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Table of Contents Copyright Disclaimer Introduction Premature Ejaculation Arousal Mental Control Breathing The Perineal Muscles Masturbation Lowering Her Threshold Overview 2 3 4 5 7 31 57 71 79 96 111 118

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consult a doctor.EjaculationTrainer. Do not attempt any exercises if you don’t fully understand . If you have a medical problem or believe you do. or other medical condition. Failure to consult a doctor and/or incorrect use of the information here may result in injury. Only a doctor can determine if you’re healthy enough to use this information. Copyright © 2008-2010 . cure. This book is for informational purposes only and is not intended to treat. This book is not a substitute for medical advice. health problem. or diagnose any disease. Consult a doctor or qualified medical physician before attempting any exercises or using any of the information covered in this book.Disclaimer I’m not a doctor.

I want nothing more than for you to become a better lover and eliminate your PE for good. and develop control over them. and this takes a little time. it follows a very basic concept.Introduction Thank you for choosing the Ejaculation Trainer as your solution. it’s important to understand that PE can’t be permanently cured overnight. you need to build your mental and physical tolerance for sexual stimulation. This book will go over everything I’ve researched and personally used to control ejaculation. maybe even substantially longer for those who catch on quickly. The goal of this book is to provide a permanent. but overall. You’ll be able to last a little longer tonight. your training will Copyright © 2008-2010 . longterm solution. but is well worth the reward. In order to get long-term results. It was a wise choice to deal with this now before it causes any more distress. I’m confident you will. My solution to PE is somewhat complex and requires a diligent . and after reading this book. but in reality. The truth to solving PE and the basis of my approach can be summarized in one simple sentence… You have to get familiar with your body’s responses. It will take some effort. Before you get started. not a temporary fix.EjaculationTrainer.

You should take your training . and I guarantee you will not only learn ejaculation control. just as you would your job. From this moment on. Most of all. but you’ll be able to put up a performance that most men can’t. If you start training tonight. Let’s get started… Copyright © 2008-2010 . Read this book from start to finish. If you have a severe case that has burdened you for many years. and discipline. Overcoming PE should become your personal goal. it may take longer to get the hang of things. and to retrain your ejaculatory reflex. you should be able to solve your PE within 1-8 weeks. it requires confidence and the ambition to progress. I want you to stop thinking of PE as a dreadful problem. Achieving a goal requires determination. Fear and negativity are only going to make things worse. and you had better stick to it. depending on your case. but rather as an opportunity to better yourself.EjaculationTrainer. and then read it again. Make sure to take notes with a word processor or pen and paper. Put in the required effort. You already took the first step by purchasing this book. The first thing you have to do when solving any problem is to have a positive outlook. consistency.need to be consistent if you want to experience permanent results.

number of strokes. let’s get some basics out of the way. Many people try to define PE with specific numbers. it’s all a matter of your individual opinion on whether you have it or not. such as time frames. Contrary to what you may have been told. there is most likely nothing medically wrong with you that’s causing it. Although PE itself can cause problems. your current opinion is that you think you do have PE. So. an opinion that is likely to change under different scenarios. Before I get into the actual ‘how to.’ there is some important information you need to absorb. and will give you a better understanding of PE and how the ejaculation process works. My definition of PE is simple…If you are consistently Copyright © 2008-2010 . PE isn’t something you ‘have’ or ‘don’t have’.EjaculationTrainer. etc. It’s estimated that 20-40% of men experience PE at some point in their lives. This chapter will lay the foundation for the rest of the book. What is PE? Premature ejaculation is the most common sexual complaint among men.Premature Ejaculation This first chapter is a preliminary to the rest of the book. or else you wouldn’t be here. it’s nothing to be ashamed of. Technically. Obviously. Knowing the ‘how’ and ‘why’ is critical. before we get into the meat and . and will put you in a better position to overcome PE.

while others could take a half hour or more. you have PE. So please go see a doctor. I still think you should have a visit with the Doc to be . PE is all based on opinion and the circumstances in which you find yourself. with some women. Some women find it impossible to climax from penetrative sex no matter how long you last. 5-15 minutes would be a fair choice. such as nerve damage. but with others. chances are there is nothing wrong with you. and require stimulation through other means to reach orgasm. This can vary from woman to woman. On average. So really. it takes 5-15 minutes for a woman to reach orgasm or feel satisfied via penetrative sex. Copyright © 2008-2010 . Should You See A Doctor? As I said.EjaculationTrainer. neurological disorders. it all depends on how long your lady (or ladies) takes to feel satisfied. but PE can be a symptom of a more serious underlying illness or other health issue. Therefore. you might have PE. or prostate problems. So if you want to base your opinion of whether or not you have PE on numbers. Therefore. It’s very rare. However. Some women can climax in just a few minutes. you may not.unable to satisfy a specific woman (at least with penetrative sex). You’d kick yourself in the head if you found out that your PE was caused by a simple prostate infection that only required a few days worth of antibiotics.

These liberated women. is nothing more than an optimum functioning reproductive system. Copyright © 2008-2010 . and rightfully so. Since then. Only in the last century or two have women taken charge and demanded equal rights. The reason men and other mammals ejaculate so quickly is simple: procreation. women demand good sex. In these modern days. discovered many new opportunities. Early ejaculation has been wired into our system since the dawn of man. but most other mammals ejaculate within 3-15 seconds. it’s never been the same. The reproductive system is designed to do exactly what its name implies: reproduce. Like every other bodily function.Why Do Men Ejaculate Quickly? There have been various studies done regarding male ejaculation. It’s been generally found that the average man ejaculates within 2-6 minutes after vaginal entry (if he makes no attempt at controlling it). and one of them was their ability to have orgasms. This is why men naturally climax before women. It ensures the seed is planted. This may not seem like much. This is why younger men are more likely to experience premature ejaculation. and even earlier if you believe in evolution. Early . as annoying as it is. with their newfound rights.EjaculationTrainer. 1. the reproductive system will naturally strive to be as efficient as possible.

take comfort in the thought that after much practice.EjaculationTrainer. you simply Copyright © 2008-2010 . as it won’t control itself. So it’s only natural to ejaculate quickly. Long-lasting. Even the average man who doesn’t consider himself to have PE ejaculates within 2-6 minutes.Basically. passionate sex without ejaculation. and the determining factor on when you ‘naturally’ ejaculate (if you make no attempt at controlling it. the more engrained and natural it becomes. You have to train yourself to be in control of ejaculation. This only leaves one option if you want to last for long periods of time: you have to learn to control your ejaculation. a rapid psychological awareness among women has caused men to try to adapt to something that is the exact opposite of what they had been doing for the previous 30. The longer and more consistent the habit (lots of practice). 2. However. not let it control you as it did your ancestors. So ladies. and there’s no other underlying causes) depends on your nervous system. it’s because of procreation. which is exactly what this book will teach you. If you ejaculate early. it will start to come naturally as it becomes a habit. please be patient. The evolutionary standpoint explains why ‘average men’ ejaculate early. sadly. . does not come naturally to most men.000 years. every man is different.

your ejaculatory reflex/nervous system will calm down and adapt to the change. . So men ejaculate quickly because they have a highly responsive nervous system that was wired into their DNA for procreation. is a lack of serotonin. take comfort in the fact that you probably won’t experience problems with ED (erectile dysfunction) when you get older as so many other men do. and you’ll be able to last longer. possibly the most common for people with severe PE. Over time. Serotonin plays a huge role on your Copyright © 2008-2010 . 3. as I’ll demonstrate later on. usually the result of an adolescent trying to reach orgasm quickly. 4. As you get older. If your nervous system is highly responsive now. your nervous system will naturally become less efficient. It’s basically just a simple retraining process.have a more responsive nervous system. In this scenario. this is something that can be controlled once you have a better understanding of how it operates. Another common cause of PE. The only way to reverse this is to extend the length of time you masturbate/have sex. what you’ve done is trained your nervous system (at least the part that regulates ejaculation) and ejaculatory reflex to be highly responsive.EjaculationTrainer. This is something that can be controlled. while practicing the techniques throughout this book. PE can also be attributed to bad masturbation habits.

as this will only lead to early ejaculation and her being unsatisfied. along with some natural ways to increase it.EjaculationTrainer. The fact is. I will discuss serotonin and it’s role in ejaculation in another section. In my opinion. which is actually a dysfunction. These men may be able to last a long time. Many men who take SSRI’s (anti-depressants) actually have trouble ejaculating. long-lasting sex. it just means that you. Since you are highly responsive. 95% of men can’t have hardcore sex for an hour straight without stopping or ejaculating. you need to let arousal slowly build to its peak if you want to last. Those that can have what’s known as ‘retarded ejaculation’. this type of sex is more fulfilling regardless of whether or not you suffer from PE. Porn and Hollywood has made sex into something that is supposed to be absolutely perfect and long-lasting every single . but chances are. they don’t enjoy sex as much as someone who is more responsive and has higher levels of hormones.‘sense’ of ejaculation control. This doesn’t mean you can’t have great. being a man who wants to satisfy a woman. Copyright © 2008-2010 . Realistic expectations It’s important to have realistic expectations and goals about how long you’ll last. can’t expect to enjoy peak arousal right from the beginning. This is mainly due to an under-responsive nervous system. or a lack of hormone production.

although it may not look like it because they switch camera angles. How Do Erection and Ejaculation Work? I think it’s crucial to understand how ejaculation works if you truly want to become a master of Copyright © 2008-2010 . there is a lot of stopping and going when shooting a porno. Wouldn’t you if it were your career? Controlling ejaculation is simply part of their job description. Either the man came. Don’t base your expectations on what you saw in a porno or in a movie. expect to be right up there among them. You aren’t going to become a master of ejaculation control overnight. There will probably be times in the near future when you won’t last as long as you wanted. It’s not straight hardcore sex like it appears to be. these men get paid to have sex. just consider it practice and continue to move forward. there may be times when you have to stop or use some techniques (covered later) to prevent ejaculation. and remember that practice makes perfect. Like anything else. So have realistic expectations and goals. There is no reason to get angry. . or some other nuisance happened. This is only normal. Even when you do develop ejaculation control. she went dry. I can guarantee you that these men have put in hours of practice to get where they’re at. First of all.I just want you (and your lady) to have realistic expectations about sex. it takes time and consistent practice. If you start treating it like that as well. lost his erection.

controlling it. Many books either leave this out or briefly cover it, leaving you trying to control something that you don’t fully understand. Before I get into how ejaculation works, let’s take a look at how erection works. After all, this is where it all begins. Did you know that there are two different ways to initiate an erection? Using these two ways in the correct proportion can lead to long-lasting sexual bliss, while the wrong proportion will most likely lead to PE. The first type of erection is caused by direct physical stimulation, and requires little (or no) mental stimulation. It’s under control of the parasympathetic nervous system, where a group of nerves (in response to physical stimulation) cause dilation in the arteries that supply the erectile tissue, resulting in an erection. The second type of erection is caused by mental stimulation via the cerebral cortex. The cerebral cortex is the largest part of the brain and accounts for two thirds of its mass. The cortex is vital to human function, and is responsible for thinking, perceiving, understanding, distinguishing, reasoning, and other thought processes. It’s basically responsible for perceiving information and telling the body how to react. For example, if you perceive a guy running at you with a gun, it will trigger the sympathetic fight-or-flight response in your body
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(you’ll get an adrenaline rush and take off running full speed). Another example would be if you perceived something tragic and then felt sad as a result. In terms of sex, perceiving erotic thoughts (through sex or masturbation) and other sex-related mental stimulation (like porn) will tell your body to prepare for a sexual encounter, thereby causing an erection. Note: Mental stimulation doesn’t only mean thinking erotic thoughts. If someone is giving you physical stimulation, and you are thinking/perceiving that it feels really good (in a sexually arousing way, not the type of good feeling you get from a massage), then you are also using mental stimulation. So there are two ways to get an erection: either from physical stimulation or mental stimulation. Typically, most men use a combination of both and don’t really distinguish the difference (but I assure you they are different processes). For example, the average guy, when masturbating, will usually start out playing with himself (physical) while thinking of something erotic (mental). He’s using both processes to trigger his erection. The same goes for the sex act, although it’s usually more intense and harder to control (at least until you develop control). The only difference is that you are receiving the physical stimulation from someone else, along with the mental perception of the actual experience. When dealing with PE, this is crucial, because the right proportion of physical and mental stimulation can

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make a huge difference in your stage of arousal and when you ejaculate. If you have premature ejaculation, chances are you are using/experiencing too much mental stimulation, and too quickly. Getting an erection through physical stimulation takes longer if you don’t throw in the mental stuff. This is why most men resort to erotic thinking; it’s easy and it gets them hard and aroused in no time. It’s important to realize that your penis can get and stay hard (via the parasympathetic system) without you having to drive your mind wild with sexually arousing mental stimulation. Also, many men use their PC/PM muscles in an attempt to ‘pump’ more blood into the penis to get an erection. Even though this seem to help sometimes, you’ll find that by keeping them relaxed, the blood will flow better and your erection will get harder faster. I will go into more detail on how to get the ‘right type’ of erection in a later chapter. For now, I just want you to understand the two ways of initiating an erection, so that it makes sense later when applied to other information. Let’s move on to ejaculation.

