Let’s do the

Right Thing!

Personal and Spiritual Development Workbook By

Zakia Usmani

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First Edition, Shaban 1432 A.H./2011 CE © Copyright 2011 by Zakia Usmani Published on-line for free distribution. This document is an on-line book publication of Believer’s Path Institute http://www.facebook.com/believerspathinstitute This book was compiled, written, designed and formatted to be placed free on the Internet. Believer’s Path Institute allows for this document, in its present form and with no alterations, to be distributed, printed, photocopied, reproduced and/or disbursed by electronic means for the purpose of spreading its content and not for the purpose of gaining a profit. Anyone wishing to quote from this document must give credit to the publisher.

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........ 4 Observations Instructions ................................................... 3 Personal Assessment ........................ 16 Guidelines for Better Living ............... 7 Spiritual Development Plan................................... 13 Goal Setting ..................................... 20 About the Author ........ 9 Personal Development Plan.................................................. 21 2 ..................................................................................15 Goal Setting Chart........................................... 11 Personal Evaluation Progress ............................................. 17 A thought… ...............Contents Soul Search Process ....................

T a b a r a a n i 2 6 6 3 ) 3 . cooking. lies. tahajjud and Duha prayers) Sins of the heart (Show-off. speaking to people in an insulting way. morning evening adhkar) Dhikr & Qur’an Sins between you and Allah Pleasing others while it’s displeasing to Allah Challenge and Penalize (Donate to charity if you fail to achieve your goal) Make Use of Your Time (Chose the adhkar/actions which can be done while walking. making fun) Goal Setting (Get a box and every time you catch yourself committing a bad habit put some money in for charity) Increase in Worship Increase in Nawafil Prayers Getting rid of bad habits (Pray sunnah. self-admiration.) The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihe wassalm said: “Knowledge is only attained by striving to learn and patience is only attained by striving to be patient. and the one who seeks good will be given it and the one who seeks to avoid evil will b e protected from it. arrogance. hatred) (Start a new good habit. mannerism. envy.Let’s do the right thing! Soul Search Process Repentance Sins between you and others (Backbiting. waiting etc. increase in dhikr and astaghfar. way of speaking with the Non-Mahrams) Lack of modesty (Plan and prepare to reward yourself if you achieve your goal) Reward Yourself (Recite Qur’an every day. slander. be very specific & make it very regular) Developing good habits Fasting (Fast Mondays and Thursdays) (in dressing. driving.” ( a l .

the Exalted. False swearing 10. 4-Any deed harmful to the soul or body.Let’s do the right thing! Personal Assessment As you complete the assessment. 5-Any evil or normally avoidable deed committed repeatedly. Tale carrying/ gossip 7. Making fun of others 6. Slandering and false accusation 4. Speaking to people in an insulting way 5. Disobedience to parents 8. avoid rushing. Breaking ties with relatives 9. We should take stock of our sins and our following of whims and desires. Disloyalty and treachery 11. Listen to the voice inside you to encourage you and challenge you. whether the sin is great or small. Use the scale below to respond to each statement truthfully.4 The human being is imperfect and prone to committing mistakes and sins. 3-Violating the rights of Allah or the rights of human beings. Backbiting 2. We should stop ourselves from persisting in that. 2-defying the Laws/Commandments of Allah. Sins of tongue . SINCERE REPENTANCE FROM SINS Never – 1 Occasionally – 2 Frequently – 3 Always .between you and others 1. this is a built-in weakness in nature. A sin is any mischievous or evil thought that is acted upon: 1-deliberately. Bullying people for any reason 4 Response . Lying/giving wrong statements 3.

3. Men using silk or gold for apparels. caste and race. 4. Resorting to Halal through the forbidden way 11. Earning Interest Sins between you and Allah 1. 4. Disobedience to husband Sins of heart 1. Not wearing hijab 2. 7. Indulging in useless discussions/arguments 8. 10. 3. internet 6. Testifying falsely 13. Finding fault in some one’s family. 5. Lacking in mannerism 4. phone. Using pots/plates made of gold or silver for eating or drinking 9. Not purifying properly after urination 13. 2. Showing off Self-admiration Arrogance Envy Hatred Pride Dishonesty Sins of body 1. 7. Mourning/wailing over the dead 14. Dressing immodestly 3. 15. Shamelessness or tolerating shameless acts 7.12. Taking bribe 12. 5 Pleasing others while displeasing Allah Innovation Missing salat deliberately Not paying zakat regularly Missing fast of Ramadan without reason Not performing hajj despite having means/capability and ability Believing in fortune tellers . Wasting time in shopping. 16. 2. 6. Deceiving and swindling 14. Speaking with Non-Mahrams in non-Islamic way 5. Witch craft/ magic 15. 5. 6. Deliberately passing wrong judgment.

