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Introduction to Day Game – Transcript
Hey Guys! Welcome to another edition of Sinn's Inner Circle. I get a lot of emails from guys every month asking different questions about various elements of the game and differences between environments. So this month, I wanted to give you guys kind of an introduction into picking up girls during the daytime, as that's a question that I get kind of a lot of the time. People want to know what the differences are, what they can do to be better with girls during the day, they walk around all day and they see all these girls they want to approach. Some guys are really comfortable and confident approaching women at night, but you see a girl out during the day and it becomes a little bit harder. So I have a full course on day game, called The Day Game A to Z Mastery Course which we came out with last year, and I'm pretty much recognized as the best guy in the world at meeting women during the daytime, so I figured I'd give you guys a brief introduction that will let you guys get out there today, after you listen to this audio and start to really practice meeting girls during the day. So the first thing I want to talk about are some of the differences between nighttime and daytime. The first key difference is that most of the times when you meet a girl at night she's going to be in a big group. Now that doesn’t mean that it's impossible to meet a girl when she's out by herself at night, and that doesn’t mean that you're never, ever going to approach girls in groups during the day, but for the most part, when you meet a girl during the day, you're going to meet her one on one while she's out running errands, or shopping, or going to the bookstore, and you're out doing the same. So a big part of day game is one-on-one interactions with a woman, which has some benefits and some problems. One of the benefits is that you're instantly in a one on one conversation. That's really important. A lot of the times you go out at night and you maybe meet three girls and it's really hard to get one girl isolated from the other girls, you have to get all of them comfortable with you first, then you have to have a reason to isolate her, have a place to go, etcetera, etcetera. Here, you meet girls one-on-one, so that's really good. The second thing is the energy level during the day is a lot lower and people are not going to be on different substances. One of the things that I think is not given enough 1
like 30 percent of what it is at night. So that's a cool thing. at a park. So it's important to look at the fact that any girl kind of would think it was a cool coincidence to meet a guy at Subway or John Bajusz or CVS or Whole Foods or Target. so they're a little tipsy. but you might meet her at a Starbucks. meaning. you're probably not going to meet a hot med student on Wednesday at 2:00 am at the bar. That's one of the reasons it's tough to do moving groups during the day. Meeting guys in bars and clubs is not the coolest thing in the world for girls—in fact some girls even have a no-random rule. you're looking to meet a girl that you're really going to connect with. It's probably not going to happen. Girls are not going to be as bitchy. but there is a real reason that they can't sit there and talk to you for 20 or 30 minutes. very often. or they're late to pick up their dry cleaning. or any of these various places. any of those places that they have to go through in their normal. Well. or at least on alcohol. girls are not going to have their guard up so much because guys are approaching them 2 . so your sets are going to be a lot faster. all these places that you're at on a day to day basis and you have the opportunity to meet women in. they have to get back to work. or at the mall. or they have to meet their friend for lunch. much better quality girl during the day than you do at night. So during the day you're going to have a chance to meet a much more real "version" of that person. whatever. The first pro is that you meet a much. I want to examine a couple of the pros and couple of the cons. most girls are drinking. and that means you're going to have to do more things and different things during the day than you would do at night. so if you're looking for a quality relationship. So there are some pros and cons here. At least an hour. when you meet girls during the day.attention and time is that when you meet people at night. she's pretty committed to being there for at least a few hours. bars and clubs attract a certain subset of people and it's not necessarily the best quality. First we'll start with the pros. but it's kind of weird to be super high energy during the day. everyday life. or at the grocery store. it's very. Another big difference between night and day comes in the idea of legitimate time constraints. you know. and they may even be available there the whole night. Meaning they won't even talk to random guys at bars let along actually want to meet up with them or go on dates with them. The reason is. On the subway. Literally the difference between night and day. When you meet a girl out at night at a bar or a club or restaurant or party. they're going to have legitimate time constraints. if not on various other drugs and substances. So the energy level will be a lot lower. Another pro of day game is that there is not as much of a stigma against it. a girl who's really together. is to keep that group's attention you have to have a really energy level. You're going to have a lot more success finding that type of a woman during the day. there's not much of a stigma. very rare that girls go out at night for less than an hour.
