This action might not be possible to undo. Are you sure you want to continue?
(And get what you want in return)
By Kaarin Alisa Copyright © 2007
Yes! You are a phoenix, or rather, there is a phoenix inside you, and you can unleash your phoenix to help you make big and lasting changes in your life if that is your desire! This special report will concentrate on overcoming bad habits. More information about what your inner phoenix can do for you is available at http://www.kaarinalisa.com. Everyone has habits. Some habits are good for you, like brushing your teeth regularly. Other habits are not so good, like procrastinating paying your bills until they are overdue! In this special report, I will reveal to you some simple strategies for kicking any habit you wish to eliminate by tapping into your inner phoenix and simply
These powerful techniques have been used by countless people to transform their lives for the better. They can help you too!
P.S. Throughout this report I refer to your phoenix as she. Please do not be offended if you are a man. Just substitute the word he for she and keep going! After all, you really do have both male and female aspects to your being whether you know it yet or not! *smile*
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Right now. and make ready to pay attention to your life and. today. Rowling feature a phoenix whose tears can heal the most severe maladies. a magical. intention. forgiveness. gratitude. Among other things. Bow to her. you will have access to life tools that will help you transform your life for the better.You and the Phoenix You may have heard of the ancient Egyptian Phoenix. ask for her help. such as perseverance. the Chinese Phoenix that appears only in times of prosperity and brings peace. yes… …to soar! Copyright © 2007. as you are reading this report. action. The Phoenix that resides within you is none of these. acknowledge your inner phoenix. but does share some of their characteristics. Or perhaps you have heard of Feng Huang. thought. So I challenge you. If you spend the time to find and unleash your inner phoenix. longevity. K. Even the wildly popular Harry Potter books written by J. and observation. Kaarin Alisa – All rights reserved 4 http://www. Perhaps you have heard of any of the other phoenixes mentioned in the folklore of almost every ancient culture on earth.com . your phoenix is a master of many essential life traits. and grace. mythical bird that regenerates itself from the ashes of its own funeral pyre.kaarinalisa.
turn the ignition key. But habits are simply the unconscious things we do without having to apply conscious thought to do them. I don't think about these things. pop on the radio. Kaarin Alisa – All rights reserved 5 http://www. adjust the environmental controls. And of course you really want things to be easier. I put the key in the ignition. check the gas level.com . Many people think of habits only as bad things they need to overcome. Be grateful for your subconscious mind and its ability to learn and deploy actions for you. Do you fasten your seatbelt? Do you put the key in the ignition? Do you adjust the mirrors? The list of things you could do first goes on and on. And the list gets much longer as soon as you put your foot on the gas pedal and begin to move the vehicle! If you had to think about everything on that list every time you got behind the wheel. What a marvelous mechanism you have to create and sustain habits: good habits and bad habits! Copyright © 2007. Here's an example: Remember when you first learned to drive a car? You sat down in the driver's seat and had no idea what to do first. fasten my seatbelt. They make life more efficient.kaarinalisa.Habits Oh my! We all have habits. and put the car in gear and I don't even think about what I'm doing until I am ready to pull out into traffic. check the mirrors. I know when I sit down behind the wheel. This is a good example of a set of habits that serve life. you would never get out of your driveway. not harder! Celebrate habits for their ability to help you. most of these things had become habits. Habits are very important to living a good and effective life. My sub-conscious mind has been programmed to do it all for me. let alone go anywhere else! But by the time you got your driver's license. Without good habits like this everything you do would be harder. they just all happen as a result of sitting down in the driver's seat.