(Imam Ahmad and Timid) When you find yourself slipping and doing sins and committing evil acts.” (Imam Ahmad and Timidhi. If you died this very moment. Denying the fate/destiny 13. Giving up hopes for the Mercy and Bounties of Allah 9. Human beings do commit sins/mistakes but those are better who realize there mistakes/faults/sins and make Tauba (repentance) as said by our prophet (pub). The prophet (pbuh) said: “Do you know who is muflis? In my ummat the muflis is the person who will be present on the day of judgment with salat. Wrongly quoting Allah or Mohammad (SAW) 12. Also pray that we do not become like those who have been described by our prophet as ‘Muflis’ means person having lost everything/ bankrupt. There will be many complainants who will come with their reports of different kinds.e rights of human beings. Defaming the Companions of Prophet SAW Sincere Repentance from sins total We should make self-assessment before the assessment is done by Allah Subhanahu Ta’ala on the Day of Judgment. Showing off in good deeds and worship 11. Sahiul Jamay 87) 6 . Associating partners with Allah Subhanahu Ta’ala 10. but at the same he would have had committed many sins relating to Huquq ul Ibad i. remember Allah and the Last Day.8. so they will be given the good deeds of this person as compensation but before complaints are finished his good deeds will be finished and ultimately all the bad deeds of the remaining complainants will be transferred to his account and thus he will be sent to hell. is this a state you would want to die in? Let us pray to Allah subhanahu Ta’ala to protect us from all the sins which are known or unknown to us and give us taufeeq to stay away from all those things disliked by Him and to forgive us for the sins and short comings. fastings and zakat etc.

by monitoring yourself as closely as possible and by jotting down every time that you remember that you did it. If we want to know what our own faults are we may do four things: Here’s what you have to do! Step 1: Seek Allah’s forgiveness for the commandments of Allaah that you have failed to obey. in one of his famous sayings said. your spouse would be an excellent choice to give you feedback. thus.” (Saheeh Muslim. Older children in your family might also be considered. Explain to those you 7 . If married. Muslim narrated in alSaheeh that the Prophet sallallahu alaihe wassallam said: “Allaah spreads out His hand at night to accept the repentance of those who have sinned during the day. It is. and He spreads out His hand during the day to accept the repentance of those who sinned at night.” How can you effectively make yourself aware of your shortcoming? By telling others to spot it. The Prophet sallallahu alaihe wassallam said. for Allaah has made the gate of repentance open to every sinner. either freeing it or bringing about its ruin” (Muslim). “Judge yourselves before you are judged. Umar ibn al-Khattab radi allahu anhu. “Everyone starts his day and is a vendor of his soul. evaluate yourselves before you are evaluated and be ready for the greatest investigation [the Day of Judgment]. 4954) Step 2: Enlist 3 people to complete a “Let’s do the right thing Assessment” on you.Let’s do the right thing! Observations Instructions As Muslim we must realize that all of us are going to be accountable for our deeds on the Day of Judgment. These should be practicing Muslims. wise that we continuously assess ourselves in this world and make amends before that final judgment by Allah when we will not be given another opportunity to make up for our misdeeds. If we know what our shortcomings are then we can do something to remedy them but many people are unaware of their faults and shortcomings. (and this will continue) until the sun rises from the west.

