Daytime Pick-Up Revealed

The Art of Meeting, Connecting and Seducing Women In Coffee Shops, Malls, College Campuses, and Anywhere Under the Sun!
2006 All Rights Reserved 

IntroductIon A Word on consIstency GettInG the Most FroM thIs MAnuAl WArnInG!

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Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle 8 WhAt Is dAy GAMe? 8 An eye opener on cold ApproAchInG 9 WelcoMe to WoMen’s everydAy reAlIty 10 creAtInG A vIsIon 11 ActInG on your plAn 12 4 steps to IncreAse the eFFectIveness oF GoAl settInG 13 IntroductIon to the 8 essentIAl dAyGAMe FActors 14 Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS FActor 1: Inner strenGth FActor 2: IdentIty FActor 3: lonG terM And short terM vAlue FActor 4: eFFectIve coMMunIcAtIon FActor 5: eMotIonAl connectIon FActor 6: coMFort & trust FActor 7: loGIstIcs FActor 8: InvestMent Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS, rAcking up dAteS, And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndset For MeetInG WoMen Where to Meet WoMen Be In tune WIth the enerGy level crAsh course In stArtInG conversAtIon WIth WoMen BreAKInG doWn the opener deAlInG WIth contInGencIes GIFt shIFt theory the pInG ponG MetAphor 

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I learned the natural [**hard?**] way. and perseverance to become successful with women. I came up with over 2. would understand. by choice. I had to learn how pick up women from scratch. 2. even my 8-year-old cousin. with the right combination of passion. So I came up with a manual that anyone. I learned from my past failures. and tactics on meeting women during the daytime. videos. books. it can be overwhelming. theories.000 pages filled with discoveries.  . In the process. at that time. coffee shops. or workshops that focused on daytime pick-up. beaches. I knew I had the passion and motivation to get this part of my life handled. What you’re about to read is a product of years of trial and error. I just needed to know how to operate in the field. I really had no other option.000 pages? Yes. After thousands of interactions and years of going out to the malls.InTroduCTIon First of all. streets. I don’t want you to take a year to see results. It was a long and painful process but. I want you to succeed now. can benefit from this manual. regardless of age and experience. dedication. I want to congratulate you. I’ve compressed it all into this book. There were no gurus. quite frankly. Over the years. I’ve piled up all the useful information that I’ve discovered in my pursuit to perfecting daytime pick ups. I know there’s a lot of information out there and. and college campuses. Anyone. and trial and error. You’ve taken the first step toward improving yourself. Back then. It didn’t stop me though. Worst of all. I’ve developed a step by step system that will allow anyone. hanging out with guys that were good with women. there were no resources on meeting women outside of the “bars and clubs” context. Rest assured that your dating life will take on a positive spin after you’ve absorbed and integrated the information in this e-book.

Day in day out. Eventhough they were from different walks of life and trained differently. You won’t be in college forever. Over the past three years. You’ll need to take sometime to try out the tactics that you learn. relax. consistently. without fail.There’s a catch though… You have to want it. the best system. and you will not be figuring out this part of your life forever . There are many ways to achieve your goal. and the best coach out there. it’s all worthless. passion. would you be willing to experience a slight inconvenience and break through your comfort levels to achieve the lifestyle of your dreams . You must find the determination. I promise you won’t regret it. You can have the best techniques. make a stand. So now. and drive within yourself to see this through. Now. You have to desire success and do whatever it takes to become competent in this area of your life. This manual is my helping hand to all those guys who want to learn how to successfully meet women during the day. and without excuses. It doesn’t work that way. there was always one common denominator. First of all.  . then when will you? Treat this like going to college to get a degree. they each followed their pre-determined plan. a Word on ConsIsTenCy Do you want to know the secret to seeing results fast? One word: consistency. this book isn’t some magic pill that will solve all your problems overnight. If you don’t get this part of your life handled right now. You’re about to begin your journey. and keep an open mind. I want you to sit back. but you will never reach it unless you consistently exert the effort to put one foot in front of the other. and choose wisely. but without consistency.only a few months! This is a short-term challenge to you! Ask yourself.or will you continue to be an “average Joe” for 70 more years? Which path will you take? It’s time to make a decision. I’ve talked to hundreds of people who have successfully transformed their dating lifestyle.

Most of them. so be prepared. practice it! Don’t go jump right onto another book or program right away without practicing the things you learn here. You need to practice several times a week. would when you’re trying to develop a skill. The more you practice. It’s a repetitive process that will propel you toward success. and integrate the information you learn. I will spoon feed you with knowledge on daytime pick-up but that won’t be enough. comments. complaints. reading. I’ll constantly be throwing new concepts at you. absorb. You can drop me a line at grungey10@captivatetoconnect. Let’s Rock n Roll!  . Treat this book as a reference or encyclopedia. Come back and read the individual section from time to time. the better you become. You need the right information and the ability to put that information into practice. Some of them will be helpful to your current situation. It’s similar to learning a sport. you will need in the future. You need to go out there and practice the things you learn.I want you to approach this as you. if you want to become competent. Keep practicing. Read through it once or twice and absorb whatever you can. or just a simple “Hi” note if you will. I want to know what you think. Don’t ever. ever be satisfied with just learning this stuff. GeTTInG The MosT froM ThIs Manual There are two things that are directly correlated to your success. and using it until you have it all down! Please feel free to e-mail me with your ideas.

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beaches. shop.  . they roam around malls. and how I’ve used this information to solidify my game and make myself more successful with women. Have you ever stopped to wonder how many hot women you see everyday? Women of all types of beauty are not hard to find. have fun and a whole list of other reasons. then that’s normal. relax. as most may think. get them on dates. I’ve met a couple of men that can pull it off. and coffee shops every single day. I’ll discuss some interesting things about the different steps before the approach. Did you want a girlfriend? Did you want to expand your social circle? Or did you just want to have new dates every single day? If you answered yes to any one of those. ”What Did You Do About It? Did you start giving second glances? Scratch your head in awe? Smile at her as she passed by? Or did you just look down as she walked by? If you didn’t do anything. It’s not luck. and believe me.Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle In this section. then day game just might be the answer. supermarkets. outside of bars and clubs. and have the possibility of starting a relationship with them. WhaT Is day GaMe? Have you ever experienced seeing “your type” of girl walk down the street? Most likely you have. build an emotional connection. it’s a skill set. The question is. Why? Day Game is the ability to meet any woman. The best thing about it is that YOU could potentially monopolize and have access to ALL these women if you knew how. I’m sure you wanted to accomplish something. I have yet to meet someone who knows exactly what to do and how to do it when he sees a woman that catches his eye. What exactly is your reason for buying this book? Tell me. they are rare. Thousands of women go out during the day to run errands.

trying to get people to buy our products. Now. Communication is key in everything that we do. What does sales have to do with being successful with girls? Everything. people would stop by for a minute to check out the things I had to say. is their ability to communicate with people. It rarely worked because I was already asking for the sale before I even got a chance to get to know the customer. I’ll talk more about this in the upcoming chapters. I’ve spent a couple of months standing inside a phone booth in the middle of a mall. I’d always be shouting “Hey sir. If you think about it. and that’s when I learned something… If my initial approach was unique. I learned that building a relationship before asking for the sale was a must. If selling something was possible without building a relationship with the customer. I didn’t even know their name. Occasionally. do you want to sign up for our service today?” yada yada yada. the one thing that’s similar with salespeople and guys that are successful with women. then people usually gave me a bit of their time. and it did make sense. But. I tried and experimented with a lot of different techniques. Several years ago. I’ve had a history of being a salesman. Heck. let’s get back to my story… After failing to produce results in my job. Remember the time someone tried to start a conversation with you? What happened?  . more often than not. I should know. they’d just continue walking.What if I told you that it’s possible to approach these beautiful strangers and have something positive result from almost all of your interactions? Would you think I’m nuts? an eye opener on Cold approaChInG Cold approaching is walking up and talking to a complete stranger. then there would be no need for salespeople.

It’s not their fault and I certainly don’t blame them for being rude sometimes. depending on your mood. What does that mean? You’ve got to approach her in a way that she’s not accustomed. How often are you approached by a homeless person asking for money? How do you deal with it? Are you polite or do you brush them off? I’m sure it comes to a point where you just have a set of prepared answers that you say when you get the same question. Make or Break Moment The first couple of seconds after you meet a person is what I call the make or break moment. WelCoMe To WoMen’s everyday realITy Women get approached or hit on all the time. Looking back. They’ve developed tolerance to men and the ability to be emotionally detached from the interaction. The first thing you need to do is find a way to bypass her social filters. There are a lot of whackos out there. It’s probably one of the most crucial moments of the interaction simply because it opens the door for escalating the conversation.. Your goal is to get her into a state of mind where she’s susceptible to be led.You probably heard them open with a familiar line like: “Hey what’s going on?” “Nice weather…” “It’s a pretty long line. why did you talk to that person? Was it out of politeness or were you interested in getting to know them as a person? Chances are it was out of politeness. If you can relate to this scenario then. isn’t it” Chances are you reply with some sort of answer.. 0 . Then the conversation comes to an end and you either say “Nice talking to you” or just simply turn around and carry on with your business.

It’s always a good feeling knowing you’re working toward something that will benefit you in the long run. It gives you an overall direction so you know where you’re going. If you have a vision of what you want your life to be then that is your incentive to work harder. But don’t expect them to be all over you after you’ve initiated the conversation. That’s your window of opportunity. I’m going to go with the assumption that everyone’s time is special. there are no second chances if you mess it up. there’s one thing you need to do first. You’ll find it very useful on your journey. Just because someone opens the door. You have to set a goal for yourself. That’s just setting yourself up for failure. Women will usually. CreaTInG a vIsIon Do you know where you’re heading? If you don’t then you might want to start brainstorming. It motivates you and keeps you on track. Don’t skip this part. It will be your first road block to success.  . when you first start out. They have no goals set for themselves. you should have one. If it’s something you really want then you WILL achieve it. If you don’t have one. will be focused on perfecting the first few minutes of the interaction. If you want to be successful with women. if you’ve got your whole presence and communication skills down. So I want you to take sometime to answer these questions. then by the end of this section. Have a pen and paper ready. We all have things to do and people to see. open the door for you a little bit.It’s like going to someone’s house and pushing the doorbell. A lot of people out there are like chickens running around with their heads cut off. Most women will give you somewhere between three seconds and three minutes to captivate their interest. Goal setting is very important for various reasons. A lot of your time. Most of the people you meet out there will have a very short attention span. it doesn’t mean you get to go in and do whatever you want.

in 10 years.• Realistically speaking. These questions should aid you in coming up with a solid vision of who you want to be and what steps you need to take in order to accomplish that. what do you really want to accomplish? You’re obviously investing a lot of your time and effort into learning how to be successful with women. and monthly goals to ensure that you’re constantly improving you skill set? How much time and effort do you need to put into this? What strategies do you have in order to stay consistent and committed to getting this part of your life handled? That’s just for starters. aCTInG on your plan Okay you have your plan. where do you see yourself? What kind of person will you be by then? What kind of girl/girls will be with you? What’s your lifestyle going to be? What’s the difference between who you are now and who you want to be? • How long do you think it will take you to accomplish your overall goal? Have you set daily. the next step is to stick to your plan no matter what happens until you start to see results. I know it’s a good feeling to have so much information that your brain begins to swell. Once you’ve figured out what you want. One piece of advice though: Information isn’t power. it’s potential power.  . now what?! Anything on paper is just writing unless you put it to work. What’s in it for you in the long run? Like. weekly.

After getting advice. If you haven’t done this by now. and schedule a date with her at the end. I should always be pushing the interaction as far as it can go every time. It was fun but I just can’t seem to get her to open up to me.” Or “If I want a hot girlfriend I should be more experienced with hot women. every single week” or “I want to have a smoking hot girlfriend that’s half my age. and has a kick ass personality”. Put the book down and start working on it.”  . I shouldn’t commit the same mistake again. Make sure you use this information as a guideline and makes sure you’re on the right track. I’ll be able to hold a conversation with a girl for 30 minutes. I will surround myself with the kind of women I’d like to date and learn how to be comfortable in their presence. I’m also going to work on the different aspects of my life so that I become relationship material. For example: “I was able to talk to several girls today. For example: “In order for me to be able to date three new girls a week. Devise a plan on how you’re going to accomplish your goal.4 sTeps To InCrease The effeCTIveness of Goal seTTInG Know exactly what you want to accomplish. I’ll make sure to implement the things I learned right away. After six months. I want to have the ability to date three new girls that I meet in the mall.” 2. I should get my skill set to that level. Get all the right information that you need in order to get this part of your life handled. then don’t continue reading. Or I can look for someone qualified to help me out. I need to interact with seven new girls three times a week for six months. I’ll make sure that they can give me personalized and individualized attention. I’m going to look for resources out there that will solve the problem for me. What steps are needed in order to accomplish your plan? How long is it going to take and what does it require of me? Make sure to always stick to that plan. For example: “In six months. 1. I’ll try to go on as many dates as I can so I can get experience under my belt.

The main goal of the upcoming section is to provide you with a comprehensive foundation for daytime pick-up. Here’s a QUICK PEEK at what’s coming up. I got five numbers and out of those numbers. then slowly focuses on the techniques and tactical part of the interaction. InTroduCTIon To The 8 essenTIal dayGaMe faCTors I’m about to provide you with the most comprehensive information ever available on how use the 8 Essential Day Game Factors to dramatically increase your success with women.  . In order to efficiently improve your skills. So I need to review all my interactions and see where I’m screwing things up. Review all your results. starting from your core. You should be able to analyze yourself and construct positive criticism. You see. then make the necessary adjustments. For example: “Last month. I’ve identified a total of 8 Essential Day Game Factors that must be addressed if you want to maximize your success rate! You must first understand all of the factors and how they affect your ability to meet. This month I got eight numbers but none of them called me back. This is an essential skill to develop. three girls called me back. find the strong and weak points.. Did I build enough emotional connection with her? Did I convey my personality well enough? Am I giving up easily without following up? If so how can I improve my skill? I should try calling her more often…” This is a very simple structure you can use in order to assess your progress. connect. and date the woman of your choice.3. I suggest that you spend some time mastering EACH section of the book.. This is the only way to keep progressing. The 8 Essential Day Factors are structured in a way that helps build you up.

A lot of guys don’t know the proper way of communicating with attractive women. I’ll go over the key concepts of identity building and how to effectively communicate who you are as a person. I’ll show you where most guys fail and how you can avoid most of the pitfalls out there. you’ll have a basic understanding of what inner strength is and how you can use it to gain an unfair advantage over other guys. FACTOR : COMMUNICATION Communication skills separate the beginners from the pros. I’ll show you exactly how to communicate with women. They lose a woman’s initial interest due to their lack of communication or ineffective communication.  . why they can’t keep a woman in their life? It’s because they don’t develop the ability to convey their identity. I’ll explain to you the importance of long term and short term value and how it affects all your interactions. I’ll discuss inner strength in depth and take you step by step so that you can develop a solid foundation . Don’t worry. FACTOR : LONG TERM AND SHORT TERM VALUE This chapter is guaranteed to raise a few eyebrows out there. I’m confident that by the end of this book. I’ll only be throwing stuff at you that I know you’d need.FACTOR : INNER STRENGTH We’ll start to build you up from the very core of your personality. FACTOR : IDENTITY Do you know why most guys fail to keep a woman interested in them? Or even worse. I’ll teach you the same principles that I only teach in specialized 1 on 1 VIP seminars.

