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BY MR M
DIRECTOR OF LOVE SYSTEMS EUROPE & LEAD LOVE SYSTEMS INSTRUCTOR
The question that I hear most frequently from students on bootcamp who want to better themselves with women is: ‘how do I get a woman attracted to me?'. I have decided to write an entire book on Attraction which should be released in a few months. For now, this comprehensive article should help in answering this question. My Background In Attraction I used to have massive problems with attraction. If you have read my bio, you’ll know that I had my first kiss at 20 (almost 21 years old), despite trying for at least 5 years to get a girlfriend. I never wanted to be a ‘pick up artist’ (and I still don't consider myself as one of those weird group of guys). I just wanted to get better with women and understand why I was so terrible with them. Now, I rank amongst the top men in the world in terms of ability with women. Learning to generate attraction was a big part of this. How I Learned Attraction The way that I learned how to create attraction or be attractive was by 'small chunking' attraction routines, attraction techniques and the principles of attraction into my interactions with women. So yes, I did use attraction routines, but only as training wheels. After a while, I started to be able to generate powerful attraction using these techniques and routines. Over time, I was able to develop attraction in women quite consistently. I subsequently developed a conceptual, rather than rote, understanding of Attraction, which soon evolved into an identity based attractiveness. I.e. I got the knowledge, I implemented the actions and then I simply became an attractive person as I repetitively tried to generate attraction in women... or as we say in the new Inner Game Seminar - KNOW, DO, BE.
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Why? Because it is this value that speaks to a woman's reptilian brain i. REPLICATION AND GOOD EMOTIONS. replication and good emotions are: ● ● ● ● ● ● ● ● Health Social Intuition Humor Status Wealth Pre selected Challenging Confident All of these qualities demonstrate high value and are triggers of attraction. Don't know what to say to her? Get the Routines Manual . attraction should follow. you will be aware that the key qualities which display survival. rather than her logical brain. See: The Attraction Switches.e. the part of her mind which generates attraction. The reptilian brain bases its decisions on VALUE. makes the decision of whether or not she is attracted to you. A woman's 'reptilian brain'. VALUE is based on SURVIVAL. If you can convey that you are a man who possesses these qualities.Attraction Basics As David DeAngelo says. Sinn's post on the basic attraction triggers is also a good read for background understanding on Attraction. For those of you who have read Magic Bullets. 'Attraction isn’t a choice'.
misinterpretation. role plays. IVDs (Interactive Value Demonstrations). social proof. Buying Temperature a. humor. Value Based Attraction a. d. creating further sub categories to aid understanding. Definition: Her state is increased by being around you Done by: Teasing. kino escalation and dominance. Don't know what to say to her? Get the Routines Manual . It is often not appropriate or practical in many high energy situations 3. d. Braddock style funny disqualification etc Emphasis on: Humor (particularly push pull). palm reads and often constructed methods of impressing a woman etc. e. b. You are a guy that she could potentially sleep with and even have a relationship with Done by: Framing. 1. cocky funny. c. Drawbacks: Can feel contrived as it relies on cold reads. others and your unique experiences. b. c. Intrigue a. pre-selection. b. disqualification.The Different Types of Attraction There are generally 5 types of attraction. Definition: She wants to get to know you and be around you because you are high value in her eyes. The focus is on intriguing her. storytelling Emphasis on: Social Intuition and showing dominance over her world Characteristically: You talk about her. e. You can also become a dancing monkey or come across as reaction seeking 2. I have expanded upon his 2 categories of Intrigue and Buying Temperature based attraction below. Definition: She is intrigued by talking to you – you have an uncanny understanding of her and other people around her Done by: Cold reading. Full credit to The Don for introducing me to the basic concept of the different types of attraction. games. dominance Characteristically: You don’t have to talk about yourself at all – the focus is on fun Drawbacks: This type of attraction is transferable and can be easily lost if you lose momentum. storytelling.
