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By Adult Film Star “Peter North” A Guide to Meeting and Dating Beautiful Women
Disclaimer The advice and techniques set forth in this book are based on the author’s own experiences and are only the author’s opinions. The studies and surveys are the author’s, and can vary from area to area. The efforts used to prepare this book were to the best of the author’s abilities, and there are no representations or warranties either implied or otherwise for any particular purpose, with respect to the accuracy or completeness of the contents of this book. The author shall in no event be liable for personal, commercial, or any other losses of profit, or any other losses of any kind, including but not limited to special incidental, consequential, or other damages. All names, brand names, product names, trademarks, or vendors mentioned in this book belong to their respective holders or owners, and are in no way affiliated with the author. Copyright Copyright © 1994 by DP-1-9-5-8. All rights reserved. No part of this book, including the cover design, either in full or in part, may be reproduced or transmitted in any form, by any means (electronic, transferring, photocopying, recording, or otherwise) without written permission of the author. Cover photo: Nick Burger, Santa Ana, CA.
.................................................................. 123 ................................... Health Tips ...................................... 7 2.............................. Why You’re Not Getting Results ................................................. 103 9............ 1 Introduction .................... 45 4..... Love Making Tips ................Table of Contents Preface.............................. 63 5.............................. Keeping in Shape or Not Keeping in Shape ................................................................... 115 11.... Peter North’s Tips ................................................................. Sense of Humor..................... Confidence .................................. Peter North’s Advice... Grooming Tips: Dress to Get Results .... 70 6.............................. Techniques ...... 95 8............................................................................................................................................... 86 7............. Places to Meet Women .................................................................................... 5 1............... 26 3......................... 112 10.........................
My friend. ugly loser and there still will be many women out there for you. my reputation as an experienced lover would never have gotten off the ground. For those of you that don’t know who I am. That is why I wrote this book. there’s a woman out there for you! You could be a fat. You might ask why I’m qualified to be an expert on this subject. I can be seen in your local video store. But without my acquired ability to meet women. You’ll find some of the adult videos I’ve made over the past several years. and how it feels to be intimate with these extraordinary women. Please allow me to introduce myself. My job as an actor has included sex with hundreds of beautiful women in many different countries. My name is Peter North. you could be a woman. Not 1 . For many years my fans have written to me wanting to know about the many differences and similarities of the incredible lovers I’ve had. First. Four come to mind immediately. there are many ways to begin to understand women.PREFACE No matter who you are or what you look like.
my prime motivation for everything and anything was to eventually lead me into some beautiful dame’s panties. Early in my developing manhood. as is my situation. an option! Lop off yer’ own parts. unusual circumstances. The key difference is my unusual circumstances When I started in the adult movie business. but not mine! Second. be born with great looks. This is the same motivation many of you may have at this very moment. this has never been documented. I had as much experience with women as most pinhead teenagers just out of school. I was destined to be a bonehead just like some people you might know. years of in-the-field research. Not happening here. laboratory testing. little did I know that my immature pinhead mentality would be replaced by a wealth of knowledge that could never be gained in such a short time outside of a scientific clinic! My roles called for me to have sex with beautiful women without the preliminaries! No more “perfect pick- 2 . in my case. a marvelous personality and the perfect aphrodisiac. To my knowledge. tons of cash.an easy task or. And finally. Third. I’m afraid.
who they like and why. This was an honest education. There is an understanding between friendly sexual partners—a relationship in the simplest terms. my original motivation was gone! This is where I met the true honest experts in the field. My philosophy of life is: We are all on this planet for a very short time. you can get them to tell you anything.up lines” or “moves” or “chatting up” as the British call it. Then we would do another scene… In the following pages. I would get to know the women that I just acted with! After having sex! And after you’ve had sex with some women. getting into their trousers. talk about what they like. After all. I was sliding into home plate without having to ‘round the bases!’ Between scenes. You learn to laugh and joke. what makes them happy. mad or sad. you share experiences. sometimes everything. so try to have the best possible attitude that you can and 3 . And sometimes you just wish they’d shut up! My expert teachers were women I already had sex with. We weren’t playing any head games or battling wits. while the crew would be changing sets and lights. I hope to provide some insight to my readers and to share the techniques and experiences that have made me what I am today.
there are plenty of beautiful women to go around for everybody. Learn from your mistakes and maintain a good sense of humor. So. Don’t take things too seriously and have a good time.enjoy life. 4 . just relax and kick back and let nature take its course. Remember.
and what I have seen work for others around me. opening lines. much more. I don’t claim to be a Casanova or Don Juan. and much. the reader. I try to base almost everything in this book on my own personal experiences. the right cologne to wear. but I have—in my own way—studied the way women behave. 5 . I have concluded my own theories and opinions on various subjects concerning women. I will cover various techniques including meeting places.INTRODUCTION The purpose of writing this book is to help you. with as little complication as possible. In this book. I know there are other books out there regarding this subject. I’ve tried to keep the reading easy to understand. but I think my methods are easier to understand and more practical. isn’t having sex the best thing life has to offer? While writing this book. meet more women and to get you on track to getting results! After all. body language.
Don’t try to act like someone you’re not. There are far too many men out there that are afraid to even confront beautiful women. They feel intimidated. I am going to share some of my own sexual techniques that can enhance your sex life with beautiful women. Try to keep in mind that only by the combination of your personality and my techniques will this system work. But to understand women. But. these people can change and get more out of their social life. 6 . I know that. you must be patient. much less get results. and I love to make love to women. I love women. later in this book. with a few positive suggestions and some intestinal fortitude. Also. I respect women.You should utilize your own personality while learning my techniques.
It takes some effort. If you want to put yourself in a better position socially or financially. Sitting around and waiting for women to come to you is not 7 .” You’ve heard this phrase before from a school teacher or maybe your parents. you’ll have to initiate a plan—a strategy—and put forth some effort. WHY YOU’RE NOT GETTING RESULTS Interesting question: Why aren’t you getting results? It’s just like anything in life that’s worthwhile. a will to choose how he or she plans to live their life. Ron Jeremy. My good friend. or if you simply want to get into some babe’s panties. used to tell me. Every human being on this planet has a will of their own.1. “you have to get out there and make things happen!” Always try to remember this: “You are in control of your own destiny—nobody but you. If you want the finer things in life—if you want to be successful—you must have a strong will and then push yourself in a “positive” forward direction.
how it works—unless. use. waiting for something to happen. etc. you are Arnold Schwarzenegger. Rejection is very devastating to some people. then you probably don’t like yourself. and millions of other capable and fine gentlemen.” so nobody even knows they exist. Why is it that you feel uneasy around women? Technically. back from getting big results. believe. etc. I observe people in nightclubs sitting or standing around. now would you? Let’s discuss some of the reasons that hold you. Somewhere in your past. you must have had an experience with rejection. The dictionary defines rejection as: to deny acceptance. to refuse to agree to. of course. if you feel inferior and don’t have any self confidence. if you were Arnold Schwarzenegger. Fear of rejection is probably one of the biggest reasons why men and women don’t get results. the reason is that the rejection you experienced earlier in life caused you to feel inferior. Time after time. They are so afraid of being rejected that they don’t even try. would you go on a date with yourself? If the answer is no. becoming camouflaged or “wallflowers. care. causing them to crawl into their shell and hibernate. you wouldn’t need this book. It just stands to reason that. you probably don’t believe in yourself. 8 . But. love. Ask yourself this. to someone.
The most important thing is what’s on the inside of a person. It plays a part. etc. there is hope. in the public eye. and nothing more. such as derive from real or imagined physical or social inadequacy and often manifested through overcompensation in excessive aggressiveness. Let me tell you this right now: This is complete and total ignorance! You possess the power within yourself to overcome these negative feelings. You may think that your outward physical appearance is the most important thing in getting women to like you. but it’s not the most important thing. may not be considered great looking.The dictionary definition of an inferiority complex is as follows: a neurotic condition resulting from various feelings of inferiority. a domineering attitude. Do you defeat yourself before you’ve given yourself a chance? Do you take it for granted that every woman thinks you’re funny looking. or that you talk strange. Though I 9 . Someone or something in your past has probably led you to believe that you can’t be a success. or that you have to be just like “they” are. or act weird? Even if these things are all true. don’t worry. or can’t accomplish great things. Let me give you a few examples of some well known people that. This is the area that needs to be worked on the most.
One night. She has not. he also suffered from a tragic childhood. spurred with a few shots of liquid courage (alcohol). and the millions of dollars he has made. Yet I can look at his accomplishments: the several successful albums he’s had. 10 . And…he loves what he does for a living. Dennis is ugly. Dennis realized his own style and humor. his beautiful young wife. much less a movie star. however. A favorite example of mine is a friend named Dennis. allowed her looks to affect her negatively in any way. If she continually dwelled on how unattractive she is. and she is still continuing to succeed. He also began dressing better and no longer feels he must drink to bolster his courage. the same line never worked exactly the same way. Another example is a very successful musician who is a perfect example of someone who has overcome the odds.won’t mention her name. she wouldn’t have become famous. Although. Not only is he short and partially bald. he approached a beautiful lady and boldly asked her if she would like to spend the evening with the “ugliest guy in the world!” He got lucky that night—or she got lucky. depending on how you look at the situation. She has made millions of dollars and has accomplished many amazing things. I can think of one successful comedienne /actress who is far from a beauty queen.
is no different from you and me. he might have given up after the first couple of hundred experiments. They all put their shoes on one foot at a time. a will. or that something has never been done before. electricity may never have become such a part of everyday life. Don’t listen to the negative people who tell you what you can and can’t do. If it wasn’t for his strong will and determination. They were all born with a brain. two eyes. If you look back at history. People who say these things are the type of people who are going nowhere with their lives. You can do it. The only difference is that they have made a conscious decision to succeed…and they have done so! I’m not saying that you have to compete with movie stars. If he had listened to his critics. or any successful person. and you can do it even better than you think you can! 11 . My point is that you must push rejection aside and not listen when people tell you that you’ll never succeed. you’ll find that Thomas Edison was rejected many times for his “stupid” theories and ideas. or that you can’t do something. and a mouth. He worked on close to five thousand experiments that failed before he finally discovered a way to harness electricity.A celebrity.
Yes. Let’s face it. I. have been rejected. Empty reasons are lies. But if you have hit on as many women as I have. or “If only I were built 12 . you’ve got to stop the excuses. So just remember not to let rejection get in the way of your fun. I’m sure you would have been rejected as well. etc. The “great” Peter North. Excuses are empty reasons. But if you play the odds. you increase your chances a thousand fold of getting results. So stop making excuses. Losers are the kind of people who might say things like. boys. Some like them thin. some like them stocky. If you want to have more beautiful women than you can handle. for that matter. Excuses are for the losers in this world.” or “If I were only two inches taller. Ugly Dennis says he practices “Success by Rejection!” He says that he doesn’t give up asking different babes to go out with him until he has gotten ten “No’s” in one day! Most guys sweat and give up after one! Dennis also says he has rarely made it to number ten before he succeeds. some like the macho type. and liars. gentlemen. too. when there is enough repetition. Like most lies. Some women like the clean-cut type. Rejection happens to everyone. you might start believing them. “If I only had more hair on my head. no matter who you are. different women have different tastes.
or not meeting enough women is obviously a problem or you wouldn’t have purchased my book. or problems. or how you’re built. Just quit the excuses get yourself a plan and… DO IT! AND DON’T STOP UNTIL YOU GET WHAT YOU REALLY WANT. fellows.) 13 . Getting started on the road to change is very important because without change you will not progress. Problems have to be diagnosed before you can solve them. The reason that you are not getting results.like Mr. This tells me that you have already made some effort to try to change the situation you’re in. Universe. you must first ask yourself the following questions: (Get out a pencil and a note pad and write down your answers as we go along. It doesn’t matter if you have hair or not. AND DON’T SETTLE FOR SECOND BEST… Let’s try to keep the focus of “why you’re not getting results” on a more positive track. In order to diagnose your problem. or even how tall you are. You’ve already made one good decision by obtaining this book.” This is all mental sewage.
Do I know what kind of woman I want? 2. we must diagnose the problems before we can solve them. Also. Do I want a serious relationship? * * * Let’s analyze each of your answers. Do I see myself as a shy person? 6. Remember. Would I like to improve my physical condition? 9. When answering these questions try to picture 14 . Do I handle rejection from women well? 4. note that some of my examples deal with the nightclub/single bar-type environment. How do women think I look physically? 8. You must be as honest as possible in answering these questions.1. Do I go into singles bars and just stand around without approaching any women? 5. Am I satisfied with myself physically? 7. Do women reject me right away? 3.
or just a few? What if she really excels in just one area of these descriptions? Describe your expectations of the woman that you want. If you don’t happen to frequent the nightclubs then just simply answer the questions for your particular situation. Write it out in your 15 .yourself in a singles club. Be specific about your tastes—both physically and mentally. You must be focused in on the exact desirable qualities that interest you. Do I know what kind of woman I want? This is a very important question to ask yourself because.” Is she intelligent? Is she dumb? Does she have a sense of humor? Is she rich? Is she poor? Is she independent? Is she just average? Is she tall? Short? Blonde? Brunette? Medium-sized breasts? Big breasts? Is she innocent looking? Or…very nasty looking? Does she have to fit all of your criteria. if you don’t have a vision of what your dream girl (or your dream centerfold) should look like. In this situation. I’m referring to the woman of your dreams and needs— not some “two” on your “scale of ten. most. The reason I have done this is that my readers and fans constantly relate their situations to the nightclub scene and I have found that it is a pretty predictable atmosphere. then you will significantly limit your chances of getting the woman you really want.
Understanding what you’re looking for will help us pinpoint a direction for finding a particular type of woman. right? Do women reject me right away? Ask yourself this. Remember—in a nightclub situation. Keep in mind that this is a list focused on her qualities.note pad and keep it for reference. when women reject you it might be for a multitude of reasons.’ do I just walk away. not a list of bargaining chips in case she finds your presumed flaws. If you’ve been rejected by women frequently. When you are in a nightclub or 16 . Can you keep a woman’s attention for any length of time after first approaching her? The purpose of looking at these things is to help you realize how women are rejecting you. Always try to radiate self confidence. or do I continue to talk to her?” When I approach someone. then you probably don’t like to think about it—but you must try to accept it as a problem. Also. “When I walk up to a woman in a nightclub. do I stutter and just walk away? If I ask her to dance and she says ‘no. it will guide us in determining the best places to find her. does she usually walk away? Think about this one. If you don’t know what type of woman you’re looking for. you’ll probably settle for just about anything. and be honest.
