Marius Panzarella . it's time to lay the smack down and throw her out. Golddiggers take your money. which you could always earn back by working hard and working smart. Second strike and she's out of your life permanently.All Rights Reserved
. but never spend more than $40 on a date. First strike. because the fact that she has cheated on you AGAIN proves that you've already made the mistake the first time. here are some types of women for you to avoid dating: 1) Chronic Cheater Never date a chronic cheater. you can give her another chance if you're feeling forgiving.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
5 Kinds Of Women To Avoid
With that said. And if she dares to ask you to buy her expensive things. A woman should offer to pay half of the time. 2) Golddigger Call me a cheapskate. she's going to want him. 3) Baggage Girl Baggage girls are even worse than golddiggers.
it's a sign she has a lot of bent-up anger inside her. their favorite hobby is making their men feel guilty.All Rights Reserved
. then it's time to kick her into the air. She breaks a nail and she wants you to drive her to the nail salon immediately. not her "therapist" or "vent outlet". Remember what I always say: Relationships are ALREADY hard enough to sustain with a "healthy" woman.Marius Panzarella . It's like carrying a rigged time bomb around your pocket. Here's how to test if a woman is a chronic: If you hear ANY negative comment from her about ANYTHING on a first date. not knowing when it will explode.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Forget about playing the therapist or "saving" the girl you like. so dating a woman with a lot of emotional baggage is like ASKING FOR TROUBLE. But if she doesn't. Rich parents. 5) Chronic Bitch Women that are negative about everything in life are deadly. good looks. plenty of suitors to appease her. You're her BOYFRIEND. 4) Self-Proclaimed Princess The self-proclaimed princess is a spoiled little brat who is too used to getting everything (and anything) she wants in life. back to the top of the castle tower where she belongs. They argue about EVERYTHING and once married.
261 Copyright 2000-2007 . Cooking and doing house chores are out of the question for her. She just wants to sit there and be pampered to death. You can date a princess if she is flexible and WILLING to fit herself into YOUR world.
this does NOT just apply to “psycho women” with lots to emotional baggage. You could “manipulate” a woman into doing something that you want for a short while…but sooner or later she will slip back into her old self… A woman can only change if SHE wants to.All Rights Reserved
. External motivation can never have a lasting impact on a person. By the way. Only internal motivation can stay. It also applies to little things such as habits. I repeat… YOU CANNOT CHANGE A WOMAN! If you want to be in a healthy relationship. dummy? YOU CAN’T! You cannot change a woman.Marius Panzarella . “I know my girlfriend has problems. then here’s another one of my golden rules: The only person that you can change is yourself. Here’s an example…let’s say you always forget to put the toilet seat down…
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Run the other way!
Remember That You Cannot Change A Woman
An “excuse” that I get all the time from my readers is. values. but I am helping her…I am helping her to change…” Guess what. and a person’s personality.
If you cannot accept a woman now…if you have any doubts about a relationship. Self-disclosure: She should be willing to disclose herself to you. So rather than starting a relationship with a woman and then hoping that she will change. If she doesn’t tell you anything. And if they do. you’re not going to find it any easier to accept her in the future! Remember the smart dating model? The perfect women should have:
Flexibility: She should be flexible and willing to compromise. find a woman that you DON’T need to change. Fall in love with who she already is. If she only wants to do things her way. But once the marriage or relationship is stable and you’re not “afraid” of losing her anymore.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Do you think you’re going to start putting it down if you girlfriend or wife nags at you? Yes.All Rights Reserved
. you’ll probably start forgetting. Don’t fall in love with the “potential” of a woman. sack her. sack her. do NOT enter it in the first place.Marius Panzarella . whether the changes will stay permanently is another story. you probably will – for a couple of months. it is usually because they have just realized something profound (such as reading this Smart Dating Course). Instead.
263 Copyright 2000-2007 . (Think about your parents…do they have habits that they can’t seem to get rid of – even over the years?) Here’s the honest trust: most people do not change a whole lot once they reach adulthood. and even then.
Family Oriented: If you’re interested in having a long-term relationship or even starting a family some time. If she doesn’t. sack her. If she cheats or screws around behind your back.
Other Important Traits
Emotionally Stable / Mature: Make sure your potential girlfriend is comfortable with herself and selfconfident. During bad times. Loyalty: She should always be loyal to you. Prudent: Your girlfriend should be frugal and not a gold-digger. Laziness is a disease that rubs on to other
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. Self-discipline is a sign of good character. and loving. If she takes all the time but never gives. Integrity: She should have integrity and doesn’t lust after material goods. sack her.Marius Panzarella . sack her. If she’s shallow. caring. No Bad Habits: Avoid women with bad habits such as heavy smoking and drinking.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Giving: She should be willing to give as much as she takes.
Respect: She should be giving you the respect you deserve.
Spend enough time with lazy people and you will become lazy too.Marius Panzarella . 3) Do the two of you share similar sex drives? Sex should never be the center of any relationship. 4) Are the two of you flexible enough to resolve differences?
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people. don’t date a workaholic either.All Rights Reserved
A Quick Compatibility Test
Here is a quick compatibility test for you and your new girlfriend: 1) Do the two of you share similar values? Without similar values. you will get into a lot of arguments which may eventually lead to a nasty breakup.
5) Do the two of you have compatible needs for closeness or separateness? In other words. most longdistance relationships fail in the end.All Rights Reserved
. Love is a two-way street…and you must both be willing to respect each other and resolve any problem by being flexible and accommodating. will one person feel lonely while the other feel suffocated? 6) Do both of you live in the same city? Silly question – but in my experience.Marius Panzarella . I guarantee you’re going to be in one heck of a roller-coaster ride.
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If both parties are too adamant to be flexible for each other.
It will probably be the best sex you have ever had. do NOT make any sexual moves on her at all.
If You’re Interested In A Long-Term Relationship
If you’re interested in a long-term relationship. she will be ready to attack you in her apartment. Remember the classic rule strippers go by: “Tease guys about something they want.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Chapter 20 From Desire To Action: Getting Physical With Women
Anticipation is the key.Marius Panzarella . You have just finished having a dinner with the girl.All Rights Reserved
. Trust me. do not give in. And it really depends on the girl too. What do you do now? Some people would tell you to take her home or go to her place after the first date and work your magic from there. No matter how hot she is getting or how hard she is trying to seduce you. but I say it’s your own choice. tease her and tempt her to get intimate with you but do not actually give it to her. Keep tempting and teasing her. but don’t go any further then that. and then don’t give it to them!”
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Dating Technique: Hold Off Sex
To make a woman lust after you. You may cuddle with her or give her casual kisses.
go out with her as a casual friend while teasing her and flirting with her. They can call me stupid and claim that you should only date a woman after you’ve slept with her. Then accelerate until she is your girlfriend. do not “get together” with a woman as soon as you meet her. For your first few dates.
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But make sure you give in a little every once in awhile. Play it slow to keep her wondering if you like her. or else she will lose interest. then you may want to let her have her way!
This is the path you should take if you’re interested in a long-term relationship with a girl.Marius Panzarella . Remember: The faster you get together. I have a bonus report that teaches you how to sleep with girls. I don’t care about what other “experts” say. After a month or so.
Getting a one-night stand is NOT hard. I have NOTHING against having casual sex with women – I just don’t think you should do it with a girl you may “love” because having sex on the first date change the dynamics of the WHOLE relationship. if she is grinding her hip on your crotch and rubbing you through your pants. crank the chemistry on by dropping compliments every now and then. I will just laugh when they breakup with a girl or end up dating a slut who blows every guy on the street.All Rights Reserved
. the faster you breakup. For example.