This actually amplifies existing attraction. Definition: She sees you as an authentic and real person with integrity and a well rounded personality Done by: Storytelling about family. that building an Emotional Connection is ideally done after you have already established other forms of attraction such as Buying Temperature and High Don't know what to say to her? Get the Routines Manual . e. What I am trying to describe here is the overlap between Qualification and Attraction. The infamous 'holes in jeans' routine is a good example of this Emphasis on: Protector of loved ones. your family and your experiences Drawbacks: Too much of this and you can become boring or one dimensional 5. then Attraction will 'solidify' or 'crystallize'. d. Attraction can typically be lost very easily. leader of men. d. Note. c. Too many guys forget that they need to normalize the conversation and end up wondering why an interaction peters out after they are done with their cocky/funny personality/ material. confidence Characteristically: you talk about yourself Drawbacks: This causes sexual receptiveness. friends. moving life stories Characteristically: You talk about yourself. negs. however. pre-selection. However. sexual hoops. leading. but seldom causes sexual aggressiveness from the woman.c. This is because it can take time to create high value frames 4. willingness to emote. innuendo Emphasis on: Health. b. Does not work as immediately as something like buying temperature attraction. ‘Warm and Fuzzy’ attraction a. You will rarely ever be able to seduce a girl without having some form of normal conversation with her at some point. Emotional Connection/Qualification (The bridge between Attraction and Qualification and Comfort) a. your childhood and vulnerabilities. Definition: She feels that you are on the same wavelength as her. e. Emotional Connection/Qualification is vital as it helps to normalize the conversation with the girl and consequently SOLIDIFY or CRYSTALLIZE attraction. wealth. if you have qualified her. challenging.
the disadvantage is that if for some reason you have to leave her. However. Value Based Attraction. e. but I can't cover them all here. Ideally. it can include rewarding any compliance with verbal or physical feedback Drawbacks: If you do too much 'emotional connecting' without demonstrating buying temperature. you may fall into the ‘let’s just be friends’ zone. 'Warm and Fuzzy' Attraction and Emotional Connection/ Qualification Attraction would belong in the category of Intrigue based Attraction. Another implication is that if you are having difficulty hooking a set using a particular type of attraction. On a more advanced level. d. However. qualification Characteristically: You and her exchange thoughts about your commonalities and you validate her about qualities that she possesses that are important to you (note that there is overlap here with the qualification and comfort stages of the Emotional Progression Model). There are other drawbacks. you can try building another type of attraction with the girl. For Don't know what to say to her? Get the Routines Manual . The positive aspect of this is that it may lead to a SNL (especially if you have decent physical escalation). For example.b. social status. c. unless she is already attracted to you based on your looks. For example. using their model. if all you are doing is creating an emotional connection. Practical Applications Focusing on one type of attraction leads to different results. value based attraction etc. intrigue. Other types of Attraction have similar drawbacks. let's say that all you are doing is creating Buying Temperature attraction by being cocky and funny. The Don's / Braddock's definitions may in fact be more useful to use in-field as it is easier to use quickly. you would employ a combination of all types. Value Done by: Normalization of conversation. but this is not necessary all the time. social proof etc Note that The Don and Braddock teach that there are only two categories Intrigue and Buying Temperature. genuinely connecting. there is the danger of “going into the friend zone”. she may very well hook up with someone else as Buying Temperature Attraction is transferable. finding topics of common interest and starting to talk more deeply about those topics and finding qualities about her that interest you Emphasis on: Social intuition. The above list is a slightly expanded method of classification.
