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Wedding Planning Guide

Wedding Planning Guide

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Some Fun Facts

“I seem to have loved you in numberless forms, numberless times, in life after life, in
age after age forever.”

Rabindranath Tagore (1861-1941), Indian writer extraordinaire

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An Indian wedding has several distinct and diversified features which you won’t be able to get anywhere else. There

are several norms and rituals which need to be followed religiously. In each of these rituals there is a special place for

different members of the family. While some of the rituals are need to be done by the brother, some are done by the

sister-in-law, while some other rituals are meant for the maternal uncle. These rituals are meant to involve and unite

all the members of the family. These customs add a special charm to these wedding ceremonies and have individual

and extraordinary significance associated with them.


Some of the interesting facts about Indian marriages are listed below.

There is a ritual where the sisters-in-law (could include female cousins too), hide the shoes of the new brother-

in-law, and demand money for them. It is only when the brother-in-law gives them the money that they return

his shoes.

Among the Parsis, the new brother-in-law has to keep his hands in water till he promises to give money to the


Sometimes, the sisters-in-law threaten to pour milk on the groom’s shoes unless he gives them money.
Another ritual is when seven strands of thread are used to tie the hands of the bride and groom. These threads

are removed only when the sisters-in-law are paid off!

A Gujarati custom is when the bride’s mother tries to catch the bridegroom’s nose when he comes with his

baraat. This is a reminder that since he is going to take away the daughter of the house, he has to look after and

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cherish her. A Marwari custom requires the groom to sit in his Mother in laws laps and is given gifts upon doing


A shallow basin is filled with a mix of water and milk, and a ring and some coins are put into this basin. The

basin is then placed in front of the bride and groom and they are given seven chances each to fish out the ring.

The one who gets the ring first is supposed to be the dominant person in the marriage.

When the groom brings his new bride to his house, his sisters close the door and refuse to open it till he gives

them money and gifts.

In some communities, if the bride and groom are holding each other’s right hand for the pheras, a sacred cloth

is placed over the hands to ward off the evil eye.

Among the Punjabis, a set of chudas (red and ivory bangles) are given to the bride to wear for the wedding

ceremony by the maternal uncle. This is considered a good omen for the bride and is supposed to bring good

luck to her in her new home.

Punjabi brides wear kaleeres which are silver or gold plated ornaments tied to the chudas. She is supposed to

shake her kaleere over the unmarried girls in the family. The girl on whose head the kaleere falls is the next to

get married.

Chero pakaryo – this is a fun custom in Gujarati weddings where the groom has to pull at the sari of his mother-

in-law as she passes, indicating that he wants more gifts

Aathwas – this is a Kashmiri custom. The couple is required to cross their arms and hold hands. Their hands are

covered by a cloth. They are now told to pull off the engagement ring. The one who pulls off the ring first is

going to be the head of the family!

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Another Kashmiri custom is that the eldest aunt refuses to let the newly-weds enter their home unless she is

given a gift of cash or jewellery.

Kaal ratri is a Bengali custom. On the second night after the wedding, the bride and groom are not allowed to

look at each other.


We all become a bit superstitious when it comes to an important event like marriage. Here are some important points

to avoid while the ceremony is on. While you may not want to follow all the superstitions mentioned, you might like

to keep some of them in mind.

The two surnames should not begin with the same letter. There are pundits who will work out alternative


The bride should not write her new name with the groom’s surname before the wedding. This is a point to be

taken into consideration when planning a honeymoon abroad. Of course the couple could use their individual

passports and the bride can legally change her name when they get back.

Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays are not lucky in some communities. The number 13 is avoided by all.
Only if there is no other alternative should the marriage be arranged at a time other than the auspicious

marriage seasons.

The bride should not make her own wedding dress.
The bride should not wear her complete wedding dress before the wedding day. In case there is a rehearsal, she

should leave a few stitches undone.

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The bride should cover her head and face. The veil is to protect her from the evil eye or evil spirits.
After she is fully dressed and ready, the bride should take one last look at herself in the mirror before leaving.

She should not come back, though, to look at herself.

The Maid of honour and bridesmaids are dressed very much like the bride. This is to confuse evil spirits.
During the grihapravesh in her new home, the bride has to put her right foot forward first.

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