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An estimated 67% to 93% of human communication (according to university researchers) is nonverbal, and your body language reveals your internal emotional state. Whether someone's parents just died, or whether they just got promoted to CEO... you can tell by observing their body language. So, as a man who tries to pick up and seduce women, you should be mindful of what you're communicating non-verbally. Body language consists of the following: - Your movements. They should be nonchalant, as if you're so fabulously successful that there's rarely a reason for you to rush nor try to impress anybody. Move through the world doing what you want and assuming that others will follow. - The displacement of your body. Your arms and legs should be spread out. Don't be afraid to take up space. - Your voice. It should have a calm, soothing, and commanding effect. Don't speak too fast or strain your voice. - Your face. Keep your facial muscles relaxed. Never tense your jaw, and only rarely should you frown or wrinkle your brow. - Your shoulders. Keep them relaxed like they'd be if you just got a massage. Don't raise them up like a nervous person. I would even go as far as to say that you body language is more important than anything you say, because if your body language doesn't match what you say, then you won't succeed with women. You see, if you tell a woman stories that convey your confidence, but at the same time you slump over and fold your arms, then you come across as fake. I've picked up women before merely through the use of my body language. For example, a couple months ago I was at a coffee shop that I frequent, lounging on the couch, arms spread out, with my feet up on the table. The mindset I had was that I felt so comfortable that it was as if I were in my home lounging on my own couch. It was as if I owned the coffee shop.
The net result was that a girl sitting near me put down her book and started engaging me in random small talk. (Whenever an attractive girl you don't know starts a random conversation with you, you should ALWAYS assume that she's attracted to you. This is because women generally won't risk the whole male-female dynamic, especially with a stranger, unless they feel attraction.) The conversation went on for awhile, I got her number, called her that night, and a few days later we met and after several hours went to her place, where I spent the night. (We finally had sex in the morning.) The bottom line though is that she became initially attracted to me and approached me because of my body language. Now, of course body language isn't enough. You also must have an internal alpha male mindset that's consistent with your body language. But make no mistake about it... if your body language conveys confidence, then your mood will also shift to become more confident. And have you ever noticed how when you walk with a spring in your step, you feel more upbeat? Conversely, when you cast your eyes down and drag your feet, you feel depressed. So your mindset also follows the body language that you adopt. So, in conclusion, be an alpha male with your mindset and your body language. Be in a woman's personal space and be sexual and interested in her, but at the same time don't be needy or desperate for her attention. Just be comfortable and enjoy yourself. And when your body language conveys that, it means you'll later be comfortable and enjoying yourself... with the woman.
. she must have feelings of comfort. Then dinner ends. The two of you hit it off. Bye!" Often. you'll notice an interesting phenomenon. there's a way to shortcircuit that barrier. You see. the need for comfort is why women like to make guys wait before sex. Let's say you meet a girl at a 5 PM happy hour. The man and woman are extremely comfortable touching each other. there's something you can do that's usually done ONLY by a woman's boyfriend. in order for a typical woman to have sex with a man. Now what? Around this time. it might be only three dates. the guy can be made to wait for months. Pretend there's sleep in her eye. If you do it too. She's laughing. Certainly when you are in a relationship where you can brush sleep out of a woman's eye. you've long since passed the point where the two of you are comfortable having sex. (If the guy's lucky. Catch my drift? You can use this as a psychological weapon to make the woman feel more comfortable around you. having a great conversation. tell her to hold still and close her eyes. it's a way of getting under a woman's radar and making her comfortable enough around you so that she'll be receptive to sex without making you wait. but with a lot of women. It is not enough for her to simply feel attraction for the guy. You entrance her by telling her fascinating stories about your life. The two of you have good rapport.) Fortunately." If you watch couples who are in close relationships. In mid-conversation. but the roadmap is often muddled. so much so that they'll even do seemingly gross things like brush sleep ("eye boogers") out of each other's eyes. and make her believe that you just brushed it off. She's interested."Boyfriending Technique" I'm going to reveal an important comfort-building technique I call "Boyfriending. a lot of guys get confused about how to advance the interaction forward. It's a behavior that's only done by people who are completely comfortable around each other. I call it the "Boyfriending Technique. Call me." In a nutshell. "I had great time meeting you. you get hungry and invite her to get something to eat. Around 7:30. Dinner goes well too. Usually the night ends with the woman saying something like. Clearly the goal is to get laid.
