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Do you get Angry? Well that might not be the appropriate question because everyone in the world does get angry. Different people react or respond differently to situations. Now firstly remember what/who causes the anger? Anger is an emotion that we experience and it is not created because of a situation or someone telling you something. It is just a response to some event that we choose. A response or a reaction that we choose. But most of the times even before we realize we get angry and the worst part of this is that we later feel guilty and have a vacuum inside. Remember most of the times when you get angry, it’s the anger on self because you feel let down by yourself for not being in control of the situation. And then to show the anger on self you start screaming or shouting. And a little later you feel down, depressed and guilty. Why so? To draw a metaphor of this feeling, imagine that you have the anger inside you and it grows and becomes like a balloon. You just feel helpless of the situation and hence the feeling of anger grows inside you. As you keep on filling the balloon there is a threshold and at some time it burst. And the moment it bursts there is nothing left. And that’s when you feel the lowest. Can you change it? Yes instead of reacting to situation, respond to it. The So What Attitude I have been practicing this for quite sometime now and it has been working for me. I call it the So What Attitude. When something goes wrong, you feel down and dejected and then this can intensify inside you as Anger. However there is a way of handling the same mistake that has been committed. You can just say to yourself ‘So What’. This immediately makes you get disassociated with that even for that instant. Remember you are not running away from the event. You are just making the choice to respond rather than react. So when you say ‘So what’, you mellow down and then accept the mistake that has been done. You are in the right emotional state of mind, which will help you to act in the right way. The words that we use will greatly impact the state of mind. (Read my post on Power of Wordshttp://lifeofexcellence.com/power-of-words-2)
I am sure you can start now! I cannot say stop getting Angry but Respond to Anger rather than reacting!
From Greatness to Excellence!
November 22, 2009
A growth of a person is not always exponential. Everyone at some point of time goes through a phase what I call as a “Plateau”. That’s when the growth is stopped, you perform the best but still you not rise above the expectations. This could be any area of life. It just takes a few important steps to follow to make sure that you get to the next level. Its just takes a small difference to make a huge impact. The Butterfly Effect:
Small variations of the initial condition of a dynamical system may produce large variations in the long term behavior of the system. (Source: Wikipedia) A small minor difference in your own life could make a huge impact later. This is true in every sense of it. When you want to achieve big you don’t need to make big changes in life, it just takes a small and minute change in the way you are doing things to impact the final outcome. Look at this small example in the picture to the left where at the beginning of the lines the difference is so small. Yet look at the final outcome the difference between the two lines. Its huge right? It’s the same impact that is created in life too. If we make a small difference in life, then we can achieve more. if we make the small difference of having to run 1 mile extra every day does it have a larger impact? More energy, fit body and so on. If we were to save an additional 10$ every day which is not much for a day, but in 10 years would mount to huge amounts (This is the mindset of a millionaire in fact). What does to take to make this change? Motivation? No its not motivation that is needed. Motivation is to make sure that you do beyond your perceived capabilities. But this minor change is not about motivation. Its is about
DISCIPLINE. Discipline is something that we might not like but is useful for us. That’s Excellence in Life! If you need to shed 30 pounds you need motivation. If you were to have a 6 pack abs that need Discipline. That’s moving from Greatness towards Excellence. How to identify this small change that you need
Its quite simple to identify the small change. In the area or the field that are striving for excellence, there are two zones in which operate. One is the Comfort Zone. We spend most of our time in the comfort zone. The comfort zone is where are have the highest security where we know that not many things can go wrong and also are achievable. Unfortunately we operate here with only 90% of our potential. In the comfort zone, there is no sense of uncertainty. What we need to do is just move of it and stretch. Once you move out of the comfort zone, reaching your excellence is much more easier and remaining in that Stretch zone is even more important. Easy way to stretch! A critical way to move towards excellence from greatness is by Performance Measure and having a feedback system. When you have a relative grading of your various activities, then you get into the groove of understanding what you must do and what is missing. Like I always say any Goal must be Measurable, else it can lead to a disaster. When you have a performance measure, having a Feedback system is even more important. Many people tend to forget the need for feedback mechanism. It becomes a fear for them to ask for feedback on their performance. I call it always ‘Feedback’ because when you get feedback, you can either take what you want or just ignore. Reviews, comments are not as good a feedback. Its just on your performance from someone who feels certain ways!
“If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.” - Colin Powell The Big Picture Story! Greatness to Excellence is more of the mindset. I know of people who say “sorry not now, I don’t think we can do it” and so. My role model, Dhirubhai Amabani, a business tycoon said “I am deaf to the word ‘no’”. This lead him to greatness. He never used to like people coming to him with a NO, instead he wanted solutions. If a thought arises in our mind, then we can do something to achieve it, and it just takes perseverance to do it. Once you know what it takes to achieve excellence, find some way to make it happen! That’s by stepping in to the stretch zone and doing more than what you can actually do. That will take you from greatness to excellence.
Why must you Live Happily?
September 15, 2009
Living happily is the probably the most wanted way of life and we struggle there not knowing what to do to be happy in life. We tend to be having lots of things in life and yet we are not happy. When people look at us from outside we seem to be too happy but its different in what we experience. Isn’t it true? So whats the way to be happy in life. Is happiness a specific outcome of something yes. I have known many people who say that material things cannot get happiness and they never aim to get something for them. Their goals seem to be so small and that sense of achievement is never there and hence never happy. Being Materialistic cannot make you happy but atleast it will not make you depressed. Having a good bank balance is better off than being a popper. Atleast that will not make you unhappy, if not happy. You will atleast not feel depressed about not being to have the basic things of life. So being mateialistic cannot get you happiness what else can? If you need to know the 1 single reason it has to be Purpose. Because in life there will always be challlenges in life. You will never be without challenges. I have explained about this in many of my articles before on if you do not face challenges then it means that you are leading a very mediocre life. You are not leading a great life. Many people enjoy their challenges because its PURPOSE driven. The one reason that really makes people excited about what they do is the Contribution. Contribution to some major cause that makes them feel important. Unhappiness is also because of not having a sense of contribution. In the movie, “The Rocky”, Rocky Balboa is pushed by his coach Apollo and only in the previous fight he would have lost to Clubber Lang. Rocky will not be able to give the best and will tire out soon during his practise sessions and thats when he understand the true purpose. For him the true purpose is just to prove himself that he is not a coward and can be a winner. Once he understand the
And thats when he realizes that even if he fails he will atleast not be a victim and need not have excuses.purpose he is very happy and enjoys what he is doing. The stone age man just wanted food. If you know what you want then you would always feel great about what you are doing and hence you can feel happy always. or feel sad about thinking the most disturbing things in your life. For few its a big luxury car and a bunglow. (called as Achoring in NLP). Do this small exercise: Close your eyes and recall a time when you felt happy. It is just not having 3 meals a day. Once you are there in that intense experience of happiness. its having a car. that is hold your fingers and you will run the same experience and feel the same way! . If this basic need is not met. But let me tell you something. This moment you can be happy thinking about the happiest moment of your life. Differnt people define this in differnt ways. How do you define happiness? This cannot be a concrete answer. When you are purpose drive and give you 100% even if you do not get the results you feel satisfied and happy that you have given its best shot. Have you experienced this many times? Your conscience is clear that you have done your best. This differs from person to person. Happiness is most of the times just a state of mind. The reason why many people do not feel happy inspite of what they have is beacuse many times they do not experience happines. a house and so on. See the pictures very clearly and hear whatever you heard that made you feel very happy. so our happiness is also an outcome of this. hold 2 of your fingers the index and thumb together. Be in that experience as long as you want to and you can. True I do agree with that and the fact that we have a computerized world today which makes life easier and many more easiers ways of doing things with the ATM machines and mobile phones and so on. We have different needs at different times. Now our needs are more. Happiness is an experience that you can live whenever you want. So if thats ture why are we not happier than our stone age fore fathers? We all today need a basic lifestyle. Repeat this a few more times until your anchor becomes strong. I want you to intensify this picture how much ever you want. then we feel not so great about ourselves and we do not feel happy. Many self development authors and speakers have been saying that today life is so comfortable and we need to be happier than our fore fathers. So whenever you want to feel happy after you have done this exercise. is just to fire the anchor.
But in the first place why do you need motivation at all? How do you define motivation? Motivation is a state at which you can think high. It’s just not motivation for you to invest money in the stock market.. Its not about what happens but its how we react to it. during which time you have fear. without any worries. You just cannot feel great and motivated always. Else you would be the laughing stock. One question commonly asked by many “how do I stay motivated always”. you must not just have the motivation but also be certain about what you are saying. haha. When you are motivated to do something. 2009 Lets face the fact. Well how I wish I too could be that way..You can’t be Motivated always June 26. Its just that your motivation must be after you feel . but also be sure that you are doing the right thing and investing in the right company. I would also always add up the state of motivation with a state of CERTAINTY. However this is not a great state to have when you are doing something that needs a lot of thinking. I can only help you to understand that you can step into motivation whenever you want. Well am I contradicting myself? I know yes. wish I too was like that”. when you have fear of talking on stage (Public speaking) for example. So motivation is a state that is needed when you need to take action on something that you feel is important. you also must be sure of the things that you are doing. When you are formulating a strategy if your motivation levels are too high then you would not really put efforts in evaluating your strategies on whether or not they are the right ones. for them not getting a candy can cause them worries and feel sad. And its so damn boring to be motivated always. It needs a great amount of balance. Sorry I don’t have any strategy for making you feel motivated always. But is it always true? Well not really because your fear is also because of uncertainty. For example. A common phrase used by many is “Look that child. Your motivation would be so high that you want take immediate action without knowing the consequences of the same. take more action and be strong without much of fear. So Certainty and Motivation go hand in hand. I am but not really true. Even a small child has its own worries and difficulties. I want to read the above 2 paragraphs again.
when you are investing. like how specifically they achieved success in any area of their life. After that you must feel that sense of motivation to break the barrier of fear. Podcast. what is wrong and invariable we know the solutions to the various challenges what we face or we know how to . So just be motivated when you want to.com) You know the interesting fact about human life? We all know what is right. Are you the Driver or the Passenger in the BUS? March 23. So be motivated when you need to and then achieve great things in Life! You can’t stay motivated always and you don’t need to be. If you being to use the same techniques and formula will you also achieve the desired results. Got it? Motivation is only to beat the fear. 2009 Today is not going to be a writing an empowering post or an email but this post will be of a self reflection. My daily email new letter has been consistently reaching thousands of emails every day for the last over 100 days without fail and many more. Over the years I have been sharing lots of my learning through various medium. For example. (My videos are also coming up shortly) In most of the email I also share some quotes of successful people. In each of my news letter I share a quote followed by a learning from the quote. Interviewing successful people. you must be certain that yes what you are doing is the right and will yield you results. (If you wish to subscribe to my newsletter visit the home pagehttp://lifeofexcellence. So your certainty comes first. You must be first sure of what you want and do and then beat the fear. The entire existence of NLP is based on modeling successful people in various aspects of life and that’s what I have been doing time and again.certain. That’s when a voice inside of your head says “Oh my! Will I fail? Will I do well?”. Articles in the website. My question for you today is “how much of that do you really put in use?” Why and how do you plan to use all these techniques and learning in your own life? The main objective behind me using these quotes or writing various articles is not just simply to motivate you but make you understand that successful people had certain formula of success and that’s the key differentiating factor.
The moment you know that you have the spark and you need to do it then make it happen. They go like “BUT…. As you write them down. For that too you can drop a comment in this post and I am sure all the readers including myself will push you in completing these small tasks.break the plateau and move on to the next level. When people ask for help and when they are given a solution. I say “Ask you head to SHUT UP”. Instead they being to question it. There is always a spark waiting right in front of your eyes. List down top 5 things that you have learnt from this website over a period of time. You know one thing that I really cannot understand is this. You may also drop that as a comment for this post.”. “DO IT”. Why we do not do something or why we do certain things that are not good for us. one must just put it into action and do it. You can just be what you are and still get the spark. The only thing you need to do is to ensure that you keep your eyes open for these. . This is quite annoying. So for all those decisions that you have taken in the past. you just start using it and yield the results right. Live with Passion always and attain SUCCESS in LIFE. Why does one have to re-invent the wheel when its already done. Why? It’s a million dollar question. But we fail to do it. Don’t we know that we must not do it? During my various Personal Coaching Sessions I tell my client. do you test if the tyre is made right and will it work fine and is it built in the right way? No right. lets do a small exercise. I just got the spark to write this post when I just doing eating my breakfast. Same way in life you need to have some trust and move on and get it working for you. doubt the action and do nothing in the process. I am typing this while sitting at a restaurant at Kuala Lumpur. We pour all the rubbish in our mind and start questioning. What you need just a SPARK! I love that when it happens and it does not always happen. few people eating more than what is desired. Just do it and experience the difference in your life too. Malaysia (I came here for a training program) having my breakfast. what are the 5 most important things for which you feel that you must take action today. Few of them smoking. you never have an answer for it. But trust me you don’t need to press hard for the SPARK to happen. few not able to resist the temptation and so on. When you buy a car. today is the day. Before you close the browser and the website. How are you planning to use these 5 things that you have learnt and how do you want to implement the same in your life too.
Health 2. In fact like how you want to know how to wake up early there are many of them who suffer from not being able to sleep early.How to stop hating Morning Alarms December 9. I am sure many of you reading this also will go through the same. its drive. Be more productive do more 8. it’s not so damn difficult to wake up early in the morning. But honestly I have tested many and they do not seem to work. it’s the FIRE. Yeah its true. Pursue a hobby Is it one or more of these reasons? Now is it so very important for you to wake up then. This is not a post where I talk some medical stuff to you on what to eat. Spend time reading 4. But before that please answer this question? Why do you want to get up early in the morning? Not getting up early is it a disorder? No way. So wondering how to bring about the fire? . what not to do and things like that. if there is one formula for waking up early. But then I put something simple in my mind and then it started working. 2008 I used to hate waking up early in the morning and I used to boast around that I up late in the nights so I cannot wake up in the morning. I know you would have seen many such posts that talks about rising up early in the morning. Insomnia as it is called. I’ll definitely share the same formula with you too. Honestly that was just sheer laziness and nothing else. Time with family 6. why don’t you do it? What’s stopping you? Honestly. Honestly let me tell you. More money 3. But before you move on I definitely want you to answer WHY? 1. Improve your skills 5. Want a 6 pack abs 7.
This is a pattern as we call it in NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming). useful actions! So waking up in the morning is all about the emotions. then we can do anything. because if its good enough then you would not want to read this on how to wake up early in the morning. This trigger has to be associated with a sense of motivation. then you run out instantly. which in turn lead to an emotion and hence action. When we put an alarm to wake up in the morning. Why people do not wake up on time.For you to wake up in the morning you need something called a Trigger. When you . a wake up call. It has about having the deep desire to achieve anything.The fire is not something that can be developed. What emotions are useful for you to wake up in the morning. is probably some of the emotions that are needed. someone calling you or you just realizing and waking up all of a sudden (I know this is not right). Energy. Our mind works only on emotion and no on Logic! If we are emotionally charged and motivated. then you might think (I know few people will run for this ). So what you must do is to create a picture of how you will wake up in the morning. The trigger could be an alarm. you must associate the picture with the trigger. they would fall in the trap of ill health. So you must practice this for a couple of times. This is Purpose! And Purpose is what creates a fire inside of you. Intensify the same picture of you waking up in the morning with full energy. If I were to tell you that there is Fire in the room. you might not do. Once you do this. If I tell you that you need to run out of the room where you are sitting right now. motivation. is that they do not find a purpose. there is a NLP Pattern that is fired that runs pictures in our mind. Creating the Pattern in your Mind . 1. So the purpose is even more higher! So you need to find the true purpose for you to wake up in the early in the morning! Isn’t exercising every day a good enough purpose? I know you have this question right! Yes its not good enough. then you need to have that deep desire to achieve it. So you must have a deep sense of purpose for you to do something. its is because that they would have had a disaster in life. If you notice that beyond an age there are lots of people who start exercising which they restrained from doing otherwise. meaning the doctor would have advised that if they were not doing that. For this however there are many ways of achieving the same especially using NLP. Emotions lead to actions! Useful emotions. If you said the reason for you to wake up in the morning is one of the above (or even something else that’s important). If I tell you there is some tasty ice cream waiting for you.
So feed your subconscious mind with the new belief that you are an early riser. Commit to Others – ask your loved ones to do the needful. One piece of warning is that all this will work. they cannot accept themselves. do this exercise.You must have to change the identity of what you are now. Force Yourself – This is just to create a pattern in yourself again. only when you really want to. Tapping your Subconscious . create the picture of you waking up which you already know and intensify the same. the identity is that you are a late riser. With this you are just creating a new purpose for waking up in the morning. then this is the best for you. It’s the same for people who sleep late too. 2. you attach the same identity for yourself which will go against you when you want to wake up early. because repeatedly over the period of time you have been labeled as a late riser. Allow the alarm to ring and when the alarm is ringing. This in one way will not make you accept to be an early riser. For you right now. Every day as you go to bed. If you are a person who is already happy with what you are doing and you do not really want to wake up. This is a driving force for you again to do it. 3. Be an early riser and feel energized every day! . For them if they sleep early.are wide awake. give this amazing thought to your conscious and subconscious mind that you are an “EARLY RISER” and you will wake up early in the morning! Practice this and attain absolute mastery to wake up early in the morning. This will make them to sit up late and they never feel sleepy or tired end of the day! For a late riser too it’s the same. Ask them to wake you every day in the morning and go for a walk along with them. then just forget it and be happy about what you are doing and if you badly want to wake up. 4. Do this a dozen or more time so that the association between the alarm and you waking up becomes higher. If you do something for atleast 2 weeks continuously then the chances of you continuing is much more higher. And slowly you will start getting used to the pattern of having to wake up early.