’ then you’re just like most people. maybe you are going to the wrong place to meet your kind of woman. 17 . If you are getting rejected before you can even get out your first sentence. “Don’t be afraid of being rejected. And.” We will study rejection in detail in our next chapter. on confidence. The “night scene” has different rules than when you are at a museum or an aerobics class. Nobody likes being rejected. Do I handle rejection from women well? Do you get frustrated to the point of just giving up. or do you keep trying? Do you crawl into a shell and forget the world? Do you get angry? If you do handle rejection well. The bottom line on rejection is. it’s like you’re on the playing field. women usually have the advantage. do you just laugh it off? If you’ve answered this last question ‘no. But it’s how you handle rejection that is important.bar.
If you answered the above question ‘yes. but the reason doesn’t matter if it is constantly hindering your chances to meet someone. then you’ll to need to brush up on some other areas to be covered in future chapters of this book. In general. Do I see myself as a shy person? Are you simply afraid to approach women? Do you cringe at the thought of meeting new women? They say that shyness is inherited. I am amazed when I go into clubs and see all the beautiful women sitting and waiting for men to approach them. First. These women want you to approach them—that’s why they are there! If the answer to this question is ‘no’. women like shy men because they perceive that the shy man is more honest—a more down-to-earth type of guy. They walk into singles bar after singles bar and just sit down and watch. When you approach a woman and 18 .’ then we need to adjust your attitude a bit.Do I go into singles bars and just stand around without approaching any women? This is a bad habit of many men. That may be true. let’s look at it realistically. They never utter a word to any woman.
After all. go up to her and introduce yourself. and nervous as hell. don’t worry about it. most women are flattered that you have built up enough courage to approach them. Find the most beautiful woman in the place. Are you overweight? Do you smell bad? Is your body out of tone? Is your hairstyle from another decade? Be honest with yourself. They love the fact that you find them attractive. stuttering. Take a chance! If you’re shy. Put your cards on the table. 19 . take a couple of deep breaths. That is why they spend so much money trying to make themselves look beautiful. You might offer to buy her a drink. always sitting around and waiting for women to approach them. this is what all women desire. Don’t act like most shy men. etc. When they are approached by a woman—any woman—they take the easy road and settle. They like as much attention as possible. complement her on the way she’s dressed. They wind up marrying her two months later. Am I satisfied with myself.you’re totally petrified. ask her to dance. physically? Look at yourself closely. This is a cop-out! You may have been able to do much better but were afraid to approach someone more desirable.
then once again. go out and ask some “beautiful” women what they think 20 . But if you are unsure. If you can’t do either of these things. Most people should be able to analyze their own situation. In the following chapters.If you are not satisfied with yourself in this area. Just look in the mirror and compare yourself physically to someone you envy. find a trusted roommate. physically? If you are not sure. you’ve made the first step by buying this book. A good friend usually can be relied on. What person would you most like to be like. Have them show a picture of you to several women and ask their opinion. or don’t think that you need improvement. physically speaking? Would I like to improve my physical condition? You are the person that needs to answer this question. I will guide you to putting yourself in the physical condition that you desire. Maybe you are too shy to approach them face to face. ask some women. Do women think I look good. You could have one of your friends help you out. friend or relative—someone you know will be honest. Tell them that you’re doing a college experiment and you want an honest answer on how people think you look.
’ you’re probably working out at the gym on a regular basis.” Laziness won’t get you the beautiful women that you deserve. Don’t be like the fat cat in the cartoon who says—while eating sardines: “Some day I’m gonna get me a mouse trap. then you must find a woman that meets all or most of the expectations of your dream girl. You 21 . If you have no handicap and are still not working out. Yes. perhaps you have a physical handicap. you will have to follow my plan. Do I want a serious relationship? Are you ready to settle down with one woman? Do you still feel the need to play the field and see what develops? If the answer is ‘yes’ to a serious relationship. that devastating disease that plagues millions of people. or later. the problem could only be laziness. right? If not.” If the answer to this question is ‘no. but NOW! If you want to meet any kind of decent women. I have only one comment on lazy people: Get off your sorry butt—NOW! Not tomorrow.would improve your physical appearance? Don’t take offense at some of the possible answers. You certainly wouldn’t want to spend all your valuable time with a woman who doesn’t measure up to your own standards. It’s supposed to be called “constructive criticism.
Some of the obvious reasons for not getting results are very simple. Most of us can cope with minor rejection like the bank turning you down for a loan or a business deal going sour. To one woman. we will go into the different ways that I can help you in this area. but to another. For now. Rejection is just a reality of everyday life. rejection is an everyday part of life. a bald man is unappealing. These are forms of rejection that you deal with on a regular basis. In that chapter. as I have said before. Unfortunately. Every one of us faces it. Confidence is the subject of our next chapter. Perhaps you lack confidence or you encourage rejection. You’ve got to understand that some women don’t want the Mr. All women see different men differently. The most important thing is how you handle it. She must be a good match for you. I’m making this point because most men take personal offense when a 22 . Macho. even the “great” Peter North has been rejected (but only once…or so). Some women want mice or wimps. let’s dwell a little bit more on this thing called rejection (that ugly word). Yes. a bald man turns her on. Universe type or Mr.need to make sure that you find a woman who does more for you than all the others. Being rejected by a woman is really no different.
Most men don’t understand that each woman has a different expectation of what her knight in shining armor will be like. go up to her and ask her to dance.’ just look at that as an opportunity to start a conversation. Men usually don’t care as much about these things as 23 . When she reacts favorably to a song.’ Rejection can work to your advantage. look at it from the woman’s perspective. Most men would be deterred from asking her.woman turns them down (or rejects him). She might also be worrying about sexually transmitted diseases. First. Chances are that she’ll say ‘yes. there’s always the chance of getting pregnant.’ She will feel somewhat obligated to dance with you because you sent her a drink. First. suppose you’re sitting in a night club scanning on a particular woman and you see that she is rejecting every guy that approaches her to dance. For instance. But. things that men aren’t fully aware of. timing is essential. in most of these situations. If she says ‘no. you send a drink over to her table and make sure that she acknowledges you. I have seen this work successfully many times. but don’t overdo it. Watch her reaction to the music. Most women want to “get lucky” just as badly as you do. Smile at her. For one thing. There will always be a woman out there who will say ‘yes. But they might be worrying about some of the possible consequences. So don’t take rejection from women so personally.
Two of my friends performed a survey for me in the clubs of New York and Los Angeles over the past year. Beautiful and worthwhile women are usually a bit more defensive when a guy tries to be sexually aggressive toward her. The survey asked women this question: What are the different reasons that women reject men in night clubs? The most popular reasons were: • • • Men act too phony. You should relax and take your time. gentlemen. Your chances of getting to know her will be much better with this kind of approach. Don’t smother a woman by trying to hump her in the middle of a conversation. 24 . Also. Women really hated it when: • Men looked or dressed sloppy. women were really turned off when: • Men come off too aggressive. This is one of the biggest mistakes men make. some women view us as animals and some of us are. Let’s face it. Men act like all they want is sex. Men view them as though they were a piece of meat.women do. Most women reject men in nightclubs because they come on too strong.
Procrastination Another reason that a lot of men don’t get any action is procrastination. The chances of a beautiful woman coming into your house to watch as you view television and to share your pizza are very small. Consider this book to be your advantage over the other womanless men. you will prevail with a woman that will satisfy you. You now have the greater advantage. Just remember this: There are at least a million men out there just like you who think the same thing. If you aren’t willing to get out there and try. The men without the Peter North Guide will get the women no one else wants. Now instead of three or four beautiful women to each man. If you follow my proven strategies. 25 . or end up with nothing. it’s ten or fifteen beautiful women to every smart man. your odds of meeting anyone will decrease substantially. Just remember this—they don’t have the Peter North Guide to help them. Sitting on your butt watching television and eating junk food will get you absolutely nowhere with anything or anybody. You may have a million reasons why you’re not getting results.
belief in one’s self confidence. The first person that has to like you is you! Confidence is the most important element when initially meeting women. Part of the confidence-building process is believing in yourself and feeling good about yourself. CONFIDENCE The definition of confidence in the dictionary is as follows: The strong belief in one’s own abilities. I am aware of what works and what doesn’t. assurance. The fact of being or feeling certain. reliance on one’s own powers. when you stutter while trying to start up a 26 .2. Women can almost sense immediately when a man lacks confidence. Though I’m not a psychologist. others will feel good about you. Confidence is something you have to build within yourself. others will believe in you. Confidence is not something you can buy. They notice when you can’t look them straight in the eye. Once you feel good about yourself. when it comes to women. Once you believe in yourself.
conversation. these are all obvious indicators that confidence is lacking. Remember. it is usually because they have literally made themselves believe in all of their personal flaws or faults. and other negatives. To women. everybody. at some time in his life. or when you act extremely nervous when you approach them. • Work on being a more positive person. There are several components involved in the confidence-building process. when they should be thinking of all the positive things about themselves. speech impediments. Refuse to think negatively. If every person on this planet looked closely enough at himself. When people do not think highly of themselves. 27 . Confidence building can be done in several different ways. Dwell on your good points. Constantly tell yourself how you are just as good as the smoothest Casanova. he could always find something wrong. They dwell on their bad physical appearance. and these are a few ways that have worked for me: • • • • Always reward yourself for the positive things that you do. You must have at least a little selfconfidence to be able to approach a woman with any chance of success. has felt doubtful or inadequate about himself. not on your bad ones.
even if it was something you did against your wishes (like a root canal!). unless you’re rich enough to pay someone to do it for you. you reward him with a bone.• Always look for a positive end result. I went to five different dealerships until I got the deal that I was looking for. Rewarding yourself is very important in the confidence building process For example. If you’ve set a goal and met it. This helps build self-esteem and makes you feel better about yourself. and reward yourself with something that fits the magnitude of the accomplishment. The important thing is that you realize your accomplishments. buy yourself a new Ferrari. I went out and bought myself a new Giorgio Armani double breasted suit. 28 . you should always reward yourself. You should always reward yourself. Or if you really feel that you deserve something big. if you order your dog to do a trick for you and he does it. There are several ways that you can do this: buy yourself a new tie or a pair of shoes. Here’s an example: I just purchased a new car. and to reward myself. Or. The same principle applies to you. if you’ve accomplished something that has made you feel good about yourself—reward yourself.
or on your blue eyes that women always compliment. When something goes wrong. Ask yourself what went right. some have bigger ones than others. not your bad ones Let’s face it: nobody’s perfect. you may have a bald head and are pathetically fat. We all have flaws.Dwell on your good points. anyone can find something wrong with all of us. The world doesn’t need another critic. If your teeth are extremely white. of course). Instead. Dwell on your great sense of humor. then smile more! Everyone has good points. but you should disregard those facts and instead start to think about your assets. Take the time right now to figure out what some of your good points are. There are enough negative people in the world. For example. If you think positive thoughts. compliment yourself. I am probably the only exception to this rule but I was just lucky (joking. 29 . but we all have them. Don’t criticize yourself. find yours and then capitalize on them. you will be more relaxed and increase your chances of meeting more beautiful women. look for something positive in it. As I’ve said before.
” What this really means is. They make me sick. Set your sights high and forget the “I can’t. Just do it… 30 . no matter how big or small. you won’t. and it can be.” YOU CAN. “I’m not worth it. more positive you. Identify your old negative habits and replace them with positive ones. Forget about the old you and start thinking about the new.Refuse to think negatively Anytime that a negative thought comes into your head. Don’t ever say. you really mean. Leave bad emotions behind because you don’t need any mental sewage. this may sound simple. simply do not allow it to affect you. “I can’t. When you find yourself making excuses and/or procrastinating. Personally. DAMN IT! When you say you can’t. What has happened in the past no longer matters.” You’ve got to be willing to change. keep pumping yourself full of positive things. I don’t even associate with people that project this type of attitude. if you follow these simple steps: Don’t waste your time looking back unless you can learn something from it.
instead of looking at the negative side of a situation. you still have the ability to walk. You have to first start off by reprogramming yourself to think differently. (This example is meant as a comparison only. You see a man in a wheelchair crossing the street. but. even worse. even when things aren’t going your way. This supposed stud may barely be able to speak his name. and maybe he’s the most dull and boring person on this earth or. look toward the positive. He might look good physically. you only see what’s on the outside. Nothing short of a miracle might make him able to walk again. Next time. Working on a positive inner you is essential This can be achieved by various techniques. Think of his situation and compare it to yours. look at yourself. or bald…so what? Should you see a muscle-bound stud walking with a beautiful woman. In looking at yourself you may see several inadequacies. or short. you are just as good as anyone else. Here’s one that works for me. if not better. let’s say that you are driving down a busy street and you stop at an intersection. For example. Now. even if he had all the money in the world. Possibly you are thin. he may not even be able to get a hard-on (imagine that!) The point that I’m trying to make is that you should never be little yourself. you may think he’s well-built. If you have two perfectly good legs. After all. It isn’t 31 .No man is better than another Definitely don’t forget this one.
it will make it easier to approach these women. ‘yes. they will get what they need from you. better yet. I’ve found that. you buy her a drink. twice a day. talk to her for a while. In fact. you can get what you need from women. who is happy that he’s even alive. Then you ask her for her phone number or. But. ask her to your place for a nightcap.intended to single out the handicapped. Most woman want sex just as much or more than you do. polling one hundred single women between the ages of eighteen and thirty-two. and…he’s getting laid more than people that are 100% healthy. the question was asked: “How often do you think of having sex—once a day. in a survey that was recently done.) IT’S ALL IN YOUR ATTITUDE! Always look for a positive end result Envision this: You are in a night club. You walk up to the most beautiful woman in the place and ask her to dance. or more than three times a day?” The results showed that seventy-two out of a hundred admitted that they wanted to have 32 . more importantly. confined to a wheelchair. She responds. When you envision such a scenario. if you just have a good attitude and some confidence. You will look surer of yourself and women like that.’ After the dance. I personally know a partially paralyzed man.