is because they wish they were able to do it themselves. So you're kind of stuck with the idea that if this girl 3 . They're not just telling you that because they don’t like you. Things like social proof. she's not as distracted. and that sometimes happens. You have legitimate time constraints and things you have to do during the day as well. Sometimes there are no sets. There is a lot of focus and attention that can be paid to you and the fact that you're trying to talk to her. and no one can come. you guys have to be at work and stuff so you can't just run around approaching girls all the time. and gets you weird—just gets you weird. Now there are definitely some cons to day game as well. just because it doesn’t lend itself. She doesn’t have the aid of her friends around. and legitimate boyfriends. you're going to not have the loud lights and sounds of the club. other times you walk around and there's not really anything all that interesting going on. Another con of daytime is that not everybody can do it everyday. is there is not always a high concentration of girls at any one time. So that's one of the problems. There is often a lot of time in between approaches which helps your approach anxiety to creep back in. She's going to be a little bit more relaxed. forces you to be really in your head. You can't just bounce around and use social proof and use a lot of these mass influence tactics that you can use at night. you can't really plan. but it doesn’t really make that big of a difference most of the time that people worry about it. So you shouldn’t really sweat all too. So it's going to be a little bit more unique.left and right. So those are the pros. So that's kind of not a cool thing about daytime as well. They worry that other people are going to hear them. Sometimes you get into situations you can't control. Another thing is there is not as much distraction so a lot of guys find that they have much more anxiety about approaching women during the day and they get really worried about it. One of the cons is that there's not always a lot of approaches. People are more likely to care. and once you get her kind of associated into a social mode. So that can happen as well. You can go out with the intention of doing day game and walk around the mall or sit at a coffee shop. and no guys are going to come and try to steal her away. I know it's going to be crowded these times and these times. other people are more likely to hear you when you are approaching girls during the day than at night. she's going to be sober. Another con to daytime stuff is that oftentimes you'll get girls who have circumstances outside of your control. like Third Street Promenade or something in Los Angeles. keeps you from getting in state. Some days you go out and you do six approaches and you run into six girls who are married or have boyfriends. too much. a lot of group theory. jealousy. You're going to have a much better chance of being the only guys who approaches at Target than you do of being the only guy who approaches her at a bar. or hang out in an area where a lot of people walk. it's just more kind of hit or miss. for the most part. People have jobs. which is true. emerging sets. And the last con of daytime is that it's kind of difficult to stay warm because the sets come in different time frames. It doesn’t really get into it. like "Okay. then she's going to be 100 percent paying attention to you.
or show social proof by walking by other girls. it's just a little too rude. So you go into the mall and the first thing I like to do is head to the food court. Heading to the food court is great because it gives you a chance to warm up. none of them seem to work that well. If she doesn’t like you off the bat. So I just want to go through a couple of them—let's just give you guys a mall-type area as a starting point. On this CD I'm going to stick just to the mall. So the next thing I want to talk about is high versus low probability approaches because during they day there are a lot of different environments and a lot of different types of girls you can approach. During the day if you can find a really hot girl sitting down by herself. stuff like that. So the first thing I'll do is I'll check out and I'll look to see if there are any girls sitting down by themselves eating. I've heard various guys lines like. so let's look at some of the different types of sets you're going to see as you go into this environment. she's not on her cell phone. It's a single seeded girl. 4 . listen to it and then go out to the mall and start to practice. just walk you guys through the mall so that you can take the CD. "I'm more interesting that your cell phone. Further than that day game is great for meeting really high quality girls and kind of living a life that isn’t obsessed by and taken over with pick up." Or. We’ll get to the how of approaching later. because you don’t have the group there. I've tried different things. none of that stuff works that well. there's no really great way to get a girl to get off her cell phone. In the Day Game course I'll give you guys a lot of different ways to approach girls in different environments. your shopping blocks are like Fifth Avenue. etcetera. Just take that as a starting point. So that's kind of not the coolest thing either.doesn’t like you right off the bat. it's a great place t go. I'm going to ignore all that for now. On a Saturday. you done. If you guys live on the East Coast. On the Day Game tapes I talk about gyms and coffee shops. you can try to keep the conversation going and turn it around. I've heard various experts try different tactics. Indoor malls if you live anywhere else. head down to the mall with the idea that you're going to approach five girls. It gives you a chance to talk to people who are sitting next to you or in line waiting for food. which makes it difficult. that is ideal. during the day. what you should do is go to the mall on a weekend. So let's look at the type of set that I'm looking at when I find a girl sitting by herself by the food court. that is perfect because you know she's not going anywhere for 5 to 10 minutes at least. "Tell her you'll call her back. there's not really a whole lot you can do because you can't really talk to her friends. you might want to grab some food to kind of fuel up for your approaching. but chances are it's not going to turn. because if you're a guy and if you want to get out there and start trying to use the tactics that I'm going to teach you in the CD. etcetera." Or just approach her like normal. Those are the first girls I'm going to approach.
