Social Superstar

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SOCIAL SUPERSTAR: Best of TSB Magazine Vol. 1 Table of Contents
Introduction Part 1: The Confidential Social Intelligence Manuscript Part 2: The Best of TSB Magazine Section One: The Dating Articles 5 Keys to Playing the Role of Being Wanted 10 Lessons for Successfully Hooking Up Emulate a Celebrity for Instant Rapport Using an Opinion Opener to Initiate Conversation Being Comfortable Talking Dirty 10 Ways a Girl Can Keep a Guy Like Me Keeping Cool and Plowing On How to Talk to Younger Women Going Caveman on Women Never Show Emotion When She Walks Away 5 Tips for Lasting Longer in Bed How to Get Better in Bed Having Trouble Getting Hard Wimps into Winners Ultimate MySpace Jealousy Tool Aim Lower PUA Openers, Openers, Openers How to Calm Your Sexual Neediness Are You the Man or Just the Fan? 107 109 113 115 118 120 123 125 127 129 131 133 135 140 145 146 147 150 151 9 106

Section Two: The Inner Game Articles The Hero, the Bounty, and the Purpose Driven Life


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Integrity Makes a Man The Great Gatsby Complex Build it, and They Will Come Why You Shouldn’t String Girls Along The Anatomy of the Sickness Living with Passion 7 Secrets for Getting Out of a Slump Can You Control Your Emotions Like Arod Going Down in Flames Bust Through Your Comfort Zone

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Section Three: Alpha Living Articles 10 Ways to Immediately Make Yourself More Attractive 3 Tips for Abs of Steel A Manly Guide to Choosing Your Drink 7 Steps to Naturally Boost Your Testosterone How to Naturally Increase Energy How to Redo Your Wardrobe Winning the Day 1 College Roommate Wars 187 191 194 197 199 203 213

Section Four: The Stories The Buenos Aires Hooker Juice Incident Fortaleza Nights (Part 1) Fortaleza Nights (Part 2) Ten Years After I Took Her Virginity My First Piece of MySpace Pussy The Return of a Pickup Artist (Part 2) 216 222 226 229 233 240

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Snowballed Hotel Room High The Early Days: Experimenting With Speed Seduction The Falling in Love Pattern Don’t Buy the Cheap Sex Toys The Drunken Night in Medellin Story

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Section Five: 31 Days to Better Game Day 1: Designing Your Life Day 2: Developing Inner Game Day 3: Updating Your Look Day 4: Always be Advertising Day 5: Being High Status Day 6: How to be a Good Flirt Day 7: Approaching and Opening Women Day 8: Improving Conversation Skills Day 9: How to Build Comfort Day 10: Being Funnier… Day 11: Push Pull/Cocky Funny Day 12: Body Language 101 Day 13: Building Your Social Circle Day 14: How to Properly Tease a Woman Day 15: Creating a MySpace and Facebook Profile Day 16: Tips for Flirting Online Day 17: Phone Game Strategy Day 18: Text Game for the PUA Day 19: How to Go on First Dates Day 20: How to Get a Day Two

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Day 21: Building Sexual Tension Day 22: Preparing Your Bachelor Pad Day 23: Quick Lesson in Kino Day 24: Body Language 202 Day 25: Being the Badboy Day 26: Friend into Lover (part 1) Day 27: Friend into Lover (part 2) Day 28: Managing a Relationship Day 29: Tips for Getting Better in Bed Day 30: Ending a Fling or Relationship Day 31: Perform a SWOT Analysis on Yourself Index

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This book is five years in the making! Who was there for the red and black days? For those that just came on board recently, the red and black days refers to the early days of TSB when it had a blood red header with a black background and white text. And Mike and I thought the site looked hot. Putting this book together brought back many memories. I had to search through over 1,500 articles to choose the very best. The evolution of the site, in a way, represents the evolution of both the life of me, and the life of Michael Stoute. We wanted to make this book a diverse look at the four years leading up to its publication. Instead of focusing solely on dating articles, stories, or self help type articles, we chose to break the book up into six parts. These six parts are a great representation of TSB Magazine, as well as Bobby Rio and Michael Stoute- the men behind the magazine. Another reason we chose to break the book up into four parts is because we think you will get more value of it that way. There are articles in here that will help you with all aspects of your life. For instance, if you bought this book for the pickup advice, you might be pleasantly surprised in six months to read some articles about fitness, fashion, or inner game, you may have missed earlier when you ‘re were concentrating solely on devouring all things pickup. The six parts of this book are as follows: Part 1: The Confidential Social Intelligence Manuscript This is our never before released manuscript for becoming a social superstar. This manuscript was first created over 10 years ago. Over the past 10 years it has been tested and refined. This contains everything you need to know to climb to the top of any social ladder. Part 2: The Best of TSB Magazine

The Essential Dating Articles

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Going through our huge library of dating, pickup, relationship and sex articles, I found it tough to choose “the best” so I decided to choose articles that give you a well rounded approach to improving your dating life. Most of these articles came out Mike’s and my own personal experience of improving our dating life. It wasn’t a quick and easy ride for either one of us… we hope that these articles will make your ride a little less bumpy.

The Inner Game Articles
These are some of the articles that mean the most to me. Through the many phases I’ve gone through as a person during the five years we were creating this magazine… these articles resonate with every period. The topics transcend dating advice, as the entire core principles can be applied to any area of your life, and I am confident you’ll see a marked improvement. This section is also the most timeless… as long after the days you are married with children… I hope that you still pick up this section of the book and reread some of these articles and find inspiration from them.

The Alpha Living Articles
Like the Inner Game articles I chose to include these Alpha Living articles because they too, are timeless. These are articles that you can read when you’re a sixty year old man, and still learn something from. Whether you’re interested in getting in shape, maximizing your energy, or just learning the art of ordering a man’s drink in the bar… you’ll find the information in this section. Alpha Living is a way of life that you’ll hopefully continue throughout your lifetime. It is about fulfilling your dreams… and doing so in style.

Stories, Tales, Lies, and Exaggerations
The fun stuff! Over the past five years, Mike Stoute and I have chronicled our stories on TSB. These are the stories that made Bobby and Mike the men they’ve become. You’ll read some inspiring stories… and other stories that display our humiliation. Some stories will educate you… other stories will entertain you… and other stories will have you asking “why the hell did I ever take advice from these guys?”

31 Days to Better Game
31 Days to Better game was an extremely popular series we ran at TSB Magazine where we presented a different lesson every day that would

I think you’ll enjoy this section a lot. There are 31 lessons that walk you through many different areas of game. Whether you’re a novice or an experienced PUA.The Best of TSBMAG. 8 . I believe that you can get something out of following the 31 day plan. The lessons were brought to you by some of the best dating coaches. bloggers. and gurus. all giving their unique perspective on improving certain areas of game.COM help you improve your dating life.

Social Superstar Confidential Social Intelligence Manuscript Table of Contents Introduction Chapter 1: What defines a superstar? Chapter 2: Image is everything (authority + social proof) Chapter 3: The 10 Second Impression (authority + social proof) Chapter 4: Building Your Social Resume (authority + social Proof) Chapter 5: The Attitude (liking + scarcity) Chapter 6: Be Captivating (liking + scarcity + authority) Chapter 7: Cultivate a fan base (commitment + liking + reciprocation) 9 .

It was around 2002 and that I found the underground seduction will never have the need to cold approach again. It works. And with those friends and fans… women will naturally follow. This manuscript is about building an empire of friends and fans. This manuscript was first conceived while I was back in college. The only reason I have not released it up until now is because many of the strategies contained in this manuscript I have personally used within some of my current social circles. This manuscript is not going to teach how to be the world's best pick-up artist.into a group of men who threw 400+ people parties. which focused on the psychology of influence. Everything in this manuscript has been tested and refined. We took the teaching of Dr. Robert Ciaduini. One of my friends and I attended a private seminar held by social scientist Dr. It was at this point that I took the original manuscript and began altering it to include some more of the hidden techniques of some of the world's best pick-up artists. If you follow the guidance of this manuscript. After graduating college I took the principles originally constructed and altered them a bit for "the real world. Pick-up artists are usually defined by their ability to cold approach a random woman and quickly close her. 10 ." I found them to be even more effective. Ciaduini. At that point I was just coming out of a relationship and began studying the art of seduction.COM Introduction This manuscript has been developed over the past 10 years. and were even featured on prime time news for our antics at the Homecoming day parade. and we applied to the realm of climbing the social ladder. The teachings in this manuscript transformed my friends back at Montclair State University from relative nobodies.The Best of TSBMAG.

When you think of social superstars. Now I want you to spend a minute writing down the different characteristics of them that jumped out at you. Tom Brady. While simply copying their characteristics will not land you roles in motion pictures. or Johnny Depp. First. They will want to be associated with them. These characteristics are the blue print for social superstardom. Once you have a clear picture of them in your mind. charming. Tommy Lee. within your specific social scene. Envision the way the carry themselves. Listen to the way they construct their conversations. Right now. Spend a minute to get a clear picture of them in your mind. posture. What aspects of them are unique and unlike the many others you come in contact with who don’t possess their charisma? 11 .who come to mind? Maybe you know a few guys personally who have this characteristic? Or maybe you immediately think of a guy like George Clooney. People will naturally want to be around them. and sense of personal style. there are certain characteristic that they all share. You should picture their specific body language. or have you quarterbacking in the Super Bowl -it will have you commanding the power and respect these guys have. focus on specific aspects of them. or simply enigmatic. energy.Social Superstar Chapter 1: What Defines A Superstar? So you want to be a Social Super star? And live large? Some guys are just born with inane gift to control the energy of any room they enter. and vitality that the social superstar produces. Listen to the way they talk. hear the way their voice sounds when it comes out of their mouths. Other people want to drink in the enthusiasm. These guys will often be referred to as charismatic. I would like you to take the time to think about the guys you have met in your personal life who have best exemplified the image of social superstar. No matter how different the external image of these guys may seem. Listen to the way they use humor casually.

and why you want to become it. by understanding that there is nothing unique inside of these menyou'll know that you too are capable of reaching their level. and ideally onto a greater stage. It has everything to do with the way that people react to them. you'll realize that by using the principles of persuasion and influence. Write down the desire that women had toward them. 12 . Hear the way people speak about them when they were not around. is because it is my way of outlining the goal for this manuscript. Envision the look on people’s faces when they walk into a room. The Reaction They Receive What you must first understand going forward is that what causes these men to rise to the level of social superstar has nothing to do with what is inside of them. The reason that I have asked you to write down both the specific characteristics of these men and the specific ways in which people reacted to them. In fact. Imagine the way a woman would react to one of their advances. And second.The Best of TSBMAG. Try to describe the energy that these social superstars instilled in others around them. Over the course of this manuscript you will learn to use the principles of persuasion and influence to climb to the highest level of any social ladder. First. Now spend a minute writing down the different ways in which people react to them. I want you to envision the way other people react to them. If you want to become a Social can manipulate the reaction you receive by others. fundamentally it has nothing to do with them at all. you must first have a clear goal of what you are trying to become. In the following chapters I will delve much deeper into the process you must go through to elevate yourself to Social Superstar status amongst your social scene. I will repeat this phrase for emphasis: It has everything to do with the way that people react to them. the envy that other people felt towards them. You can't become a superstar if you don't have fans propping you up. Imagine the way their entourage would follow one of their commands. Or the energy that is sucked out of the room when they depart. Try to capture in words. This is important for you to fully comprehend this for two main reasons.COM After you have jotted down a list of the distinct characteristics I want you to dig a little deeper.

The image you present to the world should establish you an authority on your scene. Because if you’re waiting for them to dictate what you can wear. Your image should also convey social proof. They don’t flag you down. trendy. The SL500 Mercedes convertible. The Porsche. or hip. and say “look at me” But these are the cars you look at because of their reputation. The Plan: Image is everything. In this chapter you just need to recognize that by being trendy and fashionable you are presenting yourself as having a high level of social intelligence. It is how you carry yourself. These cars are sitting right alongside of hundreds of other cars. what cars catch your attention? The Ford Taurus? The Toyota Corolla? No. You need to know what the current trends are before most everyone else. These cars have a presence and if you want to be a social superstar you need to have just as powerful of a presence. The Corvette. The 745i are actively involved with "cooler" social circles. their fine details. When you walk into a parking lot. You need to dress fashionably. You have to be ahead of them with the trends. They don’t yell out for your attention. or what music 13 .Social Superstar Chapter 2: Image is everything (Authority + Social Proof) Your objective: The objective of creating an image is to establish both authority and social proof. Think like this. You can’t wait for your peers to tell you what to like. But you notice these cars. People will automatically assume that since you have the social intelligence to stay fashionable. and their alluring Image. Your image should sub consciously tell the people within your scene that you are the person to look up to for determining what is cool.

You want to copy their style from their day to day life. Celebrities pay fashion consultants thousands of dollars to keep them trendy… there is no reason not to take advantage of the lessons they teach with every outfit they wear. If you’re the artsy music type choose someone from a popular band. This is the basis of who you are in the public eye. Choose someone in their twenties.The Best of TSBMAG. But it is also important to pick someone who fits the style you are going after. Everything else can be second hand. I always suggest modeling yourself after a celebrity that you most resemble or whose style you would like to emulate. You’re right. chances are by the time you’re wearing it. If you’re going for a preppy look choose someone like Matt Damon. But the sneakers must be the real deal. The examples I’m giving may be outdated by the time you read this. It isn’t called “being trendy” for nothing. money. A solid pair of kicks is your best investment. or they have friends that are keenly aware telling them what is going on. You can also start putting more of your focus. Social Superstars know what the current trends are because they are keenly aware of what is going on. If you’re more of the athlete type choose someone like Tom Brady or Tony Romo. But what you can do is mimic the clothes by purchasing similar outfits of less expensive brands. You can’t. it’s out of style. what you see in the gossip magazines. You need to be up to date with the trends. Another option that I’ve done is go to thrift shops or Salvation Army stores with clip outs of outfits you want to put together. Instead of dropping $60 on a new video game… buy a pair of the trendiest sneakers you can find. You don’t want to copy their style from a movie. If you’re going after the “bad ass” look you would want to choose someone like Colin Farrell. If you don’t have “cool” friends then you need to be following fashionable websites. and magazines to know what the trends are.COM you can listen to. You are probably thinking that you can’t afford the clothes they are wearing. and energy toward you image. Spend $100 if you have to. blogs. You can by a whole new wardrobe for like $50. Generally I recommend picking a celebrity you most resemble. Choose someone who is well known and followed in the media. And once they’ve run their course and 14 . When it comes to creating your image.

But for remainder of this chapter I want to give you some more hints on how to make your image more appealing. In other words. * Pay attention to how you walk. Your posture should make you appear to be confident and at ease with your surroundings. In the next chapter. A sincere. you’re not paying too much attention to any one person) . You may cast a glance. knowing when not to speak. Even if you’re not at ease.esteem and confidence. * If you’re white.Social Superstar gone out of style. automatically paints you as a person of high self. * What is your mind set? You are in a situation that requires a strong focus on tact and diplomacy. tears down people’s walls. knowing when to speak. body language. work on maintaining a healthy tan. and stand. * Flaunt a sincere. Meaning. The Elements of Image and Charisma Here are some other tips to enhance your presence and image . But image is more than just wearing trendy clothes. And if you don’t have a high 15 . and knowing how to carry yourself throughout. your goal is to give off the impression that you’re a prestigious person accustomed to ranking high in social circles .and that’s because you feel that there is nobody worthy of your attention.not even the blonde-bombshell walking by can shake this poise. In a world where most people lack a high level of self-respect. People around you WILL notice this and subconsciously decide that you ARE a person of prestige. I am going to go into great detail about how to use things like physiology. but you’re too prestigious to stare.learn to read when it is called for. you’re never “star-struck” because you are the star. It is the total package. and when it’s not). pay attention to your posture so that it seems as though you are. sit. and posture to build immediate social proof. The 10 Second Impression. It breaks the ice. Buy a new pair. A good pair of sneakers or shoes is the cornerstone of a good wardrobe. and what to say when you speak. it is easy to stand out when you have it and it shows. * How do your eyes follow the crowd? As if you’re disinterested (meaning. In the end. friendly smile at strategic intervals (but don’t overdo it .from The 7 Elements of Charisma. tonality. friendly smile is a strong weapon. No sunshine? Find a nearby tanning salon.

you ask yourself: How is this person going to interpret my next few words? What kind of effect are they going to have? What effect is it that I’m going for? Will I sound like I know what I’m talking about? Or will I sound like a fool? Will I sound confident? Or will I sound cocky? Will I sound sincere. You need to give off the impression that you are an important person and are considered an important person by others. like most). you’ll be prejudged as probably being a thug. Notice that we used the word “probably” in the above paragraph? We use the word “probably” to represent the other person’s expectations. then fake it. now it’s that much easier to give it to them. * Before speaking to a person. Most people don’t understand the charismatic persona and can only assume that it comes naturally to some people. By themselves. Charisma opens many doors and will get you into many places otherwise far off limits. you will be prejudged as a person who is probably charismatic and worthy of respect and even admiration. And if you look like a charismatic person used to respect and even admiration. In the chapter on attitude I will give you tips to help the right attitude to come naturally to you. you’re using this instinct to your advantage (which most people can’t control because they’re unaware that it is something happening in their subconscious). And because they expect it.something that we practice in our daily encounters with others until it is developed over time. it is an acquired art . It is a very influential tool when you want something. these simple details regarding a positive. it’s that much easier to create the effect that you’re after. This is what he or she expects. you’ll be prejudged as probably being gay. And now you’ve created “presence.the trick to faking it is to fake it with sincerity (this will be repeated further along).” When creating a charismatic image. Here’s an analogy: If you look like a thug. someone who listens more than he speaks? Or will I seem as though I talk too much and therefore am not a good conversationalist? 16 . You need to always be conscious of how you appear to other people. If you look like your gay.COM level of self-respect (again. Once you’ve been prejudged. or will I sound fake? Will I come across as a good conversationalist. For the rest of us. Maybe for a very rare and select few. but when packaged together they merge for great effect.The Best of TSBMAG. Many elements make up Image. Take note . prestigious selfimage don’t accomplish much. presence is but one.

This means even when you are not actively engaged in a conversation you need to present you best image. 17 . These articles should provide a nice foundation for becoming a better conversationalist.hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself. elusive. * Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease . act effortlessly.. Below are some tricks you need to convey: * Never seem to be in a hurry . Remember. or hurts your image in any other way.’).” as used here.. Never let them see you sweat. What you say doesn’t have to be perfect.tsbmag. * Practice being subtle (”subtle. Cloak your focus on the elements (which will more than likely seem intense when you first start practicing the art) by being confident on the outside and relaxed on the inside. as if you could do much more. a coward.Social Superstar The above advice is sound. * Always seem patient. or if it makes you sound like a about building conversation skills. but you don’t want to fall into the trap of constantly being inside your head worried about what you are going to say. You just want to think for a brief second if what you are saying conveys confidence and when you act. you are being watched at all times. and over time. means ‘So slight as to be difficult to detect or analyze. You need to be a good conversationalist. If you don’t have any clue what makes a good conversationalist read through some of the articles on http://www. as if you know that everything will come to you eventually.

Your 3 second judgment so far is positive. In less than a minute your entire perception of him has changed. he is of above average looks. The non-verbal communication you present to the world should establish you an authority on your scene. but those around you appear to respect you and look up to you. but so has every girl's who was 18 . As you sip your beer you are making 10 second judgments on everyone that passes your table. The combination of these three attributes you will provide you with the requisite social proof you need. and an expensive watch. the guy just stands there. Not only has your perception of him changed. a stylish haircut. You are observing everything that is going on around you. and neither of them has squeezed over an inch to let him in. nervously rubbing his chin. While the bartender is serving a girl on the other end of the bar. It should convey that you are comfortable as the leader. and squished.The Best of TSBMAG. Your non-verbal communication should sub consciously tell the people within your scene that you are used to being treated well.COM Chapter 3: The 10 Second Impression (authority + social proof) Your Objective: The objective of manipulating your non-verbal communication is to establish both authority and social proof. slouched down. There is a person to his right and left. And it should present you as a man with high social intelligence. You are not only completely comfortable within your scene. He keeps timidly putting a finger up to get the bartender's attention. Your Plan: Imagine that you're sitting at a table in a crowded bar. The man walks up to the bar. avoiding eye contact with the other patrons. trendy jeans. The bartender is busy and the man is forced to wait there for his drink a moment. A man walks by. wearing a nice button down shirts.

Yes. Everything we've gone over in the preceding chapters regarding creating the look of a superstar is important.Social Superstar eying him down as he walked by. but you also must take away any last hint of doubt. their walks. and which of the students were bound to be eating their lunch alone in the cafeteria. He claims that in today's marketplace. in which he talks about how the best marketers create a short pitch that is so powerful that it is almost impossible not to buy. 19 . the proof. But that is not enough to be a superstar. It is all prominently on display by the way they carry themselves. you have extremely limited time to catch the public's attention. We've talked about how it is important that you always present your best self. and the amount of eye contact that they make with other students. We've already discussed fashion. "The Irresistible Offer" is the title of a book by Mark Joyner. You wouldn't have to speak to a single one of them. and your sex life. in your best outfit. within minutes you would be able to tell which of the students were of the popular crowd. If you walked into any high school in America. you must dress fashionable and cool. That guy… standing alone waiting for his drink. your social intelligence. tan. But you must be aware that there is more at play then how you are dressed up. You need to not only present them with the features." The Irresistible Offer This means that you need to be completely congruent in all areas of your identity. you must present your physical attributes in the best possible light. and physical appearance. Yes. Although all of the physical signs should be pointing to "cool" it is apparent that he is anything but. and has a body most guys would kill for… but he just looks uncomfortable and out of place. There are certain telling cues that allow people to make instant decisions about your level of self esteem. There is a saying I love "Walk the talk. So has the perception of every guy who was subconsciously sizing himself up against the guy for dominance on the social hierarchy. These are the non verbal cues that people look for when making a snapshot judgment on someone else. You need to create the irresistible offer. in a nice outfit. the benefits. grooming. He's a good looking guy.

who dresses like a rockstar. If you are going to create yourself to be "the irresistible offer" you need to hit them from every one of these angles. and must stand up to the test of scrutiny. These areas in include: body language. As we will discuss later in "Never appear too perfect" you must show some vulnerability and flaws… the flaws just can't come involve any of these cues. After his powerful stories of success.The Best of TSBMAG. I was at a seminar listening to the legendary Brad P speaking about how to get a 10 minute lay. personal trainers. In the first few minutes of the speech Brad gave some details about the various 10 minute lays that he has had in his lifetime. and how well you follow the general rules of intrapersonal communication. In the following sections we are going to go into detail in the different areas that make up your non verbal cues. that isn't why." A third student says "It's got to be that you know how to talk to a girl in a way that will get them horny enough to fuck you. The first student says. I don't want you to mistakenly interpret this to mean that you must be perfect. and has a cult following of men who aspire to be like him." 20 . Everything about you needs to be congruent. he asked the audience why they believed he is able to continually have women willing to sleep with him after knowing him for less than a half hour. and have you done up by the best fashion consultant. The way you carry yourself is the one thing that cannot be faked.COM The best way to remove any last hint of doubt is to "Walk the talk" and carry yourself like a superstar. you will be identified as a fraud immediately. Brad is a well known social artist. One by one members of the audience raised their hands to give their input. posture. and makeup artists in the world… but if you're body's non verbal cues remain the same." Brad. "Because you are extremely confident" And Brad says "Yes. eye contact. They can bring you onto MTV's Made. says "It's true I dress in a sexy way… and if a woman was going to fuck a guy in ten minutes he'd probably look like me… but no. I am extremely confident. but there are a lot of extremely confident guys who don't pull girls into random bathrooms for spontaneous sex" A second student says "Because of the way you dress.

Finally Brad points to the seven answers on the screen. and I make it impossible for them to not want to fuck me in ten minutes…" Brad presents the women he meets with "the irresistible offer." How to Create Comfortable Body Language Sex is hypnotic. but we would be doing so in the same way we that we just can't turn away from a car wreck. The man. made us feel uncomfortable. That's why it's used so blatantly in advertisements. anxieties. Sean Connery is highly regarded as the actor that best portrayed the character James Bond. and fears." The students shout out several more answers. standing awkwardly alone. His body language makes you forget that you're watching an actor PLAY James Bond. "Everything" Brad says. How do you give your appearance that same hypnotic appeal as sex? In the previous section.Social Superstar And Brad says. I am confident. He is so comfortable in the role… that you believe he is James Bond. I have sexy body language. So what is the secret to hypnotic body language? It is easier than you think. Be relaxed 21 . 4 Ways to Make Your Body Language More Hypnotic 1. I talk good game. We may keep our gaze on the man. Meanwhile Brad has been writing each answer down on the teleprompter in front of him. I am dressed like a rock star. None of these feelings are sexy. brought to our minds all of our own insecurities. "I get ten minute lays because I am all seven of these answers. While it can be argued that all of the actors nailed the part… it is obvious upon watching a few scenes of Connery as Bond to notice just how comfortable he appears in the role. "Oh… I get them so horny they can hardly contain themselves when I talk to them… but a lot of guys can talk a good game. They key to creating hypnotic body language is comfort. If you want to create a hypnotic presence as a superstar… you need to be so comfortable in the role that your audience accepts your role without reservations. the example we used of the man waiting for his drink.

Slow down We are going to show you how to demonstrate these four qualities to further illustrate how to create a compelling presence. Along with relaxing your muscles you need to relax your mind. We also tend get really tense in the shoulders. you can use it to your advantage pretty regularly. Be confident 4.The Best of TSBMAG. causing an almost crawled up appearance. your heart rate naturally follows. Subconsciously people tend to mirror the people they are surrounded by. and stop the nervous. What you are basically trying to do is put yourself in a sort of hypnotic state of relaxation. This is especially true of your facial muscles. If your mind is nervous… it will be harder to control your physiology. In order to make physiology work in your favor it is necessary to recognize your nervous habits. The interesting thing about physiology is that once you learn how to manipulate it. tense gestures… your brain will assume a position of relaxation. There are three main body positions in most social situations which you can use to convey comfort: 1. The easiest and most productive way to relax your mind is through slow controlled breathing. If you want to achieve relaxing body language you first must relax all of your muscles. Once you slow your breathing down. Be powerful 3. slowly those around you will tend find themselves falling into a relaxed state. If you are nervous and tense when you go out… naturally the physiology you present will be that of a nervous and tense person.COM 2. How you stand 2. so that you can put an end to them. How you walk/move 3. But if you learn to control your physiology. 22 . The more relaxed you appear to be. Be Relaxed The easiest way to make people comfortable around you is to be relaxed around them. How you sit Here is an explanation of each. When we are nervous we tend to tense up our jaw muscle.

or fiddling. Force yourself to relax and let your arms just fall. but after some practice. The emotion of nervousness often manifests itself through these nervous behaviors. When people feel insecure or nervous they start to have trouble sitting still. you are emotionally reacting to them. moving around too much. Doing any of these things immediately screams that you are not comfortable in your present situation. The beautiful thing as I mentioned earlier is that the discontinuation of performing these nervous ticks will trigger in your brain that you are no longer nervous… and your brain will command you to act in the way you naturally do when you are comfortable. This behavior communicates that you’re nervous and that you feel awkward. At first it may be a constant battle with yourself. or playing with your drink all tell the set and everyone around you that you are not only nervous around them. Fight the urge to start rubbing. let them hang naturally by your sides. but after enough training you will naturally no longer perform these nervous ticks. others will juggle the loose change in their pocket. touching.Social Superstar Below are some of the nervous habits that you will need to avoid… and ultimately replace with more positive empowering habits. You don’t know what to do with your hands so you shove them in your pockets. but that they are higher value and thus. other people with run their hand through their hair. 23 . Some people will rub their chin or neck. Eliminate them. playing with your hands or fingers. Their insecurity eats away at them and they feel forced to constantly be moving their hands. You’ll notice a marked improvement in your interactions. At the beginning you’ll have to force this. It is important to remember to keep control of your hands. Instead. Get in the habit of catching yourself whenever you find that you are performing any of the above habits. Looking relaxed while standing Nervous ticks such as swaying from side to side. The minute that you recognize yourself using your hands to display nervousness… immediately stop and place your hands by your side in a relaxed manner. Looking relaxed when walking One of the most common ways a man displays nervousness while walking is to keep his hands in his pockets as he walks. you’ll start to automatically relax more in social situations.

alone. As we spoke about above in relation to "being relaxed" you will find that the more powerful a physiology you present. This helps you maintain control and good body posture. and relaxation with your body language. the objective is to take up space while appearing relaxed and comfortable. you will naturally come to feel more powerful. Don’t overdo ‘taking up space’ lest you come off as tryhard. It is best to keep your hands apart. keep your hands away from your face and hair. Don't squeeze your hands.” This is when people hold their drink in front of their chest in a social environment. it is not enough to create that hypnotic captivating presence. Once seated. If you are constantly crossing and un-crossing your feet and legs you'll appear uncomfortable. One of which is power. While you are seated it is best to keep both feet on the floor. Being Powerful While having a relaxed appearance will surely make others around you feel more comfortable. simply let them lay together on your lap. You are trying to convey abundance. Looking relaxed while sitting When you sit. but if you find that you are fidgeting too much then cup your right hand face down in your left hand. which is face up. There is nothing good that your fingers can do above your neck. You will need to incorporate several other characteristics into your body language. A low value person can be relaxed… but very few low value people will be both relaxed and powerful. So your instinctive reaction is to cover your midsection (traditionally the most vulnerable spot on most mammals) with some sort of protection. Feet belong on the floor. 24 . and if you keep one foot on your knee while talking you might have a tendency to shake the free foot. The reason that you want to display power and dominance is because these qualities communicate value. creating a silly looking distraction. hold your drink down by your hip and don’t cross your arms or take a protective stance.COM Another thing to be conscious of when you're standing in a bar or club is the “drink shield. The subcommunication behind this body language tick is that you’re nervous and uneasy. In this case it’s the drink. Instead. A superstar knows how to balance the two. security.The Best of TSBMAG.

. It is important to learn some of the ways that people give their power away as to avoid them. These are not the kind of people other people want to interact with. one of three things happens typically: I. The other person moves for you. Another way to give your power away is to lean in when talking to someone. Whenever this happens to you." The "cape walk" is technique in which you imagine you have a Superman cape hanging down your back.these impressions present that of a less than powerful person. III. as they appear to have nothing to offer. Avoid holding your face up with your hand. You move for the other person. Looking powerful when walking One of the most efficient ways to walk in a more powerful way is to implement the Gunslinger Walk. The minute you lean in you have just handed them the power in the conversation. Many times guys do this because they believe that the other person cannot hear them. II. It can also give off the impression that you’re uncomfortable with the way you look and are trying to hide your face.. people often get into a situation where two people are walking directly at each other. You both move halfway out of the way. and make a conscious effort to recondition yourself to avoid the negative habit in the future. The Gunslinger Walk is based off of an article originally published by Sebastian Drake.Social Superstar I learned this technique years ago while listening to an Anthony Robbins CD in which he describes "the cape walk. One of the hallmark traits of this behavior is head straight. Throughout society. If you think that you're having trouble being heard then maybe you should work on your tonality and voice projection. People that feel a lack of power tend to offer nothing to the world. It displays a lack of enthusiasm and energy towards life. You then go on to walk as if this long cape is flowing down your back. Here is the article in its entirety. as I think this article is best representation of keeping your power as you walk. 25 . After experimenting with the "cape walk" for several weeks I began to naturally feel more powerful as I walked. This displays the image that you’re too bored or tired to bother holding up your head.

Roll in the hips: An exaggerated push from the hips with each lift of the leg. or just the way he carries himself.COM People move for people that they see as higher status than them subconsciously. 26 . This does not bode well for meeting her later.either the white-hat sheriff.The Best of TSBMAG. you will move a half-step out of the way.especially a beautiful woman you’re signifying that you see her as better than you. With people who are also high status.and that’s it. You’ll move if you meet someone handicapped. or young children . large muscles. elderly. The most common and obvious example are beautiful women. self-assured smile finishes the look. you NEVER move for another person based on status alone. awe. Thrown back shoulders: The essence of good body language. The key elements of a Gunslinger’s Walk are: Horizonview: Staring beyond the crowd and expecting it to part. or the black-hat bandit. When you move out of someone’s way . Slow movement: Moving extremely slowly through crowds. The Gunslinger’s Walk is a highly exaggerated style of walk based on highly successful men and the caricature and archetype of an 1800’s gunslinger . With a solid presence. you will feel people who believe themselves lower social status than you moving out of your way as you move through the world without you even doing anything. and then high status men. Knowing smile: The disarming. Gunslinging isn’t necessary. and inspiration into the hearts of those around them. Simply observing one of these people can strike wonder. Men who moved with raw electrifying presence. Roll in the heels: An exaggerated roll of the heels at the end of each step. The man might have status from a style of dress. Henceforth. but it can be a hell of a lot of fun. and they will move the other half step. It’s mirrored off people who brim with the utmost confidence.

When you hurry through the world. it’s crucial to move at a slow pace. and people are more likely to move out of the way of you as you pass. pushing off the ball. it becomes a negotiation. This will add to your stature once again. Every time two people walk directly towards one another in a straight line. and with his full stature. He moved with purpose. To aid you. In modern times. Remember to keep your shoulders back and broad at all times. Slow Movement When gunslingin’. it’s hard to get people to move for you. It’s crucial to keep your view to the horizon if you’re rolling your hips: You look like you’re a larger than life figure that way. everyone is forced to go around them. with your chest out and your stomach in. Picture the cowboy . as opposed to just trying to court attention.Social Superstar The Horizon view The legendary cowboys did not look at a crowd as they moved through it: Their eyes were always looking past. staring off into the horizon and the adventures that lay beyond. and draw a bit more attention to yourself. or falsely humble. or meek. Ka-ching… ka-ching… ka-ching… Throw your hips into your walk.he never made himself small. but instead staring past them into the distance as they think about what goals they want to achieve. By taking a long past view at the horizon. you transcend the negotiation and the struggle. you can mentally imagine a “ka-ching” sound like a cowboy’s spurs every time your foot touches the ground. and “roll through” into the front of your foot. rolling them through so you rock ever so-slightly back and forth each time you move. Roll in the Hips and Heels When your foot lands. if someone is gives you a 27 . So move slower than people around you . To take this to its logical extreme. Thrown back Shoulders Rise up to your full stature. The lower value person moves from the way of the higher person. you see the most beautiful women and high status men not looking at people directly in front of them. land first with your heel.

The effect becomes more pronounced the more people who do it: So. Jackpot. It’s a slight. people’s natural instincts are to follow the people in front of them. You don’t look at people in front of you that are oncoming. if you choose to try it. moving slowly. and quite an entrance. so get the fundamentals down first. with a slight knowing smile. This “directs 28 . self-assured and self-confident smile. one person moves . you look at one point off into the distance where you’re walking. raise your right arm from your side upwards.The Best of TSBMAG. Your palm should be facing left. So. with your palm facing towards they way you want them to go. A slight smile goes a long way with gunslinging to keep curiosity mixed in and soften you up slightly. Then.don’t try to “look hard”. Directing Traffic One last tip that’ll help with gunslinging. quite an impression. rolling your heels and hips. which creates quite a stir. and means people scurrying will tend to defer to you.COM presence. makes you look powerful. great body language. The Knowing Smile When gunslinging.then two. The key is to lift up the opposite hand of the way you want the person to go. with a view on the horizon. remember to smile . They assume that someone or something important is coming through. and tend to break sideways. if you want someone to pass you on your left. with just a dash of cockiness mixed in. knowing. You can “direct traffic” by which hand you hold up as people are walking towards you. you start gunslinging. there’s a great chance the crowd will break and you can then “part the seas” as you move through it. This one’s a bit more advanced and complicated. How to Part a Crowd Here’s the secret behind my legendary gunslinging performances: Once two people simultaneously break out of your way at the front of a crowd.

In the example we used earlier about the guy in the bar. Keep your head up. especially in nightclubs. The main communication here is that you are comfortable and confident. shoulders pulled back. never look down. If you need to look away. Sliding forward slightly in your seat will allow you to lean back even in a vertically-backed chair. squished between two other customers as he waited for his drink. Don’t go overboard with it. In that example the man clearly gave up his power to the other two customers who forced him to stand there uncomfortably.S. or get high on the power… Looking powerful when standing If you want to have a powerful presence while standing than the first rule is to take up space. standing up straight. it’s invaluable. Your hands should drape at your sides the way they naturally fall. Feet and legs can be spread moderately or crossed ankle-to-knee. When you’re standing. Once you get it though. Your stance should project confidence. The Gunslinger’s Walk is a potential nuclear reactor in your social toolbox. You can observe this in others. Your weight should generally be towards the rear of your soles (closer to the heel) so that you always appear to be leaning back. Do not put your hands in your pockets or cross them over your chest. you want to stand with your feet shoulder-width apart or slightly wider. was a clear example of standing in a less than powerful way. It should not be an uncomfortable stance. Useful tactics to convey this include draping your arms over the backs of chairs or over the seatbacks of booths or couches. Looking down even has been proven to have a bad effect on your mental state. look up. Do not cross your arms over your chest for this reason. Looking powerful while sitting What you want to communicate is that you do not make any apologies for your existence and that you are used to always being comfortable. though it’s tricky to get.Social Superstar traffic”. but one which clearly does not lend itself to laziness. so have fun and use it wisely. 29 . Your upper body should ideally be leaning back without hunching over. Picture the way a U. it’s a sign of weakness and also looks unattractive. Marine would stand when at ease. and chest somewhat out.

Pick a wall and stand up straight against it. an exit. Seriously. the bathrooms. Co-workers and those around you often might comment that you seem…different. Just what we were going for. Keep going. like someone stuck a pole up your ass. even if they aren’t selfaware enough to know why. Women find you more attractive. Either way. Looking confident while walking If you read and follow the Gunslinger Walk as discussed above. you will naturally be projection power and confidence as you walk. Now walk away from the wall. this works. it’ll start to feel good. etc). It’s going to feel weird for awhile. a clear one. butt. Your hands should swing naturally at your sides while you walk but without looking either stiff or “floppy. The outer world touches our inner one. shoulders. Your feet. and you project confidence to all comers. Don’t believe me? Try it. you also change the way you think. and a clean one. and head should all touch the wall. and you wind up feeling a certain way just because you are acting that way. take the shortest route 30 . The Japanese have long held the belief that a cluttered home leads to a cluttered mind. and eventually it won’t feel weird. exerting about the same amount of pressure (no smooshing). but hold the pose for 5 minutes.” Practice this in the mirror if you suspect they are moving unnaturally. Walk at about 50% of your normal speed when in the venue. How do you feel? Right. It also can change your inner one. Cause and affect get blurred.COM Being Confident As I mentioned earlier…there’s a bonus beyond the initial differences that changing your body language communicates to the outside world. When you are moving towards something (a set. because it’s different and new. You’ll find yourself with this new confidence that wasn’t there before and doesn’t seem to have much of an explanation. Except that you are standing like you are confident. though. In fact. you look better standing straight.The Best of TSBMAG. the object is to convey dominance and purpose. and when you change the way you move. When you walk or move.

how to change facial expressions slowly… and how to gesture slowly. A relaxed and powerful person tends to appear very confident. you want to project dominance. Have you ever noticed that James Bond never looks like he doesn’t know how to act? And that he never fidgets or behaves nervously? Everything James does is a little slower than it should be. you will naturally become more confident in your interactions. lack of confidence. when moving through the crowd. slouching. you give the impression of having low self esteem. how to blink slowly. alert. Try learning how to turn your head slowly. We will go into more detail regarding posture in the following chapter. walk straight up with confidence. or shuffling your feet. 31 . and even appearing depressed. Looking confident while sitting The best way to appear confident while sitting is to follow the advice for both looking relaxed and powerful. This will radiate from you. In an upcoming chapter on interpersonal communication rules I will go over the correct ways to interact with others. Once again.Social Superstar possible—usually a straight line. Oftentimes women notice you and the way you move or interact with people and they make judgments about you before you’ve even noticed them. simply following the rules for looking relaxed and powerful will make you appear more confident as you stand there. but for right now it is important to know that standing erect (not "stuck up") gives the impression that the person is confident. Similarly. and healthy. He’s just too cool. Once you have a foundation for the laws of interaction. Looking confident while standing If you are slumped over. This makes a huge impact on how others perceive you. or if your head hangs down. Slowing down and taking deliberate actions Watch a few James Bond films. self-assured. optimistic. Instead of circling a set several times like a vulture.

If you’re talking to a group of people switch eye contact up between the different members of the group… but always be holding it with someone. Habit 4: Smile often. This is especially true when walking through a bar… you never want to give off the vibe that you’re looking for the cool place to 32 .COM This kind of body language transmits the message: “I’m so comfortable in my own skin. If someone else is talking to you. While doing the talking you should be holding eye contact for the majority of the time.The Best of TSBMAG. it hurts”. Habit 5: Push your chest out a bit and pull your shoulders back. don’t dart around and jolt your head around like you have been drinking espressos all day long. A smile displays a positive energy that is infectious. hold eye contact about 50% of the time. Habit 7: Take up space when you sit. Habit 6: You should keep your feet about as far apart as your shoulders. When we tend to get nervous we tense up in the jaw. and take big slow steps. Try never to appear to be in a hurry or flustered. Spread yourself out a bit. Habit 2: Get in the habit of walking around with your head up and your neck straight. If you don’t have a naturally attractive smile than you should practice in front of a mirror. Habit 8: Walk with confidence and power. Tell your friends to point this out to you. You need to keep your face free of this stress. Habit 3: Keep your muscles relaxed. Create a little game with yourself to remind yourself to pay attention to your posture. shoulders back. Also walk with direction. neck up. chest puffed out a bit. Your new body language habits to implement immediately Habit 1: Make it a practice to hold eye contact with everyone that you meet. but don’t be afraid to get comfortable. Look around slowly and smoothly. This is especially true of your facial muscles. This is another habit you will have to check often to avoid falling back into the old habit of slouching. In the beginning you will need to constantly be checking yourself. Don’t slouch and look sloppy. This means your head should be high. The idea is to take up some space.

It's like he is embodying the hypnotic characteristics that make romance novels so popular. grace. Rock Star Posture A signature of any rockstar is their posture.” Try learning how to turn your head slowly. If you want to see an example of a man going through this transformation. The trick to pulling all these habits together is to use slow calculated gestures. When talking to someone avoid clutching on to your beer or putting your hands in your pocket. you can have the same hypnotizing poise as Jim Morrison. and poise. Every gesture you make should flow naturally at the same speed as your previous gestures. If you’re giving a girl a once over. How to improve your posture 33 . Tommy Lee. He is promising chivalry. These guys knew how to command a stage with their bodies. Think Billy Idol. elegance. Habit 10: Use hand gestures when telling a story. It is also the grace in which they move across the stage. The good news is that if you make yourself constantly aware of how your body appears." In the movie Michael Caine's character teaches Steve Martin's character how to be a European style gentleman. Think Lenny Kravitz. A man becomes more attractive when he exhibits grace and poise. do it slowly like it doesn’t embarrass you that she noticed. and are routinely making the necessary adjustments. Habit 9: Avoid making sudden hyper gestures. If you’re grabbing a drink off the bar take it at a speed that says “I’m in no hurry. It takes a constant and conscious effort to achieve rockstar posture. gestures.Social Superstar be. how to change facial expressions slowly… and how to gesture slowly. how to blink slowly. Think Jim Morrison. They had their audiences hypnotized by their movements. and gentleness. You want to give off the vibe that you know where it is and already are heading there. Most of us have downright horrible posture… let alone rockstar posture. David DeAngelo commonly recommends his students to watch "Dirty Rotten Scoundrels.

6. make sure that your weight is evenly distributed on your feet. your knees straight and your back straight. Stretch the top of your head toward the ceiling. Stretching and exercise to improve posture 34 . When standing straight up. backward or sideways.The Best of TSBMAG. Sure. 5. you might not have the money to hire their trainer… but that doesn't mean you can't emulate their posture and poise. These guys are trained by professionals to be the embodiment of a movie star. Keep your shoulders back. walk. Hold your head up straight with your chin in. you're probably forcing your back into an unnatural position. It shouldn't hurt at all if you try this. Do not tilt your pelvis forward. Now follow the above steps: 1. The spine has two natural curves that you need to maintain called the 'double C' or 'S' curves. Do not tilt your head forward. Tom Cruise. and hips. If it does. Tuck your stomach in. and pulling your head back in to your chest. You might feel like you are leaning forward. but you don't. Or any movie starring George Clooney. shoulders. or Brad Pitt.COM Most people don't even know what good posture is. Most people think that to "stand up straight" means tensing your back to heave your chest 'in and up'. sit and lie in positions where the least strain is placed on supporting muscles and ligaments. 2. These points make a straight line. these are the curves found from the base of your head to your shoulders and the curve from the upper back to the base of the spine. You'll need to constantly be watching yourself. 4. Make sure your earlobes are in line with the middle of your shoulders. This isn't the posture you should be striving for. and look stupid. If you're unaware of what good posture looks like rent some James Bond movies. Good posture involves training the body to stand. When you tell someone to work on their posture they automatically start walking around like they are in the Marines. 3. The arches in your feet should be supported. If you're serious about working on your posture you better get comfortable standing in front of a mirror. but the spine itself curves in a slight 'S'. If you've got a mirror nearby go to it right now and align your ears.

Raise both arms out to sides at shoulder length. Slowly lower arms to sides. This is why it is important to do some of the following stretches: Tilt (stretch) your head in all four directions over your shoulders (forward. When you first make the commitment to improve your posture you should repeat these exercises several times per day. You'll be surprised how much exercise fits into 30 seconds. Think about being able to place a bowl in the hollow of your back. While you wait for a web page to load. raise both elbows (count one. On your hands and knees. do as many as you can. and touch your shoulders with your hands. and gently massage your neck. curl your back upwards. 1. Align ears with shoulders. left. When you first begin to improve your posture you might find that you neck or back will tend to get a little sore. You should at least feel a slight fatigue in the shoulder muscles. back. If you have the time I good idea might be to take a yoga class. and your ears aligned. Avoid rolling in a circle. 3.Social Superstar You want to do exercises that strengthen the muscles across your back and shoulders. Align your ears over your shoulders. As you'll find in later chapters… a social superstar is looking for every excuse he can to find new ways to mingle with people and make new friends. constantly checking your alignment! If ten reps are too many to start. You're not looking to build muscle mass… so you don't need to do the exercises with a large amount of weight. Be a penguin. place elbows at your side. two). you can even do these exercises without hand weights. or the microwave to beep. Hold for a slow count of ten. Keeping your hands on your shoulders. Remember to keep your ears aligned! Bend forearms toward shoulders to touch your shoulder blades. Do ten reps. I'd probably start my day off doing them to feel fresh and add some extra energy to my morning. alongside your ears. Do as many reps as your wait allows. two) and lower them back to your waist (count one. as it may cause further strain. right). Do 10 repetitions with both arms. 35 . toast to pop. In fact. like a cat. A yoga class is a perfect example of one of these methods. Slowly raise arms back to shoulder height. and then the opposite. Raise both arms straight up. counting to ten as you raise arms. 2. then alternate 10 reps for each arm singularly. counting ten as you lower.

especially when tired from sitting in the office chair for long periods. Avoid slouching or leaning forward. In this position. Sitting • • Sit in an office chair. the head is carried too far forward (anterior head carriage). Make sure your neck. back. not pushed out forward Stand straight and tall. not with weight on the heels.The Best of TSBMAG. These 3 areas are sitting. But we know by now that "Rockstar Posture" is crucial for a superstar… here are some more ways you can improve in these areas. If you're following the body language advice laid out in the previous chapter on these three areas you'll have already noticed a significant natural improvement in your posture. Tuck the chin in a little to keep the head level. about shoulder-width. 36 . • • • Standing Stand with weight mostly on the balls of the feet. and walking. the back of the head should also touch the wall . Avoid locking your knees. Stand against a wall with shoulders and bottom touching wall. standing. If there's a problem with feet reaching the floor comfortably. Flex your arms at a 75 to 90 degree angle at the elbows. • • • • • Keep feet slightly apart. and heels are all aligned. a footrest can be used along with the office chair. Align your back with the back of the office chair. Keep both feet flat on the floor.if it does not. You may have to adjust the office chair. Be sure the head is square on top of the neck and spine. Keep your shoulders straight. Let arms hang naturally down the sides of the body. with shoulders upright.COM As we discussed in the previous section on body language there are 3 general times the superstar needs to be keenly aware of his posture… and constantly working on improving it.

Our eyes reveal more about us than any other part of our body. and create a feeling of arousal in the person you are trying to attract. It is probably most effective if you find a way to constantly be reminding yourself to be in tune with it. Keep shoulders properly aligned with the rest of the body. fear. Avoid pushing your head forward. Each of these emotions are easily expressed through our eyes. 37 . The eyes are often referred to as "the windows to the soul." This statement is powerful because not only does it acknowledge the fact that we can read other people by simply looking into their eyes. Standing in front of a mirror for a couple days practicing won't get you lasting results. If this is really the case. A glance into someone's eyes can often reveal if they are experiencing happiness. but that other people can read us by looking into ours.Social Superstar Walking • • Keep the head up and eyes looking straight ahead. or sadness. The Eyes One of the most important and critical components of displaying powerful and confident body language is the eyes. set your phone alarm to go off randomly as a reminder. If you want lasting results you need to find a way to engrain this into your mind for a couple months. anger. And we all know how hard habits are to break. surprise. Just be glancing into someone's eyes you can often tell what is going on inside their mind. Tie a string on your finger. The most important thing to realize when working on improving your posture is that bad posture is like a bad habit. or keep an index card in your pocket with the words "Rock Star Posture" on it. There are six basic emotions in the human race. disgust. then doesn't is make sense to have them hypnotized by your eyes and your understanding of their wants and desires? You can do this by using your eyes to build rapport. There is an accepted idea that most people will judge other people within the first five seconds of meeting them. This means that for a couple months it is necessary that you are consciously aware of your posture.

do so by looking down. men tend to fix their gaze on one or two particular women in a setting… not paying attention to the many other women that might be watching them. will casually scan the room. and marketing yourself. Looking up in response to a question or while telling a story is fine. But it is important to know how to correctly use that eye power as to not intimidate or scare away the person that you are trying to attract. It is important to know that men and women have different comfort levels in regards to the amount of eye contact that they are willing to give and receive. When you are talking to anyone it is generally accepted that you use the 70% rule in the United States. do not break to look at another person. you should always give one in return if you are interested. 70% of the time you will at the other person in the "eyes triangle. but looking up to break eye contact is often thought of as waning interest. When you break eye contact. or to the right. knowing that you are always being watched… it is important to use eye contact correctly and efficiently. In this chapter I want to give you some various pointers in regards to the use of eye contact in regards to body language. to the left. Caress your partner with your eyes as you gaze into their eyes. giving second glances to the men they are interested. This acknowledgement could come in the form of a smile. and the various rules and insights that go along with the process. If you make eye contact with a woman it is a good idea to give an acknowledgement to let them know you have noticed and are interested." This triangle extends from the ends of the eyebrows to the tip of this person's nose. This is why it is important that if she gives you an acknowledgement. For instance. Keep the focus of attention on the person you are talking to.COM When it comes to presenting confident body language. When you intentionally break eye contact. Women on the other hand. As we will discuss in later chapters. or eye brow raise. then chances are you misunderstood her eye contact. all of the experts will agree that strong eye contact indicates a powerful presence. and moving past the men they are not. nod. In later chapters we will go into more details about picking up women. In this chapter I want to discuss ways in which you need to continually be aware of how you can use your eyes to your advantage. If you don't get an acknowledgement back. But eye contact in regards to picking up women is something that I will discuss more later.The Best of TSBMAG. 38 .

39 . Others rarely interrupt two people engaged in a conversation if they have consistent eye contact. One reason men aren't as good in reading body language is hat men often communicate sitting or standing side by side and don't see as much non-verbal communication as women do. Eye contact has been show to be a significant factor in the persuasion process. the higher self esteem you actually rate yourself on. Women engage in more eye contact them men do. They often contract when discussing issues that bring them sadness. is that confident people have much more frequent eye contact with their conversational partners. the more self esteem you are perceived to have. Women are better non-verbal communicators than men. When eye contact decreases mend tend to disclose more and women tend to disclose less. Many shy people never make eye contact at all. Pupils also enlarge when people are talking about things that bring them joy or happiness. the longer the eye contact between two people. • • • • • • • Researchers have discovered that one of the most striking differences between people who are socially confident and those who are shy. The longer your eye contact. tending to look downward or away. the greater the intimacy that is felt inside. The more eye contact you can maintain. instead of looking at their conversation partner’s face. Attraction increases as mutual gazing increases. Men can improve though.Social Superstar Here is some scientific research on eye contacted as found in Kevin Hogan's book Irresistible Attraction: • • • • Generally speaking. they tend to be more self-disclosing about personal subjects. When women are engaged in a great degree of eye contact.

a struggle for dominance over another can often be signaled by a staring contest. your conversation partner may assume that you are bored. If it really bothers you to look directly into another person’s eyes. this is close enough to the eye region that you will appear to be looking at the person’s eyes. Avoid intense. particularly at close range. They stare too intently into other people’s eyes when they are talking to them. be sure to keep looking at that person frequently while you are talking. It can be very unpleasant to be on the receiving end of an intense stare. not all people who stare piercingly at others mean it as 40 . When a person doesn't make eye contact with them. keep the majority of your focus on the other person. you can look at the person’s face without focusing solely on the eyes. You don’t need to use a piercing stare. While some people have difficulty maintaining eye contact during conversations. The very phrase "shifty-eyed" connotes a person whose eyes dart around the room. even while you are wondering what to say next. prolonged staring into another person’s eyes. the use of staring is part of a power struggle to determine which animal is dominant over the other. Whenever you are in conversation with someone.The Best of TSBMAG. If you gaze generally at the eyebrow area or the bridge of the nose. When you are speaking with someone who is from a culture that prefers a lot of eye contact. North Americans tend to assume that person is hiding something. implying that they are untrustworthy. others have the opposite problem. or look too frequently at other people. or with another person. except in very rare situations. prefer to have a lot of eye contact when they are talking with someone. In many animals. or that you are looking around for someone else you would rather talk with. you can benefit from practicing in front of a mirror. In humans too. You may find that it eases your own discomfort if you let your vision go slightly out of focus. Although some people use staring intently as a deliberate tactic to intimidate others. If you glance around the room too much. If you have difficulty knowing exactly how to make eye contact. often making their conversation partners feel very uncomfortable. especially Caucasians.COM Most North Americans. a friendly gaze will do.

Even within North America. In addition. get ready to take them off. averting your eyes and keeping them lowered is considered the polite. Some people who stare very intently into the eyes of others are quite unaware of the negative impression they are creating. There are many countries in the world where looking someone in the eye is considered to be disrespectful and an invasion of privacy. If you are dealing with someone who has different cultural practices than what you are used to. there are some cultural groups that prefer not to make very much eye contact. • Start with your eyes. you can frequently glance away for brief periods. desirable thing to do.Social Superstar an act of aggression or dominance. 41 • . nodding. In many cultures around the world. You can lighten the impression you are making by smiling more often. it can be a shock to find out that eye contact is not always welcomed. people of African American and First Nations origin usually prefer to make far less eye contact than Caucasians do. If you have grown up in a cultural group that expects eye contact. you may have been making your conversation partners very uncomfortable. Are they clear or are they bloodshot? People who look at you will notice and the clearer your eyes the more attractive people will perceive you to be. Hey can add Mystery. In North America. They want to see your eyes. Key Components of Hypnotic eyes These are some ideas that you can take with you for using your eyes as a tool for marketing yourself better. but ultimately people want to see what they are getting. These tips are from Kevin Hogan's Irresistible Attraction. and by gazing at the entire face as well as the eyes. make an effort to be sensitive to the expectations of the other person if you want to have a smooth relationship. this is not true of all people. If it has been your habit to stare intently into the eyes of other people without looking away. Although most North Americans like to have a lot of eye contact with their conversational partner. If you wear sunglasses.

the wink is nonetheless a fantastic means of communication. Remember the longer they have eye contact with you the more emotional arousal they are experiencing inside. A quick. A favorite of television rakes and can shrug your eyebrows at her to let her know you’re interested. you are looking away and to the right when you open your eyes. 2. Avoid looking at others for any length of time when you are with someone who may be special. hard blink (two eyes).it can almost be used as a dare or challenge. 5 non verbal gestures you should master using your eyes 1. as in. Look at a woman from shoulders up and she will think you have depth and personality. consider contacts or surgery. look at them. An eyebrow shrug can signify that a person is surprised. or is expecting a response .The Best of TSBMAG.this is the more playful (still with some social pressure) version. or make a note when she shrugs hers at you. It is often done subconsciously by both men and women . The wink is a great way to respond to a woman when she asks you a question you don’t feel like answering if she’s giving you a hard time… 3. Make the person feel like they are the only person in the room that could possibly catch your eye. It’s sufficiently mysterious that it gets girls wondering. People need to see your eyes.COM • • • • • • If you wear glasses. you are looking straight at the girl when you open your eyes . and shows a strong degree of social confidence and awareness on your part. but most folks can. Look at the person you are talking to about 70% of the time when communicating with them. If you want to attract someone. Not everyone can do this. Wink (one eye). Slow. In the other. Raising both eyebrows can be used to show a number of different moods and expressions. subtle shrug of the eyebrows (sometimes held longer) can also be used to express interest. Eyebrow shrug. 42 . This is the version that puts more social pressure on the girl (to qualify herself or retract a remark). because she’s interested too. This is an easy and effective way of communicating disbelief. “Did you actually just say that?” Two versions: in one.

as the most socially conscious in the room. It helps to place them in the position of being the slightly skeptical selector. Think James Bond. you pull your lips into a half-smile (with one side of your mouth). 43 . Intrapersonal Communication Rules One of the hallmarks of a superstar is the way in which he interacts with other people. Basically. You will see that many men who are good with women squint while they are talking to them. Squint. Think Don Draper. These guys don't always say a lot but they have the amazing ability to communicate more in glances and movements than most guys do in entire sentences. But even the interaction itself plays apart in how you come looking out of it. If he is left handed sit to his left. posture. or alternatively that you doubt the truth or accuracy of something that is being said. Ultra-skeptical look. In the previous three sections we discussed how critical body language. The squint is a way of saying that you are thinking about something. This is when you look at a woman like she just said the most retarded thing you’ve ever heard. and simultaneously shrugging your eyebrows. You hold this look and stare at her until she gives into the social pressure. it can seem like you are sizing her up and trying to decide if you like her a lot. 5. For instance. When most people think of good conversationalists they automatically think the ability to talk well. while kind-of laughing/huffing in a “I can’t believe she said that” way. Here are some basic rules about choosing your seat in different circumstances. As we will discuss in future chapters… the ability to talk well is one of the most important characteristics of a superstar. If you are meeting a client or friend and you know that they are right handed sit to his right.Social Superstar 4. These are the elements that make up an interaction. But in there is more to an interaction than just words. What I mean by this is that there are certain rules that you can follow that will always present you in the best possible light. and your eyes are in creating a seductive hypnotic presence. If you look at a woman and squint. the simple act of selecting where you sit can display dominant alpha characteristics that will also facilitate the communication process.

you should be seated across from her at a smaller more intimate table. relaxed countenance that responds to conversation with a natural smile looks of alertness and interest. but if positively changes your internal chemistry. practice them. and an attentively tilted head are all looks that gain universal approval.The Best of TSBMAG. When you find the ones that look best. Intimate space is normally defined as an 18 inch bubble around the entire body of the other person. A pleasant. Keep performing them over and over again until it feels natural for your face to contort to those specific expressions. A smile not always changes the way people respond to you. Entering this space is done so at your own risk. Do you find that people often ask you what's wrong? Even when you're completely content? If so it means that you need to seriously work on your facial expressions. which is 19 inches to 4 feet. sparkling eyes. This is more "real" than looking in a mirror as you will have the opportunity to see all of your habits in action. When you are communicating with another person you need to be consciously aware of your facial expressions and hand gestures. Similarly. There are two solid ways to work on facial expressions. if you leave the "casual personal" space of the other person. you also stand the risk of losing the focus of the client. If you are attempting to communicate well with a female in business or a social setting. This doesn't mean you can't lean in to share a secret with him or her. These are the first thing someone notices about you during conversation. This is the ideal way because by videotaping yourself in a social situation you get to see how your face naturally contorts while in conversations. 44 . The second way to practice facial expressions is with the aid of a video camera. Whether seated or standing you should stay out of the other person's intimate space. And these are "features" that are within your control.COM If you are attempting to persuade another man you should be sitting across from each other. it just means that when you do enter this space you are doing so strategically and with specific intention. The first is to stand in front of a mirror and try out different expressions.

Social Superstar Once you've identified the habits that you want to change. this will be an uncomfortable exercise for most of us. Likewise. It is incredible how much we don't know about ourselves until we carefully study ourselves on film. Trust me. jerking or broad movements pushes people away be defining large space around off limits. People from across the room can observe you and learn a lot about you by the way you use your hands in conversation. unfavorable expressions. But it is imperative that you face this. You need to be your own publicist. then you must find new expressions to replace them with. and perfect your smile. Using your hands Some people talk with their hands. models. darting. posture. nervous gestures such as tapping your fingers on a table and picking at your face or nails can make you look insecure. You can continue this process several times until you get rid of all of your nervous ticks. the guy who uses flailing. For instance. Work on it. It is at this point that the use of a mirror will come in handy. Now you have specific goals that you want to achieve in regards to your facial expressions. and musicians go through with their stylists and publicist. and overcome it. and then once again have someone record you in a social situation. This is why you must be conscious of what your hands are saying. and from side to side by the width of your shoulders. The use of a video camera can also really help you identify the body language. We will notice things that will probably make us feel embarrassed or ashamed. This is exactly the kind of training movie stars. 45 . It is much more graceful and relaxing to cup your hands together. Hand gestures generally take place in a square area defined up and down by the waist to the neck. and eye contact habits that you may want to work on. There is a lot that can be communicated with the hands.

the real estate world. With this definition… in all likelihood. and the appearances they’ve made. I believe that you should view your social life in the same way. Your Plan: In The Four Hour Work Week Tim Ferriss points out that in today’s world the definition of an expert is largely created through the affiliations he or she belongs to. have a bunch of happy customers . the testimonials they have. We want to be able to quickly classify a person into a certain group. This means that in order to coin yourself an expert in say. It is known that girls use this tactic all of the time in bars and clubs to make their judgments on guys. Building Your Social Resume If you use the above formula for “becoming an expert” and apply it to “becoming a social superstar” you will quickly see your social status sky rocket! We human beings don’t have the time or energy to really dig deeply to find out the truth about someone… so we look for the clues that will make these judgments easy for us. This is why it is taught in the community that you need to create social proof through being the most social guy in 46 . anyone can become an “expert” on any subject in a short period of time.and then put that social proof on auto-pilot.COM Chapter 4: Building Your Social Resume Your Objective: The objective of building your social resume is to create massive social proof for yourself.The Best of TSBMAG. Building an online social resume allows you influence many more people with much less effort. you would need to belong to several trade organizations. so that we know how to approach and deal with them. and have performed some speaking engagements or received some media coverage relating to the subject.

the news of our adventure in the Mansion had already spread like wildfire… and we’re continually pressed and praised about it. Pete the Freshman. who do you know?” and so on. twittered the news. The value came from the pictures we took. Sure I had a vague curiosity to party at the Mansion… but I knew it wouldn’t be nearly as fun as some of my rendezvous in Brazil. Immediately after attending the event. Do you think that created some instant social proof? We never even had to bring it up in a conversation. as someone would inevitably ask us about it. you get testimonials. While I completely agree with this theory… I believe that you should take it a step further and position yourself as a Rockstar. A couple months ago Mike Stoute. and the stories we are now able to continually tell about the experience. or even this past Mansformation Weekend. Pete. Mike. The results were immediate. I was further solidifying my position as a Rockstar. and I plastered our Facebook pages with the pictures.Social Superstar the place and then using routines and stories in your conversations that further exemplify your high social status. and wrote detailed accounts of the experience that we emailed all of our friends. You affiliate with other rockstars. Last week when we attended a reunion at our former college. The value in the trip to the Mansion wasn’t the girls we were going to hit on there. Then why did I trek across the country to go there? Simple. Within hours of changing our Facebook status to “Partying at the Playboy Mansion” we each had girls we hadn’t spoken to in years leaving us comments and emails with questions like “How did you guys get in the party?” “I heard that it was a private party. It is a simple theory really. and you make appearances at the right venues. How do you do this? You do this the same way a so-called expert builds his resume. If you want to be viewed as a Social Rockstar… become one! Elements of the resume 47 . and I added to our social resume when we attended the party at Playboy Mansion.

com/profile. You probably noticed that I used the word perceived in the above definitions. 48 .mention this manuscript and I will send you a link to an hour long podcast I did with Race de Preist on effectively using Facebook to meet women.php?id=515434783 When I receive your friend request. Remember. To a marketer. and your appearances. This is an area you do not want to slack off in. If you're on Facebook simply send me a friend request: http://www. and a list is what connects a marketer to his customers. Facebook is your list. people will naturally be talking about you and leaving comments on your page. These two accounts (I prefer Facebook) will be constantly marketing your unique selling points.The Best of TSBMAG. but you’re better off learning from an expert. The testimonials are easy to get… if you’re living the life. my pictures from the Mansion create the image of a guy who is invited to high profile-hard to get into parties.facebook. Once you have a platform for showcasing your “proof” you need to start acquiring it. For example. This is because it is more important to create the image of… then to be consistently living it. Appearances: The places you are perceived to be spending your time. If you don’t have an account…GET ONE! You have to view these accounts as your publicity machine. your testimonials. If you couple these pictures with another group of pictures from one other exclusive event… you’ll be perceived as the kind of guy who regularly attends these sorts of events. You have to view your Facebook friends as a master marketer views his list. I could write an entire post about the specifics of creating your Facebook or Myspace profile. a list is what creates sales… a list is what spreads word of mouth. proof comes from your associations. Testimonials: What other people are saying about you.COM The number one tool that you have in creating your social resume is your Facebook and Myspace accounts. If you’re new to it Race and Kelly give a couple fantastic tips for getting hot girls to leave comments on your page. Associations: The people you are perceived to hang out with.

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It should convey that you are so focused on your own goals. Building up your inner game will be make you the kind of person people like to be around. It is important to remember that other people must be lead to believe this on their own. passions. and commitments that your time is extremely must never verbally tell them or act in a way that you feel you are superior to them and will leave them behind.COM Chapter 5: The Attitude (liking + scarcity) Your Objective: The objective of your attitude is to establish both liking and scarcity. The attitude and values you possess on the inside will directly relate to the way you are perceived on the outside. thinking. Your attitude should sub consciously tell the people within your scene that you are a scarce commodity. acting.description of the person you intend on becoming… you need to keep this vision in your mind as often as possible. Once you create a well-thought out. You need to have a clear vision of your end result if you intend on getting there. Your attitude should convey the fact that you "are going places" and probably won't be around this scene forever. feeling. but down on paper as well. 50 .The Best of TSBMAG. you must first be fully aware of how you intend on looking. and being. Your Plan: Decide exactly what kind of guy you want to be If you really intend on changing your identity and thriving in a social world. You must ask yourself the critical questions: What would my "new self" think in this situation? What would he say? How would he act? And at all times you need live and breathe that identity. not only in your mind. The attitude you present to the world should establish you as a likeable person. This must all be completely fleshed out.

