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Unity Temple Unitarian Universalist Congregation
FROM REV. E MILY GAGE
ou forget how much there is to learn. I’ve thought of this from time to time as I’ve been on maternity leave, spending time with our son. There are the big things that we think of when we think of what babies and toddlers need to learn, like talking and walking. And then there are other little every day things, like learning to use your hands to grasp a rattle or suck your thumb, or beginning to understand that the bottle comes after a diaper change and putting on a bib, or that there’s a difference between day and night. Everything is new and something to be under‐ stood. You forget how much there is to learn—or at least I had—until you watch someone having to learn it all for the first time. It makes you appreciate how wonderful and amazing human beings are. It makes you see the world with new eyes. Every morning when I bring Paul downstairs, he looks all around like it’s the most amazing thing. Which it is, of course, though I don’t always remember that either. You forget how much there is to learn, I think, because so much of what babies are mastering we forgot we ever had to learn ourselves. We do them so automatically that we don’t think about it. (Unless they become difficult for some reason.) We can just mark them off our developmental checklist and move on. There are, however, things in this life that we seem to have to learn over and over again. Spring has been a long time coming this year, it seems, and I know on some level that things will eventually turn green. That is, I know that in my head. It’s just that it doesn’t always feel like spring is going to come. But it does. As I write, the holidays of Easter and Passover have just passed, and I am still thinking of their stories, the stories that tell, in part, of terrible things happening. Things that may remind us of the own challenges in our lives, the events that have brought our spirits low, that make our hearts hurt. It can be all too easy to get caught up in what went wrong, what continues to be wrong,
revisiting pain and hurt and discouragement. But this is not the end—or it does not have to be the end—of those stories. Love prevails over death. Freedom is possible. Forgiveness can occur. We can heal, learn from the past, and move on. A wintry soul can bloom into an abundant green. Sometimes it happens despite ourselves, sometimes it only happens through our own hard work of holding onto a thread of hope. These are the lessons we don’t just learn once, and check them off our list. These are the ones that we learn over and over again, whatever our age, whoever we are, wherever we are on our life’s journey. May we remember that springtime will prevail, and that it can prevail in our minds and hearts. P.S. Thanks to the many, many of you who pitched in large and small ways to help make it possible for me to be on maternity leave! I so greatly appreciate it, and so do Karen and Paul!
UTUUC ANNUAL MEETING
When: Sunday, May 22, 12:30 p.m. Where: Unity Temple Sanctuary Who: All UTUUC members
The agenda includes receiving reports, electing members of the Board of Trustees, approving the FY12 operating budget, and voting on the Peace Resolution. All members are asked to attend: a quorum of at least 20 percent of voting membership is required.
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IN OUR PULPIT
May 1:: Big Questions, a UTUUC Youth Service and Bridging Ceremony Created by the senior high youth group, this service will reflect the discussions they’ve had this year about what Unitarian Universalism says about the "big questions.” We’ll also formally recognize the transition of our seniors from youth group to young adult status.
INSIDE THIS ISSUE
In Our Pulpit Membership Opportunities Board of Trustees Annual Fund Drive Wrap‐Up Community Minister Interim Membership Director Nominations for UTUUC Board of Trustees Adult Religious Enrichment Religious Education Music Director Chalice Circles Social Mission Sabbatical Minister for Pastoral Care UT Restoration Foundation Events 2 2 3 3 4 4 5 6 6 7 8 9 9 10
May 8 :: Beyond Light Bulbs: Covenant and Collective Action with Matt Meyer Matt Meyer is a graduate of the Berklee College of Music and has studied abroad in Cuba, Ghana, and Central America. Matt has lead hundreds services for UU congre‐ gations across the country and lives in Boston, where he plays with several world music groups. He is also a member of the UUA's Council on Cross Cultural Engage‐ ment and a board member and resident of the Lucy Stone Cooperative, a newly‐formed Unitarian Universal‐ ist housing cooperative creating an intentional commu‐ nity and a center for social justice in the Boston area.
Are YOU New? Welcome!
Introduction to Unitarian Universalism This session is the prerequisite for the Pathways to Membership course, and is open to anyone who would like to learn more about Unitarian Universalist philoso‐ phy, identity, history, and theology. For more informa‐ tion and to register for this class, contact Sue Stock at email@example.com or 708‐445‐0306. Instructor is Rev. Emily Gage. This month’s class will be offered Sunday, May 15, from 1 to 3 p.m. Location: Unity House. No charge. ITUU will be offered again on Sunday, June 5. There will be no ITUU offered in July. Pathways to Membership This two‐session class is for those who have already taken Introduction to Unitarian Universalism. Partici‐ pants will reflect on and discuss their personal attitudes and beliefs about religion and spirituality with others in the class, and learn more about our congregation and its programs. For more information or to register for this class, contact Rob Bellmar at firstname.lastname@example.org or 708‐763‐0260. This month’s sessions will be offered Sundays, May 15 and 22, from 1 to 4:30 p.m. Location: Unity House. Cost: $20. There will be no Pathways classes in June or July. Pathways will be offered again on August 13 and 20.