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EjaculationTrainer. The ejaculatory phase is controlled from the pudendal nerve of the lower spine and perineum.Ejaculation consists of two phases. The Nervous System Copyright © 2008-2010 . (basically the opposite of the parasympathetic. more on these two systems in a bit) so it’s triggered mentally. so it’s triggered physically. it is then pushed through the rest of the urethra and out the penis via contractions from the perineal muscles. unlike the first process. The beginning of this phase is experienced as the ‘point of no return’ (the tingly feeling you get within seconds of ejaculation). the role of the parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous systems during sex. The first is known as the ‘emission’ phase. The sperm passes from the testes through the ejaculatory ducts and mixes with other fluids from the prostate and seminal vesicles to form the semen. These same contractions are associated with orgasm as well. Ejaculatory Phase – After enough semen has built up in the bulb. It ties into a vital part of understanding your sexual responses as a whole – specifically. which controls a physical erection. Emission phase – The first phase of ejaculation is controlled from the sympathetic nervous . Understanding how erection and ejaculation work is important. The semen then exits the prostate and starts to build up in the bulb of the urethra. The second is the ‘ejaculatory’ phase.

beneath the autonomic nervous system are the parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous systems. The purpose of the nervous system is to interpret information/sensations from one’s surroundings (physical. The nervous system is divided into two sub-systems. Then. mental. This is done by generating and transmitting electrical impulses to and from the two systems. the central and peripheral. The peripheral system can also be divided into subsystems.As I mentioned earlier. organs. The central nervous system consists of the brain and spinal cord. as they are directly related to erection. Still with me? These are the two systems we’re going to focus on. etc). but reaches out to everything else as well (limbs. and visual). a highly responsive nervous system is probably what’s most directly responsible for your PE. The nervous system is basically the control center that tells your body what to do and how to react to a specific situation.EjaculationTrainer. Copyright © 2008-2010 . Beneath the peripheral are the somatic and autonomic nervous systems. and ejaculation. The peripheral nervous system ties into the brain and spinal cord. arousal. which then tells the body how to .

which is when you’re faced with a threat and forced to either fight in self defense. whether the stress-causing stimuli be violent or non-violent. The system responds and becomes activated when the body is faced with stress.Sympathetic vs. or run away to avoid being hurt. The sympathetic nervous system. particularly the perineal muscles when it’s during the act of sex • Increases alertness • Dilates pupils • Constricts certain blood vessels • Triggers the emission phase of ejaculation Copyright © 2008-2010 . The type of excitement/stress can vary. has the following effects on the body: • Heart rate increases • Lung capacity increases and breathing speeds up • The body prepares for physical action (violent or non-violent) by sending extra blood supply to the skeletal muscles • Causes muscles to tense up. this system is designed to prepare us for action by getting us excited/energetic. Parasympathetic The sympathetic nervous system is best known for its role in the ‘fight or flight’ response. or it could be from something positive. like fear or anger. like anticipating a birthday gift or experiencing the excitement of orgasm. when activated. Basically. it could be from something negative.

and the intensity of the level is based on the intensity of the stress. it would peak during ejaculation and .This system isn’t simply on or off. Think of the parasympathetic system as something that ‘conserves energy’. and when the body isn’t facing a stressful situation. Think of the sympathetic system as something that ‘uses energy’.EjaculationTrainer. For a negative action/stress. It has different levels. Relaxation is probably the best word to describe this system. In the case of a positive action/stress. the parasympathetic is known for ‘rest and digest’. While the sympathetic is known for ‘fight or flight’. The parasympathetic system kicks into gear when the mind is clear and relaxed. Effects of the parasympathetic nervous system when activated are listed below: • • • • • • • Heart rate decreases Breathing slows down Relaxation of the body and mind occur Sleep Digestion of food Dilates certain blood vessels Triggers erection Copyright © 2008-2010 . The parasympathetic system is basically the opposite of the sympathetic. it would peak when faced with life-threatening danger.

as it’s responsible for relaxing the arteries in the pelvic area that allow erection to take place. arousal. which causes chemical reactions that make you feel more sexually aroused. the other is off. the sympathetic system is fully activated. So it works like this… 1. meaning if one is on. these two systems work against each other. It basically smothers the calming effects of the parasympathetic system.A deep state of relaxed consciousness. telling it you’re receiving stimulation. 3.EjaculationTrainer. By the time you reach orgasm. the sympathetic system starts to take over by increasing heart rate and breathing. 2. As sexual arousal and excitement increase. *Parasympathetic (physical) stimulation causes erection. During sex. would be an example of the parasympathetic system operating at its peak level. In most bodily functions. 4. Copyright © 2008-2010 . and is the only time when these two systems operate together in order to achieve a function – the function of reproduction – which involves erection. The physical stimulation the penis is receiving triggers nerves in the pelvic area that send signals to the . The sympathetic system becomes more active as sexual arousal/excitement continues to build. Your brain perceives the stimulation as sexual stimulation. and ejaculation. the parasympathetic system is most active in the beginning. Sex is a rare exception. like meditation.

The sympathetic system causes ejaculation. the faster you’ll ejaculate. The stimulation builds up to a ‘tipping point’.The parasympathetic system begins to fade away from the scene. Very important to remember. I hope that by now you are beginning to understand what I’m getting at with these two systems. This information will help you to make sense of what I cover later in this book. The longer you keep yourself in a parasympathetic mode (relaxed). where your brain then sends signals to the sympathetic system to prepare for . the mind can speed up or slow down this ‘6-step process’. 6. Dopamine Copyright © 2008-2010 . I just want you to understand and get familiar with the role of these two systems. the longer you’ll last. The faster you cross over to the sympathetic mode (excited). For now. Heart rate and breathing increase.EjaculationTrainer. These systems can be regulated and kept in check by developing mental and physical control over your arousal and body. 5. *The mind (cerebral cortex) can also cause erection and determine (decide may be a more appropriate word) the level of intensity you feel with sexual arousal/stimulation. Basically.

you have to earn it as a ‘reward’ for accomplishing something that your body interprets as ensuring survival or improving yourself. sex. are all the result of a dopamine high. dopamine cannot be released voluntarily.Dopamine is perhaps the most interesting chemical produced in the human body. triggering the response. The mice were hooked up to a device with a lever. or actions that improve status. This behavior will eventually lead to death by starvation. For the most part. If it could be. eat. This is related to behaviors such as eating. happy as a kid with candy. It controls behavior and is what drives us to pursue happiness and success. They just sat there and touched the lever repeatedly to get the dopamine. It’s responsible for ‘rewarding’ the body when it has successfully done something to ‘ensure survival’.EjaculationTrainer. which is why dopamine release is an involuntary action. or do anything else. When the mice touched the . sitting on the couch all day. Copyright © 2008-2010 . This was demonstrated in a study with mice. high calorie cheeseburger. So if you want dopamine naturally. The mice that were attached to this device showed no signs of wanting to mate. be social. accomplishing goals. we’d all be dopamine addicts. they’d get an instant shot of dopamine. but it can also drive a person down. but making no progress in life or survival. or that good feeling you get when eating a delicious. That awesome feeling you get after achieving a personal goal.

have great success financially because money is what gives them the dopamine high. Even if you don’t want to ejaculate. the more dopamine you get. It just means that you’re Copyright © 2008-2010 . if left uncontrolled. drugs. men naturally get aroused easily and ejaculate quickly. The more sexually aroused you get. It’s wired into our systems for dopamine to be released when having sex or getting sexually aroused. or uncaring person. high calorie foods. just an addiction to dopamine. Anyone – from the drug addict to the filthy rich guy who can’t get enough money – can be a dopamine chaser. Every form of addiction – whether it’s money. in reality. Are you a dopamine chaser? I know that I was. you still subconsciously crave that dopamine . and still am in a sense. dopamine chasers. It couldn’t be further from the truth. What this means is that social status and financial success have nothing to do with being a dopamine chaser. stupid. or gambling – is. love. because all of the above substances and acts cause dopamine to be released. It’s our biological ‘reward’ for committing the act of trying to reproduce. This is why. In fact. though I’m a little more neutral nowadays.Dopamine is released during sex because sex is an act of survival. more often than not. Humans consciously and subconsciously crave dopamine.EjaculationTrainer. Being a dopamine chaser does not mean you’re a bad. Most billionaires are dopamine chasers.

even if you are unaware of it. This is also why men tend to last longer with a woman they’ve been with many times – the high is simply not as strong. for the most part. By now. our bodies are. especially the high of sexual arousal and orgasm/ .addicted to wanting to feel good.EjaculationTrainer. or accomplished. Therefore. A dopamine chaser is a dopamine addict. and usually tries to get a dopamine high regardless of the activity in which they are participating. If you’re a dopamine addict during other activities. The reason I bring up dopamine addiction in everyday activities is that it can affect your sex life and when you ejaculate. It rewards us with a feeling of happiness and content when we have achieved something great. rewarded. set up to be the opposite. arousal is reduced. Dopamine is absolutely necessary for us to function properly. The reason that many people get divorced or fall out of love is simple: they no longer get that dopamine high from their partner. when in fact. you’re probably one in the bedroom as well. you’re probably thinking that dopamine is a bad thing. it’s the opposite. This is due to the fact that although our society and personal beliefs tend to support monogamy. What happens is that a life of dopamine addiction causes you to seek the ‘high’ no matter what the activity/substance may be. The problem is that the majority of people have a dopamine addiction to some degree (consciously or Copyright © 2008-2010 .

As I said. money hungry. Let’s take a look at some common characteristics that relate to an imbalance of dopamine levels. drugs. A dopamine chaser often shows signs of: • Compulsive behavior and activities • An unusually high drive to improve status.g.. Most people have some type of addiction that causes excess dopamine to be released (e.subconsciously).EjaculationTrainer. most addictions are actually nothing more than the result of the dopamine high you get from the addictive substances/activities. and/or they are constantly striving to make themselves happy by being compulsive (e. financially or socially • Addictions (sex/masturbation included) • The feeling of always wanting more • Competitive nature • Anxiety • Very high sex drive • Aggression • Risky behavior Someone who doesn’t have enough dopamine may experience the following: • • • • Lack of motivation and ambition Depression Low sex .. even erectile dysfunction Addictions Copyright © 2008-2010 . food). constantly seeking approval/compliments from others).

your PE could also be caused from a number of the things listed in this book) . chances are you have an extremely high sex drive and are probably at least somewhat of a dopamine chaser (However. After all.• No remorse for personal behavior • Inability to love or be affectionate • Social problems Someone with balanced levels of dopamine usually experiences the following: • • • • • • • • A feeling of well-being Contentment with their lives and surroundings A normal sex drive Realistic expectations Ability to love without being compulsive about it Motivated in life Good. it’s what drives us to succeed and to survive. more relaxed life will lead to a balanced release of dopamine. sound decision-making Healthy risk taking If you think you have PE. Most dopamine chasers experience above-average success in terms of social and financial status. because of this. In fact. except those who get their ‘high’ in a negative way. I bet you’re a highly motivated and driven person. Copyright © 2008-2010 . Living a content. and probably above-average in intelligence as well. Remember that being a dopamine chaser isn’t a ‘bad’ thing. such as through violent crime or drug abuse.

No worries. no expectations. I find the best way to do this is to stop thinking about the future. Embrace your parasympathetic system. Notice that if the dopamine level is regulated. Enjoy the dopamine in moderation instead of constantly looking for ways to feel better about yourself. but it’s important to understand that life isn’t only about planning for the future and achieving more status. You don’t need to become a bum and give up on your goals. you Copyright © 2008-2010 . including sex. the past. With a normal dopamine level. and set aside some time every day to just relax and do nothing.EjaculationTrainer.Don’t get me wrong. what I want. Making these simple changes and learning to be more content and relaxed throughout your daily life will help balance your dopamine levels for every activity. Take a look at these charts to get a picture of what a balanced dopamine level looks like during ‘good sex’. no pressure. etc… and just focus on the . you can experience sex longer and more passionately. it’s important to have ambition and the drive to succeed. it’s also about living in the moment and making the best of what you currently have. The dopamine will flow in regulation. instead of exploding in one big surge and causing early ejaculation. but you need to slow down a little and be content with what’s currently going on in your life.

which is what I just covered. The first is to show you how dopamine affects ejaculation and how a dopamine-driven lifestyle can lead to PE. but you too will enjoy greater heights of pleasure. the longer it’s regulated. I’ve been discussing dopamine for two reasons. the more sexual tension is allowed to build up. This is something that can’t be changed overnight. which results in an earthquake of an orgasm when you finally let loose.actually get to experience more of it because the sex lasts longer.EjaculationTrainer. you should see results fairly soon – within a month or Copyright © 2008-2010 . passionate sex and explosive orgasm Unregulated release of dopamine = PE and a weak/moderate orgasm When your body becomes used to being calmer and more regulated/moderated during sex. you’ll be able to handle more dopamine without it making you go over the top. Regulated release of dopamine = Long-lasting. In . but if you start now. This means that you not only last longer to please your partner better.

two usually. A feeling of contentment or well-being is the best way to describe someone who’s achieved a balanced dopamine level. The other reason I cover dopamine’s function is that I want you to understand that dopamine levels correlate to arousal levels, something you’ll learn to control in the next chapter. If you can control arousal, you can help regulate the release of dopamine.

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Arousal control is the key to controlling ejaculation. Learning to control arousal should be your main objective and is where you should begin. For those that don’t know, arousal has the same meaning as the slang term ‘horny’. If you can keep arousal under YOUR control, and not your body’s, (to a point) you will have endless nights of long-lasting sex. While we’re here in the beginning, let me make CLEAR that this isn’t about shunning out arousal and taking away the wonderful pleasures of sex. That only makes things worse for both parties (because women can sense when you’re not paying attention or not enjoying the act, and it turns them off). Also, trying to avoid arousal will only make you more sensitive to it. My approach is simply to learn control so you can allow yourself to go through the arousal-pleasure process slower, so that you adequately satisfy your lady, and so that you too can get more out of the deal, including long-lasting sensual sex, and, of course, a more explosive orgasm for the finale. By controlling your arousal, you prevent an overabundance of energy (by energy, I mean blood, hormones, bioelectricity, and chemical reactions) from building up and causing ejaculation and
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orgasm. You’re basically keeping your body from activating the ejaculation-inducing sympathetic system, by keeping yourself relaxed and in a parasympathetic state. Learning to control arousal will also aid in building your tolerance for receiving physical/mental stimulation. Someone with the ability to control arousal can remain physically and mentally calm, clear minded, and relaxed for long periods of time throughout a sexual encounter. It’s not that they aren’t aroused; they’re just able to get to a certain level of arousal and stay there. The more you practice and become familiar with your body and sexual response, the longer you’ll be able to maintain control. Before you learn how to control arousal, it’s important to understand how it works. First of all, no one can fully explain EXACTLY how arousal and the human sexual response operate. There is just too much physiology, psychology, and unknown phenomenon at work to comprehend. Different religions and cultures have surprisingly different opinions on how it all works. Regardless, different people have different opinions on sexual arousal. I classify arousal into four basic stages that are easy to comprehend. Get familiar with these stages and become self-aware of the process as it happens throughout your body.

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EjaculationTrainer. In this stage. causing your nervous system to become stimulated enough to prepare for ejaculation. your parasympathetic system is more active than the sympathetic.Stage 1 . Heart rate increases slightly. Copyright © 2008-2010 . Arousal and erection usually fade away. The perineal muscles contract as ejaculation and orgasm occur. Stage 3 . Heart rate increases and breathing becomes more rapid. which results in increasing sensitivity. The scrotum and testicles snug up to the penis. In this stage. Warm sensations develop in the genital area because more energy/blood has been drawn there. Stage 4 .The intense arousal and continued mental and physical stimulation has led to a buildup of energy in the pelvic/genital area. Ejaculation and orgasm seem imminent. you have a full erection and everything should feel relaxed and under control. The sympathetic system becomes more active and the calming effects of the parasympathetic system fade away. Your scrotum will hang fairly . Stage 2 – The erection becomes fuller as arousal continues to climb. resulting in an erection.A physical AND/OR a mental sensation triggers arousal and the penis begins to fill with blood. The Glans (penis head) increases in size.Arousal becomes more intense and begins to take hold.