I’ll give you a couple of tips on how you can maximize the effectiveness of the interaction by utilizing our logistic planning method. This is my favorite part of every interaction and you’re about to find out why! I go over specific time-tested tactics that I’ve used to establish a long lasting emotional bond that gets her to dream about you even after you’re gone! This is a very effective tool that increases the chances of you going on a date with her! I’ll go over the proper way to build an emotional connection and the opportune moment for you to start engaging her in this type of interaction. he must first master the art of making her invest in the interaction.  . I’ve decided to just go all out and reveal four major investment categories.FACTOR : EMOTIONAL CONNECTION Emotional Connection is what I like to call “The Heart of Day Game”. I’ve compiled the most comprehensive approach to increase control over the interaction and decreasing the number of women flaking on you. Look no further! In this chapter. I’ll show you specifically how to get the girl from the mall to your bedroom! FACTOR : INVESTMENT In order for anyone to be successful with women. This chapter talks about the things you must do and avoid. FACTOR : LEADING & LOGISTICS If you haven’t learned yet. FACTOR : COMFORT AND TRUST Most guys just don’t know how to build comfort and trust with the women they meet. let me be the first to tell you… Logistics is one thing that you do not have full control over. In this chapter.

Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS faCTor 1: Inner sTrenGTh I know that most of you just want to learn what to say. I just accepted it. It’s the driving force behind all their successes. I know. I’ve tried to put my finger on it in the past but it took me quite sometime to figure out what it was.” I really thought I would never figure it out. I was the same as you when I first started out. Failure just wasn’t an option for me. How were you able to handle it? Back in those days when you were stationed in Iraq. I admired this guy for his strength and courage. I knew there would be a lot of people who’d be negative about the experience. things would have been so much easier for me…” So save yourself a lot of time and read and understand this section first before you go onto the next one. Most people probably hated being there. in other words. My friend and I were just chatting about life. I don’t blame you at all. I just knew that I had it in me to succeed beyond a shadow of a doubt. “What does this guy have that I don’t. You want to know what happened several years later? I sat down and told myself “If only I just build up myself first. This is the one thing that fuels them day in and day out. what were you thinking of?” He replied: “All those days I spent there just help built me up as a person. There’s something about him that makes him complete as a person. and be the same person I was to begin with? Or should I just barrel through this period with my head held up high. Until this one day came. be negative all the time. So to make a long story short I asked him “It takes a lot of guts to do what you did. and end up to be a better person? I chose the latter. I used to think to myself. I mean. I always wondered how he was able to do it. we both have charismatic personalities and great sense of style. I hadn’t seen him in years because he was stationed in Iraq. “the lines”. It’s that bright light at the end of the tunnel. I had that choice. cherish every moment of my journey.. have one thing in common. I had two choices: should I go through all of this hardship. A lot of successful guys.”  ..

appearance isn’t everything. You can still get laid even if you do not look like the guy from the cover of a fashion magazine.  . attractive. and desirable. or not tall. These moments don’t come to me that often but whenever they do. we live in a society that’s driven by money. probably since we were little kids. Love makes the world go round and money keeps it spinning… For the most part. What we believe in is a product of the things we were exposed to all our lives. Sad to say. Let’s take a good look at magazines for a second. This is true for both men and women alike. You can make a beautiful girl with an outstanding personality fall for you regardless of your race! All of this may be hard to comprehend but it will make sense to you in a minute. we’ve been programmed like robots to act in a self-sabotaging way toward women. or fame. These beliefs have been integrated into our being. they set the standard of what is cool. Contrary to popular belief. There are a lot of factors that have molded us to be the person we are today. power. Examples of such factors are FRIENDS FAMILY SCHOOL SYSTEM SOCIETY MEDIA CULTURE ENVIRONMENT WOOOOWW! That’s a lot of factors influencing us. You’ve Been Programmed to Fail with Women and You Probably Don’t Even Know It! We all walk through this world with our beliefs. Let’s take on the subject of appearance. not well built. they always hit me hard over the head. You can get a girl even if you’re not rich. Not only that.I suddenly had one of those “Light bulb popping up in your head” moments. Let’s start out with media and advertising. The ones on the top set the rules so that everyone can follow.

and join this…” And whoever said advertising wasn’t effective? What actually happened was that the media brainwashed people into thinking that they need all of this in order to be cool. Your belief becomes who you are.Who do you see on the covers of popular magazines? I’m sure you all know the answer to this one: Celebrities Attractive and fit people Rich people And everything else I forgot to mention Am I the only one that sees what’s going on here? Where can you find the hottest men and women? Usually on the front of a magazine. be this.  . tall. that guy has the hottest girl I’ve ever seen. and up to date I need to have this. cool. famous helps but it’s not the only way. where there sculpted bodies are exposed and their stunning facial features modified to intimidate almost anyone. He’s rich. both the man and woman in this example end up concluding “In order to be desirable. and…” To make the long story short. Anyone armed with the techniques and philosophies I’ll discuss in this book can attract the kind of woman that’s usually reserved for the good looking. Your words become your actions. famous. The truth is… YOU DON’T Yeah being rich. famous… He even has the fastest car around. I need to buy everything she has and be like her so I can be hot too…” Same thing for a guy “Oh. and rich! IT’S TIME TO RE-PROGRAM YOURSELF TO YOUR ADVANTAGE! Have you ever heard of the saying perception is reality? Your thoughts become your words. The average girl would think “That’s the girl that everyone in my school thinks is hot! She’s skinny and she wears (Insert brand name of clothing here). tall. he has this sick ass watch.

I will also provide you with exercises so your belief is reinforced with real world results. And that’s when it occurred to me that… YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE. my whole world changed. If only I could snap them out of their trance… but then again. and relationships that I’ve had. BELIEVE! I’ve learned a couple of lessons that I will be sharing with you. What if you can reprogram your entire self. BELIEVE. Alright. I’ll be discussing 8 Inner Strength Lessons that I’ve found to be very useful in my journey. becomes who you are? Would you believe me? You better. the faster you’ll get to your destination. struggles. For the next 30 days. I’m just sharing with you everything that’s worked for me and the thousands of guys I’ve trained after I discovered everything I’m about to share with you. I adopted bits and pieces of his philosophy in life. You’re just going to be a better version of yourself. It makes me sad to see all the guys out there that are still walking through life brainwashed by society. Here’s how this works. I want you to go over this chapter again and again. Change will not occur overnight. because by reframing some self-sabotaging beliefs. These have been very useful for me and hopefully will be for you. back to my story. so you can move through the world naturally attracting people in your life? Before I hear any objections. After I talked to the guy and realized everything I just told you. only if you really really believed in it. 0 . that would be too idealistic of me. you too can be successful with women. but the sooner you start believing. Ever since then I began seeing some amazing results from all the interactions. and went on a journey to seek the truth.What if I told you that everything that you believe in. literally before my very own eyes. Don’t stop reading until you start practicing and believing the 8 Inner Strength Lessons. This is where everyone should start regardless of their goal. You have to live up to your full potential. you’re not going to be someone you’re not.

The time when you were relaxed and comfortable with yourself. Try this out. how can you be so sure she thinks that way if you haven’t even approached her yet? Okay. I want you to remember the times when you made several people feel good about themselves. how does that change the way you act toward them? Try it out. If you believe that everything you say or do is valuable. next time before you talk to someone. all of a sudden. You’re doing them a favor by talking to them.  . people were hanging off every word you said. Starting now. then it will be valuable to others. The time when. I’m sure there’s a time in the past when you were yourself and everyone just loved you. Every situation is different. Got that memory? How does it make you feel? Have you ever surprised someone with something really special before? What did you feel like before you gave it to them? Felt good didn’t it? That’s how you should feel before talking to anyone. I want you to believe that your presence alone is valuable to others. I don’t know what to say” speech playing in your head? Let me ask you this.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : MY PRESENCE ALONE IS VALUABLE TO OTHERS Have you ever had the feeling that you’re not worthy to even talk to someone? Have you ever hesitated to approach a woman just because you had that damn “Why should she even talk to me? I’m not her type… and besides. but I’ve approached girls in the past and they’ve shot me down more times than I can think of… Just because you had one bad meal in your life doesn’t mean you should stop eating right? Every girl is different. TRY THIS OUT I want you to start looking back and remember the times where you were indeed valuable to other people. imagine that you’re about to give them a million bucks in the next five minutes.

by the time you got to college. You can do them yourself. Remember the time when you were in grade school? You had to ask permission every single time you went for a trip to the rest room. executed it. Don’t wait for others to tell you what to do. Don’t be afraid to state your opinions just because someone else thinks otherwise. Do you think he ever asked permission if he could start up a business and drop out of school as it took off? Nope. And you have permission to date any girl you want regardless of what anyone says. Don’t look for others to make decisions for you. Don’t be afraid to spark tension. Don’t ask anyone for permission just do it. And you can get away with it. Everything is yours. and never looked back. Always say what’s on your mind. Always voice out your opinions. you just probably stood up and went straight for the rest room didn’t you? Another example is the very famous Bill Gates. whenever you want. You do not need permission to dress in a certain way. Once again. You have permission to be the best that you can be. You already have it in you. I want you to live life like you own the world. It’s about time to free yourself from the prison that your mind is in. You have permission to go after the things you want in life.  .INNER STRENGTH LESSON : TAKE WHAT’S YOURS! NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR WHO YOU ARE AND THE THINGS YOU DO! YOU ARE YOUR OWN BOSS! There’s one thing that you will realize later on… You can do anything you want. • Make your own decision and take your own stand. he just had a plan. if you don’t agree with someone simply say “I disagree” and leave it at that. Next time you go out to the malls and you see a bench with an open spot. So what do you want to do? What’s stopping you? You are your own boss. wherever you want. Well. we’ve been programmed by society to look up to others for “permission” to do something we want to do. You do not need anyone’s approval before you do something. Here are some tips you can start integrating in your life: • It’s always better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. You have permission to change your beliefs. just go ahead and sit down.

It’s not that bad. background. If it will compromise you or for some reason you just don’t feel comfortable with it then say “no”. don’t hesitate to just smile and take the spot first. You’ll notice that people will begin to respect you more because you’re upfront.  . It’s hard to get used to saying “no” but you have to give it a shot. Just try saying it. and don’t bow down to someone just because you perceive them as being better than you. You wouldn’t want to be known as the “yes” man. • I’m not trying to impress you. stand tall. Be proud. Don’t be ashamed of your past. or status. If it’s reasonable and you’re up for it then say “yes”. This boils down to being who you are despite what other people think.• Learn how to say “No”. When you’re at a party and someone asks: “Who wants such and such drinks” Don’t hesitate to raise your hand first and say “Over here”. TRY THIS OUT Let’s start out with simple exercises. The next time you’re about to line up. Don’t ever change just because someone else wants you to. and someone gets there the same time you did. One motto you can use is “I’m not trying to impress you… And you sure have to do more than that to impress me”. Wear an outrageous piece of clothing and when someone give you a hard time about it just smile and say “Thank you”.

They ask you questions for a purpose. It seemed just like yesterday. the stories you tell. Maybe I wanted to be a rock star because I’d be famous worldwide. I wanted to be that guy in the spotlight that made people jump to the beat of his melody. It All Started When You Were A Kid “There are two great moments in a person’s life: the moment they were born and the moment they realize why they were born. every single person you meet will wonder who you are. Why did I choose that as a kid? Beats me. They are trying to form a picture of who you are as a person. I wanted to be that guy that rocked people’s world with his guitar. Maybe because it looked cool on television. all of these play an important role in establishing your identity.” . I don’t really know.faCTor 2: IdenTITy Do you know what people think of the first time they meet you? Do you know the first thing that pops up in a woman’s head the moment you approach her? Do you know what she will think about the minute she gets home after meeting you? “Who in the world is this guy?” So let me throw the question at you… Who Are You? Trust me. The clothes you wear.  . Or maybe it was what everybody wanted at that time. Your job is to convey your identity all throughout an interaction.Mark Sanborne So What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? When I was seven years old I wanted to be a rock star. and the way you present yourself to others. So what exactly is your identity? Continue reading because this whole chapter is dedicated to the subject of identity. when I’d just jump off the bed with a broomstick trying to mimic Slash from Guns n Roses.

we just need a balance of both. I was easily influenced by my parents. I believe that the person we want to be is already inside of us. when I was a kid. you’re better of just having a 9-5 job where you can make a constant stream of income” Unfortunately. I didn’t stray away from it. We become better versions of ourselves.The truth is. Then out of nowhere someone started playing my song on the radio.  . This is a very important section in this book. Success is in already inside all of us. I realize that each and everyone of us had dreams when we were little. I’m an artist! I’m a musician! I really did achieve what I wanted when I was a kid. I never really thought about it until three weeks ago when I was in a car with a bunch of friends. then this is it. and teachers. It means that every single time that Michelangelo worked on chipping away pieces of his sculpture. I had no other choice but to listen to what everyone said. You’ll need some time to work on this. we tend to stop feeling and just start thinking. he was already done before he started. once said “The Sculpture is already in the stone” and I never forgot that. So let me ask you this: What did you want to be when you were seven years old? How to Discover Who You Are I’m not going to keep you waiting any longer. all he had to do was to chip away all the unnecessary stuff. I thought I would never be an artist because of what everybody said to me… “Being a musician won’t get you anywhere… It’s useless. If there’s one thing I want you to accomplish after you finish reading this book. Yes. As a result of growing up. Michelangelo. That’s when it struck me. Here are several ways to discover who you are. We were born to experience life and with that experience we grow and we learn. Becoming a musician was a dream. It just put the pieces of the puzzle together for me. It really came from the heart but at such an early age. Now that I look back. peers. One of my favorite sculptors. Not that thinking it’s a bad thing. the product was already finished. We were all created unique and special. I want you to pull out a piece of paper and jot down some notes.

health. Embrace it with both arms.  .. Beliefs. • Make a List of Everything You Want to Become. I want you to write down everything.. Most men end interactions without really conveying their identity. business. think back. It always feels nice to remind yourself who you are.• What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? Come on. and traveling. No one can see what you write. • Make a List of 15 Goals For Next Year. Read it as often as you want for 30 days straight. dating. indeed. Sky is the limit folks. But please try to restrain yourself. It can be a big or small goal. relationship. • What are the Three Things You Like About Yourself. What makes you smile? What are the things you look forward to in the day? What’s your reward after a long day’s work? • Write Down Some of Your Main Theories. Some exercises will take time to finish. and the things they believe in. and write it down. I want you to post it somewhere you can see it everyday. and Philosophies in Life. It’s always good to be mysterious but you should also find a way to convey your identity all through out the interaction. • List 25 Things That Make You Happy. Be proud of who you are. What are the things that you value in life? What are the important things? What do you stand by? What do you fight for? • What are Your Three Biggest Accomplishments? By listing them. I only want you to write down three. So how is this useful in social interactions? Simple. No one will judge what you write. Don’t be afraid to let everyone see. You could probably never stop listing reasons here. Write it all down. you’ll discover what you’re passionate about. the things their passionate about. It will reaffirm in your mind that you. This leaves women with a blank picture on their head of who you are as a person. It can be related to fitness. Don’t force yourself to finish all these exercises in a day. are talented. When you’re finished writing.