May 15 :: A Choral Service: Requiem, with Music Direc‐ tor Mary Swisher A special choral service featuring small orchestra and The Unity Temple Choir and soloists. Under the direction of Music Director Marty Swisher, The Unity Temple Choir will perform Requiem, by John Rutter, in its entirety during the May 15 services. Sopranos Audrey Cole and Beverly Escuder will sing the soloist movements with choral and instrumental support. Harpist Stephen Hart‐ man, oboist Deb Stevenson, cellist Rich Lukes, timpanist/ glockenspielist Jim Holland, flutist Jane Wood, and our own UT organist, Peter Storms, will provide instrumenta‐ tion for this enchanting music replete with tender, comforting melodies and dramatic expressions of hope and longing.
May 29 :: “Love in Action” with Andrew Harvey Harvey is an internationally acclaimed poet, novelist, translator, mystical scholar, and spiritual teacher. He has published over 20 books, including The Hope: A Guide to Sacred Activism (Hay House) and Heart Yoga: The Sa‐ cred Marriage of Yoga and Mysticism (North Atlantic Books). Harvey is a Fellow of All Souls College Oxford from (1972‐1986) and has taught at Oxford University, Cornell University, The California Institute of Integral Studies, and the University of Creation Spirituality, as well as various spiritual centers. He was the subject of the 1993 BBC film documentary The Making of a Modern Mystic. He founded the Institute for Sacred Activism in Oak Park, where he lives. His website is www.andrewharvey.net.
For free childcare at all of these opportunities, contact email@example.com at least one week in advance.
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REPORT FROM THE BOARD OF TRUSTEES
From the Board President Duane Dowell
Here comes the Annual Meeting! As you remember, we changed the by‐laws last year to have more flexibility in the date of the Annual Meeting and not continue to conflict with Oak Park’s “A Day in Our Village.” We will be voting on a resolution from our Peace group for our congregation to take a public stand for peace and the withdrawal of troops from Iraq and Afghanistan. Furthermore, we will approve our annual budget, elect our new church leadership and hear some updates from some very active groups that have been working hard on our behalf this year. This is the official time of the year when we meet together as our congregational family to participate in the business of our church. Y’ALL COME! Meanwhile things are humming along back at the Temple. The Program Council (consisting of the chairs of all church committees and the Board of Trustees) had its final meeting of this church year on April 16, chaired by Polly Walwark and Betsy Davis. Reports from commit‐ tees and groups drove the agenda. Several are moving in exciting new directions. Also, four of the folks that attended the UUA Conference of Large Churches at the end of March shared some thoughts they brought back with them: From Betsy Davis: “Who Owns the Congregation?” Everyone...the Board, the ministers, the committees, the members of the congregation...is responsible first of all to the mission. Not to each other, not to the real or perceived needs of either individuals or groups, but to the mission above everything. And Betsy suggests that our mission is encompassed in the covenant we recite together each Sunday morning. From Ian Morrison: “The Question Driven Church.” This is the suggestion that the Board identify about two questions for the entire congregation to consider, study, discuss in a particular year. These are to be questions that are neither too specific (inviting quick and easy answers) nor too general (inviting perpetual vagueness). Examples of the kind of question that can be useful: “How shall we change the lives of those who walk the journey with us?” “What special efforts shall we take to reach groups we are not now reaching?”
Celebrating Seniors in May
UTUUC will participate in the village‐wide Celebrat‐ ing Seniors Week, May 6‐13, by celebrating our own amazing seniors! Members 65 and older have been in‐ vited to come to either coffee hour on Sunday, May 1, to be briefly interviewed and photographed. The following Sunday, May 8, we’ll host a special coffee hour displaying a gallery of the faces and stories of those among us who carry our collective memories. If you want to participate on May 1 and have not been contacted, please call either TIna Lewis 708‐207‐ 4190 or Carrie Bankes 7608‐383‐9181. All seniors will receive free admittance to any of the week’s events, which will feature the creative ideas of community organizations such as libraries, park districts, hospitals and senior service agencies. In addition, local businesses will honor seniors by offering dining deals, special discounts and promotions. The week kicks off with a Ribbon Fest ceremony from 6 to 8 p.m. on Thursday, April 28, at the Nineteenth Cen‐ tury Club, 178 Forest Ave. in Oak Park. For a listing of related events, go to www.celebratingseniors.net.
2011-2012 Annual Fund Drive Wrap-up
Thank you to everyone who made a commitment during our 2011‐2012 An‐ nual Fund Drive. To date we have raised $594,000 with more than 50 percent of our households increasing their commit‐ ments by an average of 11 percent. However, based on past giving and outstanding commitments the projected target for the Drive is $622,000, which the Board of Trustees has approved as our budget number for the fiscal year begin‐ ning on July 1. The Committee needs your help to raise the addi‐ tional $28,000 so we can fully fund our Congrega‐ tion. These funds will ensure that we are able to con‐ tinue to fulfill our mission through worship, religious education, music, small group ministries, social action, and much more. If you have not yet made your commitment please make it today‐ or if you are able to increase your com‐ mitment by any amount. For additional information on this year's Annual Fund Drive and for an online pledge form, visit our website: www.unitytemple.org. Thank you for your continued support of our Congre‐ gation! If you have any questions, feel free to contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or David Wilke, Di‐ rector of Administration at email@example.com.