enlist that you need their help to accurately assess you. for I used to backbite and fast. My accountability partner will be ------------------------------------------------------------- 8 . c) Ask a sincere friend who has insight and is religiously committed to keep watch over you and take note of our actions. actions. follow these steps: a) Sit before a Shaykh or a righteous person who has insight into people’s faults and knowledge of some problems and learns from him knowledge. Point out that you want to discover areas where improvement is needed. and then I decided that every time I backbit about a person I would give a dirham in charity. That made me feel tired. Meet with me initially to overview my assessment and pray with me about this plan.” d) Acquire good characteristics and get rid of sins through effort and training. Ibn Abi Rabee’ah missed the two-rak’ah Sunnah prayer of Fajr. and for love of money I stopped backbiting. Try this: get a box and every time you catch yourself committing sin or backbiting etc put some money in it. Affirm my successes and challenge me to stay focused on achieving the plan. Step 3: After receiving the completed observation. 2. Strength of faith prevents one from indulging in sin. Faith increases with the righteous deeds and decrease with the sins. 4. so that he/she can draw attention to whatever she dislikes of your attitude. I would fast for a day. Step 4: Enlist an accountability partner who will agree to do the following: 1. and inward and outward faults. and he freed a slave. good attitudes and manners. Harmalah said: I heard ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Wahb say: I vowed that every time I backbit about a person. 5. At the end of the month send the money to a charity or buy a gift for the person whom you’ve backbitten the most against. ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) used to say: “May Allaah have mercy on a man who shows me my shortcomings. Meet with me at least once each month to discuss my progress on this plan. 3. he would spend that night in prayer. Pray regularly for me. b) Increase in your Eman by doing righteous deed. If Ibn ‘Umar radiallahu Anhu missed a prayer in congregation.

Attend educational programs such as classes and lectures. how would you describe your current status? My ‘let’s do the right thing’ Plan is to: □ □ □ □ □ 9 Worship Allaah. Number 6195] Evaluation: Before working this plan. and sin is that which wavers in your heart and you hate for people to find out about it. Read Qur’aan a great deal. pondering its meanings and seeking to understand it and try to memorize its verses. Book 32.Let’s do the right thing! Spiritual Development Plan My Personal Focus is: Relationship with Allah Subhanahu wa ta’la and getting rid of the Sins. and cleanse my heart of any attachment to anything other than Allaah. I will pay attention to doing obligatory acts of worship well. Make good use of my time and use it to do things that will be of benefit in both .” [Sahih Muslim. so he said. Read useful religious books that describe the ways of treating and cleansing the heart. Narrated An-Nawwas ibn Sam’an Al-Ansari radhiyAllaahu 'anh who said: I asked the Messenger of Allah SalAllaahu 'alayhi wasallam about righteousness and sin. keeping in contact with Him and submitting to Him. “Righteousness is good character.

and I will evaluate my progress every 3 months. Try to act on what I learn and put it into practice.worldly and spiritual terms. Check closely on myself.asking them for prayer and accountability. I will share this growth focus and plan with my spouse and small group . who can help you to do good. Man has to strive hard whilst still thinking that his efforts are not enough. 10 . Despise myself for not doing enough for the sake of Allaah. □ □ □ □ Keep company with righteous people and looking for righteous companions. Evaluation/Reward: This is an on-going ‘Do the right thing!’ plan.

Let’s do the right thing! Personal Development Plan My Personal Development Focus is: To Improve my relationship with people around me. Participate in halaqas to build relationships with other Muslims. Join non-profit organization or help out in a local mosque. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ . Make a list of people who you have hurt and ask for their forgiveness. Invite a non-practicing Muslim to a masjid or to an Islamic workshop and seminars. how would you describe your current status? My ‘let’s do the right thing’ Plan is to: □ □ □ □ □ □ □ □ 11 Ask family members to identify ways to improve my relationships with each one. Make a list of people who have hurt you and ask Allah for help to forgive them. Evaluation: Before working this plan. Ask friends to identify ways to improve my relationships with each one.

go back and evaluate your current standing in each role. Set goals for each life role. prioritize your life roles as well as outline your desire for each of those areas.□ □ □ □ ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Evaluation/Reward: This is an on-going ‘Let’s do the right thing’ plan. 2. Then. List your roles in life (i. friend. 12 . etc. Now. employer. 1. volunteer. and I will evaluate my progress every 3 months. 4. Review Your Roles in Life All of us have been given multiple roles in life by Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala. Develop your focus from the roles with highest priority and greatest deficit. The following four steps will help you review. parent.e. 3. son/daughter. servant of Allah.). prioritize and plan growth in your life roles. husband/wife. employee.