Make the Boyfriending Technique a part of your dating arsenal. it sub-communicates that the two of you are very comfortable around each other. Stimulating her lower lip makes her body release sex hormones. bringing your heads closer together and progressing towards a make out session. You may just be having sex within several hours instead of having to wait several months. . The net result of the Boyfriending Technique is nuclear. First.. a woman's lower lip has a high concentration of nerve endings. it involves you touching her face. Second. you're in fact touching an erogenous zone.Later. in the case of you touching her lower lip. That's right. With your finger. brush off an imaginary piece of food from her lower lip. Third.. and you'll find more success than ever before. after the two of you finish eating and leave the restaurant. again tell her to hold still.
If you've been to those same places. I shop there too. "Isn't it amazing how fate has finally brought us together?" As the conversation progresses. And now. "That's awesome. they live in the same apartment building. to use a recent example I encountered. about fate bringing the man of her dreams to her. There is a very easy. someday. even if you two have known each other for only a few hours.. triggered by a constant diet of romance movies and novels. You can speed the seduction process and have the woman feeling deeply connected with you by using my Fated Encounter Technique. and without having to resort to complicated (and risky!) hypnosis tactics? Well. Months go by. Yet after several close calls. Imagine. we've probably seen each other there all the time!" Another example would be that the two of you go to downtown LA all the time. And of course they hit it off right from the start. Here's why it works. no-risk way to do this. and probably have walked past each other on many occasions. You can then say. again because of fate. Wouldn't it be nice if that could happen in real life. During the course of your conversation with the woman. I'll explain how it works. rather than having to wait through several dates before the woman finally feels comfortable enough with you to have sex? Well.. you bring up places she has been to. and they go their separate ways. you then talk about how amazing it is that the two of you could have been there at the same time and yet destiny kept you apart. I call it the Fated Encounter Technique. that she shops at the local Whole Foods grocery store."The Fated Encounter" Wouldn't it be nice if you could create feelings within a woman of a deep connection with you. they still don't meet. two years later. Instead. The two date other people. In one typical scene the guy and the girl almost bump into each other on the sidewalk. it can. fate keeps them apart.... good news. The man and the woman each ponder what it will be like when they meet that special someone. fate finally brings them together. and yet are never happy. Let's say.. you can say. the two of you can talk about other coincidences. Then. off and on. and the things . Every woman has a fantasy from the time she was a little girl. And then near the end of the movie.
she will then start to feel as if she's known you. She concludes.the two of you might have done together if you'd only known each other. you are the man she's been waiting for all her life. for a lot longer than just a few hours. With the seed planted. on a deeper psychic level. . and how "fate" has now brought the two of you together. as the girl thinks about those coincidences.
how do you keep that alpha mindset? First and foremost. You see. Instead they allow all the buyers to come to them. They act bitchy when they take you for granted and no longer feel like they need put out effort to win your affections. Don't reward her for acting bitchy by continuing to be around her when she does. so avoid that by remaining a challenge. relationships can make us guys too lazy (since the sex is so easy) and we lose that "high value" mindset.. Women act sweet when you're a challenge to them. Always be willing to focus your time on things other than your girlfriend. punish her by withdrawing your time and focusing on something (or someone) else. if you want more of it. Like I said. We become too dependent on our woman for our happiness. reward her for good behavior by giving her more of your time when she acts sweet. the alpha male. and. So the solution to remaining the attractive. If a woman engages in behavior which you disapprove of. As a man. do it because you're rewarding her. A basic concept which will prevent her from ever treating you badly is what I call Punishment and Reward. Hell. too. Then there's the issue of being a challenge. This results in being without sex for many months. avoid chasing your girlfriend like a puppy dog.. the cycle repeats. "I am like a Lamborghini. And DO reward her good behavior. we need to REMAIN the attractive guy. Lamborghini doesn't even advertise. reward her by giving her more of your time." Do Lamborghini dealerships grovel to try to get people to like them? Of course not. On the other hand. It's crucial to keep that alpha male frame of mind that says."Have You Got a Girlfriend? Here's How Not to Screw It Up" Having a girlfriend can be a dangerous thing. Punishment and Reward. Often by around month 6 in a relationship is when a woman really starts to take a guy for granted. and then if we get dumped. So whenever you do something nice for her. If she does something you like (such as having sex with you). So. until we finally get a girlfriend again. you should have a similar confident mindset if you want to maximize the attraction your girlfriend feels for you. etc. we find that we've all of a sudden lost our confidence. So to break this cycle. alpha guy in your relationships is threefold: 1. talking about her feelings. .
but if (for example) you're telling her 20 times a day that you love her. Always have it in the back of your mind that you could end the relationship at any time. That way she'll never become truly comfortable with the relationship and will keep working to win you. 3. but just make it a subtle implication. this can be very subtle.2. Don't explicitly threaten her with that. Again. Always allow her to think that's she's just a little bit more interested in you than you are in her. . and she's only telling you that twice. then obviously the situation is badly out of whack.