Dating Technique: Delay The Relationship
To build a more solid relationship.
And if you don’t have any physical contact now.All Rights Reserved
No matter if you’re in it for a quick one-night stand or a long-term relationship. she will feel very comfortable when you kiss her again on the porch.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
If You Just Want A One-Night Stand…
If you’re interested in a one-night stand with no longterm commitment.
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Dating Technique: Always Kiss A Girl Before You Go To Her Place
Always kiss a girl before you head to her place to avoid the “awkward moment” when you start making out. (Don’t force her into doing anything though.Marius Panzarella . Just keep turning her on and turning her on until she is ready to advance to the next level. She won’t even let you into her house if she doesn’t feel safe.) Even if you’re just in it for sex. it will become awkward when you suddenly start feeling her up when you get into her place. It’s dumb and illegal. And if she wants you to stop. then stay at that level until she is turned on enough to go for more. That’s why I usually try to kiss the girl before we head back to her house. This is better then kissing her at the door or in her house because if you kiss her now. this is an essential step you have to go through before you can kiss her. She won’t sleep with you if she doesn’t feel safe. then just keep advancing and advancing. remember that the keyword with women is still trust. I will say it again: you must hold a woman’s hand before you can kiss her! Think of holding hands as a set-up for the big kiss later.
See how she reacts. And after that…I just don’t let go. she will reciprocate. If she likes it. try flirting with her by squeezing her hand or her fingers. Here are some of my favorites ones:
Dating Technique: Hold Her Hand By Teasing Her
Sometimes I take the initiative and take her hand and hold it for a few seconds. This can also lead to a neck massage and shoulder and…you know what I mean.
Dating Technique: Give Her a Hand Massage
Another alternative is to give her a hand massage right there.All Rights Reserved
. Then I use it as a launching pad to give her a palmistry session. Good – now you can flirt with her while walking or watching a movie!
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Dating Technique: Read Her Palm!
Sometimes I comment on the shape of a woman’s hand. Then I take it away and tell her that we shouldn’t be holding hands this early. And when she finally stops reaching for my hand. Or rub your thumb on her hand.Marius Panzarella . I keep repeating this in a playful heir. I simply grab her hand and hold onto it. =)
Dating Technique: Rub Her Hand
If you’re holding a woman’s hand. When she does I take it away and say the same thing. Then awhile later I hold it out as if I am asking her to take it.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
There are many techniques I use to start holding hands with women.
You’re one step closer to spreading her legs. However. move the hand to the back of her head and reach down to kiss her. Stroke her hair lightly and look into her eyes with the passionate gaze. it should be much easier to get a kiss. if she resists. 9 out of 10 times. Remember.
Dating Technique: How To See If She Is Ready For A Kiss
Here’s a nice trick to see if a girl is receptive to a kiss or not. “Can I kiss you?”. stop immediately.
Dating Technique: Don’t Ask A Women For A Kiss
Don’t ever ask. If she smiles and seems receptive. After the kiss. Or whatever. There. then you will have to tease her and work her up some more before you can try again. Tell her she has lovely eyes. Simply do it. A real man just goes for it.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Once you’re holding hands with the girl. (I am assuming the girl is shorter then you…once I dated a tall. they will turn you down just to play hard to get.
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. never ask a woman for a kiss. tall blonde who was 6ft 1 and kissing her was a bit of a challenge!) If she pulls away. look deeply into her eyes again.
It’s just that no woman want to be thought of as a slut. blahblahblah. So make her comfortable by giving her an “excuse” to go to your place!
To get yourself invited into her house.
Dating Technique: Get Yourself Invited Into Her Place
After you take a woman home.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
A good way to invite her into your house would be to “show her something”.Marius Panzarella . I am not suggesting that you “lie” to women. you will have to play a bit hard to get.
Dating Technique: How To Get A Woman To Come In
Instead of saying. She already KNOWS why you’re inviting her back to her place. If she’s interested at all.All Rights Reserved
. Don’t just “invite her home”. "Would you like to come in?" say
272 Copyright 2000-2007 . but then I tell her that I could stay for 15 minutes while I lead HER into her own house.
Dating Technique: Invite Her Home
Always invite a girl home by telling her an “excuse”. My favorite technique is to tell her that I have to go to bed early since I have work the next day. But then say you can hang around for a drink for 15 minutes or you have to go to the bathroom. Give a reason. Maybe it is your CD collection or videos or posters. Do not ever tell her to go back to your place so you can “sex her up”. tell her that you have to go to work tomorrow and can’t stay. she will let you in.
If she kisses you back then try to take off something. This way. If she lets you hold her hand then kiss her. tasted (licked) and talked to. After 20 minutes or so. you are also GRANTING HER PERMISSION and presupposing that she has EARNED it.
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"You can come in for a couple of minutes. If she resists then kiss and cuddle some more. Repeat till she has all her clothes off and… you get the idea.
How To Satisfy A Woman Physically
Here are few tricks on the fine art of “making out “ Before we go on. so you MUST act like a complete gentleman when you’re inside her place. hers or yours. you can ask a woman to come back to your place WHILE acting like a challenge!
Once you’re inside the house. Then cuddle with her and turn her on. do not make any moves at all for the first 20 minutes or so. you may move closer and kiss her on the cheek and then move back away.Marius Panzarella . cuddling and touching) first. not only are you acting like a challenge by not asking her like a wuss. This is why they love to be touched (through kissing. Remember that women want to feel safe. who are mostly turned on by visuals. women get very turned on by their other senses.All Rights Reserved
. Let us focus on touch (kissing. let me remind you that unlike men.
then on the tip of the nose. tender and open. Keep your lips moist.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
How To Kiss
According to a recent survey. Remember to vary them to keep things exciting!
Kissing Technique: Triumverat
Kiss her lightly between the eyes. then the bottom lip. Keep your lips soft. and finally on the lips.
Kissing Technique: Lick Her Lightly
Run the tip of your tongue slowly along your girl’s lips. However. You can’t really teach a person how to kiss as it comes from experience. and finally both.
Here are a couple of kissing techniques you can use.Marius Panzarella . more than half of all women consider their men to be lousy kissers. Tilt your head the OPPOSITE way the girl is tilting.
Kissing Technique: Kiss Her Earlobes
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. here are some general tips:
Dating Technique: Kissing Rules
Keep your breath fresh.
Kissing Technique: Top And Bottom
Kiss her on her top lip.
Kissing Technique: Kiss Her Neck
Trace the sides of her neck with your lips and tongue. until she pulls you to their lips.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Gently kiss. You can also use this trick on other sensitive spots. and suck on her earlobe. nibble. For example.
Kissing Technique: The Sensual Kiss
Look in her eyes and whisper you want to kiss her. caress their lips with yours and give her a passionate kiss.
Kissing Technique: Forehead Rub
Rub your forehead with your girl gently and kiss her.
Kissing Technique: Cheek Rub
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Kissing Technique: Front OF Neck
Kiss the front of her neck with your lips and tongue.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved
. you can tease one of her nipples by kissing AROUND it until you finally kiss it. Press your lips gently to theirs'.
Kissing Technique: Tease And Denial
Kiss everywhere but her lips.
Remember girls like sensual men. move over slightly. Lift your lips off a little.
Cuddling is another crowd pleaser. You can also smell her neck.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Gently brush cheeks with your partner and kiss her.All Rights Reserved
. Trust me.