Remember Roger Bannister. This made him to understand what truly he was capable of and made others also believe that they are capable. you don’t look at the strengths of the team or the weakness of the team and still want to beat the rest! Now can this same happen for your life too? If you wish to and want to. when the entire world were pronouncing that running 1 mile of distance in less than 4 minutes was not possible. 2008 Firstly people wonder what can I do and what I am capable of doing and then they think about what one should achieve and one should not. he was one who did not bother much about the strength and capabilities. You never think and say “let me score only 2 goals and stop the opponent from scoring 1 goal” and so on.(Strength Vs Stretch) August 12. You want the best.‘The Rubber Band Broke’ . Will this lead you anywhere? In my previous post “How to Build the Muscle of Life” I had written about how should one identify the strengths and play life like a game? Do you always do that or do you seem to curtail yourself from the best? Imagine you play a game (I love this metaphor and hence use it more often). A Olympic sprinter does not know whether he is going to better this record or in what time he is going to complete and he just rushes and pushes himself to the best possible extent. the highest ever. That’s a paradox right! We never know our capabilities until we test out whether something is possible or not. What do you mean by capabilities? There is one concrete definition of Capability that I give “Its about what you think you are capable of”. however strong you are you still want to defeat the audience and by the biggest margin possible. If you desire you reach great heights. but believed more on his instincts and achieved the feat. You do not think of the fact whether you are capable or not. If you have the right mindset of winning. If every time you think this is my strength you can never achieve. . and would risk the heart to burst. As the athlete he does not bother about what his muscles are capable of. by stretching yourself far behind your expectations and your capabilities.
You don’t necessarily say the same words. how will I do it. half way through you begin to analyze and think that this is what is possible for you and hence you are not capable. but in a close group after people attend my Born To Win training program and so are framed up about my skills of NLP. You must do more than what you can. you waste your energy of your brain by passing these negative commands. I have done this before. they must be like “Yes I can achieve it. but it’s not so easy”. he never would had the thought of Can I do it? “Capability means imagination” – Napoleon Hill Let me tell you as to why I can relate myself to this so much. But when you practical you have make sure that its also a stretch. the biggest test of my skills on NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming).” – Anthony Robbins Your goals are not defined by your strength. This will automatically drive you negatively and never take action towards achieving Success in life. is rarely a function of our true capability. Having an engineering degree cannot make you a doctor. “What we can or cannot do. When you make a choice of your Goals and your targets.Say you want achieve something in life and then plan with same and carry out certain action steps. Its your belief that will want to you take past your goals. Fear sometimes is useful because that’s when you work hard to achieve. While he must had the fear. Just that you must be in complete control of the fear and not fear control you. You must have certain amount of practicality in what you do. I decided to carry out an exercise of a Live Phobia Cure. What is the difference between an person who has a small restaurant at the corner of the road and the giant Colonel Sanders of KFC? Is it about their strengths? Its is about Colonel Sanders willingness to stretch. what we consider possible or impossible. When you confront fear then you stretch and achieve more than what you think are your strengths. Recently I had a mind blowing experience. You do not go by the blind belief which might not be useful for you. . but definitely pass on this message to your subconscious mind and then you take a step backward. It is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are. When this is not really true. This in itself will drive you to greater heights.
but I also believed that I could do it. Your muscles begin to build more and you become stronger to take a chance of carrying more weight on your shoulder. Achieve the best in Life! Hey! In Life do you ‘…………. When you know that you can run a kilometer in X minutes. Guess what did I use for curing the Phobia? A Live snake! This was a great experience for me and I did achieve it.” spat the apprentice. Only when you do and take action do you really understand what you are truly capable and what you can achieve. If you were to work with your strengths and limitations. it limits your Success. “How does it taste?” the Master asked. This experience of mine.Was indeed easier. I shared not to impress you but to impress upon that anything is possible with the right strategy. you know that you can do it even lesser than X. 2008 I want to recall a very interesting story that I happened to read The old Master instructed the unhappy young man to put a handful of salt in a glass of water and then to drink it.’ pain ? July 22. When first I was deciding to do it. . The Master chuckled and then asked the young man to take another handful of salt and put it in the lake. But this was new and different. “Awful. Spread beyond boundaries to achieve more. where I had to chose a person from the audience who I am meeting for the first time and then cure the Phobia. It was a stretch.’ or ‘…………. as the word itself goes. its not about my strengths. Only after you lift 50 kgs of weight and do some bench press do you know that you can even do 70 or even 100. and I did have a concern but never allowed that overtake me and achieve it! This is working against your strengths and stretching to achieve more.
Most of the times we assume that they have an intention of creating pain and hence we bear that pain and not able to talk to the concerned person. But where is the ‘pain killer‘ for your mind? Unfortunatly pharmacies do not sell them. people. That’s the point I want to drive in here. I am not saying that your pain is nothing and it cannot impact you but there are people who change the way they look at things. Please do this as this is very important for you to move on this post I hope you are reading this after listing down the pain you are going through. The Master sat beside this troubled young man.” As the water dripped down the young man’s chin. no more. “The pain of life is pure salt. the feeling of pain. Situations. “Now drink from the lake. Let me ask you this. and said. People 2.” said the young man. no less. Events 3. How do you come out of the pain of life? What creates the pain? Events. Become a lake!” I am not here talking about the Physical Pain but the mental pain and agony that we go through in our lives. the only thing you can do is to enlarge your sense of things…. Again reiterating its not physical pain. So when you are in pain. “No. the Master asked. If that’s true how can they create pain? So where does the pain exist and where does the pain arise from? Events create pain? How can events create pain? We choose the events and most importantly the events have already happened and without control. incidents? Do these create pain? But how? Before your proceed reading I want you to list down the top reasons why you experience pain. and how do they impose the pain in you? And thirdly is things don’t happen the way you want to take responsibility and change the way you are doing things rather than feeling the pain and not moving forward in life. The kind of pain what we undergo every day in life is nothing compared to what many people face in their life. But the amount we taste the ‘pain’ depends on the container we put it into.The two walked in silence to the nearby lake and when the apprentice swirled his handful of salt into the lake. “Do you taste the salt?” asked the Master. The amount of pain in life remains the same. brother. Now check the reasons what you have cited fall under these broad categories 1. boss or whoever be it have an intention of creating pain for you? Incidentally these are people who really are bothered about you. . we are talking about mental pain. They might think that you are crazy and asking for a pain killer. took his hands. Stop being a glass. are there people who truly mean to hurt you and make you feel bad? Does your wife. Environment and things not happening the way you want it to? Can you tell me how do people create pain. father/mother. Physical pain is of no choice and we can over come with various pain killers. the old man said.. exactly the same. “How does it taste?” “Good!” remarked the apprentice.
Oscar Pistorius was amputated on both the legs when he was 11 years old and at the age of 18. He participated in several races including the race for able bodied. How to come out of pain? All said and done we still face the pain for sometime because we are not driven by logic. They do not understand the consequence behind what they say or do and hence you feel hurt.Behind every action is a Positive Intention or no Intention: When people do an act that might hurt you (or in fact for which you choose to get hurt) most of the times there is no intention. the advantage of having the “MINDSET” to look at the brighter side of life and not let go the pain take over him. but by emotion. They do things without their knowledge and without realizing that they are doing it. Wondering how? He is a blade runner and has artificial limbs to run. So whenever someone hurts you. However he was not allowed to do so. He could not do anything about his amputation as he was born with some deficiencies. . look whether they are doing it with an intention? If you know its not true then it won’t really hurt you. Truly yes he had a greater advantage. Looks like the federation felt that he had a greater advantage. was introduced to running and never looked back and started practicing and decided to participate in the Olympics too. And guess what happened? The federations of athletics ruled him out from participating in races because he was using an external device to make him run better. Its about how he reacted to the pain he was having. How do we approach it and how do we make sure that we do not allow the pain to affect us? Few simple ways to achieve this 1. The fact is that he was not even control of what happened to him.Have you heard of this person by name Oscar Pistorius? He is the fastest man with no legs. Incidentally later the Athletics federation accepted him to participate in the Olympics.
the event will not affect you. You will start wondering why do feel for such a tiny challenge that you face. Disassociationis the key to not feeling the pain. you feelings of being hurt will definitely reduce. If you lost money in the business. But you fail to look at life in a larger perspective because life has also given you so many things. This is the immediate cure to the pain. you ask “Why me” and you feel unlucky and life seems to be unfair. Then the pain will sound so different that you will not feel it with the same intensity. The moment you look at the positive intention. ‘ok now stop feeling hurt’) and those disempowering words. to make the event not affect us. This will only led you down even more. which motivates you. and 90% how you respond to it 3. But we definitely have the choice of responding the way we want to. “I want to feel important”. When you feel the pain. because the events have already happened and we cannot stop them now. Whenever something good and interesting happened in life. Look at the highest positive intention behind why a person acted in a certain way. When you feel the step out of yourself and start to think why the pain. Do that in an instant. Start choosing the response which favorable for you. Stop using words such as “It so painful”. Event + Response = Outcome Most of the times we are not in control of the events. “I feel so hurt” (when you say this. Words! The words you use make a difference. Look at why the person wanted that positive intention and as they are lacking you are the only person who could give them the importance they need. So feel proud about it 2. “I think I am better” and so many such thoughts go into the mind of a person before they utter something. Life is 10% what happens to you. The law of polarity says “for anything that is negative there is always something positive” and if you were to look at the that. say good that happened and attach a meaning to it which best suits you and puts you in an empowered state.An act is always preceded with a positive intention. 4. just say to yourself immediately. We cannot control the events but can control the way we feel and respond to the event. I would like to recall this amazing formula by Jack Canfield (Co-author of Chicken Soup for the Soul series). you readily accepted and never asked “why me” during . Events can’t really control your feelings.
” – Anthony Robbins 5 Power Emotions to watch out July 15. you’re in control of your life. Frustration are Negative Emotions and we must remove them. I guess NO! Wondering why I say so? Read on for you to understand why I call these as the Power Emotions and why these are important for us. a subordinate of your is not . 2008 Power Emotions? What is that? Have you heard of that in the past? I believe a lot in power emotions rather than Positive or Negative Emotions. If you don’t. Let me tell you. Motivation and so on. Move on removing the pain in your life! “The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. I am sure this moment you can recall the Emotions that you undergo everyday.that time. Of these can you check for yourself how many Emotions are Resourceful? It’s not about useful and not useful emotions but is Resourceful and Not-Resourceful emotions. We must learn to appreciate those nice things that we have and stop feeling about things that give us pain. life controls you. Negative Emotions include Fear. How? when you do get Angry. If you do that. We are so gifted to get many things of life. Imagine in a day of 24 hours we spend 16 hours of our time on unresourceful Emotions what is the kind of results we produce? Negative I am sure you accept right. Unfortunate that many people are not aware of what are useful or not so useful emotions of life. Anger: This is probably the Best and the Most Resourceful State. can we change this? Interestingly it takes a Moment to Change. when things are not going the way you want it to. it’s just that we feel that way sometime. say for example. every time you get Angry you want Better things in Life. Depression (extreme of being sad) and Positive include many such as Confidence. So its not that life is sometimes painful. we all undergo certain Negative and Positive Emotions. We think that Anger. Insecurity.
then what do you do? you get angry. However is that also useful sometimes? Remember you go through a feeling of Overwhelming only when you are bombarded with so much of Information. do not worry much. That is when you tend to move towards solutions faster. remember you can tackle with ease. However if you feel that you have performed the best you tend to not get the best of the other person. And for feeling Frustrated you have done lot of Work which means that you have tremendous amount of learning’s. One is that you are working so hard and you are not getting the results you want and you feel rustrated. In fact most of the times anger is because of a feeling of guilt that you have not been to make the other person understand what you want them to do. People who have many responsibilities feel this. The next time you feel overwhelmed. Overwhelming: This is a feeling that is more often experienced by many especially ones who are working from Head to Toe on many things. All you need to . When you are Frustrated the only thing You must be careful of is to make sure that you are in control so that you do not falter with some small mistakes. Frustration that you are not able to get what you want will make you think rationally and You will avoid all those errors that you are bound to make otherwise. you keep changing something or the other and still it does not work which means that you are just a few more meters away from the result. Frustration: Wow! I love this for 2 reasons. Overwhelming is not a great feeling many times. You don’t need to probably express the anger but you can Definitely use it for yourself to attain better results. shout and so on.This would result in Performance Loss. and when you look at solutions is this not a Power Emotion for you? So the next time you get Angry. The here in this situation a Feeling of Anger I would call as a Power Emotion because this emotion of yours will make to look at solutions.performing the way you want to.
Guilt & Obsession: Why do I call Guilt as a Power Emotion. though these are Called Power Emotions. If you are obsessed for perfection then you do more than what is expected out of you and then you are the ones who stand out among the crowd. else there is a certain amount of complacency that will crop In and because of which you will give your Best. You tend to be more careful. then you are only “Value Sustainer” and there can be someone who can do the same. more organized and better prepared when you have that certain amount of fear. There will always be a marked difference between a Prepared effort and an Unprepared Action. Just that you must never allow the fear to control you but Instead you must have to confront fear and face with utmost certainty. I Love it because it means that they are Value adding for the work they are doing. you must feel guilty for not fiving you best. If you were to do what you ought to do. Just Ensure that you do not allow that fear to control you and instead you are in control of the same. If you give an excuse. Say a day before a very Important presentation (considering that You are doing it for the first time or even otherwise) you do not have any amount of fear and you are cool about it. then you begin to justify all Your actions and give excuses. I always believe that the little amount of fear is useful because that’s when you give the 100%. Fear and Anxiety: Many people ask me is feeling anxious good or not. These Power Emotions also need to be controlled to a great extent. At one point. When People say ‘he/she is obsessed’. . both on my Table also my Laptop’s Desktop (I mean the Software Version of Post-it Notes) and cut down one by one and thereby you will feel good for having completed and you start clearing your mind. simply because if you are not Guilty about Your Actions and Results. you start carrying a Victimized Mindset and then you tend to not change the way you are doing things.do is just sit and jot down all those things that you need to complete. most of them are Still Negative and do not eliminate the Negativity involved. Success is always an obsession and must be a Habit. you do not give the best in the Preparation Process. I love that to a certain extent. You need to understand why these emotions are being experienced and then take the corrective measure to change the track of feeling the same way. and do more the very next time. I use lots of Post-it notes.
leading to desperation and give up ultimately. you will not achieve your results. You will have your own set of ups and downs and its how you react to the same and achieve more. we do give up. . but lets face the fact that yes we tend to give up sometimes. So Take Charge now! Top 8 Obstacles to Your Success in Life July 8. I am so passionate about Goals that I tell every single person and ask them “What do you want”. So it is imperative for us to understand this basic thing of life. There is no clarity in this for many people. I am being absolutely practical. Not that the most successful person does not give up or have fear but just that they learn and do something else quickly to overcome the same. life becomes better. So this post will focus on few of the top reasons why people fail to achieve and do not reach success. but still I am going to reiterate the same to you too. however the journey might not be smooth. If you are someone expecting to feel motivated and confident every single moment. Lack of Plan You might have heard this several times that’s if you do not have a Goal in life and plan for it. To my understanding if you have any of these basic qualities (qualities of no achieving) then success becomes difficult. I am sorry I really doubt if you can really find a solution anywhere in the world. seldom to have I also written on “what not to do”. 1. This might be the most repetitive fact of not achieving success. 2008 I have discussed a lot on “ How to Achieve Success ” and “ Reach your Goals in Life! ” While I have been saying what to do. While for success you need everything. This is what has got results what they have now. If you can avoid these. You might not accept that you are not a person who gives up.The entire Idea of this article was for you to understand how you can direct the Negative Emotions into more positive and directed result oriented Actions. Can you clearly tell me what do you want? Life still moves on even if you are not aware of what you want in your life. for failure you just need a few and you do not get the results. might not be the way you want and will not get you satisfaction and a sense of achievement.
continuous . They truly wish only to have the best. Where as if I were to say there is fire inside the house what would you do? Would not even bother about who is there and what is there and run for your life. will you ever get up to move? This is what is precisely happening in life too. its like the piece of cake outside the room. Unfortunately all things that you want in life are not like the Fire. let me assure you will never achieve anything in life. ensure that you have the right strategy to achieve the same. This in itself is a hurdle that stops them from achieving the best in life. but there is no deep sense of desire. Sitting back and relaxing can never get the results. If I were to say there is something exciting waiting for your outside your room. Remembering every time that you are capable. If this is understood clearly then you will not feel bad and sad for the results you produce. whatever happens you will only perform average. 2. they fail to understand that they need some ways to achieve it. you will take your stride forward for achieving excellence will. how enthusiastic are you about running out? Say if you relaxing yourself in the couch with your remote in the hand and a bowl full of chips and sauce. Its like having to run outside of a room. While experiences give certain results.Even if you have a Goal. Where is the fire in people? There is no purpose for their own life and they are not even curious about things of their life of what they have to achieve. this has to come first even prior to setting Goals. Desire Honestly. Moreover remember this fact that not everyone was born with qualities of achievement. because you perceive that you have everything in life. 3. If not. in itself is a habit. Its becomes a habit. If only you had the thought that irrespective of whether you will win or lose. Having high self esteem is perhaps the most important quality that you must posses. Imagine if you think that you cannot do something. 4. I know of many people who say ‘Yes yes I have a goal’. wanting to win is also a habit. but important because at some point in time you need develop knowledge and skills. Failure is not the end results but only a means to the end. You need to kindle the fire in yourself. Winning is a habit. Feeling unworthy I see people who think that they cannot achieve thing simple because they are not aware of what to do and how to do. Knowledge & Skills This might not be the key reason to be successful.