fine. So these are all what I like to call high probability approaches. Situational relevance is really. which is better than the next kind of approach which is two girls shopping. These are all approaches where. subways. it's an upper scale department store that has a coffee area and stuff like that. and even if you plough through that it's always going to be a little strange that you happen to be in there. You always want to have an idea of what your back story is so that you can build on that with your approach. there are other ways to do it. The crème de la crème as it were. A really easy way to start a conversation with a single girl shopping in a store. is I want to find girls in a kind of gender-neutral shops. because if she's in a store and she's looking around she's going to be there a while. right? Then I might eat or I might not. So you're going to let the girl know. it's just much easier when there are two girls. they have a Starbucks. But two girls sitting down. again. That's the best sets. I'm buying a present for a friend. "Hey. I might just leave the food court. you can open them with an opinion opener. for one of them to think it's strange. but for here that's a good default way to do that. where even if you're good. and we'll talk about how to do that later. for those of you outside of the United States. if you don’t do anything wrong. restaurants. These happen in coffee shops they have on college campuses. That's going to be weird. and I don’t want to get her something she hates because she will think I'm lame. These are the beginnings of that I like to call low probability approaches. then I'd just open her with the classic opinion opener. stuff like that. So a single girl standing in a store—why is that the second-best set. there are a lot of different ways you can go. or a girl sitting down by herself. and you're going to be able to get at least 2 – 3 minutes to demonstrate some personality and start to build attraction. You can open them with the direct openers. even if the girls are not as attractive. you look like you're really fashionable. 5. I go into a ton of them other places. So let's say there are none of those girls there. 10. you can do groups in a store. Nordstrom. We check out our Starbucks in a mall. So let's say now we double back to that food court. they have a Nordstrom. It's like the 4th best type of set. and good basic social skills. if a girl is in Forever21 even. So if a girl is in Guess. You don't just want to wander in the [inaudible 0:15:35] and start running random approaches. Time is our ultimate asset that we're looking for when it comes to approaching girls. or at least shops that make sense for me to be shopping for someone else in. You have to have a reason you're in there. This is another good set. You don’t want to do groups moving. and you have a good opener. What do you think I should get her?" And then you move on from there. But there are a lot of things you can do. 15 minutes. that she's getting hit on by 5 . and what I'm looking for now. So we see there are two girls seated having a conversation.So that's seeded ideal. you can do groups when they're seated. and I have no idea what to get her. or we check out our Starbucks. really important when it comes to daytime stuff. they have in buses. if a girls is in Nordstom. That's the best set. it's not as good as a group seated or a single in a store. you should to last in a two to three-minute conversation. You have some time. could be shopping for a niece or a sister or a female friend.
or for one of them to do something that doesn’t include you that take the girl away. that's a really good idea. and those approaches are always going to be the lowest probability. you're probably doing pretty well. I go over different environments in the Day Game Course. This doesn’t mean you can't you do it. and then going. frames. because stopping a girl while she's walking and she's obviously going somewhere on the street. So the next thing I want to talk about is the relationship between attraction. you kind f figure it out from there. you don’t need to take these low probability approaches. or you're stopping the girls while walking around by themselves approaches. it's not a bad idea when you're in a hurry and you don’t have time to actually game the girl. and when you do do them understand that you're doing a low-probability approach. then you want to stop the girl before she gets out. as much as it's built on comfort and qualification frames. Then lastly. and it's not a bad idea to approach girls on the streets to warm up. and she starts to head like for like an exit. So we're introducing the element of a cock-block which we don’t need to have. For one of them they need to go do something. but if you follow her and she doesn’t go into a store. and you don’t want to make that the focus of where you game. don’t do them as much. low probability. if we pick our sets and go to the mall for a couple hours. or in a mall in this example. it gets your blood pumping. There are a lot of guys who email me about day game questions they have and it seems like they just stalk the streets of their town. and those approaches are always going to be direct. I wish I had more time. But your last line of defense basically is. bookstores. It's the girl walking around by herself. One of the things that's really cool about daytime stuff. It's kind of weird to follow girls and I feel like they subconsciously know when they're being followed. They're the type of thing you do when there isn’t any other chance to approach the girl. Or for one of them to want to go get some food. 6 . doing some direct approaches like that. A lot of guys do it and they want to know how to do these approaches. that happened because of those situations." And they're better when you have no other chance of seeing the girl. behaviors. Like you're seeded are always going to be the best. and a little bit of seduction. like approaching girls in the streets. instead of just ignoring. if you get phone numbers like from like two of those from ten. and it always comes off kind of weird. etcetera. and I won't even include stopping girls in groups. it's better than nothing set. Different types of sets that you're going to see in a mall. I think that's just the biggest waste of time ever. but not much. but they're not what you want to base your game on and they're not something you want to be doing a ton a practice on. etcetera. it just means most of the times those situations are going to be just be throw away sets. wherever it is. it's always the low probability approach. the airport. as warm up sets. the lest probable approach. comfort and seduction during the day. I don’t even do those. "Man. as I like to call them.a guy in the store. the big thing is. is that it's much less based on attraction. So that's kind of high probability. If you get a couple of those. the approaches that are really just kind of better than nothing. So for places that have seeders are things like Starbucks. it doesn’t mean I haven’t done it and had lays from it.