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FROM THE COMMUNITY MINISTER
Rev. Clare Butterfield
Clare@faithinplace.org trange doings in the world of public policy lately make me think it’s not a bad use of this column for May to update you. For those who didn’t yet hear, the bill requiring disclosure of the contents of any natural gas hydraulic fracturing formula that Faith in Place put forward passed the Illinois State Senate unanimously in April. Thanks to the many people from Unity Temple who joined us in Springfield (they had fun – ask them!) and signed postcards, and called. At time of writing there was still plenty of work to do in the Illinois House, so if you haven’t called your state representative asking them to pass Senate Bill 664, now is a good time to do that. More information on all this can be found at the Faith in Place home page (www.faithinplace.org). Bringing a bill through the General Assembly has been an adventure for all of us in How Things Work. Another one arrived the other morning in Chicago, when an ordinance offered by Ald. Joe Moore that would require the clean‐up or shut‐down of Chicago’s two ancient and dirty coal plants was supposed to come up for a vote in committee. A large coalition of organizations had been working on this ordinance for some time (Faith in Place has tried to do its part in that, though other groups have done much more). By Thursday, April 21, they believed they had the 26 votes needed to pass the ordinance. When the crowd of supporters arrived at the City Council chambers on Thursday morning they found it full of Midwest Generation employees (most of whom were from plants outside the city – only about 200 people work at the city plants, and only 20 percent of those are from the communities where the plants are located). The employees, in uniform and hardhats, were reportedly even blocking the doors to the chambers and reserving empty seats for colleagues who somehow never emerged from the restroom. Supporters had to stand out in the hall. The two chairs of the environment committee, neither of whom supports the ordinance, then announced that they would table the issue until after the new administration is in place. Events like this are best viewed through the tragic‐ ironic lens, but with as much sense of tragedy as irony. A
very big slice of America seems to be refusing to adapt to the new place in which we find ourselves. Change may be scary, because it’s unpredictable, but it’s sometimes wonderful. How do we feed each other’s courage – call each other out into the new and maybe beautiful world that is coming? Looks like we still have some work to do, especially in Chicago.
FROM THE INTERIM MEMBERSHIP DIRECTOR
From Tina Lewis
firstname.lastname@example.org elcoming Sunday always makes me cry. It never fails, as soon as I hear the beginning of "Come, Sing a Song with Me," I turn to mush. Though I managed to maintain my composure, the April Welcoming Sunday was a particularly moving experience for me. I knew I would be in a risky situation. The sound of everyone singing, greeting new members with a rose, and all the happily hugging people would surely cause me to be overcome by emotion. Somehow, I did not require an emergency tissue or need to be excused at an inappro‐ priate time, however, I was feeling every bit of the usual mushiness that I always feel when we welcome new people into our religious community. It was truly a beautiful and meaningful morning. The celebration dinner that followed in the evening was equally wonderful. Everything worked out just perfect. Of course, things could not have worked out "just perfect" without the time and energy of volunteers in the congregation. Many thanks to those people who worked hard to make Welcoming Sunday a pleasure: Rev. Clare Butterfield, Rev. Scott Lewis, Mona McNeese, Mary Ellen Munley, Mark Robinson, Sue Anderson, Rob and Laurie Bellmar, Lisa Gariota, Hilary Gray, Tom and Sunny Hall, Margaret Klemundt, Allen McVey, Christine Steyer, Sue Stock, Joan Van Note, Jennifer Walters, Vera Dowell, Charlie Rossiter, Jane Ditelberg, Jan Johnston, Bonnie and Stephen Jordan Collette Clark, Brian Hance, Allen Van Note, Diane Maciejewski, Gary Wilson, Alison Price, and David and Luis Osorio. Your efforts are greatly appreciated. Thank you.
