Why men lie And the women cry?

Allan & Barbara Pease

C Allan and Barbara Pease, 2003 translation Jorgesen Pedro Junior preparation of original Regina da Veiga Pereira Review José Tedin Pinto Sergio Soares Bellinello cover and illustrations Mattievich Silvana graphic design and editing of kernels Marcia Raed photolite RR Donnelley Latin America - Premedia / Dip Print Cromosete Gráfica e Editora Ltda CIP-BRAZIL. CATALOGING-IN-SOURCE. National Union of EDITORS OF BOOKS P375P Pease, Allan Why men lie and women cry? /

Allan and Barbara Pease; translation of Peter Jorgensen Junior. - Rio de Janeiro: Sextante, 2003. Translation: Why men lie and women cry ISBN 85-7542-063-1 1. Man-woman relations. 2. Sex - Differences (Psychology). 3. Sexual role. r. Pease, Barbara. LI. Title. All rights reserved by EDITORA Sextante / GMT EDITORES LTDA. Volunteers of the Nation Address, 45 - Gr 1404 - Botafogo 22270-000 - Rio de Janeiro RJ Te!.: (21) 2286-9944 - Fax: (21) 2286-9244 Customer: 0800-22-6306 E-mail: atendimento@esextante.com.br www.esextante.com.br 03-0645. CDD 306.7 CDU 392.6

Contents Introduction Chapter 1 The cantankerousness When a person does not stop complaining Chapter 2 SEVEN THINGS THAT MAKE MEN WOMEN DEIXA IRONING BOARDS Chapter 3 Why women cry? The dangers of emotional blackmail Chapter 4 THE SYSTEM OF ULTRA-SECRET SCORE ruin of women as a man of the week Chapter 5 CLARIFICATION OF THE SEVEN MAJOR MYSTERY MEN Chapter 6 THE OTHER WOMAN His mother Chapter 7 The Mysteries WAYS OF WOMEN LANGUAGE Chapter 8 "You think I am FAT CLOTHES WITH THIS? Why men lie?

Chapter 9 THE TESTING OF WOMEN'S SEXUAL APPEAL How do you make people work? Chapter 10 WHAT DOES THE EYES OF MEN skip the power of female sexual attraction Chapter 11 THE TEST OF MALE SEX APPEAL Chapter 12 WHAT TO ATTRACT WOMEN Chapter 13 When the hunter Hang The ARC The retirement Acknowledgments Bibliography

we developed practical solutions to help you tune the right channel in communication with the opposite sex. wet and hungry. The men never worry about the future until they find a wife. that hate to go shopping. writing books. Of them also look at questions such as: "Why women do not go to the chase".thousands of times we were asked to rate certain behaviors of men and women. phone calls and emails came from people perplexed by the behavior of the opposite sex. when out of bed without getting themselves or their partners speak with them. that like to "play to pick mature green". the disagreements and conflicts between the sexes are still so present in our lives as the first time that Adam and Eve falling out. "Why do I have to collect half of my floor to ten hours of a Sunday morning ". Why Men Lie and Women cry? attempts to answer the questions that are hammering the head of women to one in the morning. scientific studies and our current sense. It also seeks to elucidate the problems which the man is beat-to ten in the morning of Sunday. Women worry about the future to find a husband. Why Men Lie and Women cry? draws attention to things that are beyond obvious to most . of the genus: "Why men devour the other women with the eyes?" and "Why are they all the time saying what I do and I think". science can explain why women talk so much. surveys. and frustrated by not knowing deal with the situation. why cry to get what they want? Why insist on a subject to death? Why not take the sexual initiative more often? In the twentieth century and one.analyzing miles of film and recordings. giving interviews on TV. even after spending a weekend fishing in the entire company. So decided to write Why Men Lie and Women cry? Catalog the forty most frequently asked questions from readers around the world demand-and we answer them by using. research. From there. In three decades of studies and research on the differences between men and women . Then things get worse. The car-tas. why not stop the car to ask for guidance. Today we know the evolutionary and biological reasons that explain why men can only do one thing at a time.Introduction Born naked. Today. sharing information at conferences . for they have habits and mannerisms that make women so angry and they do not know almost nothing of the life of your friends. in addition to our experience. "Why do women complain all the time?". that want to get to know all details about the people around you and that rarely take the initiative to do sex. Chinese Proverb Why do men lie? Why they think they must always be the reason? Why avoid it undertakes? And women.

A woman who protest against inequality was the object of sympathy. bewildered and confused. Men often do not seem to understand the rules of the game. Women and men were angry. teacher or social worker. smarter and more fans of the cause of equality. the relationships and the families began to live a great tension. Suddenly. In the last quarter of the twentieth century. Still.people. If a woman slapped a man in public. as many men feel left behind. be a man became an arduous task. while among men increased by 16%. The man knew what were their responsibilities and the wife knew her. The number of copy-of disparaging about men grows every day. The man was the head of the family and the primary responsibility for its upkeep. the roles were clearly defined. And as few of them understand the thrill of seeing and reviewing the replay of a move. he was the protector and provider. his word was law and their areas of decision were clear. The woman was mother. Serials and the TV business started to show the men as incompetent idiots in front of women superior. everything began to change. the feminists have been given more say and more successes. Life seemed simple. secretary. The rate of suicides among young men and old is now the largest in history. as women gain more and more freedoms. the suicide rate among women fell by more than 34%. During general rations. lady-ofhome. it is unlikely that a man understands that the discovery of a brand of clothing in a counter settlement is one of the most extraordinary things that can happen to a woman. Just thinking of you receiving an e-mail. while a man who did the same was accused of enemy women. You may have noticed that many women seem to have a biological need to buy decorative pillows and change the storage of furniture for men stumble when they arrive at home at dawn. You can not deny that this kind of thing that most men perceive as open hostility contributes largely to the depressed state that seems to be slaughtered on a whole generation. with the Japanese heading the list. everyone assumes that it is that is wrong. The problem is that women seemed to know what and where they were going. The men are insecure about their own identity and they . in the 1960s. Since. the focus of the discussion is still the cross that women in this car-water life. See the latest walks that circulated among women and that most men considered extremely demoralizing and threatening: What is the definition of a man? A support for a penis. often considering the man as the enemy to be defeated. Why are things so difficult for men and women? Today.

providing material and solve problems. Take care of relationships is not a natural function of the male psyche. It is estimated that 25% of all women in the western world will be standing in the single year 2020. As a result. the treacherous curves and dead ends. This we do conclude that women pay more attention to relationships than men.even when they want. Generally. They now suffer from ulcers.hunting. Most books on human relations is written by women and over 80% of its audience is composed of women. just know a single man to understand all men. fighting. protecting. Consequently. In Britain. . Man evolved with a completely different program . Studies offered by new techniques of magnetic resonance imaging of the brain confirms this fact. The men have the feeling that women want what they think and behave like them. Feminism began calling attention to inequalities between genders and promising free women from the shackles that had imprisoned the stove.we are really opposites. without the need for any special preparation or study. Women often make the mistake of believing that because a man loves. men are working or not or a little. or give the quick relationships because think of how women think and act very complicated. the female brain is programmed to nurture. But the truth is that both men and women want good relationships. the theme of these books are the men. only 7 in 300 students. heart disease and other diseases related to stress. Except that he usually does. just as always happened with men. In general. father and provider. its way of thinking and their scale of priorities. And it is true in many ways. even know them all.lack examples to be followed. Why men and women have so many problems? The woman developed as defender of the dam and offspring. We call the other sex of "opposite" for good reason . It is an unnatural situation. he also has to understand it. Sometimes the thing is so difficult that it is best to go right to not be seen as a failure. their mistakes and what to do to improve them. is often infuriate and are getting increasingly lonely. therefore. Women of today are superatarefadas. in complete disagreement with our basic human needs and biological. It is estimated that bulimia affects 4 to 5% of the university. that the brains of men and women have been programmed for different functions and priorities. Only men and women assume that one day will appear a perfect relationship. educate and provide love and affection of people's lives. against one in fifty men headed by the same situation. It is. But things are too difficult for women. healthy and rewarding. This book provides a map to help them move through this maze which transformed the relationship and identify the slippery slopes. Today. about 50% of women working in the western world . We are all very confusing. Most marriage counselors and therapists are also women. these women play the roles of mother. while a man never understand any woman. For a woman. one in five households is headed by a woman alone.

if couples who did not get married. To write this book. Humans. It is a simple animal with a tiny brain. comes after the Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love. however. not longing for a sex champion. Around the world Why Men Lie and Women cry? is the step that in the relationship ladder. If you get along with most people most of the time. Women say men want sensitive. it chooses which one you like more tentacles and gives the green light. we see that most people still do not understand during a good part of the time. but hard and Manly in other situations.714 references. define common problems and finally present practical solutions. to help them make things better fluírem. Not realize they need to be sensitive in relation to women's feelings. At any given time. For other animals. but do not want to be too sensitive. The octopus is another good example.just do. The behavior of equipment and scenarios we describe in this book apply to all people all the time. now exceed the mark of 50% in the first four years of marriage and. Whose stories are real principles apply to most people most of the time of their relationships with the opposite sex. and soothsayer. your life must be very happy. We. relationships procedures are guided by the need for direct survival of each species. There are around or brother in-laws want to advise.HELEN ROWLAND We are the only species that have permanent problems with the court. "and deals with aspects of life that most people never think or simply do not understand. the ritual of mating and the relationship . 700% of divorces begin with marriage Why Men Lie and Women cry? this is an opportunity for you to eliminate turnover a little . The black widow. collecting and comparing information and research on the relationship between the sexes. To move through this maze. get 36. the female enters estrus. Men do not understand very well this subtle difference. She never accused him of not giving him attention and he is not thinking it was good for her as for him. are infinitely complicated. who also teaches women techniques to identify and meet the desires men. know the rules and follow them faithfully. be living together. evolved so that today we know the best way to deal with the opposite sex to have any chance to lead a happy life and enjoy a share of pleasure. in English only. working. excitement and enrichment that a good relationship is able to provide. who kill their partners just after mating. however. for example. that never discussed sex or how to get there. the males approach moving its tentacles. working and loving the opposite sex.the other species already have everything planned out and is very good. much less the differences between male and female. female and never considering discover is too fat. If you write the words "relationship" and "sex" site on a search of the Internet. Unfortunately. They do not think about it . The rate of divorces in Britain. traveled for more than thirty countries. men need to learn some techniques that will find this book. In this work trying to establish universal themes. it is reasonable to assume that the rate of separation among couples is somewhere between 60 and 80%.

Once you learn to do this work and schedule it for the functions you want. the problem of communication is resolved. The result is that our relationship with those who are coming in has improved significantly and. it comes with an instruction manual. mother. believes the path where the woman. speak and act like the opposite sex?" In no event. it gives you satisfaction.the women and men. We are also parents of four beautiful children. Nothing is perfect. neighbors and colleagues. anguish and confusion of his life. Once you understand the evolution of man. in turn. In Why Men Lie and Women cry? also rely on our personal experiences. going very well. relatives. The French will not understand anything. but taking the average. profit and fun.. daughter. people like us. friends or neighbors. even if you fall a little in the words." and "Barbara said-10. People are impressed when they see that we strive to understand them and communicate with them. How to give this book as a gift After the worldwide success of our latest book Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? (more than six million copies sold in 33 languages to the present). Experience first hand We. looking as much as possible. be impartial. When you buy a cell phone. cousins. the woman will be much easier to understand and accept their behavior and mental processes. they are companions. The allegation was that the women use the book to pursue them saying "Allan said that . son. but we feel that hit most of the time with most people. The research we did on the various themes of this book and the very act of writing it gave us a more complete understanding of ourselves and our parents. Not always hit. wishing to provide you a balanced view of the relationship between man and woman. the authors. can also benefit from their experiences and their views." Why Men Have Sex and Women They Love? obtained a great success among women of all nationalities and we are well aware that some have of the gift to his men saying poignantly: "You must read . in English is no good asking a typical British dish.. are very well married. It is a book full of common sense and scientific facts presented in a well-humored and easy assimilation. The man.. Why Men Lie and Women cry? is an instruction manual to help understand the opposite sex and know what buttons to obtain the best squeezing result. Learning a second language To be successful with the opposite sex you need to speak two languages .. It is a huge gain and relief to both. some men have to be hampered in their lives.of the suffering. faithful love and great friends of each other. "Will I have to change sex?" People often ask us: "You are telling me that I should think.. If you only speak English and is visiting France. He explains the behavior of "other sex". brothers. in general. It may be easier. sisters. The locals will love and be superprestativos. But if you buy a book of translated phrases that teach you the basic words and phrases in another language. father.

And finally . And be rewarded with love and affection. and the taxi stop at your beck.. personality and give the wrinkles price of undergarment is absolutely reasonable. to shop with absolute objectivity.at least with regard to coming millennia. Maybe one day men and women may be similar. the women only speak for the business and the men only read Playboy for its literary value. You dance with a frog in a blender opinion and is not required to have erection. Perhaps the book refuses saying simply "I do not need any of it". follow by learning to understand. But we doubt . So if you. If you are a woman. Enjoy. reader.especially the parts that I marked for you read. is perhaps more prudent to ask your man to his opinion on the advice of the book. can be excused by male heads when involved in its mysterious gynecological disorders.this! read from beginning to end . They say a woman is great because you can talk to a person of the opposite sex without having to imagine them naked. " When a woman gives a gift to another a book on personal development. and men have to go once a month in a simulator of TPM. one that receives feel honored and grateful to have gained something that will help it to grow. Meanwhile. because a slight belly and gray hair to give a certain charm.. thinking that the woman is trying to show that he is not good the way it is. But a man might feel insulted. is man. leaving her injured and disconcerted. The toilet seats to be set. Mark the pages you want and let him read the book on the coffee table or the bathroom. manage and enjoy our differences. Nobody talks to you looking at their breasts and you do not need to go to beauty salon to prepare for a social meeting. congratulations! . because our book! BARBARA & ALLAN PEAS . Maybe women would like to see racing of self-mobile. because men love to give opinions. They say man is great.Know that is part of a minority that wants to understand how women think and act.

Yes. torment. even if that is annoying. The woman alleges the man to leave a trail of chaos is where. but think the men can only take things repeating and repeating the same instructions. In most cases. Men from all over the place "to complain mania" at the top of the list of your dislikes individuals. berate. can serve to keep them alive. fix what is broken. especially women. to do regular exercises and tests for cholesterol? Demand in certain situations. roast the patience. the claims it will consume the soul and can generate over time a fierce resentment. by wetting the entire bathroom when taking a shower and by spreading the newspaper while you read. take the drugs. does not care to continue complaining. irritate. In our culture. but men rarely see it the same way.and politely reminding women the way to when they forget. the male brain hears only one thing: "There she is complaining again. until one day the plug fall. The friends also did not think she is morose . Women also think that claim is how they worry about them. which is why their suffering companion deserves all the sympathy. quarrel. women do not feel morose. difficult to handle. She knows that is annoying. they criticize. How they think that their complaints are justified. Currish is a term traditionally used by men to describe women.Chapter 1 The cantankerousness When a person does not stop complaining Fiddle-faddle: annoy. In Hong Kong. annoy. bother. selfish. not abusing the drink. . however. They think they are confined to their men to remember the things they have to do: meet its share of household chores. complain and complain. provoke. when the woman starts to repeat his orders. Only in the United States are more than two thousand cases per year for men who kill their wives have been arguing that the complaints brought to them. Generally. has been enhanced by reducing the penalty of imprisonment by a judge who felt he was led to commit the violence because the woman was too morose. tease. but it is always for the good of women. The morose man. show how much they care about them. above all. In very small doses. a husband who has a hammer head of the wife. dominate (the husband). fill the bag. who calls all the time. they see defects. Currish: individuals. causing him permanent brain damage. men do not complain. dirty clothes and take towrope them wet the ground. molest. They are assertive. and are natural leaders all the time conveying their knowledge . however. tell when it is delayed. is something that society sees an entirely different way. get fungus in cangote.for them the man is yob. Advice as "always check your bank! How many times do I have to say?" and "It gives you a bit more care of their appearance when my friends come to our house?" are repeated with admirable persistence and. Where would many men without a woman warning them not to take beer or eat sandwiches too." Like a dripping faucet. the cantankerousness can even be considered constructive.

If you complain all the time. If I go to clean dinner with his friends. " A group of women we had dinner in a restaurant heard the following conversation was about their husbands: Blonde: "Yeah. women have always appeared as a morose. she was sentenced to "chair of immersion. he claim that I do not care for him why not take care of my appearance. If I do not want sex at the time he wants. The situation is so bad that I asked the boss to be working after hours. I am married to the Queen of Claims and not stand one more minute and its implications. The number of times that she was immersed depended on the severity of the offense and / or the number of previous convictions.The cantankerousness women vs The whining of men The women complain. A record of a court in the year 1592. the English laws. and crimes committed small catamaran. " Morena: "Stephen is like that. month and since we got married. on the way back. but he insists that both the end I run better than their hearing is whining. a man who is self" Jeremy Dominated "sent us the following e-mail: "I need help from you. If I do not clean. We have reached the point where the only communication that happens between us is she telling me all that I left to do during the day. men give instructions. and Europe has allowed the man complained about the implications of the judge or "cantankerousness" of his wife. It is true that women are so from birth? Please help me. It hours that I am not so.I should drop by rejoice me to work and come home to see her. My father used to tell me that every woman calls and fills the bag.S. The woman was tied infringing on a chair hanging on the edge of a mobile arm and plunged into the river or lake close by a predetermined period of time. but very short. she is claiming the whole time without stopping. Until the nineteenth century. " Third woman: "So why do men say that women patience to roast them with their complaints? General laughter. If the charge was proved. The time that I get at home until the time when I go to sleep. In the literature. calling me saying that I have some more for others than for him. it is whine. says: . is a morose adjective which applies mainly to old and women. as people who complain non-stop. Sometimes I think that it is impossible to hit. the U. he is never satisfied. After reading Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love ". its objections and complaints. Think fault in everything I do. The cantankerousness through time Throughout history. prostitutes. I think his friends more attractive than him. but I did not believe it until I married." The chair of immersion was famous in the United States and Great Britain as a tool for punishment of witches. week. Be listening to the complaints it causes me stress as a violent headache that starts in the car. My colleagues say that their women also complain to them all the time. Can you imagine? I prefer staying at work than go home. and I just early for him to shut up. Should not be so .

The woman is hoisted and vocifera How ever dared no shrew. You say: stop. but simply to end the discussion. dives into the tank. How is currish The morose always hopes that his victim. Termagant wives. but that does not mean they like to be complaining. of Leominster. or would go to fail. It occupies the infringing his post With a frown on his face printed pompous.. The last woman to go through the chair of immersion after condemned as "morose stubborn" was Jennifer Pipes. without reluctance. And when the chair of immersion was not punishment enough. If the wife has the audacity noisy To have the house with tremendous noise. the water breaks. the lake of our Canton The device named chair of immersion Under the cloak of the law that guides the procession. with a mask of iron stuck to the head with a metal bar going up in the mouth to hold his tongue. in 1809. A third and fourth time. shows how men in past centuries.. therefore. But if their husbands and neighbors to complain a second time. If the scold provokes discussion With obscene words or out of the question. driven by feelings of guilt. It decided. there were other possibilities. You must then bring the peasant A second time to the depths. my friend. took seriously the claims of excess: The Chair of Immersion See there. Learn to govern in the chair your language. do what she wants. never. they will be punished with the chair of immersion. published in 1780. written by Benjamin West. When the fire is burning. Climb even higher the blaze. Some women were forced to parade through the city as a warning to other women. .". Because when you throw water on the fire. my dear. But once is not enough. that they tell the church to stop the cantankerousness. Joy and terror of the people of the village. Tied to the chair. " The following poem. Women know that claim. the wife of Walter Hycocks of Peter Phillips and his wife are prominent morose. And before that to lose patience. England. Usually they do to achieve a goal. but you need to think really make it. Its goal is to encourage victims to meet him.

. the more the victim is subject to suffering. The only concrete result of excessive claims is the destruction of the relationship between the victim and currish therefore believe that the victim needs to defend all the time. And the least recognized. The Complaint Beneficente: "I took their medicine today. repeated complaints are a reminder continuous. Everyone avoids the morose. Kurt? Still on the floor. Nobody likes to be subject to the anger contained the ambiguous messages to autopiedade. and men think women talk without stopping. The speed you go. the victim is more refuge behind defensive barriers that leave the woman distracted -newspapers." as did his predecessors back to the primitive of a full day of hunting. is more isolated." Five minutes later: "And the towel. face of discouragement.Some women turned to cantankerousness in an art form. speak little. . I just hope that you control a drink tonight. How is the victim From a man. You can clearly see that women have an ability to speak much more than men." The cross complaint: "Nigel. computers. We do not go repeating the humiliation of last year. The more claims." The Third Party Complaint by "Moira says Shane already cleaned the grill and they are going to a barbecue tomorrow. When cantankerousness is out of control. why do not you hang your towel?" Pause.. just in time that the man needs more time to be "watching the fire.it is bad for your cholesterol and increase the weight . just before the summer. the grass of the front garden is a disgusting. the censorship. "Kurt. . They recognize and acknowledge their own words. relationships with people of currish can be affected. This explains why women think men in general. amnesia. but believe that there is no alternative. the more captive and isolated she feels. . The tendency of man is to ignore it even more. deafness apparent and remote controls. can stop the currish resentful and unhappy. you said you would hang a towel. The more demanding the aggressor. etc. They mainly occur at the end of the day.. leaving her alone and resentful. homework. the door handle of the room is falling and the kitchen window is still stuck. nor to be continuously accused of everything. etc. Feeling alone. she is able to completely destroy the relationship. We have identified five basic types of complaint: The Complaint Monotemática: "Kurt. When do you replace the lamp in the room e. When the level of complaints is out of control. which only increases his irritation and sometimes their anger. we? Usually women give laughs with these reports. Ray? And stop eating the pizza ."." The Early Recovery: "Dale. indirect and negative of the things he left behind and their defects.

2001. etc. she is watching TV. The illustrations that follow. Etc. and Fiona perhaps because Andrew does not need to consult a specialist. Areas of the brain used for speech and language. He can only focus on one thing at a time. which have fallen because of economic crisis. the owner of the Diana. he received a response to "multiple tracks" involving eleven people and nine different subjects. he turns off the radio.. Men only. Can run a computer program while talking on the phone and hear a second conversation behind her in the restaurant when talking with fellow table..the boss of it is terrible! -. and Nathan lost his job and seek other. speak little. let her be absent from work because his car is in the workshop and she has to . can identify three of these tones so often lose the thread of the skein when they hear a woman talking.. Institute of Psychiatry. London. Man Woman The woman has a mental organization that call multiple tracks . made from MRI scans of the fifty men and fifty women. show (in black) the active areas of the brain used for the functions of speech and language. You can clearly see that women have an ability to speak much more than men."..it is a counterfeit able to keep the air four or five balls at once. " Bill: "That means' yes' or 'no'?" Debbie: "Well. It is an image of men and women were chatting and communicating with each other. The man's mental organization contains a single track. and Jodi can not be absent from work .. It is able to speak on various themes without any relationship with each other in the same conversation USA and five tones of voice to change the subject and emphasize issues. and men think women talk without stopping. The multiple tracks can occur even in the same sentence: Bill: "The Sue come for Christmas?" Debbie: "She said it will depending on how things get with the orders for carpets. and I thought it was us we were and Len in the guest room could ask Ray to arrive early to. so Sue said you could get out early for us to buy the clothes for the wedding of Emma. this also depends on Adrian.. Bill thought it had a simple question and would be satisfied with a simple answer of 'yes' or' no '.Why women are more morose? The woman has a brain structure that allows you to overcome any man on the planet in terms of falação and cantankerousness. When you open a map in the car. This explains why women think men in general. If a woman speaks when it comes to a clover on the . Instead. Frustrated.

Some men. he asks for everyone to shut up talking. When the phone rings. have difficulty to walk and chew gum at the same time. He just shut up. the pressure increases to the point where the counter-attack victim. sometimes placed in positions of power. to USA to protect itself. As it is not always possible to leave the scene. The male brain has only one track. That the complaint never gives too much right? the main mistake of cantankerousness is the way to address the problem. One of the most difficult situations is when the man is connected to multiple tracks during the complaint. and the victim back further behind the barrier.road. putting the man . sometimes physically. initiating a vicious cycle where the fretful increases the volume of voice and the strength of their objections and claims. he misses the way and it puts the blame for being here. There is too much. causing a rough thread which can even degenerate into physical violence. The man can not make love and explain the same time that did not take the garbage out.

this is part of their work.." and is there outside. petty. Where is the worst cantankerousness? The cantankerousness rarely manifests itself in the workplace. The woman also madly in love tends not to complain. disharmony. you refuse to collect their clothes . not to realize that there clothing on the floor and dirty dishes on . She is so tied to the vision you created for your romantic partner. Their "requests" are weak. A clear sign of intimacy between boss and secretary of the things she is claiming that he left behind. even essential.. because this drip-drip is making me crazy .. "You never take out the garbage. killing me from week to work to make this house more or less decent and you spent the whole time sitting watching TV . and do not have enough force to get it to work.her own clothes by the wide ground. In this stage.. desk.. And as you know. is it? . Its strength is of another kind: it USA your sexual power to get to your man what you want. But when you feel more secure in your position. honors and proposals. Has a more objective way to ask things. In general the groups it in a way that the male brain has limited capacity to decipher. The so-called "vampire" also does not usually complain. The origin of cantankerousness is the balance of forces between two people. resentment and anger and can easily end up in violent physical reaction.. the secretary can gently remind him or simply do it. if you have shame in the face would fix the faucet. Missing you time and energy to it... It may be that it not be given the time to complain of dirty clothes scattered on the floor . The goddesses of sex do not complain of clothes dropped by the house -they leave their own clothes scattered on the floor. even unknowingly. Take out the trash is not too much. The woman happy and professionally performed rarely calls at home. when the relationship becomes permanent. It operates from a position of strength. You are more concerned with the "greater part" of his life. For men. After all. "I did not ask him to do almost anything at home. To note that the boss has to do something. The morose plot deals with the problem in small. it can start to complain to the boss to make it more efficient in their work. the goddess of sex may become worse in the morose.in a defensive and blocking the absorption of the message. You can even get to the point that you think is capable of doing the job better than him.. and if your partner does their share of domestic work. the growing cantankerousness can go. I ask? . trivial. and a very sensual. is like being bitten by a cloud of mosquitoes: bites takes over the body and can not kill them. unless the morose and the victim have an intimate relationship. she ignores it.. the doctor said I can not get passed the order weight . so busy arming plans to make mad love and love to be everywhere in the house. However. more powerful. may see the complaint as a form of continuous wear the head of "bring it to your level" and make it realize how much is missing. pay someone to do it or get a mate to do. " This type of claim is the most inefficient possible in achieving the objectives and becomes a destructive habit that produces enormous stress. whining and load of guilt that she wants to impose victim. which receives praise.

sons. feel no forces. she went through years and years of brainwashing to accept a "truth" that may not serve you anymore. It is the anguish of the oppressed majority. Adam's mother calls him. Do not write wins literary prize lists of great shopping. Of the genus is: ry exudes sexual power. also be absorbed by the excitement of the new relationship. Your suffering is a kind of invisible. E is confused and lost by not knowing what to think. family of journals felt mentally and trading of movies and TV convinced her that the ideal woman to be truly feminine is Perfect Wife and Mother. Nobody feels the need to complain. Both are strong. Why is she must be complaining because of any thing ? She is talking about "any thing" because his life has become a collection of small things. nobody sends write her name on a memorial in marble for dedicating his life to the welfare of the family. . Even if. asking for recognition. but do not know how to release for you to build a better life. There is no Nobel Prize for the maintenance of domestic peace. a teenage victim of constant complaints. Do not want in your tú mulo the words "always kept the kitchen clean. but feel too guilty to admit that does not like his role. Acaba I preferred that she not do anything. with a confusing and contained rage. Our research shows that women who have clear goals. mothers. is always the wife or mother . who generally feel no power over their lives and unable to change it in a clear and direct. The woman who regularly uses the cantankerousness. The cantankerousness always between people who have an intimate connection . Anyone can pass the vacuum cleaner on the carpet. independent and free. it deserves more. suffering. Unlike the soldier. culture. working more than thirty hours per week. "My mother has to draw the attention of people to do all that. That is why the stereotype of morose. The cantankerousness can be a call for recognition Complaining is a sign that the woman wants more: more recognition of the family for everything they did and more opportunities for something better. precisely because nobody gives value to their tasks.the table . She knows that life can be better. fretful of the comic numbers.wives. daughters and partners who live together. predictable and routine. Sometimes she even realizes that his feelings are normal and healthy. husbands. Mother was not tortured (at least in the common meaning of that term) and went through great suffering. "Every time you wash the dishes or vacuum the carpet is the one she makes sarcastic comments to draw attention to itself. Your daily tasks seem too trivial to justify protests and demands for public recognition. silent. Centuries of stereotypes. in the heart. which is enhanced by giving their lives for the welfare of his country." Adam sighs. or accepting and performing the ritual with joy monotonous and repetitive domestic work and motherhood are rarely morose. A professional woman radiates strength material and mental. the same for all women. His partner. however.the prisoners of the household. The Perfect Wife. frustrated with the only alternative to get your feet tapping. or do any thing to please her. It is a difficult person to feel confident and powerful if all you did in the morning to evening is trivial.

The whole restaurant was silent as the voice of the couple stood. looked at the floor. The problem is that often the woman is tempted to treat your partner as less capable than a man and a boy taken. it was starting to fatten. They think that their husbands and boyfriends act like children. The restaurant was in full expectation of what would be the response of man. "The problem is not the pizza. He reacts. increasingly high. there is no safer way to kill the passion that's starting to feel that living with his mother. He wanted pepperoni with capers. ultimately. "They are the last fifteen years. Solutions cantankerousness: say what you want The discussion was ugly. With all this pizza. He has not lost the calm. who feel that a little boy living with immature. there was silence. When they become adults. to the menu. and for women. to circumvent the .Adam is the mother of a little recognition that it begs .and deserves . if behaving as such. they believe their role is to appease. right?" He said finally. can communicate. Moreover. The man. She also did not want to eat pizza all the time: a rather more healthy food. This change of attitude is the first stone in the path of the dangerous erosion of the relationship. lovers and close friends. who hated capers. is hugely frustrated by the fact he did not use them at home. Here is one of the keys to reduce the cantankerousness: currish give due recognition for the performance of small and routine tasks of his life ends with the most complaints. which carry the soul the frustrating feeling of lack of love and recognition. it would not take out so often to eat in the pizzeria. This tendency is especially common among women. She. Studies show that married men live longer than singles. Sip his wine. But some men say that time is that it seems longer. the more it acts as if it were his mother. and began to accuse him of never paying attention to their wishes. usually they take in is trivialities and torment each other with cruel words. For men. selfish and lazy. and finally back to his wife. Was it asking too much to let her pick the pizza at least once in their life? After that last sentence.the quality of your life would be better-ra impressive. In the end. It was absurd to say that the ruin the pineapple pizza. The more a man rebels. I Hawaiian. Women who went out of control cantankerousness ESPO-ments are generally solitary and disappointed and mothers. But rather than face it. As your partner knows he has these skills. in their work environment. earn a salary significantly higher than women in the same position. produce positive results and. and placed last in their feelings and needs." The cantankerousness usually signal that there is a problem of communication between two people. the most demanding woman. The complex of mother Many women think they are the only significant adult in the family. both come to a point where they are no more as partners. solve problems. Many girls still grow up believing they should be nice and sweet. it is the work of the shopping and help her to cook. Everything started because of the pizza that they would choose. The more he resists.

make your gargling with halitol. in turn. I feel suffocated. does not listen because it does not submit the problem as they should. Complaints in only mask a bigger problem of communication.in the arms and seek reconfortá it maybe even with a session of sex. not as a complaint. I never know where you are! Dinner was cold . The woman generally expected to intuitively know the man she would like to say different things than they actually want. such as infidelity. and therefore will continue talking until you hear. communication has improved and the need for cantankerousness . wear something more comfortable. physical or verbal abuse. he is finding it a failure.you just think of you all the time! Daniel: "Do not shout me. the woman ends up giving up and falling asleep with a feeling of rejection and disaffection. I want to get away from it all for two weeks. women often address his men in a wrong way. depression and cantankerousness are the result of communication problems. I think I'm gonna go to bed" and stay away. When you discover that you do not trust their ability to make right decisions.. using indirect language. in turn. And you will never feel that you sexually as uninteresting as his mother. Rarely a woman asks: "Why did he not speak more with me?" The man. E is silent. Neither will it hit him with her complaints concerned the same problems he used to have with the mother when I was a teenager. Many women have difficulties to say. she launches the attack: Sue: "You do not have account? Why is it so late again. the man will brush their teeth. One night. Even if you talk enough. pass deodorant. Almost all the problems of relationships. I think that I would do very well and feel that. cuddle . but that is not enough!" Sue: "You really selfish! How about putting his family first for once in your life? You . You're complaining and exaggerating as always.words actually said. in return. What do you think that I leave the children with my mother for a week. As we said. sleeping with her. Seated alone in bed. I turn myself and have a time just for me. to the refrigerator will get another beer and put it on the couch to see football on TV. he is trying to tell you something that you're not listening. the man responded more positively. When the two go of it. Solutions cantankerousness: say what you feel A man will never tell you who feel diminished when you criticize his behavior.the excess claim ineffective. the man mutter. that does not mean they are getting properly convey their messages. then you take a week at work to stay with them. even if you think "My wife does not feel more attraction for me. I am much more happy and enjoyable to live. boredom. but in recognition: "I am not happy with this life. Daniel is late in coming home from work and his wife Sue is waiting with a few guy friends. It is the head that his wife is speaking in code. When a woman learns to direct and calmly say what you want. She thinks that yawn and say "I am so tired. Before he had chance to say anything." never discussed the problem with it.problems and be nice and warm.. I work late for us to have money and comfort to you . If your wife is always complaining. You. Instead. someone who will never meet their expectations. " For many women seem to say that much more difficult than hitting mouth publicly because of the choice of a pizza. Women have to understand that the functioning of the male brain is comparatively simple and that people rarely can guess what your partner really want wives and beyond .