"I learned that success comes from perseverance" And then add that to the quality of the kind of guy you want to be if it isn't already listed. The positive memories create the foundation of your confidence. but actively acting in the way you'd imagine this person to act. Anchor vibrant energetic states Personally I find most aspects of NLP unhelpful and annoying… but I have found a great use for the idea of anchoring vibrant energetic states. It is your job to not only be concentrating your mind on being this person…. By creating this list. There is no use re-living them. Were you the spelling bee champion in the 2nd great? Did you hit the winning home run in a little league game? Score a hot chick? Tell a funny joke? These are going to form your new identity. you'll need to take with you your previous successes and accomplishments. This will be a never ending habit. Focus on your past successes instead of failures In the quest to reinvent your identity you'll need to leave behind the failures. You need to collect as many of these memories and write them down as vividly and descriptively as possible. ask yourself "what did I learn" and write down your answer in as a positive statement. you in essence backing up your claim that you are confident and allowing yourself to act that way without feeling like a fraud. Then forget the failure and move on. so will your confidences. And in the future. As for your mistakes and failures… as they come along. Every accomplishment you achieve. 51 . All of the negative memories we are going to leave behind. If you quit something before finishing it… instead of saying "I'm a failure" simply say. As much as people say "repeat I'm confident over and over" that will not work unless you have some cold hard facts to back it up. when asking yourself how "the new you" would act… you can factor in the quality of perseverance.Social Superstar Many books will tell you to merely think it enough… and you're subconscious will magically turn you into him. will be added to this list. doubts. You've already learned everything you need to learn from them. You'll notice that as the list grows. no matter how big or small. and second guessing. But in order to maintain the qualities that uniquely make you… you.

This is the foundation for everything. I was unconsciously anchoring these songs to a feeling of an adrenaline rush.The Best of TSBMAG. If you are interested in learning more about anchoring check out a book on the subject.COM I came across this idea by accident. cough. Because certain songs tended to pump me up. while standing or moving around. During that period of raised confidence it is important to attempt to achieve another form of success. Experience Peak Health If self confidence and esteem really come from the inside out. before leaving the bar instigate a few more conversations. Without knowing it. The more vibrant and energetic we feel inside. My Ipod only had a few songs on it at the time. Build on little successes In the beginning of your identity make over. or soreness. Whenever you have a success. have a headache. I tended to bring back that exercise high I used to only experience at the gym. If you have a good conversation with a girl at bar. We've already talked about focusing on past success. making it that much easier to have another success. but I haven’t been able to do that… so I wouldn't want to give you advice that I cannot personally verify as being true. Never be content with just one success. the core attribute your looking to build upon is your sense of self worth and confidence. the more likely we are to radiate these traits outward. I played them more often during the point of the work out where my adrenaline was peaked. There are people who claim to be able to anchor specific feelings to a certain touch. then it would go without saying that the one of the most important aspects of self confidence is peak physical health. run down. For some strange reason the universe loves the concept of momentum… and slumps. It is extremely hard to get into state when you're tired. You need to keep the success momentum going. I later found that if I listened to these songs. runny nose. your confidence is increased. 52 . stomach ache. You should continually be building on every success you have. and I used to listen to the same songs over and over while I ran on the treadmill at the gym. and creating a success journal… but you also need take advantage of the momentum that each success brings.

and your 53 . There is a saying "you are what you eat. If you are consistently filling up on McDonalds. Look at is simply as the way you eat. every day you find time to get to the gym. The more discipline you prove you have to yourself. pizza. Exercise 2. Eating healthy. You'll often feel bloated. gassy.Social Superstar This is why it is important to treat your body like a temple.. Think about the last time you finished off a Big Mac or a big dish of General Tso's… did you feel like you could conquer the world? Did you feel attractive? Many people don't realize that a big source of their depression stems from their lack of physical health. the clarity of your mind." This saying has a lot of truth to it. If your body is run down from eating badly and not exercising. The two keys to peak health: 1. and unmotivated. You will find that once you get into a consistent exercise habit your confidence will begin to sky rocket. This means there are no excuses. Instead of having a Taylor ham and cheese bagel and coffee for breakfast. your mind will often follow right behind it. the easier it will become. tired. Taco Bell. If you find yourself consistently making excuses as to why you missed a workout. Once you break your old pattern you will find that the oatmeal fills you up just as much as the bagel and the Green Tea energizes you more than the coffee. If you're on vacation… you still go. Eating healthy Exercise is critical. and Chinese food… your body will respond accordingly. Don't look at it like you're on a diet. You must force yourself to change your diet permanently. If its snowing out. exercise provides you with an opportunity to anchor vibrant states to yourself as we spoke of earlier. If you're hung over… you still go. your level of motivation. get in the habit of eating oatmeal and Green tea. you still go. The trick to starting an exercise and healthful eating habit is to make it a must. like exercise has to be a must. greasy. Also. Even without the long term health benefits of changing your diet and exercise you will feel an immediate benefit in the amount of energy you possess.. you will begin to accept this behavior from yourself.

COM increased pride in yourself discipline. When we want to buy something we want a voice appears in our head saying "no you can't afford that" or "shouldn't you buy something more useful?" When we want to talk to a girl or apply for a job a voice in our head says "don't.The Best of TSBMAG. and change back into their nice clothes before heading home. In the chapter on making yourself more attractive I gave many hints on how you can increase your physical attractiveness. This is how they separated themselves from their job. This will keep you motivated and inspired. At first I never understood why they bothered. You need to look in the mirror and be proud of how you come across. unkempt guy. trimming my nose hairs. But then I came to understand that this was how they kept their dignity. But this was a horrible mentality to have. I used to have the mentality that if I'm not going to see anyone. and would feel like that was all I was. they would wash up. fixing my hair nice. doing my hair. Because my job entailed me to where old painter's clothes and often find myself covered in paint… I would often decide that it wasn't worth shaving. These benefits carry over into all areas of your life. What I noticed though was that a couple of my Spanish employees would come to work every day looking sharp. in nice clothes." 54 . even when no one is watching. I soon discovered that I was often depressed and felt very discouraged with myself. What I want you to get out of this section is that it is always important to look and feel your best. Stay Well Groomed. in dirty clothes. Well Dressed I discovered this principle when I was working as a paint contractor. or wearing nice clothes. I would look in the mirror and see a scruffy. they would change into their work clothes. Because the one and only person you really need to impress is yourself. Later in the day when it was time to leave. plucking my eyebrows. what is the point of shaving. Say yes to yourself As children we so often hear the word "no" or "you can't" that we grow up inflicting ourselves with these words. or keeping up my appearance the day's I was working. tanning. Then once they got to work.

how much would this have improved your life? It only takes one great employer to give you a chance despite your shoddy resume.Social Superstar We are unconsciously embedding the word no into our minds. It means going for broke. for some guys it fantasy football. Apply for a job that you have no qualifications for. "You're too young" "You only wind up breaking it" "You'll hurt yourself" "You'll lose it" "You have to be fair" "You can't afford it. Whatever it is that we want we are often the first person to talk ourselves out of it. Get in the habit of allowing yourself to have the things you want. or our teachers or relatives told us. or one professor to see your hidden brilliance in a subject. Do you really enjoy playing World of Warcraft 7 hours a day… or is it easier than admitting to yourself that you're scared to talk to girls. We tell ourselves all of the same excuses that our parents told us. 55 . Eliminate Your Crutch/Burn Your Ships To fully develop unstoppable inner game and the winning attitude it is necessary to burn our ships and get rid of our crutches. This will set precedence. some guys its porn." "You can get it next year" How can you ever get what you really want if you are your own biggest obstacle in achieving it? The step to reversing this is to practice saying yes to yourself. and bam your life is changed. It means cutting off your "booty call" and finding a girl that inspires you. If you didn't have yourself in your ear telling you "no" how many more girls would you have approached? How many more classes would you have taken? Jobs applied for? Friends made? Even if you only achieved a fraction of the extra dreams you went for. For some guys their crutch is video games. or apply yourself. Crutches are things that we use to avoid reality. This means that quitting a dead end part time job and focusing 100% on your dream. or one beautiful women to fall in love with you. While there is nothing wrong with having a hobby… the problem arises when you hide yourself in your hobby.. It will reshape the way you live your life. Order whatever it is you want on the menu regardless of price. They are the place that we crawl back to avoid facing defeat in other areas. It also means eliminating your crutches….

The objective is to stretch yourself into the largest and greatest rubber band of all time.COM The hardest thing I ever had to do a few years back was quit the restaurant I was working in. crank out an extra rep or two. then say something unexpected in one of the conversations you are involved in.The Best of TSBMAG. and dates) but it also meant eliminating my crutch.. Try something zany even if it doesn't work this time it will train your mind to look for new ways of doing things. and unlimited females to interact with and date. At the time. I would head over to the restaurant and drink with my buddies. make an effort to initiate one more conversation every day. It is important that you push yourself past at least one comfort zone daily. All was always good there. You won't feel trapped. and then burn them. run an extra minute. If you are trying to conquer shyness. Push yourself past your comfort zone daily Look at yourself like a rubber band. Things won't get boring. think outside the box. If you're working on a project. If you don't have the opportunity to initiate an extra conversation. but it makes your life exciting. add a bit more resistance. Yet. Embrace Your Passions 56 . whenever I experienced a set back at the real estate agency I was working at. If you're going to the gym. Life will no longer seem repetitive. it is just important that you push yourself past it daily. close friends. You'll begin to look forward to each day as you'll find yourself continually surprising yourself. Say something that surprises you. Not only does this help you grow as a person. I knew deep inside that if I kept working there I would stay comfortable and never achieve my goals of running a successful business or publishing a book. or got frustrated with the screenplay I was writing. You have to find out what your ships and crutches are. It doesn't matter what your comfort zone is any area. Quitting the job not only meant burning my ships (as the job provided me with money. How do you achieve this? This push yourself one step further every day. friends. The job provided me with a solid wad of cash every week.

and then envision yourself in different scenarios. you might not be able to do it in the same capacity now. If you want to travel the world… pick one place right now and set a goal to visit it. Sure. But in this section I just want to remind you that the more inspired you are on the inside.Social Superstar I will go more into detail about embracing your passions in the section on being an interesting person. You'll often find that achieving life goals and dreams doesn't cost nearly as much as you think. Don't jump at the first thought that comes into your mind. How do you find your passion? Think to yourself "what would I be doing if I suddenly won $150 million in the lottery. Let it power you. or travel the world. The trick is to find whatever you would do if time and money were not an object and do it now. or open a bar where they know everyone. This is not the case. If you don't live up to your own standards. imagine you have this money. Really dwell on it. When you find something that drives you… go with it. In Tim Ferriss's book The Four Hour Work Week he gives an exercise called Dreamlining which allows you to see approximately how much money you will need to make to finance your dreams. Let it drive you. they'll decide something completely different. 57 . then you're letting yourself down. or train for the Olympics. the more it shows on the outside. Once you visit that place. Only Seek Approval from Yourself Many people misinterpret the advice to "not care what people think" to be advice recommending living a slovenly. withdrawn. Really get inside your mind. this freedom. or write music. or paint. but plant the seed of passion in your mind. unproductive life. energizing reason to get out of bed every morning does amazing things for your self esteem. Having a solid. or volunteer for worthy causes. What sparks you? Most people think if they won that kind of money that they would want to retire on a beach somewhere… but often when they really think of it. set a goal to visit another place. You are the only judge of what is important for you. In a later chapter I have reproduced that exercise for you. Spend an hour every night writing. You might find that hour becomes your most cherished of the day. Maybe they decide they want to write children's books. If you would write children's books… start writing one now.

And the more you try to please everyone.The Best of TSBMAG. This is not advice to be selfish.COM You can't please everyone. the more you wind up pleasing no one. 58 . It is simply advice to live life on your terms and not let the whims of the masses affect your ability to make decisions. The first and foremost person you need to please is yourself.

People get bored and uninterested in what is always around. The final ingredient to being captivating is possessing a sense of authority. scarcity. your influence over them will run thin… and you will also not enjoy yourself around them nearly as much. The second weapon of influence you must use is that of scarcity. And most importantly they want someone to look up to. They are most fascinated and attached to what they can't have. These weapons are liking. Your Plan: I was originally going to call this chapter. What makes someone cool? Well everything we talked about in the previous chapter “Look the Part” definitely plays a huge part in appearing cool. Looking cool is a good way to get people to take notice. If they don't like you. If you want to be captivating. You must get other people to like you. They want to be must convey three weapons of influence. captivating or cool.but decided that cool is subjective and people might not understand it as a standalone definition. and authority. which ultimately you must do to demonstrate that you are cool. And how do you demonstrate that you are cool? Be interesting! 59 .Social Superstar Chapter 5: Be Captivating (liking + scarcity + authority) Your Objective: In order to be interesting. People are like sheep.Be Cool. But looking cool doesn’t make you cool.the kind of person that people want to be around. above all you must be likeable. They want to be told what to do.

surfing. While they all can be fun and rewarding… how interesting do these hobbies make you appear to other people? What if your hobbies included: Playing in a cover band. There just doesn’t seem to be anything deeper than the pretty exterior. or race car driving? Do you think other people would take a tad bit more interest in you? 60 . this is the easiest to immediately implement. tango dancing. world travel.The Best of TSBMAG. We can choose anything. Why? Because as pretty as they can be… they’re usually like talking to a wall. What we choose to make our hobbies is our choice. collecting comic books. So how do you “be interesting” you ask? Here are some traits of interesting people that we will explore further: Interesting hobbies Interesting profession Contradictory character traits The dirty little secret Fearless Says less than necessary No where you’re going Never appear too perfect Have interesting hobbies Out of all of the traits. hacking into highly secured computer networks. or golf as a hobby. fantasy football.COM Wallflowers are rarely cool. rock climbing. Some people choose playing Halo 3. snowboarding. If you want to be a Social Superstar it is crucial that you become the most interesting person in the room. World of Warcraft. volunteer relief aid work. While devouring interesting facts and storing them away for appropriate times can make you sound interesting and does play a small part in a Social Superstar repertoire…it is more important that you be interesting. Some people will take this the wrong way and think they have to load up on useless facts and knowledge… ala Mystery’s “Did you know fish cough?” routine.

A guy who chooses to learn and compete in tango dancing competitions is an oddity. or struggling to surf. There is nothing fundamentally fascinating about rock climbing.Social Superstar Your immediate reaction might be to say that simply faking an interest in a hobby is enough. You need to develop passion for these things. It is your choice to pursue that hobby which makes you interesting. How many girls admire your dedication to World of Warcraft? How many of those same girls would admire your dedication to volunteering to perform relief work after various catastrophes? What you choose to do with your free time says more about you then anything that comes out of your mouth. playing in a cover band. Your hobbies give other people the ability to make a snapshot judgment of your personality traits. This is a guy who marches to the beat of a different drummer. And most people are compelled to know why? How many people are genuinely curious as to why you spend your free time shuffling around your fantasy football roster? Not many I would assume. It is actually pretty boring to watch. what personality traits do you associate with someone who spends their free time surfing. Are you starting to get the idea? What you choose to make your hobby tells other people a lot about your personality. or flying around the world is not enough. But there is something unique and interesting about the type of guy who chooses to spend his free time rock climbing while his friends are sitting in front of a computer playing video games. This is a guy who goes against the grain. You may ask what is more interesting about surfing than golf. or traveling the world? Maybe words like: Adventurous Passionate 61 . This is where the value of this lesson comes in. Merely going through the motions of rock climbing. It’s not. What would personality traits would most people attach to someone whose hobby was following major league sports or playing video games or golf? Now. The hobby itself is not what makes you interesting. You need to develop a passion for them that radiates from within your core being.

You can run a general Google search and see what comes up. Are you a sheep? 62 . or you can visit specialized travel sites to see what kind of adventure travel they offer. and interesting hobbies is not as hard as it may seem. you can search meetup.The Best of TSBMAG. Take some time for a moment and think about the kind of words people would use to describe you. The wonderful thing about entering one of these groups is that it presents you with an opportunity to meet new and exciting people that you normally would not have come in contact with. The best way to find out the potential of turning one of your childhood dreams into a current hobby is to begin by searching around the internet. a space explorer. And even better. determination. exciting. It is amazing what you find when you begin to step outside of your comfort zone. cave dweller. This is what makes these “interesting” people so extraordinary. rock star? Who says you can’t be? In our times it is possible to make a hobby out of any possible thing you may have an interest in. Most people are confined to the day to day activities that make up their comfort zone. computer hacker. In the late Randy Pausch’s Last Lecture he talks about rediscovering your childhood dreams as a way to bringing fulfillment to your life. Finding new. you can run a Yahoo Groups or Google Groups search and see if there is already a group of people discussing it. They are a rare commodity in a world where most people act like mindless sheep following along with the herd. These new acquaintances might open your eyes to entirely new horizons. you’re likely to find a group of people that have made a hobby out of the same exact thing to share experiences with. It is their for groups in your area.COM Free spirited Thrill seeking Interesting people are often associated with these sorts of words. What were some of your childhood dreams you gave up on? Did you want to be an archeologist like Indiana Jones. My first recommendation is to choose a few things that you have a genuine interest in. and ability to live life outside the comfort zone that is so fascinating to us.

This is an exercise in reversing repression. but not limited to. as most will. racing ostriches. If you really want a Ferrari. etc. its unimportant. What would you do if there was no way you could fail? If you were 10 times smarter than the rest of the world Create two timelines. Do not limit yourself. For now. There is a certain amount of unsaid respect and admiration for the man or woman who does these things.) in that order. You will be looked as sort of an authoritative figure.” Others will call it “maturity. tracing your roots overseas. and do not concern yourself with how these things will be accomplished. Be sure not to judge or fool yourself. for others fortune or prestige. Some people call this “developing character. be fluent in Chinese. For some. consider what you hate or fear in each and write down the opposite. The sad truth is that most people don’t even finish a book that they startlet alone persist long enough to make it to the finals of a surf competition in Hawaii. car. etc.). etc. All people have their vices and 63 . but it will also help you understand the means it will take to achieve your dreams. And most people don’t travel out of their state – let alone backpack across South East Asia.6 months and 12 months. don't put down solving world hunger out of guilt. clothing. I am going to take the next section directly from Tim Ferriss's book and urge you follow this advice and create your dreamlines. If you pick a hobby that continually challenges you and forces you to continually dig deep inside to persist… you will grow as a person. being (be a great cook. material wants: house.let alone climb to the top of Mount Everest. Most people quit a fitness routine a few weeks after beginning. Dreamlining In Tim Ferriss's brilliant book "The Four Hour Work Week" he gives a phenomenal exercise that will not only help you develop your passion. and doing (visiting Thailand.and list up to five things you dream of having (including. You will seem to possess a wisdom normally reserved for wise old men. the dream will be fame.).” No matter what name you give it the results are the same.Social Superstar There are more benefits to exploring a new and exciting hobby other than being perceived as interesting. If you have difficulty identifying what you want in some categories.

think about if for a few minutes. day to day. Here are a few examples: Great cook = make Christmas dinner without help Fluent in Chinese = have a five minute conversation with a Chinese coworker What are the four dreams that would change it all? Using the six month timeline.COM insecurities. People find it easier brainstorm "being" first. star or otherwise highlight the four most exciting and/or important dreams from all the columns. 64 . Repeat the process with the 12 month timeline if desired. If something will improve your feeling of self worth. If still blocked. most people have a lot of trouble coming up with the defined dreams they're being held from. put it down. Identify an action that would characterize this state of being or task that would mean you have achieved it. if you had $100 million in the bank? b) What would make you excited to wake up in the morning to another day? Don't rush. consider these questions: a) What would you do. This is particularly true with the "doing" category. fill in the five "doing" spots with the following: • • • • • One place to visit One thing to do before you die (memory of a lifetime One thing to do daily One thing to do weekly One thing you've always wanted to learn What does "being" entail doing? Convert each "being" into a "doing" to make it actionable. but this column is just a temporary spot for "doing" actions.The Best of TSBMAG. Drawing a blank? For all their bitching about what's holding them back. In that case.

actor. Set actions-simple. Do it now. we are cutting ourselves short. Define three steps for each dream that will get you closer to its actualization. but to define the end goal. I generally set 3-month and six month dreamlines. 65 . The variable change too much and in-the future distance becomes an excuse for postponing action. Once you have three steps for each of the four goals. CEO of a fortune 500 company. I would never recommend choosing a profession simply because it sounds glamorous. to outline every step from start to finish. or astronaut.” or name any other job too many times you begin to identify yourself with your job. let's focus on those critical first steps. Far too many people let their jobs define who they are as a person. If not rachet it down. But why not choose a profession that genuinely interests you? Chances are if it genuinely interests you… it probably is interesting to other people as well. If you fall into the unglamorous and mundane… do not be defined by your work. But for the rest of us.Social Superstar Determine three steps for each of the four dreams in just the six month timeline and take the first steps now. CIA agent. the required vehicle to achieve them and build momentum with critical first steps. First. This happens after years of naming your current profession when asked “what do you do?” If you say “I’m a painter. And very few jobs are glamorous. You are much more than your occupation.” or “I’m a real estate agent. tomorrow and the day after. Identifying yourself with your job is fine if you’re a rock star. The truth is we all have to earn a living. therefore. well-defined actions-for now.” or “I’m tech support. For the continuation of this exercise pick up a copy of "The Four Hour Work Week" or visit fourhourworkweek. I'm not a believer in long-term planning and far-off goals. The objective of this exercise isn't. In fact. Each should be simple enough to do in five minutes or less. complete the three actions in the "now" column. and living like a superstar. This is a good introduction to dreamlining and illustrates how it can create the needed momentum to set you on the right direction towards achieving your life Have an Interesting Profession This one is a lot more difficult to control than finding an interesting hobby.

I would concentrate more on finding a job that you’re passionate about rather than choosing a job strictly for conversation pieces. mundane. If you've follow the advice laid out above in regards to discovering your passions and creating hobbies 66 . but it is a vehicle for putting your charisma and enthusiasm on display. Do not kid yourself into believing that you don’t. if you are truly passionate about it. or television Airline pilot Reporter (for legitimate magazine or newspaper) Public Speaker These are just few of the better paying jobs. music. I simply want to point out the fact that if you’re in a boring. I would spend more energy on finding interesting hobbies. I’ve made a short list of examples below: • • • • • • • FBI Agent Firefighter Archeologist Any job in film. Hobbies tell more about you anyway… because they are what you choose to do on your free time. Passion is not only contagious. In the pickup/seduction community there is a lot of talk about demonstrating higher value. If you’re starting from scratch and a curious about some examples of interesting jobs. Even if the job sounds like the most boring job on the planet. So while the job itself might not be glamorous… you will appear glamorous performing it.COM I could spend fifty pages trying to talk you into following your dream profession and why it is completely possible that you attain it… but that is beyond the scope of this book. street artist… and so on. that will shine through. death trap of job… you have options. There are countless examples of interesting lower paying jobs out there like tour guide.The Best of TSBMAG. Interesting Skills A social superstar has the keen ability to keep everyone in the room focused on him. skydiving instructor. I would recommend at the very least finding a job that you’re passionate about.

While everyone's attention was on Daryl. Daryl would leave the room while the person chose the card. For some guys it takes awhile to fully integrate themselves into a new hobby or passion to the point that they feel it will benefit them in social gatherings. it is important to pick skills that are congruent with your personality. Other Magic Tricks I have never been big on magic tricks. I saw Daryl perform the trick countless times and no one ever figured it out. continue his performance for a bit. In my college days I had two good friends Daryl and Kevin who mastered one simple card trick that had audiences captivated every time they performed it. He would then lay out 7 cards on a table or floor. I am going to list this trick along with several other types of skills and routines you can learn to captivate an audience. For these guys. and never revealed the secret of how they accomplished it until years later. Magic tricks worked for Mystery because he was genuinely passionate about magic. As with all of the different skills I will list. It was a trick that they worked together on. He would sell the trick well by really smelling the cards and acting as if he was looking for a clue on the card. I suggest taking the advice of some of the most popular dating coaches and gurus and learn some routines that you can bust out at parties. realize that was the card. Basically Daryl would pull out a deck of cards and shuffle them around for a bit. The Sniffing Card Trick This trick requires a silent partner. and eventually choose the right card. I'm not 67 .Social Superstar around them. there must be a place for them in this book. Daryl would tell the person to pick out one of the cards. Kevin would subtly scratch his nose when Daryl sniffed the right card. and gathering that will make you stand out from the crowd. Daryl would notice Kevin scratching his nose. He would then invite someone to take part in the trick. show it to everyone in the room and then put it back in the row of 7 cards. When Daryl came back to the room he would begin sniffing each card. you will most likely already be developing some interesting traits and skills that are all your own. but with the popularity behind them do to legendary pick up artist Mystery. bars. My two friends Daryl and Kevin pulled this off for years in college without anyone ever catching onto it.

If the band doesn't seem to be biting.penguinmagic. You casually mention how you sing "insert song you've practiced a million times" really well. and how much you miss being up on stage. make up some bullshit about "leaving town. You're a fun social guy though. If they sense that you're the kind of guy who rolls with a large entourage. buy them all a drink. its jampacked with and purchase some of the tricks that the pros use on stage. The kind of guy women want to fuck. and men want to be friends with.tsbmag. introduce them to some of your hot female friends. The trick to this is to learn one song that most cover bands will know… and love to play. Think Jessie's Girl.tsbmag. they will try to appease you. Most cover bands are just looking to build a following. maybe a round of shots.The Best of http://www. and boat loads of hotties. John Bon Jovi wanna be seems to have his pick of the litter tonight." If you are serious about learning magic and want to try your skills with some more professional tricks you can go to www. The long haired. your birthday. just getting over a really bad break up…" and 5 out of 10 times the band will invite you on stage to sing the song. Play to their egos..tsbmag. Learn to Play or Sing one song You're at a bar. which will allow them to charge more money for their appearances.COM saying that you have to have a desire to be a magician to perform magic tricks. During one of the set breaks you start bullshitting with the band. They 68 . www. You can also view more magic trick videos by going to Youtube and searching "magic tricks. but you must have some real interest in the subject matter. all swooning over the shitty cover band up on stage.. in hopes that you will encourage your crew to be their new groupies. There is also a wonderful resource for guys looking to use magic to improve their game called PUMA http://www. If you believe that magic tricks are something that you would like to add to your repertoire of skills you can find some videos of a few good ones on our companion site.

you best rock the house. Just simply refuse… tell them you don't want to steal the thunder from the party. some people will scream for you to play another song. You just have to get really good at playing one song. and some party goer will wow everyone with his rendition of chop sticks from Big. But you don't have to get really good. When the party rolls around feel free to strum away. Best of all… you leave the social encounter on a high note. If you get up on stage. Why not blow them away with something really good? Most people study for years to get really good at the guitar. Sure. which is a pleasant characteristic of a super star. When you get on stage to kick ass with the band… it is should come as total shock… which will amplify the effect. Sometimes parties will have stray guitars or pianos. and make you seem just that much more naturally cool. You also need to have a good stage presence. Just find one of your more talented friends or family members to teach you the song. You are not to tell anyone about your ability to sing. This means that you have to spend a fair amount of time perfecting this one song. with your audience wanting more! The Superstar's Guide to Being Funny There are many different types of humor. This same idea can be applied to musical instruments as well. There is no reason you both can't share the stage for a moment. Anybody with a little patience can spend a few days perfecting one song on the guitar or piano. Which really comes down to mastering a few chords. 69 . Video tape yourself and fine tune your body language and how you carry yourself on stage. The first criterion for this is that you have a decent voice and a good sense of rhythm. Practice in front of a mirror. Make it the staple of your karaoke choices. It is important to master the one that comes most naturally to you." You'll come off as modest. and record it so that you can listen and fine tune. Even throw in a line like "I'd play all night… but that wouldn't be fun for anyone else. Practice it often.Social Superstar want to be social superstars too.

People hate bad comedy. And often times you'll find yourself laughing before he's said anything. there is a lot of arguments over whether or not comedy can be taught. You begin to expect a certain reaction.COM Being funny is not a prerequisite for a social superstar (Being fun to be around is though." When you're watching one of his movies or listening to him speak in an interview. Because Vince Vaughn has really mastered this character. you can almost feel what his reaction will be before he makes it. humor comes much more easily for him. you can learn to recognize it. he just has to ask himself what would "a smart ass" say? It is important if you want to be funny that you have a character and that you stick with the character. He has developed the character of "smart ass. With it. or making an observation on something he's witnessing.The Best of TSBMAG. That being said. the easier it will be to infiltrate new social circles. and put it out at appropriate times. Think about the people you most enjoy spending time with… more than likely they will be the people that you laugh the most around. When he's responding to a question." If you think about the funniest performers most of them have at least one memorable character who makes you laugh before he even says anything… because you already know what his reaction will be. I do think that if you learn a little bit about humor. Humor cannot be forced or it's uncomfortable. Develop a character "Humor doesn't go into a character is comes out of him. A character needs a trademark or point of view that does not change. you're simply a recite of jokes. or there tends to be a lot of uncomfortable silences after you deliver your lines… stop! You'll have an easier time just being the cool serious guy… then the unfunny jokester.) The funnier you are. The humor actually flows more from the 70 . Laughing feels good. Humor is a polarizing thing… while being funny can make you extremely popular… trying to be funny when you're not can crush your social dreams. If you sense that the people around you don't respond to your jokes. While I don't think that spur of the moment jokes can be taught to someone who doesn't naturally think that way. Let's use Vince Vaughn as an example. you can get laughs simply be being yourself. Without a character. Everyone and I mean everyone loves being around someone that consistently makes them laugh.

and responses than from the jokes. Here are some roles that David DeAngelo recommends trying out or testing… The I'm superior to you character An assumed or fake position of authority The character of the victim of her seduction The cold guy. the straight man The guy who only wants to know what's in it for him A high maintenance chick The ultimate authority and commentator on wussy guys Imitating the women you're with Becoming devil's advocate and promoting bad behavior She needs adult supervision As you can see that by merely immersing yourself in any of these characters. They are actually "being" the character. Or your characters interaction with another person.Social Superstar character. If you keep trying to see if your audience likes it will probably backfire on you. And they're not seeking approval. For many years I developed the character of "daddy. The character is where 90% of the humor flows from. Most funny people are not trying to be funny. Think about the funniest people you know. In order to make this concept work you must believe it and act congruently. the humor will come with how the character is interacting with the world.humor will naturally flow out of it. Or your character's interaction with your thoughts.jerk. especially if they can tell you're trying to use it to get their approval. My whole character was the arrogant-what's in it for me. The ones David DeAngelo mentioned above are particularly good for dealing with women. get a laugh… then leave it. It won't work if you approach it tentatively and try it… it will actually backfire. You will probably find that they have a standard character that they have become." I based the humor off of Vince Vaughn. The humor comes from your characters interaction with the world. You can't go into character. No 71 . the interactions. do it for a little while. If you can get the character down. then all of the funny stuff starts taking care of itself. Because once you "nail" the character. I was able to make that character work really well.

I'm not a firm believer that books can teach you how to be funny. Also pay attention to the connections he makes. 72 . Learn to see the world through his eyes. that’s a good start for a character. lots of technical gadgets like a Blackberry. It is easy to fall into this trap when building an image. the tortured musician. For instance. the brainiac. the well situated power investment banker. Watching Movies. or playing in a blues band on weekends. This allows you to observe the reactions of those around you. and how people react to them. Cocky comedy is the best type of humor for attracting women. Some guys need to understand things at a greater level before implementing something." Best recourses to learn humor Watching standup comedy. Read Books. If you're one of those guys pick up the book "Comedy Writing Secrets. This 6 CD set will leave you with more material than you can begin to use.are you picturing formal suits and furrowed forehead? Long hours. But your best bet is to head out often to the local theatre or club and watch some standup comedy live. allowing funny sarcastic lines to flow out of you. Some of the comedians you might want to study are Bill Burr." Cocky Comedy Course: David DeAngelo's cocky comedy course is a brilliant way to learn the art of cocky comedy. Have Contradictory Character Traits No one is less compelling than a person in life who acts like a million other characters you’ve encountered. Pay attention to his delivery. because people love to classify people into types. I've found that watching Vince Vaughn movies really helped me develop my sarcastic sense of humor.The Best of TSBMAG. And they’ll likely try to push you along into one. and a whole lot of excess cash? Well. exhibiting only one facet: the alpha jock.COM matter what character you choose. If this is your type… maybe you can make yourself interesting by doing volunteer work with the humane society. you have to know fundamental people skills so that you are "liked. Louie CK. It lets you observe the power of delivery and timing. But they can teach you the underlying principles of what makes people laugh. but a social superstar needs to transcend a type. and you'll begin thinking like him.

They slowly reveal things about themselves that keep us wondering what we will find out next. A fascinating element of human nature is that we all possess contrasting traits. our experiences. explore the specific and unique details that will make you more complex. not be spotting contrasts like stop signs along the road. They make us feel as if we’ve missed something all along. other times greatly conflicting. The dedicated business man had a thousand dollar a week coke habit. There is nothing in life that kills interest more than predictability. The innocent girl had sex with a stranger. The ones that intrigue us most don’t come off as stereotypes or clichés. not a type but a real person. The three dimensional ones. or fact about themselves that is completely contradictory to the image they have put forward thus far. People love being swerved when they least expect it. These are all contradictions of character. sometimes subtle. This means the nice guy admits he got rough with his last girlfriend. To understand more. When you build an image. And they fascinate us. They make us want to know more. each of our bundles distinctively different from anyone else’s. ADVANCED: use with caution The Dirty Little Secret People love surprises. Your observer should experience the tension. The alpha male fucked a guy. or books are those who possess depth. It is a completely refreshing change of pace. And that feeling is invigorating. A great seducer does the same thing. 73 . The responsible teacher has fucked a hooker. they seep into your being. The most interesting characters in movies. letting the target feel like they have him all figured out. and our memories.Social Superstar These sorts of distinctions make you different from any other person that might fall into this type. We all carry with us histories. And there is nothing in life that peaks interest more than a swerve just when we thought we had something or someone all figured out. story. and then the seducer blind sides the target with an action. He does this by leading his target in one direction. television. These contrasts provide endless opportunity to make yourself more complex. The best contrasts are so seamlessly sewn with your characterization that they’re not easy to spot.

I am not saying to go out and hit your girlfriend. nor do anything other socially unacceptable behavior. And you wait until that point where you sense they feel they have you figured out. They got into a fight and he hit her just once. I’m sure if you did deep enough into your past you can find something you’ve done that is a little taboo. They are frowned upon. It makes us feel alive. By introducing danger to your target you will make them feel alive. Sure when they talked about him to their friends they acted as if they disapproved of him. His ex girlfriend learned it a year into the relationship. or fuck a minor. He literally had girls throwing themselves at him. But danger is seductive. and have her end the relationship.COM By nature we want what we are not supposed to have. friend’s girlfriends. What I am saying though is don’t hide what is there. laid back guy. virtuous characteristics. prostitutes. They are dangerous. But suddenly he was a little more complex. Now at the right moment you have to disclose this information. But it was enough to bruise her eye. And in the end desire always wins out over reason. He was one of the most laid back. He was now taboo. They had known him for years as a nice. My friend didn’t have to do all of this because all of these girls knew him previously. lesbians. He was dangerous. they all though they had him figured out. But the girls didn’t care. it had just begun. You have to build rapport with your target. cousins. The fact that they shouldn’t do it only made them want to do it more. He also happened to have a fuse that would occasionally go off. He was socially unacceptable. you could ever meet. So by the time the story had come out. How many of our fantasies involve our teachers. continues years later to tell the story of that relationship to girls he meets. and then you drop the bomb. where he would lose his temper completely. My friend. I was friendly with many of the girls there and talked open and honestly about my sexual experiences. Not many people knew this side of him. But in their mind they were captivated by him. Little did he know. And they will surrender to you for it. I had a friend back in college. She proceeded to tell everyone in arm’s length about what happened. I told 74 . He says of all the girls he told not one stopped seeing him. You have to allow them to see all of your positive. although not proud of the indecent. single moms. My friend thought is social life was over on campus. I had a job in a restaurant once. easy going guys.The Best of TSBMAG. and minors? These people are taboo.

If you want to stand out in a crowd. because bad boys provide an adrenaline rush that the average guy does not. Appear Fearless You’re fearless. Live a fearless friend still found it morally necessary to tell every girl he was with afterwards about the charge right before he would sleep with them for the first time. Did it stop me from fucking half the waitresses there? Hell no. We are held back by our fear of losing our job. Creating a little bit of an edge for yourself will work wonders for your sex appeal. Feel the fear. our fear of going broke. Most of our fears are completely unwarranted. Most fear stems from our need for approval. none. This is 75 . Most people are insecure. In the average guy. our fear of making a mistake. our fear of ruining our reputation. Although the charge was bullshit. Most of us are working a job we hate. most of our major fears are solely based on what thoughts someone else will have about us. lonely or in a shitty relationship. and we’re not even afraid of the consequences of the wrong decision… We are afraid of what people will say about us… what people will think about us.Social Superstar them about my love of Asian massage parlors. In fact. What would your personality be like if you weren’t governed by all of these fears? If you take a look at the short list of our major fears… you’ll find that not one of them is life threatening. How many stopped him. This is especially true if you are a naturally nice wholesome guy. You guessed it. Most people suffer some form of anxiety disorder. I have a friend with an assault charge on his record. our fear of rejection. a woman sees a reflection of most of her fears and insecurities. And not one of them ever even made me where a condom. our fear of being laughed at. How refreshing is it when we meet someone who isn’t controlled by these fears? Women are attracted to bad boys. have given up our dreams… because we are afraid of making the wrong decision. The dirty little secret is a great way to make you more desirable to a girl. then do it anyway. How ridiculous does that sound when you really think about it? 90% of the decisions that you make are influenced by your need for approval. Most people are held back by various forms of fear.

While it may seem difficult to "be fearless" it is not nearly as difficult to appear fearless. fighting for civil rights. and the superstars of this world… overcome their fears in the face of the public. depriving themselves of true happiness. Some people are terrified of death. The bad boy makes her forget all about her fears and insecurities. He realizes that short of death or serious injury… life goes on after 99. Most human beings go through their daily existence terrified. airplanes… and the list goes on. But the fact is. If you do. poverty. He takes her into his fearless existence. People like their heroes and superstars to possess the traits and characteristics they most wish they had themselves.COM why the average guy becomes her friend. the ocean. The difference is that the bad boys. calm.The Best of TSBMAG. public speaking. or bedding Marilyn Monroe. no matter what the situation was. They find these characters exhilarating because they can't figure out how they can be so fearless.9% of the situations you enter into. Appearing fearless is really the objective. confrontation. this might just be the hardest advice you will ever receive: You need to feel the fear. cold approaching. heights. natural disasters. terrorism. no one is inherently fearless. I am going to repeat a challenge that I laid out to you during our 31 Days to Better Game series last July. What is a fearless existence? A fearless existence is one that is not governed by the illogical fears that most people hang onto their entire life. he never showed eve one ounce of fear. Whether the president was fending off missile crisis. relationships. some people are scared of social gatherings. and do it anyway. Because they can sit and talk and wallow in their fears and insecurities together. A Superstar does not confine himself to these fears. What was so iconic about a person like John F Kennedy was that he always appeared so cool. the heroes. and collective. Chances are you probably suffer from quite a few of those fears yourself. cold calling. 76 .

say what you feel like saying. An extremely effective way to break through your fears is to tackle a really big one immediately. Human beings are curious creatures. 77 . approach who you feel like approaching. You get my point. they will continue to try to interpret and explain you. As long as you put up a guard by carefully controlling what you reveal. If you have a fear of flying… parachute out of an airplane. tell someone who has pissed you off to “fuck off.Social Superstar Live the next two days of your life completely fearless. it will seem original if you make it vague. or how you appear. Say Less Than Necessary The 4th Law of Power states: When you are trying to impress people with words. and sphinxlike. the more you say. Even if you are saying something banal. and they'll quickly try to fill the silence by nervously jumping in with comments that reveal valuable information about them and their weaknesses. Just for the next two days. the more interesting you will appear. or whatever other insignificant. After the two days you can go back to worrying about what people think. and the less in control. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. If you have a fear of public speaking… go to a Toastmaster's meeting and give a five minute speech to a group of strangers. You can often gain the control in a conversation by merely giving short answers and long pauses…simply because it will put the other person on the defensive.” do exactly what you want to do. and the more time they spend pondering. They'll go home trying to figure out what happened in the conversation. Do you want to call out of work and go the beach? Do it! Do you want to tell the counter girl at the bank that she’s sexy as hell? Do it! Do you want to finally change the style of your haircut? Jump out a plane? Get a tattoo? Have sex with a stranger? Do whatever the fuck you want! Whenever the fuck you want! Do this for just 2 days and experience the thrill of being fearless. the more likely you are to say something foolish. open-ended. the more common you appear. trivial reason is holding you back. The more you say. They find it necessary to know what you are thinking.

" but you've just given away your greatest bargaining tool. If you have a low tolerance for alcohol. Revealing too much not only serves to diminish the interest people have in you. I used to spend way too much time thinking about what other people were thinking about me. Do not take this as an excuse to be shy or introverted. If you want to be a social superstar you must not let others goad you into saying something that you will come to regret. I always recommend saying the bare minimum. And far from interesting. Shy people like to think of themselves as noble… but in fact they are the most self indulgent people there are. there is a difference from being shy. This means you also must learn to handle your temper under pressure or when angry. you cannot take them back. you may be tempted to blurt out "I love you. the more value she's invested in you. shyness is a sign of insecurity. This is especially important when you are out drinking. If you don't make it a habit of controlling the words that come out of your mouth. I've been accused of being heartless. but it can also be dangerous for placing yourself into a corner later on. as everything you've worked for could be ruined by one night of diarrhea of the mouth. you will wind up with a habit of letting your mouth write checks you can't cash. Once she knows how deeply you feel… the interest begins to diminish. or something that could be used against you. or not out for love… but the truth is. I know because I used to be one. Know Where You're Going Most people wander through life aimlessly. Not the social superstar. 78 .COM Saying less in a conversation also helps you avoid saying something that will make you look foolish. be sure to watch your consumption. In fact. The more time she spends trying to figure you out. I've long figured out that the less you say to a girl. The social superstar lives on his own terms and knows exactly what he wants out of life. In the heat of the moment. the more interesting you appear to her. This also relates to a lot of the advice I give out regarding expressing your feelings toward a girl.The Best of TSBMAG. This is not noble… it is vain and reeks of self centeredness. Once words are out. They can't believe that he actually has it all figured out. Yes. the consequences will linger on long after the pleasure has subsided. As much satisfaction you might get from an uncontrolled outburst. Shyness is not interesting. and carefully choosing your words. They look for other people to guide them and show them direction. This simple concept intrigues people.

If he is there… then IT IS the coolest place you could possibly be. be completely confident with your decision and act as if that was the ONLY logical decision you could have made based on your belief system. People are amazed by people who live with a sense of purpose. When asked what bar. Don't be like the masses seeking approval before they do anything. restaurant. right? Even if the place is completely dead… he must know something special about if that the rest of us don't if he is hanging out there. and is always confident in his decision. 79 . Once you decide where you're headed… do not second guess yourself. Could you ask for anything better?" People like to have other people make up their mind for them. It applies to everyday situations. This is one of the reasons we are fascinated by athletes. This idea of "knowing where you're going" doesn't just apply to choosing a major in college. If you're convincing enough they'll begin to feel that you're right. Maybe this quiet hole. most people will -the -wall bar does have some special quality. If you walked into a bar and Brad Pitt was chilling there you would automatically assume that you found the happening spot. appear to have an inner knowing guiding your actions. That is the mentality you need to have. they need you to point it out. you're there right? And you're the most interesting person these people know. They're just not cool enough to notice.. where you want to go?" This typical answer must not ever slip out the social superstar's mouth. "I don't know. a nice quiet place to chill with some cool peeps. Think about it. or movie they want to go to. or picking a career. The social superstar always knows where he wants to go.. is must be cool. If you're at a bar and its pretty empty. It is difficult for the common person to comprehend that a human being as dedicated his whole life to a sport. After all. If you've chosen join the fire department.Social Superstar If you want to capture people's attention. Instead of complaining that no one is there. If you claim that it is going to be a great time… make it a great time. If he is there. or suggesting other places… try saying something like "This is exactly what I needed tonight. Each and every one of your actions should appear to be done completely by your own accord. Always seem one hundred percent confident in your choice of what you're doing with you leisure time.

success. Sometimes that is not enough though. They will try to create situations in which you falter. we absolutely hate feeling inferior to someone. Certain people have a way of making you feel small through their brilliance. If you begin to inspire too much envy in people they will subconsciously want to ruin you. In a later chapter. You don't want to make the people around you feel mediocre. Even if you are great at something… it is not always necessary to display your talents. and persistent… you don't want to inspire too much envy from people. Do not be that person. Your rise to the top must seem gradual and expected. And he would always talk up his experiences to other people later on. You can avoid being this guy by not talking too much about your accomplishments. He would talk up the occasion and make you truly feel that he was genuinely pleased to be hanging with you no matter where you were or what you were doing. Even if you and him just sat in a bar drinking alone… when asked the next day he would be like "me and Bobby just had this really cool night bullshitting for hours in this hole in the wall bar… we got hammered and shared some hilarious stories.COM I had a friend in college who was the master of this. we talk about the time and the place to "be excellent. Don' hate yourself for it. You were human. and other people absolutely adored him. secretly we were jealous and almost wanted him to slip up. or victory… it tends to create immense envy amongst your former peers." Do you see where I'm going? Never appear too perfect As humans. Sometimes you have to hide some of your skills in certain situations. passionate. While you want to be interesting. 80 ." It is also important as you make your climb to social superstar that you don't make a sudden improvement in fortune. We've all had that friend who was almost too perfect. But you want to avoid being the guy who creates those feelings in people. No matter what situation you were in with him you couldn't help but enjoy yourself. Although on the outside we praised him. motivated. After awhile we even found our self "accidently" saying things that might get him in trouble. He just couldn't seem to do wrong.The Best of TSBMAG. When someone gets an unexpected promotion.

When you’ve been assigned the role of leader… it’s easy to take advantage of the people below you… but that will ultimately lead to them losing respect for you. If you’re on the football team and everyone else on the team is too hungover for Saturday’s game… be the guy still scoring the touchdowns… because you switched to water midway through the night. 5. It is crucial that you’re 81 . You’ve got to pinpoint who that guy is as quickly as possible and be prepared for the moment he turns against you. not Responsibility No one wants to be told what to do… but everyone loves to tell other people what to do. Create a Winning Group Culture Why is Derek Jeter adored… and Arod hated? Because Jeter is seen as a leader who looks out for his team’s best interest… and Arod is seen as a self serving asshole. Delegate Authority.Social Superstar Other tips for being cool 1. Know Your Competition Someone is always aiming for your top spot. If you and your buddies find yourself at a college party… be the guy who immediately fits in. 3. Have you noticed how in the show Entourage. People can only suppress jealousy and envy for so long before it explodes. Don’t ever talk about how many girls you can pull… just pull them. If you’re going to be the leader of a group… it should be a group that wins. Don’t lecture… LEAD. Vinnie Chase wants to do everything in his power to make his friends successful too? 4. If you’re planning out Prom Weekend. Someone always will. Joe will never let you down. 2. instead of telling Joe he’s in charge of renting out the hotel and buying the beer… Tell him you trust him to find the right guy to rent the hotel and buy the beer. Pump up everyone in the group… get everyone to succeed. Don’t Avoid the Risk Why was Braveheart so fucking cool? Because even though his legend would have been sealed had he never stepped foot on another battlefield… he went out there with his men each and every time. Lead by Example It’s easy for anyone to tell someone how cool they are… You need to show them. EVER.

Well. hidden affairs. and romance novels. the individual who his comfortable. try to suppress their sexual needs and desires. makes us feel comfortable with our sexuality is a refreshing change of pace. threesomes. politicians like Bill Clinton and John F Kennedy. This leads to a population of people who hunger for their fix of sexuality through pornography. 82 . I brought my frank sex talk with me. The Taboo and getting people comfortable talking about sex The biggest social superstars. At my command I would have girls hooking up with each other. For this reason. They looked to me to tell them was alright to discuss and admit to. and we begin to crave this person's presence. While people are usually taken back at first. I had been working in a restaurant for about a year. orgies (yes I will tell this story one day) and countless one night stands. explicit chat rooms. I also found these people incredible tame for my taste. by nature. I've never viewed sex as something dirty or to be ashamed of. soon they are opening up to me with their explicit thoughts. so I tended to naturally talk about it. I remember a few years back. know how to use their sexuality as a key ingredient to their rise in stardom. and simultaneously getting dumped by my girlfriend. after graduating college.COM ready for that explosion. and an entire other lot of topics that had previously been unheard of to discuss. Most people. knowing that you’ve already covered all your bases.The Best of TSBMAG. Which gave me an unbelievable amount of power. For the first year working there. I became almost a guru to them. and a girlfriend that was already occupying most of my time. and better yet. I found myself spending more time with these people. and openness to admit explicit details of my life without blinking an eye. Soon this tame crowd was openly discussing the use of vibrators. This is something that I've always been extremely good at. I didn't socialize much with this group as I had a huge scene at college. When it happens… sit back and smile. Very few people give them this opportunity so it automatically puts you in an advantageous position. random games of truth or dare.

This is an art form. Although I don't suggest taking the "free love" approach. you create an environment where everyone feels free to indulge in it.Social Superstar By creating an environment where everyone was able to let their guard down and feel confident expressing their desires. There were no games behind it anymore. On many occasions I would sleep with more than one girl in a night… with both of them well aware of what was going on. If done wrongly. 83 . And not something that you should assume you have the skills to do right off the bat. You don't want to come off as the horny college guy who can't stop talking about sex. You need to come off as having a maturity towards sex beyond your years. as that will only label you a dirty hippie. You have to be comfortable talking about it because it is such a natural part of your life that you would not be able to understand otherwise. By creating an environment where sex is not a taboo subject. you will wind up looking like a sex crazed pervert. sex became just another every day activity. Almost as if you're more evolved towards it then others. This is similar to the movement that went on in the 1960's with the hippies.

Your Plan: 84 . The third weapon of influence you must use to build your fan base is the weapon of reciprocation. The three most important weapons of persuasion and influence for building a fan base are commitment. The following section will teach you exactly how to get people to like you. This is perhaps the most powerful of all the weapons. But a crucial element to becoming a social superstar is to be liked and adored.The Best of TSBMAG. The previous chapters have given you the tools necessary to be the type of guy who people want to be around. Your communication skills need to be honed to near perfection. In the following section I am going to show you how use the power of reciprocation to get legions of people looking for ways to help you achieve superstardom. This is why it is necessary to use specific psychological techniques that will mentally bind them to sticking with you. If you want to have people following you it is important that you first get them to like you. They quickly get sucked back into their own day to day existence. People's attention's spans often waiver. liking. The second step in building a fan base is to get them to commit to the idea of following your lead. and reciprocation. This weapon simply states that human beings feel a mental obligation to repay favors done for them.COM Chapter 7: Cultivate a fan base (commitment + liking + reciprocation) Your Objective: The objective of the following chapter is to teach you how to develop a legion of people who worship you. Once someone decides that they like you it will be much easier to use the other weapons of persuasion and influence on them.

and commitment) are so powerful that if you can master them the world will be handed to you on a silver spoon. In this short section I want to list some more ways find people with common interests. Part Time Jobs Most romances don’t occur between two people who meet at a bar or club. and live a more exciting and rewarding life than 98% of the population. But I also understand that there are some people reading this who will need some guidance into how to go about finding the groups of people that they want to hang out with. Even if you currently have a social scene that you are active in I believe it is important that you know how to find new scenes when the time comes. It is also important to be a member of several social scenes because it allows you to play them against each other for jealousy effect. date more women. The majority of romances occur in the workplace. These three weapons of influence (liking. reciprocation. You also tend to start picturing them naked." In the previous section on "hobbies" I gave you some tips for finding way to immerse yourself into new hobbies. as will your "social proof. It’s a fact of life. If you follow the communication techniques laid out throughout the rest of this section you will make more friends. It makes sense. 85 . And b y dividing your time between several scenes the "scarcity" effect will multiply. earn more money. When you’re spending 4 to 8 hours a day with the same group of people you tend to get close to them.Social Superstar This next section will get you further in life than any of the previous sections. How to Get Involved in Scenes Most of this book was written with the presumption that you already have a social scene that you can climb to the top of and command.

Remember these jobs not only open you up to meeting co-workers and customers… but you also get introduced into the social scenes of all the friends you make at your new job. But once you graduate high school the quality of girls your age working in a supermarket will greatly diminish.close and personal time with any cute chick working there. You want to work in a salon that has at least 5-10 other people working there.The Best of TSBMAG. The 5 Best Part Time Jobs for Meeting Women Tanning Salon. These are jobs for those of you still in college.COM I learned this lesson my junior year of high school when I took a job at Shop Right. This means you will have a chance to build rapport over time. There will be many female customers 86 .If you are going to get a job in a tanning salon you want to make sure it is one of the bigger chains with lots of beds.Barnes and Noble is best for the guy who genuinely likes to read and discuss books. These girls may seem kind of nerdy… but they are wild in bed. All the customers will be girls as well. I've put together a list of some of the best jobs to meet women at. The benefit is that most likely it will be a small staff of 2 or 3 people working. And I mean everyone… from the 16 year old cashiers to the 55 year old Seafood Dept. Everyone was hooking up. And most of the customers will be repeat customers coming in weekly. Barnes and Noble. A tanning salon is best for someone with a fairly good level of game. Chances are they will all be girls. There won’t be as many co-workers to choose from. I wasn’t working there for more than two weeks before I realized that the employees looked at the place like it was a giant night club. or those of you just looking to supplement your income with a second job. and you will only have a minute or two to interact with customers each time they come in. This means you will have up. those of you still waiting to find your life calling. The girls that will work there will more than likely be the hipster intelligent type. Young girls. If you’re in high school I would probably recommend a job in a supermarket for meeting women. managers.

And I ask… Is there a better age group to be adored by? I think not. The customer base will largely be young girls. The mall is a Mecca of female talent. What makes waiting tables better than the other three jobs on this list? Alcohol.This job is for those of you under twenty one. If at all possible go for a position in the cafe. Your game needs to be good… but not great. The best part of waiting tables is that it is almost customary to have a drink with your co-workers when your shift ends… and we all know… one drinks turns into three or four. You’re game doesn’t have to be good to work the restaurant scene. If you get a job in a store like The Gap you are bound to be working with adorable little 19 year old hotties. You’ll work with a mix of college hotties. get drunk. A lot. Hotties with a lot of 19 year old friends. The cafe will offer the best opportunity for flirting with customers. and get laid. Not only will your store have hotties employed in it… but so will every other store in the mall. to enjoy the fruits of your labor. Get a job at chain restaurant like Fridays or Houlihans and you will instantly be engulfed in a social scene of 10-20 other likeminded college students looking to get paid. single moms. Retail Store in a Mall. If you establish yourself as the fun party guy you’ll soon be adored by all the Just Graduated High School Hotts. If you’re half way social and present your best self… you’ll get laid.Can you say social scene in a box? That is what waiting tables is. Waiting Tables in a Restaurant. 87 . It’s an instant social scene.Social Superstar roaming the store… but it will be hard to spend a good amount of time hitting on them without pissing off your manager. and the barely legal high school hostesses. Barnes and Noble won’t offer as many hotties working there… but you will have a great opportunity to interact with those who do. And it is perfect for you. The only drawback of a watering job is that there is very little chance of scoring with customers. If you’re working there for awhile you’ll become aware of the girls that work in Hollister a few stores down… the girls who work the counters in the food court… and the girls selling bra and panties in Victoria Secret.

Working as a bartender in a hip place says “I know important people. The longer you wait to break the ice… the harder it will get. easy. 88 Join a young professionals organization Take a yoga or meditation class Get a part time job waiting tables Join a bowling league Join a volley ball league Attend alumni events at your previous college Attend a weekly class at your gym Check out the various clubs at www. 3. The first day you show up at any of these events start talking to people. You will be banging your co-workers.COM Bartending in a Hip Bar.” Other Ways to Expand Your Social Scene I just wanted to give you a quick list of ways you can immediately expand you social scene. But that’s part of the power in achieving it. and they drink! It’s not easy to land a good bartending job at a cool place. You will be raking in the cash. 9. You get the best of all worlds. Don’t start with the intention of making new friends or finding a girlfriend… just make friendly conversation. 10. Of course everything on this list requires you to be social and open to meeting people. What makes bartending so great is that your co-workers and clientele are likely to be just the kind of girls you’re looking for… hot. 5.meetup.This is the Pinnacle of part time jobs. 8. You will have your pick of the customers. 4. 11. 6. 21 Ways to Expand Your Social Scene Join the Toastmasters Take dancing lessons Join a volunteer organization .The Best of TSBMAG. The trick to making friends at these kinds of things is to start right away. Don’t ask me why… but bartenders rank up there with cops for scoring the most ass. 7. Point blank… bartending is a power job. 2.

I highly recommend that you read Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People. Attend any networking event your job puts on (and network) 18. Join a softball league 17. written by Sebastian Drake. Whatever your passion is find a way to immerse yourself with people who share your interest 16. that you should copy on a piece of paper and keep this list in your wallet along with your list of the six weapons of influence.Social Superstar 12. guitar) 14. Help with a political campaign (perfect timing) 19. computers. When you combine these 13 characteristics with the specific techniques I am going to lay out in the rest of the section you will have the blueprint for building a fan base. In addition to this list. If you implement all 13 of these characteristics to your daily life you will find that people will instantly want to be around you more. photography. Use Myspace and Facebook to network (as opposed to hit on girls) 13. 89 . GET OUT OF YOUR HOUSE Those are just some of the many ways you can immediately begin to meet new people and expand your social scene. get a part time internship in a field you love (even if it's for free) 20. Revive the old band and start looking for gigs at local bars 15. Teach a class on a subject you love (art. How to be liked I want to start this section off with a basic list. seminars 21. Scour the computer for local events. The key to this is to find activities that truly interest you and inspire you. This list contains 13 characteristics of a likeable person. Being around people that share your interests will not only make new friends available to you… new potential girlfriends… but it will also help you grow as a person and get you closer to achieving your dreams. classes.

and happy tend to smile. what they are doing. A quick tip: Right eye to right eye.likable people know this. If you want to change one thing to come across more social. Look from your right eye to the right eye of the person you're talking to. almost hypnotic.You'll consistently see magnetic people reach out and touch others. This strikes a great balance between good eye contact and not staring. and that smile puts people at ease. and what interests them the most. Humans crave physical contact with others. Next time someone does or says something you really like. if you choose to smile anyway you'll still get the great results.Closely related to the above point. Touching shows emotion and affection and brings you closer to other people.Maintaining eye contact when you talk to someone draws them deep into conversation with you . Not talking about yourself .The Best of TSBMAG. a playful punch on the arm or a big hug. they'll actually like you more.the rest of the world slows down. some "pound".COM 13 Characteristics of likeable People 1. confident. give them a high five. If you catch yourself rambling for a while.People who are at ease. It shows a calm confidence in what they are saying and it makes them even more engaging.what about you?" 90 . 3. Smiling shows that you're pleased to see someone which can be really flattering. Instead they encourage others to talk and to open up. Likable people are always looking to find out more about the other person. "But that's enough about me . People love to talk about their experiences and cool things they've done . Touch . and more emotion and affection can be expressed through touch than any number of words ever could. smile a big smile. Eye contact . and you both become quite important to each other. Smiling . Most people don't feel heard . Not talking too much . 5.when you become more curious and encourage them to speak more. an easy way to adjust is to say. 2. Sometimes you will not feel in the mood to smile -however. and encourage others to talk about what they really enjoy.Likable people typically are more curious to get to know other people and don't talk about themselves as much. Likable people and high status people do not talk too much. 4.

Just." "I thought that was really cool how you did that. Likable people always start off with genuine praise and appreciation before trying to give constructive feedback. you might get a funny reaction at first. praising. and appreciating constantly. cared about. but doesn't explicitly ask for your help. The most impressive people never actively try to impress people. letting them know you understand." 9. no long talk.When someone tells you they have a problem. nodding. Once you've established that you're constantly on the lookout for great things in others. 7. As crazy as it sounds. Really amazing people are much more humble and low key about what they've done. and empowered. and will only give this feedback rarely (because likable people understand that praise is a much better way to help people change than even constructive feedback. No big deal.Likable people never criticize others. Everyone wants to be understood. you'll instantly form a great connection with them.Making people feel understood. 10. Over 90% of the time. People universally hate criticism. that means they do not want you to tell them how to solve it. try listening. let them know. Empathy . When you do mention something you really like. people know the solutions to their own problems. people get used to feeling empowered around you. and you're with them. The result is that a man trying to impress communicates that he's not impressive. and striving to truly understand them is powerful. maybe make a quick suggestion but don't drive the point really hard. and hate people that criticize them. for any reason . If you can reach out to understand another person. ever. Next time someone tells you something heavy that you could have a long discussion on. If they ask what you'd do.Somewhat accomplished people want everyone to know about the accomplishments they've made. most people do not tell others about their problems in order to get 91 . Tell them you believe in them and you think they'll sort it out. I really appreciate that you did that. Not trying to impress . instead try saying just "I understand. keep it casual. Not trying to fix other peoples' problems . If someone brings a minor problem to you. Never criticizing. If people aren't used to you opening up. and criticizing is almost always useless).Social Superstar 6." You'll be amazed at how uplifting it can make other people feel. "Hey. They want to feel understood. People want to know that they are not alone in the world. 8.Whenever you see anything you like in another person. Showing praise and appreciation .

or accept that it's there. 11. People are very strong and quite good at solving their own problems when believed in. and reassurance. Never complain . there's no reason to complain. pick a couple more and start implementing. Eliminate negativity . 13. I've also recommended reading How to Win Friends and Influence People. Especially never being down on culture-wide things outside of your direct control: So. not complaining about the government. and they feel they can rely on you. or just good buddies. Being positive is really good. empathy.Never mentioning anything you don't like. People start to respect you more. If you don't like something. Never impose weakness on others .The Best of TSBMAG. instead. The most charismatic people never "impose" that down feeling on others. they want understanding. The most important thing that you will find is that once you implement everything you've learned in the previous section you will find it very easy to make friends.When people complain. Making Friends In the section below I am going to outline some steps for acquiring female friends. The more you stay composed. and so on.COM solutions. others feel slightly less inclined to be around them. Not talking about things you dislike is even more important.Everyone feels down from time to time.for a bonus. 12. fashions you think are silly. and refrain from showing being fazed or flustered. they're a fort of strength for people around them. you have two choices: Take action to fix it. You'll see quick improvements right away. activist groups you disagree with. and long term improvements down the line. pop culture. It brings people down. You probably already do a lot of those . When you realize that. 92 . The steps outlined can be used just as effective for making friends with other men who will make suitable wingman. the more you gain control over your life.

Women often make the man. In order to do this you must eliminate all desire you have to sleep with her. as my skills progressed. As guys. I instead made friends with these girls. But by this point I was a social superstar so it was acceptable.Social Superstar The Art of Acquiring Female Friends The importance acquiring female friends has been stressed many times on TSB and throughout the dating advice industry by nearly every coach. But there is an important distinction between making friends with should make an effort to befriend the hottest. This is because the man who controls the women… is the man everyone wants to be around. I burned a lot of good bridges doing this. and getting put in the friend zone. Why do club owners. But the fact is. actors. Because they were likely aware of your true intention. The girl will always hold a subconscious power over you. When you get put in the friend zone your intention wasn't to be friends. you friendship is never at an even playing field. Men know that hanging around these guys will lead to more girls in their lives. Women know that hanging around these guys equals excitement and privilege. And you will more than likely forever pine for your opportunity to finally bust through the barrier of friendship. DJs. Later. simply because I could. we are trained to want every pretty girl we come across. This is why it makes much more sense for you to put girls in the friend zone. The social superstar knows that the easiest way to climb to the top of the food chain is by having female cheerleaders cheering on your every move. most adored woman in that scene. Sure. Guys new to studying dating and pick up will probably find this advice contradictory to the never ending battle against getting placed in the friend zone. Whatever social scene you are currently involved in. bartenders seem to always have power? It is because these guys are always surrounded by women. Your intention was to date or sleep with them. Think about it. For a long time I made the mistake of sleeping with cool girls. knowing full well that I had no interest in taking the relationship any further. I would occasionally sleep with them too. we can't have them all. 93 .

She is merely a pawn in your chess game. If you've followed the guidelines throughout this manuscript than you've already established yourself as a funny. making friends with her should be relatively easy.COM You must accept right now that you will never sleep with her. Once you've completely eliminated your desire to sleep with this woman. they always need fireman. if you can tell that she believes she is very knowledgeable about movies… say something like "hey. These things devalue you. if during a conversation she makes a joke about having wanted to be a fireman when she was little. Once you've acquired this information. The social proof she provides you with gives you the ability to become a superstar. understood. Instead of waiting for your chance to talk. Confidential tricks for winning her over 1. did you see (insert movie) cause I always trust your opinion on what's good. but to make her feel important. For instance.The Best of TSBMAG. Don't be obnoxious or creepy about can use it to win her over. Remember details of her life. 2. For instance. or favors. take mental notes of what she is telling you. in a conversation down the road. compliments. Appreciation simply means recognizes the unique qualities in her.if she's complaining about her current job. The easiest way to make someone feel important is to really pay attention when they are talking to you. and special.say something like. Appreciation mixed with adventure and excitement. and adventurous guy." By doing this you're demonstrating that you see her as having an expertise in something other 94 . You've already developed a strong degree of social proof. The most important thing to do if you want to win someone over is to give them something. This social proof gives you the ability to befriend her. This way you can discover what her true interests and passions are."Well. interesting. but by paying attention you'll be able to ask her things later. Once you figure out how she views herself. Your goal is not to flatter her." She won't have expected you to remember that minute detail of a previous conversation… and when you do she'll really appreciate you. play to that. Instead you will be giving her appreciation. No one can resist these things. You aren't going to give them gifts.

If the two of you are involved in a social scene together you can pick another person in that scene and share a bit of information with her about that person. that the realness you display around her will be refreshing. The communication skills you are learning in this chapter do not work nearly as well if you are looked at as having lesser status.women included. Now whenever this person is around. Completely drop your guard around her. Most guys put on such a front around her. began to make yourself more interesting. after a work Christmas party one head over to a strip bar with me. 3. taken on the attitude of the winner.greatseducer. I got the entire staff. 5.and soon the mere sight of this person will make her wish you were around to share in the humor.Social Superstar than looking pretty.but don't go out of your way to hide them. For more information on acquiring female friends listen to our podcast on the subject at: http://www. but play it up very well. Don't hesitate to say anything you would around your male friends. make inside references to that little piece of knowledge. Most girls want to believe deep down inside that they're more than their looks. It is important that you've already completed the above listed steps so that you will be accepted by your peers as being a "higher status" male. This means that the communication skills you are learning in this section are dependent on you having already created your image. Don't stress your faults or blunders. And make her have a good time doing it. or beta qualities. Develop an inside joke with her. and give off a 10 second impression of a superstar. 95 . She'll always be questioning you about whether or not it's true. If you can get her to do something outside of her comfort zone.she'll become addicted to the thrill you provide. For instance. Get her to experience something completely outside her comfort zone.but tell her she can't tell anyone. Everything you have learned in this manuscript will work in Communication The way in which you communicate with them men and women in your social group will go along way toward building your fan base. and associate the rewarding and exciting feeling with you. 4. Make it ridiculously unbelievable. Be 100% completely yourself.

and her choosing to compliment you makes you feel special. the need to unburden one's self of it is so powerful that a person often acts immediately to restore the balance. It is a simple concept. a favor. Even though it is an unconscious feeling. When someone gives us something of value. And you secretly resent the fat girl for thinking that she has a chance with you simply by complimenting you. That bond is the feeling of the need to reciprocate. 96 . But when a man who you view as being "higher" up the social ladder than you does you a favor or compliments you there an unconscious bond that you feel toward him. This is because a lower status male will be viewed as having an agenda. People do not appreciate or respect praise or admiration that comes from someone they view as being "lower" than them. On the other hand. or a gift… we do not feel a sense of completion until we reciprocate the gesture. If a fat girl tells you that she likes your new haircut you immediately assume that she has an agenda behind it.and more importantly. Now that was an extreme example because of the examples of the two different classes of women. A beautiful woman can pick and choose who she compliments. But this theory holds just as true when applied to men who you view as having different social feel a sense of "liking" toward that beautiful woman. You don't accept the praise as genuine. But if a woman of exceptional beauty tells you that she likes your new haircut you begin to feel proud of the haircut. I love the shirt you're wearing. people are greatly moved by admiration that comes to them from someone they view as being "higher status" then them.The Best of TSBMAG. This is why you will so often hear two people complimenting each other within seconds. People will assume that he is being nice because he wants something from you. whether it is a compliment. You remember that compliment." People can't have the weight of reciprocation hanging over them. When a man "lower" than you on the social ladder compliments you or does you a favor you feel no special bond toward him. A woman will say to another woman "I really like you earrings" and immediately the other woman will say "Thank you. The law of reciprocation is the most powerful of all the weapons of influence.COM A lower status man who follows the principles laid out in a book like "How to Win Friends and Influence People" will come across as insincere or "try hard".

