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IMPERTURBABILITY
Wanting to be Safe, Secure, to Survive Wanting Approval Wanting Control
APATHY GRIEF FEAR LUST

Bored Can’t win Careless Cold Cut-off Dead Defeated Depressed Demoralized Desolate Despair Discouraged Disillusioned Doomed Drained Failure Forgetful Futile Giving up Hardened Hopeless Humorless I can’t I don’t care I don’t count Inattentive Indecisive Indifferent Invisible It’s too late Lazy Let it wait Listless Loser Lost Negative Numb Overwhelmed Powerless Resigned Shock Spaced out Stoned Stuck Too tired Unfeeling Unfocused Useless Vague Wasted What’s the use Why try? Worthless

Abandoned Abused Accused Anguished Ashamed Betrayed Blue Cheated Despair Disappointed Distraught Embarrassed Forgotten Guilty Heart-broken Heartache Heartsick Helpless Hurt If only Ignored Inadequate Inconsolable It’s not fair Left out Longing Loss Melancholy Misunderstood Mourning Neglected Nobody cares Nobody loves me Nostalgia Passed over Pity Poor me Regret Rejected Remorse Sadness Sorrow Tearful Tormented Torn Tortured Unhappy Unloved Unwanted Vulnerable Why me? Wounded

Anxious Apprehensive Cautious Clammy Cowardice Defensive Distrust Doubt Dread Embarrassed Evasive Foreboding Frantic Hesitant Horrified Hysterical Inhibited Insecure Irrational Nausea Nervous Panic Paralyzed Paranoid Scared Secretive Shaky Shy Skeptical Stage fright Superstitious Suspicious Terse Terrified Threatened Timid Trapped Uncertain Uneasy Vulnerable Want to escape Wary Worry

Abandon Anticipation Callous Can’t wait Compulsive Craving Demanding Devious Driven Envy Exploitative Fixated Frenzy Frustrated Gluttonous Greedy Hoarding Hunger I want Impatient Lascivious Lecherous Manipulative Miserly Must have it Never enough Never satisfied Oblivious Obsessed Over-indulgent Possessive Predatory Pushy Reckless Ruthless Scheming Selfish Voracious Wanton

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to Survive Wanting Approval Wanting Control ANGER PRIDE COURAGEOUSNESS ACCEPTANCE PEACE Abrasive Aggressive Annoyed Argumentative Belligerent Boiling Brooding Caustic Defiant Demanding Destructive Disgust Explosive Fierce Frustrated Fuming Furious Harsh Hatred Hostility Impatience Indignant Irate Jealous Livid Mad Mean Merciless Murderous Outraged Petulant Pushy Rebellious Resentment Resistant Revolted Rude Savage Simmering Sizzling Smoldering Spiteful Steely Stern Stewing Stubborn Sullen Vengeful Vicious Violent Volcanic Wicked Willful Above reproach Aloof Arrogant Bigoted Boastful Bored Clever Closed Complacent Conceited Contemptuous Cool Critical Disdain Dogmatic False humility False virtue Gloating Haughty Holier than thou Hypocritical Icy Isolated Judgmental Know-it-all Narrow-minded Never wrong Opinionated Overbearing Patronizing Pious Prejudiced Presumptuous Righteous Rigid Self absorbed Self satisfied Selfish Smug Snobbish Special Spoiled Stoic Stubborn Stuck-up Superior Uncompromising Unfeeling Unforgiving Unyielding Vain Adventurous Alert Alive Assured Aware Centered Certain Cheerful Clarity Compassion Competent Confident Creative Daring Decisive Dynamic Eager Enthusiastic Exhilaration Exploration Flexible Focused Giving Happy Honorable Humor I can Independent Initiative Integrity Invincible Loving Lucid Motivated Non-resistant Open Optimistic Perspective Positive Purposeful Receptive Resilient Resourceful Responsive Secure Self-sufficient Sharp Spontaneous Strong Supportive Tireless Vigorous Visionary Willing Zest Abundance Appreciative Balance Beautiful Belonging Childlike Compassion Considerate Delight Elated Embracing Empathy Enriched Everything’s okay Friendly Fullness Gentle Glowing Gracious Harmonious Harmony Intuitive In tune Joyful Loving Magnanimous Mellow Naturalness Nothing to change Open Playful Radiant Receptive Secure Soft Tender Understanding Warm Well-being Wonder Ageless Awareness Being Boundless Calm Centered Complete Eternal Free Fulfilled Glowing Light Oneness Perfection Pure Quiet Serenity Space Still Timeless Tranquility Unlimited Whole 11 Abundance Course Workbook .EMOTIONS IMPERTURBABILITY Wanting to be Safe. Secure.