Bring her into your world. Give her a taste of what it’s like to be in your shoes for a minute. You need to provide value. It puts you into a positive light but it’s still not enough to get you into any kind of relationship. Discuss your perspectives on life. Having this knowledge of yourself is so important especially when you’re interacting with people. travel. TRY THIS OUT This weekend. If you’re enthusiastic about it then it becomes interesting to her. art. Discovering who you are and the things that make you tick is something you should work on regardless of your goals in life. music. Remember. If you run out of things to do. and anything your heart fancies.So. Invite your friends along and have a blast. Do this at least every two weeks. talk about the things that are interesting to you. It provides them with a window to your being and this makes you interesting.  . try something new. I want you to do an activity you enjoy doing but haven’t done in a long time. what do you do when you run out of things to say? An effective strategy is to just talk about something you’re really passionate about.

you must first understand them. Anyway. and a salesman pops up out of nowhere and asks one of the girls I’m with “Would you like to go out on a date with me?”. Let me start out by giving you a glimpse of what it’s like to be an attractive woman. So why should she give you the time of day? What is in it for her? I hate to phrase it this way but at the end of the day. personality. In this society. I was walking in the mall with two girls. and all the others I’m about to discuss. We smiled. lifestyle. If these girls got hit on twice when they were with me.faCTor 3: lonG TerM and shorT TerM value So. then I wonder what happens when I’m not even present. How Women Decide If You’re A Contestant Most women have several choices of men from which to pick. it was hard to understand him with his accent. women usually pick the guys that can provide the most value to their life. I hear that you want to the secrets to dating women of particular quality and beauty during the daytime… In order to learn how to communicate with women. appearance. Just last week. communication. After all he had balls of steel for doing that. It’s no secret that women get hit on all the time. I think that’s what he said. Value is broken down in to the categories: short and long term value  . Then I suddenly realized something. we weren’t mean to the poor guy or anything. Value is determined by a lot of things such as social status. it boils down to one question Are you an asset or a liability? It sounds so ridiculous but it’s true. and took off. waved.

So the key is to be unique in that given environment. • Laugh. The fact that you’re educated. There’s one problem though. Intelligence is another tool you can use to captivate a woman’s mind. Do you have what it takes to get her to want to slam her book down and just talk to you? It’s not impossible. It happens most of the time. just thinking about that moment…. Laughter is a good feeling. Laugh. Laugh with them… If you have the skill to make women laugh.Short Term Value & Ways You Can Build It Up! Short term value is determined by the experience you give women the first time you meet them. Some ways of doing this are the way you groom and present yourself. stop. Once you find a way to provide these emotions. etc. in my experience. You want to be able to laugh together. All you need are a few interesting topics in which you’re quite familiar. Become unique. If she perceives you as being more valuable than what she’s currently doing. then you’re already ahead of the game. comfort. Now let’s go into some examples of how you can cultivate short term value. You’ll notice that women want to be around you more often. They’ll call you and even pester you to hang out with them. Laughter serves two purposes: Builds attraction within a girl and creates an unspoken bond between the both of you. It’s the moment when we shut the whole world off for a second and connect with ourselves. It’s addictive. People tend to gravitate toward people that make them feel good. How did it make you feel? See my point. Do you remember the last time you shared a laugh with someone? Now. • Let your inner teacher shine. You don’t have to be as smart as Albert Einstein. happiness. then BAM. then she will go out of her way just to talk to you. you’ve got the ability to hold someone’s attention and  . Communication is a tool you can use to your advantage but that’s in another chapter. If you can share your ideas with her passionately. you’ll instantly be magnetic to women. she’s busy reading something. There’s a big chance that somewhere in the world. excitement. That’s the power of short term value. someone’s doing exactly what you’re doing. Almost like a drug. Let’s say you see a pretty woman as you walk into a coffee shop. It doesn’t specifically mean that you have come up with something super original. • Always provide positive emotions. • Develop your own signature presence . in fact you don’t have to be smart at all to pull this off. Your job is to provide positive emotions like fun. This is done by conveying a rich and textured personality. You will get far with humor.

Don’t be afraid to take a stand and follow it up with an action. a few fun games you probably learned as a kid. Women love romance. when she says “Where are we going?” say “We’re going to grab some ice cream. If you can be a substitute for a romantic novel then. For example. Women constantly test for this.interest. Don’t believe me? Did you know that romance novels account for majority of the sales in bookstores? And that’s why women just love a guy that can give them the romantic fantasy. Never say “I don’t know”. decision. trust me”. This can be conveyed with your attitude and the right assertiveness. If you want her number then just ask for it. This is usually learned through your family and the people you’re surrounded by. Joyful. Classy defines someone who has high standard of personal behavior. “You’re so F****** money and you don’t even know it man”. They want a man who knows what he wants. It’s also an advantage if you’ve done some traveling. Lead the interaction. • Romantic. Are your outfits coordinated well? Does your belt match your shoes? Do you understand poetry and the different works of art? Do you know the best restaurants in your city? Do you understand the world of fashion? Do you know a couple of classic movies? If you’re equipped with this. Let’s go”. language. If she says “I’m not sure about this” say “You’re gonna love it. and a plan. Happy. Cultured and Worldly. • Classy. Take her by the hand and make it easy for her. Always have an opinion. These positive emotions bring value to their lives. If you step into that role she will allow you to play the role. then it will be very hard for women not to notice you. I know it’s easier said then done. and enthusiastic. and a handshake. Wouldn’t you? • Decisive. traditions. then you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. and Enthusiastic. Always make it a point to be a decision maker. joyful. as my friend Rish would say. Always lead and reassure her that she’s safe with you. Teach her a couple of things about your culture. Just remember. Show ‘em what you got! • You are the leader. teach everyone something. You can go on with this. 0 . Lead the conversation. a trick. Instead of saying “Do you want to come?” say “Let’s go” instead. If you expect her to lead and even make the first move. Women are drawn to guys that are happy. share your knowledge with the world. the possibilities are endless. Your job as a man is to lead the interaction.

The whole courting process is very similar to sales. or exciting and live to talk about it. but it’s sort of like a gut feeling. or go on a date with you when you’re not there! These are the times when she probably evaluates you as a package and sees if you’re worth it. That’s why you want to give her the best option so she can make an educated decision. A renaissance man is considered a man at the centre of the universe. They smell this quality a mile away. Make your life an open book. From experience. dangerous. There are a lot of ways ambition can be conveyed. continue the relationship. Sounds like a sales pitch right? Right. Boredom is the enemy. And don’t forget to make it an interesting book. You have to walk a little bit to get through the door and make sure that you stay in it. It’s hard to explain over in text. Make it a routine to continuously be learning. Here’s a short description I found on the internet. Do something new every single month.  . Now it’s time to cultivate your long term value. limitless in his capacities for development. Coming up in the next couple of chapters. The only difference is that you’re not selling an actual product. a girl decides if she wants to see you again. Stay tuned! • Dare to Dream.LONG TERM VALUE & WAYS YOU CAN BUILD IT UP So you’ve learned how to demonstrate short term value. YOU ARE SELLING YOURSELF! Here are the features that you can add on to increase your long term value • Become a renaissance man. Remember. Lean more toward the energy that they give off. As hard as it sounds. I can always tell the people who are ambitious from the ones that aren’t. The most obvious one is the way one talks about life. these are the things that go on behind closed doors. Pick up a book every two weeks and read it. I think this is one major factor for women who are looking for a commitment. • Emotional Connection. Women crave men who are ambitious. Do something adventurous. Short term value opens the door to her life. Ambition is a strong desire to achieve something in life. It’s time to rediscover and redefine yourself. Your long term value is responsible for keeping a girl hooked on you.

Do you listen to her when she opens up to you? Do you act as a protector and make sure she’s always taken care of? Do you steer her around corners when you guys are walking around? Do you make her feel comfortable at times when she’s not? • Assertive. “I want a guy who is rich. They also like men that know exactly how to press their buttons and provide satisfaction. It’s not good to be too unpredictable either. It’s good to create a contrast in your personality. • Tenderness and Sensitivity. This is conveyed with the way you speak and carry yourself. This is similar to being confident. It is no secret that women love men that are great in bed. They get all excited when you do this. This can be demonstrated by the way you treat her. Don’t you wonder what women are trying to find out when they ask “So. what do you do for a living?” They’re trying to get a glimpse of how much money you earn. Firm and Strong. Women like men that can give them a wonderful experience. All I’m trying to say is that women screen the men to see if they are relationship material. I’m not saying that all women are gold diggers. • Self-assuredness. and move on to the next topic? • Keep ‘em Guessing. say “thank you”.• Financially self-sufficient. Unpredictability is the spice of life. Women are sexual beings just like we are. At times be romantic and shower her with attention and the next day treat her like one of your buddies.  . now how do you respond to it? Do you get all offended and convincing her that you’re a cool guy deep down inside? Or do you just accept it with a smile. I hate to admit it but money is a deciding factor in the dating game. It’s not a prerequisite for her to date you but it plays a huge role if you want to have a smooth long term relationship. You need to be able to support yourself and show potential for becoming financially stable one day. Being predictable takes the excitement out of a relationship or interaction. How do you move through the world? Are you afraid to take up space in the world? Or are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you let bad criticisms get to you? Or do you accept them confidently? A simple test would be a woman giving you a hard time about something you either wear or do. They enjoy sex as much as we do. It’s fun. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard that phrase from women. Do you assert your wishes on others? Do you make sure that you’ve got everything under control? Do you bargain your way into getting something you really want? Do you take a stand a support it fully? • Sex God. tall. Sex releases endorphins and it relaxes the body. and handsome”.

you can have the best line or script in the world but if you can’t present it well. it’s useless. if you’ve been doing everything right.These are some of the essential components to building long term value. big goal concepts. By now.  . That’s the reason why communicating effectively is a topic I spend several hours teaching at the workshops. I want you to take a good look at yourself and your life. When you’re done. then take a week to focus on this specific quality. Remember. If you’re below 3 in one of the qualities I outlined here. you should have a killer understanding of inner foundation. and a couple of helpful tips. Now go through each quality I mentioned in this chapter and rate yourself from 1-5 (1 being the lowest and 5 the highest). You at least need to be between 3-5 in all ranges in order to be successful with women. TRY THIS OUT Read through this chapter again.

Deep down. He’s smoking hot. she deploys her killer line: “Oh. a body to die for. probably not. he walks toward her and starts talking. Let me give you an example.faCTor 4: effeCTIve CoMMunICaTIon Your communication skills will either make or break you in your quest for success in all areas of your life. describing a movie you watched to your friends. Hours pass by. that was fast. She heads over to the table to sit down. You must develop strong and effective communication skills in order to get what you want in life. He seems to carry himself well and has a good sense of style. Minutes pass by. or instructing a cab driver where you want to go. Two minutes later. Mr. She’s excited but she’s not going to give it all away because of that. he wants her. She stands up and leaves the coffee shop with him. but it’s a key ingredient my friend. In that moment. Average Guy is innocently looking for clothes to buy. That’s the secret to success beyond your wildest dream. And then. she got him all excited in less than a second… Contestant # 2. She sees this guy. Mr. Hot Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. She sees this average looking guy. Whether you’re working on presenting an idea to other people.Mr. Plain or Hot Jane Scenario 1: Ms. I almost forgot. He looks over and notices big boobs.Ms. He starts getting excited or nervous and he knows why. Plain Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. nice hair. She’s enjoying the moment. you need to be able to communicate effectively. and a Mona Lisa smile. I didn’t even notice the time. I’m not going to sugar coat it. Hot Stuff. Wow. Contestant # 1. tata!” Scenario 2: Ms. That’s all it is. Average Guy General Scenario: Mr. Ms. I have to rush back home because I left the light on my boyfriend’s room. So what was the component that determined success and failure in each interaction?  . It was nice meeting you though. He started out as a stranger and left like her lover. he notices something moving from his side. Plain Jane starts to slowly face away from Mr. Next thing you know. Average Guy’s hormones go wild. Hot Stuff makes his way to talk to her. Actually. After three minutes of boring conversation and ineffective communication. there’s more to it than that.

Then hand out your cash or card. to go please. No one else will find out all these positive things about you.Effective communication. it’s useless. your beliefs. and your values in life. For example: “Hmmmmmm. • Women to feel exactly any emotion that you want them to feel allowing you to control and predict the outcome of your interactions. when you want it. Most guys I’ve met always ask me for the techniques I use to start conversations with women. Does the barista ask you any questions afterward? Good. I’m in the mood for a caramel macchiato. Just think about it. with no whip cream. Remember what she says. Now the next time you go out. You can have 99 good qualities about you but unless you know how to effectively communicate them. and how you want it • Your message across clearly for anyone to understand • Recognized for your ability to comm-YOU-nicate who you are. it’s a really cool exercise.. The Communication Equation Individual + Effective Method of Presentation + Powerful Content of Presentation =Effective Communication TRY THIS OUT Go out to a coffee shop one of these days and order your favorite drink. When you know how to communicate well you can get . decaf.. make sure your order is so clear that you won’t be barraged with questions after your order. you can live the most interesting life in the world. Just try it out for fun.. • What you want. One of the most common question I hear is “What do you say to her to start the conversation?”  .. Presence is Everything I’ll share something with you. You are what you communicate. • More dates and maintain relationships easily.

I guess the saying “The eyes are the windows to the soul” does have meaning. I noticed that some techniques worked better than the others (more about techniques in the last chapter) but there was always one thing common that made my approach work. • Facial expression. how relaxed you are. Have you ever heard the saying “People buy you first before anything else”. There have been several studies shown that women prefer men that smile while initiating a conversation. fear. How’s your vocal projection and delivery. Facial expressions are used to convey emotions like anger. Your facial expressions can communicate messages of their own. I mean a lot. They categorize you based on how you stand up. Having said that. It worked because of the way I presented it. How stylish are you? What kind of fashion statement are you making? What can people tell about you by the way you dress up? Does your style leave a good or bad impression on others? Do you command attention? • It’s not what you say but how you say it. disgust. Holding eye contact builds trust and comfort. It makes a big difference. Are you comfortable with the way you stand. And believe me. joy. and surprise. here are six helpful tips to increase the power of your presence: • Learn how to smile. I found that saying to be true. Smiling makes women feel comfortable. and how you carry yourself. Practice using a variety of facial expressions when you tell people stories. Did you know that there is a way to use eye contact to increase the effectiveness of your communication? It’s very important to hold eye contact at certain points in the interaction. rather than being all serious and mysterious. when I say a lot. This helps to get your message across more effectively. It’s all about how you present yourself. sadness. Along the way. Women are masters when it comes to reading body language. sit. It eases women up at times when they’re nervous. Do you slow down your pace when you’re emphasizing a point? Do you use pauses to amp up the tension and intrigue? Do you speak loud and clear for people to hear? Do you speak from your diaphragm or nasal? Do you eat your words? Are you relaxed when you speak? • Body Language.I’ve experimented with a lot of conversation starters in public places. or walk? Are you relaxed and calm during most times? Do you lean back when you talk to her? Do you move unnecessarily during the conversation? Your non-verbal communication is the window to who you are. A genuine smile can take you a long way. • Fashion. It really does.  . • Communicate with your eyes.