If a site like Maxim mentions us just once and provides one link to us. or gift. Here is the kicker….we will go out of our way to mention them four or five times. number of visitors. or Men's Health. I want to briefly show an example of how this works in the business or marketing world. The sense of reciprocation is felt in any situation in which one person provides another with a favor. We recognize that as being fairly new TSB is below sites magazines like Maxim. we are above thousands of other websites and blogs. Before I explain the ways in which to apply this in the social world. When TSB is mentioned or receives a link from a site like Maxim or Playboy we recognize that a genuine favor was produced. blogs. The weight of reciprocation will be so strong on their back that they will feel the need to not only return the favor. This world includes all of the other men's online magazines. The hierarchy in our world is based on reputation.we will get back what we've given exponentially.but to return it in a much greater magnitude than we originally gave it in. But the level in which we reciprocate back is tenfold when we feel the person who gave us something is of higher value to us. 97 . As editor of TSB Magazine I recognize the "world" in which we reside in. We feel an immediate sense of liking toward that site for recognizing our unique talent. providing four or five links to their site. compliment.because we recognize that imbalance between our two spheres of influence. The same rule applies just as strongly to role reciprocation plays in the social hierarchy. Playboy. If we (the higher status) person give something to anyone that is lower status then us. However.Social Superstar While it is only possible to gain the feeling of "liking" when a higher status person compliments you or does you a favor. websites. prestige. We are also greatly aware of the hierarchy and where we fit in within in. and authors. We also feel a strong sense of the need to reciprocate. The Law of Reciprocation and Higher Status This is the fundamental concept that you need to build your fan base: When a higher status person gives something away to a lower status person.they will get back what they gave exponentially. and influence.

humor." Remember: Everything we give we will get back exponentially.COM This is the reason that some people seem to rapidly ascend to the top of the social ladder. and therefore. and to demonstrate the skills that they have. are along for the ride. to indulge in the taboo. http://www. We did a podcast called "Being the badboy with women" awhile back. and have some skills that entertain people. This is very similar to the saying "the rich get richer. Encourage them to take risks. This means help those around you develop the confidence to explore their sense of humor. talk about the taboo.the easiest way for you to acquire fun and excitement is to provide it to others. The easiest way to be fun to be around is to follow the principles laid out in chapter six. Once you have established a little bit of social currency. fearless. you are able to multiply that currency. This podcast includes many ways in which you can add excitement to the lives of those around you. Although you should be introducing things like adventure.greatseducer. You don't want the people around you to feel like an idle spectator in your show. Well. and adventurous. taboo subjects… ultimately your goal is to bring these qualities and characteristics out from those around you. Be Fun to Be Around The entire reason you should even want to become a social superstar is for the fun and excitement it will provide you.The Best of TSBMAG. This is what will cause them to put some investment into it. 98 . As you read through the next few sections keep this in mind as it will allow you to see the true power in what I am telling you. Some of the key ideas include: be The secret to being fun to be around The biggest thing you can do yourself be fun to be around is to make the people you're with feel like they are fun to be around. They will feel that they are a part of it. based on the law of want them to feel like they are a part of it. This is what will make them commit to seeing you achieve social superstardom.

8. Themed parties (toga. Although most high status people are fun to be around. long road trips. Here is a list of things that you should try to organize: 1. salsa dancing. You being the high status male must initiate these sorts of things and get people to follow along with you. 11. 12. 5. tailgating… The events I just listed are things that pretty much everyone enjoys doing. He is a leader who organizes the fun adventures that everyone craves. 14. This means organizing things like ski trips. 4. The problem is that no one takes the initiative to set them up. ugly sweater. Winning the higher status people over requires the skill of becoming the go-to guy for a good time.Social Superstar Be Someone Who Makes Things Happen Lower status people will always be won over much more easily than the higher status people in your social circle. 15. themed parties. concerts. 16.but no one follows along. 2. nights out at unique places like S& M clubs. This means that they will most likely hang out at the same couple of bars or clubs every weekend. Or a lower status person tries to set them up. 10. 7. 9. 6. 3. 80's) Softball games and BBQs S & M clubs Salsa clubs Concerts w/tailgating Bowling nights Road trips Ski trips Beach houses Happy hours (particularly a weekly event like Taco Tuesdays) Paintballing Sky diving excursions Hookah bars Volleyball night (some bars have courts) Strip clubs (bringing women with you) Fairs 99 . The social superstar makes things happen. These sorts of events are what will make you unique and separate you from the other higher status males in the group who are content to spend another night at the local pub. paint ball expeditions. 13.often they are not creative.

The secret is to really listen when they talk to you. but actually remembered obscure details of a conversation. Most people barely listen to the people that they are in conversation with. but never take the initiative to set up. Everyone is the most important person in their own life. There is nothing more flattering to a person than the realization that someone not only listened to them. You need to use the information wisely and subtly down the road.COM 17. Monster truck derbies These are just some fun things that most people would enjoy. The secret is to continually be curious about other's lives. when she was complaining about her current job. You need to store specific details away for later use.The Best of TSBMAG." On the surface she probably laughed… but inside she will be flattered that you remembered such a small detail of something she told you. You should not only be listening. And the person who supplies them with "drug" of recognition holds a very strong power over them. Here is a trick for remembering details: 100 . Most people wind up at the same bars or clubs every weekend. Remember the example I gave earlier of the woman who casually told you that she wanted to be a fireman when she grew up…. Because of this very few people actually pay attention to the people around them. everyone craves attention and recognition so much it hurts them. Show genuine interest in other people's lives.and be their biggest fan. If you are the guy introducing other people to this whole new world… they will repay you with loyalty and admiration. This does not mean simply ask them a lot of questions. you said "I'm sure there are fires you could be putting out. Get Interested in Other People I am about to tell you the secret to acquiring and keeping massive amounts of friends. Anybody can ask a lot of questions to fill up the dead air. and are just silently waiting for their chance to speak. asking a lot of questions of someone may even annoy them. The sad truth is. And days or months later. but you should be remembering the details of the conversation. In fact.

Later when you go home transfer that file to your computer in a folder with their name (or better yet a code name. Ask for her number.Social Superstar Photographic Memory If you don't already own a digital voice recorder. you can just tell her you have a photographic memory. When having conversations with important people you just press record. but many of my old friends and classmates show up for what is basically a yearly reunion. You carry the voice recorder along with you in your pocket. She went on to confess that she had a huge crush on me throughout college. and then tell her you'll call her. After making brief small talk." Her jaw dropped.) These folders should be reviewed before you go out to interact with these people again. then repeat it loud enough for the recorder to pick it up. You can also use this when getting a girl's phone number. you need to go out and get one immediately. She'll wonder why you didn't write it down and assume you will forget it. you can use it to demonstrate a photographic memory. You can play the previous conversation and pick out important details. Later when you call. We spent the rest of the night talking and I arranged a date to hang out. says "hello" to me. Remember Names I went back for homecoming weekend at my old college last October. She is a girl that I always thought was pretty cute. I had been out of school for seven years. But it is a pleasant surprise and a great conversation hook when you ask them about something they probably assumed you forgot. Only stalkers know every little detail about someone. 101 . Other than using one as a self improvement tool when it comes to perfecting tonality and conversation skills. They are useful for so many activities. Be careful not to seem too creepy by remembering too much. These people will be impressed that you were able to remember things that most people forget. but she always had a boyfriend so I never talked much to her during college. she says "Do you even know my name?" I looked her straight in the eyes and said "Of course I know your name Kimberly. While I am ordering a beer this girl from a sorority I used to part with frequently. She was absolutely astonished I knew her name. The night before the homecoming game everyone from the Greek system usually meets at this bar called Alexis right down the street from campus.

And more importantly – the more enjoyable your life becomes. When you view someone as having higher status than you. They never get tired of hearing it. and fun people you have around you. I actually get tingly upon hearing a beautiful woman say it. You always want your team to be as strong as possible. But then I realized that I too get happy when a girl I view as having higher status knows my name. You need to look at them as members of your team. And if the people you are giving value to are lower on the social ladder than you.the secret to building your fan base is to become the fan of subconsciously believe that they are too important for you. The cooler. Just think.COM I realized something that night. And they feel flattered when people remember it. and give value to them. more interesting. One night you go out with this guy and he hooks up with an attractive matter how low down the social ladder the may beaddress them by their name.The Best of TSBMAG. It is not a competition or a race. as badly as you want to become a social superstar. This must be done in public. Never worry that someone else will steal your spot light.they will feel the need to give back to you twice as much as you gave to them. But the most important part. Human beings love the sound of their own name.most of these people will have the same desire. It is obvious to you that he is proud of 102 .is to openly praise them. And when you see anyone. Make Other People Feel Like Superstars As you can see by everything leading up to this section. Let's say that there is a guy in your social scene that is slightly below you on the social ladder. Use the photographic memory trick if you have to. At first I was shocked that she would have thought I didn't know her name. You see yourself as such a blip in their reality that they probably don't even know your name. entertaining. The lesson to be learned: Remember everyone's name the first time you hear it. compliment them. Making other people feel like superstars is really a culmination of everything we've learned in this chapter.the higher your value becomes. Remember that everything you give to others will be reciprocated back to you. So the next step is to make these people feel like Superstars.

praising them. You know that Joe is proud of what he did. and contribute to him building his self esteem. and turning them into superstars. So you do it for him. Before I knew. Think about it." This sounds phony. You know that he wants to brag about it. Not only is there a sense of 103 . He will love you for it. This is because he doesn't use concrete examples for his praise. The praise must be specific. making them feel important.he's macking both of them. Don't lecture him or try to impose "strategies" on him. Get in the habit of being the fan of those around you. You've taken interest in them and have openly praised them. But he can't. the entire focus of what I have been talking about is how you should be giving value to others.make him seem even cooler than he is.exponentially. Not only should you acknowledge to him that you were impressed by what he did… you should brag about it for him to the other people in your social circle. Talk about how "the girl was definitely into you. You are a high value person." If you can get him out of his comfort zone. It took him like five minutes. By doing things like remembering people's name. Up until now. Bring him into situation where he will be forced to talk to women.he will forever be in gratitude toward you. He says something like "Joe is the man. And later build him up. Let Other People Sell You This is the culmination of all of everything you've been doing. showing interest in them. Last week the two of us were at this bar. and he's making out with this cute brunette. Well. This is your chance to boost him up even further. I say this because we all know that guy who is always seems incredibly fake while boosting up his friends. now is the time in which that value is paid back to you. You should also make it a habit to pull people out of their comfort zone. help him to get over it. The flattery must be sincere. Tell the story for him. If you know that Joe is shy around woman. This guy is the coolest guy I know. Help him by giving him practice. He is the coolest guy I know.Social Superstar himself. And you've done a nice thing for him.they will feel an uncontrollable sense of obligation to reciprocate the value. There were two girls we both wanted to talk to." Do you see how much more sincere and real it sounds when you back up praise with specific examples. It should be said like this: "Joe is the man.

The waiter is there. they will be constantly talking about how much fun they had with you." Your entire life. When you show up for a party random people will already know who you are. It turns out that one of his friends has the same interest in rock climbing that you do. They will look for every excuse to talk about "the awesome time" you had together. Because these people already know who you are they will be more likely to talk to you. It will eventually get to the point where your reputation will precede you. Can you see how quickly you can become a social superstar? Can you see how quickly invitations will start pouring your way from various social circles? Can you see how many opportunities will be thrown at you? The Butterfly Effect "The "Butterfly Effect" is the propensity of a system to be sensitive to initial conditions.but it is in their best interest to do so. The more people talk about you the higher your value becomes. View it like this. Now imagine that Brad Pitt turned out to be a really cool guy who showed genuine interest in you." This means that the stronger and more powerful you become. this idea gave rise to the notion of a butterfly flapping it's wings in one area of the world. You leave your waiter a larger than normal tip.The Best of TSBMAG. Imagine that you spent a night partying with Brad Pitt. causing a tornado or some such weather event to occur in another remote area of the world.they will want to be associated with you. These men and women will become an army of publicity agents for you. If you are higher value. Rinse. seemingly insignificant action will have a later effect on your life. This means that every tiny. Your name will travel through many social circles. wash. they will go out of their way to praise you and talk you up to everyone who will listen. If you're showing them a good time. tonight you walk into a restaurant and have dinner. A month later you are at a bar. For instance. and repeat on this new group of people. How many people do you think you would be telling that story to? Everyone you possibly could. You 104 . Such systems over time become unpredictable.the higher that they will be able to rise along with you.especially your social ruled by the butterfly effect. remembering the large tip you gave him he recognizes you and introduces you to his friends. If you praised them.COM obligation to return the favor. You are now on "their side.

While at the party. She invites you to come to a party with some of her friends. and befriends you. All because you left a waiter an above average tip. The day before you're about to go rock climbing you leave a comment on his Facebook page telling him "Get ready for some heavy duty climbing tomorrow!" It turns out that a girl you dated several years ago is friends with him on Facebook.Social Superstar befriend the guy on Facebook and set a date to go rock climbing. She sees your meet and fall in love with another girl. 105 .

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” You see you never said she was hot… But the girl will assume it. Through Pictures. Through Storytelling. If you want to fool a girl into believing any one thing about you it should be. passionate. that you are wanted by other women. The point is to have these pictures 107 . “Me and my ex. Instead say. prostitutes. To me that's just obnoxious. co-workers. In some of the gambits Mystery uses this plays a huge part. I wasn’t jealous. Take as many pictures of yourself with hot chicks as possible. “One of the things me and my ex would fight about was the way she responded to the attention she got from men. They are so unsure of their own opinion that they need to confirm it with the opinion of other women. But she was like a ham when she noticed guys gawking at her. So I’m going to give you a quick list of things you can do to achieve the perception to a girl you are interested in that you “get laid” and are in demand. If they like him “I should like him too” is the thought that goes through their minds. or your cousins. I’m not a jealous person. ex girl friends. and intelligent? That you’re the energizer bunny in bed? If you guessed any of these things you’d be wrong for ninety nine percent of the women out there. but you get the point. Never say. Girls are strange creatures. That example is a little over the top. Tell a story about you and a hot chick.Social Superstar 5 Keys to Playing the Role of Being Wanted Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 09/09/2007 If you could make a girl believe one thing about you. who was really hot…” That sounds like you’re trying to impress her. I don’t care if these girls are friends. 2. 1. The story has to indirectly reference that she was hot. what do you think would most make her want to date you? That you’re rich? That you’re packing nine inches? That you’re insanely confident? That you’re talented.

Never talk about how “hot” another girl is. “I better keep this one before he runs off with one of these girls” 3. When she flips through these pictures and sees you with all these girls a message will be delivered to her brain. Instead say. If she says “You want to get together Friday?” Say “Fridays no good?” Don’t say why. If she asks you if you think Jessica Alba is good looking. These are just five things you can begin immediately to present the image to women that you are in demand. She won’t ask.” or “How about early next week” Either way she’ll assume that if you can hold off meeting her then you must be used to meeting attractive women. and then quietly put your phone back in your pocket without mentioning it. You can pull your phone out. When you’re out with a girl. just say “a friend” 4. Texting is even better. The rich get richer my friends… 108 . Or how “hot” she is. read the text. You can then say “Saturday would work better.COM lying around your house or even in your car. And when you can’t hang out don’t give a reason. Just read the texts and put the phone away. Through Taking Hot Girls off a Pedestal. Girls by nature love to look at pictures.The Best of TSBMAG. Girls will always assume its other girl’s texting you.” The girl will wonder what your type is. and if she fits it. Through Text Messages. The key to this is don’t mention the texts and don’t respond to the texts. 5. but she’s not my type. If you’re already scoring hot babes this will just be things you do naturally and in turn will make you score even more babes. Don’t always be available to hang out. and be not at all phased by having to wait to see her. try to set it up to have many of your friends call your cell phone or text you. don’t say “she’s hot” it sort of puts you in that category of college guys who read Maxim magazine. Through Unavailability. “She’s got sexiness. If she asks who keeps texting.

principles immediately in your life. That is your way of justifying the fact that you haven’t got the balls to act on a good lead. Understand it. If you feel a vibe. Apply these rules. The biggest mistake you can make is letting a good one slip by because you hesitated or wanted more proof that your gut feeling was right. thought is the cheapest commodity on earth. The sad truth is there are a hundred guys lined up behind you to fuck this one girl. You know when talking to a girl if you are getting a vibe or not. I’d say on average your gut feeling is right more that 80%of the time. Lead the conversation in the direction you want it to go in. Learn it. 2. 1. Because second guessing comes from thought. If you start looking for proof you’ll start finding the opposite. Re-read it if you fuck up. Delay for a second. Trust your gut. Go with it. Act on it quickly. now what?’ If you don’t think it is the 109 . The minute you feel your gut saying its time. if you don’t feel it. and you’ll be home again masturbating. Read it. You are probably saying. chances are she does too. Intuition is priceless. 3. or a new job. Not tomorrow. the less fucking you’ll be doing. That leaves 20% for error. Do not give yourself time to second guess. With that being said. A way to procrastinate. IT IS TIME. I’d say that is a chance worth taking.Social Superstar 10 Lessons for Successfully Hooking Up with Girls Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 11/07/2007 Fuck an intro! Let’s get right down to it. And remember. No later. Those are all excuses to delay. ‘okay I feel it. Unless you are a completely delusional person. If you want pussy you better be ready to act on a minutes' notice. and watch the used condom wrappers pile up. not next week. not after you get a haircut. Because the more time you spend reading this shit. Don’t waste another second with a dead end lead. That is your fear of failure. Take action quickly. The first ten lessons apply in situations where you have yet to kiss the girl. lessons. or after you have time to plan out some advanced strategy. while the guy who took action has his dick between her legs. In grain it. flee.

Make sure you keep the conversation light and flirtatious. Don’t ask. lead her to that place. If this is the case it is vital that you set the terms of your next encounter immediately. damn it. If you are in a crowded place tell her to come with you some where more intimate. Her current boyfriend. Brushing hair away from her eyes. Until your lips have touched hers you have shit. If she has on a nice smelling perfume let her know that you’ve noticed. but if you leave without kissing her you are no closer to her pussy then you were yesterday. Rubbing her back. Yea. Holding her hand. Remember: THE MORE TIME THE TWO OF YOU SPEND TALKING THE HARDER IT WILL BE TO KISS HER. Those are clichés and hardly ever get you anywhere. Tell her. This is our way of warning her that it is coming. 6. Chances are you won’t have another opportunity as perfect as you just blew. Shit. You may have had the greatest conversation in the world. If you can get her hand in yours. Nothing. or how pretty she is. Her last relationship. yet. It will seem completely appropriate. Find a genuinely nice characteristic of hers and let her know you notice it. Throw compliments out there. you are more than half way there. she will be more than willing to follow. but if you are not at that point then you risk a potentially awkward moment. The hand is the first step. If at all possible keep holding it. Compliment things that she can reply to. I’m not talking about molester type shit. A nice trick is to grab her hand when leading her through a crowded place. Now make sure the conversation stays where you want it. Don’t try to flatter her with remarks about her eyes. 4.COM appropriate place or moment to kiss her. If your gut was right. Let her know. Kiss her already. 110 . once you get her through the crowd. 5. but DO NOT OVER DUE IT. in not so many words. Planting seeds is for farmers my friend. I’m talking about making an initial contact. a little longer than necessary. I know it happens. That way it is not a complete shock when we lean in for the kiss. There are times that you really can’t kiss her right then and there. If you let her start rambling on she may wind up talking about something that kills the mood. Let her know your intentions if you must leave without kissing her. it creates a certain amount of intimacy. YOU WILL TALK YOURSELF RIGHT PAST THE MOMENT. You tell a girl she is beautiful and there will be silence.The Best of TSBMAG. Silence is good if you are at the point where you want to move in for the kiss. Before we can kiss a girl we must make use of our hands. Holding her hand is the key. Shit. I stressed this point in lesson #3 but it is well worth repeating. Her dead aunt. Lead her to a better spot.

let it go. Make plans to see her right then and there. The perfect moment does not exist. If a girl shoots one of your attempts down and you continue on it shows vast amounts of confidence. Hold her hand for a second or two longer than normal while saying goodbye. Don’t leave it up to a phone call. CONFIDENCE IS THE MOST ATTRACTIVE QUALITY YOU CAN DISPLAY TO HER. but I am sick and tired of stroking myself to sleep. and overcome them. Don’t be weak. Unfortunately you can’t fuck them all. Now I’m not saying you can’t talk to other girls and use them as jealousy tools. you don’t give up until you have gotten in her pants or there is a painfully clear rejection.she’s off the list. 8. This is kind of a rehash of the other nine lessons. Do not wait for the perfect moment to strike up a conversation. There is no perfect moment. You will spread yourself to thin if you go for more than one girl at a time. WAITING FOR THE PERFECT MOMENT = ANOTHER NIGHT JERKING OFF. DO NOT BEG FOR IT. And I don’t know about you. That is why once you have decided on the girl. 10. Make up your mind quickly and stick to that decision firmly. but know who the bitch of the bunch is and go for her 100%. Don’t settle for less. and I’m sure most of you do to. and a time up. Tell her that you really want to see her again. If she has to leave. Don’t act hungry. Decide who the lucky lady is for the night and go for her. (Hopefully fucking her) Do this by stressing those warning signals I told you about. The difference between a winner and a loser is. A winner figures out a way to win. Be decisive. push the other ones out of your mind for the time being. Once you have decided. There are a million girls in the world. 111 . ask for the number. let her leave. I hate making that call. But do not try to talk her into staying around. Girls do not like the weak. you also don’t want to appear desperate. 7. Follow lesson #6 while saying goodbye. When obstacles appear. a place. Overcome small obstacles. Those who look hungry never get fed. Most of the time the girl is just weeding out the weak. Set a date. 9. It will kill your chances for next time. Always leave with the upper hand. deal with them. or go for the kiss.Social Superstar that when you see her again you intend on kissing her. a loser gives up that much sooner. That way if you fail with her. hold the hand. Once you realize that nothing is going to happen tonight. While you don’t want to lose her to the competition. Even if you are. Use your hand.

As with anything in life. I was the king of content. you have not proven anything to anyone.COM These are the toughest lessons to master. with half the sense of humor.The Best of TSBMAG. UNTIL YOUR DICK PENETRATES HER PUSSY YOU HAVE JACK SHIT. cheap and meaningless. Because without it you’re a dreamer. 112 . So fucking what? It is all shit. Until you have that girl naked in your bed begging for your cock to dig inside of her. Why? Because they require a certain amount of balls that we all have but tend to suppress. NO MORE! I will say it again loudly. I took comfort in the knowledge that I knew more than they did. Try and tell me how you can have any girl you want on any given day. I learned these lessons the rough way. Bad. If I knew I could have her I was okay. It is easier to delay. When I say rough I mean I went months in between fucks. And it hurt. SHOW ME THE PUSSY. I will laugh in your face. half the knowledge I had. get more pussy in a week then I did in a year. And dreams are like thoughts. Months! I watched guys not half as good looking.

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Emulate a Celebrity for Instant Rapport
Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 11/19/2007

This is simple advice. I’ve done it. And I’ve seen other people do it. And it works. It works like a charm. This is best for guys who haven’t yet developed their own personal style and unleashed their own personal inner charisma. People naturally feel most comfortable around people they know. They are also most attracted to people that they see often. This is the reason people often date someone they work with, go to school with, or share mutual friends with. You see these people all the time and they are part of your consciousness. When you see these people out you are drawn to them out of their familiarity. Because they are familiar you feel rapport with them and are attracted to them easier then someone you are seeing for the first time. Follow me so far? This all came much clearer recently in Brazil. I was in a city where I knew no one. The place is filled with beautiful women. It is relatively easy to initiate a conversation with any of the girls down there, as I am a young decent looking foreigner. What I noticed about myself is that I was drawn to the girls that reminded me of girls I knew back home. I was consistently going after the girls that resembled girls from my social circle, not just in appearance but in manner. It wasn’t a conscious decision. But in a land of unfamiliarity these girls were comfortable. They put me at ease. I felt a rapport with them which made me more attracted to them. This got me to thinking. When you’re out and you see someone who looks like someone that you know, don’t you pay a little more attention to them then the other less familiar looking faces? Most people do. It’s natural. We like familiarity. Women are the same way. I’ve found that when a woman I just met tells me that I remind her of someone she knows, she is usually more responsive to me, lets things accelerate quicker, and generally less flaky in future meetings. So the question I had was how I could create this rapport more often. And the answer was to remind women of someone they know more

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often. Since we don’t know anything about most women and the men in their lives, how can we remind them of someone they know? We have to remind them of someone that everyone knows. And who does everyone know? Celebrities! I know a few guys who naturally resemble celebrities (not necessarily traditionally good looking celebrities) and these guys have always had an easy time opening women. Most of the time the women don’t even realize that the guy looks like so and so, but they feel an instant rapport with them. This is because these guys are familiar to women. The women feel like they’ve known them for a long time. They put their guards down. So a quick way to gain instant rapport with women is to emulate a celebrity. Most of us have a celebrity that we resemble in some way. It doesn’t have to be a great looking guy. It can be Tony Soprano for all it matters. It just has to be someone that is part of national consciousness. Once you decide on someone that you physically resemble (it helps if it’s someone that other people have told you) then next step is emulate their mannerisms, their tone of voice, their gestures, facial expressions, and style of dress. I’m not talking about stalker type obsessive shit… I’m just talking about emulating someone. You can rent a few videos of the person you’ve chosen and really watch them. And practice. Practice their walk, their talk, and their mannerisms. You don’t want to make it obvious that you’re trying to look like someone. And the people that know you closely will notice the change and most likely rip on you for it... But when you go out you’ll notice a huge difference in the way you are reacted to. Girls will open up to you much easier. This doesn’t mean you don’t need the game to back it up. But it will open doors that might have otherwise been shut. Try it. See for yourself and let me know the results.


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Using an Opinion Opener to Initiate a Conversation
Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 03/01/20089

Last night after the radio show Mike Stoute and I headed over to a local pub for a couple beers. The radio show was quite stressful as there was a shit load of technical difficulties with the transmitter… which messed the phone lines up, and hence, instead of talking to our planned guest we were forced to improvise. It left us feeling drained and just looking to unwind. The both of us already had girls we were going to be meeting later on, so our intentions were solely to chat a little and throw a few beers back. As some of you know, both Mike and I are recently single, and once again experiencing some of the things that make dating such a pain in the ass. Our conversation at the bar turned towards the girls we were going to be meeting later on in the night. Both of us had been dating these girls for a brief period of time and already beginning to experience the “what is this?” or “where is this going?” or “what should I tell my friends we are?” talk. The talk that takes the fun out of casual relationships. Mike and I were telling each other various stories of time’s we’ve been in the situation and how the different girls reacted. We were trying to come up with the “right” way to answer the dreaded “what is this?” question. Although the topic was somewhat serious, we began making a goof of it by coming up with over the top comebacks to the question. “Well, Sally now that you’ve asked… I thought we would spend a few weeks fucking, you know, to keep my dick occupied until something better comes along.” The goofing put us in a better mood and got us laughing a bit. Keen to the fact that there were two fairly attractive girls standing next to us sipping drinks, Mike casually turns to them and says “What's the best way to respond to a girl when she asks ‘what is this’ and you’re not really into her?” The girls were all too eager to jump in with their opinions. The four of us quickly became immersed in conversation. Soon the question became “what do you say when someone tells you ‘I love you’ during sex, and you don’t feel the same way? This got the conversations even livelier and more provocative. Soon the two girls were met by another female

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friend and instantly dragged her into the conversations, introducing us to her as if we were long time acquaintances. After getting a handful of text messages from the girls we were supposed to be meeting later on, we decided to call it an evening and head home. Although both of the girls we were talking to at the bar were attractive, neither of them struck enough interest in Mike or me to ask for numbers. So we said goodbye and left. On the way home I got to thinking how smoothly the whole conversation transpired. It reminded me of another time a few months back when I used an opinion opener that lead to a one night stand. What the two nights had in common, and what I believe made the openers work so smoothly, was the fact that they were legitimate questions that we wanted the answer to. In the Houlihan’s story, Eddy and I were already engrossed in a conversation that was entertaining us, so it was perfectly natural to invite a couple girls into it- to share their opinions. Our energy was real and the girl’s sensed it… which opened them up to take interest in our opinion opener. The same thing happened last night with Mike. Mike and I were legitimately curious to know what a girl wanted to hear from a guy when she asks “what is this?” so the girls we asked were more than willing to commit to the conversation. I think that the biggest mistake guys make when it comes to fully understand how to use an opinion opener is that they don’t realize that they need to have some emotional involvement in the answer. If you’re using canned openers, chances are you are using an opener that someone else had emotional involvement in, and that is why it worked for them, and not for you. When I use the phrase “emotional involvement” it doesn’t mean you need to feel deeply and passionately about the topic, but it does mean that you have to have some level of curiosity and interest. For instance, most people have heard of Neil Strauss’s “80’s pop duo” opener. Neil Strauss found humor in naming dogs after an 80’s pop duo, so when he asked that opener at the very least he was entertained by the idea. Some people are out there using this same opener and weren’t even born in the 80’s and could care less about 80’s pop duos. These people have no emotional involvement in the opener and it will rarely work for

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them. If the notion of naming a couple pugs “Hall and Oates” doesn’t make you laugh, how is it supposed to be entertaining to a girl you’re imposing it on? Joseph Mathews wrote one of my favorite books on opening called “The Art of Approaching” but I think the biggest mistake others who buy that book make is that they skip all the great theory and skill building and flip right to the long collection of openers. There is nothing magic in an opener that Mathews created, or Mystery created, or Style or Tyler Durden or Mehow. Those are just openers that happened to work for them. Just like I wrote about Mike’s “what's the best answer” opener, and I’m sure I’ll read in some field report in a few weeks how someone used that as their opener. I think instead of focusing on what Mike said to initiate the conversation last night you should focus on the way the night took place. Mike and I went out to have some good conversation. We were discussing a topic that interested and entertained us. When the point in the conversation called for another opinion we casually turned to the girl’s next to us and asked them a question. Our energy was good, our topic interesting, and everything flowed from there. Now you may not always be in the middle of a great conversation when you want to approach a girl. If that’s the case, instead of using an opener from someone else’s past great conversation, use one from your own. If a couple nights ago you and a few friends were in a heated debate over whether or not American Idol is rigged… then draw upon that conversation for an opener. If you were talking about “who turns out more successful the high school nerds or jocks” then use that as opener. At least you had some emotional involvement in them at one point. And I think if you’re genuinely curious about the answer than you won’t hear that little nagging voice in the back of your head calling you a fraud when you say “Do floss before brushing?”


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Being Comfortable Talking Dirty
Written by Michael Stoute Original Published: 02/25/2008

Talking dirty to girls is something that I have struggled with for a long time. It is only now that I feel “pretty” comfortable doing it, still with some hesitancy. I am sure that this comes to some men pretty easily, but it just didn’t to me. There I was, enjoying some great sex when I hear “Tell me how you like fu*king my pus*y” Now don’t get me wrong, I did like fu*king her pus*y, yet I didn’t feel compelled to actually say it to her? Then when I would say it, I felt like I didn’t use a strong enough tone of voice and sounded weird. With all this going on I actually start to lose wood…Great! I couldn’t really understand why I was having this problem. I was confident in all other areas of my game, yet when it came to this I was on new ground. What I realized is that most of the problem had to do with me dating a different breed of woman. A woman who may not be so confident in life, but has ultimate confidence in the bedroom. Girls with more sexual experience than me in some cases… MAN UP These women want someone to take control; hair pulling seems to be as common a missionary these days. Spanking makes me think of booty’s, not babies and giving girls mild titty twister’s (purple nurple) is coming back. The sexual culture is changing and you may be missing it. Women like this don’t just tell you to pull their hair and spank them, you have to know! So how do you know?


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You have to build rapport and maintain Kino escalation to test the waters. (Build comfort and get her comfortable with you touching her and vice versa) Then move this forward veeeeerrrrrrryyy slowly. Maybe start while you are talking and touch her arm, and leave it there for like 5-10 seconds. NEVER GROPE! Keep it real calm and relaxed. Later on lean in to talk to her and use touching her leg as an effect in something you are saying. Example: You're telling some story about something and you say. “Then he grabs me and …..” When you say grabs me, grab her leg for a sec, at most until you finish your sentence, then pull away and continue with your story. Later on (if you are still being your cool guy self and are not being creepy) you need to start looking for opportunities to make a comment about her anatomy, I would go for the ass, one because it is the least confrontational and two, because I love ass! With confidence say something like, “You have a really nice looking ass, would you mind if I gave it a little smack?” MAKE SURE YOU HAVE GREAT KINO AND RAPPORT BEFORE ATTEMPTING A BOLD APPROACH LIKE THIS; IT WORKS FOR ME...THAT’S ALL I CAN SAY. Most girls just laugh, some let me smack it on the spot and others make me work for it a little. Either way, it’s a great SOI (statement of intent) that will for sure keep you out of the friend zone. If it does work, you may have just found you next sex tigress!


The Best of TSBMAG. In the beginning you need to create sexual tension. Nothing keeps me more interested than a girl I can’t figure out. your daddy issues. 1. or a few days. but then call me late night and tell me how much you miss me. Too many girls. I want inside jokes. I want to sit around and wonder why you’re not answering the phone. compliments. I want to wonder if you’re going to return my call in a few hours. Tell me you want your space. In the beginning I need to wonder what's going on. Like my friends and get them to like you. Play with my head. don’t find it necessary to flirt. nor am I impressed with how smart you are with your political views. I don’t want to talk about your job. Confuse me. Spend three nights having wild passionate sex with me.COM 10 Ways a Girl Can Keep a Guy Like Me Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 03/09/2008 This is a list of what it takes for a girl to keep me interested. After I spend a week waiting for our Friday night date… I want you to call and say “something came up can we do it another night?” Of course I don’t want you do this all the time. Be unpredictable. 4. You have to do this through a mix of playful banter and gradually increasing the amount of time your hands spend touching parts of my body. and at least one of your hands in close proximity to my body. Once you tell me I lose interest. Do it just enough that I never know what I’m in store for. teasing. I want to know that I will easily be able to commingle you and my buddies. And I want my buddies talking about 120 . googly eyes. Tell me you want a relationship. Flirt damn it. 3. We are all simply humans. I’m shallow and need the complete approval of my friends before I would seriously consider making you my girlfriend. but then never be available to hang out. 2. I think that you'll find doing these same things will keep the girl interested as well. especially the hot ones. because then it would become predictable. Big mistake. The point of a good date is the continuing escalation of sexual tension. and then use the term “friend” to describe me.

Social Superstar “how lucky Bobby is” behind my back. So you better make an attempt to become vaguely interested in them too. I’m going to feed you a lot of bullshit. Do not belittle me. 7. Call me out on it. 8. 5. You’re job in the beginning isn’t to show me how experienced and adventurous in bed you are… there is plenty of time to discover that later. In college my goal was to fuck as many girls as possible. But don’t be afraid to let me know I can’t get one over on you. Other than the playful banter I spoke about earlier. 121 . I’ve achieved that goal. No. It was my magic dick that unleashed your hidden whore. your job is to make me feel like I just fucked your brains out harder than any guy you’ve had before. and bust my balls from time to time. Offer to pay occasionally. I’ll humor you and discuss your friend Sally’s relationship with her boyfriend or your brother’s drug problem… but what I really want to be talking about is my interests. And I’m a horrible liar so you’ll probably see right through it. I know I’m not your first. and my hobbies. And don’t just say “do you need some money?” Make a sincere effort to pay. I won’t let you. but damn it. my travel. And make me believe that you’ll have no problem with me continuing to hang out with them in the future. Laugh at my failed attempts at show boating. Way too many girls do this and don’t realize it is a real turn off to guys. Sure. 6. Call me out on my bullshit. So will most other guys. so now I’ve set higher long term goals involving my career. Do not try to make me feel small. but if you don’t chances are I’ll be bitching to my friends about you. Challenge me. Make me feel like I’m the best you’ve ever had in bed. Make an honest attempt at getting along with them. I’m not cheap and would never accept your money in the beginning. don’t act like it's my obligation to always pick up the check. But I want to believe that I’ve opened up this new sexual side of you that never existed for your other boyfriends. these are really the only things I truly enjoy talking about. Point out my short comings if I’m oblivious to them. Be genuinely interested in my goals. I want you to crack a few jokes on me. Seem excited by the prospect of all of us doing something cool together like a camping trip or ski weekend.

I can be a downright mess at times. I’m a busy guy. when you notice that it's been a long time since I’ve changed my sheets… throw them in a basket and head to the laundry mat. My house is sloppy.COM 9. Hint at threesome. I’m there. Care about my well being more than I do. So. I’ll fall for it every time. Just pick up a broom and give me a hand. my car is a wreck. I’ll fix it…When you need someone to move a heavy piece of furniture. or maybe an “incident in college” early in our relationship… just enough to give me a glimmer of hope that one day I’ll find myself in bed with you and one of your friends. I’ll hold onto that hope long past the point where there seems to be any realistic chance of it happening. 10. Hint at an attraction to other girls. 122 .The Best of TSBMAG. It's not your job to harass me about these things. and my sink is overflowing with dishes… I know this. When you get a flat tire.

So I’ve began one of those small bursts of motivation.” I point at the mirror in front of us. buying the supplements. You can’t lose on the opener. I’m naturally lazy. 123 . I slack during the winter and then panic come spring when the scale starts tipping in the wrong direction. the more motivated we become and the harder we push ourselves. I want to crawl away. “Never underestimate the power of a gym outfit. that allow me to keep decently fit.” She was wearing this pale blue shirt that really brought out her eyes. “I read that it's a proven fact that the better we perceive ourselves to look while we’re working out...” I tell her. and working out again..” “Oh yea?” she says. so with confidence sky high I turn to the girl on the elliptical trainer next to me and say “that is a really nice color on you. Still giving me nothing to work with. “It's just my gym outfit. But I am usually able to motivate myself in small bursts. The second after I say it I immediately have that twang of self doubt… like ‘what the fuck did I just say?’ That feeling of doubt is only amplified when she looks at me like I have three heads. Instead I take a deep breath and compose myself. She says.Social Superstar Keeping Cool and Plowing On Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 03/11/2008 Every so often I hit that point where the time comes I need to get my ass back in shape. “See that mirror. That adrenaline rush usually puts me in a talkative mood. I’m reading the bodybuilding forums.. Tonight at the gym I’m all amped up after downing a super sized Red Bull. Plow on.” My mind is telling me it was a stupid inappropriate moronic way to start a conversation.

COM I’m in the worst shape I’ve been in a couple years. Even naturals struggle with initiating conversations. I’m looking really good tonight. I look like I just rolled out of bed. 124 . and casually build attraction. This finally gets the girl laughing and smiling. I don’t go for a number or even a name. That's the way I look at gym game. It's easy to get nervous and go into deer in headlights mode… instead compose yourself. I’ll see her again. take a deep breath and plow on. you’re going to see the same girls. And the next time I do will be one step closer to rapport. “For instance. wearing an old beat up t-shirt. It is everything afterward that counts. Really really good! And I’m having a great workout!” I over exaggerate my motions on the machine. But they’re confident enough to keep going knowing that girls forgets your “opener” a minute after you say it.The Best of TSBMAG. The interaction ends on a positive note. The best approach is to mingle with a bunch of them. The point of this post is that many times you’ll initiate a conversation and get dead air. and gym pants with paint stains on them. If you go to the gym the same time every day.

I would head to a college bar or college party and get no response from the girls I was trying to talk to. 125 . In the tight nit college environment girls tend to be attention whores. What I failed to realize is how self obsessed younger girls tend to be. None of this worked. I realized a little later that what I was doing wrong was trying to approach these girls in a rational way to spark interest. When I was in college I was a machine. plowing through women (until I met the ex) but after college my skills trailed off in the same environment. I was talking to them in a way that was taking them out of the moment. The best way to keep them in the moment is to talk about them.. These guys usually tend to be surrounded by hot college tail… so it got me thinking about gaming these younger girls. Or I would try too hard to fit in with the younger college guys to try to conceal my age. a line I’ve been using successfully when hanging around college girls is to turn to one of them and say “You’re trouble… There’s always one of you in the group…” and then smile. I realized it was the way I was hitting on these girls that was fucking it up for me.Social Superstar How to Talk to Younger Women Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 03/14/2008 Tonight I’m heading to hang out with a few college guys that I know.. In Mark Redman’s excellent e-book Conquer Your Campus he talks about how college girls crave the college experience. You need to keep them in the moment if you want to score with them. My topics of conversation usually involved questions like. “How do you like living in the dorms?” and then I would go on and tell them a story about my dorm life experience. Not ask them questions that make them dig for answers that take them into their head… but instead to make declarative statements about them… For instance. My game on girls out of college was solid… but back in the old stomping ground I came across very AFC.

The Best of TSBMAG. Then you can give her a nickname. A little mischievous.COM She’ll usually say “No. Avoid talking about “what is your major?”Or “Back when I was in college…” and don’t try to impress them with the things that tend to impress older girls. I’ve even used something as simple as “Trouble. My four step plan: 1. Very playful and fun… The trick is to keep the interaction fun.. A college girl doesn’t care how good your job is. Use the environment directly around you as a source of humor 126 . Chances are she’s fucking some guy that lives in a dirty frat house eating Ramen noodles every night. Assign her a nickname to establish rapport 4.. I’ll say something like “That guy over there is upset because he misses his dog” and then I’ll go off the cuff with some humorous reason I observe that.” If that dies down a bit I’ll keep the conversation ‘in the moment’ by pointing at other people standing around us and begin making random statements about them. Make a declarative statement about her. 2. or how much money you make. Use a little cold reading to keep interest. Not me… why do you think that?” I’ll then usually go into some cold reading “You just have that energy about you.” This gets the conversation centered in the moment… Me and her talking about how she appears to me right now. 3.

but then lose her by talking myself past the moment. Strauss defines caveman as: To directly and aggressively escalate psychical contact. I don’t know what provoked me to do that. I would rope the girl in with witty banter and create the attraction. In the past I was one of those guys who always waited for the right moment. She was blown away. At the end of the night I kissed her mid sentence. Then one day things got completely easier. That night I created it. Like life changing easier. This means they look for others to lead the way and let them know what they are doing is alright. The first time I did it was on a blind date. with a consenting woman. When you “go caveman” on a girl your bringing her into your level of animal like attraction.Social Superstar Going Caveman on Women Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 04/02/2008 Neil Strauss brought the term “caveman” into popularity in his book The Game. And that was when I began going caveman on women. A friend and his girl set me up with one of her friends. in turn you’re saying “it's okay to act a little irrational. She started to finish her sentence. We all have that side of us that wants to get buck naked and lick each other’s privates… most of us are just 127 . and progress toward sex.” We are all horny fucking creatures. I can safely say that putting this idea into action took my game to the next level. have “make up my mind for me” syndrome. Girl after girl in college I lost because of diarrhea of the mouth. When you eliminate words and rational behavior. It was like a disease for me. Why going caveman works People. especially girls. predicated on the idea that early human beings did not use intelligence and words but instinct and strength to mate. You’re letting her feel comfortable expressing her sexual side. I put my finger to her lips to shut her up and then kissed her again. And since then I’ve done it that way. I used to be very guilty of talking myself past a hookup.

and then I pin her down and kiss her.The Best of TSBMAG. Later that night. At this point she is already attracted to you so you can either further emotionally or intellectually stimulate her… or you can sexually stimulate her. Unleash her hidden cavewomen. There was a girl Nancy that was with us who I had been flirting with on and off for a month. She pins me down. When we meet someone that allows us to act that way it is really liberating. Another night I went out with a group of friends. If you’re looking to further escalate the encounter you need to ask yourself ‘what would a caveman do?’ Would he smell her hair? Would he bite her neck? Run his hands down her spine? Once you go caveman you can’t go back When you go into caveman mode it has to be for real. No words were said. Next thing I know we’re wrestling on my living room floor. (This does not mean take advantage of her or intrude if she says stop) It means get her on your level. Going caveman means you stop talking and get physical. You can’t test it and then back peddle. This was our first night hanging out though. Instead of going into conversation about some stupid topic I started teasing her by gently pushing her away from me on the couch. That is cave manning!!! 128 .COM trained not to act that way. her and her friends came back to my house for the after party. When I kissed that girl mid sentence… she says “what was that” slightly snotty. She would push me back. What would a caveman do? When things are going well and you’re in a private place with a girl… things can go one of two ways. She was testing me. If I had apologized or went back to talking things would have been weird… instead I put my finger to her mouth… shut her up and then kissed her again… After that she spent the night.

but it negatively affects you to every other girl in the place. But luck had it that she chose him to do body shots with. finally settling on some other guy across the bar. do you think he’s making it tempting for her to return to him? Hell no. and even if she had originally wanted to return back to him. I will have more about the trip when I come back in a couple days. dance against. She was pretty drunk and was really anyone’s game. but right now I wanted to talk about how you should compose yourself when a girl you’re hitting on in a bar walks away. the way he carried himself after she left sealed his fate for the worse. She was drunk and kept getting side tracked chatting with everyone in the place. he looked like a needy. Here is where AFC blew it hard… and what I’m warning you against. Not only does it negatively affect you with the girl you’ve been working. whiny bitch…. Well. and noticed something last night at a bar that I wanted to address.Social Superstar ever Show Emotion When She Walks Away Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 06/01/2008 I’m currently down in the DR scouting out villas for our upcoming Mansformation Retreat. and stick her tongue down his throat. He basically stopped talking to anyone around him and just sipped his drink looking miserable. At this Irish Pub I was at last night in Cabarete some standard AFC scooped up a drunken blonde. If I noticed 129 . Now. he had a right to be scared because a few minutes later the Irish guitar player called a couple of the girls from her group up to the stage to sing along with the chorus of “American Pie. depressed. AFC stood there alone with a sour puss on his face repeatedly glancing at her across the bar waiting for her to return. You could tell by the way he had his arm wrapped tightly around her in a “mine” sort of way that he was scared shitless of letting go in fear that his miracle score would disappear. blonde California Hot never made it back to AFC.” Well.

Because you can be sure that the girl will peak over at you and you want to give her a reason to come back. whether it be to take a piss.COM how miserable he looked. how many other people noticed the same thing? When a girl you’ve been hitting on leaves. or other people around you. On the same note.The Best of TSBMAG. say hi to a friend. at least now you’ll be in a position to tackle other girls. Forget about her until she comes back… and if she doesn’t come back. flirting with other girls standing next to you. and she leaves. You’re safest bet is to engage yourself in conversation with the friends you came with. if you’re talking to a hottie. don’t make it obvious to everyone in the bar how happy you are to be talking to her… I’ve seen guys giving each other hi fives like a bunch of middle schoolers after scoring a number. By acting like a sad little puppy when she leaves you’re killing your chance she’ll be back. or fuck another dude in the bathroom… you best play it extremely cool. You also want to keep her curiosity hooked on whether or not she has you. AFC last night blew his whole night after losing one Hot. 130 . Go back to talking with your friends. and just genuinely having a good time.

I know that I have trouble finishing when I’m doing a girl doggy style. And it definitely won’t increase your chances of sticking your wilie in the girl again…but there are ways to prevent it. pull out for a couple minutes and switch to some foreplay. It’s frustrating and embarrassing no doubt. For me. This one can work wonders. 4. 2. 3. it will help your cause if you close your eyes and daydream for a couple minutes. Use breathing patterns to prolong ejaculation. It's best to take slow long breaths if you feel yourself getting too turned on. 1. I’ve never met a girl who bitched that you suddenly had the urge to eat her out. Don’t wait too long to make the squeeze or you’ll wind up splurging in your hand. 5. If you feel yourself building up for an orgasm too quickly. The slow breaths will calm you down and let the urge to climax pass. a project at work. If you feel yourself about to orgasm early you and your partner can squeeze the smooth. big head at the top of the penis to delay it. The most common way of trying to delay orgasm is to take your mind out of the moment and focus on something completely non sexual… like doing your laundry. Find out what position you tend to have trouble finishing with and switch to that position whenever you feel like you’re going to finish too early. Squeeze it firmly until the urge to orgasm passes. Squeeze the glands at the top of the penis. but it also has the disadvantage of taking you out of the moment… As much as you want to stare down at her watching yourself go inside and out.Social Superstar 5 Tips for Lasting Longer in Bed Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 06/24/2008 Raise your hand if you’ve ever been a three pump chump. 131 . or your grandmother. Switch positions to one your less likely to climax with. I’d say pretty much everyone reading this (who’s had sex) has had the misfortune of blowing their load a tad bit too early. Use this time to let the blood rush away from the head of your dick. Relax for a few minutes and when you feel its safe… go back to work.

The Best of TSBMAG. you only get one chance to make a first impression.COM I hope that these tips will help you from prematurely ejaculating. 132 . Remember.

The secret is to simply pay better attention to what is working and what isn’t on a particular woman. or adding more foreplay will make you a better lover. others slow and soft… some girls like massive foreplay… Others like their clothes ripped right off. I searched my repertoire for all the things that worked on the previous girls… and she wasn’t responding to any of them. The key line to this statement is that you have to pay attention to what works on each and every particular woman you’re with. I’ve never had that problem before.Social Superstar How to Get Better in Bed Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 06/30/2008 Some people will tell you that the secret to getting better in bed is practice. I’ve found there is only one secret for becoming a better lover. The woman that you’re sleeping with will give you all the clues you need… you just have to be ready to read them. Sometimes she’ll verbally tell you what she likes… but most of the time you’ll have to watch how her body reacts. Practice will get your sexual confidence up… but it won’t necessarily get you better in bed. Needless to say she went from being indifferent to oral… to begging me for it. lasting longer. The reason this is so important is because every woman enjoys being pleased differently. I noticed that every time my nose would press against her clit while going down on her. The minute I realized what she was reacting to I went right along with it. she would tense up tremendously and push her pelvis out to make the pressure of my nose greater. The best lover is attentive and knows how to read the clues she’s giving you. All of those things definitely won’t hurt you… But they still won’t necessarily make you better in bed. Other people say that improving your stamina. Finally about a month in. Recently I was quite frustrated with a girl I was dating because I couldn’t get her off with oral sex. Some girls only cum on top… other girls get off doggie. Sure. and be willing to make the adjustments. the basics don’t change… but some girls like it hard and fast. 133 . The first few times with this girl it was driving me crazy.

When she is enjoying something she’ll usually tense up. or fear of killing the mood. or pull you closer. But if you want that first kiss to be memorable you’ll quickly note the actions of her lips and tongue. or I begin the foreplay in any room but the bedroom. you can try to change her style to match yours. This is not because I have some special technique… it’s because I adjust to their particular style of kissing. most girls want to tell you what is working and what isn’t. This goes for all areas of foreplay and sex. and mimic them. while groping my right tit. When I sense a girl has this fetish… I’ll make sure I leave a door open. If you notice that a girl gets super wet and turned on when you whisper dirty commands in her ears… keep on doing it (but don’t overdo it and let it loose its affect. You also want to be paying attention to the psychological factors influencing how turned on she is getting. Sure.The Best of TSBMAG.COM I’ve had many girls tell me that I’m the most amazing kisser they’ve ever experienced. push herself toward you. Some girls are wildly turned on by the idea of being caught. When she particularly fancies something you can be sure she’ll let out an extra special moan in hopes you catch on. What you have to realize is that just because they’re not going to open up their mouth and say “Bobby I really like when you stick a pinky in my ass.) The fact is. The most common things to look out for are the intensity of the grunts and moans she is making. 134 . But they won’t tell you out of fear of hurting your feelings. The key is to be extremely observant and act upon the giving stimulus. You should also watch out for her body language. fear of embarrassment. blinds up. and spreading my legs over my head…” doesn’t mean they won’t be trying to telling you in every other conceivable way. Everyone kisses differently. She’ll do everything possible to prevent you from suddenly stopping or changing positions.

Social Superstar Having Trouble Getting Hard? Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 08/04/2008 This is a post I’ve been meaning to write for awhile. I was jerking off twice a day… hard as a rock. That night was the beginning of my journey on a long and bumpy road to sexual competency. I didn’t lose my virginity until my freshman year at college. Have you ever found yourself with a girl. We took it slow in the bedroom and soon I was functioning full strength during make out sessions. and at the same time. But the minute I had a girl willing to come back to my place… I would lose all feeling down there. I was surprisingly competent at making out. and I have to thank my blogger friend Evil Woobie for pushing me to finally write it. There was this exhilarating sense of accomplishment. this paralyzing fear of inadequacy. I didn’t realize exactly how wrong until she reached her hand down my pants. She was a virgin too. I wound up in a relationship with a girl from my math class. I sure have. I still remember the first night I brought a girl back to my dorm room. She fumbled around for a minute before I embarrassingly brought her hand back up to my chest and continued kissing her like nothing happened. and unhooked her bra with the skill of a pro… but something was noticeably wrong. things are escalating towards intimacy… and absolutely nothing is going on down there? Or you manage to finally get an erection… only to quickly lose it as you attempt to slide the condom on? If you haven’t already experienced these situations… chances are you will at some point in your life. We were having marathon foreplay sessions where I would expand so big I felt I could burst… 135 . Because of this I felt apprehensive about hooking up with girls as I imagined them all to be much more experienced than me. I was completely limp. I knew that physically there was nothing wrong with me… I mean.

It wasn’t until one morning when she climbed on top of me… slid me inside her and starting bouncing up and down… that I finally was able to maintain an erection. When we finally got to my place I was a nervous wreck. It most often happened in experiences where there was a built up pressure involved.The Best of TSBMAG.e. What I learned about my experience with limp dick 1. 4. My next few attempts ended the same way. Of course. The more time I had to prepare for the sexual encounter… the more anxiety I felt. The girls I had the best sex with were the ones I felt no pressure to perform well… i. 2. By this time I was tearing it up with the girls on my campus. 136 . girls I wasn’t supposed to sleep with. After we broke up I entered the hell of erectile dysfunction all over again. Mainly because I feared going for the homerun… only to fail. 5. girls I didn’t want to sleep.COM But then the night came when she decided she was ready to give me her virginity. I managed to fondle myself in the bathroom enough to get it up… but when she handed me a condom to place on my boss… I fizzled away. And the more anxiety I felt… the less chance I would get or maintain an erection. The less comfortable I was with the girl… the less chance of success in the bedroom. For the rest of our relationship I never wore a condom because I saw it as Kryptonite to my erection.) fat girls. and then a movie. The entire time my mind was racing with anxiety over how well I would perform at something I’ve waited 18 years to attempt. I never got around to putting a condom on. Alcohol in large doses made me lose all sensitivity down there. But I was very rarely closing the deal with them. My girlfriend went on the pill… so all was well. 3. This meant that if I could make it past the first few mishaps with a girl… it would be smooth sailing from there on out. I found it almost impossible to put on a condom without losing or at least greatly diminishing my erection. Alcohol in small doses helped the problem. We went out to dinner.

If a girl started to reach down there and I wasn’t hard. to let anyone going through this know… it isn’t just you. Man Power. Herbal supplements don’t work. and just about every other over the counter supplement… and none of them made a damn difference. Road to Recovery The biggest break through that I had was one day opening up to my friends about my problem. I realized that much of the cause of the problem was me visualizing the worst possible outcome.” What I did know was that my sexual confidence was completely down the toilet for awhile there.Social Superstar 6. Whenever I was on a date with a girl I would start letting the anxiety take over and imagining the pain and embarrassment I would feel if I couldn’t get it up. If there was still nothing going on down there… I would eat her pussy and call it a night. Visualizations are a powerful tool that can be used for achieving any goal… but for me. I took Yohimbe.” Other times I would blame it on being “stressed out over finals”. Horny Goat Weed. How I Handled the Problem when it occurred If I didn’t avoid sex completely with a girl… I would prolong it as long as possible with massive amounts of foreplay. Once I was armed with the knowledge that other guys have gone through this too… I became a lot less nervous about the situation. Ginseng. Other times I would blame it on “just getting out of a relationship. Some of them were even experiencing it as regularly as me. overcoming erectile dysfunction was where I saw the most distinct result. That is my biggest inspiration for writing the article. Sometimes I would blame it on being “too drunk. I was amazed to find that pretty much all of them had experienced the problem before. The next biggest breakthrough came with using visualizations. For the first time I felt there wasn’t just something fundamentally wrong with me. 137 . I would pull her hand away and just pretend that I was teasing her to build anticipation.

but my performance was less than stellar as my penis was only barely hard. I’ve worn them consistently since her and never once lost my erection putting one on. The mind naturally attracts what we focus on the most. I made her come multiple times. but if I felt myself shrinking… I would chuck it aside. 138 . fucked for like four hours straight. I was hard as a rock. Since then my mind did a 180 degree turn in regards to condoms. I fucked her all over her house. A few years after college I began dating this girl who refused to sleep with me raw dog. Oddly enough… with all the girls I slept with I never once had a girl force me to wear a condom. I would imagine myself hard as a rock jamming her to the point of pain. We honest to god. I would tell myself “it happens” and then begin looking forward to my next opportunity to sleep with the girl. If for some reason I still lost my hard on I stopped beating myself up over it. When we finally finished she said “that was by far the best sex of my life. I don’t kid myself to believe it will never happen again. An odd thing happened the next time we had sex. My first time using a condom with her I managed. I would hold the vision of this unbelievable sex in mind and it was like a fortress blocking out the anxiety. I would attempt to wear them on occasion. Conclusion It’s been many years since I’ve faced the embarrassment of an episode. I began viewing them as a tool to last longer in bed. The hardest obstacle to overcome was my aversion to condoms. Whenever I started to feel anxiety creep in… I would start imaging having the wildest hottest sex imaginable with the girl. Soon I found that I was actually going home and having the sex I was imagining. If you’re going through the problem right now the best advice I can give you is to stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. but could not cum.The Best of TSBMAG. It’s part of being a man.” And I believed her. because it was the best sex of my life too.COM I changed my internal visualizations. Repeat the image of yourself performing competently over and over in your mind. We had the most mind blowing sex of my life. Instead change your focus to the mind blowing sex you intend to have.

Do any of you have any tips for guys who might be facing this problem? 139 . Look at it like a stumbling block.Social Superstar If the problem still arises don’t put too much emphasis on it. and get back on the horse.

In this issue. and how to do some testing of your own. maybe she just got burned in a bad relationship. Whatever her reasons. But I will say this: 95% of the time. I’d like to talk about how you can pass those tests. Believe me. when you set rules and boundaries for her to follow. never get fed) There’s a common saying in street fighting that 95% of all real fights wind up in a clinch and go to the ground. to see: 1. or sooner. or have been told. I’d like to go out with you Friday. Just how much control she can exert over you and/or the relationship. When you put a woman in her place. The other factor is ambivalence. If you’ll take her bullshit. This search for strength is the single most important reason why she tests you. or what I call the “make up my mind for me” syndrome. this is important. Maybe you aren’t exactly the physical type she goes for. You thought you would get points for being “co-operative” a “helpful”. but why don’t you call me late Friday afternoon and I’ll let you know for sure?” 140 . and instead you just got the fuzzy end of the lollipop. Why She Tests You: The Search for Strength and Certainty Look: one of the primary things that women are looking for from a man is security. the feeling that someone is stronger than they are. I don’t know. it’s because you haven’t learned to recognize when you’re being tested or just haven’t yet learned how to respond properly. If you’ve ever been dumped for being “too nice”. Could that really be true? Frankly. time and again.COM Wimps into Winners Written by Ross Jeffries Original Reprinted: 03/07/2007 Originally newsletter from: http://speedseduction. How hungry you are for her attention (remember: those who look hungry. or there’s some unseen competitor who she’s waiting to hear from. 2. “let’s just be friends”. the sad reality is that often a woman just isn’t that interested in you one way or another. You see. you can tell this is happening when you hear something like “Uh…well. a woman will test you by the second date.The Best of TSBMAG. it lets her know she can relax around you and feel comfortable and secure.

the macho idiot who loses control and trashes the place when his girlfriend comes home ten minutes late is definitely not the example to follow. when overwhelmed. when you are in bed with her. “Oh no… why is she doing this? What did I do wrong?” from now on will be…. increase her interest. is just an unprecedented opportunity to… KICK THE OTHER GUY’S ASS!!!! Just so. you’ll be mentally prepared. your response to these tests. and intensify her desire to please you. HAH! A RESPECT OPPORTUNITY!!! Look: your attitude has to be that every rude piece of behavior. AH. there’s a concept from Jeet Kun Do. since you know it’s your chance to get her really hot for you!!!! Now. a woman’s bullshit and tests are great opportunities to establish respect and dramatically increase her interest in you. Notice I’m not saying you can’t or shouldn’t get a little pissed. You have to come from the calm. Taken from this perspective. Coming from this perspective. the fighting style of the late. instead of being. before we go on to some specific scenarios. great Bruce Lee that basically says that any weapon thrust your way. Just don’t go nuts with a stream of obscenities. modern women just get overwhelmed with eighty billion things they are trying to do at once. and may even find yourself actually looking forward to her trying to pull shit. “But you promised!” won’t cut it. good buddy. Whining stuff like.) The other thing that doesn’t work is acting like a hurt little boy. they flake on commitments that occur during the peak of the overwhelm. let me add one other thing: when you do put her in her place. rather than something to be feared. How to Handle It…Dealing from a Position of Strength To get back to street fighting analogies. All he’s doing is showing he can’t control himself and he just earns the woman’s contempt. And. In other words. every silly test of hers is just an unprecedented opportunity for you to establish respect. there is the fact that sometimes. “How could you do this to me?” or. … IT’S GOT TO COME FROM THE RIGHT PLACE IN YOU!!! In other words. an attack.Social Superstar Finally. as part of an attack is just a convenient target to be destroyed. but firm 141 . (Streams of obscenities are for afterwards. No.

Finally. if you don’t call it’s going to be a loss 142 . And you know. Will this work? Very often it does. “Well. that you are the person of value. And you’re also suggesting she’s stupid if she doesn’t grab this opportunity. Her response is ambivalent. it conveys the message that you are the prize to be pursued. You have my number. Now. I’d like to but. Scenario one: You call to ask her out for the first time. I’ve come to the conclusion that a woman can only experience real passion for you if on some level she believes she could do something to lose you! Understand that when you show this willingness to walk away. and that always gets attention. what are you doing here? You’re calling her on her ambivalence and letting her know you don’t have time to be put on hold. It’s not what she’s expecting. This is all part of displaying the critically important… WILLINGNESS TO WALK AWAY FROM HER!!! You see. after years of experience and study. this is one big reason!!! Ok. and they had better take advantage of the opportunity. then where is that tension of knowing she could lose you? Answer: Nowhere! And that’s why you get nowhere when you put up with this kind of stuff! If you’ve seen an initially hot relationship grow ice-cold. say this one: You: Look. Understatement works best with this one. This is an attitude that will move you forward in any area that’s challenging you. By way of contrast. you’re embedding a command that she really does want to go out with you. point blank. in any area of your life. Is going out with me something you can take or leave or is it something that you’re smart enough that you really want to do that?” Then shut the hell up and listen for her answer.COM “take it or leave it” position.” Here’s your response: “Let me ask you a question.The Best of TSBMAG. and I’m going to leave it up to you. Just be as matter of fact and non-hostile as you can. forever and ever devotion to her. and put up with her crap and ambivalence. something like. if you show a non-stop. On to some scenarios. What if she still hesitates? Well. why don’t you call me later in the week and….

jaded bitches go to giggly little girls. I am NOT talking about or in any way suggesting or condoning physical violence with a woman. you don’t really get their attention until… You Give Them A Swift Kick In The Ass!! Please note I’m speaking of an attitude. I’m talking about using your mind.Social Superstar for me. my friend. Scenario Two: She calls and cancels at the last minute without offering to do it again at some specific time. Got it? If you can live with that rule. I am against the use or threat of the use of violence or force against ANY human being. I need to know at least a day in advance so I can make other plans. I’ve got a rare tropical disease that’s causing me to shrink by the hour. You’re disrespecting me and disrespecting my time and I’m NOT going to put up with it. Her: What????? You: Look…you made a commitment to spend time with me and now you’re blowing me off. My rule is. from “My parakeet is sick” to “I’ve got to shampoo the rug”. if someone makes a commitment to me. unless there is an imminent threat of violence against yourself or a loved one. I’ve seen the hardest. (I’ve heard every excuse in the book. NOT your fists. You: (dead silence for as long as it takes for her to talk again. I can’t make this too clear. she’ll probably call back with five minutes and apologize and ask you out!!! I’m not kidding here. Seriously) Her: I can’t make it. Ok? Bye. eager to please me when I’ve done this. In fact. Just say NOTHING!!!) Her: Hello? Are you there? What’s wrong? You: What’s wrong is I can’t believe the bullshit I’m hearing. HANG UP!! Now. sayonara! Then. but maybe what you won’t realize until after you hang up is. It throws some kind of switch in their heads. 143 . great…if not. I guess with some people. I expect them to keep it. but man does it work well!!! In fact. that it’ll be a loss for you as well. If they can’t keep it. this may sound extreme.

but I expect the same. The point is this: when women throw this stuff your way.The Best of TSBMAG. Wait for her to finish. Don’t put up with it. and as soon as she does say something like this: YOU: Can I ask you a question? HER: Sure. YOU: Are you being intentionally rude to test me. unable to say anything!) YOU: Don’t ever keep me waiting like this again. or lets you in and then proceeds to talk on the phone for at least that long while totally ignoring you. doesn’t it? ‘Til next time. and these tests will become opportunities to power her straight into your bed. or are you just accidentally acting clueless? HER: (mouth dropping open in shock.COM Scenario Three: You go to pick her up at her place and she either keeps you waiting outside for more than ten minutes. ok? I’ll always treat you respectfully. you want to do the unexpected. Walk a middle ground of strength. like a “nice guy” and don’t lose your temper like a jerk. Do you understand me? HER: Uh…uh…yes. self-control AND self-respect. Ross 144 . And that certainly beats a poke in the eye. Piece and peace.

But you get the point. This is a great way to create a triangle. You’ll look like a real ass if you get caught. I'm going to put a patented “sleazy” on this post. Even for Bobby Rio this is sleazy. I was pretty bummed she missed it. that honor would go to one of my friends who’ll remain nameless. Then what we did was leave comments from them on our real profiles. They do. Anything that would add some value to our profile page. what a great host I was. My friend's tactic goes one step further. So if you want to create a good jealousy trap. Just like you read the comments of a girl you’re interested in. So I left a comment from a fake chic telling me how great of a time she had.. and a little joke about a photo in my room. Anyway. Just don’t tell too many people what you’re doing. Don’t think girls don’t read your comments. as they teach in the Art of Seduction. they pay attention and remember shit like that.Social Superstar Ultimate MySpace Jealousy Tool Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 12/23/2007 Ok. and it's still paying off… What we did was create a couple fake female profiles on MySpace. Comments like “what a great time last night…” “Your party rocked…” “I was so surprised how well endowed you are. I and my nameless friend took this tactic a little further about a year ago. Take advantage of this tip.. I actually forgot about my fake comments until a girl I used to have a thing for came back into my life. A recon profile is a fake female profile you create to attract men… the point of the profile is basically to see what your competition is writing to women online. But it wasn’t my fake profile girl. I’m glad I didn’t invent this. But the point is. 145 . I know that Dave M teaches about creating recon profiles in his Insider Internet Dating course. the girl I was bummed missed the party actually mentioned something like “I know you had fun that night!” She said this because she read the comment and assumed I went home with the girl… Actually I went home with a girl that night. We got to talking and we were talking about my Halloween party last year that she missed.” no just kidding about that last one.