Many men go through life never paying attention to their arousal levels. there is no time frame for these stages of arousal. subconsciously develop arousal control as they get older and more sexually active.EjaculationTrainer. As I mentioned earlier. Many. if you decided to whip Copyright © 2008-2010 . you really need to calm down and clear your head). Here is an example of how this occurs. Unless you were to control your arousal.” Keep in mind. it will happen quickly if left uncontrolled. Naturally. except he went all the way to stage 4 before stimulation (that can actually happen. you would most likely be in stage 3 arousal with a full erection by this . What’s even more IMPORTANT to understand is that getting to stage 3 can be done WITHOUT any physical stimulation. it just depends on how fast you allow it to happen. let alone trying to control them. The whole process can happen in a minute or an hour. you would most likely be highly aroused after 30 minutes of watching it. This is a typical case of “It gets better with experience. however. it’s only human nature. the arousal process can happen very quickly if not kept under control. and if it does. Let’s say you watch a porno for 30 minutes without touching yourself whatsoever. If you were enjoying the film and really getting into it. This is why most men ejaculate prematurely! They were already in stage 3 by the time they started stimulation! This is just like what happened to the guy from American Pie. So chances are.

you would ejaculate within minutes or even seconds because you were already highly aroused in stage 3. Once you crest over into stage 3. You need to be able to recognize the stage of arousal you’re in and prevent it from increasing. You will more than likely have to stop for 1030 seconds until arousal and ‘the urge’ subsides. This is why it’s extremely important to not let yourself get too aroused until you are actually ready to begin stimulation. I will get into some foreplay tips for controlling arousal in a minute. and learning to control those reactions so they don’t lead to early ejaculation. and even then. I understand this can be difficult in foreplay.EjaculationTrainer. clear your out and start masturbating. you need to keep yourself in stage 2 and stay there as long as possible. but do the best you can to keep it at a midlevel. Controlling Arousal Controlling arousal is all about being self-aware of how your body is reacting to sexual stimulation. you need to control it. To accomplish this. and relax your body. The purpose of arousal control is to keep the body in a parasympathetic state for as long as . successfully preventing your body from moving into the sympathetic-inducing emission phase of ejaculation. it’s hard to turn back unless you stop completely. It’s something that usually can’t be mastered overnight. So Copyright © 2008-2010 .

Although. and make the necessary changes to prevent it. so stay in control of your head. you had better be practicing it then as well! You can practice arousal control at the same time you practice the masturbation/sex techniques described later. as you are likely to be calmer and more aware of the situation. The main triggers of arousal are mental. This is best practiced alone while masturbating. and discipline yourself to keep it at a controllable midlevel that won’t lead to ejaculation. You need to figure out what’s causing your arousal to . if you are having sex. The best way to learn arousal control is to get familiar with how your body responds to physical and mental sexual stimulation. It will be a good time to get familiar with how your body reacts to both mental and physical stimulation. Copyright © 2008-2010 . which usually starts with a sensual touch or light kiss.EjaculationTrainer. First – Very Important One thing you need to pound in your head right now is that arousal control starts from the very first second you begin your sexual encounter – right from the beginning of first contact or’s very important that you focus on keeping yourself in stage 2 if you want to last. You need to be able to recognize how aroused you are.

as it has worked for me Copyright © 2008-2010 .It’s absolutely critical that you don’t wait until the last second to start controlling arousal. I happen to think that these types of methods are merely temporary solutions. so if that sounds like something you would like doing. some say to think of ‘absolutely nothing’.com . The choice is up to you. then give it a try. so it’s critical that you remain under control from the very beginning of your encounter. If I don’t focus on getting myself aroused. They don’t do much for building your mental/physical tolerance to sexual stimulation. I will point out a few different options and you can see what works best for you. and even then. Some people say to think of distractions (like mowing the lawn or something). and others say to focus all attention on the woman. or do? This is a common question that has no correct answer. Once arousal is peaked. your nervous system is so active that it would take stopping altogether before arousal would subside. your nerves are already primed and will most likely respond quicker when you resume stimulation. There is no secret mind trick you can use right before ejaculation that will lower arousal. but I will lay out my approach for what I believe you should think about and do to control arousal.EjaculationTrainer. what do I think about. Honestly. and they take your mind off the pleasures of sex. it’s all up to you. It just doesn’t work that like that. The fact is that all of these actually do work to an extent.

that’s exactly the status you’ll achieve. One thing is for certain. Whatever you decide to think about or do to control arousal.EjaculationTrainer. designed to keep your parasympathetic system on top and in control of your body’s reactions. not . It also doesn’t take away the pleasures of sex. Relaxation of the entire body and mind is the only way to stay in parasympathetic mode and prevent the emission phase of ejaculation. if you consistently practice and master what I’m about to show you. This type of approach can deliver the long-term results most men desire. your body/mind must remain calm and in a parasympathetic mode. It’s simple… Focus on sensuality. Doesn’t every man wish he could be regarded as the best their lady ever had? Well.and many others. or else you’ll get nowhere. I’m sure you’ve heard or read about Tantra at some point or another. it actually enhances them. though. My Approach to Arousal Control This is what I think you should do to keep yourself in a parasympathetic mode. Tantric sex more or less follows this Copyright © 2008-2010 . My approach to arousal control is based on a simple shift of focus.

you’re probably saying. you never go . What I’m saying is that you need to be relaxed. receive. eroticism. but that isn’t the case if you follow my instructions correctly.EjaculationTrainer. She can think Copyright © 2008-2010 . You need to pay attention and concentrate on what you are feeling. Let me clarify what I mean by ‘focusing’ on your sensations. self-aware of your body’s physical sensations during sex. and pay close attention to the physical sensations of touching another’s body. you must remain calm the whole time.same concept. The common saying of Tantric lovers is. won’t I just ejaculate earlier?” I know it may seem like that. To be sensual is to give. “What?…If I focus on the sensations. and not sexual’ experience. Try not to think of the experience as sexual or ‘getting off’. and most importantly. Being sensual in this manner requires you to actually FOCUS on the sensations you are feeling – not just in the genital area. or orgasm. Right now. “Once you go Tantric.” This saying holds truth. It doesn’t have to be related to sex. It’s very easy to screw this up if you don’t grasp the concept of making sex a ‘sensual. but in the entire body as a whole. both in your genitals and throughout your whole body. but at the same time.

yet focused on feeling the sensations of your whole body. Copyright © 2008-2010 .about it in whichever way she wants. and clear your mind. I should say. Think of the same mindset you have when getting a massage. especially the genitals. It puts you in a totally parasympathetic . people focus on the sensations because they feel good. You need a mindset in which you’re enjoying the physical stimulation. just remain calm and ‘observe’ what your body is going through. Your mind needs to be crystal clear. and they usually loosen you up.EjaculationTrainer. The trick is to stay relaxed. Sex can be experienced this same way. When receiving a massage. but staying relaxed and avoiding the dopamine-driven heartpounding urge of wanting to get off and reach orgasm. but you must remain calm and in control. or in a very similar way. relax your body. Don’t think about it in an erotic way. The key is to have and maintain that same mindset. It has nothing to do with sex or being horny (unless you make it that way). Most people wouldn’t think that focusing on the stimulation/sensations would actually help them last longer. but I’ve talked to men that were astounded to find this really works. The sensations you experience feel very pleasant. It just needs to be done correctly. Here’s a good example of what I mean by focusing on sensuality and your physical sensations.

especially if you’re used to the opposite (trying to reach orgasm quickly). mental power diminishes. or if you’re just not used to controlling arousal in general. As I mentioned earlier. the natural instinct of ‘wanting to get off’. The number one reason why people fail with this technique is that they can’t hold the ‘calm mindset’ for a long duration. you don’t want to ejaculate.The truth is.EjaculationTrainer. All of this can happen very quickly. or of ‘being horny’ can occur subconsciously. while stimulating your partner as well. so pay close attention to the sensations you’re receiving – not in an erotic way. on the outside. What happens is that the emotions and sensations of sex feel so good that you eventually give in and let them fully take over. Heart rate and breathing increase. sensual way. even if. but in a calm. you simply remain calm and observe/feel the sensations you’re feeling by paying attention to them. and you begin to get swept away with arousal you can no longer control. They always end up ‘thinking about’ the stimulation in a sexual-horny way instead of perceiving and feeling it in a calm-sensual way. this isn’t easy at first. Not only does this technique work because it focuses your mind on something relaxing and non-erotic Copyright © 2008-2010 .com . There is NO thinking involved with this.

There is no thinking…only observing and perceiving.EjaculationTrainer.(keeping your body parasympathetic). instead of remaining calm and sensual. They make their problem worse by becoming sensitive to it. sensual way and always be self-aware of what your body is going through. will cause your erection to fade away. Building a tolerance to mentally and physically handle prolonged stimulation is a MUST if you want permanent results. Note: Some of you might be wondering if doing this technique. sensual manner. but after a while. They fall victim to their sympathetic tendencies of wanting to get off. the number one reason why people fail at this is that they think about it too much in a sexual. because an erection can be activated from Copyright © 2008-2010 . So embrace those good feelings in a controlled. in a relaxed. but since you’re paying close attention to the physical sensations. not sexual. it shouldn’t. you’ll develop the mindset and level of control I’m talking about. but I want to MAKE SURE you understand the type of mindset that this technique requires…sensual. ‘horny’ type of way. you will actually be building a tolerance to them at the same time… which is where the REAL results are . It may be hard at first. Technically. Remember. or any other arousal control technique. Men who try to avoid or shun out the sensations of sex don’t build a tolerance. I hate repeating myself.

It can sometimes happen without you even realizing it. If your erection does fade. there are two types of relaxation techniques that can be used. because of the deepness. As long as you’re being touched. or listening to soothing music. Neutral relaxation – This type of relaxation is a little less enjoyable then deep relaxation. getting a massage. and I suggest you try both to see which one works best for you. then it’s because you’re either too nervous.EjaculationTrainer. and focusing on your physical sensations. It’s a very deep state of mind that’s similar to that which you experience when falling asleep. it is often too late. it’s based on keeping the body and mind relaxed. this type of relaxation seems to be the most pleasurable when having sensual sex. I’ve come to notice that when doing this . but the positive Copyright © 2008-2010 . Both have their pros and cons. it’s fairly easy to forget about sensuality and get too aroused if you’re not careful. Deep relaxation – This type of relaxation is similar to what you might experience when meditating. Personally. As mentioned. you should be able to maintain an erection. I’ll describe both of them. The two types of relaxation Sensual sex is amazing after you get the hang of it. or have absolutely no arousal at all. However.the parasympathetic system as a response to physical stimulation. It allows you to really just lay back and enjoy your partner’s touch. and by the time you do.

Of course. If you have sensual sex with this ‘relaxed neutral attitude’.side is that it works a little better. but do it intently and with a neutral attitude. you will most likely have better control of what’s going on in your head. not excited. you should almost feel like a robot – not mad. isn’t boring – just plain old neutral. but its main purpose is for practice. It’s designed to get you more familiar with your body as it moves through the arousal process. Use the type of focus you would use when reading a book. but at the same. In this state of mind. not sleepy. To experience neutral relaxation. A deep relaxation can often fade into deep sexual arousal if you’re not careful. you still want to focus on the sensations you’re feeling in this state. This next technique can also be used to control arousal during sex. The more you pay attention to your arousal process. Getting Familiar with Your Arousal I’ve just gone over what I recommend doing to keep arousal under control (being sensual and slow about it). By keeping yourself in the neutral mode. you will be amazed at how long you’ll last. not . Most men start with neutral relaxation and then move up to a deeper relaxation once they begin to develop better control. Copyright © 2008-2010 . It’s almost as if you are watching a movie that isn’t very exciting.EjaculationTrainer. but you need to be more alert than you are when in a deeply relaxed state. you must still be relaxed. The reason it’s easier to last longer with neutral relaxation is that you’re more focused and aware of your body and mind.

This next technique requires you to pretend/perceive your arousal as a scale from 1-10. Perceiving your arousal as a scale from 1-10 can make it easier to control.the broader it will seem. you still need to remain parasympathetic (relaxed) for this to work. Arousal control is all about getting familiar with your body’s reactions so that you are able to control . Thus. you’ll have a better sense of your current level arousal at each step in the process. Using a scale from 1- Copyright © 2008-2010 . Being parasympathetic is the whole point of arousal control.EjaculationTrainer. you need to remain parasympathetic for any arousalcontrol technique to work. You then need to learn how to move up and down that scale without ejaculating. but I think you get the point) and think of 10 as ejaculation. Take a look at the scale below. Please note. In fact. This will teach you how to regulate your arousal so that you can take it down a level if ejaculation is near. Think of 1 as a ‘calm erection’ (calm erections are covered later.

start paying attention to your arousal level and be aware of yourself moving up and down the scale. Keep yourself cool and calm for as long as possible. Copyright © 2008-2010 . thoughts. Does a certain thought suddenly boost your arousal out of control? Are the physical sensations just too overwhelming? Or are you just not keeping your cool long enough? If certain thoughts seem to really get you going. Take note of what seems to cause your arousal to jump a level. stop thinking so much and concentrate on something else. Letting your emotions and thoughts get out of hand too quickly is only going to cause arousal to . it’s because of one of two reasons. If the first reason is the cause. or feelings control you. or two or three. From now on. Always stay in control of what’s going on in your head. do so in a calm-sensual way. and if you do think about the physical sensations. and in an erotic way.EjaculationTrainer. If the physical sensations of stimulation are getting to you. You either are thinking about them too much. like breathing. during masturbation or sex. or you are too sensitive to physical stimulation. Never let emotions. try cutting them out or perceiving them as less intense.10 gives you a way of recognizing and defining how aroused you are. There will be plenty of time later for you to ejaculate.

are all common methods of lowering arousal. Pretty soon. After practicing this ‘up and down’ regulation technique. and if you practice a lot. you need to retrain your ejaculatory reflex to last longer by following the masturbation/sex techniques covered later. take note of what causes your arousal to decrease. Focusing on Her Another great way to control arousal is to focus on your lady and how she is reacting. and be able to reduce it. your goal is to last longer. to avoid ejaculation. This can and should be combined with any arousal technique you Copyright © 2008-2010 .If it’s because you’re too sensitive. Also. If you remain calm and aware of your body. if necessary. it will come as natural instinct. So your goal here is to learn how to regulate your arousal. You will be able to prevent arousal from increasing.EjaculationTrainer. Remember. Slowing down your breathing. This is achieved by recognizing and developing control over the triggers that cause it to increase and decrease levels. you will start to develop a greater sense of control. reducing/slowing down stimulation. you should be able to go up and down this scale with ease. not to get off as soon as . you won’t even have to use numbers. or clearing your head.

This is the problem of most men. It also allows you to do a better job of pleasing her because you can see what is and isn’t getting her hot (you can usually tell by her body language and moans). focusing on her. Actually. There will always be time for you to have an orgasm later. and allow you to last substantially longer. Don’t lose your mental power of staying focused. they think too much about what they are feeling (in an overly sexual way). and not solely on yourself. Just remember to remain calm and clearminded (parasympathetic). Stay focused and Copyright © 2008-2010 . so focus on her first. allow you to please her better. Besides. rather than what is going on with their woman. but rather an add-on to whatever you decide to do to control arousal.use. This little ‘shift of focus’ alone will keep your arousal level lower. will allow you to last longer. Focusing on a woman and watching her go through the arousal process is quite enjoyable. Most importantly though.EjaculationTrainer. It’s important that you don’t let yourself get too aroused when focusing on her. isn’t your main goal to satisfy a woman in the first place? She’ll be greatly appreciated by your strong interest in pleasing . this shouldn’t be looked at as a separate technique. it helps keep your arousal level in stage 2 because it lessens the sensations you are feeling (both emotional and physical). When all your attention is on her and what she is experiencing.

but if your goal is to retrain your ejaculatory reflex to last longer. It’s okay to visualize a bit when masturbating so you don’t lose your erection.alert and maintain a neutral attitude. such as your ability to regulate arousal up and down. This technique should be used in conjunction with being sensual. This is handy if you’re trying to get off quickly.EjaculationTrainer. you need to be very careful when using these methods. but don’t over-visualize to the point where arousal gets out of control. but only as tools to test yourself. You shouldn’t visualize at all during sex because you don’t need to. Most importantly. Remember that you need to be sensual and focus on the actual feelings of physical stimulation. The experience itself already makes it hard enough to control arousal. Copyright © 2008-2010 . Porn and Visualization Watching porn or using your imagination to visualize is the easiest way to increase arousal when alone. It’s easy to end up getting too aroused from her body if you don’t stay focused and neutral. So remember to monitor your body/arousal as well – maybe every 20-60 seconds – to make sure arousal isn’t getting out of control. you must remain . They should not be used compulsively. not erotic thoughts/images that will put you over the top. Adding too much emotion or thought will bring you over the top in no time.