4. 24. 2. 15. 8. 7. 6.Let’s do the right thing! Personal Evaluation Progress by Riza Mohammed Following is a questionnaire to prompt some guidance on how best to utilize these daily periods of reflection. 23. make a note of the following: 13 . 12. 14. 22. 10. 11. 13. 18. 20. 9. Did I offer my five daily salah on time? How many of my salah did I offer in congregation? Am I satisfied with the quality of my salah? How much of the Qur’an did I read with understanding? How many verses of the Qur’an did I read with understanding? How many verses of the Qur’an did I memorize? What steps did I take to help my family learn about Islam? What did I do to fulfill my duties as da’ee? Have I treated my parents with love and respect and have I given due consideration to all their needs? Did I safeguard my tongue from useless speech? Did I backbite or slander anyone? Did I commend others for the good things they may have done? Did I fulfill my promises? Have I been just in all my dealings? What acts of sadaqah did I perform? Did I take an interest in my health (for example diet and exercise)? Did I safeguard my eyes from the influences of Shaytan? What and how much have I read to improve my understanding of Islam? Did I practice what I read and said? Did I save a portion of my wealth? Did I perform my work with proficiency? Did I make tawbah (seek Allah’s forgiveness)? Did I reflect on my accountability to Allah on the Day of Judgement? Am I satisfied with the way I spent the Day? Reflection: On answering each question. 19. 17. 5. 3. 1. 16. 21.

Answer each question as honestly and truthfully as you can. 14 . Do so on your own or with someone you trust fully.• • What are my weaknesses and what steps am I going to take to remove them? What are my strong points and what steps am I going to take to improve them? The best time to go through this questionnaire is at the end of each day. remember that Allah is your witness and that you are assessing yourself and your actions by His decree. Remember that a good judge is one who is neither unduly harsh nor unjustifiably lenient but truly and fully balance. When you assess yourself.

that should be an achievement that brings motivation and momentum not frustration and despair. "I want to seek knowledge and practice upon it by taking lectures/classes each week/month this year". it is now time to set goals to assist your personal and spiritual development." Measurable — You need to be able to measure or evaluate progress toward your goal. For instance. 15 . the time you have available to commit to this development process and start with fewer goals and smaller goals. If you desire to develop good relationship with Allah subhanhu wa ta’ala. Too many people set unachievable goals or set too many goals and grow in frustration rather than progress. fasting and seeking knowledge and by practicing good akhlaq" than the more vague. Achievable — Your goals need to be challenging but achievable. "I want to come closer to Allah Subhanahu wa ta ‘ala by increasing volunteer prayer. memorizing one page per day leads to memorize one Juz in one month.Let’s do the right thing! Goal Setting With your focus clear. compelling and specific target. This approach will help you see achievements rather than be discouraged. This will help add motivation and momentum over the long-term. For instance. your goal should be more like. Take an inventory of your priorities. Remember that sustainability requires incremental small steps over time — for example. if you desire to memorize one Juz each month. the goal. Special Note: It's often best to plan that achieving your growth goals will take you twice as long as you first imagine. plan to achieve half as much in your estimated time or set aside twice as much time. "I want to come closer to Allah. So. Your goals should meet the following criteria: Specific — You need a clear.

take the time to evaluate your progress at regular intervals.Let’s do the right thing! Goal Setting Chart Focus Area Wearing Hijab Memorize 1 Juz Where now Nervous Memorized 14 Surahs Activity Wearing it only in the Masjid Memorizing half page everyday Resources Friends support Internet / CD/ Madrasa Timings Wear full hijab insha Allah by October Will complete the memorization by 15 Sep 2011 Reward Ladies party Cell phone Evaluate and Modify As specified in your plan. Celebrate your progress! 16 . Modify your plan as needed and set another evaluation date.

Be fair in judging according to sound evidence. 3. Fulfill your promises and agreements. Your anger should not make you ignore the good in others and your blessings should not make you forget the bad in others. 6. Read the book of ahadith and try to memorize it. and sensitive to both good and bad things by expressing your happiness when experiencing good and gratitude when encountering bad. If you demand less than what you deserve. listen to it and ponder over its meaning. Be serious and dignified. careful. Carefully recite the Qur’an. keeping secrets. Be courageous and enduring. 9. and get treated for any ailments diagnosed. Avoid excessive use of coffee. 4. 5. 7. Always be truthful and never tell a lie.Let’s do the right thing! Guidelines for Better Living By Hasan al-Bannna 1. 2. The highest degrees of courage are telling the truth in your own disfavor. Have a through medical check-up regularly. Be modest. you will receive what you deserve. However. 8. 11. Be concerned with personal hygiene. 12. admitting mistakes and maintain self-control when angry. 17 . Show interest in the cleanliness and tidiness of your home and place of work. this should not stop you from enjoying jokes and laughing. Study the sirah or life history of the Prophet sallallahu alaihe wassallam and the history of early Muslims. Do not resort to making lame excuses. Devote a daily period for the recitation of the Qur’an. Aim to complete the whole of it within a month. 10. for Islam was founded on cleanliness. tea and other stimulating drinks and strive to abstain completely from smoking.