(That is so key by the way. strong inner attitude. Who cares what women think of you? Go through life doing what you want and being who you are.Napoleon Okay. one way short guys can be more dominant physically is to work out. I'd like you to experiment with that. you become like a pit bull. wear vertical stripes and tight clothes. try to let your "inner badass" come out a bit when you're with girls. I'm not saying you should become a jerk. That will make you look SLENDER.Al Pacino . But you know what? They were all awesome with the ladies (and not just because of their celebrity status. In fact that really should be first and foremost. but also with your confidence levels. but just try to balance out that inner nice guy. So get in the gym. If you've got muscles... "I AM like the pitbull who can dominate bigger dogs. do not always be the nice guy who's polite.... For the next few months. the reason they could attract girls was because of their strong inner attitude. And by the way. Next thing to do long term is to GIVE UP any approval-seeking. When you're muscular and you're a short guy. There are a couple things you can do in the short term. they're all short guys. no surprise here.) .. "I'm becoming like the pitbull who can dominate the bigger dogs. change your affirmation to.. which will make you appear taller." Once you start feeling more and more confident in a few weeks. and poise. those guys I list above were players exactly because they went through life doing what they wanted and being true to who they were. not only with your physical appearance. they were all players before they became famous.."How to Attract Girls Even if You're Short" Let me mention a few names and you can tell me what they all have in common: . when you dress. Also. Do the affirmation. Long term." I've noticed that a lot of short guys develop a VERY strong presence by having cultivated that inner badass.Humphrey Bogart . it helps A LOT. Now.) In fact. Wearing boots right now will subtly add 2 or 3 inches to your height..
And hit the gym ASAP. cultivate your inner badass. what women find attractive about them isn't their height. By the way. So to sum up. Then you'll attract girls without worrying about irrelevant things like height. then they will too. it makes chicks dripping wet with attraction. take risks in life. And when you add to that a bit of a "badboy" element. And do the fashion things I said. If you have a tight sense of inner confidence. they automatically are able to have more rapport with chicks (who tend to be short themselves) than the guys who are beanpoles. Because of their stature. and stop caring about anyone's approval. It's their dominance. . short guys who are badasses really have a bit of an advantage. The bottom line is this: only if YOU feel uncomfortable with your height will it affect you with the girls.You see. be true to yourself. height will be the furthest thing from their minds. when it comes to tall guys. and project a personality that sucks them in. If you feel completely comfortable with your height.
" You see. you should come from a mindset of high value. Non-attachment to whether she likes you or not. A ideal man is an alpha male who's confident in himself and not afraid to take the lead to get what he wants out of life. She dates the more "adept" guys. "God. a woman finds a man attractive because of his personality. the really nice hair and a perfect face.. Make friends with as many women as you can. Psychologically. Nonchalance. but how can you get her to like you? While men are primarily attracted to women based on their looks."How to Get a Girl to Like You" We've all had that special woman in our lives. what this means is that the best way for a girl to like you is when she feels like she has EARNED you. you can also eliminate neediness by building up your social network.. 2. That's because to get a girl to like you. (Women are easy to make friends with. (By that I mean. this is known as the "social proof" phenomenon. the one with the sweet personality. but if not. You know.. she too feels attraction. I MUST have this girl! She's irreplaceable!" Having an abundance of women in your life will solve that problem. In addition to placing a high value on yourself. if she likes you that's awesome... . Also. Ever noticed how your female friends drool over the guy at the corner of the bar who's got four babes at his table? That's social proof in action. and it's much more powerful in women than men. Never come from a position of neediness.) Also date as many women as you can. Ironically.. Instead you should be a challenge for her. whenever a woman sees that other chicks are attracted to a guy. the last thing you ever want to have going through your mind when you're around that special woman is.. there are tons of other chicks out there who are equally as great as she is.. So the best attitudes to have towards any one particular woman are: 1. don't restrict yourself to dating only "that one special girl.) The bottom line is that a woman should never be a challenge for you.
you must always remind yourself that there are LOTS of other women out there who are just as wonderful as she is.By the way. ironically. So remember.. then that gives her power over you. Here's the key though. those are the three secrets for how to get a girl to like you. place a high value on yourself.. Just remember that lots of other girls are amazing too. it's fine to think a girl is beautiful and to have powerful feelings for her. and hang out with as many women as possible. make her earn your attention. If you start thinking that any girl is one of a kind.. makes her lose attraction to you. and. . you're free to think that a woman's amazing.. That way you won't become needy. So.