I recommend trying what I call the ‘porn challenge’.com . It’s only natural. just remain calm while perceiving the video. it’s a mind-training session. Then. This is a good way to test your ability to regulate arousal.EjaculationTrainer. Put in your favorite porno. this isn’t a sexual experience. If you do it right. If you plan on using them just to make it easier to get off. which then initiates an erection. the mind loses focus and the images cause the cerebral cortex to interpret the information as sexual. visualization and porn will do more harm than good. Don’t ‘try’ to not get hard. Most men cannot do this for very long before getting an erection. This is all you have to do. but only as a means to help you gain better control over your mind/body. This simple exercise can help train your mind to stay calm for long durations when being exposed to eroticism. preferably a long one for better training. you should be able to watch and perceive the video without getting hard. Usually. all you do is watch it and try to remain calm and clear minded throughout. Just be cautious and conservative with them. ONLY use them as a tool to challenge your ability to control and regulate your levels of arousal. Copyright © 2008-2010 . Don’t touch yourself. I would prefer you use them. The problem is that most men overuse them. you’re only going to make things worse. The porn challenge is best done with neutral relaxation as your mindset.

I’m only discussing it as something that can be turned into training for the men who do watch such films.I’m not saying do this every time you want to practice. if a dog ran across the street. But if you were thinking of things. don’t let too much thought and emotion put you over the top. You should actually start without it until you get better control. Thinking I’ve already hinted at this and it’s really not that complicated. like ‘Whose dog is that?’ or ‘That dog is fast!’. My point is. you’d be taking it a step further and actually thinking about the situation. When having sex. The difference in perceiving and thinking is simple. For example. always . If you’re against it for any reason. but you don’t necessarily think about it or let it affect you emotionally.EjaculationTrainer. disregard what I said. you’d probably just look at it and think nothing more. try to perceive the experience rather than thinking about or getting emotionally involved with it (at least in the beginning). but I think it’s important you understand the difference between these two words as they are related to sex. Note: Using/watching porn is an option that isn’t required. Perceiving is when you see something and acknowledge it’s there. Too much Copyright © 2008-2010 . Perceiving vs.

That way. which is an awesome feeling that will leave you both happy. Foreplay can make your arousal so high that by the time you get ready to have sex. There is no need to control it here because what I do next makes me go back to stage 1 arousal. you shouldn’t have to worry as much about controlling it. However. it won’t take much for your brain to trigger the emission phase of ejaculation. I give a woman oral sex until she has an orgasm. you can peak together. The first step to dealing with this issue is to do what I’ve already mentioned: MAKE SURE to be in control of your arousal from the very BEGINNING of your sexual . Foreplay Foreplay can present a problem for someone who has a highly responsive nervous system. or someone who has PE. if you do what I recommend below for foreplay. It’s better if you don’t release too much emotion until your woman has been adequately satisfied or is getting close. you already feel close to ejaculating.thinking will cause your brain to interpret the information as sexual. After 10-20 minutes of kissing and fondling. and since you have a highly responsive nervous system.EjaculationTrainer. I let arousal take it’s natural path for about 10 minutes or so (to a point – don’t let yourself go crazy). Most Copyright © 2008-2010 .

I enjoy giving women oral sex because I love pleasing women. so if you’re comfortable with this. Copyright © 2008-2010 . I highly recommend giving oral sex until a woman reaches orgasm before you start penetration.EjaculationTrainer. Not only will this guarantee that she is satisfied for the night because time isn’t an issue with oral (unless you’re tongue gets tired). I end up back in stage 1. So after 5-30 minutes. some men like to let one off before having sex.women take 5-30 minutes to have an orgasm. you’ll need to be extra careful not to let yourself get too aroused before penetration. by all means. Also. Also. This ‘less anxious attitude’ and sense of calmness will result in your body being less tense and in a parasympathetic mode. as will be described later. try it. I wouldn’t recommend receiving oral until you have your PE under control. performing oral sex well takes extreme focus on your behalf. but it will also relieve a lot of your anxiety and pressure regarding performing well during sex. which successfully distracts you from becoming over-aroused. more serotonin will be released throughout your body in this calmed . but it doesn’t exactly make me or most other men aroused. my arousal drops back to stage 1. As for you. Most men can usually last longer their second or third round. which has an inhibitory effect on the ejaculatory reflex. But then again. If you don’t plan on giving (or your lady doesn’t want) oral. so during this period of pleasing her.

Arousal Control As you can see. One way to keep your heart rate low is to recognize your stages of arousal and avoid letting any emotions or physical sensations put you over the top. Copyright © 2008-2010 . Heart rate increases as you get aroused. in turn. and at slower intervals. This is achieved by remaining calm. However. relaxed. It seems that arousal controls heart rate by default. I cover breathing techniques and how to breathe properly in a later chapter. This. you can flip-flop this involuntary action into a voluntary action in which you control your heart rate. The other way to control heart rate is to breathe . and clear minded – all of which keeps your body in a parasympathetic state.EjaculationTrainer.Letting arousal get out of hand too fast during foreplay is one of the main reasons why men ejaculate quickly. They were already in stage 3 arousal by the time they began penetration. controlling arousal is the key to controlling ejaculation. prevents your arousal from rising out of control. if you become conscious about your heart rate and arousal. Heart Rate The other important aspect of arousal I want to discuss is the role played by your heart rate.

your ejaculatory reflex will naturally adapt to the change. But you have to KEEP YOURSELF IN CHECK. If you learn to keep your arousal under control. in a nutshell. Developing arousal control is the first step to re-wiring your body to naturally last longer. controlling arousal is quite simple. and then control it by not letting it go past a certain point (stage 2). Every man is different. Arousal needs to be disciplined and not allowed to run wild – at least not until she has been taken care of . It will basically train your body to handle prolonged stimulation before ejaculating.EjaculationTrainer. so you have to discover what. people even do it on a subconscious level as I’ve mentioned. exactly. So. If you consistently extend your length of time with masturbation/sex by keeping your arousal under control. and you have to figure out what works best for you in terms of controlling it.Start getting familiar with how you respond during the arousal process and what causes it to move into stage 3 (you can use the 1-10 scale if that makes it easier to comprehend how aroused you are). you will go a long way. It’s natural to want to get off quickly. Always remember that your goal during masturbation or sex is to last as long as possible. All you need to do is get familiar with how you react throughout the arousal process. The minute you start feeling ‘super Copyright © 2008-2010 . is causing you to get over aroused.

In layman’s . Copyright © 2008-2010 . it’s about keeping the body and mind relaxed for long durations of time.EjaculationTrainer.aroused’ is the minute you turn on the road to ejaculation – parasympathetic-to-sympathetic. Arousal control is all about keeping your body in a parasympathetic mode for as long as possible.

and thoughts can cause your arousal to get too high. the feelings. This chapter is basically designed to teach you the right ‘attitude’. in the case of serotonin) certain hormones that affect the ejaculation process. so this chapter will build on what you’ve already learned. feelings. It will analyze the mental triggers that cause arousal to climb and eventually lead to ejaculation. Controlling arousal is mostly a mental thing.Mental Control The last chapter discussed arousal and how it’s important to control it if you want to prolong sexual stimulation and delay . as I’ve already covered. The first is that certain emotions. and the thoughts you have – can affect when you ejaculate. Intense arousal is the beginning phase of the ejaculation process.EjaculationTrainer. The Causes The way you perceive sex – the emotions. Having the right attitude and mindset is an important aspect of ejaculation control. The second reason is that these emotions and thoughts release (or don’t release. They can affect ejaculation in three basic ways. The third is that certain emotions and thoughts will put you on the road to early ejaculation before you Copyright © 2008-2010 .

A lack of confidence and/or performance anxiety fall into this third category. perceptions.EjaculationTrainer. Whether you have sex often or not. and feelings that encourage early ejaculation…and how to control them. which aids in the release of ejaculation-inducing hormones. thoughts. Next. If you get overexcited. A good way to calm overexcitement is to follow the breathing techniques I describe later. This causes you to get overexcited. There are a few Copyright © 2008-2010 . Treating sex as a novelty and getting too excited will only cause your arousal to spiral out of control. It totally goes against the idea of keeping your body parasympathetic and relaxed. Most men perceive sex as an ‘occasion’ because they don’t do it often or because they just like it so much. both of which are hormones that help cause premature ejaculation. never think of sex as a big deal or special occasion. your blood will contain higher levels of dopamine and testosterone. From now on.even begin. This refers to feeling nervous or fearing how you’ll perform. Fear and Performance Anxiety The next thing you need to rid yourself of is performance anxiety. don’t make it a big deal and don’t get overexcited. try to perceive sex as a daily habit…even if it isn’t. Treating Sex as a Novelty First of all. I will go over the .

are understanding by Copyright © 2008-2010 . Your thoughts affect every aspect of your life – y our career. leave her. The mind is a powerful thing and it basically controls your reality. so be confident and happy. For the most part.EjaculationTrainer. You don’t need to put up with that. or a year. that’s exactly what will happen.different ways performance anxiety or fear can cause premature ejaculation. but you have to try your best to stay confident. If this is hard for you and the fear of a bad performance is just too great. though. your perspective on life. your experiences. your reality is the consequence of what goes on in your head. even if you’ve had bad sex in the past. Most women. First. if you go into sex afraid and thinking you’ll perform badly. how you experience sex. Fear is only going to make things worse. Basically. I understand this can be hard after having many bad performances. All you can do is learn from your mistakes. calm. then put it in this perspective: In a week. nobody (including her) is going to give a damn that you had a bad time in bed! So why worry about it? Having a bad time in bed is not the end of your life. what you think usually ends up being what you get – whether it’s good or bad. a month. the choices you . your emotions…and of course. and confident mindset. If a woman tries to degrade you or make you feel unwanted. So you should always go into sex with no fear and have a clear. maintain confidence. the car you own. and try your best next time.

Now.EjaculationTrainer. Therefore. if you’re nervous or afraid. something you should be familiar with by now. resulting in you being able to handle more stimulation before Copyright © 2008-2010 . you’re actually telling your body to go into the sympathetic mode. it’s important that you don’t activate this system. however. what happens when you’re nervous or afraid? Heart rate and breathing increase…. Also (and this has recently been found to be a critical component to when men ejaculate). There are some scientific reasons as . They will. Since the sympathetic system triggers the emission phase of ejaculation. Recent clinical studies have found that serotonin has an inhibitory effect on ejaculation. performance anxiety actually CAUSES your sympathetic system to be more active. The first relates to the parasympathetic and sympathetic systems. simply by being nervous or afraid. So. and won’t put you down. As mentioned. This means it actually calms the ejaculatory reflex. then there are lower levels of serotonin (the chemical that makes you happy/content) present in your blood. This is just one way in which performance anxiety causes PE. start to complain if it’s a persistent problem that you don’t deal with. increased heart rate and breathing are ‘symptoms’ of the activation of the sympathetic system.nature. the ‘ejaculation mode’.

The more calm and emotionally involved a couple gets. In fact. I find the best way to achieve this (at least naturally) is by simply living a healthy lifestyle and having a positive Copyright © 2008-2010 . Pharmaceutical companies interested in creating a new prescription drug for PE have done most of these serotonin studies. the easier the serotonin will flow. you need to release all worries.ejaculation. in part. For serotonin to be released during sex. . the result of the serotonin being released. Be confident and do whatever you can to connect with her emotionally. it’s more of a ‘calm-happy’ as opposed to the ‘excited-happy’ caused by dopamine.EjaculationTrainer. both on animals and humans. and just have a good time. As I said It’s the chemical that makes you feel happy and content. It helps keep your body relaxed and parasympathetic. So. the emotions you feel are. be calm. It embraces the parasympathetic system by keeping the body relaxed and less tense. The big pharmaceutical companies are now trying to make a synthetic serotonin pill for PE (Sounds like another anti-depressant to me – probably not the best solution). what you should really be focusing on is increasing the overall production of serotonin in your body. Serotonin Serotonin has an inhibitory effect on the ejaculatory reflex because it helps keep you calm.

I don’t recommend Copyright © 2008-2010 . Get plenty of exercise and eat somewhat healthy. but if you suffer from it.EjaculationTrainer. Don’t let the little things in life stress you out. but it also prevents serotonin (to a point) from being manufactured and released in the brain. If you don’t think you need or want antidepressants. Foods high in carbohydrates (sugar) are also known to help the flow of serotonin. you need to get help. Depression is supposedly the result of low serotonin levels. Protein is absolutely necessary for human function. (serotonin itself cannot cross the blood-brain barrier. 5-HTP is a precursor to serotonin that works well for many men. passion flower (has a calming effect). which as I already mentioned. 5-HTP is able to convert into serotonin in the liver and cross the blood brain barrier. which is why eating serotonin is pointless) Climinax is specifically formulated for premature ejaculation with 5-HTP. I don’t have the cure for depression. The healthier your body is. Climinax is a natural 5-HTP supplement. can lead to premature . the more efficient it will be at manufacturing and releasing serotonin. So eat some fruit instead of a steak before having sex. check out the resources page of the member’s area for more information on Climinax.outlook on life in general. and other natural ingredients.

It shouldn’t be made into a habit. this method of improving serotonin production via eating certain foods is just temporary. Do what you can to improve the natural production of this chemical. I’d recommend apples. it does help.EjaculationTrainer. Most of it is up to you. When you think about ejaculating. I won’t lie however.eating junk food all day in an attempt to last longer. A can of soda. a couple Climinax and a large glass of juice 30-60 minutes before having sex can be a great assist. bananas. The Placebo Effect Keep your head clear of certain thoughts and words. Although I’d recommend something a little healthier such as juice or fruit. the point is that serotonin plays a vital role in how long you last. If you’re going to use this method. as the latter can lead to diabetes. Remember what I said about your thoughts and how they affect your reality? If you think or worry about ejaculating. energy drink. and only lasts 1-2 hours. but technically. though. It’s just Copyright © 2008-2010 . pears. Keep in mind. . Never think or say to yourself anything related to premature ejaculation or having an orgasm. In any event. mangoes. cherries. pineapples. or fruit juice. that’s what will happen. BUT. that serotonin IS NOT the deciding factor on how long you’ll last. or a candy bar will help you last longer. you are tricking your brain into thinking you actually want to ejaculate.

and the reason I’m bringing this study up. the results showed that the people who took the placebo lasted 50% longer as well! And they didn’t even do anything out of the ordinary Copyright © 2008-2010 . are the results from the placebo testing.another example of how words/thoughts can subconsciously make your body do something that you didn’t intend or need to do. Here is some evidence of this based on the placebo effect of SSRI’s and premature ejaculation. rather than basing their results on participants’ . What’s more important. It’s an unexplained phenomenon that basically demonstrates that our minds control a lot more than we think. they take a pill. When participants take a placebo. It has been proven that placebos work for many people simply because they think they’re taking an effective drug. thinking it’s an effective drug. They HAVE to because it allows them to determine how effective their drug really is. they do so with both the actual drug and a fake placebo. when it’s really just filled with an inactive ingredient. in fact. In any event. When pharmaceutical companies test new drugs. prolong intercourse by about 100% (double the time). It was found that SSRI’s did. There was a study done by pharmaceutical companies trying to figure out the effectiveness of SSRI’s (anti-depressants) in treating premature ejaculation.EjaculationTrainer.

if you go into sex thinking you’ll last a long time. but it’s very doable. you probably will. This study proved that serotonin boosters help you last longer (approximately twice as long). but you have to do your best to THINK you’ll go forever. People have WILLED themselves to be cured of supposedly incurable diseases. Basically. and healthy for the serotonin to naturally flow and be released during sex. clear minded. This is how powerful the mind can be in some cases if you let it and believe it to be. If you go into sex thinking you’ll ejaculate prematurely. then chances are. I know it can be hard to go into sex thinking you won’t ejaculate early if you already have so many times in the past. How to control dopamine levels and serotonin levels at the same time Maintaining a high serotonin level while keeping your dopamine level low during sex can sometimes be complicated.except think that they were taking an effective drug for PE. you need to keep your cool during sex and not let arousal and excitement get out of control. but that even placebos have a decent effect. This proves that mental perspective is directly correlated with time taken to ejaculate. confident. If you get Copyright © 2008-2010 . To keep dopamine and testosterone low.EjaculationTrainer. happy. you will. or at least longer than you usually do. You need to be .