C’mon guys. And when I try to set them up with a “not so hot” chick they act like I’m crazy for suggesting it. I’m just saying that in the meantime get your feet wet with some piggy's. You’ve read the story! It’s all just practice for the big game. you best give her the fuck of the century. When you get the perfect 10 in bed. 146 . Aim lower. That way when you do meet the perfect 10 you’re experienced enough sexually not to blow your load in three minutes. just today's thought. I’m not saying you shouldn’t strive to fuck hotties. at home Friday night masturbating guys always seem to have really high standards? These guys who have absolutely no experience with women are waiting for the perfect 10 to come along. Haven’t you notice the guys who fuck the hottest chicks also fuck the ugliest as well. Fuck that! Even Bobby Rio rolls with the fatties some time. Is it a front you're putting up? Is it easier to say you’ve got really high standards than it is to admit you have no game and are afraid of girls? I say this because I have a few buddies who are perpetually alone. no ass getting. Like they’re way too good for her. You don’t go from T-ball to the big leagues without some time in the minors.The Best of TSBMAG. Plus its fun… but don’t tell anyone.COM Aim Lower Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 08/15/2007 Just a quick thought… How come all of the virgin. Anyway.

topical (mainly topics girls might be interested in) and they are sometimes comedic. never political. always light… meaning the topics are never depressing. So are canned openers good? If it takes using a canned opener to get you to have the confidence to open your mouth in front of a girl then by all means use them. So what makes a good opener? The reason that openers Mystery uses or Style or any of the other canned ones that have become popular over the years. Because it gave a lot of people a handbook of what to say to a girl to start a conversation. never anything that can be angrily argued about. What I did when I was first starting out years ago was I bought the book The Art of Approaching and basically took the 50 or so openers he gives you in there and studied them. 147 . never racial.Social Superstar PUA Openers.) but the openers cause flirty type of arguments… not real heated win or lose type arguments. Openers. I used the outlines he gave and wrote openers that actually interested me. (Or hasn’t it always been?) What are good openers? Will Mystery openers still work? Are canned openers good? Mike Stoute and I did a podcast about openers a few months ago. I think that is why Neil Strauss's book became so famous. the hooks. I took everything I learned in the amazing book and constructed my own “canned” openers. the routines… but I never used them in the field. are so good is because they are non threatening. So in reality anything that you say to a girl is an opener. I memorized the punch lines. These were original openers that better matched my unique personality. And I want to hear some comments and feedback to see what all of you think about the topic. I read about how to deliver them.. Openers Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 08/29/2007 It seems that the topic of openers is all the rage lately. Remember the topics at times are supposed to cause arguments (who lies more… floss before or after… is kissing cheating…. that is all an opener is. It seems that people love googling openers looking for the page of perfect ones to use in bars/clubs/banks/hot dog stands/Wall Marts…. but I feel that it's time to write on the subject again. A conversation starter. I looked for the reasons that they work. Essentially..

genders. To tell me I will regret it. I told the story… I had them imagining themselves in the plane. It's all about how you sell it. Once you know the purpose of a routine (demonstrating higher value. Sometimes I cheated and used a Mystery routine. Tell me I only live once… blah blah… I ran with it. But usually these stories weren’t lies… they were stories that happened to me. the impatient tandem jump instructor yelling at me… these things made the story come alive… these things got me LAID that night.COM For instance the question “Do you floss before or after brushing” became my opener “That piece of meat in a wonton soup… what the hell is it?” The opener “Is kissing cheating?’ became “Would you let your fiancé go to Thailand for his bachelor party?’ “You have a real confident way about you” became “You have a friendly air about you." The jealous girl friend opener became “Would you be mad if your boyfriend slept with Jennifer Anniston?” This is how I got by in the beginning. I remember once. dates. As I used them more and more I began to see a pattern of how girls reacted to them. By reading books like Magic Bullets I was able to see how to construct a routine. sometimes I felt like a liar…(”it's not lying its flirting” lol) Sometimes I would return to a bar a couple weeks later and have to remember some story I made up and roll with it again. my friends and I had three different sets of girls swarmed around us waiting for me to answer the burning question “will I pussy out or will I go sky diving tomorrow?” My friend opened the set my telling them to talk me out of being a pussy. Yes. I created a whole shit load of openers that brought up topics I liked and started using them. I used my imagination and turned a true story about my backing out of a skydiving trip… into this life or death moment of manhood bullshit that the girls ate up. you must not be from New Jersey. These thing got one of my friends 148 . From there I started developing routines to lead into.The Best of TSBMAG. disarming obstacles…) they became easy to make up. the wind. (back then they weren’t so cliché) but more and more I began making up the routines on the spot. they were imagining themselves pulling the cord. I just changed names. to fit the mood of the moment.

It's fun.Social Superstar LAID that night… the other one (with the least game) got a number and wound up fucking her three dates later. It's easy. you can’t ask for a better feeling!!!!! 149 . He still thanks me. Things are even truer when you get to the point that you’re not using canned ones. Once you know how to construct a good opener. My point isn’t to brag. They are merely conversation starters. and you’re going with the flow. Man. When you go out and the night really becomes an adventure. and it's working…. It's to tell you that openers aren't some magic mysterious lines that are hidden away for a select few. It actually makes you look forward to going out.

Use each other. You probably work with one of them. 150 . someone with a little baggage… your goal here is not to fall in love. They are at bars.” And it works. That's great. If you're wondering where to find these fuck buddies. As much as your ego must hate the idea of slumming.” Back in the day me and my friends would call it “practicing for the big game.” And women want guys who get laid. What's great about a fuck buddy is that because you’re getting laid a couple nights a week you won’t be so needy and hungry when you're out hunting. And don’t feel bad about it. I’m talking about a plain Jane. escalating. Your goal is get comfortable being sexual. do it. but if you’re a guy that's been sitting on the sidelines for years you’re going to need a little experience in the bedroom before you start fucking around with 9 and 10s. This means getting comfortable touching girls.The Best of TSBMAG.COM How to Calm Your Sexual eediness Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 09/19/2007 Too many guys jump into this seduction/PUA stuff swinging for the fences. So what's the best way to do this? If you're less than experienced in the bedroom I recommend going out and getting yourself a fuck buddy. They are on Match. Remember “you only get one chance to make a first impression. Your intention should be to give her as much sexual pleasure as possible. she won’t ask for those things.” Every time we fucked a girl that was ugly or fat we would blow it off to “practice. Women can smell neediness a mile away. The more comfortable and confident you get in your sexual abilities the more natural it will be for you to act sexual around women. maybe a chunker with a cute face. They are all over. If you're fucking a girl right. talking sexual to girls. They can look at you and know if you “get laid. or Adult Friendfinder. Nothing more. You don’t need to promise her flowers and diamonds.

to beautify themselves.just in case you have not noticed. when he asked her out for coffee. this attention becomes like a drug. it is very important to keep in mind that when you think that a girl is into you. though. We all have heard some variation of this in our lives and we know it is not an easy thing to hear. He claimed that “all the signals were there.” Ouch. I explained to him that this was a frequent mistake I see in men: They don’t know how to tell the difference between when a girl wants them or their attention. they had good conversations and she seemed receptive to and appreciative of his frequent compliments. He was sure she was into him and even admitted to me that he started envisioning how jealous his friends would be when he landed this hot babe. put into my own little rhyme sequence. this incident left Dan confused and filled with self-doubt about his women-reading skills. Especially to hotter girls that are used to getting the attention. clothes. Like many of us. if she is looking at him as “the man or a fan. Original Published: 04/24/2008 Recently. They don’t understand how to tell. I am used to young men coming to me for confidence boosting and for improving their internal and external relationship with the opposite sex. etc. plastic surgery. She expressed to him that she saw him as a “cool guy and a friend.” She had been smiling at him and eagerly said hello to him every time he came into the gym. she may be really into the 151 . They spend exorbitant amounts of money on makeup. though.” Let's get these fact straight fellas: Women love attention. had an additional problem that he and many others often need help with: discerning a girl’s interest or lack of interest. He was to find out. With this fact in mind.Social Superstar Are You the Man or Just the Fan? Written by Justin B. He had recently had a bad blow to his intuitive confidence in this area when he had thought that a beautiful and single girl that went to his health club was interested him. This young man. gym memberships. I was doing a telephone Life Coaching session for a 19-year old young man named Dan. Many women measure themselves based on how many men hit on them or give them second glances. especially a very hot one. that she was not into him.

There are many more but these 2 seem reoccurring. by now you are probably wondering how you tell if you are “the man or just a fan. If you are interested in the exact psychology behind this: in short the stomach area is a part of a woman’s body that she is usually very conscientious about. When we men go on a date we like to take pride in how calm. Psychology is not an exact science and a lot of the advice about human behavior is true to the extent that it shows trends.” Before I go into giving some very good and specific tips let me first issue a disclaimer about anything cookie cutter when it comes to human behavior. Watch also for her brushing her hair back nervously. Watch particularly if you think you look good one day for her tugging at the bottom of her shirt by her stomach area: This is usually a sign that she thinks you are attractive and wants to measure up. Women. cool. If a woman seems not to care about the impression that she is making on you then most likely you are “just a fan. She is going to seem a little nervous and cognizant of her behavior. but also from having women as Life Coaching clients and friends.” It sounds crazy but it is true. This does not mean that she does not think that you are attractive or that there is no chance of changing her interest. by contrast. Below are 2 general principles and tips for judging a girls interest or lack of it. I remember a few years back I was not sure if this very attractive girl that I worked with was into me. and collected we were and try to find ways not to feel and appear nervous. So. Pay careful attention as you read and do not read this hastily.not only my own experience with women. but you must learn to tell the difference if you don’t want to waste your time and set yourself up for needless rejection. This principle will be interwoven in some of the pointers that I address. often like to feel the “butterflies” in their stomach and like to feel that they are “being kept on their toes. There was a group of us who ate lunch together in the building cafeteria that talked politics 152 .The Best of TSBMAG.” I don’t just mean a physical impression either. There is an important principle to keep in mind when seeking to understand women: Women actually like being nervous sometimes. 1) Most of the time if a woman is truly attracted to you she is going to be self-conscious around you.COM attention that you are showering her with.

She confessed in a cute way that she had asked her friend who knew a lot about the war to fill her in because she wanted to appear smart in front of me. Right then I knew that I was not just “a fan” and I got her number. I want to tell a quick story. but did smile at me and listened when I spoke. On this particular day she had a lot to say and I looked at her quite impressed. If a girl is interested in you. he got her number and was out with her that weekend.” 2) Is she asking you questions about yourself? Bottom line guys: If a girl is not asking you questions about yourself most likely she is not into you. if you are wondering and find yourself 153 . not a group of you. She noticed on his keychain that he had a key tag for PETCO. she asked more questions.” She laughed and knew that it was true. You guys get the point by now: If a girl is not trying to overtly impress you. David Simon. nor really look like she really cares what you think and is a little nervous. To close. she will want to know more about you and will find a way to ask you. I walked away. One day we were alone in the cafeteria and a news story came on television about the war in Iraq. We usually stop by there after the gym and there was a hot chick working there behind the courtesy desk that goes to our gym.she had never tried them she said.Social Superstar regularly and with a lot of zeal and passion. Using the same principle. A participant asked him about her habit of drinking a large Starbucks coffee every day. then it probably is an addiction. He cut her off and said “If you are asking about it. If she wants to know if you have a girlfriend you don’t have to tell her. My friend Scott and I were in A&P a few weeks ago. She asked him if he had a dog and as he answered her questions. She will find ways to be closer to you and look for excuses to ask you questions. “I am not sure if it is an addiction…” she stated. She ate with us but never said much during these conversations. They had exchanged pleasantries but the conversations were always short because she was working out with friends. He bought a 6-pack of soy yogurts and I told him to go ask her if she could ring him up. Not surprisingly. most likely you are unfortunately “just a fan. Scott said that she had been smiling at him a little in the gym but he was not sure if it was friendly or personalized to him. Then she asked him something that sealed the deal and left no room for doubt.she probably will find a cute way of asking. A few months ago I was on a teleseminar conference call about addictions with one of America’s best health experts. I walked over with him and she saw his yogurts and asked him if they were good.

the answer is probably what you do not want to hear: that she is not into you. and you are unfortunately a “fan” and not “the man.COM asking if a girl is into you. like the caller. then.The Best of TSBMAG.” Thank you Justin – 154 .

Social Superstar The Hero the Bounty and the Purpose Driven Life Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 02/24/2008 It was a very tame Saturday night for me. wakes up from his black out and immediately takes on the roll of the leader. confusion mode. But there are people out there just like Jack. I have resisted watching Lost for years but at the insistence of my brother and a couple friends I decided to give the show a shot. Jack. Women.. The show begins with a plane crash. and has all of the survivors looking up to him within an hour of the plane crash. takes charge.. The point of this post isn’t to talk about Lost. I’d love to tell a story about how 30 minutes into the first episode we were having animal sex on my kitchen table or how her friend showed up and we had a mind blowing three way… but that just wasn’t the case. down a bottle of Pinot. We are so fascinated with them because very few of us have the intestinal fortitude to be one. and I’m sure you guys would wind up spoiling a lot of shit for me. The truth is we watched eight straight episodes of Lost and passed out on the couch halfway through the ninth. but to talk about leadership. No one has a clue what to do. 155 . order Chinese. She had never seen it either and was into the idea of starting the series from the beginning. but being the show is in its fourth season and I’m at the beginning… my post would be old news for most of you. Everyone is in panic. I could write a whole post about the show. People are fascinated with leaders. I’ve been hanging with this girl for a couple weeks now and we decided to stay in last night. money. Jack selflessly tries to help everyone on the island. And just like Jack these guys get life’s bounty. and watch the first season of Lost on DVD. Sure it's a television show.. success… but more importantly a sense of purpose. Shit is upside down.. Until the main character.

He did it through purpose and action. I had been following a blog. Some way to convince myself that I was free. Rooshv. it took watching seven 156 . something along the lines of “did you find what you were looking for?” Because I’m starting to believe that even the soul searching trip I felt destined to make…. Because when it comes down to it. I’m not sure freedom is as simple as throwing on a backpack. waiting for my slice of the cheese. And for the longest time that was my dream. To prove to myself that I wasn’t wasting my life away in the rat race. I was going to finally live. still won’t be enough. I recently wrote a list of 5 Must Have Self Help Books and that list included two books by Wayne Dyer. But even with all the books that I’ve read on the subject.COM Jack didn’t become a leader because he was the best politician on the island. And when you’re living completely self centered. visited more countries than most people could name. He’s back now and I recently posed a question to him in a comment. growing a beard. slept with more women than I care to admit. I followed his journey religiously. And I’ve had more than I ever dreamed I would. I was going to take it. my motives for the trip are still entirely selfish.The Best of TSBMAG. watching Lost last night I still felt as if I were missing something important. Many books talk about living on where he detailed his six month trip across the continent of South America. wishing badly it was me trekking on a bus through the Peruvian Andes. But I’m not so sure escape is that easy. I don’t have any regrets. and waking up in strange places with strange people. I think it is impossible to be free. In a world so obsessed with “self help” I think we often neglect the fact that the best form of “self help” is the selfless act of helping others. Dyer has written many books about living on purpose. He didn’t get the girl because he sold her on his ideas through long winded speeches and debates. Yet. I’ve got more friends than I can count. I realize that part of the reason I wanted to take the trip was for some form of escape. and generally lived on the edge and survived to tell about it. He obtained the respect of everyone on the island because while they were standing around waiting to be saved… he was saving other people. having three week flings with Chilean beauties. I can’t speak for anyone but myself but there are times in my life that I feel an overwhelming sense of being unfulfilled.

each speaker recollecting a 157 . Maybe it was the deliriousness of staring at a television screen until the wee hours of the night. to date. or Braveheart is that I always sort of believed you needed to be inspired by notions like ending world hunger. Living on purpose means getting lost in the moment because there is something greater than your personal desire that needs to be achieved. or the previous movies such as Gandhi. worldwide democracy. or national independence. So understanding that I will more than likely never be trapped on deserted island and have to play the role of savior to a group of stranded castaways. none of them have swept me away in inspiration.Social Superstar straight hours of Lost to make me finally understand what living on purpose is all about. pursuing. but does that mean we have no choice but to view ourselves as less significant. curing cancer. analyzing. I figured maybe I was doomed to a world of ego domination. how can I experience a sense of purpose in my life? Take on the role of leader? What kind of higher goal will transcend me to the next level of living? I think that my problem with the Dyer books I’ve read about purpose driven life. but I woke up this morning feeling a little different. But I think many of us have been mislead to believe that to “be great” you must do great things. I would be waiting for something to happen that would make me think “now I’m really living” but more than likely I would spend six months waiting. or maybe it was me seeing something in Dr. or realizing that the girl sitting next to me was seeing something in Dr. less “great?” I was at wake this afternoon. and rationalizing the trip’s every minute. Most of us will never have the opportunity to deliver a speech like William Wallace gives in Braveheart or liberate a nation through self sacrifice like Gandhi did. The father of my friend’s girlfriend passed away and as I listened to the various eulogies. judging. That is why my South American trip would not have been the escape I was looking for. While these are all noble causes. Jack that was inside of me waiting to be released. global warming. and then wake up and decide it was time to go home. And because of that. comparing and contrasting. I would still be stuck in my mind. I felt it was ‘beyond me’ to live selflessly. Jack that she knew she would never see in me. A little lost. peace in the Middle East.

and acted as a sense of strength for his girlfriend and her mother when the two of them would continually break down. Standing there in the funeral parlor I realized we all have the choice on a daily basis to be great.” It's about deciding to be great this very minute. how clearly something so elusive can suddenly appear. and you get swept away in the emotion of a wake. great listeners.COM particular time in their life when the deceased impacted their life for the positive. he had long intense conversations with the dying man. A few of the speakers had given heartfelt thank you to my friend who had stepped in to pull the family together as it became more and more certain that his girlfriend’s dad was going to lose his battle with cancer. Everyday each one of us is presented with situations where we can be a leader and a hero. He took days off from work. One of the speakers quoted a line from "It’s a Wonderful Life" saying “no man is a failure who has friends. leaders.” It's funny how when you’re running on a few hours sleep. great role models. Everyone in that room viewed my friend as a hero. and heroes. We can be great friends. It's been said over and over again that those who live on purpose and relinquish their personal wants and desires. 158 . It's about deciding that every action you take from here on out will serve a greater purpose. We don’t need our plane to crash in the South Pacific (if that's really where they are) to give us our moments to shine. It's not about waiting for that moment where you can “look like a hero.The Best of TSBMAG. are those who ultimately see the most of life’s bounty. your heads a little messed up from too many episodes of Lost.

I religiously followed his career and collected his memorabilia. We addressed integrity in our “The Lost Art of Being a Man” podcast. It is equally important in how you live your life. Their lack of integrity stems from the fact that they hold beautiful women to different standards then they hold the rest of the world. the other part of it was that I was completely impressed with the stories of his unparalleled will and determination.Social Superstar Integrity Makes a Man Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 02/14/2008 There is more to life than how much money you can make or how many girls you can sleep with. and how it relates to the way you interact with women. Even after I began to lose interest in baseball I still made an attempt to keep track of his career. I am by no means a perfect person. Part of my fascination with him was based on childhood nostalgia. I’m the only guy in NJ who walked around in an Astros hat. These are the artificial indicators of achievement in our society. I was envious of the motivation he possessed that got him out of bed at 4:30 am every morning to work his body to peak performance. The set of values they define for themselves gets pushed aside for the opportunity to be with a beautiful woman. But integrity goes further than your dealings with the opposite sex. Roger Clemens was my favorite sports figure since 1986. But the real depth of your character and what ultimately makes you a man. Most of us are not above striving for them. 159 . It was to the point where my friends laughed because I changed favorite teams every time he signed a new contract. I included. We have all most likely been a role where we’ve acted in a way that is not congruent with our core set of values… but watching Roger Clemens at the Congressional hearings yesterday reminded me of the importance of living with integrity. is living within a set of core values and beliefs that you set for yourself. The reason women have no respect for “nice guys” is because these nice guys often lack integrity.

Period.COM That being said Roger Clemens choice to have himself injected with steroids is something I could forgive him for. Owning up to a mistake is what separates the men from the boys. Once again. Something at that point of his life (mainly his fierce drive to be the best) made him feel it was necessary to use performance enhancing drugs. Or doing everything in your power to correct them in the future. But most of us have defined our core set of values to let these sorts of lies slip by. It is my personal business and I may not feel the need to be completely open. Something at that point in time (mainly my dick) made me feel it was necessary to sleep with a woman outside of my relationship. I told them EXACTLY how I felt and why I did it. has left me with the feeling that the man lacks a sense of integrity. It wasn’t always easy. I may lie as to not appear a slut in that particular situation. I’ve lied to girls and cheated on them. I relate it similarly to mistakes I’ve made where I’ve cheated on girls that I loved. If you’ve ever used someone else’s canned routine in the field… you’ve lied. If you’ve ever told a girl you were going for a friend's luncheon but really had sex with an Argentine prostitute in back alley brothel…. But watching Clemens blatantly lying over and over again to save his chances for the Hall and his endorsement deals. I will not deny it. It's not something I’m proud of. If someone casually asks me how many girls I’ve slept with. It is his personal business. It would have been easier to continue the lies (as OJ showed us deny deny deny) but to me there is a difference between situational lying and lying about something you’ve been accused of. My definition of living with integrity means owning up to your mistakes. Because when you deny something you’ve done against 160 . But when I eventually got caught I laid all of my cards on the table. I don’t think any of us are above lying. Shit happens. The same can be said for Roger Clemens use of steroids. we are human beings. you’ve lied. and I know full well that I did. But if a girl claims to have slept with me. While making a mistake is human nature. And if someone casually asked Roger Clemens if he’s ever used steroids I would not condemn him for lying in that situation. But life is too short for regrets so I move on. People fuck up. Human beings make mistakes. There is a certain shame in these types of lies.The Best of TSBMAG.

The problem with Clemens choice of action is that the only person he is looking out for is himself. He is calling numerous people liars. and wasting the time of a whole lot of people who would just like to move on from this shit. calling them a liar. 161 . blame everyone else… or you own up your mistakes and BECOME A MAN. using his wife as a scapegoat. in fact. In the face of adversity that Clemens is facing you always have two choices: You can lie and manipulate and play the self serving “if I deny long enough they’ll forget about it” card or you can own up to your mistake. questioning his best friend’s story. This is where Roger Clemens has crossed the line of simply making a “human mistake” and gone on to show an utter lack of integrity. be a man and move forward. In essence. In every situation in life you have these same two choices: You make excuses.Social Superstar someone else’s word… you’re. take the self serving route.

That was part 162 . The Great Gatsby Complex is an inward hope of meeting someone from your past that drives you to make decisions in your present life. We clicked on many different levels… and we both were insanely attracted to each other… but Jackie was “on the promiscuous side.The Best of TSBMAG. and Gatsby spends the next five years building an empire to impress her with his new wealth. The two fall in love and date for awhile before circumstance prevents the two from continuing their love affair. We all have those girls from our past that still haunt us. F. They are usually not ex girlfriends. Daisy goes on to marry someone else. For me there are three that pop into my head: Jackie. He also throws party after party in his mansion in hopes of her showing up without the realization that it was her old lover throwing the party.The whore. Jackie was a girl I worked with a few years back. In the novel. The reason that I decided to write about this is because the other night I realized that I still suffer from what I call The Great Gatsby Complex. And discussed the details with me.COM The Great Gatsby Complex Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 03/23/2008 I’ve always said you can learn more from certain novels about human nature than you can from some of the most celebrated self help books. but instead they are usually girls that we have unfinished business with… girls that “slipped away” or circumstance prevented things from going further. It is the guy who is struggling through law school so that he can show up at his high school reunion and impress a girl he had a crush on ten years ago… it is the guy that is at the gym seven days a week building the perfect body in hope that he runs into an old flame and she’s blown away by his chiseled abs.” She fucked just about every guy I knew. Scott Fitzgerald’s famous novel The Great Gatsby serves to constantly remind me about the art of letting go. the main character Jay Gatsby has one of the strongest cases of “oneitis” I’ve ever seen. He is full throttle into “the sickness” over an ex lover Daisy Buchanan.

. We avoided the temptation of hooking up with each other for over a year… until one night we couldn’t take it anymore and dragged each other into a bathroom during a party and made out like our life depended on it. I had hooked up with her sister in the past and felt a little weird at the party because her sister was there with her boyfriend (who she was with when we had our fun) so to keep myself occupied I flirted with her younger sister Jaime. We were both in relationships at the time with other people. until we gradually disappeared from each other’s lives.. but there was one big problem. We got down the shore and rented a hotel… her friend quickly disappeared and left us alone in the room. I met Jaime at her older sister’s birthday party. Jaime was the most adorable girl I had ever seen and soon we were laying on the bed making out… she’s telling me how we’re going to get married… how much she likes me… and I’m enjoying it like I haven’t with any girl in a long time… I resist having sex with her for most of the night despite her constant begging.. The chemistry was so unbelievably hot. I’ve written about her before. I’ve found myself suggesting certain bars to my friends because of the slight chance one of these three 163 . and there was no way I could be caught dating her. She’s the friend that after five years of unbearable sexual tension we explode during a ski trip and spent a week in a hotel barely ever leaving the bed. Jackie was a known slut. Later that night Jaime came back to a friend's place and we kept talking. Soon I found myself standing on his porch telling her how cute she was… then we kissed. Later I’m so confused over what I did that I never talk to her again..Social Superstar of our friendship… helping each other get laid. and when the trip ends -so does our brief romance…and our friendship. I do have fantasies of running into one of them and instantly rekindling the old unfinished feelings. finally I give in... What is so dangerous about The Great Gatsby Complex is that it can begin to control your present moment. I don’t consider myself as having oneitis over any one of them… but I do find myself hoping that they’ll show up at the bar I’m at more often that I’d like to..The soul mate. Jaime. I tried to avoid her after (she wasn’t exactly street legal) but a week later she called me up and asked me to go down the shore with her and her friend. Kryptonite..The 17 year old. So after that night we went back to being friends. I mention these girls because they still haunt me.

and connection. You have to forgive yourself for anything you did to contribute to ruining the romance. chemistry. Each of these three girls had a quality about them that separated them from the hundreds of other girls I was with during that time frame. I know I made mistakes that might have cost me a chance at a great love affair… but what is done is done. And I am thankful for that opportunity. The final step of ridding yourself of the complex is the expression of faith. Each of the three girls I mentioned added excitement and adventure to my life during the time I knew them.COM might show up there. They were brief romances that ended prematurely. You have to have faith that she is out there… 164 .The Best of TSBMAG. I know some of my actions back then weren’t stemming from my best self. The second step of ridding yourself of the complex is the expression of gratitude. It is time to forgive yourself and move on. Part of the reason we hold onto these ghosts from our past is because we don’t believe that we’ll meet anyone better. The third step of ridding yourself of the complex is the act of forgiveness. I don’t deny that they hold a special place in my mind… but holding on the past in this way can prevent you from meeting new girls who may have similar qualities. You have to know that you have all the qualities and characteristics to meet and attract an even more special girl. How to Rid Your Self of the Great Gatsby Complex I think the first step in ridding yourself of the complex is the acceptance of all things past for what they were. Any of the three girls I mentioned could easily have been the love of my life… but they weren’t. Each of these experiences made you the person you are today. AND THAT'S ALL THEY WERE. I’ve found myself constantly looking around hoping to spot one of them… Holding onto the past like this ruins the opportunities that are presented to you in the present. These feeling never got a chance to mature so they are still burning strong… unlike ex girlfriends who we went full circle with and our feeling had a chance to run their course leaving us with both good and bad memories. I think that the reason it's the girls that we have unfinished business with that haunt us the most is because we only have the memories of the intense attraction.

165 .Social Superstar Once you develop a sense of faith that you’ve yet to meet your ideal girl… the chains from your past are released and you begin to grow excited for what you may find in your future. If you are being held back by ghosts from your pasts I suggest following the four step plan to rid yourself of the complex.

protagonist Ray Kinsella played by Costner is told early in the movie by a mysterious voice “Build it and he will come” as he walks through the cornfield on his large farm. For our purposes. though for our purposes is this key phrase “Build it and he will come” and how it can be applied to your own life with women. Many men often note that men that seem to land a quantity of quality women into their beds give off a vibe that they “don’t really care. After this. I think you all intuitively understand that what I am saying is that you have to have a strong basis for your self-esteem outside of your success with women and that. After several months. When you are being fulfilled in multiple areas of your life. this will attract women.” It is not that they don’t really care. some of the deceased ballplayers from the shamed 1919 Chicago White Sox baseball team show up on his field and now he more deeply understands the message that he chose to have faith in: to “build it” and trust that they “will come.” As a motivational Life Coach I often deal with men that tell me that they have a difficult time attracting and dealing with quality women. ironically. What I would like to focus on today. Kinsella gets a very clear vision of a baseball field in his cornfield and believes deep inside of himself that there is a connection between the “build it” part of what he heard and the vision of the baseball field.” If you have seen this excellent movie you know it teaches many life lessons and has some great underlying messages and themes to it. and you build your life up to a point where you feel good about it and. starring Kevin Costner and Ray Liotta.COM Build it and They will Come Written by Justin B. “have your shit together”. His wife is skeptical but tells him to follow his vision and build the field. let us translate this phrase into “Build it and they will come. I often tell them that one of their main problems I see is that they are too focused on getting women and not focused enough on building their own life and their own self-confidence and self-esteem. it is rather that they are so fulfilled and 166 . as they say.The Best of TSBMAG. which will easily translate into attracting women. Original Published: -4/03/2008 Build it and They Will Come by Justin B In the very popular and successful 1989 movie Field of Dreams. women will pick up on the very confident and responsible vibe you give off.

purpose. you will attract attention with your very masculine vibe. will build your self-confidence because you will slowly get in touch with the negative thoughts that are holding back 167 . Women pick up on their vibe of independence and self-fulfillment and this is very attractiveboth emotionally and sexually. Become charismatic and excited about it.” Remember that a personality trait that women often get frustrated with about themselves is the fact that their self-esteem is too much based on what the opposite sex thinks. A woman I was talking with recently told me that it is very sexy for a guy to be very into his job. 2) Lift weights. his family. his friends. 3) Practice meditation or some form of relaxation You may have never considered meditation or consider it something for New Age weirdoes. etc. Hopefully. because she said that it expresses a sense of confidence and fulfillment that he is strong and that he could “be strong for her. sports. though. You may even consider it something for women. Being this way will put your much more in touch with your own masculine energy and will make you very appealing.for women. the last thing that they want is to be with a man that has the same issue. The men who have mastered this principle have inadvertently taught themselves and us a valuable lesson about the connection between their own lives and their success with women: “Build it and they will come. If you can identify your core passions and pursue them you will find yourself much more fulfilled in a holistic and overall way. While you release endorphins and build your emotional and physical muscles. I am not just saying this for the reason you might be thinking: that women like muscles. When you lift weights you are going to be getting in touch with and expressing your masculinity even outside of the gym. and become passionate about it. Learning to meditate.Social Superstar focused on the other parts of their lives that they don’t have a lot of time to worry about how they are doing with women. 1) Find a cause.” So how can you apply this philosophy to your life and “build” your own life up to make room for them to “come”? Here are some starting points although by now I am sure you get the idea. Men find themselves best when they are happy with their work. besides women of course. or career that you are passionate about. this is your career but if not find something that interests you.

“they” will come.The Best of TSBMAG. Then watch how as you “build” your life. they will come in droves because you too “will not care.” Find a local meditation class or buy a book or CD on meditation.COM your success with women and other areas of your life. See the value in them because you will feel better and therefore will not need women to make you feel good about yourself. 168 . I usually recommend to clients anything by Steven Halpern or Deepak Chopra. As you become more content and build your self confidence at a deep level. Do not get into the trap of doing these things solely to attract women.

Soon the resentment grew to anger. I criticized everything she did. I made her feel small by talking about her insecurities. I was now this bitter. But the whole ordeal took a giant toll on the both of us. I was no longer the charming man that won her over. I became a completely different person. I wasn’t much better. But later in life when I became better with women. So for the next six months I stayed in a relationship I was miserable in. I hated the person that I became. and was dating more and more women. Little by little I was ruining her. naive to the reality of relationships. I was a naive boy at the time. non-sexual. asshole. The thrill of this relationship lasted about 6 months. And finally she did. She was a mess. and thought that by ending the relationship with this girl I would break her heart into a million pieces . I denied most of her attempts at sexual activity. The more I hinted that I was looking to end the relationship the more she clung closer to me. and had the names of our future babies already picked out. I think my plan was to treat her so badly she would end it with me. I barely paid attention when she spoke to me. By our ninth month together I desperately wanted to be single again. I got involved in my first serious relationship my freshman year of college.Social Superstar Why You Shouldn’t String Girls Along Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 04/29/2008 It was actually Ross Jeffries who originally coined the phrase “Leave them better then you found them. this phrase will hold as much importance as anything you’ve been taught before. 169 . Like most young couples. As you get better with women.” He was talking about the women that come in and out of your life. I heard from friends that she actually had to go for counseling. I found myself falling back into this trap. After this I avoided relationships altogether for awhile. mean. spending every waking hour together.forever ruining her for other men. As time went by I became more and more resentful of Jillian. my girlfriend Jillian and I rushed in full throttle. I was bitter towards her. I had no idea how to break free from her.

I no longer viewed myself as the kind of guy who attracts women. I explained that I didn’t want anything more than what we had. but I never did. I felt like a soulless monster. and my self esteem was shot. The way I felt as a person during those times with Jillian and Kate was less than human. than I was to string a girl along. A few months after Kate I started dating a girl Nancy. But I was too lazy to end it. 170 . I didn’t have that dark cloud surrounding me that I had a few months earlier with Kate. I viewed myself as the kind of guy women should stay away from. I wouldn’t call Kate for days at a time. as our relationship was very low maintenance. Nancy and I are still friends to this day. The repercussions of the way you treat a woman echoes throughout your life. You can’t avoid the pain of a breakup… but by delaying it you can make it much worse. She was a bit upset. and have even fucked from time to time. My integrity was all but drained. We sat down and had the talk. Kate figured things out on her own and suddenly stopped calling me. The lesson I learned was that I was much better off being honest with a girl about how I felt. Luckily for me. She was probably waiting for me to make the apology call. Since Kate I have changed my ways. Soon I became the same person I was years earlier with Jillian. but was appreciative that I was honest with her. I hated the person I was once again becoming. and knew it wasn’t going to go anywhere. Nancy was a fun girl who I enjoyed fucking.The Best of TSBMAG. and it carried over into the rest of my life. I have realized that it is much less cruel to end a relationship than it is to stay involved with a girl you don’t have feelings for. It was apparent to me that Kate thought things were more serious than they were. I felt good about the way things ended with Nancy. I avoided sex with her.COM I had been dating this girl Kate for like four months. A couple months into the relationship I sensed Nancy was looking for more. I was deliberately saying things that I knew would make Kate feel insecure. I would openly stare at other girls.

and got more touchy feely. We spent the rest of the trip basically locked in my 171 . I knew in my head that it was now or never time for making my move. The “sickness” is like oneitis on steroids. I became more sexual. Justin. slowly she responded to my escalation. but then usually brings about physical symptoms like nausea.Social Superstar The Anatomy of the Sickness Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 04/30/2008 Mike. Mack Tight referred to it as when “guys become a needy pile of shit after they become obsessed over a woman. depression. insomnia. Even as our closest friends tell us to “move on” “play it cool” “forget about her” their words go in one ear and out the other. It corrupts your mind first. The Anatomy of the Sickness After slowly falling for one of my female friends over the course of a year.” We call it “the sickness” because once it infects you’re almost powerless against its control. and once again she wound up on my bed with me making out. vomiting. and I coined the phrase “the sickness” back in college. The next day she told me it was a mistake and that she liked me too much as a friend to continue. Although I won’t pretend that you’ll be able to rid yourself of your obsession. alluded to her attractiveness. it is still near impossible to battle. and distance myself from the friend zone that I had previously been regulated to. at the very least. Although initially she seemed a little taken back. weight loss. you may be able to avoid some of the classic mistakes that I made. Weeks before the ski trip I began avoiding her before heading up to the mountain. It happens to the best of us… and even though we most likely know we’ve been infected. I wanted to create a fresh persona. everything came to a boil on a ski trip. But I persisted again that night. While the only cure for “the sickness” is time… I thought that if I wrote a detailed description of how the sickness infects (using my last battle with it as an example) you guys might be able to keep this as a guide to compare against when you feel it coming on. The first night of the ski trip I made a dramatic change in the way I interacted with her. By the end of the night we were lying on my bed making out.

While still at work I sent her a text “I want to see you. I waited and waited… but the response never came. I was fairly confident that she felt the same way. and had arranged for them to be delivered to her 172 . I would say my confidence was sky high. So I went against my better instinct and headed to the flower shop on Monday morning.” I would momentarily feel better. I went against my better instinct and called her. or just my flat out physical attraction to her. our strong connection as friends. My mind was on the girl a bit. After the bar closed I have an after party back at my house. and then remember our wonderful week together in the mountains and get stuck in my mind trying to figure out what went wrong. it was like nothing I had experienced before. They all reassured me telling me “it's only been a day. The realization that she didn’t call set in. Quite drunk at this point. Somewhere in between Saturday and Sunday I convinced myself the reason that she’s avoiding me is because she doesn’t trust that I’m really into her. To be completely honest. Friday afternoon I could hardly contain my excitement to possibly spend time with her. I don’t know if it was the sexual tension that had built up over the last year. The first couple nights back home went ok. It made sense in my mind. I was in “play it cool” mode so I figured I would wait a few days to call her. I figured that what I needed to do was to prove to her that I was really into her. And when she didn’t answer I left a message. I was on top of my game. I had just completed my crowning achievement as a player.The Best of TSBMAG. still waiting for the call. Saturday morning is when I went into panic mode. but I was in a state that I had never previously experienced. I was still in “play it cool” mode so I decided to hit the bar with a couple of my friends. Bad!” I expected an immediate response with her echoing the sentiment. I fell asleep that night with the phone in my hand. In fact. I bought the biggest baddest most expensive bouquet of flowers they had.COM bedroom. She knows I’m a player. I began scanning my brain for reasons why she would be blowing me off. I began asking the opinion of a few of my friends. but I wasn’t too worried as she had a habit of flaking throughout our friendship. Although I left the week in the mountains feeling quite vulnerable. The girl and I exchanged evening text messages.

was me completely shit faced handing her a love letter I wrote her… her taking the letter and leaving… never even calling me to acknowledge it. For a minute or two I tell myself I’m not going to call her back… but then I give in and call. 173 . I wait till Friday to call her again.” The next two months are a blur. My “wet friend” tells me not to answer the phone and give her a taste of her own medicine… but “dry friend” intervenes and I wind up talking her into coming over. The next morning I debate whether or not to cancel the flowers. Monday night she calls me at one in the morning. The few times she actually does call or text… I am too weak to play the game. then she leaves. get extremely drunk… and take home some 18 year old hostess I worked with. I try to play it cool and act like I don’t care. When she gets to my house she acts nonchalant about not calling… and I forgive her immediately. In my mind… she was going to confess her love to me. I ask her to hang out but she says she’s tired and is just going to sleep. As time went by I gave up hope of her calling. Finally two months later I get really drunk and show up at her work. Later in the night I get a call from her thanking me for the flowers. tell me how much she’s missed me… and wind up cuddled next to me on my bed. I decide to still send them. Once again… no answer. I am plastered but somehow talk her into heading out for a couple drinks with me. We make out a little while… I eat her pussy.. Then later in moments of weakness I send her text messages asking “what's going on with us” and other shit I get nauseous thinking about.Social Superstar work Tuesday night… complete with a really embarrassing card basically professing my love. But even a fresh young 18 year old couldn’t deter me from the beginning of “the sickness. She keeps avoiding seeing me. I proceed to go out with a friend. She is almost frightened to see me. They basically consist of me checking my phone every three minutes to see if she called. How the night ended.. I’ve finally got her in front of me after two months of playing phone tag… but it's nothing like I imagined.

It is simply meant to show how the sickness can take hold of anyone.COM The mess that Bobby Rio had become was finally starting to put the pieces of his life back together. and never would imagine her to be into him… but as I got drunker it made more and more sense. I had friends that still worked there. The night started out pleasant enough… I spent time catching up with a handful of old friends… chatting with her whenever the occasion would allow. So once again. Everything was becoming crystal clear… (In my drunken distorted mind) SHE WAS FUCKING THIS GUY.. I think I may have even bit him.” But I couldn’t leave well enough alone. Then I began noticing that she and one of her co-workers were awfully close. I didn’t feel threatened because I knew the guy. The next thing I know we’re ushered out to the parking lot… We’re rolling on the pavement pounding on each other’s skulls… sticking fingers in our eyes.” It was clear she didn’t want to talk about it. I began asking her questions alluding to “the weekend we spent together. But as I got drunker the cool guy shell I had been putting on was slowly cracking. I go out get completely shit faced and show up at her work party with one of my friends. So I did the only thing a drunken sick bastard could do… I followed him into the bathroom and punched him square in his jaw.The Best of TSBMAG. I knew that there would be an annual Christmas party at the place she worked. At that point in my life I already knew everything there was too know. I was banging chicks left and right. He was dating a new girl… finally starting to get over “the sickness. Finally the rest of the party breaks up the fight… they put me in a cab and send my sad sick drunk ass home. I’m going to leave this story without commentary. 174 ... always the one with the control and calling the shots… And I fell like a toy soldier. Bobby Rio woke up the next morning at Rock Bottom..

At the time. For Mystery it is his love of magic and showmanship. everything. physiology. At first I tried to artificially create a sense of passion in my life. It gives them something fascinating to talk to about. although I found it motivating. I didn’t truly grasp the concept of living with passion. My desire to see the world is stronger than my desire for any girl or to 175 . Argentina for a couple weeks to visit a friend. The greatest pickup artists in the world usually have a passion in their life greater than seducing women. and is an excellent place to start… ultimately you still won’t be living with passion. “what does living with passion have to do with improving my skills at attracting women?” My answer is. You may be asking. for Cajun and Mehow its theatre. for Christian Hudson its entrepreneurship. It gives them something to strive for. That trip ignited a passion in me that burns strongly to this day. for Neil Strauss it's his love of journalism. Six years ago I headed down to Buenos Aires. improving these things will create a sense of “passive value” for you… and eventually you might even begin to feel a bit more passionate in your day to day activities. for Tyler Durden its adventure. and voice tonality to present a passionate looking man to the world. I used body language. Bobby Rio’s passion in life is traveling the world. for Extramask its comedy… What living with a higher passion does for each of these PUAs is it gives them a reason to exist other than picking up women. While improving areas of your non verbal communication may make you look and feel like a more passionate person. It gives them something to get excited about every morning. something that gives meaning to their existence. And as Sebastian Drake talked about in our recent interview with him.Social Superstar Living with Passion Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 05/19/2008 The first time I heard that phrase it was from an Anthony Robbins CD.

and that. I live with a willingness to walk away from any girl… And like Life Coach Justin says in his Build it and they will Come article. ironically. “If money wasn’t an issue.COM make any amount of money. I think that the first step in cultivating your passion is to ask yourself.The Best of TSBMAG. I will never work a job that does not give me the flexibility to travel often (2 weeks vacation a year won’t cut it) nor will I date a girl who won’t just get up and go on a wild adventure with me. My happiness is never defined by how many notches I’ve added to my belt. 176 . it defines a lot of my criteria for jobs and relationships. In fact. this will attract women. “this will help you have a strong basis for your self-esteem outside of your success with women. How this relates to pickup and seduction Since no one can ever take my love of travel away from me… I never attach excess meaning to winning or losing with a particular girl.” Discovering and cultivating your passion is an area that we are going to discuss in much more detail during our Mansformation Weekend Retreat. what would I be doing with my life?” Really taking time to think about this question will begin to give you a deeper understanding into what internally drives you.

And other times we go through a health slump where we seem to just entirely let ourselves go. Now that you’ve been talking to two new people a day for a week… challenge yourself a bit and start flirting with those two new people. The trick is to gradually build momentum based on small accomplishments. the mere thought of the time and energy involved in starting a relationship can scare the crap out of you. If you want to get your finances in order don’t dwell on how you’re going to pay off that $15. Once you’ve started small you should be able to develop a new routine. Focus on One Goal. Once you’re no longer missing the $25 a month… start saving $35. And then when we try to get back on track. Start Small. Effectively removing yourself from a slump can be a struggle. 3. We all go through them. Use Small Successes to Build Momentum.Social Superstar 7 Secrets for Getting out of a Slump Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 06/25/2008 Slumps are a part of human nature. If you’re dreading putting seven days a week in at the gym. For instance. focus on just talking to a couple new people a day. the further along you seem to fall into it. Other times we go through a dating slump (draught) where it seems like we’ll never kiss a girl again. It is impossible to stay energized and 177 . One of the biggest obstacles people face in overcoming slumps is they become intimidated by the task at hand. Here are 7 Ways to Motivate You Out of a Slump 1.instead commit to taking one long walk around your block every night.000 credit card debt… just focus on paying off $25 a month. This prevents people from making any effort at all to interact with new people. The most frustrating thing about slumps is that more you try to get out of one. Sometimes we get in a financial slump where we just can’t get caught up on bills. Once you’ve got in the habit of taking a walk every night. if you’ve been single for a long time. do a few crunches when you get home from it. but with the right motivation you can get right back on track in no time. Many times the reasons we fall into slumps is because we’ve so over whelmed by everything going on in our life that we choose to negate it all. we can’t figure out where to even start. Instead of focusing on building a relationship. 2.

Realize Motivation Comes and Goes. There are some people out there who just don’t like seeing other people succeed. everywhere you go. and broke… pick the goal that you think will be the best catalyst for improving the other areas later on. If you’re goal is to get better talking to women. It is pretty hard to accomplish something completely on your own. 5. out of shape. And when that gust dies down… to know that it will arrive again shortly. Motivation comes and goes. If you’re not having luck meeting a significant other. its best to spend that time 178 . Find some Good Wingmen and Avoid the Negative. that goal will be right beside you. read the hundreds of stories of guys who were 30 year old virgins who went on to date some of the most beautiful women in the world. The trick is that when you’re feeling that gust of motivation to ride it out as long as possible. In the time where you’re motivation is lacking. Get Inspired. It is much better to just pick one goal that you are committed to achieving right away. If you’re lonely. hang around guys who have already improved that area. When you read over your goal make sure you’re visualizing yourself as having achieved it.The Best of TSBMAG. These are not the kind of people you want to associate yourself with. Every day. If you’re piss poor and think it’s impossible to change your situation read blogs and books from people who were in similar financial states and gone on to make millions.COM focused on improving too many areas at once. Stare at it and visualize it for however long it takes to snap you back into the right frame of mind. You really need to avoid the people in your life who bring about a negative influence. If you’re looking to get into better shape find a good workout buddy. 6. When you find yourself losing focus or motivation… pull out the index card and reread your goal. It’s quite possible that you’ll find the mere habit of working out daily will motivate you to meet more people and get your finances in order. 4. You’re not always going to be 100% motivated. Carry your Goal Around With You. Write your goal on an index card and put it in your pocket. The point is you need to continually inspire yourself and at the same time remind yourself that it is completely possible. And ask for advice… Or hang out with guys in the process of changing themselves as well. Find someone who will push you through the rough times. I find its best to let a few select people in on your planned outcome… and ask for their help in achieving it. 7.

and talking to your wingmen.Social Superstar reading up on your goals. 179 . This will prevent you from falling back into the slump. revising your plan.

He does this in front of 50. and millions of people watching on television. He can move on because he knows that in the past he’s overcome slumps. or maybe the pitcher was just having a damn good day. He is as good as he is because he is able to acknowledge the emotion of disappointment or frustration. In order to be as good a baseball player as Alex Rodriguez. Once he realizes what action causes the frustration he can move on. I think we would all agree he must have rock solid inner game. teammates. So there is no reason he can’t overcome them in the future.The Best of TSBMAG. Alex Rodriguez does not get a hit every time he goes up to the plate.COM Can You Control Your Emotions Like Arod? Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 06/30/2008 Inner game is not about succeeding every time. Once he 180 . Alex Rodriguez is as good as he is because he is able to learn to master his emotions. Maybe he is swinging for fences instead of just trying to make contact. He does this knowing that journalists around the country are going to talk about it. In fact. and fans are going to discuss it. maybe he took his eye off the ball for a split second too long. and the manager. the game is on the line… and he strikes out.000 people live. there are times the bases are loaded. He then looks for the lesson that was offered from the situation. and owners are going to share their opinion on it. Can you imagine any more possible pressure? My point is you’re not good or bad based on one experience. If every time he went up to the plate he reminded himself how much pressure was on him… how would he ever possibly hit the ball? If every time he struck out or grounded into a double play he dwelled in the emotion of frustration or disappointment… how would he ever gather the courage to walk back up to the plate. Or even a collection of experiences.

and pessimistic critics.Social Superstar knows that he is certain of his ability to overcome it again. This mean you can play the game and have as much fun with it as possible. or scoring home runs. Chances are you don’t face anywhere near the kind of pressure Arod does. You don’t face the wrath of millions of fans. an angry manager. disappointed teammates. he goes and works with the hitting coach to fix the flaw in his artillery. The only wraths you face are your emotions. 181 . If you learn to control them… you’re on your way to inner game. No one is paying attention to whether you’re striking out every night.

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Going Down in Flames
Written by Alex Strandberg Original Published: 07/03/2008

We all care way too much what a complete stranger that knows nothing about us thinks. Fear of rejection is the underlying emotion in most approaches. The thought of a beautiful woman sitting there and calling you a loser in front of the entire club makes most guys stomachs turn in knots. Sort or ironically, being rejected will bring the most success with women into your life. Let me explain Internally most guys think that they are complete lonely losers that no one could love. They greatly fear that women will find this out and have no desire for them. They learn all these cool lines and tricks but that fear of being thought of as a loser by women and confirming their already held beliefs is still strong. It carries so much weight that it cripples them from being comfortable in interactions or EVEN APPROACHING WOMEN. They try their hardest to avoid getting “rejected” in order to avoid facing their own belief system. They try their very best to do everything “right "and LOOK COOL but by the very act of trying they are doing everything wrong. From this they place way too much importance on getting a good re-action from the girl and becoming very outcome dependent and needy. If the interaction goes well they get a false sense of self esteem from the girl and feel good. If it goes badly then that fear of actually being a loser is triggered and they feel terrible. When you are outcome dependent you become very attached to what the girl thinks of you. This just breeds of insecurity and neediness which if you hadn’t guessed is a HUGE TURN OFF for women. Women are attracted to men who could take or leave any woman. Not caring whether the woman comes, stays, lays or prays seems very counter intuitive but it's what will get you the “best” results and lead to a happier and more peaceful life.


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In addition to this fear of being rejected is a fear of the unknown. If you are just starting out in approaching or have done a couple of approaches the fear of the unknown is still lingering in the background. This fear makes your mind race at a hundred miles per hour with a million Questions: “what if she pours a drink on me?” “What if she rejects me and all the people in the club laugh at me and I am humiliated?” “What if this happens?” “What if that happens?” And so on. The only way around fear of the unknown is to go straight through it and become comfortable with ambiguity of approaching and life. When you get rejected badly and the initial sting wears down you will find it hilarious how some girls will treat a complete stranger who was just saying Hi to them and being friendly. Part of the reason why they felt the need to reject you badly is how annoyed they are at being hit on all day by guys who haven’t a clue. Another part of it is the pleasure they get from rejecting guys. They love the feeling of having the power to control another person's state of emotions through their own actions. One of the biggest fears that guys carry around with them is a fear of going back to who they were before they learned of the seduction community or any self help stuff. They remember how they felt before knowing any better, the loneliness, the feeling or being powerless and useless in driving the direction of their own lives. Guy’s develop a debilitating fear of being rejected because they fear that they will go back to who they were in the past. As a result, they avoid rejection at all costs. My suggestion: Go out with the intention of getting rejected HARD. Like any fear, the only way around it is to go through it. Getting rejected, laughed at, drink thrown in face is NOT A BIG DEAL. It’s not a big deal but you need to go through harsh and “embarrassing” rejection in order to realize that it doesn’t matter what some anorexic club ho who has NO IDEA WHO YOU ARE thinks of you. Hypnotica walked around for two months unshowered, unshaven, in a dress with a dildo strapped to his head in order to get over caring about what other people think. This is a great thing to do but it’s not very practical to people with jobs and obligations. Alternatively, you can go out as many times as needed with the intention of getting rejected.

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Here are a couple of things you can do to go down in flames: -Go up to a girl or a group of girls and ask them “hey, do you like salads? I like croutons that come with salads” It’s a very stupid and ridiculous question to ask to girls in a club but it will help you get over trying to look cool and caring what they think of you. -Go up to a girl and in a suave and cheesy way say “Daddy’s home” but try not to crack up laughing before you deliver the line. After you say these two things or make up your own, DON’T try and recover and get the girl-just make the approach as bad as you can possibly make it. You might feel uneasy and dumb saying these things but those feelings will eventually go away. Each time you get rejected badly you will get closer and closer to not giving a shit what other people think about you and you will stop caring about the outcome of the situation. Releasing attachment and concern for other’s opinion of you will GREATLY improve your success with women and all other areas of your life. After a while you will actually begin to enjoy being rejected because of how funny it will become to you. Your skin will be so thick that nothing she does will be any concern of yours. It will no longer send you down a spiral of depression and completely ruin your night. I’m sort of sadistic in nature; I’m not sure what I enjoy more, being rejected badly or getting the girl. I’m leaning towards to former because getting the girl is enjoyable but getting rejected harshly in a hilarious way is damn entertaining. -Alex


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Bust Through Your Comfort Zone
Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 08/08/2008

I´m sitting here at an outdoor internet cafe in Medellin, Colombia staring at the beautiful city surrounded by mountains, and all I can think is ¨just three years ago I used to shit myself at the thought of vacationing to Colombia.¨ I would literally freeze up imagining myself alone in Colombia. I had visions of corrupt police, rampant drug wars, kidnappings, violence, and theft. Although I had visited Brazil and Argentina on several occasions, Colombia was on a short list of places that I was too scared to venture. Well, all it took was the persuasion of one hot Colombian girl, and here I am. It's my third day here and I feel this incredible weight lifted off of my shoulders. I have always prided myself in my sense of adventure... and I cringed at the thought that there were places I was avoiding out of fear. Well, I broke through my fear... only to find that they were completely unwarranted. Yes, completely unwarranted. Like most of our fears. I´ve been giving a lot of thought about what contributes to that stealth inner game that some guys seem to have. I´ve actually been building a list of traits and actions we can make our own to slowly reach that unstoppable confidence we all want. And on that list is: THE DRIVE AND ABILITY TO BREAK THROUGH OUR COMFORT ZONES We all have comfort zones. We are comfortable with a certain group of friends. We are comfortable at certain bars and clubs. We are comfortable dating a certain scale of girls. We are comfortable performing a certain type of job. We are comfortable making a certain income... But what I´ve come to realize is that the truly confident and successful people rarely stay in their comfort zone long. Confident, successful people are always looking to push and challenge themselves. They are

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always on the lookout for new opportunities that will inspire them to be an even better person. The main reason that most of us stay in our comfort zone is fear. Sure, we will claim to really like hooking up with chubby girls. Or really love that townie bar around the corner from our house.... but what we are really saying is ¨We are not willing to take the risk to find out if something better exists.¨ But the fact remains: Something better does exist. But we won´t ever attain it if we aren´t willing to sacrifice comfort for a little while. Here is my advice: Take Action Make a list of people, places, and actions that are a part of your comfort zone. Do you go to the same hair stylist because you love their haircut, or are you afraid to try someone else? Do you find yourself heading to the same bar? Buying the same polo t-shirts? Hitting on the same scale of girls? Going for the same type of job? Make a list of everything that falls within your comfort zone. Once you´ve created a list of things that make up your comfort zone; make another list. This is your Action List. On this list write down one step you can take towards breaking out of your comfort zone. Write the name of a bar you´ve always wanted to check out. Write the image change you´ve been dying to make. Write down the job you´ve always wanted to apply for. Now look at that list. And do everything on it. You want unstoppable inner game? Then do it. Do it.


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10 Ways to Immediately Make Yourself More Attractive
Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 04/06/2008

You want to see immediate results? You want to start getting more phone numbers, more looks, more compliments? Then implement these simple ten steps now and you’ll have more dates than you can handle. Tip #1- Improve your Posture Most people don’t realize the importance of posture. But it says more about you than anything that comes out of your mouth. Bad posture can make you look bored, depressed, or just plain homely. Improving your posture starts with becoming aware of it. Just being aware of excessive slouching will force you to take action right then. Toning your muscles through exercise will also help enhance posture. Place your head squarely on top of your neck, make sure your shoulders are upright and your back is arched forward. This will make you appear taller and more confident. Be sure to leave your arms relaxed and loose. A great way to improve posture is to remain active throughout the day. This will prevent your body from being molded the wrong way. Tip #2- Smile A smile can literally light up a room. A man or woman who walks around flashing a smile will always be perceived to be more attractive. With a healthy smile, we are able to transmit the emotions within our hearts. It is very true that our smile reflects our mood, personality and even our inner health. Smiling makes you seem warmer, more inviting, confident, happy… but the best part is that a great smile can make someone else feel all of these same emotions and attach them to you. The best way to improve your smile is by practicing in front of a mirror. Make sure that what you're intending as a smile isn’t coming off as a smirk. Also pay attention to your teeth. Nice teeth are a cornerstone of a good smile. If you’re teeth are yellow consider getting them whitened. It is also important to stay on top of dentist visits. Tip #3- Tanning

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Don’t misunderstand this tip as a call for you to turn yourself into an orange oompa loompa. Orange skin is not attractive. But some healthy looking color can benefit anyone, especially in the winter time when our complexions tend to get pale. I would generally recommend tanning a few times a month. I usually go just enough to have color, but not so much that people can recognize that I’ve been tanning. Tan skin makes you look thinner, healthier, and tends to make your clothes look better against your skin. It also helps hide imperfections in your complexion. Tip #4- Be Flirtatious Someone who knows how to flirt effectively will always attract more of the opposite sex than someone who solely relies on their looks. Flirting is an art form that if you can master you will be a few steps ahead of the competition. Flirting is essential in creating sexual tension. They key to flirting is achieving a sense of relaxed playfulness. Teasing is a great way to flirt. As is competitive flirting which takes the form of slight sarcasm and dry wit. Cooperative flirting is different. Rather than jabbing her, you pull her into your reality and create an “us against the world” dynamic. Flirting is a mix of pushing away with words and pulling in with actions. In the game of flirting think back to how you acted towards that classmate you had a crush on in the fourth grade… and act the same exact way. Tip #5- Get an Expensive Haircut The haircut needs to be great. It is very easy to go the cheap route when it comes to getting your haircut and head to the local Supercuts. This won’t cut it if your goal is to immediately make yourself more attractive. The key here is going to a salon that has a great reputation. These salons will usually cost you much more than your local barber… but it's worth it. Movie stars look like movie stars because they have the best that money can by making them look that way. Even if it is only a one time deal you deserve to get a “movie star” haircut. Stylists at these salons know how to shape a haircut around your particular face, head size, and personal style. There will be a huge difference. Even if you can’t afford to

And pluck your eye brows. I would usually recommend taking a few individual lessons before you jump into the 189 . The lessons are usually available in group form and individual form. or other skin conditions.Learn how to Dance If you want to attract the attention of the opposite sex during a night on the town you should consider learning how to dance. Eliminating a unibrow alone can change the look of your face. If you are not a naturally good dancer I would recommend taking some dance lessons. You can usually find dance lessons locally. thus increasing their perceived attraction. On the other end if you’re an above average looking person but you hang out with the local riff raft people will look for your negative qualities to explain why you’re slumming. ear hair. A good dancer is immediately perceived to be more sexual. Tip #7. acne. the more attractive you will be perceived to be. It is much easier to let others guide us.Stay Well Kept and Well Groomed There are grooming tips that you can implement immediately that will drastically increase your attractiveness. and inappropriate body hair. The first is getting rid of all unwanted hair. Tip #8. at least you can take some pictures of yourself and plaster your MySpace profile with them! Tip #6. We tend to look for reasons that will support our reality. cleaning wax out of your ears. Therefore. People like to make opinions quickly.Hang Around Attractive People Humans look for short cuts when it comes to forming their own opinions.Social Superstar continually get your hair cut at these more expensive salons. And one of the easiest ways to do this is to lump you in with the company you keep. the more attractive the company you keep. This includes nose hair. controlling dandruff. So if we see an average looking girl hanging around a bunch of models we will tend to look for her better qualities to justify her being there. facial hair (especially if you’re a girl). The same can be said for an average looking guy who walks into a bar with a beautiful woman… everyone in the bar will look for his positive qualities to reason it. Others actions that you can take is cutting your nails.

Too much of a good thing can be a turn off. There is a term called “peacocking” which means purposely dressing in a way to draw attention to you. glasses. necklaces. And can spark animal like sexual attraction. My recommendation is to sample a few different brands and ask a member of the opposite sex to judge. It may cost a few dollars but you will be amazed to see what kind of response you get next time you're asked out onto the dance floor.Add Accessories to your Wardrobe If you take notice of most celebrities the one thing you’ll find in common with all of them is that they all make use of accessories. 190 . and scarves. Although taste is subjective. Good use of accessories will make you more noticeable in a crowd. Tip #9. you should seriously consider added some flash to your look. and that you are confident in your ability to pull off wearing these things.Smell Good Smell is one of the brain’s strongest senses. Once you purchase a fragrance make sure you put just the right amount of it on. One thing is for certain. Accessories are items you can add to your outfit to give you some added flash. Tip #10. Ideally you can have several different men or women give you their opinions on which one is the best. the more attractive you will be appear to the opposite sex. watches. bracelets. There is a theory that pheromones play a huge part in sexual attraction and I would not argue with that at all. Accessories include belts. the better you smell.The Best of TSBMAG. earrings. hats. While you may not choose to go that extreme. the purchase of a good cologne or perfume is a great investment. It is the sense that provokes the most intense emotions.COM group classes. Adding these things to an outfit shows that you put thought into the way you look.

they disappear in an instant. which in turn bring up the value of anyone who takes off their shirt to display a six pack. the periods in my life where I’ve had abs… have always been more about the sense of personal accomplishment then about how they looked…. Cardio. Everyone knows that the trick to getting rid of fat is cardio. 20 minutes on the treadmill while reading a magazine and chatting on the phone won’t cut it. jumping rope. It will take a minimum of three to four days a week of intense cardio to burn the amount of calories needed to shed fat around your gut. What makes abs so desirable is that most people aren’t willing to put in the effort it takes to get them. But sometimes it's good to remember how basic it can be to get what we want… with the proper discipline. Nothing beats jogging or running. 2.. They seem almost elusive at times. or biking should be enough to get the process in gear.. This makes people fascinated with them. Proper Nutrition: I think a problem many people have is that once they start working out and burning calories they look at it as a free pass 191 . What people fail to realize is that the cardio needs to be intense. the Stairmaster. Swimming. and effective method of burning calories. Three to four sessions a week of intense jogging. Cardio. and Cardio: You can do a million crunches a day… but if you’ve got a solid layer of fat covering your abs you’ll never see them. Here are three tips that I’ve found helpful during the times in my life that I’ve reached my desired outcome. 1.Social Superstar 3 Tips for Abs of Steel Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 06/19/2008 Abs are like a prized possession. These are no secrets… Because there is no short cut. For me though. running. although they looked SWEET! Unfortunately I let myself go over the last year… and we all know that while abs take awhile to build. and taking aerobics classes are beneficial as well. efficient. hiking. It is the most intense. the elliptical.

Remember. pecs. Not eating on time or at all is almost as bad as eating too much. and perform regular crunches. The Five Best Abs Exercises Weighted Crunches . Just a slight. Drink at least a gallon of clean water each day as well.Grab the triceps rope. Don’t swing with the hips. and fats minimal (10%). It’s basically a crunch. Working out Your Abs: The biggest mistake that most people make when trying to build abdominal muscle is that they do sets of crunches or sit ups without any resistance. You should keep protein intake high (approximately 50% of daily calories). you need to add resistance (weight) to your abs exercises. carbs moderate (40%). You need resistance to properly strengthen and build them. The same goes for abdominals. either hold it in front of your face. Cable Rope Crunches . But it is important to get something in you. you’ll never get to the point where you’re body starts converting fat into energy. you are on your knees. hold for a couple seconds. under your chin. kneel on your knees. then back up. Would you work your biceps out with no resistance? Or your chest? Here’s an important key. you are not using the abs very much if you do. forcefully contracting your abs on the way down. but no more. I seriously know girls who finish their workouts and head to Hagen Daz for a Sundae. only. Stick with a heavy enough weight where you can handle 10-15 reps. Abs are muscles just like biceps. you need to create enough resistance where your abs are forced to work. If you’re filling yourself up with shitty foods.COM to pig out. and glutes. or let it lie on your upper chest. 192 . If you want proper abs development. and bend downwards. But the contraction is the same.The Best of TSBMAG. triceps. 30 degree contraction until you feel the abs contract. It will help in nutrient absorption and digestion and will help flush toxins from the body.Grab a dumbbell. The whole point of spending all that time burning calories is to start burning the excess fat. You are now using your abs more to work against the leverage the dumbbell has created.

and perform leg raises. These can be done on the end of a bench as well. Stability Ball Crunches . 193 . then back up. A couple months of intense workouts are a small price to pay for abs of steel. This is very similar to Cable rope crunches. If at the same time you’re eating healthy and burning calories you should be seeing results in a couple has a really great free personal trainer course that will set you in the right direction. Wrap your feet around a small dumbbell.Working on the stability ball will incorporate balance into your abdominal work.Lie flat on your back. do not swing all the way down. Start with your feet about 6 inches from the ground.Once again.Social Superstar Weighted Leg Raises . As you can see doing these exercises while adding some resistance will build muscle much quicker and in larger gains. just far enough (30 degrees) to fully contract the abs. They are effective at strengthening your core region. If you’re unsure of proper nutrition or just need a good plan to follow Bodybuilding. with your hands tucked under your butt. which is your abs and lower back. then raise them about 12-16 inches from the ground and then back down slowly. hold for a couple seconds. Seated Abs Machine .

You don’t think I actually enjoy the endless rounds of SoCo and lime shots I guzzle down. do you? I mean all of my most memorable nights have involved me waking up. No. looking at the girl next to me and thinking. wobbly.The Best of TSBMAG. and slurring your words… but you don’t have as much fun. or bottom shelf tequila drowned in sour mix… but you look cheap drinking 194 . The rules bend a little depending on the location… but certain ones are set in stone. If I drank alone I’d probably be sipping Bay Breezes or some kind of Dairies. and to make you look cool in the process. “what the hell happened last night?” So the real question isn’t should you or shouldn’t you drink when you hit the bars… the real question is what kind of drink will best serve your purpose. maybe a Pina Coloda… but there are certain rules you need to follow in social environments. These drinks not only taste like shit as they’re usually stale beer. Yea… you’re game tends to be a little tighter when you’re not red faced. These plastic cup drinks are usually reserved for the drink special of the night. Shit I hate the taste of booze.COM A Manly Guide to Choosing Your Drink Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 06/30/2008 There is a dirty rumor in the pick-up community claiming it is better to stay sober when gaming women in bars and clubs. We can argue semantics… but I’ll just say you’ll never see Bobby Rio clinging to a club soda. these are all part of the show. Never order anything they are going to serve you in a plastic cup. You tend to find this atrocity at bars that are near college campuses. or the unnecessary twelve packs I always grab for the after party. Your drink always serves two purposes: to get you hammered. You know… the $1 Miller Light draft or the $3 Margarita.

anything with a novelty name like Alabama Slammer. rye and coke. Sex on the Beach. The name of the drink is more important than what is inside it. Never. Manhattan. In fact it says that your life sucks so bad that trolling around this shitty bar is actually an “event” for you. Drinking one of the “vacation” drinks sends out the vibe that you don’t get out often. A safe bet is to order something your grandfather would have drank.” Generally. There will be times when you freeze like a deer in headlights when the bartender asks “what you drinking. and they drank scotch on the rocks. Rocks glasses are cool. or inevitably some girl will ask you what you’re drinking. men were men. The only exception to this rule is ordering a Margarita at a Mexican joint. Anything ordered on the rocks looks cool. You think this one would be self explanatory but I never fail to see some schlep slurping on Mudslide wondering why he hasn’t been laid in a year. Buttery Nipple.” Your first reaction may be to spit out “Michelob Ultra” but you need to regroup and imagine what your grandfather would have ordered. Never order anything frozen or served in a novelty glass with a funny straw… unless you’re sitting on a beach in the Caribbean. Never. What does it say to everyone that you will sacrifice the enjoyment of your drink to save a buck? Hell. Because someone is going to hear you order it. Back in his day. I would pay extra to have them pour it in a pint glass. even if I planned on drinking Miller anyway. and you don’t want to have to respond “Fuzzy Navel. or Kamikaze is off limits. rusty nail… they didn’t ruin the integrity of their vodka by splashing cranberry juice in it. It doesn’t much matter what’s in the glass so long as it’s clear or brown. And I don’t care how good you think it taste… you are never ever to order a Cosmo.Social Superstar them. Malibu Bay Breeze. 195 . Let’s face it. Remember clear or brown… I don’t care how much you liked the Big Lebowski it’s never acceptable to order a White Russian.