Many people set unrealistic targets. you must also know what to achieve. Even the most successful person always finds time for Family. for doing what they like and passionate about. who says “I do not have the time”? Success is a habit. If we do not raise our skills and knowledge. You will always be carried over with many things in life. . They have people to manage their activities which require really skillful people. how is that one person is able to achieve more than what is possible? Simple they are disciplined and manage the time giving it more importance. you need to break them down into smaller chunks and you need to consistently achieve. Many school dropouts becoming successful. You need to take action every single moment to make it big.learning’s are very important. Discipline & Time?? Are you one among those. like for example losing 10 kilos in a months time. you become obsolete and reaching your desired results becomes difficult. but many fail to plan this. If not you get de-motivated for not being able to achieve. While every single person in the world have the same 24 hours day. 6. When setting your Goals you must do a Threats and opportunities chart and find out what is feasible for you. Like Steven Covey. You do not do this. Too big & Commitment Many people fail to act within their limitations. you must adhere to it. while they ensure that they keep updating their skills. then how do expect to achieve the results you want? I doubt if you can ever do it. author of Seven Habits of Highly Effective People says “Sharpen the Saw”. When you want to achieve you set your own rules of the game. They learn from these people and start implementing them. The 5 minutes of planning of time will get 1 hour of free time every day. its is not an occurrence or an accident. While you must expand your belief and achieve more. There will not be a single day in life when you will not have work to do and if at all you reach a time when you lack work. When you set the rules of the game of life. You need to be sure if you can really achieve it. If you do not do this. 5. it just means that you are not growing and you are not achieving. When you want to reach your ultimate Goal.
Many people lose because of the lack of commitment. 7. be sure of the results. was the most dreadful for Greg Norman. If people fail. Many people fail to do so and hence they get bogged down for what is not achieved and give up so easily.Practicality and Capability are two different things. He was world No. . It is bound to happen. There is a Genie in everyone’s life? Guess who is that? If you did not replying saying “Its me” I am sorry you are mistaken. you can never achieve it. While you are capable of achieving anything. What I mean is not that you must struggle to achieve your outcomes but must work for it. One of the main reasons why people do not achieve is because they forget what to achieve and also think that things will happen without much of intervention. Life never stops. DISAPPOINTMENT. If you are one. I still can recall the Golf game when during the last round Greg Norman a champion was supposed to have a clean victory. It is next to impossible by achieving your dreams in a shortcut way. If you are not committed to the Goal. Success is not a shortcut. 8. There is always something that comes in the way of Life. He had everything to lose while the others had nothing to lose and they won. And on that Sunday. Reflect on yourself on the kind of Victim stories that you are giving yourself and hence accept that life is meant to be this way and can never get what they truly want. because he lost. Unfortunately its their own life and they need to be control of their life. You are the only person who is responsible for your life. Fear Do you want me to write about this? One top most reason you know is fear. Where does this fear come from? People dream and the dream remains only a dream and never becomes a reality because they refuse to take the step forward. Why? Fear I guess would have been the reason. 1 and was a clear 10 shots ahead of the 2nd in the row. they don’t remember this fact that they can only make a change in their life. Want a Genie and a Magic Lamp Listen. you need be practical in defining when and how. People look for shortcuts and quick fixes for everything. because for everything there is a way to achieve and never do you get the results what you want in the easiest possible way. People start giving excuses and become a victim of their own life.
If you are willing to make the small difference in your life. People fail because they fail to put back that fear which is only between their ears (I mean the mind). You must not be desperate but you must have that drive. Without the fire in yourself. Success is defined as achieving what you want to achieve in life. Even if you don’t get the desired results nothing wrong because anyways you don’t get what you want by not doing. You will have some amount of pain when you do things. Obsession is good useful things of life. You have nothing to lose. If you can take control and drive with safety you can get what you want. We need to design life the way we want to. My idol for a long time. William Henry Gates III. A Small change will create a huge difference in life. Be obsessed in life. 2008 28th June. life is a Miracle and not a surprise. 2008 saw the end of an era in Business. at every single . obsession for achieving is important. without realizing you have a Hero within to handle anything you cannot realize your dreams. CHANGE! This is one secret of people who are successful and also not successful. People do not realize that the way to achieve things is by having a CHANGE in life. The Butterfly Effect says so. People are unwilling to change and accept that they need to change. because you don’t have to feel embarrassed about things of life.Life is very similar. Just break free from all those limitations of life!. 7 Key Lessons from a Greatest Leader of all times . If you do not experience pain. then you do not get the muscles growing when you hit the gym. then your dreams becomes a reality. Remember. Technology and Greatness. that fire. Founder of Microsoft. decided to hang his boots and start living a life with bigger purpose.Bill Gates June 27. presently the 3rd richest person in the world. So be obsessed and achieve the best in life! Live with a purpose and Lead a Life of Excellence. If you can avoid these and take a step forward then you will reach faster towards your Goals. Bill Gates has been a name to reckon with at every single home.
every single student would have wanted to be part of the great institute and graduate to be successful.corporation. He was almost there achieving his vision. Just started the agreement between IBM and Microsoft. This clear vision of him won him several laurels and went to be the richest person in the world for 13 continuous long years. He quoted “If GM had kept up with technology like the computer industry has. When as a student at the Harvard university. He was not ready on the date that was announced for the installation and the good news for Gates was that the party at the other end too were not ready. Success comes with a Great Vision “Every business and household must have a computer and must run Microsoft software”. When everyone in the world were not even aware of the software industry’s future here was a man who trusted on his gut feel and passion decided to take the vision the farthest possible way. His career spanning over 33 long years provided a great sense of achievement for himself and the rest of the computer industry. I grew up seeing the success of Bill Gates and I was for a long time under the impression that he was just making lots of money by luck. I want to write here some of the great learning’s of mine from this genius. coding and technology that incidentally also made him the richest man in the world “Intellectual property has the shelf life of a banana” says Bill Gates that has made him a great innovator too. But what Bill Gates proved was different. we would all be driving $25 cars that got 1000 MPG”. the rest will Follow” – Praveen Sherman This is something that I learnt from Bill Gates even as an young lad. There is no one who could write software code as he could. Bill Gates decided to stop studying and pursue his dream of writing softwares for every computer in the world. “Do what you are Passionate about. Gates along with friend Paul Allen was to write an interpreter for the IBM PC. . He was just passionate about software. This is the kind of influence he had after founding Microsoft Corporation the big giant in the IT industry. Focusing on taking the computer to every single house hold made him an household name too. was the basic guiding vision of Bill Gates. This got the fire in him to write that piece of software and bundle with every IBM computer in the world.
Bill Gates Higher the Self Esteem the better it gets When you start achieving something big. “Whether it’s Google or Apple or free software. He did not sit back and wait for people to ask what they wanted and instead made a revolution of creating an opportunity . “It’s fine to celebrate success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure. While the Microsoft windows operating system is the widely used in the world. there are a good number of criticisms and unhappiness about the software among the users. he struck on and was giving the best the employees and the users of Microsoft Software products. there will be people who would want to make fun of your efforts. When critics were talking about infringement of laws by Bill Gates. This was not just capitalize on the knowledge but provide the best by understanding the need of the people. The stronger you stand the bolder you get the faster these negatives wither. He took all those as nice lesson and is improving every single day. Bill Gates stayed on and started focusing on the creating Windows amidst lots of hiccups that will hamper the company. While many of them used to get bugged using Microsoft products. we’ve got some fantastic competitors and it keeps us on our toes” – Bill Gates Opportunity knocks once: Bill Gates took up the responsibility of being the Chief Software Architect. Bill Gates did not easily give up. He saw an opportunity at every single place that helped him to achieve greatest heights. He did not allow others to deter him by inventing many thins to the public and still reaching his top most Goals and vision. When IBM pulled out of the contract for the operating system to be bundled with the IBM Clone PCs. pull you down and so on. was a relevant owing to the failure of the Omega Database with IBM.Failures are learning lessons: “Your most unhappy customers are your greatest source of learning.Bill Gates Bill Gates was never afraid of losing and went on to win a lot of deals because of this. Bill Gates was nurturing Microsoft by building a broad range of products.” .” . Inventing the MS Access database system.
He did not sit and do something that anyone could. He was a drop out from one of the worlds best universities the Harvard and not everyone from there went to achieve great heights like Bill Gates did. When he had several odds again him such as the American Law and several cases against him.” – Bill Gates Trust. This made him a super star overnight. Action is the key word.An unwritten rule for great leadership wisdom Right from day 1 at Microsoft. Bill Gates mentioned that good he came when they were graduating and not when during the time when they joined the university else they would have changed their mind. Bill Gates was very open to the ideas.for himself and his company by innovating. he still consistently took action by developing more software which the people wanted. Microsoft would have not seen the light today of what it gets. Don’t let yourself be lulled into inaction. If not for Bill Gates. but he took the reins into his hands to almost single handedly take Microsoft to this great heights. says Bill Gates ready for more ideas to float around which will make sure that the same culture of innovation continues in Microsoft even without his presence. He always believed that there is no end to learning from people. We must have that emotional strength in us to take action. from books and so on. During the convocation address at the Harvard university. “I really had a lot of dreams when I was a kid. “At Microsoft there are lots of brilliant ideas but the image is that they all come from the top . which proves the basic fact that education is just a tool for success and does not define success itself.I’m afraid that’s not quite right. and I think a great deal of that grew out of the fact that I had a chance to read a lot”.” – Bill Gates . This he also proved later when Steve Balmer stepped into the shoes of Bill Gates and became the CEO of the company. This was because of his constant delivery of ideas to his Goals and vision. Bill Gates as a small young boy never had anything to lose which he kept telling his good friend Paul Allen. When logic never drives us its emotions. “I believe that if you show people the problems and you show them the solutions they will be moved to act. “We always overestimate the change that will occur in the next two years and underestimate the change that will occur in the next ten.” – Bill Gates Action Speaks Louder This is one never mentioned secret of success.
in a Game there is a Goal. “Microsoft is not about greed. Play Life Like a Game: Plan Your STRATEGY to Achieve Your Results. Bill Gates had achieved many a things including having money and fame. This will make the game worse and will not get the needed results. This empowers him to be a Great Leader of our times. . Every game cannot start without a Strategy. don’t you think I would have crossed it years ago?” quote Bill Gates with utmost passion and determination. No guarantee that after having a strategy. At a tender age of 21.” – Bill Gates Never stop learning was the Mantra of Bill Gates which he follow till date. Technology and Entrepreneurship.Success must never get on to the head This is by far the best lesson what we learn from Bill Gates. It is a game and interestingly we are under control of things in this game. Firstly. you will get the desired results but you will at least have some measure to understand what went wrong or what went right and how to change the strategy so that you get the desired in your Next Attempt. 2008 I always have the Metaphor of Life as a Game. Imagine in a game of soccer there are no Goal posts and how would the game be? It will be boring and every player of the game will have not motivation to win the game. The very fact of a Goal is to ensure that which direction every player must have to move and where to go so that they target victory. This did not allow him to stop achieving and always had the drive to achieve great heights. He will always be remembers as an Icon and even without his presence in Microsoft he would still be regarded as a great inventor and a real genius in every regard of Business. How to Build the Muscle Of Life? June 17. Play Life Like a Game: Set GOALS to Motivate Yourself and Get the Drive of Life. It’s about Innovation and Fairness. “If I’d had some set idea of a finish line. I will draw up many examples in this article today and relate to how things are in life.
The attitude that I am good at something and I can do my best in that area is something that we need to develop more. Play it Like a GAME! . When you Feel at your Best? What is that you are good at Teaching others? What you Like the Most about Yourself? What are your friends. In your life too. 2. we never look at having a better attitude. You must carry the feeling that you are indispensible and carry on only with those activities where you think you can create the highest value.Is it that you start playing your life with just a Goal and a Strategy? Not all the time. While we spend most of the time on developing our skills and improving our knowledge. 3. knowledge and attitude. If you are yet to identify the strength. In a game of soccer there are various positions and how does one decide the position? Based on the strengths of the person. master the same and take your life to the Next Step. You need to work towards understanding that what is that you are indispensible at. Parents and Others Proud of You for? Strength is a combination of skill. So Start Your Life. If as an individual is excellent in Striking the ball then. class player understood his passion and his strength and went out to be a successful soccer star. you must carry the same momentum once you identify your strengths. Once it becomes your strength move towards excellence and make yourself Indispensible. Not that every one invincible. just check for yourself what is that you are strong at and what do you do well and then start focusing on that. but definitely you must atleast feel that way. then look for what you are passionate about and spend most of your time in doing the same thereby it becomes your strength. 4. First one is simple. they become the Defense. they become the striker and start playing in the Forward positions. If an individual understands that they are only good at defending and can stop anyone from moving ahead of them. Life is very similar where you need to identify what are your strengths. The certainty is the most important feel that we must have to so that we can handle anything in life! David Beckham. There are many ways in which you can identify the strength or even create them. Answer these questions and you find the answer for your Strengths: 1.
g. Why do they not be in line? Simple. Family. What do you want in your life? What is most important for your in Life. When you are not able to find a solution to achieve something in life. 2008 Do you find yourself bogged down certain time end of day and begin to question yourself why on earth am I doing all this. Do this exercise: Write down the list of all the positive feeling. the performance also is not great! Which means that if your values are not aligned then they do not act as a driving force but acts as friction while taking Action to reach your Goals. Career. also list down 5 things that you want to avoid in your life. Body and Soul must have to act in tandem and achieve excellence in life. So there is no Congruence between the mind. So what are these emotions? Do you find a lot of people who work hard. It acts as a fuel to an engine. emotions that you would like to have in your life. If you find that the values do not match to what you want to achieve. then either change the values or understand yourself more and then based on that decide what you must have to do. This tires you a lot and does not get you any happiness or satisfaction. Say for example. what you would not want to have in your life (e. luxury and yet do not find the answer to the all persuasive question ‘Why am I doing this’. This will be a big driving force for your every day where you can act with motivation and the fire in you! . determination and will to achieve”. Money and so on) As you do it. And if the fuel is not effective. You work hard and yet do not get what you want or rather don’t feel like you have achieved something in life. body and soul. body and soul. for you Family is very important in life. Like I always say. but EMOTIONS. (e. And in this situation if you were to not spend time with your family you may feel guilty about it. failure and so on) Look at the first list of what you want. the Mind. then everything that you do would be for them only.g. what drives us every day it not logic.The Why of Life!! June 1. If this is case how do you solve this? There is another set of people who say that “I have been wanting to achieve lot of things in life but I don’t feel to have that fire. In fact its these values that drives people to achieve things. And hence you would feel drained and de-motivated to work on things. it is because that you do not find the congruence of the mind. List down at least 5 of them. travel a lot and have a lot of money. Embarrassment. Health.
you must first think of a time in the past when actually set a goal for yourself and you did not achieve it and hence it was a failure. 2. There are not failures only feedback 3. if it possible for others it is possible for me 4. Visualization: Whenever you want to install certain beliefs.I will be Discussing about this a lot in the upcoming days. . Incantation: This is a powerful way to install beliefs. All of us have the same neurology. The moment you use your physiology (the body) and the mind the process of internalizing a belief is made faster. Past =/= Future 2. Incantation is the recital of words that will create a powerful effect in your subconscious mind. For example when you want to internalize “There are no failures. Anything is possible it is the question of right strategy! And Much More. Powerful Beliefs that you can carry which are also Pre-Suppositions of NLP are: 1.” I understand that you want to internalize these belief of Super Achievers. You would have internally voiced the belief that “there are no failures only feedback”. Incantation is done by repeating a particular phrase that you want to install in you and thereby internalize those much more stronger. Look the way you reacted to this event. So you can intensify the same more and recall it many time till such time that you are completely sure and if you had not taken it in the same sense then you must have change the emotion inside of you and call it as a “Feedback” and see the way you change and adapt to the situation based on this. Keep repeating the belief that you want to install as loud as you can.How to Install Beliefs of Success People? May 21. only feedback”. not as a great idea. You would have either treated it as a failure or you might have told yourself that “come on let me move on”. There are many ways of doing this. This is one of the best ways to internalize the beliefs.Do visit the page and learn more. like for example there is no failure only feedback . 2008 I ran a research for the most frequently asked question to all the readers of Life of Excellence and this was by far the best that was sent to me: “and my second question is how can i install belief from success people in an effective way .Also Don’t forget to let me know what do you think. but in a real that i would feel that as real . you must have to visualize the same. 1.