For a normal person. emotion. and therefore. This can help in all aspects of your life. Not only will it help with your PE. you just haven’t put in the necessary training. the sexual benefits should be . A good meditator (such as a Buddhist) can meditate for literally hours without a thought. They can keep their bodies parasympathetic for lengths of time that would seem impossible for most. Developing a Meditative Mindset At first glance. or distraction entering their mind. Don’t mix up being happy (serotonin) with being overexcited (dopamine). take some deep breaths and try to calm yourself. The act of meditation doesn’t.too excited. Practicing meditation will train you to have better control over your mind and your Copyright © 2008-2010 . but it will also make your mind stronger. more control over his ejaculation. it’s hard to keep the mind clear and calm for long periods of time in any scenario. The following information is very important in my opinion and I highly recommend you take it seriously. After reading the first half of this book. because they’d probably be the best. but someone who is an active meditator will have more control over his mind.EjaculationTrainer. meditation seems like it has nothing to do with PE or sex. It’s too bad Buddhist monks don’t have sex. especially during sex. BUT you’re mind is no different than a Buddhist’s.

just do what feels natural. try not to count. 2. Set a timer (make sure it’s not a loud ticking one) for 10 minutes. as bigger men have bigger lungs and need more oxygen). Your only focus should be your breathing. 1. Clear your head of any thoughts and make sure there are no distractions around you. To this day. So. 5. This is the basic meditation technique I recommend. all you do is breathe deeply and slowly. 3. Make sure your entire body is relaxed. close your eyes. Every week. Rest your hands on your knees. Yoga and Tai Chi are popular examples. 4. Take 2-5 seconds to inhale. it’s pretty much all I do. Your focus should be very similar to that of ‘sensual sex’ (covered earlier). However. Just relax and pay attention to it with every inhale and exhale. and cross your legs.body’s reactions.EjaculationTrainer. Just focus on Copyright © 2008-2010 . so long as it’s slow (Your stature will usually determine how long your inhaling and exhaling takes. where there are no thoughts or . but I recommend the basic method of sitting down with the eyes closed and legs crossed. increase the amount of time by another 10 minutes. Sit down. Now. such as emotional and chemical reactions and ejaculation. how do you meditate? It’s very simple and there’s a variety of ways to do it. and the same to exhale.

as you’ll have to try harder to stay focused and clear minded. 6. It should also improve your feeling of well-being by making you feel more relaxed and less anxious. Copyright © 2008-2010 . This too can help with PE because your body becomes more parasympathetic by nature. This will make you take the exercise more seriously. or . After all. The timer gives you a goal. you’ll notice it becomes MUCH easier to control your mind during sex. The Right Mental Game Mental control can seem complicated. If you notice that you start to veer away from your meditative mindset – EVEN IF YOU JUST HAVE A TINY LITTLE THOUGHT – get up and RESTART the timer. in this case. it’s all about keeping your body and mind relaxed and parasympathetic. and will prevent you from doing the exercise half ass. which is why the timer is there. it’s very basic. Important: NO thoughts or distractions should enter your mind during this exercise. but in reality.the physical sensations. you should be able to do a full hour of meditating without a single thought or distraction occurring.EjaculationTrainer. Keep meditating until the timer goes off. meditative mindset for long durations of time. You have to be disciplined if you truly want to develop superior control over your mind. Once you can achieve a clear. It’s important that you don’t ‘try’ too hard. Eventually. in every activity.

you probably won’t last long. stand like a man. as sex is very enjoyable and it’s easy to get excited quickly. Forget about the past. It’s what determines not only the outcome of your performance. The cerebral cortex (your mind) is the wild card in the game of sex. and can make you last 10 seconds or 100 minutes depending on how much you use it.To make things easier. CONFIDENCE . so why worry about it? Naturally. and be confident in yourself. your ejaculatory reflex will become less efficient as you get older. it should be obvious why being calm is important: it keeps your body parasympathetic. PE is something that’s not going to stick with you for life. Being calm isn’t always easy. just follow what I call the three Cs: Confidence.Having confidence is where it all begins. and clear mindedness. CALMNESS – By now. After all. too much mental stimulation sends signals through your nervous system that tell your body to ejaculate. Having confidence also lays the foundation for calmness (being parasympathetic) by preventing your heart rate/breathing from racing and falling victim to the ejaculation-sympathetic mode. CLEAR MINDEDNESS – Keep that head clear! As mentioned. calmness. Copyright © 2008-2010 . but also her perspective of you as a lover and as a man. Just do your best and remember that if you’re not calm and patient.

com .EjaculationTrainer. Copyright © 2008-2010 .Develop the mental attitude of the three Cs… but don’t drive your mind crazy thinking about them…JUST DO IT…Eventually. it will become second nature.

Most men make the critical mistake of taking short fast breaths during sex. and a voluntary action (meditating). How deep you breathe isn’t as important as how often.Breathing If controlling arousal is the key to controlling ejaculation. By making it a voluntary action during sex. but . This results in early ejaculation because it causes an abundant release of hormones and a rapid rise in arousal level. it can be used to regulate heart rate. helps regulate arousal. Developing control over your breathing alone will help you last longer. So always maintain slow and semi-deep breathing. breathing is the key to controlling arousal…or at least one of them. not the actual inhaling/exhaling) works Copyright © 2008-2010 . Breathing Correctly I will go over some breathing techniques for delaying ejaculation. An interval of about 3-5 seconds (between each breath.EjaculationTrainer. Breathing like this gets your heart pumping faster and makes you overexcited and aroused. let’s discuss how to breathe correctly during sex/masturbation. which in turn. Breathing is exceptional in the fact that it can be both an involuntary action (sleeping).

Your diaphragm is the muscle that contracts and allows you to inhale. These are pointless movements that only appear to be part of breathing. I was one of the many people who used my chest to breathe. When using your diaphragm correctly. Besides breathing in a deep. What I was actually doing was unknowingly using my diaphragm. you should have to do nothing but expand or push out your upper abdomen (At least. that’s what it will feel like. doing a ‘raising of Copyright © 2008-2010 .best for most men. or at least thought I was using my . consistent rhythm. Most people mistakenly try to breathe by expanding their chest and/or trying to ‘suck in’ the air. there is one other aspect to proper breathing during sex/masturbation… You need to make sure you use your diaphragm correctly. Keep it at a fixed pace and don’t let it get out of hand. they take away power from the diaphragm and can disrupt your calmness. In fact. slow manner. Keep all muscles relaxed.) A deep breath using nothing but your diaphragm feels very refreshing. All it takes to breathe is to push out your diaphragm. You don’t actually use any abdominal muscles. because the diaphragm is located right above the abdomen. but at the same time. In reality. It should be a slow. you don’t have to use your chest to breathe and you don’t have to use your mouth/nose to inhale.EjaculationTrainer.

I feel I have more energy overall. feelings. 3. let’s move on to the breathing techniques that can delay ejaculation.EjaculationTrainer. Make sure that when closing your eyes. First of all. when having sex or masturbating… 1. loosely close your eyes and take the deepest breath possible. Breathing Techniques The ultimate breathing technique for delaying ejaculation I discovered the following technique a long time ago by accident. Now that you know how to breathe correctly. Every 10-60 seconds (depending on how bad your PE is). It works extremely well and it’s a technique I still use to this day. Since I’ve changed my breathing. 4. This is very important. and act of that single. 2. deep breath. Create your own little world where your full attention is on the motions.the chest’ movement. Copyright © 2008-2010 . and then slowly release. not just in the bedroom. you focus on nothing else but the deep breath you are taking. semideep breathing as I mentioned earlier. No words or other thoughts (especially sex related) should be in your . sounds. Hold the breath in for 3-5 seconds. This is what you do. remember to maintain slow. All this chest movement does is take power away from your diaphragm. step by step.

EjaculationTrainer. When you combine it with PM relaxation. Unlike the last breathing technique. It’s really quite simple. Copyright © 2008-2010 . which is why this technique is so effective. Intense arousal is always the beginning of the ejaculation process.You don’t have to stop stimulation when doing this technique. This is a great technique that’s very easy to implement after a few practice sessions. ejaculation control becomes a lot easier. Controlling arousal is more of a mental thing. but does take some synchronization. If your premature ejaculation is pretty bad. Synchronizing your breathing Here is another breathing technique that can help calm arousal and delay ejaculation. If your PE isn’t that bad. If done every minute or . but it’s more effective if you do. It takes your mind completely away from sex for just long enough to lower arousal while still maintaining an erection. this one should be done constantly throughout sex/masturbation. this simple breathing technique will keep you calm and keep your arousal at a controllable level. which I will discuss in the next chapter. you will want to perform this technique often during sex/masturbation to be sure arousal doesn’t get out of control. you can wait until arousal starts to peak before you do it.

Also. always maintain slow.EjaculationTrainer. When thrusting in. 4. as I will describe later. This doesn’t mean exhale every time you thrust in. Inhaling naturally puts pressure on the lower abdomen and pelvic area. Its purpose is to bring about a deep level of calmness and relaxation. the thrusts. When you breathe. always make sure to exhale. More information regarding this technique…. Copyright © 2008-2010 . 2. your penis goes in and out of the vagina in a rhythmic motion. So that means you are less prone to ejaculate when exhaling… Since thrusting in is more stimulating then pulling . it makes sense to do your inhaling when you are less stimulated…which is when you’re pulling out. and inhale every time you pull out. Triangular Breathing This type of breathing technique is used in Yoga and other similar types of meditation. deep breathing during sex/masturbation. When pulling out. you will discover that it feels more natural and comfortable to inhale when pulling out. puts pressure on the prostate and perineal muscles. you should inhale. say every five thrusts or so. What you are going to do is synchronize your breathing with the ‘ins and outs’ of sex.1. 3. Pressure on these muscles/organs can trigger ejaculation. or whatever you want to call them. During sex. That wouldn’t work because the pace of your breathing should be SLOWER than the pace of your thrusting. Remember. follow steps 3 and 4. in turn. which.

Starting out. it’s a good idea to count the seconds and focus solely on the breathing. Exhale for 3 seconds. it helps because it can relieve stress. though. you are breathing at equal intervals. How to do triangular breathing: 1. Choose whatever is comfortable and works for you personally. which has three equal sides. Copyright © 2008-2010 . triangular breathing. when arousal or excitement begins to .As for PE.EjaculationTrainer. In regards to the 3 seconds. 3. Instantly start over. you will probably count the seconds in your head as you breathe. It’s like a triangle. as this will help prevent you from going too far. which helps with performance anxiety. with this technique. it will keep you calm and increase serotonin production. this was just an example that works in my case. hence. so long as each step is equal. You can choose an interval anywhere from 2-6 seconds. More importantly. Eventually. 4. Pause and hold for 3 seconds. and you’re doing it three times. Sometimes. 2. you’ll get the hang of it so you don’t have to. Inhale for 3 seconds. As you can see.

Breathing Developing control of your breathing and making it more voluntary than involuntary will give you a better sense of control over your entire body and arousal level. What happens is you get nervous or anxious. it’s important to remember to breathe consistently. I’m sure you’ve done this or watched someone do this. If you get nervous and start pausing. It’s no wonder that virtually every form of focused meditation or other disciplines. It’s even been demonstrated that breathing can affect your overall health. Remembering to breathe Another mistake men often make is that they forget to breathe altogether. I recommend taking some time each day to perform some meditative breathing Copyright © 2008-2010 . and mind…but it can also be used as a meditative exercise designed to give you better control and awareness of your breathing. and you simply forget to . body. after a few seconds. Then. you end up taking a deep breath to make up for the loss. like when faced with danger or encountering a beautiful woman in a simple conversation. It’s an obvious sign that someone is nervous or afraid. such as Kung Fu.EjaculationTrainer. it will just throw your body out of sync and prevent you from staying relaxed and in control of the situation. This can happen in any situation. During sex. involve developing control over breathing.This technique can be used successfully during sex to calm arousal.

exercises. You will find they are very effective at calming arousal and delaying ejaculation. mouth. but I’ve also heard men say that using the mouth gives you more control and allows you to breathe deeper.EjaculationTrainer. and see what works best for you in terms of keeping you calm. or combination of . They will improve your energy. I use a combination of both. Start practicing these breathing techniques and you will master them in no time. Personally. Note: Experiment with breathing through the nose. and abilities in the bedroom. I’ve heard some men say they prefer using the nose because it keeps them calmer. feeling of well-being. Become aware of your breathing throughout your encounters…keep it semi-deep and at SLOW intervals…let it keep you relaxed…and you will last longer. guaranteed. serotonin production. Copyright © 2008-2010 .

they are what keeps everything down below protected and held in place. orgasm. These muscles are often dubbed the ‘sex muscles’. The PC muscle is part of the Levator Ani muscle.The Perineal Muscles The perineal muscles play a vital role in both delaying and controlling ejaculation. It cradles the genitals and anus. also known as Bulbospongiosus). As for the male anatomy. These muscles function during bowel movements. which is a sling of muscles grouped together. ending at the tailbone. and of course. the perineum is the area of the body beginning in the upper pelvic region above the penis.EjaculationTrainer. It surrounds the anus and meets up with the BC muscle to form the perineal floor. but it does play a role. The perineum consists of a variety of muscles that form the perineal . as you’ll see. The BC muscles are what Copyright © 2008-2010 . The BC muscle is actually two muscles that surround the bulb of the penis (the internal base and tube of the penis. The main perineal muscles that play a role in controlling ejaculation are the PC muscle (Pubococcygeus) and the BC muscle (Bulbocavernosus. urination. The PC muscle is more responsible for bowel movements than it is for ejaculating. the urethra). ejaculation.