The Best of TSBMAG. But you must look cool in the process. 196 .COM So remember it is quite alright to get a little sauced when you hit the bars… in fact I even encourage it.

Social Superstar 7 Steps to aturally Boost Testosterone Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 07/09/2008 There seems to be a huge fascination with guys taking steroids lately. Testosterone is the most important muscle building hormone in your body. This is not to say that your body couldn’t benefit from extra testosterone. Obviously the major reason being that the increase in testosterone most anabolic steroids produce causes extraordinary gains in muscle mass. Instead of cheating and doing it the artificial way that will drain your wallet and health. and even a slight increase in its level will provide many amazing benefits. Taking steroids is a coward’s way out that leads nowhere fast. While they would tell themselves it was going to be only one time… soon they became reliant on them and were doing cycle after cycle. To put it bluntly. I’ve seen many of my friends succumb to the lure of steroids. Here’s the biology behind testosterone: 197 . Benefits of increased testosterone’ * Increase in strength and muscle size * Body fat decrease * Increased sex drive and endurance * More energized and motivated * Decrease in bad cholesterol * Makes you more attractive to women Increasing testosterone can be a huge benefit to you. In addition to the gains in muscle mass many guys become addicted to the adrenaline rush of having excess testosterone flowing through their veins. I’m going to give you tips to naturally increase your testosterone. Not only are steroids an expensive habit. the side effects can be brutal in the short term… and deadly in the long term.

1. These 7 steps will provide that natural boost in testosterone that will leave you feeling more healthy. Reduce Estrogen levels. and military presses. Eliminate Binge Drinking. Fill your work out with compound exercises. sexual. bench presses. olives. You can also reduce estrogen by limiting the amount of soy protein you take in. dead lifts. You can reduce estrogen by eating more cruciferous vegetables like broccoli. 5. 4. radishes. LH and DHEA then travel together to the testes where testosterone production begins. 6. and turnips. fish. Limit Cortisol production. the brain releases a substance called Luteinizing Hormone. These exercises include squats. avocadoes. Cortisol is a catabolic hormone that will cause testosterone to plummet. 3. the adrenal glands release DHEA into the bloodstream. Reducing the levels of estrogen (the main female hormone) will greatly increase your testosterone. Increase consumption of Essential Fatty Acids. Push yourself 110% at the gym.The Best of TSBMAG. and this also raises testosterone. 7. Testosterone can now be released into the bloodstream to perform its magic. Exercises that put your muscles under the most amount of stress will force your body to produce more testosterone. 198 . 2. and canola are a proven natural way to boost testosterone. Sexual stimulation causes the body to increase the production of oxytocin which increases endorphin production (the “feelgood” chemical). or “LH” for short. vibrant. LH basically “tells” the body to start producing testosterone. The EFAs found in peanuts. Once this occurs. dips. Cortisol is produced during times of high stress or anxiety. Excessive alcohol consumption can drastically reduce testosterone levels. Have more sex. lunges. cauliflower. If you follow these 7 steps you can avoid having to resort to sticking needles in your ass a couple days a week. It is best to keep your drinking to a minimum and try not to exceed more than three drinks in a night. Soy has been known to raise estrogen levels which decrease testosterone levels. It is also produced during times of lack of sleep.COM First. and attractive. flaxseed. cabbage. True gains in muscle and testosterone come when you push yourself to the limit at the gym.

Continuously feed your body small amounts of complex carbohydrates to get the most out of your diet. soda. 1. Everything listed below will increase your energy level for the long term. 199 . or hit Dunkin Donuts for your fourth cup of coffee… these are all temporary fixes that will leave you even more depleted in the long run. and it took me another hour to wind down enough to sleep. The carbs that you should be taking into your body should be complex carbohydrates such as whole grain bread. You’ll simply get fat and become lazier than before. down a Red Bull. but short lived. Make sure you consume complex carbohydrates and not just simple carbohydrates. cake and table sugar. Needless to say. whole grain rice or even apples. but over time you’ll slowly find you no longer need to flood your body with caffeine. Nutrition. After struggling to find the motivation to begin writing … I decided to hit 7-11 for my second Red Bull of the day. Examples of simple carbohydrates would be candy. After guzzling the Red Bull and feeling that instant. Don’t feed your body junk. vegetables. proteins and complex carbohydrates in your everyday diet. Think about how much more you would accomplish in life if you had an endless supply of energy. Without it we are virtually useless. We got home extremely late. You might not get that instant gratification that a Red Bull will give you. Simple carbohydrates create a short burst of energy that will simply wear off and leave you depressed. 5 Ways to Naturally Increase Your Energy As easy as it seems to pop a Stacker 3.Social Superstar How to aturally Increase Energy Levels Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 07/16/2008 Last night I took my girl to the Bon Jovi concert at MSG. I was exhausted this morning. jolt of energy I decided to do some research into how I can naturally increase my energy level. Make sure you get enough fruits. Energy is the fuel we all run on.

you can be taking a jog at the track. * Increases the number of red blood cells in the body. Conditioning takes place through daily exercise. The fact is. joining in a game of basketball or ultimate Frisbee. Modern diets are usually void of many of the key vitamins and minerals our bodies need. If you live an exceptionally active life style you might want to supplement with an additional B complex. 3. but it truly works wonders for energy.COM In addition to proper diet you should be taking a multi vitamin every day. Conditioning Conditioning is your efficiency to move oxygen and blood to needed parts of the body. compounds that unite with a protein component called an apoenzyme to form an active enzyme. 2. Get the right amount of sleep Everyone’s body is different. to better transport oxygen throughout the body. By taking a daily multi vitamin you can be sure you’ll be getting the daily recommended amount of all of them. I actually went through a period of about six months where I had completely given up caffeine and replaced morning coffee with a homemade juice. It gets messy and expensive. I would advice picking up a decent juicer along with a book on good juicing recipes. What most people fail to realize is that even though you’ve 200 . It includes: * Strengthening the muscles involved in respiration in order to better move oxygen in and out of the lungs. Even if you hate the idea of spending time in the gym. The enzyme then acts as a catalyst in the chemical reactions that transfer energy from the basic food elements to the body.The Best of TSBMAG. or just taking a morning power walk around the park. most of us don’t exercise nearly as much as we should be. The B vitamins act as coenzymes. Another great way to get bursts of nutrients that your body needs is by using a juicer. * Working the body’s muscles which support healthy circulation and blood pressure. but on average we need about 7-8 hours of sleep a night.

I tossed and turned. I find that when I stay in bed an extra hour or two in the morning. the girl you 201 . last night after lying in bed at about 1:00 am. I said supplements. the body you want. adjusting the pillow every 3 minutes… before finally falling asleep at about 2:30. got up several times to use the bathroom. I’ve taped the index cards to my computer. Everywhere I look from the minute I wake up. Remember. limit your beverage intake to two hours before bedtime. A good way to stay motivated is to create a picture album or collage of your goals. I would advise you to avoid sleeping more than the recommended 8 hours. Motivation One of the surest ways to get you pumped full of energy is to get yourself in a completely motivated state. You also want to avoid getting too much sleep. There is no hiding from them. found myself too hot. These pictures can include pictures of the car you want. not sleeping pills. If you know you have a tendency to toss and turn for an hour before finally falling asleep.lie down an hour earlier. If you find you have to continually go to the bathroom throughout the night. 4. to my bathroom mirror. In this photo album or collage paste pictures of things you’re striving for. You need to make sure that you are getting 8 hours of restorative sleep. I am forced to stare at my goals. and then too cold. One of the ways that I’ve been doing that lately is by writing all of my goals on index cards. Using myself as an example. and to my television.Social Superstar been lying in your bed for 8 hours does not mean you got 8 hours of solid sleep. Sometimes we need to be motivated by the promise of extreme pleasure or the fear of extreme pain. Being forced to look at your goals forces you to think about what you have to do to achieve them. Knowing what your goals are is not always enough to motivate some of us. I tend to be lifeless the rest of the day. If you still find that you’re having trouble getting a thorough night sleep you might want to take some supplements that support sleep patterns such as ZMA and Melatonin.

These speakers. especially Tony Robbins. I’ve done this with working out. when I hear these songs I get that burst of motivation I usually feel on the treadmill.The Best of TSBMAG. even on days I skip listening to the audio. If you’re trying to lose weight. and force yourself to see it daily. I have been flooding my mind with motivational audio programs like Tony Robbins. For some people the pain of seeing themselves look less than desirable will motivate them to get off their ass.COM want. If you listen to a certain song continually during times you feel completely motivated… you’ll be able to recreate that feeling just by hearing the song. If you follow these 5 tips you should be able to slowly wean yourself off the Red Bull. do a great job of pumping me up. I am naturally more energized in the morning. On the opposite side of that. Music is another great way to create an anchor. and Jack Canfield. Every morning. I will make sure I play these songs while I’m busting my butt on cardio as they always push me to go the extra mile. 202 . Anchoring This is something that I’ve been using lately to great success. Jim Rohn. take a picture of yourself in a swim suit. you can post a picture of yourself with your less than ideal body weight. There are a couple songs I listen to over and over again at the gym. the first thing I do is listen to one hour of one of these speakers on my IPod. 5. I’ve found that since I’ve gotten used to being pumped up in the morning from the audio… that now. the career you want… Anything that will inspire you and get your mind racing. What has been remarkable is that even away from the gym.

shoes. shirts. suits and underwear. Go down stairs or in the attic and pull out everything you own for all seasons and events. When you’re running out of something. I mean all of them. Now organize everything by type. not season.Social Superstar How to Redo Your Wardrobe Written by Michael Stoute Original Published: 07/24/2008 This is a 3 part series I am writing about how to redo your wardrobe. shorts. A common problem is that men put things away because it’s “winter” clothes and then forget about them over time. sport coats. this article is about how to throw away your clothes to get ready to redo your wardrobe. never forget the underwear… 203 . replace it with more so you can stay style fat! After you have everything organized. Yes. pants. or better yet their closet. Organize by Type Get all your clothes together. is that there is little or no synergy with the entire wardrobe. You have to manage your wardrobe just like your food supply. This makes things hard for a number of reasons. jackets. There is a reason that you do this first and you will understand by the next article in the series. One of the biggest problems I see when I look at what guys wear. t-shirts. hats. • • • They always wear (piece of clothing) because it goes with everything A majority of their wardrobe is the med to their personal interests Most of the stuff is old and anything new was a onetime purchase (event) You Need Some Clarity So you want to dress cool and be hip? It all starts with understanding what you’re working with and getting rid of what you don’t wear.

204 . Mix and Match I want you to go through all your remaining clothes and see what actually goes together.The Best of TSBMAG. If you are looking at something and saying “but I have always had this” or “this is my lucky t-shirt”. Most people only wear 15-25 different items on a regular basis yet everyone has a closet full of crap. Let’s start with colors first. Part 2 If you read the previous post in this series “The Throw Away”. either with photos. The only way this will work is if you get rid of everything you don’t wear so that you can see what you actively have to work with. then print them out on a cheap color printer so that you can just cut them out like photos. You have also looked at all the remaining items and studied them. then you have already gone through your entire wardrobe and thrown away what you didn’t need following the process I outlined.COM Throw it Out! Go through each pile and start throwing out everything you don’t wear. What’s’ Left? If you haven’t been clothes shopping too much lately then you are probably left over with a relatively small amount of clothing. These are your staple outfits that you currently wear. pen and paper or in your head Now it’s time to move into the second phase. If you take digital pictures. Homework Study the remaining clothes or pictures of them and get ready for Part 2. dump it or wash it and put it in a box somewhere that you will bury as a time capsule for aliens to find in the future. Now I want you to either write down or take pictures (preferred) of what you currently have and wear on a regular basis. If you don’t wear too many colors (like most men) this will not be hard and may not even be necessary.

Your initial investment… Take some of your hard earned money and get ready to shop. I rarely buy things full price and I always visit the clearance section of every store I go to first. The reason this part requires money is simple.Social Superstar Look at what you currently have and see what your outfit possibilities are. clothes cost money and you will always have to invest money into your wardrobe to keep it updated. 205 . but just think of it as a kick start to your new image. I would say go to Marshalls or some other “Yesterdays Fashion” outlet and look through the clearance racks. it’s time to put on the finishing touch on your new wardrobe. but before you go I want you to remember the 5 outfits that you are working with already and/or take pictures of them with you. Men can typically wear the same or similar jeans over and over without any problem so my guess is that you probably are going to take a bulk of this money and spend it on tops. This way you can wear something different for 10 days and do laundry every 5 days. Try to make 5 different outfits out of what you have. I suggest going to the GAP and buying 2 nice pairs of boot cut jeans to add to your current wardrobe. then this is a clue where the weakest part of your wardrobe lies. The jeans should run you about $50$75… Shirts and Tops To start things off you want to pick up 3-4 new shirts/sweaters or some kind of top. The reason I wanted you to make 5 different outfits is because you want to be able to “recycle” what you wear every week so that you are not wearing the same thing every day and for laundry reasons as well. If you don’t have any decent jeans. If you used any of the clothing items in more than one outfit. You should be able to find 3-4 or more nice things for around $75$100. Think about the weaker points of your wardrobe and what you need most. always leaving you with clean clothes! (+ $250) Now that you have thrown away unused clothes and picked out some outfits with the remaining. The ideal set of different outfits is 10 in my opinion. $250 is a fair amount for a man to spend on his wardrobe in one day.

The Best of TSBMAG. Don’t buy that crazy shirt because you will wear it once every 3 weeks and feel like a pimp. buy the nice button down shirt because is not so flashy and will blend well with your other outfits therefore allowing you to wear it 2-3 times over a 3 weeks period. whatever fits your current lifestyle better. Stay away from the high end brands for now unless you can afford them of course. Shoes are a different story. Comfort is so important with shoes and I urge you to make sure they are comfortable or you will never end up wearing them. I would recommend something in the Converse. Before buying a pair of shoes I would look through your closet for any old shoes you may have forgotten about. Adidas. If you are looking at a cool shirt. You might find a pair or two of decent leather shoes that you can just take to the shoe shop and get shined and fixed up. Take your time and pick out a nice pair of shoes that are not too flashy so that you can wear them with almost anything. Shoes that are made well will last and if they fall apart can usually be fixed. For sneakers.COM Clothes Shopping is like Food Shopping Remember while shopping at the store to keep your current wardrobe inventory in mind. or Puma family. So check out what you already have before spending a lot of money. They tend to stay in style through all of the different fashion cycles. 206 . take a step back and think of how many other things you own and how this shirt can be meshed in with your current clothing arsenal. I like to compare clothes shopping to food shopping because when you go food-shopping you are always thinking of ways to maximize what you currently have in your fridge and cabinets. Shoes and Sneakers With the reaming money I would like you to buy a new pair of sneakers or shoes. Same thing with clothes shopping except you are constantly looking for things that will add to and extend your existing wardrobe. If you have to buy a new pair I would suggest trying on a lot of different kinds with a pair of jeans on to see which ones look and feel the best.

As your wardrobe gets bigger you will be able to throw in more “loud” items. When you are out shopping. In this part of the series. adding new items one at a time. It has to mesh well with what you already have for you to get the most value out if it. “Pea cocking” without looking like an idiot 207 . but in the beginning keep thinks basic using solid colors and common styles. Split up the money so you spend around $25 a week on say a new shirt or pair of pants. keep mental notes of what you already have in your closet. Systems and Schedules The easiest way to keep a nice wardrobe going is to build it in baby steps. but I would still suggest only buying 1-2 items at a time. then they typically go home and realize that these new items don’t fit in to well with their current wardrobe and get frustrated. There is a time and a place to add a “peacock” aspect to it and I will explain how in the final part of the series. With this $100 I would be looking to buy 3 to 4 new items a month. I will talk about how to constantly increase your wardrobe at a moderate pace so you don’t go broke and how to “peacock” (stand out) with items no matter what your age or profession. Constantly be buying things that will fit in with what you already have. In the previous two articles we systematically removed clothes you no longer wear and then preceded with a plan to kick start your new wardrobe with a small amount of money. Just because an item of clothing is nice and looks good in the store isn’t enough to buy it. You can up the monthly allowance if you like. Let’s say you are willing to spend $100 a month to finance your wardrobe (which is not a lot). This means you have to go shopping 3-4 times a month.Social Superstar And always remember to keep in mind what you already have including what you buy during this process. Most men will go shopping for clothes every once in a while and just buy a few things that look good. If you follow this method when buying clothes you will have more outfits than you can think of as time goes on. Part 3 This is the 3rd and final installment of the How to Redo Your Wardrobe series. You have to keep that food shopping mentality I talked about in the previous article of the series.

The problem with this concept is that everyone is different and therefore has to “peacock” in a different way. you have to go with the trend at times to “peacock” and demonstrate that you know what’s up… When you buy trendy items. I feel most of the problem centers around age difference and profession and I will illustrate how you can “peacock” no matter who or where you are in life. he he What I am basically saying is that as a young person with no job. make sure that they can fit in with what you currently have and aren’t so crazy that when they fade out. This is the time where you are going to be experimenting with a lot of things in life so why not your wardrobe too. BUM Equipment was huge when I was in HS and that sh*t is UGLY! Then there were those heat activated fabrics that changed colors when you touched it.COM Pea cocking is a term that has become associated with men adding certain items to their wardrobe to stand out. great for Kino now that I think of it. I will break this down in 2 separate categories. the playing field is open to almost anything in the style department. You may be wearing a lot of different styles. Age 17-21 This is the age range where you are probably all over the place with finding yourself and an image.The Best of TSBMAG. 208 . Wherever you are in this phase it doesn’t matter. Having these “staple” items will allow you to evolve with the trends while maintaining a nice foundation for your entire wardrobe. Styles with young adults change so quickly that I suggest keeping things simple and looking for some trendy items. but still ugly as sh*t. if you don’t already. Just remember that “staple” items are needed no matter what.. you can’t even wear it anymore. Have plenty of solid shirts and pants that you can use when wearing your “trendy” item(s). stuck in one style because if the people you hang with or just lost altogether and are still wearing the clothes your parents bought you for birthdays.. On the other hand. If you are constantly buying this trendy crap then soon you will have a wardrobe like a clown. As for the young professionals out there. You don’t want to be the person wearing all the different trends because you will look like you are trying too hard. Great examples of this were certain brands and t-shits when I was young.

Do the same with your cufflinks. He he… When picking out ties for patterns and colors I tend to stay with solids and thick stripes. Some guys don’t realize that a sport coat is entirely 209 . there are 3 or more distinct ways to tie the knot. Stay away from pattern shirts with ties unless you are absolutely sure it looks good. So if you plan to buy some nice cufflinks. I am also going to assume that you have some cash in your pocket to go out and accessorize with. clean classy and professional. but it looks so sweet when done right. plan on buying a few new shirts to go with them. Most men don’t realize how versatile the tie can really be…For instance. I want to take a quick moment to mention that when having to wear a tie every day. you may want to reevaluate your alpha male goals.Social Superstar Age 21-30 Professional You are the type of guy that has a nice job where you have to dress in a suit. not the cufflink itself.Now I know what you may be saying. If you are a tie freak and own a bunch of wacky designs and stuff then you may want to pick up a few nice silk solids to balance you out. It gives you that full knot that you see in the men’s fashion ads. cufflinks are for when I wear a tux? Wrong! Yes they are formal. Sport Jackets This is one of my favorite items of clothing and can be done really right or really wrong. I actually think this is the easiest one to “peacock” out of all the following sections due to the fact you will probably be wearing more clothes in general. your shirts for the most part should be solid colors.The tie is one of my favorite items to peacock in the professional look. The problem with cufflinks is that you need to have special shirts to wear them with. Ties . jacket and tie or at a minimum. If you haven’t noticed yet. I tend to stay away from the crazier designs of things and keep to basics. I always go with a Double Windsor and so should you! It is by far the hardest knot to tie. which will come with time young Skywalker… Cufflinks . If you are working a job where you have a dress code like this and make crappy money. shirt and tie. I have yet to see a better knot that has more girth. The act of wearing the cufflinks is pea cocking. but they have been worn for years in regular suits.

I own slip on shoes and I do like them. When dressing professional. Loud shoes often scream cheesy and/or make you look like a fool. Funny thing is that you see guys wearing jackets from their bar mitzvah’s and communion’s with a hoodie and it looks stupid. The simple fact that you don’t have to tie a slip on combined with the laziness factor of men has caused this style to be played out. I would suggest wearing simple styles with nice textures. Forget the designs on the back with that “Ed Hardy” type look. but this situation is pretty rare due to the material and look of suits. but over all I feel they are a little less dressy than the laced styles besides the fact they are getting played out.The Best of TSBMAG. This is almost the same principle that I talked about earlier with the sport coat fabrics. it will either look cheap or you will only be able to wear it once in a while. It is true that some suit jackets can double as a sport coat. I prefer laces to slip on types because I feel they just look better. Don’t forget to wear nice socks and a matching belt! No god dam white socks!!!! Age 21-30 Business Casual and Outside of Work Now let’s say that you work in a nice place but its business casual and/or you are outside of work. When picking out sport coat styles I would again keep it simple. women will notice the smallest pattern and look…after all they addicted to shoes themselves. There are a ton of different fabrics for sport coats and the more you shop the more you will discover. Lately it is big to wear a sport coat with a hoodie under it and I think it looks pretty sharp. Sport coats are items that are meant to stand alone and are made with fabrics that are easier to match up with common pants. Instead look for cool fabrics to peacock.COM different than the jacket that comes with a suit. As far as the style of the shoe. Just go to any store and walk around touching the fabrics in the suits section and then go over to the sport coats and see the difference for yourself. Don’t worry. Being that you won’t likely be wearing a tie or 210 . Real men “peacock” shoes with class and sedulity. Shoes Shoes are unique part of any man’s wardrobe and they can say a little or a lot about you.

Fabrics. “Wow. say 1 ½ inches give or take with your height. My personal favorite. this allows you another opportunity to add a little “peacock” to it. Take some chances with it. Pants and Slacks Fabrics. If you are wearing a nice pair of pants that feel great from the material. I am going to focus on pea cocking other items I may have told you to tone down in the above section.Social Superstar sport coat. Being able to pick out unique styles is a skill you hone over time and mixing your wardrobe up like this will keep you from being pinpointed as a “BRAND” whore. When being casual the rules change and the power shifts to other items of your wardrobe. women will notice and they will probably touch you just because of it. When buying these types of shirts I almost always go with a designer and/or stick to a few. If you are a magician then you can wear pants with flames and naked girls. This big cuff reminds me a 211 . So let’s talk button downs… There are many different styles and brands of button down shirts but in general I feel most of them look the same and will get you thrown into the mix with the other cookie cutter button down styles. if not grow up! Touch the clothes as you look through them. I have plenty of unique “no name” button downs that are probably my strongest items and they were purchased at stores like Marshalls and Kohl’s. Ben Sherman…. those pants look comfortable!” I would also recommend staying away from pleated designs. If you are going to go with a cuff in the pants. Stick with a nice smooth looking nice feeling choice. you will be surprised. feel the difference.Their designs are unique and dressy at the same time. they are too old man-ish and hard to keep pressed. Shirts In the previous section I mentioned to keep you shirts as solids and use the tie and other accessories to accomplish your James Bond “peacock” style. I mention Ben Sherman because I like their stuff. Since most of these pants will need to be tailored. make it a nice phat one. Fabrics… I can’t say it enough.

I am sure that I may have missed some things or not fully answered your questions so please leave any in the comments below.COM little of that gangster look from the days of Tommy Gun.The Best of TSBMAG. I think its bad ass… In closing: I hope you have really enjoyed this series and especially this last installment which I worked pretty hard on. Game On! 212 .

Social Superstar Winning the Day 1 College Roommate War Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 08/28/2008 It’s all fair in war… and that is exactly what move in day at the dorms is. Mom and dad will wake you up at noon or so… hung over you’ll start loading the cars up with your microwave. all walking around like clueless tourists… And then you’ll walk into your closet sized dorm room… And your nerdy ass roommate will have already jam packed his stuff into the limited closet space… and even worse… he’ll have claimed the better bed. Sure. computers… You’ll get to campus around two. it may sound cruel… sure. when it comes to move in day… You need to beat your roommate to the punch. there are drawbacks to both: Downsides to the bottom bunk: 213 . you’ll probably want to spend your last day in your hometown boozing it up with your high school buddies into the wee hours of the night…. Yes. TV. Son. If you walk in and find that there are bunk beds… you have instant decision to make. there should probably be a more fair way of choosing… but the reality is… the early bird gets the worm. No matter how big of a dick you feel for claiming the best bed. most closet space. posters. Most people will generally jump at the lower bunk… (I was one of the late hung-over fools who got the top bunk) But in reality. fight the traffic and commotion of another thousand underclassmen pushing shopping carts full of their shit. covering the walls with your Pink Floyd and Bob Marley posters… just know… he would do the same thing to you in an instant.

Basically. If you’re a raging drunk. and computers… As tempting as it sounds to let him haul all his stuff to the dorms. When your roommate climbs down from the top he’ll probably wind up stepping on your head out of spite. Chances are you’re roommate will have wanted it… This gives you a great bargaining tool later. you’re liable to roll off the bed in shitfaced confusion. entertainment. As for appliances. you want to watch the Yankee game. For instance. and want something. and mooch off his big screen TV and 27 inch computer monitor… Always fill the room with as much of your shit as possible. he wants to watch the Mets… it’s 214 . Downsides to the top bunk: • • • • You need to be able to climb in the dark. As much as you will both try to pretend everything is equal… the guy who owns it unconsciously has final say over how it’s used. If the guy above you is a raging drunk… there is a good chance after a night of hard partying you're likely to get an unwanted golden shower. you’ve got to climb your ass down and get it. Even with the downsides of the bottom bunk… always choose it. People will always be sitting on your bed when they come in your room. Every time you wake up to piss in the middle of the night you’ve got to climb down half asleep.COM • • • • • You clunk you head on the supports under the top bunk if you sit up too quickly. If someone is drunk and lost… and your room is open. anytime you’re in bed.The Best of TSBMAG. they’ll crawl into the bottom bunk because the top is too high.

215 . taking first crack at the hotties on your floor. The last thing you want is some dweeb hanging pictures his parents brought him back from their last trip to Key West. and amaze your parents at how energetic and excited you are to get to campus. you’ll have all your shit packed and ready to go the night before. guzzle the Red Bull. This simple line will give him a false sense of security. hop in the shower. chances are you’ll speak on the phone a week or two before move in day to discuss what both of you are bringing.Social Superstar your TV… he’ll be checking scores on the internet. He will feel like he’s got all the time in the world to mosey down to campus. Getting there early provides several benefits… you’ll get better parking and fight less of a crowd getting to your dorm. you have all the time in the world to socialize later. The minute the alarm clock goes off. and more importantly. and to do a formal introduction to each other. In the meantime. you’ll get the better bed. you’re free to decorate the room as you please. How to be sure you beat him to the room First. It is crucial during this conversation that you bluff. Set you alarm clock for 7am and have 2 cans of Red Bull waiting by the bed. You tell him that you’ll be getting back late from a trip that afternoon and probably won’t make it to campus until later in the evening. These are not things you want to negotiate. So the sooner you finish the move in bullshit… the sooner you can begin to conquer your campus. Remember the first week of college is crucial for establishing yourself as the party guy…. while you’re watching Jeter and company on your big screen. If he doesn’t have any. If you’ve got a lot of posters… bring them all.

and we are shouting derogatory things at him while harassing him physically. I could write an entire post on the bachelor party alone. even by Bobby Rio standards. The bachelor party was the one of the craziest experiences I’ve ever seen. We had both been to South America enough times to know not to bring sand to the beach. At one point they put duct tape over John’s hairy nipples. A bunch of John’s Spanish friends. Needless to say we were both ecstatic when we get a call from John’s cousin the first night down there informing us that his bachelor party was tonight.The Best of TSBMAG. and whatever bottle of hard liquor that is currently being passed around. but the both of us were in the thick of relationships and our girls jumped at the chance to have a romantic getaway in Buenos Aires. I was still within the first 3 months with Kate. my girl. Force him into woman’s clothing and throw him in the back of a van. kidnap John from his apartment. I mean. this is an all time low. had been with his girl close to two years and was miserable that he wouldn’t be able to tag some new Spanish ass. and I. John. Jake. he fell in love with an Argentinean girl. on the other hand. wine. But what’s done is done…. The entire drive in the van we are guzzling beers. and the rest is history. Argentina. His Spanish friends were downright cruel. John is blindfolded and mouth duck taped. so I didn’t necessarily mind having her tag along on this trip. and then rip it 216 . Two years ago a college friend of mine. only my friend Jake and I decided to go. had no choice but to go along with it. He invited a bunch of us to the wedding. and although he had planned to move back to the US. although not happy to be spending their first night in Argentina alone. but the party isn’t the point of the story so I’ll sum it up quickly. Out of all our friends. was getting married in Buenos Aires. We had arrived just in time!! The girls. Jake.COM The Buenos Aires Hooker Juice Incident Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 07/28/2007 I want to prelude this story by saying that this one of those stories that makes me question my own moral character. He had lived there the past 4 years.

Our plan is to just meet them for lunch or something.” Meeting them at their apartment was a little more than I bargained for. Jake calls the stripper.” 217 . but “what the hell. on what was supposed to be a romantic getaway with my girlfriend. let them grope us.” he says. and getting dragged to every clothing store in the city so that our girls can take advantage of 3rd world bargains. Unfortunately most of John’s friends were married and were more excited about the kidnapping part of the night. and after some back and forth conversation in Spanish that I couldn’t understand. and go home. They gave me the address.Social Superstar off. wedding preparations. We are sitting on a couch with two of the strippers listening to them tell us how much they love our blonde hair and blue eyes (I think that's code for “I love your money”) Anyway. leaving him to be ravaged by Planet of the Shemales. Jake and I had other plans. Then they open up the back of the van and make John (still in women’s clothing) run behind the van tied to a leash. and am in no rush to go sneaking around with strippers. We let him sweat it out for about a half hour. We take the numbers and leave. involving a lot of sightseeing. (The beauty of 3rd world laws) This part of the story climaxed when we arrive in a park that was filled with Transsexual prostitutes. but give us their numbers and make us promise to call them this week. We take John out of the car and tie him to a fence and pretend to drive away. Finally the 4th day into the trip Jake can’t take it anymore… He say’s we have to go meet the strippers. I am honestly pretty content at this point with Kate. So I agree to hang out with the strippers. The strip bar was a full frontal festival of beautiful busty Latinas…or as I like to call it. The next couple days of the trip are quite civil. then we loaded him into the van and headed to the strip bar. big dinners. But I’m a good friend. They say they can’t leave the bar till 4. “Just for kicks. All the while the stripper’s phone numbers are just burning a hole in our pockets. Jake who speaks some Spanish asks them if they want to hang out tonight. and I can see how much Jake needs this. heaven. he turns to me and says “They want us to meet them at their apartment. then the titty bar. I’ve never seen so many trannies in my life. just flirt a little bit.

Jake pulls out his paper with the phone numbers. except for a really nasty c-section scar. I’m slightly embarrassed by the situation and the fact that a language barrier prevents us from communicating. We will fuck the whores!!! My fake name is called first.The Best of TSBMAG. I’m really not sure how I’m supposed to proceed with the scenario. She is drenched in hooker perfume (presumably to cover up the smell of her previous appointment) 218 . Her body’s alright. The Madame tells us to take a seat. comes out of a room and hand signals me to follow her.. I walk toward the desk where the Madame asks me for $35. Jake and I sit and give each other little looks. I feel a little… I don’t want to say sleazy… you know… just a little creped out… but she’s wearing only a robe and I keep hearing my dick say “follow her boy… faster…damnit!!!” A minute later I’m in a dingy little room filled with a small bed. We muster up the courage and walk in. My stripper. I just shrug. roughly $40. and wait for my change. and reads two names. who asks us our names when we enter. and are trying to gauge the other’s desire to go through with this.COM We make up some excuse about going to meet John for one last guys only luncheon. We have to walk up 8 floors of stairs to get to their apartment. Jake looks at me with a “what the fuck” type of look. disappointed. who is grinning like a kid in a candy store.. a television set. A cab drops us off in front of a large brick building. and don’t seem to mind our departure. After a minute of stern deliberation it is settled. She asks us who we are here to see. We stand outside the building giggling nervously like a couple of giddy teenagers. The girls look at this as an opportunity to go on a shopping binge without us. if by stripper you mean prostitute. We are both in shock. I look at Jake. (Yes $35…And our girlfriends thought they were getting bargains in the malls) I hand her about 100 pesos. My prostitute’s face is a little less pretty than I remember. confused. It is immediately clear upon entering the apartment that we have just entered a classic South American Brothel. There is a Madame sitting at a desk. We make up a couple fake names. disgusted. and a night stand. I am quite winded by the time we reach the top and barely notice the 2 two middle aged white men that just exited the apartment we were about to enter.

“I need a shower badly.. you fucking reek of hooker perfume” “Fuck! That bitch was drenched in the shit.” I attempt to smell myself several times. He gives me a nod. She wants to cuddle… We lay there with about twenty minutes to kill. We both hurry out of there… through the halls. if not stellar. “This ain’t fucking funny man. She is running her hands through my hair and licking my ear. He moves forward and smells me again. I think she is telling me she loves me. shower. Buy some cologne and drench myself in enough of it to override hooker scent. I feel extremely dirty.. I try to gesture that I have a headache. I back away. Call John see if I can go to his place. She takes my hand and puts it on her breast. She just keeps trying to tongue me. I can’t show up at our hotel smelling like a whore. Her perfume is giving me a headache so I have my face buried in the pillow. I am probably the first guy under forty she’s fucked all day. She tries to kiss me on the lips. down the staircase… out the door… and smack into the cold light of day. 2. My performance is adequate. “Dude. 3.. 219 . Jake starts sniffing me. My prostitute is whispering something in Spanish. And he wins.” “You need to burn those clothes.Social Superstar She is smiling and rubbing her titties under the robe. Deny and play dumb. and hope Kate doesn’t notice I’m wearing a different outfit. But oddly.. I get out of the bed and begin putting my clothes on. I may throw up. I want to get the fuck out of there… but I don’t want to sit in the lobby waiting for Jake. borrow clothes. Show up smelling like a whore.. my dick is quite hard. I am no longer turned on.. Now that I’ve cum she looks even less pretty and the c-section scar looks even uglier and nastier. Jake meets me in the lobby a few minutes later. too” Jake is laughing. “ We go through my options: 1. After briefing one another on the gory details of the last hour. She is happy.

. I start to put my clothes back on and realize that it would be defeating the purpose of washing if I put the smelly clothes back on. I am stunned. We’re buzzed in and quickly rush up three flights of stairs. neck… fuck it. Once we get in we notice that not only is Mariella. face. Everyone in the apartment is completely uncomfortable with the situation. Once I get in the bathroom I start washing my hands. She introduces us as “John’s amigos de Estados Unidos”. I can only imagine the conversation that is taking place outside the door. “You guys went to meet those strippers didn’t you?” “I’ll explain later… can you please get me some clothes to wear?” “Yea… but you’re bigger than me. He shouts “Sure” Jake and I take a cab to John’s apartment. but it's too late. We need to take care of this as fast as possible as the girl’s are surely beginning to wonder what's taking us so long. I try to wave to avoid a handshaking and kiss.COM I call John from a pay phone. I reluctantly enter. She almost chokes. I try to explain my situation but the reception is horrible. I ask John if I can use the bathroom. John’s fiancé answers the door. Her father gets a whiff of the smell and starts sniffing suspiciously. He smells his wife (like she might be the one drenched in whore juice) John then walks out of the bathroom and immediately blurts out “What's that smell?” Jake points at me. I am now completely naked scrubbing myself with a sponge that was in his shower. They’re going to be a little tight. I take off my shirt and start washing my chest and stomach. She wants to introduce us to them. I point back at Jake. She motions for us to come in. his fiancé there… but so is Mariella’s mother and father. I lean out the door and call for John. She grabs my hand and leads me toward them.The Best of TSBMAG.. John comes to the door.” “I don’t fucking care… “ 220 . Her mother comes over and kisses me on the cheek. I try to hide my stench behind Jake. My mind is blank for an excuse as to why I smell like whore. I shout “can I come over for a minute” into the phone. We jump out of the cab and ring John’s bell repeatedly. No one wants to ask me why I smell like I’ve taken a bath in cheap perfume.

221 . Then she notices the clothes I am wearing. I hesitantly enter my room. Mariella and her parents are still in total shock and barely acknowledge me when I wave goodbye. They are a quite tight on me. The shirt is not bad. Just my luck… she’s horny. So I just go along with it. She is happy to see me. I am afraid I might blurt something stupid out. I exit the bathroom. Kate is waiting for me. We finally get back to the hotel. She pulls off me for a second. I thank John for the clothes and grab Jake and we bounce. I feel too guilty to speak.Social Superstar I put on Johns clothes. She believes my story. and in an effort to avoid any more embarrassing conversation I quickly announce that we have to meet our girlfriends back at the hotel. Not in the mood… but apparently my tight eighties rocker jeans are turning her on. She is lying in bed… relaxing after a hard day shopping. She starts nibbling my ear. But the jeans make me look like an 80’s rocker. I make up an excuse about spilling spaghetti sauce all over myself at lunch… had to go to John’s to change. She gives me the “fuck me eyes” I try to tell her that I’m tired. “Are you wearing perfume?” she asks.

“No tengo nada” you lie. novels for this trip.The Best of TSBMAG. A street kid puts out his hand for coins as he passes you by. and a clan of scantily clad Brasileras shaking their stuff on stage to the pulse of the music.COM Fortaleza ights Part 1 Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 11/14/2007 You bought three new. You are still riding the adrenaline rush of last night’s Red Bull and Cialis fueled comet trail of adventure. Bits and pieces are forming shapes in your mind as you sip an espresso and watch the girl’s parade down the strip in their short denim skirts. who wakes up early and takes a jog on the beach. You were here two years ago but that trip was during your “Black Label” phase. and then hits up a local museum. He curses you out in Portuguese. and make your way to the bar to grab a Bohemia and take in the view. sipping a glass of Cabernet.” so you don’t worry. No sign of the blonde and her friend that you were supposed to meet. You’ve always envisioned yourself as the kind of guy. Your night began at Amozoa. 222 . maybe plays a game of tennis. Yet. You used phrases like “Nice and relaxing” “Catching up on work” “Plowing through novels” “Good restaurants "and “often lonely” to describe the trip. well-reviewed. you confessed nothing. You hang up the phone and pay the fifteen Reas for the call. which left you with very few clear memories. who on vacation. reads Hemingway at a table outside a café along the water. a vaguely tribal feel. But Brasileras have no concept of “on time. You don’t know at exactly what point you deviated from your “ideal self.” This morning when you called your mother you felt ashamed. or was it Europa? You were already pretty tight when you arrived. You entered to pounding bongo drums. Your highly acclaimed novels are still buried beneath dirty clothes in your suitcase. The kind of guy. and a liver that still has not forgiven you. hiked up for extra effect. has fruit for breakfast. “Where you from?”A Brazilian guy is shouting in your ear. Now that you’ve made your token phone calls you feel like you have just been to Confession at church.

Thinking it might be a pick pocket you swat it away. You grab her ass like you own it. She shakes her finger “no” but her smile lets you know it okay to continue. Maybe a Red Bull will help you “man up. But your “well raised” childhood taught you to never be rude. A petite light skinned Brasilera giggles. It’s not like you don’t have options. All could have been avoided if you had only jerked off when the desire arose earlier in the day. when you near her breast she grabs your hand and places it back on her ass. “You like Coca. They both have penciled in eye brows and slicked back jet black hair. For some reason you always feel compelled to speak your broken Portuguese. As you crack open your second Bohemia you wonder if you have the energy to go through with the night.” you tell him. What you like?” “No necassario. The guy seems genuinely pleased with himself. You run your hand from her ass up the curves of her abdomen. He calls over probably the only two ugly girls in the club. “You like?” he asks you. Marijuana?” “Only chicas” you say. it is certain that they are prostitutes. You were quite enjoying your own blurred thoughts and not quite enticed by the idea of engaging conversation with a guy who obviously wants something from you. even when they’re speaking English. and visions of “the blonde” naked were like piranhas gnawing on your brain. and you wonder if they could be transvestites. You feel a hand graze you butt. You’re not sure if you welcome company at this time.” You check your watch. You turn to the girl and go Cave Man on her. “Estados Unidos. You politely thank their pimp but tell him “I already have a chica.Social Superstar You wonder if you have the word “gringo” tattooed on your forehead. You decide to do a lap and see if your blonde and friend have arrived. The girl/guy things are giving you “fuck me” eyes and while their gender is not clear.” You walk back to the bar and order your first of the night.” you scream back. You twirl her around and do a once over. But jerking off in Brazil seemed like an Oxymoron. You wonder if maybe it wouldn’t be such a bad thing if the blonde doesn’t show up. “I’ll find you a good one. 223 .

She points to your eyes and tells you they’re beautiful. Back to the bar. The boom. Those far away eyes. the barely clothed “garotas de programma” putting their pussy on display. foreshadowing all of the reasons that you’ll most likely never get married. pointing at buildings…works every time. Curious eyes are set upon you from all directions. too many girls… too little time. the crazy. Fucking “gringos” in their Brasilia Soccer jerseys. It comes in all forms. You’re about to head back into that bathroom to dry off when you spot the blonde and her friend on the dance floor surrounded by guys. Presenting your best self. never do Disney vacations. And if they don’t? You look around. It was only yesterday you were busting through language barriers on basis of charm. They always do. Sit tight my friend. the one with the shaved head. Sex is all around you. never have kids. yesterday at lunch. A situation like this might normally unravel your nerves.COM “Eu Gusto” you tell her.boom shaking mulattas. The Red Bull rush has begun. the black girls with huge hoop earrings commanding the dance floor…the punk rockers. the fucked up X heads. the beautiful. You are a fucking Star. But not now. The self. never raise a family. There is something fundamentally perfect about being adored. They’ll come. But first a much need bathroom break. the skinny.The Best of TSBMAG. 224 . you think. Yes. What do you know? Another Bohemia has bit the dust. the fat. tell her “it was a pleasure” and make your way through the crowd. the long swanky model types with heartbreaking cheek bones. The one that can keep a girl laughing when she has no clue what you’re saying. Your swagger has returned. the Asian looking ones with sinister eyes. Throw you off balance a bit. that when the friend arrived unexpectedly.Does it matter? Then you remember staring into her eyes. rolled with the punches… And won her over with impersonations of “stupid Americanos” holding your imaginary map. When you come out of the stall you wish you had given it an extra couple of shakes as you notice a nice wet spot near your crotch. Brasileras aren’t shy about pointing that sort of thing out. You kiss this one on the cheek. you think. the sixteen year old debutants.

You’re not willing to wave the white flag quite yet. guards finally down. ran their fingers through your hair and kept repeating “muito lindo” you saw the potential for something truly spectacular. No way. Jose. No.Social Superstar When you started to sense that the friend might be the type to be persuaded… you upped the ante…divvied up your attention…treated them equally special. And when the two of them. 225 .

ordering the cleaning lady to bring a bottle of Scotch up to your room… Pronto! These sorts of things aren’t acceptable in Hotel Luzieros. They reluctantly do the shots… looking around to see who the mysterious stranger is that sent them. kicking over a flower pot. Apparently strolling in at 4am with a couple of barely legal Brasileras is frowned upon at this establishment. Rapido! Por Favor” You would be damned to let the night go up in flames at this point.there is always tomorrow. You felt a little intimidated. You slovenly escort the two girls outside. But you blew any chance of that happening with your “American sense of entitlement” and incoherent attack on his character. You have the waitress deliver the shots to your girls and their new Norwegian friends. You want to knock that smug look off his Portuguese face. Back at the club you had come out of the bathroom to spot your girls sandwiched in the middle of a group of Norwegians. You make your Great Gatsby entrance. You’re drunk and go for tongue but both girls resist. He points at the door. you think.COM Fortaleza ights Part 2 Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 12/02/2007 The night bellman at your hotel is talking loudly at you in a language you don’t understand. You order 8 shots of the Brazilian equivalent of Yagermeiser. You signal over a cocktail waitress. a girl dangling from each arm. Fortaleza’s most well known and luxurious hotel. One voice in your head says “Cut your losses. You rode in like a rock star.” A louder voice hails down a cab and says “To the cheapest motel. You get two kisses on the lips. Has your Super Americano Power waned? Have your girls been swept away with tales of a booming European economy… You decide to flex your muscles. You take the blonde by the hand and immediately remove her 226 . Nights early. The group is confused.The Best of TSBMAG. You get the gist of it though. Just a few hours ago you were in the mist of the single biggest girl heist of your life. No one sent you the memo. The whole matter could have easily been resolved with a small bribe. he is telling you. The girls could not be happier to see you.

Jackpot! After an hour or two of dry humping the two Brasileras and taking turns kissing them you suggest the bounce.Social Superstar from the group. Manny’s hand is on your knee and he is talking loudly and passionately in Portuguese. But you aren’t certain. You smile and nod. He is asking you questions. You reach your hand in the back and one of the girls begins 227 . Their eyes light up. Rearrange some priorities.from the opulent to the destitute. But you don’t want to think about these things right now. but can never be sure of these things. the blonde is twenty. Maybe even some life decisions to make. Pick up some pieces… From the back seat Emelia lets out a squeal. one hand holding her skirt from riding too far up her ass. the brunette is eighteen. Brazil is a strange place for sure. In the back seat Raquel is disappearing inside Emelia’s dress. a couple machine guns. Manny doesn’t blink an eye as you pass her. Outside the street is still tinkered with people. Manny could probably tell you stories that would break your heart. The girls drag you on the dance floor. Raquel. You take turns grinding with each girl… you look on in disbelief as the girls grind sexually with each other. The coast is clear for takeoff. and a girl who turned out to be sixteen. You signal for her to come over. As your cab gets closer you see that she is topless. The long winding road that is Avenida Beira Mar travels the course of the night. Make you run back to the States. He could just as easily be saying “You parents will pay the ransom. You look back and feel bad leaving the brunette to the pack of Norwegian wolves. …Toward dawn you are sitting in the front seat of a cab next to Manny the driver. You flashback to an incident in Brazil two years prior involving a spotlight. Smile and nod. You trust that Manny is actually taking you to a motel and not to a guerrilla hide out where you will be kidnapped and tortured. Your “gringo sense of rhythm” is usually a game killer but tonight you’re Michael fucking Jackson. They get closer closer closer…They Kiss. a lone hooker trots on heels. Emelia. You’ll have some contemplating to do when you get home. You think Manny likes you. And if they don’t we chop you up and feed you to pigs” The girls are too busy to notice. You casually ask the girls to see their documents. Down the road.

Growing up you always thought the other guys knew some fundamental secret about girls that you didn’t. you experience a moment of doubt. Even as you began a long string of conquests you always had the feeling you were just learning what came naturally to others. you were one of the good guys. And when they quickly undress.COM sucking your fingers. Their bodies are twisting and turning into one another. It wasn’t until college. When Manny pulls away. And even as it finally began to come naturally to you. that is just about how you feel right now. Emelia gently slides your pants down to your ankles. They are giggling in a way that reminds you that this is exactly where they want to be. They both are both kissing your neck. Raquel is the first to signal you onto the bed. with the help of alcohol. Yea… once upon a time. You slide into them. Maybe you can be again… Just not tonight. leaving you and the girls in front of the motel. Sandwiched in between the two warm bodies. you are reminded that this is exactly where you want to be. Looking at the girls. These guys seemed to know what they were doing. you can only wonder what you did in a previous life to reap these fruits in this one. 228 . You run your hands along the crest of their abdomens. you still had that underlying fear that you’ll be discovered as a fraud.The Best of TSBMAG. that you began to feel comfortable around them. All your doubts are alleviated when Raquel and Emelia fall onto the bed.

She must have caught it.) I say. I'm going to do everything in my power to convince myself I wasn’t intending to. I ran into her about a week ago for the first time in years and gave her my number out of courtesy when she gave me hers. and totally inappropriate black hooker boots. I smile because there is a part of me that kind of knows it's true. I call Jake on the way home. An outfit I don't usually mind on girls who can pull it off. She's been at happy hour. I took her virginity for god sake. She wants me to meet her at her apartment. She answers the door dressed in a tight white shirt. She always was an annoying drunk.Social Superstar 10 Years After I Took Her Virginity Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 07/27/2007 I get the random phone call. If I'm going to fuck this girl. about a year before Beth (love of my life till she broke my heart in a million pieces) came around. I refuse to waste a Friday or Saturday on her. But I should have figured she would call me. Jillian. She’s ten years older than she was when I dated her. and she was no prize then. a girl I dated for a little over a year. you tell her you're going to take a piss. And she took mine (although I don't let too many people know that. Plus she’ll expect less time from me on a week night. and she comes back two minutes later in a different outfit. what about tonight. I sit in it for a second. and you take off. I hear my buddy Phil saying. There goes the quick getaway. As much as I hated this girl when I was dating her. she calls. that way if it's a bomb. “Always take two cars. She's 25lbs away from pulling it off. So why should it end with promise. Great. Jake seems to think I'm going to fuck her.” I park my car outside of her apartment. So I had no intention of calling her. a skirt. wants to know if I want to meet up for drinks one night this weekend. I think back to waking up with a huge hangover. I get home and search my drawers for my least appealing outfit. she’s drunk. This means we will be taking one car. and I realize that the day didn't exactly start out with promise. because she tells me she’ll be right back. I sneer. And everyone loves old pussy. As I'm checking my email. she is old pussy. 229 .

And so she was kicked out of the club. and a guy playing pool over hears her. I keep nodding my head. because I don't know many people that go there. “that is a problem.” I think. Talking loudly and compulsively about nothing. I take this as my cue to excuse myself for a much needed piss break. and I have to pet it while she tells me how cute it is. Apparently her rambling has put it to sleep. Unfortunately I don’t have that option. She soon realizes that New Jersey. “This is New Jersey there are no outside cafes. I smile because.” She picks the Town Pub. 230 . Amazingly the dog is being good. She is in the middle of some story about how she got pulled over for no good reason. I recognized one of the girls. I felt this was a perfect time to apologize for my blunder. All egging this stupid cop story on. well. Nothing I care about anyway. When the guy asked me. He’s a cop and is interested in her story. “This is going to be a long night.The Best of TSBMAG. I was behind her in line and she told him to verify her name with me. “Just pick a place and leave the fucking dog in the car. Instead of joining the fun I walked over to the pool table where three girls were about to start playing. I just for the life of me couldn’t remember her name.” I say to get her attention. I have now been in the car with her for twenty minutes. does in fact. Finally I say. At that precise minute she puts the dog into her purse and tells me she is taking it with us for drinks. I get out of the bathroom and this bitch has a crowd of derelicts surrounding her. She was an old college friend of a friend type girl.COM It is awkward in her apartment. Plus one her friends had made eye contact with me while I was grabbing a drink at the bar on the way back from the bathroom.” She insists and I don't feel like arguing. which was good. because she's’ crazy. isn't it?” She says we’ll go to a place outside. have no outdoor places. There is this little dog that keeps jumping on my leg. This idiot puts this little puppy in her purse. I wish I could tape record this car ride to play to people to demonstrate the torture I was going through listening to this bitch. Luckily her name came back to me right then. I tell her. Over the summer she was getting harassed by a bouncer who was claiming her ID was a fake. I tell her. “Lauren. We get to the pub and this bitch won’t leave the thing in the car. So I do the next best thing and guzzle gin and tonics. She tells me the puppy is too scared to stay home alone.

Meanwhile Jill has lost it completely. I just wanted to talk to Ivana some more. We exchange numbers. One of the girls grabs the dog and heads for the door. We are all kind of making fun of my obnoxious friend and her and her obnoxious stories. Just then Jill comes barreling out the front door. She is screaming that the girls stole her dog. They feel my pain. She is absolutely 231 . The cute one who was eying me. I walk her away from the crowd. They decide that Jill is unfit to raise this dog. I tell them they should probably give it back. Jill stops in the middle of a sentence to point out that Lauren has been giving her dirty looks.Social Superstar She’s a friendly girl and within minutes I'm the fourth player on a two on two pool game. She glances at the bag and realizes that there is no dog in there. The three girls are in it with the puppy. She panics. I'm standing by Lauren’s SUV. I feel queasy. I should have never left because when I come back Jill is by the pool table telling the girls how we were each other's firsts. We are hitting it off nicely. She realizes that the girls are gone now too. Something I never do. I call Ivana over to me. The two remaining girls decide it's a good time to flee. The girls all laugh. Everyone in the place is staring at her like she's crazy. She looks under the table. Jill has made her way back to the booth near the pool table. I tell Jill to go to the bathroom and cool down for a minute. All the girls hover around the dog. I explain my ordeal. she is preoccupied with the derelicts anyway. Jill comes over to me and explains how Lauren just hates her for fucking her ex boyfriend. When she leaves. She is crying hysterically. Her face is covered in blood. Ivana and I say a nice goodbye. She starts scurrying around. I explain what a dog was doing in her purse. I figure Jill won’t mind. She has an accent. I will go outside to see if the girls have it. And a bunch of other shit I could care less about. and proceed to defend myself for ever having dated this idiot. I need another drink. We chat for a few. As Jill is talking to the girls. I tell her. ‘I didn't see nothing look’. the puppy wakes up. but I'm feeling sporty. Only she is crazy. I offer to buy the girls a round. I twirl my finger by my ear to signify she’s crazy. I paired with Ivana. I promise to call. When we walk back to pool table there is tension between Jill and Lauren. I walk back over to Ivana and see if there is any chance of getting her back to my house later. It starts freaking out. And apparently is scared of pubs. and decide to take it. I give a. She's from Denmark or France or something.

I'm awakened from my dream the next morning with a phone call from Jill. I ask the bouncer if he's going to break it up. I got to get as far away from this psychopath as possible. I kind of pat her on the back.COM hysterical. Later in the night we make love in the outdoor hot tub with a couple watching. My head hits the pillow and I wonder if this is really what my life has come to. "it's been a fun night. I give her another little hug. before the fight. I shrug. I tell her I have work early. He then searches the truck for the dog. Her lip is still bleeding pretty badly. A bouncer calls me over and asks me what happened. We look over at the car where Jill has pulled Lauren out. Looking so cute as she keeps falling into the snow. And so begins another fine morning. give her a little hug. He takes it from the truck and hands it to Jill. I can. feeling a little guilty for letting it happen. I push her off and start to walk away. She runs over to the SUV and starts screaming at the girls. but I have to go. Jill is crying and bleeding and hugging the dog.” he says. I really can be a dick. He wants to know if they really have her dog. She gets blood on me. She's in the emergency room and just wants to tell me what a complete and utter selfish. I teach her how to ski and she picks it up quickly and soon she is beating me down the mountain. I suggest we leave. Finally the bouncer runs over and breaks it up. I ask her how it happened. She doesn't remember. waiting for us to use up the half hour we were allowed to be in there. Her all bundled up. They are both punching each other violently. I agree. heartless dick I am. and tell her. 232 . “Not till a titty pops out.The Best of TSBMAG. She says she can't believe I'm leaving. That night I dream of Beth and being up in Killington with her. We are outside Jill’s apartment and I'm trying to calm her down. She was bleeding when she came out of the pub." She says it's really fucked up for me to just leave her like this. When our half hour was up we just keep making love until someone from the front desk has to come in and tell us to leave. Maybe she ran into a wall in all the confusion.

girls would just naturally come. and his teeth are really yellow. “I'm telling you. We should have it packed right now with girls flipping coins seeing who gets to fuck us next.” I tell them. Young new pussy is what this house is all about. Sort of like Field of Dreams. But he's got a nice house. 233 .” Jale again. naked chicken fighting. my roommates and I have over glorified this house.” I'm blunt but. we all basically start blowing off the girls we were dating.” Jake proclaims “Shut up with that. Without women. so I'll fuck him anyway.” The first month we have the house. Like they're going. we go to New York. We were still without couches for our living room and we were hot tub shopping. We also always imagined that because we had the house now. “Maybe the house isn't as impressive as we think. getting ready for the onslaught of young new pussy that was awaiting us. and shit like that. Still have visions of girls sitting on our shoulders. Yep. I'm in no mood for excuses. An outdoor one. Probably because we lived in such shit throughout college. “We are wasting this house. it's the bars we go to. “Bobby's old and kind of sleazy. “I'm telling you. A common line. “What the fuck is it?” Brian is asking us after a third Friday in a row sitting on floor in the living room drunk watching Napoleon Dynamite at 3 in the morning. So we were naturally perplexed when a couple weeks had gone by and none of us were yet to christen our new place with a new girl. “Did she see the house?” or “What did she say when she walked in?” Like because we had a house (only slightly nicer than a frat house mind you) girls were going to just fuck us. It would have been sweet.” Brian says. guarantee we'd be more appreciated there.Social Superstar My First Piece of MySpace Pussy Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 06/20/2007 We've always had delusions of grandeur in regards to the house we our renting.

“Bobby Rio having trouble getting laid?” They laugh. You know what grown men share a house at thirty? Crack heads. I announce my dilemma to my roommates as we were all preparing for work. and I swore Id fuck something new tonight.” “I'm going to out you on the internet. Take a quick piss and decided I was getting laid tonight. But on the other hand. Recollect on the weekend.COM “Don't do it. “I don't see condom wrappers in either of your trash cans. The one thing that keeps me single. I try to defend myself. now clearly enjoying the opportunity to rip.I am just fucking horny and have to be realistic.” Brian threatens me with what he knows it my worst fear. Crack heads and gay men. We're almost thirty. Without calling one of my old stand bys. boys?” That Monday I woke up in the morning. Without paying. Apparently they see the irony. “You might be on to something I finally admit.” “You're crushing it. In this house. I lie in bed.” Jake says. No. do your magic.The Best of TSBMAG. stop. Don't crush my dreams daddy. “I don't know man.” Jake with hands over ears. On one hand she is an old standby. “Get on the phone. Tell everyone about your 2 week long drought. Having a reputation to live up to can be a pain in the fucking ass sometimes. it would be a completely new chick. I got pretty excited imagining what she was going to look like. “Give it time. 234 .” Me still optimistic. Are we the neighborhood homos. Of course there was the slight crick in the plan being that it's a completely dead Monday bar night and we don't have any leads to work with from the weekend. My first thought was to call Tammy and break the rule a little bit. the pleasure of not knowing what the next girl you'll fuck looks like.” Jake says.

Not much talent here this morning though. Bobby. But tomorrow morning. she had two bratty kids that would have posed a problem in closing the deal quickly. I am sitting on my computer. I head to Barnes and Noble. but still kind of considered it creepy to be contacting girls online. I'm getting laid tonight. but it is the first Monday of the month. These two dicks. “Yea. I figured I just start humming one of her favorite songs. What time is it again. I also quickly found that my off beat sense of humor didn't translate well in emails. There is a cute girl behind the counter serving coffee. maybe casually mention how much I love Lost or whatever other stupid show she has 235 . I looked at it like I was acquiring ammunition in case I ever ran into one of these girls in a bar. I could bring Keira Knightly home and fuck her on the kitchen table and they still wouldn't be impressed. browsing profiles on MySpace. I always hear stories of successful book store pickups. if she could stay out past her curfew. I call out of work. you'll both be thanking Bobby. Although I was fairly confident I could have taken home this Mexican women that kept giving me the eye.” I am saying this wondering how the hell I am going to deal with them tomorrow morning when we all wake up alone. and it is full of people cashing in their food stamps.Social Superstar “I could be fucking Tammy any day this week plenty of other girls too. and know it is a weak comeback. As the details of conversation become less blurry I decide I better get the hell out of there before she recognizes me. but I have a vague recollection of a past conversation that didn't go so well.” I say this. I try to think where I can go on a Monday morning to meet some women. And I'm getting you two pricks laid too. I hang out in Shop Right for a bit. I await the abuse. “I think I saw her hanging out in front of 7-11 the other night. I headed home to regroup.” Jake inputs. on school nights?” Brian says. I still managed to waste hours browsing profiles. “You joke now. “That's it.” “Work you're magic. I had put a profile up a month or two ago.

shed have to fuck me right? Fate. I have posted it in its entirety. "Pick me!" And so we have a winner. Then the thought hits me. if I'd have to do a newspaper singles ad it word read something like this. About me: Well. I wrote her back. Two of the pictures have to be body shots. So send at least four pictures. Brazilian or Asian. I read the email. and I'd be golden. I mean it would be fate. I click on her profile page to check her out more. Or how I met them. I'm sure you're reading this and wondering. Who I'd like to meet: Adventurous. I am sad to report. a plus! I did not receive many applications. I am the mother fucking man. spontaneous. Blonde. I am currently taking applications for Wednesday nights. I enlarge them and get set to analyze. My spare time consists of trying to find ways to sneak strange women out of my room before they realize that I don't know their name. open minded women. A tad larger than I would prefer. 236 . hung like a -use your imagination. A lovely word. Picture Tara Reid twenty five pounds heavier. Only three. I think as my home screen reads new messages. Single white. I read her interests. View more pictures. For a moment I feel special. I have posted the email in its entirety. She'll do. But as I'm looking at her picture my dick is getting hard so it's settled. about me. male. I very rarely got messages on MySpace. might explain it. An exposed left arm kind of scares me. what if she is smart enough to be displaying sarcasm. and heroes. Slightly chubby. No clear body shots. And write me a brief essay on why you deserve to be Bobby's Miss Wednesday Night. contact me and I'll show you. Adorable face. how can I be one of those lucky ladies? Well it's your special day.COM listed under TV. and decide that she is. I start believing the hype. not in fact.The Best of TSBMAG. Or better yet. So I am a bit surprised when I see that it's a girl called "Everything I thought you know" that has messaged me. My about me and who I'd like to meet. but in that sloppy goodness sort of way. I am the man.women. I go back to her profile page. Perfect. She is only eighteen. Now. that smart.

They are both very happy. She tells me that these two girls are the only ones that would be willing to come tonight. The beauty of eighteen year olds is that they are extremely easy to impress. and in an effort to save space. music. and that's about it. a deck of cards. and she will have to bring someone else. I hesitantly agree. Exactly three hours later she contacts me.Social Superstar I will be at my computer for the next three hours. If you would seriously like to be considered for the role. We plan the night. He pulls 3 or 4 girls a week off MySpace and Match. We will need: Beer. Boring small talk More boring small talk How hot I am What kind of piercing she has What kind of tattoos she has What she's doing tonight Does she have 2 friends Are they hot Me looking at friends MySpace profiles Again. Instead I will break it down into subjects. I'm actually trying to get him to write a book on the subject. what she's doing tonight Her looking at my roommates MySpace profiles Her telling me how hot they are Us making plans for tonight Now. laughing inside at the thought of which of roommates would wind up with the fat one. A bit of information I skipped over in the subject matter. Until now. if you're thinking that sounded too easy. If I hear from you we'll take it further. 237 . It was an extremely long conversation. I just never had a need to bother with it. Me telling her that one of her friends was too fat for my roommates. So I know it is possible. food (so that fat one doesn't drag them out to McDonalds before things get going) condoms. I leave out the small detail above. I have a friend Michael that cleans up online. I'd say half the time he fucks them the first night. IM me at Bobbyrio03 on AOL. Now I've heard of online success stories. When my roommates get home I tell them the news. everything will be explained later. I will not post it in its entirety.

My roommates look at me in shock. The horses love us immediately. We learn a whole bunch of irrelevant information about these girls. There is an instant decision to be made. Around 10PM we decide it is time to take this to the next level. While my horse is no prize. And Kristen (shit smeller). the lights are dimmed. I know what that jacket hides. one bigger than the next. I cringe. Never have I ever Begin sexual talk 238 . We do the introductions. That's what you fucks get for not respecting my authority. She tells me it's cold. ha ha ha ha. There is Katie (horse).The Best of TSBMAG. It will not be pretty later. thinking about which one of my roommates will fuck her tonight. I take their jackets.COM 8:30 PM The piggies arrive. They stampede in. We seem like great guys. The horses are keeping up. I shrug. We pretend to be interested. By 9:30 we've become restless. We will fuck them anyway. The speed at which we are putting beers down at 8:45 on a Monday is frightening. We are all sitting at the dining room table. we swear to each other while the horses take a piss together. I decide the jacket should stay on until I put a few beers down. gothic horse is downright repulsive. I once again laugh. Take notes! Casual drinking Speed up the drinking with flip cup Pair off and speed up drinking even more with beer pong When sufficiently drunk suggest the game. We continually check the blinds to make sure no one can see in. We turn our cell phones off. Below is straight out of Bobby Rios playbook for banging girls under twenty. They are fat. It must be done exactly in this order. No one will ever know until I tell the world about it boys. The doors are locked. No one will ever know about this. The three of us are communicating solely with eye glances. We are all thoroughly disappointed. There is nothing gratifying about winning the affection of a horse. I am breaking a pact that we made that night. The message has been sent. I assume the role of gracious host. And the drinking begins. And so it's on. Only my girl will not release it. There is Aimee (gothic horse).

We both win the battle as we watch Brian make out of with Gothic Horse.” I tell her. The kiss is oddly passionate. And I had my first of many MySpace escapades. There is no thrill of victory with fat girls. I tell her how sexy she is. We kiss. “Show me your room.” she whispers. He seems happy. Her hand makes its way down my pants. It is all just practice for the big game. I hope you never have to do what I am about to do. yea.” she tells me. In the morning we hurry the horses out. Oh. we rationalize. He wins the argument. I do her doggy. Jake is with shit smeller. I fuck the shit out of her. She looks perplexed. We sit and brag about the poundings we gave them. lick my dick like it's an ice cream cone. Then I blow my load all over her big fat titties. she has cuteness to her. I brush the hair out of her eyes. “You have amazing eyes. Kids. We pair off. I don't admit this. the skinniest of the crew. it is much easier to do the smooth transition with girls over a buck fifty. or that many beers. Instead I continually point out to him how her nostrils are snared. it works on real girls too.Social Superstar Top the night off with Truth or Dare Get Laid Yes. He continually reminds me that my horse hasn't seen her hooves since the third grade. I am a little jealous. I let this fat pig ride me. I shrug and mumble something about drinking too much. But trust me. And so the house finally got us laid. We wonder if she is going to swallow him. I am alone in the kitchen with horse now. “You have an amazing smile. 239 . I eat her pussy. and I roll over and go to sleep. I throw a pair of boxers at her to clean up with. I mean if you're going to do it you may as well enjoy it. In this light.

vitamins. He is finally back from Vegas. She knew it was me. Don't call so soon. 1:15 pm I call Phil. I am afraid that these old men have subliminally installed that in my brain. An indicator that she already put my number in her phone. 12:50 pm I decide that I do not want to spend my Memorial Day weekend with the kind of people who drink alone at the town pub. Yes. Apparently there are other people who use Memorial Day weekend as a way to justify drinking in the afternoon. Now he wants to tell stories. But you only got her number last night Bobby. never show even the slightest sign of interest with old people. I wonder how she is going to be in bed later. Here is some advice.COM Return of a Pick-Up Artist (Part 2) Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 01/09/2008 11:45 am The day began with a Powerbar. but if you wait six days to call a girl after you get her number chances are she forgot you. I can hear the people out there saying. He is approximately the 600th old man in a bar who tells me not to get married. I contemplate putting in a few hours at the office. I quickly scratch that idea. I throw a pair of jeans on and head to The Saloon for a beer. They will take it as an opportunity to spend the next two hours spilling their guts about a life gone by. The truth is when you get good at this shit you start writing your own rules. buddy. I hang up the phone and smile. He tells me he thinks one of the hookers out there gave him the clap.The Best of TSBMAG. water and a cool shower. I call Gloria. He is almost 70. We chat for a few minutes. These people have watched Swingers too many times. 12:51 pm Gloria answers. I make a friend with a guy next to me. It is a great movie. I tell him he should give it to 240 . 12:30 pm I am not the only one in the bar.