2 came back from a Hollywood night club and gave me her story. They planned to tie him up and take turns teasing him all night. I recently did a rather primitive survey of my own. I was most interested in the sexual content of the conversations. 1 was listening from a stall. 1 reported back to me that she had hung out in the restroom for approximately forty minutes and got the usual earful. I did find out some interesting information. One girl had just come back from the parking lot where she had apparently been serviced by the valet attendant. I sent six women into six different night clubs in the Los Angeles area.sex at least twice a day. 33 . She said that most of the topics were sexually-oriented. She also told her girlfriend that this episode in the parking lot got her hotter than a volcano and that she needed a man. They all had sex on their minds. She said. A woman’s sex drive is just as strong as a man’s. In this particular survey. “I was in the restroom for forty five minutes and the most interesting conversation I heard was about these three girls who had come to the bar together to find a guy to take home. Girl No. The findings were quite interesting! Girl No. The objective was to try to help raise the confidence level of my students. asking them to go into the ladies’ restroom and to report back to me what some of the conversations were about. Several girls came and went while Girl No.
she also 34 . She said she would take home the first man that approached her! I asked Girl No. (You never can tell by just looking at someone. she had heard enough for her report. 3 told me that. She reported that. Was she a filthy pig? She said that this girl was one of the better looking women in the club. 5 sat in the stall of a restroom in a posh West Los Angeles night club for one hour. she said she was not going to leave the bar until she found someone. in addition to listening to a couple get it on in the stall next to hers. 3 also said that. She began to tell me how one woman was so horny. The women stated that they were horny and didn’t come to this bar to make small talk—they wanted to get laid! Girl No. just by looking at this woman. 3 what this woman looked like. you would never think that she would be talking about this sort of thing.’ Girl No. after just fifteen minutes.” Girl No.They said they were all tired of commitments to men. 4 said that she had heard a few women complaining that the men were not aggressive enough. maybe an ‘eight.) Girl No. one a scale of one to ten. Several other women commented on how horny they were and that they needed some intimate attention.
This is also true in life. 6 came back from a popular night club and reported that she had witnessed two women talking about having sex in different places. if you have a chance. Goals are similar to road maps. of course. The first girl said.) Goal setting Goal setting is an important component in establishing selfconfidence. Girl No. it’s like taking a trip and driving cross country without a road map.heard one woman tell her friend that she had not had sex in over a week and that the men weren’t as aggressive as they should be. ins and outs and so on. you go through the ups and downs. Men and women are put on this planet to breed. 35 .” My objective in reporting the survey is to make this point: The women out there are very horny and more nasty and adventurous than most men would ever think. “Once I made love with two guys at once in an elevator that was stuck between floors. go into the ladies’ rest room and hear for yourself! (I’m joking. To get to your planned destination you must take various routes and travel through different terrain. So…get out there and do your part! Also. If you don’t have goals in life.
The King of All Body Builders. go to work. Try to focus in on what your dreams are. His dream was to be Mr. and do the same thing day after day. That’s why a majority of people never get anywhere in life. Their lives constantly revolve around waiting for things to happen—unrealistic things. These people are like transients in the streets. About 90% of the population has no such plan whatsoever. They wake up in the morning. never getting anywhere. If you want to find that beautiful woman you’ve been dreaming about. drugs and “garbage. They walk from dumpster to dumpster. Not only did he achieve that goal. These are the type of people who hope one day that they’ll win the lottery or inherit a fortune. he went on to be a famous movie star and a millionaire. they fail to plan ahead and have no goals or direction. you’ve got to have a dream if you’re going to make your dream become a reality. Most people don’t know the first thing about setting goals. Self-confidence is what it takes to help make your dreams come true. Look at Arnold Schwarzenegger. hopelessly wandering. you must have a plan to guide you there.Remember. These people usually wind up drowning themselves in alcohol. They live paycheck-to-paycheck.” On the other hand. He overcame the odds and stuck with his goals. 10% of people take the time and exercise the discipline to decide upon a destination. come home. They start on a course 36 . Uni-verse.
Realistically speaking.(devise a plan) that will make them successful in life. They would rather have someone else make their decisions for them. The goal-oriented person may take months to reach his objective. 37 . And even when they do think of it. we are turning on the success mode and we are triggering ourselves toward positive accomplishment. that the great majority of people don’t think of this. or write down our goal.” This means the ability to set a clear burning purpose and commit yourself to it unconditionally. or the courage to set goals and stick with them until they accomplish them. Every time we think about our goal. people just automatically fail and go nowhere with their lives. not leaders. However. the person without goals or direction may never succeed. of course. visualize our goal. In the absence of the success mode. When a person sets goals and puts them into effect. the will. talk about our goal. The failure mode goes off automatically. The devastating reality is. he usually accomplishes the things he sets out to do in a relatively short period of time. Each and every person on this planet has both a success mode and a failure mode. You must have an “intense ultimate purpose. The success mode is triggered by a goal. they lack the self-confidence. in today’s society most people are followers.
“Son. who died back in the sixties.” Set different types of goals.) The second thing that you have to do. This is all you have to do—determine what you want and then resolve to pay the price to get it. you must decide exactly what it is that you want to accomplish. (Most people never take that step of deciding exactly what it is they want in life.A self-made billionaire. Start with your long-term or lifetime goals. 38 . What do you stand for? What cause would I defend to the end? What would I want people to say about me after I’m dead and gone? After setting you lifetime goals. There are only two things that are required. I found that it’s not difficult to be successful. First of all. I’ve established hundreds of corporations in my life and made billions of dollars. is to determine the price you have to pay to accomplish exactly what it is that you want. made the following statement in an interview when asked: “What advice or recommendations would you give to people out there seeking a better way of life?” He said. for instance. Then you must resolve to pay that price and to make the sacrifices that are necessary to accomplish it. start setting your “immediate goals” or “priority goals.” Priority goals are goals that you set with a specific time limit on them—a one-year limit or a three-month limit.
That’s like eating the desert before the main course. then eventually they lose precisely by failing to plan. Most people spend more time planning a night on the town. They put off projects and put off making crucial decisions that could get them ahead. Projects or chores that allow you to realize the greatest progress toward you goals should receive the first priority. That gives them pleasurable and long-term results. making a list of the important things they’ll do the following day. Successful people are always thinking of goal achievement instead of aimless wandering to fill a time slot. reading a magazine or watching a football game than they do planning their own lives. The difference between the real winners and losers is their selfdirection. The key to success is focusing on goal achievement rather than running off to play somewhere.Most people waste the majority of their valuable time each day going through the same old “stick in the mud” routine. Successful people set their daily goals the evening before. Winners focus their attention on the achievement of their goals. 39 . Since they don’t have a plan. Losers focus their attention on the instant gratification they get from pleasurable activities. They have no long-range goals or results in mind. wasting their most valuable commodity—time.
Your goals should be specific. but not out of your sight.The value of making lists Start each day by making a To-Do List. make the list on a pad or piece of paper that is small enough to fit into your wallet or pocket so that you can have it with you everywhere you go. Then. Reaching your goals is not only rewarding and satisfying for you. Developing a habit of decisive goal setting is both self-satisfying and can be mentally and physically profitable. Make sure your list is on one sheet of paper rather than on several sheets. many times over. Write down all the things that you want to accomplish that day. Also. The 40 . list them in the order of importance. Like a robot on autopilot. but it will positively affect the women in your life as well. This practice should be as routine as taking a shower (assuming that you shower. because your brain operates like a laser-guided missile or a computer reading its disk drive. Any goals that are not completed that day should be carried over to the next day’s goal list. The small amount of time and effort that you invest in this practice will repay you many. what information you feed into your brain determines the direction in which you’ll be headed. Remember. your goals should be just out of reach. of course).
Don’t waste your time looking back at the past. In other words. it can be done. 41 . I would like to tell you about a person I know. don’t worry about the past or anything for that matter. You’ll begin to see a positive person in yourself.” Eliminate it from your vocabulary. the better the aim and focus. that’s history. Forget about all those missed opportunities.brain can’t program itself without your inputting specific information. you have to be very specific in your goal setting. everyone wants happiness. Don’t just say that you want to make more money. Five minutes ago is gone. Believe me. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. forget about it. Worry is a “negative. This person. whom we will refer to as “Fredrick. It won’t relate to general or indeterminate information. and so will the women Ultimately. So. The time is now. Goal setting will help make you a more self-confident person. The more specifically you define your goals. Get rid of the negative. write down all the things that you think would make you happy and continue to work at them until you achieve them. Be specific—set your goal for how much money you want and how long you’ll give yourself to earn it. So.” was quite shy and had a very low opinion of himself. Before we proceed to the next chapter.
However. Fredrick was not only striking out with women. you could tell he was on his last leg. Remember that. Just by looking at this guy. the most important thing you will have is the will to change. you will also realize that you have self-respect and dignity. others I’m still working on. you have shown that you have the will to change. (By purchasing this book. I began to analyze why I had had such success and I came up with this: You must first and foremost have “self-confidence. he was also striking out with life in general. it soon dawned on me that I was indeed successful with women. I see the goals that I’ve set for myself.Fredrick was someone who came to me seeking advice. when you have confidence in yourself. But. it will never happen. He asked me this: “What is your secret success with women?” I told him that I really hadn’t thought about it much. you might as well be a whimpering introvert. I made a commitment to myself that I was going to be successful no matter what I did in 42 . Nobody will do it for you. As I look back. You can build confidence in yourself by following the suggestions found in this chapter.) You must make a commitment to yourself that you want to “make something of yourself. Some I’ve accomplished. He was also partially responsible for motivating me to write this book.” If you don’t decide to do this.” If you don’t have that. I made this commitment to myself years and years ago.
I also have made a commitment to my fans. I told Fredrick that. If you want to be a rock star. The more you learn about what it is that you want to be good at. instead of making your backbone do all the work. Things start to become easier when you have knowledge working for you. then I suggest that you start taking music seriously and get yourself involved in some line of work that is related to the music industry. You may even have to work in the mail room at Warner Brothers Record Company. It just so happens that I work in the adult entertainment business. Find one that you really like and map yourself out a plan on how you’re going to get her. you’ve got to set goals for yourself and commit yourself to them.life. the bottom line is. Knowledge can also help create confidence. never to let them down. I consider myself lucky to have such a great job—but I’ve worked hard to put myself in this position and to give 100% with every performance. the better you get at it. It’s the same with meeting women. Points to remember • • Focus on exactly what it is you want. both long and short term. 43 . Set goals for yourself. Just remember this: always make your endeavor an exciting one. You must focus in on what it is you want in life and then plan how you’ll get there.
44 . Always be confident and positive.• Make the necessary sacrifices and commitments to achieve your goals. • • Always have high expectations of yourself.
be honest with yourself. You must first ask yourself: What caliber of woman do I want? Do I want a zit-ridden. look at yourself in a full length mirror and evaluate the way you look. Write down exactly what it is you want. Once you’ve analyzed your physical condition. If you are a filthy. then admit it. be specific. then be straight-forward with yourself. fat pig. fat pig? Do I want a toothless bitty hag? 45 . write down in a notebook what your deficiencies are. or what you need to work on physically to get yourself into self-satisfying condition. Most importantly. Do you want bigger arms? Maybe you’re satisfied with your arms but you want a bigger chest. That is defining what you’re going to do about it. Don’t generalize. Try to pinpoint the exact kind of physical condition that you would like to be in. After analyzing your physical condition. Be realistic and totally honest with yourself. View yourself very carefully. KEEPING IN SHAPE OR NOT KEEPING IN SHAPE First of all. If you look as skinny as a toothpick. you must continue to the next step.3.
If you enhance some of your physical features. She has long wild hair. Whatever the caliber of woman you choose. because these types of women are always available and don’t take any effort to get. Maybe you would like the girl-next-door type. This is especially true in our society. likes all types of women. you should gear up your physical appearance toward attracting her. it helps to have everything positive working for you. He may date several other kinds of women. right? For example. You must stand out from the “average” guy in most situations. but. but ultimately this is the type of woman that he wants. Although not all women are into physical appearance. or the college cheerleader type. Frank. totally 46 .Probably not. Next. He knows what turns him on. Let’s say that you’ve picked the aerobics queen—you know the type. he usually prefers intellectual blondes with a “plain-Jane” school teacher type look. this will strengthen your chances of meeting more and even better looking women. the Playboy centerfold type. beautiful face. my friend. you now know what type of woman you’re looking for. Always try to enhance your looks in any way that you can. What I’m trying to get at here is that you may need to make some improvements on yourself. slender build. You must have an image of your ideal woman (or dream girl).
As a result. but I made the commitment and I stay with it. or eating healthy. weight training. This is exactly what inspired me to start working out. I once had a thin. She can be yours if you realize that it can be done. If you want to have a chance at her. Keeping in shape is good for several reasons. weight lifting. Most of these women are very aware of being in shape. you had better start preparing yourself for a major commitment—and I mean a real serious commitment—to work and work hard. There are several different exercises that are effective. scrawny build myself. I didn’t know the first thing about women. You can achieve endurance by running. etc. They eat healthy and they like to associate with people that feel the same way they do. One reason is that you have much more endurance. I need my endurance so that I can work all day and night. I was twenty years old then. They care very much about the way that they look. You might have seen her working out at the gym that you just joined. martial arts. Endurance is built by working out. eating right and so on. doing aerobics. Believe it or not. But. I finally realized that. No matter what 47 . I’d better do something about it. if I wanted to meet and date beautiful women.gorgeous body. you will have to commit yourself to achieving the same or higher levels than she has physically. playing basketball. I have finally realized success in many parts of my life.
they put themselves in constant soreness for several days afterwards. The bottom line is. The biggest reason why most people don’t work out in the gym is that it’s hard work and sometimes painful. Another benefit of being in shape is that you live longer. You must have a certain amount of self-discipline to obtain any kind of success. Hard work will always pay off. and this applies to meeting fine women. there are no valid excuses. if you want a fine woman. but other than a physical handicap or medical reasons. I have found that most people who start weight lifting programs push too hard the first few days in the gym. When this happens. thus discouraging themselves from going any farther. if you really care about how you look. even if it’s just walking a couple of miles a day. If you don’t. Most important is the fact that you’ll feel better. you’ve got to work at it. or not eating right. the more it will show. You’ve got to discipline yourself now and keep pushing yourself to achieve your goals. the easiest thing to do is to go home and lie on the couch. 48 . etc. you have to do something. anything worthwhile takes effort. I’m sure there are several other reasons for not working out. you will always be making excuses for not making it to the gym to work out. The longer you work at it.you do. Remember. When your workday has ended and you’re tired.
vegetables. Eating right and taking the right vitamins is essential in the bodybuilding process. Always set goals for yourself—short term goals and long term goals. Don’t forget it. Ever. Eventually. And. Now. Remember. I’m going to share some of my techniques for what it takes to build your body into a “woman magnet. I can’t forget: WOMEN. of course. fish. everyone would be doing it. there wouldn’t be any fat slobs around.” is 100% right. red meat and.watch television. or sit around and do nothing. Whoever it was that said. “You are what you eat. you’ll look like trash. it’s not easy. not everyone gets to meet beautiful women. to go to the gym or to the basketball court. If it were. You should think about that if you eat trash. fruits. Sure. 49 . Goal setting applies to just about everything in life from weight training to setting up strategies for meeting a woman. protein shakes. Try asking a babe if she’d like to come over to hang out with a slob that sits around watching TV! This is when you have to tell yourself (as you grit your teeth). No thanks! My diet consists of a variety of carbohydrates.” Probably the most important thing to remember is: YOUR DIET.
peaches. you will be defeating the purpose. all types of beans (beans are an excellent source of the B-vitamins). cantaloupe. corn. and all other types of nuts. yams. avocados. blueberries. bananas (a very good source of potassium and other essential vitamins). you must be consistent with you diet. grapes. beets. egg plant. cucumbers. 50 . This is very essential. pickles. kiwis. sweet potatoes. oranges. apricots. healthy diet is to eat lots of fresh vegetables such as: potatoes. pineapples. onions. garlic. strong. lettuce (salads with very little salad dressing). raisins. cherries. strawberries. and any other vegetables that you can think of. peanuts. limes. carrots. grapefruits. and any other fruits that you can think of. Every day. celery. raspberries. spinach. mangos. in addition to your workout. green beans. watermelon. Try to include lots and lots of vegetables into your diet every day. coconuts. Always remember this: one is no good without the other. pears. tomatoes. squash. tangerines. I cannot stress enough the importance of consistency in your diet. cranberries. Just remember to eat as many fruits and vegetables each day as you can. Any and all fruits should be eaten. If you are not. such as: apples. lemons. plums.My recommendations for a good.