Visit personal development websites like Life of Excellence. Once you question your integrity about what is useful or not useful you tend to me more objective and make the right decisions. colleagues. Be an Early Bird: I really mean it. Because the moment you call them good or bad. Move your Body and Exercise: Motion means emotion. wanting to change certain habits and develop good habits. 1. Grow your Brain with Mental Activities: Read a book per week. 2.Your body needs to be more tuned to your work. A smile move a million cells. if you feel lousy you can never step out to take action and action means results. you begin to start justifying. For the first 4 hrs of the day whomever you meet. . Smile every day. a thousand nerves and few hundred muscles and as said before motion creates emotion and would make you feel energetic and perform better.Top 14 Habits for you to start improving your Life! April 18. Do your best to finish it or at read 20 pages every day. Few habits which I feel that you must have to develop (if you have not done so yet) that will for sure improve the quality of your life and take your like to the next level. 4. Once you do it for 3 days increase to 40 pages per day. play a game of tennis or volleyball. I don’t generally call anything to be a good or bad habit. Thank many unknown people who are making your life better. You would push yourself to achieve more. 3. Don’t Worry Be Happy:– The choice of being happy is always with you.com or ask me certain question. There is no reason for you to celebrate and be happy. Say thanks with a Sense of Gratitude: You must be thankful for many things that happen in your life. 2008 Time and again I have seen many people who visit lifeofexcellence. Take a brisk walk for 20 mins or practice yoga. As you do so your self esteem too increases. your breathing and your beat must be in harmony with the thoughts and action and the way to do so is by exercising. “Hey listen I work late in the night and how do you expect me to wake up early in the morning”. You might not have seen them but the person plants the tree which bears fruits makes a difference in your life. The energy that surrounds you early in the morning is so refreshing that it gives you the momentum to go higher. First thank yourself for what you are. Any super achiever is so because of the mental state they are in and the way you use and drive the body physiology determines the mental state you are in. Do this every day in the morning and before bed. friends and many more. Your family. else atleast wake up atleast 3 to 4 times in a week to start with.I know there are a few of who say. As you wake up in the morning just decide to be happy. I prefer calling them Useful or Not useful habits. you must have to smile at them first even before you start work with them. 5. Thank the people around you for making a difference in your life. We don’t need to understand the reason but just use it with the blind faith and belief that there is a purpose and will do a lot of good for us. If possible do change your schedule of working. There is a specific reason why the Sun always rises in the east at a specific time in a day.
Start using a chart to analyze your saving. Target to reduce your expenses and increase your savings. I have also shared some tools on Time Management and listen to the Podcast on Time Management. If you need to achieve the outcomes then you too need to be organized. You can achieve anything in life as long as you have the strategy. Many times you hang out with friends and you tend to have the same ideas as theirs. Action towards goals and strategies: Failure is not when you do not get the results you want. catch hold of people who are the best in the area you want to excel in. I know how difficult it is for your follow time table but remember what happened in school. 9. Kill Procrastination this moment (Listen to my audio on Kill Procrastination). Failure is when you do not take action.Once you have the bigger goals. Once you set your goal. A day of this happening is fine and if the same happens everyday what kind of results can you produce? It is better to eat right. Have certain common attitude about things. Small tasks are always easy to achieve. you must have to be with people who are excellent in that area.6. Watch the calendar. You wake up in the morning how do you feel? Never feel like getting up from the bed. This will make you achieve your targets faster and makes it achievable. Spend time with Successful people. Have that momentum in you so that you can move faster to achieve what you want. Eat right and feel great. if you do not take any action on that I don’t think you would ever achieve it. balanced light meal. an unorganized person can only attract unorganized and unexpected results. Now why? Is it to have a better life? Probably yes but even more important thing that you must do is to avoid wasting money and use it for a better purpose. 7. If you want to be a great public speaker. 11. Your outcomes have to be time bound and achievable. schedulers etc. make friends with them and spend more time with them. Feel Healthy: Remember your body determines the actions that you take. Life definitely has become easy today with all the automated beepers. Can you do the same in the area you want to excel? If you want to be healthy move with people who care about fitness they will talk about your body. Energetic people: I believe that if you surrounded with energetic people you too tend to be energetic. You must eat to feel energetic. Goals and Small tasks for the week: I am sure you would have seen my video on achieving Goals in 2008. Keep up your Money Matters: Is this a habit that you must develop? Definitely yes! You ruin yourself because you do not manage your money matters in the right way. How it would it be when you stuff yourself with all possible foods. So start now. 8. Never spend more than what you want. If you move with wealthy people you too carry the same mindset. Successful people are so not because they were lucky.You have common likes and dislikes. 10. the food you take and so on and then you too become aware of the external world around you. Your teachers followed a specific schedule so that she can give the best you and achieve the outcomes. you must have to chunk them down to smaller tasks. your expenses. If you wish to be a successful entrepreneur you must move with the like minded people. you eat whatever you feel like. junk. Give it to charity and the satisfaction . high calorie food? You go on a party and since it has to be enjoyed. And all that you need is a small. Eat Healthy. be more organized: I believed always.
Family Time: If you need to energize yourself then you need to spend time where there is lot of love. They are just excuses. You might think in family do I evaluate? What happens is there is lots of transparency between every member in the family. The place where you can get this is at home and no where else. Start tomorrow (why not today. Your stamp book might be in the cupboards.that you will achieve is much more than you owing a Mercedes Benz. Do listen to my podcast on Power of Subconscious mind where I share more on what is the power of your mind that would affect the results in your life. Throw out your lame thoughts: This is probably the best habit that you must have to develop. Never say you are bored. Mentally and Emotionally February 14. orphaned children for education you can visit www. Pursue your Hobby: Passion always gives motivation. The way you control your body definitely determines your power. You can follow the technique that is explained by Mr. you can). 14. Throw the junk away from your mind so that you will be stronger in your life. you can be 100% sure that your life will be much better. you don’t have time. 2008 One of the best secrets of being Fit is going back to basics.This makes sure that the communication is better between you and every one in the family. If you wish to help under privileged. Take a walking stick and . What nice things they did and what did they not do and so on. Grade the family members on a scale of 1 to 10. 13. You run too many thoughts and most of them are negative. Have a small time with family every week when you sit together and make decision relating to the entire family. Remember what your grandparents used to when they got old. Physically fitness simply means that you need to take good care of your body.org (A 100% non profit organization) where I participate actively. 12. Jack Canfield (Author of best seller Chicken Soup for the soul). in his book Power of Focus. follow them and you will be a bundle of joy.onlysuccessfoundation. Stay Fit Physically. Garbage is not good and hence dispose them from your mind. care for them would definitely increase and they would feel more connected as they know more of you and you know lots of them. The love. energy and fitness. Going to the gym everyday is definitely one ways. Tell them why you grade them so. Its as easy as focusing on something nice. Just remember everything what your mom and your grandmother told you when you were young. 1 being least and 10 being high. Do something you love and you would be motivated to do more of everything. Apart from being a positive thinker begin to focus on things that are useful for you that would drive you achieve more. With these 14 habits that you develop. the paint brushes need to be dusted.
and eat all the fruits. You need to be more conscious about what you eat. This would mean a lot to you because there is a purpose behind your existence and you will start moving towards the purpose. You just need to shift your behavior. Cut them out is not what I am telling you. I am not saying starve yourself and eat only them but you can definitely treat your body for some cleaning. Every day make sure you enjoy a joke. You at this age can do more. Recall all the nice things that have happened so far in your life. Its as simple as that. Remember you mom used to tell you. Let me stress on that… very small quantities. I always recommend you to do that. If you think you cannot resist temptation then don’t give a hand to it. finish off the vegetables in your place. Throw the bottles away that consume your energy (I mean alcohol) and never light a cigar anymore. When young you did not learn the science behind why you need to eat the fruits and vegetables and now you must learn them. This is to keep their energy going. You need to be Emotionally charge and fit to take your life to the higher level. job. Fruits cleanse your body very quickly. Laugh your heart out. I am sure you don’t need a reason as to why. thank the entire world for supporting you. You have the choice to focus on whatever you wish to. who suffer to protect themselves from extremes . While young if you were eating fruits and vegetables as part of your meal. You are not a depressed person.hold each other and walk short distances. Call your friend and share the joke with them so that you can hear the laugh that would make you emotionally stronger Remember there are many people who suffer in the world. have them in very very small quantities. now you can make that your meal once in a while. keep the blood gushing though your internal systems that need to work in tandem. walk do whatever to keep the energy going. breathe in fresh air and enjoy more circulation in their body. This will keep them at bay and not allowing something to harm them. Thank yourself for what you are. run. There will be challenges along your way but you must have to condition yourself emotionally too so as to handle them with ease. thank the people you know for making a difference. A walking stick is definitely not a choice for you but you must have to hit the road. Eat well in the right possible way. who do not have good food to eat. your behavior is so. Recall all those people who do not have shelter. Mental fitness is tremendously important. If you feel down and depressed remember that not what you are. Because you are dreaming of something that you want and something you desire. Have a specific time in a day when you feel the gratitude for all that is already existing. That radiates positive vibrations in your mind and in turn the body. While many say that Day dream is not so good. Recall what mom told you about junk food .
It’s a conscious decision that you make and you must have to live to it. You have lots of productive work to do and yet you do not have the drive 2. You have free time and yet you do not pursue your hobbies or things that you are passionate about? Are you in control of these situations? Yes and No! Because your logic mind tells you that you better start doing things which are useful and more productive. When you think about these people. If this does not give you want you need then you need to have certain amount of Discipline as I call it. I still can hear the voice that comes from you saying. You just do not want to do anything that involves some amount of sweating 4. get angry or get annoyed. 2008 Do you cringe on the bed or just laze around the couch (especially during weekends). let me do it later”. However there are times that you must have to beat your emotions too. “hey its ok. You allow the mental state to control your actions. Emotional you know how charged up you must be and not be lazy and unproductive. The only way you will come out of watching TV and wasting time is self discipline. being useful at all times (atleast majority of the times). playing games on your computer etc 3. Because there are times when you find it difficult to beat your own emotion and during those times the only thing that can possible help you is discipline. So distress yourself and play games and have fun. However your subconscious mind. Increase your Productivity February 8. Remember stress is more often or not an outcome of fear that something not so favorable will happen or something that you wish may not happen. “I pretty well know that if I must have discipline I can fight anything that I want with discipline. You spend lots of time doing unproductive work such as watching TV. . You will feel more relaxed moving away from stress. is to play games with kids or spend time pursuing a hobby.of hot or cold. But how do I create that discipline in me? how do I create that discipline and habit within me of not wasting time. Do you face these problems? 1. You must have the will power to ensure that you do not even touch the TV remote. A secret for you emotionally charge up yourself. Whenever you want to condition yourself to elevate the quality of your life ask the question “HOW?” and you would automatically find the solution for whatever challenges you are facing. an inner voice which is the devil that says. there is never a reason for you to get frustrated.
For example say you want to do something useful and you spend the time not so usefully and later you being a victim. refers to the language we use to sense and perceive the world. If we understand these patterns and break them you start doing some other actions. This is termed as Pattern Break in NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) Let me tell you. We ascertain to our belief system that there are certain bad habits which we wish to get rid of. However majority of the patterns are not so useful patterns. Whenever I step into the Gym I read the placard that reads “No Pain. . We can perceive things differently and organize and structure to produce the best possible outcomes. If you want to truly increase your productivity you must have to follow this to avoid all the unwanted and not so useful habits. If these patterns are directed patterns then it is easy and produces amazing results. what we hear. If the pain is not sufficient to stop lazing around then snap it harder so that you will feel the pain and immediately come out of it. the best computer known in the world. you consciously know that you are supposed to be working and not being productive. Change your Habits with NLP January 23. this technique will work only when you want to throw away some pattern and not for people who just want to test it out. It is quite easy to break out this pattern. not exercising. For this I strongly recommended that you take a small rubber band that will fit into you hand. Snap the rubber band immediately in your hand to remind yourself that you are supposed to be disciplined. Few of these perceptions and actions tend to be not useful what we call as bad habits. As soon as you sit to watch TV or play games that bring down your productivity. Wear the rubber band to create a new pattern by breaking the old pattern. I also use it the right context sometimes. we feel (also smell and taste) gets translated into our own perceptions and produces certain outcomes which may be useful or not so useful. Linguistic in NLP. This is a way to bring in some discipline too. you must control the system by taking in some pain. 2008 NLP. No Gain”. Neuro Linguistic Programming is the software to the brain. The outcomes are because of the way we translate our experiences to create our own perceptions. Many times the human computer is corrupted with unwanted thoughts and habits. The Neurological system is based on how we experience the world through the senses. you give excuses and some lame excuses to avoid the situation. Watching TV and playing games and wasting time are deep patterns inside the mind. The input what goes in through what we see. Interestingly we can program the communication channels that we establish within ourselves.Every action of ours is a pattern inside the brain. Bad habits such as eating too much or eating chocolates. snoozing alarm.
This is called the TRIGGER. sounds and feelings that we have. Its only because of how we perceive it internally in the Neuro system. The general feel is that these habit appear from nowhere all of a sudden. Understand that any habit is because of 1) the thoughts that run in the mind 2) the feeling that you sense because of the thoughts (these are called triggers) and 3) the way you program the mind to react to that feeling. Its emotions that drive action and these emotions are formed because of the certain pictures. you must have to program your mind to stop craving for the same. You must have to change the thoughts and the outcome of the thoughts to avoid the action. Does this differ from person to person? Definitely yes and that’s why your liking does not match with everyone else. Why do people not change these habits? Because many believe that they are struck with this bad habit and are of the strong belief that nothing can be done to change the habit. This puts you in the compulsion to eat the same. Say for example.procrastinating and many many more. Probably you run pictures of you enjoying the taste. Many are under the perception that the change would only be temporary and so why bother about something that is bound to come back? This again is a conditioning of the neurons and it is imperative that we change the whole system of thinking. The moment you see a chocolate (of any food or any event) you run pictures of how it would be if you were to eat it. The moment you create these kind of favorable representations in . For example. eating junk food is because of a conditioning of the neuro system which is programmed to understand that the junk food is so tasty and make you feel good. it melting in your mouth and so on. We do not care about this feeling and it keeps growing and when the intensity is at its peak we realize and wish to change it forever. The very fact of that junk food existing would send ripples in your neuro system and acts accordingly. the chocolate smelling good. Remember your mental state is what drives to take action and you can control your mental state. where as these habits are because of constantly conditioning ourselves towards the actions. Logic does not determine action because if that was the true then every person in the world would be perfect and can chose what they want to do and what they do not wish to do. you wish to stop eating chocolates (I have seen many people who wish to do this and hence the same example) and you are not able to do the same.
We as humans always experience frustration in our daily lives. Once you feel different intensify the same feeling. the chocolate is the trigger and you perceive it in a certain way. Make the chocolate smell bad. And every time you do this to yourself you stop the old bad behavior and start creating new one. What is frustration? Frustration is the act of reacting to an event which is not desirable. We need to control and handle the frustration. Following the 3 steps will ensure that you program the perception or the neuro pattern and hence the linguistic or the communication component. the feeling automatically changes. This will give you utmost certainty. melting inside your mouth and so on. Step 3: Install the new identity: Feelings and beliefs are because of identity. you tend to be motivated to take an action immediately and hence grab the chocolate and eat it too (later feel guilty ) Changing the Habit Step 1: Change the way you perceive the Trigger: In this example. it must be at the peak to ensure that you break the threshold. internalize to yourself that you have changed and create a new pattern and the older neuro pattern that’s strong in the system is broken and hence will never be created again. that you have new fresh and good habits too. Instead of reacting. There is another way you can handle the same event. Step 2: Intensify the new feeling: Since you have changed the perception of the trigger. 2008 I am yet to see someone who says “I never get frustrated”. If creating bad ones and easy creating new useful habits is much more easy. Smelling good. Remember the event has already occurred which . It is REACTION that causes the frustration. you do not have time to think on that and decide how to handle the situation. However sometimes we let this frustration take over that hampers our activities and actions.your mind. So once you have stopped yourself from holding to the habit. You are no longer so compulsive to take the chocolate and eat. The moment an event occurs you do not ponder on that. Make it feel some 100 times more so that you do not pick up the chocolate immediately. you could RESPOND to the same event. The moment you RESPOND to the event rather than reacting you never get frustrated. Importantly when you are changing the perception of the trigger. Handling Frustration January 11. The immediate action is impulsive and you react immediately. feel is so hard and thorny in your mouth and so on. Change these representations of the trigger. I would like you to spend sometime on what I have mentioned Frustration is. You do not stop a habit because you see yourself holding to the habit.