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NOMINATIONS FOR UTUUC BOARD OF TRUSTEES
The Nominating Committee is pleased to present the following members of our congregation as candidates for the UTUUC Board of Trustees. If elected by vote of the Congregation at the Annual Meeting on May 22, 2011, they will serve a 3‐year term beginning July 1, 2011 and ending on June 30, 2014. LARRY STUDER Larry Studer was sampling religions in 1993 when he began attending the Beacon UU Church. Larry continued to attend after Beacon merged with UTUUC and has been a member since 1994. He has taught classes in the RE Program for 15 years and considers the experience to be very satisfying. He’s had the rather unique experience of daughter Caroline being in his classes K‐6, and daugh‐ ter Julia K‐8. He now serves on the Religious Education Committee and plans to continue teaching. Larry lived in Oak Park for 32 years in a house that his wife Carol and he restored several times over a number of years. In 2006 Larry and his family moved into a new house in Elmhurst. He was surprised to find out that new homes require projects, too. Larry has worked in the corporate aviation business for 37 years and has held technical and managerial posi‐ tions with large corporations. His aviation experiences have been challenging, demanding, and rewarding. He served on several technical boards and the National Busi‐ ness Aviation Association Technical Committee. He vol‐ unteers time working at the Elmhurst Food Pantry two days a week. Larry enjoys working with daughter Julia and her team during softball season. Larry appreciates being nominated to the Board of Trustees. He looks forward to working with the board in serving the needs of our congregation. KRISTINA ENTNER Kristina Entner began attending UTUUC in 1999. She was drawn into the building by its famous exterior, only to discover that what happened inside was what was truly extraordinary and revolutionary. She has been a member of the congregation for about 8 years. Kristina has been a member of the Green Sanctuary Committee for several years and has chaired the committee since 2009. She has also assisted in her daughters’ RE classes throughout the years and worked on Social Mission Sun‐ days for all Ages. Kristina is married to Ed Malone and has two daughters, Hannah and Marlena. Kristina is the chair of the Whittier Elementary School Green Team and is active in the West Cook Pro Bono Network, a group of
attorneys who share their legal skills with the under‐ served. She also serves on the development committee for Faith in Place. Prior to her work at home and in the community, Kristina practiced law at Jenner & Block. JOSHUA DITELBERG Josh and his wife, Jane, have been members of Unity Temple since 2009. Coming from different religious back‐ grounds, they wanted to find a common spiritual home in which to raise their daughter, Claire. Josh and Jane have been delighted at how welcoming the congregation is at UT. Josh presently is serving as a member of the Worship Committee, the Personnel Committee, and as an Usher. He is a Partner at Seyfarth Shaw LLP in Chicago, specializing in labor and employment law. He has a BA and an MA from the University of Pennsylvania and a JD from the University of Michigan. Originally from the Bos‐ ton area, Josh moved to Chicago in 1996 after Jane (a St. Charles native) convinced him that it would be the best place to start their lives together. Nonetheless, Josh maintains a fierce allegiance to Boston, including Bos‐ ton's sports teams. He is somewhat horrified that Claire, having been taken to yearly Red Sox–White Sox games, has become a White Sox fan. ("But I'm from Chicago," says Claire, with devastating logic). Josh hopes to use his perspective as a relatively new UT member to look for ways to integrate new members into congregational life, and to strengthen overall membership. In addition, the Nominating Committee is presenting the UTUUC member JEFFREY STOCKER as a candidate for the UTRF Board of Trustees. If elected, he will serve a three‐year term.
Unity Temple Gives...
The generosity of our congregation is making a difference in people’s lives. Every Sunday our collection plate offerings are donated to a worthy charitable organization in support of our mission and values. During the month of March 2011, your weekly collection donations contributed the following amounts to these organizations: Lawyers Committee for Better Housing: $763.43 Parenthesis: $1104.35 UUA Fund for Japan Earthquake Relief: $2,009.95 Austin Scholarship Fund: $1091.94
Thank you for your generosity!
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ADULT RELIGIOUS ENRICHMENT
Movies with Meaning
The “ah‐ha” moment is when something makes sense in a new way or an insight is gained. “Movies with Meaning” is an ongoing Adult Religious Enrichment program that uses movies and group discussion to gain new insights into the human situation. A Latino father copes with the reality of his son’s sexuality and his own machismo. An American woman living in Australia tries to heal the racism in both her community and her family. A harsh and tyrannical nun uses any means at hand to defeat an adversary she considers pure evil. These characters and situations from three recent films in our series have helped us grow in both insight and empathy. Through film we encounter human realities we might not otherwise experience. Our next Movie with Meaning: Thursday, May 19 – The White Ribbon (2009) In a German village, the reasons behind a series of strange “accidents” threaten the authority of three of the community’s patriarchs, as a young school teacher tries to unravel the mystery beneath these events. (German with English subtitles/Rated R) Films screen at 6 p.m. and are followed by discussion at 8 p.m. For more information contact Scott Talbot Lewis at 708‐445‐1466.
Urgent: Please Return Registration Forms for 2011-12 Religious Education Classes
Though autumn seems far, far away, the Religious Education Committee will soon be planning for the 2011‐ 12 year. The curriculum, number of teachers and assis‐ tants recruited, classroom assignments, and materials ordered all depend on estimated enrollment and class sizes. You can make the Committee’s job easier—and the programs better!—by enrolling your child(ren) for the 2011‐12 year now. If you received in the mail a pre‐ printed registration form to enroll your child(ren), please complete and check the information and return it. If you haven’t received a form but anticipate your child(ren) participating in RE, please contact Tina Lewis at email@example.com. RE classes are open to mem‐ bers and non‐members alike (though different fees ap‐ ply). The more you do now, the better we can prepare for wonderful programming for the fall! Thank you!
Dedications on May 8
During the worship service on May 8, Rev. Emily Gage will officiate at a baby dedication. It's our Unitarian Uni‐ versalist tradition to bless our youngest and dedicate our religious community to helping raise and care for them. If you are a member of Unity Temple, and are interested in having your baby or child dedicated on May 8, please be in touch with Rev. Emily Gage. If you reach her during her maternity leave, you can be sure she will be back in touch immediately upon her return. Thank you!
Parents Support Group
UT families with special needs children meet on the third Tuesday of each month at 709 S. Oak Park Ave, Oak Park, at 7:30 p.m. Contacts are Carol DiMatteo or Tom Dunnington, 708‐524‐2859 or firstname.lastname@example.org.