Meats are a very important source of protein. quail. 51 . rigatoni. Try to keep away from excessive amounts of ice cream. macaroni—eat lots of it. I highly recommend that you eat lots and lots of pasta because it is good for the brain. however. turkey.Try to stay away from the whites: sugar. duck. pheasant. I personally think that red meat is good if eaten in moderation. consult your doctor for a specialized diet for you to follow. I usually remove the skin of all poultry before eating. Eat lots of fish but try to stay away from the deep fried preparation. Poultry also has less cholesterol than beef when the skin is removed. It’s good for you. Ice cream is loaded with sugar and is also very high in cholesterol. When eating poultry. All types of poultry: chicken. ravioli. need some sugar on a daily basis. If you are a diabetic. Your body does. and goose are good protein sources. Spaghetti. But be aware of the amount you are consuming. keep in mind that the skin of the bird is mostly fat. salt and bleached flour. but recent studies have found that red meats may not have as many benefits as originally thought. Fish is probably the most beneficial addition to your diet. It is also good for energy (stamina).
then I suggest that you go to the grocery store and buy the Budget Gourmet vegetables or Stouffer’s meals. sometimes mixed with spinach. sprouts. Not only is it a great source of carbohydrates. Breakfast is very important for a multitude of reasons. but it’s loaded with vitamins. People have actually died from eating at fast food places. The reason to stay away from these types of places is because of the potential hazards of food poisoning. Use your imagination. try to stick with the chicken or fish (preferably skinless. most of the fast food places still use grease to fry their food. it’s breakfast. but stay away from frying and creamy artificial sauces. Always read the ingredients to make sure that there are no preservatives or MSG (monosodium glutamate. a flavor enhancer). Also. If there’s one important meal that should never be missed.Rice is probably my all-time favorite food. and green beans or potatoes. grilled or broiled).) These meals are microwaveable. fast. easy and nutritious. Try to stay away from the fast food places. I usually have rice prepared in a variety of different ways. The first reason is that it’s the first meal of the day and because 52 . and high fat content. low nutritional value. (I suggest the tuna noodle casserole. If you find that you just don’t have the time to prepare these dishes or you are constantly in a hurry. If you have no other alternatives.
which you’ll need for the fruits and vegetables you’ll continue to eat throughout the day. try to stay with the gel capsules. Always take your vitamin supplements after you eat. 53 . Protein powders are a good source of energy. take whatever vitamins you’ve chosen. In choosing vitamins. you need all the energy you can get.your body is empty (unless you eat in your sleep). The Joe Weider products are pretty good if you want to build mass or gain weight. Your B vitamins. especially B-12. when I wake up in the morning. Remember. don’t miss it and try to eat as nutritionally as possible. because everyone’s nutritional needs are different. They are easier to digest in your system. Vitamins are an essential part of your diet and. even before I eat breakfast. I usually drink a protein shake mixed with fruit. I recommend that you ask a licensed nutritionist or your doctor for a recommendation as to what vitamin combinations to use. you won’t get any benefits from taking vitamins if you don’t eat. Breakfast is also the meal that you should try never to compromise on. As for me. are good for energy. Try to use them in the liquid form or gel caps if possible. Another reason is that the first meal of the day expands your stomach muscles. So. Again. Even missing one day can screw up your whole schedule. When you finish your breakfast. try to stay away from all types of fats.
You should drink shakes at least twice a day. Recipe No. Here are some of my favorite recipes for protein shakes. low fat milk or spring water. Ask a nutritionist or your health food store clerk which combination will work best. 1 2 bananas 1/2 pineapple 1 papaya Combine fruit with orange flavored protein drink mix and blend thoroughly.There are different mixtures for each objective. All protein shakes can be mixed with many types of natural juices. Recipe No. 2 Low fat milk 2 bananas 4 egg whites 4 tablespoons of wheat germ 54 . There are several other protein powders on the market which also come in different flavors.
You may add any of your own ingredients to help compliment these mixtures. Recipe No. Recipe No. 3 1 cup fresh squeezed orange juice 1 cup fresh squeezed grapefruit juice 3 egg whites 2–3 scoops fruit flavored protein powder Combine juices with flavored protein drink mix.Combine with chocolate flavored protein drink mix and blend thoroughly. 4 2 cups yogurt (0% fat) 1 cup low fat milk 2 tablespoons wheat germ 2 tablespoons honey 1 tablespoon Vitamin C crystals Combine ingredients with flavored protein drink mix. Blend thoroughly. Just try to make sure that all the ingredients are 55 . Blend thoroughly.
Personally. I drink in moderation. A few drinks now and then never hurt anybody. When selecting fluids. Alcohol is not recommended. 56 . which need to be replaced immediately. but try not to consume too much tap water. Welch’s has a 100% natural. When I do drink alcohol. Always drink plenty of water.natural. or Gatorade. Everyone’s sleeping requirements are different. Try to always remember to bring a full water bottle with you when you are working out. Tap water in my area (Los Angeles) is questionable at best. It’s also very important to get plenty of sleep. It is very important to maintain a proper diet when working out. I try to get seven to eight hours per night (or day). You’ll need this because you lose essential bodily fluids when sweating. I have included the diet I use. When drinking beer. Perrier. stay away from the syrup and sugar based drinks. I try to stay with the light beers. I prefer mountain spring water. no sugar added. frozen grape juice that makes a great mixture. Water consumption is very important especially when working out at the gym.
Diet for Body Builders Eat four to five meals a day on the days that you are working out. On your days off, eat at least three meals. In the morning, drink freshly squeezed juices, egg whites and fresh fruits with either oatmeal or some type of high grain cereal with whole grain toast. Blueberry pancakes are also recommended. At lunch time, eat rice cooked with egg whites, chicken (mostly white meat), or fish. Try to keep the red meat consumption to a minimum (once or twice a month). Bulk up on the salads. (Load them up with plenty of vegetables.) In between meals, you should eat lots of bananas, slices of white or whole wheat bread and drink spring water. I eat russet potatoes. I clean them and put them in the microwave. I refrigerate them until they’re cold and eat them throughout the day. For dinner, try baked fish or chicken, with plenty of potatoes and corn. If you eat deserts, eat nonfat yogurt. BE AWARE OF THE FAT CONTENT OF WHAT YOU ARE EATING. Currently, I am using Rexall vitamin products. I have tried several different vitamin supplements and have found Rexall to have very
effective products. If you would like to inquire about these products, feel free to call (800) 266 6245 ext. 5330 for information. Before you work out, you should ingest some protein, either in ready mixed form or mix your own from the various protein powders. One of the pre-mixed protein drinks is made by American Body Building Products. Some of their products include Amino Force and Blue Thunder. These are essential for feeding your muscles. After working out, sometimes I eat a 6-1/8 oz. can of StarKist tuna fish directly from the can. This is a great source of protein (over thirty-five grams). Remember that your body can only digest approximately 30 grams of protein at one sitting. * * *
Now that we’ve covered diet and sleep, let’s go on to weight training. Weight training is a great way to build and tone your body. Most worthwhile women like a toned body on a man, as opposed to a flabby body. You need to keep two things in mind when you select an appropriate gym. First, the gym should have competent instructors
and a competent nutritionist. You want to have these people set up a program for you, both physically and nutritionally. This comes standard with some of the bigger gyms, but even smaller ones will usually work out some type of rounded program for you. The second thing you need to accomplish when selecting a gym is to find an incentive to work out: you guessed it—women. There must be plenty of beautiful women present to help keep your motivation level up. Also, coed gyms usually have aerobics classes, which are almost always about 90% female. My weight training program consists of a mixture of different routines. I try to mix up my routine about every other month. Sometimes I will work on my legs and do lower body and stomach muscle exercises, etc. The following day, I will work on my upper body, chest, biceps, etc. I might run five or six miles on the third day, then take a day-off. Before each and every workout, you must never forget to first stretch out your muscles. Usually, your health instructor can advise you on several different stretching techniques. If not, consult a martial arts studio.
try using dumbbells. when it starts to really hurt. Fatigue is when you get tired of working out. back off. no gain.You’ve probably heard the saying: “No pain. always try to remember to use different exercises in working the same muscle groups. When you are working out at the gym. Instead of always using weights set up on a barbell for bench pressing. When you are weight training. the less sore you’ll get. you should immediately back off and start to work on different muscle groups. pushups. on your next chest workout use pushups and dips. Don’t take the risk of injuring yourself. But remember. The longer you work out. the incline press and the decline press. Pain is when you’re actually injuring yourself. When working on the chest muscles. Have the gym instructor set you up on a program using these bench exercises and a serious chest workout.” This is the biggest bunch of garbage ever. if you start feeling any type of real pain. and do more repetitions. pull ups. In other words. 60 . Other chest exercises include: using the fly machine or the peck pump machine. instead of using the bench press every day. dips. Fatigue and pain are two different things. there are a few standard exercises: the flat bench press. Some soreness usually occurs approximately two to three days after your workouts (when initially starting a weight lifting program).
61 . 6. Chances are you may see a difference. Set short and long term goals for yourself.Your lower body and leg exercises can be accomplished on all the different leg presses. Is it “The Hulk” or “?” So. Don’t get frustrated because one day you’ll be working out. squats. but different people will notice results sooner than others. Select a gym and join it. 5. 3. Set a goal for yourself regarding the shape and condition you want to be in. Consult with a nutritionist or your doctor to plan your diet. etc. and you won’t even recognize yourself. vitamins. Eat plenty of fruits and vegetables. you’ll look in the mirror. Don’t think that even a month of hard-core weight training is going to make a difference. So don’t try to take the bull by the balls your first time out. 4. Then start working toward it. so be patient. Injuries caused by weight lifting often take long periods of time to heal. Everyone’s strength levels are different. 7. Commit yourself to the plan 100%. etc. here’s another set of goals for you: 1. You must remember this: you won’t have a perfect body in a day. Stay away from junk food. including the necessary supplements. 2. Take your time.
The fitness trainer at your gym can help you design a specific chart for what you need to work on. you’ll have to work for it. You should also put together progress charts to keep track of what muscle groups to work on. 62 . nothing that’s worthwhile in this life comes easy. This is an order! If you want any kind of a decent woman.Do not veer away from your plan. Remember.
A sense of humor is an essential part of your personality. ignorant scum on this plant with some of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen in my life. That is because without it.4. but without a sense of humor. Some people use their sense of humor to make up for being short or being bald and…it works! I personally know two different people that used their sense of humor to compensate for their physical appearance. you would be serious all the time—and seriousness leads to boredom. SENSE OF HUMOR A sense of humor is one of the most important elements of your personality when it comes to getting women to like you. I have seen some of the ugliest. you would eventually bore every woman to tears and they would take all of your money and leave. He was handicapped in the looks 63 . You could be the wealthiest person alive. One of the key elements those men possess is a good sense of humor. The first individual was a very “up type” person who always had a joke to tell and was very likable.
this homeboy has been with some gorgeous dames (some of whom I personally know). He always had a “peg leg” joke ready. he removed his wooden leg and passed it around the bar. 64 . The women found this man to be quite fascinating and his encounters with women were notorious. “Mr. I mean a real fat pig.’ He was. Pig was meeting all these babes. Mr. though. Pig is getting laid all the time! I could not figure out how Mr. The second person I’m talking about is seriously overweight. one of the funniest human beings on this planet. In my opinion. Believe me. it’s almost more important to have a sense of humor than any other one trait. That is because it relieves all the stress and tension that everyone has. Women seemed to overlook the fact that he’s a blimp. he turned his handicap into an asset. Pig” (as we will refer to him) was in fact a virtual ‘hippopotamus. Even studies done by individuals in the medical field have proven that laughter can be healthy. people gather around and listen because it’s just human nature to want to laugh. On a few occasions. When he starts telling his jokes. Unlike most people who dwell on the negatives. He never took his handicap or his physical appearance seriously.department because he was slightly bald and was missing a leg.