I don’t care. forget about it. It’s too late. No way. it doesn’t make a difference. We withdraw and play weak so we won’t get hurt. I don’t matter. Acting Careless Catatonic Disassociated Defeated Forgetful Giving up Inattentive Indecisive Indifferent Lazy Listless Negative Passive Spaced Out Stuck Unfocused Unresponsive Withdrawn 12 Abundance Course Workbook . No matter what I do.APATHY Results in: Desire is dead because it’s no use. I can’t win. It’s a dead end. I give up. No use. It’s too hard. I’m doomed I’m useless. why try. Let it wait. No way out. Feeling Cut off Dead Defeated Dejected Depressed Despairing Discouraged Disillusioned Downcast Drained Exhausted Fatigued Futile Helpless Hopeless Low Negative Numb Overwhelmed Pessimistic Powerlessness Resigned Tired Weak Thinking I can’t. Tomorrow. I don’t count. I don’t know how. I’m worthless. It’s not use. What’s the use. Why bother. It’ll never work. We can’t do anything and no one else can help.

It’s not fair. I’m the victim. Acting Acting helpless Attention seeking Complaining Crying Dramatizing Flustered Helping others at your own expense. Woe is me. I can’t do anything about it. I can’t do it myself. Poor me. Nobody wants me. Hysterical Martyr Melancholy Moping Morose Needy Neglecting self and others Nostalgia: “the good old days” Pouting Seeking comfort Self-conscious Sobbing Suffering Wailing Weeping 13 Abundance Course Workbook . I’ll never recover. If only. I can’t do it right. They’re taking advantage of me. Feeling Abandoned Abused Accused Ashamed Betrayed Blue Cheated Despair Disappointed Distraught Forgotten Guilty Heartbroken Heartache Heartsick Helpless Hurt If only Ignored Inadequate Inconsolable It’s not fair Left out Longing Loss Melancholy Misunderstood Mourning Neglected Nobody cares Nobody loves me Nostalgia Passed over Pity Poor me Rejected Remorse Sadness Sorrow Tearful Tormented Torn Tortured Unhappy Unloved Unwanted Vulnerable Why me? Wounded Thinking Do it for me. Why me? Nobody loves me. They’re doing it to me. I’ll never get it right. It’s all my fault. I’m less than.GRIEF Results in: The desire for someone to help us because we can’t do anything but we think maybe someone else can—we cry out for that someone to do it. It’s not my fault.

It’s so confusing that I just can’t move. there is no way out. It’s closing in around me. They’re out to get me. I’m not OK. I’m trapped.FEAR Results in: The desire to strike out but not doing so because we think they will hit us harder. so I can’t do anything. I’m confused and don’t know what to do. I have to get it right or they’ll kill me. Disaster’s looming and I’ve got to hide. It is safer to stay still and not take any chances. I can’t let them find me out. I’m not safe. Feeling Anxious Apprehensive Caged Cautious Cowardly Distrusting Disturbed Doubt Dread Engulfed Exposed Faint Fidgety Frantic Insecure Nervous Panic Skeptical Sheepish Strained Tense Terrified Threatened Timorous Trapped Uncertain Unsafe Vulnerable Wary Thinking Crisis after crisis. It’s not safe. I don’t want anything to change. The desire to reach out but not doing it because we think we’ll get hurt. I’m not enough. What if I fail? What if I get fired? What if I get into trouble? What if I make a mistake? What if they don’t like me? What if…? What will they think? Acting Agitated Ambivalent Apologetic Chaotic Confused Cowering Cringing Defensive Disorderly Distraught Distrustful Disturbed Embarrassed Evasive Frenzied Frozen Hesitant Hyperactive Hyper-focused Hyper-vigilant Hysterical Indecisive Inhibited Irrational Lack of clarity Meek Mistrustful Nervous No action Not trusting Overwhelmed Panicky Paralyzed Paranoid Procrastination Quaking Scared Secretive Self-sabotage Shady Sheepish Shock Shy Superstitious Suspicious Timid Traumatized Tremble Tunnel vision Wishy-washy 14 Abundance Course Workbook . I have to get them before they get me.