" The technique of "I" is powerful because it reduces the attitude of defense. you're seeing someone? [Interpretation]. I like you the truth. Once you enter Daniel with defensive position. I never want to talk about them!" Instead of reporting what is really felt through a direct quotation. preventing the situation is clear. It is almost impossible to irritate anyone . the first thing you should do is avoid Sue left for him. your interpretation of this behavior. I'm not avoiding you. without judging them. Here's how Sue could handle Daniel. and always puts the other on the defensive. I rest. Sue repeated the same message all the time and Daniel was always silent. This technique allows you to keep a normal conversation with your partner without fighting. I do not want you to feel well. sorry. communication is interrupted. increases and clarifies the sincerity of the sentiments of all. you are arriving late all week and I do not call to warn [behavior]. putting him on the defensive. She can use the technique of "I" instead of using the word all the time you. I'm beginning to think that you are not interested and do not like more of me. honey. leaving Daniel deeply angry: . right? Acting that neither child again. It describes the behavior of your partner. I have worked so much." Sue (furious): "Ah.You are a selfish! . then it is well! Go to mosey out soon. When that happens.You know very well what is your problem! . You know what your problem is? You're always running away from things. Is there a problem. And (I) am not seeing anyone. thinking that it is just a morose unbearable. I am crazy for concern with what may have happened [consequences]. Neither of them is listening or watching. The technique of "I" has four parts. your feelings and the impact that such behavior has on you. Sue expressed hostility of indirect way. It ends with a discussion . The technique of "I" lets it communicate your feelings about the behavior of Daniel. used by Sue.Are you always running away! The language of "you" is to attack. Solutions cantankerousness: the technique of "I" To get the attention of Daniel. leading Daniel to adopt a defensive behavior. It is as if Sue was a sponsor of the finger in accusation Rist. " Daniel: "Sue.I expected to do everything!" Daniel (away): "Get off my foot I am dead. Here are some of the phrases you type. And their problems only tend to worsen. I thought you were not feeling well. They are simply left to say really how they feel.forever. [I] am so tired I need a tempinho for myself. and (I) promise that from now on ( I) I will call you every time you have to stay at work until later.You are acting like children again! .never do anything in this house . I have been so busy at work lately. So I am saddened [feelings].You do not have account? . speaking as softly as possible: Sue: "Daniel. I'm getting stressed. When I come home. You only know me complain all the time.

Be firm with yourself. the choice is their own. I had a really long days and difficult gives me half an hour for me to build the dust and relax. plus the child resists.with yourself. insist and ask several times before answering the child. the messages of Daniel and Sue have been clearly communicated. per-sweaty and even require certain behaviors of the children for their safety. if one parent at home or a mother complaining all the time: the naughty child or the mother or the father morose? The correct answer is: the father or mother. without speaking. The more you repeat and calls. Then the child begins to suffer because of this breach did not really think anything wrong. Parents influence the child's pattern of behavior. Daniel: "Honey." there is no discussion. In the above example. Most women.with this technique. If the pattern is reminiscent of the parents. is more emphatic and angry. For you. Enter then the consequences of disobedience. however. in fact. Solutions cantankerousness: Who trained who? Part of the responsibility of parents is to remember. Is confused and frustrated. wait until your anger placate the other to be able to hear. after a full day of hunting to feed the family. not only with their children. The more you get frustrated with the contempt it. of course. sometimes take a deep breath. . not with the child. needed to be about thirty minutes looking at the fire. think he does not want the requirement is met. But where in the exercise of that responsibility becomes a cantankerousness? And whose fault is that. I promise that after you talk to. Solutions cantankerousness: Leave the man watching the fire for about thirty minutes When the man returned to the original cave. therefore. Thus. responsible. Here is how to apply this technique. this is a vicious circle. their well-being and success in life. children trained to be responsible for repeating the call and." Sue: "Honey. Everything that you need is discipline and firm . Tell your children that you will seek the cooperation of them once. want to talk immediately. What began as a simple request of "Come dinner!" becomes a war. Prepare to not give a specific situation for thirty days without faltering. she learns that it is not necessary to answer the first call. Statements like "I" work best when they are expressed appropriately at the time. I need to talk to you about what happened today. the proper way and the tone of voice appropriate. to regain your energy. and if they do not meet. addressing the problem. no tension and no one feels intimidated. The parents currish / disobedient children can be easily corrected for. The same happens with a man who arrives late to his work: one needs time to recover. When can we talk?" When Daniel agrees with a particular time (and respect) and Sue hold while he "looks at the fire.

" It is here that the self and firmness comes into play.preferably of different colors each child and / or adult of the house and tell them that this is your personal towel. received the task of taking out the trash every Wednesday night. Tell them that will put the towel in the yard of the offender. otherwise you will continue being the person trained.For example: "Jade. With this technique. thirteen years. Solutions cantankerousness: a case study with children Cameron. that a thousand times you ask someone not to leave the wet towel on the floor of the bathroom. confusion and protests. Two or three times just to be trained to collect it and hang your towel. And the future partners of their children will not complain of their bad habits. If you do not put there. Week after week. What happens here is that the other person knows that in the end you will end up taking the towel . for example. you become the coach and not ° trained. Say. The first time you apply this tactic will be laughter. it will not be washed. if you follow collecting things from around the world. if you do not get. but you are teaching responsible habits.it simply endure their complaints. vol-ta to the point of departure. So you just collect the used towels because they do not like to mess in the bathroom and why do you think. The whole family was no longer believing-not endure the complaints and more feel the . for better and for worse. the smell of spoiled food in the house would be as if the trash pile. you will get it because they do not like to mess in the bathroom and that violates his right to a clean house. However. has chosen to continue being a person trained and lose the rights to the claim with any person to leave the clothes scattered on the floor. Here's how to reverse the situation: take a clean towel . Go ahead and take to end its purpose. and the person still doing the same things-sa. In other words. Tell them that if any dirty or wet towel is left on the floor. or so leave the bath. So you no longer train for another person. which they must be totally responsible. Who will give first? If you sell and collect the clothes. Say. that means that they trained you to do what she wants you to do. If you have self discipline and strength. but forgot to do it. which is probably a small price to pay. it is creating the rules and you are obeying. on top of the wall in the dog house or under his pillow. The same technique works with dirty socks. Do not complain to them . the laundry will accrue and will not listen to complaints of lack of that dress. that the next time this happens you put a wet towel in the bottom of the broom closet. The behavior of children is the direct result of train-ing given by parents.train them If you find that is complaining all the time with a person. underpants and anything that you do not want to see play-of the house. not to mention it will have a happier home. I want you to get your clothes dirty on the floor of the room and put in the basket. It may seem cruel. The mother stopped asking and started to complain. will discover how unpleasant it is dry with a towel wet and smelly. or after we finished the movie. for example. and complaints are no longer needed. nobody will get and no more dry towels to use. He used to say that would take the garbage after dinner. When the violator is bathing.

smell of garbage. But Cameron was not there either - he simply forgot and it mattered little to the complaints. Finally, the mother of Cameron has realized that the son was trained to the claim and decided to react. He said that as he did not meet with their responsibility to take the trash out, the whole family was suffering with the smell of spoiled food. And the consequences stated that he would suffer for their disobedience: the garbage that was not carried out would be placed in your room. Since he is not bothered with the smell of spoiled food, no problem would have to sleep with her. The thing was submitted to a fun, relaxed, nonaggressive. The family could hardly wait for the night of Wednesday. As usual, Cameron forgot to take the trash. The following night, when they pulled the sheet to lie in bed, he found full of rotten garbage. The fourth fedia! The cost of this lesson a few sheets were dirty and smelly that Cameron was forced to wash - he knew the consequences. But never forget to take the trash. Construed as a morose If the victim is honest with itself, assuming that there is any truth in claims of morose and recognizing that cantankerousness is usually a cry for recognition, the problem can be quickly transformed into a situation where everyone wins. To feel more important is the need of human nature. The researches have shown, many times, the people who work all day, have their contribution and their efforts recognized, less demanding than those that spend long periods indoors, isolated from other adults. Similarly, the owners-of-house that they do not really like, they feel proud of keeping a home clean and comfortable, to prepare a good and healthy food and give affection to your family, also do not usually complain - since receive the gratitude and recognition due. The people are generally morose performing repetitive and monotonous work or who suffer from being isolated at home. For some women, to wash clothes, clean the carpets, make the beds, do the shopping and cooking, not seeing more sense in that form, can dull the mind after a year or two. If we add to this cocktail ill-bred children who break in ten minutes the work of a whole day, we have a person who will use the cantankerousness to draw attention and try to make other people feel so unhappy about it. When the foundation of the claim is true, the victim must accept its share of responsibility for cantankerousness. The cantankerousness is the result of lack of communication. The challenge of the victim To achieve a situation where everyone wins, both parties need and want to divide the responsibility for change. The victim of complaints must recognize and accept that it must contribute to the solution of the problem. The tendency of the victim is to develop an aggressive behavior or silent, which makes things more difficult. She ignores the morose, yet tries to scream louder, leaving the room or the house and invents excuses for not answering their requests. The victim does not reflect on its share of responsibility because they are infernizada the claims, and puts all the blame on the morose. The only way out is to stop and make a self-assessment, seeing cantankerousness in an application for relief:

- Do you hear the other person? - You understand the frustration of another person? - You show superiority, making it feel devalued? - You acknowledge the achievements of another person? - You refuse to divide the domestic work because anyone who thinks the money should be in a good home? - You are quite lazy and useless? - There is a deep anger that feeds the poor will understand the problems of another? - You want to be happy? If you really want to be happy, feel able to sit with the other person and talk about the problems of you? The challenge of currish If you are morose, I stopped to think that the other may be unable to meet their demands? You are behaving as if the mother authoritarian one? Requires that it meets their requests and complaints promptly, regardless of his needs at that moment? You repeat all the time their demands? - If your answer to any of these questions is yes, sit down with the other and report them using the language of "I". - Tell him what you're leaving you frustrated. - Make an agreement of the best times for their requests. - Stop being is repeating. - Afirme their needs and feelings and listen carefully the response of her husband. - Try to know his opinion. Maybe he has a better idea. - Avoid accusatory phrases such as "You", which produce resistance in the other. - What is the solution or the consequences in case he does not change their negligent behavior? - What are you doing to improve their self-image? - You always rewards that achieves your goals? - You want to be happy? For many people, demand may become a habit, a means to communicate makes them people who sulk, unhappy and resentful of those who should be a daily source of joy, warmth and support. But things need not be. Following our simple strategies, you can build a future much more happy and loving both.

Chapter 2
SEVEN THINGS THE OUE -MEN MAKE DEIXA WOMEN IRONING BOARDS It is not easy to say the number of annoying characteristics that women look for men, but the letters we received from more than five thousand readers, we came to the seven questions that women are more often about men. - Why men offer solutions and give advice all the time? - Why men are walking by the TV channels with the remote control? - Why men do not stop the car to ask for guidance? - Why do men insist on leaving the toilet seat raised? - Why do men create problems for both go shopping? - Why do men have very unpleasant personal habits? - Why men like coarse jokes? These habits of men that women classified as "bad" belong to two categories: those they learned in its creation and those related to programming of the brain But both men are capable of solution. Everyone can re-educate, just how to do it. Why men offer solutions and give advice all the time? "My husband is annoying me immensely with his mania of wanting to find solution for everything. He lives giving me advice on how to deal with all problems of my life - even if I do not want, when I just want to talk about my day and my feelings, it is stopping me to say what I do, think and say. He is the best to solve problems when it comes to "things" - dripping taps, lamps burning, defect in the car and computer and stuff -- but when it comes to hear me, he just does not work. And if I do not follow their "advice", he is bored. Karen 'Almost Crazy. " To find out why the man insists on providing solutions for any situation, it is necessary to know some characteristics of the mode of operation of the male brain. From the most primitive ages, the male has evolved as a hunter. The ability to reach moving targets, essential to all they could to feed, was his great contribution to the survival of the human race. He needed accuracy to achieve the prey and eliminate the enemies that it disputed the-ate of and threatened his family. Consequently, it was developed in his brain an area called "visual-spatial" that allows you to achieve success with all his reason for living: to reach goals and solve problems. The men became directed people to the results and measure success by their own achievements and the ability to solve problems. In short, men are defined and self-assess according to their ability to solve problems.

but unsolicited advice. Most times. Case study: Sarah and Andy Sarah had a rough day at work: the head was marked up. The man whom he calls opinion. She prepares a nice dinner in the expectation that will have a long and frank conversation . that gives the board sees the query as a compliment. he feels as if it considers that the declaration incompetent. are not welcome." he shouted back as the door knocks. but he thinks she is bringing him to solve their problems. much less asking for solutions.The man is valued by the results it is capable of achieving or the precision with which it has a zebra on the move. For men. He loves providing solutions and advice to others. She feels that her world is falling apart and want to talk to Andy about it when you get home. in turn. "do not ask!" Each thinks the other does not value what you are saying. is beginning to offer solutions. she strongly urges while directed to the port. a lost wallet and a broken fingernail. she usually wants to talk about the events of the day and share their feelings. it is not looking for answers. but he thinks she is asking you a solution. So when a woman offers a board that no man has. When a man seeks advice from another man. especially if part of a woman. He only ask for help when the other person feels the need for a specialist opinion. That's why he rarely speaks about the things that concern. seek advice is a demonstration of weakness. She just wants the man to listen with interest. she was criticized for an administrative error. Here is the problem of the majority of couples: the night. feels honored with the query. Every man thinks he is the only person able to solve their own problems and therefore did not think to discuss them with anyone. It is because he does not pay attention as she is saying and he is angry because she does not accept their solutions. "If you do not want my opinion. She thinks it is irrelevant or is ignoring your feelings by not listening. He thinks that is caring and loving when seeking to resolve the problems of women. Why women are annoyed with the solutions male? The woman's brain is structured for communication through speech. and believes that it is making a smart strategic move. "Why do not you shut up and listen". incapable of solving their problems. because he thinks it should solve its problems alone. and the main purpose of speech is to talk.

yeah? So Fuck you. I leave and I do not know that hours back! " For men and women around the world.. always fix myself!" Sarah (almost crying) "Oh. honey?" . Sarah.. In the end.. I think not stand this anymore . Closed the business with several important problems still outstanding. and you get to say everything I have to do. injured and disarmament. Sarah: "How was your day. but he really needs a time to solve their own problems.. "Sarah thinks:" Great! Fifteen minutes to go before the dinner conversation.. I get another person to listen to me and it will not be telling me what I did wrong. tell him you can not finish the two projects at once and ask which of the two he wants first. Solve them yourself and stop complaining to me. He thinks: "Great! Fifteen minutes of quiet before eating. honey? " Andy: "Well" Sarah: "I had the worst day of my life. Sarah feels abandoned. She wants. you take care of your dinner. She can open the heart with someone like her. Tomorrow you go there and He says that this deadline is impossible. gives a quick "hi" to Sarah goes to the room and watch the news on TV. "Sarah:" How was your day. But Andy also had a difficult day. I will talk about their problems. knowing that you will feel much better. which will have to address before returning to work the next day. he said snakes and lizards in my work and wanted to know that I had not finished the new advertising campaign. is simple . I am not holding more! Andy (still with one eye on the news) "You are not holding more what?" Sarah: "My boss is me creating the biggest problem.. I already have enough problems that. (getting danada life) . you have to do is defend himself. As Andy could have dealt with the situation Let's rewind the tape and see how Andy could have prevented a very bad night. Andy feels devalued and confused. Then I said I wanted it ready by the end of the week and that he was scheduling a meeting with the client on Monday to see the work. that make you feel loved and understood and to convey the conviction that she will be able to solve their problems. When I came to work in the morning. I want to go. Can you believe it? He just does not hear me . by the way. his mind still working on finding solutions. When I tried to explain that the campaign does not was ready because I am still working on the project Seinfield. On the way home. He comes home. because Sarah rightly criticized its greater ability to troubleshoot.. It will be nice and friendly. he stopped saying that I did not want to hear excuses and I wanted to campaign on his desk before I close the business on Friday. Call telling him that Sarah had a bad day. this is a very common scene. " Andy: "Look.. It gives you just hear me? I'm full of men who always know everything. It gives a look at the food and says the dinner will be ready in fifteen minutes. then changed the subject and said that I see the six-afternoon on Friday to examine the problems of last minute.while eating. and I would not finish the two projects in this period. he will need to adjust it or ask someone to help you with the two projects. He listen. " Sarah (getting emotional) "I can not believe what I hear I am talking to you on the head that is giving me orders and I do not listen. " Andy: "Saraaah! If you do not want my opinion. which he said it was urgent.

before the end of time! Can you believe it? " Andy (showing interest and resistance to give advice) "Looks like he is really creating a very difficult problem for you .. Many men have a mistaken understanding of the behavior.. I have some work to solve problems in the morning. assume . Over dinner I heard her with attention and affection. " By not offering solutions. sometimes in a very personal level to see what kind of person he is.. I call you when dinner is ready. got a drink and not just sleeping on the couch alone in the room." When asking for fifteen minutes and get them. When I came to work this morning.. but give me some fifteen minutes for me to solve my problems at work. I feel much better now . and when the two parties do not fully understand what that means. baby. but that something terrible! Does he not know that you get a lot of work? You look so stressed . I'm so stressed that I want to go .. What do you mean?" sarah: "I think about it this evening. Then he told me that she wanted ready at the end of the week and that was scheduled with the customer to come in Monday to see our work. but I was very happy to be able to tell you . which he said it was urgent. Andy avoided a discussion... Some come to believe that she is giving you chat for sexual reasons or. baby.." Sarah: "He just listened . but then I started to explain that the campaign was not completed because the project Seinfield consumes much time.. your business relationship can be financially disastrous.. you need to establish a relationship with the man. But in the middle of my explanation he simply stopped telling me who did not want to hear apology and wanted to campaign in his desk on Friday." Sarah: "I had the worst day of my life. Here's how the dinner was: Sarah: "My boss is me creating the biggest problem." Andy (hugging her) "What a hard day you had. " Andy (with an expression of interest) "Honey. Andy now has time and space "to sit before the fire and think of their problems. I'm too tired and stressed. I changed the subject and said that I see the six-afternoon on Friday to deal with any last-minute change. . I really would like you to help me find a solution.." Sarah: "Okay ." Sarah: "You do not know how I'm stressed! Well. She is going to wreak and feel better about life. I love. I am not holding more! Andy: "Oh... Thanks for listening to me. When I tried to explain that the campaign was not ready because I'm still working on the project Seinfield. but I will get better after that they can think a little. Sarah feels confident and happy. before starting to deal with business.. talk about various subjects. up early in the morning and if you have no good idea.Andy: "It was good. he said snakes and lizards in my work and wondered why I had not finished the new advertising campaign. The woman. And Sarah.. because it will give you all the attention during the dinner. giving Andy some time to himself. avoided the usual discussions and felt happy with herself and with life. at best. I want you to tell me everything that happened. You want a drink now?" Andy: "Thank you. honey . my baby. When you want to do business with the opposite sex Men and women do business on a very different. and is reliable.

ask. In short. leaving him confused and Rally against the bad with the operation of your business relationship. Definition male: Apparatus used to scroll through all 55 channels every two and a half minutes. councils are perceived differently by men and women. The most likely is that it classifies as a man who does not listen and that it shall give due attention in the business of making Jun-ments. In heaven. every man has three remote controls and the toilet seats are always raised. but a woman can interpret them as evidence that the man is not ready to hear her. For men. it is easier to deal with a woman when she first establishes a personal connection. The man needs to understand that. the man is satisfied and knowing exactly what she expects of him. The woman is suffering very much. Defining women: Apparatus used to switch a channel of the TV to another. Then they feel entitled to offer and say what she should do. women want to be heard. especially when the woman appears worried. Why men are walking by the TV channels with the remote control? Remote control. To humans. He sat among colleagues. listening with empathy. In general. and was long periods without communicating. The companions asked him never to speak or participate. this is an efficient way to relieve stress and recharge the batteries for the activities the following day.that she is asking for advice on how to solve their problems. not recommended. we need to talk. Solution When the woman speaks and the man does not know if she is asking for solutions or just bubble.that the long-term business relationship leads to a much more consistent. And the woman needs to understand that men feel uncomfortable discussing personal matters and therefore prefers to go straight to business. just ask: "You want me to listen or want me to help find solutions?" Depending on what she says. even in business. and if not sure of what she wants. The modern man still looks at the bonfire at the end of the day." With this approach. the best and simplest is to tell the man: "I need to talk to you about several things. make it clear what you expect of the man who is wreak. in a state of trance. How to avoid discussions with the opposite sex When a woman is tense and worried. The lesson here is simple and definitive: for men. giving advice is be attentive and show love. For a woman. For thousands of years the man spent the night watching the fire after returning from the hunt. he will know how to behave. become more prone to make . Shall treat him with reserve. When both parties to understand. but now using . you just want to listen. I do not need solutions.

Secondly. north of the Kalahari desert in South Africa. The men did not want to know what is going on television. The woman's brain is structured to interpret the words and body language of actors. it analyzes the problems of each program and reflects the respect for reasonable solutions. For men. however. however. doing gymnastics or the option almost always favorite. she is more resentful. The man suffers from not being able to enjoy a moment of idleness. sex. was not really listening and analyzing what she said. After a long day. which is one of the explanations for the fact that the number of men who watch the TV news to be six times higher than women. her face. in front of the TV with a remote control from hand to hand. It is therefore a way of relieving stress as well as browse the Internet. watering plants. The female brain. As the mind of man is only able to do one thing at a time. Through channels. How he responds to what she speaks. from multiple tracks.newspapers. This basic difference between the sexes is a frequent source of problems. They want to know what is going on television. When he speaks. he is usually able to tell. That leaves the confused. make it talk about a variety . He heard the woman's falação. is something each time. when we were in the remote Okavango Delta. When a woman is concerned about a problem. but with the brain occupied in the task of reading the newspaper. each waiting his turn to be walking by the canals. She suffers from the man's apparent inattention and disinterest as the person interprets it. she likes to relax watching a television program. which exists to meet two main impulses. look at the problems of others without feeling responsible for them allows you to forget their own worries. she likes to predict the outcome of situations and also to attend to business. She needs to talk about the problem to get some relief. engage in any of these activities does the smallest difference . more man resists. he is interested in getting the fastest possible conclusions. noticed an antenna driven by solar energy on top of a hut in the village. The woman tries to talk to the man just in time when he is reading the newspaper or surfing the channels. watching television is a totally different process. whether he is also emotionally present. books and remote controls. The woman accused the man tends to be kilometers away when she tries to talk. Just remember the words of it.the problem remains concerned your mind. preferably a novel filled with scenes of emotion and relationships. repairing the car. the man to forget their problems and feel at peace with himself. the man likes to forget their problems seeing the problems of others. asking: "What was the last thing I said?" To his frustration. Concentrate on one thing. even after having tried to offer solutions and be rejected. because he thinks his mere physical presence is enough. The more he resists. We entered and saw a group of drugs Kalahari. Because the brain oriented to solving problems. The more the woman insists. dresses like tango. Women around the world have a particular aversion to the male habit is changing the channel. capable of dealing with several issues at once. Once. The woman needs to understand that looking the fire is the way that man has to relieve stress and therefore should not take that attitude in personal terms. The woman.

men have used the space component of your brain to track the prey and hit the target. This explains why more than a third of men. present and future-feeling. During this period. The man. is sitting in the passenger seat and just go through the same garage for the third time. it should consider the possibility of buying its own television set and go see your program in another room. then go toward building a pink next to the National Bank. it should tell the man. And if not advance. in turn. that the troubles and ask him to please not do so when she is watching your program. a lake or a mountain. Females. to locate the car in a large park-ing and to resume a place where it once. Seeing a tree. This is therefore the key to teach man the way a woman. when entering for the first time in a room without windows. especially if it has no intention of getting a . Means that he wants a moment of quiet. that is lost means that failed in their ability number one . it is important not criticize him or give advice. calmly. she was able to locate and find the way home. something that only one in five women is capable of. must understand that women need to talk and unburden relieve stress. If you are a woman. The most plausible explanation for the sense of direction for men is the highest concentration of iron in the right hemisphere of the male brain. all at the same time. Why men do not stop the car to ask for guidance? For over 100.the sense of direction has never been a need or part of their job description. Solution To solve the problem of remote control. For men. past. without worry to reach solutions.of things. But if he says "take the third exit to west on Highway 23 and walk five kilometers to the north".000 years. it is likely that it arrived. they learned the art of maintaining the sense of direction and recognize the ways to hunt for great distances without losing the direction of home. it may disappear forever. He would go to the pillory than admit to a woman who is lost. they feel pennite magnetic north. on the other side of the avenue. so they learned to be guided by landmarks . is not alone ventured beyond the horizon.find the path. If he says "go to where the street has a huge tree. This is the same ability that men use to find the place where he was sitting in a football stadium. The silence of the man does not mean he does not love her. pointing to the north within a radius of 90 degrees. Men never lose -only discover alternative destinations. defenders of nests and offspring.

the toilet cubicles were in the back of the house. That is why we rarely see a man urine in the open. he has time to ask for guidance. Then God gave to Adam. was an instrument that would allow its possessor to urinate standing up. benevolent." Eva replied "Who are you?" And God replied. could stay. for safety. When the download was invented at the end of the nineteenth century. Ask you to information. however. but the men just sit in 10-20% of cases. he explained. Why do men insist on raising the leaving the toilet seat? By the end of the nineteenth century. leaving many people very angry. Then God sent to Eva "Well. but men are at a disadvantage because the restrooms accommodate domestic needs especially women. but in bushes or supported on objects. preferably in a gas station." he said. When a woman went to the bathroom. but be sure to hear it. to be politically correct. While you're in the bathroom. Eva smiled. pretending that. But the practice of going to the bathroom in groups remains among women. a wall or a tree. Today. The women always felt. the bathroom has moved into the houses and public establishments. The modern homes are designed and built to accommodate men and women equally. Men never urinate in bathrooms. But when you forget to below her back. that the modern habit inherited from their ancestors. The man. and told God that if Adam wanted to do so. never lead a support group. here is the other thing. Why do women never take the trouble to raise the seat to the man? In Sweden there is an article of a law requiring the man to urinate sitting in public restrooms. but the slope. depending on the relationship of trust that has been built between the two. Or maybe. Why are four million sperm needed to find and fertilize one egg? Because no one likes to ask what is the path. "I think you can keep it. You do not want to come with me?" Men. he still lacked two things to be split between Adam and Eve A. Fred. I took another woman. is severely criticized. all public restrooms have separate facilities for men and women. the man has to lift the board not to wet the place where the woman will sit.. you can tell who is affectionately distressed to reach the destination and ask him to stop. The offer was excitadíssimo and begged God to the left for him. which require a stop.. A rapid and safe emergency strategy is to tell you that you need too go to the bathroom. smiling: "Multiple . outside. had to go alone and defend itself in case of need. with seats for women and set the wall urinals for men. And God saw that it was good. When God finished creating the universe. At home. I'm going to soak-ro .foot. when they go to the bathroom. Solution Buy a map or a guide and leave it in the car. who immediately was urinating on a tree and draw a picture in the sand. You never hear a man say: "Hey." "Thank you. are buying something.

It requires that I sit urine. This is clothing to last more than five years. Solution Ask the man who sat urine may cause some problems. " Indeed. but may be upset with the woman if she require authoritatively that lets you down. The British psychologist Dr David Lewis found that the stress that men experience during the Christmas shopping equivalent to a police dealing with an angry crowd disorder. one for her . For most women. .or below it herself . He is able to buy Christmas gifts for the whole family in forty minutes. The reasons for this are clear to anyone who has studied the evolution of different male and female brains and understand their respective schedules. just for new household rules. or fall into the pot for that. because any change of direction requires a conscious decision. If it is the bathroom at night and sit again in the wet board. three shirts. because of this. and even then the penis to urinate over the roll of toilet paper in the left leg of the pants or on top of the shoe. shopping is an activity located in the same plane to take of the prostate with a doctor of cold hands. The man can get a cabin bathroom (where all the urinals are occupied). the book takes him more.or reforming the current home to create an extra bathroom. a belt. "After 28 years of marriage. on the contrary. the man does not give the slightest importance to the fact that the seat be raised or lowered. the ideal solution is to buy a house with two bathrooms . one can enjoy the standard of cleanliness and hygiene that you like. Why do men create problems both for shopping? The great advantage of being human is we can buy two. the four in the afternoon of day 24. it kills me while I'm asleep. my wife decided I train now. And the best is that. may be remembered. For most men. Thus. perhaps decades. so calm and firm. a garden where it was impossible to sit. His task will be washing the bathroom.one for him. in the Islamic world that millions of men sit to urinate every day . To a man. It is said that the Prophet urinated standing up once in life. which means spending a day on the floor cloth to clean all the drops lost. I speak seriously. there is not enough to trust him. I have no permission to urinate as a man on foot. If the man refuses. three ties and two pairs of shoes in less than eight minutes.Orgasms. look perfectly in the middle of the toilet. The ziguezagues between shops and kiosks that women needed to consider a purchase as a successful man leave extremely anxious. And I am convinced that this is a small price to pay. and still alone on top. without having to worry about the other. I left the seat up. instead of asking politely . a pair of shoes." One of our male readers wrote us to say as he and his wife faced the problem of the toilet seat: "Women need to understand that the penis has its own designs. shopping is one of the favorite ways of relieving stress. If this is not enough to convince you. a suit and two shirts last for years. Maybe this can make sitting more attractive? If you are to them. The life of primitive man as a hunter gave him a sort of "tunnel vision" that allows you to move directly from point A to point B in a straight line.which absolutely does not compromise the masculinity.

the fashion. but men prefer to go straight. How to buy clothes The same principles that apply in the motivational-supermarket's worth of clothes in the shops too .The woman. skin and eyes. The male brain is structured to focus on a single task. For a man.the kitchen cabinet of a single man has ten packages of pasta. and then go home empty-handed. There must be a specific goal or guideline. the supermarket zigzag loading a list. Consequently. He forgets what she asked and returns home with a couple of "gifts": the product of his "hunting". defined goal or time limit. they always go home the same items . Today it is exactly so that men like to shop. Men like to be in control and therefore to "guide them" using their ability to space curves. How do supermarket Let the man pushing the cart. and returned home. At this point the reader may be impatient and was saying: "All this because of some shopping?" Remember. feeler. That is why when you ask a man to buy milk.as you zigzag the gondolas. they feel satisfied because they had a great day. But there are ways to help the man to have a positive feeling about it. which means he failed. when shopping. Even without finding anything worth the penalty to take home. Polls show that not only the men do not like to shop. Women shop the way their ancestors catavam food: going the whole day with other women for a place where one is reminded of have seen growing plants tasty. however. so you need the encouragement. She dresses carefully in accordance with the time the season. flavors and sizes . . smelling. no route. and the limit of time is not important. speeds and stuff.give the man sizes. For men. with his peripheral vision more broadly. Always ask what he likes to eat and buy him his favorite foods. fabrics and price ranges and send it to the game. due to the stress they cause.brands. colors.this causes it to again use their spatial skills to find the answer. Ask the man how to get in the shopping cart . the place where you are going. Women. just give cheiradinha the clothes you left in the back of the chair. how you feel that day. feeling and showing all the things that are as speak with each other on a lot of issues with no relation to what they are doing. shopping is not part of the programming of the male brain. Men have evolved as creatures that kill their prey. the color of hair. challenge you to find the best prices and praise him when he gets results. Leave a full day with a group of peers with no clear destination. They spend their days going from place to place in a nonstructured. and again at the end of the day with little to show. bread and eggs when returning to work can happen to bring him sardines and light mayonnaise. buy the memory and examine all the stuff you seem interesting. who is leaving and who will do . maneuvers. nine cans of tomato sauce and very little thing. the idea is inconceivable. but they affect the health of them. zigzag with greater tranquility in a mall crowded with people. Give him clear objectives .

If a woman asks the man to buy something for her or to get a particular article. the chair-thebored-husband. Never ask him "You think I am better with the blue dress or the gold". burp. therefore. you must give the exact size of clothing you want. Men are more tolerant in accepting what they consider bad habits women and provide care in less detail than women. smell. Solution Give the man a single thing to do at a time and not try to convince you that you are saving a lot of money buying a larger quantity. she is accused of suggesting that fat. The advantage of being a man is not to leave the room to fix the private parts. noun. feminine: an embarrassing byproduct of digestion. it will find that you are fat. So save you the question. bang release is an act universally . Although it is a sign of good health and nutrition. women complain that men are much more unacceptable personal habits than them. the woman must provide a magazine to read it. wear old underwear and rub the bag. In general. is what is commonly called the drop bang. At the top of the list of men habits that women can not tolerate are: take meleca nose.What can be said of a man well dressed? That the wife chooses their clothes well. If I drop it buys. Flatulence: noun. If it takes more. ALLAN PEAS Even with these strategies. they perceive a female habit offensive. by far. then all yellow. reach a maximum of thirty minutes. When trying clothes. If you catch a smaller number. it is important that you remember: the concentration of most men in a shop has. One explanation for the way men shop was developed from studies with chickens. self-expression and male entertainment. The other ate the seeds of all colors without any order. First ate all the red beans until done. the chickens how to move the food Cisca. something that has a horrible name: fart. I always secure her hand. But number one. masculine: a source of entertainment. It is less likely. the man feels anxious because he knows that will never have the right answer and is therefore wrong and let the woman boring. while the man waiting outside the fitting room. When received male hormones. but the studies do not support this thesis. Why men are so unpleasant personal habits? Everywhere.

he released puns in bed and called it the "test of true love. onion. to prepare "in desgasificantes and products made of mint and ginger. Food reactions Foods that produce gas are more cauliflower. it is always easy to turn and fight for the dog with him to scream. While men emit an average of 1. Nigel thought it very funny . so nobody knew who was. enough to fill a balloon. As a result. such as carbohydrates and proteins never join in the same meal. vegetarians deploy more puns. broccoli. beans. Find an example. beer. a minute ago. women emit 1-1. fruits and vegetables in general. The main causes of excess gas is too much talk and talk during the meal. eg diu-to warn you that at least two minutes before the release will feel when a bang.3% of men acknowledge that drop puns. seven. but with much less odor. It was washed with more expensive. you may need a more efficient tactics. When the surrounding is tipped for the couple. the rest goes to the large intestine where it mixes with other gases and is ready to explode in the most unusual. is imitating voices or blue flare launching the fourth with the aid the lighter.5-2. flour. Nigel released huge puns in public places such as department stores. The air is trapped in the digestive system and. Chew the food well. Sharon was obviously found guilty. increasing the likelihood of releasing gases later. The men released about twelve puns and women a day. If it does not comply with this standard. drop bang for fun is a practice that begins more or less at ten years old when the prestige of children is measured by the ability to release various kinds of puns. no problem. Food combinations also give good results. It is important that the woman tell the man with the greatest possible objectivity and . although most is belch.disapproved by women. she benefit from a bag and roll of toilet paper for everyone would hear: "Does this help?" The mascots also solve the problem. But if he insists on eating quickly and drop the boom all the time.5 liters of gas per day.5 liters of gas. Flatulence: the facts While 96. Solution One obvious remedy is to prepare healthy meals with less genera-producing gases and offer the man a cup of mint tea after the meal. Among men. Every time I went with Sharon. only 2. Among the products that reduce the amount of gases produced by the body are the chips of coal. but drinking during a meal dilutes the digestive juices. why was all red and with an embarrassed air. In addition. At home. See the example of one of our readers.until the big fights happen. instead of coffee. The humpback is ranked second. garlic. eat slowly and do not see TV during the meal." Sharon decided to establish the room and the kitchen as "prohibited zones of bang. Never shall it be the man eat food producers of gas less than two hours before bedtime." When you were in a public place. bread. Before. To hear noise or feel the smell of fart. encourage the man not to drink water during the meal. cabbage.1% of women will admit it someday.