because the issues the women had the strongest opinions about were ones that most guys would never think of. "It's just about taking care of yourself. Some guy who absolutely loves it can wear that shirt." said the blonde. . be an individual. to find out what styles in men they considered hot. what does that say about you?" 3. flossing at least once. single women between 21 and 33. When you're wearing jeans. YOUR CLOTHES. "that's not the first thing a woman should notice about you." For example. "If you work with your hands. to the enthusiastic agreement of the others. Women notice right off the bat if your hands are covered with dirt or grease." added the blonde. 1. you should still wear it. And if they're rotten or badly stained. The results were surprising. listen up. keep them brushed twice a day. and other blue collar types. "No one wants to kiss Chiclet Mouth." And." said one woman. construction workers. agreed the women." Good shoes instead are loafers or boots." So auto mechanics. don't go crazy with the teeth whitener. "Some boys wear only tennis shoes and that's just annoying. I put together a focus group of 6 randomly chosen hot. leave the tennis shoes at home. YOUR HANDS. "but don't look so put together that you appear obsessive-compulsive. It shows immaturity. If you've got that one shirt that only you love. "I am a believer that athletic gear is for exercise. take a hawaiian shirt with a flamingo on it. "You should not look sloppy. My goal was to find the things that they all agreed on." said a part-time model in her mid-20s. Try to be neat without being anal. 2. YOUR TEETH. However." explained another chick. see your dentist ASAP. So in order to not have your teeth immediately disqualify you."Revealed: What Women Want When It Comes to a Guy's Looks" As part of my research for a guide to style. even if it is somewhat "uncool. If you can't even wash your hands. Bad teeth are "just gross" said one blonde bombshell. "It's not what a person does.
" So in other words.So the bottom line is that a few guys can indeed pull off wearing the tennis shoes. because women will pick up on that. Sound confusing? It isn't once you realize that the simple test is this: Are you wearing clothes that display your core personality? As one woman explained it. except just be your genuine self. . the perfect style for you comes down to personal preferences and your individual sense of style. You can't make one rule for everything. "You should be comfortable with what you're wearing and like what you're wearing.
you are. And then as adults. . our thumbs replaced our mom's nipple. 7) Sit on your hands to avoid having the woman see them tremble. when you feel nervous. because the wrong hand movements can communicate that you are a low-status. let's face it. For a baby."Are You Making These Body Language Mistakes With Your Hands?" Unfortunately. doing the same thing that infants are doing when they suck their mother's breast. according to psychologists. When we became toddlers. keeping your arms open and letting them drop forward. MISTAKE ONE. biting our thumbnail does the same thing. You do this when you: 1) Shred napkins. When you bite your nails or otherwise chew on your fingers. 5) Twiddle your fingers or thumbs. Just hold your hands relaxed on the table. 6) Hold your hands unnaturally still. beta male. Although you might be feeling nervous. your hands can be particularly tough to manage because. Displaying your anxiety with your hands. To make matters worse. breast feeding provides comfort. 4) Hold something and play with it. make sure you don't make the following body language mistakes with your hands. 3) Sit on your hands. Instead you want to convey that you're calm and in control. 2) Make your hands into fists. the hardest thing in the world is figuring out what to do with your hands! For success with your dating and seduction of women. Rest your forearms on the table. Ever noticed that when you're out in public. MISTAKE TWO. Nothing attracts a woman more than a man who's laid back and confident. you mainly bite your nails when you're under pressure? THE SOLUTION. the last thing you want to do is to let the woman detect you feel that way. Putting your fingers into your mouth. what you do with your hands can be one of the quickest non-verbal ways to destroy the attraction that a woman feels for you.
Having the back of your hands facing her can often convey that you're hiding something. Demonstrating your confidence can be as easy as that! Stop twiddling your thumbs and watch the women flock to you. with fingers curved slightly upward. Most of the time this means having them about 18 inches or half a meter apart. As your palms face each other. your palms facing each other.Keep your hands and arms open and relaxed. . Open palms convey honesty and being completely comfortable with yourself. they should also face the woman.
I'm going to enjoy my day just the same. there is always one person who is reacting more than the other.e. resonating voice and disinterested. Keep the alpha status and stay in control of the situation right from the beginning. When I first started speaking to her. Maybe he tries too hard to make her laugh. "Do you know where the smoothie place is? I'm in the mood for a smoothie. and the mistake I most often see a guy make when he opens a conversation with a girl is that he tries to get a response from her. if some hot chick wants to earn my attention. and it all started with me walking by a random girl and saying (using a clear. expecting me to say something interesting. Simple. but relaxed and sexual body language). then there's no longer a challenge for her and she loses interest. In every conversation. "Hey. right? Here was the key: I always made sure that she was reacting to me more than I was reacting to her. You see.g. "What's you major?" or "How has your day been today?") This sets her up with a higher value than him." She looked up. "I'm just going through my day. The person trying to win the other's approval is the one who's more attracted. whenever you set a girl up with a higher value than you (like when you're trying to win her approval). If not. I frankly couldn't care less about what she thought of me. So a girl will struggle to make small talk and keep the conversation going as long as your value is higher than hers."How to Start a Conversation With a Woman" Last week I had the easiest pick up and lay in my life. But hey." I've coached a lot of guys. Or he starts asking her weird questions that he shouldn't be interested in when speaking to a total stranger (e. Make sure to . My mindset was. this causes her to lose attraction for you. or alpha.. person. she kept the conversation going." After that. is the more relaxed of the two) is the more dominant. The person who reacts less (i. Women are attracted to men who are a challenge for them. that's cool. My follow-up was simply.. If at some point it becomes clear that you're trying to win her approval.