Your phoenix knows how to take action. it does not have the ability to distinguish between habits that serve you and habits that detract from the life you truly want. Your sub-conscious will simply create a habit out of anything you do on a regular basis. if all you are trying to do is abandon a long-standing habit. This is good news and bad news! The good news is that if you want to establish a habit. Your phoenix is a master of action. The bad news is that if you perform an action over and over again it will become a habit! Simply performing an action over and over will create a subconscious pattern to do it more often.com . What a sad fact! This is where your inner phoenix comes into the picture. here is the rub! Once a habit is established. it can take quite a lot of effort to abandon it. the more ingrained the habit will become. all you have to do it perform the action associated with the habit over and over until it becomes a pattern. Kaarin Alisa – All rights reserved 6 http://www.kaarinalisa. The sub-conscious mind only deals with things in the positive. In fact. the thing itself is all the sub-conscious mind will recognize and the habit will stay firmly entrenched in your life. If you let your inner phoenix guide you. you will have the ability to supplant any habitual action with a new action that serves you better. especially if that habit has been years in the making. If you concentrate on not doing a thing. Your phoenix knows this by paying attention! Copyright © 2007. The more you perform the action. you may indeed fail.Bad Habits While your sub-conscious mind is busy creating habits to make your life work better. H A B IT S A R E S I M P L Y A C T I O N S Y O U H A V E P E R F O R M E D T I M E A N D T I M E A G A I N T HA T N O L O N G E R Now. NOTICE: BAD SERVE YOU.
com . Don't worry yet about why you are taking these actions. Your phoenix always knows what she is doing. Remember. It also helps you discern if the habits you have right now are helping or hindering your life. you have choices. that if you truly pay attention you will find that you are rarely. observation is neutral. Observation has no judgment. Kaarin Alisa – All rights reserved 7 http://www. even if what she is doing is nothing. you are living life on autopilot. Without it. Sometimes that is okay. I'm guessing. Copyright © 2007. The majority of people I have worked with do not pay attention to most of their life. and turn on the TV. including the actions of thought. you are missing out on an opportunity to make conscious choices. 'What am I doing now?' Focus on the actions you are taking. With attention. doing nothing! Here's an example of doing nothing: You come home from a hard day at the office. grab the remote. But more often than not.kaarinalisa. however. But paying attention to your life is the only opportunity you have to understand what it is you are currently doing. They let habits run most of their days and only pay attention to their children or their jobs or their coveted desires. They may pay attention to one or two aspects of their life.Paying Attention With some focused attention on any area of your life you can create good habits to support the life you desire. After changing out of your work clothes and greeting others who live with you. but not to their entire life. Your inner phoenix is a master at observation. just observe yourself. or checking your voice mail and e-mail. you plop down on the couch. Let's begin! To begin the process of paying attention to your life just ask yourself regularly throughout the day. if ever.
very enlightening! Once you learn how to pay attention to what you are currently doing. you say. GIVES YOU THE POWER TO CHANGE WHAT YOU ARE DOING! It is too overwhelming to perform this exercise all day long. Most people find this exercise fun and very. Kaarin Alisa – All rights reserved 8 http://www.. Making these changes and creating new habits can only be accomplished with action.kaarinalisa." Excuse me while I chuckle. you can begin to figure out if what you are currently doing is what you really want to do. You were: Watching TV Trying to relax Worrying about work tomorrow Wondering if the plans you have for the weekend are the ones you want Wondering what is for dinner Realizing your feet hurt Trying to remember if you saw this program before Ignoring the chores you have to do Listening to the neighbor's dog bark… again … See what I mean? Were you really doing nothing? NOTICE: BECOMING AWARE OF WHAT YOU ARE DOING.Then the phone rings. "Nothing. You would get nothing else done! But try it at intervals. I see… Here is what your phoenix said. It turns out to be your best friend and when she asks you what you are doing. Let me ask your phoenix here… what were you doing? Ahhhh. Perhaps once every hour. whatever interval doesn't seem overwhelming to start.com .. but you were far from doing nothing. Copyright © 2007.