Get ideas from the masters. Another suggestion is to take her to a movie (comedy). amusing or ludicrous. a mood. Movies such as Arthur. the quality that makes something seem funny. Eddie Murphy or Sammy Kinison tapes. The dictionary defines humor as: A person’s disposition. or any of your favorite comedies are easy ways to get one-liners. Hollywood Knights. but what if you don’t have one or if yours is rather dull? One very basic suggestion is that you go to your local book store and purchase a joke book or listen to some old Richard Prior. the ability to 65 .Women feel far less threatened when a man has a sense of humor. Naked Gun. state of mind. subtly quote a couple humorous lines from the movie. They always find that the real situations are the funniest to their audiences. They say that some people are born with a sense of humor. and then on the drive home. temperament. Trading Places. There’s nothing better to ease the tension than a good joke or a humorous comment. The real things that happen to us in everyday life seem to be the most humorous. Fast Times at Ridgemont High. Most successful comedians use real everyday situations in their comedy routines. Humor is really just an extension of reality. Most women find this both humorous and witty.
amusing. even if you’re not good at it. Doing imitations can be a good way to break the ice with some women. There are books and tapes on the subject of doing imitations. Instead of laughing out loud or making a crude remark. appreciate or express what is funny. Find yours and start working on it. Most decent women (especially when you’re first getting to know them) will be turned off by this. Some men would laugh out loud or make a remark of some sort.” Maybe they’ll be able to help you. you could do the old “Jack Nicholson” impression. do so without being openly critical or rude toward others. don’t make an offensive comment that could be heard by others. Women would view this as mean or rude. because it will seem funny to most women. sweat hog of a woman walking in front of you. For instance. you possess a sense of humor. For instance. When finding humor and making jokes.perceive. just wait until the fat woman is out of listening range and ask your date if 66 . Go to your local library and ask your librarian for reference books on “Humor. if you’re walking out of a movie theater with your date and you see a big. fat. or ludicrous. Everyone has a sense of humor. It’s just that some people have to dig deeper than others to find it. The most important thing to keep in mind is to let the woman know that deep down inside you.
better than that old cliché. remember to try to keep her entertained. If there’s a gap in the conversation. though it may sound corny. you can find out what type of sense of humor she has without being offensive or embarrassing her. “Why?” You say. But. or do I have to walk by again?” If you choose to use a cliché.” She’ll probably chuckle a little bit at this cliché. wit. Another semi-serious one-liner to use when first having a conversation with a woman: “The next time you see your parents. “Because they have created one beautiful daughter. You can always try some humorous one-liners.” Another cliché is: “Do you believe in love at first sight. try this: “You look familiar. and it’s a good 67 . try to be creative—add your own style. add: “Yeah.she’s ever seen anyone take up that much space? That way.” She will ask. flair and humor. When you first approach a woman. thank them for me. you can use a good line that’s been around for a long time: “Haven’t I seen you somewhere before?” But. tell a joke. Sometimes this can break the ice from the start. And make it funny. women love this type of thing—compliments with humor.” This is best used when parting and. maybe it’s because I saw you ten minutes age when I first walked in here. When you first meet a woman that you are interested in. Say this: “I heard a joke this afternoon. Try to keep the mood relaxed and easygoing (non-threatening).
sarcasm takes timing and understanding. it could come off as offensive. He knows a lot of famous people and has plenty of good stories. is a master at keeping people entertained.one. For instance. You would do yourself a favor by saving those for when you get to know her better. However. probably one of the all-time great television series. Ron Jeremy. If the time isn’t right. Some women don’t care about who you know or what you have.” You can then proceed to tell a tasteful joke. When I go out on dates. Some of these things weren’t too colorful and might not have made me look good. Women. My good friend. love that kind of stuff. but they always want someone with a sense of humor and someone that likes to have fun. they helped relieve the tension and make the women feel more comfortable and relaxed. and even he misses a few times. Telling them these types of things will almost definitely get good laughs. one of the things that I do to make women laugh is to tell them about some of the stupid or funny things that have happened to me in the past. This also lets the women know that you’re not so hung up on yourself that you can’t admit to having done stupid things. Sarcasm or sarcastic humor is effective if it’s not overdone. Don’t tell a crude one at this point. especially. Some suggestions for where to find “comfortable” sarcasm is on MASH. Alan Alda masterfully delivers his perfectly timed comments. 68 .
there’s nothing like a good laugh to break the ice. Airplane #1 and Airplane #2. And…give her some room to share some humor. 69 . If she wants you to respond to her. but I find that too much can be annoying. Mel Brooks has had most of his success with making movies dealing in sarcasm. Personally. I like small amounts of sarcasm. too! There is a time for you to shut up and listen to her. If she wants to share something. So I suggest that you use your own discretion and make sure your timing is right. Some women like it and others don’t.Also another good source of sarcastic humor is the Airplane movies. Remember. think about what she’s saying. you’re on your way.
then chances are you are probably a slob at home and in your office. Chances are that the condition of your car is also filthy. But good looks and good grooming techniques are a direct reflection of how you operate the rest of your life.5. It is true that looks aren’t everything. If you look and dress like a filthy slob.) Beautiful women won’t give you a second look if you “look like a dribbling slob!” There is a simple solution to this problem: DON’T LOOK LIKE A DRIBBLING SLOB. Most of the “very fine” women (if this is 70 . “Don’t be a dribbling slob!” It’s not that damn hard to look halfway presentable. In this chapter. It’s not that difficult to look decent. I will cover some of the basic things that women look at when contact is first made. GROOMING TIPS: DRESS TO GET RESULTS For your own sake. Women are very aware of this. (This is undoubtedly the most impressionable time. Always remember this: First impressions are the most important.
but it has proven to be effective. just as they care about how they look. be honest and analyze yourself from head to toe. By all means. “Is this the hair of a stud or the hair of a cue ball?” (Don’t get me wrong. In the first column.) Now it’s time to make another list. If you suffer from acne. in analyzing yourself. I know many women that like bald men.” Why? Because they want to impress men! Look at yourself in the mirror. put the good things about yourself. In the second column. What is it that you see? A hopeless geek? A baldheaded eyesore? Again. Ask yourself questions like. Be constructive. be honest with yourself. Women spend billions of dollars every year getting “beautified. write it down. Start with your hair and work your way down. put the not-so-good things (or things you think you might need some work). not destructive. Your reason for doing this is to determine what your weak points are. This may sound unnecessary. 71 .what you want) will be looking for someone that cares about the way he looks. Our objective with this issue is to highlight some of your good features and eliminate or disguise your bad ones.
are you satisfied with the way your hair is? Is the style current? Does your haircut fit your image? One simple suggestion to someone not satisfied with their hair is to look around at other men. Playboy. you might look through magazines such as GQ. When all of your components are analyzed.” I mean that each part of you is a component. Ask them what kinds of hairstyles they like on a man or that they would like on you. you’re stinking rich). Notice what types of hair styles they are wearing. Get many opinions. Look at some of the men that are always around beautiful women. Also. Your hair is an important part of the package.Getting back to your hair. or any other magazine that shows the current hairstyles. When I refer to “the package. Ask several people. and TV shows that deal with man/woman relationships. you’re not going to wear a hairstyle that a sixty year old man might have (unless. Another good way to find out what some alternative hair styles are is to talk to women. the 72 . soap operas. both men and women. Watch current TV shows like LA Law. what they think about the way you wear your hair. if you’re trying to pick up a twenty-three year old woman. Try to stay with your age group or the age group of the women you would like to be dating. The age group is important because. of course. assembled and fine tuned.
If you are Caucasian. First of all. Keep your individuality. Don’t select a different hair style that you might not be comfortable with just because someone else thinks it will improve your look. then some of these tips may not apply to you (especially the tanning). The next component is your face.package will be complete and the new and improved “you” will be ready. You may think that there’s nothing that you can do about this part of your anatomy. Get a style that you’ll be satisfied with and that makes you comfortable. Either comb it in a different way or leave it the way it is. In a recent study I conducted. 73 . let’s look at your color. but there is. Find a hair style that you will be satisfied with. Use the tips that apply to you. Just be conscious about your “look” and be aware of neatness. I asked hundreds of woman: What is the first part of a man’s anatomy they look at? The most popular answer was the butt. The second most popular answer was the face. are you fair skinned? Are you average or medium? Is your skin dry? Oily? If you are Latin or African American.
and minor imperfections on your face. Many men and women in the movie business use this product. change your sheets and pillow cases every other day. Erase is used to help hide zits. if you do need to use makeup. One of the types of makeup that I’m referring to is a makeup stick called “Erase” by Max Factor. You probably won’t need to use this unless your skin is really oily. I don’t mean eye shadows or lip liners and such. don’t overdo it. When I refer to makeup. allowing you to clear up these problems. To help reduce blemishes. cold sores and greasy hair. If the right type of makeup is used. This makeup comes in a lipstick-type applicator. and several others. it can work in your favor. There are also types of makeup that can help hide shiny or oily skin. This will help you to stay clean and cut down on re-infecting yourself. natural tan. Consult your physician for further suggestions. prevent problems from oily skin. It comes in a variety of different shades: natural. This makeup is called solid powder blush and is applied with a brush. no one will ever know you have it on. I recommend that. if you blend it in to your natural skin color without using too much. Erase can be purchased at most places that sell makeup. Usually. 74 . Make sure you choose the correct skin tone so that it blends in with your pigmentation.Makeup is not just for women. scars. It’s true. This technique is also widely used in the movie and television business.
When dry skin is a problem. I suggested he talk to her about the dark circles under his eyes. try some types of the products on the market that can temporarily control your wrinkles. a sinus condition. She will be happy to help you. He couldn’t believe all the attention he got when we stopped in front of the counter. Check with your doctor about this. dark circles under your eyes can indicate one of many things: heredity.If you need more information on various makeups. Your cosmetologist can help you find what you need. 75 . For wrinkled skin. when used over a period of time. She immediately had a few makeup samples for him to try. she and a friend were going to join us for cocktails after they got off work. or more commonly. sometimes lack of sleep. use a moisturizer. Now every once in a while. Lubriderm and many others can be used. Before he knew it. he’ll ask if I feel like checking out the cosmetics department whenever we pass a mall! Just for your information. A friend of mine was with me when we passed by a cosmetic counter in a fashionable department store. Vaseline Intensive Care. This might be a useful anecdote to help expand your comfort zone. where a “fine looking lady clerk” stood. Moisturizing lotions can give the face a healthier look. consult your local department store’s cosmetologist.
approximately 40 out of 70 women preferred men without glasses. The others liked various designer and tinted types. I also asked: If a man was forced to wear glasses. and you are bald. look at comedian. get the darker or polarized lenses. He’s got a slender build and. (Some of these women wore glasses and some did not. In all three cities polled. So. It seemed that women who liked men in glasses were the intellectual or business-oriented women. However. 76 .Our next subject is whether or not to wear eyeglasses. in my opinion. For example. I recently conducted a survey in which I asked 70 women in Los Angeles. he’s not particularly great looking to most people’s standards. After all. I can almost predict right now that women are probably not beating down your door.) I came up with some interesting reactions. If neither of these options are available to you (and you positively must wear glasses). Richard Belzer. My initial suggestion is to get rid of the glasses and get contact lenses or corrective surgery. you wear glasses. his dark lens glasses actually compliment his face. He’s obviously doing something right. he’s married to one of the most beautiful women on the planet. what style would be the most desirable? Approximately 45 out of 70 thought that the rounded type looked best. you’re thin. 70 women in New York and 70 women in Detroit what their views were on men that wear glasses.
These women ranged in age from 21 to 36 years. She polled a total of 200 women in New York and Los Angeles. Ray Ban and Gucci. I’m talking about the new image that you want to project for yourself. if you positively must wear glasses. let’s talk about facial hair: beards. I suggest that. After all. such as those by Armani. 66 of them preferred men without facial hair. glasses seem to have become more acceptable to a majority of women I know. make sure they fit the image that you want. have included some new and unique styles. Designer frames. I sent a girlfriend of mine to survey the situation. While we are still focusing on the face. Don’t be afraid to spend the extra money for the designer frames.My personal observation is that if you are built with a big frame or are the muscular type. Sooner or later they will pay for themselves. She found that women who did like facial hair liked the sideburns or mustache. we are talking about your face. 77 . In Los Angeles. Check the current men’s fashion magazines. The basic question was: Do women like or dislike facial hair on men? Out of the 100 women surveyed in New York. 70 out of 100 preferred men without any facial hair. mustaches and sideburns. Most of the women polled were disgusted by beards of any kind. Prada.
I just want to reinforce the details that most worthwhile and beautiful women look for in men. women either love them or hate them. such as filing your teeth or extractions. and don’t forget to floss. What if you don’t have straight teeth or your teeth are discolored? If you have crooked teeth and cannot afford braces. Women really like a man with good. straight. Your teeth are very important. the “Grizzly Adams look. They look good on certain people. never forget to brush. For instance. clean teeth. Rule Number One: NEVER forget to brush your teeth. carry a spare toothbrush in your car. (Ask your dentist about “invisible” braces. Sideburns seem to have made a comeback in the nineties. beards and mustaches could be more acceptable. I don’t like any type of facial hair on me. when it comes to mustaches. it’s important to be aware of your own style and individuality. but it’s not my style. you might ask your dentist for other options. braces can usually correct the problem.NOTE: Depending on the part of the country that you live in. If you must. But. Remember.” I’ve found that.” not brushing their teeth ranks near the top of their list. more women may like men with facial hair than not.) 78 . some women like the rugged type. Most of you already know these things. Remember. Out of all the comments from women regarding “disgusting things about men. Personally. in Alaska. If you have no other alternative.
Most women get very disgusted when they see hair (or other things) hanging from a man’s nose. Most 79 . This procedure can also be done by your dentist.If your teeth are discolored. I have seen some very impressive bonding jobs—so good that. Finishing up on the face. it is said to make your teeth brittle. The third option is to have your teeth capped. you have three options. Women are always turned on by a man who has a healthy tan. a white porcelain material is affixed to the teeth. So. A tan seems to make a person look healthy and exotic. Your other option is having your teeth bonded or veneered. This is usually a very expensive procedure. The disadvantage of using this procedure is that it doesn’t offer a permanent solution to the problem because eventually it will wear off. I wouldn’t have known it. The first is to have your teeth bleached. if people hadn’t told me they had this procedure done. covering the old surface. Also. A dentist can perform this procedure for you or you can purchase a product that can be used at home. don’t let this happen to you. Bleaching will make your teeth a lot whiter and brighter. In tooth bonding (or veneering). don’t forget to trim your nose hairs occasionally. I personally think tanning is a compliment to your body’s definition. Consult your dentist for other possible options. Make sure that you have a good dentist who is very familiar with this procedure. because teeth are very important.
dermatologists do not recommend tanning—especially if you’re fair skinned. My dermatologist looks at it this way: if you are going to expose yourself to the sun, then use caution and care. He suggests that you should use sun screen and keep your skin moist. When I don’t have time to lie outside in the sun, I sometimes use a tanning salon. Tanning salons are an alternative to the beach or the pool. I also use tanning accelerators. (An accelerator is a solution that is applied to your skin before tanning.) Using an accelerator can hasten the time it takes you to acquire a deep, dark tan— sometimes to as little as a week. I have also met several beautiful women in tanning salons, not only the women that work at them, but their clients as well. Many women such as actresses, body-builders, strippers and dancers use tanning salons for their line of work (where looking good is their business). Another option for tanning, as a last resort, is a cream called “QT.” This is a substance that is applied to the skin and will immediately give you the illusion of having a tan. I really don’t recommend this technique. However, if you find that the sun damages your skin too much, and you still want a tan, then this is an option for you. Other products like sunless tanning lotions are also available.