Why men like coarse jokes? The humor has to man three main purposes: first. 2.he is sleeping. The female sexual organs are capable of astonishing feats of human reproduction. Why the name men give to their own penis? . and crying is a reaction of surprise and fear. The female humor involves people. she laughs. rushed away to a tree. then turns chocolate. with some unpredictable conclusion. gaining prestige with men to have a good repertoire. extending over four kilometers. When the child realizes that the situation is not threatening. to make the championships enchain bang and grooms in the light poles. The laughter is an extension of crying. For example: 1. Caring for food with the aim of releasing less gas. claims to have discovered where is the male sense of humor . how much this habit to bother. USA. or the deal as a reason to laugh. Other chimpanzees that warns of the danger. as among monkeys. in turn. Examination of magnetic resonance imaging show that men laugh most of the things that stimulate the right side of the brain and that it gives to women the exact opposite. Because no man would do such a face on purpose. Make love to the two in the morning. The laughter has its roots in our remote past when it was used to warn other people of an imminent danger. Some men are able to tell jokes that you heard in the fourth grade. Here are some jokes that stimulate domestic relation Cère male-ber: 1. throws her head down and produces a sequence of sounds very similar to human laughter. Men find very funny show in the ass for unsuspected group of older women. to help deal with tragic events. When you deliberately frighten a child playing hide-andseek in the first reaction is her cry of fear. For most women. With the terrorist you can negotiate. . The chimpanzee. evident in children from birth. and terrible events male genitalia. But women never make jokes with them. if progress.it is located in the frontal lobe of the brain above the right eye. none of these things is not remotely funny. third. Men love humor and jokes that have a logical. A major difference between the sexes is the male obsession with jokes about tragedies. enjoy a much more enjoyable sex life. The male brain has an amazing ability to store and remember jokes.it takes all the desire to have sex. What is the perfect lover? . What can you say to a man who has sex? . but do not know the names of the children of your best friends. 3. A woman can make it clear that the boom in the bedroom . are certainly protected and. Why men do not simulate the orgasm? . relationships and men. admit the truth about a matter in question. second.serenity. mostly nuns. What you want . when can escape from a lion. it can. which means that if for a moment she experienced a reaction of fear. step by step. the laughter indicates that she knows it was only joke. not give them names of estimation. 2. Why do not want strangers to take their key decisions.especially in the double bed . What is the difference between a woman in the TPM and a terrorist? . The male sexual organs are hanging right in front of a vulnerable and weak (additional proof that God is female) and are a source of fun and free for men. The University of Rochester.

the laughter turns into crying. Here lies the difference between men and women with regard to dealing with serious emotional problems. activates the immune system. The basis of many jokes is a disastrous event or painful experience for someone. Cry when we have a painful experience. When the person know it's reality. a kind of "cheap" natural. research has shown that the positive effects of laughter. without showing any emotional blow that can be seen as weakness. This explains why people rarely get sick and happy that the unfortunate people who are complaining live. Many people get the similar effect of laughter with drugs. that when a tragedy happens global. 73 wives. the male brain enter immediately into action. when faced with a serious emotional crisis such as death. The laughter is a predominantly male to deal with emotional pain. But knowing that it is not a real event. Think the last time that someone told you a joke that made you slip in uncontrollable laughter. As the jokes and humor relieve the pain The laughter and crying instruct the brain to release endorphins into the bloodstream. but someone who can not accept it may start to laugh. The more difficult it is for a man talk . That is why the cry is often the extent of access of laughter. Whether the death of Princess Diana. releasing endorphins. strengthen the immune system. laughed and released endorphins to the selfanesthetize. 28 children and more than 300 million dollars. assists the memory. stabilizes the wrist. Osama bin Laden has 53 brothers and sisters. seem ill more frequently. the arteries dilate and the muscles relax.The jokes are as important as a means of communication among men. you usually cry. How did you feel then? That feeling of tingling was from the release of endorphins to the blood system. enhances learning and extends life. At the end of a meeting of great laughs. Alcohol loosen the inhibitions and makes a person laugh. protects against diseases. and the endorphins and encefalina help in self-anesthetize. the September 11 or the hunt for Osama bin Laden. releasing anesthetic produced by the body. The mood cure. alcohol or sex. which explains why the general well-adjusted people laugh and most unfortunate that people become even more unfortunate. "I cried from laughing so much!" The tears contain encefalina. Endorphin is a substance whose chemical composition is similar to morphine and heroin and has a soothing effect on the body. In all parts of the world. começaríamos to cry immediately and the body released encefalina too. The laughter anesthesia the body. After the laughter. If it were a real event. another Body natural tranquilizer that relieves the pain. They tell jokes as a way to "talk about the event. The laughter and crying are closely related from a psychological and physiological. networks of e-mails from around the world are literally flooded jokes sent by men. in general people cry. and even violent when they drink vodka or gin drinks. Women deal with disasters and tragedies openly expressing their emotions to other people. the breathing is deeper. And that is why. while promoting the immune system. but men account. But he says he hates the Americans because of the excessive way of life they lead.

if you choose offense. They feel attracted to women. If a man insist wisecrack unfit at or in the wrong place. the more he rirá if you tell a joke on the subject. In any event. conniption and leakage.blame his mother The female brain is programmed to create and nurture the children mainly. It is important to understand that women. As a result. eventually playing the mother figure and man react with screams. You can choose to feel offended because someone told a joke that says that everyone in your country is stupid. If you are capable of taking a calm. using the knowledge acquired in this book to check if all are in agreement with the differences between men and women! Learned behavior . You can choose to feel the rage of traffic jam. maybe find a solution to the problem. Despite the jokes. boys grow up with few skills and domestic skills and a low degree of understanding of how to relate to a woman. analytical. A social occasion. We are Australian author living in England and the English are all the time telling us jokes about Australians. The man who asked you to stop improper wisecrack may feel publicly humiliated and be challenged from the other even more offensive. tell him so firm and gentle you are not enjoying it and want it to stop. How to re-educate the man The training of any person . Do know any more light?" Or you can ably deflect the subject. we laugh along with the British. And where there is a tragedy. And choose to offend the world says you are unable to deal with the problem addressed by the joke. And no man who finds the mother sexually attractive. most women assume this role. If he persists. Do not be offended While there are Irish there are jokes about Irish. What about Asian. Other people may not offend you . preparing their favorite dishes. At the beginning of a new relationship. they tell jokes as a way to discuss her. it will invariably create their own collection of jokes.about an emotional event. Women.to do what you want to do it is always the same. are able to discuss details of their sex lives with friends without the help of any joke. and the counter attack of the joke does not become more intelligent. That does not mean they are really stupid. as the mother. Miff is a choice. your clothes are. Maybe we should use the following tactics: "You are a great counter jokes. You want the behavior that rewards and punishes as either. Portuguese and feminist. especially if you are the host. but when he realizes that may become permanent.child or adult . on the grounds that the traffic being stopped. If it's a good joke. . As already suggested. but your anger will not make the traffic flow. will nourish you and serve you. give them money and protect the bitterness of life. acting as a mother all the time. we chose not to hurt. just go do something else. Women live behind the things that the children leave the house. however. things go sour. As the men rarely talk about his sex life with men. this observation may be more difficult. as cruel and insensitive as it may seem to women. cease to be victims of traffic on both of rabies.

Who knows. if large tools or unfinished projects for the house. but it is important to understand that men have not changed as guardians of nests and. miff or frustrate yourself with them. Maybe. The key problem is to announce its intentions in advance and avoid being sarcastic. And when he put the things in the right place. the sexes will be able to live happily ever after. instead of discussing. shirts or towels washed. If the mother of a man not trained to do these things. tell him I will put them in a de-finished cabinet. judgmentalism or aggressive. . they may fail to mention or three. the care is not a behavior "natural" for them. When he needs pants. If they ignore your request. explain politely that you would like the clothes were put in the basket to be washed. reward their contribution with a smile. you will discover that it can be fun to have a man around. How they interfere with their right to live in a clean house. but their brains work the same. the problem is his. When you understand how the male brain. Some women are horrified at the idea of thanking a man for him to do something as simple as collecting their own clothes. you know where to find. not yours. because it generally produces a negative effect on men. the next time you ask women to the seven things that men do leave them mad.is the man to drop the clothes or wet towel on the floor rather than put it in the basket of laundry. or were born in Trieste or in Timbuktu. When he need them. will you train it. If you intend to re-educate your man. therefore. culture or religion. Thus. Similarly. you have chosen to accept that the role of substitute mother's will and to comply with this role. resisting the temptation to save his stuff. But if you continue to collect and save his stuff. Men are always the same . explain that you will put them in a plastic bag in a closet or under the bed.you can change the skin color. The secret is to administer the men of his life. because that will only reinforce the behavior you do not want. collect the clothes and the towel. Do not place them in the shop or anywhere that is convenient for him. a caress or a "thank you".

spill or blubber. It is a mechanism of control that can be deliberate or unconscious. but there are times when people cry to manipulate the emotions of others. you do not love me more! "The old mother:" No need to worry about me . but humans are the only ones who cry with emotion. All stories are true . . the excess of tears that can not be drained by the lacrimal channels rolls by side.rotina. the tears serve three purposes: to help clean the surface of the eye. the channel is the lacrimal drain. shed some serious and humorous on the differences between the sexes and what you can do about it. The daughter: "If you really like me. lover. trapped between three women who mourn. Why cry? Cry: yell. sick and then. The lacrimal gland is the tap. reaching for his time in the nasal cavity. Although men occasionally do this.husband. She also cries to look sorry and receive more lenient a punishment for a wrong action. excrete chemicals generated by stress. whine. wail. once I die. distress signal in emotionally charged situations. I am old. child. Emo-tional circumstances or afflicted.only the names have been changed to protect the guilty. We now examine how the emotions can be used to manipulate people and make them sell. This chapter will help you identify the people who use such tactics to manipulate you or trick you in order to obtain what they want. The goal is to force the other person . The tears are secreted by a gland located above the eye and removed by two channels in the internal corner. even if they are not aware of it. women are more likely to use the tears as a weapon of emotional blackmail. For humans. parent or friend . gave me a new bike! The mother of salt / and gave her one! ! The woman: "You forgot the anniversary of our marriage! Our relationship fell na. leak. Sometimes the cry comes as direct response of the heart. whine (the dog).Chapter 3 WHY Women cry? The dangers of emotional blackmail Poor man..to act in a different way than would like.. " So far. whimper. Crying is a behavior that we have in common with other animals and that starts at birth. each with their particular complaint. howl. wail. whine.

a process known to us all. but the amount of tears is not enough to roll the face. where someone tries to extract advantage . The human being is the only land animal that cries of excitement and. especially for other women.Flag emotions: Seals and sea otters cry when emotionally shaken by the loss of their young. By transmitting weakness. 3 . which kills bacteria and prevents infections in the eye. Cry used to remove salt and other impurities from the eye. which makes people want to be touched by other people and acaricides. The body seems to use this function to eliminate the toxins of stress. those who roll the sides. The eyes glow when a person feels an intense emotion. The tears also contain endorphins. however. Reduce stress: chemical analysis show that the tears of stress. for some women. The tears contain an enzyme called lysozyme. even seem to be no reason to do so. The prime purpose of crying in adults. is stimulating feelings of affection and protection. Humans. is placed at risk. especially in the presence of other men. Wash the eye: The lacrimal gland discharges fluid inside the eye and lacrimal channels act as drains to drain it to the nasal cavity. Familiar cry has three purposes: 1. The seals and sea otters do not use tears as a tool of manipulation. Let's talk about criminal blackmail.from another person by threatening to reveal something that . yes. For women. which is consistent with the emotional reactions of the brain most powerful women. containing the different proteins that serve to clean the eye. 2. The tears act as a signal to the other emotional embrace and comfort those who cry. is a sign of confidence: the crying is the baby.Why women cry more than men? Cry since born. the man who shows emotion.usually money . and encourage the production of the hormone oxytocin. because the whole process rolling. by which it assesses their needs. behavior perpetuated among adults. display their emotions. to manipulate emotion. Most women can identify seven different meanings in the crying baby. That would explain why women they feel better after "a good cry". This is what happens when the light reflects the tears of parents proud and passionate lovers. The lacrimal glands of women are more active than those of man. Rarely you see a man cry in public. we examine the mechanism of manipulation. The crying and the emotional blackmail How to blackmail Now you know the purpose of crying. Crying is a way to achieve what the child wants. a natural body of anesthetics that act as shock of emotional pain. and friend plays the role of parent helpers. he encourages other men to attack him.

Two years later." he begged. "It probably is a co-worker. One day. "Rosie.The threat: exposure." she said with soft voice and hacking. Greg was starting to become distressed. . Frankly. but not . she knew he was calm and relaxed. she told Rosemary that one of her friends had seen Greg with another woman in a bar. Is it something so bad?" Between tears. Do not worry.The victim: someone who has a sense of guilt or obligation." she replied. Greg hugged her and she begged him to say what was the problem. pleading. "It's Mommy. Rosemary shake. But how could imagine what the reaction from Greg. Greg. that would invite the parent to live with them. After dessert. I give a way. Between tears. I will try to understand. Greg.. Rosemary should be having an affair. It is I" And off to cry. . what? Something I did?" Rosemary shook her head with a sad air. "I feel terrible. "No. That night.Continuity: the inevitable continuation of exigêncÚs. This person knows their innermost secrets and vulnerabilities and USA that knowledge to make you comply. When we sat at the table. the mother of Rosemary and daughter became seriously ill understood. punishment and loss of something of great value material or emotional. . "I do not know how to say. Excuse me.The agreement. Case study: Rosemary Greg. please. made a special deal in appearance and prepared the favorite of Greg. with heavy heart. "No." "But Rosie. she put her head between his hands. .The requirement: the payment in exchange for silence or cooperation. Rosemary prying eyes at him. the relationship with the parents of Greg finally turned sour. I take care of her. . but I know what you think of the idea of her live with us. . That is therefore the main ingredients of blackmail and criminal actors: . the husband of Rosemary. I am afraid of you getting angry with me and not stand that. "tell me what happened. no. who was combining a party-surprise for the anniversary of Rosemary." Greg was furious when his wife told him that story. Concerned. I tried all possible solutions.." suggested Rosemary.Resistance: the victim's initial refusal to cooperate. Greg asked what was wrong.The blackmailer: a person who knows the weak point of the victim. "Tell me. acceptance of the demands of the blackmailer. "No. The mother thought that Greg was not good enough for his daughter and was always trying to create problems for the couple. carefully chose the moment to present it." Greg began to think the worst. went hand in the eyes and deep breath. and her mother did not like each other. served him a glass of wine and asked how was your day. She is very patient and I am worried. The emotional blackmail The emotional blackmail happens when a person threatens you emotionally close to any punishment or subtly insinuated that you will suffer if you do not agree with what she wants. Greg. she shook her head. Took her to the bar to present it to the owner." Greg held the hands of women. When he came home. all is well.will harm the victim's life. "We are not owners of each other. . you did nothing. From that day.

. To obtain your agreement. relatives and friends. They prefer to ask directly what they want. Greg was flatly refused to consider the possibility of bringing the parents to live with them. Everybody knows at least one person who has used tactics of emotional blackmail to force them to do something that they initially refused. Greg. there would be tears and accusations. without anyone to care for her. And Greg knew that every time he protests. Initially. by far. who developed the role of peace keepers tend to say exactly what they want when they want something.realized the weakness of Greg.found. Women. but .. The many lack the self-esteem necessary to consider worthy of the object of their desires. children and other family and social groups . The agreement: Greg yields to the demands of Rosemary. " And started to sob. It is important that you identify the people in their relations that use these tactics of manipulation to get what they want. If he really loved Rosemary. often..exactly as Rosemary thought he would stay. Use because. I do not know what to do . Greg agreed to a trial period of a month. But the consequences of emotional blackmail is always destructive. The pattern was established. the blackmailer makes you feel bad with yourself and guilty of resisting. It is inevitable that you will be felt by being placed in this situation.with partners. You end up agreeing to something not wanted to do. In the end. Oh. In general. The requirement: the mother of Rosemary go live with them. they have a incontomável need to be loved. Both Rosemary as her mother knew that once she enters the door. The story of Greg and Rosemary has the typical ingredients of blackmail in which a person tries to emotionally manipulate the other to obtain a personal gain: The victim: Greg .. began to feel guilty.. The blackmailer: Rosemary .thinking about Mom alone. Defenders of the nest.he felt weakness and feeling of guilt when his wife was emotionally distressed. and he would feel sick. Perhaps a situation similar to that of Greg. more commonly. most frequently the victims of that the villains of emotional blackmail.and their brains are structured to make them work. But after two days of tears of Rosemary. rather than say it directly at the risk of a refusal to listen. The strength of the initial refusal to cooperate Greg. maybe that person who never seems to say exactly what you want . your relationship with the blackmailer will never be the same. Its function has always been to nurture relationships . should not be prepared to make that sacrifice for it? Is this not true love? Marriage is compromise? And started to feel selfish and petty . people do not believe that their relatives and friends use this type of strategy on a conscious and deliberate. Whether you realize it or not. and this is killing me . the emotional blackmail to get what they want. The threat: the implicit refusal of love where Rosemary not get what they want. it would be virtually impossible to go back. The people who are emotional blackmail. Continuation: the inevitable discussions and in tears.they always end up manipulating to achieve their final goal. it was your mother I know. Men and emotional blackmail Men are.

Damian. moved away. the use to convince girlfriends to make sex with them." Erika. However. but I do not want. May propose to build an annex in the house. in his stratagems and his cunning to get what they wanted. he tried to take the shirt of Erika. For me. He liked to Erika and I have sex with her but the girl resisting. to buy your partner a bouquet of flowers before you ask. "Sorry. And their brains continue to evolve that way. but in much smaller scale. I just want to know you better.The blackmail seems to be the easiest way because it allows the person to avoid the confrontation. In the third meeting.. Be patient with me. I never felt this for someone else. meanwhile. The male brain functions are much simpler with regard to emotions. for centuries." Damian whispered in his ear: "Come on. The boys. taking into account the pros and cons. "No. I like you the truth. I really like . Women prefer to emotional blackmail. hire an escort to take care of mother.. In general. I like you the truth. When hunting. Damian was getting impatient. We give it so well that I want to show you how much I love you. you know you want. thought it natural that she wanted to make love as much as him. please. after a dinner theater and much more expensive than Damian wanted to pay. I know. The same happened a second time. men always occupied positions were always more powerful and more open master-mind of women. and this would be the maximum of their manipulation. And twice in the match led a long and deep kiss before she desvencilhar of his arms and leave the car running for home. spend the weekends away and so on. He could not understand why. We only went three times. immediately. The men use the direct approach and well structured to achieve what they want. I love you. The trend would come right in the matter and discuss it frankly. and usually women consent. Without enough force to impose their will. As Erika said that he liked it. I only make love with you. And a third. this is the time. the men preferred the direct approach. When the time comes. sorry . men require. She has helped to unbutton it and started to caress. Case study: Damian Damian came out twice with Erika. Damian . sweetheart. women had to rely. there are some situations in which men often resort to emotional blackmail. for example. or subtly asking that everyone agree with what they want. But it is too early. Turned to Erika and began kissing her and rummage in his shirt. Men are also emotional blackmail." But Erika did not seem convinced. If a man wished that his mother would live with him. "Erika. but was rejected. I do not feel ready.. So it is not contained and asked what was wrong.. In the course of history. After five minutes. he stopped the car park in a poorly lit and turned off the engine.

.. Erika began to feel that perhaps the only way to convince you were agreeing to have sex. then it is better to give people a longer time while I'm not too concerned . Damian. sad. Common tactics of blackmail emotional The practice of emotional blackmail may be lovers. Erika was the victim and sex. When Damian subtly accused it of not liking him. parents. What's wrong with you?" "This is what people who love to do some the other. And their relationship lasted two weeks. A relationship that starts well is doomed to failure." Ex-partners: "I will lead you to stick to family. parents or friends. "No." "I will disinherit you. she stopped resisting and was blackmailing left to do something not wanted." "I will leave you without a penny. Erika was increasingly upset. I regret. I love you. but that is how I feel. This leaves the way open for Damian to want sex all the time you see. I have hurt before ." Children: ." "If you love me. But if you do not feel the same." "Of course you do not love me.. As expected that two people build a relationship of respect and mutual trust based on the manipulation? The emotional blackmail is not destroyed immediately combated.. Women hate men see emotionally disturbed." Damian shook his head.. " Erika Damian just having sex with that night. I think you're a great guy and I spend more time with you. The emotional blackmail rife in families and is a practice that is transmitted from generation to generation. it is clear that you do not feel for me what I feel for you.. You will never see the children. We forget that this happened. that awakens their maternal instincts and desire to help them get rid of pain. Damian." Damian was crestfallen. look. husbands or wives. women are deeply shaken when they see a man collapse. "No.you. I always hated. I just need a little more time . it would not have reacted as reacted. Damian was the blackmailer.. But I see that I am completely wrong . But when he said that does not support the idea of being hurt again. though no longer absolutely clear that he liked her. I thought that you feel for me what I feel for you. It is better if we separate. Sometimes employers can be." "Why are you doing this to me? You are blood of my blood!" Husbands / wives: "I can not believe you're so selfish!" "You do not love me." Lovers: "Everybody does." And got the key to the car to start the engine. children." "When we fuck. Here... I was a complete idiot.. "Because . If I had said so directly. I thought that things were going well between us.. Damian left implicit threat "that was ready to end the relationship if you do not get what they want. the requirement." But Erika. He knew exactly what were the weaknesses of the Erika and struck without mercy. Here are some of the threats or punishment typical of the emotional blackmail that it may sound familiar: Parents: "After everything I did for you." It seemed so upset that Erika could not avoid a sense of shame. and it is natural for a man wanting to express love physically. Finally. do it for me. I'm sorry. Erika. I like you. but I am not prepared. Used to see men as strong and infallible creatures. "No.

Every time I visited the uncle. . You do not remember what he did for you when you were small? Mimava account and would take you two. I can never go out with my friends. End of story.I am old and will die soon. How children feel relatively powerless because of their age and size. but spent everything I had with you. you will need a good lawyer. I would go with you today." "I'm sure the press will like to know that. who was sick. But look how you treat me when I need. The children then did exactly the same. "Look." "I always did everything for you. Case study: Julia The more grown less if the children of Julia had to go visit Uncle John. blackmail seems to be the most effective and easy to get what they want. was also a specialist in blackmail."All the other parents do this for their children. Children learn early that the emo-tional blackmail are a way to get what they want particularmen when you live in a family where parents use blackmail. This is the guy they like most of the children you love me." argued Bemard of fifteen years." "Make sure your name is never a list of deals. he is completely deaf. he asked the children and she felt obliged to lie. or in any particular activity that kept distant." In-laws: "I leave everything to a charity." "I though . but I have this great work of geography to . It is not fair. "And there is very flat in his house. mother. he is getting old and I do not know how long it will live. Julia felt powerless and trying to exercise a moral and emotional pressure on children." she said." she told them. of sixteen years." But. " The children can master the art of manipulation." Friends: "If the need were you. do you?" Katie. the children of Julia also blackmail. I never had money. Do not I deserve a little fun? You do not want me to be sad." "You've heard of sexual harassment?" What the blackmailer is saying is: "If you do not behave the way I want. You want us to be disapproved. or busy with their tasks from home. indifferent to the arguments of the mother. Julia felt guilty for that. If I do not do well. It has nothing to do. Parents who routinely try to blackmail your children must be prepared to see the spell turned against the magician. you should not be doing your heart with us. "But mother. saying they were on a tour of the school. "He is alone and wants to see you. "you know that we have a lot of home for duty to do." "Do not you have to me and a little company loyalty?" Employees: "If you say goodbye. Instead of arguing with them calmly and coolly. We do not want to go. my situation may be difficult. she used the emotional blackmail. Note that I have ne-le vai from the final average. he does not listen to what people say." "You like more of my sister than me. They must take the consequences.I have been adopted. In this scenario. In addition." "I never thought I would disappoint me so much. will suffer the consequences. "Oh. I would have done it for you." Employers: "You are only making things more difficult for their coworkers." "If you do not take care of me. or simply instruct them to do what felt right. I get sick and end up in hospital" "Do not worry about me . because they had already learned the game.

which had met someone else and that I would be happy Camila too. But when Stephen's mother began to talk about his new wife. Camila still regularly visiting his mother and talking about the "good times" of his relationship with Stephen. She knew his mother liked her as a daughter and had been razed to the separation. and shouted. he turned to the group of children that applauded. you do not like you!" Did eighteen pounds. Case study: Stephen Stephen was five years ago married Camila when they separated amicably. Chrissie was able to understand the emotional blackmail of Camila and I knew that Stephen was the innocent victim. The closer the relationship. Then Stephen encouraged to write a letter to Camila saying you felt very strongly that. Camila was well-humored. Tried in vain to comfort her. asking for news. At the end of their number. She simply believed that after one or two weeks alone. but had agreed to the separation at the time. Chrissie. But Stephen had changed. attractive and loving . Chrissie and Stephen were married the following year. but nobody gives it much importance. Phone begging for him to come visit her. and guilt is the most powerful weapon of blackmail. There was no chance of him returning to it. he may return to Camila therefore been very frightened with the threat of suicide. . Luckily. bewitched. the greater the sense of guilt. Camila secretly believed that he could never hit the step and sooner or later would see how his life was empty without her. kids! If your parents did not give a pound to put on my hat.just like when they met. but said he felt very. but everything was finished. agreed to is Stephen.. Camila still enjoyed and felt affection for her. Camila. The quick action of Chrissie prevented that Stephen was caught in the trap of a relationship that he wanted more. Camila is angry. "Hey. his new girlfriend. thinking that would be responsible. the more it will take a standard in the future of their relationships. saw what was happening and was in charge of the problem. One day we were watching a street artist in London. but had no more emotional ties. saying it had made a big mistake and would like to meet with him to talk. but would like it to be ahead and build for themselves a new life. Chrissie is not involved. day and night. Well . He heard about the lack that he did. Everyone felt sorry for her. Stephen did not know which direction to take. Camila was mad with rage.Adults who use emotional blackmail create children who are even better in practice. Stephen began to call for more problems in the hours. crying and saying that his life had been finished without him. Convince the mother of Stephen's family to seek Camila to tell them he was concerned about the state of it and ask them to give him attention. Began to call his mother. Stephen thought it was an amicable separation. But Camila is not complied. Like most women. He felt powerless in the face of her tears. Then she called saying that he would be killed. The more a person is allowed to emotional blackmail. never really believed he would remain firm in that position. Reluctant. Stephen simply had not noticed that Camila was deliberately using the emotional blackmail to have him back and had no real intention to kill. Stephen did not. he begged to go home. But there appeared another woman.

and you postpone the purchase of new boat for a year. Men can be tyrants too emotional to get what they want. because the old was exceeded. " Irene was crazy. . which produces a beer hangover less angry. the majority simply does not support. is used to refer to male rulers. When Irene knew the price. Nobody likes a cynical take on another person. was concerned with people. Been researching and said he could buy exactly the boat I wanted at a reasonable price." Bob remained insensitive. I am stressed all the time and my fishing to Saturday is the only opportunity I have to relax. as anyone who receives a demand for ransom or a direct threat. Return to work full-time and everything would be fine. One day. me. It was quiet and generous. Men deal with facts." he said. Men like to direct discussions and arguments about which is the best time. "I do not believe what I hear. Bob. all together as a family . Finally. used. her husband was very demanding and jealous.and now he wants to a berth in the marina. because they will be able to do water skiing. Case study: Irene Irene was a wonderful character. Stephen was convinced from the outset that no-that would return to Camila.The fault places the victim under great pressure. "I. which political party is the best policy to govern the country. We must give a fun for the kids on weekends. He knows it will. I never imagined that one day you would deprive them of spending the weekends with us. "We can not buy it now. we can not buy the boat now. We just pay the enrollment of children and you promised I could buy a new car at the end of the month mine is a broad-old who lives breach. it will use the same tactic again. "Do not you think the children? It is you who always cares to know where they are and what they are doing. but it is important to remain firm in what you want. The essential ingredients of the criminal and emotional blackmail are exactly the same. Exhausted. we could have both. me. " Bob made a bad pass Irene piece in the three following days. She knew that Bob could drag it forever and the boys were increasingly distressed with the tension in the house.mostly women faced with the emotions. "But Bob. and should have left it clear. figures and concrete realities. Women know this and use for their own benefit. but they will end up having problems. They also need that boat! " After two days of tension. Irene discovered a solution. In a year the boat will be more expensive and also is a good idea to buy a boat this summer. Bob bought his boat . I was thinking about the boat." he said with a voice increasingly angry. We spend more time with the kids. There are many things we do at home. Irene was the victim of blackmail." Bob was naughty. When other people . Will never passes through your head that I have my needs. It was a happy and loyal person. The men are not accustomed to dealing with their emotions and do not much idea of how women deal with emotion. but used to refer to the demands of others and left to state their wishes only to keep the peace. "Here you come again thinking only in yourself. almost fainted. and I m always done that on your own. " Bob does not move: "No. I work hard the entire month to earn money to support this family. and who knows if I bought a smaller car. Irene has supported more than one situation. you only think of you. Bob announced the desire to buy a new boat. but this tactic works better when their women are kind of sensitive and quiet. never putting their needs above the needs of others. Irene. she decided to try a line: "Bob.