She's got long wavy brown hair. She had a little bit of the hippy chick thing going on and I thought this would be a good way to get her juices flowing. 3:00 pm I have been in the car with her for thirty minutes and I have to say it's been a pretty pleasant experience. There is a slight hint of age twinkling in her eyes. Here is a hint. I get directions for some land up in Warren County that he wants me to do an appraisal on. Here is another hint. She's got to be in her late twenties. Who knows. It's sexy though. you’ll have to be a little more creative. drinks route. Younger girls tend to be more naive when it comes to talking about this kind of 241 . No. But she is actually even hotter than I imagined. 3:35 pm I have been doing a good job juggling the conversation between PG and R. Then I steer it back to neutral topics: work.Social Superstar Penelope. For your first date with a girl don’t go the standard coffee. Each time I test her she bites and brings the conversation even racier. Tell her you brought her a gift back. I had put quite a few down at Bob's party and was a little scared I might get a surprise when she answered the door. the first guy she kissed. what celebrities we'd like to screw and just when I sense the conversation has gotten too racy I bring it back to PG. friends. Gloria is taking the ride with me up to Warren to help me assess Phil's uncle's land. if I blew my load this early the rest of the day would be a waste. The older the girls the more willing she is too elevate the conversation. unless she's a complete slut. maybe even fuck her in the woods. Just kind of has that natural no make-up kind of beauty. I test her out and see if I can elevate it even further. She has been on that date a hundred times with a hundred guys. family. Every time I bring it back to R. I started seeing this conversation going in a very good direction. if you want to fuck her the first night. Maybe even thirty. I did not fret. Every time I guide the conversation to edgier topics she bites right away. dinner. when we lost our virginity. 2:30 pm I pick up Gloria. pop culture gossip and just when the conversation hits a lull I throw out things like: coworkers who fuck. Soon she is describing the first time she gave a guy road head. Unfortunately we were about a minute from the land.

She sees through my bullshit and calls me out again. Use random opportunities like this to display some alpha male characteristics. All the signs of an adventurous afternoon were there. So instead of giving up when I saw the bars over the door. although this is only to make this trip seem a little more important. The older ones eat this shit up. The look in Gloria's eyes when we see the sheep let me know that the juices are officially flowing. I walk around taking pictures. Hands were getting left places longer. Rising higher lower. There is a small abandoned barn looking photo shoot. Displaying raw power. I had her posing all over the place in all kinds of positions. There are only a handful of trees scattered around. 242 . but ultimately decided against it. I pulled out the camera. There will be a time for that later. suggesting something like that could freak a girl out if the rapport isn’t as strong as you imagined. As cool as she seems. I told her to pose. They are just as horny as you are. She suggests that we check out the inside of the barn/house. actually. Caveman type shit. I grabbed her hand and we walked around for awhile. I start snapping some pictures of them. 4:00 pm Phil's uncle's land is pretty barren. I wonder if there is an abandoned bed in there. Boards are over a door. All day hands were always brushing against each other. I put my clip board down. 4:15 pm A pack of wild sheep stroll in from the field in the back of the property. This early in the day I was not going to take that chance. Some girls just get so damn turned on by nature. It took a few times and knocked quite a bit of wind out of me. I was not shy about touching her but now the touching was turning flirty. That way all these boring pictures of barren land will have something interesting to look at. I made it a point to bust the fucking door in. and have very little tolerance for banal talk. I don't mean be a meathead. I contemplated going for a naturalgirls.COM stuff.The Best of TSBMAG. you just have to do those certain things women like to see men do. Here is a hint. There is a tiny lake. “Oh look how cute and professional you look. I jot things down. but she said it with the slightest hint of sarcasm. Like I'm a real professional under my bad boy exterior. The Kino has begun. but we got in that house/barn. There was a bed but it was decrepit looking and I'd have preferred the floor. Fully clothed unfortunately.” Which was actually the look I was going for.

Social Superstar I saw a room in the back that I decided would be the room. She's right. She is looking at me hard. I don’t say anything though. I got behind her and guided her toward the door. I ask her if she left because of the birds. She left because if the birds hadn’t of come she was about to do something I probably wouldn’t respect her for tomorrow. I have a fucking fear of birds. I am genuinely enjoying 243 . She quickly pulled me out of the room and out of the barn. I probably wouldn’t have. It was definitely a buzz kill. Once you are at this stage use any excuse you can to get her touching you. There is less talking then on the way up. but she just has this confidence about her. such a sexy at ease way. She has gone googly eyed on me. We finally pushed the door open basically falling into it. but don't make the mistake of joining in the conversation because it won't lead anywhere good. as planned. My racing heart and freaked out gestures definitely subtracted from some of that alpha male I had displayed earlier. Don't respond with anything. she's not going to sleep with you tonight because she likes you or because you won't respect her in the morning. Our hands are in the middle of the table intertwined. She gives thumbs down. 4:45 pm We are in the car on our way home. She says sort of. What can I tell you? Luckily she was even more freaked. Give her time to think about how cool you are and a whole bunch of other reasons to justify fucking you later. I joked with her saying that someone was behind the door waiting for us. Another hint. just kidding. She tells me I should let her cut my hair. To our surprise though three hawklike birds came flying at our heads. She runs her hand through my hair. 5:30 pm We grab a quick bite to eat at a small Italian cafe near her house. Let them rid themselves of the guilt. If the rapport is good enough you can enjoy the silence together. The silence is not uncomfortable. But she would like to cut my hair. She kept getting closer and closer to me until I could feel the warmth from under her jeans. She grabbed a hold of me. when a girl throws out a comment like. Then she laughs and says. I ask her if she doesn’t like my hair. that I found myself a little flattered by the adulation. Don't always feel the need to keep the conversation going. I kept nudging her toward the room chatting her up about the crazy ax man behind the door. A lot of times girls are just saying this shit to make themselves feel better about what they are about to do. Normally this look scares me. Ignore it. Oh well.

and don't adjust.The Best of TSBMAG. Now Gloria's massage was not going to make me cum. In the car ride I bring the conversation back into R territory. I am aroused. While I'm perfectly happy with my present haircut. She is sexually massaging my scalp. I mean how am I supposed to act if she really fucks it up? My attention is quickly diverted from my haircut to the mirror where I watch as all of her attention is focused on my head. I came from that scalp massage. I have towel choked around my neck and a restricting smock on. and is basically manager of the place. Bobby is all around pleased with this one and gives her the Bobby Rio seal of approval.COM her company. She asks me if I want a pedicure at the salon. when I was a little kid I used to get so turned on when the shampoo girls breast would brush against me during the wash that I couldn’t resist the idea of sitting in a chair watching her in the mirror. This is not as sexual as I imagined it would be. but it did make me pitch a tent with my smock as I got up to walk over the other chair for the haircut. She leaned into me and a titty brushed against me. Finally her fingers start running through my hair. This rates up there with a scalp massage I got from a pro in a termas in Rio a few years back. I ask her if she gets turned on by the toe polish scene in Bull Durham. 6:17 pm The hair cut has begun. She runs water over my head. 5:50 pm We are in the car on the way to her salon for a haircut. Yes. But the bait worked and she telling me about a scene in another movie that turned her on. I wonder if it will make things awkward if I hate my hair cut. She keeps touching the water and asking me if it's warm enough. I tell her I have a foot fetish. I can't tell if she realized I was kidding. She leans my head back into the sink and I wince when my neck touches the cold stone of the sink. No joke. I appreciate the enthusiasm in which she is doing 244 . The place is closed but she has a key. so no one will mind. I look up and she is soaping up her hands. I decide fuck it. I want to open my eyes and look up at her. 6:15 pm I am sitting in a chair at her salon. Just thought I'd throw that in there so that you don’t think the only thing on my mind is sex. I wonder if I should try to hide this fact or leave it out in the open and see if she catches it. I watch hair falling off my head.

say it with all the confidence you can muster up. As soon as I say this she drops the scissors. she suggests we go into the back room. Make her feel like the luckiest girl in the world to hear it. 6:19 pm You are so fucking sexy. She turns me over and is practically ripping my jeans off of me. She goes down on me and I am enjoying it way too much. My mouth goes down to her belly button area. And then the whole thing.Social Superstar her job. I am extremely turned on. My hands are running up and down her legs. as they are fond memories. She's got the trademark hippie girl patch. Just when I think I'm going to have to overcome another obstacle. One good compliment can melt away any defense she might have still had up. Just enough muff to keep with the natural girl image. She is extremely turned on. In the back room there is a recliner chair where they do waxing and stuff. The unbuckling begins. When you say something like that to a girl. Which makes me wonder if I should tip her when she's done? I decide she will get a tip. and then I pull her towards me. I tell her and really mean it. No panties!!!! God I love hippie girls. I smell her neck for a second and then turn her face toward me and start kissing her. I help her with her pants. I do the lean back please me lean and await my reward. I lay her down on the chair. She goes crazy. So I eat. My mouth goes back in forth from her mouth to her neck. I tease with crotch rubs. Another hint: That was only the second time I complimented her all 245 . We stare at each other for a second. people can see in. She says we can't do it here. We are making out hard. I get on top of her and am kind of grinding into her. I sense that she has come from the oral. At this point I am about to indulge myself in the details. I spin myself around on the chair so that I'm facing her midsection. She can't pause for a minute. I have no fucking clue what time it is pm I stand up and push Gloria down into the chair. I watch her wiggle out of them. If you are uncomfortable reading about my sexual exploits you probably shouldn’t continue. She pulls me into her. but trimmed up enough to still look edible. I pull her head up and tell her again how fucking sexy she is.

I wiggle my boxer briefs from around my ankles stand up and push her down on the chair. As much as I am into Gloria she's a little old for daddy and probably won't make the cut. This is truly some of the best sex I've had in awhile. Lay there. We are both breathless. cuddle like you're really into (it helps when you are) and be fucking silent.The Best of TSBMAG. But we'll see… 246 . I easily could have spent the rest of the night with her. put your arm around. Use compliments sparingly so that when you finally give them they will be regarded higher.COM night. But you really have to wait to see where you want to go with this before you start getting so close. Trust me words are not necessary. I was really enjoying the time with her. I know some guys would have asked her to spend the night. 8:30 pm I drop Gloria off. I am inside of her now. There is a glorious finale with an extremely satisfying cum. If in a week you decide you're not into them it is easier to start blowing them off. Hint: Guys even if she's the fuck off the century don't get all gushy telling her how good it was or how much you like her.

I mean licking my chops. I waited for her about ten minutes.. 247 . I was fresh out of college. What was left of my confidence was officially shattered. But worst of all… I just fucking need to blow a load!!! Some of my old college buddies were having a little get together at their house and invited me. I did the walk of shame back downstairs.hungry. At this point there wasn’t anybody downstairs so I just plopped on the couch and waited for Jake so we could leave.. Although I tried to stay away from frat houses as I was trying to “make it in the real world” the offer was just too tempting. I stalked her out like the hungry wolf that I was. Still in a bit of a depression I proceeded to drink myself silly.Social Superstar Snowballed Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 01/21/2008 I was in the worst drought of my life at the time. Jake was in no better shape than me. The party was less than spectacular. In my drunken state I assumed we hit it off pretty well. and whispered to each other that “if all else fails we take her upstairs and tag team her. When she didn’t return. She excused herself to go to the bathroom. My skills and confidence were at an all time low. Unfortunately my game was pretty bad at this point and I just kept talking about nonsense and wound up boring her to death.” A few minutes later I noticed a chick that was cute (in relation to the other pigs at the party) and I went over and started conversing with her. The thought of hot young drunk college girls was enough to persuade me and my friend Jake to blow off work the next day and head out on a Tuesday night to relive some former glory. I found her upstairs making out with one of the younger frat brothers. We jokingly sandwiched her and danced a little. and had just been dumped by the girl I thought I was going to marry. As the night started to wind down I got hungry. At one point we were standing together sipping keg beer from our red cups when this sloppy fat chick starts trying to dance with us. The mixer was with a subpar sorority and the talent pool was slim. willing to fuck anything.

“If you’re still down we can do her porn style” “Dude. I just put my head down in shame. the fact I got caught on the couch with a fatty by my ex girlfriend’s whole sorority. and finally went outside and pulled the trigger… blowing junks all over the front porch. She didn’t. 6 years later Jake is still asking me how his babies taste. I immediately got her on the couch. They were kind enough to head upstairs without making conversation with me. But I kept kissing her and slowly slipping my hand down her pants. She had breath that made me want to puke. I don’t know if it was the 12 red cups of Bud Ice. I looked at this as a gift from god. And a minute later I was lying on a dirty couch making out with her. “Yo. I am not going to lie and say she had any redeeming qualities. swallowed and everything” Jake tells me. But I started dry heaving uncontrollably. 248 . Told her she was sexy. Stroked her hair.The Best of TSBMAG. I figured all my dignity was gone. These girls happened to be from my ex girlfriends sorority. As I was walking outside Jake was walking back in the house. or the realization that I just made out with a piglet three minutes after she swallowed my buddies cum…. I may as well finish the deal. She gave me a killer blowjob. As luck would have it… the door opens again and a handful of girls walk into the house. I’ve got the fat girl inside half naked and ready to fuck” I tell him. They looked at me in shock when they saw me lying on the couch with the piglet. I told the piglet I would be right back and headed out to my car to grab a condom. Once they left. I was just with her behind the shed outside.COM A couple minutes later the fat girl from earlier walks in the front door.

Chris gave me a look.. we didn’t see much of Chris anymore. Not fall down humiliate yourself drunk. She was dressed high school whorish as usual… and got quite a few stares from the families of the bride and groom.” The restaurant was a close knit group and I had a reputation to uphold… I figured I could get Stoute out of the room for a good hour while I gave Tammy the pounding she craved. we wound up in his wedding party… The night before the wedding we all got pretty drunk after the rehearsals. A handful of us met at the hotel lobby bar. and my performance was less than stellar. I had fucked her once before. where I slowly got drunk enough to realize I was wasting a perfectly good hotel room. It was a little surprising because our friend Chris had basically been “born again” after dating a very Christian girl for the last couple years. I stopped at Tammy. Nevertheless.. Mike and I were sitting in the lobby when Tammy arrived. Mike and I were sharing a room on the same floor as the groom’s family. The previous attempt at fucking Tammy’s ridiculously tight pussy left me with no alternative than to secure an insurance policy for the next time. Tammy was a hostess at a restaurant where I was bar tending at the time. Since Mike and I didn’t exactly conform to the couple’s moral standards. Tammy was an eighteen year old senior in high school….” This only made her want me more. The insurance policy came in the form of a pill of Viagra I scored off a friend for “extra measure. just drunk enough to make some bad decisions. as Chris wanted us in close proximity to prevent any debauchery that would have had us over sleep the morning nuptials.Social Superstar Hotel Room High Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 01/27/2008 Somehow me and Mike Stoute were asked to be groomsmen in a college buddy of ours wedding. Against my better judgment I scanned my phone for some tail to call. but I was too 249 . The rehearsal after party ended pretty early which left a lot of time to kill at the hotel we were all staying at. I actually came before I got inside her… I caught my load in my hand and then pushed her off me and told her it was “too soon. and we're not talking about the sweet innocent type.

Mike. They demand to see both hands. the three of us decided to go up to the room. I let them knock another minute. Tammy was just as big a fan. Mike starts pleading with them to not call the cops. I just sat there waiting for Mike to leave so that I could get my grubby hands on Tammy. The room is a cloud of smoke and the hotel manager starts harassing us about the smell. After getting the evil eye from just about everyone in the lobby.COM drunk to give a shit at that point. They demand to see what's in Mike’s hand. but the bald security guard catches him. He is reprimanding us sternly. there is another knock on the door. Mike spots a dime bag on night table. Chris. and I just shrug our shoulders. The bald guy pushed the door open. Just as the two of them were finishing their second “cigar” there was a pounding knock on the door. But now the bald guy is pissed. Mike makes a running dive toward the toilet. sniff around. Tammy. The manager explains the situation and tells him to leave. The three of us just froze. The hotel manager opens the door. Just as he gets finished telling us how big scumbags we are. He casually tries to grab it without them seeing. Finally I slightly opened the door and peaked out. If you’ve listened to Mike’s incessant coughing during our podcasts you could probably tell that he is quite fond of the green stuff. and shows them his left. It is our friend Chris. so when the two of them got together the entire room was a giant cloud. Mike puts the bag in his right hand. The bald guy darts after him. while the three of just stared at each other in disbelief. He is a corrections officer. but the bald guy tackles him just as Mike reaches his hand out to flush the bag. They both looked at me to answer it as I was apparently the most sober. Then switches the bag and shows them his other hand. The next thing I know Mike is barreling past them headed towards the bathroom. 250 . The men are not amused. The bald guy takes the bag and demands for all three of to sit on the bed. and the two of them entered the room. Then as the manager starts looking around the room. The hotel manager calls down to the front desk and tells them to secure a police officer. They tell us that if he hadn’t been a wise ass. so Mike could roll a “cigar” that he and Tammy could smoke. I peeked through the little hole and saw a man in a suit standing next to a bald security guard.The Best of TSBMAG. and pretend we don’t smell anything. they would have let us go.

The only identification Tammy has on her is her high school ID.Social Superstar seeing visions of two missing groomsmen and in no mood to explain what jerk offs his friends are to his fiancé. he’s going to leave the police out of this.” His solution is to call Tammy’s parents and have them come to the hotel to pick her up. We finally get down stairs where the four of us sit in the lobby waiting for Tammy’s parents to arrive. He asks “Whose duffel bag is this?” I raise my hand. None of us say anything. He holds the little blue pill in the air and wants to know who has a prescription for an erectile dysfunction medication. as Tammy and I get escorted through the halls by the manager and the security guard. We pass various members of Chris’s family on our long walk to the elevator. Tammy’s mom is grabbing her ear and calling her a “little tramp. Twenty five minutes later Tammy’s mom and dad show up. But he then says “I can’t leave this girl in the room with you two in good conscious. The manager tells us he’s not going to ruin our friend’s wedding just because we’ve decided to be fuck ups. The hotel manager wants to know why a 26 year old has a high school girl in a hotel room that is filled with booze and other goodies. Lucky Mike gets to stay in the room. “And I want you to be there with me when they arrive” he says to me. Mike and I hand him are licenses. He then tells the bald guy to search the room to make sure we don’t have anything else in the room. At that precise moment the bald guy pulls my pill of Viagra out of a pill case in my duffel bag. I have no answer for either one of them. The bald guy wants to know why a 26 year old guy is carrying around a pill of Viagra. The bald guy has to hold Tammy’s dad back from striking me.” Even the bald guy is little 251 . He tells us “You’re friend may have just saved your ass. I apologize and promise that I will never ever see Tammy again.” But he wants our names and some identification. The hotel manager tells them the whole story with all the gory details. shuts the door and comes back inside. begs the hotel manager to not call the cops. The hotel manager looks at me like I’m the scum of the earth. The manager tells Chris to leave for a minute.

252 . The wedding goes smoothly the next day. I am having a blast. I am engaged in a great conversation with one of the bridesmaid. My cell phone goes off with three texts in a row.COM uncomfortable with the whole situation. I sleep soundly that night. It will not be pretty walking into work on Monday.The Best of TSBMAG. a hot cousin from Texas. Everyone in the room officially agrees that I am the scum of the earth. 1st text from co-worker Trish “Old man need Viagra?” 2nd text from co-worker Kelly “Tell me she’s lying Bobby?” 3rd text from co-worker Jackie “Your dick only works for me daddy?” I turn my phone off.

“Have you ever felt an instantaneous connection to someone? Like maybe as you’re sitting there looking at him… a cord of light grows from you to them” Buff’s voice is radiating from the bedroom. I know what he’s going to say next. I’m waiting for Suzanne to burst out laughing. These were the craziest times because it was all so new and life transforming.” 253 . Amazingly when I sat down to write it all came back to me crystal clear. Buff continues on… “…like six months from now… still feeling that sense of connection… and looking back at tonight as having been the start of it. I know its coming. I hope you find them informative and entertaining. She flips over a card and tells me I have to drink. Here are my adventures. At that very moment I know Buff is motioning with his hand from his solar plex to hers. It's hard to believe that it's been 10 years for me. Tracy is too drunk to notice.Social Superstar The Early Days Experimenting with Speed Seduction Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 03/12/2008 I’ve wanted to write in detail about some of my experiences in the community for awhile now. I sip my beer. I want to repeat it along with him. The Early Years: Experimenting with Speed Seduction 1998 Buff is in the bedroom with Suzanne. I’ve got the nervous giggles. So I’ve decided to start a new series about the early years. “And as that cord glows with the warm of that connection… maybe you can even imagine a time in the future…” I’m lipping along with him.

The Best of TSBMAG. Mike and I are drinking Bud Lights and discussing the past couple of weeks. It doesn’t matter. 254 .” Suzanne. Ross Jeffries says “Those who look hungry never get fed. “Is he coming by after work?” she asks.” she says. All that matters is that we don’t look hungry. “Are you alright?” Tracy asks me.” Straight to the point she says. At least not much of anything that makes sense. “A little. Buff is notoriously missing. comes over to Mike and I to say hello.” I tell him. She kisses Mike on the cheek. “Yea… yea” I say. Ross Jeffries says “A kiss on the cheek is supplication. He is on his third date this week. We are talking and laughing and smiling but we’re not saying much of anything. “So where’s Buff?” “I think he’s working” I tell her. Its college night and half of Montclair State is there. The Instantaneous Connection Pattern A few weeks later we are at Fatsos.COM My giggling causes beer to shoot out of my nose. “Pretend I just said something funny.” Mike busts into laughter. He’s such a sweet guy. “I love him. already drunk. but I lean back and wave. Mike smiles at me. Her face drops. It is filled with “weasel phrases” and “embedded commands.” “Do I look hungry?” Mike asks. She turns to kiss me. I pat the index card in my pocket.

who has a cult like following of guys all claiming that he can seduce any women in a matter of minutes. I pull out my index card and review the notes. then blushes. A life defining moment on the bowl You never imagine that your life is going to change while taking a shit. In the back of the magazine I stumbled across an article by Peter Alson about this ugly middle aged guy named Ross Jeffries.Social Superstar “Not sure. “Sweet Caroline” is blasting through the speakers and she’s trying to get me to dance with her.” he says. “You wouldn’t believe what this girl just came up and said to me. “Yea… It really took me back…I didn’t even know what to say. He pulls me aside and says.” I tell her. A clear head beats a beer buzz for confidence. I pour the rest of my beer in the pisser. “It was actually kind of scary. 255 . ‘Imagine…me going down on you… all night long’” I say this staring directly into Angela’s eyes.” I smile. I head to the bathroom to regroup. But if it wasn’t for a tad of constipation I would probably not have made it past the pictures in the issue of Playboy I was browsing through.” I say. looks me dead in the eyes. “So I was just talking to Suzanne… and she kept repeating Buff’s name to herself over and over again. and says. Instead I say.” “What?” Angela asks. The card reads “Use quotes” I walk out of the bathroom and bump into Angela from Sigma Kappa. “Okay” Suzanne says then walks away. Just then Mike interrupts us. “The girl walks right up to. “Really?” Angela asks.

I was immediately sold.The Best of TSBMAG.COM Alson weaves tales of lowly computer nerds scoring blowjobs from aspiring models and playboy bunnies in coffee shop bathrooms. Super Guru Pickup God Ross Jeffries has defied nature and figured out the secret to the universe. 256 .

” Deanna is whispering in my ear.Social Superstar The Falling in Love Pattern Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 03/12/2008 “I don’t even know you. “No… why?” 257 . I was part of the crowd. Another time I called a radio station every hour on the hour until I won tickets to a Tom Petty concert. my five o’clock shadow. and an insurance check paid a trip to Cancun I didn’t think I would be able to afford. The seat belt has me trapped and our mouths don’t reach each others. my other hand is wrapped around the back of her neck. “Are you wearing contacts?” I ask her.” is how she described me to her friend. She is running her hand down my chest. tongues thrashing together. Deanna clutches the lever of my seat and pushes me back. She puts her finger to my face and I put it between my lips. I’ve got one hand cupping her bare ass. For the first five weeks of our Creative Non Fiction class she didn’t know I existed. Deanna puts something soft and damp into my hands. Sometimes foolish men attribute their success to blind chance. She is hiking her yellow sun dress up to her waist. I’m pinned down by my seat belt. With her other hand she cups the back of my neck and pulls my face toward her.” I say. Other equally foolish men mistake coincidence for success. I look to down and see that it’s a pair of her turquoise colored panties. Easily assignable to coincidence. There was the time my car got hit by a van full of illegal Mexicans. She is unbuckling me. Tonight is a tossup. I’m free now and our mouths are locked. my Sublime tshirts. My baseball hats. “All the better. my bloodshot eyes… “A typical frat boy. She climbs on top of me. Easily assignable to success.

There is a reflection from the street light our car is parked under. as she slides my jeans down. Horns are beeping. a death of a father. a Garth Brooks concert. Her tongue is cleaning out my ear. Outside cars are passing by. She reaches between our legs and wraps her hand around The Boss. The perfectionist in me always found it wasn’t quite the right time. They had the ‘jump in and learn to swim’ type attitude with the stuff. the birth of a child. “Tell me.COM “Just wondering. “Beautiful. “Do you think I’m pretty?” she whispers. 258 . I lift my ass. Our assignment a week ago in class was to write a short story describing a memorable experience. This was the big go… Mike and Buff had been using Speed Seduction frequently since the cassette tapes arrived in the mail a few weeks back. a first trip to Yankee stadium.” I say. I mainly sat in front of my mirror reciting patterns and practicing tonality. Success or coincidence? She’s fumbling with the buttons on my jeans. Success or Coincidence? There was a moment of hesitation when the professor called on me to read my story to the class. She adjusts herself and guides me into her. winning a spelling bee in the sixth grade. Engines igniting. I’ve got a tit smashed against my face. and her pale blue eyes are glowing like an Alaskan Huskies. Paris in the spring time… I wrote about the first time I fell in love… She’s straddling me and our pubes are rubbing hard against each other.The Best of TSBMAG. There were stories about a skiing in Vermont.” I say.” she says. Her eyes roll back into her head.

I put my hand over her mouth to silence her. Her eyes are closed which is good because a couple students are walking past our car. “You don’t even know why you just have to go deep inside and find all those values that are so important to you but you just naturally link them up with this person such that you find yourself beginning to look through the eyes of attraction … cause I find when you look through the eyes of attraction. It’s like you’re not even aware until it’s too late. “And as you feel that passion growing more and more maybe to a point where you feel yourself just letting go completely as you allow this person to come deep inside releasing all those feelings that have been building and building up inside. 259 . that’s when you can make that connection…” The Falling in Love Pattern Deanna is grunting and growling. The restriction of fucking in a Jetta is unsettling. Deanna collapses on top of me.Social Superstar I am in Creative Non Fiction reading my story from the paper in front of me… “It was my third date with Shari when I realized what was happening. I have to lift her a little so I can bounce her up and down on The Boss. I see them peak in but continue walking. You’ve already begun to feel that connection… and grow even more attracted. I am self conscious and a bit uncomfortable with what I’m reading… but it’s too late to stop. I’m getting a case of rug burn on my crotch. you just want to release them in a flood and I find when you do that now with me I find you just feel so enchanted like you are now under a love spell cast upon you such that you can’t control yourself and just find yourself going wild with it” Success or Coincidence? The Boss explodes. First. look through the eyes of desire. You begin to pay attention in that special way. becoming aware… of the rhythm of your breathing… the beating of your heart… and that sense of growing fascination… such that as you continues to be aware of all this… one particular feature of the their face begins to rivet your attention… so as you just continue to keep looking… it’s like the rest of the environment disappears… and the entire world becomes this face…” I am keenly aware of the eyes of the class on me.

voyeurism… we did it all.. edible panties. We were like a couple of perverts trying to see what we could come up with next. For those of you unaware of what anal beads are. But nothing was worse than the time I cheeped out on the sex toys. Lucky for me. I was a kid in the candy store. I have a wild imagination. With the amount of money in my pocket.99. One day I ventured off to the holy grail of perverted fun. Role playing. I spotted a discount shelf. these are a series of beads attached to each other usually by a string with a handy retrieval ring. bondage. fruits and vegetables. There was the time we lost the key to the handcuffs…. But what I’ve noticed while mulling over my exploits is that often these whims have turned out to end on a sour note. my choice was narrowed down to a cock ring. For all her flaws… I do say. There was the time I took a roll of film of my ex in compromising positions… that mysteriously disappeared when we went to the CVS to pick them up. blindfolds. or anal beads. sue me. This was back when I was dating my first girlfriend Jillian. There were a handful of items marked down for clearance. right from the start. I wanted everything. Luckily. Only I had very little money.The Best of TSBMAG.. This place had everything I ever dreamed about. she was gung ho in the bedroom. I went with the anal beads for the low low price of $4. The Pleasure Palace. I’ve found girls willing to let me indulge in my whims. The time I jokingly asked my ex to pee on me… and she did! The time I bought the super large dildo to play with on her… and then suddenly felt inadequate.COM Don’t Buy the Cheap Sex Toys Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 07/22/2008 I’ve always been pretty experimental in the bedroom… dare I say… kinky. The package promised that if I inserted them into her ass… and 260 .

It is obvious that the bead slipped over the last knot. They were still pretty lubed up from her pussy juice. Just as the two of us reach orgasm I pull the string in one quick flick of the wrist. I was a proud man. The string which had five beads going in… had come out with four. In and out. It doesn’t. and she likes it. But my face must have given it away. right? Jillian wasn’t thrilled with my new toy.Social Superstar then pulled them out right as she climaxed… she would reach new orgasmic heights. I started poking my finger around her ass trying to warm her up to it. Jillian starts asking. She only mildly liked it when I did her anal. I take this as my cue to start sliding the anal beads in. I pray the bead will pop out. Jillian starts making her "I’m going to cum" face. By this time. She starts panicking. She did a giant pelvic thrust… but then flashed me a reassuring smile to let me know she enjoyed. She squirmed a bit… but soon enough I’m digging away. I’m doing her pretty hard missionary. She jumps up and grabs the string from under the pillow." Things started out amusing enough with the beads. so they went in without a fight. She reaches her hand around to her ass and starts holding her anus open while jumping up and down. We tried them out in her vagina first. Wailing away. 261 . Worth a shot. I quickly tried to hide the string under the pillow. But I can be pretty persuasive. and usually felt dirty about it afterwards. I’ve got her legs spread over her head. in and out. As our session got steamier. I sold her on the "new orgasmic heights. so I reach under her ass and grab the ring and get ready to yank. That was until I looked down at the string in my hand. "What's wrong?" "One of the balls didn’t come out" I tell her.

I take my two fingers and pry apart her anus. She starts hyperventilating. "You better get this fucking thing out of my ass. "Maybe you should try taking a shit. But nothing is falling out. Miraculously the little purple bead appears… but just as I’m about to grab it her anus closes shut and sucks it back in." I say. "I feel it" she screams. she wasn’t the most mentally stable girl. After a few minutes they stop. She begins pushing. I can feel it. I calm her down enough to walk her into the bathroom.COM If you remember from previous mentions of Jillian. 262 ." I take from her reaction that wasn’t an option. I sit her naked body on the toilet and tell her to push like she constipated… push like she’s trying to get a baby out. She starts pushing. I open the door and peak in. The grunts and growls that were coming out the bathroom would have scared small children. I want to reach in. See if they have any suggestions. Look and see if you can see it." She kneels down over the bowl and lunges her ass into the air. "Push" I tell her. She’s screaming." She looks like she’s going claw my face off. "It's right there. grunting. She’s making some nauseating faces and I have to leave the room. but I am afraid I’ll just push it back further. I say "Maybe we should go to the Health Center on campus. Jillian has her ass raised above the bowl and is shaking it violently.The Best of TSBMAG. Now she’s crying so loud I can’t concentrate. and growling all over again. I get behind her and start prodding around.

The bead plops onto the floor. I’m really hoping a turd doesn’t pop out along with the bead. I’d have to dump her. harder this time" I demand. I pick the thing up and flush it down the toilet. She’s pushing so hard one of the veins in her forehead seems it's going to burst. 263 . "AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH" she screams. I walk in the room and grab the string and flush all the beads down the toilet. my friends. And that.Social Superstar "Push again. is why you don’t buy the cheap sex toys.

She tells me not to be so grumpy and that I better have a good time tonight. My dick goes limp. one of my girlfriend’s cousins… Anna and her big fake titties… then Sofia and her rebellious tomboy attitude… but the noise is just too distracting. c’mon other people need to use the bathroom” my girlfriend shouts in … Everything is fucked. I float different pictures through my mind… first. But I’m thinking now… the older she is… 264 . my mind trying to hold a fantasy long enough to rub one out. But just outside the door there are seven different Spanish voices continually reminding me that my time in the bathroom is limited. That’s what happens when you cram 9 people into a three bedroom apartment. 9:05 My girl gives me a little peck on my lips. I pull her close and grind my hard-on into her. The most action I’ve gotten all week in this chastity ward of an apartment. Privacy is nonexistent. 8:44 I’ve finally got some momentum going. I start unrolling some toilet paper to finish into… “Bobby. I finish putting on my shirt. And normally I wouldn’t have cared much.The Best of TSBMAG. She rolls her eyes and tells me no. I beg one last time… “A goodbye blow job…please?” 9:25 I’m in the backseat of Sofia’s car and I’m trying to calculate just how old she is. Sofia could be 25 or 40 and I wouldn’t be surprised.COM That Drunken ight in Medellin Story Written by Bobby Rio Original Published: 08/18/2008 8:40 pm My dick is in my left hand… my right hand is fumbling through the medicine cabinet for some kind of lube… I’m squatting over the toilet. I give up.

Each room with a different theme. you like?” I smile. I explain that she had a wedding rehearsal … and has to get up early tomorrow for the wedding. He hands me a shot. “You like the Colombian girls?” he asks. In fact. 265 . She shakes her finger no. Because in a brown eyed world… the blue eyed man is king. I try pouring Sofia a shot. a nun... I lift the glass and down the shot myself. 9:51 Shot number one goes down smoothly. “I no care” I say and fill the shot glass. 9:46 I follow the cousins to a table filled with about eight or nine Colombians. “I no like” she says in broken English. 10:00 Jim calls me over to him. I am doing the obligatory kiss on the check to bunch of chubby Spaniards… the loud alpha male of the group introduces himself in English. and a slight bit creepy. The room we wind up in is themed like a cathedral. “Muy Bien! Mucho gusto!” He asks me why my girlfriend didn’t come. I am happy that there will be at least one person I can communicate with here tonight. I smell the glass to make sure it wasn’t water. And the town bum… 9:45 I walk through smiling… making sure they notice… And they always notice. a banker… a cowboy. His name is Jim. There are three bottles of the stuff on the table. The waiters are walking around dressed like typical town people… there is a priest. “So you can have some fun tonight!” he says..Social Superstar the more likely she’d be up for doing something if something should happen to come up… 9:44 We get into the bar… it’s themed like a typical Colombian town. “Si” I say. . He puts his arm around me. Sofia notices my curiosity and says “Aguardiente. She shakes her finger no again. We knock glasses and shoot them. a farmer.

but nothing another shot of Aguardiente won’t cure. My constant humping of her leg and staring at her tits has seemingly offended her… I put my tail between my legs and head back to the table. 10:14 I get back just in time for another shot. She takes my hand and leads me to the dance floor. She doesn’t know how dirty I can get. I want to make conversation.The Best of TSBMAG.COM 10:02 Jim calls over an old fatty. Sofia grabs my arm… and tells me in her adorable broken English to “slow down or I get too crazy” She’s probably right… but I’m past the point of reason. I start to wish I Googled the age of consent down here. I assume he is trying to hook me up with her… I give him the thumbs down. Her sister wants to play dirty. I fumble for the bottle and begin pouring another shot. They shake their fingers no. I’m a little embarrassed by my blunder. Things get ugly quick on the dance floor. I pour the three of us shots and we gulp them down. Jim introduces me to the fatty… his wife. I push the glasses toward them again. 10:11 I turn to Sofia. It’s too loud to deal with language barriers. 10:16 There are a few new faces at our table. I try… but it’s useless. Some young girls… that can’t be older than sixteen. For all intensive purposes I’ll assume it’s sixteen. 10:18 266 . My lack of rhythm is apparent. 10:13 Pretty soon I’ve made both of us uncomfortable. Sofia not wanting to be seen dancing with the gringo… pawns me off on her sister. I fill a few glasses and try to hand the sixteen year olds shots. She doesn’t know daddy.

. and then you’re going go home and jerk off. Yea right!!! This is where things get blurry.Social Superstar Jim sees me trying to make conversation with the girls and comes over to us. Because when you can be loyal… that’s meaningful… So you’re going to go out there… drink your drink… be friendly… not too friendly. He actually pushes us closer together. 10:25 I regroup in the bathroom.. Here are the definite memories I have: … Gulping down another four or five shots of Aguardiente … Jim’s daughter shaking her finger no as I try to lick her ear …Jim’s fat wife pulling me off her daughter and then scolding her daughter in public Here are the fuzzy memories I have: 267 .it's a moral test of yourself.. I give him two big thumbs up. She is in the middle of us and I’m grinding lower and lower with her. He looks at the group of girls and nods at me. Jim seemingly pleased… heads back to the table and leaves me and his daughter alone. 10:19 He introduces me to the sixteen year old… his daughter. whether or not you can maintain loyalty. And that’s all you’re going to do. Before I have time to explain… he tells me to dance with his daughter. 10:22 Time for a piss break. I look back at him over my shoulder… now he gives me the thumbs up. As we are dancing Jim comes up behind his daughter and sandwiches her against me.

I retreat to my bed. In the other room I hear the Spanish chatter of the entire family having breakfast. They are staring at me and laughing and pointing for me to go back into the hallway and to my own room. I close my eyes and go back to sleep.COM … Sofia pushing me into a car with a random Spanish guy … Driving through the mountains of Medellin thinking I’m being kidnapped …throwing up in a port-a-potty on the side of the road: Here is where things get ugly: I stumble into the apartment and stalk out my girlfriend. Naked. I decide to piss before going to sleep. naked. Only I’m not in our room. I start to crawl in bed with him. I walk to the bathroom. I try for a few minutes to jerk off. Hearing his anger the aunt comes into the room and in Spanish intervenes. I have vague flashes of the night before… I panic. Sofia and Anna are sleeping. I am completely dehydrated and desperately want water. I go caveman on her. He wakes up and flips out. Only they are not sleeping. I head back into our room. This time I wonder into my girl’s cousin Adolfo’s room. Naked. I try to wake her up.The Best of TSBMAG. (Most likely explaining that I’m a drunken mess who has no clue what room he is in… or probably even what country he is in) The two of them guide my naked ass back to my room. I momentarily snap back into consciousness and walk into the hallway. She is not turned on my aggressive drunken behavior… or my breath which reeks of puke. but thought of going into the kitchen to face the family is terrifying. 9:20 am I wake up alone. I take off all of my clothes and demand sex. It’s not going to happen. on my bed. 268 . I’m standing buck naked in the room where the aunt.

Social Superstar 11:40 My girlfriend wakes me up and tells me that I have to get dressed for her friend’s wedding. 269 . She asks me “What the hell happened last night” 11:53 I do the walk of shame to the bathroom. All I can think about was how pronounced the “shrinkage” was…. They are nice about it… but are openly amused. When I expose myself from the room… the entire family starts mocking me in Spanish.

money. How will you look after you’ve achieved better game? How will you act? What kind of girls will you be dating? Sleeping with? What will a day in your life look like once you’ve got this area of your life mastered? How will you feel? What kind of thoughts will be running through your mind? These are all questions that you cannot ignore. and friendship) the universe will continue to provide you a life of lack. managing a relationship. building attraction. But if you train your mind to see abundance (of women. money) the universe will provide you a life of abundance.. These three books all explore the ancient principle that your mind will create whatever reality you present it. or any other area of your life… until you develop a clearly defined goal for yourself your mind will continue producing the same results you’ve always gotten. If you have had difficulty with talking to women. The title of this series is 31 Days to Better Game… but “better game” has a different meaning for everyone reading this. Have you read the book The Secret? Or how about Real Magic? Or Think and Grow Rich? These three books (if read and implemented correctly) are worth their weight in gold. This step is more important than any lesson you will learn from here on out..The Best of TSBMAG. 270 . In order to fully experience and appreciate the lessons you’ll receive over the next 31 days you need to have a clearly defined end result. Having a clearly defined end result means knowing exactly where you want to be 31 days from now.COM 31 Days to Better Game Day 1 Designing Your Life Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 06/10/2008 The first step you need to take to improve any area of your life is determining your desired outcome. This means that if you consistently think of the lack in your life (of women.

271 . feel like. I felt the same way years ago when I was presented with this concept. the way your voice sounds. Imagine clearly what you will look like. Take a pen and paper with you. Your Homework Everyone reading this needs to set aside one hour in a quiet place. visualize yourself in the company of the woman you want to be with. and act like once you’ve mastered this area of your life. thought out. pay attention to the way you walk. See your ideal life. You need to close your eyes and spend the next thirty minutes visualizing yourself as your Ideal Self.Social Superstar If this sounds new age and hokey… wait a minute. After you’ve spent about thirty minutes just completely immersed in this “new you” stop your visualizations and grab your pen and paper. You need to read this piece of paper and be instantly transported into that reality. Next Every morning when you awaken… take out that piece of paper and read it a few times to yourself. Then close your eyes imagine this reality. See your ideal self. Now I want you to write the most descriptive. Clearly imagine the women and note the way you interact with them. As you run this image through your mind. summary of this new you.” If during your visualization you saw yourself having unbelievable sex with a perfect 10. It needs to be filled with emotions and feelings. For example. The idea here is to create a blueprint of the life you want. Write everything in the present tense. clearly defined. I want you to trust me to give this a chance. But I’m going to safely say that it is magic. It needs to be as detailed as possible. I want all of you reading this to put aside your personal opinions and judgments and reservations. suppose in your mind you saw yourself surrounded by a set of beautiful women and they were all laughing and having a good time… you would write “I am confident around large groups of beautiful women and easily create enjoyable conversation while building attraction. the thoughts running through your mind. write ” I am having sex the girl I’ve desired” and so on.

I want each and everyone one of you to do this for one month. or remind yourself of your shortcoming or flaws… Clear your mind of the negativity and focus solely on “ideal life. You will be tempted to let your negativity and doubt creep in and tell you this isn’t possible. Those that choose to follow this… I know that I will be hearing miraculous stories! If you want some further reading on this subject I highly recommend reading The Secret 272 .talk in the positive. See if so real that it feels like you're dreaming. repeat the ritual of the morning. Even if you deviate from your “ideal self” in your current reality.The Best of TSBMAG. At the end of the 31 days I want feedback on this exercise… I only want feedback from those of you that followed it every day exactly as I’ve stated. and a half an hour in the evening visualizing the life you want. “I am always meeting and attracting new interesting girls. Lay there holding that image (with feeling) firmly in your mind. I’m just asking you to spend a half an hour in the morning.” Throughout the day try to remember to keep your self. The rest of you can keep your excuses I don’t want to hear them..” Every night before you go to bed. There is no hard work involved.COM The entire time you're visualizing this life… let your mind go.. I’m not asking much. continue to talk to yourself positively. Don’t slack. I’m not asking you to approach 10 sets a night….

Inner game is also a topic that I think can only be discussed from a personal level. I’m going to get into both of these.Social Superstar Day 2 Developing Inner Game Written by Cajun Originally Published: 06/12/2008 Inner game is probably one of the most popular subjects in the community. It’s only when were thrown into situations that are unfamiliar to us that we start to lose confidence in ourselves. Every problem you run into with not just women. inner game problems boils down to two things: your experience and your mindset. So what is it? To me. Experience: When people ask me how I developed my “Rock solid confidence”. I can’t convince you how to think or look at life differently. It’s a major sticking point for nearly everyone who has trouble talking to women and it’s a problem that can be difficult to fix as well. can be attributed to one of these two areas. When you think about what confidence actually is you realize that it's simply doing something that you’ve done enough times to be comfortable with. and give some personal insights. but I can tell you how I overcame the very same problems. that is. only you can. I always answer the same. so hopefully by the end of this article you’ll have a clearer understanding of what exactly it is that you need to work on to fix your own issues. and hope that you can learn from my experiences. “Practice”. since it tends to be rooted in a lifetime’s worth of negative beliefs that are based on things like fear and rejection. This is bullshit! To be scared of the possible 273 . The sad and somewhat ironic reality is that most men are not comfortable talking to women simply because they don’t talk to women! It’s a negative feedback loop that’s perpetuated by a fear of “what might go wrong”. but life itself.

or the world around us. told off. were you too scared to get on because of a fear that you might fall down? Maybe. through our inner circle. Life is a game. your own. from your subconscious mind. when you were learning to ride a bike. and the inner circle being our consciousness. 274 . What does this mean? As far as any of us know. reality. That is. Mind Set: Most of us grew up in a society that believed in a 2 concentric circle model of reality. don’t go home. but the best advice I can give you is to simply accept it. You can’t make an omelet without breaking some eggs. but you got on anyway because you saw how much fun all the other kids were having. and that our consciousness is the outer circle. I remember when I first started out with this stuff I used to get drinks thrown in my face. and it’s a game that a lot of people are scared to play. Well this is the same thing. The first few weeks were rough.COM negative outcomes is to be scared of the very thing that enables you to get better! Think about it this way. that our consciousness was independent of it…but recently this all changed. don’t get mad at her or yourself. We experience the outer circle. writing this entire article out to send a message to YOU. the sooner you can come to terms with it and move past it. there may only be 1 reality. your reality. The truth is. Who’s to say I’m not a figment of your imagination. That is. the outer circle being reality. whether any of us actually exist or not is irrelevant. or simply ignored. It’s possible. just accept that it’s a completely normal. Getting used to rejection isn’t easy. We are now learning through quantum physics that reality is actually the inner circle. it took me a while before I got used to rejection enough that I could understand where I went wrong. if you’d rather). reality exists inside our mind. This is how we believed reality worked. our consciousness. The sooner you realize that rejection is a necessary evil. we create our own reality with our thoughts (Or beliefs. Don’t be one of them. even then you realized that the reward was worth the risk. and necessary part of the learning process.The Best of TSBMAG.

a rich Casanova in the game. The trick is you have to actually believe it. and you will become one. Cajun. 275 . all I will have to do is read this piece of paper and it will all come back. then all you have to do is believe that you ARE a rich Casanova. What does the paper say? “The secret to becoming amazing at attracting women is…to remember that you already are. Now. and be anything you want in this program as long as you ask for it using these “beliefs”. I remember because I had an epiphany that night and it was so mindblowing that I had to write it down as soon as I came home. I’ll end this article with something that I’ve never written about before: I remember the very night that I became good at attracting women. he says this: “This software is programmed to work intuitively with your brain. The five senses are so accurately programmed that there is no detectable difference to reality. Think of it as your “console hack”" I’m sure you saw this coming. and how they work. I replied with the following: “Think of it this way: what if.Social Superstar I recently received an email from a student of mine asking about the power of beliefs. if you want to be. and I know that if down the road I ever forget everything that I’ve learned in the past few years. You become who you believe you are. It has since become my mantra. like I said. In fact you can have.” Your welcome. So. but the programmer tells you some hints on how to play. I can only give advice on inner game from my own personal perspective and this is simply how I believe reality works. The AI is so smart you can’t tell it’s not a real person.” Sound a little like the matrix? Well that’s ok. and then the program takes care of the rest. you get to play this game. let’s say. let’s say. 15 years from now programmers invent this computer game that is virtually identical to reality. but this “game” already exists and it’s called reality.

posture and grooming tips. Like Strauss says.” There is no denying that physical attractiveness makes it easier for attraction to take place. If you look in the mirror and see things jiggling.COM Day 3 Updating Your Look Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published:06/13/2008 There is a misused phrase being tossed around in regards to attracting women… “Looks don’t matter. hair style. But you don’t need to be naturally good looking to make a good first impression. What I did not include on that list but is equally important is maintaining a fit body. If you want further information on designing a weight loss/muscle gain plan read this free personal trainer program-the site has like five hundred articles on every aspect of weight training and nutrition. He had the less-thanhandsome Strauss shave his balding head. If you’re unsure of how to lose that extra weight check out this article about shedding unwanted pounds… if you’re looking to gain some muscle read this article on bulking up for the summer. smiling. If you’ve read The Game you know that the first advice Mystery gave Neil Strauss was to improve upon his look.” The phrase should have been worded “Looks only matter so much. hit the gym. get a tan. The list includes simple to improve areas like skin color. and change his wardrobe. I highly recommend reading over that list. I’m not saying that you have to look like David Beckham… but you know deep inside if you’re body can be improved upon.” I wrote a post a couple months ago called 10 Ways to Immediately Make Yourself More Attractive. grow a goatee. but you will begin to feel much more attractive. By just implementing these 10 tips you will begin to not only look more attractive. “You’ve got to present your best self.The Best of TSBMAG. 276 . If you’ve seen the before and after pictures you know what a drastic improvement these simple steps made. there is no excuse not hit to hit the gym.

Social Superstar After you’ve improved upon the areas of your appearance that need some work… it's time to update your wardrobe. If you’re still looking for more advice than I would recommend purchasing Brad P’s Fashion Bible. But I do believe in using clothes and accessories as a way to attract positive attention. Remembers just because “Looks only matter so much” you shouldn’t use that as an excuse to be lazy about your appearance. The article also talks about creating a presence and takes quite a bit from the classic article The 7 Elements of Charisma. Would you be attracted to a girl who isn’t doing her best to present herself to you? 277 . Today’s Homework Today you need to make the necessary changes to present your best self. I am not a firm believer in peacocking in the sense that Mystery and Style teach. If you’ve got little or no sense of fashion than read through our men’s fashion articles here at the site. More importantly is dressing in a way that promotes your self confidence. We’ve had a couple fashion consultants contributing articles to make your choices easier. If you still have questions regarding how to go about updating your life you might find an article I wrote for my How to Be Popular in High series helpful. Although the article was geared toward high school students there is advice on creating your image that can be applied to all age groups. No matter what area of your physical appearance (if any) needs an overhaul there is more than enough information contained in this lesson to get you well on your way.

The biggest mistake most guys tend to make while trying to improve their game is they think that it only counts when they are at a bar or club. It’s because a successful salesman is constantly marketing himself while the other 90% do their 9-5 in the office and call it a day. A lot guys wonder how come some nights it is so hard to get “in state. approach anxiety.COM Day 4 Always be Advertising Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 06/16/2008 In a common sale’s office 10% of the salesmen make 90% of the money. and slept game. Is it because they are that much better salesman? No.” Adam made the comment several times that he “is game. learn to “be alpha” but they sit in their house all week waiting for the weekend to practice game. Always strive to make your conversations memorable. Does that mean all you should care about is game? Hell no. If I had to name the most inspiring thing I got out of the weekend it was Adam’s ability to always “be on. No matter who he was talking to he was projecting the same charismatic personality. It just means that everything you learn needs to be implemented at all times. They read books. I spent this weekend with AFC Adam Lyons from Pua Training in New York. study lines. boring conversation. start 278 . He didn’t wait until heading to the clubs at night to go into game mode.The Best of TSBMAG. then they expect to miraculously be the life of the party come Saturday night. Always dress to impress. poor tonality. Always be opening sets. Every lesson that you learn throughout these 31 days needs to become a new habit in your life. breathed. Always be presenting your best self. If you’ve just read an article about flirting.” And he’s right. Always be chatting up strangers. and AFC tendencies…. He lived.” It is so hard for them because all week they’ve created a pattern of bad posture.

like the most successful salesmen. The counter girl at your local bank will be dropping you IOIs. If you’re always “on” you’ll find that you’ll naturally be attracting more women into your life.Social Superstar flirting immediately. More importantly though. that the best leads come when you least expect it. Your co-workers who used to ignore you will be asking you to come hang out with them. 279 . Once you get in the habit of always reinforcing the skills you’ve been learning. Because you just don’t know when you will bump into her. I don’t care if you have to flirt with your sixty year old neighbor…. is that you will find. you will find that it becomes a lot easier to get “in state” since you will be spending most of your time in the right frame of mind. Always leave the house expecting to meet the girl of your dreams. you need to always be reinforcing these skills.

Because with “high status” comes most of the traits women desire in men like security. women are actually very competitive with each other but in more subtle ways than men… 280 . …yes. cars and made them wear a disguise. it will make the life of her kids better and even make her friends jealous and envious. Now you might ask why “status” is so important to women. act and by their body language. In Wisconsin we deer hunt and my Dad always told me to never cough because a deer’s hearing is much better than a human’s… Well a woman’s “status” senses are far superior to a man’s. social acceptance and notoriety.The Best of TSBMAG. power. Not only will landing a guy like that make her life better. any woman would still be able to read that they are high status within minutes of meeting them by the way they talk. fame.COM Day 5 Being High Status Written by Mack Tight Originally Published: 06/17/2008 I was reading Bobby’s recent post “Never Show Emotion When She Walks Away” and all I could think was “could that dude make it any more obvious that he was low status”? Let me explain… When you think of “high status males” who do you think of? Donald Trump… George Clooney… Kobe Bryant… your favorite politician… Now if any of these guys had an attractive girl make out with them and run off would they set around and pout like a tit baby about it? Fuck no… They are flooded by a large quantity of attractive women in their life… and even if you temporarily took away their money. clothes. wealth.

Now if a guy’s supply is high and demand low and attractive women is the commodity. you always want to give them the impression that there are other dealerships that are in the hunt for your business… 281 . Here’s another analogy from my childhood… When I was a kid I collected sports cards. This raises his status to them. “Commons” were ummm… common… …don’t be a common! The guy in Bobby’s story showed to everyone in the bar and most importantly to the girl that he was a “common” by gawking at her and pouting. Supply and demand is not unique to women and men either… Why is gas $4 a gallon? Supply and demand! Why are diamonds so expensive? Supply and demand! (Thanks to DeBeers) It is like your status is a publicly traded stock when you go into a club and your every action makes it go up and down in value. the attractive women are going to have a harder time landing this guy’s business. If on the other hand you don’t give a shit when dealing with a hot girl you’re showing your supply is low and your demand is high. if you go to a car dealership to deal on a car. It is quite obvious that an attractive girl kissing him was a “big deal” and a rare occurrence in his life… That made it quite obvious to everyone that he was “low status”. Now similarly. There was a term called a “common” for sports cards of a player no one wanted.Social Superstar So how can women sense your status? They can sense your supply versus your demand… If you are clingy and needy it shows to them that you have a low demand and a high supply.

The Best of TSBMAG. Now let me switch things up and touch on some community concepts that hit on the “high status” point… Peacocking Do you think wearing a pair of Sketchers.COM If you go to a job interview you want to give the interviewers the impression that there are many companies of courting you… …you are living in a world of opportunities and abundance. I bet everyone of those douche bags who were busting on me went out and bought the same shirt the next day… …but I have a feeling they had no luck with it because they could not properly handle the reactions. I had women cold approaching ME about the shirt and I went to town from there. For example. some old carpenter pants and a boring t-shirt of your local major sports team screams “I’m high status”? To me it screams “I don’t care how I look. What can I say. Negging “Negging” is defined as saying something to an attractive girl that subtly shows her that you are not caught in a hypnotic trance over her beauty. I even had some girls who BUSTED on me just like the guys did but I was able to turn the tables and get attraction from them. Always give the impression that you have options in your life even if you don’t. I want to fit in and I’m scared to stand out”! That’s what “peacocking” is all about… having the balls to stand out… …and I’m not talking about even wearing goggles and a fuzzy hat. High status men do not care what others think. some like dogs and cats but I LOVE MONKEYS! I had guys busting on me about it but I could HANDLE it. 282 . I recently bought a bright green Paul Frank t-shirt with Julius the monkey on it.

take Mystery’s “its funny how your nose twitches when you talk” or Neil Strauss’ routine of picking a piece of lint off a girl’s shirt. It is not like you are calling the girl a “bitch” or saying she is “ugly”. She is accustomed to being put on a pedestal by guys staring at her. It does a good job of differentiating how needy and high status guys communicate with women. buying her drinks. endlessly approaching her and showering her with complements… …but you quickly knock her off the pedestal to defuse her defenses. For example.Social Superstar Calling it “negging” was a bad move because people outside of the community assume it is just about putting down women. You need to differentiate “negging” from being an obnoxious asshole. Instead he is probably going to vibe with her about cool things. VERY subtle comments that could be taken as a backhanded compliment. He might bring up some stories about something crazy that happened at his last tour stop in New York City. 283 . Sure. some examples involve VERY. Do you think a rock star that is in town for a tour is going to barrage a girl he just met with a bunch of interview questions? What’s your name? What’s your age? Where are you from? What is your job? HELL NO! For him to ask such personal questions to a girl with them both knowing he will be in a different city the next day would be silly. Maybe they’ll talk about music or pop culture. It may sound mean but women WANT to come off their pedestals to meet a high value man like yourself! Giving/Taking Value I made a post a while back by Mehow about giving value by being the value. Basically you are showing her that in a sea of low value ass-kissing chumps you are the one prized high value man who is accustomed to interacting with girls of her level of beauty on a routine basis. Many people who are new to the community do not understand how to calibrate proper negging.

The Best of TSBMAG. I also hope my examples gave you some ideas on how you can raise your status to women even higher. ONLY if the interaction progresses to the point that it EXCEEDS his normal standards does he care to learn the back of baseball card stats of a girl’s personal life.COM Guys often interact with beautiful women by asking endless personal questions and they usually never end up seeing or talking to the girl EVER AGAIN anyway. A high status man has many options with quality women just as a quality woman has many options with low status men. so it is completely worthless! High status men want to test women before they even care about their personal life. The key is that quality women only have limited opportunities to interact with truly high status men. Mack Tight 284 . So there you go… I hope I did a good job of explaining high status to you. So show them that you are high status from the start and you will make yourself the exception and not the norm. They begin by building comfort and attraction by telling interesting high value stories (such as the rock star’s crazy night at his NYC tour stop). It’s casual.

A flat conversation is one without any spark. “man. so much as it is that they are worried the conversation will flatten out and get boring. lame. The inability to be fun and flirtatious is one of the most common problems that men face when they’re learning to get better with women. economics and business. somehow. if you never learned to communicate any other way. I’m even boring myself!” then you know exactly what I’m talking about here. 285 . Flirting is conversational play. I wasn’t exactly a huge hit around the college bars in Ann Arbor. seems to be enjoying her time with you. emotion. And listen. once a girl sensed how deep and concerned about the real world I was. and while this proved an asset in my talks with “adults.”. To this day. I like to think of it as taking a flat note. I thought that. If you’ve ever been talking to a woman and thought to yourself. that’s fine – you’re in the company of many other men. pulling.I was completely stilted when you’d throw me into a bar full of people my age. surprising and rewarding each other. surprise… it is how you might communicate with your lawyer or your professor. initially. Its two people talking about… anything they want (it definitely does not need to be logical)… and pushing. it is issue number one amongst the clients with whom I work. But let’s learn how to flirt. it is not necessarily because they are afraid of getting rejected. only to see her attention wane as the conversation starts to get. Flirting is YOU and HER – your personality and hers – sharing some basic information and making it more fun. There’s nothing worse than a girl who. she was bound to be attracted to me. and add some much-needed texture to the conversation. Needless to say. While they may have some approach anxiety. hitting it with a bend. My interests used to lie exclusively in history. MI. well.Social Superstar Day 6 How to be a Good Flirt Written by Christian Hudson Originally Published 06/18/2008 I was a very boring guy until I turned about 22.

promise. INTERESTING CONVERSATION F: So where are you from? M: Hmmmm. London. ranging from “I don’t know.The Best of TSBMAG. so check it out… What have we done here? We’ve conveyed the exact same information. Let’s consider a few tweaks. our man is relaying facts. DULL. FUN. But perhaps an example is in order. F: Stains… what’s that like? M: Ok. I’m from Stains. It's just outside London. M: Ohhh! So close. look her in the eye. Swooosh – instant texture. and probably not even as interesting. ahhh. BORING CONVO F: So where are you from? M: Right. (Note: there are about a million responses she could have here. uh… Stains. F: Ok… how is it there? M: It’s pretty nice. I’ll tell you what it's like… (here you’re “headlining” what you’re going to say. step back. This conversation is as flat as a deflated blimp. put your hand on her shoulder and lean into her ear. I’m from… guess where I’m from. You get the Silver Star. but we’ve texturized it with some personality. saying quietly)… but you can’t tell anyone else. building up anticipation. You know. and say) Promise? F: Ok. M: Cool.” to “that’s too hard” – we’ll use one of those in a later example). (Now.COM and running it through a flanger. where are you from? Here. How about you. (Here you’re creating a little game – more fun) F: Ohhh. (Little reward for playing along). Nope. Key point: the girl is not having FUN sharing this information. Now. We’ve made a little game 286 . it was a good place to grow up.

(I wouldn’t play a “reward/punishment” game here if it's early in the conversation. he was doing a lot better with the ladies. Too often. I’m a…. One option was to say “Are you qualifying me already?” which girls usually take as offensive and which. our models of fun behavior and delivery are guys who are way over the top.” You can be totally chill. you’ll be golden. or have some other presentation style that just smacks of “seduction community. but there’s no algorithm for knowing which – you just need to practice and develop a feel for it. (She’s going to have to work harder than her lame ‘How to Separate the Duds from the Studs in NYC’ guidebook told her she would) F: I don’t know. and the process of sharing information. because I’m not being truthful. So what’s a fun way to stand out when a girl asks you this question? F: So what do you do? M: Hmmm. These exact conversation fragments happened with a boot camp client not long ago. I want to add too – you don’t have to be a dancing ape with your delivery on this one. so let’s consider another example… a girl asks you what you do. as you’re getting away from the question at that point). The other thing I’d say was something like “I’m a garbage man. screening and qualifying . 95% of the time. (And she’s not pleased about it!) M: Ok. guess what I do. punished them for asking me about myself. There’s a whole mess of other things going on in here . shuts down the conversation.but most importantly. and as long as your delivery includes some warmth and a smile. needless to say. That line works with certain girls. there must be a book that girls receive when they move here. Think Happy Californian Stoner/Surfer. about how to tell if the guy they’re talking to is going to treat them to Per Se dinners and weekends in the Hamptons. I used to answer this question in one of two ways. Ok. 287 . This is literally the first question out of the mouth of every girl you meet here in NYC. act gay. after coaching him on how to rock the second one.subtle frame control. tell you what… (thinking)… I’ll give you three options. a lot more FUN.Social Superstar of getting it out of you.” which is obviously a lie and which. It could be anything. it's made the conversation.

(Give her a little hug) F: Wait what do you mean partial credit? M: Well… I’ve actually done all three. right? But you’ve got the power of your copious intellect. Now. Of course. the way that you present something like this may vary. but no kiss on the cheek yet. And so on. you’re wicked smart. right… M: Option 3: I run a software company that builds security software for biotech firms who want to protect sensitive data from being stolen by insiders (sounds legit.COM F: Ok. This is a conversation I have. Damn. M: I know. so I’m going to guess option 3. F: Haha. that sounds good. M: Ok.e. fun. M: Wow. exactly.The Best of TSBMAG. if you play guitar you could say “I’m a musician working to get his first breakthrough demo track laid down). F: So you’re an entrepreneur! M: Yeah. (Lots of detail. ok… M: Option 2: I consult with men on their lifestyles and communications skills – kind of like Hitch – to help them meet cooler women and have better social lives (too ridiculous to be true – or is it?) F: hahahaha. one way you might want to present it is to throw in your job. and helps me avoid talking about the coaching stuff because I’ll steer it into talking about jello shots or software. boring version: 288 . it's time to ask the girl what she does. Here’s the flat. interesting) F: Ahhh. you’re like… kind of right! You get partial credit! That deserves a hug. along with two hobbies. option 1… I run a beverage company that produces and markets caffeinated gelatin shots in little one ounce packets. described as if they were jobs (i. too complicated to be a lie) F: Okkkkkk… that’s tough. described very interestingly. frequently almost verbatim.

makes a girl feel much better about sharing information with you. why (she’s probably smiling now too)…. OutOfHere. How’d you get into sales? See? Creating this playful tension. I’m just messing with ya. no you’re NOT. more texture. But if the attitude you take with you into your interactions is “what would give this conversation some texture. why (she’s probably smiling now too)…. She has FUN telling it to you because the conversation itself is a little series of surprises. immediately. M: Ok. this is what flirting is all about. Let’s consider another example. Get. uh… what’s that? I meet girls every day and they tell me they do something that I’ve never heard of. OutOfHere. Same information. this texture. to what a girl does. I just don’t have anything good to relate. but with a more common job: M: So what do you do? F: I’m a sales representative for [insert big faceless company here] M: Wait a minute. More often than not. (Smiling as if she just made your day when she told you that) F: Wait.? M: Actually. some fun?” then you’ll find yourself flirting pretty effortlessly. no you’re NOT. Get.? M: Ah.Social Superstar M: So what do you do? F: I’m a technical designer for Jill Sanders. And ultimately. more playfulness. But it sounds exciting. (Smiling as if she just made your day when she told you that) F: Wait. 289 . Tell me about it. I have no idea what a technical designer is (both laugh). So what can you do with that?! Well… M: So what do you do? F: I’m a technical designer for Jill Sanders M: Wait a minute. We’ve barely scratched the surface in terms of all the techniques you can use to flirt.

. But the fact is. Proximity. I recommend having a couple canned openers ready for different situations… but I would keep them simple (hey. Don’t hold your breath. When it comes to opening girls I’ve found that several things will make all the difference. You’re mentally in the wrong state. The reason these approaches are the best is because very little thought is going into the interaction. The less thought out and planned an interaction is the more natural and relaxed you will appear. guaranteed to work opening line to say to a woman. An opener is just the first thing you say to start an interaction. Yes. Once you start scanning your mind for things to say it's over. make you look cool. But that's just my opinion. The easiest girls to talk to are the ones you're standing closest to. there is no perfect opener. fail proof. The best approaches are spontaneous.) and stay away from the classic Mystery or Strauss “who lies more” or “what 80’s pop duo should I name my dog after?” I’ve found that guys who are using these elaborate canned openers are getting stuck in routine mode and not going on to develop natural conversation skills. Personally. But there are perfect ways to approach and deliver your opening line. ideally it will make her laugh.COM Day 7 Simple steps for Successfully Approaching and Opening Women Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 06/19/2008 I think most guys are waiting for some new pick. Most of the times these girls will be expecting you to open 290 . 1. BAM! You see a woman you want to talk to an immediately initiate a conversation.up artist to come out with an innovative. This is why in the beginning a lot of coaches recommend using canned openers.The Best of TSBMAG. and create conversation that just flows from it. are you guys friendly?.

5.Once you’ve approached and opened girls keep a really fun vibe. Now they’re opened. Remember not all girls are super outgoing… some girls need a little prying before they open up. On the other hand. I hope that these tips help next time you’re out. You don’t want to be the guy doing laps all night with the hungry look on his face. You have to differentiate between a girl who visibly giving you signals of disinterest… and the girls that just take a little more work. 4. The longer you wait the more awkward it's going to be. and is probably bored.If you open a girl and the whole time you’re talking to her she’s fumbling with her cell phone and avoiding eye contact… don’t waste your time. Spontaneous.Social Superstar them. Stay Fun. There are entire books on approaching but sometimes it's the simplest advice that is most practical and easy to implement. Bobby 291 . Open as many people around you as quickly as you can. You also want to present the image that you could turn and walk away at any time. don't prematurely eject. This will put you in the right frame of mind. Body Language. If you’ve entered a bar.” Once you’re in interview mode she knows you’re hitting on her. Because the approach was spontaneous you will be sending off really natural body language. Know when to eject and when not to. 2. I see too many guys open a girl with a funny line… then immediately go into “interview mode. As you walk into a venue scan the room for the best possible spot. Even if you just say “you girls look like you’re ready for a fun night” give them cheers with your glass and then go back to talking to your friend. and you’re in the proximity to a couple girls you want to talk to.The reason spontaneous approaches work the best is because your body language doesn’t have time to get all weird and up tight. if you get a tad resistance. You want to make sure your body language conveys the image that this interaction carries no excess value to you. The best approaches feel spontaneous. You’re better off staying playful for awhile. (And build social value) them immediately. That is the beauty of the three second rule.