Action The truth is that every habit you have right now was built from actions you took to give yourself what you wanted at the moment you performed them. Covering your mouth when you smile or laugh does just the opposite. Copyright © 2007. you were very self-conscious about how you looked. Just because you think you don't want that same thing now is not enough of an action for the habit to disappear. It gave you what you wanted at the time. That's right! NOTICE: EVERY HABIT YOU HAVE NOW SERVED YOU WELL WHEN I T W A S E S T A B L I S HE D ! Let's look at this example: Once upon a time. Kaarin Alisa – All rights reserved 9 http://www. You can see here though. Of course you wanted your teeth to be straight and your smile to look great for the rest of your life. It made you feel less self-conscious by concealing the blemish of the braces from full view of the world. Now you are more interested in projecting a powerful image of a person who is confident. You got into a habit of covering your mouth with your hand every time you smiled or laughed. At first this worked very well.com . that this habit served you when it was established.kaarinalisa. But while you wore those braces. But you don't have those braces any more and this habit doesn't work so well. it tells those around you that you are less than happy with your appearance and behavior. you wore braces on your teeth.
ONLY OCCURS Action is a must-do. Kaarin Alisa – All rights reserved 10 http://www. WHEN THOUGHT IS FOLLOWED BY IS VERY IMPORTANT FOR CHANGE. You can only form clear sets of action by becoming clear about what it is you want.kaarinalisa. but only if you are clear on what action to take. Otherwise. Copyright © 2007.com . BUT IT IS C HA N G E A C T IO N .NOTICE: THOUGHT N O T E N O U G H T O M A K E T HE C H A N G E . the actions you take will bring you mixed results.
WHO YOU ARE NOW IS OF THE FUTURE AS YOUR GUIDE. If you are 50. they are too general to be of any real use when trying to create change in your life. When you ask most people what they want they will give you a stock answer. The truth is. NOTICE: IF YOU KNOW EXACTLY WHAT IT IS YOU WANT. you will not succeed if what you want is to be pregnant. Kaarin Alisa – All rights reserved 11 http://www. If you are a man. you will not succeed if what you want is to be 20 again. but to their judgment of who they currently are. Knowing what you want is the bug-a-boo of many people I know. The trick is listening to what she has to say. NOT YOUR PRESENT CIRCUMSTANCES! COMMON S E N S E T E L L S Y O U T O U S E Y O U R V IS I O N Copyright © 2007. your inner phoenix always knows exactly what you want in fine detail.kaarinalisa. These are no-brainers that everyone can agree are impossibilities. Something like: Lots of money A sexy body A soul-mate Happiness A new house While these are all fine things to want. Your desires have to be realistic. NOTICE: IF GOING AWAY! YOU WORK FOR CHANGE. where most people fail is to compare their desires not to reality.com .What You Want Knowing what you want is not always clear. However. YOU C A N F O R MU L A T E T HE A C T I O NS T O M A K E I T H A P P E N ! I have one thing more to say about getting what you want before I reveal how to listen to what your phoenix is telling you.
Listen to her and these concerns will vanish. The reality is though. She knows you can get what you want. Copyright © 2007.com . It's very simple if you use The Want List. that extra $2.000 is out of the question. This would give you that beautiful new car you want and a good vacation. But to believe that fact you have to stop comparing your desire with who you currently are! Who you currently are has been formed by the sub-conscious habits you are about to change! Your inner phoenix knows better.kaarinalisa. You look at your life and realize that given what you do for a living. For the person you are right now.000 a month. You even make enough to have a few hundred dollars in your pocket for fun stuff each month. and your education. enough to pay your rent and put food on the table. you probably can boost your income by $2.000 a month. let's explore how you listen to your phoenix when she tells you what you want. But it's not really the life you want. there is no way you will make that much money! So you give up. as well as how much you have ever made in the past. that even if it takes time and effort.Here's an example: You make a good income. not to mention a new wardrobe. and that sweet new stereo system you saw recently. You desire to increase your income by $2. a new TV. Okay. Kaarin Alisa – All rights reserved 12 http://www.