Therefore. in any way accepted any portion of blame for the situation. Without their agreement. that is. Do not try to understand how you feel the blackmailer. Blackmailer usually nothing more than false Roughnecks. egocentric and without feelings . the blackmailer feel powerless. The blackmailer: Bob knew all the secrets and feelings of Irene and know their weak points. imme-diately. and extending the tension in the house. The only way you lose that power is showing weakness. which allows the blackmailer making new demands. But the behavior of the blackmailer. it will gradually lose the self and will be forever deprived of the ability to assert itself. which was built in the course of time.The victim: The sense of obligation to his family. it is important to consider in deciding whether to agree with it or will do something about it. Usually accuse their victims of being selfish. In many ways. have an attack of anger. because it enabled. This change of behavior requires persistence. Do not ask the blackmailer to reduce its demand and.are like emotional blackmail fanfarrões children and rude and should be treated as such. increasingly unfair How to deal with an emotional blackmailer People who practice emotional blackmail often strong opinion and resolution u s. Be ravaged by insecurity.all of them character-specific. and offer an alternative. Make its demand and. The first thing to bear in mind is that the blackmailer need your agreement to something. The emotional blackmail destroys the self-image of victim. can be modified over time. People always treat us the way we allow them to handle. . in reality it is you who has the mastery of the situation. patience and a firm purpose. Never forget . and have a desperate fear of losing what they already have. this is rarely true. Why can not argue with the objective to discuss the situation and negotiate their options. The requirement: that Irene agreed to purchase a new boat. his love for children and their desire to maintain a happy home were the vulnerabilities of Irene. the fear and guilt. they look like rude children. If they give in to blackmail. you have to prepare for a battle long and hard. But while giving the impression of knowing exactly what they want and are prepared to do what is necessary to get him. to allow the children fell into bad company because of the husband was being selfish. Continuation: the recurrence of the tactics of blackmail on the part of Bob for the anchorage and the marina in other situations. The resistance: the attempts to Irene to demonstrate that the requirement of Bob was not practical. if she is not satisfied. Whenever father and mother give to an attack of anger of the children are planting the seeds of an emotional blackmailer. His self-image is poor and does not support the rejection. The threat: the guilt of contributing to the deteriorating health of her husband. If you think you are a victim of emotional blackmail. If you are a victim. they knew it would work. The submission: Irene just giving.

do not argue. speak of 'his good qualities. If the blackmailer demand make you feel uncomfortable. Do not fight or argue with the blackmailer . I'm available" And stand away." . With such a strategy. We on this later. it is usually then that the victim assigns."Well.but only if the blackmailer is ready to discuss the problem in a civilized and rational. but that is how things are."Obviously you are angry. The situation must be resolved . then practice them until they become part of you. especially 'the victims had the courage to talk about what was happening."I see things in a different way. insults or attack the vulnerabilities of the blackmailer. Avoid countered with threats. knowing that the goal is just to give you some relief." ."I think we need to think much about it." . Charlene speaks of the terrible effect that the episode caused it. During this period of silence the blackmailer. Reaching a compromise. When the blackmailer is also in the dark Sometimes the blackmailer is not aware of what is doing. quit the conversation civilized and go." . but at this point there is no negotiation. you can modify the behavior of the blackmailer. The rape was the biggest taboo in the country. how it emerged and strengthened further as it became a reference for many other women who . A South African journalist Charlene Smith wrote a wonderful book about the night he was raped at home and helped the authorities to prosecute their abusers." . Maybe they did not occur naturally. In his book. Never attempt to counter-blackmail. but we will discuss the issue when you calm down. the choice is yours.train him."You're obviously disappointed. respond with silence. South Africa had the highest rate of rape in the world: one for each 26 seconds. because anything you say will not be able to it. threats and accusations of a blackmailer to start well. When the demands. At that time." The refusal to show weakness or immediately negotiate almost always produces a period of silence or the petulance blackmailer. Blackmailer meet people who do not retreat."I see you are not satisfied."I regret that you feel as you prefer. but you still need to save the appearances. The blackmailer feel helpless and hopeless before the: USA. and few people. it is essential that you have a stock of ready answers. What can you tell a blackmailer . Beware. Just say: "When you want to talk.Remember: you are being the victim of blackmail and that what matters is how you are feeling. setting its borders and keep it firmly within them." .

the house was leaving her husband and. initiating a vicious cycle that becomes increasingly difficult to hold." he said. she agreed to sign your name on the dotted line. And if the husband had stayed at home that night? And if the children had not left? Perhaps the rape had not happened. especially her husband and children because they felt unable to protest and resist. I am asking for both of us." The victim may be. Later. the woman left the university. when he discovered that he was an incorrigible liar. that's the least I can wait" as a weapon to finally oblige it to accept. "I'm not asking just for me. The fault is usually the most powerful weapon of the arsenal of the blackmailer. an incompetent who could not stop two weeks in the same job. It is very likely that this woman had no awareness of emotional blackmail to be doing with your famI1ia. But one that tried did not get its support." said Charlene in Proud of Me (proud of me). The children cared for themselves. and asked that money in the God-given and everyone was too late. If you do not trust me to make a simple loan. blind with love and afraid to lose him. to help break the vicious circle of self and autopiedade. the blackmailer can ruin the victim emotionally. "We are talking about spending the rest of our lives together. "But why not. When contacting Charlene. passed the consequences of emotional blackmail to other family members and friends.went by the same trauma. perhaps best finish all at once now! The discussion was dragged for weeks. she resisted. Charlene said bluntly that she was using the emotional blackmail to make the family suffer as she had suffered. You can request the support of a friend of women's confidence or call a good adviser. for our future. . The attacks of them were obvious. psychologically and financially." he said. A well known to our family by the groom was troubled to \ join him in a business transaction. "She was playing the abusive behavior of their abusers ment of another way. I had enough credit. They were prisoners of a sense of guilt for rape. she was amazed with the reaction of the writer. When your heart becomes a life sentence When you are first subject to threats of emotional blackmail. He begged her to be his guarantor in a loan to purchase a car to work because. Sometimes it is necessary to use someone who is outside the sphere of emotional blackmail. as I said. In the end." He used the phrase "After all we spent together. though not visible to the naked eye. do this simple thing for me. "If you really love me. After being raped. stricken by the frustration felt unable to help her to recover. "The addiction of Mary autopiedade made a slave of his attackers. In these circumstances it is much better for the victims of blackmail out under domestic and seek help. In the limit. demanded that her husband bought a house in another place and left to care for three children and the house. unconsciously. Initially. 'psychologist or psychotherapist. It paralyzes the victim. free from emotional. as the blows that she applied to his family were much more deadly. It was easy to fall into the role of blackmail.

abandoned the happiness of parents to care for elderly and debilitated. service by service. Parents also can inflict lasting scars on their children. But it is never too late to change the situation. but firmly resolved to fill them with guilt when they were thinking about leaving them to build their own lives. How many parents pushing their children . . love and joy of living a life without guilt. With the children. Anyone who has ever been in the role of victim may be imprisoned the rest of your life and see all the missed chances to find happiness. is always per-versa. the child will feel forever prisoner and felt with his parents. but was long ago. the emotional blackmail tends to vary.are authentic and often subtle emotional blackmail . And what is more sad. she ended up drowned in debt.that they follow certain careers. with no regard for specific talent or the desire of the child. Everyone has heard of women who. wherever it occurs. The threat of losing the love of women is easy prey to blackmail.Why give the blackmailer. now she suspects of every man that approaches. Yielding to emotional blackmail. As the groom. The emotional blackmail. still paying. So if after reading these stories you recognized the role of victim and cry so that she knows the reason. by sense of duty.

was not the slightest idea that Kelly wore a special female scores to rate their marriage. the excellent school for children . I do everything for you. The number of points that man accumulates with his partner directly affects the quality of your life. The men. however. cook. you still complaining . but in their hearts they thought things should resolve themselves. is not Mark? And I think I will never understand." Most men absolutely do not realize that women maintain a system for scoring the performance of its general partner. their relationship was problematic. like most men.... The problem was that Mark. While love. most at least.. all this I offer to you and them! Yes.. but the place inexorably. not understanding what happened. I need a man I want. and Mark Kelly led a perfect life. their three children were happy and well adjusted. It is as if not existíssemos. but so that people can live well and have everything you want. We work. Tell me when was the last time you said you loved me . desperate and afflicted with constant fights. Both calculate that the other will continue giving what is already giving that behave the same way as their parents. the clothes and jewelry you USA.. And all you do is work. One night when the issue arose of legal separation.. Es-Kelly was happy to go to a therapist. step. " Mark (shocked): "Kelly .. were confused. both agreed to consult a therapist for couples. Kelly always seemed boring and Mark was perplexed.. " Kelly (angry): "You can not even understand. I work hard. Kelly . or that fits the stereotypes of marriage that everyone knows.Chapter 4 THE ULTRA-SECRET SYSTEM THE WOMEN OF SCORE How to ruin a man of the week For the rest of the world. to take care of me and that part of family life that I need without being charged. Here's what they said to the therapist: Kelly: "Mark is hooked on work.. I drain the family to work for the week full and you are never satisfied. not know the existence of that system and may be disapproved without ever coming to understand that it is wrong.. in general do not discuss the last details of the contribution of each of the relationship. When was the last time you emptied the machine to wash dishes for me? Do you know a place to wash dishes? Tell me when was the last time you took me out to dinner. Between four walls.. and we were at the end of their list of priorities. Wash. Mark had a very good job. you know I love you . Forget about me and the children and never do anything for us. and every year spend holidays abroad. I am tired of being mother and father to our children. organize your life and take care of our family . Women are not aware of this process. " Mark (surprised): "I can not believe what I hear. The men see only the general framework Men prefer to be watching the "framework" of .. What do you mean with 'I do not take care of you or the children? See our wonderful house. Mark agreed. work and work. lived in a lovely house. When a man and a woman decide to live together..

men always thought it is paper size. If he gives you a bouquet of six roses. if the man paints the house. but when it does. Women keep lasting memories that accumulate points for years. Then the man she accuses of not doing anything. The female brain. For example. and he is surprised and upset with their accusations. If the man also had a point system. quality or the result of a single action. allocate points according to the size of the action or the present. men are not the slightest idea that women attribute points in the relationship. also wins a point. then won six points. As most women know. man can not have the custom to give his partner often. Regularly present shows with a single rose that is always in the forefront in his mind. would find that the more important the larger the share or more points this should be allocated. For him. the score-draw will do. This difference is the cause of many misunderstandings between men and women. that your partner will thank and support them retribuirão. it gives you a point. the man is not knowing when the relationship is tie the score. no matter the size. They are still doing things for the man because they believe in the end. gets a point collects his laundry or says he loves the woman. but the point of view it is only five . A woman can let it get to 30 to 1 before starting to complain. In other words. the points are allocated by the number of shares held. A single rose is clearly intended for her. He was not the slightest idea of the existence of a problem because it also maintained a system. not by size. . And suppose. why women take a variety of small decisions about the intricate aspects of a relationship practice. it just something great.one for each day of work. it would reach this point. The woman gives a point for this action or. In general. regardless of size. If a man buys a rose for your partner. working five days a week is worth at least thirty points. is structured to fine tune. you will certainly score more. If a man keep a score. while a dozen roses can be interpreted as decoration for the house. But 95% of all points awarded in a relationship are the things that happen or stop happening every day. When he thought that the score was 3 to 1. for example. If he buys her a new car or a diamond ring of your dreams. secretly. But if he buys a rose every week for six weeks. in turn. the woman gives points to every thing we do in the partner relationship. she continues giving only one point.life together and giving a small number of large contributions from that tangle with a number of contributions that appear less and less important. While unconscious. Similarly. They simply do what they do and never think to maintain a system of scoring. It really is that women feel and think. had complained of being too giving and require that the score was tied. The woman keeps the score and never forget.

Our experience with Brian Brian and Lorraine was a financial operator who worked long hours visiting client's building and your business. In fact. You may notice that none of them reported many negative points. despite having . In see-ment. personal and intimate than the big tasks. He just thought it was "taking care of it. For example. When bought flowers. she thought he care more for work than for her. and therefore lost points. for thirty days. the more points scored. He asked. He thought he was earning extra money for a better life and that she admired for that. but he was not aware that there were some marked. chocolates and champagne for her. This list indicates several things: first. Brian won important points by small actions such as "give me his coat because I was cold. Lorraine. normal." Brian thought that the more work in the office. The woman usually gives to man a single point for each task home run. mark at least three points. One point was assigned for each of the small-contribution and a maximum of thirty points for a major contribution to the relationship. because the brain spatially oriented. "Good idea!". Both are described as a happy couple. We present below a summary of the partial results after thirty days.because they cost dearly. and when doing a test like this tend to have good behavior. or that the activities had generated. a car-so score of the contributions that have believed in that relationship and estimate the score that thought should receive the other. "You go to the sink and I am dropping puns on the couch. took the house and cared for their two children. She tends to put more points for small tasks. Like most men. is that it never happened that the head of the woman praising the food could render points. During this period could not discuss among themselves or how or when the points were allocated. They had also to record points lost by irritating things that your partner do.a third of your score staff to work five days a week .To the woman that matters is not size. If he had called to say that I loved her and miss her. when Brian praised by Lorraine she prepared a dinner some night. Not that I have forgotten. he is not remembered for having done the praise and not to put it in your list. which for Lorraine earned only one point. Brian was five points by helping the child to assemble an aircraft. Brian ignored the fact that small things mean a lot to women. Working late worth five points per night in his opinion. is the frequency. We then ask that they meet every day. for it was only a joke. thought it would at least ten points . and call again when you arrive." Why not try to change position tonight? ". For him. men give more points than women to work physically and spatially linked. which required skill. she gave him three points. His wife. We suspect that this is due to two reasons: couples who live together have a tendency to ignore the negative points or relieve the other. this was a difficult task." without realizing that this small action to surrender points. For example. but she only gave him four points. but working overtime in fact meant he had less time to stay at home doing small things. and he was proud of what he has done. but only gave him a Lorraine. She said.

a year before. Lorraine He felt a little distant from the birth of last child. Brian never becomes a routine of Lorraine. cooking and making beds all worth one point each by the time she performed. To Brian and Lorraine. send birthday cards. but Brian has a weekly average of only 48 points. plan family events. Lorraine won three points for massage the back of Brian one night. He felt happy with the fact that scores of the relationship is very balanced.often heard his mother and his grandmother say that. watering the plants. Brian was devastated with the result. for being at work all the time. take care of dogs. but I get reminded all the time. Therefore. but he never does what it has to do. He acted as if everything was perfect in the relationship and was not the slightest idea of how Lorraine felt. At the end of the experience. The monthly score of Lorraine The list of personal activities of Lorraine was four times longer than Brian. "I'm not morose. but thought perhaps the stress of the many things she had to do. to bath the children. thinking he was doing what she wanted him to do. and Brian was working late. pa-ra them and discipline them worth one point each.thirty points. giving the majority of them a low score. Brian had given a weekly average of 62 points given to Lorraine and an average score of 60 points. he began working late. Lorraine stayed at home feeling aggrieved and resentful. Lorraine was granted an average of 78 points. Aspirate the carpet. " Complaints of Brian concerned things that Lorraine did or failed to do for him. wash the laundry. reading. for the simple reason that she never said anything about it. the resentment generated is the same on both sides. to make more money and give more comfort to the family. and twenty times in the two points that took the initiative in sex. giving the same to you to work fifty hours a week. so that gave him an overall score for their efforts . She described every detail their activities. that experience was a chance to open eyes. Repetitive activities such as collecting the dirty clothes and wet towels on the floor. The reactions of Brian and Lorraine The weekly score of 30 points less to Brian explained that ants within a resentment of Lorraine from the previous year. These lists also show that when the man and woman having sex or not. What started almost as a diversion to see how men and women attach points revealed a potentially disastrous situation. shopping. pay bills. go to the bank. while Lorraine is re-hurt the performance of Brian in public. .

She is able to refuse to have sex now because you yelled at her two months before. and record scores for ten days all contributions to the relationship. From a man. If you do not ask. If this happens. If the woman you think the score is for the partner. That does not mean that man should work less. Giving flowers. do they think there is no problem and that the relationship is going well: The men have a short memory. put things in place to help in the kitchen and use halitol account both. praise him the look. We offer the test as a tool to encourage dialogue. it accumulates during the long periods and never forget. That is how things work in the male world . It should also encourage the man to take small gestures like that. If you think that is against. just as did Brian and Lorraine. and reward him for that. their quality of life will have a better extra-ordinary. the partnership is intended to be a source of joy. All men are equal. as the salary to bring home or paint the room. So she will not be resentful if the score is tie for him. sometimes more. but forget also the positive things you did for them. Marilyn Monroe Men are not programmed to offer help. to meet you and understand . the man has to ask what she wants him to do. Take the test now The most effective solution is to maintain a permanent communication as sincere as possible. But if he is aware of the importance that your partner gives small things and try to do them. is unlikely to say. unless someone specifically the piece. Remember that a woman gives a point for each activity that executes man and a score more by small things that involve emotional support.The solution for the woman The woman must accept that the male brain is programmed to take care of the general framework and that the man believes that mark more points doing big things. support or advice. If the communication between partners is always the intention to adjust the relationship and ensure mutual harmony . The solution for men The woman not only to the point. After evaluating the results. Along with his partner. if each one is available to hear the honesty of the other reasons.rather than a pure exchange of accusations.people expect you to play. give unsolicited advice is to say that the other person is incompetent. you can use the test as a guide that brings you the happiness . becomes distant and angry and the couple's love life begins to wither. happiness. Only the guys that are different for us to distinguish one from another. Women always remember.it better. They forget the good things that you did the previous week.

is just different.a new child. The partner with the score needs to balance the negative contribution. . Above all. Women understand that. he even knew that women had a score. Brian's answer was "Huh? Score? What is this?". When asked to Brian and Lorraine as part of the experience. A difference of 15-30% shows disagreements sufficient to cause ten-sion. financial situation better or worse . The scoring system used by the opposite sex is not better nor worse than his. When there is a change of situation . Abstract It is understood as the measures the other things. A difference in score of less than 15% shows a very balanced relationship. to bring up what he values. use the test to keep the dialogue essential to any relationship that want to grow up happy. in which none of them feel resentful or used. doing things that (a) partner (a) assesses to equal the score and reduce the tension.you want. and show the things that give you more pleasure. and more than 30% means that someone feels unhappy in the relationship.the score can vary and things are irrelevant in a specific context to acquire another value. Lorraine immediately understood what we wanted. but most men know not. Like most men. purchasing a home. Make the test scores from time to time to ensure that the scoring is balanced.

Why do men avoid commitment? 3.Chapter 5 CLARIFICATION THE SEVEN MAJOR MEN OF MYSTERY After the success of Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love ". but knew virtually nothing about the esposes. he did not say anything . and decided to spend the day there playing golf together. for sure he would have told me.. as they often think. how will his newly married daughter?" Julian: "Well ." Hannah: "He did not say? You mean not asked?" Julian: "Well. Was aware of the struggle of Ralph with the camera site because of its real estate projects.. But I did not ." Hannah: "And how is his wife after a week in hospital?" Julian: "I do not know . the hole-in-one that he almost succeeds." Hannah: "So ." Hannah: "How is Ralph?" Julian: "Fine. received numerous letters and emails from women that I asked more about the differences between the sexes.. Julian knew how many strokes each had.. Why both men are interested in "toys for boys"? 5. Why men never know anything about the life of your friends? 2. not sure .he said. and knew the make and year of car that Ralph was thinking of buying. no. Why do men feel the need to always be with right? 4. the last trip abroad that he had to close a deal. They just work differently for women." Hannah: "His mother is still doing chemotherapy?" Julian ... but if there was a problem. Here are the seven most frequently asked questions: 1. About what men talk in the bathroom? The problem of women is that they try to analyze the behavior of men from a female and are quite disconcerted.. his wife Hannah was eager to learn how it was: Hannah: "So how was your day?" Julian: "It was good... The truth is that men are not illogical. Why are men so by sports fanatics? 7. When Julian came home at night.. Why men can only do one thing at a time? 6. " And so it was. the children and family of Ralph. remember the problem in the bunker. Why men never know anything about the life of your friends? Julian Ralph did not see a year ago.

85%.know anything more about the girl child who lived in Bangkok. playing cards or watching football. This is because a drink with friends is just another way to look at the fire. The man knows all the jokes that his friend told him. When a man is not talking with friends and it does not mean that they fought.. When talk is about facts . Unlike women. sports. The men did not expect that men talk much and never insist on talking.To drink alcohol . fishing.. but does not know that he separated the women. Men relieve stress releasing the brain to think of something else.To find women .To relieve the stress . He had. Nobody says: "Tell me co me was the day . not to mention much.. people talk about work. . No need to talk if there is no will. women are invariably surprised by the fact he go home without knowing anything about the personal life of anyone. Imagine that the friends he wanted to know something. playing golf.9. but. the only circumstance in which a man talks to another about personal matters is when you have a problem that can not . as I said.5%. is because he is watching the fire. Rarely talk about people and their emotions..5. however. It is not lack of interest in friends. or that his wife was elected Citizen of the Year by the local community. Men can spend hours together.the results. A study by the University of Leeds investigated the reasons why men go to the bars after work: Why men go for a drink? . Who was that you found . the other to understand intuitively and leave quietly. How they were?" When you talk. a brand new repertoire of great jokes. say. . When the man comes out for drinks with friends after work. Solution The man does not understand why the woman wants to know every detail of the lives of their friends and acquaintances. and generally does not bind on feelings and emotions. Speak one at a time because their brains are organized to or speak or hear. solutions or answers to questions or to share information about things and processes. or that of his brother Ralph had a diagnosis of Parkinson's disease. When a man is watching the fire with a drink in hand.5%. The male brain is fully dedicated to the "end-mind". cars and women. they can not do both at the same time.

verb. Then. For Sally. Mary was the lifeblood of any meeting . the time spent together indicated that they now had a connection. Geoff also called for Jodie to say the same as Sally. Geoff called and asked for that he would see her that same night. The story of Geoff A month had happened. Despite never having talked about a unique relationship. whom everyone liked. it was the signal for Sally that it would start a relationship with Geoff. But left the matter there. The following week. Jodie seemed a little cold. male: not crush other women when in the street with his wife or girlfriend Case Study: Geoff and Sally Jodie thought Geoff and Sally would make a beautiful couple and arranged a meeting for them to meet. Geoff accepted with joy. Ask women. so she invited him to go to the beach and then dinner. The next day. Sally called for Jodie and thanked for having made them. As was expected. The story of Jodie Jodie was shocked by Geoff not have asked for Sally: party but a "piranha faladeira" called Mary. rather than be given by Sally gossip. They are very fun at the party when he saw Jodie Geoff. Men do not understand the concept of relationship the same way as women. . That is how things work in the male brain.resolve. thought. but Geoff was not the slightest idea that they had a special connection because it had never been spoken. Approached it and presented it to Mary. because Mary was a fun person. and Geoff realized that she did not like Mary. career. as a last resort. he asked council to a friend. The two had a great night and exchanged phone numbers and is combined again. relationships or the whereabouts of family members or people in your social circle. That night.a really fun person . He realized that there was something wrong but had no idea of what could be. Then Geoff decided to invite Mary to the birthday party of his best friend. So if you want information about health. That left him confused. saying he had really liked Geoff and I know him better. They left in the three weeks following the end of the film and were one or two times every week. Jodie called immediately and told Sally to what Geoff said. . Then. Why do men avoid commitment? Commitment: verb.and months that he was not the route. do not expect that men give the answers. she was not seeing anyone else. she should immediately tell. female: I want to marry and form a family. When Geoff hung. Sally is cut into tears because he thought that she and Geoff were going very well.

For women. fox and geese. Geoff felt she should be in the TPM and the weekend that the crisis had passed. If you want a faithful man. Sally wanted a compromise with Geoff. It was the first time spoke about his feelings realized they were going in completely different directions. the males are polygamous for the sake of survival. Was reasonable. How can he be so stubbornly loyal and devoted to a bunch of players flustered and not necessarily bright. maintaining a commitment at least until your child is self-sufficient. and then in front of our friends How long are you going with it? You like it? Sleep with her? Me responds!" Geoff was not believed in listening. The brain of most species. But Geoff was not ready to take it. They had choice. The man is able to hide their emotions and feelings of the woman he loves. "How could you do this to me?" She whimper. Therefore not argues that unfaithful men claim that they could not avoid. for example.. But we differ from other species in the sense that our brains evolved and developed large frontal lobes that enable us to make decisions about what we want and we do not want to do. So they decided to remain friends but that would not further to bed . From the survival of the species. since it could only birth to a child at a time. Wanted their freedom. wishing that she had prepared his favorite dish. made sense that a male had ten or twenty females. but is visibly emotional and passionate when your team plays. well. are monogamous. He spent the following three hours trying to explain the problem with Sally. including humans. But when Sally opened the door. There was little to offer because many men died in hunting and war. Women often admire that men may have an almost religious feeling with a soccer team. is not programmed for monogamy. it is something that is programmed into his psyche. Mae West The woman believes that she is "out" with a man for some time and none of them are . He had never previously aware that they were only a couple . especially when it lost. it was decided that Sally. not only with him. but they are rarely willing to invest the same amount of emotional energy in a relationship with them. that the survivors adopt the widows in their haréns. This is why men delay to the maximum 'commitment to take the woman and are so difficult to maintain a monogamous relationship.think Sally went with other guys. he does not know which are not there with him and not show or a tenth of that devotion to her? During almost the entire time of existence of the human race.. which also increased the chance they could pass their genes. ". Was speechless. but had no sense that a female had ten or twenty males. saw that she had been crying and I was bored with it... Only 3% of animal species. seek a hospice. therefore.Cards on the table Geoff was eager to review Sally.

not to speak when not to. There are several ways to do this. But for most men. A relationship is nothing more than a negotiation with rules . exercising its right to clarify the situation for two and choosing the type of relationship you want to establish . he wants everything. friendship. now they are dating. like Geoff. they now have a special relationship. To be frank it is a sign of respect. it can play. When the man says that commitment means losing freedom. Having a relationship is to take driver's license. What most men think It is a universal custom among the men playing friends saying that the marriage or the permanent relationship with a woman one of them is a clear sign that the life of the unfortunate end. and not trying to understand them or being sensitive to their emotional needs. now they are dating. Pressed to explain. Remember." In general. When Sally has complained about "What were you thinking?". Solution The idea of establishing an ongoing relationship potentially never passed by the head of Geoff. A woman should ask what your partner feels it and wants you to go to the relationship. and how many women want to have. The man tends to be direct and make a woman know whether or not a special and unique relationship. Never assume therefore that you are having a special relationship before discussing it with someone else.if you want love. must learn and respect the rules of the road . it is difficult to know what specifically is he talking about freedoms. "You can say goodbye to 90% of your sex life!" And also the warning in general welcome the singles: "You have to ask permission even to sneeze.with other people. do not want to give up anything. "When you undertake. is that most of them is not very sensitive to the state of mind of women.otherwise. At the same time. not have to be accountable for their actions or justify their behavior. she needs to say clearly that the man of her point of view. he wants love. where there are no rules. you must give something in return. Otherwise. saying for example that is happy to prepare a dinner for him. If you have difficulty to speak directly. And respect is what the woman must have by itself. They have not the slightest intention of stealing the freedom of man. however. he speaks of freedom to come and go as you want. In short. instead of just waiting timidly to the man understand the situation. the more likely it is that the plug does not fall. sex and someone to take care of you. dedication and loyalty. men avoid it because they think that compromise the woman will steal them the freedom and they will end up weak and powerless. She must learn to be honest and direct. because now it is who controls the handcuffs. this is a strange concept. as happened with Geoff. attention and much sex. You can also say how good sex and agree close. The answer would be: he was not thinking anything. Not only is it men do not know read my mind. The only way to live life in complete freedom is alone in a desert island." they laugh. because there is a special connection. men have evolved hunting animals and making war on enemies. Repeat: men can not read minds. will always be a pedestrian. it grabs you by the balls. When a woman suspects this. What women want in return is love. If you want to go.

are always behind solutions. Jackie wanted to help Dan. Dan could not believe what was hearing: Jackie wanted someone else to solve their problems! Obviously. but Dan felt that they were not financially prepared. leaving the relationship under huge stress. because animals are loyal. In-a-Ledger. rarely fail to fulfill its task. but if the woman gives him a book of this self-help. Zorro. Married me with Mr. Why do men feel the need to always be the reason? To understand this characteristic of modern man. is what happens when a woman wants to ask the way. To seek a financial adviser. and men usually are defensive or aggressive before the mere suggestion.three months later. Jackie announced that Dan had made contact with a financial adviser to have an accurate assessment of their household finances.with your partner. reducing the pressure on him. when a woman asks the man is saying or doing. These super-heroes as partners seem to prefer a dog or a horse. to resolve what is best for her. all male loners who never complained of problems but. rather. not cry and be good at everything they do. The differences grew . And. they separated. Some of them had a partner. reliable. His models are: SuperMan. never meet them or say they are wrong. the heroes of boys rarely make a mistake and never show weakness or emotion. of course. Not only knew his first name was Always. I hoped he was happy that it is taking responsibility to look for someone who could work with him. You imagine that she is trying to say that it is not so good way. usually a man less and less important. This subject has been a source of major disagreements between the two. Boys have to be tough. make it clear that she thought he was wrong about the household finances and seek counsel to prove he was . The heroin is usually a Barbie with anatomically impossible breasts. Dan saw the thing in a way completely different. is conditioned to think that not being able to do something or solve a problem means to be a failure as a man. That is why. Go to a seminar on relationships. Like most male stereotypes of books and movies. she thought he was not able to do their own accounts. Batman. the more likely it is that he is offended. Dan thought. Their eyes. as if she were weakening or denouncing their incompetence. was an assistant who had more problems than anything else. James Bond. or call a technician to fix the tap. One day. amounts to a humiliating admission that he is wrong. Case study: Jackie and Dan Jackie wanted to stop working and have a son. The comics also depict the macho tough guy as a person endowed with huge muscles and possessor of a voice rough and deep (much testosterone). He might not hesitate to give her a book of recipes for a birthday present. Spider-Man. If different from his. when it appeared. and very rarely a woman. he reacts defensively. or a therapist. When the child reaches adulthood. The man finds hard to say "Sorry" or "sorry" because it is wrong to admit. we need to examine their education. As we have seen.

but he sees trying to say what is wrong and is unable to solve things yourself. you are the best ways to discover! You do not trust me? The most common phrase of men whose actions are challenged by the women is: "You do not trust me?" When you hear that phrase. It seemed something of a space shuttle exit. the answer it is the same: "I was just trying to help!" She thinks is showing love and concern for him. When the visiting friends. He complains of being all the time trying to control it. but the signs of these streets are very confusing. . When the man hit the woman should welcome it. and all laugh of contentment. instead of saying "You never know the way and we always come back!". he protested: "Do not trust me?" In all these situations. can not resist putting in four or five clips on a sheet of paper. instead of blame him. I feel better if we stop to ask someone here what is the right entry. She can say "You're doing fine. Solution Since the man in general have these characteristics. If he is angry with the neighbor's dog barking at night. Any woman that does not visit a minimum for the stapler. he responds: "You think I am not able to deal with this problem right ? If you are a party and she warns. only to see and hear the movement of the gears. we'll have to present a paper stapler moved the battery. afraid to fight there. the man thinks that women's council to hear tantamount to hear what is wrong and does not deserve her trust. And is so offended that she begins to think that perhaps it is really kind of controller. the size of a miniature television. For example. Why both men are interested in "toys for boys"? When our friend Gerry made birthday. which left see all the gears and discs moving inside. it would be good to say: "Honey.Like any other staples. but all that did was put staples into sheets of paper . But Gerry was crazy with joy with the aparelhinho and said that sometimes when you wake in the morning and through the stapler on the table. the woman is the problem for you.incompetent or insufficiently reliable. He led three batteries that need to be replaced throughout the week. When he arrives at the destination. the stapler is round. says it will complain and she asks you not to do it. dear. Instead of saying what he did wrong. should make clear what she is feeling. " In other words. Had a transparent plastic box. giving the impression that considers incapable. the woman should avoid driving to it in a way that it felt wrong. you can be sure that insulted the manhood of man. saying not to drink too much.

On Saturday afternoon (after the game). the man who refused the help of a firefighter to repair the defective vessel closes the record and dismantle the facility. as the concentration of the average man has a range of nine minutes. The space industry of the brain that is used to estimate speeds. Boys are boys from the shops. engines or movable components that make sounds. men and boys are fanatics for anything that has buttons. space and anything that has the remote control.which are active when a person from USA spatial skills. Men love the challenge to build models of sailing vessels. Female Male Call a fireman without first consulting the man of the house can be interpreted as a serious insult. aircraft.They all admired to see the excitement of men with a aparelhinho so expensive that only runs a task beyond the trivial. The following images show the areas of the brain . But it is the male equivalent of the tendency that women have to pay exorbitant prices for imported teddy bear." It is easy to explain why the sexes react so differently to these things. they do not just fix the broken things. but get angry when you call someone suggested to complete the work. Areas of the brain used to play football. electric trains. have lights blinking and the battery is moved. tests one or two mechanical Sanders. they leave unfinished projects around the house whole. cars with panels complicated. Then go home and find that size is not one.. At home. Find out what appears to be a carrapeta spends and goes to the hardware store. mechanical. computer spreadsheets. Projects Do-You-Even The whole bunch of products Make-You-Even faces towards the space area of the brain male. build or do work. and thus meet its space needs.is the brains of the hunter. as they are indecipherable. shelves and anything that has a set of instructions. rifles with telescopic sights night. Men are the agents of cars and stores equipment and products Make-You-Even where they can find things to do. Due to the propensity of the brain space men.. back up and operate mechanical. angles and distances . just because ". Fofinho was so that I could not resist.the parts dark . If the washing machines come with remote control. drive cars. Institute of Psychiatry in London. motor boats. This includes all kinds of video and computer program. portable GPS devices. the men's space needs can be frustrating for women because. nuclear. 2001. try a drill pressure and finally find what appears to be a carrapeta of appropriate size. examining all the toys that might have space. it is likely that men are interested in to wash the clothes. but most do not know where you are carrapeta old. The hardware store has closed and he could not open the . It is about 45 minutes walk by the store. In general.

but 99% of all patents . even during the commercials. Their hope is that it is a problem to be absolutely clear. The response of readers to this issue was so overwhelming that we will summarize it here it again later. Most women do not understand why men seem able to do only one thing at a time. percent of the technical experts of the world are men . he raised the hood and will take a look. each with at least one primary function operates independently of the rest. A woman should never call a fireman. nobody will ever be able to bathe or use the private sector. because in most cases. if he is just calling a fireman. the corpus callosum. will find that solved the problem myself. The only difference that exists between men and boys is the price of their toys. it is as if he had salinhas throughout the brain. probably miss the exit.registration until the issue is resolved. unless you hurt him! And do not try to resolve any issue while he attends the TV. Today most new companies are founded by women. If the car makes a strange noise.the excellent performance of that natural ability. you run the risk of injury. Understand that mentality "one-thing-in-every-time" is one of the most important things a woman can learn about the men. Instead. . you will discover that he is almost deaf.are recorded by men. Seeing the images of the brain of a man who reads.of "toys for boys" . The cable that connects the right and left hemispheres of your brain. Ninety-six. technician or any computer in space qualified man before consulting his own man. why can not the man? Why he always turns off the television when the phone rings? Women around the world complain in unison: "Because he can not hear what I'm saying while reading the newspaper or watching television?" The reason is that the human brain is compartmentalised and specialized. Never give you flowers and nice cards. these things mean much less to him Why men can only do one thing at a time? In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? Presents a thorough study on why the male brain is so singularly focused: what it described as "single track". builder. portamo. If he is in clover road and someone directed him to speak. though not the slightest idea what you are looking for. is on average 10% thinner than the female and carries about 30% fewer connections between the two hemispheres. She explains that men lower when the radio or read a map when they march to the defendant in the car. That is what gives the approach "one-thing-of-every-time" to everything he does in life. In simple terms. ask your opinion and give it a run. financial consultant. Thus. This concentrated focus allows men to become great experts. Remember: never talk to the man when he is doing a beard. There is a lesson here: always give the man a toy of this spatially related. If a woman can read while listening or talking. If you are working with a sharp tool and the phone rings. it should tell you what it considers necessary.