Career Transition Outreach
Every Monday from 8:45 to 9:45 a.m. at Unity Temple, Diane Wilson, LCPC, and Brooke McMillan, LCSW, help those facing job loss and career uncertainty. This outreach helps participants manage the psychological and practical aspects of their job transition. Author of Back in Control, Wilson is a coach, counselor, and neurofeedback specialist. For more information email Diane.G.Wilson@gmail.com. No registration or fees.
Sixth Grade Fundraising Brunch May 15
The sixth grade classes will host a brunch immediately following the second service coffee hour in Unity House on May 15. Enjoy waffles or pancakes with a variety of toppings, meat, fruit salad, and a beverage of your choice. Adults $10 and kids $5. All proceeds will benefit charity. Tickets on sale at coffee hours. Contact is Jen Marling, email@example.com, Paula Spears at bol‐ firstname.lastname@example.org or Kathy Wyman at kathy‐ email@example.com.
On Wednesday, May 25, Marty Swisher, Music Director, will share thoughts about UTUUC’s music program. The Sages meet the fourth Wednesday of each month in the second floor Book Discussion Room of the Oak Park Public Library, from 11:30 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. Contacts are Joyce Marco, firstname.lastname@example.org, and Joan Van Note at 708‐705‐1428.
Knitting for Peace
Knitters meet on the second and fourth Saturdays of every month at 2 p.m. in the Gale House. Output is donated to the University of Chicago Hospital, Project Linus, and others who we personally are told are in need because of illness. Contact: Sarah Muller, email@example.com or 708‐763‐8736.
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FROM THE MUSIC DIRECTOR
Music in May at Unity Temple will offer some of its best efforts as we present two services presented by our youth on May 1 and 22. Planning has been underway for weeks by both our Sr. High and Middle School students in preparation for their unique and inspiring services. On May 8, we are proud to present the debut appearance of the Unity Temple Women's Ensemble. This is a non‐audition group comprised of women from the choir. We invite non‐choir members to join this ensemble that rehearses after choir rehearsals on Wednesday night. This group will appear three times a year and sing music "near and dear" to the causes of women. We are excited to announce that on May 15, the Unity Temple Choir accompanied by an instrumental chamber ensemble will present Requiem by John Rutter in its entirety. On May 7, the choir will retreat for a full day of preparation for this presentation. Dan Broner, conductor and Music Director from First Unitarian Society in Madison, Wisconsin, will serve as clinician for the morning followed by a lunch and final rehearsal with instrumentation. This is a beautiful work in seven movements with soprano soloists, organ, flute, harp, oboe, timpani, glockenspiel and cello. Harpist Stephen Hartman and oboist Deb Stevensen will join us once again with our own Jane Wood on flute and Peter Storms on organ. The ensemble will be completed by Jim Holland on timpani/glockenspiel and cellist Rich Lukes from the West Suburban Symphony. We invite you to be a part of this very special presentation. Meadeville Lombard Theological Seminary has once again invited the The Unity Temple Choir to sing at their commencement ceremony. The service will be held at The First Unitarian Church in Hyde Park at 3 p.m. on the afternoon of May 15. After singing the Rutter Requiem, the choir will travel to sing for this event, making for a very long day of service. It is gratifying to work with a team that chose to accept this invitation and that embodies the true spirit of dedication, inspiring those of us who work with them. How proud we are of all of you! We are thrilled to welcome saxophonist Cody Stocker as our featured soloist during the Coming of Age Services on May 22. Many of our youth will present their special talents on this day as well. We are so grateful to have all of them as part of our musical family to contribute to this very special worship experience.
Christine Steyer will once again grace our services with her poignant and lovely soprano voice on May 29. We are fortunate to have this outstanding professional as a member of Unity Temple. Our fourth Friday service, In the Style of Taize will be held on May 27. Harpist Steven Hartman will be featured as we continue this musical meditation. Attendance from our UU family as well as from non‐ members and guests is strong. The organization team is in need of a bit of a break so we have decided to suspend services for the summer months of June, July and August with plans to resume in September. We are looking for additional volunteers to help the continuance of this service and seek support for tech set‐up, musicians and service leaders. Please contact Music Director, Marty Swisher (firstname.lastname@example.org) if you are interested in securing the future of these services.
RACINE POET NICK DEMSKE AT 3RD SATURDAY COFFEEHOUSE
Nick Demske is a poet who lives in Racine, Wisconsin, and works at the Racine Public Library. His self‐titled manuscript was selected by Joyelle McSweeney for the 2010 Fence Modern Poets Series prize and was published in November of 2010. He has been a curator of the BONK! performance series, a founder of the Racquetball Chapbook Tournament and an editor of the online venue boo: a journal of terrific things. His work has appeared in Action Yes, Conduit, Sawbuck, Artful Dodge, PinStripe Fedora and other places. Takes place Saturday, May 21, in Unity House. Doors open 7:30 p.m., Open Mic at 8 p.m., featured performer at 9 p.m. Donation $3‐$5. Open mic limited to 5 minutes. Info at 708‐660‐9376.
TAIZÉ AT UNITY TEMPLE
Please join us again for Taizé Service in the Unity Temple Sanctuary, on Friday, May 27, at 7 p.m. This service offers a time for meditation, reflection, and renewal through music, brief words, and silence. Come sing, light a candle, and nurture your spirit during this non‐ traditional worship experience—and bring a friend. The service will conclude before 8 p.m. For more information, contact Marty Swisher, Music Director, at email@example.com.