Kissing Technique: Nose Rub
Gently rub the tips of your noses together and kiss. Just don’t stop cuddling. Some women can get so turned on from cuddling that they suddenly attack you out of the blue.
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Remember not to limit your lips to her lips. and repeat over and over. cuddle with the girl. Just member to drool all over her dedicate body. Don’t believe me? Do some field-testing. lick her earlobes and whisper sexy things in her ears while you’re at it. her ears. basically any part of the body can be kissed.
Kissing Technique: Suck Her Lips
Make a small "O" with your lips. Her neck.Marius Panzarella . Just give her a hug and then cuddle with her like there’s no tomorrow. Women love men who would take the time to cuddle with them. There are lots of other places you can kiss.
not long ago I met this new girl and I told her how much I loved to cuddle. You gotta try it sometime!
Make Out Technique: Cuddle With Her
Next time you get to make out with a chick.” I joked casually. she was so turned on that she climbed onto me and basically raped me right there. I think I like it even more than sex.Marius Panzarella . Here are a few general rules for touching:
Make Out Technique: How To Touch Women And Make Them Purr Like Pussy Cats
1) Touch her softly and slowly. I said yes and we went out the back to the fire exit.All Rights Reserved
. We just sat on the stairs and started cuddling endlessly. Do not keep touching her the same way for more than one minute. “Heck. After about 30 minutes.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Let me tell you a real story. 2) Constantly change the way you’re touching her. cuddling works wonders in getting into a woman’s pants. Her eyes brightened up and asked me if I would like to cuddle with her. We were lucky we didn’t get caught! Trust me. For example. cuddle with her till she rapes you!
Women love to be touched and stroked. linger your fingers softly on her chest and then suddenly
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rub it hard for a few seconds and then touch her softly again. Slightly run your tongue lightly against her earlobes and other parts for 10 minutes.
Smelling and Licking
Women love to be smelled. 5) Imagine white light coming from your hands and use this light to heat her body up. Admire her body and caress her sensually. The same thing with licking. Simply run your nose and lips over her shoulders and neck smelling her while telling her how great she smells. 7) Enjoy what you’re doing. Make sure you don’t drool all over her though. If you keep smelling her neck and smelling her neck while you cuddle. it will drive her totally wild. Try this:
Make Out Technique: Smell Her Neck!
Smell her neck and shoulders for 15 minutes.Marius Panzarella . See her as an ice-cream cone and tease her with your tongue.
The whole point of this is to paint an erotic picture in her mind! Example: “I love the way you smile when I kiss your neck.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
You may choose to talk sexy to her. Drive her wild with your imagination! You may also describe what you’re going to do to her next. you can say “All you have to say is please.” Keep doing this until she is screaming “PLEASE!”
Make Out Technique: Release Her Horny Side
279 Copyright 2000-2007 . Remember to include lots of details. Here are a couple of good techniques:
Make Out Technique: Describe What’s Happening
Describe what’s happening as you’re making out or having sex with her. and try to stimulate her senses with your words. Remember to use a lot of details. aren’t you?”.Marius Panzarella . while you’re making out with her.”
Make Out Technique: Tease Her With Questions
Tease her with playful questions like “You’re a horny princess. It will drive her crazy for you. and how great it will make her feel when you’re doing it. For example.All Rights Reserved
. It really gets me hot to see you so happy.
Make Out Technique: Make Her Beg
A good way to tease a woman during sex or a make out session is by getting her to beg for it.
earlobes. Smell or Lick
Below is a list of pleasure zones for women you should try to please! Face: mouth. Learn to release it by saying things like: 1) “You know you want me to make you feel good.Where To Kiss. WATCH HER REACTION.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
There’s a horny little princess inside every girl.
Do not try to talk dirty until she’s very hot and horny. If she gets angry. eyelids Back of neck Breasts and nipples
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Erogenous Zones .” 2) “You enjoy being told what to do by a man.All Rights Reserved
. nose.Marius Panzarella .” 4) “Tell your man what you want him to do to make you feel good”
Make Out Technique: Command Her
Women love to “surrender” to a strong man.” 2) “Kiss my chest. cheeks. And most important of all.”.” 3) “You know you love the feeling of surrendering to your man. Try commanding her in the bedroom by saying things like: 1) “Spread your legs wide.
She will probably put her arms around you and try to get you to go back to doing whatever you were doing earlier. try to slip a hand under her shirt this time. After awhile.All Rights Reserved
. This will make her want you to continue. You can use this trick over and over until you hit home base. if you were fondling her boobs over her shirt before you stopped. For example. STOP. go back to whatever you were doing – but advance a bit further this time. elbows and hands Her vagina
The Keys To Arousing Her – Anticipation and Denial
Here are a couple of techniques you can use to arouse a woman:
Make Out Technique: Stop and Go
Whenever a woman seems to be REALLY enjoying what you’re doing to her.Marius Panzarella . Ignore her.
Make Out Technique: Avoid Sensitive Areas
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Abs and naval Her spine on her back Inner thighs and back of knees Buttocks. anus and perineum (area between vagina and anus…lick it to drive her wild!) Arms.
This will make her anticipate or even fantasize about what you’re going to do to her next. For example. She will squirm when you finally do!
Make Out Technique: Blindfold Her
Blindfold your girl with something like a bra.Marius Panzarella . she will be even more turned on when you finally get to them.All Rights Reserved
. It will also stimulate her senses tremendously.
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If you avoid touching her most sensitive parts of her body like the breasts.
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How To Keep A Beautiful Girlfriend
Most couples breakup within 60 days. she’s looking for reasons to reject you. Every time she sees you.Marius Panzarella . keeping a girl is much harder than getting a girl.) Flirt with her plenty. You don’t want to see her too often because your dates will become less special if you do. most dating manuals out there do not address this issue. Unfortunately. Do NOT strangle her with your everlasting love like most guys do. This is why I’ve decided to devote a chapter to the fine art of KEEPING a girlfriend. twice at most. as she is already dating you. Go out with her only once a week initially. but exhibit self-control. Just because you have gone out on a first date does NOT mean you are entitled to keep her for the rest of your life.
Ontrary to popular belief.
Stage 1 – The Courtship (First Date To “Will You Be My Girlfriend?”)
Technically. In fact. (Not for reasons to date you.
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. your first few dates should be fun and flawless.
I know 5-8 dates may sound like a long wait. don’t go out with her too often. Remember: the faster you get together with someone. then it is defiantly worth the wait. twice at most!
Try to stall her as long as you can before you ask her to become your girlfriend. start turning up the romantic chemistry until one of you asks or hints the big question naturally: “So are we together?” THEN you can ask her to become your girlfriend. but if you are serious about having a long-term relationship with someone.All Rights Reserved
.Marius Panzarella . Once a week is enough. the faster you breakup.
Some keys to keeping a girlfriend at this stage: 1) Capture her attention 2) Remain a challenge 3) Stay mysterious 4) Make her laugh a lot 5) Send mixed signals
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Relationship Tip: Don’t Go Out Too Often Initially
When you first start dating a woman. but don’t let her know you like her yet.
Relationship Tip: Stall Her!
Do not give a woman too much attention at the beginning.
as both people are usually trying to please the other all of the time.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Stage 2 – The Honeymoon Period (First 1-3 Months Of Being Together)
The honeymoon stage is usually fun and exciting.