Just say whatever you want. So the answer to the best way to begin a conversation with a woman is this: Don't try.not ever react too much to what a girl says. Don't care what she thinks. . Always remain more relaxed than her.
By the time you finish this article. And by the way."I had to give a speech last week and felt so nervous!" . And by the way. Look at it like this: 1. efficient way to do that. Examples could be: . she'll be literally begging you to take her home with you that night." The point of the ad was that not all of their cars were perfect. and now you'll be able to use it with women. You see. You see. VW took its quality inspections so seriously that it took note of even small weaknesses in the builds of its cars. this is a one of the best-kept secrets of human persuasion. and have sex with you. even if it's the very first date. but she must also trust him."I don't always floss my teeth even though I should.. if a person tells you something that's against his self-interest." . Trust Without Attraction = "He's a great friend and I love him to death!" (Translation: "We'll NEVER have sex!") 2. with a woman. Now you need to build trust. It's a fundamental trait of human psychology. Let's take a typical scenario. you've got a lot going on in your life. Say it's coming up on 11 PM. The most successful advertisers and salesmen to make billions use it. you should point out your minor flaws. you should always assume attraction until proven otherwise. for a woman to have sex with a guy. if the woman has both attraction AND trust for the guy. you tend to trust him more.. So when it comes to women. you'll know an easy. and you're witty and interesting. Sometimes I feel self-conscious about it. We all do." . Attraction Without Trust = "I'm not a loose woman."I have an ugly mole on my neck. you can assume she's attracted to you. and you've been with a woman since 6 that afternoon. As long as you've had good rapport with her and you've kept pushing the interaction forward."How To Make A Woman Trust You Completely" I'm about to reveal a little-known secret of human persuasion that can induce the woman to feel complete trust for you. she must not only be attracted to him. Because the bottom line is that as long as you've got good body language. she WILL be attracted to you. He'll have to wait before he gets any!" However. Have you ever noticed how ads will sometimes mention minor defects in the products? A famous example of this was the wildly success Volkswagen Beetle ads from 30 years ago that had the huge headline: "Lemon.
"I've never done it with a guy this soon before!" . it doesn't necessarily matter. later that night she could be breathlessly panting. By pointing them out. she'll believe the MAJOR PERFECTIONS about you as well. Because she believes the minor imperfections about you.Even if they're fake flaws. you create a perception of honesty within the woman. having both attraction for AND trust in you. This means that.
you're right. Have you ever noticed the way your friends look when they're all nervous? They're looking down at the ground with their arms crossed. toxic to your emotional state. Don't allow yourself to feel worried. I know what I just said is easier said than done (to use an old--but relevant in this case-cliche). and because of that. it's simply the fear of what might happen in the future. women get soaking wet over him. or the CEO where you work--and you'll notice that he moves differently than the rest of us. Just let your worries go.. So. With that in mind.. Now. George Clooney. . But what is this emotion we call "worry"? When you think about it. you can make these changes as early as tonight and have even the hottest girls clamoring for your attention): 1.. So suck it up. You've spent your whole life up until now dwelling on thoughts that make you feel worried. Identify them for what they are. let them go. too. with their voices cracking and their eyes bugged out. They've got girls all over them and some great body language going on. and. and quit thinking about what might go wrong."The Number One Secret Behind the Alpha Male's Body Language" Watch a man with high status--Brad Pitt.. here are some pointers for you to develop the mindset and body language of an alpha male (and by the way.. women don't want to be around you. Essentially you're punishing yourself by feeling upset before anything bad has happened.. relaxation is the most important mental state for you to be in. Just live life. if you think they're easy. the alpha males are relaxed and in control when it comes to social situations.. Make no mistake about it. Now. It makes no logical sense to worry! So the solution is to avoid contemplating your worrisome thoughts anymore... can create that aura that makes you attractive to women. fidgeting. And when you give off that kind of body language yourself. since you can't solve any problem by worrying. Simply not dwelling on negative outcomes that make you feel upset will reduce 90% of your worries.. He gives off vibes that he is hot stuff. what's the number one secret between those high status guys and the low status guys? You've probably guessed it. You. think about successful guys.