One other technique is to use tanning pills. These pills are usually found at your local health food store and contain the vitamin, beta carotene. This vitamin, if taken consistently, causes your skin to tint into sort of an orange/brown color, thus simulating a tan. After shaving, showering, blow drying your hair, or applying the appropriate mousses and/or gels to your hair, you are now ready to select the cologne for the evening. Women and cologne manufacturers are very aware of the fact that smelling good is very sexy. Women love a sexy smelling man. I’ve had women tell me that they have had orgasms over the way I smell. (These particular women may have been a little hornier than the average woman, but what the hell.) Listen, gentlemen, the way you smell to a woman can mean the difference between getting lucky or not. So by all means, choose the right cologne. There are several cheap colognes out on the market. For your sake, try to stay away from the cheap karate crap or bargain musk. Most worthwhile women are insulted by this garbage. And, quite frankly, I’ve smelled better paint thinners. Use the good stuff: Paco Rabanne, Fahrenheit for Men, Perry Ellis, Halston, New West. And, if you don’t like any of those scents, there are plenty more available at the fine department stores everywhere. Also, do what I do—always approach the finest women you see and ask: “What’s your favorite cologne on a
man?” Other references on cologne can be found in Playboy and GQ magazine. The most important thing is that you smell good. I use several different types of cologne and I create some of my own mixtures by combining two or three together. One tip: don’t overdo it! Just because you bought a bottle, doesn’t mean that you must wear the whole damn thing at one time. In the past, some women have almost asphyxiated me by drenching themselves with perfume. (If you come across a woman doing this, she may have good reasons to do this. Believe me, you don’t want to know why.) Next comes how you dress. This may make the difference in whether or not the woman will even notice you. You definitely want her to notice you, right? Well, homeboy, this is where the boys are separated from the men. If it’s a fine woman that you’re after, you had better be ready for her—I mean dressed to kill! I mean deadlier than a hit man! The way you dress should be taken very seriously. Dress appropriately for the occasion. If you were to attend a wedding, then you probably wouldn’t wear blue jeans, would you? Or, if you were going to the tractor pull contest, you probably wouldn’t wear a tuxedo. My suggestion is this: Take the time and spend an entire day looking in clothing stores and talking to the experts. If your city has a fashion district like Los Angeles, you would start off on
especially. Remember. For instance. you will reflect those feelings to others by being uptight.” At least not until you’re in his shoes. Ultimately. you may want to go to the Salvation Army for the popular “grunge look.Melrose Avenue. go to your local malls or major department stores. it’s you who will be wearing these clothes. Furley character on the TV show. If you don’t have a fashion district. Ask their opinion on how certain clothes look on you. If you don’t feel good about the way you look. Should you live in a rural area. “Three’s Company. try the various men’s catalogs. so make sure that you’re comfortable with whatever you purchase. Don’t try to look like someone you’re not. don’t try to act like the Mr. etc. They know what they like their men to wear. are always up on the latest fashions and they know what the fashion-minded men are wearing. How you dress yourself can be a signal to women for how aggressive you might be in bed. What you want to do is to try to establish an image for yourself. if you went out to a nightclub dressed up like a businessman in your boring. 83 . See what looks the best on you. Go into these stores and try things on.” You don’t have to buy anything at this point. So feel comfortable and secure with the way that you dress yourself. just find clothes that blend in with your own personality and image. Get some feedback from other people in the store. If you live in Seattle. Women.
I wore this tie that had a picture of buildings on it (like a cityscape). On the other hand. When wearing ties on a date. When selecting a tie for a night on the town. night clubs. This helps give the impression that you’re more relaxed. or when you’re out scouting for babes. I have used this technique before. In this survey. Our conclusion was that the majority of women felt that they preferred men who dressed casual and neat. We went to shopping malls. two of my friends and I went out in the Los Angeles area. It started out as kind of a joke one night. women would perceive you as being a bit more adventurous. if you went into that same club dressed in a pair of loose-fitting jeans. we probably surveyed about five hundred women (and got two hundred and fifty phone numbers). Some of the women said they 84 . It was like a magnet. Altogether. I couldn’t believe how many women came up to me that night. What look turns women on? Good question. Women felt that they just had to come up to me and ask me where I got it or comment on it. most women probably wouldn’t get too excited. pick one that might be a bit different from the others— maybe one that’s a little on the outrageous side (one that could spark up a conversation). and in the downtown district. not sloppy. What better way to find out than to ask several beautiful women. try to wear it loosely fitted.conservative suit. a sport coat and a T-shirt.
jeans or casual pants. gents: The women seem to want the more casually dressed men with your basic sport coat or leather jacket. One negative note: a lot of the women said they didn’t like a man with gold chains hanging off him or men that wear too much jewelry. 85 . Bottom line.liked men with baggy fitting jeans and other types of casual pants. Most of the women agreed that leather jackets on men were very sexy. Stay with the relaxed look and combine your own style and I’m sure it will work for you. T-shirt or collar type shirt.
6. Others want someone that looks like James Woods. or perhaps a man that is very confident with himself. My point is. Most of the women out there ultimately want a man who gives them a sense of security. Some want the intellectual type. PETER NORTH’S TIPS All women are different. Some women are more specific than others. just because a woman doesn’t respond to you when you send her a drink or give her a smile or drop that clever line. it might be that you’re simply not what she’s looking for. just go on to the next one. but women usually have an image of the type of man they are looking for. that it would have worked out differently. or 86 . they might want a father figure. So when this happens. or a man that takes control. Don’t always assume that. You could be the biggest stud on the planet. Stop wasting your time dwelling on what you think might be wrong with you. but if you don’t fit the image she’s looking for. When some women look for a man. What I’m saying is that there is someone for everyone. This security could come in the form of meeting a man with a lot of money. then you lose. if you had only approached her differently or did this or that.
A majority of the women really seemed to dislike this type of man. 87 . bad breath. Most women can sense these things almost immediately when they initially meet a man. were obviously at the top of the list. Let’s talk a little about the “Turn Offs”. This tells the women that these men are very insecure with themselves. • Men who are sloppy dressers also rank high on the turn off list. These are things that clearly turn women off to certain men. Women I’ve surveyed have told me about the things that turn them off the most about men. or who is constantly complaining about spending his money. This also breeds insecurity as well as signaling a bad upbringing. un brushed teeth. • Of course. • One of the most popular answers was: when a man talks about himself too much. and talk down to people. • Men who talk negatively about others. • Another major turn off is a man who is a cheapskate. and body odor.has a great sense of humor. complain about things.
use your manners and a little common sense. Plus. Most women are very impressed by a man who cares enough to remember what she’s said.• Women told me that one of the biggest turn offs of all time is a man who belches and/or farts. (This shows your woman that you are not only a total pig. 88 . The only other tip I can give here is. Try to fill up your mind with her thoughts as she speaks. you can start to gear up some of your impending strategies for deciding where to take her or how you can surprise her with something that she had no idea you remembered. but that you have no class whatsoever. if you care at all about the woman you’re with. Always be a good listener Listening to a woman can be very much to your advantage. • Last but not least. Most women really do appreciate this and it will likely pay off when you finally end up in her bedroom. most decent women can’t stand men who use profane language.) • Another turn off is when a man compares his previous relationships to the woman that he has just met. either in public or private captivity. Find out what she likes and dislikes.
look at it this way: You were attracted to her for some reason. you must determine a couple of things: (A) How much do you care about this woman? Is this the type of woman that many not have required much effort to get her to go out with you? Do you predict any future possibilities with you and this woman? Or maybe you’re just looking for a one-night stand. then you might just take her out to an average bar for a drink.Where do you take your woman for a first date? Good question. For instance. then you probably should take a little bit more time with her before jumping her bones. if you’re going for the cream of the crop (or an above-average woman). try to figure out what it was and put some type of value on it. most every man probably wishes that it was this easy all the time. if all you think that you want is a quick. how the hell am I supposed to be able to determine how much I’m going to like her. 89 . First of all. But. one-night stand. then back to your place (or her place). There are several possibilities for this situation. Of course. Just determine what exactly your objective is with her. if I barely even know her? Well. Some of you are probably saying to yourself.
00 per person. then you’re probably not going to spend a fortune. If there isn’t one in your town. 90 . What does she like to do on dates? Women usually like to have a chance to talk and get a feel for what your personality is like. if you’re looking at a one-night stand. Usually there is also a two drink minimum per person. then find out where the closest one is. but I’ve found that this is the average.00 to $12. The cost is not much. Most towns of at least intermediate size have a comedy club. let’s look at some of the possibilities. First. If you think she is the materialistic type and wants the best of everything. Each area is different. Just relax. and you don’t have a lot of cash to spend. You can ease the “first date tension” by taking her to the right place. try to find out a few of her interests. Some men and women get so tied up in worrying about whether or not someone will like them that it can sometimes ruin the entire date. be prepared if you want to meet her expectations.(B) How much money do I have to spend? Here again. Let’s say the woman you selected is someone you would like to continue to see (at least at this point). Don’t panic. After you’ve determined these two things. typically about $8.
You could also take her horseback riding through the mountains or the plains or the “swamp. you may be pleasantly surprised to find that she owns a pair. If there isn’t one in your town.Taking her to a comedy club will tell you a lot about her sense of humor. where the edge or tension is somewhat relieved when you are on that first date. Another place to take a woman for a first date is an amusement park. Not only does the atmosphere of a comedy club tell you about her sense of humor. This will tell you a great deal about her personality. setting for the both of you to get to know each other. By amusement park. These are usually found in or near most towns. find out where the closest one is. The local roller skating or ice skating rink is always a possibility. This is definitely one of my top choices for where to take a woman on the first date. This is another kind of environment that will take the off the pressure of first date jitters. but it’s a very relaxed. Maybe she finds that the sarcastic jokes are funnier than the others. Take 91 . or else a “fun park” that has water or snow slides.” depending on where you live. I mean a place that has a roller coaster and other rides. It’s cheap and fun if you’re into this type of thing. Notice which jokes she laughs at. With the popularity of the new in-line skates. easygoing. even if you have to drive a long distance. This is another nonthreatening atmosphere.
along a bottle of wine or champagne and surprise her while out riding. The second most popular answer was a man’s eyes. And the third was a man’s build and overall appearance. keep this in mind. (Don’t EVER buy the cheap sparkling wine or champagne) Just try to remember this: The atmosphere that you put yourself in on a first date could very well determine how far you’ll get with that woman in the future. This one has worked for me on several occasions. So when working out at the gym. The most common answer was the man’s butt. No matter where you go. have fun. The more you know. And remember these three things: relax. remember: Work those gluteus muscles! 92 . what things attract women to men? One hundred women were asked the question: “What is the first thing that attracts you in a man’s looks?” The answers were quite interesting. Trivia Physically speaking. the better your advantage is over other men. just as general information. and be yourself. Take her to a fun place or a place that doesn’t make her feel obligated or threatened in any way. This may be useful for you to know.
give her a little hug and tell her that it’s good to see her. Women like that. women have more sensitive feelings than men do. The fist time you approach her. 93 . One of my strategies for this type of situation would be to take it slow. you’re making your “secret veal recipe. Just about every time you go in there. even though you may not be a great cook. Another tip that I can’t stress enough is: Don’t ever talk about your past relationships (or your ex-wife) on the first date or early in a new relationship. Usually. Tell her to bring the Tasters Choice. ask her if she’d like to join you for dinner. to get your fruit and vegetables. you might ask what vegetables to use to compliment a certain dish. when greeting her at anytime.Here’s another tip when “honing in” on a woman. For example. you might ask her to recommend a certain spice to use for your spaghetti or chili. Try to be sincere about this. twice a week. you see the same beautiful blonde shopping. Tell her you’d love to make it for her. Let’s say that you go to the same grocery store just about the same time. Try to be considerate of her feelings. Then the second time you run into her. This will surely bring things to a halt before they even get started. The third time you see her. or what wine would go with a certain dish.” Or you might tell her that the spices she recommended turned out to be perfect when you blended them with your existing recipe. so try to keep this in mind as much as possible.
Keep the unusual things for later. Wait until the timing is right. Hold on loosely Once you have gotten the woman you want. Remember. For example. give her the space that she needs. keeping things positive. you only “go around” once on this crazy planet. or a glass eye. If you really do like this woman and plan to keep her. too. Try to be aware of her reactions when you are talking to her. Again.” and by all means.Keep your conversations in an upbeat mode. 94 . or after you’ve really gotten to know her. Relax and have a good time. Try to stay away from subjects like abortion and politics on the first few dates. if you’ve got a wooden leg. Make her feel that nothing else matters to you but her. the most valuable tip I can give is this: JUST BE YOURSELF. you probably wouldn’t tell her on the first date. you must “hold on loosely. and personally I do. so live life to its fullest. Almost all women hate that possessiveness BS. This allows you to determine some of her likes and dislikes. you must never be too possessive of her.
Judo Acting or Drama Yoga 95 . then you’re probably not going to find her by looking on skid row or picking through a dumpster. As a matter of fact. The direction that I have taken in recent years is to join different types of classes.7. if you want a woman that keeps in shape. If you’re looking for a wealthy and sophisticated woman. Karate. You can take classes in such things as: • • • • Aerobics Self Defense. PLACES TO MEET WOMEN Get to know your environment. it really isn’t one of my top suggestions at all. In other words. The night clubs aren’t always the best places to meet women. You probably have some type of mental picture of what type of woman you’re looking for. then go to the gym to find her. Try to categorize her in the sense that would put her in similar places or situations that you might find yourself in.
work the weights one day and work on aerobics the next.• • • • • Massage Dance Photography Art or Sculpture Ceramics I’ve found that joining these cultural types of classes can be both educational and fun. or hockey. others may cost money. soccer. Regardless. Aerobics classes are also a great way to keep yourself toned as an alternative to some of the weight training exercises. You can usually find these kinds of classes at your local community college or at private schools. Or perhaps you’re not cut out for intense physical wear. bowling. it’s well worth your while. (Mix it up. Volunteer yourself to coach some type of team (something you have experience in) such as football.) Maybe taking classes isn’t your style. The private schools are usually more expensive. Then join some type of team: softball. Some of these classes are free. Remember: Try to stick with the classes where the women outnumber the men. Some of the physically-oriented classes may be offered by your own gym or health club. The aerobic classes are a prime example of a place where women outnumber the men. And they’re a great way to meet women. baseball. etc. There are always sports groupies 96 . basketball.