His brain calculates the speed. man may again be a member of a band of hunters. .even the men hunt and women also care for children. As adults. The men ran. The woman's brain is configured to perform multiple tasks. Why are men so by sports fanatics? For thousands of years. men caught in groups while women receive food and care of children. fantasy that he is giving himself to the mark and kicks goals. there was one man in the country who do not know the color of escalation of the team. discuss an issue at a time and adhere to it until all these men are satisfied with the solution. the angles and directions of the ball. They verbally insult the referee (although the referee can not listen to the l) when disagree with a mark: "You think this is missing? Your asshole You need glasses!" Can remember the scores. crawling and using their spatial skills to get food. After that England won the World Cup of 1966 against Germany. following a new recipe and watching television at the same time. and then pass to the next question. This is the main reason why 96% of personal assistants of the world are women. even while it is active sleep. The brain images show that the woman's brain never shuts off. The girls use dolls as a practice of caring for children and the boys kicked and pursue balls as practice for hunting. if you want a good result free of stress. you better go outside dining. therefore. is always given to man to do one thing at a time. The sports to which man is part of a group of hunters. You can turn auto-mobile. the goals they most marked and tactical errors they committed. 'f women swap their dolls for children. but men still kicking balls. It is as if the woman was in some way genetically apparently with the octopus. She is able to talk on the phone. Between 1800 and 1900 were invented almost all modern sports with ball. and they urram of pleasure when the striker is the goal. The best strategy. nothing much has changed in thousands and thousands of years . the modern replacement of the activities of hunting. chasing. most women can do many things not related to each other at the same time. But if a man is following a recipe to prepare a dish and you want to chat with him.The man has two times more likely than women to engage in a car accident while talking on a cell phone. In reality. As a devoted fan of your soccer team. recalled with vivid detail goals in marked departures held for many years and almost come to tears when discussing what the player should have done and the result which should have had the game. Seeing their heroes in the field. In business. never ask questions to the man during sex. As we have seen. And most important. The men are so excited when they watch football because they feel as if they were playing the game. makeup and to listen to radio as a live-voice speech.

with family. If you still do not find interesting but want to follow it is always possible to find other women in the same situation and make new friends. conversely. Add to it or use the time to do something positive for yourself. Do not fight the sport or hobby of your man. discuss the clothes they are wearing and the other. Solution If your partner is a sports maniac or a hobby. moves. which can spend hours on end in front of the TV watching other men guide car race. When watching the struggles of boxing. Drive car is almost entirely a spatial ability. come to bend and give the impression of feeling the pain of fighter hit by a low blow. This explains why men engaged in activities which are repetitive or just those who give more importance to sports. They are so obsessive with the steering wheel. but they still do not know the names of his nieces. " The world has now become a confusing place for men . The place where they are compared with others which have been. angles. Go with him to an event and you will be surprised to see the amount of other "widows of the sport" that also attend and enjoy the social aspects. The men no longer have any clear model to follow and clear specifications of what is expected of them. and . About what men talk in the bathroom? We answer the first question male universal: "What women talk together when they go to a public bathroom?" The answer is: about everything and about everyone. she leaves. I will miss her a lot. get involved. First. Sport is an activity in which man can feel again a member of a group: there no one criticizes or tries to modify it. you have two options.This is a formidable skill. who are friendly and attractive men.their primary brain skills started to be largely superfluous and the women are attacking from all sides. The second option is to use his obsession for sports as a positive opportunity to be with their friends. It is also why men prefer to buy a new set of golf clubs than a dining table is very necessary. Speeds. which rarely occurs in their affective relationship. shop or start your own hobby. Men may be taken by intense emotion when watching sports. too. "My wife told me that if I drop the obsession with my soccer team. who they like and dislike. changes in motion and stationary are in motion to reverse the sky of every man. and he feels victorious when your team wins. it does not happen in your work. neighbors and the door or the date on which commemorates the Mother's Day. nephews. those who consider their work exciting and rewarding are less interested. Learn what it can about the interest and become understood.

and still do not know what got into me when I decided to respond with a constrained 'All right! " The other guy said. what are you doing? " I thought: 'How strange .. Absolutely nothing. Men urinate in silence. The fourth man generally feels better to use the booth to be standing next to a stranger who can look at it. Are rarely hear a fart in a female bathroom... I have to call you later. In cabins. I went to the second. with two vessels in each of health. 'Listen . how are you?" Like any man. the first in choose in the bathroom farthest from the door. Never. discuss techniques and different types of makeup products.. and when it happens. Any woman who seems distressed receive group therapy . Do not talk to other men when they are sitting in the pot.'.. Let us return now to the original question: what men talk in public restrooms? The answer is: nothing. to more important and profound conversations. like an idiot. to get away from those who arrive. because it has an idiot in the booth next to answer my questions! " Men also have a territorial ritual to choose the urinal. while women prefer large vain to talk and move objects from one booth to another. looking at the front. I never talk to strange men in bathrooms of post road.. England. While retouch. 'So . Never. They do not talk.any personal problem that they or friends are living.. said:' The same as you . The motto of the men is: "Better death than a visual contact. Scarcely had I sat when I heard a voice coming from the booth next to saying. As the first booth was busy. your eyes will never cross. A nightclub in Birmingham." . the conversation is minimal. and God help the man that the plague! Women sit in the pot and talk with other women through the wall. the culprit is hiding in the cabin to check out. nervous. If there is a row of five urinals. What comes then choose which is further away from the first man. In the men's room if no one bothers with it. Even among close friends... ever under any circumstances. Never. 'Hey. put a stop to go to the bathroom. Here is a letter from one of our readers shows the reason that men of silence that reigns in the bathroom of men: "During a trip. but. Bathrooms are a network of women in waiting rooms and counseling centers where you can meet new people and interesting. men prefer walls of floor to the ceiling to limit the interaction with neighbors. asking the odd passing toilet paper under the door. Men never talk to strangers in public restrooms. came to install booths in the bathroom wider female. cosmetics divided up among themselves and even with strangers. and when urinate. and never talk to strangers. and two women is not uncommon-they share the same cubicle in order to continue the conversation. and chooses the next which is midway between the two.. traveling to the North! " Oh I heard the guy say.

or simple megeras nosy." Most men know that. The parents of a man can claim him. "Yes. a founder of modern Russia. Problems with parents not dominate the lives of men. taking the blame for more than a third of the separations. the mother of the man is the real danger. .Chapter 6 THE OTHER WOMAN His mother Two women were presented before the r ~ i Solomon dragging a young man proposed marriage to her two daughters." warned the king's advisers. it is unlikely that parents cause problems." "But she wanted to see it cut in two. and are always characterized witches co-mo. But almost no jokes with in-laws . said: "Staying with the two parents. but most men do not come to disappoint them." Difficult in-laws are not a problem for most men. "this shows that it is the real parents. the king decided that the couple was cut in half so that each stay with their part.provide all three. The first woman agreed. De-because of the stories they hear. but the second said: "No. cremate or embalm." The wise king did not hesitate: "The man must marry the daughter of first wife. What most of the mothers of the wives want more than that any thing. It is worth recalling that Lenin. And when the man has problems with in-law. And if the man makes a woman happy. I answered: "Sure . is to see her daughter happy. when asked what should be the maximum penalty for bigamy. the most likely cause is the refusal of the father in giving of their precious "princesinha. irritated him." said Solomon. it is usually the mother of women the major cause of problems. Our research found. But if on the one hand the parents is a problem in the marriage of many people." The dragon enter the scene Probably the mother-in-law jokes inspire more than any other category of the planet. even irritating." What is the difference between a mother-in-law and a vulture? The vulture waiting for you dying to devour your liver. many times. do not run blood! Let him to marry the daughter of another woman.they are not cause for laughter. An old Polish proverb says: "The path to the heart of the parents is the child. "Today I received an email warning that my parents had died and asking if I would have to bury.

You think the woman has to wash.a blonde. neutral. that same night to his mother to know. Anita thought it was becoming impossible to live with Tom. He said he wanted to know if she was able to guess which of the three women was his future daughter-in-law. The mother asked why he brought three. Arranged a dinner. in home pen. Can cause unhappiness. you are a pig. Polls conducted by the University of Utah shows that more than 50% of marriages are real problems between the husband and mother nora. that the other 50% are seen as helpful. divorce. affectionate." They are not all bad Clearly. which shows that about 50% of parents are seen as the creators of the case also shows. the mother replied: "It's a redhead. not all parents deserve the reputation of evil. But came together with three women . After living six months with you. for many parents Norasia a nosy. Your . He left his clothes and playing space-lhadas the towels on the floor. The crisis involving the parents of women often seem impossible to manage and insoluble. generous and. I believe it cost to the teacher. Anita This led to the point of collapse. Case study: Anita and Tom They had been married only six months when cracks began to appear in your happiness. Although not all parents are given by the fame. ultimately. which refuses to cut the umbilical cord with your child. you have no respect for women. You are so thorough that it is me crazy! In my home was never like this." "How did you guess so quickly?": He asked. I can not live with you more!" Tom: "No. the parents of the wife. anguish and. move. A man met a wonderful woman and her boyfriend was. The parents are often responsible for defects and emotional problems of their children and Norasia. A search of the University of the State of Utah. After examining each one carefully. My mother never complained to me or anything that I did! " Anita: "So okay. she mimou you. in the worst cases. And she replied: "Because I was not with her face. clean and working all the time. you can be absolutely disastrous. yes. Anita. Transformed all the rooms. cook. the problem is you.His mother . Anita: "Tom. invasive and possessive. rather than just one. let's talk about your mother. Actually.the burden it The real tragedy of most families are caused by the mother of the man. a brunette and a redhead.

Shortly before the wedding. especially when he is single and her life is dull. because the Norasia usually maintain close ties with their mother and talk with them regularly. Receiving little information.. immature. When the marriage makes the situation more. unless he has developed a strong relationship with Nora. the parents begin to feel excluded from the new family and the child may find that the only way to participate is forcing way and is doing this. selfish and emotionally unstable. the most effective in this case is training him to do what she wants him to do. The complexity of the situation lies in the fact that there are three people involved in this relationship. mother of Mark. The parents are often put aside after the marriage. In addition to washing. or at the other extreme. She felt used and offense. The mother wants to be involved in their children's lives. when in fact they are creating a serious problem in the future relationship with their wives. because having her along as it is a good strategy. It is now an adult who should be responsible for their actions. Julie and her mother Sarah was not talking about three years ago. the menu of a wedding party and all arrangements of practice . Case study: Mark and Julie Mark and Julie decided to marry. But instead of criticizing and blaming his mother. but Julie found her mother with the help of Mark and they resumed their relationship. about every little detail. it is as if two women disputing one man. " Tom: "What my mother has to do with it? Why did you change the subject? Why not stop blaming everyone except yourself?" Many mothers spoil the future at a very early marriage of their children.mother and I created a monster I'm no longer tolerate this. detached and friendly. cooking and go for them. It is normal for a girl seeks the support of the mother. Suddenly. This can create jealousy in the mother's partner. Due to a disagreement. This is a really complicated problem for the partner. France was no longer needed and was put aside. Why be parents is sometimes difficult? It is important to be aware that parents occupy a difficult position. How is the mother around the nora usually forget that the mother of your husband is so important to the family unit as its own. to protect them. two or even three people can be jealous. The son and daughter-in-law must face the situation in a mature and open. Is he eating right? Is that his house is well cared for? Etc. one. But for every problem there is a solution. All three people can be emotionally balanced. believing they are showing them your love. So Julie is highly supported in France. But the children rarely talk to their mothers about what it is. Just be willing to resolve it. dependent. to help her choose the wedding dress. The parents are always connected to the child. possessive. The girl almost always strives for the love to build a good relationship with the mother of the boy. independent. Life today is increasingly .everything we have done with his own mother if things were different.. etc. not the parents.

She created with all the care. for example. it takes some effort to maintain unity in family life . to be clear. Logo Bernadette began openly insulting Diana when Richard was not around. comfort and emotional support for this . Soon after. When the ceremony was. Bernadette became a problem. The problems began when she and Richard returned from honeymoon. Richard. He drank more and did not de-link the minimum for the family. Bernadette was not particularly receptive. with less time for human contact. "I was late!" She said to friends. In business. Their demands seemed to have no end. Diana liked that Richard knew him. so completely unexpected. and when the big wheel is complaining with her husband. but the two sides need to understand and find solutions to ensure the happiness of all. but Bernadette phone every night to stay talking long together with Richard. cities or different countries. Only presented to his mother after the announcement of the engagement. Perhaps it is difficult for the next generation deal with their parents. I used to laugh when the future mother-in-law commented that perhaps they are not ready for non-marriage and could change your mind at any time. The madcap who sometimes left him were. But thought it strange that her boyfriend not to take his place. Parents need attention and the children need time for their own family. Diana began then to avoid the parents. Diana tried to be friendly. Richard knew that as she created. but Diana found that it simply needed time to adapt. He was a good boy of 22 years and watch it. But she still had her son.she thought . The view of Diana Adam and Eve were the happiest and luckiest couple in the world. Bernadette appeared almost every day.would be difficult to find a woman equal. But the last generation only knows the phone and personal meetings to communicate. to take care of the garden. without any consideration for the needs of Diana. we use the mail to meet the need of communication. but eventually grew tired of listening Bernadette tell you how to prepare the favorite dish of Richard. Richard and Diana Bernadette had just over forty years when the left-of Mari. now was the time to take account of it. because neither of them had parents. nourished and loved since birth. She asked when he would come "in house" to paint it. telling everyone what you thought would not last.over-charged. Diana has realized that it had inherited from a mother-in-law Hell. Bernadette thought Richard was not interested in girls. only for sex. . Bernadette denied. accusing it of trying to create problems between her and her son. Richard was now fully at its disposal. She is holding waiting for the world turn around. For Bernadette. and put the fault in almost everything she did. How many parents are required to change a light bulb? A. When family members live in distant neighborhoods. as he liked the tidiness of the house. and even in daily life. Case study: Bernadette. to repair the tap to talk about a problem or to take her shopping.

Instead. More than once Diana tried to discuss the problem with Richard. it is that would see her on weekends and helped with the house. Richard thought he was just working hard all day and still have to resolve disputes between your wife and your mother when you get home. Bernadette took account of the situation. The wife must have sufficient wisdom to take control of the situation and ensure that problems are dealt with between it and the parents. constantly criticizing Diana. Once Richard and Diana got married. preparing their favorite dishes. as it feeds his ego. The man may feel happy to have two women disputing its possession. Women do this naturally. putting it in the neck all the time they were together. only. He loved the woman. helping in something. The last thing that a woman needs is a complaint that her parents with the son. Solution Nora and parents need to build a loop to run their lives. When Travis was born. With male your brain programmed to problem solving. What is the difference between a pit-bull and a mother-in-law? The pit-bull just dropping you. helping with the baby. but Diana seemed so enciumada of the husband's relationship with the mother that no longer appear. The views of Richard Richard lost his father to divorce. made his bed. to have a life free of stress. and Diana felt prisoner and unfortunate. Bernadette was the first to offer to help by washing the clothes and taking care of the baby. and continue to need in the modern world. Travis was the first son of Diana. everyone wins. Bernadette was soon back to life nora physically every day. but things were definitely more calm at home. to overlive in caves. Diana and tired of discussing it in a anger deaf closed. In the end.Two years later. and so Richard thought that the advice of his mother would be fundamental. Bernadette lived with and was discussing it with Richard complaining. The mother always told him that his father does not provide for anything and now he was the man of the house. . It became possessive for Travis. collected and washed their clothes and not criticized because it felt just wonderful what he did. When this is true. but he thought the mother should be feeling alone and that he had a responsibility towards her. It became obsessive with Travis. But Diana did not seem prone to a little or ask advice. but he said that Diana was being possessive. immature and ciumenta. It was a burden. Filled it with care and affection. Nora and parents need to adjust their relationship without involving the son and husband. Create a child was a novelty for Diana. just at the time he began to relax. but she was crazy with their explosions. Diana began to feel excluded. And started to think that life would be less complicated if I went back to single. But there was one problem: every night his mother call him a lengthy conversation. and that his mother was only trying to help. selfish. Bernadette was him taking his own son. Bernadette was always around.

You have a long life together. take our privacy and in-progress plans are constantly perplexed. but Diana refuses to divide Travis and receive useful advice on motherhood. through whom she controls Diana and Travis. The problem therefore is Diana and Richard. it is advisable to couple therapy. when you know the future mother-in-law. . husband and wife. The difficulty is in fact a big wheel. that because it is not enough time with the family. she combines sympathy and firmness. happy and loving? . will pay a high price later. Bernadette apparently has no problem.the son and daughter-in-law. generally immature and unprepared for the problems that inevitably arise. for this to see how a person with life itself.I do not understand why my wife and my mother is angry all the time. . What is important is that in that relationship. later is very difficult to establish a productive discussion between the three parties. must take the initiative to build the bridge. When it leaves the problems of marriage take root.Bernadette requires too much attention to Richard. but also not wanting to impose their views. When problems appear since the beginning of the relationship. She had permission to continue controlling Richard. when all I want is to be with them.Bernadette call every night. Richard never cut the umbilical cord that connects to your mother.Both recognize the existence of problems? . . husband and wife should sit down and put on paper what they think is the problem. the problem must be resolved by the parties most affected . wanting to dictate the rules in our house and the creation of our son.They want to solve the problem? If the answer to any of these questions is "No". and Diana does not understand that as a child. leaving the part of parents. He actually "still" have not left the house. could write: . It is important that she spend some time just for parents. As. . In the case study above. just in time for this-we enjoy our moments of family living.My mother is alone and it is up to us supports it. Hardly one of them will accept what he seems to be an alliance between the other two. . staged in families around the world. If the answer is "Yes". Diana could write: . for example. is my responsibility to help her. first questions they need answered are: . Richard. not simply as the wife of the child. in turn. . not matured.My mother makes me feel guilty when I do not answer your requests. leaving not intimidate. a person be more girl.Bernadette does not respect my ability and hope that it meets Richard as a child. but Diana did not care about that. The best time to cut the umbilical cord is birth. In this stage.My mother is not a man at home to do small services. is the big wheel that as a matter of survival. .Bernadette interfere too much. . If during the time of her dating book all their attention to the fiance.This is a common tragedy. .Bernadette arrives without warning.My mother tries to help Diana.

the most important of all. as Christmas gift or birthday. Must thank Bernadette for attention. must limit the duration of phone calls from their 'mother to. This is a trap in which young people often fall very easily. is important to Richard and Diana show a real interest in "new" life of Bernadette. Bernadette feel rejected and hurt. ten minutes. Maybe the solution would get a "factotum" and give him the phone Bernadette. Inexperienced. then why not put limits on Bernadette too? Diana says Bernadette arrives without being asked and without warning. Bernadette did not exceed a limit set. Diana has to be firm. say. albeit unintentionally. We need to know that she should call before they appear. Richard and Diana might even offer to pay for services for an entire year. however. When set limits. and they intend to follow it. Set limits and be firm are two key lessons that the newly married couples need to learn. have a group of reading. is that it needs to encourage the mother to develop activities outside the family. such as joining a club of retired. How to set limits Establish rules and set limits means tracing lines that should not be exceeded. Bernadette must be trained. Richard. it actually allowed the parents invade your marriage and your family. in agreement with Diana. by her . but this is a problem that it must overcome. and generally believe that the family members are only trying to help with his advice. on the border of privacy.Diana is also responsible. are not firm in setting its rules. It is natural that Bernadette would Richard take care of the problems of her house. they do not understand the risks. after which he must tell Bernadette that has things to do and say goodbye. but said that she and Richard receive guidance of pediatricians to the development of Travis. Me and my parents were happy for twenty years. lines that they can not overcome. people know that their transgression will bring problems. Richard and Diana do not have of it and left to set limits when they married. Know where to go. having lived always within limits set by other people. but in agreement with Diana. Richard really has responsibility to help the mother. By not putting limits on Bernadette when the problems started to appear. Diana should explain that she and Richard need a time of privacy to relax and take care of common projects and unannounced visits that may interfere. to excursions. With regard to Travis. If Richard and Diana have limits in their marriage. doing courses and voluntary work in hospitals or welfare organizations. but here is a question of limits. The problem will diminish significantly if the visits are only permitted where previously combined. therefore. The three should discuss the matter in a time when emotions are low. Until we know it. as the visitor is a person dear. Quite understandably.

but Richard and Diana have to say. however strange it may seem to Bernadette . if we are committed to maintaining a harmonious relationship and happy. it is only to ensure the happiness of the three. They have to explain or justify their decisions. Maybe even threatens disinherit them.just like your father."Do you not care more for me. whether to live an independent life. Richard is resolved to maintain her marriage and awareness of evil that causes the interference of the mother. You've seen flying snake? Then try playing your parents through the window. It is not easy. But you know what is right to do what you're doing." Such tactics. I examined all the possible reactions and are prepared to deal with it. If you could convince your parents to walk fifteen kilometers a day."You are selfish . there is no aggression. Bernadette will be boring at first and probably react with emotional blackmail and statements such as: . especially if the reaction is stronger than expected. Reactions are predictable." . make it clear. The next stage of the reaction of Bernadette is probably refuse to help. but they should not do it. after a single week she would be 105 kilometers away. through words and attitudes. Just as the couple set limits and make the meet. If sympathy and love to face the task of setting limits to Bernadette. There will be tempting to abandon it. only reaffirm that the path that is decided then. ie taking care of Travis."I feel so alone now. None of this is easy and requires a lot of the couple's determination and persistence."When I die you will be sorry. mature and happy. encouraging it."Who else can I use?" . It is vital that during all the conversations. I discussed the matter several times. while building a life. that the affection is preserved. only work if you allow. the two problems can be solved." ."After everything I did for you!" . We need to keep it abreast of the family. It is important that they continue taking care of Bernadette and supporting it during this phase." .own gain momentum. . which are emotional blackmail. A person can only make you feel guilty if you agree to accept the blame. a solid and enjoyable adult relationship can develop.

so as to remain united. And the modern woman." The archaeologist thought for a moment and replied: "I want a bridge with a Autopista connecting England to France!" The genius goggle and mutter: "Hey. The ability to build and strengthen intimate relationships was crucial to the survival of each. appeared a genius. But for those who can meet them. When you engage in any activity. To rub it to remove the dust. Why women talk so much? 2.Chapter 7 The Mysteries WAYS OF WOMEN LANGUAGE An archaeologist excavated a ruin when topou to an old lamp. The modern man also. The dark areas are the parts . I'm tired ground." The genius pale and asked: "One or two tracks?" If you are a man. therefore. when to collect leaves (shopping) and still talk all the time. In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? we treat this issue in detail. and when caçavam fishing. we present here only a brief summary. They speak to be connected. we are able to reveal the intriguing logic that lies behind the five men most frequent questions about the way women are communicating. women did all the time. Men evolved chasing moving targets. men. "I will grant you one wish. Why women never go to the chase? 5. To most men. You idea of the distance that exists between England and France? Is an engineering impossible! Make another request! The man reflected for a moment and asked: "I wish I could I communicate with women. Searched men of different nationalities and races. The following is the brain images of men and women talking. when you leave to hunt or fish. For over a decade. not speaking much. Why women want to know the smallest detail? 'Why do women talk so much? The huge capacity that women have to talk is something that most men are extremely difficult to understand. "You freed me!" Said the genie. These are the questions: 1. I just leave the lamp. these secrets are both a source of amusement and confusion. But it is very likely to feel skeptical about some of the things that will read. Women evolved together with other women and children in and near the caves. this is one of the most important chapters of this book. Why women exaggerate? 4. a new level of relationship with the opposite sex comes up. or a specific purpose. Women do not need a reason to talk. we check each item with a woman next to you. avoided talking to not scare the prey. Why do women always want to talk about problems? 3. Consequently. Meanwhile. we collect and record answers to research on how men and women to communicate and use the science of human behavior to explain their differences. man.

Unfortunately. the man only speaks to other men about personal problems if you think that the other has a solution. For the women. the man gives the impression that always wants to be right and it is always wrong. The reaction of the man before it is asked "Why do not you say it to her when they were together?". the man tends to think that a woman discuss their problems because they do not know how to deal with them and "all the time is interrupted with solutions. when either communicate facts. From a woman. As I said. the man who was asking opinion feels honored and offers its solutions. The women's to processes. because the "conversation" of women is completely different. If not. Put simply. without effort. 2001. data and solutions." that is. .of the brain into activity. dyslexia and serious. When a woman speaks. Compare it with the average daily production of words of a man . This creates serious problems of communication with women. it simply does not speak. Areas of the brain related to speech and language. however. No wonder that women always complain that the man to break inter-and not to let express their views. In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? show that the brain of the woman can produce. Man Woman The brain of man is oriented solutions. The brain of man is set to the solution of continuous problems. six thousand to eight thousand words spoken per day. A worker exhausts its production of words in the middle of the afternoon and go home to find a woman who still has four to five thousand words to say! Two women can spend the whole day together and then still speak for a full hour on the phone. The images show how the brains of women is widely used for the functions of speech and language. Institute of Psychiatry in London. Most men "only speak if you have something to say. it speaks to you. Have a brain that is not strong in the skills of speech and language responds to the remarkable extent of gender differences in rates of problems in speech: the stuttering is a disorder three to four times more frequent among men than among women. not to ask for solutions. As already explained. to offer all the time. it does basically to create a bond with another person. The men use the speech and language to communicate facts and data. about ten times.two to four thousand and you understand that the ability to speak of women cause so many problems between couples. share their emotions and problems with someone is a demonstration of confidence in the person. a form of retribution and a way to connect to another person. if she feels attracted to you if she likes you or saying you want to feel accepted and important.

The silence as a form of punishment is an effective tactic. constipation. Already suggested before. is direct and clear.if she does not like or do not love a person. The danger is that the internalized stress can cause diseases such as diarrhea. Focusing on other things. Why do women always want to talk about problems? Women on average live seven years longer than men. want to talk to your partner. stomach ulcers and heart attack . especially when used with other women. Women use silence to punish men. he apparently can forget their problems. one could say to each other how you feel and go learn about the differences between genders and the specific characteristics of your partner.the men usually see the "peace and tranquility" obtained with the silence of women as a prize.When you make personal confidences. The opposite is also true . It is never too often: when two people are aware that they want to invest in the relationship. if she does not agree with what this person is saying. without interrupting to offer solutions. Your brain allows you to track only concentrate on the news. mutual remarks to lose the character of criticism and complaint and will be key ele-ments in the construction of mutual happiness. Only thus creates intimacy and complicity. Without any aggressiveness. When you. ask them explicitly to reserve a time for that and tell him that he only wants to listen. she stops talking. mainly due to their greater ability to deal with stress. or when either punish them. When not occupied with another activity. The purpose of it is if you feel better about your day and connect to you . woman. The solution for men and women Ideally. it is the participation that counts. It is important to understand the man that the main objective of the "conversation" of the woman is talking about. If you have an issue to deal with it. The content of conversation with people is not important. browse the Internet or mount an aircraft to turn off the problems. water the garden. but never too often. she is not complaining .it's showing that you trust. When either forget a stressful day.in almost all of the time is not to seek solutions. on TV. the man thinks or does something else. The problem is that men love silence. With men in general it does not work .fortunately not . stress man stops talking and will sit alone "in front of the fire" to find a solution to your problem. The best way to punish the woman the man is talking to him without stopping and changing the subject is. one at a time.

the reason why women love to discuss all the details. He would prefer a thousand times and have a fight. Joe could not handle it. Talking about your problems is your way of relieving stress. It was common for discussion is to drag well after midnight. Solution We to assume that the more men and women are aware of their differences. Not . Men tend to retreat before that approach. it would be readily available. go to sleep and forget it. Rodney Dangerfield Women believe that everyone is talking about feeling better. talked and talked about the issue at stake . remember that she needs to talk to feel better. A man who did so would give other men the impression that they feel incapable and are looking for solutions . addressing them in various ways. The problem was that Lisa had been created believing that the couple should never let anyone waiting for the next day. There are two theories about arguing with a woman. Women like to thoroughly discuss all aspects of their actions and feelings.. Ask her if she wants some help and put themselves available to advise her when she wants. The problem is that the female brain is programmed to enhance processes. he had already discussed everything that had to discuss and was happy to leave the rest divergence. They always kiss and make up before going to sleep. the easier it becomes the relationship. Prefer to discuss the issue and resolve it quickly. In the evening. So she talked. and yes-go by making a possible solution. especially late at night. The men believe that talking will only make things worse. Enjoy going to rock your thinking about something else. One night we were agreed for six months. PHYLLlS DILLER For men. Women deal with stress talking plenty about their problems. So when the woman started to teased a problem that seems not to sense. My husband and I decided never to sleep before resolving our disputes. Listen to it with the greatest possible solidarity and tell him you are there to accept them as needed..all at the same time. None of them works. Joe and discussion of midnight Lisa and Joe discussed much when they went to live together. while] and thought they always came back to the same issues. Case study: Lisa. is a mystery. Lisa wanted to reduce their level of stress and was anxious to reach a satisfactory decision for both.until it lead to another thread.

ask to be sensitive if it can leave the matter for another time. Examples of female exaggeration: "I asked you a million times to collect their wet towels. if he disagrees with the woman in front of friends." "When I saw her with that dress. Say. it only needs your love and genuine care." "Do not talk to you anymore!" For men. I thought it was going to die!" "You always do this to me. she will say later: "You always reduces me and never let me have my own opinion. He exaggerates the importance of their work. for example: "Sorry. these fantasies and exaggeration that makes the conversations more interesting. but does not give us a little talk about this later?" This way of addressing the problem is more respectful and has much more chance of working than say nothing and simply wait for the woman to say end all you have to talk. but this issue is too big for my head today. The difference is that men exaggerate the facts and women exaggerate the emotions and feelings. Moreover. saying that it does not always defend himself and giving examples: "This is not true. Why women exaggerate? Both men and women exaggerate. the performance of your car and the amount of beautiful women who left. I want to discuss it with you. The woman's brain is focused on people. sweetheart.minimize the impact that certain events can cause it. But also meets its limits. you always do this to me!" He probably will take that complaint to the foot of the letter. I did not no time last night and not do for months!" She replied recalling . Exaggerated words and emotions is a normal behavior to be perfect for women who talk among themselves. She exaggerates his feelings and the other when it comes to some personal matter or what someone said. so fancy it much more than the man on the lives and relationships. One of one hundred things that women wish men knew: what it said six or eight months is unacceptable in the current discussion. because as your brain thinks things from facts and data. it interprets the words literally. At that moment. the excesses of women can be frustrating. In general. The exaggeration makes it more exciting to talk about relationships. the size of your income or that of fish caught. women like to dream that a leading man of TV to ask for a memorable night. If the problem that the wife brings concerns the relationship of you and you in fact does not feel able to discuss the l-on time." "You always hope that I do all the work of the house and take care of children at the same time. even that invariably end up falling by the timid and puny boy he met at the homes of friends. For example.

I was giving treatment to the ball to imagine what could be.the days.. so that the time and I lost a little late. He mumble "Thank you". your offense. said he had an excellent day out with friends and show what was purchased. women always seem to be moving his arms and using a variety of gestures and facial expressions when speaking. The humor of it was so strange that I thought he was punishing me for having arrived late. During the dinner. the emotions and feelings are what counts and tone of voice and body language are the main channels to communicate them. When we arrived. It was as if it were a hundred kilometers away. We spent the whole morning shopping. He is hurt and angry. the conversation was really difficult and not a little interesting. For women. In the eyes of men. His eyes seemed to say that everything was over between us. without giving me the slightest attention. including the phone. But for her the most important is not the offense committed. She communicates with a scale of five tones. Most messages are not verbal. I gave him a special gift . She was exaggerating his emotions and he.a beautiful pair of gold cufflinks. but decided to wait to get home to talk. Despite his ability to speak. That day Luke was football with friends and I have fun with some friends to assert that I did not see since we have decided to live together. All that she wants is that he values in front of friends. around eight hours. I started to think that something suspicious was that I had some time . The trip back was silent. I want a million . I knew it would be a romantic dinner and was excited. it may appear that the memory is real. Decided to have coffee at home. times and places where he eats the same. the woman also uses the body language to send and receive information. mad to see Luke. She sends much of what I mean by tone of voice. turned and was watching the TV. he was sitting. but one at a time.. I had some suspicions but did not mean anything yet. Mae West on men. then lunch and take coffee and we talk about a million things. The letter from Jessica shows as: "Me and Luke agreed to meet for dinner at our favorite restaurant. but men are able to identify only three. Now I knew we had a serious problem. The language of the body reveals the emotional state of women and is responsible for 60 to 80% of the impact of their conversation. Sorry for the delay. When I arrived. looking out the window. Saturday night. How a woman can fool yourself When the woman recall a scene in your head. challenging in terms of facts and data. because it does not consider that issue with the woman is decreased her. Luke went straight in the room. put them in the pocket and was sitting there without saying anything.

" What Luke was really thinking that night: "My team lost. Then cried to sleep. " I stopped with the stupid guy. while she continued to where he had stopped. and made love. Not resist to my caresses. even if internally you give some discount. I promised myself that the next day would face the situation and demand that he tell me the truth. This letter from a reader and shows a woman can feel the man: "My wife goes on whim indirect speech. my supervisor said . It is able to develop four or five different lines of thought simultaneously with ease.. trying to find the sequence of the conversation. as the man takes things at the foot of the letter. that bitch of his work beyond the mini-skirt! I saw the way she moves the chair every time he passes by it. with a tone mad. It took the largest iron if continue. She does this constantly. women seem to prefer to be making rounds to go right to the point. or be able to read her mind. Why women never go to the chase? For men. I will use it later.Debbie... will eventually disqualified!" Solution If you are a man. And I was also becoming clear who she was . is thinking it and not want to tell me not to hurt me. 'I do not want you to eat the salami. " 'What?' I was surprised.' replied my wife. Who is the other woman? He loves you or is just an adventure? Why men do not tell the truth? All I know is that it can no longer live like this . for example. This step is especially important when it comes to business. The woman. I went to bed.. I thought the end was near. not eat the salami. All your friends seem to follow his reasoning. while carrying a basket of laundry to the garage. while I turn to follow. as tenderly as possible.he should have another woman. where the exaggeration may be cause for much confusion and damage. it was in the kitchen and told me: 'In the team meeting today. Sometimes a man feels as if I had to guess what the woman wants. " I was working in the garage half hour. Luke came to bed and also surprised me want to snuggle. but to me and my two children that causes tremendous brain damage. not noticed how he looks at her with that stupid smile. But then he just turned and was sleeping. I was sitting there in the room with him about fifteen minutes until no more endure. I was so upset and stressed that hours spent awake. They must think I'm blind! Well. How can a woman be so smart as avoada when talking? Today. must realize that. help her to relativise without saying what she should think or say. she should try to be objective and limit the exaggeration. Never call your partner in "queen of the drama" not a correction in front of others. women understand the need to exaggerate the emotions and feelings and not take the literal meaning. Then. This apparently vague manner of speaking is known as indirect language. Yesterday. Ten minutes later. Listen to the truth of it.. moreover.was true . telling me what your supervisor told you. And he thinks I'm an idiot. 'she said not to eat the salami? " 'She's not you.. I said: 'Later I need to go to the hardware store. . and this time I put the clothes in the washing .

machine, in one move boxes, cleaned a shelf and made a list of arrangements for next week. When she went in the house said, without stopping what I was doing: 'Why? " 'Huh? Why what? "I asked. 'What do you need? " 'I do not need anything! What are you talking about? " 'If you do not need anything, that is going to the hardware store? "She asked, crossing his arms with that guy sulk in'0 - that-is-what-you-are-arming' that most men married knows. However, this matter was already closed for me for a long time, but for my wife is absolutely natural to resume a conversation for over an hour, if it finds that the matter was not resolved. I think she is convinced that I did not hear, and I'm half convinced that she is right. I try to understand later, after I finish my salami sandwich. Frustrated Raymond. "When a woman speaks, the language generally indirect USA. That means what it implies or infers that the things. When women use indirect language to each other, rarely there are problems - they have to understand the sensitivity real meaning of what is said. But this language can be disastrous when speaking with men, who use the direct language and interpret the words literally. As I said, the male brain evolved as a mechanism to focus single requirement of the hunt. The men find disconcerting the apparent lack of structure and purpose of female conversation and accuse women of not knowing what they are talking about. They respond saying things like: "After all, what are you talking about?", "What is the conclusion ", or the interrupt saying," We already talked about this a dozen times, "" How long it will last yet? "and" This conversation is very complicated and will not lead to nowhere. " The language in indirect business The use of indirect language and multiple tracks in business can be problematic for women because men have difficulty to follow the conversation. The men, in order to take decisions, must be submitted to ideas and information that is clear, logical and organized. Women may see their ideas and rejected the requests simply because your boss is not the slightest idea what she wants. Marie was a classic victim. After six months of negotiations, Marie had the chance to present the new advertising program for your company to a major customer of the financial industry. The audience was composed of eight men and four women. The account to be won worth two hundred thousand dollars and she only had thirty minutes to sell her story. It was the only chance of winning the title. On the day of presentation, so well tested that could sleep up to, Marie came properly dressed, with a number sober, hair done and makeup light and natural. But soon after starting, she noticed that the men looked as if they were not understood. Given the impression that they were judging negatively and losing interest in the presentation, she began to come by several shortcuts, adding unnecessary details and returning the slides already passed to show how they are related to each other. Encouraged the women with smiles, faces and vocal expressions like "Uh, uh," "Right!" and showing an interest. Encouraged by the female reaction, Marie began to turn his speech to them, unintentionally ignoring the men. The entire presentation has become an exercise in juggling. She finished and left, convinced that he had done a good job. and was eagerly awaiting the answer of the company.

