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Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

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WEDDING CEREMONY IN MULTICULTURAL MALAYSIA

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

MALAYSIA TRULY ASIA
Malaysia is a bubbling, bustling melting pot of races and religious where Malays, Chinese, Indians and many other people live together in peace and harmony. The largest ethnic groups in Malaysia are the Malays, Chinese and Indians. In Sabah and Sarawak, there are myriad of indigenous ethic groups with their own unique culture and heritage. Blessed with natural wonders galore, it is perfect for a memorable ecoholiday. With some of the best beaches and diving spots in the world, it is ideal for island getaways. Experience Asia in Malaysia.

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

TRADITIONAL MALAY WEDDING
traditional Malay wedding involves nearly everyone in the kampung and is more elaborate there are certain preliminaries or events which must happen before the wedding: * First is the THE MERISIK ("SPYING") * Followed by THE PERTUNANGAN ("BETROTHAL" OR "ENGAGEMENT") * Then THE AKAD NIKAH ("MARRIAGE CONTRACT") * Finally THE PERSANDINGAN ("WEDDING CEREMONY")

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

The Invitation

TRADITIONAL MALAY WEDDING

• The Big Day is fixed and the wedding cards are out. • If the wedding takes place in the kampung, and if the kampung is not large, then usually the whole kampung folks are invited. • Weeks before the wedding, the bride’s parents would go round to each house and invite personally the neighbours.

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

Scene before the Big Day • bride’s house will be filled with relatives and their children from far and wide congregating at the house. They are there to help out. • Gotong-royong: everybody chips in to help their fellow relatives, neighbours or friends. • Men: slaughter the cow or goat, setting up the tents and then arranging the food tables and chairs for the guests, cooks: nasi tomato or nasi minyak, pacheri, rendang or the opor daging, ayam masak merah and ikan kari. • Women: putting the finishing touches and decorations for the pelamin, the bouquets of flowers for interior decorations.

TRADITIONAL MALAY WEDDING

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

A day before the Big Day The KHATAM AL-QURAN Ceremony • attended only by the women folks. This is usually held in the morning. • the bride recites the few last pages and verses of the Al-Quran. • the event will be followed by a berzanji, tahlil and nasyid (Islamic songs of worship). The BERINAI Ceremony • dyeing with henna of the hands, and the feet of the bride. This event is normally held in the afternoon. BEAUTIFYING UP • wedding beautician known as mak andam will be called to beautify the bride and to bring out the bride's gorgeous look for the wedding.

TRADITIONAL MALAY WEDDING

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

The wedding day

TRADITIONAL MALAY WEDDING

usually held during the weekends - on Saturday and Sunday. And the majority of the weddings take place during the long school holidays so as to be convenient for relatives and guests to attend

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

The akad nikah ceremony

TRADITIONAL MALAY WEDDING

takes place in the morning, and is held either at the local mosque or at the bride’s home. As Muslims, the couple is legally deemed husband and wife only after the akad nikah(or wedding contract) has been signed by the groom. An authorized religious officer (normally the imam of the local mosque) or the girl’s wali (male person closely related to the bride, such as her father, or where it is delegated to the religious official) will preside over the akad nikah ceremony in the presence of several witnesses from both parties. The akad nikah is actually a marriage contract by the groom agreeing to wed the bride based on the Islamic requirement and rules.

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

The bersanding ceremony • The Malays usually call the wedded couple as "Raja Sehari" or "Royals for the Day" and they are treated as such, like the use of yellow, for decorations and attires, which is the colour associated only with royalties. • perhaps a way to show the married couple first hand in person, to all the relatives, friends and guests and to allow them to get to know the couple. The public will witness that the two have now tied the knot and are now man and wife. • held either the day after the akad nikah but more often in the afternoon after the akad nikah.

TRADITIONAL MALAY WEDDING

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

The bersanding ceremony

TRADITIONAL MALAY WEDDING

• Groom: dressed in the traditional Malay costume of baju Melayu, samping and tanjak (headwear) made from songket or silk, with a keris at his side. • Bride: matching baju kebaya or embroidered baju kurung. • the bridal couple is sprinkled on the palms of the hands with yellow rice, fragrant potpourri, and scented water. • guest bringing their gifts and presents for the bridal couple.

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

TRADITIONAL MALAY WEDDING

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

TRADITIONAL INDIAN WEDDING
The couple getting married must not see each other for a month. Nowadays young couples cannot be apart each other so for both mums, even to keep them a week apart is an task.

A Peacock Welcoming Kolam

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

TRADITIONAL INDIAN WEDDING
"Thali ceremony " or Thali Padia is performed a few days before the wedding. A month or two before the wedding, the groom's parents would go the family's goldsmith to have the "Thali prepared". The melting of gold to make the "Thali" is an important ritual for the traditional Indians. It is symbolic for the "Thali" to be prepare by the family goldsmith as each family has their own design for the Thali (sacred pendant)to be made.