Two days during the week. Also remember that there are lots of single moms out there. Just make sure that the one you join has lots of women. That was all it took—getting out the word that he was single. in some situations. They had one child from the marriage. He had recently divorced his wife. Some of the other examples of possibilities to meet women are: Coed gyms This goes without saying. He explained that they had recently finalized the divorce and that they were sharing custody of the child. The other days the mother would pick up the child. 97 . you have to put out the word that you are.that hang around these kinds of sports. the father would drop off and pick up the child at the day care facility. My friend didn’t even realize what happened until he went out with two or three of the single moms. He told me that some of these women would even ask the girls at the day care if they could drop some hints to ask them out on dates. Once the word gets out that you’re single. What better place to find a woman who cares about her looks? Most gyms today are coed. A couple months went by and some of the women at the day care center would ask him about the arrangements that he and his ex-wife had. look out! An example of this “single mom thing” happened to a friend of mine. very single. no matter how young or how old the players are. You see. in fact.
Then. 98 . This type of conversation will definitely help break the ice. Museums are very popular with the ladies. Grocery stores are an example of a “non-threatening” atmosphere. especially women that are looking for the upper class type man. Be tactful in your approach. maybe come back the next day and ask her for a date. a man who appreciates the historical and educational things in life. Museums This is also a great place to meet women. Women in grocery stores don’t usually expect to be hit on. Keep your conversations oriented toward cooking and ask her advice on certain recipes. Grocery stores This is where I do most of my shopping for food and women.The perfume counter at major department stores Have you really looked at some of the women who work in the cosmetics department of some of these stores? A majority of the ones I’ve seen are positively beautiful. It’s part of their job—to look beautiful. Simply approach them when they don’t seem to be busy and say something like this: “It’s my sister’s birthday and I was wondering if you might have any suggestions for a gift?” Then compliment her on how nice she smells or tell her how much you like her earrings.
Seminars Attend special interest seminars that involve more women than men. the mall is always very heavily populated with women of all shapes and sizes. This is an excellent place to meet all sorts of women.Tanning salons You can always meet beautiful women at tanning salons. Simply approach the woman that you’d like to meet and tell her that she looks like she has the same taste in clothing as your sister. Tell her that you are looking to buy a dress for your sister’s birthday. Check your local newspaper for a seminar that might fit this category. Major department stores Women frequent the department stores a lot more often than men do. Simply ask a pretty woman for directions to a particular store. Ask her if she could help you pick 99 . Great success stories can be told here. In fact. Be creative with your approach. You can also ask her for advice on what would be a good gift for your sister. The malls A virtual cavalcade of women. Some of the women who use these places are models or dancers. get a part-time job there. if you’ve got the time and energy and are the adventurous type.
For instance. He did this even though he didn’t need a job. Golf lessons If you like golf. go to the local golf courses and ask the instructors there what the ratio is of men to women. Not only did he meet women at the Bartenders School. 100 . He thought it would be a great way to meet women. tell her you like the color combinations that the painter uses or that you like the artist’s style. He enrolled himself in a Bartenders School for training as a bartender. I have a friend that has tried this technique before and he’s actually gotten women to try dresses on for him. Enrolling in a bartenders school Another great idea on where to meet lots of women was passed on by a good friend of mine. he ended up getting a part time job at one of the local bars and now he introduces me to women. Art galleries I have met several women in art galleries. who’s not the most attractive looking man in the world. Simply glance over at the painting that she’s admiring and make a few comments on it.something out. especially during the weekdays. The majority of the time you will find there are far more women taking lessons than men.
these services aren’t free…and they’re not cheap. 101 . you should talk briefly and set up a rendezvous in a public place. However. Unfortunately. Why a public place? Because you can get a visual on her physical appearance before you commit yourself to a “face-to-face. When she returns you call. Sometimes these services have a large selection of women. But.” (Some people can be deceiving when describing themselves over the phone or with touched up photos.Companion columns Newspapers and local magazines have “900” numbers set up for people to place or respond to ads. All you do is dial the phone number and the listing’s extension. however. to get you out of a rut and back into the swing of things. without wasting too much time if you see that she’s not suitable for you.) This way you can escape. If you do decide to go this route. Last but not least. it’s usually free. make sure to check the lists of dateable women. To respond to a listing is even easier. to retrieve your responses. you may have to call a “900” number. especially for men. If you place the ad. then this could be an option for you. they may all be quite a bit older than you’re looking for. if you need something to get you going. leave a message and pay your phone bill. if necessary. dating services Dating services aren’t for everyone.
Then you will find beautiful women everywhere. So figure out your strategy.The main thing to keep in mind is that you just need to get out there. Then. you make the first move. 102 .
it may never happen. TECHNIQUES First of all. the conversation might start out with which type of potatoes should you use with this T-bone steak. I suggest that you make the first move. you must initiate the conversation. So. I will use this example: If it’s a woman who likes to keep herself in shape. you need a plan or a strategy before you can determine which direction you’d like to be headed. then you’ll probably have the best chances and selection at a health club. Then summarize the type of woman you want. What you say will sometimes depend on where you are. grocery store. If you are in the grocery store (we’ve talked a little about that).8. Get out your list of things that you are looking for in a woman. department store. Once you’ve made your determination of what type of woman you’re looking for. If you wait for her to say something first. put yourself in the appropriate atmosphere: health club. Next. etc. Again. or what kind of seasonings will work best for this chicken? 103 .
Openers at the health club may go something like this: Ask her: “How did you get your thigh muscles toned so well…in aerobics? I’ve been thinking about taking an aerobics class. Which one do you think I should start with?” This will definitely get her talking. Remember this when you can’t think of anything to say: Just start asking simple questions. These could be about anything, such as the weather, the time of day, where she bought something, what she does for jock itch (just kidding), etc. Most questions require some type of answer. Obviously this is one of the best ways to get her talking. Another way to initiate a conversation is to simply say, “Hi, how’s your day going?” Give her a compliment on how nice her clothes are, or that you like her shoes, etc. Using the cliché My theory on clichés is that most women still respond to them (if tactfully delivered, of course). Remember the old cliché: Haven’t I seen you somewhere before? Instead, you might say: “Didn’t I marry you somewhere before?” Women like it when men are creative and humorous. I have a friend that uses clichés and is constantly having success meeting women. The only thing he does differently is that he substitutes some of the words from the standard phrase with his own. Instead of, “We could make
beautiful music together,” he would say, “We could make beautiful pasta together.” Believe it or not, he picked up a very beautiful woman with that very line. (I was there.) When using a cliché, spice it up with your own imagination. Don’t be boring I’ve sat and watched some of the most “glamorous” people in Hollywood carry on the most dull, boring and pathetic lives that I’ve ever witnessed. Some of them are so caught up in talking about themselves that they don’t know the first thing about having fun. These are people who drive Ferraris, have millions of dollars, and act as if they are the talk of the town. Unfortunately, having all the money in the world won’t do you any good if you’re a dull, boring putz. They never seem to live life happily (or to its fullest). To most of the women I know, boring people, no matter how rich they are, are a turn off. Personally, these people bore the hell out of me. Eventually, everyone gets tired of boring people (except other boring people, of course). I’ve found that taking a woman to lunch is a somewhat innocent, non-threatening way of gradually working your way up to spending more time with her. Conversation pieces Wearing conversation pieces (jewelry, etc.), can be a magnet for women to notice you. Occasionally, I’ll wear a pin on the lapel of
my sport coat, one of several different kinds, such as a diamond studded star, a gold and onyx bolt of lightning, a silver and diamond machine gun. Of course, you don’t have to go out and spend a fortune on the real thing. The point is, give her a reason to come to you. If she sees this diamond glaring in her eye across the room, then this could be just the added edge that you need to meet her. Conversation pieces can also come in the form of a tie, a pair of lizard boots, or a hat. Or, it could be a different category such as a car or a boat. Subtle persistence This is one of my favorite techniques. By subtle persistence, I mean that, if you are in a singles bar and women are walking by you, act like you’re not paying attention to them. Obviously your basic instinct is to look at a beautiful woman. Well, this is perfectly natural. But, that’s just what most women expect you to do. You shouldn’t conform to what everyone else is doing. Pretending not to pay attention to her is one technique that has worked for my friends and me. Women seem to like this subtle approach. So don’t come off like a vulture. Set yourself apart from the other dribbling slobs. Just kick back and let her eyeball you. If she’s interested in you, then I’m sure that sometime during the evening
When most women go out to the clubs. So be subtle and relaxed when approaching these beauties. Personally. The second move would then be to go over and say hello and give her a compliment of some sort. smile at her and ask to buy her a drink. want to escape from the realities of life and get away from the daily pressures. They. she might be a little more responsive toward me and she’ll probably get the hint that I’m interested in her. Other types of signal can come in the form of using body language. When she does. The next time I see her. and give her a brief wink and smile. I might make some casual eye contact. Throwing out signals is very important Probably the most simple signal to use is your smile (Or in Bruce Willis’ case—the smirk). like anybody else. An obvious gesture is to wink at her.she will try to cross paths with you. The smile can be very effective when used at the right time. but the only time that I might use the wink is when I’ve seen the woman before and I know that I’ll probably see her again (possibly at the grocery store). When she returns the smile. 107 . you’ve made the initial move. I highly recommend this approach if you think that this may be your dream girl. So when either of us is leaving. their idea of having fun is dancing and partying with their girlfriends.
(Rolling up your shirt sleeves is supposed to imply that you’re ready for some action. My success rate with this one is about 50%. Compliment her I don’t care who she is or where she comes from.” Use your imagination. approach a woman and ask her for a date.Some other obvious body language signals may come in the form of licking your lips. Play the odds.” “You smell good enough to eat. “That’s a nice dress. When you’re out driving… This happens to me almost every day: I’m out driving in my car. but try to be as honest as possible. and there she is. another beautiful woman. one way is to motion for her to roll down her window. Don’t be discouraged if you get turned down a few times. this technique always seems to work. 108 . or at least try to let her know that you exist. blowing her a kiss.” “Your hair looks great tonight.) Playing the odds Try this: Each day. This is especially true if the compliment that you give her sounds sincere. thank her and ask her if she’d like to join you there for a drink. I glance over to the car next to me. babe. No matter who you are. ask her for a direction to a bar that you know is close by. Then. all women love compliments. Next. How does one approach such a situation. like a rooster that ruffles his feathers. Well. or rolling up you shirt sleeves.
No.’ For example. then find out where and when the next equestrian event is. or take a chance. certainly looked different when they stepped out. When you are stuck in traffic. When you finally do find your woman. Check your local newspaper or call the art galleries in your area for information. Just a word of caution on picking up women that are driving in cars. just use a phrase that she can answer with either ‘yes’ or ‘no. but if you want to take advantage of every opportunity. He bought one of those devices that is similar to a flip chart with a couple of suction cups that go on the car window. She may be interested in horses. For instance. the women that looked excellent while seated in the car. Just look as closely as you can. either on the freeway or at a traffic light. If so. “I’m headed to happy hour. why don’t you join me?” This technique may not be for everybody. This thing spells out certain phrases and allows you to display them from the car window. if she’s interested in art.Here is another technique that has worked well for a friend of mine. That pretty little innocent face was supported by a cross between a gorilla and a giant bowling pin. and a remote switch. I’m not talking about wearing a dress or going to a baby shower. On a couple of different occasions. keep an eye open for art exhibits. Women 109 . take an interest in some of the things she finds interesting. give it a try.
Give her the space she needs Try not to interfere with any of her usual everyday activities. than just take her to the beach for a walk. Try to respect her space. One night you can take her to the movies. Encourage her to do things on her own or with her friends. or a drive to the mountains. Sometimes just a flower or a box of her favorite candy will do.really appreciate this kind of consideration. Mix it up a bit. You don’t have to spend a fortune. Most women like it when you ask them to include their friends. if she works out at the health club every Monday. If you don’t have a big budget for all this gallivanting. And who knows. If you want to lose a beautiful woman real fast. Women love surprises. Don’t ever give her that tied-down feeling. no matter how small they are. Buy her things This is a sure fire way to show her that you like her. the next time. all you have to do is give her that “smothered” feeling and she’ll be out the door. Take her places One of women’s biggest complaints about being in a relationship is that men don’t take them out often enough. then be considerate of her schedule. or up to a nearby 110 . Have her bring some of her friends along. For instance. you might start to like some of these things. take her out dancing. Wednesday and Friday.
If you start to get discouraged. There’s something about the “strength in numbers” game.lake. so don’t expect miracles overnight. There’s always something happening somewhere. so keep informed. Consult your local newspaper for the “freebies” (the events around your town that don’t cost anything). Strength in numbers The next time you go out to a night club looking for women. So once in a while. 111 . just remember this: Forget about the obstacles and focus on the light at the end of the tunnel. Don’t forget Women like to be told how beautiful they look. take along a few of your friends. It seems to give everyone’s confidence a boost. let her know that you realize this—by telling her! All techniques require practice. Worrying about rejection and all the other negatives is for the other guys—NOT YOU.
ribbed. lambskin. French ticklers. in my business. When first having sex with your woman. I try to use a condom as often as possible. Preventative maintenance is the objective. HEALTH TIPS SEXUALLY SPEAKING: Always try to urinate directly after having sex. Use your 112 . Unfortunately. I can’t always do this. Never have oral sex with a woman when her private parts smell like a dumpster.9. and latex. This will help prevent (to a certain extent) some of the less severe communicable diseases. I highly recommend using them. always try to do a visual on her private parts before you indulge. There are several different types: studded. Some women don’t like condoms. You can never tell these days and you can never be too careful.