3 most important points that you must have in mind to manage frustration – 1) Accept the fact that getting frustrated is a common human act. As you look at event and tell yourself “This event has already happened and is inevitable”. Yes it is very important for you to be associated. which means that you are disassociating yourself and you would tend to look at solutions rather than feel frustrated and have the feeling of let down. I sometimes advocate frustration and a certain amount of frustration is always good because it means that you are expecting better results from yourself. Though some do suggest that giving vent to these feelings is good and acceptable I do not authenticate this theory as the ramifications are very high. blame yourself and scream at yourself you only end up feeling worse. Recall the last time you were frustrated and look at all the questions you asked yourself. you would only respond and not react. To start focusing on solutions rather than the so called “PROBLEM”. You run picture of the event in your mind that leads to an intensive helpless state and fires as frustration. If you start looking at events as events that cannot be avoided and has already occurred then you ponder for solutions rather than disturbing yourself by reacting. This is self sabotage. This is the easiest way to change the feeling of frustration. seems to be existing and never is solved. to be in the thick of things for achieving your outcomes. that disturbs you. Interestingly you can consciously get angry and get angry and frustrated by reacting to an event. The questions you ask yourself can intensify or deintensify your level of frustration. And you have a Choice to respond the way you want to. You need to step out of yourself and look at things from a 3rd persons view. But when you do not get the desired results you must do the devils advocate. It is better to control the emotion as that will do a lot of good because your reaction of frustration could be so intense that it can only intensify more. You tend to loose more energy within you when you get frustrated and the “PROBLEM” though does not even exist. Have you ever asked “What must I do to come out of this?” . Moments before the outburst of emotions and frustration there is a process that is involved. If you were to curse yourself. “This is so pathetic and life of so unfair” and so on…. I am sure it would be questions like “Why the hell did this happen to me”. You want more for yourself and hence get frustrated.means that you cannot do anything about the event now. You are a Champ and you know that you can work out things better and then you get frustrated. 2) Learn from the frustration and move forward instead of getting worked on it 3) Start creating a new belief for yourself that there are other better ways of handling situations that you are aware of You are so much involved and totally associate with the event that frustration crops up and then it just runs through you. which is an advantage for you.
Now change the same question to “what must I do to over come this challenge”. Look at the highest positive intention behind the event and why has the event occurred even though it was not favorable and negative.Do this small exercise. Enjoy every bit of life. We allow ourselves to react to external situations. Because every time you get angry there is a huge amount of negative energy that is generated inside you which can be really destructive. though you might think it is too small. At every place we can find people who are in utmost rage. Invariably expectations from people is what makes us angry. your thoughts? You have the Choice and frustrations are not external they are internal in nature and you know the consequences of frustration are so high. So the choice of not being frustrated will lead you to better outcomes in life. How to Control Anger? December 24. and they feel that they must be in control of themselves. 2007 Most people find it very difficult to control anger and react to situations. It is still possible and easy to overcome anger. The time you take to react to a situation is so huge. All emotions are because of certain pictures that you run in your mind and if you can control these pictures yo! You have done it. Simply because they are not in control of the situation. You can control these emotions much more faster than what you think. recall an event that has been troubling you and for which you get frustrated because you do not get the desired outcomes. Ask your self “why the hell is this happening?” and experience how you feel. Anger is mostly because of an expectation mismatch. We expect certain things to happen in certain way and as it does not we tend to react. The fact is that only because we are in control of ourselves. The communication channel that you establish between the thoughts and the response is so fast that you are not aware of how this happen. An instant can change your life forever which mean an instant can control your anger too. Anger is quite common amongst all however if it exceed limitations can turn to be harmful. All that happens has a purpose and has a positive intention. on the positive purpose which will lead you to a more peaceful and comfortable life. You can focus on the positive intentions. We walk in to our work place expecting things to happen and as they do not happen because of certain people not working on them. Are there times when you . Now how do you feel? You feel more in control of your emotions. we immediately respond. we get angry and show the same. Isn’t it frustrating? I am sure it is. It’s the way the mind perceives. The moment they feel that they are not in control the immediate outburst is anger.
the moment it hears the word relax. what I call as the Mindset . See the people with horns. The Millionaire Mindset December 18. Using Pictures: Control your anger by using the right pictures. While there is a devil that’s there inside your mind wanting to burst out. So this give you lots of time to change the emotion and react in the positive way.stand on a queue and a few minutes looks like a few hours? Definitely yes. We perceive few minutes as few hours. it can be as loud as possible inside your head. An embedded command will immediately make the sub conscious mind take action. The fact is they are no so! So there is a difference not in the skills but. So the same can be done when you perceive a few seconds to be a few minutes and a few hours. Ways to Control the Anger Using Words: The moment you are about to kick start the anger. This is of immense help because the breathing also changes the physiology and hence the images in the mind also change immediately thus making you control your anger Use Humor: Convert your anger into humor. Whatever picture that you see make it as humorous as possible. You are forced to get angry because of an external event and expectations. Use Breathing: Breathe deep from within which will control your anger immediately. just tell yourself “Relax”. like monkey. what you do is just distort time. it calms down. You can even see the letters of R – E – L – A – X on the person who is standing in front of you or make the letter in air so that it replaces the pictures you see that provokes you to anger. you immediately get angry. you said it right in the attitude. 2007 Have you ever wondered why there are many people who are so wealthy and many so poor or even average leading a life from pay cheque to pay cheque? I am sure you must have seen people who seem to be most skilled and yet not so rich and wealthy while there are many who are not educated and yet so rich and wealthy? What makes the difference? Do they have a magic wand to use and generate load of money? If the well learned were to the richest the so called Financial Guru’s and Business Guru’s must be the wealthiest people in the world. The moment some of your expectations are not met. This will instantly put a smile on your face and after that you just cannot get angry. All you need to do it the push away the picture that you see inside your mind and create a blank white picture which conveys nothing and hence the emotion also is so neutral. like cartoon characters and so on.
Generous: Share more and create value for people 3. only to realize that you have not given them what they truly deserved. Certain beliefs include I don’t have a strong family to support me I am not lucky enough to be so rich I don’t have enough experience to venture into new things to make money Many things to make money are risky If you want to be rich you need to be illegal and unethical Take a minutes time and be honest to yourself and list all these kind of limiting beliefs that you. If we do not face challenges it only means that the goals that we set are not challenging and we are not using the potential what we are capable of. investing in stock market is risky. Many people Blame. The subconscious mind is so powerful that what you perceive is true will become true. In the movie.It is just a way of thinking. Take Responsiblity September 9. These are like chains that are tied to your leg. If success is not the immediate outcome of some of the actions that you have taken then you may deem it as a failure and respond in way that would make you a victim. be one of the richest man in the world. when they actually are not and its just a perception that you have that they are tied and they are pulling you. The fact being that you are pulling yourself. 1. and do what you love Its your LIFE. An important factor that does not make people rich and wealthy is the beliefs they carry. Whatever you have listed. Just imagine the day you are in your death bed. the villain in the movie. Here are 5 important mindsets of a Millionaires. you are surrounded with your loved ones. If you say. 2007 When we move towards achieving our goals in life. that’s a limiting belief in itself for the simple reason that if this was true. Passion: Love what you do. Then do you think you would be happy? And isn’t it important that you die peacefully and happily. never could Warren Buffet. Think Big: Believe that you too can be millionaire or even billionaire 2. Unless you change your beliefs it can never happen. its time you broke these beliefs and move forward. the Mission Impossible – II. So during these time when we face challenges we do not achieve our goals and we tend to react differently to the situations that arise. a reason of belief that makes the difference. The choice is always yours. Excuse and Complain . Focus: Know what to focus on and get what the want 4. we are bound to face challenges. Learn: Always Millionaires are ready to learn and invest on learning 5. Sean Ambrose (Casted by Dougray Scott) says “I would prefer to be a billionaire rather than be a popper”.
This becomes a pattern and hence no action is taken for reaching the outcome. These are typical victim stories that do not get us to move ahead in life. the change does not really occur because “WHY” is not answered. we tend to not take action considering that we know that anyways we would continue giving the same reason. We tend to blame others and say things like “”My boss was the main reason for me not getting my promotion”. While we strive hard to change. Rest are the victims. Make the powerful Choice of Taking 100% RESPONSIBILITY. When you wonder what must happen for my life to change. Ultimately who is responsible for our life? If we allow others to control our life. any behavior can be changed only when there is a need for change. Not even 5% of the people in the world follow this. then we get the best out of life. “The business period is dull and so I am not able to grow”. or there is too much of work and so on. We always dream of having the Magic Lamp for us to get whatever we want. Any habit. get the senior most promotion at work and many more. We only think of “What” and never the why. In the process we allow others to control our lives. Many times you go into the denial mode and complain external events for your so called failure. you delete the most important aspect of the change. 5 Things that will change your LIFE September 6. Challenges in life can happen and if we are in control of it. Unfortunate that neither do we have the Magic Lamp nor would the genie come for rescue.that makes them the Victim. it does not take us anywhere. 2007 Everyone wants a miracle to happen in Life? Win a Lottery or lose weight over night. And even after realizing that its only an excuse we still do not take action because we know that anyways we would give the same excuses. Decide for yourself if you want to be a Victim or Take Responsibility and CHANGE. We do not action take action to move forward in achieving the Goal because we expect the same to happen. But you must be ready to change. we must have to take responsibility of everything that happens around us. We desire to change the way we lead our lives. For example. we look for all options and we do not realize that its just right there. like you say “anyways my boss would sabotage my promotion so why should I work for a promotion”. CHANGE for yourself and for your life and Take 100% responsibility. Remember a small change could make a huge difference in the quality of the life. inside us. “People annoy me too much and I get frustrated”. We are solely responsible for our life. The moment we focus on “WHY”. Excuses being one of the most common responses of failures. we definitely know that we must have to exercise everyday and give excuses like there is not time. We fail to understand that we are the ones who need to make this happen. This stops you from achieving Success. we understand ourselves better and hence move .
It cannot take millions of years. The fire is knowing the answer WHY? Laziness is not inherited.. The moment you decide to change. it does not stay with someone all the time. Stop being lazy… To be continued. And once you change it is permanent unless you want to change again. probably can be considered as a mental disease and any mental disease you have absolute control to overcome. Say if I want you to move away from your chair and start doing some work outside. You don’t need a prescription from a doctor to be away from it. it is not a disease.Is laziness a disease? Not really. Make the choice and Change this moment and it would change your life forever. . If I tell you there is something interesting that is waiting for you outside. Make the best choice. I believe that being Lazy is a CHOICE. YOU 5. 5 important things that will change your life forever are… 1. So Laziness is not an inherent property of a person. 2007 Being Lazy means the lack of drive to work. YOU 2. If you want to stop being lazy first rekindle that hidden fire in you. the fire is missing and if you have a good reason for WHY? then you start doing it. you take the step. there is a Fire in the building the next moment you start running to save your life. the lack of desire and commitment to start taking action on something. It is a property that is chosen. you might not be all that excited and motivated to go out. the journey to that amazing decision in life. it is probably infectious. Its about what you want to do and what you do not. YOU 3. Why? If you were to clean your room and you wonder why should I.Change happens in a moment. However if I were to tell you. What determines success or failure is action and if you are lazy you know. The rest of the time is a process to change. YOU So make the choice now! Take a piece of paper and write atleast 3 things that you want to change in your life and you are totally under control of the same. Stop being Lazy – I August 21. Fire comes out a of a purpose. Laziness is definitely one of the biggest sins of mankind. YOU 4. If needed you would still run away from the place you are. you never take action and you are bound to fail.
This puts you in a lazy negative state and hence you are not driven to take some action. It is true that there are some thoughts that trigger laziness. State is controlled by 3 major components. and you are not sure where you are heading to then mid way you stop. once you know that you must do it. must have a end to it which can help in sustaining the interest in doing. First identify the reasons for your laziness. If you are lazy there is a certain posture for that. Say if you work hard continuously without taking a break. Your Thoughts 3. It could be even tiredness. The Body Physiology is very important for you to be in a good state. painful. But do understand what triggers you to be Lazy?Say you want to start a jog in the morning and then you set an alarm in the morning and laziness takes control and you don’t take an effort to wake up.So first things first. 2007 Now you have a Goal what next? There are times that I know that doing something is important however I still be lazy. The Words you use. feel bored by just changing your body right now. Your body 2. You can right chose to feel bad. If it does not lead you to anything there is definitely no reason for your have the fire in you. does not make any difference but still you need it. 2007 How do you stop from being lazy? Is it very simple? Yes it is. the drive. motivation and fire will be high. I always repeat the moment you understand the WHY part of it. One of key things that drive you is you STATE. . People say “Writing my daily expenses is important and I know that however I am still lazy about doing it”. This will push you to achieve much more than what you can.For every single activity you do. you might not have the fire to start and move on for the simple reason that you are not aware where you are heading to and what to expect out of you steering the train ahead. identify if you are lazy about something WHY are you lazy.Do you have a GOAL?Anything that you do must lead you to something. So start now and set more GOALS!To be continued… Stop being Lazy – III August 23. I am so lazy to wake up in the morning”. this kills your quality of life.Stop being Lazy – II August 22. feel lousy. stressful. the internal images that you run in your mind are boredom. When you want to clean your room. It may be small or big. The Mental State. If you are steering a train. However this happens very rare. How do take stock of these important actions and stop being lazy. that could trigger you to being lazy. Though it might be true that cleaning a room may not excite you but still. 1. This is a frequent question I am asked. then you need to feel motivated. but still I don’t do my exercises everyday. “I know doing exercises is very good for health.
3. by controlling your thoughts 1. just decide on what you would reward yourself once you complete the task. Refer the previous post on “Change the words you use and Change your LIFE” to learn more on the same. if your health is good then there is a high possibility that you may not feel lazy. Make a mental picture of the pain that you will have to undergo if you do not complete a task which you feel lazy to start and complete. Make a mental picture of you starting to work on the task and you taking a step by step action of the task. Make the picture run fast and clear in you mind This series of mental pictures that you have created will drive you and get you the required motivation. . take the first step and change your posture. Make a mental picture of positive gain that you will get as you complete the task. To be continued… Stop being Lazy – V August 25. Check your health: Be watchful as I have told before. your body physiology. 2007 The words you use definitely create an impact in the quality of your life.Other ways to stop being lazy 1. Pump up yourself and start getting more energetic. 2007 Your thoughts drive your actions.When you want to take control and shift being lazy. Stop being Lazy – IV August 24. Like I have written before in the previous post. The reward must be something that you really have been wanting for sometime and integrity to yourself is very important. What kind of thoughts will drive you? It can happen in two ways. Reward Yourself: When you want to complete a task and you want to stop being lazy. One is when you see the pain involved in not completing a task which you are lazy to complete. If you go through these steps you can beat laziness very easily. Intensify the feeling so that the pain is high. Unless you complete the task ensure that you do not reward yourself. This may also drive you to take action immediately. 2. Generally we would like to move away from pain and hence this works wonders and will give you fire and energy to start taking action 2. the way you alter your mind will make a difference in the quality of your life. or you may feel the pleasure of completing a task which you feel lazy about.
A walking stick is definitely not a choice for you but you must have to hit the road. I am sure you don’t need a reason as to why. have them in very very small quantities. Take a walking stick and hold each other and walk short distances. You need to be more conscious about what you eat. . job. The way you control your body definitely determines your power. take that first step and stop being lazy. Going to the gym everyday is definitely one ways. Just remember everything what your mom and your grandmother told you when you were young. a great English Poet Stay Fit Physically. I am not saying starve yourself and eat only them but you can definitely treat your body for some cleaning. energy and fitness. Remember you mom used to tell you. now you can make that your meal once in a while.Edward Young. breathe in fresh air and enjoy more circulation in their body. Eat well in the right possible way. You at this age can do more. If you think you cannot resist temptation then don’t give a hand to it. It could be small but will be motivating you to complete the task. Follow these and Stop Being Lazy”Tomorrow is the day when idlers work and fools reform” .3. keep the blood gushing though your internal systems that need to work in tandem. Physically fitness simply means that you need to take good care of your body. Its as simple as that. Remember what your grandparents used to when they got old. run. Recall what mom told you about junk food . The moment you feel that you are lazy. This will keep them at bay and not allowing something to harm them. Cut them out is not what I am telling you. This is to keep their energy going. Mentally and Emotionally February 14. While young if you were eating fruits and vegetables as part of your meal. 2008 One of the best secrets of being Fit is going back to basics. When young you did not learn the science behind why you need to eat the fruits and vegetables and now you must learn them. walk do whatever to keep the energy going. finish off the vegetables in your place. follow them and you will be a bundle of joy. Take the small step immediately. Throw the bottles away that consume your energy (I mean alcohol) and never light a cigar anymore. Commit to yourself and also call a friend and tell your friend about the activity that you will complete (Don’t tell your friend that you are lazy and that’s why you are making it a must 4. Let me stress on that… very small quantities. Fruits cleanse your body very quickly. and eat all the fruits.
Call your friend and share the joke with them so that you can hear the laugh that would make you emotionally stronger Remember there are many people who suffer in the world. You just need to shift your behavior. your behavior is so. While many say that Day dream is not so good. Going by the law of averages. You need to be Emotionally charge and fit to take your life to the higher level. Thank yourself for what you are. This would mean a lot to you because there is a purpose behind your existence and you will start moving towards the purpose. When you think about these people. Every day make sure you enjoy a joke. get angry or get annoyed. Remember stress is more often or not an outcome of fear that something not so favorable will happen or something that you wish may not happen. Have a specific time in a day when you feel the gratitude for all that is already existing. Because you are dreaming of something that you want and something you desire.000 words about 5000 are the words that demonstrate an emotion and of 5000. If you feel down and depressed remember that not what you are. we tend to use more negative words than positive words that reduce the quality of life. . who suffer to protect themselves from extremes of hot or cold. thank the entire world for supporting you. You are not a depressed person. There will be challenges along your way but you must have to condition yourself emotionally too so as to handle them with ease. Recall all the nice things that have happened so far in your life. 2007 The English language in totality has more than 40. 3500 plus words are negative emotions. That radiates positive vibrations in your mind and in turn the body. who do not have good food to eat. Recall all those people who do not have shelter. You will feel more relaxed moving away from stress. You have the choice to focus on whatever you wish to.000 words of which an average person uses only 3000 words. Whenever you want to condition yourself to elevate the quality of your life ask the question “HOW?” and you would automatically find the solution for whatever challenges you are facing. A secret for you emotionally charge up yourself. Laugh your heart out. is to play games with kids or spend time pursuing a hobby. Of these 40. So distress yourself and play games and have fun. Change the words you use and Change your LIFE – III August 20. thank the people you know for making a difference. I always recommend you to do that. there is never a reason for you to get frustrated.Mental fitness is tremendously important.