"Thali" blessing

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

Three Nalangu ceremony

TRADITIONAL INDIAN WEDDING

Nalangus are real Indian traditional wedding rituals for mothers, aunts to performed as a symbol of how much she is loved. Giving her over to a new family, gently advising her of her life beginning as a woman, with responsibilities. Observing the ceremonies and Indian wedding rituals done is like sending a reminder that marriage is not a bed of roses and to understand the need to be matured.

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

A day before the ceremony

TRADITIONAL INDIAN WEDDING

• the family of the bride the women brought all kinds of sweets and fruits. • these sweets are carefully prepared and were put on the floor of the living room. • the bride had to be taken away before 6pm. This was considered to be the best time and bring good luck to the future marriage. The bride would be taken to relatives.

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

Wedding day • An Indian wedding ceremony starts with a priest who spoke to both fathers and the bride and some offerings where made. • The rituals started with the groom. Together with a friend they went through a series of rituals. Vegetables, fruits, oil and many other things were used. This part of the ceremony took some time. • The bride went through the same ceremony. At last groom and bride came together at the stage where the final part of the ceremony took place.

TRADITIONAL INDIAN WEDDING

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

Wedding day

TRADITIONAL INDIAN WEDDING

• Any Indian wedding is not complete with a meal: it was of course all great Indian food. • Usually held in hall. There were musicians hired, played horn, tabla and other traditional Indian musical instruments.

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

Wedding day

TRADITIONAL INDIAN WEDDING

• After the ceremony it was time to congratulate the happy couple. • There were also night party, usually held at groom’s family house; and the brides family too had a party for the friends and relatives who couldn't attend the wedding itself.

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

Small party

TRADITIONAL CHINESE WEDDING

There will be small, informal party at groom’s family house, to celebrate groom’s last day as a bachelor.

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

Bride’s wedding dinner

TRADITIONAL CHINESE WEDDING

• for the bride's site only. According to customs, from the groom's site only he and some friends but no blood relatives were invited. • took place at exclusive restaurant, starts around 8pm • the dinner would consist 9 different dishes according to Chinese customs for traditional Chinese weddings. The whole dinner would take about 2 to 3 hours but the groom would not be around the whole dinner. Chinese customs didn't allow him to stay the full dinner. In general after about 5 dishes, he should go back to his own house.

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

Small ceremony • Specific rituals take place at groom’s family house.

TRADITIONAL CHINESE WEDDING

• Groom’s parents brought the groom in the living room. He was dressed in pyjamas. In front of the house altar a small ceremony took place. He offered tea to his parents and prayed to the gods and ancestors for good luck and prosperity. The ceremony also has to confirm the ties with the family. Although the new couple would live in the house of the grooms parents, it was important to confirm the family ties. • The same ceremony would take place as in the grooms house.

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

The important day • at bride’s house.

TRADITIONAL CHINESE WEDDING

• it was part of the tradition that the friends and sisters would not easily give up the bride. It was an old game that had to be played otherwise the marriage would not be blessed. So the girls had barricade the door to the room where the bride was waiting. The groom had to perform quite a few tasks before the girls were convinced he was worth to wed his bride. • after some time, the groom will “passed” and together with the bride they had to perform some ceremonies. This ceremony was to confirm the ties with family and pay respect to the gods and ancestors

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

The important day

TRADITIONAL CHINESE WEDDING

• before arrive at groom’s parents house, the couple first visited the local Taoist temple for more prayers for good luck and prosperity. • inside the grooms parents house the exact same procedure as in the brides' house took place. First the parents were served tea in front of the home altar, then in following the oldest closest living relative and others. This may take some time. • meanwhile, outside in the tent, some food was served. While some of the family members performed the necessary rituals, others had their lunch.

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

The wedding dinner

TRADITIONAL CHINESE WEDDING

• A Chinese wedding is usually calculated in tables. A table at a wedding dinner is usually shared by 8-10 people. So, by having 160 tables available, more then 1000 people were expected. • all of the guests brought a wedding present. According to Chinese customs it has to be a small red envelop containing some money. How much money depend on the position of the person who gives. Close relatives and close friends give more then those who are at more distance. • in front of the stage was the table for the new couple and the parents of both sides.

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

The wedding dinner

TRADITIONAL CHINESE WEDDING

• when the couple and both parents sat down, the dinner started. The dinner, consisted of 9 different and excellent dishes containing stingray, chicken, soup, vegetables etc. • during the dinner, some more ceremonies had to take place. It was an extension of the ceremony that had taken place earlier for some relatives who had not been in the house. Tea was offered to tie the family relations.

Wedding Ceremony in Multicultural Malaysia

The wedding dinner

TRADITIONAL CHINESE WEDDING

After some dishes it was time to bring a toast. The couple plus both parents went on stage to bring a toast. The toast, in Chinese called Yam Sing, had to be done a few times. Then the couple and their parents went along some tables to toast with the people at that table. Obviously there were far too many tables so the couple and the father divided the tables as much as possible.

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