We may or may not reach out. me. I need you. Feeling Ambitious Anticipation Appetite Craving Demanding Desire Envious Excited Frustrated Gluttonous Greedy Heedless Horny Hot Hunger Insatiable Jealous Less than Longing Ravenous Reckless Sensuous Sexy Voracious Wanting Wanton Thinking I want… Do it my way. It feels so good. I need them. How can I get it? I can’t wait. There is an underlying sense that we cannot. I want to understand. I’m starving.LUST Results in: The desire for possession–Wanting. I want it now! I want more. Look at me. Me. I want it all. Acting Addictive Attention seeking Chaotic Compulsive Covert Desperate Devious Devouring Driven Excessive Exploitive Extravagant Fixated Frantic Frenzied Hoarding Impatient Inconsiderate Indecent Lascivious Lavish Lecherous Lewd Licentious Manic Manipulative Miserly Obsessive Out-of-control Over indulgent Over-eating Panting Predatory Pushy Risqué Ruthless Seductive Self-centered Selfish Uncooperative Unruly Vulgar Wild With abandon 15 Abundance Course Workbook . me. There isn’t enough. My way is the only way. The hunger for money– things–people. I have to… I like it this way. I want to figure it out. I must do it my way. I must have it. I need… I want excitement. I want to know. should not have. I’m not satisfied. Don’t stop. There won’t be enough for me. but with hesitation.

Don’t even think of it. I’m not doing anything. Don’t push me around. Not a chance. If they don’t listen to me. but with hesitation. Feeling Agitated Annoyed Boiling Disgusted Disturbed Explosive Fierce Frustrated Hateful Irritated Jealous Livid Mad Malicious Outraged Perturbed Rageful Resentful Sizzling Smoldering Steely Stern Stewing Sullen Upset Vengeful Violent Volcanic Wicked Willful Thinking Do it my way or else. Not on your life. Now you’ll pay. Out of my way. or else! Acting Abrasive Abrupt Abusive Aggressive Attacking Barbarous Belligerent Biting Blinded Bloodthirsty Brooding Brusque Brutal Callous Caustic Cold Crazed Cruel Curt Defiant Demanding Deranged Destructive Discourteous Disrespectful Exacting Ferocious Fierce Gruff Harsh Headstrong Heartless Instigating Intimidating Inflexible Invasive Malevolent Maniacal Merciless Nasty Obstinate Offensive Passive-aggressive Petulant Pigheaded Profane Provoking Punishing Pushy Ravaging Rebellious Resistant Rude Ruthless Sarcastic Savage Spiteful Strife Stubborn Talking about others Uncooperative Unyielding Vengeful Vicious 16 Abundance Course Workbook . Don’t tell me what to do! Drop dead! F… off! F… you! Fat chance. Get out of my way. Me do it your way–not on your life. to hurt and stop the other one. I’ll let them go down the tube. I’ll get even! I’ll get them. Who do they think they are? You better do it my way. We might or might not strike out. I’ll kill you! I’ll never give in.ANGER Results in: The desire to strike out.

I’m not like them. I’m the only one who can do it right. I know. Feeling Above it all Aloof Arrogant Better than Complacent Conceited Condescending Contemptuous Cool Disdain Haughty Holier than thou Icy Irreverent Judgmental Pious Rejecting Righteous Rigid Smug Special Superior Uncompromising Unfeeling Vain Thinking I’ll just reject! How dare you! I knew that. You need me to get it done. It’s your fault. the wish to stop others from movement as they might pass us up. I’ll look like I’m agreeing and do it my way. Unwilling to change or move–therefore. I’m too busy with important matters to have time for you. I’m in a better place than all of you. Maybe I’ll do it and maybe I won’t. I’m right. I’m smarter than everyone else.PRIDE Results in: The wish to maintain the status quo. I’m better than all of them. I won’t associate with “those kind” of people. My way is the only way. I know everything. Acting Aloof Arrogant Bigoted Blaming others Boastful Bored Closed Complacent Conceited Detached Disrespectful Distant Dogmatic Egotistical False Humility Gloating Hypocritical Indifferent Know it all Narrow minded Never wrong Opinionated Patronizing Pompous Putting others down Remote Sabotage Sanctimonious Self-absorbed Self-centered Self-important Snobbish Spoiled Stoic Stubborn Stuck-up Talking against others Unforgiving Impenetrable Unreadable Unyielding Withdrawn Walk away 17 Abundance Course Workbook . I’m the savior/hero. I’m the only one who can get it done. What do they know? What’s wrong with you? Who do they think they are? Who do you think you are? Why is everyone so incompetent? You don’t belong. I’m better than you.