Its the way we perceive things and get tensed and Stressed. you feel that way. Let me tell you a secret. One strong belief that you must carry is that you have all the resources in you and you must tap these resources. That’s why a great man called Henry Ford said. Going back to the previous post of how you can distort and say “Stock Market it Risky”. Stress cannot be caused by an external force. When you get stressed. When you say “Yes that’s a Challenge” you are giving your mind a possibility of a solution. To be continued.. you are shutting down possibilities and you get into a negative frame of mind. If you say its a PROBLEM. 2007 I meet people when they say “Stress is part of life and I can’t beat it”. SPEND against INVEST: If you say “I spent on the training program” it means nothing come back where as you say “I invested on the training program” means that you only invested and you need to get back something more valuable in the program. can really make a difference in the way you tap these resources. When you give a command your brain that you can’t then you don’t get to attain the resources that you need. Your work does not speak to you and say “Get stressed” or “Feel the tension”. your body get tensed. These deletions. So defer yourself from using not so useful words that can impact the quality of your life. Let us consider few examples here… PROBLEM against CHALLENGE: When you say you have a PROBLEM you need to fix it which you say you have a CHALLENGE. then you face it. distortions and generalizations impact the words that use. 2007 By changing the words we use. it creates a powerful and useful Internal Representation. there are lots of ways to beat Stress. your mind gets tensed and you start thinking of all the pain involved in the process of doing the work. For example you say to yourself “I am the best”. Many such words are there and if they dis-empower you must stop using them now! Change the words you use and Change your LIFE – II August 18. . you feel differently and un-resourceful. Not true. 7 Ways to Beat your STRESS Now August 13. “If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing. The words that you use. you’re right”. you achieve accessing the resources. Stress is out of tension for something happening or not. while you just “Yes! I can do it”. while you say to yourself “Oh I am so lousy”. this definitely impacts your emotions and mental state and that will not allow you to take action.Words give us certain feeling and different words have different meanings.
Stress is just a State of mind and if we have control over it our life definitely gets better. Now how can you beat the Stress? 1. Exercise:Any physical activity is bound to beat stress. Be more active and exercise more if your stressed more. I do lots of training programs and if I don’t have my morning jog, i feel more tired 2. Music: High energy music will increase the blood flow in your body and make you relaxed. Alternatively Baroque Music will soothe you. 3. Take a Break: Do what you like doing and take a break and start your work again. Even at work place you can have something that can give you a great break. Like a scrabble, pictionary or many other things. 4. Write on a Paper: Take a paper and scribble down your thoughts (Alternatively pick up the phone and talk to your friend) 5. Relax: Just relax, take a massage, take a nice shower. 6. Change your Mind: Start to focus on the most relaxed and most joyous things that you have. 7. SLEEP (This is the last thing that you must do though
Do you get angry with yourself?
August 9, 2007
I wonder, is it worth getting angry. When I do my trainings on NLP, I am asked how to control anger. Anger is an emotion, its a state of mind which can be controlled and which can be avoided. It is very important that you are in control of you state and that’s what will fetch the right kind of results. But how getting angry with yourself? Can you turn Anger into Motivation? yes! isn’t that wonderful. I think for the first time you are seeing someone saying get angry more. Why? Think about the reasons in the past when you have been angry with yourself. It is because that you are not happy with your performance, or the quality of the work that you did. It just means that you expected more out of yourself. Can this be a powerful driving force to achieve more? Whenever you are getting angry you are informing your Subconscious mind that you can do better and you can achieve more. This only means that, the next time you do something you expect the best out of you and you start doing the best. This is simple yet powerful. So when you get angry with yourself, its ok and you are just giving commands to your subconscious mind “Be the Best always”
Is Selling Easy?
August 9, 2007
I have been training people on Sales for quite sometime and I have lots of experienced people who say sometimes “Selling is difficult”. I don’t say so all the time. No doubt Selling is a numbers game but remember this and the chances that you succeed are higher 1. Emotions drive action - More than logic as a sales person you must emotionally charge up the customer so that he can take action 2. There are no naturally born sales people, salesman are made and its a science that you can master. I have personally tested many techniques, it works for me and it can work for anyone. 3. Remember you never must sell a service or a product, you must always sell a benefit. You must always prepare before a meeting and Success is always yours. These are simple yet powerful.
Feel Better as fast as you can!!
August 6, 2007
Are there are times that you feel tired and worn out. There are much easier ways to out beat them. Probably you have been working up late for quite sometime or have been losing energy doing some herculean task. Getting tired is normal and your shoulders get cramped very fast. This just means that you must have the right was to beat this tiredness and feel better. Its not magic to come out of this and so many simple ways you can do it 1. Eat Right and Eat Better: Stop the crackers and wafers when you need a break. Have a nutrition rich snack for break. Ensure that you meals are balanced with the right amount of everything. Eat lots of fruits at least 1 hour before dinner everyday. There is no limit to the amount of fruits that you can eat. 2. Exercise: I hope that you are not skipping your exercise. Do it everyday. You miss it and the chances of you getting tired are higher 3. A Nap: Check if you lack sleep and if so take a short nap for 10 minutes during the day. Not more or not less. Really one of the most effective ways to out beat tiredness 4. Laugh: Laugh out loudly and have lots of fun. This will energize you the fastest. Do this and see for yourself how much more energy you feel within you.
Never Settle for Ordinary and Less
July 27, 2007
It is important that we always achieve high and one of the best ways to do it is increase the level of acceptance. When we start doing things we get results and over a period of time there is a possibility that
we start thinking, “This is what I am destined for”. This puts in a mental state of accepting low from yourself. This will never take you anywhere. A key to Success is by raising your own standards, you own level of acceptance. Never settle for the ordinary in life, then there is no meaning in Life. It might be a struggle but the end results is what matters the most. Successful people I have seen never settle for the less or the ordinary. Definitely, being ordinary and settling for less will give you the comfort, the surety and the security. But that will never make you grow, will never help to be big. You dream big you achieve big. Few things that you must have to do to life up to your expectations Always keep increasing your own standard. Today if you did 100 then tomorrow you must do at least 105. This will push you every day. Continuously improve on your performance. In every aspect look for improvements. Your objective might be met and still there is a huge amount of improvement always persisting Have small term, medium and a long term Goals. Stretch yourself so as to set higher goals for yourself Know the purpose. You must know as to what drives you and why and for what you need to achieve anything. Dream Big, Achieve Big
Withstand the Pain of Not achieving…
July 15, 2007
Is it very important to withstand the pain of not achieving what we want? Definitely YES!. I always wondered if there are ways in which you can avoid the Pain. But you expect something big from yourself then you must have to bear that pain. Whenever you want to achieve success and gain out of it, you need to work for it. During the process you go through several stages. You go through the learning stage. When you do something for the very first time then you need to learn the strategy to achieve the same. Alternatively you can also model other people and learn their strategies and take action to get the results when you want. Many times when you are learning something new for the first time there is a possibility of Confusion. This is a very important stage where you need to have a solid mindset that YES i am determined to learn and achieve. There are a few people who tend to say “This is not for me”, “this is for only experienced guys!” and many more. This really will pull you down, which means you need to withstand and learn and move forward. As you learn a very important step is that of “ACTION”. This is where many people fail. I train thousands of people every year, ranging from a 9 year old kid to 75 year old people. Everyone come into my training
program and learn many new strategies and techniques and then realize that yes these will work wonders in life when implemented. And majority of them really take action. Thats what really gets them success. Now when you take action there is no guarantee that you will get your desired result, in fact there is no guarantee that the strategy that you adopt will work and that’s when you get into this stage of Frustration. When Frustration creeps in there are 2 choices that you have and 2 ways in which you can treat the frustration 1. Give Up - Which is what many people do 2. Have the focus and move forward with the commitment to yourself that “YES! I am determined to achieve“. When you take massive action there is a possibility that you don’t get the result you feel so painful. But this pain is temporary. If you withstand this pain then sure you will have long terms benefits. I know people who are not willing to bear this pain and make the choice 1 and give up. Later when they see others achieving then realize “Oh God I must have done that”. Its too late and its highly pain staking and its more painful. These short temporary pains are just to test people and the one who survive it are the ones who create history for themselves.
Resources =/= Results
July 5, 2007
Many times I am asking this question. “How do you manage to produce such exceptional results in life”. Simple I take Consistent Action. Its not about the resources that we have that makes us successful and achieve things. Its the kind of action that we take that makes a huge difference. Remember Henry Ford, the founder of “Ford Motors”. What made him successful was the simple reason that he took action to achieve big. He started Ford because of the Passion he had for machines. Many people have the needed resources. You see many engineers who are so good in their area of expertise, yet the struggle to achieve. We all have the resources and we can tap them as and when we need. But if you don’t take action for what you have then the resources are useless. RESOURCES =/= RESULTS RESOURCES + ACTION = RESULTS. If you ought to get some resources then you need take action for it. You might have all the ingredients of a recipe. If you don’t use these ingredients then there is no dish that is churned out. You have the ingredients, the resources. Take ACTION to reap the results.
Show you conviction You must thoroughly convinced about the product or service that you are selling. This not only makes you comfortable but also give the other person a feel of comfort and trust. 2. Find all possible ways to achieve the result you want 3. If you find others can help you in finding the solution then you know it. This will take you to a new level of achievement and help you to come out of the troubles you are facing. This definitely puts the other person on line and gives them the edge to beat you down. 2007 When you want to achieve big in life. Which means you must find a way to handle these challenges.How to Handle all your Challenges? June 26. When you step aside for a Sales Presentation or a Sales Meeting and discussing about the product and doing your best to convert many time we are struck and we get confused on how to proceed. Study well on you Product / Service Give due importance to the content. You cannot run away from these challenges but you need to find a way to handle them. Remove any negative thoughts you have about these challenges. Remember to take action on these smaller chunks. 1. As long as you milk. This will give you the utmost comfort and control towards any situation that may arise 3. So its important that you have the skills to be an amazing Sales Person. you are maintained well and the moment you stop milking you are not respected. 2007 Every person in Sales is compared to a Cow in Real Life. So gathering certain points and addressing them in a sequential manner will help you attract people to listen to you 2. Few important things that you must have to follow before a Sales Meeting or a Sales Presentation 1. Organize your thoughts logically It is important to put forth the idea in the most cohesive fashion. Build Rapport It is very important that you build rapport with the team. Break them down into smaller chunks and they will start looking small. Once you break them into chunks for each of these find all possible solutions to achieve the desired solution. Make them understand that you are not there for . you are bound to have challenges in life. You must believe in the idea before you sell the same to others. 4. This will create a mindset for you that it so damn easy to achieve anything you want. You must know about the Service or the Product you are selling. ASK them. This will give a new dimension to your challenge. How to give a Killer Sales Presentation? June 19.
the great Edison always considered every single one of them as a learning experience and went out to invent the light bulb. This inspiration is what drive me too even today to achieve the best in life. 2007 Motivation is very important for ones life. Give priority to every person you meet and have a thought that every single meeting or presentation will change few lives. the biggest earth quake and what not. Motivation is what drives you to do well and pushed to achieve your Vision. When he was setting up the Honda Car company he had the Atom Bomb blast. However Inspiration is equally important or sometimes more important too. Lance Armstrong while being the best in cycle racing was affected with cancer and he fought through with so much courage and confidence. Life is unfair and we can’t really blame anyone. The fact of considering a failure as a learning experience and a feedback is always because of the inspiration of Thomas Edison. inspiration is what gives you the hope that you too can succeed. When we have lots of unreasonable events and unwarranted events that happen in life we look for certain people who have undergone the same or something bigger and thats when we get a ray of hope and a ray of Inspiration. This Inspiration is what gives us the Power more forward in life with more hope and higher dreams. Possibilities always arise because of Inspiration. the world war II. Motivation is Power and Inspiration is Growth . Inspiration is what gives you the reasons to stand tall amidst failures. Life was unfair but he was under total control and he went on to achieve the biggest feat of making his car company the biggest in the world. We defintely get the inspiration from these to achieve much more in life. Having failed 9999 times while inventing the light bulb. Honda. and your Sales Pitch will always be at its best Do you need Motivation or Inspriration? June 12.selling but for giving them the needed tools to make their life better. founder of the Honda Car company followed every moment. This is true but how many follow. Mr. your Goals and what you want to achieve in life.
This is something similar to how life moves. leadership as a wisdom needs to be achieved. Wealth. The Born Leader in you May 18. It will help you move forward with immense confidence and ultimate peace and satisfaction for having done something based on your values So start writing your values today and learn more about yourself. But if there is no driving factor to the goals. An example could be that you would want to stay at home on a Sunday and spend time with your family. I think you are good”. For Making decisions: Many times we are caught between making a decision of what to do in life. 3. Values act like a driving force to reach you desired Goals. and in what order of priority. Few reasons why Values are a Must 1. .Do you know your Values? May 30. If you know your values then you would not get jolted around 2. Leaders are made. She cited many examples of great leaders across the globe. If they go against your values you would not consider them or support them. A young boy sitting in the front desk was very excited about hearing and had that energy in him to believe that he could make a good leader put his hand up and gave a smile to the teacher and asked her “Why is that you never mentioned your name in the list of good leaders. Fame. you don’t regret making the decision. You know your desired outcomes and your goals. It is about how you believe and what you believe. Greatness can be achieved. Gets you Peace: You make a decision based on your values. Helps in identifying people. There was a time when I met this teacher in a school who was talking to her kids in class on what leadership and what a leader must be. The teacher was also stressing on the fact that one must have a role model so as to achieve big in their life. Again she gave a few names who could be probably role models in various areas of life. 2007 Many times I am posed with this question are leaders born? No. while you have an uncompleted assignment which needs to be sent and you are not sure if it can be completed. This really makes your head spin.g. You will achieve the best. situations that you want: You would only consider those people or situations that support your values. and you are caught between the two. 2007 Knowing what your values are very important. Its like Fuel to a propeller. then your don’t get anywhere near the goals. A Rocket knows that it has to land at the moon and without fuel in the tank the rocket does not move. Money. Family etc. Values are the answer to the question “What is important in your life?” E. This really makes us worry for the simple reason that we are not sure of what to do.
2007 Many times do you feel that you want to do and achieve something but again something holds you back and you are not taking the necessary step? If it a Yes. From the cocoon. Our mind behaves in the same way. Human life is like a rubber band. It stretches itself way beyond its capabilities. This really does not allow us to move forward in life and we get struck. the zone of pampering ourselves. Now repeating the same a few times would ensure that the rubber band does not get back. Cheers to the Leader in You!! Stretch more and achieve more… May 5. and this gives the power for them survive in the world. As a Leader all you need is the “Identity” and “Courage” to achieve greatness in you. the zone of security. I am learning and I am growing”. The next time you feel stretched and uncomfortable. then you know that we must stretch ourself beyond our own expectations. then you are not out to stretch yourself.Many times what you don’t realize you don’t have needs to be showcased and given light to by others. One of the biggest mistakes that I have seen people do is that when they are stretching they tend to compare themselves to many others and that really pulls them down even more. We want to do and achieve more but we refuse to step out of the comfort zone. They feel let down by themselves and in the process feel lousy and do not act upon anything. This would put you in a much more energetic and powerful state that will make you perform better in every activity of your life. It stretches beyond. You must have seen how the cocoon. the more you stretch the more it expands and you let go the rubber band it comes back but not to its same position. the butterfly has to emerge and it struggles. Many times we do not want to step out of the zone of comfort. But once we decide to step up and stretch more then life for us becomes even more easier for the simple reason that we begin to expect more from us. shapes itself into a butterfly. We act like the Rubber Band. then life becomes difficult and had for them Make the choice today. decide to stretch and go out to stretch yourself in every area of your life . Sometimes stretching yourself could be painful but is it beneficial for you? If the answer is Yes. If they do not stretch. then tell yourself “Wow.