I feel comfortable when my hands are out of my pockets. and the way you move through this world on a daily basis. then it won’t feel like it’s a conversation. then she will feel very uncomfortable. chances are she’ll be nervous too. Thou shall relax and lean back. The  Commandments of Effective Body Language 1. man tends to change his behaviors and act way cooler then he really is. Man starts to make unnecessary movement because of the extra energy he feels. For some reason. talk and carry yourself? I think that body language is the biggest giveaway when it comes to revealing who you are and how you feel. placing your feet up on chairs. Next time you’re in an interaction. and leaning against the wall. Never have your hand inside your front pockets when you initiate a conversation with anyone unless it’s below freezing and you don’t have any gloves. 3. When woman gets close. 4. If you’re too far from her.Body Language Tips for Day Game “Your body language. 2. even if you’re nervous. Experiment with it. I’ve discovered that when you assume a relaxed position. Thou shall not shake or move a lot in the presence of an attractive woman. will provide women with enough information to categorize you based on the impression you just gave them” Have you ever thought about the things you convey about yourself based on your body language? Did you know that women can tell if you’re confident and cool or nervous and inexperienced just by the observing the way you walk.  . don’t move your hands around too much when you talk. At low points step away a little bit. Man starts to smile nervously. At the same time. just lean back and try to be as relaxed and comfortable as you can. I’ve had success with starting off at about 3-5 feet away. Thou shall not stand or sit too close or too far from her. the way you walk. and slowly get closer at specific points of the interaction. That includes doing things like slouching. If you stay to close to her. Thou shall not have thy hands inside the front pockets. right from the bat. It usually goes like this: Man sees attractive woman. So here’s to a good first impression. If you’re nervous all throughout the interaction. Man gets very jittery. It’s really funny to watch. you slowly start to feel more relaxed. At high and fun points take a step closer or move your chair closer. Men tend to easily get intimidated with women that are way above their league. Try mixing it up.

If you’re guilty of this. They took their time almost like they owned time. They walked. Your voice tone probably changed. Thou shall mirror her body language. Thou shall not stand up like a soldier. 5. For example. and moved slow. Thou shall keep thy composure at all times. I used to lay down flat on the floor and take deep breaths. 8. And the more I started acting that way. become jittery. Have you ever been in a situation gone bad? You probably didn’t notice at that time but everything about you changed. Thou shall walk and move slow. They stand up so erect that it’s almost too funny to watch. it helped me relax more. Have you ever been guilty of standing up too straight while you’re talking to a woman? Similar to how you would stand and act if you’re talking to an authority figure? Most guys take interactions with women too seriously. Everything changed. The way you stood up probably changed.  . I’ve learned that if you keep your composure and act as if nothing happened then you end up maintaining control of the situation. 7. when I’m calling up a girl for the first time. talked. The exact same thing I did every time I experienced a mild confrontation.Do whatever makes you feel better. relax. I’d stutter. Mirroring her body language is a technique used to increase rapport and comfort levels. Women are human beings too. I modeled this behavior after guys that were naturals when it came to dealing with women. For some reason. Not good. They’re shoulders become tense and they act all stiff to the point that they make themselves nervous. They just exert more effort and time into looking good. the more positive responses I got from women. It shows people that you were emotionally affected by it. They’re not some sort of super human goddesses from outer space you know? They do the same things you do. Everything they did was almost too smooth. 6. and eventually make a shameful exit. I used to be that way every time I thought I got rejected by women.

.. Slow and confident movements. I’ve been guilty of this as well. People that just ask favors all the time. It’s sad and I see it happen every day... Be comfortable. Take a deep breath. I talk about my life experiences and my view on things because I just want to share my life with other people. Relax.... I offer positive and fun emotions.. Be comfortable. I move through the world with something to offer to everyone.. Inhale... that’s a different story... That’s the reason why women instantly open up to me when I initiate a conversation with them. Those one-way friendships where people just call you when they need something from you. I’m the sweetest and coolest person you’ll ever meet.. Be comfortable. Your job is to not be one of those guys. I give without really expecting anything in return. But once you betray my trust. Relax.. Relax.. I’ll take care of you and make you feel like you’re part of my family. And make sure not to fall asleep. Here’s my view of the world: “I am a man... Feet spread apart.... Give Before You Take A lot of people are used to taking things from the world and from people. Hands out of the pockets.... I bring fun and excitement to everyone I meet. People that just keep asking question after question without really contributing toward the conversation. I just like to give.... It’s also the reason why I can give a woman a compliment without seeming like I just want to get in her pants.... It makes me happy. At the same time I know my boundaries and I won’t be taken advantage of. Don’t be too stiff.. Don’t tense your shoulders up. It happens so often that it’s become normal.  . I am a man and I have something to offer the world…” That’s how I view the world.. Exhale.. My presences makes people feel better..TRY THIS OUT Lean back.

So if effective communication opens doors for you. It’s rare.That’s the reason why I am who I am right now. You should learn to cultivate it. TRY THIS OUT Effective communication will open doors for you in this life. then do you know what makes you stick in her mind? Endlessly? 0 . I am focused more on giving to people rather than taking anything from them. And you’ll soon realize that it opens women up to your ideas and messages as well. People sense this quality.

women lose respect for this type of guy. Let me explain. If it does. He is rare in this society. At the same time. It’s hard to find guys that are just right in the middle. Women are attracted to the two profiles but there’s a flaw that exists in both. she’ll be able to make him change. In order to be successful with women. I never really had a strong male influence in my life. Guys like these usually worship the women they are with. He’s more sensitive than most guys and actually shows his sensitive side. Growing up. gang members. Almost to the point of “I’ll do anything for you. It rarely happens though. Women wish that these guys would just stop for a second and actually take time to show her how much he appreciates her. I’m about to tell you why. This always keeps her on her toes. So why are women attracted to guys that act like jerks? Women are attracted because they don’t acknowledge her as some sort of higher being than them. I’d like to call this the heart of day game. even if you treat me bad”. They usually fall under the extremes. The ratio of girls to guys in my family is about 14:1. and I had to work on this aspect later on. How to effectively build an emotional connection. Somewhere along the road. That’s 14 girls for every 1 guy. He’s actually much rarer than a really hot girl that has it all together. I grew up with four little sisters. A man who is masculine and knows how to communicate with women. Women like men that can act like men. women crave the feminine side in men. And that’s because they can’t live up to their role of being a man. bikers. Now let’s talk about the guy with a feminine profile.faCTor 5: eMoTIonal ConneCTIon Now we’re getting to my favorite part of the book. Men are usually too masculine or too feminine. Certain profiles are assholes. That’s off the wall. He rarely has control of the things that are going on in his life. in the long run. it’s done in little quantities but never enough for her. I also happen to be the only guy. Let me tell you a little bit more about me. She hopes that one day. This guy is usually submissive in a relationship.  . frat boys. you need to cultivate both your masculine and feminine side.

Do it. If you want proof that the above statement is true then I double dare you to show it to ANY of your female friends. I learned what they really wanted in a guy. But guys like that are just hard to find. women dream of guys that have cultivated both masculine and feminine sides to them. Her logical side makes all the decisions but there’s a much stronger side that can completely override it… it’s her emotional side.Women look for men that are strong and at the same time gentle. I learned how to communicate with them effectively. the things they want. I was very fortunate to be surrounded by women early on in my life. Someone who has firm beliefs and opinions and at the same time is open minded. Someone who takes the bull by the horns and at the same time cares if she’s comfortable. they also have a physical side. I became familiar with the way a woman’s mind worked. it will be another fun experience for you. Looking back. I learned how to build a long lasting emotional connection. Why they do the things they do and why they act the way they act. Someone who can make her experience a variety of emotions and at the same time give her a chance to do the same. I unconsciously learned how to be comfortable around women and vice versa. And most of all. not just what they said they wanted. back to my story. Come on. and how their minds works. It taught me things that I never knew I knew.  . Women have two sides to them… A logical side and an emotional side Oh I forgot. If nothing else. but that’s not until later. I understood what made them feel comfortable. Understanding Women In order to become successful with women. Ideally. you first have to understand how they operate. Someone who sees them for who they truly are and at the same time treats them as an equal. Anyway. Someone who treats her like a woman and the same time puts her at her place when there’s a need for it.

. There are tons of emotions that take place prior to it. Drama is also something that certain women might be addicted to. That’s the same reason I believe that “If you can captivate the mind. dreams. date. And it all began when she was a little girl. That’s probably the same reason why make up sex is better than regular sex. I’m going to take you through a journey that’s about to open your eyes to the world of women. and fantasies. Every Woman Has a Fantasy Let’s rewind. the heart will follow. she was probably exposed to all these romantic Hollywood Disney movies. Growing up. the body will too…” Looking back at my experiences. this is the natural progression of all my successful interactions. It’s a place full of hopes. it’s the other way around.. That’s why most women read romance novels and watch soap operas. There’s one thing I want you to know before I give you all the techniques and tactics to meet. A place that’s been buried deep down inside that’s probably never been forgotten. I’m going to give you a sneak peek at a place within women that they don’t want you to know. She’s been exposed to movies about love and destiny. Women are emotional creatures. That’s because there’s emotion involved in it. A guy that would sweep her off her feet and appreciate her for who she truly is. They enjoy experiencing emotions and they communicate with it.Women want you to believe that her logical side is in control but in reality. and not long after that. And now I’ll reveal to you the Equation for Getting Any Woman You Desire! Logical Connection + Emotional Connection + Sexual Connection + Proper place and time = The Perfect Seduction. This just encouraged her to believe that one day. A guy that will come along and push all her buttons making her cherish  . and keep women… And that’s the fact that. the perfect guy would come along. They are filled with emotions. shhh it’s a secret.

Not everything turns out to be the way you expect it to be... And Spiritual Level + Appreciation + Comfort with Presence + Commonality and familiarity + Shared Emotions = Long Lasting Emotional Connection  . and famous. They’ve probably had a rough past. hot. Maybe it’s not exactly what she wanted. but it kept her busy during that period of time. That causes them to protect themselves by acting “bitchy”. Maybe a relationship gone wrong or just a really traumatizing experience. Anyways. It’s because they’ve been hurt before. These women are what we call the “Hopeless Romantics”. The Hidden Formula For Creating An Emotional Connection Man Opens up + Woman Opens Up + They Connect on Surface. Some women forget about this side of themselves usually because they get really hurt from a certain experience. and go for more superficial things.the experience even more. Deep. Core. Most of them just end up being disappointed. They do it because it works. A guy that will take her on a memorable experience. A guy that knows what to do and how to do it. Then she grows up and begins to realize that not everything’s perfect. They go after the rich. just like what happens when kids find out that Santa Claus isn’t real. Everyone starts out as a hopeless romantic or they develop it later on in life. This causes them to toss away that dream. Some women actually ended up holding on to that dream. These women constantly wait for their prince charming every single day. This is at the deep core of every woman. This is when they just start to settle for anything else out there. This explains why women may act bitchy at times. Chances are they probably get into relationships hoping that someone can fit that role. or available guys that probably can’t give them what they need. But at that moment. She learns and begins to grow. it satisfies her.

Sharing a deep experience will encourage her to do the same. You must tell her in a way that she can understand. it shows her that you’re just a human being. You’re vulnerable as well. 4. early on in the interaction. It’s important to emphasize and describe exactly how you feel. When she pauses. You can see her face either light up or the other way around. Lead with your personality. you just build an unspoken bond between the two of you. Most men focus on logical stuff. Once you do a good job at describing the emotion. It’s what I call the “Go First Principle”. The emotion in this scenario will.Crash Course: 8 Killer Strategies in Order to Build an Emotional Connection 1. and the things you value in life. That’s why it’s important to become comfortable with sharing your life experiences with other people. It makes you look smarter. This makes her feel super special. beliefs. Everything she says is gold! Later on. You’re setting the standard here. Of course. Especially if you know exactly how to tell her how you feel. will set up the stage on how it’s going to be. That’s right. and vice versa. and then give your answer. you can almost see it. It adds depth to your personality. it will give you a better picture of how you can effectively seduce her. this will help a lot in building a connection. You have to know how to relate with her. pause for a bit. Don’t interrupt her when she begins to open up. Shut up.  . just keep quiet and listen. 3. 6. Relate with her. At the same time. Most guys just relate with her on a superficial level. It’s always better to relate on the deeper topics. Always be leading. once again. You automatically become special once she’s shared this with you. 2. Share a deep experience. Everything you do. Tell her something that nobody knows about you. 5. As an exercise. By telling her a secret. It’s an important skill to be able to describe an emotion so effectively that she begins to feel it. It solidifies whatever connection that’s present. After all. Practice being social. it takes two to tango. you also want to encourage her to share a secret with you. Tell her how you feel. she actually gives you the winning cards that you can use on her. How do you expect her to open up to you if you don’t do the same? One way to help her open up to you is to do it first. Just learn how to keep on talking and sharing your experiences. build an unspoken bond. don’t talk. Open up to everyone you meet. Whether you’re telling a story or just explaining your current mood. Open up to her. Same thing when women ask you questions. don’t just open up to her. She’ll feel like she knows you better. Wait for another 3-5 seconds before you interject. Once in awhile I like to add “I can’t believe I’m telling you this… I don’t even tell this to the people I’m close with…” This little piece gets the message across. So the next time a woman starts to open up to you.

Instead of telling her “That’s so cool. then you’re ahead of most guys out there. If not. What I’ve found to be very effective is to hold the “Me too” for 10 minutes or so and later in the conversation. Kill the quick me too. I’ve noticed that most men are eager to say “Yeah.  . even let the subject drift off. If you’re good at connecting with women. Now. 8.. I’ll start to talk about it indirectly. I’ll just casually slip in a story about how I won a dancing contest or something like that.. I like Pearl Jam too” I’d rather play my Pearl Jam CD when she rides in my car. ask yourself if you were implementing the concepts covered in this section. then later on. me too” whenever the opportunity arises. For example. in your head. Are you aware of the value of building an emotional connection now? Do you know that there are two things that you need to add to the equation in order to build the ultimate bond? That brings me to my next topic. make a conscious effort to actually implement them the next time you’re out. let’s say she talks about how much she just loves to dance. TRY THIS OUT Play back the last conversation you had. Pacing and Complimenting. or let her discover it on top of my CD player. More about this on the last section.7. It comes across as if you’re trying too hard to be similar with her. I’ll just let her talk. Another example: Let’s say she tells me that her favorite band is Pearl Jam. You’ll notice a big difference in your interactions. if I’m also into dancing.

She’s probably by herself. women just need to be extra careful nowadays. She’s a woman and you’re a man. In the bars and clubs you have to deal with the music. looking for clothes. here are the facts. So what factors do you have to address when you’re planning to meet women in public places? COMFORT AND TRUST In order for them to call you back. INSTANT DATE That’s right. When you’re in a bar or club. That’s why it’s so important to take her on an. and some serious entertainment skills. loading up on gas. she must at least trust you a little bit. And do you remember what your parents told you about strangers? Don’t talk to strangers. During the day time. Let me share with you a quick story on how I discovered this key element. it’s a whole other story. she must be comfortable with you. why should I talk to him”. So you’ll have to equip yourself with a unique style..  . the drinks. show up on a date. it’s a social context. So when you walk up to women in this setting the first thing they think about is “Is this guy cool enough for me to talk to? There are so many guys. With the different crimes out there.faCTor 6: CoMforT & TrusT There are a lot of differences between learning how to meet women in bars and club as opposed to public places. Well. Whenever someone talks to her she instantly considers them a stranger. You can be anyone dangerous and she wouldn’t even find out. strangers can be bad. or shopping for groceries.. or even answer your call. Who says you need to wait a couple of days before you take her out? Taking her on an instant date will dramatically increase the chances of her picking up your calls and going out with you later on. her peer group and the competition. it’s a date right on the spot. In order for her to go anywhere with you. a loud booming voice.