There are also various different types of disinfectant lubricants available today. See your doctor every six months 113 . especially when sorry can mean your life. but no matter how good she looks or smells.judgment. It’s better to be safe than sorry. I don’t want to scare you. Make sure that your doctor knows that you are very sexually active so he can check specifically for possible sexually transmitted diseases. (I get tested for AIDS twice a month. The best health tip I can suggest is that you keep yourself in the best shape you can and eat well. I’ve used these lubricants on occasion for women that want anal sex. Also. Ask your doctor for his advice on whether or not these products could be effective for you. I suggest that you use a condom. check to be sure the lubricant will not affect or harm the integrity of the condom. When using lubricants with a condom. you never can tell just by looking at her.) Consult your doctor for the needed frequency of these tests. Until you are really settled in with a woman and feel really comfortable with her. get the recommendation of a competent laboratory for the results (there are a lot of misdiagnosed cases each month). Get a periodic AIDS test. Try to get regular physical checkups from your doctor. whether or not she’s got some sort of sexually transmitted disease.
While you’re working out at the gym. Again. and practice good hygiene. When you’re at the gym. I strongly suggest using a condom in this case. use your own towel. Don’t wear someone else’s clothes. try to be aware of their “outside” sexual activity. then see your doctor more often to check for diseases. If you have sex with multiple partners. just eat right. In general. 114 . If you have several girlfriends and they are having a lot of sex with others. exercise.or so (whether you need to or not). use a towel to protect yourself by placing it between you and the machine.
It seems like no two women are the same. but I have touched and licked many. but if you put your tongue in the right place. This process requires what I call the “preliminary foreplay. I have found that some women like to be licked on the back of their neck and other women like it on the back of their elbow or upper arm. you must try to make her want you just as much as you want her.” Preliminary foreplay is the caressing. you can render a woman almost helpless or make her scream with passion and desire. It’s funny. many women in many. Women can get turned on by being touched in the strangest places. licking and touching that you get into before you proceed to oral sex and actual sexual intercourse. many places. Even holding a woman just right will help get her in the mood. LOVE MAKING TIPS Before you actually get down to the act of making love with a woman.10. Giving her a firm 115 . I am not one to brag.
I was almost ready to give up and just start humping on her. Even finding unusual places to have sex can be a form of foreplay. I was licking on the top of her left back shoulder with circular motions. You simply get used to what each of your women like. Most women like a man who’s sexually adventurous. A simple foreplay technique. Sometimes though. The main thing to remember is that you must satisfy each other.hug with a casual kiss on the neck works great with some women. Her interest could change into annoyance. She let out a sign of relief as she told me I was sending a shiver up her spine. If this is the case. That was her spot! So don’t give up so easily. I just couldn’t seem to find her “get her in the mood” spot. After twenty minutes or so. buddy!” Next. leaving her to believe that you just aren’t going to be able to fulfill her needs. for use while in the 116 . There are several different types of foreplay that can be used to help heat up the period before the actual act of sexual inter-course. she isn’t very likely to give you another chance! This is the difference between being a “gentleman” and “you’re rushing it. you should back off. Every woman has one. I recently met a gorgeous brunette at the health club near where I live. I try new things all the time. When I took her out for the first time. comes foreplay. I hit it. some are into wearing handcuffs…the list can go on and on. Some people are into whips and chains. if you are unable to locate it. Just then.
you should help her remove her dress and your pants. Slowly.) Then. is to stand together fully clothed. start to lick her clitoris slow and soft. then move your hands back down to her buttocks. Slowly remove her panties. Massage her back and buttocks.bedroom. ease her down on the bed on her back and spread her legs apart. then intensify it faster. squeezing it. it’s located right at the top of her love mound. Caress her neck while kissing her passionately. She’s probably almost “in heat” at this time. then harder. Slowly work your way to her inner thigh. kissing and licking all the way to her inferno of love. when it seems like she’s all but begging you to eat her. (For those of you who aren’t familiar with the location of the clitoris. At this point. If she is wearing a dress. then move slowly down toward her pussy. When you’re both naked on the bed. so you should continue sucking on her clitoris—lightly at first. you can move your penis 117 . don’t just stick your tongue in. Hold and kiss each other. move your hands up under her dress and into her panties (if she’s wearing any). Once you get to her vagina. tease her a little. Remember to take your time. Try to use the tip of your tongue. move your hand up to the back of her neck. Sometimes I will start to lick at the inside of her knee. Put your tongue all around the outside of it without actually touching the clitoris.
Many of these guides are rather “formula. you might want to look at some options: Go out and buy her some real sexy lingerie and give it to her as a surprise.toward her mouth. The main thing is to remember that. If you think that they may help stimulate your imagination. usually at the start of each relationship. When this starts to happen. keep it alive. where she’ll start to give you head. I don’t know of any woman that wouldn’t love to get lingerie as a gift. when you’re engaging in foreplay. You can then either move into a sixty-nine position or watch her go down on you. Their sexual excitement is at its peak. To be a good lover. My view on the situation is that. Use your imagination and always try new things. there are guides and manuals that are available for different types of foreplay. you need to improvise and add some humor. things can seem to fall into a routine— sexually speaking.” making the whole effort seem sterile. As time goes on in the relationship. both the man and the woman are very intrigued with each other’s bodies. The use of oils and creams for massaging each other can help stimulate some new possibilities for sex. 118 . This is only one example of the countless combinations of foreplay that you can try.
There are a number of various edible gels and lotions that can be applied to each other’s bodies—then licked or eaten off. I suggest that you don’t surprise her with this one! You had better talk to her about it before you do it. some don’t. Have your partner place a couple of ice cubes in her mouth while she gives you head. There are a few different types of sex games out on the market. etc. Oral sex with ice cubes can be fun. kiss them in an unusual place. Some women like the idea of a dildo or sex toys. Just put some ice cubes or crushed ice in your mouth and start having oral sex with her. The same works for her. I suggest that you talk this over with your partner before you spend big money on a turbo-charged unit. These are the spin the bottle or roll the dice type games. (You can usually find these kinds of games and unusual items at your local novelty or adult book store. Put the ice in and out of her muff and around the clitoris. Body paint is another interesting way to explore each other’s bodies’ one step farther. For example.) 119 . which tell you what you have to do to the other person. One such game entails drawing cards. because you could end up with a slightly crushed skull. Dildos can add an interesting new element to a sexual downswing.
You start by pumping her with full penetration. Then. pump inside of her in different directions. just give her the tip with fast in and out motions. There are books available on sexual positions. One of the sexual techniques that I like to use is having sexual intercourse in the doggie style position. For example. or buy some sex manuals. gradually picking up the pace. They recommend some of the most popular and widely used positions.” If your imagination isn’t working. then. Then. talk to others for ideas. This one drives women crazy.I could go on and on about different ways to put more spark into your sex life. Just about any sex position can be achieved if you’ve got good agility. but all you have to do is to remember to “use your imagination. I call this the “tease her than slam her” technique. instead of going straight up her vagina. start to back off by slowly pushing it all the way in her. slow it down again. but at half speed. As far as sexual positions go. give her everything you’ve got for a couple of minutes. with about 3/4 penetration. When you’ve got her groaning a little. there are literally hundreds of possibilities. Another technique that I like utilizes the missionary position. This can be a good reference guide if you want to explore some new ideas. Next. very slowly draw it out. Start with nice slow strokes. Then. just pump one stroke up inside of her 120 .
the lady who is president of the Peter North Fan Club. Try it. Now. plus your weight against her rear moves the neglected top side of her womb into play. I’m trying to get her to do a centerfold-style video. Tammy is a real babe and kind of shy. such as squirt guns filled with water and egg whites. Most of her sensitive areas are located where you will be stimulating. The key here is to make sure her legs are close enough so you cannot enter her entirely—just the tip. I’ve always eaten very 121 . (By the way.) Well…the reason is partially because of my diet.and the next stroke to the left and then to the right. This was relayed to me by Tammy. Many people ask how and why I ejaculate so much cum. she’ll like it! One technique that makes women go crazy for the “magician with a smaller magic wand. Be careful not to crush her or all your efforts will be in vain. This will give her even more areas of contact. They have speculated that my loads are exaggerated by special effects. all you have to do is hang on with one hand and make sure your unit stays in play with the other while your lover gives you a rodeo ride! You won’t see this in the movies too often for two reasons: (1) the general public believes a man should have a big tool (which is hog shit).” is to lay your woman on her stomach with her legs spread wide enough for your unit to penetrate about an inch or so. and (2) because it’s a very difficult position for the camera to shoot.
healthfully—and still do. One tip that I can’t stress enough is: Always have proper lubrication when having intercourse. however. Sometimes a woman can be very horny but still not produce enough lubrication to make a go of it.” This stuff is unbelievable. Lower body exercises also seem to help me hold back until the timing is right for the explosion. 122 . I can only recommend one called “Astroglide. There are a few good lubricants on the market. allowing you to go for hours. A good consistent carbohydrate diet seems to improve the amount of semen that I can ejaculate.
Always remember this: Women are never free. etc. The more average looking she is. life is too serious to take seriously. try this. There’s a cost for everything that’s worthwhile in life. a woman that may not get as much attention as some of the prettier women get. the higher the cost. the less the pressure it puts on you. By pressure.” When I refer to “cost. The better the quality.) This will help you ease into the dating scene. Just relax. I don’t know which wise man said that.” I don’t necessarily mean money. Try to compare yourself to her. I mean it could be time. Remember the old saying. “You get what you pay for. gentlemen. then she should be a 5. I mean that usually the more 123 . but remember it to your grave. it could be effort. Live your life one day at a time and to its fullest. Let the other guy worry about stress and anxiety. Approach a below-average type looking woman. If you haven’t gone out with a woman for a long time. PETER NORTH’S ADVICE Look. if you think you’re a 7.11. (On a scale of one to 10.
Instead of asking the average. What matters is your attitude. think about it in this way: Look at everything on an ultimate level. ordinary. So. evaluate it in this way—no man is better than another (each is considered equal). It’s called “moving up the ladder. For example. This is a trick that he learned from a hooker that used to come into his club. We are all expendable and.” 124 . some day we all will die. get up to dance. She said that she did it to get “floor exposure. He suggests that. You especially don’t need this kind of pressure when you’re just getting into the dating scene. You’ll be surprised at how many will say “Yes. the more competition you have to deal with—and this creates pressure.” On that note. ask the most beautiful woman in the bar. you can simply tell her that you want to start dating other women. After you get to know this woman. This way you can ask the women that are there to dance before the energy of the club gets intense. ultimately.beautiful that the woman is.” When thinking about getting laid. I have yet to prove him wrong. or to let you buy her a drink. if you like the night club scene. you have to grit your teeth and go for the best that you can get. especially if you’re not a regular at the bar. get there early. Even if there aren’t any women you’d like to leave with. if you choose. I want to share a tip from a DJ friend of mine. woman to dance.
This takes practice. Have you ever heard guys complaining about how the best women seem to be interested in them when they’re with other women. you don’t have the same obligations as those guys do. you will have developed a few friendships that allow you to make return visits throughout the evening. you must practice leaving acquaintances without implied obligations or rudeness. You didn’t bring an anchor and your objective at this time is only to be seen with women.” This is admirable when you’re on a date. but in your situation. you don’t actually have to be dancing. these guys don’t pursue the “best women. because you don’t want to get a lousy reputation before you deserve one! The one thing that you should always remember is that you must be patient. Women like men that appear to be wanted by others. you’ve also developed a “perceived value” by women who have observed you. and they like to be seen with these guys! Now that you are so damn popular. If you dance with many women. Don’t be tactless and mount the first woman that you see. others will look at you and think. In this case. indeed. “He must be a nice guy. Just kick back and scope out the situation before you move in 125 . This way you move about socializing and dancing until you reach the babe you’d like to meet.It works because you are advertising some strong messages by doing this. you dog. As the night goes on.” It also works because you are being seen with women. By doing this. perhaps on a date? Out of respect for the women that they’re with.
Carefully scan the area and pick out a few prospects. leave this “I love you” phrase for after the wedding. So be very careful on your timing before deciding to utter those words. she feels that she’s finally got you. you can give her a compliment once in a while. Most importantly. But be careful about how you use that four-letter “L-word. Sure.for the woman that you want. try to avoid telling her too much about yourself. when you mention the words “I love you” to a woman. More often than not. This isn’t true with every woman. I suggest that you project an element of mystery in the relationship. unless someone asks you to do so. or lose interest in the way they look. When some women start to get comfortable in a relationship. they start to let themselves go. even if you think she is the best woman on the planet. To help prevent this from happening. They might put on weight. 126 . stop working out. Avoid telling her how much she means to you. but don’t overdo it.” Play it cool hints • Never repeat yourself when speaking. For example.
Scope out the entire situation before making a move on a particular woman. you leave it alone. Nobody is going to take you by the 127 . you were born into this world alone. get her number discretely. never give out your number. anywhere. and when you die.• When entering a night club. In this situation. • Look. • • Never seem overly anxious about anything. don’t slobber over the first woman you see. and no class whatsoever. Take any of her questions and turn them around toward her because she might be trying to tell you what she wants to talk about. • Never scam on a woman that’s with her boyfriend. This shows an incredible amount of bad taste. It does you absolutely no good to panic or worry. No matter how bad things may seem. Some women get off by watching their boyfriends make ground hamburger out of your face. Should she make a pass at you. always stay relaxed. • • Never ask a woman: “What’s your sign?” Never! Try to avoid talking about yourself as much as possible.
tell her that you like her dress or the way her hair looks. You might even throw her a compliment as you’re walking away. or three). you are the person that has to make it happen. Don’t ever worry about hurting your ego. Again. Remember the famous old Clint Eastwood saying: “A man has got to know his limitations. remember this: There is someone for everybody—a woman for every man and a man for every woman. Statistically speaking. don’t even let it phase you. So. When a woman turns you down. smile and walk away. In fact.hand and do things for you. there are far more women on this planet than men. So…do it! • Don’t get caught in bed with a married woman. Have a great life! 128 . Ultimately. take your time and make sure that you find the right one (or two.” And. act like you couldn’t care less. my last bit of advice: Don’t take it personally if she turns you down.
Cover photo shoot in Newport Beach. CA 129 . CA Book cover “out take” Newport Beach.
Book cover shoot Newport Beach (subject holding prototype book) 130 .
Signing at the Los Angeles Convention Center in 1996 131 .
Taylor Hayes & Peter at the LA Convention Center in 1996 132 .
and Taylor Hayes at the Los Angeles Convention Center 1996 133 .Tyffany Minx. Peter North.
Tyffany Minx 1996 LA Convention Center 134 .
Peter North Las Vegas AVN Convention 1997 135 .
Christy Canyon and Peter North Las Vegas AVN Convention 1997 136 .