where your movements are slow and fluid. Look straight ahead. Beta males hold their eyelids wide open because they are so nervous. 4. While you're out and about.Fidgeting with your hands and/or legs. Imagine you are standing and walking through a swimming pool. . If someone wants your attention. Relax your eyes and eyelids.2. "I am sexual. When you breathe. I am relaxed.Tightening your facial muscles. Instead let your eyelids rest. do the affirmation to yourself. 3. . 5. A trait common to many beta males is being so eager to please that when someone calls their name.Raising your shoulders. imagine that you're bringing air down to your stomach. and I am in control. . Their eyes dart all around. Relax all your muscles and slow down all of your movements a notch." 6. as if they are in control of time itself. Beta males are nervous and make jerky movements. Only give things your attention if they interest you. Alpha males generally move unhurriedly. you see them spin their heads toward the person unnaturally fast. Feel your belly rise and fall as you breathe. .Wrinkling your forehead. A second strategy to relax is to breathe through your abdomen rather than your chest. Avoid nonverbal behaviors that are the opposite of relaxation: . move your head slowly.
"Since I'm so good at approaching people . (I'm just guessing. nothing to do with picking up chicks.. Her skin looks so radiant and so incredibly soft. but I think if you're like most guys. If you're thinking about rejection. Does this situation sound familiar? If so. The first thing for you to realize is that all guys get anxiety about approaching women. So you shy away from even approaching her in the first place. It's not with the chicks.. [insert your affiliate link for "How to Become an Alpha Male"]. You know that even if you got your balls in gear and went for it.. as I discuss in my book . I would force myself to chat up everybody. which is why. The problem is inside of you. but about other things in their life like their career. keep reading. I would talk about neutral topics with them. No goals.. ugly girls.. So to overcome my shyness... most guys will never find the success they want. etc. Most guys let fear paralyze them. then that means you're making your approaches with a certain outcome in mind. After that.. You feel the fear deep in your gut."Four Keys to Overcoming Your Nervousness Around Women" Standing at the magazine rack thumbing through Cosmo. approach without having any expectations. your goal is getting chicks attracted to you so that you can get laid.. I said to myself. hot girls. The net result from all of that was I became really good at approaching people. You would be on top of the world if you could pick her this girl up. I'm inclined to be an introvert. What You Do About Your Fear. You feel so nervous and fumbly that you would reject yourself if you were her. fat girls. men. First. old people. Let me tell you about a problem I used to have. unfortunately.. But what separates you (and me) from the rest of the guys is. Her hair is silky brown. no matter who they were. look at where your fear comes from. however.) Try this instead. not just about chicks. I know I certainly do. I made a mistake. she has the most gorgeous face you've ever seen. people walking dogs. you wouldn't know what to say.
if a chick passes by you in a hallway.and have become an outgoing person.. talk to three people. don't limit yourself to just talking to hot women. I've had tons of women give me that exact same 'clever' rude comment. Again though. For example. how original. Good chatting with you. then you can chat up hot chicks. Another time I thought it was amusing when I approached a group of two girls. the more you'll reach a level where you notice that most people act in the same.. Because I had thoughts like "I'm going to try to lay this chick" in my mind. One chick screamed "Go away!" at me before I could even get out my initial sentence. time and time again.) Once you've done your practices and feel warmed up. Whenever you go out. before I'd even opened my mouth to say "hi".. It sucked." they both turned their backs on me in unison. I need a quick female opinion on something. So it doesn't matter if the chick responds rudely. Because it's just for practice. predictable ways. why am I wasting time talking to anyone other than hot chicks?" So then I limited the people I talked to. I'm on my way to meeting a friend. set up a time limit for your practice interactions. "Hey. If it helps.. In general. when you reach a point that you've chatted up lots of women. just for practice. In fact." And then walk away without making a big deal of it. It was as if I'd never had all that practice chatting up strangers in the first place. Here's something I want you to try. Don't do it for real. but do it just for practice. like that you'll talk to the person for 30 seconds and then you'll get out of the conversation. just say. do it without having any sort of sex-related outcome in mind. and my anxiety about talking to random women swept over me once again.. as if they were synchronized dancers! Now I just look back on all of that and laugh.. I've found that elderly people (both males and females) and fat women are easy to talk to. You'll have an attitude of "ha. "Well. At that point I realized it was because I was outcome-dependent. (Say something like.. you'll find that eventually rude responses on their part mean nothing. and so I would crash and burn. It'll bore you rather than cause you anxiety." I've been rejected hideously. .. and right after I said "hey.) Remember though: have no outcome in mind. My point is that the more you approach." (Then ask about something that you genuinely want a female opinion on.