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Stage 3 – The Getting To Know Each Other TOO well Period (3-12 months)
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. You MUST keep her attracted to you. Do not start acting like you’re mama’s boy. the “Let’s have sex 3 times a day” chemicals become the “Let’s settle down” chemicals – and this is when some serious problems may occur. But DO NOT let your guard down just because you’re going steady with her. Women want to be protected. inflexible woman who never compromises. You may also find that the blonde goddess you’re dating may not be so special after all. Go out and do wild things. Flexibility is the key to this stage. end it WAY before – like after a first date!) Love is a two way street. the relationship will fail. You may find that some of your fundamental values are different. Some keys to keeping a girlfriend at this stage: 1) Remain a challenge. Use this time to REALLY have fun with a woman. you should consider ending the relationship. then things are not going to work out. If you end up dating a selfish. If she’s not willing to be good to you too. This is partly due to the chemicals that get released in your body when you first meet someone. (Actually. Create a happy memory that you can both remember for the rest of your lives. Unless both parties are willing to be flexible and compromising. Be romantic and take good care of her.Marius Panzarella .
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Always keep in mind that if a lady TRULY loves you. it’s not going to work out!
The Key To Keeping A Relationship Healthy – Keep Her Attracted To you
286 Copyright 2000-2007 . You can seduce a woman and make lots of babies. she will be flexible because she wants to please you. 3) Keep her attracted to you.and that's why they get dumped eventually! It is also important to bring back the “honeymoon moments” every now and then. (Just like you want to please her!) This is why it is very important to keep a woman ATTRACTED to you. but if you don’t put in the time and commitment required for a long-term relationship. Be romantic at least once a month and do something special! Remember that keeping a long-term relationship is not like investing in the stocks market. 2) Be flexible. You ONLY get back whatever you put in. Your relationship could still go down the drain! It is essential that you do not let your girlfriend “pussywhip” you. Some keys to keeping a girlfriend at this stage: 1) Remain a challenge.
Stage 4 – The “We’re Married” Period (1 Year And On)
After awhile. you feel like you’ve known the person for all eternity. Compromise. However.Marius Panzarella . it does not mean you’re safe.
Tease her. if you have used my techniques to attract the girl. Please don’t make the same mistake. Remember: everything I’ve said about remaining in control of a relationship still applies after the initial courtship! Never lose control! Be a man!
287 Copyright 2000-2007 . and then after awhile they just give up their control and start kissing the girl’s ass. Do thoughtful things.” from time to time. Compliment her when she does something good. They stop paying attention to their women and end up losing her. Remember how I taught you to tease her till she’s blushing in deep red? Or how to drive her crazy with my few moves that’s guaranteed to turn her on? Keep applying the techniques to relive the romance. Some guys use the techniques I’ve taught them to seduce a sexy girl they’ve always wanted. Talk to her: Have at least one good talk every week. Notice the details. Leave little messages that say “I’ve been thinking about you….All Rights Reserved
. If you can’t even spare an hour on your girlfriend once a week. Be attentive: Sorry to say this. she’s not going to cheat. Maybe before bed. Don’t be afraid to love her. first of all. This is why it is very important to keep her interests level high. you should keep it up. but most guys do start to slack off after a while. Remain in control: Another big thing. flirt with her. then it’s really your fault if the relationship turns sour.Marius Panzarella . This will help you solidify the bond with her. Maybe when you’re walking in the park.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
As long as a woman is very attracted to you. Here are some ways to keep the interest level up: Fun and Romance: Well. I don’t care how busy you’re with work.
never pamper a woman with money. Money and wealth is NOT an alternative for love. NO circumstances should you be attempting to please her with money and physical gifts. She may act
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Breakups Do NOT Happen Overnight
As you can see. It is very important about to stay awake in a relationship and NOT take a woman for granted – unless you're wanting to get dumped. I don’t care how rich and busy you are. Never. She has allowed her anger to build up and there is simply no way she will be going back. it is *for real* with no way of turning back because she has made up her mind. he usually feels bad after.
Here are some warnings flags that hint your relationship may be deteriorating: Mood Changes / Irritability: Your girl may be edgy and often in a bad or depressed mood. than the scenario is very different.) Why? Because a woman usually tries to bear discomfort with a man before she is finally pushed over the edge and decided to dump the guy.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
IMPORTANT NOTE: Under NO. breakups do NOT happen overnight.) But if a woman initiates a breakup. Most men are surprised when a woman leaves them.All Rights Reserved
.Marius Panzarella . Money can buy you sex. (Except if he was just using her for cheap sex. but it can’t buy you love. the women usually intiates the breakup. (By the way. NO. The last thing you want is a spoiled girlfriend! It will lead you quicker to a breakup/divorce.
How A Woman Breaks Up With A Man
When a man breaks up with a woman. as the relationship will only become more hollow every time you attempt to bribe her with cash. when they have been careless watching the "warning signs" for weeks/months. And when she does.
And worst of all. She may also start fights without any reasons. distracted. and hypervigilent. please read the Appendix at the end of this course. she may not stop nagging about the smallest details on earth.
289 Copyright 2000-2007 . Contact: Is contact between you and your girl trailing off? Is she always too busy to go out with you now? Secretive: Can you sense your girlfriend being more secretive.Marius Panzarella . especially questions about your relationship? Criticism: Is she suddenly acting like a nagging bitch? Is she over critical of you? Does nothing you do please her? Intuitive: Do you have a “gut-feeling” that tell you something may be wrong? Distance: Does one or both partners seem to be distant.All Rights Reserved
. or miles away in their thoughts? Is one or both partners daydreaming more than usual? For “specific” red flags. touchy.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
like they are irrigative. sensitive. as if she’s hiding something? Routine: Are you falling into a routine with your girlfriend? Have you stopped being adventurous? Separation: Are you more “separate” than before? Do you plan separate activities instead of doing activities together? Communication: Is she avoiding in depth conversations. argumentive.
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. "I hate you" playfully and mean "I love you!" This is why you should ALWAYS look at a girl's actions. Watch her attitude/facial expressions/actions. sh* happens. I’ve personally encountered a few painful breakups myself. ALWAYS figure out what went wrong:
290 Copyright 2000-2007 . Or she may say. Here’s the key to "reading" a woman: Look at her actions. don’t they? Nowadays. Women's words cannot be trusted because they are not "direct" speakers like we men are. but I have been ditched a few times too when I was younger.Marius Panzarella . not her words. For example. a lot of time they are masking how they REALLY feel.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
How To Play The Love Cop
If you want to keep a relationship healthy. How is your girlfriend treating you? Remember: her actions can’t lie!
Surviving A Breakup
As a smart philosopher once said. And most of us do end up breaking up with a girl or two some time in our lives. then it is quite essential that you learn how to play the “love cop” and examine your relationship objectively at all times. So in short. They do suck. And of course. not her words. a woman may tell you she loves you while sleeping with other guys behind your back. Anyway…this is a couple of steps I’ve gathered from my personal experiences. it’s usually me who leaves a girl. They like talking in circles and going through a thousand places before they finally make a point. their words may not necessarily represent their thoughts.
The scars are going to be there – permanently. Only time can heal them. you should probably know the answer already. a couple gets back together – only to break up again shortly after. Also. Don’t just enter into a jealous rage.
291 Copyright 2000-2007 . This applies to cheating as well. If she has cheated on you once. it’s much. it must be one of your weaknesses.