It can be easy and effortless. Let’s work together. I’m willing to take risks. It’s possible. I’m willing. I do what’s needed and it works. We’ll find a way.COURAGEOUSNESS Results in: The willingness to move out without fear or hesitation–to do–to correct–to change wherever needed. We can do it. The willingness to let go–to move on. It is as easy as it was hard. I know we can. I can listen. Feeling Alert Alive Assured Aware Centered Cheerful Clear Confident Cooperative Delighted Eager Energetic Exhilarated Focused Grounded Gusto Happy Heartiness Hopeful Independent Invincible Loving Lucid Non-resistant Open Optimistic Passionate Purposeful Receptive Resilient Safe Secure Stable Willing Zealous Zest Thinking I can I can get it done. I’ll do what it takes to make it work. I can respond appropriately. Yes! Acting Able Aboveboard Adaptive Adventurous Bold Brave Candid Collaboration Commitment Compassionate Competent Cooperation Creative Daring Decisive Dedicated Dynamic Enjoyment Exploration Flexible Focused Forthright Gallant Generosity Giving Goodness Gratification Honesty Humorous Initiative Inquiry Insightful Integrity Inventive Motivated Partnering Perceptive Persevering Persistent Playful Pleasure Resourceful Risk-taking Robust Self-sufficient Sharp Solution focused Spontaneous Strong Supportive Tireless Unpretentious Valiant Vigorous 18 Abundance Course Workbook .

We all have a contribution to make. It’s all coming together. Everything is unfolding as it should. Everything is beautiful. Everything is OK. I love you just as you are. I have and enjoy everything as it is. No judgements of good or bad. I have what I need as I need it. Feeling Accepting Allowing Attuned Beautiful Childlike Compassionate Contented Delighted Elated Enriched Flowing Fulfillment Glowing Happy Harmonious Innocent Joyful Loving Mellow Open Playful Radiant Receptive Satisfied Secure Soft Well-being Thinking All is well. It just is and it’s OK. I accept you. It is beautiful as it is.ACCEPTANCE Results in: No need to change anything. Acting Abundant Accepting Appreciative Balance Benevolent Caring Clear-sighted Co-creative Compassionate Devotional Embracing Empathy Friendly Gentleness Gracious Insightful Intuitive Magnanimous Naturalness Non-judgmental Orderly Receptive Satisfied Tenderness Understanding Warm Wonder 19 Abundance Course Workbook .

Everyone and everything is part of my Self.PEACE Results in: I am–I am whole. Everything is unfolding as it should. total unto my Self. Acting Actionless Balanced Centered Composed Connection Flawless Imperturbable In equilibrium Infinite Limitless Perfection Poised Quiet Self-possessed Serenity Spacious Stillness Tranquil Unlimited Whole Witnessing 20 Abundance Course Workbook . It is all perfect. complete. Feeling Awareness Boundless Calm Centered Complete Eternal Free Fulfilled Glowing Light Pure Quiet Serene Oneness United Thinking All is well. I am. We are one. It’s just perfect.

Acceptance No need to change anything. We withdraw and play weak so we won’t get hurt. Anger The desire to strike out to hurt and stop the other one. Lust The desire for possession—Wanting. The willingness to let go—to move on. The hunger for money—things— people. 21 Abundance Course Workbook .SCALE OF ACTION Peace I am—I am whole. It just is and it’s OK. No judgments of good or bad. Fear The desire to strike out but not doing it because we think they will hit us harder. Everyone and everything is part of my Self. It is all perfect. It is beautiful as it is. The desire to reach out but not doing it because we think we’ll get hurt. Courageousness The willingness to move out without fear or hesitation—to do—to correct—to change wherever needed. We may or may not reach out. Pride The wish to maintain the status quo. but with hesitation. the wish to stop others from movement as they might pass us up. We can’t do anything and no one else can help. complete. but with hesitation. should not have. total unto my Self. Grief The desire for someone to help us because we can’t do anything. There is an underlying sense that we cannot. I have and enjoy everything as it is. Apathy Desire is dead because it’s no use. We might or might not strike out. but we think maybe someone else can—we cry for that someone to do it. Unwilling to change or move— therefore.

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