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Reading #1 Psychologist Ronald Siegel, a leader in the field of mindfulness and psychotherapy, believes that as parents we are all too ready to convict ourselves of what he calls “parenting crimes.” In a talk on mindfulness and intimacy, Siegel notes that “Convicting ourselves of parenting crimes is rarely helpful,” because it leads to self‐hatred—and that self‐hatred can so easily lead us to judge or hate the child whose behavior triggered our “parenting crime.” Reading #2 “For me, as a mother, the ability to ‘recreate’ my relationship with my children is a redemptive con‐ cept.” (p. 15, How to Hug a Porcupine: Negotiating the Prickly Points of the Tween Years by Julie Ross). Discussion Questions 1. How hard on yourself are you when you judge yourself as a parent? If you are not a parent, how have you reacted when you’ve heard parents accuse themselves of “parenting crimes”? 2. Instead of convicting ourselves of parenting crimes, what are some other ways we could handle the mistakes we make as parents that might lead to more positive outcomes? 3. In the same talk quoted above, psychologist Ronald Siegel says, “Saying no to our kids means having to bear disconnection.” But our impulse is to try to reestablish that connection as soon as possible. As author Julie Ross says in the quote from her book, she believes that she can “redeem” herself when she makes mistakes as a parent because she can “recreate” her relationship with her children when what she has done seems to have damaged that relationship. What do you think of these ideas? Is it possible to say “no,” and still stay connected? Should parents try to learn to “bear disconnection”? Have you found ways of “recreating” relationships when what you’ve done seems to have damaged them? What have your experiences been? 4. Because this topic can so easily flood parents with memories of the moments we most regret, it might be important to bring some positive moments to mind as well. Can you recall a favorite memory with a child, a memory you treasure of a time with a child? What comes to your mind? What do you notice about these memories?
Closing Reading “Here’s how I saw it. You could look at each baby as a little Buddha or Zen master, your own private mindful‐ ness teacher, parachuted into your life, whose presence and actions were guaranteed to push every button and challenge every belief and limit you had, giving you continual opportunities to see where you were attached to something and to let go of it … the list of situations in which you will find your equanimity and clarity sorely challenged is endless … Your children will see your foibles, idiosyncrasies, warts and pimples, your inconsistencies, and your failures… These trials are not impediments to either parenting or to mindfulness practice. They are the practice, if you can remember to see them in this way.” (pp. 248‐251, Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life by Jon‐Kabat Zinn).
Join a Chalice Circle, weekdays or any day!
A new daytime, weekday Chalice Circle is forming. Scott Talbot Lewis will facilitate. In addition, there are 15 other Chalice Circles with many possible schedules and times for meeting. Chalice Circles create openings for trust, friendship, honesty, growth and reflection. They are a spiritual practice. We welcome adults of all ages. Be known as you are, join a group today. For information about joining any Chalice Circle or facilitator training contact Marge Entemann at firstname.lastname@example.org or 708‐445‐8544.
First Meeting Set for New Prayer Group
Are you interested in becoming part of a regular Prayer Group at Unity Temple? This new group will have its first meeting on Sunday, May 15th at 10 am, with the location to be announced. At that time we will select a regular time and meeting place. The emphasis of our meeting is to discuss modern prayer as a spiritual prac‐ tice and to practice prayer together. Discussions will in‐ clude the meaning of prayer for UUs and for you, the impact of prayer, forms of prayer, and more. All are wel‐ come, and may contact Scott Talbot Lewis at 708‐445‐ 1466 for further information.
Ex Libris Will Run Through June
The Used Book Fair garnered over $600, which will be used to bring more richness to the church's commit‐ ments. Books will be available at Ex Libris, the second and fourth Sundays of May and June. After a summer break, we will continue to offer books to widen and deepen your experience in our congregation.
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Open Dialogue on Peace
The Unity Temple Peace Committee, together with members of the congregation, developed a resolution that will be voted on at the upcoming annual meeting, Sunday, May 22. The resolution reads: As Unitarian Uni‐ versalists, we believe that we should work for a peaceful, fair, and free world. We are committed to the prompt withdrawal of troops from Iraq and Afghanistan. You will have a chance to raise your questions/and or concerns about the resolution at two open forums in May: Sunday, May 1, from 12:30 p.m. to 1 p.m. and Sun‐ day, May 8, from 12:30 p.m. to 1 p.m. Both forums will be held in Unity House. For more information contact: Ed White at email@example.com
SABBATICAL MINISTER FOR PASTORAL CARE
Scott Talbot Lewis
ach week we enact a ritual that is symbolic of an aspect of our faith. When we take time in our worship service to share personal experiences and feelings, we proclaim the importance of the individual in our religious community. We find the commonality in our humanity. We all understand the delight at the birth of a grandchild, just as surely as we perceive the fear and gravity that comes with serious illness. It’s a time of compassion and mutual affinity. Brevity is important. Many Sundays our Joys and Sorrows are many. I find that the essence of my concern can most effectively be shared in just a couple of sentences. Being succinct gives more impact to my thoughts and feelings. It seems best if I consider my words before I step up to the microphone. World events certainly are worthy of acknowledge‐ ment. Empathy for the suffering is a religious essential, but political controversy is a different matter. We often assume that Unitarian Universalists share one partisan viewpoint. That’s not fair, we proudly claim our love of diversity, but expect conformity on political posi‐ tions. Worship is a time to strengthen community not, challenge it. Getting the word out to publicize events or projects can be achieved in a variety of ways. Our newsletter, email messages and coffee hour tables provide excellent opportunities for communication with the members and friends of the church. These announcements can distract us from our desire to find a less worldly place within ourselves during worship. Worship is a contemplative and sacred time. Outside concerns can be stilled, the work‐a‐day world is with us so much, worship is separate. If you have a pastoral care need please contact Scott at firstname.lastname@example.org or 708‐250‐6810.