Else the Horse goes Haywire. Just imagine we get into a Presentation and then we have a thought like “I hope I don’t screw up this presentation” what state of mind do you get into. If there is no Goal there is not life for our Life. So now what does Success Mean for you? Understanding what you want and achieving them is Success. This will defintely put them in a lousy state of mind and they never get to do what they want. This is success. Write down your goal right now. We have the ultimate choice to focus on what we want to. I always take the metaphor of a Soccer Game. Running haywire. Many people say “Investments and Trading are very risky”. Probably out of a few hundred people they know only a few would have lost money and they generalize the same and start having thoughts like “By chance I lose my precious money what happen”. 2007 Some people equate success to amassing huge sums of money and few by being more popular. So now you know what Success Means for You !!! Your Thoughts are Like Horses?? April 29. If you are one like this. challenges while reaching your goal and not always do you hit the goal. It may be negative or positive. Are your thought similar to that of horses where you tend to go haywire and think of unusual things. how would the game be? Absolutely No Life in the game and the same is true even for life. Taking those small strides and moving forward will create a big impact of life. Fear or Stress. . At every single moment in time you are thinking. Simple a Negative State of Mind probably a State of Confusion. There will be struggles. They tend to focus on only negatives. It is just about what and how we focus on it”. This is defintely a remorse for many. You have seen horses are made to focus on where they are running.What does Success Mean for You? May 1. This will make us perform better. it takes you no where. They tend to imagine things that need not necessarily happen and then get into a lousy state of mind. To reiterate “For any experience or event there is always two polarities. 2007 Are your thoughts like Horses. This will only make you perform bad. Many people however measure Success by achieving simple Goal they set for having a very happy and satisfied life. its a learning experience and you bounce back and hit your target. These thoughts however can be positive or negative and we can defintely choose to focus on what we want. Our Thoughts to a great extent determine the State of Mind we are in. Imagine 22 people kicking a ball and no Goal post in the game. And every single action we take is based on the State of Mind we are in.
Lack of Belief 2. They only Wish to be successful they don’t make SUCCESS a must for their LIFE. Not knowing precisely what they want 3. Imagine if I were to ask you to run outside from your home would you do so? I tell you you will feel good if you run over there. 101% that you will run. Contentment is never a reason. Every single one of us always want something more it could be materialistic or an internal need. The same FIRE is what you need. Chances are high that you might not. Either way each one of us always want something more. The most happiest person wants more of the same or something else. CHOOSE NOW. Be Happy”. boredom. Always been a catchy song which forces to convey always be happy and there is no reason for you not to be happy. Fear 7. Once you make SUCCESS a must then you achieve it. Procastination 5.Never Let Loose your mind and thoughts and make them go the way you want and not make it run in the auto pilot mode. STAY FOCUSSED. 2007 What stops people from being successful. stress. Even the worlds richest person wants more of freedom and fame. Laziness 4. And stop all the KILLERS of SUCCESS Be Happy ! April 17. 2007 You must have sure heard this song by Bobby McFerrin. So when all of us want something more then what stop few from getting the same? 1. ill health and many more. you really don’t need a reason to be happy. HAVE GREAT THOUGHTS Killers of Success April 25. “Don’t Worry. Self Doubt 6. The know how Most importantly I have seen people who lack the needed DRIVE. And how to be Happy Always? Simple . anxiety. But if I were to tell you that there is a FIRE that is engulfing you shortly in the room where you are sitting. Happiness moves you away from tiredness. I think one of the most best ways to achieve is to have the drive to do so. The truth is that. Build that FIRE in your NOW.
In my training program I ensure that I fill the talk with humour. It never is possible. Smile for every situation possible and be Happy 4.CHOOSE RIGHT NOW TO BE HAPPY! Simple yet proficient. Every single thing that I do makes me more happy. Happiness is a STATE of MIND. you would never give up. But why. Happiness is always a choice we make and it is not a outcome to certain events. jokes and many such things to make it fun and that puts people in a happy state or emotion. Time and again I have been asked. every single action can make you happy. I am sure you would have ready about Edison who had 9999 times experimented before he invented the light bulb and what is stopping you today?? Is it you abilities or your attitude? Definitely I would say “ATTITUDE”. once said “The achievements today are only a sum of all our thoughts yesterday. Be Happy Overcome Obstacles and Win DreamZ April 16. Make a Choice to be Happy 2. Imagine when you were young how many times you would have fallen down while attempting to walk. Decide to feel happy and you will feel happy. And yes you dream big then obstacles are bound to happen. It can never get you happiness. I can have fun and be happy while I still do things with at most focus. satisfaction. I type this message for all the readers I feel happy. Expect things around to go well and be Happy 3. I have been time again focusing on GOALS and DREAMS. Every single thing. This is very true. And yet you did not give up for the simple reason you wanted to achieve big. a sense of achievement or a high. I do my training programs I am happy. Many people refuse to dream big and more importantly take action because they fear failure and embarassement. 2007 Pascal the great. don’t you take things seriously. Dream big then you achieve big. When you were young that was walking was quite big. Few simple ways to be happy 1. If you are PASSIONATE. Many people arguably say “If I get this I will be very happy”. You must never fear failure. has always been my answer. You are today where your thoughts of yesterday have brought you and you will be tomorrow where the thoughts of today take you”. Hundreds of times. You don’t really need a right reason to be Happy. Not that I am telling you to attract failure but ensure that because of fear of failure you don’t end up no where. How your parents figured out that you were capable of walking was when you were independently walking with no support. Even when you needed support you . Probably you achieve something you can get peace.
2007 When do people change? 1. Overcome obstacles and live your DreamZ Life is very Fair !! April 12. So make the CHOICE. They are anyways gifted. Just experience how it would be when you failed when you were young. But how people overcome is by simple means 1. God is Unfair. I have visited many countries and everywhere I see people of different races and different life styles. You failed during your attempts to walk and then you give up. 3. Amazing movie. I really don’t know why. Most of us have 2 hands to use. 2007 I see people crib every day. So the brain is the same. And with all these resources the same we what stops people from being the best? I guess it is the ability to think what is possible and what is not possible. Many people say “you can’t do it” because “They cant do it”. how would your life be? Life would be miserable and the same holds good for all your dreams. Never let other pull you down. You failed a many times when you were walking but still did not give up. Every single one of us have the same number of neurons. a goal and they ensure they achieve it 2. Thats why I think everyone is given the same set of resources. The Pain of the current is so high it become unbearable and they decided to change 2. 2 eyes to see. If you give up life will be miserable. 2 legs to walk. They foresee an amazing opportunity and they decide to take up a challenge and start doing things .only held on to the chair. Close to 1000 Billion neurons and every neurons capability is so high. We have the same brain. You have the belief that things are possible then you achieve big. They are forced to change because of certain external forces and pressures 3. They are sure of what they want in their life. table or the wall next to you. So its time for you to prove you can do it. I think this what is life is all about struggles. No what the difference that gets these two set of people. Few of them comfortable in their life and few struggling. Remember this life what we have is gifted. They have a dream. We must achieve BIG Time for a CHANGE!! April 9. Recently I saw this movie called “In Pursuit of Happyness”. I don’t get what I want and only others get everything.
it pays to be smart. I have helped several in the past personally. results and most importantly the emotions that flow. No matter how smart you are. finding out what works and what doesn’t. 2. and then adjusts their course of action as needed.Many times I see people who are forced to change and the pressure on them is so high that they do not know to handle the change in the best possible way. What do you want to do so that you can achieve more. They think about things before jumping in.” 3. Change things that will make you satisfied. As you read the list. I know people who push themselves to move away from laziness and that means a lot to them. As Confucious once said. and also take the time after-the-fact to actively reflect to fully understand what happened or didn’t happen. They know how intuitions and insights come to them and are tuned-in internally to make wise decisions. “He who knows others is wise. Identify what causes frustration for you and change them 2. Change directly reflects on your performance. They attract negatives in their life sometimes and they end up having an even more miserable life. etc. Below are some qualities of smart people. joyful and happy Get Smart April 9. 2007 In today’s competitive world. I am sure there is something you could “get smarter” about. . A Change need not be big a small change in your life can make your life totally different. Make Decisions Intuitively Smart people listen to and follow their intuition. But Change immediately. he who knows himself is enlightened. Use Active Reflection Smart people reflect on and learn from past experiences. Few immediate ways to change 1. They do their best to escape from what they are doing and move towards negativity. weaknesses. Remove those small things that annoy you a lot 3. Don’t wait for the disaster to happen in life. personality. ask yourself: Am I as smart as I could be in this area? How could I get smarter? 1. The best of course is by changing based on certain outcomes you want to achieve. This is a great way to change 4.” they know that the most important (and interesting) thing to know about is “self. Are Self-Aware Smart people are aware of who they are— strengths. values.
Think Out-of-Box Smart people can easily entertain new ideas. 12. knowing that if it doesn’t work out as intended. and ways of doing things.” 14. They do not blindly believe things so-called “experts” say. 9. 5. but they do know where to go to get whatever information. They are well-networked and have people to call on for resource referrals. Take Risks Smart people are willing to do new things.” They are comfortable with paradoxes and can relate to many sides of an issue or opinion. . they ask deep questions to discover their own truth. concepts. failure is often cleverly disguised as a learning opportunity. They “swing out there” often. attitudes. They crave progressive and forward thinking information. Trust Themselves Smart people believe and trust themselves first and foremost. and beliefs. training. thoughts. through whatever organizational/time management system that works for them. They act and react fast. They continuously learn new things. They also write lists—one for “have to’s” and one for “want to’s. 8. They often come up with new and radical ideas on a regular basis. Have An Open-Mind Smart people are open to different perspectives and see potential where most people don’t.4. They recognize the importance of finding the fun in the irony and the comedy of everyday life. Are Responsive Smart people recognize and respond quickly to opportunities and people. Have a Sense of Humor Smart people do not take themselves or life too seriously. Write and List Things on Paper Smart people have a well-developed life strategy that includes a written life vision/mission. Are Resourceful Smart people don’t have to know it all. Question Authority Smart people think for themselves. They don’t have to check with others to make decisions. 6. They would agree with what the quote. purpose. “A mind is like a parachute. 11. Are Productive Smart people get things done. in fact. 7. 10. resources. it only functions when it is open. education that they need. well ahead of schedule. and take care of what needs to be taken care-of. and it usually pays off. Upgrade Their Brain Smart people stay smart because they are committed to being a lifelong learner. and people. and goals statement. they instinctively know what is right for them and they go for it! 13. They make the most of each day and take action on important life tasks each and everyday. and stay current with their skills.
so they selectively choose who and what to align themselves with. 19. as a result they naturally evolve. They often play with their image. researching. and expand or change it entirely. They learn because it is intrinsically rewarding for them.15. what new software program will you replace it with? Perform well at Work April 3. They put themselves out there so the rest of us can benefit. They do not just learn for a specific end— to get a certificate. Are Students of Life Smart people not only know about specific subjects and topics. brand. 16. degree. Reinvent Themselves Smart people do not like to stay the same. “To gain knowledge. Think about it. Read. Teach Others Smart people are the teachers of the world. Value Learning Smart people value the process of learning for learning’s sake. To stay ahead of the game. Read. Sometimes burn out. our brain is like a computer and in order for it to function at a higher level. 18. they often reinvent themselves time and time again. their own learning grows and develops because they are actively talking about. articles— anything that is helpful for their own development.” This is so true. They surround themselves with only the highest quality people. take responsibility and perform well while many under achievers are mediocre and give a lots of excuses and always look at blaming others for their poor performance. rundown. They really need a way out to go and do well. 17. while simultaneously taking away information that no longer serves us. As Lao Tzu said. what do you want to remove from your database? And. To gain wisdom. Many times super achievers at work. they love to grow and develop. Use Discernment Smart people are able to discern (see clearly) other’s reasons and motives. remove things everyday. magazines. we must always be adding. Read Smart people tap into the collective brain power of others by reading books. programs. Rarely even the good performers are bogged down and do not perform all that well. and in exchange. lose the zeal or even may be want to do many . 20. and understanding their subject. They are insatiably curious and want to know more about becoming bigger and brighter. They are also able to filter out the information that fits for them and let the rest go. and places. but also about what it means to be a human being at this time in our evolution. 2007 Everything that you do at work signifies your performance and you are evaluated on the same lines. etc. title. company name. who share their knowledge with other people. add things everyday.
high energy things and so on. Enjoy all that you do Very importantly enjoy every activity that you do. No necessary all the time. Take a brisk walk in the morning for just about 30 minutes. 3. You must take care of yourself and your job becomes easier. Can you turn around your PERFORMANCE? YES! Do these and you will perform amazingly well. Plan you work and work the same Very important to plan what you must do through the day. which means that you are not a depressed person. 1. 2007 I know you must be wondering how depression can be good. How much ever workload you have once you plan your work you will execute them with easy. However small they are you must still have to jot them down as tasks for the day. Depressed? Wow thats amazing. . So find out how not to be depressed and even if you feel depressed feel good about it because DEPRESSION means You are expecting the BEST from yourself. Sit in the morning first and jot down all the things that you need to do for the day. You want the best out of yourself and thats the reason you feel bad about what you have done and feel depressed. For the simple fact that you are expecting something more for yourself. I am sure there are times when you feel good about what you have done also.. It is supposed to be harming you.good things. What is more important is… Do you know how to come out of this depression? If you don’t come out of depression that is when you get into a state of clinical depression. April 2. else is it quite normal as anyone else. Exactly know your outcomes and do amazingly well. Eat Right and Exercise What you take in is what determines what you take out. Spend small amount of time to do well. A 15 minute walk after your lunch and a 10 minute walk as a break are highly energetic 2. Think for yourself why you feel depressed. This way you will have more energy in you to do more and achieve more. For some reason for that moment you seem to be depressed. Have the big picture in mind and work with passion.
“If I told you that it will take a 1000 failed attempts before you became a billionaire. This means he had 49 failed attempts (’F’ = Failure) and he learnt from his failures 49 times (’e’ = Experience). ( ‘T’ = Trial. and then succeed!” .F) to the power of ‘e’. Key Lessons to take with you 1. it is direction. James passed his driving test after 50 trials. learn from it. 2007 “Failure is only a word. which is = 50). I am one step closer to my glory because my failed attempts actually count towards my success formula. The formula for Success is = (Trial . By applying the success formula. how you see it determines it’s effects on you” Now remember this: Success is always a constant which is equal to 1. Success = 1 (Always a constant) I will prove this to you soon. James passed his test once. Success = (T . You will realise that James formula for success is equal to a constant which is 1. If I try today and fail. Success = 1(always constant). Working out the success equation = (50 . Success = the constant 1 If James passed his driving test at the 50th time. 2. Always remember. The rate at which he succeeded was wholly dependent on how quickly he was able to learn from his experiences. Embrace it.49) to the power of 49 is equal to 1. don’t fear it. How many times did James passed his driving test? Once He succeeded after 50 trials but succeeded once. would you stop at the 998th attempt? Change your mind set today ” “Failure is the best thing that ever happened to me because when I prepare for failure. rejection is not personal. then he had 50 attempts at it. 3.Failure ) to the power of ‘e’ Where ‘e’ = Experience! Now watch the magic. Let failure be your compass. Success = the constant 1 and failure plays a major part in the formula for success. but he had to have a number of trials and failed attempts in order to succeed.Mathematical Formula of Success April 1. I avoid it.
I wish you every success! Get Set Go!! Start NOW March 30. get ready. But sometimes it does not really happen for big decisions that we need to make. You’ll most probably start very eagerly to find out various ways that you can choose to achieve. Sounds amazing right and its the same way things must work in life too. Focusing too much on your weaknesses makes you fearful of making mistakes. Focus on your strengths and your goal.000 in a year.000 because you simply focus too much on the details and didn’t take much actions practicing what you learn. their worries and their weaknesses. the stress starts to build up. Many people desire to succeed in their life. Stop sweating on the small stuff. Thats how it must be. Taking actions and making mistakes are just part and parcel of success. what you think is what you attract. Learn to maintain focus on your main objective. . Have a target. It doesn’t matter if you fall and get injured. but tend to focus too much on their fears. and yet desire to succeed. thinking that you’re making progress through the wealth of knowledge you’re gained. Start to choose to focus on your goals. Focus on your goal instead of making yourself feel good. you’ve wealth of knowledge about various investment tools. and your weaknesses. read about the nitty-gritty details. and so tend to stay put at where you are. Tension will start to build up because you’re still not making progress. 2007 Are you working hard to attract success in various aspects of your life but just doesn’t seem to be working? If you’re like most people who’ve yet succeed. 2007 How do you use a gun? You are ready. Knowledge is not power. and instead more stress in their life. Take the first step and START. one step at a time. As the law of attraction dictates. you aim and then you fire. and start thinking of your failures. your worries. Maintain lazer sharp focus on your main objective. Maintain focus and take actions that’ll allow you to advance a little step. and you’ll soon achieve what you set forth to achieve. focus / aim and then shoot. and at times people tend to give up at this point as they see no accomplishments. Get ready and the aim at the target and then shoot. but not a step closer to your goal of making $100. Applied knowledge is power. and after a year later. Sometimes the reason is focusing too much on the details. don’t lose your focus.FOCUS & ACTION March 31. you’re goal is to make $100. then you’re probably focusing at the wrong thing. That’s how we learn to walk when we’re just babies! Importantly. different financial investments. And because you’re working to get every right. Supposedly.