You spend 20 minutes a day for 7 days and then. (Plan on Day 8 taking more time. your mental/emotional desires. *smile* Here's the formula for The Want List: What you need: 20 minutes a day of quiet time set aside. each day: Find your quiet place and close your eyes. Kaarin Alisa – All rights reserved 13 http://www.com . Remind yourself to not judge anything you think or feel. I have seen this work wonders for many people and it can work wonders for you too. including your physical desires.kaarinalisa. Sound unbelievable? It's not.a computer with a word-processing program. Take several deep breathes to help relax yourself. What you do: Beginning steps for each session. and your spiritual desires. Ready yourself to start writing. on the 8th day. it's 100% doable. A willingness to explore your desires. you will be able to write a comprehensive list of exactly what it is you want.) A pad of paper and pencil –or.The Want List The want list is a very simple exercise that takes about a week to complete. Greet your inner phoenix and welcome her participation in this exercise. Copyright © 2007.
com . consolidating things that are similar. Write down everything you think you want: do not eliminate anything.Day 1: Perform the beginning steps. start fresh! Copyright © 2007. but do not think about or look at any of your previous lists. Day 2: Same as day 1. Set this list aside. Start fresh! Day 5: Same as day 1. This should be pretty rapid and your list will be long! Set this list aside.kaarinalisa. Just put down everything that comes to mind. Start fresh! (Most people find that their list gets shorter with each iteration. And do not judge it. Day 4: Same as day 1. striking out things that are redundant. Again. Consolidate them into one list. but do not think about or look at any of your previous lists. but do not think about or look at your list from day 1. Notice the similarities and differences. Take the lists from day 1 and day 2 and compare them. and eliminating anything that stands out as no longer desired. But if yours doesn't that's okay!) Day 3: Perform the beginning steps. Kaarin Alisa – All rights reserved 14 http://www.
installing a greenhouse window. if one of your desires is to remodel your kitchen. making the room bigger. Consolidate them into one list. and eliminating anything that stands out as no longer desired. Consolidate them into one list. Remember there is no judgment as to whether or not you think you can do any of these. Notice the similarities and differences. For example. consolidating things that are similar. Set this list aside. Day 7: Perform the beginning steps. Rejoice at finding your desires! Copyright © 2007. Embellish this item to include details about it. striking out things that are redundant. add to this item what you want the kitchen to be like. consolidating things that are similar. Day 8 (now for the real fun): Perform the beginning steps." Put in whatever matches the picture you have in your mind of a remodeled kitchen. Think about each line item. Look it over carefully. and bringing more natural materials into the construction. These are desires. Take the lists from day 4 and day 5 and compare them. Instead of "remodel the kitchen" you may write "remodel the kitchen by adding a center island. striking out things that are redundant. and eliminating anything that stands out as no longer desired. Rewrite that line to truly reflect this desire. Kaarin Alisa – All rights reserved 15 http://www.com . Take the list from day 7. Notice the similarities and differences.Day 6: Perform the beginning steps. Take the lists from day 3 and day 6 and compare them.kaarinalisa. Set this list aside.
listened to your phoenix.Congratulations! If you have suspended your judgment.com . and have been honest with yourself.kaarinalisa. this will be a pretty accurate reflection of what you want in your life right now. Give yourself the gift of reading this list over several times and feel the feelings you would feel if all these things were truly made manifest through action! Copyright © 2007. You should feel a thrill when you look at this list. Kaarin Alisa – All rights reserved 16 http://www.
So you start with the desire of earning extra money. Which of your current habits do not support these actions? NOTICE: AS Y O U MO V E C L O S E R T O Y O U R D E S I R E S . For example: If one of your desires is to spend 2 months in China.kaarinalisa. I suggest you look at your list of desires and determine three things: 1. just pick one! You want them all so it doesn't really matter which one you start with! Copyright © 2007. and 3. What actions must you take to make this desire a reality. Y O U R D E S I R E S WILL UNDOUBTEDLY CHANGE. or that some of them must be accomplished before others. Kaarin Alisa – All rights reserved 17 http://www.com . 2. Where is the best place to start. and another desire is to make $2. but if that is so. then you can easily see that the increased earnings are necessary in order to pay for the travel. THIS IS A D Y N A M I C P R O C E S S A N D U R G E Y O U T O R E V IS I T Y O U R L I S T O F D E S I R E S R E G U L A R L Y . Where to Start? Pick the low-hanging fruit to start with! If your list of desires is twenty long. You may find that the assigning order to all your desires may not be as easy or clear as it is in this example.Manifest through Action So now what? Now you combine all of this good stuff and transform your life! Each of these newly uncovered desires can become its own action plan.000 more each month so you can afford to take time off and travel. surely you will notice that some of them look easier to accomplish than others. EVERY I 3 TO 4 M O N T H S IS A G O O D T I M E F R A M E T O C O N S I D E R .