They are not always wrong in telling people how to use it. It will also allow you to hold back ejaculation in the technique I describe later. Identifying the PM muscle Before you start exercising the PM. and increase the strength of your orgasms. Rather. even well respected books. but it’s important to know the difference.EjaculationTrainer. they simply call it the PC muscle. Most texts. contracting or flexing it during stimulation can actually induce . It will make your erections harder. The PM is located between Copyright © 2008-2010 . And it’s important to know its different uses and functions. As I’ll discuss in a bit. the PM muscle. give you a better sense of control. don’t distinguish these two muscles as being separate. you need to identify it on yourself. For the sake of making things easier to understand. I’ll refer to these muscles as one muscle. However. the PM can be used as a last resort to hold back ejaculation.contract during ejaculation and are responsible for pushing out fluids. This is something most people fail to mention when talking about the PM as a means of ejaculation control. There is much confusion between the two muscles because they are connected to one another and feel like one big muscle. such as semen and urine. It’s good to have a strong PM muscle.

The muscle you contracted to stop the urine is the PM muscle. Again. This muscle is one of the most underdeveloped muscles that we possess. nobody ever taught us how to use it.your anus and scrotum. It’s Copyright © 2008-2010 . and then move your penis up and down. as if you’re holding in urine for a few seconds. The reason being.EjaculationTrainer. He actually created PC muscle exercises for women. you are using the PM to do this. If you can’t flex this muscle 20 times or hold it tightly flexed for 1520 seconds. As I said. You can even design your own . To identify it. Before I get into the actual exercises. or flex and hold it for a short period of time. Now that you’ve located it. There are many different variations of exercises you can use to train your PM. The main concept of exercising the PM is to flex it repeatedly. it’s not in prime shape. you need to strengthen and develop it. it extends along the perineum where it meets the anus. try flexing it. I want go over a few things about the perineal muscles (PM). Most people refer to these exercises as variations of Kegals. and then men started doing them because they noticed benefits as well. PM training Before using the PM to hold back ejaculation. Another way to locate this muscle is to get an erection. simply go pee and stop the urine midflow. named after the man who created them.

There are basically two ways of flexing this muscle. It should feel like one muscle centered in your . The first way is to flex the PM in an upward and inward motion.important that you know exactly what I mean when I say ‘flex’ throughout this book when referring to exercises and techniques. I simply mean squeezing it as if you are holding back urine. When I say flexing this muscle. Remember that this muscle is what contracts and pushes up semen during ejaculation and orgasm. This will feel like you’re squeezing two muscles together (you are. in fact). I’m going to describe these variations of flexing so you understand the difference. and it will feel like it’s more toward the front and below the testes. The other way involves flexing the front part of the muscle. so you can see why flexing it in this way is counterproductive. you will find that there are two ways of flexing it. Copyright © 2008-2010 . This part of the muscle (more of the BC) is what flexes the most and pushes out semen during orgasm. These two ways of flexing feel similar.EjaculationTrainer. but have different effects. It should feel as if you are pulling the muscle up and towards the rear of your body. When experimenting with this muscle. In this flex you’re using more of the rear part of the muscle (more of the PC).

you’re going too Copyright © 2008-2010 . it should remain as relaxed as possible throughout intercourse. Always remember to take it slow if you’re new to these exercises. Perineal Muscle Safety – Read before attempting any PM exercises I haven’t had any reports of injury. they can be strained if over-exercised. If you feel any serious pain or prolonging soreness. This usually happens when you first start exercising. The perineal muscles are like any other muscles. In fact. but you should still take caution when exercising any part of the body. you will be a great lover with abilities of which literally billions of men are ignorant. After consistent exercising.EjaculationTrainer. they are more fragile than other muscles and should be treated with care. It just takes patience and a little time. it will gradually become stronger and soon it will feel just like flexing your biceps or any other muscle. I’ve read about people over-exercising these muscles and ending up with erection problems. This is why it’s important to be safe when doing PM exercises. The most common side effect of exercising these muscles is soreness. This just means it’s weak and undeveloped. although they’re usually temporary.Therefore. Once you develop the PM to its full . You may find that exercising the perineal muscles is uncomfortable or difficult at first. It’s normal for a muscle to get a little sore if it’s not accustomed to being exercised.

This is the PM exercise I do 2-3 times a week: I like to perform PM exercises with about a 20-40% erection. Flex your PM the and hold it for 2-3 seconds. 2. 3. It’s your choice and you should choose what works best for you. 5. let go and relax for 2-3 seconds. something I’ll go into later.EjaculationTrainer. you have to allow a regeneration period in order for your muscles to rebuild and get stronger. Then. Doing them fully erect makes you more prone to injury if you do them too often or too hard. If this happens. Do 1-2 sets depending on your PM strength. Do 10-20 reps per set. eh? Copyright © 2008-2010 .hard. The same concept of bodybuilding applies. Over-training is absolutely pointless and can actually have less of an effect. This is what you do… 1. Repeat step 1. not to mention cause an injury. I don’t recommend it unless you’re trying to increase erection strength. Easy enough. they can be done completely flaccid or fully erect (I’m actually doing some right now as I write this).com . You can exercise both the BC section and the PC using the different variations of squeezes described earlier. 4. However. you should lay off the exercising for a few days or until it subsides.

Flex and hold the PM for 10 seconds. Copyright © 2008-2010 . 1 set of these is enough.EjaculationTrainer. Here’s a more advanced PM exercise that I do once a week. waiting in line at the store. you will want to exhale when flexing the PM. however. you should do less than suggested in the previous exercises – about 50% – unless you can easily do more. on the way to work. . When flexing the PM. You don’t need to hold your breath the whole 10 seconds. Relax for 3-5 seconds. Do 10-15 reps per set.There’s a little more to it. You can design your own plan and gradually increase how much you do as you gain more PM strength. Remember to use your abdominal muscles. 3. you’re flexing for 10 seconds. This will allow you to put more energy into your muscle contractions. 2. 1. you will exhale. and is more comfortable. you will want to inhale. This time. When first beginning to exercise the PM. or virtually anywhere you can think of. PM exercises can be done at home. just make sure you exhale at the beginning of the flex. Repeat steps 1 and 2. Like the last exercise. which results in a more effective workout. It’s a more rigorous exercise that keeps the PM in top shape. When relaxing. Make sure you breathe correctly. It also synchronizes your exercising and breathing. 4.

Relaxing the PM to delay ejaculation Keeping the PM relaxed is another wild card to controlling ejaculation. and bending slightly forward. If you’re alone. This will make exercising the PM easier. You might not have noticed. You should first learn the relaxation technique below before attempting to hold it in. there is no reason to overwork yourself. Seriously. you don’t need to follow a rigorous exercise plan as a body builder would. as I’ve mentioned. Flexing it during sex/masturbation can actually help trigger the ejaculation process. When bending forward. It’s more important and more effective at permanently eliminating PE. Relaxation of this muscle keeps arousal low and the body in a parasympathetic mode.EjaculationTrainer. This is probably the simplest. As I . A few sets of squeezes 2-3 times a week is usually sufficient. but when you masturbate or have sex. the PM is usually flexed or it Copyright © 2008-2010 . I recommend doing them while standing up.To be honest. rest your hands on your knees to avoid stressing your lower back. A strong PM will come into play later when learning how to hold it in after reaching ‘the point of no return’ and when having multiple orgasms. most effective technique for keeping the ejaculatory reflex calm and under control. it could make or break your performance. so it’s important not to flex it during sex/masturbation. legs spread about 2 feet apart.

the part that’s a fluid) to loosen and open up. it will be like clockwork. Most men don’t pay any attention to their PM’s reactions throughout their sexual . There may be some minor pulses here and there. That’s its job.frequently contracts. This contracting of the PM is a subconscious action that increases arousal and triggers ejaculation. Now that you know this. The contracting of the PM is a major contributor to starting the ejaculation process because it draws more blood to the perineal/genital area and ‘primes’ the ejaculatory ‘pump’. It’s critical to keep this muscle relaxed. releasing the semen. especially before and during ejaculation. Never let it contract. but don’t let it get out of control. Copyright © 2008-2010 . and definitely don’t keep it flexed. not just the PM. but it can be done. after all. The contractions also cause the seminal vesicles (they hold 70% of your semen. try to keep your PM as relaxed as you can. start paying attention to your PM’s reactions during sex/masturbation. This is what you do… Next time you masturbate or have sex. It may be a little difficult to control these seemingly involuntary contractions/flexes. Once you get used to things. but you must also keep the rest of the body relaxed as well. Keeping the body parasympathetic requires relaxation of the entire body.EjaculationTrainer.

every time you have sex or masturbate. Trust me. go try masturbating after reading this book and keep that muscle as relaxed as possible.Paying close attention to the PM’s reactions works great when combined with sensual sex (what we talked about earlier). After you make it a conscious habit. make sure to be fully aware of how your PM is reacting. like a massage). Keeping the PM relaxed is critical to prolonging sex. Keeping the PM relaxed takes a little focus and control. and calming the ejaculatory reflex. You can actually feel the semen brewing up and preparing for ejaculation. you’ll notice it becomes a lot easier to keep it relaxed. From this point on. You’ll be very impressed at the apparent ability you have to receive continued stimulation without getting the urge to ejaculate. surprisingly. Copyright © 2008-2010 . sensual sex involves focusing on your sensations in a way that is as non-sexual as possible (but still pleasant. You’ll notice that. keep the PM flexed or start contracting and you’ll notice that the urge rapidly increases. Try PM relaxation tonight while masturbating or having sex. As I already discussed. This is because the body is more relaxed and in a parasympathetic mode. just to see the . remaining parasympathetic. your arousal and urge to ejaculate actually decreases and you get the feeling that you could last a lot longer. Then.

along with breathing. Most importantly. Most people master PM relaxation within a few weeks to a month. it causes ejaculation. You need to have your PM in prime shape for this to work effectively. Keep in mind that this technique is only to be used as a last resort when you’re in a pressing situation. especially when arousal starts peaking. When everything else fails and ejaculation seems . relaxing it won’t help. Copyright © 2008-2010 . The ironic thing about the PM is that when it contracts. The two concepts. This is why you should remember to keep arousal under control at the same time. This is where your strong PM is going to come in handy. But once ejaculation is knocking on the door. You need to do the opposite and tighten/flex the PM to hold in ejaculation. All that does is wire your body to ejaculate faster (like a teen who masturbates quickly in an attempt to reach orgasm quickly). are powerful when combined.EjaculationTrainer. as I just discussed when talking about PM relaxation. Take some time every week to do the PM exercises I described above. You should never count on this as your only solution. You should see noticeable results by tonight or within a few days. use the PM to hold in ejaculation. you should NEVER try to reach orgasm just so you can practice this technique.It will be hard at first to keep your PM relaxed for long periods of time.

To hold in ejaculation. when ejaculation is inevitable. Arousal will then go back to mid-level. This technique is to be used only when you reach the point of no return. Flexing your abdominal muscles can also aid in the overall strength of your PM hold. You don’t have to hold your breath the whole . as explained in the masturbation chapter. and keep your Copyright © 2008-2010 . 3. or minimal. First of all. step by step… 1. but make sure during the flexing period you don’t take too deep of a breath. The hardest time to keep the PM flexed will be right when you feel you are about to ejaculate. you need to flex your PM 2-5 seconds before you think you’re going to ejaculate. erection loss. stop stimulation and tightly flex (not eyepopping tight) the PM muscle. Right before you are about to ejaculate (2-5 seconds. Here it is. usually no more than 10-15 seconds. You may or may not experience a non-ejaculation orgasm (we’ll get into multiple and non-ejaculation orgasms later). Hold the PM and abdominal flex until the urge of ejaculation subsides. 4. usually 5-15 seconds.EjaculationTrainer. Keep it flexed until the urge passes. This only trains your body to ejaculate sooner than desired. and you can keep going full throttle with no. 2. depending on what works best for you). the urge will pass and you will have successfully stopped the contractions that lead to ejaculation and hypersensitivity. never try to reach orgasm quickly just so you can practice holding it in. If you can keep it flexed.

breathing at a slow interval. flexing encourages ejaculation) making it harder to hold back. the semen will shoot out as if you were holding back urine. Some like to start sooner. lower your arousal to a minimum. it’s critical to keep the PM and all other muscles relaxed. you may be able to hold back for a few seconds. yet pleasant. (remember. If you flex too late. It’s very important that you start the PM flex before the semen gets too far through the process. as this will allow you to ejaculate without losing your erection. Most people start flexing 2-3 seconds before ejaculation. Too deep of a breath during this flexing period can make it harder to keep the PM flexed. The same goes for flexing too early.EjaculationTrainer. You should experience a minor. 5. just practice and adjust a timing that seems to work best for you. Everyone is different. This will allow you to get going again without feeling like you’ll ejaculate. when you start going again. If you flex too early. Copyright © 2008-2010 . nonejaculatory orgasm when using this . During this flex. Also. at 5 seconds or so. as it puts pressure on the perineal area. but as soon as you relax your PM. you may actually help push the semen out. This actually isn’t a bad thing if you don’t mind things getting a little messy.

com . ‘holding it in’ is one of the hardest techniques to master. the ones that cause it to shoot with force and cause hypersensitivity to the glans. Just make sure to hold back the main ejaculatory contractions. I’m not going to lie to you. especially at first. you will have to stop stimulation in order to successfully hold it in and have a nonejaculatory orgasm. But as I said earlier. The only thing that will do is wire your body to ejaculate quickly. as you’ll soon discover. Copyright © 2008-2010 . For most people. Still. Don’t let that stop you though. You could combine this with the Stealth Technique (covered later) and not have to stop at all. All it takes is a little dedication and consistency with your PM muscle training and practice. it’s also quite basic. The best way to practice holding in ejaculation is to use Masturbation Technique #2 described in the next chapter. Eventually. you may be able to hold it in without stopping sexual stimulation as some men do. it’s just too hard to hold it in while continuing stimulation. but this doesn’t cause erection loss or hypersensitivity to the glans (penis head). but that will require some skill and lots of practice.EjaculationTrainer. it’s very important that you never try to reach ejaculation just so you can practice this technique. stopping for a few seconds to hold back is far better than ejaculating prematurely and embarrassing yourself.A little semen may leak out. Though it’s hard. All you have to do is be able to keep your PM flexed when ejaculation creeps up. Most of the time.