Always speak the truth. Do no spy and backbite. 16. Perfect your personal purity and cleanliness. without procrastination. seek His pleasure with determination and resoluteness.13. You should feel happy when you offer a service to another person. and hasten to give others their due in full. contemplating on Allah and His Divine attributes and reciting the respected supplications of the Prophet sallallahu alaihe wassallam. 23. You should feel compelled to visit the sick. even if you are wealthy. assist the needy. Always be conscious of Allah. increase your knowledge of the Islamic movement by reading about it. Do not be noisy. no matter how painful it is. support the weak. 21. Observe your appointments and never be late for work. 22. 18 . 17. Make room for others in meetings and gatherings. regardless of what quick profit lies therein. Set aside a portion of your income to defray unforeseen expenses. 15. Be amicable in claiming your due. 24. regardless of how small it may be or how busy or academically oriented you are. Avoid unlawful means of livelihood. Try to establish a private business. You should be kind to all human beings and animals and have good relations with everyone. 19. Be merciful to the young and respectful to the old. even if it is against yourself and against the people dearest to you. and give relief to the ill-fated. no matter how small your income is. and neither condemn nor insult them. Perform your job in the best manner you can. even if it is only a kind word of sympathy. 14. Support da’wah work by contributing some of your wealth to the Islamic movement. and try to keep in a state of ablution (wudu’) as often as possible. Undertake some economic enterprise. energetic and skilled in community services. Be active. Be compassionate. 18. Improve your reading and writing skills. 20. 25. Respect others’ privacy. Always rush to do good deeds. Bring yourself closer to Allah through the performance of extra night prayer (tahajjud) fasting atleast three days every month. Acquaint yourself with the general Islamic subjects to the degree which makes you capable of forming general judgments concerning day to day problems. and stand aloof from dishonesty and cheating. graciously excusing and forgiving towards others. and never indulge in extravagance.

Devote a period of time every night before going to bed for self-criticism.26. and occasions of sin. 19 . reflection upon the good or bad things you may have done throughout the day. seeking Allah’s forgiveness. 27. make it one of the goals of your life and strive hard to undertake it. by restraining your gaze from haram things. and in general. avoid the environment or arrogant and extravagant luxury. and always fulfill the rules. Try to pray in congregation and at the masajid as frequently as possible. 29. 33. 32. and keeping your heart and desires away from all that is forbidden. Regularly renew your repentance. do so on time. Avoid all evil forms and places of entertainment. Share the message of Islam everywhere you go. Do not take immoral people as friends. When you perform the daily prayers. Try to avoid pardonable offence as well as major sins. Avoid lustful thoughts. emotions. Observe the fast of Ramadan and go on the Hajj as soon as you have the means. 30. urging your emotions to focus on good deeds. Keep away from places of immorality and sin. 28. If you cannot afford to make hajj. 31. for example.

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ON with her husband and four children.About the Author Zakia Usmani was born in Pakistan but grew up in United Arab Emirates where she started her career in the airline industry.. and is currently working on another e-book. She has authored an e-book. She has attended business leadership course “Niche Hero” taught by Sheikh Muhammad Alshareef founder of ‘AlMaghrib Institute’ and ‘DiscoverU Life’ and personal development course “Ultimate Vision” taught by and Sheikh Tawfique Chowdhury director of ‘Mercy Mission’ and ‘AlKauthar Institute’. She has also completed Tuhfatul Atfal and Jazariyyah studying directly under Qari Sheikh Uthman Khan the Dean and Director of the Shatibiyyah Institute in Toronto. 21 . " which will be available later this year. "The Path to Successful Relationships". Canada and is working on obtaining her Ijaazah in Hafs 'an Asim.. Zakia is a member of the Student Guild of AlKauthar Institute and is undertaking an intensive 5-year comprehensive program in Islamic Studies directly from Sheikh Bilal Ismail and Sheikh Tariq Appleby. Zakia lives in Toronto. She migrated to Canada in 2000 and worked as a graphic designer for an adult learning center. "Change Starts Within .