so you don’t really need to worry about jumping into the approach before the ideal time. with waitresses. and you know who you are. They might get drinks brought to them by a couple of guys. You can kind of be a little pickier during the day. when you're out at night. One where we're starting to go a little bit deeper. and I'll show you guys exactly how to do that later on in this audio. comfort. teasing. what do you want to be when you grow up? What's missing in your life? What makes you happy? What are you passionate about? Those sorts of deeper questions. ignore this part of the audio. I know a lot of guys out there listening to this have heard things like The Three-Second Rule. they might go to the bathroom. And that's a really good rule for certain situations. But for the guys who can make themselves 7 . but again. then she's attracted enough during the day that you can start to move the interaction forward. So that's kind of how you want to think about attraction. things aren’t really going to happen quite that quickly. So you're going to keep it more to the low energy stuff. There are a million and one different things that can happen really. but for the daytime. I do this when I go to strip clubs. You'll only need a little bit of attraction. qualification are going to kind of cycle. You're not going to run a ton of attraction material. you're not going to really be busting out your tests in your games and stuff like that during the day. the important thing to remember is to focus more on the qualification than the attraction. and you had better go in right away because they might go dance to the next song when the music changes. For a lot of guys. Because things are a little bit different during the day. discuss. I do this when I go to restaurants. So again. So what we want to do. and seduction during the daytime. during the day. So that brings me to an idea that I want to. kind of. Cold reads. Now. because the girl is not going to have her shields up. and pick your spots a little bit better. things are a little bit slower. you're in a very dynamic environment. it's not really that great a rule. You might run like a role play. I do this during the day. Because it's something that I have done throughout my pick ups. if you're listening to this. is we want to start moving the conversation from a normal social conversation to one where she's qualifying herself. You don’t need to disqualify yourself. really quickly in a nightclub or a bar in most of the nighttime environments. you don’t need to raise your value really high. you're going to be so overcome and flooded with approach anxiety and worry and doubt and fear of judgment that the only way you're going to be able to approach is if you do it right away. Things like. You're out and you see a girl. stuff like that. and the Three Second Rule says that you have to approach a girl within three seconds of seeing her. So if a girl is willing to answer qualifying questions. because it would be weird.So basically. For those guys. or more deep questions about herself. just to eat. what I mean is this. you might tell some stories. humor. very minimal. I want to discuss opening during the day. I do this at night. they might go join their friends at a birthday party in the back. and that's the idea of kind of assessing the situation quickly. They might move around the club. and that's where comfort. or you see a group of girls that you want to talk to. Opening during the day is going to kind of go through a different process.
is she going to meet her female friend. I might try to talk to her about our cell phone conversation I just had. I want to seat myself somewhere where I can easily approach her and I don’t have to approach her standing. and I'd want to delay that if I can.approach. and I knew I'd be kicking myself if I didn’t come over here and meet you—I'm John. and direct forces a girl to make a yes or no decision about how she feels about you. a functional opener like getting a girl to watch something for you. It's doable. then I want to approach her standing. or indirect? That's basically how you assess the situation. but I noticed you and thought you were really cute. is it high probability or low probability? What kind of way should I go in? Should I go in direct. I want to get myself in a really easy to approach. a lot more work. you’re cute hold the door. I'm not really going to go direct on that set because I don’t need to. A pre-opener like we're going to talk about later. You're going to watch her. is she actually alone. and then pick an approach. Then I'm looking to see if she gets her food and she sits down by herself. so if you see a girl walking around our imaginary mall. where is she going to grab a seat? Now I might be getting my own food as I do this. there is no need. it's just expressing some interest in her at some level. you don’t really want to open groups if you don’t have to during the daytime. doesn’t necessarily open the field up that much. trail her for a little bit and just kind of see. Sometimes you're going to be completely off. So honestly. An indirect opener will be something like an opinion opener. Brad P's Horse Girl an observational opener. but maybe have a reason to wander over there pretending to use my cell phone. I know this is really random. physical situation first. That could be something like. So you want to assess the situation." You know. is she going to get food herself and then grab a seat? That's all I'm looking for. and sometimes you'll be really dead on and other times you won't know if you're off or on. I want to talk about assessing the situation. So I've said a lot of stuff before that. and it gets you blown out a lot. If that's not an option. is she going to meet a guy. get themselves to do it. Something like that. a direct style of opening displays intent towards the girl. So if it's a girl sitting down. "Hey. what type of approaches." That's a direct style of opening. During the daytime. even if they waited out a little bit. 8 . Because like I said. I might run an observational opener like Brad P's Horse Girl. you haven’t really heard about. make sure she's alone. I might just be wondering around looking like I can't decide what I want to eat. and gets you a lot of interactions that are frustrating. and she's wondering around the food court. I might make an observation about her. I might be pretending to make a cell phone call. It's just a practicality thing. It could also be something like. the first thing I'm looking for is I want to see. "Hey. I'm displaying interest in the girl right away. So direct and indirect are basically styles of opening. If you're new. I'll probably use an opinion opener. so I want to talk about the idea of direct versus indirect. but get used to making those assessments during the day because you have a little bit more time.