What I’ve done is laid out what typically works for most men regarding the . in the other method of squeezing your using more of the BC (the front section. but if you could maintain an erection even after you ejaculate (most men can’t). Incase you forgot. Use the PM to strengthen your erection Premature ejaculation is obviously a problem.As mentioned earlier there are two basic ways of flexing the PM. What works for one man may not work for another. I think they work about equal.EjaculationTrainer. Again. but I’ve actually heard of men who can last longer if they exhaust it. Personally. and/or keep it at a solid flex. This is especially true about the PM. one method is when you’re using more of the PC during your squeeze (the rear section of the muscle). Every man is different As I’ve mentioned. All you have to do is wipe up the Copyright © 2008-2010 . but you should test them out for yourself. PM relaxation is critical in my opinion. Permanent ejaculation control isn’t learned overnight. every man is different. It’s one of those things that varies by the person. Men have been successful in ‘holding it in’ with both methods. Exhausting the PM means that you flex it repeatedly throughout your encounter. you should do some experimenting to see what works best in your case. then it’s not really a problem at all.

com . you’ll notice that your penis fills up with more blood and gets rock hard. As for the exercise. I recommend holding it flexed for 10 seconds at a time.EjaculationTrainer. What you’re doing is forcing maximum blood into it. With an erection. you can be more prone to injury. To strengthen your erection. but it can help clear any ‘cobwebs’ that may be blocking blood passages or chambers.mess and tell her you’re good for a couple more rounds. and use your other hand to slightly pull your erection over your thumb. Then. improve your erection quality is to press your thumb on the top base of your penis where it meets the body. Another way to improve blood flow to the penis and. Do this 3-5 seconds at a time. depending on the strength of your PM. Repeat this 5-10 times. Copyright © 2008-2010 . As you probably know. and repeat. I recommend warming up your whole genital area with a warm cloth before doing this exercise. It’s a great one or two minute workout that can keep your erection in top shape. therefore. This not only makes your penis bigger and stronger. When tightly flexing your PM with an erection. you need to do PM exercises while having an erection. the ‘rounds’ tend to get longer after ejaculating a few times. allow a 10-second rest period. This should make your erection rock hard. Press it into your body at the intersection. You’ll have better blood flow to the penis so it will be easier to maintain an erection after ejaculation. so it’s important to be extra careful.

as I’ll cover in a later chapter.EjaculationTrainer. If you can master the ability to keep your PM in a relaxed state and under your control. This is the best way to improve blood flow throughout the whole body.Another common method to improve blood flow and erection quality is to exercise. So… Out of all the contributing factors to premature ejaculation. The PM also plays a role in multiple orgasms. Copyright © 2008-2010 . in both controlling and causing it. And if you are able to flex it when needed during the point of no return. you can hold back ejaculation. including the penis. Make sure to refer to my penis enlargement guide for more detailed information on erection strengthening. the PM is one of the . Going on a jog a couple times a week or hitting the punching bag will greatly improve your cardiovascular system. you will delay ejaculation.

It’s pretty much required if you’re serious about this. I’ll explain some techniques that can be used to ‘re-wire’ your ejaculatory reflex. masturbation feels nothing like the real thing.EjaculationTrainer. but with masturbation. In this chapter. You see. This will train your body and mind to get used to. and everything else covered in this book. you can also use this time to practice arousal control. However. there is a downfall to masturbation as a means of practicing ejaculation control. It will allow you to remain calm and really pay attention to what you’re experiencing. and be able to handle.Masturbation Masturbating is a great way to get familiar with your body’s responses. there is no pressure. it doesn’t provide continuous stimulation to the glans (penis head. It’s the best time (at least initially) for practicing everything I cover in this book. prolonged mental and physical sexual stimulation. The most helpful tool for PE As mentioned. Besides using these techniques to re-wire your ejaculatory reflex. Sex is better for putting yourself to the test. and on top of that. breathing . masturbation is very helpful for getting in touch with your body and practicing the techniques outlined in this book. the Copyright © 2008-2010 .

if you practice with a pocket . and not providing enough glans stimulation) can put a damper on your training efforts. So how do you solve this? I recommend getting a ‘pocket vagina’. They are a FAR MORE effective tool than your hand for practicing and learning ejaculation control. These two ‘issues’ with masturbation (not feeling life-like. For example. and in truth. more sensitive stimulation. This is because the width of a hand is usually smaller than the length of a penis.most sensitive part). A vagina (cervix). can be as deep as 7-9 inches when a woman is aroused. Copyright © 2008-2010 .” But trust me. so it keeps the glans constantly stimulated. also known as a ‘masturbator’. These handy tools feel exactly like the real thing. Some of you might be thinking. Even if you don’t have a regular partner to practice with. I’m not getting one of these things. whatever. But when the real thing comes along. and neither will your mind. you may be. “Yeah. in terms of it causing arousal to climb. you’ll thank me for this one.EjaculationTrainer. on the other hand. you will solve your premature ejaculation MUCH QUICKER. Your ejaculatory reflex won’t be used to the heightened. it’s just too much to handle. and with better results. I guarantee. you might think you are making good progress with learning to control yourself during masturbation. this is an absolute must have.

to just relax and practice.EjaculationTrainer. It’s not your typical latex or silicon. but not the reason I recommend it. it would still be wise to invest in one of these. but it’s not always the best time to practice in the beginning of your training. it’s some weird looking material that is extremely life like. It’s called FleshLight. Even if you already have a girlfriend/wife to practice with. you’ll probably ejaculate sooner than you would with regular masturbation. This is normal and a good thing. which will cause your ejaculatory reflex (and mind) to build a tolerance and have a higher threshold for this new level. you’ll be better prepared and able to handle prolonged sensitive stimulation. but there is only one brand I recommend. especially if it’s just a one-night stand. There are many varieties of these available. your ejaculatory reflex will adapt (re-wire itself) to handle this sensitive. When the real thing comes along. That’s a cool feature. life-like stimulation. They have many different varieties and sizes to choose from. The unique thing about FleshLight is the patented material of which it’s made. and not enough time. It’s a pocket vagina inside a dummy flashlight. Week by week. There’s just too much pressure. As I said it. you need some alone time with no pressure so that you can get familiar with your body and the techniques/information I cover in this book.When you first get one of these. It means you are increasing stimulation. Sex is great for testing . Copyright © 2008-2010 .

These dos and Copyright © 2008-2010 . Go to the resources section of the member’s area for more information about pocket vaginas and where to get a FleshLight Stamina Training Unit. the FleshLight is actually set up to feel BETTER than real sex. The dos and don’ts of masturbation Before I get into the masturbation techniques and other information. Vibrators feel better than any penis. which creates a sensation that a real vagina cannot. It’s the same effect that women get when using vibrators too . The following bullet points are things you should or shouldn’t do when masturbating. we need to go over some basics. You see. If you learn to control ejaculation using this tool. The reason it works is very simple and fundamental. The sleeve can also be easily taken out and soaked in warm water first to provide even more realism. so when a woman gets too accustomed to using vibrators to get off.EjaculationTrainer. as she is used to getting more. real sex should become a breeze. having an orgasm from regular stimulation becomes more difficult…it just doesn’t feel as good.FleshLight also has a pocket vagina designed specifically for training to last longer! It’s called the ‘Stamina Training Unit’. and it’s literally one of a kind. It’s super tight with rounded ribs. and should make plenty of sense based on what you’ve already learned.

you won’t be able to last a minute. masturbation should be looked at as a training session. And if you give it too much stimulation (like real life or a FleshLight). In fact.EjaculationTrainer. If you don’t give it enough stimulation (dry hand masturbation). Note: These also apply to using a pocket vagina. . A dry. They can also affect how successful you are at re-wiring your ejaculatory reflex. but if you have PE. • Never masturbate without lubricant. It’s a session for learning ejaculation control Copyright © 2008-2010 . I realize the point of masturbation and sex for most people is to experience sexual pleasure and orgasm. Re-wiring your ejaculatory reflex to handle prolonged stimulation is critical to ending PE. it will adapt to tolerate more stimulation and sensitivity. rough hand is only going to train your penis to be ultra sensitive. When a warm and moist vagina comes along. Remember. which is a good thing. and you’ll be on the right path to eliminating PE and training your body to last. Follow these dos and don’ts. • Never rush masturbation. I’d prefer you use one if you want quicker and better results. not just a time to get off. your ejaculatory reflex can be ‘re-wired’.don’ts can affect when you ejaculate. it will adapt so that it doesn’t need very much before ejaculating – a bad thing.

stop for a few seconds and calm yourself. If you feel rushed. when they get really horny. Then. If you’re one of those men who go to the bathroom for a quick five-minute whack. This will only cause you to get excited/aroused too fast. It will do more harm than good. Many men will visualize/watch a porno without actually masturbating. They just sit there playing with themselves. It’s okay to visualize a little if you have .EjaculationTrainer. you need to stop today. If your erection stays hard without visualizing. You can pretend there is Copyright © 2008-2010 . don’t masturbate. • Always masturbate at a time of the day when you feel calm and don’t have any distractions. causing them to ejaculate within seconds or minutes. Always dedicate at least 20 minutes to a masturbation session. Just don’t start going crazy right from the beginning. • Don’t get yourself too aroused before you begin masturbating. If the urge to ejaculate comes creeping. Trying to reach orgasm quickly is only going to train your body to ejaculate prematurely. and will keep you calm. they start masturbating. preferably more. This will prevent you from rushing yourself.and re-wiring your ejaculatory reflex. • Don’t over-visualize. The goal of the session should be AVOIDING ejaculation. so that you can keep your erection hard (although someone with PE doesn’t usually have that problem). I recommend not visualizing at all. It will allow you to last longer by keeping your body parasympathetic.

Pressure on these parts will help induce . it gives the ejaculation process a head start. Better yet.EjaculationTrainer. I’ll refer to it as the PONR. don’t flex your PM to get an erection. but try to perceive the visualization rather than think about it. Make thrusts with your body so it seems more lifelike. body. use this same mindset of ‘perceiving. This is very important to keeping you and your ejaculatory reflex calm and parasympathetic. As I mentioned earlier. The PONR is when you get that tingly feeling Copyright © 2008-2010 . the PM should only be flexed to hold in ejaculation – only when you have reached the ‘point of no return’. Flexing the PM does help you get an erection faster. Always urinate before masturbating. just get a pocket vagina. seminal vesicles. not thinking’. so I’ll be brief. and perineal muscles. When the real thing comes along. and your PM. Never do it with a full bladder. or having sex for that matter. This helps take pressure of the prostate. It will speed up results. Recognizing the ‘point of no return’ Most of you probably know what the ‘point of no return’ means. but it also loosens up the seminal vesicles holding semen. Don’t make your hand do all the work. Remember to breathe correctly.• • • • someone there. When first beginning masturbation. and completely relax your mind. Therefore. as I discussed earlier.

especially about paying attention to your body and how it’s reacting. This ‘sensitive feeling’ is your nerves being stimulated to their max. Many people talk about the PONR and how you should try to avoid it. During this phase. Once you become aware of what it feels like to move into the PPONR. This is the feeling you get 10-30 seconds before reaching the PONR. It’s important that you learn to recognize the PONR when masturbating. but the key is to recognize what I call the PPONR (the pre-point of no return). And if you do move into it. you will become better at preventing it from ever happing via arousal control. You need to get familiar with your body as it gets closer and closer to this point. This is obviously true. you should develop an acute sense of your body moving to the PPONR. the sensations you’re feeling on your penis should feel ultra good/sensitive. If you practice everything discussed thus . During this phase. Not stopping here will result in ejaculation and orgasm. if Copyright © 2008-2010 . and preparing for ejaculation. or stop when it’s reached to avoid ejaculation. and then to the PONR. your body is moving into the PONR. and you should feel the PM wanting to tighten up. you’ll notice that relaxing your body and mind (and stopping for a few seconds.right before you ejaculate. usually about 3 seconds beforehand.

Keep in mind. and the other is purely physical (direct penile stimulation that activates certain perineal nerves that open blood vessels). a. Most men use both methods. One way involves mental stimulation (cerebral cortex stimulation. Once the PONR is reached. From now on. Get familiar with and learn to recognize your PPONR and .k. one simple thrust could trigger ejaculation. This is why it’s CRITICAL that you get familiar with the PONR so that you know exactly when to stop if you need to.necessary) during the PPONR can actually prevent you from cresting too far to the PONR (ejaculation). Just make sure you don’t take the PONR too far before stopping and doing your hold. If you do move into the PONR. I want you to try to obtain an erection via physical Copyright © 2008-2010 . Finding your calm erection I mentioned in an earlier chapter about the two different ways of getting an erection. at least you’ll be able to recognize it. so that you can stop to prevent ejaculation. stopping is way less embarrassing then ejaculating prematurely.EjaculationTrainer.a. visualization). Knowing when you’ve reached the PPONR will allow you to prevent yourself from moving into the PONR. Recognizing both the PPONR and the PONR can also better position you to hold in ejaculation with the PM.

This will give you a ‘calm erection’ that doesn’t feel ready to burst. you’ll naturally last longer because your ejaculatory reflex will be less ‘primed’ when beginning penetrative sex. none at all. don’t let the experience affect you mentally (to a point). Make sure you keep the visualization down to a . Masturbation Technique #1 My favorite masturbation technique is similar to the well-known “stop and go” method. although practice always makes perfect. you just have to rely on physical stimulation instead of visualizing your favorite scenario. If you can learn to get a calm erection. You’ll have to play with yourself for a minute or two.EjaculationTrainer. or preferably. and if it isn’t taught Copyright © 2008-2010 .stimulation only. It’s really not that hard. This is about activating the nerves in the perineal area. Obtaining an erection in a purely physical manner takes a minute or two. not the cerebral cortex. learning to get a calm erection is directly related to this concept. The “stop and go” method is ineffective because it’s taught INCORRECTLY most of the time. It’s not one of those erections that just pop up in 2 seconds. This is something that you should be able to learn and see results from by tonight. so be patient and try not to revert to old habits. or in terms of sex. Remember the section in which I mentioned that you need to be in control of arousal from the very beginning? Well.

you’ll get the hang of it. as most people say. the urge is already knocking on the door because the semen is already midway through the process. Copyright © 2008-2010 . stop. but the problem in this technique is that you shouldn’t stop when you feel ejaculation coming. once you feel it coming. Then. What you should do is stop before you feel it coming (during or even before the PPONR)…The point . you should stop at 4:15. By adding the 30-second cushion. This technique may sound a little confusing. but with practice.EjaculationTrainer. Let’s say. At first. The feeling of ejaculation starts creeping up on most men about 15 seconds before they actually ejaculate. on average. So take that 15 seconds and add a 30-second window for additional cushion (45 seconds total). and start going again. This extra “window” will keep the semen from starting to flow. So instead of waiting to stop until you get the feeling. it can be hard to determine 30 seconds before you’re about to feel the urge. people usually misunderstand it because it’s not explained well. The method most people teach is to masturbate until you feel you’re about to ejaculate. You’ve probably heard something like that before. You can still stop it. you have prevented the ejaculation process from ever beginning. right? This is effective. wait a few seconds. but usually within 20 seconds or so. which would be 4:45 in this case. so let me give you an example. you just triggered the ejaculation process and the semen is already starting its process.incorrectly. you shoot after 5 minutes of masturbating.

EjaculationTrainer. Try to span this technique over a half hour to an hour. if needed. If you start to feel sore at all. Make sure to follow the masturbation basics as described above. Masturbation Technique #2 Technique #1 is designed to get your ejaculatory . but you shouldn’t do it all the time. It’s very important that you don’t rush yourself to ejaculation just so you can practice holding it in. Technique #2 can do the same. and your genitals used to prolonged stimulation. practice on keeping your PM as relaxed as possible during this technique. The technique above ‘re-wires’ you and your ejaculatory reflexes to handle prolonged stimulation. I recommend ejaculating only 1-4 times a week. During this minute. cut the time down until you can handle it better. At the end of a session. and practice controlling your arousal. you should wait a full minute before you start going again. and keep your visualization. try practicing holding it in…. That is. but is mainly targeted for practicing PM relaxation and holding it in. once your PM is fully developed. you can decide whether or not you want to ejaculate. keep your erection hard. your body. This takes away the whole point of what I said earlier… Quick masturbation only trains your body to ejaculate sooner. Not shooting at the end of this technique is beneficial in training yourself. Copyright © 2008-2010 .Between each stop. Most importantly. On the days you decide to shoot.