And so on. this chick is going to act like a bitch to me because I fumble my words". So what you can do to break this is to identify it for what it is. I'll wrap it up for you by concluding with this advice: 1) Be social for the sake of being social. it alleviates a lot of my tension. the easier it gets.. 4) Ease the physical tension you have in your body when you feel nervous. Instead of thinking. "Been there. So when I relax my jaw and facial muscles. cement. "Oh my God. but eventually. and then let your muscles relax in those areas." it sets you up for failure!) You picture the chicks rejecting you. For me. because your attitude about the experiences will become. To get a bit more psychological.Think of it as trying to build a house." 3) Recognize your bad thoughts and force yourself to replace them with good ones. the walls will be up (which means you've finished the toughest part of the job). Nothing else. 2) Remember that the only way to get over your fear is by doing the thing you fear. that means I've gotten her out of the way and I'm one step closer to finding my dream girl. Brick.. It'll take a long time." like it's some kind of flu virus that invades your body. The more you do it. because if this chick rejects me." Notice where you feel tense in your body. You have a certain series of thought processes that you go through before you become nervous. "It's awesome that I'm making this approach. I feel tense in my jaw and face when I'm nervous. Notice your negative thoughts and change them. You say things to yourself. "I would reject myself. think." You don't "get nervous. there's really no such thing as "being nervous. (When you think thoughts like. Brick. You feel tense in your body. . All feelings of nervousness come from within. done that. it's no big deal. You put down one brick at a time and cement it. cement.
despite their high voices. Eazy-E. the late rapper Eazy-E. You name the trait. and Curly from the Three Stooges all have in common? The answer is they all had voices so high that if they had wanted to. "My face is pockmarked from acne" becomes "How is my face totally awesome? How can my lack of natural good looks actually help me with women?" . In order to develop the confidence of my students."Too Ugly? Too Short? Here's How To Turn Your Flaws Into Strengths" Are you a guy with a high-pitched voice? Of maybe you've got a face only a mother could love? Well. However. What do Steve Tyler of Aerosmith. "I feel bad about my voice" becomes "How can I use my unique voice as my own trademark that sets me apart from other guys?" (That's what Tyler. then I've got some good news for you. In fact. and Curly were all masters of a simple technique that turned that big flaw into a big trademark that made them even more attractive to women. they could have talked to someone on the phone and that person wouldn't have known they were speaking to a man. their looks. I've coached a lot of men who have limiting beliefs when it comes to things like their voice. Not only can you eliminate those flaws. I have them learn and apply this concept. which prevent you from attracting women. their genetics. and it will help you as tremendously as it did all three of those men. whatever it is. if you're worried and upset about your physical flaws. you can turn them into your advantage. and Curly all did. I'll explain how by bringing up an example of three guys who were very successful players in their day. It's a simple technique that I learned when I studied Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). which sabotages their chances at success with women. It would have been simple for all three men to have hung their heads in shame and turn into beta males who never got laid and never even could get a girl to talk to them. etc. you take every negative belief that you have and turn it into a positive. Here's how reframing works. Tyler. Eazy-E. The concept is called reframing. Basically.) 2. So here's a trivia question for you. and there's always somebody who uses that trait as a negative belief. uplifting question. Do it like this: 1.
the man's confidence level is one of the most important traits that he can have. Being short can allow you to gain rapport much easier with girls than taller guys can.3. Instead it's your belief about your face. it's not your flaws that get in your way. ordinary guys. For example. Then write positive. alpha male personality. Tall guys have a psychological communication barrier a lot of the time because they're literally speaking to a lot of girls (who tend on average to be shorter than guys) from a different level. so when you're displaying the confidence to talk with them. That gives you a window of opportunity to display your confident. "I'm too short" becomes "How can I height to my advantage?" As you ponder your new. So I want you to stop reading after this. your brain will come up with answers to them. get out a pen (or open a blank document in your word processor) and write out your negative beliefs. you'll become unstoppable with your self-confidence. . You can become comfortable with yourself by turning your flaws from weaknesses into traits that set you apart from the bland. It's your limiting beliefs that do. you might find that it's to your advantage to not be a "pretty boy. reframed questions in your mind. When you become happy and comfortable with all your traits. which interferes with your inner sense of confidence. through the technique of reframing. their guards will be down. For a woman to be attracted to a guy. Gain that kind of confidence. That lack of confidence is the thing that women pick up on. Your ugly face doesn't get in your way of meeting women. So remember. uplifting questions about how to turn those flaws into good things. and you'll magnetically attract girls to you." Women expect good-looking guys to talk to them. They won't expect you to try to pick them up.