So pre-openers are good because they are auto-pilot things that women are used to getting asked as they go along their day. but for the most part they're going to be really confused. so we use these to get girls into talkative modes. as long as they're not a big jerk. So there are a couple of different things we can do immediately after the pre-opener that's going to start to hook a girl into a conversation. "Hey. is that when women are walking around during the day. do you know where an ATM is?" Or. a preopener is a social question designed to just get the woman to start paying attention and associate into a social mode. that's necessarily a good thing. for me. is a simple role play. So they may not even necessarily hear you because they're preoccupied with their own thoughts. and I go. So for example. A direct opener makes a girl instantly decide whether or not she wants to look at you in a potential romantic light. Like to open directly when I have like less than 10 minutes or it looks like the girl has less than 10 minutes. That's my general rule for direct because it's going to take you further in the 10 minutes than you could get in ten minutes. can you watch my stuff real quick?" I come back from the bathroom." And I go. The first one. "Hey. and you go. or getting the girl to watch something for you. "Do you know where Hollywood Hits Wilcox. "And 9 . kind of answer. Something like.So how to pick direct versus indirect comes down. "Do you have the time?" Stuff like that. "Do you know where there a Starbucks is around here?" Or. So keep that distinction in mind for deciding when to go direct and when to go indirect. If you walk up to a girl who's walking around the mall. than you could get in 10 minutes of an indirect opener. and I'm like "Hey. Pre-openers are good. if a girl is sitting in the coffee shop. That's a good. you can go indirect all the time. I need a quick girl's opinion on something?" Maybe some of them will stop and be like really into it. and they're going to be thinking it's kind of weird to be asked about an opinion in the middle of the mall. so keep that in mind. they are not necessarily in a social mode. because I don’t have the time to actually go through all of the indirect. You have the time to go through an indirect opening or a seeming situational opening. and getting a girl into a conversation. If a girl is getting coffee and walking out of a coffee shop. those are better because they're more low-pressure. "No. I'm probably not going to go direct on her. they are just less useful in those situations that I just outlined. So if you're really tall and good looking. or not classically good looking. that's a good thing. If you're kind of short or out of shape. but what do you do after them is going to make the difference between being the guy who asks for the time on the street and get some response like "It's 11:05" and the girl walks off. That doesn’t mean you won't be able to get over those obstacles. "Nobody tried to steal it right?" And she's like. So basically. it just means you don’t want to open directly because then you're bringing up those obstacles right away." Everyday easy – what I like to call social questions that anyone will. These are things like. This is something that's really good because one thing that I haven’t talked about yet. expectations and kind of ideas as they're going about their day. The next thing that I want to talk about is an indirect opening tactic called a pre-opener. to time and situation. general rule to observe. So let's talk about what to do after pre-openers. You can go direct all the time. I might. if I'm sitting in a coffee shop and I see a girl. or you don’t dress well.