Copyright © 2008-2010 . breathing. It should be done once every week or so. As I described in technique #1. Do not ejaculate yet. • Remember to apply everything I talked about earlier. You’ll probably get the urge to ejaculate before the time’s up. This doesn’t mean that after 20-45 minutes you try to induce an orgasm (inducing an orgasm is a big NO). • After 20-45 minutes have passed. so just stop for a minute or two and start going again. maintain PM relaxation. Just keep masturbating until orgasm comes naturally. • Work your way up to a medium pace and keep it that way. except you are going to apply what you now know about the PM. Breathe .EjaculationTrainer. you can start preparing yourself to hold it in. control the thoughts that trigger ejaculation.This technique is like regular masturbation. • Keep up this medium-paced masturbation for 20-45 minutes – the longer the better. You might as well try to prolong it as much as possible since the ultimate goal is to build a tolerance. Never masturbate too quickly. Try to stop before ejaculation even creeps up. and other things I already covered. as it only encourages ejaculation. this will help prevent the ejaculation process from beginning and help keep you in stage 2 of arousal. It also helps with the re-wiring of the ejaculatory reflex. • Start masturbating at a slow pace. and control arousal. This is a great technique to test your new skills and see how much progress you’re making.

it will start contracting and cause orgasm. continue stimulation for 3-4 seconds after you’ve begun your PM hold. • Repeat step 7. • After the urge to ejaculate goes away and arousal drops.EjaculationTrainer. Copyright © 2008-2010 .don’t stop stimulation at the same time as beginning your PM flex. This extra stimulation makes orgasm creep a little closer. Don’t get mad if you ejaculate.• About 5-7 seconds before ejaculation/orgasm. If you let go of the PM flex too . arousal control. and then stop. Keep stimulation going for another 1-2 seconds. getting as close to ejaculation as possible and then holding back. it’s part of learning. It should be fairly easy to hold it in this way because you are stopping stimulation 5-7 seconds before orgasm/ejaculation begin. however . when ejaculation comes along. Just take your time and remember the breathing techniques. This time. Keep your PM flexed for 5-10 seconds or until the urge to ejaculate goes away. Don’t try to reach ejaculation again. Try your hardest not to ejaculate on this first one. PM relaxation. etc. This time. do the same thing by holding the PM flexed 5-7 seconds before ejaculation. which is good practice. • When ejaculation creeps up the second time. Your PM should be flexed the whole time until ejaculation/arousal subsides. start going again at a medium pace. It makes it a little more difficult to hold in. Keep repeating this process. stop all stimulation and do the ‘hold it in’ technique with your PM muscle that I described last chapter.

if not impossible for most men. and energy loss. your erection should stay at least 80-100% hard. Orgasmic contractions produce several effects – increased blood flow to the glans. Your erection should stay hard throughout. and disappointing your lover. you should experience a minor non-ejaculatory orgasm when using the ‘hold it in’ . a little bit of semen may leak out. But as long as you hold back the main ejaculatory contractions. losing your erection. severe arousal. hypersensitivity.. Having to stop for a few seconds is better than ejaculating. This is why erections fade after regular orgasms. During these PM holding periods.EjaculationTrainer. A little semen leakage doesn’t cause erection loss. You probably won’t be able to do it. Copyright © 2008-2010 . Continuing stimulation throughout the entire ‘hold it in’ process is extremely hard. and your arousal should go back to stage 2.Note: As I’ve mentioned before. Don’t be mad if you can’t.

Lowering Her Threshold Lowering her threshold for orgasm In the first chapter. If a woman only needs two minutes and you’re able to last that . you’d probably feel you have PE. With that being said. that some women only ‘think’ they cannot have an orgasm with regular Copyright © 2008-2010 . It’s an opinion that’s usually based on your ability to satisfy a specific woman. we talked about how PE is simply a personal opinion. the less you’ll have to worry about lasting. Keep in mind. Obviously. don’t you think one of your main goals should be to figure out what you can do to bring her to climax quicker? The faster you can make her orgasm and/or satisfy her. It’s important to note that some women (estimated 20-30%) cannot have an orgasm via penetrative sex. though. your main goal should be to work on increasing your own ability to last. but what most books don’t point out is that it’s almost equally important that you learn the art of satisfying a woman. you’ll have to rely on oral or other means. For those women. But if a woman required fifteen minutes and you couldn’t go that long. A good oral job combined with some finger stimulation will do the trick for almost any woman. you’d probably be content with yourself.EjaculationTrainer.

if a woman feels emotionally connected with a man. are the four factors involved in getting a woman primed for orgasm. communication. she is already extremely aroused and on the verge of exploding. Priming her for orgasm If you want to lower a woman’s threshold for orgasm. she’ll enjoy the experience more and therefore climax sooner and with more intensity. Foreplay – In specific order: kissing (lips. You can’t perform a few minutes of kissing/fondling and then just stick it in. as it tends to take longer for a woman to get aroused. that by the time you begin penetration. emotional connection. In some cases. and her perception of the . emotional connections can be felt during a one-night stand. This is only going to make you have to work harder to get her aroused. Foreplay. fondling (breasts and other parts of the body). neck body). and oral are prime examples of foreplay techniques you should be using to get her primed. Emotional connection – Naturally. The goal should be to have her so hot and wanting you. They also have a better sense of control and regulation than men do.EjaculationTrainer. you need to get her ‘primed’ before beginning penile penetration. so you could be the one to change that. but Copyright © 2008-2010 .sex because they never have. finger stimulation.

a deep emotional connection is something that usually requires an established relationship. it doesn’t matter what type of personality they have. Perception – As with men. her arousal will drop to the point where she won’t be able to climax at all. Also. If she gets even the slightest hint that that you’re not interested in her or the experience. and some are ‘romantics’ Copyright © 2008-2010 . she needs to know that you’re enjoying yourself. Communication – Being smooth and saying the right words will definitely trigger a woman’s arousal to climb. while others prefer the . others are ‘normal’ and get a little freaky but usually don’t like anything out of the norm. It’s important that you pay attention to how she perceives the experience and what you’re doing/saying to her. Every woman is different. it’s time to try something else. not to mention the intensity of the orgasm. Her mental perception of the experience will dramatically affect her arousal level and how close she is to orgasm.EjaculationTrainer. very different in many cases. Some are complete ‘freaks’ and prefer it hard and dirty (I’m not criticizing that). Really. romantic angle. This is why women climax easier with someone they’re in love with. Some women like dirty talk. orgasm and arousal are mental constructs. So it’s important she realizes you’re enjoying yourself and the pleasure she is providing you. in fact. A little communication will usually get them primed and aroused faster. If what you’re doing isn’t working.

EjaculationTrainer. This is a must if you want to keep her highly aroused and wanting you the whole time. When it comes to priming a woman for orgasm. much of what I just discussed regarding emotional connection. communication. Just ask and experiment. Just experiment with some trial and error and see what seems to get her going. it can take some time to familiarize yourself with a particular woman.who like it soft and slow. This isn’t something that’s mastered during a first encounter. I’d recommend treating them as a ‘normal’ personality. If you have a girlfriend or wife. If you’re with someone for the first time. Most importantly. there are other things you can do during the sex act that will also speed up her orgasm/arousal process. Those are just basic outlines of sexual personalities. it’s easy to figure out what she likes. women have extremely different preferences when it comes to sex. During sex Once you have a woman primed for orgasm through foreplay and other means. Copyright © 2008-2010 . and perception needs to be continued on during . I recommend spending at least 5-15 minutes priming a woman. it’s about understanding her personal preferences (what turns her on) and knowing how to trigger them.

Besides those ‘basics’, there are a few other things you can do. From my experience, there are two aspects/techniques to penetrative sex that will cause a woman to orgasm quicker. These are speed and consistency. Speed – Despite what women often say, or what you might think, most women like hard-fast thrusting. It doesn’t mean they’re dirty or freaky; it’s just how the human erogenous zones (e.g., clitoris, g-spot) react to sexual stimulation. The faster/harder these sensitive zones are stimulated (to a point), the faster they experience orgasmic contractions. This goes for men as well. Masturbating quickly will more than likely cause you to ejaculate sooner than if you were to go slow, right? Well, women are exactly the same. Since going faster also causes you to ejaculate faster, it’s something you should be learning to deal with via practicing (it will help your ejaculatory reflex build a tolerance). If you practice lasting via slow stimulation only, you probably won’t have what it takes to provide enough stimulation for a woman to reach orgasm. Note: Although most women prefer faster thrusting, it’s good to start out slow for the first few minutes so things can build up. Look at it like a steady incline: slow, medium, fast, super fast.

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I have also included a bonus book in the resources section that covers Kama Sutra lovemaking techniques and positions. If this doesn’t give her something new and exciting, I don’t know what will. Consistency – Another thing I’ve found to be very important when trying to make a woman climax early is to be as consistent as possible with your thrusting. If you’re constantly stopping, switching positions, or switching speeds, it’ll take longer. It’s important to find a rhythm that you can tell is causing her arousal to climb. If you stick with this rhythm, plus do what you can to improve it, she will be more likely to come quicker. Towards the climax, you increase speed and roughness, as most women like this. Again, every woman is different. You must use your senses and instincts to determine what is and isn’t causing her arousal to climb. Understanding female sexuality To learn everything there is to know regarding female sexuality and how to please a woman would take a completely separate book. However, it basically involves two things: acquiring knowledge and gaining experience. Knowledge – I included a bonus guide with your purchase that gives the basic outline of what it takes to satisfy a woman. This alone will put you on the right track to giving your lady an explosive experience. But, as I said, it would take a separate
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book to learn everything there is to know about female sexuality. To further your studies, I recommend the books (in order of usefulness) I Love Female Orgasm, and She Comes First. Both can be purchased cheaply on Amazon. Experience – Experience is experience. You have to get out there and get some action. Communicate with your partner(s) to get a better understanding of her body and what pleases her. A woman can be read like a book if you pay close attention. Pick her brain and pay attention to her reactions. Like anything else, practice makes perfect. Obtaining superior knowledge and experience in satisfying women will allow you to make them come so fast, that lasting will be far less of an issue. The goal is to have her hot and ready before you even begin penetration. By the time you begin making love, she should already be close to ecstasy.

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Overview I understand that I’ve covered a lot of information about many different aspects of premature ejaculation. Breathe through the mouth and take a slow deep breath if you feel nervous. or excited. Along with arousal . I’m going to lay out everything in 5 steps in order of importance. This is how the ejaculation process starts. Stay calm and breathe deeply at slow intervals. and will tie everything together to make my approach and techniques easier to understand. It will take time and effort. anxious. you’re just not letting it get out of hand too quickly. If you truly dedicate yourself to this information and follow this laid out plan.First and foremost. You’re not actually ‘controlling’ arousal. Keeping the body in this relaxed state for long periods of time mainly requires you to be in control of your arousal. but everything you need to know is here for the taking. This last chapter will review all that has been discussed.EjaculationTrainer. the body and mind need to be relaxed and in a parasympathetic mode. it’s where you must begin. Step 1 . Copyright © 2008-2010 . there is no reason why you shouldn’t overcome PE. make sure to regulate your breathing.

It doesn’t matter what you try to do. there’s nothing medically wrong with you…so why worry about it? Just be confident. And chances are. Stand like a man. don’t dwell on past or future sexual encounters. you won’t have much . In simple terms.You need to be confident! This step goes along with the first and is just as important. it’s all controlled from your head. If you’re confident and clear minded. Step 3 – Most men who experience PE have. You can use your head to relax your body just as easily as you can use it to allow yourself to get aroused quickly and ejaculate prematurely. If you’re not relaxed and confident in yourself. so there’s really nothing to worry about. that’s really all you need to do. bad masturbation habits. Step 2 . The easiest way to improve confidence is to just forget all worries and give it your all.EjaculationTrainer. If you consistently masturbate with the intention to reach Copyright © 2008-2010 . Just relax the body and clear the mind. or have had in the past. Another method that makes it easier to remain confident is to acknowledge the fact that PE is very rarely a lifelong issue to begin with. Having confidence is key to lasting long and being able to satisfy your lover.When it all comes down to it. To begin with. your body will stay more relaxed and you will be less likely to ejaculate. just take it as it is and try your best.

it needs to be toned down.EjaculationTrainer. You need to turn your focus of getting off quickly into one of prolonged calmness. You can re-wire your body with masturbation or sex. Copyright © 2008-2010 . In order to be successful with rewiring your ejaculatory reflex. with no intention of reaching orgasm. Right now.orgasms quickly. but after a while. as most of it plays a role in the re-wiring process. There’s less pressure and more time for practice and experimentation. you’ll wire your body to ejaculate early. So the third step is about re-wiring your body to last longer. Unlike using a technique or doing something you have direct control over. your ejaculatory reflex is probably hyperactive. you need to span out the length of time during sessions. The masturbation and sex techniques I mentioned earlier work to address this issue. re-wiring your ejaculatory reflex can’t be done overnight. You will naturally have to stop less often. your body will start to get used to it. Masturbation (preferably with a FleshLight Stamina Training Unit) is actually better for re-wiring your body than having sex – at least initially. Everything else I cover should also be practiced in your masturbation . This new routine of spanning out your sessions will be difficult at first.

keeping it relaxed (along with the rest of the body) will delay ejaculation. I am suggesting that you do all of these things. but you need to remain clear minded and relaxed or else you’ll just ejaculate early. After everything I’ve covered. It’s very important that you don’t allow this information to clutter your mind. You can even focus directly on relaxing . you should learn how to use the PM to hold it in or have multiple orgasms. Once you master this technique. This requires a strong PM and consistent practice. For example. don’t ‘try’ to relax your body and mind. you will be able to have sex virtually as long as you want.EjaculationTrainer. First.Step 4 – You need to be in control of the PM. Next. If you try too hard or think too much. So it’s important to remember PM relaxation. You obviously can’t try everything in one night. you probably have a lot going on in your head. This muscle basically has two functions in delaying ejaculation. especially when having sex. as this has the same calming effect as focusing on sensuality. Just stop thinking and let them relax themselves. Total ejaculation control can only be achieved if you understand how the PM works and you know how to use it. it starts to activate the ejaculation process. while only having to stop for a few seconds every now and then to have an orgasm. Once you start contracting this muscle. you’ll most likely Copyright © 2008-2010 . Step 5 – This is very important.

you need to take immediate action. it will prove to be well worth the effort. So… Now that you have the knowledge to end premature ejaculation. Put . If you have any questions or want my opinion on anything related to this book or premature ejaculation. In the end. Look forward with a confident attitude and forget all worries. It will take effort just like anything else. and avoid trying too hard. Tell yourself right now that you are going to dedicate your time and effort to ending premature ejaculation for good. You won’t go from your current situation to a porn star overnight. I’ll make sure to update the book. have a good time. This nuisance is not as hard as you think to overcome. If I develop or come across any new information. you just need to relax.put your body in a frantic sympathetic state that causes you to ejaculate. don’t hesitate to send me an e-mail. Thanks for choosing my book as your solution. Premature ejaculation is officially going to be a thing of the past. Copyright © 2008-2010 . You need to take this seriously and be consistent with your training.

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