these techniques occur naturally in normal conversation and generate attraction and fun. The 'Trigger Words' exercise Braddock and I teach at our bootcamps is a great exercise to learn teasing. In particular listen very carefully to what the girl is saying or carefully observe her mannerisms and base your teases off what you hear/see. Teasing This is simply making fun of the girl in a humorous way based off what she says. Often.enough with the theory. I cover around seven powerful techniques that can be used to generate attraction. Yes. Here are some good ones: ● She acts slightly childish (also can be used in any other occasion when you want to make fun of her): “Wow you’re like a little kid. However. if the girl is not responding to Buying Temperature. what she does or her appearance. 1. Powerful Techniques That Can Be Used To Generate Attraction Below. they can be consciously used so that attraction can be consciously generated. but I prefer to think of it as a fun way to create a good vibe between the two of you.example. I’m gonna give you some crayons and a little helmet and put you in the corner so you can draw some pictures” or “Isn’t it past your bedtime?” ● She says something feisty/challenging: Don't know what to say to her? Get the Routines Manual . Many more advanced techniques are covered on my bootcamps. Let's have a look at some of the techniques that are immediately usable to create attraction. you can see teasing as a way to change your value relative to her value to create attraction. learning teasing can also be done by learning some generic teases and putting them into practice straight away. Teasing comes a lot from practice. OK . you can try using some 'Warm and Fuzzy' Attraction techniques to get her to open up. However.
“Where is your off button?” “That’s cool.a powerful technique I teach on my bootcamps] ● Any traveling role-play: “Lets go to Vegas. I mean like… sure. And of course sex every day. reverse cowgirl. Role Plays can be manipulated to create a safe environment for sexual escalation to occur on a sub conscious level. On a deeper level (which I teach on my bootcamps). Misinterpretation Misinterpretation is a powerful technique used to 'frame' a conversation in a way that is advantageous to you. you misinterpret something she says and make out THAT SHE IS THE SEXUAL PREDATOR and is trying to come on to you. Are you rich? Cool because I want a rich wife so I can drink straight vodka and do coke all day. Obviously I want to try in a few new positions once in a while like doggy. I thought you were a nice girl but that’s no way to talk about a guy whose parents just died last night.” [PAUSE] “No. Misinterpretation is best used once the set Don't know what to say to her? Get the Routines Manual . (I teach framing to great depth in my bootcamps). Role Plays This is a great technique that can be used to create a “bubble world” between you and the girl where the two of you act out roles to create a fun and playful atmosphere. It has the effect of the making the girl think she has known you longer than is actually the case. get the penthouse suite and spend all our money” or “We’ll go to Greece and sell hotdogs on the beach” 3. Here are some examples: ● Rich wife: “I’m looking for a sugar mummy. inverted razor and flying penguin. For example. Because it is role-playing. it also allows you to become more sexual with the girl in a non-threatening “because it is just play-acting”. actually that is bullshit but if that was true it could have been awful so stop being naughty” [credit to Braddock and 5.0] 2.” [Note that this is also an example of sexual framing as used in Role Plays .
it establishes dominance over her world. Here are some examples: ● ● ● You future project/role play that you and the girl going to Vegas and getting married You future project/role play that you and the girl traveling anywhere and doing crazy stuff You future project/role play that you and the girl opening an ice cream stall in New Zealand and living in huts Note that you can even string a bunch of these together. The sillier the adventure is. instead of acting out roles. 5. Here are some examples: ● ● ● “Your cool but I’m trying to snag a rich girl tonight” “OMG. Future Projections are also an opportunity to use imaginative language. turbo.is hooked. If you can show her that you know her almost better than she knows herself. Cold Reads Cold reading is where you tell a girl you have just met something about her character and personality which logically only someone who has known her for a while. I’m not just a sausage with feet you know” [credit Swingcat] “Whoa. Future Projections Future Projections are similar to role plays in that they create a playful “bubble” between you and the girl. you describe to her the adventures that the two of you will be doing together sometime in the future. However. Once you’ve known enough girls and done enough sets. I barely know you” 4. Cold reads will show her you have strong social intuition. humorous way. you should start getting a feel Don't know what to say to her? Get the Routines Manual . creativity and sexual innuendo in a non-threatening. which is a major attraction switch. One other benefit is that it gets the girl picturing you and her doing something together in the future and therefore see you as someone she could see again. the better to create attraction (note that you can also use Future Projections in Comfort but these tend to have a more serious edge). slow down. would know.