" "Okay. she's laughing. You're totally hired as my new personal assistant. For example if you see a girl sitting at a table and you want to use an observational opener. you'd beat them up?" she'd be. I can ask her what her name is. "Jenny. "Yeah. but we're not there yet. you are so fired as my personal assistant." and I go. And I go. and I want to talk to her. What if she says. an actual girl on the street corner not selling sex. Well. just something to get her to step back and calm down and become a little more present in the interaction. at which point I can then transition. so you role play. because as a writer. etcetera. ever work out. So she goes. great. have you done any acting?" Make any sort of observation. because sometimes girls—it takes them a while to associate when they're meeting guys randomly during the day. It's too bad too because I was going to dress you up in these really cute little suits and give you a fake British accent and an expense account and everything. The other way you could open is you just open.if they did. Another thing you can do is make an observation. Do you know if there's any Starbucks." Or. So for example. and now she's either going to laugh and play along or she's going to kind of politely smile. you're totally like my new bodyguard." Now I gave a little bit of information about myself. you have a really cool sense of style. no. or you can use an opener like Brad P's Horse Girl opener. and another thing you could do after the role play. This is just to start getting her socially comfortable with the conversation. it's on 17th and Lennox. "Okay. "Alright. "Oh my God. I can do a bunch of different things. then you can use an opinion opener if you really want to." and then I could follow up with that. I could say." and I'd be like "Okay. Let's say I see a girl on a street corner. what was your name?" And she'll say. nothing crazy or over the top. "No. Let's [inaudible 35:43] completely ignore and let's look at the other questions. I'd be. "Wow. and you might say. "That's a really 10 . I could go. Jenny. she doesn’t know. I can ask her what her name is. that sucks. "Wow. she's going to completely ignore me. obviously. and what brought you to the mall today?" Again. or anywhere to get a cup of coffee right now around here?" What's going to happen? The girl is going to say "Yes. that's sounded a little bad after I said it. So that's kind of what you do after a pre-opener. I can ask her a question." She's going to say. "Hey. do you do art of any sort?" Anything like that. So let's give another example of a pre-opener. I like that. that's an interesting finger you wear your ring on." and again same thing. it's over there. From there I can make an observation. and you can totally start lining stuff up for me. I threw my identify out there. observations are really good. I'm going to dress you up in a little suite and with a fake British accent. And no matter what her response is I'm going to go with this little role play. you make this really weird facial expression. "Wow. So those are pre-openers. and go. my day is hectic as anything. and ask like a basic social question. and now it will never. not a hooker. "Yes. That's another thing you can do after that. high-five. you could ask her name. I don’t know. excuse me." Just a little bit of role play to try to sucker her into a conversation. you could be like.
she'll say. I know this is really random…" that's important I used to not like that line because I thought it was drawing attention to the fact that it was random. It's a funny way of going direct." That can be fun. If the girl is from whatever city you say she's from or from whatever area. you would do something like. "You totally have a Miami vibe—Toronto. Something like. The next thing you’re going to do is you're going to throw out a little vague. A little joke." Whatever the nearest big city to you is. you can kind of just give her a little generic compliment. that my buddy Doc Holiday actually came up with. People from here don’t usually dress that different.A. excuse me. "I'm totally just messing with you. So then. So you can basically – let's assume you use any of these openers. You don’t want to go direct with a pre-opener. I think this is a really good beginner's structure for day game. but I think it's a good little pace of where the girl is at emotionally. "You totally don’t look like an East Coast girl. after he had taken my Day Game course and done some work on his own for a little while. "You totally don’t look like a West coast girl. where I used to live. Sometimes I say. a little bit of togetherness frame. you have a really cool style. then that's a good one. or it doesn’t really matter. vibe. that's why at one time I taught a 5-hour seminar on day game. it's to the point. that's really stuck up. it gets a little laugh and it takes direct a little less seriously. so I'd say something like "Hey. And what that's going to do is one of two things. you give her the same kind 11 . she's going to agree and think that was cool that you were able to figure that out." That's another good one if you live in a place like Miami. I thought you were cute and I wanted to meet you—My name is John." You could run Brad P's Horse Girl without pre-opener. that's why we recorded it and turned it into another Day Game course. A lot of the time people ask me. "Because you seem nice. "You totally have an L. So those are kind of regular openers.interesting style that you have. mini cold read. that's a really good one. She's going to want to know how you knew that. but you can also do direct seriously and in a pacing way. "…but I thought you were really cute and I wanted to meet you. If you're going to use a pre-opener with direct. your name obviously. like have a good follow up for how you knew that. You can also use direct openers without any sort of pre-opener. can I ask you a really important question? Do you know where Starbucks is?" Then you go. because it is random to get stopped by a guy. you totally have a New York vibe. for kind of getting started. you can use a direct opener. "Because I dated a girl who looked just like you. "Oh my God. "Okay." Or. Or. You can kind of field test around." Sometimes I'd go. but again. an indirect opener. "had the same style. as a girl is sitting in front of Starbucks." A little bit of social proof." At which point. Something like. and then again you can. again. "No. what you say after that doesn’t matter. Do you like horses?" You can find that opener online. I like to do it like this. just because it's direct. but I want to give you guys a little structure. I'm John. you obviously stand out and have taste." or. You could just be." Or. same thing. it would like." If you're on the East coast." If you're on the West coast – or. and it's a good way to start a conversation when you've had less than 10 minutes. "What do you do after the opener?" Now there are a lot of things you can do based on different situations. I'm from here.