What Actions are Needed? Figuring out which actions to take may or may not be something you know off the top of your head. Probably you would need classroom education and perhaps an apprenticeship. talk to knowledgeable people. You can see that the action items that result as part of your education process would be very different in these two scenarios. Then you might want to practice on some old junker of a car you bought just to facilitate your learning process. You probably need to get some additional training to fulfill this desire.com . and conduct research on the internet. then make 'doing research' the top item on your to-do list for this desire and then note the subjects you know need to be researched. Kaarin Alisa – All rights reserved 18 http://www. Copyright © 2007. If you want to be an auto mechanic by trade. You can read books. You may need to research your subject to make a determination about the best course of action. If you know you need to research things before you can make your full to-do list. you need to research what type of education will prepare you the best for the type of auto mechanic you want to be. So.kaarinalisa. fixing up old cars in your spare time. Perhaps you would need to join a club and read a bunch of books. then you might want to consult with auto repair shops about the type of education they want in new mechanics they hire. For example: Perhaps one of your desires is to become an auto mechanic. If you want to be a weekend mechanic. you will want to research what type of education will give you the skills to do that. And this will be the case for each of the desires on your list.
3 habits to change . Through your research in forming your action list.Which Habits to Change? Once you have your action list. Uh-oh. For example: Perhaps one of your action items is to become proficient at Karate. but each with its own possible pitfalls to success. So you know that you have to get up at a new time. How do you avoid the pitfalls? Copyright © 2007. you have a habit of not getting out of bed until 8:00 am. Kaarin Alisa – All rights reserved 19 http://www. So now you have identified 2 habits you have to change. now you realize that to get up that much earlier.kaarinalisa. just in time to shower. Uh-oh. This habit is not going to help you accomplish your desire. going to bed and getting up in the morning. to form a new habit about awakening each day. and race to the office. now you get to take your observations about your current habits and figure out which ones get in the way of performing your new action list. grab coffee.com . you have to go to bed earlier. you realize that the only Karate class that fits in your schedule is at 6:45 am. Uh-oh.all related. So you realize you need to change your breakfast habit and make room for better nutrition to make ready for each day. now you realize that grabbing a cup of coffee for breakfast is not going to work if you have already spent 40 minutes doing Karate before breakfast.
com . your long-term goal is not yet realized. your desires list now becomes your long-term rewards. employ some of your phoenix' other tools and forgive yourself.kaarinalisa. but daily change requires something much more immediate to be motivating in the moment.com/signup. but falling short of the mark from time-totime is probably inevitable. This is a good way to stay on track. When the day comes and you do fail to uphold your new habit. I wish you and your phoenix supreme success! To receive more tips and wisdom about unleashing your inner phoenix. Karate will continue. but you have a short-term goal to keep you motivated! 3. you will have new habits that support your life and bring you closer to your true desires each and every day. the answer is you can't! You can overcome them in time. Do this and before you know it. Example: Remind yourself of the desire you are postponing by succumbing to your old habit. What counts in changing your habits is: 1. so that when you are tempted to return to old behaviors you are aware of the choice you are making to do so. Nicely. Example: You may decide that when you have accomplished your new action of going to karate class for 6 weeks that you will treat yourself to a new outfit.kaarinalisa. Give yourself short-term rewards for doing a good job. sign up for Kaarin's weekly tip-letter at http://www. Kaarin Alisa – All rights reserved 20 http://www. 2.htm! Copyright © 2007. and persevere with your new action the next time. unfortunately. pick yourself up. Giving it your full attention.Avoid the Pitfalls? How do you avoid the pitfalls? Well.
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