Do you ever have difficulty connecting with people?” [Girl answers 'yes'] “Do you ever feel lonely because you have trouble connecting?” ● Growing up early: “I'm going out on a limb here. don’t be one of them! Don't know what to say to her? Get the Routines Manual . by casually mentioning an ex-girlfriend or that you recently came back traveling). The problem with most guys is they tell stories about their house and cars. or become an adult before you were ready... Maybe it’s your heart charkra or something..or even a teenager.. you make these little bad girl mannerisms. Something made you grow up really fast.something happened. Outwardly.” ● Connection difficulty: “You know you’ve got a good energy but I can sense a part of you is closed.” 6. DHV Storytelling DHV storytelling is a very effective attraction tool if done well. bad girl mannerisms: “You know.g. It is also important to convey within your storytelling. Do not bombard the girl with multiple and obvious high value qualities within your stories as you will come across as “too try hard”. you drop little hints about things which are attractive about you (e.for cold reading girls (I went through a phase after teaching about 1000 bootcamps in a row for various seduction/dating companies when I started having extremely sharp intuitions about girls). This is one of the main techniques that I used to pick up the Playboy Playmate (see field report here: Picking Up A Celebrity Playboy Playmate (WITH PICTURES)). but it feels to me like that when you were a kid. your passion and purpose in life as well as your identity. but help start to off. I like that.. here are some generic examples: ● Good girl face.. Y and Z but as you tell it. the story should be about X.. you’ve got a very good girl face but every now and again. You want to be telling stories about your life and spike them with subtle hints about the key attractive qualities that you possess.
which is crucial to attraction as it is the 'feminine polarity' (a concept Braddock and I cover in the Inner Game Seminar). low compliance would be asking a girl to hold your glass or moving her gently (by touching her elbow) a little to the side saying. natural game (for a great article on natural game. please note that this article does not cover some of the CRUCIAL aspects of attraction such as sub communications (absolutely crucial to attraction .but difficult to write an article about because it is typically so individualized). ‘These people keep bumping into me’. you'll find the book completely mind blowing.. see: INNER GAME . unreactivity (for a great article on unreactiveness. High compliance includes things like kissing / make out. See my book on Attraction (soon to be released) for a more in depth look at Attraction.7. before you use other techniques which will require a higher compliance level. Leading Leadership is a huge part of attraction. For example. Also.The Secret of Attractive Reactiveness). It is related to dominance. see: The Basis of Natural Game . If you liked this article. In other words you need to first use leading techniques which require only low compliance from the girl. Examples of leading in the context of pick-up include: ● ● ● Using pattern interrupts (an NLP technique taught on bootcamp) Taking the initiative for topics of conversation (by 'cutting threads' when necessary) Physically lead her Importantly.. Kino etc are crucial. lifestyle etc. Framing. Disqualification. watch out for it! This article is completely basic relative to the book. leading well is about building up compliance momentum. Don't know what to say to her? Get the Routines Manual . --There are various other techniques which I have not gone through in this article which are crucial for building Attraction. A good example of medium compliance would be get her to sit down with you. attraction through social proof. It is necessarily limited in scope. bouncing locations etc. I teach these techniques on my bootcamps and I will soon be releasing an E-Book on Advanced Attraction.The Inverted Seduction Principle). These include techniques such as Games.
Hope to see you on one my of bootcamps soon! Mr M P. which is going to be my 'manifesto' when completed. Qualification is the next phase of the Emotional Progression Model.s. See a great article on Qualification here: Guide To Qualification P. sexual intent. It should give you a 'kick start' in your attraction game and techniques that you can use straight away.p. I hope that this article has given you a deeper understanding on how to convey the different key attractive qualities that women respond to.Conclusion This represents basic but foundational information about attraction.s. Nonetheless. social dominance (click here on a must read article on achieving social dominance) and other factors which are crucial to achieving solid sexual attraction. Keep in mind that this article does not cover aspects of attraction related to very important concepts such as sub communication. It covers some of the concepts in my upcoming book on Attraction. Here is the key article on Natural Game: The Basis of Natural Game .The Inverted Seduction Principle Don't know what to say to her? Get the Routines Manual . After Attraction. It is CRUCIAL that you read and understand the article on the Basis of Natural Game and keep this in mind when using these Attraction Routines.
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