what we want to do is we want to get her to start work. for the entire interaction." stuff like that because in girls' minds it's all social competition. The idea of the cold read is that there's something different about her. "I have mostly guy friends. That's kind of an overall theme with pick up in order to balance the fact that we tell a lot of social proof stories. because now that you've cold read her as being a little bit different. A grounding story – the story about yourself that kind of gives a little bit of background information. and something flattering about her that made you want to talk to her. why you are the way you are. as my friend Shaft used to say in Dallas. because it gives them some sort of understanding into who you are. because you're going to get her to work a little bit more. will attest to. because I do try to explain and get different takes and perspectives on things as a person. wait. and give my opinion on something which makes me overly opinionated. That's always going to be a good thing.of compliment or you make the same joke that she seems nice. building some qualification. So then what you want to do is you want to kind – you can use the idea of bait. and that's going to come after your cold read. I hate your shoes by the way." And I'll throw a little joke in there at the end to make it funny and tease the girl. "Are you an open-minded 12 . and you have a lot of social proof. which anyone who's ever met me—ever. situations and experiences that I'm having. because next. good thing about myself. that or the other. so that's kind of the idea of a grounding story. you basically want to take a weakness and turn it into a strength. it sets the stage so to speak. Gives us kind of a frame. You want to start building some compliance. the idea of using compliance triggers to get the girl to do something first. or this. because I'm a writer. kind of. "Why am I even telling you this?" Like. But the point of the grounding is whatever your story is. what do you follow up with? Then you follow up with a grounding story. and kind of explain things. explains. kind of. and that the reason that you guys are getting along is because you both recognize differences in each other. So for example. So then. and later on. but that's kind of the beginning. we have a lot of girls in our lives. I find that a lot of the times I say things that aren’t necessarily appropriate. So almost every girl will say things like. Any cold read about why she's different can work really well right off your opener. You will want to differentiate her from most other girls. so to speak. A. so I might do something like. that's the cold read. I don’t get along with girls. and get her to qualify herself. because I don’t censor and I'm always trying to describe two other people. "You know. you're kind of now framing yourself as also being a little bit different. we have to balance that with kind of the idea that she's different. and it's going to come right before a qualifier. It doesn’t mean there's like some deep connection between the two of you. I might say something like. and the idea that there's something unique about her. But keep that in mind. for me. to build some compliance here. but it means that every girl wants to believe that she's different in some way. so it's all an edge. and that's why I have a lot of opinions. so there I talk about how I'm overly opinionated. and it talks about how I'm a writer and I'm always looking to describe things. and that's kind of the overall theme.
and I'll use another grounding story. I don’t cook. I'm going to get a lemonade from Wetzel Pretzel. and that's one of the reasons those old DHV stories about fighting off Grizzly Bears and saving your stripper girlfriend. even if you just move her inside the venue. "Are you romantic? Let's walk French arm in arm. but yes." Which again. There's no magic to the idea of people watching or anything like that. "Oh my God. but the 13 . is I want to do an instant date. and I say something like. So I may say something like. Movement is so key to pick up. "Yes. Then the next thing I want to do. but the problem was." So again. but I am so thirsty right now. or wherever. But it's a small little qualification. and then I think what were those people like as kids? What decisions did they make that made them there? And this is like too deep. so let's keep that in mind. and to dealing with girls in general. because they were too hard. go back to what I was talking about. and then I'm going to run another qualifier. I'd be like. I like talking about people. so I come to the mall and eat a lot. I don’t cook. keep the thing going. because movement just changes everything. it's one of the things I like to do. let's say I'm in the mall going with our mall theme. it makes them more comfortable. Are you independent? Are you smart? Are you fun? You're not crazy? But something just to get the ball rolling on her qualifying herself. so it just seemed like lies. and always keep it to a positive female stereotype. and I always think that people watching really interesting. So maybe I'll ground about something that I'm interested in talking about. really help to add balance to the stories and to help get you kind of in the right realm." and again. and I'm always amazed by the people who work here. and then I'll ground again. Now what they were doing. When you move the girl.person?" And that's just a small qualifier to keep the conversation going. I love instant dates and I always go for them because it changes the dynamic of the interaction. they were relying on the fact that the guys didn’t seem that cool. "Yeah. I'm just grounding about myself. I like making fun of people. Weakness and strength make your stories more believable. you'll just have to workshop it in the actual real world. it changes the dynamic because now she's with you in the new place. it changes the entire dynamic of the interaction. They just seem like normal guys and that would kind of [inaudible 46:58]." And then I'd just keep taking. come with me. So I might say something like. you can take almost any activity and use the same model. it makes them more likely to come home with you. An instant date is basically just moving the girl. psychologically. and I may go. So the weaknesses and the strengths about yourself and your life. so I love to sit at the tables by the elevators and watch people come down the stairs. they weren’t really normal guys doing it. it's a weakness and a strength. you know you were awesome. talking to women—scary. didn’t work that well. a lot of the times it was kind of socially inept guys. like Rambo with your shirt off. it makes them feel – it gives you an excuse to touch. Like it literally makes girls feel like they’ve known you longer. or the mall. When you start talking to a girl in a book store or coffee shop. If I see them at the mall and I'm getting lunch. it's guy talking to me kind of random. Here. and that changes the entire way that she's processing the interaction. is that they weren’t believable." "Here is a new topic. and I'm just going to run that rhythm until I start to see that she's really ready to open up.
