- WHY DO THEY DO WHAT THEY DO?
- Motivation - The Key Factor
- People Do What They Want To Do
- All behaviors have consequences
- Children are Gamblers
- Children’s Tactics For Getting What They Want
- It Gets Worse Before It Gets Better
- Changing Behaviors
- Temperament, Emotions, and other Internal Factors
- Understanding Temperaments
- The Internal Switch
- Sleep, Food and Warmth
- Self-Confidence, Fear of Failure, and Learned Helplessness
- Fear and Anxiety
- Chronic Stress
- Security and Being Noticed
- Anger and Resentment
- The Emotional Bank Account
- Paying off the Mortgage
- People Still Do What They Want To Do
- Power Struggles and Manipulation
- PUTTING YOURSELF BACK IN CHARGE
- The New Improved YOU
- The Repeating, Threatening Parent
- 1) Say what you mean, and mean what you say
- 2) Talk with a firm but quiet voice
- 3) Expect First Time Obedience
- 4) Follow up with ACTION
- Harsh, Strict or Firm?
- The Carrot and The Stick
- Reward Mode vs. Punishment Mode
- Who Owns The Success?
- The Informal Checks And Balances Of Home Life
- Getting Started
- Recognize the Enemy
- Think Ahead
- Have A United Front
- Get Some Support
- Walk Your Talk
- Reset Your Expectations And Clear The Slate
- Where Do You Start?
- STOPPING BAD BEHAVIORS
- Three Counts and You’re Out!
- Rules for Time-Out
- Variations on Time-Out
- The 5-Minute Work Chore
- Loss of Privileges
- Avoiding Sudden Death
- Other Tactics
- The Broken Record
- More Serious “Crimes”
- Bad Morals, Disobedience and Naughtiness
- STARTING GOOD BEHAVIORS
- Seven Strategies
- What is Responsibility?
- Natural Consequences
- Logical Consequences
- Common Questions
- Why isn’t it working?
- Variations on Charting
- Progressive Privileges
- Pocket Money
- Make it a Game!
- Praise and Compliments
- Special Treats and Rewards
- SPECIFIC PROBLEM BEHAVIORS
- How to Analyze a Specific Behavior
- School Refusal And Separation Anxiety
- Midnight Wakenings
- Night Terrors, Nightmares, and Sleep Walking
- Early Mornings
- I’m Bored!
- Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder
- Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)
- AS TIME GOES BY
- How Are You Doing?
- The Family Meeting
- Slipping Back
- They Are Getting Older
- Final Words
ome children are placid, others are lively. A small number are positively hyperactive.
These children are impulsive, disorganized, forgetful, loud, and easily frustrated,
which often leads to some lively temper tantrums. These children are so hyperactive and
impulsive that they are in trouble wherever they go. They just do not think before they do
things, and they do not learn from experience or from applied discipline. These children
have significant difficulty in fitting in with the normal expectations of home and school,
both of which are usually just too stimulating for them. Since their problems with
controlling their behaviors are so problematic, their condition has been described as a
disorder. It has gone through a number of names over the decades, but the current one is