Decide Whether You Want Her Back Or Not
You should really ask yourself the following questions: Is she really worthy of your attention or love? If she’s a cheating whore. But from my own experience. if there’s anything not working with the tactics you used this time…you can certainly fix it so you won’t have to make the same mistakes next time around. much harder to fix a relationship than to start a new one. If she has left you for another guy. Also. always see what he did. she will be very likely to lie to you again. Ask yourself this question: Could there really be a future between you two? A lot of times. keep in that what she tells you is not necessarily the truth. Is there something the other guy could give her that you couldn’t? If so.Marius Panzarella . but I think it is necessary to know why you were dumped. is she really worth your time? Remember: If she has lied to you once.All Rights Reserved
. So how do you fix that up? Remember. If you’re attentive. she is probably going to cheat on you again.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Do you know why she dumped you? I don't want to stir up any painful memories. the truth is probably already inside you – you just have to have the courage to search within yourself for an answer.
Please don’t make the same mistake most guys make. whatever she will be getting from this new relationship MUST outweigh the problems of the previous relationship. together with her. Let her miss the things she lost when she broke up with you. Remember. Make HER want to get back together with you. It won’t work. Flirt with her again. It will only succeed in making you seem whiny and annoying. you will still have to work very hard. Remember we humans like to ask ourselves the following question: “What’s in it for me?” You’ve just broken up with her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Should You Want Her Back…
Okay. So you would like to get her back. Show her how much you understand her. And even then.
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. in solving the problems you two had in the past. here are a couple of general tips. So what’s in it for her if she gets back together with you? You will have to give her temptations.Marius Panzarella . Do NOT beg and beg for her to take you back. And tempt her with new things.reverseyourbreakup. visit my “Reverse Your Breakup” program at: http://www.com
If you’ve decided to move on. For a complete system on getting your ex-girlfriend back.
.. Lastly.. So take a cold shower and try to start afresh. beautiful women you’re going to meet!
293 Copyright 2000-2007 . it works wonders when you do some physical activities to get her off your mind. Get involved with some new hobbies:.All Rights Reserved
. why not hang around with them for a while? Polish your skills: Re-read my eBooks and really polish your skills for the next round.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Workout: Trust me. Again to take her off your mind. Remember going out is very casual nowadays. breakups hurt is because you’re used to a living certain lifestyle and suddenly your whole world has changed.seeing all the nice little buns on the treadmills will help too. practice. practice and practice!!! Remember. etc.. think about all the exciting. If there are many other chicks that like you cause you're cute and nice. Remember. Socialize: with your friends. They are going to introduce you to many new girls! Start dating: other women as soon as you feel ready.Marius Panzarella . Of course. Use this as an opportunity to get into a NEW lifestyle. Meet people. now that you’re free of the ball and chains.
The main reason I wrote this book is because I want to help other men. And when you do. Please give me both the good and the bad.Marius Panzarella . So if there is a particular part of the book that worked or did not work for you. everything is up to you.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
294 Copyright 2000-2007 . As a matter of fact. In time. You can put this book on your bookshelf. you will see your success. Attracting women is a skill. please email me.com
ve done what I can to teach you how to meet. attract. please do me a favor and email your stories. I sincerely hope you will choose the latter. and just like any other skill it needs to be practiced. and date beautiful women.All Rights Reserved
. and forget everything I’ve taught you. email me now and tell me what you think of the book. Or you can go out now and practice the stuff. So I urge you to please go out and start applying the techniques you have learned from this book. tell yourself that you’ve become a great womanizer. I can be reached at mariuspanzarella@datebeautifulwomen.
295 Copyright 2000-2007 . Moral of this little lesson? If you put in half-assed efforts.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
But before we part. Or.if I tell you be a challenge and tease women. by the way. All you need to do is to take any one of my techniques and use them in a half-assed manner. then tease a woman. (This applies to other areas of your life.. They don't go "all the way". then PLEASE give my system 100 percent of your efforts. Or.Marius Panzarella . just stop talking to her for 3 days and then call her back as soon as she leaves a message on your answering machine.if I tell you to flirt more.and apologize right after! You get the idea. you will only get half-assed results.All Rights Reserved
. For example. PLEASE give it everything you've got.. flirt half-way and then stop because you doubt my techniques... I am going to teach you one last thing... This may sound very obvious. he'd rather hear a student sing the wrong note than to be barely audible to the audience. It's really quite simple.. I am going to teach you how to FAIL at using everything I’ve taught you in this book. As an opera teacher once told me. I would rather see you crash and burn by trying your beset than to see you having mediocre results because you're holding back. but it's a mistake I dare say MOST of my readers make. if I tell you to pull back and stop speaking to a woman because you're in the negative zone.. If you're interesting in becoming a "Smart Dater".
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.I want you to make a commitment to yourself. Following this simple rule can give you a LOT of success both in dating and in life.Marius Panzarella . Because most guys on this planet are too lazy to realize their potential! Good luck and never give up!
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Remember my latest golden rule: You get what you give. you will only get LAME results! So before you get yourself out there and start meeting women.. If you make a LAME attempt at something... Never accept second-best efforts from yourself..
but how much she is attracted to YOU that matters. I am sure you like her.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
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Appendix A – How To Turn A Friend Into A Girlfriend
A lot of guys seem to have a fantasy about befriending a hottie and sucking up to her until she finally sees what a great guy he is and decides to date him. You see. you may be “stuck” as a friend already (too bad you hadn’t read this earlier eh?) so I am sure you want some tips on how to turn a friend into a girlfriend. to a women. only to fail miserably! Remember the key to attraction is.it's not how much you're attracted to a woman. DO NOT tell your friend you like her directly. DO NOT tell your friend you like her! I am serious. They only care about how much THEY like a man. but does she like you? YOU DON'T KNOW!
297 Copyright 2000-2007 . First of all. Do not become the “doormat” she runs to when she is between boyfriends. Women do not care about a man loves them. If you meet a girl you like. It doesn’t work that way.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved
. Now. please…make your move.. Ugh. You are most likely to be stuck for life.. Most guys spend days or weeks gathering the courage to tell a girl they like her. Once you fall into the "just friends" category. there are 2 guys of men: "potential lovers" and "just friends". it's hard to get out.
the biggest difference between a friendship and a relationship is that there is sexual/romantic chemistry. Surprises are scary and women don't know how to react. Now. or at least give the impression that you have moved on. instead of putting the focus on your feelings and worrying about how you can tell her you love her. not to chase her. and that's why I want you to start flirting with her and drive the chemistry up. then she's not interested in you. flirting with her will allow you to see if she likes you or not. like when a girl least expects it. she may want you!
What If It Still Doesn’t Work
So what if this doesn’t work with the friend you’re trying to turn into a girlfriend? What if she still gives you the “you’re my best friend” line? The first thing you do is to move on temporarily. it usually means:
298 Copyright 2000-2007 . Lastly. Their NATURAL reaction is to turn you down on the spot ("I have a boyfriend" or "I am not looking for someone right now". If she ignores you or doesn't respond well to the flirting. etc) just to be safe .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
And that's why you should NOT risk embarrassing yourself! Also. So. It's time to ATTRACT her. Your goal is to get HER to fall for you and eventually ask you the "Are we together?" question. Why? Because when a woman gives you the "let's just be friends" line.even if they regret it later. I want you to focus on getting HER to tell you she likes you.All Rights Reserved
. But if she flirts back. men who "gather the courage" to "suddenly tell the girl he loves her" usually do it at the "wrong" time.Marius Panzarella .