Join us on Sunday, May 1, for exercise, fresh air, and that great feeling you get when you help others. Kids love the accomplishment of both walking and helping—so make this a family event. Last year, our local CROP Walk raised $75,000 for food, disaster relief, and self‐help projects locally and world‐wide. You can participate by walking, sponsoring a walker, or just making a dona‐ tion. More details at the Social Mission table during Coffee Hour or online at www.oakparkhungercropwalk.org or contact Mike Delonay or Colleen Keleher.
Community Renewal Society Springfield Lobby Day on May 10
Community Renewal Society is a progressive, faith‐ based organization working to eliminate race and class barriers. Founded in 1882, Community Renewal informs, organizes and trains both communities and individuals to advocate for social and economic justice. This Lobby Day will focus on protecting Comprehensive Community Based Youth Services, which provides services for poor, at‐risk youth (especially children with incarcerated par‐ ents) and safeguarding the budget for the Department of Human Services, which supports the most vulnerable populations in our communities. Buses leave for Springfield at 6 a.m. with one depar‐ ture location near Oak Park. There is no cost and a free lunch will be provided! We will have orange t‐shirts for everyone to wear, which you can keep for $9. Contact Alan VanNote at email@example.com or Rich Pokorny at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
Celebrate Scott’s Ordination! Members and friends of the Unity Temple Unitarian Uni‐ versalist Congregation are invited to attend the ordina‐ tion of Scott Talbot Lewis on Sunday, May 1, at 4 p.m., at the Unitarian Universalist Church of Rockford, 4848 Turner Street in Rockford, IL.
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UNITY TEMPLE RESTORATION FOUNDATION
The most important restoration projects are those that help secure and stabilize the “building envelope”—repairing the concrete roof slabs and walls and the conservation of the art glass. Fundraising efforts focus on these top priority projects, which require $5 to $7 million. Additionally, we continue to seek funding for the “green” geothermal interior climate control system. Construction drawings for the entire system are now complete. This spring, we will begin work on an art glass restoration project, restoring a portion of the tall, narrow windows in the sanctuary with a grant from The Richard H. Driehaus Foundation.
Summer Leaders: Proposals Due May 20
If you are interested in leading a summer worship service please submit a proposal, including a title, summary of your message, description of your ideas for the service, and a brief explanation of your motivation for leading the service. Also include dates you are available between July 3 and September 4. Questions about planning a service should be directed to Rev. Scott Talbot Lewis. Email pro‐ posals to Ken Hooker, email@example.com or place it in the Worship folder in the office closet by May 20.
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Programs That Support the Restoration
UTRF offers programs to introduce a larger audience to Unity Temple’s significance and its urgent need for restoration. This helps to deepen the public’s engagement with Unity Temple and the work of Unity Temple Restoration Foundation. UTRF’s programs are funded by general operating grants from The MacArthur Fund for Arts & Culture at The Richard H. Driehaus Foundation and the Illinois Arts Council.
Writers at Wright | Roy Blount: Alphabetter Juice: Or, The Joy of Text, Thursday, May 12, 2011, 7 pm, $10* Rather than proper English, Wait, Wait...Don't Tell Me's Roy Blount, Jr., prescribes an "over‐the‐counter" melange of a language, unearthing a slew of factoids, fripperies, and flabbergasting phenomena that will change the way you speak ‐‐ or misspeak. Books will be available for purchase and signing. Blount is a frequent panelist on NPR’s Wait, Wait… Don’t Tell Me. *Each ticket stub may be redeemed for $10 off the price of Alphabetter Juice on the night of the event.
REGISTRATION OPEN ‐‐ Prairie School Adventures | Printmaking Magic, July 18‐22, 2011, 9am‐12pm, $185/195 The colors, textures, and light of Frank Lloyd Wright’s Unity Temple will inspire your kids. Campers explore the magical methods of making colorful monotype prints, from sketching and mixing inks to using an actual printing press to create one‐ of‐a‐kind works of art. Grades 2‐6.
REGISTRATION OPEN ‐‐ Prairie School Adventures | Art Glass, Wright & Nature, July 25‐29, 2011, 9am‐12pm, $165/175 With nature and Wright as inspiration, campers create their own art glass window designs in translucent Mylar and present them in a group exhibit. Grades 2‐6.