You need to get her to invest some interest in talking to you. the other night I was talking to a girl at a bar. I guided her along.” “So you imagined yourself in a power suit… doing lunches with the Gordon Gekko types. When that thread died down it was easy to transition into another interesting topic. actually I imagined it was a job on Wall St.The Best of TSBMAG. and I asked her if she lived in the city. “So.. you’re here because as a child you had bright lights big city dreams… you imagined yourself strolling down Fifth Ave. Here she brought up the emotions she felt of excitement mixed with fear.” “So tell me what your first week in the city was really like” I asked her. The standard question that most guys would have asked next was “how do you like the city?” Instead I said. swinging your briefcase on your way to your job in advertising…” At this point she stopped me and said… “Ha-ha. talking about how Intel is down a point?” From there the conversation flowed naturally because I avoided interview mode. I’m a finance geek. After you’ve approached a woman and have broken the ice with an opening line… you need to hook her into the conversation.. 292 . For instance. How do you get a girl to invest some interest in the conversation? One of the easiest ways to elicit a response is to make assumptions about her and funny guesses. She told me she just moved here from Iowa. Using the material she gave me “the mix of excitement and fear” I was able to transition into another thread.COM Day 8 Improving Your Conversation Skills Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 06/20/2008 The goal of a conversation is to connect with the other person on some level..

... It was probably one where you challenged yourself a bit…” “Haha. If you’re listening to her you’ll notice a new hook every time she opens her mouth. out of money” “Oh. her first month here) Each time she gives you a hook you should relate it back to her establishing a connection. that sounds like a good story. A hook is something she says that you can use to extend the conversation. and how it almost brings you back your childhood when things were still new… and you had that desire to explore.... arriving in NY. The biggest mistakes guys make is turning the conversation into an interview… take the conversation above and see how easily it could have headed into interview mode: • • • • • me: Do you live in the city? her: I just moved here from Iowa me: Oh yea. (Leaving Iowa. The key to being a good conversationalist is to keep your ears open for hooks..” We were able to smoothly transition from “Do you live in the City?” to having a detailed conversation about our most adventurous vacations. do tell!” See how the conversation is naturally flowing from one thread to another? After she spoke a bit about her adventure in France I told her about my first time in Brazil. yes… being stuck in France not speaking a word of the language. When she told me she just moved here from Iowa a month ago she gave me three hooks to work off of. and explained the emotion I felt of “being lost on this entirely different continent.. so what do you do? her: I’m a stock broker me: where do you usually hangout? 293 ..Social Superstar “Well aren’t the most satisfying times in life the times you feel that adrenaline? It's like when you think of your most memorable vacation… it probably wasn’t a vacation you sat in a beach chair sipping Pina Coladas.

me: Oh yea. You also want to stay away from “try hard” relating. I dabbled with stocks online a little. What do you do? her: I’m a stockbroker. Here is an example from my conversation of how I took things deeper. This is actually a technique I learned from Richard La Ruina’s book The Natural Art of Seduction where he talks about taking things deeper. didn’t speak the language. This is where everything she says you try to find away to immediately relate to it. So what does one do when they know no one will find out? • See how I acknowledged the emotion that she must have been feeling. I was really listening to her. 2. I have a friend who went there on vacation last year. 294 . This simple acknowledgement let her know that: 1.COM See how easily the conversation could have turned into a high pressured interview if I hadn’t used what she gave me and related it back to her. me: So you must have felt both the thrill and fear of complete anonymity.The Best of TSBMAG. That I was genuinely curious to know what one does when they know no one is watching.. Who cares that your friend went there on vacation? The proper way to handle a hook is to relate it back to her. her: It was this time in France when I was dead broke. That I was able to empathize and understand her. • • me: tell me about your most adventurous vacation. and alone for two days wondering around Paris. What do you do for fun? In the example above you’re wasting valuable hooks by trying to fill the air with pointless banter about yourself. • • • • • me: Do you live in the city? her: I just moved here from Iowa me: Really. 3.

Practice picking out the hooks these people are giving you. and then practice acknowledging the hooks. family. If you get in this habit you will naturally become a better conversationalist. Many of us have old habits that we’re going to have to break.Social Superstar Once you’ve acknowledged what she has given you it is alright to relate the story to yourself. She knows that you’re not superficially trying to relate… This is a conversational strategy you should take on no matter who you are talking to. and coworkers. 295 . Instead of waiting for attractive girls to practice this new conversational strategy I would suggest practicing it with your friends. The easiest way to break an old habit is to consistently implement a new one. Because now she knows that you’re on the same playing field.

Until you reach that level of game. One of my rules has always been that it’s all right to put a woman on a pedestal so long as it’s made clear that you’re on the throne. treating a woman like a queen is not a sign of weakness as long as it’s crystal clear that you’re the king. I hope you guys enjoy it and find it helpful. the easier it will get to convey that you’re an alpha male and a prize with hardly any effort. which is the moment of interaction at the bar or club. you will probably want to lean more toward indirect game and playful teasing and insults. Or to put it another way. Two things I hear guys ask about when it comes to building comfort with women are (1) whether to go indirect versus direct with the game and (2) whether to compliment or playfully insult the woman. which is even higher. My answer is…it depends on your conveyed status.COM Day 9 How to Build Comfort with a Girl Written by T Originally Published: 06/23/2008 Bobby Rio asked me to shed some light on building comfort with women. Eventually though as you get more comfortable with your inner game and alpha role.The Best of TSBMAG. Picture yourself as 296 . sure you can compliment a woman upon first meeting her. however. physical appearance. If there’s any possible doubt as to your status versus her status. The more comfortable you get with your game. social proofing and/or manner of speech are strong enough to convey higher value from the moment you walk in the door or open your mouth. you want to get skilled at knowing how and when to use compliments and direct game as well as using negs and indirect game. however. it’s always better to start in the beginning with a little more indirect game and use playful negging and teasing to bring down your target’s status in relation to your status. Daytime Drills One of the biggest problems men have with building comfort with women is that they put too much emphasis on the moment of truth. If your body language. This is just a sampler of techniques you can use to build comfort with women and isn’t meant to be an exhaustive list by any means.

take mental notes on what works and what doesn’t. You’d never do that. Women’s defenses tend to be down more in these casual daytime situations than they are in a bar or nightclub where they are more guarded due to being hit on incessantly. The point is to get comfortable starting conversations with women and to get comfortable with the occasional rejection. and forget to ever repeat that joke or story again.Social Superstar an athlete. Start a conversation every day with a different attractive woman. but you never practice or touch a basketball except during big games in front of a large amount of people. And by the time you hit the big game you’d feel a lot less pressure on yourself because you mentally prepared yourself for this moment. the more you get rejected. Don’t fall into that trap. If you’re stuck on a long post office line behind an attractive woman. the more you realize that it won’t kill you and that 297 . go for five minutes. say a basketball player. When you do these daily conversations in the beginning you’re just aiming to get used to the banter and to reduce the anxiety you get from having conversations with women. you don’t have to get a number or pick a woman up. You’d run drills. For some reason a lot of guys make a joke or tell a story that works brilliantly in a conversation. It’s not enough to make a note on what doesn’t work for the sake of avoiding repeating the mistake. Then go for a minute. You’d take shot after shot after shot in your spare time. The whole goal is to get comfortable talking to women you don’t know. You’d practice by yourself for hours when nothing is on the line and not a lot of people are watching. With these drills. that’s an opportunity for conversation. Imagine how nervous you’d be. In fact. pat themselves on the back for it. A cramped subway car is an opportunity. Chat with a cute bank teller while she’s handling business for you. You’d do visualization exercises. The same applies for building comfort with women: practice when it doesn’t count and when no one is watching and you’ll be way more confident and perform much better during game time. Ask a woman for her opinion on a cologne or article of clothing you’re considering buying when you’re shopping at the department store. Make small talk with the Starbucks barista when waiting for your coffee. it’s even more important to make notes on what does work so that you can repeat it and fine-tune it. so you’ll experience less rejection and more responsiveness than you would in a nightspot. Aim for 30 seconds. You achieve that. When you do this. A woman sitting next to you on a bus reading a book you’ve already read is an opportunity. Imagine how off your game would be.

if you step on her foot or spill a drink on her. A woman busts their balls a little bit and they backtrack or apologize immediately. Then you’ll want to get used to observing and interpreting body language. A friend of mine. Be cocky. never sound desperate to please. the anxiety kicks in and they start getting flustered easily. muscular physique. Don’t do it. I’ll give an example of this. because both those tendencies are obstacles to building comfort. avoid self-deprecation or anything that lowers your status. There is one exception to the self-deprecating humor rule: you can use selfdeprecating humor if it’s blatantly insincere and actually points out one of your strengths: for example. weakling you are. Once you get used to doing your daily daytime drills and getting comfortable starting and maintaining conversations with women. I’m going to focus on how to build comfort with a woman once you’re already in conversation with her. It works great because (a) it’s genuinely funny when done right and (b) it points out one of your strengths yet comes off less obnoxious and approval-seeking than outright bragging. and tease her like she’s your little sister. Don’t use self-deprecating humor. Apologizing for your actions is the right thing to do under some circumstances. I’m not going to focus on openers and how to start conversations with women. There are plenty of other articles out there about that. Beethoven. And that alone is important. Then they start over apologizing. recently approached two women at a bar. if you have an athletic.COM it’s not the end of the world. Of course use your discretion. but never at your own expense. The conversation started out well 298 . Second. First. you can joke about what a 95 lb. When many guys come across a pretty woman. Stick to your guns. Don’t apologize. Apologizing for who you are and what you believe however is a no-no. then you should apologize. They are so afraid of not getting her approval that they almost beg for it. But outside of that exception. Then you need to focus on using your body language to convey the alpha male impression you want to convey. Avoid it at all costs. Make her laugh. don’t apologize for who you are and don’t be afraid to offend. Nightlife Comfort Since this article is supposed to be about building comfort. you’ll see your bar or nightclub game improve dramatically. be playful.The Best of TSBMAG.

If she’s heavily into church. Once you start winning a woman over and she is warming up to you. don’t mock her chosen field as frivolous or stupid. know when to stop negging and teasing so much. For some reason. move around from place to place. which would make her lose respect for him. you risk coming off as a real obnoxious prick. ever want to tease a girl about a topic related to her core values. He just looked her up and down and said “Whatever. Not only did he turn that potential negative into a positive. often does more harm than good Fourth. they go overboard and do it for too long. even playfully. instead of making the situation better. And then it goes from being cute and charming to just smug. If you just keep negging and teasing at the same level you were when you first started building comfort with her. even if it’s within the bar or club. it would have just highlighted the awkwardness. but at some point one of the girls asked Beethoven what he and his friends were discussing earlier. didn’t backtrack and didn’t apologize. You should keep playful tone and never stop teasing totally. Third. annoying and dickish. why does it bother you? It’s not like you have anything to worry about looking the way you do” and just kept going with the conversation. don’t tease or playfully insult her favorite cause or ideology. changing locations gives the psychological 299 . Women do not respect a man they can easily dominate or make uncomfortable. If she is passionate about fashion and works in the field. But Beethoven stuck to his guns.” His target’s jaw dropped and she was absolutely mortified. which would have made her uncomfortable.Social Superstar enough. put her in a position of dominance. don’t mock religion. he ended up hooking up with her. Good rule of thumb is to be careful about negging about political stances. as these tend to represent a person’s core values and insulting these. By never sounding desperate to please and never apologizing for who you are. If she’s passionate about politics and is involved in certain causes. and even worse. Beethoven responded “We were just discussing how many fat girls there are here tonight. she is going to want to start getting to know you and building rapport with you. you earn their respect and set the foundation for building more comfort. She said “That’s not very nice” and seemed disgusted. If he apologized. but you do want to dial it down as you build more and more rapport with the girl. they will feel uncomfortable around you. Sometimes when guys get really good at the negging and teasing and see the initial results it gets them. and if they do not respect you. And you never. chosen careers and religious beliefs.

don’t overdo it. It’s an illusion. As with anything. Light.” but it’s something my friend and I always made sure to do before we ever knew what it was called. In the pickup community they call it “Kino. may start venting and getting worked up and then start transferring her issues with her ex 300 .COM impression that you are spending more time together and bonding more. If you know how to dance. it can end up being a light. but it’s not that hard. With ex-es. lead her to a spot at the bar and order drinks. but it works. do not dwell too deeply into conversation about ex's (hers or yours) and specific approaches toward sex. Then go to another part of the bar. Fifth. take her to the dance floor later. really. Or on the flip side. playful touching conveys sexual interest and builds attraction and sexual tension. the more time she feels like she’s spent with you and the more comfortable she feels. These things can backfire too easily if you don’t know what you’re doing. such as going from one bar to a second bar to lounge to a diner…bouncing around like that gives the psychological impression to a girl that she’s just spent three or four mini-dates with you and she’ll feel more comfort with you than if you spent that exact same amount of time talking to her rooted to one spot.The Best of TSBMAG. I’m not going to go into the specifics of playful touching here. A conversation will get stale quickly and turn into the foundation for a friend zone relationship if you never touch her during the conversation. but you can find tons of Kino-related articles by Bobby and Mike right here on the TSB Magazine I’m sure. she may have a lot of unresolved anger toward him. Moving around from venue to venue also helps build comfort. make sure to touch her whenever you can. which are very important when building comfort. Take her to another end of the bar and introduce her to some your friends. while it’s cool to playfully bring up sex. if within a bar. You don’t want to come off as hyperactive and spastic and moving around every 30 seconds. For example. But there’s also the risk that she may end up talking about him at length and getting nostalgic about him and talking about how much she still loves him. Getting the balance of touching just right so that you don’t come off either too timid or too aggressive takes some trial and error. and suddenly the attraction mood is dead and you’re on the road to becoming her emotional tampon as she drones on and on about how much feelings she has for him. If you build comfort without building attraction at the same time. harmless conversation. The more locations a woman associates with you. Sixth. you’ve just guaranteed yourself a place in the friend zone. 10 minutes later take her to some couches to sit down.

and I have to get to know him very well first. If a woman hasn’t built much attraction and comfort with you yet and you ask her what her attitude is about how soon is too soon to have sex. even if she gets insanely attracted and comfortable with you later in that same conversation. she’ll be very cognizant about coming off like a slut to a guy she barely knows and may say something like “I don’t have sex with a guy until three or four months of dating. With men. Hope it helps some of you out there. By asking her such a specific sexual questions too early before she’s built comfort and rapport with you. why guys hurt women…I ended up being her convenient target for everything she hated about men. to change their minds you must change their emotions. now that she’s verbally committed to that. And on her end. As I mentioned before. Instead I spent the night fielding angry questions about why guys cheat. it’s going to mentally psyche you out and make you behave less aggressively in your comfort building. Meanwhile.Social Superstar specifically and men in general toward the next closest male target. You’ll start believing you have no shot of building much comfort anytime soon. And regarding bringing up specific approaches toward sex. why guys fear commitment. I made this mistake with a woman once. to change their minds you must change their logic. who in this case would be you. women’s attitudes change wildly with their emotional states. but I think it’s a pretty good foundation. 301 . if you never asked about sex at all things could have happened much more spontaneously. she’s going to feel obligated to stick to her original conservative statement for fear of looking like a hypocrite or liar. it wasn’t a great comfort-building conversation. here’s an example of how that can backfire. thinking that making her talk about her shitty ex would be a great way to sell myself as a positive alternative. Needless to say. With women. you’ll get a totally different answer than you would if you asked her that same question later on when you have her on an emotional high. Unlike men.” Now that you’ve made her explicitly give a sexual timetable. this isn’t an exhaustive list when it comes to building comfort.

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Day 10 Being Funnier – Make it fun!
Written by Barry Kirkey Originally Published: 06/24/2008

Every woman likes a positive man, and often, positivity takes the form of a good sense of humor. The problem with giving anyone advice about how to become funnier, is that humor is universally subjective. Meaning, every culture, sub-culture or individual decides what is funny on their own. Yeah there are exceptions, people can be told by popular media what they think is funny, but you’re not one of those people because you’re reading this article. Here are some things you can do to become funnier, in chronological order: First, find out what you like. A sense of humor is as unique as your own DNA (simile). They are usually a complex combination of joke types, body language, interest in shows/movies, and so forth. This step should normally be a no-brainer, but you’d be surprised at how so many people dislike comedy. Once you find out what you like, expose yourself to it. Watch those shows and movies that you love. Watch them alone or with friends and family. Learn how to laugh out loud when you watch them, even if you’re by yourself. I would caution you, however, not to “force it down,” meaning if you’re not in the mood to watch a comedy show (sitcoms, late night, etc.) then don’t watch it. If you have the problem of never being in the mood then you need to find out why this is the case. Note: If you’re never in the mood to laugh, you may have other issues that are keeping you down. I suggest you speak to a psychologist, doctor or other professional that can determine why your mood is always down. You might be surprised to learn about what prevents you from doing what you love. This can be something as serious as depression or anxiety. However, it can also mean that you’re still, subconsciously, dealing with unresolved matters in your life (such as, a fight with your dad 6 months ago and you haven’t talked to him since). After enough exposure, you’re ready to take it to the field. Try to avoid copying other jokes directly – those Borat impressions are no longer

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funny, so don’t do them. Unless you’re a naturally funny guy – then you can get away with it, but that’s a whole different article. If you must copy, use a variation of what you’ve learned instead. For example, if you want to do a Seinfeld joke, don’t just start quoting the show. Do your worst and most annoying Seinfeld voice and exaggerate a Seinfeld-type joke as much as you can. Make it ridiculous and unexpected. While all this is going, laugh at your own jokes. Laugh as much as you can and absorb the criticism of others by laughing even more. Here’s why: Laughing is infectious. The more you laugh, the more others around you are likely to laugh as well. Not only that, but let’s consider the whole theory of conditioning by association. If you’re consistently around the same people, doing jokes often, and laughing often, people will associate you with laughter. When this happens, you’ve won the game – you’re known as “the funny guy.” “But Mr. fuckface (me)! How do I use this to get girls!?” Just by statistics, most people end up in quality relationships through other people that you already know (i.e., in the office, friend of a friend or family member). So you get the immediate benefit of being “the funny” guy in your own social circle that way. “But Mr. faggittface (me)! What about girls you don’t know?!” Okay, that’s definitely more difficult, but not impossible. With cold approaches, first impressions are the only thing you have, so make it count. Start off with the best jokes you have, make sure you laugh and you smile. If she looks down on you, make a friendly insult, “wow – someone dropped their funny basket in the toilet today!” and walk on to the next person. If you end up forced into a situation with someone who doesn’t respect your humor then this is particularly challenging, because you can potentially make an enemy without knowing it. Similar to what happened with Darth Vador, it’s difficult to turn someone from being your enemy to your friend, but not impossible. I won’t go into this situation now, because that is a discussion for those who are already polished and comfortable with their own sense of humor… Dun dun dun! Anal.

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Day 11 Mastering the Art of Push-Pull and Cocky-Funny
Written by The Asian Rake Originally Published: 06/25/2008

Do You Want Faster and More Powerful Seductions? How the 80/20 Principle applies to Push-Pull and Cocky-Funny? We’ve all heard about the 80/20 principle first developed by Vilfredo Pareto in the context of the distribution of income and wealth. My experience and observations have shown that the 80/20 rule applies just as well to push-pull and cocky-funny. After closely observing naturals who are masters at crazily rapid escalations and seductions, and after a lot of discussions with PUAs who have really tight game, I’ve discovered an important enhancement to the simplistic push-pull and cocky-funny concepts. This small bit of finetuning can shave a lot of time off your seductions and create much stronger, closer emotional connections. Here’s my thesis statement (yes, I’m an academic, lol): If you want to seduce a woman faster and have her more powerfully attracted to you, the optimal mix for a man who already has his fundamentals down (his body language, tonality, and basic inner game) and is interacting with a confident and attractive woman is 80% pull, 20% push. I’m not going to be too strict about the numbers. But more accurately, the optimal combination depends on how good the man’s fundamentals are and how confident the woman is. It’s a continuum with the upper end of the continuum being 80-20 pull-push. My experience has also been that pull-push is best mixed with humor. Plus, the pull and the push are opposite manifestations of cockiness. With push, you are cocky enough to think that you are too good for the girl, so you push her away. With pull, you are cocky enough to think that you are irresistible to her and to women in general, and you want her, so you pull her in. Although there is plenty to say about this combination of push-pull and cocky-funny, I’ll leave that to another article. My focus here is on the

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80/20 principle applied to the push-pull dynamic. I’ll assume here that it’s obvious that push-pull is closely connected to cocky-funny. For the classic book on push-pull, see Swingcat’s ebook, Real World Seduction. For cocky-funny, the best authority is David DeAngelo. Check out his ebook, Double Your Dating, and his DVD series, Cocky Comedy. I assume at least familiarity with push-pull and cocky-funny as described in these resources. Christian Hudson and Nick Sparks over at The Social Man are about to release a product that incorporates all the concepts in Swingcat and David D.’s books and then takes it all to another level. Watch at their site for the release. We’re good friends, so I’m a little biased, but you can go over there and check it out for yourself: What I say here is NOT for absolute newbie's, who don’t yet have their fundamentals down (body language, tonality, and basic inner game). If you still don’t know what good BL&T looks, sounds, and feels like, stop reading this and figure that out first. My point here applies to elite game. It’s for guys who want to know what it’s like to live in the top 10%, or higher, of men in this world. That’s not to say this is advanced. It’s just not for beginners. A quickie definition of push-pull straight from the pen of Swingcat: “Push-Pull is whenever you emotionally push a woman away from you and, then, emotionally pull her back in. Each Push creates an emotional space for each Pull.” We’ll be filling this out as we go along. Now let’s unpack the thesis statement. While you can succeed using almost any combination of push and pull (e.g., 80% push-20% pull, 50% push-50% pull), the combination that will generate the fastest seductions and most powerful connections is 80-20 pull-push or in other words, 80% pull-20% push. This is true only if the following also hold: a. The man has good fundamentals (good body language, tonality, tight inner game and is hence non-needy, etc.). This also applies if he is physically attractive or is perceived by the woman to have high social value. b. The woman is unusually attractive in the man’s eyes, and she is confident about her value and attractiveness. This relates to Believability. She needs to be able to be confident enough in her self-worth to accept your advances.

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If both those elements are in place, then the fastest and most powerful route to sex is a mix of 80% pull-20% push. [CAVEAT: If the man only has average fundamentals and the woman is only of average confidence in her own attractiveness and value, then the optimal mix is further down the continuum and closer to 50-50 pushpull. This is because pulling a woman closer to you emotionally is only effective when you already have a basic level of attraction from the woman. Of course, we all know that this kind of attraction is largely independent of one’s physical appearance. Over 90% of this kind of attraction is attributable to body language and tonality alone. That’s why I call these the fundamentals. Your attitude and outlook are also crucial to pulling off the right BL&T, so I include inner game as a factor for the sake of completeness.] Pushing a woman away is effective when a woman looks at you and doesn’t expect you to be cocky. It throws her off and is hence funny. It’s like when a precocious child talks like an adult, using mature and sophisticated vocabulary, sentence structure, etc. It’s unexpected and incongruent with the kid’s image, and hence, kind of funny, and if done right, it’s admirable. Now imagine a 50 year old, sophisticated-looking man talking the same way. It’s not funny anymore. It’s just normal and expected. Similarly, when a below average looking guy uses a lot of push cockyfunny, talking as if he’s too good for her and using humorous sarcasm, it’s attractive because the woman begins to wonder, “How can this guy be so cocky? He must have something going for him that I can’t see yet. I’m interested.” And because it’s done in a comedic way, she’s not offended, but rather, intrigued. Now if a guy who has his fundamentals down (good BL&T), a goodlooking guy, or a guy perceived to have high value starts to push her away emotionally, she’s not intrigued. Why? Because it’s obvious why this guy is so cocky. He’s good-looking, high-value, or has an attractive personality. It’s not funny anymore because it’s expected and congruent with his image. He just comes across cocky. For a guy like this to use cocky-funny, he has to really emphasize the humor and really cut down on the cocky part.

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Most people overlook the fact that David D. himself acknowledged this in one of his newsletters: "If you’re a pretty good looking guy, you might turn down the cocky, and turn up the funny. Women perceive good-looking guys who act cocky as MAJOR PLAYERS, and too much cocky too soon can backfire on you.” More accurately, this isn’t just true for guys who are good-looking. If your fundamentals are strong, or you’re perceived as high-value, then it applies just as well to you. It’s the push dynamic that makes these high-value or good-looking guys come across as too unattainable. For guys like this, it’s best to use the pull dynamic more often and save the push dynamic for that 20% of dramatic contrast. And obviously, when a guy with good fundamentals, attractive appearance, or high social value is perceived as a “major player,” it is very bad for his Believability. You can do it the opposite way, of course. You can do mainly push and just a little pull, like 80% push and 20% pull. Or you can be very cocky and only a little funny. Sure, you can get success that way, too. But for the most part, if your fundamentals are already strong, then: 1) You can get much faster seductions by pulling her in more often than you can by pushing her away. 2) You can get the girl to feel a deeper emotional bond with you by pulling more often than pushing. Here’s why: 1. If your fundamentals are good, then you will be a relatively DOMINANT, powerful, and confident man. Hence, girls (and most people in general) will naturally feel like following your lead. So when you tell a girl to sit down, she will feel a strong social and emotional pull to sit down. When you’re emotionally pulling a girl in by telling her to kiss you, she will have to work extra hard to resist. Most girls like a strong, dominant, powerful, confident guy, and many girls have the fantasy of “being taken” by such a man. Any resistance they give to such a man is just token.


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Thus, if you already have good fundamentals (BL&T and basic inner game), and you want to shave massive amounts of time off your seductions, you’re better off pulling the girl in more frequently than pushing her away because the chances are good she will give in more often than not. Ah, but Asian Rake, when you push a girl away, doesn’t she want to pull you in? Isn’t that the whole point of pushing her away? So you can get her to chase you? Yes, to a certain extent, this is true. That’s why you SHOULD STILL PUSH. That’s the all-important 20%. In fact, by pulling most of the time, when you do finally push her away, it’ll feel that much more powerful to her. If you’re a dominant guy, girls will feel pressure to follow your orders, and unless she’s very dominant herself, chances are good that she will NOT pull you in return every time you push her away. Chances are good that if you are a dominant man, when you push her further away, she will follow your lead and remain further away. Assuming the pushes and pulls are of about equal emotional intensity (that’s one variable I’m leaving out here), if you PULL more often than not, she might resist you at first, but then because you’re dominant, she’ll follow your lead and move closer to you emotionally and physically. If you PUSH more often than not, she might resist you at first, but then because you’re a dominant guy, she’ll follow your lead and move further away from you emotionally and physically. Sure you can generate attraction with most combinations of push-pull. But what’s faster to sex? When she’s emotionally and physically closer to you, or when she’s emotionally and physically farther from you? It should be obvious. This is how the best naturals I’ve seen get bathroom lays in less than 15 minutes. It’s pull-pull-pull-pull-PUSH-pull-pull-pull-PUSH-pull-pull-pull to the bathroom. 2. By pulling more often than pushing, you can also create the deep emotional connections much faster.

how can she possibly feel an emotional connection? This should be obvious. this is also a key technique for creating the kind of emotional connections that will get girls to fall in love with you FAST. is a great example of a pull. She’ll be saying to herself.” said in response to her little adventure story. I like that. 309 . this guy really. “Wow. probably the best way to illustrate what I mean is through examples. helpfully lays it all out in his Double Your Dating: I’m going to play hard to get. If your Believability game is good then every qualification is actually a pull. you are really adventurous. of course. David D. make fun of her. For instance. so I’m going to really keep the heat on… and when she starts to show any interest at all on the outside. What exactly do I mean by Push Cocky-Funny vs. however. Now let’s add the COCKY-FUNNY into the mix. but this is one of the easiest to do. Let’s first talk about the internal mindset behind Push Cocky-Funny. When you stack enough of these. sincerely likes me for my special qualities. One very effective kind of pull technique is in conjunction with screening and qualifying. I know that she loves a guy that is so sarcastic that it makes her nervous. Pull Cocky-Funny? Once again.” And of course. “Wow. truly. she’ll feel like you really appreciate her for her unique qualities.Social Superstar If you’re continually pushing her away emotionally. There are others. A far more efficient way to develop emotional connections is to pull her in emotionally. I’m going to blow her off and make her prove to me that she wants me… so I can reject her again. and generally bust her balls as much as possible. Btw. be indifferent towards her. like sharing secrets and using childhood regression. she’ll want to open herself up and continue connecting with you. PUSH COCKY-FUNNY The prime proponent of this is David D.

I’ll turn to her and say in a completely serious voice.” PULL COCKY-FUNNY This is my default style of cocky-funny. like if I’m standing next to a girl at a bar. (Pull #3) HB (laughing): No way. I never thought I’d be plugging David D. as if he needs to sell any more.” they’re thinking this kind of cocky-funny. I could go on forever.COM You notice that with this mindset. which is what I call. I learned from a natural friend that this sort of thing is best done when you’re a bit over the top or dramatically exaggerated in what you say and in your facial expressions. so I’ll give you one of my own examples. long-haired beauty walks by. “Push Cocky-Funny. 310 . just look at you.The Best of TSBMAG. You’re driving me crazy. I say after lowering my hands) I’m in love with you… Give me your number. follows this up with some now classic examples: I do crazy things. LOL. but you’re better off reading his eBook or watching his DVD series Cocky Comedy. Me: OMG! (Then. tonality. This took place near the coat check of a huge nightclub. David D. When most guys think “cocky-funny. you’ll be pushing her away a lot more than you’ll be pulling her in. (Pull #2) HB (breaking out laughing): Where are you from? Me: From? It doesn’t matter. which is just about the only place in the club where you can talk without speaking right into her ear. A super cute.’s materials. First tell me where you’re from. “Will you PLEASE stop touching me?” And then look them right in the eye. “What are you doing at a bar for god sakes? Can’t you find a nice normal guy? Or are you desperate?” All with a completely straight face. with a sigh and a love-sick puppy dog look. and I jump in front of her with my hands slightly extended in front of my chest in a “stopping” motion with my palms out. (Pull #1) HB (shocked): Huh? Are you crazy? Why? Me (with an incredulous look on my face): Why? I mean. It should be a crime for you to walk in public. Wow. Or say. I want your number. and body language.

I texted her about an hour later. you’re making me really nervous.” and started walking off. bye. (Pull #5) HB laughed. For an example of a fast make out. Zan is probably the best representative of this kind of cockyfunny. HB: Um. Notice the push-pull ratio here. (Push #1) HB laughed. You’ll have to check back for those. “enlightened seduction. China? Me: Pretty close… (Taking a step closer to her so that we’re inches apart. check the mASF archives or google. Here. and now you’re calling me a liar? That’s it. The one push came after 4 pulls. some of which you can find elsewhere on my site and some of which I might write about in the future. You can have the dog. I don’t even think that push was necessary. Me (perking up and letting out a sly smile): Okay. HB said (with a smile): “Okay. In fact.Social Superstar Me: Okay. as my natural friends have shown.” 311 . … guess. wait. You can’t go. and then I let her go back to her friends.) You know. give me your number. and she texted back. If you haven’t read any of his materials yet. Another great example comes from Zan. I said nothing and continued looking fake-mad. That was 5 pulls to 1 push. (Pull #4) HB (laughing): You’re not nervous. Me (throwing off her hand and looking shocked): Are you calling me a liar? I’ve just confessed my deep dark love for you. Among the community oldtimers. feel. My hands are all cold and sweaty. (Then. This sort of Pull Cocky-Funny can get you super fast make outs and. I take her hand in mine). I’ll be so sad… I’m going to go home and cry now (and then I slumped my shoulders as if completely sad and depressed). We talked a little bit more. I say in a quieter tone. There are many other tales to recount about naturals such as him. asking what I was doing tomorrow… But that’s for another LR. club bathroom sex. HB (laughs): Okay. Me (stepping out in front of her again and knowing that she’s just teasing and wants me to chase her): No. see the LR that features my first encounter with NaturalMD:. We’re getting a divorce… But I’m keeping the DVDs.

or you have high perceived social value. wink) Really? That’s very interesting. Just about everything he says is a pull. and pick up right where I left off. HER: No! I told you last time I have a boyfriend. Push Cocky-Funny vs. Zan pulls her in about seven times.The Best of TSBMAG. And keep it all funny. Did you miss me? HER: Hardly. smile and wink. But if I ever see her again. So her objections don’t even register with him. no problem. HER: No thanks. Tell me your number and I’ll remember it. As if she had never resisted me in the first place. or you’re good-looking. I suppose not… I find this whole exchange completely charming and hilarious. her boyfriend objections (or whatever) mean nothing to me.COM There are so many possibilities to choose from. sweetie. I never. I have two bottles of champagne at home. Pull Cocky-Funny. I immediately go up to her. ZAN: Oh hey. ZAN: One to drink and one to pour all over your body… HER: You never give up. do you? ZAN: Of course not! Wouldn’t be the same if I did. In other words. but this conversation of his has stuck in my mind for a while now: ZAN: Come out with me for a drink tonight. and basic inner game). around 80%-20% is ideal. then you can get faster seductions and make deeper connections by doing more Pull than Push. 312 . If she says she is not interested and leaves. But if you have good fundamentals (body language. tonality. ZAN: I want to see you. I will pick you up at 7. So there you have it. ever worry about a woman’s resistance to me. ZAN: (smile. so you’re still seeing Norman? HER: Uh… his name’s not Norman. My boyfriend wouldn’t like it. and you are interacting with a confident and attractive woman. I understand… let’s make it 8 then. would it? HER (laughing) No. Both can work. ZAN: (big smile) Hello. HER: I can’t. He’s cocky because he believes that she’d be crazy to turn him down. ZAN: Oh. This is the ideal kind of frame to be operating from when doing Pull Cocky-Funny.

others will juggle the loose change in their pocket. They do this because it is a way of avoiding making a connection with someone. Slouching over is a way of keeping a low profile. other people with run their hand through their hair. By taking the time to first break any of these bad habits you may have. it took watching myself on video a few times to really appreciate how many mistakes I was actually making. Some people will rub their chin or neck. They are afraid that if they catch eye contact with someone they will be forced to talk or smile or do something else beyond their comfort zone. Body Language mistakes 1. When people feel insecure or nervous they start to have trouble sitting still. but you’re missing out on opportunities to connect with other human beings. Touching Your Face. and quickly correct them. you will be making it possible to accept the new habits I will talk about later. 2.Social Superstar Day 12 Body Language 101 Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published:06/26/2008 The first thing you need to accept about your body language is that right now you’re probably completely unaware of the mistakes that you are making. Avoiding Eye Contact. Their insecurity eats away at them and they feel forced to constantly be moving their hands. Fiddling with Things. 3. People try to blend in with the crowd by slumping their shoulders. Less confident people tend to look down a lot. By avoiding eye contact with people not only are you giving off a low status vibe. Hopefully by being consciously aware of these mistakes you can catch yourself in the act. It portrays an image that you are socially awkward and unable to properly socialize. and taking up as little space as possible. For me. Subconsciously people slouch because they are timid and don’t want attention on them. bowing their heads. Doing any of these things immediately screams that you are not comfortable in your present situation. The first part of this lesson I want to make you aware of the different ways you are conveying low status. 313 . Slouching Over.

Habit 3: Keep your muscles relaxed. Tell your friends to point this out to you.COM 4. Habit 6: You should keep your feet about as far apart as your shoulders. Spread yourself out a bit.The Best of TSBMAG. If you think she can’t hear you… talk louder.. A smile displays a positive energy that is infectious. If you don’t have a naturally attractive smile than you should practice in front of a mirror. Body Language Habits of the Alpha Male This second part of this lesson is designed to improve your body language and replace the negative habits you may have been displaying. hold eye contact about 50% of the time. Habit 7: Take up space when you sit. Don’t slouch and look sloppy. Create a little game with yourself to remind yourself to pay attention to your posture.. You need to keep your face free of this stress. Habit 2: Get in the habit of walking around with your head up and your neck straight. If you’re talking to a group of people switch eye contact up between the different members of the group… but always be holding it with someone. and which guys will fail. This is another habit you will have to check often to avoid falling back into the old habit of slouching. but don’t be afraid to get comfortable. Leaning Forward to Talk to Someone. Habit 1: Make it a practice to hold eye contact with everyone that you meet. These are not the kind of people other people want to interact with. This is especially true of your facial muscles. If someone else is talking to you. It displays a lack of enthusiasm and energy towards life. 314 . While doing the talking you should be holding eye contact for the majority of the time. as they appear to have nothing to offer. The unsuccessful guys are the ones bent over leaning forward. Holding Your Face up with Your Hand. When we tend to get nervous we tense up in the jaw. It can also give off the impression that you’re uncomfortable with the way you look and are trying to hide your face. Habit 4: Smile often. causing her to move toward him. In the beginning you will need to constantly be checking yourself. The successful guys are usually relaxed leaning away from the girl. The idea is to take up some space. 5. Habit 5: Push your chest out a bit and pull your shoulders back. A quick glance around a room can tell you which guys are going to succeed with the women they are talking to. This displays the image that you’re too bored or tired to bother holding up your head straight.

chest puffed out a bit. shoulders back. You want to give off the vibe that you know where it is and already are heading there. and take big slow steps. Most people speak with weak. do it slowly like it doesn’t embarrass you that she noticed. Try never to appear to be in a hurry or flustered. Add more bass to your voice. and feel like they need to talk because they’re nervous.” Try learning how to turn your head slowly. Also. If you’re grabbing a drink off the bar take it at a speed that says “I’m in no hurry. Habit 10: Use hand gestures when telling a story. too fast. Habit 9: Avoid making sudden hyper gestures. how to change facial expressions slowly… and how to gesture slowly. learn how to speak slower… and how to articulate every word better. neck up. Don’t do it! Learn to lean back. it hurts”. But if you implement these habits over rest of these 31 days you will find that eventually it will become natural to you. It takes time and determination to break a bad habit and replace it with a new one. 315 . This is especially true when walking through a bar… you never want to give off the vibe that you’re looking for the cool place to be. Also walk with direction. When talking to someone avoid clutching on to your beer or putting your hands in your pocket. squeaky voices that convey the message: “I’m not confident… I have no self esteem”. This means your head should be high. Become comfortable pausing… it creates anticipation. Learn how to speak with a deeper voice. relax. Every gesture you make should flow naturally at the same speed as your previous gestures. While technically it isn’t body language. This kind of body language transmits the message: “I’m so comfortable in my own skin. If you want to attract beautiful women. Learn to speak from down in your chest and stomach.Social Superstar Habit 8: Walk with confidence and power. and become comfortable with the tension that comes from silence. you’re going to need to take a few lessons from Barry White. Body language and voice tone habits are not easy to change. all the same rules apply to it. The trick to pulling all these habits together is to use slow calculated gestures. On the subject of body language… voice tone is insanely important. Most guys talk too much. how to blink slowly. If you’re giving a girl a once over.

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Here’s what I mean: 318 . I’m not out at bars testing out my latest and greatest “teasing” method… nor do I really expect YOU to be. This is just a collection of what I KNOW to be true from my personal life. I don’t view it as a way to “pull” a woman down to your level. That being said. the whole point of teasing is to create a fun environment where women can loosen up and open up to you. (Note: I DO NOT do this for a living.) First and foremost. or get them to see that whatever’s going on it their life really isn’t that bad at all.COM Day 14 How to Properly Tease a Woman Written by Brad Howard Originally Published: 06/30/2008 Before I start. So… with that aside… let's get to it… let's talk a little about my way of teasing women… and how it sparks sexual tension. They are: The Opinion Opener Teasing Your Look (clothes. no matter how good looking she is I find that if you’re pulling YOURSELF down to HER level… you’ll find better success. In fact. complicated. and the interactions I’ve have with guys that aren’t having any problems in the “woman” department. here are the MOST important “things” that if you get down that will make the most impact in your dating/relationship life… bar none. let me just say that this article is NOT going to be some PROFOUND. piece of work that I’m trying to make sound more insightful than it probably is… It seems that everyone is doing that nowadays and I think that the message that people are trying to convey is getting lost in the fray. hair) Your Body (best inner game changer… EVER!) If you can get these 4 aspects of your “game” down… you’ll CRUSH most men. Teasing is also a great way to shake someone out of a funk.The Best of TSBMAG.

she’s likely to be playful back. A woman’s ego is like a glass house and teasing in this way COULD be like throwing a ROCK into it. The WHOLE POINT of teasing is to make the woman FEEL GOOD by being around you. and ask a woman “I need your opinion on something… and be BRUTAL… what do you think of these shoes. many times. It might work for some. For instance. So. Would I RECOMMEND that you try it if you’re a rookie at the whole “teasing” game? Um… HELL NO! And here’s why. “You know. you might hear someone tell you to say. Where did you get your special talent (smile)?” And that’s just for opening someone up. everything is working for you tonight EXCEPT those shoes… where did you get those?” Is there a way to say this so that it works? Absolutely. If you’re playful. I just picked ‘em up and I always seem to screw this up… ha-ha”. Here’s the thing about teasing though.Social Superstar I like to use self depreciating humor to set up teasing. if you come from a place of strength. She feels uncomfortable now… and the conversation takes a negative tone. that I DON’T condone. For instance. I’ll throw out some self-depreciating humor as BAIT to get the ball rolling. 319 . “Ah ha! I KNEW you were some type of shoe guru. It’s meant to be fun. Don’t use teasing to “knock” a woman down. Teasing works BEST with women that you already know… or that you’ve just met through a circle of friends (especially if you have a bit of notoriety amongst the group for being a fun guy). but I don’t usually use it. To which you could say something like. “Setting up TEASE BAIT” Teasing is no fun if only one person is doing it.

if you get on one knee and smile really pretty… I MIGHT even say yes…” Her: “I AM NOT!” You: “It’s okay. On closer look. all you’re doing is ACCUSING the other person of trying to do something that YOU want to happen. if you wanna ask me out. but just remember that I KNOW (point to head). the reason this works is because people (women) can see how SECURE you are with yourself because MOST men would NEVER tell a story in which THEY were the one being made fun of. So you say: “Yeah. yeah I know… ha-ha). confident guy… you don’t take yourself so seriously) So maybe I’ll tell a fun story that people can laugh at (like the time I locked myself out of my hotel room NAKED and had to walk down to the desk NAKED to get another key) and then ACCUSE people of having similar stories. I get it… Look. Let’s say that you want to ask a person out on a date (bland. just say so. (smile) Her: “Whatever. You don’t have to keep beating around the bush. what you’re up to…You may continue… (smile. “The Accusation Tease” This one is FUN. You: “Whoa. I am not” 320 . but they are just too scared to tell anyone about them. I use this ALL the time. really… it won’t make you a lesser person (smile). Again. yeah.The Best of TSBMAG. Nelly… I know you’re just trying to get me drunk so you can take me home and do dirty things to me. Who knows. Basically. wink) This also works well if you want to take it to a sexual level. POWERFUL STUFF here.COM (The KEY to self-depreciating humor is that although you’re a strong. Her: “(maybe changing subject)” You: (laughing) “You can change the subject if you want. This works REALLY well.

Missy… (whisper) it’s gonna take more than one (smile) Guys. keep in mind that these ARE NOT serious conversations. we can go on and on with this but I hope you get my drift. To which you can reply: “Dang. I never expected YOU to let (someone/something) get under your skin like this. would that mean you wouldn’t hang out any more? I TOTALLY expected more out of you. What would you do if I lost my hair all of the sudden. I couldn’t think of a better term for this but here’s the gist of it. feeling me up already and we just got here… geez…” “The Frame-Banging Tease” Okay. Using the accusation tease is a SURE way to get her to give you a “love tap”… or punch on the arm… or a light shove. well. You: (Smiling) “Are you going to get in a better mood… huh… are you? Her: “Stop it!” 321 . blah. Here’s a hint. we now have to employ our most SECRET WEAPON… “The Tickle Tease” NOTHING changes the tone of a conversation faster than some “good ole” tickling.” (You’re doing this to show her that it’s CRAZINESS for her to feel like she’s feeling… naturally. you’re a guy and that’s what guys want. They are tongue in check and playful. or even a woman that you just met has had a really rotten day… but you want some sex… because. Say your woman. Like a little bit. why is it that every woman thinks that she can buy you a drink and then try to get in your pants. I’ve had such a shitty day… (blah.) If she doesn’t snap out of her funk with this. Start slow at first. this is what happened)” You: (Smiling) “Wow. Here’s what you do: Her: “Man.Social Superstar You: “Man.

Here’s my final tip on teasing… and pay attention because this is important.COM You: (tickling) “Are you in a better mood yet? Tell me I’m the greatest ever… who’s your buddy… who’s your pal… (okay. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had people ask me: “You just trip yourself out don’t you?” Me: “Absolutely. That always works great. Or… and this is always fun. That’s fun too. For example. 322 . Wow. because I could literally go on forever on this topic… physical humor and teasing ROCKS. When you are teasing a woman. I like to think of it as “playing with myself” without all the mess. make sure that it’s fun for HER… but that you are ALSO AMUSING YOURSELF at the SAME TIME. Fun Stuff. I also like walking up behind my woman and “shanking” her if she has on sweats or loose shorts in the house… and then ACT like I’m going to do it when we’re out in public. If you’re walking side by side and there is a physical object on her side… slowly start walking her into it. all while showing your strength as a man. you bonk her nose with your finger. Teasing is a fun way to build attraction and BOOKS have been written on the subject. It’s the ULTIMATE way of flirting and getting her to chase you. bring back the old school “You’ve Got Something On Your Shirt” gag… where you point at a spot on her shirt and when she looks down.The Best of TSBMAG. by the way) “Physical Teasing” Before I end this. so I stole that from “Stripes”… shoot me) Then you just start kissing and BLAMMO! Bumming Monkeys Time. I can’t help the fact that almost everyone else in life is lame. I can’t believe I just said BLAMMO… ha-ha (The above statement is a great example of self depreciating humor.

I’m done. with a touch of self depreciation as well) That’s it. 323 .Social Superstar You should try it sometime instead of living in “lame-o land”. laughing… Note: Having fun. (smiling.

bookstores and coffee shops are on social networking sites. there are well over 200 million members on MySpace alone with around 300. you can use social networking sites to connect with and meet like-minded new friends. It’s not just for young people either. Obviously these sites are overflowing with women in their early 20’s and 30’s. but thanks to the emergence and popularity of social networking sites like MySpace and Facebook this is all changing. In many respects the idea of meeting people online is still fairly new.000 new users joining every day from around the world. Facebook is close behind with about 250. Just as you would go to the mall. but there are also 324 . clubs. The fact of the matter is the same women you meet out at bars. at any given point in time there are more women online than there are in every bar in your city combined. So how are you supposed to go about meeting and dating women from online? Is a woman weird for meeting a guy from sites like MySpace and Facebook? Can you actually legitimately meet sane AND hot women from online? Every time there is a new way of doing something it takes time for people to get comfortable with it. The girl next door. the hot bartender. a bar. You should really view them as an online hang out. that cute girl standing in line at Starbuck’s today are all online.000 new users a day. the coffee shop or a club to hang out and meet new people. In fact.The Best of TSBMAG. And guess what???…half of those are women! WHAT TYPES OF GIRLS ARE ON THESE SITES? Social networking sites are different than traditional dating sites.COM Day 15 How to Create a Kick Ass MySpace and Facebook Profile Written by Race de Priest Originally Published: 07/01/2008 WHY ONLINE GAME ROCKS AND HOW YOU CAN GET STARTED RIGHT NOW Now that the internet is such a big part of our lives. And because it is continually becoming more and more socially acceptable these same girls are open to meeting up with guys they met online.

she gets to see a more accurate picture of who you are while allowing you to learn at your own pace how to successfully interact with women. When you are relaxed at your house you are more able to come up with an authentic responses. This is a relief for many guys who have trouble knowing what to say. But it gets even better… IMAGINE A BAR FULL OF WOMEN HANDPICKED BY YOU When you meet women from sites like MySpace and Facebook you can literally browse and filter so that only the types of women you are looking for show up. THERE IS NO APPROACH ANXIETY ONLINE There is absolutely no social pressure when messaging women online. At the same time you will be corresponding with several different women simultaneously so there is no bother if a particular girl doesn’t respond. she is just a picture and some text. there is no “fear of rejection”. Say you want a girl who is: Between 22 and 26 5′0″-5′7″ Single/divorced Christian White. It’s like owning a bar where the bouncer only let’s in girls that fit exactly what you want. Pacific Islander. If a girl does not respond you simply move on…no harm no foul. Many of the world's best PUA’s and Social 325 . Do you really want to miss out on such an easy way to meet all these women? I didn’t think so. You have as much time as you need to craft the perfect response. As you can see. She can’t shoot you down or embarrass you in front of her friends or other people. or Asian Slender or Athletic body No Children Straight Social Drinker Non smoker Some College or College Graduate Within 5 miles of your zip You can literally search for the exact type of woman you are looking for.Social Superstar tons of women between 34 to 44 as well. the reasons to add online game as a way to meet and date women is quite compelling. In a sense. In addition.

and somewhat of how popular you are. what type of lifestyle you live. etc. favorite movies. HOW TO GET STARTED MEETING ALL THOSE CUTE GIRLS ONLINE The fist crucial step in meeting all those hot girls you see online is setting up your profile correctly. Here are the major things to keep in mind as you design your profile: Keep in mind the type of girl you want to attract. what kind of friends you have. Match. if you are unsure. Think of your profile as the online equivalent of your first impression. This is huge! Once you set your profile up correctly. if other women are attracted to you. your interests (i. what kind of job you have or what you do.COM Artists still maintain their online profiles despite meeting women out in person because it is just too good not too. and music). Now the question is… HOW DO I SET UP MY PROFILE SO IT ATTRACTS WOMEN? Note: I will be specifically focusing on MySpace and Facebook because these are by far the largest social networking sites on the planet. you need to create a profile that connects with that type of girl. Once again. your hobbies. Friendster. But the underlying principles are universal and many of the guys we have successfully coached used them all over the world on sites like Bebo. It will form the basis for what a woman thinks about you and how she will interact with you. your profile says a lot about you. After all. Remember to create a profile that is appealing to the type of girl you want to attract. go to the profiles of the types of girls you want to attract and copy their style or the style of the guy friends they have.e. Orkut. Hyves. Simplicity and Readability 326 . what you look like. There are many elements that go into setting up your profile correctly.The Best of TSBMAG. From your profile alone. If you want a bad girl with tattoos. books. a girl can figure out if you have any attractive qualities. it literally WORKS FOR YOU! It’s like having your own personal PR firm who goes ahead of you and gets all the girls excited about wanting to meet you when you arrive.

movies. You want your profile to be as easy to read as possible. than to write your whole life story and bore her. simplicity and readability is the key. the beautiful women you hang out with every weekend. white text on a black background or any light on dark color scheme). A good way to start out is to use a solid background with contrasting text colors (i. You will be perceived as trying too hard to gain approval. If you try to write about how cool you are. Things you DONT WANT to do in your About Me section: • DO NOT try to sell yourself by talking about how cool you are. Girls who don’t know you have no reason to spend their time reading about you. 327 . It is better to be brief yet have variety and keep her guessing.Social Superstar Your mom was right about making things legible.e. You don’t need to go overboard in this area. and music by artists like the Spice Girls. List movies like The Little Mermaid. I don’t care”. the fun things you do. Be goofy. They will most likely see this and say “I don’t know you. And girls who don’t know you have no reason to spend their time reading about you unless you’ve compelled them to. you will be perceived as trying too hard to gain approval. and hobby interests. etc. DO NOT be overly offensive DO NOT have terrible grammar/misspellings • • • Things you WANT to do in your About Me section: • • • Be Diverse List a variety of music. When to write and what to write Take careful consideration about what you write about yourself. the beautiful women you hang out with. the fun things you do. Women will abandon your profile quickly if it takes too much effort to get an idea of who you are. DO NOT write your life story. Show her you are not a tool. etc.

but not so much as to bore her. Going back to the characteristics women screen for. You know what you want and you have enough options so that if a girl does not match up. petite 328 . and outrageous people. “I love meeting new people” or “I surround myself with positive. Make her curious to find out more about you. Here are a few examples of disqualifying statements: Rules for being my MySpace/Facebook friend: • • • • • No liars (unless you are flirting) No flaky people No granny panties! (unless you are actually a grandma ) No psycho stalker chicks! I don’t care how hot you think you are! No BORING PEOPLE … You must be fun Another option is to put up a qualifying statement on your page.” Talk about things like.” It doesn’t have to be long. Use Disqualifying Statements Create a small list of disqualifiers. you want to be an enigma she wants to figure out. you can let her go. fun. You can even leave out your interests. A disqualifier is any statement that demonstrates you have standards by declaring that the recipient is unqualified or ineligible for you. Here is one that we have used and has been very effective placed under the Who I’d Like to Meet section on MySpace or the About Me section on Facebook: “If you are cute rather than hot. clever rather than cool.COM • When writing it is better to be brief yet have variety and keep her guessing. giving her more reason to search for a connection with you. we need just enough to intrigue her. Having standards indicates abundance and a strong sense of identity. • Be Creative In your About Me section. than to write your whole life story and bore her. spontaneous. Again. be creative.The Best of TSBMAG. Don’t say “I’m new to this whole MySpace/Facebook thing” or “all my friends are on here so I figured I would create an account.

some partying with hot girls. and that is one of the most important first steps to attracting a woman online. If in doubt. put your pictures up on a photo-rating site like www. It would be far better to only have those three in which you look your best. some of you with your niece or your dog. You don’t want to have twelve pictures of you drinking beer with your buddies. Use a range of pictures showing different aspects of your personality. Have some action shots. then I would like to meet you. these will be a woman’s first impression of you. Choose only the best Choose only the pictures in which you look the best. 329 .HotorNot. Women like men who know what they want. If you upload ten pictures and you only look good in three of them. now is the time to sit down and figure it out. the first step is to upload your pictures to an image hosting site like www. then the other seven are creating a bad impression. your page is your way of demonstrating how cool and how socially desirable you are.photobucket. Your pictures can make her curious. In most cases. some doing something goofy. a challenge to figure out. If you do not know what you want. A PICTURE IS WORTH A THOUSAND WORDS The pictures you choose to use on your profile are vitally important.” You must show that you have or your own MySpace photo album. On Facebook. etc. Embed pictures into your profile We have found that actually embedding pictures into your profile is the easiest and most effective way to make a great first impression on girls.Social Superstar rather than slim. and see which ones receive the highest rating. you just need to add an application like Big Photo or Slideshows. On MySpace. women like a man with some depth to him. It is as if each picture is showing off a different side of your personality. This allows a girl to get a snapshot of how exciting and fun you are. Remember. Why not make it as good as possible? The following are some guidelines to follow when choosing what pictures to use: Use a variety You want to have pictures depicting you doing a variety of different activities. some travel shots. They want a man with a sense of mystery. As we have already learned.

This technique will ensure that your images are not too large and that they’re easy to view. rock-climbing.jpg will be re-placed with the URL pointing to your image. etc. playing football.The Best of TSBMAG. go out to a club and tell the hottest girl you can find that you need some new MySpace/Facebook pictures to make your ex-girlfriend jealous. Otherwise make it a group picture with cute girls in it. Girls love to make other girls jealous! Caution: If you are going to put up a picture of you with your shirt About Me. etc. make it either a really good/professional picture (no wannabe modeling pictures with your shirt off please). dancing.imagehost.imagehost. Interests. Who I’d like to Meet): <img src=” Hint: write funny captions to go along with your pictures to demonstrate even more of your personality Just paste the following HTML code above the embed image code shown above: <div><font size=+2>Picture caption</font></div> Main profile picture For your main profile picture. Using a playlist is even better. or one of you doing something exciting like surfing. If you don’t have any. That way you can have a whole variety of music. at the beach. The playlist tool we use is: www. But just to be safe. This is just one more way for her to connect with you. We have received so many comments on the songs we have chosen.e. paste the following HTML code into any section you want the photo to show up (i. if you are going to put up a picture of just yourself.jpg” width=”400”> <br /> Where http://www.projectplaylist.). 330 .COM make sure you are in good shape and doing an activity where it is appropriate to have it off (i. don’t put up a picture of you shirtless…EVER! OTHER USEFUL ATTRACTION ELEMENTS AND TIPS Use Music Music is a great way to connect with girls. posing in front of the Eiffel Tower. By specifying the width property in the <img> tag you ensure that your photos will have a consistent width (the height of the image will be adjusted automatically to maintain the original aspect ratio). You can find music on MySpace in the Music section. which you can get to from the main navigation bar at the top of the page.

orangetext15. If she can’t see your friends and sees a number of comments from gorgeous looking girls.} td. we recommend you configure the privacy settings for News Feed and Mini-Feed by unchecking (i.text . You don’t randomly give your personal contact information to people you don’t know.redlink.} td. td.} </style> We recommend you do this anyway. td. By default it lists all kinds of information like who you wrote to. td.border:0.ztext table .text table table td {padding:3. comments you received.text td. comments you made.Social Superstar Hide your Friends List (MYSPACE ONLY) If you are just starting and have no friends. just say something like. and I don’t want to put my friends’ lives in peril.text td. We suggest that you remove all of your personal information such as email addresses and cell phone numbers.text table td. “They all kept getting jealous about who was #1” or “I am a secret agent.text table br.text td. If she ever asks you why your friends are hidden. and even when you add a friend! For the simple fact that you are going to be messaging multiple girls.text td. they can also see what you are up to. it would be counterproductive for them to see that you have messaged other girls with the same or even similar messages For this reason. so why do it online? While the mini-feed makes it convenient to see what your friends are up to online.text td.} td.text table {height:0. she will definitely wonder.text span.text td.text td.” Adjust your Privacy Settings (FACEBOOK ONLY) There is far more of your personal contact information available to the general public on Facebook than on MySpace. turning off) most if not all of the notifications. td. td.text table table table.text td. You can modify your privacy settings by clicking on the “privacy” link next to the “logout” link in the top right corner.text td.btext {display:none.e.text td. you can place this code in any section to hide your friends list: <style type=”text/css”> td.padding:0. Facebook also lists all of your recent actions on the site through a system called Mini-Feed.text table table br {display:inline. which you can get using the technique we’ll cover next.text table {background-color:transparent.} td. 331 . what you wrote.

The cutest girl I can find 3. Thanks. Could you leave a comment to make her jealous? You know how it is…haha. A girl should be able to look at your profile and very quickly get an idea of what you are all about. Make your profile easy to read.COM Create Instant Social Proof To get comments on your MySpace page or Facebook wall from beautiful women just use this message: Subject: I was wondering … Body: My ex is stalking my profile. demonstrate that there are a variety of different people that enjoy your company and show that you can have fun and laugh at yourself. show that you have a diverse personality. So when a new girl looks at your page and sees all these other attractive girls writing sexy things about you.{your name/screen name/nickname} or Subject: Strange Question Body: My crazy friends are sending me on an online scavenger hunt (I didn’t even know they had those?) for my (put in bday or some event that compels her to want to help you) and I have to get a sassy/fun comment on my page from the following: 1. she will wonder what makes you so sexy. Having your profile set up correctly will literally supercharge your success with women online and put you light 332 . THINK OF IT AS YOUR OWN PERSONAL COMMERCIAL All in all think about your profile as your own personal commercial. .(name) These comments will give you social proof. This adds an air of mystique and ensures you don’t tap out potential girls in your area. The hottest girl I can find 2.The Best of TSBMAG. This mystery builds attraction. The dorkiest girl I can find Can you guess which one you are? Haha…so if you could help me out I will name my first born child after you… ha-ha j/k but I would really appreciate it . It’s brilliant! Note: Make sure to use this technique with girls outside your area.

Social Superstar years ahead of all those other guys out there leaving your competition in the dust. Race 333 . Remember to have fun with this and if you have any questions feel free to ask. Cheers.

Early-stages flirting: the first few e-mails and/or texts. However. to simply being social. it’s important to understand how search engines work.or losers-only pastime to a necessary skill. Verbs don’t usually fare too well in keyword searches because there are so many conjugations (run. If you are the one searching.COM Day 16 Tips for Flirting Online Written by Honey Originally Published: 07/02/2008 Flirting consists of a variety of tactics. Pre-emptive flirting: creating a great profile.The Best of TSBMAG. to scoring a one-night stand. both physical and verbal. 334 . and (2) deliver the goods once someone clicks on your profile. running…). Because people are becoming increasingly accessible online (you can find out far more about far more people in a day via their profiles than you could in person). you need to (1) come up in as many searches as possible. Most searches that you will run are “keyword” searches (though many online dating services let you set all types of parameters via advanced search forms). 2. We flirt for a variety of purposes–from screening for a long-term partner. to run a successful search you are better off putting in a noun: runner. that can be used in almost any situation. Creating a Great Profile Whether you have a subscription to an online dating service or not. ran. Later-stages flirting: keeping the momentum. As far as coming up in random searches. To have a great profile. it’s important that you have a great profile. 3. There are three main types of online flirting: 1. in today’s increasingly technological world. odds are that you have a profile on some kind of social networking site. The vast majority of our flirting techniques were developed for situations in which people were connecting face-to-face. flirting online has gone from a geeks.

Well. For anyone who’s been on these types of sites for any amount of time at all. if you’re into that—I’m not. you could try some synonyms as well. When I told my buddy that I thought The Mummy: Tomb of the Dragon Emperor stood a chance of being decent. he almost spit his beer out! What a waste of a great porter. you can find me at BJ’s brewery with friends. for reasons I’ll explain) is pretty similar to my advice about profiles. the most important thing is specificity. if the online world is like a giant bar. these half-ass forms of communication are reviled 335 . List specifics. Tell stories. For heaven’s sake. one caveat is never. However. to catch people you might have missed. ever. Tell stories. or “poke” them or any of that gay sh#t. if you like to run. Man up and give the lady (or fella) some real communication. And don’t be afraid to ask questions—a nice rhetorical question gets the other person thinking about how they’d answer. that’s no accident. How about you and I go see it and then tell my friend how wrong he was about Jet Li?” Now the first thing you’ll probably notice is that the second example is much longer. you’ll come up. you might also put jogger or marathon in your profile. “wink” at someone.’s performance saved Iron Man. and once they have an answer in their head. List specifics. they’re halfway to e-mailing you! There’s a huge difference between the following: • • “I like to hang out with friends.” “On any given Tuesday. and watch movies. Once someone gets to your profile. sipping on a Jeremiah Red and talking about how Robert Downey Jr. If you’re running a search and come up empty the first time. then how can you come off as a person of value if you don’t have anything to offer beyond clichés? The First Few E-mails Unsurprisingly.Social Superstar When you are creating your own profile. While you don’t want to go on and on. have fun. you can easily increase the likelihood of coming up in other people’s searches by using synonyms. my advice about the first few e-mails (or online chats. This is especially important because no matter which of the three terms someone searches for. For example. Ask questions. the two big keys to a great profile are making sure your profile is upbeat (no one wants to date a bummer) and saying something of substance.

damnit! And since I type about 70 wpm 336 . i. You know they’re interested. As a question that escalates the interaction to the next level. a phone call or a meeting.” He said. The reason for this is that the other person will then offer their digits without you having to weaken your position at all by asking! I met my BF on MySpace. and our first couple of interactions followed the pattern above.” Type real words. in a seemingly contradictory move. and he e-mailed me back to say that we had a favorite author in common. if you’re too chicken to make a real first move.The Best of TSBMAG. When he e-mailed to ask. thank them for doing so. • • I’m not a believer in asking for the digits but rather proposing the meetup. Say something specific that you liked about their profile. only one of us bites…”). but last summer I found an abandoned Jack Russell in the parking lot of my complex. and also starts to build a non-threatening sexual vibe (”Maybe we should meet up at the dog park Saturday afternoon? I promise. After a couple exchanges he tried to add me as a friend and couldn’t because he didn’t know my last name. I don’t add people that I haven’t met in person. I sent him a one-line e-mail. I said. I looked for his owners. and word it as a compliment ("I couldn’t help but be excited when I noticed that you are an animal lover”). Now a year later he’s there to greet me when I get home from work!”). you kinda are). Now. “I’m sorry. but never found them. you should definitely respond back with an email. The formula for a great early e-mail is pretty simple: • • If they e-mailed or winked at you first.COM and make you seem wussy (which. Tell a story from your own experience that relates to what you liked about their profile (”I’ve never been a dog person. if someone winks at you and you at all like their profile. “How about beer on Friday?” And that was our first date… The reason that I’m going to come out against online chat is that (and I know this is a personal pet peeve) I hate all that misspelling and “textspeak. so half your work is already done for you! You can tease them about using a wink at some point later on.e.

and the keys are paying attention to the other person. and knowing when enough’s enough. Don’t send more than two e-mails per day. and don’t you dare send that second e-mail until you hear back from her first. a flirty e-mail is a great tool to keep in touch. Again. and make sure you’re not e-mailing a work account. use real words. go for it—just remember the possible cons. If they suggest chatting. tone. not to come across as desperate or stalker-ish. or just say how much you’re looking forward to your next meetup. make a mild sexual comment. spell everything correctly. since so many nuances. • • Flirting is an art. Best of luck! 337 . and body language is lost when it’s just a window on someone’s computer screen.Social Superstar and hardly anyone else does. you should be teasing her with the promise of your presence.” It’s just much easier to put your best foot forward when you use e-mail as your medium. avoiding clichés at all costs. I like e-mail because you can control the length and content as well as proofread for spelling and other errors before you hit “send. and keep your interactions light and fun. the goal is to sustain momentum. it’s pretty tough for me to come off as anything except overly chatty. Keep it light! You should be making deep connections in person—trying to do so over e-mail just makes you a bummer. sustain momentum. Keeping the Momentum Once you’ve met in person. Tease. The big tips: Again. not overwhelming her with super-long e-mails (which also kind of make you look like a loser who has nothing better to do in your spare time). • Keep your e-mails brief and stick to one topic.

To some of you it doesn’t make sense. You end up calling her a couple of days later. She doesn’t pick up. Because when you can't wait for the 48 hours you appear needy and in need of a life. to ask her out on a date. shopping centre or the tennis club. Well I’m going to lay out for you what is REALLY happening and what you really SHOULD be doing. You think 'hey she is busy' and you try again later that same day.Don’t Contact Her for At Least 48 Hours I know it sounds hard doesn’t it? But you have to stick by these rules.. Here is the thing. thinking to yourself “where did it go wrong?” So here is the thing. You build up the guts to talk to her.. I have been on dates with guys and literally like 2 minutes after the date they are messaging me and telling me what a great time they had on the date and how they would like to see me again.COM Day 17 Phone Game Strategy Written by Hot Alpha Female Originally Published: 07/03/2008 So let me paint the picture. So you call again and finally you get an answer. You see a hot chick at a club. Some of you may be baffled by this whole situation. Rule # 1 . You talk to her expecting that things are going to pick up where you left off and are utterly stunned when she starts making excuses as to why she can’t meet up with you. 338 . She says that she will get back to you and she never does. You think to yourself “SWEET!! I’m in”. like the rule book suggests.The Best of TSBMAG. You still don’t get a response. make her laugh and somehow manage to get her number. You are left scratching your head. Sound good? Let's get started.