Even if you move a girl around the mall. or tease the girl or something like that. and I moved her back up and I was like. you can start to touch her more in the second place. what I want to do is I want to start seeding the date. it changes the dynamic. they have ice here?" And I'm like. I went there last week with my friends and we saw this crazy hockey-style fight break out between these two little five year olds. intoxication levels.instant date is key because it gets that movement. I moved her downstairs to look for the Jersey Shore people in Life and Style. and overselling it without inviting her. if I need to build attraction or do a role play. So I'll use an example that I used just a few days ago. "Yes. "You know what I want to go ice skating with you later this week. or a cold read." Just a made up story." But I won't actually invite the girl. all of the long term girlfriends I've had since I've been in this have been girls I met during the day. this place must be fucking amazing. on Monday. particularly the fact that you meet great quality women during the day. So I oversold it and then I didn’t invite her and then about 10 minutes later we both needed to leave the book store and I was like. but the idea is the last step of kind of meeting girls during the day is you want to seed that date and get the phone number. let me give you my number. and we've been talking for like 30 minutes. In the middle of my grounding and qualifying which is basically now comfort and qualification. So then." And she goes. "Yeah. I'm recording this on a Thursday. your imagination fills in the blanks in a positive way when you're not invited in a way that does not happen when you are invited and it looks like they're just trying to convince you especially when it's a guy trying to convince a girl. • 14 . and the idea of seeding the date is just telling a story that takes place in the venue I'm going to ask her on the date with. and now I'm going to go ice skating with her this weekend." And very easily got the phone number and that was about it. it's not that cool. it's crazy. "Oh yes. We talked about some pros of day games. the story about the place that brings it up. "Have you ever been ice skating at the ice rink in wherever we live?" and she's like "No. something fun. you're thinking. But now I'll want to start seeding the date. • First we talked about the differences between daytime and nighttime. it doesn’t have to be a great story. I'd be like "Yes. But if I tell you about the coolest place in the world and I don’t invite you. but it's so cool to go ice skating in the middle of the desert. So it can be that simple." and I'll oversell here. The key is the oversell. groups at night. energy levels. you can touch her in the food court in ways that you couldn’t have in the actual store. So let's review quickly. it's amazing. because if I tell you about the coolest place in the world. If you move her from a store to the food court. and I'm trying to get you to go there with me. it's like a West coast city in the middle of the desert. it's crazy they have ice there. I met a girl in a book store. You're dealing with singles during the day. you can start to touch her more in the second venue. it's crazy. it's unreal.
We talked about cold reads right off the opener. You can once you're better. you don’t seem like a Miami girl. less yes or no decision. We talked about regular openers. we're 15 . 15. but it's really a matter of logistics. because they build momentum. in specific environments like the gym. We talked about getting phone numbers. you don’t have as much time. and a pre-opener on the other one makes it just easier. There's a lot more in Day Game Course. Giving an idea of who you are. We talked about opening during the day. or what not. coffee shops. you can use pre-openers. I gave some examples of my own personal grounding stories. We talked about instant dates. A pre-opener on direct makes it funny and playful. • • • • • • • • • I know I gave a lot of information in this CD today. comfort and seduction during the day and how the attraction phase is kind of shrunken. college campus bus. much more so than at night. to build momentum. which are sometimes slow. to get her to open up more in order to get more cold reads and grounding stories. If you want to learn tons more about all of this stuff that we taught today including more tactics for attraction. We talked about qualification—pinging. We talked about different environments and sets. you can't really go for same-night lays. Assessing the situation and the type of approach—deciding direct versus indirect. then I highly recommend you guys get the Day Game course and because you guys are special Sinn's Inner Circle members the course is usually $697 but we give you guys discounts because you're members of the Inner Circle and you're up to the cutting edge of pick up and dating technology." We talked about grounding stories. which is the idea of getting the girl to answer a qualifier that may or may not be true. why they're so important. If you want to really get good at day game. same-day lays. like "You don’t seem like a Dallas girl. We talked about attraction.• We talked about the cons. Pre-opener or no pre-opener. We talked about seeding date ideas. turning strengths into weaknesses. and it's mostly qualification and comfort which you guys saw when we talked about grounding and qualification later. the best ones being the seeded girl by herself in coffee shop. there are real time constraints. We talked about high versus low probability approaches—lowest probability approaches being moving single girls on the street. wherever she is—10. etcetera. bookstore. both direct and indirect. 20 minutes to chat.
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