This was the conversation of men executives during the coffee, after which Marie left: Director of Marketing: "You have some idea of what she was talking about?" Executive Director: "No. .. it confused me. Tell him to send the proposal in writing." Marie "multitrilhou" submission using indirect language with a group of men who wanted to hear a presentation objective, and lean in his logic. The executive met and became involved with questions, but no man wanted to raise their hand and admit that there was not understood. The woman needs to understand that man, when you can not follow what she says, prefer to pretend it means to go through stupid. Only it is not convinced. When a man can not keep up the discourse of business of a woman, he pretends to understand. The woman must use a direct language, with timetables, schedules, deadlines and conclusive answers. Should be direct with men in business by addressing an issue each time, with beginning, middle and end, without getting lost in shortcuts. Marie is still waiting for a response ...

Case study: Barbara and Adam Barbara went to shop with friends and wanted his son Adam, aged 16, clean the kitchen. "Adam, you can do to please clean the kitchen for me?" She asked. "Hum .. s ...", he growl in response. When she resumed the tour, the kitchen remained the same. Barbara was angry with her son. "But I would clean up before leaving at night", he whine. The problem was caused by the Barbara. She used the language indirect assumption that Adam would understand that when she returned home with her friends, the kitchen should be clean. She asked: "You want to clean the kitchen?" No boy "or" clean the kitchen. Adam can not. A direct request with a deadline, as "Adam, please clean the kitchen before I get back from shopping at noon, would have guaranteed a better result.

Children do not "want" to do household chores, they need to be directly instructed to do them.

That night, Barbara said to Adam: "I would like you to look for an hour before going to bed." Indirect dis-course that works with girls but with boys it is useless. The brain of the boy heard that his mother that he would do such a thing, but it really was not instructed to do it, does. Direct instruction with a time limit is the only realistic way of dealing with men. "Adam, I want you to go to your room and study for one hour. I will give you good-night before you pain-mir." Direct instructions leave little room for communication problems. Moreover, men enjoy clear instructions. Women fear that the direct language is too aggressive. You can even be, when used with another woman. With men, however, the direct speech is perfectly normal, because that is how they communicate. Solution For a woman: With men, seek to use only the direct discourse. This does not mean being aggressive. You may well say, calmly and affection: "Let's make an appointment to talk? Feel that we need solve some problems." And remember what we said before: when speaking of problems, makes clear that it is as you see them and feel, which does not mean they are exactly that. Do not extend to others and gives space to listen to what your partner has to say. Listen to the truth, not defend themselves or challenge immediately. In the beginning may seem difficult, but over time this practice will bring you the desired results. You'll have fewer misunderstandings with men of his life. For men: If a woman is talking and you have difficulty to follow your line of thinking, start listening, without offering solutions. If anything, give it a time limit: "I watch the news of seven, my good, but until then I'm all yours." Again: try to show you their own limits and their way of being. Once you have the precious chance to go is knowing better and respecting their differences. One of our readers sent us the Dictionary of Women Indirect terms that appear during their regular discussions. "Good" - The USA women at the end of this word in any discussion that you believe to be the reason but want the man shut up. "Five minutes - I mean, about half an hour. Equivalent to five minutes when the man is watching a soccer game and the woman asked for a favor. "Nothing" - means "something." "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling of the woman when she is willing to strangle the man. "Nothing" usually means the beginning

details are irrelevant." You should receive a "Go ahead" (raised eyebrows) in a few minutes. "Aah? I talked to his brother about what you walked by last night "and" Aah? You expect me to believe ". For men.She is not questioning the validity. is simply saying it does not believe a single word of what you say. "Nothing important . We were talking .. listened for about ten minutes making occasional grunt and said: "Yes. "That is what he said after ten years? What is great ".means that she wants to think before you return whatever you have... okay." The more you apologize. when a cool head. seasoned with a lot of "Aahs".The woman says that when you're really upset with you." "Aah?" ." he said.It is said in a tone of challenge. you will be a big trouble. "Go ahead" (with raised eyebrows) . "Who was that?" He asked his wife Debbie. For example. and the highest is the sarcastic "Really?" it. If you do not speak the truth will win in a final "OK".. shows a basic brain differences between men and women.At the beginning of a sentence." "So .means "I quit" or "Do what you want because I'm not there. At some point in the near future. The woman thinks when a man does not speak . "raised eyebrows" and an "audible gasp" final. He is nice . is great. what he said?" She asked.. the split detail each point of the conversation. which has dealt before. -Audible sigh means she thinks you an idiot and wonders why it is wasting time by discussing with you "Nothing.. a former schoolmate." He hung up and continued reading. wanting to know every detail. "Really?" . He answered. This situation. Why women want to know the smallest detail? Josh was reading the newspaper a night when the phone rang." "Go ahead" (with normal eyebrows) . "Thank you" . Means that you put the hurt and the next step will be an "audible sigh. "Robert? You do not see from the side! How is he?" "Good. "Please" . You offering to explain and receive a "Please. She will tell you that is" good "while playing their clothes through the window. she insisted. followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she says she will explain the reason in "five minutes"." Josh replied that defeated tone that men have when trying to read the newspaper. The woman is giving you the chance to invent an excuse or reason you have done what they have done. after the woman said "nothing. "Robert.. when it has plot is planned.of a discussion that will last "five minutes" and have undermined with the word "great"." Do not ask what's wrong after the "audible sigh." The next time it will allow you to make sex with her will "one day". And do not try to lie more to get an escape because" Go ahead "(raised eyebrows).. And he was asked him as an advocate of it. "All right" . "Aah" generally means that you have been caught in a lie." because it will say "Nothing. "Okay" is often used with "Fine" and in conjunction with "Go ahead" (raised eyebrows).is not an application is an offer for you to talk.

The group of friends was his insurance company. knowing that men and women are structurally different. I discussed what are good places to fish. It is not that women are curious . or family. look you give more details than usually and do not fidget with their pe1fun-tas. tell your partner that is willing to tell her what happened. feel that he is uninterested. You also know where the friends go on leave and the children are doing in school. After a social activity. their dreams and goals for the year.. which means knowing all the details and is actively interested by the situation of each group member and their families.. being precise and succinct.. they want to know how each person in your group and how they can help. Invite her for a long walk and let her talk. because for women the words are used to unite. the woman involved to secure for itself a narrow circle of friends who take care of it if your man does not resume the hunt or the war.much because he is not interested in it. . Things that seem important to you may be irrelevant to him. in reporting events from the others.. is that with the long-term survival in their minds. try to avoid the excess of detail. yes .just listen to it with genuine interest. And if. women know everything that each member of the group. The man thinks the woman speaks and other torments so many questions. when you talk to the woman. meets its limits. you should 'go to the chase. Remember once again: you need not worry about giving answers or provide solutions . need to understand that the woman needs to know details and personal information is programmed into your psyche and aims for the survival of relationships Therefore. already see the new red sports car from Bob. you will be a great year.their wives saying all the way home. do not feel offended. Men know what new "toys for boys" bought the other men.. His survival depended on their ability to connect to other women. Thus. and the latest jokes. Women are programmed to know all the details Defender of nests and offspring. especially in a business meeting. ah.. are doing. their health and status of their relationships.. ask if it is available. well. they do not cease to be . But you know very little about the personal life of any person in the group . Solution If you are a man.. Tell us what you feel and hear what he feels. At home. have already decided how to defeat terrorism and how England can win of Germany in football . And if you are female.

those that exist for us to live jun-ments without violence or aggression. His female instinct tells you that something is wrong. Why not put a bra or seeking a new plastic surgeon?" "Hi. Most lies are the first meetings. when all want to make the best. Adam. as often prefer the subtle distortion of the true facts and stark naked. no one notices it or he has a size suitable for your face. You must see the reason for your bad breath and why not cut the hair of the nose?" "This meeting is organized chatíssima you. Or that . Always tell the truth . Most of the lies that we are soft Lies. what would have happened? If you tell the exact words that go through your head. You distrust. you did not mention that the neighbor cat up and sometimes the smell is unbearable. There is no one interesting beer is hot.he prefers to hear him personality. as you may not have lied. but left to say or tell something that would have caused suffering to the person. What mind? Everybody lies. but you do not know what it is. action by which a person is to deliberately deceive another person.then quit running. Imagine the following situations: "Hi. Because their sinuses are fallen. but you know he has a picture of it in the drawer of the office. When you sold the car. When announced to sell the house. You would be wrong? Lie: noun. His girlfriend called in last minute canceling the meeting with you and an excuse that it seemed in tatters. If you have a nose too large.Chapter 8 "You think I am OUE -FAT CLOTHES WITH THIS? Why men lie? The new man in your life that really is all over with the former. Mary. You may have exaggerated a bit to complete a loan application form or request for jobs to provide the best. may have ceased to mention that leakage of engine oil to speak of the excellent conditions under which he was. Proverb If you had told the strict truth to all those who interacted in the last week. how people react? One thing is certain: you would be an insufferable person. do not want to hear the truth about him . Maybe you have not told her husband that found a former boyfriend and that his heart shot. probably would not have any friends and possibly more would be unemployed." When was the last time you lied? Well.

and strongly. half-light and soft music were not part of the normal lifestyle of Dennis and the usual topic of conversation was his sport. was impressed with the way Dennis get the scenario for the night: half-light. she realized that he was using to shave lotion that she said that he liked. he presented with a beautiful bouquet of flowers and led it to the table. On entering the dining room. Did you not concealed from the other lipo or prosthesis that did that to put the body shape? Ever not lied about your weight and your age? The list of large and small lies is endless. Everyone constantly lied to each other. and it is not easy to hide. All night. But in reality it is a complete fabrication of lies half on both sides to try to gain personal advantage. This whole assembly was a fine trick. looking at the eyes and encourage her to talk. Champagne. or is lying. was based on lies and deceptions. Free sex with no inhibitions. Sheelagh felt completely overwhelmed by the caring and sensitive man . makeup is carefully chose a sexy dress. glorious. But we can say that everything you said and did that night was in search of personal gain. lit with candles. is decorate.so different from others she met. It was the lights on the hair do hair. When he arrived. pants high heels. of course. Friends and lovers. And assumed that he felt exactly the same for her. Only enemies tell the truth. Parents lie to their children about sex and teenagers lie to their parents about sex. touch and smell . in short. both would deny.were excited in the highest degree. put a pair of long earrings and a bit of French perfume behind the ears. most people feel guilt. where it served a glass of champagne. obtaining a gain or avoid pain. They were talking a little about her work and the events of the day. Stephen King We lied for two reasons. remorse or discomfort when you lie. not to lie. In polite language. Research shows that 30-40% of patients get relief with placebos . With a little practice is to recognize the behavioral signs we learn to lie and decodes them. Sheelagh. Dennis wanted sex. hearing. To sit. Give the name you want . in turn. this scenario is called a romantic dinner with candlelight. is armed and behaved is thinking only in stimulating the sexual part of the brain of Dennis. All your senses .sight. smiling. Dennis listened attentively. Fortunately. Case study: Sheelagh and Dennis Sheelagh was asked by Dennis for dinner at his house and decided whim to impress you. caught in the web of obligation.are all lies. the chance to get to Sheelagh what I would be much greater.the group of friends who would just be reducing the lunch spicy brunette who works in the next office. a soft background music and fire burning. making it possible for a person know if the other is telling the truth. But if faced with this basic fact. And I was experienced enough to know that building the scenario the way they mount. you raise the level of testosterone.

The Lie benefit is used by people with the intention of helping. to get him out of the rival. it is not an uncommon political rumors spread that an opponent has his inappropriate sexual behavior. Margie War gave false information on the character of a man. sorry. C mo already said. a person who could not trust. Types of liars "Natural liars" are people who are fully aware and confident in their ability to deceive. cold and painful. and when he met a man who seemed loving. because the intention of the liar in this case is hurt or take advantage of victims in their own benefit. politicians and richies are the main targets of malicious lies. The journalists who offer the stories to newspapers and magazines sensational. Say. The fireman who rescues a child from a house on fire and mind to it saying that their parents are and is protecting it for some time to suffer an even greater trauma. the lying does not count as a lie. intelligent.embraced with a smile-tooth Margie. A month later. business and politics. he was a notorious playboy. In the blind. Similarly. This type of lie is an intentional act.placebos . heard. ra late because the damage was enormous.Types of lies There are four basic types of lies . was delighted. through another friend. parents who were themselves taught them to lie to prevent the . that a man cheating ex-girlfriend. To tell her friend Margie who was seeing this man. discovering that War was over. Invent the people intend to destroy the character and reputation of their victims. fun and is interested in her. for example. even if they are inverídicas also benefit as the rivals of those affected in the world art. for example. was single mother. A couple had their school and its reputation destroyed because they spread the rumor that sexually hurt the students. War. Nobody could blame for not warning Gerris Margie because Margie may not believe. This is the case of the German farmer who hid Jews from Nazis and denied to the authorities. The lies and malicious misconduct tend to be used as weapons in competitive situations. War then moved to avoid it.the Branda Lie. the Lie Branda is part of our social fabric and prevents us from ferirmos and insult each other with the truth hard. The malicious lie is the most dangerous. People in evidence as actors. he misappropriate information. this time by an act of concealment. The malicious lie has two main forms: concealment and falsification. but if War took the decision not to warn it would also be guilty of lying. and do as little. in fact. she gives him in the face of the neighborhood shopping center .technically lying. with results to be devastated and durable. The medical mind that the patient in the bed of death to raise her mood. not an accident. In general. making it the guarantor of a loan and giving it the default. When the truth was restored. Lie beneficial to the malicious lies and malicious lie. A known God. Malicious lies are motivated by revenge or to gain advantages. or as safe prescription drugs . sensitive. can spread the false information that its main competitor is in financial difficulties. He was lying heroically. In forging a inverídica information is presented as true. who. left little. One company.

Consequently. These poor creatures spend their lives indiscriminately telling the truth about everything. repeating that "I never lie. merchants. Some returned in this type of experience. and sexual interest. as the biggest talent is his ability to live a lie plausible enough time to its victim fall in love. Even smart women be fooled by a Romantic Liar. People say love of truth. even when they are evident to friends and family. She is blind to the lies or deny. offending and creating problems for everyone they know. Who minds the most? Most of the women has to say categorically that men lie more frequently than between them. however. but what they want to believe that it is like the truth. that men and women lie in equal Others . MAL Pancoast One of the most dangerous lie that a woman can find the way is the romantic. seems to learn nothing suffered. while others are masters in pose of lawyers. The offices of the therapists are full of intelligent women and full of resources Romantic victims of a Liar. because it would inevitably discovered. The most common objective of Romantic Liar is starting money. right? Why not do the same with a prospective partner? The advice here is: always check the history of any product you want to keep for long. The truth will free him. actors. sex and other benefits of women." annoying. they can cause enormous damage to women's emotional. Studies and experiments show. Romantic liars can appear anywhere and go in and chat on the Internet. Many natural liars take advantage of that ability in adulthood become criminal lawyers. the woman usually does not the slightest idea of what is happening. When a Romantic Liar enter into action. the only limit is the imagination. psychological and financial. The "liar non-natural" is the person who as a child. but will save you a far greater suffering in the long term. Romantic Some liars are specialists in hiding who are married. where most people mind and anything. It can be painful discover its faults.terrible punishment that would apply if told the truth. The emotional damage and loss of self-esteem often far beyond the material losses in these cases and may leave a woman emotionally marked: it will hardly believe any man. politicians and spies. If you lead the department of personnel of a large company would want to know as much as possible about a person applying for a position of trust. doctors and businessmen to raise the successful. For those liars. pretending to give in return love and emotion. but first it will screw you. vendors. was persuaded by the parents that it was impossible to lie.

" tell a lie as indirect "I do not know what to say." Sex is one of the constants of life of man . This is the main difference lies between male and female. which leaves the impression that lie more. I never trance with that woman. such as smoking two packs of cigarettes a day repeating that it is not biased and can stop whenever you want. and only will if forced to give their opinion. in his head. "Once and for all. "She is my friend. tend to lie to make others feel better. In an extreme case. The men lie to avoid discussion and to say. They do not lie anymore. a man is able to say it is vice-director of a multinational distribution of food when it has a business of supply of pizza at home. And in those cases where the man mind. but lie differently. no matter where or when. the man moves away to not have to lie.except for being really drunk. and men for doing good. Women of the m general. to defend themselves from charges of women. most women know very well that he is lying. men are caught much more frequently. lying also likely to leave you angry. He will say that the clothes are "interesting. And they say that sex with ex was better than with you.women lie as much as men. Due to heightening awareness for women's body language and vocal signs. If a man says that sex with the ex was a drug. "The sex with my ex was a drug. There is no reason to say that a person is not drunk ." or simply saying that lie loved." The man who betrayed a lie until well beyond any evidence because. What 's wrong with that?" He says she is a friend from childhood and . The woman said that a mind was wonderful clothes for someone. especially because it usually sounds "Eooo a xtô bêbadu. Common lies that men tell women "I'm not drunk" a lie is easy to get. The evidence is clear . The human mind to do good. They just continue to get caught. Even become aggressive.it is always good. The woman mind to make the man feel good. has nothing to gain by telling the truth.propose What varies is the content of the lie. Under the same circumstances. The main question of the men who do women lie is: "What it was good?" The most common form of lie is self-deception. even thinking that the person was like a sack of potatoes. it is highly likely that he is lying. Women lie to keep the relationship safe and have great difficulty in lying about their feelings. or convince themselves that a calorie dessert not affect the system. as if you were deeply offended.

she needs to tell me something very secret. fear. Try to disguise these tracks creates an emotional issue for the majority of us.in general if they can get along. because your brain is more developed for spatial tasks than for communication. the more difficult it is to lie because of the emotions involved. The closer a person. " Why not stick the lies? Most lies can be detected because. Most men do not think that guy has a dog required. she is sick and wants me to go visit her. Without these techniques of survival. She knows I tell if a dog is happy.who have no other interest in it.whether friendly or aggressive. These points are used to decode words. advise him or try to understand it. she is just needing a friend to talk. The purpose of man hunter was always reach its target accurately and not talk to him. Must be able to rapidly assess the attitude of people who are close to their nest . but will not have the slightest difficulty in lying to the enemy if captured in war. the woman is able to read the emotions of animals. Here is the key to duck-logical liar: he has no emotional connection with anyone. The man has on average 4 to 7 of those points. lie is easy. hunger. so that it can handle more . On May the lie and the more emotions involved. is another problem. Other variants include: "She is lesbian. she is going through a difficult situation and I want to help. she does not feel anything for me. sad. If the man wants to lie to a woman. in general. If you see or not these tracks. A husband has difficulty to lie to his wife if he really loves. without being caught. signs and changes in body tone. The man needs to reach its target accurately and not having a conversation with him deeper and full of meaning. Why women are so good at catching lies? Most men know how difficult it is to run even a small lie to a woman face to face. it is best to do so by telephone. The "hypersensitive" female has two goals: defend its territory against foreign and communicate with the children. she is vulnerable. But keep away from you and not to let her know. in danger. Most women have less difficulty to lie in the face of the man . As I said. sorrow and joy. therefore. disease. involve emotions that flashing red lights as verbal or visual. the woman's brain is organized into multiple tracks. angry or embarrassed. and respond to a large extent by what is known as "female intuition". The woman must have ability to look at their offspring and immediately identify the pain. For the same reasons. MRI scans of brain show that a woman has from 14 to 16 key points in the two hemispheres when communicating face to face. so do not want you to go eat with us. more tracks will be left by the liar.

showed that a significant number of people in the range 15 to 30 years is prone to lying.the subtle expressions. a survey of 2002. swindling. which explains not only why they are much more difficult to deceive. found that boys and girls from 8 to 11 years of age using different parts of their brains to identify faces and expressions Boys most use the right side. making them better able to understand the state of mind of people. in the forms and job interviews to get what they want. A third of students in each group was told to put lies prone in the curriculum vitae.is full of receptors for estrogen and grows more rapidly in girls than in boys. call her or send her an email. . about nine thousand adolescents and adults from all over the country. The woman's brain is programmed to read the signs when they happen. so many physical signs. Read the mouth and eyes of someone requires a more refined analysis than judging the emotions of the face piece.the part of the brain used in language and the storage and retrieval of memory . and 16% of secundaristas said that it had done at least once.092 adults. Found that this difference helps the girl to detect subtle changes of facial expressions. Sixty-one percent of secundaristas and 32% of students admitted to have circumvented the tests at least once in the previous year. for example. more prone to cheat. The FBI agents learn to analyze the "micro-expressions" . and colleagues from the State University of New York in Buffalo. For that use the slow motion. giving women greater ability to recover memories of things loaded with emotion. It is very difficult. Women not only have a greater ability to detect lies as they have greater ability to save them as ammunition for future discussions. There was. Why do women always remember? Erik Everhart. The man with the brain of single track. you are informed at once and let go. and the girls. while the men often forget their lies. plus the left.information at the same time. Advice for men Do not waste time telling a lie to a woman face to face. lasting from a fraction of a second. but also that they are often negotiating more perceptive than men. Young people are more prone to lying. The hippocampus . About 33% of secundaristas and 16% of students admitted having stolen goods from a shop on the previous year. This gives you the added advantage of knowing how to read the physical signs and hear what is being said while speaking. people who are lying. If it needs. In the United States. stealing The younger the person. fleeting. Women are very good at remembering what was the lie that those who counted and counted. that Bill Clinton lour for a split second before answering any question about Monica Lewinsky. 3. We search for 3243 students from secondary school.630 students and 2. assistant professor of psychology from East Carolina University. fraud and stealing.

"I can trouble for something I did?". "Great. people flatter you do not like to give excuses to justify a lack liars or cancel an appointment. Why the lies of friends and family hurt more . I avoid at all costs. The second reason. and adulthood are triggered by figures of authority. If people know that you are angry. for example. People find this for two reasons: first. "We're doing a competition. If you ask the children to tell you the truth. why did not the duty of the house. Unfortunately. "I never lied!" The boys were put to cry." replied the boys." The survey found that 83% of secundaristas and 61% of university lied to the parents during the previous year. The most disturbing was that 73% of those surveyed in the range 15 to 30 years said to believe that "most people cheat and lie when necessary to achieve what they want. because they will distort the truth to avoid reaction. it is a duty of kindness and just education." Based on this study. you got it!" Ambiguous messages about the lie that children receive has a major impact on their behavior when they grow up. never know what the other is really thinking or feeling about them. apologize: "Dad. Most parents do not realize. In such cases. but similar studies conducted across the West showed the same trend. these are symptoms of great moral crisis that rages in all societies. The father responds. The father is approaching heatedly discuss that next to a puppy. but the bribe the guard to watch traffic. then the sanctions because the truth is not in line with its expectations. that the severity of punishment is a major stimulus to lie and one of the main reasons that children grow as stubborn liars. replied the director. the teaching is lying to protect themselves. "Who gains from the biggest lie the dog. If you are a person who offends easily. When someone reacts to what is said so aggressive and emotional. is that the behavior of these people makes the others lie to them. we could say that Americans are a bunch of liars and fraudsters. "What is the reason for the fight?" Asks the father. as they themselves are liars usual." "That ugly thing!". It is different than being instructed to pretend to like the gifts that have won or give a kiss on the annoying aunt who will visit them. Many of the behavioral patterns are liars down during childhood and youth. The children hear from parents that honesty is the best result. 'No'. symptoms that reflect a real change of values in these societies. Asked the student. more likely. assume that all other people are. will say. too hurt or vengeful when he hears the truth. When all the known lie to you Some believe that we should not trust anyone and that the world is full of liars. The researchers found that the dishonesty and other unethical behaviors were less common among people over 30 years and lied that the two sexes in equal proportion. almost forcing the others to lie.

the more open to it. due to the stress associated with the lie. analyzing the words of suspects who had alibis false. generally the third response is not accurate and the story seems a little different. but that person can be eliminated from our lives. they instinctively seek to distance itself from them. in principle." you instinctively distrust most of what she said "My car broke and I could not call you because the phone's battery was weak..The more intimate the relationship. Then give a break to the suspect to let him think that made it.. the used car salesman will lie to us. His script is perfectly decorated and rarely does it wrong. sister or child. Who does one turn is two If you think a person is lying. Ask liar to repeat what you think is a lie. wife. but tends to be forgiven. They prefer to say "I do not trance with that woman" than "I do not trance with Monica. the more we trust it. father. The FBI recently discovered this valuable clue. at least for a time. because the closer the person. just leaving to find her. As he does not expect this repeteco and is more relaxed. cause more suffering to a lie. we surprised him with it and can choose to not see him ever again. I i in my brother's house after breakfast and then . He tested his mind many times in the head and is generally able to perform without error. Good liars are able to make a second version identical." Liars do not hesitate Ask a person what she did last weekend and she will probably think a bit before saying something like: "Ah . " To recall the events of the day. Clues to unmask a liar How people feel uncomfortable with the lie. In the end she will betray an excess of confidence in the performance.. because the feeling of betrayal is more pro-fund and you do not want to remove this person from your life. people usually stop and change direction to try to put things in order. How to read between the what is said .. The liars leave the lies out of its references to themselves and avoided using the word "I". A malicious lie told by her husband.. At the other extreme. sister or child hurts more than told by an acquaintance. because the person will be our brother... aah . Consider the example of a person who combines is with you and not displayed. But the habitual liar not hesitate or forget. Furthermore. then ask them to repeat a third time. mother. we know that. A lie told by a brother. I saw my brother after lunch. If later the demand and it says "My car broke down and had no cell battery. no. the liar's voice becomes more acute. if I act like every word. brother or sister hurts deeper. for that before-I had to go get my car in the workshop . The lie of a close friend also hurt." The liars also avoid using the name of the person involved in the lie.

"Only U.S. Here is a list of terms commonly used by people who want to convince them that speak the truth. "Only" and "only" The words "only" just "are used to minimize the meaning of words" which are then to relieve the guilt of the speaker or p ra blaming the other for any unpleasant consequence.00 for entry" is used to convince the consumer that the price is insignificant. indicating that the person may be trying to hide the truth or convince you of an emotion that she does not feel. but in the end thought that it was untrue. you will do what I want.S." "I'm not kidding" and "I would lie to you?" are other versions. "I only take five minutes of your time" is the USA. $ 9. She argued. To feel that you are not believing it. For example: "Frankly. . but who knows you believe?". Unconsciously do this by introducing a true statement. not a rule. not mean that it will not believe what is being narrated.95" and "Only U. he makes his observation with a "Trust me. honest. But who has not always meant well. There are people who exclaim "Bullshit!" when they hear a fact which seems extraordinary. try not to eliminate them is liable to generate mistrust. trustworthy and decent credit need not convince anyone of it. "You understand?" or "Do you understand?" at the end of the sentence are irritating mannerisms. which will sound false. Who is being honest. some honest people have the habit of using those words repeatedly. "sincere" and "frankly" indicate that the speaker should be considerably less. that phrase alone is not evidence of dishonesty: it must be interpreted in its context. Do you lack the confidence to say you feel? Are you trying to fool? Or are you wanting to escape from their responsibilities? Of course. A friend was my ex-beats the classroom at the college to respond with "Bullshit!" the statement of professor of religious sciences that had more than a thousand shrines where the Virgin Mary operated miracles. $ 40. or what he is saying is not worthy of credit. saying that was just expressing surprise. If the person says "You give me five minutes?" and you agree.You already talked with someone who seems less convincing as this? Examine some common words and phrases. it is more clear that a contract gives you the possibility to interrupt the conversation past the time stipulated. because they give the impression that the listener is unable. but should pay attention when you hear "just" and "only". Pay attention to your speech to see if you USA often these words and. honest and sincere than states and can be sign that he is lying. Remember. however. I love you. who will hire you for a full hour. "Believe in what I am telling you" can mean "If I can make you believe me. if so. "I love you" is easier to believe than "Honestly." When you hear someone say "only" and "only" should think about why the person tries to minimize the importance of what you're saying. this is the best I can offer you" is sometimes translated as "might not be the best that I have to offer. "I am just a human being" is the motto of those who do not want to take responsibility for their mistakes. The words "honesty"." And no woman believes the man who says "Just a friend. and oblige him to answer "I" to every request." The force with which the person who says "Trust me" try to convince the other is proportional to the size of the bait." "Without doubt" gives reason to doubt and "Without a doubt" is definitely a warning sign. However. "I just wanted to say I love you" mask the need for love is shy to say "I love you. when in reality they want to force you to believe what they are saying.

." . Answers like these are given when the person is calling and not to respond directly to a question. The polygraph. while honest people may be intimidated and lied to eventually classified as roses.."To be absolutely frank / honest / honest with you. because they have the brain less .." . except when determined by the judge."Trust me. When a person speaks the truth. Getting lie with the computer The progress of technology of computer generated three interesting ways to detect liars. tension causes a tightening in the vocal chords that makes screechy voice and can increase its speed and volume." . breathing and perspiration. Studies show that 70% of the amount of voice crotch when lying. speaking more slowly and reduces the volume of voice. This is most noticeable in men than in women. The polygraph is not accepted as evidence in court. You may recognize some of these phrases: . Liars experienced less anxiety show that beginners and are sometimes able to pass the test of the polygraph." ."Frankly Speaking." It can also be a matter of uncertainty. Conversely. speed and volume. a lie is detected by the physiological effects that are manifested as the increase or decrease in heart rate. They live their values in a way that is visible and that gives them credibility. These machines can now be seen in programs of the TV interviews in which the American guests also tend to prove the guilt. their speech tends to be dotted with uhms. There are also physiological differences between people that may be source of errors in the polygraph test. AHS."As a member of . Paying attention to vocal tracks There are three characteristics of voice capable of delivering a liar . but the fact is that people of character do not need live testing its virtues."Why would I lie?" . have received or honor the traditions of his family to convince you of their honesty."I have no reason to lie. and hem breaks because there was not enough time to test the lie. When the person is in a situation of stress. the pulse and the relative volume of blood is the most famous of lie detector. When the person is wanting to cheat." ."I never I would be such a thing. When a person is caught distorting the truth. which measures the breathing apparatus."You think I would be able to do such a thing?" Some people try to use the organization to which they belong. Recent studies show that the accuracy of the new computerized polygraph is close to 100%."I'm telling you the truth. innocence or the fidelity of their partners."I do not belong to this type of people.height." . no change occurs in these indicators. the liar that calculates the lie to ensure their effectiveness." . blood pressure. ERS.

Mothers them said "I know you're lying . exaggerate or lie. pull the ear. is usually rapid and symmetrical . "believe me". Is in the eye You probably learned to believe the liar never looks in the eyes. When it comes to lie in general at least three signs. When the person mumble a reply to a question directly. without displaying too many signs of the stress. irritation or fatigue. it is reasonable to assume that you are listening to a lie. take your fingers to rub the nose or mouth. pulling the ear and bring the hand to the neck. Smile Men and women smile the same way as when they lie and the truth. When people try to show that they do not feel emotions. however. This is true for children educated in Western culture and European. Both men and women take much to hand to the face when in doubt.the left side of the face mirrors the right side. like politicians and religious fanatics who. Keep in mind that they are not satisfied that the person is lying. your facial expressions are asymmetric. In the book. and others. "to be honest. most of the time. may be itching. The male gestures are easier to understand because they are more extensive and frequent: rubbing eyes and nose. feel insecure. scratches his neck. If someone rub your eyes. it does not show signs of fraud. your smile is crooked means. suspicious. discussing the matter extensively. In other words. but there are some signs you can see when someone is lying. Interpreting body language In our book The Language of the Body body showed signs that represent more than 60% of the messages exchanged between people. Interpret the whole Never interpret a gesture alone. and it is likely to be hiding something. But most of the liars give many signs. When someone rub the eye. There was. but there is something she is not saying.equipped to control the language. for example. they believe their lies. There are people who lie comfortably. The smile that accompanies a true statement. nothing guarantees that lying. that Bill Clinton touched his nose and face 26 times when answered questions about Monica Lewinsky before the grand jury. they show that it is experiencing some kind of stress. If it touches the face several times and at the same time says "trust me". The fake smile is generally slow and asymmetric.

Not maintain eye contact. It is the forced smile used by both sexes for fake sincerity. Demonstrate warmth and laughter too. Hide your hands. Never say what you really know . The brain tries to prevent the face of information. 2. Give it an "exit". His eyes fitam the void. It is important to note if s eyes blink more often . Use the technique of self: "I felt a lack of your call. Do not show surprise or amazement. but is a strong evidence of cheating. This observation is not without errors. Sit in the chair higher. A liar think doing so is not lying. Signs that denounce the lie in men 1. If you react negatively or with much emphasis. Deepening the pupils 6. 9. Do not accuse. The invading his personal space. Descruze legs. Crossing your arms or legs. trigger the right side of the brain and look to the left. Men find it easier to lie with your hands in your pockets." In cultures where maintaining prolonged eye contact is considered an ill-educated attitude and aggressive. 3. but record the suffering that their attitude question to you. skillful liars look to the left. Mispronounce or mumble the words. Stay calm. The deft. 4. 10. 8. 7. and when invented a story. . 4. 3. Always leave an exit for him to go back and tell the truth. he will feel uncomfortable. Try making it easy to tell the truth. Add involuntary facial movements. recalled when a real event. and a signal is almost impossible to disguise. Liars just want to finish with the conversation.a sign of growing tension and dryness of the eyeball. without further difficulty. because it shows which part of the brain they are using. 5. In addition. If you get close. It is a subtle form of intimidation. He wants to make you like it to believe it. The direction where to move the eye of the person when it is a question you can also help you identify a liar. If the room has a door." In the latter case. Mimic the posture and his movement to establish a communication and make it more difficult for him to lie to you. 6. 5.because you can not look in my eyes. Aggressive questions as "Why do not you call me?" and "Are you seeing anyone?" may cause the liar is to secure its position and not improve anything in your relationship with him. Pretend not to hear or say that law did not understand what he said. 2." "I am sad when I think you're seeing another woman. As not being a victim of lies 1. open your arms and tilt it back. resulting in forced eye contact. Shake your head indicating "no" when they answered "yes" and vice versa. trigger the left side of the brain and generally look to the right. 9. Smile with the lips closed. "Open up" to the truth. you lose the chance to be knowing the truth. Talk soon.does not show that you know they're lying. 7. is where it will look. it is possible to continue denying it. It is an instinct for defense. this does not apply. In simple terms. 8. experienced liars can maintain eye contact when they lie. look liars left to right.