I remember my goal for that day. “Hey. I slowly stopped her from walking and we ended up chatting for a bit. I still couldn’t believe it though. Little did I know. Three minutes passed by. Fifteen minutes passed by and she said. and a cute semi angelic/naughty face. I ended up kissing her. In my mind. She was about three inches taller than me. And then all of a sudden. I’m really thirsty. but now that I look back. after a bit of conversation she said. considering it was my first time trying to meet girl at malls. I’ll probably tell you what happened. we ended up talking about her place. had a slim figure. I hit the five minute mark. I would have been very happy if I got to hold a conversation for three minutes. She was in a business outfit and had some shopping bags with her. come with me”. I left my cigarettes in the car. only if you promise to keep it to yourself. this was the day that changed my life. I went out with my buddies to go learn how to meet women in malls. Looking back at that interaction.A few years ago. I was doing pretty well. Let’s go to Starbucks and get something to drink. I complied. And the rest I would say. she was the one who took the bull by the horns. To cut the long story short. my legs are tired. It was on. she lived like five minutes away from the mall by the ocean. I was completely clueless at that time. she starts fixing her bra in front of me as I was talking. Anyways. “Hey. I keep kicking myself in the foot. let’s sit over there”. Apparently. Then she pulls off her killer line “Hey. She kept on leading me and I followed. I noticed this tall brunette girl. My heart skipped a beat for a second. shortly after getting inside her car. is history… If we ever meet one of these days. I looked her up and down. It was to start a conversation and stay in for three minutes.  . In that moment.” Another 20 minutes passed by and she said “Let’s go for a walk. to get our blood to circulate throughout our bodies…” Then while we were walking. Are you ready for this? While I was chatting with my buddies.

You’re still a complete stranger.  . So it’s your opportunity to prove to her that you can be trusted and that she’s safe with you. you significantly increases the chances of her calling you back and going out with you. • Shift from “You vs. With a little bit of tweaking I’ve used something similar and have experienced unbelievable results with it. I stole my whole script from her. she puts herself in a position where something bad can happen to her.Of course. having a shared bond between the two of you. It’s really powerful. Me” to “Us vs. you’re a STRANGER in her eyes. If you play your cards right. • Decreases the chances of flaking later on. you should give me your number”. You’ll play on a different level. When you go on an instant date you become a potential partner. Them”. It’s like going out on your first date right there and then. you can tag along. At least try to. That bond is unique for every girl. You’re not like that. you officially are operating on a different level. They say things like “We should hang out sometime” and “Yeah. that’s how her mind processes it. is to create an “Our World” vibe. Forget the concept of getting her number for now. regardless of any technique you use. • Gives you more time to get to know her better. When you’re at a high point in the interaction (Example: she’s laughing or there’s a good vibe) just say: “I’m really thirsty. It gives you more time. When you get her on an instant date. It creates a shift in the atmosphere. take her on an instant date. It keeps you moving forward. At least. It helps you get through conversational stalls. Somehow it creates a new environment for the both of you therefore making it easier to talk about other things. TRY THIS OUT The next time you’re in a conversation for more than 10 minutes. Most guys just go for her number. That means. Your primary goal when you start talking to a woman. let’s go”. Helps you reach your goals faster. • Chance for you to show that she’s safe with you. • It separates you from all the other guys. • You keep the interaction moving forward. When she takes the chance and goes to coffee with you. More time means getting to know her better and vice versa. • Helps you get through conversational barriers. Let me give you the benefits of going on an instant date • You get to hit two birds with one stone. When you first meet her. I’m going to grab a drink real quick and since you’re fun.

0 . so let’s say you’ve done a great job at interacting with her.Ok. Probably you’ve passed the test with flying colors and you even have a lot of inside jokes and secrets. What’s the next move? You’re supposed to be in tune with the environment because it will help you figure out the best logistical approach you can use to escalate the interaction further.

Bring protection. With that in mind. Enough said. Have a plan before you go out. It was the painful truth. Women will judge you based on how clean your place is and how creative you are with it. The BEST experience in my life involved a girl. Don’t ever sabotage your success by not being prepared. a beach. you want to exchange contact information with her. A nice little fold up sleeping bag that fits two people in it will do.  . That’s an advanced topic though. Know exactly what to do before you even go out. a guitar. Always have a pen and paper with you. a blanket. Have some pillows and blankets at the back of your car. Make sure you have a clean place. Know your location well. Have a pen and paper with you. And this is true especially for the beginners. Not just give her number or take her number because it limits what you can do. How will you take her on an instant date? What will you say to get her number? How do you get her back to your car? How do you get her back to your place? 2.faCTor 7: loGIsTICs Do you know where you’re going? A lot of guys don’t go out prepared. What if I told you that… She would have gone home with you only if you were prepared?! Won’t that piss you off? Sure did piss me off. You’ll never know where you’d end up going. Remember. here are 0 Golden Tips To Help You Master Your Logistics 1. You can also string along and take her on multiple instant dates. when I discovered that. and me. 5. 4. just in case. 3. Is your place classy or trashy? Does your place convey what you’re passion about? What does it say about you? Do you have clean sheets or dirty ones? Do you have dirty clothes all over the floor? Does your place smell good? 6. Your place will say a lot about you. Pick five places in your mall that you will take her on an instant date.

Be prepared for contingencies. Don’t give up at the first sign of resistance. stop for a second. I need to do my shopping” say “That’s cool. it all boils down to being prepared. Stay in there. Almost as if she’s expected to follow you. then give it a shot! 9. After we get some ice cream for five minutes. When she says “Uhmmm. Next time you feel like walking a way. The point is. you can go on with your shopping… and besides. Assume first. If you’re dropping her off at her house. Always be leading. I’m in a hurry. don’t wait for her to ask.7. Always assume that she’s up for it. with the guys that aren’t.  . always be prepared for contingencies. Get to know her and spend a little more time with her then try again. Don’t ask just lead. Again. 8. This will all make sense to you sooner or later in your journey. Don’t be fazed by it and don’t walk away. This last piece of the puzzle is probably the most significant topic in this whole book. stay an extra minute or two. It’s your job to lead the interaction. you might say something to turn me off and I’d be running for my life” or something to that effect. When you say “Let’s go” start to walk in the direction you want to go. Talk a little more. It’s better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. Instead of saying “Can we…” say “Let’s go…” This little trick might make all the difference in your interactions. It’s what separates the guys that are successful with women. Tell her where you want to go. Women will sometimes refuse to do what you want them to do. it might only take three minutes… who knows. 10.

Social Investment. is to be a part of her life. I don’t advocate playing with women’s feelings. future and share your view in life as well. it becomes a lot easier. so use this stuff carefully. values. Emotional Investment. In my experience.faCTor 8: InvesTMenT Do you know how to make someone want something? How do you make someone value something? Simple. Sex is the biggest investment. The best way to persuade a woman to do something is to make her want to do it.) the more she gets invested in you. This goes back to building a solid emotional connection. the higher the chance of you getting what you want out of it. It makes things so much easier for the both of you. You’ll start to realize that you can actually just relax and appreciate her company.  . Talk about her passions. Physical Investment. Once you’re passed that level. make them work for it. The more they invest in you. She gets more and more invested in you every time she opens up. Time Investment. dreams. Another way to get her invested in you is to be physical with her. Have you met her friends? Do they like and approve of you? Has she met your friends? Do you go out to social activities often? Do you have any mutual friends? They key to getting her to invest in you more. etc. hanging out. hopes. sex opens up all the lines of communication. Here’s a list of the different types of investment a woman makes and how to get the most out of each and every one. Do you remember the last time you worked hard for something? How did it feel in the end? How satisfied were you when you accomplished it? This is the same emotion that women feel if they’ve worked hard for you. and get her to be part of yours too. It’s smooth sailing from there. This stuff is very powerful. How much time does she spend with you? Do you see each other often? Do you spend some time talking with her on the phone? Does she spend a lot of time winning you over because you have standards? The more time a woman spends with you (Talking on the phone. Use it wisely.

My whole view changed and I think that it had to do with the way I viewed things. After the weekend. Since then I’ve been more relaxed and comfortable meeting women. And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndseT for MeeTInG WoMen I just got off the phone with a student I had last weekend. Before the workshop. She’ll ignore me. Mental barriers are very strong and. and think I’m weird. in my experience. I’ll be sharing with you the proper mindset that you should have before you go out there. Here’s what he told me: “Right now. I used to think that women wouldn’t want to talk to me.” Here’s the truth… Practicing techniques. Come on. She’s not even going to give me the time of day. I’m not even qualified to talk to her. I felt like I wasn’t worthy to talk to them. something clicked inside of me. lines. I don’t get as nervous as I used to be. You’re your own worst enemy. it’s what makes or breaks you. I don’t want to talk to her. Everyone else will see that I am talking to her and they will think that I’m a loser.Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS. regardless of where I am. she’s way out of my league. and all the tactics to meet women is easy. I have nothing special about me. You heard me right. Yes you would get results instantly! But that’s not the real challenge. And besides I’d have to try hard to entertain her  . And most of the time. Yes. I enjoy talking to people. rAcking up dAteS. The hardest part is going against everything that is preventing you from achieving success. laugh at me. Here are the things that you should not think about: “Wow she’s so hot. that’s your own self.

I make them happy. you just have a couple of minutes to convince them to even hear you out. Any woman will be fortunate to get to know me. If she rejects me. Now you’ve got to ask yourself. They’re completely clueless. imagine that you possess a winning combination to a lottery ticket. I’m everything and more that a woman can ever ask for. It’s impossible…” I’ve heard that objection more times than I can count. I don’t seek approval from anyone. Your job is to give the ticket away to anyone… But here’s the catch. shopping for clothes. You can see them crossing the street. I live life to the fullest without apologizing for anything I do. I am doing them a favor. where do I want to meet women?  . you can take me or leave me. I live my life for me…” Where To MeeT WoMen There are dozens of places during the day time to meet women. It’s a like a foreign concept for them. You will never run out of women to approach. I walk through this world as if I own it. I am a man of purpose. either way I’ll still be happy. The best part about it is that women are everywhere. then she doesn’t know what she’s missing. People’s reactions toward me don’t define me. that person doesn’t know what a lottery ticket is. I am who I am.and be really slick and smooth. So how does this apply to approaching women? Here’s how you should think… “I am a man of purpose. Here’s more. I just can’t be myself and get her to like me. My own values and passions define me. or playing in the sand. The first step to being successful with women is to look at things in a positive way. Looking at things in a positive perspective will get you far. The one ticket that will probably get you set for life. I seriously doubt it. Every time I talk to women. I take pride in being me. Here’s how you should think and feel about meeting women… Ok. Women are fortunate that I give them the chance to get to know me.

If you’re approaching a woman on the street then you can get away with speaking a little bit louder. When you’re approaching a woman in a library. then join a yoga class. imitate them or slightly be more animated/energized then they are. Did you know that the ratio of women to men in yoga classes is like 15:1? Well. you need to figure out what type of women you want to meet. beaches. etc.) and observe how people communicate. just be in tune with the social energy level of the location. be In Tune WITh The enerGy level In order to be successful in approaching in various public places. If you want spiritual girls. Violating energy levels puts social pressure on the woman you’re talking too.In order to figure that out. let’s talk a bit about specialization… If you want girls that are into health and fitness then go to the nearest gym. and pretty much everywhere. And she might not be used to handling it. If you want smart girls then hit up the library. General places to meet women are malls. then that’s a different story. TRY THIS OUT Go to five places this week (coffee shops. So to avoid unnecessary complications.  . parks. coffee shops. bookstores. Now. supermarket. So the key is to be aware of the social energy in the place that you’re in. you must be aware and in tune with its energy level. take advantage of that. and match it. streets. college campuses. How loud do they speak? Do they command respect in an interaction or not? When you discover this.

This is a very important step in my overall structure and let me tell you why. But here’s the question. There are no possible excuses in my mind. After a little bit of tweaking. If she’s walking the opposite direction. You can tell jokes. If you pull this off correctly. I found the perfect opener for daytime approaches. and I slowly make my way towards her. my heart pumps faster. ask their opinion. I say something like:  . and then deliver my conversational opener. If she’s sitting down I make sure to sit down as well. It’s basic law of physics: An object in motion will stay in motion unless an outside force causes it to stop.Crash Course In sTarTInG ConversaTIon WITh WoMen Let me make something clear… There are dozens of ways to initiate a conversation with women. Confidence begins to radiate through every part of my body. I suddenly feel the ball of energy inside of me. Tension begins to fill up my body. If you don’t command her full attention then she won’t process your verbal communication effectively. and so forth…. she will stop. What’s the fastest and most efficient way of initiating conversation with women? I was looking for something that cut right through the bullshit. If she’s walking to her car. say something situational. They all work… I’ve tried them all. So after I get her attention. make myself comfortable. I would slowly walk in her pathway so she would be forced to come to a complete stop. no matter where I was. Here’s how it works. I want to meet her and I will meet her. I act like she dropped something on the ground. I run after her and tell her to stop. If there’s no chair beside her. Let me give you some examples. I needed something that I could use anytime. I make sure to grab one and place it right next to her. The first thing I do is get her full and undivided attention. Whenever I see a girl I’m attracted to.

Saying things that she can affirm as true. The only reason why other men can’t pull this off is because they’re not coming from a place of power. honest. Now let me break down the opener and explain to you why and how it works. breaKInG doWn The opener Step : Pace her ongoing reality Pacing is an essential skill that you should master. Step : Tell Her the Reason Why You Are Attracted to Her Honesty is the best policy. When you use this approach.  . Women love guys that know what’s going on without a woman having to tell him.“Hey… (pause) I begin to smile as my eyes are locked on her eyes. I use this to overcome any objection that might pop up into her head. I found that being upfront. It conveys that you’re intuitive and socially intelligent by nature. It makes her more comfortable. When I say things like “I know this is totally random…I’m a complete stranger” it actually serves several purposes. It shows her that you’re sensitive to her needs and that you understand her concerns. Every time you say something that she agrees with. she gives you a silent nod. Sets up the proper foundation for the interaction right from the beginning. only build your credibility in her eyes. It’s like an unspoken bond. and sincere is the way women like to be approached (CAVEAT: If you do it right). Not because you want her to feel obliged to be nice to you. I continue with “I’m a complete stranger and I know this is really random but… I was just passing by… and I saw you standing there… I just wanted to tell you that you are… Really… Really… Beautiful. Tell her you like her because you want her to know. we shake hands. you instantly demonstrate that you’re honest and sincere. Gives her a chance to agree with you. By addressing potential objections you demonstrate social awareness. Tell me about yourself” She smiles. and I relax from that point forward I get to know her more for who she is.

she slowly becomes committed to the interaction. I’m (insert your name here)”. It makes it official that you two are in a social interaction. Step : Give Her a Chance to Talk About Herself You want to get her involved in the interaction as soon as possible. everything you say begins to be categorized in “The Potential Partner” context. Gets right to the point. That’s because she’s processing the whole interaction differently. It also… • Gets her committed to the interaction. what’s your story?” “Who are you?” “Where are you from?” Letting her talk about herself gives her the chance to impress you. • Gets her to subconsciously accept you as a potential partner.You tell people what you think about them. When combined with the proper non-verbal communication and delivery. this approach can be very deadly. As soon as she starts answering your question. After she says anything that might impress you. It skips through most of the games and takes you were you want to be… and that’s building an emotional connection. This is a very powerful frame from which to come. Even boring rapport questions will work after the opener. Creates the feeling of attraction. everything you say will be in the “I’m getting to know you before we date” context. This is done by saying stuff like “Tell me about yourself?” “I just wanted to know if there’s more to you than meets the eye. Shaking her hand is very important. • Gives you a chance to introduce yourself. Since you created so much attraction. you can say “I like that. After the opener. This approach is so powerful that it creates attraction within seconds.  .