. After weighing both for a very long time time. How can we determine for ourselves what is a good choice and what isn’t? I have learned to put such opportunity in writing.It was quite true in my case all through my life. They simply realize it’s a healthy boundary you have set for all occasions. then I had to make it my personal policy. I was quite sure that we would achieve what we really wanted. It is just the START that made all the difference. then I had to make that my personal policy. The thrill of excitement. If I didn’t want to let friends borrow money any longer. It was in a small piece of paper which I carried wherever i went. So I kept asking myself is this what I want to do. September 1st we will start our company. Was thats easy? The question was I am willing to let go the 6 figure income salary. So finally we decided to start and I wrote my book. When I finished my Masters in Computer I got an amazing job but thats not what I exactly wanted. As we set off this Goal. If I didn’t want to discuss important business deals over the phone anymore. joy will be bountiful if you START and achieve what you really want. Then Life was moving on and after a few promotions I was really wondering is this what I wanted to do? Thats when I met like minded people and we decided to get into training and start a Training Company. We can only move forward with our dreams and goals if we are focused on the things that will produce them. when what we are being offered sounds attractive. And it’s likely that no one will take them personally. In general it’s not difficult to say to people what our policies are and we don’t even have to say the word “No”. and when I feel it is. The Start becomes easy if you are sure of what you ‘want’ to achieve. I am ready to leave this high paying job? It was a Choice and I knew both had its own good and bad consequences. So I simply decided on what I wanted in my life and what I didn’t. So go ahead START NOW ! “NO” March 27. I ask myself what kind of information I need to gather and what I would need to do to make it happen. People tend to respect policies. close my eyes and ask myself the following questions: First of all I ask myself: “Would doing this be in my highest option”?. It gets more tricky to say “No” . I decided not to go the customary way and decided to join a different organization. 2007 Learning to live our full potential also means that we have to learn to not always say “Yes” to what other people want. however.
Isn’t it? Why people are lazy? March 26. because they do not want to come to reality which might not be as enjoyable as the one they are in. They say “No. well. None of us want to experience displeasure. That means that if other people get upset with you saying “No”. or does it simply sound better than what I am doing at that moment? It’s good to talk to a mentor or other advisors about potential opportunities and reflect on their knowledge and expertise. ensure that you find the repercussions of the same make it really unpleasant and painful then you will start achieving more in life. This really proves a point that for most of us what really drives or motivates us to do more and take action is “PAIN”. Alarm rings and they just pull the sheets over their faces. that’s their choice. While sleeping they are dreaming. we are in control of how we feel and how we behave and express ourselves. 2007 Many times I wonder why people tend to be lazy and not do so many things for themselves. . We always move away from these. After a couple of years of practice I have learned to stay focused on my higher goals and I have learned to say no to good opportunities that interfere with my higher goals.Next I compare that information with what I know about achieving my goals. Simple answer it just that they dont want it. Is everything in line or is this opportunity leading me down a different path? Is it harmonizing with the purpose I am passionate about. when the dreams are good and enjoyable they prefer to stay there not willing to open their eyes to reality. and so are others. pain. So even if you are lazy at certain times. Are you lazy when there is a fire in the building or are you lazy looking at your near dear ones falling down and hurting themselves. They can help to become aware of what’s involved and they can help to stay focused on our goals and dreams. The desire to do something must be the driving force. People do not want to come out to reality. if it is a painful dream people just drive themselves out of the best and do not want to experience more of the same. Which means that you are not lazy but just not willing and wanting to do. Actually I noticed that people respected me for my clarity and drive. You know. I had to discover that I was not rejected for saying “No”. And on the contrary. I dont want that to happen and I am happy now this way”.
In fact. Building and sustaining relationships 7. and you can show others how to learn. Even if you are a follower. who wouldn’t? Well listen up. You can inspire others with your words and actions. It means you live by example. private decision. it does. and mark your place in the universe and stand by it so that others can be inspired to do the same. I mean. However.but how does a leader become a leader? Surely you have to learn how to develop and grow. you take on an extra responsibility. Listening to others 3. Delivering the right work at the right time of the highest quality 5. Doesn’t that make you a follower? That’s right. Being a leader means you know how to use your personal power and achieve results that will benefit those around you. does not deviate from their values and principles.9 Rules of a Successful Manager March 25. Raising your profile with the people who matter most 8. But that is what it is to be a leader. A leader shows courage in the face of adversity. Resolving conflict 4. Managing expectations so no-one is disappointed 6. Learning how to assert yourself 2. because I’m going to tell you what it takes. it feels like a very personal event. Understanding customers demands (and how to exceed them) 9. 2007 A leader sets the standards and continuously raises it. . It’s a huge responsibility. the value of being a follower in this quest to find your truth is in the added responsibility of showing to others how you take on the commitment to learning how to realise your dreams. Successful management requires: 1. Because when you follow your heart on your journey towards your dreams. not only for yourself but for the wider community. you set personal goals and standards. its impact will have amazing effects on your life and that of those around you. although it can be a quiet. 2007 Would you like to be more successful manager? Of course you would. Maximizing the abilities of your staff and making them so more productive Do these and will be an Amazing Manager Be a Leader March 22. When you make the decision to follow your life purpose. you can still lead by example. And you always continue to raise your standards. You might ask .
Religion . Goals such as getting a Master’s degree. chances are that you will. because a leader never stops learning and is always a student in terms of their own development and discovery of truth. You can be the candle flame in someone’s darkness so that they can find their way out again to the light. 2007 Every experience that a person has impacts him or her positively or negatively. a person must remember that taking small steps to achieve it helps keep up a positive attitude. Never underestimate the power of the mind. Having a negative attitude will cause you both internal and external stress. Being a leader means that you understand the power that you have and you use it wisely. When setting a goal. All it takes to be a leader is your determination to continue your journey. All of the positive moments most likely enhance our daily motivation.Exactly the same applies to a leader . The desire to accomplish a goal is what keeps people going. many people who are will agree that religion helps improve daily motivation. It means that others will find inspiration in your commitment to truth in both happy and adverse times. Instant Motivation Daily March 21. In turn. If you tell yourself that you can do it. Goals drive an individual’s daily motivation. It is best not to get overwhelmed with attaining a huge goal quickly.no matter what kind . and to lead fulfilling lives. but rather one should take small steps to get it done. or mortgaging a home drive a person to succeed. to work towards goals. And you can show by your courage and strength of purpose that there is no need to be afraid. purchasing an expensive car. The religious depend on their beliefs to strengthen them mentally. Attitude: A positive attitude is a source of daily motivation. . Setting goals: Many of us set goals for ourselves. Religion: While not all of us are religious. even on bad days. Believing that one of your goals is too difficult to achieve will eventually prevent you from achieving it. To achieve your goals. Religion can be used as a great motivational tool for people from all walks of life. having a highpaying job. and put you on the road to failure. these goals motivate us to work hard to achieve success. that everything in life is possible if you only live from your heart. Daily motivation is all about attitude and outlook. you must be able to tell yourself that every goal can be attained with hard work. A negative attitude will de-motivate you. getting married.encourages mindfulness and internal motivation. Daily motivation is what enables us to strive to be better people.
or money inspires someone to get out of bed in the morning. Prayer and meditation inspire those who might otherwise turn to drinking. These same people also have the tendency to go outside and exercise more often. Therefore. I quite understand why many were so furious. . I still remember many a people who were against the India’s when they lost to Bangladesh. food. Bangladesh on the other hand. A person can take pleasure in nature’s beauty by taking time to smell the roses or listen to the birds sing.People often depend on their religion when things are going downhill. so lousy”. Religion may help some people to be more mentally and physically healthy. True.com/ for more information. The desire to live: Daily motivation also comes in the simple desire to live. that person is motivated by something in life. Indian Cricket! March 20. 2007 First of all I am sorry to many of the readers of my blog outside of India or for those who do not follow the game of Cricket. The hottest things happening now is Cricket World Cup.During the Bangladesh match India was like lets not loose. had only one thought we shall WIN. that made all the difference 3. But I always believed that India’s could fight back and they did. Even things as simple as nature can motivate someone to maintain a positive attitude about life even when times get hard. We never give our 100% all the time.I heard many people say “Look at the Body Language. thus becoming a daily motivation for many people. The Greatest Failure in Life is Not Participating 100%. Play to Win . State . Studies show that people who live in warmer climates have a more positive attitude about life in general. The Driving force? Many times I wonder how people perform well under pressure. Please visithttp://worldcupcricket. a job. Complacency . The fact is this. Whether children. what affects action and results are the state and if your Physiology is bad then you are in a Bad State and hence your actions are also not what you want 4. or drugs to nurture their spirits. 2. The fact remains that Pain always drives people more than pleasure. This exercise brings about a sense of inner peace and positive feelings.Many times we just take things for granted. The pain that India will go out of the world cup was higher than the fact that India will win 2 points. religion is a positive source of daily motivation. I am sure you are all on a high after the terrific win that India had against bermuda. India’s were so complacent that they did not give the 100%. The question is what’s the difference why India won? 1.
and abilities. but neither did Oprah’s success. As long as you are consistently putting forth your best. you will be setting up your life to be the best it can be. skills. ‘Doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment. But if the truth be told. If you half-heartedly give of your talents. and influential people in America today. What areas in your life could you improve on with the effort you put into it? If you just selected one area. Participate 100% 2. Oprah revealed one of these insights once when she said. Past =/= Future 7.’ This seems to be over. which one thing would make a huge difference in your life if you consistently gave your best? Once you determine what that is. 2007 Oprah is one of America’s true success stories. She is a woman who comes from an underprivileged background who has become one of the most successful. if you give your best at everything you do. then just decide that you will give your best to it no matter what.simplistic but how many times have you actually lived according to this quote? If you are like most people. doing your very best at this moment isn’t a part of your normal routine. It’s very easy to become complacent in your daily activities and no longer truly give your very best. what you give in life is what you will be known for.Lesson to take from India’s win 1. Never Give up 3. you will be setting yourself up for the best. . Of course. However. Success tip from Oprah March 19. Play to Win and Not to loose 5. this doesn’t happen over night. then you will be setting yourself up for a mediocre life at best. State and Action gets results Cheers India and thanks for the learnings…. Understand what drives you 6. prosperous. Believe that you can win 4. Examining a life like Oprah’s can give great insight on how they have achieved success and how you can use that same information in your own life to acquire success.
the better. Whenever i feel like writing on my blog. and talk about that until you fell yourself getting motivated. Motivate Yourself By Talking All of us have felt the surge of energy that comes from a conversation we are really interested in. You can easily demonstrate this to yourself. I get energized. yet powerful technique that you can use today to generate energy and motivation. it wakes up your brain. You’ll see how quickly it affects your mind and body. right? So concentrate on that goal that this work leads towards. even if that is just talking about your favorite topics. the next time you are feeling a little sluggish. break out the list and pick a topic. Why not test this technique today? . Soon I have all the motivation and energy I need to get started. It is partly the company of course. First. Then get to work! Starting is the hardest part . Then start telling someone about it. Some of the NLP techniques are quite powerful. When you talk about something that is important or interesting to you. You are effectively transferring the motivation to the work at hand. But how do you use this when you need to work on something that just doesn’t inspire you? There are three ways. Again . if you have any interest in the project at all. and talk about whatever gets you most excited. Write down a few things that you love to talk about. identify those areas that are most interesting to you. with little tiredness. just starting is usually the hardest part. The following is a simple. the more passionate you are about the topic. Not only does it wake up your brain. Find a willing listener and start talking. but it wakes up your body as well. is it? You have probably noticed how much more common it is to feel the energy you need when you are doing something you enjoy. You may have even stayed up talking all night at some points in your life. The third way to use this technique to motivate yourself is to forget about the work for a few minutes. Once you feel that surge in energy.Easy way to Motivate Yourself March 12. For example. This is no real surprise. I call my friends or my collegues and tell them about the articles i am going to write.momentum helps you keep going after you start. but the bigger part of that energy is from the topic itself. Then. Now what if there is nothing about the work at hand that you enjoy or are interested in? You still are doing it for a reason. 2007 How do you motivate yourself? What can you do when you need to get busy doing something and you just don’t feel like doing it? Of course there are dozens of motivation techniques. you can start working.
Of course this type of listing time of tasks works best for those things you do as routine each day. Once you have determined your priorities for time usage. You want to work on completing the tasks in as little time as possible so you that you have to add in the unexpected tasks of the day or……. sit back for a moment in a comfortable position and think of what you accomplished. or whoever. in a job that requires doing multiple tasks at one time (multi-tasking). You must determine where you are wasting time and then decide how to use that time more effectively. really want to do. there is no calling it back. Once you finish one task. When we have flexibility we have more time for ourselves. . To develop a successful time management plan we must first evaluate our time. something that is not routinely required of you to do. Another important element of creating a successful time management plan is to be sure and finish tasks before moving onto another task. unless you are at work.Time Management for Achieving Goals… March 11.so that you have time to do something you really.much better……. a time management plan that will allow your more time to do the things in life that are most important to you. move onto the next task and follow in pursuit of finishing all tasks. like visit on the phone with a favorite friend. Then sit back and evaluate your list. Once you finish the last task. A successful time management plan provides us with a source for more flexible schedules. This is the absolute first step of creating your own personalized time management plan. 2007 A definition of time management might be a process of gaining flexibility and cutting back time. We must sit down and ask ourselves how long does it take us to eat? How long does it take us to get dressed and groom for work? How long does it take us to prepare the meals we have to eat? Everything we do takes a certain amount of time. The advantage to having a time management plan is that we are loosing something that brings us reward and gaining something that brings us bigger rewards. your daughter or mother. read some in the books you want to complete at some point or another in your lifetime. How much time did it take you to complete task? Don’t forget to be keeping down your start time and end time. then you can start adding tasks that you been putting off because you just don’t have the time to do them. For example. Are you wasting 10 minutes here and there on those have to items that could be used for something else? Where our time goes is an essential element to determine for our entire time management plan if we want to begin spending more quality with the most important people of our lives and less wasted time on some routine task. We end up with a “no loosing” situation if our time management plan is right. You might start out by writing down just how much time it takes to do each of your very have to tasks each day. Once that time is lost.
decide how much time each step of the way you will need. When we work to succeed we reach our goals.you now need another list of goals and plans of tasks and things you want to do but never have the time to do. family illness. and then work toward them using our time management plan. You must also keep reality in mind. stop going over all the details. ‘Certainly I can!’ Then get busy and find out how to do it. Catch up on your paper filing or something. I recently cut down my preparing and eating breakfast time by about ten minutes. 2007 Life is filled with choices where the outcomes of those choices are uncertain. knowing that you will never really know if you have made the right choice until sometime in the future can make you hesitant about making any choice at all. act on those plans and stay focused on those goals with motivation. If you want to succeed then you must work hard every day to meet your goals. Some people like to set short term goals. it’s a good idea to make informed and educated decisions in life. horrible sudden natural calamities. Some examples would be computer failures. You will probably have to sit down and really ponder on what is needed to reach each goal of set of goals. ‘Whenever you are asked if you can do a job. is what you should do. perhaps a special book.’ . In reality here I am using ten extra minutes to work on my goals. and of course. We first have to decide what those goals are. Stop analyzing it. personal illness. But the fact of the matter is that there will always be some uncertainty in the outcome of your choices. One of the best ways of keeping these lists is on your computer where you can quickly erase and add to. tell ‘em. of course. Whichever way works best for you. paper in a notebook is also good. It is always wise to include elements of your time management plan in accordance to what could happen out of your control.So…. Just Do It and Do It Now !! March 10. So. however. At some point you just have to do it. and plan for the things out of your control that could go wrong and therefore steal time from your time management plan. It might be a better plan to test and set short and long-term goals in the same time management plan. He said. Time management is essential since it demands that a person plan. There is a quote from Theodore Roosevelt that explains this best. But then again. reach that goal and then set a long term goal. This hesitancy can be one of the biggest obstacles in having success in your life. It would be great to always know which choice to make – but that is not possible. You may want to have a plan ahead of time of using your time in some other manner if your computer fails. and just trust yourself enough to make the right decision and do it. Time management is the process of working to succeed. Time management is working to succeed. Of course.
2007 If you are like every other successful person on this planet. Regret will make you live in yesterday. but how can you succeed after you fail. Love Failures and Succeed More… March 8. great things are never easy and they are never sure. successful people aren’t always the most talented. Make a decision today that you will never again live in regret or sorrow for yesterday. There is a great quote from Katherine Mansfield which says. If you are always looking backwards. Take Theodore Roosevelt’s advice and just jump in and learn in the process. the best way to succeed after failing is to move on. So what are you waiting around in life to do? Have you been contemplating doing something great in your life but you can never bring yourself to just start? Remember this. and be blind to tomorrow.Some of the biggest opportunities in life will be lost if you hesitate because you are not sure if you can do the job. skilled. Failing and making mistakes is part of success.’ You see. it’s only for wallowing in. It takes someone who will dare to believe that it can be done and then get out there and just do it. They are the ones that took their mistakes and failures and turned them into something that the world could benefit from. you can’t build on it. Make your life count and impact the world around you by never quitting short of success. Learn from the past so that you can do it better in the future. ‘Make it a rule of life never to regret and never to look back. So the question isn’t how you can stop failing. even though you probably wish it wasn’t. or gifted. be miserable today. They are the ones that when it looked hopeless. . As a matter of fact. Experience is just about the best teacher anyway. you may fail more than you succeed. Don’t always be looking back at how you wish you could have done something different yesterday. Regret is an appalling waste of energy. you can never see where you are going. They are the ones that stuck with it long enough to learn how to succeed. When it comes down to it. Don’t sit around regretting the mistakes you have made. you have failed. they knew that they had something to give and wouldn’t stop until they had completed their goal.
This action might not be possible to undo. Are you sure you want to continue?