And that is something that men and women will never understand. Give him one last chance. we asked our readers to send us the 9 phrases that men hear when they hide what they really want: dictionary of language patterns of male The men never understand women and women will never understand men. Ignore the lie and say "What can we do that does not happen more?". Finally. . If he thinks you miss the hook. the more likely it is to confess everything and.10. at worst. to find a solution to not having to resort to lying again.

how he reacts to you? This is something that every woman thinks: what is the first impression of a man when he says the first time? Most women want to know to what extent are attractive to men. 6. b. appearance and presentation. less than 65%. Terninho a stylish and well cut. based on responses from the male brain to certain forms. Modern in short skirts and high heels to show the legs. This is a test to see how a man to evaluate the primeiva finding the time or were looking at his picture. colors. b. but with elegance. but elegant. how you dress for the man trying to impress? a.Chapter 9 THE TESTING OF WOMEN'S SEXUAL APPEAL How do you make people work? Take the test When the eyes of a man found the trellis in a room. which would you prefer? a. not too flashy. When you are chatting with an attractive man that stops leg bigwig. 2. If you could buy a new clothes regardless of price. c. The influence of personality traits on their attraction to men will be discussed later. 5. Their ratio is: a. with comfortable shoes. Heavy. A long and undulating clothes that cover all problem areas. At the first meeting. It is a guide to the impact that you cause or ceases to cause a man when he sees for the first time. For example. sizes. b. b. with and without straps. Measure your waist and hips and calculate the proportion waist / hip dividing the waist by the hip. proportions. c. A short clothes. 3. Tiny shoes. 1. With trousers or a long skirt. c. The test relates only to their physical shape. 65 to 80%. c. Which of the following attributes best describe your body? a. Casual. b. Fashion shoes with medium heel. c. what is your attitude? . High heels. more than 80%. the proportion is 75%. 4. Created then this test to give you an idea of how they look. or jump down. Athletic / strong. textures and female body language signals. What type of shoe predominates in your wardrobe? a. Skinny / straight. fair and low-necked to let that show their physical gifts. if your waist measures 75cm and 100cm his hip.

b. If Picasso was painting you would like? a. Colors and styles are in fashion. Curvilinear. Back arched. thin or thin. I use much makeup. With a bra to lift the breasts and let the shows the neckline. Natural. hips recline. Smooth. 14. the rear tilt and throwing a kiss to the camera. 13 . c. as he seems? a. hands on hips and lips exposed. Heavy load. b. b. Long. Try to make it sit so that it can not see his body. c. Average length and thickness. c. lean hips and the caress your body to draw attention to it. Looking over the shoulder. Move the hair. Protuberans / round. Infant / big eyes. Plump. Lean / angulosa / muscular. If you were invited to pose for Vogue. Round / in the form of a peach. If you ask a stranger to describe your ass. c. say: a. 7. Describe your makeup: a. regardless of day or hour to get the best appearance possible. With loose clothes that do not give any idea of the body that is underneath. c. c. How you dress for the evening out with friends? a. 12. What use . 10. 15. Elegant / powerful features. b. b. Short. thin or athletic. Inclined to the front. 8. 11. which would pose? a.a. Full. but sincere. When you pass your hand in the stomach. b. With an outfit just to highlight the silhouette. My face is my blade. b. is the language on the lips. which he say? a. Stay near him with the legs unfolded. Compact / muscular.How would you describe the your neck? a. b. If your friends would describe her face. c. 9. b. Soft / smooth. thick and strong. c. with hair pulled to the top of the head. You're going to a dinner in the light of candles and want to be sexy. c.

Elegant Your Score Now calculate your score and see where you are classified in terms of its appearance shows that of their sexuality. c. Bright red. How would you describe your appearance a. modify that image. they are immediately gaff. b. Earrings of pearls and small diamonds. The color of fashion. Pedestrians stop to work to work and . You're getting dressed to go to the Oscar party. Your Hair is a. 17. c. You choose: a. As a cartoonist designer? a. c. Earrings with stones of medium size and pretty. Carefree b. c. Neutral / natural color. Middle c. Always remember to two things: their personality traits may. As a man describe his eyes? a.Comprido b. Large / child. Small / tight. 19. Greater. b. Medium. 18. 100 points or more: The goddess of sex When the men see. b. You can use the earrings you want. Almonds. Small as a button. in the medium term. Sexy c.lipstick? a. Long before diamonds. 16. Look at his nose in the mirror. And you can improve your appearance. b. Short 20.

knowing that so attract a greater number of men and have more chance to choose? The next chapter will show you how to become more attractive and why most men babam by women with lower QLS and not look twice at you. Means that you are reasonably successful in making men feel attracted to you at first. know that if we really invest in their physical appearance. at least in principle. Men like to see it and deal. Why not work with it . Men feel women inevitably attracted by clear signs. You might say that is not interested in men who are no longer hypnotize by physical appearance. will have even more spectacular results. You can improve your presentation without compromising their beliefs. The problem. If you got 78 to 99 points.whistles when you pass. for example. will make you feel more beautiful and healthy and give you a great pleasure to live. But why not invest in their physical as well as invest in the intellect? Both of them are its aspects. . The next chapter will show you the reason for their success and how to further improve its score. If received 66 to 78. You are really an expert in the game of her sexuality and never missing program. Sign in to an academy to improve the form. Less than 65 points: Let's whim? You probably believe that personality is more important than appearance. become more attractive to men. 66 to 99 points: Miss Elegance Most women are in this squad. and it is being right. just needs some work areas to achieve what men want.to improve their appearance. however.whatever you dislike . is that even the most sensitive men and intelectualizados are at the mercy of biology. The attraction that you will hold on men is just one extra! You can also disguise their physical imperfections dressed up in a way that emphasized their strengths.

the physical appearance affects our ability to attract and keep a partner. Like it or not. who met at work. no makeup and the hair drained. People who know are up to 90% of their opinion about us in the first four minutes and assess whether we are desirable in less than ten seconds. Daniel decided to confront the situation and told Kim how she felt. Daniel could not explain his feelings and was blaming it for having touched on the subject. The ancestral biological signs of gender that we explain the working of the subconscious level. But understanding how the process of attracting and employing some simple strategies in your favor. you can easily become more captivating. while at home was a tragedy. This behavior he said he and his friends were not important. money and energy. and Daniel was leaving to look for her to do sex. Daniel liked to see Kim always went out together when stowed and thought that her appearance was a clear signal that he had made the right choice. do not shave and wore clothes that for Daniel. For the first time. What is more powerful. In his office. She said they liked to wear for him and especially how he looked when she arrived. And found that the husband was much more frivolous than she imagined. Kim left like her mother. It boiled inside. There seemed more care with the look inside. in addition to raising their self-esteem. began to show cracks in the marriage and he started to notice other women. Four years after the marriage. did not understand why he could not love her the way she was.Chapter 10 OR AND MAKES THE EYES OF MEN JUMP The power of female sexual attraction Case Study: Kim and Daniel Kim and Daniel were already leaving a year and had decided to marry. Daniel has been living with Kim and Jade. Kim changed. do not deserve any effort on her part. Daniel thought that maybe she was going through a difficult period at work and once again take care. She was angry. Left to makeup. there are patterns of behavior constructed by the waste needs of our ancestors. therefore: beauty and physical attraction and personality or . she always was in slippers and bathrobe. As men are visual creatures stimulated by the appearance of Kim was a discouragement. which. This is a line of evolutionary psychology that says that in the brain of each of us. In this chapter we will examine the ingredients that make men and women desirable and attractive to each other. That does not mean you can not succeed with the opposite sex because it is not equal to Cameron Diaz or Brad Pitt. which is why we have to react to them. and when left with friends. Kim now is related to a group of women who think men are all us idiots. At home after work. Kim felt that now was as a married woman need not impress anyone and most especially if store was loss of time. Both loved the relationship and thought that the other was the ideal partner. But Kim soon began to neglect when left with friends. Six months later. contrasted with the appearance of Kim. where all were well stowed and makeup and flirting with him. But began to irritate the fact that she is working to produce.

when the woman displays the skills that allow you to pass their genes to the next generation. kindness and talent.intelligence? They will be examined in this chapter. This explains why many women tend to feel attracted by older men. and Longo Makhija) show that we automatically assign positive traits such as honesty. without even know it. Subsequent research revealed that 73% of voters denied categorically that may have been influenced by the appearance of the candidate and only one in eight voters are willing to at least consider this. The theory of beauty Every person emits signals. tangible and intangible. You can choose to become attractive. Analyzing the results of Canadian federal elections of 1976. is an attractive man who is presented as biologically able to provide you with food and safety during the creation of children. . The evolution shaped our brains so that the good appearance is a sign of healthy person and relatively free of diseases. For men. in turn. This means that they decided their vote on a subconscious level. higher wages. The biological purpose of beauty is attracting for breeding purposes. intelligence. but like it or not. the subtext biological basics. the attraction occurs in the biological. the University of Toronto found that attractive candidates received a number of votes in two and a half times larger than the non attractive. Attractive to people better jobs. And to be as objective as possible. Tell a person that she is beautiful or attractive is to say. Bill CIinton is proof. For a woman. that make it desirable to the potential partner. put aside the theories of romantic love. change things. What the science says Polls (Eagly. the answers to these early signs of attraction are programmed in the brain. Messages are encoded and sent to tell others whether we are or not suitable for their purposes. have more credibility and even more permission to break the rules than their less attractive correlative. you want to have sex with her. the ideas about what is politically correct and personal subtleties. Perhaps it is politically correct deny the impact of attractiveness in our decisions. In both sexes. Beauty and sexual attraction is essentially the same thing: the original meaning of the paplowing "beautiful" is "sexually stimulating". the people of good appearance. The good news is that we have control over many of the determinants of our appearance and we can if we want. Women like older men because they have more experience and more access to resources. the evidence still saying that our brains are programmed to respond to the physical appearance of the other. Ashmore. without being aware of it.

the criteria for male choice of a long term partner are not the same. Sexy mouth 3. however. Keep in mind that we are considering only the physical and geographical characteristics of the body. is something very different. Chinese Proverb What makes a man attractive to a woman. It is understood that the body of women has evolved as a permanent sexual signaling system. researchers from Massachusetts General Hospital found that these images activate the same parts of the brain that cocaine and cash. even politically correct in the twentieth century. almost all studies on the attraction reached the same conclusions that came painters. Factors that drive men in order of priority 1. but as you see. Based on these results. Speaks to the things we pursue in attracting someone before you hear the person talk or even to know who is. Athletic silhouette 2. we discuss the non-physical factors related to the choice of our partners. In the next two chapters you will know the results of 23 studies and experiments showing what men consider attractive in the body of the woman and vice versa. his face lightly colored and an air of delicacy and fragility. developed to attract the attention of man. We will examine it further. Today the look emphasizes youth and vigor: the competition of beauty were created exclusively to promote an image that reflects the attractiveness of women's health. Sick sinus . At the end of this chapter. poets and writers in the last six thousand years: the body and appearance of women have more attractive on men than their intelligence and capacities.which encourages more men The "point" considered the most appropriate for the western woman in the nineteenth century was a pale complexion. classify each part of the body in a ranking of attractiveness and explain the reason for his influence.The woman's body . To display photographs of women "beautiful" to heterosexual men. a concubine for her beauty. In the last sixty years. as if assessing a potential partner through a photograph. The wife is chosen for his virtue. The man of the twenty-first century or the same immediate things a woman as their ancestors.

All research shows that men like breasts of all types and sizes. Long hair 9. Stimulating 1: athletic silhouette the first item in the list of men is the women's athletic silhouette. was 44 and had dummy and thick legs. use it to extend its advantage. Elongated neck Men prefer to look the brain because most of them see better than thought. have to attract the male that approached the front. A strong and well formed body is a sign of health and ability to tip in-breed. the breasts become larger.sexual signaling. Most of the time the breasts of human females are the one clear purpose .4. Buttocks hemispheric 7. Long legs 5. When people went to four. and the mothers. to escape the danger and to defend the nest if necessary. Small nose 10. Lack of tummy 11. Most men prefer a woman more fleshy than the lean. Vulva arqueada 13. giving you a rounded form and has no relationship to milk production. females that covered the back. dark-brown. Whether they are the size of watermelons appear limõezinhos or . Arched back 12. Why men have difficulty maintaining eye contact? Because the breasts are not eyes. Since humans began walking upright. however. Stimulant 3: Seios tired The breasts of women at the peak of their sexual and reproductive capacity . were round and fleshy buttocks that played the leading role in the attraction of males. Dresses sutiãs cleavages and raise the breasts emphasize the signal to create a groove that mimics the buttocks of women vis-tas behind. Few women know that Marilyn Monroe. Some women are horrified when they are submitted to the meaning of that groove. Eyes attractive 8.most men are passionately interested in them and are crazy for a groove.from eighteen to twenty-five years of age . Others. . because fat is an extra helping of breastfeeding successful. Are those that appear in the center pages of men's magazines and in ads that exploit the fri-appeal. Round hips / waist fine 6.are the favorite of men. one of the biggest sex symbols of the world. The nipples of women without children are pink. Most of the breast consists of fat.

Perhaps this is an important lesson for parents: lock their daughters the fourteenth to eighteenth day after the menstruation! Stimulating 5: Round Tables / Cintura fina For centuries women have used every kind of contraption to tighten the belt with the aim of obtaining a per-made for hourglass. Men like women who wear high heels: they enhance the sexual profile of women stretching them to the legs. The more legs you can see the man and the more long-gas they are the sexiest woman you think. compression of organs. came to suffer deformities of the chest wall. breathing problems. Most women unconsciously understand the dynamics behind the legs extralongas and since teenagers. women increased the size of the hips and buttocks with pannier to flag potential getter. thus demonstrating their readiness for pregnancy and procreation. For men. But when the girl reaches puberty and the hormones begin to flow on his body and transforming her into women. tilt the buttocks. That is why long legs have always been associated with a powerful sexuality. learn quickly how the thing works. Roseanne Stimulating 6: Buttocks hemispheric . a step to stardom. The form that was chosen to round. In search of femininity irresistible. Babies born with legs cur-ing for body size. I decided to get in shape. reducing their feet and pushing the pelvis forward. women unconsciously choose more revealing dresses and high heels. Even in the cold days. reports. a stairway to heaven. wear high heels and short dresses to give the impression that they have longer legs. the article by fri-appeal more efficient market. Studies have shown that the length of dresses and height of jumps varies with the menstrual cycle. When ovulado. Later adopted the corset to accentuate the hips and flatten the belly. In the nineteenth century. Never heard a man tell a woman she has beautiful long arms. For a woman. The principle behind the legs of women as sexual sign is yes. and this proportion does not change much in small children. because the attention is attracted to the area where the right leg and left it encountered tram. Legs extralongas become powerful non-verbal signs to tell the men that she is sexually maturing and is already able to procreate.Stimulating 4: Long Legs The vision of a woman with legs that seem to end in the axillae in men leaves a lasting impression. the legs grow rapidly. The high heels are. the arched back. by far. pies. abortions and surgical extraction of ribs.

usually accumulate as men. showing them to groups of men asked to classify them in terms of attractiveness. Throughout the story. women had to keep the whole body covered in public. led a test that used images of women beneath the weight above the weight and normal weight. High heels were with the woman hunch. In the groups below and above the weight. The mother-nature usually deposit the excess fat away from vital organs. Women whose ratio exceeds 100% arouse little interest. Hindquarters protruding is an ancient sign of female sexuality so revered in Greece that a temple was built in honor of Aphrodite Calipígia. buttocks cram the quaver and the floor. They start to lose interest when the proportion exceeds 80% or is less than 70%. ie your waist measured 70% of your hip. Women who already have a hysterectomy. young women began to make plastics and liposuction to reduce the size of the buttocks. Sculptures and paintings of the Stone Age abound in images of women with large. Stimulating 10: Absence of belly Women have a more rounded belly as men.The men believe the buttocks round. a formation known as esteatopigia. "the goddess of beautiful buttocks." In the nineteenth century. like to women curvilinear. The greater part than the back of the woman is closer to that of man. went out of fashion in the second half of the twentieth century. and no belly is a clear sign of non-pregnancyboth for and willingness to male suitors. Marilyn Monroe cut two centimeters of the left heel of his shoe to accentuate your grinder." Stimulants 11 and 12: back arched and vulva Curves and arches indicate femininity and fertility. The buttocks of women store large quantities of fat to use in feeding and food reserves in difficult times. wider. The additional bending of the buttocks and back tilt pushes the breasts forward. this pro-portion always showed a great ability to catch the attention of men. peach-shaped. 'why there is no fat around the heart. women with waist thinner were the favorite. When the excessive fat. The jeans also became popular because it accentuated the buttocks and give them a look round and firm. a non-verbal indicator of low fertility. even when the weight of women was very large. That is why the academies and salons of yoga around the world is full of women doing abdominal exercises to get the perfect stomach type "table of my house. to show accumulation of fat around the uterus and ovaries. protruding rear. the more attractive. The most remarkable discovery was that experience that men have to share waist / hip 70% the highest score. deposits of fat around the belly. brain and testicles. Men around the world. masculinity. evolutionary psychologist at the University of Texas. Professor Devendra Singh. the lower. so similar to the hump of the camel. Young people who wanted to capture the attention of men recreate the appearance of a large back-ro wearing pannier. The women of normal weight with pro-hip-waist portion around 70% were the most attractive. geo-metric shapes and angles. Ask any woman to assume a vertical posture and sexy you'll find is the preferred . therefore. which invariably attracted the attention of men. associated with neglect and poor health. and lumbar spine more arched. which can still be seen in some tribes of southern Africa. have not most of the reproductive organs. A woman with healthy and fully capable of giving birth has a waist-hip ratio of 70%.

The woman's face is a screen on which a daily basis it paints a picture of me before her. that bond still . thick and strong to protect them from breaks during the hunts and battles. As the face attracts Our interest in human faces attractive is something that seems to be part of our psychology and does not depend on cultural backgrounds. For thousands of years.red. This is known as "eco genital". this often cause great anxiety with regard to aging. with both arms supported them to occupy more space and increase the chance to draw attention. It is always the favorite color of every woman who poses for sexual symbol. Exciting 2: Boca sensual Humans are the only press that these are the lips on the outside of the mouth. That made the neck longer and thin women a powerful sign of differentiation between the sexes that men like to kiss and see adorned in jewels and cartoonists exaggerate to emphasize the femininity. the formula is clear . embrace and protect. The zoologists believe that the woman's lips moved as mirror of his genitals. The lipstick. invented the first beauty salon in six thousand years ago.children should have a touch. and state of sexual arousal. For women. protruding apples. was used by Egyptians as an eco genital permanent. is also expanding and is filled with blood. The base gives the skin a uniform appearance and no stains that signals youth. Look at how many these days use plastic surgery to try to conserve or restore the youthful look. And to the face of a woman is generally classified as "beautiful". Stimulating 13: Neck elongated the neck structures evolved in males as short.position of the hook-up back and quaver of the hips. because they have the same size and thickness. the size of the ear it was the indicator of sensuality. delicate jaws. The blush is to recreate that effect. These signals cause reactions in parental brains of men and a powerful desire to touch. Above all. PICASSO The excitement of women's sexuality can cause a flushing in the capillarity of its sides. men like a grin and an air vulnerable. The women's favorite features are the small faces with short jaws. All races prefer faces that emerged ability to play healthy. Flesh lips and big eyes on the size of the face. good health and good genes. a reaction that sends powerful signals to men and that observers began to develop when we began to walk upright. And always had a single color . Men like their women to wear lipstick and makeup by artificially give the signal that they are interested or feel excited for them. The bright red lipstick is one of the main signs that a sexual woman can use. ask any woman to be on foot and make a sexy pose. If you do not believe.

in 1920.exists in parts of Africa and in Borneo.is this the real reason for the greater success of blondes? The blond hair is also a powerful visual indicator of women's youth: it darkens after she gives birth. The modern woman gets the same effect using long pending. Will never see a female model with a large nose. The blondes have 140 thousand yarn hair. if their pupils dilate and mascara. Eyes that look great on the lower face in men inspire feelings of security. creating characters of large eyes and small nose to win the hearts of your audience. The feminists might say that these are good reasons not to use cosmetics or earrings. a woman who wants to be taken seriously in the workplace should use less eye makeup and lipsticks colors more subtle. large eyes are considered attractive. most men give their sensuality. the industry of perfumery and cosmetics reached a total value of more than 50 trillion dollars a year . Stimulating 8: long hair If the person never cut his hair. among the tribes Kelabit and Kenyah. the cute 110 thousand and 90 thousand redheads.all with the purpose of creating the illusion of sexual facial signs. We did a survey with 5. asking them what kind of hair seemed more . which immediately attracts the . the men show a preference for women of color and clear eyes. Blond-haired women have a higher level of estrogen that cute. as some women believe to be ugly without makeup and use it as a mask to hide and not as an aid to make their faces more seductive and mysterious. Women began to use modern cosmetic when. Contact lenses give the illusion that the woman's eyes are shining and the dilated pupils. Over you-do. Barbie and Minnie Mouse have small nose. They interpret as a sign of fertility. Bambi. Stimulating 7: Eyes attractive In almost all countries. Today. The plastic surgeons usually modify the nostrils to form an angle of 35-40 degrees to the face.214 British men. and the blondes are the genuine public also laurels. Excesses may send a wrong impression to customers and cause of male rivalry in female clients. eye liner and shadow to artificially create the impression that she is interested. but it is important that women understand the effects that these signs have in exploiting the men and romantic meetings. joined in greater numbers in the workforce. The cartoonists exploit this feature to a large extent. Similarly. Unfortunately. When a woman finds a man attractive. even the actors are doing operations for the reduction of nose in line with the new image of the androgynous man of twenty-first century. something that only men seem to understand. Our tests with computer images show that the longer the earrings of women. we have become so unaccustomed to see faces clean. giving them that look childish. Since then. The blondes are also in front of other things. The men feel more attracted to women who use natural rnaquiagem than by women who seem to have been molded to reap the bricklayer. which explains why men find "strangely attractive" women who wear contact lenses. Stimulating 9: Nose Small Small nose is another reminiscence of childhood in men that produces feelings of security. he would reach about one meter long. The makeup enhances your eyes and look the child rearing.

In the case of the Miss Universe. In business. How does the person you want to influence you waiting for? How should your makeup. Ninety-nine percent of pornographic sites on the Internet are addressed to men. however. The artists who carved. never knows if she does cook. over 70% of the audience are formed by men who want to see women showing signs able to stimulate the reactions of their ancestral brain. The link between attraction and pornography See pornography is an activity almost entirely male. Women must understand that the men crawl the Internet in search of shapes and curves that appeal to your brain. long hair and bright and showed a healthy body well nourished and have a history of health of its carrier and its potential for procreation. an idea that attracted millions of women everywhere. This appearance has little success with the heterosexual men. He is attracted by the shapes and curves and the virtual suggestion that she is able to transmit their genes. who rarely attend the fashion show. The lessons to be learned here is clear: the woman must use when long hair and want to attract men hair short or pulled back in working meetings.the inner beauty now had more than the appearance. reliability and integrity in business? If you are a branch . but through paintings.sexually attractive women. a sexy appearance may be disadvantageous for women in a position of power or in a branch where men predominate. the models begin to have no female bodies. use the black lipstick and nail until the display dark olheiras as if they were doped. For centuries. Considered that the long hair gave the woman a sensual delight and the short hair indicated a more serious approach to life. power. The men of past generations would also like to feast your eyes with erotic images of women. her jewelry. The key to a successful clothing business is simple. the other has no choice. Until the beginning of the feminist movement in the 1960s. the clothes of women emphasized their physical skills in order to attract the attention of potential suitors. This code antiatração of clothing has evolved to the point that in 1990. In remote times. it allows women to overcome further demonstrate the success. Styles as punk and grunge came as opposition to the use of clothing to attract men and to show the world that men and women could be equal in regard to appearance. The result was predictable: 74% think the long hair of women more sexually attractive. play piano or fight for world peace. the importance and attractiveness of what the dresses. and the vast majority of images of naked men to be homosexuals. The impact of women's clothing on men The discussion of the effects of women's appearance requires some understanding of the history of clothing. They believed then that could be free of oppressive obligation of having to always be beautiful for men. 12% of women prefer short hair. The modern woman has two basic codes of dress: clothes and work clothes of non-work. The feminism that said women dress to attract men is not more important . A man. secondly. women wore it for the reason of all: to attract men and other women overcome. her hair and clothing to ensure an image of credibility. painted or drew pictures of naked women were almost all men. It never occurs if it has a nice personality. emaciated-looking. when you see a pornographic image of a woman. The costume gives it a professional position of equality with men and women of business and.

in it is necessary to men sell their expertise and management, most signs of attraction that we discussed are inappropriate. However, if your business is selling the very picture female - cosmetics or clothes for example - many of the signs we discuss can be used successfully. If you have marks or scars, a birth defect or a feature that really does not like, is perhaps the case to a plastic surgery. Most people who have expressed satisfaction with the outcome. In a typical week, the average person is exposed to more than five hundred images of human beings "perfect" in magazines, newspapers, billboards and television. Most of these images is the product of technology, such as airbrush, highlight of makeup, computer graphics and effects of light. They rarely show the real person. Do not compare with the images of women's magazines. They only make you feel ugly. Plastic Surgery Today, an increasing number of people are opting for plastic correction (correction sounds better than surgery) to improve the appearance. In the United States alone, more than a million people are treated under the knife every year the main reason that people choose this path is to improve self-image and self-confidence, increasing capacity to deliver the signals discussed here. The celebrities are the most common patients. The fix plastic is not new. Centuries before the liposuction and breast implants, had padded mesh for men with calves too thin, iron corsets for women and pudgy pannier for them to increase the buttocks and hips. King Henry VIII wore a padded zipper to increase their virility and small Syphilitic and compete with the French royal. The it was decorated with jewels and emblems. But it is important to understand that plastic surgery does not make you a better person or more beloved, nor solve the problems of life. The only person who thinks you look for is probably a problem with their self-image. It is not the type of person with whom you should want to connect. The other side of attraction Why Men Have Sex and Women They Love? records the results of a survey of fifteen thousand men and women about what they seek in a partner. The relationship is: What men look for in a partner A. At first sight: 1. Good appearance. 2. Well-turned body.

3. Breasts. 4. Buttocks. B. In the long term: 1. Personality. 2. Good appearance. 3. Intellectual capacity. 4. Mood. The A shows what we already know - men are visually stimulated beings who enjoy looking at attractive women. Most women understand the science and research has proven many times, but not "politically correct" recognize it. The feminists in general abhors the idea of a woman be judged by their physical appearance and classified the men of superficial and frivolous. But that does not change the fact that the first reaction of these women is overwhelmingly visual. A list of the items are visual, so you must remember that it is making its debut presentation of. But this is not the case with the B list: a "good appearance" is the only visual item that men seeking a partner for the long term. As the visual signs are so important to man, he unconsciously USA the appearance of women as a measure of respect and love she has for him. He thinks that if she spends time with the appearance, it is because they feel attracted. One of the major complaints of men in actions of divorce is that the wives after the marriage, left the appearance disposed down the drain. They say they used the appearance to attract them and then thought it was no longer necessary. Most men are disappointed with the only woman who dresses for work colleagues. Women, however, have difficulty to understand them here, for not bind with the same intensity to their love appearance. For a woman, have sense of humor does not mean tell jokes. I mean laugh of his jokes. Solution It is inevitable: their appearance influences the response to treatment and the other given. Also influences their self-image and behavior. Most components of their appearance depends to a greater or lesser degree, of their actions. There are courses of clothing and etiquette to learn to walk, sit, talk, dress, makeup on and so on. The bookshops are full of publications on the subject. Department stores often offer free makeup they teach the customers to choose and apply cosmetics. A good hairdresser can you recommend the best way to get the hair, the beautician, from skin care, and dentists, to fix their teeth. The weight is also subject to control, because a competent nutritionist teaches you good eating habits and exercises in a gym will give you the way you want. If you absolutely must, have to make a new nose, increase the breasts, remove the signs of aging. In the XXI century there are few legitimate reasons for you not get the look you want.

The sexual attraction is 50% what you have and 50% what people think you have. Zsa Zsa Gabor This research shows two things. First, men focus on visual images in his first encounter with a woman, and overall appearance is more important than the body beautiful. This means that the way a woman dresses, the makeup and style are worth more points than quilinhos the most, some small bones and sinuses. Secondly, the long-term man is more interested in personality, intelligence and sense of humor of the woman, but a "good appearance" is still high on their list price. The good news is that you have a broad control over most of their appearance and can change things to fit.

"You will still love me when I become old and white hair?", She asked. "I not only I love her ', he replied," I like to write. We are not suggesting that women should have the obsession with appearance as often occurs, but it is important that it strives to have the best appearance possible. There is no ugly woman, woman is lazy. HELENA RUBINSTEIN Above all, you can become more attractive is developing intellectually and emotionally. There are women who, although they are not physically beautiful, become so interesting for its human quality, his gift for communication and intelligence, leaving behind many of the sex goddesses. Men may rave bold with breasts and women with biceps of steel, but the polls show that in the end, the related-ments have more to do with spirit than with the matter. The key ingredient is the flame inside that comes from self - sexual, emotional and professional. In other words, make it an interesting person and they will not realize their physical imperfections. Abstract It is fact that the woman's appearance can attract or repel the man in the relationship. Many women are angry with this. You think this is an unjust man in gray and wrinkle-be distinct and mature, and the woman in the same situation, just an old. But this is the case. No additional tapir is bored with it and look if the complaining that you can not change. So the men - and women - think. Do not fight it. Manage its consequences. If you are dissatisfied with some aspect of their appearance, change. You have the resources to do so. And if not to attract a man, do it by yourself.

. if your chest measures 91 cm and 106 cm their hip. but I prefer to work part time. Below average. In the next chapter you will learn all the secrets about what women seek to be a real man. ask their friends to take notes for your answers and compare the result. You go to the TV show "Meeting the dark" and a candidate asks you to describe your body type. 85-95%. After doing the test.the open relationship is the way of the future. What is your response? a.in physical and non-physical every time a woman knows. Less than 85%. but think occasional flirtations contributing to the ongoing relationship. Compromised. their proportion is 85. You asked women to describe their mouths. Neutral or down. c. Gentle / kind. 6. The test records the points you receive .If you ask women to describe their ass. c. Redondo. c.Chapter 11 THE TEST OF MALE SEX APPEAL How is your concept to women in terms of attractiveness? They feel the irresistible .8%.or are you indifferent? You are attractive or repulsive? Take the test now to see your score with women. For example. Heavy load. 100% monogamist. Happy. b. they say: a. Take the measure of your chest. Rectangular. You think the man should be: a. Small and compact. Take the test 1. Reasonable for my age and experience. In the form of "V". Freedom of compromise . c. b. b. 2. Significantly above average. 5. What do they respond? a. Their ratio is: a. 3 . b. c. 4. Your income is: a. 100% or more. c. Lean or without ass. divide it by the hip measurement and then multiply by 100. b. b.

A well defined abdomen. c. b. c. sad or anxious: a. Distant / cold. 9. shoe leather. b. if a little talk with her. Muscle / angles.7. b. How is your sense of humor? a. 15. a. Jogging and tennis. c. b. 13. Solid nose. Average. You probably notice. His thighs are: a. Not important. You probably will not notice. As a woman describe your eyes? a. . 14. Long / thin. If a woman is distressed. b. b. c. Can be the joy of the party. b. b. How to dress? a. which will feel? a. 8. A barrel. Almost the whole. b. protruding jaw. c. for example). You have been invited to a party and heard that there are many women that you are to impress. Social pants and shirt. If a woman passes his hand over her belly. Fun / malicious. Very important. c. 10. c. As you have hair? a. I am a goner. Shirt and jeans with tennis shoes. Bald head or scraped. c. Plump. seem appropriate to my face. Small nose and chin. You will know immediately. More or less half (large entries. Describe your chin and your nose. A smooth surface. Look in the mirror. 12. 11 . c. Kind / gentle. I need to improve on that.Size is paper? You think for women the size of the penis is: a. Relevant.

16. b. They do not want selfish men. c. I understood in my area. The next chapter will show you how. 46 points or less: A cat pooch Seu Placar Questão Pontos A Pontos B Pontos C 1 7 5 3 2 9 1 O 3 3 7 5 4 3 5 4 5 3 1 5 6 1 9 4 7 1 4 5 8 3 5 1 9 5 3 1 10 3 5 9 11 3 7 5 12 1 5 4 13 5 3 1 14 5 1 3 15 1 9 7 16 3 4 5 17 9 7 3 . Your Score Question Point to Point B Point C 1753 The 2 9 1 3375 4354 5315 6194 7145 8351 9531 10 3 5 9 11 3 7 5 12 1 5 4 13 5 3 1 14 5 1 3 15 1 9 7 16 3 4 5 17 9 7 3 Now total the points and see the ranking of their sexuality 90 points or more: A Gatão Wow! You can consider a magnet for women. Just take a look at the questions that not many points scored and read the tips of the next chapter. c. you have a base that needs to be quite worked. b. places and things. No woman wants to compete with its partner the mirror. Being with his face and shaved. But careful not to make their appearance too perfect. Reasonable coverage. Be beard of three days. Use beard. E is close to 47 points. I know a lot about people. 47 to 89 points: A cat Most men belong to this category. If you are close to 89 points. because they may find that you are superficial and obsessed with itself. need not improve much. What is the extent of their conversation? a. 17. You have a reasonable ability to use their skills to attract women-the women. which for most women is a discouraging factor. Do you ever: a. Send them the right signs and how to enhance their skills to attract them.

If you want to become attractive to women. Fortunately. that are laughing. they are sensitive to their needs and have ambition and talent to move up in life. For you. and console is saying that man prefers women beer is BOIOLI. Think about how women will see the fun of your life looking for you in a different way! .You might ask why women are fleeing from you. will need help! Women like men who have personality. you can learn most of these things. the friends are more important than women.