I also tell her to walk away which is reverse psychology and then I act like it never happened by asking her a question. She wants to get to know you. Talk. She becomes extremely flattered. She’s just being polite and sticks around for a bit to see what you have to say. then just walk away. I have a boyfriend. Go on now. Runaway girl. She Walks Away While You’re Talking To Her Guy: Talk. Talk Girl: Talks and walks away Guy: (smiles) Oh come on now. or doesn’t give you the time of day. She smiles. Guy: Awesome. Indifference by far is the most powerful way to overcome this objection. Third Scenario: She gives you an objection. Second Scenario: She kind of likes it. Here are some examples of how you can handle certain situations. I set up an expectation for her. what do you do for fun? * As you can see. which re-engages her back in the conversation. and of course she wants to be perceived as classy so she will stay for a bit. you’re way too classy to be walking away when someone is talking to you. But if I’m making you uncomfortable in anyway. She’s not really enthusiastic about it. I also get to express my personality and my positive traits. First Scenario: She loves it. depending on how well you execute your opener. So what do you like to do for fun? *I’m not even acknowledging her objection. I tell her she’s way too classy to walk away.dealInG WITh ConTInGenCIes One of three things will happen. I absolutely love the third scenario because it’s challenging for me. tries to walk away. Runaway girl (I sing playfully) Anyways. 0 . The Boyfriend Objection Guy: Opener Girl: I’m sorry.

 . In order for this approach to work you need to switch the way you see things. Talk Girl: Says something rude like “Why are you talking to me”.She’s Rude Or Doesn’t Acknowledge Your Presence Guy: Talk. look around you. So let’s give this a shot one more time. I know you’re a cool person deep down inside. Sorry I was being rude. I’m not one of those guys so don’t treat me like one of them. I was just having a bad day. There are a lot of creepy guys out there that try to get something from you all the time. doesn’t look at you. I’m almost sure. I don’t know where you’re from but where I’m from. If you approach with the “I just want to get into your pants” mentality. This is just a protection shield. If you’re not going to be real. Grungey10: I understand. I’m Oliver. So what do you do for fun? * See how I called her out on how she was behaving? It demonstrates that I am a man who demands respect in an interaction. then it will not work for you. Guy: No worries. or something to that effect. The way you think and feel affects the way you interact with people. I’m just going to walk away (I act as if I’m about to leave). Come on. This stuff is very powerful. When you experience that situation. Talk. you must come across from a place of power and positivism. Have you ever talked to someone before and felt like they just wanted something from you? Was it a gut feeling? How often were you right? I bet you were pretty accurate at it. Now I want to share with you the Gift Shift theory. I want you to remember this section and read it over and over again. GIfT shIfT Theory In order for this approach to work. Guy: Why are you acting like this? Why can’t you just be yourself. Girl: I’m Michelle. You will get rejected by women left and right. I know this is not who you really are. people are real. Then you will begin to wonder what you’re doing wrong.

You have the upper hand and not the other way around. Your job is to provide women with positive emotions. I want you to do this. There’s a catch though. they would fall for you? Ask yourself that question over and over again. Your job is to give them an unforgettable experience. You’re the guy she talks about with her best friends. you’re giving that gift to her. How would you act if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that if only women knew you. You can do it too. away from the world they are in right now. I get results because I have something positive to offer. I feel happy knowing that I’m about to make this person’s day. She’s been dreaming about you. That means you have to barrel through her persona. Knowing this information how does this change the way you’ll view your future interactions? Remember. She’s seen you in movies. She will only find out that it’s you after she’s gotten to know you. Take five minutes and imagine that you’re someone she’s been waiting for all her life. Whenever I talk to people.  . I’ve worked on myself to the point where I just am naturally attractive and interesting to women. Your job is to take them on an emotional journey with you. I know.It’s simple. you are. I know. I feel happy. Am I conveying who I am in an interesting way? Is she getting to know me or am I just talking out of my ass? TRY THIS OUT Next time you go out to meet women. She’s read about you in books. it sounds sappy but it’s amazingly effective. Yes. You are a gift. you are a gift.

The pInG ponG MeTaphor
In my opinion, conversations with women are very similar to playing ping pong or table tennis. The ball just keeps going back and forth across the table. One person hits the ball then the other person hits it back. It’s an ongoing cycle. That’s how conversations should be. Sadly, this isn’t always the case. Someone usually carries the conversational burden more than the other person does. Eventually the conversational ratio should be as close to 50/50, girl talks as much as guy does, but it takes skill to be able to do that. You need to be interesting and interested. I’ll say it two more times because it’s very important. You need to be interesting and interested. You need to be interesting and interested. Making sense so far? Were you ever in a conversation with someone who talked way too much? It’s like you were watching television because you couldn’t contribute to the conversation at all. On the flipside, were you ever in a conversation with someone who just kept asking question after question without really contributing anything at all? Well you need the balance of both. You need to lead the interaction and at the same time, get women to follow your lead. You need to help them invest in the interaction. Not everyone’s socially savvy. Sometimes, you need to make it easy for them to contribute to the interaction. This book help you cultivate the skills you need to be both interesting and interested. 

Go fIrsT prInCIple
“You must become the change you wish to see”- Gandhi In other words, if you think change is needed in a situation, think about changing yourself first before changing everything around you. I want you to look back on all the conversations you had with women that you liked. Here are some questions for you. Were you… Both comfortable, relaxed and at ease? Exchanging fun stories from your lives? Sharing secrets and vulnerabilities with each other? Speaking formally or like friends do? Able to build familiarity and substance in the interaction? Here’s my main point. If you want her to do something, you should do it first. If you want her to start opening up to you, you must open up to her first. It’s your job as a man to lead the interaction. You should lead and expect her to follow. TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation instead of asking a question, make a statement. Instead of saying “Where are you from?” tell them a story about where you’re from. Instead of saying “How are you” say “I’m feeling so happy today, you have no idea why”. See how people respond to you. 

poWer TalK
What you say and how you say it is critical when you’re interacting with someone. A couple of years ago, I remember watching a comedy show. This guy walked on the stage and started making jokes. There was forced laughter here and there but that’s about it. I ended up just looking at my watch impatiently thinking to myself “What time is this show going to end?!” Couple of months later, I watched another comedy show. A couple of minutes into the show, my stomach started to hurt from laughing, tears started falling from my eyes, he got me. I don’t remember laughing so hard in my entire life. The jokes weren’t extremely funny, it was his personality. This is true for everyone out there. Whether you’re a comedian, a salesman, a student, or a friend, people will respond to you based on how you present yourself. Here are some tips to empower yourself. • Avoid hesitation when you talk. Be firm with what you want. For example, instead of saying “Uhm, I was thinking if, uhm, we could go out sometime” say something like “Hey, I’m going shopping this Thursday, It’s going to be a blast, you should tag along”. Don’t flinch. Don’t be nervous. Say it like you would if you’re talking to your 11 year old cousin or something. • Power of ambiguity. Keeping a woman on her toes keeps things challenging in an interaction. Every other guy jumps at the opportunity to hang out with her again. Instead of giving all your cards away try using words like “maybe. We’ll see, I’ll get back to you on that one”. An example would be “Hey, you seem fun, if we’re both available this weekend, then maybe we’ll hang out”. • Avoid over politeness. Being overly polite communicates subordinate status. When you’re communicating with women, you shouldn’t treat them as if they’re a goddess from Venus. If you treat them like royalty, they will act like royalty. Treat them like you would treat your buddy. Don’t be overly polite. 

it’s a combination of two things CAPTIVATE & CONNECT Captivate her with your personality by building a connection. my next goal is to get to know her on multiple levels. I relate to it and appreciate her for it. over and over again. I do it multiple times. I want mutual appreciation. I want her to remember me when she wakes up the next day. I genuinely appreciate her and I am very successful at it because I believe that all women have something beautiful inside of them. So I start out by getting to know her on the surface level. you MusT CreaTe a ConneCTIon “It all started with our ancestors. I don’t need to know her whole life story. Then we discuss each other’s passions in life and connect on a deeper level.Psychology 101  . I want to find out what makes her special. I just want to touch base and build both familiarity and substance with her. What is my goal? I want to convey who I am as a person. What was familiar was generally safe and approachable. I make her feel special for the person that she is. I want to make a mega solid impression so that she won’t stop rambling about me with her best friend the moment our conversation ends.WhaT To do afTer InITIaTInG The ConversaTIon A lot of guys don’t know what to do after they’ve initiated the conversation. I relate to her on the surface then I go a little deep and find out the things that make her tick. Well. My goal is to build familiarity and substance all throughout the interaction. Then I try to build familiarity by connecting on a lot of different topics. Let me go over my structure on connection building. to make it really simple. After I’ve captivated a woman with my presence. Evolution has hardwired into us the tendency to bond with those who are familiar and wary of those who are unfamiliar. What was unfamiliar was more often dangerous and threatening. When I do. I want to know what makes her tick.” .

She’s hooked She becomes so interested that she starts to ask you questions to find out who you are. The problem is most people don’t know how to convey who they are. Imagine how you would feel in this kind of scenario: A girl has been talking to a cool guy for quite awhile. then you create an emotional connection. No matter what system you use. If you allow this process to happen. She’s trying to figure out if you have more going for you than your initial impression. That’s the secret to a successful daytime interaction. Here’s a system you can use to build an emotional connection: Step 1: Build Familiarity Step 2: Build Substance Step 3: Appreciate Her as a person Step 4: Incorporate A Romantic Spin hoW To ansWer lIGhT rapporT QuesTIons A lot of people I’ve met still don’t know how to convey their personality in their day to day interactions with people. It’s where the magic happens. There’s a time when you should answer it. There’s a time to be cocky and funny and avoid a question that’s thrown your way but should you keep on avoiding it? No. Building an emotional connection is the heart of daytime pick-up. This is what separates you from every other guy that’s tried to meet her. she’s trying to figure out who you are as a person. He’s cool and interesting. It’s my favorite part of the interaction. So let’s break down what usually happens  .I don’t care what anyone else out there thinks but if you can open your mouth and talk. When she asks you a question. your main goal is to get to the point in the interaction where you both can just be yourselves. You need to be in that place where both your guards are down and you can just connect on all levels. you can build a connection with anyone you meet. and let her open herself up to you as well. She wants to find out if you’re real and if you have any depth to you.

She ends up giving up and going home knowing nothing about you. ( I talk about LA for a  . When she gets home. we’ll get to that in a minute… anyway…. I’ve read ton of stories as a kid (insert something cocky or avoid the question asked) Conclusion: She wanted to get to know you better. appreciating and relating with life experiences. and building a strong emotional connection. Everything is fast paced back in LA. give it a few days and that attraction will probably fade away. Real and long lasting attraction comes from building commonalities.45 minutes later -----------Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: Oh. She was ready to build an emotional connection but you threw the opportunity away. Things are so different back where I’m from. Why? It’s because you’ve only created short term attraction. being vulnerable with each other. Ideal Scenario: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: So where you from? Guy: Oh… You wouldn’t want to know… It’s extremely cold there… Girl: Where? Guy: I live in the North Pole… It’s so fun swimming with the penguins everyday… It makes me so happy Girl: Ugh… shut up!!! No really where you from? Guy: I actually moved here from LA two months ago. She may have been attracted to you at first but it won’t last for a very long time.Scenario 1: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: whoa! We’re getting a little ahead of ourselves here. ---------.

) What do you do? What are you really passionate about? What makes you tick? How did it start out? What happened then? What’s so special about what you do and how does it make you feel? Have you ever met someone that just talked about the same thing over and over again? It gets very boring after awhile. We were driving through empty green fields and… (insert semi deep and meaningful story here) Conclusion: • You stand out from all the other guys because you differentiate yourself from them. Now.while then compare it to Tucson) Things are very simple out here. • It sets the stage for building an emotional connection.) Where are you from? When you get this question. • She knows right off the bat that you’re a good communicator. You actually demonstrate a lot of personality by being comfortable sharing your thoughts with her • You lead the conversation. I was on my way to a ranch and it was really interesting. ask yourself What makes my place different from where I am right now? What’s so unique about my place? What are the fun things to do there? What do I love most about my place? How does it make me feel? What would you recommend for her to do in your city? 2. It actually gives me time to think about everything going on in life and see the bigger picture. • It gives her a window of opportunity to see how you view the world and the type of person you are. Like the other day. how you ever met someone cool that could just talk about anything under the sun?  . It makes her comfortable and easier to open herself up to you. So remember: Never ever give boring answers to simple questions such as Where are you from? What do you do? What’s going on? Tips on how to do that 1. You’re not answering her question in a boring way.

9. If you did the exercise. she’d have one about her spider. 5. she’d have one too. 13. You need to connect on multiple topics. 4. Come on. Done? Here’s are the things that came to me when I heard the word elephant: 1. Give me 10 things that come to your mind with each word above. 3. Animals Grey Tusk Ivory Africa Jungle Lion King 8. elephant is just one word. it’s included here for a reason. you’ll never run out of things to say ever again. what’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word elephant? Actually. 7. Now that’s 130 things you could potentially talk about. 6. If you had a story about guns. this is what familiarity is all about. 10. If you had a story about your pet hamster. you have around 130 words.Like if you had a story about your grandfather. give me 10 things that you can associate with the world elephant? Take your time. Don’t tell me you don’t have any experience with at least one of the topics I listed above. 2. A sentence has how many words? Do you see where I’m going here? If you master the art of conversational vibes. 11. Cartoons Movies Big Zoo Water That’s all Alright. It’s called the association game. 12. Once you’ve mastered this. let’s go one step further. Alright. Now. Think some more. Ok. she’d have one too. do the exercise. let me teach you a helpful exercise here. then you’ll never run out of things to say again! 0 . Here’s the beauty of it.

Building substance takes the interaction to a whole other level. are gold. and riff on it. Building substance solidifies the connection between you. Here are some topics you can explore to build familiarity: -Goals and aspirations -Passions -Ideal vacation -Relationships -Friends -Youth and childhood -Love -Art and Photography -Traveling -Favorite films and music -Concerts and theatres -Family . Let’s get you acquainted with building substance. Take advantage of it.  . It also makes you stand out since it’s something that only close friends do. learning how to build familiarity is an essential skill to have. Use it. Another skill you should focus on is active listening. and leadInG WITh your passIons You now know how to build familiarity. just pick out one word and riff on it for a minute or two. fIndInG her Core value. You see. This tool is very powerful. Next time there’s an awkward pause in the conversation. Most of the things women tell you.Fitness -Animals buIldInG subsTanCe: aCTIve lIsTenInG. once you’ve barreled through their persona. Do this until your jaw is numb from speaking too much. Women will feel like they have a lot of things in common with you.TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation with a woman.Hobbies . think back to the previous topic. pick a word out.

you should be able to repeat back. Just learn how to listen to her completely without butting in. Once you find these underlying motivators. . As an active listener. You need to find out what is the underlying motivator that drives her to do the things she loves to do.  . Always ask her what she means. Don’t always be eager to fill in the silence when there’s an awkward pause. me too. your job is to find out what makes her tick. You see. as well as the foundation of effective communication. Don’t answer right away. feed it back to her. Doing this affirms your understanding and builds dialogue. Doing this will strengthen your understanding of the situation • Summarize what she tells you. It will improve your conversation skills tenfold. For example a guy asks: “Who’s your favorite artist? Oh Mariah Carey. and how it makes her feel.Demonstrates interest in her as a person. You should rephrase what she just told you and. in your own words. But what if you guys don’t like the same artist? Does that mean both of you have nothing in common? No. . That’s great if you guys like the same artist.Active listening is a habit. Finding Her Core Value And Building A Quick Connection A lot of guys try to connect with women on the surface area. Once again this shows her that you understand her and that you’re paying attention to her.Expresses understanding of her feelings A couple of basic pointers for active listening: • Rephrase and feedback. • Shut up and listen to her. to whoever you’re talking to what they have said to you.Ensures understanding of the subject matter. in your own words. you should relate to them. You have something in common with her. pause for three seconds before answering something. Here are the benefits of active listening: . and that’s her core value. we’re so similar”. • Ask questions. Active listening intentionally focuses on who you are listening to.