. sorry. not how much YOU like her that counts. Keep bugging her. And if she has told you she just wants to be "just friends".instead of making more of a fool out of yourself. but it means your chances are dead and you should move on. it's time to pull back.Marius Panzarella .All Rights Reserved
. Here is what you do: You pull back from her and start dating or flirting with other women in front of her. Keep doing this until SHE is clinging all over you. (Aka she doesn't like you AT ALL. you've probably screwed up by telling her directly. and she will ignore you completely and not even be your friend. you flirt more and advance half a step. If she flirts back. This will help you get out of the negative zone..) 3) She's placing you in the negative zone for now. But if she doesn't flirt back at all.
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1) She ALREADY knows you like her. (Chances are.) 2) She doesn't share the same feelings towards you. So. It doesn't matter how much you like the woman. it means she doesn't like you romantically at all. Then you start flirting subtly with her again while being a COMPLETE challenge. Remember: it's how much SHE likes you.
” – You’re my backup plan.” – I cannot change you.Marius Panzarella . so goodbye. “I want a guy who’s a good communicator.” – I want a man who can make ME feel sexy.” – It’s not going anywhere. “Call me on Thursday night to confirm the date.” – Let’s break up “Let’s see where it goes. “Give me your number instead.” – No. “Our values have changed. I will probably not go out with you. I don’t like you.” – I want a guy who’s a real man and won’t be afraid to bust my mind games. “I like you…but” – No. “I want a sexy man.” – It’s over. “Let’s chill for a little while. So screw off.” – So I can never call. “We are in a transitional stage.All Rights Reserved
. I will never go out with you.
300 Copyright 2000-2007 . I don’t have a phone.” – I don’t want sex right now.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
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Appendix B – What Women Really Mean
“Let’s be friends…” – I don’t like you romantically. “I am tired.” – I don’t want to give you my phone number you freak. “Sorry. “I’ll think about it.
“We’re too different. Ask me to be your girlfriend now.” – I want a real man. “I am not looking for a boyfriend” – I am looking. Now shut up.I want… “It's your decision.No.” . what do you want to do?” . “Maybe.” – Conversation over.” – You know what I want. “Would you like to <whatever>?” – I want to <whatever> NOW. “Fine.
301 Copyright 2000-2007 . “I want to feel safe. “I don’t like money.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
“We have chemistry. “I don't know.” – Without you in it. but I don’t want to date YOU. I really like you. “We need…” . “Do you like me?” – I like you.” – You’re a real challenge. “I cannot figure you out.” – I really like him. “I need some space.” – The door is that way.You have nothing planned? Loser. that’s why I brought it up. “So are we together?” – Please.All Rights Reserved
.” – Sure.” – I want a guy who’s dominant and sensitive.Marius Panzarella . “I want a sensitive guy.
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.” – You aren’t coming to my bed tonight.Marius Panzarella . “What’s wrong?” – Everything.
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“Nothing” when you ask. “It’s getting late.
303 Copyright 2000-2007 .. or the arts. .Never try to "convince" a woman to stay with you. .because you lack the selfdiscipline you need to succeed.Never act like a needy wuss.. one thing you're going to find that self-discipline is evident in every winner. .I know your rules and I know the logic behind your rules.. . science. If you look at any successful person in ANY fields. "Marius.Marius Panzarella ...Never beg a woman to come back. be it sports.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
A P P E N D I X C
Appendix C – Discipline and Self-Control
By now you should know my dozens of dating rules. politics.All Rights Reserved
.Never show your heart on your sleeve. But I simply can't resist. But one of the most popular complaints I get from my readers is. such as: . .Never project your own attraction onto a woman. . It's not who I am." Here's my response: And this is exactly why you haven't been having much success with women ..and dozens of other rules sprinkled across my "Smart Dating Course" and my free newsletter. entertainment.Never tell a woman you love her too early.
Compared with these "cream-of-the-top" guys from various fields and disciplines. he practices 12 hours a day. Musicians have the self-discipline to practice every day. I have a friend who is a professional concert pianist and he used to practice for 8 hours a day back in college. Athletes have the self-discipline to drill every move to perfection. In fact.Marius Panzarella . Now. Professional swimmers rarely go out at night. By merely trying HARDER and being more
304 Copyright 2000-2007 . then you don't deserve success at all.along with all the "lazy" guys that are frustrated with women. then you should just look at what everybody else is doing and do the opposite . during which they are only allowed a maximum total of fours hours of sleep during five days and nights of solid training. you deserve your own failure . Navy SEALS have the self-discipline to survive "Hell's Week". and boxers avoid sex the night before a match. The great Earl Nightingale has once said that if you can't find a good role model to follow. Straight A's students have the self-discipline to study harder than the average student. when everybody was partying and drinking beer. how do YOU compare? Here's my insult of the day: If you don't even have the self-discipline to follow a few basic dating rules.because most people in this world are lazy guys who lack the self-discipline to be really successful at anything.All Rights Reserved
. They also have the self-discipline to prioritize their professional lives over their personal lives.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Entrepreneurs have the self-discipline to work long hours.
don't give anyone an "I can't".. So. you're going to have more success with women than them. You just won't do it because you "won't"..any time you find yourself lacking the discipline to follow a dating a rule or any time you find yourself "chickening out" before an approach. the more responsibility you will have to accept for your own actions..Marius Panzarella . only "I won't".Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
DISCIPLINE than the other guys.are you ready to train with the best and become the best? Are you ready to be more disciplined than other guys and have more SUCCESS than other guys in the world of women and dating? If so. You really have nobody to blame but yourself.. Remember: The more power you want with your love life. So from now on. Download it now. and watch your success rate with women boost dramatically. it will teach you everything you need to know about how to attract and date the type of women you have always wanted. put everything into practice. Remember my golden saying: There is nothing such as "I can't". From the initial approach to getting numbers and first dates. It is a complete education on dating and meeting women. It's a conscious decision you've made in your mind..you CAN. The hard truth is. then you owe it yourself to download a copy of my "Smart Dating Course".All Rights Reserved
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I wouldn't count on this one because it's out of your control. HOWEVER. It's just very
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. When your girlfriend is alone across the sea and her very friendly (and wellhung) roommate opens up a bottle of nice wine and invites her to taste it with him. In my experience. she won't want to commit to the relationship either. (Probably around 90 percent.Marius Panzarella .) So unless you’ve already been going out with a girl for a LONG time.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
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Appendix D – My View on Long Distance Relationships
What is my view on long-distance relationships? I don't like them at all. She’ll probably start screwing around with other guys behind your back. At the end of the day. If your attraction for her falls. distance almost ALWAYS kills attraction. The same goes for her. Some girls are more loyal than others. the outcome of your longdistance relationship will depend on your MUTUAL attraction. then you won't want to have a relationship with her anymore. How well she behaves while you’re away will mostly depend on how much she is attracted to you. If her attraction for you falls too low. It means the attraction on BOTH ends has to stay HIGH.
Loyalty is also important.
.when there's nobody around to rat on her..Marius Panzarella .Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
hard for women to say "no" in this kind of situation. You've been warned!
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. know what you're going into. Lesson of the day: If you're going to enter a longdistance relationship.
14) She tells you she needs “space”.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
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Appendix E – Relationship Red Flags
1) You have to make all invitations. it’s probably true. 6) She hangs out with you only when she has nothing better to do. 13) She doesn’t like getting intimate with you.) 3) She hesitates to make finite plans until last minute. 5) She cheats. 12) She doesn’t display any affection towards you. 11) She’s always too busy to see you. (If even you think so. 4) She lies. 7) She plays mind games all the time. 8) She seems unresponsive when you hang out with her. 9) She doesn’t want her friends to know about you.All Rights Reserved
. especially when in public. 10) She doesn’t care about what you’re doing at all.Marius Panzarella .