As partners in the long term. If you ovulado. Since the beginning of time. This is totally different from how men see women. are symmetrical or not. women are more prone to choose a man hard and for a symmetrical relationship of short-term.and no bodies . Wuensch and Moore. the female body has evolved as a signaling device sexual. resulted in minor penalties and fines lower (Castelloe. Your brain has. But both sexes see . Hardness means that the partner is taken. which started before their . just as the symmetrical flowers are more attractive to bees because they have more nectar. and the symmetrical animals tend to live more than non-symmetrical. 1990). It seems that the wife chosen by their ability to from the pain. she feels attracted to men with characteristics Manly and harsh. In Britain. This is because. the male sex appeal is more basic and direct. Very little has changed in that respect. bringing them the chance of survival. the symmetry plays a significant role in female choice. An es-all done in Scotland found that the type of male faces more attractive for women varies according to the phases of the menstrual cycle. In Pennsylvania. The concern here is that attractive people receive more favorable treatment in court. a study of the attractiveness of 74 men accused. but was looking good genes elsewhere. as I said. but the woman in the XXI century and more than their ancestors: a man who wants also to meet their emotional needs.Chapter 12 WHAT TO ATTRACT WOMEN The first thing you will notice in this chapter on sexual attraction to men about women is that it is half the size of the chapter that deals with female stimuli on men. sending messages to men about women's ability to be a carrier healthy and successful in their genes. 1991 and Downs and Lyons. The female sex appeal is a complex and sophisticated. in search of two basic requirements: hardness and softness. They look for faces . DNA tests show that 10% of babies born in marriages are not children of the partner.even unconsciously . Judging is attractive only by the appearance (which is what we are doing here). able to obtain food and protect the family. women are attracted by strong men and healthy. however. with members of the same size. women tend to choose men who invest in the relationship and the creation of children. the attraction for women firm and symmetrical men may vary with the menstrual cycle. When the probability of conception is highest (more or less in half of the menstrual cycle). One way of identifying these characteristics is the symmetry of the human body: the left side of his body should mirror the right hand. What the science says Polls conducted in the United States show that attractive people earn 12-14% more than their fellow non-attractive (and Hammermesh Biddle). therefore. The symmetry of the human body is more important for women than facial symmetry why the champions of boxing often attract beautiful women Among humans. must have virtues that provide the best possible genetic he-rity for their children.such symmetries as indicators of youth and health.symmetrical.

The sexual responses of women are caused by certain visual aspects of the male body. the average compensation was $ 10.623. providing a better distribution of oxygen and allow them to breathe more efficiently by running or hunt. his chest still "full of pride. Hair tired. because it is the opposite: it has the shape of an inverted V. 8. often copied by women in search of affirmation. The male breast is enlarged to house large lungs. Sensual mouth. 6. This may seem dispirited. showed that attractive defendants received sentences not only lighter. Women who use the professional environment Epaulettes are seen as more positive. just to make it a conscious decision. the average compensation was $ 5. more respect and be a man requires. A study of the damages awarded in negligence cases found that. since no one has the possibility to improve their appearance. When modern man reaches his goal. The main factors stimulating women 1. becoming more attractive to other people. Chest and broad shoulders and muscular arms. The bigger the breast. Kind eyes. Large penis. Here they are. 10. but looking on the bright side. The men developed such characteristics to carry heavy weapons and take their prey home. Exciting 2: Chest and shoulders and long muscular arms The upper body of the male hunter is large. Narrow hips and muscular legs. Beard of three days. 3. 5. the results would be significantly different. This explains why the biggest cheats people are almost always attractive. Athletic body. the man has angles and strength and it is this difference which is so attractive. while the body of the woman is more narrow in the shoulders. 1978). Even in our age of supposed gender equality. if members of the courts had the power not blindfolded to see the accused. extending in the hips. 11. Stimulating 1: Body athletic Topping the list of female attractive male body is athletic-looking. To appear wider in the shoulders and occupy more space.trials.051 (Kulfa and Kessler. in order of priority. 2. where large breasts and biceps topping are of little practical use. they put their hands on hips. But when the victim was more attractive to the accused. but had two times more likely to escape the prison of the defendants non-attractive. The V in also attracting a woman. 9. Lack of tummy. when he had better look to the victim. Broad shoulders are a male character. Where she has curves and softness. The evidence shows that. Small and firm ass. which indicates the potential of man to get food and defeat his enemies. 7. 4. There is another reason that the shoulder strap give status to men. in the form of "V"." and the . close to the height of the hip. A strong and athletic body is a sign of good health. these signals also stimulate the brain of the woman when she evaluates potential partners. Nose and strong chin.

The ass has always been the object of jokes. tending to throw the whole weight of the body of the woman. Beat naked buttocks is a practice that attracts long sadistic and masochistic. Stimulant 3: Bunda and small firm The male monkeys do not have protruding buttocks and hemispheric-only humans have. The same happens with the breast and pubic hair. shave the head was seen as a sign of humility before God. The armpit hair retains the smell of the sweat glands segregated. For a woman it is not ideal. why cut it fuses in camafeus to save and use in religious ceremonies. Men with flaccid buttocks fat or have difficulties with these movements. Stimulating 4: Hair tired Throughout history. About 50% of women give high importance to the fact that humans have an abundant mane. A head full of hair always represented the strength and power of man. and discourages the kind Arnold Schwarzenegger. because the weight of the man can cause him discomfort and hamper their breathing. . The hairy armpits were always a feature heavily male. The secret lies in the fact that firm and muscular buttocks provide vigorous forward movement during the sexual act. In other words.boys still associate the upper torso and the masculinity formed. but few are women who understand the reason of his magnetism. In the Middle Ages was thought that the hair had magical powers. the gluteal muscles of the thigh had a tremendous expansion. In the case of monks. so that the attraction has on women. So that we could stay upright and walk on two feet. hair on his head has always been considered a distinctive male brute force. and therefore more ability to the role of provider. when a woman knocks on the buttocks of the man. Men with small and firm buttocks indicate a greater chance of working more efficiently. and many men and women to consider a sexual stimulant. A look athletic. a part of the body usually treated with humor and disdain. healthy. The redness of the buttocks is similar to the state of women's sexual arousal and stimulation of nerve endings on the buttocks is transmitted to the genitals. many of which find attractive calves head or scraped. The male baldness is inherited and its cause is the overproduction of male hormones. which give the best shot and shot. it really is encouraging to have an erection. which however is a low priority for others. Why then the women are interested both in the ass man? Why do you feel desire to move your hand? Why look like photos of a man with beautiful butt? Small and firm buttocks are the favorite of women worldwide. but most do not like the genre "muscle-man" because you think that kind of man is probably more interested in their beauty than in her. The men have forearms longer than women. Samson lost his strength when he had his hair cut. to stimulate. Small and firm buttocks indicate greater chance of conception. which contain a musky pheromone that stimulates the brain of women sexually. Women are certainly attracted by a male torso well defined.

"protectors" and "loving. Men with high testosterone are more and more protruding jaws. During the search we did for our book Rude and Politically Incorrect jokes (Jokes rude and politically in-correct). however. to describe the mouth and eyes of men.the only safe way to prevent baldness is castration before puberty. many women feel encouraged by it and even like to kiss or fondle the man's shiny dome. Stimulating 7: strong nose and chin the nose. The masculinity transmitted by a head Calva accentuates the difference between the sexes and is therefore a stimulus for many women. men tend to use words like "wet. Stimulants 5 and 6: Boca sensual and gentle eyes To describe the lips and eyes of women. the same way as the penis. Many men suffer from baldness. were seen as less powerful and less well-paid. the size of the nose of the man is associated with the size of the penis." But words are not used in the literal sense to describe the physical observed. This is due in part to the solidarity of women with the discomfort that baldness brings men and partly to the fact that baldness is a sign of masculinity." "sexy. The tired men with hair on the other hand. is that the nose of man.They irrigate the hormone system. What was discovered. For others. generally located at the top of the head. we found that only men have the bald jokes. The down chin is associated with fear and perplexity. it is a sex machine. and feel frustrated because they can not do nothing about ." Women. one is bald. Rather than see her as a weakness and something to joke. which is not recommended. which show the volunteers asked to say that the impression caused on the desktop. men Calvos are generally more aggressive and more sexually excited than their fellow non-Calvo. the chin and face strong was formed to protect the man on the face of blows during the fight and hunt. and so remain today as powerful symbols of masculinity. But they must take into account that compensation for baldness is the enhancing of its aura of masculinity and power. For some. A head Calva is therefore a powerful showcase of testosterone. real or potential. women rarely do. "sensitive". Push the chin forward is considered a gesture of defiance." "succulent" and "erotic. and is not popular among women. The women use to refer to their perception of the attitude of man. is filled with blood in the state of sexual arousal and its temperature has increased by about six degrees. that myth is not supported by research. disabling certain papillae capillaries. Here is an additional . the greater the impression of power and success that it transmits and the lower the resistance potential of people to their authority." "inviting. Since the times of Rome. We have experience using computer-altered images of male head with varying degrees of baldness." "delicious. however. which makes the baldness a sign of exaggerated masculinity. Found that the more bald man. The only thing that the nose has in common with the penis is the way he stresses on the front of the body. Due to higher levels of hormone. using words like "tender". "attentive".

The legs of the man is attractive to women only as symbols of power and resistance men. In a happy relationship. Most animals have little or no white in the eye. In the separations painful. Stimulating 9: Lack of tummy In remote times. The erect penis measures 14 cm on average and the vaginal canal of most women is 9 cm long. the women have more white than those of men because the female brain is configured as a communication tool next. a prominent gut is seen as a sign of neglect and little regard for the health personnel. and the foot size of the penis. This view was constructed by fitness centers and equipment manufacturers. Stimulating 10: Penis large Among all primates. because she was sure that his penis was too small. a large belly was a symbol of status. because it showed that its bearer had resources to eat as I wanted. but that power is more head than in the sexual organ. In modern society. the size of the penis was attached to the power of man and his skill as a lover. The great North American neuropsychology Davendra Dr. but they are sometimes taken to mean that the ex-partners have small penis as a form of revenge. nose. trying to convince us at all costs that can not live without an athletic abdomen. The wide hips mean that many women have difficulty in running. The narrow hips allow men walk long distances quickly in hunting and persecution. which allows the person to track the direction of gaze of another. while women look beyond. For thousands of years. The white of the eye is an auxiliary communication face to face. because the shorter penis may reach the right place with more precision. Well-defined abdominal muscles have never been the object of special admiration in male anatomy. when food was scarce. But how could not postpone forever. Despite the members that can be digitally magnified view web sites in the penis longer officially registered media 36 cm. with the bulk of its sensitivity in the first 5 cm. Singh found that for women. men who have a ratio waist / hip of 90% are more attractive. . The truth is that a man with an erection of 8 cm is able to do better service than a man with a 18 cm. because the ankles and feet out from the side to balance the weight of the body. As the eyes. Stimulating 8: Hip close and muscular legs The powerful legs and angles of the human male are the longest among all primates. The boy was terrified the first time that would have sex with his girlfriend. obtaining information about their attitude. eventually inviting her to go to their apartment. and there is no relationship between the size of the body. a woman rarely takes into account the size of the penis. The euphoria of some women to see men of large penises seems more a reaction to the male's apparent that what the size of the body can actually accomplish.proof of the difference between the sexes: men see the characteristics in themselves. because the seekers are the bodily signs of other animals over long distances. in search of excitement. man is the one who has the biggest penis. where food is abundant.

The hair of monkeys and chimpanzees have the same length throughout the body." I do not smoke. If the man has a beautiful body. 5. They want men to be attentive. 2. Sensitivity.Arriving there. What women look for in a man: 1. but in general this is not a priority. but strong. it does not take a look as an indicator of the feeling he has for her. humorous. thanks'. intelligent. The majority of women agree. loyal and understanding. Stress and illness diminish the level of testosterone. caring and communicative. the faster they grow. Personality. robust and masculine. 3. Men need to learn that the woman measures the depth of the relationship by the attitude they have with it. Women. carefully. she sees him as a bonus. Then. . rarely gives greater importance. even if the woman does not like. while all attempts to sell women pornographic images of men failed. Nervous. that Tom Cruise is much more sexy than with beard shaved. What women want the long term Here is the result of research on what women expect to find a man. he finally put the erect member in her hand. " The change is not programmed women to sexually excite the vision of the male genitals. began Despi her and stroking her. But the man who returns to noon a shadow of five in the afternoon gave the impression that he is crazy for action. he lowered the light and began to strip. Consequently. "No. standing or lying in front and back. which is why the sick man is not stressed or need to shave so often. Stimulating 11: Barba for three days Man is the only primate that have significantly longer hair on the face than in the rest of the body. Intellectual capacity. contrary to what occurs with men. This fundamental difference between men and women involved much frustration and misunderstandings on both sides. Mood. The woman must understand that their appearance is important to humans and can even seriously affect the relationship. Are only successful with the gay audience. only have a list. Unlike humans. 4. however. Are the male hormones that cause the growth of hair of the face. for example. The higher the level of testosterone of men in a day. she said. Healthy body. wishing she did not notice the size. The woman wants a man who is loving. If the man is wearing badly or starts getting paunchy. The men have two lists: the first sight and of seeking a long term partner. The male pornographic magazines show women with their legs fully opened. the beard of three days is a powerful visual sign of masculinity often used by men to compensate for your face kid.

Are extra. he USA a number of different criteria. Buy books that speak on how women think and feel. registration is a school of dance as soon as possible. Solution To make a man attractive. which brings you more satisfaction and you better realize their potential. by Barbara de Angelis. This will allow you to talk to women about a variety of subjects. We recommend our Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? and What Women Want Men to Know. but their physical form and appearance are crucial to his work and social position. The dance has always been a preliminary demonstration of erotic female. if necessary. The woman who likes her man is attractive. seek a better job. therefore. Enter for a course that allows you to expand your knowledge. Then. Do it for yourself and see how it will look more attractive to women. There is some reason why man has not or does not do the things you want in life .just do it! . Even the women self-sufficient and financially independent feel attracted by men who have as good protectors and from the pain. And finally Book to a gym and get in shape. You need to listen with interest and empathy that women have to say. in its first meeting in less than ten seconds. it is sensitive to your needs. The woman begins and ends the selection of the partner with the same list of criteria.except excuses. has plans to progress continuously and is still on top is straight. he believes. you know talk about many issues. you need first of all work their techniques of communication and relationship. But for the selection of a permanent partner. If man is able to make her laugh. because he already has boyfriend. Change the cutting of hair at least once every three years and look for wear clothes that promote their appearance.The problem is that it can not have it. Women are attracted out by men who show be going to the front in search of a better position in life. this is pure practice. The man need not be a millionaire. Do not complain . but have plans and goals and be committed to them. you will never miss program. Polls and surveys have shown how important it is to man the physical attractiveness of women. there is no school that teaches it.

how to live long after they retire. But there are two problems which do not give due attention: first. sleeping late and relaxing.from 46 to 72 years.25. only a small portion of the population lived beyond the age of 65. Who had not achieved financial independence. Japan will have less than two people working for every retiree. a problem compounded by the fact that the Japanese live today more than all the peoples of the world. In 2010. Graham came to understand a. Before 1940. In the United States. the psychological effects of retirement on men and. the rate fell from 9: 1 to 4: 1 since 1952. Between the 1940s and 2020. eating out. but the problem is the relationship between the number of contributors and the pensioners. But little by little. not only a larger portion of the population is enough to retire. the melancholy of retirement began to weigh. The life expectancy of Japanese women born in 1993 is 82. swimming.51 years and for men. Many countries have adopted compulsory contributions to the system of national pensions. second. In the year 2020. difference . is so full of titles about financial independence and retirement plans-ment. the average life expectancy worldwide has increased by more than 50% . or live in poverty. Would spend the days in an idyllic paradise .taking sun.Chapter 13 OUANDO the hunter Hang The ARC The retirement In developed countries. 76. Governments around the world face this problem continuously. more than a billion people have at least 60 years of age. Financial institutions operate in heavy selling of private pension funds. for example. The number of people living. Graham Graham thought retire and go live on the beach as would enjoy permanent vacation. the number of people about to retire grows at a speed amazing. have at least 10 years after they retire doubled in the last 60 years. Within each person there is an elderly couple thinking: "What the hell happened?" Developed countries are now obliged to devote an increasing share of their budgets to maintain and care for its population of elderly. And in the first few months was exactly what he did. continued working until death or were sustained by children. the effects of retirement on relationships and how to deal with women partners. The shelves of bookstores. Thanks to advances in medicine.

the stress was of another quality and was mixed with depression. Now. his wife. As women constitute 40 to 50% of the modern workforce. Little was. Graham suspected that their health was suffering. work outside the focus of the life of Graham.now was the Invisible Man. Graham began to ask for Ruth. But due to their mental structures and specific priorities. With a sedentary lifestyle. And started to worry about the problem of how to fill all this free time. embedded in an intense training schedule. Occupied an important position. more and more attention. On the beach. and enjoy them for the rest of life. As for most men. Now. Ruth was free to do what he wanted. One day. The relationship began to suffer from pressure. the evolution . he had the feeling of having nothing to do. Therefore. to attend many meetings. he cooked the issues now to fill the time. was horrified irritation. Graham suffered a heart attack Fulminans. for the first time. Lost prestige. nadava little and rarely was concerned with something in the garden. At work he was known and respected. Felt lack of professional involvement with people and the daily mental stimulation that he provided. had less desire to do. Important . When I worked. Before he was Dr. to get on her and tie her life. Every time you hear your name yelled at her husband. eighteen months after the dream retirement.find a target and hit it edible. it was assumed that the psychological problems associated with retirement were the same for both sexes. but not talked to anyone about it. For many men it is an unavoidable disaster and may even contribute to premature death. train new employees and solve the problems of the world. Graham began to fatten. was a kind of stress stimulating. Suffering acutely this abrupt loss of identity. but the calls were rareando. For over 40 years he wakes every day knowing exactly what had to do. For some time he remained in contact with colleagues at work. but nobody knew him or wanted his opinion for anything. The call that he expected the company to continue providing its essential services such as special advisor never came. Much has been researched and written about the problems faced by retired men. but little research is done on women retired and not working because they have the task of caring for a pensioner. When the hunter stops hunting During at least one hundred thousand years men agreed in the morning and went out looking for food for their families. the experience of retirement is remarkably different in the two cases. as we said. Instead of juggling with two or three problems to gain time. Gender and retirement The way men and women deal with the approach of retirement and old age casts light on the difference between their mental structures. The male contribution to the survival of the species was clear and simple . Tired to take sun. Suddenly he was aware that jumping from a train at work to express a tram pulled the donkey on the beach. Now had to take care of Graham every minute of your day. His favorite refrain was: "What is for lunch?" Before retirement.between taking a few vacation days.

London. distances and spatial co-ordinates.work and sport. pursue. show (in black) areas of the brain active space. that most men. they not only stopped be required to reach moving targets. programming. read maps. Consequently. The modern sports are a way to replace the hunt. Both involve the main aspects of the game. And here lies the great problem of modern man retired: your brain of a hunter. Plus. . is the huntress of the brain. unlike women. With it. and aim to achieve the target. We therefore repeat. 90% of all modern sports with ball rise up between 1800 and 1900 as a substitute for the hunt. This helps explain why the image of the female brain shows a minimum level of activity in the space. angles. The areas of the brain used for hunting Institute of Psychiatry. as we have seen. ride on motorways. sitting on a beach far away where nobody knows or gives a minimum. The female brain evolved. These are the areas used by modern man to work as park running aft. The images below.their role was to ensure the survival of the next generation.of male preference brain areas enabling it to perform this task with success: those used to measure speeds. He is all dressed and has no where to go. yet clearly set is literally idle. made from brain examinations of 50 men and 50 women. Female Male The ancient hunter was compulsorily retired At the end of the eighteenth century. women evolved as a defender of the nest and the offspring . In simple terms. such as no longer required for anything. So the century desferiu men on an even greater blow: the retirement.achieve a zebra color-surrender to 30 meters away was never part of their responsibilities. with areas of strength capable of dealing with these tasks . is obsessed by work and the small sports. the . playing sports with ball and reach moving targets. video equipment. To deal with the frustration of no longer be prompted to chase and hit targets. therefore. the advancement of agricultural techniques has meant that hunting for food is no longer be a priority. the two men embraced replacement .track. 2000. Also.

" she told a close friend. Worked as a nurse almost all his life. women keep their retired social circles constructed over the years and have facility to renew them. once you finally retired. with retirement. But little by little grew into a resentment Jennifer: Peter was making her so unhappy retirement on his own. women tend to move smoothly toward retirement. Today I do not know if I have . It would be an opportunity to do everything I always had the dream-. "I love to be retired. attribute value is the quality of their relationships. which left little time for herself. she thought that time would have to meet again. He had been always working hard. women. They just "follow your life. a stressful and poorly paid job with few opportunities for professional progress. Jennifer had sometimes the impression that the husband did not know well. in general. Also. we see very little in common. She received her retire with genuine emotion. Unlike men. We heard from several women retired to their current life is so busy. Consequently. Then came for a course in Italian. women. I would never do anything. Jennifer knew he was depressed but could not convince him to express his feelings. I feel sorry for Peter. It started out more with friends." The men are always defined by their work and their achievements. want to help you. she felt free.You realize that you retired when you know all the answers but do not have anyone else to ask you the questions. How women deal with retirement. Initially she stayed home with him. Peter and Jennifer Jennifer wanted much to retire with her husband hold. It was as if he had not entirely of his life. they ask how could give an account of what they worked. was inside mope at home if it has been discarded. learned to play tennis and attend classes in art. and the lives of Jennifer and retain only the two was. Spent increasingly less time at home. They can spend the extra time doing the things that have always been challenges to take or which never had time to work. Nadava with a group three times a week. need to combine work with education of children. exhausted when you get home. The children were finally married. Men value the achievements. seemed all the time in a bad mood. The only thing I hate is having to go home at the end of the day. relationships. But remember. "You know. It would be almost like a second honeymoon. Now. way-too Janda. Now. Studies on male and female figures show that 70 to 80% of women say they have as the main 'focus on family. the way the company was doing well without him and low frequency with which co-workers to use their experience and their advice. but with so much time together for the first time in our life . And although they were already married for 25 years.

the identity. "here is the sky. There were a couple of 70 years who always had good health because of the insistence of women with healthy diet and exercises." says St. Be "available" to return to work and solve problems whose solution depends on their knowledge and experience." Then shows them a wonderful golf course behind the mansion. we could have arrived here ten years ago!" Why men can not cope with retirement? The loss of work is not the main cause of all the stress when the man is retiring. Many women retired to join interest groups or develop new habits. no long hours of work. Even those who did not like his job very still want their "group hunting" the call to continue the task. "Nothing. "But the cost to enter partner?" Asks the man. " Dealing with a retired man is often one of the biggest problems that women face.love and no more if I stay with him. "Your bitch!" He Berra with it. You can eat as you like which will still be thin and healthy. to the wife. St. people cling to the idea that becoming consultants. they will still be important parts in the gear. The choices of women often involve interaction with others. Can cause fights. And do it with great joy. treating it as if it were one of its former employees. some clubs go to the elderly and enjoy the entertainment that they failed during the period in which the job. and will call him to continue working. the man turns around. He seems to always be "getting in the foot" and wanting to take her life." When I heard it. The man likes to think its "hunt group" still needs him. "If you do not wanted to eat healthy food and we exercise. others spend more time taking care of others. low salt. When this happens and he notes that the company can move very well without it. the two die in a car accident. with a variety of creamy sauce. Peter. Peter Ihes presents its new life. together with household chores. without feeling idle and useless. Otherwise. A step that seems worth it." And finally leads to the local restaurant and it shows the menu. leaving little time for fun. it seems envy the happiness of women and blame them for their misfortune. Unable to face the situation. The woman whose identity was also strongly linked to work performance may experience a similar feeling. It's free." says the man." replied St. "It's free. And it shows a fabulous mansion. "Nothing. no milk products and low cholesterol. When retirement approaches. Here is the sky. full of delicious dishes. the shock is very intense. Some return to school. And often. Peter. At the door of heaven. He has so much knowledge and experience that the employer-only benefits and may not pass without his talent. There are no calories in the sky. "But we only eat food without fat. It is the loss of something much bigger . On the one hand. indignant. The identity of women is . tears and even separation. "But how will this cost?" Asks the man. Here is the sky. the common man is denying that his life is to quit. One day. come with solutions and advice when she is not interested. "Do not worry.

In most cases there is no drama. But the retirement of Barry . and in some cases. even drugs. the woman retains its identity. Always addicted to outside research. Barry was always fascinated by the idea of retirement and to spend any time with their children and grandchildren and traveling with Yvonne. the retiree was disappointed with his new life and starts to retract. lover and wife at any time. per-der vitality and become inactive. Why do so many men down the hill so fast? In the period following the shutdown. their status and sense of importance can quickly lead to depression.multifaceted. Start the denial is complete by the depression. if not overcome or dealt with the help of a professional. He relaxes in food. Many often the removal of what they see as an old employee is a relief. When its role as provider end. Depression can get without being noticed. The new generation has its own ideas and solutions and whether they feel free to implement them and test new ways of solving things. things rarely remain at that stage as the honeymoon. For most. Signs of trouble are usually the first indication that stage of depression is ongoing. These intrusions can be unbearable for your partner. can become permanent. The result is a life apathetic. the direction of the house. the routine that meet their days. to 50 years. this rarely happens. But unless they have been carefully prepared. and the fights start to happen. He now wants to be the chief executive of the family. Master of himself. friends' friend. shorter. Retirees who do not plan their lives are constantly ill. It simply gives continuity to their things. The woman never retires. lady-of-home. to take care of the family. grandmother. companion. particularly finance and planning of social activities and family. Flu and disease is less frequently. was owner of a successful company. When you decided to retire. the woman continues with the other facets of his life. Barry and Yvonne Banyo is described as counter to 20 years and 25 have worked on their own. some men think they will be quiet. Sometimes it is thought. The sudden loss of friends and colleagues. She can spend the money to bring home. and if everything goes well for the acceptance. the things not done. felt. unhappy and. starts to drink. deepening the table. In other words. data and figures loved and was very successful in the management of time. The retired blame others for their suffering: his partner and family becomes much often the target because "not understand how I feel. he thought the best in the industry. This anger is sometimes discharged as the desire to disappear. The feeling of uselessness and rejection can lead to decreased libido. above all. and sometimes all at the same time. First. The loss of identity is for the man in many ways similar to the death of a loved one. It is essential to identify the depressive stage which. being mother. by not calling him to provide advice and feel a victim." Blame the ex-boss for not having him ready for retirement. however. especially the way they are made. the anger.

"Then yesterday I was sitting in the car asking if I had just come to go somewhere or had just arrived home and was out of the car. After looking puzzled for the door and asked: "Who is it?" The negative aspects of retirement When the couple starts to fight because of differences of ability and the different roles that each plays. Barry thought the days of Yvonne would be much more beneficial if they practice an effective management of your time. Barry wanted to know the reason . Yvonne felt in an inter-in a concentration camp." she replied." said the woman. Perhaps the first time in life when she see her husband every day for breakfast. "I never had this problem. and that there would be an agenda setting out advance and where would they would buy. "One day.the man feels rejected. Not only. for lunch and dinner. Asked the husband. Sutiãs discovered how each of the search was the ratio of quantity. The anger and resentment began to grow inside her. it was great.usually in an exasperated . leading to ." The woman smiled with sadness. there is the danger of starting to feel incompatible. hits the wood. sitting on the "seat-ofhusband-bored" on the outside of the taster. Despite not having problems with money. Then started to leave the house to escape the domain of the husband. last week. I control everything the woman did! Offered to take the family's finances and gave Yvonne a budget for food. he wanted to know where every penny went and why. but decided that Barry would shop together. While Yvonne tried to quickly sutiãs ." he insisted. high price. Things can be much worse. A woman can get hurt with it seems an intrusion on what for it is a happy and orderly." "Hum!" Said the man. I never stopped by something. absolutely curtailed and controlled by a manic husband and authoritarian. I wonder why she spent so much on things he thought unnecessary." "How?". That was crazy leaving Yvonne. "The worst." E has two batidinhas on the table. For Yvonne. Most of it was wasted money. That day she did not buy any bra .she has not had chance shoes and enough clothes? Reached the height of the monitor Yvonne buy a new bra." The man grunt: "No. and when they manifest . When Yvonne was a store that was not on the agenda.quickly turned in the worst nightmares of Yvonne. I was thinking at the top of the stairs had just arrived or are on top was starting to fall. Barry re-collect information on sutiãs with employees and customers. why you asked to organize a calendar hourly. on time and lasted a lot of other statistical data. "Now I'm in the middle of something and forget what I was doing." she said to friends. "Barry needs to get a life of its own.so he is not annoyed with the waiting -. He supervises and gives orders. "and I want my life back!" A retired couple was sitting on the dinner table talking about old age. beginning at 8 am. Barry now wants to be the chief executive's home. "is forgotten.decided to return later. She loved to shop. After examining them. alone. misunderstood and devalued. requesting it to many tasks and too little working in the service of the house. Barry found that his wife only needed two sutiãs. "My memory is perfect.

useful and happy. you must be aware that their identity can not be linked predominantly to the industry professional and receiving the approval of others. which is giving a gift that could not be granted for lack of availability. learn a new skill. resulting in loneliness and misery. But do not spend it all as a mere obligation or an activity for only the time to fill vacant. There is a huge range of alternatives for pleasure waiting for you. In Western society. A plan of action The right time to start planning is many years before retirement. mainly because. now. more will live better and the quality of your life. and the man who is not planned for retirement can take many years to overcome them. The identification of these stages is crucial. swim. with the increasing trend of early retirement. look for a nutritionist to set a pleasant and healthy diet. Make a complete check-up. Men engaged in activities that stress and to do nothing to retire early die. Studies show that the earlier you plan your retirement. take up a hobby. need a bit of quality. The higher the frequency with which they work. Health The time of retirement can be used for an investment in your health. which includes study. do the exercise that gives you great pleasure. therefore. the life expectancy of men that the retirement is not an occupation that the interest is on average five years. To begin. ride a bike. His retirement. . Start to develop them as far as possible. Men who survive the first three stages of retirement generally ultimately accept this new stage of life and take on the challenge of planning a new life. it is good to resort to professional advice to ensure that it perpetuates the negative attitudes. The possibilities are endless.separation and even to suicide. have better health and will live longer. it is likely that the period of retirement is longer. increased life expectancy and better health. . The critical difference between these two periods of the life of man is that in retirement he is fully in control and will take the decisions that affect the rest of life. develop a talent that remained unexploited because you were absorbed in his career. read all the books that are accumulated on your bookshelf. If you find difficulty. Multiply your interests in the life of work. Are aware that you are investing in their well-being in their self-esteem. The man is 30 to 40 years of his life in a rigidly structured and oriented goals. develop a circle of friends outside the work environment. walk. Start thinking now as I have had time available. listening to music. find pleasure in activities independent of the professional activities. dance.

The simple act of visiting patients in hospitals. The substantive requirements of day-to-day that differ in size so essential in humans and responds to your deepest desire. affection. specializes in dealing with the men retired. but once started. discover new incentives. Discuss your plans with your partner. You can not imagine how delicious the experience of returning to college where you will live with younger people and discover how the experience of life taught him. or activities that develop their spirituality. Start to write down everything that interests you. which would examine the materials. targets and deadlines.Social Work and Community We can assure you that few things to remember as much as the dedication they need. despite the limitations that age brings. Dana decided to seek professional advice and then persuaded Paul to seek a consultant. the activities that could develop.can be a source of pleasure. it now had time to do things you always wanted and wished to share their happiness with Paul newly discovered. the places that I would know. because she is the person who will share them with you. elderly in rest homes. children in orphanages will bring you a surprising bonus. Start searching now. openness. giving new meaning to life. And remember: the whole body . The sex in old age will be a continuation of what was in the life of the couple. His wife Dana to retire three years before and wanted by the retirement of her husband. browse the local church. He began drinking too much and was depressed. It is important that you find in that field feel better and more useful. He thought to retire at 65. Paul and Dana Paul was account manager and his life was always full of goals. seek help if necessary. But when he was 57 his company bought and he became expendable in overnight. She was quite enjoying his retirement.not just the genitals . You may need an initial effort to overcome the resistance. Whatever has been your path. Explore these possibilities with the knowledge they have of each other and love each deserves it after so many years of companionship. and that is linking to an institution where they feel affinity with the people working there. The retirement offers this space to search more and find a group. Gender A happy and healthy life also must include a satisfactory sexual life. chat with friends. The consultant helped Paul to understand the reasons for that and he showed you how to . you must have skills that can be used or passed on to others. because the sex life can not be separated from the rest of the relationship. Aware of that will mean this new phase of life in terms of living in order to for problems that arise Spirituality It is also time to devote to a field that may have been ignored in the years of professional activity: the spirituality. Talk about it with the greatest possible openness. Thus you will discover where your talents can be applied You should see his retirement as you would with any large project. a belief. the social work community and gives an immense sense of satisfaction and self. But Dana was alarmed to see the sadness of Paul with the forced retirement. What is important is that these limits are treated with honesty.

Paul and Dana are healthy and happy. offered to cooperate in the newspaper association of residents of his neighborhood. After all the advice. adjusted and successful. the consultant reassured Paul. because I wanted to write. The third was to travel with Dana relax and plan the rest of their lives. The finances were sufficient to cover expenses. but not for extravagances. Decided to change the eating habits and started walking every day for at least 45 minutes. sensual and rewarding. Paul felt a great weight had been removed from their shoulders. enjoy life and help others. This time when the men and women are more together than any other in their lives is very important that they have learned the lessons of Why Men Lie and Women cry? Because only then will live happily in peace and with love. The first step was to complete a health check. The next challenge was great . decided to open a current account that you bring an additional income. together with some savings and investments. most of his pension and Dana would be sufficient to cover its needs until the end of life. Dana.manage this new phase of his life. A specialist taught her new diet and prescribed an exercise program. but I would like but never had time to practice regularly to mind. Then decided to seek a way of advising the youth to become an advisor to young people. as the couple. As Paul was an excellent account-pain and liked to teach. Found that its greatest achievement was to have created four children happy. We firmly believe that the tools presented in Why Men Lie and Women cry? can help all men and women to live lives more intimate. Paul play golf sometimes. decided to try. except for a small excess of weight and pressure and cholesterol slightly above normal. He was also part of a group of craft and came to a course in writing.decide what to do for the rest of their lives. Dana has played tennis once a week and it was on the board of the club. Paul accepted the challenges that it presented the consultant. The check-up showed that Paul was well. In the group that began to attend prayer. Today. enthusiastically recommended by friends. The second was to seek a financial adviser. in turn.which could take twenty years or more to be completed. Use these tools with wisdom and love. They needed a plan that took into account both the needs of each. happiness and fulfillment. understanding the strengths and weaknesses of each other and being able to make the relationship a source of joy. In examining the financial part. He and Dana went on holiday with a good state of mind. They are so busy they need a detailed daily schedule. which led them to meet new people. Good luck to you! ******* . because had the start-to plan your journey . Came to a club of excursionist and began to make trips extended several times a month. How was a member of golf club. The retirement is revealing the happiest time of their lives. Enrolled in a class of tai-chi. aware that they had available to devote to a social work. Paul was always concerned about the welfare of young people and understand the problems they faced when they lack family support-ing. They have done a detailed budget and noted that the guarantee fund of Paul.

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