If you don’t set your standards early on they will step all over you. But before I explain it. Whenever they do something right they get rewarded. early in the interaction. let me give you an example of social learning theory and conditioning at work. Social Learning Theory And The Power Of Conditioning Social learning theory states that we learn social behavior by observing and imitating others and by being rewarded or punished.Relate to those underlying motivators. opening up to you. They will test you to see how you will respond. Later on. and laughing at your jokes. not complying with your request. they get punished. You should punish her for disrespecting you. For example: You should reward her for giving you a compliment. After you relate with her you should appreciate her for who she is. Was there ever a time you got burned by something? Maybe you touched a hot stove or candle. Whatever it was. So how do we use this to our advantage? It’s actually very simple. whenever they do something wrong. I want you to rewind and remember your childhood. Another example would be a parent disciplining their kids. It’s more powerful than relating to her on the surface level.  . Women will test you. On the other hand. Yes. and you probably learned something afterward. and being rude to you. You should take time to think about what behaviors you will reward And which ones you’ll punish. Women gravitate toward positive emotions and move away from the negative ones. you need to reward her for opening up to you. they’ll be conditioned to do things that would lead to them being rewarded. to see where your boundaries are. you just instinctively jerked your hand back. This encourages her to do it more often. This applies to women and dating as well. You learned that you shouldn’t touch it again.

It’s one of the most powerful tools in building an emotional connection. Not a lot of guys talk about the things that make them tick. “Tell me and I may remember. I suck her into my world. If ever they do. Before I do let me share this quote with you. Involve me and I will carry them forever. It also builds trust. Show me and I will remember. Here’s what I call the life story tactic. they don’t convey it in a way that’s interesting to women. I tell her the things I love to do and why I love to them.leadInG WITh your passIons A lot of the so-called “pick-up artist” I’ve met are curious as to how I can captivate a woman by just being myself. Here’s my dirty little secret… I talk about the things I’m passionate about. I won’t get into detail on this topic but I’d like to share with you a very effective technique to build an emotional connection. The word regression means moving backwards.  . comfort. Here’s how you do it. Being passionate about your passions (as funny as it sounds) is even more attractive to women. Here’s a question to help you figure out what you’re really passionate about in life.” Remember that you always have to involve her in the interaction. and safety. Having passion is very attractive to women. What is it you would do for free if you never had to make money again? Emotional Connection Accelerator There are a lot of different ways to accelerate the process of building an emotional connection and my favorite one is regression. Leading with your passion separates you from every other guy that’s tried to hit on her.

middle. she’s being rude. She should know what your standards are. This can take somewhere between ten minutes to sometimes even the whole day. You should always move the conversation forward. The beginning includes your childhood and middle school experience. Now. you can start by asking her about her childhood or talking about yours. This technique is very powerful and it solidifies the emotional connection instantly. Tools you can use later down the road when you’ve mastered the basics. or sad. On the other hand if she says “I have to go” and you ignore the thread and talk about something else. This is an advanced technique I use to quickly convey the things I’m passionate about thirty seconds into the conversation. The key is to exchange stories and go from childhood to future plans.Your life right now is separated into beginning. The more emotions the better. As long as you keep talking she will stand there in front of you. It can be fun. and you can call her on it. I want you to come up with at least two to three stories for each phase of you life. You can do this directly or through storytelling. She should know your rules on dating and relationships. If she walks away. She should have an idea of who you are and what you’re about early in the interaction. a Couple of effeCTIve ConversaTIonal Tools Here are several topics I’ll discuss briefly.  . If a girl says “I have to go” and you say “nice. Mix it up. right now. meeting you” then she will walk away. adventurous. The middle includes your high school and college experience. and future. • Identity Interleaving. • Conversational Plowing. The end includes your present experience and your future plans. She should know the things you love and your pet peeves as well. mischievous. How do you turn this into a system? Alright. • Standard Interleaving. she will not leave. Trust me on this one. end.

Here’s an example of fractionating: Talk about something light. then make her laugh a little bit. etc. you need to check your body language. • Fractionating. confident. especially at times when the woman I’m talking to is hard to crack or if I’m in a hurry and I want to build a quick connection. and. etc). kissing her. and that’s why you can’t hang out anymore. On Storytelling Storytelling is very powerful if done right. or just used to talking people’s ears off. trustworthy. eye contact. This helps intensify the emotional connection that you’ve built.• Cold reading. of course. Try searching that on Google or something. Tell her that you’re sad you met with no mutual friends to introduce you to each other. Well if you’re one of them then you’re on your way to becoming successful. protector of the ones you love. Always include a romantic spin after building an emotional connection. Cold reading helps captivate her and builds familiarity instantly. story tellers. Well some do and they’re either super social.g. and your non verbal communication to see if you’re communicating all the right things like being comfortable in your own skin. When you tell a story you communicate on both levels. then go a little deep. A good resource for cold read is the Forer’s effect. Telling a story builds comfort and trust because you’re opening up to somebody you don’t know. adventurous. humorous. • Romantic spin. Why? It’s because learning how to express yourself is the first step in getting good at meeting women. then go deeper. Constantly ask yourself this: What am I trying to communicate? Am I getting my message across? You want to demonstrate good qualities about yourself with the stories you tell people (e. This always steers the interaction toward the right path. • Preempting objections. Some examples would be taking her on an instant date. It’s a tool I use once in awhile. demands respect. go light again. This is a brilliant way to ease into deeper topics. then this time go a little deeper than you were before. Builds comfort and trust. talking about fate and destiny. Say this after a high point in the interaction. Whatever objections she may have make sure to use them first. They listen to what you say and how you say it.  . vocal tonality and projection. Next. ambitious. People usually don’t just go up to people and start telling stories. romantic.

Let’s take for example a comedian and an actor. Every time you’re telling a story I want you to ask yourself these questions • Am I passionate about what I’m talking about? • Am I enthusiastic? • Am I paying attention to everyone that’s listening? • Am I relaxed and comfortable? • Is my voice loud enough? • Am I talking slow and clear? • Am I projecting the emotion I need to project through my voice? (If you’re telling a scary story sound scared. the presentation can still bomb. Probably the most important part of telling a story is your vocal projection and your delivery. It can still suck. character development. On the other hand. and emotional projection. if it’s suspense then use a lot of pausing) • Am I pausing at the right times? • Am I using a wide range of facial expressions?  .So let’s get to the important part How do you make a good story? Here are some terms that are important in storytelling and I’ll discuss only a couple of them Opening line. you can give a guy who’s good at telling stories a very boring and ridiculously horrible story line and he can turn it in to something very interesting. Give him the best script created by the best minds in the world and when performance day comes. engaging the senses. sequencing of events. What’s the difference between these two guys? The way they present it and he way they deliver.

You want to engage all her senses. I get that every time there’s a family get together. as much as possible when you’re telling a story. a light bulb just popped up in my head. the funniest/craziest/most embarrassing/ wildest thing just happened to me yesterday/today/couple minutes ago. Nice meeting you. Well can you believe that my name was supposed to be Amanda? Bookstore girl: Amanda?! (laughs) Grungey10: Yes. Bookstore girl: Oliver. hear.)* Then ask her* Does that ever happen to you? (throwing the ball back at her) You want to talk about emotions because you want to communicate on her level. “then out of the blue”. Men usually communicate with logic while women value emotions more.) Then slowly insert stuff like “and then I realized”. Did your parents ever tell you about embarrassing stories when you were kid? Bookstore girl: Yeah. feel.) Describe what you were doing at that time.) OMG. 1. I’m Lisa.) How did it make you feel? What lessons did you learn? 6. 3. It’s something they can relate too. Amanda. Bookstore girl: (laughs)  . I’m Oliver.. smell. who you were with.) The climax of your story. 5. “out of nowhere”. (pause) 2. Now stop laughing at my baby name. interesting name. Grungey10: Lisa. it gets bruised easily. Grungey10: Exactly.. and “surprisingly”. what you could see. Speaking of names.. 4. “all of a sudden”.So here’s a quick formula for a spontaneous story. etc. here’s a ConversaTIon I had In The pasT Grungey10: Hey. You want her to be able to relate to you.

the one that detects the gender. which I do not find very funny. My mom holds me with tears in her eyes saying “Wow. pink crib.. we don’t see anything moving down there. she went to the doctor and she had this machine.” Then she slowly unfolds the towel and then all of a sudden. Anyways. uhm. Bookstore girl: OMG (laughs) Grungey10: I know! Isn’t it funny? So what actually ended up happening was...... So the room was all pink! It had pink stuff toys. Hello.Grungey10: Anyways. just for me. when my mom was 6 months pregnant. Hello. Grungey10: My mom got so excited that she started decorating one whole room in the house.. Bookstore girl: (Continues giggling) <Now I’m going to throw the ball back at her so she can invest more in the interaction> So what were you like as a kid? Was there anything your parents gave you a hard time about? Bookstore girl: Hmmmm. Hello. Look at you. I remember him teasing me a lot about being a tomboy back in middle school. I don’t think you understand.. we’re getting there. she actually decked the whole room out with a “My little princess” theme in mind. The moment of truth... all right... I was born and the doctor hands me over to my mom wrapped in a white towel. my mom always whips out the album with me dressed in a pink room all dressed in pink. it’s my beautiful little princess Amanda. after the sonogram.. your first born will be a girl”. it’s on the tip of my tongue.  . thank you very much. Not so much my parents but my grandfather and I had a really strong bond when I was growing up. apparently. the doctor’s like “Ma’am. Say hello to mommy. So here it comes. Get this.. welcome to the family!” Bookstore girl: (Eyes get wide) Really?! That’s the funniest thing I’ve ever heard. Bookstore girl: (laughs hysterically) Grungey10: No... What happened next? Grungey10: All right... You know what I’m talking about right? Bookstore girl: You mean a sonogram? Grungey10: There you go! Good girl (briefly touches her shoulder). and even a pink welcome banner hanging from the wall saying “Princess Amanda.. Badoink!!! A moving “thing” down there?! She was devastated! I never heard the end of it.. Every time a friend comes over to the house.. this is not a laughing matter.

I can pick any topic and start rolling with it. try pausing for three seconds after she finishes her sentence. As an exercise. I went through that whole phase. You’ll notice that women have a lot more to say when they don’t get interrupted.> Bookstore girl: (smiles as she recalls) Back then I was a boy hater. < She gave me multiple topics to choose from. I’ve always wanted to make a difference in the world. That was back then. What do you accomplish when you’ve made a difference in the world? Let’s say you’re in Africa and you get to educate the kids there.> Grungey10: Boy hater? I better watch out for you now. I might not even be safe here (smiles). I could start building more familiarity by talking about my sisters. Bookstore girl: Oh shut it (hits me in the arm). you see improvements in their lives. how does it make you feel? 0 . Grungey10: Why would you live in Africa? Is it because you want to help out? Or do you just want to explore the place? Bookstore girl: I guess a little bit of both. for a year. < I have a choice. <I’m going to build more substance now> Grungey10: I find it really interesting that you love helping people out. I love going to a new place and learn everything about the culture there. I’ve changed a lot since then. I can also build more substance by exploring what made her change but I chose to explore the subject of traveling.Grungey10: (nods head but keeps quiet) <It’s very powerful to pause and not be eager to fill in the silence in a conversation. At the same time. I was also a very competitive kid. and at the end of the day. If you have sisters then you’d know what I’m talking about. It’s fulfilling for me. before responding to her.> buIldInG faMIlIarITy & subsTanCe Grungey10: If you could live in any city in the world. You see. where would you live? Bookstore girl: I’d live in Africa.

You’re kidding right? I just have the biggest thing for artistic people. You see a lot of people are imprisoned by their day to day activities. songwriting is very much like painting. You see them working with the “work”  . They see things from a different perspective. It may take me an hour. You love traveling and you’re an artist too?! This is way too perfect. There must be a catch here. Only a few people actually live their lives to the fullest and at the same time. Grungey10. Artists are very creative. Bookstore girl. In the process they lose in touch with who they are and what they’re all about. <After creating familiarity and substance. A lot of people might think it’s easy for us. let me tell you something. We both put are minds and hearts into our work. I guess satisfaction would be a better way to phrase it. and for the most part they’re real. I don’t think enough people appreciate you for that. playback the song I just made.> Bookstore girl: Yeah.. I just relax on my bed. At the end of the day. Not a lot of people understand what it takes to do what we do. They usually just live their lives with one thing in mind. Bookstore girl: That’s the sweetest thing anyone’s ever told me in the longest time (blushes). They go to work or school and they change to fit the environment they’re in. It’s a stress reliever for me and at the same time I get to express myself through my work. I solidify the attraction by giving here a sincere compliment. Grungey10: You know what. It’s the best job I’ve ever had. do the things they’re passionate about in life. It’s something I’m really passionate about. and feel good about myself.Bookstore girl: It makes me feel like I’m on top of the world. < I’m going to start flirting and appreciating her> Grungey10: Wait a minute here. A lot of people have forgotten the meaning of what it is to be passionate about something. I get the exact same feeling of satisfaction every time I finish writing a song. Grungey10: What are you passionate about? Bookstore girl: Well. or sometimes weeks to put a song together and it pays off bigtime. I love painting. It’s something that I got into back when I was still seven. It’s a rare thing. This is when the magic begins. a day. and that’s usually making a living or going to school. I better leave before I start to fall in love with you. You see.. Grungey10: Bookstore girl. I totally understand what you mean.