Break :: the :: Box | Chef Gale Gand: Homage to Frank Lloyd Wright & A Cooking Demonstration, Thursday, September 15, 2011, 7:30 pm, Ticket Price TBD
Break :: the :: Box | Third Coast International Audio Festival: Sound Evoking Space, Thursday, November 10, 2011, 7:30 pm, Ticket Price TBD
From Tina Lewis: “Lay Leadership as a Spiritual Discipline.” The emphasis in the workshop was to encourage people to consider changing their feelings, attitude and perspectives toward doing the nuts and bolts work of the church; to work on creating healthy energy around the work that needs to be done. Though we hold different beliefs about God, our church community engages us in a sacred something that nurtures our souls or sacred part. Spirituality is being alive and open to life as opposed to withdrawn. Spiritual practices enable us to deepen our life experience. From Margaret Kelmundt: “Personal Transforma‐ tion in a Large Church.” Large congregations are both blessed and cursed by their growth. One of the downsides of expansion in membership is that as congregations grow, leadership is required to devote much more of our energy to what I think of as macro issues; space planning, financial analysis, large scale programming, management of professional staff, etc. Given these realities, it is understandable that we at times can lose focus of our real mission or reason for being. “Growth, expanding budgets, building programs and such trappings of success matter only if they reflect positive transformation in the lives of the people touched by the congregations’ work.” (Dan Hotchkiss) We need to keep our focus on such questions as, “How shall we change the lives of those who walk the journey with us?” and “What do we do early on in an individual’s contact with UTUUC to increase the likelihood that they sooner or later will find our community to be personally transformative?” Despite the size of UTUUC, our first order of business is to lay the foundation for the types of personal transformation that ultimately allow us to accomplish our mission. We will follow through on these thoughts over the next year as we seek to refine our mission and focus our vision. We will need to find ways to share our thinking and reflection with each other. I’m certainly looking forward to engaging the process. Come to the Annual Meeting on May 22.
EVENTS NOT TO MISS T HIS MONTH
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May 1 May 1 & 8 May 6 May 10 May 14 & 28 May 15 May 15 & 22 May 19 May 21 May 22 May 25 May 27
CROP Walk Scott Talbot Lewis Ordination 4 p.m., UU Church of Rockford Open Forums on Peace Resolution 12:30 p.m., Unity House Teacher Appreciation Dinner 6 p.m., Unity House Community Renewal Society Spring field Lobby Day Knitting for Peace 2 p.m., Gale House 6th Grade Pancake Fundraiser 12:15 p.m., Unity house Introduction to UU 1 p.m., Unity House Movie: Why We Fight 1 p.m., Gale House Pathways to Membership 1 p.m., Unity House Movie with Meaning: The White Ribbon (2009) 6 p.m., Unity House 3rd Saturday Coffeehouse 7:30 p.m., Unity Temple Annual Meeting 12:30 p.m., Unity Temple Sanctuary Purple Sages (Senior Women) 11:30 a.m., Oak Park Library Taizé Service 7 p.m., Sanctuary
Board of Trustees
Duane Dowell President Ian Morrison Vice President Margaret Ewing Secretary Glenn Brewer Treasurer Jean Borrelli Betsy Davis Nina Gegenheimer Jay Peterson David Ripley Diane Scott Jennifer Walters Polly Walwark
For all calls, please dial 708‐848‐6225 and then your party’s extension:
Rev. Alan C. Taylor, Senior Minister On sabbatical through June 30, 2011 Rev. Emily Gage, Minister of Faith Development ext. 103 firstname.lastname@example.org Rev. Scott Talbot Lewis, Sabbatical Pastoral Care Minister 708‐250‐6810 email@example.com Tina Lewis, Interim Membership Director ext. 102 firstname.lastname@example.org David Wilke, Director of Administration ext. 100 email@example.com Martha Swisher, Music Director firstname.lastname@example.org Heather Godbout, Youth Coordinator ext. 107 email@example.com Meridian Herman, Rental Manager ext. 108 firstname.lastname@example.org Sule Kivanc‐Ancieta, Preschool Coordinator Janet Krumm, Nursery Coordinator David Osorio, Sexton Rito Salinas, Sexton Peter Storms, Accompanist Jennifer Flynn, Publications Assistant ext. 105 email@example.com Tracy Zurawski, Bookkeeper ext. 104 firstname.lastname@example.org
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At www.unitytemple.org/calendar you can find real‐ time listings of everything occurring at Unity Temple as well as schedule rooms. Select Add Event at the top of the calendar and complete the web form. You will receive an email when your UTUUC event as been confirmed.
BEACON Newsletter Submissions
June 2011 Beacon submissions are due at 10 a.m. on May 23. If you are promoting an event or group, please use the publications submission link on the lower left‐ hand side of the Unity Temple homepage, www.unitytemple.org. Questions and inquiries an be directed to email@example.com.
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UTUUC Youth Service and Bridging Ceremony Offering: Trinity Boy Choir, Port‐Au‐Prince, Haiti May 8
Coming of Age
Rev. Emily Gage Offering: Parenthesis May 27 at 7 p.m.
Beyond Light Bulbs: Covenant and Collective Action
Matt Meyer Offering: Trinity Boy Choir, Port‐Au‐Prince, Haiti May 15
Taizé at Unity Temple
Love In Action
Andrew Harvey Offering: Sarah’s Inn
A Choral Service: Requiem
Mary Swisher Offering: Maywood Fine Arts Fund
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