Buy her filet mignon and Don Perignon (if you've got the money). you get a mouth kiss. to harvest the full enjoyment out of life and to have women be attracted to you. you're buying her meals. They avoid behaviors that cause them punishment. A better solution would be to punish the bad behavior by being a lot less interested in cuddling with her. yet the guy rewards her by cuddling with her. So make sure you get treated the way you deserve to be.. Frame all of your behavior towards women in terms of punishment and reward. You start dating a woman. all you get is a peck on the cheek. Take her on a date to a fancy restaurant."How to Get a Woman to Treat You the Way You Deserve" You know the scenario. Never underestimate the power of getting up from the couch and walking out the door. telling you nice things that she would do for you if only she didn't have a boyfriend? Then withdraw your attention. So what's the problem? Why won't she have sex with you? It comes down to human motivation. Second date. That means being powerful. After the first date. So the reason why guys often have trouble getting laid is because they reward bad behavior. Did a chick do something (like have sex with you) that deserves rewarding? Then go ahead and do something nice for her. A chick will lead them on and then make it clear there won't be sex that night. People behave in ways that cause them to get rewarded. It's a very slow process. You even splurged on some pretty flowers.. You can't understand why it has to take so long to have sex with the woman. you hold hands. In short. you're being incredibly nice to the woman. After all. and go talk to other girls instead of her. . and you'll be treated the way you deserve (or else you'll move onto another woman who WILL treat you right). Does a chick just string you along. Remember. you need to be an alpha male. Third date.
because again. he is a challenge for her. As an alpha male. the last 100 guys she dated paid for her meal because. By that I mean. Meet her in a non-traditional venue. However. So when you're chilling with the girl."How To Have Sex On The First Date" Having gone out with with literally thousands of women and gone to bed with hundreds over the past two and a half decades." That reeks of desperation and kills attraction that a woman feels. Things are really going well there. try watching porn just before the date.) And it's important to feel relaxed. and then engage her in conversation about neutral subjects until you see signs that she too is getting relaxed and horny. For a woman to become sexual. In other words. you can dramatically INCREASE THE ODDS of going all the way on the very first night of your relationship. so sex is no big deal to him. as was blatantly obvious to her. like a coffee shop or some cheap diner for lunch. you shouldn't do anything because you're "hoping to get laid. they eventually match emotional states with each other. . not a sure thing." If you do. The conversational vibe is excellent. I've learned that there's nothing you can do to GUARANTEE having sex with any particular woman. Let's say you and the girl hit it off fantastically in the coffee shop. 3. It is important that you feel that exact way yourself. 1. that puts her into the same "make him wait" mindset that she adopted with the last 100 guys who bought her a nice dinner. No nervousness. don't take her to a fancy dinner or do anything else that she associates with a "date. 2. If a woman wants his attention. Have the proper mindset throughout the date. Don't make a big deal out of who pays for what. you should feel deeply relaxed and horny. so you then take her to a bar to get a quick drink. Get her alone with you. You see signs of her increasing sexual arousal and openness to intimacy. Instead meet her somewhere informal. she needs to feel relaxed and horny. A more attractive guy is one who gets laid all the time. (To get yourself into a sexual state. You want to be relaxed and feeling sexual. because studies have shown that when two people are in rapport. she has to earn it. but don't masturbate. they were hoping to get laid. by doing a few simple things.
it) 3578 Hartsel Drive Suite E374 Colorado Springs. "You should come hear my 'Best of the 80s' CD" or "That's awesome that you're so good with art.You notice her stealing glimpses at your chest and even your crotch. It can take several hours for the woman to feel comfortable enough with you at your house. BY John Alexander (http://alphamale. "Uh oh! I don't want to be a slut!" Once the two of you are then alone. and so on from there. mention an innocent excuse for the two of you to go to your place. I have a painting in my living room that I'd love to get your opinion on") Since the two of you have an "innocent" reason to be alone together. The problem is you can't just say. Instead. CO 80920 1-719-357-5694 .has. Keep that in mind and don't rush things. then another. Slowly escalate. (Examples could be.Sitting with her inner thigh exposed." With women you're on a first date with. "Let's go to my place and have sex. whenever you verbalize anything sexual. and then at your mouth. and you'll have your maximum shot at having sex on a first date. stroke her hair. it avoids triggering the alarm bells in her mind that scream.Some signs of a woman's deepening sexual attraction to you include: . .. Sexually. you can set the scene for the seduction. it kills the mood for her and results in you sleeping alone that night.. isolated at your place. . .She engages in "triangle gazing. They heat up slowly. She might even unfasten a button or two of her blouse. women are like irons. Sit on your couch and watch a movie." She'll look at one of your eyes. so you need to be patient. Hold hands.Fidgeting with her clothes.
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