Then they go home and hit the sack. Some give their number away because it’s fake. they still have control of the interaction. Don’t be afraid to test new things out. In their minds. • You can return her number to her every time she does something to turn you off. I found that timing is very important when it comes to getting a woman’s number. <Conversational cycle continues> The arT of GeTTInG phone nuMbers & seTTInG up daTes After hundreds of interactions. Normally. This may take somewhere between 10 minutes to two hours. It’s the same routine over and over again. Some give their number away because it boosts their ego. As a matter of fact. Getting a number doesn’t really guarantee success. It’s actually something that I’ve been working on for awhile now. Some give their number away to get rid of the guy. I suggest staying for an extra five or ten minutes before you leave. Some give their number away with no intention of ever answering your call. it makes it seem that was all you were after. No matter how smooth you pull it off. You always want to leave on a positive note. When you leave right after you get her phone number. Women give their phone numbers for a variety of reasons. I’ve noticed that most guys make their exit after they get a woman’s number. Well I go through my day-to-day activities with the biggest smile on my face because I get to be myself the whole day. One  . If I’ll see the girl again then I won’t even get her number. I’d highly advise everyone to try it for even a week. But before I even get into that. When you get a woman’s number. Do not answer”. I realized something very important. Some give their number away and save your number as “Weird & Creepy Guy. they instantly know what’s going on. It’s the best thing ever. Numbers mean nothing if you haven’t done your job well. Girls give their numbers to guys for various reasons. Coffeeshop girl: I know exactly what you’re talking about. I’d like to share with you some of the things I learned. it doesn’t even guarantee that you’ll get to see her again.face on. I’d like to actually get to know the girl first before I even get her number. • Don’t leave after you get her number.

any line will work. • Tell her you want her number but don’t get it. At times when she tries to impress you. I discovered that pacing would. I’ve seen it happen hundreds of times. Not unless. That’s my cue to see where I am in the interaction.little trick you can do is to give her back her number every time she says something you don’t like. Guy ask for girls number. It’s a really neat way of communicating “I could care less if I get your number or not”. Some girls might like you but forget to call you. She’ll probably flake on you anyway even if she gave you her number. It’s better to exchange numbers than to just give her your number. girl refuses. At this point she will either ask for my number or giggle. It’s not going anywhere. I just thought you were an interesting person and that you’d make a cool buddy. You job is to get her to want to give her number to you. Some of the lines I’ve used are “Let’s exchange contact information” “Give me your number” “I really had fun talking to you.”  . would be useful after getting her number. but unfortunately I have to get going. I usually say something like “Wow. I so have to hang out with you…” then I just continue talking about something else. • Pacing to avoid flaking. When you give her your number. at the peak of an interaction. how can we continue this conversation?” • Objection blaster. I’m just going to leave now. you’re really skilled at using the phone to your advantage. Guess what that does? It drastically decreases the chance of anything happening by 50%! Why. Pacing can be used to address future objections. Any line will work if you say it at the right time. If she still gives some excuse I say “Don’t get a big head now. once again. At the same time it demonstrates that you have standards. Whenever they give me an excuse such as “Sorry. If she doesn’t want to give you her number than just let it go. When you reach that point in the interaction. then guy tried to bargain. So it’s best always best to exchange number because it gives both of you the chance to call each other up. because not all girls will call you up. Some girls will throw your number away. I found that it’s very effective to display more interest in her. make you laugh. but since there appears to be an issue with it. It’s a downward spiral that leaves you lower than you were before. • Simple yet effective lines. • Don’t try to bargain if she doesn’t give her number. And some girls will simply just lose your numbers. or after an emotion filled moment. I have a boyfriend” I usually just stare at her all confused and say “Yeah… and?”. you leave it all up to her to make the move and give you a call back. Some girls just never call guys up. you like classical art? That’s so cool. • It’s better to exchange numbers.

It will really communicate that you have more important things to do. I really hate playing phone tag. They have these huge crystal disco lights. I’ll call you just once… and leave a message once. It really depends on the situation. you’re not some weird psychotic girl right? Cool. What more can you ask for? We do this every Wednesday. • Finalize your plans before you leave. Tell her what time you’ll call her and how to respond to you over the phone. It’s fun”. Go call her! And if she doesn’t pick up then call up two more times” “You should call her the day after you get her number. believe me I’ve tried. If you don’t have any. and on top of that you get to bowl. They all work. “You should call her after a week or two. Listen. This technique has worked well for me. you should come join us. Stuff like “Ok. you’re pretty cool. It will communicate that you have a life and that you are not needy” “You should call her on the same day so that she gets comfortable talking to you. I prefer to make plans before leaving the interaction.• Tell her exactly how it’s going to be. That’s it. then you owe me vanilla flavored ice cream on a cone…” You can go anywhere with this technique. My suggestion would be to try everything until you find the one that works best for you. Have you ever gone cosmic bowling?! It’s the most fun thing in the world. trust me. You’ll come off way cooler. every Wednesday. Here’s a couple “You should wait at least three days before you call her. my friends and I love to bowl at Golden Pins. When you do answer I expect a really cool joke from you. make sure to let her know you’ll be calling in the next couple of days” You must be wondering which strategy works best. It’s good to set up some rules right from the beginning. How long should you wait before you call? This sounds familiar doesn’t it? There are a lot of different opinions when it comes to the best time to call. 80’s music. If all else fails. Just act like it’s normal. It usually goes something like this “You know what. but wait a minute. After you talk to her.  . It’s not everyday that I meet someone that I can just be real with. make sure to end the conversation on a high note” It doesn’t get better than this. Then make it a point to be the first one to hang up or pretend that someone else is on the other line.

The others eventually responded after my follow up routine. What do I mean by solid? I’ve spent an average of about 45 minutes to 2 hours with them. Give it a shot for two weeks then switch. That includes multiple dates within that day. and emotional connection that’s been built all throughout the interaction. I used in the past.  . I would say two out of every four girls answered on the first call. Let’s say I’ve collected around 12 solid numbers in two weeks. Traditional Method Call her after three days Space your calls out and have at least three to four days in between them Ask her out on the first or second call This method works best on girls within your social circle. in order to find out which strategy worked best.Here is a simple strategy. Occasionally. Aggressive Method Call the numbers up the day you get them You can call the next day and the day after to follow up Call at unpredictable hours of the day Varying time limit on each call Ask her out later on For some reason this method worked best on cold approaches. There’s no rush to call her up soon because you’ll see her over and over again. there’s that one girl that never picks up her phone. That’s pretty good considering the fact that I’ve only got so much free time on my hands. Let me ask you this… What’s your strategy? Let me suggest this… Try everything out. See which ones work best for you.

8 TIps for an unforGeTTable fIrsT daTe
The tips I’m about to share with you are priceless. It took me years to figure some of them out. Most guys don’t know what to do on a first date. Don’t be generic. “Would you like to go to dinner and a movie with me sometime?” I don’t want to hear that coming out of your mouth anytime soon. OK? That’s what every other guy does! The last thing you want is to be like everyone else. There are lots of other things to do besides that. Save that idea for a later date. Something you’re passionate about. Are you passionate about sports? Singing? Shooting guns? Surfing? Art? Rollerblading? Anything at all? Bring her in to your world. Do the things you’re passionate about with her, on a first date. The best part about is that you can teach her how to do these things, if she doesn’t know how. Accessible- You don’t want to take her to the mountains located two hours from you. You want somewhere near and accessible. Fun & Exciting. Some of the best dates I’ve had were in amusement parks. It’s fun. It’s exciting. It provides the both of you with the same experience you can bond on. Plus, the emotions you experience will bring the two of you closer to each other. Unpredictable. Don’t tell her where you’re going. Tell her it’s a surprise. Get back to your place early on. Find an excuse to get back to your place early on. Your goal is to make her feel comfortable and to get that step out of the way. I do this by saying “These shoes are killing me, I just need a second…” drive to your house and say “Alright, I’ll give you a quick tour, we can only stay for five minutes cause we’re running on a schedule”. I go in the house, change my shoes, and rush her out of the house after giving her the tour. I don’t crowd her space. I don’t go for the kiss. I just relax and really just give her a tour of the house. This serves two purposes. Makes her trust me more and gets her comfortable in my house. Go to the supermarket. Take her with you to do groceries. Two techniques you can use. You can pick up a cookbook and have her pick up ingredients with you so she can help you cook. Another thing I like to do is to get some ice cream. Unfortunately I have to get it back to the house before it melts. AHA! Either way, you end up going back to your house or hers. 

Ideas For Second Dates Theme parks The beach Picnics Shooting range Cooking classes Sporting events Grocery shopping Flying kites in the park Comedy clubs Dance lessons Art galleries Rollerblading Go cart Wine tasting Wall climbing

on CreaTInG a sexual vIbe
Creating a sexual vibe gets her ready for the kiss. You must learn how to project sexuality. Sexuality can be projected by the way you talk, look at her, touch her, and the way you present yourself. It’s mostly non-verbal communication. This is the next level you need to master. Here are some of the ways you can project a sexual vibe. The way you look at her. Look at her in that sexual “You know what’s about to happen” kind of way. You can do stuff like staring at her eyes while biting your lower lip then looking back at your eyes. You need to be able to turn on your bedroom eyes and sexual smile in a snap of a finger. The way you talk to her. Slow down. Slow down. Slow down. Lower the volume of your speech. Try speaking like you’re saying something really profound. Whisper in her ear at some point in the interaction. The way you touch her. Hold her hand at key points in the interaction. It’s important to have some kind of body contact. Begin to face her directly. Place your hand in her inner leg and gently stroke it. Knees or feet touching each other. Stroke her hair while looking at her lips. Incorporating Pausing. Pause in between words to create a sexual and intriguing vibe. 

I Can’t Believe I’m Sharing This With You I came up with a strategy to project sexuality quickly. As a matter of fact, I only teach this in my Day Game University Boot Camp. So let me ask you just one favor. Please don’t teach this method to anyone. Ok, maybe a friend or two, but no more than that. Deal? Good, now that we got that out of the way. Here’s what I call the Airplane Method I want you to think about the two hottest women in the world. It can be an actress, model, friend, or make believe women. Don’t continue reading unless you have your two hottest women. Now, imagine that you’re in a private jet plane. You own the plane. It’s yours. You’re relaxing and leaning back with your feet stretched comfortably. Your pants are down and one of the hottest girls is sucking your penis while the other one is sucking your balls. Now how do you feel? I really want you to put yourself in this situation so you know what I’m talking about. Now let’s say someone calls you over the phone. How will you talk to them? Would it be fast? Or all slow and sexual? Here’s how I learned this technique. A couple of years ago, I met my good friend Asian playboy, who specializes in picking up women in bars and clubs. When this guy spoke, he just had this seductive and sexual presence and for the longest time I couldn’t figure out how he did it. Until one day, I thought to myself, what could this guy be thinking? I mean he gets laid a lot, and he’s good at what he does. What’s his secret? Then it suddenly occurred to me. AHA! He must be thinking about being in an airplane with two hot women going down on him. That’s probably what it is! There’s no other explanation I can think of! Thus, the airplane method was born. Props to Asian playboy. TRY THIS OUT Next time, before you go for the kiss, you should try the airplane method and talk all sexual for 5-10 minutes. This builds the stage up for the kiss. 

let the whole world just fade away. Start looking deeply at her eyes. Here are some important pointers that will be helpful for you. • You don’t need words. It’s just you and her that exist. early on. and you know that it’s time. First.2. Put her hair behind her ear and lightly stroke the side of her face. The best part about this approach is that you don’t need words. if you play your cards right. investment. • Three second rule. After you get into that situation. you’ll start to get a feel of EXACTLY when you should go for it. It’s almost too obvious to meet. • Explore her eyes. If she’s walking. and connection as I need before I try to escalate things further. I make her stop to talk to me. Mall.3 and if she’s still lookg at you. You usually feel butterflies in your stomach. Do you know that moment when you run out of words to say and your eyes are locked on hers? Next time that happens. Women are eager for the kiss as much as you are. froM Coffee shop. quite a number of times. I approach the girl I want right away. If she’s walking away from me. superMarKeT To The bedrooM: The naTural proGressIon There’s a natural progression of how I like to do things. There’s a window of opportunity that opens up sometime in the interaction. In that moment. Nothing else matters.When & hoW To KIss her Kissing on the first day sets the stage. don’t look away. • Nothing else exists. that it’s going to be a sexual relationship. You should kiss her before the day ends. Slowly move in for the kill. while you slowly tilt your head. • Put her hair behind her ears. Nobody else. It’s something you’ll learn to do. Here’s a sample progression I’ve used in the past. I want you to ccount 1. then that’s your cue to go for a kiss. I built as much comfort. I make sure she hears me running towards  .

relax and discuss deep topics is when you’re sitting down. I will not tolerate disrespect and sexual harassment especially from women. Let’s go…” she usually complies. I usually talk about deeper topics when I’m sitting down. I’m dialing this number. Let’s go grab something to eat. The perfect time to lean back. If at anytime you even slightly try to grab my ass… it’s over. Sometimes I even take them on an instant movie date where we sneak out in the middle of the movie and go watch another movie. All these crazy things you’d do when you were young. I pull out my phone. call it a day. After I’ve established enough investment on her part. after we buy groceries. we go back to my place to prepare dinner. 0 . punch the number 9-1-1 in and say “Look at this number. with no mutual friends to introduce us to each other. like couples do. It varies. Before entering the door to my house. I knock on the window and start talking to her. and then I stop her and make her turn around to talk to me. and shop for clothes. I’m hungry. it’s grocery day today” and then we head out to the supermarkets. We prepare dinner together. If she’s inside her car. After all this. I know it’s going to be hard for you. So.” We go some place to eat. Sometimes. This usually demonstrates that I’m fearless and exciting. You get the point. Tell you what. I just kiss her. After I establish some kind of connection. I say “Oh. but just try hard to resist the urge ok? I’m not that easy” It’s a little funny piece that takes the tension out of the scenario. I’m sorry we met like this. After eating I make it a point to do other things.her. I discovered that if you make fun of uncomfortable situations. I usually say something like “My legs are dying. Someone you can just talk to about anything and everything. I say something like “I’m really glad I met you. I ask her to sit down with me. Get to know each other a little bit and begin to open up. I almost forgot. play arcade. then it becomes comfortable. I do stuff like walk around the mall with her. getting ready to leave. At other times. It’s pretty rare to meet someone you can just be real with. I’m going to sit down over there. and then set up another date with her. I’d prefer to see how far I can take it. You’re not going to be one of those awesome girls that I meet and never see again. We talk more.

increase her desire. When she reaches her boiling point and all the clothes are off. see you tomorrow”. I’m off to bed. In that moment.. For you.  . At this point my back is turned toward her and I start to do fake snores. I pull away and pretend to sleep. I act as if everything is normal. I just unleash the beast and take full control of the situation. I pump up her emotions by saying things like “I know what you’re thinking. she usually ends up doing just that. At this point. Here’s the key piece of the puzzle. We eventually start kissing and rolling over the bed. she’s usually not sure whether I like her or not. it should be a done deal. I do this a couple of times till clothes start to come off. I hate to put you down but. I play the frame that “I’m a good boy. I treat her the same way I would treat my buddy. All I am is a big piece of tease”. Then later on in the night. and give her space to chase. but I’m feeling so good. I jump right into my bed and I tell her “Goodnight. she’s way too invested and aroused to even pull back.From here on I just build as much tension as I can. I pull of childish behavior like initiating pillow and water fights. Then I learned that if you just leaned back. After that’s done. At the same time. and I need to stop before it gets really far”. before she even has a chance to do so.. I used to try to seduce her and touch her as much as I could the moment she walked through the door. From this point. I don’t put out that easily. I always pull away first and give her an excuse why we should stop. Just minutes after it gets really hot and heavy. From here we start to cuddle.

social) Stage 3: Learning how to handle logistics (getting her number. going on an instant date.  . Who you will become depends on the things you do today. physical. second dates.Words of WIsdoM There are four stages you will go through in your journey to get this part of your life handled. time.” Where are you in your life right now? What are your goals? Long term and short term? Create a plan Don’t give up until you see results Who you are is the product of the past. (phone game. you will probably wind up somewhere else. getting her back to your house) Stage 4: Beyond the pick-up. You need to become a master of all four stages Stage 1: Becoming Social and Expressing your personality Stage 2: Learning how to make her invest in the interaction (emotional. and managing relationships)  Tips On How to be Happy Be optimistic and outgoing (positivism) Have close friendships and meaningful relationships (Build your social circle) Work or leisure that engage your skills (fun time) Have something to believe in (foundation) Sleep well and exercise (taking care of yourself) Having a high self esteem (healthy relationship with self) “ If you don’t know where you are going.

Balance Is Key In order to achieve happiness and live up to your full potential. you must become congruent with the three main aspects in your life: Be good at what you do Enjoy what it is you do Feel a sense of fulfillment while you do it  .

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