308 Copyright 2000-2007 . including holding your hand. 2) She doesn’t seem interested in you.
16) She doesn’t make you feel special anymore. 17) She wants to do everything on her terms.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
15) She wants to “cool down” for awhile. 20) She’s inconsistent with her attention to you. 19) She rarely compliments you or returns your compliments.
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.Marius Panzarella .
. The ONLY thing that matters is your ex’s attraction towards YOU. If your ex is attracted to you enough.com )
I am often asked…”What should I do if my ex is now having an affair with another person?” My advice is always simple: Never mind the other person.Marius Panzarella .reverseyourbreakup... It's not about how much your ex likes the other person. It does NOT matter that the other person exists.they will stop seeing the other person.. It does NOT matter that your ex likes them much more than you right now.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
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Appendix F – How To Deal With Your Competition
(An excerpt from “Reverse Your Breakup” at http://www.All Rights Reserved
.and they will make more time for you. Make your ex melt in your presence.automatically.. It all comes back to how your ex feels about YOU. You should put the other person OUT OF YOUR MIND. It's not about how you feel about your ex. Flirt with your ex a lot. Build up the sexual chemistry enough and your ex will want to be with you..
310 Copyright 2000-2007 . Tease your ex. Just put them completely out of your mind.
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311 Copyright 2000-2007 .Marius Panzarella .
" So she bought a bit of butter. yellow lorry. where's the peck of pickled peppers Peter Piper picked? Red lorry. Did Peter Piper pick a peck of pickled peppers? If Peter Piper picked a peck of pickled peppers. better than her bitter butter. Six sick slick slim sycamore saplings. it would make my batter bitter. "this butter's bitter. A box of biscuits.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
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Appendix G – Tongue Twisters
Here are some tongue twisters for you to practice with should you want to work on your articulation. Unique New York. Peter Piper picked a peck of pickled peppers. Betty Botter had some butter." she said. but the stump thunk the skunk stunk. a batch of mixed biscuits A skunk sat on a stump and thunk the stump stunk. yellow lorry.Marius Panzarella . If I bake this bitter butter.All Rights Reserved
. red lorry.
312 Copyright 2000-2007 . "But. and the batter was not bitter. But a bit of better butter-that would make my batter better. and she baked it in her batter.
The shells she sells are surely seashells. Toy boat. So if she sells shells on the seashore. Toy boat. Said the two to their tutor. Pope Sixtus VI's six texts. The sixth sick sheik's sixth sheep's sick. Two smart fellows. "Someone should show Sylvia some strokes so she shall not sink. Three smart fellows. "Surely Sylvia swims!" shrieked Sammy. Toy boat. surprised. they all felt smart. "Is it harder to toot or to tutor two tooters to toot?"
313 Copyright 2000-2007 . he felt smart. and on the slitted sheet I sit. I slit the sheet. I'm sure she sells seashore shells. One smart fellow.All Rights Reserved
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So 'twas better Betty Botter bought a bit of better butter. made the big black bear bleed blood." A Tudor who tooted a flute tried to tutor two tooters to toot. Mrs. Six thick thistles stick. Smith's Fish Sauce Shop. Is this your sister's sixth zither.Marius Panzarella . sir? A big black bug bit a big black bear. She sells sea shells by the sea shore. they felt smart. Six thick thistle sticks.
I am not the pheasant plucker.All Rights Reserved
. A flea and a fly flew up in a flue. And the bitter better bittern Bit the bitter biter back. See owned a saw. And the bitter bittern. A bitter biting bittern Bit a better brother bittern. Which wristwatches are Swiss wristwatches? Lesser leather never weathered wetter weather better. Knapsack straps. I am only plucking pheasants 'cause the pheasant plucker's running late. alack!" Inchworms itching.
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Shy Shelly says she shall sew sheets. Said the flea. By the better bitten bittern. Sam's shop stocks short spotted socks. Three free throws. A noisy noise annoys an oyster. Said: "I'm a bitter biter bit. The myth of Miss Muffet. "Let us flee!" So they flew through a flaw in the flue.Marius Panzarella . Mr. "Let us fly!" Said the fly. I'm the pheasant plucker's mate. bitten.
When bare of hair he strips the hare. they're needless to me. "Forbear!" Lovely lemon liniment. I need not your needles. Which made Soar sore. See's saw would not have sawed Soar's seesaw.Marius Panzarella . the thin twin tinsmith Fat frogs flying past fast. So See's saw sawed Soar's seesaw.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
And Mr. you see. Soar owned a seesaw. Had Soar seen See's saw Before See sawed Soar's seesaw. But it was sad to see Soar so sore Just because See's saw sawed Soar's seesaw! Friendly Frank flips fine flapjacks. Tim. I cannot bear to see a bear Bear down upon a hare. Cheap ship trip. But did my neat knickers but need to be kneed. Gertie's great-grandma grew aghast at Gertie's grammar. 'twere needless. I then should have need of your needles indeed. For kneading of noodles. Now See's saw sawed Soar's seesaw Before Soar saw See. Vincent vowed vengeance very vehemently.All Rights Reserved
315 Copyright 2000-2007 . Right there I cry.
Ruby Rugby's brother bought and brought her back some rubber baby-buggy bumpers. The two-toed tree toad tried to win The three-toed she-toad's heart. he would. My dame hath a lame tame crane. Moose noshing much mush.All Rights Reserved
. and chuck as much wood as a woodchuck would if a woodchuck could chuck wood. as much as he could. He couldn't please her whim.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Flee from fog to fight flu fast! Greek grapes. How much wood would a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood? He would chuck. But the two-toed tree toad tried in vain. From her tree toad bower With her three-toed power The she-toad vetoed him. Six short slow shepherds. For the two-toed tree toad loved the ground That the three-toed tree toad trod. Sly Sam slurps Sally's soup.Marius Panzarella .
316 Copyright 2000-2007 . He was a two-toed tree toad But a three-toed toad was she. We surely shall see the sun shine soon. A tree toad loved a she-toad Who lived up in a tree. The boot black bought the black boot back. My dame hath a crane that is lame.
The seven silly sheep Silly Sally shooed shilly-shallied south. say this softly. Silly Sally swiftly shooed seven silly sheep. Gray were the geese and green was the grass. The two-twenty-two train tore through the tunnel. You've no need to light a night-light On a light night like tonight. Flash message! Say this sharply. For a night-light's light's a slight light. like tonight's light. Peggy Babcock.All Rights Reserved
. Three gray geese in the green grass grazing. sheep should sleep in a shed.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Which witch wished which wicked wish? Old oily Ollie oils old oily autos. When a night's light. These sheep shouldn't sleep in a shack. And tonight's a night that's light. Black bug's blood.Marius Panzarella . say this sweetly. Many an anemone sees an enemy anemone.
317 Copyright 2000-2007 . Twelve twins twirled twelve twigs. It is really not quite right To light night-lights with their slight lights On a light night like tonight. Nine nice night nurses nursing nicely. Say this shortly.
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Say this sixteen times in succession. Swim. I never felt a piece of felt which felt as fine as that felt felt. when first I felt that felt hat's felt. Don't pamper damp scamp tramps that camp under ramp lamps. Sure the ship's shipshape. Give papa a cup of proper coffee in a copper coffee cup. I thought a thought. Of all the felt I ever felt.All Rights Reserved
. Betty better butter Brad's bread. Six sharp smart sharks. swan! Six shimmering sharks sharply striking shins. What a shame such a shapely sash should such shabby stitches show.Marius Panzarella . swim! Swan swam back again Well swum. Swan swam over the sea. should Stu choose the shoes he chews? Crisp crusts crackle crunchily. If Stu chews shoes. Six sticky sucker sticks. Sixish.