Social Superstar Then I have also had guys who send me a message straight after a date and then send me another one 30 minutes later wondering why I haven’t sent them a reply yet. But it does mean that for the moment you operate within a certain guidelines until you have internalized all this “game stuff” … so bear with me ok? So as part of this. It's like an instant turn off. Rule # 2 . but for all the other poor girls out there.. It means that you can actually think about what you want to write. stalker. get a life. but this is not one of those instances. The only thing that runs through my mind is. Just make sure that when you follow this rule that you don’t wait too long after 48 hours. So in other words you are going to have to look like something that she would want to date/buy. Anything more than 4 days and the girl (if she is interested in you) starts to get pissed because you didn’t call her within that “calling period” and she assumes that you are not interested. Now the main agenda with text is to warm her up. and ewwww. And there is no logical way to explain it. So do it not only as a favor for me. You can mess with a girl and pretend that you are not interested. Banter a lot.Send Her A Text Msg First You know scoring a date is kind of like making a sale. stick to the rule of messaging her first before you call her. See it's great for us and is great for you too. If a guy texts us within 2 days of us handing out our number then that is sufficient enough for us to know that you are interested without appearing really needy and wussy. At the absolute 339 . but don’t get into these messaging conversations. Except the item that you are selling is yourself. In fact we like them more to begin with. Let her know that you are on her radar and that you will be in contact with her soon. you don’t have to think on the spot. Every girl is comfortable with texting. Now as a general rule with messaging keep it short and sweet. Now that doesn’t mean being something that you are not..

Msg Her and Then Call Her Ok so I have to admit that this is not something that I came up with. you are the one that has to stop sending her msgs. because they feel in control by being the ones to have the last say. Essentially you want to get her back into the same state as she was in when she gave you that phone number. Some of my friends have trouble with this. You want to be able to establish comfort before you can even consider asking her out. This means that when the conversation is nearing an end. You actually want to keep things fairly casual and most importantly keep it brief. But one of the things that I heard one of the guys does on David D’s cds. Maybe refer to a joke that you had previously found funny with her and give her updated content on it. He found that significantly increased his chance of getting to speak to her. 340 . Rule # 4 .COM maximum make sure that you only send 2-3 msgs in one conversation. doesn’t mean that you don’t have your work cut out for you! The first thing that you want to do when you call the girl is to break the ice and get her laughing. That’s the thing with phone calls. The best way to do this is to refer to something that happened when you last saw her. then he would call her within a minute or so. because she would have to be close to her phone in order to send the msg right?! Brilliant idea and I suggest that all you guys use it.The Best of TSBMAG. Always be the one to end the messaging conversation. This will bring her back to that place and help her feel more comfortable with you. If a girl doesn’t think that she will be comfortable with you or will be able to trust you then she will not even consider going on that date with you. But just because it’s a short amount of time.Keep It Light And Keep It Casual Ok so when you call her for the first time after she has given you her phone number then it's not a good time to start going into a deep and meaningful conversation. He would msg this girl and then when she replied back. But you have to look at it from the point of view that YOU are the one in control because you have the strength to stop the messaging first =) Rule # 3 .

Rule # 6 . When calling a girl. Rule # 5 .Leave one voicemail that’s IT! If you have to leave a voicemail then make sure that its only one.. be prepared for a voicemail and know what you are going to say as well. So in regards to what you should say. you need to remember to give her the space to think about you. Give her the gift of missing you ok? So with a voice mail you need to remember to keep it short and sweet. is know you. Two or more becomes stalkerish. When courting a girl. As a general rule with this whole gaming and dating thing … Less is always MORE! Seriously… You don’t have to get an update of what this chick has been doing in the past 2 days. Like 5 minutes. There is nothing worse than a long winded voicemail msg with a guy who doesn’t know what he is talking about.Social Superstar So remember the rule.. like you and trust you . Break the ice and get her to laugh before you even consider asking her out. just leave a short msg and then hang up. then you can say something a little ball busting and then get her to give you a call back. All you have to get a chick to do.and then you can get her to go anywhere and do just about anything with her. If you are constantly trying to impede on her space then she is totally not going to appreciate it. She doesn’t have to know about all your past relationships before you guys go on a date. keep it light and keep it casual. I know it sounds silly but its true and this is what goes through a chick's head. who is wasting your time and YOUR credit! Random Tips 341 .Keep It Short and Sweet This kind of follows on from the other points. But seriously don’t talk too long. You don’t have to repeat your number and all that crap.

then there is something up and she is not comfortable. You have to do what works. make her laugh and have a good time. You can tell that a girl has warmed up to you when she is laughing at your jokes and the conversation is flowing. If the girl messages back. and this message contained some call to action on her behalf. Persistence is not the only tool you need. Firstly you should message first. then your chances of getting to talk to her again are much higher. Now with that said … Now I want to see better conversion rates ok? *winks* 342 . Remember to warm a girl up to you. Keep it short and sweet and always leave her wanting more. If you message a girl and she doesn’t message you back. because A) she thinks that you are a freak or B) she hasn’t warmed up to you yet. Here’s a tip.. If you find her being more quiet that usual.The Best of TSBMAG. When a girl talks with ease.COM Some of you may be wondering how many times you should call before giving up. then you need to know that you are going to have to do some major work on getting this girl to go on a date with you. In regards to what you should talk to her about … your main aim is to bust her balls. it means that she is comfortable with you.. There is no point in doing the wrong things over and over hoping that you will get a positive result in the end.

Everyone has a cell phone. Also. Quick scheduling or announcements when I’m on the go. and the girls I socialize with are high value woman in their mid or late 20’s that are educated. Before I get started. such as OMG or WTF. 3. Texting has similar properties to flirting over email (or sending messages using facebook or myspace). To get the high value woman. Escalation. Flirting. Since item 4 is fairly self-explanatory. I’m a bit older. flirting via text is very effective. etc). you’re coming from a position of high value and it shows you have a command of language. I want to say a few words about writing style. but the quality that sets it apart is immediacy. around 30. Maintaining a connection. I have a few exceptions here. and pretty much everyone has it on their 343 . I use a few acronyms. 2. Obviously. and supplement your lines with smiley's and other emoticons. I’ll focus on 1 . Why the big deal about grammar and spelling? Because if you’re using good English. consider this. Here’s how it breaks down: Flirting When used in the right ways. use punctuation. language is part and parcel of what pickup is all about. use it! Don’t use cutesy textspeak (ur instead of your. This also sets you apart from the legions of dorks who can’t spell worth a crap. Good spelling and punctuation. 4. Okay. keep your language as tight as possible. I use texting for the following reasons: 1. Using textspeak on a 28 year woman with an MBA would totally deattract her. WTF is a good one.3. because you avoid the profanity but still express surprise or shock.Social Superstar Day 18 Text Game for the Pua Written by Lance Originally Published: 07/07/2008 Text game is an integral part of my arsenal.

interesting.” “Had a blast. This dialogue establishes that you’re a normal guy and not a player (ha-ha) or merely a flirt. This gets her thinking about you and this method can be used to maintain a connection or escalate. such as asking how her day went. If anyone wants to dive into point. you’re a great kisser WOW!” “You’re the cutest Leo EVER rawr.The Best of TSBMAG. either in the same night or the next morning. The key is being playful. I often do this after a first date. Not only that. ie basic flirting. but getting a text is like a little treat that breaks up the monotony of your day. the other person is going to read it within a few seconds.COM person at all times. you should banter back and forth for a bit. If you’re a chick and you’re getting dozens more texts than the next girl. it just depends on the direction you want to go. There’s nothing wrong with a compliment as long as you’ve established a strong masculine frame during the date. conversation was great. you would love it!” “Guess what I’m doing right now…it’s f’ing awesome!” “Just read your horoscope. but I think some people derive a certain degree of social clout from the number of texts they get. It’s like playing a little game. 344 . it’s possible that person won’t read it until the evening or the next day if you’re sending it to a personal account (and you should…don’t send flirty emails to a work or business account). I’ll use this to spur a longer text conversation and then mix in some “normal” text conversation.” All of these messages are intended to come out of the blue and compel her to write back and ask what it is you’re talking about. Everyone loves to receive text messages! I haven’t delved into this. if you send an email. If you send a text. it’s crazy. then you’re more popular…at least that seems to be the psychology. and fun. “You looked totally sexy in that dress. Here are a couple of examples: “Hey. just ate lunch at this great Thai place. One way I flirt over text is to send messages that will compel her to write back.” This creates a strong statement of interest and let’s her know that you’re absolutely interested in going further. It’ll pump her up and get her thinking about how cool you are. Conversely. Once she responds. I’d love to hear some perspectives. I’ll use texts as a direct compliment.

Let’s face it. I like texting during the day when I know she’s at work. As with everything else you should calibrate. drama. Monday at the office sucks (if you’ve got an office job) and getting flirty texts can be a real pick-me-up. The key here is to flirt and be a bit mysterious so that she’s compelled to see you when you ask for a first meetup. you’ve got that sexy nerdy look RAWR. Don’t be afraid to cut loose. if you’re really slick.Social Superstar Maintain a Connection If I’ve number closed a chick and I know I can’t see her again until the next weekend. Usually what I do when maintaining a connection is to offer a bit of value. what are you doing??” “I loved your glasses. just make her smile! Credit Sean Deacon on that one. some MySpace stuff.” What’s great about the horoscope thing is you can look up the quickie horoscopes on if you did a quick 5′ pickup and number closed a girl with a minimum of sexual framing. OR.” “We should have talked to you longer DAMN you’re cute.” 345 . You can use the same lines from above. I’ve never met a girl who didn’t like getting her horoscope. you can make one up on the spot and sex it up a little. I’ll mix this in with a couple of emails. Your goal should be very and hit her with one. This can be great fun and it’s an easy way to escalate. and a phone call or two to maintain the connection until I see her again. it’s the hot guy you met an hour ago. Keep in mind that pickups are tenuous affairs and flakes can happen at any time…texting helps to cement a future meetup. you can hit her like this: “Hey. I’ll text her just a little bit during the week to remind her who I am. but I think it’s really true. or a horoscope (astrology is chick crack). For instance. a two line story. Here’s an example: “The planets are aligned–today is a day for secrets.” Escalation Texts are a great way to introduce or maintain a sexual frame. such as a laugh. but here are another couple of examples that initiate a value giving conversation: “Holy sh*t. the craziest thing just happened to me!” “Your horoscope is insane today. I rarely do fluff talk in these instances because you’ll risk losing the attraction by seeming mundane. and hot monkey sex.

” “Happy hour on Friday…Don’t worry. Even if I’m dating someone and I know I can nail her whenever I want. but you’re going to have to work extra hard for me. OMG I could barely keep my hands off you!!” “I can tell you’re going to be trouble. I’ll meet you for drinks. Try these: “Okay. you can and should use text as a way to maintain attraction.e. I’ll still flirt because it’s a hell of a lot of fun and it gets her hot for the Lance cock. You can do pretty much the same things if you’ve already had a date with a minimum of Kino or maybe just a kiss close. sexy texts. 346 . or if you’ve already had sex with her and plan on doing it again (i. I’m a big fan of these: “Had a blast. and if you’re calibrated properly and pumping out good lines.” “Three guesses what I’m doing…if you get it wrong. dating or FBs).” If you’re deep into a sexual frame with a chick. this shit kills. Let’s say you’ve had sex once and you’re setting a date for next Friday night.The Best of TSBMAG. I won’t let you take advantage of me .)” Work your basic push-pull and teasing in there. All of these lines are examples and you should easily be able to come up with your own. you’re getting spanked.” “My mom warned me about girls like you.COM This way you’re either establishing a sexual tone or maintaining one and getting her excited about thinking about you. Chicks eat this up. She’ll follow your lead and likely respond back with flirty. Hit her with texts that have a sexual tone and just plow forward. This shows you’re playful and flirty and will get her into a sexual state of mind.

3. simply because she’s a girl and we all know the ones who can’t even go to the bathroom without a friend. Start the date at a quiet bar well after dinner so you don’t have to worry about getting food. Plus chances are she will be busier on weekends anyway. well. You have two people who barely know each other alone and isolated with sexual tension and possibility in the air. it’s very hard not to get at least a make out if she’s had three drinks in her. you want that part of your brain ready. Since first dates are mostly a talking affair. I also remind myself of a handful of innocent touching moves that prime her for the kiss. You’re going to have to be. Don’t try to do a first date on a weekend. There is no way you can memorize enough routines for a two hour or more date. Even if the date is short of a blockbuster. but if your goal is to get into her pants as fast as possible. Stick to Monday through Thursday for the first date. especially if you haven’t kissed her yet. Here are a few things to make them more successful. ready to give a “primetime” night to someone you just met. Pick the right day. But I guarantee you she is more nervous than you are. The worst thing you can do is lounge around at home all day in front of your computer and then go out without talking beforehand. It’s natural to be nervous. especially with the pressure of getting laid hanging over your head.Social Superstar Day 19 How to Go on First Dates Written by Roosh V Originally Published: 07/08/2008 Besides sex. and even if you can it would be a stupid waste of energy. You can get a lot done taking girls to coffee and ice cream dates. Weekend dates send the wrong message that you value her too much. She’s more nervous than you are. If not then dates will be a challenge. you must go for drinks. usually the cube and some type of fake palm read. Preparation. The only thing I do before dates is have two fun routines ready. Quick tip: On your way to dates call up a couple friends and shoot the shit for a while. 4. 1. Pick the right venue. real and this is where I hope your vibe is fun and interesting. 2. The more you have your internal game straightened out and 347 . first dates are the most fun part of the game.

The kiss will be a foregone conclusion.COM believe a girl should prove her value to you. Plus even if the date goes well. then touching her hands and putting your arm behind her in the booth of the lounge you picked. most of the work in turning out a good first date is done before you even show up. the reason you kiss her will be more because of the touching than the conversation. going on dates every week and noting what worked and what didn’t. 5. I was too scared I would get rejected and look like an idiot. While you don’t want to sound like a total idiot on the date. I sucked it up when I had enough and just started approaching like a machine. Even if you don’t think you will get the lay on the same night. the less you will be nervous. it’s still a smart idea to go for it as you drop her home because it makes your job much easier for the second date.The Best of TSBMAG. I also stumbled on half a dozen touching 348 . Focus on escalation. a mindset that keeps your game on without trying to game. Whether this is reality or not doesn’t matter… just believe it. mill around for a while until you are late. 6. where she judges you and picks for flaws. the less work you have to do on a second. The farther you get on the first date. As you probably noticed. but then the drinks get in your system and it becomes natural. This is especially useful on dates when you're focused less on routines than when you first approach. Even if you arrive early. I have a friend who shows up fifteen minutes late and I’m not sure that is extreme or not but I’m always at least five minutes later. 7. That’s your number one goal. It took me about six years of constant practice but I figured out the “vibe”. I made A LOT of stupid mistakes when first starting out in the game. A little bit of preparation goes a long way in dates and it makes sense to do because you worked hard to meet her and get her out and don’t want to blow it with stupid mistakes. A touch here or there that gets extended as the night goes on. I cannot stress how important this is. but even before that I remember my strategy to getting kisses used to be hoping and wishing she’d make the move and do it on her own. Show up late. Think of her on a stage. How about if her long lost ex boyfriend calls the next day? You’ll kick yourself if you didn’t push as far as you could get. you can’t make the assumption there will be a second. You want to stir up some anxiety and fear that she’s being stood up so that her insecurities are driven inward instead of on you. Go for the lay. twirling and spinning for your pleasure. The first half hour will have almost no touching probably.

and also the idea of the multi-venue date system to increase rapport and trust. 349 . I share all this and a lot more in my book Bang.Social Superstar moves that help escalate on dates and in the bedroom. Of course it’s backed by my Bust out the Condoms Guarantee.

When we got to the or that I just couldn’t attract the ones I wanted.” She never mentioned the tennis invite. and I would soon have to break their hearts. When she arrived at my house. she came back to my house for a bit. It was not so much that I wasn’t meeting any. What day this week do you want to play tennis” (we had talked about playing tennis on the date) She didn’t respond to the email for a couple days. She didn’t answer so I left a message. She would write me these long rambling emails at four in the morning (that were just the most amusing things to read)… and I soon found myself very attracted to her. When she did respond. She never called me back. We made arrangements to meet. she was even hotter than her online photos portrayed her to be. Something along the lines of “had a really great time last night. I sent her an email that night. and the evening ended on a high note. The night I got her email I called her. And although it had only been one day since I saw her. It was depressing me. About that time I went on Match. and teasing one another… it was genuinely the best date I had in months. things went even better. The conversation was flowing naturally.The Best of TSBMAG. I waited a week then emailed her again “Guess we didn’t connect as much 350 . Within minutes of talking to her I was already feeling like this was going to be different. it felt like an eternity. Mid way through the date I was already imagining our future together. I was sensing a connection I didn’t feel with the other girls. These girls were falling for me quickly. A little while after going on the site I started an online flirtation with this cute Filipino girl.COM Day 20 How to Get a Day Two Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 07/08/2008 A few years ago I was going through a slump with women. You are a really funny guy. it was that the ones I was meeting just weren’t up to my standards. doing shots together. The next day I couldn’t stop thinking about her. we were laughing a lot. all she wrote was “I had a good time too. Although I didn’t get a kiss that night. My better judgment told me to wait a day or two before contacting her again… but I couldn’t help it. I was really starting to believe that either there were no quality girls left in the world.

You’re really nice… I’m just not sure what I’m looking for right now in terms of relationships. I truly believed she was feeling the same way. Once I decided that I liked her I started working too hard to impress her. This put me in the position to be the prize. We hadn’t even finished our first date and I was already asking her to play tennis together. She wrote back the next day saying “Sorry I’ve just been busy. Because I felt so comfortable with her I felt at ease to tell her about my recent trouble finding a girl I really liked.” BAM it was over. I was complimenting her way too much. I would sit back and let them prove their worth to me. I dropped all “player” mode and started to open up with her way to soon. Below I’m going to go over the mistakes I made on that meeting. and it will immediately lower your value and put her in the position of being the prize. Mistakes that will Prevent Day Two Too quickly deciding that you like her. With the Filipino girl. I really believed that I had experienced a connection with the Filipino girl.Social Superstar as I thought” or something AFC like that. I kept telling her how fun she was. I let my guard down. The one girl I actually felt a connection with didn’t even have interest in a second date. I was way too attached to the outcome of the date. I began really analyzing what went wrong… and it became painfully obvious why she had no desire to see me again. to go see a movie she mentioned.” AGHHH I kept bringing up plans for a second date. My hope is that by reading through these mistakes I made you might be able to notice a thing or two that you’re doing that might be preventing you from getting a second date. Resorting to Nice Guy Lines. Girls can sense when you’re investing more than they are. Because I felt there was this “connection” there. 351 . I remember at one point I was smiling. The mistake I made on this date was that I gave too much away. I decided too soon that I liked her. The previous girls that I was dating I was always the one doing the judging. Normally I would never show my hand on a date… I would always keep the girl guessing what was going through my mind. and she asked “what?” and I said “You’re just really cute.

If she really had a good time she would be going crazy waiting for my call. Although we were having a good time together. About midnight she is the one to say “it's getting late we should get going. Here I was 2 hours into a great date and I was scared to leave my hand on her waist for more than a second. always be the one who ends it. I would be advancing towards sex after an hour into the date. I even broke one of my cardinal date rules. The minute I contacted her.’ When you don’t call. I used the fact that we had such a good time as a reason to call the next day. She was the one suggesting what to drink.The Best of TSBMAG. the more time she is going to spend thinking about you. Let her Call the Shots. she quickly took the role of leader.” Trying to Plan the Next Meeting Before the Date Ended. Remember. even on dates with girls I didn’t like. and when I did I would quickly pull away as to not scare her. I threw it all away by contacting her the next night. her brain is going “Does he want me?” That is what you want her brain thinking. Roosh says “always say ’see you soon’ when you end a date. It was like I was so scared of making a wrong move that I gave all power to her. when the DJ played a song she liked.” I would very rarely make any physical contact. The fact that we had such a good time should have been used as a reason to wait a few days to call. The less sure she is in her status with you. But that particular night I felt compelled to try to make plans to immediately see her again. she was the one who suggested that we move to a table in the back. and have always naturally done since her. Contacting her too Soon After Day One. I was in “nice guy mode”. Once we got to the bar. In Bang. The whole time she’s waiting for my call my value is increasing in her mind by leaps and bounds.” That was something that I always naturally did before her. and was scared to ruin the evening by “moving too fast.COM Not Escalating Kino. By making immediate plans you don’t give the girl the joy of wondering when she’s going to hear from you again. her brain went “OK I have this guy… now let me decide if I want him. a large part of attraction occurs when the girl is away from you and thinking about you. When the bar got crowded. Normally. 352 . she was the one who suggested we go on the dance floor.

If you follow his strategy and avoid the mistakes listed in this lesson than you should be having no trouble getting second dates. Unfortunately I wasn’t. I still believe I could have savaged it if I was able to stay cool during our contacts post date. So how do you get a day two? If you want to know how to get a day two… the answer is to not make these mistakes on day one. Whenever she delayed contacted me. And when I sensed she was blowing me off… I did the worst possible thing my sending her a message stating my feelings and trying to guilt her into seeing me again. I got needy and contacted her right away. As many mistakes as I made on the date itself. Roosh gave you a perfect strategy for day one.Social Superstar Acting Needy When She Wasn’t Responding Quick Enough. 353 .

When Sparks Fly Extreme attraction develops under the safe haven of friendship. but one that has a gripping plot and an explosive love scene. there was an undercurrent of attraction that can’t be ignored. watch a movie with a story line that involves sexual tension . In simple terms.Not porn. nothing happens. Think Top Gun (Tom Cruise) 354 . At what point does the attraction build so that individuals enjoying a platonic friendship just let go and freely act on the attraction? This happens when sexual tension peaks. mind you. we’ve known each other too long to let something like a relationship ruin our friendship. Friends have several things in common. It doesn’t always lead to sex. We both know we are not ready for that. but don’t have sex. The following words echo through our minds: “Hey. if our wholesome scenes were to be made into a movie. At one or the other’s place. and could go on and on for a lifetime without the individuals concerned acting on it. We’d see each other constantly and while all the things we did were wholesome. they communicate a lot and spend time together. at least not yet. though usually it does. Escalating the Sexual Tension Here are some subtle things a guy can do to fan the flames of burning attraction and cross the border between friends and friends-withbenefits: 1. I dated a guy who I shared a wonderful friendship with before going for the plunge.” And so. the viewer would be most likely banging his head on his popcorn saying “get on with it already!” The main trouble is that whenever we are in alone dates. and the onlooker throws his soda at the screen.The Best of TSBMAG. the devil called ‘friendship conscience’ comes in to ruin everything. it’s the ‘chemistry’ that happens between individuals who like each other. In fact.COM Day 21 Building Sexual Tension Written by Evil Woobie Originally Published: 07/10/2008 Sexual tension happens when two individuals feel attracted to each other.

rapid heartbeat. The basis of which is that fear results in the same biological effects as sexual arousal i.e. If you must describe making love. She already knows that you like her. Give her the power of seduction. do NOT mention another girl’s name. “I just took a shower”). particularly if she’s feeling a bit naughty. stimulated senses. 2. Besides. It took all of my self control to prevent myself from just kissing you in a dark corner when we met for lunch” will convey the message that you appreciate her efforts to look her best. Since you know that she’s also into you. And for goodness’ sake. this could lead to more prolific things. very scared is always an excuse to cuddle up. regardless if it developed into a more serious one or not 355 . Once you overcome the sexual tension that’s been plaguing your relationship. very good friends. Sex is not the End. Some studies have shown that good horror films can be more sexually arousing than romance or even porn. now it’s time to let her know that you think she’s hot.While you bore her with the details of your soccer practice. Sexy Phone Conversation . say “when a girl kisses my ear…” or something similar. while sharing yours. Or better yet. Encourage her to talk about her fantasies. Saying something like “you really looked sexy today during class.There are things that you can tell a person you feel attraction for online that you cannot say to her face. This is because you feel protected from an extreme reaction by your monitor and the x-mark on top of your browser. Because you’re friends.Social Superstar and Disclosure (Demi Moore). bit by bit. ditch the romance movies and rent a thriller. Online chat . being very. but the Start of Better Things You are still very. casually mention that you’re wearing only boxers because the humidity is killing you (or my favorite. this will translate as sincere admiration more than harassment. 3. you are now free to continue a stronger friendship that will last for years and years to come. The trick is not to sound too eager. make her feel that her voice and the theme of your conversation are turning you progressively on.

The easiest way to relieve that tension is to have a bunch of interesting pictures. TV. sofa. your place should provide an environment that makes the women feel insanely comfortable. you should feel comfortable there.000 a year. you don’t want to overwhelm visitors with your personal taste.COM Day 22 Preparing Your Bachelor Pad Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 07/11/2008 This lesson is going to be a guideline for some general rules when it comes to maintaining your place. Your place should serve a couple purposes. Third. Obviously if you are in high school or college your place is going to look a little different than someone out of college making $100. or your counter is filled with grease… 356 .The Best of TSBMAG. 2. One of the most important ways to make your place a comfortable place for both you and the women in your life to spend time at is to keep it clean. Dust. If your floor has splashes of spaghetti sauce. Although you want create an “at home feel” for yourself. What your goal should be is for your place to be a reflection of yourself. Many times you will have someone you barely know back at your place. The more comfortable they feel at your place the more likely they will be to spend time there. The most important areas are surfaces that are visible such as corners. While your choice of decor may change. the fundamentals will always stay the same. First. or decor for them to comment on. your place should provide some interesting conversation pieces for those visiting. Stains just reek of low class. Get rid of stains. Focus your dusting on everything that can be seen. Your best self that is. A Guideline for keeping your place clean 1. furnishing. floors. tables. Second.

doesn’t necessarily look clean to them. Wipe down windows. what looks clean to us. The other rooms I would recommend using candles. The sense of smell is closely associated with arousal. It's always safe to constantly be clearing it.Social Superstar get it up. You should have air fresheners for the kitchen and bathroom. Windows are an easy thing to clean and will make the room appear much nicer when they don’t have dust and smudges reflecting off of them. Remember. If you’ve been living with the smell for awhile chances are you won’t even notice it. If there is one area that girls will judge you the most on it's the way you keep your bathroom. A Guideline for keeping your place smelling good There is nothing that will turn a woman off quicker than walking into a place that smells like crap. Keep the towels hanging nicely. 357 . 4. You want to use this for your benefit and not against you. and glass table. Make sure the toilet bowl smells good and looks clean. Get rid of all hair in tub and sink. This is often a spot you will find yourself at with a girl listening to music or watching a video clip. Clean your computer area. Keep the place stocked with toilet paper. Candles smell good and create a nice atmosphere. mirrors. The last thing you want is a girl not coming over because she’s too grossed out to use the bathroom. and most importantly… CLEAR YOUR BROWSING HISTORY ON YOUR COMPUTER. 3. Bad smelling homes are immediately associated with dirty people. If your couches have stains on them cover them with some kind of soft blanket. Make sure your computer is dusted off. It is important to get other people’s perspective on the smell of your place. The same can be said for mirrors and glass tables. You never know what’s on there. Your bathroom must be impeccable. Make sure all stains and crud. I can’t tell you how many guys I know have messed things up with a girl by giving her the opportunity browse through his computer while he was in the shower. or anything that would gross a girl out is gone. your desk is in order. 5.

pants. Don’t leave random stuff lying around. • Dirty sheets. It communicates that you are a disorganized person. yet so many of us continue to leave shirts. Put your clothes away. Decor This is the area where your personal taste sometimes has to be compromised a bit. While all of these items have a place in your home. blankets. While you want to reflect your personality you don’t want to look like The 40 Year old Virgin with rooms filled with toys. and sports memorabilia. sneakers lying all over our bedroom. Lighting is one the most important elements of creating a good ambiance. Especially in the summer time. I would usually recommend purchasing a dimmer that allows you to pull the lights up or down based on the mood. This is so simple. Dump ashtrays regularly Take out the garbage daily Put gym gear in the laundry room Food remains should be wiped up immediately • • • • A Guideline for keeping the place neat and tidy • Get rid of all clutter. If there are items laying around that you no longer make use of. • • A Guideline for making your place more comfortable to women Lighting Lighting makes a huge difference in the appearance of your place.The Best of TSBMAG. 358 . movie posters. these need to be changed often. they should not be the most prominent items on display. either throw them away or put them in the basement or garage. and pillows.COM Below are some certain items you want to be aware of that may be contributing to a bad smell in your place.

Once I knew what style I was going for I began searching for items on Ebay and Amazon that would fit into the decor. Entertainment and Props 359 . Another good habit to get into is making your bed every morning. I bought 90% of the framed art work. I find the best way to shop for home decor is online. I would buy items as I could afford them. wall decorations. it's always nice to be able to offer for her to join you in a glass a wine. he must always be prepared for an overnight guest. Making her a margarita is always a nice way to break the tension and enjoy a good drink. Beverages You always want to have either bottled or filtered water available. Bedding It goes without saying that you want your bed to be inviting as possible. I found several magazine articles that celebrated the style of Buenos Aires and then I created a look around those. Since a true player. A fun thing to do is have some frozen cocktails on hand. and stock a small bar with liquor. For me. In the past I would try to go out and decorate my new place in a weekend. You always want to keep about four pillows on your bed. purchase it as the money became available. pictures.Social Superstar The best idea is to find a style that you like. The best way to do this is to not cheap out on a good mattress. This new strategy of decorating my place over the course of a couple months allowed me to search these sites. you want to make sure that your glasses and silverware are always clean. and when I found something I liked. When a girl comes back to your place. My old strategy caused me to purchase a lot of cheap items all at once. and then slowly decorate the place to match that style. I painted the place with Latin colors and then slowly found items that complimented the room. It is a safe bet to always have a couple bottles of wine lying around. never knows when he’ll be taking a new girl home. I also tend to keep a six pack in the fridge. On that note. I decided I wanted my place to have the feel of Buenos Aires. and window treatments online. Once you have a good mattress purchase a nice comforter set to go along with it.

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I mentioned earlier that your place should provide some interesting conversation pieces. This means that you should frame some “story worthy” photos and have them lying around. These photos will serve to demonstrate your personality as well as offer you a chance to tell some good stories. I mentioned yesterday how a good coffee table book can initiate conversation and break the tension of bringing a girl back your place. It's not a bad idea to keep some props lying around. Props include things like personality tests, interesting quizzes, this lie detector test, or other fun games. It's also not a bad idea to keep a stack of reliable DVDs lying around. These should be a good mix of romantic movies, comedies, and interesting documentaries. You never know what kind of mood the two of you will be in when you arrive at your place, and it's good to have a variety to choose from. Another good idea is to be constantly DVRing interesting things on TV. This allows you to always have something of value to throw on. An absolute great addition to your living room is Nintendo WII. This is a video game system that women finally seem to enjoy as much, if not more, than men. It's great because it can introduce some competitive flirting and offers a dynamic opportunity for Kino. This should all be a great guideline for you to transform your place into an excellent bachelor bad. Remember that the main purpose of your place is to have you and her feel comfortable and to provide some entertainment for the two of you.


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Day 23 Quick Lesson in Kino
Written by The Dicknotist Originally Published: 07/14/2008

If you’re reading this, you’re probably looking for ways to obtain more sex in your life. Perhaps you want something more than just sex …or perhaps not. Either way, what separates true sex from porn is that the former involves touch whereas the latter is viewed through the pixels of a computer screen. Sex cannot happen without contact and neither can seduction. Too many guys make the mistake of focusing all their efforts on conversation and while your words may peak her interest, your touch is what will drive her wild with intense desire. From the moment a woman lays eyes on you, she’s unconsciously wondering how you’ll be in bed. Will you take charge as she surrenders her body to you or will you look to her on what to do? Will you be affectionate and attentive to her needs or will you just slam it in a few times and leave? Do you actually know what you’re doing in the bedroom or will she have to teach you like all the other guys? All of that is conveyed through your eye contact and touch. We’ve all read the now famous DiCarlo Escalation Ladder (DEL), which will give you the nuts and bolts of what to do, but not necessarily the mindset behind it. Guys who aren’t used to touching women will just lay their hands on her as if they’re in a video game. They earn five points for every time they brush her arm or tap her back. When I touch a woman, I don’t play for points; I play for pleasure. When I think of touch, I imagine that my hands are like paintbrushes plastering my emotions onto her body. Call me the Jackson Pollack of seduction: I paint her arms her arms and torso now so that I can sprinkle some more on her face later…with my other special brush. So, when first talking to a girl, I will often just lightly touch her outer arms and torso with my fingers as I’m talking to her. I see it as expressive: you touch her as you talk to emphasize important points. That touch is more subtle and friendly, aimed at just making her comfortable and more trusting. During high points in the interaction, however, your touch should become more appreciative. Touch serves two purposes: to emphasize what you’re saying to her and to appreciate her. An example of appreciation could be that in talking to

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her, she reveals that she works as a nurse. That immediately peaks your interest as your mom was a nurse and you realize the resiliency and compassion necessary for the job. Rather than just telling her how awesome that is, you should also touch her arm and hold it there a few seconds longer than usual and perhaps even stroke it. Expressive touch is like a period: light and quick. Appreciative touch is like an exclamation point, lasting a good 2-3 seconds. Yet the point isn’t for you to have this in your head while talking to a woman but to give you a context for which touch can amplify and supercharge your game. When you touch her, touch her as if you’re already making love to her. Cup your hand as you touch her back and cup the back of her shoulder blades. Don’t forget her sensitive spots, including her inner arms, behind her knees, the skin fold on the other side of her elbow. Later on in the interaction, touching her neck, ears, thighs, breasts will amplify her desire. Don’t be afraid to graze her breasts! Graze them now so you can glaze them later. You can get away with murder in the field as long as you are relaxed and slow down. Calibration is simply the act of doing things much more slowly, which includes walking, talking, and touching. You may be nervous, but if you can slow down your actions, you will be seen as confident and in control. Of course, touch is best demonstrated by viewing and trying it yourself. An excellent resource on touch is The Joy of Erotic Massage, which takes you through more than you’ll ever need to give women incredible pleasure with your touch from the first meet to sex. You can purchase a copy on Amazon, though you’ll probably be able to get it free through other means… I hope that when you read this essay and even see the video above, you will get some fresh ideas on how to use touch to build trust and sexual tension. Yet, to get the most out of any endeavor, you must go out and hit the field. Experiment and develop your own style. Innovation never comes from passively reading and watching. Like any man of character, you must act.


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Day 24 Body Language 202
Written by Dr. Fuji Originally Published: 07/15/2008

Body language is one of the most underrated, overlooked, and powerful elements in your social arsenal. The classic study on the elements of communication by Professor Albert Mehrabian (1971, “Silent Messages” Wadsworth, Belmont, California) found that nonverbal communication accounts for as much as 93% of all communication. Body language itself makes up more than half of that. So it should come as no surprise that what you say isn’t near as important as how and when you say it. In cold approach pick up, the individual who uses body language effectively often has significantly better results than his less-enlightened counterparts. In this article we’ll be delving into the use of body language to convey high value, how to show interest or disinterest non-verbally, and fixing common sticking points and pitfalls. Let’s begin. An interesting thing about body language is that it tends to override your verbal. In other words, people will believe your nonverbal communication more than even what you actually say. So if your verbally sub communicate high value but your non-verbal says the opposite, people will tend to trust the body language over the words. While seemingly counter-intuitive, the fact is most people tend to place more trust in forms of communication that are harder to consciously alter. We can lie with our words quite easily. Lying with our body language is much more difficult. Because your body language is so incredibly consistent, women especially have found that it’s generally a very effective way to evaluate others. And therein lays both the problem and the effectiveness of body language. It’s very difficult to change, but when you are successful, it conveys much more influence than other forms of communication. One of the most effective uses for body language is communicating value. We do this by consciously altering our behaviors and mannerisms from unattractive to attractive. Imagine two men, both of equal confidence, looks, attractiveness, and other factors. But one man makes eye contact when he speaks and the other looks away and fails to make eye contact. Who is more attractive? The objective is to sub363

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communicate through our body language that we are “high-value” (read: attractive) men. By “high-value,” we mean that we have high quantities of the social and evolutionary value to which people respond. A “highvalue” man is one who encompasses all of the qualities and mannerisms that women are hard-wired to find attractive. Think: confidence, leadership ability, power, attractiveness to other women, strength, internally validated, etc. There are three main body positions in most social situations which you can use to convey value: How you stand, how you walk/move, and how you sit. Although full body language overhauls are beyond the scope of this article, the fundamentals are quite simple. When you’re standing, you want to stand with your feet shoulder-width apart or slightly wider, shoulders pulled back, standing up straight, and chest somewhat out. Your weight should generally be towards the rear of your soles (closer to the heel) so that you always appear to be leaning back. It should not be an uncomfortable stance, but one which clearly does not lend itself to laziness. Picture the way a U.S. Marine would stand when at ease. Your stance should project confidence. Your hands should drape at your sides the way they naturally fall. Do not put your hands in your pockets or cross them over your chest. When you walk or move, the object is to convey dominance and purpose. Your hands should swing naturally at your sides while you walk but without looking either stiff or “floppy.” Practice this in the mirror if you suspect they are moving unnaturally. Walk at about 50% of your normal speed when in the venue. When you are moving towards something (a set, an exit, the bathrooms, etc), take the shortest route possible—usually a straight line. Instead of circling a set several times like a vulture, walk straight up with confidence. Similarly, when moving through the crowd, you want to project dominance. Oftentimes women notice you and the way you move or interact with people and they make judgments about you before you’ve even noticed them. Dominance is tough to put in text but it’s something we drill in our live boot camps. The objective is to be verbally polite while “guiding” people out of your way. Don’t be afraid to touch both men and women while you’re walking through a crowd. A hand gently on the triceps or back letting people know you’re coming through is a dominant, yet polite way of moving through the crowd and communicating that you expect people to move out of your way.


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When you sit, the objective is to take up space while appearing relaxed and comfortable. Don’t overdo ‘taking up space’ lest you come off as tryhard. What you want to communicate is that you do not make any apologies for your existence and that you are used to always being comfortable. It’s the same concept as locking in. Useful tactics to convey this include draping your arms over the backs of chairs or over the seatbacks of booths or couches. Your upper body should ideally be leaning back without hunching over. Feet and legs can be spread moderately or crossed ankle-to-knee. Sliding forward slightly in your seat will allow you to lean back even in a vertically-backed chair. The main communication here is that you are comfortable and confident. Do not cross your arms over your chest for this reason. The other thing that body language is extremely useful for is showing interest or disinterest nonverbally. Because women are so much better attuned to body language relative to men, they feel your nonverbal indicators of interest (IOIs) or disinterest (IODs) much more powerfully than we do as men. For example, facing a set or group is one way to nonverbally show interest. Conversely, facing away is a subtle show of disinterest. Other body language-based indicators of interest include: Leaning in, Kino escalation (escalating physical touch), strong eye contact, and cocking your head to the side. Indicators of disinterest include: leaning back, putting barriers between you and the set or group (especially in front of your midsection, e.g. arms crossed, drink in front of the chest, etc), not smiling, “body rocking”, and looking away. Note that some of these things can also be considered demonstrations of lower value so be cognizant of what you are communicating to people. The power in nonverbal IOIs and IODs are that they can be used both subtly and oftentimes with more impact than their verbal counterparts. For example, a nonverbal false time constraint (an IOD) is much more powerful than a verbal-only version. As we’ve discussed earlier, people tend to place more credibility on body language than verbal communication because of the difficulty involved in controlling it. The punishment-reward sub-dynamic is the underlying principle behind Mehow’s Chase Cycling™ model and is most effective when body language is used to both reward good behavior and punish bad behavior. A great example of this is during the first minute of the interaction. Sets generally don’t face you right off the opener. They’re usually facing each

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other. When you begin to hook the set, you can tell by their body language – they start to turn toward you. You can then nonverbally reward by more directly facing them or giving emotional value. If they give you IODs, you can punish by facing away and throwing a false time constraint (a verbal IOD). This psychologically conditions women to invest and to work for you. And as we all know, we value that which we work for. Finally, there are certain body language mistakes that the majority of guys find themselves making during their training. By being aware of these common sticking points, you’ll be better equipped to stop them before they become bad habits. Let’s examine a few of the most common: Leaning In: This is one of the most common sticking points most guys make. Leaning in is an instinctive body language move that you have to consciously change. The lower the set is (seated, lying down, shorter than you, etc.), the more you’ll feel the urge to lean in. Don’t do it. Have a wing observe you in set and let you know when you’re leaning in. Rewarding bad behavior: Directly and continually facing a set which is closed off and giving you IODs is rapport and acceptance-seeking. You are non-verbally rewarding the set for defiance. Instead, mirror a set’s body language IODs with your own. Take advantage of both false time constraints and body rocking to avoid continually facing a set that isn’t hooking. Lacking dominance: Everything you do in field should be done with confidence and dominance. From the initial approach, to Kino escalation, to simply walking through the crowd, your body language is communicating things about you. Dominant body language communicates confidence, pre-selection, and social proof. Fidgeting: Nervous ticks such as swaying from side to side, playing with your hands or fingers, moving around too much, or playing with your drink all tell the set and everyone around you that you are not only nervous around them, but that they are higher value and thus, you are emotionally reacting to them. The emotion of nervousness often manifests itself through these nervous behaviors. Eliminate them. You’ll notice a marked improvement in your interactions. Drink shield: This is another common sticking point the majority of men have. The “drink shield” is when people hold their drink in front of their chest in a social environment. The sub communication behind this body language tick is that you’re nervous and uneasy. So your instinctive reaction is to cover your midsection (traditionally the most vulnerable

com. In this case it’s the drink. hold your drink down by your hip and don’t cross your arms or take a protective stance. Force yourself to relax and let your arms just fall. You are trying to convey but to also convey interest or disinterest without opening our mouths. security. but these are the absolute most common ones. there’s dozens more sticking points many guys will experience.mehow. and relaxation with your body language.mehowgetthegirl. One interesting side effect of good body language is that it not only affects your interactions but your psychology as well. Instead. but after some practice. Your physiology often has a significant effect on your psychology. At the beginning you’ll have to force this. And it’s the basis behind parents telling their children not to cross their arms or frown. you’ll start to automatically relax more in social situations. We cover body language much more in depth in our live programs and boot camps and also in Mehow’s esteemed Get the Girl!™ Manual available at www. we’ve examined some of the most common sticking points and come up with solutions and fixes to remedy them. your body too affects the mind. You don’t know what to do with your hands so you shove them in your pockets. DJ Fuji Chief Instructor 367 . and body language is no exception. Of course.Social Superstar spot on most mammals) with some sort of protection. Hopefully this article has been able to shed some light on the importance of body language as a whole. Hands in pockets: This behavior also communicates that you’re nervous and that you feel awkward. Just as your mind affects the body. We’ve learned that not only does it allow us to show value. Fix these behaviors and you’ll see a significant improvement in your game and in your own state. Instead. The human brain is constantly reacting to stimuli from the sensory system. See you all in the field. This is why faking a smile for an extended period of time often makes us feel better on the inside as well. Information on our live programs can be found at www. let them hang naturally by your sides. And of course.

Even if some of their reckless behavior will never suit your personality.The Best of TSBMAG. The reason most of us viewed these guys as assholes or jerks is simply because we were jealous and envious that these guys were always dating the girls that we wanted. If you want to stand out in a crowd. it is simply because that is the vibe that you’ve been sending off. “women only like the assholes. we found it easier to blame society for our lack of success with women. that girls are attracted to guys who possess a bit of that bad boy persona. then do it anyway. and create an acceptable excuse for ourselves. Most of our fears are completely unwarranted. it’s time to MAN up! There is plenty that can be learned from these bad boys. It will come across forced and insincere. Most people are insecure. The Bad Boy trait you should emulate 1. our fear of being laughed at.” Well boys. if you’re like most us. Live life through their eyes. Instead. You want to shed your “nice guy” image? It is impossible to try to imitate specific bad boy behavior. you’ve probably often asked yourself “why all girls like the assholes?” or “How come the jerks get all the girls?” This is not so say that being a bad boy makes you an asshole or a jerk. live a fearless existence.COM Day 25 Being the Bad Boy Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 07/16/2008 You probably noticed as far back as grade school. Feel the fear. Most people are held back by various forms of fear. you can try adopting some of their character traits to increase your attractiveness. Most fear stems from our need for approval. put yourself in their mindset. We are held back by our fear of losing our job. If you’ve found yourself too often getting stuck in the friend zone. while we were getting stuck in the friend zone. Most people suffer some form of anxiety disorder. You’re fearless. our fear of going 368 . In fact. So instead of trying to learn from these “jerks” whom we weren’t alpha enough to hang with.

our fear of rejection. say what you feel like saying. What would your personality be like if you weren’t governed by all of these fears? If you take a look at the short list of our major fears… you’ll find that not one of them is life threatening. The bad boy makes her forget all about her fears and insecurities. or how you appear. Most of us are working a job we hate. And she gets addicted to it. Do you want to call out of work and go the beach? Do it! Do you want to tell the counter girl at the bank that she’s sexy as hell? Do it! Do you want to finally change the style of your haircut? Jump out a plane? Get a tattoo? Have sex with a stranger? Do whatever the fuck you want! Whenever the fuck you want! Do this for just 2 days and experience the thrill of being fearless. How refreshing is it when we meet someone who isn’t controlled by these fears? Women are attracted to bad boys. or whatever other insignificant. because bad boys provide an adrenaline rush that the average guy does not. He takes her into his fearless existence. tell someone who has pissed you off to “fuck off. In fact.” do exactly what you want to do. trivial reason is holding you back. My challenge to you Live the next two days of your life completely fearless. and we’re not even afraid of the consequences of the wrong decision… We are afraid of what people will say about us… what people will think about us. a woman sees a reflection of most of her fears and insecurities.Social Superstar broke. our fear of making a mistake. approach who you feel like approaching. 369 . How ridiculous does that sound when you really think about it? 90% of the decisions that you make are influenced by your need for approval. lonely or in a shitty relationship. Because they can sit and talk and wallow in their fears and insecurities together. After the two days you can go back to worrying about what people think. most of our major fears are solely based on what thoughts someone else will have about us. have given up our dreams… because we are afraid of making the wrong decision. This is why the average guy becomes her friend. Just for the next two days. In the average guy. our fear of ruining our reputation.

The Best of TSBMAG. We even went into specific 370 . http://www. showing how a bad boy would react as opposed to the typical “nice guy.” If you feel that you need to incorporate more bad boy traits into your persona I highly recommend listening to our How to Be the Bad Boy Women Want podcast.COM More information on being the bad boy In our most recent podcast we went over an entire list of ways you can take on more of the bad boy attitude.

emails. Bobby’s Step by Step Plan The first thing that you need to do is effectively disappear from your friend’s life. You should spend at least one month apart. The better friends you are with this girl. She can never feel like you’re bragging. This is a fine line that you have to be careful as you walk. When you do talk to her be pleasant. Wait a day or two before getting back to her. This means cut off phone calls. I am going to assume that the female friend you’re interested in has firmly placed you in the friend zone. but brief and vague. text or email immediately. What you are doing here is confusing her. This means you spend a reasonable amount of time with her. The whole goal is to make her wonder what is going on in your life that you no longer have time for her. the longer this process should go on. Vagueness is the key to this part. text messages. First. While you’re gone you also need to arouse some jealously on her part. and the confusion will cause her to spend more time thinking about you. Now you need to amplify the jealousy and confusion. and visits. I will also assume that you are actually friends with her and not just an acquaintance. and communicate often through phone. Assuming enough time has 371 . trying to make her jealous. This is to be done without making her feel like you’re mad at her. Although you will be vague. When she contacts you… don’t answer the phone call. or lying… The whole attitude should be that really great things are going on in your life… but you’re holding back from telling her because you don’t want to make her feel bad. you should always be implying that really great things are going on in your life. A great way to do this is to call her and ask her to hang out. texts. Her simply missing you will not be enough to stir up immense attraction for you.Social Superstar Day 26 How to Turn a Female Friend into Your Girlfriend (Part 1) Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 07/18/2008 For the sake of this lesson I am going to make a couple assumptions. or MySpace/Facebook.

you can bet she will be checking out your profile to see what’s going on in your life. now is the time to get serious about change. challenging. and personally rewarding events imaginable. In the meantime. flirting. that when she finally sees you again there is a very noticeable improvement in your appearance. If there are physical areas of you that need improvement. The other benefit of improving your social skills will be that it will naturally make you more attractive to your friend. You should be out talking. add some new cool pictures (preferably with some hot girls. You need to be filling your days with the most exciting. do everything you possibly can to get to your ideal weight. You should be doing everything you can to take your mind off of her. If you’re scrawny… join a gym and follow a good plan for bulking up.The Best of TSBMAG. cancel the plans with her. and building attraction with as many girls as you can. You should not spend all of your time away from her thinking about her and planning your next move. Many times guys fall for their female friend because she is the only girl in their life. Your 372 . The entire time that you’re away from her you need to be working on yourself. The confidence you will gain through your improvements will radiate throughout you. Basically you want to do everything I outlined in day 3 about updating your look. she will be relieved that you finally called… and her jealousy and confusion will dwindle… Just when she thinks things are going back to the status quo..) To go even further I would recommend getting a bunch of attractive girls to leave comments on your page. If you’re over weight. another great way to create jealousy is to take advantage of social networking sites. be vague. You should be hitting on other girls with reckless abandon.COM gone. it gives you a chance to see if you really want this girl to be your girlfriend. Above everything else. It is crucial that after her long time away from you. During your time away from her you also need to be working on your social skills. It is important that you change up your profile a bit. Race and Kelly give a great way to go about getting these comments. When you cancel don’t schedule a new date. Improving your social skills serves many purposes. Once again. Assuming that the both of you are active on at least one social networking site like MySpace or Facebook. Once these guys go out and meet some new girls they realize that there is an abundance of women and no longer cling to this one girl the way they used to..

or holding her hand. This is the end of today’s lesson. you need to spend fifteen minutes visualizing yourself with your friend as lovers. The final benefit of improving your social skills immensely while you’re away from your female friend is because you’ll find it so much easier to create the confusion and jealousy that you’re aiming for. 373 . The idea of lying in bed with her. or just referring to her as my girlfriend was so foreign to me that it scared me senseless. As much as I wanted it. my brain resisted out of fear. This final exercise is so important because you have to train your brain to experience the new reality. or wardrobe. Hold the vision in your mind and feel all of the feelings associated with it. and go for the kiss. and then supplemented it with the visualizations… and I truly believe that without the visualizations I would not have been able to succeed with the plan. I followed the entire plan outlined above. I swear by this. You will also be fine tuning your flirting skills which you will need later on when you start hanging out with your friend again.Social Superstar new found confidence will probably impress her more than your new body. If you want to learn more about visualizations re-read lesson one. as I truly believed it is what finally allowed me to turn a friend of five years into a lover a couple years back. Every morning upon waking and every evening before you go to bed. how you will break rapport. there is one exception to that. Part two will deal with how you will act when you finally meet up with your friend again. it is much more powerful if it's because you really do have better plans and more options. If you’re avoiding her phone calls and breaking plans with her. I don’t mean visualize the act of sex… I want you to visualize what it will be like after your first kiss. While I’ve stressed that during your time away from your friend you should put her out of your mind as much as possible. amplify attraction. The final thing you need to be doing relates strongly to lesson 1 which dealt with designing your life. haircut. Experience the feeling of sitting next to her having moved past the friend zone. I found the biggest factor that used to hold me back from making a move on my friend was that I could not imagine the outcome. This will come into play in part two when I discuss finally meeting up with her again.

Let her feel a little awkward and uncomfortable for awhile. It is important that you spend this time building sexual tension through teasing her and using Kino. 374 . You can easily ruin everything you’ve been working for by losing control of yourself and saying or doing the wrong thing. It is critical that you immediately capitalize on this built up tension. I don’t care if you have to open every set in the bar… find one that sticks.COM Day 27 How to Get Your Female Friend into Bed Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 07/21/2008 If you are serious and strict about following the plan I laid out in part one of turning a friend into a lover then you will have built up an ample amount of tension and anticipation. If you haven’t brought girls with you. If not. For the short intervals that you spend with your friend the conversation should only consist of light and flirtatious talk. Once you get to the location you need to establish yourself as the social charming guy of the evening. When your female friend arrives it is critical that you’re already engaged in some conversation with attractive women. The goal of this first meeting is to display the “new” you in action. When you finally decide to hang out with your friend again you need to invite her to an event that is on your terms. Once you’ve established a meeting point (bar. I would maintain nothing more than a good buzz throughout the night. you need to begin making new friends immediately.The Best of TSBMAG. then you need to be an opening machine. This means inviting her to a party you’re hosting or a night out with you and your friends. but do not immediately run to her side. You are to acknowledge her. club. During this evening you should be bouncing back and forth between your friend and the other girls in the location. It is extremely easy to slip back into the status quo if you drop your guard. Hopefully you’ll have invited some other girls you know as well. Let's talk about how to capitalize on this built up anticipation. party) you need to arrive there early. When your friend finally arrives you should be talking to some girls. How many times has she done that to you? I just want to add something in: Do not get too drunk.

Or better yet. the best way to break rapport is with physical contact. If you’re going to go for it all you need to be rapidly escalating Kino.. I’ve found it is almost always most effective to swing for the fences the first night. These things are things that lovers do. Everything should be happening without mention of the paradigm shift. or grab her hand to look at her ring. Now it's just a matter of letting her know it's alright to embrace this attraction. or if you’re going to end the night leaving her wanting more. use an excuse). If you’ve followed everything correctly you should have built up some strong attraction. You have to decide if you’re going to shoot for the fences with your friend. Some girls may not be game for making out in the club… in this case you need to find away to get her alone. She will be feeling attraction towards you. As the night gets later you have to make a decision. as the tension is mounting. Personally. tell her you going to get a drink and go talk to another girl. If she starts talking about some guy she’s dating-change the subject at the first chance you get.Social Superstar The time that you spend with her you need to be quickly escalating the Kino. She will most likely try to suck you into talking about the same old status quo topics the two of you always discussed.. touch her hair (likewise. You’ll need to use a combination of these touches to shift out of the friend zone. This means tease her with a gentle push. This is something that you’re going to have to feel out. Once you’re alone with her you have to be sure to keep the sexual tension alive. You need to take control of the frame and subtly let her know that you’re calling the shots now. Remember. and friends don’t. Her emotions are going to be peaked by mid way through the night. If she starts talking about something that is not cooperating with the mood… break rapport again. Sexual escalation is more effective because it is less ambiguous: hold her hand (use an excuse of looking at her rings or bracelets or nails if you need to). 375 . Later in the night. You also need to be sure to break rapport. put your arm around her. your goal isn’t to offend your friend or be mean… your goal is to build attraction. but I’ll say it anyway… never verbally acknowledge any of this. or touch her ear to comment on her earring. This should go without saying.

But if possible. 376 . then close out the evening talking to other girls and part ways with your friend. initiate Kino. Look at her lips and leave pauses where you just look at each other. If you sense you need to build more attraction.. and build attraction. This evening you must treat the same way as the previous evening.COM It won’t be enough to just tease her and escalate Kino. You have to encourage her to have sexual thoughts about you. Go in for the kiss. You should look at her like you want her. If you find she is being completely unreceptive to your advances… then let the evening die down with you in control. If you find at the end of this second night that she still isn’t receptive to being kissed… move on. You need to break rapport. then put your phone back in your pocket. You need to prompt these thoughts by: • • • • You need to hold strong eye contact. If you’ve decided to hold off to another night to go for the kiss… I suggest making a deal with yourself. If she’s comfortable with that or looks at you in a seductive fashion it's on.The Best of TSBMAG.. You need to act in a seductive manner. You should slow down your speech and deepen your voice... flirt. Give it one more chance. tease. Simply look at the texts. The next time you hang out with her it can be alone. smile. arrange for some friends to send periodic text messages to peak her interest.

it just takes a hell of a lot of time to do it (and this goes double for friends or ex-girlfriends who already know you). 377 . It’s a mind-blowing experience to watch how some guys get treated in public…and they put up with it. Here we go… Let’s be blunt here…when women get complacent in a relationship they tend to treat their guy like shit. I am not a guru. One of my good friends got married a while back. or just a fuck buddy hopefully you can pick something up from this. Apologies in advance for the long post. be it monogamous. To give credit so I don’t step on any toes or get a lawsuit thrown at me.Social Superstar Day 28 Managing a Relationship Written by M. Should put a little perspective on the divorce rate in this country. MLTR. It’s not that it can’t be fixed. Here’s a true story. If you think I’m joking head to the mall on a Saturday afternoon. Chase Originally Published: 07/22/2008 I’m guessing since I’m getting married in September (let’s see how that goes) is why I was asked to write about managing a relationship for the 31 days series. then sit down and watch couples interact. most of these are Sebastian Drake’s concepts. good luck with that. but the stuff below is golden. If you decide one day you’re going to break the mold with a girl you’ve been seeing the vase cracks…yeah. everything was normal. The Vase Concept This is the best analogy I’ve heard…relationships are like a vase…clay and water getting molded together on a wheel. Then she quit her job and took over the finances. while sad this can be prevented. You only have a set amount of time. these are just guidelines I’ve been taught and implemented that have worked wonders. Honeymoon was great. buy a drink. maybe two months to make things how you want them to be. Guys. there it is and good luck changing it. Once the vase gets thrown into the oven and hardened. If you are interested in a relationship. He was GIVEN a $20 allowance per week with the money he earned. We’re all creatures of habit. these are not my ideas. The marriage lasted six months until he finally flipped. I’m not reinventing the wheel here.

DO NOT do it from day one. This is just psych 101. Don’t get the wrong impression that you should never compromise. Frankly. even if I have to water the damn things. We all get caught up in the moment when we’re with a new girl we like. The real question is what you’re willing to compromise on.The Best of TSBMAG. doing the laundry…whatever). For example. Do you act the same way around your best friend that you would around your boss? Now what you should ask yourself is why? The same thing goes for relationships. Draw the Battle-Lines Probably the best advice I’ve ever gotten. This is very powerful in the seduction phase. I’ll drop something like “look at all the women in this place that need a man to hold their hand…please tell me you’re not like that. Everyone acts differently around different people. Again. Would you drop an f-bomb in front of your grandmother? I know I wouldn’t have. The moment you get fed up the precedent has been broken and the vase cracks. Can’t say I’m exactly thrilled with the changes (I’m now a plant owner) but it’s something I can live with. You simply have to. if I’m into a woman and looking for a MLTR. If she disagrees on a trait you’re looking for it’s up to you if you want to pursue it. singing karaoke. This is also very good for compliance. Something in our heads wants to make her happy and seek approval. Let me ask a question. but you can nudge them in certain directions.” You can use a variation of this for any trait you’re looking for. good luck with that. fancy dinners. people act like they are expected to. Ashlyn just moved into my place and did some redecorating. If this will piss you off a couple of months from now don’t start the cycle. I’m surprised this isn’t addressed more in the community. draw the battlelines. Never. Set Expectations Guys. People tend to live up to what they’ve admitted to. You can’t exactly change someone’s personality. This was so far out of my reality I thought it was a joke…it 378 . If she asks you to do something. Getting someone to admit to something you want wins the battle…if they renege on it later you can bust them on it. and this can be anything you seriously don’t want to do (going to plays. Gentleman.COM Precedence is absolutely key. If she’s into you she’ll agree with pretty much anything you say unless it’s way out of her personality.

M. When women get pissed they will push you to see what they can get away with. Chase II 379 . Whatever you really want. A loyal girl. If anything I hope you guys got something out of this. bj every day. Now push it forward.Social Superstar wasn’t. If you set your expectations farther than what you really need you’ll always be in the clear when problems come up that have to be worked out. In the seduction context make a list of what will make you happy in a relationship. something along the lines of “can we just have sex tonight instead of you doing me anal on the balcony”…fucking hilarious. I’m trying to remember how this went. We all do it. sex 4 times a week…etc.

You need to be able to recognize what a woman is enjoying. If you know you’ve got a habit of finishing quickly than make sure you extend the foreplay. This starts with the kiss. Most girls really enjoy receiving oral sex… learn to read the signs she is giving you and get her pussy gushing from the oral. Use your hands and mouth to create intense sexual tension. if you don’t perform in the bedroom you will never be able to create a life of unlimited options. That is true sexual power.. slow your style down so your tongues mesh together. you need to be good in bed.COM Day 29 Tips for Getting Better in Bed Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 07/21/2008 If you want to have the ability to call a girl up every night of the week for a late night booty call. In this lesson I want to give you guys some tips for improving this area of your life. Even if she knows you’re a player. You’ll need to increase your stamina. If she’s an aggressive and dominant kisser… sit back and follow her lead. If you want a mind blowing sexual session it has to last more than ten minutes. Explore every area of her body until she is practically begging for it. Sexual options with women stems from building up a network of women who love having sex with you. It doesn’t matter how great of a pick-up artist you are. simply because you mirrored her style. Women who still want to sleep with you even after they realize that you’re not boyfriend material. she has to feel an intense sexual connection with you. But even after some powerful foreplay you need to follow up an even more powerful lay. I recently wrote a post about becoming a better lover where I discussed the art of reading the signs that a woman is giving you and continuing to push her in that direction.. If she is a slow passionate kisser. You need to tailor everything to the girl you’re having sex with at this particular moment. She’ll walk away thinking you were the best kisser in the world. Increase your stamina and last longer by focusing on 380 . Above all this is the number one trait of a good lover. You need to make her feel like you know her inside and out.The Best of TSBMAG.

Don’t obsess about the g-spot. Having stubble on your face can irritate her and make things like kissing and oral sex a lot less pleasurable for her. using breathing patterns. use positions that you’re less likely to finish with. Smell Good. Shave. Give a good massage. Everything listed above are the fundamentals needed to become a better lover. 3. 2. You also want to build up your energy level as well as increasing your testosterone level which will only fuel your fire in the bedroom. If you’re clueless about the G-spot read an article about how to find the g-spot 381 . Below I’ve listed some general tips to improve the overall experience. Aim for the G-spot. But having an idea of where it is and how to hit it will increase your likely hood of making her cum. 4. The more you take care of your body the more likely she’ll be inclined to want to give you oral sex. Groom Yourself. Just a small spray is best… or go for that just out of the shower smell. Watch a video on giving an erotic hand massage or a video on giving a foot massage. Wearing nice smelling cologne can intensify the sexual desire she feels for you. and by practicing. Having a little knowledge of some sexually erotic zones of a woman’s body will go a long way. 5. More tips to be a better lover 1.Social Superstar pleasing her rather than how good you feel.

and pray that things will roll along at the status quo.COM Day 30 Ending a Fling or Relationship Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 07/23/2008 There comes a time in every player’s life where he is forced to end relations with a female he no longer enjoys spending time with. What is this? 3. I used to fear it. was when months later. when I finally had the balls to end it. But there is one constant rule that does not change. I used to hate when a girl asked me one of these questions. Where is this going? If you’ve been dating a girl that you have no intention of making your girlfriend… than you need to change the way you view these 3 questions. Now that you’re out meeting and dating a variety of girls you’ll quickly find that you won’t be on the same page as most of them. It is never easy to end things with a girl… and every situation will be different. The irony of this is that you will probably find it is more difficult to end it with a girl than it was to get her. Eventually you are bound to hear one of these 3 evil questions: 1. the harder it will be. The longer you wait to end it. Where do we stand? 2.The Best of TSBMAG. 382 .” Well. now I’ve learned to love when a girl asks me one those questions… because I’ve learned to just be honest with her. This is because while you may view her as “practice” or “fun for the moment” or “somewhere to dump your load” she may have completely other thoughts running through her mind in regards to what the two of you have together. And what I hated more. I hated the way I had to lie or change topics or be extremely vague with my answer. the girl would throw it in my face how I should have just been honest with her back when she asked “where this was going.

Social Superstar When a girl doesn’t ask “what is this” and lets thing go along like everything is fine… that is when it is exceptionally hard to end it. I wrote a post awhile back called Why You Shouldn’t String Girls Along where I talked about the negative effect stringing a girl along has on your personality.. But this needs to be established as soon as possible. The more you try to sugar coat a break up the less likely she will feel the break up is for real. Ultimately it is all about living with integrity. this will actually allow her to move on and get over you. But it is a lot meaner to let a girl waste two years hoping that you’ll finally see the light and be what she wanted. The minute you free yourself up from one girl. If she doesn’t feel it's for real than she will be filled with hope that you will get back together. There is an abundance of women available. This is why you should use the opportunity most girls will present you with and come clean and be honest with them. As hard as it may seem to tell a girl you don’t love her or don’t want a relationship with her. You need to crush that hope. That resentment is unhealthy for your soul. In that case she doesn’t give you an out. She will respect you for your honesty. and you have to be the one to address the situation. If a girl asks you “where this is headed” and you don’t see it turning into a long term relationship. This is not the mentality that a true player should have. But you’ll find that if you continually are honest with yourself and others your life will be a lot less complicated. If you lead a girl on for six months and then tell her that you don’t have feelings for her other than sexual. I know that sounds mean. The longer you date a girl you have no real feelings for the more resentment will grow inside of you. You will 383 . The right decision may not always be the easiest. The secret to ending a relationship is honesty. She can’t have those two years back. Tell her why. it will be a lot harder to make the transition.. tell her. Many guys will continue dating a girl they have no feelings for simply because they are scared to be single or unable to give up the steady sex. you’ll be amazed at how quickly more will flow into your life. In yesterday’s lesson I talked about how if you’re really good in the bedroom you can usually keep sleeping with girls long after they’ve realized that you’re not going to be their boyfriend. This is a lot harder than it seems. If you let her know this after a few weeks than it is more likely she will keep you on the side as a booty call.

384 .COM also find that you feel better about yourself.The Best of TSBMAG. and your sense of self worth will increase.

Opportunities and Threats that that business might have or be facing. pua.Designing Your Life. Weaknesses. 1. dating. List Your Strengths What attributes do you have that will help you to achieve your goals? What do you have going for you? What are your strong points with approaching. List Your Weaknesses What attributes do you have that are holding you back from achieving your goals? What skills do you not have as a successful player. relationships? What resources and assets do you have at your disposal? What do you do better than anyone else? 3. Your task today is to run a SWOT Analysis on yourself. Much has been written about SWOT analysis and how to carry it out (I’ll let you do some searches on Google for it if you’re not familiar with it) however let me write a brief description of how to apply it to yourself. or alpha male? What is ‘broken’ on your game? What could or should you improve about yourself? What should you probably avoid in your gaming? What is distracting you from your goals? 4. Define Your Mission and Goals Before you carry out your SWOT it’s important that you know what your goals are (otherwise the exercise is a little pointless as you’ve got nothing to review yourself based upon). 2. As a result you’ll want to have done Day 1’s task .Social Superstar Day 31 Run a SWOT Analysis on Your Self Written by Bobby Rio Originally Published: 07/25/2008 Today is the last day in the 31 Days to Better Game series and as a result I want to make your last task a little reflective and forward looking. List Your Opportunities Where is opportunity presenting itself? Is there a local club/group that you can join? Is there a girl just dying for you to make your move? Did an old fling show up back in your life? Did a new girl move in the 385 . A SWOT analysis is a strategic tool that has been used for many years in business (and many other fields) to look at the Strengths.

Analyze Your Reflections and Generate Strategies Take some time out to work out what you can do with your findings.The Best of TSBMAG. Have you ever done one on yourself? 386 . Doing a SWOT analysis is something that I do periodically on myself. List Your Threats What external things could or area is hindering you achieving your goals? Are you working too much and therefore coming home too tired to game? Do you not have enough money to go out to bars or clubs very often? Note .Think of Strengths and Weaknesses as internal factors while Opportunities and Threats are external factors. How can you utilize your Strengths? How can you bring your Weaknesses to an end? How can you make the most of your Opportunities? How can you fend off the Threats? An old Marketing lecturer used to say . Plan to Do Something and Do It Translate your findings into an Action Plan and begin to implement it. this website and on my overarching business also. Opportunities and Threats is only half the job. Weaknesses. 6.‘doing the analysis of Strengths.COM apartment across the hall? A part time job you should get to meet new people? 5. 7. Working out how to turn Weaknesses into Strengths and Threats into Opportunities is the key part of a SWOT analyses.

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Very Special Thanks We would like to issue a special thanks and acknowledgement to long time reader Morgan Chase. Many of the long time readers of TSB remember him for his frequent commenting and patrol of the chat box. We want to thank you for all the support you've shown us. and your effort and contribution do not go unnoticed.COM Acknowledgements We would like to take the time to thank all of our loyal readers who have stuck by us over the years. and Pete. You have been there to keep us on track. 388 . as you have gone above and beyond. Mike. And forever a friend to Bobby. You are an honorary inductee into the TSB Magazine Hall of Fame.The Best of TSBMAG. We want you to know that we truly appreciate your support and encouragement and look forward to continuing to provide you with high quality content. and to provide invaluable suggestions.

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