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I Thought It Was Just Me but It Isnt Telling the T - Not Just a Good Read, A Resource to Use Again and Again

I Thought It Was Just Me but It Isnt Telling the T - Not Just a Good Read, A Resource to Use Again and Again

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I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isnt): Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power by Brené Brown

Not Just A Good Read, A Resource To Use Again And Again

The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. We spend too much precious time and energy managing perception and creating carefully edited versions of ourselves to show to the world. As hard as we try, we can’t seem to turn off the tapes that fill our heads with messages like, “Never good enough!” and “What will people think?”

Why? What fuels this unattainable need to look like we always have it all together? At first glance we might think it’s because we admire perfection, but that’s not the case. We are actually the most attracted to people we consider to be authentic and down-to-earth. We love people who are “real” – we’re drawn to those who both embrace their imperfections and radiate self-acceptance.

There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate. Everywhere we turn, there are messages that tell us who, what and how we’re supposed to be. So, we learn to hide our struggles and protect ourselves from shame, judgment, criticism and blame by seeking safety in pretending and perfection.

Based on seven years of ground-breaking research and hundreds of interviews, I Thought It Was Just Me shines a long-overdue light on an important truth: Our imperfections are what connect us to each other and to our humanity. Our vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that we’re all in this together.

Dr. Brown writes, “We need our lives back. It’s time to reclaim the gifts of imperfection – the courage to be real, the compassion we need to love ourselves and others, and the connection that gives true purpose and meaning to life. These are the gifts that bring love, laughter, gratitude, empathy and joy into our lives.” Features: * ISBN13: 9781592403356 * Condition: NEW * Notes: Brand New from Publisher. No Remainder Mark. * Click here to view our Condition Guide and Shipping Prices It's a feeling that flushes over a person like the quick unexpected flash of a camera in one's face. It is sudden. It is mortifying and painful. It can be from an instantaneous event or something that may have happened in the past, even many years before. No one necessarily even has to throw anything up in your face to feel shame before the spasmodic feeling washes over you. "Shame on you " If you think yo u're the only one who has trouble coping with this emotion, just think again and join the club because we all have this issue. Brené Brown has carefully researched the impact and social consequences of shame on women. She shares her results with a promise to help women develop "shame resilience" in her latest book, I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a CULTURE OF SHAME. For six years Brown, a social worker, researched the topic of shame and interviewed countless women in an attempt to understand the cultural impact and pain shame causes in the lives of women. According to her the emotions of embarrassment, guilt, humiliation and shame are often linked and lumped together by researchers in one basket, yet she feels that they are separate and distinct emotions with shame as the most painful of the lot. This sparkling book teaches us how to become shame resilient, even in the face of those malicious gossips we all know, and how to develop empathy. The author outlines four elements of shame, shame triggers, how to develop courage in the face of societal pressures to be a perfect woman and relates the stories of many women, whom we all recognize, who also suffer the pangs and pains this shame so often inflicts. Brené Brown assures us that we aren't the only fish in the sea and we all suffer from the affliction of shame.

One look at the title of this book almost made me want to pick out the name of a therapist in the phone book and send it along as a gift so I wouldn't have to read it, but I was very pleasantly surprised at the readability and could easily relate to many of the stories the author so candidly revealed about her own experiences with shame. I could especially relate to the story of how vulnerable and shamed Brené fe lt when her holier-than-thou friend, Phyllis, tried to make her feel like dirt because she was so tired and anxious after the birth of her daughter. This is not a book that is a quick fix, nor one for someone with severe mental issues, but if you want a book to help you feel better about yourself this would be ideal. After you read it you can give it to your therapist for Christmas, provided you don't dog-ear the pages too much!

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