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Brad's big black bath brush broke. he three twines doth intwist. Sarah saw a shot-silk sash shop full of shot-silk sashes as the sunshine shone on the side of the shot-silk sash shop. Truly rural. Strict strong stringy Stephen Stretch slickly snared six sickly silky snakes. the two in a twine. But if one of the twines of the twist do untwist. She ceased shining shoes and socks. Susan shineth shoes and socks. Untwirling the twine that untwisteth between. Thieves seize skis. He twitcheth the twice he had twined in twain.Marius Panzarella . The blue bluebird blinks. Chop shops stock chops. Betty and Bob brought back blue balloons from the big bazaar. The twine that untwisteth untwisteth the twist. for shoes and socks shock Susan. For the twisting of his twist. He twirls. with his twister.
319 Copyright 2000-2007 . Then twice having twisted the twines of the twine.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
But the thought I thought wasn't the thought I thought I thought. socks and shoes shines Susan.All Rights Reserved
. When a twister a-twisting will twist him a twist.
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The twain that in twining before in the twine.Marius Panzarella . While we were walking. Plague-bearing prairie dogs. Ed had edited it. He. tip-top sock. makes a twist of the twine. She sifted thistles through her thistle-sifter. The Leith police dismisseth us. If one doctor doctors another doctor. we were watching window washers wash Washington's windows with warm washing water. Freshly fried fresh flesh.All Rights Reserved
. The seething seas ceaseth and twiceth the seething seas sufficeth us. Give me the gift of a grip top sock: a drip-drape. twirling his twister. Twist the twain inter-twisting a twine more between.
320 Copyright 2000-2007 . does the doctor who doctors the doctor doctor the doctor the way the doctor he is doctoring doctors? Or does he doctor the doctor the way the doctor who doctors doctors? Two Truckee truckers truculently truckling to have truck to truck two trucks of truck. As twines were intwisted he now doth untwine.
Marius Panzarella . Quicker kiss. I saw Esau. Amidst the mists and coldest frosts. and she saw I saw Esau. Preshrunk silk shirts A bloke's back bike brake block broke. I saw Esau kissing Kate. Give Mr. Snipa's wife's knife a swipe. with stoutest wrists and loudest boasts. Quick kiss. Lily ladles little Letty's lentil soup. he saw me. Listen to the local yokel yodel. Cedar shingles should be shaved and saved. he thrusts his fist against the posts and still insists he sees the ghosts. Good blood. bad blood.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Pacific Lithograph. The crow flew over the river with a lump of raw liver. A pleasant place to place a plaice is a place where a plaice is pleased to be placed.All Rights Reserved
. Six twin screwed steel steam cruisers. Shelter for six sick scenic sightseers.
321 Copyright 2000-2007 . I correctly recollect Rebecca MacGregor's reckoning.
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Whereat with blade. Kris Kringle carefully crunched on candy canes.
322 Copyright 2000-2007 . for if you pass proficiently. We stand behind before we find what those behind be for. with bloody. Pick a partner and practice passing. he bravely broached his boiling bloody breast.All Rights Reserved
. What time does the wristwatch strap shop shut? One-One was a racehorse. Are our oars oak? Can you imagine an imaginary menagerie manager imagining managing an imaginary menagerie? A lusty lady loved a lawyer and longed to lure him from his laboratory. and amicably welcoming him home. blameful blade. too. When One-One won one race. Two-Two was one. guy gargoyle. too. She stood on the balcony inexplicably mimicing him hiccupping. On mules we find two legs behind and two we find before. Girl gargoyle.
William? Mix. Ought the Hottenton tot Be taught to say aught. The bear could not bear the boar. And so one morn he bored the boar-That boar will bore the bear no more. also a boar. totally tired. or naught. Miss Mix! Who washed Washington's white woolen underwear when Washington's washer woman went west? Two toads. Ought the tutor get hot If the Hottentot tot Hoot and toot at her Hottentot tutor? Will you. Just think.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
perhaps you'll play professionally.Marius Panzarella . If a Hottentot taught a Hottentot tot To talk ere the tot could totter.All Rights Reserved
. Or what ought to be taught her? If to hoot and to toot a Hottentot tot Be taught by her Hottentot tutor. Freshly-fried flying fish. The boar thought the bear a bore. that sphinx has a sphincter that stinks!
323 Copyright 2000-2007 . Once upon a barren moor There dwelt a bear. The sawingest saw I ever saw saw was the saw I saw saw in Arkansas. At last the bear could bear no more Of that boar that bored him on the moor.
Marius Panzarella . But if the shot Shott shot shot Shott. The fish with a grin.All Rights Reserved
. Hi-Tech Traveling Tractor Trailor Truck Tracker Ned Nott was shot and Sam Shott was not. or Nott was shot. However. Some say Nott was not shot. slid slowly seaward. So it is better to be Shott than Nott. Six slippery snails. Now they're fishing the fissure for Fischer.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Strange strategic statistics. There was a young fisher named Fischer Who fished for a fish in a fissure. Three twigs twined tightly. then Shott was shot. All she does is sits and shifts. Sarah sitting in her Chevrolet. Either the shot Shott shot at Nott was not shot. If the shot Shott shot shot Nott. But Shott says he shot Nott.
324 Copyright 2000-2007 . the shot Shott shot shot not Shott -but Nott. Nott was shot. Pulled the fisherman in. All she does is sits and shifts. not Nott.
The cotton batten cat was bitten by a rat. the successful thistlesifter. And biting off the button made the cotton batten fly.if Theophiles Thistle. Theophiles Thistle..All Rights Reserved
.Marius Panzarella . in sifting a sieve full of un-sifted thistles.
325 Copyright 2000-2007 . in sifting a sieve full of un-sifted thistles. see that thou. The ochre ogre ogled the poker. in sifting a sieve full of un-sifted thistles. thrust not three thousand thistles through the thick of thy thumb. the successful thistle-sifter. thrust three thousand thistles through the thick of his thumb. Suddenly swerving.. Seeing six swift sailboats Sailing sedately seaward. Now. seven small swans Swam silently southward. Or some stickler who is slicker Will stick you of your liquor If you fail to lock your liquor With a lock! Shredded Swiss chesse. If you stick a stock of liquor in your locker. The kitten that was bitten had a button for an eye..Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Pretty Kitty Creighton had a cotton batten cat. It's slick to stick a lock upon your stock.. thrust three thousand thistles through the thick of his thumb. The soldiers shouldered shooters on their shoulders.
though.balancing them badly. Selfish shellfish. and Ted fed Fred bread.Marius Panzarella . Fred fed Ted bread. blunderbusses. They have left the thriftshop. They both. and lost both their theatre tickets and the volume of valuable licenses and coupons for free theatrical frills and thrills. have thirty-three thick thimbles to thaw.All Rights Reserved
. Cows graze in groves on grass which grows in grooves in groves. and bludgeons -.Dating Secrets Revealed: The Smart Dating System
Success to the successful thistle-sifter! Thank the other three brothers of their father's mother's brother's side. Tragedy strategy.
326 Copyright 2000-2007 . Brisk brave brigadiers brandished broad bright blades. Irish wristwatch.
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